Spiritual Dope

Spiritual Dope

136 episodes

Diving into Spiritual highs, how connecting with source energy takes you & your life to a brand new level.... and how you use that focused energy to live a life of fulfillment.

Podcasts

Choosing Proactive Wellness: Avoiding Mental Breakdowns on the Spiritual Dope Podcast

Published: Oct. 18, 2023, 2:36 a.m.
Duration: 15 minutes 56 seconds

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Navigating the Creation Process: Insights and Inspiration from the Spiritual Dope Podcast

Published: Sept. 5, 2023, midnight
Duration: 12 minutes 5 seconds

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Colleague Questions and Burning Man Regrets

Published: July 30, 2023, 3:24 p.m.
Duration: 1 hour

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Transformative Journeys: Healing Trauma and Overcoming Addiction with Psychedelics

Published: July 30, 2023, 3 p.m.
Duration: 51 minutes 43 seconds

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Unveiling the Profound: Near-Death Experiences and Spiritual Insights with Nicole Kerr

Published: July 17, 2023, 12:05 a.m.
Duration: 56 minutes 13 seconds

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The Impact of Energy: Desire for Change and Personal Growth

Published: July 11, 2023, 11:51 p.m.
Duration: 53 minutes 49 seconds

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Martin Theis, Shamanic Journeys: Guided Pathways to Self-Realization and Spiritual Awakening

Published: July 6, 2023, 1:05 a.m.
Duration: 43 minutes 12 seconds

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Unveiling the Power of Oneness: Stuart Adam Discusses Plant Medicine and Personal Transformation

Published: June 12, 2023, 2:19 a.m.
Duration: 50 minutes 20 seconds

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Breathing Away the Shadows: Unleashing Inner Power through Breathwork in Recovery

Published: May 30, 2023, 1:22 a.m.
Duration: 16 minutes 28 seconds

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Carlos Tanner: Addiction to Ayahuasca Enlightenment

Published: May 15, 2023, 1:23 a.m.
Duration: 58 minutes 21 seconds

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Troy Hadeed: The straight-talking yogi, serving up cosmic insights

Published: May 4, 2023, 1:08 p.m.
Duration: 59 minutes 26 seconds

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Breaking the Monotony: The Power of Vulnerability

Published: April 27, 2023, 2:21 p.m.
Duration: 14 minutes 46 seconds

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How Nico Lagan Uses Meditation and Self-Inquiry to Transform His Life and Help Other Men

Published: April 19, 2023, 10:13 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 9 minutes 3 seconds

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BJJ and Beyond: How to Enhance Your Well-Being and Awareness with Martial Arts

Published: April 16, 2023, 12:28 p.m.
Duration: 18 minutes 35 seconds

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Find Your Own Path and Set Your Own Standards

Published: April 8, 2023, 4:31 p.m.
Duration: 17 minutes 14 seconds

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Beyond Religion and Dogma: Amrit Singhs Quest for Authenticity

Published: March 29, 2023, 11:23 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 3 minutes 30 seconds

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Joshua Bloom: Reflection and Intention, Unlocking True Potential

Published: March 22, 2023, 11:47 a.m.
Duration: 48 minutes 21 seconds

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David Florence - Optimizing Your Life with Breath Work

Published: March 15, 2023, 12:39 p.m.
Duration: 50 minutes 7 seconds

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Brandon Novak

Published: March 8, 2023, 1:33 p.m.
Duration: 43 minutes 7 seconds

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From Addiction to Advocacy: Darren Prince's Inspiring Journey to Recovery

Published: Feb. 28, 2023, 11:49 a.m.
Duration: 47 minutes 46 seconds

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Spiritual Dope Confused About Microphone, Blames Dark Forces

Published: Feb. 17, 2023, 12:13 a.m.
Duration: 10 minutes 51 seconds

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Nick Wingo - Gateway to Breathwork and Healing

Published: Feb. 14, 2023, 1:01 p.m.
Duration: 41 minutes 27 seconds

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Learn to Trust Your Intuition With Shawn Murphy

Published: Feb. 5, 2023, 9:48 p.m.
Duration: 56 minutes 13 seconds

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Returning Home

Published: Feb. 4, 2023, 7:22 p.m.
Duration: 10 minutes 21 seconds

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New Year, New Challenges

Published: Feb. 2, 2023, 5:59 p.m.
Duration: 19 minutes 54 seconds

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Breaking Free from Generational Chains: Insights from Kaluwa

Published: Feb. 1, 2023, 7:32 a.m.
Duration: 52 minutes 59 seconds

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Finding Coins, Changing Destiny

Published: Jan. 14, 2023, 8:19 p.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 56 seconds

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How AI can help you with your spiritual practice.

Published: Jan. 9, 2023, 12:51 p.m.
Duration: 19 minutes 49 seconds

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Harness the Power of Spirituality for Mental Resilience Take 2

Published: Jan. 2, 2023, 6:55 p.m.
Duration: 20 minutes 49 seconds

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Closing 2022 be like...

Published: Dec. 28, 2022, 8:15 p.m.
Duration: 12 minutes 28 seconds

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Learn Ancient Wisdom from Modern Teacher Srikumar Rao

Published: Dec. 14, 2022, 12:48 p.m.
Duration: 26 minutes 41 seconds

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Greg Wieting: A Healer For Those Who Can't Think or Talk It Out

Published: Dec. 7, 2022, 11:22 a.m.
Duration: 52 minutes 1 second

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Amanda Kate Shares What It Means to Be a Divine, Messy Human Being

Published: Nov. 30, 2022, 12:13 p.m.
Duration: 59 minutes 18 seconds

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Giten Tonkov Biodynamic Breathwork

Published: Nov. 23, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 42 minutes 17 seconds

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Lincoln Stoller could psychedelics be the key to unlocking better mental health?

Published: Nov. 16, 2022, 11:40 a.m.
Duration: 57 minutes 40 seconds

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John Goff: A Walking Mystic

Published: Nov. 9, 2022, 12:45 p.m.
Duration: 56 minutes

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Kiersten Hathcock: From Abuse to Healing Through Mediumship

Published: Nov. 2, 2022, 12:48 p.m.
Duration: 49 minutes 19 seconds

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Jen Gilchrist: A Spiritual Teacher Who inspires Success

Published: Oct. 26, 2022, 12:02 p.m.
Duration: 58 minutes 50 seconds

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Katische Haberfield - Healing with Energy: Is it Possible?

Published: Oct. 19, 2022, 1:22 a.m.
Duration: 58 minutes 7 seconds

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Spirituality with Shamanic Works Kelle Sparta

Published: Oct. 10, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 1 minute 55 seconds

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Spirituality with Shamanic Works Dr Mark

Published: Oct. 3, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 54 minutes 58 seconds

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Melissa Drake on How to Incorporate Sacred Medicine Into Your Life

Published: Sept. 28, 2022, 11:11 a.m.
Duration: 55 minutes 14 seconds

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Spirituality with Shamanic Works Jenna Smith

Published: Sept. 21, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 48 minutes 26 seconds

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Spirituality with Breathwork Ryan McElvenny

Published: Sept. 17, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 56 minutes 57 seconds

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The Man Who Knows Books: Bill Gladstone

Published: Sept. 14, 2022, 10:43 a.m.
Duration: 52 minutes 39 seconds

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Transforming your life with the power of calligraphy - Master Sha Interview

Published: Sept. 7, 2022, 12:15 p.m.
Duration: 54 minutes 13 seconds

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What go you here wont get you there

Published: Aug. 22, 2022, 12:06 p.m.
Duration: 8 minutes 36 seconds

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Modern Economics

Published: Aug. 20, 2022, 3:11 a.m.
Duration: 14 minutes 54 seconds

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BJJ Report 20220723

Published: Aug. 20, 2022, 3:10 a.m.
Duration: 11 minutes 45 seconds

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Spirituality with Energy Work Fatima

Published: Aug. 17, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 50 minutes 32 seconds

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Spirituality with Energy Work Chris McCann

Published: Aug. 11, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 54 minutes 8 seconds

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Spirituality with Energy Work Jonathan Johnson

Published: Aug. 3, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 50 minutes 49 seconds

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Spirituality with Energy Work Deb Lambert

Published: July 27, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 46 minutes 58 seconds

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Spirituality with Plant Medicine Chris Plourde

Published: July 27, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 51 minutes 20 seconds

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Spirituality with Plant Medicine Sara Verre

Published: July 20, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 54 minutes 53 seconds

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Spirituality with Plant Medicine Krysta Francoeur

Published: July 13, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 56 minutes 28 seconds

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Spirituality with Plant Medicine Jonathan De Potter

Published: July 6, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 59 minutes 35 seconds

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Loving without attachment

Published: July 3, 2022, 5:10 p.m.
Duration: 14 minutes 13 seconds

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How Satyen Raja Helps CEO's Succeed

Published: June 29, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 40 minutes 40 seconds

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Morgana Rae: The Love Guru Who Can Teach You to Be Rich and Successful

Published: June 22, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 1 minute 28 seconds

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You already have what you want

Published: June 21, 2022, 9:07 p.m.
Duration: 10 minutes 48 seconds

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Prosperity through Spirituality Series Guest Neo Positivity

Published: June 15, 2022, 11:45 a.m.
Duration: 56 minutes 37 seconds

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Awareness of your Fears

Published: June 3, 2022, 12:17 a.m.
Duration: 11 minutes 47 seconds

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You can ring my bell

Published: May 12, 2022, 11:52 p.m.
Duration: 17 minutes 32 seconds

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Invoking the Chrysalis State

Published: April 30, 2022, 8:18 p.m.
Duration: 9 minutes 6 seconds

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That sh*t is coming back!

Published: April 26, 2022, 1:03 p.m.
Duration: 9 minutes 35 seconds

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Risk Blossoming

Published: April 23, 2022, 9:36 p.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 42 seconds

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That time a branch fell on the car during a podcast

Published: April 18, 2022, 7:48 p.m.
Duration: 14 minutes 58 seconds

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I'm not lost, you're lost!

Published: April 10, 2022, 1:22 a.m.
Duration: 11 minutes 28 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
is going on spiritual dope, we\'re coming at you where we\'re coming from. We are, we are in Vail, Colorado today. And we\'re here for for business, we\'re here for work the day job. And I had spent, it\'s been quite the adventure, I should say, came out here to connect with a potential client, somebody we\'re working with, then really no set agenda was just kind of, Hey, get out there and see if you can connect and make something happen. And you don\'t have to tell me twice to go out to Colorado from Philadelphia to go ski and snowboard and and check things out. And it\'s been pretty interesting. And I think that there\'s been a couple of entertaining and enlightening moments for me that I thought that I might share with you. One of the one of those things is if you haven\'t gone snowboarding or skiing in the west coast and in Colorado, and also if you\'ve gone in 20 years or so your body may not, may not provide a welcoming response. So it\'s been entertaining to just see what a difference it\'s, it\'s taken on my body after a 20 year hiatus. The other piece is, you know, man, what\'s, what does success look like to you success looks like a lot of different things to a lot of different people. And this context for me, one of the pieces that look like success was purely getting to the bottom of the mountain, especially against since I hadn\'t been in so long as you know, didn\'t also recall exactly how to do it. I don\'t know if you ever saw the movie, the abyss. And we\'re going back I think to like, I don\'t know, maybe even the 80s. And there\'s a scene where these guys have to go down so deep into the water, that they have to breathe in liquid. And it\'s like embryonic fluid, right? And, and it\'s got oxygen or anything in it. And the line is, don\'t worry, your body will remember right, you know, you\'ll, you\'ll remember. And that was kind of what I was running with in this in this scenario, as well. So suffice to say I didn\'t make it down. That was huge success. And what I will say though, too, is you look, I made it down, I\'ve got all my limbs, and I\'m a fully functioning human. And we\'re here to support what is called the adaptive spirits event. And these are athletes, the Paralympics athletes, these are people who some people are blind going down these hills, missing limbs, no limbs, it\'s just really inspirational, to see what they\'re able to accomplish. And you know, on top of everything else, of being able to get to this event, and do it for work, to be able to participate in any event like this super meaningful, super inspirational. And really glad that I\'m able to have a job that allows for me to participate in something like that. Well, this actually, we\'re still taking a mini break as a as we\'re in between sessions. So success looks like getting to the bottom of the hill alive. For me this weekend. And you know, a couple other funny things that I thought that I that I may share with you is that I also know was using some rental board and bindings had never used before. Got to the top of the hill. I got somewhere I forget. And I literally didn\'t know how to take these things off the bindings, right? I\'d had no idea how to take them off. That was little I was like well maybe somebody should have showed me how to do that. And then I had to go boots I had no idea I didn\'t know how to take them off. Right these like I\'ve never seen these things before they twist right with like, like a ratchet type thing where they just keep twist and getting in tighten and tighten or. And I was like looking for like a release mechanism. I was like, Oh my God, my feet are stuck in these forever. There was like some mini drama in my head where I just saw like the

doctor couldn\'t figure out how to get these off and cut off my feet for some reason that would never happen. But that was the image that was in my mind. I think that we all know that sometimes our mind can get ahead of us and what else have And again, these are just kind of like little moments that just as you experience them, as you think about them, as you\'re going through them, you can get frustrated, right. And again, if we come from the space of, of believing that we\'re working with the universe is one, this is a benevolent universe, these things are being done for you, and that type of thing. And that\'s really the context that a lot of these things are occurring in for me. And one example of that, is that I took a bus from where I was in Vail to another section in Vail and the lady\'s like you\'re already where you\'re supposed to be. I was like, yeah, that doesn\'t make any sense, because I don\'t recognize where I\'m at. Right? But she was right. So I took a bus about a half hour away from where I was supposed to go, and had to wait a half hour to get back to where I\'d already left. So there were a couple of things in that for me, that I thought were kind of interesting. You know, sometimes, like the what were some of the thoughts that I had was, like, maybe, like, maybe you\'re already there, you just don\'t recognize it. Right? Because that was that was certainly my case, I was already where I was supposed to be. I just literally, I was not familiar with where I was. Right. And so that I thought was pretty interesting. And I had a chocolate myself for that. Because, you know, in spirituality and and all this seeking that I think gets done. Chances are, you\'re already where you\'re supposed to be. But there\'s like this egoic thing that just pushes and pushes and says, No, that\'s not right. This isn\'t right was we\'re supposed to be and this is, this is what\'s supposed to be happening. But I was already where I supposed to be. And I spent about an hour getting back to where I already was. So bring that up, because there was a stint in my 20s, early 20s. So actually 19 and 20, where I connect to myself spirituality, my spirituality then, but I shut the door, right. And when I hit it again, right around 40, I was like, oh my god, this is like so familiar. And I remembered how there was like this window of connected ness and opportunity. And I felt like the the calling, then. But instead, you know, I spent 20 years getting back to where I already was, thought I\'d share that one with you. And then this will be the last one that I go ahead and share with you one of the clients that I was trying to connect with. He has really like it\'s kind of like a needle in the haystack. Right? And we hadn\'t had much communication and this was, this was kind of a calculated risk. As it were, you know, go see if you can connect, okay, there\'s plenty of people out there, we haven\'t really done much and and you\'re flying solo, which was also just kind of interesting. And so we went looking connect and send emails, contacts. And I started to feel like this kind of like desperation, stalkers, energy has, like, I\'m just not, I\'m not digging this, right. Like, I definitely want to do the job and do the work and do what it is I\'m supposed to do. But I want to come at this from a place of love of service. And really, how can I help, you know, share what it is I have to offer for your best benefit. Not Hey, I\'m here, I\'m here jumping around, right? Pay attention to me. It\'s like Alright, let\'s get together. Let\'s go do something. And, and, you know, I wanted to get to know this this person as a person, right? And so I just said, You know what, I couldn\'t I couldn\'t locate him, couldn\'t find him poked around a bit searched. And I was like, You know what? Fuck it. I\'m out. Like it\'s not worth like this. This desperation, energy and feeling this way. And the moment within minutes, within minutes.

The my client, you know, a person had reached out, reached out he says, Hey, Brian, and let\'s, let\'s, let\'s get to we don\'t have much time. I can get together for breakfast tomorrow. So you know what, I\'ll take it we\'ll get together. People have been talking about a great place for practice. I said, let\'s meet this place for breakfast and connect. And so we did. And things went very well. We had a great conversation. He invited me along to go skiing with him and a few of his other buddies. He was a great skier. Me not so much. But I spent some time with him on the slopes too. So I think that it went better. And if we wrap all the way back around the beginning, this is what a success look like to you went better than I had anticipated, got to spend some time some real quality time with him and at an awesome event, participating in an awesome event, and meeting other great and great cool people, some people that I\'ve never that I\'ve met, that I\'ve known and worked with online and never got the chance to meet in person so that that happened. But let me let me slice and dissect a couple of these things. Right. Like, again, the universe is working with you, right. And I\'ve been trying to force it is kind of what the takeaway was. And the that desperation, energy, right has had all this energy in front of me blocking what the blocking what the universe was going was doing with ease, right. So I thought I\'d share some of those takeaways, as I\'m on this trip away from my family missing my family and, you know, hopefully next time I do a trip like this, they\'ll be able to make it that was the other cool thing about this event. People brought their families along with them and got the chance to meet other people\'s kids. And so, just a great event. Those are some takeaways from from where I\'m at. I believe I\'m looking at you know, starting to rerelease some podcasts here shortly with not rerelease but start releasing some interviews here shortly. And I think that there\'s a lot that you will enjoy in that. So be on the lookout for that. And as always, hope you\'ve enjoyed your hit of spiritual dope.

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Ego F*cking with You

Published: April 5, 2022, 12:32 a.m.
Duration: 8 minutes 41 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on spiritual dope, hope you\'re doing all right. Sure you are. Wanted to connect on a couple different things from this, this past week was one of the things one of the things pretty excited about as we as you know, doing the Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and think it\'s been probably about a year since I\'ve been back after COVID and have one stripe on the blue belt, finally got my second stripe, pretty exciting stuff there. We all know really, that it\'s supposed to be about the journey every once in a while, though, you still get caught up in and, you know, the ego trap, right? Like, when when is this going to happen? You know, when am I going to reach this destination? And I found myself feeling that way. I did I you know, I think that it\'s easy enough. Just like anybody, like we\'re driven by, you know, some of these some of these milestones, sometimes were driven by a lot of external factors. And, hey, look, I\'m human. And I\'m part of, you know, this western society and to say that I\'m not driven ever, by external factors, that be bullshit. And to that point, there was a meg had posted, I\'m actually going to look for this thing right now, she posted a thing on Facebook, she posted a picture of my office face, right. And if you saw the picture, it is it\'s the garage stuff was shit. You know, all the stuff that we haven\'t gotten rid of, and is not necessarily organized. And it\'s got a green screen, like kind of hanging around and some other stuff, right. And she posted the picture of garbage cans, or in a picture, you know, all this stuff. And I\'m like, Oh, my God, how I felt so embarrassed. She goes, welcome to the space where big tech deals are sealed. Some days, all you need is good lighting and a green screen like Mr. Handley. She goes, this is what happens when you try to fit a 4400 square foot home and 900 square foot. And, you know, I was I was a little embarrassed. I was a little I was a little. I was like, wow, I and then I realized, I realized that I was kind of let like, let my ego get to me, right? Because I didn\'t want people to see, you know, the place where the work was happening, the place where I come and I do and I give the breathwork sessions, you know, put on the green screen and put on a background didn\'t want didn\'t, you know, this is where the look I do all right, at work, you know, make a decent living and I didn\'t want you know, people to know, like, Hey, this is this is where I\'m working out of. And I let it go. Took me a little bit. And, you know, it was real, just kind of being real honest with you. Took me a little bit because I realized again, that in this scenario, I will let my fucking ego kind of take over and drive. Alright, the ego is like, yeah, man, you don\'t want people to see that shit. You don\'t want people to see where you put the time and effort in? And yeah, so I mean, I even talked to Mike about it. We talked a little bit I said, Yeah, you know, I almost asked you to take that picture down. And she goes, why? And I just, you know, I gave her what he said just so what I just said right now is I felt a little embarrassed by right I felt like, you know, I should have my shit should at least look like it\'s more together than that. Right at the same time. She goes well, I you know, I thought it was really cool. You know? So here\'s so just just so we understand there\'s this juxtaposition here. I know that I was a little embarrassed. She goes I thought it was really cool. Because you can do anything anywhere you\'re like, you know, you\'re able to go and just kind of set up a making create a space and create and provide for a family, you know, kind of just anywhere. And she\'s like I thought that that was pretty cool. And I was like you know, personally I didn\'t really kind of take that perspective but she\'s right right like

we changed our spaces we changed our office and homes all this other stuff. And and yeah, I come out here into your right here right now the garage and you know, put up some soundproofing and all this other stuff and I created a space where I could come out, be creative, I come out here, I can work. I can allow for the children to play without me being like, hey, you know, especially especially when I\'m creating a podcast, like even right now like Fenn could be playing on the other side of the wall. You wouldn\'t hear it and I wouldn\'t. He wouldn\'t hear us right there\'s soundproofing on the wall, and he plays video games he talks to his friends. Whereas if I kept my office space inside of the house, then everything buddy\'s got to tiptoe around and like all this other shit. So I picked up and like created a space in the garage. And, you know, we always, I guess, want to appear to have our shit together. And we always want to kind of just show something better than, than what\'s really there. And so I kind of left it left the picture up there, because that\'s the truth of it. Right. And I told her, I said, this was this, I really felt vulnerable, leaving that up there. But I also felt like, you know, it was it was an honest representation. And I didn\'t feel like I should be allowing, like my ego, to kind of take that over my ego to drive that. I mean, if we think about a whole lot of anything. I\'m not saying I\'m like some monk in the Himalayas, the sits in a cave, but there are monks, you know, and the devil is going out there and just sitting in caves. And I\'m nowhere near that level. But that\'s this is, this is my private space, this is where I get to come and, again, relax. So I just, I just share all that, because sometimes when we see, we see what we think we see, and I think that that\'s oftentimes driven, driven by the ego. And sometimes, you know, if we can just let that go, or even, or even have those honest conversations with the other person about it, you know, I didn\'t ask her to take it down. Definitely considered it, but we sat down had a conversation about it, which also made me feel vulnerable, because then I had to share kind of how it made me feel right. So you expose yourself in some of those conversations. And to be honest with you, I think that\'s you know, that\'s a big part of strengthening a relationship is to have those open vulnerable conversations. And as long as the other person doesn\'t take advantage of that vulnerability, then I think it\'s a great opportunity to to strengthen, right? I think a lot of people a lot of times, they never reached that point of just being able to open up and share the truth and their truth and have an open dialogue about it. Instead, you know, a lot of people kind of run away from that and to me, a relationship is built in, in that vulnerable in that vulnerability. And I think letting go of ego especially in a relationship as most relationships that you have there\'s a there\'s an ego involved do you want to be seen as the guru you want to be seen as a specialist? Not sure that I shared it and maybe I already did, I think I did share like how somebody reached out to me asking a question and I just said I\'m not the specialist but maybe here\'s a couple tools that can help you to get the answers you know, just come at it as an equal and be honest and I think that you\'ll find a lot of truth in that space anyways, that\'s really I wanted to touch base on that one I\'ve been meaning to get to this one now which she posted this on the 31st of March it is days later but I\'ve been meaning to get around to it finally got around to it this mo things I mean to get around to knock them out one thing at a time. Hope you\'re doing well it\'s really been just a quick hit of spiritual dopamine. Where do you find your center? Where can you let go of some of your ego working find where you\'re vulnerable? Where can you find that your ego is still like leading you and to fuck it. There\'s really nothing wrong with it. Just recognize and be aware. And I think that that\'s, that\'s it

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Taking action yields results

Published: March 31, 2022, 11:25 p.m.
Duration: 12 minutes 18 seconds

Unknown Speaker 0:00
What is going on spiritual dope, I\'m here today to chat up with you a little bit about the follow up the follow up from the email that was sent out the other day, then the podcast, both of them were titled, doesn\'t ask doesn\'t get. And in this email and the podcast, I\'ve mentioned a couple different tools that I tried out right, a couple of different tools that I\'ve read about a couple of different tools that I actually went ahead and implemented. Right. But the bullet talked about how there was some fear in there how there was some, it was definitely scary.

Unknown Speaker 0:44
Because there\'s really no reason why actually, because you\'re afraid that maybe you don\'t, you\'re not going to say the right thing, maybe you lose an audience member to or maybe nobody responds at all right, there\'s a whole bunch of different outcomes, that that are possible

Unknown Speaker 1:01
that you don\'t want to happen. And you\'re kind of attached. And this is, this is another thing that attachment to is suffering type of thing. You\'re kind of almost more attached to this terrible outcome that\'s possible, as an attachment that does lead to suffering, because you\'re attached to your fears, so you don\'t let them go. And you continue to let them drag you down, and stand in the way of, I think real knowledge and real experience, that\'s a pipe with that close, it\'s a real experience, because knowledge in terms of being subjective. And in the experience, at any rate, y\'all motherfuckers went ahead and left me some nice reviews. And I really do appreciate that. You know, here\'s the deal.

Unknown Speaker 1:54
You know, it, I had to overcome some fears, right, I had to embrace the potential pain. And I had to get out of my comfort zone. And I think the coolest thing is, is that

Unknown Speaker 2:08
when you actually implement some of these tools, they actually work for you. Right, just like they\'re supposed to whether or not the execution is flawless, always questionable. Always questionable, but I want to say thanks to read a couple of them that came in through here. So thanks to one of them. Ryan, thanks for your review, five star review. This is his title, antidote and insight. Because this is the exact lead the kind of conversation the world needs a no nonsense exploration and indulgence into meaningful and enriching aspects of life that don\'t get serious and thoughtful attention in other places. This is a podcast to come to let your intrigue release and your to, to let your intrigue release and your curiosity fly, all hosted by a genuinely interested and invested host that learns alongside you, I love it. And listen, I want to I want to actually address that very thing for a moment. I don\'t fucking know everything, right, as as much as, as much as I do know, I do know, it doesn\'t mean I know everything. And I want to highlight that

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in

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you know, we\'ll call our client, you know, somebody that I\'ve been working with somebody that\'s been coming to the breathwork sessions, somebody that has had an awakening experience due to the Breathworks sessions, which is another story in of itself, and just completely mind blowing, that I get to facilitate that type of thing and assist people on their journey.

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But she reached out to me with a question on on chakras and her third eye. And

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I didn\'t have an answer. And I thought, you know, maybe I could I could give some type of reflection on what it meant to me, but reminded me of just another tool that I had used myself and had tremendous returns on on usage. And so, instead of trying to provide an answer, you know, trying to be the guy that knew everything. I said, Hey, you know what?

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I was like, I\'m not I\'m not a third eye expert.

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So I really don\'t know what to tell you on that. But what I can suggest that you give a shot you try is why not go ahead and maybe write the question out to the universe. Right? Say, Dear universe, what\'s up at the start? I shit I don\'t know what\'s happening. And that led her down, down, you know, a couple other curves, but she found the answers

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that worked for her through that process. And so super, super exciting to say I don\'t have all the answers.

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Now what I do have are a number of tools that have been used for probably throughout like the duration of humanity, you know, we put new spins on it here and there. And we maybe we leverage them in different ways than then they were used before. Like I said, you know, sending that question out to the universe, you know, and trust, you know, that\'s kind of one of those ideas of let go and let God and trusting in the universe.

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So I was really excited to see that work for her and being able to share a tool like that for her and at the same time being like, I don\'t have the answer for you. But I know how you might be able to get one. So Ryan, thanks again for the review. Definitely appreciate it. Appreciate your support and our conversations.

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Another five star review from Mike Iaconelli Mike, Mike\'s a great guy. You know, he\'s got some great things going on for him. If you haven\'t checked them out, Mike. I\'m Ellie. He was on the podcast early early on. Mike let\'s five star reviews as I love the depth of topics, Brandon pursues. I love this podcast so much. I\'d been a fan of the topics Brandon was bringing forward and was eventually a guest on the show. I\'ve done a lot of podcast interviews in my career. And this was easily one of my favorites. There\'s no topic that\'s too out there, or woowoo. For Brandon. Yeah, he brings this really normalizing and grounding energy to everything he brings on the show. For our spiritual seekers, this podcast is in valuable, like man, Mike, Mike was such a such a blast. And we had such a really nice report on the podcast. And, you know, the energy that he brought was, it was infectious, right? Sometimes, sometimes you just really strike that balance on a show, and it works out. Now, I\'m not reading these. For the validation, I\'m not reading these and expecting them for the validation of whether or not I\'m doing a good job. I

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I wanted to break through a barrier of my own, I wanted to get out of my head and put something into action.

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And that\'s what I did.

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And the bonuses, I got results. And that\'s so awesome. Right, I think that that\'s really some of the key stuff. And, you know, just lets me know who some of the people are that I\'m talking to, lets me see what some of their thoughts are. Like I said, you know, Ryan, and Mike here, I\'ve got a couple other ones I\'ll share with us as we come along.

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But I got results. I also mentioned that, you know, hey, you may remove yourself from the list. And you know what, those are types of things that maybe we be afraid of in the past, but also understanding and already knew, already knew

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that

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I may lose somebody anytime you send, like an email. So maybe it just, it just may not be that day and the person like you know, remove yourself from their list and like,

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use something doesn\'t matter. Like I\'m still I\'m still not at the point where there\'s like, not a lot like I know who these people are, right? We\'ve had real interactions. I\'m like, What did I say on my list that like nobody wants to?

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What did I say? Right?

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And so there was some people that removed themselves. And I knew that would happen. And that\'s okay. Right. They\'ve got other things they\'re attending to, and God bless them for pinging, so vigilant with their, with their emails. And so, you know, the results were kind of along the lines of what I could expect, in terms of people, you know, I think there was like a 2%

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You know, actual response rate, which is kind of how emails are you get so many out there. So for you to even read my email, thank you. For you to actually take action on that. Wow. That\'s I mean, to me, that\'s, again, that\'s, that\'s above and beyond, because there\'s so much coming at you to even be able to take that time to leave a review is super meaningful to me. And that means for me that this is meaningful for you. So the follow up, I just want to share some of this stuff with you. And you know, for for the listeners out there that

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have their own fears, who are going through their own things and know there\'s some things that they\'d like to try out, but they\'re afraid. Just

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don\'t give I\'ve got other things I\'m afraid of that I haven\'t tried for, right. I\'ve got other things that are, you know, beyond the initial comfort zone that sooner or later I\'ll get home. But even the smallest things such as this email

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that I sent out in the podcast and the request and taking action on that it\'s meaning

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Full of my own life, and it shows me just how much more how much further I can go. If I try and I use this as something to share with you, right?

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It could, I don\'t know what your small fear is right? I don\'t know what your fears, I hate to diminish it by calling it small. I don\'t know what your fear is.

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I don\'t know what your worry is, I don\'t know what your walls are, that are keeping you from the life that you really want. But I do know that when you actually take action on some of these things that

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you read about, when you\'re trying to do your best life,

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and you implement some of this stuff, and you try it out, you get results. And there\'s no two ways about it, you\'re going to get a result, maybe not the exact one that you were looking for, maybe not one that you were looking for at all, oh my god, I would where\'s the book, I have another book. You know, I was reading and I\'m really enjoying it. It\'s a gentleman I\'m gonna have on the show soon. But the book was something along the lines of

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let go of the expectation, let go of the perceived

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outcome, right, and kind of do these things in alignment with who you are, and the outcome.

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You\'ll kind of again, trust and let go into that. And that\'s what I did with this. And I kind of you know, hope for that experience for you. Right, I look for that experience for you

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to do some things with ease and joy and you know, in alignment with who you are that jazz again, follow up. Thank you for checking it out. If you hadn\'t checked out the email that you may have gotten, you know, again, doesn\'t ask doesn\'t get and did a podcast the very same. It was one right before this. Take it easy, and oh, hey, listen. Oh my god. I didn\'t know my website was all jacked up. I was getting it, getting it updated doing some work on it. So if you go to the site, and it\'s kind of all jacked up my bad had no idea that was going on. I am glad that I reached out to somebody to get some work done and went to the site and saw that it wasn\'t responding. Talk about mortifying. Anyways, spiritual dope. I\'ll talk to you later.

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Doesn't ask, Doesn't get

Published: March 28, 2022, 9:43 p.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 16 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on spiritual dope? A number Have you probably already got this message probably already saw, some of you may have skimmed it and didn\'t finish it. I know that a meg, she might have, she might have finished reading it after I left she said she would. But uh, so here\'s the deal, I shot out an email. After this weekend, I had just gotten done reading a book titled, the tools, the tools is five tools to help you find courage, creativity, and willpower and inspire you to live life in forward motion. I honestly I don\'t even know why I have this book. I know that I picked it up because it was referenced in another book. And that\'s just kind of how I am I will be reading a book and somebody will reference some material and said book, and I\'ll go to Amazon, and I\'ll grab it because I trust that person\'s reference. Before we get to that, though, that really No, the other piece of this was I interviewed a guy named Jonathan Potter, he\'s going to be coming on at some point in the year, I\'ve got a number of awesome podcasts that have already been recorded for your listening pleasure. And what one of the things that he had was this story. And I put this in an email. And the line really starts like this, the line says doesn\'t ask doesn\'t get right, Jonathan been working for one of the top five global consulting corporations in the world. And he was a nervous new consultant was working with his mentor, and the economy was a shitstorm. And he goes, they had, they had to put a presentation in front of their customer. And it was $20 million. It\'s like, Wow, that\'s pretty, that\'s pretty, pretty bold. Right? And his, his mentor says to him, says, hey, you know, don\'t ask, don\'t get, and they ended up winning this contract. Right? Even though and yes, and on top of on top of the economy, being shitty, and all these other things. They weren\'t even doing a good job at that point. And the situation that they were in, according to the story. So, you know, I\'ve been thinking, I\'d been thinking about making the email that I sent out yesterday, holy based on that story. And I just hadn\'t done it yet. hadn\'t done it yet. And so I had been reading the story was reading the book, the tools. And in the tools, the first tool that they have in there, that\'s called it is called the reversal of desire, then essentially, though, what is teaching you is that how often you stay in your comfort zone. I think that if you\'ve been listening to this podcast, or if you\'ve been in these circles, for any period of time, everybody talks about, you got to get out of your comfort zone. So you\'ve got to get out of your comfort zone. Because there\'s there\'s no growth, really inside that comfort zone. If you stay in the comfort zone, you stay small. And you stay small, you don\'t you don\'t live the life that you truly desire. And oftentimes, you don\'t live the life that truly be fit you. And you\'re missing out on your opportunity to experience your own greatness. And I think that there\'s gonna there\'s a lot of turmoil when you whenever you say to people, talk to them about their greatness, Nate, they think that, you know, it means like superheroes, shit and some other stuff, but really just means to tap into your source inside of yourself and to, you know, kind of feel the thrill of living your life as it was intended. So they talk about, you know, living in your comfort zone, they talk about this pain wall. And they talk about the stories that we kind of make up or the things that we allow for ourselves to get into this pain wall, the sanding in between us. And everything that we truly kind of desire all of these limitless opportunities. And just made me think right just made me think about this notes. Maybe think about the email that I sent out this weekend that said, hey, doesn\'t ask us and get and also brought to mind of all the people that have been on the podcast, I\'ve got several people that have been on the podcast immediately. Right after they write off they\'ve been on no matter what they just start adding me to their email. They\'re

right this time. I\'m like, wow, I didn\'t I didn\'t even sign up to be on an email or I signed up so that you could tell your story on my blog. But okay, you know, so I\'m often impressed with their boldness. Right? To be so bold to just add me to your list we just met bro. Right? And I talked an email about these other people that they sent me emails all of the target, some people email upwards of five times a day. And they\'re still on my list. I still haven\'t unsubscribed. And the reason for that is that I always feel like there\'s something in there, I can read from there, you know, like, I take something away from their emails, I\'m like, wow, this person is pretty, pretty, pretty freakin bold. And they\'re gonna keep sending me emails, like, what are they selling? What are they? How are they selling? What kind of marketing are they using, so I, I enjoy that. But the truth of the matter is, is that I\'ve been holding myself back and I hadn\'t been emailing, and I wasn\'t facing my own pains, I was living in my own small circle. And so I faced it. And using this tool called the reversal desire, you know, it leveraging kind of that pain as the motivator and as a driving force to get myself into this land of limitless opportunity. And they kind of remind you in the story that they\'re telling and the tool, that there\'s going to be pain in your life. And we\'re not talking about doing it on purpose so that you\'re always in pain and pain is growth. That\'s not it. There\'s no there\'s going to be some type of pain that is associated initially with a lot of things. And the thing that comes to my mind is in sales and rejection. Right? still afraid of rejection? I don\'t want to be rejected. I don\'t want to come across as like an idiot, you know? And that and I called myself out in my own email, and I said, You know what this is this is me. I was like, I was afraid of rejection. I was afraid like, maybe one person drops off the list. Well, maybe one person says, I\'m not interested in what you\'re saying here. And I was like, that\'s, you know, that\'s me holding myself back. That\'s me being afraid. That\'s me. Not doing the work, whatever you whatever that is right. And so I did it. And a shout out this email. And it this is like a great weight lifted off of kind of facing your own fears. There is a great line from my girl, Florence Scovel Shinn, she has long since passed. And I\'m looking at it up right now this he Florence Scovel, Shinn, Airedale, Airedale, it\'s a type of dog. Let\'s see if I can spell it correctly. She talks about for me, I walk boldly up to the line, I walk boldly up to the line on my pathway and find it as a friendly Airedale. And what she\'s saying there\'s this very same, really the similar thing that we\'re talking about, like this email, or, you know, sometimes, sometimes your pain or sometimes your, whatever it is that you\'re afraid of. It looks larger from further away for some reason. And the closer that you get to it closer that you get to your pain, the smaller it becomes. Right, you start you start getting rid of the stories and you just you begin to realize that there\'s an outcome that you\'re looking for there\'s and if you can get past it, you can leave it or you can drop it. Right, I finally, it\'s like all those open tabs. I finally shut it down. I shut down this tab that had been open for so long. I felt lighter because of it. And this with Florence Scovel Shinn is saying to when she talks about, you know, walking up to your line and walk up to a friendly Airedale, which is some type of dog.

What. And I brought this, I brought all of this into the breathwork session that I did yesterday as well, working with the group that I\'ve been working with, we\'ve been working on, hey, what are you trying to create in your life? And what\'s stopping you from creating that and then pulling this tool into the prep work and leveraging it so super exciting, to be able to kind of put all these things that you\'re you\'re learning together? I know, that\'s what I\'ve been doing. I\'ve been pulling different modalities together, trying to assemble them in different ways, different tools for different people, and put it all together and you know, again, doesn\'t ask doesn\'t get so I sent out the email what was asking for? I was asking for people to go ahead and say, hey, if you\'ve been checking out this podcast if you\'ve been a part of this community, if you\'re a listener if you\'ve been a guest I love it if you could go ahead and if you could leave a review I said, Hey, you know this guy, Rick, Rick, silence teaches Rick was on contemplation. He said, Hey, host ask powerful questions that made me seriously reflect on why I do what I do. This made the show very helpful for his community. Or perhaps you\'re a longtime listener, and you have 1000 wisdom and had some moments of inspiration. And feel like you\'re part of the community like my boy, Jeremy Todd of the positive side podcast. He says, Hey, I needed this podcast, I cannot believe I found this podcast, I\'ve been looking for a podcast that is on a different level. This show gives me insight about life dreams, and what is my purpose? Thank you, Brandon, for this podcast. And so I set out how to do it, I can leave some of those links on this podcast as well. The kind of the key takeaways here, if you\'re listening, and you\'re still hanging out, is, you know, face some of your fears and face, face some of your pain and leverage that pain is the kind of catalyst and realize that that\'s just energy to write that\'s just energy shaped in the form of thinking, the way God I thought about wonderful entire wonder, Wonder Twin powers unite right in the shape of pain, energy in the shape of pain, and you can reshape and leverage that energy to help build you forward momentum to get yourself into the things that you actually want. And one of those things and oftentimes is asking the question, in the sales world, where I live, if you don\'t ask for the PEO, if you don\'t ask for that purchase order. If you don\'t ask for the sale, if I don\'t ask for these, then I might not get them. And whose fault is it then? Right? Whose fault is it then if somebody doesn\'t know what I\'m asking for because I don\'t voice it, then that\'s all me. That\'s my own fear of letting things get in my own way of what I actually want. Because I am afraid and, you know, it doesn\'t have to be that way. And once you kind of get through that, again, there\'s just like, it\'s a tremendous that\'s your greatness you, you get in touch with your greatness. It might sound scary, but you get in touch with your greatness. You feel powerful, you feel liberated. And you feel like you can achieve so much more after you get past some of those. So hopefully that\'s helpful for you check out the links on this podcast. If you\'d like to go leave some of your own reviews. Thank you for anybody who has been participating in the breathwork and has been having some just tremendous. It\'s been having a tremendous impact. I\'ve got a couple of great breathwork facilitators lined up for you one of them will be Neeraj Naik of the creator of the summer breathwork. I\'ve got getting I don\'t have Gittens last name in front of me but it\'s like Tom cough. Another amazing breathwork facilitator. He does breath work to work with trauma. And I\'ve got a couple others lined up for you too guys. I know yours already kind of getting by had to stop and give this update. But we do have some awesome stuff lined up for you stick around. It\'s going to be great.

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Who's on the journey?

Published: March 13, 2022, 12:09 a.m.
Duration: 12 minutes 36 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:01
breaker breaker one nine or what\'s up spiritual note, Brandon Handley here the voice of a generation, my buddy, Jeremy Todd just just released a podcast with with another one of our mutual friends, Donnie Tuttle. And I thought that was pretty cool simply because, you know, if I recall, I think I introduced those guys, and I got them together. But uh, you know, by way of another mutual friend, it\'s just funny to see how relationships expand. And it\'s funny to see where relationships go. And that\'s not why I pulled over here today, just to just record a quick podcast just to kind of catch up and kind of what\'s on the, in the top of mind kind of stuff, how to calm another conversation this morning. With with a gentleman who I\'m planning on having on the podcast, he does mediumship. But it doesn\'t. That\'s not where it stops, right? Really, it\'s the self discovery journey. And part of that self discovery journey. That\'s such a challenge, I believe to talk about with guests and kind of in particular, and what does it mean to you? is, you know, what does it look like? What\'s the context? And how does somebody get there? And a lot of times, the conversations are pretty, I guess, nebulous. And so this year, on ton of problems that a couple times, it\'s on the way it is happening. I\'ve got these little containers, where I\'m putting different pieces of spirituality, I think they all essentially, look the same. Right? The journey is kind of the same, it\'s just described in a different way. If you look at the the hero\'s journey, I think Joseph Campbell\'s really captured it very well. But it\'s just gonna look and feel different for each person and each person, it\'s gonna shine their own light on it. You know? And when I say it\'s the same, I say, you know, I\'m just trying to think I\'m sitting to think about what what can you shine a light on? And what\'s that look like? I\'m always thinking about crystals that hang from somebody\'s mirror. I remember growing up as a kid, my mom had those on there, rainbows will always be shining through these quartz crystals that were hanging from the rearview mirror. But there\'s a number of different crystals. And so when I say these stories are the same, like that\'s the same as saying like, all crystals are the same. They have a similar structure. Right? But on the outside, they look different but the inside they have a similar structure, Crystal and structure, right? That\'s what makes them crystals. So yeah, this guy\'s told me a story. And I said, Yeah, I get it, man. Your story. It\'s, it\'s, and not to make somebody not feel important or you know, it\'s a wonderful story. But it\'s the story of self evolution. It\'s the story of Self Realization, actualization, those. Those are the words that we want to use. We don\'t want to use the words in my opinion. Evolution, you\'ve already evolved. Tada, you\'re already fucking there. Full stop you already there. It\'s a the whole Buddhist thing. Everyone\'s a Buddha. Just you\'ve got to realize and recognize and become aware of your Buddha nature. This is what he was saying. He was talking about just the awareness of the truth of who you are. This is in Maslow\'s hierarchy of needs. The top of the pyramid is not, hey, I\'m fully fucking satisfied. It\'s realization, self actualization. Right. Who\'s a yogi? She\'s Autobiography of a Yogi, right? What\'s the name his foundation? It\'s SFR is self you know, CSRF Self Realization foundation. Right? These journeys that we spent so much time on, out on the external. Most of most of your life has been focused on the external journey and this includes his or her as breathwork would have it as a tie in here, and the work that I\'ve been doing, as breathwork would have it. That journey

has been 98% external, your journey 98% of it external? How do you look? How do you how do you appear to others? What is your job on the outside? What are what are all these things? And you what can you get? That\'s the external journey. And it\'s a limited finite journey. And I don\'t know, it\'s cool, don\'t get me wrong, Ben the cool places done cool things, I\'m sure you have to show you\'ve done amazing shit. You don\'t seen some cool shit. But the internal journey has been like severely lacking. And that\'s that journey to the center of the self, right? How many licks does it take to get to the center tootsie pop kind of thing. And it all it all depends, and everybody\'s journey is gonna be different. It\'s gonna be, it\'s 100% subjective. They\'re gonna see it, and only the way they can see it. They\'re the only ones that can go on that journey. But the process and the journey is pretty much the same for everybody. Right. And so what I\'m excited about having that gentleman on is that he does a really good job describing the journey, kind of what it looks like, in the brief conversation that he and I had, he described it very well, you know, kind of his job is to kind of get you to recognize the truth of who you are. And there\'s, there\'s unknowingness that comes along with that. And I don\'t have the book in front of me right now. But it\'s another one of the books I\'m going through that\'s breeding, you know, I don\'t know, some sell fucking Heelan book or whatever breeds eel. It\'s actually really good. But you know, if you come to my house right now, there\'s like no breeding, you know, healing books and chakra books and self alignment and all this other stuff. And a lot of it\'s science based, but there\'s also this, this aspect of mysticism, this mystery that surrounds it, when there\'s not a whole lot of mystery, it\'s just you got to have that experience for yourself kind of thing. Right? The experience of riding a bike can only really be conveyed by riding the bike, you know, now, if you\'ve ridden a bike, what that feels like, somebody describes it to you, you\'re like, oh, yeah, that\'s, that\'s sounds like riding a fucking bike. Right? And you won\'t know until you\'ve had some of these other experiences. What it feels like, until you have the experience, you won\'t understand somebody describing them until you\'ve had the experiences. Right? And then you kind of recognize like, yeah, oh, wow. Yep. Yep. Nailed it. Nailed it. Nailed it. Stuck the landing on that one. And you know, this, this, this, this knowingness also comes in, in the breath work, it comes in other I think other things as well. Any kind of activities that you\'re trying to, to do. And I think of breath work. And I think of jujitsu. And you can think of I think just about anything where you\'ve been trying to you\'ve been trying to nail something, it\'s not until you do it. And you\'re like that, that was it. That was I just did the thing. And I just, I think of algebra all the time in this. Just solve the fucking equation. The light goes on, you\'re like, oh, shit, that was it. That was so easy. And you look back. And you can\'t you it\'s so hard to go back. Because now you\'ve got like, this knowledge of the thing. And you can\'t it\'s like, you know, it\'s like going to the fucking matrix. You can\'t go back. Right? You\'re like, oh, no, I\'ve always always been here. It\'s always been like this. And the truth of the matter is yes, it has always been like this. It\'s just your awareness of it hasn\'t been there, right? Your capability to do the thing always exists. And, you know, it\'s just you\'ve got to enable it and activate it right? Self activation is the other thing that you see thrown out a lot. Anyways,

the journeys, it\'s, it\'s the structure is pretty much the same for everybody. The story gets told pretty much the same, same elements of the story for everybody. But, you know, it\'s a little bit different and how somebody sees the story and tells the story and what the specifics were. So I guess you could say that the framework or the outlines pretty much the same and you\'re going to be able to find like the these specific elements in everybody\'s story, they\'re almost all going to be in almost the same order. But just a different different journey. So I guess that\'s what I kind of pulled over. So I just wanted to get something out there and have a conversation. I know, I haven\'t, you know, I guess I\'m Jones and a little bit on my, on the podcast interviews, I\'ve got some new resources to reach out to some people, I\'ve got some people lined up. Another big shout out to, you know, again, I called out Jeremy Todd, and Donnie, because those are a couple guys that, you know, when I think of the beginning of this podcast journey, Jeremy Todd was my number, I think he might have been my first guest. And when I go back to thinking about how he was, he was trying to figure out his microphone and how I was trying to figure out recording it and what a shit yo was. But um, you know, he\'s, he\'s, he\'s ranked up there very high. And I\'m super happy with my podcast, and I\'m just excited to kind of be here, doing this journey, sharing the stories. And, you know, hopefully helping you to find your, you know, inner bliss, your inner joy, your, you know, being there with you on your journey. As I go all the way back to the beginning of this of spiritual dope. And I think about the whole idea of, you know, when you\'re on your, your journey, when you when you believe that there\'s something greater than, you know, kind of like your immediate surroundings, but you\'re, you\'re looking for ways to validate it and, and, and somewhere along the lines, you validate it or you feel like you validated it, and then you\'re like, oh, shade have I just crossed the edge does this go over the border? My fucking crazy now? No, you know, you\'re, you\'re, you\'re experiencing yourself and you\'re, you\'re experiencing, you know, this, this ultimate connection, Journey to the Center of you. And, you know, for lack of better terminology, the journey is the center of the universe. And so that\'s what we\'re here for. That\'s what we\'re doing. Happy to have you here. And we\'ll catch up at some other time.

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The Good Fight

Published: March 1, 2022, 1:54 a.m.
Duration: 12 minutes 36 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:01
What is up? What is up? Bring the energy they say, Well, I\'m coming out of BJJ BJJ report, be curious to see how this audio comes out. At any rate, any rate was really upset that I did a really nice one. I felt like it was a nice one anyways, sometime last week. And, man, the audio just didn\'t come out well. And I wasn\'t going to treat you to that again. I know I\'ve done it a couple times. And honestly, I just, I don\'t enjoy that quality. And I don\'t expect you to either. So what are we what are we focusing on today? What are some things we can focus on today? We can focus on I think just dealing with our shit. I think we\'ve all you know, look, we\'ve all got some demons that we mess with. The quote is the line is always treat everybody with kind of respect and kindness, you really never never know what somebody else has gone. Dealing with. Right? Everybody\'s dealing with some shit. I know that I\'m dealing with, uh, you know, what, right now, to me looks like a poor purchase. Right? What right now it looks to me like a bad idea. But then, you know, I had a conversation with some gentlemen this weekend. And I certainly encourage you all to, you know, especially guys, man get get get around a circle of dudes that you know will be honest with you, and that you feel safe and just talking to because a lot of times, the biggest problem with what we\'re facing comes from holding it all in. Right and not being your best friend, and not talking to you and talking to yourself. Like you\'re a jerk. Right? And. And that\'s not gonna, that\'s not serving anybody. Right. And I think that that\'s me, you know, that\'s playing small, and it doesn\'t mean that you won\'t do it. And again, I\'m not, I\'m here to tell you that, I do it. I\'m not telling you that I\'m perfect. I\'m here to tell you that I have these experiences. And I think that we all have these experiences, I know that we all have these experiences. And most of us are trying to play life like super safe, so we can make it to the end. And you know, I wasn\'t feeling that in the moment. And so I did something that was abrupt, and I gave in to desire. And I gave him the haste. And and for that, you know, the lesson learned is like, well, maybe don\'t do that again. And the lesson learned is, is just because the other thing is I have no idea what the end outcomes going to be. Right? I have no idea what the end outcome is going to be, could be the best thing that ever happened. Could be that through this series of what looks like mistakes, I ended up in the perfect spot with exactly what I wanted. And without having done that, you know, something else happens. So treat yourself like your friend, right, realize and try and try and zoom out on the problem. I love the picture that I think it was magma white shirt actually was a picture of the planet from outer space, and it was like, here\'s, you know, here\'s what the planet looks like before your problems pop up. And then here\'s what the planet looks like after your problems pop up. And it\'s like the exact same picture. And that was the other thing that I had to realize is like, nothing about my health, my wealth, my family, anything really was was changed, like in substantial ways. It was just this thing that I\'d done, that I wasn\'t proud of. Right? And the thing that like, well, if other people see it, they\'re gonna give me shit. Like, why did you do that? Like, you know what, you got to let go of that too. That\'s a if we all recall Pulp Fiction, that\'s your prize thing and you\'re like, Okay, you know, fuck it, you did it. And then you kind of move on. And sometimes again, that\'s harder to do because we\'re not so kind to ourselves. So,

you know, be kind to yourself. Zoom out. Look at this thing like a larger perspective, the class that I took with Sreekumar Rao, creative personal mastery this past year was something that taught me to do that. It\'s not that I didn\'t already do, but it just reinforced it, and he does it in a different way to take a look at your problems become bigger than your problems and realize that most of the times, most of the problems and challenges that you\'re facing you are the one that makes them bigger. You\'re the one that makes them greater than they need to be. And nobody else gives a fuck, right? Most of the times, most of the times somebody else is gonna look at you and be like, they might say, Well, would you do that for him? Like, I don\'t know, like, all right, well, fuck it, let\'s get a beer. Right? And that\'s, like, that\'s as deep as somebody else might think on it. This thing that\'s been eating you and eating you and eating you and, and you\'re given so many fucks about it, even though you don\'t give a fuck, but you\'re given Fox. Like it\'s all day long given Fox, about the one thing that maybe you did wrong. In your own eyes, right? Your own judgment, you\'re judging, it\'s this thing for yourself? And then what about all the things that you\'ve done? Right, right, like how often? How often do you praise yourself? Right? I know, you\'re supposed to be on board. And I was just doing my job, ma\'am. But how often do you like, you know what I fucking showed up today? I gave it everything I had. I feel like I made a difference. Right? I showed up today. My intentions match my values. I feel like I was living my purpose. In one way or another, even if, in that scenario, even if you need to make the adjustments mentally for yourself, right? How were you in alignment? If you didn\'t see it immediately, can you go back through the day? You know what? And look at it and do some reflection. Do some reflection, take a moment and give yourself praise? Because that one thing that you\'re fucking beating yourself up over? is exactly that. It\'s like one of probably two to 3000 things you did right? In the day, in the moment in your entire life, right? You\'re not going to be chalked up or remembered by that that one thing. And even if like I said, you know, we were trying to play it so fucking safe in life. That I don\'t personally think that that\'s the point, right? We play it so safe in life that we stay in our comfort zone our entire life. We\'re fucking miserable there. We hate it. We\'re not happy at all. But we stay there. Because we know what to expect. In this in this comfort zone. We know what to expect. My example would be you know, I\'m in jujitsu this morning. And somebody got me mount and I\'m pretty sure that they\'re not going to do any finishes. I you know, I stay comfortable. I stay there for a moment. I feel safe. I may not be in the best position, but I feel safe. My ribs are being sat on my body is being squashed on somebody grunting in my ear. I\'m like, I feel safe. Okay, here. Until until you decide that it\'s too much, right? You\'re not going to make a move. Until you feel like you\'re at risk. And heaven forbid you initiate that risk. Why would you initiate risk in your life? Oh my goodness, you\'re comfortable being uncomfortable. And staying where you are right now. And that\'s to me. Again, no way to live there\'s gonna be a point where you know you\'ve got something\'s got to break. Something\'s got to give. Something needs to change for you to achieve. Achieve, to find

find what it is you\'re looking for in life anyways, where do we start off with the same start off the same as like, hey, you know, people are going through some shit. Everybody\'s going through some shit, cheat everybody with some compassion. Find yourself a group of people that you can bounce off of that you can share with that you can You can release some of what\'s kind of on on your mind. And oftentimes, that\'s enough to give yourself that escape from the thing that you\'ve been beating yourself up over, be kind to yourself for certain. And, uh, I don\'t know, I think that should do it. You know, look, life is safe if you want to be safe. I mean, I don\'t think that that\'s the point of the whole thing. Sure, there\'s calculated risk, you shouldn\'t do anything super stupid. Like, you know, trying to fly off the thing, without any practice. Saved without any practice, because I\'m thinking about those guys that die from planes and just those bodysuits, right? Look, life is about something greater than just, just safety. Just making it by just existing. Do something for yourself that that makes you feel alive. Don\'t think that cutting or anything like that fits the bill, do something. But do something outside that gets you into a place that, you know, you\'re going to learn from it right, right or wrong, you\'re gonna learn from that thing that you\'ve done that you\'ve never done before. Just to see kind of how it all turns out. Anyways, again, that\'s that\'s kind of, that\'s my spiritual dove. That\'s how I kind of roll through these moments in life. And I also want to share with you look, I mean, I\'m not I\'m not, I\'m not saying I\'m perfect. I\'m saying I use these exact same tools that I\'m sharing with you to get through moments like this, where I\'m feeling small, where I\'m eating myself alive. And I realize, you know, I\'ve become aware of what\'s happening within and how I\'m seeing things on the outside. And changing that perspective through through those different ways have been beneficial to me. And quite honestly, I had somebody told me the other day that they\'re going to find the things that work for them. I\'m going to I\'m just going to be straight here and say these are things that have worked for everybody. For people over 1000s of years that have been shared through these long term practices. Chances are, they are going to work for you so long as you actually apply them

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BJJ Report 20220212

Published: Feb. 13, 2022, 2:36 p.m.
Duration: 22 minutes 16 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:01
What is going on? Spiritual doke, we try to figure out our way home, as we have just stopped out at a random random jujitsu joint. So this is a BJJ report, of sorts, but not totally BJJ report as a navigate and get out of the space. Hopefully these headphones a little bit better. As a speakers, or microphones and I\'ve been typically using, we\'ll see that on the other side. But um, man, going and checking out someplace new is always something that I enjoy doing. Hey, Go Go ahead. You\'re driving a Buick, that tells me everything I need to know. And that\'s great. And going and checking out different spaces and places, right we get into, people always talk about being in a comfort zone. And the comfort zone is the place where you feel safe, the place where you feel known the place where maybe you feel welcome. Maybe you don\'t the place. And I say that because sometimes you can stay in a place that you\'re uncertain about, and uncomfortable in, meaning scared. Or maybe some things happen that you don\'t really particularly care for. But you stay because you\'re afraid that your next decision, given the fact that all the decisions that you\'ve made have led you up to here, you\'re afraid that their next step, the next place that you go to, could lead you to something even worse than where you\'re at. And then rarely do we get past the sensation and the thought the idea of the possibility of something being better. Most times, you get stuck in the space of saying, Well, that could be worse, it\'s definitely going to be worse. There\'s no way I\'m going there. And you don\'t get past the first fear cycle. I guess that\'s what I call it. And you know, that\'s a wave of fear. We\'re thinking of cycles, we think about an oscilloscope, if you\'re not familiar with an oscilloscope, an oscilloscope also frequencies and waves generally electronically. Driven, if that makes sense. So a full cycle would be from top to bottom of a wave. So you go through a fear wave. And a lot of people, many people will stop on fear wave number one, okay. I know it ain\'t happening. And so you stop off your wave number one, you\'re safe enough. You\'re still not where you\'d like to be. But you know where you are? Right? You know that you\'re in a shitty place. You don\'t like it? But you\'re not die. Right? Is that true? Are you not dying? I\'d have to say, I\'d say that we\'re dying every day. Right? Each day that goes by is one less that we\'ve got. And so, you know, the idea of getting out of getting out of our comfort zone. Trying something new is not appealing to a lot of people. And even coming here, I had fear coming to this BJJ place. Even you know, here\'s the here\'s the cool thing about BJJ is that you can pretty much land in any town, USA and find a BJJ place swing on in and say hey, I\'m here to train I\'m here to learn. I\'m here to work with y\'all. And most of them you know let\'s you\'re right in this one Harleysville PJ J had some stuff on the door says you know, check your check your ego at the door. Check your ego at the door and just come on in and see what\'s up. So most places are like that, where you go in and say I\'m here to train and I\'m going to train

and the cool thing is is you know here\'s a bunch of guys that you know and you know one lady that I got to meet today that they\'re all in there trying to improve with their own BJJ. Or maybe they\'re even trying to help others depending on kind of their level. But here\'s the thing was the younger kid in there thought he might be better than it was, but you learn something for everybody. You learned something from everybody that you go against. And you learn something either about yourself, you learn something about their approach. And so no matter where you go, and you put yourself into a certain space or place, especially again in Jiu Jitsu, wow, I just learned this about myself or this about this place, and you take something away from the experience, you learn from the experience. And I\'ll admit, like I was saying earlier, I\'ll admit that I was absolutely, absolutely, there was some fear of sorts on the way they\'re like, Wow, man, what if they\'re not open, your mind starts, your mind starts playing tricks on you, right? Do your mind starts playing tricks on you? And you\'re like, man, maybe I shouldn\'t go maybe I should go to where I\'m always used to go. And I know who\'s gonna be there. I know what\'s gonna happen. And you\'ve already kind of got something set up with the place that you already go to. Like I said, you feel safe there. Sometimes

Unknown Speaker 6:21
you like, fuck it. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 6:22
maybe I\'ll go there. And on my way here is like

Unknown Speaker 6:25
maybe what they\'re not open. What if they aren\'t cool? What if you know and heard some things here and there?

Brandon Handley 6:33
From other people\'s personal experiences, I was like, oh, that sounds awesome. Especially you know, I punched it in and it was named as one place that heard some, some not so great stuff about as like, you know what, fuck it. I\'ve already got for me. This is me. I\'ve already got it in motion. Already got in motion. It\'s already in motion. I don\'t know how it\'s gonna turn out. I don\'t honestly you know, for me, I don\'t always have a whole bunch of expectations from from these types of outings outside of the game, just knowing that I\'m going to learn something. Let\'s take something away from it. When I go to check out these, when I forget to check out these BJJ places, oftentimes I\'m trying to learn something new, right? And what is it? Are they doing how are these guys different than then the guys and gals that I\'m with every day all the time? How are they different? Right? It\'s not how are they better? Are they better? It\'s how are they different? What is different here? What is different than I like what is different than I don\'t like all that stuff and regardless of all of it I\'m going to go against somebody who I I\'ve never gone against each person that you roll with is is 100% different than again all the people that you\'ve already already roll with. So we\'re all we all know this so getting out and kind of facing that fear getting beyond the fear cycle where the fear cycles once and most people like yeah I\'m out there\'s then there\'s the fear cycle goes to the second time second fear cycle.

Unknown Speaker 8:33
It plays a little bit differently than the

Brandon Handley 8:35
first one though. And that second fear cycle the second time you let that through

Unknown Speaker 8:44
and you say to yourself Well Why was what was different about that fear cycle? What I didn\'t stop at the first one I push beyond the first fear cycle and the second fear cycle seems a little a little more approachable maybe seems like a little less? I don\'t know. I don\'t know seems a little less

Brandon Handley 9:04
unapproachable seems like seems so in that regard seemed like there was opportunity where there could be some success in this and that\'s the second superior cycle ah, the third fear cycle comes through and and again if you can get past the first couple fear cycles maybe you\'re starting to put it into motion or you know wait like I fucking

Unknown Speaker 9:27
fear cycles wanting to fear cycle one was fucking no scary. Never do first cycle what\'s on your mind? Fear cycle to play it a little bit differently. Fear cycle tunes like what maybe I could do this fear cycle three. You\'re starting to, you\'re starting to you\'re starting to go in the direction towards your fears.

Brandon Handley 9:49
You started starting to approach your fears.

Unknown Speaker 9:54
You know, again, I know this is all my head says. This is all my head. This is a potential reality, based off of

Brandon Handley 10:06
everything that I\'ve ever known, which does not include the future.

Unknown Speaker 10:14
She say that yourself, well,

Brandon Handley 10:17
I can\'t tell you can\'t tell the future. You think to yourself, how many times have you nailed the fucking future? How many times have you been like, afraid to shit? And it turned out exactly the way that you thought that it was gonna turn out, right? Until this scared of this totally scared, scared, oh my god, I\'m gonna die on it, I\'m gonna die. And it passes. And you live and you\'re still breathing. And you say to yourself this way that that wasn\'t anywhere near as bad as I had convinced myself that it was going to be how many times have you been able to tell the future and a fear state that came true? Chances are,

Unknown Speaker 11:10
you know, chances are one or two, right? And if you want to, if you want to hang your hat on those two or three times out of 1000s

Brandon Handley 11:21
that you got right or wrong, right? You want to hang your hat on those two out of 1000s Feel free. I\'m not here to fucking stop you. I\'m not here. Love the line, Abraham Hicks. I\'m not here to argue for your limitations. I\'m not here to help you to remove any of your anchors that keep you where you\'re at today. I\'m here. For y\'all motherfuckers do the rest of you, right. I\'m here. I\'m here for the people that are willing to see things a little bit differently. I\'m willing, you know, I\'m here. I\'m here for the people that are at fear cycle to who are looking for fucking hope. Who are looking beyond fear? Who are who believe that there\'s more to life than a life of fear rather than a nation of staying where you are today. I\'m looking for people that are willing to change the way they think and it doesn\'t have to be a lot. Now, how I you know, one of the ways that I got through it getting out, I\'m not going to tell you I don\'t have any fear. I\'m not fucking fearless, y\'all. I have a lot less fear than I used to have more courage than I used to write courage tipping point, towards the things that you actually want your life courage is moving forward and strength and love. Beyond and into your fears. So here for the for those people, here\'s a couple of ways that that worked for me, and they don\'t have to work for you. You can apply any of the shit you want. Or you can throw it all the way I don\'t care. Right? Part of it is leaning into your spirituality, right leaning into what I\'m gonna go ahead and call your eternal self. right leaning into a had a friend post something about you know, adults, right here we are adulting. And basically, as adults, most of most of us haven\'t really adjusted the way we think. This thing kind of Ashton stone, since like, six or seven years old, right? Most of us are still like, as eating some frosted Mini Wheats this morning. And most of us are still like that kid. That uh, you know, the adult me likes to shredded wheat. The kid in me likes the, you know, the frosted part. Most of us are still like that kid inside. Right? The body\'s gotten older. Right? Your body, your body\'s aging. Right? Some better, some worse. But it\'s a it\'s a body that\'s easy. Now to eternal spiritual self that you are is that aging? Is that aging? Has it aged? Thoughts change? Sure. Your body changes? Sure. Your mind changes? Sure. The observer of all of this that is watching the shift that is going on this live eternal stream of your life. You are the observer of that. Right has that aged as it age. And if you can think of yourself in that, you know, it looks like a permanent thought, again, if you can see if you can see, even for a second like that, then you start changing the way you think. Alright, if you start changing the way you think the shift that you\'re starting to see starts to change. I know it\'s fucking one of those one of those cliches, right? driving past the house that I remember, when I looked at this place years ago, we never bought it, and pretty glad we did look at it. Wow. Um, the way to change the way that you see things inside, right, it\'s going to change things on the outside. It\'s going to change. Now get this guy change your approach. How does? So when you change your approach, you do things in the spirit. Right? You do things in the spirit of we used to have a line at work. We\'ll call it literally called fotd spirit of the deal. Right? How was the initial deal structured? And, you know, certain things have changed within the interim. But what was the spirit of the deal? What was your approach? How was your approach with that? So if you change your inner approach to your outer game

right, then things change. And if your spiritual DNA too dirty, say this Bob Proctor passed away, but if he changed Yeah, I wrote it today. Your spiritual DNA is perfect. And when you couple some of these things together. First of all, you can couple it all together without telling anybody. You don\'t have to tell anybody that you\'re doing all this shit. Nobody can see you thinking well, some people say they can but fuck those guys. Don\'t have them. Um nobody needs that shit. I can see what you\'re thinking. No, you can\'t get out. Go you can try all this stuff yourself. You can try all put it all on. It\'s kind of like Amazon has now you can order ship. Try it on and send it right back. We don\'t fit. Same deal. If this doesn\'t fit you in any way, shape or form don\'t tell us it doesn\'t matter. And that\'s okay. No, it there\'s like, there\'s no judgement, right? Don\'t judge yourself for even trying out. Try it out. Put it off. See how it fits. You be like, Does my ass look fat in this? I feel like my ass looks fat in this. I\'m not gonna do it. That\'s cool. No worries. Right? Move on. There is that you can do this. It\'s free. You can see if you like changes. And if you notice things are changing towards the better, which is hopefully what you\'re trying to do. Right.

Unknown Speaker 18:06
And maybe there\'s something to it maybe there\'s something to

Brandon Handley 18:09
it even if it\'s even if it\'s just an inkling keep this in mind even if it\'s just an inkling it\'s evidence of it. Right maybe maybe you want to hold got a friend that likes a fish you check this one out. She\'s got she\'s always checking this Fiestaware right. Checking out this Fiestaware looks all over really hard for it. Right now imagine like if you didn\'t try as hard he just saw the Fiesta were showing up. This is all attraction shit, but it still works still. still makes sense. And then, like, I don\'t know, some chips PS to where shows up. And you\'re like, well, that\'s just that\'s not perfect. Fiestaware I don\'t want it. I don\'t don\'t give it to me. I hate I wanted. I want perfect Fiestaware Um, here\'s the thing. It\'s the evidence of it on its way, right. It\'s like, ah, Fiestaware you\'re broke, shattered, damaged and ruined. Okay, really. Um, but it\'s starting to show up. It\'s kind of like when you\'re planting a tree. You know, first year you\'re like, Well, I planted a tree and it needs to be 20 feet by the end of the year, but you know, better you know that that\'s not true. Right? But uh, you know, that if you nurture that plant trees, just like if you nurture your thoughts and your imagination and your lifestyles, exercise is one of those things right? You know, if you nurture and continue to work along those lines, your tree is gonna fucking grow. Right? So if you begin to have positive changes from the way you started to see things changing, right from your inner work Starting in confusing now. Even I\'m getting lost, like, where\'s the thread for this shit, Brandon, if you, if you, if you begin to see those changes coming into fruition, even just like minor evidence of it then I encourage you to continue to work towards that continue to work in that direction. Now, again, you don\'t have to tell any buddy, you don\'t got to tell anybody? This is you. You\'re inside? And if it\'s working great. If not, I don\'t know, reach out to me and ask for a refund. Right. At any rate, any rate, Oh, please. You know, again, some of this is some of this is helpful for you. This is kind of amusing as it were getting out of your comfort zone going and trying different new things. And some of those new things that you might try simple and free to you is the way you see things. And yeah, anyways, I done. I\'m going to go ahead and get on out of here. If you\'re listening to this on a Saturday, there\'s a good chance that there is a spiritual dope. And she level beginner level breathwork session going on on Sunday 1:30pm Eastern Standard Time. Check it out. People are having some really awesome results. They\'re really happy for that. And maybe you\'ll have some of those as well. Some of the benefits that are happening. One person had their blood pressure dropped by 20 systolic points. In less than 20 minutes. I thought that that was pretty amazing. Another person had quit that it was kinda like that feeling you get when you\'re high, but without the drugs. And I was like, Well, that\'s what spiritual dope is all about? Any who\'s any of those sound like they might be of interest to you Come check it out. 130 Eastern Standard Time, spiritual dope at Facebook and you should be able to check in there and you\'ll be able to register for the session later.

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Sorry not Sorry

Published: Feb. 10, 2022, 4:08 p.m.
Duration: 20 minutes 49 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on with you? So Brandon Handley here voice of generation spiritual dope podcast. wanted to touch base about yesterday\'s podcast for you first of all, sorry, it kind of like Sorry, not sorry, the audio on it was garbage man. So really sorry about that I\'m not sure exactly what happened, had a lav mic plugged in and thought that it was better than it was. Deal his content, I thought was pretty good. Got some good feedback. So thanks for the feedback on that. So it just reminds me of a message that I heard years ago, it\'s really about the message not so much the delivery. Of course, in this day and age, I\'m not trying to give myself an excuse for putting out shitty audio quality. But just remember, remember when you were a kid, right? Most of this audience is like in the 30 plus region for younger than that. Thanks for tuning in. But we\'re like in the 30s Plus, like, probably closer like 40s, High 30s cable TV was out, right? Remember cable fucking TV. And there was that panel. And you were like, Oh, my God, check it out. Not allowed to watch it, there was the scrambled channel, you know what I\'m talking about. And you hatch a boob you add to Dick, you would add something, and you would run out and tell your friends you like Bobby Susan, like, I found the shit. I saw Deke sauce moved here, never gonna believe what I did. Look what I did. It was so important to you that you didn\'t care about the quality of the content. Right. And the same thing kind of happens in this space. Even for me, like I\'ll listen to some crazy audio. Sometimes I turn it off. But uh, and you know, hopefully I catch that same content somewhere else or from the same person, right? So hopefully, hopefully wasn\'t too bad for you. I mean, look at look at how we all stood in line to get the COVID vaccine. We didn\'t care what the delivery mechanism was, we didn\'t care what we had to go get it, we just knew that we had to have it. Hopefully, this podcast is like that for you. So that being said, there is another reason that I like to do these podcasts in the car. And when we are on this learning journey, and when we begin to make leaps in our minds, we can be scared to share what we think is happening. I know I can be because it\'s if it\'s not scientifically validated, everybody\'s like, well, that\'s woowoo that shit, but that\'s not how it works. To that all combat stuff like, well, you might not know the mathematics behind the speed rate and trajectory that it\'s going to take for you to stop at that stop sign. But somehow, magically, in your fucking mind, you do it, it happens, right? You\'re coming up to a stop sign, you stop the car, there\'s a lot of math, there\'s physics, there\'s a whole bunch of shit that you just, you know how to do it. Now, if somebody asked you to go around and make a calculation of that shit, you\'d be like, I can\'t. What I can\'t explain to you how I know what to do how I do, but I can do it. And, you know, so that that\'s great. But so part of part the challenge there is we want to be able to communicate, how we know what we\'re doing. Because when we make some of these when we have some of these insights when we have some of the things that happen for us like like for me for example, again, driving the car and and doing a podcast and sharing a message that\'s coming through for me or just being kind of in a zone after I come out of Brazilian jujitsu all amped up on the whatever dopamine is. FM Nigerians deoxy I don\'t know. The right one. Do one you know love drugs and whatever. But what\'s interesting, I\'m pulling out a book. It\'s called The Art of impossible a peak performance primer by Steven Kotler. Let\'s see if I can get the image in there. Be on the green screen? No. Okay, sorry about that. So try to get the image in there but the this is a really good book. It\'s really interesting. Because for me

a peak experience and you know, you can go to Abraham Maslow and you can look I mean, I\'m pretty sure that\'s where we get peak experience from. At the peak there is self realization right? self actualization, I believe is the terminology he uses. But a peak experience in life is recognizing your innate spirituality, right, your innate creativity, and being able to access that kind of at will. And Steven Kotler and a lot of other people, I believe, you know, call call this being in the flow state. And I think that it goes beyond the flow state flow state, in my mind is basically where your, you know, time and space and all other shit stops, and you\'re just kind of you\'re in this great, feel good space doing what you love to be doing and doing it well. And when you\'re, when you\'re when I\'m doing a podcast, when I\'m driving, I feel like you know, it has some share some things, I feel like I share them well. And I feel like they\'re, they\'re impactful. I feel like they come from a place that, you know, there\'s a grittiness to it, right? That it\'s just like, it\'s true. It\'s raw, it\'s real. And so I love to share from that state. In his book, The Art of impossible, he talks about a couple of different the flow cycle, right, so the flow cycle, he talks about stage ones to struggle, where a lot of times, and he\'s talking about our emotions don\'t mean what we think that they mean, for most people frustration is a sign that they\'re moving in the wrong direction, however, and he said that frustration is a sign that moving in the right direction, which I love, because you know, I\'m right now I\'m seeing my youngest child experience, frustration. And I keep telling him not to get frustrated, but now I\'m like, Hey, go ahead, get frustrated, that just means that you\'re moving in the right direction. And this means that means enough to you, that you want to learn how to do it, that like, you\'re pissed, because you can\'t write, you keep going, you keep doing that thing, because you want to be able to accomplish it, but you can\'t. So you\'re frustrated with that. So he talks about that a little bit. And getting into that, and he says the flow starts with a decision to fight back, that frustration is transformed into courage. If you\'ve been listening to the podcast for a while, you know, for me that courage is super meaningful, in that, that is, that\'s the state that pulls you out of like fear and all the other shit. And recently I\'ve read, I wrote something down to me, courage is, is moving forward, not just like, in spite of fear, but moving forward with strength and courage. Right. So strength and courage combined together to me, or weight, strength, strength and love, combined, equal courage, right? You, you, you move forward with strength and love. And that\'s courage in my mind. So, you know, he says, flow starts with a decision to fight back against frustration. I\'m gonna caveat this to just simply because very things that I\'ve been listening to recently, it\'s like, we\'re in like, February, and I\'m already like, taking so much content. My brain is just like swimming and all kinds of awesome. But there\'s also the healthy normal, right? So I mean, you don\'t have to get fucking frustrated, you don\'t have to hit the bottom in order to become creative or get yourself in a flow state. But you do not have to, there\'s something that you\'re trying to overcome. There\'s something that you\'re trying to get into, there\'s a state that like, you know, the regular, the where you are today, all the time, there\'s still a space that you try to bypass in order to get into flow state. So what I wanted to share today was this idea that, that I absolutely thought of before, and this came from, there\'s a really great course in courser. It\'s called learning how to learn. And in that course, I forget the teacher\'s name, she talks about the frontal cortex. So the piece in front of our mind, right, the the executive mind function and all that other shit, the gatekeepers, if you will, right. And basically, we can only take in about four pieces of information. I think that we can take in like 40 bits while I wrote this down somewhere else, actually, recently, we can only take in like 40 bits of information. While our actual subconscious can like take in a shit ton. I don\'t know what the, I don\'t know the real number is but like 40 bits

in our conscious mind that we can kind of access and work with and juggle, right once you get beyond like that, that like you\'re either in an overwhelm or you just fucking let it go. Right? So you can either be overwhelmed by you know, four things coming at you at once, or you can Let go of like the fucking noise you can be like, That\'s noise. You know, all kinds of people will tell you make the important thing, the important thing, keep the important, what\'s the important thing, keep your eye on that will keep your eye on the prize. definitely pay attention to so many different things right. And, and overtime anyways, like, let\'s, let\'s, again, let\'s go back to me driving, driving, when I first learned how to drive like I had to pay attention to everything driving, right like there was mad focus on driving until they were learned tendencies and like my subconscious can like handle it all on its own right. And it\'s all just kind of supernatural. I\'m not going to change that right supernatural like is just happens. And it just works. Because I\'ve done it so many times. It\'s a part of who I am. It\'s been built in. Alright, subconscious is all do what you need to do. We got this at the same time, right? I\'m still I\'m still paying attention, right? So now I\'m driving, I\'m just making sure that like I\'m not hitting shit now. And I\'m also now trying to keep like, we\'re talking, let\'s go back for keeping four things in mind. Right at a time they try, like try to remember five numbers right now top your head be like, you know, 5678 but in different orders, right? The numbers that you just don\'t know, somebody spits them at you, you know? How do you do that. And oftentimes, you struggle, like once you get beyond four of anything, you got to write it down. Okay. And you\'ve got to keep notes and like, you know, all kinds of different stuff. So when you\'re driving, and in this class talks about like, you know, say keep these four things in mind. And once and once you\'ve got those four things coming in, subconscious kind of has to take over subconscious needs to kick in somewhere. Or you release something to the subconscious. And so this is in the art of impossible talks about the you know, getting into the flow state, the cycles of it. The second stage is release fees. So, and I\'ve already thought about this, I promise you, I just didn\'t know how to communicate it. And he says during the struggle, right, the prefrontal cortex is hyperactive, it\'s working feverishly to solve a problem. In release, we want to relax and let go. The goal is to take your mind off the problem. This allows us to pass information processing responsibilities from the conscious to the unconscious, executive attention disengages as the default mode network takes over releases and incubation periods about allowing the brains pattern recognition simply system to chew on a problem for a while, while you do other things. Right. Which is great, because here, if you\'re in this growth space, if you\'re in this personal development space, if you\'re chasing down your spirituality, you\'re a seeker, right? You\'re like what the fuck? I\'m trying to figure out this problem and I\'ve been just taking in all this information I\'ve been putting all this hyper focus on it and person was just not working. I don\'t fucking get it. And the moment you step back the moment you let go falls in the fucking place. You know what? Why was I struggling so hard? Why was I trying so hard? To do all these things? Right? Because first of all, you were trying to work with 40 bits. Right? You were trying to work with like your prefrontal, your egoic mind your your, your 40 bits that thinks that so fucking clever, the things that knows all the things that things that keep it together, right? How many of you that are listening today, which for us is your furrier frontal cortex to keeping you alive while you sleep? To digesting your food to making your blood growing your hair did not give you access as fuck already. Right? Why would you you\'re like I don\'t who needs that shit. I don\'t need that shit. Right. So while I\'m driving, right, this is my release period. The subconscious has taken all these problems and everything that I\'ve tossed into it. And it\'s just spitting stuff out at me now now since I because I\'m trying to drive my prefrontal like the thing that thinks that is fucking the egoic mind I\'m just gonna call it that I\'m

sure it\'s really wrong. But that\'s focused on trying to drive it\'s it\'s focused on all these other things. Whereas like my subconscious or he\'s calling it the unconscious, it\'s just like, hey, we did all this information. We knocked it all down for you. We put it into a format is pretty fucking awesome. You didn\'t have to do shit because we got you and it spits it back out. Because I\'m focused on driving, right? So think that that\'s really cool. And I\'ve been looking for, you know, you look for validation to your insights, right? You\'re like, Hey, I have an insight. What is this insight that I\'ve got? And they like, how do I, how do I verbalize this to people? And they\'re like, Well, you don\'t have a science degree. You\'re not like your, your you don\'t have like, you know, your, you know, where\'s your degree that says that you can say that, and here\'s the deal. So you got to go out and validate somebody else, somebody else has found what you\'ve been looking for, and just put it back out. So this is it in the art of impossible, and he\'s talking about the flow cycle and the stage to release and again, this is like your prefrontal cortex. And this is why I love to do podcast in the car. So like, I, you know, I\'m gonna title this podcast, sorry, not sorry, it\'s the message, not the delivery, I really do apologize for the audio quality, but it\'s also cool, too. I want you to understand why even bother to try to do them in the car. And also, here are some things that you could do for yourself, right? So I want you to also you know, change flip the script a little bit for yourself right when you and for me, this has been amazing. Write the flow cycle, once you get into a frustration state understand that you\'re not fresh, like you\'re frustrated. And that\'s a good thing. You\'re frustrated because you\'re trying to accomplish something. You\'re frustrated any like I fuck it. Let\'s go. Let\'s get all the information is pulled all together. I\'m ready. And you know, once you say yes, to, to that frustration, right? Where\'s it say? He says, doo doo doo doo doo, you can\'t get enough if you begin to you embody courage, right? You face this, you face this challenge that you have you you just make the decision to fight back. Says he says, hell yes, I\'ll fight. This is where I make my saying, you face the fight, though with courage. And that courage is love and strength, strength and love, right? And we will approach it like that there\'s some little less, it\'s, it\'s not a resistance to anything. It\'s, it\'s an acceptance of, okay, these are the facts, this is the way that it is. And I embrace that, I hold that. And I create space for that. And then let your subconscious do the work. And this is this is what people meant by let go and let God write by let go and let God that means I get the fuck out of my own way. Because I can\'t with the 40 bits processing in my prefrontal cortex handle some of the big problems. Alone, right? In that moment, sometimes. And so it\'s like, alright, well, he even talks about it in this book, it\'s so great, it\'s really great book, I highly recommend it the art of impossible, maybe I\'ll make a link to it, maybe I won\'t, I don\'t know. It\'s a really good book, because there\'s a science to it. And, you know, if you\'ve ever thought about like, what it means to let go and like, this is really kind of what what it could mean, allow for the things that are keeping you alive, your subconscious that\'s like just on hyperdrive, and I forget it, I\'ll look for the number sometime. But understand that, that\'s that that\'s the release, you let go of it, if you can stop putting pressure on yourself, in this immediate moment for the answer when the answer is really not oftentimes, right. And this is training from school. From back in the day, I got to finish this test. And you know, you put all this pressure on yourself to get the answer right fastest, to get an answer fastest. And sometimes that first answer is not going to be the right answer. And you\'ll know what the right answer is for yourself. When you just like to resonate with it. You feel so good with it, you\'re like that\'s the fucking answer that I\'ve been looking for, for so long. If you can take the weight off of how long it\'s going to take for something to happen. That it just kind of happens in an organic way that\'s natural and feels good. I know it may make may not make sense. And you got to find there\'s a the people talk about a paradoxes paradox and all this. Right. I actually experienced it a little bit earlier in the work that I did. There\'s a space and you know, we\'re talking about there\'s a space in between states of being right. There\'s a space in between

new all kinds of of ways that you already are. And it\'s in that space in that transition space where the magic happens. And I don\'t really know how to communicate that so well just yet. You know, this is you know the idea of that mystical experience. This is the idea of hope. bunch of other things. But it\'s it\'s a state that\'s really hard to translate. It\'s it could be the flow state, we just get into it where you let go we let go of the worry where you let go of the anxiety we say no fucking you can say, let go and let God and when you understand that you\'re letting go of some of this noise right I talked about earlier you\'ve got the four pieces up there you like, what\'s the important thing you let go of everything is really not important to that thing. And you\'re left with the essence of the thing. You\'re left with something that\'s ethereal, it\'s light and meaningful. And all the all the excess baggage just falls away and you feel good. Okay, that\'s it

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Making it Easy

Published: Feb. 9, 2022, 3 p.m.
Duration: 17 minutes 18 seconds

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Going on spiritual dope was the generation here coming in? From the BJJ report, I just made a quick post here on Instagram, fuck around the reels, the reels, nobody likes to feel the Tick Tock that has whatever\'s next sensation,

Unknown Speaker 0:20
whatever is the next sensation. The real said, Make it easy. What are you getting out of bed for today, whatever it is,

Unknown Speaker 0:32
you make make it so that it\'s easy. And you can make it hard. And you can make it easy. You can make it hard. By going through the shit that I was talking about yesterday waking up, I gotta go to work. Got to do the grind concealed shit.

Unknown Speaker 0:55
Guys grind and grind and grind. And next best thing, this is an accident, I\'ll be happy this next one, I\'ll be happy.

Unknown Speaker 1:03
Or you can make it easy. And one of the things I\'m thinking about is I had an interview last night with this guy. Neil positivity. And he\'s all about the law of attraction and how this works for him. And when it boils down to it, when it boils down to it, everything in your life, everything is how you see it. Even when somebody else tells you how to see it, you\'re still going to see it the way that you see. Right? Because how they tell you to see it. It\'s gonna be your interpretation of how sweet. So everything boils down to in life, how you see it. And we were talking. And I asked him, I said, you know, what about a magnet, we\'re talking about this yesterday to getting into getting out of survival mode. And this is a guy that came out of Camden, New Jersey, in poverty in one of the most dangerous areas in the country. And saw himself out of it through what he believes. And again, it\'s all depends on your belief system and how you see things is leveraging the law of attraction. And you know, he\'s very successful now having having the things he wants in his life. Ask them so what do you tell people who tell you the center survival mode that say they say they can\'t get out of it, there\'s no way out of this poverty, they\'re stuck in survival mode, they\'ll never get out of it. And his answer was was was super awesome and very telling. His answer was, your wish is my command. Simple and true. Your wish is my command. Whatever you think of whatever you spend your time thinking about whatever you see the most is what\'s going to show up. It\'s gonna keep showing up. The way you currently think is what got you to where you are today. It\'s not gonna be the same thinking to get you to where you want to be tomorrow. He was talking about the idea of say you\'re making say you\'re making 50k today. So you\'re making 75k today, and that\'s that\'s what you know how to do right now. That\'s where your level of that\'s an indication of your level of understanding. That\'s an indication of your belief system. That\'s an indication of what you\'re willing to see. You\'re capable of seeing for yourself in order to do something such as double that. What you do, who you are and how you think you\'re going to need to change. You\'ve got a vision of who you are today. You\'ve got the idea of what you\'re capable of. Today, you believe that you\'re at the edge of your capabilities, and the capabilities that you currently have that are getting what you currently want. And that\'s all you\'re ever going to currently get. And you keep

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replaying that story, you keep replaying that memo in your head. And that\'s gonna be the shift that you get Groundhog Day just pass loca Jose, the movie especially because that is your life and measure single day, right talks about yesterday, that is your life and minister.

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And when you realize that tomorrow, or towards the day, you realize that today is gonna be a lot like yesterday due to the nature of life, and you want to see something change today, then you\'ve got to do something different today, you got to think differently about today, you got to think differently about who you are. You got to be able to see yourself differently. You are not you are not the same fucking person that you were yesterday 10 Fucking possible. Even from a cell you or nature, even from your next breath, you are a different person, inherently

Unknown Speaker 6:43
think of a bartender for Sidwell bartender for a number of years. And one of the cool things about martinis and vodka is that whatever you put into it, it kind of takes the taste of and I was just thinking of this breath of air that we take and how minuscule it is how small this next breath of air fuel is going to be. And I think about dropping one or two drops of flavoring into a martini a couple even when you put a lemon twist in there, you take a slice of lemon, take the peel, no bigger than a quarter of an inch wide. It\'s smaller than that. And you twist it over the glass of that martini and the oils infuse that vodka and next thing you\'ve got this you\'ve got this brightly flavored beverage with just a twist of spritz, your like AKA, you know whatever is coming into you is going to flavor. Your next thing. Your next breath is going to be flavored by this podcast, your next whatever whatever you\'re thinking, whatever you\'re listening to, whatever you\'re seeing whatever is coming into you is going to be taken and reinterpreted and reflected right back I like instantaneous. So what are you changing about who you are today to get what you want? Today, and this exercise is not unlike anything else. The exercise is really simple. I imagine this is one of the things that I did for myself this past year and taking Sreekumar Rao\'s creative and personal mastery course anytime you start something new, I started a newer role as in sale. Anytime you start something new, you kind of you don\'t feel right. You don\'t you haven\'t been doing your entire life so something feels off. And you still see yourself I still saw myself as the old Brandon as you know. Not not Brandon, the sales guy. I hadn\'t learned on my lines yet. I didn\'t know my role yet. And the idea is to write down the things that you believe make up that role to be important, like what is it about that role? For example, in sales, to say okay, I\'ve got to do follow up. I\'ve got to do outreach. I\'ve got to, you know, build relationships. I\'ve got to be of service. I\'ve got to be timely. I\'ve got to know how to list of all these things that I felt like a good salesperson needed. And then, as the days went on, I was able to take a look at this list of things and say, oh, you know what? I am doing that I am doing follow up and don\'t follow up on like, I\'m a Sales doing a, I\'m reaching out on a salesman, you know, I\'m asking the right questions. Oh my gosh, yeah. And I was, what I was doing was nothing about my person had changed the way that I\'ve seen what I was already doing. changed. I hadn\'t put it, I had, again, already doing all the stuff that I felt like made up a good salesman, right. But what I hadn\'t been doing was putting it in a container of a Salesman, I\'ve been putting it in the container of just kind of old Brandon. And it was when I was able to put it in a container. And when I was able to separate what I was doing, and realize that I was doing what was necessary for the role going out. Again, I don\'t know about this, going out and learn about I know about this, and grabbing and doing the things that were necessary to make me better at my role, and continue to improve on. So who I asked, I asked this in the breathwork sessions, like who do you need to be? Who would you like to be?

Unknown Speaker 11:42
What needs to happen? What do you feel like needs to happen for you to become that person because you got to you got to become a you got to do becomes that you can have or some shit like that don\'t do. The deal is, is until you\'re able to see yourself as that person you\'re not going to fulfill that hole. So begin to understand who it is that you\'d like to be. Understand that by talking to people who have done it before you by reading their books, by listening to their talks, by understanding their mannerisms by understanding that person. And you know, each person\'s gonna do a little bit differently but like if you can see yourself in that person, you\'re already doing those things.

Unknown Speaker 12:29
Then does that mean you\'re well on your way? And I would say yes. So there\'s something someone that you\'re working on becoming. My guess is you\'re already that person. You\'re already doing some of the things maybe they\'re called translational skills, whatever, you\'re already doing some of that stuff.

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That you ought to be doing. is just not doing it maybe where you would like to be doing it or maybe not doing it in front of the people that you\'d like to be doing it in front of was the idea you know, you\'re not a tree you can move please you\'re not a tree you can leave. So hopefully some of this is helpful Right? Like I said, this kind of start off like wake up wanting the life that you got wake up doing what you want to be doing wake up discipline. God rest his soul Bob Proctor passes weekend. I love his line discipline is doing what you told yourself you were going to do. Doing what you told yourself you were going to do a lot of people say that Tegrity as well. Both are necessary. You wake up in the morning and you did something that you told yourself the night before that you were going to do you should take a moment to celebrate that because now you\'re doing it because you want to because you told yourself you wanted to do it. The speeds of celebration and these enjoy let me wake up for 47 there\'s other people like I\'d rather be in bed okay, great. Stay fucking there. Do you do what you want in the morning, I\'m going to do what I want in the morning. And therefore Ergo we are both having the lies that we tell ourselves that we want and when you\'re living the life that you say that you want, makes it a lot easier to get up out of that the morning and go and do it so I don\'t know where all this lands with you. There\'s the information do with it. What you will be on lookout that\'d be later this fear I was serious I think of speaking of prosperity and spirituality you don\'t know it like I did that podcast prosperity practice very deep into this space but I also think that it goes beyond what a lot a lot of law of attraction speakers talk about spirituality to me is the cornerstone right the piece that once you kind of nail that once you\'ve got to come one with the universe as it were, you know that shit it\'s just it\'s just kind of it\'s an amazing yes the spirituality connection with the spirit itself. To me that kind of takes off that\'s why I do what I do. Because I don\'t think a lot of people talking about it. In the same sense love people are certainly as attractive from material wealth sense. And that\'s why a lot of people get into it but what\'s missing is that what\'s missing is that connection you so understand what you really want that\'s why I do spiritual dope because each time each size I get ahead of that spiritual so each time that I\'m fucking high on life, I know that I\'ll send out like, talking to me the vibrations feeling good about life, and I know that as I\'m sending that out, I\'m sending that out and loving and kind manner has to come back. has to come back. All right. Take it easy. Press work. If you\'re into it, check out Soma breathwork. If you\'re interested in how I\'ll present it, check out this Sunday at 1:30pm eastern standard time go to spiritual soap.co forward slash fresh hyphen, work later

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How we spend our days

Published: Feb. 8, 2022, 7:11 p.m.
Duration: 17 minutes 55 seconds

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Dr. Fred Moss - Welcome to Humanity

Published: Feb. 6, 2022, 9:21 p.m.
Duration: 43 minutes 42 seconds

Meet Dr. Fred Moss

Holistic Physician, Restorative Coach, Podcaster, Psychiatrist Expert Witness at Welcome to Humanity with Dr. Fred Moss

Dr. Fred Moss arrived on Earth on March 1, 1958, and from that very second has been earmarked to be a healer.\\xa0 The family he was born into was in chaos and, in many ways, was counting on his arrival to bring health and wellness back into balance.\\xa0 Little Freddy had his hands full, and over the next six decades, he has made it his business to bring healing to the world around him, not only to his family and friends but to the community and world at large.\\xa0 What a journey it has been.\\xa0\\xa0

Dr. Fred has had a host of life experiences, including, among other things, being a 2-time college dropout and a Northwestern University Medical School graduate (1988).\\xa0 Over the last four decades, Dr. Fred has been firmly entrenched in the mental health system, first as a child care worker and then as an internationally well-known psychiatrist.\\xa0 In addition, Dr. Fred has had leadership roles in multiple modalities, including inpatient and outpatient, homeless shelters, nursing homes, orphanages, halfway houses, drug rehabilitation centers, home visits, prisons and jails, and telepsychiatry in many regions of the USA.\\xa0\\xa0

Dr. Fred has been committed to the notion that communication, connection, creativity, and conversation are at the heart of all healing of all conditions of all types.\\xa0 Without this, people simply do not heal.\\xa0 With it, miracles regularly occur.\\xa0 Voices heal.\\xa0 Listening heals.\\xa0 We humans are best when we are connected to others, and Dr. Fred\\u2019s life mission has now become to assure that all people know that who they are and what they do matters and that their voice, no matter where they are from, or where they are going, can be heard.\\xa0

As the founder of the Welcome to Humanity movement, and the True Voice Podcasting Mastermind and methodology, Dr. Fred now finds himself making the difference he came here to make.\\xa0 His years in the community, where he has been a physician to over 40,000 patients, and his storied and adventurous life traveling around the world, has now left him uniquely qualified to remind us all of what we already know.\\xa0 Communication is where love arises from, and speaking truth and listening authentically are the source of that love.\\xa0

Dr. Fred is married to his dream partner, Alexandra, and lives in the foothills of the Sierra Nevadas in Northern California.\\xa0 He is the proud father of two beautiful children in Texas and is owned collectively by his three cats, Valentino, Despacito, and Winston.

Links, audio podcast, and more

https://www.linkedin.com/in/drfredmoss/

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Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you\'ve questioned so much more than those around you. You\'ve even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited in this process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can\'t quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the question you never even knew to ask. But he\'s the answers to questions about you. It\'s a world with people in it. Most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don\'t have all the answers, but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another hit of spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let\'s get right into today\'s episode.

Brandon Handley 0:42
Hey there spiritual dope. I\'m on here today with Dr. Fred Moss, MD. He is the foremost expert on delivering your true voice into the world so that it can heal your voice matters. Your voice can heal. Dr. Freda has been actively practicing in the mental health field internationally for over 40 years and as a psychiatrist has been an unwavering stand for the transformation of prevailing disempowering conversation that encompasses the industry globally. He is a firm believer that conversation, communication, creativity and human connection are ultimately at the source of all healing of all conditions in all fields. Fred, thanks for being on today. We, we had a couple challenges, but here we are.

Dr. Fred 1:27
Now here we are a couple of challenges tends to pull people together. It\'s like being in a foxhole with a new friend. There we are, here

Brandon Handley 1:33
we are in the foxhole, then talk to Fred. Um, you know, you gave a quick, you know, we have a quick couple pieces of conversation before we got started. And one of the things that we talked about was like, You were kind of you what you said what I heard two different things, I\'m sure so well, she said was that you know, we\'re we\'re conduits for creative energy, right source energy. And and that\'s really the deal with this podcast is that you and I are going to have this conversation. And a listener is going to tune in and and they\'re going to pick up on a message that\'s being delivered through source energy through the all powerful or whatever, through you to them today that can only be delivered right now. What is that message? Dr. Fred,

Dr. Fred 2:14
I think the message is you are not mentally ill you are a human being. I think that what really got here is if pain, suffering and discomfort, frequently accompanying this particular lifetime, does not in any negative or any real way signify any kind of illness or disease. And in fact, all it really signifies is that you are a human being even in the form of exquisite pain, or even in this source, even if source by tremendous loss or fear, or anxiety, or confusion, or aimlessness, any of those things, one thing to really get is that all those experiences are exquisitely human. And if you can get away from believing that there\'s something wrong with you, if you can get away from believing that you\'re defective, if you can get away from believing that you\'re afflicted with a condition that leaves you less than another human being, I really invite our listeners to consider that that might not be the case. And what you might really be is just another one of us a human being 7.8 billion of us around here. And there\'s a good chance that you\'re one of them.

Brandon Handley 3:23
For sure, and I love that message. And man, I gotta imagine that the past couple years, with the influx of COVID, really magnified, you know, the, the thought that they might be sick or ill, whereas, like you\'re saying that they recognize that they\'re human, right, and there\'s something they can work towards. How\'s that? I mean, I\'m just curious, like, how\'s that been for you to address and see over the past couple of years with COVID?

Dr. Fred 3:51
Well, here\'s the thing, you know, even with COVID, we\'re all suffering great fears and great losses and great confusions turnovers, we\'re all having, you know, some degree of anxiety about what the next day\'s you\'re going to bring? Or what\'s going to happen next, or where are we going to have to go? Or what are we going to have to do? Or who are we going to have to be in order to deal with external events? Now, the truth is, it\'s always been the most difficult of times, it just got a little more difficult. But there was never a time in the history of the world where the people who are living thought, this is not as difficult as it gets. And the truth is, it\'s always as difficult as it gets, and it gets a little more difficult. It\'s like part of the ride. So there is a prevailing conversation out there that depression is an illness. Now, let me make this very clear, Brandon, under no circumstances in mind, diminishing the impact of being depressed. I\'m not telling depress people, and I\'m sure we have some very real depressed people who are listening, that there\'s anything They\'re making up or that it\'s less, less painful or that it\'s in their head. No, no, no, no, no, quite the contrary, what I\'m suggesting is, is extremely real. But it\'s so real as a human response to the world that we\'re living in or to the world that you\'re living with. So it is, it\'s like blaming a log for burning in a fire. If a log is burning in a fire, one thing you could do is blame the log for being flammable. Or you could get that there\'s a fire out there. And what logs do when they\'re in a fire is that they burn. And so the idea of being depressed, nervous, anxious, afraid, those kinds of things in the present times? Well, frankly, unfortunately, even though they\'re exquisitely uncomfortable, is just another piece of being a human being.

Brandon Handley 5:58
Yeah, I mean, so since we\'re, since we\'re on the topic, right of that, I\'ll first of all, I love the I love the response. Like it\'s, it\'s always the hardest of times, right? No matter where we are, it\'s always it\'s always the toughest of times. And and, you know, I think once we realize that, these are, those are the conditions we are working with, this is the toughest of times, and this is what we\'re working with, right? In terms of, you know, the people that are depressed right now. How do we get them to I guess, switch that mind frame from depressed, I punched up the word stutter, because it reminds me of a Zig Ziglar. Quote, I heard a while back talking about not Oh, Indians are some type of Indian indigenous tribe that said, you know, they didn\'t stutter, because they didn\'t have a word for it. Right? So is it because we\'ve got this word for it, and we\'ve got a context for it. Which, you know, is one thought that I\'ve got here. But how do we even just say, Alright, look, this is a human condition. What do we do next?

Dr. Fred 6:58
Well, here\'s the thing. One of the, I guess, again, I\'m not saying that if you feel depressed, you\'re not depressed. I am saying if you feel depressed, you are depressed. I get it. It\'s just not an illness. It\'s it\'s like, if you\'re cold, you\'re cold. If you\'re warm, you\'re warm. If you\'re, you know, it\'s like wherever you are, you are and depression in and of itself is not a pathological condition. Depression is an experience an emotion. And if, in fact, one is feeling depressed, it isn\'t like, oh, what should I do? Now I\'m depressed, it\'s a well, maybe the thing to do is just get your depress. But okay, so I\'m feeling depressed. Today, I\'m dealing with depressed now, or in the last week, or most last week, you know, my cat gets run over or my friend gets sick, or my, you know, I lose my job, or, or if I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed today. Or if it\'s just overwhelmingly difficult to walk through the world today, all those things might contribute to a sense of depression. And all I\'m asking the listeners to do not to take their legs out from under them. And not to assume that because you\'re feeling something very uncomfortable, that there\'s something wrong with you. In other words, there\'s nothing wrong with feeling uncomfortable.

Brandon Handley 8:26
Yeah, I think that\'s great. You know, you\'re human, you\'re going to experience these these things. And it\'s a natural reaction, natural response to certain conditions. Right. And, and, you know, hopefully, try and deal with it, and don\'t recognize it as an illness. I think that when we, when we label it as an illness, it\'s really hard to get rid of it. Right. Which is, which is one of the things that I\'m loving right now. Is this transition from things being from it being mental illness into mental health, right? I\'d love to hear I mean, you\'ve been in the industry for a little bit now. Right? How has that shaped what\'s going on in your space right now, the transits that language transition?

Dr. Fred 9:14
Right? So Different people use different phrases like mental health or mental wealth or you know, something different than mental illness or mentally ill? And it in the world of healthy you have to be a little bit careful because when you say mental health and other that\'s a much more palatable, concept and mental mental illness. What I\'m suggesting is, what if there is no such thing inherently as mental illness, that we\'re always mentally healthy no matter what we\'re feeling, even if we\'re feeling unhealthy, meaning Just because you feel unhealthy doesn\'t make you unhealthy. And just because someone else calls you on healthy doesn\'t mean, hey, Fred, I got some people who are not mentally healthy, I really get that. There are some people out there who aren\'t mentally healthy. What I\'m gonna suggest is that most of those people, most of those people have one of a few different things going on there either taking in things that are hurting them toxic items through their mouth, or through their veins, or through their nose, or even through their eyes or the ears, those things can definitely comment cause mental derangement, or mental instability, even more than life does. So that\'s one way to get mentally unhealthy. And another way to get mentally unhealthy, you\'ve already referred to is start calling yourself mentally unhealthy. And by that day, you will be mentally unhealthy. So once you acknowledge yourself as being deficient, once you assume that you\'re walking around with only half of a person, or with a person who\'s missing something called mental health or something called I don\'t know, or reuptake, you know, receptor, a receptor site or you know, some sort of neuro receptor neuro neurotransmitter. Well, then, it is precisely at that time when you accept that there\'s something wrong with you that at that moment, you start living life from there being something wrong with you. And at that point, of course, there\'s something wrong with you, because you say, so I got it.

Brandon Handley 11:38
Yeah, I mean, I jotted down here, you become the authority on yourself. Right? Even if you\'ve got some outside person telling you. Like you\'re saying she\'s telling you that you\'re not mentally stable. I think that you should be the premium. What I\'m hearing you say it\'s kind of like, you should be the one that sets that tone. Right? Yeah. And because, again, once you accept that yet, that\'s something that you go ahead and carry and you just, you kind of point to it. Well, I\'m this way because of XYZ. And always mentally healthy. I think, I think of it in this terms. And, you know, I\'d love to hear your thought on it. Right? Like, I\'m sick, if I feel like, I\'m have my body sick, but mentally, like, I feel fine, right? Like, my, there\'s no bruise on my, you know, mental health. It\'s just that my body feels sick. And my body\'s just kind of weighing it down. Is that?

Dr. Fred 12:35
Okay? So again, we start it starts via you\'re asking great questions. But what this is, look, you can feel really sick. And at that point, when you feel sick, like I can\'t think I\'m not myself. My thoughts are running ragged. And you can call that illness if you like, or you can call it what it is, which is that you feel sick, that your thoughts aren\'t running the way you wish. That\'s all okay. You want to know why those are aspects of simply being a human. They\'re just part of being human. In fact, I contend every single thing that has ever happened to you in your life is part of being human 100% of everything that has happened to you in your life is part of being human. That doesn\'t take a rocket scientist to get that.

Brandon Handley 13:34
Right. No, I mean, we land right on it. We certainly do. We certainly do. Well, I you know, appreciate you like I said hopping on here today. I did take a read through your your book, your creative eight. I thought that was pretty interesting. And I think that it ties in well, I mean, I did literally, it\'s funny. You know, we talked about synchronicities, right. And this morning, I did a quick blurb on recognizing yourself as creative, right? No matter what you\'re doing, you\'re creating something right, you\'re either doing it internally or externally. And you hit on a couple that I certainly enjoy and recognize as creative which is, you know, when you cook, right and recognizing that it\'s just kind of like a creative endeavor, and you can find yourself in a really nice state of flow. But I\'d love for you to share with the audience who may not be familiar with you a little bit of your creative ate. And you know, how you decided to you know, throw that out there and make that when your pieces?

Dr. Fred 14:30
Sure, thank you. So creative eight, you know, healing through creativity and self expression. So what I noticed when people would say, Well, yeah, what am I supposed to do when I feel lousy? What I when I feel detached or when I feel afraid when I feel anxious when I feel hopeless when I feel you know, just generally uncomfortable? What am I supposed to do with that? What can I do that will that will allow me to again find some sense of satisfaction or joy And I noticed something that I think we all know is that is when we\'re in the action, you just spoke to it in the world of cooking, when they\'re in the action of creating, and really, this might go a little bit more towards your listenership here because it\'s, it\'s starting to butt up against the Creator, if you will duck creator. And we start getting that when we act as creators. When we act as you know, in the image of, then what happens is when we\'re dancing, or singing, or our, you know, creating art, or cooking or writing, when we\'re doing some of these things, when we\'re in the midst of doing art, music, dancing, singing, drama, cooking, writing, and gardening are the eight. Those symptoms, which I hesitate to call symptoms, those uncomfortable feelings tend to lift and we find ourselves in a creative space that is remarkably rewarding to our soul at the very moment, no matter whether we had had one of these circumstances going on, or not prior to doing it. So the creative way, eight points towards eight things that you can do, and be like in the world of art, or music, or dancing, etc. That while doing them, you get an opportunity to get relief from whatever your despair is, whatever your discomfort is, I added a couple others by the way, photography and cleaning became number nine and 10. And ultimately, there is an 11th one, and that\'s the one I use when none of that somehow the other 10 aren\'t available, which I\'m not sure how often that is because even to make music, if you take two sticks and hit the table, that\'s music, that\'s fine. And that is helping anyone do anything. So again, in the world of image of when we\'re at maximum service as humans, humans, for whatever reason, helping anyone do anything, the negative symptoms and negative frequency symptoms do tend to lift during that process. And I invite people to take just a few minutes a day to remind themselves and when they\'re doing that, there is relief available, and you don\'t have to stop it to three minutes a day, you actually could do it several times a day, you can overdose on this particular medicine.

Brandon Handley 17:22
Yeah, I love it. And I had a friend of mine, who was on the podcast, and he\'d he\'d mentioned the last one that you\'d mentioned, whenever his mother was feeling down. Or, you know, he\'d said that she would do would do acts of kindness, right? They had nothing and they would go like to other grocery stores and get bread and handed out to the needy, right even though they didn\'t have anything but it was a way that they were able to feel good. So I love I love hearing that as, as a prescription of sorts. And I love your speaking my language, right? When you\'re saying, you know, when we do this in act in the image of right, recognize ourselves as creators in the image of, you know, that that\'s to me what we\'re here in the image of not as humans, that\'s not the image that we\'re here to portray. We\'re here to portray the internal and greater spirit and the creativity, great creators that we are. Right. And the other thing you had mentioned, you only do it like about a minute a day this morning, I\'d mentioned write out the thought that any just one moment, you know, make it make it real. Because if it\'s just in your head, we all have to overcome these hurdles, like 90% of getting out there. And being creative is like, well, what if this sucks? What nobody would nobody likes my cooking? Why should I cook right? And that\'s another thing that you mentioned too, is that, hey, maybe you\'re classically trained as a pianist, maybe you\'re classically chained as a chef, and trying to eliminate. You mentioned a couple things, eliminate, like the judgment of your creativity. And then the other one that you\'d mentioned in there, which I really enjoy, too, is, uh, do something you\'ve never done before, to be a creator in a creative space in something brand new. To bring that beginner\'s mindset love to hear how you kind of got into how you made that the formula? Sure.

Dr. Fred 19:15
Well, it takes creativity to do something that you\'ve never done before. And sometimes it\'s like, you know, if you\'d like playing the same song on the piano, and you get down and you start playing that same song that you\'ve always played, you play chopsticks again and again and again and again, then that\'s not the same as being creative that\'s actually starting to fall into familiar territory. So I know when I pick up a ukulele or a harmonica, or when I pick up even an SLR camera, or if I pick up a paintbrush or, you know, sculpting tools. I\'m doing something that I\'ve never done before and by definition, whatever I do next with that tool will Being new will be different and will be in the world of creativity. So there\'s a fresh new understanding that shows up. And along with that what shows up is, I learned at that point that I don\'t know everything, and that there are some really new spaces that I\'ve never done. Because otherwise we walk around quite often thinking that we know everything we need to know to be us. It\'s true. We know everything we need to know, in order to be us. We do I get it.

Brandon Handley 20:31
Right, right. Right. Absolutely. I mean, and I think that is when we, I guess, when we experienced these, these new things that you\'re talking about, that we begin to understand that there\'s still quite a bit more to us that we need to to find, or there\'s still more to us to find out.

Dr. Fred 20:50
Mm hmm. Yeah, there is, there\'s much more to us to find out. And, you know, I like my wife likes to dance tango, and I, I\'m not officially a tango dancer. But every so often, I\'ll be like, give it a try. And I\'m kind of clumsy. That dance allows for that to some degree. And or she\'s also a painter she has, you know, she has a whole studio there with brushes of multiple sizes and paints and acrylics of multiple types. I don\'t know the first thing about, and I know that when I take those things on, and I began to really explore what\'s there for creativity, any of the negative experiences, which I experienced it I say quite frequently, in between, you know, in between events, I might fall pretty deep down rabbit hole, it\'s, look, it\'s a tough world out there. It\'s it is it\'s a tough world to live in. And feeling bad sometime during the day doesn\'t mean that I\'m sick, it only means that I\'m feeling bad. And if I don\'t want to feel bad anymore, one thing I can do is become a creator. And the easiest way to become a creator is in these, you know, sort of performing and visual arts of our music and dancing and singing and drama. And then in the kitchen of cooking, and then writing and then gardening. And that\'s, by the way different than going to a museum or reading a book. These things are not necessarily creative, although you should do them, you should go to a museum frequently, and you should read lots of books. But it\'s not in the realm of creativity that\'s more in the realm of being receptive to someone else\'s creativity. And what I\'m suggesting is writing and making art is more effective for reducing these uncomfortable experiences than going to a museum or reading a book.

Brandon Handley 22:45
Well, the thing since Cindy, here that you with all your knowledge and capabilities, and, you know, vascular fast toolkit, that you still have negative experiences. Right? I mean, so I mean, and again, but I think that\'s important for for anybody to hear, like even, you know, even the master, right, as it were, still has these human experiences, because you\'re human. And, you know, we need to understand that. This impacts everybody that when, when you have these and you\'re feeling bad, you\'re experiencing shame humanity you\'re experiencing being a human. Now, when we talk about recognizing it, you know, are you talking about like, just kind of leaning into like feeling bad just recognizing it? And are you would you recommend, hey, don\'t judge yourself for this, like, again, recognize yourself as a human, you\'re feeling bad. So what do you want to do about it? What do you take that?

Dr. Fred 23:41
Yes. So, you know, is all the don\'ts out there, they don\'t work very well. So you know, when I judged myself, I\'m also being a human. So don\'t judge judging yourself either. Every experience that you\'re having is just another example of being a human. So first of all, to your first point, I actually feel bad frequently. And I could even make a case that when I feel bad, it\'s it\'s as bad as I\'ve ever felt ever in my whole life and worse, because I apply you know, whatever I know about how to not feel bad and and when my when I break through into helplessness or hopelessness or fear, or anxiety, or depression, or aimlessness or confusion, or any kind of weirdness, or super misery or pain, or disgust or disappointment, or grief, or lack of energy, all of these negative vibrational experiences. When I go there now, it\'s deeper and darker and nastier than it had been ever it\'s not. It\'s like dude

Brandon Handley 25:00
But that but I mean, right? So I mean, why would you say that is, is it because you know, all the things that you know, and then like you still find yourself there anyways,

Dr. Fred 25:08
it\'s part of being human. What I\'m saying is, by being human, you get to experience all of human culture, when I allow myself, when I stop pretending that I\'m supposed to not feel this way. Then what I get is the whole kit and caboodle. The goal in this life might not be to feel great every minute.

Brandon Handley 25:33
Like, sure.

Dr. Fred 25:34
Can you be with feeling great about feeling terrible?

Brandon Handley 25:40
Absolutely, right. You know, I\'m a fan of Alan Watts. And I guess he goes, he\'s got the one line, you know, to know the crest, you got to know the trough. Right? Exactly. So if all we were was like, continuously happy, you are anything like how would like, I don\'t know where you live currently, but it\'d be like driving through the Midwest, right? Like, it\'s just flat and like, overtime. Like there\'s nothing here to see there\'s nothing here to see. Right. So by having those highs and the lows, we\'re gonna, we\'re gonna have different perspectives and varying perspectives. One thing we talked about Dr. Fred was, you know, you in this journey of yours, I\'m assuming you mentioned you\'ve had some spiritual breakthroughs and some spiritual moments, I know that when I experienced what I would have called when I still call it like an awakening experience. There was a question on my mind for a moment like as my losing my mind, right. So I guess where does that fall in the human experience sees? You know, suppose it spiritual awakenings or breakthrough moments, what was that look like in the professional field? And, you know, in your experience?

Dr. Fred 26:49
So can you pose the question one more time Exactly.

Brandon Handley 26:54
Like the spiritual awakenings? Yeah. Where does that fall in your professional field? A and B, have you experienced into yourself? Like, you know, again, for me, when I experienced I was like, Oh, shit, I\'m losing my mind. Right. But I was able, again, to personally, look at my history and apply it in different areas that was my mind and fell forward into it tense, you know, here we are having this conversation.

Dr. Fred 27:21
Yeah. So spiritual awakenings, you know, it\'s hard to hard to really point a finger on it, because they\'re not they don\'t lend themselves to three dimensional language. They don\'t lend themselves to linear language. So trying to put language to these things after they occur. is a it\'s a, it\'s a difficult task. It\'s not really it doesn\'t lend itself to being described. So part, you know, part of it is you almost wake up on the other side of one and go, it\'s sort of like an earthquake, you know, you wake up on the other side, like, Oh, that was a spiritual awakening. It\'s not something to plan for. It\'s something you\'ve ever had experience with before you have one. And even when you have one, it isn\'t like Been there done that I will recognize my next spiritual experience, or my spiritual awakening, and no, not at all your next spiritual awakenings coming at you. And when you experience it, you won\'t have words or description that\'s ready. So in some ways, I think what happens is there\'s an understanding during that time of eternity, or of divinity, of providence of something greater than me, that is running the show something greater than me that has it be that I was headed in a certain direction. And then x&y occurred either internally or externally. And now I\'m headed in a different direction as a direct result of that experience. And the only way I can understand that experience doesn\'t fall in some sort of reality, or rational thinking that preceded it. But it does fall in some sort of magic that was outside of the realm of imaginable. And that then gets categorized as a spiritual experience, which then, you know, sends my life careening in another direction.

Brandon Handley 29:10
Oh, you know, to your point, right, everything, everything that you mentioned, it\'s so that\'s what was true for me. In that experience, I was like, I don\'t know, didn\'t know what it was going through. It had to reach out to multiple people who I thought like I could at least express myself to one was, you know, a Buddhist monk. And another one was, you know, a couple people that were in the in the space, you know, spirituality space. And when I tried to describe it against my wife last night, the words simply didn\'t, I couldn\'t I can\'t form the words to make it happen, right to share that experience with her. And there was no way that I saw it coming. Right now, I don\'t know what the next ones are gonna look like or you know anything. I have no idea. I barely, barely. I\'m still I\'m still bowled over by the last one that happened like four or four years ago. Right? And Chase not over. So, um, for the listeners that goes through this experience, or comes to you, what do you tell them?

Dr. Fred 30:22
You might be surprised that it\'s the same answer. It\'s Welcome to humanity. You get to have those things happen, and you get to have everything happen. This is a temporary existence down here on Earth. And that\'s undeniable is frankly, the only undeniable thing of this life is that it will end on Earth anyways. So in this closed ended experience, you\'re going to have experiences that get described as a, b, c, d, e, spiritual experience, or depression, or everything in between. And I invite our listeners, when that is overwhelming as well, when your spiritual experience takes you aside, and has you just like tumble into the unknown, that that\'s just another example of being able to take on Welcome to humanity as a way of dealing with it, you know, like, wow, is to something being human. And, and in some ways, if there\'s room to show gratitude, or thanks, that might be a good space to show it.

Brandon Handley 31:31
Hello, love that. You know, and again, without the language without like, a background in it, that\'s sometimes where I land myself like is are we just, you know, as Alan Watts called, call it peopling. Right. The earth is like peopling so we\'re just, we blossom in our own time, are we people at a certain point, and this is just part of that experience. So I appreciate I appreciate that. haven\'t really had the opportunity to talk to anybody on professional level about it. So it\'s really great that you\'re on here is just kind of, to have this conversation. Is there I mean, this is what is like one question, I guess, in this space that you wish somebody would ask you that hasn\'t yet. Hmm.

Dr. Fred 32:14
Wow. Um

Brandon Handley 32:21
or, you know, Dr. For what are we? What are we? What should we be talking about that we\'re not?

Dr. Fred 32:25
Yeah, I think what we should be talking about is that the biggest crisis in the world right now, is not what we think it is. We think the biggest crisis might be I don\'t know, some of us think climate change. Other of us think racism, some thinks it\'s sex trafficking. Others think it\'s the virus. Other people think it\'s, you know, divisiveness or corruption or censorship, or, and it\'s getting close when I say censorship. You see, the biggest crisis in the world today is that we are giving up on our own voices. We are having our voices removed from us, either by us or by the world around us. There\'s a new level of constriction and contraction and restriction that has us no longer honoring our own authentic voice. So we\'re actually speaking in what we think are safe ways in order to protect ourselves in order to survive, and at the cost of sacrificing our own authentic message. So what we should be talking about, is whatever it is, that is our authentic message, we are here for a short time, what is shame to get to this life, and never actually deliver your authentic message to anyone why you were here? To me, that is the greatest crisis and the greatest tragedy on the planet at this very moment.

Brandon Handley 34:05
Yeah, I mean, that\'s, that\'s a super powerful. Right. And I think that goes back to the point of, you know, how do we are you a fan of Hawkins? Sure. David Hawkins. So he talks about his consciousness schedule, right or his consciousness bit? How do we get people to that 200 scale, right, which is courage. How do we get people to take a step into themselves and have the courage and in my mind, I think of courage and strength and love, combined right, for themselves, to begin to speak, not in safe ways, but to speak in ways that are ultimately in alignment with the truth of who they are.

Dr. Fred 34:51
I you know, there\'s some level of urgency that took us now. I think we if we look in the mirror in the morning, or any day I think we can no longer be honest with ourselves that everything is going to be okay. And we know it. Not the truth is everything is going to be okay. And we do know it. But we don\'t know what\'s going to happen next week, next month, next year. And we don\'t know that our voices become going to become somehow more available to us. I think all of us know that it\'s possible that our voice is going to become less available to us. So there comes a point where you one just has to own their ground, and say what so right now, the amount of relief and amount of power and the amount of contribution that one gives to the world when they speak their truth, no matter what it is, is quite considerable. And once I speak my truth, like I\'m attempting to do now, you know, my truth is that is about sourcing people finding their truth. Once I speak my truth, I feel like I can open the gates for other people to speak their truth, and it\'s it that\'s contagious. That\'s what contagion looks like. No, no math necessary for that one.

Brandon Handley 36:15
Right. I love it. So what when when you share this message, and you\'re, you know, maybe you\'re having coffee in a coffee shop, talking to a friend sharing this message? And and they say, you know, Dr. Fred, or Fred, you know, I don\'t how do I do that? Like, what\'s, what do you recommend to somebody just get started on that?

Dr. Fred 36:33
Yeah, well, the first thing is to really come to grips with, you\'re probably not speaking your true voice, and it\'s okay. Again, no reason, no reason to rip a hole in yourself, because you\'re not speaking your true voice. You\'re not speaking to your voice, you\'re just saying what the boss wants you to say. You\'re just saying what your wife or your husband wants you to say, you\'re just saying what the community wants you to say what your friends want you to say you\'re just saying what it is just to stay solid. So you can somehow make it back into your house at night and go to sleep. All right. Cool. It\'s fine. Now, does that life look like one you want to keep living? And when you start asking yourself that question, you start taking baby steps, you start saying things that are a little more consistent with what you want to say, that doesn\'t necessarily mean screaming at the clouds, or, or telling your boss to shove it or telling your wife you\'re leaving. That\'s not necessarily what I\'m speaking to, what I\'m speaking to is you might be able to tell these people, what\'s really going on for you. In areas where when you communicate it, the other person receives it and in such a way, are altered by your truth. Like get oh my god, this is a person, this is another human being speaking their truth. And that, like I said, has a very attractive magnetic value to it. When we speak our truth. We can even speak easier with people who disagree with us, or people who are, you know, entirely opposed to what we\'re saying diametrically opposed. And we still can be with those people. If they\'re speaking their truth, and you are doing more speaking hours, that\'s where you really can learn, listen to the people you don\'t agree with, as if you care about what they have to say, that\'s another good space to learn how to speak your truth.

Brandon Handley 38:34
I think that\'s fantastic. You know, I agree. I am personally feeling some sense of urgency, right? There\'s something there\'s a there\'s a pressure to express. Right. And, and to get that actual messages out there. So I really appreciate you sharing that and some different ways to approach it. You know, and to identify the the whole fact that, yeah, what we say is, is is is is enough to keep us safe, right? How much I don\'t know why I\'ll watch this all over my head right now today, but like, you know, I think he mentions it, I\'d rather live like a good life that I enjoyed a short one that I enjoyed, rather than a long one that was painful, right? by by by, you know, not being ever expressing the truth of who I am. And another thing that I recognize, I feel like I recognize over this past couple years of the pandemic was that nobody was spared. Right through this pressure. And this does need and looking for a place to vent and nobody was spared from ultimately being human. Right. Everybody was going through the same thing the same time. And so I think that was an opportunity for us all to bond and have some of those honest conversations. And And to your point when we can have these honest conversations. I know that I had one with, you know, my supervisor and one of my roles. I let them know I said, Hey, I got some things going on at home right now. And if I seem like I\'m a little distracted, I am, right because I got some things going on. And he\'s like, alright, well, you know, thanks for letting me know, everything\'s gonna be alright. But But I felt so relieved. Sure, empowered, that I was able to share that. Right. Um, and didn\'t you know, there was no repercussion? Real Being authentic for for sharing the truth of what\'s going on for sharing my humanity.

Dr. Fred 40:45
Right, exactly. Beautiful. I\'m glad you did that. Super great. Good example.

Brandon Handley 40:50
Yeah, thank you. Thank you. I really appreciate that. And again, thanks for bringing that up. So I\'m at the point now, where I asked a couple different questions. If we\'re good to move on, right from from where we\'re at? Sure.

Dr. Fred 41:02
We are I have. I have about five, five minutes or so it phases out. Okay.

Brandon Handley 41:08
Yep. So I\'ll just get I\'ll give. I\'ll give us one. This is kind of the point in the show where I like to call spiritual speed dating, right? Okay, Fred, like somebody is gonna, it\'s always gonna tune in and hear you you\'re looking for looking for the next spiritual date. And what\'s the greatest quality humans possess?

Dr. Fred 41:26
The greatest power quality that humans possess? Is the capacity to listen and learn.

Brandon Handley 41:30
Okay? What prevent what is it that you feel prevents people from living their full potential? I think we hit on a little bit. But if you want to explain a little bit more,

Dr. Fred 41:41
we are. We are programmed for survival. And we think that by not living our true potential, we are being safer, when in fact not living to your true potential in no way gives you a safer life.

Brandon Handley 41:57
Amen. Amen. Well, look, Dr. Fred, thanks for being on today. Thanks for working through the technical kinks, as we got this thing going. Where should I send people to find out more about what you have to offer?

Dr. Fred 42:08
Well, there\'s a couple places number one, I have a website that\'s going through a revision, that\'s Welcome to humanity dotnet. And if you really want to, you know, take on this community of finding your true voice, that\'s where I\'m really spending most of my time, I would tune in to the true voice community, the true voice community on Facebook. That\'s a group that\'s building up now. And it\'s really an opportunity to grow with people who are really interested in authentic messages, no matter what they are in content. It\'s a beautiful group of people who are really interested in saying what they mean meaning what they say and learning how to listen to others. So the true voice, community as well as my you can ding me on Facebook or on LinkedIn. Those are the two places that I spend any time in social media. And then of course, I have my own podcast. Welcome to humanity podcasts that I invite people to listen to, and I got some pretty good conversations. Maybe I\'ll have you on shortly. I think that would be fun.

Brandon Handley 43:05
I\'d love it. Dr. Fred, thanks so much for being on today.

Dr. Fred 43:07
My pleasure. Thanks for having me, Brandon. It\'s been great.

Unknown Speaker 43:10
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Zach Beach

Published: Jan. 30, 2022, 4:05 p.m.
Duration: 53 minutes 46 seconds

Based in the San Francisco Bay Area,\\xa0Zach Beach, MA, is committed to building a world based on unconditional love and connection. He does that as an educator, yoga teacher, poet and writer, and as the founder of The Heart Center love school.\\xa0Author of The Seven Lessons of Love and two poetry collections, Zach regularly leads transformational\\xa0retreats, workshops, and teacher trainings around the world.\\xa0Zach is a certified Yoga Teacher (E-RYT500), Meditation Teacher, Thai Massage Bodyworker, Sex Educator, and Prison Yoga facilitator.\\xa0His online writings have appeared in such websites as The Huffington Post, Elephant Journal, and MindBodyGreen, while his poems have been seen in such publications as October Hill Magazine, The Oddville Press, and The CHILLFILTR Review.\\xa0Zach\'s formal education includes an M.A. in East-West Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies and a BS from Northwestern University. Learn more at www.zachbeach.com

Brandon Handley 0:00
Their spirits are dope. I\'m on here today with Zack beech. Zach is an internationally known yoga teacher, best selling author, poet, love coach and founder of the heart center, love school and host of the Learn to love podcast, committed to building a world based on unconditional love and connection. Zack regularly leads retreats workshops and transformational trainings on opening the heart and discovering our loving nature. Zach, thanks for being on today, man.

Zach Beach 0:28
Thanks for having me, Brandon. Yeah, we

Brandon Handley 0:30
were talking a little bit here before and there\'s so many places to connect with, like, where do we connect from? And we connected you, you, you popped over to the podcast website and just said, Hey, let\'s connect. And I think Man, I think that was back in September. So here we are, you know, blast and all the way out of 2021 and 2022. Again, happy to have you on here today. Pretty crazy, right?

Zach Beach 0:52
Yeah, thank you so much for having me. You know, I started my own podcast when COVID happened. And I now have a newfound respect for all the other podcasters out there. I know just how much work it takes to get this out into the world. And we really appreciate the work that you were doing in the world.

Brandon Handley 1:10
I appreciate that. Appreciate that. So, Zack, I like to start this off with the whole idea that you and I we are, I don\'t know, we\'re vessels for Source Energy. Right? And the whole idea is that this podcast, you and I will have our conversation. We\'re gonna have somebody who\'s listening, that\'s going to get a message is delivered through source through you on this podcast to them specifically today. What is that message?

Zach Beach 1:32
That love is why we are here.

Brandon Handley 1:36
Yeah, totally. Let\'s let\'s dive into that one. What does that mean to you?

Zach Beach 1:42
So, you know, I love getting deep into philosophy. I love exploring many of the world\'s spiritual and religious traditions. And something that I always talk about is how almost all philosophy, spirituality, religion always begins with, like a fundamental unease about the human condition. Right? Now, sure, maybe animals have a certain level of sentience to them, but you look at your dog, they\'re so happy, they\'re not worried about the inevitability of death. And they\'re not praising the the treat God or whatever. And what I mean by that is we have fundamental questions about what it means to be here, what it means to be human, what it means to be in this world, what it means to be a good person. And as I have followed this path of inquiry, path of self discovery, I have found that the answer almost always invariably comes back to love that we are on this planet to discover our own nature as love, we are on this planet to open our hearts to the love that is around us. And if we\'re looking to find a deeply meaningful, deeply impactful life, love will take us there.

Brandon Handley 2:51
Yeah, so I mean, let\'s, let\'s, uh, let\'s chase your journey a little bit, right? How did you? How did you end up into this space? How, what was your path that lead to this discovery?

Zach Beach 3:04
For me, my path has always been one of continually reflecting on what really matters most in life. And then simply making sure you\'re living in line most with your values. So for me, that was a process of both yoga and meditation, by learning how to calm the mind learning how to turn within, rather than seek this material world for temporary pleasure, look to see if there is perhaps, and a lasting joy that we can find within ourselves. And through that continuous process of reflecting on what truly matters in life. The answer, again, that I kept coming back to is love. And I realized that what I loved was love. And I wanted to devote my entire life to bring a more love into the world. And this was about 12 years ago. And as soon as I started on this path, I realized how extraordinarily challenging it is to live a life of love. Not only because we all have certain unconscious patterns and conditioning that get in the way of love. But we also live in a society that doesn\'t place love very high on the priority list. It\'s very hard to make a living in this world devoting oneself to love there isn\'t a love Incorporated, that you can apply and get a job that you can\'t go to school and major in love as much as I would love to. I\'d love to just major in love and minor and compassion and study the nature of the heart. But these things don\'t quite exist yet. So once I embarked on this path, I realized I would have to carve out an entirely unique path that was uniquely my own, just as many of your listeners are probably discovering the love that they are, and also thinking about how they can bring more of it into the world. So nowadays, I do think of my work in the world as being on the level of the body, the heart and the mind. So on the level of the body. I love teaching yoga, I love people to connect their bodies to love their bodies. I also love to get bodies to connect to other bodies through partner yoga, Aqua yoga, time massage. And on the level of the heart. I love to write poetry, which to me is the language of the heart and gets us even closer to love than the mind ever could. And then on the level of the mind, of course, I write, I teach workshops. I have coaching sessions and coaching clients. And because when I started this path love schools didn\'t exist. I decided, You know what we need our own love school. So I started what I call the heart center love school, which has public programs and trainings and workshops all around developing the heart. So for example, right now, we are in the middle of an eight week, Mindful self compassion training, which is an eight week course, designed by the researchers Dr. Kristen nuff. And Christopher grimmer always rooted in scientific research and empiricism on what practices really help us bring more kind of kindness and compassion to our selves.

Brandon Handley 6:03
So, sounds like you\'ve been busy. And that\'s a good thing, right? I mean, it\'s your point. You know, I think that if, you know, I can remember God man, like 20 years ago, 25 years ago, and I was working at an auto auto shop as detailing cars. And I\'d found some type of, you know, love, I\'d found some type of connection to Source as they will, this is what I need to do now. And everybody man is looking at me fucking like, what is this guy? Wow. Yeah. So, um, you know, needless, I mean, I, you know, there was some other things involved. But I mean, it\'s same point, like, you find this space for yourself, and you try and share it with others. If you try to share it in a normal setting, we\'ll call it right. There\'s no, there\'s no love Corp. Not yet. But, you know, we share it with like, just your regular run of the mill people like yeah, that\'s not gonna work. Right? You\'re not You\'re not gonna be able, you\'re not gonna be able to find that kind of life. And so it sounds like, you know, you put a lot of time and effort into this and, and found some ways that you can live in, in love and, you know, teach others to at least find love within themselves. Right. That\'s fine. Love. I love all of the ideas that was it. Major in love and binary compassion. Right? But even before that, why don\'t you give me a little bit of like, you know, Zack, who were you before you fell, you know, fell into the space and found that for yourself. So that we have an idea of like, who was his act before you Zack now, right? You know, there\'s always that question. Who were you before you were born? Zach?

Zach Beach 7:43
Yeah, the Zen Cohen. Yeah, show me your original face. Show me who you were before your parents were born. You know, we do live many lives right in one lifetime. And you know, when I think about the average person in the world, I do think of as living from shoulders up, like caught up, in our own thinking, lost in our thought, believing everything, of course, that this room, ruminative mind conjures up for us. And by and large, that was me growing up in this cognitive centric society. So indeed, before I entered into the world of following my heart, I was told that in order to live in this world, you know, by my parents, that you had to have a job, right, and you go to school and you major in that discipline, that\'s going to give you the job, it\'s going to give you the paycheck that and then you spend your free time, you know, evenings and weekends doing what you actually enjoy. Right? This is what I was raised in. So I was actually a chemical engineering working for biotech and pharmaceutical companies, before I went on this path, and I was not in touch with my body, I was not in touch with my inner space. And it was literally just a back injury that got me into this practice of yoga. Because I was at a concert with my girlfriend, and she needed to see so I was like, Oh, let me demonstrate how strong I am. And I lifted her up and then suddenly realized I shouldn\'t have done that and herniated a disc in my lower lumbar. And I remember my physical therapist was like, You know what, you should try yoga. And I was like, yeah, right yoga, I can breathe in a room by myself. Thank you very much. And of course, once I took a few classes, I realized just how much it transformed my life and simply like on a physical level, for example, I learned just how tight my body was. And I had never really like even just realized that I was in a body before that, right my whole education system, you sit in a desk and you suppose to exercise the mind. Never did the body come into it. So when I came into my body, I discovered Of course not how how totally imbalanced. Everything in my body was this was tight. This was weak. This was loose. So the injury was a wake up call. Right. And I think many people experienced this in their lives. They experienced that really challenging, perhaps painful circumstances. that wakes them up, right. And if it didn\'t happen, then it was going to happen at some point in the future. So as I was balancing my physical body, the muscle groups, the joint structures, of course, that balance began to overflow into all the other areas of my life, I began to get in touch with my emotions, the energy and motion passing through my body, I began to observe the thoughts in my mind discover that the mind as they, as we say, is a great slave but a terrible master. And of course, discover the aspect of our being that goes beyond sensation beyond emotions beyond thought that we might say is our spiritual aspects of ourselves. So I still have that like technical background, I still love the rigor and discipline of intellectual pursuits. So I will always find myself reading, exploring, learning new courses, traveling around the world, studying from whoever and whatever it is, I can, while also recognizing that as Eckhart Tolle, he would say that spirituality is anything that goes beyond the continuous movement of thinking. Our Mark Epstein defines it as spirituality is anything that transcends our personality, right. Or sometimes in my classes, I do this quote by Jose Saramago. And he says, inside all of us is something with no name. And that something is who we are. So it was that process of yoga, the process of turning within that I discovered other dimensions to my being at of course, go beyond anything that was taught in any school or any book.

Brandon Handley 11:36
Sure, sure. And I get it right. So I mean, it\'s great to know because the transformation, you know, who you are today, wasn\'t always wasn\'t always me, you know, we all it\'s, it\'s funny to say, because it\'s more of like a sort of, like a rediscovery of who you are, and who you\'ve always been, but like, you know, you kept yourself shielded from it, like, you know, so you were cerebral and you worked on all your, you did your you did what you were told, right, here\'s the program, follow the program, okay, I follow the program. And then somebody else is like, Hey, here\'s another door, you might want to go through and check this out, like what is in here? Right, like, what is happening, and then, you know, that just kind of leads and takes on a life of its own. And it sounds kind of like, you know, that\'s what happened to you, right? happen for you. Right? And he has kind of opening, you know, life opened up for you. And you discovered all this. I one thing that I would love, love for us to cover if you if you if you want. Let\'s talk a little bit about you know, your heart centered school, right, your heart center program. And I\'d love to hear how you work with other men specifically, because I think men probably have have more of a challenge connecting to their heart center than than women. And then, you know, what\'s that look like for you getting what\'s, what\'s something? Is that something that you work on?

Zach Beach 13:04
I do love working with men, but it\'s always hard to begin working with him. Right? Particularly in the yoga world, I\'m used to having a vast majority of my classes being female identified, right? I even did a training one time, there\'s 20 of us in the three week training 19 students was the 21st. So 19 female students, I had one female teacher and I was the only guy. So definitely in the yoga world. It\'s like 8020, about 80% female identified and then 20% Male identified. And I always do wonder, like, you know, what is it about our upbringing, about our conditioning, about our society that prevents men from feeling comfortable or desiring to go into these spaces. And a lot of it just has to do with kind of the way that yoga manifests physically in our society. Like I always think it\'s so interesting when you go to the gym to see how gendered the workouts are. Like, in general, men are looking for that triangle shape. They\'re working their arms, their upper body, women tend to be looking for more of like a hourglass shape, they\'re working their glutes and other things. So I think a lot of people do think that yoga is just for flexibility just for skin just for toning the muscles and that sort of thing. But I was also this way, right? I was also not in touch with my emotional world, back in the day, so I do love helping people along that that path and helping people get in and helping men get in touch with their emotions with opening up. Now, it\'s always just like, it\'s all always generalizations, right? Like there is a stereotype that men are in touch with their emotions, but I have met countless women who have no idea what\'s going on in their emotional world. And I\'ve met countless men who are deeply sensitive, deeply in touch with their bodies and deeply in touch with their emotions. So what I do sometimes emphasize is like, there are some general differences between the sexes, right? I could say on average men are taller than women, right? That wouldn\'t be too controversial. But that doesn\'t mean that within that, within each gender, there\'s more variance than there is between genders. Right. So there are countless men who also struggle I also, you know, Coach couples, and there are many couples where the man is the person the person more in touch with their emotions, more community communicative, then, of course, the female. And even in like same sex couples, you still have variants in every relationship is going to be somebody who\'s more this unless this who wants more of this and wants less of this. So the same dynamics happen no matter what kind of relationship that you are in. But working with men is is really beautiful. And it\'s something that, of course, the world and our society needs so much more of. Like, there\'s this general idea that like women are more romantic than men. And women are the type of people that love romantic comedies. But what actually happens is that men tend to want relationships more tend to want to commit more tend to want to take things to the next stage more. And a huge reason that is, is because most men don\'t have other people that they are emotionally close with in their life. And their partner, their wife, their girlfriend is like the only person that can be vulnerable, vulnerable with only people they can confide in emotionally. So then, of course, they want that relationship. Meanwhile, many women, most women have more people that they can share with, they have really close friends that they tend to be more deeply vulnerable with. So what\'s also nice working with men is once you get men to say open up to other men or other people or other family members or other other friends, it also does take pressure off of their, like primary partner to be their sole, like therapist. Or like so. You know, emotional confidant like in the partnership and to build that community where it\'s so so needed. Right? We Yeah,

Brandon Handley 17:13
let me jump there real quick. Yeah, if you don\'t mind. It\'s I mean, yeah, absolutely. Right. And I\'m, like, man, gotta do a better job of finding that community. Right, whatever, whatever that looks like. Primarily, though, so what I guess when I say get in touch with their heart, and men, right, not saying that they\'re not emotional, but how to get them to, I guess, be more heart centric, right? Is that something that you work with? And, and I get, you know, that there are going to be women that are, you know, just as cold and just as analytical and just as cerebral? I think, as men can be. Right. And I think that\'s a kind of like, a Western civilization bit. Right. But you know, specifically, kind of, I guess the question is, what is it that you do with men to help them to get in touch with their emotions, and feel safe, to express themselves and be vulnerable around other men? Or even within their own relationships? Is that some work that you do?

Zach Beach 18:20
Absolutely. And it is really important work. And I\'m sure even many listeners to your podcast are doing the same kind of work. And it\'s always individual in terms of like, where you\'re going to start with this person, like what is the most effective strategy exercise that\'s going to help with this person. And it and while it is true that like yet, on average, you know, men are certain men are a certain way and women are a certain way. But what\'s also been amazing is you probably, you know, know about this, when they talk about the law of attraction are that, like attracts like, is that as I\'ve gotten deeper into this work, I continually meet other amazing men who are also doing amazing work in the world. I recently just had on the podcast got seveal, who has this book called Big Love, so you can check them out. If you\'re looking for more more guests on this field showed up and he\'s just like, his whole meshes is living with a wide open heart. Right? And in terms of like, baby steps, how do we get somebody to be more heart centered? We start with a body, right? We start with the simple stuff, we\'re not gonna be like, Alright, let\'s go on. Let\'s be vulnerable right here right now. Right? We have to slowly transition from being in our heads thinking everything that we think caught up in the rational mind believing that the mind is the only way to kind of live in being in this world. And being in our bodies, right, slow down, feel the breath feel the earth beneath you. Because on the way there of course into the body, we will eventually get to the heart and in fact, the spiritual journey sometimes described as a journey of 18 inches from the head to the heart. So I do think the first step for to become more heart centered in one\'s life is not focus on the heart, immediately focus on the body, focus on cultivating this connection between with your own temple right for this source your own temple for the divinity that you are, which requires a slowing, which requires a stillness of the mind. And embodied movement practices can be really helpful in this regard like Qigong, Tai Chi, Yoga, simple breathing exercises, more and more people are getting into breath work and Wim Hof, or anything like that. Anything that gets you into this breathing, vibrating experience, will also tap you into a natural, a natural aliveness that happens, the more we are in our body. And then son suddenly, once you plant that little seed, and once that seed starts to grow, then you do get in touch more with of course, your emotions, right? We call them feelings because we feel them. Right. So one of the best ways to really get in touch with your feelings is to tap into the sensations that you associate with him. Right? So you\'re feeling angry? Where does anger manifest in your body? Right? So as you\'re sitting in meditation, it\'s wonderful to start with a simple sensation, focused meditation practice, just your breath, maybe do some body scans. And that\'s what we call the first foundation of mindfulness, right mindfulness of the body, right? And then we can do do mindfulness of our emotions, right? That\'s like the next step, or like layering. So then you\'re like, oh, wow, like, you know, how does this feel in my body? Where does grief? Where does sadness, what is anger? What is happiness, we\'re just joy, where do these things manifest in our body, and I\'m really sensational level, right? So mindfulness of the body, mindfulness of emotions. And then once the mind is calm, once the body is settled, then you can think about opening the heart. So those are the three steps, calm the mind, tame the body, open the heart. And that\'s where the real magic happens. But it takes a while to get there.

Brandon Handley 22:20
So it\'s just not something we can do in 21 days. You can do T\'s and C\'s and right because there\'s always like, there\'s always like, you know, Do this, do this program in 21 days, and this will happen type of thing. And I\'m certain that there\'s no, you know, we talk about being general and life\'s different for everybody. It\'s possible. I\'m certain as some of you could have this happen in 21 days, but it\'s something that you need to put some time into. And maybe a big fan of the Buddha quote, or we talks about, you don\'t squeeze the rose the rosebud, right to get it to flower, right. So you have to kind of give it that same you have to give that patience and nurturing and allow for that space, while still wanting it to happen without putting pressure on it to happen.

Zach Beach 23:09
Yeah. But the lovely paradox of it all, like when you finally let go of the thing having to happen, that naturally happens on its own. I have seen extraordinary transformation happen in 21 days. But it\'s highly dependent on the person, like how long have you been on this path? How open are you to the path, right? It\'s like Jon Kabat Zinn has this thing. And he\'s like, why do we need to practice mindfulness for an hour a day? Because the other 23 hours of the day are unintentionally practicing mindlessness. For sure, a lot of sure. Anyway, it\'s like How deep are you going? How involved are you? How much work are you putting into it?

Brandon Handley 23:53
But right now I get it. I get it. So you found your space, you found your place? I think a question that we would all ask, are you making a living by being loving? Right now? Would you say you know what I mean? So I mean, because that\'s, I think one of the one of the big pieces of this podcast is to say, Hey, listen, I can find myself I can find my spiritual space. And I can weave the truth of who I am into everything that I do and still have success. Mm hmm.

Zach Beach 24:27
No, it\'s absolutely true. I mean, for me, my work and my life are so intertwined. I don\'t even know when one stops and the other one begins. Many people have their 40 hour work week. Once you leave work, you\'re done. But for me, it\'s all wrapped up into itself. And, you know, there\'s nothing as nothing is as fulfilling as following your heart. Right? I think the two most important times in a person\'s life are the day we are born and the day that we discover why. And one of the best ways to love yourself is to be true to yourself. figure out why you are here on this planet while you incarnated into this physical form at this point in time, and to discover your unique purpose in life. And earlier, when you were talking about the working on a car, are you talking about like doing car work? As thinking about this common story, we often talk about what happens or what transformation happens when you truly know your purpose. And I\'ll give you the truncated version. But when a person walks into a town square, he comes upon one person and asked them, What are you doing? And with a grumpy look on their face, they say, I\'m squaring the stone, leave me alone. Okay, go to the next person, what are you doing, and they appear to be doing the same thing, but they say I\'m making money for my family in my house, leave me alone. And then you go to the third person, and the third person says, with a twinkle in their eye and a smile on their face, I am building a cathedral. And we always have want to keep that higher vision that we have for the world and the work that we do in the world. So yes, I\'m making a living. I\'m loving it. I just came back from a 21 day training in Peru.

Brandon Handley 26:15
Has it worked? I\'ve actually

Zach Beach 26:16
leaving a wonderful group. Nice. But it\'s because it comes, you know, it\'s coming from the center, it\'s coming from the heart.

Brandon Handley 26:25
Right. And that\'s one of ways it is truly like, one of my favorite stories, right? And I think one of the challenges for me, and I\'m sure for plenty of others is shifting that mindset, right how to shift your mindset from, you know, I\'m squaring a stone, right? Leave me alone, to building a marvelous cathedral for all the world to see. So I think that that\'s certainly a challenge. Because a lot of us again, we get the, you know, go to school, go to work, do your job, you know, pay the bills, and you know, keep your head low type of thing. Right? What I\'d love to hear from you is a, and just in context of this conversation, is there an exercise or a way that you share with some of your clients that help them to see the larger picture of themselves in a larger picture and what they\'re doing? And then be? This would be the next part is how do you you know, when you told your parents, hey, I\'m done with the chemistry. I\'m gonna go do love. You know, let\'s talk a little bit about what that was like, and kind of overcoming the fear to step into and follow your bliss, follow your heart and what that path look like, Huh?

Zach Beach 27:47
Yeah, you might have heard that phrase that, like we spend so much of our lives climbing up a wall only to get to the top and discover that it\'s the wrong wall. And, you know, I do feel very fortunate that I kind of discovered that, like, the life that I was leading wasn\'t the one I was supposed to be at a relatively early age, you know, in my early 20s, to discover that like, actually, you know, I\'m not really happy here, this isn\'t service serving my highest good. This isn\'t the reason I was put here on this earth. So let me try something else. As you mentioned, a lot of it does involve a kind of deconditioning. Right? We\'re put on all sorts of expectations, understandings, and it does come from our society, it does come from our culture, but it possibly it was comes from our parents, right. And even the most well intentioned parents, they gave me the best advice because it applied to them when they are growing up. But the same advice won\'t necessarily might apply to you. And I do often think that like activity, like the, you know, the general work that we do without purpose is just a drain like, we don\'t have that higher cathedral purpose than the day to day drudgery. The day to day work just becomes a drain on our energy. And you asked, is there an exercise that I do to help people gonna get in touch with their purpose? Absolutely. Like, do you want to do it right now?

Brandon Handley 29:14
Do it really as long as as long as it doesn\'t take 21 days, Zach, I\'ll,

Zach Beach 29:19
I\'ll do a really quick, truncated version of an exercise that I that I love to do. And, you know, if the listeners are, if you\'re driving right now, you don\'t need to close your eyes, but it just goes like this. And this is the quick version. So you close your eyes, and you picture yourself in front of a vast expanse. Perhaps you are on a cliff overlooking the ocean, perhaps a mountain overlooking the land, perhaps a prairie overlooking a vast field. And it\'s a beautiful day you feel the sun on your face, the sky is clear. There\'s a cool breeze passing by, and you feel at peace in this place. And from this place of peace and calm, you can ask yourself, in my heart of hearts, what am I really looking for in my life? In my heart of hearts, what am I looking for in my life? And then sometimes I go deeper and I add in my heart of hearts, what am I really looking for? In my life?

Brandon Handley 30:49
And so if I come out of this, are we still going we\'re still in

Zach Beach 30:54
exercise. Now. That\'s the basic exercise right? So involves a few things. One, first, we clear the mind. That\'s what the visualization is meant to do. It\'s meant to calm still the mind. And then you get in touch with the body. You\'re like, how does you know you feel the sun, you feel the breeze, you feel a sense experience of being in your body. And then you tap into the heart space? And then you ask yourself and allow, right I\'m not writing it down that you ask yourself and allow that the answer to naturally arise. And I love doing this exercise because no one says, in my heart of hearts, I want the Ferrari, I want the mansion. I want the MIT this many commas in my bank account. And I go around and share with people after this simple exercise. They say I want peace. I want love. I want security. I want to love myself. Right? So this is the beginning thinking about like, what really matters most in our lives, like, what am I really seeking? What am I really looking for? And then we figure out what we truly care about the most and then we try our best to live in line with those values.

Brandon Handley 32:05
Yeah, so it\'s not Excel spreadsheets. You know, you know, it\'s it\'s love, it\'s peace. It\'s acceptance. It\'s family. It\'s, you know,

Zach Beach 32:17
a long lining.

Brandon Handley 32:18
Right? Yeah. And so, yeah, I guess getting somebody into connection with that. And is that kind of like where you plug in? Okay, now, how is what you\'re currently done? This is how I would do it. I mean, Zach, just out of curiosity, right? Kind of house. How\'s what you\'re doing right now already aligned to that? Can you make that alignment? Right? I mean, can you see that kind of key make that connection? Right? Because you got you got everybody\'s hobbling around the same rock. And everybody\'s doing something a little bit different, right? And it\'s almost like if you tell yourself, I mean, shit, that\'s all we\'re doing. Anyways, we\'re telling ourselves what we\'re doing anyways, look, I\'m looking down here, I\'m pounding on a rock. I\'m looking down here, you know, feeding my family. I\'m looking down here, and I\'m building a cathedral, right? So anyways, no matter what, we\'re already telling ourselves a story. We\'re telling everybody else the same story that we\'re telling ourselves. So if we can change the story, and attach a little bit of our own purpose, well, what I\'m doing today with this rock is I\'m I\'m helping to bring love into the world. With this rock today, I\'m helping to bring you know, peace in the world, right? With his Excel spreadsheet, you know, I\'m saving lives somehow. Right? So is that one thing that you do? Or would do you do something else? Because I mean, it\'s great to feel this. But when I leave your, you know, your presence today, and I\'m outside the yoga shop, how can I apply this outside of that?

Zach Beach 33:42
Action? Is what you\'re talking about? Yeah, doing things. Yeah. So So, so far, basically describe a four step process. And you see this across many circles and in very similar ideas is you tame the mind, discipline the body, open the heart, clarify intent. Right. Now, tip number four is the setting of your intention. And this is why intentions are so powerful is because they\'re so open ended. Right? My intention is to love more. My intention is to help others rather than like, my intention is to make $1,000,000.10 years from now like a direction like a goal, a goal that\'s future directed and intention is something can bring into this moment, right now. And then explore it in a myriad of ways. Because once you do, you\'ll discover places, things, experiences you never even would have dreamed of. Right? Your mind just expands as you continue to follow your intention in a million different ways. Now, after you set your intention, then you go into another little feedback loop. So after you set your intention, then you do what we call a ticket step. Right? You do what we call some sort of action and you\'re out could have some 510 15 year plan in mind, right? But it\'s how can I live fully in line with what matters falling in line with my intention with this action. After that action, you accept what is. And you see clearly. So you\'re like, I\'m gonna love myself today you\'re in bed, right? Then you go to the mirror and you see is it and you\'re like you ugly son of a, suddenly, you haven\'t lived fully in line with your intention, right? I\'m gonna be at peace today. And then your boss walks in and they drop something off at your desk and you think ah, you get angry, right? So this is where the iterative process of our awakening happens, we set our intention, take a step, see clearly accept what is and then we go back. Right so tick, not Han says the most important thing is to remember the most important thing. And I sometimes think of mindfulness as re mindfulness, always reminding ourselves of where we want to come from how we want to respond to the situations in our life, and what really, truly, truly matters. And I will also say that we are told things like follow your bliss, which I don\'t usually say that the word specifically but for now we can keep it or follow your purpose, listen to your heart, etc. And what few people tell you is that following your heart can sometimes be extraordinarily in convenient. You might listen to your heart, and it might tell you to quit your job might tell you to get a divorce, I might tell you to sell the business, sell the house move to a new city, like you might need to make radical changes. I was in a training one time and I was talking to a student and she\'s like, You know what, Zack, I need to leave my partner. And she had come to this realization that, you know, he wasn\'t living in line with her heart and with what matters. And that sometimes doesn\'t involve huge, drastic life changes, quitting the job quitting the partner, that sort of thing. So earlier, we talked about self love. And an important part about self love is boundaries. So sometimes you set up healthy boundaries, and then we realize certain people in our lives are constantly violating our boundaries. So we have to remove them.

Brandon Handley 37:20
Now for sure, I\'d love to get back even to the the idea of right of making these kinds of radical shifts in our lives. Again, yeah, I mean, you went from, you know, being a chemical engineer to the love guy. What was that? Again, let\'s talk to share how, you know, when you share this with your family, when you share with your friends with, you know, what did that transition look like? Because that\'s another piece that a lot of I think people may struggle with, you know, was there a fear that you had to overcome to share and to take a step into that space? share that journey?

Zach Beach 38:02
Um, yeah, it\'s a wonderful question. I mean, you bought it my parents, and, you know, part of the reason I\'m I love guy is, I\'m so lucky to have had the love that my parents offered. And I do think much of my work is just my way of balancing the love that I received from my own mother. And even like, my book on Love was like, dedicated to her. So I do remember, different times in my life, I\'ve created different paradigm shifts, and I\'ve told my parents that and their most common response is, whatever makes you happy. And the profundity of this response not lost on me, particularly because when we talk about, it\'s easy to get pie in the sky, like, you know, even listeners might be like, Who is this, you know, hippie, whoo, guy telling me to love everyone. And for me, love is a very grounded reality and perspective that we can bring. And for me, love is a desire for somebody to be happy, right and desire for somebody to accept themselves as they are for their dreams to come true for them to find joy in this life. And we can extend that to everyone, right, so. And so this is, you know, what my parents would say, they would be like, whatever makes you happy, like, we just want you to be happy. And that, to me is what love is all about is wanting someone to be happy. So with your partner, for example, you want them to be happy. So you might do things that will make them happy and bring joy in a smile to their face. Now, by and large, you will find that if you do, most people are comfortable with constancy. Most people are afraid of change. Right? So I remember I was even working in the corporate world and I had a co worker and he had been in the same cubicle in the same office down the street from his house for 30 years. And that was him. That was his life he had is in anytime anything ever was ever going to possibly change even in the slightest hint, you could just see the anxiety and the fear, right? So there is a certain level of comfort in the known. And we all have this. So yes, if you and it\'ll be foolhardy. Like even if you are in debt, no money in the bank, like don\'t quit your day job just yet. But by and large, we do have a fear of the unknown, and other people will tell you not to do the thing that you\'re doing. Like I\'ve traveled all over the world, and people tell me all the time not to go to places, you know, don\'t go there, it\'s dangerous, don\'t go there, you\'re gonna get sick, don\'t go there. You know, there\'s violence. And most of the time, they\'ve never been to this country, they\'ve only read a few things on the news, and they have totally incorrect appraisal. And here\'s the thing, I believe humanity is good. I believe people are fundamentally good on the inside, I believe that our nature is love. And my travels around the world have done nothing but confirm that reality, I have seen nothing but the good in people no matter where I have gone in the world. So there is a matter of shedding certain conditioning, there is also a matter of just recognizing that even if someone tells you not to do something, it comes from their own background and their own beliefs. Like there\'s always different stories around what it really means to kind of let go of certain societal conditioning that keeps us in place. Now, you might have heard the experiment. I don\'t know if this was a true experiment. But you might have heard experiment about monkeys in the electrified banana. There\'s like five monkeys in a cage. There\'s been no bananas at the top. They\'re electrified. So anytime they touch it, they get electrocuted, right. It\'s time to switch out a new monkey. And of course, the old monkeys teach them don\'t touch the bananas, right? They\'ll they\'re, they\'re gonna electrify you. Eventually, they replace all the old ones with new ones, and they turn off electricity. So now none of the new monkeys, no. Other monkeys were there at the beginning. But they\'re all afraid. Right? They\'re all afraid of those bananas, because they\'ve been taught that by the their predecessors before. So again, many, you know, elders, they lived in a different world than we lived in, and maybe what their advice is, and what they\'re telling you was true. When they were going up, but for us, not so much. We can discard it, we can let it go.

Brandon Handley 42:33
Not right, for sure. For sure. Right. You know, there\'s, there\'s, I\'ve got two kids right now. And sometimes I\'m like, you know, I\'ll just shut up, right? Wait, what, what, what applied to what apply to me at their age, so it doesn\'t apply to them? Right? It\'s like, it doesn\'t even make sense to kind of, you know, kind of walk them through some of these things. I love the fact that you know, you\'ve been all over the world and everybody\'s like, Hey, don\'t go there, you\'re gonna, this isn\'t gonna turn out, blah, blah, blah. But here you are. So um, you know, you made it through. So, you know, there was no fear then, into stepping out,

Zach Beach 43:11
there\'s always fear yourself. I don\'t want to say that I have no fear. But there is this acknowledging, acknowledging it and moving beyond that.

Brandon Handley 43:20
And your close friends and other relatives outside your family, your parents who wanted you to be happy. Everybody was like, Yeah, rolls it.

Zach Beach 43:30
No, absolutely not. But that\'s the thing. You kind of get new friends after a while. As your circles change as your priorities change as your life changes, as like attracts, like, as you seek out people that you know, that you can be of service to that they can be of service to you, as you walk on this path of awakening. This is where the idea of the Sangha, like your like minded spiritual practitioners, your community comes in. And although the spiritual path is deeply personal, it doesn\'t happen alone. So having one Sangha, having one\'s community is so important on the path. And indeed, you know, once you shift from thinking that you know enough booze and drugs and partying is going to provide you lasting happiness, to realizing that sitting still and noticing your breath for 20 minutes is one of the most fascinating and enlightening and joyful experiences in being human, then your priorities shift, right and your friends shift. Now some of them come with, but we\'re on our own path, right? All over Sure. Our own path is unfolding according to our own unique karma. And I all often warn everyone of this spiritual ego, right? There\'s a huge tendency to think that because you\'re on your path of deepening your love or quieting the mind that you are now better than other people not on the path you are somehow more evolved more conscious. And this is, you know, there\'s so much spiritual ego we see nowadays on social media on The superstars, you know, in the world, that it\'s always important to be mindful that you\'re still not better all because you meditate or do yoga or drink green juice, you are no better than anyone else on the planet. Your Your path is just unfolding uniquely, according to your karma. And just as their path is unfolding, according to their karma.

Brandon Handley 45:23
Yeah, absolutely. Right. Well, whatever my path is, it\'s certainly it\'s mine, right? Whatever yours is, is yours. And, you know, it\'s like, we\'re on the way to see the Wizard. You know, we all just, we all just kind of connect on the Bridge Road, and we all have our certain things that we\'re working on. So I appreciate it. And you know, look, guys, anybody\'s tuning in and listening right now, Zack does a lot more than you know, coming in some of the stuff that we\'ve talked about, up to now. You know, you\'ve got the retreats, you\'ve got the you know, Thai, massage, bodywork, or sex educator, prison, yoga facilitator, these are all things we didn\'t really touch on, I wanted to touch on some things that I thought, don\'t get as much attention in the spiritual space, spirituality space yoga space is and a lot of that is, you know, you put a finger on it, right? We talked about it, you know, one out of 21 people who are seeking, you know, connection to their body, soul and whatnot. And that\'s one male, that\'s you out of 21 people, you know, going for your instruction. So what is it that\'s keeping men out? And what are some things that men can do, specifically, and listen, this isn\'t tuned out to women, but like, I mean, again, if you pull up spiritual podcasts, my guess is that you\'re going to see the same ratio. Ones, that one to 20 is the one one being the male, to 20 Female perspectives. And so I think it\'s really important to get the male perspective out there in the spirituality space, to share that it\'s, it\'s okay, to get in touch with who you are, it\'s okay to feel vulnerable, and being a vulnerable space and, and connect without losing your man card. So, you know, that\'s the some of the stuff that I you know, so thank you, Zack, for sharing what you shared today. But also one of the listener know that you do so much more than that outside of that. So if you don\'t mind if, if you\'re good with it right now, I love to ask you a couple different questions. As I told you, before we started the podcast I think of this a little bit like spiritual speed dating. Right? You know, there\'s going to be a listener out there who\'s been like Zach has hit every chord in like my being, I\'ve got to reach out to him. Only if he answers these next couple questions correctly. So correctly. Spirit spirit, spiritual bachelor number one. Um, you know, since you come from like this chemistry background, I\'d love to hear your answer on this. What is the relationship between science and religion? Hmm.

Zach Beach 48:00
So this is speed dating, I\'ll say got 30 seconds to answer it. So I\'m gonna say there\'s a totally unnecessary bifurcation between science and religion that happened about 500 years ago. Before then these things were one and the same. Around the time of the Enlightenment, they split. And right now we are on a mission to bring it all back together is that they are not two separate entities, they work together so well. And to me much religion is not rooted in ritual or memorizing texts or doing what the authority figure at the front of the room does. Religion to me is rooted in positive emotion and social connection. So science two is in its infancy when it comes to positive psychology. So if you\'re looking for joy, or wonder grads who love forgiveness, you\'re gonna find a much better Wisdom Teachings in religion than you will science and by joining these together, we\'ll be on the right path for humanity as the future goes on.

Brandon Handley 49:11
We\'ll have to see what your crew thinks about that. So spiritual, Bachelor Number one, thank you for that answer. I think it\'s great, right? positive emotion, talking about the sciences even as they are right now. I always, you know, even psychology, right? Like how young are some of these sciences that we\'re trying to pry apart the mind with that have really existed for like, years and years and years before like, we decided to put like pen to paper and you know, so it\'s interesting. Um,

Zach Beach 49:40
there is psychological text routing into the nature of the mind written 2000 years ago in yoga and romantic philosophy.

Brandon Handley 49:49
Right, we\'re just we\'re playing catch up. Yep. What is our greatest distraction?

Zach Beach 50:00
humanity\'s greatest distraction. The greatest extreme distraction in general, I\'ll just say in general is the external world. By and large, the spiritual path is one of discovering their inner space is just as vast as our otter space. And some people can go their whole life with ever once closing their eyes, pausing the breath and looking within. So this external world will distract you with all of its pleasures and all of its social media and technology and entertainment. But the true path is an inward journey.

Brandon Handley 50:38
I heard you mentioned a little bit of law of attraction earlier, we I think you touched on it, right? So when we do this enter journey, and what\'s inside is reflected on the outside. What? How does that work for you?

Zach Beach 50:49
It shifts our entire awareness. One of my favorite phrases is when a pickpocket sees a saint, he only sees the saints pockets. So what we see in the world is absolutely every reflection of ourselves. Earlier, we talked about our stories, and how shifting our stories shifts our entire experience. So too, we all have our perspective. We all have a worldview. And by shifting our internal perspective, the entire world changes. I know many well intentioned activist who wish to change the world. And I tell you, if you want to change the world, change your own perception of it. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 51:26
it\'s um, it\'s pretty crazy how it works. You know, it\'s absurd to start Wayne Dyer but he talks about what you know, change what you see change what you see, whatever, you know, just like you\'re saying. It\'s an amazing shift. And it can bring you I guess, whatever it is, you\'re looking for, right? And this context, you You and I were talking law, we\'re talking peace, we\'re talking balance. And if you can find that within yourself, then you can find it outside. Right.

Zach Beach 51:57
Absolutely. You\'ll find it everywhere. Ideally, right see in the world, I mean, is an absolutely reflection of who you are.

Brandon Handley 52:03
I mean, I think you see whatever it is you\'re looking for. Right? Right. So that Zach, it\'s been a pleasure having you on here today where can you know where can I send people find more about you?

Zach Beach 52:16
So I\'m really easily found on the internet. You can just go to Sac beach calm so that\'s the AC HP AC H Beach, just like walking on a beach. Like beach calm is my main hub, but you can also find me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

Brandon Handley 52:31
Zack Yep, thanks again. Thanks for being here to

Zach Beach 52:33
thank you, Brandon.

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F*ck Your Trauma

Published: Jan. 25, 2022, 2:46 p.m.
Duration: 15 minutes 57 seconds

A response to seeing the word trauma everywhere... TL:DR - You don\'t heal your trauma by focusing on your trauma. I am certainly sensitive to your trauma and believe that you have all had some shitty experiences... some severe... but how do you move forward?

Brandon Handley 0:00
is going on. It started this off is like fuck your drama. So with even more emphasis that was a conversation that I had with Meg this morning. For some reasons here, it\'s my birthday. So happy birthday to me traumas on the mind. And Tom was really only on the mind because I am seeing it everywhere everybody\'s got some fucking trauma. I keep seeing into me it\'s like traumas like the new vulnerability of you if you\'ve been in social media the past couple of years is vulnerability was huge. When Brene Brown came out with that nobody was trying to be more vulnerable expose themselves. And now it\'s this this trauma. And everybody seems to be identifying with their trauma, identifying with the hurt identifying with what needs to be healed, or wants to be healed. Because that\'s, I mean, how do we how do we heal our trauma, right? Let\'s heal that trauma. And I get it, right, you\'ve got a story. You\'ve had an experience, something has happened to you and your life has been less than ideal. And it\'s become a part of your identity. This is why I am how I am. This is how I got here. I\'ll tell you. Years ago, I had a coach, and he asked me what it was about me that made me different, why should people pay attention to what it is that I\'m doing? I was like, well, because my story is like, that\'s great. Everybody\'s got a story and as a cold, cold fucking piece. But sometimes you need to hear that sometimes you need to hear that your story is just that, that is your story. And I\'m not going to say that these experiences were awesome. I\'m not going to say that you should have trauma in your life. But I will say that, to me, again, it\'s one person\'s perspective. We also take a look at psychology and psycho analysts and all that others all that shit is still pretty much emerging like less than 200 years a little bit like a practice. So take all the even that with a grain of salt as it continues to develop. And as we continue to learn more and more about really who we are, how we function the way we happen, and all that other jazz, but trauma is self defined. Now I\'ll give you a kind of an example of a traumatic event has happened last night at our house. Liam wasn\'t able to find a rock dude, you know, he\'s like nine years old wasn\'t able to find a rock. I was like alright, well you can\'t find the rock go look in your room go look for it. Because I\'m not insensitive but at the same time I don\'t know where the kids put all their shit and at some point they need to figure out where it is that\'s what was going through my head so you know go find your shit happy to help when you need some actual help. And again, I\'m sure I\'m causing you know some type of shit and that but you know turned out he couldn\'t find it right a little bit later hurt on crying with like Meg and then and then there\'s like this thing that\'s kind of kind of grew larger and larger and larger. And finally I was like fuck it let\'s go help find this fucking rock. right let me look just being just being honest with you here. So you know I go up the steps I\'m like, let\'s go find the rock and at some point, I was like it\'s just a rock man. You know? I get it sucks to lose something but it\'s look quite literally just a rock. And I realized in that moment that it was insensitive. I\'m not trying to be a dick. So hold off there like rooting through all this she\'s like I think it\'s in a drawer so I\'m like no pile on through his drawers and trying to find it can\'t find it. He\'s still crying. And it\'s an it\'s a big mess. And and we kind of we get to the point where what happened who couldn\'t find it and I was like look but he\'s a you know, as a first of all, I was like, what what is the what\'s the significance of this rock to you? Like, why is this you know, rock significant? And I think he\'d said something along the lines of of that you know, I got this rock with you, right found this rock with you and and, you know, just he just loved the rock

and how and trying to add some levity to the situation. and trying to break through the trauma, as it were of the moment. I was like, Well, that makes sense. You found the rock with me, and I get it now. And, you know, took a moment for me to get there, and help to understand the significance of that moment for him and continue throughout the evening, you continue to cry, continue to be upset, there was other things. You know, I gotta imagine there\'s other things that happen. And you eventually, Meg did find the rock and save the evening. And I spent some time with Liam just holding on to the rock and laying around and watching the show and letting them cry through it right, and not chastising them for, you know, crying because I felt like he needed to let a lot of things go. And I share the story. Because do years from now, and I don\'t know that\'s going to be a moment in his life traumatic is traumatic. Your trauma may be you didn\'t win an auction and get the Gucci bag. Right. Your trauma could be you got let go of from a job. Your trauma could be you lost your mother.

And the thing is, is, you know, again, it\'s kind of self defined. And right now, it seems like everybody\'s just allowed, or even being encouraged to go seek trauma to go find your trauma, go find your trauma, heal your trauma. And I would encourage you to absolutely seek healing. There is a book that I was, and I still am a huge fan of it. It\'s called The Science of Getting Rich. And in that book he talks about because you don\'t solve poverty by focusing on poverty. Right? It\'s like you don\'t solve the problem by focusing on the problem, you find you\'ve solved the problem by focusing on the solution, what\'s on the opposite side of that problem? Right? What does it kind of look like when that is no longer a problem? And LP does this very well. And in limiting beliefs, right? Your trauma. Like it or not, maybe one of your and I\'m not trying to be insensitive here, but it may be one of your limiting beliefs. What happens maybe if you translate that word trauma to experience, you had a less than ideal experience you hadn\'t? You know, you had this experience? How are you going to use that? What is what happens inside of that experience that maybe could propel you and your future? Maybe you could encourage people to hate trying to think of a good one here. But how can you encourage people through what you\'ve learned through your trauma? Where How could you let somebody know that hey, these actions that you do, while they may seem like I don\'t know, small, may have this enormous impact. And the thing here is also not to be it\'s to be sensitive, but not overly sensitive, wherever everything turns into trauma, right. And I want to kind of highlight this with a with a small story. The story of two brothers, one brother, who goes throughout life gives back to the community is heralded he\'s super successful in all that he does. And the other brother, he\'s an alcoholic, he drinks he does drugs, he\'s always getting support from the outside and never seems to be able to pull this shit together. Alright, and when people talk to them, due to the brothers, the one brother, the very successful one, when people were like, well, you know, how did you how did you get like this? And he goes, Well, you know, my dad was an alcoholic. So I, you know, I didn\'t want to turn out like that I use, like, how I grew up to seek the opposite of that to turn into the truth of who I am right to be who I want to be. And same thing for the other brother. He goes, Well, gee, you know, how, how can we help? Like, how did you end up like this? How did you get here? Because, you know, my dad was an alcoholic. So you know, that\'s how I was raised. That\'s just all I know. And that\'s, that\'s what I became. So you can see right there. Do you know these two people have the same experience. And they leverage it in different ways. You know, I, again, was just thinking about this this morning. And you know what happens if you had to get on a small flight, we\'re just watching or just watching the show Yellow Jacket, yellow jackets on Showtime, pretty, pretty traumatic. There, right? Experience. But what happens if you hop onto a flight and all your thoughts, all your traumas, everything, all your experiences, you need to just call them baggage, right? Because that\'s what we used to call, call this stuff and be like, Oh, that person\'s got a lot of baggage is called baggage. But what happens if you, you label all your experiences baggage? And then you say, alright, well, you can only take so many of these things with you on this flight. So that you can live your best life? Are you going to bring your trauma? Are you going to bring the story of how you could be this but you can\'t because of this trauma?

And I just you know, again, look, there are some things out there and there\'s some things bigger than then that definitely need healing. I\'m not saying that that\'s not true. But how can you make use of your trauma? How can you use it for your benefit? I had a course that I took this earlier this year Sreekumar Rao\'s creative and personal mastery. And in one of those scenarios is like how it was how to become bigger than the problem. And I guarantee you, I promise you that you are bigger than your trauma, you are greater than your trauma. I think the other person that we think about too is like, what about Abe Lincoln? Right? What about Abe Lincoln if we take a look at of all the setbacks, everything that ever happened to him, right in 1832 He lost his job and he was defeated for state legislator 1833 He was failed in business appointed postmaster of New Salem, Illinois, and it didn\'t make it 1835 Sweetheart died at 36 He had a nervous breakdown 1838 He was nominated for you know, House Speaker and he was defeated for speaker in 1843. Defeated for nomination for Congress 1848 Last renomination 1849 rejected for land officer 1854 defeated for US Senate 1856 defeated for nomination for vice president two years later, he\'s again defeated for US Senate. And then in 1860, he was elected president. Like holy shit, like what if at any one moment, it was so easy to just attach who you are and your capabilities to any one of those scenarios and just fucking stop? Right? Just let let it go. Like what would have happened if he let his trauma be his identity? I know a lot. Even me I\'m like, Well, if he still be alive, like, you know, he would have lived longer. True. Even in that sense, right? You know, that kind of takes the opposite approach of you know, just because these good things happen. Are they actually good things anyways? You know, that\'s just kind of my thought this morning. I\'m little I\'m not I am I\'m tired of seeing trauma. Everything seems like a trauma right now. It seems like the popular things, all the cool kids have trauma. Right now, I\'d encourage you to take a look at what you\'re identifying as trauma. And if you need help, absolutely get it like I mean, if it\'s something that is not working out well for you. There\'s all kinds of modalities. If one is not working out for you, please go seek out another because there is more than one road to travel for healing. Give that example as at our house. We\'re excuse me, experiencing healing through tuning forks and acupuncture. Other people may be experiencing it through talk therapy through psychologists through psychoanalyst. Other people may be experiencing it through drum circles through community through giving back whatever it is that you\'ve experienced this traumatic and you need healing. Please absolutely go get it. My only cry out to you is to he\'ll write focus on your healing focus on either leveraging your trauma as something that you could do good with or, you know, help catapult you forward in life and not let it be something that weighs you down and sucks the fucking life out of you. Right? That\'s not what spiritual dope is about for sure. Spiritual dope is about connecting with your inner greatness, identifying your greatness, being cool with that and growing that so that you know you can become connected and become a fully self actualized person. And that\'s, you know, that\'s for another day, but that\'s what that\'s what we\'re here for. Hopefully this has been helpful for you. I\'ll talk to you later.

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How to recognize yourself as creative

Published: Jan. 19, 2022, 3:02 p.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 51 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
What\'s up spiritual dope, we are on the way home from a little bit of a BJJ. And we are just, I say we, I\'m just trying to come in here and I know that so many times that I\'ll go over, I\'ll start off my podcast with a guest. And I\'ll share something along the lines of, or one of the first questions asked courses, hey, we, you myself, are conduits for universal energy, meaning, life energy prana the things that move us electricity we are, that\'s what we\'re filled with. And we\'re literally just conduits for creative force. And our expression is, that is that universal force is our spirit is whatever is within us that which is actually you know, expands much, much further beyond us, then we can see the, how we express that oftentimes is through our boys are, no matter what we think of ourselves, no matter what you think of yourself as a creator or not, you absolutely are. There\'s no two ways about it. The things that happen, though, what you create 90% of what you create is internal. I\'m just throwing numbers out there. 10% is what the world sees. So when you think of being a creative type, you probably think of somebody who is a famous guitar player, Jimi Hendrix comes to my mind or clap in my mind. You think of somebody who\'s incredibly gifted as a singer, Florence, the machine, come to my mind, Adele comes my mind with certain hate the blonde lizard at the street here, up by reading, everybody loves her, of course, I can\'t think of her name right now. That expression is what\'s inside of them. And that expression of their gift of their creative gift gets a lot of recognition. And I think that\'s okay. But that\'s really, to me, just the the Spear of, of what creativity is just the Spear of what creation is. And to me, we all have, we all have this gift, to create something memorable, to contribute to make an impact. And oftentimes, what scares you the most is the creation that nobody sees the creation inside of you. The creation of the scene where somebody tells you, that\'s a shitty idea. The scene where it doesn\'t work out exactly as you intended. You don\'t think that it ever occurred. So you never take that first step even though in your mind, it could have the greatest impact on the world. Could you imagine? You know, where would we be without? Lawrence light yoke? Could you imagine where we would be? Without? Maybe Nietzsche without Carl Jung, could you imagine where we would be without the Beatles without to Live Crew on my way back to early hip hop. Could you imagine where we\'d be without?

Ice Cube and those guys Yeah, there\'s certain there\'s bound to be hundreds of people, maybe 1000s of people that told those guys, no. Could you imagine where we might be without Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Johansen with Chicken Soup for the Soul without these guys that they tried to get their book published and they were rejected by 144 different publishers. What if they stopped? You know, what if they stopped at 143? What did they said enough is enough? I can\'t say what they said, that\'s enough. And they didn\'t persist? What if they, you know, what if they believe you know what, maybe this won\'t change as many lives as we think it\'s going to? Because I\'ll tell you what, right now. For the 144, people who rejected that, publishers, publishing houses, rejected their book changed their lives dramatically. It was like, wow, we should have we should have published that. Could you imagine where we\'d be without? Joseph Campbell? You know, famous for his studies of mythology, like, who chooses that as a field? And who has the impact that he has by teaching mythology? You know, without him, we don\'t have Star Wars? Where would we be with? I know, I know, there\'s a lot of people that are ultra Star Wars fans, but you you cannot take away the impact the Star Wars has had on the world. So when you are inspired, to do something, and you feel it in your heart, and you feel motivated, at least for yourself. The smallest action you could take to create that into this world and to the universe to bring it into you is writing it down on paper right now pen and paper, pencil and paper, write it down somewhere, you never have to look at it again. Because at least then you recognize the creative force that is flowing through you. And you give it an expression of some sort. And the more often that you allow yourself to capture creative force coming through you more often that you realize that you are active participant in making it exist in the world. more creative, you\'ll find yourself maybe your creation is writing maybe your creation is storytelling, maybe your creation is is verbalizing, support for another recognizing another\'s efforts and letting them know that you see that effort. And that\'s I think, on the flip side of it, simply. I think in my mind, that\'s a creator, recognizing another creator. In my mind, you\'re recognizing it\'s not so much the efforts for them to it is the effort for them to express kind of the truth of who they are. Because you know, that they\'ve had to go through some of the same battles a zoo to express anything at all, they had to get through 99 trenches, they had to climb over 99 fences, they have to eradicate walls, in order within in order

to make even the smallest expression and when you see that And when you see that they\'re trying to trying out, you see that they\'re contributing to the greater whole

love now that you see that, let them know that they are right. That\'s what you recognize them for. You recognize them for the creator that they are the same way that somebody says not mistake, you recognize the divinity within. So I wholeheartedly hope that whatever is flowing through the you\'re able to manifest and by manifesting adult means by simply closing your eyes and willing in that regard can be like closing your eyes saying yes, I will take that next step and willing it being putting your hand into motion. Putting, putting the idea into motion, writing it down, there\'s gonna be a tangible sense that you feel there\'s going to be an emotion that floods your body, there\'s gonna be a sense of accomplishment that you do when when that you feel when you do this. This is you taking control of your destiny, you taking control of your mind, your thoughts. You recognizing yourself as a creator, taking that step is going to I like to say send a signal to the universe. Right that you\'re willing to accept a greater creative charge, right? You start small. It\'s like that damn. It\'s like those old cartoons, a little spring leaks through it, you plug your finger in it. And whammo and after that, like, it\'s, it\'s, it\'s busting through at the seams. So, you know, try that out. See what your thoughts are, you are a creator, as is everybody else around you. And when you recognize that somebody has to climb that mountain, to even to contribute anything at all, it\'s, it\'s kind of you to recognize it. And that will that in itself will fan your own plans like No, what I\'m also encouraged by my own encouragement of others. That a and I see the impact, that it\'s having a See how it\'s making others feel and see how it\'s adding an intervention to your whole. Today, I feel like today, I feel like doing that. And again, you can do that simply by overcoming any doubt that stands in your way by writing it down. By feeling that sense of accomplishment. You don\'t have to share it with anybody. You don\'t have to share with me. The only person that needs to witnesses and feel it is you

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Troy McFadden

Published: Jan. 16, 2022, 1:10 p.m.
Duration: 48 minutes 52 seconds

Troy is a transformational coach who works with the tools and techniques of mindfulness to support others in achieving optimal growth. He works with The Asian Leadership Institute as a corporate coach and also operates his private practice, Wisdom Warrior Coaching.

Connect with Troy here: www.wisdomwarriorcoaching.com and asianleadership.com

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you\'ve questioned so much more than those around you. You\'ve even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited in this process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can\'t quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you, this world, the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don\'t have all the answers, but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another head of spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let\'s get right into today\'s episode

Brandon Handley 0:40
one, hey, there\'s spiritual dope. I am on here today with Troy McFadden. Troy is a transformational coach who works with the tools and techniques of mindfulness to support others and achieving optimal growth. He works with the Asian Leadership Institute as a corporate coach, and also operates his private practice wisdom, where coaching Troy and I are on take to and and a little bit earlier, you know, we he and I met up I love these podcasts, kind of like dating matching sites. And so that\'s how we connected but we have some profile matches. And here we are today. And we\'re just having this conversation. Glad to have you on Troy.

Troy McFadden 1:18
Thank you so much for having me. Absolutely.

Brandon Handley 1:21
Absolutely. And, you know, the idea is, we\'re like, I\'m not sure how familiar are with the idea of the shamans hollow bone, right. But I feel like you know, we\'re, we\'re like these hollow bones where spirit energy just kind of fills us up. And we just act in accordance with universal source as it were right. And in that essence, like today, you\'re on here today delivering a message from Spirit to an end listener that can only get what Troy has to deliver in this moment. What is it that Troy has to deliver to that listener today?

Troy McFadden 1:56
Well, let\'s see what happens. Honestly, Brandon, I don\'t know. But I trust that we\'re going to co create moment to moment. And by the end, there\'ll be at least one prominent theme that will emerge.

Brandon Handley 2:10
Not fantastic, right? We\'ll just we\'ll just kind of let let source guide us as it were, less horse, guys. And so I think that it\'s great. I don\'t run into too many guys, right? Too many male, too many males in the spirituality space. And so I\'m curious kind of what your journey has been like to get into this space was the Moyer and really kind of embrace it. And then how are you leading from spiritual, your spiritual self? And what\'s that like for you?

Troy McFadden 2:42
I love that question. First off, I agree with you, there is not as many men that inhabit this space as there are women. And there\'s a sadness in me about that. And also, it requires, in part, accessing our femininity, regardless of our gender, because there\'s surrender and openness, trust, yielding, allowing, be holding questions that are necessary, as part of the spiritual journey, aren\'t that are necessary in order to be guided?

Brandon Handley 3:18
I like that. But I guess my first question would be, are those are those things that are mutually exclusive to women or femininity? Or are they just things that men haven\'t given themselves? The permission to access and we see it more in feminine, in the feminine,

Troy McFadden 3:37
perhaps both. And in fairness, spirituality in the spiritual journey requires the masculine as well, there needs to be a spark of what you know, what\'s traditionally masculine, right? Risk taking adventure, all of this, ultimately, it\'s a balance a union of the two, that is required. But in my own case, there\'s been a lot of surrendering, there\'s been a lot of taking off of armor. It\'s been painful. It\'s been vulnerable. It\'s been humbling. But ultimately, it connects me more with the earth with natural cycles and rhythms. And it does bring me into a sense of divinity as something that at least for me, is well both masculine and feminine. There\'s something kind of inherently female about it. And it\'s nurture and its protection and its power and its own unique power, this kind of thing.

Brandon Handley 4:31
Children toy, I do not, do not okay. You know, so my wife, I\'ve got a couple kids and there\'s definitely there\'s a power around a mother, right like that you just can\'t get you can\'t mimic it as a male. Right and you really can\'t you won\'t see it in too many other places. So when you say power, I just think I think my wife and you know, just the power of motherhood. And so when you\'re talking about the nurture and protection, that\'s definitely coming to mind. When you talk about, you know, surrender, where do you find that for yourself any and again, before we even go there, like I believe, like you, you found yourself like kind of drawn to spirituality like at a young age, if I recall, right, just from kind of reading a couple of your, your pieces online, and what\'s really made you lean into it, like what\'s drawn you to it, and what makes you stay there.

Troy McFadden 5:29
Ultimately, I think it is the bliss, in part, it\'s the bliss, it\'s the love, it\'s the feeling of connection that comes with certain states of consciousness. And then conversely, it\'s, as the Buddhists would say, it\'s the suffering in life, it just becomes more painful to stay in those states once you\'ve hung out, in, in, in other places. And so this to me is kind of like the the the safety valve or the trap door in nature to assure to assure any, any evolving being that they\'ll start and continue to move towards the light. The

Brandon Handley 6:08
the safety net, and so falling in like this bliss and love in a certain way that you find. And spirituality.

Troy McFadden 6:15
Yes, yes, that\'s absolutely. Okay.

Brandon Handley 6:18
And you\'re you\'re primarily focused in on mindfulness practice, right? Is that kind of what you\'re, you\'re best known for? Would you say?

Troy McFadden 6:29
I would say so. And in that heartfulness, is also included in the Asian traditions. What is generally translated as mind actually includes both mind and heart?

Brandon Handley 6:42
Yeah, yeah. No, I\'m glad you brought that up. And listen to one of your other episodes, he brought up that as well. If if you look at my logo, you\'ll see you know, there\'s nothing I forget which guy\'s got which is a Buddha Jesus and each one of them\'s got like a heart over their head and or their heart. And and if I saw that connection for quite some time, because I\'d heard about it being brought up. And you know, we don\'t have that traditionally, in the West. This this heart mind connection, nor do we have a word for it, in your experience, sounds like you\'ve connected those to yourself. What would you like in that connection to? How would you explain that to somebody that\'s unfamiliar at all with this space?

Troy McFadden 7:28
The connection between heart and head? Is that what the question is a Native American teacher of mine, has characterized the journey from the head to the heart as the longest one you\'ll ever take. Because in modern cultures, etc, we become disassociated with it, we sort of live in this upper top heavy space of the rational mind. Whereas when, in truth, the heart is the center of wisdom always has been seen as such and revered as such through through time. So it\'s a matter of sort of deconstructing the mind. And I think that can only happen are only motivated enough to start that process. Once we\'ve seen its limits. However, we tend to experience that the limits of the rational mind powerful as it is it has limits. And perhaps Then, and only then, are we willing to be brave enough to do what it takes to take that journey to reconnect with the center of our being the center of our wisdom, the heart.

Brandon Handley 8:43
Did you find that to be true for yourself? Would you find out the fact you ran up against a wall for yourself or limit the limitations?

Troy McFadden 8:53
Sure, because we can\'t figure out how to be completely How to be what we are in our entirety with our head. I\'m thinking of the old Einstein quote that we can\'t solve a problem with the same level of consciousness that created it you know, it ultimately involves feeling being sensing embodying incorporating and the mind just That\'s not his job that\'s not its primary job His job is to judge to assess to analyze etc wonderful to be honored a necessary part of being but only only one slice of the pie.

Brandon Handley 9:30
I mean, it\'s funny when you say slice of the pie I\'m also just thinking that\'s the mind job slice and dice analyze, apart, compartmentalize and like put things in certain places categorize it also that you know, it\'s easily accessible for us to be able to, to kind of react but typically when we react we react in like this fear base base. And I don\'t know I\'m not really also connected to my own heart to be frank right. So when when I\'m when you talk about kind of connecting the two are coming from this heart centered approach. Is it from more of a authentic and more vulnerable space seems let\'s talk a little bit about what that looks like.

Troy McFadden 10:12
Yes, it is more authentic, it\'s more authentic and that it\'s more complete. And it\'s more vulnerable. And again, it\'s, it\'s wiser. Because it\'s able to behold the paradoxes of life, you\'re able to feel the beauty and the joy and the love in the world more completely, and are thus more connected to the greater whole. But at the same time, you have to experience the the sadness, the angst, the wounding, the desperation that exists as well. It\'s, it\'s not a one way mirror, you know, you got to be hold it all. And that takes courage takes a certain kind of strength in order to inhabit that place. I don\'t know if I\'m answering your question or

Brandon Handley 11:00
not? Well, it\'s tough, right? It\'s really tough, right? I hear it, and I feel it, and I get it. But you know, I guess on the on the other end, I\'m thinking of the listener right on these sound great, how\'s it gonna benefit? You, you know, how\'s it benefiting you, how\'s it benefit the listener to get themselves into the space?

Troy McFadden 11:23
Well, it\'s the source of, of depth and joy. In life, our emotions add richness and fullness to life. And what is the case for most of us is that we only want to feel the, the pleasurable emotions and we don\'t want to feel the other emotions. And so we keep the door shut completely as a result, or at least partially, and we\'re trying to play the game of only letting some in and only letting or you know, and not allowing others, and it just doesn\'t ultimately work. So living in our heads, in other words, is very limited and limiting. Right. And it\'s kind of this, as you say, this compartmentalize kind of surface dwelling, middle of World way to engage and relate to life. But if you want to really experience life fully, you\'ve got to drop down, down and in, and behold, and be with and accept and allow, and ultimately be grateful for everything that you experience.

Brandon Handley 12:32
When I, I love it, right? When we talk about this dropping down in, and I\'m gonna scroll back up here, because we talked about the journey, the longest journey that you take is the one from your head to your heart. Right? And it sounds like this drop down in size and a lot accept and allow is a couple steps along the pathway. Would you would you say that\'s true? Yes. Would you be able to explain what that might look like for listener that bore myself that hasn\'t made that that journey?

Troy McFadden 13:08
Sure, I\'ll give it a shot. The first step is being with what is accepting that it is exists, that could be discomfort, that could be pleasure, it could be a mix of things, just being with it. Right? Not trying to deny it, not trying to push it away, not trying to automatically disconnect. And in, in that acceptance, there\'s there\'s somewhat of a pause, generally, things at least slow down, if not pause in order to allow for that, allow for the acknowledgement. And then in that pause, there\'s a spaciousness and we can work with that space, we can kind of expand into it a little bit more. So beyond just accepting that it is, you know, and and not immediately applying judgment to it. We can enter into it, right, we can allow, we can allow ourselves to feel it, and our bodies, whatever comes whatever the sensations are. And, and, you know, again, there\'s sort of a process that seems to unfold, it\'s not necessarily a methodical process, and more than one thing can happen at the same time. But ultimately, again, yes, we were present with what is we allow ourselves to experience it, we may even take a sense of curiosity and openness into it and that and that can come with appreciation or lead to appreciation, and ultimately, where this where this leads? Well, there are steps beyond this, but we can access an inherent gratitude that exists underneath all our judgments and all our labels and everything else, just an underlying, inherent gratitude for the experience of being alive. Everything, everything even that Especially that because it brings learning that brings us gifts.

Brandon Handley 15:07
When you talk about gratitude, how would you describe the feeling or the space or being grateful to somebody?

Troy McFadden 15:22
There is a deep appreciation and an awareness that there is a reason behind whatever is occurring, you may well not know why. But there\'s a sense of connection with something greater than ourselves. And a trust in that thing, whatever it is, as the source as source, as something that is providing you with exactly what you need to learn and grow in this moment. That\'s one way I might describe gratitude to someone.

Brandon Handley 16:00
But I\'ll take it only because that\'s exactly like not word for word. You know. So, you know, my gratitude practices, you know, write down or if I\'m in the car, like sometimes I don\'t have enough time to write down my gratitudes in the morning. I\'ll verbalize it, right. But I wanted to really sit this morning with what is gratitude and the way that you described it. Like I said, not word for word, but really close, right, this connection that we feel to source, right, and, and you can just feel it, and the appreciation and the awareness of that just in the moment, everything\'s kind of just the way it\'s supposed to be. Right? And it\'s pretty amazing. And it\'s awe inspiring, all those things. So thank you for that, you know, you\'ve described like I would have, but you never know how somebody is gonna describe it took me and I don\'t know how long it took you. How long do you feel like it took for you to understand what gratitude was and to feel that feeling and to be able to invoke it at will

Troy McFadden 17:04
decades, if not lifetimes?

Brandon Handley 17:07
decades, if not lifetimes. So I, I know that you, you\'ve got to, you\'ve got a singular practice, you\'ve got a group practice, you know, what makes you even want to be a coach, like you see all kinds of things you could be doing out there in the world. But what is it that draws you to this space,

Troy McFadden 17:27
a desire to serve in a very specific way, in a way that affirms the dignity, the sovereignty, the power in everyone else, and everything else. And as a vehicle that, that allows for that to be expressed and received within in a very direct way. I mean, in other words, I could sell coat hangers for a living, and still bring mindfulness and heartfulness and connection and all these elements that I bring as a coach. But in coaching, I\'m able to speak to it, and in direct ways, and in hear from people in direct ways. And ideally, at their best things get into a state of absorption, where things just arise between the coach and the coachee. And things are channeled in, you know, one gets into intuition or even in states beyond that. And some, you know, some magic occurs, which would probably be a less common experience if I was a coat hanger salesman.

Brandon Handley 18:32
Right, right. I mean, you could be I could just imagine that being kind of a fun show, though. Right? The the mystical coat hanger salesman kind of guy traveling around the world. So are you you\'re able to really kind of tap into your own spirituality, intuition, and share that with your clients, or most of your clients. Are they seeking spiritual guidance? And, and, you know, kind of talk to me a little bit about what that looks like, you know, what kind of kind of clients are calling me like you, Troy, I could use the spiritual help. And it sounds a little bit like what

Troy McFadden 19:10
this is my clients aren\'t coming for that reason. Some are and I take great delight in it. Most are coming for more worldly reasons, but when I am able to do is draw on my own sense of connection to spirit and soul, for that matter. So from this maybe broader, more expanded realm, which informs me so that I can, in a sense, bring the light in to people\'s more and I don\'t say this judgmentally but more mundane concerns, perhaps illuminate them to to shine the light on different aspects of this so called problem so that the the coachee can see it from different angles, and they can have their own experience of expanding around it and allowing for, you know, different perspectives. It\'s not up for me, you know, to me to be different Vader have that it is my job to inspire that. In others.

Brandon Handley 20:05
That\'s great. So I mean, think looking kind of for that light within them and help them tap in that for them.

Troy McFadden 20:13
Yes, absolutely. Absolutely.

Brandon Handley 20:15
Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I love I love that. I think that happened to me through my code being coached. And I was like, Oh, I got to do this, too. This is great. You know, this, this is, I mean, why wouldn\'t you want to make people you know, support and encourage them and show them just how great powerful, amazing that they are? Right? And, and you know, that I think that that\'s what\'s great about coaches, and you know what I\'m hearing you say that too. And then, you know, for me the idea of the word coach, right? Sounds like Cokes, right? coaxing the light on somebody else, right? Some coaxing the light out of them, or, you know, coaxing them to their own great anywho Anywho. So, let\'s, let\'s, let\'s keep it moving. Like, what? What would you say? You know, we talked a little bit about, I would actually, I\'d love to hear more about what you feel about. Male spirituality? We don\'t really have that conversation too often on the podcast, but from your space, and where you\'re at? How would you? How would you classify that? What, How\'s it different? And, you know, how do we really inch in? How do we grasp onto our male hood, right?

Troy McFadden 21:30
It may actually be more helpful to think of it as how do we let go into our male hood, because we live in a very hyper masculine culture, the whole culture is like that not is more or less, right could be characterized as that not just men. So there\'s this sense of always had to prove ourselves, and as I said earlier, to be armored to be tough, to be strong to be aggressive, or at the very least assertive, and, and competitive, and all these elements that are typically associated with masculinity. And thus, it\'s very difficult for men having the unique relationship to ego, that that men tend to have to, to let go. And to drop that, or at least be willing to be brave enough, and a new way to explore a different way of being. So for me, it comes with being warm and engaging, and connecting and helping to appease anyone\'s anxieties or concerns when I\'m around. And, you know, at the very least, let them know they\'re safe from me, hopefully, that they\'re safe with me, and that they\'re appreciated and respected. And all of this stuff usually happens in very, very subtle ways. But there\'s an art to it. And to me, it\'s the it\'s the art of fully embodying fully embodying rather, our, our masculinity, our whole rather than just this part as sort of protector and provider and everything else, there\'s also this power and warmth, that that can be part of that, and an inclusion and all of these other elements that are sometimes thought of as as feminine. So yeah, when you really get into this stuff, and you go deep enough, there\'s, there\'s a place of balance, it\'s not androgyny, it\'s something that includes the whole and includes both aspects more fully and completely, so that one can inhabit it. So I present is very male, you know, I\'m like six, three and 220 pounds, and, you know, whatever, but I\'m very soft hearted. And so, you know, it\'s always an art of how, how do I work with this vehicle that I have, in a way that best serves the moment, sometimes I\'m going to be more overtly masculine. Other times, I\'m going to be more more nurturing and caring and overtly feminine. But that\'s, that\'s part of the journey is becoming more fully human, so that we can inhabit a broader realms and be of service with it. Not just self serving, which a lot of men tend to fall into, for whatever reasons.

Brandon Handley 24:09
Sure, sure, not I love it. The, the whole idea of you know, this being armored and having to be tough, aggressive and assertive, you know, not for nothing. Maybe it\'s because I\'m not six, three, but that\'s, but that\'s never really been my own. And I was also raised by, you know, my mother and you know, had more of a feminine, more, more of a feminine, you know, influence than than male. So, it\'s really interesting, because you might feel like you\'re doing doing it wrong as a male if you\'re not trying to be aggressive and assertive, right? And you\'re like, Well, you know what I mean? So, what, when we talk to somebody, and they\'re telling you Well, I\'m just not, I think I should be more aggressive. I need to be more assertive. Do What is your response to that to some other male

Troy McFadden 25:05
and so on the person and it depends on the moment. Some other males do need to work on that, and allow that to come through as part of that balance nuanced, you know, breadth and depth that they draw from. I will I will share with you and the listeners now to that one of the challenges that men can face in our culture or cultures like it, I think America is one of the most extreme of not extreme examples of hyper masculinity is that what arises in other males in particular is sort of a case, there\'s sort of a dominant submission dance, am I going to be the dominant one? Or, or am I going to be the submissive one, and most people want to be the dominant one. So it\'s a matter of like stewarding one\'s ego, like, I\'ll be submissive if you need to be the dominant one. Because on a deeper level, I know that we\'re connected, and I know we\'re okay. And I know where you\'re at. And I know where I\'m at. And also, as a as a very common thing that arises is some kind of homophobia to some degree, like, in other words, if you\'re soft and warm, and caring, and kind, and you take that extra moment to connect, you know, within, you know, some women have this as well, it\'s like then, and with that, then, of course, inherently is fear. Oh, oh, okay. You know, and all these stories come up about it. I don\'t identify that way. But I\'ve certainly felt the the phobia and the and the resentment and the resistance and the judgment, that I think a lot of people that identify as homosexual or something related to that experience. But that\'s just part of the, the price you pay as it were, to bring your own light, and your own progressive balanced healthy, masculine energy into the world, it will encounter resistance, you\'re going to encounter resistance anyway, as a male. So you might as well be working on something, you know, grander.

Brandon Handley 27:06
I love, I love the idea that that you brought up to about like, this need to, for many males to be the in the dominant role. And, and to do that dance, whereas you know, if you can just understand, you know, spend my experience, right, where if you\'re dealing with somebody who really feels like they need to be the dominant one, you\'re like, Alright, cool, man. You\'re it. Let\'s just move forward. Like, let\'s just what are we what are we trying to do here, right, we go back to the beginning of our conversation, we talked about CO creating, we could spend a lot more time co creating and putting things together together, if we just support each other, and if you got to be if you got to be the dominant one, so that we can get shit done. Let\'s do it. Like I don\'t that\'s cool. Cool with me. Cool with me. One of the things that I would say that I\'ve witnessed so and again, just very curious about your experience, is there can be like an over rotation from any type of like, you know, being I guess, hyper male, into like, hyper feminine as a male and trying to strike that balance. How do you help? How do you help others do that?

Troy McFadden 28:14
I\'m glad you brought that point up, because it is another parallel of the path as it were. So when you first start experimenting with, you know, moving beyond what you might feel attached to stuck in what you\'ve previously identified with, perhaps exclusively, you\'re going to err on the side of, you know, you know, either shifting back into that hyper masculine role, or, you know, in your experimentation, perhaps you resist to try something else out to kind of go into this overly feminine role. And then that comes with its own issues, you know, women tend to want us to inhabit certain elements of masculinity for the sake of all just as the world wants and needs women to inhabit certain aspects that, you know, that they tend to bring into the world. And I don\'t want to, you know, be exclusive here and I\'m including, there\'s a spectrum of course, but just for ease of

Brandon Handley 29:05
working in generalities here at a Troy It\'s okay. Sorry, we\'re not singling anybody out.

Troy McFadden 29:12
Right. Exactly. And we\'re including everyone,

Brandon Handley 29:14
everybody\'s included. That\'s right. That\'s right. And I love that you brought that up too Right? Because going back to just western male dominant male and coming from male and female right this idea of competition the females still have a concept of what a proper male should be right and again, you\'re not kind of acting in accordance to that there could be this kind of like this off putting presence that you bring where to where you said earlier what I really liked it that you want that you want somebody anybody to to feel safe around you right or at least you know, safe from and or with you. Right And and I think that there can be some times that if you don\'t bring like this, this extra mail with you like extra than theirs, they get like a quizzical look.

Troy McFadden 30:09
Yes, yes, that\'s right. And you know, women have absorbed a lot of the the lies and the myths etc, in our society just as men have about what men are supposed to be. And while they tend to broad strokes here where they tend to be much more open and accepting and allowing, there is this, you know, belief that you are a man and thus you are like this and you\'re expected to behave in certain ways. And if you\'re not behaving like like that, you\'re doing something a typical, even if it\'s not overtly aggressive or threatening or something, it\'s it is it\'s, it\'s, it\'s, it\'s a it inspires a quizzical look, and it kind of an internal, you know, a lack of cognitive dissonance, I guess, and of women. And again, it\'s all part of like this art of life, you know, how can I show up completely and fully and, and then respond to the moment with whatever it needs, however, I best can. It takes work. And I think that\'s one of the reasons men are where they\'re at. Because depending on where you\'re at, in the hierarchy, if we look at things like that, especially if you\'re, you know, a white male, affluent, whatever, you\'re kind of at the top of the pyramid on one level. And so you can just unconsciously bulldoze your way through. But any everyone else, you know, anyone else who\'s not in that category doesn\'t have that luxury. But if you are that, and then and then you\'re you\'re you\'re saying, Look, we\'re all on this pyramid together, we\'re all part of it. And there is no hierarchy. Well, people aren\'t used to that. They don\'t necessarily know what to do with it. Men, women and other. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 31:47
you\'re right, right. I happen to spend a fair amount of time with, you know, the white affluent male, and there\'s this tendency to, um, just kind of say, be obtuse, right, and just kind of, really, I don\'t know if gross negligence is the word, but it\'s close enough that I like,

Troy McFadden 32:09
the term in this context, right, just

Brandon Handley 32:11
kind of a sense of self. And it\'s very interesting. But I get what you\'re, I get where you\'re at. And I appreciate this conversation. Because again, we don\'t we don\'t get to have that. I don\'t think I don\'t think males are having this conversation too often. And if they\'re having this conversation is generally not and some type of public forum that\'s easily accessible for other guys come out and be like, wow, you know, I\'d like to, I don\'t know, find my artwork, right, like the tin man. Right? Yes. So how are we able, you know, to open ourselves up, open our hearts up and live in a heart centered way in today\'s world?

Troy McFadden 32:57
What a question. First off, I just want to acknowledge what you were saying, you know, a man could, in the safety of his own home, or, you know, privately listen to something like this. And that\'s part of perhaps the service that we\'re, we\'re offering today. And CO creating is that, hey, we\'re relating like this. So maybe you can relate like this, at least sometimes with some people. It, it takes again, I\'ve said this before, but it takes a certain kind of courage, a certain kind of bravery and a certain kind of strength to be willing to live in the heart and from the heart. And women in general tend to be better at it. So one thing we can do, as we start down the path or we you know, expand on these aspects of ourselves is to look to the women in our lives as examples. And perhaps as a source of guidance. Women are generally only to a too happy to help men get more in touch with their hearts. And, and it can involve really simple things, it might actually involve physically touching your heart at times, as you\'re expressing yourself, or as you\'re receiving something. I\'ve lived in Bali quite a bit of my life, and they have a they have a habit as they greet each other to touch their heart briefly as a way to stimulate it and connect. I mean, it\'s a beautiful ritual, very out of place in many cultures, but it\'s something that that has stuck with me. And I\'m sure it comes across as odd on occasion, but it it at least it\'s not intimidating. And it might even inspire curiosity and it gets me in touch with my heart and I can actually feel my heart energy in my hand. And it\'s just a way to make sure that I\'m relating on that level. So a bit of an odd habit, perhaps but something simple like that, to remind us to come from here, rather than appear

Brandon Handley 35:02
has definitely sounds great. I, if I\'m, you know, sounds a little bit like, I\'m sure you know, at the Heart Math Institute, right? I think that they talk a little bit about doing something similar, you can do that just to get that connection. But that sounds great. So just kind of pause yourself. And just remind yourself by touching your heart that you\'re coming from the heart, right? And so you\'re feeling that sensation, and just reminding yourself that that\'s where you\'re trying to come from. Right. So I love that guidance, you have any other type of guidance? Well, you know, I\'m gonna wind it back a second to because you said, I\'m a big fan of the word courage. Are you a fan of David Hawkins, you\'re familiar with the the consciousness map, map of consciousness with David Hawkins?

Troy McFadden 35:46
The name is familiar. I\'m not familiar with the map.

Brandon Handley 35:50
All right, well, I mean, so the gist of it is, so in the map, you know, you start in like, the lower rungs of consciousness was just gonna be fear and shame and grief, and like all these other pieces, and they\'re, they\'re logarithmic scales, and goes all the way up to, you know, 1000 1000s, basically, Christ consciousness, right? With love being 700. But at 200 is his courage and his, the courage is that tilting point, where you come out of you come out of being afraid, you come out of your place of fear, or you step into a dream, or you step into something for the first time for yourself that you\'re living into it. And it\'s courage is that tipping point. So that\'s why I bring it up. I was curious if you were familiar, would you say it\'s, would you say that that\'s true, from your experience, that courage is the tipping point into, I don\'t know, leaning towards bliss, or following your bliss or opening your heart even. I would have to reflect

Troy McFadden 36:48
on that for a while to say if it\'s the tipping point or not, but it\'s certainly an important necessary aspect of the journey. And it\'s indicative of an opening up a willingness to try something else. So in that sense, it may well be. And, you know, men tend to talk about and like this, you know, this sense of risk taking and adventure and all of this kind of thing. So the notation that I\'m going to extend now is like, Okay, well, how about risking being vulnerable? How about risking opening your heart? How about risking the expression of your genuine, deepest feelings. And in that way, it might inspire that that male part of us that you know, wants to take risks or whatever and apply it in, in a new context? How willing are you to drop the need to feel power in order to experience perhaps even greater power, or a different kind of strength, as I referred to it earlier than you\'ve ever known.

Brandon Handley 37:55
And it is true. When you talk about vulnerability, though, you know, for a while, thanks, Brene, brown, you know, vulnerability was, you know, the, this kind of this catch all, and a lot of people were trying to leverage it, at least in the social media space, as this kind of like, showcasing their vulnerability, which to me is, you know, now you\'re just putting on a show and staging something. And then there\'s also like this other I think I think she actually talks about in her book is like, you\'re not just like verbal diarrhea on top of somebody, how would you have put vulnerability in the con? What would an example be for somebody just kind of know what volubility might look like or feel like

Troy McFadden 38:41
some of the outer edges of working with it to start with it might involve simply not needing to be right. Perhaps expressing a perspective or opinion as just that, rather than, you know, my way or the highway are this kind of like demanding way that sort of, you\'re pushing things through in that there\'s a certain amount of vulnerability and that you\'re open to being wrong, you\'re open to some other way being the best way forward. So that\'s, you know, one entry point, one way to start. It\'s an extreme expression of vulnerability to to just, you know, it\'s an erotic to just rip yourself open and, you know, go until all the imbalances or whatever, there\'s discernment needs to be applied to it. And there is a time and a place to be self protective and to protect others. But walking through life as a warrior involves being open and trusting that you\'ll respond as need be in the moment, knowing that you have resources to draw from on a spiritual level. It\'s quite different than being a soldier who is armored, who is into an us versus them mentality who travels heavy who looks at the world with fear as Place to to be braced against a warrior can walk with true strength, proudly, openly with focus and with a gentleness.

Brandon Handley 40:10
I really like that a discernment distinction between the two. So thanks for thanks for sharing that the difference between a lawyer and a soldier, right? Never heard kind of described that way before. And I appreciate it. For sure. So, I\'m definitely like to get to this one part as I always kind of think of, of what we do here also as spiritual speed dating Troy, right, somebody is tuning in for like, maybe a half hour an hour, and they\'re just looking for their next spiritual date. And I don\'t know about you, but like, look, I definitely go through I cycle through different people. And it tends to be like a 90 day, 90 days, give or take, right where I\'m like, Okay, I need something, I need something new. And there\'s so much content available. Right. So Troy, bachelor, spiritual bachelor number one question for you would be, what are we also afraid of

Troy McFadden 41:10
fear itself on the unknown, our true natures. The power and connection that comes with that, and the horror at realizing that we have chosen to be separate for as long as we have.

Brandon Handley 41:30
Wow. It\'s really amazing when you reconnect with yourself, right? And to your point, the horror of realizing how long you have let that go. How to you know, it\'s real similar to get into the heart. What is like something that you, you know, alright, like, I still recall, when I kind of fell into this space myself, and I was at a dad\'s convention and talking to other dads, and I was like, wow, you know, how are you stepping into your greatness? How you, you know, how are you expressing that? They\'re like, Whoa, did a real push back there, right? Like, oh, whoa, whoa, I\'m not great, right? Like, Well, I\'m not talking about like, you know, go out and fly around, or do all these other things. Like, you just like, have this inherent internal greatness, it just feels amazing. You just have access to it whenever you want, you can apply it and so many awesome places. They don\'t even want it. Right. So how do you know how to help guide somebody into that space? Or how do you help them just kind of become aware of that without saying, hey, you know, I\'m gonna tap into your greatness today. Troy here, tapping into your greatness. Right. So how does that happen? What do you what do you like to do with that space?

Troy McFadden 42:55
question I asked that\'s very closely related to this. Because for most people, and for most men, when they get into a sense of like, owning their greatness, it comes in in an egoic way. And it\'s puffed up, and it\'s artificial. And the flip side of that is self doubt. So one, one question that I find myself asking is, imagine what you have to deny. In order to believe you\'re not worthy. Imagine, imagine the spirit, the power of the universe that you are, imagine how much you have to turn away from how much just connection is involved. To explore the idea to behold the idea to be attached to the idea the belief that you\'re not worthy, and to therefore have to compensate for it in all kinds of unhealthy ways. That\'s that\'s,

Brandon Handley 44:03
that\'s powerful, right? I mean, I\'m over here with some kind of Goosebumps. I\'m like, even trying to put myself in that separation of sentence base. It\'s like it feels helpless, right to even try and put yourself into that space. You know, why wouldn\'t again, why would I want to try and access that I\'m, I\'m one of the right like I you know, don\'t try and take something away. That\'s innate. I mean, that\'s basically what you\'re doing. I don\'t know if you\'re watching or if you\'ve ever read the series. That\'s, we\'ll time that\'s on right now on Amazon. Did you ever read that? Did you read the series?

Troy McFadden 44:38
I didn\'t read the series, but I\'ve watched the first couple of episodes.

Brandon Handley 44:42
Okay, well, I\'m in one of the episodes I don\'t think they talked about it just yet the day stilled. They what\'s called stilling, STI ll ing the mail wizard. And what that does is it cuts that person All from source that they\'ve finally, you know, they. And it\'s really talks about what you just said here, right? Like, if you cut yourself off, if you\'ve taught source and if you\'ve been a part of it, and you\'ve recognized this within, there\'s really, it doesn\'t go anywhere else, it\'s always there. And to cut that off and never be able to access that again. You\'ll have a deep look into it in the series, but that\'s enough to make you mad. Right?

Troy McFadden 45:28
Yes, among other things, there\'s an enormous ignorance associated with it. And we have to own that and then the sadness of, of our predicament, as it were. And again, it comes with some very real vulnerability. And, and yet, in doing that work can be holding it. You can open into

Brandon Handley 45:53
unimagined realms. There\'s two storage just I love it. One last one for you. Bachelor spiritual bachelor number one. Um, what is your one wish for the world Troy?

Troy McFadden 46:07
We wake up, and that humans in particular inhabit, what is their potential destiny, if not the destiny that they\'re meant for, which is to be noble stewards of the entire planet? Living things, nonliving things seemingly nonliving things, all of it. That\'s my deepest, most heartfelt wish for the world. That\'s beautiful. Troy.

Brandon Handley 46:38
Do you see us headed in that direction? Do you feel like we\'re making a change? In our time right now? Are you seeing it happen before your eyes?

Troy McFadden 46:48
I don\'t know. I am open to the possible reality that it is happening. Because whether we change or don\'t, we we\'re going to enter into this bottleneck period. It\'s either going to close off and that\'s the end of the chapter. Or we\'re going to come out of it, we\'re going to emerge from it having been seasoned, forged, wiser, and just better.

Brandon Handley 47:19
All I can think of as a cast iron skillets Troy, so we\'re going to come out at least at least seasons and wiser. Troy, thank you so much for being on today who like Who\'s your ideal customer who should be reaching out to you.

Troy McFadden 47:35
Someone who is open to their own development, their own growth and development. Whether they see that in a spiritual light or not, is less important than a genuine desire to change, to expand to grow, but ultimately, just to become more of what they already are.

Brandon Handley 47:54
I said Where Where should we send them to find you?

Troy McFadden 48:01
You can find me at www dot Wisdom Warrior coaching.com That\'s probably the best place to contact me.

Brandon Handley 48:09
For I want to say thanks for stopping on today. Thanks for we worked we worked through our technical difficulties and and we found our footing and we made it all the way to the end. Thank you so much for joining today.

Troy McFadden 48:18
Thank you very much, Brandon.

Unknown Speaker 48:21
Really hope you enjoyed this episode of the spiritual dove podcast. Stay connected with us directly through spiritual dove co you can also join the discussion on Facebook, spiritual dough and Instagram and spiritual underscore dough. If you would like to speak with us, send us an email through Brandon at spiritual dove.co And as always, thank you for cultivating your mindset and creating a better reality. This includes the most thought provoking part of your day. Don\'t forget to like and subscribe to stay fully up to date. Until next time, be kind to yourself and trust your intuition

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Finding your State of Flow

Published: Jan. 12, 2022, 1:52 p.m.
Duration: 10 minutes 58 seconds

When people think of the idea of flow, they usually think about it in reference to an athlete. It is that feeling that comes when you are so immersed in what you\'re doing and time seems to stand still. They feel like they can see and do everything without effort and it feels like they don\'t want to stop.

Brandon Handley 0:01
What is going on spiritual dope been a minute, since we

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tried to make them like do I say come at them live and we never come at you live.

Brandon Handley 0:14
It\'s been a minute though, since we have hopped on two podcasts and done a solo. It\'s been a moment since we\'ve done that. So coming out of my little spiritual practice, always, not always, but I tend to on Instagram just do a little posta a mini reel of coming out of Brazilian jujitsu. And I tagged it as spiritual, spiritual, dope, spirituality, and BJJ. Because that\'s where I\'m able to go into and get into a state of flow. A state of everything kind of dissolves and goes away for a little bit. Because what happens in life in general? And this is why meditation and breath work is so vital, is that we get caught up in our thoughts. We get caught up. I know I didn\'t look I saw speaking first, Prof speaking as me, you know, I know that I get caught up in my thoughts. I get caught up in what\'s what\'s the next right move to do? What\'s the next right thing to do? I get caught up in my fears, I get caught up in anxiety, I get caught up in all that shit. Okay, well, I get caught up in, you know, being happy and find enjoys? Well, unfortunately, I would have to say that more of my time is spent in, in I\'m not in that space. Right as often is I work to get into that space and find myself in that space. The reality of it is, is that I\'ve got a family, I\'ve got job, I\'ve got got these call material responsibilities. And you know, there are some things that I need to at least assert influence over. If I\'m not able to control it, what can I influence, and it\'s whatever it is that I\'m influencing in my daily life, it\'s my job, it\'s, again, my household. That that\'s the control that I exert is the influence and sometimes the expectation of that influence is not what I would have liked it to have been. And that\'s where we can find ourselves. That\'s where we find ourselves. And that\'s where I find myself being frustrated. That\'s where I find myself, you know, asking myself, What could I have done differently? What needs to change? How do I, how do I go about this differently? I don\'t do as much of this is something that I used to do. I don\'t do is once about like, what, what why don\'t they get it? You know, I don\'t I don\'t do that? I don\'t I don\'t ask what should change about them anymore. So much. And that\'s not 100% of time, that\'s a greater percent of time. Because when when we do that, when I do that, I\'m giving the other person, people these other things in my life, the ability to kind of control me, right? So what I need to recognize is, what is it? How do I need to approach this differently so that I might be able to get my point across because when I realized that I\'m not getting my point across and in something in a dialogue, it\'s not them, it\'s me, I\'m not understanding my audience. I\'m not understanding the words that they use, I\'m not understanding their approach. So I\'m not adapting properly, and I\'m not creating communication in a way that they would like to be communicated to. So I\'ve got to look inside, I\'ve got to look at myself and I\'ve got to understand, Okay, well, what do I know about this person and how can I make that adjustment? So those are some areas that I can influence and those are those are the things that I\'m gonna control those The things I\'m thinking about, right, those are things that my mind is just like, my mind is like a maelstrom, all these things coming in and flying around, you know, I don\'t duck fast enough to not get hit by all these thoughts that just occur.

So when I talk about it being BJP, my spiritual practice, I\'ve got a lot, I\'ve got plenty of those thoughts, I\'ve got plenty of the thoughts that I do have are immediately reactionary or proactive. In terms of how do I work this person, their body and the role. Fair amount of it, though at this point has become subconscious is simply built in. At this point, it\'s just the same as walking or riding a bike. After a certain period of time, you just kind of get into this state of flow, your body knows what to do. You still got some thinking to do, but you\'re in a state of flow, you\'re in a state of, of letting your body do what it\'s supposed to do, you\'re in a state of the mind is the mind is silent, the mind is gone for a little bit, because you\'re just in a state of, of kind of knowing what to do, or at least knowing where you are. And there\'s a there\'s a stillness, as as often as it looks like, and I\'m sure that if you\'ve ever watched somebody do a BJJ Brazilian Jiu Jitsu roll. It looks like a lots going on. It looks like a lot going on. But I would say that it\'s not too different than just just like a dandelion see kind of flowing in the wind. Right? It\'s, it\'s the deal, the person I are, we\'re kind of locked. One of us is to the dandelion seeds, and the other ones the breeze. And that\'s really what\'s happening. And, you know, we\'re in this state of flow. As, as Bruce Lee said, you know, kind of be like water, and water. It flows it, it adapts to its surroundings. It can transform and still be water, it can be ice, it can be gas, it can be, you know, water itself. And so when you\'re when you\'re doing your roles, and you\'re finding yourself and you find yourself in that state of flow that\'s being in my mind, that\'s, that\'s your connection to Source, you\'ve got a stillness about you. That\'s means to me that all the things your body, mind and soul are locked in, you\'re in lockstep, here. You\'re doing, you\'re doing your boy band dance together, everybody\'s just doing everything\'s just doing exactly what it\'s supposed to be doing. And it looks and feels good doesn\'t, it doesn\'t really matter how it looks, it just feels good. And so where can you find that? For yourself? Where is practice, maybe it\'s drawing. And then another place for me, it\'s when I\'m cooking. It\'s in a place where I find it most often, in a place where I\'m trying to create something. That\'s what I think about when I\'m making a meal and creating I\'m involved with it, there\'s, there\'s an intent, there\'s love going into it. There\'s who it\'s going to serve as all the things. And in the creation process. I find myself in a state of flow. So where do you find yourself in the state, so that you are connected. And this is like where you this is a place where you can find your joy and your kind of imminent fulfillment. of kind of like that\'s the state of being that in my mind, you were sent here to be in the state of flow, the state of connectedness, this eternal state, where time dissolves and everything outside of, of you, dissolves. And like Master Oogway Kung Fu Panda, you find yourself in a state of inner peace. I\'d love to hear back from you. Where your state of flow is how you find your state of flow? You know,

and maybe, you know, I\'d love to hear back from you, if this has inspired you today to go find that you don\'t need to be in it for a long period of time, you can find yourself in the state of flow for five or 10 minutes in a day. Then you will your your entire day will be shifted your physiology, your body chemistry, your paint your brain, everything\'s going to be shifted as you enter this state and you\'ll feel a wholeness and I want to hear whether or not you got into that stay. I want to hear within that as far as you to get into that. Or just even if you don\'t have the time today, what is it that gets you that state

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Ann Hince

Published: Jan. 9, 2022, 2:22 p.m.
Duration: 49 minutes 58 seconds

Ann Hince stopped over on the Spiritual Dope Podcast and had quite a bit to say!

About Ann:

I am just like many other people. Just like you perhaps? I had a childhood with plenty of trauma and dysfunction. I had PTSD into my 30s, the result of two alcoholic parents. I became a software engineer because it was so comforting to know that logic could work in part of my life, even though it never seemed to work in my chaotic life as a child. In my 30s and 40s I was afforded the luxury of being a stay-at-home mom to my two boys. Realizing how traumatized I still was when my boys were young, I set out to become the calm mom I wanted to be.\\xa0I changed. Things changed. Life changed. I had no idea where I was heading, I just continued to do \\u201cmy release work\\u201d which is what I called it

Connect with Ann here: https://annhince.com/

Ann Hince Podcast Blog

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you\'ve questioned so much more than those around you. You\'ve even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited in this process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can\'t quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you, this world, the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don\'t have all the answers, but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another head of spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let\'s get right into today\'s episode.

Brandon Handley 0:41
Hey, there\'s spiritual dope I\'m on here today with and hence, when n was 19, she woke up one morning to find her mother dead in her bathroom. 20 years later, the tears and that trauma were still just under the surface and found a simple technique that helps her release these emotions. But she went further and now can put her awareness inside her body, which she calls insight or in Word sight. And it\'s found that seeking out our truth, what we truly feel and accepting those feelings is the key to inner peace. And thanks for hopping on today. Let\'s I mean, I mean, I know it sounds dark, but I think we end up in a good place. Absolutely. Yes. Fantastic. Fantastic. And and, you know, thanks for checking out we were talking a little bit here earlier, you checked out a couple of podcasts, you know that like to start us off with the whole idea that we are we\'re conduits for Source Energy, right? There\'s somebody that\'s listening to this podcast today, that\'s going to pick up a message that can only be delivered by you through you from source energy today. What is that message that\'s coming through today?

ann hince 1:46
A message is that we have so much power inside of us, though, that we\'re not aware of until we get there.

Brandon Handley 1:54
What when you say power? What are you talking about? Like I can lift up a car, I can shoot laser beams out of my eyes? What\'s happening? Where are we at?

ann hince 2:02
Right? Well, I mean, I\'ve got to the place where I can put my awareness inside, I can hold my attention, my focused attention on tension stored in the connective tissue, and it releases. So at this point, I\'ve got these X rays that show that I had shifted the whole structure of my skull, but possibly not the whole structure, but a good amount of it right, they\'ve actually the bones have actually shifted. So my eye sockets have aligned my jaw, which was way off to the side is now in the center. Mostly, my neck has straighten, they have scoliosis, so it\'s straightening my whole body is and talking. And if my tooth roots are grown, so if I can do that, just with focused awareness with no physical manipulation of any kind, then we have a lot of power within us.

Brandon Handley 2:48
sounds super impressive to be sure. I mean, it sounds very Allah Joe Dispenza. Right. Sounds sounds similar that would would you attribute what you\'ve done, wholly to an internal awareness? Or would you say that there\'s diet and anything else that plays into what you\'ve done? What would you distribute it to?

ann hince 3:07
This has been an expansion of awareness from being not aware of anything, right? I have so much resistance inside of me when I started this work. I didn\'t even know how I felt right. If someone asked me, How are you doing today, and I would always say, I\'m fine. Because I didn\'t want to look inside, I had resistance to actually looking inside. So when I found this technique, which is called EFT, it\'s very well known 1000s of videos about it online. It\'s short for emotional freedom technique was the first thing that really felt like it worked for me, like, it just changed me. I was at a doctor\'s appointment. And he asked me, he recognized that I was more stressed than they should be because I was just a stay at home mom with two young boys, I shouldn\'t have been that stressed. But he recognized that. And he asked me how stressed I was. And I said it was an eight out of 10. And I knew immediately it was those tears that were still just under the surface from finding my mother 20 years earlier. And he used this technique on with with me for about 15 minutes. And I walked away from that appointment, being able to tell the story of her death to myself, without any emotion. And it just was such a huge change that I knew something significant had happened. So I learned how to use it. And I started using it and that expanded my awareness. I mean, I didn\'t even know what that term really meant at the beginning. You know, we use it a lot, but have a deep awareness of what awareness means at this point. And we can get deeper and deeper. So to begin with, I was only aware at the level of words. I knew what it happens, but I didn\'t know how I felt about what had happened. And then I became aware of the emotions, the feelings around what happened. And then I became aware of the physical sensations underneath the feelings. So like we might say, you know, we might say we\'re angry, but that anger is actually Your set of physical sensations, right, we might have tension in our jaw and in our fists, and maybe our solar plexus, and we call that anger. But you can actually become aware of the physical sensations. And then I found another technique I, like, I worked on worked with another technique that I call feeling your feelings and actually became aware at a deeper level. So I could actually then hold my awareness inside my physical body, which I\'d never heard of before. So, you know, I felt like I was doing something. It was just part of the path. I didn\'t quite know what I was doing. But I just kept doing it and just released more and more deeper and deep attention.

Brandon Handley 5:43
So it\'s funny, right? When you said, we use the word awareness a lot. And to your point, the way that you\'re using it, isn\'t this external awareness? I know, this is my history, as my mother would always talk about this when I was growing up. Like, like you said, earlier, I was born in San Francisco, late 70s. I mean, you couldn\'t really dodged that bullet of having somebody that probably talked a little bit about this, you know, high vibration, energy and awareness. And I always like what I\'m, I\'m totally aware, I didn\'t hit this wall. I didn\'t do this, what do you need me to be aware of goodness gracious. And of course, you know, 40 years later, give or take, I\'m like, Oh, got it. Check. Right, I\'m just, it\'s a totally different sensation, a totally different meaning. But I\'d love to hear what you mean, when you say awareness, just so that somebody else\'s. And here\'s your interpretation of that. Sure.

ann hince 6:40
It\'s what we are aware of. So I have a good example of this before COVID, I used to have a group and we would meet weekly, and the beginning of the group would all sit in a circle, and close your eyes, and I would play a series of chimes. And everyone was just supposed to listen. And at the end, everyone would open their eyes, and they would say their experience. So the people who had the least awareness would just hear the chains with their ears. Other people would hear the chains with the ears, but also feel that the vibrations, the sound vibrations inside part of their body. And then at the other end of the spectrum, people would feel those sensations deep inside and throughout their body. And there\'s different levels of awareness. So once you know that, then the people who only hear the sounds with their ears, they know there\'s another level of awareness that they can attain. And the people on the other end, who already have that depth of awareness can then understand that there are people who don\'t have that awareness, right. So we, we all live in this world with a different level of awareness. And just with sounds, but it\'s, you know, it\'s also with subjects, right? If you\'re, if we\'re really emotional about some subject, and there\'s many subjects around these days, right, just think about abortion, or race or vaccines, any of those things. We\'re emotional around it. And we often then can\'t step back into awareness around it, we get stuck in that emotion. But something that we\'re not emotionally attached to, we can actually stand back and say, Okay, I know why this is happening, I can see the bigger picture. So that\'s from a place of more awareness. So the awareness now that I developed on the inside actually reflects to the outside. So you know, that phrase as within so without, it\'s absolutely true. So the awareness you\'re talking about from the 70s? That is just the external awareness?

Brandon Handley 8:44
Well, no, no, no, the document in the 70s. Right, from exactly the internal she meant the internal awareness you already had, right? Me I didn\'t, I was still I was still, you know, like, again, I was like, God, just don\'t pump it on the wall. I got it. I\'m good. She\'s totally aware. And you know that, but that\'s but I think, you know, that\'s our western culture and immediate upbringing, a lot of us never advanced past that into this internal awareness that you\'re talking about. And we continue to believe that it\'s these external things that we\'re seeing that create what we feel on the inside, right? You talked a little bit too about, you know, the feeling our field, I love how to you grouped the physical sensations to the feeling. I\'ve never heard that done before. I always think about definitely different lines of our way of thinking into subsets of like code and objects, but you\'ve taken these different feelings like ooh, I\'m clenched up and my guts all tight and all of a sudden, that\'s, that\'s anger. Right and being able to do that, so I think that\'s awesome. And and being able to feel your feelings. This is I think I listened to yours earlier. It took you a while to feel feelings? And you know, I don\'t know if you knew like prior to finding your your mother dead, right? Did you feel feelings? And then you had that trauma and then just kind of shut down? No. And then reestablish, you know, connection with your feelings. years later is that kind of what happened

ann hince 10:20
I had enough trouble i Both my parents were alcoholics. So, you know, I walked on eggshells, but for many, many years in childhood, so I was well shut down by that point already guess. So when I started to try and learn how to feel my feelings like it was, it was foreign to me, because I had suppressed them for decades. And I think most of us have, maybe not all of us, but I certainly had. So to actually try and get in touch with those feelings and allow them to be there because they would want to hide, right? The feelings, the physical sensations would want to disappear. They didn\'t want me seeing them on any level. So

Brandon Handley 10:57
I get 100% familiar, right? The whole idea of, of just not even being able to tell somebody what you\'re feeling. Or to know that you want to feel something else. That What\'s your feeling? As long as you\'re not feeling upset, and as long as you\'re not feeling mad, then you must be feeling okay. Right. And there\'s a whole bunch of stuff in between that, that that I think that we shut off from and we were taught to do that, I guess kind of growing up. Right? Good and bad. I mean, I\'ve witnessed it, I\'ve actually accidentally done it to my own child, right, where, you know, tell him not to laugh. I think at a dinner table like once for like, it was dinner, I forget what was going on. But you know, this is like, alright, buddy, there\'s a time and a place. And like, years later, I would find him like trying to hold back. Like why why like holding back your laughter because we told me when I was five that I wasn\'t supposed to laugh. I was like, I didn\'t mean forever. Right. But that\'s what we take it as children, we lock this, we lock this emotion in this time, and this place and what we were heard, and we lock that in for the rest of our lives. And my guess is, you know, that\'s similar to what you did you have to kind of retrace all your steps and rediscover your feelings. You want to talk a little bit about what that was like, for you? Sure.

ann hince 12:13
Um, yeah, you\'re peeling it back layer by layer. And it\'s, you know, EFT is a great tool to begin with, it\'s so easy to learn. And it\'s very powerful. And what you\'re doing is you\'re totally finding your truth in the moment. And, you know, like we just said, I was talking more about the physical, but even on the words, the emotions, like, it\'s hard to find your truth, because you don\'t, it doesn\'t want to be seen. So the EFT, which is where you\'re just tapping on the Enter meridian points, as you\'re talking through things, it just allows the energy to dissipate out of the body. And then the truth becomes easier to see. So that\'s kind of the expansion of the awareness. And as I started to do it, and went through all my went through all my childhood traumas that I could remember, I just tapped through them all one each day. And I found my mind becoming quiet, which was, that was really my goal. My goal was in a peace because I was I was very reactionary, and I was my mind was busy all the time. And I just wanted some relief from it. So I found my mind becoming quiet. And at that point, I realized that the words that I had been replaying in my mind, the ones I\'ve been criticizing myself, and judging other people, those have been my dad\'s words that I had programmed in myself in childhood. And I would just replay them over and over again. But I couldn\'t see that until they were gone out of my mind, and at that point, actually felt like I was living in a different reality, like, I go outside, and it just felt different. Because my mind was different. So it\'s just been a progression from there. It\'s pretty cool.

Brandon Handley 13:51
Would you say that it was kind of like, a releasing a weight, and you kind of like a experience of freedom?

ann hince 13:58
Absolutely. I mean, it\'s part of the enlightenment process. I believe it is an enlightenment process, both in terms of releasing weights that we\'ve been carrying around the baggage we\'ve been carrying around. But also now that I can actually send something inside I see that underneath the darkness, there is light, and it\'s it\'s there. So yeah,

Brandon Handley 14:20
no, for for sure. Now, when you say, you know the energy dissipates out of the body. Where\'s it going in? What\'s happening with this energy? How\'s it you know, how\'s it dissipate on if you want to show an example of the EFT? I know they\'ve seen it done different ways. But what\'s happening when you\'re releasing this energy? Well, so

ann hince 14:40
that\'s an interesting no one\'s asked me that question before. I\'m a I\'m not entirely sure where it goes. It\'s just disappearing into the into the universe, but I know before that it is stored in there. Well, I believe the connective tissue of the body which I believe is where our soul resides, and it has a electric Got components to it in the fashio of the connective tissue. And the tension is just stored in there. And as we tap, we\'re tapping on the inter meridian points in the body, it somehow creates an energetic interrupt into what\'s already stored in the body and it releases that energy that don\'t quite know how it works. I can feel when I\'m when I\'m not doing when I\'m doing more the feeling the feelings are actually going inside now and holding my awareness on the tension. It just dissipates. It just lets go. I mean, at this point, I\'m working with the connective tissue directly so I can actually feel its release, and I can hear it release with my that is just a deeper level of what the FT is doing. So it\'s dissipating,

Brandon Handley 15:46
though. I mean, hey, look, that\'s fantastic, right? We don\'t always I think that there\'s always this, this desire to demystify the mystical. And sometimes I\'m cool with like, it\'s, it\'s like, sometimes let it go. Like, if it works for you. Fantastic. It works for others. Awesome. I don\'t really care. You know, in the end, how it works, if we can replicate it, and it sounds like you\'re able to teach this to others, and you\'ve learned it yourself, and you\'ve replicated it for yourself, then it works. That\'s I mean, I think that\'s, that\'s all really anybody needs to know, for the most part, right? I love that you\'re able to actually kind of hear like, do you feel like you\'re hearing like an energetic release, dropping, shedding what\'s happening, I\'m

ann hince 16:33
hearing a physical release. So it took a while for me to actually get into my be able to put my awareness in my head, it was easier to put it in the body. But once I got up to my head, so close to my, my ears, I can actually hear it sounds like old fabric ripping is what it sounds like. And it kind of freaked me out the first time I was a little concerned that maybe.

Brandon Handley 16:55
Right? Well, I mean, I think I would be a little concerned. Myself 100%. But I

ann hince 17:01
knew it was the start of the journey. So I just kept doing it. And it happened.

Brandon Handley 17:06
I would love to you know, so we talked a little bit earlier about becoming aware of the awareness. When you became of your awareness when you\'re going through this process. Were you scared? Were you worried? Were you concerned? Were like, whoa, this I shouldn\'t be feeling this never felt this way before what\'s happening. Tell me a little bit about that. Lately, there

ann hince 17:28
was several times along this journey that I actually felt that when I was first able to hold my awareness inside, it\'s like, what is that? That\'s, that\'s really weird. And the way I explained it is, you know, if you have a toothache, or a stomachache, you can tell where that is right, you can feel where it\'s coming from. But once the ache has gone, you can\'t really put your awareness back where it was. So I could actually help put my awareness back on to into wherever it is that I focus my awareness, so I can actually hold my awareness in the roots of my teeth now, which feels really weird. So anyway, yeah, that was one of the weird times. Another time was when I had been working with collective traumas I was, I was feeling the physical sensations, and I would lay on the sofa. And I would bring out these collective traumas like 911, right, we we all experienced a lot of emotion that we stored inside from that. So I would feel that and let it go and feel it and let it go and feel it and let it go until that emotion was pretty much gone. And then at some point, during that, I started to feel these electrical currents inside me. I mean, and that was, that was weird. What I realized, I mean, I believe it was Kundalini energy, it experienced it for months, I can move it up and down my spine, it was really cool. But to begin with, it was a really weird thing. And I realized that it was that I was releasing so much physical tension so rapidly that my body had to release it in a different way. And it was releasing it through electrical something or other.

Brandon Handley 19:03
Why me? Super interesting because it doesn\'t sound you said you feel like it was Kundalini. So it wasn\'t a Kundalini process that you would invoke but you had this energetic kind of internal feeling and release that you would you know, just from what you studied and what you understand you would relate to as as kundalini right

ann hince 19:27
I believe so from what I have read yeah, there\'s just it was electric current that I could just relax into the more I relaxed the higher up it went. And yeah, leave no one else around me could feel it.

Brandon Handley 19:39
But that\'s that\'s awesome. I mean, you know, I think that so if I were to look back at wow, you know, what to do only real awakening experience that I\'ve had that was was real similar that whole body energy just like food, like super high and being like what\'s happening shouldn\'t like, I don\'t know if I\'m supposed to be feeling this, and I talk to somebody about this. What do I tell my wife? Right? Like, I mean, for me, that was scary. That\'s, that\'s part of my story. And and so it\'s it\'s always interesting to hear, you know, so who did you have conversations with about this? Does does these awakening experiences are becoming more and more aware? Or is this something you kept quiet? talks a little bit about that?

ann hince 20:27
Yeah, I didn\'t really, I mean, I talked to a few good friends who had kind of on the same path, but no one I spoke to had experienced the same things. So, um, you know, that\'s why I believe what I am experiencing is the original meaning of the word insight, right? Being able to see within, in with sights, and it makes total sense to me, but I\'ve never heard anyone else talk about it that way. We hear people say, look inside. But when they see that they\'re really thinking, look inside the minds that when I\'m doing this, I\'m outside the mind. I\'m actually well, I might, I\'m outside the thinking minds, but I might be inside the feeling or the sensing mind.

Brandon Handley 21:10
No, I love that. So let\'s talk about that. I know that I am consistently told with every energy worker, I go and see that my heart is closed. And that I\'m in my head. Right? And it\'s all about, you know, how do we get out of the thinking mind? And get in touch and sit with? I know, you keep saying feel the feelings? But sit with your Are you saying sit with your feelings or sit with your emotions with your bias? Explain that a little bit for us? Oh,

ann hince 21:39
yeah. And the words feelings and emotion get confused. In our, in our world, I tend to think of emotions as the words, right, we use the word sadness for a set of physical feelings or physical sensations. So with EFT, we\'re tapping, you are focusing on the emotion, right? So I might be tapping on feeling sadness. But then you can get to the physical sensations underneath that. So sadness, maybe you\'re feeling it somewhere in your chest, or maybe the heart rate, maybe that area, maybe there\'s physical sensations that you\'re associating to the feeling of sadness, that emotion of sadness, right. So when I\'m feeling the feelings, I\'m focusing on those physical sensations, I\'m not thinking about them, I\'m focusing on feeling what they feel like in the body, right? So you get the difference there. Okay, so then I\'m focusing on that feeling, holding it there trying to just allow that feeling to stay there, because it\'s just stuck energy. It just wants to get out the body. But we\'ve held it in sometimes for many decades. And so it doesn\'t know how to get out. So we just holding awareness on it attention on it long enough that there is a shift. And I tend to find that shift happens when I need to take a deep breath. And then I let the breath out. And then there\'s then I think, the thought, again, that had the feeling the sadness, and see if it feels the same. And if maybe it\'s shifted somewhere else, maybe it\'s decreased somewhat, and I do the same thing, feel those sensations, not thinking about them, but feeling them. And then they\'ll shift again and do that over and over again. And then the thoughts becomes independent from the emotion, there\'s no longer any emotion behind the thought. And there\'s freedom there.

Brandon Handley 23:35
Right, I\'m trying to process it in once, you know, because, because it took me a long time, I think to even you know, connect with my head to the feeling right, the the D motion, and now you\'re telling me that I got to separate the feeling from the emotion. They\'re two different things, right. There\'s like, and the feeling the emotion is a group of the feelings and their physical. Right, just so that because right now, mentally, I\'m just pulling it apart so that you know, I can I can you know, try to put this into practice myself. Right. And what\'s that? What\'s that look like? I definitely, like I said, it took a while to go get a little bit out of my head to even connect with my feelings or emotions like because I\'ve had somebody asked me once and like Fran I hear you talking but I don\'t hear any like I don\'t hear like any emotional words or any emotion geared towards like he\'s right. I don\'t like nothing. And so it took me a while just to even establish the idea of different emotions like I was talking about earlier outside of like, I\'m not angry. Good. If I\'m like not crying, great. Everything else in between. I mean, I don\'t know. I literally No idea what are the rest of what\'s that range. And I would leverage the AI levers to blue check, we\'ll myself is just a different range of emotions. Not sure if you\'re familiar with it, I love it, I\'ll share a link with it, you later, but it tells you all different emotions and kind of where they lay in, in kind of like, like anger is, is kind of like the base of a whole bunch of other emotions, right? And then there\'s intersections between anger and yada yada, I\'m not a specialist. But um, so So we now got like, I love it right feelings are stuck. Energy. And so EFT is is a way to, then you\'re tapping your body and trying to get the this stuck emotion to get on moving, right. And you can use this sounds like use it with feelings and emotions and trauma. But as far as I understand, you\'ve also been using it in the Law of Attraction space. How\'s that work?

ann hince 26:04
Okay, can we come back to that? Let me just want to say one thing, emotions and the feelings. I\'m not so remind me to come back. This is it starts in childhood, right? We will see a child who\'s holding themselves tense, maybe they\'ve got the facial expression of anger. And we tell them, Oh, you\'re angry. And at that point, they start to use the word anger, and they disassociate from those physical sensations. Right? So we\'re reversing that process. We\'re letting go of the the words, and we\'re actually coming back into contact with the physical sensations that we then call the moment

Brandon Handley 26:43
I love it. I really do. So and Thanks, I appreciate I appreciate that. And, you know, it\'s, I think it\'s still like my children are still young enough. I could do, maybe I\'ll help them, I think this will be helpful for them to again, separate those feelings from the emotions, or at least say, hey, this feeling is this grouping of, you know, kind of kind of remember that. I mean, because we all I don\'t know about you, again, I\'ve done several exercises where you tense up and you\'re like, Alright, no way you\'re tense, but like, I haven\'t done this other part where we stick the emotions to the feelings I\'m in. I mean, all right, we good. We go for a law of attraction. So yep, let\'s go the law to action for 1000 Alex.

ann hince 27:30
Okay. So I think of it slightly differently than is out there generally in the public world. And I think of it as working all the time, right, every second of every day, we are emitting a signal, and we\'re attracting back into our future based on that signal. And the signal is the whole of us. It\'s everything about us. It\'s our size, it\'s a shape, it\'s our hair, it\'s our clothes, it\'s our thoughts, which most people tend to focus on. But I believe the biggest part of it is that tension from our past that we hold in our connective tissue. That\'s why we tend to replay things over and over again, that we have had before because it\'s part of our signal. So if we want to change our future, we need to change our signal right now. And we can do that by, we can do that right in the moment, by relaxing. I mean, that\'s why something like meditation might help, it relaxes you in the moment. So you\'re putting off a better signal, you\'re attracting things in the future, that they\'re going to be more peaceful. But to get to the real deep changes, which is what I wanted, I wanted to change my bass signal. So I wanted to change that stored stuck energy. So to me, that was the power of EFT. It\'s letting out that tension that\'s been stored inside for all these years. And I know at this point that it really I mean, it really is changing the basic rates aligned my skull, so I have to be emitting a better signal. I mean, have all these crazy things happen during the day of the week? So yeah, so

Brandon Handley 29:06
I love I love this whole. Look, I\'m in right changing the base signal. And you\'re doing that, you know, is basically like, I guess if we\'re trapping all this energy within ourselves is like, we\'re almost putting like a lead shield on ourselves and not letting the true signal kind of get out. Or, you know, all we\'re sending out is static because we were holding on to a lot of static, right? Well, not a lot of energy that just is muddying up our, our true signal, right. And I say true statement like that, because we\'re always emitting our true signal. But you know, we\'d like to think that there\'s a higher, better, best good version of ourselves in here somewhere. And a lot of us aren\'t expressing that because of, again, this dis tension that we\'re holding within. We\'re also there Energy,

ann hince 30:00
no idea how much tension we started saying that I possibly had more than other people because of stuff that happened in childhood plus the scoliosis my whole body was taught. But when I was actually able to put my focus my awareness inside my skull, the pain and the tension in there, the forces that I could now be aware of was just incredible. I was totally amazed how much tension was stored inside of me that I had no idea about no idea before this. So you know, it\'s really it\'s quite eye opening, once you actually become aware of the amount of misalignment that we are in and we\'re not aware of it at all.

Brandon Handley 30:46
Oh, I, you look, I don\'t even know. Right. So, so much of, of kind of what you\'re talking about, even even the idea of relaxing in the middle of a conversation and realizing just how tight you are in a conversation. And to be able to kind of change that signal like in in the midst of it. That\'s something that I\'ve become more and more aware about over the over the past couple of years. And that came for me to me through breath work, right? Realizing if I\'m tight up here that like I\'m probably tense, I\'m tense up here, right? So if I release that, all of a sudden, I\'m relaxed. I\'m like, I\'m able to just step back a little bit. I\'m out of that fight or flight mindset. And hopefully, I\'ll be meeting calm. Like you\'re saying, right, I\'m sending out a different signal. One of the things I want I definitely want to chat about though is you basically say you grew your tooth roots longer you adjusted your your skull and your back. How long did that take? What was that process like for you? Was that part of that insight awareness, because I\'m sure there\'s people out there that may not believe that this is possible. But it also sounds like you\'ve got photos and X rays that prove this as this is true. So I want to talk a little bit about that. It\'s a great story.

ann hince 32:10
I mean, I think all of it has worked to release that tension. I only got the X rays recently. So you know if I\'d got them two or three years ago, before I was actually able to sense inside those changes. Would it be in there? Probably somewhat, I would think already. It\'s, it feels like it\'s exponential. So the release of tension feels like it gets faster and faster. So you know, this point where I am putting my awareness on the inside, I feel that tension releasing, I\'ve actually felt the bone shift, which is another one of those scary things. But I know it\'s all good. It\'s all the way happening the way it supposed to happen. But I don\'t think I could have I couldn\'t have done that at the beginning. Maybe it\'s just it\'s a journey that I don\'t think you can step into this point. Without going through those first few steps, just that expansion of awareness. But yeah, I do have X rays. I had x rays taken this year for Orthodontic work. That\'s the reason I had them. I had one similar one eight years ago. So that\'s why I have the photographic evidence. And it blew me away when I saw it. Yeah, I did the way the middle of my skull is kind of opened up. And yeah. So it\'s possible

Brandon Handley 33:29
to do the dentist come up to me and say, What do you been doing?

ann hince 33:35
And know that the dentist didn\'t actually see them? It was just the x ray technician. But yeah, she she, she didn\'t really look at them in depth, she actually looked more at the soft tissue and asked me if I was an athlete, which I lacked that because I\'m not

Brandon Handley 33:50
well, that\'s great. I mean, that\'s great. That means something\'s working, something\'s working. Here\'s another good one that you\'ve got on your site. And I bring this up because we were my wife and I were hanging out over Thanksgiving and we\'re talking with my mother in law. It\'s just kind of about energy where we\'ve been gone the acupuncture and yoga and all the spiritual stuff, which you know, is newer in this household. And, and and with with my in laws, at least a conversation. And she goes, Well, I\'ve never I never experienced like my third eye opening. Right? How, you know, how does somebody know that that\'s been open? Like what is what does that process or what\'s that awareness look like?

ann hince 34:40
Yeah, it\'s there\'s so much information out there in the internet, about third eye opening. I only have my experience to go through which was being able to see or sense on the inside and I know I\'m looking from the middle of my skull. So it could be the pineal gland. I don\'t know for sure. I just know I can sense what\'s above what\'s in front, what\'s behind what\'s below. So it\'s somewhere there. And it\'s loosening up right to begin with, I could only put my awareness inside and not really moving around very much. But now I can move it around, I can do it with my eyes open or my eyes closed. And each time I\'m working it more it, I think it\'s letting go of some bonds that\'s holding it tight. So it\'s just making it easier to move. I know, it\'s really hard to understand

Brandon Handley 35:37
what I mean, is it like, am I using a joystick? Am I moving it around? Is it like a is it like, you know, I\'m very video gaming friendly? Like, you know, so is it like a visit similar to that is me describe what it\'s like, I guess, to be able to move this awareness around, like moving around with a camera.

ann hince 35:56
I guess they could be counted like that. I mean, you can put right you can, can you put your awareness on your kneecap? Right on the skin? Right there now got your awareness up over onto the top of your thigh and move it up your thigh? Okay, I\'m just doing that inside the body.

Brandon Handley 36:20
Got it? Got it. You know, I think since you bring it up, like I think headspace I\'m not sure if you\'re familiar with the headspace app, he has a couple exercises that are real similar that so if I were to go back and look at that, and being able, I don\'t think that he ever called it moving your awareness around inside, but the way that you\'re discussing it. I have gone through that process. Now I have to go back and practice more so that I can fix things that are wrong inside of me. Or maybe they\'re not wrong. Right? We got to be all loa loa specific. Right?

ann hince 36:59
This whole process has been working with the negative, I really did the positive thinking. Because whenever you do that you\'re suppressing what\'s actually there.

Brandon Handley 37:11
Right, right. Right. Right. So but but Could I just say that? If I were to, you know, allow me my little my little thing here. So not so much the positive thinking, right, but it\'s just something that needs more attention and nurturing that hasn\'t gotten the attention. Yeah, hasn\'t gotten you. I haven\'t been aware of it. Or I just haven\'t, you know, I\'ve been looking for the quick Western fix the acute fix, and I haven\'t given it the holistic fix that that it needs. Right.

ann hince 37:42
Yeah, it\'s not wrong. You\'re right. It\'s not wrong. It\'s, it is stuck energy. It\'s something we haven\'t looked at before. It\'s Yes, it\'s something that\'s been hidden. And we just need to give it more attention and let it pass through.

Brandon Handley 37:55
Okay. Okay. Thanks for sharing that. Because I think that insight, inner awareness is something that has any, right, but it\'s something that we don\'t give attention to. Right. And you\'re calling an awareness to it by talking about it the way that you are. Because I think that we\'ve experienced who\'s may have experienced that before, but haven\'t gone back and said, Oh, this is this is something useful. Right. And it sounds again, it sounds it sounds like you\'ve had some tremendous, tremendous, real life impacting changes because of this is amazing. It\'s amazing. Also go back to the beginning to where just real quick, if I could, you know, when you said that you were just a stay at home, mom, you shouldn\'t be having this eight to 10. That\'s a lot of work. It\'s a lot of work. I mean, eight to 10 is not unreasonable, I wouldn\'t say but you know, to to at least recognize that you\'re at an eight to 10 and realize that that\'s not where you want to be. I think that\'s the key call out there for for me. Because listen, it\'s a job. It\'s a lot of work. And if you don\'t have I think I think that we as human beings were really meant to grow up and be raised and more of a community environment. And I think that without that parenting is a real challenge. If we don\'t have some type of community around us, if we don\'t have some type of support, you need a break. Right? You need those breaks, you need support from others, you need to be able to turn to others who are going through the same thing as you and not feel alone. So my guess is there was a lot of that going on for you as well. To be at an eight to turn right.

ann hince 39:48
I would see other mothers at school who were so calm, and so wanted to be like they were and I love you know, when I had another parent come up to me and said that she would like to be as calm as I am. So

Brandon Handley 40:03
there you go, has really shifted, there you go, there you go. And, and so you\'ve been able to, you\'ve been able to use this, you\'ve also got a book out on if you want to share the title of that book and where others might be able to go out and get the book and just talk a little bit about what they might find inside of the

ann hince 40:20
book. Sure. It\'s called a pathway to insight. And I, it\'s found on Amazon, or you can have your local bookstore order it. And it\'s I talk about the law of attraction, I talk about how we store that that tension inside of us in childhood, and just my explanation of how I believe it all works. And then I go through the different steps that I went through and explain what I did that weird things that happened along the way. And examples or ideas that you can do if you wanted to do the same, the same thing.

Brandon Handley 40:53
That\'s awesome. And one of the things I always like to find out is like, how are the people that are closest to your family or friends, how they responded to you working with the energy field and your third eye and all this, you know, there\'s just other jazz now, you\'re in California. So the fry, like cool was come over and have a mimosa, and we\'ll talk more about it. So you know, it\'s only a little bit about what the reception of that has been like. And if there\'s been any fear about kind of coming out as spiritual. What does that been like? And how\'s that? What\'s happened? Like?

ann hince 41:26
Yeah, that\'s an interesting question. I have a close group of friends, a group that we meet weekly, and we talk about this kind of stuff. And without them, it would be much more difficult. So, um, my family and not really into this, so I don\'t really discuss it with them. And that\'s okay, that was part of the process, you know, part of the process is letting things be okay, and letting go have emotions around other things. And I can only change myself. And if I become more peaceful, then the interactions become more peaceful. So it\'s all good.

Brandon Handley 42:00
Yeah, that\'s an important, it\'s an important tip to realize that just because you\'ve kind of hit this space for yourself. Everybody else isn\'t coming with you. Right? And that\'s okay. And be okay with it. Because I think that\'s, that\'s a real big one is like, Hey, I\'m feeling this way. You should feel this way too is amazing. Let\'s all talk about it. Oh, don\'t worry about it\'s gonna be great. And they\'re like, No, thank you. And you\'re like, I don\'t get it doesn\'t make any sense. And you got to really, you\'ve got to let go of that. Right? Just letting go of that. Because otherwise it\'s going to be more stored. And stuck emotion, more stuck energy, right? Because you\'re going to be all tense. And really, why don\'t you call me you should be here with me. Yeah, absolutely. I appreciate it. Wait, look, we\'re at this little point here where I like to call it like a little bit of like a spiritual speed dating as it were. And and so are you okay, if I go ahead and ask you one or two questions, so yeah, all right. So let\'s see. What have we got here spiritual speed dating. Bachelorette number one, why is there poverty and suffering in the world we\'re all so connected and loving. We were all

ann hince 43:20
programmed in childhood and we keep replaying the same thing over and over again

Brandon Handley 43:28
program for poverty and suffering for a while.

ann hince 43:31
That\'s the experience we have as we\'re growing up, right we program ourselves in those first seven years so if we grow up in positive poverty, we keep attracting the same thing over and over again until we let it go. And then we can move on and expand

Brandon Handley 43:48
Yeah, I suppose if you don\'t know there\'s like another channel to turn to You never change the channel

ann hince 43:52
Right? Right. How to change the channel right? We have most of this is subconscious right? We don\'t realize that we\'re replaying the same thoughts over and over again, right like with my dad, I don\'t know his voice was in my head until I had gone beyond that.

Brandon Handley 44:07
Now that\'s That\'s true. That\'s true. I like it. I like it. Let\'s see here. Well, since we\'re doing like EFT and we\'re doing like, which is you know, emotions and tapping if you\'re not watching and you\'re listening in on the podcast, I\'m curious i don\'t think i\'ve used this one yet non verbally, by emotion or gesture only act out what you believe to be the current condition of the world.

ann hince 44:40
Oh my goodness.

Brandon Handley 44:45
God given us I could do

ann hince 44:46
it without words. Because this huge variety right, I think we are breathing. There you go. You did it. You didn\'t want someone bringing up all this stuff that has been stuck inside of us.

Brandon Handley 45:00
Yeah, look, so just for the listener, you know, big expansive hands, right, kind of just, like blowing up and, uh, bringing up right. So I like it\'s good. It\'s got never used it before. It\'s fun. It\'s fun. We\'ll get one last one, we\'ll get one last one in here. What? And what would you say that it is? We talked about kind of stepping into there, realizing how powerful we are, right? What is it that prevents most people from realizing their powers?

ann hince 45:32
Resistance. And I almost feel like it is a you know, electrical resistance. We just, we get get cut off in childhood. And we don\'t realize we can get beyond it. So we don\'t, we don\'t know what we don\'t know. That\'s a great thing. Take some thinking about but we have to really want to change, there has to be some spark that says yes, I got to change, I\'m going to do something about it has to be something that pushes pushes you to start looking. And then you can start to see.

Brandon Handley 46:13
Would you say that? That\'s like the dark night of the soul? Do you feel I don\'t know. If you feel like you went through a dark night of soul? Or do you feel like a dark night of the soul is inherently necessary to get to the space?

ann hince 46:28
It could be I probably did. I was a big blow up with another couple of parents at school and I was I just reacted to it so bad just in my head mentally for like days, I could hardly sleep and it\'s like, yeah, so it could be that. I mean, we often hear that that is the case, right? Something happens. And it\'s like, gotta change, something has to change.

Brandon Handley 46:53
Yeah, no, thank me. I was I was Wonder. My experience has been a little bit different in terms of, Do I really feel like I\'ve ever experienced a super dark night of the soul? Or do you just realize that you won\'t change and once you realize this changes possibly start to take this change? That sounds like you. Once you began to change the change, you recognize the change that you initiated? Did you done intentionally, and that change begins to accelerate and show up more and more in your life? And you\'re just like, Wow, I feel great. I don\'t want to I\'ve always felt this way. I don\'t know why I\'ve always felt this way. Right. But, um, so I was simply curious. So and is there anything else that you\'d like to hit on? For our listeners today that you\'d like to share?

ann hince 47:37
I would just love to encourage everyone to, you know, one of the ways I would think about it to begin with is through that law of attraction. It\'s like, okay, I\'m emitting a signal right now, do I want to feel this way again in the future? And if I don\'t, then I\'ll do something about it. Right? Like that could be as simple as relax in the moment or it could be tapping could be feeling the feelings, something to change that signal. And I asked myself that multiple times during the day. And it

Brandon Handley 48:03
is that generally the first exercise that you would have somebody that reaches out to you do?

ann hince 48:08
Well, I would have them learn EFT is probably look so simple, just as long as you keep EFT is powerful. And that works with the negative, it\'s only the negative that stored in the body, the positive is there underneath it. So all we need to find is the negative and a lot of people with EFT have moved it more into manifest the manifesting and the positive. But that\'s not stored in the body. It\'s the negative. So work with the negative.

Brandon Handley 48:36
got it got it. So this is very similar to the Buddha that was covered in clay kind of thing, right? Get rid of that to get rid of the clay and then underneath that there\'s all

ann hince 48:46
the gold. Absolutely. That\'s great.

Brandon Handley 48:49
And thank you so much for being on today. One more thing, where can everybody go to find more about you.

ann hince 48:55
So I have a website. It\'s just my name and hints.com and I have a YouTube channel with some videos on there. I\'ve little more detail about things that I have gone through. And I have a public Facebook page that I\'m really enjoying. I\'m enjoying kind of copying means and and then explaining them in more detail through my experience you go, so

Brandon Handley 49:18
be sure fantastic and thanks for being on with us today. Welcome.

ann hince 49:22
It\'s been great. Thank you. I

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New Year 2022

Published: Jan. 2, 2022, 3:43 p.m.
Duration: 12 minutes 27 seconds

Unknown Speaker 0:00
You\'re now a lot what\'s going on? What\'s going on? Happy New Year. We are live in 2022 Spiritual dope is looking for a new year. I\'m looking ahead at an awesome new year. And we\'re looking at how was 21 for you? I see a lot of people posted.

Brandon Handley 0:24
Maggie and I were talking about this last night actually, we\'d like to see a lot of people post and like, you know, happy that 21 is over. I\'m like, you know, 21 was actually a pretty, pretty reasonable Year Happy New Year\'s cat Happy New Year\'s friendship. Like 20 was actually a pretty decent year. All things considered, like looking what we came out of like 2020 was a good show, like it made all other years look like, awesome you made all of the years like if you watch a movie from 2019 be like you could tell these people have been ravaged by the pandemic yet, right. You can watch that. You can watch some of that. You can watch some stuff happened in 2019. And everybody was like they were YOLO fashion was yo, yo, do whatever fuck they wanted doing care. 2020 came around, it was like, lock that shit down. Right? People? Yeah, 2021 went by with the record by new one, my crew Run Run, run, run, run. The put 21 was 21 was pretty reasonable. And I feel like we\'re in a pretty decent trajectory. I did a podcast yesterday, but I didn\'t. It didn\'t send it out. So I guess it doesn\'t make it podcast. This is the recording kind of like letters never met and reset. Just about like, all the things that kind of transpired in 21. I\'m sorry. Okay. Yeah, look, I mean, I can\'t, like 21 Definitely had impacts on people. There were things going on. Things were tough for for plenty of people. But I think that once you once you kind of get your feet under you, and you get your like your sea legs, as it were, you got to realize that it made it made 2021 look really great by comparison and point pointing and talking about 22. And just kind of like all the stuff that maybe you\'ve learned in 21, I can tell you this beginning of 21, I definitely saw myself like getting into breath work and do some stuff I had written on a board. Right, I didn\'t have a vision board. But I just had a board have a list of some things that I wanted to learn throughout the year and breathwork was definitely on there. I think energy work might have been on there. But I wouldn\'t there\'s no way I would have been able to tell you at the end of 21 that like I\'d be hanging out with a bunch of crystals burning incense and hitting tuning forks and working with your energy fields. Throughout the year. I don\'t think that Meg would be able to tell you you know, some of the stuff that she\'s gone through, and the whole house is kind of walking around talking about Vives, third eyes, acupuncture, auras, and so on and so forth, I definitely never would have been able to predict at the end of the year, that I\'d be getting gifts from my children. And my wife that literally, the crystal crystals was a tuning fork, which I thought was super cool. And not only that, I think it was just super cool, thoughtful gifts, what I love about the whole thing is that it\'s like they are supportive of of that space for me. And maybe not totally into it. But they know that it\'s important to me. So they let me kind of work in that space. And I think that that\'s when we take a look at relationships, I think that those are some of the things that are really kind of key and essential. And, you know, kind of how it all goes about, right? People don\'t have to be so much into the same things as you. But as long as they support what it is that you\'re into, and you can do that in a reciprocal nature. You can say yeah, look, I\'m not at that. That\'s you I mean, if you want and that\'s what you\'re all about. That\'s great. Enjoy that. Go do that. Remember, I think it was one I think it was 2020 before the pandemic and made the I

had the conversation about how makes doing her own journey. I\'m doing my own journey, right. We both got our own journey going on. Mine might be like meditation going and hanging out. And you know, doing some breath work and maybe sitting in the tuning forks and just kind of sitting in that space. Hers is like watch a housewives and you know, having a glass of wine and doing her process, hers is writing things out, hers is going out and supporting her friends. And you know, she\'s such an amazing supporter. Like, that\'s somebody I\'m always learning from and like, how do you actually go out and support somebody mag is mag is always negative always. And somebody is corner, right? As long as they don\'t fuck it up. But even then, even then, and then I\'m trying to think what else? Oh, yeah, that was the other gifts I got for Christmas, which, you know, again, just showed me how supportive the family is of me. And not just that it was a thoughtful gift, for me, was the Tibetan same goal that make picked out and I remember, couldn\'t figure it out, make it work on Christmas Day. But uh, Simek pulled up the site. And I saw from the site that it wasn\'t just another crystal or another symbol off of Amazon, right, that could have been fanned out anywhere in a factory. It was one that was made in the Paul was made by, you know, the proceeds went to educating the women and the community. And the paper was specially made paper that had only been used and Nepal cement ceremonies. So even the story behind the gift that was even like Australian, you know, a wall, it just the whole story of what went into it was thoughtful in the itself and then to receive it as a gift, you know, just every time that you know, to the singing bowl bit like I\'m gonna be thinking of that moment, that gift and how it all worked out. So, and towards the end of the year, right, even even end of year I decided to sign up to become a breathwork instructor simply because of how much is done for me. And when I brought up tonight as a well, here\'s what we\'re looking at. And, and, you know, numbers wise, it\'s just think, well, you know, you got to invest in yourself, right. And it\'s me again, I was just like, wow, you know, and I know that she said it with ease and with calmness and, and, and sincerity. And was even going out and being like kind of like my biggest cheerleader, like I hadn\'t really shared it before she shared it, and had people kind of lining up to be a part of that, once I\'m able to go out and do it. So having that kind of support at home is definitely, you know, makes it easier to go through what may seem like some hard years, but I\'d say that 2021 I think that\'s what I\'m told make this given that that\'s like, this is a year that I felt like you know, her and I are kind of like more along the same wavelength, right? And relationships just got stronger over the years. So that\'s, that\'s always super awesome to see. So I know that all excited for 2022 Is she and I continue to gain momentum the boys continue to be the amazing boys that they are. And they you know, continue to grow in their own ways and don\'t right. And we face for them and that so I don\'t know what I don\'t really know what\'s going on with you. I\'m super, super curious to hear about what your 20 twos looking like maybe what was your 21 like, cat looks like he had some rough patches, but you made it through a lot of hearing coming through always appreciate your support. I know that you\'re always supportive of Megan, I said, Thank you. What is it that you may be accomplished? What is it maybe something you learned in 21? What is something that you\'re carrying forward into 22 that you\'re excited about? What is something that 22 holds for you? Right? And I don\'t I\'m not I\'m not be the best you that you can be kind of person a more of the Discover how awesome you always been? I was listening to Sadhguru I\'m not really a super fan, but somebody recommended him. So I\'m second shot. But he was talking about self realization. And the idea

of realization is that you realize at a certain point just what an amazing person that you already are. You realize at a certain point, recognize yourself really, I don\'t know, the truly miraculous wonderful human that you are. You look back in all your stories and you say to yourself, well say if I\'ve made it through all this And I can still smile at the other day and I could still give more of who I am at the end of the day doing something right, right, there\'s something. I don\'t want to call it like something great about you, right? There\'s something, there\'s something that keeps you alive, right? I don\'t think that there\'s something else I told me. I was like, I was making fun of myself in 1997, like, forever ago, right? I was making fun of the fact that I was hitchhiking you know, middle of Texas. And I could have been picked up and killed by like anyone, right? The number of times that I\'ve done stupid shit, that would have killed me or killed another. Like is, unfortunately, I count on more than one hand. So if you know I\'m still alive, there\'s got to be reason for it. And my guess is something similar for you, right? There\'s got to be so many different scenarios in your life that could have taken you out. Right, there\'s so many scenarios in your life that could have taken you out, put me down for the count and Obama knows you. But you\'re still here. There\'s still something like within you, right? We talk about how many people take the music to the grave with them or how people tiptoe quietly across the stage of their own light. You\'re still here. And there\'s there\'s a reason for that. And if for no other reason than that, like when you wake up and you feel that force in your heart that the any point in the day, ready to burst through its shell and shine. That\'s to me. That\'s what 22 is looking like. For me for you. Right like I mean, that\'s what love to see for you in 22 What is something in 22? That\'s got you recognizing everything that\'s amazing about yourself. Love to hear about that. Anywho Happy New Year. Here\'s to 20 to 20 one\'s gone in books. Better than 20 books show and hopefully point point two will be that

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Published: Dec. 29, 2021, 6:29 p.m.
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Dr T - Healing from a Distance

Published: Dec. 19, 2021, 7:15 p.m.
Duration: 58 minutes 48 seconds

Dr. Anthony Cahill became a doctor after struggling for years with chronic low back and neck pain. After seeing hundreds of acupuncturists, chiropractors, healers, massage therapists, physical therapists, he stumbled onto a doctor at a health fair that was doing something entirely different than everyone else.The relief was immediate, years of pain erased in seconds. After a short treatment period, this doctor inspired doctor Cahill to continue his healing journey, and seek out methods no others were using effectively. Now after 25 years of exploration, he\\u2019s ready for you, wherever you are.

Connect with him today here https://www.ahumanengineer.com/

The transcription below is machine generated and is not edited:

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you\'ve questioned so much more than those around you. You\'ve even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited in this process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can\'t quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you, this world, the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don\'t have all the answers, but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another head of spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let\'s get right into today\'s episode.

Brandon Handley 0:40
Hey, there\'s spiritual soap. I\'m on here today with Dr. T. He became a doctor after struggling for years with chronic low back and neck pain. After seeing hundreds of acupuncturist, chiropractors, healers, massage therapists, physical therapists, he stumbled onto a doctor at a health fair that was doing something entirely different than everyone else. The relief was immediate years of pain erases seconds. After a short treatment period, this doctor inspired Dr. T to continue his healing journey and seek out methods no others were using effectively. Now after 25 years of exploration. He\'s ready for you, wherever you are. Dr. T. Thanks for being on today. You\'re joining today. Out from Prescott, Arizona. Great to connect with you. I usually like to start these off with the whole idea that you and I are you I just saw this in some shamans study, right? Like we\'re these hollow bones. Right? Where Spirit just kind of fills us and speaks to us creative energies speaking to us and through us. And in this podcast, they\'re speaking through you to this audience in this very moment that can only be like there\'s a message that can only be delivered in this moment. What is that message today?

Dr. T 1:53
Well, I think that, like myself, that we all believe that there\'s something greater and bigger than ourselves something bigger than the human physical experience, and that we\'re part of this larger divine family than what appears before our eyes. So I thanks a lot for having me here today. And I just think that anyone obviously listening in on this is the minds have to be open, we have to be open and just recognize that we\'re part of something bigger than ourselves.

Brandon Handley 2:27
100%. And, yeah, I think you and I are talking a little bit here before he got going on this. But let\'s let\'s let\'s give a little background on what it is that you do. And what you found that you\'re so excited about and that you\'ve learned over this past 25 years and just kind of muddle around in there until we until we get all the good juices.

Dr. T 2:50
Well, I am a chiropractor, I thought it was gonna be adjusting bodies all day long. My father was a chiropractor. My brother\'s a chiropractor. And God just had a different journey for me. I think it was the second week in school. I came across the guy sitting in the back of the room. He was the instructor for the class. I had a couple of questions for him. I ran up and I was all excited new with all this, you know, and and he was teaching some energetic course back then I don\'t remember really exactly what it was. But he kind of just sat there and he kind of looks down. He says hold on a second with your question. Hold on, hold on right there. And he reaches down and touches his hand. He kind of looks off in the distance. He brings his finger up and he goes, Okay, well, what was your questions? And I said, What the heck was that? And he says all that was that was Cindy in Kentucky. She called me before breaking. She was having some heart murmurs. And I said, Okay, I\'ll see you later. Have a nice day. I kind of ran out like a dog with his tail between his legs, you know, oh, my God, this guy\'s crazy. It\'s not and I you know, I had I had ideas of spirituality before I got to school, but I was late into school. And my first class was age 35. And so anyhow, I just left and, and of course, looking back now, I realized he was probably an angel who probably popped down and that was a big moment because I, I really liked what he was teaching. He was like 92 years old back then. And I know he\'s long gone. Now, obviously, my CS 130. But he couldn\'t be. Anyhow, so I go to another seminar about two weeks later, and there\'s a guy sit in the back of the room and he\'s doing these odd motions with his hands. I could tell he was really intense, intently focused, and I walked away. So you\'re working on somebody somewhere else, right? And he says, yeah, don\'t tell anybody. People don\'t like that here.

i So okay, so. Okay. All right. I\'ll see you later. And at the end of the day, I caught him for a moment and I say, So how exactly are you doing that? He says, Well, you know, I just I just see it happening. I see it just was working. And I said, Well, what do you see working and he said physiology is normal physiology and I was able to tell them how to do it and it works really well. So that was my introduction to all this remote work. And so I kind of veered off of the physical hands on bodywork at that moment in time, that was probably a month into my training. And I just started seeking out all the various energetic modalities that are out there, there\'s hundreds of them out there. And I just kept looking at them and seeing them and some work better than others. And some had more awareness of how the world really works. And so I really focused a lot of attention on those that that that worked better, and made made sense to me in the course of how we experience the world. And when I\'m talking about that, of course, I\'m going right to consciousness, and you know, being a conscious being and experiencing this physical body, moving through this physical space that we have the space and time, consciousness is how, you know, that\'s, that defines how we are all one. As you know, I\'m sure you think of an old friend you haven\'t seen in a while, and he calls you out of the blue, hey, what\'s going on? I\'m out here in Phoenix. Having a good time in the desert, it\'s nice and warm, you got to come out and and, or you\'ll see somebody to store and they\'ll, they\'ll say, Hey, you remember, you\'ll think of somebody you haven\'t seen in 20 years. And, and and then you go to the store and you\'ll run into somebody who you see all the time. Hey, guess who I just heard of? Yeah, I heard that. So and so got in a car accident, he\'s busted up in the hospital. It\'s like, wow, you know, how do these, you know, they\'re these intricacies? These little connects the synchronicities happen. And so I\'ve spent, you know, 20 some odd years looking at, you know, how all these things work? How can we alter that? How can we use how can we use this knowledge of quantum mechanics basically, to access and utilize this field that we\'re all in, you know, get? I think that the you know, we\'ve come up with the term apply quantum mechanics, and that\'s what kind of is how I describe what it is that I\'m that I\'m doing. And then of course, we, you know, we bring in angels who bring in the angelic realm. And now we\'re doing things that really are just absolutely mind blowing, and right in front of your eyes, and nearly instantaneously. And if it is instantaneously, it\'s within a second or two. So sometimes it takes longer for some people. So that\'s kind of how I got you know, where I\'m at. Now I\'ve I\'ve, I was studying all these different things. And I was working at the time of working on people practicing as I was at school, because I was a massage therapist before I started studying for chiropractic. So I had a license to practice. And I was slowly bringing in some of these other energetic techniques. And using these nine people do some massage, and I would do some of these other techniques. And one of these guys who I\'ve been working with, he was a racecar driver, they had a really awful accident, we were able to take care of really about 90% of all these things he had wrong. But I was seeing him pretty regularly. I was seeing him probably every two weeks. And so we get to know somebody over the course of a year, year and a half of seeing them for something that really no one else is able to help him. And I helped him with the work that the guy used on me that got me out of out of pain. So I went and studied all that work. And so I use that on him when he came in and he was he\'s great as it goes, Hey, what\'s going on? So well. Mom\'s in a hospital in Dallas, they don\'t think she\'s gonna make it. They\'re looking for a heart transplant. They\'re saying that a quadruple bypass won\'t help her. It\'s so bad. And I got to get on a plane, I had to cancel all my work. I gotta get on a plane and fly home tonight. And, you know, say goodbye, basically. And I think if I remember right, he said that he couldn\'t get on a plane that night. It wasn\'t gonna be until morning. So he was obviously really concerned. And I said, Well, you know, there\'s this little thing that supposedly we could do from here. We were in Los Angeles. She was in a hospital in Dallas. And so he said, Absolutely. Let\'s give it a try. And so he sat down and we worked on her and I remember right, it was 15 and this is 20. This is 20 some odd years ago now, I think I think it was five or 10 minute treatment is all we did. And he called me the next morning eight o\'clock in the morning is Yellen in the phony just couldn\'t believe it. She she got up at three in the morning. And Tuffle Texan woman got up at three o\'clock in the morning, yanked all our tubes out ever walked out of the hospital, got a taxi cab and took her home.

That was my first remote case. So I wasn\'t tossed into this where was something like that there\'s no disbelief anymore. So that was that\'s how that\'s that\'s how I got to where I\'m at here.

Brandon Handley 9:43
Not for sure for sure. When you talk about the work that was that initiated you what specifically because it happened to you where you experienced the healing on you. First, can you talk a little bit about that?

Dr. T 10:02
I couldn\'t feel my legs, I would lose control of my bowels, I would pee my pants. I had knives stuck in my low back front of my back and kind of moved around. It went up and down my spine. It was it was absolutely debilitating. Absolutely 24/7. I had that since I was about 18. I grew up on a farm in Illinois. So when you grow up in a farm, you do a lot of work you shouldn\'t be doing, you get a lot of opportunities for injury on farms, very dangerous occupation, especially for a kid and you just don\'t know better. You know, you that\'s just how it is. That\'s what you do. So I was in pain for almost six or seven, eight years at that level. And this is pretty embarrassing as a 23 year old, 24 year old. You know, being unable to do stuff that others are. So in we were we were going camping, it was my ex girlfriend, we\'re going camping. And she was the one who was wanting to get into the healing at the time. And so we\'d already looked some chiropractic colleges and a few other things, acupuncture schools as she wanted to do. And there was a health fair in town on our way out of town. I was like, I don\'t want to go to welfare. I already know I\'m going to see I already have $30,000 I know half the people there. And I did. I knew half of the doctors there. Well, there was one doctor and Dr. Collins and his last name finally popped into my mind. He was he was behind the curtain doing it look like pretty much muscle testing people for nutritional deficiencies and things and, and I just thought, well, here\'s this guy doing something different than everybody else because everybody else was doing the same thing. And I mean, I walked around the it was a pretty large auditorium. I walked around a couple times looking at things and my girlfriend was talking to different booths and I walked back over there and sure enough, the girl steps Well, hey, it\'s fine for you. Anthony. He\'ll come come come on back. And so I get back in there and I sit down and and I go okay, here you go. These people whoa, whoa, hold on what\'s going on? And I just said, I damn near a broken to tears. It\'s just been so long. And I was at the end of my rope. I mean, I was 30 I was 30 I think I was 30 years old. And and I told him and he says Well, let me just see something here. Just hold here you kind of touched a couple spots on me. And he says Here lie on your side and I lie on my side. I\'m like you know I\'ve had the side posture 1000 times by chiropractor\'s is not it\'s gonna make it worse, unfortunately. He said, Ah, bring your leg up this way, start digging into my abdomen, pushing tissues away. He dug so deep. I don\'t think I\'ve ever had anyone ever come near there. I don\'t think I\'ve ever done that to anybody. It was so deepened into my through my through all my viscera, right to my spine. And then he had been moved by leg and basically it let go. And what that was was a so as muscle was welded, welded to the sciatic nerve, the sciatic nerve, and the autonomic chain, which is which controls your bodily functions. And I mean it, it hurt like hell. I mean, to say it lightly, it was unbelievable. And he did it like three times and say that it\'s time to go for a walk. So I got up and I started walking. And I think that was like the second or third time I was in the presence of angels. The lights came on. The music wasn\'t quite like that, but I could

Brandon Handley 13:31
see oh, yeah, look at you. Sounds like he was able to heal something that you had thought you were gonna have for life. I mean, call it whatever you want, you know, touch whatever Highway to Heaven, whatever. Like, you know, there\'s this is somebody who\'s come in and, you know, you don\'t know maybe saved your life. Right? It sounds like you were in enough pain and probably depressed it to a point where like, you know, look not for nothing. I know if I\'m an adult, and I\'m shitting and pissing my pants like, I\'m not feeling great about life.

Dr. T 14:01
Right? Like it\'s coming to an end. It\'s coming to an end. Ya know, it was coming to an end. Yeah. So

Brandon Handley 14:06
you got a guy down here, you\'ve run into him by chance something you weren\'t even going to go to you like, Screw it. Let\'s go hop into it. saves your life.

Dr. T 14:14
Yeah, changed my life saved my life. No question of it without him. I\'m sure I would not be sitting here talking to you. You know, we all have had these angelic experiences in different ways. And some, you know, young people, we just discard this regardless, you know, people we just tend to disregard it. But it would not surprise me at all to find out one day Yeah, actually, he wasn\'t angel. He was at the right place at the right time to completely change the direction of my life. And God bless him forever in gratitude for him. And it has it has it\'s like being reborn when you have this happen. And I\'ve been fortunate enough to have this happen in a whole lot of people now. And I\'ll never forget When he said to me after I saw I went to I started working with him. Once we got back from camping, we did a 15 day hike up in the mountains over 50 miles, backpacks, no pain at all, no problem at all. And I mean, I\'ve never had any of those issues since. But we got back. And so I worked with him for about five or six months, and about a six month after I had done through four or five different jobs. He says, you know, Tony, you really, you know, I\'ve known you for six months, you\'ve had 10 jobs. You\'re so guarded. You\'re just curious. I mean, you figure this stuff out. And then, and then you know, they\'re on to the next one. So yeah, I can\'t stand it. Hey, Dad, he said, Well, the only thing you\'ll never figure out is the human body. You will never ever figure out how to help everybody. And sadly, he\'s correct. I can\'t help everyone. But I\'ve been able to figure out how to help a lot. And I owe that. I mean, I\'ll never forget that day, he told me that I went to massage school, I studied that work that he used on me. And then and then eventually, I just I just woke up one day. And it was just in my mind plain as day as we\'re sitting here talking that it was time to go to school. And so I did 35 I started college.

Brandon Handley 16:15
That\'s awesome. And so you you went in, you went in the same kind of vein as your family. Right? You started, you started this in a chiropractic space. But then you you quickly understood the impact that energy healing could have on somebody. And as far as I can tell, like you just be chased after like, get this should be, this should be something everybody should be doing. I want to learn how to do it. You get to a point where you meet up with the racecar guy, right? You heal on him. And then you and you\'re doing close proximity, right? Like I think that if I don\'t know what the hell it is, I\'m reading right now. But it\'s some book, you know about the biofield. Right? Where you got you got about six feet, give or take around the body, right where this energy field and and you\'re comfortable at this point, working within that six foot energy field, right? You\'re like, I got this. I\'m good here. And then and then you get this opportunity to just say, You know what? Sounds like a last ditch effort. Your mom could be dying tonight. Let\'s let\'s try this thing. Right. I\'ve heard about it. I believe in it. I know what can be done. I don\'t know if I can do it. But let\'s, let\'s give it a go. You do it you have that moment. What happens after that? Like, would you share that with some of your family? Do you tell them? What are some steps that were you had after that?

Dr. T 17:42
Well, I don\'t really share that I didn\'t really share with anybody at all. i i You know it back then it was still so it\'s still so far out. I mean, you know, you\'ve heard of remote healers. And you know, some some people may have tried them. And I\'ve tried a few I didn\'t really have any results at all, personally, you know, with in this particular case, she got on a plane and she was like, she was like, What the hell the heck is this? I\'m coming out. She came out to Los Angeles a treasure for I don\'t know, maybe two weeks every other day for two weeks. And I was using some you know, some work that\'s still out there of the time, I was using neural link as a guy from a really great doctor osteopath out in New Zealand. It\'s good work. I saw was using that at the time, I think mostly primarily, and a few other things that I\'ve learned locally in Los Angeles. But she came in she was deaf walking. She looked. She looked over the dead her I mean, she looked 110 I mean, she you know she had emphysema, COPD, chronic pulmonary obstructive disease she had, oh God, you name it. She had it. She had all of that in the end. And I think I saw I treated her probably six times over those two weeks, she left. And then about a month and a half later he comes in and comes walking down my stairs and I look out the window. I didn\'t know he had a sister. And I opened it opened up the front door. I didn\'t know yet a sister. Hey, I\'m Tony. And she says why Tony you dirty dog. It\'s me Susan. This woman had lost 40 years offer. I mean, she it I just I was shocked. And that was that was a real eye opener for me of like, oh, okay, so this energy stuff, you know, I didn\'t crack her I didn\'t have to do it and he just didn\'t do any chiropractic. I you know, that work is fairly light touch. But it\'s but it\'s rubbing the body in different areas. Well, what I\'ve come to find is I don\'t need to do any of that. I can do it all without having you here I can You can be I don\'t know. You probably be on Mars. As long as you\'re alive. I can do it too. I mean, you know, that\'s consciousness. You know, even even consciousness has to have an effect on Mars if you\'re a conscious being a sentient being so you don\'t really kind of I really kind of kept it a secret from my family. until they started needing help. And so I\'ve been, you know, I\'ve helped them a lot over the years with the remote work that I do. And now they\'re kind of like they\'re just fully on board mom\'s totally on board. And, you know, they they\'re kind of really into this, and this remote angelic, you know, frequencies that we\'re able to we have access to.

Brandon Handley 20:21
So, I mean, it\'s cool, right? Like you said, even now, even though I think it\'s more accepted, and acceptable now, because science is coming into line with it more so now than in the past 20 years, I think it\'s been an accelerated rate. You know, keeping a secret, right? Because you\'re like, I\'m not, I\'m not, I\'m not stupid. I\'m not gonna tell you, I don\'t need that shit. Right. Like, I just, I just want, it\'s great that I can do it. And And here, I\'m gonna, I\'m just gonna keep doing it. And and even to the degree where I imagine that the massage was almost a cover for the energy work that you were doing to heal people. Right. And you talked a little bit about, and I just brought it up to the the field. You mentioned, I mentioned the energy field. And you talked about the field that we\'re all in? Are you talking about a field of consciousness? Once you elaborate on what you mean by the field that we\'re all in a little bit for somebody who\'s not familiar?

Dr. T 21:19
Well, it\'s just it\'s just the field of consciousness, you know, that can that can give the definition to everyone says, Well, we\'re all one. Well, how the hell are we all one? You\'re over there? You\'re in Philadelphia, I\'m out here. What do you mean? Well, that\'s that idea that you think of somebody you love. And that message goes right through to them. And so And there\'s, there\'s a million examples of this in nature. And then we can start getting further into and breaking it down into different areas like Rupert Sheldrake \'s work with regards to morphic fields, and how they give shape to structure. And, and so, you know, consciousness is just how, how I believe we are able to access it to get information from someone, and then be able to use intention, because intention is what drives consciousness. You know, if we\'re just floating on the sea, we don\'t have a carrot, we have no intention or mind at all work, that\'s kind of what we\'re doing. We\'re just kind of drifting around. With what I\'m teaching, what I\'m doing is I\'m using focused, focused intent to drive a change through information given via consciousness. So so if we are all one, it must mean that everything within this field, we must be able to have access to in some manner. So that\'s something else that I\'m teaching is how to access that field, ask to ask it, hey, what\'s going on? Brandon, he\'s calling me with, you know, he\'s got a floater in one of his eyes, what the hell\'s going on in there. And so we\'re able to access that field for that information. And once we have that, then we can use various techniques on primarily teaching how to direct angels to make changes in every system of the body, circulatory, nervous system, immune system, endocrine system on and so that\'s a whole, you know, that\'s like a not that\'s a field within a field. People like our angels part of consciousness. Well, heck, I don\'t know. I don\'t think they are. That\'s why it That\'s why I teach that, that they\'re there. You know, you know, that could be a lower realm, I don\'t know, could be a higher realm. I don\'t know. They just have their own realm. I don\'t, I have no idea. But what works is what I\'m teaching and what I\'m teaching is how to how to use have a dial. It\'s a biofeedback mechanism that we can use to access consciousness, to ask questions about what\'s going on within some within something in consciousness. So does that mean our plants and our plants allow our plants part of consciousness? Of course they are. So we can fix a tree, we can fix a field, we can have an effect on, you know, on plants, plants, animals, absolutely any animal anywhere. I just ran into a little baby rabbit, bunny rabbit walking through a field a couple days ago, and I needed help. How do I know I ask, I ask if it needs help. And I\'m able to access this field of consciousness that we\'re all in and then use intention to direct angels to do the healing intention. You know, intention is what drives is what drives the the field of consciousness. And as we hone that skill, it\'s I believe it\'s a part of your brain that can be honed and it can be amplified. And it can become instantaneously really powerful, especially with especially if you have the right training. It took me a long time to figure this out how I could how I could pass this on. And I think I\'ve come up with a way that is just it. So far, it\'s just been absolutely mind blowing. I\'m getting emails every day from people who have taken my class, they\'re doing things that this just absolutely unbelievable. And it\'s really kind of fun teaching it because now they\'re not my clients anymore, I have room for new people.

Brandon Handley 25:16
How much of what you are doing, what you say, requires faith and belief?

Dr. T 25:32
Well, I believe a lot of it. And that\'s one of the things I teach, one of my models in my class is seeing is believing. And when you see it, you believe it. And when you believe it, your faith can come up. And so we\'re doing stuff we\'re making sure I\'m making, I\'m making sure that first day people are seeing things, because well, a lot of these people have seen have been to different doctors, and I\'ve seen a lot of them, you know, three quarters of the class that none of those people have ever seen me have never been my clients, but they\'ve seen other people. And so we\'ve seen enough, and they\'re really probably most of them signed up, signed up out of curiosity. So I think curiosity is a really big part of what I\'m teaching also. Because if you\'re curious, you\'re open. If you\'re not open, if you already know at all, if you already, you know, this is this is how it\'s done, then you\'re just not going to do well with what I teach, you have to be curious, because curiosity allows you to come from a neutral point, a neutral standpoint, because if you\'re curious, you don\'t know. And so you\'re able to ask a better question. And you\'re able to have a better opportunity for this instantaneous healing. And, you know, seeing is believing. And as you as as you, you do it once, all of a sudden, you\'re just, I mean, it\'s amazing that this last class was amazing. Granted, because I think it was maybe the third hour, I go through all the mechanics, I go through all the all the applied quantum mechanics of how this works and how consciousness works. And really, I really break it down into all these really cool little examples of problems. This is how that\'s done. That\'s how it\'s done. And here\'s what how we make these changes. And, and I\'ll say, Okay, anybody have something they\'ve had for a long time? It\'s fine. If Samantha had bad ankle, you know, oh, yeah, hand goes up bad ankle 35 years, the twisted high school football. It\'s never been the same. Okay, Susie, what would you do what I just taught you to that ankle across the other side of the room over there? So as soon as he goes, Oh, just just do what I just showed you. As soon as he does what I just showed her? And I said, Okay, would you stand up, she stands up, and the guy stands up, and he says, Oh, my God, it\'s 100%. Gone. And everyone says really? They couldn\'t even believe it. So would you jump up and down for me, please, jumping up and down, wiggling all this weight on that ankle hopping around the room like a bunny rabbit? And I said, No. Anybody else not see this? Did you? Do we pay you to do this? This this acting? No, it\'s not. So that\'s how it starts, you know, this, this? And I don\'t blame, you know, it\'s just funny. It\'s like, really, that that\'s what what just happened there. And, you know, and so we\'ve had, we\'ve had, we\'ve had so many examples of this. We had a woman whose arm was completely dislocated out of the socket moves around a forward arm fall out of the socket. Now I know. Any Western medicine doctor, any most chiropractors, most acupuncturist who were watching if any of these people watched physical therapist would say that\'s impossible. Well, it\'s not we all saw it, we all watched it, she reached her own auto, her left, her shoulder would come out of the socket and drop down to here. Alright, so she will forward or to the side down here, raise it up overhead, the whole thing would plop out and he was hanging down below here. And, and, you know, I was just like, Okay, so we\'re going, you know, we\'re gonna fix that here. And, you know, the mouse just hit the table. I mean, yes, impossible. That\'s impossible. That\'s okay. It\'s impossible. 120 people are sitting here thinking it\'s impossible. And it was impossible effects with 20 people sitting there thinking it was impossible. So once we got that out of their minds, we treated her and it\'s probably the only treatment I did the entire weekend. 100% resolved and probably 90% of was emotional.

Brandon Handley 29:31
On her end, and I think I think I think it\'s really cool, too, that you bring up a really good point, I guess, you know, if you\'re if you\'re in a room, and this is just me speculating and thinking about the situation. If you\'re in a room full of 20 people who all don\'t believe it and who all don\'t see it, there\'s going to be an impedance. Right to to to healing, because I think that was going to be around my other other question. Do you find it Think about the whole idea of the placebo effect, right? And the placebo effect is anything that\'s effective that, you know, above, you know, 50% or whatever, that, you know. But I always wonder I\'m like, nobody\'s ever talking about like, the no SIBO, right? Like, you know, what about the people that just simply don\'t believe they can be cured? Right? Are those people standing in the way of their cure? Right? So, you know, so what you\'re sitting in a room full of is the know, SIBO? Right, you know that there\'s people like throwing up like this energetic wall, or like massive interference to energy being able to be delivered? Am I on the right path? Or, you know, what are your thoughts there?

Dr. T 30:43
Oh, absolutely. You\'re on the right path. And, you know, so many times those No, CBOs are proven wrong, and I never mind never bothers me to do that. And that kind of goes back to what we talked about when we first got on here is that, you know, those who, whatever the thing is those who say it can\'t be done, she stopped interrupting the person doing it.

Brandon Handley 31:04
Fair enough. I mean, so I mean, so are you saying then to like that, I guess your willpower strength and belief in what you\'re doing is more powerful than their disbelief?

Dr. T 31:17
Yes, but powerful is, uh, you know, it\'s a loaded word, I would say, my mind, the frequency that we\'re able to raise is more more in resonance with their disbelief, you know, so, so, so the disbelief is usually from the conscious mind, you know, so ah, you know, this ground is solid is stone, it\'s not moving around? Well, we know it is. And, and so I think a lot of that a lot of that no sequel is impossible have that happen. A lot of that\'s from the conscious mind. And a lot of the work that we do is subconscious is underneath that low, you know, that layer of resistance, and you you get it as you and how do we affect the subconscious mind, that\'s intention. And if you present something to the subconscious mind to consider, that may be a better operating system than it\'s experiencing? I don\'t care how much disbelief you have. It goes right through and it works. Yeah, and it changes. And then you have a client for life. Sure. Because they\'re coming in thinking, There\'s no way anybody can help me, they have been everywhere. And, you know, it\'s always nice to have the people that come from somebody that had a, you know, a really amazing experience, because they\'re already on board. And when they\'re on board, they\'re accessing me, you know, they\'re accessing my field, they\'re accessing the field of everybody, I\'ve been able to help. And they come in ready, you know, they\'re ready for it. So that\'s obviously what you prefer. And then you know, the placebo effect is greatly under utilized. It\'s, you know, we, we could talk all night long about, you know, the double gold standard for studies. Well, we, we know that the act of observation changes the outcome of an experiment, that\'s Heisenberg\'s principle, I\'m sure you\'re well aware of that. So that means that these people who are doing who are studying everything, everything from child seat safety to the newest heart drug, are all influencing the very thing they\'re studying, they should have to have blindfolds on not be paid to lock in Faraday cages, and have the experiments go without them being able to see it or even know about it now. So so that that\'s, you know, that\'s kind of where we\'re at with some of this stuff,

Brandon Handley 33:35
certainly hard to get an objective outcome, when you\'re being paid to run the study by the person who, you know, is going to benefit from whatever that outcome is directed towards them talking big pharma here, but you know, you know, what are you going to do just happens to be the world that we\'re in right now. And to me, you know, that just makes kind of the world that you and I inhabit, kind of that much more beautiful, right? Like just kind of breaking through the veil and be like, Oh, shit, it\'s been a lot of bullshit. I\'m not here, I\'m not here to do really, that I\'m here to live my life and just realize how it can be lived. Right? And share that with anybody else that I think similar to what you\'re doing or like, here\'s, here\'s some stuff I\'ve come across. You don\'t have to believe it, in order to receive it as it were. And I\'ll show you that and you can walk away thinking whatever you want type of thing. So you I love the idea of the focus intent to drive change to information. I love the idea of the biofeedback mechanism again, in reading like, I guess in this in this book, I wish I had it here. So upstairs, but in working with this energetic field, just literally a question for me. When you\'re working with this field, and you\'re working with the energetic field, like like I said, we kind of know we have an idea that\'s about six foot like around like that tour route. We\'re oil field right around the body. Are you is the biofeedback mechanism you\'re getting? Are you able to feel that and sense it as like kind of like blockages or just disturbances and energy around a person? Or what\'s your What do you mean by biofeedback mechanism?

Dr. T 35:16
How do you Well, it\'s a test. So there\'s a number of ways you can use your hands to or different muscles in your body to to test. And so we, what I\'m, what I\'m teaching is how to use this, this powerful feedback mechanism there\'s there\'s a million of them out there it\'s everything from muscle testing to know guys with the rods looking for the waterhole, there\'s a lot of these are out there, I just I\'m good at finding a lot of things and making them really simple. And I\'ve just discovered that I\'m a really good teacher, I know how to teach it. And so once you learn how to get in and ask simple, simple questions, yes or no questions, we have menus that you follow down to figure out what\'s going on in the body. So say you come in with leg pain? Well, is it a physical? Is it? Is it in the physical realm? Is it emotional issue or is a spiritual issue? And so then we just start chunking down those different? Once we get into one of those regions, we just chunk it down to find out, you know, what, what\'s the highest priority? What\'s going to have the biggest effect? Because what are we using the mechanism for? So you\'re talking about the biofield. The biofield is physical, that\'s a field you put out by your nervous system, your heart puts it out, your nervous system puts it out. But what does that what does that connected to? That\'s connected to consciousness? And that\'s what we\'re going after. We\'re going after we are accessing consciousness using a biofeedback mechanism to dissertation from consciousness, what the hell is going on? And Brandon, why is his leg hurt? And in you know, so many times they Oh, my leg hurt? Well, I did this, you know, I, you know, I stepped off, I took a wrong step off off a ladder, and I landed, what\'s your appears to be something physical, but it may not be. And and so we so we come from a place of curiosity, a place of neutrality, because you making taking that step you could have your mind could have been drifting into a moment of fear that you had fallen off a high place sometime. Yeah, the physical impact hurt the leg, he probably tore, some ligaments probably did some of that. But consciousness will lead us to the priority, which was the emotional effect. And then we will work. Once we\'re done with that we\'ll work back towards the things to fix the physical aspect. So we\'re talking about two different things, we\'re talking about the bio field, which is real. And we do get inside that bio field and do some work in there. And in my class are some things that you can do within that field, that are really fascinating, really, amazingly powerful. Again, I\'ve just gotten rid of all the junk that I\'ve studied, I\'ve studied, I could walk around this house and show you stacks of books. So there\'s a room full of books and so many things I\'ve studied. But it just doesn\'t, it doesn\'t deliver what I feel like we the this, this precipice we\'re on with this work is, it really truly is mind blowing. If we don\'t have if we don\'t have a miracle a day, I\'m pretty shocked. And if we don\'t have four or five a day, I\'m like, Oh, come on. Now. Let\'s do that. Got it. We got to find some new people or I\'m gonna need some help.

Brandon Handley 38:31
Right. I guess I guess, um, sounds to me like and, you know, could be from anywhere a little bit of Hawkins work like David Hawkins with like, kind of doing doing some of that, but I\'m sure expanded and then refined to your own practice. So yeah, I

Dr. T 38:46
love David David. Fantastic, great spiritual teacher, fantastic spiritual teacher, I am not a spiritual teacher. I am I can address a number of spiritual issues. Ya know, his and his work is, you know, I mean, it\'s in them that, you know, it\'s right up right up. My alley. Power versus force, right. Yeah. What, what book really got me going into that some of these things and, and, you know, he\'s a great spiritual teacher. But he was not doing the kind of stuff we\'re doing. We\'re using this stuff clinically. So no,

Brandon Handley 39:19
I mean, I guess a little bit of the muscle testing right

Dr. T 39:21
was Yeah, and we don\'t do any of that. Okay. I think I\'m onto something way more powerful. It\'s different. Yeah. Different, different. Just different. You know, my casting has, uh, you know, has there\'s a lot of inherent flaws and muscle testing, the show people teaching it aren\'t even aware of Sure. And so, you know, yeah, I\'m curious. I\'m curious. All right. It helps us doing this. Why is that not doing that? I\'ve always been curious. I\'ve got myself in trouble. And, you know, I\'m on my eighth life. I got to be careful.

Brandon Handley 39:47
For sure. Yeah, I love I love the idea, though, that you\'re you\'re you\'re you\'re going in there and you\'re using your biofeedback mechanism and you\'ve got like a kind of a checklist where you you know, Hey, is it Is it physical? Is it you know, is it spiritual? Could be? And maybe and then like, is this mental, emotional, and that\'s where like you\'re getting your your strongest pushback. And then and then you\'re saying, hey, the priority here is in this space. And now, and now, you know, what you found for yourself is that you\'re now teaching this, you want to talk a little bit about what these classes look like, and the type of people that are joining your work. Yeah,

Dr. T 40:25
everybody, it\'s, it\'s everyone joining, we had this last class. So we had, we had a 45 year old chiropractor. He\'s going to be the only class he\'s ever taken. He\'s do I\'ve done a testimonial for I\'m very proud of, he would, he wouldn\'t leave me alone, I kind of had to ditch him. I\'m kidding, Greg, if you heard this ever, he, you know, I can only handle so much praise. But you know, he really just said, he just gave me the highest compliments. It was such an honor to have him there. And we had a what else we had, we had a physical therapist, we had a medical doctor, we had a dancer, we had massage therapists, we had, you know, a CEO of a very large international corporation, secretaries, we had everybody all walks of life did the training, and everybody left being able to do this. So I\'m really, I\'m really humbled by what we\'ve put together. You know, 20 years ago, when I first met that doctor, who was there, we were we were having a drink after a seminar. And he was at, and we did some work on each other. We did some stuff on some people, some other peers who were there. So when are you going to teach us what? Well, you know, all, you know, all of this stuff on this? Yeah. But you just you just know how to show it to me in a way that I understand what the hell are you going to teach this? And so for 20 years, every time I see him, he\'s like, What are you gonna teach? When are you going to teach this? So I finally decided about five years ago to start writing it down. And over the course of five years, it just started, it just started really being revealed. And I thought that was that was, you know, that was an intention, you know, it was my intention was, hey, it\'s time I\'m not young, anything, I\'m not a young whippersnapper anymore. And, and so took me about five years to have it to a place where I felt okay, I can pass this on now. And do it in a way that I\'m comfortable with, because I am, I do expect everybody to have good results with this and understand it, you know, a lot of the seminars that you would go to have gone to over the years, you know, you get back to the office, just like what the heck, I\'m completely lost, I have no idea how to even start to implement this. Where\'s A, B, C, and D, I need something simple. Now I\'m a doctor, but I\'m not that smart. So, so the class I pulled all of this knowledge. And, you know, I\'ve modified or modulate all of it in different manners. And then I\'ve plugged in my own observations. And these these observations, once I set that intention to have this be able to form this class, we get these insights. And all these, these are angels, you know, they they whisper in your ear, they they go, Hey, did you check this? Did you look at that? And then I would and then when I start asking questions every now and then I just get a little tiny, little tiny thought. And that would be the answer to my question to my inquiry. And once I had enough of those, what you know, one of them is this biofeedback mechanism. Another one is how to be more powerful. And in asking the angels to do something, and and you start having these, once you start, once you start seeing, once you start seeing it, you start believing it, and pretty soon, pretty soon I had a whole stack, we have a very large manual that we go through, I\'ve actually have to take a whole bunch out because it\'s it just takes too long to teach it all. So I\'m going to have to do a masterclass. But but not until I have enough people trained in doing this first portion. Because the results you have with just those are absolutely, absolutely mind blowing. I mean, I could talk all night long about what the graduates already doing. They\'re just having tremendous results with animals with each other, got an email from a mother whose son I\'ve worked on for at least two years, all his stuff is gone. She took it home, fix him herself. And, you know, God bless her. I you know, that\'s, that\'s what I did this class for. You know, you can\'t fix everyone sometimes, you know, I might be, you know, console, he\'s the best at this right? And I can teach it to you, and you might be more resonance with that person and be better at it right off, because, you know, who knows how many angels there are right there. There are some people out there talking, you know, putting numbers on them and who gets to use them and this and that. That\'s all baloney. I think they\'re unlimited. And I think more some will listen to you more than they will meet. And that\'s how it\'s been. That\'s my that\'s clinically what I\'m seeing with my graduates. So the class is, was three days long. It\'s It\'s full is mind blowing.

Every single person in there is doing it before they leave, I won\'t let anybody out if they\'re not doing it. And we\'re just doing some really cool stuff. You know, I just think we\'re doing really cool things. We\'re doing some group healings, we\'re finding that five people focusing is more powerful than 120. People focusing is more powerful than five. So we\'re finding it and we\'re able to, we\'re just, we\'re just really setting this thing up where it\'s absolutely fun, and absolutely amazing. And I\'m all about the fun and amazing part. You know, if you saw my model somewhere, I\'m done when there is no fun. And that\'s, that\'s for sure. i That\'s me. I don\'t I don\'t want to be here. If it\'s not fun anymore.

Brandon Handley 45:51
I get that for sure. For sure. When you\'re talking about, I guess, connecting with these angels, and, you know, being able to receive messages, would you liken that to the Akashic field? Or would you say something different?

Dr. T 46:05
I think I, you know, I, you know, I don\'t know, obviously, if you\'re, you\'re talking to a farmer.

Brandon Handley 46:12
I mean, just just top of mind, right? Well, I

Dr. T 46:14
Well, I think what\'s happening with it with people, because, you know, I\'ve done some of the Akashic record stuff, I\'ve done some of the studies with that. And, you know, I never, ever found it to be powerful enough for me, and what I believe is happening, I think you\'re accessing consciousness. And I think that it\'s legitimate. It\'s one of the things that I\'m teaching in the in the classes clairaudience, which is similar to allow the Akashic Record readings. But we\'re able to change these, you know, we\'re able to use this knowledge with these tools that I\'ve put together to make unbelievable healthy changes in the body, we\'re fixing stuff is just unfixable. And so, you know, some of the people doing those kinds of readings, they\'re, they\'re hearing the messages, and many times they\'re able to pass them on. But Gosh, darn it, don\'t tell me this comes from a past life, and you can\'t help me with it. I mean, I hear this every single day, I\'m in the office, just about I heard it this morning, you know, all those fibroids are from a past life, you know, it\'s like, okay, fine, did she fix them for you? Or did the person fix them for you, help you with them tell you some way to get rid of them? Right. And the funny thing was, I was actually I was actually working on past life frequencies and this woman when she said that to me. So that\'s also consciousness, you know, it\'s also us connecting and her, you know, talent, you know, me saying, you know, she\'s reading, she\'s kind of reading my mind, you know? So, you know, so in the Claire audiences, know that that occurs when you\'re working with somebody, you know, we\'re entangling with them. That\'s whether you\'re sitting in front of me, or whether you\'re on the other side of the planet right now. We\'re entangled, and you\'re borrowing too much information, you have to send me a check. Got a smile.

Brandon Handley 48:07
On his stuff, so do I mean, I love it. Right. Like I just, you know, I was just curious whether or not you would like it, you know, that, you know, listening and tuning into angels see classic field? I don\'t know, right. I don\'t have that experience. Neither either way, but I\'m always curious what your interpretation is your look, you\'re using the energy, it\'s working. I don\'t have too many other questions at the end of the day, right? Like, that\'s me, right? What I you obviously love to learn how to do it too. Sure. But in the end of the day, if you always love the Wayne Dyer, you know, audio, that where he talks about, he\'s got hemorrhoids, and somebody comes up, and there\'s a crystal chair the points over to the crystal chair. And he says that, that chairs gonna, you know, clear your hemorrhoids. I\'m gonna go sit on that chair. Right. Like, I mean, that\'s just that\'s to sit.

Dr. T 49:00
Yeah, yeah, absolutely.

Brandon Handley 49:01
So the work that you\'re doing, if it\'s working, it\'s working on humans is working on people working on plants, and working on pets. I think that I think that the work that you\'re doing super awesome. I love that you\'re teaching it. Is there anything else you would want to touch on in this space? At this moment? We got a little bit a couple more minutes. And I didn\'t know whether or not like there\'s anything that we hadn\'t touched on just said that you might want to?

Dr. T 49:24
Well, I would just say quickly about what you just talked about with the Akashic records that that I\'m sure that you that if you haven\'t had that experience, yet, at some moment in time, you will, and you just haven\'t been taught how to recognize it. And it could just be something as simple thought that that\'s a weird thought. And that will open up that access for you more more so as you\'re just you know, continue doing what you\'re doing because you\'re not going to be able to help it because you\'re you\'re the spiritual don\'t master. And so, you know, and when it first happens, you\'ll you\'ll be you\'ll deny it and you\'ll Your contract your mind will be like, Ah, I don\'t think that was much and, and then you\'ll find out that you didn\'t pay attention to it and you should have you can maybe 40 had that happen, I don\'t know. But anyhow, pay attention for that, because I think it\'s going to start happening if it hasn\'t. The only other thing I\'d like to touch on is that is I would like to mention our website is a human engineer, an engineer, calm, it has all the bells and whistles, all the stuff we have, this is why I\'m out here doing this, I always I just kind of figured I would drift off into the sunset doing, you know, my stuff, one on ones, and my clients are the ones who put me up to this, Sharon\'s out there and she\'s ever hears this, she\'s the one who for four or five, six years will come in once a month and say, We got to find a bigger platform, you got to help more people, you got to teach this stuff. And so what we\'ve done is we put together these programs, and so it\'s one of them is got your back. And so if you have any kind of pain in your back your body, I don\'t care if it\'s to top your head, back, your heels, your back your legs anywhere you get on and we do one session a week, since an hour long session for four weeks. And so and it\'s with 50, could be with five, it could be with 100 other people, it doesn\'t matter. But so we have that program, we have crazy unknown shift. We\'ve got an emotional one coming up. I think we have migraines coming up. We\'ve got just different these different programs. About six years ago, we did some group healings first a very short period of time. And the results were magnificently unbelievable. The hard part was we didn\'t have the backbone to do it. I didn\'t have a team of people to answer the emails to get back to run it and do all that stuff. And so I just gave up on it. Well, Sharon wouldn\'t stop on me. And she introduced me to Jamie, who had set all this stuff up and put this in motion. So we\'re doing these programs now. And if you\'re having difficulty, and no one\'s been able to help you crazy unknown shift is probably what you got. And the programs are set up so that if you don\'t like it, you get your money back. And there\'s no doctor doing any of that. I think all the money I spent over the years of my time trial and error, all the studies I\'ve done, I\'m sure I\'m over a million dollars into it, and never wants to get a dime back. So if after the first hour, you\'re like, Yeah, nothing happened. I don\'t want to do this, we\'re sending your money back. So that\'s just unheard of in this field. Dad, I\'m really, really proud of that. And then

Brandon Handley 52:32
the we my wife and I went out to eat dinner probably a couple weeks ago, and there was a waitress in there who had been told she was basically she was gonna die, right? bed rest for four years. And she said pretty much the same thing. Like she was obviously she was set up and walk in and she was cured by a doctor. But she said that pretty much the same thing. Like how many how many places do you go to where you pay for a service that if it doesn\'t work, you don\'t get your money back? Right where like you go to like all these different doctors like she had and like you\'re talking about so I think it\'s really great that you\'re offering a service that if if somebody is not satisfied with it and doesn\'t see the results that you\'re offering their money back and I think that that\'s that\'s really cool and it\'s definitely not something you see any other doctor practicing. So love to hear that. Dr. T, I have like one section here, right? I love to I love to play that this is almost like a spiritual speed dating, right? Like somebody is tuning in to looking for like the next spiritual date. Dr. T, you could be got a question to ask and depending on how long we go with the questions, you ready? Sure. All right. Dear, spiritual Bachelor Number one, what is the greatest quality humans possess?

Dr. T 54:00
Love being able to love, give love, receive love, experience, the feeling of love. That\'s the greatest quality we have without question. Love is the most important thing in our existence. Just being being alive. Hopefully, hopefully, we come in with love come in here because of love and are able to share love and leave in a loving way. That would be I think that\'s the most incredible thing we possess for sure.

Brandon Handley 54:29
One of the things that I find in in the spiritual space is a I guess a challenge for me is men, right like just going through and still maintaining their manhood as it were right. And so I always say that because yeah, look, I agree like love is just powerful thing, right? That once harnessed is like wirelss right and you sit in that space and you just know that that\'s what you\'re sitting in. And that\'s what you\'re being. How have you found it? To, as a male, right to experience, love and maintain your manhood, I guess for lack of better terminology. I think you understand what I\'m saying.

Dr. T 55:17
Yeah, absolutely. You know, I\'m young, I\'m a heathen. So I\'m a man\'s man. You know. So, you know it, you know, there\'s it isn\'t easy, I don\'t think it\'s easy. For men. You know, it really is about opening your heart, in our hearts are tend to have been, you know, men are more men are more difficult to heal than women are, help heal. And it\'s kind of a strange dichotomy, because men will just trudge through life and just deal with all their stuff and not not ever asked for help. And, and women, a lot of them are struggling and they\'re, you know, they\'re lovers they\'re want, they\'re just that love comes easier to women. So, as men, we need to work on it, we need to, you know, I like I like to have love around me things that say love things that know love and a wall love, love and a candle. And, and really try to tap into that frequency of love and, and see the sunset, do things that that can help instill that feeling of love within you. You know, start sunsets, see the ocean, see the mountains, go for hikes, see nature. And so you know, I think it\'s a it\'s, you know, it\'s not it\'s not easy, especially younger men. You know, as I\'ve gotten older, it\'s easier, I think, to experience that and feel that. And certainly with the work I do, I\'m forced to and and it\'s made it easier for me. And I think we were talking to you, we mentioned earlier about, you know, having to hide and well, I\'m old enough now I don\'t have to hide anymore. I have no problem telling someone I love them. And and you know, and I don\'t need to hear I love you back. It\'s that, you know, I think with with time and experience that us men can become great lovers and can hold that space for for you know, for the feminine.

Brandon Handley 57:22
I appreciate that. Like I said that said I think that\'s a challenge for for men, especially right in the spiritual space or in this space sometimes to over rotate and how do you do it and and still keep your sense of your your sense of being right. So, Dr. T, thank you so much for being on today. Really appreciate the work that you\'re doing nothing but it\'s awesome. Love that you\'re out there. You\'re teaching as well. The website is human engineer.com. And when when do you sign up for the like your next round of students?

Dr. T 57:57
Oh, we\'re doing in March, I think I think it\'s the 10th 11th or Yeah, somewhere in March. I\'m not sure if the dates are solidified yet, but it\'s all on their website somewhere thing. I\'m not gonna look at that stuff. I just I just go there and deliver.

Brandon Handley 58:11
Dr. T. Thank you so much for being on today.

Dr. T 58:13
Thank you so much, man and you have a great night. Thank you. I

Unknown Speaker 58:17
really hope you enjoyed this episode of the spiritual dove podcast. Stay connected with us directly through spiritual co you can also join the discussion on Facebook, spiritual and Instagram at spiritual underscore Joe. If you would like to speak with us, send us an email through Brandon at spiritual Co Co. And as always, thank you for cultivating your mindset and creating a better reality. This includes the most thought provoking part of your day. Don\'t forget to like and subscribe to stay fully up to date. Until next time, be kind to yourself and trust your intuition

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Sylvain De Vreese - Gamify your Awakening

Published: Dec. 15, 2021, 1:28 a.m.
Duration: 35 minutes 4 seconds

Sylvain De Vreese and is a video artist, storyteller, and independent game developer. He has created an exploration game that invites you to a hypnotic
journey around the world. In search of meaning, discover the universal quest of our humanity.

  • A journey around the world
  • Immersive atmospheres
  • Meaningful messages
  • Realistic visuals
  • New genre
  • Soft puzzle games
  • Replayable experience
  • Secrets doors to discover
  • A potential infinite creation

Check out his website as well as this Kickstarter to help him continue development of this amazing project!

Kickstarter: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/maeone/ona/description Website: https://www.whatdoyousee.net/

Transcript below is machine generated:

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you\'ve questioned so much more than those around you. You\'ve even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited in this process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can\'t quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you, this world the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed now moving forward? We don\'t have all the answers but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another head of spiritual dub with your host Brandon Handley. Let\'s get right into today\'s episode.

Brandon Handley 0:41
Hey there spiritual joke. We are on here today with Sylvain the Furies he is a video artists storyteller and independent game developer. He connected with me through our spiritual spiritual dope feedback form, you know, kind of whatever is spiritual dope. And Sylvain is created a game called onah, which is kind of like this experiential, mystical journey to I\'ll just call it kind of like self discovery. I\'m not 100% sure how you\'re trying to describe the game. So we, but it looks pretty cool. It\'s like one of a kind. And he\'s currently got a Kickstarter fund going. And that\'s just kind of how we contacted I figured it\'d be great to have a conversation with them, understand the journey that he\'s had and introduce them to you and maybe hopefully, get you introduced to the game that he has created. Savannah. Thanks for hopping on.

Unknown Speaker 1:37
Yeah, thank you. Thank you.

Brandon Handley 1:39
Yeah. So I mean, I typically like to start these off with Sylvain is the idea that you and I are doing. We are we\'re spiritual beings, right, and that the universe speaks through us. And typically the universe speaks through us and to somebody who\'s listening in to the podcast, I know that they\'re listening today to check out your game. And kind of the story behind that. Also. Maybe, maybe there\'s somebody else out there that\'s been thinking about trying to do something similar, right, lead with spirituality and do what do it do with something meaningful for them? And they, they, they\'re gonna get a message from you. And it can only be delivered today to them through this podcast. What is that message today? So

Unknown Speaker 2:32
a message that could deliver? I mean, I don\'t know yet. But I\'m sure the words which came to the month when we are speaking now, like sometimes we don\'t plan what we say. But suddenly we say something meaningful that people receive and it can have an impact.

Brandon Handley 2:52
For sure, sure. Absolutely. That\'s definitely what\'s gonna happen in this conversation. So let\'s, let\'s talk about Spain, give us a little background into this game that you\'re creating called arena. What? What inspired you as far as I can tell, to take this journey, it\'s been a it\'s been a 1010 year journey. So let\'s, let\'s start somewhere that got you to travel the world to begin to create this game.

Unknown Speaker 3:20
Yeah, actually, it\'s not a 10 years, your journey is more 15 years journey. The thing is, like this ID popped up in my mind, like when I was a teenager, and I remember I was in a classroom. And earlier, I get decided this inspiration to create a game that could awaken the world. And that was the focus really, just this was a long time ago. So this kind of concept didn\'t exist that much at the time, and I felt Wow, this could walk, you know, I felt, of course, the world. Or civilization could be amazing. But a lot of things are lacking. And the sense of contemplation was something also really missing in most of the people. So somehow, people didn\'t perceive the beauty around, you know, didn\'t focus on the things that everyone was in their own mind and perceiving the things around and I kind of wanted to share that. So yeah, this was the starting point of creating a game that could focus in this on this perception of reality. So I started to write my notebooks, you know, through years. And then I was working as a graphic designer. And I quit my job to travel to investigate about all the spiritual contents around the world and finally did make me understood that the spiritual paths that have been developed since 1000s of years, reach this point of contemplation in this meditative state of mind that we could then be open and perceive things as they are, and not as we conceive them, but as our mind build them. But how are we really perceive them on the present moment? And is what I wanted to create with honor. And is what I wanted to inspire. So usually people who go to the game, sometimes, of course, they reach this state of mind, and they feel touch and realign with themselves and they feel great.

Brandon Handley 5:20
That\'s great that I guess I\'d be curious to see if your, that just came to you, as a team. What was your background, I guess that made you so open and aware and eat to even consider an awakening process. Process,

Unknown Speaker 5:39
nothing too much. Especially, I think I was just more quiet, I don\'t know. And, and, through kind of experience, I think I, I remember, the certain point was when I first start to see a tree, basically, you know, when sometimes you are a bit more receptive used to you look at a tree and you you see it, this was a starting point, because I really observe all the details of the leaves, the lights, the shadow, the the movement of everything in history. And then I put my eyes on all the people around I say, Oh, nobody seeds, we nobody seeds. And this was a starting point, like, yeah, there is something to express here. There is something because what I\'ve perceived that I felt so great, so open, so intuitive, you know, and so there is something to express there. And that could potentially add the word to, to see better.

Brandon Handley 6:34
So you\'re seeing all the beauty and everything that there was in the tree, and he just kind of noticed that not not too many people were really catching all the beauty that was around them and experiencing life as it was that that kind of summed up?

Unknown Speaker 6:52
Yeah, exactly. Exactly. You know, it\'s like when you go on holiday, and then you arrive near a beautiful landscape, some people will see it, they will really wow, see the sun the clouds and embrace the beauty of it, and some people are still looking them up and organizing the next day, you know that they\'re not really there, they\'re not really seeing, that\'s just this, this just this shift, you know, I think everyone of course, can really contemplate it\'s just, okay, a perception of, okay, we have it, we see it, you know,

Brandon Handley 7:23
it\'s so true. Just like you\'re saying, a lot of times people get to get to the get to the destination, and already there, they\'re not, they\'re not experiencing the destination at all. They\'re already ready for the next thing. You\'re saying, Okay, we got here in our planning tomorrow, we don\'t even we don\'t, it\'s more about like the steps that they took, and everything else than it is about the place that they\'ve gotten to not not let themselves experience that at all. So let\'s talk about this journey, then, as you popped on and started traveling to different spiritual destinations. Let\'s talk a little bit about where you went to and what you experienced there.

Unknown Speaker 8:11
Okay, so as I told you, I was just basically working as a graphic designer was great, but I felt since the beginning that I needed to travel, actually, in order to complete this project. So yeah, I quit the job and I start first to go more as a tourist, you know, like, I was first in Japan because I was really attracted by this country. Then I switched to all the country like Cambodia to see angle, that\'s all the ruins, you know. And I was practicing this technique of stop motion, that are present in the game, you know, these pictures, I do one step one picture and I do 1000s and 1000s of pictures and you, you can enter in samples and really explore the urea as you are there, you know, and I was practicing there in Japan, Cambodia and things, but already the picture are great. And then they reach India. And India for me was a really shift a really mind blowing experience. Like, in the time finally, I was one year in India, going back, you know, and this really transformed me changed me. I almost lost myself because this culture this country is so then so intense that it\'s like a mind blow or Western world minds, you know, is is really different. So, and then I continued to do all the pictures, all the footage or around and slowly slowly finally, I collected a lot of different kind of pictures from all around. And in the same time, the concept of the game evolved, you know, so I had all my notebooks and three years of traveling I was creating this concept of owner

Brandon Handley 9:54
what was it I guess in India that blew your mind so to speak, I guess I understand that. Yes, it\'s an intense culture. But sounds like something really transformed you and shifted you there. What would you say happen?

Sylvain De Vreese 10:11
Yeah, nine things, of course. But you heard, of course, about the concept of synchronicity. So this coincidence weapon time, two times, you know, and it happened here, of course, all the time, like this magic of life that bring you the right circumstances, the right moments, you know, in India, for me, it was every five minutes, every five minutes, I had miracles. Like, he wasn\'t saying it was us so much, you know? And we some friends, were we were looking at each other, like, is it really possible? Like, is it really, you know, it was so intense, so much that things are open. And my theory about how it\'s possible is because in India, they believe, so everything have this open mind open frequencies to say, okay, everything is possible, my friend, and because everyone believes that things can happen, it can have happen, you know, and compared to all Western world, that people have more disclosing minds to reach for these kind of things, you know, it\'s not possible anything, so I believe that we can block this vibration to happen. And because, yeah, I think it\'s in the mind that everything can flow. And finally, is how you travel in the in this country, you you go with the flow. And if you believe your intuition, you go where you feel to, and you don\'t plan too much, somehow things happen. And, of course, our rich really symbolic in meaningful places during this journey, some holly montains, that many special things happen, these kind of things, you know, everyone in this country has a different kind of experience like this. And at the NFL, this is something this there is something and I believe this prove it can be can be seen again, in the in honor, you know, some people perceived again, and while they see all these pictures, and is it real, is it possible, but yes, when I saw what I experiment, what I felt, and it\'s kind of content in the game itself.

Brandon Handley 12:15
That\'s fantastic. So I love two pieces about that. One is that sounds like you were able to capture some of that essence, and put that into the game, which is fantastic. You know, just for the audience, and I also also love the I get it, I get what you\'re saying, in terms of being open to those vibrations, if you\'re surrounded by other people who believe then then it\'s more than likely, it\'s more possible for the sake of people that are checking checking in. So what you what would be like one or two, what you would consider a miracle that you might be able to share.

Unknown Speaker 13:01
Yeah, I could share. But of course, miracles are really personal, in a way of you explain them, they lose their impact and power, you know, is really a special thing I can I can give examples here and just for fun, but again, it\'s just I also ation,

Brandon Handley 13:17
and I get it like, how often do we share, like what we would see as Americans somebody wants to somebody wants to explain it away, like, Oh, that was just coincidence, or Oh, that was just the same but like to us, right? We say Well, no, you understand, like, stand like this is this experience could only be a miracle could only be a miracle right to you. And I get that I get that so I understand.

Unknown Speaker 13:43
And also the accumulation of all these things, you know, I can tell which one I could start with lightning let\'s say this like the for me the lightning the storm was kind of following me at some points. And I don\'t know why for which reason, but wherever I go in the country, I knew that in few days of massive storm will happen and lightning will be there and it happens and in a way in circumstances that you suddenly you know, you look suddenly at the same they\'re lightning appears just at this right moments, you know, and it\'s one time and several times and then what\'s this and then it\'s have a huge impact and and meaning and this is one thing okay, I could explain more details against the personal and other things. And this is even more obvious that was in lead deck is really not India, kind of Himalaya with the Buddhist you know, the Lila was there. And all the monks were doing a ceremony in the mountains. And they were singing old mantra and all this music and you know, really powerful vibration. People were shaking. Everyone was weird and shaking strong. You know, energy was really, really high. And it was blues sky with the sun in the middle. And suddenly during in the middle of the ceremony, like a circle of rainbow appears all around the sun during the ceremony, and so you everyone was shaking in the probably was really intense. And the ceremony was important and ceremony. And the next day I remember, my energy was so strong, and I could do all my exercise like 2010 times more, you know, it was something like this. So miracle not, I don\'t know, but it\'s a tiny example of many things happen, I could have other examples like this, you know. And, yeah, this by accumulation made me think there is something we can open, there is vibration by we can, you know, like, enhance the energy and, and feel something almost magical.

Brandon Handley 15:50
You know, just, I think that, I think being able to kind of have that experience of the storm, following you. I\'ve been in similar experiences myself, is pretty, pretty cool, right? Just knowing that the storm is there, and where it\'s gonna be, and it\'s part of part of your life. And then this other experience of kind of joining with all the monks and lamas, and then having having that circular rainbow, but the power of the collective, right, the vibration kind of running through your body is also you know, the vibration that\'s being created by all those around you. And being open to it. You can feel the energy of a surge. This is what it\'s kind of like when humanity comes together for a singular purpose. for the betterment of good, you have a raised vibration yourself, and an energetic level that it\'s just through the roof, right? There\'s this kind of what I\'m hearing, and that\'s miraculous to experiences. One reason is because we rarely get to experience that, but then to experience it, knowing that that\'s kind of an I defer to you. But that\'s that\'s what experience, that\'s what humanity is about. It\'s coming together and pooling our energy for some of these amazing singular experiences, but it could happen all the time if we if we love it, right. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 17:25
And it\'s through here. Sometimes we know we do kind of circle and little ritual, and we seem together. And already the the energy is different. Now we feel more connected. And wow, it\'s the air. The light can difference because the energy field, I don\'t know, I have no theory exactly. I don\'t know, actually, what\'s happening now I\'m not. But obviously, we feel different than them more connected. And in this stage, miracles could happen, little things, that okay, we have the right things at the right moment. And because all together, we increase the energy in a circle, you know, yeah, no attention. And he is true that, unfortunately, we are seen in civilization, we are still in the age that it doesn\'t happen that much. Because the logic of our system for how we organize our lifestyle is a bit more individual. So we go in the streets. And you know, we are more in our minds. Sure, we are not connecting with everyone all around. But there is something to do there. And I don\'t know how to organize this in a massive scale in our society. But it could be interesting and amazing to reach that point. Because I don\'t know what could happen, but probably crazy, beautiful things.

Brandon Handley 18:36
For sure, for sure. For sure. I think there\'s definitely potential, there\'s definitely I love that you hit the we work from a logical mind or imaging from a linear mind. And I think that, as you experienced in India, and as you\'ve experienced your, your, your journey, we know that this isn\'t linear, right? But when we tell a story, we have to tell it in a linear way that so that the mind can follow a timeline, right? So the mind can kind of put it all together. But in reality, it happens in from all around, right? There\'s no There\'s no absolute linearity to it, just how to tell the story so that somebody can follow it.

Unknown Speaker 19:20
Yeah, exactly. Actually, I had a talk with a friend recently. And the conclusion was these like in India, not only in India, but he was really present there for me. They perceive things differently. And that\'s the thing is like, as as Westerners we have been educated in one way or mine have been a bit rigid in one way. We are efficient on many things. So we don\'t deny this you know, we are efficient, some such things is great. But for this perception of things, it seems that they perceive things differently. And it\'s true when we go there, the observers as empty on that aspect. They see that we are no logic mind. Calculating loads and organizing things, but the perception is quite different on that aspects if if I make myself understand what

Brandon Handley 20:11
percent I get, I get that so. So you know, you can\'t you put all this together and weakening game. Let\'s talk a little bit about what that experience might be like, for somebody that\'s out there. Like I said, just kind of trying to figure that out what, what is an awakening game? And what does the name owner mean? Me?

Unknown Speaker 20:38
Nah, I mean, first of all one. So the first one also from his first real strong project was one unity is also referred actually to Noah\'s Ark, you know, this myths of Noah\'s Ark who go transmitted here the life form, but Noah\'s Ark, because the knowledge all this content could be transmitted to further generations. That was kind of the intention. And Noah, I mean, it\'s also kind of the name of my cat because my cat scan is named Noah. And it\'s just I took this name I think it\'s okay. And so what was your other question is like home yeah, receive it?

Brandon Handley 21:33
Yeah. How would you know play in the awakening game before? How would you describe that to somebody that isn\'t even on the spiritual path the spiritual path

Unknown Speaker 21:45
um, so Israel I observed reaction when I want to show the game to tiny exhibition there most of the people really well gets totally immersed in it and they feel after the experience they feel wow, something happened there. You know, I have most of it this I have some people who kind of cried it\'s for Israel but of course it\'s happened it\'s like they cried because they exactly so when they need it needed to see at that moment, you know, it kind of unlock something in them. And this affiliates assimilate a bit like this concept of tarot cards, you know, the game or now you can see whatever you you choose your path, so everyone will see different things. So sometimes it could happen that you receive exactly the content you need, because you click on the on the choice you need to receive you know. So it\'s moved something inside, and also it realigns your meditative state of mind. So people who go through it the feel aligned, we could even I could showcase this in the tiny party or something. And after that people are feeling Wow, they feel balanced, right and centered. And good, you know, and the first kind of reaction I had is really rare, but it\'s happened some people and I know that these people won\'t like it is rare, but they quit before the end of the game. They, they they cannot they don\'t want to you know, some people are resistant to this kind of vibration to it. Some people are you know it because it, it could move things. So, understand I agree, some people are not ready or I don\'t know the oils not on their pass. Maybe they don\'t need that at that moment, at that moment of their life. But definitely awakening game for me is moving something inside that realign us, you with yourself. You know.

Brandon Handley 23:45
I love that description. That idea. And I think that that is the awakening. That is the wakening is awakening, to find out who you are. Right? Get get into contact with yourself. And I always used to make fun of course, you know, look, man, at one point made fun of people like What do you mean to go on a search for yourself? You\'re right there. Right. And the whole idea of the concept of finding out who you are, yeah, you\'re right. There, there are people that just aren\'t ready. They\'re in that phase of their life right now to to experience that or to be with it. And and that\'s okay. That\'s okay. I\'m sure I\'m sure. I\'m sure you\'ve heard the I guess the Buddha\'s line about the blood of a flower right you don\'t you know, you don\'t go to a bud but of a flower and squeeze its head to make it to make it bloom and blossom. He can\'t. Right. And I think that that\'s a similar situation here, right? You\'re putting you\'re putting someone into an accelerated growth state. And and it\'s awesome if that person\'s ready for it. But if it\'s not an efficient Is not it could actually could actually make it slow down for them. Right. And in either way I love I love the idea and the concept. Again looking looking for what\'s the side? So sorry, interrupt. Go ahead. Yeah, so half a house a couple of Yeah. Yeah,

Unknown Speaker 25:18
no. So wanted to say that on a larger scale, I would like to make the project evolve and also expressed some topics that in my vision matters. So some topic who could show so the you know, the the confusion, we are confusing. So we express what\'s going on more and more in the world, not not concerning the current situation since two years actually even more even before that was intention, like show how, as human species, we are still weirdly divided and confused. And we don\'t know what\'s the purpose of things. I also want to express that. And also, I wanted to add something of what you say is like, finding ourselves to the game is like, it\'s not mental. So I don\'t give any clue about who we are. Actually, they I believe just that finding yourself go through. Yeah, empty mind. You know, this meditative presence. Okay, we just good. And here we can feel or self more than knowing or self. And that\'s what I try to reach. With with the experience. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 26:31
Sounds like now\'s like getting getting you kind of out of your out of your mind and into your heart and into your heart.

Unknown Speaker 26:39
Maybe Yeah, just hearts. Yeah, exactly. The heart

Brandon Handley 26:43
of it. Would you say that this game would be able to help somebody to find their purpose.

Unknown Speaker 26:51
Beats may happen, of course, but like a song, or a movie could have someone to film their purpose. So yeah, this game could as well definitely

Brandon Handley 26:59
better. I love that. I love that this is an evolution, evolutionary project for you. So it\'s ongoing. It doesn\'t just stop is. And I think that the awakening process is like that, too. Right. The awakening process. I think a lot of people think that once you\'ve awakened, or once you awakened that you\'re done, right, like, Oh, I\'ve gotten to this place. No, you just started, right? Like this is this is kind of a new beginning. So and then I think that if I understand correctly, you\'re working with your brother on this project, right? As he\'s doing, he\'s doing the music. What\'s it like working with your brother on this project? Project?

Unknown Speaker 27:42
Yeah, it\'s great. I mean, so he does all the sound design music and also we brainstorm at the end to make the product the best English finishing the best, you know, for the, for the details to have the best quality as possible. And that\'s great, because it seems that I can, I can claim that I could be really good for visuals and these things, you know, and he bring all the sound design in a perfect way. And of course, we exchange to have the best quality but it\'s enhanced, definitely the quality like it creates the experience even stronger. Like people say that the visuals are amazing, but the sound design is just incredible. And finally all together like crazy, strong, immersive experience. So that\'s the point Yeah, it was great to work with him really really nice because it\'s like it\'s not that we are the same mind but we understand what\'s needed to to be for this project you know

Brandon Handley 28:49
that\'s pretty cool. It\'s pretty cool. So you\'ve got only got about seven days left on your Kickstarter project right? Which is where people can go to find out more about this game they can get to download they get the little bit dig a little bit more of the backstory there. Where can they go? Go to find out more about this game?

Unknown Speaker 29:13
And the moment Yeah, for seven days the Kickstarter page of course, for me is a priority obviously. And after that the website Official website is called What do you see dotnet

Brandon Handley 29:24
What do you see that that? What are your plans I guess past you know, Kickstarter, what happens if you get to Kickstarter for the scammer for this game?

Unknown Speaker 29:33
Okay, so I think I will try to go if it\'s possible, of course, in Mexico for the pyramids, things and then Egypt also in the same purpose, the ruins pyramids, the the beginning of civilizations and you know, meaningful visuals, then I think I will reach some cities. I\'m here in Berlin activity at the moment and I also want to including on our Something more, a bit dark that it is something more about the confusion. And, you know, for now the experience is really magic and uplifting and wow, mystic and beautiful. I want to switch also to different aspects of things and show different vibes different atmosphere to how we feel, you know. And so I want to, to investigate and try a lot of things in that aspect. And I also want to create more visual painting, like interactive paintings, you know, kind of puzzle games, contemplative puzzle games and, and working on that, to create this game, like with a lot of different kinds of doors, we can open

Brandon Handley 30:44
that, I think that\'s pretty cool. So you\'re looking to go to South America, Egypt and other spaces to continue to build on the map of experiences that you\'ve already built on, say, India and Japan, and add those into the game making this kind of a global global experience. And then the idea of Yeah, look, I mean, there\'s lots of great things in spirituality. But there\'s also the dark darkness and the emotions that sometimes we neglect the are inherent to who we are not only as people, but as an overall global civilization. So it\'s really cool that you\'re going to begin to be working to, to incorporate that into into the rest of the game. So we

Unknown Speaker 31:36
need to see though, yeah, yeah.

Brandon Handley 31:39
So what else? Is there anything else? I guess I\'m gonna make this kind of a short one, so that we can get this out of the people? Is there anything else I guess, about the game? Or what people are experiencing? Oh, that was one more question Was your family, you know, how\'s your family feel about this project, when you told them what you were going to do versus kind of where you are? Now love to hear what that is?

Unknown Speaker 32:02
Good question. I mean, that\'s, that\'s strange. I they never understood. So I had to fight by myself all these years, they start to understand slowly, I guess, is just like this, you know, sometimes people have different mindset, it\'s how it\'s meant to be. And still love is there, you know, are good, but for the content itself is like, they finally kind of trust it. They trust me is fine. I had resources is fine, but never really get into it to understand until recently, actually. And I think they are happy that they see me progressing my quest, my dream and go for it after all these years and holding on, you know, and we\'ll see know how, how it goes? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 32:53
Eggs, I think that\'s one of the things on the spiritual journey on the spiritual path, when when you kind of open yourself up to it and you start to go to do these things, you start to have the conversations with those people that are close to you. There may not be like a deep understanding, right? And there may be this, this this rush to kind of keep you safe. Well, I don\'t know. Maybe go back to me a graphic arts designer, at least that stable and you can make money there, right.

Unknown Speaker 33:20
It\'s a different generation. And we are lucky no to have internet and to have things to open. We can travel, we can have these experiments. And this generation often is the same things. And the parents can have their mindsets. The lifestyle. I understand. I agree. I don\'t want to interfere. It\'s fine. Of course, we had conversation and things but it doesn\'t matter. I don\'t have to be right. You know, it\'s, it\'s just how it is. And if love is the it\'s fine, you know?

Brandon Handley 33:53
Fantastic. So over on the Kickstarter, I\'ll put a link out there for that. And then if you go over to what to see. Net, that\'s one word we can find out about you got connections there. I asked for Facebook and all the social media platforms are so people will be able to connect with you there. Seven days left in the game. I\'m feeling senses later. Hopefully you\'ve gotten hopefully you\'ve gotten all your funding, and hopefully you\'re able to continue to develop and release the game. Thanks for being on today. So

Unknown Speaker 34:28
yeah, thanks. Thanks for

Unknown Speaker 34:33
really hope you enjoyed this episode of the spiritual dove podcast. Stay connected with us directly through spiritual dove.co You can also join the discussion on Facebook, spiritual dough and Instagram at spiritual underscore Joe. If you would like to speak with us, send us an email to Brandon at spiritual dough CO and as always, thank you for cultivating your mindset and creating a better reality. This includes the most thought provoking part of your day. Don\'t forget to like and subscribe to stay fully up to date until Next time be kind to yourself and trust your intuition

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Amie Dean - Akashic Records: A New Way to Connect with Your Past

Published: Dec. 12, 2021, 12:25 p.m.
Duration: 58 minutes 35 seconds

Amie Dean is a certified clinical trauma counselor and an Ascension Coach. She helps driven, empathic women struggling with self-criticism and not feeling good enough, heal their inner child wounds so they can live an authentic, spiritually awakened life- true to their souls.

Connect with Amy over at

https://www.one-awakening.com

Transcript AI Generated:

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you\'ve questioned so much more than those around you. You\'ve even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited in this process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can\'t quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you, this world, the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don\'t have all the answers, but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another head of spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let\'s get right into today\'s episode.

Brandon Handley 0:41
Hey, there\'s spiritual dope. We are on here today with Amy Dean. She is a certified clinical trauma counselor and an ascension coach. She helps driven empathetic women struggling with self criticism and not feeling good enough to heal their inner child wounds so that they can live an authentic spiritually awakened life true to their souls. Two things here for you, Amy, first of all, thanks for having a short bio. Second, you know, happy to have you here. And I appreciate it. I know we try to connect you. You see you travel, kind of around a good bit last time you and I tried to connect, we weren\'t able to have a strong connection but happy to you know, reconnect. Right? Sometimes we set these, we set these up and we don\'t connect and then we never hear from each other again. So, so glad we\'re able to, to to to pick it back up. Thanks for being here today.

Amie Dean 1:31
Yes, thank you. It really is truly a pleasure to be here. And thank you for being so flexible too. I know I do travel often and just did a four corners tour of the US over the past year and back where we started from. So now this is just the new beginning so to speak.

Brandon Handley 1:49
Freight, and you\'re you\'re out in San Diego right now. Is

Amie Dean 1:51
that right? I\'m in San Diego. Yes. And this is home base. This is where you know, when I call home? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 1:58
Yeah, fantastic. So I like to start this off with the whole idea that you and I are spirituals for universal energy, like we\'re the vessels where, you know, that energy is expressed. Right? And the idea is that you and I are going to have a conversation here today, you and I will, we\'ll have our dialogue and we\'ll try we\'ll figure it out. And then there\'s going to be somebody else who\'s listening today, that\'s going to pick something totally different out of what we talked about. And it\'s gonna be exactly what that person needs, maybe for their awakening, maybe to pick themselves off the ground through an awakening or you know, not not be so you know, not be so taken aback by their awakening, and what you know, just what is that message today that\'s coming through you for that person?

Amie Dean 2:46
Yeah, I love how you put that, by the way to that it\'s, it\'s almost like this is the channel, right, and people are getting exactly what they need in the moment. So I would say the biggest message is that we all have an inner child, and this inner child within us, it\'s natural state is to be innocent and playful and loving, and completely in tune with the joy that we are naturally. But sometimes we have these wounds. And most people I would say have wounds, you know whether or not you\'ve been through trauma, although of course trauma can make a huge impact on the you know, I would say the depth of wounds that an injured inner child part might carry. But with that being said, it\'s totally 100% healable to work through these wounds that the inner child carries. And often we don\'t necessarily see this as a stepping point on the spiritual awakening journey. Sometimes, you know, we might go to therapy, for example, and just work on our past or heal certain memories. But it really does keep us stuck. These wounds keep us stuck on the spiritual awakening path. So I\'d love to impart some insights around that today and how to work through those wounds to heal them so we can awaken to our true nature as love and joy.

Brandon Handley 3:57
Sure, sure. Would you would you say that these trauma wounds are often blocking us from our spiritual awakening.

Amie Dean 4:09
Absolutely, yeah, I would say they are. And, you know, and also this is maybe a little bit, you know, often the left field a little bit, but I would say that when we even work to heal our trauma, this is on a conscious level, right? We\'re coming to it on a sense of, Oh, I know, I have this memory or I have this belief and it\'s keeping me stuck. And so we\'re coming to therapy, for example, or coaching or whoever, you know, we end up you know, moving through this kind of growth experience. But we don\'t always know exactly sometimes what is causing our triggers, you know, on a subconscious level. And so there can be some subconscious wounding, you know, I hear a lot from from people when they come to see me it\'s something like, you know, I\'ve worked through this before, I don\'t know why, you know, I still have these triggers in my relationship, for example, or why I you know, still feel like, I\'m just not happy, you know, in the way that I thought I could be after healing these wounds. And sometimes there\'s some subconscious factors there that could be keeping, you know, person from really knowing their wounds, and knowing exactly what that inner child might be going through within their within their heart.

Brandon Handley 5:14
Right. Yeah, I mean, there\'s there\'s a lot there for sure. Just trying to understand. Even accessing that inner child can be a challenge, right? That admitting that there\'s an inner child there, and then I\'m sure there\'s plenty people will be like, I\'m not wounded. I\'m fine. But I think that everybody\'s got a little bit of something. Right? Even if it\'s just a nice grape, right, address it? I think, and I don\'t know, would you call would you call doing this type of work similar to shadow work? Are they one of the same? Are they different yet?

Amie Dean 5:47
Oh, no, that\'s a really great point, it is absolutely shadow work, I would say on the deepest level, can give you an example to I\'m glad you brought up you know how to access the inner child or just, you know, the difficulty in accessing it sometimes. And I would say that it is a little bit more difficult on your own. But when you\'re working with someone directly, whether it\'s a friend or you know, a therapist or a coach, it can be really helpful to have somebody to see you right, And to see these different aspects of you showing up. But you know, for example, I, you know, I have clients, sometimes they\'ll come to our session, and they\'ll say, I have nothing to talk about today. And there\'s nothing going on, and I\'m feeling pretty good, actually, everything\'s going fairly well, I mean, it\'s not great, but it\'s not bad. And then you know, we\'ll do a little bit of digging, and we\'ll start to, you know, go into meditation, meditation is a really big help in activating the inner child and getting to know her, or him or, you know, whichever, you know, also, the inner child can show up, as, you know, as an animal, sometimes, too, right? There\'s so many different ways that this inner child shows up within us. And so when we are looking at this inner child, sometimes, you know, it shows up out of nowhere, you know, in that moment in our work together, where that little, you know, little person inside says, I just need more love, or I\'m not getting the kind of experience that I need right now. Or I need a break, or I\'m tired of working so hard, or whatever that might be for that person. And typically, my client is taken back by it, I see the look of surprise on their face, their eyebrows are raised, and they\'re confused. Like, I didn\'t know, this was happening inside of me, I thought that everything was actually okay. And then tears, you know, sometimes will come out and they\'ll, you know, recognize that that\'s that little, you know, little self inside coming out and trying to trying to heal, trying to move through the wounding, just by being in contact with, you know, that person\'s higher self. And then that\'s a lot of the work that I do is helping people contact their higher self so they can connect with their inner child.

Brandon Handley 7:42
Sure, no, I think that\'s pretty. One of the things that I noticed and doing some of this work, is exactly what you\'re saying, we were really good at lying to ourselves. I\'m fine. I\'m great. I\'m doing I\'m doing everything I need to be doing. And it\'s when it\'s when you have somebody else out there asking you that second question, it could be your spouse, you know, it could be anybody that\'s willing to kind of ask you the second questions. But typically, we\'re really good at lying to ourselves, and we feel like we\'re just fine. And it\'s not until somebody asks you what\'s beyond that question. Another thing that I found is that we\'ve got a narrative that we don\'t realize that there are holes in, right, and we go and we share that narrative with, with a coach such as yourself, or somebody that, you know, that that we\'re working with. And that and those questions that there\'s that plank hole in the narrative, they get asked, and we\'re like, Oh, my God, I didn\'t even realize like, that was missing. I\'ve been driving around with three wheels, right? Instead of four type of thing. So very cool. What What, um, you know, I\'d love to talk about the journey to where you are today to the work that you\'re doing. So how did you find yourself in this line of work? Start wherever you want?

Amie Dean 9:03
Yeah, what a great question. So I would say that I\'ve always been drawn to, you know, I could even start really young, I was six years old, teaching my little sister to read. And I was thinking, I\'m going to be a teacher someday. This is what I\'m going to do. I just knew it and not in the way of course, that I am a teacher now. But as time went on, I realized I have something to share, I have something I want to, you know, impart to others and I really felt like a helper. And for a while there, I didn\'t know what that looked like. And I didn\'t know what that would exactly feel like, but I decided, you know, to become a coach. It just realized, you know, it just feels right. I feel like I just enjoy talking with people in this way. And I was helping, you know, my friends would come to me naturally, you know, and and ask for advice. And I realized, okay, maybe I have a knack for this and decided to become a coach and did some coaching training and then realize I had a client actually, who changed things for me pretty dramatically. This client came to me with a lot of mental health issues and a lot of challenges that they were seeing a therapist for, and then seeing me separately as their coach. And I learned a lot from her in the recognition that the coaching work I was doing was really limited as much as I wanted to help, you know, heal mind body spirit, and I felt there was a huge integrative connection with that I just didn\'t have the skills, I didn\'t have the resources, you know, as a coach. So I decided, okay, this matters to me, I know, there\'s absolutely need to have a much bigger picture, I think, you know, in order to understand how to heal, and how to work through things, not just on, you know, the spiritual, emotional level. But I think if I understand the mental, you know, side of things, the psychological side, then it would make a big difference for me. So I looked into going to graduate school, and I thought, you know, what, I\'m going to become a psychotherapist, and I\'m going to make this work. And I moved from Florida to California, and went to school, at a really small transpersonal more holistic psych psychotherapy School. And from there, I realized that this was my path that I was always meant to integrate psychology and spirituality together, and then spent, you know, a couple years really, you know, learning therapy and what that was like, and understanding, you know, the holistic side of that too, which was excellent, which 100% connects with coaching in that way. But then I realized, I really want to do coaching still. So then I just began doing both and realize there\'s, there\'s a way you can do that. So I think, you know, it just took me some time to realize that clients had certain need, right for Mind Body Spirit connection, and I didn\'t have the skills at the time to do that. But after, you know, going to therapy school, realize that that was going to make a big difference, I think for the clients that I was going to work with. And, of course, you know, I want to mention, you know, something important to you just in a vulnerable way, I had to go through a lot of my own trauma healing in, you know, during this journey. So as I was talking with that client, you know, we\'re winding back to that coaching client, I recognized in her you know, there was some mirroring trauma showing up in me, and I realized, you know, I thought that was healed, I thought I had healed my own trauma around this. And it brought up, you know, a lot of triggers for me. And so it was a journey. It wasn\'t just a how do I learn to help others heal, but through that, it was learning how to truly heal myself. And it was something it was a journey I never, ever could have anticipated. But I discovered, you know, who I really am through that process. So I know that it\'s a long journey, but I think that kind of sums up, you know, the main points of it.

Brandon Handley 12:38
Right now it does, and it\'s great that you you already knew at a young age that hey, you wanted to help and kind of facilitate others learning and coming along their journeys. And, you know, so you go to a psychotherapist route, and then you end up at this transpersonal holistic school, I\'ve never even heard of such a thing. So I love I love that idea. Can you talk a little bit more about what that education was like? Because, again, when I think of somebody going to a psychotherapist school, I think of like this kind of this, I don\'t know, what was called clinical studies, you know, that type of thing, white jacket, and when you say transpersonal holistic school, I think burning sage and you know, dreamcatchers. So, yeah, so I\'d love to know, just like a little bit of how those two merged for you. And I mean, what drew you more to the spiritual side versus going straight clinical?

Amie Dean 13:38
Ooh, yeah, that\'s good one, too. So I went to so the school I went to is called Sofia University in Palo Alto, California. And the school itself is kind of like a cohort model. And it\'s very different. You\'re right. It\'s not like the white wall clinical ideas, sit in a classroom and you know, listen to a lecture kind of thing. It was more overall sitting in a circle together. And it was a very small cohort, you know, of, you know, sometimes even five people in a classroom, and it was very experiential. And we did a lot of art therapy and getting to know ourselves through meditation, and then using other kinds of therapy that you probably wouldn\'t have heard, you know, wouldn\'t hear us most times, like internal family systems, or psycho synthesis and all these different, you know, they\'re just pointing to understanding that there is a core self, and there\'s an OS in here, you know, that\'s beyond our personality that\'s beyond who we think we are. And so you\'re right, there was, you know, this idea of the burning of stage and, you know, and understanding, you know, how to actually bring, you know, crystals into some of the work that we do, and, you know, a very deep level, it was very connective, right, it was more of a relational experience, you know, with therapy and understanding, you know, our approach. And you know, more so than here\'s, you know, here\'s what you need to learn. Now go out and kind of make that a reality. It was more like you\'re going to learn it here. You\'re going to get the experience here. And you\'re going to take that right into the next mixed into the next stage of your therapy work. So it felt more integrative for me, you know, just bringing that all together, we did a lot of, you know, inner somatic body work and understanding how our body, you know, connects with our mind and our spirit and really getting a hold on who we are, as therapists, you know, not so much as this is what a therapist is, right? If that makes sense, a little bit more of an eye and identity, you know, experience around that. So that was that was that school? And I would say, I would never ever go back and no regrets around that. I think that that was exactly what I needed. And leading up to why I went there. And my spiritual journey, you know, to get there was, you know, I\'ve so I\'m definitely an empath, I\'ve always been very highly sensitive. So I\'ve always picked up on emotions of others, you know, quite frequently, and it really caused me a lot of anxiety growing up. So I had a lot of anxiety as a young child had no idea how to manage it, or how to cope with it. And so as time had gone on, you know, I realized that I was also having the psychic experiences, in addition to the anxiety. And so then I was really freaked out, of course, right as a young child, and no understanding as to what that means, you know, I\'m seeing my grandmother who had passed in the living room, and I\'m having anxiety getting up every day. And so I just didn\'t really know how to sort through the experience, but I felt a draw. Anyway, I felt a draw to how do I figure this out? Who, who is this enemy, or what\'s happening inside of me. And that\'s when I, you know, started embarking on, you know, a totally different journey than my upbringing, which was Christian at the time. And at that point, realized, I would say, maybe in my late teens, it didn\'t really, you know, connect with my needs. It wasn\'t something that was really helping me thrive and understand who I am as a soul. And so I would say at that point, started looking into different spiritual books. And, you know, leaders such as Neale Donald Walsch was a really big life changer for me, you know, I would say, Abraham, you know, Hicks, that kind of, you know, experience to more manifestation Louise Hay, all these different authors really gave me an understanding that there\'s more to life than what we see and what we experienced. And then my anxiety started to subside. And I started to feel better. And I started to understand my psychic abilities a lot more and realize, okay, I\'m different, maybe I\'m not the same as a lot of people I know. But it\'s not bad, different, right. So I had to learn through that, you know, that it was just who I am. And a lot of other people were also struggling with that as well out there. And I\'m feeling empathic and not knowing what to do with it. So that led me to, you know, this, obviously, the, the long journey led me to discovering who I am really, truly feeling who I am, and having a clear sense of, you know, self awareness within. And then I decided, this is my path. This is number one for me. I just felt this was my purpose. And it was like, nothing could shake that. Nothing could shake the knowing that this is my purpose now, to awaken spiritually and to help others do the same. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 18:12
So lots of lots in there. Right. All good stuff. A couple things that I want to hit on is you mentioned integrative, quite a bit. And I believe that one of the biggest challenges that we have, especially in western civilization\'s last culture, is our ability to integrate spirituality, with everyday life, you know, we, we\'ve got this spiritual life, and then we\'ve got like this, this other life, and I was listening to I was listening to Alan Watts the other day, and he was talking about Hinduism. How, in Hinduism, that\'s the same, like there\'s there\'s no separation. Right? So what you know, when you say integrative, what do you what do you mean by that? And is it along those lines? And is that kind of some of the work that you\'re trying to do is get people to integrate their spirituality with the whole of who they are? Yes,

Amie Dean 19:09
yes. Excellent. That is exactly what I\'m pointing to. It\'s really all about, how can we stop separating our life? Right? How can we actually start to see that in our spiritual life or a meditative life, right is the same as our everyday life, right? The life where we have to do list of so many things you have to check off every day, and responsibilities, right, that are absolutely 100% needed. And what I find through this is mindfulness. I\'m also a mindfulness teacher. So I\'m a huge proponent on helping to bring people to this understanding that the more mindful we can be, the more we can bring spirituality into our everyday life and integrate it more. And that doesn\'t look like for example, necessarily sitting on a meditation cushion for 30 minutes a day, getting up and then doing the rest of your day and then going to bed and feeling exhausted right by the end of the day. But it\'s more of how do I want to start my day mindfully? What does that look like for each person, maybe you know, for each person, it\'s more of an informal mindfulness practice of, I\'m going to make my coffee, right with awareness, I\'m going to smell that cup of coffee, I\'m going to really be with it, I\'m going to find gratitude in the moment of it. And I\'m going to do my sitting meditation, maybe, but the rest of the day, I\'m going to make an intention to really notice what\'s happening, in my mind, what\'s happening in my body, what\'s showing up for me right now, and how can I tend to that compassionately, as I go through the day, because that\'s huge, I think, too, you know, if we can be compassionate with ourselves, then we can, you know, bring the spiritual dimension into our everyday life, because that\'s the dimension of love, right? Helping us to reconnect with with who we are.

Brandon Handley 20:47
Now, that\'s, I mean, that\'s solid, right? So just bring it all in, I think another piece to that you\'re talking about you, you\'re bringing in the mindfulness, you\'re talking about the meditation. To me, it sounds like you\'re talking about overall wellness, which is kind of what\'s meant by holistic, and, you know, if you if you would just say whole self, right, or, or all of these things that you know, are generally going to benefit you as a holistic practice versus I think what we look at as the acute doctor, you know, we go to a doctor, you get, you know, you they work on, oh, your hand hurts, we\'ve got a specialist for that, and, and for that person, everything\'s going to be about the hand, right? Because that\'s what they specialize in for them, you know, the hammer nails thing. And then, and then I love the idea to, you know, setting the intentions and you said 10 to it, which I like, I like the 10 to it versus nurturing piece. A lot of people are always talking about you got to nurture this, you got to nurture that nurture, nurture, nurture. That\'s great. Yeah, you got to nurture to a lot of things. But when you tend to your garden, you, you know, you sometimes you pull some weeds, right? Sometimes you got to sometimes you got to clear some space, sometimes you got to make way for the things that you are nurturing. And in the hole, you\'re tending to it. So I think that that\'s a great, great word to use. And then I have a great point. I mean, a question I\'ve been asked before, and I\'m really curious, what\'s your, what\'s your, what\'s your take is on it is what would you say the differences, you brought up the word awareness? And we\'re talking about mindfulness. But what would you say the difference between those two are?

Amie Dean 22:22
Yeah, oh, great. So I would say that mindfulness of being mindful is just simply paying attention to the present moment, you know, and what\'s happening in the now, right. So for example, it\'s hearing the sounds in the room, right? Or feeling yourself in the chair, it\'s just being mindful of what\'s happening moment by moment. And that, you know, in my experience, anyway, creates self awareness. So mindfulness kind of leads to self awareness. And self awareness would be you know, acknowledging, oh, there\'s thoughts in here that maybe really don\'t connect, you know, with who I really feel myself to be. Right. As you mentioned, I love that metaphor around the garden, right, tending to the garden in this way. And it\'s, I mean, if every day we were to wake up and say, Okay, I\'ve got a garden, right, in one way, and this garden has some weeds in it, because I\'m human. And that happens. And I might need to, you know, work through that today. But how can I tend to that garden, right, the inner garden, so to speak, as I go throughout my day, you know, noticing those weeds tending to them, as you mentioned, right? Just being with them, and not maybe no, often we\'re tend, we tend to be in a rush, right? We tend to be busy, we tend to try and make things happen as quickly as we can. Because we want to get more done, right? It\'s just our culture in many ways. But we\'re missing that attending right to ourselves, when we\'re doing that when we\'re so doing focused instead of being focused, right? And so the more being focused we can be, which is, you know, simply being mindful, then we are truly, you know, gaining self awareness and understanding more of what\'s happening inside because that\'s the first step towards healing the inner child or any, you know, any kind of healing truly self awareness, because without that, we\'re gonna get lost, right? We\'re gonna be walking in circles and we\'re going to keep running through the same old cycles that have kept us stuck right in the past.

Brandon Handley 24:08
Not for sure, I mean, I think that\'s a great way great way of putting it so I appreciate that and then you also threw in there the idea of you know, we\'re so busy like I gotta I gotta do this I\'ve got to run it the next day. I\'ve got a good day but busy doesn\'t always and we equate busy Yeah, working on the things with being productive. Right and sometimes right sometimes going back to the garden right? Like you don\'t rip out you don\'t rip out the you don\'t rip out the you know, the corn to see if it\'s growing right you don\'t you don\'t rip it out. Take a look at the roots to see if it\'s growing you leave it flip kind of suicide thing and you sit back and know again that you\'ve got to do these other pieces in order to let it go ahead and be one of the things I want to touch on too is you know you brought up a Christian background. Also notice that you do Akashic work you doing all this? Other work again, you\'re smudging, you\'ve got dreamcatchers you\'ve got like all these other things going on how\'s your family take, you know, kind of where you\'re focused at right now? Because I think a big part of, of doing these journeys and getting into this space, sometimes we meet with resistance from family or friends who were like, What do you mean, you\'re doing this and this, like, you\'re putting a position to the fan, like your purpose and what you feel like your purpose is? Right? So what was that journey? Like for you?

Amie Dean 25:29
Oh, yeah, that was a journey. So I will tell you that I know at first so one thing about my family is that they are very open minded. So that\'s a positive. Now my mom was not very open minded. At first, she was more, you know, your, towards Christianity and trying to help me, you know, kind of pivot my way back a little bit, you know, as I\'ve as I\'ve grown through this journey, but my dad was always 100% open, he\'s like, tell me more about this. Let\'s read the spiritual books together, you know, oh, the Akashic records, let\'s do a reading. So I think his kind of openness, you know, and his, his true curiosity around it was something that helped me to recognize that it\'s okay for me to explore these things. And I know not everyone has that, you know, like one parent or a friend or somebody that says, go for it, you know, what do you have to lose figure, you know, figure out what works for you kind of thing, right? And my mom was on the opposite spectrum. She\'s like, don\'t do that, you know, that\'s a sin. And you can\'t, you can\'t read that book, and you can\'t do those things. And so it was there was like, a push pull on me for a while, like, Dad is good, I\'m good with this mom is not so good with this, right? And I had to kind of move through this experience of how do I be fully authentic with myself, right? Well, not, you know, creating chaos in my family around this. And over time, you know, for a while there, I just had to learn how to speak my truth and be authentic with my mom and, and really just share with her my experience of it and and also help her to see that didn\'t negate her experience, right? That it\'s okay for her to feel the way she feels and to have her Christian beliefs and to really connect with those, and that they\'re really not all that different. There\'s just different perspectives around it, right. And so she opened up a lot, I think, after a few years, she realized, Oh, this is just who my daughter is now. And I have to kind of accept that. And so there was acceptance piece that she was coming to around it. And then she\'d say things to me like, well tell me more about that, you know, I want to know more about that retreat you went on, or that shamanic death and dying workshop that you did, you know, it\'s like, things like that, where, I mean, my mom would never have asked that. So I could tell that she was growing through my process of growth. And I tend to see that often with the clients I work with too. And in their family, sometimes it\'ll mirror their experience when they\'re healing, eventually, there\'s pushback, you know, and there usually is, you know, some difficulty or a lot of difficulty, and how other people, you know, experience your experience. But sometimes there\'s a mirroring effect, where you can start to realize that, oh, other people, actually, you know, they\'re growing with me, we\'re growing together through this, it doesn\'t mean we\'re always going to be on the same page. But it does mean that sometimes, you know, we can come together a bit more. And so my mom still has her same beliefs, you know, she\'s not going to the other side, necessarily with me, but she is so open to it. And she just tells me, you know, how happy she is for me that on all my purpose, and then I\'m living my dream, and then I\'m doing the things that really matter to me. And it took a while for her to get there. It really did. And it wasn\'t something I was really holding out for, you know, as I was doing, you know, my own trauma healing work, I realized, you know, what, my mom\'s approval, right, of course, as I was going through this, and recognized, you know, what is it\'s actually okay for my mom to be where she is right now with this. And for me to be where I am with this because I have to, I have to do my own healing work with that. So this is important for me. And I think over time, my mom just recognized that it was okay for me to be who I am. Because she loved me anyway. Okay, not everyone\'s gonna have that experience. I think, you know, of course, but having, like you mentioned a good friend, or maybe your spouse or something like that can make a huge impact. And I\'ll also add in that my spouse is not he is not necessarily, you know, involved in the same things I am, you know, he\'s not like, oh, yeah, let\'s go to a meditation retreat this weekend. You know, but he\'s 100% supportive. And I think that\'s the difference, right? We just need to have at least a few people in our lives, who are kind of our cheerleaders, right? They\'re like, I\'m here for you, you\'ve got this. And, and, you know, I love you for who you are. Because that touches on the wound, you know, the people who don\'t love us for who we are, then we activate our shame wound of our inner child right around not being good enough. And it can absolutely hinder our spiritual journey, right? And maybe even you know, make us decide that we don\'t even want to, you know, embark on that path because it\'s too hard or because our family doesn\'t understand or doesn\'t agree with it. Right on a deep level. So yeah, it\'s a really good question, though, that you brought up.

Brandon Handley 29:52
So for, like, right, the talents here, especially when you\'re leaning into something, non convention All right, I think that that\'s the best way to put it, you know, larger percentage of the world is Christian and larger, even even a large percentage of them don\'t realize that the Bible is kind of like a, I don\'t know, a Snow White remake, right? Of all the things that came before it, right? And it\'s like, all the same exact stories are in there. But like, just because it\'s over here in this book, it means something different than it ever meant before. So it sounds like you know, she\'s she\'s got that genuine curiosity, because she\'s seeing the the kind of alignment and she\'s like, alright, well, you know, what the path that you\'re on, actually aligns kind of really well to everything I already know, I\'m sure I\'m not sure she\'s ever said that like out loud, but also have to go to the idea of, you know, I\'m a parent. And, you know, it\'s a general thing that I would have to say is, you know, it\'s just wanting to make sure that your child is okay. Right. Like, it\'s not even so much of like, you know, worried about, you know, yeah, you are more more so like, you know, just wanting to make sure you\'re okay. And so I mean, to me, that\'s what it sounds like. And it\'s great that you know, that your dad was kind of there going through and being genuinely interested is sitting down, going through and looking through Akashic stuff with you as well. That\'s kind of fun. And, and he talked a little bit about to this, this idea of not holding on to needing her acceptance or their acceptance. And I think that I think that\'s really a powerful thing as well, that the idea of sure you would love it, if they understood and they were there with you and your journey. And that that might be something kind of meaningful. Yeah, but you\'re not attached to that, right? That doesn\'t necessarily mean that, that you\'re not going to do it. And it doesn\'t necessarily mean that your happiness is derived from their approval. Right? I think that\'s it, that\'s a big challenge. I mean, that Good on you for kind of, you know, being able to make those breaks. And even even in that, what else was there? Just that? That, was it, the idea that doesn\'t negate the truth of who she is. Right? Like, you know, so your mom, you know, doesn\'t, you know, she can still have her journey, you\'ve got yours. And again, that\'s another another thing that I that, you know, I experienced myself and have, you know, seen from others, like, this is the way follow me, right? Like, you know, if you\'re not going this way, then you know, you\'re not living the truth of who you are. Right. And so being able to being able to look at others and realize that they\'re all on their journey, you\'re on yours, you guys all meet, I think about it, kind of like in the in the idea of Wizard of Oz, right? You know, we all kind of meet along the way to Oz, and like, you\'re going to get a brain you\'re going for our heart, I just want to go home, right? And, and, but like everybody\'s kind of on their own individual journey for their own individual reasons. So really cool story, I enjoy it. Another big piece of that is, a lot of us face that, right? We face this wall of, you know, I really want to I really want to step into the truth of who I am, right? I really want to go do this thing, but I\'m not sure that XYZ you\'re going to accept it. Right? Or what are the what is everybody gonna say? And the truth of the matter is like, do you want to sit there and lay in bed at night being like, why aren\'t I living out my life the way I want to. And, you know, that said, thank you for sharing that journey. And then hopefully, like I said, that\'s going to be helpful for others who are who are kind of in that same space in place or similar journey to to know what some of the positive steps that they can take. And I\'ll also caveat that when I say positive, I don\'t mean like, you know, it\'s always gonna have a joyous outcome, it means that there\'s forward progress. When I say positive, there\'s, there\'s, you\'re moving forward, you\'re you\'re getting unstuck, you\'re moving towards wherever you\'re trying to move to. So let\'s say, you know, I reached out to you, Amy, and I\'m like, I want to do some work with you. What, you know, walk me through, like, an introductory session and what we might talk about.

Amie Dean 34:17
Absolutely. So there are two avenues to that. And one avenue is, you know, just spending some time first in like a consultation. So it\'d be a phone call to decide number one is coaching right for you, or it\'s counseling right for you, because, and there\'s two different layers of this, right. So for example, therapy tends to be better for you know, an individual who is kind of in a in a stage where maybe they haven\'t done a lot of therapy already before or they have but they still have some very traumatic wounds that they\'re stuck in. It\'s almost like the survival stage, right, that they\'re trying to move through. And so that\'s, you know, typically therapy, right where we want to actually get down to the bottom of it, what is this core wound? What are some of these things that are in these memories and past you know, Your senses that are causing this wound. So that\'s more of like the therapy side of it. So and that\'s also if you know, a person\'s experiencing, you know, extreme anxiety or depression, or they\'re really having a hard time, you know, functioning on a, you know, more balanced level in their everyday life. Now, coaching is for people who say, you know, what I know I still have wants to heal, or pretty sure I do. And I\'d like to find out more about what that looks like. But kind of similar to what you\'ve mentioned before, it\'s for those truth seekers, almost right, the ones who are ready to kind of deepen their spiritual journey, you know, a bit more, and they want to connect with like minded people, because the coaching I do is within a group setting with other women. And in the setting, this is a place to truly heal together, because we\'re not on this spiritual awakening journey alone, right? We\'re not meant to be anyway, we\'re supposed to connect and heal through each other\'s stories and heal through each other\'s wisdom and compassion. So I would say that the major differences is, you know, therapy is kind of a stepping stone to the coaching work I do. Because it does help to have a really clear understanding of the whys. Why I went through this and the house and, and to have the coping, you know, skills and resources, and then the coaching is that next level, to say, but you know, I got a really clear sense, and my life is, you know, a little more balanced, or a lot more balanced. And now I\'m ready, I\'m ready to really dive into Who am I really? What is my life purpose? Like, what is most important to me, as a spiritual being? And how can I bring spirituality as the main source of my life? How can I truly understand who I am? And so that would be I think, that next level, you know, and, and often in the consultation, I can help, you know, person discover more about that and understand, you know, where they\'re at, if they\'re unsure, you know, where they\'re at in this journey. But that\'s usually the first step. I would say to the process. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 36:52
So we\'ve determined that I am you I am fresh out of survival mode, right? And I\'m ready to go on to this, this coaching, I\'m ready to deepen my spiritual journey. I love that you\'re creating space, and you\'re working primarily with women, is that correct?

Amie Dean 37:10
That is yes. Primarily with women with you know, doesn\'t have to be developmental trauma, but women who have had some kind of level of trauma or or difficulty in, or just maybe processing through certain life events that they\'ve been through. So And usually, of course, it always stands in childhood, even if they don\'t have a core memory that connects to that just yet.

Brandon Handley 37:32
How do you help them connect to that core memory? What\'s something that you do for that?

Amie Dean 37:37
Yeah, so when so not usually in the consultation? Usually, this happens in our first session together, we spent some time, you know, creating these building blocks around, what are some of these memories you do remember, what are some things that do come to mind, right, that makes sense for you. And then we just go a little bit deeper, and we go backwards in time together. So I use a meditative technique with visualization. And I use something called internal family systems as well. It\'s a form of therapy that allows you to go deep into your psyche, to understand different sub personalities. And these are simply, you know, different parts of us that show up in our everyday life, like our critic or perfectionist, our, let\'s say, you know, there\'s a part of you that you know, wants to, well, maybe a control part, right, I want to control my everyday experiences and creates anxiety for you. So these are parts we get in touch with, and we try to understand how do they connect to your timeline as to when the symptoms began for you? Right? So maybe for this person, it\'s I started having extreme anxiety at age 10. And I don\'t know why. Right? I don\'t know what caused it. So we\'ll just start to explore what happened, you know, around that time frame, so it\'s very similar to therapy in this way to you know, in discovering the core wound, but then we go into, you know, the Akashic records, and then we discover more of the whys and the hows around this core wound. And then more memory starts to become more obvious

Brandon Handley 39:00
for me because I was waiting to get to the Akashic records. I\'m like, can we use feel all this shit and get to the Akashic records? Because I\'m ready, go there. Right, let\'s, let\'s, let\'s talk. Let\'s talk about the Akashic records. What would you say they are? And what, when, and how, how do your clients usually kind of react to what they are versus what their perception of that is?

Amie Dean 39:27
Yes, so how so? Typically, it\'s really interesting. There\'s such a big interest now in the Akashic records, and most people are like, I don\'t really know what it is, but I just want to figure out how to access mine, right? Because it sounds so cool to know more about who I am and, and to ask questions to understand my spiritual side. But the Akashic Records really are it\'s just this etheric library have, really of our inner worlds, right. So I know sometimes you can think of the Akashic records is out there somewhere, right? Somewhere out there, but there\'s really within us and it\'s within the physical dimension of consciousness. And typically we\'re living on the third dimension of consciousness, we can think of it that way. And the third dimension is very physical, you know, we have a lot to do this is that state of kind of get things done, we are time limited. And as we move up into, you know, fourth dimension is more of the astral plane, which helps us to launch into the fifth dimension of love, which is where the Akashic records exist. From here, we\'re able to actually understand more of our life purpose, understand why we went through what we went through from a place of love, which is why it\'s such an amazing, you know, opportunity to heal. But some people, you know, they see their Akashic records. It\'s like a giant library of information, because it holds all of your souls records from all time. So for those who believe in past lives, it\'s holds your past lives, future possibilities of what could happen in the future, your life purpose, your soul contract as to why we came here, and why we\'re doing what we\'re doing, and the kind of karma that we might need to work through. So it has an immense amount of information here. It\'s like the internet, but you know it within you have information, so to speak. And it\'s powerful, really powerful.

Brandon Handley 41:07
So, do you access my Akashic records? Or do you help me to access them? And then then what were we out there?

Amie Dean 41:20
Yes. Oh, I like this question. So for while I was doing one to one readings for people and doing community readings for people and recognize that it wasn\'t really helping to, you know, provide the tools that were necessary. So I now what I do is I help people directly. So I would guide you, you know, and help you access your Akashic records, but I\'d be in there with you. Hopefully, that makes sense. So it almost you know, we so the way that this works is there\'s a prayer process. And this prayer process helps you to get in touch with the truth of your essence, right? The love that you are. And because of that you\'re able to, you know, dive deeper into this love, right, the dimension of love in this way. And so the prayer is kind of like a vibrational frequency, almost, you know, that we go into together. So you would say that prayer, for example, right out loud. And I would, you know, stand you know, kind of sit with you hold the space with you. And then you would access your Akashic records at that same time. Usually, for some people, they see light, right open up after the prayer, for example, some people see the library of books show up around them. But there\'s a lot of different things that can happen in this way. So with that being said, I\'m there as a support in the background trying to help in any way I can. And sometimes I will get information, you know, and I\'ll pull it in, and I\'ll say, what about this? What do you think about that? And then, you know, people can let me know if they\'re on the same page, if they feel that too, right, if they\'re also sensing those changes within them. So yeah,

Brandon Handley 42:49
would you say it\'s a little bit like, yeah, would you say it\'s a little bit like when Morpheus is in there with Neo, and he\'s like, you know, stop trying to hit me and just hit me. Right? That type of thing. And then like, he just kind of back away, and he does his own thing? Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. That\'s it all

Amie Dean 43:04
the way. Exactly. Yeah. I love that analogy. Yeah, it\'s perfect. That\'s perfect. Yeah, it\'s, it\'s a joint, it\'s kind of like teamwork, you know, in some way in this in this process, because they don\'t want to just go into your records. I was doing this for a while. And then then everyone has to keep coming to me for mention their records. And I just didn\'t feel like that was empowering, really. And I realized everybody can access their records. I don\'t need to do that for them. But I want to empower them to know how to do that. So I\'m more of a teacher, I think in this way than a reader like I was in the past.

Brandon Handley 43:35
Yeah, that\'s great. I\'m gonna even spin all the way back kind of to the beginning of the conversation, where you talk a little bit about recognizing kind of how you had these psychic abilities, and that made you different. Yeah. And I would, I would almost hesitate to say you, yeah, you were aware of your psychic abilities that I think are innate in everybody. Yeah. Right. It\'s just, it\'s just you, you know, you chose to kind of chase the path and give, give yourself to that. And through things like what you\'re doing with teaching them how to access the Akashic records, you\'re like, Hey, listen, it\'s not just me. Right? I\'m capable. You\'re capable. And here\'s how and here\'s what this looks like. And just kind of give yourself open openness to that.

Amie Dean 44:26
Exactly. So

Brandon Handley 44:28
yeah, I love what you\'re doing. I think I think it\'s a definitely think it\'s very cool. What um, you know, who would you say is kind of like your ideal client?

Amie Dean 44:39
Yeah. So I would say that so there\'s a couple different clients that might be you know, interested in this work and interested in this healing. Usually, it\'s a person number one, they\'re highly spiritual, dedicated, you know, usually work with a lot of spiritually dedicated women who not to say that they feel like their spiritual life is on track, but they want their spiritual life to be on track, right? Maybe they want You know, more meditation and yoga and more of an understanding of how to deepen, right, their understanding of who they are, but they\'re not quite there, right. So they, the, you know, there are those people who are ready, but they don\'t know the path or like, help me figure it out, I\'m confused about how to make this happen. So there\'s that. And then typically, these women tend to be highly self critical, they tend to, you know, be really hard on themselves, sometimes perfectionistic in certain ways, and tend to experience you know, anxiety quite a bit as well, they might also be empaths, you know, and really, you know, tapping into other people\'s emotions on a regular basis. So these women, usually to, you know, they are busy, busy, busy people, right, they\'re spending a lot of time, you know, just trying to make things happen. And maybe they have families that they\'re trying to, you know, balance out with work and their spiritual life. And, you know, coming back to our conversation around integration, they\'re thinking, how on earth do I integrate my spiritual life, into my everyday life of being a parent of being a friend of being a entrepreneur, maybe of being a business owner? Or, you know, being even being an employee? How do I figure this out? Right? How do I really understand my path? And my purpose in this? So it\'s usually people who are, they\'re just ready, really, they\'re just ready to step into their life. And they\'re ready, you know, they\'re, they\'re tired of living in that third dimension, you know, is one way of thinking of it, living so heavily in that third dimension of consciousness, that the dimension of love within them, that fifth dimension is not present in the way that they would hope? So that would be Yeah, that would be the right person.

Brandon Handley 46:36
Thanks for Thanks for sharing that, right. So just so that people who are listening tuned in today, they have an idea of whether or not you know, that\'s a great fit. One of the things I like to do here is just kind of look at, I look at this podcast is kind of like a spiritual speed dating show, right? Because they\'re gonna tune in to looking for their next spiritual, you know, date as it were, they\'re looking for. And I think another thing is, too, is, is, even in the idea of, I\'ll go back to Hinduism, you know, you can have more than one guru, right? It\'s like, you know, you go to like one, and you hang out with him for a while. And you awaken certain aspects of yourself. And that\'s, that\'s what that Guru does. That\'s what that teacher does. And so yeah, it\'s okay to move on. And, and so my guess is like, you\'re not trying to hold these clients for life. It\'s like, Alright, come get what you need and move on. Right? Like, you\'ve got what you need for me, I\'ve given you all I can give now. Scoop, right? So says, people are kind of calling on their on their paths. This would be, I think, one or one or two of the questions that I would ask, let\'s see, what do we had to ask for spiritual Bachelorette number one today? Ooh, to do, let\'s say, how does one obtain true peace? Oh, I

Amie Dean 47:59
love it. How does one obtain true peace? You know, I would say the best way to obtain true peace is to acknowledge the human condition, first and foremost, which is this negativity bias to not have true peace, right? Coming back to that shadow work, right, that we all need to do, I think on a very deep level, that, you know, we\'re one part of us, for example, once piece, one part of us or several parts of us do not want peace, right? For example, some parts of us want to be angry, some parts of us want to be, you know, in a state of fear, right, and some parts of us really want peace. So first maybe is to acknowledge this kind of multiplicity of our personality, right, where we\'re not just one person. And, you know, the, the way to obtain that is to make peace, you know, for lack of a better word, make peace with the parts of us that do not want peace, if that makes sense, right? Make peace with the parts of us that need some time to be in anger, to stew in things sometimes to to really allow that sense of mindfulness, right to bring that to our experience, instead of forcing ourselves right to move past it, which is spiritual bypass. Right? Just to get to that true peace state. So hopefully, that makes sense. Yeah, it\'s a journey for sure.

Brandon Handley 49:11
It makes a lot of sense a in the idea of the you said two things there. I\'m not super deep on spiritual bypassing, but, you know, that would be the idea of saying, you know, exactly, exactly what said, Well, there\'s anger there and I shouldn\'t have that in my life. There\'s this over there. And that shouldn\'t be my life. Like, there\'s like a spiritual bypassing is like, you know, when you\'re at the buffet, and there\'s like, all the things there, which makes the full buffet what it is, and then you\'re like, well, that shouldn\'t be on there. I\'m not having any of that that shouldn\'t be on there. I\'m gonna fill my plate with all the spiritual things that I think I was supposed to have. Yeah, but no pudding. Right? I can\'t have pudding. I love pudding, but I can\'t have pudding. And what I found through the Shadow Work is is understanding the There\'s just like you said, anger may sound like a may sound like an oxymoron, right? It\'s kind of part of peace. Right? You gotta you gotta you\'ve got you can\'t ignore that you\'re feeling angry. If you ignore that you\'re feeling angry then there\'s always going to be a disturbance are never going to be peaceful sake if I\'m angry. Why am I angry? What\'s up there? Should I keep feeling it? Okay, I\'m feeling it. I\'m feeling it. I\'m feeling it. Yeah, I\'m over it, right. Yeah, I was pretty angry. But I\'m over it right like but but it to try and reject it and suppress it is gonna make it a lot like a geyser. In the end? Absolutely. Oh, yeah. Never thrown putting into a spiritual conversation before. But there it is.

Amie Dean 50:50
It just comes up on its own. Right? That\'s right.

Brandon Handley 50:54
Let\'s see to do trying to find one that I don\'t always ask. Yeah. Let\'s see, no longer longer to do to do. What does it mean to live in the present moment?

Amie Dean 51:10
What does it mean to live in the present moment, I would say to live in the present moment means to be 100%. So this is kind of a number one, of course, coming back to living moment by moment. Right. So reminding yourself that it\'s not about it\'s not necessarily that you\'re not thinking about the future. And it\'s not necessarily that you, you know, you\'re not thinking about the past? Because these are thoughts that are happening, right. Thoughts happen on their own? They don\'t we\'re not thinking thoughts necessarily. They\'re just coming in. Right. So it\'s more about, can I be aware? Can I be open? Can I be just yet self aware in the moment of what\'s coming up for me, for example, that my thoughts are going to the future that my thoughts are going to the past, right? It\'s, it\'s this recognition that as we\'re present with our body, for example, right, noticing sensation, noticing emotion, can I allow that to be right, it\'s really the aspect of surrender, I would say, because you have to surrender in order to be present. Because you know, the idea of not being present is the opposite of surrender, right? It\'s about control. It\'s about trying to fix it\'s about trying to jump into the future in some way. And in this instance, so when we\'re trying to be present, we are understanding that surrender is the way therefore we have to surrender to this doesn\'t feel good to be present right now. Oh, for example, that anger is showing up, and I really don\'t want to be present with it. But it\'s here. And therefore, I\'m going to invite it into my experience the best way I know how, right, which is just to maybe be gentle with myself in this moment. So there\'s that Yeah. To be present.

Brandon Handley 52:40
Could you clarify, would you clarify, you know, the word surrender, because I think a lot of people look at surrender, as in giving, as in not standing up for myself, as you know. So when you\'re saying surrender, what are you saying?

Amie Dean 52:56
Yes. So surrender is no, this is actually really important conversation. Because often we can think well, so we\'re just surrendering, we\'re just letting it go. And it\'s no big deal. And as we\'re doing that, we\'re just letting go of everything, right, which means our ability to assert any kind of, you know, maybe not necessarily control, but to assert any kind of influence over our lives in some sort of way. But it\'s not like that surrender is just simply noticing our experience, noticing what\'s arising, choosing not to fight with it, choosing not to resist it, just allowing it to be and I know that, you know, that is a process. And for many, you know, they might ask well, how do I know if I\'m resisting it? How do I know if I\'m surrendering? Right? And I would say that, you know, you\'re surrendering, when there\'s a sense of openness around your experience, right? There\'s a sense of just knowing that you\'re okay, as you are in that moment. And there isn\'t the sense of tension or tightness around a situation, right? For example, you know, if you have to make a big decision, let\'s say, right, and you\'re just going back and forth, you know, Option A or Option B, Option A or Option B, and you realize, you know, I\'m not really surrendering right now, because I\'m feeling stressed about this, I\'m feeling tension about this, I\'m feeling like I have to figure it out in some way. That would be the opposite of surrender, right? And then surrendering would be okay, this is how I feel. Right now. I\'m feeling torn. There\'s a part of me that feels this way. There\'s a part of me that feels that way. And I can\'t make a decision. In this moment. I\'m going to surrender to the knowing that this is the current snapshot of my life right now. And I\'m going to be okay with that in this moment. Or at least be okay. Right, with the knowing that this is going to change because all experiences are temporary in this moment. And so there\'s that right, and that can help you see right that you are surrendering or not surrendering. But the big key here is that you can\'t just say I\'m going to surrender and then okay, fine. I\'m not going to make the decision. Greg\'s gonna make a decision either way. But the point is that as you create some space around it, a decision is made naturally. It comes intuitively through you in that moment, and it\'s not based on Control Data comes through your higher wisdom is one way of looking at it.

Brandon Handley 55:05
Yeah, thanks for Thanks for clearing that up. Right. I think that, again, a lot of people are going to look at surrenders, just kind of rolling over and letting letting things just kind of take over, or they don\'t have anything that they can do about it. In that regard, you\'d mentioned that you had something you\'d like to share with the audience. And what was that? Amy?

Amie Dean 55:25
Yes. So there is a spiritual awakening guidebook that I offer, just as a complimentary download on my website. And this is this guide book walks you through the six phases of spiritual awakening. I know we didn\'t get to that today. But I have the six phases that we go through on our spiritual journey. And it\'s 100% connected to healing our inner child. And this tells you how to go about healing that how to work through these challenges that are coming up and to determine which phase of awakening you\'re in. Right now. And and of course, there\'s an option to book a call with me that constant we talked about earlier, if that feels right. And they can download this. So would it be helpful to give the website information now? Absolutely, absolutely. Perfect. So the website is one awakening. So that\'s o n e awakening.us/awaken. And right there, you can just download it at that page. And yeah, then it\'s yours. Oh, and there\'s a journal with it, too. I think that\'s another important piece as spiritual awakening journal to integrate your daily habit.

Brandon Handley 56:31
Yeah, awesome. Yeah. I think that I think that\'s a good point to make. I recall, when I was going through what I would call my awakening process, and reaching out to people, right. I was like, Jesus, like, Who can I talk to about this? And a couple of people that I chatted with, it was like, just, you know, also, while you\'re going through this, sure, there\'s plenty of materials you can read, and lots of things you can do. But one of the one of the things you can do that\'s very beneficial is to write it out, capture that kind of in the journal right? And just make sure that you\'re creating space and time to do that. Amy, thanks for so much for being on today. Making the time where can I send other people to connect with you today?

Amie Dean 57:12
Yes, wonderful. So I would say that so I do have a Facebook community as well. And this is, so you can go to facebook.com/awakening spiritually together, you can always look that up on Facebook. And I go live every week, every other week, sometimes in the group and their spiritual awakening resources in that Facebook group. And I\'m also on YouTube as well, which you can find all those links on my website, which you can find once you download that workbook. I want awakening.us/awakened Yeah.

Brandon Handley 57:46
Fantastic. Thanks for being on today with us. Amy.

Amie Dean 57:48
Thank you so much. It\'s a pleasure. And thank you to all who are listening and hopefully, this helped with your spiritual awakening journey. Thank you for having me. I mean journey. Thank you for having me. I

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Donna Tashjian is helping you to turn your baggage into luggage

Published: Dec. 5, 2021, 8:02 p.m.
Duration: 41 minutes 33 seconds

Donna wants to tell you that you were designed for greatness.

Don\'t let the pain and disappointments of life define you.

If you let them, they will make you a victim.

Instead, focus on how powerful and talented you are.

You possess an inner strength that is only waiting to be tapped into.

You have been given a gift from above that can change your life for the better.

Seek out an answer to the great question: "who am I?

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Donna Tashjian 1:53
Oh, that\'s a big question.

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you\'ve questioned so much more than those around you. You\'ve even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited in this process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can\'t quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you this world the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed now moving forward? We don\'t have all the answers but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another head of spiritual dub with your host Brandon Handley. Let\'s get right into today\'s episode.

Brandon Handley 0:40
Hey there spiritual dope. I\'m on here today with Donna task Jen. She is an empowering Life Mastery coach, she is down to earth inspirational speaker that has been speaking for over 20 years. She is the founder vibrant living international author and host of the you were designed for greatness podcast. She\'s been married to her wonderful husband for over 36 years, mother to three and grandmother. She loves flowers time in nature, and you will always see her with a cup of tea was you have a cup of tea there right now? I do. She has a passion to help you reach your full potential. So Donna, thanks for being on here today. By we\'re able to connect. I usually like me to usually like to start these off with the whole idea that um, you and I, you know, we\'re vessels for Source Energy, right that uh, you know, the you know, that whatever messages coming through on this podcast today with the conversation you and I have you and I will hear that. But like somebody on the other side, somebody listening and tuning in is going to get a message that they need to receive. And it can be delivered through you through this podcast in this moment. What is that message?

Donna Tashjian 1:56
Um, the main point that it\'s what my podcast name is, is helping people know they were designed for greatness and really stepping in and walking in that. Yeah, that\'s the main thing I want people to know. It was just

Brandon Handley 2:13
so I mean, what does that look like for you? How did you? Let\'s kind of walk our way to that. How did you come to find yourself to even recognize that for yourself? And then how did you and we\'ll move forward from there?

Donna Tashjian 2:26
Yeah, the way my journey began, is really a pain point. As far as starting back, when I was 14, someone hurt me and I became pregnant. And so at the age of 15, I had a little girl, and I raised her. And so there was a lot of times where I was alone, there was no one else to rely on. And all I had was my faith. And that\'s where in that pain moment is when things really began to have. I built my foundation, I\'ll put it that way, to being able to learn how to trust in God and my spiritual walk and learning how to create who I was really designed to be. Through that process, there was all kinds of labels that are put on us and I had them all kinds of labels we put on ourselves. And all through that processes, like who am I really and learning how to discover who we really are. So that and that is a journey, who we are in our 20s is different than who we are in our 30s and so forth. And it\'s it\'s a journey as you discover who you really are and the gift you are to the world. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 4:06
Yeah, the the whole idea of, you know, it sounds to me like you had faith at a young age. Is that Is that true? I did. So that faith was Christianity was something else. It

Donna Tashjian 4:19
was Christianity, it was Christianity. Yes. And

Brandon Handley 4:23
do Lean you really leaned into that, with the pain that you were going through? Sounds like it doesn\'t sound like you had a whole lot of other. I don\'t want to say it doesn\'t sound like you didn\'t have other support, but it sounded like that was what you relied on the most.

Donna Tashjian 4:38
Yes, there wasn\'t a lot of support. And yes, it was something that I relied on that. And as I have gone forward is is learning that how to make sense out of tragedy. One of my programs that I work with some of them My clients is called Turning your baggage into luggage. And so how to make sense out of the pain and our disappointments in our life? How do we have them because I talk about making them become luggage so that you can create the life you dreamed. And so some of the worst days of my life have brought me to wonderful, incredible places that I wouldn\'t have had, without those painful moments and learning how to understand that. I mean, it doesn\'t take, to me anyway, it doesn\'t take much to see that there\'s something bigger than us at work. I couldn\'t I mean, the human body in itself, in all of its magnificence, it couldn\'t have just happened. That\'s my belief. And so learning that there is something bigger at work, and through all of the things that happen to our life, there can be something good out of it, if you look for it,

Brandon Handley 6:05
for sure, but you know, I think that even you, you may agree, right? That if you go back to your 1516 year old self, and you\'re in all this pain, sometimes when you\'re in the midst of it, and you haven\'t had a bunch of life experience, for sure, then you could definitely crumble and fall and you know, you don\'t see the you don\'t see those lessons sometimes when you\'re in it. Right. I think that that can be a real challenge for us as as you and I can see I you see the lessons in the tragedy, you see the light and somebody is in the middle of the tragedy. Yeah. How do you before we can go there? I want to just, you know, Yeah, agreed, right? It\'s something bigger than URI. Some is at play here, the human body doing what it does, I always make the statement that if you, you don\'t know how to make your own blood, you don\'t know how to grow your own hair, you don\'t all these things that you\'re you are doing from within?

Donna Tashjian 7:04
You can\'t make yourself breathe either.

Brandon Handley 7:07
Right? Right. So I mean, these are things you go to sleep and like, I wouldn\'t trust myself to do something else with it play. Something else is a play. And, and even that, like the trillions of trillions of different parts, and I have a challenge sometimes, you know, pulling three pieces like eggs, toast and cheese and making a sandwich out of it, you know, and so imagine what it really takes to make all of this work the way that it does. That\'s great. Absolutely. I think it\'s a great point. So I mean, I want to I want to hit on that. What are some of the tools that you will so you find you find yourself, you know, you got you have these tragic moments, you rely on your faith where you know, where along the path? Do you begin to see yourself as having this greatness to explore and share?

Donna Tashjian 7:56
I think it was, I think for me, it was an ongoing journey to know that there was that there was something that more than I than I could see at the moment that there was something bigger there. I think that\'s been a journey to be able to discover. And I know I know that at that age, and in through my years, I would not have articulated it, that I was designed for greatness. But I had this knowing that there was something bigger for me to do. And not sure how exactly to get there. The way that I articulate it today, of course, is not the what I would have said in the middle of the moment, I just knew that there was more. And there was also this feeling is blaming on my hair color, perhaps but I\'m going to prove you wrong. And lowing that might have been a blonde. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 8:59
I mean, look, I get it right I absolutely the ongoing journey and not being able to express this connection and this feeling in the sense that you know that there\'s something greater out there. And my guess is as you\'re kind of coming along through your life, it\'s like you couldn\'t even really put a finger on it. Right? And regardless of whether or not you know, that is there is where do you feel like you first really began to be able to put a finger on it, so that you were able to begin to express it and what did that look like?

Donna Tashjian 9:37
I have done quite a few different things in my life that I think we\'re building to the place that I am today. But vibrant living and the being a Life Mastery coach in this capacity is when I began to really realize it and that wasn\'t till I that I would articulate it this way was about 10 years. ago. So it hasn\'t really been I, I\'ve always had this knowing that there was something but I didn\'t know what and when I began to be able to put a plan to it and strategy to it that I began to really realize the magnitude of how we were designed for greatness. And my greatness doesn\'t look like yours. It looks like me and me being me is actually what\'s so great. It\'s learning how to be who we are, without having to have people approve of us or having worrying about our performance, or worrying about all of that. It\'s just being who you are with the gifts because you are important. And so learning to be able to articulate that in a way as hell and help others is my sweet spot.

Brandon Handley 11:00
I love that the you know, the idea was, first of all right, 10 years ago, I mean, that\'s fair, fairly decent amount of time that you\'ve been doing this now this work, right, and kind of uncovering it and developing this Life Mastery coach, aspect. And I think that that\'s a, it\'s a long journey. Right now, to your point, you, you spent most of your life working your way up to there. And as you step into this space, you begin to understand that there\'s so much that you have to uncover, right, these tragedies that you talked about being able to look at them as lessons later. What, what got you what was said to you, what was it that said to you, hey, I want to get into coaching. I mean,

Donna Tashjian 11:44
well, I have always had it before, I would have called it mentoring. I\'ve been doing that for over 20 years. So there\'s always been that capacity there. But it wasn\'t full time. It was stuff that I was doing on the side. And so my it was one of those moments when I said, What do I want to do now that I\'m all grown up? What would I really love to do. And I had started a job at a nonprofit organization, which I worked at a lot of them started on my own, and thought that that would be the avenue to do the thing. But it was actually limiting. And now that I look back at it, but I had put all my eggs in that basket thinking it would be great. And me and the management did not get along, after a while. And so I was I was let go from that job. And so it was a moment of what do I really want to do. And so I did some deep soul searching. And that\'s when vibrant living, the clarity of the vision of coaching and helping people to step into their greatness to leave the pain and disappointment of the past behind and create the life they\'ve always dreamed was born.

Brandon Handley 13:01
So it\'s almost like there was a moment in there where he doesn\'t sound like you were fired, but doesn\'t sound like the job was extended for an ongoing length of time. Right? So there was a moment right there where you felt like you were in a place to serve and benefit others in this in this organization. And having that taken away. Again, this is an area where a lot of people could easily kind of shut down and and give up. Right? What was it? You know, in the question, line of questioning that you took to yourself what I really want what made you even want to continue to go forward and continue to serve what was?

Donna Tashjian 13:41
Well, there was a period of time where I was on the floor, so to speak, you know, it\'s like the rug has been pulled out from me. I doubted my value, all of the things that we do when those kinds of things happen is just wondering, What am I going to do and all of that. But it goes back to my faith again, because that\'s I went back to God and talk to him about it. And that\'s where I got my direction. And it wasn\'t a moment it was little steps. What about this? And what about that, and I just follow the steps. And just because I didn\'t know coaching was a thing 10 years ago. To me, it was a football coach. It was what I pictured when you said the word coach, and I\'m like, I am not that I will not scream at you. I will not do that. And so I didn\'t even know it was quote a thing. So it was a journey of step by step as I talked to God about what I should do next. Because ultimately, even when we\'re doing the self doubt that I don\'t have worth and that inner critic stuff that goes on. There\'s a part of us that knows that\'s not true. There\'s a part of us that knows there\'s something more than that. And so that\'s what I followed. And that\'s how I got here.

Brandon Handley 15:05
Let\'s talk about even listening to that, listening to the eating the small steps, right? Taking those small steps listening to your, you know, listening to God slash, I think a lot of the people that would tune in we call it like your inner guidance, your intuition, following your bliss, what, what gave you the strength to follow that? Right or not know, the strength is the right word. But I think you get what I\'m saying?

Donna Tashjian 15:37
I, I think so, um, there is our intuition, as you say it, I agree with intuition, it\'s a place that I believe God speaks to us. And people call it different things. Um, but I, I like, in my strength to coming from him, it\'s more than intuition. And for me, so that was a knowing and like I said, even though that there\'s the self doubt, we know, I believe we know there\'s something more for us, something that pulls, pulling us forward. It\'s bigger than us. Because everyone has something, an impact that they make, and it doesn\'t have to be what I\'m doing, or you\'re doing, it\'s whatever they need to be doing. That\'s in their heart. So I, that\'s, that\'s where my strength come from. I know where my strength comes from.

Brandon Handley 16:34
Yeah, I mean, it sounds like you don\'t have a doubt now. So when you decided that, hey, I\'m gonna do this vibrant living bit, I\'m gonna go ahead and move forward into it. And I\'m stepping into my greatness. I\'m helping others do the same. What was the reaction, say, of your family, people that were close to you? around that.

Donna Tashjian 16:57
Um, most of the people that were there around me the family is it\'s about time. You know, most people had saw that in we my daughter said, who is an adult now? said, Mom, there was always women sitting on the couch crying, and you are helping them. And that was one of her earlier memories, so that anybody that really knew me, it did surprise them less than it did me. Oh, what? What I had stepped into with this.

Brandon Handley 17:30
That\'s awesome. So is great sound sounds like there was some support there? Yes. And what about I always think about the idea of kind of stepping into this kind of work. And following your spiritual guidance, your guidance from God can be scary and intimidating for some was there any fear in in? Yeah, I mean, let\'s talk about that and get in passing through it.

Donna Tashjian 17:57
Oh, yeah. There\'s a constant feeling of what if this doesn\'t work. And wondering of being afraid of failure, afraid of, I guess not working is the best way I know how to describe it. And the one of the ways that got me through it is I got a coach to be able to help

Brandon Handley 18:21
you. You\'re a coach and you had a coach.

Donna Tashjian 18:25
If you have a coach and they don\'t have a coach, you need to change coaches

Brandon Handley 18:29
figure that out for sure. For sure.

Donna Tashjian 18:31
Everyone needs someone speaking into their life, and I got a coach that be a to be able to help me see what I couldn\'t see. That\'s one of the things that coach does is help you change your perspectives and help you see what you can\'t see. One of the best advice I got from my coach was to get up every day and proceed as if success was inevitable. When it didn\'t look like it would work when it didn\'t look like you knew what you were doing. I don\'t know how to do this. I\'ve never done this before. All of that stuff, when you start something new, was to get up every day and proceeded as success was inevitable. And that phrase, will there was others. But that particular phrase every day I did that. Now there\'ll be a couple of days that I wanted to stay in bed because I wouldn\'t think it wouldn\'t work. But almost every day, that was my choice to choose to believe it would work. That in itself brings a different outcome. So that\'s one of the best things is that get a coach

Brandon Handley 19:33
for a good coach. And and I love the idea to have Joe act as if, yes, I\'m going to act as if right just kind of success is inevitable. You\'re just walking your path, and as you said, trying to figure it out. Look, I don\'t know about you. I don\'t I don\'t pretend to believe or know that I\'ve had a past life so that I know what to do with this one. This You know, for all intents and purposes, this is my first go round. So I\'m doing my best. And you know, I think that if it comes to starting anyone bevor Devere, like you\'ve done with vibrant living. You\'ve made it this far, so why not?

Donna Tashjian 20:15
Yeah. All right. It didn\'t always look like it looks today, you know, when you\'re starting out, you know, Will anybody hire me as a coach? Those kind of feelings are always there. And, you know, what, if it\'s a problem that I don\'t know how to handle, or whatever it\'s it gets to be it can be scary anytime you start a new endeavor, but it doesn\'t, it doesn\'t look like that today.

Brandon Handley 20:40
Turned out. So I got to imagine that you did a little bit of let go and let God in your life, what\'s that look like for you?

Donna Tashjian 20:52
Let go and let God I\'m the difference between having to control everything. And that is actually for me, at least when I want to control everything, it\'s because of fear. And, therefore, when I am trying to fix everything and, and make everything work the way I think it should, that\'s fear based. And that doesn\'t have a very good outcome when we make decisions from that place. But let go and let God is doing the best that I can with what I can do and and leave the rest to him. That\'s what it means to me.

Brandon Handley 21:32
I like that. I like that. Definitely curious because again, you\'ve got a, a deep a deep faith and what you\'re doing. So when you\'re when you\'re teaching these people, when you\'re teaching your clients how to, you know, create luggage, what is it, let\'s walk through some of what that might look like. Let\'s say for example, I\'ve got some baggage and I want to create it in luggage, walk me through me walk me through the process.

Donna Tashjian 21:59
Alright, well, this isn\'t going to be done in the next couple minutes, just so you know that. But one of the steps is I alluded to before is I call it building our understanding muscle. And that is is that in any adversity, there is a gift. I call them gifts wrapped in sandpaper, baggage thinking when something adversity happens is this isn\'t fair. This isn\'t right. This isn\'t just somebody needs to pay. That\'s baggage thinking. And when you\'re thinking that you get stuck in the baggage to repackage it into luggage, you begin to say, I can\'t change it, it happened. I\'m going to use it to grow and become the best me I can be. So the first step is a gift wrapped in sandpaper. The second is learning to get support. The third is having compassion and forgiveness for others. that forgiveness is part of setting yourself free. So those are three steps to be able to build your understanding muscle. And that\'s one of the things simply and those could be talked about for a little while.

Brandon Handley 23:15
Yeah, I mean, first of all the visual of gifts being wrapped in sandpaper, not as visual, I can feel it. Right. I\'m like that. Yeah, it\'s the it\'s not even like the fine grain. It\'s, it\'s the stuff that will cut you if you don\'t handle it properly. Kind of sandpaper. Right?

Donna Tashjian 23:29
Right. Right.

Brandon Handley 23:33
And the idea of compassion and forgiveness and forgiveness so that you can, you know, set yourself free. I think that there\'s a misconception of what freedom is. And I think in this context, when you\'re setting people free, what would you say you\'re helping them to do? What are you setting them free of?

Donna Tashjian 23:58
Well, when you say freedom, what are you thinking?

Brandon Handley 24:02
I think these days, I\'m thinking freedom from? In my own mind, right, like, letting my own internal bondages go and just, you know, recognizing something as self limiting, recognizing that I\'m the person who wrapped the gift and sandpaper. Right? And so when I think that other people may think of freedom as like, Will I want to go out and do the things I want to do I want to be able to, you know, buy beer at 18 instead of 21 This isn\'t right I don\'t feel free I want to be liberated. And that\'s that\'s one type of freedom but I think that the the true freedom that you\'re teaching, at least my perspective would be is teaching people how to free their minds and their hearts.

Donna Tashjian 24:57
Yeah, What that\'s what forgiveness does. One of the people that we often need to forgive is ourself. When we\'ve gone through things, somehow we blame ourselves, we\'re very hard on ourselves. And when when we begin to forgive ourselves, it causes our eyes, if you will, to lift off of our feet, if you can look at that kind of picture person that\'s down, and they\'re looking at their feet, and you lift your eyes up, and you begin to know that this is not, this is a chapter in my book, not the whole book. And not to let it be that whole book. But freedom really is eternal in internal, not external. And if you I can\'t remember the man, he was a writer from he was in the Nazi concentration camps. And he talked about the freedom that Victor for Yes, yes, that quote that I\'m going to misquote but you get the idea that, you know, the freedom is actually internal. And you can be free and, and he, in his estimation, inside the Nazi prison, he was, they couldn\'t take that away from him. But if he had held unforgiveness, he would have had that weight, and he would not have been as free. Forgiveness is a huge subject. And it means a lot of different things for a lot of different people. And I spend a lot of time helping people understand what that really is, and how that really works. But the biggest point I want to make is, is that you begin to look for something good in the midst of things, it lifts your eyes up, it changes the way your outcome is, because I\'m no longer for me, I describe it as my pity party, where I\'m feeling sorry for myself. And that doesn\'t get us anywhere. Winston Churchill, Churchill had a quote, for God\'s sake, if you\'re going through hell, for God\'s sake, keep going. And a lot of times we camp out in our disappointment, we build a tent, we build a house, and we\'re just going to stay here because this wasn\'t right. But it wasn\'t meant to be that way. Journey Through it, not stay in it.

Brandon Handley 27:15
Yeah, that\'s fantastic. The right if you\'re, if you\'re in helps keep on going. Who wants to a lot, but you know, a lot of people, I think they feel like they\'ve got to fight that fight. They\'ve got to stay there. There\'s something for them to write by. And they feel vindicated by by saying they\'re in that space. And it\'s almost like a badge of honor. I\'m in hell, nobody cares. I\'m in hell. Right? Well keep your exits coming up. And keep them going. What is uh, you know, what\'s top of mind for you right now is like, kind of COVID going through what\'s your clients? You know, how\'s your client? Tell Ben through COVID? What are you seeing is helping people to get through this period right now.

Donna Tashjian 28:01
Um, the main thing that COVID has done as far as what I\'m involved in is it made people seek help that might not have before. But I personally is for in and there\'s been a lot of loss, not just necessarily life, but life changes that have occurred. And grief is a is definitely something that shows up to help people look through and work through. So that\'s probably the main areas of loss Ignis, it doesn\'t necessarily mean people have lost jobs, and people have lost what they consider freedom, and all kinds of situations for them to be able to move how learn how to move through that. And the other thing that has stuck for some of the people I\'ve talked to is, they can get set if I\'m not a fan of the news, because there\'s no good news. But if you watch that kind of thing, you can get stuck in hopelessness and fear. And so helping people to rise above that.

Brandon Handley 29:11
Yeah, that\'s a big one. Do you advise that they turn the news off?

Donna Tashjian 29:17
If it\'s causing them severe anxiety? Yes, absolutely.

Brandon Handley 29:22
What\'s the typical reaction to something like that?

Donna Tashjian 29:25
Most the time, they agree with me. If there\'s other ways of finding out what\'s going on, then sitting hours watching the news. Yeah, you don\'t need to do that to find out what you need to know to stay current. Sure. And so there\'s other means to do that.

Brandon Handley 29:42
What do you recommend to to stay current for people that aren\'t going to watch the news?

Donna Tashjian 29:48
There\'s different online outlets where you can read the captions to be able to do that. And if there\'s anything big going on there, friends, let them know

Brandon Handley 30:00
I was curious. I mean, I think I heard maybe first through Tim Ferriss and not necessarily, you know, Tim Ferriss, you know, but the whole idea that once you turn the news off, now you\'ve got like this great conversation, because your friends will come out and be like, did you hear about blah, blah, blah, blah, blah? Like, I didn\'t tell me all about it. That\'s, now you\'ve got now you\'ve got a conversation, but

Donna Tashjian 30:23
he will tell you, that is for sure. If there\'s something that you really need to know, somebody will tell you.

Brandon Handley 30:31
For sure. What is I mean, is there something that what is something that maybe we haven\'t touched on so far that you\'d want to share with our audience today?

Donna Tashjian 30:44
I don\'t know, if there\'s anything else I\'ve hit the most important parts is having them real look for the gift in situations to keep their eyes up to get support and help we\'re not meant to do this alone. And for me, I would encourage you to strengthen your faith, you know, strengthen that part of your life to be able to get through it. So those are some things for sure.

Brandon Handley 31:15
I mean, I agree with that 100%, you know, find find that something bigger, greater in your life that we know exists, give it a name, whatever you feel like you need to and lean into that there\'s something there\'s something really in there was talking about the let go and let God thing earlier for me. You know, I devised a way where it made sense for me in my mind, and like, the weight fell right off, it was amazing. I was like, like, oh, wait, this, this makes sense. And so I think that that\'s super powerful to share. One of the things that I guess I\'d love to touch on though, too, is is sharing kind of the benefits of connecting with spirituality and source and your greater self. What does that look like in action? Right? I mean, because I\'m sure you\'ve run into the occasional person who just doesn\'t see it yet, and can\'t feel it yet that just says, Well, that sounds great and ideal, but what\'s that? How\'s that going to help me? You know, with my day job?

Donna Tashjian 32:19
So your question is, is how do we connect with God?

Brandon Handley 32:22
The question is, you know, we\'re talking this ideal life that\'s available, right? This this, we\'re talking, stuffing into your greatness. We\'re talking, you know, accepting, accepting that we are great, and we\'ve got these gifts to share. Okay. How do you help the person that just isn\'t seeing that yet, right? The the person\'s like, oh, yeah, but you still got to, you know, pay the bills, you still got to do the whatever, you still got to do some other working, you know, you don\'t just become great, just because you said so Donna.

Donna Tashjian 32:56
I love that question. Um, I\'m glad I asked what exactly you meant. Um, the, the key to it all is remember what we said freedom was, its internal. And so when I, when I have someone who feels hopeless, which is kind of what you were describing, I\'m stuck in this dead end job. I don\'t feel great. I don\'t feel like I\'m accomplishing anything. I don\'t know that I really even matter, perhaps. And helping them work on their internal beliefs and mindset would be the first step. Because you can\'t see. It\'s like, the world looks flat, I can\'t see what I can\'t see. And from where my perspective is, it\'s flat. That\'s what the world is. And so that just because that\'s all you can see, doesn\'t mean that\'s all there is. It\'s just what you can see right now. So what I help people do is to see more to be able to see the round of the Earth, so that they can see that there is more than your dead end job as you put it, or whatever limiting things that you feel like you\'re in your life, there\'s more to see. And I would help you see that that\'s what a coach does is help you see what you can\'t see yet.

Brandon Handley 34:14
Thanks. Now, like I said, it\'s one of those I know that I\'ve run up against it. And people, you know, the it\'s a challenge, right to just try and help them to understand, was it gonna help them do? Right? What, what exactly is it you\'re gonna help them do? So thank you for clarifying that for me. So, we\'re in a little spot of the podcast where I like to kind of think about what this is, is spiritual speed dating, right? Like there\'s somebody out there who\'s looking for their next spiritual hookup, as it were. And I have a question or two, I\'m gonna go ahead and ask you along that line down. So okay. Spiritual Bachelorette number one. Why are so many people depressed?

Donna Tashjian 34:59
Me Because what they\'re focusing on?

Brandon Handley 35:03
What do you mean by that? Yeah. What do you mean by that?

Donna Tashjian 35:07
Whatever you focus on you magnify whatever you focus on, you multiply. If I\'m focusing on the lack that\'s in my life, anyone could be 15 minutes away from depression, if you start focusing on what\'s wrong in your life, your life is always filled with good and bad. Let\'s look at our neighborhood, there\'s good parts of our city. And there\'s parts it\'s not, there\'s great things about those jobs. And there\'s things that you don\'t like, in the house, you live you like this, but you don\'t like that. There\'s always a mixture of good things that we enjoy or we prefer, and things that we would prefer not. It\'s wherever you put your focus, that\'s what you\'re going to magnify and multiply in your life. So if you are, and the other thing is your focus also creates emotions, we think emotions just happen. But they happen by what I\'m focusing on. So if I\'m focusing on the negative and the lack of my life, I\'m going to have negative emotions. If I choose to focus on what the blessings are in my life, finding things to be thankful for, and grateful for, that\'s the quickest way to pull you out of a depression or anxiety.

Brandon Handley 36:18
Thought it sounds like you\'re saying I might feel to control my emotions,

Donna Tashjian 36:22
just a bit. And I talked to women. So you know, I\'ve got there\'s even more emotions we do is we do have more emotions. Yes. And I will, I will say it. And so teaching women, how not to be ruled by are my emotions, I can actually control them and rule them as well. Now, there are some chemical things going on in women\'s body that are different. I\'m not going there. I\'m just generalizing that where I put my focus, my feelings will follow that

Brandon Handley 36:53
I think that\'s a great point. A lot of times we feel like, our emotions come before our thoughts, right, and what we\'re focusing on, but what you\'re saying again, here is that what you focus on what you\'re thinking about is what can help to drive those emotions.

Donna Tashjian 37:08
Yes, absolutely.

Brandon Handley 37:10
So let\'s try what are we also afraid of?

Donna Tashjian 37:22
I think the most thing that if we really got down to are afraid of not belonging and being loved is probably one of the main things and the other things is I don\'t I want to matter, I want to somehow matter. And so I think that\'s probably the main thing. We want to be belong and be loved and matter.

Brandon Handley 37:44
Yeah, that\'s I mean, that\'s, that\'s a big one. We want to feel like we\'re significant in some way, right? We\'re seeing for our contributions and the kind of like the truth of who we are, we want our greatness shining through. And sometimes we don\'t, may not feel like that it is and that can cause us to kind of definitely be upset and afraid to make the next step. Nobody\'s seen the the greatness is I\'m contributing, nobody\'s seeing, you know, you know, the truth of who I am. And that can that can definitely make you afraid to step forward. So thought, who would you say is your ideal client? Right now?

Donna Tashjian 38:25
My ideal client and I, I coach women. So that\'s first criteria. And the ideal client is someone who has had a painful past and disappointments. And they\'re feeling like they\'re stuck there. They just kind of keep showing up and they want them they want to move forward and create a life they\'ve always dreamed that would be I wanted to make a comment about greatness since I\'ve said that a lot of thought came to me with the last couple of comments you said, is a lot of times we think greatness is grandiose. And the most important thing that I want to get this across is greatness is just being you. That is great. And I wrote a blog, I\'m probably not the first one to say it, but small hinges move big doors. Sometimes the small, we could change the world if everyone was kind, just being kind, it could transform our whole world. So it doesn\'t mean great doesn\'t mean grandiose necessarily, but just be you authentically, you can be kind it changes everything.

Brandon Handley 39:42
That\'s a great it\'s a great point. I remember years ago when I first felt like I was quote, unquote, stepping into my greatness, just feeling all of who I am. Right. And that was it. It wasn\'t anything bigger or greater to just me Feeling true to myself? And I was at Dad convention dad 2.0 which is like a bunch of dad bloggers go to that. And I was asking him I said, Well, you know what\'s, what do you think is keeping you from your own greatness? What\'s keeping you from stepping you in into your greatness and people I think took it the same way that you\'re saying it right there. They will pool my to be great. Well, you\'re here to be great. is kind of how I would see that. So Thanks for Thanks for that clarification. Where should we send people to get a little more Donna Tashjian ties?

Donna Tashjian 40:37
You did it. My website, my website will be the best place I\'m also on social media so you can check you know, check me out on social media, but my website is I vibrant. living.com.

Brandon Handley 40:51
Don, I want to say thanks for taking the time to stop on a podcast today. Really appreciate what it is that you\'re bringing out to the world helping us women to kind of get on stuck and really

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hope you enjoyed this episode of the spiritual dove pocket. Stay connected with us directly through spiritual dove.co. You can also join the discussion on Facebook spiritual though, and Instagram at spiritual underscore Joe. If you would like to speak with us, send us an email Brandon at spiritual dope CO and as always, thank you for cultivating your mindset and creating a better reality. This includes the most thought provoking part of your day. Don\'t forget to like and subscribe to stay fully up to date. Until next time, be kind to yourself and trust your intuition.

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Dr. Gianna Sullivan - A pharmaceutical executive's life-changing meeting with God

Published: Nov. 28, 2021, 4:47 p.m.
Duration: 53 minutes 47 seconds

Dr. Gianna Talone-Sullivan received her Doctorate in Pharmacy at the University of Southern California (USC). She then proceeded into corporate pharmacy where she practiced in the executive leadership realm of healthcare organizations, non-profit organizations, program development, marketing & board of directors development.

In 1989 she experienced a Divine encounter which led her to leave her corporate career to fulfill a Mission she had been invited to develop. \\xa0

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She founded a medical mobile health care clinic called\\xa0Mission of Mercy (MOM)\\xa0whose mission is to \\u201crestore dignity healing through Love.\\u201d MOM is celebrating its 26 year of operation and is now a national charitable non-profit organization that provides free medical, dental, prescriptions, ancillary services and up to 12 free surgeries a year to the underserved population.

She is the author of several books titled \\u201cI Am Your Jesus of Mercy\\u201d and is also the United States representative for the worldwide Armata Bianca Apostolate, which promotes the Fatima message to the children of the world. \\xa0

In September 2020 she became a Certified Happiness Coach with Marci Shimoff\\u2019s, Happiness for No Reason Program; 7 steps to being happy from the inside out. Marci Shimoff is a celebrated transformational leader and #1 New York Times bestselling coauthor of Chicken Soup for the Woman\\u2019s Soul and a featured teacher in The Secret. \\xa0

Gianna is available to inspire and fill your hearts with joy, peace, and clarity. https://www.fasttracktohappiness.com/

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you\'ve questioned so much more than those around you. You\'ve even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited as Bob process? Rest assured, you are not alone, the world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can\'t quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask. But he\'s the answers to questions about you this world, the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don\'t have all the answers, but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another head of spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let\'s get right into today\'s episode.

Brandon Handley 0:41
Hey, there\'s spiritual dope. I\'m on here today with Dr. Jana to low Sullivan, who received her doctorate in Pharmacy at the University of Southern California. She then proceeded into corporate pharmacy where she practiced the executive leadership realm of healthcare organizations, nonprofit organizations, program development, marketing and Board of Directors development. In 1989, she experienced the divine encounter which led her to leave her corporate career to fulfill a mission she\'d been invited to develop. She founded a medical mobile health clinic called Mission of Mercy, whose mission is to restore dignity healing through love. Marlon celebrating his 26th year of operation is now a national, charitable, nonprofit organization that provides free medical, dental, dental, and prescriptions and ancillary services and up to 12 Free surgeries a year to the underserved population, sees the author of several books titled I am your Jesus of mercy and is also the United States representative for the worldwide Armada by Bianca apostolate was for most the Fatima message to the children of the world. On top of this, she is also a happiness coach. And we\'ll dig into some of that. I am so happy to have you here with us today.

Gianna Sullivan 2:00
John, how are you? I\'m great. Now that I\'m on your show, Brandon, thank you for having me. Welcome to all your your fans who are joining us today. It\'s quite an honor. And so very privileged,

Brandon Handley 2:16
fantastic, me as well, you know, kind of this privilege to even be able to have the platform and be able to hop on and share it out. So I like to start these off with the whole idea that you and I are vessels for Source Energy, right? Like, you know, there\'s something out there that or even within us that we\'re connected to, that can only be expressed in like a certain way. And oftentimes when when we\'re having this conversation, there\'s something coming through you today, John, that can only, like, be delivered through this platform to an end listener that needs this message. What is that message today?

Gianna Sullivan 3:00
Well, if you had asked if we were to join, maybe, you know, a few months ago or something, maybe it would have been different. But today, I would say how could anyone see that there isn\'t a storm? If you know what I mean? Arising I mean, there\'s something near I think we\'re all feeling it. We\'re all being restricted on various levels. And that controls that are there are many controls that are being placed on not only locally, but peoples of all countries. And so I\'m just wondering who\'s behind this outrageous manipulation that\'s telling people threatening people what they can or cannot do. And, and whoever it is, is behind liberal political, medical, spiritual leaders. They\'re just mandating all these different types of restrictions. And a lot of people are frightened by that. A lot of them are angry by that. So it\'s just not the President\'s or something. Something bigger, something else is behind this. And you know, who\'s telling social media to go out there. And these big giants who are spending millions of dollars to promote misinformation, and even to get certain people elected? Who is I guess, it\'s a storm that I see that sneering and who is behind this media, this mainstream media mean? And then I could even go into immigration. I can even talk to you about that. I mean, who\'s who\'s driving and profiting from the chaos and injustice? Right. They\'re from all fonts of, of immigration. If you look at it, so you got health care workers, you\'ve got first responders, you\'ve got teachers, you\'ve got policies. You know, even law enforcement professionals, people are asked to resign people are leaving. I don\'t know. There\'s I just sense that there\'s a storm arising.

Brandon Handley 5:35
Yeah. Hey, I mean, it\'s it\'s we\'re living in some some really interesting times. I would I would not hesitate to say, and I know that I\'ve said it before. I feel like we\'re living in the, in the midst of a revolution. Right. I think that. And within revolution, there\'s also revolt. Right? There\'s going to be most likely and there already has been I think that we\'re seeing some type of revolts. We\'re seeing revolts right now within the workforce, right, the great resignation, there\'s a there\'s a revolt. And within revolution, we also need to think of that the cycle, right? of you know, whatever\'s happening right now, our past we\'re really trying to disentangle from that and move forward. And I think to your point, there\'s a lot of new puppet mastering going on to try and maintain the grasp, by instilling fear by saying, oh, you know, you people over here, you got to stay here, you people over here, you\'ve got to do this, you\'ve got to you can\'t, you can\'t visit these people. Right? Oh, here\'s like the top five places you can\'t visit, right, and really just kind of a tremendous fear tactic that\'s being media driven, and all this other stuff. 100% there is a storm, a foreman, and I think that we\'re definitely in the midst of it. You know, all that being said, John, I mean, your happiness Coach, how do we how do we, you know, find ourselves let\'s, let\'s talk a little bit about your journey. Right, let\'s talk a bit about your journey. And then, at some point, let\'s lean into the idea that, you know, all this is going on? I\'m hoping you say yes to this. But can we still find happiness in all these things that are going on?

Gianna Sullivan 7:24
So, okay, so even in the midst of a storm, I mean, there\'s various ways to look at all of this, okay? We know for a fact that genetically, we are composed. And born with happiness, we that\'s been proven scientifically. So if you looked at a pie chart, 50% of our happiness is genetic. And then the other 40% Are your habits, how you\'re brought up what you\'ve been exposed to your neural path, pathway, pathological cellular pathways, I mean, all of that is, can either be positive or negative, and then that\'s 90%, right there that 40% was, you know, positive, that would be 90% 50. And 40%, happy would be 90%. But that 40% is the issue, the other 10% to make the 100% is really issues in your life that are transitional. Yeah. I mean, if you\'re not going to be happy, 100% all the time. It\'s always how you react, what your emotion is what you can do to cross check yourself. On, I mean, you there are points in your thought processes that you can change. So we know for a fact that we have 60,000 thoughts a day. And we also know that tomorrow, you will have 95% of the same thoughts that you had yesterday will be the same thoughts a few bad today that Did you know that now checking your thoughts, think about it, you\'re gonna have the same thoughts or things that we\'re always kind of thinking about. So if there are 95% of the thoughts that you had yesterday, the same day, then we\'re being robbed of happiness, just based off the things that we\'re thinking,

Brandon Handley 9:29
Alright. Let\'s, um, let\'s, I definitely want to dig into it. Right. I want to talk a little bit about your journey into this space, though. So so, you know, even first and foremost, right? With the amount of time that we have, definitely want to understand, you know, you you were in your work in the corporate life, yeah, doing the, you know, nine to five or as we know, corporates can be like, you know, 6080 hours a week, you know, just kind of like this life suck, especially as you\'re trying to propel yourself into This this, the things everybody tells us that we\'re supposed to want. Right. And then you had a divine encounter, which inspired you to leave your your corporate gig. And I love that, you know, I don\'t know if this is on purpose in your webpage, but you were led to fulfill a capitalized mission. Love to hear more about that, and then just kind of how that integrates. And let\'s work our way up to some happiness pieces that we can share out.

Gianna Sullivan 10:32
So I was vice president of a major health care company. And really, I enjoyed that position tremendously. I was very much of a yuppie. And so born and raised Arizona, got my BA in chemistry at ASU went off to California. And I got my doctorate and did my internships and at clerkships, UCLA. I mean, I was a yuppie, all the way enjoyed it all, took my boards, pass them and went right into administrative work and stuff like that. So I thoroughly enjoy I still love pharmacy is my profession for 36 years, but I, you know, I was at the top of my career is how I really would say it. And yes, I did, I did have a divine encounter. And it was an amazing experience. It mean, regardless of your religion, I can only enlighten it. I mean, yeah, to something like St. Paul, you know, like the scales fall off your eyes. It was like, all of a sudden, I had this illumination, enlightenment of body, mind and soul. And I was invited by God. And when you have a divine encounter, I can tell you, Brandon, you there\'s no way you can fake this. I mean, it will last for you forever, you will never forget the moment and what happens to you. So that I was invited by God to leave my current position as I knew it. And then to help the Lord. restore dignity, healing through his love. And now he didn\'t give me the tools how to do that. But medicine being my background in health care. That\'s why I chose the name Misha mercy. And the only key was I was going to them, they weren\'t to come to me. So I started a medical mobile clinic to go out to them. We started with like six volunteers and took a while to get it, you know, you have to do your research geographical area and, and people just don\'t buy into what you\'re doing. So did take time and you take baby steps, the steps. And so that\'s what happened. Then I took the plunge and purchased an RV. That was like $40,000 for $2,000. I only had $2,000 in my account. And then two weeks later, a benefactor came and paid it in full. And then we were able to they meaning the group that I got together about a few of us that we were able to furnish refurbish the mobile, RV to a mobile clinic. And that\'s how it started. This is was us. 20 stat. 27 years ago. Now we\'re national nonprofit.

Brandon Handley 13:50
I think I think that\'s fantastic. Let\'s talk a little bit about the you know, we can talk a little bit about that experience that you had, but it\'s been my it\'s hard to translate, right? It\'s like you said, you know, it\'s something you can\'t fake. Right?

Gianna Sullivan 14:09
You and leave your job for the amount of money I was getting to get nothing.

Brandon Handley 14:14
Well, you know, let\'s talk about that. That too. Right. So the whole the whole I\'m not, I\'m not a biblical scholar. But there\'s the whole idea of sell everything give it away or let go of it and move on to this next piece. Right sounds kind of like yeah, that\'s what you did you like you You went all in Who you talking to about this vision? And what what are people saying to you and how do you kind of move past that?

Gianna Sullivan 14:41
Well, I talked to everybody about the vision and and then I had a few friends that I knew that incorporated the company and started in Arizona actually 91 and then by I moved to the Pennsylvania Maryland area in 93 and then 94 actually launched in the Maryland area. And so yeah, that the the whole mission statement, I\'m not afraid to talk about God or the reality of that. And, and the idea of restoring dignity Healing Through love is and I never was financially compensated all these years, I worked part time in different pharmacy jobs to support myself. But the idea is you you need to give without seeking constellation in return in the joy of that, whether it\'s a listening ear or a hug or a smile. It\'s It\'s amazing. So we just believe the mission of mission, Mercy believes that the moment you give, is the moment you actually received.

Brandon Handley 15:47
Yeah, I mean, there\'s a lot there\'s definitely a lot in the giving, right. The took a course, I think it was the Indian School of Business. And one of the one of the pieces that we had to do was, it wasn\'t just to kind of, I don\'t know, if you\'ve ever done these kind of pay it forward, things were like, hey, whoever\'s behind me want to buy them a cup of coffee, but I don\'t want to see it, don\'t tell who it was. And you kind of sneak out of there, right? You don\'t want you to like peekaboo. And you\'re, and then instead of doing that, they said, stay there and witness it. Right? Because it\'s that giving that gift and seeing the suction that to me is is very rewarding. And I never really had had that experience before. So you know, definitely in giving gifts and and giving, but like, just the reward of giving something and seeing somebody truly appreciate it and enjoy it unexpectedly. Right, that gift of giving. Yeah. And then, you know, you the other part, too, is is giving without the expectation to get something back, knowing that your whatever you\'re doing, you\'re doing it from your heart and not with an expectation of return is that exactly in line with where you\'re at,

Gianna Sullivan 17:04
there are three, three levels of giving. One is you give because we have an obligation, there was something that needs to be done with our economy or population or whatever. For something like government, we have to do something about the issue. That\'s one level given the second level giving is you give and you volunteer, let\'s say because it makes you feel good. But then there\'s the third level, which is the level that I congratulate all the volunteers that mission mercy or any other organization is that you give without seeking compensation in return. Right, because you are the fiber, then you are joining you are, you\'re part of a family. You don\'t do something to feel good, or get paid to do something not out of obligation. But you do something, because you\'re just you\'re that family, you, you have a big heart, and you want to give people hope. And you want to extend the love to make them feel valued. So whether you see one person in a day, or 100 people, or more than that in a day, you treat each of those people as if they\'re the most important person, each person is if they\'re the most important person that comes to you that day. You they need to be valued and they need to feel loved. They need they\'ll know if you\'re authentic or not. Right.

Brandon Handley 18:40
Now, yeah, you can\'t fake it. And you\'ll know, right? You\'ll feel it in yourself. If you\'re faking it, it\'s kind of like a It\'s kind like a faded copy of the real thing. So one of my questions, those as you\'re heating this calling, what was there any fear involved of what people might think of what you\'re doing? Have some of those conversations again, you said your top of your career, and you said, You know what? I got this other thing I got to do, delivered by God. It\'s in my heart. I know it\'s the right thing to do. What\'s the response from people who are close to you?

Gianna Sullivan 19:25
Pretty amazing. And, you know, you become a loner. And there are a few that will stay by you. Maybe your family won\'t even stay by you have to have a conviction that stronger than that and and trusting God that what was told will unfold. And do you have to have that belief and faith and, and trust. So we all have that power. We\'re all empowered with self reliance and God. So it was it fee, I remember people leaving some money on my screen to pay my electricity bill. So it got to a point where it was a little. Yeah. Just doesn\'t happen right away. I mean, you have to work through the process. So, but it did turn around and things started slowly in a positive direction.

Brandon Handley 20:30
Right. And I just want people to hear that, right. I mean, because we still have, I think, this tribal instinct to not get thrown out of the tribe. For eight. If I if I get thrown out of the tribe, I\'m on my own. The bears and the lions are gonna eat me, and I\'m not gonna be able to do it. So I better stick with these guys, even though I\'ve got this thing on my heart. And what you\'re talking about is, you know, kind of leaning into it, like you said, Trust that process. Follow what you believe to be true. And nobody else needs to believe what\'s on your heart except for yourself. Is that fair to say?

Gianna Sullivan 21:07
God, it will happen. If it isn\'t, then it will. How do you know it takes you just have to walk the process. You have to? I mean, there\'s certain things I mean, as a health care provider, I knew what needed to be done as a health care provider. If you\'re starting a medical mobile clinic, you know that things need to be done. You know that there\'s research geographically, you need to know where the need is, you need to know if there\'s, you know, if there\'s any where you have to learn about benefactors. I mean, you have to do your your homework investigation. And if you\'re starting a nonprofit, and I was in Arizona at that time, let me tell you, Arizona, full full of nonprofits, it\'s a competitive competition area, you got the heart sociation, you got the kidney, you got me everyone is competitive. And they are big time donors. So if you\'re trying to start a nonprofit, you know, people just companies just don\'t give to nonprofit unless you can show or prove that you have a track record. Okay, so you have to build up your clientele. Or you have to find the right benefactor who believes so much in your passion that they give because of what you believe, and they buy into what you love. And then that\'s what happened with me. And my first $100,000 came from a benefactor in Arizona.

Brandon Handley 22:46
Yeah, I mean, I think that it makes sense, right? If you\'re, if you\'re talking from the heart, and this is something that you believe you\'ve done your work, you\'re gonna you know, I hate to say Providence, right, especially in the work that you\'re doing, but you kind of understand that that\'s possible. And even to your point where there\'s going to be taught, there\'s the possibility where somebody is leaving money on your screen for the electricity, you know, water, what are you thinking in, in? In that, when that\'s happening? Are you thinking, oh, man, I\'m gonna have to get back into work, I\'m gonna have to do this thing I can\'t keep going on? Or are you still open to faith and belief in that time? Just to talk to me a little bit about getting through those times humiliating,

Gianna Sullivan 23:30
okay, you\'re making six figures, and then you drop down and nothing. Chris, you have some money, of course saved or whatever to live off of. But the fact is, if your life is totally changing, and you\'re not networking within that type of business, then you\'re trying to launch something else. You got, you\'ve got homework to do, and you\'ve got to self check yourself. So a lot of people who believe if you have a divine encounter, that you\'ve got it made that you know, everything is going to be flower, no, just perfect for you. That\'s not true. That\'s not true. I mean, God might give you a divine mission or even a message, but that doesn\'t mean that you\'re going to have your whole outlook in your private life. All explained and outlined for you, okay? So if anything, you have to be strong enough. Pray. As for me, I\'m Catholic. So sacraments are important. Going to Mass every day praying the rosary, those things are fundamental, very critical. And then you have to be the light for others. Even if you don\'t feel like being the Liferay even if you don\'t feel good. There are people out there that don\'t feel good either. But maybe it\'s it\'s your light that makes somebody else feel better. Everyone wants to be loved. Okay, not and I\'ll tell you my family didn\'t really jump on board. It took us A couple more than a couple years, few years, several years to finally jump on board. So, alright, so is it a walk you walk alone? Well, if you believe that you live your life alone, and you don\'t believe God\'s with you walking that life with you, then, you know, I would regroup with yourself and know that you\'re never alone. You\'re never alone.

Brandon Handley 25:26
Yeah, I mean, that\'s, that\'s a big message from you know, spiritual dope podcast, right? It\'s big messages. You know, what you\'re talking about is, it\'s available to everybody. Right? It\'s a boils down to a choice and the decision whether or not to accept that into your life. And then once you do you find exactly what you said, you\'re not alone. Can you bet you maybe you\'ve been trying to do it alone your entire life. But but then it boils down to a point of like, alright, well, apparently, there\'s something out there that that can help me. Right. And, and leaning into accepting that divine grace and accepting divinity and accepting that try to go at it alone. Even in any way, shape, or form, it\'s almost, it\'s almost full foolishness, right? To kind of think about it that way. So I appreciate you sharing, you know, kind of what that walk is like, right? Because I think that it\'s very important. I think that it\'s important to heed your calling, right? What is your calling to lean into it and to know that while there may be some areas of challenge that sounds like you know, you\'re living the life that you feel is driven by purpose, and you\'re doing it with intent, with love and kindness, and caring? And while you may have enjoyed your job, as a VP, would you say that this is more fulfilling for

Gianna Sullivan 26:52
you? Oh, my gosh, yeah, sure. Sure. Even you can even there\'s no measurement. It\'s timeless. It\'s the it\'s the fulfillment is is beyond is just, I mean, now, it\'s been so many years, it\'s just here, it doesn\'t matter what what work I do. My outlook is always to serve the most vulnerable or to help the underserved population or to help to general anybody who is hurting, and just needs to be refocused. Yeah, you know, if you\'re Christian anyway, if you\'re Christian, don\'t believe that Christ died for you. And then you\'re saying you\'re alone? Or you\'re, you know, then is almost blasphemous. How you Why would he? You know, what? The purpose being Franklin, if, if, if you don\'t believe in resurrection in our life, and there is a there\'s a real guy stand, for sure. So people think that if you don\'t see it, then it\'s not true. But now there\'s a lot of things you see and you think is true. A true?

Brandon Handley 28:08
Oh, yeah, for sure. For sure. I think I think too, you know, what we see less than 1% of the visible frequency, we hear less than 1% of, you know, the, you know, sound waves out there. I wouldn\'t be super surprised if, you know, we\'re walking through, you know, we\'ll call it like, bodyless souls or something, right? Like, you know, something like that. So, just because we can\'t see it doesn\'t mean that is not there. Just because we can\'t hear it doesn\'t mean that something\'s not talking to us. So I get it, you know,

Gianna Sullivan 28:44
purposes. Me it. You know, the Lord says, where your heart is there to is your treasure. If you have that flame in your heart going, keep it tight, so nothing blows out that flame.

Brandon Handley 29:01
Right? Yeah. I love it. I love it. Well, I want to I want to jump forward a little bit into your happiness work, your happiness coaching. So you\'re doing this you got your hands full with running when running this program running mom. Now, what makes you decide to now pick up and lean into happiness coaching?

Gianna Sullivan 29:24
Well, I actually when I was on mission, mercy I was I witnessed a lot of people who are very happy coming on board and being treated getting free prescriptions, free health care, free ancillary services, etc. free dental care. But that was the happiness. That was a relief for them. But interiorly more in debt in debt it within them was something still lacking. And so I wanted to them to know, you know how valued they really are, and how whole you can be and how you look at a circumstance, there is a happiness continuum. And so we can control our thoughts we can either be Teflon or Velcro, we have a way to, we know, our thoughts and our outcomes and how we interact, how we treat ourselves how we can temper our thoughts and our emotions can really make a difference today. And so I wanted to take the extra step. And in that is the spiritual component. So some people that I do happiness coaching with has the spiritual component, they want that spiritual component. And then there\'s the more secular just wanting to know the principles of the fast track to happiness or seven level appears like a house, there are seven cores to it. But the most two important one is, you know, the the foundation being held accountable, understanding what\'s happening, where\'s your mind, whereas your thoughts, and then after, can grasp that you move on to the heart, to the soul to relationships, you know, there\'s a roof, it\'s like a house. So each one is different, you can\'t do everyone in an hour, you know, you\'d have to take the full

Brandon Handley 31:29
class. know for sure. So I mean, you\'ve got let\'s, let\'s touch on the the seven pillars, right that you\'ve got there, you touched on a little bit, but let\'s just kind of talk talk through them. And maybe, let\'s talk a little bit about how people are able to find pockets of happiness amidst the storm that we are talking about.

Gianna Sullivan 31:50
Okay, so that one is, okay. So the whole purpose of what something like this would be is, you want to learn some practical tools that you can use that you can every day, immediately try and raise your happiness level. Okay? So you want to try and understand what that key is to create a foundation of happiness. The idea of the happiness that I try and teach is happiness from the inside out. Happiness is a state of being, it\'s not something that happens that causes you happiness, the true happiness that I try and teach is happiness is a state of being, regardless of the circumstances that happen within your life. Now, again, Brendon is not like, I would tell you that if any, whatever, you might have a bad day. Okay, so does that mean that you know, you\'re gonna Oh, just be so chipper? No, I mean, you know, there\'s a way to look at things there\'s, there\'s, there is a connection that you can click on, in, in this happiness forum, there is feelings of contraction, you know, are you feeling resistance or fear? Or are you malaise? You know, there\'s a feeling of separation? That\'s something can contraction, you know, you\'re not feeling good? Or are you being expanded expansion is a big thing. You know, are you optim mystic Are you know, feeling flow well, being ease? Creativity, you\'re feeling good. So you\'re Oh, those are your tools of magnets one way or the other, that you can figure out if, if you\'re on the right course. So always, no matter what your sentiment is, double check your thoughts, feelings by expansion, or contraction. Okay, so because your brain has neural pathways, and those neuro habits are things that will give you different emotions, it\'s like addictions, you know? And that\'s why they say, Well, you know, I have a problem and you\'re going to go to whatever rehab or wherever it is, that 30 day process, they say it takes 20 to 30 days, is because you have these neural pathways in your brain chemicals. And so once you start thinking and a one way, then that becomes a habit, and then you start thinking that way and thinking that way and thing, and it becomes a natural habit, where it\'s always a negative, negative, and that\'s happens a lot with substance abuse. It\'s a natural response, because that\'s all they\'ve been trained to do. And so you have to get out of that. You have to train your brain to think differently, different neural pathways different cellular membranes that memory pathways that will help train you to think opposite positive. And until that becomes the ordinary way of your thinking. So it takes about, you know, 2030 days, it doesn\'t happen overnight. So some people use a rubber band that when they think a negative thought, you say, hey, stop, and then you just distract yourself or think of something. So it\'s uncomfortable a little bit in the beginning until you get your, your, you know, roll on format of what it is. Some people I tell, go look at yourself in the mirror, and every day for 20 days, for one minute or two minutes, I want you to say how I\'m beautiful, I\'m intelligent, I\'m, I\'m handsome. I\'m, you know, I\'m, I\'m, you know, creative, I help people, whatever. Yeah, I love my mom, I love my dad, I love you know, little kids have no problem doing that, you know, and they\'ll even clap their hands and do a dance as they\'re doing it. So we have to learn to love ourselves and be comfortable with ourselves, even when we don\'t feel good about ourselves, we can understand that there is a challenge or something happening out there. Well, it doesn\'t mean we can\'t change it, but we can certainly change our attitude about it. So the pillars are, you know, like I said, it\'s, I call it the home of happiness. Okay. So the top is your life purposes is the roof. Do you want me to continue on? Did you want to say some?

Brandon Handley 36:42
Looking for the mute button. I\'ll tell you what, let\'s let\'s walk through, right, let\'s walk through it, because I want to make sure that we talk about the pillars and definitely got thoughts and things we could talk about. But I just want to make sure that we leave time to walk through these pillars. And maybe we\'ll talk a little bit about those. Okay,

Gianna Sullivan 37:00
I don\'t want to go through every single one of them because they take too long.

Brandon Handley 37:04
Yeah, no, no, just hit them on a high level. John. Okay.

Gianna Sullivan 37:08
So are we on mute? Are we so

Brandon Handley 37:11
we\'re on the go?

Gianna Sullivan 37:17
Here Amazing how you doing? Okay, so you had the life purpose, we had a roof over our heads, you know, we don\'t want a leaky roof. You know, in a hurricane situation, I think we have a roof over our head, right? So, do we have a roof, we look at that, then we have our mind, their pillars mind, our mind, our thoughts, our heart, our heart is the key, the key to the soul. And where, like I said, Where your treasure is there too as you\'re okay. And then we\'re the body. Of course, that is if your body is in alignment, you know, quantum light, even you know, a lot of people do yoga and stretch, but the body is important to balance. So and then there\'s the soul. And the soul is your deep intimacy with God. And different relations, I mean, different religions. So it is your overall essence of who you are and your soul being free. Because it\'s captive within your body. So that soul lives forever, and you make a choice of where your soul goes. So then there\'s CEUs 12345, okay, then there\'s the responsibility that we call the foundation to the house. So that means being held accountable for some of the things that you do or not do, okay? So you, you want to be held accountable for things that you have done. And we look at that. And then there\'s the last is the, the garden of the house, the garden is your relationships, and how you choose them. And whether you desire or not, it\'s important to choose what is purposeful for not only you but for the other party. Pretty much that\'s it in an in a nutshell. So the idea is that we try and teach to do what you love and love what you do. And, sure,

Brandon Handley 39:41
I mean, I think one of the one of these pieces that I know that I personally struggled with in the past so every once in a while struggle with is you know, is that roof, right? You know, like you\'ve done you found your passion and you\'re following your inspiration and your serving others. How, what are some ways that you teach people to find their purpose?

Gianna Sullivan 40:12
Well, everyone has a dream. And there\'s a way to live your dream. And you have to embrace your desires. And based off your dreams and desires, you try and seek to fulfill them, and find out what that channel is to do it. And remember, you have to use that continuum happiness chart thing I said, the expansion contraction. If you\'re really unhappy, if you\'re doing something that you\'re expanding and embracing and wanting to do, you\'ll be pretty low spirited, you know, if you\'re happy, well, let\'s put it this way, you could be happy for bad reasons. And that happiness is if you\'re using unhealthy things to just make you an antidote to make you kind of feel externally happy. But then there is the other happiness, which is, you have a happy for a good, good reason. And that\'s really the satisfaction of what you\'re doing, you\'re healthy, you have healthy expectations. And that then starts moving over to the real and which my desire for people is to have happiness with no reason at all, regardless of what ever is, you have an interior piece. And even if there is a storm, it will balance back because you know, the practices to put in place to maintain that equity and equanimity.

Brandon Handley 41:55
Last little, wasn\'t that one I was tripped over? No, no worries, no worries. I think that that I mean, I think that\'s great. I think that, you know, trying to understand what your purpose is. And using using that contraction, expansion feeling to kind of be your guiding principle is what I\'m hearing you say, right? You know, and like, do I feel like I\'m expanding and opening my heart, right? To what it is, I\'m doing my feeling in touch with God source universe with this work that I\'m doing, or is what I\'m doing, kind of eating me alive, right contraction, and just kind of making me shrink and, and not live to the fullest of who I am. And when I when I read a little bit on the pillar of the body, you talk about making yourself happy, nourish your body, energize your body, tune into your body\'s wisdom, but I\'m just curious, if you\'re also talking about the idea of getting these expansive thoughts in our neural pathways and our body being the alchemical, you know, producer that it is, right. And when we have these good or more positive thoughts, we\'re creating positive nutrients for ourselves, that our cells become addicted to those positive cells. So in the same way, they would become addicted to the negative energy, right? But just different chemicals, is that what you\'re saying?

Gianna Sullivan 43:24
And the body component will, if you\'re healthy, will feed into that the the cellular neural path pathways that we were talking about is really the mind aspect that goes into behavior. And you know, attitude is always a big thing to happiness. So if you have a good attitude, you know, it\'s expected to that if you have a good attitude, it\'ll happiness will come. But beyond that, the behavior and the neural pathways, the cellular negative responses that happen and how you can create new neural pathways. That is, it might be a conscious effort in the beginning, but then later on, it will just become a normal response. It\'s a cellular memory that happens. And then it just unconsciously clicks in. So it kind of combines with the brain as always being the big thing because you\'re always thinking negative thoughts from the day before. Once you can cap that. That\'s why we start with the the foundation of what\'s happened to you and then your mind what\'s going on there. Then as it goes to your heart and blossoms. You find out how much empowerment that you have in your love that can turn something positive, or something hatreds, almost satanic. It\'s amazing. From water, I teach about water theory from the major scientists,

Brandon Handley 44:57
the Hmong Emoto Yeah, when he\'s done

Gianna Sullivan 45:01
the, the water experiences of ice and stuff that kids will just put their heart and good things and you get this beautiful image and negative is almost like disgust. And then, but then then you get to the body. So by the time you get to the body, you\'re already practicing, you got your mind, and you got your heart. So it\'s already like the infusion of a fiber that just kind of flows because, you know, everyone knows if you exercise or stretch or whether even walk or anything like that, what kind of a beat your, you know, circulation and kind of get you going makes you feel high. So, then then, then that\'s how then to the soul is, then it\'s just a combination of, of absorption of God\'s love. And you\'re able to receive abundantly.

Brandon Handley 45:57
Yeah, no, I\'m in right, definitely in a love it. Definitely, I think that the work that you\'re doing both with your mom and with your happiness, work, you\'ve got a great passion for it, it comes through, I\'m enjoying the conversation, for sure. Unfortunately, we have to kind of dial it down and work our way out. So to that end, jhana what I usually like to do is get around to the whole idea that this is kind of like a spiritual speed dating show, right? And then somebody is going to tune in and be like, you know, should I should I work with Gianna and you know, the the way you answer one or two of these questions, spiritual Bachelorette number one, it could be you know, this could put it all on the line. So let\'s just pick a random one. And I think this is a good one. I don\'t ask too many people who define themselves as Christians this question. So I think it\'s a good one. Is current religion serving its purpose? Now feel free to expand?

Gianna Sullivan 47:02
Well, I think with the COVID. And what\'s happened, I think a lot of I\'m really disappointed in how a lot of the pastors and religious people have downsized it, and we\'re afraid even missionaries, you know, no one wanted to touch some, everyone\'s afraid to be with one. If God exists and is with you, then where is your faith and trust? So I think things could have been worked a little better. I think the element of fear and media has caused a tremendous impact. And I\'m disappointed I\'m on that. So that would be my answer. I don\'t think it it could serve better. I hope it does get better.

Brandon Handley 47:45
Fair enough. Would you say that there\'s a kind of an erosion of faith then and in this in this crisis, where, you know, if you are truly of faith, then you act that way. I guess it\'s,

Gianna Sullivan 47:58
again, it\'s fear. And why does that fear come in there? Why did you? Okay, so something happens and Okay, me, it says, You got this, this is like, plague or whatever. And then okay, lets everyone freak out, get it, get the vaccination, without doing any research, no, FDA approved, nothing to understand what it is. And now we just found out you in Maryland, 40% of the people just recently have died of COVID from being fully vaccinated. So because the free cells, the T cells that are free are bound in so they can\'t fight your immune, they can\'t fight the in fact, yeah. But anyway, so it\'s fear. Now, think about it. If you\'re rational, and you\'re going to do some, you know, stop, just look at it. Okay? Just, you know, take precautions, and just Alright, let\'s look at it, and research it, find out information, learn about the pharmaceutical, so that that caused a lot of problems from fear for religion. Unbelievable. It was just amazing. And I I, personally, I\'m disappointed on that.

Brandon Handley 49:22
Now, Fair enough, fair enough. That did not go the way that I thought that it may. And that\'s, that\'s great, right? I mean, that\'s part of the reason for these conversations. Let\'s see. Let\'s go with what is it that prevents people from living to their full potential

Gianna Sullivan 49:42
lack of self love, lack of trust and confidence. You have to be confident not only in yourself, people see if you if people want what you have if you\'re the light of God. So part of that confidence. You may not have all the answers yours, but you are a spiritual person of prayer and love. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 50:09
I mean, and I guess accepting that, you know, the church child, oh god, is that one way that you can begin to live to the fullest of your potential? Which is absolutely

Gianna Sullivan 50:22
I mean, self love, you have to be kind to yourself, when people are not counting to themselves. They\'re overworked, they\'re underpaid, or now they have to resign. Now they\'re pressured. I mean, what where does it? Where does it end to? That\'s why I think the storms coming is like you said, there are people are ready to revolt. There. There are people that know something\'s not right here. And there are people Danford that truth. Right,

Brandon Handley 50:51
right. Now it\'s true. All that being said, we do know that we can find pockets of happiness, we do know that there\'s somebody that they can reach out to, to, to try to understand what is it you know, so maybe, maybe you feel like you\'re down? Or you\'re out? Maybe you feel like you\'re in such in such a situation? I guess a good question, John. It was like, you know, who would you say right now, is your ideal client for this happiness coaching space.

Gianna Sullivan 51:18
Anyone who has a question, anyone that just desire, openness to to really be fulfilled in life, it\'s a freedom. It\'s, it\'s a freedom of peace. It\'s amazing. And that\'s not to say negative things would happen. But it\'s how you react to is how you think the process is how you work the process. And ultimately, it\'s it\'s you. It\'s it\'s all about you. Okay, it\'s not about me. I\'m happy.

Brandon Handley 51:54
Not it\'s I think, to your point, right. It\'s, it\'s, you\'ve been given all the tools, but you may not know how to use them.

Gianna Sullivan 52:03
We all have those gifts. Who doesn\'t have a gift? You have a gift, Brandon, that I I would like to have? And maybe I have a gift that you want to have? The puzzle needs everybody to complete it.

Brandon Handley 52:16
Right? No, I agree. John, there\'s been a lot of fun, really appreciate our, you know, our ability to connect here today. Where can I send people to find out more about you in the work that you\'re doing today,

Gianna Sullivan 52:30
you can go to fast track to happiness.com. And that\'s one way. Or there\'s another website, the spiritual component as some people want is Our Lady of emmetsburg.com is another way they\'re, they\'re both linked together under fast track to happiness. Some people want more spiritual, some people want like the tools. So sure.

Brandon Handley 52:57
No, I get it. I get it. Well, fantastic. I think that the work that you\'re doing is amazing. And, you know, keep it up. You\'re, I think an inspiration to a lot of people.

Gianna Sullivan 53:05
Are you Brandon, thank you for the time. And thanks for all your listeners, you know, thrilled. Really, pleasure and honor. Thanks. I

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Milagros Phillips A New Perspective on Race Healing

Published: Nov. 21, 2021, 6:06 p.m.
Duration: 1 hour 1 minute 51 seconds

Spirituality encompasses the light and the dark\\u2026 with the darkness meaning your shadows\\u2026 without exploration, you may never uncover your truth. \\u2060
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Racism is one of the most divisive issues in America today. From Charlottesville, VA to Ferguson, MO, tensions about race relations are high. \\u2060
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There are many people who feel that racism is too sensitive a topic to discuss, but if we don\'t have the conversation around racism, how do people know what is acceptable and what isn\'t? \\u2060
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Connect with Milagros here: https://www.milagrosphillips.com/ and here: https://www.instagram.com/theracehealer/

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Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you\'ve questioned so much more than those around you. You\'ve even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited in this process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can\'t quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you, this world, the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don\'t have all the answers, but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another head of spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let\'s get right into today\'s episode.

Brandon Handley 0:41
Hey, there\'s spiritual dope. I\'m on here today with Milagros Phillips and she is affectionately known as the race healer. logros has been facilitating programs for over 35 years on race literacy, racial conditioning and healing from racism that inform transform and lead to inspired action. Programs are presented at educational institutions, fortune 100, companies, corporations and public courses seminars, a keynote speaker TEDx presenter, three times author or four times four time author, and certified coach for logros fourth book cracking the healers code, a prescription for healing racism and finding wholeness has been, it\'s been released recently, and we\'ll lagosians work comes from lived experience and is backed by historical and scientific research. It comes from walking through the shadow to find her light and in the process helping others find theirs. What she brings to this work is great compassion, a deep understanding of race and an awareness of people\'s individual and collective power. Waters. I\'m gonna I\'m gonna direct everybody else. So to your website to get the rest of your bio there. I think that should get us get us fired up there.

Milagro Phillips 1:53
How are you doing? I\'m doing well. Thank you. Thank you so much for inviting me to be here to have this conversation with you.

Brandon Handley 2:00
Absolutely, definitely looking forward to it. So I

usually like to start these off with the whole idea that you know, you and I are kind of vessels for Source Energy, right? Call it what you want. And the idea is that somebody tuning into this podcast today that\'s going to hear a message that made specifically for them, it\'s going to be delivered through you. And it can only be delivered through you at this time in this place. What is that message today? That we\'re one human family, and we have a history that has never been healed? has barely been told, that gets in the way of us being that one human family that one global village.

I really like that concept. It\'s funny. My children had a course called I think they went to a school called like the global village. This last year they did at home. Courtney didn\'t go into school traditionally, right. So they did at home studies. And that was the the coursework that they did. And you know, it\'s a global village, right. I mean, how else? How else could we look at it? And I guess that that\'s a little bit about what we\'ll be talking about today. Right? I mean, I\'d love to just kind of, you know, talk to you about some of the work that you you\'re doing. Let\'s talk about how you became to be known as the race healer, which we\'ll just start right there.

Milagro Phillips 3:29
Sure. Yeah, I was having a conversation with a friend about my work. And he said to me, Oh, you\'re here to be

hunted if you\'re here to be one of the human race healers. And so we joked about how you know, the acronym was HRH, and which of course, he was like, of course, you know, Her Royal Highness, that would be you. Right.

So so we got rid of the human piece. We just left it as race healer. And he kept calling me that and I really resisted that, you know, that title for a very long time. And then I finally I actually went to, to New York to have some work done on my website. And one of the women that was working on the website said, Well seems to meet your race healer. And I was like, okay, message from spirit. You\'re hearing it more than once you probably pay attention. And so to that became my nickname the race healer.

Brandon Handley 4:42
Yeah, I mean, what what was your resistance to it? Like, who

Milagro Phillips 4:46
am I to have a title like that? You know, I mean, I There have been things in my life that I\'ve resisted like, when it comes to this work. For instance, I got my calling when I was 13 years old, the day that Dr. King died And, and I talked about that in the book, I locked myself in the bathroom to cry and my father kept knocking on the door and going okay in there. And I, you know, I keep saying, Yeah, I\'m fine, but it really wasn\'t. And at some point while I was in there, just sobbing my eyes out, actually heard a voice, I said, Your to continue the work. And I had no idea what that meant. Except that I knew there was no way in the world I was ever gonna do race work like that was just not I\'m not doing it, you know? And eventually, you know, obviously, I said yes to the column. But what\'s really interesting is that in that saying, yes, which, by the way, took decades for me to actually say yes to my calling. What I realized was that I sort of look back on my life, I realized I came in wired to do that work. You know, the people who were my parents, the place where I was born, the things that, like, who has a history like this. So I\'ll give you an example. My mother\'s best friend, this is when I was a little girl in the Caribbean, and mother\'s best friend lived around the block from us, and their backyard abutted our backyard. And at night, my mother was she was going to go visit her friend, and she would take me with her, we would walk through the backyard, because obviously that was the shortcut, right. And I remember being terrified of my favorite tree, which was huge with this huge avocado tree in the backyard. It was a beautiful tree. And I love this tree. And during the day, this tree was like my best friend sit under it to read. I was like, I learned to cook under that tree and just absolutely love this tree. So at night, though, I was terrified of that tree. I always felt like if I opened my eyes in the dark, I would see people hanging from that tree. Now I\'m just a little girl, okay, like, between the ages of we lived in a house till I was eight. So I must have been between five and six years old. And it was rumored that they had hung slaves on that tree. And so I you know, like, who has a history like that you don\'t me like it just sort of, you know, politics and people in the south where it\'s like, yeah, it wasn\'t just a rumor. You know, we actually saw people being wrong from these trees. But, you know, in things that my father would say, and my mother would say, I mean, you know, I look back and I realized, wow, I spent a lifetime preparing to do this work.

Brandon Handley 7:44
And I think that that makes sense. Especially when you said you know, you you heard the calling. And at a young age, right. Which sounds to me like it was because it was delivered by spirit. I don\'t know what kind of your your spiritual upbringing was at that point. But I mean, you we all kind of resist that, that first calling? Well, not everybody you hear that call me like, not me. Not now. This isn\'t this isn\'t for me, I\'m gonna go do these 90,000 Other things that I feel like I should be doing other than this. Because to your point, you said, Who am I? Right, who am I and to play such a large role. But I think it\'s Joseph Campbell kind of talks about in the hero\'s journey in the call, right? That call doesn\'t go away that call like it will still kind of follows you around like a lost puppy is like, Are you sure?

Milagro Phillips 8:39
Until you say yes.

Brandon Handley 8:40
Right. I mean, I think I mean, I really agree to that. I think that that\'s right. And and and to your point, like, you\'re building up to that you are the perfect person for that calling. And when you feel that calling you kind of open up and apparently right for books. Can you do all the work? Right, right. Right. So I mean, I I\'m not too familiar with, and I\'m curious as we\'re having this kind of racism talk. What was the Caribbean like, I mean, versus the state. So you\'re there to your eight and then you come to the States I imagine. What was that? Yeah, no actually came

Milagro Phillips 9:19
when I was the dance. And, I mean, obviously it was, it was a huge difference, right? The first thing that happened was, I came the beginning of November. And I remember my sister picked me up at the airport with a big fur coat. And, and I was wearing my, my cabana hat and my you know, it was dressed for the Caribbean right? It\'s got what else would I have been dressed with these short bobby socks and the whole thing and and I put on the scope. We walk outside and we get into a taxi. And all of a sudden this white stuff starts to fall on the taxi is nighttime And I said to my sister, that she goes nearly no, in other words, you better get used to it. So that in and of itself was quite a shock, you know, and of course, the cold air because you\'re not used to that, you know, it\'s sort of Olson\'s is this big shock, like, you stepped into a refrigerator kind of thing, you know, so. So there\'s that. And then, of course, I didn\'t speak the language at the time, so I had to learn to speak English. And, and just, you know, in also going from living in a house that was, you know, it was one floor, and living on a fifth floor, fourth floor, in an apartment building, it was just, you know, and instead of a backyard, there was a park across the street. So we were lucky, because we had a park across the street, of our apartment in New York, but, but it was just, it was just completely different, completely different. I was talking with someone recently, and I said, you know, we don\'t stop to think that people are migrating today, for the same reason that they have always migrated for the same reason that the people in the Mayflower migrated from Europe to come to the continental USA, and to go to other parts of the world. And that\'s because of, you know, people normally migrate because of food insecurity, housing insecurity, they migrate because of natural disasters, famines, and in you know, things like that. And wars, obviously, you know, and skirmishes and things like that. And so, you know, we forget that. And I think it\'s important for people to remember to be more compassionate, and to realize that the people who are who are at the border, are coming here for the same reasons that the Europeans came here when they came in the 1600s, and the 1700s 1800s, early 1900s, and so on.

And how a lot of them were not considered white, you know, the Irish were not considered white, when they first came to this country, neither were the Italians, you know, and people had to lose their accent to assimilate, they have to stop speaking their own language to assimilate. So there were things that you had to do in order to be able to fit in, the difference is, if you\'re a black or brown person, you never do fit in, because the structure is not set up, for you to fit in. And so, you know, becoming aware of the ways in which immigrating and leaving your land behind affects you, at the psychological, emotional, spiritual level, you know, people also left their country, because they didn\'t have spiritual freedom. You know, and that\'s a huge thing for people to be able to practice their religion and their spirituality in the way that they want to do it. And so, you know, just being aware of all of that is extremely important. And then understanding the historical context as to why people had to leave Europe when they did, you know, in the place was rife with diseases, there was no sanitation. And so there was a lot of sickness, and you had only three months to grow your food. So a lot of people were starving and malnutrition, you can\'t even think straight when you\'re malnutrition, you know, not to mention the fact that the Crime and Punishment, the way that it was set up was something you know, it was set up to, it was basically based on violence, to traumatize, to destabilize to control. And so when the Europeans traveled the world and began to colonize the rest of the world, they brought with them what they had, which was their own unresolved trauma, the violence that they had experienced, receiving perpetrated upon the people that they were coming across. And then they were the diseases and things like that, that they brought. But they did the same thing to others that have been done to them. They made sure that people couldn\'t practice their religion or their, their spirituality, they had to let go of their languages, you know, the few native tribes that did survive. And the Africans that survived the Middle Passage, were were they had to give up their language. They had to give up their spiritual practices. They had to, you know, they, they had to fit in in the way that they were being made to fit in to this system. And when you stop to think about the fact that, you know, people who grow in cold climates who only have about three months to grow their food, who look out into their world, nine months out of the year, and there isn\'t even a leaf on the tree, their consciousness is the consciousness of lack, where people who are in places where it\'s always green, it\'s always lush, if the papaya is not growing the mangoes growing or, you know, something is always growing. So you can always feed your family, you have, you know, anyone can build shelter, because shelter is four sticks, and some plantain leaves to keep you from the sun, you know, to shelter you from the heat of the sun, that, you know, you don\'t really need to cover your body because it\'s hot, as opposed to you know, cold weather we have to layer up and you know, and so, so the the, the ways in which people did culture had to do with where they lived in the world, where their tribes developed in the world. And the and you know, those ways those cultures work well in their own environment. You know, like, for people in cold climates, it\'s good for them to preserve food and to be good preservers, because they only have three months to grow their food and whatever they harvest has to last until they can grow and harvest again, right. Whereas if you try to preserve food in hot climates, the food\'s gonna go bad. So it\'s, you know that those cultures and things work well in their own environment. The problem is, when you take one culture, and you impose it on other people, and in places where it doesn\'t belong, and then you get people to stop telling their stories, so they no longer have access to their history, you make them stop speaking their language, so they can\'t connect to the previous generation, who doesn\'t speak the same language and campus on the wisdom and the information and so on and so forth. I mean, you start to see what a mess, right?

Brandon Handley 16:41
Yeah, no honor. percent. I mean, I see that, that last part, I see that even in a generational divide, where we\'re separated from even our young and our parents, right, that the whole tribal elder thing kind of goes out there, especially, at least in the Western civilization, and an America where it\'s like, alright, well, you\'re. So now that you\'re not usable, basically, is what we\'re saying, can you just go finish out your years in this corner, but all that wisdom is going there too. And there\'s conversations that aren\'t being had, and there\'s a lot of wisdom that that\'s not being had there. And to your point, in regards of the language, there\'s only a certain way to convey that story. And that\'s with the authentic language, right? Because a lot of that stuff does not translate into you know, English, right, it loses its it loses its flavor, or as it were. So, I mean, lots of reasons to migrate, understand, like, you know, the racism, definitely, you know, I think that, you know, as a nation, we all forget that. A, we were all immigrants at one point, be, you know, we were not all accepted all the time, regardless of where we think we are right now. But when the question is, what brought your family to the states? And, you know, I know, we talked a little bit about kind of the culture shock and of itself, but one of the things that since we\'re covering the racism aspect of it, how, you know, what was it I\'m not familiar with, how it wasn\'t a Caribbean for you, right? And then the culture and the acceptance or non acceptance and what it was like for you to fit in, in the States.

Milagro Phillips 18:26
Yeah, so um, so it was definitely different. And I remember when I first started to go to school, and I was learning English. Um, I remember that I lived in in one of those neighborhoods that was changing was a mostly Jewish neighborhood. There were some African American families, some Cuban families, and a few Puerto Rican fan was very few Dominicans. This is it 64. And the end of 1964, beginning of 1965, was actually when I started school. And what was interesting was that the reason first of all that I came to this country was because the, my father realized that the US was about to go to war with the Dominican Republic. And he wanted to get the whole family out of there. And we had, you know, his sisters lived in the US and we had cousins here and so on. So he tried to get the entire family out before the end of 64. And sure enough, the United States attacked the Dominican Republic in 1965. And so So you see this this onslaught of Dominican families of a lot of people who were our neighbors in the in the Dr. Ended up being our neighbors in New York, you know, because they tuber escaping what had happened in the country at that time. So again, you know, little things that we don\'t talk about, because a lot of people don\'t know that the US went to war with the Dominican Republic, and it was like, you know, this tiny country To mean, and this big US Army and Navy and all of you know, and so, um, so that was the beginning of that. And then, um, then I had to, you know, I was in school, I had to learn the language. And it was really interesting for me, because I remember that the black children didn\'t play with me because I didn\'t speak English. The white children in play with me because I was black and Hispanic children and play with me because they didn\'t want anyone to know that people who look like me came from where they came from. Because what happens is, you know, and, and I explained this to several people. When you, when you go around the US, and, and you look at the Latin X community, people look a certain way, it\'s mostly lighter skin, or brown skin, people, lighter, brown skinned people who get to get out of those countries. And I was explaining to someone that you have to remember that, that for those of us coming into the US, you have to get a visa, you have to get your visa through the Council of general, the Council of general, usually white males, who bring with them the same racism that they experienced all their lives, which has to do with segregation, and everything else. And so the only people they let out of those countries are people who don\'t look like me. And we were at that time, we were kind of a novelty, because my, my parents folk, it, both my parents, my entire family was bilingual, except for me, I had at that time, five brothers and one sister, I was the only one who didn\'t speak any English, but everybody was bilingual. My grandmother never spoke Spanish. And my mother was an American citizen, because she was born in the Virgin Islands. And in 1936, when the Virgin Islands were bought by the US and became the US Virgin Islands, they were they were British Virgin Virgin Islands. When they bought them, they all the people who were on that island who had been born there up until that time, up until 1936, who become American citizens, that my mother could only give citizenship to any of her children who was born in 1936, which I wasn\'t even thought of back at that time, you know? And so, you know, so there are all these restrictions that are put on those immigrations, and we don\'t always consider that. And so the people, for the most part, who get to get out of those countries, and for whom it was certainly back in the 50s, and 60s and 70s, easier to get out of those countries are the more European you look, the better your chances of getting a visa to get out.

Brandon Handley 22:56
Sure, I mean, that makes sense, given how we roll, right? Like I mean, that\'s just just kind of, you know, that\'s definitely a good history of it. Where would you say it is at this point in time? Just like kind of racism in general. You know, what can we do? What do you feel like we are now and some of the work that you\'re doing? What\'s the trajectory?

Milagro Phillips 23:20
Yeah. So as of the murder of George Floyd, by Derek Shogun. People have awakened. However, however, it\'s been over a year now. And people are starting to fall asleep, again, is what I\'ve noticed. And unless something happens, and it\'s on television, and even, you know, I\'ve seen some pretty horrific stuff, be on the news in between the COVID stuff, right? People are not really paying attention like they were before. And I think that when it comes to the subject, people are prone to exhaustion. And the truth is that if we\'re going to change, we can\'t afford to stay exhausted, it\'s okay to be exhausted. And then, you know, take a nap if you need to, but don\'t fall fast asleep again. Because there\'s so much work to be done. And there\'s so much that we don\'t know that we need to really awaken to and in start changing. I think people don\'t realize that racism is institutional, systemic, internalized, and interpersonal. And we keep trying to solve it at the interpersonal perspective. Well, you said this, and I should say that and I actually have people say to me, if somebody says so and so what should I respond? And it\'s like, Are you kidding me? Really, if you can\'t respond from your heart, there\'s a problem, right? Like, maybe you should do some really work around it so that you can respond from your heart. And so so there\'s this whole thing. The reality is that

Brandon Handley 24:57
look, you might just want to jump in there real quick, right? Like I mean, I think that There\'s the the idea. And this would be, you know, again, what do we call it like crusty old white guys, right? Like, you know, coming from come from like that side of the fence. It\'s like, it\'s like, alright, well, I want to be sensitive, but I don\'t even know I was supposed to be sensitive to at this point in time, like, you know? Yeah. Right, cuz I\'m just playing devil\'s advocate. I don\'t know who that person was like, What am I supposed to say? Like, I just want to have a conversation, and I don\'t want to come out looking like a jerk. Yeah. And I think that, what do

Milagro Phillips 25:30
we do with that is, so here\'s the thing. Healing takes courage. It just does. It\'s not for the faint hearted. It just is, doesn\'t matter what it is, right? Whether whether you\'re healing from a broken arm, or a broken spirit, it takes courage to be with whatever is in that moment. And then to ask ourselves, why is this still hurting? Why is this hurting so much, you know, that that a lot of it is about becoming self reflective, rather than having a quick response. So that you can be right or so that you can fit in or you can say the right thing or be politically correct. We can\'t afford to do that anymore. People need to be authentic. And then they also need to say, I don\'t know what I don\'t know. You know, and not expect to be taught either, you can say that. I don\'t know what I don\'t know. Without an expectation that someone has to teach you. You can begin to ask questions and search for things so that you can start to get your own answers. Because a white person\'s never going to know what it\'s like to be a black or brown person or black or brown versus not going to know what it\'s like to be white. But we have we have a common thread. And we we know now through epigenetics, that we\'re all related. There\'s only one human family and one global village. Right. And the fact that we have been misinformed, that is not anyone\'s fault. But it is our collective responsibility to begin to ask questions, and to sit in uncomfortable conversations. Because if we think that a conversation is uncomfortable, and we want to escape it, can you imagine what it\'s like to be a black and brown person be stopped by the police? Where there is no conversation? How comfortable? Yeah, look,

Brandon Handley 27:28
I mean, look, look, I\'m uncomfortable getting stopped by the police. I\'m a white guy, right. So I can only imagine. Right? And and you know, and so no idea, like, like we talked about for what are some of the uncomfortable questions that you feel like we should be asking.

Milagro Phillips 27:44
So what is the history? What is the real history? Because clearly, we\'ve not been taught the real history. Yeah. And really starting to do our own research, looking into what traumatized our families, what brought our families here, because it was some kind of trauma. You can, you can pretty much bet. I mean, people didn\'t jump on the Mayflower because it was the Carnival Cruise, you know what I mean? That they were gonna fall off the face of the earth by getting those fish you know, they were willing to do it, they\'re willing to risk their lives because it was so horrific where they were. So what trauma brought your family here? And how does that still show up in your family? Because we know now through epigenetics, that trauma gets passed down from one generation to another, we also know that it\'s impossible for someone to to traumatize another person without themselves being compromised. So in other words, both the victim and the perpetrator get to pass on that trauma to their children, their grandchildren, their great grandchildren honor, not up to at least seven generations. And so what we need to do is we need to become race literate. We need to become literate about our history and to see, first of all to understand that there\'s no such thing as black history. It\'s American history, okay. The fact that it\'s been segregated, like everything else has been segregated doesn\'t change the fact that it\'s still American history, and what people call Black history is really white history in you see what I mean? Like there\'s this

Brandon Handley 29:21
No, I got it, I get it. Like, I mean, so we\'ve got this this again, this is a point of contention for me where like, there\'s there\'s a continuous continuous, like kind of forced segregation, right, where do we get to the point where we can integrate to your point as a human race? Yeah, right. Um, and and I mean, I definitely you know, for what it\'s worth, you know, my you know, my grandfather came over from Norway right had to you know, American Iron is Americanize his name and all the stuff that we\'re talking about too, but you know, of course, you know, being white and tall and blue eyed. You know, it probably didn\'t have the same challenges. But you know, nonetheless, there were challenges came over for a reason. So I think that that that that the trauma or that conversation that you\'re talking about can be had on both ends. And especially as we come at it, you know, you and I are having a mature conversation, right? Or a conversation at least just says, Hey, you know? Yeah, that\'s a lot of messed up things happen, right? So a lot of these things were outside of you and I are control, what can we do to facilitate, you know, something cohesive and compassionate going forward? Right, what does that what does that picture look like? Versus you when we\'re talking this evening, I\'ve even seen the Latino community losing their mind over being called like, Latinx. Right below, we can\'t, like we can\'t even say Latinx. Right. And it\'s another thing that\'s kind of being forced that like, I saw something today, about what you\'re saying, like Black History Month, there\'s this Latin Heritage Month, like, why is it have to be like this constant like segregation, you know, people, I think, should be proud of, of, or at least know their story. Right? Here\'s my story. This is, you know, not even like, you know, and to your point, like, you\'re coming from the Caribbean, right? And you\'ve got all these other people like, No, you can\'t have people knowing about, you know, you like you\'re talking about the Latino crowd saying we can\'t, you know, be associated with you. And so there\'s, there\'s different stories, and I think that they all deserve to be told and heard. But how do we how do we celebrate the differences versus? Versus being afraid of them?

Milagro Phillips 31:42
Yeah, I think that I think there\'s, there\'s room for an awareness of both. I think that if we are too much into the celebration, without acknowledging the pain, then the shadow eats us up. And if we\'re too much into the shadow without seeing the hope, then the shadow eats us up. Either way the shadow was right. And so it\'s unbalanced. It\'s it\'s being aware of the fact that we need healing, because what do we do when something hurts, we go to the doctor, right? They ask for a lineage, right? They need your history, right? So understanding the historical context of that pain is is incredibly important, being being courageous enough to walk through the shadow of that, and be able to and willing to admit to the violence of that shadow, being willing to, to really take in, and when I say take care, I mean, listen to another\'s pain, without judging them or thinking, Well, what\'s wrong? What did you do wrong, or that kind of thing. And really having a greater sense of compassion for all of us, ourselves and others. And one of the I do a two day intensive. And in that program, one of the the stages of healing and I talk about it in the book, is forgiveness. And that\'s a huge one to ask for people who are continuously being re traumatized, and experiencing violence toward them. And yet, it\'s part of the healing process. And, you know, getting to that place where you can actually not, not just give it word, right, but really internalize that forgiveness, and that compassion and the realization that traumatize people traumatize others, that we\'ve all been traumatized in one form or another, that if we don\'t become aware of that we will continue to traumatize each other without even being aware that we\'re doing it. Except that we know that there\'s a discomfort in these conversations, or there is something you know, let me like those.

Brandon Handley 34:05
Tommy it is it\'s I mean, I know that I was talking to one of our network diversity specialist sounds like and I told her, I said, you know, I don\'t, I\'m probably gonna say the wrong thing. And I\'m not doing it on purpose, like I just want to have I just want to be able to talk. Right, and without being a landmine. And again, I appreciate this, you know, to appreciate the sensitivity, right, the sensitivity and awareness needs to be there. But I don\'t have you know, we, it\'d be great to kind of work around that fear of having an open conversation. I don\'t think that you should be afraid. Like, I\'m not really afraid, right of having an open conversation and, and being honest about it, right. To your point, like when you said earlier, if we can have an honest, authentic conversation, there really shouldn\'t be fear involved with it if we\'re talking from the heart, right. So I think

Milagro Phillips 34:55
some of the fear is we we sort of have hang our lives on specific things, right? And there\'s the threat that someone\'s going to tell us something that dislodge. Is that, right? So, so if, if we believe that certain people or certain way, and that\'s what we\'ve learned and that kind of thing. And then somebody comes along and says, Oh, actually, it isn\'t like that, you know, that rails, your cage, and it causes cognitive dissonance and people are very uncomfortable with that. And very often, what happens when you want to have a conversation about race in a mixed environment is that you trigger people stress response is fight flight or paralysis, they either want to defend themselves or come up with some way of either they get angry with you, or they want to flee the conversation, or else they freeze, and don\'t know what to say and don\'t know what to do. And so just being aware, and having compassion around the fact that that actually does happen to people. And it also knowing that we first of all, we don\'t all have the whole story, and probably never will. We need to be open to hearing people\'s stories and listening to people, and being open to hearing what they have to say, regardless of the color of their skin, where they come from, or whatever, without scaring them into silence. And we do that a lot. When it comes to the issue of race, you put some research to say something right away, somebody will jump on them. And you can\'t say that or you know, or whatever. And so it makes it difficult to have authentic conversations when we\'re not free to say what\'s in our hearts, and to express it our way. And one of the things that I talk about in the book are the languages of the caste system, because we live under a caste system and explain all that. It\'s not like the Indian caste system, this particular world. I\'m sorry,

Brandon Handley 37:00
lagosians. Just a new book, The new new book, you\'re talking about? No. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, here\'s Caracas.

Milagro Phillips 37:07
Yeah, um, that in that caste system, because we all live under the same umbrella. But we\'ve internalized that differently. And as a result of that, what happens is that people speak different languages. And we\'re all speaking English, but we\'re speaking it from a completely different perspective. And what often happens is, let\'s say, a politician makes a comment. A white male politician makes a comment to be specific, right? And a person of color will say, Well, that was really racist what that person just said. And watch fight flight or paralysis, right? So the politician immediately defend themselves. And if they can\'t defend themselves, they\'ll get somebody else to defend them. It\'s usually another white male politician who speaks his language, right? And that person will say, of course, he\'s not a racist. Here\'s what he said wasn\'t racist, blah, blah, blah, right. And, and of course, to them, it doesn\'t sound racist, because they speak the same language, the language of supremacy. And at that level, they can hear each other and they say, what they say about and in front of people of color, and they understand each other people of color, hear it from their filters, that says, Okay, this could be a dangerous situation for me, I need to be conscious of the fact that this person just made a racist comment. I\'m not sure that I\'m safe with that person. So they\'ll say what you just said was racist, but to the person, it doesn\'t sound racist, it wasn\'t great, blah, blah, blah, you know, and so everybody speaking from behind their filters of the caste system, which means that you can\'t hear people properly. And I want to I\'m so sorry, apologize. I have to plug my computer in, which I did not do earlier. So I don\'t want to lose you. I am so sorry about this.

Brandon Handley 39:07
Sorry, why you\'re doing that? I mean, I think that what made disarm somebody or in that conversation, like, what\'s some of the language we can use? is racism, even the right word? Or do you just feel uncomfortable? Right, what you\'re saying to me is just making me feel uncomfortable triggers, you know, makes me feel unsafe, right, is by saying something like that. Do you feel like that might open the dialogue a little bit differently? And, you know, I get what you\'re saying too, like, I\'m a big I\'m a huge believer in filters like we\'ve we\'ve all we\'ve all got our own set of filters and, you know, kind of our heritage wherever we were brought up from we\'re coming with our own, you know, package of, you know, filter packets or right we all come with it and Depending on where we\'re at, and you know, so we got, you know, a couple of white politicians, and they say some stuff and you know, somebody audience, they\'re like, Yeah, I\'ve heard some stuff like this before. And that\'s not the right thing to say. And I\'m definitely uncomfortable in that, you know, but call it out is racist. It\'s kind of like what\'s getting shouted out? Or are they really saying, that makes me feel uncomfortable?

Milagro Phillips 40:19
Well, you know, so here\'s the thing. Racism, when when you really understand it, when you\'re able to unpack it, what you realize is that it\'s not a character judgment, it\'s conditioning. So what you\'re really saying is, you\'re revealing your racial conditioning, maybe a longer way of saying it, but it\'s basically the same thing. Okay. And, and, but what that does, is it then brings to mind that where that person may be functioning from, is that, you know, 600 years of racial conditioning, which doesn\'t go away. You know, what if people have been integrating since the 1960s, versus verses hundreds of years of this stuff, right, and I\'m talking institutionalized, so they were turning to law systemics, they were systems to support those laws internalized because you internalize the environment, you live it, and then you act it out with the other people in your life. Right. And so, when, when we are looking, and that\'s why I wrote the book, it\'s like, you know, having a consciousness that, yes, people will say these things, and they need them. And they don\'t even think there\'s anything wrong with saying those things. If they\'re on one side of the spectrum, from the other side of the spectrum. It sounds really ugly, right? And so those people will call you on it. If no one calls you on it, you will continue to do it. Because you\'re doing better. Or you may just be functioning out of maliciousness. But some people really don\'t know any better. Right? So

Brandon Handley 42:07
Well, I mean, I\'ll tell you, I\'ll tell you this real quick, if you don\'t mind me jumping in, like, you know, so I\'m up here in the Northeast Philadelphia area, born in San Francisco, you know, hippie parents growing up, and all that jazz, went down from the Philadelphia area to North Carolina, right outside of Raleigh Durham. And, you know, went hung out with some of my neighbors, we\'re all hanging out, we\'re drinking, we\'re having a good time eating chicken wings and hanging out. And my neighbor starts telling, like these really racist jokes, and I had to pause. It\'s like, dumbfounded. First of all, I was like, I can\'t believe like, this does not serve as like, guys. I don\'t know about you. But like, where I come from, we really don\'t talk like this. Right. Like, and it was just, to me, I was blown away by the fact that it\'s still so prevalent. Right? And of course, of course, right? Because as we\'re talking here, like, I\'m not, I\'m on the other side of it, right? Like, you know, again, I don\'t feel to see the impacts. And, you know, it\'s impossible for me to but it\'s not possible for me, of course, to have these conversations right with somebody else\'s experienced it and come at it from a place of compassion. But I just thought I\'d throw that in there. Because again, like, wherever you\'re at, right now, let\'s say you\'re from the Northeast from California, or someplace where it\'s not as institutionalized as you\'re talking about, right, as it has been. And, you know, they\'re still holding on to it. It\'s kind of it\'s kind of mind boggling. Yeah. So I mean, I\'m just I mean, I\'ve experienced, at least again, from, from the old white guy perspective, like, you know, still still experiencing it. And it\'s, it makes me uncomfortable. So I again, I can only imagine being in a position where one of my co workers as matter of fact, he had bought some property, and he and his mixed race couple, and in North Carolina still had people were still giving them issues. And this is very recently, right. Within the past couple years, they bought some property, and there were some people that wouldn\'t stop hunting on that property. And they would tell them, they\'d be like, Hey, we\'re our family did we\'re gonna keep doing it. You can\'t tell us that. Like, they tried to hold on to it for as long as they could. But like it\'s in the end, it made them feel uncomfortable, where they just sold the property. And that, to me was a tragedy, right? Like, where are we today that, that this is still a thing. And we want to call ourselves a progressive society.

Milagro Phillips 44:30
That\'s why it\'s important for people to become race literate. Because when people understand and even if they continue to behave the same way, they\'re doing it from a conscious place. And when you\'re when you\'ve got information and you\'re conscious, you have responsibility. You can choose to ignore that responsibility, but that doesn\'t mean that responsibility of your awareness goes away. So helping people to become race literate is extremely empowering. and race, literary literacy is the knowledge and awareness of the history of race and awareness that we are, we\'re all raised in a racial caste system. By the time children are three years old, they can tell you what caste system they belong to. Who are the good people in the back in the caste system? Who are the bad people? Three years old? They\'ve already been racialized, you know? And so, what are we going to do today to change tomorrow, you know, we cannot if we continue to behave, and to do the same way, and to act out of ignorance, and not change our behavior, we\'re gonna continue to see the same thing for yet another generation, another generation and another generation, like, we have a responsibility to become as aware, and as knowledgeable as we can. And you know, the spiritual path is a path of awareness. We, it\'s about becoming conscious. It\'s about feeling things in our bodies, and experiencing them in our emotions, and being open to what that means to us. How does that make us feel? You know, because if it made us feel well, we\'d have conversations with everybody in anybody about race, the fact that people are so uncomfortable with the conversation, it tells you, that\'s where the juice is, that\'s where the healing needs to happen. That\'s where the consciousness needs to shift. And ultimately, everybody wants to solve racism, like I said, from the intrapersonal perspective, coming from their heads. But if we don\'t become aware that it needs to take that 12 inch drop into our hearts, and then another 12 inch into our guts, so we know it, and we are aware of it. And we we realize that part of it is learning to walk in somebody else\'s shoes long enough to understand why they\'re hurting. That\'s when we start to shift.

Brandon Handley 46:59
No, I love that. Oh, that. What would you suggest for somebody that\'s beginning to, you know, to to gain some race literacy? Like what are some of the first steps into into that? What do you recommend? Yeah,

Milagro Phillips 47:13
so again, asking questions, doing research, looking into one\'s personal history, you know, why did your parents come here? What, you know, why are you here now? Right? Understanding that, looking at some of the, the history of Europe, really, and what was going on there that made people want to leave? in droves? Right? What, what are our connections to one another, in terms of being this one human family living on one global village? And what does that mean? And how do we care for one another compassionately? How do we do what we really, I really believe human beings came here, to be connected, to love each other, to learn from one another, to become more conscious together. And a lot of this stuff is keeping us from doing that work, which is the deeper work that we need to do. And so, for me, becoming race literates is the first thing stop being afraid of our history. It\'s ugly, it\'s nasty, it is what it is. But if we don\'t look at it, we keep repeating it. And we are worthy of having the power to create something new, instead of recreating the past and thinking we\'re creating something new, right. And so having an awareness of our history, allowing our hearts to open to all people, realizing that everyone, everyone on the planet deserves to thrive, and have the opportunity to do that. And so for me, this, this is about becoming conscious, and in really living from the depth of our hearts, not in the love and like kind of, you know, ignoring life kind of way, but really, by being conscious, and bringing that love and that light into all that is happening on our planet today. So that we can create something new to that to leave behind for the next generation.

Brandon Handley 49:23
I think that\'s fantastic. And that that part where you\'re talking about the love and light, you know, and skipping the shadow, right? Really, it\'s what I just saw somebody call it spiritual bypassing recently, right? You know, kind of like just like, I\'m like, I\'m gonna go ahead and if if I just kind of hold this space, but we need to address the shadow, like you\'re talking about in your biography. I\'m assuming that you touched on that and in your book. And again, the most recent book is called

Milagro Phillips 49:50
cracking the healers code, prescription for healing racism, and finding wholeness.

Brandon Handley 49:57
Great and you can find, you know, yours Barnes and Nobles. Yeah, that kind of thing. Right looking looking for that. Yeah. So awesome. I love it. And, you know, look, we, we\'ve got a lot of work to do.

Milagro Phillips 50:09
We can do it. It\'s one human family.

Brandon Handley 50:12
Right. Hey, would you say that we\'re getting better?

Milagro Phillips 50:14
I think we are because part of getting better is becoming conscious. Because when we just we can make different choices. You know.

Brandon Handley 50:24
So I think and I actually want to jump all the way back to an area that you talked about, about the exhaustion part. Right. And I think that, I wouldn\'t say that, you know, again, coming from the white guy view, but you know, COVID Plus, like this heightened, you know, view on on the racism? I think the whole package, everybody\'s just exhausted in general, but not to fall asleep at the wheel, how can we, you know, how can we do it in a way that energizes us, right, how do you see a way that we can do that? Or is that just a finding a balance that? Yeah,

Milagro Phillips 51:05
no, I, I really believe that. We can do this in a way that energizes us. I see, since the death of George Floyd. Every week, I was doing seminars up until this march on race literacy, and just, you know, getting the community to come in and have these experiences, like come in, I mean, unzoom, and have these experiences on a weekly basis. I\'m now doing it on a monthly basis. The first, first Monday of the month, I do this lunch and learn so people can, you know, bring their lunch at work to their computer and join this conversation and learn some things I will often share something about, about some historical piece, and then we have discussions about how that history fits into today. How are we repeating that history today, what it looks like and feels like, also exercises, we always end with a meditation to really bring people back into balance before they go back to work. And in, you know, I have a series of programs that I do, I have a two day seminar that I do that I\'ve been doing since 2020, since 2001, so it\'s 20 years old this year. And it\'s so powerful, and people always say that they just never see race the same way again, it helps them to heal all kinds of things with their, their own family. Because we use I take people through a universal process of healing that allows them to be able to do that, which is you know, a lot of the stuff that\'s, that\'s in the book. So, um, you know, so people can join these conversations to stay awake and stay aware. I know that there are times that people don\'t want to attend these things, especially white nails, because they feel like they\'re going to be the bad boy in the room kind of thing. You know, the one that everybody\'s looking at is, you know, I don\'t do that in my seminars, because what I\'m aware of, is the fact that we\'ve all been misinformed, and those who are misinformed, they\'re bound to miss create, and it doesn\'t matter your gender, it doesn\'t matter your sexual orientation, it doesn\'t matter the color of your skin, we have all when it comes to race and racism, all of us have been misinformed. And we can\'t blame people for that. But we can hold them compassionately responsible for their own ability and choices to change.

Brandon Handley 53:29
That was fantastic. Those zoom calls the Lunch and Learns is that open to everybody has something,

Milagro Phillips 53:36
you can go on my website and get information on that on that program. And it\'s open to the entire community. And I will continue to do that as long as I can.

Brandon Handley 53:49
That\'s fantastic. That\'s great that that\'s available. Thank you for that. So logros at this point of the conversation I kind of look at like anybody tuning into this I mean, obviously you great conversation on the racism and we touched on the spirituality I look at this as a spiritual speed dating, right? Somebody is looking to like get the next fish will connect on this conversation. So I\'m going to ask you a question. Basler espiritual black Bachelorette, a number one who to do to do? Move, I think you\'ve already established that kind of like we are all one would you agree that you know kind of we are all one in one shape.

Milagro Phillips 54:30
I mean, you know, we\'re all cousins, some of us 35th cousins and mother\'s 50th cousins, but we\'re all related. And we know that through the study of epigenetics, so that\'s already been established. It\'s no longer one of these. Oh, you\'re my spiritual sibling. And yes, absolutely. But you\'re also my physical sibling. Yeah. And so being aware of that is really important.

Brandon Handley 54:56
Now Perfect, perfect. Whoo doo doo doo doo. To, what would you say is our greatest distraction

Milagro Phillips 55:09
when it comes to this topic, everything in anything, you know, anything we could throw in the fire, so that we are now focused on the fire and we take our eyes off the ball, right? When it comes to race, because people don\'t really want to deal with it. It is uncomfortable for most people. And yet, as I said before, can you imagine if it\'s uncomfortable in a conversation versus being uncomfortable, because, you know, you\'re you\'re being beaten to death in the streets or shot or your family member at you\'ve lost them because of this, right? So there are levels of discomfort, right. And some people are more uncomfortable than others, because they are living the violence. And so for those of us who are not, it\'s important that we show up, even with our discomfort, because we\'re always going to feel uncomfortable until we start showing up and learning what this is really about.

Brandon Handley 56:07
That\'s fine. No, it\'s true. Right? There\'s always a willingness to to not be, you know, uncomfortable as quickly as possible. Right. And, and I can\'t think of too many topics that are more uncomfortable than Yeah, that\'s right. Even Even amongst friends. And, you know, just trying to again, you know, because I think sometimes you just feel like the bad guy, like you said earlier, like, you know, I don\'t know that I go into a room feel like the bad guy, or, you know, the one that\'s been called out, but it definitely, again, you know, just just wanting to do the right thing, even though I don\'t know what the wrong thing is. Yeah.

Milagro Phillips 56:44
You know, and that\'s, that\'s a huge piece. It\'s like it is the not knowing what the wrong thing is, or, or what is really wrong here. Like, I\'m just uncomfortable with this. And in those, there\'s those who can escape it, right? Because it\'s sort of like, oh, you know, I don\'t have to deal with that, right. And there are those who can\'t. And yet, there\'s something, you know, um, it\'s Bradshaw, that wrote in his book, family secrets about how there are secrets and families that people keep and their secrets and families where it\'s sort of like, people just don\'t talk about certain things, right. And, and yet everybody acts, reacts and interact out of the family secret, whether they know the secret or not, right. And that\'s what happens to us as a human family when it comes to this history. Like, we all know, something\'s off, right? We don\'t know quite what it is. So I\'ll give you an example of that. For the most part, people call Haiti, the poorest country in the world, or at least one of the poorest countries in the world. But no one ever talks about the fact that Haiti has been paying reparations to Frances 1825, when they set themselves free in 1804. And from slavery, and the French kept trying to go back in there to re enslaved them. And finally, they use the Doctrine of Discovery to get back in there, and to have them pay reparations all these years. Now, if you are so poor, you can\'t afford to do anything, let alone pay reparations, right. And so, you know, just the realization that there\'s so many natural resources on that island that, you know, people are still finding natural resources on those islands. And, you know, when we only tell one piece of the story, what happens is that people get hung up on that one piece. And yet, there\'s something in our hearts that kind of knows that something\'s off, you know, people are constantly being told those and $19 a month to support a child in Haiti, when in reality, if friends gave back even one part of all that they siphoned out of there, that island would not be poor, okay, they just would not be poor. And that is not the only place it\'s all of these places that have been colonized to the so called poor countries, which most of them have happened to have dictators, which I think is quite a coincidence. Right. And those of us who are spiritual know that there are synchronicities, right. And so, you know, so just having an awareness like we need an expanded awareness of this stuff, and not just go with Okay, the going story is, Haiti is a poor country. So you know, Hades, not a poor country. Haiti is a country that has been stolen from Okay, that is very different, because you don\'t steal where there\'s poverty, because I know the seal, right?

Brandon Handley 59:42
No, no, you\'re right, right. You don\'t exploit

Milagro Phillips 59:44
people, because they\'re poor. You exploit them because they have natural resources as a human being. All right. So we need to get really clear about what it is that we\'re talking about. When we\'re talking about this stuff, which is why I wrote that book. It\'s like, people need to get clear Let\'s let\'s have an honest, authentic conversation that goes beyond the rhetoric. Oh, it\'s it\'s this right like, okay, so why is it that way? You know, it\'s nuts. Right? Right. You\'ll,

Brandon Handley 1:00:13
we\'ll be on the first layer go beyond that first layer, right? This, this is what I heard. This is what I was told. You know, why would somebody tell you that? Yeah, I\'m kind of getting beyond that, for sure. For sure. It makes sense. I never knew, right? I never knew that I\'m, you know, still paying France back. Right. And I think that that\'s crazy, right? Even Even, even the whole idea of you know, the British selling the Virgin Islands to the state. So to me, it\'s just boggle your mind. So snowballs my so Ragosa thank you so much for the conversation. I enjoyed it. I think that you know, you\'re obviously doing some great work. Excited for you to release your fourth book. Understand that you\'re working on the fifth. And where can we send people to find out more about Sure. Yeah,

Milagro Phillips 1:01:01
so you can visit my website Milagros phillips.com. So it\'s just my name.com. And there\'s a lot of information on there. And as soon as this podcast is open for posting it on the website, so

Brandon Handley 1:01:13
fantastic. Thanks again for being

Milagro Phillips 1:01:17
so much. I

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really hope you enjoyed this episode of the spiritual dove podcast. Stay connected with us directly through spiritual dove. CO You can also join the discussion on Facebook spiritual though, and Instagram at spiritual underscore Joe. If you would like to speak with us, send us an email Brandon at spiritual Co Co. And as always, thank you for cultivating your mindset and creating a better reality. This includes the most thought provoking part of your day. Don\'t forget to like and subscribe to stay fully up to date. Until next time, be kind to yourself and trust your intuition.

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Align and Rise: The Cosmic Duo

Published: Nov. 14, 2021, 4:35 p.m.
Duration: 52 minutes 27 seconds

Catch up with Devon and Tamara of the Align and Rise Podcast:

They are here to empower spiritual beings to tap into their fullest potential. They share memories & experiences to inspire and uplift you. Remember you are authentic, unique and there is only ONE YOU!

They are two women who love to chat about all the in-depth experiences, opportunities, and growth that we have navigated our way through.

They love life, and they love growing and they love hearing about other people\\u2018s perspectives. Their conversations steam from their personal experiences, memories, and knowledge that they have gathered along the way.

They are striving every day to be better than they were yesterday!

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Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you\'ve questioned so much more than those around you. You\'ve even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited as Bob process? Rest assured, you are not alone, the world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can\'t quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask. But he\'s the answers to questions about you this world, the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don\'t have all the answers, but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another head of spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let\'s get right into today\'s episode.

Brandon Handley 0:40
One, hey, there\'s spiritual dope. I\'m on here today with Devin and tomarrow of the Align and rise podcast. And they\'re here to empower spiritual beings to tap into their fullest potential. They share memories and experiences to inspire and uplift you. Remember you are authentic, unique, and there\'s only one you they are two women who love to chat about all the in depth experiences, opportunities and growth that you they have navigated throughout their way. They love life growing and they love to hear other people\'s perspective. They love to hear other people. So demonstra thanks for having being here

Unknown Speaker 1:21
today. Thanks for having us.

Unknown Speaker 1:24
We\'re super excited. Thank you. This is our very first interview. On another podcast. We\'re usually the ones doing the interviewing. So this is really exciting.

Brandon Handley 1:34
Well, yeah, right. Yeah. Well, you had me on and that was part of the conversation. And I think that there was the jet. I said, Hey, how can I support you guys? Right? And you were like, Go big or go home? It wasn\'t exactly like that. I was like, You know what? Okay, probably was it says, you know, what, if we what if we were on your podcast? Like hell yeah. Right. So it\'s kind of a no brainer. So thanks for thanks for being on. This is actually my first one where I\'ve interviewed two people simultaneously as a unit got alive and rise here. So I\'d be interested to hear your response here. One of the ways that I look at this whole thing that we\'re doing right, we\'re sending an amplified communication out to the universe, as it were, and we ourselves are all vessels of creative source energy, whatever, right? We express that throughout whatever we\'re doing. And sometimes the answers and come conversation that we have, is going to be heard by somebody on the other end, it\'s just like, wow, I really needed that today, right? And my question to the both of you is, what is that message that\'s coming through you today that you need to share with the universe?

Unknown Speaker 2:59
When we\'re both looking at each, usually,

Unknown Speaker 3:03
let\'s talk first

Unknown Speaker 3:08
just throws me in the spotlight. I think honestly, for us, like, we\'ve had so many incredible opportunities come up on this journey of growth. And we could have thrown the towel in 100 times. But recognizing that we are here for something bigger, and we were created with a purpose, we\'ve understood, throwing in the towel is not an option. We\'ve learned that we are here to serve others. And we were given the opportunity to start podcasting and being able to serve others through that. And I think the biggest message is honestly just to hear what\'s on your heart, and understand that that is placed there specifically for you, as an individual, nobody else gets that dream that you have on your heart. And just to chase it, and to go after it with as much love and tenacity and enthusiasm as possible. And it\'s gonna feel hard and it\'s gonna feel tough, but you just have to keep going.

Unknown Speaker 4:12
Mm hmm. Well, and sometimes like, I think that in that space as well, when you\'re going through stuff, it\'s sometimes it feels like the same stuff, kind of repeat it\'s like, term that I heard was rinse and repeat, rinse and repeat. And those are like lessons in life that we get to go through in order to get to the next place where you get to do something different another rinse and repeat until you learn from that and, and what I feel is that it\'s really nice to be able to, excuse me, get a cough in my throat is to have that with someone else where that person can Be there for you recognize things and very lovingly bring that to you. I just got like that frog in my throat like the worst time was like a tickle. I don\'t know why

Brandon Handley 5:16
there\'s never a good time for a frog in the throat must be, let\'s be clear there so

Unknown Speaker 5:20
well it\'s like literally it\'s like feels like it\'s going into my left eye right now. Anyways, that\'s a Crazy Frog. Ah, yes, anyways, so that\'s the other view here.

Brandon Handley 5:30
Yeah, we\'re gonna be here to help you recover. That\'s gonna be the first thing we\'re here for. So I enjoy, you know, the idea that we\'re here for a bigger purpose, we can satisfy a number of our own personal needs, and even our family\'s needs. And still, it seems kind of like, we\'re not giving all that we\'ve got right, we\'re not feeling as though we\'re contributing, I think that what you\'re talking about is the idea of contributing to the greater good and the whole. And, and in a way that you\'re doing doing it. That\'s being led by the heart. It\'s kind of what I\'m getting from the both you and then the idea to that. Being able to do it with each other, the way that you two are and having that kind of support mechanism. And I think it was Devin, you were talking about, you know, being able to, you know, basically call somebody out on their bullshit but lovingly, or vice versa. Right, be like, Hey, how do we how do I, you know, I see that you\'re, you know, sometimes somebody doesn\'t respond to like, I see that you\'re struggling? How can I help? And sometimes it\'s got to be done in another way. But still from a place from the heart. And it sounds like that\'s what the two of you have found with each other. And you\'re working. You\'re scaling that by doing your podcast? Is that fair? Yeah. I love that. Like it\'s called heartland.

Unknown Speaker 7:09
Yeah, absolutely. And we have realized, we tried one podcast having like, kind of a guideline and a script, I feel like it was a little bit of a disaster. And we have realized that intuitive, that that\'s us, we we just follow our heart and we listen to our gut. That\'s what we speak from. We don\'t have a script, we don\'t have questions. Even the interviews that we\'ve done, have all just been intuitive and heartless, and that feels so good. And I think that\'s really helped our relationship where we\'ve come together to have that peace to lean on one another, and to call each other out on those things. And it\'s honestly, like, I can\'t hide anything from Devin to try. It\'s like, okay, like, you\'re not doing this, tell me what\'s going on. It\'s like the floodgates open. And then we just have this like, yes, that\'s how I\'m feeling. I couldn\'t put it into words, and you felt it and you figured it out. And just having this place of zero judgment of complete, just love. Just knowing that it doesn\'t matter what we\'re going through, we\'re always gonna get through it together. And it\'s been really cool to have this platform podcasting together, because we get to share those experiences with other people and serve them while we grow at the same time and then share that story of growth. And it\'s just really been the coolest experience.

Brandon Handley 8:42
Sounds like yeah, I would call it like, acceptance and action. Right, and you to have found, you know, a friendship, a partnership, where it\'s, you know, you accept each other for who you are and what you\'re going through, and, and you\'re helping each other forward in a supportive manner towards towards your dreams, right, the two of you put this podcast together, you were talking, we were talking a little bit before we got going here. You know, how there\'s been some stumbling blocks in what it is that you\'re doing, which I want to get to. But what I wanted to really hit on first is like, right, you know, for me, this is my third podcast, right? My first one was on fatherhood, which was cool, no one diver. Second one was on, you know, prosperity, law of attraction type stuff, also great. But then I was like, fuck it, like I\'m really just kind of hiding behind this curtain of, you know, like this, you know, Wizard of Oz style, where like, I\'m not really talking about what\'s on my heart, which is spirituality and leaning into that. And since I\'ve done that, it\'s been awesome. Right? So my question is, you know, what made you to decide spirituality was was was your, your kind of lean in and go forward thing and let\'s talk about how you found yourselves there.

Unknown Speaker 9:58
That\'s going to be different quite like that\'s very, that\'s looks so different. I would like to I would like to leave this one tomorrow because I think this actually has to be love for you too. I think this actually like my, my spirituality and how I have found so much love and acceptance from Tamara. So like, to kind of give you the backstory, Tamara and I went to youth group together for years. And in high school. Here, as I say, like two I was only in Creston for two years when and started going to church and Tamara joined and she\'s younger than like a monk. Yeah, she\'s younger than me. And we were going and so we were like, very much like we got called, like Holy Rollers and stuff. We were part of the Pentecostal church, we were called a lot of things that we found like community, which was great. And then I got married really young at 21 had four kids ended up separating from my x, and I\'ve been separated now for six years. Last God just completely dropped God in every way, don\'t talk to me about him, I\'m never setting foot in another church, I felt very hurt, very betrayed from just like everything that went on in the relationship that I liked. And in that time, Tamara started reaching out to me through Beachbody. And we kind of started talking and then I joined eventually under her and so we started having more of a relationship and, and bringing up our friendship from the past. And what I had found was as I was journeying through like both of us, I would say, really, our spiritual journey both started is about six years ago, for both of us where there was like this. Right, like, like a hard line, like you were talking about line. And that\'s like your thing lately, tomorrow\'s like line in the sand. This was like a hard interval is very different places, but a hard line. And we started kind of growing, and probably two years without each other of just growth. And then we really started stepping into each other\'s life. What I had found was going from the state of like, I was very devout to church and everything for a long time, and then completely losing myself to all of it. Like I went down to the very bottom of the bottom with that, like, I felt very lost, I felt alone, didn\'t know what I was doing, knew that I wanted to I needed needed spirituality on some level. And I just didn\'t know what that was gonna look like, because I had lost all of my faith. And through all of everything that I have been through, Tamara has been there and held my hand, watched me cry, loved me, never judged me. She was going to church, he was going, she never judged me. There was not a single time that and maybe she maybe she did, but she let it go, right? If she did have any judgments, but she was there, she loved me. And that created open space. And gave me grace gave me forgiveness, to realize that tomorrow was like the example of what a person going to church should look like. And it led me Not that I\'m going back to church, not that I\'m stuck. Like, I\'m not doing that, um, I found my own spirituality in just believing that God is or the universe or the source energy, whatever you want to call it is around us all the time. But it allowed me to get some forgiveness for myself, and for the people around me because of the scars that were there when I left my relationship. So for me, spirituality is more than just finding within yourself. It\'s like also the other people that are around you, they get to support you and love you and love like, Jesus love, right? Like, that\'s, that\'s what tomorrow. I mean, this is just tomorrow, right? This is one person I\'ve had other people in my life who are very spiritual in different ways, and we\'re, we\'re just all connected. And that spirituality to me is like, there is spirituality doesn\'t see any hard lines of like your, you know, your Jehovah\'s Witness your Mormon, your Pentecostal your Catholic it, it should never see that it should just be like we are one we are connected. And we need to love each other period.

Brandon Handley 14:39
Like it, you know, really sounds sounds like the six year journey for you. And kind of, you know, this just loss of spirituality. Which I kind of I do want to dig into that a little bit. I love how you guys correct me if I\'m wrong, but Beachbody MLM yes or no Yeah, I love how you guys reconnected through like an MLM. Right? Like you always hear horror stories, but this sounds like a good one. And you know, so it was

Unknown Speaker 15:09
really funny because I sent the worst messages back then.

Brandon Handley 15:13
No doubt, no doubt, right? I mean, I think absolutely, that\'s right. That\'s part of the path. And trust me, again, I know, right? You\'re just like, you know, hey, this is what you\'re supposed to say. I\'m sure I\'ll say this. Everybody\'s by my shit. You\'d be a great salesperson anyways. You\'d be great at this. So let\'s hear a little bit on your side. And then we can kind of unpack some of this stuff.

Unknown Speaker 15:40
Yeah, absolutely. So as Devin was saying, we both grew up in the Pentecostal church, like I went to, I think it was called, like the school or something. It was like church before kindergarten, preschool, basically, but in a church. So like, my grandma grew up in the Pentecostal church, my aunts, uncles, on my mom\'s side of the family, all very, like spiritual. And that was there, we prayed, we all of the things that of course, like had my years through my teen years, where I struggled and all of the things. But really, the last six years for sure, coming up seven, so my youngest, after he was born, I struggled and hit rock bottom with postpartum, though worst depression and anxiety I\'ve ever experienced in my whole entire life. And for me, I leaned in so hard to my faith and my relationship with God, I\'m just becoming closer with him praying, really just leaning on family and reaching out to those family members who were, you know, Christian in my family, who believed in faith, who believed in prayer, who believed in coming together, and just like leaning on all of that. And so I just think it\'s really cool how, around the same time frame, Dev was literally falling apart and losing her faith. And I was leaning in hard, and like how we both came together to this place where we are now. So that was really where everything kind of started for me. But it turned into not so much just like that. God relationship, the heart relationship with my heavenly Father, it was like, I didn\'t know who I was. I had no idea what that even looked like, I was a mom, I had these kids, I was struggling, life sucked. I was literally surviving and just getting through my days. And I remember my son was 10 months old, and I was depressed, and I was binge eating. And I was doing all of these things that I thought happiness was somewhere in there. And I remember just like that line in the sand, there has to be more I need to feel more than this. Like this can\'t just be it for the rest of forever, where I just get up and I just survive through my days. And I raised my kids and I\'m unhappy. And that was where I really started seeking more of a relationship inner of who I was. And I started doing that work inside that healing work that working through anxiety, working through the Depression, that I was feeling, letting go of those things. And really, opening up to this whole world of like, who I was, as an individual, I was a mum really young. And I lost that when I became a mom, I was just a mom and I was just a wife and I was just a whatever. And I didn\'t have this, I didn\'t know who I was. And so that was sort of my journey back into figuring out who I was letting go of those people pleasing tendencies of worrying about other people\'s opinions and really, truly just getting to the core of who I am. And that sort of got this direction that I moving in like and it feels so freeing and it feels so good. And just to realize everybody has their own spiritual journey, not one person doesn\'t look the same. And I\'ve realized like I used to have this very narrow view of it\'s only the church it\'s only this is only one way it has to be God it has to be that I\'ve realized like I love hearing like stories from Jay Shetty love Him the whole journey of a monk Buddhism like all everybody has this universal God that they serve. And that that that is love like like Devin said we\'re we\'re here to love people. And it doesn\'t matter where we find that love or what that looks like or feels like to each of us because it\'s different and different. is beautiful.

Brandon Handley 19:53
I mean look right with without without without those differences, then then it\'s kind of kind of boring, right? You got this same show, one was going all the way back to the beginning when he talked about was it rinse and repeat same stuff, right, you\'re gonna see the same thing over and over again. There\'s no chance for revision or something else, right? I always think about the whole idea that to have like, if you know what tomorrow is gonna be like, it\'s gonna be kind of easy, right, kind of, like Groundhog\'s Day. You know, you do like, the great thing about like, knowing that tomorrow is gonna be the same as today, like, Okay, well, since, what, whatever it say it was like, I can make tomorrow better by eliminating some of the things that didn\'t work and doing more of the things that did. Right. And as for, you know, I kind of talk What I mean is that it\'s not fun, right? You found yourself in survival mode, like, you know, binge eating and things like that, and looking for happiness not and of course, like, sometimes you think you\'re happy when you\'re eating that ice cream, like cookies and cream it\'s in? I\'m happy in this moment. But like you\'re crying at the same time, like, why is

Unknown Speaker 21:05
your bag of chips at 3am.

Brandon Handley 21:09
But it also it also, you know, sounds like you do, we\'re stuck in your identity, crisis of identity. You go from you go from you know, kind of school to being a parent, there\'s no time for you to discover who you are as a person. Right? Because you, you haven\'t spent that time as an individual. And then now you\'re giving all that you are and who you are, to like this family and and to your point, you\'re like, Hey, I\'m just trying to find some Hi, how can I be happy? How can I be me? Outside of this cog in the system? Right. It sounds to me like that\'s kind of where you got caught, right? And then finding, leaning into your spiritual, I was kind of funny, you mentioned, you know, you you were leaning in, and you you were finding your religion in Devon was losing hers, right? It\'s kind of what was going on. But at the same time, you too, were, you know, able to grab hold of each other again, and just say, hey, you know, tomorrow for us, like, you know, the more I dig into this, the more I\'m finding my face. And Devin for you, you\'re like, the further I get away from it, the more that I find that I need it, and finding you know what work for you. He has figured that out sounds like kind of together, right? And as you\'re talking tomorrow sounds to me also, like, it\'s liberating to be connected to spirit, right connected to whatever that looks like for you. And as you\'re saying, like, everybody\'s journey is gonna be a little different. I know that after I kind of went through my own awakening experience, like, this is how it\'s gonna be for you. And this is how it\'s gonna be. And then you\'re gonna go up against like, you know, your journey. And oh, and then when you tripped over this hole in the ground, this is where you\'re going to be I know exactly where you are. Right? And I don\'t, I can\'t, right, because your journey is gonna be like you said, 100% 100% your own. So you too. Yeah, lost it. Yeah, pulled it back together. And now like, you\'ve kind of pulled it back together, you\'ve got this platform, what\'s your intent with it now kind of going forward? And like, what are some of the what are some of the challenges that you\'re having?

Unknown Speaker 23:34
To do you

Unknown Speaker 23:39
I just feel like I wanted to touch on one more thing. And this basically led to it. So this whole like parenting thing. Devin is really helped me realize, like in that whole losing your identity and finding yourself and like, I still have these moments where I\'m like, my kids need me all the time. And Devon\'s like, they\'re not gonna die when you\'re doing the things that you want to do. So, this has been, like a really good lesson for me, but we\'re a busy family, my kids are doing all the things and I\'m running here, and I\'m doing this and like, I feel like, this might not come out. Right, but like, they depend on me. It\'s already not coming out, right? Maybe I want them to depend on me more than they actually do. Maybe that\'s it, that feels really shitty to say.

Brandon Handley 24:37
Look, I mean, I mean, and that\'s part of that\'s part of just saying all right, well, it\'s it\'s it\'s a work in progress, right? It\'s like identifying that me like, is that true? Right. That\'s just kind of one of those things that you can kind of go through as an exercise be like, you know, I don\'t know. Not for nothing to air, but nobody\'s knocked on your door and like a half hour.

Unknown Speaker 24:58
I know. Right? This is they\'re fine. They\'re, they\'re thriving downstairs. So yeah, just like little thing was we were eating in a podcast today. And then my son needed me. And I was like, Deb, like, my kiddo needs me. And we were gonna meet up in podcasts. And I like, texted her and I was like, I\'m like, feeling all the things and I\'m sitting in it, and I\'m just letting and letting it go. And she calls me she\'s like, okay, like, what\'s happening, and like, helped me unpack how I\'m feeling. And it was like, I\'m trying to cram all of these things in one day. And this is how I explained it. I was like, Wednesday\'s were, we\'re typically podcasting days, that\'s what we did. And then they turned into, like, my only day off. And now all of these other things are piling up, and I\'m trying to balance it all and fit it into one day, which is affecting our podcasting. Because, obviously, I can\'t balance all the things that I was like, that fills my cup. Lately, Wednesday\'s feel like, you know, when you put a cup in the sink, and you crank the water on and like, the waters just splashing out of the cup, and none of it staying in there. Because it\'s like, full force, and then you shut the water off and the cups just empty. I pray for water fresh Alex basically.

Brandon Handley 26:19
Yes, like that. I get it. So, you know, you\'re, it sounds like you\'re going through, you know, just kind of the growth mode, right, of how to make it all work and how to, you know, this is the thing that you want to be doing. And I think we talked a little bit at the beginning, like, you know, universe is gonna throw like little things that you\'d be like, Are you sure that\'s what you want to do? And, you know, you\'ve got to kind of work through that to show the universe that God however you want to look at it. Right that, yeah, this is the thing I want to be doing. So stop fussing with it.

Unknown Speaker 26:51
Right. It\'s like the little squirrel on the tree, like throwing nuts. That\'s it? And you\'re like, where\'s this?

Brandon Handley 26:58
So, you know, look, parent parenting, I think is one of those things where, again, yeah, we want them. We, it\'s a challenge. We want them to want us sometimes more than they actually need us. And even that\'s a challenge, right? As we\'re growing, because like, What do you mean, you don\'t need me anymore? So and again, that just caused you to kind of go back into the womb I identity questions, what am I attached to? Right, just another opportunity to look at your attachments of yourself and all that other. Egotistical shifted, I don\'t know how to talk to so all good there. But as so look, you got it, you guys are figuring it all out. Right? And you\'re working it through. So what\'s, you know, what\'s on the rise for a line and rise? What are you guys looking to do with this platform? Oh,

Unknown Speaker 27:49
man, we Well, here\'s the thing. We, we I think that that the really cool thing about doing something that you don\'t know, is that you constantly get to learn. And so, I mean, we\'ve taken so many pivots, we\'ve turned so many times already, like, we don\'t know exactly where we\'re headed. But we we I mean, we, we have some ideas, we have some thoughts about where we\'re where we\'re going, but it feels like every time that we do something, you always have something else that\'s kind of up the ante and up the ante, you know, like, it\'s like, you know, when we first started the podcast, and, you know, we\'re learning all these things, and doing all these things and recording that we never knew how to do to begin with. So we do those things. And we\'re like, Okay, now we\'re good. And then we\'re like, we\'re not interviewing anybody, obviously, we\'re just gonna do and then now we started interviewing, and now we\'re being interviewed. And now we\'re starting to do tic TOCs. And now we\'re starting to Instagram lives. And so we don\'t really know. But that\'s the beauty of just having trust and faith that the universe has your back. And that when you believe that your intuition is always guiding you and that it\'s never wrong, then you open up freedom and space to constantly pivot and constantly move. And that\'s kind of I think, and Americans speak for, for herself in this point, that that\'s kind of where it feels like we\'re headed is just that we\'re constantly moving. And we\'re constantly like, this is one moment that, you know, with the block, shall we call it but it\'s not even really a block. It\'s just like, we\'re there together. We\'re pointing it out together. She\'s like, Yes, I see this clearly. Let\'s move through it. How can I and then so she\'s figuring out like, Hey, I just got to free up one more day for myself so I can get these things done. And then I can focus on this. Just podcasts on this day, because she wants it and so you know, you\'re talking about you know the universe saying Oh, do you wanted enough? Well, We want this it just happens that we are two people. And we\'re both affected. Because it\'s ours. It\'s I\'m not just finding rise. I\'m it\'s Tamara and Devin that is aligned in rise. So I feel like then a book that we\'re reading the 12 week year, he talks about accountability. But he said, accountability is never like someone else, you know, you don\'t get to blame someone else when you don\'t do something. Accountability is just so that that person can help you measure your goals and make sure that you\'re staying on track, but it\'s still yours. You know, we have this tainted view of like, accountability, that that part in this book, really, because I think a lot of times people are like, just keep me accountable. And then if you don\'t like if you\'re not like, Hey, did you work out? Hey, did you work out? They\'re like, Oh, you didn\'t keep me? No, no, no, no, no, you\'re accountable for you. I\'m here to help you, I\'m here to help, you know, guide you, but you still have to go push play, and you still have to lift the weights. And so that\'s, um, you know, how we\'re getting over any blocks that we come up, this isn\'t the first time like that, you know, we\'ve headed over a block and and then we just take a turn, because maybe something may be slowing us down so that we could see this thing over here that we\'re really interested in. And that\'s kind of so we\'re really, I think, just focused on being guided by our own intuition. And, you know, call it spirituality call it whatever. Yeah, that\'s where tomorrow, I don\'t know if you have anything else to add. But

Unknown Speaker 31:33
I just want to add that we, I think I started this, like, we had a little woman\'s conference with our book club a couple years ago. And I kind of started this, everything works out exactly as it\'s supposed to. And it didn\'t matter what it was, every time something would happen. We\'d feel like there was like a little stone thrown in the way or like a blip in our plan. I would just say that. And I\'m really leaning into that right now. Like all of the things that kind of feel tough and a little bit gray and a little bit like where are we going? It like Deb said it\'s honestly just leaning in trusting the process. And just really trusting that everything works out exactly as it\'s supposed to.

Brandon Handley 32:18
Really, like Joseph Campbell, follow your bliss kind of thing. You guys are working. Is that what I\'m hearing?

Unknown Speaker 32:25
Yeah. We I\'ve never heard of him, but it sounds great. Oh,

Brandon Handley 32:32
that\'s terrible. I have to boot you know,

Unknown Speaker 32:36
maybe just send me a link.

Brandon Handley 32:39
I guess I could do that. That doesn\'t seem as aggressive or anything like that.

Unknown Speaker 32:42
Does that make you nicer?

Brandon Handley 32:46
No shock factor there.

Unknown Speaker 32:50
So one thing I do want to add, though, is go ahead if that\'s okay. Yeah. In terms of like, where we\'re heading to is we\'re just like constantly pivoting and moving and what wherever we\'re supposed to be as where we\'re supposed to be one of our biggest part of our vision, I guess the biggest part of it. Yeah, our dream is to, again, we have no idea what it looks like. But we see ourselves like speaking on stages, we would love to host a conference, like a mindset conference, where we\'re focusing on, like, our health and wealth and spiritual, all of the things to do with like, this growth journey, and just sharing tips and tricks and coming together with other people that have things that they can offer to serve other people in creating something really big and fun out of it.

Brandon Handley 33:46
Yeah, let me look, it\'s kind of like, um, before coming on this podcast, because sometimes speak that out loud, right? Because sometimes we hold these dreams and and we\'re like, Ah, I\'m not gonna tell anybody. Just go eat, see what happens. Not gonna tell anybody this is what I want, though speaking it into a corner, but like, you know, speaking some of that stuff out loud to the people that you know, so they know, right? Like, you know what, I was talking to somebody else that would like to do something similar. How can I connect you guys, right? So I think that, you know, in terms of sharing that type of information, what is your vision? What does that look like for you? And for others that are tuning in? They can they might, you know, a hear your journey and be like, Hey, I would like to start a podcast with a friend and what\'s that look like? It looks like not knowing what you\'re doing and then going to do it. Right, which is, you know, that\'s the first step for a lot of anybody, right? Just make a decision to go ahead and do it. How do you feel, you know, a big part two of all this is now that you feel like you\'re connected spiritually. You know, how do you how do you feel like You\'re integrating that like every day sounds to me, like, you know, what was what was your mantra earlier tomorrow? Like, yeah, this is meant to be. Everything works out exactly.

Unknown Speaker 35:11
Works out exactly as it\'s supposed to. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 35:15
We know, one of the questions I\'ve certainly gotten before is like he without, without, like, definite vision or a plan? Is anybody beating you up on that you know,

Unknown Speaker 35:26
at all? About it having a vision or plan? Well, you know, it\'d

Brandon Handley 35:30
be like, what\'s your plan, you need to have a plan, you gotta have a plan. If you don\'t have anything that you don\'t have a target, where are you gonna go? You know, is that anybody? Anything that\'s come up in your conversations? Are you just again, you know, following following your face?

Unknown Speaker 35:43
Hmm. Well, I remember having this conversation about not having expectations. And that\'s not like, we don\'t give a shit. No expectations. It\'s honestly, and Deb can touch more on this, because I love how she says it. But basically, like, if we have this narrow path of where we\'re going, there\'s so many things we\'re gonna miss out on. Because we\'re, we have our blinders on. And we\'re like, this is this one thing that we want. There\'s so many other things for us. And if we\'re just like, hey, no expectations, the world is our oyster. We have so many more opportunities to grow and pivot along the way, because we have we see see more opportunities. Mm hmm.

Unknown Speaker 36:27
Yeah, I, we that was our beginning of our year that we started out with the no expectations, like I had done a week in the giant in Book Club. I think it was just me, and maybe one of the other girls, because it\'s like a massive book by Tony Robbins. And he even says in there, he talks about how so this like, actually ended up playing into our conversation when we started talking about it in January of last year, because I had read the book in November, December. And so it was like, he talks about how like, it\'s good to get like goals, like you can say I want to live in a house on the ocean. But he said, You don\'t have to be like, it has to be blue with yellow shutters. And it has to look exact, he\'s like, it doesn\'t have to be that specific. And then when you do that, it\'s like, so limited to like, it has to look exactly like this, or I am not accepting it. And what that just doesn\'t feel good. So like, we have decided that this like last year, for example, that our our plans are, what they are like we we have this plan to host a conference, our friend owns. She just bought a motel last year, and she\'s working on creating a retreat center. That\'s happening, her dreams, and ours are aligning. We\'ve talked about it with her, we\'ve discussed it, we\'ve dreamt we\'ve had these visions, and we\'ve had visions separately, all three of us. And then we share them to each other. We\'re like, this is what I saw. And this is you know, like. And so there\'s this beautiful part, that makes me really excited that like, I can only dream up of mostly like what we create, unless we sit down very intentionally, to dream really, really big, which most of us do not do. We know what we know. And we\'re like, Well, I guess, you know, like, you could say, well, you know, you don\'t have a car, you\'re like, Well, I guess I could just like maybe maybe I could just get like a Honda Civic or something. But when you\'re required to dream big, you\'re like, you need to ask for like, you know, a McLaren or like a Lamborghini. Or like, it\'s, we\'re not. And I think that we get like, held down by that we get held down by the fact that we you know, it\'s just like just just down here. Just ask for the things down here. But in reality, the universe is like, what do you want, like, just open it up. And then that thing gets to look like however it wants to look. So if Tamara and I are walking on the path, and we see a window open, we can poke her head through, we don\'t have to commit to fully go in there. But we can like look in and see if it\'s something that we\'ve won. And then if we don\'t we just keep going. But we we got to see, we got to see what we liked or what we didn\'t want or you know, whatever. Um, I think that\'s the beauty of like spiritual journey is the beauty of like, where our podcast is headed. To this we know that it\'s headed like this is practice for us. Like all of the stuff that we\'re doing all the podcasting being on your show, like this is all practice. There was a time when we first started we were so nervous. I\'m sure you can relate to that feeling when you first start a podcast you\'re like, it\'s like a little jittery and now and I did not like being in front of cameras just asked me I like was not okay with it. And now it doesn\'t even faze me. You know. So you get used to these things and it\'s like Okay, so now we know this Now we get to level up again, what\'s the next step? And what\'s? So I think that\'s the part I\'m most excited about is like, I don\'t know what I don\'t know. So like, as I level up, I get to see the next thing. And then I\'m like, okay, like, this is exciting. And then we go through some more growth and it\'s painful. Yeah, exactly. You know,

Brandon Handley 40:21
right, right now, like you\'re saying, you know, when you first start off, right, it\'s kind of scary. And it\'s also, we we ask for the things we think we can get right? Like, I\'ll take a Honda, pretty sure I can get a fucking Honda. Like, yeah, but you know, then you\'re like, but what I really like is a fleet of McLaren. So they can get one like, every different day and different colors and like, and so you know, but we don\'t we, we\'ve been taught to, you know, kind of, just keep our heads down and, and work hard and flop. Blah, blah, there\'s no fun in that. There\'s, it\'s, it\'s hard to it\'s hard to imagine yourself being bigger if you\'re, you know, always grinding away, right, something along those lines, at any rate, what I like about sorry, that too, is like, you know, you\'re sharing your stories with the other friend who\'s gotten the hotel bill in the retreat centers. It\'s kind of like synchronicity, right. The things that\'s what\'s the whole the whole idea of like, you know, what you seek is seeking you type of thing. Yeah, totally. So look, man, I get it, right. No expectations, here\'s what we want to do. Here\'s how we want to feel why we do it. This is how we already feel while we\'re doing what we\'re doing. We\'re gonna keep doing it. We\'re doing something over here. Doesn\'t feel right. If it doesn\'t align, we can\'t rise. I\'m gonna run with that. Right? And yes. So thanks for sharing that. Let me get to a part here that I like to get to. Unless there was anything else you wanted to tag on to that last part.

Unknown Speaker 42:01
I\'m good.

Unknown Speaker 42:03
Actually, I do. I\'m just like a little backstory on like Devin and me and our friend has the hotel. So the three of us actually started a book club together, before we even like, really stepped into this like, journey together. And so yeah, we just like had this little vision of like, oh, let\'s like start reading some books together. And now we\'re literally planning, mindset and spiritual retreats. World

Brandon Handley 42:32
domination, that\'s

Unknown Speaker 42:33
pretty cool. I got world money.

Brandon Handley 42:38
I got that. It\'s great. And the thing that you\'re you\'re seeing is that you\'re all helping each other to grow. And more than just like a spiritual sense. And I think that\'s pretty cool. So this is a little part that I like to get to, in regards to do even just this whole podcast space, right? So somebody tuned into this podcast or to tune into your podcasts or on their spiritual journey. It\'s like a spiritual speed dating session, right? So like, I\'m gonna tune in for like, one hour or 30 minutes or whatever, is that this podcast, you know, tickles my spiritual fancy, then I\'ll keep hanging out. So in that vein, I\'ve actually got two bachelor\'s, this will be fun. So I\'m going to ask a couple of questions related to spirituality. So let\'s see here. Doo doo doo doo. These aren\'t that great, but we\'ll run with them. Bachelot number one, if you\'re in a bad mood. Do you prefer to be left alone or have someone cheer you up?

Unknown Speaker 43:42
Here\'s bachelor number one.

Brandon Handley 43:43
Take a choice.

Unknown Speaker 43:47
Your Bachelorette number one? Sure.

Unknown Speaker 43:51
I need to be alone. Definitely alone, like doing some meditating doing some deep breathing. Going for a walk. Like Please don\'t talk to me. Because I might say something I regret

Brandon Handley 44:07
Fair enough. Bachelot number two.

Unknown Speaker 44:11
Oh, I get the same. Okay. I also, um, I I\'m just trying to think here. I think that initially, I definitely need to be left alone, but I do enjoy like a hug after I\'ve processed some things. So then I want someone who like rub my back and give me a hug. But first, yeah, like bath. It\'s like bath time. It\'s like bubble bath,

Brandon Handley 44:37
or something. Yeah, no, if I\'m here and leave me the hell alone. Yeah, I\'m gonna have to process this. Yeah. Let\'s see. This would be the last one here to do to do tu tu tu. I like to always ask, you know, do you use feel like our current religion is serving us or not? It\'s rare that won\'t go to you.

Unknown Speaker 45:07
Yep, she\'s, she\'s Bachelorette number one. Like our current religious.

Brandon Handley 45:13
Like, like, you know, it\'s Christina. Oh, yeah, like, for example, like Christianity is Christianity is organized religion serving. So we\'re not

Unknown Speaker 45:23
this is a good way. This is how I view juicy. This is how I view so I am not religious, I am Christian. And I feel like the difference is in religion, we are not given a choice. Myself, I view myself as like a Christian who has the choice, I get to choose whether I want to have a relationship with God, in our family growing up, we were never forced to go to church, we had the choice, we had the option if we wanted to, we could, we weren\'t put in this box of like, these are the rules. And if you do not follow them, like we\'re booting you out. And so my experience as a Christian has just been being accepted and loved for exactly who I am. In all of my rough moments, and my falling and my stumbling. And all of those things I\'ve just been showed love and grace. And so I am showing that love and grace to other people. And Deb touched on that earlier when we were talking that, and I didn\'t know that you felt so strongly that love for me like I had no idea. And so clearly in hearing that from Deb, it is serving a purpose for me.

Brandon Handley 46:48
I love it. I love it. Devin, what about you? You lost a religion? Yeah, found it. You found spirituality. So let\'s do it. Let\'s talk about what that look like for you.

Unknown Speaker 46:58
So the question is, do I think that religion is what serves

Brandon Handley 47:04
serving, serving, serving, you know, is religion serving like us? Well,

Unknown Speaker 47:12
oh, this is such a hard one. Because I know I know people who are amazing, that are devout to whatever their faith is.

Brandon Handley 47:24
This one\'s just yes for me.

Unknown Speaker 47:25
Oh, I don\'t know how to do that without like, I just up my brain, the squirrels are running. And I just feel like I need to think about this for like every single person in the world. I myself, No, I do not think that religion is serving us to the highest purpose. I think that I think that how do I want to word this? We\'re humans. And we all are like I wrote this the other day in one of my posts that were just like all like balls of childhood trauma, just like walking around in life with these like tainted perceptions that have been delivered to us, religiously, politically, society, cultural, everything. And we carry that and then we think that we\'re right, and then so we take whatever scripture is. That speaks to us, or that were a part of whatever religious sect that we\'re a part of, or whatever. And we will sometimes use that to condone behavior or to totally alienate and discriminate behavior as well. And I you can call me maybe like a naive spiritualist. But I have used this so many times in different discussions when we have discussed things that were like push button topics like hot button topics. And I\'m like, Can we all just get along? I\'m like, if we were just balls of energy floating around in space or heaven, we would not be seeing all the things that we see here on this earth, we wouldn\'t see those things. We would just see light, and we would see energy. And it wouldn\'t be what we are framing everything to be around down here on Earth. Everything is framed around these different things. And we think that we\'re right. And I think when you think that you\'re right, and you don\'t leave any open doors to listen to other people. I think that\'s that is I don\'t I don\'t agree with it. I don\'t I don\'t like it. It doesn\'t make me feel good. And I have been in that space before

Brandon Handley 49:57
you so you\'re saying religion is a bunch of clothes. Doors. I mean, that\'s what I\'m hearing. Yeah,

Unknown Speaker 50:04
I a bunch of closed doors. It can be, I think that it very much can be because people get very stuck. They\'re like, this is what it says. And I\'m like, Yeah, but then you talk to someone else. Yes. Okay. And so like that has to do with us just being these balls of childhood trauma of loose like things happening. And we created these perceptions. And that\'s why we read it that way. Right? It doesn\'t make it true. It\'s just your truth.

Brandon Handley 50:33
For sure. For sure. Not it\'s a course earlier this year. And terminologies was it\'s a truth, not the truth. Right. So the truth, of course, that Well, ladies, thank you so much. This has been a blast. I appreciate having you on today. Where can people go and find a little bit more, Tamara and Devin on the line and rise podcast?

Unknown Speaker 51:03
Tomorrow, no, she can throw out?

Unknown Speaker 51:08
Well, I\'m waiting for you. So

Unknown Speaker 51:12
I know, we kind of have everything grouped together on our Instagram page, which is a line underscore and underscore rise. And we have our podcast stuff linked there, so you can listen to us. And this is a really good reminder to me, I need to link our tic tock there because we just started some fun little tic TOCs. And our little highlight is like can we have three minutes of your time. And we just have three minute little videos on random topics that we\'re feeling that we just like, pour into and that is kind of like our thing. So that\'s where you can find this.

Brandon Handley 51:51
Awesome. Awesome. Thanks for having us. Yeah, I

Unknown Speaker 51:56
really hope you enjoyed this episode of the spiritual dough podcast. Stay connected with us directly through spiritual dove.co. You can also join the discussion on Facebook, spiritual dough, and Instagram at spiritual underscore Joe. If you would like to speak with us, send us an email through Brandon at spiritual dope CO and as always, thank you for cultivating your mindset and creating a better reality. This includes the most thought provoking part of your day. Don\'t forget to like and subscribe to stay fully up to date. Until next time, be kind to yourself and trust your intuition.

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Kerri Hummingbird shares her shamanic wisdom to help you heal

Published: Nov. 7, 2021, 2:15 p.m.
Duration: 52 minutes 46 seconds

Kerri Hummingbird, Soul Guide and host of Soul Nectar Show, is the #1 international best-selling author of "The Second Wave: Transcending the Human Drama" and the award-winning best-selling book "Awakening To Me: One Woman\\u2019s Journey To Self Love" which describes the early years of her spiritual awakening. Ms. Hummingbird inspires people to lead their lives wide awake with an authenticity, passion and purpose that positively impacts others. She catalyzes mind-shifts that transform life challenges into gifts of wisdom. Her newest book, already a #1 int\'l bestseller, is called "Love Is Fierce: Healing the Mother Wound" and describes the most direct path to spiritual enlightenment. Connect with Kerri at: https://kerrihummingbird.com/

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you\'ve questioned so much more than those around you. You\'ve even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited in this process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can\'t quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you this world the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don\'t have all the answers but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another head of spiritual dub with your host Brandon Handley. Let\'s get right into today\'s episode.

Brandon Handley 0:41
Hey there spiritual dope. We are on here today with Carrie hummingbird, Soul guide and host of soul nectar show she\'s number one International Best Selling Author of the second wave transcending the human drama and the award winning best selling book, awakening to me one woman\'s journey to self love, which describes the early years her her spiritual awakening, Miss hummingbird inspires people to lead their lives wide awake with an authentic, passionate purpose that positively impacts others, she catalyzes miles just to transform life challenges into gifts of wisdom. Her newest book already number one international bestsellers called Love is fierce healing the mother wound and describes the most direct path to spiritual enlightenment. I think everybody wants that right? Like, do not pass go, just you know straight to the end. Guys pretty funny, you said you know, you\'re gonna you\'re gonna let intuition guide. And that\'s really how we kind of start this whole thing off every time here. And the idea is, you know, somebody out there tune in today is tune in to hear what source is sending through you, since we\'re, you know, vehicles of Source Energy, right? What what is what\'s coming through you today that that listener needs to hear

Kerri Hummingbird 2:02
what\'s coming through loud and clear is slow down, really slow down, slow down, restrain, get still get in nature, put your feet on the earth, put your hand over your heart, the other hand over your belly, and just really be present with this vehicle that we most of us ride. Like it\'s just a bucking bronco. And we just need to actually be gentle with this, this animals as being that we are in the integration of our spirit with this, this animal, basically, you know, it\'s an animal. And a lot of times, we\'re kind of mean to our animals, you know, we don\'t necessarily feed it that well or take good care of it, we kind of expected to work 12 hour days, and then just be perky at night to have fun. Oh, so we slow down, the things are so hectic. And you know, COVID couldn\'t even slow us down. It\'s kind of amazing how even COVID didn\'t slow us down because we\'re right back at it, you know, and we need to really heat that heat that message because really what happens is like we get into connection with some deeper vibratory patterns on the planet, when we slow down, we get connected with the heartbeat of this mother that we all share this Mother Earth. And when we get connected with that heartbeat, and that rhythm of the Earth, actually, things are way less struggle. It\'s way less effort connected from that heartbeat space, that rhythm of the earth. Things can get easier. Life gets easier.

Brandon Handley 3:40
Right? I love the idea of kind of for you sounds like there\'s almost two heartbeat synchronizations right, first of all, kind of get get in sync with your own heart. What is it a HeartMath Institute, which I think has some really great work done with it. And then identifying Earth as though it were a living being as well. And then kind of getting your rhythm in sync with that. Is that kind of which is that kind of what you\'re saying?

Kerri Hummingbird 4:15
Yeah, absolutely is set really as if it it is a living being you know, I think most people think the Earth is a floor and they walk around on it. But the Earth is a living breathing being and trees are living breathing beings and plants and animals and and including us. And we have this we have these beautiful technologies, right like we\'re we\'re on technology right now. It lets us have a conversation from wherever you are to wherever I am, could be anywhere around the entire world, people could be listening. That is so amazing as such a great product of the mind. And we\'re listening from a body from a body that has a heartbeat that has lungs that has muscle souls that has senses, you know, awarenesses when we allow ourselves to get out of our minds and into the body, that\'s actually where the real game is, you know, a lot of people, including my son, you know, both of my sons, especially my younger son, they love the computer games, like, just let me play computer games all day long, I\'m happy, they\'ll just stay in my room and play computer games. And I keep trying to tell them, you know, that\'s really interesting in your mind, but there\'s actually like, some really trippy stuff that happens when you get off the computer and get in deeply into your human experience. And into the earth experience. There\'s some super mystical, amazing stuff that happens in that process that really blows it out of the water in terms of what\'s more amazing.

Brandon Handley 5:53
What\'s an example that you\'d like to use for them?

Kerri Hummingbird 5:57
Oh, yeah, I love this one that I\'m thinking about this time that I was in training with the power path School of shamanism. And I was on a retreat, three days in the woods, you know, no, no food, no brain oriented things by myself with a 10 and some water. And I got bored after the first day, you know, the end of the first day, and I\'m like, Okay, what am I going to do now? There\'s no books to read. There\'s no, there\'s nothing brain oriented. I\'d already done all the things I set up the campsite, I made my medicine wheel. I mean, I did everything. So now what I did just be so I went and stood up on this rock, I found this rock. And it was like a stage because it was really big. I went up and sat stood up on the stage. And I started practicing Healing Songs. Because in this program, we learned how to sing Healing Songs, like from the jungle and Icaros they call them. So I\'m up on there singing the Icaros. And in this acre, I was calling in support like, you know, Bear COME TO ME NOW and Firefly coming to, you know, whatever, I could think of singing a song. And at the end of several verses, I got this little giggle and I thought, you know, I\'m gonna innovate hummingbird. And is the moment I started singing in Hummingbird, an actual hummingbird flew through the forest, and hovered right in front of my third eye, about 12 inches away from my third eye. And it stayed there. As my eyes got huge,

Brandon Handley 7:36
some real snow. Like, way, like Alright, what else? Can we you know, did you What else did you call in?

Kerri Hummingbird 7:43
conjuring up? So, I mean, I basically was like, so in other words, you come when I call and it nodded. And then it flew away. Awesome.

Brandon Handley 7:53
That\'s pretty intense, for sure. Um, it\'s a hard sell on a couple of boys in the video games, right? What is my guess? Well, again, I think that that\'s super impactful. They\'re just not there yet. Right. And I think that that\'s part of the challenge is, you know, that growth into recognizing just how powerful an experience like that can be. When you\'re in tune sounds like when you\'re in tune with the way you were, in that moment, kind of with your heart and the Earth\'s vibration as well.

Kerri Hummingbird 8:29
Yeah, it\'s it\'s a, it\'s a slowing down. Now. I don\'t, I don\'t judge my kids. I mean, they\'re young, right. And I gotta tell you, my mind was filled up when I was their age. I, I\'m not sure there was any space, there was a rock concert going on inside my head. You know, like, all the time. It was so busy and so loud. And I remember I used to have to sit at stoplights. And just to deal with the fact that there was a stoplight. I had to count, like to start counting 1002 1003 1004 Just to get through the fact that I had to wait at the stoplight. That\'s how impatient I was.

Brandon Handley 9:08
I get it, right. I know that. Geez. I used to drive so fast and reckless. Right? Like I just kind of go anywhere I could as fast as I could traffic, weaving in and out doing whatever. Somebody\'s slowing down and be like, ah, freaking out. Right? Why is this? And now just like whatever man, you know? Yeah, sure. You know, it\'s it\'s, it\'s, we\'re slowing down. And that\'s just that\'s just what we\'re doing here right now. Being okay with it. But I totally I totally get it. So let\'s let\'s walk through right like kind of how you even found yourself in this space, because I\'m sure that you weren\'t always calling hummingbirds to your to your third eye. All right. So let\'s let\'s get to it. Let\'s let\'s start off kind of a little bit in the beginning. You know, you\'re you\'re deep into spirituality space right now. You\'re doing Sam Stick you\'re doing. I\'d last time you and I had a quick conversation. You\'re doing plant medicine, you\'ve got a lot going on, who, you know, who were you before? How did you fall into spirituality? Because that\'s usually my experience is like most people just kind of like, oh, there it is. Right? And then, you know, kind of rolling into the next piece. And then you know, what\'s happening now? What\'s happening now?

Kerri Hummingbird 10:24
Yeah, so Well, I, I was always spending time I was 15, a teenager, I was in psychotherapy, because I was, you know, my parents were very concerned that I was going to have mental challenges because I didn\'t really rocky early beginning, in my life, the first five years of my life were a little traumatic, between my natural father and my mother\'s first choice of father who was a violent drunk. And, you know, so the trauma of that experience, and anybody who\'s listening who\'s had a similar experience, my heart just goes out to you, because I know how long it\'s taken me to get safe in my body from that experience, but I was doing psychotherapy to kind of, you know, work on fixing me because I had big emotional swings. And, you know, I kind of prone to some wild behavior, which were all signs of that early trauma, you know, from psycho therapies point of view. So I was trying to do it that way from the mind. And it was okay. I mean, I got some coping skills. But when I became a mother at 30, everything just flew out the window, you know, I was immersed in a darkness that I can\'t even explain, but it was profound, you know, and struggling to be happy, I wanted to be happy I wanted a child, that was completely my choice, I wanted to have a baby. And I was, I was actually really upset that I was so upset, you know, because I really wanted to have this experience. And when it didn\'t work out that way, I was in deeper psychotherapy. And then they put me on some pills, because, you know, that\'s sort of the Western medical solution as well just stop feeling that so here\'s some pills and make that go away. So I did that, you know, I kind of coped that way for a while. But what I finally realized was that there was a lot of limitation in the dynamic between me and my spouse, because we were playing very traditional roles. And that wasn\'t working out for me, you know, when I became a mother, those traditional roles, like, they didn\'t work anymore. When I\'m saying that, I mean, like, you know, the whole knight in shining armor thing, you know, I really liked that I liked having that knight in shining armor, and I liked sort of being the Maiden in distress. But when you\'re the mother, that doesn\'t fly very well, you know, because somebody has got to take care of the baby. And that was me, you know, that was my job. I mean, I was the one with the breast milk. So you know, it\'s kind of my job, you know, to take care of this baby. And I couldn\'t just fall apart, you know, the way I had previously in my life, or run away or get away from it somehow. So that was the beginning of learning how to stay in the conversation and learning how to deepen within myself. And at that moment, what I actually needed was spirituality, I deeply, deeply, deeply needed spiritual connection, I needed to understand that it was okay to open to some bigger support, you know, it was okay to open myself and I and I was subconsciously doing that because I was an artist. So it was always outside painting. So in some way, some part of me knew you need to be outside, you need to be in nature. And I spent hours out there painting, because I just needed to get out and get connected. I didn\'t even understand what I was doing. I just was kind of doing it. But I remember I used to walk the baby, I take these long walks, because he was so colicky our first child who took the brunt of our synthesis of polarity for a child took the brunt of all that. And I remember walking him, you know, on around the neighborhood. And I would always walk by this center for spiritual enlightenment. And my body would come to a halt.

And my head would turn was look at I would feel a little yearning, like, I think I need to go in there. And then I would have a million reasons why I shouldn\'t namely, because my partner didn\'t believe in all that. And if I spent money on that, it\'d be an argument is what I would turn away from it and keep walking. Right? So that was also just a big part of my journey. So those motherhood really called me up, you know, it called me up to make a stand. And it took me a while to make it. It didn\'t actually make that stand until I was my oldest child was going into middle school. And I finally things got bad enough meaning that I was I was really self abusing by holding myself back from my power and my Wisdom in my knowing and trying to fit into that tiny little box that society had made for me of the maiden. And it wasn\'t working. So I ended up leaving him and heading out on my own and opening to the great mystery. And pretty soon found a teacher that helped me to start to own my feminine and own the fact that whoa, I\'m not small and skinny. I\'m like, big and expansive. I have this thing called intuition. That\'s telling me things that he\'s not getting. I am emotional, because I\'m designed that way. And feeling those emotions is actually what gives me the knowledge, the wisdom I need inside to cope with situations. So there is just all this unfolding that happened over the last decade, that has been amazing and tremendous, and has guided me to heal any places where I was holding blame for him, because it wasn\'t his fault that I was having an awakening.

Brandon Handley 16:04
Yeah, a lot to unpack there. But I mean, you know, a big part of it, right is when the depression state right, or like we getting the medicated thing, when they\'ve seen Western medicine, like you\'re saying, it\'s just like, to give you this thing to help you get rid of it as really, you\'re just cutting off a piece of your own internal guidance, right. And again, that\'s just my perception was that the way that you were feeling like when you when you kind of got that medication there was like, it\'s isolation of feelings, or almost like a, like a soft knocking at the door that you just couldn\'t answer.

Kerri Hummingbird 16:48
You know, for me, I was with the birth of my child, I was drowning in my emotions, and my depression, I was seeing visions of big holes in the floor, like I saw this vision in the shower of a big dark hole opening up in the middle of the floor, like going somewhere in other regions, right. So I was having wild impulses. So for me, it was actually helpful at first to take the edge off that extreme experience. So that I could provide for my child because I needed to be present, right, I needed to be able to be a safe place for this baby. So I had to be on that, I think at first, only because I did not have the training before my motherhood and how to handle my emotions. Now had I been trained earlier, and how to channel my emotional experience, and how to move through waves of emotion while staying grounded and present. And being a safe place. For others. Even though I\'m experiencing my emotions, that would have been a completely different experience. And I probably wouldn\'t have broken down the way I did. Okay, real quick. And if I\'d done some healing to

Brandon Handley 17:56
you real quickly, before we move on from that, right? What are some of those tools that if you had had prior to or some of that knowledge, if you\'re able to share it? That would have been beneficial? Right, that, you know, looking back said, hey, you know, just would have would have been nicer, no sooner?

Kerri Hummingbird 18:15
Yeah, like. I really think that being aware that emotions are a sign that something\'s out of balance, instead of a sign that you\'re crazy or broken. Number one, that would have been really great to know that. And because I didn\'t know that I of course, wanted to suppress my emotions, because I didn\'t want to be crazy and broken. So I think that\'s a judgment that collectively as a society, we could start unwinding and untangling that to make emotions normal. And to help each other to feel them. So that\'s on a bigger level, but at the at the individual level. You know, just listen to my words and hear me when I say you\'re not broken and crazy, if you have emotions, you\'re human. And whenever I\'m having them now, a lot of times what I\'ll do is hold myself, so put my hand over my heart, a hand over my belly. If I\'m feeling grief, I\'ll let myself cry. And, and just until it passes, and even if I\'m in a like situation where you\'re not supposed to cry. Like yesterday, I was at brunch with my mom and some big emotion came up because I was reading to her from her her profile, her jinkies profile, and I was having this huge realization about what a blessing she was for me in my life because she was this essence this energy that I needed. And I was reading to her and I was I looked at her and I said, Mom, I just I resented you so much for being exactly this, but this is your design and I just burst into tears. And that\'s okay with me. I think don\'t care anymore. If people see me crying, I don\'t, that is so genuine to cry with that realization and to share that moment with my mom, even though we\'re out in public at a restaurant. It\'s just, it\'s just so beautiful. And I don\'t judge it anymore. So I think like, feel your feelings. And if other people are uncomfortable with that, well, that\'s their job, that\'s their work to do is to get more comfortable with you expressing your feelings. And, you know, if you feel angry, that\'s one that I tried to, you know, to process without directing it at someone I really, I that\'s the only caveat I would have is express the emotion and just do your best not to express it at someone, you know, like, like, own that emotion is completely yours. Do your processing with it. For me with anger, I like to you know, I like to go ride off on some country road and just like roar, like a lion, you know, just like, get somewhere and just roar like I\'m in the jungle because it\'s just energy. It\'s just like fire energy from the will center usually. And so you just need to kind of roar that crap out just like yeah, just like, Release the Kraken?

Brandon Handley 21:10
No, that\'s a great one, right? I mean, it\'s just, it\'s just this kind of pent up energy that\'s gotten you feeling like one sort of way. And there\'s a way to release it. And I like what you\'re saying there not to release it at somebody, but to release it just in general.

Kerri Hummingbird 21:25
Right? Yeah. And it\'s really hard for men to release anger. I had this client once, who was, um, he was probably like, six foot three, six foot four, big guy, but big teddy bear guy. But you know, he had anger. But he had repressed it all because he wasn\'t allowed to express his anger in front of his father, right, his father kind of had his thumb on him. And he also wasn\'t definitely not supposed to express anger at or in front of women. You know, that was just not cool. So when I was coaching him, I had to, I was like, well, you\'re gonna have to release that anger. So let\'s try the roar. You know, and he\'s wearing my house, you know, so he\'s, he\'s like, I can\'t even he couldn\'t even open his throat to do it. He, like literally couldn\'t do it. And so I did it for him. I said, I did it first. I was like, Okay, I\'m going to do it. So you know, it\'s okay. And when he felt my grounded power with my own anger, that made it safe, actually, for him to feel his anger, because he knew I could handle it. And I think this is a big message for women. You know, if you want your guys to express their anger in a safe way, then you have to feel your anger and, and really own your anger. And let yourself express that so that you can become a safe place for anger to be communicated. You know, but if you\'re if you don\'t own your own anger, and you play that victim role on the triangle, you know, then then there\'s just no place for authenticity to happen in the relationship.

Brandon Handley 22:55
Like it\'s a triangle, you\'re talking like the Drama Triangle, the Drama Triangle.

Kerri Hummingbird 22:59
Oh, yeah, triangle disempowerment triangle.

Brandon Handley 23:02
Got it. Very cool. It\'s funny. You\'re bringing up the anger bit, right? I\'m going through this book right now. Bringing your shadow out of the dark, right. And I think I just got done doing anger, that the deal is we we all think it\'s like the bad thing. But again, to your point, if you go back to when you\'re talking about emotions, they\'re just showing you something about what you\'re what\'s happening. And I think even stronger cases is that we\'re generally not taught and it sounds like you know, you weren\'t taught to pay attention to your motion is easy, like, I\'m not supposed to have this emotion. Case in point is like, you know, you\'re you\'ve got your, your firstborn. You want to be happy. You can\'t figure out how to get happy then there\'s like this vicious like, kind of cycle of wire and I something\'s wrong with me, because I\'m not happy in this situation. What\'s wrong with me? What\'s wrong with me? Right? And that\'s not it, right? Like, you\'re just feeling a certain way. And like you said, you\'re human. And as humans, we, one of the side effects or benefits, however, you want to take a look at it, we feel. And I think one of the worst worst things is we\'re not taught how to cope with them, like you were saying. And I think you know, getting getting getting that kind of lesson sooner rather than later is very important.

Kerri Hummingbird 24:25
Yeah, and there\'s a lot of there\'s a lot of expectation that women place on themselves when they become mothers, like, huge expectations about being perfect and being loving all the time. And always being giving and always being nurturing and always, always, always, and that is an impossible standard to me, because you\'re a human being. And especially if you don\'t take care of yourself. I\'ve seen so many women that they just sublimate themselves to the family. Then they bend over backwards doing things everything for everybody. And they get celebrated when they do that, by the way, too. So it reinforces the role of like surrendering yourself or everybody else in the family about yourself. And that actually sets a really bad role model. Because now you\'re saying to everybody, you know, just surrender yourself completely to everybody else. And don\'t, don\'t worry about what\'s good for you, or to even take care of your own body. And, you know, even get the exercise you need, or even like, either right meals that you need, or get the emotional support that you need, like, completely, leave yourself behind and throw yourself under the bus to be like this corporate employee and go out there and do right You because You love your replicate the model. So I think it\'s better and it\'s brave and courageous. And you definitely can take a lot of flack for it. But for those moms who feel courageous, is to start stepping out of those expectations, like, actually get clear, what is a good example? Like, what would be a healthy way for me to live? And then what do I want to teach my kids? Like? How do I want to model healthy behavior, and self care for my kids, and not just what to say it, and then do something else, but actually stick by it, which means you have to have boundaries, and then that teach healthy boundaries to the kids to by your example. And it\'s when we won\'t do those things out of fear of not belonging, or being rejected or being criticized? Those are the things that hold us back is that fear? So I think, you know, one of the major realizations I\'ve had about this whole paradigm is how it\'s a system. So our family systems are based on these expectations of each other, like the knight in shining armor, and I\'m going to be the damsel in distress, and you\'re just going to rescue me, however, then I become a mother. And that just throws the whole thing out the wash, you know, it\'s like, well, that doesn\'t work anymore. And now there\'s this question of, well, how am I getting nourished? Right? And I\'ve seen women all over the map with how they handle that disparity between being a maid and where everything was being rescued for you, and being a mother where you have to do everything. It\'s like, how do you navigate that? And then what is, you know, what\'s the masculine in the picture doing? You know? Because, like, how do you react to that? So there\'s, there\'s just so much just so juicy in that conversation of that, like, how we each choose to show up and be full humans, in the family, I think is like the answer from our hearts, you know, taking a spiritual journey, looking at our own shadows, as you were talking about owning those shadows, not stepping over anything. If anger comes up, anger is there. If resentment comes up resentments, they\'re seeing what that has to share with you. You know, for me, whenever resentment came up, it was telling me, Carrie, you\'re not taking care of yourself. You\'re not resourced. You needed to slow down and be resourceful.

Brandon Handley 27:58
That makes sense, right? Because you\'re probably seeing everybody else\'s fully being taken care of, and getting everything that they need. And you\'re like, What the hell, right? And he starts to resent all that. That\'s simply because you\'re, you\'ve given everything to everybody else, but you haven\'t given anything to yourself. In a scenario like that. D, you know, so the Thanks for Thanks for you know, talking, I guess about a couple of tools to write about things that you could use right? Before? Before before. Before time\'s right. And then, you know, so you\'re walking, you\'re doing your walks, and you\'re going past the US on past, like, your spirituality place. Did you ever step into that spirituality? Place? Or is

Kerri Hummingbird 28:43
it never, I never went in. And I just, I must have stopped there, like, I know, 2030 times. And I was standing freeze and just look at it, even though it was getting more and more desperate, I would just look at you know, and I wouldn\'t go in, it was crazy that I wouldn\'t go in there.

Brandon Handley 29:01
And you\'re talking about, you know, kind of this the stand that you took at a certain point. And you also talk about like all these other fears and stigmas about like the society, how they\'re going to look at you for whatever it is you do. I imagine there was a bit of that as you went through the divorce process. I don\'t know if that\'s anything you feel like sharing as part of this process that you went through?

Kerri Hummingbird 29:23
Yeah, absolutely. Of course, everybody in my, in my connection, thought it was insane for leaving my husband because on the outside, it looked awesome. You know, I mean, it looked like I was getting everything I wanted, right? I had somebody that liked to party and have fun and go on vacations and we had a nice house and spent money but we even built me a studio. So you know, like an art studio so I could do my art. Like, I looked like I was just getting it all you know, and then nobody can understand. They\'re like, why are you leaving this guy? And it was because I I was just in my cage. Like there was this cage for me an elephant dictation in our relationship. And I was also up against my own edges. And I didn\'t have the tools to process that. With psychotherapy, I was still going to psychotherapy, but it was not, it wasn\'t hitting the mark, like, there\'s a depth to spirituality that I found is able to really heal, things that are operating that are totally influencing your decisions in your perceptions, but you don\'t even know it until you get deep enough. And the mind is not deep enough. So trying to solve it by talking about it isn\'t really deep enough to go. So a lot of the ways that I was looking at him, a lot of the dynamics that were playing out, were part of my soul\'s curriculum, it was calling me up to speak my truth. It was calling me up to honor myself, it was calling me up to trust my intuition. And, you know, an almost all the arguments we had were all about those things, you know, it\'d be him challenging my intuition, it\'d be him challenging my honor to be him challenging, you know, he would just poke poke, poke, poke poke at me, and, and it wasn\'t able to stand my ground, you know, and I was being called up to stand my ground. So if we look at the bigger picture of the evolution of humanity, we can see that the last, you know, several 1000 years has been mostly guided by the masculine energy, and some would say the imbalance, masculine energy, that patriarchal energy, which is sort of suppressing women\'s intuition and suppressing the feminine and all of us, really, you know, because that feminine and masculine, they live in all of us, no matter what body we have. So now is the time where we\'re waking that wild, feminine back up, and this is men, women, whatever gender you are, that feminine, that wild, feminine is being woken back up, and for anybody who\'s like delivered a baby, Ben, a mother in that capacity, it\'s really wild, the way it wakes up. It\'s like, it\'s like, you know, fierce Mama Bear waking up. And that energy had to come through me. But I was always conflict avoidance. So I wanted to be a pleaser, I liked being the golden daughter, I liked being daddy\'s girl. And here, I was being called up by the shadows to say, you\'re not daddy\'s girl, you\'re a grown ass woman, you\'re a mom, you need to stand in your power you need if you don\'t agree, you need to say you don\'t agree. If you know, there\'s another way, you need to say, you know, there\'s no another way. And you need to hold that even if there\'s no evidence to support you, you know, from the mind. So that\'s what I the initiation I was being called toward. And I was too chicken, you know, to do it at the time in that relationship, or just didn\'t have the tools really, to make that leap?

Brandon Handley 32:49
It makes sense, right? I mean, you\'ve got a lot of these these other spaces in places that were taught, right, and you\'re trying to think you have these discussions from the mind, and you\'re getting them from the heart and the gut. Versus and there\'s really, you know, it\'s hard to substantiate that. Right. And, and here, he is challenging all that and a loving relationship. We\'re just kind of supposed to trust each other out. Right. And that can be challenged, too. So you\'re, you\'re you\'re stuck in your cage, like you said, and then you know, you just decided to stand in your power and make the break. Right. I mean, that was more for the benefit of all parties involved, right? As far as I can tell. And it was time for you to just kind of break free of that paradigm.

Kerri Hummingbird 33:38
Yeah, because it wasn\'t, it wasn\'t loosening up, you know, it was like getting more and more intense to the place where I was having. I mean, I\'d always had a history of having some suicidal ideations, but those got very strong during that period, I had tons of self loathing, I was having nightmares, that would wake me up in the middle of the night with sweats, I was crying all the time, I\'d like lock myself in my office, because I worked at home and I would just cry in there. So I knew like this is not whatever this is, is not working. And it\'s not good for any of us. And admittedly, during that time, for the last two years of our relationship, my self loathing got to the place where I started seeking validation outside of our marriage. So I started having affairs, and you know, short live, like one night or whatever, but it was like that need for some acceptance from some somebody who liked me just the way I was, instead of wanting me to be totally different. So that was, yeah, I was like, I can\'t go on like that, because that\'s not at the core of me that wasn\'t resonating with my integrity, and the person I am inside. So I could see the only reason I was doing that behavior was because of deep deep pain. And if that couldn\'t be healed through all the work that I\'ve done for 20 years in psychotherapy, and some of the work we\'ve done for a few years in couples therapy Then I had to move on. I mean, there just was I had to make a decision for the benefit of my kids and myself.

Brandon Handley 35:07
And look, it makes sense. Right? You were you were? I think you\'d set it up, you know, earlier up against it. All right, I would guess the edges. And you weren\'t seeing any way out. Right. And I think you would have been operating from a severe place of, you know, like claustrophobic, right? Just kind of lashing out just like just anything else. And you had to get out and do what was right for everybody. And it sounds like, it sounds like you did, right. So I mean, you make the break. And now Now though, like, I mean, look, you\'re, you\'re in this space, you\'ve got your courses and books. He\'s got some seminars, you\'ve got a thing coming up at the end of October, we were talking about the beginning here, which will pass by the time this gets released. But I mean, let\'s talk about, you know, kind of this journey, how it\'s led you into this spirituality where you said, you know, there\'s more depth in here than just from the mind, just pray in the spiritual space, love to hear, you know, a little bit more about that, and, and how you\'re leading from a spiritual place, spiritual place.

Kerri Hummingbird 36:15
Yeah, so I think that the biggest decision, the biggest thing that\'s helped my personal growth in a spiritual path has been my heart stop, like when I had that realization that I don\'t ever want to be here anymore. And I\'ve got these kids, and I\'ve got to stay for them. That was my heart stop. So it was like, alright, that I have to change whatever it is that needs changing, that\'s up to me, I\'ve got to take responsibility for that. So I can stay on the planet. So a lot of people don\'t necessarily have that heart of a stop. But I, it was pretty intense. So I knew that I had to do something. So that level of commitment was there. And that whenever anybody has that level of commitment, then the spiritual growth can be tremendous. Like, it\'s amazing how much can happen in a short period of time. So my journey started 10 years ago, and this part of my journey started 10 years ago, with my decision to leave and my decision to trust this spirit sign that I got that showed me that was the end of the rope. That\'s it. I followed that I had no idea was afraid, of course, you know, how am I going to support myself? I haven\'t really worked full time for a long time. I\'m a mom, how are we going to work this out? And I just had to take the journey, you know, and I haven\'t done it perfectly. You know, I\'ve made a lot of mistakes. I\'ve especially when I started messengering. And I started writing my books, I was pretty much called right away to start writing my book that that awakening to me book was started, like within six months of my divorce, actually, like before the divorce was final it started. So that was immediate, like the messenger part of me woke up right after I left. So and then the spiritual aspect just like took off. I mean, I\'ve had mentors that say, my early mentors, they were like, we don\'t even know who you are anymore. Like you just went like this. You just wow. Like, Pam, you know. And it\'s that I think it\'s that passion, that realization of the buck stops with me. Like, no one can save me, but me. So if I want to be here for my kids, I have got to make the choice to heal, and do it now. And that means I\'ve got to humble myself. I\'ve got to ask for help. I got to realize there\'s a thing or two I don\'t know, even though I\'ve been a psychotherapy for 20 years, I mean, geez, I don\'t know something like something should work by now. But, but the thing is, it wasn\'t a waste. You know, all that time I spent navigating my thought tunnels is like it started clicking when I started combining it with the spirituality when I started combining it with energy healing and ancestral healing and early childhood healing and re parenting myself and all these modalities I\'ve been practicing and learning for the last 10 years. It all clicked, it was like not time wasted. It was just time buffered, it was just buffered wisdom until I was ready to claim it. Right, like

Brandon Handley 39:01
when you\'re watching a video and it\'s just like all waiting. And it\'s like spinning and spinning and spinning. And then it finally just plays and since it\'s like the show you\'ve been waiting for. And I love the idea of it all just finally clicking right when that spirituality piece kind of drops in. I don\'t know how to. I don\'t know how to describe it. It\'s almost like you know, like watching a water wheel right and unless there\'s unless the water comes in like that wheels not moving right and then you know, spirituality there it is, right? It\'s just like starts moving and sets everything else into motion. You\'re like, holy shit. I guess there\'s something to this and it\'s, it\'s pretty intense. And that\'s what it sounds like, you know, sounds like sounds like that\'s what it\'s been like for you the growth and just kind of the idea of, you know, opening yourself up to it so that it just opens up to you type of thing. What um, you know, so I know that you\'d mentioned on your When we\'re putting this stuff together, you know, what would you describe as the most direct path to spiritual enlightenment? Because I\'m curious because you wrote it down?

Kerri Hummingbird 40:11
Yeah. Well, that\'s why I say it\'s healing the mother wound. So we all have a mother wounds, because we\'re all born of a mother. And we\'re all on earth at this time on the planet. So unless you\'re just like born in a very unusual circumstance, you\'re experiencing some aspect of the mother wound. And at the very least, it\'s disconnection from the planet. It\'s a feeling of being separate alone. And you know, unguided, right? Like, like, somehow God\'s way out there somewhere. And maybe there is one or maybe there isn\'t. And you\'re here alone, just having to, like, survive, you know, so there\'s that, I have to do it myself. And all of that is all part of the mother wounds, and, and any ways that any kind of aspect of the feminine gifts that are that have been disempowered, all of those are the mother wounds. So if your intuition is not online, yet, if you\'re, you know, emotions, if you\'re not comfortable with your emotions, if, if you have a hard time slowing down and creating stillness and space, all of those are divine feminine gifts. And so it any one of that is also wounding and, and then there\'s ancestral patterns. So in a mother\'s body is her consciousness, right? It\'s her consciousness is happening inside her body. So when a baby starts to grow inside that consciousness, the baby is growing inside the mother\'s current state of consciousness, which means the baby is learning right away by this osmosis method, about life from the mother\'s reality. So therefore, if the mother\'s reality includes feeling disempowered, or not important, or not worthy, or not heard at all, how to speak up, I don\'t stand in my power, whatever version of that is happening inside that woman, the child is picking all of that up and inheriting that as his or her starting point in reality. So mothers often feel when I when they hear that, that\'s a deep truth that we all know. And that can provoke a feeling of guilt or shame about however, the conditions were that you were in when you had pregnant the first time, or a second time or third time, however many. And what I want to say to that is, you can let that go because you know, our children chose to come in incarnate through our vessels, at the exact moment that we were going through whatever it was, we were going through, to start them on their journey of discovery. So that they would have all that raw material to work with for their souls curriculum, so there isn\'t anything out of line. And with more consciousness, we can choose more consciously. And so there\'s always that beautiful gift of, if you haven\'t birthed yet, you can, you know, clear some of the ancestral patterns, you know, do some inner work, do some, some reconciliation within yourself in your ancestry to clean up some of that stuff that you don\'t want your kids to inherit, maybe there\'s some addiction patterns, or maybe there\'s some, you know, some conflict between the mothers or the daughters or the sons or whatever it is a father. So you can clear up that by doing your inner work, so that you\'re not passing that on as a starting point. So there\'s this invitation. And if your children are already fully grown, and having kids of their own, you can still do your work because as a mother, I know I remember moments of touching my belly when my baby was inside. And because I remember those moments, I can place myself there in the now and I can bring healing from my current awareness to my baby now. Even though it might have been 21 years ago, that he was in there, I can place that love inside me now. And trust that it\'s gonna find its way through his evolution to help him where he is now. And as I practice that, I\'ve noticed him blossom. So my oldest son, I\'ve noticed, you know, both of my sons, I do this, I put myself back in moments where I remember being with them in my body. And sometimes it\'s looking at a photograph. Sometimes it\'s just an embodied memory. And I send love and comfort back to that baby from my current awareness. We can all practice this. This is what the shamans have known for a long time we can be conscious and we can bring healing to seven generations back and seven forward using this method of, you know, fifth dimensional healing work on our children. Mothers are in a great spot to do that because we can remember when they were in inside of us, we can remember holding them. So we have this, this capacity, this direct and body connection with our babies so we can learn a good spot for do family healing work.

Brandon Handley 45:12
That\'s very cool sounds. I think I remember hearing Gregg Braden, talk a little bit about a similar scenario, right? I mean, energy doesn\'t really know, time. Right? And energy is kind of at our discretion to direct you know, this, as we talked about before being vessels of creative energy as it flows through us. We can choose anger, we can choose something else, and we can choose like, which direction to send that and same thing with love and healing that you\'re talking about. So I think that that\'s, that\'s a great share, for sure. For sure. Well, is what I like to kind of hop on to right here is the whole idea that this is, look, when people tune in these podcasts, they tune your podcasts in the mind. It\'s kind of like spiritual speed dating, right? Like, you know, you know, I\'m running through like, I\'m just curious about like, who am I gonna hang out for a while, because I don\'t know about you. Like, I can listen to somebody like I\'m a big like neville goddard fan or somebody. I\'ve been listening to Swami svare pray Nanda for the past like year, but like, I\'m ready for the next guy, right? I\'m ready for the next gal guy, whatever. So spiritual speed dating. Let\'s ask a quick question or two, shall we? Um, to to do dear Bachelorette number one? Who is an artist, right? What is the line between art and not art?

Kerri Hummingbird 46:37
What is the line between art of all I\'m going to share this with you? With that I got from Don Miguel done. Jose Ruiz actually, I had this interview with him. And he said, you know, the Toltecs believe that, that your whole life is a piece of art. And I as an artist, I loved that. So I was a two dimensional Canvas artist, I painted acrylics and things like that. I loved creating art. And, and then I became a wordsmith artist, you know, I created books, I channeled texts. And, and it was like, when I ran across this Toltec teaching, I was like, my whole life is art. I like that my whole life is art. So Don Jose said in an interview, he said, you know, how do we not judge each other? He said, Well imagine that you\'re going into a gallery. And you walk up to this painting, and you bring your paint brushes, and your your paints, and you start painting and correcting someone\'s painting. You wouldn\'t do that. You wouldn\'t sit there with your paid supplies and go into a gallery and start painting over someone\'s painting. So don\'t do it to somebody else\'s life. That\'s like, you know, so I think that it\'s that creative expression. You know, true art is however we express ourselves, however, we, we want to express the essence of ourselves, or our passion, or joy or feelings, or whatever\'s going on inside of us that we want to share with others, that that can express in so many ways, including our just our life, you know, our very being can be a piece of art.

Brandon Handley 48:06
I got it. So you know, self expression would be art. Right? Is that what you\'re saying? Yeah, yeah, pretty much I like it. Let\'s get one more in, shall we? Hmm. Haven\'t gone through this list of questions before. Ooh, what lifeless lesson did you learn the hard way?

Kerri Hummingbird 48:31
Pretty much all almost every single lesson. You know, I, I used to beat myself up for making so many mistakes. Because I have I actually I have a sincere desire for perfection. It\'s in my jinkies chart, I have this fear of, you know, perfection in my city frequency of my purpose. So of course, I seek perfection. And, you know, I used to clamp myself down, you know, trying to not make mistakes, because I didn\'t ever want to make mistakes because I\'ve got this fear of perfection, you know, the fear of making mistakes. And I started getting really mediocre when I was doing that. You know, my life was super mediocre. And I would say that is learning the hard way. You know, when you start clamping down your life force to not make mistakes. Eventually you\'re going to make really big mistakes which is clamping down your life or to not make mistakes. Now look, I

Brandon Handley 49:30
get

Kerri Hummingbird 49:31
that falls apart. Anyway,

Brandon Handley 49:33
I get it. It makes sense. I mean, especially as we make these tremendous efforts to not make these mistakes is bound to just kind of ooze out on the side somewhere, but they got he missed. He missed the spots that that makes sense. What um, you know, who would you say with the work that you\'re doing? Who would you say is your ideal client?

Kerri Hummingbird 49:57
My ideal client is someone who really is Ready to go into their shadows and take a look and see what\'s in there. And and really like bring the flashlight and learn how to do it with compassion and love and forgiveness and and really wants to melt you know is ready to be more gentle loving and kind with themselves with their spouse with their families ready to heal. And you know, I don\'t I have this whole thing I\'m calling Earth mamas. I invite Earth mamas to come and work with me. And because I\'m saying Earth mama, some people make the assumption that that means that I don\'t work with men or that I don\'t work with people who don\'t have children. And that\'s not the case. When I\'m saying that I\'m saying because we are on mama Earth, you know, we\'re on Mother Earth. And if you feel it in your heart, like I love this planet, I want to be a difference. I love my family. I want my future generations to be able to have like ripe juicy peaches and I want them to to be able to see dolphins you know, in in the waves and though and the oceans be clear, if that matters to you, then you\'re an earth mama and my book you know so I really people that care, you know people that care about this planet and people that want to make a difference and are ready to face their shadows.

Brandon Handley 51:12
Look, I like dolphins and fruit so I feel like I\'m gonna so no, that\'s That\'s great. You know, and I think that it\'s super clear when you\'re ready to start doing the work you\'ll you\'ll know when you\'re there. Sounds like there\'s the people that you\'re calling out to where can they come and find more Carrie hummingbird.

Kerri Hummingbird 51:31
My website is Carrie hummingbird.com ke R ri hummingbird calm and you can find my books up there my events and workshops, retreats, all the good stuff, my soul nectar show which you\'re gonna come on beyond so that\'s awesome. can listen to Brandon over on Soul nectar show. And yeah, that you can also book appointments, I do healing sessions, I do individual healing sessions. And mostly I do group programs. I really love group programs. They\'re just so enlightening. When we all teach each other. It\'s amazing what we can learn.

Brandon Handley 52:02
For sure, for sure we\'re you know, the human condition is that we\'re meant to share, right, we\'re meant to work together. Okay, thank you so much for being on today. Really appreciate you taking the time. Enjoy yourself.

Kerri Hummingbird 52:14
Thank you. I

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Zane Landin: A Magazine, a Mission, and a Message

Published: Oct. 31, 2021, 3:34 p.m.
Duration: 46 minutes 10 seconds

Zane Landin, Founder and Chief Executive Officer of PositiveVibes Magazine sought to provide a space for people having a hard time dealing with mental health problems, experiencing being lonely, and feeling overwhelmed by the pandemic. Zane is currently an undergraduate at Cal Poly Pomona in California. Spring of 2020, he was taking a copy-editing class. Their final assignment was to design their own publication. Zane decided that a magazine dedicated to positivity would be best suited during the pandemic. Zane was inspired by the message and decided to embrace the idea. The magazine began with a small Instagram account in late May to now an international, digital magazine reaching thousands of people looking for hope during these times. The digital magazine has interviewed artists, psychics, mediums, yoga experts, models, chefs, etc. They believe in empowering and sharing powerful storytelling. They want to share the hidden gems in society.

Connect with Zane over at https://positivevibesmag.com/

Brandon Handley 0:00
Hey, there\'s Spiritual Dope I am here today with Zane Landin. He is the founder and chief executive officer of positive vibes magazine, where he sought to provide a space for people having a hard time dealing with mental health problems experiencing being lonely and feeling overwhelmed by the pandemic. Zayn is currently an undergraduate at Cal Poly Pomona in California spring of 2020. He was taking a copy editing class, and their final assignment was to develop their own publication, Zane decided that a publication dedicated to positivity would be best suited during a pandemic. He was inspired by the message and decided to embrace the idea the mag magazine became a small Instagram began with a small Instagram account late May to now international digital magazine reaching 1000s of people looking to for hope during these times, the digital magazine has interviewed artists, psychics, mediums, yoga experts, models, chefs, etc. And you believe in empowering and sharing powerful storytelling. You want to share the hidden gems and societies Zane, thanks for stopping by today. How you doing?

Zane Landin 1:09
Yeah, of course. Thank you so much. Um, yeah, it\'s great to be here.

Brandon Handley 1:14
So we connected, I believe we connected just kind of doing a little bit of back and forth outreach through Instagram. And we had some good conversations and just decided to try and have you on the podcast. And I\'m glad that, you know, we, jeez, I think it\'s been probably about eight months, I think since we first connected Yeah. So lots lots going on pandemic hopefully coming out of its of its, whatever it\'s doing. And here we go, we can get into it. So I usually like to start these off with the whole idea that we you myself are just kind of conduits for universal energy, right? We\'re just here to like Express, kind of whatever we were sent here for, had one guy who was on really enjoyed what he said to he\'s like, or he would say, it\'s earth, not our Earth, our home. It\'s our mission. Right? That was his expression. But you know, the idea is that whatever comes through you today is going to be for our listener on the other end, and today\'s age, and what is it that you feel like sources sending through you today?

Zane Landin 2:25
I feel the sources sending to me today would be, um, be grateful for what you have. And I think that something that we preach a lot, but we don\'t practice ourselves. And that we\'re always wanting more, especially in society that\'s always about things and rewards. Sometimes it\'s always nice to see that the rewards are, yourself and what you\'re grounded in your family, things around you. Even just listening to what\'s outside. There\'s a book about, you know, how we don\'t really listen, and we don\'t really listen to the earth, or what it\'s saying to us. And when you go outside, you\'re always bombarded with all this noise, or traffic or everything. When you when you kind of stop, you can really hear everything, and you feel like at one, and you feel like that stillness. And so I think that really kind of goes into what I\'m trying to say about like gratitude, and just being grateful for everything you have. And I understand that people are in really, really hard situations. But I think like finding that one thing that keeps you going and one thing that\'s positive, I think hopefully can really help you a lot. I hope all that makes sense.

Brandon Handley 3:33
Yeah, absolutely. I mean, it\'s a, there\'s this constant drive, I think that society has put on to us to just go out there, get and then get go get more, more and more. Right. Alright, so you\'ve gotten this thing. Congratulations, you\'re not done yet. Now you got to go collect the, you know, like, Pokemon, gotta get them all right. And if you don\'t get them all, then then you know, something\'s missing from your collection, your life\'s not complete. Whereas a little bit of what you\'re saying here is, is Hey, like, be grateful for the things that you\'ve got take a moment, which is even just just yourself, you\'re saying, right, like, just be grateful for you. I always talk about the whole idea of we have one in 400 trillion chances of being born. And wow, what are the odds, man, that\'s, uh, you know, so be grateful that you have like this chance of even just showing up and participating in this world with us today.

Zane Landin 4:35
No, yeah. No, I definitely agree. And we even like shared something today on like our, the magazine\'s Instagram about just celebrating the small victories that you have in your life. You know, like, especially when you see like success stories, you\'re always like, Oh, they went from zero to 100. You just see the 100. We really don\'t like to talk about this. Between the spectrum of zero to 100. Horse it\'s in books and stuff, but like, I wish you could It really talks about how much they really struggled, especially when you see successful people, I don\'t think love them just, well, I bet you there are some that have had things handed to them. But I think a lot of people have really had these powerful stories. And that kind of goes into the magazine, that\'s what we want to share. You know, if someone is down in the dumps, or they\'re really depressed, and they feel that they can\'t amount to anything, I\'m hearing someone who may even have a worse situation than them. Now they\'re very successful. Seeing that I think, is really inspiring. And that\'s kind of like what we want. That\'s what we\'re all about. That\'s why we, that\'s what we interview so many different people, because so many people come from different walks of life, of course, and like they have such such different, you know, inputs and different perspectives, I think that\'s such a cool thing to see. And something we don\'t see, you know, we kind of see the same type of people in the mainstream media. And so we always trying to like, find those diverse stories, you know, if it\'s been a chef, or if it\'s been something extraordinary, or if it\'s just someone who is doing something in their local community, anything like that, it\'s definitely tough to see. And it\'s not really highlighted in the mainstream media. So that\'s something i i try to challenge.

Brandon Handley 6:06
Hey, that\'s pretty, pretty great that that you\'re doing it. And I love that you\'re doing it at a younger age, where you\'re, you just kind of tell my wife a little bit about the story, just how you gravitated towards creating this magazine. And the thing it\'s been, it\'s been fairly successful for you. And the idea is that it\'s kind of like you\'ve never done it before. You just went ahead and did it, you opened yourself up to it, and you opened yourself up to do it in a positive way, just the way that you\'re saying, right? Yeah. I would say that you\'re doing it with care with kindness and consideration and compassion and all those things, right, like you said, with opening it to a diverse spectrum of people to be on and share their stories, mining for those gems, as you\'re saying, and it\'s just working for you, right? Like the universe is kind of opened up for you and accepted to Yeah, hey, you know, you want to do this. And since since you\'ve never tried it before, right? You don\'t know what you\'re not supposed to do. And you\'re just doing it in a way that\'s, that is expressive of yourself, right? That that\'s in alignment with who you are, instead of kind of going through this factory, of, here\'s how it\'s supposed to be, okay, you\'ve met all the criteria, you\'ve done all the right things, and congratulations, you\'re a success. But that\'s almost like a cookie cutter model. And you\'re doing it without that cookie cutter model. And that\'s what I think is really, for me exciting to see.

Zane Landin 7:48
Yeah, I mean, I, I was actually never really the biggest fan of magazines, either, because the ones I saw are always like the celebrity ones, which I was ever super interested in. So I was like, how would I even do something like this? And so I was like, You know what, I\'ll just run it, like just an online thing. It\'s a website, the contents there. And I love just putting out features. And that\'s where it started. I didn\'t like I said, I don\'t know what I didn\'t know. And I think that was better, I think cuz like, No, I just started like a new position. And they told me that, you know, look at the content on the website, and come at it from an objective standpoint. So it\'s good that you\'re here, because you\'re like a member of the public. You know, I\'m not biased. So I think actually helped. I didn\'t know too much about the industry. So it wasn\'t, I had to do things a certain way. So I think it\'s actually better sometimes when you, like you say you don\'t know anything. And you\'re just coming in as like, just someone who\'s ready to soak everything up. And that was like the whole point and kind of letting the universe guide you. And what\'s really cool about this podcast, you know, was how I just happened to stumble upon you. You know, it\'s so fascinating how like, I just was going through Instagrams going through rabbit holes. And then I, you know, I stumbled upon you, and then we just connected now that I think is great. And, again, what\'s so interesting about when you start something or when you open yourself up, those experiences are never ever going to happen then. Because if I didn\'t start it, I wasn\'t ever going to meet you. Or half the people I have met through the magazine, half all of them basically, because I probably haven\'t met any of them without it. And so I think what you\'re saying is like, when you said before about just being present, I think like being open being open to like any opportunity. You know, I think it\'s so exciting. Who you are now, and who you could be tomorrow was so different, but don\'t be I wouldn\'t be scared of it. I think it\'s, it can be very exciting. As long as you keep living your life in a good positive way. And you\'re a good person. I don\'t know, it\'s, I think it\'ll be fine. I mean, I\'m not gonna downplay when really hard things happen to people. I mean, I understand that but I mean, you know, if you have the feasibility and you have an idea, just go for it. I don\'t know. I mean, I know that like the magazine didn\'t didn\'t take a lot of money. Like it wasn\'t a lot of money to do this. I know that some people\'s ideas are huge and have a lot of money. But I think just start off small you know, just you have the idea. Talk to someone who\'s done it or you Even just start it and see where it goes. And so it\'s weird how like, universe kind of, kind of like finagle its way in and like, you know, took me on a path I never thought I\'d be on. So it\'s really exciting. And I\'m sure you can even speak on that too, with the podcast.

Brandon Handley 10:17
Well, yeah, no, for sure. It\'s just like, it\'s, I guess that that\'s where, where my point of view really comes from is, is, you know, stepping into your one piece and doing it in a way that I thought it was supposed to be done with my first podcast. And then I was like, did a little bit of a shift, I did a second podcast, and it was a little bit more in alignment with who I was. And then finally, I kind of was like, I got to this one is basically kick the doors open, I was like, This is it, man, this is this isn\'t aligned with who I am. And I\'m not going to go search what everybody else is doing. And doing it in this kind of the same way. I\'m not gonna leverage a bunch of like, scare tactics and like scarcity mindset stuff, you know, which is like, I know, it all works, you know, but it\'s just not that doesn\'t feel good, right? Doesn\'t feel good to kind of put out there knowing that a lot of the marketing that\'s being done as a psychological trick, really, right. And it\'s like, well, that\'s, you know, I feel like spider man in that sense, you know, with that kind of powerful force, you have to be used responsibly. And I\'ve, you know, so let\'s talk a little bit about to like, you know, how, how have you gone about? You know, let\'s talk a little bit about positive vibes magazine, what, you know, what can somebody expect to find when they go there? And you mentioned a few of the different types of people like medium psychics to chefs on there, let\'s talk about what\'s criteria. And some of the people that have blown your mind that you\'d that weren\'t anything like you would expect them to be?

Zane Landin 11:55
Well, well, I feel like when you when you, you know, go into the website, and just, I would just say, you know, you know, definitely we are content with an open mind, because, again, they\'re very different perspectives. I think it\'s so close when you go on the website, I know that there\'s like a theme, like we talked about mental health, and that is the theme. That was like the inspiration behind it. But it\'s, it\'s definitely gone into so many different places that it\'s honestly the theme anymore. It\'s just about spreading positivity. And we try to always ask questions about mental health, but sometimes it just doesn\'t come up. You know, sometimes the natural conversation doesn\'t just go that way. And so I think what you\'re going to see is, you know, stories of positive transformations, inspiration, people who have really experienced some really hard stuff. I mean, I remember we interviewed a celebrity stylist, and, you know, she\'s just doing her thing with fashion. And then, and then bringing the story cuz I didn\'t write it when my writers wrote interviewed her, she was like, part of, you know, previously part of gangs. And so for her to come out of that, and transform yourself. And then one of the most meaningful conversations I have was with a medium, and interview, which is so powerful because of what she\'s experienced. And we really talked about mental health, because she actually talked about suicide a lot. And, you know, the stuff that she had to go through with her family and her son, there\'s a lot of different things. I just feel it from people, like when I do these interviews, I feel the energy from them. I feel, you know, I sometimes sometimes it\'s more than others, but I definitely can experience like, I feel their pain. And that\'s where I feel like I even I even learned the most, you know, like, I remember, I remember in school right now, we have to do a lot of reading, but I\'m like, I wish I could just interview someone, like interview an expert for an hour, because that would be where I would learn the most. So I have learned so much from these people. Because, again, so many different walks of life, and they each hold such different like philosophies and things they say to themselves and mantras and how they navigate the world. Some of them have such self doubts before and still and then some people have the most amazing confidence. And it\'s just so different. And I love how they all just make it work. You know, it\'s their journey, their truth and I love just amplifying that

Brandon Handley 14:16
for sure, I think one of the one of the coolest things is being able to amplify it right you\'ve got the power of the internet right there at your fingertips and anything that you send out there\'s it has the has the true capability of being able to hit like I don\'t know what billions of people for right like, if you you could hit everybody with your voice with their magazine, you have the potential to hit billions of people where else can you do that? I mean, how else could you amplify anything like that? So I think that\'s pretty amazing.

Zane Landin 14:51
Ya know what I love about you know, I wasn\'t there when it was my desk but what I do love about you know, nowadays is that media so democratised to the point where like, you can get content from anywhere, not like before, or like I feel like content and like, stuff that was available was stuff that was coming from LA Times, or these big newspapers or these big television shows. But now you see, like all these types of people having television shows, you have all these people doing streaming, I\'ve always been doing podcasts. And so it\'s like, it\'s great that people can bring value to others. And people can like create and build their own communities. And in a good way, and they can foster those communities, and they just create something special. I just love that technology and social media and all these different things have changed that

Brandon Handley 15:40
he has no longer, you know, the three stations as a way back in the day, and anybody\'s invited to participate, anybody\'s invited to create their audience, anybody\'s invited to share what\'s on their mind. And through all the different mediums, you got the podcasts, you\'ve got video, in writing blogs, I mean, any way that you feel like you need to express yourself, it can be done. And that\'s I love that that\'s what you\'re doing to you\'re not only expressing yourself, you\'re bringing other people on to express themselves. And you built a true community platform. What, uh, you know, what some of the feedback during COVID that you\'ve heard from creating this platform? Are you having the positive impact that you\'d expected to have? Or you want to have? What\'s some of the stuff that people are saying back to you?

Zane Landin 16:33
Here\'s the thing. I I don\'t know, I don\'t I don\'t see the impact myself. That\'s the thing. Like I don\'t, um, I\'ll have people say they, they read something, and they loved it. But it wasn\'t the amount I thought they were. But then I\'ll have some people I interview. And then we\'ll connect again, months later, they said, You have no idea how much this has impacted me. And the people who actually read my story. And they read more. So I don\'t actually know, which I think is great. Because when I do hear it, I\'m like, Okay, wow, we\'re actually doing something right. And I remember I remember, I\'m, I remember to hold on to those conversations. And because it is hard, it is kind of hard to just kind of go to, you know, a platform and just say this was so great. I think that\'s hard for some people. It\'s hard for me, like if I mean, you know, people I watch content I read. I don\'t really say I love it. Like I don\'t go on and comment that I know that sounds really weird. But I just kind of don\'t I just appreciate it for it is so you know, I don\'t get the comments. But no, when I do get some, it\'s always so great. Because like my whole thing is about if I can just really if I if I could impact well, it\'s not really me. But if the people in the magazine could inspire that one person and change their entire life, that\'s where I think is the most worth it. And I think the people who are most impacted, you probably never hear about them. I think that\'s great, because I don\'t, I don\'t need to hear about them. You know, as long as they\'re doing as long as they\'re taking away from the magazine, or the stuff he put on social media. That\'s all that\'s important to me. So I may never know.

Brandon Handley 18:02
And I think that that\'s okay. It\'s it\'s really kind of like a double edged sword. I think we all like to get you definitely like to get validated, right? You\'d like to hear that, you know, something\'s working out like alright, that\'s fantastic. And just like you said, I\'m doing we\'re doing something, right. So it\'s good. It\'s great to hear some of those stories. But it\'s also really great to hear that you\'re not attached to that specific outcome to have to continue to move forward. Right for You. Sounds like the momentum and the driver is really kind of internal. And not necessarily external.

Zane Landin 18:38
Yeah, no, yeah, I just I just, you know, they always say you\'re supposed to remind yourself of your why. And so I kind of constantly do sometimes I feel like it\'s, Oh, I\'m so busy. I can\'t do this right now. Or am I okay, no, I need to buckle down and do this. Because the why was, you know, to help people who are experiencing loss and just rough times during the pandemic. I know, we\'re like in this weird phase of pandemic and not pandemic, even though we kind of still are, but it doesn\'t matter at this point. Because even though that was inspiration, there\'s always hard times going on and there\'s always inspiration happening. So magazine one stop after the pandemic, that will just be why that will be like our, our, like, historic moment of why we started it, and always kind of remember it. But it is really interesting how it started from the pandemic. And we\'re kind of going into this place where it\'s, it\'s not the pandemic as much as it was before. And it\'s, it\'s kind of interesting to actually go out and tell people what the magazine was like before it was like, just online, everything was online. The world was online. So now when I go around, I tell people, it\'s pretty interesting, you know, but people have to stay. So it is really exciting. The like kind of like transition phase we\'re in.

Brandon Handley 19:54
Yeah, we\'re definitely in a in an awkward kind of space in the world. And it\'s It\'s pretty neat to hear that you\'re going to basically you\'re continuing it. And it\'s really a continuation of you initiated something. And this conflict is where you stuck your flag on the moon, basically, right? This is made was, Hey, guys, this is where we stuck our flag on the moon. And as where it started, this is the origin point. And as you continue forward, and you continue to have these positive impacts, you continue to have these great conversations coming on these articles that you continue to produce. You know, where do you see? Where do you see it going for you?

Zane Landin 20:39
Um, um, I\'m not, I\'m not sure I always, I always say questions like this, and I wish I had a better answer. But I it\'s kind of like, you know, when we first started, and we kind of just let it go tickets path, I feel like I\'m still doing that and seeing like, who reaches out who\'s going to come like, what\'s going to be the next experience, it\'s uncertain. But it\'s exciting. My only my only goal is I just want to keep growing. I want to share more stories, you know, in whatever way we can. We\'re always trying new things. We did a podcast follow up, they haven\'t done an episode for a while, but we\'re always cranking out the written content. And then I occasionally will do like Instagram lives, I\'ll interview someone, I think we\'ve done like eight or 10 so far. So we try and provide different content. So it\'s not just written because I know that not everyone is a fan of reading. And so some people again, right, we\'re a fan of podcasts or Instagram Live, whatever it is, as long as we\'re always, you know, regurgitating the positivity in people\'s lives. That\'s all that matters. That\'s all something I know, you know, my dream, my dream really is to actually have like a positive news channel. And that\'s it. That\'s all I would want is, you know, I don\'t know, one hour, two hour segment on just sharing the positive news. I know, I know, local news stations do that. I just wish there was a place where it\'s just indicates that and it\'s even talking about positive international news, not even just like United States news. You know, we\'re talking about kids, different countries are all these things where people are really making huge impact, and actually having an interview with them or something like that, that would be so cool. That would be my dream fighter.

Brandon Handley 22:15
Now that that\'d be awesome. For sure. I think that\'s a great vision. And I think that as long as you kind of keep going in the same direction, and just keep keep it up, right? It\'s a matter, it\'s really just a matter of time, so long as you keep it going. What, what would you say is some of the stuff that like you\'ve really big takeaways from so many interviews that you\'ve had?

Zane Landin 22:41
So hard. Um, I think that I think that, like, I think one things I\'ve learned the most, I feel like, it\'s something I realized before but hearing all the stories all the time, it really kind of reinforces it is that, you know, just trivial, right? Because every single person has such a powerful story to tell everyone, you know, I mean, it\'s amazing what some people go through and experience, they just don\'t want to share it. And that\'s fine. You know, but it\'s like, sometimes when you talk to someone, and if it\'s just a random stranger, and then you hear this amazing story for an hour, it\'s like, that is amazing. And so that\'s what I hear is that, you know, we\'re, we\'re all equals, yeah, we may be treated way differently in society. But you know, back to kind of, I said, the beginning, you know, grounded in our community, like we are, we\'re all supposed to be here for each other, we\'re all part of the Earth, we\'re all we\'re all sharing the space, we just don\'t act like we are, um, you know, and so I think that, that\'s something I would take away is that, and you don\'t know what people have gone through. And so always trying to be empathetic as much as you can. And I\'m saying apathetic, like, like, it\'s a skill me kind of is, you know, I think you can practice I think you can really tune into it, you know, to really feel what people were experiencing. And so that\'s like, the one main takeaway I would take from all these interviews is that everyone really has something to share. And I think that we should be encouraging that a lot more.

Brandon Handley 24:11
It\'s the idea, I think, that you talked about the beginning was, people don\'t listen so much. Right? Not a lot of listening. And even trying to take that time to listen to the other story. Right, I mean, engaging in somebody else\'s life to hear their story. I mean, who\'s got time for that? Right? So and you\'re making some time for that, though. And I think that when you give the other people an opportunity to truly be heard, to share the truth of their story, and not always in this market T way, right, like, you know, well, what\'s your brand, saying, yo Tito, what your brand is and you know who\'s your ideal persona and all this other stuff and a lot of times while that\'s good to have clarity on all that like, but Who are you? Right? And why should we talk? Right? With, uh, you know, what, what, how much? Um, you know, I think you\'ve gone through some rough times recently, right? Having access to this platform for yourself and having an outlet. I mean, how\'s that helped us up and beneficial?

Zane Landin 25:21
Oh, yeah. I\'m so happy to ask this. Um, so yeah, I\'ll, so in January, my mom passed away. And so it was a huge shock. None of us were expecting it. Which I think was better. Because I would have wanted to know if that makes any sense. And I wouldn\'t, and I don\'t think my mom would have wanted to know, I think it would have been too traumatic to know that she would be leaving us. That\'s her perspective. I don\'t think she did. But she would think I\'m leaving my family. And I think some people have some guilt from that. And so it helps so much. Because even, I think even like, a couple of days after I was working on the magazine, I know, like, people were like, well, what, why am I working? It\'s helpful. And what really helped me throughout the time was just being super busy. But I really had the time to reflect on the stories. And then even just going back to like, who I\'ve talked to, even when that medium I talked to, which happened like last year. And so when my mom died is probably like, six, seven months when I did the interview. And so like hearing them again, talk about mediumship. And I\'m like, personally, I don\'t know if this is real, you know, I don\'t know, I haven\'t experienced it. But it\'s not my place to judge, or, you know, assume they\'re wrong or right. You know, I\'m just here with an open mind. And when I hear it, you know, I think about it. And so, you know, when I hear about a bunch of different mediums out there, and who shares these experiences and what they feel, it definitely brings me comfort. Because it\'s pretty interesting was, I was kind of always interested in spirituality, um, my, like, a lot of people, my family around tarot, and meditation and all that stuff. I know, that\'s like the cliche spirituality stuff. But it\'s still really cool to be around. Even when I was young, I think I was like, 14, and I was around that, and I didn\'t want to dabble into it. It wasn\'t because I was like, fear the devil. I know that people say that. No, is really because I just didn\'t think it was for me. And I wanted to do it when it spoke more to me. And so that kind of happened. And so with the magazine kind of drifted me in this path of spirituality and really thinking about things differently. And then even

my birthday was in January, as well on my sister gave me an Oracle deck. And I use it from time to time I\'m not like, I\'m not hugely into it, where I like study it, but I just flip the cards in reweighed size and eerily accurate. And even if I don\'t feel that way, there\'s something there. You know, I think that\'s important. The most important thing is that, even when if we get a Tarot reading or Oracle reading, and we feel that that\'s I don\'t understand this message. Maybe it\'s not the time for it, then. Or maybe you just need to look at something differently. And maybe you\'ll see the message. That\'s why finding that\'s why I find really great about work cool is even if the message is unclear, it makes you think differently. And think like, Oh, I got this message, I don\'t understand what it means. But maybe I should, maybe I should tap into this, like, whatever it is that wants me to. Um, so I think that\'s the one thing that\'s helped a lot was the magazine, I feel like yeah, without the magazine, I\'d probably be really struggling a lot more than I have. Um, it\'s given me a lot of hope, you know, and sometimes I think of like, it should be like me hope vies magazine, or even peaceful vibes. Because like, sometimes people quit. I think some people have questioned me and said, like, how is the magazine about positivity? When you have a story about someone who\'s getting gang or something, you know, like, that\'s like, people say that. And I\'m always like, Well, I think as you\'re looking at positivity is happiness. And they\'re very, very different. Happiness is just like that emotional feeling you get, and I think it\'s temporary. I think positivity is like a philosophy, like a way of life. And that no matter what happens, you know, that things will be okay. Or you know, that there\'s a different place for you or something\'s coming up and you don\'t know I think that\'s better than being happy because, again, happiness is just kind of a feeling. And so I think philosophy is what drives me in that no one no matter what I do, I\'m gonna try my best to be positive and of course, it\'s harder on different days, you know, but like, that\'s the one thing like my mom didn\'t necessarily teach me like being positive like not like that, but she was always so positive. And you know, she always said if you don\'t have anything nice to say, just don\'t say it. Don\'t you know, don\'t like someone you know. And also, she always had such compliments to say about anyone like, she always kind of like, lit up a room, no matter what room she was in. Even if it was the darkest room, she was definitely the brightest light. And yeah, my mom just had really great charisma. And I try my best. So she can listen to me if that makes sense. And so, yeah, thanks for bringing that up. It\'s great to talk about because even though, you know, death is always around us. I think there\'s still like the stigma to talk about death. Because I can\'t imagine why it\'s incredibly difficult. And there\'s a lot of people that don\'t believe there\'s anything else out there. I definitely believe there is. But I\'m always getting judgment and self doubt about it, you know, as normal, because we don\'t know what we don\'t know yet. So we never probably will know until we reach that conclusion, or new beginning, whatever it is, whatever death as some people, it is pretty interesting what it is to some people. But yeah, hopefully that answers your question.

Brandon Handley 31:02
For sure, so sounds like sounds like having this as an outlet in the space and where you can refer to where you can have those conversations where you\'re surrounded by places positive people, not necessarily just positive people. But the these different ways forward, and I get what you\'re saying, in the idea of, you know, so you had some, you know, gangsters on and off. But it\'s like the idea of this is where they were, and this has been their path forward. And this is, you know, there\'s there\'s think of cheese, what is it? One of the one of the Toy Story minis combat Carl, or Jesse, Jesse always finds a way, if you resolve those, Jesse always finds a way. There\'s always a way forward, right. And sometimes the those ways forward, aren\'t, aren\'t glamorous. When you think about maybe the gangster and delivering the gang life, made for that person, that\'s it, who\'s looking at from the outside says, ah, that\'s terrible. Nobody should ever have to go through. But maybe that\'s what that person needed in order to give them the inspiration to go become the person that they end up becoming. And for you, you\'ve been able to have people like that around you who\'ve gone through some of these tough times through some of these challenging times. And I\'ve shown you that kind of no matter where you\'re at, and where you\'ve been there, there\'s, there\'s, there\'s a way you can go forward. And I love the idea that you know about your mom being, you know, the brightest light and you try to carry that forward. I think that\'s awesome, man. I really appreciate hearing that.

Zane Landin 32:42
Yeah. And then also part of the the why of the magazine was my mom was always, obviously the biggest fan of it. And so, you know, I\'m doing it, I constantly remind myself to do it for her as well, she would be super proud to see it. Or she is I tried to, you know, think of her not to say they, they would have they they do you know, I like thinking of it that way. So, yeah, I\'m really excited. And you know, also to go back to your question about magazine. I don\'t know what\'s gonna happen in the future with the magazine. But you know, I did I do reflect, like, long time ago, and I said, if the magazine just continues one day, you know, knock on what if that does happen? I think that\'s fine. Because, you know, I created a brand, I created a space for people. It\'s, it\'s a memory, you know, and it\'s still something I believe in, I\'m always going to be impacted by those stories. But that\'s, that\'s, that\'s the, that\'s definitely, like, only the worst outcome. I wouldn\'t ever want that to happen. But again, we never know what\'s gonna happen. But what\'s that quote? You know, don\'t be sad. It happened. The happy it happened. Wait, no, it\'ll be sad. It\'s over, be happy to have it. I like that. Because for sure, no. And that\'s hard. You know, for people, you know, it\'s easy to kind of be sad. Um, and it\'s, I think it\'s easy to be sad than it is to be happy. You got to like effort into being happy to be honest. And, but I like the idea that, you know, be so happy that it happened and just keep living as if it\'s still there, or keep living as if the person still there, you know, and always carry on their legacy or whatever it is, you can do that keep them alive. You know, metaphorically even though they are, in a way still live somewhere else. I know it sounds like contradicting myself saying that. But yeah, that\'s definitely that\'s what I would say.

Brandon Handley 34:43
What, um, has, has there been like anybody that has tried to, I don\'t know, offer you payment? You know, have you guys gotten any sponsorship? What\'s that look like for you? Are you seeking any,

Zane Landin 35:01
um, I\'ve never thought about it. We\'ve had like, some people reach out, but not about sponsorship like money, but they would send us some products and we would post about them. That\'s always so fun. Um, I know that some people have reached out, someone reached out about being featured and they wanted to, like pay us to be featured, which sounds, it\'s probably like the only time I would ever be paid for it. So far, and so I\'m very, I\'m trying to figure out ways to monetize it and make some money from it. And you know, be able to pay the people helping me. Because, you know, we have like students helping and, you know, they\'re like interns, and they get the experience, but I would love to, you know, pay them one day, and just create more things. You know, I\'d love to have like a guidebook. Oh, that\'d be so cool. Like, I feel like that\'s the thing now, like, so many people are create guidebooks, and like, a positivity guidebook would be so fun. And so that would be, that would definitely be something to consider in the future. But again, that\'s the kind of question like, I don\'t want the magazine to branch off into other things, where it\'s not just online content, but what if it\'s like a book that you can use, like a journal? I feel like I feel like I see some people doing though is like, Oh, I created my own course guide book. It\'s, I see so many people doing that. So like, I think it\'s so exciting. And it\'s like, they can do it. Maybe we can too. So there\'s so many things to consider and what\'s what\'s kind of trending and what people are liking and what\'s really helping people. So there\'s always so much to consider when it comes to stuff like this, which I\'m sure you are aware of.

Brandon Handley 36:33
I know for sure, for sure. I think that it\'s great that you\'re looking, you know, the monetization is I think, you know, obviously, it\'s great to get paid for I think it\'s kind of funny, right? That somebody wants to pay be paid to be featured, which is always interesting to write, pay to play. Well, let me let me ask it just so I get to this little spot in the podcast where I like to call it like a spiritual speed dating zines, and it says you have you kind of found your spirituality, you\'re finding your spirituality through what you\'re doing right now. And I think that\'s great. Again, I think this, I think this is cool that you\'re doing it at such a young age where you\'re really leaning into it, you\'re asking yourself some questions where I know, for me, it took me a long time before I even started asking myself some questions. It was just kind of straight and forward and a lot of bouncing around and some other funky stuff happened. But you know, in the end, you know, I kind of landed pretty smack dab in the middle of spirituality and started asking some of these questions that you\'re asking yourself at this at this younger age. But um, how about spiritual speed dating? Bachelor number one? Whoo, hoo. We talked a little bit about depression, why are so many people depressed?

Zane Landin 37:49
Um, why are so many people depressed? There\'s so many, definitely so many different answers. I feel like the reason why people are more depressed now is not just a guess. I feel like but people, what gets people down is experiencing them. And so what I mean is, people have had to really had to sit with themselves. And really think about things. I feel like we didn\'t do that. I feel like, you know, we were always moving. Like we talked about this the beginning, like we\'re always moving and trying to get more, or things are just always changing. But I feel like with COVID people kind of just were stuck. I feel like that kind of got people depressed, because they had to really think about their life, and what they bring what they bring to the world, because, you know, imagine seeing so many people dying. So since I couldn\'t submit, I couldn\'t really relate to the dying thing. Just I mean that just because like I\'m young, and I was like, I don\'t think I\'m going to catch COVID and die from it. But I can imagine someone who\'s in who\'s in like, their middle, middle age can be like, Oh, my gosh, I\'m actually like, high risk for COVID. And so I had to really think about what have I done with my life? And what can I do differently? And that is why you see so many platforms and podcasts and things being made during the pandemic, because people have just shifted, because I think that\'s one thing that\'s made people really depressed. I think that there\'s just so many pressures now I feel like, especially with technology in the media, I feel like that people are have such stretch to be an act of turn away. And everyone\'s lives are blasted online. And as much as I love social media and technology. It does have this have some bad effects. And so in there\'s, there\'s so many different things and I feel like it\'s such like, I\'ve like it\'s such a big question. I think recently now, I think some of those are some of the reasons why people were depressed. Um, yeah, I really think so.

Brandon Handley 39:49
That\'s fair. That\'s absolutely fair. So many people hadn\'t really sat with themselves and being locked down, caused you to really just kind of do this introspection? What have I done with my life? What am I going to do with my life? Is what I\'m doing with my life, you know, kind of is this my life\'s purpose? Where should I be doing? You know, all kinds of those things? I think I think that you\'re right, not since Great answer. Will z where you know, where can people we\'ve been talking about this, you know, magazine, we\'ve been talking about you and all the things that you\'re doing, where can people go and find out more about you?

Zane Landin 40:28
Yes. So, um, one word, positive vibes, mag calm. That\'s the website, as well as all of our social media channels. Except for LinkedIn, YouTube, or his positive vibes magazine. But the rest is positive eyes mag, you can find us on Instagram, the website, Facebook, LinkedIn, YouTube, but we\'re very active on Instagram as our main platform. And we just try to post things every other day we try and bring value to the postings, you know, we\'ll do we\'ll explore different topics. I think one of them was detachment, which I thought was very interesting, because like some people don\'t, some people think detachment is toxic. You know, detach yourself from someone, oh, you\'re being toxic, you\'re running away. I don\'t like when people say that, because like, you\'re ran away from your problems. Well, maybe some people just need to detach from their problems. You know, even if it\'s not they\'re doing like, if they\'re in this situation, where it\'s like a new environment, could actually drastically shape them or shift. So they\'re actually in a better mindset. So they can make better decisions, they can live a better life. And so, you know, we try to talk about that we did a post about experiencing loss, you know, that it\'s gonna happen to everyone. As long as we can be there for one another and openly talk about loss, I think it will help people more, especially when it\'s such a shock for some people, including me, but like, if I knew more people that happened to actually, like I said, like, oh, everyone\'s gonna have to experience that. I just wish he would talk about it more. So I don\'t want a little tangent anyways. So those are the places you can definitely find us.

Brandon Handley 42:01
Absolutely, St. Now, thanks for sharing, I think that I think that\'s huge, right? People when they\'re experiencing loss, they don\'t necessarily know some of the best ways to express it, go through it, who can they turn to and without, without some type of reference material, like you\'re talking about without being able to go to another place that has been sharing it and having having these conversations openly the way that you have? I think that it makes it a real challenge because especially as men in western civilization, we\'re supposed to know kind of stuff over emotions down and loss is one of those things that we\'re supposed to kind of stuff down, you know, people calling people go, and, you know, we beat on our chest and carry on. So, I don\'t think that that\'s always the way sometimes sometimes we\'re truly impacted and we should be allowed to be impacted, we should be allowed to feel those feelings and sit with them for a minute. And, you know, you know, especially if we think about the loss of your mother, my mother\'s still around when she goes it\'s going to be like a true sign of her own mortality that that\'s the moment that you reflect you\'re like alright, well, wow, life can be here one day and really gone the next and yeah, am I really living it? To the best of my experience? There\'s a Insight Timer. Sara Blondin has this amazing meditation called pain being the gateway to the divine. Right? Because I think so often, we shirk away from it, because it hurts because we think it\'s going to hurt. But there\'s so much energy inside of that pain that once it\'s released, there\'s a there\'s, um, there\'s a gateway that\'s open, right that you can, you can go for you go through that and, and leverage it.

Zane Landin 43:59
That\'s no, that\'s really great. I never heard about that. But now I will say my favorite show growing up and still today is avatar. And like, one of the last episodes is one of the main characters has to deal with her mom\'s death, the whole show, you know, they\'re always talking about it. And so this one episode is about her like confronting the man who killed her mom. And like one of the characters tells her you know, don\'t choose revenge, lay your anger out and then let it go is exactly what you\'re talking about. Because it led to a blossoming understanding for her in a very different way. It wasn\'t as obvious as I forgive this person actually moved into another person. So it was pretty interesting if this is why I love the show. But you know, I just actually love that there\'s so there\'s so interesting.

Brandon Handley 44:51
Zane, thanks for coming on today taking time and stopping over on spiritual dope podcast.

Zane Landin 44:57
Yeah, of course. Thank you so much.

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Kimberly Hoffman - What if your bliss is in another dimension?

Published: Oct. 24, 2021, 11:43 a.m.
Duration: 37 minutes 46 seconds

Connect with Kim to learn more about the beauty of using spirituality and your own personal gifts to transcend all the labels and the voices of what you "should" be, to instead be the pure divine being that YOU are.

https://www.soulytransformation.com/about-me

Brandon Handley 0:00
Ready, cool and 54321 a spiritual dope. I\'m on here today with Kimberly Hoffman Davis Kimberly has her website soli transformation.com. And she and I got connected, I believe you and I got connected through a man whose faces David sandercock. Right. I was like, oh, man, I\'m gonna blank for a second. But David, David had been on the podcast, I said, Dave, man, who do you think would make a great fit for this podcast, he said, Kim would be awesome for this podcast. Kim wants you to do me a huge favor and just give like a high level about where you\'re at what you\'re about. And then we can take it from there.

Kimberly Hoffman 0:44
All right. So I am, I dove into this because I spent, you know, 20 years just suffering from PTSD from depression, anxiety, all that gross, nice, and stuff into the spirituality probably about five years ago. And then from there, I learned energy healing. And it took me on this beautiful journey. So now I\'m in a CompTIA, records practitioner, and I activate people\'s primary gifts and their star seed energy. And I also do the energy healing through soul therapy, which is really great.

Brandon Handley 1:20
Awesome, thanks for that. Appreciate that. So I always like to start these off with the whole idea that you and I basically just Source Energy vehicles, right? sources speaking through us to somebody else, and we\'re just here to deliver that message to that person, whenever that person needs that message. Right? So you\'re on this podcast, and you\'re speaking to one of the listeners, what\'s that message that\'s coming through you to them today?

Kimberly Hoffman 1:49
That message is definitely that you are so much more than you think you are. You are an amazing and divine being. And it is just incredible. As I laugh about the person that I just walked behind you, and that was for me, I am sure that was for me to loosen up and get into the fun of this. But I mean, dang, you really are just so loved, so seen and so appreciated.

Brandon Handley 2:18
I love that. Because a lot of people don\'t think that they are a lot of people don\'t think that they\'re having an impact. A lot of people don\'t think that they\'re seen. And chances are though, you you are you\'re you\'re being seen, you\'re having an impact. And I think that on top of that, it\'s your choice on what kind of impact you want to have. And I think that the first person that you get to have that impact on is yourself. Right? Absolutely. Yeah, absolutely. And once you kind of have that impact on yourself and realize that there might be a little bit more to you than, you know, bag of bones, and blood and skin, then then you start you start a kind of a cool, transformational journey. Now, you said that, um, you know that you started this for yourself about five years ago working through some PST, PTSD? What was, you know, what did that look like for you? Like, what were What were you trying to deal with, that led you to the energy, healing?

Kimberly Hoffman 3:19
Oh, man. So with the, with the PTSD, it was coming in, in like, all directions. So I didn\'t want to get off, up off the couch. I\'m a moron. And it was really affecting me in my parenting with my kids, which is the big driving force that set me on that stage. It was like, you know, I\'m afraid to go to the store, I\'m afraid of what people think of me, I don\'t want to be seen. I just want to hide in this in the shell, like as small as I could possibly get. And then I saw the impact that that was having on my children. And that was it really opened my eyes to be like, Whoa, what is happening here. So I started digging for self help books. And then that led me into past life regression. And that\'s where my spirituality started was with past life regression.

Brandon Handley 4:11
So my first first podcast for a was centered around fatherhood, right, and just kind of being a good dad and trying to be the best kind of data that could be and the influence that we have on our children, and how our children are almost like an immediate reflection as to who we are. So it sounds like you were seeing that reflection of who you were. And your children. And you were like, this can\'t i can\'t i can\'t keep doing this. Is that fair to say?

Kimberly Hoffman 4:43
Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. That is more than fair to say. I saw that big time and my son. Yeah. And it was, it was so sad. Like just that crippling feeling as a parent going. Did I do this?

Brandon Handley 4:58
Yeah, yeah. Any Look, I mean, especially, I think a mother more so than a father, it feels that on a different level. But to see to see that, to see some what you\'re doing show up in your children, you know, and Eagle, you\'re not liking it and you\'re like, Man, that that came for me. I was like, you\'re just kind of like shit, this has got to change. So you\'re you\'re doing you\'re doing, you\'re doing the research and you\'re digging into, you know, the personal development. What was the book? I mean, do you remember the book that was like, hey, past life regression? Let\'s Let\'s go.

Kimberly Hoffman 5:37
There. The very first book that I read was many lives many masters by Dr. Brian Weiss. And once I read the first one, I was like, I ordered the next I think five and just bam, bam, bam, read them all.

Brandon Handley 5:54
I mean, it can be that way, right? As you pick up one, you\'re like, Oh, my God, Where\'s the rest? And you wrote 20 books? Let me get them all. And then, so then you, you do this, you just past life regression. And what happens next? Well, you know, where where did that take you?

Kimberly Hoffman 6:14
Oh my gosh, that took me on such a journey. So I was so interested read the books, like I said, and then I was like, Oh, my gosh, I want to get one. I want to get a past life regression done to see what comes out. And when I did that, like, it brought up three different past lives. And the one that just it, it seriously took a grasp on me and really got into my skin and underneath and I\'m like, Oh, my God, oh, my god. I was I was a young, young woman, and I committed suicide by driving my car to a lake, I drowned myself. And it was because I couldn\'t handle life. I couldn\'t handle the world. I felt like it was all just too much. And I was like, Oh my gosh, why is it that I had a past life where I actually went through with it when at the time that I had had this regression done just a few years prior. I was in that space. I was like, I don\'t want to live anymore. I don\'t. It\'s just too hard. And I had that done. And I was like, Oh my gosh, oh my gosh, is this from this past life? Could it be? Am I carrying stuff over into this life? And it\'s a very good possibility. Going through even further. It became like, yes, part of that was carried into this life, it is a lesson that you absolutely need to learn and how to live a fulfilling life.

Brandon Handley 7:39
Yeah, that\'s, that\'s, I mean, it\'s pretty deep, right? So you go in, you go through this regression, and you\'re immediately impacted, and you\'re able to make this connection. And I guess I\'d have to ask to, before you even dove into past life regression before you even ventured into going and get it done, where you already be smitten by, like spirituality or anything like that, or what type of person were you prior to? Selling him?

Kimberly Hoffman 8:11
I would say I was a very confused person prior to that. So I grew up Christian, and we went to church every so rare occasion. But I remember being in high school, being a teenager, and I told my mom, I\'m like, Listen, I don\'t believe in God, this stuff is crap. like God would not put you through any sort of this turmoil that I am feeling right now. She slapped me, she absolutely slammed me was like, Okay, well, you know, whatever. And from that point on, I was like, you know, I know there\'s something out there. I know, there\'s something greater than what I am. But I just could not attribute it to being this man with a white beard in the sky. And he\'s like, you know, God, His little gavel of I\'m judging you good and evil, and that sort of thing. And it really took me on to like, everything was everything\'s energy, like everything in our universe is energy. Where do people go when they die? to their souls live on and then it took me into, you know, I believe that everybody\'s still out there. Like, people don\'t really die. They\'re just, they\'re in the energy consciousness, and then continue on.

Brandon Handley 9:31
So you if you\'d already kind of stumbled onto that idea prior to the past life regression is what I\'m here. Yeah. So you\'d already kind of had this feeling so you went into it already with somewhat of an open mind and an idea of what was available. You just didn\'t know or have any specifics or kind of any guidance for that. Is that fair? Yeah. Yeah, it is absolutely fair. All right. You go when you get the Past regarding, you know, past life regression, you\'re like, did you did that have like a therapeutic impact, I guess it has had an impact on your PTSD or help walk me through through that part.

Kimberly Hoffman 10:12
You know, I was really hoping that it was going to have that therapeutic impact on PTSD. And in reality, it kind of made it worse. Because I went down this rabbit hole of what\'s wrong with me? Why am I not good enough? Like, what I did this in a past life now I\'m trying to do it in this life. And it did. But I did take into consideration that from another perspective, I did have a past life where I was a big old burly dude with an awesome beard. And I had a wife and I had a child and I was, you know, going off to start the revolution. And like the 1500s, we were going to go see the king and overtake the throne. And, you know, so there there is that where I was like, okay, just just pull in that strength, pull in that strength. And I just kept asking myself and asking my guides and asking whoever would listen out there in the universe, like, please give me the strength to be that person.

Brandon Handley 11:18
Hello, surgeon reaching out to a higher power. Right? You know, you\'ve got an idea of a core of who you\'d like to be of who you been in the past. And a good core. And not every past. Kim has been, you know, in suffering deep suffering or kind of despair. And your you want to you want to be able to bring that past. Kim slash ham forward? Yes, yeah. Yeah. Okay. So I mean, there was some benefits, right? Sound sounds like the first part of it was this. This is, uh, this is not super beneficial. Why did I do this? Maybe a little bit, and then, you know, kind of beat yourself up a little bit. But I mean, you know, eventually it kind of turns occur a curve, where, where\'s like, Where\'s the where\'s the idea that says, holy shit, this is for me. And this is how I\'m gonna live the rest of my life. Where\'s that happen?

Kimberly Hoffman 12:21
Where does that happen? So that actually happened about a year and a half ago. And I was holding my youngest, my little one. And then I was just looking at her rocking her. And I just looked into her eyes. And she looked at me in a gaze that I had never, ever experienced in my life before. And it was like, Oh, my gosh, this child is so special. She\'s peering into my soul. And she is grateful. And it was in that moment that I just heard, like this message that was, I chose you. And that blew my mind. It completely blew my mind. And I was like, wow, I want to feel that deep connection with other people, too.

Brandon Handley 13:15
Yeah, that\'s, to me, that\'s the part where, you know, children are a gift. Right? You know, while while we\'re changing diapers and not getting a sleep and all this other stuff, we\'re like, Who the hell said this? Right? Who the hell who knows, the person that came up with like, the children are a blessing, but you know, they\'re the ones that really help you to if you don\'t already have the capacity, or if you\'ve never truly loved unconditionally, or felt unconditional love. And I think that that\'s kind of what you\'re talking about. You\'re seeing it, you\'re feeling it and you\'re experiencing it. And you\'re like, how can I How can I do this with like, everybody? What\'s that look like? So through through and how old was your youngest at the time? She\'s about a year, year and a half. Okay, yeah, fresh, right? Just Just so you, and then you know, so about a year and a half, you just decide HAVE YOU ARE YOU ALREADY certified? Did you already kind of had you already dove into some of your certifications. Walk me through some of that.

Kimberly Hoffman 14:22
So I had started the process. I\'m like a coaching certification. And that was where I wanted to be like, I grew up wanting to go into psychology and wanting to learn about that behavior, human behavior, psychology, all that stuff. It always fascinated me. But I went a different route, and got a graphic design degree, which is totally off topic. But I\'d started like a coaching certification because it was like, Well, I don\'t want to be tied down by all this red tape. So maybe I can help people in this way through a coaching certification and that\'s In the love and authenticity practitioner certification that I got going through that I started feeling energy more and more, though, and I just I continued on to get an energy healing certification through GLF healing. And then from there, I even took it even further. And I was like, Whoa, whoa, whoa, my gifts are coming in what is this? I mean, that is the point where the craziness and the weirdness though, we can be like, oh, what if people think I\'m weird, and I was definitely in that space. And I was like, but I\'m gonna keep going. Because I\'m so fascinated. And then I got my akashic records. Certification.

Brandon Handley 15:41
Yeah, let\'s talk about that part. Right. I think that that\'s, that\'s a huge part. Would you call that? With the part of your gifts that started flooding in? Would you call that an awakening of sorts? What would you call that? You know, where you notice this transformation that was happening with you.

Kimberly Hoffman 15:58
It was definitely an awakening, absolutely. huge transformation started to take place, going from being I don\'t want to be seen, I just want to be this small thing in my shell to somebody, please let me be free. And honestly, the person that I needed to let me be free was me, I needed to give myself permission to be free. And once I did, it skyrocketed. It just kept going level by level by level, the gift was coming in full force, because they went through an activation during the energy healing course to get that activated. But the more that I put into it, the more just trusted in myself and trusted in source. The more receptive I became, and the more awakened I became.

Brandon Handley 16:49
And then, when you\'re sharing some of these ideas with people that are close to you, what\'s that look like? And you know, is that something again, is are you scared? Is there some is there some system fear in sharing that with some others? Or are you starting to develop this faith in who you are? And you\'re like, I don\'t care.

Kimberly Hoffman 17:11
I was definitely scared at first because it was like, you know, this is really woo woo. And people think that you\'re crazy nuts. Or maybe you belong. And in the crazy house, with a straight jacket on, definitely had my fair share of that programming growing up, and even into wanting to share this, but I was so excited with what I learned and what I could give to people as well, like, gifted them, like the messages that I was gifted by others that I can now gift out to other people as well. I started getting so excited that I would tell my mom and she\'d be like, I don\'t know what you\'re talking about. This sounds so weird. Like, what what is going on with you what happens used to be normal? No, weird is the side effect of awesome Come on, who wants to be normal and boring. And not too long ago, actually, my brother told me that his his wife is like, you know, your sister\'s getting really weird. And I just laughed. Because, you know, by a couple weeks ago, I was like, I don\'t care. You think I\'m weird, but you\'re over there, you know, playing pity party, and I\'m over here having the time of my life. I\'m more than happy to be weird. And let it all out and help people.

Brandon Handley 18:35
Sure. Sure. I mean, if you can be happy with what you\'re doing, and you\'re helping people to get to a place where they\'re able to have their gifts activated. The way that yours were. And yeah, without, right. Yeah. And and you know, it doesn\'t really matter. I mean, I guess to you know, if their idea of normal is, you know, what is their idea normal, and then be like, that\'s good for you. I\'m gonna go ahead and keep rolling this way. Right. So, I mean, what does it look like? I guess for somebody to do a Kashuk record session with you? What\'s or, you know, activating my gifts. Can you activate like, do we have like 15 minutes? Can I get like one of 20 gifts activated? What\'s happening? How\'s this work?

Kimberly Hoffman 19:27
So, we\'ll go with first on like the Akashic Records session, it\'s very loving, it is non judgmental quick, we\'re

Brandon Handley 19:38
real quick. Before we get into it, though, what is like if you know the two people I talked to recently, like what is the Akashic right what are the Akashic Records like what is what, what is that? Tell it tell us a little bit about what the Akashic records are and then let\'s dig into it.

Kimberly Hoffman 19:56
Okay, yes, absolutely. So, the Akashic Records Our it is everything, every thought, every emotion, every action, whether it\'s future past present. So even if you had a thought that you, you\'re like, oh, maybe I could do this and you\'re like, Oh, no, no, no, no, no, that\'s wrong. It\'s recorded in the Akashic records. So, this is the infinite super computer, if you go in like the terms of the 3d world, it is like infinite to birth computer. And in terms of if you want to look at it in string theory, it is the connection that is to every dimension, every reality, every possibility, everything is recorded in

Brandon Handley 20:44
no time or space or place. It\'s just is it everything all all? And is you know, oh, oh, so like, last what I had for dinner night. Like, you should be able to figure that out. I\'m not gonna put you on the spot for that. But But uh, and I guess, I think one of the one of the most recently well known people that I\'m aware of that they figured tapping into that I can think of two offhand. And that\'s a once a Tesla, Nikola Tesla. And I want to say like, Edgar is Edgar Casey. Yes. Okay. All right. Yeah, that\'s the both of that\'s it for me and Akashic Record knowledge on those two people. So let\'s talk a little. So, yeah, let\'s talk a bit about what it looks like to do a session with you on that, what\'s that look like?

Kimberly Hoffman 21:40
Okay, so what it looks like, it\'s a place of it\'s a sacred space. So I create this bubble around us, and it\'s full of love. It is non judgmental, you will feel like you can just express anything, because I\'m able to see it in the records anyway. But what it is, is you just come in, you\'re like, Okay, I\'d like to know, maybe this and this, where am I going? What\'s my path? Sometimes people ask about their past lives, however it comes, is great. And I always like people to ask two or three questions, have them ready? What What is it that you want to know from the records, and then as we dive through it, more information is gonna come in, because there are answers out there that are always seeking you, for your highest good. So those will flow in as well. So an hour and a half of, hey, let\'s find out who you really are underneath it all. Who\'s your divine soul beam? And where do they where are they taking you? Where\'s your higher self teaching you?

Brandon Handley 22:49
And then this person, you know, there? Are there multiple sessions? Is it kind of one and done follow up sessions? What\'s that? What\'s that look like? Or does it go from like an akashic records session to maybe some coaching from the outcomes, I mean, what\'s that whole process look like?

Kimberly Hoffman 23:10
So it\'s all going to be individualized for the person. There are people that are like one and done, they got the information that they were looking for. And it was just enough that they were able to step on to the next piece of their life, because they\'d already been on this journey for a while. And they knew where they were going. And then I have the people that are like, let\'s do multiple sessions. Because in this session, we are going to do with level one, and then we\'re going to do with level two, and then we\'re going to do with level three, with all of my sessions. There\'s already coaching built into it anyway. So that is a part of it. And then from there, if people are that interested in having all those tools, that they would like to have them at their disposal, and not have to go see somebody every time is also teach people how to read their own records, and how to ask those questions, how to access, how to get to the heart of it, to the heart of that information that they\'re seeking, and to be able to pull in the information that\'s seeking them. So they have all those tools at their fingertips already.

Brandon Handley 24:16
That\'s pretty sweet. So you\'re saying you can Are you so I mean? Is it a skill or an ability then I guess to tap into the Akashic records.

Kimberly Hoffman 24:28
It\'s a little of both. It\'s a little above. So we actually all have the ability to tap in. We are all divine beings. We are all connected to the records. This skill comes in, in how and what state are you in? Are you ready? Are you ready for that? So the skills are going to come with practice. Making sure that you\'re really trusting and believing in yourself getting rid of the limit. Meaning beliefs and the programming to get to that point where you have that ability to access, once you\'re able to access, your ability is going to take off, it\'s going to skyrocket.

Brandon Handley 25:12
That\'s fantastic. And so that\'s something that you\'ll you work with people to, to get to a place that they can get to with you.

Kimberly Hoffman 25:20
Absolutely, sir, who I want everybody to get there.

Brandon Handley 25:24
I love it. The, you know, who would you say has been your primary clientele? Like, who? Who do you work with most? Who\'s coming to you? What are you seeing?

Kimberly Hoffman 25:35
What I\'m seeing is my primary clientele is a lot of women that are just tired. They have been through the crap relationships, they have been to the crap jobs, they\'ve put themselves out there so much. It\'s like the people pleaser type that, you know, I\'ve given so much away. Now it\'s time for me. And then, on the other side of that, I also have been seeing a lot of parents coming through parents that want to be better for their kids, parents that want to be able to access to help their kids to support their kids to be the best version of themselves. I mean, I know a lot of people are starting to feel the shifts, and waking up and they\'re like, wow, okay. And then they\'re starting to see that, you know, kids are actually gifted before it shut down. And then once we shut it down as parents, we got to open it back up. We got to create that space.

Brandon Handley 26:35
Now for sure, for sure. That\'s something that we\'ve certainly been cognizant of, in our children. And seeing a little bit of both ways, right? accidentally sending it down, right? Like, oh, shit, I didn\'t mean it. I didn\'t mean to kill that forever. I just really wanted to finish my dinner or whatever. Right? I mean, but but they\'re so sensitive to that. And, and, and the weight that we carry as parents is just so much the measurable, I\'m sure you can probably remember a couple of times outside of getting slapped over over Jesus. You know, I\'m sure you\'ve got moments in your life where like, you just wanted to really shine and flourish and like your parents were like, they said something that, that just shut it all down, right? There, shut it all down, and you never did it again. Right? You\'re like, Alright, I\'ll screw it, I guess I guess I shouldn\'t have thought that way I should have done it. No, I\'ll just never do it again. And then, you know, that kind of cuts something off for you. So it\'s a great point that you bring up right? To be to be aware of how powerful you are as a parent, to know that you can, you can help to nurture that, which takes a significant amount of effort. And it\'s also really imperative to understand that you can shut it down for life and just an instant. That\'s it. And trying to get that back open is is a challenge. I mean, I think that can be realized that just trying to reopen yourself right into some of the things in the spaces that you believe in loving. And I know, it\'s been the same for me, I\'m like, Well, why would I step into that? You know, so and so my family said that was a bad idea. And I believe them, those are the authority figures in my mind. Right? That say, Hey, you know, don\'t do that. I don\'t act that way. So give me a little bit of, of like, maybe your ideal client, like Who do you want to have reaching out to Who are you trying to reach?

Kimberly Hoffman 28:39
I am actually trying to reach parents at this point. Because I am seeing so many, so many kids trying to deal with not just the external world, like we\'ve had the pandemic and we have all of this stuff going on around us the fear that\'s coming out and the social media and the just, I mean, how many times you\'ve you\'ve been sitting at the dinner table and your kids like, bone, bone, and it\'s like, no, no phones at the dinner table, like, go outside, go play and they don\'t want to go outside. Because what happens if they catch a catch the

catch the earth.

And so I\'m seeing so much fear and so many kids like having a really rough time over like the last school year, and everything and parents trying to help them manage this. But at the same time, they\'re having troubles managing themselves because of all of it as well. So I\'m really trying to reach parents at this point, like, you know, let\'s get you back to your full self. Because I know you don\'t want to see your kid like this. And once you\'re back at your full self. We\'re then going to work on how you can be that support system and how you can help heal your kids. I want to teach parents how to heal energetically the selves and their kids, like here, take these tools, you\'re gonna heal yourself. And now you\'re going to be able to heal your kids.

Brandon Handley 30:08
Nice. Nice. Well, awesome. So we\'re at a point now where I kind of get to the whole idea of this. This is like a spiritual speed dating show, right? So, basically, right now, somebody is tuning in, and they\'re looking for the next. They\'re looking for the next spiritual date, as it were, and like to just kind of hit it like that. Right? So the, I\'m gonna ask you one or two questions, Bachelor of spiritual Bachelorette number one, I\'m sure that I believe you\'re involved in children. So not saying that you\'re available. So what are we also afraid of?

Kimberly Hoffman 30:48
Yeah, I honestly think we\'re also afraid of ego death. A lot of you want to say I\'m afraid to die. I don\'t know what\'s out there. You know, the Christians are like, well, I could go to heaven, or maybe I haven\'t done enough and I\'m gonna go to hell. But I honestly think people are so afraid of ego death. Because that\'s the part of us that kind of does that whole, like, Let\'s protect let\'s put you in that shell. And ego death means stepping outside the comfort zone, it means no longer fitting the mold of society.

Brandon Handley 31:25
I get when you mean, outside the molds of society. Ego what, what does an ego death look like? What does that mean? So what would that experience be?

Kimberly Hoffman 31:40
You would be, it would definitely be okay, I thought I was the shit at this. And now, I realize that I\'m not as much of a shit at it as I thought I was and becoming accepting of who you are without those identities that you used to carry. So imagine it as Okay, I\'m married to a veteran. He is more than said I can share his story as many times as I would like, his identity was in I am a soldier, I\'m a soldier, I\'m a soldier on soldier. Even a decade out, he\'s, I\'m a soldier, I\'m a soldier, that was his identity, and to lose that identity, that being part of the ego death is is scary. It is scary, scary. Scary. Because it\'s like, well, who am I? What do I do? Where do I go? I have no clue. And that was that\'s what I hear a lot with people and like, trying to release that ego, but the ego is what stands in your way of becoming your full and true potential.

Brandon Handley 32:46
I got it. So I mean, really, I hate to use we\'re like crisis of identity or, you know, that kind of phrase. But, you know, crisis of identity where the the deal is, is you realize that you\'re not your identity. Meet this the crisis of the identity, right? Like, I am not my identity. Oh, shit. Then who am I? Right? Where\'s that? I like that? Okay, that\'s a good one. Yeah, I like it. Um, dude. That\'s number one. What is the greatest quality humans possess?

Kimberly Hoffman 33:26
I love this question. But I also don\'t love this question. So I\'ll be honest with you. Humans, they possess an amazing quality for love. But they don\'t use it. So that quality inside if they can break into it is incredible. But a lot of us believe that, you know, misery and suffering are natural conditions or that, you know, man is inherently evil. That\'s so not true. Man is actually inherently loving and compassionate. And it\'s, it\'s a whole change of perspective on it for sure. Like going from we I\'ve been told this my whole life. But no, I mean, man is definitely inherently divine, powerful, intelligent, being full of unconditional love and compassion.

Brandon Handley 34:19
I mean, I have to agree, right? That\'s what you see, I think when you were looking at your youngest, and I think that that\'s what we see if we\'re paying attention, we stop and pause for a second at our children. And we\'re like, well, how did I become like such a jerk? When, like, he started off, like, this way, right? Or, you know, what happened along the way to everybody? And because I think that, you know, the greatest quality that we possess, you know, it certainly could be love and, you know, I was thinking maybe Divine Love, right? We have that inspiration inside of us. That\'s, that\'s a, it\'s always available. And I think that if you cultivate it to a certain point sense of fan into a flame it could really do do a lot of a lot of awesome things. 100% Oh, absolutely percent. So Well, I mean, is there anything I guess that we didn\'t hit on that you wanted to share out with us today, Kim?

Kimberly Hoffman 35:18
No, honestly, I just want to tell everybody that I love you all. Y\'all are so amazing. And I hope that you can see inside of you what you truly are.

Brandon Handley 35:29
Yeah, thank you for that. I mean, it\'s it\'s a challenge, especially because we\'ve been told so many of the different things and Kim\'s right. Yeah, inside of you. You\'ve got you\'ve got something that once you catch hold of it, and once you see it for yourself, that is really kind of No, it\'s no return from that, that return. Okay, thanks so much for being on. I appreciate what you\'re doing. I think it\'s really cool that you\'re able to offer the Akashic Record sessions. I think that\'s great. You\'re able to help other people to learn how to activate themselves. And looking forward to hearing more about you in the future. Thank you. Thank you, Brandon. truly appreciate you. Oh, you know what, we didn\'t do Kim. But we didn\'t tell her people can go find out more about you. Let\'s do that before we shut it down. So work on where can people find out more about you?

Kimberly Hoffman 36:18
Alright, so you can either go to my website, which is w w w dot soli transformation, calm because I absolutely love puns. It\'s one of my little quirks. And I\'m also on Facebook, solely transformation is my page. And then I\'m also on Instagram, at soli, Kimberly. Awesome, Kim,

Brandon Handley 36:38
thanks again for being on today. Appreciate it. Thank you, Brandon.

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Jesse Harless is a leader in the addiction recovery and mental health space

Published: Oct. 17, 2021, 7:12 p.m.
Duration: 49 minutes 40 seconds

JESSE HARLESS is a leader and facilitator in the addiction recovery and mental health space. As CEO of Entrepreneurs in Recovery\\xae, he facilitates highly experiential online and in-person events that help individuals and purpose-driven organizations harness their strengths, elevate purpose, and build safety. Jesse holds a MA in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Rivier University and is a FEARS coach, HeartMath\\xae certified trainer, and bestselling author of If Not You, Then Who?. To learn more, visit www.JesseHarless.com.

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you\'ve questioned so much more than those around you. You\'ve even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general You\'re so limited as Bob process Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can\'t quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you this world, the people in it, and most importantly, how do I proceed now moving forward. We don\'t claim to have all the answers but we sure do love Living in the Time for another hit of spirituality

Brandon Handley 0:36
here today with Jesse Harless. He is a leader and facilitator in the addiction recovery and mental health space. as CEO of entrepreneurs and recovery. He facilitates highly experiential, online and in person events to help individuals and purpose driven organizations harness their strengths, elevate purpose and build safety. Jessie holds an MA in clinical mental health counseling from revere University and is a fierce Coach heartmath certified trainer and best selling author of if not you, then who? To learn more, visit Jesse Harless calm. Jesse, you know, you and I were just talking a second here, you and I met. It\'s been about four years ago. And it\'s just, it\'s amazing to see, you were saying you just started your journey, how far you\'ve come along now. And even then, I was a fairly heavy drinker, then, at that point in time, and I don\'t think we I don\'t think we ended up doing a podcast, we did like an introduction, we had some conversation. What\'s interesting that I\'d like to share with you I mean, it\'s been it\'s been nearly four years since I\'ve had a drink. So it was shortly after you and I connected that, you know, I stopped drinking. And, you know, you had some spiritual experiences myself, which led into spiritual dope. So welcome back. You know, it\'s great to reconnect and you know, love to hear kind of what\'s going on with you right now.

Jesse Harless 1:57
Yeah, well, congratulations on four years of recovery. That\'s awesome. And yeah, what a journey I\'m sure that\'s been. And yeah, I\'m, I\'m grateful to be here. I\'m grateful to have this discussion with you. And four years later, it\'s been it was four years this month, when I started out as an entrepreneur and left my job. So just a

Brandon Handley 2:16
hell of a journey, right? A little a little scary, no doubt, especially especially the past past year or so probably, probably kind of scary for you, in terms of like, how is this all going to work out? I like to start this off with the whole idea, Jessie, that you and I are vehicles for source energy, God energy, whatever, whatever. You know, whatever you feel like that is, and it speaks through us. And if there\'s somebody on the other line that\'s listening in on the podcast today, that\'s going to hear a message that can only be delivered by Jesse through this podcast at this time. What is that message today? Jesse?

Jesse Harless 2:51
Well, I mean, just like anything, I\'m living by my heart and intuition, so it\'s whatever needs to come out today whoever\'s listening to this, you know, that\'s what\'s going to come out and that\'s how I live I\'m an intentional person, intentional man, I set intentions every day and you know, that I let go, you know, it\'s about who I\'m being not what I\'m doing. So um, you know, that\'s really where I\'m at today is just letting go.

Brandon Handley 3:16
Of that is, uh, you know, I had a guy when I was doing the follow up for the rest of this podcast who didn\'t like the word intention. And I really, you know, I really couldn\'t put a finger on it. Has anybody ever kind of given you pushback or guff using that word yourself?

Jesse Harless 3:38
No, I think if you know the definition, then you understand what it means and you\'ll understand that it\'s very powerful word just means what is your deepest desire your primary motivation that\'s all it is it doesn\'t have to be spiritual it\'s just your deepest desire primary motivation so instead of me getting up and and saying oh, I\'m gonna get seven things done today and I\'m gonna do all this stuff and you know, I\'m going to do that anyways. So instead I\'d rather set intentions and be like, you know, my intention today is to be present. My intention today is to be here now my intention is to be connected. So that\'s that\'s how I look at it as a way to get clear on my primary motivation and deepest desires for the day

Brandon Handley 4:14
right No, that\'s me that\'s perfect and and to be honest with you, that was my view. I was like, how can you have a problem with the word intention and there\'s there\'s something behind it like there\'s something kind of like purpose driven. And like you\'re saying, you\'ve got you following your kind of heart and intuition and you couple that with like, the intention and you\'ve got something really the drive after with that. And also saw that, you know, your heart Master Trainer as well, what\'s that been like for you to kind of hop into that space? And, you know, are there people out there that might call that pseudo science and then like, what\'s your reaction been there?

Jesse Harless 4:50
Yeah, definitely. It made people call, you know, eating fruit pseudoscience. So I mean, it\'s just, you know, it\'s each his own. And I think, you know, heart math is Something that came into my wheelhouse. After I went to the global event in Mexico, I was a co facilitator, I was invited to go out and meet the founders. And they ran this big global event. So as I facilitated on stage with them, and got to feel out their tribe, and the people who is who are involved over 100 people, I, you know, I said, Wow, there\'s something to this, let me investigate it. And they have all this technology, they have all this technology that actually, there\'s a piece of technology called the inner balance, and it actually can monitor heart coherence. So if that\'s pseudoscience, and I don\'t know what sciences, because that\'s backed by 400, peer reviewed studies, the the actual work that they\'re doing so, you know, if anything, it\'s more science and math or science I\'ve seen because of the amount of studies they have. So yeah, it\'s it\'s a really interesting thing to think about. It\'s not suffered, we were taught in high school or growing up, but definitely, really something interesting to know that the, the heart in itself can take a memory, and this whole books on this, and the heart has its own nervous system. And I don\'t think people understand that, and that\'s okay. But it would be worth maybe researching. So yeah, so I got, I got certified and what\'s called heartmath interventions program, which is for I\'m a clinical mental health counselor. So like, it\'s one of the things that I\'ve done in a past life, but not really a past life, I just did it for my masters. And so that I did that training, which is for practitioners. And then, and then I went on to do the, what\'s called activating the heart of teams, which is bringing heart math into companies. And so yeah, it\'s been quite a journey, it\'s it\'s really interesting to use the self regulation techniques. So they\'re not teaching like meditation or teaching self regulation, which is probably the most important thing we could have ever in the history of the world is learning how to self regulate stress during all this pandemic stuff. And all this stuff we\'ve been through. So yeah, it\'s it\'s a really interesting. It\'s a really interesting business concept. And I think that once you explore that, it\'s backed in a lot of the science of the heart, when we know about heart brain coherence. It\'s really much deeper than what I think people understand.

Brandon Handley 7:13
Promise super high level, what is heart brain coherence?

Jesse Harless 7:18
Well, it\'s a ways for your, your actual physical heart, to start to get into harmony and balance with your actual mind. And the way that can happen is through deep breathing is one of the ways or this conversation, as we didn\'t accommodate this conversation, we\'re still gonna, we\'re gonna feel a sense of like, not exactly flow, but you could call it that might be one way to describe it. And that\'s coherence. It\'s like these perfect sine waves. So both of our hearts were connected to the inner balance machine, we would actually see this coherence between both of our heart rate variability. So there\'s a space between the heart rhythms or the heartbeat. And the space in between the heartbeat is these heart rhythms, you can measure them. And if you\'re angry and resentful, which you might have been before, when you were drinking all the time, that is, we would have hooked up your heart, or let\'s say, know your heart, but hooked up your, let\'s say, with that machine that actually is Bluetooth and connects to your ear. So we would see through your heart rhythms, that you would have this really this rigidity, we would have saw this rigidity in your heart rate variability, because you\'d have been angry, resentful, probably a little snappy. But when we\'re when you\'re in the flow, and now maybe at times in the morning, during your coffee or prayer, you\'re you\'re you\'re in the state of coherence, and we can actually see these perfect sine waves, which is these perfect waves that are created when you\'re in this state of heart, brain harmony. So that\'s the most simplest way there\'s scientific ways to explain it. But to keep it really simple, there\'s just the heart and the mind coming into balance and coming into harmony. And you do it all the time. It\'s happening all the time. But you know, you can also measure it now, which is kind of neat.

Brandon Handley 9:02
And that, being able to measure that does not allow you to figure out ways to get into coherence. And if I\'m kind of following a little bit here, that would also help you and your self regulation.

Jesse Harless 9:14
Exactly. It\'s all about self regulation. Because if you\'re in a state of coherence, you are regulating your state, your emotional state, your spiritual state, your mental state, it\'s coming into balance, so that you\'re actually feeling like, Oh, and by the way, you know, the studies that they\'ve shown is that even your immune system is boosted. When you\'re in a state of coherence, it can actually boost your immune system, it can really release certain hormones that help boost immunity. So it affects your memory, it affects your performance. So if you want to have higher performance, you want to have greater memory, getting in a state of coherence. This is what athletes do is what CEOs text, you know, tech startup people who are really trying to get out there and make a difference in the world. They\'ll use these coherence techniques. They\'re called coherence techniques. self regulation techniques, but they\'re specifically called coherence techniques. And this is a way for the mind to have like, and some people would say, like, if you\'re talking about Joe dispenza, and these different people, they would say, you\'d have super memory, you know, and Stephen, you know, okay, again, some people would call that pseudoscience. But other people would say, that\'s changed my life. So it\'s one of those things where, you know, when I was on the outside of it just kind of looking in, it was kind of like, Well, you know, I don\'t really know. And then when I was deep inside of it, and having all the studies and reading from all these doctors, and really looking at the work, and then doing it myself for over two years, you know, that\'s all the anecdotal evidence and actual peer reviewed evidence that I needed to be like, wow, this is something that\'s happening all the time in teams, high performing teams are in a state of group or team coherence. And that\'s why that\'s why they\'re performing at a high level.

Brandon Handley 10:58
So outside of outside of where I work, I\'ve never heard anybody else really kind of talk about like high performing teams, right? So love to love to kind of touch on what that looks like. From from this perspective, like what\'s it look like to approach like a large business right now. And I think that I think that we\'re on like this cusp of of this type of conversation being easier and easier to, to approach like a large business to say, hey, I want to talk to you about your team and your heart mind coherence, and, you know, how that can be beneficial to you? What\'s the reception like? What\'s I guess? What\'s the pitch like for that? And then, you know, what\'s the, what\'s the reception man?

Jesse Harless 11:39
Well, I, you know, to back up a little bit. So heart math is not my primary selling tool, you know, so I\'m a professional facilitator. So I have been trained in what\'s called exchange facilitation. And so that\'s what actually taught me how to actually get in front of people, and actually how to make conversations worth have having happen. And and create a state where there\'s actual opportunities to experience change, where instead of being the, you know, the, the guru with all the answers at the front, the guy the sage on the on the guide on the side, who\'s helping people to facilitate conversations worth having that the company is not having. And so coming into a company, that\'s primarily what I do is I help them tune into their innate resilience. Now, on top of that, as a small segment of the time I have with them, which could be a 60 minute Lunch and Learn or it could be a two hour three hour event, I will bring in something like a heart brain coherence technique, because this is being used by state troopers. This is being used by the US Navy, this is being used by major institutions. So I\'m bringing that in at one piece, to teach them how they can self regulate, which is a huge thing for HR. Because with the rise and climb of marijuana, and rise and climb of alcohol use and mental health decline in the workplace right now, which is probably the worst we\'ve seen, there\'s never been a better time to start to teach self regulation techniques. But that\'s not the primary reason I\'m hired to come in. And my primary reason for coming in is to teach innate resilience, to teach them to start to be able to co create or crowdsource their highest strengths, crowdsource success factors of why they\'re a high performing team. So that\'s kind of primarily where I\'m coming in. And then when I\'m there, it\'s like sneaking the medicine with the cheese. Now that I\'m there, now I\'m going to teach them a technique that they\'re not going to be learning during their nine to five, I\'m going to bring it to them as like a heart mass certified trainer or a clinician, because I\'m technically a clinician, so I\'ll bring into teach self regulation, only for a small segment of it. But it can be a significant opportunity for them to start to just practice deep breathing and heart brain coherence.

Brandon Handley 13:51
Gotcha. Let\'s talk a little bit about the path of like, headed into sobriety, right, like what were some of the what were some of the things that flipped a switch for you got you into wanting to be sober? And what are some of the steps that you took, you know, who was suggested before this Jesse? Right? And, you know, the reason I like to do this is one of the one of the things that I was actually interviewed last night. But similar podcast is like, some people forget where they came from, right? And it\'s like, well, we\'re, you know, Justin, you might have been a sinner before you became a saint. Right? And yeah, so who was the center, Jesse versus the st. Jesse, what we\'re seeing right now. And we\'re it\'s transition,

Jesse Harless 14:38
where you got to ask yourself, what is addiction? What does even mean? So we know what the definition of addiction is, which is, diction is, you know, according to gabber, Ma Tei, is anything that you do repeatedly. That causes pleasure in the short term, but has negative consequences in the long term. So when I say that definition of addiction, I just called out about 99% of your audience out there have addiction or probably 100 Because there\'s something in their life that they\'re doing that that does have pleasure, maybe they\'re eating at night, like 11 o\'clock at night, they\'re still eating, you know, food addiction, maybe they\'re caretaking. Maybe they\'re people pleasing. Maybe they\'re all about validation at work. These are all addictions. So, you know, for me my addiction, hold on one second, Brandon\'s gotta grab a little sip of water here.

Thank you. So, for me, addiction started with trauma, because trauma is the root cause of addiction for most people. Now, when people say think of trauma, they think of sexual abuse, or they think of physical abuse. But that\'s not just what trauma is. trauma is includes that but trauma could be your best friend moving away when you were nine years old. Trauma could be the divorce your parents had at seven. There\'s there\'s many, many different ways that people experienced trauma, which is can be physical, it can affect your nervous system. So for me, when I was a child, my dad left at four never came back, never saw him again in person. And it was also in a car accident, I put him in a coma for 22 days, so so he had brain damage permanently. So at four years old, I experienced significant trauma. And then we moved a bunch of times. So from that point on, it set the stage of how I was going to self regulate my emotions, how I was going to regulate my, you know, my little nervous system. And the reality was, I didn\'t have a lot of coping mechanisms. So when it up happening is I found things ways to numb out. And then eventually I picked up physical substances, like drugs, like alcohol. But that didn\'t come to later. That came probably when I my first year of college, you know, I dabbled before that. But when I got that first year of college, that\'s when I started to really jump into substances and alcohol. And when I flunked out of college, which then added to my trauma, because now I\'m the only son to ever attempt college and I failed. I\'m the only person in my family to attempt college and I fail. And so now I feel the unworthiness again, which is an addiction and a trauma in itself. Because you can become addicted to your unworthiness. So I actually felt like a piece of shit. And then when end up happening at 20, my father died. And even though he wasn\'t in my life, when he died, it was my It was the first time I used cocaine. And so that\'s all it took at 20 was for me to have that experience and chase after that for the next two years, to bring me all the way to a place where I was going to go to prison because of it. So that\'s kind of what happened to me. That\'s my story. And then I found recovery at 22. And it wasn\'t, you know, wasn\'t like an option. It was like prison or recovery. So I was like, Okay, I\'m going to do the recovery, of course, I\'m not going to go to federal prison, because I didn\'t have state level charges was federal. So I\'m like, I\'m gonna change my life. So 22 got into recovery. And then from there, recovery kept evolving. So recovery, recovery met at 22. And what it means now for 16 years later, almost is different. But some of the fundamentals are the same. So that\'s kind of the higher level backstory of that.

Brandon Handley 18:07
Yeah, thanks for sharing and and Jesse just because, right? Sometimes some people are still stuck maybe in, in between, right in between, like, hey, maybe I\'m going through recovery right now, my life has always been shit. And I\'ve always had this unworthiness. And, you know, I\'ve always been looking for these ways to numb out and I don\'t know if my lives are gonna turn around. And you\'re proof, though, of like, you know, how can you take what you went through? and turn it around? and turn it into something useful for others, right? How can you All right, now that you\'ve been through this process, and you figured out ways to regulate, and you figured out some of the signs and symptoms, and you\'ve got a way that you can help people now because of what you\'ve been through?

Jesse Harless 18:54
Yeah, exactly. I mean, it\'s lived experience, I\'ve helped a lot of men, I\'ve helped a lot of women throughout my last 16 years, I\'m very blessed that I was able to do that. But I also learned a lot about addiction. And I learned a lot about myself. So I think that\'s the key is like, at some stage of the game, you have to take a look at your own deal. You have to look at like, what\'s really running my life? Am I running my life? Or is my trauma running my life? Am I running my life? Or is my emotional addictions running my life? So that\'s really where, you know, for me, I had to take a hard look at that later into recovery. I wasn\'t even able to see a lot of that until later on in recovery, to really understand the role trauma plays, and the way that emotional injuries that had happened in the past was still playing into adulthood. And it was causing me not to step into the mature masculine man, it was still keeping me stuck. It was keeping me in that loop of a wounded spiritual ego. And I see a lot of that happening in recovery. So I think that that\'s where, for me, that\'s the stage of the journey I\'m in now. I was I wasn\'t there 10 years ago, but now I\'m in that stage of the journey of taking a hard look, that there was no initiation into manhood. There was no You know, steps for me to feel whole and feel like I could step up and do what I needed to do. And now today, I do feel that, and one of the reasons is because I have gotten out of my comfort zone, I have faced a lot of fears. And I\'ve had done, I\'ve done it with a lot of support, because I realized that asking for help was the number one thing that is the wounded masculine, is not asking for help, even in recovery. So that\'s where, you know, these are things that took a while to come into my wheelhouse, you know, these are blind spots. But once I surrounded myself with certain men, certain people that could understand that and were living that it was like, oh, wow, this is how I want to live now. And that\'s when, you know, entrepreneurship, and this idea of a new type of freedom started to happen, because I realized that like, Oh, I\'m still operating in many ways, from loops that are happening when I was 20. So that\'s not serving me as a loving adult.

Brandon Handley 20:58
We\'re talking about like the wounded ego, spiritual ego, in recovery, and people getting kind of stuck in a loop, what\'s something that you\'ve been able to learn or figure out that can help somebody get get past that?

Jesse Harless 21:11
Well, I think a lot of people are stuck in there. They\'re like, stuck in ways that they don\'t even understand like that there is a way out because they\'re already in recovery. So they kind of feel like this. Is it. Like, I don\'t think it\'s better than this, but I\'m just grateful. But that\'s the whole problem. It\'s like you\'re, but I\'m grateful. It\'s like, No, you\'re not. So the reality is you\'re not grateful. So what are we going to do about it, and part of it is really getting clear of your purpose. When you start to get clear of your purpose, that\'s when all of these things pop up. Soon as you\'re like, Oh, I\'m going to go write that book. That\'s when all the boom, that trauma comes up, oh, I\'m going to go do this. I\'m going to travel here, I\'m going to take my family here, I\'m going to make this happen, I\'m going to start this business, all of a sudden, all these fears come up. And what we can do is we can numb out emotionally, or we can run towards them, ask for help get a coach, talk to someone who\'s been there, get a mentor, and then go forward towards the fear, feel the fear and do it anyway. So it\'s kind of like that idea that your fears are the compass to where your full potential is. So so that it\'s that simple. Like when you if you feeling that way in recovery, and especially if you\'re not feeling that way, because you\'re not in recovery, either way, you can actually feel it when you go out and go to do something that you know is going to benefit your life and you can\'t do it. That\'s that those are the things that are blocking you from your purpose. And you can say divine purpose, because I believe we all have one of those So, so the that\'s the compass. And so when I, when I left my job four years ago, this month, I came up against the greatest fears I ever faced, because I realized, like, Oh my god, I was playing it small inside of the company, not living out my true potential. And as soon as I left, and I had to figure things out, it was like, Oh, my God, what did I do, but it was also the most exciting journey of my life. Because I could finally start to see how I was playing much smaller than what I\'m capable of. And four years later to, it\'s still expanding, it\'s still growing, you know, because when you\'re on your own now you have to figure out how you\'re going to make a living without having someone to support and you know, there\'s nothing wrong by the way with having a job that\'s I\'m not knocking a job I had 18 years, but what I\'m saying is, for me, I had to make the jump, because I needed to get that that on the other side of that healing so I could help others and serve others.

Brandon Handley 23:30
But know that that\'s awesome, right? I think that the idea to have surrounding yourself by some of those strong and encouraging men to get you there. Right? And haven\'t haven\'t that kind of support. And then you\'re talking about that jump to was a have another buddy of mine that I always make the joke of nobody makes their first leap right? It\'s really, it is very, very matrix II like you know, trying to make that leap from your corporate your corporate gig and you kind of got almost a protection there, right? And then now you\'re like, Alright, well I\'m gonna drop all that I\'m gonna try and make this jump and in the movie, of course, you know, he falls and hits his face and it\'s all kind of bloodied. It\'s just like it\'s all in the mind, though. Right? In the matrix, right? Real similar to these fears that you\'re butting up against the sun was thinking about Jeopardy, that science experiment where you put the penny on top of the water. surface tension never did that. So I mean, basically, you can float a penny on top of water just because of surface tension. That\'s real close real similar to our fears, right? You can do it. And there\'s that tension right there on the edge. But right past that edge is where the breakthrough happens, right? everything kind of opens up and that\'s where the growth is. And it\'s unlimited, right? I mean, that\'s kind of the beauty of it. That\'s what I\'m hearing you say to right like it\'s just keeps growing and growing and growing. Yep.

Jesse Harless 24:50
Yeah. And never and never stops. Really. Because what I thought I hit I, you know, the beginning of this year was one of the hardest times of my life. And you know, I figured out Well, no, the hardest time My life are over there already past those already had those when I was 22. And it happened this year. And I realized that like, Oh my god, there\'s higher ceilings I can get, I can break through higher ceilings, and that\'s what happened this year. And it\'s the best thing that\'s ever happened to me. So that\'s where, you know, it\'s exciting because there is unlimited growth potential. And I think that\'s what life is about is, is living on that edge. But like not living on the edge, so that, like you\'re drinking alcohol and doing drugs every day, and you\'re barely making it by someone I mean, I mean, like living on the edge of like, Oh, I\'m, I\'m a little too comfortable right now I need to figure out where can I push myself and also take care of myself, you know, put myself first and have the self care needs, so I can serve my family. But also, what is the edge where where can I be today that can help me to really grow. And for me, like, there\'s always an intention. That\'s why it goes back to intentions of like, you know, my intention is to live my divine purpose. So what does that mean, exactly. And some days, that could just mean taking care of myself and self care. And I think every day is a good day for that. But some days, it could be like finishing the audio book, it could be doing things that are hard, that take a lot of work. But you know, on the other side of that it\'s very rewarding, and it\'s serving people it\'s serving. My purpose is connected to serving people. So I think, yeah, I think we can we can find a healthy balance between our comfort zone and being outside of our comfort zone.

Brandon Handley 26:28
Yeah, I mean, I\'ve got that written down here actually, is my next question says, I can\'t cope. What\'s the finding the right balance of growth? New, how do you keep yourself from, say burnout? Especially as an entrepreneur especially? Or even how do you find like you were saying, The, there was a point where it was pretty scary, divine intervention, but then it\'s like, it doesn\'t sound like you\'re driven by fear. You know, as far as I can tell, you\'re driven by an abundance mindset. How do you maintain that right? Or what do you do when you catch yourself? In a fear based mindset?

Jesse Harless 27:05
Well, I think that a lot of people think abundance is like having a Ferrari, they don\'t understand that abundance is simply having food in your fridge abundance is simply having walls, to some, you know, structure of your house to keep you warm, like that\'s abundance. And I think as soon as we start tuning into gratitude of what we already have, that\'s when we unlock this energy that we\'re able to then get more of what we\'re already seeking, which really is not money. We\'re trying to seek security, we\'re trying to seek safety, we\'re trying to seek love. So that\'s really where that abundance mindset is really useful is like, instead of me getting up and saying, Oh, I wish I had this. And I wish I had that, which is what\'s going on a lot of times, even when people are praying. So instead of that, I rather say, Oh, thank you so much that I have that fresh water in my house, and then I have, you know, the food in my fridge. And then I have already what I have like that. Now if I do need my if there are needs and money that is needed to have, it\'s like, Okay, well, let me ask for help that, instead of like, trying to say that I have it all figured out, let me actually humble myself, and surrender and be able to ask for help and see what happens and not judge with the support comes from. And I think that was the big epiphany and 2021 for me is asking for help. And then allowing the help to come from wherever is going to come from, because anything else is me controlling that as an ego. That\'s an ego based mindset. So I was able to let go. So abundance is a very powerful shift, you know, from where we might be living in this current moment. But it doesn\'t mean that we\'re aiming to be millionaires, it just means that we\'re being abundant. And in our emotions, we\'re being abundant, our mental state, we\'re being abundant, our spiritual state. So that to me is like the shift. And once you start asking for help, be ready, because it\'s going to come, it might take three months, it\'s coming.

Brandon Handley 28:56
So I mean, you\'re also not asking, you\'re saying that you\'re letting go the control, right? So the timing? Well, it\'s great if it happens sooner than later. Sounds like you\'re also just being open to it and allowing for it to show up when it\'s absolutely probably most needed. It\'s probably shows up right then.

Jesse Harless 29:17
Yeah, because it could be a friend calling you out. And you\'re like, wait, that\'s not the help I wanted, but you don\'t get it, you don\'t get to choose it. And that\'s my point, you might start asking for help. And all of a sudden someone calling you out on your behavior that you didn\'t even see. And that\'s the beauty of it. You can\'t dictate then what it is and where the Help is going to come from. So it can be unexpected. But that\'s the whole point of staying surrendered and hoping and open to what is to come and, and that whole idea of surrender is not a word that a lot of men like because they\'re operating from this wounded masculine idea that they have to do everything themselves. And I did that too. They used to call me stressy Jesse, okay, they used to call me that for a reason. That wasn\'t like, you know that people really calling me that It\'s because why I try to control everything. I try to control everything. And I try to do everything I could not to ask for help. Even in recovery, I\'m talking about no asking for help, you know, oh, I don\'t need you. I\'ve already been through all this stuff, like all I can do, I\'ll just have my own goals. And you know what, that\'s why, you know, to tie it back to the intentions because, you know, whoever needed to hear the intention talk like four times is coming up. Because here\'s the thing is I was the gold Master, I would set so many goals, I would crush goals. I have all these certifications that I\'ve done, not just heart math, all these ones. And part of me having those. Yeah, of course, some is just like, Oh, I want to better myself and get more education. But some of that is unworthiness. I was doing it out of a sense of validation unworthiness. And this is what I mean, when you start to ask for help. You might have a friend who\'s very connected to and knows you. And they start to tell you this, that brother you have, you still feel unworthy? And it\'s like, Whoa, damn, ouch. And it\'s true.

Brandon Handley 30:57
Yeah, that\'s not just that, that\'s super powerful. As a matter of fact, I was talking to another friend of mine, who\'s putting putting some of her stuff together. And she she was just talking about She goes, Well, is it gonna matter that I\'ve only been a professional for x, y, z period of time? I\'m like, No, I just put yourself out there and start walking towards it. I mean, everybody started at a certain level at some point. And I think to your point, you know, that\'s someone worthiness, right? I\'m not I\'m not good enough to do X, Y, or Z, even though maybe I\'m really good at it. Already.

Jesse Harless 31:31
Yeah. I mean, it\'s people way more talented than me, Brandon, way more talented to me. Like I meet people all the time. They\'re friggin they were professional singers and actors and, and all this stuff. And they\'re like, yeah, you know, I don\'t want to write a book. And I don\'t want to do this. And I\'m like, you have like, 10 times the capabilities I have. And I\'ve already on my third book. So what do you even mean, you are more qualified than I ever was. And so this is, this is where I think we have this. And this is where I tie it back to what is addiction? People think addiction is their uncle who\'s drinking all the time. No, addiction is your emotional addiction to unworthiness. So this is what I mean. And so once we start to see that clearly, we can start to say, Oh, well, then who? How can I ask for help? How can I get some help, so I can start to maintain consistency, accountability, and really go towards these things that I\'m avoiding. And, and then that really, on the other side of those things, is where you start to emerge as let\'s say, the warrior, but the balanced warrior, you\'re not just being this person who\'s this tyrant. So I think, you know, these are the lessons I have learned very much later in my recovery, like recently, where, you know, you know, it all just happens in the timing it happens in but you know, this information, could this have benefited me at 18 or 25? And how Oh, my God, yeah. But and so it\'s all good. It\'s all good, because now I can take it and really appreciate it.

Brandon Handley 32:54
For sure. You mentioned your divine purpose, Jessie, what would you say that is?

Jesse Harless 33:01
Well, you know, I used to just say purpose, I used to just say purpose all the time. Okay, your purpose, and it\'s huge. People ask me, what\'s the number one kit, what\'s the number one reason people stay in addiction recovery, and I\'ll tell them purpose, they have some type of purpose. And you know what, like, eventually one day I was like, You know what, it\'s if you\'re living your purpose that\'s divine, like that\'s divine, it means that like you\'re actually choosing to live from your heart, not just your mind. And that\'s simply what it is it\'s really choosing to every day to live from my heart space, use my mind as a tool, but realize it\'s not my master and being able to live my life from that heart space. So the divine purpose is simply like you know, I\'m choosing to use my strengths, I know what my top strengths are. So using my top strengths, to be able to help people to share their stories in the world and me helping to help them to see their strengths and show them that their story is important. So that\'s kind of my divine purpose is to help others to share their story in a loving and powerful way and give them a platform to do that. So that\'s that\'s what I do as a professional facilitator or as a coach is I help people to do that and then they get to try to figure out what their divine purposes but again, here\'s what\'s cool about your purpose exchanges. So you might be like okay, this is my purpose and guess what Coronavirus hits you know guess what something else hits in your life a storm and you know what it\'s all good and your purpose starts to shift and change and that\'s cool it evolves so it\'s to me it doesn\'t have to be a set in stone thing and never is and never has been for me and But yeah, I am I like to think it\'s divine.

Brandon Handley 34:42
I look I\'m all about it obviously spiritual dope right? Being been in this face and you know the divine is a To me it\'s a mindset divinity is a mindset right and grabbing hold of that and then allowing yourself to be filled with that. It\'s a game changer. All right. Speaking of spiritual dope you know I always think about like, the whole idea of sounds like you\'re you\'re you\'re hitting a spiritual dope is having somebody see that breakthrough moment or something like that. What are some other like hits a spiritual dope for you when you\'re filled with you know, I think you talked about it being being in your flow states what are what\'s what\'s something that gets in the flow state or into feeling connected to source?

Jesse Harless 35:30
Well I mean I love nature I\'m an earthy person, I love being outdoors. I love doing earthing. I never wear shoes, I never wear socks, you\'re gonna see me always barefoot every day. 365 even in New Hampshire, you know, like, yeah, I wear shoes when I need to but like I\'m barefoot, you know, because I love to be connected to the earth. I live in New Hampshire I have beautiful forest all around me, we got the white far, we got the National Forest not far from me. So I you know, my big thing is connected with nature. So it\'s connecting with the wildlife, it\'s just, you know, being outside and, and feeling connected to this, like planet where like these little ants on this planet, we think we run everything, we own everything. And it\'s like, you know, we got to get humble, because we don\'t, and, you know, just feeling connected and part of nature feels, you know, puts me in the flow state. So that\'s kind of the end of in my house, you know, where I\'m living. You know, you can see behind me, there\'s plants everywhere I have plans, I have two big plants right here, I got a huge one back there, that\'s over 25 years old, all to the left of me is his, his plants. I have a running waterfall, you know. So these are things that just remind me of what\'s important. And, you know, so another way that I get into the flow state is, is is facilitation. Because what I like about it is I\'m not that, like I said, the guru, I\'m actually asking questions, I\'m asking questions that are inquiring into people\'s lives or business. And there\'ll be they can actually take the time to answer the questions themselves, and then talk to each other. So it\'s really, you know, that that makes me excited, because I don\'t have all the answers, you know, and I let them crowdsource answers, and then we come up with the best answer together, because the answers that they could come up with a much better than what I could come up, come up with. So it\'s, you know, collectively, you know, using our strengths together to, you know, come up with solutions. And by the way, I do this in addiction recovery, I do this for states. So the state of Georgia I work with and I help them to come up with so you know, different solutions to crowdsource addiction recovery. So, you know, these are lived experiences that that helped me to be in that flow state. And you know, I would say my book that I just released. Absolutely. I didn\'t think of myself as a writer until I wrote this last book. And I realized, like, oh, maybe I am a writer. I mean, I don\'t write every day. But you know, my next book, is the confidence I have to write the next book is because the last book I wrote, when I now I\'m doing the audio book, when I\'m reading it back to myself, or hearing, I\'m like, wow, I actually did a pretty good job with the writing of this book, the actual art of the writing. And so, you know, so guess writing can put you in a flow state to?

Brandon Handley 38:03
Yeah, thanks for sharing that. What\'s the what\'s the latest book that your

Jesse Harless 38:07
latest book I wrote is called, if not using who harness restraints to shift from addiction to abundance. Nice,

Brandon Handley 38:15
high level, you know, target audience?

Jesse Harless 38:18
Well, the high level is the beginning of the book. The first four chapters is my story. I literally write it like a memoir. So it starts out as a memoir, because if you\'re in mental health, or addiction recovery, it\'s all about stories. It\'s about hearing that story want to connect the stories. So I started off with the story. And then the final five chapters of the book, or the six chapters, but the five chapters the meat of the book is, is this toolkit, it\'s a toolkit that I\'ve learned from leaving my job and way before leaving the job. But solidifying when I left the job, I started to learn techniques to become an entrepreneur. And so the entrepreneurial techniques that I learned actually tie into addiction recovery, they actually help each other, they feed off each other. Because if you\'re an addiction recovery, you\'re trying to live a self directed life. And a self directed life is what entrepreneurship is about. So you\'re trying to reach your full potential, you\'re improving your health and wellness. This is the definition of recovery. And it also applies into entrepreneurship. So the book is like 10 years of things I\'ve learned from mentors and coaches. But it\'s also recently in the last four or five years learning from mentors like how l rod and john berghoff, and all these different people that came into my direct experience that helped me to see like, Whoa, these are tools we need to be using in addiction recovery. This isn\'t stuff we can put off because we\'re looking at what\'s happening in the world and decline of life of human life with the opioid, you know, issue going on and all the things that are happening, what we\'re doing is not working. Some things are a lot or is not so. So the book is is if you say the target audience would be for someone who has a family member or themselves are looking to live their best life because I chose instead of writing a memoir, I chose to write a self help memoir, which has a five chapter toolkit, which is called fears actually.

Brandon Handley 40:06
Okay, what\'s that? What\'s the acronym stands for?

Jesse Harless 40:10
So fears is focus on your recovery, elevate your recovery, appreciate your recovery, resilience and recovery, self care recovery in the 30 action steps. And within each of those is to me having that, that complete life is to have that abundant life if you\'re doing those five actions, which is really 30. But if you\'re, if you\'re thinking about how do I focus on my recovery every day, your recovery might not be from drugs and alcohol, folks, this is what I\'m trying to say here isn\'t isn\'t just substances. This is this is could be recovery from caretaking recovery from people pleasing every day. And so how do I stop doing that you do the steps in the book that help you to live your purpose. And that\'s really where it leads to. And focus, you know, so I won\'t break each of them down. But but that\'s what it is, it\'s a way to, like, what helped me and the men that I\'ve been teaching for over a decade in women, but a lot of men, it\'s, it\'s like, how do I do it? And that\'s what I put in the book. It\'s like, here\'s the start. And then from there, you read your next 10 books, but here\'s a book that\'s gonna get you started. And, you know, it\'s just my life experiences.

Brandon Handley 41:15
Not something sounds powerful Jesse, and I think to the author to the extent of separating men and women from the, I think they\'re interesting, obviously, they\'re intrinsically different, right? And how this journey goes. And to be able to have somebody such as yourself, you know, that\'s really tuned in to how the the male processes this and goes through it, and to have somebody lead them through that. I think that\'s really important.

Jesse Harless 41:42
Yeah, absolutely. And what\'s ironic is I coach more women than men, but that\'s just the way it works out in the private practice, but but in reality, when you\'re in early recovery, and then you\'re, you know, I left the job, it\'s like, you go to a lot of these places, and it\'s, and it\'s men and women separate. So like, when I was first starting out running workshops, it would be with men. And so and, and then today, I realized, like, yeah, I can run workshops for both. But I can tell you that if I just niche down and start to really focus on men, I\'m gonna help a lot of men because a lot of men don\'t trust their intuition. A lot of men look at things as weaknesses that are strengths. So this is where, like, kind of my heart is, is to help those men

Brandon Handley 42:22
for sure, for sure, and I think that that you probably found right, especially in Western society, is that men are very head driven, right, and you\'re talking about the heart and head coherence piece, and you\'re getting them to make that connection and to trust it just a little bit. And I think that that\'s, I think that\'s powerful. And I think it\'s awesome that you\'re doing this work, Jesse. So let me break this down for you. We\'ve got a little just a little more longer here. And what I like to do here is what I like to call kind of like a spiritual speed dating, just the I\'m just gonna pick like one question that this bank of questions and I know there\'s somebody out there looking for the next spiritual date, you could be it Jesse. All right, let\'s see, we got um what does it mean to live in the present moment?

Jesse Harless 43:11
Yeah, for me, living in the present moments, everything, I spent most of my life with anxiety which is living in the future. So you know, so living in the present moment I do everything I can to live in the present moment, I\'m literally standing on a grounding mat that\'s connected to the wall right now. So I\'m always trying to stay in the present moment. I\'m trying to live right here I\'m trying to look you in the eye right in this moment, and be with you now. And just just not think just be so that I can just allow whatever is coming out of me to come out of me. I didn\'t know what I was gonna say today and that\'s how I like to live my life. So that is the present moment as I can clearly hear that subtleness of intuition and be able to trust it that is leading me in the right direction, trust my feelings, I can\'t feel my feelings and emotions if I\'m not living in the present moment I\'m going to be stuck in some type of battle between the future and the past. And I already spent enough time living in the past and I spent a lot of time live in the future so I know when I\'m living in the present moment and it\'s real simple it\'s it\'s I can hear my breath I can hear my heartbeat I\'m can be with you right here now I can hear him what I\'m saying. It\'s that\'s me being in the present moment. So being in the present moment is everything for you to start to live as connected to your purpose.

Brandon Handley 44:25
God thanks, Jesse. Thanks a lot. The the What else we got here? Get one more for me to do to do. What is your one wish for World Jesse?

Jesse Harless 44:39
It\'s a big one. I mean, as a probably a few but I would say one of the big wishes is to understand what addiction really means. And I think if we can start to understand what addiction really means we\'re going to change the whole world. So I that\'s my hope is to understand the definition of addiction. And to understand that addiction is not simply your uncle who struggle with alcoholism, your addiction is you So that\'s going to, we understand that we\'re gonna have a lot more compassion for people, we\'re going to understand that people are fighting daily battles every single day, your parents are fighting battles, your cousin, you know, all these people are getting these, these these difficult situations that are stemming from addiction. And so I think for me, it\'s like, once we start to understand the definition of addiction, that it\'s not just a generic genetic brain disease, and you\'re doomed. It\'s it\'s as simple as, like, all I keep doing is I keep going back to my unworthiness every day. That\'s my primary addiction. And so when we start to know that type, that there is social emotional addictions, I think that\'s going to change the world, because then we\'re going to band together as a one as a tribe and say, how can we help each other with our addictions? Because we\'re all numbing out in some way.

Brandon Handley 45:46
Yeah, just Yeah, I think that\'s powerful. I love how you\'ve you\'ve kind of reframed addictions beyond, you know, drinking and drugs, and really just kind of put it into a space of a couple of places you put it into that resonate with me is is the numbing out? Yeah. Right. And then, you know, the, the unworthiness, you know, kind of loop right, getting stuck in these loops, as an addiction, right, and recognizing those as as addictions. And, you know, if we band together, like you\'re saying, and kind of act as one against the human act as one against it, right, like I come from, you know, what can we do for the positive outcome? Right? What can we do that? I mean, I think that your your, your group runs through some of you guys, what was it? appreciative inquiry, right, I think that\'s where I learned from, from from some of them, some of those groups. So what is this positive outcome of understanding the true definition of addiction? And what can we do to kind of break those shackles? Right, break those loops? I love it. I love it. Jesse, where can people go to find out more about you? Who should be working with you? Who should be reaching out to you? Some of that stuff?

Jesse Harless 47:00
Yeah, I mean, if you can find me at my website, Jesse Harless Comm. You know, that\'s, that\'s probably the best place is a contact form there, you can grab a copy of my journal, I created a journal to go along with the book that\'s free, and grab the journal there. So I think that\'s probably where you can understand more about me who I work with, and what I\'m doing in the world, you know, and I don\'t have a big social media following. I learned that from some of my mentors, so that\'s actually the most the most, that\'s not the most important thing. So it\'s quite unprofessional myself with that. So I mean, if you want to really reach out to me, you need help you need something, you know, go ahead and reach out to me, I respond to every single person. So go ahead and reach out and I\'m happy to help.

Brandon Handley 47:38
Jesse, I can\'t believe you\'re saying social media presence isn\'t the most important thing. What did you learn from your mentors? That is,

Jesse Harless 47:44
well, I have a mentor who\'s very successful in that he has one of the most biggest he has one of the biggest Facebook groups in the world. But I also have one that has no, no social media following, he makes just as much money. So it\'s not about money. It\'s about impact. And he\'s making just as much impact without a social media. So it\'s really shows me that either way. So that\'s where our ego wants to be like, Oh, it\'s the reason I don\'t have money is because I only have 1000 followers, and I can prove you wrong with that one. So that\'s so that\'s what I\'m, that\'s what I thought I was like, Oh, I need to get the funnel. I need to get the emails, I need to do this. But here\'s the thing is, it\'s you don\'t have to do that you can do without that. But it\'s all about specializing, what do you specialize in who you\'re speaking to? And having your own platform? You know, and that kind of helps you not to have to create a social media platform if you have your own platform?

Brandon Handley 48:31
For sure, for sure. No, thanks for that response. I mean, I think it\'s important to hear that right. And it\'s not just important to hear from random people, you\'ve you\'ve had experience, you know, these people that have, you know, been successful. And I think that we also tend to forget that maybe, I don\'t know, less than 20 years ago, there wasn\'t a social media and there were plenty of successful people. Yeah, that\'s for sure. Right? Right. So Hey, everybody, thanks for checking Jesse out, make sure you go check out his site, Jesse harless.com. And learn more about him. Jesse, thanks for being on today. I really appreciate what you\'re doing.

Jesse Harless 49:05
Yeah, Brandon, thank you so much for reaching out. This is great. I

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Jenna Dalton's Spirituality: How To Heal Yourself

Published: Oct. 10, 2021, 10:35 a.m.
Duration: 51 minutes 22 seconds

Jenna is an intuitive healer, facilitator, teacher, artist, mother and musician.

She has joyfully led retreats, teen mentorship workshops, private healing sessions, lessons, camps, choirs, conferences, and classes for over 20 years.

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She loves sharing my joy of love, art, music and meditation by teaching how to build tools toward re-alignment, healing and cultivating creativity.

Connect with Jenna at https://www.acousticvitality.org/jennadalton .

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you\'ve questioned so much more than those around you. You\'ve even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited as Bob process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can\'t quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you is the world the people in it? Most importantly, how do I proceed now moving forward? We don\'t claim to have all the answers but we sure do love living. The question from time for another head of spiritual dub with your host Brandon Handley. Let\'s get right into today\'s episode.

Brandon Handley 0:41
Hey there spiritual Dude, I am haunted today with Jenna Walton. She is an intuitive healer, facilitator, teacher, artists, mother and musician. She\'s joyfully led retreats team mentorship workshops, private Healing Sessions, less than camps, choirs, conferences and classes for over 20 years. She loves to share her joy of love art, music and meditation by teaching how to build tools towards realignment, healing and cultivating creativity. Jenna thanks for being on. Thanks for having

Jenna Dalton 1:11
me.

Brandon Handley 1:12
Absolutely, I mean I think we\'ve been trying to put this together for like six months give or take Yeah, finally I\'ve been looking forward to connect and just having this conversation. So thanks looking forward to it so I was like to start this off with the whole idea that we\'re kind of vessels for source energy, right whatever that looks like to you and that you and I\'ll be having a conversation but whoever\'s listening they\'re like they\'re hearing something completely different right? They\'re not even hearing what we\'re saying like and this message can only be delivered through Jenna by source on this podcast to that person right now. What\'s that message?

Jenna Dalton 1:54
What is that message? Hmm? Love reigns. I mean that\'s that\'s kind of where I\'m where I\'m at right now is I just keep coming back to that to how can I cultivate more open heart How can I get deeper into love? I feel like that is my direct connection to the universe Great Spirit whatever you want to call it that that\'s that\'s my direct connection. So yeah, and then just all the fun ways to practice that all the fun ways to play with that. Well, while we\'re human beings here on this planet

Brandon Handley 2:33
every time I go to like any energy work session throws like your heart is really close off I\'m like I know right? Thanks this isn\'t news but it sounds to me like your heart might be a little bit more open

Jenna Dalton 2:50
because every time I get when they\'re like wow you need to close that up a little bit you\'re

Brandon Handley 2:55
you\'re taking it off for everybody like I saw that guy down the street his heart was like shut down and I\'m just gonna step in and fill that guy\'s you know fill that need so um, and you know, a little bit more to on you for the audience right I love the story you\'re just talking to a quick second before we got going here was that the whole idea of like, being born on a 355 acre spiritual community right for your first 14 years of life really into music and then like, packing up a u haul and going to the burbs I mean, I don\'t know if you specifically went to the burbs, but I mean, I can only imagine, right. Right. And like I\'m envisioning and you can tell me if I\'m right or wrong. I don\'t I\'m just making things up as I go along. But I remember going to a couple like rainbow family gatherings back in the day was anything like that? Or was it like somewhat different? Are you familiar with the rainbow family gatherings?

Jenna Dalton 3:48
Oh, yeah, yeah. It was a little bit like that, except that we had a farm that we had to run and it was somewhat self sustaining. So we had a lot of work to do. There were ditches to dig and cows to take care of and harvesting and planting and gardening and you know, there\'s endless work to be done. So, so that I would say that\'s the biggest difference than like, you know, when I would tell people Oh, I lived I grew up in a commune. everyone\'s eyes kind of glaze over like, like sexual.

Brandon Handley 4:19
I mean, that\'s the first

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Jenna Dalton 4:28
I mean, that\'s that definitely happened. Yes. But more so at least where I was, it was it really was a group of people who were trying to separate from like patriarchal society, capitalistic society and try something else. And so it was a group of really cool people coming together, spiritually striving, and then trying to figure out how to get along together while we\'re collecting eggs and cooking you know, we had to cook meals for everybody. We had to feed everyone we had and where I was, there was no city within 80 miles in any direction. So we were in the middle of nowhere. So we really had to, you know, toilet broke, we had to fix it. There was a flood, we had to deal with it, you know, the pipes froze. We had to deal with it. And so there was a lot of hard work to that was cool. It\'s cool.

Brandon Handley 5:21
You have running water? Yeah, I mean, I remember so I remember growing up. And my mom had some brands that I would go stay the summer with. And like, we had the pump the water, there was no indoor plumbing and what not so I mean, you\'re kind of living the life of luxury. Yeah, really? It\'s pretty cool. Okay. And then and then, um, and then you can you talk to me, like, the spiritual, what the spiritual community looked like, I guess, from then perspective, right, as a child to kind of like, your lens back on it. What are your thoughts?

Jenna Dalton 6:03
So growing up, it really was just kind of like a playground? I don\'t remember there. There definitely was we had a meditation class for kids where they would actually bribe us with little chewable vitamin C\'s if we sat still for long enough, which I thought now looking back, I find that so funny. So there was there was it was like a playground for me, when I was growing up looking back, I can see Wow, I really embodied a lot of I just kind of like got spiritual teachings in my DNA by being there, which, which I\'m very thankful for. And I feel like that\'s a that\'s the gift I like to pay forward into the world is that it\'s not it\'s never been like a struggle for me to have like a spiritual connection. Or I\'ve never wondered if there\'s a God, I\'ve never had that. Like, it\'s just always been there. And so that I feel, I know that I was just the gift that I got from that place. Growing up. I never talked about meditating, or we just did it. We just did yoga, we just did meditation. And it was just part just like we cooked meals or we went to the bathroom. It was just another thing that we did. So it was kind of demystified for me in that way. And it was actually weirder when we came up here and I saw that not everybody did that. That was that was what was weird was when I was 14 looking around going Oh, okay, I am really different. But I didn\'t really realize it until then.

Brandon Handley 7:32
Yeah, I mean, talk about that, right? Trying to go from this self sustaining spiritual commune, where you know, there\'s a little bit more togetherness, a little bit more of us as a whole. And then coming into I\'m sure like, there was plenty of like materialism to of sorts within that commune. But like, and then kind of seeing on mass with like hyper commercialism and all this other stuff. Prager you wasn\'t like sensory overload. And then like me having to go to school, I might have been mad.

Jenna Dalton 8:13
I was very angry. And angry You came up here. I mean, ironically, we came up here because there was no High School out there. And the closest High School was 80 miles away. And my brother, my older brother, like, took the bus there everyday left at 5am. And I just did not want to do that. I didn\'t want to be homeschooled. I think my parents were wise enough to recognize that I needed music and theater in my life. So in that way, I was very thankful that we came up here because I, the cultural piece was very lacking out in the middle of nowhere in Nevada. So that piece was really wonderful for me, but yeah, it was, I think the biggest shock was that, even though like you said these things existed, maybe like humming underneath the surface, it was my first experience with like, sexism, racism, homophobia, just flat out hating somebody for no reason. But that kind of disconnection. I did not experience that in the first 14 years of my life I just didn\'t experience that. Even in the ranch kids that I was friends with. We they would just that just wasn\'t there. And so that I think was what was most shocking for me. And I think that\'s where my anger came from, was that it was like suddenly I realized wow, this world is not the utopian amazing place that I thought it was because that\'s what my life has been for. For the first 14 years.

Brandon Handley 9:40
Yeah, for sure. So me I gotta imagine a lot of that was romanticized. Right and just kind of came tumbling down. Right. And I also think that too, you know, you\'re out here you\'re 80 miles away from any city and you don\'t have the air And I don\'t know to be honest with you, I mean, you know, what\'s the electricity situation like out there for you know you have running water so I don\'t know like, you know what\'s like the Wi Fi TV situation like but like, right so I mean, I gotta imagine, right there\'s like no electromagnetic brain interference right? Right maybe that\'s why all the teams are mad. Like maybe he\'s mad because like there\'s a lot you\'re like you\'re just kind of like energy passing through you and it\'s everybody else\'s shit.

Jenna Dalton 10:29
Right? Right and it\'s getting more intense because we have more and more data.

Brandon Handley 10:35
Yeah. gotta turn it up. Yeah. Yeah, yeah Interesting. Interesting for sure.

Jenna Dalton 10:42
I didn\'t go you know I went to school there are only 30 people in the entire school grades one through eight granted, but not a single person had ADHD, or autism or nobody. And, you know, as a teacher now I\'m like, I wonder how much of it was the fact that they were out? shoveling shit and working with cows instead of playing video games and watching shows you know that that I wonder how much of a difference that makes? Sure well,

Brandon Handley 11:11
I mean, you know, I\'ve got a I\'ve got a nine and 11 year old boy, right? And I too, was once a wee lad, that they\'re like, you need to sit still. I\'m like, Well, I don\'t really think right that we as humans were meant to sit still behind a desk at a young age for like six to eight hours a day. Yeah. And then and then and then the whole idea to have like, oh, and like you\'re not gonna let them you\'re gonna take away recess you\'re gonna take away this and now like, you\'re not gonna live and burn off all that energy. Right? Who came up with this plan? Yeah.

Jenna Dalton 11:48
As a Waldorf teacher I started every day with jumping rope for half an hour. We just did we just moved partially because of that because I didn\'t feel like I could ask anybody to sit down in a chair when they\'re young and exuberant and what they want to do is move and so we would Okay, we\'re gonna do math with jump roping. We\'re gonna do spelling with jump roping and then we\'ll go in and sit down let\'s exhaust you

Brandon Handley 12:10
brilliant I mean we\'re jumping so we\'ll do that jump rope to do yeah. So when you talk about spirituality like kind of always being a part of life and always being feeling can see what I mean. Quick, easy answers like what\'s what\'s spirituality mean to you? Right? What\'s that look like for you internally? And how are you expressing that?

Jenna Dalton 12:29
Um, I think that it\'s kind of it\'s a hard question to answer but for me it\'s just such a feeling of home it\'s just such a feeling of I\'m here I\'m comfortable in my skin I\'m in a I feel in alignment. Like I feel like I\'m in alignment with I don\'t know what is that with just the flow or just with like, my life is flowing and I\'m flowing with it and there\'s maybe something bigger and I\'m a part of it and just that connection and the play between those two things I don\'t know how else to to describe

Brandon Handley 13:05
that that works right? So I mean, right? And I think that\'s where the challenge comes for most people you know, someone\'s like, well this is what spiritual to me. It means right? And somebody else is like, No, no, no, no, no, you\'re wrong, right? Like, you can\'t be wrong that\'s that\'s that\'s your inner inner inner presence and if you\'re in alignment and if I read your story, I would say that you are like you\'ve had such a really cool cool life and I and you have found the places at least you know from reading your bio that you can able to express who you are in alignment with who you are for life that is pretty good, right? Yeah. So I mean let\'s move forward right from so you got a you got a high school, you\'re big into music, you know, what does that look like for you kind of going through the high school thing coming out of coming out of the commune and moving us forward?

Jenna Dalton 14:03
Well, you know, initially it was there was a mixed thing there was there was the part of me that was 14 and just ready because when you\'re 14, your world is expanding, right? And so my world expanded and I loved that piece. I was really excited to live in an apartment complex. The idea of that was like so amazing. They\'re just little things like that. We have a swimming pool, you know, stuff. And then I discovered choir and theater and just like completely dove into that and discovered the artist in me that was really thirsty. That was something that didn\'t get a whole lot of playtime out on the farm. And so that was amazing. And and then there was a lot of, you know, I also just really loved like the counterculture. I of course was very attracted to the counterculture kids and, and enjoyed adventuring in that way. So School was just a big, it was a big adventure, I got in a lot of trouble. And you know, just really, really, I really pushed it a lot. But one of the things that I had in my life was this, this nest of like 30 adults who had known me since birth. And were holding space for me even though I was you know, even though it wasn\'t physically on the farm anymore, they still knew and loved me. And I had and I reached out to them a lot with, you know, because I was pushing my parents away, which is what\'s normal to do when you\'re 14 to 18 years old. But I still had all these adults that I could gain that I could gain insight from and my dad connected me with a woman here Jane sad to see her she\'s amazing yoga teacher, oh, my God, that saved my life in high school. Just deepening my yoga practice. And so finding those connections was really, really awesome appear to so that so it wasn\'t, my adolescence wasn\'t as hard as it might have been. I you know, in some ways, it was a lot easier because I did have this, like I said, I had this support network, I had this village, that was kind of at that point, because the farm had kind of dwindled a bit, everybody was all over the country. So there was kind of a network of support there. That, that it definitely felt, I definitely felt that and thank goodness for that. I think it probably saved my saved my butt several times.

Brandon Handley 16:32
Now, you know, jotted down takes a village, right? You literally had a village supporting you. And to have gotten in trouble a lot after again, after coming from this culture of where you were to this other thing I can only imagine like, What do you mean, that\'s the rule? That doesn\'t make any sense?

I thought this was the smoking corner. Right? I can\'t, I can only imagine some of the conversations too. And just trying to try to wrap your mind around it. Right. Coming from, again, probably something that was a little bit more free, in terms of at least your ability to express yourself as you were in, in a in you know, sounds like the supportive people. Right? Yeah. And then and then go on also from a school of 30 in total, to probably like, I don\'t know, 30 per class, give or take, I mean, yeah. And then a quick question, too. So like, what were your parents done? Like, did they so they they came from the farm, and now they\'re doing what at the apartment, like working?

Jenna Dalton 17:46
My mom became she\'s, she\'s always been a teacher. So she taught there and she taught here. So it was more for her, it was probably less of a shock because it was just more kids to teach. My dad, however, was pretty much for lack of a better word, the guru of this spiritual community. He was the one that led classes led meditations, and he got a job at Nike. So he really had he had quite a hard time you know, that that also might have been part of the me acting out is that my parents were not super there because they were in survival mode. They weren\'t just like, after 16 years for them of living on a farm they were suddenly in the city and trying to survive how do we pay rent? What do we do? You know, all of the What do you mean we have to have insurance for that? What do you mean we have to pay for Jenna to do this in school? And you know, all of that stuff? So they I\'m sure. I you know, my mom the other day even was describing it, how she we\'ve made it through this day. We made it through today. Okay. You know, like, that\'s kind of where they were at. It was a big, it was a big jump for them.

Brandon Handley 18:57
Yeah, especially, I mean, going from guru to, I don\'t know, analytics, or whatever it was. Right? Just being like, I\'d be mad. I\'m mad now. Yeah. So then, you know, you kind of make it through. And you you kind of you start doing some adventuring? Right, let\'s talk about some of the adventures because I think you got some adventuring stories that Yeah, like I was saying earlier, it sounds like you just kind of flowed from like one spot to another doing your thing. I\'m sure there was like some sure there was some stress involved in there somewhere. But for the most part, you\'re just kind of going with it. So what what do you travel next?

Jenna Dalton 19:44
You know, the way I looked at it is that so you\'re 18 it\'s like you want to you want to initiate yourself. We don\'t have a village that initiate us anymore. And so I self initiated by doing all sorts of things. One of the big things I did was get into Tom Brown\'s tracker war. And I actually dropped out of college and lived in the woods for about three months with one other person. We killed a deer and use the tide we like we did the whole thing we were like living off the woods, we made moccasins out of the deer hide that we, you know, like it was, we ate squirrels, we really did. And so that was amazing. That was an adventure. And then I came back and found a really cool college to go to that that resonated with me. And that\'s when I started when I was out in the woods, we went on a week and, and, and teach children how to be in the woods. And that was the seed for me wanting to teach. So yeah, and that was kind of the beginning of that when I was when I was 18. And then that seed just continued to grow and grow as my adventures unfolded. And I, I felt like I was getting an opportunity to touch on a lot of different spirituality, Native American spirituality came in really strong. In Wisconsin, I had white, there was a shaman there. And there was another Lakota woman who taught us a lot of things. And so I felt like this is where I feel like the universe is in touch with me because I was in the flow of the universe. And then suddenly, just all these teachers came out of the woodwork all over the country, literally, I was traveling on Greyhound all over the country. And an African man would start talking to me on the bus and blow my mind spiritually. And then I\'d get off the bus. And then there\'s this Lakota woman who\'s ready to teach me Native American arts and crafts. I mean, it just really I get goosebumps now just thinking about it. Because I really was like, the universe was just saying yes to initiating me into the world of, of look at how much spirit there is, look at all the different walks of spirituality there are and how they all go to great mountain or great spirit or when light men or whatever you want to talk about. So it was quite, it was quite an adventure full time.

Brandon Handley 21:59
Would you say that you were aware of it being an initiation at the time and feeling that way at the time? Or is this a reflection?

Jenna Dalton 22:06
No, it was just adventure at the time. I go, Oh,

Brandon Handley 22:10
I see what was happening. Right. Okay, now that\'s got me, that\'s cool. It\'s good to know, right? Because again, as we\'re going through it, and we\'re young, and we\'re just adventuring. We don\'t kind of really catch all the things that are happening, right? And as we look back, we\'re like, Well, that was really cool. I can\'t believe uh, for me, I\'m like, I can\'t believe I didn\'t die. On a list of bad ideas, a whole bunch of them. And wow, you know, something somewhere was looking out for me, right? A lot of times, but so I wanted to hit on the school that you found for yourself that you\'re able to just kind of have kind of this alternative education, you want to share your school a little bit, right. And I wouldn\'t even know to look for it.

Jenna Dalton 23:00
Yeah, so this is Prescott college. It\'s an Arizona, I literally felt this, I found this college because I was with a friend who was looking up conservatories, or something and this book fell off the, into my hands and literally fell off into my hands when she was looking at other things. And it said, How to make a difference in the world college guide. And I was like, Oh, my God, they have this, you know, it was like kind of, it was one of those things. And it was in there. And this place was amazing. Because they let you write your own degree plan. You write a contract for what you want to learn for every class and you hand that into your teacher. So you\'re saying, This is what I want to get out of your class, and then your teacher looks at it and goes pretty good or no, I\'m going to actually be teaching this. How do you feel about that? So you\'re entering into a contract, and a conscious contract every time with your teacher, every class had 12 students or less, every class had an experiential option. So if you\'re learning how to teach, you spend over half that time in the classroom teaching, so I had like four years of teaching more than an average bachelor\'s degree in education would have because of the way they did it at the school. There were I mean, I took African inspired gem and dance or all these different courses that were offered. I took a course called environmental perspectives and whitewater rafting. That was my because I have this fear of water. I was like I\'m facing my fear of water. I am going to go whitewater rafting for 30 straight days. And it was awesome. By the end of it. I was captaining rapids so it was like, Yeah, okay, we\'re gonna do this. And so it just there wasn\'t a second of that of my education that I regret. There\'s so many people look back and they\'re like, What a waste of time college was. And I did not feel that way. I felt like I joyfully pay off my student loans because it\'s because it was every second that I was there. was unfolding. There was a, there was a spiritual element, an emotional element, a mental element, an academic element to every course. And it was a life changer. It was an absolute life changer. I can\'t say enough about that place.

Brandon Handley 25:16
That\'s I mean, it sounds awesome. Yeah, sounds awesome that you were able to find something like that, again. follow your bliss, for lack of better terminology, right? Just kind of follow your path and keep on stepping into something and things kept showing up for you. Yeah, that you were able to do that, right? I mean, being able to skills and spiritual living double minor music, right? Like, I mean, just, it\'s all of who you already were. It\'s like, oh, here\'s a place where I can continue that versus like, Alright, well, I guess, business admin, II, or, you know, this other thing that I\'ll never use. But these are all things that helped you to the integral and you\'re becoming?

Jenna Dalton 26:00
Absolutely. And that\'s where I discovered Waldorf education was at that I was studying alternative methods. And that was one of some older was the one method that openly talks about the spirit of a child, the Solomon child, and how you educate that.

Brandon Handley 26:14
Let\'s expand on that, right? I know that I mentioned for a moment that, you know, that\'s something that we looked at ourselves for our kids, because the last year we had an out of school, which to me was like, that\'s, that was awesome. Thanks, pandemic, and we\'re setting them back. And look, the school systems have changed since I\'ve been there, they\'re a little bit better. But at the same time, it\'s like, to your point, I don\'t know that they explore the spiritual aspect of that.

Jenna Dalton 26:42
Now, well, they\'re not allowed, you\'re actually not allowed to even talk about that openly, you get in trouble if you openly talk about that in, in public schools, that separation of church and state. So that means you can\'t even talk about the spiritual aspect of a child, you get in trouble. So I

Brandon Handley 27:00
mean, what\'s it look like at a Waldorf school, then in one word, education, at another

Jenna Dalton 27:05
school, you\'re required to meditate, if you\'re a teacher, it\'s part of your it\'s part of your what would you call it, your job description is that you hold the children in meditation, and you hold them in sacred space every day. That\'s part of the job description. And that\'s huge to me. That\'s why I chose that route. You know, it has its shadow side, because it\'s a private school. And so it only serves people who can afford the tuition. And that ended up becoming too much of a problem for me for my self. As far as like being in the, in the whole institution of it was hard for me, because I really wanted, I just, I\'m always looking for ways to make whatever I\'m offering available to anyone who wants it, regardless of especially regardless of their economic status. So that\'s the shadow side. But the wonderful side of Waldorf is that they teach through the arts. And in my opinion, the direct pathway to to the divine is through the arts, it\'s so easy to access. That feeling that I was talking about that feeling of flow and connection and contentment with just what is when one is doing art. And so it\'s integrated all day, every day, you\'re doing it all day, every day in the curriculum, and I loved teaching that way I felt, I felt really, I also feel like it was one of the few places that really understood children and how a day should be morphed for them. So as you were saying, sit down, be quiet, have a pencil in your hand at the desk, there\'s very little time that they spend in their desk at another school if if the Walder school is doing it, right, in my opinion, so there\'s, in fact a lot of places even have mobile classrooms and the first and third grades where they literally don\'t have desks, they have these benches that they turn upside down. And they act as you know, balance beams for most of the day. And then when you need to write you have a flat service but other than that, you know, it\'s it\'s pretty, it\'s a pretty awesome program of really honoring the child what I\'ve noticed is that now that my own children are 16 they are looking back going God you you like protected us so much and they\'re mad at me about that now as teenagers so with that, check them out. I\'m just keeping them keep maintaining their childhood so that so the Waldorf education is a lot about like, trying to keep the media out of out of a young child life trying to keep a TV out of the living room trying to make baking and, and rhythm of the day a big priority in the end. And so it\'s really beautiful. To a teenager, it\'s stifling, and horrible, you know,

Brandon Handley 29:51
oh, no, no, no, I get I get it now. And you know, absolutely. I mean, so I grew up and so Some backwards places in Virginia that I was very very remote and not being able to I don\'t know go hang out with all the kids and all the places or even have like a TV at some point it was I was like what the hell is this right this is this is bullshit and and and of course now looking back I\'m like wow how lucky was I that was absolutely gorgeous and man who what why don\'t want to give to like go back there right and have some more of that and and yeah don\'t you know you don\'t appreciate as a kid right? One of the things Who am I gonna play with

Jenna Dalton 30:40
greener The grass is always greener yeah

Brandon Handley 30:43
of course yeah i mean you know you\'re kind of on your journey then like even like take off like you get go out singing around the world, like you know. And you keep you keep going all this stuff. I mean, we probably talk a lot in this area. But one of the things I wanted to draw attention to was the fact that how you and I connected was through this lantern healing. We connected with Liliana. How do I say her last name? I don\'t know. Zola? Yeah, so we connected we connected through her through I think somebody that worked with her before. And so here we are, but I wanted you what, what kind of work are you doing with Lotus lantern? You know, what brought you to the podcast today. Outside of this? You know, this has been a fun conversation, of course. And, you know, what\'s up? What are you doing?

Jenna Dalton 31:33
Well, for now, I\'m doing a lot, the most, most of what we do at Lotus lantern is energy reading. So you can come here, have us look at your energy system, and look at what\'s blocked and clearing. So that\'s that\'s the magic of what we do in a very, very tight nutshell. And then what I also love about Lotus mentors, we have all these offerings, these workshops, so we have writers retreats, we have a Defense Against the Dark Arts class that\'s really fun Harry Potter inspired. I do a team group that\'s kind of like what I was talking about. I want to be that human in somebody\'s life who can hold space. And so we have a teen group that teens can come and do. Just kind of learn these skills. Liliana has this amazing abcdefg program that really is kind of foolproof and not woowoo which I love having grown up in as woowoo you know it\'s just really nice to have she really starts with the foundation of grounding, tapping into the earth aligning your energy and having that be the foundation for your spirituality instead of going for that enlightenment or going for that goal of oh she\'s like it\'s right here all the juicy and you know all the juiciness of life is right here and we\'re working with it and so those are the some of the things that we offer and it\'s it\'s really really fun working for her she is she is dynamic she\'s this amazing Latina woman that\'s just like really vibrant and she brings a humor and a joy to spiritual practice that that I absolutely love and adore that. Yeah, I did it for a while I was like in a Buddhist community or a yoga community and it\'s so serious and for me I just can\'t I can\'t do it I\'m too much of a goofball and she is a goofball. And so together we create ridiculous workshops where basically we\'re like laughing the whole weekend and then we realize oh my gosh, I feel really connected and awesome afterwards so

Brandon Handley 33:40
that was a you know, that was one of the things that when I first saw some of her work she was doing I think the the in the car medium readings or whatever I was like this is so great, right? This is just just like it\'s fun it\'s entertaining she\'s doing her thing and it\'s really legit at the same time and like this This man is just like it\'s fun. Right and I don\'t know if you checked out spiritual like the website or if you checked it out she\'s like, saying like I\'m so over like this is the spiritual thing and it\'s super serious and like heavy saturated and like be like sometimes I like the curse I like swear like to do all sides sometimes there\'s some things I like to do that they may not even be spiritual at all right? Or like they may not even like relate to what I\'m doing but like I don\'t care like that\'s not that\'s not the point of it. The point of it, I would say is like to find that connection to yourself like you were talking about where is that place that you can connect with within yourself that you call home? Yeah, right. Where is the place that you can go to with somebody like bully II and yourself. You can have fun and feel connected, right? Not like where you\'re like, we can\'t talk right now because I\'m connecting to God.

Jenna Dalton 34:56
Right?

Brandon Handley 34:57
This is not a good time for me.

Jenna Dalton 35:00
One of my favorite things about the first class, I pick up the leather shoes like I love troublemakers, that I was just like,

Brandon Handley 35:06
that\'s me, I totally.

Jenna Dalton 35:09
And that\'s what I love about Lotus lantern healing arts is it\'s all about whatever\'s coming up for you, that\'s what\'s supposed to come up, whether so let\'s say you\'re going totally unconscious, you\'re even listening to what I\'m saying. Awesome. You know, and that\'s, and that\'s how I\'ve always taught when I teach. That\'s how I just love. I love working with what\'s right here. And so that\'s really, that\'s great. Liliana is so inclusive, she is so inclusive, like whatever is coming in, she just greets it with, yes, that\'s awesome, we\'re gonna work with that, that\'s great. And to me, that\'s true spirituality, if you\'re, if you\'re saying I can only meditate when it\'s dark, and quiet and soft. But it is easier sometimes to meditate like that. But if that\'s the only time you can touch God, you\'re gonna be in trouble. Because we live in a loud, crazy world. And if you can touch God, while you\'re in the loud, crazy world, you\'re gonna be better off,

Brandon Handley 36:08
what are some ways that you found that you\'re able to do that,

Jenna Dalton 36:13
um, I think one of the biggest ways so she has all the, we have all these wonderful little tricks. So grounding room, I\'m going, I\'m walking into a room, and it\'s crazy, it\'s a party and as an empath, I could walk into that room. And then like you said, I\'m gonna have to fill in everybody\'s heart spaces that have holes. And that\'s really bad and dangerous and yucky for me to do energetically, right? So I just go into a room and I grabbed the corners of the room, and I ground it down into the earth, and I just set that intention. And so now I can be in the room. And maybe I\'ll just like reground, myself, I just set that intention before I go into the space. And now I can go in and have a party and be with people and I\'ve protected myself and I\'m mingling and going through and having fun and sharing my joy with people. And in that moment, I\'m feeling my feet on the ground, I feel aligned, I can feel spirit running through me. And I\'m aware of all of that. And I can use that to just totally be present in a conversation and give the gift of my presence. And those are the skills that I\'ve learned through Lotus mentoring. So that that\'s kind of what we teach is how to how to be a person and how to survive those moments. When you\'re like, overwhelmed. Okay, I have this toolbox that I can go to. So those are some of the tools. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 37:35
yeah, no, that\'s great. So I mean, I guess when you\'re grounding yourself, is it almost like a lightning rod? For you, were you letting the energy kind of pass through you versus kind of holding on to it is that sounds working for you? Yeah. And I feel it like

Jenna Dalton 37:51
going through like I like to, I like to imagine it coming out from the earth. Going up to the front of me, I like to imagine something coming down from and going down the back of me, and then just keeping that going, like, that\'s what feels good to me. And again, I think for other people that maybe you have something else that works for you, but that\'s the one that works for me, because I am a goer and a doer. And I like I like it to be moving. more towards

Brandon Handley 38:18
you got like a vortex kind of running. Okay. So I love that you\'re sharing what you\'re doing through Lotus, and through Lilya. But I\'m sure that you brought some things of your own with you, what are some of the things that you\'re owning that you do like that you brought to this? Like, I\'m because my guess is she doesn\'t just take anybody on and be like, Oh, you can just train with me? Maybe she does. But I\'m sure that there was something that you brought, which is like, I need to have you with me, what are some of those things?

Jenna Dalton 38:49
I mean, I think you\'d have to ask her, but my guess is that, that there is a connection that I have with children and a connection that I have with teenagers. That is very special. A knowledge that I have of where children are at spiritually and that\'s that\'s pretty rare in this day and age to have like a there\'s a lot of people that have like pedagogical understanding of children, but to have an understanding of where somebody at spiritually developmentally is a that\'s kind of my specialty. So that\'s something that and then the other thing she says I love is and this was also this is just the artist in me and also the Waldorf training is that I tell stories, I tell stories all the time. So when we\'re doing a workshop, I\'ll be like, that\'s just like grandmother spider who blah blah and then all of a sudden we\'re all in a kindergarten class listening to storytime. And so that\'s also something that I like to bring. It\'s the musician and me the artist in me that like likes to spice anything up with with a picture with an image with an imagination and kind of making life more exciting. That way, I\'m not really big on lectures, you know?

Brandon Handley 40:05
I mean, it\'s, uh, you know, I\'m a great storyteller by any stretch of the imagination, but I understand how it\'s supposed to work. And the deal is you, you don\'t tell him, you show him, right. And so because storytellers creates that visual and shows shows the story. Teen Spirit, right Sounds Like Teen Spirit 100 Alex, what\'s that look like for you and being able to kind of suss that out. And being able to tell where where the teams are in their journey, or

Jenna Dalton 40:41
my work with the teams has been magical. I feel like they\'re teaching me way more than I\'m teaching them. Basically, what I\'m doing is like holding space and being sometimes the only adult in their life is not telling them what they have to do. So that\'s my gift that I give them is like, here\'s a big open space, you\'re allowed to swear you\'re allowed to tell me how depressed you are, you\'re allowed to be anxious, you\'re allowed to tell me how much you hate your friends. Like anything goes here. So that\'s my and then if they\'re giving to me is holy cow. It\'s really hard to be a teen in the world today. And I am like, I feel like every day I\'m meditating and asking for more advice from my guides and my, my inner wisdom of how to help with that, because it\'s, it is a very intense world to be a teen, if you imagine your own adolescence, and then amplify it by having your social network be there 24 hours a day, seven days a week on several platforms.

Brandon Handley 41:43
Yeah. First of all, I\'ve never get anywhere after that, right? It\'s like, I mean, I don\'t know about you, but and my wife and I was talking about the fact that like, if we\'d had that shit growing up, like dunzo, right, like, I mean, I can only imagine the stupid stuff that would have posted too late, you know, it\'d be just like, any, any anybody else that does it on like, spring break, right? You know, you\'re like, Oh, right. So, so glad that I didn\'t have that. Yeah, yeah.

Jenna Dalton 42:15
So that\'s what I\'ve been. And, and again, I feel like Like for instance, his last group that this last girl\'s group, the teen empowerment group that they did, what they just kept asking about was how do I deal with toxic relationships? How do I deal with toxic relationships? How do I deal with toxic relationships? So we just really started digging into like, what is that and you know, I teaching them how to be strong enough in themselves that whatever comes at them, they can just go Wash, wash or wash? You know that that\'s what I\'m teaching them. And then they\'re bringing to me like okay, this time it didn\'t work. So what do I do then? And so then we talk about it in the circle, okay, what would you do? What would you have done?

Brandon Handley 42:57
Just kind of explore the scenarios with them and just, I guess, you know, again, sounds like you\'re you\'re giving them support and encouragement and the empowerment and Wonder Woman Yeah.

Jenna Dalton 43:11
Yeah, we play a lot of games too, which lightens it up so that it\'s not oh my god my whole life\'s over because that one friend doesn\'t like me anymore. Okay, well, let\'s let\'s make that into a game and let\'s face let\'s play around with it, that person\'s going to roleplay your friend and now you have the power to make her say whatever you want. And then they you know, so there\'s only things that we do that we play around with that kind of helps lighten the mood to because that\'s and that\'s the gift that I learned from Liliana too is just that you can have a darkest craziest stuff coming at you but if you breed it with a big smile, it\'s got no power it\'s got no power

Brandon Handley 43:50
so that\'s great. That\'s great. So if you know somebody checking in and checking checking in today right let\'s do this first we\'ll do I was liking this to spiritual speed dating somebody checking in on the podcast today. They\'re looking for the next spiritual speed date, right? Jenna could be you. Bachelorette number one. Let\'s have spiritual questions. What are we thinking today? What are we thinking today? Oh, you know what? RDS at one? Two? What\'s the key? Nope, don\'t like that one. What would you consider to be two major turning points here let\'s go with the

Jenna Dalton 44:32
E major turning points in my life. First one was moving from the desert to the city major turning. Another major turning point was becoming a mother. That one knocked me on my ass the way in a way I could not even imagine I fell. So in love. I fell so in love. I my whole definition of love changed the second my

Brandon Handley 44:59
absolutely Right. I mean, that\'s a game changer. game changer. I think that, you know, you\'ve already learned you know, love, you know, love, you know, love. And then you know, you get in your relationship, you know, love, then the kids show up you\'re like, Oh, this is a whole soft, soft mouse. Right? There\'s a what you thought it was love was like a puddle. Right now you\'re now you\'re in a vast ocean? of it? For sure, for sure.

was asking myself this earlier today? I don\'t know that I\'m still seeking. Or that I found these Gee, would you consider yourself a seeker? Or do you think you found what it was that you\'re looking for? And you\'re just continuing to explore that space? Where are you out of that?

Jenna Dalton 45:52
Yeah, I do. I think I\'ve found and I think what my journey is right now is to is to have a daily practice of touching into that found place. But that\'s my work right now. It\'s like, I have all the all the tools that I need for being happy. And now I have to use them. That\'s, that\'s where I\'m at right now. And in the journey. Yeah, that\'s it.

Brandon Handley 46:21
That\'s awesome. What do you think, is one or two of your most recently found tools,

Jenna Dalton 46:29
sitting at the base of a tree. That one\'s been really big, I used to do it a lot when I was little, like, I would just do it. And maybe it\'s just from living in the city and being kind of confined to our house during COVID times. But I found I need sometimes to just get out and actually be touching, physically touching a tree. I don\'t know what it is about that. But I just need that reminder of something that\'s got its roots way down deep, deep in the earth. So that\'s, that\'s been one. And I guess the other one is just I don\'t know how this has happened. I feel like it\'s an it\'s an after effect of a lot of spiritual work. But I just don\'t take things very seriously anymore. And so when stuff starts coming at me, it\'s just kind of like wonderful growth opportunity, as opposed to Oh, my God, I\'m gonna die and my life\'s over, you know, so. Right. And I again, I don\'t know exactly how I\'ve cultivated that other than it just seems like the only options.

Brandon Handley 47:36
For sure, for sure. Right? Like, I mean, alright, well, here we go again. Yeah, at least I don\'t have to wait in line for this ride. Awesome. So this I mean, bend, bend, blast, I think that you\'ve got a lot to share, who, you know, in marketing world, right? And you know, you\'re always posted a fire niche, or Who\'s your ideal customer who you really trying to reach out to Who do you feel like you would serve best? At this point,

Jenna Dalton 48:03
I think the person that I would serve best is a pert the person who really wants to take the next steps to connecting to a to a spiritual practice, or a spiritual world. That person that\'s experiencing stuff and feels like they\'re going crazy. I\'m that person who can say actually, you\'re not crazy. It\'s just let\'s just look at things a little differently. And then you\'ll see that you\'re actually really powerful. So I really love I mean, I love working with all people anything you give me a love, but I really love it when people are just taking that first step or a new step into something into the next level. Or maybe it\'s their first step ever into like, I think I\'m gonna start a meditation practice or something. I love that I love working with that person who\'s who\'s ready and willing, like I had an experience. I know there\'s something out there. I want to dig a little deeper. Can you tell me more? And I bet Yes, they yes for me.

Brandon Handley 49:04
So you\'re setting them up, right? That\'s perfect. You\'re setting them up. So they don\'t crash and burn. There\'s at least like a little bit of a it\'s almost like you\'re setting up the big fluffy bed cows where they just dive into it. Right? All right. Awesome. So I know you\'ve you\'ve got the lowest you\'re at the lotus lantern site, where should people go specifically to connect with you?

Jenna Dalton 49:27
I have a website that\'s acoustic vitality.org. So that\'s where you can get direct contact with me. And yeah, that\'s it. You\'ll see I\'ve got my music on there, my art and then all that. If you want to do a healing session or if you want to do a session with your team, I can do all that kind of stuff. So

Brandon Handley 49:49
So I was wondering, do you do any of the energy work remote?

Jenna Dalton 49:55
Yeah, I do all of it remotely. Right. And that right now? Yeah, we don\'t monetize. We\'re

Brandon Handley 49:59
gonna take the fix. This broken for sure for sure how do we you know I think he wrote something that was really good too that I enjoyed was to something about you know, rounding the edges right versus you know just kind of will say that it\'s almost like the skulls of Michelangelo when he\'s doing the the marble work it\'s already all there it\'s just you know, refining it so yeah,

Jenna Dalton 50:27
rubbing off those cabinets those rough edges that we\'re always doing. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 50:32
Well just so so much fun to have you here. I love the work that you\'re doing glad that we had the opportunity to connect. Thanks for you know, sticking with the long way. I know like I said that it\'s been a long time, but I\'m really glad that we\'re able to connect today and

Jenna Dalton 50:47
thank you so much. You\'re awesome. I

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Rich Lewis | How to Center Your Mind for a Day of Peace

Published: Oct. 3, 2021, 11:32 a.m.
Duration: 47 minutes 20 seconds

Rich Lewis is an author, speaker, and coach who focuses on centering prayer as a means of inner transformation. He teaches centering prayer in both his local and virtual community and offers one-on-one coaching. Rich’s newest book is titled, Sitting with God: A Journey To Your True Self Through Centering Prayer.He publishes a weekly meditation, book reviews, and interviews on his site, Silence Teaches. He has published articles for a number of organizations, including Contemplative Light, Abbey of the Arts, Contemplative Outreach, EerdWord, In Search of a New Eden, the Ordinary Mystic at Patheos, and the Contemplative Writer. ​Rich has been a daily practitioner of centering prayer since June 1, 2014. Centering prayer has been so life-giving and life-changing that he feels compelled to share his journey with others who wish to learn more. Rich resides with his family in Ambler, Pennsylvania. Learn more about him at www.SilenceTeaches.com.

Brandon Handley 0:40
one. Hey there spiritual dope. I'm on today with rich Lewis. He's an author, speaker and coach who focused on centering prayer as a means of inner transformation. He teaches centering prayer in both his local and virtual community and offers one on one coaching, which his newest book is titled sitting with God, a journey to your true self through centering prayer. he publishes a weekly meditation book reviews and interviews on his site. Silence teaches, he has published articles for a number of organizations including contemplated flight, Abbey of the arts contemplated outreach aired world. Much I say that right Earth world,

Rich Lewis 1:17
I don't even know

Brandon Handley 1:19
in search of a new, I can type it but I can't say in search of a New Eden, the ordinary mystic at patheos. And the contemplate of writer, which has been a daily practitioner centering prayer says June 1 2014, saying prayer has been so life giving and life changing that he feels compelled to share his journey with others who wish to learn more rich resides with his family in Ambler, Pa. And to learn more, check them out at his website. Silent teaches that calm, rich, so glad to be on here today. Thanks for joining.

Rich Lewis 1:51
Great, yeah, thanks for having me. I

Brandon Handley 1:52
appreciate it. Absolutely, absolutely. We were chatting a little bit guys, before we got started here, rich and I aren't too far apart. And we can actually talk a little bit about doing this in person. just didn't happen this time. But it's really cool to know that in my mind, there's somebody cool doing cool things that's local, like you are rich. So by that we're able to connect through through this right? It's funny because we go to the you know, we go to this, we connected off of a podcast matching site, and we got hooked up locally anyways. I always like to start these off with the whole idea that that we're vessels for source God, energy, divine creation, and you know, we speak in a way that is speaking to somebody else, right that it's of service to somebody. So you and I are here for somebody who's great as good as can be tuned in to the podcast today. And there's a special message coming through you that can only be delivered through you through this podcast. What's that message today?

Rich Lewis 2:56
I would say a silent prayer. So many people probably don't think of prayer as wordless meditation. But I would challenge people to try a different way to pray rather than their prayer with words. I would encourage them to try silent prayer and see how that can help them and transform them and heal them. Cool. I

Brandon Handley 3:19
mean, let's step into it. Right? So what what is it that got you into new silent prayer? Like what was your journey to finding this space?

Rich Lewis 3:27
Sure. I guess I had always been attracted to silence. I just didn't know what to do in it. I have read books 2011 2012 gentleman by the name of karma Coleman, I read a number of his books. And he talks a lot about silence and how healing and transforming it was. I don't remember him sharing a practice in it. I've since learned he actually does practice centering prayer, but I don't remember reading it in his books. But so I would just sit in silence for one to three minutes. And I didn't really know what I was doing. But I thought well, maybe it's gonna do something for me. But then in late 2013, I was perusing Amazon looking for a book to read. And I stumbled across a book by Amos Smith called healing the divide recovering Christianity's mystic roots. So I began reading the Kindle version. And in the book, he talked about a silent prayer practice he had been doing for about 15 years called centering prayer. So I was immediately intrigued, because now I have a practice that I can do in this silence. So that's how I found silent prayer. And then I literally just reached out to him on his website, we began a back and forth email dialogue. And we're actually friends at this point, and I'll say it's his fault that I wrote the book too, but it's a good fault. But um, so I read about centering prayer in his book, and then I just began reading other centering prayer practitioners books out there and I and really the best way to do it, though is is to begin practicing so I began seriously practicing it in June of 2014. So that's real. So I really stumbled upon It I guess, internally, I knew I needed to do something. I just didn't know what it was. And then it found me in his book on Amazon.

Brandon Handley 5:12
Like, you were already searching for something. Do you have an idea? Like, you know, you're you're already attracted to the silence, you are already practicing this somewhat centering prayer in silence. What was it? You think that led to to even that space? Right? What was it that was making you explore the silence? Then what? What made you? Why do you feel like you were seeking? Do you have an answer? Something that

Rich Lewis 5:42
I think I just wanted to a deeper relationship with God, I think I just thought I wasn't doing all I could do. And there was, there was more to what my current spirituality looked like, and that it lacked depth. And it needed more depth than it needed. It needed more trust and faith in God. So I was just missing something. But I didn't know what it was.

Brandon Handley 6:11
I like that. What What do you feel? So what was your practice at the time that you kind of fell into this?

Rich Lewis 6:21
At the time? I guess I would, yeah, I read the Bible. And I read a lot of books by different I was kind of exploring, so I was reading a lot of different authors, and books on Christianity and on Jesus, and he, some of them just maybe more scholarly in terms of who is Jesus? And what did he do? When did he did he really exist? And what are the what are some of the things that he did? So I was doing a lot of that, and then it was mostly verbal prayer. And it's a time right now in in between churches, but at the time, I was going to the United Church of Christ, which was is a non denominational Protestant church. So I was enjoying it. But I guess I just felt that there was something missing. But I didn't know what it was. I think I was just exploring, like, I'm not completely whole, I'm not completely happy with where I'm at, not unhappy and unhappy with God. But I figured there had to be more depth to this. And there had to be just something more to what I was doing.

Brandon Handley 7:25
You had a strong framework within Christian religion. You were just looking at where could you fill this in? And you found it, you found some of the fill in through your inner inner seeking, right, and then somebody inner seeking, and I think that's really cool that right, you found what it was that you were looking for, in the centering prayer. And through I guess it sounds like you went through Christianity, mythic, mystic roots. Right. I'd love to hear some more on that to just kind of, you know, what that looks like. And sounds like centering prayer was a part of some of the mystic routes. Is that fair to say? Yeah,

Rich Lewis 8:10
I guess it would be because if you're referring to the book, so Amos Smith's book, recovering Christianity, healing, the divide, recovering Christianity's mystic roots. In his book, really, two things jumped out at me one, one was centering prayer and a practice and a lot of talk about silence. And that's silent prayer, went all the way back to Jesus, and then came forward, you know, through the desert, mothers and fathers and just through all kinds of people up until up until the present. And then he and he also talked the other sets. The second thing that jumped out at me in his book was he just talked, he called it the Jesus paradox, Jesus being God and human at once. And that just intrigued me how he talked about that, that it was at once Jesus was God inhuman, and that he wasn't just human, and he wasn't just divine, but he really was both. And then that we, we too are, we have divinity in us. We're not God, but the divine image is within us. And we're human. So like, Jesus, we are human and divine, but with a little D, as he called it,

Brandon Handley 9:15
for sure, for sure. I mean, that makes sense. I mean, I don't think, you know, my personal take would be, you know, there's really no capital letters within the divine when it comes into that, right you either you kind of recognize that spark or you don't, right, and you feel it and it sounds to me like you, you kind of hit on this space through your centering prayer where it just kind of like you said, You felt the word that I was used as numinous and I'm not sure if you're familiar with that word, right? You felt like that kind of overcome and touching? connection, stronger sense of connection with your spiritual self. And then you're like, I gotta go tell everybody about this. Right? You got to let everybody You know, because you found a way that resonated with you. And I also like the idea to, you know, kind of what your what what you seek is seeking you like you were looking for an answer, right? You were looking for something and then you found it and you've really kind of grabbed hold of it, because you've contacted the author and now you're part of like the you're part of a community of the centering prayer thing. Right that I know, I've never heard of it, but it's probably a big part of your world right now. Can you tell me a little bit about what that can be?

Rich Lewis 10:27
Sure, well, centering prayer. So I'll give you some of the history of it. And that'll give you some of the background. So centering prayer was created in the early 1970s. It was actually three Trappist monks, so three Catholic priests. So actually, father, William managers discovered the method in a book called The Cloud of Unknowing. And then because at the time, Thomas Keating, kind of charged him and basil Pennington with, we need to find something for the Christian community. There's Transcendental Meditation going on, but there's really not a silent practice for the Christian community. So father, William manager kind of stumbled across the method in the Cloud of Unknowing of how you do it. So that was in the early 1970s. And then from that point, the three of them really started sharing it with other clergy, and priests. And then they really just began rolling it out to the public. And then in 1984, Thomas Keating, and a couple other folks started what's called the contemplative outreach organization, which is contemplative outreach.org. So that's been around since 1984. And that's really the main centering prayer organization. So if you go to their website, you'll see a ton of resources on centering prayer. And you'll also see, right now, it doesn't matter, because everybody if they're meeting their meeting, zoom, but pre meeting, prior to COVID, you could find a group in your state. So if you lived in New Jersey, you could go to the site, and you can probably find a group that might practice near you. And you could go there, and to maybe their weekly meetings, or whatever frequency you wanted. Or even internationally, you could go in Italy, and see if there's a group in Italy or in Spain or Germany. So the main center in for organizations started, I guess you could say, another 10 ish years after centering prayer kind of kicked off, and began. So that's, I guess, the main communities contemplative outreach, and they began forming chapters throughout all the states and throughout different countries in the world as a way for people to connect with each other. But now you can, you know, connect with with, you could join a zoom group, wherever you want. They're probably practicing centering prayer for a one hour, they might have a one hour meeting, and they're meeting and you could probably join them via zoom. And it doesn't really matter where you live, if they have a zoom link, and you want to join them. So that's, that's a little bit about the community there. Yeah, it's a virtual community now, but it's also an in person community prior to COVID. And probably as things begin opening up, I'm assuming a lot of the groups will start having in, you know, practice, or meetings, without zoom and in person as well, when they're more comfortable.

Brandon Handley 13:13
Chris could tell us a little bit a bit about what those in person ones were like prior to COVID.

Rich Lewis 13:18
I actually never went to some of them. Well, no, actually, I take that back, I did, there was a Episcopal group that I found that met near me. So some of them, some of them were short. And I think there were as simple as 30 minutes in the end, they would meet early in the morning before people went to work. The one I went to was on a Sunday, so it was one hour, and they had a little bit of more community with it. So they before before you had your 20 minutes centering prayer sit there was a reading, and then you talked about the reading together. And then you had your 20 minutes set. And then there was kind of a closing reading and then just some community and discussion before everybody disbanded. But some groups I think will time it and they might do it around dinner or for lunch. So they might actually eat a meal together afterwards. So each group is a little bit different. Some are in and out it's 30 minutes and they're in and out. Some groups have a call it book ends, they have something to do at the beginning and something to do with the end. And they have maybe a little bit more community around it. So when I went to I guess a little bit more community around it and it was a little bit over an hour

Brandon Handley 14:30
and you said was Episcopalian but I mean is it is it kind of it's not as as the practice itself nondenominational or anybody's welcome into this groups.

Rich Lewis 14:38
Yes. Yeah. So then do you think about contemplative outreaches? Yes, I mean, they believe in one in a lot of interfaith dialogue, but to the practice itself is isn't confined to really any group is anybody can practice centering prayer, and these chapters that are all throughout the states in the different countries. anybody's welcome even if The church, even if it's, you know, at a church, it's Welcome to anybody that wants to come, you don't necessarily have to be a member of that church to go to the centering prayer meeting, it just so happens that church link themselves up and put themselves on the contemplative outreach website to say, we have a chapter and we're going to hold our meetings, you know, at the church

Brandon Handley 15:25
a little more inclusive, to be able to just, I mean, churches inclusive, I think in the most part for and they should be. But when you really open it up to everybody like that, to invite everybody into to have this experience and something that can have such powerful impact. Let the way that it's had on you. Having that be open everybody. I think that that's that's wonderful, wouldn't it now. So you know, what would we? What would our practice look like? Let's say I'm ready to start rich, and you start to give me the lowdown I want to I want to start my own practice. What do I need? What do I need to start doing?

Rich Lewis 16:00
Sure. So I gave the histories and I want to say, Well, how do you do this thing called centering prayer. So you, you sit comfortably with your eyes closed. And then to begin your centering prayer sets, you introduce interiorly, we call a sacred word of one, two or three syllables. So you might choose God or ocean or Jesus or some type of short syllable word. And that that really signifies your beginning your prayer, and your opening to the presence and actions of God within. And then during the duration of your sets, you can pick, I guess, they generally suggest you work your way up to so eventually, you're doing a 20 minute set, but in the beginning, maybe you're doing five minutes or 10 minutes, but whatever, whatever suits you when you best you can best handle if you're beginning it. But so use your sacred words to begin your prayer. And then whenever you engage your thoughts, your thoughts and what I mean by that is whatever you begin thinking about what you're doing before your sit, where you begin thinking about what what am I going to do after my sit and what does my afternoon look like, you realize you're no longer sitting with God, you're sitting with yourself and your thoughts in your planning and plotting. So you reintroduce that sacred word, just to bring you back to the present, and you let go of all your plotting and planning. And you basically just do that when needed. So it's not used as a mantra, there are mantra based practices, but centering prayer just uses it when you needed when you engage your thoughts. And the other thing I'll say is it doesn't have to be a word I I quickly discovered I was more of a visual person. So I started you I changed to an image and you can use an interior image to bring yourself back to the present. If you're more of a physical person, you can use your breath and then lastly, some people don't want to close their eyes or they're fearful that they might fall asleep. So they stare at a spot three, four or five feet perhaps on the floor just to keep them centered and focused. But essentially that's that's how you do the practice. And again you're not using the sacred word as like as a tennis racket or baseball bat you're simply using it to come back to the present moment and let go of your thoughts and when you begin engaging them realize you're not sitting with God anymore that you're sitting more with yourself and what you are planning

Brandon Handley 18:18
definitely when you when you get started with you know a practice like this when you first start off trying to dedicate any more than five minutes to something in this super busy world where oh my god I should be doing something else right now right I should I don't have time for this you know five minutes of meditation so are the 20 that you kind of end up at it given whatever you get to like I don't have 20 minutes for that I got this to do I got that to do I gotta go running off so when you introduce this you know can definitely be definitely be a challenge to to get it initiated so thanks for you know, kind of saying hey, looking at it, start small, work your way up. And then as you're talking about the sacred word or the visual and essentially what I'm hearing you you're setting an anchor for yourself for something you can kind of come back to or even like touch base, like a home. Wait there touch base, there's there. I'm back into I'm back into where I need to be. What would you say for you? What are some of the fruits I guess of centering prayer, Ben for you?

Rich Lewis 19:21
Sure. So we I mean, we enter centering prayer simply because we love God and we want to trust God and just trust the process. And then God seems to bless I would say they're unique for each practitioner. So when I look back over the years, and look at how have How have I changed. There's a lot of different ways I've changed. I mean one, I think I'm just more excited to live life. I had an excitement for life, but I think I just have a much more excitement for life. I think I'm more present. And what I mean by that is like during centering prayer, if you think about it, you're letting go and coming back to the present moment. And then because you continuously practice centering prayer day after day, month, after month, year after A year, that let go posture kind of comes with you and your everyday life. So I can let go of things that I don't need to focus on and honed in on what I need to. So I'm more present in my work, I think I'm more present to people. And I'm more present to my daily tasks. And I'm much more confident person, I get I think the center outside of the center pursuits, I noticed kind of nudges to get outside of my comfort zone, and try and do new things. And then I seem to have wisdom for tasks that kind of pop into my head throughout the day, or things that maybe previously kind of, I didn't know how to do what I didn't know how I would, I didn't know how I would complete the tasks. So it's great fruits, for me, great fruits for me, and you probably could ask someone else who practices it might tell you some of the same things. And they might tell you a whole lot of other things that how their life has changed.

Brandon Handley 20:58
But not for nothing. These are great lists for right, bountiful abundant if I could, you know, toss some words to it. The love the let go posture. I think that that's just that's it. That's a great, great takeaway there. We talked about being more confident, where do you Where do you think that's coming from out of this practice,

Rich Lewis 21:19
I would say and that was probably that's probably I got that's one of the biggest things for me because I don't think I was nearly quite know I wasn't much more confident person. And what I mean by that is I'm doing things that would have scared the heck out of me prior to centering prayer, doing a podcast like this, right, the idea of even writing a book that's, you know, almost 300 pages, and the daunting task of writing a book and then not only writing it, trying to get a publisher to publish it. Speaking I've been doing a ton of just speaking in front of small and large groups right now on zoom, but that that scares the heck out of me. So a whole lot of confidence to speak in front of small and large crowds a whole lot of confidence just to write a book that I know is going to take me a couple of years and then after that know that I need to keep pushing because now I got to find a publisher so I guess I'll have persistence so not only confidence but persistence that I'm just going to keep going and this books going to get published

Brandon Handley 22:28
you're stepping beyond currently what you thought was like a safe zone you're expanding yourself you're kind of the idea of kind of letting go and let God to like you know, let let that light your way kind of letting go some of the how, as it were, and just you know I think he talks about at the beginning having you know more more faith right What did you say you know, have you previously lacked the spiritual depth, trust and faith and these are things that you have found through your practice and I think that when you find that for yourself when you find that you're connected deeply with source and spirit and God that you're no longer just doing it by yourself if that makes sense. Right? Like Hold on a second I don't have to do this as like rich does that fair to say?

Rich Lewis 23:26
No, it is it is because because if you think my The title of my book is sitting with God a journey to your true self through centering prayer and that's exactly what I'm doing I'm sitting with God and discover my true self and my and trusting God so that I sit with God then I get up and walk with God and take my true self actions the actions that God and I together are partnering on So prior to centering prayer that you're right i was i was doing trying to do things as rich Lewis after centering prayer I'm doing things rich and God together partnering so i think i think of as I sit with God and then I get up and walk with God it's not See you later God and I'll see what the next set is. No, God comes with me and we partner throughout the day to get what to get done. what needs to get done that day.

Brandon Handley 24:15
Now pass fantastic. And the idea to when you're talking about getting these wisdoms from for tasks that like you just did kind of just up here. Again, letting go and let God but it also I mean, would you correlate that a little bit to the Akashic records, right? Is that do you feel like that's kind of where that comes from?

Rich Lewis 24:36
To say that again,

Brandon Handley 24:38
Atlantic Records, are you familiar?

Rich Lewis 24:40
I'm not familiar. I was gonna Okay.

Brandon Handley 24:41
Yes. I mean, you know, there's there's this I want to say India, Egypt, predates predates Christianity, for sure. But it's the whole idea that pretty much all that can be known exists somewhere already, right. And they They call this like the Akashic field. Right? So real similar, though to kind of what you're doing, like, I don't even know where this wisdom came from just kind of came to me through prayer through connecting with God through source, that type of thing. So real similar, I didn't know if you had made that linkage before or not.

Rich Lewis 25:16
I had not. But I mean, that makes perfect sense. Because there's really all we need is Is there anything you need to do and accomplish is, is there and available? It's just a matter of being open to it, being open to it and seeing it's

Brandon Handley 25:30
for sure, for sure. And you know, to that, to that point in degree, right. If you're not open to it, then you won't see it. Right. So you what you've done too, is you've you've, you've allowed yourself to open up to something, you've given yourself a willingness to see what you wouldn't have seen again, just as Richard Lewis, right, like I'm open to any anything that's possible. I think that that's, that's, that's, that's hard to do. Right? What would what would a like, you know, let's go back to rich Louis 10 years ago, what would he say to the guy that's talking now?

Rich Lewis 26:15
He may be confused, or she does have a lot of questions or say I had a you do, he'd be asking how do you do what I lacked the confidence and I lacked the wisdom, and I need some help. I want what you have, but I don't know how to, I don't know how to do it. And I want to have more confidence and I want to have more guts just to go for things that scare me. So I think that that rich Lewis was afraid to come out of his shell afraid to take chances of afraid to try something new and was worried what other people would think, you know, if I if I tried something, and I look like a fool

Brandon Handley 26:54
that's powerful, rich, I mean, I think that you know, that mean, right there, you kind of sum up, like the just how far you've kind of come along in your own life. And I think that, uh, I think that's super powerful. What I'm, God got a good question there, too. We'll come back to it, we'll get back to it. But so, I mean, I definitely enjoyed I enjoy it. And I think that, you know, you gave us you know, kind of how to get into that space freight and getting there and how we begin the, the, the, the, the contemplated or the silent prayer. What and you mentioned this to you know, sitting with God and your true self what you want to expand on on what you mean by truth. Oh,

Rich Lewis 27:38
sure. So your, your true self, to me is is the person God wants you to be so during centering prayer, that we let you let go, and which can include many thoughts you tell yourself that such as you know, I'm not good enough. I'm too I'm too young to try this, someone more experienced? Should I'm too old to do this, or I'm just no good or I'm a phony. You let go of all the thoughts you tell yourself, and you connect to your true self, which really is God and, and with God, really? You're unlimited. I mean, if you want to trust God, you can move forward with God and with God's power. God, I think God is very patient with us and kind of waits for us. And maybe sometimes, baby nudges us, I don't think he's, he's not. He's not like, super aggressive. I think God's very patiently waiting for us and maybe sometimes saying, Come on, let's get going. But he's going to wait because he knows you're not, you're not quite ready. So your true self is like the person God wants you to be the person God knows you can be. And I connect to it through centering prayer, because I let go of who I'm not and connect to. Once I let go of who I am not that I can begin seeing who I am and what I want to do, and the things that God wants me to do.

Brandon Handley 29:00
Question By the way, so the question was, you know, letting go of how people think about you right? Because you were afraid of that and the answer was just there and what you just said it was you connected to the truth of who you are, and you kind of let that stuff go What does that mean what does it look like for you to start to let some of that go I know that you know we can say it's it's really interesting because it's easier to say once we've gone through it right like I just I just let it go Yeah, I mean No, it's I was with God, I was with spirit and everything was cool. I was like, I just let it go. But I think that that's our hindsight of it now because of where we are versus kind of what it looked like before that before it looked like I don't think I should this is me anyways is like I don't know if that's such a good idea. I don't know if that's so good. I'm terrified. I'm gonna go ahead and do it anyways. But then when you find like, when you're out there speaking in front of these groups when you're jumping on the pod Cast, when you're doing all these other things, you find that you don't catch on fire, you don't explode. And there's not that much to fear. And people are actually in my guess, welcoming you here, like they're hungry for what you're bringing in them. That's, is that what your experience has been like? I mean, let's talk about kind of against stepping through your fear and taking that courage and letting go some of those things that letting go of the who I am not what's that look like?

Rich Lewis 30:26
No, I mean, it's it took the whole process took courage, courage, because, you know, I didn't know, Amos actually kind of he was the one that challenged me to write the book, he thought I had some, we as we had a lot of back and forth dialogue, he thought I had something to say differently than his book. And he's the one that challenged me to write a book. But that the idea of that, you know, was daunting that how am I going to write a book so that I had to kind of, in my mind, but it actually was funny the way he did it, he said, No, come back to me in about two weeks with what what are your thoughts about the Jesus paradox? What are your thoughts about centering prayer? So I came back to him two weeks later, and then he said, there's your chapters go, right. But obviously, I'd never written a book. So I decided just to write one chapter and give it to him, and see what he thought. And then to my surprise, he thought he thought it was good and had an interesting take. And then that kind of gave me the confidence that I could, I think I can do this. But now I gotta figure out well, how am I going to do this? So I, I decided to write the book. The book mostly got written on Saturday mornings from six flute or not, I got up and went to the local Starbucks, put on a baseball cap, grabbed my laptop, got a cup of coffee there and wrote for about three to four hours and Saturday morning. So I could come back home, and then really spend the rest of the day with the family who was just getting up. But they come back to the question is, everything I did was scary. And I didn't know, I didn't know, I didn't know the I knew the end result. But I didn't know how to get there. But I kind of had to teach myself and learn what's the next step? Because each time you kept you keep taking a step, you know, the path continues to become clear. So I kind of taught myself, Well, how am I going to write a book, I'm going to write it on Saturdays. And then after that, then I had to write a book proposal. Amos kind of gave me a template to use. And then I did the same thing. Saturdays, I wrote, I wrote the book proposal, but then different things like that. And then after doing that, I had to think about how am I going to market the book? I don't know. So I'm going to start listening to some of the people that know. I listen to some podcasts, and I read some books, and how do you market a book, and then I began putting some of that stuff in play before the book started coming out. Then I realized why I need to do podcasts, and I need to do some guest speaking. So he just kind of take the next step. So each step was scary. In fact, even I did, I finished it about a month ago, but I was doing a phase zoom study for anyone, anyone could come. And it was just a week of chapter by chapter each Saturday, from one to two, I did a kind of a summary of one of the chapters in the book, and then, but it made it real informal conversation. But the idea of that scared the heck out of me, and I made myself do it. So everything I've done, I guess you could say I was scared to do, but made myself do it. And then looking back was so glad I did.

Brandon Handley 33:30
who challenged you I mean, didn't do it in a way that said, Hey, come back and read this whole book. He, again, did a little piece at a time. He came up to you and he said, What are your thoughts on these two subjects? And you gave him a couple thoughts. And then he said, Alright, now you can expand on that. And then, you know, you had your conversation back and forth. And, and he found something that for you. And I think the power of having someone in your corner like that, I think is is something not to be 100% glossed over. I mean, obviously you've done the work and you put it all in and you've done all these things, but to have just that extra nudge of support and somebody who believes in you, unfortunately, outside of your family, too, right? Because everybody your house loves you, right? We all know everybody like your lovable guy, right? You know, and so the family already loves you and they already it's getting that outside person to just give you a little nudge, right outside validation. And and you can just begin to always liken it to Oh, ionic propulsion, right? Are you familiar with ionic propulsion?

Rich Lewis 34:46
I'm not on that. So go ahead.

Brandon Handley 34:49
Like I'm not a super scientist, but the idea is that, you know, once you get out of gravity, Earth's gravitational pull and each time you add a little bit of speed, on top of what you're doing, it can be the same thrust over and over and over again. But essentially, it compounds throughout time. And essentially you're going super fast. Because there's no there's, there's no friction in space. So it's really similar to that you got somebody just giving little nudges, and you're not really you're not there, you're not doing anything faster, you're just building upon the speed that you've already got. Right? So it's a little bit like that when you've got somebody like Amos in your in your corner. And then additionally, when you take each one of those steps, you're building up momentum, and you're kind of giving yourself a groundswell and you're finding yourself in this this again, space to 10 years ago, you'd be yearning to get to. So again, I think this is a massive accomplishment for you. And I think that it's an exciting time, because my guess is you're finding a hungry audience, you want to talk to me a little bit about how the audience is receiving this, what some of the response has been, and, you know, how do you feel like you're helping some people?

Rich Lewis 36:06
Yeah, so a lot of what I'm hearing what they liked about the book was one it was, it was helpful, really, for new people to centering prayer. But it was also helpful for people that were already practicing it because it helped them go deeper in their practice. But I guess what they most liked about the book was that I wrote, I was honest, and I shared my journey. And I shared how it has healed and transformed me. And so there's a lot of me in there. It wasn't just a book about God and theology, and how do you do centering prayer, it was a book about, you know, how centering prayer is healed and transformed me and what is, what is a true self, and who is my true self? What are the fruits of the practice for what are the fruits I've discovered, so it was a lot of sharing my journey, and how it has healed and transformed me. And people really like that, because it was written in easy to it wasn't written in an academic style, it was written in a very easy to digest style. So the book that had 14 chapters, and the chapters are fairly short. And then within each chapter, I had various headings. And the sections could be a page to a two pages. So it was a, it was an easy read, and people enjoyed it, enjoyed that. And then at the end of each chapter, I had questions for reflection and answer, which I got a lot of feedback on that it helped them before they moved on to the next chapter, just kind of evaluate what they just read and answer some of these questions for themselves. So they just said it was an easy read for the everyday person. But it was neat, too, because I shared my journey and was honest and vulnerable.

Brandon Handley 37:48
What I like too, about what you're doing there, with you being vulnerable, you're sharing your journey. And you're asking people to stop from going to the next chapter, right? Taking x and doing something that is tangible. At the end, they're doing a little bit of reflection on what they've just read. So that kind of adds a stickiness to it. When you do something like that. Rich, I think that's a really great a good idea. What about your family? What would you say? What would they say, has changed the most about you? or How was the impact on your family life. And because of this,

Rich Lewis 38:23
I would say, I think I'm just more present and more willing more, really there when I'm there instead of being there, but maybe mentally not there. So I think it's helped me be more present when we're enjoying each other's company, and letting go of work and other things so that I'm giving them 100% of me, or as much as 100% of me during that time. And, and the nice thing too is that my wife, she doesn't practice centering prayer, and that's okay. It's not It's not for everybody. But the neat thing was my two of my kids were curious, because I used to practice my second set in the evening, and they would see me going to the basement and they wanted to know what I was doing. So both of them asked me so I invited them both to come down, but they both wanted their own time. So I have to bring them down individually. But they wanted to know what I was doing. So I showed them and then we actually would do it together. So my son was eight at the time, we would do a one minute sit together and that was pretty neat. We would light a candle and then read a verse from the contemplative outreach app which is you use it the time to set the timer for one minute that just said open my heart to your love. We'd read that together then we would do the one minute set up together and then blow out the candle and then just kind of talk and have some fun. And then my daughter wanted to do it too but she he was afraid she'd fall asleep. So she centered with her eyes open and I know I mentioned that earlier. Some people don't want to close their eyes so she kept her eyes open. I got her up to about 10 minutes. She didn't know it because I would say How long do you want to go and she say six or seven minutes and I would just set the timer for 10 because she didn't know what I was setting it for you And then she would she didn't realize she was actually sitting for two pretend minutes. So they got they did it with me. And that was kind of a neat thing that they did it with me and they wanted to learn more. So I said, well, let's come down and I'll show you what I'm doing. And we would practice it from time to time and still do

Brandon Handley 40:19
it and to something you can all do together so that you know, you're actually getting to spend some family time this quality, right? There's not a TV involved, there's not you know, a podcast or a phone, I mean, I'm sure using the app, but whatever, you know, I mean, it's you know, some time where you can just sit there together and you're giving them I would have to say, an advantage right over someone who's never had that experience feel sit down there think focus a little bit and just kind of be in that silence, especially, especially as we move faster and faster and faster and faster. Through throughout the these days. What um, you know, so let's let's do Who Who do you think you would be reaching out to? Who do you think should be reaching out to rich Louis, check out the book, who's your ideal client, as they say, your avatar, if you've been doing your marketing, right, rich? What's that look like?

Rich Lewis 41:16
Actually, ironically, I would say because I do coaching, and I am, I look back now that I look back at the coaching and the types of clients I have, they fall into three categories. So the first type is, is just someone that's brand new to centering prayer. And is, is not a self starter. So they need some help with it. And they don't, they, they just feel they need some help with it. And if they don't get some help, they're never going to do it. So there's that type of person. So brand new to centering prayer and need some help with how do I do it? When do I do it, and just sharing that experience with someone to get them moving. Then the second type of category is people that are already practicing, but they want to add a second set, they want to add more depth to their practice, and relationship with God. And they want to further explore what is this idea of my true self? And who is it and am I acting from it. And then the third type are actually like, priests, clergy, pastors, they come to me and say, I'm taking care of everybody except myself, I need some help with my self care. So I need you to help me start taking care of myself and to hold me more accountable because taking care of everybody except myself. So I've coached some people like that. And some of them have been priests, and some of them are pastors of churches and Episcopal priests, where they're doing, I guess, a wonderful job with their congregations. But they're doing not so wonderful job taking care of themselves. So I'd say all three, just because I've been approached by all three types of people, so the book can help all three, someone new, someone who wants to go deeper, but it can also help someone that already is immersed in God as a pastor, but just not taking good care of themselves.

Brandon Handley 43:07
Yeah, for sure, right? Everybody needs that. Even the caregivers need care. Right? There's a it's a top of their game. So rich, I mean, I think that's great. And it's good that you know who your audiences who you're working with. And again, I was kind of like, look at this is kind of a spiritual speed dating podcasts, right? You know, people are coming through, they're looking for who they resonate with, right? Who do they who do they resonate with? Who can they find that's going to be able to, just like you did pick up your book, read it, and they're gonna be like, wow, rich, you nailed a spot on for me. This is it, you know, and you know, you could be somebody famous, right? So somebody like that, but I also look at it. And I have a bank of questions here. That was like to ask what C to do to do. Well, is spiritual speed dating. apps are number one and spirituality here. Talk a little bit what is our greatest distraction, rich?

Rich Lewis 44:10
I guess our greatest distraction is probably us and believing the thoughts we tell ourselves that aren't true. And throughout the day, I have to take a step back and say, why am I Why am I feeding myself these thoughts that this isn't, who I am, and what I can do and what I've got accomplished, or it's not even something that probably even going to happen? A lot of worry and anxiety. So I would say the biggest distraction is the thoughts we feed ourselves or become anxious and worried about that really don't have any reason to happen. They're probably not going to happen. But we've convinced herself that we need to be wary, we need to be fearful, or we've convinced herself that we're just not confident enough and not the right person for a particular task. So our thoughts really mean our thoughts. What we feed ourselves is our biggest distractor.

Brandon Handley 45:04
Right, amen. And centering prayer is something that can help you with this right? It's something that's helped you throughout time. So rich, I want to say thanks for your answer. I really appreciate you coming on and sharing this practice I certainly wasn't familiar with I didn't know that, uh, I didn't know that tm had a competitor. Right? I thought that that was an interesting instinct, interesting information, right? I mean, Krishna is like, Hey, what do we got for for this? Right? And I think that's pretty cool. The idea that believing those thoughts are not true, right? And what how challenging is to separate the thoughts that we're telling ourselves from the truth. Right? I think that's really powerful, really proud for observation. Rich, where can we send people to connect with you find out more about the book, maybe find out about some coaching if they're looking for it?

Rich Lewis 45:50
Sure. I mean, the best place is just my website, silence teachers calm if if they subscribe, they'll get my free I have a free short ebook on centering prayer if they want to learn more about it. And then if they want to further explore it, they can obviously check out the book which is also on the website. And then for those that if you fall into one of those three categories, in need of coaching and it's something that you feel you can have it we can help you they can feel free to reach out to me. And then as well, many church groups, they they have adult faith groups or prayer groups or or some churches that have centering prayer groups can connect with me and I'll speak with them via zoom these days. I've been doing a lot, a lot of that and I actually have one on Saturday that I'm doing to a Catholic Church in California. So my website silence teachers

Brandon Handley 46:41
calm. Awesome, rich, thanks again for being on today. Appreciate.

Rich Lewis 46:45
Thanks for having me. I appreciate it. I

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Jaclyn Johnston | Manifest it Fast: The Spiritual Guide to Manifesting Your Dreams

Published: Sept. 26, 2021, 2:47 p.m.
Duration: 47 minutes 3 seconds

Meet Jaclyn Johnston and the author of the best-selling book, “Don’t Feel Stuck!”  she works for world-renowned physicists, and she created Manifest It!®

Learn more about Jaclyn on her website where she has her blog and links to her best selling books that will help you to manifest the life you have only dreamed of here: https://themanifestit.com/about/

Brandon Handley 0:01
Boom here hey there spiritual tube I am on here today with Jacqueline Johnson of the manifested calm Jacqueline I connected, I were just talking to her a little bit earlier about how we connected on Instagram, I really kind of dig everything that you've got going on with your manifestation space and kind of what you're putting out there the messaging. And we felt like it'd be a good idea for you to hop on the podcast and share some of the messaging out and what it is that you're doing and how others can, you know, find that and implement that in their own lives. So Jacqueline, once you give me a little, give the audience a little bit of a background on yourself. And we'll jump into

Jaclyn Johnston 0:39
thanks so much for having me, Brandon. So I am My name is Jacqueline Johnston. And I'm a number one best selling author of the dolgeville stuck books, the series, and I also am the creator of the brand manifested and the podcast show host of the same name manifested.

Brandon Handley 1:05
Awesome, thanks for and again, thanks for hopping on here today. So as you know, right, we're vehicles of source right sources kind of always come in through us and speaks to us to help others out, right? Like the more that we open ourselves up to be of service to others than then the sources kind of like, blows through us. And it's in that vein, right that when you're here and you're speaking to you and I are speaking, you and I have a conversation, but the person on the other end is going to hear something totally different. And it's gonna hear this message that can only be delivered through you today, Jacqueline, on this podcast at this time, what is that message that is coming through safely,

Jaclyn Johnston 1:45
I have to one, like, literally time is an illusion, it doesn't exist. I work with physicists at a university. So I'm really, really anything and everything that you see other people manifest, it can manifest for you as well. And to us soon as you fully surrender to the outcome, and I do mean fully surrender, it just, it just shows up so quickly. Yep.

Brandon Handley 2:22
So when you say fully surrender to the outcome, were you saying

Jaclyn Johnston 2:25
I mean, there's this method that I use, and I call it manifest manifest faster. And I use it by writing into reality. So every single time I write something down that I desire, and I match it with current blessings, or past achievements, with what I want to manifest in what I want to achieve, but I write it down as if it's already happening, or has happened, your brain doesn't know the difference between what's true and what's false. And neither does the universe, because it just responds to you through the boomerang effect. So whenever I write something down, and I just take about five minutes a day to do it, it programs and reprograms. And in helps my brain to understand that you know what this is possible, it was possible for somebody else, so it can be possible. For me, it's like learning how to drive a car, learning an app on your phone. You remember when we were kids, and we were learning how to tire fuse. I mean, really, and truly, you can do this, you just have to give your permission is to give yourself permission to do so. And by writing it down, I have found that it manifests manifest faster.

Brandon Handley 3:47
For sure, so when you're writing these manifests, and you know, when you're when you're manifesting, is it? Is it repetition of something? Or is it the creation of something? Or is it the development of an idea is kind of what's that process look like for you as

Jaclyn Johnston 4:06
part of the process of fully surrendering is training your brain. And so it does involve some repetition, but not to the point where it's all you focus on because then you focus on the need, rather than then just being open. So it's really and truly learning how to appreciate everything that you do have, what you've accomplished so far, and building upon that through the compound effect of each day. And I mean, that's really and truly How do you learn the lyrics to a song that you hear for the first time and you really like it, you set the intention to learn the lyrics to the song and you may not know it after hearing it the first time around, but you do learn it because you set the intention to do so. So It's the same thing when it comes to writing in reality, you set the intention every day, hey, you know, I'm open to this. And I trust the process. And I trust the universe because it doesn't matter when or how it happens. I just know it's a possibility. And then when you mix that with other things in your life or your career, then you're not focusing solely on that particular desire. And it helps you to fully surrender. And then when you fully surrender, the universe just responds so quickly.

Brandon Handley 5:40
I had a full surrender moment this morning. I couldn't find my complaint. Right. And it but it but it was it really is in the same context, because it's a and it was funny because I felt myself in this moment. Like, I can't find it. And like, my chest started to get all tight. Like I wasn't even like, I was like, frantic rain like that. It wasn't a big deal. But it was like, I felt like this panic, I felt like this thing. And I was like, Oh, I'm putting all this like yuck energy. And like finding my phone, I'm like, this sucks. I was like, Alright, well, I guess I won't have it with me, I'll just roll on out. And I turn the corner is like, there was like, right there to my right. And I'm like, and it was like just a matter of just letting it go, just a moment of just like letting it go be like, I would like to have it, I don't have to have it, it would be great if it showed up sooner rather than later. But whatever, we're just gonna roll it, that kind of what we're looking at,

Jaclyn Johnston 6:35
because the it's like with the wave in the the waves in the ocean, you know, there's so much tension that pulls back when the wave comes back into the ocean. And it reminds me also have a bow and arrow, like you're you're stressing out and you're and don't get me wrong, I live with anxiety every single day, and I'm a type a person. So I I'm constantly surrendering and practicing, it's a lifelong journey. But you get better at it with practice. And so you have that tension, you know, mentally in your emotions. You're like, Oh, my gosh, I can't find my phone in your case. And you're just like I need, I need to control this outcome. I need to control the surroundings. I need my phone. And then as soon as you like you said, you just said okay, well, whatever, I'm just gonna roll with it, then the wave surges forward, and you start hanging 10 because then instantly your manifestation or your desire, whatever it is, shows up. And yeah, instantly, that arrow just propelled forward towards the target. And it really and truly is learning how, like you said, to let go and stop controlling the how and the when, and I know everybody hears that all the time. But it really truly is a, a practice. And it's a daily practice. Because as human beings in our society, we're trained to want to control everything around us. Because let's be honest, the unknown is scary. And I had that same experience. Most recently. I mean, I've manifested so many things in such a short amount of time in my life. But most recently, a couple of weeks ago, I gave up gave up but let go and gave into the how and the when of wanting to move to Cincinnati I have right now live in Dallas. And I've been with my boyfriend for four years. And I were you know, we want to be closer together. And I just kept like, feeling frustrated, up until about two weeks ago, because I thought, well, I'm gonna have to find a job. And then, you know, I work at the university with businesses, and I love my job. And I do I love working with them. And once I finally just was like, You know what, I'm not gonna stress about it. It'll come in to play, it'll, all the pieces will come together when it's the right time. And then as soon as that happens, I literally got a phone call from the University of Cincinnati. Also in insight, it's like the College of Medicine, but that's still science base. But yeah, so I got a job offer to work in the College of Medicine to do their accounting, and I got actually offered a lot more money, then I'm getting paid here. And so I realized now every time I realized this, whenever I do manifest anything and everything. I realized that if I just stop trying to control the outcome, then things either manifest exactly how I expect it. Or much better comes to me and it's usually much better, I would say 95% of the time, it's much better than I can, you know, expect or or imagine because honestly, I wasn't expecting the salary increase, like it is and I just felt so blessed in so now everything's happening so fast. And the universe, I mean, it's a boomerang, it just responds, but you got to let go of the control.

Brandon Handley 10:32
That's great. The, the, the, the idea is if I, if I'm, if I'm following this or something better, right. And then I think it's interesting that you've, you're a type a person working in a scientific field and or space. And you're, you're also in this space, you're also in the manifestation space. We know I'm guessing, also that it didn't happen overnight. You weren't always this person. So how did you? What's your journey look like?

Jaclyn Johnston 11:05
Yeah. So when I went to, I went to college at UT Austin. And when I first got there, I thought I wanted to work in physics. And then my senior year, I realized, Oh, my gosh, I really love literature. And I love writing. And I'm an INFJ, and the Myers Briggs, which is a famous psychology test, which basically means I utilize both hemispheres of my brain equally. So you know, some people are extremely, like genius level on the right side of their brain or the left side of their brain. And I utilize both equally, so I'm a little bit more well rounded, and not really genius level in one particular subject. But yeah, so I ended up graduating with an English major and a minor in Communication Studies. But then I ended up in real estate, and I didn't like it wasn't for me, I was doing accounting in it, which is funny, because I don't have an accounting degree. But with my experience, I was able to wind up back in the physics area, doing math all day long. But I also have the pleasure of writing books. So I have three published books now. And I have my own business and my own products, like mugs and journals, and I have the podcast. And I also, you know, write for media platforms. So you know, when you put yourself in a any kind of confinement, that limits you. And so, I believe that because everything exists simultaneously in the universe, then why not have the best of both worlds. And if you, and I know it's hard, because I want to control too. But if you trust the process, it will happen so much faster for you whether it's getting out of debt, I used to be in $29,000 worth of debt. And I got out of it. And I got out of that debt two weeks after I fully surrendered to that. And that was a few years ago. And I mean, I manifested a brand new car of my choosing for free. I got a brand new washer and dryer set for free. And I met my most favorite person in the whole world, Bruce Springsteen. And there's just an i O. And I was single for nine years. And when I say single, I mean, could have checked myself into the convent single, I did not date. And I just decided I'm going to write him into reality. And I did that within 10 months. We've been together for four years, and now we're moving, moving forward in the relationship. And he's a chemist, he's an inventor in chemistry. Yeah. So yeah, why not have the best of both worlds? It's possible. And it's possible for someone else and it's possible for you, why can't it be?

Brandon Handley 14:08
So let's look at just starting small, right? Let's just let's just because, correct me if I'm wrong, but this a lot of this is going to work off of your beliefs, right? What are you willing to accept? And so let's start off in the beginning, how do I start off in this space? What do I need to do,

Jaclyn Johnston 14:30
I always recommend, don't focus on one particular desire. You don't focus on anything and everything that you would like to manifest so that way you're not focusing and creating vibrations of needs and lack. And you can start with smaller goals. And you can start with bigger goals. And you can start with, I don't know like mid range goals. I say just allow it. Anything and everything. And then as you practice each day with writing into reality and shifting, you know what's possible for you, which my my books, my three books that I have that don't feel stuck series, I guide you day by day on how to do this. And I literally put in all of my it's like programs but in a book, and I put in everything that I did for myself and still do for myself into these books. But it's it's that compound effect of the daily practice. So I know some people say, oh, start out with a small goal. Or some people say no, just focus on the one thing you want. And I'm saying why limit yourself just, you know, talk about anything and everything that you're open to. And then as you shift, your self esteem will start to shift. Because let's face it, most people want to believe in something that's outside of themselves. And through my books with the cognitive behavioral training, which is psychology, I literally guide you and teach you how to start trusting yourself more, which in turn is trusting the universe, because we are the same elemental particles that are of the universe. So yeah, as you practice this practice makes progression and progression brings the manifestation. And again, being open to anything and everything. Blessing wise, coming your way, it'll give you a confidence boost, and then over time, you'll start taking manifesting action is how I call it, but it's basically taking action towards your goals. So when you show the universe what you want, because physical action is a much stronger vibration than just thinking something, you know, a thought is just a thought, it's a fleeting moment of feeling a stronger vibration, because you put focus on it. But action action is where it's that and you want something to manifest, write it down, because that's action, right? visualizing. And also just, you know, taking steps and saying, hey, universe, I mean business, I'm showing you what I want. And then you got to, again, trust the process surrender, and it will happen so fast.

Brandon Handley 17:24
Right? So I, you know, here Amir was saying the the idea of, you know, writing it down is an action of itself. And not to limit yourself to just starting small you can you can, anything, right? You're saying anything is on the table? Why not? It's all here. And it's all here at the same time already, is something I'm kind of hearing you say, saying to like, you know, time is an illusion. So what's that look like? Right? What do you mean, it's all here already.

Jaclyn Johnston 17:56
So I like to tell people, if you close your eyes, and you imagine this clear, protective bubble around you, and then outside of it are all of your desires. I'm saying, you know, pop the bubble and let it come to you like it's floating around, you know, but if you keep that separation of, Oh, I don't know, if it's possible for me, then you're just you're just keeping it at arm's length. And so I say pop the bubble, allow it to come in. Don't worry about how it comes to you. Or when it comes to you just be open to it coming to you. And another scenario I like to use is I call it your manifestations are delivered by ups universe Parcel Service. I know it's so cheesy. But you know, when you go online, and you put in an item that you want to purchase, you click it and add it to the cart. And then when you go to check out, you put in your shipping address, and then you hit submit, and then you know that it's on its way to you, you know that it's coming. It's the same process when it comes to your desires. You say, Okay, I want this, and you click the checkout mentally. You put in your shipping address, meaning taking action, like taking steps to make it happen. And then you just trust that okay, well, it's on its way to me, and then as soon as you fully stop trying to control your surroundings, it shows up right away.

Brandon Handley 19:34
I love that. I mean, as you're sitting there talking, I'm like, wow, you can make a fun game out of that and of itself. And while I'm thinking of that, in terms of manifestation, you know, we've been talking about positive manifestation the whole time, right? So this also works negatively, you know. And I guess, you know, we can ask people who are looking for the evidence that it's an accent to kind of like, trace their thoughts back one way or another. Oh, where did that come from? How did that show up in your life? Right? So how do you, you know, for just just to get people started, right? Or even like kind of sharing your story? What uh, how did you get the free car? How did you know that's over your life? I'm curious on the story, just share with the audience like what's Tell us about that one? Yeah. So

Jaclyn Johnston 20:25
I, I remember, I had a is a Honda Civic, and I loved that car so much, the AC was broken. And since I live in Texas, it's super hot in the summer. And I just remember, I would leave campus, it was so hot, and I the windows rolled down. And I, every day, I kept imagining myself in my car with a nice cool breeze in my car, a working AC. And I just kept imagining myself feeling cool. And, you know, it's kind of like when you know, when you start talking about mosquitoes, and how they fly around you, and then they, they bite you, and then you get all itchy. And the more you talk about it, you're gonna start feeling itchy. Or if you have to use the restroom and you start talking about water, then you know, it's that urge. So I just kept telling myself on the drive home every day from the campus, like, Oh, my AC is so cool, it feels so good in here. And all I wanted was an a working AC in my car, it wasn't an old car, it just was a broken AC, that's all it was. And then about, I would say it was like a month later, I got a gift that I wasn't expecting. And I got some money. And I realized, oh my gosh, I can get a car of my choosing for free. And I didn't have to pay a dime for it. And it again, it's that whole, you know, 95% of the time, it's much better than you imagine coming to you. So why limit yourself into thinking that there's a certain stopping point in terms of your desires coming to you, again, I didn't think I would get a new car, or get money for a new car. But I just I was just so thankful that I was focusing on my AC working and then a bigger blessing came. And it's the same thing. I mean, with recently with, you know, vote now moving to Cincinnati and working on our campus affair, you know, I just, I just tried to focus on how thankful I am for everything. But I also imagined myself, you know, experiencing what it is that I want to experience. And like you said it can work in a negative way as well. And I always love to use the bug analogy because yeah, you start filling he I mean even just talking about it, I want to scratch my leg right now even though I know there's nothing there. But you know, your your body is not a solid, it's tiny little particles just bouncing around all the time. So your perception is your reality. We want to think that things are a certain way, but they're really not. And we're the same energy that makes up the universe. And energy just influences itself. So you might as well be the master at it and influence it in a way to where you're open to anything and everything coming to you and things that you want will come to you in a much better way. Well,

Brandon Handley 23:50
Jackie, Jacqueline, I need to plan this out. It's got to be linear. I've got to have a plan needs to be my way. I've got to pay attention to the plan. I've got to act it out. What the hell? How? We're out. Yeah. So what do you say?

Jaclyn Johnston 24:03
I'm the same way my, um, my grandpa is a Sicilian American. And growing up, he taught me everything happens in sequential order. So it again, it's like you're trained a certain way to expect things a certain way. And so you have to practice every day, even if it's five minutes. Take those mental breaks that alarms in your phone to go off so that way throughout your day when you're at work, you hear the alarm and you go, oh, mental break, and you just sit and relax. And you can meditate or you can just sit and write it out or type it on your computer. And just like focus on everything that you're thankful for it can be literally because your coffee tasted extra good that morning, or it could be something even bigger. You know if you had a big bowl I think come your way, but I, I literally focus on how thankful I am that, you know, I have hands that work and, you know, legs that I can move and, and I just build upon that compound effect of, of building and don't get me wrong I love to be in charge I love to take control. And I'm a planner. I'm a huge planner. And that's okay. Because that's what I did. I started looking for places in Cincinnati a week ago, and I thought, Oh, it would be cool to be over here. Oh, it'd be cool to be over here. But I didn't attach myself to it. I just thought, Oh, I'm open to it. Same thing with Bruce Springsteen. I had a dream at night he pulled me up on stage was obviously during dancing in the dark. And in my dream, you know, it was great. It was fantastic. I woke up I laughed. I said, huh, that would be awesome. But oh, well, if it doesn't work out, drove to work that day. And literally I kid you not one month to the day later, I was at his concert. He pulled me up on stage during dancing in the dark. Same thing habit.

Brandon Handley 26:16
I love it. Now what about somebody? Well, Jacqueline, that's great. Sounds like you have a lot of coincidences in your life,

Jaclyn Johnston 26:23
incidences. So yeah, you can call them coincidences. You can call them blessings. You can call them forks, you can literally, like identify it, and symbolize it and have it represent whatever you want it to be your, your, your own limit. Because again, everything exists simultaneously in the universe. we collectively as a society, call a laptop, a laptop, but really, it could be a table.

Brandon Handley 26:57
Right? Like say, it's just like, you know, call it what you need to call it. I'm gonna call it what I'm calling it, and it's working for me. Right? I mean, that's right. That's the gist. And you know, it doesn't have to be just because I come along, and I'm like, well, that's coincidence. That's whatever and like, doesn't sound like you're up for it. Right? I mean,

Jaclyn Johnston 27:15
you get to choose how it represents for you, you get to choose how you want to focus on it. And just because somebody says something a certain way doesn't mean it's actually a certain way. It's their perception. And that's their reality. Because, again, energy is just constantly bouncing around all day long throughout the universe, in colliding into itself, and shaping itself and molding itself. So you get to choose, just like if you were like, say your hand, for example, if you push on the skin on your hand, it moves and changes shape, because you're influencing it, and you're making that decision, but the universe it responds to you. So that's why I say you're your own limit. And you can call it whatever you want. Like in my new book, don't feel stuck with money. I have the reader pick out their favorite song, and change up the lyrics. And you'll change up the lyrics and put money or abundance in certain spots. And so that way, whenever you start hearing your favorite song, you you associate money with a positive thing rather than a negative thing. But it's your choice. Either way, I think it's hilarious. When law of attraction people try to say, Oh, no, you have to do it this way. And I'm like, Who says you have to do it that way. You say it has to be done that way, because that's what you choose for your own reality. But there's all kinds of ways you can manifest. I mean, you don't have to write it down every single time. I like to write because for me, it works. But I type onto my laptop as well. And that totally worth. It's just the whole point is just to get your mind to be more open and more accepting to whatever rather than things being a specific way, shape or form definition.

Brandon Handley 29:11
Fair enough. And I get you know, I guess that if you're just looking at it in this specific way, shape or definition, that's what you're tuning your brain to right. That's what you're tuning your mind to. And that's that's the limitation, right? Those are confinements I believe his words, used earlier confinements to how, how this can show up in your life. And again, you're like, Well, you know, here are the ways I suppose show up. Here's what I see in my mind. This is what I accept as proof that it's working. Whereas he just be like, again, letting it go. Right? Not be attached to the outcome. And chances of it showing up seem a little bit

Jaclyn Johnston 29:51
better. Yeah, because you you literally get what you expect and And that expectations, those are built through what beliefs and beliefs are built through what training to think and focus a specific way. And we go through school and we're taught to learn how to write, and we're taught to learn how to use mathematics. But it doesn't mean that just because most people write with their right hand, that left handed people should write with their right hand, I'm left handed, I was ambidextrous as a child, my pick the lucky one, because everybody else was doing it the other way. It's just a matter of Yeah, keeping your mind open and understanding that there is there's no such thing as time. Time is, is really an it's an observation between event A and event B. And that filler is what time is. But like I said earlier, anybody can have anything they want. And just because you see it happening for someone else, doesn't mean that it can't happen for you, you're a human being just like they are. And just because you see them at a successful point, doesn't mean you can't get there yourself, you just have to give yourself some time and practice and use the compound effect we don't see with our eyes, we see with our mind, our mind is the projector. And our eyes are the screens. And that's how our anatomy is built. So if you can see it and envision it, and like feel good when you visualize it. And the more you do it, the less foreign it feels. And then therefore, you are able to accept it.

Brandon Handley 31:48
How key is attaching some emotion to this?

Jaclyn Johnston 31:54
Well, depending on if you want to, it depends, it just kind of depends on what kind of a outcome for your emotion that you want to feel. Do you mean for someone who wants to be in a positive state like most of the time in attaching to positive feelings? Or do you just mean in general?

Brandon Handley 32:15
So if I am attempting to manifest something and completely brain manifest a saint, I got all those intellect I'm like, Alright, yeah, I want that thing. I want that thing. I want that thing. Give it to me Give it to me, I see it, I see it, I see it. I've written like my man, you know, I've written off, but I'm not feeling anything, right? isn't important. Can I do it with just like just thinking yeah? Or do I need to have some emotion involved? You

Jaclyn Johnston 32:43
can. It's not as strong as an emotion. Because a thought is a fleeting moment. And so you don't have much attachment to it. But a feeling you have a bit more attachment to it. And physical actions are even stronger vibrations. So I'm not saying that you can't just sit on your couch and just think something. And I'm not saying that it can't happen. It can't happen. I mean, there's a ratio to everything in the universe. So everything's mathematics, there's numbers. So it can happen. It's just if you want to happen faster, then you want to envision yourself, doing whatever it is you want. And relishing in that moment and feeling thankful and blessed because the emotion is the stronger vibration.

Brandon Handley 33:36
I got it. Yeah, I've jotted this down, right, yeah, as you were trying to talk and you talked about, like the bow and arrow earlier. Like, it's kind of like, your thoughts are the arrow in this scenario? And your emotions are kind of like what like sends it out? Right? Is that fair? Yeah.

Jaclyn Johnston 33:52
And for me, someone who has anxiety every single day, that that tension is the anxiety for me, it's the stress of, of, Oh, I need, I need to know what's going on. And I need to control because I'm a planner. And yeah, that's true. But I always think like, why do I want to feel that way all the time. So so then again, it's it's a, it's a journey, it's something that you're a student at all your life, because the more you practice it, practice the surrender, then you'll start manifesting things, and then it'll get a little bit easier. But also your desires get bigger, right? Because we always want more. So, exactly. So that's why when, when I say I'm a master at the law of attraction, I'm a master at 99% because we're always wanting more, and it's always learning the growth and expansion through the art of surrendering. So yeah, so the arrow is, is definitely what you want. And the bow is like the union Verse saying, Hey, this is you know, this is me, this is how I operate, here's the bow the framework. And then for me, the tension would be things it in the stress. But as soon as I let that go, it's like, I pop the can have a, you know, one of those bubbly drinks. And it's like, and I feel so much better because I released really, that need to control. And then the, it's just like, boom, there it goes. Arrow arrow has left and it's going in that direction.

Brandon Handley 35:33
Nice. The newest book is centered around what exactly,

Jaclyn Johnston 35:38
yeah, so I just published don't feel stuck with money. And that is all about all the different ways you can manifest money. And I feel like, whether it doesn't matter what the amount is, for me, it doesn't matter. I just want more, right, we always want more money. So I go through different ways to manifest it. Sorry, to make the pun of my brand. But I, you know, again, I mentioned earlier, you know, playing around with lyrics to your favorite song. There's also a kind of a fun exercise in there, about how, especially lately with the pandemic, you know, we're encouraged to wash our hands more often. So I have a fun exercise. That includes being mindful with washing our hands, but also manifesting more money using a hand washing method. I also talk about and we do exercises with house chores. And I know that sounds like how do you manifest money with house chores. But there's all kinds of fun ways to do you think. So this book is it's a little different from the other two books that I previously published, in the sense that, like, I'm mixing it up with different actions that you can take, because I've learned over the last four years that you know, yeah, for me, writing into reality is really effective. But I've also learned there's other ways you can take manifesting action and you can still manifest it.

Brandon Handley 37:18
Awesome. So what's next for you in this journey?

Jaclyn Johnston 37:22
That's a really good question. My podcast has been taking off so I've been collaborating with people who work in Hollywood and like some New York Times bestselling authors. So I'm going to continue doing the podcast it's been fun for me and I have a fourth book that I've already written so I will get going on the editing with that and you know, I'm going to continue working in academia I really love it and I'm going to enjoy living in a whole new city and being with my boyfriend after you know being in a long distance relationship for the last four years. So I'm open to any and every blessing coming my way. And you know, every year I like to write out my goals for the year and then six months into it, I like to look at them mark off what I achieved and then start either modify that same list or start a whole new list and just be open to you know, things happening unexpectedly but in a good way because again, you either get what you want or something much better comes to you and it's for you

Brandon Handley 38:39
nice no I love that I love that I was thinking the idea too that like if you didn't get like one of those things that you really wanted like maybe that was the thing you were supposed to like you know that that it worked out correctly right like I always make the joke that like I'm glad I didn't make a lot of money when I was younger because I probably would have like done some things and you know just wouldn't worked out right like I probably would have done some stupid things right like i mean is that right fair enough fair enough. Well that's like so gets this little part here where I just like to think about this podcast is kind of like this spiritual speed dating show right? Like somebody's gonna show up and like I'm looking for my next spiritual they and Jacqueline you could be somebody who's next spiritual date. Are you feeling up for a question or two? All right. Oh, come on what's going on here so Bachelorette I know you're not a real best spiritual Bachelorette. And maybe you are tied spiritually as well but just go with this right? Um,

do you ask enough questions, or do you settle for what? You know?

Jaclyn Johnston 39:54
I annoy people with all the questions I asked. Because I want to know why.

Brandon Handley 40:02
You go deep, you like to just keep asking you you like to keep asking.

Jaclyn Johnston 40:06
I'm a lot less talking a lot more action. So let's just go to the why let's just cut out the surface stuff.

Brandon Handley 40:14
Fair enough. Fair enough. What would you say is the biggest waste of human potential?

Jaclyn Johnston 40:22
That's, that's a very emotionally charged question for me, because I feel Honestly, I feel like the biggest waste is not being open to learning new ideas and new ways, because that's again, your your own limit.

Brandon Handley 40:45
Yeah, the cellphone posters. So you're saying like the self imposed limits? Just kind of murders? Yeah, for lack

Jaclyn Johnston 40:51
of a better way to use the analogy of, you know, there is no box, throw away the box. And I mean, I know it's cliche, but I agree, there is no box.

Brandon Handley 41:03
Yeah, and that's worked out for you, right? You've seen it, it's showing up in your life. And that's the way it living in life. And it's working out, you know, working with actors, Hollywood, New York Times. That's awesome. Right? So congratulations, like, on your journey. And just like kind of really stepping into it. And, you know, seeing it, I think that I think in for me anyways, I think the word is unfold, unfold has been like the best way to kind of hear people say it all the time. Like, you can go unfold, whatever, you know, but that's how it just kind of happens, right? You start taking that action towards it. it unfolds in front of you. And like just the easiest sense of

Jaclyn Johnston 41:45
it. I had a I had a dog for 10 years, and he was my best friend. And he just passed away a couple weeks ago. And I thought to myself, Oh, my gosh, like, what am I gonna do? You know, I thought, Oh, that's awful. I mean, it really is, has, it's been really hard. And I'm not saying that because you master the law of attraction, you won't go through hard things, we all go through hard things, because energy is constantly moving in all directions. So and that's why success is not a one way direction or a one way street. But I thought, Oh my gosh, you know, my dog died. He was like, my security blanket. And, you know, I was feeling so lonely. And I thought, whoa, I mean, I, I've always wanted to bring my relationship with my sweet chemist, forward and more permanent, where we're in the same city, and we're living together. And he had a dog. And we always said, well, when our, when our pets are alive, we're not going to do it. Because our pets were both really old. And, and then his dog died a couple months ago, and then my dog died. And I was just feeling so much loss. And I kept telling myself, you know, there's a reason for this. And, and, like I said, you know, everything, just like quickly came together. I, the job I'm taking is a creative job. It's a creative position. So I realized now that the reason why not saying that, you know, I would want my dog to die. But it was his time. He was old. And you know, he had cancer. So it was his time. But I realized now that the opportunity that has been placed before me to move across country, and to get a job that has higher pay, and be with my boyfriend every single day and move in together and all that, that, that is really and truly, it couldn't have happened before because it would have just been too much with my sick dog. And it's like we don't understand in a moment, but then afterwards, we're like, Hmm, okay, well, the puzzle pieces are coming together. Like you said, unfolding.

Brandon Handley 44:02
Yeah, no, at all, like the universe synchronized on your behalf. Right, and maybe not, in a way that and again, we don't know how it's gonna happen. Right? We just, you know, if we put faith in it happening for us, right, then then we don't, that's what we do. And then we step back. We're like, all right, yeah. Show me what you got. Right? It's

Jaclyn Johnston 44:25
not that it's a say if you want to be a best selling author, it's not that it

It can't. You're gonna have to read the book. Yeah. It may not happen overnight. Right.

Brandon Handley 45:09
Sure, for sure well Jacqueline this has been a pleasure thank you so much for showing up on where can I send people to find out more about you your books and your endeavors

awesome Jacqueline keep up doing what you're doing I think a lot of people you know they need this and they need it from different people right? It's like they're not all gonna gravitate to the same person. And so you've got your crowd you've got your people you've got your audience that you speak to and a doing a tremendous job with this. So keep it up. Thank you so much what you're doing.

You go Absolutely. Well, so you know, that's well and hopefully that was all right for you. When we hit the things that

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Lisa S. Johnson

Published: Sept. 19, 2021, 12:05 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 5 minutes 21 seconds

From the photographer of the critically acclaimed 108 Rock Star Guitars comes a new collection of beautifully shot guitar photos, documenting the legendary instruments of B.B. King, Kurt Cobain, St. Vincent, The Beatles, Jimi Hendrix and more than one hundred and fifty legendary rock icons. Armed with a macro lens, an incredible eye for detail, and a truly inspiring vision, Johnson and her guitar art are taking the world of fine art photography on a rock and roll ride. Far from still life, Johnson’s work conjures the abstract yet also possesses a very sensual and ethereal aura, illustrating the intimate wear and details of each instrument featured.Johnson’s debut book, 108 Rock Star Guitars, received rave reviews and in Immortal Axes, she raises the bar even further, capturing the imagination of music fans everywhere. Each intimate photograph is accompanied by a touch of musical history, an anecdote or great personal storytelling moments, making this stunning book a must-have not only for guitar lovers but for every reader who wants to know more about their favorite guitarists and the instruments they cherish. Additional artists and bands include: Jimi Hendrix, Elvis Presley, Peter Frampton, Steve Hackett, Metallica, Black Sabbath, Jimmy Page, Albert Lee, Glen Campbell, Johnny Cash, Tom Petty, Lita Ford, Susanna Hoffs, Eric Clapton, Keith Richards, Malcolm Young, Dave Grohl, Nancy Wilson, Michael Anthony and Suzi Quatro to name a few.  Lisa S. Johnson’s stunning photos and her body of work have led to collaborations with the Malibu Guitar Festival, Museum of Making Music, and Museum of Design Atlanta. She collaborated with former Editor-in-Chief of Guitar World magazine and author Brad Tolinski for Immortal Axes. Johnson lives in Las Vegas, Nevada with her partner and two boxer dogs. She is also an avid Kundalini yoga teacher on her instagram platform @Cosmic_108.

Connect with Lisa at www.108RockStarGuitars.com and on insta @cosmic_108

Brandon Handley 0:40
It is crucial dope. I'm on here today with Lisa s. Johnson. She is coming here to us by way of a guest you may or may not recall from the game here. with fresh Shaw, that's how you and I connected Lisa and Lisa. She's got a couple of really awesome books, guitar and books that she's put on the winners on all about those two here in a second. And she also does a weekly Kundalini course on Instagram under cosmic 108. But this one should tell us a little bit about who you are. What made you feel a spiritual dove was is a place for you to be right now.

Lisa S Johnson 1:15
Well, hey, Brandon, thank you so much for having me on as a guest today. I really appreciate it. And it was really cool that we did meet through Paresh who I know through Kundalini Yoga, we went through Kundalini Yoga training together. And he's also rock and rollers. So it was interesting that he and I really connected in class before we even know, we were both into rock and roll. So. So that's how things weave together. And that brought me to you spiritual dope, which I love that name. Because it's kind of telling of the times and connecting to the youth generation really, because to say spiritual dope, kind of, you know, get the younger person interested. And we can talk about things spirituality, and things that are going on in the world in more of a hipper way. So it's really fun to take part in that. My background is that I come from a musical family in northern Canada, where I grew up until I was 23. And I was born in California, though, so I have my California roots until age seven, and then lived in Canada, then moved to Florida. And I ended up going to college for photography, which led me to a job for 10 years with the Eastman Kodak company. And I ended up living in Memphis, Tennessee, and going to the Unity Church. And my father growing up told me I was not allowed to date musicians. And so I he was a musician, so and still is. And so I was at the Unity Church picnic, and the guitar player from church asked me out on a date, and I accepted and we started dating. So I called my dad and said, Hey, Dad, I'm, I'm dating a musician. However, he is the guitar player at church, and he owns a vintage guitar store. And my dad being a guitar player said, Hey, if he ever gets in and gets a mandolin, I've always wanted one. And you know, he's not a touring musician. So that doesn't matter. You can you can date him. So that was the beginning of my photographing guitars, because my boyfriend then Hank said, I told him about this request of a vintage mandolin. And he got one in two weeks later, and I said, how much I want to buy that from my dad. And he said, You can't afford it. But if you photograph some guitars, for me, I have to sell that I don't want to sell, I'll trade you for the mandolin. So that was it. And I photographed these amazing vintage guitars for him and I fell in love with my photography for the first time. So I really was drawn into photographing guitars in a spiritual way, because I was going to the Unity Church, which is a non denominational church and what attracted me too, it was that they would always read a passage out of Chicken Soup for the Soul, you know, Joseph Campbell, and, and, and they would relate it to a passage in the Bible. So it wasn't you know, like this indoctrinated you know, where I grew up in the Catholic Church, you know, it was fun, at the end would always sing a song holding hands, the whole congregation, let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me. And so that was the beginning of my spiritual journey. And at that point, I was probably 2425 Ah, you know, and of course, my spiritual journey did begin when I grew up, I started in the Catholic Church. By the age of 14, I already realized that God was within me, that I didn't need to go to church to be with God. And that gave me a lot of peace. And I always felt God with me and I've always prayed. But then when I found the Unity Church, I actually because it was more of a spiritual feeling. And I they had a bookstore there and I my first spiritual books that I bought was Wayne Dyer, and Louise Hay and Shaco Wayne. And these books really and you know, the first really spiritual book that I read before that even at 18 was thinking go Grow Rich, by Napoleon Hill. And if you read Shakti, Wayne's creative visualizations, basically, it's the same concept. You know, you, you are what you think, you know, what you speak manifests into reality. And that was Napoleon Hill's whole premise. You know, if you think you're going to be negative and talk negative all the time, that's what you're going to attract. And if you talk positive, and think positive and and visualize your goal, then that's what's going to manifest. And so this is how I've lived my life and manifest in my life since I was 18 years old. So just to conclude, I, I went to college for photography, and I ended up moving to New York City. And I got this job with Kodak. So I was in New York, and then Memphis. And

I ended up shooting those guitars in Memphis. And then I got sent back to New York. And I thought, if I'm going to shoot guitars, I may as well shoot famous ones. So Les Paul played every Monday night at the Iridium room in Manhattan, and I started going down there, and I eventually met him and he let me photograph his guitar. So that was the first famous guitar I photographed. And then 12 years later, he ended up writing the foreword for my first book, 108 rock star guitars. And then I ended up in a car crash in between all this and my neck got jacked. After, after I moved to Las Vegas from New York City. And that led me to a chiropractor who told me that Vikram yoga would be really good for me. And so I started taking their chrome yoga classes became a victim yoga teacher, studied yoga philosophy, read Autobiography of a Yogi, and it totally changed my life. And then, almost 20 years later, I was introduced to Kundalini Yoga. Through the modern day priestess training that I started that I, I took, I'm a modern day priestess as well. And we did Kundalini Yoga every day. So that's how I ended up in the Kundalini, cosmic 108 Saturday morning classes to share the yoga technology and the tools of yoga to help us previously, just in regular times, but now especially even more in these really trying times on the planet.

Brandon Handley 7:25
of the story, I love the journey that you know, I mean, first time, Ed, a musician, of course, is when the dad says no. Right? And that's the that's right. There's your proven out of principle, right out of thinking Grow Rich, like whatever you focus on what manifests sure very. So you know, he's focused on for you was what manifested for you. So he played a part in that. And that, you know, the journey towards photography and photographing these these guitars, right, and cars is going for it. Just saying this is this is what kind of sets my soul on fire, and looking for ways to make that happen. Exact so cool. Yeah. So thanks. Thanks for the background. Right. So what I like to start this off with is the idea that, hey, we're all spiritual beings. Right? And that source speaks through us right now I sources speaking through you, to me, to somebody on the other end, that is listening to this podcast today. What is something what's a message that can only be delivered through you to that person today?

Lisa S Johnson 8:38
Okay, well, I'm just going to go with what channels right through instantly, that's where you got to go. And so mine is via channel, B channel. So ask your higher guides, or whatever God is for you, make me a channel of a higher will. This is how we received the messages from the universe and from our guides and angels, through our, our cosmic antenna, our auric field, which the ark line is a part of our bigger auric field. And so the ark line is the seventh body of consciousness that we have out of 10 light bodies of consciousness, the 3d body, the gross body, that's only one body, we have seven additional. So the Arc Line is, is the seventh body. And it's the way that we send and receive signals to each other, that can be sent even over vast spaces of time, you know, for one country or area or planet to another. And it's important to keep your antenna clean and clear. If it's dirty, it's got a lot of static in there. You can't send your signal and you can't receive signals. So that means I'm not communicating effectively or I can't receive others communications effectively. So this is one of the reasons why we do spiritual work meditation and movements. So that we can clean and clear all of our bodies, including that that radar antenna, the Arc Line. So that is how I would channel something that no one else could receive from any other place other than through me, because I'm sending it through my Arc Line through my channel to your listeners right now. And I have often asked my guys make me a channel of a higher will, so that I can hear and see the unseen.

Brandon Handley 10:32
What is Oh, I think that's fantastic. open yourself up to be a channel to begin with, say, Make me your channel, allow me to be a channel. I've been trying to do this whole thing myself this entire time. What else kind of let it flow through me? What's a way that we can clear tailor my sales of this? Boy, how do I clean my sale?

Lisa S Johnson 11:00
It's easier than you think. I mean, people say I can't meditate. Oh, I can never meditate. Okay, so yes, everyone can meditate. And everyone can clear their channel. And here's how. First of all, you can sit and you have to make meditation, super simple and easy, especially in the beginning. And while you're meditating, you're cleaning your arclight. Okay, so this is the same answer for both things. So first of all, you sit and we you invoke you do an invocation to clear the space, stage yourself, you know, stage the room with Palo Santo or stage what happens. Then you do an invocation, bringing in your guides and teachers, and then you do movements. So for example, one way to clear your Arc Line, your antenna is inhaling and turning your head to the left, and exhale and turning your head to the right, because that's cleaning and clearing the space right in front of your face and to the left into the right. And then if you tuck your chin into your chest, you rotate your head around a big neck circles. This is cleaning the Arc Line, you're going in a circle and it's clean exactly that area in your in your Arc Line in your auric fields. Then we use breathwork inclusively, you know a lot of deep inhaling, exhaling or rectifier pumping the belly and equal pumps. And this is distributing energy in the body and sending your Kundalini energy from the base of your spine, all the way up to the top of your crown chakra. So all of your chakras are getting a burst of energy as you're pumping the belly in. So and then you quiet the mind you do the work, the movement opens the body and allows you to sit in meditation and be more calm. And still, even when you're super calm. You can close your eyes, look into your third eye center, your sixth chakra, and that that stimulates activates your pineal gland, which is your your tool your gland for extrasensory perceptions, and how we can learn to connect and with our subtle body with using extrasensory perception so we can feel energy around us more we can hear what someone is saying without them actually saying it. And all of this clears your archive and your intent just to very quickly, you know, give you a summary of how you how you clear it. So it's through breath movement, meditation.

Brandon Handley 13:29
That's great. So you got a twofer there. Alright, you can do a little bit a little bit of both at the same time. One thing that definitely has been hugely impactful for me this past year has definitely been the breathwork. And it sounds like that's a big part of Kundalini Yoga. We're a couple that with Autobiography of a Yogi, right, is this Kundalini Yoga? associated? Specifically with like I was at the Southeast Asia foundation. Yeah. Through. You went through the priestess

Lisa S Johnson 14:05
training? I did. Yes. So, Yogi, paramahansa Yogananda. He was a Kriya. Yogi. So that's what we do include aleni we do Kriya Yoga. And that means that we do yoga postures from the 84 Classic asanas that Austin as is of your means yoga posture, we do we pull from there. And on top of that, we also always use mantra, meditation mudras. We use our our throat or our throat. To every class, we incorporate these aspects. And this is called Kriya Yoga. So guys like guru Singh, who's been a longtime kodaline Teacher, he also come through lineage of Yogananda, and so to why so I really kind of relate to him in that way. So we're doing Kriya Yoga. But the thing about Kundalini that makes it more advanced is that it's really teaching the science of yoga, and yoga as a technology as tools that we use for self healing. First, we heal the self, then we can heal others, and we heal others through our energetic field. So as we amplify and expand our electromagnetic frequency, through the movement, and the meditation and the breathwork, and all that, we're expanding our electromagnetic field and our auric field gets bigger and brighter and stronger, and more radiant, and more attractive to other people. And it then it starts to just attract all the right people to and it spells all the negative stuff out. And then there's no room for any negative anymore. So even when the worst shit is flying around this planet, right now, you can learn and use these tools to be able to stay calm, in the midst of this chaos that we're in and send your light out in every direction. super big and super powerful. And when we sit and meditate, especially on full moons, and new moons, because these are the the doors of the portals of the planets when the planets line up when the Moon and the Sun and Earth are lining up. And they're lining up with other stars that happen throughout the year. These create portals, we just had the big Lionsgate portal on August 8. And this is a time when energy frequency and vibration funnels into the planet and upward levels, our DNA and our our electromagnetic frequency and our ESP and our overall consciousness on the planet. So right now, we're going through hell. But we're going through hell to get to heaven. Because heavens on the way. And it's on the way, and I know it is because I study the yugas. And that's what Yogananda used to teach the yugas and his his teacher Shri you test guar. He's the one who wrote the book, the science of yoga, and he speaks all about the yoga so we can get into that if you'd like it's just one of my favorite topics.

Brandon Handley 17:18
Well, yeah, I mean, we absolutely get into that we have a lot. I love the concept. And I think I remember like, first of all, you know, Autobiography of a Yogi, what a great book write a really, really great book, fun to read. And so it was like being on that adventure with them as as he kind of goes through his life. And then I think he did talk about it. Did he talk about yoga technology, and there are not likely to finish it up with that.

Lisa S Johnson 17:47
Remember, you remember him specifically saying yoga as a technology? But I bet he did. Because you shriek test suar he saw I'm sure the technology because of these. The the chart of the yoga is that he created and I mean, they they knew the science of yoga. So

Brandon Handley 18:07
Oh, yeah, that's, that's not new to that. No, it's not it's not new to them. And by that, I mean, like, the whole Indian

Lisa S Johnson 18:16
culture, and just like how people are way more advanced than us. 100%

Brandon Handley 18:20
I mean, look, I mean, we're, I mean, we're like crawling, right? And in terms of like, our just general conscious capabilities. That's my thing. Right? I just kind of where we are in terms of, of civilization like that. It's really learn how to as you I think you talked a little bit about harnessing your mind right, and just really getting in there. So you also need to talk about these portals. I want to just hit on. I love Lionsgate, right. Just just I love Lionsgate portal, mostly because of the memes and the social media that come along with it because it's very entertaining. But I think it also offers like, you know, through through the entertainment edutainment, right like it's so opens that up to somebody even if they laugh at it or joka. Like it becomes a seed somewhere. Right. So, what tell us a little bit about more, right if I was about Lionsgate Okay, we'll talk about that. Yeah, sure. Yeah.

Lisa S Johnson 19:24
Well, there is a star named Sirius. I'm sure you're aware of it most. Everybody knows about the star Sirius. It's also called the dog star. And it is the brightest star in the sky. It's the North Star. So the Sirius star in August from July 26 to August 12. The dog star begins to rise in the morning with our son. So there's two suns in the sky. So you may have seen recently a lot of photos with two suns in the sky and people are going What's up, there's two sons. Well, this happens every year because the Sirius star is rising with the sun. So that is in alignment of Sirius that is supposedly a planet where the Syrians come from. And they that planet Sirius is aligned now with our sun, which is aligned with our Earth. So that is creating a shaft, a portal, it's going straight through to planet earth, showering the planet earth with that energy frequency and vibration. What was really extra special this year was that we have the new moon exactly in the path. So with serious sun, moon, earth, so this was especially powerful. Just like on the new moon and the full moon, those are especially powerful times and for us to set intentions. So that's why we do new moon and full moon intention setting and clearings. So, in on top of this, the Sirius star is in alignment with Orion's belt that has three stars. And those three stars were aligned with the tip the points of the three pyramids in Giza. So, I mean, why were the pyramids built? Who built the pyramids? You know, did they build them exactly to line up with, you know, Stargate Ryan, you know, was that how serious came in and maybe maybe people for, you know, whatever you want to call them, aliens. Other other types of beings came down, and were able to access Planet Earth, and maybe they that's how, you know, when we when we send the shuttle off, for spaceships off, it has to coincide in line with, you know, the planets and things moving around in the sky. So it's the same thing, if another entity wants to come on a spaceship to Earth, maybe there has to be certain portals that takes for them to come down. And maybe that's why the pyramids are pointing up to those three stars. So that's what happened on August 8, so July 26, to August 12. That is the portal opening and closing. So begins just like you see, you know, the moon, the moon slowly going from full moon to you know, New Moon, we have that energy shift as well, during that date, but August 8 is the apex of that alignment and the most powerful day. So that's where everyone does a ceremony on August 8, but we really do the work from July 26, all the way through to August 12. To get that full, you know, you can utilize the energy, this is what we have to use to upgrade our consciousness, we need to utilize these tools that are given given to us by God really through the makeup of our cosma cosmos, we're really need to utilize the tools which we've forgotten to use because they've dumped us down with freaking TV with even Disneyland. I mean, it's the dumbing down of our society. I mean, they just finished some state just passed the law that you don't have to be able to know math or read to pass your high school examination. Really. And there's there's no lot of modesty anymore. Every album cover every every video, you see, it's just people wearing hardly anything. It looks super hot and sexy. Hey, yeah, I get it. I see it. But it's not. It's not serving our youth culture. They're growing up thinking what do you want to be when you grow up? Oh, I want to be a rock star.

Brandon Handley 23:40
Well, I always I always make that joke. My own joke anyways about like tipper gore and our board back in the day, right? When they were trying to you know, kind of pull back some like to live crew and and all those other albums. But this isn't really this isn't benefiting anybody. And then it was a freedom of expression man and you know, but really, it's a you know, there's this interjection right injection of just kind of like this, this continues to type and this this. Why would we encourage

Lisa S Johnson 24:20
that? Well, it starts to encourage disrespect or kind of a lack of respect. I think it's

Brandon Handley 24:29
respect even. Yeah,

Lisa S Johnson 24:31
I mean, talk to any kids today about dating, and how to date I mean, it's dating online, they meet online or, and what do they do? They share pictures back and forth. And you know, how many pictures and how kinds what kind of pictures you know, and languaging that goes on online and just the music I mean, last year, the Best Song of the Year, was, like the most vocal vulgar title ever like I can't even I can't even think of what it is right now. But it's like really bad.

Brandon Handley 25:07
Is it that cardi B song? Like fat or something like that? Alright. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, it's interesting where that's, that's, I agree, right? It's kinda like was, was that gonna be enough? But anyways? Look, it is what it is, in that regard.

Lisa S Johnson 25:29
I'm gonna have to change, things are gonna have to change because I believe you're right, you're breaking down the morality of our whole society. And, hey, pick up my boxers. You can see one of them there. Yep.

Brandon Handley 25:45
But I'm just like you were saying earlier? Do you see like kind of having on the horizon? Right? Are you seeing a change and a shift in consciousness yourself?

Lisa S Johnson 25:55
I am. And I'm hopeful. Because even though things don't seem like they're elevating, I see a lot of things changing. I haven't see a lot of people doing yoga. I mean, of course, I've been in I've been doing yoga and teaching yoga for 20 years now. And the yoga community is a billion dollars, something like a $70 billion business. So there's a lot of people doing yoga, and even if they're not doing meditation, it's the precursor to meditation. Because doing the movement of yoga, if you're going to Chaga class or, you know, Bikram yoga class or vinyasa of some kind, what have you, you're going through the motions, you're doing the physical aspect, just know that that's only one aspect of doing your. So But yeah, I think a lot of people are doing yoga, and that is helping them to find some sense of their body, feeling their body and feeling their extrasensory perceptions. And that over in time is going to lead people to self inquiry. And if that self inquiry expands your consciousness, and we learn how to deal with ourselves and calm ourselves, and then we can learn to deal with the next person in our family, or brother or sister or spouse, whatever, we get to practice every day, the tools of yoga, being patient and compassionate and just with not only with other people, but with yourself. And that transcends to when you go to the grocery store and working with that person at the slow with the tail, and you're in a hurry. And, you know, trying to deal with that emotions, the emotions and the irritation that you have, and, or, you know, watching the news, and you know, seeing the world being Polaroid rise right now. And just learning how to look at it on a macro level. So you don't get all caught up in the details in the micro level in your world and allow it to upset your world and upset your body and upset your body to a point of this discomfort and disease and disease. And, and, you know, I think that's been happening on our planet for a long time. And we're we've got a disease on this planet right now. We're really diseased in more ways than one being personified by a disease COVID right now. And we're polarized on that subject, too. So it could help. We're going to help us through all of that and get to the other side.

Brandon Handley 28:30
That's the cleaner. Yeah. The antenna cleaner. Yeah, that's it right. And get it all get it all situated. I mean, you got to start somewhere. And I think that it's impressive to see just how fast Yoga has taken into the US. Right. And it's been growing, I think at a fairly rapid clip. Understanding is my real low level understanding since I've been in the States, you know, since around 1900, or when whenever Yogananda came over, give or take, yeah, correct. Yeah. Now, I want to use HostIn while you were talking about the serious story, he talks about the Syrians. Was that like, you know, what he's saying there?

Lisa S Johnson 29:15
Well, there's no way that we are the only intelligent and living life in the entire cosmos in the entire Milky Way. Galaxy number one, and then there's something like 100 million, probably infinite number of galaxies, and then every galaxy has like 500 billion stars. I mean, there's just no way we're the only living I mean, at one point dinosaurs rule for planet Earth. Reptiles that didn't speak English that look pretty freakin scary. So there could be, you know, the Draco's, they say is if species. They look like lizards or what have you, and they might just come down on the earth. That would be kind of scary. They might eat people we don't really know. Do I believe they're Pleiadians? Yeah, I do. I think that's a star. And I do think that there are living entities there and why maybe they're the ones coming down here and doing this crop circles, because the crop circles are a, I believe a phenomenon of UFO within me difficult. You've seen recordings of the little white balls that fly around and suddenly and, you know, very quick speed of lightning time, there's this amazing geometrical, perfectly mathematical structure that humans can do. They tried in the middle of the night to do it in the middle. And you know, there's no way I mean, it doesn't it's not a sophisticated and they can tell the difference of the grass. So why they haven't been able to help us out a little bit more? I think because we have to help ourselves out of it. Because otherwise, how is our consciousness going to change, like, what we're trying to get off this planet, so we can just develop another planet and kill the all life on that planet to? Like, you know, I think that we're, we've shot down spacecraft, they need to be careful about how they make any approach into they have to get us to where we're more friendly, and willing to accept them. I understand as well, that there are our races that are already living on the planet Earth, and they've been living in the middle of the earth. And you know, the earth could be hollow. You know, if you look at, if you look at the toric field, a Taurus, it's a circular motion, and it's hollow in the middle, isn't it? So the energy can go around what's what isn't there a hole at the top of Antarctica and the bottom of the Northwest Territories, you know, the top and the bottom of the earth? The note?

Brandon Handley 31:52
No, I feel like that's a Google that. So that leads us

Lisa S Johnson 31:56
to Google Google, Richard bird. Richard bird was a captain and he was up in Antarctica time. And he went on a plane ride. And he got diverted, and he ended up somewhere in Shangri La. And he wrote about it, and he was forbidden to talk about it while he was still in the army. And when he died, his journal revealed it. So there could be something in the center of the earth. And there certainly are other intelligent beings in our soul, our solar in our, in our galaxy, the Milky Way galaxy, and in other galaxies beyond probably the infinite number of planets with living beings.

Brandon Handley 32:36
For sure, I agree. I just want to make sure I caught that, you know. And then last thing he talks about was outside of our gross body, right? Key share a little bit more about that.

Lisa S Johnson 32:51
Sure. Okay, so the gross body, that's the three dimensional body in which we live, it's our vessel is what we came into we birthed into through the top of our head, they say we have the soft spot in your head, that's where your soul enters. That's called the Vindu the sarga. And when we meditate, we can connect with that and actually drip the nectar into the brain and through the body. And one of the things that the breathwork does is helps to hold that nectar in the throat chakra by pumping the the energy up to the top of the crown and keeps that energy here and that helps you to heighten your awareness and your cosmic consciousness. We are we also have, we have 10 bodies of like consciousness. So the first body is your soul. That's the soul body that that comes in through you. It's the heart, it's what speaks to you, it's your inner voice, your soul body, then you have three minds, there's the positive mind that weighs the positive things that are around you in a situation so you have to weigh out is this a good thing? Or is it a bad thing? So that so it tells you that it's a bad thing is the negative mind see the positive mind telling you good things, the negative mind telling you Beware, beware danger danger. And then the fourth body is your neutral mind which is your third eye where it takes the positive and the negative aspects of any situation and weighs them within nine seconds, your your third eye, your fourth body, your neutral mind makes a decision and it will make it if you are clean and clear in your neutral mind through meditation. That's how you clean and clear it. You got to meditate. You can make an accurate decision within nine seconds. Then the fifth body that's that's your physical body. That's your 3d. Then you've got your your sixth body, which this is going to be your your breath because you got to breathe, you got your product body, your lifeforce, then your your seventh body, we have the our climb your auric field. Then you have your rain. To hit body, that's the 10th body. And you have the nice body is the subtle body. And this is the one that helps you to give and receive with the subtle mind and the subtle, subtle body without thinking or saying, without saying anything out loud, you can utilize your subtle energy, you can will your will to, for that person to move a little to the left, so that I can see the guitar player on the stage better, right? You just like you're driving down the road, and somebody's going way too freakin slow. And you're just like Dude, to the right. And then they go through flicker goes on and they move into the right hand lane. This is willing your will through your cell body and speaking your language with your attendants all in unison. So when all of those 10 bodies are balanced, that means your shoppers are going to be balanced too. And then there's an 11th body and it's called parallel use in this and that's what all 10 bodies are aligned. And so my my my neutral mind, where I've made that decision that I want that guy to move to the right works with my subtle body, willing my will and energetically telling him to move and my Arc Line going VPP radar reader reader out you go Whoo, bro. xover. Or I go, you know, I need to call Nancy, I just keep forgetting to call her that I looked down on my phone A minute later, there's Nancy calling. Like, this is how it works. When you're in the nod which crash always is talking about, you know, I'm in the NA, you'll call me up with these stories, you know how something happened. And that's what that is being in the flow. As you said earlier,

Brandon Handley 36:35
your flow state, I think there's an ease with with all that can happen if you allow for it. To write sounds like to me, once you've got these things in alignment, and you allow for it to happen, it happens with ease, actually, these things only happen. Well, they don't only happen when you're in an ease state, but they're less likely to happen when you're deceased. Right. And so there's like this forest, and there's a out of balance of, I guess all of these bodies, I've never heard them all. So it's visually great to hear that and thanks for sharing that. But uh, you know, once you have these in alignment, things you begin to live in a state of ease would be my guess

Lisa S Johnson 37:23
you don't have to do anything anymore. You don't have to do, you just set your intention, and the portals are open, and it flows in. So you don't have to struggle, I got to get this new job, or I have to, you know, I need more of this or that or the next thing. It's just all comes flowing in, in divine timing, one of my favorite Montt affirmations that I've been working with for the last couple of years, and it's so powerful, kind of like preamps, anything else, it's, I am aligned with the highest expression of my future now. So the now is bringing it into the now into the present moment right now, not yesterday, not today, not tomorrow, it's like right now. And I'm aligned with the highest expression of my future, in all ways. So in my relationships, and my health and my finances, in my career, I'm aligned with the highest expression for my future now. So what's best for my future is what I'm what I need to align with. And I'm aligned, I'm telling myself, I'm aligned with the highest expression. So I don't have to say, other mantras and other affirmations that say, I now have the right amount of finances in my bank, I now have the perfect publisher, I now have like, that's a good way for moon ceremonies and something to write it like that. And I've just eliminated the need to have to do that on a daily basis. Because I used to say in the mirror doing near meditations, I used to say in the mirror, my mom long list of, of affirmations, and now I just say I'm aligned with the highest expression of my future now. It's all done.

Brandon Handley 39:07
So right, this is kind of the end in mind, right now. And if you've got that end in mind, right now, then all those other sub things take care of themselves. Right? You don't need that long list, because like, you wouldn't have this one statement. If the rest of these underneath of it. Were kind of already done and

Lisa S Johnson 39:30
working. Yeah. And you know, I do that with the planet Earth too. I do say that our planet Earth is aligned with the highest expression of its future now. So that's my greatest prayer for the planet. And when you say that things in the energetic field start to align. And that's what I love about sacred geometry. I actually brought a couple pieces. This is the this is the flower of life. Most people know the flower of life and this is the blueprint of creation. And within it are all the platonic solids. And like the 64 tetrahedron, you can't really tell. But this actually, when they when you invert the flower of life into a three dimensional, it's, it looks like this, it's there 64 triangles, which there are here in here. And then, you know, Megatron fits into the flower of life as well, which is all different. You can't really see the triangles, but they're in there, the tetrahedrons made up of 13 Circle points. And so if you meditate on these, this is metal strong, the triangle pointing up and down. And then there's one that's pointing back or forward, depending if you're male or female. And this is your your meta Tron or your merkabah, the light spirit vehicle. So you asked about the 3d body, or 3d bodies, our vehicle, it's how we move from A to B and move around the planet. But we can also move it when we're meditating and spiritually and go into the cosmos. And this is actually three dimensional and it spins. So this is only a one dimensional, but it actually is a three dimensional and it spends. So if we look at these sacred geometries, which can also be referred to as a Yantra, with a geometrical line shape, and if I meditate on if I look at it straight ahead, and then I close my eyes, I'm going to see the imprint of this flower of life in my mind's eye. And then that imprints it on to me on a cellular level, it all goes in that implantation goes into me on a cellular level, all my cell cells get a burst of that. That light of the of the sacred geometry, whether it's the Firefly for the Sri entre is my favorite one is the entre for manifestation. And so this is how we get it into us on a cellular level. And this is what they've been doing with TV manipulating us forever, you know, with symbols and signs, and you see that and it goes into our consciousness. And then we get, you

Brandon Handley 42:05
know, what's in there? Yeah, yeah, but we

Lisa S Johnson 42:09
can change it, we can restructure the geometry, and launch

Brandon Handley 42:13
sacred geometry monitors, meditation, taking your attention off of those things, right, that you allow them for so long, and realizing that they're already there. And it's like a garden or some weeding today, right? Yeah. That one's that one's there. We got it. And it's still you know, sometimes like, just like in a garden, you feel like you got all the all the weeds out. But like, you know, you come back with the next day, like, I swear to God, I pulled that thing. Right, it's still there.

Lisa S Johnson 42:43
analogy I know, and then you get to practice. Oh, you know, let me fix that. You know, but that's the start of being aware and consciousness because you've become aware and conscious of it, and then you change it the next time, just like, you don't beat yourself up. If you get into an argument with your partner, you know, or yell at somebody, then you gotta hurry up, I really was kind of out of line there. Now, I'll get another opportunity to practice that in the next time, I'll do better. So you don't beat yourself up.

Brandon Handley 43:09
That's in alignment with the two arrows and Buddhism, right? We talked about the first arrows, that's already there. The second arrow is the one that you deliver yourself. Right? Like, kind of jerk was if you can eliminate it just by the example you just gave. So I think that's a great example. I wanted to go real quick back to two pieces here. First of all, you know, I love your, your, your mantra, slash affirmation, slash prayer, because you pronounce it more like a command, then I'll request is that intentional? Or is that just how you are with it?

Lisa S Johnson 43:51
I guess that's just how I am with it. I didn't notice that. I said, it's more as a command. Well, the affirmation I definitely say as a command. Is that what you mean? I'm aligned with the highest expression of my future now? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 44:05
Absolutely. If I don't get I feel like if I'm not getting in line with that, I might actually get in trouble.

Lisa S Johnson 44:10
Yeah, so I'm telling the universe. Hey, all right. Right. Up here.

Brandon Handley 44:16
So that's also alignment with Um, I don't know if you ever listened to or read Blaine hills? devil Book Three. Oh, no. So he's got one that like was released, like post mortem and even to release it was kind of like, don't do that. And basically, it's talking to the devil, whatever. But and that was talking to him, like how do you talk to what's in versus like, don't ask for it, you command it, you demand it right? Like that's yours by like, you know, the vine right and also other stuff. So as I was just curious, kind of where the command part was coming from. Definitely.

Lisa S Johnson 44:55
Also comes from my teaching with the chrome choudry because I studied For many years, he was my first yoga teacher. And he Bikram yoga class is very commanding. So you've got to get bodies to move in unison. You want everyone moving together and flowing together in a in a Bikram yoga class. And then it's really a moving meditation. Everyone's flowing together. And it's beautiful breathing together. And to get people to move together, you have to be really commanding arms over your head, interlock your fingers, release your index finger stumps cross, no weight in your heels, hips forward, upper body back, no gap between biceps, arms and ears inhales. So long stretch up hold. And then do your right hand side. Like you have to talk like that, to get them to freakin do it on time with you. Then when it comes to Kundalini, we do mantra, and it's different. It's not commanding, it's it's very calming. And like, for example, like I just wanted, I loved your analogy about you know, planting the seeds and growing because there's a meditation that I'm actually doing right now we practice. I'm in my fourth level two training out of five modules. So I'll be a level two Kundalini trading teacher soon. And would they require us to do a 90 day meditation. So you know, it's a challenge, every day you have to meditate is a 30 minute meditation, it's not three minutes, five minutes, 11 minutes, you know, it's 30 minutes that you have to sit and take out if your day doesn't seem like very long, but sometimes it it seems like a long time in the day taking that 30 minutes out anyway, you. It's a commitment, and it gets you to, you get to where you would miss doing a meditation if you didn't do it. So that's good, because you really want to meditate every day in twice a day, if possible. But then you just get to where you're meditating all the time you're driving, you're meditating, we can always be meditating in the background, because we do the mantra, and the mantra becomes like that, you know, you get that song song stuck in your head. That's what happens when you're doing a mantra every single day. And the one that I'm doing right now is a three part.

Meditation for 90 minutes. There's a mudra involved where you interlock your to you put your both hands and Gyan Mudra, which is the thumb and index finger touching, which is the seal of knowledge, the Seal of consciousness, and you interlock them, which now makes sacred geometry the vesica Pisces. So I really love this part of having this as a sacred geometry mudra then there's three mantras. The first one is bond bond, and this one is invoking the Divine Mother, this the spiritual mother, the Adi Shakti, the creator. And then we move into the second mantra, which is don don ROM das guru. And this one is all about making the impossible possible. It's called crossing the crisis. So the world's in crisis right now. So that's why I'm doing this meditation. So we're recreating with the vesica Pisces, this is the symbol of creation, the vesica Pisces so we're creating a new world. So the second mantra is all about making the impossible become possible through miracles and believing in miracles. We see miracles every day. And the more I do this mantra, I'm seeing miracles happen right before my very eyes all the time. It's amazing. Okay, and then the third mantra is heart Hooray, howdy. Which means planting the seed, watching the flow of planting the seed of infinite creativity. Hari Hari Hari Hari is watching the flow of creativity. parkeri hari is manifesting that creativity. And how can a Petit WaheGuru WaheGuru is wow, and being taken from the darkness into the night that light that's what a guru is goo is the dark room with the light. So why he is wow, I'm being taken from the dark into the light Waheguru and I'm watching the beautiful process of how everything is unfolding from the seeding of planting to the flow of the growing of the creation to the manifestation and to the final harvest. So that's where we're at right now on the planet and and everybody that's meditating everybody who's doing yoga, they're planting these the seeds of a new world. Not a new world order, bro, a new world Love and Light and peace and truth and higher consciousness and compassion for each other without any kind of division, you know, just acceptance of each other, knowing the truth of what is right what is wrong so that we are in right relationship and doing right action for ourselves and for our planet and animal kingdom. And when we can find that balance, which I believe that we will because I was talking earlier a little bit about shriek Heswall, he wrote the cycles of consciousness, we have what's called the yugas. And it takes the 26,000 year cycle for a for a full Yuga that goes from the Iron Age, Silver Age, the Bronze Age and the Golden Age. And that's the Age of Enlightenment. And so we have come out of the Kali age and have entered into the the Bronze Age, which is the dwapara Yuga. And that's where we are right now. And we are on the A sending part of that. So the you guys have a 13,000 year, a sending cycle and a 13,000 year descending cycle. So it takes 26,000 years. So we're on a sending we've come out of the dark ages, we've come out of a really dense low level consciousness area. And now there's we're only going to go up now, but like a friend of mine says, gorgeous Sufi he's he's someone you might want to interview some time gone just Sufi, he's cool. He's a recording artists you can check out I'll send you a link to some of yours. He says you could go through hell to get to have so for sure are in hell right now, but on our way to happen.

Brandon Handley 51:12
For sure, for sure. And I think that I think that we're in an accelerated accelerated pace. So we're gonna plug in real quick here, you know, cosmic wantaway on Instagram. Sounds like she might know her stuff a little bit on some yoga and and some of the background and sacred geometry. So I know that that's something I wanted to get more into with you. And I don't think we're gonna have time for that. But I do want to call out the fact that I believe you got some sacred geometry intertwined on some of your book covers, if I'm not mistaken, and you want to toss out, you know, what about what is it about cosmic one away and let's share a little bit about the book so that we can

Lisa S Johnson 51:52
have, okay, so I have two books, the first one came out called 108, rock star guitars. And when you when you first look at the cover, it's, it's it doesn't have a guitar on the cover, it has motifs of guitars on it, and like a guitar headstocks and guitar bodies and but it looks it's all formed in the shape of a lotus flower. And it's all intertwined with the number 108, which totals nine in numerology, one plus zero plus eight. So there are nine, guitar headstocks to go around the flower petals, and around the circumference of the book. And when you first open up the book, the Sri Yantra sacred geometry artwork is inside of it. And it asks the question, why 108 and then I get to infuse the spiritual cosmic message of the number 108 and yoga philosophy. because music is spiritual, you know, music can take you to Nirvana. So I wanted to invoke that cosmic philosophy of 108 into the book. So that's 108 rock star guitars. And now on September 28th, this year, my new book called immortal axes will be coming out. And the cover is similar. It's no guitar on the cover, but there's a skull that has the vesica Pisces sacred geometry in his forehead in the third eye. And his eyes are made up of the diamond inlay headstock on a Gibson Guitar. And that's going around in his eyes and his nose is an upside down Flying V. And then he's surrounded by little guitar bodies with gold. They're all laid and gold sparkles. You know, it's very sparkly, and it's called immortal axes. Because when a musician makes music, he makes it on that wire and wood and that memory of that work is embedded in that wire and wood. And when the artist passes on, the guitar still is holding the notes and holding that music within it. And so that's immortalizing the song memorializing that artists, just like the song itself when it's recorded immortalizes the artists so there are about 47 artists in this book that have passed away. There's 157 artists featured in this book including David Gilmore's $4 million black strap that just sold and Rory Gallagher's Fender super famous Fender Pete Townsend's number nine Les Paul is in this in this book. Peter Frampton wrote the foreword and Suzi quatro wrote the afterword, some very, very happy to present this book to the world and hope that people enjoy it as much as I can as much as as much fun with as I have photographing it traveling around the world.

Brandon Handley 54:46
So one thing you know, for the people that are listening, and don't get the chance to see the pictures and the artwork and the artworks amazing on these these covers, and I love what we were talking I love it for seen pictures but hadn't seen the hadn't seen it in somebody's hands. Book and somebody says the book is large. What's the dimensions on

Lisa S Johnson 55:11
108 rocks in our guitars weighs about nine pounds. And it's let's see, 11 inches by 13 is that you know, a and then the second book is a square book it's 11 and a quarter I think by 11 and a quarter plus the the rock star of the cars one is a red leather leather rat, press press leather rat and this immortal axes is a black cover with gold and silver sparkling motifs on it have guitar motifs on it.

Brandon Handley 55:51
I think the artwork is so cool. And I think anybody would anybody into guitars Classic Rock, rock and roll this face would be you know, this would be such trying to sell. This would be like such a new gift. Something so cool. I love what you've done with it. Give me like one story of like maybe the most challenging guitar to get to, or like the one that you felt like, was like the pinnacle for you.

Lisa S Johnson 56:16
Yeah, well, one of them I have to say is Joan Jett, because you know she's a woman and rock and she rocks really hard and she's paved the way for a lot of women in music. Before even her there was Suzi quatro, Suzi quatro actually paved the way for Joan Jett. And Joan will will say that it was really hard to get to Joan. She's not super happy to have a lot of photographers around. And so I think that was one of the issues that I kept requesting. And they just, they don't really have photographers around, and I usually shoot before after shows. So I finally was getting finished with this book. And I really want to Joan and I've asked several times, because for me, she's the most important woman to have in the book and as a female artist, because she influenced so many. And of course, Suzi quatro, she wrote the the afterword for the book, so I'm just so important to mean, and so amazing that she did that. But finally, I was rounding up, I was just finishing the book, and I really wanted Joan. And I just couldn't not not have Joan. And so I finally realized, you know, I've worked with the heart Rock and Roll Hall of Fame for so many photoshoots and I was there doing a shoot, I think it was it was before the David Gilmore shoot Anyway, it was one of the shoots. And I said, by chance do you guys happen to have a Joan Jett guitar? In the rock hall? And they said, Well, well, yes, we do, actually. And so then I realized, you know, I'm just gonna find out if they'll let me photograph the guitar. They don't have to do B here. It's not before after a show. And so we went back to them and said, Hey, you know, how about just let me photograph the guitar that's at the rock Hall. And she'll do the rest. She'll make all the arrangements. And they said, Yes. So it's

Brandon Handley 58:07
very cool. I just want to give the idea to that. This is a kind of like a life that you follow your bliss, kind of thing. Right? You followed your kind of journey followed your heart, and does this production is a display of that.

Lisa S Johnson 58:26
Yeah, it wasn't easy. I have insecurities just like anyone else. And you know, when you're putting your neck out there for yourself, like, you know, I'm a photographer, and this is my work. You're putting your soul out on the line, you're showing your photos and it's something that you like, it may not be that somebody else likes, you know, so you you get a lot of nose. I've had to hear no, a lot. And then I've had a lot of yeses, and I've had way more yeses than I've had knows. And it was because of perseverance and just not taking no for an answer. I mean, I asked, had to ask Billy Givens people many, many times until I finally met him under the stage at Rolling Stones concert and said, Hey, Billy ever trying to get through to you, you know, and then the next time I requested I got a yes. So and then just saying, like, I don't have Mark Knopfler yet. And he's one of my all time favorite guitar players in the world ever, ever, ever. And I'm not going to give up on Mark even though they've told me no. They've said no. Many times.

Brandon Handley 59:30
Hold now for what's your now for so I think the story is great. I love I love what you've done. I really want to say thanks for stopping Jose. I do have one more question for you today. We'll say a little bit of spiritual speed dating. I figured somebody is on here and they're looking for their next like spiritual date and you could be it. Okay, so that's where we're at number one. What was the specific one? I think it fits what's the relationship between science and Religion.

Lisa S Johnson 1:00:01
It's getting closer and closer. I think that CERN has certainly helped to view the science experiments they've been doing at CERN. Trying to find the God Particle. I think that's been important. And I think that science is finally recognizing, they never get to find. Because you can't see that with your eyes. That's something you have to feel. And science is finally starting to understand that. And I know that they are because even quite a few years ago, they put Ken Wilber on the cover of science and spirituality magazine. I think it was. And he was he's ahead, you know, if you haven't studied Ken Wilber, he's someone really interesting. And I learned a lot from him and and now that's correlating with somewhere. So I mean, yeah,

Brandon Handley 1:01:00
I know. I know. He's on the list. Okay. He's on my list.

Lisa S Johnson 1:01:04
But yes, yeah. Listen to the CD series called cosmic consciousness cosmic with a K. That's all you need to do. Just get that series you can. I think you can download it on iTunes now or cosmic consciousness. Ken Wilber. It's one of the most important things you could listen to. And there you'll see science meatsuit spirits rally and what he talks about. And you can watch shrieve testhorse book, the science of yoga, and that is bringing science and spirituality together, check out what cern is doing. And of course, students at CERN has gotten really weird. So there's some strange stuff going on at CERN, too, but

Brandon Handley 1:01:45
black holes,

Lisa S Johnson 1:01:47
I suppose. Yeah. A lot of stuff has happened over there.

Brandon Handley 1:01:51
Oh, man, that would be cool. That would be cool to know more. Well, he's so much fun. Where should I send everybody to go check out your books.

Lisa S Johnson 1:02:01
Okay, so to check out the books, go to my Instagram, at LS j for Lisa s Johnson at lsj rock photos. lsj rock photos is where you'll find me on Instagram. And there's a link there my link tree that allows you to both of my books, and for cosmic wantaway for yoga classes comm and rock your Kundalini with me every Saturday from 10 to 11am PST, that's Los Angeles time. And it's just a one hour long class from 10 to 11. And we get into all the subjects that we've been talking about. And we do a Korea for about 30 minutes, and we do meditation and it opens with some context around what the class is about and what the meditation will be about. And then we go right into it. And we have a gong bath, or a sound bath afterwards, because the gong is very important. It's the most powerful meditation, it clears the subconscious mind. So we do a gong wrap at the end of every class. So come and rock your Kundalini with me at cosmic 108. It's cosmic underscore 108.

Brandon Handley 1:03:08
And you have made how many Saturdays in a row

Lisa S Johnson 1:03:14
since COVID started so we've gotten a year and a half now, isn't it? You know, started in February or March of last year. So March, April, May, June, July, August. Yeah. So it's a year and five months, every single Saturday, I've only had one class covered for me by one of the teacher and that would be our friend Parrish. He's, he's jumped in when I when I needed him to come and teach a class and he's very fun. Have you taken this class?

Brandon Handley 1:03:41
I've taken a couple of his, like zoom classes. Yes.

Lisa S Johnson 1:03:45
Yeah. Yeah. He's very funny. He's fun. And he's, he's ahead. You know, he really with that Harvard education, his brain like,

Brandon Handley 1:03:54
you know, for sure. For sure. Lisa, this has been so much fun. I'm so glad that we we finally we finally got the chance to put the time and again, I love I think the artworks amazing photography is fantastic. I love the size of them, write your books and just don't Kundalini, I think of bringing that out to the world and letting people do that with you. And that's just on the set. As you said, You're helping so

Lisa S Johnson 1:04:24
I'm here to serve. That's what we're here to do on the planet. Follow our be creative. And follow your heart, listen to your heart, and be creative and then everything falls into place. So and being in service with your creativity. So that's what I'm trying to do bringing joy into people's lives just because they get to see their favorite guitar

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Katie Beecher | Medical and Emotional Intuitive

Published: Sept. 12, 2021, 7:02 p.m.
Duration: 46 minutes 17 seconds

Katie Beecher is an internationally known Medical and Emotional Intuitive and Licensed Professional Counselor with over 30 years of experience.  Join us today as we chat about a number of different topics, and lean in as we speak on how Katie beat her own eating disorders and what it has been like for her to lean into her spiritual gifts! Connect with Katie: https://katiebeecher.com/ on insta @katiebeecher_medical_intuitive

The transcript below is machine-generated by AI and un-edited.

Hey, their spiritual dope. I am on today with world renowned Katie Beecher. She is an internationally known medical and emotional intuitive and a licensed professional counselor with over 30 years of experience. Katie and I met, I don't even know, I think you think we connected through one of the podcast like dating sites. There's like, it's like pot it or pod match. And that's how we connected, we had a really good conversation going back a little bit ago, some of the things that you're well known for, or at least that you you share out is some of the work you've done with the goop platform. Right? And how I usually like to start these out Katie's the whole idea that you and I are your medium, right? So this is, this is nothing new to you, you and I are connected to source like at all times, right? And everything's really happening to us and through us for a purpose to the end of hopefully servicing or benefiting another, right? And as as you and I are having this conversation, there's gonna be somebody on the other end of this podcast listening in, and there's a message coming through you to them that can only be delivered through you what is that message that connection to intuition, self love, and self acceptance, you can heal from just about anything. What do you have an example of one that

Katie Beecher 6:23
I heard this in my head when I was 16. recovering from an eating disorder, I was bulimic suicidal, complete and total mass didn't even know who I was, was never mind loving myself. And it was divine intervention, because I was ready to just be like, I'm not living like this anymore. That's insane. divine intervention, maybe call my pediatrician without telling my parents and basically saying, you know, I'm throwing up three times a day, there's something really wrong with me. And it was 1983. And they didn't really pay that much attention to eatings the hardest time and he said, I think you'll be okay. And I said no, I'm totally not okay. So he gave me the name of a Jungian therapist. I don't know how familiar Carl Jung you are. But maybe that's some of the message for people out there is to look up Carl Jung and, and what he talks about, because he's pretty amazing. But it took me three months to get the courage up to call the therapist, and I finally did, and I had a car and a job. And I got myself there and paid for it myself and worked really hard. And it gave me the courage to connect with my intuitive abilities, which I had been afraid of, and become a licensed counselor. And eventually, you know, do this work, even if the counselor always listened to my guides and spirit and just kind of let them run the show. For the same reason I knew whoever was there with me, needed to hear whatever it was that they needed to say. And I trusted in that. And now, life is pretty interesting.

Brandon Handley 8:04
We'll have to expand on that one for sure. Life Life is pretty interesting. So I think that is right. 1983. Here is your you know, you're you're in a situation, just throwing out three times a day to like, should be okay, that's me. Who says that? Right? Thank you. All right. Yeah, this type of thing happens all the time, right for life, just don't worry about it. So and then, and then you know, someone on too young, I am fairly familiar. I know. Earlier in the year, I did a pretty, you know, went through the red book and like some of his other stuff. Super, super great content. And he's the one that I found the word numinous from, right. So just just kind of like, when you're when people ask about kind of the awakening experience, or when you consider the awakening experience. What's that like? And I think the best word for me is the word numinous. Right? You're just like this. Full body. Theory. Oh, hi. Right. And that I got that from young. Right. So love his stuff. And so he gave you the strength? I mean, how did that lend into the strength to your intuitive?

Katie Beecher 9:27
Yeah, so for people who don't know about young he basically was he was this famous psychiatrists doing great in his life, thought he was having a nervous breakdown because he started to see visions of dead bodies and bloody rivers and, and things and he could have gone the other way. He could have said, I'm going nuts and I'm going to put myself in somewhere and not talk to people and not deal with clients. And instead, he decided to immerse himself in this experience and Do these kind of like, kind of awakened meditations, if you would, he was kind of doing transits, but he was awake and things. And he, accidentally divine intervention, found his spiritual guide and connected to his intuition and made these amazing illustrations and things. But it was, it was through that courage. And through those connections, that he developed all of his really famous theories and principles that people like Louise Hay and Tara Brock, and everyone under the sun is now using today with, you know, symptoms being symbols for what's really going on with us and connecting to our intuition. So, for me, it was the perfect way of recovery, because I had all of these kind of psychic experiences that I've been having, since I was a kid picking up a lot of negativity and evil stuff, and it made me not want to connect to any of that it really made me very afraid, and very shy and withdrawn. And I just didn't feel comfortable with myself, I had been bullied, I grew up in a very dysfunctional family, which added to the fun chaos, like a lot of people get addicted do. And working with a therapist who taught me to trust myself, who taught me to trust these inner voices I was having, who taught me about self acceptance, accepting all of the parts of me, even the parts I didn't like, who did not look at me when I was like, I was crazy when I said, I saw dead people and heard things and knew what was gonna happen in Instead, she encouraged all of that. And so, for me, that was the perfect type of therapy. And another concept that's it's young, and I can't take credit for, but he taught that intuition is God with him. Which means that it's all knowing force, that is part of everyone. It protects you, it gives you a source of self love unaccept I mean, unconditional love, unconditional acceptance, and always keeps you safe. And for me, it was like, I didn't have that anywhere in my life. So that gave me the courage to then figure out who I was, and be my authentic self, and just listen to my intuition to them, you know, become a therapist and, and do this intuitive work. And it just, I think if we're listening to our intuition, we're being our authentic self.

Brandon Handley 12:46
So I think it's awesome, you had somebody even at that young age, to be able to come up to you, to tell you to help guide you to exactly yourself, to, to stop looking outside for the acceptance, to understand that everything that you need for your acceptance is already kind of within. Right, and then the idea sounds like he did, like, you know, some shadow work as it were, right, Jeremy in, I think he's neither one of the, you know, or forefathers of that, right? And being able to accept all of who you are, this unconditional love is acceptance of all of who you are bringing all of that to the party. Right? And realizing that within that is your strength. Those are some of your strengths. Right? And then the almost like the intuition is God within I love that too is the idea has actually think about this this morning is we're made in His image, God's image, whatever made his image. But if we stopped thinking of that image being made in the image of this physical form, and we started thinking of being made in His image in the spiritual form. That's the that's the image. We're made it. Right. And that's what I'm, that's what I'm hearing you say, because I said it to myself earlier today.

Katie Beecher 14:24
Thought of intuition as our source. And when I say intuition, I mean, my guides, I still do all this work today. Um, you know, it was it's my source, so it made me so whatever I do, it's kind of like a dog. Like it doesn't really matter what you look like or what you weigh. Or if you make a mistake, or anything like that. It still loves you an exception no matter what. And it was. It's kind of a weird concept in a way because like you just said, I wasn't looking to the outside for acceptance anymore. I was looking inside but at the same time, when you Have an addiction or an eating disorder or something like that. It's very narcissistic. Because you are thinking constantly about what you look like, what? what other people are going to think of you? How much water Did you drink? How many calories, whatever the thing is. So you're just in your own bubble. And you don't realize that you're not taking other people's feelings or lives into consideration, because you're too sick too.

Brandon Handley 15:29
Sure. I think that I heard it earlier today. You're more in this mean space? And yeah, the AI space. Is that right? I mean, look, I'm still trying to figure it all out myself. You've got it, you've got a you've got a couple couple, you've got the advantage in terms of time. And space for sure. A couple right. And, and I think that's awesome, too, because this is one of those things where, while the journey looks real different on the outside, for the most part, I think internally, it's real similar for for most, right, we like, oh, you're at like, you know, you're at this bend of the river. Be sure like around here, watch out for rocks.

Katie Beecher 16:09
Right? addictions, right? Feeling things. You're too afraid, or you think there's something wrong with you. And I don't care if it's eating disorder, I don't care what the hell you're doing.

Brandon Handley 16:20
Well, let's, let's chase that one a little bit. Let's talk about the addiction to not feeling things. I'm curious, almost for my own self. And but like, that's not when you hear too much about right? What's that look like? And what are some signs? What is no, I don't know.

Katie Beecher 16:34
Yeah. So combat, I realized, the hardest part of getting better for me, which I've been cured, I guess, recovered from bulimia for like 30 years. And I'm really lucky, most people don't want to get to recover. And but the hardest part of it, and the most essential part was learning to love myself. Now, it's really sad that we have to do that and it gets shut off. But that's the way it is. So in not loving and accepting yourself, what you're basically doing is you're pushing down how you feel, because it's what we feel that then makes us act what we feel and think that makes us act. And so I could not feel anything that went against what my parents were saying what they were teaching, you know, there's no dysfunction here, everything's fine. Well, yeah, there is, there's a lot. You know, and I encounter this a lot with clients, they're like, we tried to speak up, or we tried to change things, or we tried to whatever, and nobody would listen. So we stopped having feelings, we stopped talking. And I don't believe that we can ever push down who we truly are. When we do that, we get sick, all kinds of things happen. So it's easier to eat everything in sight, and throw up or if you drink alcohol, or if you choose time how alter your brain and your life. It's easier to do that than it is to risk feeling upset, risk feeling rejection, from your parents risk, saying something to them that is going to make them abandon you. It's a coping mechanism that we create. Much like being an empath is you have to figure out what people are feeling and thinking before they act. So you protect yourself. But I really believe that that's what it's about. Because if you can have free thought, and free will and think you can be yourself. But if you can't, it's a very, very painful existence.

Brandon Handley 18:50
Yes, if you don't, if you don't express what you're feeling, in some way, shape or form, it's going to manifest in some way. And oftentimes that expresses itself in some type of dis ease, right? It's gonna show up I mean, look, I'm not a doctor, I'm not anything, but it could show up as as a sickness, General malaise, cancer, like, you know, Oh, my, you know, my back is acting up. And you know, yesterday, everything was fine. So sound sounds a little bit like new cut. That's what you're saying. And then, you know, it's like the, it's like, they take these feelings and they shuffle them, right. But you're talking about, it's easier to do the addiction. And it's in that addiction.

Katie Beecher 19:33
Correct. So, in reality, it's not easier to do the addiction. It's a horrible way to live, you know, but we think it's easier because that fear of being rejected if we're ourselves is so great and varied. You don't even realize you're feeling it, that you just go straight to your coping mechanism. And people out of fear think they can't win. Without this coping mechanism, and then there's the physical addiction aspect to a lot of things too. But they just think if I risk being myself, like if I risk setting boundaries with people and saying no, and not taking care of everybody, and asserting myself, those people are then not going to love me anymore or not want me around, or whatever. And it's pretty, nobody wants to be lonely and rejected, you know, but no one wants to live with addiction either.

Brandon Handley 20:33
Right now, I hear you, I hear you in what you're saying there twos is for the person that's living that way. Right? It's, that may be true, those people do not want you anymore after that. And that you may be 100%. Correct. But the people that come behind that, after you assert yourself after you create your own space after, you know, we're made in His image as creators, right. And you create the life that you want, on purpose with intention. The next line of people are going to be the ones that are a step beyond the

Katie Beecher 21:12
very least Yeah, I had. One, I have an amazing husband and two fantastic daughters, and they have great spouses. And this family is real.

Brandon Handley 21:24
Right? Yeah, I love that. So let's talk about some mediumship. I mean, you know, so you did you did like the, you know, kind of the clinical work, right, but now are you kind of all in on,

Katie Beecher 21:37
you know, as a medical intuitive, which is basically the work I do, I work in a very unique way. Just with someone's name and age, somebody will contact me through my website, give me their name, and age and their contact info. And I create a four page report. It's extremely detailed about physical, emotional, and spiritual things in their life from when they were little to now to their relationships, career, anything, anything that impacts their quality of life, but at that way, I create that. And then I do a symbolic painting, watercolor painting. And before meeting with them, I send them all of this information, then we meet and discuss it all. And I don't know how I do it. But I always hear like, you didn't know me before this really like I thought I've known you forever. And how do you do this, and it's pretty amazing. So with the goal really is few things to look at any kind of issues they're having. Look at the root cause is anything that I can handle, you know, spiritual emotion, even sometimes physical, we'll address we'll develop a new a plan for recovering and feeling better. I have doctors and other professionals that I work with, to help with either confirming my findings, diagnosing, treating things like that, because I am not legally allowed to make diagnoses and I shouldn't be, you know. So even though people doing this work sometimes do I, that's not okay. And they're where I get my information from is from, you know, my own intuition from my guides, their loved ones who have passed off often come through, I get information for people that they care about, not just themselves. And it's a pretty amazing process. People are like, this is like a year of therapy and an hour. So it's pretty cool.

Brandon Handley 23:46
That's potent, right? I mean, so it's just just a name. And their age.

Katie Beecher 23:52
Yeah, I put that I use, I sit down, just kind of, you know, think about their name, get a download from my guides, fill it all out. And the painting allows for some symbolic information. As a human, I can think too hard or interpret the information I'm getting. I try not do but I'm human, but with the symbolic information like this is. You can see that yeah. So that's one of the paintings, it's really glary. They're all really different. And the colors all mean something the way that the arms are or the hips or the way the legs are facing or all of that all means something.

Brandon Handley 24:37
When you say it all means something. Does that mean that it all means something to you? Or is that something that they pick up? And it's almost I mean, I'm not trying to say Rorschach. So

Katie Beecher 24:46
yeah, I don't know what it means as I'm painting the picture. At the end of the session, I go to it and kind of start at the beginning. start at the top and say okay, this is where I started. My guides are telling me that this is what this means. You know, the placement of this is usually like my signal, like, if somebody has their arms up like that, that's my signal for somebody who's like, Okay, I'm just done with where I'm living. I've had it, you know, time for a new start. And what's very important to me through the whole process, is that what I'm saying resonates with people, I teach everyone how to connect to their intuition. And trust themselves. It's not my job to substitute my intuition for someone else's. You know, that's, that's not what I'm trying to do. And we all have strengths within us. And we all do kind of know what we need, we just don't always know how to get there.

Brandon Handley 25:43
Yeah, 100%. And I think, when you're saying teach them to get to their throat intuition, once they kind of hit it once or twice, they know what that resonance is. Right? So once they understand what that resonance is, and that way of getting there, there's kind of a specific pathway back to them, at least one route, right? And I gotta imagine that there's more than one route, but like, Hey, we just hit it, you know, in the whole Joseph Campbell's follow your bliss type thing. It's like, you know, there's, there's different ways that you're going to achieve this. Right. But this is this is you're

Katie Beecher 26:26
learning to trust what you're getting? And not second guess it and not overthink it. And that everybody can connect. And somebody will say, well, is this just what I want to hear? Am I making this up? You know, or does this just why does it just sound like me? You know, why aren't you seeing angels and everything. And I'm like, you don't have to it doesn't have to be this earth shattering experience. And we use intuition all the time. People just don't even realize it. And I'll try to point out things you know, you said to me about this, that you pick this up, remember that? Oh, yeah. So

Brandon Handley 27:05
that I think it's neat to write it and the idea of, of not overthinking it, and really trusting it. So do you, how do you get someone to start trusting their intuition? Like, you know, you and I are working on like, Listen, I was feeling this thing. And I just don't know if I trusted Katie, like, what some of the guidance for me to start trusting more and stop this. So what are some,

Katie Beecher 27:28
so I remind them, of out kind of ask them about like, common one is if people who are have been in really bad relationships, and they're afraid of getting into another one, or they're afraid of getting out of their really dysfunctional relationship, because they think they're just going to find another person who doesn't treat them well. So I asked, you know, what were the warning signs that you had? Like, I don't know, like, okay, now, that's not acceptable. What are the warning signs, you know, a bit of this going wrong? Like, did he do this, did she do this did whatever it was, and I try to remind them of times that they use their intuition. Or even with medical intuition, we all have it. So you have this symptom. You knew enough to get yourself to the hospital, or you knew it was gonna be fine, I didn't really need to go there or with your kid, you know, you know, when your kids have ear infections, or whatever it is, so I really tried to reinforce times where they use their intuition, and they could trust it. And also times when they did hear from their intuition and didn't trust it, and we're really sorry. So some of is that kind of, you know, kind of thing. Um, also, we talk a lot about intuition and fear, because that comes up. And my general rule of thumb is fear makes you feel more anxious. And it makes you overthink more and not trust yourself. Whereas intuition may warn you of things, but it's going to do it in a comforting way, in a way that makes you nurture yourself and not create more chaos in your life. And a lot of people will say, it's easier for me to listen to intuition for other people than for myself. So I'm like, okay, apply some of that to you when, you know, a lot of it's just hand holding and confidence building and, and things like that. But there's, there's some, some young in techniques that I teach people about writing your intuition and your body and putting it right back to you. And so, yeah, a lot of it's just like, letting people know that it's, it's there and that they don't have to be Katie Beecher, or whoever else to be able to trust their intuition.

Brandon Handley 29:57
Right, so you're sure Hey, this is open to anybody, it is open to you like Katie Beecher is not open to me, right? And you're like, let's, let's walk through. Let me count the ways. Let me count the ways. Hey, did any of this ever show up in these relationships? Like you're saying, and then, you know, you get the point out, and I guess, you get to walk them along with Oh, yep. That was intuition. Yep. That was intuition. I love how you kind of also juxtapose intuition and fear, right? Like how fears is kind of like the fears is almost like shielding the light as it were, right? And then, you know, if you're, if you're acting in fear, there's like this, there's this uneasiness, this taste and discomfort, whereas like, when you're you're following intuition. There's a nurturing feeling. There's, it's almost like, it's almost like, you know, the doors been open for you. There's like, I'm thinking of like, almost like walking on, like, fresh green grass. Right. Right. Right. And, and not just in this kind of future state. Don't do that. Because it's going to impact your I am this. Right. It's something you know, for. Sure, follow that. But that's okay. Right. It's okay. Right. I think, I think to do things out of safety, and and just is okay, this person, I'm on the first day with them, and something doesn't feel right. Well, trust. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Go with that. We never liked each other from the beginning. Go with that. You know what I mean? All right. Yeah, it's real imperative to really want to have the second date, not just to see if the first one was a fluke. It's not about whether that person likes you. Do you like them? Right. Yeah. I mean, that I think that's, that's even more important, right? Stop holding out for, you knows, again, that external love, stop looking for that outside and then, you know, seeking for it, you know, once you have it for yourself, you've got it, and then everybody else wants it. Right? They'll come to you for that. So anyway, the whole attractive thing. So what is something that you're like really working on right now? talks program. So

Katie Beecher 32:30
I'm really excited about this. I have a book coming out, it's being published in February, it's available for presale, it's called heal from within an intuitive guide to wellness. And it's telling some of my backstory, helping people connect to their intuition. And telling people how to do a lot of the same techniques that I do during my individual readings to detect their issues, get to the root cause, you know, get insight learn to love themselves and care about themselves. And me and my husband calls it Katy Beecher, the home game. But you know, kind of is as much as you could do that for, for the masses. But it's very detailed. There's tons of, you know, quizzes and skills and tools and all that kind of stuff to use. I'm super excited about that. And then, in October, this October, at the Omega center in Rhinebeck, New York, I'm doing a week long workshop. And it has the same title, title here permitting. And it's going to be mostly exercises and activities, because I don't like to just sit around and listen to me talk. But all about, again, connecting to intuition. teaching people how to do those paintings that I do, how to do medical intuitive readings, how to connect yourself connecting to your body, all that kind of stuff. So I'm those are, you know, the two big things coming up. I have an Instagram Live coming up with Miranda Kerr that I'm excited about. And in October too. But um, yeah, so it's, it's getting to kind of teach people on mass, what I do, and then how they can use that to be healthier and happier.

Brandon Handley 34:13
So I think you should just add to the home game. Alright. I love that. I'm like that. My bliss and intuition, Katie is saying that that's the one. So why now? Why the book now?

Katie Beecher 34:29
Yeah, what's new, going to write a book when I was recovering from the eating disorder? I was told then this is a really good thing that you have this. I'm very grateful for the eating disorder experience, because so many reasons, but I wouldn't be who I am today wouldn't be my authentic self. But I knew then that I was going to write this book and be working with the whole world, basically. And I guess I just had to go through a whole lot of crap to get there. And to be ready. Um, and they do. And six, seven years ago, six years ago, I found out that I had Lyme disease. Every co infection in Lyme probably had it since I was a kid growing up in Connecticut. So I asked my guides, okay, what's the deal? You know why now? Why am I finding this out? And they said, it's time for you to stop putting off writing reading your book proposal. So I listened finally did that. I'm not a writer. So it was a little daunting and terrifying. Got some help with it? And now there's a book. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 35:44
That's great. That's great. And right, like, life will stop you from doing everything else until you do the thing that you're supposed to be doing. Right. So, I mean, were you going through that condition? And instead of saying, Why, God, why, yeah, we're like, Alright, what's this? What's in here? For me? Well, yeah,

Katie Beecher 36:04
I knew enough about my recoveries from other things to say, Okay, this is not my enemy. This is not out to get me. It's scary. It's supposed to be scary, because it's getting my attention. So what's the reason? What am I supposed to do with this and learn from it? And I didn't want to be a patient. And be poor me. And because that wasn't serving me. So it was, yeah, it was it was kind of practicing what I preach really, which is, you know, we screw up. Sometimes we try to do our best.

Brandon Handley 36:41
But I mean, I think that's interesting, too, right? Because as much as we know, all this stuff, and we practice and we preach it and we go through it doesn't mean we're invulnerable to those things, right? And then it's when they happen. We're like, he's son of a bitch. Right? Like, all right, you can call it calling my Bluff, right? as it were. Let's see, let's see,

Katie Beecher 37:07
can I roll behind me? That's awesome. That is my love. I enjoy it. I'm addicted to it. And I got a shoulder injury, not doing poll. And there was there was a message to that, which I've done after going through the whole thing, but I'm like, dammit.

Brandon Handley 37:23
I love you know, I love that you do you do some of the the pole dancing on here and stuff on your Insta stuff? It's, I mean, I love it, right? You're just out there doing it and doing your thing. I think that that's, you know, just more of doing your thing, right? It's just part of who you are doing it. And it's not right or wrong,

Katie Beecher 37:42
kill you when it's good for you. And it's as strong as I've ever been in my life. And it's good for body image. You know, if you told me back when I had an eating disorder that I would be wearing, basically, bikini on the internet, you are insane. I would have been with the beach. So you know. Right?

Brandon Handley 37:59
Good for you. I mean, look, that's I mean, that's a long journey to get there. So So I mean, there's got it, there's a lot I think there's power in that story as well, for sure. For the Yes, omega center, who is your ideal client? Who should be attending? Like this? That's a really, really yeah.

Katie Beecher 38:21
I feel like someone who knows nothing at all, about spirituality or intuition, or art, or any of that stuff would be great. And the clients I work with run from knowing nothing to being practitioners themselves, um, people who do intuitive work or energy work, or who were even physicians or acupuncturist or whatever, it's advanced enough that they would get something out of it. For sure, it's, you know, it's my own things that I've created and invented with some young thrown in. So, really, I have purposely

Brandon Handley 39:01
wait with this other guy young that I heard of. He's okay. He's a small contributor,

Katie Beecher 39:08
you know, so I think things that people have not been exposed to be for unless you've had a reading, but even then, it's kind of cool. So it's people who know nothing, people who are have some sort of illness or whatever, like, who doesn't, you know, learn more about that people who want to help themselves and clients or and other people. And it's, I really want it to be I want to be friendly, not scary. You know, but also for people to say, Well, I didn't know I could do that. And I'm

Brandon Handley 39:49
alright. Right. We I mean, I guess if there's somebody out there who's in the area and are thinking and maybe they they, you know, they would just want to test out this Medical intuition on themselves, this is something I could go check out and then, right. It's something that, yeah, they could they could put into practice, like, almost immediately. One thing I want to circle back on is something that you hit on, is the whole idea that I think it's I just want to help reinforce for you is that you into it, you have conversations with the people. And you recommend that they go to a specialist people that I validate,

Katie Beecher 40:31
I want to have experience with, right? That right? No, are ethical our caring, are qualified to do their thing. So in the reading, we talk about physical, emotional, spiritual, I will identify things that I see, you know, like physical symptoms, emotional symptoms, I'll identify all that. And I could say, you know, symptoms such similar to Lyme or similar to something else. But this is these are some people that I recommend, some who work online, some are who are in the area, who can, can look into what I've said further, do some testing. So you have empirical information, do some treatment, I cannot treat people that's not legal or ethical either. So

Brandon Handley 41:29
yeah, I'm yeah, that's something I want to call out, right? I wanted to double down on that. So somebody only, maybe they weren't really listening to the first half. And they come in the backend? Well, you can't just do these things and send people off, right? And tell them they're gonna be okay. You're telling them you know, there's Hey, there's more work, there's more work beyond what I just talked about. Please go right. validate this with somebody who's certified because that's not what I do here. What I do here is I you know, we help we discuss, we understand, I show you two that you can do this through your own intuition. That's why you're here with me today, right? Because you've got intuition. And now Hey, let's not stop there.

Katie Beecher 42:09
And also I have them contact me after what what did you find? What's going on with you? What did you find? And you can ask questions about the reading afterwards for no extra charge? Because I don't think it's fair. If someone has a question, they make a whole new appointment. Like that's not cool. So I follow up with them and want to know what's going on. And in some people, a lot of people make follow up appointments, some people don't, it's all it's all good, depending what you want to do. But it's it's a process.

Brandon Handley 42:39
Katie, real similar to the who should be showing up for your events, like who's your guy, I know, you get customers from all different types of moves, what seems to be like your most prevalent

Katie Beecher 42:51
Can I definitely get people who do have others who don't, people who just want to connect to their intuition or improve their relationships or whatever. But the vast majority of people, I would say, have a physical or mental health condition that they haven't gotten the help that they've needed or wanted. for it, they want to learn more about it, they want to get to the root cause instead of mandating and taking medicine or whatever. So they really want to get to the bottom of it and feel better permanently, you know, have lasting, lasting health and lasting wellness, and find their life purpose and be authentic.

Brandon Handley 43:40
Perfect, awesome. You put in there for a second. Oh, so usually, you know, is there anything else that you would cover or anything else that kind of you would you would want to share that we didn't really touch on during this? Um,

Katie Beecher 43:53
I guess I just really want to say that we are all capable of being happy and of healing and of being authentic and trusting ourselves. And it seems really scary. Sometimes No, it is, you know, not gonna not gonna say it's not but it's really worth it. And it's okay to ask for help. It takes strength to ask for help, you know, but, like, keep trying, you know, and even just following your dreams. I'm not a writer under the hell I was doing. I have this book that got published it, you know, it took a while it was a lot of kind of ups and downs and just kind of keep at it and, and don't be afraid to make mistakes.

Brandon Handley 44:49
I'm trying to see where my mic is.

Unknown Speaker 44:52
My honor my off.

Brandon Handley 44:56
What's the first step for somebody like that? Right. So I agree. 100 percent. What is starting that journey?

Katie Beecher 45:03
It's admitting it admitting that I am not perfect. I need help. I don't have to be better than other people. I'm the same. Everybody has flaws. But I need to admit that I have pain. And I don't want to live this way anymore.

Brandon Handley 45:25
I have suffering, right we have. So every everybody has suffering. That's, that's the root of it. Right? And how do I how do I let go that transcend it? as it were? Well, awesome. I think that's great. The place we are now is in the spiritual speed dating space right now. Right. So basically, basically, somebody is tuning in here today. They're like, I'm looking for my next you know, spiritual hottie. You could be it for somebody out there, Katie. And so let's find a question that I think works here. We'll start with bachelor number one, what is the greatest quality humans?

Unknown Speaker 46:09
Humans possess?

Brandon Handley 46:13
mean, let's expand on it. Like, what's that? What's that mean?

Katie Beecher 46:16
Right, caring about others. And being there for other people. I think there's a lot of really nice, good people out there. There's a lot of shitty people, but there's a lot of people who actually do really care about others. And that's the most important gift we can give each other is to, to be there.

Brandon Handley 46:39
For me step by step into that love and actually I hate the term leverage, but like, use it, right? Don't just be like, leverage the love and like, you know, in I think what you were saying earlier in that way that you've already applied to yourself, or have the potential to apply to yourself. I think the first place right that somebody should apply that is to themselves unconditionally. Learn how to love yourself before you love anybody else. I think as a as a takeaway on that one. Just admit it, acceptance is freeing. And it's, it's, it's liberating, right? Really, you know what, yeah, that was my shit. It is now what? Right? What are we also afraid of?

Katie Beecher 47:25
I was good. I looked at those questions. I was gonna say ourselves, but what I really think it is, is abandonment and not being loved by others.

Brandon Handley 47:37
Around Yeah, I mean, I think I think that that's, that's a big part of it, for sure. Um, but I think I would, I would, I would almost say to, right, I mean, it links to that love thing, right? You haven't learned how to love yourself yet in a situation like that. So both answers are acceptable, like, loving yourself, like, you know, afraid to like kind of love yourself or yourself being afraid of yourself. Right. That's that whole Marianne Williamson. You know, the our greatest fear, isn't that right? I mean, hockey, like every time you see it, it's like, that's the one all right, man. Jeez, I don't know why you're anything yet. But sure. Right. Well, listen, Katie's it's been so great to finally have this interview with you. Have you on I know we You and I were talking before we we got going here. We connected sometime in like February this year. It's August. Holy smokes. 2021 looks like a record speed break neck year. So thank you so much for being on where can I send the audience to find

Katie Beecher 48:46
some fun? Um, so my website is Katie. k Tia, feature b e ch er calm. So Katie meter calm. And I think I owe you a picture.

Brandon Handley 49:01
If you don't give me one, I'll find one. Katie. So that's you know, that's in your hands. Right? That's, that's within your control. The can they find out more about your sessions and your book by going to your site? So you're okay, so everything, everything they need is right there,

Katie Beecher 49:18
too. It's Katie Beecher, medical intuitive. But yeah, my website talks about the different options for readings. And their sample reports on there. There's paintings, you know, my back stuff, you can make the appointment right on the website. There's a link to I think it's Barnes and Noble or something about my book with the thing. And then there's a link on there also for the Omega workshop right on my front page.

Brandon Handley 49:46
Awesome. Well, congratulations on your book, and you know, the work that you're doing, I think it's so cool. And the story that you're sharing and you're bringing your authentic self to the world the way that you are, I think it's great.

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Keith Gilmore | Psychedelic Revolution

Published: Sept. 5, 2021, 3:51 p.m.
Duration: 40 minutes 31 seconds

Keith Gilmore is a writer, speaker, and coach. He writes primarily on culture, ethics, psychology, spirituality, philosophy, and psychedelics. He is the co-founder of Texture Life Coaching, one of the top ranked psychedelic integration coaching programs in the country.

Connect with Keith over at https://www.texturecoaching.com/ or https://keithgilmore.com/

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you've questioned so much more than those around you. You've even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? And why do people in general appear so limited in his thought process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can't quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you this world, the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don't have to have all the answers, but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another hit of spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let's get right into today's episode.

Brandon Handley 0:41
One. Hey, there's spiritual. So we are on here with Keith Gilmore, this is round two. We're giving it a second shot. And Keith is a writer, speaker and coach. He writes primarily on culture, ethics, psychology, spirituality, philosophy, and psychedelics. He's the co founder of texture life coaching, and one of the top ranked psychedelic integration coaching programs in the country. So glad that you could join us today. Happy to be here, Brandon, he had an amazing answer earlier. So we're gonna see if you can double down on it when we were trying to a different platform. You know, the question being that we are all source or seek through us is gonna be like an amazing connection through Keith from source to you. And it can only happen like this one time, Keith, what is that? What is that this come through today?

Keith Gilmore 1:34
Yeah, so I'm looking to talk about the psychedelic Renaissance that's happening right now. And what I see is happening is that these things, the psychedelics are reemerging into the cultural consciousness in a way that is speaking to exactly what we need to hear, at this time, in our lives, where things are so disconnected, people are so islanded, there is so much strife and tension. There's a feeling of kind of being lost at sea that people are largely experiencing. And it's because of a lot of things, but because our world, there's so much going on, there's so much information, there's so much confusion. And I believe the psychedelics are re emerging right now right on time, to help us to make sense of what's going on to help us to reconnect to one another as human beings, and to help us to allow us to kind of see what we're not seeing right now.

Unknown Speaker 2:48
That's cool.

Brandon Handley 2:49
So what do you what do you think that we're not seeing right now? What's like one of those things that we are not seeing right now, just psychedelics allow us to see.

Keith Gilmore 2:58
Yeah, I think in my opinion, fundamentally, that thing is we are not seeing one another as our brother and sister undergoing this journey as human beings, arm and arm to gather facing the unknown to gather, and were seeing because of, again, a lot of reasons. But because of the state that our culture is in, we're seeing one another as you know, enemy or maybe a tentative ally, or just as people who we can't trust we can't put our faith in as someone who's going to stand side by side with me to face what's coming face, you know, the continued craziness that's unfolding in the world.

Brandon Handley 3:58
So I mean, it's I guess a limiting some barriers that we put up is what I'm hearing, right. And it's allowing us to connect and bond at a certain level that we're not saying available to us at this point in time, and just establishing some type of trust link to experience this human condition together. Is that what I'm kind of hearing you say?

Keith Gilmore 4:26
Well, third, yeah. And I would add to that, just that it, it allows us to have that trust link with ourselves to because the psychedelic experience allows us to see ourselves without all of the trappings of culture without all of these lenses through which we're viewing ourselves and really dig into like, Okay, this is what's going on with me. This is the source of, you know, my issues right now. It gives you this site to yourself, that with compassion and with generosity, you're able to see kind of what's really going on with you. So that each of us can carry that out into the world. And through our own personal transformation, the shifting of the tides begin to happen.

Brandon Handley 5:24
So, you know, from personal and past experience spent a long time, but um, it's kind of like a, you just like you're saying, There's, there's no, there's no hiding from yourself. Right? There's, there's no, there's no way, you know, which, which I think you can which, which is easy to happen with drinking with alcohol with other substances, right, where you can shut off these these pieces of yourself very easily and escape, right. Whereas with the psychedelics, like you're saying, like, you're fully exposed, right, you're fully exposed. And I think that what you're saying is really important, too, right? You've got to have someone there, or there's has to be this kind of this, this compassionate setting. Right? I think on your site, too, you mentioned and we're gonna jumps out in a minute, but like, because there's the potential for this thing to go sideways real fast. And do some damage? Yeah, yeah. no worse than any other mental damage that we can experience. Right. But like, it can, it can certainly be damned a damaging experience, if you don't have that, that space created for yourself. And you don't have some of the things that you talked about, like, on your site with going in there with a good intention with having almost a game plan. Right? Like, what are we going to do here today? How is this whole thing going to go down? Right, so so I appreciate I appreciate how you've illustrated again, that idea that well exposure to yourself, like I didn't know that was even still here, type of thing happening. Right? So let's talk a little bit about, you know, textured life coaching, and how you ended up where you are today? What brought you into coaching? What brought you into spirituality? What brought you into the whole psychedelic realm? If you don't mind? Sure,

Keith Gilmore 7:14
yeah. So my personal journey and my personal spiritual journey, I kind of, in my teens and early 20s, I kind of had this approach to life into my perspective of religion, my perspective of spirituality, where I was just kind of anti, that what what I thought that had to offer. Because I saw kind of the ways that people could be and were being hindered or harmed by religion. And really, in reflection, I think what I was bristling against was more like strict dogma. Whereas the religions that utilize psychedelics, in their ceremonies, and just in the kind of texture of their ex religious experiences, it's more of this embodied feeling of I am going through this. And like you're mentioning, I, I'm in this container of support. But it's not just here is a litany of rules, you need to follow it, here's this experience, you are traveling through it, you're experiencing it. And it's embodied that way. It's not just something written in a book, which, you know, as I've grown, as I've developed my own relationship with spirituality, I am able to see value in the teachings of all religions. But kind of my, you know, crowbar in the door, let's say, to the spiritual dimension was initially through reading and connecting with the teachings of the Buddha, and then through discovering psychedelics, and that was just kind of a dynamite blast, opening the hatch. But, and that led me to realizing that I needed to be working in the domain of psychedelics, helping people to navigate these experiences, helping people to figure out how to approach them, how to bring something back with them that they can utilize in their continued self understanding. So it's something that is very important to my own personal journey, as well as how I see things unfolding in the world. I see This as a method for, like you mentioned earlier, the the idea of source for connecting to source for connecting to the ineffable in a way that's embodied. That's not just someone telling you something. It's you experiencing something. And I think that alone has a lot of transformative potential.

Brandon Handley 10:24
For sure you use the word that I'm a big fan of myself earlier. numinous. Right? There's this feeling of Numinous you. I know, I shared it with my audience, but like, What's that? What's that feeling mean to you? Like, when you say, this feeling of newness and describe, I think a little bit of your way of helping people integrate this experience into their everyday I wrote down the whole of life, like because, right, you, you go through, you go through this experience, you're like, wow, like, this is what life is supposed to be like, and then you're like, I gotta be at work, like nah, dude. You know, I mean, you know, and, and sometimes it's a real challenge to go back into the container, like a different container, right? Here we are in this container support and like full mind expansion. And, you know, I'm guessing like an area of like, acceptance and support, and there's like, this release, probably, that your clients are, you're feeling right, and then they've got to go back into the dungeon. So how do you help them navigate that? Right?

Keith Gilmore 11:33
Yeah, for sure. Yeah, that's well put. And I think that there's a few things there one, the experience of the numinous of the ineffable of that which you can't speak of, because there's no words for it is it It feels like you're connecting to something that is just so much greater than yourself. And then as you're describing, you come back from that experience, and you go back into the environment, that you were previously living in the same apartment with the same pilot clothes in the corner, the same cubicle at your office with the same, you know, person you work next to who gets on your nerves, and so on and so forth. And that creates this dissonance, and, or it can, it doesn't have to, which is why I do this work, which is helping people to figure out how to integrate the experience. So by integration, we just mean, you know, kind of weaving it into the fabric of their life. So it's not this, okay, I had this crazy, wild experience that is over here. And then my life is over here. And it's just how do I keep both of these things in my mind, it's actually bringing them together. So that the lessons you may have learned, the understandings you may have derived, the memories you may have on Earth, whatever it may be, the actions you feel like you need to take, whatever it may be, you bring those in, and again, embody them, so that you can go out into the world and bring that higher understanding, bring that feeling of connection to something that's greater than myself, and go out and live in such a way that you're kind of communicating through your actions through your being too everyone around you that, that feeling that that feeling of the numinous that there's something more here, and I'm through doing this work on myself, I'm healing myself so that I can go out into the world and kind of be an agent of healing. So it's really helping people to take the experience, and help them to live from that higher place that they were touching on. So it's not merely going back to the cubicle and nothing changing. Maybe you go back to the cubicle, and you actually understand this person who gets on your nerves better. And so you can, you know, build a relationship or work on something in yourself that that's pointing to, or whatever it may be. Yeah, for sure. Right.

Brandon Handley 14:52
Yeah, I love the idea of weaving it into the fabric of their lives as well as, like you said, there's this there can be this dissonance Right, and trying to help them to come back and bring that with them in the idea that they are this agent of healing, like you're saying, the one thing that I think that, um, is a challenge for the spiritual community that I've seen is a, you know, there's this whole idea of, let's get rid of the ego, right? But then there's this whole, there's also this other terminology like, well, I'm my higher self right now. So you guys can all go fuck yourselves, right? Like, I mean, I'm good over here, bro. Like, I've reached a plateau. And you're all beneath me. Right? So I mean, how do we? How do we soften that? How do we change? Like how that comes across? Have you? How have you been able to do that in your practice?

Keith Gilmore 15:49
Yeah, that that can be a tricky thing, where, you know, you have this experience of you can call it God or connecting with God. And then some people will come back and internalize that and say, Oh, I must be God. And, you know, that's an extreme way of putting it. But this is, I think, potential pitfall. And, honestly, I think that the way to address that is, is like anything to approach the experience with a curious humility. So, you know, I could have a experience a psychedelic experience, and get all these major downloads and feel like I understand how things work. And I need to go out and tell the world and, and, you know, that's in that state. Again, it's an ecstatic state. So you're excused for acting for thinking, however, however, you may be thinking or acting, but then to take that and to say, I know better than you. I'm gonna, you know, be up here on this cloud and look down on you. That's, I would say that is actually a result of not integrating the experience, or not integrating it properly. For sure. For sure.

Brandon Handley 17:21
So, you know, let's say again, let's say I come to you for a session, right? What's this? What's that going to look like? Walk me walking through the approach and what I could expect by having this experience with you?

Keith Gilmore 17:36
Yeah, yeah. So you know, I recently started working with a client, and he let me know that, hey, I'm going to this Iowa Oscar ceremony in three weeks. And I want to be prepared. I did one a few years ago, and didn't have any integration. And so I don't feel like I got as much out of that, or brought as much out of that as I could have. And so for me, that's right there. That's a lot of information to work with. Okay, this, this retreat is coming up soon, within the next three weeks, there is experience in the past that you've had. And you recognize that there was maybe a way you could have approached that where you would have gotten more from it. And so from there, it's me, kind of inquiring of, well, what is your intention in doing this? Why are you doing this? And I think that's a big part of the integration process. That, again, people can think of integration as this is something that happens afterwards, once I come, come back, come down. But ideally, you're it's kind of enveloping the whole experience, and you're kind of pre loading it as well. And having clear intentions for why you're going to undertake this journey is extremely helpful, because that can kind of guide the whole thing. And it can be anything it can be, you know, I want to see where I'm going wrong in my relationship. I want to understand something from my past. I want to work through trauma that I have. It can just be as kind of broad as I want to see what I'm not seeing right now what's holding me back. But going in with that intention, that allows that kind of plants a seed, and over the next few weeks up to the journey and then within the journey. itself, especially, you're kind of growing this tree that will hopefully bear fruit. And I also I like to tell people which, you know, it's not my idea, but that intentions are helpful and good. And even important, but expectations are not helpful and may actually hinder you. So to go in and say, I'm gonna, you know, I'm going to heal this particular trauma that happened when I was 10 years old, and you go in, and maybe you the, the experience is confusing, or maybe, you know, you find out that there's way more work to be done. And so you come out of it, and maybe you think, Well, why did I just do that I didn't get what I wanted. Because you're gonna get I believe you're gonna get what you need to see. Not necessarily what you want to happen.

Brandon Handley 21:06
For sure, for sure. I mean, you know, going into it with the intention. I think that that's super important, right? The idea is, you call it a seed, and I love the abraham hicks fans, but I've listened to her for a little bit, but uh, see, she calls it kind like pre paving, right? Go ahead and clear the pathway. But like this is, this is where I plan to go, this is just setting the intention. And that's going to be my direction. And to release those expectations are super important. If you go in there, and you're so hyper focused on this thing that you want to have happen, and it's not happening for you. That can be you know, that can be something that you're attached to, as you're going through it. Right? Well, no, Buddha said, don't do that. We all know, we all said, you know, we all we all know that attachment is the source of suffering. So to your point, your what is necessary for you to see will present itself. I'm gonna go hit and hit and miss on that one, just with the idea that you surround yourself with people that are supportive, right? Make sure I mean, would you talk a little bit about making sure that you're in the right mental state and like, hey, if you've had a really shitty, like, run up to this, maybe that's a bad idea, right? Like, maybe you're not in the right mental state for this. Now, have you had that happen? I mean, talk to me a little bit about how you handle somebody like that, or just making sure that they are ready for this.

Keith Gilmore 22:42
Yeah, that's a great point to bring up. And the classical, but don't ask me how I now the classical wisdom is, of course set and setting, which is your mindset going into it, and the setting in which the experience is going to happen. And so, to your point, what you're bringing up, if you're in a state of chaos in your life, you know, your wife just left you you're just got fired, or, you know, whatever it may be, that may be an ideal time for a journey. But it may not be it may be that you're not, you don't have two feet on the ground. And so you might enter this space, and, you know, it could just kind of, you know, create a really tough time for you. So, going in approaching it, again, I like to think of it as kind of curious humility, where I'm going and curious about what may happen. Rather than like, I need to fix this right now, I'm going to turn to this thing that I've heard, cures depression that I've heard, you know, heals people, this. So I'm just gonna jump into this, when really, it's much more nuanced than that. And it's, and it's quite complicated. And so having the right mindset, which, you know, I think, can be cultivated by any any number of ways through having a coach or through meditation practice or through working with a therapist or just knowing yourself listening to yourself and hearing that internal voice say, I'm ready. And then the setting piece is, you know, there's a reason that historically, in the kind of indigenous practices, these these experiences are had in a Sarah emoni and because of ceremony, there's someone to lead the ceremony a shamanic type person that understands the domain and the terrain. There's other people there to support you, there's this feeling that I'm participating in something greater than myself. So this Dan edge, maybe that's not necessarily accessible to you. There are, of course, firewall SCA retreats you can go to, and there are various kind of underground workers who guides or sitters who will sit with you. And again, understand the terrain, understand what to do if things get hard for you. But even just having a friend who has a little experience, sit for you, while you're going through this, just so you know, okay, I'm in a place that is safe, my doors are locked, there's not going to be any surprises, my phone is off, I don't have to worry about anything logistical, because I have this person here that can refill my water bottle, or that can even you know, give me a hug if I'm having a really tough time or whatever it may be. But, again, creating that container, so that it's not just you flying out in space. And it's maybe unfortunate that a lot of people their first experience of psychedelics is when they're really young, and maybe it's in a chaotic space, like a music festival. And there's, you know, people drinking and chaos and all of this around them. And some people, you know, I don't, I don't knock any particular way of approaching these things, as long as it's done with with attention and care. But I think a lot of people tend to get into bad situations, because their environment is not controlled. It's It's too chaotic. So just having the container again, the the feeling of safety, and knowing that there's not going to be any surprises, is that that alone is invaluable.

Brandon Handley 27:35
100% Yeah, nothing you're saying here that I disagree with. I'm not the specialist. So, um, the the idea, though, that I love. So I mean, I'm gonna just kind of roll it back a little bit, you know, when you've got like this indigenous setting, right? You've got a column, like a grand master spiritual leader, right? That that is staying there in front of you, that alone is going to bring a whole new level to your experience being being there with somebody that you know, is experienced, that is completely tied into this ritual. It's quite literally in their blood. And, and I call it like a collective that community around there's a support what you're going through. And I think that that's super important. I think that's really awesome that you're, you know, creating this space, so that you know, somebody's first experience. I think a couple of things like when you're younger, I don't know that you really got the capability to speak, what you're given in that experience, to the level that you're delivering, right to make it a useful exercise, to be honest with you. Right, like, I mean, I do have a question, though. Is there like, do you have a certain level of experience that you suggest the people that you work with, or is it you'll take somebody on that's this would be their first time?

Keith Gilmore 29:03
Yeah, it to me, it doesn't matter as long as again, the as long as you're approaching it with the proper care and respect that I think it deserves. It doesn't matter if you have no idea you maybe just read my Michael Pollan's book, and you're curious or if you've sat in 100 Iosco circles.

Brandon Handley 29:29
Should I be reading Michael's book?

Keith Gilmore 29:32
I mean, I think it's a good primer to understanding the psychedelic Renaissance and some history.

Brandon Handley 29:39
I yeah. use that as a recommendation. Okay. Um, were you know, just Is this something that you offer in person only or what is the what's your, who should be reaching out to you like, who should be contacting you? Who's your ideal client?

Keith Gilmore 29:57
Yeah, again, anyone who's curious Curious humility again, our Yeah, anybody who is curious and wants to take it seriously take the prospect of their own healing of becoming more in tune with their higher self, of understanding more of what they should be doing or how they should be acting in the world. or wanting to address certain things that they feel like are holding them back. But yeah, I, you know, since the COVID situation, all of my coaching has been been done remotely anyway. So, yeah, I

Brandon Handley 30:41
guess found things different over there in Oregon, you know. So, you know, if I was to get all marketing on you, right, like, if I was some marketing coach, and I asked you for like, the elevator pitch, you know, what would that be? What do you have one?

Keith Gilmore 30:55
An elevator pitch for the integration coaching.

Brandon Handley 30:59
That's right.

Keith Gilmore 31:00
I don't have one, but I could throw one together.

Brandon Handley 31:03
Yeah, I'm just curious. Right? Like, I mean, because it's it for me, I get it, man. Right. Like, I've been there. I've been through it, and I get it. But for the person that hasn't been like, it can be a challenge. Because sometimes it's, it's, it's, it's so a theory. Right? And they want to grasp it. And it's just right outside of their grasp, right. But so what would you say your specialty is with this, right? Like, in terms of the challenges that people are facing? Where's your specialty, just to be there as a guide to help them get through this experience. And I like in, I liken psychedelics to kind of like the rotor router of the mind or that door, you've been trying to kick down, but you haven't been able to, and all of a sudden, it's like, pow, there it is. Right? And some of it's like you were saying earlier, it's not even like same that thing you thought you needed. It's this other thing. That's way over here, you haven't even considered, it's been walking with you for your entire life. And boom, there it is. It's opened up, they've got you there with them, and they're able to resolve this thing is that would that be a session that I might have with you?

Keith Gilmore 32:13
Perhaps I'm in I like, I like the rotor rotor router of the mind idea. Bill Hicks, the comedian used to call it squeegeeing your third eye? But yeah, I would say my pitch to people wouldn't be How are you feeling? Do you feel like the world is holding you properly? Do you feel like your real needs are being attended to? Do you feel like you're being seen? Do you feel like you're being understood? Or do you feel like you're kind of just grasping or, or trying to, you know, keep your head from bobbing underwater, or we live in this world that there's so much chaos, so much confusion, and so much novelty, there's more and more crazy stuff happening every day. And we'll continue to as we move forward, it's not gonna slow down. So the psychedelic experience allows us to slow down to reconnect with our true human selves. We live in a world where so many things divorce us from our humaneness. And the psychedelics allow us to connect back with that, and feel like, wow, I am a human being. It's and it is, it's, it's something that you can't explain it has to be experienced. But it allowing yourself to do that to go through that. It's very, to me, it's very reassuring. And I think it's one of the reasons that I have such optimism about the future about where we're heading, I feel like we are going to get it together. And that the emergence the re emergence on a mass popular cultural scale of the psychedelics is going to play a hugely important role in us getting it together

Brandon Handley 34:20
100% a little bit the self study, or is this do Did you, you know, get some credentials on this, or, you know, just kind of against self study. And I think that that's really, to me, I think that's super important to like self education really speaks to your love of this space versus being like why I went and I took like, you know, a nine day seminar, and I don't want you saying that's bad. So I mean, where are you with that in that space?

Keith Gilmore 34:48
Yeah, yeah. So I'm kind of by nature, the autodidact type I like to teach myself and especially with the psychedelics you need. to experience it yourself to get a, as much of a grasp as you can on what it is. But I also think it's important to learn from people who have knowledge who have more experience than me, who have more understanding than me. So I'm, I'm constantly kind of taking courses and doing group work, and just trying to learn and understand more, so that I can properly convey what needs to be conveyed and to help people to go through the multiplicity of experiences that could come up.

Brandon Handley 35:46
No, no, 100%. That's it. And there's a lot of them. And so I think, again, I think the work that you're doing is really important. I think that it's pretty cool that you're doing it. And I love the idea that you know, there's this Renaissance, right, and there, you're just kind of, to capture it right to hold people and take them through it. Where, oh, you know, what, hold on a second, we almost forgot. This is like spiritual speed dating. So, you know, basically, the idea is, you know, you're like bachelor number one, Keith, and like, so you know, somebody listening to this podcast, they they're basically looking for their next, you know, spiritual date, and you could be it. So I'm gonna ask a question or two, let's do it, we got the mood to do to do, how does one obtain true peace?

Keith Gilmore 36:38
Well, my short answer is I wish I knew. And my long answer would be to follow your heart, do what you know, is right in your heart, nobody else you can't externalize it, no one else can tell you, no one else can show you how they can kind of show you the door, they can kind of guide you on how to put one foot in front of the other, but you need to follow through with it. And I think that inner peace comes from congruence between your thinking, your beliefs, and your actions, your your doing your being in the world. And the only way to achieve that that I found is to follow your heart, trust yourself. Because only you know, and we can't give our trust away lightly. Because it's, you know, that's one of the most important things you have.

Brandon Handley 37:38
That's number one, that's a solid answer. The idea to just kind of a sub question. Does your practice help someone to identify a way to follow their heart?

Keith Gilmore 37:51
Would you say? Yeah, I, I that's, that's part and parcel of a lot of the work I do. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 38:03
I think you would say we are all one. So I'm not going to go with that one. What happens after you die? bachelor number one. Don't buck this up?

Keith Gilmore 38:15
Right? Well, when I look out into the world, into the natural world, I see when a tree dies, it falls to the forest floor. And the matter the energy and the stuff that makes it up, begins being transferred to other things, moss is growing. ferns start growing, mushrooms start growing. And so I look to that process where when a tree dies, nothing is lost. The you know, the physical standing thing is not there anymore, but it's not lost. What it is, is not lost, it's transformed. It's turned under, and new life emerges from it in its place, and from its matter. So I would say that, perhaps something like that, but I don't think anything's lost.

Brandon Handley 39:27
I like it. I mean, it's kind of a return, return to life, right? You give them back know what you've already got, right? Everything. Everything recycles, right. I think that, you know, we all know that. You know, as much as we can believe science, right? That there's never any more or any less like mass and or energy at all times. So I like your idea of it's just kind of goes back into where it came from.

Keith Gilmore 39:57
Yeah, for sure.

Brandon Handley 39:59
All Thank you. Hey man, I had a blast. I really appreciate again like, like I said, what you're doing Where? Where can somebody come find out more about what you're doing and potentially work with you?

Keith Gilmore 40:12
Yeah, so you can catch me at texture coaching calm, and if you're resonating with anything I'm saying you can check out my writing, which is on Keith Gilmore, calm. Thanks so much for being here to thank you Brandon

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Derek Webster | The foundation for Humility is Spirituality

Published: Aug. 29, 2021, 3:26 p.m.
Duration: 33 minutes 39 seconds

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Books and Covers

Published: Aug. 27, 2021, 4:55 p.m.
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Wherever you go

Published: Aug. 24, 2021, noon
Duration: 18 minutes 6 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:02
What is up, leave in the somewhat of a BJJ report figured out. It's been really interesting past few few several days. For me, I figured I'd share a little bit of it. If you've been hanging out. And heard, I'm pretty sure I did a pretty short session on this, if I didn't, I certainly meant to be pretty sure I did in regards to being a part of this course called creating personal mastery, with Sreekumar Rao. And there was a group of group of us students in a session, and we're talking about who we're being and what miracles we're seeing, creating whatever, whatever you want to call it. And what turned out in that group, three out of four of us, were a coach in some shape or manner. Three out of four of us were a coach in a spiritual space, to boot. And we were all in different areas in our journey. But there we all were together. And during that, during that session, one of the one of the gentlemen in the session had mentioned that he was not sure where to go next, not sure what to do next. He felt like he was at a bit of a of an impasse. And I said, Well, is there anybody that's doing what you would like to be doing? And if so, have you have you considered talking with them? And he said that he had a friend that had moved away. And I think that oftentimes, we, we feel like we've exhausted our supplies, if if we've run out of what we know. We exhaust service, we stop asking questions, we stop going, we stop at a certain point, there's some type of logic, some type of some type of logic that says you've exhausted all you've exhausted all your resources, you got to stop here, you're done. And there's that's the challenge. That's one of the challenges. That's why when we say alright, well, you know, life can be challenging, but you know, shit, you don't just stop, life can be challenged to compete, things that pop up, you're going to be in a situation has never been before. We're going to be in situations you've never been before, you're not going to have an immediate answer, you're gonna have to try something. And one of those things that you can try is go to groups groups, like I'm talking about here, so that you can get others input, the whole point of diversity isn't so much the color of your skin and your sex, gender and age. The point of diversity is another person's viewpoints, diverse input, so that you can stop doing what's always been done because you surround yourself in a fucking echo chamber. So you get out of your echo chamber where everybody you knows done the same thing for their entire lives, and you do the same thing for your entire life, and nothing ever fucking changes. So we're talking and I saw him I say, Hey, you know, what about Is there somebody that you can go find anybody online then? Could you Is it possible that you could find somebody else that's doing what you want to be doing? Doing well with it. Outside of that one guy, or gal? I said, Yeah, sorry. That's great. So we're talking miracles and then we have some more conversations and you know, I'm I'm at certain points in mind, but I feel like where I am,

Unknown Speaker 4:24
I'm

Brandon Handley 4:26
moving forward, and I am allowing myself to blossom. There's also the idea of doing it so hard, so fast to burnout, that you never give yourself the opportunity to fully express all of who you are. If you're familiar with gardening, then you'll know that when you apply too much fertilizer too much nitrogen to a plant, which will which will help it

Unknown Speaker 4:57
grow.

Brandon Handley 4:58
If done the right amounts the right times. However, sometimes people try to accelerate, push those limits, and we push those limits with the nitrogen fertilizer. You burned a plant out, you kill it. So the same thing that makes it grow rapidly is also in the sense the same thing that kills it. So you have to be careful that you're not trying, you're not trying too hard too rapidly. And there's a story in in in the st. Amaral books talking about the guy that shows up to become a monk and become a master. And he's asking the master if he can stay if he can learn with them. Yeah, yeah, you can stay you can learn. young guy goes, alright, well, cool. Down, give me that shit. And he said, How long is it gonna take? I mean, you know, I got to get to I got to get back to the states got a got a big company to run and all kinds of things are happening for me and around me. A very important guy. And, and the Master says, Hey, 10 years. Very important, guys like 10 years? They all right? Look, what if I work 80 hours a week, sacrifice my family and give everything up. And that's all I do. That's everything. Master who's 20 years. And the guy's like, What the fuck, 20 years, right? Because you kind of burn yourself out. You got to allow some room for growth in order to grow. So if you're always crowding it all in and, and whatnot, then then it's all it's all, always. Don't give yourself room to grow. So we're talking about the miracles and finding somebody, I'd insisted or I'd said, Hey, you could find some wisdom, what you want to be doing, wouldn't it be great. Next morning, going to work for a little bit behind and that morning, all the ones like a cup of coffee. And it's like, I just don't have the time for it. Right? I didn't allow for time didn't make time for it. Got meeting back to back to back to back to back to back. And my fucking whatever, right? And then it 10 o'clock, my 10 o'clock canceled. And I jot down in my little book miracle, miracle, fantastic. Go get my cup of coffee. And I come back out and there's a dude reading pauvres. For us, we strike up a conversation, I'm pretty sure I share this. But we strike up a conversation and he's a coach in a men's coaching space, Eric, you know, shout out to Eric. And the thing is, that's just the same seems to be like the start to this little roller coaster of not only just miracles, the next miracles is, you know, just recently chat with one of my co workers. And we get to talk in and turns out he's doing turns out he's doing some hard work on himself. Some of the weight loss and you know, what goes into it and the story in his journey, he's been sharing a little bit of it on Instagram and, and YouTube, we get to talk about it. And he's like, Alright, well, you know, share my story. And we talked, we both exchanged that he was doing that, and I'm doing podcast myself and doing spiritual dope here. And he's like, what are you doing? Give him the lowdown. And he shares with me that he's better theology school and how he's, you know, a bit more about his journey and the conversations is this more personal, more human and there's very unexpected, but at the same time, not out of place. And the third and the third piece is his recently went to go meet up with a partner in the ecosystem where I work and and she's coming in and we're sitting there talking over over a meal. As she drops some, some, some quick little bombs. It's just not even breaking stride about her spiritual journey and her just what that's looked like, and just how she's, you know, come along and unprompted. And it was just really interesting, because, I don't know, right, but I was there for your work. And let's talk about the let's talk about the partnership and the business and all this other stuff. And here she is just kind of sharing, sharing some information. That and you know, talking about

yoga, I was talking About the BJJ and just kind of how that, you know, allows for the community and allows for the growth, getting past traumas and all this other stuff. And I was like, shit, I was like, how unexpected. knows, I was like, this is this is also where I am what I do. And the funny thing is, is like these, these kind of three things in succession to me, just made me think I'm like, Well, I guess, you know, wherever you go, there you are. I'm not saying that these people are me. But then the context of a lot of these self help personal development spaces is that you see a reflection of yourself and everybody and I was like, holy shit, it's like, wherever you go, there you are. So profound stuff. So simple. Who was having that conversation on Sunday morning, lots of conversations recently. But wherever you go, there you are, who you're seeing and what you're running into. It's what you what you're seeking is seeking you even and I think that that also puts into context, the whole idea of the guy who goes to the market is like, Hey, I'm gonna put everything I've got into it, I'm gonna, I'm gonna put maximum effort into overdrive. And, and instead of it taking 10 years and going its natural course and allowing things to come to you. By using power by trying to power past it, or you're actually blocking what's intended for you're actually blocking what's coming your way. So what's happening here is, is, as I kind of step back, and allow for things to come to me, they're showing up. Don't go you know, don't get it twisted, there's certainly some effort on my behalf. But it's not nearly the effort of efforting. If you're familiar with Abraham Hicks, it's not nearly this, this full bore trying to burn out and and crush myself for it. I just wonder for you, you know, where are you? What are you seeing? And what would you like to see more of in your life? What are some indicators to you that you may be you may be pushing yourself too hard towards the thing that you want versus allowing for it to show up versus allowing for it to be there for you. I'd say some of the indicators are that you're putting so much pressure that you're trying too hard that that your Jerome was in desperation mode for this thing, that's, it's already there. All of it's already there in front of you. Just let it be as you be who you're meant to be in these moments, and I know that it sounds like roundabout talk, I know that it sounds like Deaf I can do is burn out. But I can tell you that at this point in my life, I don't feel like I am I feel like I'm more grounded. I feel like I'm more connected. I feel like I'm more confident I feel like more is happening for me than ever before, that I'm allowing for versus what I'm pushing for efforting for. So if you find yourself troubled to sleep at night, if you've stopped if you find yourself troubled to even breathe, if you find yourself just in a constant state of tenseness, these are all indicators that you may be trying to force it all too hard. What happens if you take a deep breath down to your belly instead of to your chest? What happens if you let go and let God in what I mean by that is not like 100% you know, Jesus, take the wheel. Do it try it, test it out some small shirt. Maybe there's some maybe and become bigger yourself by accepting divine help. How can you become bigger than your situations that are keeping you up at night? How can you become bigger than the pain that you're feeling the sleep that you're not Getting.

And you can do that, in essence, by letting go and letting God What I mean by that is, what are some of your worries? What are some of the things that that are bothering? What if? What if, for example, you could just give that over to something bigger than yourself, call it what you want? And what if that problem goes away? And I'll say it in the sense of the whole idea that if you don't believe, fully in this greater presence outside of you, that's fantastic. A, B, what about? What about you? What about your subconscious, the 95% of you, that runs all the programming for you. And the programming that includes making sure that you breathe in at all, make sure that your food gets turned into energy you're walking, you are a walking alchemy lab. That's something that you do without even thinking about it. So these things that you're putting pressure on it, you're thinking about, what happens if you turn that over to the part of you that drives the whole thing that really makes it all happen. pumps your blood, what happens if you turn it over to that that's if you can't just do the let go let God that easily, right. So some small, you have some of your small worries over to the greater part of yourself and realize that if that problem was gone or resolved within three days, what would that look like for you? I just asked you sit with that for a minute. Again, if you're having some of the tenseness and stress in your life that you'd like to see gone can a couple small pieces over see what happens with it. If it works with like one tiny small piece, fucking chocolate another small piece. And, you know, keep using it until it works. If it doesn't work for you, fuck it, move on. Don't worry about it. There's so many other tools and tips and tricks out there for you. But that is one that I have been shown that's one I've been given that's certainly worked for me and has brought so much relief from an already you know, high word a hyper stressed out world. And if it and that's even like 10% reduction in stress, over time shows up and just like compound interest just in such use wave so leave you with that. Best of luck. Wherever you go. There you are the people that you're hanging out with who's showing up in your life what that looks like. Is that you showing up in the world. What's that look like who you run into? Think about

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Getting what you give

Published: Aug. 23, 2021, noon
Duration: 14 minutes 45 seconds

Unknown Speaker 0:02
What is a morning that has a few of the things that you're looking for

Unknown Speaker 0:10
when I do my visualization practice, which is typically done first thing in the morning, as part of the daily routine, each is waking up visualization for about five minutes meditation, pretend to Forney, breathwork, for 10 to 20. Write out some gratitude and speak some gratitude, has some has some peace, have some quiet and maybe read something or listen to some sense that is kind of timeless stoicism, Bible gron anyone to think that this Buddhist sutras, mantras, whatever it is, whatever it is, you're, you're into. And individualization. Practice typically has some background noise going on to set the mood, as it were, or to be a part of the scenery that is individualization. What's that look like? Was that palling. So there are some of them that are thunderstorms, they're birds,

Unknown Speaker 1:36
there's ocean, for scenery, and a walking scenery. Driving monks chanting, and one of my favorites is just simple rain. And in the app that I use, it's called noise maker.

Unknown Speaker 1:54
You can set it so that it has different it moves around a little bit. So it's got equalizer settings, and it switches those up and around as determined to what setting up of course, the one that I always pick is called Sam setting. I don't know what that is. But, hey, I don't know how to know I guess exactly what it is to know that it works. And it works for me. Anyways, waking up this morning. That's that's part of part of what showed up in my morning. For a moment, I felt such gratitude as I was headed into work, it's actually raining the car. I don't know why. I love the sound of the windshield wipers going back and forth rain in the car, other noises around you cars passing for for me, there's there's something in that. And I always imagined that maybe on my way out to go participate in a talk or give a talk. Always over maybe I'm on the way home from one of those or maybe the kids and I are on the way home from something they love to do. Or maybe Meg and I on the way home from a date. Those are the kinds of things in the scenes that I think of when I've got my creative visualization going on. And I've got the rainbow. So it really sets the mood for me.

Unknown Speaker 3:25
And I just really enjoy it. And so welcome to that this morning. And this other piece is a

Unknown Speaker 3:34
little more law of attraction ish, but also just kind of a way to see the world what kind of lens and filter can you see when you apply it like this. And this is a funny because a friend of mine wrote this note, and it's something that I've done as well. And the idea of this chain grocery store chain named outies, which is the same company that owns Trader Joe's if you didn't know that. And when you go to this grocery store, all the carts are lined up, always, almost always the carts are all lined up. And what you'll find is that when you go to grab a cart, you're going to need a quarter because they they lock to each other by way of quarter. Well once they put out this locking mechanism, so what you need is a quarter to go put it into the locking mechanism so that you can free your cart and use it in the store. Otherwise you have to try and walk around with there's no baskets and stuff. And so you get your cart and that's great. And you all around and then you know In order to get your quarterback weighed out versus stored, you have to take it back and put it in line. And, or, you know, an easy thing that you could do is no that man, not everybody's got a quarter when they come up there and Lord knows if you've ever gotten there and you didn't have a quarter, you're like,

Unknown Speaker 5:25
Oh my god, I don't have a quarter that sucks. I try to get all the groceries that you can,

Unknown Speaker 5:32
that you said you were going to get. And then not only do you not get a cart ever eat, once you get your groceries, you have to lift them back out of the cart, they scan them into, and then you have to bag them yourself off to the side. So not having a cart can be a real pain, yes, if you needed it that time. One of the reasons why I try and travel around the car supporters. Now that being said, there's been several times that I've gone there and found quarters, laying around five quarters sound cards. And the one thing I was like to say is like, this is kind of a small opportunity for you to test out a couple things, to see if they work. One of the things to see if they work is the you know, what you've give returns to you, right University, the force multiplier, and what you give tends to come back to you, and most often times in greater amounts than what you send out. I think it should be what you give freely for sure. Right? What you give freely without expectation, and acceptance of a pleasant surprise, if it comes back in a way that you could certainly lie to peers about I'm just saying all this. To say that that's kind of how spirituality works in a way, right? I mean, it's not necessarily completely linked to money in things and trinsic Lee, when we give out love, chances are, if you're giving it out, and there's no expectation to get it back, you'll get it back in spades. And so it is and so it is with this quarter, at alldis, where you can go in there, leave a car behind, right leave a car behind menu and just be like, do try to be the one that remembers the quarters, right? Maybe this is like maybe maybe you're not rich, maybe you don't have a lot to get. But I can guarantee you can always give a quarter as an opportunity to give somebody something that saves on exponential in lifetime frustration for 25 cents. And ever since I've done this, where I've left a quarter behind. I've always been kind of like rewarded, like I'll come back to the car and there's a quarter like there the ground by my feet. I've gone in and found dollar bills sitting around every time it is and just in that parking lot at the Audi's where I have left the quarter behind. And to me, this is kind of again this this is not to say you know what you give kind of freely comes back to you plate and just such a small way that if it works for a quarter, what else does it work for? How do you start to level that up? What do you what do you ratchet that up to maybe you can give a few bucks to your local charity. And see things start to open up for you. Maybe you start to give to a charity 1020 bucks here and there. Or even one of the things that I found that is pretty it's pretty cool is to tip more than like you would normally set more than you would normally if you did it for a whole year. It would be less than 1000 bucks most likely, right? So it doesn't mean you know if you get it to tip more than you normally work, whatever that means to you. I come from a restaurant industry so I know that I know that if I get 20% kind of 15% like okay I guess I sucked, right, which is how good 20 percents like yay. And above 20%, it's like, it's like, man, thank you.

Unknown Speaker 10:13
That was awesome. Like, I remember, now I remember this person, I remember their face, I remember, I just, I, I'm touched by their generosity, touch by their generosity. Knowing that chances are, whatever I did wasn't mean may not have been worth over that point percent.

Unknown Speaker 10:42
And so I've definitely taken into, you know, going anywhere from 30 40% tips lately, for more often than not, not every time. But there's a, it just made me feel good to be able to do that to leave something greater than 15 20%. And knowing how it made me feel, and hopefully that person too, is, is there days made, maybe, maybe now they can get a few extra things they wanted to get. Maybe they don't have to take the next table so they can go home to their kids, any any of that stuff. Honestly, it's just like,

Unknown Speaker 11:36
these are a couple of small things where you can make a massive difference in somebody's life. And it doesn't even need to be that hard. It doesn't even need to be that hard. And here's the beauty of it is I promise you like something else is gonna show up in your life that someone's exactly like,

Unknown Speaker 11:57
what you gave out in time. Right What you gave out, like, in a time meeting, if you gave it with love and gave it with Derek and gave it without, like this massive attachment opens up this kind of

Unknown Speaker 12:17
free flowing current as we're looking at currency, that opens up this free flowing cart, if you're willing to let it travel through you, then

Unknown Speaker 12:30
then it's a good chance of it continuing to flow through you to dam it up, stagnant. And then there's, if you're not familiar with aquaculture, and you're not familiar with how some bodies of water will just dam up or dam up and create some type of septic now, it just won't be nice. Right? It'll be swamp like it'll be nasty smell. And that's kind of how how looking good. Like and it was become infectious in that way. And just any kind of goodwill can become that way. Maybe your significant others giving kindness that you want, right? And it's almost like a form of jealousy and desperation to hold on to that or keep it from, from anybody else seeing. But the whole idea again, goes goes to Audi's and my buddy, I know he mentioned it too easy, super easy way to pay it forward. I'm taking us to the next level to say now he can pay it forward. Do it in kindness. Do it with without expectation of anything in return. However, you'll always be open to it returning in a way that you don't really expect that then when you see it you know for certain that it came from that seed that you planted in the universe. Keep an eye out for it. super curious how that resonates with you do have a story that similar you've given out something huge, and all of a sudden got something in return. Just simply by your own giving nature. Let me know Brandon at spiritual dope, calm love to hear from you.

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Dorrie van Roij-Houtappels | QiGong Teacher & Holistic Lifestyle Coach

Published: Aug. 22, 2021, 8:55 p.m.
Duration: 55 minutes 8 seconds

Dorrie is a holistic lifestyle coach and animal communicator/healer based in Auckland, New Zealand. She has a background in sports, beauty therapy, therapeutic massage, reconnective healing, astrology, NLP, EFT, Reiki, Zen, Tai Chi, Kempo and Qigong. She is certified Ren Xue and Yuan Qigong instructor and a gifted Qi therapist.

Today's interview is centered around her participation in the documentary "Already Free".

Brandon Handley 0:41
4321 Hey, there's spiritual dope. I'm on today with Dorrie Van Roij-Houtappels helped me outdoors. Do you? You got you got Dorrie. Okay. And then. So Dorrie comes Dorrie comes to us by way of a documentary called already free. And this documentary follows both theory. And there's other gentlemen, Norbert no barito. Who they, they, they came together through like, transformative transformative practice of Qigong. And you know, throughout the decade long a practice of this practice in the wrenches system, Dori was able to come to a place of you can say enlightenment, or this kind of awakening. And this is a practice that you've been doing door has been doing for over 10 years now. And it's currently has her own practice offers one Gong classes, and works one on one as a holistic lifestyle coach. And you know, you're out there to inspire people talk a little bit earlier, and women in particular are is one of the you know, that's an area that you're highly focused in right now. And we've been trying to get together now for what three, four months story is exactly. This big thanks for being on the podcast that you're in New Zealand, it's 9am there on Sunday. And I appreciate you waking up to do this today.

Dorrie 2:17
Well, I'm very happy to be here, finally. And to really to spend some time together. So I look forward to this as a

Brandon Handley 2:25
thank you. So you just say checked out a podcast or two and some of the stuff that goes on. So you may have heard the question you may not have, I like to start us off with the whole idea that we You and I are vessels for, you know, universal creative energy, and it flows through us and to somebody else, like for great meetings. So the idea is that somebody is going to be listening to this podcast today. And there's a message that can be delivered only through you only right now and to that person, what would you say that messages or

Dorrie 3:02
that you truly can believe in yourself? And that you, you can find yourself? Because I think that is what we all are doing here on earth? We are really looking for the truth. The true you, isn't it? Who am I? Who am I really and I think that when you look at that, that you really can find yourself. So just not giving up? I'm looking for the ways what? What is beneficial for you to find yourself. Because if I can do it, then you can do it too, because we all are humans.

Brandon Handley 3:40
with that. I mean, it's I love I love the message. And you know if you could clarify what you mean, right? What does it mean to find yourself and you know, what did you What have you discovered? about who you are?

Dorrie 3:54
Huh? Yes? That's a good question. And of course, a very big question. But for me, when you look at my history in my life, it sometimes hasn't been that easy. And I think we all have our life story. And we all have our challenges to go through life. But what if the biggest challenge would become your biggest treasure in life? And so, what I always ask people is to look deeper and to look in a broader way to life to understand life better. And with that, I mean, it is that we are really feeling and that we think that it is reality at this moment what we are doing but the question is, is it that way? Is that what you think that you are? Is that reality? Or is there maybe a deeper you somebody who is really connected Did with everything I mean, without who is connected with nature, who is truly connected with all the human beings who really feels at home within themselves, and who truly feel what you say in the beginning that creativity, because that is what I, what I have experienced, and also how I've been learned all the information that that person is always there. But you are not aware of that person yet. And so that person, why can't you see that yet? It was because, yeah, we are more running alive with a lot of patterns. And so what are, yeah, I can go deeper. And that may be later I think that too, truly find behind the habitual ways of thinking what you are now doing in your life, to find behind there, your heart, for example, with all the beautiful qualities, which can steer you through life, that has, that can have a great impact on your life, which it also did for me.

Brandon Handley 6:19
Now, that's definitely a lot of great stuff in there, right? Feeling feel, especially feeling at home with yourself, as you're mentioning, the idea of the creativity finding this way through, you know, kind of your own internal creative devices. And then the idea that the real you is always there. So let's talk a little bit about that as as, as we as we kind of go through these different layers and your journey there. And I think that where we want to start off with is a little bit about the documentary, right? And what is the what is the where to go the system, right? The the Qigong system that you went through the the ranchu system, right, and how you got involved with that, why you got involved with it, and kind of where that led to for you.

Dorrie 7:13
is unbelievably cheap. Would you like me to start with? Well,

Brandon Handley 7:16
I mean, so you got involved with the, you know, the ranchu system? What led you there? And what is that?

Dorrie 7:23
Yes, well, as you probably also can hear how I speak English. It's not my first language. So I'm coming from the Netherlands. And we emigrated I say, we that is my husband and two children, then they were still at the age from what is it four and six. And we emigrated now 13 years ago to New Zealand. And I really got drawn to this country here in New Zealand. Because of just a feeling what I felt I thought all that nature and it is so so you know what, I just got drawn to it. And also for the children one thing for them to grow up in a more natural way as as being in a very busy country from the Netherlands. And so we went to New Zealand and I so I, I already did their healing work, I did more animal healing, and also for people. And I was looking for a way for myself to relax more to find something nice for me to do in my free time. And suddenly, I just found somebody who was actually growing vegetables and the vegetables at that place. They tasted so beautiful. I never had this that's such a beautiful fetch the boats and I told her, I said, Oh, that is so amazing. Wow, what is that? What kind of secret are you using? And then she said, Yes. Well, when I'm gonna tell you that about it. You're gonna be surprised. And I thought Oh, really? Yes. She said it is undo when she gone. She said, I said Oh, really? Well, I know what she gone was because I did that a little bit in the Netherlands already. So and she Gong is a form. Well, most of the time when I explain it to people, it is Tai Chi. And most of the people are aware what it is. But actually Tai Chi comes from Shi Gong, it's a very old form what we use in in China, China. For movements, we use movements, breathing techniques. But there's it more. You use the hands with it. And yeah, all kinds of things are kind of meditations moving mad at Asian. And so that is what she did there at that moment that apparently she used that also to grow her vegetables with. That was really very interesting, of course for me, so I thought I'd give this a try. Well, that's how my journey there started. And I must say, although I did healing work, I find myself sometimes not in really the best state. And, and even with doing she gone, I noticed when I do it, that she gone in the beginning that I immediately already felt a lot better. That was also very strange for me that I could feel the results over so quick. And so when I was doing the, the sheet wrong, I still had the feeling that I yeah, how do I say that? That I still? I was in a good state, and then I went home, and then my state dropped again. Yeah, and especially when you have little children? I you must be actually in a good state, isn't it? Because they, yeah, they

Brandon Handley 11:12
do real quick, if you don't mind what you what do you mean by not in the best date? Like just

Dorrie 11:17
yeah. So what what is what is actually a normal state, a normal state is when you are relaxed, calm and natural. And so for me, that is that is normal, there is no other state. And that may be seems now for you, then strange. But when you are going to learn about this, then you then you understand that that's, I think the way you've been brought up that you have learned that it is normal to be angry, it's normal to be very sad, or whatever, because we do have our emotions. And then I now I have learned, yes, of course, we are all human beings. But the question is, do we really have to do that? Maybe we can develop ourselves and grow. So that we learn and that we don't have to do this anymore? And that we can stay in a normal state what I say in a calm, relaxed and natural way. And that it's really possible.

Brandon Handley 12:23
It is that where you your your your quote, unquote, normal state was, you know, you would still have anger, was there depression involved as well? Was your normal state is low, would you just say you were kind of in your normal state was low and you you were doing the Qigong. And while you're doing Qigong, you were able to not feel that way you were able to feel this sense of calm that you're talking about this normalization of feelings. Whereas as soon as you stopped it, then you would go right back to the not the best state that you were talking about.

Dorrie 13:04
While it is not that that every time is the same, of course, sometime you stay long in that state. Yes, it is that you you notice that when you are doing the Shi Gong, that immediately your whole energy level goes up. And that you can feel very calm and really very relaxed, and you're in beautiful states. And so that is of course, very nice. But and that I think that is also for other modalities when I look at a yoga. So a lot of mothers Tell me when I do the yoga, it's very nice, but then I lose my good state again. Well, that is exactly where their Rancho system comes up. So, we are talking about doing she Gong, but that is not all that is not what what makes it that you reach the state that you go to that state. It's not about reaching, it is about just going there. And so, the rain shoe system, it is really a holistic system. So what do you do there, you learn what your mind is doing the whole day. You learn how to, to find other ways to get yourself back into balance. You learn about nature, because nature is very important to go to that state. We are not so much connected anymore with nature in this ever fast going world. So learning about nature, about the rules from nature, I think that's also important. And then so you learn about your heart. You learn what it is to have an open heart And so the founder from the system, that's young say. And so the, the, he talks about having the five heart qualities. And here we are talking about openness, trust, openness, love, gratitude, and utmost respect and gorging. And so you learn about these qualities. So and so there are nine methods in this holistic system, which is really a lot. So you have the the moving meditations, you have stillness. So you do still practice where you stand still, where you learn to focus, where you learn to be quiet. And then so learning about your mind with this presence, learning with the heart, learning to, to be in the present moment. And so that is all coming together. And you know, one person needs more this one person needs more depth. But I've never seen an holistic system, but it's so broad, what brings it all together to reach higher realization, wisdom and growth.

Unknown Speaker 16:19
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Brandon Handley 16:22
so you've got your five heart qualities, you've got your methodology, where Now where was the system developed? Or are you able to share that?

Dorrie 16:30
Yes, so the Shi Gong, the first basic information, what Yonsei has, it comes all from China. And it has its its roots from traditional wisdom. And you can think about that wisdom, kung fu wisdom, the Buddhism, the martial arts, yeah. And so there is all that that foundation, but when Yonsei came to New Zealand, so he emigrated from China, to New Zealand, he figured out by traveling also, through all the places also in America and Europe, that people need that they're a different system, and that he really wanted to, to put all the tools in there, what we, as Western people really can good can understand. And so that is when he developed here, the young Gong system here in New Zealand, with these nine methods.

Brandon Handley 17:30
Okay. And so I got, you know, my guesses then, like, these are, you know, sounds corny to say ancient Chinese wisdoms, right, but like, these ancient Chinese wisdoms that he has put into place, in a holistic system, right. So it's not just a Chee Gong, there's other pieces and involved in it, and he's put it all together to have a complete system

Dorrie 17:54
is, and that is also what you really will feel if you're going to practice it, because I have really done quite some other practices in my life before that, I started this, but I, you know, you every time have questions about life, and so I did one thing and then I had questions, and then I went to the other system, and then I again, other questions came up, and I hoped like that, but when I finally found this system, I really got all the answers that I have in life. And that was so unique. And so, every aspect of life we are talking about. So that is also where you can say teach us about it can be death, it can be about, for example, the COVID. Now, it can be your physical health, it can be anything. And so having there abroad or look with somebody who has reached such a high level of wisdom, it's really interesting to Yeah, for your own growth in life.

Brandon Handley 19:01
Were you able to work with him in person?

Dorrie 19:05
Yes, awesome. Yeah, no,

Brandon Handley 19:07
I think that's, you know, that's highly beneficial. Right. So there's lots of systems online, that you have access to in terms of with a lot of like, even yoga practices or other meditation practices. But the idea of having that person in person with you, and not just online, I think that makes a very big difference.

Dorrie 19:29
Um, well, I agree. I did that also, in the one I've stated before the COVID. I felt that and so we all went to retreat from him. And so before the, for example, the teacher training that was every year, two weeks, that we all gathered together, and then in the meantime, we could see until but through the COVID we have learned that it actually isn't the problem because if feeders are live streaming the information, what comes from there, through the whole community, what is built very strongly will receive them also this information. And I think that you, you can make shifts very easily being together, what we call the key and the key field, if that makes sense. I

Brandon Handley 20:23
think I think that, uh, there's, there's a, there's that element of trust, and everybody kind of focused at the same time on the same thing, and together, you know, to create or be immersed in that field together. So I think that that that certainly makes sense to me. You've mentioned that some of some of your biggest questions were answered, right? What was like, what's an example of one or two of the big questions that were answered? Some question is, it's very important that your vegetables taste differently to.

Dorrie 21:00
Yes, so I learned to grow my vegetables in the way that that lady did. And yes, you can really taste it. And it is with anything that you do in life when you learn to put a chip in it, so that is the energy and it and the mind into it, then your whole meal, what you're cooking for the day can taste completely different and, and that are so many other things that you asked me my questions about life, it certainly had to do about death. That I felt that because I've always been very intrigued in in that are always in my life from a very young age. And so I got there the confirmation that, that it was the way I was feeling about death. And, and now I truly also can feel that after I've made this last bigger step, I don't know how to explain it differently, I must say.

Brandon Handley 22:04
Would you say that that the it's a shift, right? Would you say that the place that you're at now is just simply a shift from where you were before? Not necessarily different, but different, right? I mean, it's it's really hard to kind of put in the terms. I was the Buddhist line or Buddhism line I don't know if it's true or not, but you know, before enlightenment, chop wood carry water after enlightenment, chop wood carry water. Right. So but there's wood you there's just a different quality to life, which is

Dorrie 22:43
Yes, it is. So yeah, on the one hand, we can say there is nothing special. But on the other hand, yes, it truly is special and why is it special? Because I'm everyday in a good state. And every moment of the day in a good state. Well, that was not something what I could say that I was what you mentioned, of depression, not feeling sometimes really deeply alone in life. And now feeling the feeling that I always feel in a good and an uplifted state and I'm very content and harmonious inside myself. I think that is on the one hand truly a miracle. And to and but on the other hand, yes I am just me so there is nothing special.

Brandon Handley 23:36
Dori how long what you know how long did it take you to a recognize that that space was available for you? And then the How long did it take you to maintain that state of being?

Dorrie 23:53
Well, to maintain I still I still am the same. So it is still my state like that since that it happened. So not nothing has changed. Only my life has more depth now though

Brandon Handley 24:07
when So when did you have that realization for yourself? Like how long a doctor practicing that she gone?

Dorrie 24:16
Yes, well, when I give this answer now to you, then people are going to compare themselves with me. We are going to do this and that is actually not what I would like to do. Because you know when I learned that I when I started to do she gone, the system was not yet there. And so the system now is is fully there with all the nine methods. And so people who are now starting they go faster through it. So I did first the senang she gone and when people are doing she gone than they know what I'm talking about. And then I started to do this system that in total, I'm learning from Yancey for now for 12 years. So better the last four years have been really intense for me

Brandon Handley 25:13
just in terms of that quality of life that you're talking about the transition and change where you that have entered your life,

Dorrie 25:21
or years, but right from the beginning. And so when I would say the first seven years, I made my make huge shifts in growth in my life. And I can also see that in all from all the teachers who are went through this course, we all really have changed completely I can see everybody has had so much growth in their life.

Brandon Handley 25:46
No, and that I love that. I think that's great. And I think that it's fair and I understand your reluctance to, you know, state how long your journey has been, simply due to the fact that everybody's journey is their own right. I mean, somebody somebody could get to a certain spate in the blink of an eye, and somebody, it may take 40 years. And and so with any with any practice, the practice is to become more yourself, as you were talking about in the beginning, right, finding out who you are, and being comfortable with who you are, and understanding who you are, versus if so, yeah, versus becoming or attaining this thing within a specified period of time.

Dorrie 26:39
Yeah, that's just what you're saying. You never know, of course. What makes it that you are able to make that step has to do with your previous life? Yes, I think so. But on the other hand, I can see so much growth from the people who are who have done this, the system, that is really remarkable. And so, at the moment when I have this big step, and before me, also, there'll be for me, Norberto Rodriguez had the same, which is remarkable, isn't it that two people in the same system, go to that step, and other people are following. So because we are human, so we can we can do that, too. And so I think really, when you when you are in that, yeah, in that flow, and also when you when you receive that theoretic information, I think that a lot is possible that when you already then yeah, you get that push to do it. Right?

Brandon Handley 27:47
How would you say this work has impacted your family life?

Dorrie 27:54
Yes, very beautiful question. It has changed to the life of, of our family members, for all of us. It all has a lot of impact. And so now our children are at the age of 20, and 18. And so they are really in the face of gaining a lot of information from learning, you know, learning in at university, but then he didn't have changed a lot. Yes, they are so much connected with themselves. And hear well, there is peace and harmony in home. And which i think it's it's a very beautiful thing. And that is the same for my husband. So he has been on this journey with me. And so it's not that he is really doing the course here. But he learns from just me talking about life, of course, and when you are open to that you can grow to. And so we can say that we have made a big change that we all are and we all are every time taking new steps. It's amazing to see your children grow in this way.

Brandon Handley 29:19
I think that it's interesting that you bring up to the idea that your husband while he's not in the course with you, he is learning through kind of what you're doing. He's opened himself. One of the questions that I see a lot of people ask is, you know, you're growing dories growing at Dorries rate, and you're growing in like, you know, by by this practice, and maybe he's not growing as fast as you or a perceived, you know, so how do you answer that question? You know, what if my spouse or significant other isn't growing at the same rate or the same way I am, what are your thoughts, sir? Well

Dorrie 30:00
I have learned to look inside myself to answer that question. And I think it is also that you can find there your solution to that, because it makes me even more eager to grow more in my life. Because I think when you reach a high level of realization, then you can feel compassion for the other, you can understand the other, you can see the patterns, the struggle where another person goes through in life. And so then you also can, can react in a different way to that person. So, for example, when, when the person next to you becomes angry, you can be upset from that. But that then actually means that maybe you need to work a little bit more on yourself. Because why should I become angry when another person is angry? Maybe I can find different tools to let that person understand life better. And worse, also, what I have done,

Brandon Handley 31:14
right, so sounds sounds. Yeah, so sounds like sounds like, you know, if it seems like that growth or activity isn't spiritually aligned with who you are outside of you, you still need to look inside of yourself, right? If it's coming from outside, you know, that anger somebody else is angry, or, or maybe somebody else is in growing it, quote, unquote, the rate that, you know, they, quote, unquote, should be, right, the truth of the matter is that it's still you that needs to grow and needs to find and or create that space to allow for for just long, and again, it's all you Is that what you're saying, Yeah,

Dorrie 31:58
yes, every second of the day, you need to have awareness about yourself. So when that will disturb you, when that other person would have that emotion, then it means that you need to come and action and do something about it, to get yourself back to that good state, because something is going on there. Because if you are in a very good state, if you are in that feeling of high realization, you don't need to be bothered by anything. Nothing needs to be happening. There you are, everything is already okay. The way it is, isn't that.

Brandon Handley 32:35
Right? Absolutely. We just have a real tough problem. Like, it's a challenge if you haven't done some of this work already. To see that. Right. You know, back to your earlier point, you know, the real you is always there, this person that you're talking about that that you are that this realize being right and and always having this, this this potential state that always exists, right? This potential you that always exists, it's just your ability desire to cultivate it, and sit with it. Is that what you're saying?

Dorrie 33:20
Yeah, so that that person who you really are. So I tried to explain it, that person who you really are, is highly connected. Yeah, it's, it's connected with your spirit, your soul. So we call it in the red shoe with this, your shin. And so that is also what you take with you, when you when you die, that's what you always will take with you. And that's part is highly connected with your heart. So, when you were born, you were connected with that part. Yet you you felt all your heart qualities on what I was talking about in the beginning, I trust, openness, love, gratitude, and that through respect, but one when you're going through life, and that is already in a very early stage. You you get experiences in your life, isn't it? It's normal, of course. And so, bit by bit the pure information how you were born becomes vague, we can see. And so you you there get patterns. Now, what are patterns? What are patterns in our life? Well, it is information, what is received, processed and used in the same way. Repeat repeatedly. So let me explain it to you. With let's let's explain that just with with driving a car when I'm Driving a car, you know, can you remember how you in the beginning had to learn to drive the car? You were looking with? With what food do I need to, to bring to use the brake. And then when something what came on the road, you really had to start thinking about that I Oh, wait, I need to do this. And then I need to put my right foot on the brake. And then it happens that my car will stop here. After a while. Yeah, you don't know better. And suddenly a duck comes on the road, and you just you would use your brake, you just do that it becomes automatically Yes, right. And that is actually the same what happens in your life with many, many things. It can be on a habitual way. For example, using now the COVID, we couldn't go outside and you come back, you are at home and you want to go for your dinner and you have your dinner ready. And you think I'm going to sit for in front of the TV, and you sit there and you eat your meal. And the next day you think attipas actually quite nice. It was cozy there. I do that again. But before that, you know, you sit every day in front of the TV, eating your dinner. Yeah. And that is the same things within life. But then on a different way on in the with the consciousness. So maybe you're saying now something to me, like Dorrie. Whereby let's let's Ms. Now think I must have come up with an example. Though, let's do a talk here. And I immediately feel that I can't do that. And so why actually Shouldn't I do that? Because it's something what is naturalism there to do with talk? But no, it reminds me of when I went to primary school, and I had to do a speech there. And that was actually really very scary for me. So now I can't be natural anymore in that. And I just say, No, I don't, I don't have time for that. But actually, what really is there is a lot of fear. And that is a pattern, what is underneath there under the skin, what is going on. And so there are a lot of presence in your life, really a web of patterns. And it can be like that you want to hide for yourself, it can be like that you feeling greed, actually, which is a normal thing. But still, that you feel great. It can be that you are suspicious in life, that are a lot of patterns. While and this is what we learn that when you have awareness in your life in when something happens in your daily life, that you detect what kind of things that are playing, and that you can do something about that, that you can change it. You never can say all now I'm not doing it anymore. That's not possible. It's that it is

it is in the brain a shortcut to do things. So we have to do it that way. But we want to have good patterns in life, the healthy beneficial profits, and not the patterns will give us this Yeah, not free and natural life. So when we work on that, when we really work on these patents, then suddenly there comes space in your life that cause more calmness in your life. And so when you then work on these heart qualities, you can suddenly go deeper feeling yourself, which is really very interesting. I would say that

Brandon Handley 39:08
that's something that the feeling ourselves. And the snap natural state is something that in western civilization, that we're kind of trained out of. Right, and kind of what you're talking about is these patterns that we develop. We refer to it oftentimes as our programming, right? our default programming is like, Hey, you know, I'm, I'm going to do this thing because of that result that I had that one time or vice versa, like you're saying, right? Like, it's really scary up in front of class, second grade, and I don't want to have to feel that feeling again. So whatever I can do to avoid that feeling. I'm going to keep doing and what you've learned through your practices is to kind of go through see that within yourself and learn how to feel through it. around it and get yourself into a place of this free and natural and what and my guess is that when you're staying free and natural is to express yourself without that fear to be yourself without that. inhibition, and and fear, right? So you're liberate yourself from from something like that Is that Is that about right?

Dorrie 40:23
And that is being at home.

Brandon Handley 40:25
Yeah, that's beautiful. I love it. So you're doing this practice, now you've got, you've got your own practice. But you also mentioned that you've got an A Women's International charity that you're working on or practice that you're working on, you want to share a little bit about what that is, and oh, yes, thank you,

Dorrie 40:44
Toby, on 2022, we are going to start with a foundational program. And yes, it is a charitable trust for women and the name is so she is now. And yeah, it's really beautiful. So the information comes totally from the rain shoe system. But that is that we are really focusing on the female females in the world of female energy in the world. Because I think that that is important. Now, that is that is how I felt it that it is important that the women really can find themselves here. I think they this we can see that also in the leadership in the world, the women really aren't doing very well isn't

Brandon Handley 41:33
wasn't New Zealand that had like a really great Prime Minister. I don't know what the is the prime minister, she did some really great you know, you New Zealand went through this with female labour COVID with female leadership, and that was highly regarded.

Dorrie 41:51
Yes, very beautiful from jacinda. Arden. And but that is not that is not all that I see in the world, what I can see is that the women, they have the connection, they really have a beautiful connection to spread a message in the world, through their own families. And by being becoming mothers, for example, and to share this with our own family members, because that will beneficial also very much are a man in the world. And I think that we need some more of these feminine qualities to to reach more peace and harmony in the world.

Brandon Handley 42:36
When you say feminine qualities. What do you What are you saying?

Dorrie 42:41
The the qualities, to use your heart the qualities to connect with each other. I think that women are very good in Connect making connections with each other. And to feel that the heart qualities can can bring. Yeah, profound change in the world. But as I said, we need to first dive into learning how your mind works and to Yeah, to to make that change

Brandon Handley 43:14
for ourselves. Right, I forget the term. It's a Buddhist term that talks about the heart mind connection, it sounds like that's what you're trying to do. Right, you're taking you know, whereas I would say that the two differences, probably my own observation would be the two different primary differences between male and females that females lead with their heart, right that the innate connection, and then men tried more to lead with their head, you know, I'm not saying that women don't but just as a as a, you know, which one takes over most time, like men try to lead with like more logic and, and, you know, these these lines versus with their heart, right? So by combining your head and your heart, you're able to really, you've got there's a whole different thing happening there. And Buddhism has a term for it, I forget what it is off top my head. But that sounds to me a little bit what you're doing, you're saying Alright, listen, with your with your feminine qualities which are already innate with you, let's, let's bring that to connect with your mind. So that you know we can really express and, you know, take your place, you know in life, right. Let's go ahead and lead from that space.

Dorrie 44:31
Yes, absolutely. And yet, you can see when when I look at the evolution from the women, of course we have changed a lot. But we had to receive our rights as women and but the question is if that went No, it went of course the way it had to grow. But now it is time to come back home more to your authentic A women qualities, because we have been always like, well, it's more like fighting against the man that you also go there, you know, like the like, feeling these same qualities that i think it's it's not, it's not what we really want to do we want to just to come home in our own qualities, and that can bring change for our men also in the society.

Brandon Handley 45:25
Oh, yeah, I mean, I think it's funny, like I'm feeling the vision more than I'm seeing it right now what you're saying, and I understand. Definitely, I think a challenge two to present it. But I feel I can feel where you're going with it. And, you know, I think that's I think that's fantastic. And I think that there's the time is certainly now. Right. for for for that. And I think that, um, I think the space is open for it, right that what you're doing the work that you're doing. And I think that it's definitely, definitely necessary. Right? And it's not it's not i think is it's not this combative nature and space and place that women need to be in, they need to be in their own right space. And you know, and it's it's difficult to put, I think, into words, but I understand, I think, where you're headed with it. And so I'm definitely looking forward to seeing how that goes for you. And I think that that's a great work that you're doing and putting out there.

Dorrie 46:32
Now, thank you. That's very, very lovely. Yeah. And I can understand that, that you that it's not at this moment for people is that you think, yeah, how is she going to do that. But it is going to be in a very practical way. Because I understand very well that most of the women don't have so much time during the day, actually. And, but you can see that what I have done now, I also have two children and a job and I still am able to do this and to reach the state. So then when I can do that, and everybody in the world can do that, isn't it. And so I thought about this, and I thought, we really need to do this in a practical way that you get the core information and to use it in your daily life. You need to use it in the heat of the moment, you know, when something is happening, then you must be able to have tools to grow and to come back home and yourself. And so yeah, I hope that I can surprise you. Yeah, listen, next. Yeah, I

Brandon Handley 47:41
think I think that, um, you know, I think it's, it's the intent to do it, how it has to happen. It's still unfolding for you as my guests, right? It's still unfolding, and it's still presenting itself, but it's in motion. And, and you're a part of it, right? You're, then that's that's really, I think all you can say, right, as it develops and as you present it. So, Dorrie, is there anything else that you would want to cover or share with the listeners of this program today?

Dorrie 48:13
Um, well, maybe if I if they haven't seen for sure, they can have a look at the website there. And then they that will lead them to the place where they can have a look at the documentary because especially also when you have physical problems, physical problems, mental problems, quite questions about life, I think it's really worth it that you will have a look at that documentary. And when you are looking that you are just feeling inside yourself, actually, what am I feeling now that I am receiving this information? And that's it, this it tickle myself? Do I feel there something? Because I think that is a call from your heart. Right? Right. So if you do,

Brandon Handley 49:05
yeah, I mean, and the movie The documentary is is already free. And, you know, I can share out the link from that, so that people can go check that out. Basically, you know, they follow Dorrie, Norberto and they share the story of the red shoe system, and just kind of the changes that came into both Dorrie and Roberta's life. And you know, as Dora keeps saying is like, hey, if I can do it, you can do it too. It just takes it just takes and it's a practice, right or

Dorrie 49:38
Yes. And yeah, what I say when I can do with em, you can do with too, but I really would like to tell to the listeners. When you would have found something that is so profound. How would you spread that in the world? Tell me It is not so easy, of course, because the world is very big. But I really would like to give it to all of you. And that is also my, my goal now in my life to really to tell it to others, that there really is a lot possible when you really want Would you like to develop yourself

Brandon Handley 50:20
now apps? Absolutely, I think that there's, there's a place that you can get to and a space that you can get to that. I can't say that I'm in a consistent state that door is talking about, but I have had this experience of being in that place. And you know, that then the desire comes through. Alright, well, how do I keep myself in that space? Right. And and that's, that's, that's the challenge, especially with our busy lives, and all these other things going on these default programs that Laurie was talking about, and all the other ways that we've always been like, well, who do we really want to be? And I think Dorrie, that's, that's the story that you're sharing. So I've got a couple of questions for you. I kind of liken this podcast a little bit to a speed dating, right? Like somebody is going to come on my spiritual speed dating, somebody is going to come on listen to this podcast, it's in search of like, their next spiritual connection, right? The next, you know, somebody they want to date for a little bit in the spirituality space, right? Because there's so much out there, right. And it's a little tongue in cheek, it's a little kind of entertainment, but like, so I just have, like, one. Um, one quick question for you would be, what is our greatest distraction.

Dorrie 51:41
Our greatest distraction is our mind. And we need to catch ourselves when we are operating from the construct that says self identity. Our greatest destruction is really our mind, and we are not aware of it. We are not aware of where we are. And that is, when we have figured that out, then we can come home to ourselves.

Brandon Handley 52:08
You would say that's kind of the beginning, then to understand that we are you know, we're not our minds, and that our minds is the biggest distraction and starting to pay pay a lot of attention there.

Dorrie 52:19
Yes, so but you need to learn that, of course, if you don't know, we, you need to pay attention to them. Nothing happens. So somebody needs to tell you what to do. How to do that?

Brandon Handley 52:30
For sure. Yeah, absolutely. So I mean, one of the other things is I do a martial art, you know, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. And I always bring it up too, right? Like, I could be doing, I could I could do jujitsu my entire life without instruction, and I would never get it. Right. Right. I may, I may get a couple things, right. But by taking the lessons and having somebody that knows how to do it, and training me to do it, I'll then become aware of what I need to do in the right situations at the right time. So that, you know, I can find this calm and space in place versus doing it in a frantic worried, always concerned kind of manner. I have these techniques, these tools that you're talking about with this system that you can put into place. Right so that um, yeah, yeah, yes. Very. Yeah. So Dorrie, thanks again, so much for being on today. I hope you enjoy the rest of your Sunday morning. And you know, so somebody, you know, again, outside of already free if somebody wants to come check out what Dorrie is up to, where could they go to find out more about you and your organization that you have planned? coming for? 2022?

Dorrie 53:39
Yes, so well, the organization from rain shoe, it is the rain shoe international.org. But rain shoe, you spell that r e n and then x UE it's a little bit tricky. It's a little bit tricky sometimes for people. Well, and for 2022. The we don't have already our professional website up but we do have the the website up for donation for the charity. And you can have a look there at She is now.net. There you can find our information.

Brandon Handley 54:18
Thank you, Dorrie. And are you taking clients now yourself as a coach?

Dorrie 54:24
Well, because you mentioned that in the beginning, at this moment, we are just producing all the content for Yeah, for the launch from a she is now but after that, I probably will do that again, my, my personal coaching because I do that

Brandon Handley 54:42
for people all over the world. So that's on hold a little bit right now until you've got this other piece as well. Fantastic Dorie, I know that I know that that's going to be very successful for you. I can you know, I've got a great feeling for it. Myself, and when you describe it, it just feels feels very Yeah, absolutely. It feels very good. clear for you. Right and that that path is is is open for you. So thanks again for being on today.

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Donn Smith | Instantaneous & Long-Lasting Change

Published: Aug. 15, 2021, 1:18 p.m.
Duration: 52 minutes 6 seconds

Donn Smith is a man on a mission to raise the consciousness of humanity to a level of 700 according to Dr. David Hawkins consciousness chart. Donn's unique method of raising consciousness has worked on everyone from billionaire CEO's to Professional athletes, to Mom's & students

Join his inner circle and catch his special event on September 22nd 2021 https://www.iamdivinityglobalversity.com/

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Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you've questioned so much more than those around you. You've even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? And why do people in general appear so limited in his thought process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can't quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you this world, the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don't have to have all the answers but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another hit of spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let's get right to today's episode.

Brandon Handley 0:40
Hey there spiritual to Brandon Handley here. And I'm on today with Don Smith. Don is here from Prince Edward Island. However, if you're watching the video, you know that that's that's not Prince Edward Island. So for over 40 years, he's been working to crack the code to transform humanity's toxic programs instantly. Example, all personal development programs are based on a foundation of negative and positive beliefs. Even the most accomplished and enlightened modern, personal development leaders like Tony Robbins scores just 400 on Dr. Hawkins consciousness scale, now, Don knows is either you or a team member reached out to me. And he said, Hey, you know, I want you to introduce me to the world. I know when you interview me, your listeners will be sitting on the edge of their seats and listening to you and I interacting, I promise you with an absolute certainty, it will be intriguing, truly thought provoking, and most entertaining. And you also talk a little bit about this event that you got coming up on September 20 seconds. And I think that, you know, it was while I was certainly intrigued when I got this email and looking forward to it, it was when you got to the part about working on humanity's consciousness for this thing. 210 scale on the David, Dr. David Hawkins consciousness scale to 704 hours. So I thought that was pretty exciting being a David Hawkins fan myself and for for that reason. Where's that? I brought, I brought the one book out that I've got handy. You know, I've gone out, you know, letting go right? He's got like, 40 different books, but for that reason done. That's why I said like, let's have this conversation. right off. I should be here today.

Donn Smith 2:24
Yeah, yeah, it's, uh, you know, what? Dr. Hawkins bridges the gap. And, and, and explains scientifically, what this is and how to measure it and all of those kinds of things. Because it's really hard. It's really hard to have tangibility with the shift that happens with people. And the only way you can do it is see on the conscious scale, how dramatically different this is. And literally, you know, on the 700 and above, he talks about ineffable. And that's the state people are in in the same day that we work together. And I've done numerous groups and perfected in a group level that everybody whether that's one. Well, I mean, there's more attention, of course, to a one on one always, but I'm talking about, I've figured out how to do the masses. And all in, you know, three, four hours. Actually, if I just did the process, it would be just a little over two hours. And I shouldn't be this literally telling me.

Brandon Handley 3:42
I'm sorry. I said I should have made this a two hour podcast is what you're telling me? We were doing the whole day? Yes. Yes. Yes. So so not not because I definitely want to I want to get into a bow we'd like to start this off with the whole idea that you and I are kind of vessels for universe, universal energy, right? And that whatever is coming through us is kind of games divine. And it is for a specific purpose was I'm sure you will know, right? You You are here for a specific purpose for delivering this in the way that you've learned out. What is one message coming through you today that you would share with the audience that can only come through the can only come through? Well, that'd be

Donn Smith 4:24
now the biggest thing is that we're all divine. Okay, number one. Number two, is that the only thing that stops us is the positive and negative beliefs of who we think we are. Which all got created in an instant. As a result of that, they can be all removed in an instant. And so all of those programs and all of those patterns can be all removed in an instant and they're left with their divinity.

Brandon Handley 4:58
Hello, that was When you when you're saying you're left with their divinity, what does that mean to you?

Donn Smith 5:04
Well, what it is, is it's who we are like, I liken the statue of David. Michelangelo when he finished carving the statue of David, and he was asking him any case, how did he create such a magnificent statue. He said, it was simple. I went to the quarry, I saw this big block of marble. Instantly, I saw David inside the back to my studio and proceeded to carve away all the marble that wasn't gated. What they say is, is we all are divine, just that we're, we're so covered with negative and positive beliefs of who we think we are kind of like in your, your piece there, you're bridging the gap between where you are now and where you want to be. But what that is, is who, from who we think we are, to who we truly are. And there's a major difference. And, and what I've done is I've cracked the code to had, it's the how brand, it's the how that I have that no one else has. Now I'm not saying that in a bragging manner. It's the How to able to do this instant thing. Like, you know, I, I did a group and it was we used to do the Spanish version on Saturday and Sunday version English version on Sunday. And, and then we, we figured that we could put them together to have the Spanish and the English together. And there was a lady on there, her name is Alexandra. And she had programs running for 70 years. They happened in one situation in one event at age three. Okay, so for 70 years, she was running these negative beliefs and positive beliefs and negative beliefs of who she you know, I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy. I'm not loved. I don't deserve this. No one loves me, whatever. And they're just layered and layered and layered. Well, the thing about it is this works like a phobia. And I asked people, Brandon, like, do you have a phobia of anything? And almost everybody, half say yes. Because they are familiar with the snakes and heights and ladders and coasting places, and bugs and all of that. But the other half don't know that they have one too. But it's off. I'm not good enough. I'm not worthy. I'm not. I'm imperfect, I'm flawed, I'm bad, and all of that. And they've got the same phobias, only they're towards their identity. And what happens is that I asked them, what's your phobia? Then I ask them how long they've had it. Then I've asked them how soon at what how quickly did they create it now takes a few to stumble, they stumble a bit for a second, then they say, Oh my god, it was an instant. And so let's go back to Alexander, in an instant when she was three Something happened, created all those beliefs. And she had it for 70 years. 70 years, and she had four grown children and grandchildren. It was gone. And then it was gone in an instant. It was gone in an instant. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 8:37
I believe it. Right. So it's, um, it's, it's a, it's powerful to remove a fear or a blockage. That, you know, in an instant like that, because when you when you realize that that can happen, you wonder how you can apply it to other things. Right, you want to apply today. Now, before we even get rolling a little bit more. You've already talked, we've already talked about David Hawkins a little bit and we talked about the consciousness scale. Did you want to run people a little bit through what that is? In case they're not familiar with it?

Donn Smith 9:13
Sure. Sure. So is it an action point, because it gives a framework. And so Dr. Hawkins when he wrote the book, power versus force, he had in there scale of conscience, zero to 1000. And he talks about, you know, rage and bitterness and evil and darkness and then depression. And, and, and you see go up the scale and the words change. And it's, and it goes up, like, you know, like, at that time when he wrote the book, it was 2204 out of 1000. That's what humanity's conscious as a whole was. When he wrote the book. It's now at 210 Based on based on his measurements, and so all of these words are, you know, like, you'll see lines, like at 200, then you'll see a line at 300, you see a line at 400. And then they get different when they get up, you know, to 607 100. And then it's just go seven to 1000. Well, and that's all measured, there's muscle testing, as you know, from knowing Dr. Hawkins. And it's those numbers that tell you, and the feelings and the emotions and the states that the person is in as to where they are on an honest on a scale on an average day. And so it measures that person's consciousness. And then you can do and there's muscle testing, there's different forms of muscle testing to test that. Now, one of the ways that when you're tested, that person has to be in integrity, for big data, an accurate reading. So if they're not in integrity, it will it will be a file three, it won't be accurate. And that can be measured. It'll be measured to it to a tee.

Brandon Handley 11:20
Yeah, so if you don't mind, I'll jump in a little bit, just a little support, right? The thing that I love, and I didn't realize that where we were on the consciousness level, but the thing that I love is that we're if we're at 200 210, what that means is that we are in as a world as well, Mary, you say, we're at courage, right? That's that level of courage and courage is the tipping point right into past fear past like all, you know, trying to get beyond like all the all the you know, score and hate craving and getting rid of the anger and desire after you know, you get you get past 200 you're in an empowerment process, right, guys, I'm looking at the book real quick. So I just did not committed to memory Where's, yeah, I've got so caught up. But you know, so and this goes all the way up and the scales are logarithmic. I'll share that with everybody too. And, and what Don's talking about is, is the way that he measures it with the muscles is really is tapping into the subconscious, and your body, which is already aware of kind of all the things and yeah, you'd have to read the books and check them out to go kind of deep into it. But it's been proven out with not like a couple 100 not a couple 1000, like several 1000s of people to prove this out. And what Don's talking about is, is, you know it with this with his transformation, of getting people up to 704 hours, from 200 to 700 is basically unheard of, and you know is putting you into he's calling he said that, Don, you said ineffable. But, you know that's, that's just shy of well, you know, Buddha and Christ were 1000 on this scale, getting up to 700 would put you into pure consciousness and an enlightenment level, just so everybody's aware of kind of what we're talking about. Right? So this is, you know, it's it's a, it's a very well studied science, it's well known. And it's been proven out that, you know, the stuff that David Hawkins, Dr. David Hawkins talks about is legitimate. And what is exciting, again, is that Dan is here. And he's got a process that gets you 700, almost instantaneously. So thanks, Don, I just wanted to throw that out there for the audience.

Donn Smith 13:43
Thank you, Brandon. I mean, your ability to articulate that, that clear fashion is very helpful for the listener, you know, because moms don't know about the scale and most don't know about the levels of consciousness. They don't know about what level they're at, or whatever. You know, and, and the thing is, all you have to do is look around the world to see where the masses are. And Dr. Hawkins talks about a person raising their conscience by five on average, five points in a lifetime. Five points in a lifetime. I'm talking about 500 points in three hours. Yeah. Like

Brandon Handley 14:24
Yeah, and let's not forget, that's a logarithmic scale to this isn't like even five five is is kind of a leap. But yeah, 500 is is is it's like a you know, so I'm thinking of the Spaceballs movie ludicrous Feat. Right.

Donn Smith 14:40
Right. Yeah. And and you know that the thing is, the state that they're in and the words that they use immediately, they actually soon as they're in that state, start feeding back instantly words from the state they're in which is That 700

Brandon Handley 15:01
Yeah, like what? What kind of words? What do we

Donn Smith 15:04
like one of the ads like this Alexandra, that was 73. Okay. I said, and what size is your heart energy now Alhambra is infinity. And what size? Is your worth energy now at 100? infinity? And what stage of safety? Are you still in safety? No, I'm invincible. None of those words I gave her. Yeah. That's what I'm talking about.

Brandon Handley 15:40
Tapping into infinite consciousness like that. Now what? So once you've once you've gotten them kind of tapped in to this, and they're in this space? Is this is this a permanent transformation, though?

Donn Smith 15:52
Yes. So now I need to use something for people to understand this piece. Because people need to know, they're already doing what I'm doing. They're just doing it in reverse. They're already doing and it's this is not magic. It's it's not. So let's go back to a phobia. Like anybody that has a phobia. And what I'm telling you is this, that phobia happened in an instant, in a second. And they created all these beliefs, both negative beliefs and positive beliefs about themselves, and about their world. They did it in an incident and almost always before the age of reason. And then they get locked in neurologically to that state, and just kept repeating it over and over subconsciously not being consciously aware of any of that that was happening. And they just keep doing it over and over. Now, not only did it happen in an instant, but it was permanent, and now handler's case, 70 years that's permanent. And so what it is, is about reversing the same process they've already been using, only in a way that is very, is a way of accessing their light, rather than being caught in their darkness. But it's the same process. I'm not giving them anything new. I'm showing them how to use what they already have done in a way that's for them rather than against them.

Brandon Handley 17:30
That's almost like a sort of a job, the map or something, right? So as we're kind of talking about the map of consciousness, it's almost like the someone says that they dropped it, they don't, or they couldn't read the instructions. And I love this idea that before the age of reason, low for you describe that a little bit more. But you know, so again, you're giving them kind of this map and the energy that they're already kind of leveraging in their lives today. is the same energy that they could be using in this other manner. Right? What you're saying, a redirection?

Donn Smith 18:04
Yeah, is it completely direction. So in other words, it's, that's where the ego gets created. And then everything is about fear. Everything is about who we're not everything is about being stuck and lost in their three states of, of our brains survival, either I'm attacking, I'm playing dead, or I'm running away. And all of those are all fear based, and they're all ego driven. The only difference is, they're at an identity level. So I'm not good enough, or I'm not worthy, or I don't deserve good things, or I'm not loved or I don't fit in no one loves me. I'm not saying the world's a terrifying place, and on and on. Because they're in that program. And the ego energies purpose is to keep them out of their life into that energy, so we can survive.

Brandon Handley 18:57
law I mean, so how do we start trying to light on that?

Donn Smith 19:00
And that's an awesome question. And, and it's twofold. What it is, is, it's impaired. Now, you know, I like I have preparation where people get this a lot what I'm giving you right now. And like their steps, their steps like for people to know about for example, here's what I start with Brandon, I start with the end. I start with the end, always. And what the end is, is that best moment, that best moment, that one moment where, oh my god, how did I do that? Oh, my goodness. And one of the ones that really stands out for most, especially women, but not always, is their firstborn and they held that beautiful age. That's all A lot of times the best moment. And then that best moment, they're in their divinity. They're in their divinity. And we start there as the framework is the foundation. So now they know what they're going for. And I check I asked all of the questions that describe that state that you're in, in this best moment. And, you know, all of those kinds of things. And, and then I explained this whole thing, that there's a single event that took you out of that, that that's your natural state. Not that you give birth every three hours. But that state that you Yeah, exactly. It's the state that you're in, when that's happened. And that that's like they Allah Hendra, that their their heart and your ci is the size of infinity. They're worth energies to size infinity, and they have this state of invincibility. That's your natural state. That's their divinity. And when they describe that powerful, best moment, that's what they're describing. So now they have that. And so that gives them the reference point, yes. Okay. And then what it is, is like, it's now keeping in mind, Brandon, I spent 41 years putting together 100,000 piece puzzle, to find out that's not how you do it. Okay. And so all of the ways that most are talking about it is not how you do it. Biggest thing is being able to eliminate that positive and negative belief system of who people think they are. That's the key. And it is a single moment in time. It's a single moment in time. And it was instant, that all of those beliefs got created in an instant. And so what I do is, I have I did a, I reverse engineered the phobia and near death experience to find out how it worked. Then I created a double sound technique to reverse that process as quickly as it was great. Like, doesn't that make sense? That if you did it, once, you could do it again, only it's against, it's for you instead of against you.

Brandon Handley 22:45
It's funny, because the thing that's going through my mind right now is Bob Proctor's got a line goes in your head, you made it ache, right? Yeah, similar, similar scenario, right? It's a cheer phobia that you created, you shouldn't be able to uncreate it is what I'm hearing you say?

Donn Smith 23:01
Yes. Now that there's, there's a difficulty with this. Here's the difficulty. A phobia is an intense experience, it's intense. And what happens is, you can't intellectually undo it, you can't think your way through it, you can't do your affirmations through it. It doesn't work that way. It's intense and it's in. It's, it's like, it's like, it's like this incredibly intense shock. And it can't be done intellectually, has to be done in the same way. And then when we come back to the before the age of reason, there is no logic, there is no reason there is no common sense before the age of reason. And so you have to go back to that system, to be able to reverse it in the way it was created. Which is neurological, which is at the moment of when it happened. And then I created this double sound technique to explode that system. And everything just disappears, vanishes.

Brandon Handley 24:11
That also explained that the double sound system for me,

Donn Smith 24:15
okay, now, keeping in mind, it took me about five years to unpack this near death experience and the phobia piece and to get them okay, how does that work? Like, what happened there? Like, what was that and and putting that all together? And what it is, is like it's an intense shock to the whole system, creating an identity of who they're not creating an identity of the world as they see it from that perspective. Okay, so that's what they're going on. All these behaviors are all from that event. And it was a shock. So if you talk about people, you know, like my dad was in the war, it was in the Navy went across the English Channel 28 times, and he come back with not a scratch. But he had post traumatic stress. Everything you were going to die, you were going to die from touching electric, like, what are you going to talk to? And not only that we were Irish Catholics are, you're going to go to hell when you did die. Okay, so it's like a double whammy? No one. No one in there. Oh, no waiting. There's no waiting there, man. No, no, no, none, none whatsoever. And so it was everything was about dying. And that's the ego. Everything is about dying. That's what it is. It's about death and dying. You're either in once again, either going to attack playhead or runaway. One of those three. And so they're in this constant fight or flight. But that's the when that happened. They created an identity created an ego identity, and it wants to stay alive, it wants to survive. And it will trick them. So when they, some people when they start to take a step forward to do a program that will eliminate it, all of a sudden is gigantic resistance, like a Mack truck exhibit resistance to taking that step forward. But what that is, is the ego trying to say No way. I'm saying in charge of you. I'm going to be the one in control. And it will find multiple ways to have them not take the process, pick the process and try to give it up. And that's when you would ask what about permanent? Well, remember now permanent, they already know how to do permanent. The only thing is, all you have to do is get around the constant, constant bantering of the ego, trying to get back in to get a hold and to get in church. And I have created ways. So there's three phases, the instant and then the permanent holding, and then acceleration. And that's all built in so that they can access and they have the support. Now some don't need it. I had one lady process GYN three and a half months without the negative thought another guy went 40 days without a negative thought.

Brandon Handley 27:33
I'd be happy to get to like a minute.

Donn Smith 27:36
Yeah, I think Brandon, I'm telling you. And that's I'm talking about the traditional model where were you know, there was one guy come in and he had spent, you know, 10 years at the top one in the world personal development. And and he had a, what I do is I get the whole the negative experience, do a muscle test, then a really good positive experience and doing muscle test and the best and do a muscle test. So their best moment and this guy had a best moment what he thought was the best moment was within this year program that he took, which is one of the top in the world. I do a muscle test on them. So when I did the negative, I put his finger his arm down muscle with a finger, my finger pinky finger. Then when he did the one with this top guy, I put it down with two fingers. Because it was the traditional model, it was the intellectual model.

Brandon Handley 28:37
Also, let's make sure the audience knows what that means. Right? So when so when when you put it down with two fingers, what does that mean?

Donn Smith 28:46
That means there was a muscle test I'm holding it I tested him for his name he tested me for you know, all of that and I couldn't budge his arm. I couldn't budget. So then when I get into think about a negative experience, you know, like losing a losing a deal, you know, a $20 million deal or something, then with one finger I can put his arm down. And then I asked him to think about this, this event. This one that he said was you know the best and I did the same muscle has same arm, same muscle test and I put it down with two fingers. And then I got him to think of an event and he told me about a healer like uh, you know, one of those you know that they're all cheering and all of that and he actually the guy was an authentic and something really powerful happened to him at that event. And he had this very cool awakening, but I couldn't budget okay. The only thing is he still had all his red and black and couldn't hold it. She couldn't hold that state. Well, that guy come in real quick when you say red, black, what

Brandon Handley 30:04
are you saying?

Donn Smith 30:05
Oh, I'm sorry. So the black is the negative beliefs about ourselves, I have a hockey puck type thing just for people to see that, and I know they can't see on here, but it's a, like a hockey puck. Black is the negative beliefs people have about themselves. And the red is the positive beliefs about themselves. Okay. And we started, he flew in from Dallas, we met one on one, from the moment we started to where we finished off, all of the programming was 90 minutes, 90 minutes start to stop. And in one second, with this double sound technique that I've created all of these programs for the company, they won't say the same as they got crazy. What's that mean?

Brandon Handley 30:50
You know, I'm just thinking of other sound devices that ultrasonic, you know, to disrupt, like, plaque in the mouth, or even like, you know, disrupt, you know, tumors in the body type of thing, right? This kind of that's just kind of what I envision is is like, you've got this double sound, and it just kind of shatters all the negative gone. Yeah,

Donn Smith 31:13
it shocks the system. I said, you need to have the same level of shock, but created it. That's right. That's why intellect doesn't work. That's why the affirmations don't work. Because it has to have the same level of shock to reverse the process.

Brandon Handley 31:36
That's so I mean, it's super, super interesting, right? Because the process was created by you. You know, the phobia, we're sticking with? phobias, right? The phobia is created by you. But you don't it's done unconsciously. Right. 100. And so it, it still has to be done through you to get rid of it. It almost again and unconscious manner. Right. So it's interesting.

Donn Smith 32:07
Yeah. And not is it it, like, I have them with their eyes closed. You know, they're just processing all of this, just as I'm leading them. Now. Keeping in mind, Brandon, I just don't go home to them. It's time. I made them through a process that prepares them and gets them ready, for sure. For all of this understanding, like challenging them about negative and positive beliefs challenged them about instant and permanent as far as that phobia, like all of those and neurological versus intellectual. And

Brandon Handley 32:42
then without ever speed down what is neurological versus intellectual?

Donn Smith 32:46
Well, intellectually, as I'm using my mind, I'm using my thinking process, okay. That's what I'm doing, to think about something and try to override it and try to be stronger, I just need to be stronger. I just need to, you know, I need I just need to do this, I need to, you know, just get serious here. Sure. But it's, that's not the system. So neurological is, you know, an automatic internal response to a specific external stimuli. That happens in an instant, or whether that's positive or negative. So if you look at a picture of your mom, or dad, or, or someone, they're almost exclusively, there would be a smile, or, you know, there would it would be automatic or Oh, I think I'll smile now. It's just automatic. And so do we have all of these neurological programs? So this is how I respond to this event? This is how I respond to that. How come this person responded totally different to a butterfly than the other person, one guy? And the other was? Wow.

Brandon Handley 34:03
So I guess if I were just to your triggers, right, these are the several options that are out there a lot of okay. Okay, thank you. I mean, that's, that definitely makes a difference, right understanding and what those two two are. So I appreciate that.

Donn Smith 34:17
And they're created neurologically. So they have to be on created neurologically. And they have to be the exact thing. It's like traces, traces it all the way back on our timeline, from their present to the origin of the event. And the those it's a timeline piece, all the way back to its origin. And then it's that double sound technique to shatters everything that beliefs, that decision, say May, the lessons all of that it's all done all at once. But it's done that at the same speed to which they created it. instantaneous. Yes, brand instantaneous mass. Fantastic.

Brandon Handley 35:06
That's fantastic. Let's talk a little bit to want people to know, you know, just some of the people that you have worked with in the past, you know, a little bit of your history, I believe you saw a couple sports teams and some high profile people. I don't know who you convention. But just just want people to understand that, you know, you're not just hanging out on the nice beach with this, this idea and these things that you come up with, but you've got 40 years of this work behind you. And you've, you've worked with some of the top level talents and some incredible people in this world.

Donn Smith 35:42
Yes. So, you know, I started with an addiction growing up an alcoholic home, went to a cafe for 15 years outgrew that very rapidly, but it took me about five years to leave, because I was the training, I would get drunk and what all of those kinds of things. I worked in addictions for eight years, and then I worked with criminals that worked in the federal parole guys had to get take my program to get out in the street like serial rapist, armed robbers, murderers, like the toughest of the tough. And then I was I got, I worked with a couple of guys, Canadians on the PGA Tour. And one of them happened to be the friend of a CEO of a major corporation that was having a lot of problems. And I can use his name because it's in a book called think the SEC. And he, he mentions me in his book, he was the CEO, co CEO, his name was Jim ball. So he losing the signal. Sorry, that was the name of the book losing the signal. And any talks exclusively in that book about his meeting with me, and how he who they were, they were caught up in a multi billion dollar lawsuits. And they had two choices. two choices. One is to stop building the phone, the BlackBerry Are these the states which 85% of their income. And we met, and in the book, he died instantly, I had no power back instantly. And then, a major thing that happened about six months later, they finally came to an agreement. And, and he had written a check, authorize the CFO to write a check for $1.2 billion that morning. And there were already there was 40 people in the room told to me by the CEO, Don lorrison. about that. And they and he's Jim said, I gotta go. I'll be right back. He goes out any calls when I'm on a golf course. He told me what's going on? I said, Jim, how much time do we have? He said, I have to be back in the meeting in eight minutes. I said, Okay, you're ready to put it all together. Now remember, he's already done a lot of work with me. And in six minutes, we were done. He walked back into the meeting and said, we're not doing it that way. We're doing it this way. Meet that six minute phone call saved them. 615 million. Okay. Yeah, it is. And I work with the top athletes, any many in the NHL, I work with four different teams. Sneaky guy, he

Brandon Handley 38:40
mentioned that he was the guy who mentioned he had, he had scored two goals ended up you know, getting close to the Stanley Cup and, you know, views in Islam ended up hitting 41 goals the end of the year, he was to Rome again. There you go. So and the reason you want people to understand that, you know, again, that you're somebody out there doing some real real stuff. Yeah, right.

Donn Smith 39:02
Yeah, it's tangible. It's instant. And it's people like that saying about it, saying about it. And but I now there's a pivotal piece. Brandon, if I could enter lumen? Yes. So there's many. There's many of those of you know, work with Nobel Peace Prize winning doctors I've worked with, you know, like, just about any but what happened was something that shifted me completely. And in February of 2014, my wife died of cancer. Three months later, my daughter got cancer, and she died in May of 2015. And what happened was from that those two catastrophic events that I ended up shifting and going into, how can I help the masses and how can I How can I contribute? How can I do something with say k Answer or something like that. So, I started a program, I did a one day event on November 20 2019. And there was 10 came from all over North America to take my process. Well, timing has it. I was talking to one of them yesterday, just to give you an idea of random. Just to give you an idea, one of the 10 His name is Manuel. Okay. And he had, they all had stage four cancer. All okay. And he, he ended up, he was having surgery. And they told him before surgery, here's your shoot, you're not going to be able to have kids. And you're not going to be able, you'll have a wear bag the rest of your life. And the other option is you're not going to make the surgery. It's so major. Okay, so this was on a on a Tuesday morning, a 13 and a half hour surgery. They opened up a stomach that was for tumors on there, they set them up with the stomach back together. And and they said it was a surprise, it wasn't a miracle. There was some surprise, shock. It was that amazing. Anyway, at eight o'clock that night, his wife samiha calls me said Don Manuel is doubled over in pain. He's in so much pain he cannot breathe. So something you can do. Sammy either, like I don't deal with symptoms, like, I'll talk to him. Anyway, we started eight o'clock, at 20 after he instantly he sat up, all the pain was gone. All the pain was gone every better. That day, all his cancer was gone. He's had tests every single regular time. And there hasn't been a satin ounce of cancer.

Brandon Handley 42:04
powerful story, right? First of all, I'm super sorry for your loss. You know, that's that's not easy, obviously. And then I love that this job really paid off. And I share this as a scalable level, how can I share some of my knowledge and what I found in a way that's going to be meaningful and have an impact around those around me and beyond. So thank you, thank you for that. And then you know, the story within my gut, my first question is, Do you consider yourself a healer? Or is this something you know? Because, right, I mean, you hear that? And next thing you know, you've got, you know, people lining up, right. So I mean, I'm just kind of curious what that sounds like, or

Donn Smith 42:50
I don't put that target to me at all. I don't put any title because I'm not the healer they are. They're the heat. I've just figured out a process where it can be used. And they use it on themselves. Yeah. Yeah. So it's them. That's the killer. That, yeah.

Brandon Handley 43:13
You're just helping them to access that and ourselves?

Donn Smith 43:17
Yes, I show them how to access that. And and just coming back to Jerome again, like That's right. He had two goals. For the one at the end of the year that flames had not been in the playoffs for seven years. And that year, they went to within two games to win the Stanley Cup. Like, it doesn't matter. Doesn't matter whether it's health, it doesn't matter if it's sport, it doesn't matter if it's motivation. It doesn't matter. I don't deal with sentence. They don't have anything to do with it. They just tell a story.

Brandon Handley 43:54
Yeah, no, I love that. Right. The symptoms are just it's just something that we use for our own limitations. Is that what I'm hearing you say?

Donn Smith 44:05
Yes, yes. Yeah. So and just coming back, man. Well, they're six months pregnant. That's awesome. Yeah, no day. That's Yes.

Brandon Handley 44:18
I think that makes it better for sure. So it makes it better. Well, so let's let's talk a little bit about right you've got this. You've got this event coming up. We don't have a whole lot of time left on this one. But you've got this event coming up are I am divinity instant and permit transformation event on September 22. Tell me a little bit about what's happening there. And how somebody can get involved if they would like,

Donn Smith 44:41
Yes, well, there's, there's a way that they can find that we're putting together a whole piece where they can follow and just, they can join right away and it's I am divinity global versity.com Okay, and I am definit di di di nit y, global GL ob AR VR, si te y COMM And they can access hours the last part of that I'm sorry, after a global, global versity, global versity, the ER si t y.com. And what happens is that they can find out there's all of these programs that I have to meet them up to find out if this is suited for them. And then it's it's this one day event. And what I'm looking for is I'm looking for 8000 that are the most open, most ready, most receptive, willing to just jump in and embrace their divinity. Because with that, 1000 that if you look at the consciousness scale, Dr. Hawkins each one at 700 offsets 1 million people, that 1000 will all set a billion.

Unknown Speaker 45:58
That's awesome.

Brandon Handley 45:59
Yeah, no, you're right. Right. I forgotten about that. Right?

Donn Smith 46:02
Yes. And so this event on September 22, they can find that all out on that on there. And they can sign up right away to be a part of that, then they can stay a part of that after because they become superheroes with all of their gifts that they came here to use. Right? And what this is, is the How to clear that all up imagine 1000 people going from 200 to 700 in three hours.

Brandon Handley 46:34
Yeah. Yeah, I mean, again, that would be like going from who we are today. Right? To near near, near Buddha's level, you know, to say, Please, open to enlightenment.

Donn Smith 46:49
Now super powerful. This grant,

Brandon Handley 46:54
is there anything I get? You know, there's tons more we could talk about. But I just want to Is there anything, I guess in particular, that you would want the audience to know that we haven't shared just yet.

Donn Smith 47:05
You know, I would just go back to that best moment. And tell them to like, ask the listener to go back to their best moment. And know that everything is inside, it's like a naig set best moment is who they are. And what this is, is an absolute accelerated like a rocket ship, to go back to there cleaning up all of their programs that the ego was trying to get them to hold on. And it's as simple as the phobia. It isn't complicated, and they've already done it. They've already done it. And that best moment is who they are, whether they've only had it for a minute, or 20 times in their life. They're meant to have it 20 473 65 because it's who they are just like the color their eyes. That's then

Brandon Handley 48:03
that's powerful. I love that. pull that down. Well, hey, one last thing, we're here. So, you know, a little bit like spiritual speed dating, right? Hey, we so you know, somebody is going to be tuning in and they are looking for their next big spiritual date, Don, and hopefully you're a but uh, one of the questions I'm going to ask for you here, out of out of a question bank is a bachelor number one, is current religion serving its purpose?

Donn Smith 48:35
No. Got anything else on that? Yes, I do. The most I can get to at the highest level is 400. The biggest thing is that there's this external God. They're referencing referencing. Okay, and that takes all the power from in here and puts it out there. And that has to be reversed, that they are divine, and the power is in here. And it's been been given to them to come here to use it. Now, if there's any religions out there that are teaching that there's this divinity inside, let's learn how to access it, then that's the one that go to. But it's definitely not the one that I grew up with.

Brandon Handley 49:28
I love that I love that answer. You know, because it's so true, right? We look for everything that we really want outside of us, before we ever give ourselves the opportunity to to look inside, including your permission to be ourselves, right? We looked at we look to somebody else to simply be ourselves right.

Donn Smith 49:52
And now in all fairness to them. So they're not hard on themselves because I don't want people being hard on themselves. As much as they've tried to be themselves, there's a phobic response time to stop them from that happening. They need to be fair with themselves to know that it's not an intellectual thing. Okay, that's so important to them to know that they're just missing the combination to the safe. That's all. That's all they're missing, if they're open and receptive, are connecting will create that. It's kind of like men. Well, yesterday, he said, Don, I couldn't have done it without you. And I said, Yeah, you're right, man. Well, and I couldn't have done it without you. So he brought 100% of his gift, and I brought 100% of mine to mccreight 100% for that for him. And so it's like, there's this if you're looking outside yourself for something. You are trying to get a drink of water with a straightener. Then it'll never ever quit your thirst ever.

Brandon Handley 51:12
Spent a great one. So I really appreciate it. Where can I send people to find out more about you outside of the event?

Donn Smith 51:21
You know what that I am divinity gobo versity.com is the place to go. place to go. Okay. I mean, I got another one. But that's for that's for the elite. That's for the one on ones and all of that this is a mass thing for the masses seven. All at the sir. So that's the one I end divinity global versity Club. They'll fly there they need.

Brandon Handley 51:46
I appreciate you reaching out. I appreciate you being on the podcast. They've spent a delight to meet up with you. I really appreciate what it is that you're bringing to the world. So thank you.

Donn Smith 51:58
Thank you. So appreciate about us connecting with such a gift.

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Meg and I Agree on Everything

Published: Aug. 13, 2021, 4:18 p.m.
Duration: 19 minutes 37 seconds

Unknown Speaker 0:01
Good

Unknown Speaker 0:02
morning,

Brandon Handley 0:02
what is happening? What is happening? Thinking about a couple of different things leaving Brazilian Jiu Jitsu away home, prepare for the day. Have a great day. The just thinking about this yesterday a little bit, the whole this idea that Meg and I, and my wife and I,

Unknown Speaker 0:31
we agree

Brandon Handley 0:34
on the outcome of everything. Now just about like 90%, which is, which is a lot. So we agree on the end result, much in the same way that in jujitsu, we agree on the end result being a submission, right, or, you know, not being submitted some protection. So, we agree on these outcomes. And the thing is, is that we have different ways of getting there. We have different ways of how we believe we should get there. And that's where the messes think we're just about anything, same thing. And the same thing is in religion as well, or spirituality, even everybody can agree. There's something larger, there's something greater. And we can all agree that, to some degree, there's this blissful state. And we can maybe agree that we believe that that's what heaven must be like. The great beyond eternal bliss, all new happiness all the time everywhere. But what we don't agree on is how to achieve that. What must be done to achieve that? Even in watching the Suicide Squad this week, this past week, there was the guy's name, Peacemaker, john Siena's character was called Peacemaker, and he was willing to fight to create peace. He was willing to kill slaughter, and do battle in order to create peace, which is, I think we can agree. And oxymoron. So another reason I kind of bring this up, because we don't agree on a lot of the middle ground mengenai we don't we disagree on a lot of the middle ground. And a lot of that comes from simply being I'm obstinate, or I am not approaching it correctly. Not taking my time to have the conversation all the time. Sometimes I'm just like, no, this is it, right? I'm not I'm not new in jujitsu, we look for an opportunity. Or we create the essentially we're trying to create the opportunity. And that sense of sense a sense of the word, we're oftentimes baiting somebody into a certain area and jujitsu baiting or trying, again, trying to create the space so that we can maneuver. And the reason I don't like the word bait in this context is because I'm not really trying to I'm not trying to beat somebody into a conversation so that they can see my way so that they can see that I am right. This is my way. The point is to be able to see the other person's point of view. Yes, I see your point of view. And yes, you could do it that way. Here's a way that I would do it. Are you able to see that there is a Are you able to see that it is possible in this way. And oftentimes, we end up in a place

Unknown Speaker 5:09
of

Brandon Handley 5:13
general frustration. Because we're not able to communicate our ideas clearly enough for somebody to accept them. We're not, we're not able to displace somebody's beliefs, so that they're willing to actually hear or see, for a moment, how it could be different.

Unknown Speaker 5:42
Again,

Brandon Handley 5:44
the outcome, the outcome, we all want the same outcome. We all want to submit somebody, we all want to have world peace, we all want to defend from you know, mixing a lot of stuff up here, religions, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, and just general relationships. We all want to, we all want to find ourselves in this in this space in place where we have in some way guided or controlled the outcome. The outcome we feel was within our control. Right, and that feels great. When that happens. However, again, we're all going to have a different approach to that outcome, regardless of how similar they are. And then that's, again, that's where the frustration comes in. So how can you? How can you help avoid that? And I know I used the word beat earlier. So how can you help avoid that? By asking questions, instead of telling somebody set the questions up, so that someone can see it for themselves. So how would they get to that outcome? Listen to them understand where they're coming from their desired way to get to the outcome. And then oftentimes, you ask the questions. You say, Okay, well, absolutely. I agree. I believe that's a that's a great approach. And it could be done that can be done that way. And what you presented would work? Would you be willing to accept an alternative method? Would you be open minded to a different approach? That you got to get the buy in? If you don't get the buy in? Then you know what, maybe today is not today to get your approach across. And that's okay. I understand. In that moment. There's way too much resistance, you could pressure it. And you could kind of force it. But once you force it, once you say, once they say no. Once they say no to are you willing to consider an alternative method would you be willing to consider? And don't say don't say my, to say a? Right? Because right now, once you say my, there's like a resistance there, too. I don't know what that is, right? But if you check out my way, fuck you, me. I just told you. I just told you my way you use a set my way was great. Why the hell would you Why would I want to listen to your specific way? So you say just say a way. Right? There's there's some ambiguity in there. There's no resistance. And then you present. You ask a couple more questions. You say, Well, what about? Could it be done? What if the approach was this way? And you already know what theirs is. And you can use a lot of their same starting points and the thing to do is to introduce some different information. Maybe there's something they're not aware of. Are you familiar with the work of Dr. Such and such, you know, according to Harvard Business Review, fight, you know, if I haven't heard that in a million meetings, and I don't know what's going on, according to Forbes, pull in an authority figure. That's not an entire crackpot.

Reference their material, reference their story, reference, how they did it. And then As you're as you're coming along,

Unknown Speaker 10:03
make sure they're tracking.

Brandon Handley 10:05
Make sure they're there with you. Okay, juicy. So this person this way, are we cool up to this point? What are your thoughts up to this point? And a little bit of it's literally I mean, it's spoon feeding. And you're not doing it again, you're not doing it to persuade somebody of anything else, you just want to see if a different approach is more amenable, right? Maybe you something more to your liking. Maybe you didn't like the other approach. But you could see how it could be done. And you're trying to meet somewhere in the middle. So pull in third party, third party testimonial, authoritative testimonial story. Always, always works, not something you did. Nobody cares about you. I hate to tell you, right. Unless, like you're already super successful. And you're not an anomaly. mega always considers, often considers a number of the things that I do an anomaly. It's really weird. Just a one year a one off. Okay. So pulling something that's more in the mainstream pulling something that is you're aware of, and it can be placed in a context, isn't it? has an authoritative, authoritative push and pull? And then use that?

And then that's it. Right? Do they accept? Can somebody else accepts outside information that different to what they've posed? That again, you've already accepted what they said? And I think that that's key, hear it, hear them out, repeat to them what they just said, understand just the act of listening. Right? And really hear it it's a challenge, right? Because we want to so many times, as soon as we hear some of the triggers up Nope, that's it. I shut down here,

Unknown Speaker 12:13
murmur. Well,

Brandon Handley 12:14
and here's why. Everything you said was stupid, man. That's right. And then we become, we've become something else, we just shut down. We're no longer taking in information. We need to accept that what they're saying is valid to them. We need to accept that what they're saying is true to them. And you hear it and you've repeated it back to them and you and you confirm. Right that that could be that's a way that's a way there's definitely possibility potential and all that jazz within what they said. Now, putting it into practice, that's the challenge. That's the challenge with everything. challenges,

Unknown Speaker 13:09
okay.

Brandon Handley 13:12
I know how to in jujitsu, I knew how to put somewhere armbar I know how to put somewhere a triangle, I know how to do a baseball job. I know how to defend against all these things as well. The problem or the challenge becomes doing it or knowledge is fantastic. It's great to know something. However, it is that what that horn wasn't for me, by the way, if you heard a word there, there's knowledge is power 100%.

Unknown Speaker 14:01
It's

Brandon Handley 14:02
application of the knowledge that is quintessential application, application, whatever that looks like to you, that is to pull the team together. That's to take the action that's to implement these ideas. It's to fuck them up is to do these ideas, without fear, with the intent to bring about an improved result. Based off all that, you know, you know what this new knowledge is new information could assist in an improved result and iterations time over time over time over time, the first couple of times you try half the shit. You're gonna fall on your face. You're not gonna make the connection you're gonna miss. Those misses are just as informative as if the shit you were trying to do worked just as informative, because now you've got the implementation, you've got the general, just you've got the framework got the implementation, you got to miss. Now, you know, you know what the gap is? There's something in the gap. Now, you know, where the course correction is now, you know, where the where your questions are. You've got more questions. Here Really? Okay, you know, that was a shooting a mess. Alright, where did I? Where did I, in terms of a conversation, right? With the desired outcome for both of us? Where did I, where did I miss? Because you can see the non connection in the conversation and be okay enough in the relationship. To call it out. It was Meg and I talking yesterday, that's kind of the genesis of this talk track, we were having a conversation. And we have a different thought process to on it. And while we were talking, she checked out, and that's nothing on her, it's on me, I'm like, Where did I miss? And I asked, I said, you know, what looks like checked out what happened? Where did I go wrong?

Unknown Speaker 16:38
And

Brandon Handley 16:40
take the feedback. And then if you're kind of an employee, again, that's a miss. So it's really, depending on your timeframe and the situation, just table it for now. You okay, with a bit? All right, I see what you're saying. And just understand that, that that communication, that Miss on you. And that's, and that's acceptable, you need to accept that you take 100% responsibility for all the things and then you can work to correct them. And I think that that's, that's a, that's where this this kind of lands, right? we all we all have the similar we have similar desired outcomes, with different approaches and how to get there. And we can learn how to get there. And a big way to learn, is by asking these questions by looking to change, you don't even look at don't even look at how can I I need to improve? What's the best version of me? Blah, blah, blah? How can I be what I want to be? who I want to be? How can this be the life that I desire? How can this How can this be what I would like it to be? Where are the areas that I need to work on? Where are the areas that I can change my approach on so that is what I would like it to be or it is what we would like it to be? how can how can we achieve these results so that we are in agreement to some outcomes? Okay, I think you get where this is going and how this is I think it's wanted to share a couple of things that and it was tongue in cheek that Meg and I agree on everything. But at the same time, there's so much that we don't agree on. And I take full responsibility for that. Right. And I think that when we take responsibility for this Not unless it's not in the sense of being guilty. If I'm familiar with Buddha's arrows story, it's, it's you The two arrows, the first arrow maybe is shot at you or somebody else shoots you. The second arrow is the one that you put in, you write something in a way that's guilty, and be like, Oh, man, I fucked that up. Doing away that just be like, I could have done that differently. And here's how I will do it differently next time or, you know, just pull, pull it out, and just be like, I'm gonna pull that out. That's okay. We're cool. Anywho hopefully, this was something that was beneficial for you and your day. I know that, you know, when I had this thought pattern and thought track and put it all together in my mind, I just came to a nice peaceful state of being and just understood, you know, this is, this is all me and I'm okay with that. And these are some ways that we can work through these challenges. All right. I'll talk to you

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Speak Your Truth

Published: Aug. 11, 2021, 2:25 a.m.
Duration: 15 minutes 48 seconds

Unknown Speaker 0:01
What's up,

Brandon Handley 0:03
don't hit that car. Been a long time since I've done a live Facebook Live, that's for sure. And to be honest with you, I don't really even know what I've got for you today. Other than, you know, Megan, I been, you know, going through like a lot of different things, you know, both of us kind of growing in our own ways. And I think that that is how things are supposed to be in life, people grow the way that they grow. Same way that as I'm passing on nursery, right, you know, an oak tree is gonna grow different than a flower. Right? But the flower and the oak tree aren't gonna look at each other and be like, why aren't you growing? Like I'm growing. And I think that, you know, a, that's the way it's supposed to be like, in a relationship when one person is not supposed to grow, just like the other. But I also think that there's going to be, there's going to be areas of intersection as kind of like almost like a DNA helix, right, there's going to be areas of intersection overlap. And an area that we were talking about the other day, was talking about, throat being pretty tight, right here. And, you know, just talking about like, throat, throat chakra is and, and speaking, speaking your truth, as it were. And, and, yeah, that's just kind of what I was feeling. This was really interesting. And I don't know if it's because of BJJ. And getting choked out that that could be, but I don't feel like I got choked out too much in the past couple days. So. So it's just this is kind of this, this blockage almost in in the throat, from not sharing your truth, not sharing who you are. And I had a great opportunity yesterday to share my truth and kind of speak through this a little bit with a fella named Mike IML, he is on Instagram, check him out really cool guy does, does purpose work, which can be used in a number of different ways. But he and I had a great conversation around what it's like to not speak your truth. And it's almost, it's almost like it's almost like a darkening yourself, you know, putting, putting a shade on who you are. Because you're afraid

Unknown Speaker 2:37
of

Brandon Handley 2:39
maybe shining too bright. You're afraid of someone you know, disagreeing with you or afraid of someone not accepting you as you are or being accepted as you are in the place that you are. And so you hold back. You hold back your your thoughts, you hold back your emotions, you hold back any number of things. And also had a second conversation yesterday with this gentleman, Don Smith, who who does work in this space as well. And his work is to kind of go back to the area where this was formed. He calls he says it's like a phobia. And how phobias are created in an instant, right? How quickly does a phobia get created? How quickly did you become when you became afraid of snakes? How quickly did you become afraid of spiders or insects and your reaction became what it is to the things that you react to. And that is he called it a neurological versus intellectual. Right. So that's that was created intellectually. And it's really hard to unwrap these triggers these phobias, this phobia of you not being able to be the truth of who you are. And how that how challenging that is going to be to unwrap through a to an intellectual way. And he posits that this phobia can be overcome just as quickly as it was created. That is instant instantly. However, it has to be done in a neurological kind of way, that he's found the way that he is found, helps to remedy this in a three to four hour session, and you know, walks you through a path and then gets you to this place where he's got what he calls like, dual sound device,

Unknown Speaker 5:19
double sound, if

Brandon Handley 5:20
I'd have to look at it again, but essentially, the way I like and is, you know, there's there's a ultrasonic devices that clean, clean debris off of off of like scalpels off of when you're doing your teeth, you know, dental instruments. And the thought is, is like what is what is doing is it's sending such a vibration, it's such a level that it's physical. It's not, it's emotional, rather, really. And that's also what we're talking about is this emotional bond is created, is created at an emotional level, like emotional vibrational level, I would have to say, Don, even though we're not talking right now, that such that it kind of clasps and hooks itself into such a position that it's locked for forever, almost. And then you've got to some of these associates vibrations, to disrupt that, that grasp, right, to disrupt it. That was the way I kind of envisioned it when he talks about what he does, but he walks you through the path talks about how you get there. And, you know, it's kind of tragic, when you think about it, the amount of people that aren't sharing the truth of who they are. Maybe, because I know often in my own is, since I'm like, well, maybe it's just not going to come across in a way that's easily understood, which is a challenge, right? Since that's a work on the communication aspect become a better communicator, when you're trying to really share what it is that you believe could work. And, you know, sometimes there's more work that goes into it that you just haven't done yet. So the challenge and trying to get somebody to understand something new is to work with them to understand it, right. So there's a little bit of dance in the conversation before you get to that spot. But I think that we've all been in a situation where we're with someone, and we want to make a good impression we want to make, we just want to be seen, right want to see, we want us to be seen in a good way, the way that they would accept this good, if that makes sense, right? So that we want to be seen by them in a way that is acceptable to them. And that causes a challenge because we don't really know all the ways that they will accept us as as the person they want us to be or they would accept. So the alternative is to simply just be who you are, be who you are in that moment. And finish this up, I guess with the class that I've been taking Craven personal mastery with Sreekumar Rao, and just some other just amazing people. It's a group of I think, just shy of 20 people from around the world. And it's been a 12 week course. And the interaction with some of these people, the access to some people would be access to people that I would never imagine myself to be surrounded by see CFOs entrepreneurs of highest caliber, you know, world renowned people in their space. And here I am. And you know, there's this voice of judgment there for myself and like, Who am I supposed to be in this situation? You know, I've come into this through the route of spiritual dose should I be like the super spiritual dude and all this stuff where you know, or can I just be me or whoever I need to be? What's my reaction? What's my gut, telling me? What's my heart telling me and how is my heart telling me to speak in this situation. And I think that when we when we speak from our heart, if anybody's ever done some, some research on this to research is showing that the reaction there's an emotion and there's like a tiny little brain, like I think it's like 40,000 cells within the heart that seems to be able to intercept what's going to happen to you As much as six seconds before it actually happens to you. So your heart and your emotion reacts prior to any event happening within your life. And a lot of times we disregard that, that in that initial instinct, the thing that

is there from our heart, right, not intellectually, not thinking to ourselves, oh, what's he going to say, and, versus just saying what's on, you know, coming from

Unknown Speaker 10:32
your heart,

Brandon Handley 10:33
this emotion, this, this truth, as it were. And when you when you follow that, you're just being who you're being, you're not trying to be somebody that you're not. You're not even trying to be your authentic self. Because when you're trying to be your authentic self, when you're trying to do anything. You know, you're, you've got in your mind that you're trying, first of all, you've got in your mind that this isn't who you are, versus just doing the thing, versus just being the thing, right. So instead of trying to

Unknown Speaker 11:11
be

Brandon Handley 11:13
just like, you know, you're Oh, man, hold on a second, we got to merge, oh, this guy's not gonna let me do it. You gotta let me do it. Come on, man. You're gonna make me go that fast. All right. All right.

Unknown Speaker 11:23
So

Brandon Handley 11:25
instead of trying to be something just be in the moment. Right, we talked about Who Are You Being was one of the final concepts of this course that we're in, who are you being in the moment, and you can be whoever you want to be in that moment. But just be conscious of that. went on, I'm with my children. And, you know, we're doing our things in my, you know, in my, I'm just being there. I'm not trying to be Dad, I'm not trying to be Brandon, I'm not trying to be spiritual dope, I'm not trying to be anything other than who I am. And when you're, when you're doing and being who you are, and you're speaking from the heart, and you're letting it all go, you're freeing yourself, right? You're freeing yourself, you're liberating your own. You're freeing your third chakra, you're, you're loosening that up. And that's, you know, speaking your truth. And that was just something that I know that I was thinking of, this morning, on the way into BJJ, as I felt like I said that my throat tightened up a little bit. And to me, feels like an intersection between both Mike and I are having our own personal spiritual journeys, as it were. And to me, this is a this is an intersection, this is where we're both kind of having having this thing and and the thing is, is that we're gonna both handle it differently. She's gonna process the way that she's going to process this, and it's going to benefit her, and she's going to have her growth, the way that she'll have her growth, just the same way that I'll process mine in a different way as well. And it'll be it'll be different for me. The same way that an oak tree grows different from a daffodil, it's the same way that the two of us are grown in our relationship. Neither one is better or greater than another. They're just different. And in a way that I know that I appreciate her and what she's going through and how she grows. And you know, I know that she tells me that she appreciates the way that I'm growing and what I'm going through and so, you know, I put that out there for people who are in a relationship a, you know, to just kind of look at it in that way, especially if you're in one of those relationships where maybe you feel like you're having this crazy growth, you're having a growth spurt. And you're wondering what what's going to happen with your loved one Why aren't they good? They're not growing like you. Of course, they're not that's the fucking poster bro. Like you do. They grow like they do. And you just, you know, if you're married, you love me unconditionally, right? You love them for what it is that they're going through what is they're teaching you if they're triggering you, that's within you. What are the triggers within you that you can address so that you're no longer triggered by the things that you've been triggered by right if you're, if you're reacting to a trigger, you're reacting to a subconscious a subconscious thing that that's making you feel a certain way that you don't you don't want to feel and and react acting in a way that you may not have a positive outcome. So, I don't know if those are those are most of the things I have in this morning's conversation. So thanks for checking it out, checked it out. And if you haven't checked out the podcast check it out spiritual dope. co has some great guests on there, Eric nice. It's been a recent one. Trying to think who I just released this weekend that was another I think really enjoyable one. just just just the the guests I think are have been amazing. And you know, I think the listeners and the people that have reached out, continue to be amazing continue to give me encouragement to keep going and so it makes me makes me keep going. So check that out. And we'll talk later

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Dr. Barbara Dalle Pezze | The Power of Inner Transparency

Published: Aug. 8, 2021, 4:20 p.m.
Duration: 47 minutes 54 seconds

Dr. Barbara is a leadership coach, international speaker, author, and seminar leader with over 18 years of global experience. She inspires individuals, entrepreneurs, and leaders to reconnect with their most profound and authentic essence, discover their purpose, and bring about positive change in their lives and in the world. She is also the author of a new book "The Unexpected Gift," which reveals the inspiring true-life story of one woman’s journey to self-discovery and renewal after the implosion of her marriage, and her experience of creating anew her life and career she is also the author of a new book "The UnexpectedGift," which reveals the inspiring true-life story of one woman's journey to self-discovery and renewal after the implosion of her marriage, and her experience of creating anew her life and career while navigating different culture... connect with Dr. Barbara at https://www.barbaradallepezze.com/

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Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one here, you've put in so much more than those around you. You've even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? Wonder? Why do people in general You're so limited as friends sharing? You are not alone in the world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside you can't quite verbalize Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask. But you the answers to questions about you in the world, the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed now moving forward? We don't have all the answers but we sure do love Living in the Time for another spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let's get right into today's episode. Either spiritual dope I

Brandon Handley 0:41
am on here today with Dr. Barbara dalla pet say she is a leadership coach, international speaker, author and seminar leader with over 18 years of global experience he inspires individuals, entrepreneurs, and leaders to reconnect with their most profound and authentic essence, discover their purpose and bring about positive change in their lives and in the world. She is also the author of a new book the unexpected get which reveals the inspiring true life story of one woman's journey to self discovery and renewal after the implosion of her marriage and her experience of creating a new her life and career. Barbara, I think we are introduced from Tom Palladino, is that correct? Is that Tom Paladin that introduced us? That name doesn't sound familiar. It doesn't sound familiar. Nope. Well, are we connected? So I mean, doesn't really matter, I guess at this point. Now, because we're here, we're together, and we're having this conversation. So I always like to start this off with the idea right? That we are kind of conduits for source energy, right? universal source energy, God, whatever you want to call it, and that you and I are having this conversation? You and I will understand what we're talking about maybe, right, you're having a conversation, I've had one conversation, and you know, the person listening is going to pick up on something entirely different, there's gonna be a communication that they're gonna get, that can only be delivered through you. To them right now. What's that message?

Dr Barbara 2:19
Hmm? Well, first of all, it is a feeling of gratitude for being here and having these opportunity to have this conversation with you. And whatever we are going to talk about, I'm sure the listener will find something that resonates with them. So that's gratitude first. And then there is also in this moment that Zehra to contribute, to contribute. And I think that this is the best, at least for me, and in my experience, a great disposition to have when we when we start a conversation. So gratitude and a desire to contribute.

Brandon Handley 3:01
I love that the desire to contribute, a lot of people will stand back. Because they don't feel like they have something that they can contribute. They don't see what they have to offer as valuable enough, given the situation that they're looking at, they may not think that they can have an impact. What do you say to that person?

Dr Barbara 3:23
Oh, no, I would say that we are so special. Each one of us we are so unique, so unique, that we always have something to contribute to actually I would also share that I was reading once I love to read about mistakes. And I was reading about the rays of Avila and also Katrina of CNN, they are two very important mistakes in the Middle Ages. And they were saying that we are so powerful. And we have so much to give that even when we intersect, just passers by a smile that we can give to them or even the way we look at them can change their lives. That's how much we can contribute. So just passing by somebody, we impact their lives. And then if we take a chance, and want to share something that it is important to us, that becomes already such a powerful contribution because as you said at the beginning, you don't know how the person who is listening to you is going to interpret and relate what you say to their life. So I think that we are a bundle of gift potential. And so and so it is always good to be able to offer a little bit of this bundle of gifts, potential to people that we intersect or they're in our life for a moment for few days for years for a lifetime.

Brandon Handley 4:49
For sure for sure. So and I enjoy that. Take two pieces on that. First of all those mistakes are those both female mistakes. Yes. Yes. Like you know We don't hear a whole lot about female mistakes. I know you spent some time in Asia, Asia pack, as we call it, right Asia, Pacific. And even in Buddhism, which we, Westerners like to think is like this big open, vast thing, like females really weren't allowed to participate like at some of the higher levels. And therefore, like, you know, the reason we don't hear about maybe some amazing Zen females is simply because they were kept out. Right. And same. And I think that the story is similar in mysticism. It regardless of kind of which which space you spend time in, is that what you found to be true for yourself? What were some of your findings, I guess, in in that space?

Dr Barbara 5:47
Actually, no, I never, I never thought about it in from that perspective, because as a matter of fact, several of the mystics that I read, I love to read biographies, they are female, and they are from the middle age. So probably they had a different rhythm. And life was slower, and they had time. And actually, there was also their calling to write, and to write books. And so we have quite a number of books that I know of female mystics, actually, their purpose was to contribute and give a little bit of their experience to other people that were living in the world, so to speak. And so they did have a chance to write their message and their experience and to share it with the world. And, and actually, I really enjoyed reading many of those female altars. Actually, maybe today would be different. Maybe what you're saying for this century would be probably more more appropriate in the sense that yes, we might think in this way, but in relation to women that lived in the middle age, and they were monks, and nuns, they, they, they had the time to dedicate their life to writing and to write to people for people. I'm thinking while I'm talking to you, yeah. I never looked at it from that angle. But the middle lane, for sure, right. I

Brandon Handley 7:31
mean, and I just like I said, I know that you've also spent some time in Asia Pacific, and my guess would be you've been immersed in some of the Buddhist culture, right? Why? Why? Why you sat in there.

Dr Barbara 7:43
Um, I was in Asia Pacific, and in, in I was in Hong Kong, many years and in China, and then south of China, Mainland China, and Singapore, and there are very different philosophies of life and religion for there. So it was not that there was that feeling and that sense that we are all Buddhists and so that mystics atmosphere, actually, Hong Kong is a very, is the New York of Asia has been for so long, right? So you could experience certainly the different religions and philosophy of life. So read there, so. But I imagine that what you are thinking office more and mystical and meditative life, that in places like Beijing, or Hong Kong or Singapore, they are somehow a little bit on the backs backhand, of good experience. Not bad. Having said that, having said that, what is interesting is that in those places, there is kind of a thirst for spirituality. And so there are like, you can you can find those spaces within this big mega law place where you can experience a little bit of what you're saying, but you do need to go in and look for it, because what pops up first, is the New York experience, I would say.

Brandon Handley 9:15
Sure, sure. Yeah, absolutely. You got it, you got to kind of you got to look, you got to be on the lookout for it. Right. That's got to be something that you're actually looking for. And then this idea of contribution, you get that sense of I get that I feel that you get that sense of contribution due to some of your upbringing. You want to share a little bit about that?

Dr Barbara 9:36
Well, I am originally from Italy. And so Italy is a Christian and Catholic countries for the majority at least, the rooted the culture is entrenched of Christianity and Catholicism, and it is an important value that contribute to the life of others. It is definitely a value there. My family as always taught me that and definitely For sure, I was brought up within that culture. Having said that the profession I am in, so the coaching profession and teaching and training, it is a profession that it is based on the desire to contribute and contribute profoundly to the lives of people that you've come into contact with. So, I would say that it is a big motivator in, in what I do, and in my life, the possibility of contribute, contribute to the growth of people to having people learning more about themselves, and how they can better leverage their resources inside of themselves in order to build and create a better life for themselves and the people around them, and if possible to the world at large. So, I think that contribution is one of the foundations of happiness, I would dare to say as well.

Brandon Handley 11:01
100% I absolutely agree. I personally feel like I contribute enough. Right. And when I do contribute, I get that sense of, of, of being a part of the greater sense of all the things, and that, um, I just feel better. I mean, you can't really, there's not a whole lot of great explanation for that. So what I was trying to hit on, I guess, sir, sorry, for not being clear was, I guess your family was active in the anti kidnapping piece. Right. So so so my guess would be again, you just kind of, and, you know, from checking out a couple of other podcasts, that that might have an impact on your desire to as well.

Dr Barbara 11:45
Yes, yeah. So yes, when I was, in my early 20s, a family friend was kidnapped by the mafia. And so my father in the community of our town decided to put together a movement that was the first and big anti kidnapping movement in in Italy. And they managed to, with a force with the help of the police and, and the government and everybody, they managed to get several people freed from this kidnapping. And I was late in AI in my early 20s, when this happened, and I had the the privilege, I would say, to really be surrounded by these and breathe into these and see the cooperation of the community and see the impact. And that something, a seed of goodness that you want to do together with anger for something that was wrong and was done, actually was able to create this movement all over Italy. And that, that generated in me the desire of contributing, I at the time, I didn't even know yet what I was and how I would have contributed. But I knew and I felt that was too important. And so in every, every action I took since that moment onwards, I was looking for that feeling for the sensation for that. I was following that desire, I wanted to contribute, as I have experienced my father, and two people off my town did in a very crucial moment in life of our friends, because they were family friends. And and that stayed with me, and it is still there with me. Because it is effective, it is powerful. And when people are you really United for for something good, and to achieve something good. What can be achieved is immense. And so that definitely was an experience that shaped who I am and how I live my life in the world, actually. Yeah, that was very powerful, actually.

Brandon Handley 13:57
Yeah, 100%. Right. I mean, that that carry that's, that's the seed right from from a new to continue to to look for contribution. And that to me, again, that's would be why that is so important to you, right, having seen that having the effects of it and having been a part of it. Yeah, we know what that feels like. Right. And you know what it looks like to gather these people together to do some good.

Dr Barbara 14:24
Yeah. And also, I would also add that I could witness how easy it becomes when people get together to achieve the same goal. Things simply flow. Of course, you do need to do your part, you need to put in action, lava things, but once all those things are in place, then then the situation moves and moves forward and forces and resources are found and everything seems to flow so smoothly, to achieve that goal. I know Of course, behind that smoothness, there is the willingness and the passion and heart of many people. So there was there was a great lesson. And I was, I'm very grateful that I had that experience. Of course, while I was experiencing that, there were people that were suffering more, because of course, those whose sons or daughters or relatives were kidnapped, of course, that was very painful for them. And in any painful experience, there is, again, somebody that is learning something, and even the, the life of this little girl that was kidnapped has contributed so much to who I am today and my life today, back to what we were saying at the beginning, for those who think that they might not have anything to give or to share, right. So even if you don't know, you are contributing so much to the life of others. So that's probably something that we want to remember. And keep in mind very often,

Brandon Handley 16:05
the just the very little things that we can do, and just even a small amount of contact time can have a lasting impression and a long term effect on somebody. Absolutely. Right. Absolutely. Let's talk about what you've got your doctorate and right, so doctor of ontology if if I if I've done my research, okay? And why don't you go ahead and share with the audience what that study of if they're not familiar,

Dr Barbara 16:34
yes. So, when we say ontology, we are thinking philosophy, it is within the realm of philosophy, and it is the part of philosophy that studies being so the structure of being and therefore, in my particular case, the take I, I had on that was the how how, what are the structures of the human being according to the philosophical perspective? How do we work? How are we in the world? How do we connect? How do we relate with what is in the world. And that is a very interesting, interesting insight, because philosophy goes deep. And so it my experience, while doing this PhD, was really allowing myself and my brain and my reasoning tool paths that add that I never, never explored, until I could literally feel my brain opening up new neural pathways, because I was the thinking in ways, of course, led by these philosophers, thinking in ways that normally we are not stimulated in thinking. So thinking about how, who are we in the world, what we represent, what we do, when we actually leave, how do we interact, what we are actually interacting with, who is the other person in front of you, and all these elements that I found very, very fascinating. And I, I found them essential, because before studying philosophy, I studied, I said, I started another field of study, I studied architecture for a couple of years. But, and I liked it kind of, but the reason I changed eventually for philosophy is because I realized that I needed to learn more about not how to build buildings and homes where people live in, and how they are structured and how they are, what are the material that constitute those things? How do you put them together and create? Well, I was studying that I was, I was actually thinking, Wait a minute, do I know about the human beings that are going to inhabit this building? Do I know what they are made of? How do they work, what they are about? And I realized that I was more interested in learning about human beings, and then how to build them at home. And so I changed and then my path took me to old way to do this. In Depth research in my PhD on ontology,

Brandon Handley 19:19
I think it's pretty entertaining, how you went from, you know, this external structure, right? How are the How are these external structures made? And how are they impact coming from the outside in, and you're like, Wait a second, I want to go to the internal structure, but I want to go see how this structure is laid out internally, and work my way from the inside out. Right? And that's, you know, just my my brief perception of kind of your lifelong journey, I'll synopsis into all that. Right, but the idea to so who were you know, these these philosophers I have two questions. Is it? Is this ontology more of a Western study? Is it Eastern and Western, and then he'll maybe who were a couple of the truly essential ones, or who were the ones that had the greatest impact on you.

Dr Barbara 20:17
So, the two there is one philosopher that particularly impacted my life, which is Martin Heidegger and which is the philosophy German philosopher, 20th century German philosopher, and my PhD is on his philosophy. And Meister Eckert, which is a German mystics, and I put the two of them in dialogue on the concept of abandonment, in German Gal hessonite. And, and their perspective and the way I elaborated their concept of abandonment, which is actually a concept of let go and be open to life, ended up meeting with Chinese philosophy at the end, that would have been the continuation of my research, right. But it was very interesting to see how the West meets East actually in in the way of thinking through philosophy, mysticism, and we ended up encountering also a China. So that was quite, quite interesting. So Martin Heidegger would say, and must Meister echoed.

Brandon Handley 21:32
And I think that it's also interesting that, you know, you've got this, you know, the let go and meeting with life, right? Because your book has to do with, I would say something similar, you know, you went through, you felt like you were in a decent part in your life, a good part, coming up to a flourishing part. And then next thing, you know, your husband's like, hey, let's get a divorce. And meanwhile, you're like, you're my first guest is like, initially you're holding on for dear life, you're like, no, this isn't how this is gonna work, at least mentally internally, like, No, no, no, no, no, everything's great. But like, now, you're at a point where you let go, you use that material to grow yourself, and you shared some of that material in this book. Let's talk a little bit about the book and, and some of the materials that you shared, what you found in there.

Dr Barbara 22:26
Yeah, well, first of all, the paradox was that when I finished my PhD and my a marriage and imploded, Akshay just finished a doctorate on letting go. And here it is, I am immediately asked to experience that let go deeply and profoundly and I would say completely, so, that was quite radical and brutal as an experience also, because as you said, it was out of the blue and it was definitely not what I wanted. And it was the book, which is the unexpected gift, everything was unexpected, to the end, which is the unexpected gifts. So the path the process and, and the ending, if you can see that there is an ending, it is the story of my years 15 years experience in Asia, actually, Asia, Australia and Singapore. And and it starts with it is triggered by my marriage and the breakup of the marriage. But in fact, it becomes a story of how do you discover yourself So, I thought I knew myself I thought I had my what my life figured it out, I had my values, I had my purpose. And suddenly this out of the blue element completely destroyed everything and so, I had to find again who I am, what am I standing for? What do I want? What does my life look like now because what happened basically destroyed all the narratives and the paradigms I was used to consider valid and that what was that they were actually at the foundations of who I was and of my life. So, it was, it was like really suddenly find yourself in the desert inside and out. And having to to figure out what what do I do now? What do I plant? How do I water the soil? How do I move forward, there is desert in front of me. Everything is gone behind me. So what do you do? Where do you start? and ended the book is the stories of my journey and so all the inner steps and outer step. I talk to rebuild, recreate and reef reconnect with myself and the new life that was waiting me in in the future and that clearly wanted to me But it needed some digging, and some experience, it was quite intense. And while I was going through this, I was looking for books that would tell me that it would have been arrived that it is possible that there is a life after these. And I could not find any. And so I decided, you know what, let me write down few of these things that I'm experiencing. And until I reached a point where I decided, Okay, let's do a book, let's write a book, because I want to speak from the future. And now I consider that my book speaks from the future because I went through that, and I'm here with Andy's is the future. So for people that are in this traumatic situation, vinit, the divorce Bennett challenges that have nothing to do with divorce, but they challenge who you are, and your worth, and what you stand for, they can see that there is a way and mind when I write in the book is, it's been what I have found that worked. And so I wanted to share, and I wanted to give my contribution on these as well.

Brandon Handley 26:09
all comes back to contribution, doesn't it? So what I think is great is is what you're saying, we identify ourselves so much with the relationship that we have, especially with this significant other because we're building a life together, right? You're building this life together, we've got this kind of we've got this, we've got this picture, scoped out, or futures scoped out, in one way or another. And then when this disruption comes, that whole thing just dissolves, falls away, falls apart. And now really, you start the questioning your own identity, like, Wait a second, how did I miss this whole thing up? Right? And then we start blaming ourselves, right? Again, like, I don't know, if he's, like, I know, I'd be like, I'm like, how did I mess this whole thing up? Where did I? Where did I? Where should I have made a left? Right? And or is this just our past, right? Is this just our path? And now you've got to Colton, you know, you're talking about this, you're, you're in the desert, and it sounds like you've got to cultivate a new sense of self.

Dr Barbara 27:16
You have to cultivate a new sense of self and new sense of what's possible. And, and a new sense of responsibility, because I, I, my former my ex husband kept saying, Oh, you did nothing wrong, it is me. But I wanted to have done something wrong. Because if I had done something wrong, then I could do better next time. Right? Right,

Brandon Handley 27:39
I'm gonna need I'm gonna need a 360 feedback on this thing. Everybody in who else was there?

Dr Barbara 27:48
Exactly. I get you. Exactly. Yeah. And then you figure out what you want to, you do need to think really outside the box, do you did not even realize you were in and, and you define your way of imagining your future? Beyond the narratives you have always

Brandon Handley 28:08
thought of? I want to stop there for a second, right? Because I mean, you know, you bring up like this box that you didn't even know you were in just talking about our own limited senses of self, right, our own limited senses, it stops here stops with this story that we've been telling ourselves. Right? Yeah, the end the relationship. And, and just to just to kind of continue in this whole idea, right, like, so. ontology contribution, you know, taking this relationship that you've gone through, and you're, you know, you're deeply, you know, mysticism, studying I akhar. And and on these mystics, and this philosophy, and you're a coach for the business world, right. And I think that sentence pairs really well with the idea of what spiritual dope is about it's about how do we how do we merge those two? Right? How do we take all this? You know, the spiritual sense of well being these these maybe ideal philosophies? And, and how do we apply it to the real world? And I want us back to the beginning here, because it was that sense of contribution. And you were talking about what it's like to get everybody together, right? When you're for for the kidnapping group, right? And how that all work. To me what you were saying there, pairs so easily and readily to the business world, right to to corporate culture, because if you can get everybody to buy into the vision, we can get everybody to say, Hey, I'm contributing, I'm doing my part. I do have something to contribute, and I can see what the vision is. I mean, a pair so is that Yeah, same.

Dr Barbara 29:47
For the work I do the leadership work I do and I do on a global scale and the level of depth at which I'm in, I need my clients is such that I made them in their humanity. And so that's in the fact that they before being managers, directors, CEOs, talent said before that everybody is a human being. And once you have an end and discovered and unleash, what is this humaneness, then then there is no job to be done anymore in dissent. And then people are free to really express fully their talents. And we all have so many talents. But we need to be able to free them to see them first and then real, release them. And so what I do, and how do we bring together mysticism ontology philosophy into the business world. And to tell you the truth, while I was going through this situation, I also was leading a research cluster on philosophy, therapy and medicine, and I was researching on pain and suffering. And right then and there working with the oncology department of the hospital, I was finding elements that I was in Hong Kong that I thought they were so important to be brought into the business world. And so I bridged that those worlds as well. So the medicine and pain and suffering into Corporation and into finance. And again, because people in the work, they suffer, they have conflict, they are experiencing deep, profound suffering, sometimes, and sometimes very often. Right. And so approaching my clients, making sure that inner conflicts and the suffering that is not expressed is actually resolved and transformed as what freedom to be the extraordinary leaders or managers are team members that they they need to be in corporations in order for corporations to thrive. And so the way I work, I work at the core of humaneness, and that doesn't matter, right? If you are in a corporation, if you are a lawyer, if you are a mom, if you are podcaster, doesn't really matter, you You are a human being. And that's where we want to work because the resources to stronger resources aren't there, the technicalities of how to be a in finance, how to be a salesperson, how to be a stock broker, that you learn, those are techniques, and you choose to learn them, right. But first, I work on day, humanity. And I invest in human capital, that that's what I do. And so, philosophy pertains to human capital, Mr. System pertains to human capital, all these arts pertains to Human Capital One. So that's the level at which I work. And also, that's also why my experience which starts from a divorce, it is a leadership experience, right? Your life experiencing is your leadership experience. And the in the book, there are foundations of these leadership just because you learn how to lead and lead yourself first, at the best boss in the best possible way,

Brandon Handley 33:18
for sure, for sure, give me a I'm really curious to hear the suffering that is not expressed. How, what is something that you do? some exercises, what is do you find you find you find the financial guy, he's suffering? He's not expressing it? How do we how do we help them to express it? What So what are some tools What are some ways that we can help in that space,

Dr Barbara 33:45
I can get share an example. When you find and maybe you don't need to be a coach to notice this, but when maybe you have a friend or if you think about somebody that keeps complain about something, and he's very animated and complaining about something and and he's angry about it, that hides behind it to me as a coach, when I hear you complaining so much, there is some some pain and suffering behind that. So, first of all, I need you to become aware that this is something that you are not expressing in the best possible way for you because when I complain about something, I am giving away my power. So what I do I help you to see first of all that you are giving away your power I we look into what is it that you are complaining about that? And what is it to you? What is it that you really mean to say and this is from a cognitive perspective first, but then it is also expressing emotionally because cognitively you can say millions of things and yet you keep complaining and keep being angry. And so you're not really expression, pain and suffering and it is an emotional experience, right? So you need to let your emotions free That's why we use body work. When I do work on these you use your body to express to your body, I use the voice. So singing, and being able to find really the sound of your voice deep sound, deeper sound, and be able to express it in a in a loud voice for a strong tone. Because that's scary, and that is liberating at the same time, but we are not used to express who we are even in suffering so deep inside, so I kind of help my client in this example, first realize that there is some suffering that he is he or she is expressing through complaining in this example, right? And then we go and look behind that. So what is it that actually hurt you and that you are complaining about and often it is not really what they are complaining about? It's something deeper, and that's where the work then started, okay, let's express it with movement, let's express it with the voice. And then once that is released, and therefore, the person does not have a block anymore, then we can start working. And that's when the liberation and the expression transforms into something that it is okay, now, what do I actually want to build? What do I want myself to be what I want my profession, what I want me my life to be? Or how do I want to show up at work instead? So it is a matter of unpacking first? So

Brandon Handley 36:32
does it make sense? It does make sense, right? I've got two, two kind of reflections on that. And I'm always reminded, I think it was like, I'm sure somebody said it beforehand. But there's a jack Canfield line that talks about when when you complain, if you're not complaining to the person that can do something about it, it's kind of worthless, right? Like, complain to the person that can help you, you know, do something about it, otherwise, you're just doing kind of what you said, You're, you're you're feeling this frustration, this anger this, whatever. And, and it's this feeling that you carry around with you. And there's really no doesn't no value in that, right. And then the second part, to me is the way that you're talking, it's almost like it's almost like a knotted muscle, right? When you complain, it's like a kind of like a nod and muscle that until you're you know, you can release that you've got a whole bunch of energy caught up in that until you release it, then then you can't really do anything, right. It's kind of useless.

Dr Barbara 37:30
Yeah, yeah. And And oftentimes, it has happened to me that, again, moving from the inside to the from the outside to the inside, what needs to be released is has nothing to do with what the person is complaining about. Right? It is more a desire to be maybe just a just aligned, I need to be aligned with my value and what I am doing the work I am doing, the way I'm relating to these clients or to the board is not aligned with who I actually feel I am. And so the work is okay. So how do you evolve so that you can be in the same board meeting, and not feeling this conflict, but being aligned within yourself, your purpose, your mission and expressing it to the board, so that you actually help the organization to move forward and you are not always have involved in this inner fight and in this inner conflict. So that that is what often has happened to me in my in my coaching?

Brandon Handley 38:37
Yeah, for sure. Whatever, whatever that person is focused on is really keeping them from being their best, right? I mean, that's just kind of what it boils down to, even if it's not directly related to, again, you're you removed this blockage over here, and you can redirect all that energy into the thing that you're really trying to do. Yeah. Always look at the even the word coach, right? And I always think of coaxing right, as a coach all, you know, all what you're trying to do is really coax the best of that person out of them so they can see it for themselves and they can carry it on forward. Would you say that?

Dr Barbara 39:11
I would say that I like to think of myself as a sponsor. When I say quote, I am a sponsor, what does it mean, for me is that I can, I can notice your potential that is an expressed, I can notice your talents, I can notice where you need to be set free. And I help you to I believe in you, I trust you and I help you to actually be free to express fully yourself and to improve who you are and to actually be who you are. That is my job. It is like a gate opener. So but again, opener that trust and belief strongly knew and what you can achieve. So it is really from where I stand is a position where you Hold a space for the other person to express fully. And not only that, but you can see further than the person itself himself or herself, you can help them see what they what they are not seeing. And you can at least you can point them towards something that they are not noticing about themselves that can that is a talent that is a resource. And so that they can actually become aware and leverage that and integrate that in, in who they are and the way they conduct themselves. So coaching, as sponsoring really knew your talents, your resources, your potentials, and what you can be and achieve.

Brandon Handley 40:43
Do you make them t shirts, like little sponsor t shirts? I feel like you should I feel like you should sponsor by sponsor. Yeah, that could be a good idea. It'd be fun one right for for at least client gifts frayed. whatever it is they're into. I like the idea of being a sponsor. And I think that definitely resonates. And I like the approach there. So we're at this kind of point, right? That, unless there's anything else that you feel like you want to cover, I'm going to go ahead and ask a couple questions for you. Please go ahead. Right, right. So I got, like I said, spiritual speed dating right at the back end of this, you know, so most of the people that are tuning in there, they're seekers, they're, they're looking for that just exactly that, how can they express what's inside of them outside authentically in alignment, just want a lot of ways that you've been speaking about. So some ways that they may be able to figure it out is by these questions? is Barbara right for you? So let's see his current religion serving its purpose, Barbara.

Dr Barbara 41:47
When we say religion, what are we thinking about? monetary stick religion? So the big one, the top three, the top three, okay, Judaism, Christianity, and Islam? are they serving their purpose? I think that there are many people that find in religion, a great tool for them to live a better life feel better, and be a better human being. So I think for many people they do. I believe that religions could do a little bit better, as we all good in terms of speed up a little bit, their evolution, in order to embrace some challenges that today are here and maybe when the religions were born, they were not there. But I would say that overall, they keep been very useful, especially for people that have based their lives on religions.

Brandon Handley 42:51
Like that was one or you feel like they could evolve faster as

Dr Barbara 42:55
well, for example, and I'm thinking about Chris Catholicism in particular, because that's where I come from, I believe that there is a role that women are is are not given and are not taken, that I think the church need to open up to

Brandon Handley 43:15
understand a female Pope.

Dr Barbara 43:18
I don't know if I mean, I don't know. I don't know if I would go to the pope immediately, because it probably will take a little bit and but before getting to the Pope, but yeah, I I think that there are roles within the Catholic Church that that needs women more than men. Maybe before for 24 2000 years, there have been always men in those positions. So I think that women, the church would benefit from a president of more women.

Brandon Handley 43:55
Yeah, I think that's fair. I think that's fair. As you know, so this is your study space, right? This is this to me, it's me. This is in in your wheelhouse. What is the greatest quality humans possess?

Dr Barbara 44:10
The greatest quality humans possess? Wow, we have many. I would say that maybe the curiosity. Curiosity is is a I don't know if it is the greatest but it is a great quality that now we need, especially because we are faced with so much diversity. And so unless we are curious to understand and learn about diversity, we are not moving forward as a community, a global community. So maybe a quality that I think is important that it is great right now is curiosity.

Brandon Handley 44:51
So sounds like Yes, that sounds like that's something that can be cultivated a little bit more and be something that Most humans could apply more often, and we could improve. Absolutely. That's awesome. So listen, Dr. Barbara, I've enjoyed this. Thanks for coming on today. Where should people, first of all, like, who would you say is your ideal client? Like, let's say somebody listening in today, you know, who do you think should be reaching out to you?

Dr Barbara 45:21
I think it are people that went through important challenges in their life, burn it in their personal life in it in their professional life, and they feel that they have reached their a glass ceiling. And they cannot see what's possible next, and how to reach the next level and how to break through and tap into more resources that they have. So when they are in that point, then they call me because I partner with them. And I really accompany them to reach their full potential and create their purpose, find their purpose, maybe they have, they are already successful, they have achieved a lot. And they ask them so Okay, so now what have money, I have a status, I have a family. And maybe I'm 45. So what's what's, what's next? What is next? So that's when I when I come in?

Brandon Handley 46:18
That's when they get sponsored by Barbara. So yeah, they get a T shirt, they get a T shirt. And then I like that too, that you're saying more resources. And but when you're saying more resources, it sounds to me like you're saying these innate resources that you help them to discover yes and apply for themselves. That's fantastic.

Dr Barbara 46:38
Which by the way, they are inner resources, then then they they turn out to become outer resources, because when they inner resources are ignited, then we find ways to get outside resources Russian,

Brandon Handley 46:51
right, like full on expression, you know? Where should we send people to come find out more about you and work and get they get your book.

Dr Barbara 47:02
My book, they can get it on amazon.com both in Kindle and paperback version. And I think the easiest way to find me is on LinkedIn. I am quite active on LinkedIn recently. And also on my website, which is just my name, www dot Barbara, Gala. pets.com. Nobody will remember bad or remember.

Brandon Handley 47:25
I will have we'll have we'll have a link there at least and so they won't have to remember it. That's what the internet's for. Short term memory. Barbara, thank you so much for showing up today. I appreciate the conversation. love what you're doing. I love your story, kind of how you got there, the journey and how you are expressing yourself. So thank you.

Dr Barbara 47:45
Thank you so much for having me here. Brandon. It was really, really a great honor to have this conversation with you. So thank you so much.

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BJJ Report 20210806

Published: Aug. 8, 2021, 2:04 a.m.
Duration: 16 minutes 42 seconds

 

Brandon Handley 0:01
What is going on? What is going on BJJ report, start a Captain's log, all those things,

Unknown Speaker 0:10
all those things.

Unknown Speaker 0:13
We are,

Brandon Handley 0:16
in turn a fan down here, I don't want the fan all the way up, I want the Phantom swamp like, I really want that on. We are, we always have the opportunity to create or consume, create or consume. And that's usually honestly, when I decide to want to make the decision to press the record button. I asked myself, do I do I? Do I feel like consuming or do I feel like creating? And do I feel that what

Unknown Speaker 0:55
I'm feeling?

Brandon Handley 0:56
It's up to us a nice golden retriever. Do I feel like creating are consuming and no matter what really, you're always creating, if you're consuming something, you're creating some thoughts about whatever it is that you're consuming. My idea this morning was though, let's wanna share some things. What are those things that I felt like sharing this morning? It was, it was on the tip of my tongue when I when I first started and strung the mic up. And I was listening to before I even got going here I was listening to start a song from so long ago, music goes better with you. And

Unknown Speaker 1:40
I just just

Unknown Speaker 1:41
love the song.

Brandon Handley 1:45
So let's see, I don't know that I've actually got something to share or create coming out of. That's that's kind of that's what it was on to my time you see a switch? Do you let it go? And it comes right back to you. So it was this idea that I know that I've shared before I'll share it again that BJJ going to Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is a part in part of my spiritual practice. It's this is that is one aspect of when I do it, that's spiritual dope for me. And I bring that up because of two things. One, I've got a friend that What's up, who has just started doing some BJJ and she's asked me herself, she goes, you know, she's only gone to a couple lessons so far. And she said, she'd said, What was it? About BJJ for you, Brandon, that that really made it something that really brought it home? What was it for you that really brought it home? And I told her I said you know big a big part of it is that when you're when you're learning it when you're beginning it. And at all times when you're when you're in it, that's one of the few times that I've been able to find myself to be 100% present and engaged. First of all, because you're trying not to die. Season theory, right? So your brain, your brain, your mind is all in the ego is at at play. And you so it's like Oh, you got my attention here he goes like all right. You got my attention. And that's especially especially in the very beginning. You're You're 100% engaged and you are in survival mode. And one of the reasons that you can only be in survival mode is because you don't know shit yet. When you're in BJJ and you're just getting started and the beauty of this is the 490 percent plus of the people that get started in BJJ they don't know shit, everybody starts from the same place. Even if you've watched it and read it, it's not the same as the actual experience. You cannot 100% intellectualized Brazilian jujitsu is not the same as having the experience. Hey, right. So you're in there and you're learning it. Everybody starts from the same place and as you're learning it You begin to put into practice the things that you're learning. So now, not only are you 100% engaged, and you're in survival mode now, because you have an idea of what is happening to you, because you have an idea of some of the expectations because you have an idea

of some of the possibilities.

Unknown Speaker 5:36
Thanks.

Brandon Handley 5:38
And a lot of times too, you've also engaged with the same partner over and over and over again, because you're practicing with people in your class. So, now you you begin to have an idea of how it's all working out. And you begin to be able to disengage the straight up survival mind the one that's freaking the fuck out being like, Oh my god, you're gonna choke? I don't know how to stop it. Oh, my God, I'm getting choked. I'm getting hurt as taptap armbar, tap, tap she, how did that happen? triangle. Come on, man, they got me in this one last time. So you began to realize, you know what's coming up, you begin to realize a either more offensive advantages that you have. And you can find and you begin to see those openings, your your awareness of the potential begins to expand. And as you see, the potential of things, like I said, start to slow down, who begins to breathe a little bit easier. And you begin to do things on purpose, with intent. And if you're hearing some of the language being used here, that you find is spirituality, you can begin to see that. That's the spiritual practice, the spiritual practices. Honestly, we all start from the same place. We all learn have different potentials from different angles from different teachers in different ways. And different schools of thought. I'm on my third school, third BJJ school. And each one has a different approach. I would not say that any one is better than the other. They all each have their own unique way of doing things, or they're different from each other. And I believe, at least as far as I can tell, each school has a different intent. And what are they? How are they training? How they want to train? How do they want to come across? What is their intent for that class? And so how else does that come across in spirituality, like the different religions, which are inspired by different teachers that have a different intent, a different intentional practice a different wave of achieving the same outcome. And I bring that up, because, you know, one of the other guys in there were joking around today. And he's bigger, stronger, faster, all the things and was the last last roll of the day. And I was looking for one more and I was like, God, anybody with you? And he's like, I was like, I was like, I'm just kidding, man. Like, I just know that, you know, whatever. You know, I was looking for some fun. He's like, We're not here for fun. Like we you know, we have we have different desired outcomes. I enjoy the physical activity I enjoy the spiritual practice is more technical, right? He's working on something different. And I get it. He's got a different desired outcome for today's practice. We have a different approach to what is happening here. But the the overarching question that Deb asked was, what is it that that really sparked in me and for me to think, think I was just, yeah, I was just rounding the corner out of my my awakening, you know, midlife crisis, awakening existential crisis, whatever you want to call it, right? I love the Self Realization foundation. It's a really great talk. And I don't know the guy's name. He's an old Swiss guy. I think he's passed away. Now he was giving a talk in the White House. I think in the 2000s, early 2000s. And what he says is, that's the reminder from God, you know that that's what you're seeking. That's that's

when when you realize that that's really what it is that you're seeking in life is that connection to God's universe, create creative source, all that the source is the source that creates worlds. That's what taps in. That's what taps in during that time.

Unknown Speaker 10:51
And

Brandon Handley 10:55
there are so many, again, different outcomes bidding was around the corner out of that, when I found Jiu Jitsu. And it wasn't until more artillery artillery thought about it as my spiritual practice. But it wasn't until that I'd heard a vedantic talk by Swami Safari, or your prayer Nanda. And he had just mentioned how, when it's a jujitsu, it's a fighting art. And when it becomes Judo, it becomes more of a spiritual practice. And I think that it was the same with like, you know, I'm making things up now, but definitely, definitely was like, you know, talking about the sword arts with qinzhou or kenjutsu, or, you know, the sword, sword arts, into kanjo becomes becomes a spiritual practice. And, for me, that that's what jujitsu is, it's a spiritual practice, it's an opportunity to also recognize and honor everybody, regardless of what belt they are, where they are along in the practice that comes in there to honor them and the effort that they put in. There is the ego. After a certain point, kind of checks out and jujitsu, checks back and everyone's won, don't get me wrong, I can't say that it's 100% checked out. But it checks out. Because you realize that you're all there for each other, you're all there to benefit one another. And you're there. As a school, and not so much as a singular unit. Yes, of course, you're there for your own good, Jessica, Portia there for your own practice. But there's a certain point where you're there. And it's because it's a school. And you're there for all the other people just like they're there for you. And I remember, I remember leaving the one day making the joke. Instead of saying, hey, thanks to everybody else. And, again, you gotta understand that I'm very tongue in cheek and just trying to have some fun. Like, you're all better today because of me. And again, tongue in cheek, but at the same time, we're all there for each other, we're all there to make each other better whether or not somebody totally dominated me. Or I got them in something, right? Because even this is this is another part of jujitsu, that even even the days that you seem to fail a lot. I just use that word, you fail, you get submitted. Those are the days that you can really learn a lot. Those are the days that you really had the opportunity understand what was your position? What was your approach? What is a way to not even necessarily avoid that? What is you know, avoided? Sure. So how can you How can you defend against it? How can you make sure that you don't get caught in that position? Again, what what are the countermeasures? So there's so much that whenever I think I still think to this day, it's one of the best things that startup in my life. I'd encourage anyone to pick it or some type of martial art. It's one of the only ones that I can think of that you know, is fully contact fully immersive and can offer this experience And the way that it does, you know, in such a way that when you leave and you're done, you're like this, you're inspired, you've got life coursing through your veins, you've accomplished, something you're working towards. Really not working towards anything except for continuous improvement. And there's still so much more that I keep going on. But so those those are some reasons that pop to mind. And they will they were inspired by questions that I was asked. Last night. I'm super excited again, for my friend Deb, who's getting started. She's feeling the love Jones and that one.

You know, she's thinking about having her son do it. Like that was another part of it, getting to do it with my children. And then today, you know, Anthony, you know, good dude, solid guy talking about you know, we don't do this for fun than I do. Right. And that's the other thing too. All of those approaches are open to you. You can go in and you can do it for any reason. Right, you can do it for fun, you can do it for competition, you can do it simply for physical therapy, you can do it for just learning yet another art anywho all those things, all those reasons are the reasons that I would recommend grabbing some BJJ for yourself. Alright, check you later.

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Christian de la Huerta | Catalyzing a Revolution of Consciousness

Published: Aug. 1, 2021, 3:39 p.m.
Duration: 35 minutes 36 seconds

Award-winning author Christian de la Huerta is an acclaimed speaker at various settings, including universities, conferences, corporate training, spiritual communities and the TedX stage. Audiences find Christian's message particularly relevant in these times. Christian also practices as a spiritual coach and a leadership development consultant whose work ranges from individuals and couples in private practice to major corporations and non-profit groups.

Check out his latest book here: Awakening the Soul of Power

And connect with him on his website here: https://www.soulfulpower.com/

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Brandon Handley 0:41
Either spiritual dope I'm on today with Christian de la Huerta we are on here today and Christian is a sought after spiritual teacher, personal transformation coach and leading voice in the breathwork community. He's traveled the world offering inspiring and transformational retreats combining psychological and spiritual teachings with life lasting and life changing effects. In award winning critically acclaimed author he has spoken at numerous universities and conferences on the TEDx stage. his new book awakening in the solar power was described by multi Grammy Award winner glorious Stefan as a balm for the soul of it for anyone searching for the truth and answers to life difficult questions. First of all, thanks for being on today.

Christian de la Huerta 1:24
Hey, Brandon, thanks so much for having me. I'm really looking forward to this conversation.

Brandon Handley 1:30
Fantastic. So I'd like to start this off with the whole idea that and I think you mentioned it in one of your lines, like we are conduits for the universe, universe's energy to come through. And the idea is that you and I are going to have this conversation that you and I have, but there's going to be somebody listening, that's only going to pick up on like this message being delivered through the universe through you to them today. What is that was that message?

Christian de la Huerta 1:58
Well, before I get into that, I just wanted to say that I really appreciate your sense of spiritual irreverence, I very much appreciate it, and it cracked me up some of your comments on your website, you know, I think if we were gonna wrap up the message into to the into one, short description is like, there is a way that we can step into our power into our personal power in a way that is a match for who we are. Because most of us, I think are conflicted about that we have an ambivalent relationship to power, we want it, but we're afraid of it. And I think at the core, we're afraid that if we really stepped into all of our power, all of our potential that other people would be threatened by us or be afraid of us. Or, you know, we would end up alone. And we've also been conditioned to believe that power is a bad thing, you know, like with quotes, like power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely. And so what good hearted person wants to be corrupted or wants to abuse power, which is what we see out in the world all the time. So add to that mix. And by the way, what they forgot to tell us about that power, corrupts quote is that Lord Acton was speaking specifically about political power, not the personal power that we're talking about. But when you combine all of that with the fact that we have been conditioned to be afraid of the emotion, somebody along the way, had this bright, brilliant idea that the emotions were weakness, and especially for us as men, we were conditioned, you know, a little boys don't cry, and you know, like, Man up and, and all these other kind of twisted definitions of what it means to be a man and what it means what it means to be a woman. So when you put all that into a mix, we hate confrontation, we hate conflict. And what happens is we end up giving our power away our innate power that nobody can give to us, nobody can take away, we are the only ones who can give it away. And what's sad, what is sadness to me is that we give it away for really lame reasons, like we give it away and we settle for less, we place more, we hide our light under a bushel, we say yes, when inside we feel no. And for this, for reasons like an illusion of security, or false sense of acceptance, or morsels of pseudo love. And and so that's the message you know that there is there is a way that we can step into power that that is a match for who we are and that it doesn't require for us to push anybody down, to step on them, to abuse them, to take advantage of them to manipulate them to use force or fear that there is a way that we can express our power. That isn't a natural expression of who we are.

Brandon Handley 4:49
So I think that it's funny actually copied that Marianne Williamson line out again last night while I was reading your book, you know, the it's not that we're afraid of You know how small views we're afraid of how great our power actually is. And I think that that's kind of you're talking to one here, and then that we give it away so easily have like these kind of wrong reasons. What, you know, what was it for you along your journey that awakens your personal solar power that, you know, we're talking about, you know, your book as well? What was it that that, that awoken that woke up your soul, you know, and gave you kind of pretty notice to it?

Christian de la Huerta 5:34
Well, I think my, my initial wake up point was breathwork, some 30 years ago. And I'd had some experiences with, you know, with mind expanding substances that also kind of, you know, had a phase of experimentation when I was writing written when I was in college. And that began a process of questioning reality, the worldview, I was raised in a very Catholic environment. So that began that combined with a class and existentialism began a process of questioning. I think it was, when I, when I did first did breathwork. It just changed everything. I was on a track to get a PhD in psychology. My dad was a psychiatrist. So I come out of that tradition. When I did breathwork, for the first time I jumped tracks, I never went for the PhD. And I've been, I knew after one session that I that I'd never be the same, and I wasn't my, my life took a different direction I, within six months, I quit my last corporate job.

Brandon Handley 6:44
That's awesome. I think that breathwork for me, has been very revelatory as well.

Unknown Speaker 6:54
I had my

Brandon Handley 6:56
several instances of brain expansive substances. That's, I think that's how you title it. And but the deal is, is that and that's a real big, the name of the podcast, spiritual hope you can get to that space in a place of this this hit of spirituality by doing like something like breathwork. Right. So what did you do then? I mean, so you're like, I'm out on the corporate gig. And what did you have done after that? I'm just curious. Yeah.

Christian de la Huerta 7:26
Well, you know, if I ended up doing an ashram experience with a teacher that I met with who, you know, from whom I learned breathwork, originally, so I studied with her for five years. And for the most part, monastics setting, had a few deviations from that, but could really count them on one hand in five years, which, by the way, was a really empowering experience for me to begin to reel in my mice, my sexual energies on the way that I related to two other people with you with that sexual energy. And yeah, that was incredibly difficult time of my life, it was, it was very demanding. Not only the lifestyle, but the, you know, the opportunities for letting go of my preferences in my my desires, and, like, I wouldn't want to do it again. But I'm really grateful that I did, because I wouldn't be who I am. If it wasn't for that experience.

Brandon Handley 8:33
I get it. You know, letting go and spend a lot of space but what would you say though, was like the the most difficult part, right? Because you're kind of in there, and you're doing it on your own? you're wanting this right. What what made that?

Christian de la Huerta 8:49
I guess, very good, very good interview questions. Brandon. You know, if you would have asked me before, I would have thought it would have been the celibacy celibacy thing.

Brandon Handley 9:00
That wasn't right,

Christian de la Huerta 9:02
wasn't even close to the, to the hardest thing. In fact, that wasn't such existential kind of level of survival. Because this teacher was brilliant, and she was a ruthless ego Slayer. So I think what was most difficult was being in in because we were at the same time going through some challenging times out of out on the physical world. And it's a longer story that we don't have time to get into here, but like it was to maximize it. At one point, we were homeless. We lived in the car for four for a week, and in San Francisco, and we would take showers and the YMCA in the morning for four bucks. And at the same time that she was going through some profoundly transformational experience, which didn't make her very functional in this room. Um, so, you know, put all that, you know, the fact that she was my ego was being incredibly threatened that I was in survival level, like so much of my identity, up until this time had been connected to my worldly success. And suddenly here I am, you know, like barely living in a car for a week. And, and feeling so responsible for everything and at the same time, like surrendering and in the teacher in the guru, the guru disciple model, you're surrendering to the sacred, but through this person of, of the guru that's right in front of you. Who was at times irrational? And so that's the part that I was so that I didn't know that, to me was most difficult. That was because you're basically surrendering your desires, your preferences, like even your perceptions?

Brandon Handley 10:55
Yeah. It's a whole psychological play, right? I mean, here you are working with, right? And then you're, you're you're working with this, this guru, and to attain, you know, a certain level, a certain experience, I don't know. But then they're a mess. And you're like, what the hell am I doing? I mean, that's got to be, that's where my head would be. And then also, you've got your cycle, your psychology background, right. So you're, you're like, doubling down, because you know, where the razor cuts?

Christian de la Huerta 11:26
Yeah, and I mean, I'm, with all the respect of not putting her down, like, like, I really value she, I got incredible teachings from her. And the opportunity for for surrender was mine, like that was, I did that nobody could do that for me. And that's some, that's the most profound experience that I got from that, in addition to learning trust. at a cellular level, it was like I my relationship with with life became incredibly trusting. Because no matter how bad things got, like, we're down to just like, the storage unit is in Hawaii and San Francisco and Los Angeles. And like, there was nothing else to pawn and money would show up unexpectedly from from just an unexpected source just at the right time. We never missed a meal. Like, yeah, it was rough. It was very rough. But we never missed a meal. So that I got to learn that at a cellular level. It's not something that I could read in a book, to know that I'm going to be fine. But I'm going to be taking care of

Brandon Handley 12:28
the idea of Providence. Yeah. Yeah. Nice. I love it. I love it. So in your, in your book, you know, covers quite quite quite a bit. And one of the things that you cover in there that I think, is really important, especially in today's day and age, and the spiritual guy to write as a spirit as a spiritual guy, but like, what, what was a healthy masculine power look like? actually kind of identify what power is like in your what is power? And then what's the healthy masculine power? Yeah, no,

Christian de la Huerta 13:04
that's that's a great question. You're asking some really good questions, some of which nobody has asked me before. I've done dozens and dozens of interviews or podcasts. Nobody has asked me this stuff yet. This one? Yeah. But you're asking really good ones. So yeah, so in order to reconcile the way that we reconcile this this ambivalent, or, or conflicted relationship we have with power, one of the ways around that is to realize that we're talking about different kinds, right. So there's the what there's a worldly power, or egoic, power, ego power, which we tend to associate, you know, the way the way the world looks at power, we tend to associate with people who have money, who have fame, who are high up in some kind of hierarchy, whether it's a corporate ladder, or some kind of religious organization, or whatever it is. But the thing about all those kinds of expressions of power is that they're because they're outside of us. They're here today, they're gone tomorrow. Whereas the other kind of power that I'm pointing to, is internal. It's, you know, I'm calling it soulful power. It's spiritual power. I call it what you wish, right? It doesn't matter what we call it, but it's the it's the power that is inherent to each one of us. And again, like no one can give it to us, no one can can take it away. And whereas worldly power is always has an agenda, and it's very self serving, it's always trying to get something for itself. The other kind of power, spiritual power, what to me is authentic power. It's humble. It's, it's, it doesn't need to prove anything to anybody, and it's about service is about making a difference. So I think about a Gandhi or Gandalf, in their monastic robes and their stupid sandals, as you would say. And then the other sandal feet, you would never know you know, like you would never know how much power they hold until it's called for and then you know what's out like brought the British Empire to its knees at the point when it was at its highest, highest point in terms of global reach and global influence without landing a single punch or shooting a gun, like talk about power. And so that's, that's what I mean by soulful powers. That's the kind of power that that from within that it's, like, the worldly power believes that the it comes from a place that that that it's a zero sum game, right so that there's a limited amount you're having power threatens mine. Whereas, whereas What I'm saying is like, wait a minute, if I'm in my power, if I know who I am, like, why would I be threatened by you having powers like I'm not threatened by that? It's like, I know, no matter what you or anybody else does, I know that I've got it, I can handle it. I can show up and respond appropriately to whatever that situation is. So why would I be threatened by anybody having power, I can celebrate somebody else's power. And so now power with rather than power over, which has been the traditional, patriarchal, masculine, like toxic masculine way of expressing power, which our relationship to which you know, reflects in our relationship to the planet and our relationship to life, which is basically you fuck it or you kill it?

Brandon Handley 16:22
Right? I mean, that was a game they cut. Right? Right was it was a fucking kill it keep it whatever is true. You know, then that's, that's the I think the historic chase right? There kill it. So what is what is the healthy masculine power look like then? Yeah, and real quick question. Are we in your sub question is, are we on pace to like, get there in our lifetime?

Christian de la Huerta 16:51
Yeah, that's a good question that that I don't have an answer to I see a lot of changes, though. I see a lot of a lot of men who are just not No, not threatened, you know, a lot. And you know, a lot of straight guys who tell each other, you know, I love you and kiss each other on the cheek, and there's, they're not threatened. By that it like it doesn't mean anything, to once masculinity. So so there's a book, you know, it's for everybody. But it has a particular message for women, stemming from my belief that the empowerment of women is like, the single most important thing that needs to happen in the world. It's not to idealize women is not to put women up on a pedestal is not to give women more shit that they got to clean up and do. It's because as a planet as a species, we've been running very off balance when it comes to power and gender, and sacred masculine and feminine energies. So and I believe that when women are in 50%, of power in this world, because I don't believe that we need to go back to matriarchy, I don't think that's what we need, I think we need balance inside each one of us and in the world, between the masculine and the feminine. And so that when women are 50% of power in the world, we're gonna have a very different relationship to war and poverty and hunger, and social justice and wealth distribution and how we treat the environment to all of it. So that's what when I think strategically, like what is the one thing that's gonna then impact a lot of others. That's what I come down on. so and so. So that's one message of the book. But what about men? Because the, the tragic part of it is, is that this system of toxic masculinity, that that that we have been living out of for the last several 1000 years that has this twisted definition of what it means to be a man. It's like, it doesn't work for anybody, like, of course, it hasn't worked for women, and the lack of equity and justice and equality. And the oppression of women is like that is still so prevalent in this world is like, like no longer acceptable or sustainable. And men are also paying a price for that. So let's look at a couple of numbers. Like if you look at longevity in the US, women outlive men by five years, if you look at the global numbers, they outlive men by seven years, we get suicide numbers in this country women, I mean, men commit suicide four times as frequently as women. 70% of the suicides in this country are committed by middle aged white men, which, interestingly, are the ones who still hold the majority of the power in this world. So what's up with that, you know, what is not working? And I think that part of what is not working, is that it's this twisted definition of what it means to be a man and so we walk around because it's like we were saying earlier, somebody decided that the emotions were weakness and little boys don't cry. So we walk around, so threatened about not being masculine that we turn into these unfeeling, uncaring robots and there's a price to pay for that. Like what used to be spiritual teaching that everything is energy. Now we know from quantum physics that it's true, energy cannot be destroyed. So what does that mean that that the body is energy even though it feels solid, the emotions are energy, that's all they are, they're not good, they're not bad. They're not strength, they're not weakness, they're just energies coursing through our bodies. And so whenever we suppress those emotions, they don't go away. Right, they stay in the tissues of our bodies, and only a couple things can happen. If so, we suppress, we suppress, we suppress. And then the next unfortunate being just says something towards the wrong way, um, volcanic eruption, right, all that repressed anger, like just comes out in appropriately and we cause harm to our relationships or suppress, suppress, suppress, suppress, that energy has to come out one way or the other. So it starts seeping out and showing up in physical symptoms, heart attacks, cancer officers. So so we've got, we've got to get this right, we've got to figure this out, and get right with our emotions. And yes, as far as I'm concerned, to be able to know what we're feeling, and be able to define it, and be able to communicate it responsibly owning that, it's our emotions, not dumping them on each other, like we tend to do, like holding it's our emotions, and learning how to communicate them courageously, because it's always gonna take courage and compassionately without pointing the finger and without blaming, and without, you know, like, only our experience, and our heart of it is to me, and, and gracefully in a way that the other person can actually hear them. All that is like nothing less than mastery. It's the opposite of weakness.

Brandon Handley 21:41
Right? That fairpoint? Absolutely, I'd never, I think I've never made it to the other end of the bridge there. It's into making that mastery. But you know, I am very familiar with not being familiar with my own emotions, right? And going and doing the research mean, like, oh, wow, I really don't know what these are. What are some tools that you'd like to use to help males get in touch then with, you know, their emotions? And to point to how do you express them gracefully, because my history has been, oh, I found these emotions, but like, there is no grace to how I express that.

Christian de la Huerta 22:22
Right? That's a great question. I'll tell you what I did. And because I was clueless myself, and here's the thing, my dad, a psychiatrist, and a good one, because I've heard from people after, you know, after he passed, so I used to go to him. And he really helped me. So I know it was a good psychiatrist, but in relationship to his own emotions, the guy was clueless, clueless. And so I grew up clueless, I couldn't tell you what I was feeling because I had no idea what I was feeling. So when I started doing this kind of work, like, you know, that becoming self aware, and I realized that this was an area that I needed to do. So this is before cellphones, you know, I had a timer from Radio Shack, and I would set it on the hour, and I had I printed I found a list of emotions, and educated myself about what they meant. So I created this grid, you know, like, every day of the week, and by the hour, and the emotions on the other side. And so I at the hour go off, and I go, am I feeling this? Am I feeling that? Am I feeling this? Maybe that could be? And little by little, I did that for several weeks until I started becoming more emotionally intelligent. And in terms of how to communicate them. It's another big question. But the main thing is to realize that it's our emotions, like nobody out there can make us feel anything. Unless there's some room in there that's being hurt, right? So it's our emotions like, like say, let's just a quick example so that you and I both have lunch with our friend Joe, every week, like and he Joe inevitably shows up late 20 minutes. There I am on on Monday, just like I knew it. He's so selfish. So so irresponsible, so only cares about his own schedule, blah, blah, blah, and all the other stories that we make up about stuff like this. Whereas you you know, it's like great, Joe's late. I have 20 minutes. Let me go online. Let me return a phone call. Let me just do what there's so many options, so many possible responses to somebody showing up late. Why does it get me so pissed off? Right, so, so it's so that's what I mean by owning that it's our emotions, and it doesn't make Joe's lateness or anything goes right. But it's not about that. It's not excusing anybody's behavior. Like that's not the point of the conversation. If we want to be free. We start from that place that it's our emotions. And and it's, that's what his book is, is you know, it's part of a series on what it means to live heroically because it's work like to be able to, to be willing to go inside and to feel the stuff that sometimes we spent a lifetime running away from feeling and to to look at patterns to understand And why we do the things we do, why we sometimes get to sabotage ourselves and sabotage our relationships. Sometimes from the get go by attracting people who are not a match people who are not available, like it's work to figure all this stuff out. But it's incredibly rewarding and liberating, because we can bring choice back into the equation. So to go back to your question, how to so owning, how do we how do we communicate and communicate emotions responsibly owning other hours, and then using, you know, like basic communication stuff like using I statements? So rather than saying you did this, or you always do that, like the other ego that doesn't even know that it's an ego yet that doesn't understand what the ego construct is? And why would that makes us do the things we do. And that gets us so defensive, and takes everything personally, and feel so victimized by others and by life. So it doesn't even know what it is, the only thing you can do is defend, right? And especially when we use words like you always do this, or you never do that. It's like it. Like they might be looking you in the eye, but they're not even they're not even there. They're going back in their mind, they're going back in time back in time back in time to that one time in 2009. Well, they didn't do that. And so then they get to be right and say, well, that's not always true. I don't always do that. So so using I statements, and again, here's a really good formula when you do this, I feel my so when when when you show up late, I feel disrespected. I feel dishonored. And and and i don't i don't like this feeling. I love our relationship, our love our friendship. And can we do this a different way? Yeah, that's what I like to have a conversation with Joe about.

Brandon Handley 26:44
Yeah, Joe, you gotta stop showing up late man. Worrying about it. But for truly, for God's sake, come on to the idea to is that a good This gives that gives me an opportunity, if you're owning your emotions, to go in and just look at that. Right? What is triggering me to get pissed off of Joe? Right? Why? Why am I starting with Joe? Just because he's late. Right? I got a whole bunch of other things like we spend in this energy on and posted Joe, right. I'll never, I'm never gonna get this 20 minutes back. And while I want to blame Joe, it's not just fault. And then the other piece that you're talking about? The I know, when you do this, I feel that.

Unknown Speaker 27:31
You know,

Brandon Handley 27:34
I recently read like a validation book, right? Because I'm not a great validator. Christian, just just so we all know, but I'll be getting better. Your feelings are always valid, right? So you can never that's never a false statement. That's really saying so and that's and that's what allows that person to not be defensive when you make those. I feel safe. That's right. Okay. All right. Thanks for sharing that. That's definitely definitely Yeah,

Christian de la Huerta 28:02
it's, it's worthwhile work is if we do the work, if we take, you know, whatever time it takes to figure it out, it's like, we, when we zoom out, zoom out a little bit. It's like, wait a minute, it's not just when Joe is late, that I get pissed off is when anybody shows up late. So what is that? Right? It's not so it's not really about Joe. And if I zoom out a little further, it's not even just about being late. It's when somebody you know, cuts me off in conversation or cuts me off in traffic, it's it kind of evokes the same kind of feeling that same kind of frustration or anger is what is that? So if we are willing to do that work and go back in time back in time, and to begin to see when How did this pattern start, which most of the time is gonna go back to something from childhood probably in relationship to it with mommy or daddy. And, and what's at the core of it is like, we don't feel valued, right, like, the core underneath the anger. It's like, we don't feel respected. We don't feel valued. We don't feel like he's like he's valuing his time more than he's valuing mine. And that's the unhealed wound that's getting triggered in this present situation, but the one is much older than my lunches with Joe.

Brandon Handley 29:12
Yeah. It's like, peeling off a scab. That never quite healed. Exactly. Exactly. I mean, disgusting. Alright, so Kristen, got a couple questions for you real quick here. I kind of liken this show to like a spiritual speed dating show, right? Like, I understand Come on, and it's the spiritual speed dating. And like, you know, what's, what's Christian got for me? So I'm gonna say, hey, Bachelor number one out of a couple different questions. If that's your number one, what is your one wish for the world?

Christian de la Huerta 29:53
You know, and and i'm not i'm not a good one for speed dating. If we really got who we are, which which is connected to understanding that, that we're not the ego. And really quickly, if we put up, here's a great way of understanding that you go, if you put a baseball in the center of a stadium, that's the ego, who we are is actually the fricking stadium. And we allow this tiny, tiny, tiny part of who we are to think that it is all of who we are. And to make really important, critical, consequential choices from its very small, limited and always fear based perspective. So if we got who we really are, that would shift everything, it would shift the relationship to ourselves, it would shift our relationship to each other, it would shift our relationship to the planet.

Brandon Handley 30:43
I love that visual too. And, you know, I guess that brings up the question, too, is like, we make that content, how do we make that conscious shift to, you know, connect to our power? How do we meet that constant shift to realize that we don't have anything left to be afraid of, unless we're hanging out in the desert reliance?

Christian de la Huerta 31:03
That's right. And, you know, that's like that's by this book. Seriously, the book will walk you by the hand, and it'll it'll, it'll help you understand the egos like, incomplete humility, I don't know. Like, to me, this is the simplest way that that I've seen of explaining what the ego is. So that we can really get it so that we can get what it what the self made prison of the ego is, so that we can let ourselves out because nobody else is gonna let us out of our self made prisons, they can't, only we can do that. And only we can step into our own power. Nobody can do that for us. But we've got it takes work. But we've got to get clear about why we do the things we do and in which situations, do we give our power away? Or, you know, is it does it tend to be with in romantic, intimate sexual relationships? Or do we tend to give our power away with authority figures, bosses, coaches, nose, religious leaders, that kind of thing, parental figures. And so once we are willing to do the work and look at the patterns, then we can, like cut it out, and stop giving our power away and, and stepping into our full potential as human beings? Because Ain't nobody else gonna do it? If we don't? Right,

Brandon Handley 32:16
right? I think that one of the couple of things I enjoyed about your book, too, since you brought up liking these questions, you've got these questions just like this to help you to identify the patterns. At the end of each chapter, you give out the layout. You say, all right, well, you know, here's the information. But here's how you can apply it right? Go ahead here, use some of these questions, detect the patterns. And then you know, to point, you get to know where is it you are giving your power away? And stop. Right? And again, that becomes a source. Right? Yeah. And, and at least at that point in time, you recognize that you're, you know, in this position of your own power, and you get to at least determined to do it consciously. Right, exactly. In the end, that's what freedom is.

Christian de la Huerta 33:07
Yeah, that's it, you just nailed it. Because you know, there were times where it may not be in our highest highest interest. Like, we may not be our in our highest interest to like really step into our power in relationship to our boss, until we have something else lined up. Or if we're being you know, somebody is holding a gun or a knife up in a dark alley. It may not be the that may not be the best time to say oh, well, this really doesn't work for me. Right? You just hand over the frickin wallet and walk away with your life. So yeah, of course, of course. We're gonna be smart about this. So I think you're right. I think it's about choice, bringing choice back into the equation.

Brandon Handley 33:44
Kristen, thanks so much for thanks for finding me. And, you know, offering to come on the show. I've enjoyed the conversation. I've enjoyed the book that I've read, you know, the bulk of it so far.

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Witnessing Miracles

Published: July 30, 2021, 1:03 p.m.
Duration: 20 minutes 40 seconds

Unknown Speaker 0:01
Wake me up.

Brandon Handley 0:02
Before you go, go. Set a listen. I totally grew up in the 80s I'm not gonna lie, I can't my good day to you, sir. I'm got some fun stuff for you today. Got up gonna be along the lines of miracles miracle creation, shit like that. When I had a class I'm in, I'm in a group, I'm in a course it's called creating personal mastery of streak morale, definitely talked about it comes from just the work that he's done over the years, he takes lessons from all the masters. Throughout history, we're talking Buddha, Jesus, whole bunch of Swamis, gurus throughout history, and he strips them of cultural identity. And when he stripped some of this cultural identity, you have an opportunity to revisit some of these concepts. Without preconception of, Oh, this comes from not my Lord Jesus, I can't take it. This call so I'm not my Lord Vishnu can't take it. This calls from you get the picture.

Unknown Speaker 1:37
And

Brandon Handley 1:39
when you do that, when you take away these preconceptions, you don't have a filter built in that does doesn't allow you to say no to something. Or perhaps I should say it makes it easier for you to say yes to some things. Because there's a specific logic. I don't even know if it's logic, there's a specific way that when presented, it's not illogical. That's a double, double negative for all you grammar nazis out there. There's logic and then there's something there's something in there. That just it is it sounds illogical.

Unknown Speaker 2:34
But then there's this there's

Brandon Handley 2:35
this truth. There's this truth in there that you just simply can't refute. It's irrefutable. Simply because the way that it's presented, it fucking makes sense.

And you don't even recognize that it makes sense. That's how much sense that it makes sense, you don't refute it. It automatically bypasses your conscious filter. Your filter that says, Oh, no, that's bullshit. Because none of that I don't believe in Jesus, that I don't believe in the Torah. Get it? Right. So since you didn't say no. You're saying yes. This only applies and subconscious stuff, and not if he or she is asleep. Just a heads up there. So since you didn't say no, yes, it goes into your subconscious slips in there. And and then if there's any way that you can see the logic in it a second time because the material is presented repeatedly throughout the course of a period, and it's also you're also doing it within a group of other people. And you've also said, Hey, I'll keep an open mind. And I'll check this shit out. And belief has nothing to do with it yet. Belief has nothing to do with it yet. But you've accepted it in some way or another in a intellectual fashion. You said intellectually, this bucket makes sense. Okay, so once you've once you've once you've let it slip into the subconscious let it is obviously that's a loaded word. You didn't necessarily let it just fucking happen. Kinda like that one night shift has happened. And you then accept it in the mind, once you accept it on purpose, once you accept it with the intention of saying, Oh, okay. This makes sense intellectually. I'll go ahead and now I'll look for evidence of it in my life. Once you have let it slip into the subconscious, you've accepted it as a possibility. And then you begin to look for it in your life. And then it shows up. Then you experience it. Now, it's no longer just a concept. So long as a thought and intellectual practice. You've got the real life experience, according to how everything is lined up. And now, you're like, the shits real? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no way.

Unknown Speaker 6:20
No way.

Brandon Handley 6:22
No fucking way. And here's, here's here's what happened. It's kind of like a story within a story within a story like a goddamn Russian nesting doll. In the class to the night, there was four of us. And we were going over this, what gets in your way? Or where do you want to be? Or what kind of shit Do you trying to accomplish in your life and what's getting in your way. And this is a class that's offered at no insubstantial amount. And it is for like CE o 's high performance professionals, people who are ambitious, people who are also seekers, I believe that in this in this group, there seem to be a lot of seekers. And again, you find what you're looking for. And there's just some incredibly well, exceptionally well known people in this group within their circles. So when we have our get together, and there are these small group breakouts, that you get together once a week, and you go over these certain concepts and ideas, when we got together. In the group of three out of four, worldwide, three of us were coaches or coaching or had a coaching practice, along the spiritual and transformational lines, just like myself, just like myself. And we're all in similar but different spots along the journey. If that makes sense. we all we all want it to move forward. And we all were looking for how to make that happen. How are you? How are you making that happen? What is the next step that you need to make so that you can experience your desires in a way that you say you would like to in your life? And that's a tough one. Because a lot of times you come up with a lot of bullshit answers to that. And you say things like, well, if I had marketing or if I have more money if this or that. A whole bunch of things come up in that. And honestly, the truth of the matter is, it's a couple of things a maybe you really don't fucking want it. Is that really what you want? Because if that's really what you wanted, wouldn't you be taking steps and action towards it? It's fair question. If you wanted it badly enough, there wouldn't be a barrier to it. We how many stories are you familiar with in your lifetime? where people have made it or done it and insurmountable

Unknown Speaker 9:37
odds?

Brandon Handley 9:38
They aren't even super smart seemingly. And and you're like, What the fuck is wrong with me? Why is my life like this? Or maybe that's just me and I'll take that but we I happen to find myself and this group of at least three of us at the same time brought together in like, this way there's like what are the fucking odds well Word that we're all we have the similar limiting beliefs Do we have the similar spots of being stuck in? And while we were talking, one of my suggestions was to somebody else in the group, I was like, Well, if that's really what you want in your life, then why don't you talk to somebody who's achieved it? And what are some ways start looking for? Start looking for the ways that you could achieve that for yourself, if that's what you really wanted? Because chances are, chances are, you know, certain ways. And there's certain ways and other people have done it at this point that maybe you're not willing to do, because that's just not you. Right? And again, maybe that's another one of those limiting beliefs. Well, it's got to be done a certain way. Okay, maybe, then maybe you don't want it. Right. We have to, we have to be okay to admit that to ourselves. We have to be okay to let go some shit that we said we want, that we don't want it anymore. And then be okay with that. Overall is not what I want. Just kidding. Sorry, y'all. Just because you've got a lot of mental energy ish, shit tied up in it doesn't mean that you want it anymore. And that's okay, too. So that was one of the questions that kind of popped up in the group, too, was uh, maybe maybe? Pretty sure that's what you still want? Is that really what you want? understanding what it is that you actually want is not it's not easy? Because you say, you say why don't you start working towards it? Oh, yeah, I guess I didn't want it that bad, right. And that's okay, it wasn't worth x, y, z price, there's a price that you have to pay for all these things. And that looks like money that looks like time that looks like time away from family that looks like more time with family that looks like some things that maybe you're simply not willing to do at this point in your life. Yet any rate, so there we were three of us. in similar situations, I personally feel like I'm making the progress and doing the things and taking the steps myself. I don't know if I could be doing it any harder or faster. I've hired a you know, hired marketers, I've hired people to do my branding, I've done things I think that are on brand on point selected a targeted message selected different space, like, again, spirituality for the street, spiritual dope, it's a definitely a brand, it's definitely got a targeted demographic. And you know, and, you know, in support of mental health, there's a you know, there's another reason for it, how to apply it in your in your life, so that you can have to be anything that you want beyond your limited, mortal self. some shit like that, once you incorporate overall spirituality. So that's where I come from on it. And, you know, I've even got right now, somebody, you know, working with me, PR, too, help spread the message beyond the way that I know how because guess what, I don't know how to do some of these things. And sometimes I don't want to know how I want to find somebody that specializes in it to help me. So I can accelerate to a place that I would like to be at the same time in a in organic fashion without deviating from the message without without putting the need to monetize this in such a way that it influences the message. And what I mean by that is I'm not looking for ways to press on your pain points. To say that you've got to make a move in your life and buy my product, right. I don't feel like that's 100% necessary for where I am today. And what I'm doing. So I avoid it as part of the whole stick as it were again, so that I can stay pure anyways,

shared all that out with the group. And also the idea that if you want to find somebody, if you do want to take any steps like that and you want to see it show up in your life, you got to go out and you got to look for find it. And, and then the one one guy in the group, he says the other thing he said to which I stuck out in my mind, just What's on your plate? what's in front of you right now is enough, as you're making the progress that you should be making with intention with purpose. And surrendering a little bit, again in surrender means

Unknown Speaker 15:15
stop trying

Brandon Handley 15:16
to control all the outcomes only control, you work work on what's right in front of you right now as part of the process. And as a second part of that, this whole thing is that this is a sort of group where we're focused on creating or witnessing miracles with our life, however you want to see it. And two parts to that the odds of this group coming together are what? Three out of four of us worldwide, what are the odds of us coming together? The first answer to that, and I got this from a gentleman who's been on the show before Adam Walton been coached by him before and brought up a scene like this Tim before and just the odds of this are 100%, it had to show up in my life in such a way like this, that I would accept it, to motivate me to, to have an impact, to be noticeable to have awareness of it. So the odds are like 100%. So then the very next morning, speaking of miracles, I've got meetings that are back to back, got a little coffee shop that I want to go get some coffee for, but I don't have fucking time for it. Because I got all these meetings, and they're good meetings. I'm really, really looking forward to them. Because I'm doing some cool shit. However, I still want that cup of coffee. What I want is like this little break just in the day to change up the pace of things. And my 10 o'clock cancel, I was like, shut the fuck up.

Unknown Speaker 16:53
Mariko

Brandon Handley 16:54
gives me a little bit of time to run across and grab a cup of coffee. So I want to cross it and get this cup of coffee. And Funny thing is his funny on the way in. There was a dad telling his daughter stay outside with the dog goes hoppy, right? She goes, What if What if I get kidnapped? And he goes, he goes, look, I'll be I'll be back before you're kidnapped. I have asked when we walk as like to just tell her that you'll be back before she was kidnapped. Yeah, I was like, all right, just making sure I heard that. Right. And I leave the place with my coffee, and the goddamn lemon Danish because they bake them fresh there and just wanted it. That's why I've wanted I've resisted for way too long. And I go outside, walk outside. And as I'm leaving, there's a there's a dude sitting there. reading his book power versus force by David Hawkins. got two options. I can note it. That's a cool book in my head and keep walking. But I was like, fuck it. I was like, I was like, Yeah, that's a great book. I said it out loud to him. Because Yeah, I was like, What do you check it out what's happening? We get to talking. And turns out, he is a men's spiritual coach right down the street. We get to talk about different things and pieces, we can act on a lot of different things, but which is all awesome. But the big takeaways I looked at as a miracle something that you know, without that night before talking about having a coach show up to does what you're trying to do in your life. So that you can find somebody to to rap about this stuff with. Like shamwow and instantaneous the moment that you believe that something like that could even happen. Like I had to be able to believe that something like that was possible in my life, to be aware of it, to allow for it to show up. yada yada. What are your beliefs around what's possible for you in your life. And the thing with spirituality is that if you believe that you have to do it all yourself within the confines of you and your own mind. And you have to force these things yourself. What you're not allowing for is this idea of this idea of surrendering to the universe and trusting as Alan Watts said, Justin the universe as though it were another throwing your the possibility of anything that happen that is in alignment with what you're trying to do in your life. As a step towards it, whatever that is. And I'm always reminded of the quote, or the idea of you only had to see 200 feet in front of you when you're driving at night. your headlights can only see two to 500 feet in front of you. You keep driving the headlights keep on shining two to five 100 feet in front of you continues to open up, you just have to follow the road. Same concept, same idea. Same thing will happen for you and your life if you're willing for it. If you allow for it, if you follow it if if you're willing to believe you're willing to step out in faith and if you're willing to go beyond just slightly beyond your current belief system and accepted, anything is possible for what you once deemed impossible. Check it out later.

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Debbi Moran True Loves Kiss

Published: July 25, 2021, 5:46 p.m.
Duration: 31 minutes 48 seconds

I had the opportunity to hang out with the author of True Loves Kiss, Debbie Moran on this episode, join in the conversation to get some practical applications of spirituality that you can use in your daily routine!

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up here. You've put in so much more than those around you. You've even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? I'm wondering why do people in general You're so limited as Bob process for ensuring you are not alone The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside getting can't quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the question you never even knew to ask questions about you in the world, the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don't have all the answers, but we sure do love Living in the Time for another spiritual dope with your host, Brandon Handley. Let's get right into today's episode.

Brandon Handley 0:41
Hey there spiritual dope. We are on today with my good friend Debbie Moran and Debbie and I connected through spirituality group that we're both members in the soul side, right soul side by side community. Yes. Also community with Mark Youngblood for some of you who've listened to the podcast a couple times, you've heard mark on the podcast, hurts I think I had Anna champagne on the podcast as well, all members of this incredible group, Debbie is no exception, in this group well, and they're just trying to learn how to improve, improve, you know, just how to harness our spirituality better throughout life. And Debbie has written a book that she's going to talk a little bit about with us today, that's going to help you to figure out, you know, what are what are some practical applications? And what are some ways that you can harness spirituality so that you can have some more fulfillment, some more happiness, confidence, Legos, some anxiety, those types of things. So, Debbie, thank you so much for being on today.

Debbie Moran 1:43
Hey, you're welcome, Brandon, thank you for having me.

Brandon Handley 1:46
Absolutely. Absolutely. And I always like to start these off with the idea that we are directly connected to source energy, like at all times, right? And it creates and speaks through us, right, we're vessels for for this. And the idea is that there's somebody listening to this podcast today, that is going to receive a message that can only be delivered through you at this precise time. What is that message?

Debbie Moran 2:15
I love that you're we're on the same page. I do believe not that we're connected to source, but that we are an extension of source. So we are here to embody us. So I feel like that actually is something that took me a long time to actually realize that I was here to embody Debbie Moran, rather than I was going to change my name. And so many of us have changed our names in our spiritual circles, I realized through my process that a lot of the names that I was going to change my name to, were simply the state that I was in and in my own evolution, for instance, bliss. So. So what's the message, the message is we are here to be who we came to be?

Brandon Handley 3:04
What's that look like for you? If you wanted to elaborate a little bit more?

Debbie Moran 3:09
Well, each of us, I think you said it really nicely. In the beginning, I don't feel like we're here to learn anything I hate, we're here to remember the truth of who we are, and the extent of what we're capable of, which is beyond our conscious level of awareness. So it's really about raising our states of awareness. So that we can actually tap into and become that presence. That is that clear vessel, that Clear Channel that doesn't, you know, words are what we have to work with. But the truth is really beyond words. And so it's challenging sometimes to actually put an expression in terms of a language to all of the truth. And so I feel like what you said is true. I in fact, a coach once told me, you know, there are people in the world who can only hear what they need to hear through you.

Brandon Handley 4:08
Right, I mean, it's true, right? There's, there's, you know, I think we all resonate at a certain level to our different people. Right. And, and that's really the idea of the podcast is, I may resonate with plenty of people, but you resonate with a different group, you're gonna attract, and you're gonna speak to a different group of people that that tune in, and they're gonna hear your message, they're gonna pick up on the Debbie vibe, right? And, and, and, and you're gonna maybe open up something inside of them, right? I really liked that idea, though, to what you were saying that, that you had considered changing your name, because of these states that you were in and the idea of all these other people kind of that maybe you knew that have changed their name that maybe they find the spirituality and then they go change their name. Right, they live into this other state of being that they think can flip in and out of at any time. Right. And and I'm really glad to hear that what you decided to do, though, was just, you know, understand that you were here to be, you know, kind of who you were meant to be. And not like these other, these other things, these other when you change your name like that, it's kind of like you're just changing your mask. Right,

Debbie Moran 5:24
exactly. Right. Right. So start roles. So it is the roles we play, and they vary throughout life, but our presence never buries. So it just shines through different masks and different roles.

Brandon Handley 5:40
Right? Well, so let me let me um, what what kind of got you into spirituality space to begin with,

Debbie Moran 5:47
was kind of born into a dynamic actually, it really wasn't meant as a that was really part of what maybe it's like coming full circle, rather full spiraling inward to this awareness that I came in sort of rejecting. Rejecting the sense of being here, there was a part of me, I literally came in with going, whoa, where am I? And this is pre words, where am I? And how did I get here? And none of this makes sense? And what is this language I'm hearing and I couldn't say it, but I say all these thoughts were going through my head. And so it took me almost my lifetime up till now to actually be okay with not only be okay, but recognize the brilliance and the blessing of being human. And being born into the family I was born into, and into the experiences that I experienced, to help me to be to remember to become aware of this is not a punishment, this is

Brandon Handley 6:57
what I mean, I don't know about you, it's just another experience the same way that we experienced any other sensation. We're having this? You know, I guess if we were to say it in one way, if this is basically our life sensation.

Debbie Moran 7:10
Yes. Yes, our experience of those things that if we truly are one, then I say that because I feel that and I believe that and I have a knowingness of that. However, we don't experience that full, that full expression of that all the time, because otherwise we wouldn't be having these senses that we have are these thoughts that come through, or these words that we're able to express these are things that the theory is we came to experience what we are not to remember who we are, and that's kind of

Brandon Handley 7:47
right, and, you know, I think that that's always, that's always a challenge, and you'll get like some eye rolls from people that haven't, I guess, experienced that space. Right, that happened kind of gone through some of those, those those those developments. And I think that, um, since it's such a subjective experience, you can't really you can't really, you can't really impart it on anybody else. Right, you can just all you can do is be like, Well, okay, I mean, I can just tell you from what I've experienced, and what I've gone through. And, you know, maybe if you these are some signals, right? Have you experienced this, that or the other thing, okay, then maybe, right. I like and I like in that experience to the idea of Joseph Campbell's, the hero's journey, right? When when, you know, when you hear the call of the hero, like, that's, that's kind of like your wake up call, right? That's, and you don't have to, you don't have to respond to it, but it's not gonna, it's not going to go away. Right, right. And it's kind of what you do after that, or each time it comes along, what do you do with it?

Debbie Moran 9:01
And it doesn't look the same for any individual. Right now. I work with a lot of people and a lot of families and a lot of times one family member will come to me to actually work on another. And I always bring them in first, especially as children or spouse, because, you know, it may look like the other person's not doing their work, but just because they're not doing it the same way you're doing. It doesn't mean they're not doing your work.

Brandon Handley 9:26
That's right. That's right. Right. And that's, that's a challenge. I mean, how, how was it for you to kind of overcome that idea, right? Yeah, the idea of, well, that person is not doing the work that person, I know, they're not doing the work and then you got to do it like this. You got to do it like that. And, you know, because I, I bring that up because when, you know some of my first experiences were similar to that until like, there was like this point was like, wait, wait a second. Your experience is going to be totally different than mine. I don't know what you're actually transfer is gonna be but yes. Right. So Where, where? Where did I mean? Where Where did that come into sight for you?

Debbie Moran 10:11
Again, it's deepened through my whole process. But I really kind of came in with the ability to see a person's soul that actually created problems for me a lot of times because I would see their soul and ignore their behavior. And I'm sure many people have had that experience. So it actually took me a long time to actually be aware that I could see their soul but I needed to pay attention to their behavior. So it was like, in a way, I wasn't holding others accountable. I was holding myself accountable for the world around me. So it was it felt very heavy and very burdensome. And so I I very early went to nature. Actually, I grew up Pentecostal. So I kind of grew into that indoctrination, which is I had a Pentecostal.

Brandon Handley 11:04
Okay. That's right. Yeah. Holy rollers. Right. Right. Right. I, you know, I, there's, I think there's a, from what I've heard, I kind of think that there's a grain of truth to, to, to that whole series. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like I'm a fan,

Debbie Moran 11:23
lifetime journey to actually realize that Sunday was the day of Pentecost, and for the first time ever, I actually understood what that meant.

Brandon Handley 11:32
What is it? So what does that mean?

Debbie Moran 11:34
Pentecost is theoretically what is today, like 50 days, 10 days, meaning 50 days after the the resurrection of Christ. And what happened is, it's also the Jewish day of harvest. And from the Bible perspective, is the Jewish day apartness, that 50 days after the resurrection of Christ, and all of the disciples came together, and all of a sudden, they were all speaking in a language that no matter is funny. We started out with saying there are only those who can understand through you, right, in this any cost theory is that the apostles spoke in the language that whoever they were speaking to, could understand.

Brandon Handley 12:18
Yeah, that's, that's it? Yeah. I think it's beautiful, right? I mean, I see. Yeah, yeah. I think that i think that's pretty cool, right? If you can be in a place and you know, no matter what, whoever you're speaking to understand you. And I think that that's really, again, this space, right? Once you kind of get into this space, there's maybe there's a little, maybe there's a little dance, right? And then but then you just kind of land on Yep. Okay, cool, then then we're speaking the same language. Right. So, so real similar, I think in that right. And, you know, and so, I wouldn't take that literally, that's how I would see it, right. So kind of like this, you know, symbolic and or, you know, our allegoric kind of way. So very cool. Now, I love that. So, what, yeah, let's talk a little bit about the book that you you've put out.

Debbie Moran 13:06
Okay, so here's a picture of it. And it's interesting. It's called true love's kiss, and keep it simple, sweetheart. There you go. Yeah, books in one. Sure. And true love's kiss is it came to me. It's interesting, because I was writing, I was doing a 90 day book writing course, I have like books written everywhere, but none of them ever actualized. And I was in the middle of writing a different book. And all of a sudden, it got derailed. After the 90 days, I was ready to start putting it into book form, and is like, no, that goes away. This is what you're writing. And these characters came through these fictional names came through. And all of a sudden, I was like, Genevieve, who's genetti. What is this? So then I had this and I couldn't even like spelling, it wasn't even like the easiest names or names I would have chosen. So I started these, these voices, these names, these characters came through and started writing the story of a mother daughter, that like the birth of a daughter and the mother daughter relationship, all the way through the first chapter of her life. True from birth to 21. And so that that's the first part true love's kiss. It's the story told in fairytale form, from the perspective of a mother and daughter of what happened in their lives. And what it does is it shows how patterns or patterns emerge and how they're actually solidified and rigidify it and they become habits and then how they're unconsciously repeated.

Brandon Handley 14:40
What would be an example of that out of the book maybe?

Debbie Moran 14:44
Um, okay, so what I talked about earlier is being able to see an individual so in ignoring their behavior, and then constantly just saying, Okay, I'll forgive that behavior, but still not hold them accountable and go back and just kind of repeat the same thing over and over and over. And so there was that, and then there's so there's a dynamic around finances and money. So the consciousness here is about what is love? What is this this life I've come to live? And what is this money thing? You know, what is this all about? Why do we need this? And why are people saying one thing and doing another or not saying what they need. So it's it's story after story of just the pattern. And it was, it was brilliant how the mother and the daughter, we're parallel, but you kind of got both of their perspectives. And that's awesome.

Brandon Handley 15:41
That's awesome. So and so I guess, you know, the inspiration came from, you know, just basically these these figures coming forth for you, right, just kind of showing themselves,

Debbie Moran 15:53
they did show themselves. And then but the inspiration was, I don't know if it was a parallel like or what, but it was from Miami like,

Brandon Handley 16:02
Sure. Okay. That's great. That's great to know. And then so we, you know, we do I think you talked a little bit about the patterns. And then there was some more, I think that talks about, you know, the concept of belief systems.

Debbie Moran 16:17
Oh, very much. So, yeah. systems, habits, patterns, they all are just another word for a way that we rigidify ourselves and limit ourselves, and, and forget the brilliance or the divinity of the birth of ourselves.

Brandon Handley 16:38
You know, how is it then, you know, so as we forget, is there a way that you have come across or can think of that would prevent us from forgiving?

Debbie Moran 16:50
You know, it's funny, because I said this to mark recently, and he's like Devi, everybody talks about that, the breath,

Brandon Handley 16:57
the breath,

Debbie Moran 16:59
in breath. I mean, I have gone through an endless array of encyclopedias full of studies myself, different masters, different philosophies, and different religions and spiritual practices. And I put them all into action. And yet, I feel like part of the message here is the remembrance of that simplicity of the breath. I mean, literally, the breath is the first thing we take when we come out of the womb. Sure. And they've done scientific studies that show that when a person dies, the breath until that last breath is exhaled. Like that weighs six ounces, from what I understand, it's like they measured the breath. Exhale was six ounces. And that's like, essentially your spirit. Right? So that's our luggage.

Brandon Handley 17:50
Did they get the six ounces? Uh, yeah, I hadn't heard that. I hadn't heard that, that they nailed down a number. That's very interesting to hear.

Debbie Moran 17:57
That way, don't quote me. Do you remember six pounds?

Brandon Handley 18:01
Yeah, that'd be interesting. If we could find a I'd love to, I'd love to know kind of where that came from. I'll look it up and see, Yeah, that'd be great if we could share that out. Because again, you know, I agree to the breath, being this kind of kind of a recall, right? If we've been breathing this certain way, and we've been doing it incorrectly our entire lives. And that's the, you know, the easiest, the number one thing that we do, what else have we gotten wrong? As is my question, right?

Debbie Moran 18:36
You're not breathing, when you're not breathing freely. First of all, the breath, it's the rest of our lives. Man, he is the Bible quote here and God breathed life into the man the nostrils of mankind. So for sure, if we are not breathing, we're cutting off our connection to that to that source, that we are legislating through us experiencing through us. And when we do that, we don't make good choices.

Brandon Handley 19:10
Fair enough. Fair enough. would would you be able to point to any breath exercises or breath work that have had an impact on you throughout your life?

Debbie Moran 19:21
What does so many have done to Gong and everything and done the yogic practices, but the simplest breath that I've come back to, is to keep it simple, sweetheart. That's it. Breath of just in the nose, out the mouth, in the belly of the belly. And it's just and then gradually, there's a Buddhist smile meditation. So they gradually as you increase and bring the breath to without, without mentally thinking about it as you bring the breath into an even in an even exhale, but then you gradually add a smile. And what that does is that increases the end Do orphans in your body nice and has your body start to produce those endorphins, those chemicals that actually do help you stay clear in your thinking and in your feeling in your, in your physical body. make good choices.

Brandon Handley 20:14
Yeah. Well, I mean, look, I think that when you're creating love the fact that we are these walking chemical factories, we are, right and that we have the capability to generate, whichever chemical we we did we dictate that right? You're talking about being able to go in and say, you know, right now, right now, this is what I need, I need to feel gratitude. And my body's gonna respond and create these kinds of these, these endorphins, right. And so it's gonna, it's gonna send out like, these kinds of things that are making my entire body feel good. So knowing that you're This is walking chemical factory, I think that's just another another thing that along the path is very empowering.

Debbie Moran 20:58
It is. And and when you get that you recognize that you have everything you need. And by breathing in, and by the right chemicals being produced, what happens is you start seeing these seemingly synchronistic events where suddenly the right resources like, like, you reach out to me and say, Hey, you want to do a podcast?

Brandon Handley 21:19
So So I mean, I think I think you know, that just to your story, really, is it that you've always felt like this connection to source and you've always, you've always just kind of surround yourself by it was just a matter of how to really bring more of it into your life and be accepting of it in your life. And then, kind of letting it play a greater part in your life where again, we're here not here being you know, Debbie, the human, you're here being Debbie, the spiritual being having the human experience. Is that is that fair?

Debbie Moran 21:56
No, I am. Before I was rejecting being human. I was like, I am not this. What How did this happen?

Brandon Handley 22:06
That's funny. Yeah, no, that's good. That's good. Now, so I mean, I think that that touches on a pretty, pretty key point, too, because this whole experience is you. Yeah, yeah. And and I think that it's really easy for people to reject their body and spirituality, right in favor of spirituality. You want to talk a little bit about how you you've maybe merged, merged those two pieces yourself? Yes.

Debbie Moran 22:34
Well, part of the benefit of but the way I came in with this kind of dynamic of rejecting was became my big key, I became very physical. I was very athletic, always, I always love to dance, and those kinds of practices, and just I just had this awareness as I was writing this book. I, it really helped me remember I was in a body. So it helped to keep me grounded. And so what that what occurred with that is, I started realizing, and as I started accepting my role, right, rather than wanting to just go off onto a mountaintop somewhere, or an island, and just kind of living in peace, I started accepting my role. And I began teaching something called Body Talk. And the body talk was a really big key factor for me in terms of that put me on my spiritual path in a way where things started integrating and a structure was built within me to where I could actually tap into my intuition even more. So I came to realize that too often through our spiritual and religious practices, we talk about transcending the body. And that in itself is a rejection. So I don't feel like that's the case. I feel like we greatly misunderstand our physical bodies. We are like these walking galaxies. And we greatly misunderstand the capability of them. Because we watched nature and assumed that that is the pathway of this body. So that's what we create. So it's really unlearning the indoctrination of that is the way of biology because biology, I feel like our bodies are deliberately evolving into these light bodies that can bring that can actually bring in more of our source energy, so that we can actually fulfill an even greater, unimaginable way of being Yeah, no, I

Brandon Handley 24:38
think that makes sense. It's the idea of if we think about if we think about any type of conduit or anything that if we don't treat it properly, I'm thinking right now have a battery cables, right. And sometimes they get corroded and if they do, you let all this corrosion come through then then the juice doesn't go through. Right. And so if we neglect our bodies and this thing, this is really what allows us to be like those conduits of divine energy. Exactly. Right. Yeah, yeah. Absolutely. So I love that. I love that. So, um, before we I'm gonna, I'm gonna ask you a couple of questions. Maybe like one, we'll start with one, see where it goes. Because basically, the idea here is that this is a spiritual speed dating. So right, like, so there's going to be somebody on the other side, that's like, you know what, I'm looking for my next spiritual date. And Deb, you may be it. So, but it's all gonna hinge on what your answer to this question. And the question is gonna be? Ooo, let's figure Oh, man, let's

Debbie Moran 25:49
spiritual speed dating,

Brandon Handley 25:51
speed dating. Say yesterday? What is your one wish for the world?

Debbie Moran 26:03
That we wake up? And that we actually have to tap into see the divine vessels that we were designed to be? What would that look like? I Well, I've been saying multiple things about part of my role is to, and history as we know it. And to awaken to awaken the remembrance that heaven never left Earth. And it's just right here, as soon as we are able to open our eyes and be able to see it and experience it, and be it.

Brandon Handley 26:39
Have you been able to have that experience yourself?

Debbie Moran 26:42
I feel like I have been ironically, these last couple years when the world is in turmoil. I mean, I feel all of that out there. But I had this bliss, that experience of being able to work at home, I do all remote work. And I was able to write this book during that time. And I live in a home with a partner who, who has a different, much different approach than I do, but he's conscious. And we hold ourselves accountable in this conscious relationship. So it's like, we basically say, you know, I'm in charge in my my consciousness and my awareness, and you're in charge of yours. And if either of us feels out of integrity with that, we're gonna call the other on it. And ourselves. And I live in a home in Florida, Sarasota, one of the most, it so many people are coming here. But I live in a home where we can open up all our doors and windows and be outside from the inside. So it's like living in the inside out, which is kind of a great metaphor for what I choose to do, living from the inside out, or is market say living from the suicide?

Brandon Handley 27:51
For sure, for sure. Living from the soul side, I love it. Let's have one more we have time for another question. You know, you're talking about this as we started kind of being present. So what does it mean to live in the present moment.

Debbie Moran 28:13
It means to breathe fully, and allow space for your presence to come through, rather than having a preconceived idea of what that's supposed to do. When I find when I do that, it's like, time slows down. The words come through. It's not Debbie, the incarnate speaking. It's God, the incarnate speaking through it. And so it's this ever evolving discovery of the wonders of what this length is all about.

Brandon Handley 28:58
That's great. So I mean, it's a being present to what is,

Debbie Moran 29:05
right and what is because that's all there is. And you can you can another just a simplistic description of that is true. Many people worry about the future. So it robs them of the moment. And there's so much beauty and grace in this world that's being missed. And as a consequence of that, not being given. It's the grace, the glory is do is there. If we're if we're actually just to take that moment, to consciously we're never out of the moment. We just often think we have to take that moment of breathing into this space. It's like the miracle of life shows.

Brandon Handley 29:54
I think that's wonderful and I agree. It's the idea of it's all Present, right, those moments that you're talking about, they're always available. Sometimes we get caught up in some other moments, some other thoughts and worries, some concerns. And really, when we look back at those moments, when we are worried and concerned, we're like, why did I expend so much time and energy in that space? And when this other thing was available to me, you know, kind of whatever that was, but chances are, what you expended your time and energy on at that time, there was something better available for you at that time. Right. So, agreed, agreed. And I think that, you know, that's a brilliant point. That's not just because I agree, but you know, so where can I send people to find more out about Moran and the book that you've got out?

Debbie Moran 30:51
Okay, um, I have a website buddy talking beyond. And I've actually put on the front page, there is a link where you can go buy the book from Amazon if you choose to, but you can go to body talking beyond calm and on the front page, it can lead you to more information about me as far as the bio and everything and also to the link to the book where you can just go to to Amazon and look for to less kids by giving land and its loved with an apostrophe s so

Brandon Handley 31:24
so And where would somebody if they want to get in contact with you? How can they do that?

Debbie Moran 31:30
They could get contacted through there is a form on my body to on my body talking to me on website, or they can just email me at debbie dot Moran dot lol@gmail.com

Brandon Handley 31:43
thank you so much for being on today.

Debbie Moran 31:45
My pleasure. Thank you

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Ice Cream & Suffering

Published: July 23, 2021, 11:28 p.m.
Duration: 12 minutes 36 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:01
Good morning Good day whenever I find you this way Hey man so what's going on this morning happy when it's my morning your whenever hope that is a great whenever that you happen to be having got some good podcasts coming up for you this weekend got Debbie more range She is an author she is she has this a special specific modality that she teaches. And I think that that's what's beautiful about the world these days, there's so much that that's opening up where people find a way that has worked for them. And it's been an I think the word is amalgam when you know, it's a mixture of different methodologies combined into a singular one that has proven beneficial for that person. And typically, they're also able to recreate that for someone like yourself. So I encourage you to check that out this weekend. I think that you'll enjoy the conversation with Debbie and hopefully you've been enjoying the conversations that come through time after time. Dude, are you don't you go?

Unknown Speaker 1:19
What are you people doing?

Unknown Speaker 1:21
Please?

Brandon Handley 1:24
Your kindness is slowing everything down. Okay.

Unknown Speaker 1:28
So

Brandon Handley 1:30
the I was just I was just reminded, I heard a trigger word ice cream. And how you know, when when you want something, and you don't have it, there is there's suffering. And it was listening to was listening to my man Swami Ji, Swami servie, or SAR via Priya Nanda. I can say it I know I can't, I can't, I don't have it in front of me. Anyways, Swami Ji is he's given this, he's given this talk. And he's talking about the whole idea of you to want his suffering. And there's two ways that you can go about eliminating that particular suffering. And it goes a little bit like this, it's like if you, if you if you want the ice cream, you have to, you have to figure out how to go get it, right, maybe you don't have any ice cream at home. So now you need to figure out if you've got the money for it. And then you need to either have it delivered. We live in such a society now that first thing we think of is should I just have this delivered rather than leave the house Personally, I would. I'm an adventure. So I like to leave the house to go do things see people experience the experience, whatever that is. And then you have to wait line, you have to decide which particular ice cream you want. And then you get the ice cream. And then once you have the ice cream, the desire to have the ice cream

Unknown Speaker 3:26
has ceased.

Brandon Handley 3:30
And thus, your suffering for the desire of the ice cream has come to an end. Something that Swami shares out is the the other way to eliminate the desire for suffering, or is to simply eliminate that desire for the ice cream, there's a need to have it because once you have made the decision that you desire that ice cream and you make that desire so strong, so powerful. So must that want becomes almost a need that's driving me the only thing that's filling your mind and it won't go away until you've had it. So that suffering lasts for an extended period of time until you get the ice cream now the other the other option is to simply not desire the ice cream. Once you realize that you've got that desire and it's beginning to drive you you can remind yourself that that is suffering you are in the midst of suffering that that desire and that that momentary need that's filling you to have that ice cream. is what's causing you the pain and the suffering? So Your other option is just to say, you know what, I actually, I don't need it. Right, that is a way to end the suffering. And I think that there's a lot of things that we have in our lives that we want to look at. So nobody's saying don't want and don't desire, but realize that that is where the greater portion of your suffering is coming from. And realize that it is your desire for that end state, as the only thing in mind that creates the suffering. And a couple it with the trust the process piece, I know that Megan, I get fun little conversations about this one, she's like, I hate it when people say trust the process,

Unknown Speaker 6:05
right?

Brandon Handley 6:06
And the thing is, is that trust the process, because it works. And what does that mean? explicitly? It means that if you focus on the pieces that take you to the end goal, the individual parts that make up the hole, and you're there now be here now be present, then that's the process, what are the pieces that you believe you need in order to get to your destination, and then the put everything, put all of your energy into those moments. And then the process gets you there, wherever your angle is, almost as a byproduct of just focusing on the process, so the destination, so almost a given should you decide that you're going to put put the time into whatever that process is. And then the final key part of all that is that

Unknown Speaker 7:31
look,

Unknown Speaker 7:33
maybe

Brandon Handley 7:36
just maybe you don't get to that specific and destination, perhaps a scenario is that you've got a sales presentation and you know, that you are presenting versus some other customers or some other competitors. And all you can do is do everything you know how to prepare for the event. Do the research, do your best to understand the customer. put everything together as best as you can. And at that time. And present. And as long as you put everything that you had into it, that's the time that you knew how then there's a good reason to feel good about what you've done. And the other person that really brings this brings us one home is john wooden. Who if you're not familiar with him, super famous basketball coach, who would constantly say, you know, the only person who knows whether when the scoreboard tells one story, right? But the idea is that if you've gone out there and you've given it your best, and in that situation, you know you've won, it's about giving it your best, and being honest with yourself and investing in the process, investing in the small pieces again, that make up the hole and you're going to be able to feel good, you should feel great about what it is that you're doing. And again, this is also just Is that what you want to be doing, you know is is your end are the is the process to a desired end state that is truly desired. And can you align that to your purpose and value so I put a lot into that one for you. But the the initial piece is you can end suffering anytime you'd like most of times if you just realize that It's something that you want. And it's something that you may or may not need. And if it's something that you don't absolutely need, you could just think to yourself, you know what, I can eliminate this suffering right now. And I didn't want that I wanted something else, or I want something else, instead of that, something else is more important than that. And the other piece of this was the idea of wanting something so bad, but then all you want is that end goal, like I want a million dollars of I don't have a right now I'm gonna be miserable for life. So it's very rare that you get a million dollars with the drop of a hat. So there's a process that's involved. There are many, many endless examples of that. And you could follow one and put that into, put that into action in your own life. And follow that process until you find that process is not working for you, and you can switch the processes fine. The thing is, be be there in the moment in the process that you are creating. And do that as best as you can in alignment with purpose and values. And to me, that's sufferings gone then, right? If you look at all those pieces, take all those pieces, he put them together, where is the suffering, the suffering is generally it's in your mind. And if it's in your mind, and your mind is within your control, by focusing on the process, and the idea that something is a want versus a need, then should be pretty good about ending suffering. So there you go. There you have it. I have ended your suffering for life. You are welcome to this weekend for Debbie, and have a great time. Thanks for tuning in. And if you're enjoying this podcast, please share this particular one with a friend and say hey, I have a way for you to end suffering. And here it is. You are welcome. Happy Holidays, enjoy your summer all that jazz. Or you could also go to iTunes. Give me 20 thumbs up five stars and just say hey, you've really enjoyed this podcast and there is actually a way to end suffering. Find out

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Eric Nies | Plant Medicine

Published: July 18, 2021, 3:46 p.m.
Duration: 31 minutes 21 seconds

Hung out with Eric Nies on this episode to better understand his journey and a bit more about plant medicine as well as our connection to the self!

A little bit about Eric:

Eric Nies is best known as the teen idol from MTV’s “The Real World/New York,” the first ever reality show launched in 1992, and the host of one of the world’s most watched dance program, “MTV’s The Grind,” viewed in over 90 million homes around the world. “MTV’s The Grind” became so popular that Eric released “The Grind Workout” a multi-platinum video series. For the following 10 years, Eric made numerous appearances on talk shows, MTV programs including “Real World Challenges,” movies, as well as appeared in magazines and advertising campaigns. As one of reality television’s biggest stars, Eric was inducted into the Television Hall of Fame as one of the “Pioneers of Reality Television.” Throughout his career, Eric’s greatest passion has been to help people, children, and the planet. He has started numerous organizations, movements, and projects to help build awareness for health and well-being for all life on earth.

Connect and follow Eric's journey over at his website: https://iamericnies.com/ as well as on instagram @ericnies333

Brandon Handley 0:41
Hey there spiritual dope. I am on there today with Eric nice, Eric has a he's got what I would call like, you went through like this kind of like a fame addiction, right? Like the fame tunnel kind of came out of that back in the day with a you know, empty V's real world, one of the you know, one of if not the first kind of reality TV show that was going on out there. But since then, you have taken this just incredible journey into like, the spiritual realm, all the way from like, you know, the Korean martial arts masters through like, you know, you've got your hooked up down there in Peru, right with some of these some medicinal practices, Native American practices, and like, these things are super exciting. And he's really glad to have you on here today,

Eric Nies 1:36
man. Yes, thank you very much for having me. Sure.

Brandon Handley 1:40
So one of the things that I always start this podcast off with is the idea is that we're vessels for source, right. And that source is kind of flowing through us at all time. And the idea is that somebody listened to this podcast today. And like I told you, like, so you're gonna change somebody's life today, just by showing up. Eric, right by being on this podcast. And there's a certain message is coming through you that can only be delivered through you to that person. What would you say that messages today?

Eric Nies 2:12
acceptance. Total acceptance of yourself. Unconditional Love of yourself, relationship that you have with yourself is probably the most important thing in somebody's life. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 2:31
What would you say? The that journey kind of look like for yourself? getting to that point?

Eric Nies 2:37
Oh, wow. It's been many, many years. And I've been on a spiritual journey, probably for about 30 years of my life, starting, you know, hero's journey, for me, you know, that just going through many valleys of darkness. Going into these places, you know, into the shadow and into the ego and into the fears and the judgments and the insecurities and all those things that we carry around, you know, with us and, you know, to just go in into the darkness to be able to come out in the lake. I think that's what, you know, my journey pretty much has been all about. Now, for sure, would you

Brandon Handley 3:27
happen to have like, any moment where you feel like you really grasped onto the idea of self acceptance?

Eric Nies 3:34
for yourself, I've had many, many, many moments. Yeah.

Probably about 10 years working with iwoca, and mushrooms. With the passing of meditation, just really wanting to understand how to liberate the soul from from its own suffering. But it wasn't until I started looking into the depths of ancestral lineage programming, and going back into my past lives, to understand you know, why I feel the way that I feel today? What What is, what is my life mean? What, what is the purpose of my life? Why am I here? Where did I come from? Where am I going? Now? What's the bigger picture of why we're here on planet Earth? I don't think many people really have an understanding of, of why we're here. I think you know, that that question lingers in every human's mind. You know, why are Why are we here? You know, who am I? Sure, yeah.

Unknown Speaker 4:55
What's your answer so far? What have you landed on to this point?

Eric Nies 5:00
I think we're all part of a grand experiment between light and dark, kind of like a game. I think it's, you know, it's an experiment that's been going on for a long, long, long time. And I think darkness has has won most of the time, and I believe that there's been resets, you know, I think that's why we see, you know, ancient remnants of ancient civilizations. And so, yeah, I just think it's a game, and how, and how do you play the game is really what it's all about? Sure. So

Brandon Handley 5:38
like, kind of the idea of you are the creator, almost of the game that you're playing? would you would you put it like, into that term?

Eric Nies 5:46
Absolutely. Okay. I mean, we are, you know, we're infinite potential creators, we're obviously creators, because we can create another life. So we're constantly, you know, creating the life that that we're experiencing. Right? So yeah, for sure. We're creators.

Brandon Handley 6:07
And we say, like, kind of a reset you thinking like matrix resets? type deal?

Eric Nies 6:12
I think of, you know, yeah, entire reset of a civilization, you know, looking back to Egypt and Atlantis and the Maria and all these ancient civilizations that were, you know, thriving at one point or another, right, but something happened. And now, where did they go? Right, like,

Brandon Handley 6:33
just the total reset there, um, the, the Grandmaster that you hope hooked up with. And for those of you tuning in, I would recommend just kind of go to, I'm Eric nice and read some more of his story, because I'm gonna, we only have 30 minutes. So I'm gonna dig into some of the questions I've got about your story. Right? So when you hung out with the Grand Master, then this is just more tongue in cheek than not, but like, Did he give you an answer for the pyramids?

Eric Nies 7:01
That's a great question. Yes. What did he say?

Brandon Handley 7:06
Yeah, what was the answer on that one?

Eric Nies 7:09
I mean, they moved. A lot of, you know, ancient civilizations such as Egypt. Their minds were very, very powerful. You know, and we're talking about an infinite possibility of consciousness. You know, we do we kind of live in a society, and in a world now where we're actually accessing that very, very small amounts of of that and actually utilizing consciousness. You know, or not utilizing consciousness the way that it it actually could be used. But yeah, my grand master was, was really profound, he could do things that would just blow your mind.

Brandon Handley 8:00
Very hard to believe. And I let me I love that story, too. Because it makes like, I'm like, that just seems like the ultimate experience. I mean, like, I've watched a lot of Kung Fu, but I never got to have that experience. Like, you know, where the guy goes and gets to stay with the Grandmaster. And like, you did the things that are like, truly like Moody, yes, but this was like, that was your life, and it was legit. And I think that that, like, really cool. So you've been on this journey? I mean, you know, 20, almost 30 years now. Right? Um, one of the things that I think is really cool is that you're using some of this plant based medicine to help people with their addiction recovery. Could you walk me through what that might look like? If I came up to him like, hey, Eric, I'm ready. I'm ready to kick the habit. Let's go on this journey. Can you tell me a little bit about what that may look like?

Eric Nies 8:44
Yeah, sure. Well, I mean, on the physical level, if you have to, obviously detox the physical body, from the chemicals and the drugs, that person's using in those things, they come with a heaviness, a frequency and a vibration that is much heavier. You know, then you are in your air, fire, water and earth, Earth shoot Earth suit. You know, so on the physical side of things, you have to go through a very deep detox, you know, once we go through the physical part of it, and then we get into the emotional and psychological reasons for why you are addicted. Where does that come from? What's the root cause of your addiction? And so then that gets into the subconscious mind that gets into your childhood that gets into traumas, and all different things that have happened to you not only in this life, but in your past lives. Understand why you behave the way that you behave. And we look at the emotional content of your behavior. Why do you behave the way that you behave? And are your emotions controlling you? Or are you controlling your emotions? And so then you have the physical, the emotional and the psychological and the bring them all together, and it becomes a spiritual journey. But the real understanding is, you know, ancestral lineage programming, you know, how were you imprinted and program from these behavior patterns from your family?

Brandon Handley 10:33
And you do like you say, you kind of you kind of goes down like this quantum cellular reprogramming level. Can you talk a little bit more, share a little bit more about what that's like? And you know, what goes into that?

Eric Nies 10:47
You're talking about quantum cellular, I think you're talking about the cyber

Brandon Handley 10:51
skin. Is that is that what I'm talking about? Because Yeah, there it is the quantum cellular balancing. Right? Yes, about that.

Eric Nies 10:57
That's a Tesla technology. That was a device that was created by a German physicist that uses, you know, quantum quantum physics to to help to heal the body. But that that's outside.

Brandon Handley 11:12
Yeah, sorry. That's outside of the addiction recovery. Like that's something separate from that.

Eric Nies 11:17
Yeah, that that that was a business that I was a part of, of my business, I would use it sometimes for rehabilitation, but it's not really necessary. The real key is getting to the root cause of the issue. Once you find the root cause of the issue, then the addiction is over. Right. Now, what about

Brandon Handley 11:41
plant medicine involved? The Addiction Recovery? Is that a part of the process as well?

Eric Nies 11:48
Yeah, can be amid the program that I created, which is called the beauty way, which I've been using for about 15 years. Plant medicine is not a part of that. But in some cases, if there's a lot of resistance, and they need to, like break through the different things that are happening with the individual plant medicine could be very, very beneficial. Like I was gonna actually does the work for you. So my program would be bringing somebody into the desert for three to four weeks. It's it's all natural superfoods breath, work, grounding, meditation, you know, really diving into, you know, that person's childhood. But with Iosco you just drink Iosco, what I call the rails. Yeah, hold the rails and attend the shows everything.

Brandon Handley 12:46
You fair fair enough. Yeah. Um, you know, one of the things that I think, you know, I read your documentary, and I listened to something you were doing last year doing this, you know, taking in this plant medicine, right? He's, I think it was like three, three plants that you were you know, getting to know, right, you had to know me no loud music, no sex with yourself or anybody else. Like I mean, is that journey complete? Where are you at in that process?

Eric Nies 13:16
Um, yeah, that's a data that I was on for about a year you diet these specific plants, either for healing or for the transfer of knowledge. But yeah, my my idea to is it's close since then.

Brandon Handley 13:35
would you would you mind sharing Would you be able to share the plants that you can you did the journey with and what some of the takeaways were with that?

Eric Nies 13:43
Yeah, absolutely. The the first two that I dieted for eight months was run Akita and swell the can swelled up, and when Akita is, is actually a tree, and it assists you with rage and anger and swell the welder is a plant and that's more for a heart opener also swelled as well the console is used to help heal your, your skeletal structure. So I had issues with my spine, I had a couple of slipped slipped discs that I that I wanted to work on and so they suggested swell that can swell the for that and then read Akita was for rage and anger that I was holding on to from traumas in my childhood. And morosa is the third plant that I diet and she's considered the queen of the aquatic kingdom. And she she's more of a heart opener as well. She's very beautiful and loving and kind and so my process was to heal from the traumas in my life and the plants helped me to do that. And that At the same time, they helped me to open up my heart and to, you know, walk a life of beauty and unconditional love with no judgment.

Brandon Handley 15:13
I think that's really cool. I think that first one, the rage release or one, I think that needs to be sold like in bulk right across, like, across the country, right? I think we could all use a little bit of that. And I want to kind of flip back to, right before you got into this space, you know, as you were doing like a bunch of book club and and, you know, the club music accuracy and all this other stuff. You know, seems like back in the early mid 90s. I was in the same scene, right? Similar scene, you were you were leading the scene. I was like, you know, showing up? But like, do you would you attribute any kind of like, you know, the music or any of like, the interaction it that time and space in place to get you to where you are today? Because I think, you know, Oh, yeah, yeah, if you're part of like any of the rave culture or anything like that, that was going on, it was all about like some of this stuff that we're talking about right now.

Eric Nies 16:16
I've had some incredible experiences in the club scene with ecstasy and ketamine and mushrooms and and all that. I mean, yes, I was still in a deep house said. So my vibe is more deep soulful house music. But if you are familiar with deep soulful house music and the where that originated from, you know, came from basically from churches in Chicago. And so very deep spirit, as a very deep spiritual side to the type of house music that I listened to. Right. And the messages are very, very spiritual. So it it assisted me keeping me alive and almost killing me at the same time, but the messages in the music really inspired me and opened up my mind to go on my spiritual journey. Yeah, so

Brandon Handley 17:23
the curious about that, right. Because I agree with you, there's that there's that whole soulful, you know, vocal house music fan myself, right. And the messaging like you're talking about, it's like, it's uplifting, it's soulful. And you know, if I can dance it out a little bit, like, I'm okay with that at the end of the day, right? versus like, I don't know, some of the other messages that you get from somebody. So just it was just curiosity piece. Um, so the last kind of part of your documentary left us with you getting connected with this like Angel guy, right. And just kind of like this felt like there was a felt like, there was a cusp of transcendence happening right there. We want to talk a little bit about, you know, where we left off, and Eric nice documentary online, and, you know, kind of what's happened after that?

Eric Nies 18:16
Yeah, that's it, that guy's from Australia. And he mastered john, he communicates with angels. And I, a friend of mine invited me to go to his event. And I went, and then at the end of the event, they just by choice, they choose a couple of people that can go sit with him. And, yeah, just by chance, he, he chose me, and I can't really remember exactly, he was, it was just, I get a lot of confirmation, you know, intuitively, being on a spiritual journey, I have a lot of psychics and a caustic readers and mediums and grandmasters and shamans. And, you know, my life is just really about angels and demons. And so I get little bits of information about my life, about my path and my purpose and all those things, you know, year after year after year after year. So he was just another another guy, another healer that came into my life that was you know, reaffirming and confirming, you know, a lot of things that happened to me in my life, and from my life purpose.

Brandon Handley 19:42
I gotcha. So, as I'm kind of reading your story, I'm thinking of like you mentioned, Joseph Campbell's like, you know, the, the hero's journey right earlier. I'm thinking of like, you know, also just kind of surrendering yourself right to whatever kind of comes your way Way, has that been a big part of what you've done? Just kind of surrender to it and follow your bliss?

Eric Nies 20:08
Oh, absolutely. I mean, really, at the end of the day of the hero's journey, you put all of your trust into source into God, and trust that, you know, your soul, set things up a certain way. And by, you know, surrendering, you know, you, you actually can make your life a whole lot easier and a lot more magical. If you just get out of the way.

Brandon Handley 20:40
For sure. Absolutely.

Eric Nies 20:42
I mean, that's really the biggest problem for most is the mind getting in the way, and creating judgment, creating these stories that are not even real. So, you know, identifying your fears and your judgments, and being able to work through those and heal your you know, heal the inner child is the like the first step, but my path has been, you know, healing my ancestral lineage. So this goes back 1000s of years.

Brandon Handley 21:20
Like, very, if you were gonna describe somebody to somebody like what it means to heal your ancestral lineage, what would you say?

Eric Nies 21:33
Yes, so, you know, you're talking about your ancestors, you're talking about, you know, program, right, we're talking about behavioral programming, that gets passed down from one generation to the next, to the next to the next to the next, and it just keeps on going. So you know, the different behavioral programs that we inherit, from our ancestors, there's different types of behavior patterns. You know, a lot of us most, you know, we all we all deal with abuse on, you know, one level or another, whether it's physical abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, or even spiritual abuse. And so this has been going on for 1000s and 1000s, of 1000s of years, here on this planet, you know, this, this planet is really a slave planet, to fear and judgment. But, you know, fear is something that we create, in our own minds, it's actually not real, it's an illusion. It's like the great illusion. And it's what keeps all of us collectively and consciously slaves to something that isn't even real. And this is, this is what the whole experience is about. So, ancestral lineage, healing, and the liberation of the soul. This is something that Jesus and Buddha spoke about. And it's their teachings that were left behind. You know, Buddha and Jesus both realize how to liberate themselves, from their own suffering. And what that looks like, is basically objective observation of the sensations or the suppressed emotion that are in your body. So if you can objectively look at yourself without judging yourself and without clinging to some blissful experience, and not judging, some gross experience, you can find the middle lane which Buddha, coining probably the word I think this word probably came from Buddha, which is equanimity, you know, to live your life economist and find the middle lane. You know, then you can find yourself in a very peaceful and harmonious place with yourself, and with nature, and humanity and the plant kingdom and the animal kingdom, and everything that exists here on planet Earth. And so the reason why you want to do that is because we live on a planet of duality. You have negative and you have positive energy here. Well, you don't want to go too far into the negative and you don't want to go too far into the positive because both can bring suffering. You want to find the middle lane, the quantumness Lane. And based off of my own personal experience, you know, this is just based off of what I've experienced in my own life. This isn't about reading a book or, you know, somebody else's teaching when working with plant medicine, and also working with possum, meditation, you know, that's where I've gone within myself personal was to look at the vibrations and the frequencies of the experiences that I've had in my life that my physical body hold on to energetically. But these, these, these, these frequencies in these energies, if they're not, if they're not in harmony and imbalance with air, fire, water and earth,

then they cause a disruption in your personal field. And then that can come with anxiety, depression, you know, where the physical body feels uncomfortable. But what Buddha experienced was the liberation of that, the release of all of that energy, not just from this life, but from your past lives. Because you bring that energy with you, your soul, your soul carries information, and frequency, and energy and vibration with it from one life to the next to the next to the next to the next. And it's also within your DNA. So that's ancestral lineage, healing, it's healing and transforming the energy of your lineage that is passed down from generation, the generation generation.

Brandon Handley 26:52
Awesome. So that means is, you know, just thinking like you're talking about, like, all these kind of like, energies come mishmash, together throughout time, I'm just thinking like, a messy ball a string, right? That you just got to spend time to undo right and, and loosen it up. So there's not a big, big old tangled mess. You know, thanks for thanks for sharing that. What is like something that you haven't been able to share out on a podcast or a platform that you've just been wanting to share out

Eric Nies 27:22
about that at all. I'm completely transparent with my life and all my experiences. vulnerability is my best friend. You know, I'm just here to be transparent, and to be fearless in my expression of everything that's happened to me, in my life. You know, if you look on my website, and you read my story, then you can see obviously, that I'm not shy about sharing everything that I've experienced. Now for sharing,

Brandon Handley 27:53
you've definitely shared some stuff understanding

Eric Nies 27:55
is that transparency and vulnerability is going to liberation.

Brandon Handley 28:02
Nice. The so what's next for you? Eric? I know you were talking about doing a healing temple sounds like you finished up with this. The plant journey what's what's next on dock for you?

Eric Nies 28:18
Yeah, I'm working on a book right now. And a second book coming through and earthkeeper book connecting with the people to create our temple you know, guiding people and assisting people sharing information with other people to help them to understand how to liberate themselves from their own suffering, and just exploring and journey around the world to share this information.

Brandon Handley 28:47
That's fantastic. That's awesome. Who should be reaching out to your click? I mean, are you do you know, what type of work are you doing right now and who should be reaching out to you?

Eric Nies 29:00
what people should be reaching out

Brandon Handley 29:02
like if they wanted if they want to work with you, are you still doing are you still doing like Addiction Recovery? Are you you know, saw your coaching So what kind of

Eric Nies 29:14
I am Yeah, I'm actually I'm going to be hosting a retreat here and in peace, AK and the sacred valley of Peru at the end of July. And yeah, anybody that's interested in healing and transforming their lives, wanting to understand how to liberate themselves from their own suffering. Anybody the whole World Fair enough. Fair enough. The

Brandon Handley 29:41
whole world's invited so wish we send everybody to connect with you where I am Eric nice, calm. Where else?

Eric Nies 29:51
Yeah, I am Eric. Nice, calm and then also my I got an Instagram channel into Derek. Nice. I think it's there. Nice. Three, three. Three from not mistaken. But yeah, pretty much Graham and also Facebook. I got a Facebook channel where I've taken, I got about 1515 years of footage. And we just finished documenting two weeks here in Peru with an Iowa Oscar retreat. And all of that is going to be available on my Facebook page on my fan page. Yeah, it's

Brandon Handley 30:35
awesome. Now that's pretty that's pretty, pretty intense. 15 years and then, you know, just this past couple weeks of Iosco well look man, I just want to say thanks for taking the time for showing up today. And you doing what you're doing, I think, opens it up for a lot of other people like your vulnerability, your journey, kind of what's possible if you do follow your bliss and being able to have a wonderful life if you kind of surrender to it the way that you have.

Eric Nies 31:08
Yeah, brother. Well, thank you very much for having me, Brandon and many blessings for you and your family on your journey. And I look forward to seeing what magic you create in your life. Appreciate it.

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Creating the Muse

Published: July 15, 2021, 11:52 a.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 32 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
Good morning, it's time to get up and go to work. And it's always been one of my favorite lines from the Beastie Boys, right? I don't remember what song that leads into. But it was always great. It's got it's got to be on Paul's boutique. Right? Paul's boutique was always one of my favorites. I still remember, still remember finding Paul's boutique for the first time? Like what the hell? Where's this? Ben? Right? Where has this been? such an amazing album. So Meg, and I go back and forth often on the whole idea of, of obviously, forcing something but needing to be have a muse, right, needing to have a muse needing the moment to be right to launch into your artwork or your thing, whatever it is that you do. And I think that, um, I think that what can happen is that you always wait for like that perfect moment. And sometimes the Muse doesn't strike you or or like, you've got so much. You've got so much riding on that muse. And you won't do something, because you're waiting for that perfect moment. And I was thinking about that this morning, as I was like, man, I really don't have a whole lot to share, per se. Or is it really the fact that you're kind of waiting for that perfect something. And a lot of times, and I don't do it as often as I'd like. But also there and I'll write it out. Sometimes the podcast some of the early podcasts that I did, especially with, especially with setting up the the beginning, the divine, to divine peace, right, when I did the framework for that, definitely set that up went through each one wrote it all out. And it was definitely well thought out, I felt like it was well thought out, at least it was thought out there was a completion it was done before it was done, as it were, the framework was there and I created it. And then, um, you know that that process in of itself was like, Alright, well, when you got the idea, just flush it out. And you just got you got the idea, just do it and take one run at it. And you always have the opportunity to take another run at it. But the deal is, is like, if you keep building a resistance, you know, to this thing that you want to do. But you don't feel like you've got the perfect thing that you can do for it, then you'll always kind of you always have that resistance there. It'll always be there. And you may never you may never, you may never overcome like that, that that tiny, tiny thing, right? That moment of perfection that moment of I know I can do so much better than this. This is crap.

You Why would I do? Why would I do this this thing and it's not the greatest. And I bring that up like I said this morning, I was like, you know, I haven't done them for a while. And I miss I miss doing all canaries sorry. You don't see them that often. The deal is is like you don't you get kind of stuck in like this pattern, right? You get stuck in a rut of not doing the thing that you want to do. So you never do it. And, you know, I would encourage you as you're, you know, thinking about that thing that you want to do, right? I'm doing the course a creative personal mastery with us. Sreekumar Rao, what a great course. And this week, we're doing a couple two different things. And the two different things that we're going through our mindfulness, which I feel you know, I I'm fairly mindful, I'm not perfect at it by any stretch of the imagination. But I am much more present much more aware and much more mindful these days than I have been in the past 40 years. I can definitely I can definitely say that. And the other piece is being bigger than your problem. Being bigger than the situation. I think being bigger than the situation is better than saying bigger than the problem. That's where this this comes in. That's the idea of, of what we're doing today is be bigger than the situation be bigger than where you're at and saying something to yourself like, well, this isn't perfect, well, maybe it's not perfect. But that's what begins the light leak. That's what begins the crack in the dam. That's what begins the everything for you, right, as soon as you begin to open up and let it trickle, you begin to let it trickle. And then it just it just at some point, it doesn't stop, it blows it all up, right blows it through. And I guess it creates an erosion effect of the dam. And over time, each little bit that you take action on each little piece is one more step closer to where it is that you want to be. And who it is that you say you would like to be. When you when you go through this process, are you making a left, I'm making a left, we're both making a left, I don't trust you ready? 123. All right, thanks for not hitting me, when when we both win, when you begin to take those steps towards the thing that you say you want to do. No matter how small no matter how imperfect, you begin to erode that dam and you begin to step more confidently. And what I mean by that, think about the baby steps. And if you haven't raised a child, then think about when you see a baby horse, right, a full, full, taking some of its first steps, and, and those legs are super wobbly. And they don't know, the horse doesn't know, the baby doesn't know, it doesn't have confidence in their capability of their limbs, and how are they going to work. And the next thing, you know, you can't find can't find the child. And and next thing you know, you've got that one year old, full, who's now cold is running. I think they usually three years old, but you know, they're running, they're running races, the run races that are literally running circles around you know, something else. And the idea is, once you begin to get your bearing, once you begin to get past that moment of, I guess it's like insecurity, of whether or not you feel like you have the perfect thing to say, you know, you begin to develop that confidence in yourself. And then you begin to just enjoy being that person who you are, there's a lot more joy in letting, letting anything out really anything that you express good or bad. But especially when you express something that is in line with who you believe yourself to be at that

time. And I say it like that because over time you're going to evolve and change and and i think that that's very important to realize and recognize as well. Your core ideas and beliefs may always be your core ideas and beliefs. But over time, like there's going to be the the the surroundings of those core ideas and beliefs are going to change and evolve and expand and whatnot. So who what is it that's in your life right now that you you've been you know, kind of waiting for the perfect moment where you've been waiting to shine your light, right? Like I wrote, I wrote something the other day that really talked about this talking about it was a quote talking about coming out of decisions made and fear are never as good as the ones that made are made and like the feeling of abundance and whatnot and when when you when you begin to open up right when you begin to shine, that light when you begin to feel who you are right the fear begins to recede and you begin to you begin, you begin to feel again, right you begin to feel safe again, you begin to feel whole again, as who you are, again within intention of being, being who and what you want to be. And to me, that's, that's very powerful. As you it'll allows you to see, it just allows you to feel more comfortable with who you are, right? And it doesn't, it doesn't have to be a big thing. What is it that you want to do that would be in alignment with who you are, that you kept yourself from doing. Because you feel like the moment needs to be perfect, or you feel like the moments not perfect. But all you got to do is just start, all you've got to do is just take one small action into into that space, and you'd begin to see yourself as the person that you you've been telling yourself that you are all this time. And to me, and for me, you know, this is all from experience. zahl from from experience for me and starting my first podcast and starting my second third, and being that person and being in alignment. And continuing to I don't want to say evolve, expand, I would say expand on the ideas that that I have had interactions that I've had and expand on who it is that I've become Who who are you being in the end, right? Who is it that you want to be and start showing up like that. And again, once you start taking those small, incremental steps into that, then you're going to feel you're going to you're going to feel that self confidence, you're going to begin to feel more at home. with yourself, which is which is kind of it's ironic, right? You're going to begin to feel that confidence. And when you do, you step into that. That's what everybody's always talking about kind of stepping into your power, right step into your power. Fuck the people that are like, stupid to your power. Or like you're stepping into your greatness. I remember talking to people at a convention years ago, and people really want to shy away from the fact that they are already great, right shying away from this, the idea that you are already everything that you need to be in order to be who you would like to be. And that's it. That's great. You know, everybody's wants the ideas, like everybody's endowed with the seeds of greatness. Right? You're, it's up to you to kind of nurture that and make it so and become the person that you'd like to become and in alignment with all the things. So hopefully, you know, like I said, so this one started off with like, just the idea of like, I just want to get in and do it again. I

haven't done one for a while. And for me, I feel like that came out. Okay. Right. And for me, I feel good because I got in and did it today, right? It's kind of like when you go to the gym, right? You don't. You don't always want to go to the gym. But when you're done, you're always glad that you went Alright, that's it guys take it easy and hit me up on spiritual dope Brandon at spiritual dope.co

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Tracy Lamourie | Elevating and Celebrating Your Message

Published: July 11, 2021, 4:57 p.m.
Duration: 36 minutes 53 seconds

Tracy Lamourie,a high profile international award winning publicist, is he Founder and Managing Director of Lamourie Media Inc. a Universal Women's Network 2020 Woman of Inspiration Winner for the Women In Media award and the author of the upcoming book GET REPPED - Build Your Brand With Effective Public and Media Relations. She is a well known long time advocate on a myriad of important worldwide issues and an award-winning international publicist working across industries from major entertainment projects to small businesses. Tracy is passionate about amplifying important messages and being a voice for those who most need one. Recognized by media around the world for her 20-year campaign tht ultimately helped free an innocent man from death row to her work getting clients major media attention and for her local community work, she is the winner of the FIRST PLACE PLATINUM award Hamilton Spectator ReadersChoice for PR 2018, Diamond 2019.A frequent guest on TV, radio and high profile podcasts around the world on topics of leadership, empowerment, and entrepreneurship as well as all aspects of media and public relations.

Connect with Tracy: http://www.lamouriemedia.com/

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you've questioned so much more than those around you. You've even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? And why do people in general appear so limited to this thought process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can't quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask. But you the answers to questions about you this world, the people in it? And most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don't claim to have all the answers but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another hit of spiritual dub with your host Brandon Handley. Let's get right to today's episode.

Brandon Handley 0:40
Hey there spiritual dope I'm on today with a special guests are all special, aren't they? Tracy Laurie is a high profile international award winning publicist and is the Founder and Managing Director of lemare Media Incorporated, a universal Women's Network 2020 woman of inspiration winner for the women in Media Award and author of the upcoming book, get wrapped. Those are brands with effective public and media relations. She is a well known longtime advocate on a myriad of important worldwide issues and an award winning international publicists working across industries, from major entertainment projects to small businesses, there is more you're gonna have, you're gonna have to go figure it out for yourself and check into that. Tracy, super excited to have you here. easily start these off with I know, we talked a little bit about, you know, kind of your spiritual journey, how you feel about woowoo. But we're just gonna throw this one out there anyways, for you, um, you know, kind of believe in the idea that, you know, source speaks through us at all times. Right. And while you and I are gonna have this conversation, there's a message coming through you today that somebody is going to hear on this podcast that can only be delivered through you. What is that message today?

Tracy Lamourie 1:53
Oh, I hope it's I hope at the end of the day, it's in line or not even lightning, just positive one. And I think that not that toxic positivity stuff, but the kind of positivity, where you walk away from it. You know, actually, yeah, I feel better. You know, I feel pretty good and pretty pumped now that I heard that they can do that. So, which is a lot that's spirituality too, because if we're not, you know, vibing on the right, you know what I mean? If we're not on the right, what do you even, you know, we take ourselves to different, like, if you're not on the radar, since I came into the world, but you know, that synchronicity or that, like, if we're vibing, low, we're gonna like it slow for vibing Hi, good things happen. So I feel like you're positive, you're open. So you want your you know, you want to be

Brandon Handley 2:40
positive? Yeah, absolutely. You know, you want to have that. You want to be on the right frequency. But thank you, for so so it was funny that Tracy, I was looking, I was looking at some of your profile, some of the people that you worked with, and some of the events that you've been in. While this is a spiritual dope podcast, I see. You've done some cannabis business ones as well. Right. So

Tracy Lamourie 3:07
for me, I mean, I was a Medical Cannabis Patient, but there are people who, you know, like that right? and stuff. So

Brandon Handley 3:13
yeah, yeah, look, I mean, it's like, it's all part of it. Right? You know, you can't convince me otherwise. And you know, just because just because somebody says, Yeah, it doesn't mean whatever. Anywho. So I think, you know, one of the things that we're going to talk about today is actually the genesis of how this podcast got started, which was, I've met up with a woman named Regina Lawrence, who had a pretty great spiritual, spiritual marketing business. That's right. And I think, I think the idea here is, you know, you've got some tools, and you've worked with some clients in the past, who have elevated their own spirituality, brand and blend and taking themselves out of this corner of like, you know, being like, why me or I shouldn't be the one. Let's talk about how, you know, somebody can leverage some PR to share their spiritual message, and quite possibly even make money a business out of it, heaven forbid, right? So let's talk about what that looks like. Or you know, just talk about maybe what you specialize and then we can get into

Tracy Lamourie 4:19
it all once. So basically, my business started because I was getting it wasn't to look for a company that would make me the most money or to you know, all the great things that happened to me as a result of this amazing PR company that started none of that was in my mind's eye was literally helping another person. And then the skills that I built over the years helping that person who ended up with an innocent man who was on death row was was released 20 years later, so factually innocent, but that's but my part of that story is the skills that I developed in terms well I mean, that was just volunteers that just out of passion and wanting to help this person who you know, like honestly, I'm so grateful that we that he's out because he taught us to have him on your on your podcast one day took them spiritual message, but um, Yeah, so basically, you know, we don't we can be, you know, I think it's a actually, it just struck me that I wanted to say this, because you know, we talk about spirituality, you talk about being chosen for something, or they feel called to something. And that's not the kind of language I normally use. But that's not in my vernacular, right. But when I look back on a 20 year campaign that I literally started as a 28 year old with zero money, no skills in this stuff. No, you know, it's like, it was fun, though, not because we were dumb enough or cared enough to be dumb enough to think we could make a difference. Who knows. But it's like that was assigned to us. That crazy thing that you couldn't even imagine, you know, we didn't think of it in those terms then. But you know, when you look back on it, what how did we how and why did we get it was it became a lifetime thing, like we're 51 for 2120 years, we do that campaign. And since then, it's been five years since Jimmy's been released, we still, you know, friends, we're now the republicans. He's a singer. And now we have a veto. We do that sounds good. But I mean, really, I think something like you call or you, you may feel like a spark and then even say, who calls you or whatever, but you're in a position. You are, you know, you are like there's a spark there that you can set off and that you can do something, but most people don't, because we don't have the confidence in ourselves, or we don't feel like, oh, why would it be me that would I can't do that. I can't. And that reminds me of the reasons it struck me even those Bible stories, you know, where all of a sudden God but like, and I'm not saying I'm by God, but all of us, every human being for whatever thing, right? You know, those stories, like God would say, do this, and then they'd be like, but me I'm not capable of that. I can't ever do that. I'm not the one pick someone more powerful. I'm not even a big Bible reader. But that's like a theme. There's a couple things you got in the Bible, right? where people were like, God specifically told them to do this. And they were like, well, it's not me pick someone else. So I think we all just say pick someone else, whether whether we believe it's a God doing that, whether we believe it's an idea whether we believe whatever it is, we often think that we're not good enough, like pick someone else. To do those big things. Someone else should be doing any I'll follow and do a little bit. But I think to me, my spiritual message that I've learned in my life is like you are called on to do less things. Everyone of us, not just me, Tracy, or you, Brandon, but all of us. And if we don't, we're leaving part of our responsibility behind you know, so when you do those good things, good things happen. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 7:21
So I mean, right. So you're speaking, just speaking the right language. Right. Yeah. And in terms of, you know, definitely following that spark, right. There's that spark that you? A lot of people will call that, if you're a fan of Joseph Campbell, and I'm not sure if you are the hero's journey for our myth, right? So it's the idea that that's the hero's call, right? That spark that that you kind of heard, right, that you felt it's kind of like the hero's call, and you can you can reply to it. Right? You can say, you know, not me, not today, but it's not really ever gonna go away. But it sounds like what happened was, you kind of had the hero's call, and you just answered it, you're like, Yeah, why not? Right. And the thing that happens is really is what you're saying is that, you know, once you, you hit on something to like, what you say you're dumb enough to believe that, you know, we can make a difference? Well, all you got to do is start taking that action. And the thing is, is like, exactly that first step. Yeah. You could, you could, since you've never done it before, you didn't know a wrong way to do it, really. So you just went ahead. And

Tracy Lamourie 8:32
I think that's, I think that's how I I think that's my whole career right there. Not just that activism. But really, that's so funny, because like, after all that I thought it at 40 went, Oh, gee, you know, wait a minute, I don't have to do a million sales calls. Now for something I don't care about. How many says 15 years of like, really effective work that I could. And when I finally thought, gee, I could be it's gonna call the public. That's, you know, I could like, wait a minute. But yeah, that's exactly the kind of thing I didn't I never met a publicist. Until recently, I didn't read any publicist books. I didn't go to any public school, or I just learned how public public image so if I was trying to build a public image, like, you know, meaning not like build an image, but like, show that celebrate show you what you do, what would I do I do this I do. So I just made it all up to the point where an LA client of my hood fire like, previous la publicists tire me literally said, you know, you don't do more than like other publicists. And now that now I'm like, I didn't even know cuz I didn't know what the perimeters were. I just knew well, well, you know, so it's exactly what you say, you just got to make sure. Like, it's a good thing. It's a good thing after all.

Brandon Handley 9:34
Yeah, I mean, I think it's great, right? That one of the one of the big things in you know, social media space today, and I think for the past year or so, it's been like this. You got to be your authentic self, right. You know, be your authentic self, this and how to be authentic. And sounds like you just went ahead and you were authentic. Anyways, you know, details be damned, and you're like, well, this is kind of how we're doing it. And we're doing it in a way that it sounds To me, like, it resonated with the person that you already were right? It's not like you were doing something you didn't like to do. Because if I'm reading a lot of your testimonials, it's like they love I mean, you can hear the energy that you bring here, right on the podcast, I love the energy that you bring, you're enthused to do the work and you just kind of enjoy what it is that you get the opportunity to do. What would you say? Like when I think about what a marketer does, when I think about what a coach does, and when I think about like, kind of sales, I always think about that, you're really just trying to bring out the best of what your client has to offer. How would you How would you? You know, what would you say PR is?

Tracy Lamourie 10:45
I hit on this in the podcast, because somebody said, you know, they was talking about how they like, I really like you. And I always thought that publicist is more like, you know, like, Hi, you know, they thought that publicist is just what we think of as PR. But the bad, the politician is nasty, and you need somebody in there to make it look like that. You know, a person instead of a sow's ear, or whatever it is, right. But no, so it's not spin, I could do spin. I mean, I'm good at words, but I don't like and that's not what I do. Like, I like to do it, because I take on people that I like what they're doing. They're ethical people doing good things, whether it's a creative, or whether it's a small business person, or you know, whatever. It's the person that's doing it that I connect with, that's a human that hires me that I trust, and I like, right. And then yeah, so I say it's about PR isn't about spin, at least the way I do it, what I do is what else this just hit me in a podcast, like it was from God. And, and then I've been quoting it ever since elevating, and celebrating, literally elevate and celebrate. So what they're already doing awesome things, but about hiding it or or, or reshaping it, or boxing them into what they should look like. because like you said, Authenticity, and genuine is huge. To me, it's what I do in my business. It's what I preach. It's what I advise, when I see people trying to win, people don't really understand what that means that the lack of self confidence are trying to be phony, but they're trying to be what they think people would expect to see someone in that position would be like, at the other day, I had a potential client he was like, and actually his story is a spiritual one, which I didn't even know to the beginning. Because he approached me for a business, you know, he's like that this thing, business idea, whatever, blah, blah. And he's like, no, yeah, I can help you with that. No problem. As we're talking, he really connected with me and be like, you know what I wanted to ask you, I feel like because I have this other thing I want to do. I'm writing this book, which was about, I don't know, his whole spirit. He mentioned that was spiritual to what he used. And so but he didn't really break down yet what the details were, but that he was like, but you know, I don't want to confuse you. I want to hire you as a process. And I want to have this new public image. But I don't want to confuse people. Because here I am the entrepreneur with this message helping entrepreneurs. And then I had this book, and I was the guy. And I was thinking about it. Like in the terms of the way he phrased it for me. And I said, Hold on a minute, wait a minute, stop being not genuine. And he's like, What do you mean? Because he wasn't? I was thinking about what you're saying. You're like, how should I present myself here? What would be the correct? And then what would be good? When you get that you're saying there's two completely different things, but they're not, they're both you, they're you. And it doesn't mean that you're going to be talking about the spiritual side when you're in a hard business audience or that you're going to be talking about the opposite. But I mean, they're both legitimately you made of you and your experiences. Now, it doesn't mean when you stand on stage, you may be talking about one, you may be talking about the other, you may not at all mentioned the other, or you might it doesn't matter there, it's not separate. They're not two different things. It's one it's you, you talking about different things in different forums. So, but he thought that that was like, going to confuse the public. And why does that confuse because you want to create nothing you want to be you think you have to create this public image? And I don't want to confuse that public image. No, no, that's Tracy right there. And that's Tracy there. And it's true. Your trade. You know, it's the same Tracy whether I'm talking about like you brought up the cannabis, if I talked about my cannabis advocacy from 10 years ago as a medical patient, I hope Yeah, that's what I did. I did that too, you know, and the definitely thing like, I could go on to podcast how the hard business podcast I talked about, and when people say to me, books, they all do. Tell me about how you got started in PR. I couldn't say oh, well, you know, I learned to write a press release and advocacy work. And then I decided to make it a business. And that's true. There's no lie there. But you know, what, if I don't tell their story about Jimmy, it's not because I want people to think you know, I'm awesome. And I started to charity. But if I don't tell that story, you get a whole different picture of who Tracy is. Now I'm just an international award winning publicist. That's not even who I want to be if you don't understand that there's a deep social active component out to me, you know that because I didn't get famous to be famous publicist, you know, I didn't like this.

Brandon Handley 14:27
Right. And so that's also another piece of of, I think, a lot of people's journey, right? Like they see maybe they see Tracy as as international award winning publicist, and they want to do the things that you did to get there, but you did it with a different intent, right, what was internal what the internal drive was to get you to where you are today, was really, you know, if you want to play whoo for a minute is really what gave provision to you to create this business. So that you could do this, this deed, right so that you can run this 20 year campaign, right?

Tracy Lamourie 15:05
No, that was after he was out by the truckload. I guess we started the business while he was still in. But yeah, it was close to the end. But yeah, that's, it's, it's just everything you say you made me think of like other things. I'm thinking about things in a different way, in this podcast that normally, you know, because of the whole tournament, but yeah, it's true.

Brandon Handley 15:21
So I mean, and again, right, like if we do like any it's just you put out like this such a high vibration of love giving kindness and and like you said, was this idea of leaving the world a better place? And you know, kind of when you when you found it, so why wouldn't it work out for you? Right? Like, why wouldn't it work out for you, if that's your if that's what is driving you now, then I bring that up, because there's a lot of people that want to go be publicists just to make money just to get rich and XYZ. And while there's nothing wrong with that, they're not gonna find like the same ease of way that you're doing it like you're talking about this guy, right? You talking about this potential client, he's got, he's got this business image. And he's got this guy who he really is just has a fever to be, right. And he goes, Well, I don't want to I don't want to confuse people. But why should those two be separate? Right? Because he's gonna have, he's already having a challenge with creating this image of who he wants people to see. And he's got this longing to be the person that he is.

Tracy Lamourie 16:16
Yeah, this put it all together. It's the same person, you know, like, it's, but also one thing, too, when you said that thing, the really nice ones that you just said about, you know, doing this kindness, and why shouldn't the good things happen? It's funny, because I'm not like, I'm not a really religious person, you can tell when I want to even say to this, like talking about God, I even get uncomfortable, you know, because it's not really like, but it's, but it's like God saying to me, it snapped out of it. Because like, everything had shown me all the time. Really, it's like, seriously, you're not? How do you not believe this is from another? Like, there's no, you know, it's really hard to maintain that. Especially when my husband said to me, he was definitely a believer. And he said to me, I'm like, What did he say? He says, you know, he's going to probably, oh, all these crazy good things that have thrown me like, How is this even happening? How are we like, how am I even in the position where I'm talking to this person? Or could it be the publicist for this? Or like, how I literally, I was working in a call center 20 years ago, where I'll be like, how did this you know, and my husband is like, because you know, not only the Jimmy Dennis thing, but as we got involved with a dot, they've opened their eyes with the whole death penalty, we won't go into too much. But like, we for a while that we were like, really serious advocates of the death penalty in general, from guilty people, innocent people, just the whole system in general was like, really disturbing to us early 20s. And so through our work that we did, speaking to people, not the way we do is the only person that we were like, really had a campaign for an innocence campaign. But we spoke about the death penalty was but what other issues whenever, and there were people, even guilty people, people who were executed people who were like, because I don't know whether they did wrong, whatever, but you know, when they're alone in that moment between them and God, you know, before they're gonna get killed, or 20 1020 years after whatever they did, and they're alone in the cell, wondering, whatever they did to get whatever people go through in their mind when, I don't know, I've never been in that situation. But I believe that more a lot of people are not necessarily the person that we think they are, when they're going through those years of introspection alone with themselves in their garden, their darkness, you know, and my husband said to me, do you know cuz I know cuz he wrote to us and said it. There was a guy that was destitute in 2000. I have no idea if it was guilty or not named Stacy Lawton. But after he was executed in Texas, he sent me a letter and I still got it. Someone the ended, said, believe in Jesus. He's believed in God, he's glad or something, and a little heart. And whenever I say always remember that when I think of, you know, my husband said, Do you know how many people prayed for us? Because they did. They would always say, I'm praying for you, like death row prisoners, you know, who are getting the lowest of the low, nobody cares. But that's between them and God, we don't know. Right? But people like that are praying hard. And what if there really is a God that listens to the the heartfelt prayers like that? Wouldn't those be the ones that listen to some Thank you know, for? I got nothing on me. But the desperate person is, according to the Bible, which I don't know, I'm not a Christian. But according to the Bible, the whole thing is like, you know, forgive whenever there's nothing that God can't forgive. And you whenever and whenever, and not as it's a play thing, like where people sit, claim that, but imagine if people truly, if the Bible as it exists, as they say it exists, if all that is true, and those people truly believed that, and they truly with their hearts, do what the Bible says, which when they fall on the ground, sorry for their sins, pray to God or whatever they do, right, whatever the Bible says, people do that. I haven't I haven't had that. But what if they did that? And one of their prayer was, you know, Dave and Tracy because thank them for Dave and Tracy for the things that they've been doing for me because nobody else was. There was a lot of people that were helping when nobody else was gonna go to maybe all this good stuff is just like, when people say God bless you, maybe he did.

Unknown Speaker 19:38
I don't know. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 19:39
yeah. Yeah. 100% Whoo. Well, not not weird at all right? And I mean, that's, again, I think nude. That's, that's kind of the journey though, right? Because it's weird, but then you start thinking about it. You're like, well, I could actually see this working here. So I guess I guess Oh, right. Albert Einstein has the line of either everything's a miracle or nothing is a miracle. Right. So which one do you want to choose? That's a good one. I've never heard that one. Yeah, that's good. You talked about you talked about, you know, it's got to be heartfelt, right? Like these heartfelt prayers. And that's, that's, that is that is key, right? Having a true emotion and coming from a place of sincerity. Right? And, and, you know, so that that does certainly play into sending out like those, those, those high vibrations, they're sending over to Tracy, right? They're like, hey, Tracy, you know, nobody else is hearing me or listening to me. And, you know, let's just pretend there is a God, but we are, where I come from I I use source right sources easier for me to to get out of my mouth.

Tracy Lamourie 20:47
Yeah, like, that's actually I might start quoting you on that, because that makes me more comfortable to actually, because God is so full of like, all these preconceptions of what do people think? And what do you believe? What does it mean to you? And yeah, I know, that's why I don't I'm always like, looking uncomfortable. even go there. Like, you know, it's, I'm gonna quote you source anyway.

Brandon Handley 21:09
Call. I'm still there with you on the same bit. Right. But so then, like, you know, it, it comes to and, you know, it's working through you. So sources working through us for their prayers, right, that's how I would see it in this scenario. Right. And, and, you know, so So again, you know, there you go, like, you are blessed, and you are, you know, kind of doing your doing God's work.

Tracy Lamourie 21:35
And why he would pick the crazy red haired girl, I don't know. But he picks on if there is a God, he picks all of us, we just don't always hear the call, right?

Brandon Handley 21:45
More people hear the call than not. And I think that you talked about it several times, on, at least one of the podcasts I listened to was like, you know, why would somebody pick me? It's like, if, if, if not you then who type of thing? Right? So let's talk a little bit about that. Let's say that, you know, I am a client, I call up and we're talking and, and I'm like, and I'm like, Alright, well, I've got this idea. But I don't know that this is big enough to put out there. I don't know, you know, crazy, why should I? Why should I take my business and try and go public with it? What What do you start telling people and talk them through?

Tracy Lamourie 22:19
So if someone says, Yeah, what if there was, there's no reason not to do in business now there's no way they're like, it's like saying, I don't want to, I don't wanna have a customer. You know, it's the same thing, because it literally is. So originally, when I started up, what I was thinking it was doing for the businesses was I was thinking, obviously, but the customer, you know, attracting some of the same things ads do but more powerfully, because the third party credibility and all that because you can't, you can buy an ad, but you can't buy an interview with a credible source, right? So so. So partly, you build up your obviously obvious is like attract customers, the third party credibility when you it's good for your SEO, when you put it on your website, it's all you know, it looks sharp and nice. And it differentiates you from your competitor and all that. So all that is the obvious to me, but maybe not to everybody cuz you're thinking marketing that PR, but then also one client told me after literally six weeks of working together, I said isn't a lot of podcast, because it literally went this way. She said, you've you've changed my business in my life. And I get a lot of accolades, as you mentioned my testimonials, but that was like, you know, in six weeks, you changed my business. And I said, What do you mean, and she said, You made investors take us more seriously, I hadn't thought of that, cuz I'm not a finance girl. They were she was in the pre seed funding stage, going for seed funding. And so there you go, if you're, let's say, you're in a startup, everybody has a beautiful deck saying nice things about themselves with pretty images, anybody can get a graphic designer, but they want to get off the deck. And I go and Google to see who these people are sure, I'm gonna see your pay history and where you worked and all that. But if I then see, like what I did for my client, six articles, two of them talking about how your power woman in the industry to others in the industry talking about this innovative idea that I then you know, you went and got and won an award for innovation, because we're always looking for those kind of things to in your industry. And now you're in that we get caught. So now, two weeks later, you know, you're internationally quoted, right? Because you've recorded here and there you so all this stuff, elevate you, it gets you the noise with so much noise these days. Right, that how do you differentiate, especially with all the socials all the way ever? So you have to be thinking about that if you're just sitting there. You know, if you're a card, if you're like a car dealer guy or doing your own, and you only worry about that, like, it doesn't matter what your job is, if you're only doing your job, there's somebody in your industry, who is doing that job plus talking about it and developing a thought leadership for themselves. Thought Leadership, that phrase, you know, and why does that matter? Again, it's it doesn't just matter if you're building a brand if you have a book to sell, it literally is about you know, these days, we all know people search you on the internet if we're gonna hire you for a job if they're gonna say you want to you know, build up your public credibility in what you do, like show people, how have the confidence to show people what you do, basically, it's a new it's a it's a and people say, Well, why should I be like What would they want to eat? Why would they want to interview me, I'm just, I'm just, and I hear that all the time, people don't realize the people that that you see in your industry, or whether getting awards or be interviewed, they're just the people that you just know, they just the people that had a better publicist, or that knew how to reach out to media, or that told the media what they're doing, because media will not find you. They don't like if they're doing a story on doctors, they don't sit there and look far and wide for the best doctor in the world. And they, they look in their Rolodex to see who's reached out to them, and who do they have as a contact, and maybe they might reach out to somebody. But generally, when they do that it's through PR service and say, do you have a client who, instead of actually calling them, you know, these days, so or if you're reaching out, if you built you don't need the publicist, if you're doing this on your own, if you're developing your thought leadership, you've got some articles you've got. So you really need to, like think beyond just what you do these days, if you you know, in order to, to make it more successful. And that could it's not arrogant, because it's a matter of, it's not like, hey, I want to be in the media, it's a matter of use, it's a tool that you can use to build whatever you're doing, if it's a message. It's maybe not even a business could be a book or could be just a message. I have a lot of people who just want to share something and inspiring story that happened to them or, you know, public speaker, they want to be a speaker, you know,

Brandon Handley 26:13
right? Well, I think I think, from what I'm hearing, you say it sounds a little bit like it comes down to like self belief, right? And believing that you're worth it to put yourself out there you believe in what you have to share. What is I'm not sure this is a stat or something that you would think of offhand. But in terms of social media reach, what does adding a PR agent do to boosts your reach beyond social media?

Tracy Lamourie 26:43
So yeah, we're talking about real media, media. And obviously, using the real media, you put that on social media, and it expands and people get excited about it, and all your network will share it. Like for example, I had one client hired me literally, this doesn't always happen. But the next day had got her an interview for exactly what she needed, what you want to be talking about, in Good Housekeeping magazine, which is one of the, you know, 150 year old American print magazine, the one one of the few magazines on every checkout counter. So it's huge. And so yeah, so she was literally she has no media, she's just starting out her business as a life coach. And on paper, she had nothing differentiate herself from all the other life coaches. She's awesome. But what's different on paper, what's different on a website, so she wanted to share a story, she decided to start sharing her personal story, which in her case, is about living successfully with bipolar. And so then literally the next day there is publicist, she didn't How would she share that makeup, she can make a medium page start, you know, but me I can go right away to my policy and started looking through all the things all the media sources, what media is going to be interviewing, who, what they went, and I found Good Housekeeping reporter looking into the women between 25 and 40, who were willing to share their story about bipolar luck of the draw literally the next day that after she hired me, and I pitched her that almost missed the deadline. But I was like, I research the reporter, because you don't just want to be blind and said, Hey, I think you were really like this story. This is a woman who started to share with me and said all the things that I knew that will connect with our border, because the vibe, right. And she picked my client, my client who'd never been in any media before I did an awesome job because she knows her stuff. And sure enough, she was the next issue of good housekeeping in print. And now literally, she's been with me, she's just a single working person, she doesn't miss a month with me, I give her really cheap deals. And you know, she doesn't miss a month because she's got that that does her business, every single anything she wants to speak on now, anything to do with mental health mindset, whatever. We're just like, cleanser, Alvarez as seen in good housekeeping. I'm not my mental illness, and it's like, put her on the she literally has been on everything she can feel speaking, she's been in the book, that's literally because she paid a publicist, you know, half $1,000, I gave her a good deal that I started reaching out. So we just have access to like, number one opportunities that aren't easy to find, right. And then also, just, if you spend one month with a publicist, I always say even if it's only a month, after the end of the month, and you take your money and go home, you'll have that pitch, you'll have a different understanding that you didn't have before because most entrepreneurs, and all of us we understand ads, we had to sell advertising, but how do we get how do you break that editorial barrier? And it's not just them? Yeah, you first you got to reach out to them, you got to get the credit information. But then also you have to understand what you're giving them, they do not want to add, you can burn a bridge as easy as you can build one, and your media pool is limited. So you don't want to start sending them crap that'll make them not open your next email. You know, so for people listening, who have spiritual businesses or whatever, your business is the same as anybody else like and in fact, there's a lot of media opportunities for people to speak on the spiritual side, whether it's Christian stuff, whether it's woowoo, whether it's about psychic, whether it's about all those things, there's, you know, there's a ton of media, obviously, the publications gives you that there's there's media and podcasts geared to that. But also there's you know, mainstream media opportunities if you're watching, like a publicist does, you know for the with you in mind, I think could speak to that. That's what my client would answer.

Brandon Handley 29:57
Oprah you get I want to get also What is it? So? So? So that's great, it's great. Right? So I mean, I think I think what I'm hearing you say really is that if you've got a message, and you know, this isn't exclusive to spirituality, but again, you know, people listening to this podcast are going to be in the spiritual space. And if you, you got, if you want to get beyond, if you want to kind of have some kind of explosive growth and get beyond like, you know, keeping up with your Insta posts, and keeping up with your tweets and all this other stuff and have something that kind of shows you that you believe in yourself a little bit more, right. And I think that that's really what it indicates is, you know, a small investment in yourself that shows you that you believe in in yourself, and what you're doing to start doing what you say you love to do.

Tracy Lamourie 30:53
Yeah, exactly. I mean, you are an expert. And like I said, something, you know, if your, whatever your business is, or your book, or whatever you're an expert in, or you wouldn't be doing it, you know, so that, you know, you said the self belief. And if you're having trouble thinking like jumping to the media component, just think it's what I say to people, you know, why are you not on TV, you know, you're awesome at whatever you're doing wired on TV, the why you're not being interviewed while you're doing a media weekend. And they're like, why would they interview me? And then you know, and say, well, you're an expert. They're like, Well, yeah, but okay, start with a Yeah, but you wouldn't be if you're in business, or you wrote a book, whatever. But if you're in business, you wouldn't be taking people's money to do something if you didn't think you were an expert. Right? Right. Exactly. And then of course, there are, no, of course not. Exactly. So take that same confidence that you build a business on YouTube, even starting your business, the confidence that you had to say, you know what, I can do that people pay me for that, because I do that better than other people. I do that, you know, and realize I have knowledge, and it doesn't matter if you I always say if you're I don't say this because he's a lower Java, people think these are normal jobs that don't. But you know, whether you work in a hotel, whether you the lawn guy, whether you have knowledge we don't have there are things that you do that we don't know, there's media for you to talk about that specifically. Plus you have knowledge about stuff you don't even realize, you know, about, you know, around that, that you don't that that, you know, there are like media opportunities for this the most basic things you like, open up an SEO guy, you can't get me interviewed, an SEO guy hired me. And I almost thought that for a minute. But then I thought, No, I looked into the space before I took his money. I was like, No, no, no, I can. And do you know that I got that client, more media than any other client, the SEO guy. Because there's, there are lots of things where you can be quoted just a matter of you got to have a publicist, or someone showing them you.

Brandon Handley 32:33
So well, this has been awesome. I think it's very eye opening for anybody who, again, in the spirituality space, uncertain. And I think that this plays right into like, my little. I like to think of this as kind of like, spirituality speed dating, that we're doing here, right, like so, you know, got a bunch of spiritual listeners out there. And, you know, if they wanted to date you, Tracy, in the spirituality, space and spirituality realm, there's a question that I would ask you, what is it that prevents people from living to their full potential?

Tracy Lamourie 33:10
I would say comes that believing in themselves, it really comes down to that. It really does. Everything does because I always say life's a pitch, right? That's a P, not a, b. But you know, before that, you can't you can't pitch Yes, it is true to think about it, whether it's getting a job or apply for an apartment, or whatever it is, you've got to convince somebody, you know, strangers that you know, you're okay, right. So or the story or, or a job application. So yeah, so, you know, that's what it's all about, and your life is a pitch and you've got to believe in your own pitch. You've got to believe in yourself. And, you know, honestly, people, people say, oh, believe in yourself. I think people are going yeah, but what does that even mean? How, but honestly, just that people don't even know who they are from them. So they don't have to, they're too nervous to walk it when they walk into a room like that's when the cooler I am I people don't actually know who they are. You are, you know, are they think they have to be someone else because they're thinking they have to present as that. Like I said, to give a call here. I don't want to confuse people. But really just have the confidence and feel like realize that when you go into that room, and you feel nervous to step into that room and use a bit scared, realize that literally 99% of the other people like I like that, too. I'm super out there and exuberant, whatever. But I had moments after I had my baby when I was 18 years ago, and I've been stuck home all the time for a while. And I didn't even realize I went out and all of a sudden those two I don't think anyone else noticed. But I've talked and I have something in my mind. I'm like, I felt like I was stumbling over my words. I don't think I was but I felt all of a sudden had this discomfort around people, which which is not me. Certainly not now, but for a while. And then I when I got out of that as late after that I was doing TV for like, social justice stuff. Because that it's not me. It's about that. And then I realized so I became known for that. So when I walk in the room, people are looking at me, like, oh, there's a celebrity in that world, you know, ready to talk. So I realized, Oh, I can't be that person who's nervous in the room. And then I realized they're all nervous in the room. They're waiting for somebody to take control. Just be like, hey, and even if that's just like, Hey guys, how you doing? If you do that, like just try it one day, if you feel nervous in the room and everybody else's no one's making, you'll be the one to be like, Hey everybody, how's it going, and just smile and feel confident. And you'll literally feel in the room. The relief because somebody everybody's waiting for somebody to do that. Everyone feels that way. So if you don't feel confident, realize most people don't either. And so they're not judging you. They're judging themselves. So stop judging yourself and just be and then you know, your your level of confidence will hopefully, the difference between confidence and arrogance, don't be arrogant, your level of confidence will raise other people's confidence.

Brandon Handley 35:38
Now that rice has been able to walk into the room and try and change the, the energy of the room, right, just by being comfortable enough to step into your own skin. So you also know I think you have a you have a book coming out that's going to speak to a lot of what we talked about on the podcast, when can we when When is that going to be out? And what's it gonna be called?

Tracy Lamourie 36:01
That is going to be called get wrapped to build your brand with effective public and media relations. Nice,

Brandon Handley 36:06
nice and was it throughout

Tracy Lamourie 36:08
early summer was saying that it was it was supposed to be out already, my publisher will say, but I had actually pulled it back to add a few things. I learned a bunch of stuff over COVID just the way people who had previously built their brand successfully, and then they bled all over their page and ruined other hard work. I thought it'd be good to add a couple of you know, cautionary tales.

Brandon Handley 36:25
Sure, that's fair. That's fair. And where should I send people to go find you and have some more Tracy memori?

Tracy Lamourie 36:32
Yeah, and I do work internationally. If anybody does have any message anyone the English speaking world memori media.com. Or they can find me on Instagram. Tracy lemare pr media on LinkedIn is a great place to connect with me or Facebook and Tracy lemare. Awesome. Thanks so much for being on today. Thank you, Brandon. It's been a ton of fun. Give me a lot to think about.

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Freedomcast

Published: July 4, 2021, 10:55 p.m.
Duration: 14 minutes 18 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on? It is another Fourth of July, another BJJ, report, nother day where we will get the opportunity to celebrate our freedom. And I'm not sure that we do that as often as we could, as often as we should, but don't be a shithead. As often as we could we take for granted. take for granted whoever we take for granted, what freedom means, and exactly what we are free from. And exactly what we can do with that freedom.

Unknown Speaker 0:58
We

Brandon Handley 1:00
generally consider freedom of movement, our largest freedom, we consider freedom of

Unknown Speaker 1:13
speech,

Brandon Handley 1:16
to say all this stupid shit we want to say. And the thing that I don't know, that we consider as our greatest freedom is our freedom of thought, or three, freedom to express ourselves or freedom to participate in something larger than ourselves, our freedom to contribute to the the good. And I'm not sure that we recognize it, in a sense, and

Unknown Speaker 2:02
often,

Brandon Handley 2:04
it's easy to see. And just like every holiday. We think that it's all commercialize, and there is a large portion of it. That has been commercialized. But I think that what we fail to recall is how we got here, how did we get this freedom that we have now? How do we get this freedom that we have now we got this freedom by way of our forefathers like it or not stupid shit that they did or not? Because they had a vision, because they had a passion that was ignited, they had a passion that was shared. They had a belief not only in what they could bring about, but what they could share what that what that looked like, hundreds of years out. What was it going to look like? And if they had not shared it at all, that they didn't have this shared vision if they didn't have this shared sense of purpose

Unknown Speaker 3:37
of being

Brandon Handley 3:40
have the desire to contribute to the greater good of the whole. Then what would we have? Where would we be? Man instead of looking at the things that you don't enjoy about the holiday, I saw somebody complaining about the Fourth of July today, talking about the celebration to the explosives and some other stuff and I get it. I get it. There's some PTSD that can happen. There's some other things that can happen and we all want to be seen. We all want to be heard. We all want our sensitivities to be recognized and seen. We want to be acknowledged. We do want to be acknowledged for the things that we've done, the way that we've contributed to everything. But I also believe that takes away from the celebration, do you that freedom that you've got to make that request comes by way Have people that were willing to sacrifice their lives give up their way of being hundreds of years ago, hundreds of years ago so that you could have this freedom of thought. The ability to express that freedom with thought by freedom of speech. You also have the ability again, to contribute to something larger than yourself just like these people did. When you find an injustice, when you find a cause that you can advocate for you know that through spiritual audio and then spiritual dope, I believe we can advocate for some awesome mental health. And I love I love the I love the change the we're a part

Unknown Speaker 5:57
of it right

Brandon Handley 5:58
now we're in the midst of such a an amazing piece of revolutionary times ourselves. And it's, it's interesting to to be a part of that. For anybody that came through the industrial age, that was a revolution, not sure what they'll name this revolution. But we're seeing we're seeing an explosion of, of self of repressed self expression, for fear of who you been waiting to be. Or at least trying to be and wanting to be. We get to see that everywhere with the, with the transgender with no pride. It's just amazing to me. That was like 3040 years ago, you had to come out of the closet, you had to hide who you were, at least even in sense of your sexual preference. Even just a sexual exploration. Yet the high that there was fear there. Now, we just finished up Pride Month, got a whole month, dedicated to it. How's that not a revolution. It's a revolution of itself, even in the sense of the word, revolve circle, come around. It's absolutely a revolution. revolution

Unknown Speaker 7:45
of

Brandon Handley 7:48
people not going back to work, even though there are jobs for them to have and do. Because they value their minds. And their sense of well being in a holistic sense of the word. More than $12 an hour. They, it's a revolution. It's nothing short of being able to participate in that is amazing. And again, that's what we're celebrating today. The American Revolution,

Unknown Speaker 8:32
where

Brandon Handley 8:35
we were first afforded this where people stood up for this where people helped to make this happen. iterations, increments. revolutions are not something that is easily visible at the time in the midst of it. And usually, if you're if you're like, right now, if you're in the midst of a revolution, you're probably at the top of the wheel. What does that mean? means that when a wheel is in momentum, and there's an imbalance on it, or a weight on it in a certain position, as it has come to the top as it is crested. It's going to continue the other way, you know, for right now the revolution that waits on the top of the wheel and it's just spinning around right now. Or as other people it's called the flywheel. And since I don't know what the flywheel is, suffice to say that you are in the part of revolution, and today Fourth of July, is a celebration of that celebration of the revolution that came before celebration of the freedom of thought that's been afforded because of it, the revolution that you're in a part of, in the midst of now, all that came before it and all that are ahead of it. A revolution isn't a singular instance. You're in a car and I'm in a car right now, rpm, revolutions per minute. That's a circular motion, how many times does it go round until it gets you to where you want it to get you to? So 400 years ago, give or take? You know, we had we had a revolution that gave us gave us this, this possibility gave us this moment. And I think the inspiration, the celebration shouldn't be an inspiration to you. The shows that should a group of people come together to contribute to a greater whole, for a better future of all of mankind, womankind, humankind, for all for the contribution to the greater good. Then exactly where it is. If there's not something else to celebrate, I don't know what it is. They gave themselves they gave their passions, they gave their creative abilities. They gave everything that they had. They left it all on the line. And my buddy Dave, love it, when he talks about he wants nothing left. Nothing left on the nothing left on the tires, nothing left. When it's all said and done. Complete disintegration into the end, I want to be all juiced up, nothing left. Giving everything that I am, who I am to this life, the way that I believe our forefathers did.

Unknown Speaker 12:10
The way that

Brandon Handley 12:12
many, many others came before us. And I think the revolution is synonymous and a part of evolution. And as we again, just take a look at the celebration on the Fourth of July, what is your evolution look like? What is your revolution look like? What is it look like for you to be able to express your thoughts, your freedom to think if Free to Choose your freedom of choice, to accept or disagree with that line of thinking with with the way that anybody thinks has been afforded by those that came before you. And the establishment of this nation. That's was my interpretation and the original intent. And I think that it's worth pondering. So that is it for me today. As we take off and we just celebrate even if it's just one day out of the year when we can celebrate this freedom of thoughts, freedom of choice, freedom from thought, in every day of the year, but at the very least take today to think about it to consider it wonder what it might be like if you it if if somebody was trying to take that away from you, somebody was always telling you how you needed to think if you were decapitated, because of the way that you think and your your ideas, where would you be? What kind of life would that be?

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Erin McCullough on Impenetrable Joy

Published: July 4, 2021, 8:24 p.m.
Duration: 50 minutes 5 seconds

Erin McCullough is a thought leader, an in-demand speaker and an international teacher that helps people create IMPENETRABLE JOY so that they can be calm, have peace of mind and meaning in their life, NOW! Erin had an Anxiety Disorder that had her holed up in her home for nearly a year. Through that experience she learned how and why that happened and developed strategies to overcoming and preventing it, which is what she now teaches. Erin vowed that when she found solutions to overcoming and preventing anxiety, she would do whatever she could to make sure that no one had that experience, so that has been her mission. Erin spent a decade studying the Mind/Body connection, Visualization and ways to still the mind. Over the decade she has created simple strategies to Overcoming and Preventing Anxiety, Stress, Worry and Overwhelm so that all her clients live a life intentionally in Joy. She has been an entrepreneur for 21 years and consulting businesses and business leaders for 16 years. If you question who you are and what you are meant to be doing in this life, let Erin help you discover your own path to joy.

Connect with Erin at https://www.erin-mac.com/

The transcript below is machine-generated and unedited.

Brandon Handley 0:41
Hey there spiritual dope. I'm on here today with Erin McCullough. She is a thought leader in the main speaker and an international teacher that helps people create impenetrable joy so that they can be calm, have peace of mind and meaning in their life. Now, Erin had an anxiety disorder that had her holed up in her home for nearly a year, through that experience to learn how and why that happened and develop strategies to overcoming and preventing it, which is what she's now teaches. and vowed that she, when she found solutions to overcoming and preventing anxiety, she would do whatever she could to make sure that no one had that experience. So that has been her mission. There's been a decade, studying the mind body connection, visualization and ways to still the mind. Over the decades, she's created simple strategies to overcoming and preventing anxiety, stress, worry and overwhelm so that all her clients live a life intentionally enjoy. She has been an entrepreneur for 21 years and consulting businesses and business leaders for 16 years. If you question who you are, and what you're meant to be doing in this life, let Erin help you discover your own path to joy. Erin, thanks for your work in through the technical difficulties. As a as I told you, I'm working on this newer platform. But thanks for thanks for joining today. How you doing?

Erin Mac 2:05
Oh my gosh, thanks for having me. I'm wonderful. How

Brandon Handley 2:08
are you never been better. My whole life has led up to this point. So you know, here we are. Here we are. So I like to start these off with the idea that we are deal sources. We're talking about like a little bit before we got started here that we are all our source and that the universe speaks through us. And that right now in this moment, the universe is speaking through you to one of the listeners today. What do you have to tell that listener?

Erin Mac 2:36
Well, first and foremost, I believe it is our birthright to be predominantly in joy all day, every day. And if that's not the experience you're having, then keep listening. We're going to talk about all the things strategies, and you know why we're here what we're meant to be doing. You know, all the things,

Brandon Handley 2:59
all the things all the things that I love, I love that you kind of chose joy had to go out and I had to go out and grab my, my joy mug. Oh, no. It's actually like pretty much one of my favorite mugs right as the idea of what you kind of see out first thing I pick up and I carry around, I see I get to see the word joy everywhere I go when I'm drinking out of the mug. So definitely enjoy it. definitely enjoy the word joy and glad that we have the opportunity to talk about it. And I'm also going to be very honest with you. Before I went in, I checked you out a little bit more I was like what kind of fit is this? Right? What kind of fit is this? Because, you know, being a you know, more of a thought leader and all this I suppose like what's the spirituality fit me and you know, so in your mind, though, like the work that you do is spiritual, you know, the the personal development is spirituality work. Is that set? Right? Is that fair? Yeah. Well, let's talk about let's talk about the journey, right, let's talk about breaking through anxiety. Let's talk about, you know, how you found yourself in an anxious position and kind of some of the things that you did to work your way through it.

Erin Mac 4:06
Awesome. So you know, my story has kind of like three moments, defining moments, if you will. The first started with the anxiety disorder that you spoke about. It actually came about in talk therapy. I was going to a couple's group counseling with my husband at the time. And in that first session, I had a panic attack and I never had one before so I had no idea what it was. And the counselor picked up on it right away she explained all you know what it was and first she told me what it was she didn't really exactly explain what it was. I figured that out later, but she told me that's what was happening and and from there, you know, she said something's obviously coming up for you. Would you like to do some individual work and In that individual work, you know, I was telling my trauma story over and over and over again. And what my body decided to do was put up the defense mechanism of anxiety. And so it got so bad that as you said, I hold myself up in my home. You know, it didn't, it wasn't an overnight thing and happened gradually, panic attacks, more panic attacks, then, you know, I had one was running, and I was training for a race at the time. And so I felt like I couldn't run anymore, at least temporarily. And so I stopped running. And then I stopped teaching, I was a teacher at the time. And so it happens that way, you know, slowly, it's not just one, you know, wake up, and, and no candu. After about nine months of that, she referred me to a homeopathic psychiatrist, who gave me a remedy after a three hour interview, that in 20 minutes basically cured me from the experience of anxiety. That's the physical chemical piece, right? And I thought, wow, I have a new lease on life, you know, I can go and do all these things. But because of that experience, I was afraid, right. So I decided to move to Hawaii, and move to a small town and have a simpler life, right? Thinking that, you know, then I would never get triggered. And I would just live my life happily ever after in paradise. And unfortunately, while the chemistry piece was handled the mental emotional spiritual piece, not so much. And so I was still there. So in that simpler life, of course, I created anxiety, stress, and all that. So I moved to Hawaii. Immediately, in the first 24 hours, I started a business and I had a client. Within 18 months, I had 20 employees, multiple six figure contracts. And, you know, I was on my way to stress and anxiety. And the second thing that happened that really rocked me to my core was I 10 years into my business of just being frantic and crazy, stressed all the time. A client called in the morning, she was upset, and I would just get so frantic about clients complaining, they got in my car, raced over to a friend's house, backed into a driveway to drop my daughter off, and I sideswiped her husband's car or her his truck with my car. And come to find out later, when I came to pick up my daughter, that her husband was under the truck working on it while I hit it, and he thought it was gonna land on him. And that just rocked me to my core, I thought, This is ridiculous. Like, this is no life, you know, running around like a crazy person all the time. And so then I dove, you know, into self development, got involved with a seminar company did all their seminar staff for them, and started to see that there was a different way to be in this world, and starting to make some changes, that we're having an impact on my life and other people around me. And then about five years later, I

found myself in the middle of a divorce. And for whatever reason, it just leveled me, I was in a dark place. And I thought, you know, I'd spent 10s of 1000s of dollars on seminars, reading all the books, you know, trying to do this other life, but I didn't really have any legit strategies to doing life differently. So then a series of things happened. I picked up the book, maybe you've heard of it, the Course in Miracles, and was about a month and two reading. It's a daily passage for about a year 365 passages. And nothing I was kinda like, this is interesting, but not really rocking my world. Then all of a sudden, month two, this crazy thing happened where the word started, like popping off the page. It was like the path is joy. The answer is joy, joy, joy, joy. And I was like, finally after a couple weeks of that, I was like literally threw my hands up in the air. I was like, I got the answer. How do I get there? And a series of things happened. I got an email from a gentleman I met. He was teaching a seminar in a wahoo and I thought I'll fly over for that. I have no idea what it is doesn't matter just need something positive. And I went and it was a day long seminar on a visualization process that he teaches. And I was so excited by it. I came home and I started using it immediately called my broker who had had my business for sale for like nine months with no bites. And I was like look, I just want to let you know my business is going to sell by the end of the month and there's going to be a bidding war. And it was like, okay, and long behold a week later That's exactly what happened. And then I went back and trained this gentleman that I had gone to that seminar, he was having a seminar, to train people to teach his main seminar. And I went and trained for a week I came home, put on my first seminar, and I stood in front of this group of people, and I ditched my notes, five minutes in, because I had this crazy experience where like, everything that I had ever learned, all of my life experience, everything I had ever read, just came together, like at one moment, I went, Whoa, like, this is what I'm supposed to do. Like, I'm supposed to teach people how to find their joy, cultivated daily, and live the life that they're meant to be living now, without waiting for all the things or the, you know, whatever they think they need to have in order to have that, like, that's available now. And I happen to also during that few week period, meet the love of my life in these very random circumstances, which I don't believe in random anymore. And, and so it just all lined up. And that's what I've been doing for the last almost four years.

Brandon Handley 11:11
That's awesome. I mean, and it's interesting, right, that you came, you kind of came out of a, from what I gathered was more of a business oriented kind of thing versus this pursuit of joy, right, are you that you're doing now? And I think that I heard you say, on another podcast that, you know, maybe some of this is Woo, but if it is, woo, it's working out for you. And and you're okay with it, right?

Erin Mac 11:39
I mean, that's the thing, you know, people always say, Oh, that's kind of woowoo. For me, I'm like, I'm looking at woowoo people, they look pretty happy as all I can say. Something too, and

Brandon Handley 11:50
it's pretty amazing. The idea to have, you know, just try some of these things out for the first time. Very go into a very skeptical, right, this vision process that you're doing that you're thinking about, while it seems pretty cool. But then you you go and you try it. And then things start working out. Right. I mean, talk to me a little bit about that. So how did that have that come? And like kind of manifest itself? What was some of your initial reactions when you saw, were even calling it the universe? And what were you calling it? Well, like, what was your know, kind of how, how was that for you?

Erin Mac 12:30
You know, it's kind of crazy, because you know, how it's like life. I mean, again, it's like life unfolds slowly. And you don't recognize exactly what's going on. So you look back and go, Whoa, like, look at all these things that happened. That's crazy. It took me a while to even recognize how much I knew that I was feeling better that I knew. And honestly, you know, I just, I thought I knew what joy was, I thought I knew what happiness was. The thing was, is I was on this, like, roller coaster ride of things, right? It was just like I was so 100% bought into the idea that if I had all the things, you know, a stack of cash, and the house and the car and the successful business, and all the things that we're told is gonna make us be happy. I had all those things, and I was so miserable, right? But I didn't even know that it was possible to experience joy. Do you know what I mean? Like I really just didn't even know what was available.

Brandon Handley 13:39
So I think it's really interesting that you bring it up, right? I think there's this, you know, Tale of Two Cities type of thing, where you went, and you got all these things, and you did all the things because this is what we're taught. But that's been my experience is like, hey, go through all these things. Because this is what you're taught. Right? And you're not doing it maybe with the same intent that some of these other people are doing it right, you're doing it to a mass and acquire and to be happy and to have status versus what you're doing now, which is to implement, purpose, intent, and service, right, and the outcome that you're headed towards now. Right? If you haven't, I'm sure you've already achieved. I mean, listen, if you landed in Hawaii has some clients on the first day and you know, whatever, you know, a mask pretty quick like that, you know, whatever it is that you're doing right now, I'm assuming is successful, in one way or another, right? And but now it's aligned to who you are with your purpose and there's fulfillment and joy in that and the rest of it just kind of comes naturally, right? It comes as a byproduct of that intent and that purpose versus if you could compare To the way that you are running life before, right? You were miserable. You were like, anxious and you know, knocking people's trucks over on him. Right? And now I'd like you're doing maybe the same work, I don't know. But what's the effort feel like, compared to what you're the effort felt like before.

Erin Mac 15:21
I mean, you're, you hit it right on the head, like I am 100% in service of people and myself. And while that may sound selfish, it's, it's, it's kind of where you got to be when you're in service to people in this way, you know, and it's a whole different experience, you know, before it just felt like I was grinding, grinding, grinding all the time, you know, like, it took all these things in order to make success, like I really, you know, there are these ideas that we have from a young age, you know, success looks like this formula. It's right. It's like, it's like, hard work plus luck, right, you know, like this, you know, formula of success. And I was 100% bought into that, too. And now, it's not like that, it's like, it doesn't seem like work. It's not a four letter word anymore. For me, it's 100%. Like, like, when I give to clients, I give to myself, like, it's such a win win. Whereas I definitely didn't function that way in my life before 100%. And now it's like, you know, while I still have to negotiate, you know, time, you know, balance the things out in my life, this never feels like something I've have to do. Like, I'm excited to do it all the time. I feel called to share what I know, because it's had such a profound impact on my life.

Brandon Handley 16:51
I think it's interesting to how, you know, on your first seminar, you kind of tossed off to the side and everything you ever knew, kind of fell into this framework. Right, and you were able to just let it freely flow. Right? I mean, what, what looking back, what would you say happened there?

Erin Mac 17:15
Oh, I, I was, you know, I think we're guided all the time. I think we have support all the time, from all the things, you know, universe, energy in general, you know, I mean, scientifically speaking, energy cannot be destroyed. So every person who's lived, their energy is here to you know, and, you know, that's why people talk to loved ones that have passed, and, you know, like, they still the energy is still hear it's exist, so why not tap into those things? I think, you know, it happens to me all the time. And I'm not gonna lie, it was freaky. You know, because it's, you know, for somebody who's like a recovered control freak, you know, a bunch of people and all of a sudden, just free flowing. And not to say it was just random all over the place is still stuck to, you know, we had a workbook and things but, you know, to go off the notes, I still do that. And I just, and I, and I recognize, I mean, even sometimes when I'm on podcasts, like, I'll just, I'll wake up in the middle of it and go, Oh, like I, you know, I wouldn't say it's me, I want to say channeling, but it's like, it's taking energy that exists. Like what I'm telling what I tell people and how I'm in service to people and the information that I share with people. Like it's not new to me, like I didn't make this stuff. Right. Right. Right. This is a real learning. Right, right. And when I'm teaching, I see it in the students, it's like, they can hear me on a deep level, even if they're not consciously aware of what I'm saying. They're feeling on a deep level. And that's coming from not me, you know, I mean, I hear it and I can disseminate that information, distill it down. But it's, it's exists, we're all connected to it one way or another.

Brandon Handley 19:06
No, 100%, right. Truth resonates. And that's the kind of that that's the experience and you're talking to somebody else. And you're in a room with with these people and and you're having a truth session on the value column, right? It's your truth, this is kind of coming through you. And you're like, I don't even know, I didn't even know I could do that. Right? But then, but then the rest of the room is resonating with you. And to me, that's kind of what it sounds like as happening. And you know, call it channeling. It's funny too, because, like we we still have our limitations on what we'll call it, right? Like, I don't know that. Yeah, I don't know, I call it channeling I don't know, you know, whatever. But you know, what you're doing is you're at least letting yourself open to, to it, whatever, whatever it is, to come through and to to and through you. Right as a kind of a receiver translator as it were.

Erin Mac 19:59
That's it. receiver for sure, yeah, yeah. And yeah, and I think we're all we all have that ability.

Brandon Handley 20:07
I mean, it's an eight, right. And so, I mean, I don't know how old your kids are, you know, I've got my, my nine year old. And it's so and and my older child to 11. But you know, it's so obvious just how like innately in tuned. The children are, right as as as it is and, and then you can kind of watch it literally be kind of like almost a brainwash, but brainwashed out of them, right, like, you know, just kind of have those senses gold and like, you know, go through like this other thing, and you just kind of watch it, you're like, wow, that's crazy. Because we go through this relearning experience later in life. Are you an Alan Watts fan? I don't know who that is. Oh, my gosh, come on now. All right. Alan Watts. Yeah, Alan Watts. You know, he's a kind of philosopher made. Popular lies, Zen Buddhism. And in the West, West, it's like in the 60s 70s, right? English guy, you really enjoy him. One of the things that he talks about those, it's like, it's like, we're like salted beef, right? We get all salted and you got it. You got to desalinate that beef. And then you're like, you're back to your natural state at a certain point. And that's, again, sounds to me. I like the way you're the way you're going. Right? You're feeling into it. The what was the cure? I mean, because you had the homeopathic guy, right comes and gives you the cure. What was it? Do you recall? Was it like, a miracle pill? You know, help me out here.

Erin Mac 21:51
Now Now what? homeopathy is so interesting. It's so distilled down the amount of whatever the substances may come in. Have you ever taken it before? That's like little tinctures, tablet. They're little pills. Yeah, no, tiny, tiny little granules. And, and they taste like sugar. And they have just, I mean, it's almost like they have essence of the thing. And it really is for the purpose of sort of writing your own self, right? So you introduce it to the body, and the body goes, Oh, that's right. We use a function fairly normally, in this stage. Here's the thing that I need. And interestingly enough, when she gave me the remedy, she told me what it was called. And she said, I don't want you to research it. And this is pre internet. It's not pre internet, but it was definitely internet was not a thing. Really. This was like 99, there was no Google. Yeah, it was not, there was no verb called Google it. And so, you know, she was just like, I don't want you to research this. And, you know, just see what happens or whatever. And, you know, and I, I mean, I almost don't want to say what it is because I don't want people with anxiety to think that that's the cure all it's not the cure all, it was just the thing that made me feel better enough to get on the path to recognizing that the work is internal, emotional, spiritual, and then the body follows.

Brandon Handley 23:29
It's so interesting, though, right? Because we, we've, we believe the other way around, right? Because we see the things that everybody's doing, but we can't see the inner work, we can't see how they're thinking, functioning, or directing themselves internally to get to that point. So we're like, Alright, well, I'm just gonna go do all those same things. Right? And it doesn't it doesn't work out, right? Because we're not we're not aligning all three of those pieces of ourselves together. We're just like, we're hammering on one at a time. Right?

Erin Mac 24:02
Yeah, I mean, I think you know, you see people they have you know, I work with a lot of people who have cancer and other diseases because that's mental emotional, spiritual two, I believe were three equal parts you know, mind body spirit. And if any of those are out of alignment or out of balance, it's going to show up in the other ones right and in a negative way or and that not wanted way. And often we can, you know, we can skip past mental and spiritual right we can we have all kinds of ways to not feel and acknowledge and, you know, the obvious ones are drugs and alcohol, the less obvious ones are things like being super busy, not ever having any stillness in our life, you know, being helicopter parents, you know, the SWAMI we spend all day every day Trying not to feel any. And, you know, and so you can imagine, and we've done it from a young age, like, it's not really our fault. It's, you know, we've grown up to this idea that we're not supposed to have emotions, we're not supposed to feel those things, only very controlled and in very specific ways, depending on the environment, you know, like, can't cry in a business meeting, you know, you know, are you crying out to lose it? No crying in baseball.

Brandon Handley 25:32
I know, my first, my first go around, like in the podcast room and coaching space was fatherhood. And a big point of what you're saying there's is especially as Western civilization, men, emotions, come on now. You know, yeah. That's it. I mean, and that's a brilliant question too. Because we don't know, we don't know, one of the one of the tools that I use, often is the blue check wheel, right? Just just has the emotions kind of listed out, I hand it to my clients, I'm like, you know, go through it. You know, take a look at this every day, if you don't know what this one means. Or if you if you think that you do, go double check the definition of that and just see kind of how you're applying it in your life and how you can use it to, you know, acknowledge your situation, because we don't we, I suppose I was like, 40, or something I didn't know, I didn't know. I was, I guess, like, you know what, because I had a, I had a coaching friend, he goes, because Brandon, I'm not hearing anything emotional, or there's nothing emotional. I was like, Oh, let me go check that out. I was like, Well, I

Erin Mac 26:32
mean, unfortunately, our society, especially for a man, like you really only allowed to anger is the only like, standout emotion and now, that's just as tragic. But that's changing slowly, as

Brandon Handley 26:45
well. You know, I like to call kind of where we are right now in whatever culture like a hippie 2.0 situation. Right? Right. We're kind of like a hippie 2.0 situation where like, okay, like, maybe if we don't deal with all the drugs, it'll work out better this time, right, like, cut it out on like, the illegal substances. And, you know, we can still get to this place, mentally and spiritually, right. And, and, and since we're seeing that, there's, there's the actual benefits are being seen and heard, and, and I think that the pandemic had such a huge influence, because nobody was spared. Right? If anything good came out of level, it's like, it's like, level set everything. So, so for the, you know, for the CEO, or business leader that could normally like hop on a plane and do everything that like, his employees couldn't, he was stuck at home to with the kids having to deal with the zoom meetings. He wasn't getting a you know, he wasn't getting a free ride out of it. Right. And so his mental, her mental health was impacted as well. And they're like, Oh, shit, everybody's gone through this, we'd better do something. Right. So we see, right? I mean, so I think there's some benefit out of this whole COVID situation to huge, right, right, the right mental health space of people, spaces, places and things. So if I am coming to you, and I am like, the client type I am is who you were before you got to this choice spot, right? Um, you know, I've got success, not like, you know, I'm not Whoo, kind of guy, my calendars, you know, tight and all this stuff. What are you what are some of the first things that we're gonna do together?

Erin Mac 28:39
First, we're going to acknowledge and begin to make some separation between the story that's been running your life, you know, the story of all the rainbows and sunshine, a story of all the, you know, the yucky, the fit, the unfair, the unjust, the abuse, trauma, all those things, not for the purpose of wallowing in and you know, it just to acknowledge where we started, and maybe what's affecting some of the ways that we see this world, how we perceive people and circumstances, and then take that story and recognize it for what it is the gift that it has been, and will continue to be in terms of showing us where healing and growth can take place. And you know less about all the things all the details in terms of, you know, who and what happened and all of those things. It's really more about what did you decide about you because of that story. Those are the beliefs and then when we recognize some of those beliefs, then we can understand that, you know, that's been playing out in the background, that's the wallpaper so to speak of our lives, you know, where we make decisions from and a lot of the decisions are fantastic. We need not mess with those, but the ones that aren't serving the future that we want to create. Those are the ones we want to take a closer look at. And so then, from there, I have people do a day, I have them write out a narrative of the day in the life of everything they ever wanted to create in our life, you know, all outcome based, you know, all you know, all the fields, you know, touch, taste, see, smell the whole deal. So exciting, you know, ever, like literally for a moment, wake up until moment go to sleep one day with everything in it, all the people, all the circumstances, all the outcomes. And then they use that in a visualization. And they start their day, because that's where I found my joy was in that visualization. Understanding a day in the life now, is it about manifesting? Not exactly. It's really about elevating the emotional experience, because you have that at your disposal at all times. And so we learn that we can our body doesn't forget things. So when I'm in my visualization in the morning, like, My arms are in the air, I'm like, super excited, like, yes, that just happened. And then yes, that happened to and I mean, tears of joy streaming down my face. I mean, it's all the things, I'm 100%. And on every level, I've raised my emotional experience. And then, like I said, the body doesn't forget. So when you have that experience, you can recall it at any time. So when you're going throughout your day, things start to go south, you can put yourself Take a moment, close your eyes, put yourself back into that moment, refocus and move on, versus what most people do is go out, this thing's not working out. And then there's all these other things that aren't working out, there's that thing, and then there's another thing I didn't like, and then this other person, and then you know, and so just got to read the brain and just, it loves to do the same stuff over and over again, and act like it's new.

Brandon Handley 32:08
Yeah, it's not. I mean, I think the idea of the brain, right, it's, uh, likes to be an efficient piece of machinery, right? consumes so much energy, the more efficient it can be. And so let's just keep doing this thing, because it's just, you know, hasn't killed us in the past? Right? If we just keep doing this, we will die. And we may not be enjoying our lives. But you know, it, you know, hasn't killed us before. So I enjoy I enjoy the visualization. And and I think that there's a big piece of what you're saying there that a lot of people when you're doing these exercises, don't hammer home, I think, quite enough. And that's something I think you're touching on is the idea of the feels. Right. So my guess is that this is kind of a writing in the present tense exercise. Right?

Erin Mac 33:00
Yeah, preferably, you know, again, outcome base, so you want to say in gratitude, right, because of high vibration, it's, you know, I'm so grateful that, you know, all these things are happening in my life, you know, as though they've happened already, as they exist in the now. Right. And they will, in your visualization, they exist as already taken place, and done deal.

Brandon Handley 33:25
Right. And I think that, that the idea is that I'm just, I'm just feeling your words now. Because I heard you saying earlier today, the idea is that, you know, what wants to give us the idea that right, so if I can feel it right now, then what's that doing for me?

Erin Mac 33:42
Yeah, that's creating, so I can't tell you how to get all the things. I mean, I think, you know, for me, they've come by being in that elevated state. And so, you know, I, what I help with is changing the experience of life, you know, and I think that's a heck of a lot more important than amassing things, you know, if, if I could show you how to change your experience in your life to joy, right now, by doing this visualization, that seems more valuable to me than, you know, telling you how to make six figure seven figures, whatever, you know, to me, other people, you know, they have other ideas, and that's wonderful. And, and I don't proclaim to, you know, claim to be able to help with those things. But I know how to find joy and I know how to cultivate it so that you can have that experience. And that's, you know, that's the first step is to recognize that you are responsible for your experience and when you know this, not in like fault blame shame kind of a way, in an empowering way, then you can just choose and choose and choose. Just keep choosing that thing that makes you feel good now, it doesn't change anything, have goals, do all the other stuff, too. That's amazing. But, you know, given that we only have this moment here, guaranteed why not make this one enjoyable? You know?

Brandon Handley 35:16
Yeah, no, agreed, agreed. And, you know, if I'm, if I'm, if I'm a law of attraction guy, if I'm, you know, in that space, right, this is how I would, you know, kind of liken it would, and I don't know who it is, there's plenty of them out there. That's like, you know, the happiness doesn't kind of come later comes now, right. And if you can be happy now, and whatever the circumstance, like you're talking about, then you can make that choice. Again, like you're talking about all the time. You can find joy all the time, and anything and all you've got to do is again, like you're saying, If I go through the morning, and I had this visualization, I'm like, Well, I'm feeling the feels. It's all there for me, everything's great. Ah, and then like, you know, late in the day, I'm not so feeling the feels. And I'm like, Well, wait a second. early in the day, I was feeling the feels. And this was like that kind of anchor point. Right? Let me get back to that for a second. Because I created that moment for myself. Right, versus kind of letting something outside of me create that it was me who did that Creator of all these things, then, here I am. I'm always like, kind of high vibe. And I'm always like, buzzing, right. And then, you know, you're basically sending that out into the universe, right? Like, just kind of this this high vibe. And, you know, if we act as if the universe is a force multiplier, right? We know that like anything, you'd come out and throw out, there's coming back at you like, Well, I better stop, throw a monkey poo, right, like and start the things that I could really use in my life that I want in my life. And then you know, and visualize that and see it, feel it and release it right. I think that's important, too, is kind of just like, release it and not hang on to the idea that it has to happen, right? You're talking about the people that are like, well, this, Aaron, I tried this for three days, and it didn't show up. My life did not change the way you said it was. And I've you know, I've been doing all the things you tell me to do. But I mean, the idea, again, is to go through those fields, have them do the visualization. And release it because again, you're creating your own, you're creating your own space, please in time, let's face that, right.

Erin Mac 37:25
Yeah. And I got two things to say about that. One is I want to talk about the difference between happiness, his idea of happiness and joy, because they're different. And I forgot what the other one is. But I'll talk about the happiness, the joy, that one the rest will come. Right. So to me the difference between happiness and joy is that happiness is fleeting, right? It's you get the new car, it's amazing. Eventually, it's just a car, right? It gets you from A to B, and this game of, you know, getting the things to make you feel good, it feels good for like this amount of time, right. And I only know that because I did all those things. I had the houses and the cars and the successful business and the time flexibility, all the things that everybody would want. And I literally kept like going over finish lines. And going, yay, hooray. I'm happy right now. And then, like, when I was doing trap all the stuff of go across the finish line, I would go home after celebrating for like five minutes. I mean, maybe like half hour or whatever, go home and find another race that I could either crush my time in that was longer hard or whatever. Like there was no end to it, like a couldn't win that race ever. Joy, on the other hand, encompasses some of the you know, the exuberance and all of that Not always, but it can include those. But it also has these nuances of like stillness and peace of mind, which is not thinking all the time thing. Or overthinking and calm. Right. And so those nuances are available and so rich, you know, they're either things I didn't know existed. I had no I mean, maybe I'd heard those words before, but I didn't really understand them on a deeper level. You know, and so, those differences are important, because the one you just can't win out. So yeah, get all the things and be super abundant and all the ways just recognize that the journey inside is the one that has purpose and meaning the one on the outside where we collect things. Those are super cool and fun too. They just don't. They don't fill you up as a human

Brandon Handley 40:01
I think that I think that those are important distinctions, right? Happiness quick and fleeting, right? and joy is a little bit more kind of like a long lasting coal and Ember of warmth, right? Yeah. But a state of being. Yeah. So let me see here. Two things, two things. So I liken this, what we're doing here is like spiritual speed dating, right? Like somebody's gonna, somebody's gonna tune in, they're like, you know, I'm looking for my next spiritual date. Right? And, and this could be you. So I'm gonna ask you at least one kind of, you know, question is that, uh, you know, let me see here, whoa, yeah. Why are so many people depressed?

Erin Mac 40:47
Okay, so call it depression, call it anxiety, call it whatever you want any low level experience, which is anything that doesn't feel good stress, overwhelm, worry, all those lovely words, they're the same thing. They are the experience of the human wanting to control people and circumstances to fit in how they want them to show up, or they don't feel good. And the unconscious recognition at the same time that it is impossible to control people and circumstances and events to fit into your agenda. And so you can see where that those two things butting up against each other would create some confusion. And so that confusion looks like anxiety, depression, you know, all the it's, we have this new, we've touched on it before the belief thing, right? So it's foundational, we made up everybody has them. I've not met anybody yet, who does not have these very core ones that are things like, I don't deserve, I'm not worthy, I'm not good enough. I'm not lovable, you know. And they're all basically the same thing. Like, I'm not good enough. And so those are underlying all of our decisions and how we're feeling about ourselves. And then we interact with other people. Based on those beliefs, we have decided what's right and wrong. So that's how people are supposed to show up for us, and how circumstances are supposed to show up for us. And so we got into this habit of we learned this piece about when this person says something or the circumstance doesn't turn out how I want, then somehow it's their fault, right? So if that person said something, and they're rude, instead of that person said something triggered something in me that did not feel good. What is that? And why is that there? When we look at that with wonder and curiosity and go interesting, because I guarantee whatever is triggering, you is not triggering me. So that's how, you know, it's all you.

Brandon Handley 43:06
It's true. Um, you know, if if I was spiritually looking for a date, then then I would say, Hey, what's up? I'm good. And I agree, you know, I don't think there's a piece in there that I disagree with. So So thank you, I think that's a great answer to to it, right? Everybody's still trying to control the outcomes in some way, shape, or form. And when they're not turning out the way they want them to. They're not they're not accepting it. Right? They don't see it. And I think that the idea of approaching these triggers with wonder and curiosity versus like, kind of anger and angst is also really why is this can trigger still here. Right? So it makes sense. And I love it. So and what else I know that we talked about, you know, you're doing the work that you're doing now, but you've got a new endeavor, what are you, you know, what are you leaning into next?

Erin Mac 44:00
Oh, my gosh, I'm so excited. I'm working with couples right now. I just finished doing my pilot course, on partnership. And the reason I'm so excited about it is, well, first of all, I truly believe we are here for spiritual development, or you call self development or whatever you want to call it consciousness. And when we recognize that that's why we're here and that all these you know, challenges that come into our life are for the purpose of our growth, then we can, you know, grow and heal and enjoy ourselves, right? Well, what happens when you bring two people together, that understand that there's a process to healing and growing and understand that same process in a way where, you know, in couples, it's like, it's easy to see how escalation can happen because it's like, especially when I've just told you what's going on. Right. So You said this thing, it made me feel bad, you know, right. So instead of, you know, we do this responsibly, so then we go, Oh, you said this thing, I feel bad. There's nothing that you can do to make me feel better, I'm in charge of making me feel better. And then they can support you in that, right? And then instead of escalating it's support, right? So it's not, you made me feel this way. It's, I feel this way, and it doesn't feel good. And, you know, support me in that instead of like, get your beliefs and you know, the things in your life that aren't working out and escalate, escalate, escalate, it's like, no, this is mine, I own it, it doesn't feel good. And then the two of you work together in that capacity. And it's just amazing to watch couples, it's exponential, because not only is their relationship so much better, but think of the impact that will have on their kids, the rest of their family, when they can see two fully functioning adults coming together, helping support each other in their spiritual growth. It's phenomenal. And so that sounds awesome. That

Brandon Handley 46:15
sounds awesome. So where does, you know? What, who's your ideal client? Like in this space? Right? So I think we got two types of ideal clients, you got the partners, ideal clients, and then you've got your, your, your standard practice clients, what is what are they?

Erin Mac 46:30
So ultimately, you know, being an entrepreneur for like, 21 or two years now, entrepreneurs, like me, for some reason, because I get their craziness, I understand that they are under the gun and responsible for a lot of things. And those, typically, and leaders to write just people have a lot of responsibility. That, you know, like to make all the things work out, you know, like to control all the things, those are the people that I ended up working with, because I get them, I was them. And I still have nuances of that, of course, you know, so working on me, and all that all the things. And then couples who are recognizing that, you know, especially when you're coming together as maybe two, what do they call that the set called the two families come together to blend in? Yeah. Like, I've noticed quite a few couples that are interested in working with me, that have that situation, because it's, you know, it's already challenging being in partnership, but then you bring in the kids and just escalates all the things. And so, you know, any couple, of course, who's having an issue, wanting to communicate in a deeper way or, you know, deepen their relationship in some way. Fantastic. And, you know, it's super challenging when you're bringing in, you know, other kids and into the mix and all that. Yeah, it's

Brandon Handley 48:05
hard enough with your own, right. Yeah, for sure. So and where then, where Then should I send people to come and find you, if they're interested?

Erin Mac 48:18
I think probably the best place to find me is on Instagram. My handle is Aaron, er, I N m A C LLC. And I post like a weekly video on some sort of strategy or something to think about. And I put like, inspirational memes and my stories. And my website URL is in the profile as well. It's a good way to interact with me, you can DM me, you can private message me or whatever. You know, and I always whenever I'm on a podcast, I offer a free I call it step one to joy call to just get you on the path, you know, maybe I you know disseminate the, the visualization process a little bit further so that you can get started on that and your life or whatever that looks like. And if afterwards, you still want to hang out with me and learn more than great if you don't, no strings attached. It's just my way of being in service.

Brandon Handley 49:21
Awesome. And thanks so much for being on today. Thanks for what you do, right? You know, being able to help people make that transition from a Bumble of nerves into something, you know, a little bit more usable and functional in society. I mean, there's the there's a reason why that's your calling. So thank you for being of service and doing that for everybody out there.

Erin Mac 49:47
Oh my gosh, thanks for having me. And thanks for having these platforms. It's really important to have these conversations, giving people hope and strategies and just something to think about that's, you know, positive I appreciate the opportunity. Thank you so much. Absolutely.

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That moment of shame

Published: July 2, 2021, 11:44 a.m.
Duration: 18 minutes 58 seconds

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BJJ as a Spiritual Practice

Published: June 29, 2021, 12:41 a.m.
Duration: 12 minutes 21 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:02
party people, party people used to get you going, right? You'd be, you'd be out there.

Unknown Speaker 0:09
You'd be dancing all night

Brandon Handley 0:11
long. And it's a party for party people. I knew they were talking to you. He knew they were talking to you. And you were like, I am a party people,

Unknown Speaker 0:22
people, Hey,

Brandon Handley 0:24
what's going on? I live in jujitsu, right now in Brazilian jujitsu. And I just want to see if I can convey a little bit about something that I learned recently, don't do a whole lot of research into the deep, deep origins of Jiu Jitsu, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, to be specific, other than the fact that I know that there's a Japanese version, and there's a Brazilian one. Suffice to say, I've been doing it for the past couple, four years. Mine is a COVID year. And it is something that is right in line with this whole spiritual journey that I've been on soul journey, period, physical, emotional, number of whatever, whatever you want to call it, the whole the whole thing, the whole kitten caboodle. And the idea is,

Unknown Speaker 1:30
What's the idea?

Brandon Handley 1:31
The idea is that it has been something that while taking jujitsu and going to Jiu Jitsu, there's certainly more confidence in being able to defend myself or, or my family if I had to, and, and in certain situations, it has given me the opportunity to be part of a community to Jiu Jitsu community, to me is simply all about you working to get better. And then you working to help someone else get better. This morning, as I was leaving jujitsu, you know, everybody over there's pretty good, right? Everybody there's think, on the same skill level, or above or slightly below. And, and so we all, we all have some pretty good, pretty good roles. And if there's anything that you've ever heard about Jiu Jitsu is like doesn't even matter, you know, I'm going up against the black belt, who can certainly demolish me, but even even even he is able to learn something from me, either, maybe he refined something that he already knows, on me, because I've given an opening that maybe nobody else has ever given him before he's able to apply it in a scenario, or is just able to practice his craft on a live body. And that in of itself is to me invaluable. The same way that talking with somebody in person is so much better than anything you could possibly do through zoom through digital. So there's nothing nothing replaces doing something live and with a person. In real, in real There we are. Right? I don't care how augmented reality gets, I don't care how virtual it gets. And I don't care if we are living in the matrix. This is just

Unknown Speaker 3:41
what I'm saying

Brandon Handley 3:42
right now. So nothing, nothing beats that. And so we all we all learn from each other and we're all there also to jitsu as a community to help each other improve. And as I was leaving this morning, I'll just say okay, that's okay. So thanks, everybody, for being how's it. Thanks, everybody for being here. You're all you're all better because of me today.

Unknown Speaker 4:05
And half

Brandon Handley 4:06
joke half not and we all move out. We all got a chuckle right. Simply because it's true. I'm improving because of them. I guarantee it. And that that's that's part of the community of Brazilian jujitsu. The idea though, is that jujitsu apparently and I couldn't be wrong, but I was listening to Swami Safari or Peri and Nanda Swami Ji. And he was bringing up the idea that anytime you put like the jitsu part of it, it means fighting. However, when you when you turn it into, though, like Judo, jujitsu becomes Judo, it becomes the A way which becomes a spiritual path. And I was not aware of that. However, I can guarantee that this has been, for me my way, and he was talking about that with, with swordfighting. Right. kenjutsu becomes kanjo. And something about, I don't know, become a keto, the deal is, is that these martial arts that while they are certainly amazing for physical activity, they have this the spiritual capacity as well, where, for me, it puts it puts me into just all kinds of different scenarios and breaks down the ego. So, so well, especially, I can recall, when I first started kind of competition, I think I had like, maybe my third or fourth stripe, I don't know, maybe even just my second stripe, I forget on my white belt, and I thought it was some hot shit, right. And, and I had to go up against this other guy who had no stripes on his belt. However, he, like, he was a super strong, I think he's about 10 years younger than me. And he just choke the shit out of me. And I just, you know, I wasn't prepared, I let my guard down. And at the same time I was I just I was humbled. And so it's a sport and practice that is the super humbling, suffice to say just so everybody knows, that guy went on to win the competition and white belt, inclusive of inclusive of what they call open. Absolute, that's what it is absolute. And so he was pretty good. I'm still I'm still humbled. And it's just eradicates this ego, of, I'm better than you and you're better than me versus this thing where we're all in this together.

And it really just kind of makes a creates a different space for for you and your, your, your own practice. And I think that this, this spills over for me into so many other different areas, especially takes it into work, takes it into my job, takes it into my home life, takes it into the community in general, where whereby even if I hadn't already had this this point of view. And I can't say that I absolutely did. I was certainly more of me centered and completely all about myself. Only for for quite a number of years. And well, I'm certain that I made it through and did just fine. The way that I feel now is and the way they act now is more from a place of of community. Self Service, self sufficiency as well as service, how can I be of service and jujitsu? I think brought a lot of that out of me. Well, I think that it was always there. It just hadn't been, hadn't been. hadn't been tapped, right that just just a resource that hadn't been tapped. a resource that maybe I didn't feel like was worth sharing. As in I think even even just most recently last night I did the Marianne Williamson posts, where it's the idea that you're not afraid of, it's not the darkness in you that you're afraid of. It's the light and you that you're most afraid of and your greatness that's inside, and how playing small doesn't serve anyone. And that whole idea the idea of like playing small means that maybe you've got some ideas that you think may make a change or may make a situation that you're in better, something that could improve where you are. And you don't say anything because you're afraid that someone may not understand you're afraid you may not get the idea across. There's a whole number of reasons why you may not share it. And the other reason may be like you just don't feel like you're ranked high Why would they listen to me? They never listened to me or something like that. And you put your you put this in your head. And so you you don't, you don't share it out. And, and again, I think going through jujitsu and the past few years of coaching and all this other stuff have brought me to a place where I feel confident and comfortable that even if it's maybe not the best idea, we can talk through it right? The same thing will happen again. And this becomes just an inner practice, right listening to your intuition or recognizing the spaces internally. That becomes the way for you just the same way that jujitsu doesn't always have to mean that this is a fighting art it is a fighting art, but it can also be transcended into the spiritual practice and drive you innately

Unknown Speaker 10:58
so

Brandon Handley 11:00
just thought that I would share some of that with you as I'm as I'm leaving jujitsu and very I thought that hearing that was pretty awesome you know, I had no idea myself that these martial arts translated into spiritual practices even though like I always felt like they did anyways there was this kind of here was this definition of when you go from you know, this fighting are into a spiritual space to spiritual practices a certain way. Then you find yourself in a different space and applying applying some of this stuff internally. And it's, it's a

Unknown Speaker 11:43
whole

Brandon Handley 11:44
it's a whole it is a whole nother universe. It is a whole nother space and just implore that you find something for yourself, right? That anything you're doing on the outside think you can do on the inside, right. And vice versa as the inside is what is reflected on the outside anywho hope y'all are having a fantastic day, morning, evening, wherever you are, whatever you do. I hope that it's great and this has been your hit the spiritual

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Prabhat Gautam | Positive TV | Raising Awareness

Published: June 27, 2021, 12:58 p.m.
Duration: 1 hour 6 minutes 59 seconds

The Goal of Positive Television is to generate publicity for the many individuals and organizations already making positive change and to assist developing groups and individuals flourish. Prabhat’s belief is that there are already many positive things being done all around the world, so creating programs and events will serve to inspire more people to get involved. Prabhat has said, “People have a fascination with all aspects of celebrity life, so I wanted to create a network that focuses on the giving done by celebrities and use that celebrity power for the highest good.”

Connect with Prabhat at https://positivetelevision.org/ or, if you have an idea, or enjoy this podcast, pick up the phone and give him a call @310-872-0669

Transcript below is machine generated

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey there spiritual dope. Today I have with me Prabhat Gautam and you know, I'm gonna deviate a little bit, I'll definitely let you know that for both comes from, you know, to me from positive television. That org it's a positive television is something that provides has created himself and he connects with a ton of ton of different people and organizes lots of awesome events. But you know today I just want to I want to take a little bit of a deviation from just kind of doing the biographical statements I just wanted to say, you know, Rob came to me, by way of, you know, just kind of like a random introduction, you would you had introduced Kiko Ellsworth to the podcast, and I just wanted to reach out and say, thank you for that. And then it turned into, you know, kind of, you know, getting on the podcast, and I just thought that was really cool. Because you never know whose life you're touching, right? When you do these podcasts and who you're reaching out to. And, you know, even before we got started today, you're you're sharing that? Well, you know, you still listen to a podcast or two. And it's always great to hear that, that what's being sent out is being heard. So thank you for that for being a listener, but also for, you know, being a connector and also for the work that you do in the space that you are in, which we'll certainly talk about, and for being on here today.

Prabhat Gautam 1:31
But thank you so much, Brandon, and thanks for creating this amazing platform. And, you know, when I heard episodes, I just I wanted Chico to be on there. Because, you know, Chico, last year did this amazing conference. And he's looking for opportunities to talk about his spiritual journey. And I was like Brandon's the guy, because the reality is what you're doing with the whole spiritual junk movement and what you're doing with your podcast. It's really getting spirituality, I think, to a next level, or it's real for people. And I think during our time today, we'll talk about how you're making it real for people. And it's not just, you know, as we heard many times of your podcast, this out there thing that people aren't practicing every day, you're making it a practical thing. What you're doing

Brandon Handley 2:19
now, thank you. Thank you. And I'm glad that that's coming through, right? Because that's absolutely the intent is how do we make this practical and less nebulous, and more of something that is in your life every day all the time? Right, there's no separation. So since you have listened, then then you should know, right, the next piece is that the universe speaks to us. Right? And, and there's somebody out there today that you know, is going to be tuned into the podcast. And there's a message that is being delivered to and through you that that listeners are going to need to hear what is that message today.

Prabhat Gautam 2:57
I really deeply believe that. I want people to find what they're just what they're driven to do. And it may not need to be your occupation. But live more of that. If you're a painter and you love painting, I'm not saying you need to quit your job and become a professional painter. But make time every week in your life to do that. If you love going to the beach, because it brings you joy, go once a week, once a month, like take your vacations there. So we know deep down what we're drawn to like where there's a magnet, we know what we're getting what we feel deeper than we need to be around. And I think for the truth is, for a lot of us, it's good people. It's inspirational programming. So go find that stuff. So that's what I hope people will do is, is do more of this stuff that really nourishes you and fulfills you. Because when you do that amazing, wonderful things open up in mostly you open up.

Brandon Handley 4:00
That's awesome. So the I mean, the idea that the idea that simply do more of what you love, right, and it doesn't have to be this doesn't have to be the this thing where you throw everything away and just do this thing, right? Like you always hear people talking about burning bridges and let it all go right. But just just to find time and and make that time to to go do it. And the idea, I love the idea that it's going to nourish and fulfill you, right? Yeah, I mean, just I mean talk a little bit more about what you mean by nourishment and fulfillment, right? What's that mean to you?

Prabhat Gautam 4:42
Yeah, what it really means is it my three favorite analogies are always sports, dating and food, right? Those three things and they like when you think about when, when you're in those worlds if you meet somebody you like them. You want to spend more time, right? There's like this, this magnetism if you'd like somebody in sports, you do all this time to practice every day, because you're preparing for the game. And if you go into a game, and you've never practiced your level performance, it's just not gonna be the same level as your, as your competitors, and your teammates. And then obviously, in the food world, we've all done this, we're all guilty of it, I'm still guilty of it, sometimes, you have this pack day, we have so much you have to do, you look up at two o'clock, you haven't eaten anything, you haven't drank juice, you haven't, like, you know, you've not you've, you've basically gone through a 568 hours a day, with no nutrients, often no water, and that's gonna affect your ability, like, it's gonna affect your brain, it's gonna affect your effectiveness. And the reality is, it's gonna affect your mood, you're not going to be as loving, as nurturing as thoughtful a person. So for me, everything comes back to, we know what nurtures us, we know what fills us. So when you know, in you what you need to be nurtured. And I know for me on the food level, I love quick snacks, like I love snack bars, I love to have juice in the morning. And that's how I like to run my day. So if I'm not doing that, or not taking care of my basic nutritional needs, it's going to impact what I'm going to be able to do for other people. I think you know, this brand, and even with your podcast, you might do multiple podcasts in a day. But if you're not making any time for you, and your loved ones, it's gonna affect your podcast, like you're going to feel it, your energy levels is going to be a little lower, you're going to be a little tired, you're not going to have as much focus. And you're doing this all the time. I think at a high level, I think you're doing amazing work. But the truth is, can we all do things at a higher level? And how much are we holding ourselves back? When we're not nourishing ourselves?

Brandon Handley 6:54
Yeah, I mean, that's powerful. Right? Can I mean just, yeah, just the idea of, can we be doing something at a higher level, by by nourishing ourselves, right, by by adding the element of making sure that we're taking care of ourselves, and that's inclusive of taking care of our families. And, you know, as as, as, you know, look as a family, man, right? I can, I will definitely feel thrown off balance, if I'm not having that family time. Right. And it will definitely show up in everything that I'm doing, just like you're saying. So what, you know, one of the cool things, I mean, you know, the, I know you through right, is the positive television piece, right, which you shared with me. Well, let's talk a little bit about that. And how you got that spun up and organized. And what took you there?

Prabhat Gautam 7:42
Yeah, so for me, I grew up on the MTV era, right, in the, in the 90s. And I remember when I, I just loved it, you know, loved music videos, and just loved sort of it was this pop culture phenomenon. And I think, you know, getting out of college as like, Well, what do I want my life to be? And I went, and I did an internship with Amnesty International, but I thought my life would be putting these reports together about what's happening internationally, and fixing, you know, atrocities, and how do we change the world? And then right before I finished college, I interned with the Vice President, the University, University of Oklahoma, and then I started writing out what would my dream world look like? And how would I want to be part of it? And I felt like media has this incredible power, to motivate, inspire, and get people to take action? So I thought, Well, okay, media can do that when they tell stories. And this is, you know, 1999. I thought, well, what if you're actually intentional with your media? What if it's not like, oh, there's 29 minutes of local news. That's depressing and terrible, and you're scare? And the last 30 seconds are, you know, somebody saved the cat that went up a tree? What did we actually just did all positive stories, while we're being realistic, that there's a lot of terrible things happening in the world, but it's always solution oriented. And that's really sort of the impetus of what positive telogen turned into. So I moved out to LA in 2000, to create this television network. And again, I was young, I didn't know what I was doing, which I honestly believe is the best place to be at when you don't know what you're doing. You just take steps step step. And you might take a wrong step, but it's a learning step. So again, right? What I love to use words like failure and wrong, because I think so often people view those as negative. And I feel like if we own Hey, I failed, hey, I don't I've made the wrong choices, then it's like, Okay, well, then I know there's a right choice to make. I know there's a chance for success. So for me, you know, I believed in this world moved to Los Angeles to try to create this television network. And the next thing that happened is Tesla events. I've met all these people that I thought would help me build this network, and I ended up producing events and now 21 years later, I've produced 800 events in Los Angeles. with, you know, huge celebrities, usually super wealthy people. And and now when I look back in 1999, and 2008, a cable TV channel, but I saw a world where there's no commercials where you're just telling stories. And the reality is, there was no YouTube, there's no Facebook, there's no Google in 1999. Like, none of that existed in the way it exists now. So sometimes when you're early, it's really difficult because you think the world doesn't believe in what you believe in. And later, you realize, like when I listen to podcasts now, and you watch YouTube videos, and you see Netflix, Amazon, there's so much content that's inspirational. It was like 1% of the content and 9099. Now, if you want to be surrounded by positivity all day, you can live in that positive bubble as much as you want. Which I think realistically, we need we need. After you've had a family member that's passed, or something sad happened, you needed to be lifted up, and you need to be in a place of all positivity. And then when you come back to the regular world, where there's some negative, some positive, you can start at 20 9010, you could really, you can curate your positivity in one of the podcasts that you did random that I loved was with Mr. Youngblood and you talked about Wish I love you said, if somebody finds a spiritual community, that doesn't work for them, it's not an indictment on that community or on you, it just isn't a fit. So go seek out other communities. Because once you find your community, you'll you know what you feel it. And sometimes the search isn't the first door. It's four doors, it's eight doors, but every door taught you your resilience, and how bad you want to find your try.

Brandon Handley 12:00
Yeah, 100%. And thanks for that. Right. The idea is,

Unknown Speaker 12:05
I think once

Brandon Handley 12:06
you start to feel that spiritual pool, there's kind of no stopping you. But there is, there's the opportunity to find a community that you don't really know identify with, or feel like you fit in with and you can keep moving again, like you're saying beyond to to the next or the next word, there's so, so many, so many places that you can go right now. That is just, it's just amazing. And to your point, right? You know, we didn't have YouTube, back in the day, we didn't have Facebook, we didn't have all these communities, we didn't have all these things open to us, that we that we've got available right now. But I love the idea of what you're saying too. And that kind of fear. If you're a visionary, right? If you're ahead of your time, you may feel like people aren't believing in you, or you start to maybe doubt like your own vision and, and kind of what you're going through. And it's not that the world isn't ready for you. It's it's getting ready, right? It's like It's like, it's like getting dressed for the prom, right? It's just gonna take, so it's gonna take a little bit longer than you expected.

Prabhat Gautam 13:09
And I think too, sometimes it's, I remember in college, but I just was flipping channels. Late at night, I saw the story about missing kids. And I said, Why are we not finding these kids? I never knew any kid that's missing. I just saw this story. And it just impacted me. So I started writing letters to Oprah and Rosie O'Donnell and CNN and said, We need to like find these kids, like don't show photos of them. Let's incorporate it into your programming. And I remember getting all these letters back where they're like, Oh, yeah, you know, we tried to dress it. We're doing this, we're doing that. I remember, I did a mock up of what I thought that look like. And it was this television network where all the commercials would be little ads at the bottom, there'd be no real commercial just be like, you know, it's basically what's a banner ad on and, and the internet now. And I remember kind of writing everything up and saying I think the future is going to be a ton of content like you know, when john f kennedy was killed you see the the story with a reporters telling you know, Walter Cronkite tells the story. I want to watch the whole news coverage before that last minute where he says that, so we're gonna find that archival footage, and I thought eventually there'll be a video outlet somewhere where you find out archivable news footage. I had no idea what YouTube would be would be silly videos and, you know, cat videos or whatever else. But it's also what you were saying. It's highly educational, Facebook, YouTube, Instagram, all these things. They can suck up your day and 19 hours are wasted. Or it can be inspirational. You're growing, you're learning you find your community of people, so many wonderful friends who live in that social media space. They work in that space. They're there in you know, they're influencers, that space. They have people that they know every aspect of their life. They're friends with that they Never met face to face. And I think, isn't that a beautiful thing like you're creating pen pals all over the world that you're connected with. And for me, I in social media, where I, you know, I like to put stuff out, I don't spend a lot of time interacting on social media. But again, I think that's, that's a product of my age, I think that's sort of, I come from a world of AI Still, if there's somebody is doing something cool, like what you're doing brand or something, something, Hey, you guys should know about this person. I cold call people. I've done that for 30 years. And I think, you know, when I meet these Gen X, Gen Z kids, they're like, what's called calling like, you find somebody that's doing something that's really amazing. You send them an email, or a phone call, or you just pick up a phone, and you call them and say, Hey, I love what you're doing. This is why I love it. And sometimes divided, it can be a reason why you are going to work together, you're just telling them, Hey, I respect what you're about. And sometimes those things lead to amazing friendships. You know, you can work with those people. At the very least, they got encouragement, I think, you know, we're in a world of we all love being encouraged. We love positivity. But I think part of that equation is we need to put that out, we need to be encouragers. So when you see somebody say something positive, that's really, you know why I'm so excited about this world of this guy, I think it's a whole new media phenomenon where, where it's not four channels is that you know, four channels that dictate to you what you learn, you get to pick what you want to learn every day of your life. And if you don't want to learn what I remember, in 2003, I had a good friend who is Episcopalian, and she would do lat so I said, I want to do let you know, I my backgrounds, cultural anthropology, so I gave up all TV for a month. Well, it happened to coincide with the first with the the Gulf War, the 2003 Gulf War. And I remember thinking, I'm so lucky, I missed that. Because how negative was that seeing bombs thrown on people and death and, and just sort of be in a constant state of fear, where you know, just happen to coincide with the time I, it's the only year I ever did lab. But that LED will always be memorable to me, because I grew up, you know, when you're in Ramadan. I'm not trying to be Catholic or Episcopalian or Muslim. But Ramadan, I said, I want to see what this journey is for people that do that. And I learned so much understanding for what people go through, that really don't eat for the day. Because they don't have access to food, I get to do it as a chance for me to grow. And, you know, try to see what a billion people in the world are doing. But realistically, there are people who don't eat a meal a whole day, there's children that don't eat. So if I can grow as a person and can walk in their shoes, or if even it makes me a better person,

Brandon Handley 18:02
right? No, I love that. I love the I love the idea of, you know, just trying to walk in somebody else's shoes for for a period of time, you know, going through, I've never done land. I've never done Ramadan, right. And one of the things that I certainly encourage my family to do with my children is to research other cultures, right? Go research other cultures outside of America. And you know, what, what did they do? What do they celebrate? What does that celebration? What are those kids eating this week? Right? What does that look like for them? And this is something that I took from one of my history teachers way back in the day is like, why something like some type of food that that culture makes? And let's, let's eat that. Let's make that meal, right? Like, what goes into that? And kind of where does it come from? And the background of it. And so, definitely love that. One of the things that, you know, I don't think that we really hit upon you do events, what type of events the Do you know, with with these 800 events? What kind of events are they?

Prabhat Gautam 19:03
Yeah, so it's really it's a charity space. So it's, it's a ton of fundraisers. So in 2008, I did a fundraiser for group called kind kids in need of defense. So undocumented children that are that are picked up by ice angelyn it's one of Angelina Jolie's charities. So that was amazing. And she wasn't there. So we didn't get to get married. So I'm still sad by that. I think she was a bad dad at the time anyway. But But you know, I guess put that together. I've done so a lot. First stars with foster kids. That's something I'm passionate about. And then a bunch of the animal charities gentle barn, Farm Sanctuary, Humane Society, like there's just so so it's really my sort of focus is what's the group that doesn't have a voice and then how do we give them a voice? So it's animals, it's people, it's it's people abroad, right. Like, I think even people here you know, it's women and domestic violence. They don't feel like they have a voice. It's Kids. So that's so much of it. So I'd say the majority is, is definitely fundraisers. And then along with that, what I love is doing documentary launches, doing book launch events, restaurant launch events, like the whole thing of getting people there to celebrate. I just I love that. So that's really what I looked back at 21 years and 800 events. But there was one month, September 2007, I did 30 days of events. So I just because I'd never done that, I said, I want to challenge myself, I'll do an event every single day that I produced. And we'll never do that, again, probably. There's a lot of time. But But definitely, it was amazing, because I teamed up with all these other people and said, Hey, I'm doing this month of events come up with a really fun idea. And there's a woman she she made, you know, a little vegan baked goods, and she wanted people to rollerblade I don't work. But now I see that she made these big guns, she gave him away for free. people showed up there probably the weather. And says like, that's fine, you know, and there's some fundraisers obviously during that month, but a lot of it's just, I think my passion is how do you help people figure out their community? How do you grow community that how do you use community to do maximum good in the world. And I think what we all know is we all have, you know, whether people have the financial resources to help, or they can just share a video share a story, there's just we have, we have the ability to help raise awareness, and you know, sign up people, my friend, she metal has a whole movement called raising their vibration, who I'm definitely going to introduce you to Brandon, you know, she has a whole radio thing with la talk radio, but that's her whole thing. It's like she does, you know, public events, how do you raise vibration in the world? So, to me, it's that all comes back to it's, it's just bringing more positivity and, and I'm an obsessed connector. So how do we connect people, and then get them to do more good, because, you know, once I meet people like, hey, Brandon, I'm a kid, this person has a great podcast, who are the people I know beyond that, then if I meet somebody that's a chef, and they went out there doing a cookbook? Well, who do I know, there are photographers to help them with their books. So I'd say so much of my work is people reaching out to me, because they have a project, and they don't know how to move it along. And then I help them make it happen.

Brandon Handley 22:25
That's awesome. And I love that, you know, it's kind of like, you've got this, you know, gift of being able to see kind of what's good and everyone and to be able to connect the goodness as it is. Right? And, and to help them to, to scale that out is what it sounds like, right? You know, if somebody doesn't know, you know, they've got a great idea, or they, you know, and they just want to give to the community, and then you're able to help them kind of put that together in some way, shape, or form. And really, what you're doing is raising vibration.

Prabhat Gautam 22:58
But thank you, I mean, some things I'm excited, you know, people need for like helping with a documentary Forks Over Knives. They're really the documentary game changers, I helped introduce those producers, to some funders, they'll pay for it. And it's a lot of people that are pieces of puzzles, I just saw people just really honest with and they just say, Hey, this is our budget, you know, we would love to hire you bring you in to help us do this event. But you know, we also need to raise funds for the project. So we're strategically, what do you think we need to do? And I can sit down with them, and I'm honest with them, and I say, you know, these steps, and you know, this is what, from my experience of 21 years of events, where I think you're gonna have the best opportunity. So much of what I talk to people about is go to friends and family first, when you have an idea. I know a lot of times, our family's not encouraging. And that's why a lot of people get into these spaces where they want to help. But I think give them a chance to say no, because if you don't go to them, it's a no, if you go to them, and they say yes. And I've met with people, they say, Oh, well, my best friend's father is a multimillionaire, but you know, I don't really want to go to them to help. But I have this idea, but I have no funding. And I would say to them, go to your friend's father, because maybe he won't give you a million, maybe they give you 5000 10,000. But if he gives you 10 or 20,000 for your project, well, then you start it. And once you started, it's just the philosophy of take a step every step you take, because what I've seen over and over and over again, is when people are the idea phase, we're still used to people talking about ideas, and it doesn't turn into anything. But when you take action, people don't want to hear Oh, I want to go from Los Angeles to Washington DC. They're like I bought a ticket to go from LA to DC. I don't know what I'm gonna do when I get there. I don't know how to you know, there's a whole environmental movement that happened a couple years ago where people went out there, but once you bought the ticket, people are more likely to be on board and I'm not Use your savings to buy that ticket. But if you don't take that first action step, people don't believe you're, you're really going to do it. But once you take that step, that leap of faith, people feel like, wow, this person's committed, what can I do to help them? So I think, give people opportunity to help you. But it starts with what's your action step? And I tell people all the time do Kickstarter do Indiegogo do don't fund me, again, you may only raise 2000. That's 2000 more than you started. But what's gonna happen is you're now putting it out to everybody. You know, this is what I care about. This is my passion. And now, that person that's your friend for five years, who is going to be able to donate, but their friends friends friend has XYZ that you need to help with your project. Will you just why do we need money? We need money to move things along. Right? It's a currency, right? Right. It's right, it's water. So if you if you have the raft, you go out to the water and you know how to swim. It's important. You know how to swim, swimming lessons, then get out there and be with other persons cool. They're there after swimming. But what are they swimming for? Like I remember years ago to get friend, she had to do a walk from LA to Washington, DC to raise awareness about a bunch of issues. And I said, Okay, that's good. Are you serious that I want to do is about children's issues or health issues. Next thing you knew my friend Peter Samuelsson, I tell him about, he said, He's trying to raise awareness about homeless issues. He said, Well, can he push this portable homeless cart at his organization? He darn EDR everyone deserves a roof as part of my job is to help push it. Next thing in the process is the owner the Philadelphia Eagles. Jeffrey Lurie. Yeah, here, we got Jeffrey Lurie on board and Phil are the Eagles doctors, we're going to be her personal doctors on our wall. Wow. And it all became real. And then she's like, wow, am I really going to do this. And obviously her family got scared. She and in the end, she ended up deciding to go to the grad school route versus the walk across the country for a few months. But for her, she needed to know people believed in her. And, and she's this amazing activist. And sometimes what you need is not what you believe to happen to happen. You need to know people believe in you. I think for her, she was in tears. She's like, Peter got Whoopi Goldberg on board. He said, Well, we're doing this event in Philadelphia, why don't you instead of kicking off in LA kick off in Philadelphia. And then let's have Whoopi Goldberg announced your walk, and you start in Philadelphia. And she was like I said, you have Whoopi Goldberg, you have the Philadelphia Eagles owner and their doctors on board. You don't need to raise $5,000 or $10,000. You raise awareness. And through that awareness, you're gonna be able to raise a bunch of money.

And you're gonna raise so much awareness for these causes. So I just tell people, let everybody in your circle know what you're doing. Right? And if they feel like it's authentic and genuine, don't you know this rant like doors, open doors always.

Brandon Handley 28:11
It's so true, right? Just like you're saying, as soon as and as soon as you take that first action, like you're talking about take that first. That leap of face is like, I call it like the signal to the universe, like, Alright, I'm doing this thing. Or like the fallback thing, I'm gonna need you to catch me, right, like I'm taking, I'm putting this foot down, I'm gonna I'm gonna head in the direction that I told everybody I was gonna head in. I'm gonna need like universal backing, could I go ahead and get that and, and it shows up. And it shows up in such amazing and powerful ways. I mean, I still like kind of well up about I mean, even connecting with you and connecting with all the people that I've gotten to connect with on this podcast and all the other podcasts. It's, it's just so amazing. What will open up if you're willing to, like you said earlier, open yourself up to it. Right? So absolutely.

Prabhat Gautam 29:06
All of these things. Yay. Right? Like we were newly friends, right? Friends forever now. And now it's like who the amazing people that are going to be inspired by your podcast, but I'll send you an email, Hey, bring that up. person's cool. I'd love to connect with them. Yeah, and then vice versa, right. like Nike goes through me. Now Kiko is gonna hopefully tap you in his network about the book, but his conference in the next year when he does a live conference, you know, last year, he did a virtual one, but he does a live one. Well, I'm sure he's gonna want you to be part of it. So it's like, you just see that these are the beginning of relationships that are for your life. And again, we're all in different cities, but it's an the paradigm has shifted in such a profound way that we don't need to be next door neighbors in the same block, but we can literally be anywhere in the world and communicate and connect people to want to Now that are in all these amazing things out and I mean, I, I really am just such a strong believer in when he said to the analogy of somebody falling backwards, fall backwards, it's good to know at least one person will catch you. But all you need is one, if one will catch you, then that means there's two, there's 10, there's 100. And there's 100, people don't catch you. You don't need to fall backwards. Now you're all moving forward together, you're all running, you're walking, you're running your you know, walk, jog, run, and then now you're the marathon. And now you're raising all this awareness consciousness about all this dollies, right? Like, and I tell people all the time, I don't care what your passion is, I really don't like my passions. I don't care what your passion is. Just figure it out, find it. If I can help you find a quicker, I want to be part of that. And a good friend years ago, she said, If you met somebody that want to be a hairdresser, you do everything to help her start her hairdressing salon. I said, Yes, I would. And I don't have any desire to go to hairdresser. But I think if you see people's passion, you want to help nurture that you want to be part of that. And, and to me, it all goes back to I in the world of business, right? They'll say, Oh, you just introduction to this, will you get a cut of the deal? I want, I don't want 10% of people's joy. I want 1,000% of their joy like to know you help somebody find their passion and you're part of it. You don't need them to tell you that you don't need plaques, just to see their life, see them excited to know you are part of that journey. And everybody they're ever going to talk to you are part of that. And vice versa. They're part of your joy. What's that worth? That's bazillions. Like that, that's such a higher level value than any amount of money.

Brandon Handley 31:46
Now 100% you I mean, you can't you can't buy that, right. And it's, it's it's a challenge to instill that in someone who doesn't have it too. But even though it's already there, right, you can see it for them. And like you want to help them to see that in themselves. Right? Like you're talking about that light, getting them to explore it and maybe needing that encouragement like is that somebody says they want to be a hairdresser. You're like, Yeah, let's go right? Like, you all you need is just that little, I always think about like the tiny seeds in the in the cracks of cement and sidewalks, right? They there's like nothing around them, which is about just the tiniest amount of nurturing, right? nutrients, it gets them to blossom and grow in that in that place, which you know, to me, it speaks to us as well, right? As humans, it's just a little bit of encouragement to go do that thing you said you wanted to do. And I bring this up because some of my first podcast came about right, I had a coach and, and I told her I want to do a podcast and I was expecting I was expecting her to say, well, that's a dumb idea you really shouldn't deviate from from doing doing that. And instead, she's like, Alright, well, what can I do to help? And I was like, What? Yeah, right, it's just and that's all you need is just a little bit of that type of encouragement to, to go and find and do the things that you love, but to have the support with other people with you. That's, that's, you know, that makes it tenfold and beyond. So the other piece that we were talking about before, we figured out our technical challenges today was the idea that, you know, you know, I think you seem to be in a pretty good spiritual place, you know, seem like you're, you're feeling pretty happy. You've got like, you know, your light that you shine to help other lights shine. But you talked a little bit about like a lot of these people that you help with these events that are sad. Right. And and let's talk a little bit about that, since you brought it up earlier.

Prabhat Gautam 33:46
Yeah, so yeah, you know, years ago, you know, I met Andy dick, who's, you know, pretty known for his drug and alcohol addiction, right? So we became friends. And then then we had, we had a gallery in Hollywood together. And I remember, you know, just seeing that world of fame, and how so many people like they want to seek that out, right? They want to, and like in any other ad, his brother dies, get a relapse and got back into drinking. And I remember when

I was like, 3am, one night, and I said, Ken is what your legacy to be. Because as far as we know, right? We're all going to be gone one day, what's your legacy? And he said, I want to prevent people from the hardships I had. I said, Andy, what does that look like? Is that a bug? Is that a toward you? When I speak to college kids, so they'll never get it? He said, love to do that. I said, so you know, I'll send them encouraging text still on that end. We got to that book, because he wants to help get people out of the pitfalls he got into. And I think so often in the world of celebrity, no, I I interviewed Jim Greenberg. He's donated 40 40 million to charity. amazing person, right. And he's always in a place of giving and high level celebrities, you know. And what you realize is people think they want to have these people's lives and they miss that. Jim is talks about when you're a philanthropist, he said, every day of my life, people are pitching projects that they need funding for. And I have to think, who do I find them utilized often, and whoever I don't find, they may not be able to get the help they need. And he said, I only have limited resources, no matter how much money I have, I still can't find everything you said the majority of his time is on the phone with other donors trying to get them to help fund projects. So you know, he figured out the areas he wants to focus on, he tries to encourage more people as they're growing their wealth to give the money away. And I think we look at it from an outside like, oh, when you're famous, or when you're rich, your life's gonna be easy. And you're cater to one of the people misses. There's a loneliness a lot of people with wealth and fame have. And there's also this world where, when people come to them, they always need something. And so, you know, I remember when when Jim moved into his house in Los Angeles, the first week he moved in, I brought I brought over Amy's soups, who are on his, I said, Jim, you're worse cook than me, I want you to have easy since he does warm a lot, you know, and I've been vegan since 1999. He's vegan plant based, now for a while. So I'd say these are easy soups, you throw them in the, you know, you heat them up on the stovetop, that's good. And, and I said, he doesn't need me to bring him soup. He's a super wealthy person. But I said, we're legitimately friends, I would do that for any friend, whether they have $1 or a million dollars. And and I think we just got to be in a place of, of not having this idol worship. And I think you know, what I love about what you're doing your podcast, Brandon is, it's, it's making spirituality real for people. Because I think too often, they think the pastor is amazing at their church, they think the spiritual teacher of this yoga practice is amazing. Well, what happens to that person is a scandal, which they do. So when the person you look up to is flawed? Do you throw out your whole spiritual practice? Because they're a flawed individual? Or do you say, okay, they were trying to teach something good, but they themselves didn't even get the fullness of what the lesson is. So I think, you know, I think I said to a good friend recently, these are systems, religion is a system, right? These spiritual practices systems, that people can be bound within the system. And there's a group of people who see outside of the system, and the system can still help heal, you can help you grow. I say all the time. If somebody has a drug addiction, alcohol addiction, they've been through a lot of trauma. I want them to find organized religion, if that's going to help them do it. I think there's deeper beyond that. And maybe I'm wrong, but I think there is. So I think whatever you need to break, whatever is holding you back and do that. But ultimately, I want people to find just, I think there's a direct pathway for people, when when you find good people find them. When you find encouragement, buying them. However, people want to describe these things, energy, God, whatever, you know, atheist, it's like it's love. It's goodness, I think it's inconsequential. The the labels we put on stuff is me coming from a cultural anthropology background, there's different words for everything. There's cultures, they have no word for snow, so to snow, because it is the smell of those those communities. So snow exists, the fact that they don't have a word for it doesn't mean that they're lesser or they're devoid of smell, you know, I think we get so caught up in the semantics, the word the word games, and, and people are so busy trying to convert to their one segment of their view. Or really, I think the real work is encourage people to find what is working for them, be loving, be nurturing. And if they're in a path, you don't like that they're on delay, they'll find their way. And I think there's, I think there's an element of people, where there's a missionary element where they want to convert everybody to the one practice. But what happens when you grow your practice, you brought all these people to practice that doesn't even work for you anymore. So instead of trying to bring them to your practice, tell them what works for you. Be honest about it. Tell them any sort of issues you ever had in your journey. And be honest about it. And then if they find this in practice, great if they don't, you being honest, is so genuine. You know, I think for me, for me being vegan for 21 years, I tell people that there's some of those vegan cheeses, meats I didn't like at the beginning. I don't sell it as Oh, everything's great here. I'm like, these are the things I like these are the things I didn't like. This is why I liked it. And this is where, you know, my vegan role is improved. And I think a lot of people resonate with that more because it's a real commentary on my journey. And I think the same thing for for you, Brandon, what are you talking about is you know, you've gone through the podcasts you revamped, you changed and stuff, you learn you, you didn't wake up one day, and you're the next year, Rogen, you woke up one day and started it, modified it live life, modified it live life modified it, where you're at today, maybe different the reaction years from now, but where you're at today is where you feel drawn to be at. So to me, that's your journey, you're supposed to be doing what you're doing. Right? You see it, you feel it?

Brandon Handley 40:41
Yeah. And so it's impossible not to. Yeah, right. Once you, once you once you, once you do be in the field that draw that pool into where you're going, I always say to the, if I'm still talking the same talk, and saying the same things in 10 years, and something's probably wrong, that I'm not learning, maybe, right. Like, I'm like, I always, you know, I throw that out there. And then I'm going back to kind of earlier in the conversation just in the in the whole idea of, if you don't know how to do it, start doing it now. Right? Because you, it's almost better that you don't know anything, right? And you just start to do it and you start to do what feels right for you. I love I love what you're saying about the whole idea of, you know, in this, you know, I was certainly you know, against here, initially, you know, kind of falling into the spirituality spaces like, Oh, you got to do this way you do that do this, this is this is the way, right and it's not right. If that was my understanding of my path at that time, you have your very, very, very own path. And it's up to me to encourage you to follow your path, share some of the practices, like you're saying that that I have found that have worked for me, and they're called practices for a reason, right? Because I'm practicing them and I'm practicing, you know, implementing them in my life. And maybe one day, I won't use these same things anymore. And

Prabhat Gautam 42:11
then I remember when people talking to me about yoga, I was like, it's just still I can't do it. I'm like, I'm gonna fall asleep. But I had a good friend who she said to me, meditations, whatever you want it to be like, when you're on a train, if you if you're closing your eyes, you're listening to music, and it gets you in a calm state, that's your meditation. And really, it broke, for me the rigidness of it all. And I realized, like, we want people to find calm and peace within. And especially in a world of this hustle bustle you're running around all day. So if you close your eyes to three times a day, and it's calming you and you know, if you're, when you're in the shower, you close your eyes, or you just enjoy the water, or when you're in the morning, right having a bowl of cereal or you're like you're having whatever you're having. And you're like watching, you know, YouTube videos, if your favorite singer, if it brings you joy, and it's uplifting you, I always say my life philosophy is the Sheryl Crow song, if it makes you happy, it can't be that bad. Because I think people should seek out what makes them happy. And then when they realize it's empty, then you need to pivot. And be really honest with yourself, I tell people all the time that they want to be a loan and make as much money as they can make, go out and go on that path. And then when you find that it's empty for you, you realize, okay, you need to make money to live, it's good to have money. So you can, you know, take a trip you have as good as some savings. You know, that's, that's that'll make your life easier. But this pursuit to be the richest, most famous, the most everything person is getting ended up where you're not going to be that one day, you know, be the richest, prettiest, smartest, everything is famous this person. And then once you lose it, you're like, well, who am I? And then you realize that's a question should ask a lot, who am I and find that, and then let all the other things sort of take care of themselves. And I mean, one thing I definitely, you know, when I listen to your podcasts that stuck out to me that I was like, I got to talk to Brandon about this. Because either you're it's gonna resonate with me, or resonate with you? Well, we're gonna have a really good debate. I hope for the latter, but I think it's going to probably resonate is my critique of sort of this new world of spirituality, whatever the last 2025 years, is, it's too much of a multi level marketing plan. You gotta sign up 10 friends, and they're going to sign up to France, we're all going to become really wealthy, and we'll get a piece of it, which really, I think the way it should be is just to live your life, live your life, be who you are. And when that happens, you're not going to sign up 10 friends, you're gonna sign up one person is going to see what you're doing. They're gonna be inspired by it. They're going to go find 1000 people, they're going to find whoever and the reality is there is no Hey, you're going to get a percentage. This is it. We're not selling a product. We're Trying to uplift generations to come. You're trying to, you're trying to create light in the world and created a positivity for generations, well beyond where our lives. So if that happens, there's no scorecard, like, you know, if you're inspirational, you know, when people reach out to you, right? And they tell you, oh, your podcast inspired me. Oh, for me, I got the word people like, here, that was so amazing. I got to meet some of the most amazing people. But people have said to me, they're like, because, again, my events, I, during events, all if I think, oh, wow, this person's here, that person's there, they need to know each other. So all of you in person introductions, I'll say, this is why I think you need all the email introductions of people person, any person via this, why I think you guys should meet each other. But when you know, they end up creating amazing, wonderful projects together. Do you get that inspiration in you? So I think sort of my critique of sort of this

new spiritual world or last 30 years of spirituality or what's presented is there's I do think people, there's nothing wrong with selling products, making money, doing coaching, all that stuff's good. Like, I think it's we need people to like to live in their their spirituality every day of their life. But I think when it ends up being, well, you got to be happy every second of the day. No, you shouldn't be if somebody close to us passed away, and you feel no sadness. I question your real journey. You should feel sad, when somebody close to you says, they just went through a breakup or they were in a domestic violence relationship. Your reaction should be how do I help you? Oh, I feel terrible for you. Have you gone to counseling? Do you need a place to stay? What are actionable steps to help you? And you should, you should feel their sadness? And again, you know, in that moment, maybe you're not crying, but you're figuring out action steps. But I think real humans are not happy 24 hours a day, real humans? You know, question? Am I doing what's right? I think checking in with yourself is so important and saying yourself, Is this the right thing for me to do? And something that you did for I remember, I was in college, and University of Oklahoma, I did a cable television show for four years. And it was so much of my identity. And one day, I was like, This feels like work to me, I'm not enjoying it anymore. What do you think what changed is because I knew I was going to leave college, I needed to leave to start my life somewhere else. And no, it's Los Angeles in 1998 99. I just knew I was gonna leave. And I think you start preparing yourself. And again, this many years later, I've been involved by documentaries. So that television world has been part of my life. But it needed to change I needed to leave. You know, it's always like, you got to close some doors to open new ones. And one of my philosophies that I'm obsessed with is, is is owning the word quitting. You have to quit relationships, it to quit jobs, you have to quit things that are not the most fulfilling thing for you with the belief that something more fulfilling is going to happen. And I think so often people leave relationships, when they meet the next person, they quit a job because they found the next job. It's like, one of the best things ever did is I started working part time at a job I was in for four years, because I knew I was ready to leave. And that allowed me to transition into all the advanced stuff that I've gotten into. So I think preparing yourself without fully knowing what the next thing is, and taking that step in like freeing up the time thing that's so important

Brandon Handley 48:41
that I think that we're doing something right being okay to let go being okay to let go of that thing. Because you know, it's no longer fulfilling and knowing that and hoping or at least, it at least shot the thing that's no longer fulfilling, right? Just drop that like it, just go do something else, there's, there's going to be something else that that will take that space for you. Right energetically or whatever. And, you know, to your point I want to I will definitely want to jump in on the the the spiritual MLM spray and the idea. Listen, when I first you know, I don't know, when I first started podcasting, I always say that I started for the wrong reason. It was like that, right? I started it for the wrong reasons. But as I grew and evolved or you know, change whatever happened throughout that podcast, I would say that, you know, I did the right things for the wrong reasons. But through that time, like my heart, you know, I was like myself to the Grinch. My heart grew two sizes too big to the process. Yeah. And you know, I just really understood more about what it was that I was trying to give. I understood more about the idea that, you know, I want to just give this freely as I can for right now because if I do it, and I attach what it is I'm doing to you Kind of for monetary gain, or at least, you know, monetary gain in the sense that it has to be done. There's desperation behind that feeling right. And I couldn't just do it naturally and just be like, this is this is what's really coming through me now. And and there is no. And people like, you know, kind of what's your endgame was like, I don't know, this is this is just what I'm doing right now. And I'm connecting with amazing people. And I'm getting to hear amazing stories from other people. And it's my hope that there's somebody else out there that, you know, the next robot is the provocateurs listening today, right, that says, hey, you know what, I want to get involved in the communities the way that you have, I want to, I want to, you know, find my way forward the way that you you have, and then that person is inspired right to follow similar footsteps, right for themselves, but like, be led by you to that place. And just by virtue, you and I are having a conversation, and it's possible, and that's why I love to do what I do.

Prabhat Gautam 51:02
So beautiful. I think what you said is, is the reality of like, like, it's all a journey for everybody. And, and at the time, you knew you needed to get in this work. I think there is a thing, okay, well, there's production cost, there's gonna take time, right, early podcast, I mean, you're buying super expensive microphone, like all that stuff. It's like, well, I'm putting money out well, how can I make that money back? And I think in you know, and it really is that whole world where people tell you like what we do this? Well, you gotta like really an easy more ad based needs to be destiny, like everybody transit advice, and 99% of the people I tell you their advice, they're not making money off what they're getting advice for. Like, it's, it's I almost feel like it's a world full of single and recently divorced people giving dating advice, like, it's what do we do? Like, we need, like, I want to talk to the person who's been happily married for 30 years, about the struggles they've had off and on for the 30 years, but they're like, every day I wake up, and no, there's no other person I want to be with and this person. And during that day, that maybe a few minutes were like, there's no this person I don't want to see in the next five minutes. But then they go back to there's no other person on the view, like the reality of what their journey is. I think that's just a beautiful real thing. But I just think so much of the spiritual MLM world is oh my gosh, do this do this. Like my friends friends cousins, friend made $10 million off of an insight can meet your friends, friends, cousins, friend, because so often these are like their their stories that are just to get more people signed up. And it's sort of the carrot. It's like, if you have really good water, let me try the water because I want we all want good water. Yeah. To this great plains, ever, it is like detergent, that's chemical free. Let me try it. Like, like, I have friends for years, like, well, you should get in a world of where you sign people up. I'm like, No, if I like it, I'm gonna buy it, I'm gonna give it to my friends that they want to buy and get if they don't, that's fine. Like, just give me good stuff that you think's gonna, like, uplift my life. And then you guys can sign them all up under you. But I'm and I their friends for years, they're like, Oh, we have such a great network, you're the perfect person to be in whatever it is like real estate or sales or like, you know, you can, there's so much money, you can move here, they're like, I don't have any, I want to move money into making a difference. That's what I want to do. That's, to me, I've been able to do that in the charity space. So it's like, that's what I want my life to be. And if other people meet these amazing people at events that I do, and they can figure out how to monetize it will get and when you monetize it, hopefully you remember where you met them, and then give some of that money to the charity. That was the event that you had. And if you don't do well, hopefully you have a really good life and you're happy and he raised amazing kids like I look at it as I this don't fixate on what are your treasures before your, your buried, I look at your treasures are with the people that you interact with every day. And in the end. The goal is, you know, I mean, I just tell people, right, your goals at your funeral to have all these lives that got changed. I remember a lady I met Jeanette the boss when I was in college, and she told me this amazing story. Jeanette was probably in her 60s, she was the cable station that I did my white college cable show up and she said when her mother passed away, so many people came up to her at the funeral and said, you know, your mom helped us this time. You know, your mom, let us stay at our house. You know your mom, we struggle financially. She did this. She's like, I didn't know my mom did 10% of that stuff. My mom is so much more incredible person I realized. And she in Jeanette was amazing, incredible person. But it's like you see you see that? What she was like and that's like that's what you should want your funeral to be where everybody's like, wow, Brandon's amazing. He did all this stuff. And you know, when he was He was doing stuff when there was no parade, you know, own didn't do a show around. Before he was big, he was helping people. And then he got big and he's big time he wouldn't return your calls. But that's

Brandon Handley 55:12
what a jerk. What a jerk.

Prabhat Gautam 55:14
Always be there for people. But I think it's like, it's who you are them I say like who you are when nobody's looking? Right? That's your character.

Brandon Handley 55:22
Right. Rob real quick, what, you know, how did you know that this was the path for you? Like, where was like, where did it like dawned on you that like, this was your heart song that this was what you needed to do for the rest of your life? Up until now, at least.

Prabhat Gautam 55:40
So I would say you always like I think when you're a kid, and you just want to help kids in school, or there's just something in you that just says a helper spirit, like you feel it that I think, really what all happened was from 1993 to 2001. That eight years was my journey. So my father died of a heart attack when I was 16. And that's a big experience for a child. And then, you know, a few years later is in Oklahoma, Oklahoma City bombing happened. That's a hugely traumatic event. They started thinking through Okay, now I want to help I want to give back, how do I help make the world better. And then in the year 2001, that's working for a startup in 99,000. in debt, making really good amount of money as a 2423 24 year old, I moved out to Los Angeles to create positive television. And then that next year, I became a bone marrow donor and the girl that was a donor for Anka, I tell him all the time, I met President Obama, I met all these celebrities and billionaires. But being a donor, nothing compares. That's the greatest experience of my life. And so I was her bone marrow, her bone marrow donor, October 3 2001. And then a year and a month later, she passes away. I'm devastated because I'm like this child, I was supposed to give her my at her wedding, I was supposed to see her have kids, like, I written out a story of how the stranger was going to be like my adopted daughter is, you know, she was a stranger, I didn't know her, like, you know, I sign up to the national marrow donor registry, and mdp.org where people could sign up. And it's the greatest gift I ever got to be her donor. And then, you know, that really took me on this trajectory where I was like, I have to be, because I think, you know, when you're 2324, you're making a lot of money. It's easy to get caught up in distraction. And I think what happened was, you know, I was in I lucked out, I was in New York on 911, fly back from New York to LA on 911. So having all that sort of tragedy in my life, from 93, to 2002, just kept me on this path, where I didn't get detour and I didn't get into drugs and alcohol, like I, you know, I was dating 1000 people, you know, to one committed relationship. It's like, you know, I think, you know, you meet somebody breakout, you meet somebody new, but I was on this, like, I think, for me, all the tragedy just kept me super hyper focused. And it kept me optimistic, because for sure you feel sadness after tragedy. But it also, what I learned is, after every major tragedy, people step up after 911, after Oakland City Bombing, after my father's passing after anchors, passing, you see families, community all show up for people. And then my question is still to this day, why don't we do that all the time? Why does it take tragedy? Right? I'm sure you know, you've been in funerals, even lost loved ones. When that happens, we feel like how will Why don't I connect with these people? Well, this person was going through a tough time, why didn't I know about it? And I said, Well, how can we be more present one of the best documentaries, I recommend all your listeners to watch, it's called the bridge. And it's about how the Golden Gate Bridge is the leading place for suicide in the US. And this was probably 10 years ago, 24 people a year, we would jump off the bridge, and they had cameras set up. And anytime somebody had to jump off, they would send people in to try to stop them. And one guy was jumping, and he ends up surviving, so you get to hear his story. But in that I was like, and one of the people tells the story of like, you know, when he jumped, he did end up jumping in the end. Luckily, surviving that tourists didn't even realize that he was depressed and suicidal. And it really got me to a place where it's like, I want to be present with people. If you see somebody crying filter and say, you know, are you okay? Is there anything I can do for you? Can I, you know, get you a coffee. If you see somebody that looks shaken like check on people, they say I think we're our natural instinct is to be caretakers to check on people. And then people will tell you, I will don't check on those people that could endanger you. They could be a massive setup to get you killed somehow. I just don't think that's, that's one 1,000,000,000th of 1% of the time those things happen. Just be present for people because when you're present, that person needed to know so Nobody cared. Like, I remember I was in a train in Los Angeles, there's a woman who, you know, some guy was bothering or you heard upstairs, she comes downstairs, I'm like, Do you need anything? Are you okay? You know, do you need me to call the police? And she said, Oh, no, somebody else did that. And I was like, Okay, I'm gonna be here near you, if you need me on here. And I thought, Okay, well, those are words, that sounds good. But what if he really comes back downstairs and tries assaulter? What is on here for you really need? Does that mean? I'm going to go fleeing or I'm really going to like be the gap The, the boundary between her this person. And I made sure like, I watched her and I made sure she on the train, she was going a different direction, and I was going, and the guy luckily never came downstairs. But I think if he did, I think once I told her, I'm here for you, I have an obligation to be there. And if he kills her, then he needs to kill me too. Because if I said, I'm gonna be here, I have to be here. And so for me, I feel like, you know, there's that whole thing of like, Who is your brother? Who is your neighbor? Who's your sister? Who's your daughter? Are these people your blood tie to you? Are the people that you regionally now? Or is it every person in humanity? So I think we all determine that for ourselves. And then once you make that determination, I just think you you view people differently, and you view people to view everybody is connected to you, then you realize, both the person hurting, that's trying to hurt this woman is connected to you, and both this woman that is potentially dangerous connected you. So your job is to be loving, as loving as you can be in those moments. Agreed?

Brandon Handley 1:01:39
I think that the the idea, I mean was, you know, love, love thy neighbor as yourself or something like that, right? I mean, yeah, it and once you kind of understand what that means. And you start to apply that and other places, it takes on a whole different level of kind of compassion, like you're talking about, like you're saying, we're all connected, and how do you how do you show up? Or more in that way? Right? How do you how do you make sure you're showing up in that way? Alright, quick one for you for so, you know, I've come to believe that this is kind of like a spiritual speed dating show, right? Where now like, you know, somebody tune in to like, you know, I'm looking for my next spiritual date. And so I've got a question for you. That is from our spiritual speed dating, question pool. And it's going to be what is the greatest quality humans possess?

Prabhat Gautam 1:02:39
Oh, that's a great question. I mean, I think it's the greatest quality humans possess is love for those that they have no direct connection or benefit from, I think, when given an opportunity, and people can be of help, and they believe their help, will legitimately help. They will step up. I think we see it every day. We see it all the time. I think they just they just have they have to know that the canal is I think when it's like, oh, well, there's homelessness is a problem. How do I help? But it's everybody's like, your friend needs a place to crash for a few weeks to get on their feet, like, well, I'm gonna make space for you. Thank you think it's so that's what I'd say.

Brandon Handley 1:03:26
I think that's awesome. Right? And I mean, that's what you're doing right? With your with your kind of like, what's your life? And I think that that's, I think that that's really cool. Because there's, there's not that many people willing to do that all of the time. And that is something that i think that i think that that's one of the things that I admire about you and your story, right, you're always giving and you're doing it in a way where you don't expect to return you're doing it for the love of what it is that you do. And I think that that's that's very, you know, it's it's really cool to be able to see that provides, where should I send people to come find out more about you.

Prabhat Gautam 1:04:05
So they can get a positive television.org. And they can see all the content that we put out. And then I tell people all the time, I'm not a social media person, so call me, I'm gonna give them my number. Because I'm still old school. I love human to human. So if you're working on an amazing project, or you just are like, hey, I want to be of service. I want to do this to help people. One of my favorite things to do I tell me all the time, it's like talking to somebody who has an AI world changing idea, a community changing idea, or personal life changing idea, I'd love to talk to him, then connect them to a redneck come to so I'll give you my numbers 310-872-0669 that's 310-872-0669 Feel free to text me or call me and and I always try to be honest with people. It may not be a project that I can help you with or maybe I don't know the pieces, but if I don't know that He says, I'm going to try to help you figure out what are the pieces to get you a step further, because I want every single person to be closer to what? They're, they're passionate. So if I can get you a step further great, if nothing else, I get to meet another great person in the world. So I'm happy to take that call.

Brandon Handley 1:05:17
Awesome. Thanks so much for being on here today.

Prabhat Gautam 1:05:20
Thank you, Brandon. I look i get i want to say I love a spiritual joke is about Everybody, please encourage your friends to, to follow by and share and then also tell people to listen to the episodes that inspire and inspire you guys because if you love an episode, that episode, if it resonates with you, that it's gonna resonate with your friends. And you know, don't just send them the Hey, just go check it out, send them to a specific episode that really inspired you because we need to get people on this journey to find you know, their own personal healing so they can help heal the world.

Brandon Handley 1:05:53
I appreciate that. Thank you so much.

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AYRTS Chapter 9 Deep Dive | Srikumar Rao

Published: June 24, 2021, 12:48 a.m.
Duration: 29 minutes 55 seconds

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Brandon Handley 0:00
Alright, guys, we are going to finish up. This book took a little bit longer than I had intended. And I guess that's just what life is about sometimes. The key thing here for me anyways, is that, go ahead and finish this up, I think that I did this with what was the other book I did. What was the other book I did, um, besides getting rich, took me a while to finish it. And it was really just a matter of sitting down to do it, finding the time making the time to do it. So we're gonna finish this up, We're on chapter nine of Are you ready to succeed, where's the book, there it is. I will also post the video of this to YouTube and put a link here as well. So you can follow along with the mind map. And I'll say the mind map as well. And you can download the whole thing and take a look at it if you want, if that's something that you would like to do. So just as what I'm choosing to do on Father's Day, finish this up. It's important to me and just kind of making that time and it's like, if you don't finish these things, you've always kind of got this open tab in your mind this open loop that never got closed. And that's just me finishing this up. I was always enjoyed getting something like this finished up as well. And this one's pretty important. It's a pretty important chapter that I feel like I'll share with you. And we'll work we'll work our way through it. So as we're looking here, and we'll work our way through it, We're on chapter nine of Are you ready to succeed, unconventional strategies for achieving personal mastery in business and life by Sreekumar. Ralph. And, you know, I'm also taking his course, with creative and personal mastery and taking the course in person with people after having gone through this several times already. It's it's a, it's a whole different world as well. So chapter nine is you create your world from what is inside of you. And the intro starts off with the whole idea that most of the models that you currently have in your life, they don't serve you well, are they serving us? Sure every model serves you, right, every story that you're telling yourself and everything that already exists, is serving you in one way or another. For better or worse. The idea is that you can't simply adopt a brand new model and just say, Yeah, well, that's my new model, and I'm gonna use it. The the key of it is to find evidence of it at work. For example, right now we are in the class going through the section of creating our new realities, determining what we want that new reality to be or that new model, and then looking for evidence of that model at play in action, and writing down and capturing that and saying, Hey, here's where I see that evidence of it, jotting it down. And it's when you do that, that you reinforce the idea. And that's really what what he's talking about here. And then the the whole idea is there's going to be he's going to give us a general purpose model as we go forward here. And I'll also liken that to framework right, here's the framework of something, here's the outline of something that you can use the model is an outline, and you can kind of fill it in as you see fit and ways that work best for you. So what's inside of you? You know, pretty sure I've talked to this a couple times. And I think I just did it recently, where I talked about the idea of Wayne Dyer talking about the oranges and orange juice is the only thing come out of orange juice because that's all that's inside of it. Sreekumar Rao uses this rasa gola, which is a traditional Indian sweet to round and white about size of a ping pong ball. And inside of it is a sweet sweet syrup. No matter how hard you squeeze it. That's all it's kind of come out because that's what's inside of it. The thing is, is that what's inside of us is currently or most often

Unknown Speaker 4:30
not,

Brandon Handley 4:31
not sweet, syrupy, and not just orange juice. We've got all these other things that are inside of us that are we he calls, it's going to be guilt, depression, envy, worry, unhappiness, shame, sorrow, nervousness, jealousy, hate, fear, embarrassment, or frustration. Because that's, that's what our mental models have created within assess that mental chatter that when we started this process, that's what we kind of that's what we do. developed. And it reminds me of the stories that people call a news story or other stories and the the idea of you've got two dogs that are always fighting each other. Right? And the two dogs are always getting bet on by random people in a dogfight. And the person who is the person who's leading that right the in the story, like it's a grandfather, Indian who's who's doing this, and he always bets on the right dog, he never loses. And so one day his grandson asked some because why, how do you know which one of the dogs is gonna win? And he goes, Well, that's easy. It's the dog that I fed all week, right? So whichever, and this is like, the, you know, whatever you give your attention to is what grows. So whatever you tie up in your mind, and your mental chatter, that's, that's what grows, whatever model you give the most attention to, that's gonna be the one that quote unquote, wins, whether or not that's the quote, unquote, winning model for you, it's still going to be the model that gets the most energy still going to be the model that takes precedence in your life. So that idea of what's inside of you, you can cultivate, you can cultivate that. He says here, that transformation begins and ends with mental models, right? You keep the ones that build and nourish you, like I'm talking about here with the idea of you feed the dog that you want to win. And then you remove the mental models that are filled with poison and content. With what's an example this, think, I mean, trying to think of it earlier. Even myself in this past week, I was like, how could you do I forget what it was I'd done. I was like, how that was stupid, or, and I caught myself like talking, talking down on myself or saying something about myself or sometimes getting caught and worry, that doesn't make any sense to get caught in because the future is never kind of certain. Right? And why waste your time focus on these these worrisome moments that may never happen and most likely never happened? and waste your energy there. Where Where? Where else? Could you be using that thought, energy, that powerful creativeness of yours, right? You will, because you're using your creative energies, to create something that's just awful and shitty. And you could use that same energy to create something really awesome and beautiful, right? Or amazing or at least beneficial to you. So leverage, leverage a model a mental model that is beneficial to you, because regardless of whether or not you

Unknown Speaker 8:07
are,

Brandon Handley 8:10
God create you, regardless, regardless of you creating something, he may as well create something that is useful for you. So he recommends this benevolent universe model and this is one that I know that ever since I first have seen it, it's something that I've been able to implement in my life. And it's, it's been wonderful serves me wonderfully. I'll read a little bit about reading from the book here it says the universe is conscious of benevolent entity, it always acts in your best interest and always brings into your life exactly what you need at any instant. And if the idea is to you know, just really look for those instances and I can I can look at you know, when I got let go of, from Cisco when when they, when they eliminated the job, right? They didn't let go of you, they've eliminated the job and then went into real estate for a couple months. And then as the pandemic was coming into full swing, somebody reached out to me, too. See if I was interested in another job, and I said sure, yeah, absolutely interested in it and think it'd be a great fit perfect almost for me. Exactly where I believe I need to be right now. It was it was like almost a perfect role for me. As you know, who I am and where I am at this point in my life. And then, right, the week that I'm and here's the deal to like, I mean, you know, kids are home from school. pandemic's going on. And this was a job working from home, great benefits, all the things. And then they stopped hiring that week that I was hired, right. So this like, again, the idea that it always acts in your best interest always brings into your life exactly what you need, at any instant, right? Right when you need it. That was, you know, that was how I saw, you don't have to sit, that's, and here's the thing, you have the opportunity to see this as you like, you don't have to see it. The thing is, if you're going to step into this model, you have to start looking for the evidence of it in action for you, so that you can support the model that you would like to implement. And there's been countless and several other times that I have seen this at play in my life. Since since picking up on this model, that wasn't the only time there's definitely several other times, but I just want to use that as the example because even though real estate people killed it this past year, in real estate, and they're and they're still doing really well. I don't know what would have happened, if I would have had to have stayed in real estate would I've gotten sick, but I've got somebody in the house sick, you know, would something else have happened? And, and there would have been a lot of worry and frustration at home in the family life, if I'd stayed in that so that the universe provided this, this other option that was perfect for me and my family at that point in time. And, you know, once you start seeing stuff like that, it's really kind of hard to stop or turn back. So the idea too, is that it inspires if you're able to do this, if you're able to begin to pull this type of model into your own life is is it as bad as the whole idea of heaven on earth? Right? Because now, like, you've got the universe actually working for you and your own benefit? And it is it becomes again, like heaven on earth? And the idea to is, is where's the time to think, you know, that is this? Is this real? No more so than any other model. Right? But the thing is that all the other all the other models are just as false as as this one. So, again, what if it's really true, though? What if, what if it really does work out this way? And then you know, what does that mean for your life then. And

I've been able to, again, implement these into a point where I believe it, and I see it. So he also mentions here that all the exercises within this book, have basically led up to this convergence point, giving you the exercises to test out to be able to see the universe is working on your behalf. And now it's like, okay, now you just may just come out and say it right. But this is, and you can look back, if you've done any of the exercises in this book, if you take many of its courses, and you've done a lot of it even to the lightest, lightest varying degree, then then you'll you'll be able to say, oh, shoot, the universe really was working on my behalf. And and now you know, there's, there's something amazing going on for me. So he's gonna hit back again on the idea that our beliefs cannot be forced. So you simply cannot force yourself to accept the proposed model. You may recognize it intellectually, and that it's a good idea, but you can't just automatically accept it. You can't believe it all once. And I liken this to the idea of who's the guy who wrote the book PLOS sees time mahalik go look for small things that you can believe then instead of trying to take it all in at once, if it's you know, if it's too much at one time to say yes benevolent universe, and bla, you're like, Fuck that. The thing is, then take something small that you can work with and then start looking for how that is beginning to show no small pieces of benevolence from the universe towards you. So whatever you believe now, small pieces and then just each time something a little bit beyond that initial point. So small increments outside of the known at the time and then over time, it will become massive over time. It will become This this piece of the universe that that is with you. And it's going to become very difficult and challenging to refute. At a certain point in time, just just like any of your existing models, like you've got models, right now you're like, they are totally true, this is always happening. And this is how it is blah, blah, blah. So if you can, however, begin to accept this, this, this model for yourself, and begin to implement, excuse me begin to implement it, you will, you'll, you'll start to see benefits almost immediately, again, I'll go to the current exercises that we're working on where we create, we have a current reality, we're like, this Dahlia thing is not ideal in my life and where I'd like it to be. And then you reshape that to say, you know, this reality is totally serving me, and here's how it serving me, and then you start looking for evidence that it is serving you. And that's what he talks about here. And the exercise of building up the level of universe is real similar, it says, a look through your history for areas that may seemed awful, but eventually lead you to a better place. Right? Look, I mean, the pandemic, I think the pandemic has led a lot of people to do some inner work that they, you know, hadn't been willing to face. And now, there's this mental resilience that I think is happening all over the world that is playing a big part and, and in who we are, I think it's also hit corporate, pretty hard. So that now our corporations are really seeing how people as people, as they should have, all the time and are really doing what they can to improve the mental stability of their, of their workers. And I think that I think a big portion of that is genuine right now versus a lot of it in prior had been lip service. And now, and now I think they I think it seems like it's more meaningful.

So you look for look through your history of where something seemed bad. And then you also look for areas where Hidden Hand played a role in getting you to a better place. I'll use the example I think I was in fourth grade and California, Northern California, it was the mid 80s. And we were moving again. And I was pretty upset that we're moving. However, I think a week or two after we moved. Like there was a ginormous flood from the Russian River literally wiped out the neighborhood where we'd lived. So within weeks of us leaving, where we'd lived have been wiped out who knows what would have happened, right? It could have been completely hideous and awful. But there's an area where Hidden Hand played a role, basically kind of saving our lives. So you've got something maybe not so drastic and dire that's happening in your life every day. So you want to look for ways of maybe something, maybe something that impacted your day. It seemed kind of shitty for a moment, but like you're like, what good can come out of this? What What did I learn from this, where's the benefit to me in this or my family or my job or anything like that, and you write that down a look for you look for a way that the universe is being benevolent for you like at least once a day. So and then you just you write it that hand write it down, I can't stress that enough. I really believe that that makes all the difference in the world by handwriting it versus anything else. So there's also going to come a point to where you feel like you're slipping back, you may feel like you're slipping back into your old models. But this is where you double down. You've put all this effort in and you don't want to risk losing the ground that you've gained. So and that that can easily happen. Because we've had our default models for most of our lives, right, it's really, really, really easy to fall back into that pattern. I used to be a smoker I used to smoke. And whenever you quit smoking near maybe you're smoking like one to two packs a day. The idea is that when you go back to it, you don't go back to one to two pack there. If you don't go back to a couple cigarettes a day you go back to where you left off. Same thing, same thing is applicable here. You're gonna go back to whatever dirty nasty habits you had before in your way of thinking versus this new way It is much more beneficial to and end your life. So he also, this is the way he gets it. So I feel, you know, when you get to the end of the book, and you've been doing all these exercises, it's just like I'm saying you kind of start slipping back into your mileage to so much work so much effort. Most of the times I've gotten through this book I don't always make it a point to go read these good stories right about Special Olympic where's the Shaka fellows who had just read about this was the first time in four years I went look this guy up and read about, you know, kind of what he's brought into the world. And then there's, you know, go and there are these there are these incredibly inspiring stories that you can go read and see what's possible for for just about anybody, given any conditions and conditions for some of these people can be absolutely horrendous but it's it's overcoming those those conditions that is what makes the stories awesome. And then there's a business people who snap back from bankruptcy. So that's one that I did look up and go through. Let me see if see if I say that yet. Like people like Milton Hershey, right, Hershey's candy, this guy, you know, he, he faced bankruptcy, George Foreman, he was bankrupt. And now he's got an estimated wealth of over $250 million. Who's another couple people I thought that were that were Henry frickin Ford, you know, bankrupted himself in 1903. You know, he tried failed again and kept on going until his dream becoming a reality with today's net worth estimated at is that like, I don't know, 188 billion, right? 188 billion. Today Walt Disney is another one who was bankrupt. And Abraham Lincoln So here you go through and he like you're worried about you know, these failures. Have you ever worried about like going bankrupt or anything like that think about some of these people and and what happened after their bankruptcy who they became even though at one point they were bankrupt, and start to apply this benevolent model, university yourself.

So coping with senseless tragedies is another piece that he's gotten here as we talk about, like these benevolent models, and we talk about everything else going on there. There are certain things that are going to happen in our lives were like, you know, loss of a child loss of a loved one that super close to you. Yeah, God, I was talking to a gentleman the other day, I was very upbeat, very kind doing his daily job. And he was in Florida with his child who's had who was a twin and his, his, his bones were all jacked up from the from the bottom, which call it the sack, you know, the, the prenatal sack that they're born in, and it opened up in 12 weeks. And so when he came out of the womb, he was twisted up like a pretzel. The doctors have had to work on his bones his entire lives, kids only nine years old, gone through all this stuff, getting his legs, broken ligaments, like, cut and spliced in so that he can walk, feet reset all these things. And this is a nine year old kid, a dad going through it. I was like, holy shit, man. The idea that you're even upbeat and going through all these things, and you still have this good sense of being was really impressive to me. But this is a type of thing that's kind of like a senseless tragedy. It doesn't make any sense. Why would this happen to anybody in it in this this benevolent universe, right. And the thing that struck Morales saying here is that you've got to do all the work that came before in this book before you can start to cope with these senseless tragedies. And the idea is that the universe's intervening in your life that is Ziering you around the pitfalls and bringing you what you need over to bringing you the help that you need. When you feel overwhelmed leading you to bounty in different guises and always looking after you in a myriad of ways. You have to feel this way to a very deep level before you can use the strategy of you saying take a look at the idea of a forest fire right when the forest fire happens. It's just like, it burns everything out of its way but it's also necessary for for the forest to go through that. History talks about he talks about the idea of leveraging you know maybe some of these things that are paying you or suffering you to take maybe maybe you got to take some Measure to lessen it, you do it consciously. Maybe you can, I don't know, bring awareness to it right, y'all you see that often I was another gentleman I saw that almost died last year of a blood clot in his leg. And now he's helping to bring awareness to it right, he's in a, he's got a role in his life where he's able to take this, this thing that's happened to him and apply it and bring awareness to to blood clots. By leveraging again his his status in the world, and share out with some people and some ways to prevent it and what you can do if it does happen. You know, again, here's the idea to right, did it uh, he says it's wonderful, liberating to live in this world, this world where the universe behaves as if it were specifically designed for you and actually give you exactly what you need a world where you can accept it. What you want is not always what you need the child. This is good, too. The child may want to tell advice, cream, but a wise parent provides fresh fruit and vegetables. He says, Are you kidding that the universe looks like this? Yes, you absolutely are. But you're also kidding yourself, if you think that the universe is the way that it is now. So you again, you have to you have to make this choice. Right that? Do you want to dwell on a peaceful abode with a sense of fulfillment and purpose? Or do you want to wander around the corridors of a House of Horrors where, you know, ghastly apparitions appear without notice? It's your choice and all your choice and it's far better choice to live in the bosom of benevolent universe. So I mean, that that kind of closes it up, right? It's, it's it is your choice. To live in this benevolent universe, it's your choice to go ahead and build out this model is your choice to support this model, I just always your conscious choice to build out any model. Because that's, that's exactly what you're doing. Anytime that you're, you know, you're beating yourself up, you're, you're, you're, you're supporting that other dog, but we talked about the dog that always wins. So

I hope that you've enjoyed already ready to succeed a little bit of a deeper dive into it. And I hope this inspires you to either pick up this book or try somebody exercises yourself or excuse me do some of the work yourself to to just dive into it in the back of this book too. As Sreekumar Rao has a some reading list, I'll see if I can go ahead and direct you to it or post a couple of it not only does it give you the Reading List of gives you a one year reading list, which is pretty cool. But then he has his other supplementary reading list where he will give you the levels of the book, he puts it under different headers, Business and Management. What's another header here? I don't know. Anyways, like plant plenty of plenty of plenty of other you know books. Here's one mind over matter. One of the first ones here I'm just gonna give you an example. Mind over matters the type of book you know, Dwayne wire. Wayne Dyer, you'll manifest your destiny. Popular speaker author Wayne Dyer has other books you may wish to explore. This book is good manual on how you can and he gives you a little synopsis good manual on how you can use metaphors to screen a physical reality. It contains good tips on how to harness the power of subconscious mind. And the whole has explicitly spiritual underpinnings was quite common in this genre reading level number one, right so you know check out this book if that's something that you're interested in. If you're interested in trying to get yourself into a mental model that just says hey, the way my life has been going not the model I want to use and really appreciate Brandon you sharing Sreekumar browse models sounds like something I could be interested in using and applying in my own life. Anyways, take care guys that's going to come bombed on Oh, god, I'm done. Like I said, I'll share out the I'll show this mind map. So you can kind of see the the map here of how I kind of wrote it out and you can pick up the book yourself. Try it out yourself. The book resonates with you. I highly suggest checking out the course. The live course if you can. It's called creating personal mastery. I'll share a link with that in the notes as well. Until then, we'll decide what our next little adventure baby take care of

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Shianne Doucette | Psychic Medium

Published: June 20, 2021, 12:44 p.m.
Duration: 21 minutes 1 second

Big thanks to Shianne for joining us in this shorter than average episode, there is a lot packed into this one and I know that you will enjoy it!

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Brandon Handley 0:40
4321 Hey there podcasters How's everybody doing? Today, we've got cyan to set on with us today. she communicates with light energy by allowing source energy to flow through her surpassing energy. surpassing society's definition of a psychic medium, her approach is to show others that they too can access their own souls connection to source energy for healing of self and humanity. Her work is ongoing in the field of soul energy awareness and human of Oh, Lucian Sam, what's going on? Thanks for joining us say hi. Thanks, Randy. So, um, you know, I usually like to start us off with the whole idea that we are right, we're connected with Source Energy all the time, and that, you know, the divine speaks through us. And the idea that there's going to be somebody who's listening in today, that is only going to get like this message for them through you. What is that message today? So, I

Shianne Doucette 1:48
it's funny, I had something planned to say that in when you're asking this question, but source has a funny sense of humor, I actually have a message for someone very specific. And you'll know who you are. I have a gentleman coming through who would have been in the 70s work with either Time Magazine, or Life magazine, really amazing photographer using old school, school photography. She was well traveled kind of looked like a Robert Redford back in the day, you'll use very specific, he was given a lot of awards for his photography, specifically one watch. That is like, you see those big faith watches that everybody kind of wants to have now, he had one of those before they were popular. And it was I feel like it was an award. There's also a map in the home where he would have raised his family that had like pin marks on the map of all the places that he travel. There's also a connection to the next generation, somebody does something with satellite. So I am going through this really fast because it's just kind of like coming in really quick. There's something about code named snowflake, I don't know what that means. It'll mean something to somebody. It's, I don't feel like it's a spy COVID snowflake, I think it's like a family member member that it was a joke that it was like a snowflake would be the nickname for somebody. But there is a connection to someone in this generation that works with the satellites. So I flew through that really quick. What I was going to say is that my my message that I would give to someone out there and I think that this might actually be connected to that person. I feel like this could be this person's grandson. It may not be the person listening the grandson, but it might be someone in the family who would know who the grandson was. No one ever loses their divinity no matter what they've gone through. So even if you hit rock bottom bottom, done some terrible things, or have had terrible things happen to you. You never lose your divinity, your connection to your soul. And also that connection to the higher, higher higher source of all, it's always there for us. Just waiting. So

Brandon Handley 4:34
I hope I didn't rattle this cool, right? Like semi it's interesting, right? So you've got this idea of this person that you're talking to specifically, whether it's that person from the 70s with the watch or not, or that person is grandson or grandchild.

Unknown Speaker 4:52
Yeah. That person from the 70s would definitely be on the other side. I can feel him very strongly with me so

Brandon Handley 4:59
that that meant is coming through you from him to like the grandchild, right? Yeah. So and what I like, what you're saying here too is even though maybe you've done terrible things, or terrible things have happened to you. One of the things that I've done in the past, you know, this year was to like, an email journey, right? spiritual journey of just kind of like, we'll just call it spiritual potpourri. Right? And one of the things that I landed on was the idea of these saints, you know, that were sinners before they turn into saints, right? So I mean, to what you're saying to even if they've even if you've done some things that you would you that that person, you were isn't the person that you are. And that's what I think a lot of people let that let that shame hold them down or keep them away from, like, you're saying that divinity that's always available to you and always within you is that, you know, kind of what you're saying there though, right? Yes. So that's sweet. I love that. Yeah. So give us give us a little background, like, where are you? Where are you working? What are you doing? You know, what do you what do you want to hit on today?

Unknown Speaker 6:10
Well, I've been been got it too, to do some videos on just sharing the some of the guided meditations I do with, with some one on one clients. And then also some of the ones I do in group reading that public events. Just really strong push to share that because it's there for everybody. I find when I am doing a reading, there's just a strong message that everybody has access to this, this wonderful connection that is that is I see it as the soul. And that when we, you know, be here on Earth, there's so much going on, especially right now, there is a lot of healing going on. But there's a lot of gunk kind of coming up to be released. And then we're all in the middle of it. So yeah, those videos I hope to have out in the next six months, and they're going to be available for everybody. I've also written a book, I'm Fingers crossed, getting that out there soon. And yeah, I kind of pull back a little bit on the one on one readings, just because I need a little break right now. We've got some family stuff going on with a member of our family not doing too well. So just kind of balancing the self care in there, too.

Brandon Handley 7:40
That's important, that's really important that you everybody always refers to the airplane, you know, mask, right? The mask falls down. First things first do is take a little bit for yourself, and you make sure that you stay alive so that you can help somebody else survive. So how, you know, what's, what's the title of the book? And what's that going to be about?

Unknown Speaker 8:04
The book title is a small glimpse of everything. And it was kind of came to me because that's what I see why I didn't always clearly see a soul and I did a reading. I felt it kind of had an awareness of it. The more I tested my energy, the more I opened up to the connection that I had, personally, I was able to see it in others and just have this awareness of this all of this connection that we have. And actually Well, the way it works for me is it's almost like a video or an audio projector overtop of someone like if I was reading you right now. And I think we talked about that, when it's just this beautiful light ribbon of life that comes down through and it's safer for everyone and different. Just like almost like a rainbow or have a fingerprint combined. And two, I call it a small glimpse of everything's, it's kind of like a small glimpse of the universe. So that's, that's, and it starts with my story of how I started working with energy. Some of the weird things that happened to me growing up and how I pushed it aside, and then leading up to some of the stories that I have permission to share from some really incredible people who've had some life changing moments in readings. So that's that's what the books about.

Brandon Handley 9:35
That's great. So what what what got you into it right, what got you into this energy work? And how did you find yourself in this space? And you know, how have you been able to move it forward for the benefit of yourself and others?

Unknown Speaker 9:50
Well, it started out quite randomly with a theme. I think the universe was pushing me I mean, I think that there's some things that you just kind of can't turn or turn away from, and then you, you get the choice of whether you want to go all the way. I just, you know, like first was a yoga class where the teacher I thought I was going to like go to like an aerobics class where, you know, less less work and more results. She started talking about fan scripts and, and connections to this whole other ideas that I never experienced, because this would have been back in the early 2000s. And you know, I'm in a little small city we really hadn't, it wasn't really something I was exposed to very much.

Unknown Speaker 10:42
And then

Unknown Speaker 10:44
after that, it was just the learn, more and more things are opening up. And then I was getting massage treatment from someone. And she had a brochure on in our work area, talking about this thing called oneness, which was out of India and I went, and it was crazy. The force of energy that I felt, and I think that was kind of like the door opening was like, wow, we are so much more than I thought we were there's much more than trying to you know, climb the corporate ladder, there's much more than getting the great car and having the nice house and it it kind of like poke the hole in the whole idea that I was searching for something always outside of me. And here it was inside. And that's that's what it started with. And just learning to work with energy starting off there and being drawn to different modalities and just got like a real hunger to learn everything there was about energy

Brandon Handley 11:52
work. Yeah, that's I mean, that seems to be the my wife, my wife hates the line, like the process, right. But that seems to be kind of the process, the process seems to be kind of the idea of finding this more than your sense of self. And I think that in, when you thought about for the podcasts, you'd put in there, the idea that everyone has the soul, and it's their choice to use it. Which I wish I can agree with. But I think the challenge is to identify that that situation, right? And then, and then accepting that that's true, right? And then it's when you get to that point, that you realize that everyone has a soul and it's your choice to use it. That's when that's when you make that choice. Right? is out. And so it sounds to me like that. So that happened to you, when you were in India, you is that you went out?

Unknown Speaker 12:48
No, it was a woman who brought the teachings event from India back during that, like that was my first real experience with energy work. And then she taught a workshop on how to how to do that. And it took off and then there was Reiki and so

Brandon Handley 13:05
that's the other piece though not to talk over you but like the other pieces, right? So now they want you to decide to use the soul. She views like that is just like this. There's like this black pit of knowledge desire, like to learn more about it and you know, get closer to it and be a part of it, and then share it out with everybody is that kind of been what your journey has been like?

Unknown Speaker 13:29
Yeah, and honestly, I mean, I get it so asked backwards, and I fell down on her so many times, because when I saw this, like, you know, experiences working with energy, and then it was like, wow, I want to learn how to do this, I want to learn how to also share it with someone else. So that energy is going through me. And at the same time was was not connecting to my own self and using that and harnessing that. And it was a journey to learn that part of it and to trust that part of it. And the funny thing is, is that when you start going along and you're you've got these ups and downs and you're, you're learning how to work with your own energy and you're seeing the miracle of it working on someone else. There's almost like the swelling, you know, they talk about the present moment. There's this calmness that comes in. It's almost like this. The Iraqi answers this calm feeling that comes in it's like, man, I don't get in this lifetime. So what are the nice final one after that? So it's it's kind of hilarious being a human being down here when you really think about it. So

Brandon Handley 14:41
yeah, our time is, is is so seemingly finite. But uh, you know, the idea is really that we are eternal, right? And here we are. We're like grasping, kicking and clawing to do everything that we can with this seemingly limited amount of time and it's really just I don't know if you're watching Old 80s movie, the gods must be crazy, right? Is just just just, that's what it really kind of boils down to the gods must be crazy because here we are running around like crazy. And for what? To what? And so Cheyenne, I know usually there's a little bit more time for us but like so I've got a couple questions I'd like to ask on towards the back end here. And almost like a spiritual speed dating thing that you and I talked about. And just so everybody knows real quick here, like Cheyenne did an awesome reading on me, had a great time. And really, you know, you do the medium work in general, you're not doing the one on one so much right now because of family stuff. But like, it was great like, and it's it was an It was a great experience. And I don't think that this is my second medium reading from a different person. But it was a little bit different. And it helps you in different ways. And so I appreciate what you did for me, and I thought I thought it was really excellent. So as as I'm getting on to this next question for you, though, I just I just thought it would tell people to reach out to you because it's a it's a great experience. So either the coursework, or just trying to get a hold of Cheyenne to see what's up. I highly recommend it. So I'm only gonna have time for one quick question is a spiritual speed dating. When is war justifiable? It's an easy one, right?

Unknown Speaker 16:25
So from a higher perspective, I've asked this question myself, so I'm going to give you the higher perspective that they gave me because to me, it's never, it never made any sense. But then at the other side of it, it's like, but what if they have this and they're taking the rights away from these people, and then we go with. So I was explained it this way that there is nothing here to find a boat, but we'll always find something to fight about, until we connect to that, which we are until we start remembering what we really are. So we're always going to find a justification for war until we all evolve. I hope that makes sense. Do you want more clarification on that?

Brandon Handley 17:13
Also, so in the idea of evolution, I think that that's the challenge, right? We're, we are constantly seeking to be more, because I'd like so we're looking to evolve. But what is there to evolve? What really needs to evolve is the understanding of who we already are. Right?

Unknown Speaker 17:33
Yeah. And I think you're, we're, if you look at it, again, I mean, I always ask to see the higher perspective, even though my human brain can always make total sense of it. When I say evolve, I mean, involving the human experience, because again, there's a piece of each you like, what I do, when I ask to see the higher perspective, it's almost like that little cores in every living thing, and also connected to that, but like, like, almost like meridian lines, that that anything here alive or even beyond that. wouldn't be here, if it wasn't connected to that source energy. And it's almost like we've been coming. There's like a separation from source energy. And as it's coming back with that source energy remembers, and the experiences that we have here, coming in with that memory of what we are. So we've always been evolving as humans and from what my understanding is, this is not the first time it's been done in so many different ways. When you get into like the quantum of it, like it's mind blowing. So really, it's again, it's that stepping back and realizing Well, for this year, having a human experience is nothing here is real, what are we so worried about? But at the same time, when you bring in that soul connection, there is that piece in that memory and when you you know when you're connected, because and if it's only for a few seconds, I mean, you take this takes, there are people out there who get this and they've got it 24 hours and I mean, I might have it for during a reading because I've meditated for like a good half an hour an hour beforehand. And I've put the ego aside the inner child aside, but still, I mean, if I go out in the traffic and somebody you know, cuts me off, there I go again, I'm human, and I'm kind of pulled away from the soul self. So yeah, so as a as a as having a human experience. Without the soul connection. You're always going to find a justification for fighting for arguing because you're constantly suffering.

Brandon Handley 19:46
Now you're right, that that means that makes 100% sense. So unfortunately, yeah, we don't have a whole lot of time today and I do have to move on to the next piece. But so what you know, where's your We send people to connect with you shine.

Unknown Speaker 20:04
You can follow me on Instagram. Cheyenne Doucet, you can follow me on Twitter. Again Cheyenne, Doucet Facebook page Cheyenne to set I think that's the shine does that psychic medium. Also have a webpage try and do stuff. And again, watch the videos. I hope to be getting those out there soon for everything. Awesome.

Brandon Handley 20:23
Thank you so much for joining today. Thank you. It's a pleasure, Brandon. Thanks a lot guys

Unknown Speaker 20:28
enjoyed this episode of the spiritual dove podcast. stay connected with us directly through spiritual dove co You can also join the discussion on Facebook, spiritual and Instagram and spiritual on discord go. If you would like to speak with us, send us an email to Brandon at spiritual dove Co. And as always, thank you for cultivating your mindset and creating a better reality. This includes the most thought provoking part of your day. Don't forget to like and subscribe to stay fully up to date. Until next time week on your zone and trust your intuition

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Spiritual Dope Celebrates the First Year

Published: June 16, 2021, 9:16 p.m.
Duration: 11 minutes 50 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on? Good morning, good day, we are coming from jujitsu this morning. And I wanted to get to this before I forgot, it's a it's been a year. Solid. It's been over a year, a little over a year now since the beginning of spiritual dope, and wanted to, you know, thank you for being there for be supportive for being on for, you know, reaching out. And, and just being a part of the podcast. And you know, it's really been interesting, because I can still remember reaching out to a friend of mine after having kind of the idea. And he pressed me a little bit. Allen Allen pressed me a little bit on whether or not I thought that I was just having this kind of like, hey, wouldn't it be nice if, and you just go ahead and you know, just kind of on being distracted. And, you know, the next shiny thing. And I told him, I said, Man, now this is this is it? This is, uh, this is my jam. Good morning, ma'am. That's bright neon, you're wearing? pretty slow. That's not spiritual? Or is it? Who knows? Um, so the, the idea is, uh, he, he was like, rah, you know, be sure. And and I told him, I said, Absolutely, you know, I just kind of, I had a vision kind of thing. And it's ever since then ever since opening this up. You know, Father, for the rest of us was pretty good. I think that had a really nice run, and it opened up fairly well as well. But this, this podcast has, has opened up and this in a way that certainly could not have predicted, I wouldn't have been able to tell you that. Uh, you year later, I would have interviewed some amazing people I had on, you know, one of my favorite teachers out there, one of my favorite teachers out there Sreekumar Rao, where he lives on the, on the books. And I'm currently in creative personal mastery course that he has with no real live people, which is fantastic, enjoying enjoying the hell out of it. But, you know, the deal is, I wouldn't told you a year ago that he was going to be on the podcast, I was I would have been able to a year ago that I would have had on Emmy Award winning actors wouldn't have been able to tell you a year ago that, you know, Anthony mine dough would have been on Hell, I don't know that I would have been able to tell you a year ago that I was going to be able to find enough guests to come on and share their stories. It's easily been I don't know that I've missed a week. So it's easily been, you know, 52. And, you know, and more interviews that have been done with people that have found spirituality in one way or another, and been able to implement it into their lives and been able to integrate it. And I think that that's the most important part of this whole thing is that

Unknown Speaker 3:58
you,

Brandon Handley 4:00
in order to function with the rest of society, you have to be able to, and that's if you want to, you have to be able to implement this in such a way that you feel good about everything that you're doing that you're in alignment with, what you deem as spirituality, and how it can benefit you and others at all times. versus trying to keep it separate. Trying to keep it separate. I use the I use the image of when Neo goes in and he gets pulled in for the first time before he gets pulled into the out of the matrix before he meets Morpheus and they play. It's the it's the security guys, right? They come in and they are they tell them to say hey, in one life One area you're, you're Mr. Anderson knew your clean cut, you come to work, you do your nine to five. And that's, that's great. That's, that's what's expected out of you. And the other than they say, hey, the other person, they pull off this huge stack of, of papers on them say that this other guy that does Neo is a, somebody that we don't approve of. And you can make a choice right now and kind of say, you know, which which one of these differ to be? Do you want to help us? And do you want to stay in your your? Do you want to keep doing your nine to five and keep being the good boy? Or do you want to do want to go and be this this other person where evidently you spend more time to begin with. And that's really where I think a lot of us find ourselves and myself included, which is why the podcast, right, which is why you go when you find others that are doing what you would like to be doing and you and you interview them, and you talk to them and share their stories out. I've certainly found more way more and more ways to implement it in my own life and have implemented and integrated spirituality. In my life, then when I started because it was really keeping them separate often. And to me that was challenging. And, and so this podcast aims to do that for you as well. How can you integrate all this stuff into your own life? How can you make this part of the fabric of everything that you do? And, you know, I was talking to you, I was talking to somebody else yesterday about the idea of Einstein, you know, of course, I bring them up all the time and the line of either everything is a miracle or nothing is a miracle. And the other pieces, I think I heard, you know, Swami is very apparent or pre Nanda, say, from the vedantic, Vedic society, Vedanta society, of New York, and he brings up the line that either everything's God or nothing is God. And when you start to think along those lines, when you start to think along those lines, it changes the dynamic, it changes, few changes, change, you change the way you think, and you what you see changes. And it's really, it's really interesting, When, when, when that starts to happen. And you start to see the impact that you can have on your own reality just by changing your own thoughts. And, and, to me, that's the pure essence of spirituality, that whatever's inside of us is what comes out within the spirit of, right how many times I remember, when I was working for Cisco, we would always be doing, doing these big deals, and then something kind of like would fall out of that deal. And the line would be alright, well, listen, we don't really need to go through all the rigmarole all the finances all that everything that that went into the first creation of this deal, we're gonna do this in the spirit of the deal. Right? So TD spirit of the deal. So when you're when you're doing something, anything, it's the spirit of view, it's it's it's your spirituality, what's inside of you. is absolutely what's going to come out. The other story on that is Wayne Dyer, has has the story of an orange. And he's talking to his audience. And, and the idea is, you know what, the orange only thing come out of an orange is orange juice. Right? whatever's in there is all it can come out.

Sreekumar Rao does it with a Indian dessert. That's the story on that one, whatever's inside is what's going to come out. So whatever's inside of you is what's going to come. So whatever you keep putting inside of yourself, right? Because that's the other thing that that's super important that I've learned over this past year. And I'm sure that you know, you hear your entire life, but you just kind of you kind of dust it off. And you think to yourself, Well, this isn't for me, this is for some other son of a bitch, or some motherfucker. It's not for me. And then, you know, it turns out that it absolutely is for you. So whatever you put inside of you is absolutely what's going to come out. And one way you can. One way you can see this for yourself is I don't know if you still listen to a lot of music or you watch a lot of shows. But pay attention to some of the things that you're saying. Because here's the here's the thing, it doesn't come from you comes from what you put inside of you. So do you, you know, listen to a song and then, you know, a couple days later, you're singing that song again? Did you watch the show and a couple days later, those are the words that are coming out of your mouth that will work for books and work for movies. Whatever goes, whatever you consume, especially mentally is 100%, what's going to come out of you? So, anyways, it's been, it's been a hell of a year. I think that I'm really excited for where it's going, what what's happened with it, and, you know, some of the connections that I've made and the people that I've met, and the ability to, to do it is been, to me, it's been awesome, right? I've got it, you know, a huge thanks to mag for connecting me with guests for being supportive of the podcast for the children being supportive, as well, you know, without my family being supportive of it really makes it a challenge to do. And without your support as well. I wouldn't, I wouldn't keep doing it. So thank you. For for the, for the support. 100%. Thank you for being you. And I you know, I hope that hope that some of these, I hope that some of these people that have been on have have been able to help you as well. They've been able to just help guide you and get you to a place where you're you're able to integrate spirituality in your own life. And that's gonna be it. Yeah. Happy, Happy anniversary.

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The Rev. Dr. Marcia Ledford

Published: June 12, 2021, 11:19 p.m.
Duration: 32 minutes 55 seconds

The Rev. Dr. Marcia Ledford’s ministry is in Southwest Detroit’s Latinx population—an international port with an aggressive regional ICE director. Dr. Ledford is a civil rights attorney representing society’s most marginalized. An Episcopal priest, she holds a Master of Divinity from the Church Divinity School of the Pacific. She earned her Doctor of Ministry in political theology from Pacific School of Religion. Dr. Ledford founded Political Theology Matters, LLC, to help the faithful develop public theology mission and broadcast messaging for greater social justice. She is trained for community organizing through the Industrial Areas Foundation and volunteers with Michigan United.

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Brandon Handley 0:43
321 Hey, there's spiritual dope. Today I am on with the Reverend Dr. Marsha Ledford, who is a civil rights attorney representing society's most marginalized. Her ministry is in southwest Detroit's Latinx population and international port with an aggressive regional ice director. Yeah, I think I could what that is an Episcopal priest she holds a master of divinity from the church Divinity School on the Pacific of the Pacific. She earned her doctorate of ministry in political theology from Pacific School of religion. Dr. Ledford founded political theology matters, LLC to help the faithful develop public theology mission for greater social justice. Marsha teaches speaks and preaches about political theology and very forums. Marsha, so glad to have you here with us today. How are you?

Marcia 1:33
I'm good. And I'm delighted to be with you, Brandon. Thank

Brandon Handley 1:36
you. Absolutely. So I always like to start these off with this, this kind of idea that we're we're vessels for source creative energy, the divine right, as it were, and you know, as it is, you and I are having this conversation, but somebody on the other end is listening in and they're gonna get a message that just, I don't know, lights up that divine spark within them today that's going to be delivered through you. What is that message today?

Marcia 2:06
That we can work for the greater good, even though it seems like our problems are super complex, because we can tap into our spirituality to empower us.

Brandon Handley 2:17
I love that right? The idea that I'm tapping into our spirituality, I think it's um, and I'd love to get your perspective, especially as you said, you come from a marginalized population. Hmm. I feel I from my perspective, anyways, our spirituality is just vastly over neglected. Right. And we don't look at it as this resource that can help propel us to this divine space. Right, right. So in this community that you're serving, how do you? What are some of the tools or ways that you're teaching them to tap into that source?

Marcia 3:00
Well, and it's really not just a parochial ministry, my full time work is teaching everybody how to tap into our spirituality of resistance. So you know, it's, like I said before, it seems like it's super complicated, but in some respects, it's not, we just have to do some inner work. And we have to join voice forces with others to do this work. So and I apologize, I kind of lost your question.

Brandon Handley 3:37
It's quite alright, so the idea, right, so sorry, you know how so? Yes, connecting to that divine right, so that they can, yeah, leverage that source for themselves? So when you say do some inner work and join forces with some others? What's that look like? Right?

Marcia 3:53
That's a great question. And so Roger Gottlieb, who is a professor of philosophy, and is active in his Judah ism, wrote a book called The spiritual spirituality of resistance A few years ago, and his primary focuses on creation care, climate change us, you know, stopping that. But the techniques that he has written about I have really embraced. And essentially, there are two things. And when you when you do this, you can apply it to any issue that is important to you. So it's not limited to climate change or anything else. So you do the inner work, you spend some time with yourself, do some reflection, take some take a course on meditation. Write down what's important to you. That sounds like overly simplified but when you listen to the news every day, you know What really gets sticks under your craw, What makes you say to yourself, I've got to do something about this. And then incorporate that into your meditative practice and listing out things that concern you and that you want to work a list out your skills and abilities. Take a personality inventory, like Myers Briggs or something, doing a Nia Graham, there are lots of resources out there for you to do some of this inner work that I call it. And the other there's another inventory type of inventory that you can do, which is conflict, like, what is your threshold for conflict? Because I get questions, sometimes people will say, Well, you know, I can't be out on the front line of a protest, I am just super uncomfortable doing it, it's not my thing. And my responses, you know, there are all kinds of activities that are required to pull off a protest, or to testify in front of a governmental body or start a ministry or whatever it may be. So there's a place for all of us, we all have gifts that complement one another. Then the second part of doing spiritual resistance is finding a group of people that want to work on issues that are important to you, and bring those skills to the table. We're so much more powerful in numbers. And we know when we know what we're good at, and what's important to us, that makes us even more powerful. And we can join forces with others who can do things that we can't, and we can do things that they can't. And we work together primarily, my recommendation is through community organizing, I think it's the best way for a spirituality of resistance,

Brandon Handley 6:56
right? I think that, um, you know, normally with spiritual spirituality of resistance means it means

Marcia 7:08
two things happen to us, when we live in such a complex world, we either try to avoid what's going on, or we try to deny it. So the spirituality of resistance, takes that head on, and says, I'm not going to avoid stuff, and I'm not going to deny that it's happening, I'm going to lean into the needle as it were, which is a pretty nice analogy right now. Because even if you're afraid of needles, you got to lean into that. That vaccination, in order that we get this pandemic wrestled to the ground once and for all. So you lean into that, which bothers you. When we avoid things, Gottlieb has this is his expression. And so I'm going to credit him, but he talks about how we have a tendency to put stuff that bothers us or we don't like under the floorboards of our consciousness. Okay, so when we are going to stop avoiding things, we pull that stuff out from under the floorboards and we start dealing with it, and we name it, that's a very important part of the spirituality of resistance. To name What is wrong, because as soon as you do that, you take a little bit of its power away. And then as you continue to work to eradicate whatever this wrong is, obviously, over time, it becomes even more disempowered. So that's avoidance. That's when like, pretending that stuff is not as bad as it is or that, you know, pretending it's not there. And the other thing about avoiding stuff is it takes a lot of our energy that we could put into positive forces positive works. So when we spend a lot of time doing this, and pretending we're wasting our energy and our gifts and talents, does that make sense?

Brandon Handley 9:17
It does make sense. So okay. And what I wrote down there tos is the idea of when we avoid these things, or deny them either way, we have an awareness of them. Yeah. Right. And it's the idea of our brains being kind of like computer programs in the sense that if or I think other people refer to it as like, your browser having too many tabs open. Yeah, right. And so you've got all these tabs up, right? You've got all these tabs open and but like, I'm not gonna go back to that page. I'm not ready for it yet. So that tabs like sitting there, sucking up resources that like if you go back over to it, and if you label it as you're saying It takes its power away. But it also says to that this, this has now been identified, right? You've categorized it, you've identified it. And now once it's got a label or a category, you've got the, hopefully, right, you've got some tools that you can leverage with, with those labels and categories, right? So you, right? Or, or you could at least go to somebody and say, hey, look, I've got a couple of these things. Can you help me with this? Because I think another thing that you mentioned is this whole idea of community, building it, or being a part of it, or leaving it was Western societies all? I've got to be the hero in every movie, right? And every scene, if I don't do this all myself, then did I do it at all? Right. Right. And so, you know, I think that when, when you're talking about this person who says that they've, you know, they don't see themselves on the forefront of the line? You know, what, and they think that that's the only way it can be, but you're saying that they can get involved in so many other ways? Oh, yeah.

Marcia 11:02
Right. Okay, you know, maybe your speech, or maybe you write great speeches, maybe your graphic designer, and you know, you, whatever project you're doing, need some outreach material. And so you can, you can participate in, it's just as important, as you know, the extroverts out on the front lines, the, the, you know, the the background stuff, the preparation is just as important. I was on a show recently with a really interesting and insightful young man who's a disability advocate, and he's on the autistic spectrum. But I was talking to him about when you're doing the group work, you have to do a power analysis, and you have to study and prepare. And he immediately went to the rope, a dope example with the Frazier Ali fight in 1974. And, you know, at the time, foreman was knocking people out before the fifth,

Unknown Speaker 12:00
fifth

Marcia 12:03
round. And so Muhammad Ali studied the film, and he realized that while he delivered these thunderous blows, he got tired fast. And so he just barely decided he was going to just go to the ropes and observe some abdominal blows, and just kind of wear him out. And it worked. He knocked him out. And I'm not a huge fan of boxing. But I think the analogy is really important, because it's about studying your opponent together doing power analysis, which is a very specific community organizing activity, figuring out who maybe are the decision makers, because that's where you've got to go. But, and in that sense of persistence in resistance, where you just keep working until you wear them out. And that's all a part of the spirituality of resistance as well. Now, I mentioned denial. We have seen this in this country, we have seen a degree of denial that is really goes beyond description. You know, 80 million people denying that the election was legitimate. a president that lied 33,000 times in the course of a four year term, half of which occurred last year. You know, we have developed a very strange and foreign relationship with the truth. And so when people deny that things are happening, we create an alternate reality. And we absolutely have seen this happen this this past year, and it's strangely enough, still seems to be having some steam to it, even though as the months roll on a beat these conspiracy theories and fantasy assessments of our culture are being proven wrong. So you see the power of denial, and what it can do in terms of undermining good social change.

Brandon Handley 14:24
Right. And I think that that's, you know, your your application of the spiritual resistances for social change. Is that, you know, kind of way Yes. Right. And so, let's talk a second about how do you go from practicing kind of, I guess I'll call it a material law. Right. I mean, I don't know what I know, the standard law. Yeah. spiritual law. Right. I think this is an interesting, it's an interesting shift. You know, talk a little bit about kind of the differences and how they kind of you know, how they align

Marcia 14:59
for you. They're actually aligned very easily. So when I was coming out in the late 70s and early 80s, first, I sensed a call to ordination, when I was about 15 years old. But of course, back then I wasn't seeing a whole lot of women at the pulpit or the altar. So I decided to become an attorney because I wanted to work to help people. And so I became a civil rights attorney. But that call of the Holy Spirit never left. And in fact, started getting louder as I got older. And I got frustrated, because you can't really argue the gospel of compassion and mercy in a court of law and expect to have a successful legal career because it doesn't really work that way. So, you know, there's, there's no precedent for the gospel. So I decided to go to seminary in my late 40s, along with a lot of other women who experience the same thing because of our, you know, or our common age. And so, when you are an attorney, you read texts, sometimes you write them, you write persuasive arguments, you interpret the law, you do all those things. You do the same thing. As a priest or pastor. It's all about reading texts, and interpreting them and preaching or teaching whatever it may be. But, and, and I, Martin Luther was a lawyer before he became a priest, I am in no way comparing myself to Martin Luther. But you know, that's a famous example of somebody.

Brandon Handley 16:55
It's interesting, you put it that way. And I think just as you're saying it, you know, it's kind of dawning on me that Yeah, exactly. Right. It's because I think I did like all maybe three months of business law. And I was like, this is for the birds. I was like, because it's not logical. Yes. No, there's no real logic in it, you really have to have an understanding of a whole bunch of other pieces. Yeah, to be able to interpret it. And I was like, I don't have time for this right now. Yeah.

Marcia 17:25
To is really so subject to interpretation.

Unknown Speaker 17:29
Right? Yeah. My God, it was mind boggling. I couldn't I couldn't, I did. I'm sure I could have if I really cared enough to, but I didn't.

Brandon Handley 17:38
So one of the things that we were talking about, too, was the idea of, um, you know, Christianity and and spirituality. Are they really separate? Or are they, you know, how do they How do they, you know, kind of walk hand in hand, because I hear people always separating religion from spirituality. I'm like, I don't, you know, helped me out there.

Marcia 18:00
Well, I think that's a really interesting and excellent question. I think most religions have a component of spirituality in and of course, it's going to vary depending on what that tradition is. Christianity is a very spiritual tradition. And in fact, you know, going back to the Old Testament, and the prophets, having conversations with God, having, you know, this direct relationship, and then seeing Jesus continue that. And as a matter of fact, often the disciples would lose track of him because he went off somewhere to pray. And we see this particularly in the Gospel of Luke, which is, I think, a very spiritual gospel. Jesus is off praying very often. And he's helping, so he goes and prays, and then he goes, and he helps somebody. So Christianity, as a tradition, I think, is very, very spiritual. Unfortunately, and this bothers me a lot. And it's one of the reasons that I started political theology matters, is to underscore that to look back to the Gospels of Jesus and what he did, he prayed and healed. And he challenged unjust systems, and then he healed somebody. You know? That's not what we're seeing in the public square right now. And Christianity is looking is melded, if you will, say to January 6, you know, there's all these flags waving Jesus saves as people are storming the capital of the United States of America. that bothered me greatly, greatly greatly. So it's, it's really important that we bring this idea of spirituality back to the fore I think the American American people, I'm going to make a very broad based statement here, this is my opinion. But I think the American people are just parched for spirituality, they're parched for reconnecting with their Creator, the divine being this, you know, whatever it is that you call it. We don't respect that in public in society. And we should,

Brandon Handley 20:28
I'm going to, I'm going to agree with you. And I think that we're seeing a lot of that research. And since I could, it could be, of course, that I've just gone through myself in the middle of all of it. And that's the only people I talked to pretty much outside of outside of work, you know, because but the other thing is, we're seeing it in the workplace. We're seeing, you know, wellness, we're seeing meditation, we're seeing yoga, we're seeing breathwork, we're seeing all this other stuff show up in the workplace, you know, without calling it specifically, you know, you know, reconnecting with source or anything, right. But the surge of people that are running towards it, and embracing it. That's, That, to me indicates that, that what you're saying is 100% true, right? The idea of that the idea of this thirst for it, it exists right now. And of course, it always makes me think of, and I don't know, the Bible for nothing. But you know, it makes me think of makes me think of the line of, you know, I've got bread that are meats that you know, not have, right, that's the nourishment that yes, we're seeking the spiritual nourishment and right that that, you know, will feed us to sustain us that, you know that that's, that's why we're parched. Right. That's why we're hungry, because we haven't been. And we're banished.

Marcia 21:53
There's a in the fourth chapter of john, the gospel of john, there's one of the most amazing stories in the whole Bible, and it's when Jesus is at the well with the Samaritan woman. And he says to her, I will giving I'll give you a living water, and you will never thirst again. And of course, she wants this water. And she's taking him much more literally than what he's talking about. But I think that when people and then by extension individuals and by extension of community are more tied into the spiritual, mystical, you know, part of life, I think our regard for other human beings will go up. One of the reasons I think we're seeing these, this episode, we are in a pandemic of police shootings. And I think one of the reasons that we are seeing this is because instead of connecting spiritually, and praying and recognizing that we're all children of God, there's just a lot of fear and power plays. And that's not spirituality, spirituality is getting in touch with our Creator, and by extension, the folks that we share this planet with and in creation.

Brandon Handley 23:15
And would you also say that we can eliminate some of that fear if we have some faith? And in our Creator? Of course, I would say that, yeah. You know, but it you know, it goes, it goes to the brain up all the time, it's, you know, it's this, this this kind of idea of let go and let God it releases a lot of these fears. Yes, right. Yeah, you can, you can look at that. And I, I put it into a bunch of different frameworks. But I think that, once you make that statement work for you, and you see in action, there is my book, salming surrender effect was the thing that you feel, and you're like, why haven't I've been doing this all my life, right? Because, you know, there's this resistance to the institution of church and religion. I think that that's what's that's what keeps a lot of people from trying to make that way forward. So, Marsha, we were down to, we're down to kind of get into the end here. We've got political theology matters, right? Yeah. I want to know, a couple of questions. We're gonna do like a couple of spiritual speed dating questions. Okay, so this is like, you know, hey, you and I are at the table. I want to date you, but I'm not quite sure if you're the right spiritual as a line person, for me. And so you know, what's let's take a let's take a couple, take a couple of these questions and see if we can come up with okay. To do what is wisdom and how do we gain it?

Marcia 24:52
Well, I think wisdom basically is knowing right and wrong. I think it just boils right down to that, you know, having a moral through line in your life that guides you in terms of your thoughts and conduct and the decisions that you make. And, and we, I think we acquire this as we live longer for a reason. Because as we experience life, it helps us understand what our moral through line is, and should be even greater as we age.

Brandon Handley 25:27
Like that. You know, I was always a wise ask growing up as a kid, right. But that wasn't the wisdom that it served.

Marcia 25:36
wasn't always asked is different than wisdom, who, you know, you

Brandon Handley 25:39
still still put the two in there? Yeah, put the two in there. I was

Marcia 25:42
the wiser as to so there you go. That's just a bit. This

Brandon Handley 25:45
is part of the journey. Right? I'm going from thinking that you know, everything to knowing that you know, nothing. Yeah. Right.

Marcia 25:53
humility, that's part of wisdom. For sure.

Brandon Handley 25:56
Yeah. Is current religion serving its purpose?

Marcia 25:59
No. Tell me more? Well, yes. And no. I think we're seeing it, I'm going to talk about Christianity, because that's what I know, I really have no business talking about any other tradition. But Christianity has lost its way, and is much more concerned, at least certain corners of Christ's vineyard are more concerned about power than they are about people, and about judgment, and damning people because they're this or that, or they're not this or that. And dictating the terms of that individual's relationship with their Creator, which I think is crazy. And I quit doing that, we got to stop this horizontal stuff. Alright, you did this. So you're bad, you're going to hell, or whatever, like anybody really has the right to say that to somebody else. Our relationship needs to be like this. You know, we need to dictate a relationship with our Creator, or we need to craft it and follow our tradition, and our Creator, and not let society get in between. And I think that's really bad. I think that's where Christianity is failing. The most. Are there any

Brandon Handley 27:27
churches, groups, communities and Christianity that you feel like are doing it right, right now?

Marcia 27:34
Well, of course, I would have to put in a plug for the Episcopal Church. I am a priest ordained in the Episcopal Church. And I'm, I'm a lesbian. So I didn't have a lot of choices outside of mainstream Protestantism, to become ordained. But I'm still really glad that I'm where I am. Because we have an incarnational theology, which means that God chose to send Jesus to walk the earth with us to understand our lives and to understand what we go through, in order to reach out to us and invite us into the reign of God. And so I, that really works for me, we are very inclusive, we are dating, obviously, we are dating LGBT people. As a matter of fact, we specifically passed a, you know, a resolution a few years ago at our general convention to ordain trans people. So we're on the cutting edge of the LGBTQ issues. But we're also very active in lobbying for greater social justice. reconciliation, racial reconciliation, climate care, you name it, and we are involved on the progressive and of Christianity, and I'm very proud of that. I wouldn't be an Episcopal priest if I was a

Brandon Handley 29:01
class. Fantastic. And you know, it's it's great to hear, you know, called sex they called branches. I don't know what they're called. denominations. That's what they are. Right?

Marcia 29:10
Yes. denominations. And several that are in company with us. It's not just us, but

Brandon Handley 29:16
right right now, but it's great to hear that. There's this kind of release of judgment. Right. Yeah. And there's this acceptance of calm as you are, right? Because, I mean, that's kind of what it's supposed to be about. Right? Come as you are, you're accepted no matter who, what, where you are, right, what you've done. who, you know, you feel like you've wronged I mean, you know, as a parent myself, right. And I can only imagine like, as you know, you know, you know, God, Jesus, whoever, whoever, you know, the creator is that's our eternal parent, you know, doesn't want us to, like, you know, sit their misery over the fact that I don't know yeah, you know, if you Have cause an accident, like by running into a car like that. That doesn't mean you're damned to hell, you know? Like, hey, you made a pretty shitty mistake, right? But go ahead and come on in, we're gonna we're gonna work through this right? Let's talk about this. Let's know, let's, where can we go from here,

Marcia 30:15
there's, in my opinion, way too much emphasis on being strictly sinful create creatures of constant failure. And, you know, disappointment. God created us, we're told, because God didn't want to be alone and wanted to be with us in community. And Jesus was all about community. And I think that we have to remember that we are also children, a God created in God's image. And so what we can do then is stop focusing so much on how faulty we are all the time. Recognize that we are children of God, but also recognize that Jesus created avenues for us to seek and receive forgiveness so that we could stay in relationship with God. And that's just incredibly important with that.

Brandon Handley 31:08
I mean, I've heard some people call that the way, right there's like, Yeah, right. Yeah. So, so, so much fun to have you on today. Thanks for thanks for stopping on. Really appreciate it much.

Yeah. Appreciate it. Where can people go to have more Marsha?

Marcia 31:24
Okay, so my website is called political theology. matters.com. I know that's kind of long. We'll put it in the show notes. You can email me at Marsha m AR c IA at MMI. PTM. PTM for political theology. matters.com. So that's the shortened version. Marsha, at my PTM calm. Thank you so much for being on today. And oh, more. Would you like me to send you info when the book drops? Absolutely, absolutely. So yeah, you've

Brandon Handley 32:01
got you've got a book coming out. You're working on it. And you're expected to come out this year?

Marcia 32:05
Yeah, at the end of next the end of this year. And I'll be sure that Brandon knows when it is. And you can get more information. It's about it's a book about how to do faith based advocacy for social justice.

Brandon Handley 32:19
That's great. And I love it. Thank you so much for being on today. Marsha, my pleasure.

Marcia 32:22
Thank you, Brandon.

Unknown Speaker 32:23
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Well this is embarrassing

Published: June 10, 2021, 7:56 p.m.
Duration: 19 minutes 39 seconds

Unknown Speaker 0:01
Oh,

Brandon Handley 0:01
all right. All right. All

Unknown Speaker 0:03
right.

Unknown Speaker 0:04
That's funny.

Brandon Handley 0:04
I like to start these things off. Like that, like that.

Unknown Speaker 0:11
This morning,

Brandon Handley 0:13
I'm on my way to work. And I thought I'd share something

Unknown Speaker 0:17
with you,

Brandon Handley 0:19
as spiritual dope continues to do what is really anything I've ever done in terms of podcasting, and creating Facebook groups and all this other stuff. We, I have, I don't want to lump you into this. I have certainly gone ahead. And many times, and as many times as I've heard somebody say, don't focus on the metrics. Don't focus on the you know, how many likes you get, and all the people that are in there with you and engage with you. And by the way, it's a different mic. And I'm driving MiGs. Next vehicle the Jeep right now. So we'll see how the audio comes out. If it's awful, and the message is

Unknown Speaker 1:15
great,

Brandon Handley 1:16
chances are you'll hear it if it is a audios, okay, and the message is great, you'll hear it. Hopefully though, we can make the audio

Unknown Speaker 1:27
pretty good. It's pretty good

Brandon Handley 1:29
given that is a straight recording on to the phone, and is really actually the genesis of what a podcast was just a recording on mobile device, ie the

Unknown Speaker 1:46
iPod

Brandon Handley 1:50
metrics, vanity metrics, the idea and they call them vanity metrics. And as as spiritual as I am, as aware as I am of all of these things, that doesn't mean that I can't, and don't get caught up in them. I'm not a saint, I am 100% human, I am 100% susceptible to great marketing, good advertising. And the idea of all of these, all of those is, is to really separate you where you are right now. And ask you a question. The question is Where Where would you like to be? This is marketing one on one, this is really sales one on one. And this is I think everything that we do in the world that creates value, everything that we do in the world that creates value is the idea of Okay, here's where you are today, you're telling me you would like to get here, I have that tool that can help you get there. So that you can get to market sooner, you can make more money, you can lose the weight, you can be muscular, and all of these things as martiny that's my that's the world. Entire world. And marketing is the marketing tools. And marketing. advertising is the is it's that on steroids. So if you didn't already know I'm pretty sure most of you already know that. And just because you know, doesn't mean that you're not susceptible to it doesn't mean that it doesn't work on you and me, right and it still works on me as much as I know even about the psychology of it all. There's a threshold and there's a desire and there's you know, what, what are you willing to part with in order to get what you desire? What are you willing to do in order to get what you desire? And I desire to have more people listen in to spiritual dope, I desire to share the messaging out of spiritual dope. I desire to not even you know, to to have other people tune in as well. to aspire to have amazing guests that that I feel would be a benefit to you To listen to I feel like the guests are huge benefits myself as well as, as the other the other piece of of kind of life is, you know, in mentorship, we we look for those who have what we want, or, you know, on the on the outset that they look like they've accomplished something we're trying to accomplish. And we asked them questions that help us to fill the gaps. We have this diatribe that says, hey, let's, let's, let's Converse so that I can understand Are you truly where I believe I would like to be? And if so, how did you get there. So a lot of this is me searching. But it's also done for you, to help you resonate with somebody else. And that's, that's why I have kind of tongue in cheek, you should be hearing I'm actually you would have heard one this last week, if you listen to David Sander cot. And you've heard the, if you've been listening to some of the interviews, the idea of spring spiritual dope as a speed dating spiritual speed dating game, where these people who come on if you were spiritually seeking, if you were, if you are seeking, and the guests that come on resonate with you, that's awesome. For me, that's awesome for me, because that means that I'm providing a service to you. That is in tune with who I am as well. So

that is, that's exciting, right. So that's what I'm trying to do that is, that is what I'm putting out there. That is what I'm sending out. And sometimes, man, I'd like it to grow faster. Sometimes, I'd like you Wow, just you want more people to listen in, to help you to get to where you want to be to help jog something in you. That shows you just how incredible you are to and it shows you, oh, here's somebody else who's similar to me, you right, someone who's similar to you, that's going on a path that started from where you started at that has had some of the same experiences as you that you are still on the road and he's alive was a groundhog.

Unknown Speaker 7:47
Somebody

Brandon Handley 7:49
who has gone through things that are similar to you and has come out to a place that you would like to get to. That's kind of what the resignation is. And so

Unknown Speaker 8:05
while

Brandon Handley 8:07
putting this together. And while I am fully aware of not being not seeking the vanity metrics, but liking them all the same, right, and looking for this external validation where I know that it's not necessary. Sorry, if I'm being long in the tooth here. I fell prey to it anyways, and let me tell you, the story is just kind of entertaining. Because, you know, somebody reached into my dm so like, Hey, we think that your you and your messaging would be a great fit for something that we we promote, we'll get you over 1000 engaged people. I was like, Whoa, or 1000 1000 new, at least 1000 new followers on Instagram. And it was like 30 bucks. They were rushing. And and I was like, fuck it, you know, why not? Can will this result in this messaging, this connection getting out to some people that can truly use it, too? will this help change? lives on the outside? will this help change? Will this will this connect with somebody resonate with somebody? I do this and you know the cost is 30 bucks. So I did it, pull the trigger. And first of all the guide you know person was like, hey, we'll post it at 5pm PST.

Unknown Speaker 9:56
It was six p

Brandon Handley 9:57
I was like yeah, that's fine. Go for it and Then it was like six, I was like, you know, starting to panic about 30 bucks, which is which in and of itself is like, Wow. It's a, you know, it's interesting to see that trigger right within yourself to understand that you're still panicked over 30 bucks for any known good reason. To me that was interesting. And then to not trust to understand that as trusting as I feel like I am and simply because it was a Russian, I have prejudice, that that I might be being taken. And don't

Unknown Speaker 10:41
get me wrong.

Brandon Handley 10:42
Everybody gets taken and you know, there's, there's whatever, I'm not suggesting that it was a good idea. However, I want to have with it. Five o'clock, I was like, Yo, what's up? where's where's my where's my shout out? where's where's where's my people? Where's my followers? You know? how's this gonna work? No response. I'm like, fuck it. 30 bucks. Let me make these pizzas and call tonight. And, you know, shame on me. Around 6:30pm I started getting a flood of likes, flood of new followers. And it was kind of, you know, this instant gratification. There was like the dopamine hit, I was like, Oh, yeah,

Unknown Speaker 11:25
check it out. It's working for come the fall word.

Brandon Handley 11:32
And I started checking, start checking who the likes are from and, and, you know, are these people that would really resonate with me? And, and, you know, just straight up looking at gift horse in the mouth, I guess is what that looks like. But are these are these genuine followers? Are these genuine people that will be engaged, and you're going to be checking these accounts. And they were Middle Eastern, they were,

you know, mostly a lot of a lot of Arabic. So when they speak the language, or, you know, the the account wouldn't have spoken away. It was like, okay, you know, it's kind of disappointing.

Unknown Speaker 12:14
But, you know,

Brandon Handley 12:16
there's always me, I'm the I'm the hopeless optimist. I gotta make maybe they may engage, I don't know, what

Unknown Speaker 12:24
do I know?

Brandon Handley 12:25
I don't know, shit. So continues. And you know, I'm checking out many of the other accounts and there's that are popping up and basically get 1000, maybe even 1400, I forget how many new followers from this, this disengagement for 30 bucks. And as I went through the

Unknown Speaker 12:51
evening,

Brandon Handley 12:52
again, I was like, Okay, and then I was like, these people, none of them. None of them are gonna engage. Right? They're not they're not engaging. And so that was kind of bombing, right? Like, bummed me out. Because, you know, the next day I go, and I put out like, a

Unknown Speaker 13:09
post?

Unknown Speaker 13:10
And I'm like, Well, you know, let's,

Brandon Handley 13:11
let's see, what happens is, am I gonna get a lot of it? Am I gonna? My is this gonna? Is there gonna be engagement? Right? Because the content is its its intent is to engage its intent is to inspire, make think. Or even provide answers again, you know, facilitate links, that lead to action, taking that lead to enthusiasm that lead to you taking action for yourself. I know it's a lot, and I don't give a shit. That's, that's what the intent is. And so I got caught up in I got caught up in the metrics, and somebody reached out that said, Hey, I saw that you use this person service, and that was an actual person. So I did end up engaging with one real person. And, and they're like, well, are they engaging? I said, none. And she was like, yeah, you know. That's a bone because, you know, if you've got bloated numbers and no engagement, then then you know that the algo doesn't work well there either. And I just realized that I've been caught up in and vanity metrics, I realized I've been caught up in something that I knew that I didn't believe in. So I was seeking engagement, but I got caught up in the optics of it. And, you know, so I found myself and I still I'm still still going through Instagram. So it's what's funny is the time that is But the money that I spent in

Unknown Speaker 15:01
you know,

Brandon Handley 15:02
trying to gain these followers get get this engagement has has made it so that you know I experienced this and go through it and now I'm spending time and Instagram deleting followers which is funny because it takes forever and I couldn't get some other app to work that made it like instantaneous or at least faster because there's no built in way to bulk delete followers why would you want to do that? right and then the answer is I don't I don't I don't want people who are in there that aren't engaged with fucking content I don't want to be I don't want to be speaking with people who don't want to be spoken to. If you've ever seen the energy bus read the read the book it's pretty good book. Energy man I don't want I don't want fucking leeches. I don't want energy vampires on there. I want people that the message resonates with and you know it that's five fucking people. That's great. If it's 10 people, that's great. If it's one person like every day that's like you know, the supportive I mean that's that's awesome. That means that there's there's somebody out there that is resonating and and what I found is that when I'm deleting these people and I'm going through it I'm deleting people

Unknown Speaker 16:22
is

Unknown Speaker 16:25
I'm getting

Brandon Handley 16:26
two or three new followers a day that I believe are engaged like that are genuine and that are that are plugged in and just you know made me think of this whole thing and I just wanted to share it with you because I'm a human right I'm fucking human I am I am a spiritual being having a human experience. And I'm not I'm not a saint. Right and and I don't ever want to portray myself as being other than exactly what you are outside of, you know, having different experiences and going through taking different courses and having you know, different sets of educate, we all have something to bring and I just thought I'd bring this experience to you though and just let you know that

Unknown Speaker 17:23
hey,

Brandon Handley 17:24
if you get and this is you know this is me trying to like me I guess not shame myself or be okay with it not I should be right. justify ship. But we are all human, we, you know, we're gonna we're gonna fall prey to some of these gimmicks we are going to we are going to have these perceived gaps that were that we want to close quickly, right? We look at it like almost like a wound or a gate a gaping wound, right. And that's literally like what I've been taught in some of the, in some of the sales tactics and marketing out there is like, what you want to do is find their pain point, right? Like, I'm looking for your pain point. Want to fucking rip it open, pour some salt in there, push it in and be like, ah, how you like that. So that like you are psychologically like, this shit needs to get fixed like now, right? Otherwise like panic, panic, panic, panic. So how do we release that? I don't have the answers there. But so that's, that's what's happening when you, when you have this perceived gap, this idea that you need, there's like this sense of urgency to, to make a purchase to make a change. And we all go through it. So don't feel guilty if you find yourself with a table full of, of anything that because when you purchased it and you made that purchase, you you you felt like it was going to make a it was going to make it was gonna change your life. I mean, you quite literally make a purchase because you feel like it's gonna change your life. You feel like there's going to be some personal gain where you feel like it's gonna change the lives of others, the gifts that you buy for people, because it's changed your life. Anywho marketing. We're all susceptible to it. And there's no there's no shame in it. And I just, you know, again, I'm human, share my human story talks.

Unknown Speaker 19:33
Anyways,

Unknown Speaker 19:34
well, you know, I'm

Brandon Handley 19:34
saying, talk to you later.

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David J Sandercott | Meditating his way into Modeling

Published: June 6, 2021, 2:28 p.m.
Duration: 29 minutes 13 seconds

So much fun during this one, be sure to connect with David over at https://www.davidsandercott.com/

Insta: david_sandercott

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey there spiritual dope I'm on today with David Sandercott a big thanks goes out they were just talking he, he and I were on together probably was about a month ago David and something in the ether chewed up. It's like, you know my dog ate my homework type of thing happened. And so Dave is back here again for a second round. I really appreciate coming back. So Dave is the author of 21 day meditation journey connect with spirit every day in a new way, a life and business coach and speaker, David is also excited to announce it he is now working with small businesses and large corporations. In 1998, David decided to be the shortest high fashion model ever. He also decided that he was going to meditate himself there. In 2001. David was the shortest male model ever to appear in Vogue magazine and the six page spread shot by Helmut Newton alongside supermodel Kate Dillon. Ever since David has been inspired to help others to achieve their dreams, David, thanks for being on today. How are you? Hey, thanks.

David Sandercott 1:04
Happy to be your brand. You got the longer older bio there from the website? Is that right? Yeah,

Brandon Handley 1:11
I did. I mean, I thought that was actually pretty short one I was I was happy. I was like, wow, you know, you don't have your whole life story there. Thank you.

David Sandercott 1:17
Hey, good. I like I like short BIOS,

Brandon Handley 1:20
is a good one. I enjoyed it. I enjoyed it. So well, you know, we start us off with the idea. Let's see if you remember everything that we did last time because it was perfect. The we start us off with the whole idea that source speaks through us for like just kind of this moment and purpose. And right now, you know, sources speaking through you to an audience member, and only the way that it can through you What does that message to that audience member today?

David Sandercott 1:50
Wow, that's a great question. Brandon was gonna close my eyes and connect a little bit just to make sure I get it right. You know, I think that message is, you know, above anything is to believe in yourself, to love yourself. And to know that if you have the inspiration in your heart, if you have that reoccurring thought of this thing that you want to do, or that pool to do something, that you have everything you need within you to do that thing. And if you're using the excuse of I don't have the money, I promise you that's not what's stopping you from doing it. You know, you're most people think of capital is money. You know, Facebook, Steve Jobs, apple, they didn't have millions and millions of dollars to start, they started with the capital in their mind, which was an idea. And it's just like, just like them your idea is your true capital. Does that make sense? Does that sound like something they want to hear? I

Brandon Handley 2:52
love I love it, man. Absolutely, absolutely. I think I think you know, you're being pulled to do it. And I think that that's something How can somebody recognize that they're being pulled to do it? And it's not just ego telling them that that's the thing?

David Sandercott 3:04
Yeah, that's a great question. You know, that's part of the art of life of you know, how to be human is learning how to be a happy human is learning to decipher between that voice that speaks to you that, you know, let's say Bugs Bunny, right, Bugs Bunny used to have the angel pop up and like the devil on one side. And so you have to learn to differentiate between those. And what I can most to tell you is that fear is the is the devil. And, and when it feels good, and your heart opens, you know that that's God, that's the angel. You know, I don't think I can give you some sort of linear way to tell you how to decipher those voices. You have to do it through practice, through learning to love yourself and trust yourself and through meditation and contemplation. But usually it feels good and doesn't involve fear. And then what was the second part of the question? I don't remember I was so that's alright. It was a great question. But how do you decipher? And then the one thing you said that you're being led, you know, how do you know that you're being led? And it's, it's simple. So two things, like one exercise I did is I wrote down 10 goals every day for a year. And it was like, what those what goals of those were left at the end of the year. Those were the ones that were really important. They kept the ones that kept coming up over and over and over again. And again, it's like that in your heart and in your mind, what keeps coming up. What do you keep thinking about wanting to do what inspires you when you think about doing it? And that's, that's the poll that I'm speaking of, and, and to some degree, it's also easy it because it's not that there's not challenges or obstacles, but it's some it's easy, it's easy when it's right. It's easy.

Brandon Handley 4:51
So being invoke was right and easy for you. Let's talk about that.

David Sandercott 4:57
Yeah, you know, someone interviewed me for that reason. Recently are, you know, we're talking about manifestation, the art of manifestation. She's like, and I bet you that you had some some struggles or some challenges, you know, leading up to getting in vogue. I was like, No, it was so easy and effortless, you know, it was part of it. I think that I was I was so young, that I hadn't had much, you know, adversity in my life maybe. And I just decided to do something. And I decided to meditate. And I decided to visualize, I decided to read affirmations and I decided I was gonna do this thing. And it Honest to God was the most easy and effortless thing I've ever done in my life, I think because it was right, it was divine, it was it was to show me that you really can do anything you put your mind to, if you believe in yourself, and stick with it.

Brandon Handley 5:50
You've got a lot of, you know, a lot of good stuff in there, right? I think that everybody feels like it's supposed to be a challenge, right? If it's worth it, it's gonna take work. If it's worth it, you're gonna have to put in the work and it's gonna be hard. And you know, you got to put in, like, you got to grind it out, and this other stuff. But when you do it in that manner, then you know, it's kind of like what you put out, there's what you get back. That's exactly what it's going to take, it's gonna take a grind, and it's gonna be hard and all this other stuff. But it sounds to me like what you did was you said, but here, here's another piece of this, too, that that I think we don't hear a bunch of and like the law of attraction world. If you don't know how to do it, and you just start doing it, then it the patches kind of opens up for you. Is that kind of how it went for you?

David Sandercott 6:40
Absolutely. Because that's where I want to say action is the key to success. Now, there's all kinds of action involved, right? There is there absolutely was and yes, that is how it started. All I knew I needed to have pretty pictures of myself. You know, I knew I needed that. So that was that was the first step. I knew I needed to be in great shape. But that's what I loved doing anyway. So there was a lot of work in the gym. But you know what, I? There's nothing I would rather do in my life than that. And then yeah, there was x and you just had to talk to agents. You know, I mentioned I went to New York, and this guy is just Oh, looking. Cute. Haha, you want a bottle? And you that didn't faze me. I was just like, you know, oh, yeah, I'm gonna be a model.

Brandon Handley 7:34
So when you're saying that to it when you said action, right, and I forget what I was watching. I was like another, you know, law of attraction, spin off, or the secret spin off for a bunch of people that were in there. And one guy's like, by the way, the word action is at the end of attraction, right? is in attraction. And I thought that that was pretty cool. But what you're also talking about too, and I'm hearing you say is like, you kind of had clarity and purpose and an intention. And you got behind it, you believed in yourself and you just aligned to it. Right? You did. And thank you for the recommendation, right? The dorthea brand, you know, um, you know, acted as if it actually as if it was impossible to fail.

David Sandercott 8:21
That's right. That's right. It was it was Yeah, it's such a great book. And so anyways, I mentioned thinking Grow Rich before I read the book thinking grow rich. It told me I could do anything I wanted to do if I believed in myself made a decision to do it and I meditated. So those were the three things I did exactly what you said I made a decision and I think that is where so many people falter that's where so many people that the decision they make is not to make a decision or decision they make is to make an excuse on why they can't make the decision when it was I made a clear cut decision that was gonna be the world's shortest high fashion model. And now I Honest to God could probably get into the Guinness Book of World Records with with everything that I had for doing that you know, that didn't necessarily mean to me though get in the world Guinness Book of World Records You know, that's not it was just get something that only a six foot two you know, Blue Steel type model could do you know, and and that was it that's filled it but I made the decision to do it. So I had to succeed. And then I believed in myself and I followed up with action. So there's the non action action of the daily meditation and the daily visualization was was equally and probably more important than the other daily actions of going to castings meeting people, you know, always be doing something right. And not doing something for the sake of doing something like modeling jobs, photo shoots, you know, etc, etc.

Brandon Handley 10:00
Sure, I think there's a lot of sounds to me what you're talking about is there's a lot of people that do these actions from this busy stuff. But there's no there's nothing behind it, right? There's no there's no intent, there's no alignment. There's like, Alright, well, I'm supposed to do these things, this thing, this thing, this thing and this thing. But if it's not aligned to an intention, or purpose or direction, or like this grand vision, I mean, we can call, we call what you had a vision of what you thought was possible for yourself. Right? Like, yeah, I think that I think another thing too, is that people are afraid to have a vision people are afraid to be visionary, because they think it needs to be something greater than it is right? You can, you can have many visions you can write, you can have these visions that these practice visions, we'll call them. Right. But you know, I think what you're talking about, too, is the idea of making a decision. Did you pull that out of thinking grow rich? And sub question, Are you a Bob Proctor fan?

David Sandercott 10:59
I did pull it out of thinking Grow Rich, those were the three biggest takeaways make a decision, believe in yourself and meditate that that was the key in all my life that decision making has been key was a huge like Bob. Proctor was really inspiring to me like 15 years ago, I don't really I mean, walked around thinking Grow Rich, and you know, so he, I haven't really been cued into them for a long time.

Brandon Handley 11:26
Now, fair enough. And the reason I bring that up, because he brings up the word decision, and the root of the word is like this

David Sandercott 11:32
huge array cut off from thinking grow rich. So once I make the decision, there's no other option, you know, you have to pick yourself off from all other options.

Brandon Handley 11:46
Well, look, I'm super impressed that you got that out of thinking Grow Rich, like even immediately, because it's a tough read. And if you're trying to read that on your own, without some kind of, I don't know, I want to say guidance, because it's a tough one to read. Like I certainly. And for me, I never I never pulled meditate out of there. Where did you pull that out? I'm like, I'm like, where'd you pull the rabbit out of the hat, bro.

David Sandercott 12:08
You know, it's I read it sometimes. And I'm like, and it is in there. And I am convinced that the older of the edition of the book you can get, the better they've taken stuff out over the years. There's this beautiful poem in there. That's not in the original unabridged version anymore. I don't know why. And maybe I'm making it up. But it was just as loud and clear to me in that book was you've got to meditate if you want to be successful. That's just what I saw. And I remember asking Mr. Van Asch, who was sort of like a mentor of mine, and I said, Do you meditate? And he's like, Well, no, but I drive home silently. for like an hour, I do this drive. And that's sort of like my meditate. So he knew what I was talking about, when we're talking about the book, you know? And so I don't know, but I got it out of there. And it is in there. He does say the word meditate, you know,

Brandon Handley 13:01
no doubt, I believe you, man, I believe you. 100%. And then you threw out a couple of words earlier there when we're talking about easy and effortless, right? The the idea of more meditation, but you talked about like, you know, kind of divine intervention, right? Like, when do you feel like you really flipped the spirituality switch for yourself?

David Sandercott 13:26
Yeah, that's a great question. So I've honestly the effortless way. I said, I'm teaching June 19 is the effortless way. June 19. I'm having a prosper event. But anyways, so again, I the spiritual switch turned on for me. And when I was, Well, honestly, when I was in my teenage, or even preteen years, I remember thinking about wanting to find my higher self like that being my driving force I really wanted, I knew there was something more. And then when I read Think and Grow Rich at that time, that was it, man. I was, I mean, less than a year late after that, I moved to LA. I was meditating an hour a day I was visualizing, but it's, I mean, it was just as soon as I got sober from like, a four year you know, run of being drunk. 22 I just, I was immediately called the Spirit. And that doesn't mean I didn't like break up with it during certain times, or like, neglect it and forget about it. And to some degree, it's if I had a regret that would be there, Brett I had in my life. When my all of my good friends started moving out to LA, I sort of shifted back kind of into the role that I played more with them instead of just sticking to the celibate, spiritual, and just I was a machine I mean, I was I. Yeah, it happened very early on, and then again, in 2011

Brandon Handley 15:00
So I think that I think that it's interesting that you kind of found it you recalled toward such a young agent, I don't I don't think that I think that somewhere around 20 we get called to that, right? It's and it's kind of like, you know, a window of an opportunity, right? And we either heat it then where we don't, right? For those of us that don't, myself included, you kind of go about life in this default mode, right? And you just, you're like, Alright, well, let me go do all these other things everybody else is doing because that's what looks like I should be doing. And then to me again, and just just based off of personal experience, but the other window of opportunity kind of opens up round, you know, when you get close to 40. Right? There's like it still here. Still here, if you want to hang out, bro. Right? Like, I mean, and, and, and spiritualities like that. It's like I listen, I'm hope you had a good time. It's time to get serious again, right? Remember me like? word Have you been man? It's been crazy. So I think it's really cool that you know, you kind of took hold of it. And you talked about the breakups. And the other piece that you're talking about is when your friends show up. It's interesting, right? When you go home, you're like, well, this is who I was when I left. And so people are still expecting me to be that way. And that's probably what it was when your friends come out to visit you like, you're like, Oh, this is the Dave they know. Right. Let me like, let me remind you revert back to something that's acceptable for the people that you know that that kind of what happened?

David Sandercott 16:25
Yeah, I just say it was unconscious, you know, to a to a large degree. But looking back now, yeah, I would say what I really want to express is the way not to fall in that trap is to really have a great deal of love and respect for yourself and recognize how what you're doing is working. Now, it was a lot of fun to fall back into that role, because my friends were all kind of like rich or had more money than me and at a beach house and hermoza. And I've seen we had I still I never drink or you know, but I still have a lot of fun with them. But they were all getting master's degrees and establishing careers. And I fell back into the guy who was just along for the ride, you know, not realizing that they're eventually going to get kids and not be able to take care of me get married have kids

Unknown Speaker 17:19
out? Yeah,

Brandon Handley 17:22
I get it, I get it. But what's interesting, though, too, is that it doesn't sound like you succumb to their way of living though either by feeling like it. Maybe you did. And like

David Sandercott 17:35
No, I didn't. I mean, I gave him stuff for Well, a lot of a lot. Not really. But I mean, I'm definitely the guy that people talk to you they don't want to drink so much.

Brandon Handley 17:45
I mean, not even just the drinking but like the the you know, the workforce, right, going back into the workforce, getting the education and doing you know, kind of doing that what's the social socially expected norm? Yeah, that's what your friend said, right? They finished school, got degrees, got married, have kids and fell into fell in line.

David Sandercott 18:06
They absolutely did it. And it worked for them to the degree they're happy. I'll say this this is coming up for me is like sometimes I give teachers or education a bad rap. But I had a fifth grade teacher named miss a miss Afro carrion, she was, she was great. The rumor was that during lunch, she smelled doobies in her like 1970s docks, and in the in the dots in the corner of the parking lot. But anyways, at the beginning of class, every single day, we recited the road less traveled by Robert Frost. And I have no doubt that that completely impacted me in such a profound way. Because everything I've ever done in my life, was the road less traveled was taken the road less traveled.

Brandon Handley 18:49
That's awesome. You know, I'm in agreement with you there, right, like, definitely, probably not as kind as I could be to the education system, but they're certainly the teachers that had a profound impact are the ones that you remember

David Sandercott 19:04
that as MIT right, Mr. Ben, he just retired and I made him a video, you know, someone in and I just let him know that you inspired me to start reading angry reading changed my life, you know, I'm not the stuff they gave you in school.

Brandon Handley 19:23
What do you what do you think the impact of doing something like that is reaching out to a past teacher? Did he reply to you? What, what are your thoughts there?

David Sandercott 19:30
Well, it was sent in like a group thing, like someone put it together. And I don't know, but I know he saw it. And so I had a rubber band ball that was like this big and he took it away from me. And I had went back like five or six years later, and he still had it. And then I asked someone to ask so at his retirement, he still had the rubber band ball that I gave him. So I know he remembered me. And so I'm sure that he was grateful for that message, you know, is great. You know, I was happy to do it because teachers get, you know, they get pooped on a lot to

Brandon Handley 20:04
it. And it's the same, um, you know, somewhere, and but, you know, to the idea that some of their for a job and some of their really impact lives and it sounds like you had a few that were there to really impact your life. Yeah, that's right. And, and I think, you know, I'm gonna segue that into kind of what you're doing right? You know, you're you're right now you're teaching some of these practices and principles that you've been able to find success with in your life. One of those is, I think that you initially kind of did a lot of work in the space by helping others to get their first You know, one grand five grand, and now you're working to help them get their first 10 grand, and in their, in their own respective faces. Let's talk a bit about that. What's your, what's your about in that space?

David Sandercott 20:49
Yeah. So after I read, Think and Grow Rich for that first time, it was like, I knew that this is what I wanted to do, I didn't know there was a thing called a coach back then, you know, but I knew that that's what I want to do, and mentor people and, and I did it as a wrestling coach. And I had, I had athletes come back to me a decade later, say, you know, that thing that you said, or, or, you know, I read thinking Grow Rich, and it really made a big difference in my life, you know, so I got to start doing it back then. And then I was a fitness trainer, because really, that's something that I was really passionate about sharing. And, and then around mid 2000s 2007 2008, I got into direct sales, which was like building a sales team. And then, you know, network marketing, like you buy something, essentially, and then you teach other people, then you get someone else to buy it and teach them to sell it is essentially how that goes. And that was really where coaching started. And two big things happen there, I helped several people are in their first $1,000 as an entrepreneur, which was extremely rewarding, and maybe even more impactful. It was, I went to New Zealand, essentially, for a long weekend to bungee jump, because it was on my list of things to do, and to see a speaker. And you know, I was gone for five or six days, I came back with $5,000 more in my bank account than when I left, because the sale went through because you know, there was leverage in this business and the system I was in. And so it was like I was on vacation, and I made $5,000. And it was like, That's it, I'm hooked for the rest of my life. No matter what I have to work, it's just something they pay the bills until I figure this all out. You know, I was an entrepreneur for life after that. And so that's where I started. And then again, it took that that business eventually one of the partners joined Scientology, and unfortunately, that whole business went away. And I found myself depressed. I broke my foot in five places I gained 40 pounds. I didn't I didn't have the business identity. I didn't have the bodybuilder identity. I was lost. I literally just wanted to end my life fetal position for weeks.

Brandon Handley 22:56
Yeah, let's pause on that for a second. Let's pause on the idea that getting caught up in our identity being what it is that we do.

David Sandercott 23:06
Yeah. Well, that's a big mistake. I encourage nobody, I always say at the beginning of my medication classes, you are not your job, you are not your socio economic standings. You are not what you do for a living.

Brandon Handley 23:18
So I mean, I guess you're sitting on the couch or in a fetal position, and you've lost your kind of sense of identity is what it sounds like. How did you how did you recover from that?

David Sandercott 23:27
Yeah. Well, so I did two things. You know, I got on my knees I surrendered my life to God, I asked for guidance. And I listened and and that was my all means the number one thing and that's that that's what guided me, right. That's what pulled me. The second thing is equal importance that I stopped being a victim, I stopped blaming the outside world, you know, that was part about it is that I had so many opportunities in my life to be in such a better position than I was. And instead of taking responsibility for it, I was blaming it blaming society and blaming other people. I was like, if you notice, one of the biggest trophies in the world right now is who's the biggest victim? I assure you that that is not the game you want to play for happiness and success. You know, it was it was taking responsibility for my all of my, you know, mess ups and life situation current circumstances.

Brandon Handley 24:25
Yeah, I mean, that's huge, right? When you can kind of recognize and I'm just kind of taking a leap here. But you can kind of recognize that all of your success or failure is coming from within, and it has nothing to do with what's outside of you. And when you do that, there's so much ownership, right? There's so much empowerment that comes from that because now you can be like, Oh, yeah, that was me. It wasn't me over here too. And, you know, these failures were me. But some of these successes, right? So you know, everything you know, is both both sides of the coin. Um, that's that's fantastic. So You know, we don't have a whole lot of time here, unfortunately but what you know you've got a course coming up right? What is the course called? What are you going to be teaching? What's it called?

David Sandercott 25:10
Yet would you 19th is its prosper but prosper prosper virtual event I'll be teaching prosperity consciousness, helping spiritual entrepreneurs, coaches healer to create the mindset, the prosperity consciousness to have their first $10,000 month the first 10k month.

Brandon Handley 25:28
Nice. Nice. And we'll share the link to that but the link is what again?

David Sandercott 25:38
Ah. I actually bought a URL just for it. But it's like David Sandler comm forward slash brought I

Brandon Handley 25:45
think, yeah, well, yeah,

David Sandercott 25:47
that's right. You can if you go to david Sandler, God calm That's right. It's right there.

Brandon Handley 25:51
Yeah, Paul's Frodo calm? I'll be sure to share that out. Right. And then, you know, this I told you before, this is kinda like a spiritual speed dating court like, right? And and the deal is, is like, there's 30 minutes, right? That's all we've got this, you know, somebody's gonna come on, and they're gonna decide whether or not they spiritual want to date David J. Sandra. So it's not a lot of time. And so one of the questions I'll ask is, is this one of our speed dating questions be? What does? What does it mean to live in the present moment? bachelor number one? Yeah. What

David Sandercott 26:24
does it mean to live in the present moment? Well, it means that if you're living in the present moment, you're going to be happy, fulfilled, and at peace, you're going to be okay, with the way everything is, no matter what you're going to be living your life consciously. And that's what we're here to do is to evolve our consciousness and the best way to evolve your consciousness is to be more conscious. And if you're living in the moment, you're being conscious,

Brandon Handley 26:53
elaborate on what you mean by conscious.

David Sandercott 26:56
Well, being conscious of your consciousness, there's, there's that which can observe yourself think. And there's the brain that can think there's a subject and an object. So keep your attention on that part of yourself that can observe yourself thinking, and really go one step more and observe the observer observing. It's all a play of consciousness, we is all a field of consciousness and and we are that consciousness. So it's, it's coming to know yourself. It's being conscious of the consciousness, and of as yourself as the consciousness.

Brandon Handley 27:35
Dave took us on a level guys like this to another level. there's a there's a great feeling when you become the observer to absolutely yeah,

David Sandercott 27:45
I always go like this. You say, I want to go like, this is where you want to live life from like three feet three feet back, you know, above yourself.

Brandon Handley 27:52
Yeah. Yeah. Well, dude, thank you so much. Again, David, for popping on, always enjoyed the conversation, you both of them. And we'll be sure to share this out. Is there anything that maybe we didn't touch on that you want to share out with the audience today?

David Sandercott 28:07
One quick thing, the last question you asked me, I remember the first time we did got me a little bit and it was like, What do you wish for the world? And it was like, you know,

Unknown Speaker 28:15
I didn't like my answer. I

David Sandercott 28:16
thought about it a little bit and what I would world is the exact same thing that I wished for me, you know, happiness, peace, prosperity and abundance in all areas of your life.

Brandon Handley 28:27
Yeah, yeah. No, that's, that's, that's great. That's funny. You remember the question? And I think that this is the part where some people get a little confused in the love thy neighbor as thyself kind of thing. Right? This has gotten me I look at it in the very same way, you know, so what you wish upon your neighbor is really what you're wishing upon yourself. And just in the same token, you just said, hey, what I wish on the world, what I wish upon myself, and when you do that, we look at the universe is kind of this force multiplier. What we put out comes back to us, I mean, right, so yeah, great answer. Thanks. Thanks for thanks for thanks for sharing that. And I definitely appreciate you being on. Yeah, I

David Sandercott 29:09
love it. Thanks for having me, Brandon.

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3 Spiritual practices that will improve your mental health

Published: June 5, 2021, 11:22 a.m.
Duration: 19 minutes 14 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:03
This mic seems to be the best one that I've been able to get my hands on. So we'll run with it. Not sure if it's picking up from just the phone or in the ears. But like I said, well, we're rolling it. And coming out of the BJJ report was funny. I think I've tried to spend my third time doing this episode. And this is simply because I haven't been able to get the sound quality to a place where I like it enough to be able to share it with you, right? Granted, I've certainly done some episodes where sound is less than, less than ideal. But and that's only because honestly, I do believe in the whole. Sometimes, you know, it's the message that is more important than the absolute delivery mechanism. And I don't think that I can reproduce x, y, z, I just don't do it again, or just let it go. Take that for what it's worth. And you really, you really do kind of only live once, and you only have one opportunity to kind of get some of these things out. And to that end, how do you get them out? And how, what are some ways, right? We've been talking a little bit about mental health, right? And how, what is something, you know, that everybody is challenged with these days in particular? All the time, really, I think it's always been under the surface, just never fully addressed. As matter of fact, I still recall, gentlemen, one of my first interviews, Jason, Jason's last name. Jason, I forget your last name right off the top of my head. Mackenzie, Mackenzie, and how he he had actually gone through a really tough situation in his life, where his beliefs wife and committed suicide. And how did he deal with that? And he, he wrote, some went through a period where he went from, call it from junk to monk to thought was great. He journaled and he shared this journal. And that he also wrote a book on how he went through that situation, what it what the toll was on his mental health. And he created a podcast about it, and whatever. So I only tell you that just just because I hadn't given it much credence myself, I hadn't directed much attention to it, either. And that's just where I was in life. I can't say it's right or wrong. I mean, really, it's all an all depends on where you are in your life. I mean, listen, if you're not impacted right now, by any mental health situations, do not discount it. Right. I think that's what the world has been telling us. over this past year and a half. You cannot discount that, that mental health. Especially if you are if you are somebody who let's say you tune into Tony about anybody really, if you're one of these peak performer type people, and if you if you really look at it, peak performer, I believe is in reference to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, right? When you have all your base needs. When you have all your base needs resolved, then you you no longer have to worry about all that shit that gives you that mental anguish, right? When you when you've got a house, when you've got a home when you've got someone to love and care for you, when you you can pay your bills and you can eat your food. That's all great. You know, those are all the base needs. If you don't have any one of those, then there's a good chance that that is foremost in your mind, that's top of mind for you. And that is eating up all of your cycles and therefore your mental health is that risk if there's uncertainty. If there's uncertainty in your life, then you are at risk of your mental health and today 1020 through mid 221

taught us that there is nothing certain nothing is certain. Something like a virus can come out of nowhere and knock the shit out of everything you've seen. Excuse me, and believe in. And that that's his, that's taken its toll on a lot of people, and where does it fit into and why bring that up on spiritual note. Because if you don't have a spiritual practice, if you don't have something to believe in, if you don't have a way to quiet the mind, get yourself still have a way, a healthy way to release some of whatever's dragging you down. Right, if you don't have a way to release it, because here's the deal, you don't know how all this shit is gonna work out. Again, especially in pandemic, so you have no idea how it's gonna pan out. So you spend your time worrying about it. Right? had somebody in a really great mastermind group, I'll call it a course of study that I'm in right now. And one of the gentlemen in there yesterday talking about how his family

Unknown Speaker 6:43
had been

Brandon Handley 6:45
great word warriors, you know, we're warriors. And not only did they worry, often, they had very vivid imaginations. Therefore, you know, use this imagination for worry. And you can create quite the scenario in your mind. And when you when you do that, you're actually creating chemicals within your own body that that are making, you know, you're flooding yourself with I don't know, what's the chemical that says, this all sucks adrenaline, right? cortisol, that make you make you on high end, high edge that are going to make you you know, just kind of, you're literally feeding yourself, chemicals in your body that are eating away at yourself, that over time, just cause massive damage to yourself. And that's, that's what happens if you don't have something kind of greater than yourself to believe in. And you don't have this capability to say, let go and let God right you don't have this capability to say or believe. And as this comes out of the mental models and Sreekumar Rao's book, the mental models to say this is a benevolent universe, and I am here for a reason. I am here for a purpose and the universe has my back do universe is benevolent one cares for me wouldn't have brought me here. If it didn't think that I was gonna have some fuckathon like yesterday, it's like taking your kids to a bouncy place you don't take them there because you you want to you want to make them miserable and put them through a bunch of shit. Yeah. And if we take if we take, we take the stance and the idea that again, God is our Father, God is our parent, the universe is benevolent creator, that put us here. I'm pretty sure they didn't put us here to go through a bunch of shit to realize how crappy This world is. Right? So if you can find it, in your mind, in your heart or anywhere you need to look for under the cushions of your couch. This idea and thought that let's start from the beginning that you are one in what is it? 400 trillion 400 trillion. Those are the odds one in 400 trillion of you being born. What are the odds? Right those are the eyes you've been born? If you think that you showed up here for no good reason. Then you know that's that's a mental model. Now if you think that you're here you've got a malevolent universe and that you are Here to be of service to help someone to help something to help a group. That's an you know, when you start thinking of that, and then you start thinking about this idea of Providence, and the idea of Providence, is that the universe typically provides you with whatever you need, like, almost almost like right at the time that you need it. Not not really before, you know, not really before, but almost right at the time that you need to, if you can look at like, all of the success stories, all of these stories, and in our past, where she didn't really happen for people to like, write this last second, it was right it, it was right at the zero hour, hour, 12th hour, that things came together and everything landed just as if almost like you couldn't have couldn't have, you couldn't have planned it that way. Right. It's this idea of linearity is a fucking joke. There are certainly Listen, there certainly plans in place, you know, their, their designs, and all this other stuff and ways that it's supposed to work. And then, you know, let's say it works that way, 25% of the time, right, then you've got some linearity.

But chances are, however, the bulk amount of these people were and are successful. Their story is one out of right one out of the countless billions that are on this planet right now. That what really happened was that they found something to believe in those greater than themselves. They found the dream, they were able to see a vision, and they were able to somehow some way, let go. And let you know, let it be sorted out by the universe. They were able to have the vision and say, I don't know how this is gonna happen. Like, I use a pandemic for a second, I don't know, how are we going to succeed succeed me, it's really to just get beyond that point that where you're at right now. Or set something in motion and get beyond it. So how we're gonna have success, and is pandemic still on No, still not over. And you can do your quote, unquote, part, whatever part you feel like that is you need to do, it's gonna make you feel asleep at night and let go of the rest. Right? Let go of the rest, just know that you're doing your best in the situation, according to what you know, at this point in time. That's all you can do and let it go, let that doubt, let that worry, fall to something greater than you maybe that maybe the thing you think is greater than you is, is the health care system. That's okay, if you let it go and let it go to the health care system, right, you can stop worrying about it now. For the rest of the world, you can stop worrying about what it means to the rest of the world to recover from this thing. And you can, you can breathe easier. And let go a little bit more. And we can let go of this hyper imaginative worry about all the things that are weighing you down and let it go to this, these things again, that are greater than you then it's a tremendous benefit to your mental well being mental health and a lot of people again, point to meditation as something that has been very beneficial for them. I only say this, that if you're in a shape, point your life where you're worried about everything closing your eyes, to think about it to try and clear your mind. Of all the things that are pissing you off and freaking out. That's not going to help. Right. I get that. However, that's not the point isn't necessarily to go and try and clear your mind through this forcible way like no no, no, no, not that. Not that. It's not that get all this out of my head. I'm freaking out man. The idea is to control something that you can't control. And where most people start you out where where you can start out, a couple of good places of where you can start out that are beneficial is your breathing. So what you'll do is you close your eyes and you just focus on your in breath and out breath. That's it, there's nothing else for you to do. And when you do that, you're not thinking about all the other shit. Right? It can, it can be that simple. That is also why breathwork has been, to me revolutionary, because this is kind of like a little bit more focused. Breathing, while my eyes are close, and, and there's other stuff that comes out of it. That can really just give you this heightened sense of being and whatever that means to you. Right. But I can just tell you gives you a heightened sense of being Wim Hof calls it getting high on your own supply. Separate, he says it was like this Dutch thing going on. And then he chuckles afterwards. It's funny because Dutch chuckles are fine. I'll tell you about that.

So, you know, if you're struggling, if you're having a tough time, these spiritual practices can be of benefit to you. And your mental well being, I challenge you, really to try one of these out on your own, seek others. There's another one called metta meditation, which is another really great one. Really, what that does is is kind of you well wish yourself, I suggest you look it up Google loving kindness, meditation, and give your give yourself some loving kindness and a meditation. If someone you love loving kindness, meditation gifts, someone you really don't know, right, like maybe the cashier at McDonald's today, whatever somebody you don't know, but you've seen got an image of them with loving kindness on them. And then finally, wishing, loving kindness on all sentient beings. And it's like everything living or alive or sending whatever that means to you. And the world, the universe, I like almost the universal mean, I say go bigger, go home. And the reason that was beneficial again, it takes your thoughts off of the things that are worrying you or bothering you. And also allows you to think of some other people and wish them well. You know, without judgment,

Unknown Speaker 17:58
think of

Brandon Handley 17:59
your mother, your wife, kids, you can think of your dog and wish them well. And, again, takes your mind off of the things that are bothering you. And making you kind of crazy. So I hope that you can take a look at these implement them in your life, you don't have to believe really in anything except for the miracle that you are and the fact that these are practices that are spiritually derived and can be a benefit to you. Cost is Zilch. For you to try this shit out. And if it works, and pastic if it doesn't move on, you know don't struggle with it. If it's not if you're like, you know this shit doesn't I should be should be working on why it's not working for me. That's not the point of this. The point of it is to try it out. That works. Cool. That doesn't. Okay. Don't worry about maybe Now's not the time move on and go try something else. So that is a that's it from spirits dope today. Hope you have a great day and we'll catch you later.

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Jeremy Todd | Author of The Positive Side

Published: May 30, 2021, 2:04 p.m.
Duration: 51 minutes 10 seconds

Always great to be able to chat with my good friend Jeremy Todd! Check out his new book "The Positive Side" as well as his latest FREE program to get you unstuck over at http://besthalfyear.com/

Brandon Handley 0:00
321 Hey there spiritual dope. I am on here today with my man, my man. Mr. The pauses. Mister, check out my book, Jeremy Todd Jeremy Todd is a motivational speaker. He is an influencer. He is a legend. Not only in his own mind, but in mine as well. I'm so excited to have Jeremy here. If you've been if you've been a longtime listener to me a and he followed me through three podcasting, another Jeremy's kind of a regular, but you you'll know that Jeremy was catching me I got to see like you were like the first. Right. The first and it's funny. We look all the way back to 2017, where neither one of us knew what the hell to do. And here we are like earlier just before this podcast got started. Well, I got upgraded Mike bargraph equipment. Yeah. Right. But super excited to have you on. But I always like to start this off with. And I think you've been on one of these already. But I'll ask again, you know, source speaks through us. Right. And there's a message that can only be delivered through you. Today, right now to to a to somebody listening to this podcast, what is that message?

Jeremy Todd 1:22
Well, you know, I mean that several ways I go with this, but what you know why you were talking? It just really made me think about you know, when you say four years ago, when we first we first met, and there was so much insert uncertainty with my life here live, what we're going to do, why are we doing this? Where's that going? The biggest message for me, and it's really coming through right now. And when we're having this conversation is that, you know, we just never really gave up, we just kind of kept going and there wasn't like, it was almost like we're pulled through to time to basically this point. And I don't know how to really put it in quantified in the words, but it's almost like taking your hands off the steering wheel and allowing things that just happen to watch your life. And good things happen. You know, it's like a, you know, a bad crypto reference. But I'm watching cryptocurrency recently in this going way, way up, it's gone way, way down. But consistently, it's going up. And that's really how I felt my life is it's been for the last three or four years, you haven't the, you know, splitting up with my with the mother of my children having that move in a couple different times. So you can get these big downs, but also you got the big ups. But if I look back now, where I am today versus where I was four years ago, it's a lot higher, it's a lot. It's a it's a better place, even though I had these major drops in my life. It's just weird how that goes. And you know, I talk about this all the time, and even on my show about really just just getting through it. It's not about hey, I need to figure this out right now, I need to figure out what I'm gonna do the rest of my life right now I need to get through this shitty time right now. And I really don't really have to get through anything right now. It's just you're meant to be in that point. Why? Who puts you there? I don't know. But it's part of the life that's part of the journey. It is sometimes it's good to be in those in those bad low points because it builds you up and makes you stronger, makes you harder and makes you you know, all around a better person learning from the tough experiences. But man, I get I guess I just you know, going on that random tangent right there. But I just I don't know, if I've ever been happier in my entire life than I am right now. I feel more blessed than I've ever felt in my entire life. And maybe it's because of, you know, some of the things that that have happened in my life recently, you know, but with writing the book, and I appreciate you mentioned that and getting some of the things off my chest with that book. It's very, very freeing. And it's, it's also it's been happening with actually who I truly am individually, like, like, this is who this is my weird quirkiness. This is who I am. In all these things. They've taken time and they've taken time, and they've got to this point, and who knows what's gonna happen in the next three or four years from now, but I feel like I'm being pulled through this situation. By I don't know, you know, I have been the universe the way it's supposed to be. I don't know the answer to that part of it. But I just really like the momentum. And I like the journey and it says it's been amazing the last three or four years. So I know that really answered your question, but that's really what I'm thinking about.

Brandon Handley 4:22
Trying to figure out this new new get new setup, right? I'm just trying to press the right buttons. It's awesome, right? I love the you know, you're saying you're kind of pulled through this kind of time and space to get to where you are today. And it really reminds me of of how mine started, right. And my kind of journey started because somebody said that exact line to me, right? I was like oh man, just, you know, the drink and sure and wanting to party and wanting to be this person that I had been for so long this identity that I assumed just kind of fell away. Yeah. Right. And he's like he goes you know, once you kind of know fall into the space you get

Jeremy Todd 5:02
what you while you're messing with the banging down there. But this is another thing popped in my head too when I was when you were when you mentioned that I listened to a podcast just before I got on and I'm driving around town and, and it was a Jocko willing podcast and he had Dakota, Dakota Meyer on his navy seals and he's telling me stories and one of the things he also mentioned was, you know how lucky he is to have a support group, and not a support group to where, you know, hey, I'm you know, I'm mad, and this is bullshit and have someone say, Yeah, you're right. or not, maybe the support groups more like, you're wrong, Jeremy, you're full of shit, you know, you're not right. And I'm like, Oh, yeah, well, maybe I need I need. I have people like that in my life. Like you like a like a Donnie title like Elise Archer, and I never had these people. You know, I've got friends in my life for a long, long time that have been lifelong friends. But what's helped me tremendously is having these people that I can pull from, and talk to and be 100% vulnerable and honest with them, Hey, I suck at this. This is where I need to help that this is where, you know, this is what's going through my mind right now, can you help, let's talk about these things. But the biggest thing about that and having those relationships is actually being not only honest with the other people that you're talking to you about being honest with yourself and checking the ego at the door and understanding it, the only way I'm going to really truly get out of the funk or truly get better is if I'm 100% authentic and 100% vulnerable with the person having the conversation with. And I've been very, very blessed over the last three or four years to have those people. And that's made a huge difference in my life, maybe more than anything, is to fall on that support group. The people from all around the country, I mean, how you said you're in Pennsylvania, and I'm in Indiana, and Danny's in Florida, you know, he leases and you know, she's in Georgia. I mean, we got people all over the country now in that's made a big impact for for me and my life. And the most important thing about it, again, is that I've taken action towards that I haven't just sat there and say, Oh, woe is me. I'm like, you know what, I'm gonna call these people, I'm gonna go reach out to them, and then tell them what I'm thinking. Because we can all sit in our worries and all around our doubts and our fears. And we can stay there forever. But until we actually reach out and say, You know what, I'm tired of this shit. This is not who I am. That's not my authentic self. I need I need help. And actually take action, get the help. That's what's made the biggest impact for me in my life as well. It's just the authenticity of who I truly am. And saying that, hey, I need help. I mean, that's one of the most powerful words in the world is when you tell somebody that, hey, I need your help, you know?

Brandon Handley 7:35
No, you're right. It's a, well, I want to kind of call attention to this idea that and you had them on, right, you had a PR rush on the idea of the full lifters. Right? It's not so much of getting this group around you have people that you're not it was I think there's a difference between like some people that you hang out with, and some people that support you, right, like, you've got the you've got this list of people that are supportive. And the I think they're calling you on your shit, they let you they let you kind of step in it, right? They let you you're like, Hey, this is what I'd like to go do. Yeah, if you're having a conversation with Elise, if you're having a conversation with Donnie, and you're like, Hey, this is this is, this is what I'm gonna go do. They say, you know, they might give you a gut check, they might ask you a couple questions. But in the end, they're gonna be like, well, if you feel like that's what you need to do to make this progress for who you are, and go for it. How can I support that? Like, what can I do to do you need introductions to somebody? Do you need? Do you need a brand bass? manager? Do you need any of that stuff? Right? Like, how can I help you? What, what is what is what do I have, that can help you to become who it is that you're looking to become? And I think that there's a difference between those people who are supportive, those are the people that we're talking about, versus people that you hang out with, because there's people that you hang out with, or just hang out with, or just hang out with. And those people like, you know, if I if I'm, if I'm sharing a couple pieces out of your book, right, like, some people that you might just hang out with would be the couple of people that like, you know, back in the day to smoke some weed. Like, they're just like, Hey, you know what, let's this is this is what we're doing today. Right? And then that's it, but those aren't the people that are going to be the ones that elevate you.

Jeremy Todd 9:28
Yeah, you know, it's funny, I asked a question on my podcast the other day of pretty who I was talking to, I was talking to the founder of brand builder, or Yeah, not brand builders. Doesn't matter. No, actually, that show will be out tomorrow. But I asked him, Do you still hang out with the people you grew up with? And you know, it's interesting when you ask successful people that like that, it's most of the time the answer is obviously is no. You know, and I don't hate on these people. They're their friends and they've, you've kind of developed who I was as a child which is made me who I am today. You know, I don't, I don't hold any grudges, or I'm not upset with them, it's just over life and different experiences, you become different types of people. And then you begin following you know, the the old Jim Rohn, you're the average of the five people you hang out with, you know, you start attracting different people with similar mindsets that, you know, I can't have conversations like you and I are gonna have, like we've always had, with, you know, my buddies in the old neighborhood, you know, it's just not gonna happen, because they just they don't see that they're not. You know, they're, they're not, I don't want to hidden let's say in the word they're not let me sit for a better way to phrase that they just maybe have to just keep using the word not, but they haven't experienced some of the things that I've experienced to be able to open their mind and allow the universe or your actual soul to be able to communicate one on one with that, with that, that energy and that power. And that really allows you to open up and that and pause or pause. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 11:03
that's totally right. So what allows for something like that?

Jeremy Todd 11:05
Well, you know, I think a lot of times, you know, and I don't want to get into too hardcore random stuff, but I think it's with diet, I think it's food, I think it's how you, how you meditation, it's really focused in on your mind, and like, understanding how powerful the mind really is. And I think when you you know, if you smoke cigarettes and drink seven days a week, and you're doing all kinds of crazy drugs, or, you know, the lists are just eating terribly, I think these things block the connection with you and your inner soul and your inner being. The more cloudiness that isn't, that is there. It's just like, it's almost like I see these people that are just going through life going through the motions, and they're not really connected to that source energy and, and to be honest, I don't know what that source energy is, either. I don't. It's hard for me to grasp my small mind around that. But I can feel that the energies when I walk into a room, I can feel that energy, a positive energy or a negative energy. And I say with my, my youngest daughter Moyo, my only daughter me, I think she's extremely clairvoyant, I think she, she can feel energies better than anyone I've ever met my entire life, we could walk into a buildings, just but data just don't the energy here, I'm like, Alright, let's go, you know, to be able to be in touch with that power that is, within all of us, is something that is number one, because a lot people don't understand it, don't even know that it's there. Which is, which is, which is a problem, I think, it's it's a problem with society and communication and, and growing as a as a one big, you know, as the population we all grow together. And I think that's a problem that slows the evolution and the growth of a society in general. But, you know, when I, when I go back and talk about my daughter, and she can just, she can look at somebody and say, you know, I that person, I really liked that person's energy. And

Brandon Handley 12:50
let me ask you this, right, like, and and did you feel maybe that it's has something to do with you fostering that in your child and not saying no, to her, her her being able to pick that energy up? Sure. So and I guess I'll take it a step further, is that is it that we all kind of have that innate connection, right? And instead of it being fostered in us, it was kind of like shunted away like, Hey, you know, what, you know, so I guess sounds like what you're doing, again, is you're, you're fostering that in your in your daughter, and you're allowing for her to explore these these gifts and this ability to not be fearful of connecting to we'll call it source, we'll call it like, anything like that, like her intuition. And saying, Yeah, you know, what is that? Tell me more versus you're just being correct.

Jeremy Todd 13:48
And that's the biggest thing you kind of hit the nail on the head with there is I don't, you know, it's only my kids know, I don't tell them that that's hardly really ever I tell them no, and I just ask more questions. But why do you want to do that? or Why? Or in the situation, my daughter? What does that feeling like? Like, somewhat? like random questions? Is it warm? Is it cold? What color is that energy? You know, and really let allowing her to her mind to really focus in on that and knowing that she's in a safe place that, you know, we don't she's she can have those conversations, like you said, Well, I think, you know, a lot of society today that gets that gets beat down. That's not something that's really focused on I think it's the most important thing to focus on, by far, but I think it gets blocked through, you know, maybe it's, I don't know, maybe it's bad diet, maybe it's too much technology, maybe it's not being connected to the earth as much as I think people should be. There's all kinds of things there. But you know, what it boils down to, it's just when those conversations happen, I don't I don't tell her No, or that's weird, or I don't understand. I just asked questions. Wow, that's amazing. Tell me more. How does it make you feel? What does that look like? You know, these look these random questions, and then she'll just and she just goes on and on and on. On on her mat, you can just see it like, it's really, really a little bizarre because it's not that she's, she's not making it up. You know, you can tell when your kids are making something up. But she is so detailed, that she just, she just knows it. And she, it's like she's, it's reality for her. It might be

Brandon Handley 15:24
real for everybody. what's what's on? Like, like I said most most is like, and we're saying most of society's like, she tries to shut that down, right? Or puts a fence up around that. What has given you the ability or the wherewithal desire to foster it versus just versus what the rest of society is doing?

Jeremy Todd 15:48
It's good question. It's, it's not a single thing. It's been many things. And we've talked about some of those ups and downs throughout my life. And you know, I've questioned, you know, you know, again, me being five foot 230 pounds soaking wet. Well, like what, you know, why am I? Why am I this height? Why am I this tall when I was, you know, I talked about in the book when I was sexually molested as a kid. Why did that happen? To me, it's not, and I truly look at it, it's not good. It's not bad. It's just an experience of my life that I've had to learn from becoming a minimalist was huge, not being attached to, you know, to physical items, not trying to compare myself to somebody else about their bigger house or big car. And because I just don't really care, I really deep down, I don't care. And if I really don't care about any of that, societal, I try and check the ego as much as I possibly can. What will if you clear all those layers away, what it really boils down to is, hi, how can I learn from you? How can I get better? How can I be a better friend, a better parent, I just want to get better. And I want and I'm genuinely interested in people, like I'm genuinely interested in learning about experiences and what their thoughts are and totally non judgmental. Like, that's the other thing. You know, I think in the society, we're so it's so built up to we're fighting against each other instead of listening to each other. And that's shared and celebrated this, this mob mentality, if you're not with us, you're against us. And that's, that's a major problem with society. And I think it's, but it's not easy to get to the point where I'm at either, because I've had these experiences throughout my life that have really kicked my egos ass and just say, you know, whoever, you're not the coolest guy in the block, you know, you're not the best looking guy in the block. But you know, what, what I feel like I do have is this just just curiosity about life, and curiosity and people of how do we connect on a different level, I will never judge you. I will never, I'll never say anything hurtful to you. And if I do, it's unintentional. But I just want to learn and I want to get better. And I want to know what's after life. And I know want to know, I want to learn from different religions and what they believe and take all of this stuff together and just kind of live in the information. And that's what I always say, I don't know, what's what's, you know, what's going to happen next. I don't know what's life after death. I just want to live in all the information and just experience.

Brandon Handley 18:18
Let me let me jump in. Right. So I think one of the one of the one of the things I'm challenged by maybe you can help me here is, you know, here's where we are today, right? This is, that's where you are today because of your experiences. How you know, if you had to talk to somebody where they are right now, you know, maybe yourself, you know, four years ago or five years ago? What's that? What's that conversation look like? And how is that different? Right? How can you impart some wisdom to somebody where they are now along the journey what would you say

Jeremy Todd 18:50
the biggest thing and the one of the one of the most important things that I've really worked on is my is listening. And and I know it sounds so basic and so you know just what he had, of course you're gonna listen but before I was always listening to the person planning my response, and not even taking in and learning from the actual conversation because I would my ego was just so like, well I already know the answer to that I already know what's going on I want to give you my opinion and not even fully hear the question So as I've in the last few years I've just really I've just more sat on the sidelines and just watched and listened and listened and then ask more questions. Because if I if I if I focus on me if I focus on what you know how its explained this a little better it's it's I'm not trying to win in any situation I'm trying to learn from the other person and and really experienced that their life and in just listen in like manner. How did they get to this point? How do what can they teach me how to how do I get better and then I'm, I'm really this The other thing too Which is, I think it's important to I'm blown away with people's stories. When people think their story is not important, it's because you haven't found the right person that's actually listening to what, what you have to say, I think we are so tied into what we think society wants to hear, hear us say, we just tell people, whatever they want to hear instead of who we truly are as individuals. And I think when you start asking different, like different questions to people that they've never been asked before, it's it's amazing how people just start opening up and telling you, they're all all these goals and dreams that they have that they've maybe never told anybody. And they feel so much better with the conversation, I feel so much better the conversation. But it all started with really, truly being interested in the other person. And checking the ego and just listening and being fascinated with their story. Because everyone has an amazing story. We're just told and that our stories like everyone else's, and it's not, it's completely different. And I love listening to people and love hearing their stories. And the more you listen, truly listen, you learn so much faster. And I've learned more about listening the last in my life in the last three or four years, I probably did my entire life. Because Yeah, it's important.

Brandon Handley 21:19
The idea of Yeah, I heard it recently. And it was Bob Proctor. So my guy, right, like, turn them off a little bit, and you jump back in again, and you listen, you know, you hear with your ears, but you listen with your heart. Right. I thought that was pretty powerful line. And then, um, you know, outside of my story, which ones had the most like impact on you over the past couple years?

Jeremy Todd 21:51
repeat that, quote, repeat the question again, like, outside of what now,

Brandon Handley 21:54
outside of my story. Which one? Which one, which one you think like, over the past four years has really motivated you or had the greatest impact on you?

Jeremy Todd 22:06
You know, there's been a lot of stories and a lot of people that have impacted me tremendously. And you know, it's just so fun because some people push me because I'm selfish, a little jealous. Like I, I, I see my friends like, like, and again, it's just it's the ego talking again. But, you know, I see guys, like, you know, like Donnie Tuttle loved on me. You know, Donnie, and I were in a coaching company together and quit cold turkey. And he's making enemies just making great money and changing lives. And it's huge. And in what that does for me, and I want all of us to go to the bank together. I all want us to be successful all I want all of us to change our lives. But he motivates me. He is very humbling. He's very open. His story is pretty powerful. I don't want to get into like some of the other stuff that he that he struggled with, but but he begin those conversations that we have off the mic and that and outside that it makes us both better. It has really, really changed my life. You know, it's funny, this something small recently happened to me last week, and I was I applied for a TED talk here in Fort Wayne. And I got turned down. So I'm, I was I think I'm more excited that I got turned down, then I got accepted. Because it gives me this, like, you know what, a few pals. You don't say this, like this. That's what I needed to prove to myself, but I'm on the right path. Because that if you can't accept me in my own hometown, to speak a TED talk, because I got a TED talk. I think it's on my vision board. And I want to get that done. But for them to turn me down. that inspires me as well. Because it's just it's, it's, it's almost like the University in here. Jeremy, I know you wouldn't be on on do this sets off, but you're not quite ready yet. And like, you know what, maybe I'm not a dog. I'm gonna keep fighting. I'm gonna keep doing I'm not gonna quit. That's, that's, you know, those two stories are completely different. But really that that that TEDx getting turned down from that made a really big impact on me recently. Because, you know, it's just like, it's almost like the universe politely saying, Jeremy, you're not good enough. Still. Like, you know what? That's cool, man. I'm not giving up yet.

Brandon Handley 24:26
Right? I would look at it maybe a little bit differently. Right. I would look at it maybe as in shit. At least they emailed me back. They know who I am. For sure. I would look at it as kind of like evidence of things to come. Right. Like they My name is already. You don't know that. You don't know that in two weeks, whoever they they've already accepted. falls out. And then then maybe I'll check out this positive side guy. Yeah, maybe. Maybe. And Todd. And yeah, look, Danny's story is just so great because it's so So real, it's genuine, right? There's nothing fake about how he got to where he is. And there's no smoke and mirrors. There's any everything done for the right reasons. I just love it. Right.

Jeremy Todd 25:14
Yeah, you know, it's one of those guys that I call a friend, you know, a true friend. And you know, you know, you are a true friend of mine. Dan is a true friend of mine. Lisa is a true friend of mine. I mean, I've got it's just beautiful as all these people are so beautifully authentic. And in it for the right reasons. Like they, you know, we're doing this because we love what we do. And we're changing lives not fake. We're not doing this to get become billionaires. I mean, there's a lot of other ways we could do that. But

Brandon Handley 25:43
a lot faster. Yeah, for sure. Initially, I was right. Like, I wasn't in it for the right reasons in the beginning, and but that's all part of my journey. Right. And I love it. I love it. I love I love that that's been part of the journey. You've mentioned the universe, and you've mentioned kind of like, you know, spirit and energy, you know, and it's been maybe a year since we kind of talked last word, what's your stance these days? Man? What do we got? We've got a grand architect is what is what is fear? And how's it working through you and for you to you these days?

Jeremy Todd 26:17
You know, it's, it's, it's very interesting asset. Because I think about it, I literally think about it every day. And it's weird like it, you know, when I was born and raised Catholic, so, you know, sometimes when I felt I found comfort when going through my 20s and early 30s, of praying at night praying to, to a God that, that, you know, the white bearded guy. And you know, as that kind of evolved, and I kind of got away from all aspects of really, of any, any sort any, any kind of like a structure and religion completely gone out of that. I go back to, like, even like, like last week, two weeks ago, I thought I caught myself, like praying again, which is really weird. But it's not praying to the same God. It's praying to this all knowing power of energy, whatever that is, and I still don't know what it is. I don't there's something there's got to be something there. And I don't know if it's I don't know, man. I why,

Brandon Handley 27:25
why Why? Why is there got to be something there, right? I mean,

Jeremy Todd 27:28
I don't know. Yeah, you know, you know, I had a guy on there talking about a few weeks ago, and he's got something retreats, the whole retreats. And you know, he specializes in suicide. And I asked him and I asked him, his Is there life after death? Is there a god? And he said, unequivocally 100% Yes. And as you'd go through these different journeys of these mind altering experiences, you see that how much more is actually out there and we live you know, in this one dimension of of whatever my my quote unquote reality is, however, when you take mind altering drugs, you realize that there are so much more going on within the brain within this universe within this realm. Again, it goes back to it's just so gigantic, like how do I even comprehend that and I you know, not to go on Tinder, but even like space and time continuance, you know, there's, there's theories of you know, every black hole has a million other galaxies and universes with a million other black holes in them that continues to go on forever and ever infinity. And then you know, the multi universe thing where exactly what we're doing right now is happening on another planet. A billion trillion miles away on some random planet that's very close to ours. But maybe it's my podcast called the spiritual spiritual open near the positive side guy. Yeah, yeah, but there's just there's just all these things that I think about and I'm like, Well, is there one all mighty power being that is running all of this? The universe is from billions and billions of galaxies away?

Brandon Handley 29:02
I can't read something outside Do you think it's something outside of you?

Jeremy Todd 29:07
I don't know. Maybe not. Maybe Maybe that maybe that maybe that is the maybe that is one of those but I I just when I look at how massive everything is and with the universities and space and galaxies like how can there be one all power being for everything? Is this the only unit is this the only I guess universe that we are is there's your multi universes is there different things going I don't I can't grasp my I can't grasp that concept. So I don't and then that's why I live in this like study of just listening to things feed trusting my gut when things are going well. I feel like there's like that little energy that is above me of powerful me but like you said, maybe it is me itself. Maybe I am that it Eternal energy I just had, it's just a lot to think about. And I don't try and even claim that I know what the hell's going on. I just, but I listened to everybody and understand that I'm not smart enough, I don't know enough to be able to make that decision to decipher that set makes any sense at all. It's so big to you. It's

Brandon Handley 30:22
fair, it is big. And it is a lot. I mean, look, that's the that's the gist of this podcast, right? How do you? How do you kind of once you once you come in contact with that source, right, you felt that you like, and it's like now now that you're here, right? You know, had Krista on the podcast, and her podcast title was I'm awake. So now what? Right? I'm like, God, what a perfect podcast name. But yeah, so you're awake. Now? What? How do you incorporate this newfound levels spirituality? Or re connected with your spirituality and your like? Because I mean, conversation earlier, you're talking about like, you don't need anything, you don't need XYZ, you're detached from the necessary, you know, all these things. Right? Well, what's the keep you Jeremy from just, you know, rolling out and coming a monk at this point, right?

Jeremy Todd 31:17
Well, yeah. You know, I don't know, I know what you were talking about that to what I was kind of thinking about is, you know, it's interesting, when when I think about this, this energy or whatever, this, this higher power sources, it's interesting, because it's not always there all the time. So, you know, I'll go through days where I'm just going through the motions, it's normal day, and I'm just a normal person living through let me ask

Brandon Handley 31:39
you this, I'm gonna I'm gonna jump in. Right. Yeah. Is it? Is it that it's not always there? Or is that you're not always aware of it?

Jeremy Todd 31:47
I'm not always aware of it.

Brandon Handley 31:48
100%? Because I would have to say, I mean, this is this has been my experience, right? I would have to say that it's always there. It's, it's kind of up to us to tune into it. Right. It's like we're driving around, you're driving around. You turned into a podcast earlier. Yeah. You turned into you know, Satan, same thing. You're like, you know, what happens if I tuned in and soars right now? What source? What source up to?

Jeremy Todd 32:08
Yeah, exactly. And that's what's it's just very interesting, because, and I agree with you, the source is always there. However, it's it's am I tuned in Am I not tuned in and, you know, it's, it's like the typical person, a lot of typical, but, you know, when times are really, really good, you're like, man, Hey, thank you source energy, this is all good. When times are really really shitty, you're like, Oh, my God, I need your help. And then every once in a while, in the middle, it's like, you know, I'm just gonna check in here and there. But that's one thing I'd like to work on is just as really be, you know, just get better just can be more present, be more in tune with the with that energy and understand that it's always there. Things are happening. It's just, you know, hey, I'm just an average Joe just trying to get through it and working my way through this complicated mental test that I always think about. And I wouldn't have it any other way. I mean, I really want it because I just find these conversations fascinating. And that just allows you to be needed to remind yourself and think bigger and think. And just really think I mean, that's what I really enjoy

Brandon Handley 33:08
about that. Right? Let's talk about that for a second. Because you are having an impact, right, regardless of whether or not you feel like you're driving it through, you know, spirituality or some other way, for the, for the purpose of this podcast, you are driving it spirituality, you know, through a spiritual sense, you know, what kind of impact or you feel like you're having out there in the world today?

Jeremy Todd 33:30
You know, that's, it's a great question, because it allows it, you know, the first answer is, I don't know, it's just, it's an ego, like, you know, I know, I'm making a big impact out there, you know, and you got to give yourself permission to say that you are making a big difference. And it's okay. You know, I mean, it's okay to say that, and I've worked really, really hard on that. Because, you know, you and I had a conversation about two years ago, that made a big impact on my life. And this is very similar what we're talking about here and that question, because, you know, we talked about how I use, I use when I want to go to Chipotle, I've been there forever. And I always I always buy the person behind me launch. And that when I run out before they could actually get now acknowledge that, you know, bottom lunch, because I wasn't accepting that, that time of gratitude. Like it's okay. To have someone thank you for that. You know, and so when you ask a question like that, it just makes me go right back to that question that you asked, you asked me. So that's made a huge impact on my life. And I've actually tried to share that story about 1000 times because it's, it's so right, man, it's so right. So if I go back to the question in my what what kind of impact my making I'm thinking I truly make? I think I'm making a gigantic impact. And it is it's it's not numbers wise, you know, and I'm not trying to say I'm making a billions and billions of people changing all their lives, but the lives that I'm changing are gigantic. I had, you know, I get emails, you know, once twice a week that just say, you know, Jeremy I found your podcast, I tried to commit suicide three weeks ago, and I didn't know what I was gonna do I, luckily, I didn't go, I didn't succeed at doing that. And then I stumbled across your podcast, then how it's made such a big impact in my life in such a short amount of time. So when you talk about making an impact with that person, that that one person's life, and I know, there's more out there, and you know, I've got stories and emails, which I still save, because it makes it makes me feel good. But that one person? I mean, is that person going to have a, you know, another, it was younger person, I think, mid 20s? Maybe that

Brandon Handley 35:34
person worth it? That's worth it. All right. So it's all worth it, though. It's funny, because he says, you know, you don't feel like you're touching maybe billions or millions. But if you think about it, right, throughout the course of at least four years now, you know, with each person that you that listens, you know, throughout the past, you know, of course of four years, how many people have they talked to and interacted with and that network kind of the year that the multiplier effect over over time? I'll bet you by now, you know, you've you've impacted at least a billion.

Jeremy Todd 36:09
Yeah, yeah. And that's a good point, too. Because you know, it You never know, the whole butterfly effect and how it's affecting people down the down the road. And like, you've said, that young lady reached out to me, man, I mean, who's to say she has a, you know, a beautiful family has a couple of kids after that, and then changed her life? And has these kids like, what changed the world? You know, for sure.

Brandon Handley 36:26
You just never know, the change in the world. Right? Like, I mean, yeah, no, you don't know. So you know, if we're, if we're talking about somebody or something, and I got to imagine that, at a certain point, you kind of you were pulled through, like your insides, right for gut feeling to do your podcast, right? You were pulled to you know, you're like, I gotta get on the mic. Yeah, right. Um, what do you think is part of that? What drove that?

Jeremy Todd 36:54
It was really the I mean, it was the the opportunity to make an impact. I just, I'm a firm believer that we all have this message, we all have this message in, I have been blessed with the gift of gab, to tell my stories, and be 100% authentic, to allow people that have going through the same things that have gone through the same things to say, hey, it's okay that I went through these things. And you know, I talked about it one on one. I'm not trying to do a cheap blog, but in the book, I talk about, you know, me when I was a younger, yeah, that's right. Getting getting molested from a friend, you know, and there are so many people that this has probably happened to that, that have lived with this. Now, when I put the book out, and I had even another family member reached out and said, this is completely different situation. But she said she went to the same exact thing. I have been blessed with the gift of gab, and I've been blessed with the confidence and the, I don't know, if you want to call it arrogance than to say that I don't, I just don't give a shit what anybody else thinks about me. I truly don't I truly don't give a shit. If that's true, and I know this ability, that God higher being, whatever you want to say, has given me this opportunity, if I don't take advantage of it, what impact what negative impact would that it made on the world and the lives that I should have changed that never did? You know, it's like the where's the most successful place in the world, it's, you know, the the cemetery because we all we die with these ideas in our in our mind and never put them out there. And I wasn't going to allow that to happen. The podcast started out originally just you know, I knew that this message would need to get out. But over time, like everything is chatting a little bit more authentic, a little bit more real and the lives that has changed and are getting bigger and making a bigger impact. And but it's I was given a gift and and i'm using the gift to share the message man and you know, I friends, I'm sure you have said the same thing that you've had people tell you what are you doing? You know, why would you do that? This is stupid doesn't make any sense? Are you making any money? That was?

Brandon Handley 39:05
Absolutely that those are a couple of the next questions. Right. So you know that the next question really comes from you know, you've got these naysayers, right? You've got these people that are doing the Kukui crap, right? The the people that are you know, you're you're in there and they're trying to pull you back down. But you move move ahead. Anyways, there has to be a little bit of fear and trepidation and that you want to talk about getting through that.

Jeremy Todd 39:33
I had a lot of fear. I was, you know, a lot of it was just anger. It was, you know, it showed me that and this was partially mostly my fault as well that people didn't really know who I was. people's opinion and thoughts of me was not reality of actually who I truly was as an individual because I I played to society. You know, I was like, everyone Yes, I did. You know, I had the nice cars, I had the big house, I did all the, you know, I would partying all the time with all these random people that you look back and they're still doing it. And that's, um, but that was never me. That was never who I truly was. So, and I, you know, I don't want to say use the word blame, because that's that's saying that there's a negative connotation to that, but it was my fault that I wasn't really being who I actually was.

Brandon Handley 40:24
You were you. You were, was it true, then you maybe had a little bit of victim mentality?

Jeremy Todd 40:32
Yeah, for sure. I mean, you know, if you go there with with, with my height, and you know, some of the personal stuff I went through 100% Yeah. 100% and,

Brandon Handley 40:40
and just just so what is victim mentality, then? What's that mean?

Jeremy Todd 40:44
Well, for me, it was like, it was why I've been screwed, because I'm the short guy. So I'm gonna overcompensate and try and try and prove to other people that I'm, I'm just as cool as you are, quote, unquote, cool as you are, even though I'm five, two, and, you know, I've got a, you know, a bonus shoe as well. And I've got all these other issues. But, you know, it was almost like I was I had to prove to others and not prove to myself that I was worthy. And that that was a cyst or something, you know, I probably still struggle they can relate to it just said that out loud. That makes a lot of sense to me. Now that I just said that out loud that I, I tried to prove to others who I was, instead of proving to myself who I actually was, you know, and I think when I accepted that, and really, man, hey, I'm, I'm 40. I'll be 43 here a couple months. I probably haven't accepted that. And so I was probably 3849. You know, but that's my journey. You know, it's that's how long it took me. It's not right, wrong or indifferent. But that's how long it's taking me to get to this point now in my life that I just, I'm happy with who I am.

Brandon Handley 41:47
I gotta wonder sometimes if that's just not the natural evolution, you know, that's when it's supposed to happen. Yeah, it's as I was listening to something the other day, and I forget exactly what it was. But like, you know, you can't rush that kind of thing. Right? You can't force it. Yeah. Right. And, and you can't time it, but you can get pretty close to the time. Yeah. So then the, give me a spiritual dope, right? So give me an idea of what's a hit of like, kind of spiritual dope for you.

Jeremy Todd 42:21
What is a hit for spiritual dope from

Brandon Handley 42:24
so you know, spiritual dope is like, you know, just when you're feeling connected to source, right, so what's one of your hits?

Jeremy Todd 42:30
By far, this is the one that most I love this time of year. I mean, yeah, this time of year, and reason being is when I can walk outside, and I can walk their feet barefoot in my backyard. And I can be 100% connected to what would actually connected to nothing, you know, but connected to myself, and then the planet and the birds and the bees and the flowers in the wind. And that, that, that, you know, you get euphoric. I mean, I get chills just thinking about it. Because that's, that's what life really is. That's like, that's like the basis of, of reality of life. And when you walk back into the house, or walk back, get back into the car, it's like, you're right back into society, and you're like, it's just a different world. You know, years ago, when I was in California, were the greatest things I did. And I'll never forget this as I watched the sunset, for 30 straight days in California. And I would go out on this little bench and there was, you know, the sunset was set over this, this like little valley. And, you know, I'd always look at all the different colors and all that, and just how beautiful it was. And I would sit there meditate, or just take deep breaths in breaths out and be present in that time. That's when you know, like, spiritual dope, that's about the biggest hit of spiritual nobody could possibly have is because that's, that's when you know, things are bigger than you. And, and I just feel so much better. I feel like I just have so much more energy and so much more meaning to live. And this is why I'm here and I need to enjoy this. And so the springtime and you get to the winter of gray and everything like that. It's terrible to the winter, and even today, we're a couple inches of snow, which is terrible in April. But next week 70 it'll be 70 degrees on Monday, and I take that time like what I said outside and just listen to the birds and the wind and just be at peace and it's the best thing in the world for me.

Brandon Handley 44:23
I love it man connecting with nature,

Jeremy Todd 44:24
right? Absolutely, the most important thing I can do.

Brandon Handley 44:27
So something's gonna happen. This didn't happen today. But I'm gonna do a little bit of conversion on this podcast. I'm gonna shorten it a little bit. And I'm gonna turn it into a little bit more of kind of like a spiritual speed dating Jeremy like, you know, somebody who's kind of speed dating Jeremy Todd today listening to podcast and they're like, Am I spiritually attracted to Jeremy Todd, right. So I think I'm gonna ask you like one or two like these kind of random questions that are it's actually 20 questions that came up and like, talking to, you know, some of the top 100 spiritual people, right can, you know, let's take one segment of the easier ones? Um, what is wisdom? And how do we gain it?

Jeremy Todd 45:10
What is wisdom? And how do we get it? You know, I think, for me, wisdom is it's the it's the tough times, but it's not the tough times. It's how you react to the tough times. Because I, I, you know, it's kind of like the deal failure question that I asked on my on my show as well. But wisdom has. I've been through so many tough times, you know, so I look back. And now when tough times happen, I reflect back on how I react in that situation. And I'm like, Well, you know, I learned so much from that situation that I'm not going to react is one of the strongest things I do is when there's turmoil, and when there's aggression and arguing, and I am the the calmest guy in the room. I just sit there and I'm patient. Because I've learned that when you when you the first reaction you have in a situation like that is usually the wrong one is coming from a place of where Wait, wait, wait, wait, the

Brandon Handley 46:02
first reaction is not the best one.

Jeremy Todd 46:04
Yeah, correct. Yeah, for me, it's 100%. For me, it's not. And but but that takes that's that takes time. That takes wisdom because I've been down that road where I've made these decisions, where it's just a snap decision. Like, man, I shouldn't have said that. I've, I've learned how to sit back and relax. How'd you how'd you learn to cultivate that? It was really through breathing. And that's been the biggest thing for me. And you know, when when, when you're in that situation, you feel like time's going by a million miles an hour, I've learned to just kind of sit back, take two or three deep breaths. And it just allows your brain to reset and what's kind of wild, whatever, which I love is,

Brandon Handley 46:41
is there any kind of just, I mean, is there any kind of certain breath that that is right? Like, I mean, can you illustrate that for somebody that might be looking to figure it out, for me,

Jeremy Todd 46:49
it's easy, it's just through the nose, I mean, because there's so many other pathways through the nose that it allows your brain to to absorb the oxygen a little bit different than it is to your mouth, and through your lungs. So it's very, very slow. And then I always pause, send them out through the mouth. And then it's a shorter breath as well through the nose. And it just allows you to gain composure. And and what's been amazing about that, too, is that allows the other person that has been super aggressive, almost kind of pause. And then you can almost see gears start changing with other people. It's, it's beautiful to see. But I do that with my kids. I do that with, you know, relatives, to get an argument with, I'm just, I'm not calm, cool. Like the guy just I just don't get upset anymore. I don't you won't catch me raising my voice you won't catch me yelling at anybody. Because I just sit back, relax, take that deep breath and then ask questions.

Brandon Handley 47:46
I love it. What, um, what are you up to man? What's next? What's up? So, you know, where should people kind of go and connect with Jeremy Todd?

Jeremy Todd 47:54
Well, you know, I'm really focused on my YouTube channel. I've got 175 people there. And I put a lot of videos up there, I put all the podcasts, put the money motivation on there, that's super important. Instagram has been great for me as well. And, you know, the biggest thing for me is I've signed there's been a few people that have come on to the, to the coaching program recently. And, you know, it's interesting, and I always tell the clients that come on, hey, this is all mindset coaching. And I know there's all kinds of different labels for coaching and that's something I always struggle with like, Am I a sales coach, I'm am I you know, you know, they're all the other cliche words for coaching and then some, I think it waters it down a lot but I think as overtime that when you listen to the podcast and you know how focus I'm mind setting in gaining this knowledge that people have started reaching really reaching out to me working on one on one with me, and it's been a salad changed my life, but to change other people's lives as well in you know, down the future, I just decided to work with more people. That's always fun. So you can always find me on YouTube and Instagram and you know, LinkedIn and all the other places. But I think one on one is probably the best, you know, shoot, you know, shoot me an email Jeremy at Jeremy Todd calm and you've got questions. Hopefully I got the answers.

Brandon Handley 49:08
And we're new Where can I find your podcast?

Jeremy Todd 49:11
I'm everywhere. You know, iTunes, Stitcher, Pandora is but actually been great. I've been I've had five or six people in the last few weeks, reach out to me and say, I found your podcast on Pandora. So it's just search and Jeremy, you'll be able to find me really, really quickly. Also on on iTunes, you can find me quickly there. But also, you know, keep in mind on my Facebook page, I put all the videos up there. You'll be up there here in about a week or so is to be great. And then on YouTube, but all the interviews on YouTube as well. So some people you know, it's depends how you take in things that are your audio and will listen to you what are you going to actually watch it? There's several different ways to catch the podcast as well now, but it's going better now than it's ever been. And I'm just excited about the future.

Brandon Handley 49:51
I think I think that's fantastic. I think what you're what you're illustrating is is persistence and passion in action. Right? You know, you've decided to, to, to, to continue with this thing. And what I love is that you've continued it throughout the quote unquote bad times. Right? Yeah, the tough times. And they say that that's kind of where the character shows up the character, the character of a man, or a person doesn't show up in as much in the good times as it does the bad times 100%. So I appreciate that you've been able to maintain the podcast, continue to look for the positive elements. And from my from my perspective, positive doesn't mean like, Hey, this is all sunshine and roses. Positive means how do we make progress from this point that we're at today? Right. So I appreciate you leading the way I appreciate your friendship overall, all these years and not just being able to have these conversations and I'm really proud of you but for getting your book out the positive side, how I overcame bullying, bankruptcy and a bad attitude. My true identity. Brother, thanks so much for being nice. I appreciate you, brother.

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Those that came before the Pride Parade

Published: May 29, 2021, 12:10 a.m.
Duration: 18 minutes 7 seconds

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are, yeah, we're still driving in the car. Still trying a different headset. And just looking for the right one. So that I again, you know, maybe I just need a Rolls Royce. So that one I'm driving. It's just no background noise and it's probably got the best microphone ever. Anyways, I am leaving BJJ you can tell by the sound of the road. The thought that I was having today is we've been talking mental health. And I believe that's super important. Right? That's something that we always need to be keeping top of mind.

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But we're also rolling into Pride Month, which, you know, started with I don't know the history of it, but I know that it's got a lot of gay pride, LGBT, LGBTQ. And if you haven't heard this story yet, you know, I like to start my day off going to BJJ and, and getting choked, right? Maybe, maybe not getting choked on purpose. But like, when we're learning it and then defending against the choke, I mean, the it's a big part about BJJ is just that, right? And I go when, and it's something that I'm looking to have happen for me throughout the whole situation, because that is the intent, right? pacify

Unknown Speaker 1:54
your

Unknown Speaker 1:54
opponent, your partner, so that the fight ends is so just right, you don't really

Unknown Speaker 2:01
not trying to hurt anybody.

Unknown Speaker 2:03
You're trying to eliminate risk to your own body. And by choking somebody knocking him unconscious, you essentially do that. Now. It's just because that's how I like to start my day doesn't mean that everyone likes to be choked. For

Unknown Speaker 2:23
example,

Unknown Speaker 2:25
I don't know about you, if you've ever been yelling, if you've ever been in this situation, then you may already know what it's like. If you were raised in a family where there may have been domestic abuse you know, so catching your your mother being choked when you're a youth, right? What do you do? And how can you know, what can you do to prevent that? And, or, you know, what can you do to help him or her out? Right? Like it doesn't have to be the mother if perhaps you see your father getting choked. And you see somebody in this situation. And for me, I think I was about about 10 years old. I've been out side I think was like a spring out in Northern California. up by the Russian River, beautiful vintner company or violence, right? But being up in the Napa Valley, and I had been playing outside and we were living with no, my mom's boyfriend at the time, and kind of walking inside. And she is there fighting. And immediately your heart starts to raise adrenaline starts pumping you don't know what the fuck is going on. And she's, she's struggling as you know, cowboy cable installer is strangling my mom, this guy's name is Rex. And I like what's wrong. And she, she she's kind of shouts out, you know, go get help. So, like, early in the morning, what's I don't know how early I was. But so I run out the door. And I run over to our neighbor's house. guys name is Brad. This is the 80s and Brad has just frosted, you know, hair and a knock on the door. banging on the door. He jumps out of bed. So I remember him being you know, like naked and having to put clothes on. like Brad said, you know, my mom's getting strangled.

Unknown Speaker 4:51
And, uh, you know,

Unknown Speaker 4:52
he comes, you know, comes running out, comes running and he gets over to the house and he breaks it up brings up this fight. And the thing is, you know, so if you haven't already figured it out, you know, we're in Northern California, straight north of San Francisco by a couple hour, maybe not, maybe not an hour. Not that far, I don't know. restroom River and the community that we're living in is predominantly gay. And this is 1986 1987. And you Brad, you put his life out on a limb, so that he could save my my 10 year old. So fairly impressionable, right fairly impressionable to see this person act courageously, regardless of you know, who he slept with, and it always boggled my mind, you know, I think that I had, I call it the luxury of being exposed. I had the luxury of being exposed to that. Growing up, I had the luxury of being exposed to gay people wasn't, you know, just gays, I still remember. My mom had a friend of hers named Pete PD, and lesbian coming over and staying with us for a while. And other other apartments, same, same area. And, you know, wasn't even just that I'll throw in, you know, biracial couples that, you know,

Unknown Speaker 6:41
that

Unknown Speaker 6:42
you saw, and he didn't think anything of it. So, for me, I had this luxury of seeing this and not thinking any differently about it. Pretty much my entire life. Not to mention again, you know, seeing a store is always going to default back to Hey, I remember, you know, when this gay guy, and again, it doesn't, it's kind of annoying to even have to call it out that way. Because, like, aren't we all just a bunch of people? And if you're not having sex with me, then I don't give a shit who you're having sex with? I mean, it's that's kind of how I mean, you know, that's always kind of been my, my, my thing what, why does it matter? What what happens? Why do people care? Something that again, just always kind of, always boggled my mind. You know, it was always entertaining to go to a gay club, or, you know, a place where it was predominantly gay dudes, and, you know, they, it always made me feel like a woman would feel right. It's always, always, always kind of interesting, because, guys, when they're kind of in the heat of the moment, drinking and just not wanting to take no for an answer to just like, kind of, like, don't stop like that these. We are like these running, you know, deer or, you know, just, it's like the season. And you're like, holy shit, I got to get out of here. So I'm always have some sympathy for some women, especially if you put yourself in that situation. And just don't. It doesn't matter though. Like, you know, when you do that, it's like, somebody coming on to you, somebody coming on to you. It's always it's never like, Well, you know, sometimes it can be overbearing, it's rarely not taken as a compliment.

Unknown Speaker 8:47
Right? In my mind, anyways, and again, that could do with how I grew up with what I was exposed to with how I was raised. But as we walk into, you know, Gay Pride Month or Pride Month, I know what it's called, but I know that I know that it's coming up. And I know that it's supposed to, and it does, right, talking to this other gentleman,

Unknown Speaker 9:11
who,

Unknown Speaker 9:12
you know, he came out 30 years ago, which would be

Unknown Speaker 9:17
1980s.

Unknown Speaker 9:19
And to come out then to tell people that you felt the way that you did that you appreciated as a matter of fact, you you prefer the same sex versus the opposite sex made you kind of like an outcast. Right. So for somebody to come out 30 years ago, Ban and even now, I'm sure, I'm sure there's plenty of pockets, where if you live it's it's not going to be socially acceptable. In your immediate circles, and you're going to be struggling and you're going to be going through all this shit. Because there are people that just can't wrap their

Unknown Speaker 10:11
fucking heads

Unknown Speaker 10:14
around the idea that somebody thinks differently than them, that's really what it boils down to. Right? You say potato, I say potato? Right? Yeah. Somebody else prefers something you don't. And they, they don't want to see that. Right? They can't, they can't, they can't, they can't picture it. And they can't see that. So because to them.

Unknown Speaker 10:45
It begins this, it begins this kind of chain reaction in their own mind. Right, they can't unsee it, it's tough to unsee you know, that happening that scenario, right? Somebody wants to be with the opposite sex you. You kind of played out Arrowhead, you're like, Well, yeah, maybe

Unknown Speaker 11:06
we're or

Unknown Speaker 11:09
they're going to hell,

Unknown Speaker 11:10
whatever, whatever it is, it gets played out, it gets played out. And you, maybe you just can't, it puts you over an edge that you didn't even know you had. But you got to stop and think to yourself, you know, for the non, for the for like the non traditionalist for the person who's, who's not currently accepting that you got to ask yourself, you know, what is it about that? That is that it triggers you to not be able to accept it. So, you know, again, I gotta add, you know, what if, and I'll play the scenario out again, what if you walk in on your mother getting choked the brink of of her life. You can't say you are helpless. And the only thing that you can do is go to get help. And the only person you can find someone who prefers the same sex, someone who thinks completely differently than you, or, you know, somebody who just who thinks in that way doesn't have to be different. And what are you going to do? Now? You're not going to accept that help? Is that person any less capable? To save your mother? Right, to save you to play a pivotal role in your life? If you allow it, and if you don't, don't give it any thought through what kind of thought goes into that. Like I certainly did not think well, Brad, for us to tip pair, Brad, who's singing a wake me up before you go go. Is this guy, I don't think he's gonna be my mom. I've got to go find somebody else. A little less flamboyant, that I thought never crossed. My head never was matter of factly and the first thing it was a matter of who do I know, that's near that I can trust to come help. That is always shown. kindness. It has never been on untoward. Who can I find? And it was Brad. Obviously, that relationship my mother and Rex ended. And I've always got that story for myself. The only sad part about the story is a couple years later, Brad, somebody did think differently. Or a couple of things to think about but quite literally found dead in a ditch a couple of years later, we were no longer near the area. And

Unknown Speaker 14:14
so

Unknown Speaker 14:15
my heart of course, always aches for Who else? Who else's life plenty of sake, but I was a what was maybe Brad's purpose was to be there. And that it's Brad's purpose was to save lives. Maybe Brad's purpose was to make such an impact on the people that he was

Unknown Speaker 14:41
around,

Unknown Speaker 14:42
that these stories are could be shared later in life. And right now when you come out, it's super simple. People do it. In elementary school, and the parents accepted for the people that did it. 30 years ago, it cost them their lives 3040 years ago. So I mean, this is almost 40 years ago, cost him his life. And we get to celebrate, we get to celebrate today. You know, gay pride isn't? I think, one is, it's a celebration of who you are. And I think that it's open to everyone, right where we're in such as like, inclusive, inclusive era, and that's beautiful. It should always be that way. Accepting you as you are, who you are, where you are, no matter what you're doing. As long as like, right, you're not harming anybody. And celebrating that, that's love. I love, you know, gay pride month because of that there's so much kind of energy released. But just like, just like any kind of civil rights movement, there were people that came before us, that helps make it happen. That put their lives on the line, that wrist not being accepted, that risks being ostracized,

Unknown Speaker 16:19
simply

Unknown Speaker 16:21
for who and how they chose to love. So I think that that is the biggest, biggest thing that we can take a look at as we go into Pride Month, we can take a look at those that came before us those who have had an impact on our lives. I mean, if there's been people, maybe you've never looked at it this way, if there's been people in your life,

Unknown Speaker 16:50
who maybe you shoved away because of their choice of love. I my question would be, how did those people show up in

Unknown Speaker 17:04
your life? Not who did they choose to love? How did those people show up in your life? Did they show up? And a caring, passionate, ready to be there for you moment? And then you learned that they were gay? Well, I guess I can't. I mean, right does it doesn't make any sense for that to be the route. And so. Hey,

Unknown Speaker 17:33
thanks, Brad. Thank you for the impact you had on my life.

Unknown Speaker 17:40
And at the same time, I'll thank my mother for exposing me to that lifestyle. So that there was really never a choice for me. Never had to. I never had to say, Oh, this isn't right.

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Choosing a Cause | Mental Health

Published: May 25, 2021, 1:39 a.m.
Duration: 15 minutes 19 seconds

Unknown Speaker 0:00
So what is going on? Today? It's been a long time. Since since doing like a BJJ report, which I do those on occasion more recently having been reinvigorated with it. And now just kind of getting back into flow, I haven't done a live because you know, the past year pandemic, I didn't really have a whole lot to say, except for let's get through this shit. And that was it. Right? I don't know that it was survival mode. But I don't, I wouldn't have called it thriving for myself. I was definitely a challenge. And I don't think anyone made it out alive. You know, in terms of, there wasn't anyone who wasn't touched by it in some way or another. And Meg and I were having a conversation this morning about that. What's up, homie? mega, we're having a conversation this morning, too, right. And then another thing that happened this week, was I interviewed someone who's very, very, very active in charitable causes.

Prabhat Gautam

Unknown Speaker 1:14
runs this organization called positive television does one of the things but he's thrown over 800 different events to raise awareness. And, you know, I barely, I don't I don't know, think of what others should be aware of, or I don't think that I've ever, you know, kind of had a cause, per se, other than Don't be an asshole. Right? I think that's been my primary cause most of my life. Sometimes I've been the asshole saw me, I'm not saying that. I'm a saint, either. And I think that when we talk about raising awareness, we talk about it in the sense of raising awareness of you know, who you are, right? Who are you, first of all foremost? And then what's your cause? Like, what do you want to stand for? And as I was thinking about it, right, I was like, What the fuck do I stand for it is I've rarely, you know, I don't stand for much again, it's just kind of living life and enjoying it and got me thinking about, you know, some things that I might be able to stand for it easily. We all know that look, I stand for obviously, being the best parent, you can be under any given circumstances with what you have to do that with. Right? That's, that's a no brainer. And there's a whole bunch of other causes and things out there, right, like, hey, let's, let's stop trafficking humans. That's a good idea.

Unknown Speaker 2:47
But I think,

Unknown Speaker 2:48
I think another thing that it dawned on me, right, and like, hey, it's Mental Health Awareness Month. And I was like, that's an easy one for me to at least jump on the bandwagon with, if you don't recall, if you've never seen some of my other, okay, 1000s of episodes of just getting on here. And talking is the idea of, I used to be kind of like against Christmas against the consumerism against

Unknown Speaker 3:15
Brexit, and it's so easy to throw your, your hat in the ring with the negativity of all that shit. And I was like, you

Unknown Speaker 3:21
know, what, if there's gonna be one day, where we're like, hey, let's see what it feels like good for the sake of giving all that shit. That I mean, right? I don't care. If it's surrounded by consumerism, the man or media says you got to do xy and z, what I choose to see is that that's a day where we get to experience giving. So in that same vein, if we've got just one month, especially after this crazy year, where we got to say, hey, let's let's step up, like and, and normalize the fact that everybody goes through some shit. Right now, the beauty of it is, is that, um, its beauty is beautiful, and it's terrible, right? Everybody in the world went through this pandemic. And we're still going through it. We're still coming out of it. We're not 100% clear out of it yet, because there's some people who think that, you know, fucking we're getting shoved with nanobots. And if they take magnets to their soldiers and triple that shit out, if you don't want the cure, don't get the shot. Okay. I'll throw that out there. But we all went through this together, and it's like, we didn't have a choice. And now we've got the toe pin. So now we've got this like this, this opportunity to realize it Whatever, whatever, you know, let's look, you look at work as an example, whatever I'm going through, at work in terms of living, you know, at home, my family 24 seven trying to, you know, quiet the dog while I'm on this really important call, you know, um, and then, you know, my kids need some help with math and, and, you know, Finn, you know, is going through some things. I'm what my boss, my leadership, whatever you want to call everybody is going through the same thing, right? And it taxes the mental health to the degree that there's breakage. And why is there breakage in the mental health and you know, the dis ease that occurs that the mental health

Unknown Speaker 5:52
dis ease that occurs is like we weren't built for this shit. It's real simple, right? So what can we do? Right? What can we do? Well, first of all, I think that what has been done is that for most companies out there, it's it's gone beyond the rhetoric of, Hey, we got to care for our employees, or else we're not going to get the

Unknown Speaker 6:24
work, we're not going to say we're not going to get, we're not going to get the productivity from them. Unless we give them this face and grace and, and the thing is leadership going through that tooth like shit, man, I guess Brandon is going through some shit, because I'm not immune to it, you are not immune to it, just because it hasn't hit you. yet. Just because you've never been hit by it doesn't mean that there's not gonna be a point in your life, where you're not dropped to your knees, where you're not in the fetal position. Look up looking for a way out. It happens to everybody at one point or another. And the circumstances are going to be different for everybody. But we have to look at everybody and give them the grace, we have to understand that when you go through some shit like that, when your friend goes through some shit like that. They're not coming back as the same person, right? Meg and I were talking about giving birth, for example, and expecting a woman to carry you know, so expecting a woman to, you know, carry a body inside of it for nine months. You know, nurture it, love it, whatever. Have it, shoot out your gift your whole body up to this thing that comes out and you're like, what just happened, and then expected them to come back and do their spreadsheets, just the way that they were within nine weeks? You think that's all? You think they're coming back the same? Like, I don't fucking get that. Like how, right your parents died, your son dies, you go through cancer, and you're you know, you survive cancer? Well, first of all, me out, I don't even know where that takes a lot of strength to be able to kind of come through that. But when you come back, you're not the same and that's okay. And it's not okay, though, for somebody to think that, you know, if you can't do the spreadsheets the way that you used to do them, we got to let you go. Right. Now it becomes, okay, you've gone through some shit. And maybe you can't do the role the way that you used to? Do you even want to still do that role? Is there somewhere else in the company in this organization? That may be a better fit for you for the person that you are now today? Right? Sure, if I'm running a company, and you might not even think that I'm, you're a good fit for this. What can you do for us now? I mean, look, obviously you what, how can we help you? What do you feel like you can do now? Maybe you don't even think this company is the right fit for

Unknown Speaker 9:25
you anymore?

Unknown Speaker 9:27
Let me try and help you into the next place face or place. I mean, because that's that's you that's being human right that's that's what humanities for humanities. You know, this is a shared human experience. And your mental

Unknown Speaker 9:45
health

Unknown Speaker 9:47
is first and foremost. Right? Your mental health takes priority and and I can tell you look I've definitely seen People before, right and talking about mental health and thinking about it strictly as a disease and somebody fucked up, but they've got mental health issues, man you got you got mental health issues. Shit, man, you're a mess. Everybody, everybody, everybody has got some type of mental health issue, quote unquote, everybody's going through some shit. Everybody needs support. Everybody needs kindness, everybody needs compassion, you know. So I think what needs to be normalized. And I think that if I'm gonna raise awareness, or at least contribute awareness to anything, that's what it's gonna be. Right? You go through a shitty relationship. You're not coming out the same, right? And for people to expect you to bounce back. I just think that that's unreasonable. Right, it's unreasonable. And I think that, you know, going forward, of the things that, you know, we've, we've gained from the pandemic, such as mad curbside pickup, which is great, right? Like, aside from, you know, accelerated grocery delivery, lots of good things came out of it that aren't going to make our lives easier. But I think something that has come out of this is the normalization of the fact that we all need that all we all we all need, you know, this, this kind of support, right? And if somebody is going through some shit, think Meg made a really great post the other day, too. And I'm 100% guilty of this is like, you know, she'd mentioned if somebody, I think I mentioned something about other parents and say, Hey, you got to reconnect with them or, and you know, and you feel like, there's only so much time left to reconnect with your parents. And she made the post, like, maybe that parent, like, fucked up that kid pretty good, right? Maybe there's a lot of trauma in there. And now's not the time. So just accept that Jenny, may not be so willing to forgive just yet. Maybe it's not within Jenny just yet. To let go with that shit. And you don't need to be the fucking person that says, just just go do it. Just go do you'll be proud to be great. You see, forgiveness is great. Don't be that guy. Don't be that girl. You like I will ship.

Unknown Speaker 12:34
Okay,

Unknown Speaker 12:36
let's just talk it out. Right, except that person as they are in this moment, not who you think they should be? Then I think, you know, acceptance is a big part of the whole mental health thing. So there you go. That's my stick for the day. I know, I wanted to get to it before the end

Unknown Speaker 12:57
of the month.

Unknown Speaker 12:58
Because, again, if you don't have a cause, that that's okay, I didn't have a cause I didn't have something I felt strong enough to, to kind of talk out

Unknown Speaker 13:09
for

Unknown Speaker 13:10
bright and raise awareness of I mean, look, guys, if you follow me at all, like I'm all about the spirituality space, I believe 1,000% that that's missing in a lot of people's kind of daily and mental practice, right? It just it just plays such a huge role in it. I mean, Dave's watching right now, I know plenty of poll stuffers, that they'll tell you that you know, if you know, if you can just find something greater than you so that you can kind of recognize it's just just so helpful, right? And whatever that means to you. It doesn't have to be God It doesn't have to be you know, the Almighty. I don't, I don't give a shit what it means to you. But once you find it, and you can latch on to it, it could be a person, it could be a thing, it could be an organization then you can find some solace, you can find a place to let your guard down. Right, we went around so god damn tense and so ready to defend or attack? Where's this place where you can be, you know, in military pardons, I guess at ease? Where can you be in a place where you feel safe? And I don't feel like there's a lot of places like that. And that's another thing that's going to take its toll on mental health. So anyways, Mental Health Month guys, check out prof Gotham, he's got positive tv.org really cool dude, really glad to have connected with them. Really glad that, you know, having the conversation with him that I've had recently gave me the thought to just think about what is something that I could learn leverage my platform for spiritual dough to raise awareness for outside of spirituality what is something else that you know people are struggling with, they could use some help and that's that's what I'm doing. So take these guys have a good one that's all for now.

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Lindsey Garner | Finding Spirituality Wherever You Are

Published: May 23, 2021, 1:47 a.m.
Duration: 53 minutes 54 seconds

Thanks to my wife Meg, I got to connect with another spiritual badass Lindsey E Garner, creator of Standing in Front of Strangers Naked

Tune in to find out how you too can find practical ways to bring spirituality into everything you do!

Transcript below is machine generated

Unknown Speaker 0:00
Yeah,

Brandon Handley 0:01
all right. Bye 4321 Hey there spiritual dope. I'm on today with a special friend Lindsey. she say she was saved Lindsay

Unknown Speaker 0:13
he car? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 0:15
Because I said, it is very important. It's very important so that people can pull you out of the crowds of Lindsey Gardner. Right. And so Lindsay is actually, you know, pretty good friend of mags for those of you that know me, you know, then you probably know, Megan's a good chance you already know, Lindsay. And then, um, you know, so let's talk about Lindsay and her standing naked in front of strangers blog. I'm just gonna do I'm gonna read Liz gonna read your about me here off of your, your blog posts, and then you can make a decision whether or not you want to keep that going forward. Okay. My entire life, I felt like an outsider feeling like I saw things a little different than most of the people around me. A few years ago, I started to be okay with that, I started to strip off the layers that I've been carrying around for the decades and show up a whole lot more authentically, I started writing to free up some space in my brain for forward movement. First out, people liked what I had to say. So I kept reading. I don't feel super tied to labels of mom, wife, soldier, Yogi, although these are all titles I've hold held. But I'm so much more connected to the idea that each of us is on a little trip to figure out our own purpose. And this is a part of mine. And I hope you'll join me so thanks for being on. And thanks for your thanks for agreeing to be on is this how many podcasts Have you been on?

Lindsey Garner 1:38
Zero? Now one?

Brandon Handley 1:40
Oh, this is this is this is your first Well, you're welcome. Like I told you, before we got on, you know, it's it's a it's cool to get all in because a you've learned it, you don't go up in flames. Right? Like and you can do it like there's nothing to it. Other than just kind of showing up and being yourself. So welcome.

Lindsey Garner 2:00
Thanks. That's my favorite thing to do. So, you know, why not?

Brandon Handley 2:04
For the you've listened to a couple of podcasts. And thanks for thanks for being a listener. So you probably know how I open these up right with the idea that that we are word vessels for source. God, whatever, whatever you feel like calling it and you're on today, because you have a message that is going to reach somebody is yours that can only be delivered through you. Right? What is that message today?

Lindsey Garner 2:34
I actually did like a little meditation before we started just to transition from one part of my life into this. And I think what I kept kind of landing on is like, yeah, I'm not I'm not some, like giant published author had a little piece of like imposter syndrome as far as like, I don't know, what do I have to say? Right? Um, but it kept then it was like, okay, maybe I say one thing, that one person out there takes and is like, yeah, I'm not alone. I'm not feeling these thoughts or, or living in a space that I am totally on my own. And, and so that's, that's how I'm coming into this. And I think there's something to be said, for living that way. Like maybe you smile at someone, you take a second and you smile at someone, you just don't know the impact that that has in their day. So the more that we just live in a way that really feels like we're honoring ourselves, the ripples are pretty big.

Brandon Handley 3:41
Nice, I mean, just kind of just owning who you are. And I hate to say just right, so owning who you are, and that that's actually very powerful. So owning who you are, and owning that you have the power to change someone's life with your smile.

Lindsey Garner 3:57
Yeah, you do. Like it's crazy. You really can I, I work, I manage a retail store that's like my full time gig a lot. And I've learned, I never thought it would be in retail and I actually quite like it. But I've learned so much the impact that you can have just on on, like, allowing space for someone to actually show up and not being tanned and like how are you doing today? And then them just saying great. Oh, okay, great. Like it's this script we run through, you know, but rather actually like stopping and saying, No, like, actually, how are you doing today? And it's okay to not be okay. And you can say that even to somebody selling a yoga pants like it's fine. And the cool things that have opened up for me through that. I mean, I can't count them. It's phenomenal.

Unknown Speaker 4:51
What's one

Lindsey Garner 4:55
I think it's the relinquishment of ego. Yeah, I mean, you never get rid of it right? It's always there. Well, yeah.

Brandon Handley 5:03
How's that? So yeah, I mean, how's that showing up for you? Right? Like, really question of ego through your work at retail. I mean, I guess I would take a step further though, because not everybody that works in retail is able to let go of the script. Right. Not everybody that works in retails okay with relinquishing ego. And I can tell you, I mean, even in years past is working like as a bartender, or, you know, being that customer facing person. And somebody is being an asshole. Like, I am really hesitant to relinquish ego, I'm like, No, you're being an asshole. Right? You know, so. So walk me through your process of that was clearly before my ascension.

Unknown Speaker 5:55
I'm basically transcended as well. Right? I

Brandon Handley 5:58
mean, that'll never ever happen again in my life. But the deal is new. So how are you? How are you doing that? Because I think that's, that's really the impact of this podcast, right? The impact of this podcast is, yeah, your spiritual. But how are you applying it in your daily life? So that, you know, you're not? You're not? I'm physical Lindsey over here. And I'm metaphysical Lindsay over here and understanding like, and together like, you know, you meet in the middle somewhere. So that's how you meet yourself in the middle.

Lindsey Garner 6:32
Yeah, I think, um, I mean, meditation, meditation is like, changed my whole life. And I can't pinpoint it to like one style, or one time that I practice, it really is more of an evolving thing. And I can talk more about that. But what it gives me Is this like ability to put a little bubble around myself, right and like, hold in and recognize what's my emotions? My thoughts my feelings? versus like, what's Karen from Kansas that comes in my store is pissy we don't have a size four pair of shorts, like that's actually has nothing

Brandon Handley 7:14
Kansas should know. First of all. Oh, no. So so it's funny, though. So you mentioned though, the, the idea of no one set meditation I To me, it would be almost like, Oh, no, your, your, your favorite herbal tea that day? Right. Like, there's all kinds of like, one day, you're like, I need I need to calm down. Okay, Karen, meditation, right. And sometimes I need sometimes I need hyped up, you know, Lindsey, sometimes I need, you know, whatever. But it gives sounds like what you're saying those that gives you the opportunity to go in and create that energetic bubble, right, what you want, who do you want to be in these next few moments? Right, that you get to create that? Is that what you're saying?

Lindsey Garner 8:03
Answer remember, that, that? We don't have any idea what that other person's life looks like? Like, I don't I have no idea. 99% of the time, I'm gonna guess it has nothing to do with those shorts. Doesn't it has to do with a lot more, some deep seated stuff, right? And whereas I used to take that on and and, and I mean, I would take these people's shit home with me. I'm like, What am I doing? Like, why do I care so deeply about someone's reaction to foster requiring masks in our store or something like that? I am in Florida. So I mean, you know, the week you are out here, it's like thing, but um, well.

Brandon Handley 8:50
How did you, you know, talk to what's the process of going from, you know, taking that home every day to learning to let that go. And did that happen overnight? Or did it take you some time?

Lindsey Garner 9:03
No, probably years. Ah, I actually started to because I worked for a company and sells yoga pants. We have a lot of yoga. We do a lot of yoga. It's how we used to like really market our business. And so I got back it up. I got out of the army. I was in the army for about 12 years. Yeah, the army there was no no real like, like industry down where we moved. My husband got stationed in Florida. This is not where we've chosen it came down here. There's no industry that was related to my background. So I'm like, I tried to stay home. I'm not a stay at home mom. Like I just, I was making my own seasalt I yeah, my husband come home and was like, Hi.

Unknown Speaker 9:46
Hey,

Unknown Speaker 9:47
it's me. It's not to me.

Brandon Handley 9:52
I mean, I would like to know how you made your seesaw.

Lindsey Garner 9:58
The Golf Got it. I No kidding. Yeah, that's serious.

Unknown Speaker 10:05
You can buy it's pretty cheap. There's no fun in that.

Brandon Handley 10:08
I'm sure there's no fun. There's no fun in that, right? You can buy all kinds of things. But you're over here you'd like a teaspoon of salt. You're like,

Lindsey Garner 10:16
six hours. So great. Everybody gets a little grain

Unknown Speaker 10:22
sparingly.

Brandon Handley 10:23
Why are you using all the salt?

Lindsey Garner 10:27
I'm serious. Okay,

Unknown Speaker 10:28
I get it. I get it. I get it. No,

Lindsey Garner 10:30
I just got a part time job at this store. And it turns out I really liked it. The company was really cool. And it got me into yoga. I'd never done yoga. I had never been around it. I always thought it was like this, like, woo Wee thing. Yeah, so I started that and it was mostly a physical practice it and little by little I kind of came to understand. I'm a reader. I'm a learner, I am always I am probably always have like five books by my nightstand and like three audio books and two podcasts going all the time. And I just started reading a little bit more on where yoga really came from, and the true intent of yoga and little by little kind of got out of my physical practice of actual like Asana, moving my body through it, and much more connected to the meditation aspect and the the grounding principles of yoga and the eight limbs. And so I, from there just kind of started learning, all kinds of things about meditation. And we are really fortunate in our area. prudence burns here, because she has that veto song Dear Prudence, to doubt her. So that's her, she lives here.

Brandon Handley 11:52
I don't know. I don't know that I recall the song Come and get a cup of water.

Lindsey Garner 11:55
When it's actually about when the Beatles were at a yoga retreat in India. And there was a woman who sat in a room and meditated for hours and hours, and they were like, come out, prudence come out. That's her. And she's actually one of the leading teachers and she is a Sanskrit translator, translator, interpreter. I

Brandon Handley 12:19
don't know. She can she can do. She can do Sanskrit.

Lindsey Garner 12:22
Yeah. So she's here. And I met her and she shared about Transcendental Meditation with me. So I went through that training. And that was really my first go at meditation. I really had never done anything. Do you know

Brandon Handley 12:36
how much I've watched? Yeah, a little bit. So how is TM different than some other meditation forms of meditation?

Lindsey Garner 12:44
mantra base to so you're assigned a mantra, go through the training or sign a mantra, and then it's 20 minutes twice a day. It's pretty structured. pretty strict. It's very structured. And the guidance is like, that's what you do. And there's a lot of rules around it worked for me to start, but I'm kind of I'm kind of like an inner inner what, what are,

Brandon Handley 13:06
what are some of those rules? Right, and what was your mantra? Um,

Lindsey Garner 13:10
so everybody has their unique point and I'm super suspicious, so are like super superstitious. And so I am not going to tell you my, my own journey because I am worried.

Brandon Handley 13:21
Are you not allowed to?

Park you down is like a nonconformist.

Lindsey Garner 13:34
Yeah, thank you, um, but it's like, okay, you meditate 20 minutes twice a day, you don't want to do it a certain amount of time before bed. You don't want to ever do it like laying down unless you're sick. There's just a lot of it, where I'm like, it just became inaccessible to me. And it became hard for me to consistently practice it. And took some really great things from it. And then from there, just kind of started reading about mindfulness. And then know that a lot of guided meditations are so accessible now. I mean, you can pull up the meditation app, and there's like, 40 to open them up. And in that for those 42 apps. There's 1000s. So just started playing around with that. And then I went to I just finished a training but my husband was sick. You know about that. My husband got really sick last year. And throughout the course of that had a lot of really specific. Like, really like a lot of trauma. I hate that word. And I don't know why I hate that word. But I do a lot of really specific traumas that happened. I saw him

Unknown Speaker 14:50
do it throughout that through that throughout that ordeal.

Lindsey Garner 14:52
Yeah, he almost died a couple times. It was pretty hard and I lost my ability to drop into meditation really quickly. And it got so frustrating to me where I was like, this is a tool that I have that I need more than ever, and I can't get into it and didn't know why. And I reached out to a friend and she was like, hey, I've actually been doing some studying on trauma based meditation and how like, in times where you are really hyper focused on these events that have created this stir up in your brain, meditation can actually be really damaging if you're not, you know, guided or led in the right way, or you're not aware of that trauma. And so I started reading a little bit about that, and and then I just actually went to a training on feta healing, which was awesome, super awesome. But

Brandon Handley 15:49
you owe me like, more links or something on that. And here's the you know, what's funny, those right, you know, army 12 years, getting involved with yoga, and then be like, Oh, this is all Whoo, to being. I just finished my data healing. And I'd like to know, I'd also like to know more about the trauma, meditation. Um, because you're right. When you when you this happened to me, mine was in no way shape, or form, you know, as severe as, you know, kind of what you were going through. But I was going through a space.

Unknown Speaker 16:27
And I couldn't I

Brandon Handley 16:30
couldn't I couldn't get out of it. Right. Yeah. And I know all this stuff. And I'm really, really good at it, right. But there was something just and it wasn't even big, but it was just enough. Where I was so focused on it, and I couldn't I couldn't get the fuck out of my own way.

Lindsey Garner 16:46
Yeah, it turns out that's like, why happens? You just you get, all you do when you get quiet for meditation is you just replay that?

Unknown Speaker 16:56
Like, oh,

Lindsey Garner 16:58
what am I doing over here? You know, and I don't know a whole lot about it. But I have just kind of started digging in and reading some books and learning about it. But even just

Unknown Speaker 17:11
just like

Lindsey Garner 17:12
somebody else, again, like somebody else saying, like, hey, it's okay. Like, dude, forgive yourself.

Brandon Handley 17:20
Yeah. Yeah, no, it's 100% 100% when somebody else can share the human condition. And lets you know that you're not alone. And that, I think that that's something that you do with your, your blog, right? You did two things with your blog that that come to my mind. If you don't mind, like me shower, like kind of some some quick thoughts on that. Right. Um, one is, I'm a Bob Proctor fan. The dude the dude, like, wise, and you know, I don't know if there's some sales gimmicks, and I'm afraid to give them money, but like everything he says, is legit. And, and one of his one of the things that he recommends, or he talks about something that he practices is, whenever he's got a problem, or whenever he's going through something, he writes it down on it, he gets it out of his head, and on a piece of paper, out of his head and onto a piece of paper. And then he'll go through it, he'll read it. And I'll ask themselves, did I get it all out? Right? I think it's, I think it's a kind of a Karthik thing, where, and at the same time, you can look at it, it's like talking to somebody almost right. And you and I can talk about the you know, any problems that we're having. And sometimes when it comes out of your mouth, you like, was not as big as I thought that it was, like that was a pretty big inside my head, it was huge. But once it got out here to this face, I was able to kind of see it in a different light in a different way. So I think that that's one thing that you do with your blog, right? Sounds like it kind of started from a space where you needed to get the shit out of your head.

Lindsey Garner 18:53
Yeah, I was reading it if I was real.

Brandon Handley 18:57
And so you're getting readers, and people do like it. And I think that they like it because you're just being honest, sincere and letting them know and I'm not even trying to lead by example or anything again, just sharing who you are and what you're going through in, in a non sugar coated kind of way. And yeah, people get to see that

Lindsey Garner 19:21
really hate that sugar coating thing that hate it, I think. Yeah, I don't know. I really, it's like my pet peeve when you know, somebody ain't okay. And they're like, not, everything's great. Or like, this is why I'm posting on social media is what I'm sharing with the world. And then Meanwhile, it's like a dumpster fire and you're like, maybe if you just share the dumpster fire a little bit. You can have somebody be like, Oh my god, I'm actually in this dumpster too. And I know the way out. It's

Brandon Handley 19:52
right over here. Yeah, no, that's Yeah, that's fair. But let's let's let's play it in reverse because I also know that you're you're A big fan of some manifestation and a little bit of LA. Right. So then what happened? You know, how does that work in that space for you? Right? So if I focus on my problem, and I talk more about it, am I attracting more of it? Or am I learning at all? I mean, you know, I mean,

Lindsey Garner 20:17
yeah, I think about that damn, Esther Hicks Get out of my head. You don't know me? I do. Think about it. Do you think a lot of it comes from the intention in it? Right? I don't sit in my shed, I write it. And that is that is that catharsis of like, okay, I read it, I give it out. I read it. And then it's done. I'm not coming back. I'm not not saying it. And I think that's part of it. And this is like, for every human being out there. There's something for them to do that allows them to do that. For me. It's writing, right? You know, for some people it might be running, I don't know, gross, but to each their own. I can't imagine feeling better. Mentally. After a long run. I've usually I'm like, oh my god. Everything hurts. But

Brandon Handley 21:07
yeah, me.

Lindsey Garner 21:09
Cooking, like cooking can be therapeutic for people you could have great,

Brandon Handley 21:13
yeah. So for me, it took me a while to kind of get around to it and understand it. But when I'm cooking in the kitchen, I'm creating something. That's an act of creation. And

Unknown Speaker 21:27
it feels wonderful,

Unknown Speaker 21:28
right? And you're serious,

Brandon Handley 21:30
right? You get to share and then and then if somebody doesn't need it, or if they use too much seesaw, I get pissed, but

Lindsey Garner 21:36
you made your own.

Brandon Handley 21:38
But but the deal is it's like and you start to let go of that too. Right? You must see your you know, somebody who's getting pissed because you know, size for shorts aren't down. It's it's like you're not doing it, you're just getting over the reaction to what you've done or created. Right? Whereas the process, you know, Meg and I had this conversation not too long ago, she's like, I hate the process. I was like, well, the process is pretty cool. You just haven't kind of experienced it yet. Right? You haven't experienced like this, this this thing where you morphed through the process? Yeah. Right. And then like, because there's really nothing else you can say to it, other than it's the process of creation process. So yeah, and when you go through creating something with purpose, and 10, and love, then doesn't really matter what the outcome is, unless it's murder. And then there's then we got to talk, but I can't you know,

Lindsey Garner 22:35
love course, maybe I don't know. I feel like she's watched a documentary about some shows

Brandon Handley 22:40
you seen one or two on them? For sure. For sure. So let's me let's talk about what's your process. Ben. Right, let's talk about if you were to, if you were to guide somebody through it right now. And I see on your site, just as talk to me, like what somebody can reach out to you for? And you know, what would you guide through somebody through in a process oriented way?

Lindsey Garner 23:02
I'm trying to think I think the last person, or probably the by get the most feedback about is anytime that I talk about my relationship with my body. I don't want to make a sweeping statement like this is something that women experience differently than men because I think men experience the same sort of, like discomfort in their own skin, or pressures from society or whatever. But this has been a big journey of mine. And I yeah, I mean, growing up. My mom is something special. She did her best. I believe that we don't have a great relationship now. And a lot of that comes from me becoming a parent. And seeing Oh, wait, woof. That was maybe not an okay thing. I remember she told me I was maybe 30. I mean, I had done some shit in my life. And she said, the proudest I've ever been, is when you decided to lose weight when you were a teenager. And I'm like, wow, like, I want to combat had a kid I graduated degrees and have a successful career. And I was like, Whoa, there it is. So it's just something that was ever present in my life. And that constant need to look a certain way to show up a certain way for everyone else, because I thought that's what was needed to be and so I get a lot of women after I write about that, specifically, that will reach out and say like, okay, like, What do I do? Like, how did you get there? How did you get to the point where it's not that I don't care? I mean, I definitely care what I look like, but I don't attach so much meaning and expectation to it anymore. I Who was it? It was on your podcast, and they call it a meat suit. Who was that?

Brandon Handley 24:57
That was this funny Christian. It was Yeah, he's He's really good.

Lindsey Garner 25:04
I really do like, as I've learned to meditate, and as I've learned to get a connection with the divine through meditation, I realized like, this is not it.

Brandon Handley 25:14
This is funny. I would, I would love to say that this is a smaller part of who we are.

Unknown Speaker 25:24
Yeah,

Brandon Handley 25:24
that's right. Yeah. Like, I mean, like, I mean, if we infant festival, right, especially if we consider ourselves, I don't know, in connection to the universe, right? Or as the universe, depending on how you kind of want to want to go about it. You know, yeah, Krishna said that, you know, other people that have said that plenty of times as neville goddard talks about being in the meatsuit Alan Watts will talk about being meatsuit. It's not. He says, It is funny, but it's, it's true. Right? These are just, this is just something that we're wearing right now. Right? Yeah. So

Lindsey Garner 26:00
beautiful. Like what is attractive to, like other people like what is attracted to me a guy that I'm like, Oh, my gosh, I'm super attracted that guy. Another person is like, what? Right? So subjective, that I think like, it comes from meditation. And I always comes back to that that like, because I started there. And then I realized, Oh, wait, actually, I'm this ball of light. And I'm connected to the divine all the time. And like, I don't want to talk shit about the divine right? Why am I talking shit about myself?

Unknown Speaker 26:35
all the time? Yeah.

Lindsey Garner 26:37
And then I just became like, I didn't want to have small talk anymore. And I noticed this, so many women around me, the majority of the conversations were grounded around what their kids were doing with their husbands are doing in their bodies.

Brandon Handley 26:52
Would you say that? That's just because they're, they're afraid of who they really are? Yeah. How would you help somebody get through that?

Lindsey Garner 27:03
Yeah. I, um,

Brandon Handley 27:08
I mean, like, right, right. Like, I mean, so it will even flip back to you. So you think that you're divine? Right. And you're connected to the divine? Yes, you so somebody else said they are divine, and they're connected to the divine, and they still have some larger conversations.

Lindsey Garner 27:24
Well, I have them unabashedly. And what I have noticed is that when I have them, that is uncomfortable at first. And then it becomes an okay thing. I mean, I do this and I do this. At my store, I have about 30 people that work for me and they love hate me. Because I make these conversations a thing. Like if I come into the break room, and we're talking about trying to lose weight, so our size look less fat, I like awkwardly change the topic to What are you reading? What's a book you're reading? Let's talk about it? Or do you want to hear about what I manifested last year, like I unabashedly just, I just think we're playing small, and I will call people out on it. And I think sometimes it's just that destruction that's needed. And then it's like, again, it's like a ripple effect. I do it. And I see other people do it, little by little, and that's, like, greatest success of my whole life is when I come in, and we're talking about big things.

Brandon Handley 28:24
That's great, right? Because then you can see that you're having some influence, right? Or, you know, you're manifesting that right? for yourself, right? Like, like, you know, so you're able to kind of see this future state where you walk into an office and a break room, and everybody's talking about cool shit instead of chubby thighs. Right? I mean, you know, just to kind of lay it out there like that. So, it's what makes it so easy for you to, to, to, you know, feel like you're living this kind of greater life and to be able to look at somebody else and say that, hey, you could be living a greater life or, you know, stop playing small. Right? And I bring that up, because I recall being It was a few years ago, I was in a dad, dad bloggers convention, because that was my space at the time. But I was asking these guys is like, you know, what's the feel like for you to step into your greatness and I meant it, right? Like, yeah, and they shied away from accepting anything that looked like greatness and kind of hurt my heart. Yeah, it's like, Wow, man, like you're a great person, and like, you're doing something awesome. But you don't even see it for yourself. Right. So how do you how do you know how do you step into your greatness and how you help and other stuff There's

Lindsey Garner 30:02
number one like expectations, you gotta let them ships go, which I say is like, it's so easy. I would say this, like, I basically have mastered this. No, I totally not that just so you know. But I have learned so much around really pushing expectations, not not just at work in my life in my marriage, like, so much. Just because I want an outcome from someone or I see something in someone, I don't have an ability to impact their path. I don't touch it, and on my you know, like a marble, your marble hits, and then it goes another direction or pool ball or whatever. But who am I to know what their journey looks like? And how many awesome things could come from them effing things up. And I mean, that's part of it. You know, my last year of my life has been really, truly transformative. My husband and I have been through a shit ton. And I have watched him really come into his own. And he was on the phone. He had surgery yesterday, he had one more heart surgery yesterday. And he couldn't be on our marriage. Can we have marriage counseling every week? It's like, we don't miss it. Even if we feel really good. We're like, Nope, still doing it. And I was sitting in my marriage counseling, and my counselor and I were talking and I was saying how, how hard it is to be a caregiver for someone for this long. And I was like, man, there's things about my husband, that I really miss, you know, from a year ago, like, physically that he could do, or just like experiences we could have when he is truly healthy. And he was like, but what's come of it. And I thought I thought about it, I was like, this person that's here, now is so, so much more grounded in like, what's truly important. He's learning about the things that we're talking about it now. And like, we're able to have actual real conversation where we show up as ourselves instead of this, like surface shit. And I'm like, you know what, actually, right? Like, that's what matters, not the, you know, he does assess, take naps, like that's really he's in the hospital for a year, you don't come out of that in three months. So it's cool. I didn't deal with that. Because there's all this and we had to go through all that shit. For that to happen, he probably wouldn't have if he if he hadn't almost died as many times as he did, or we hadn't had any of the issues that we had, we wouldn't be here. And so that has given me the perspective to know that like, hey, Karen, I see you, we don't have your shorts. I'm sorry, that is pissed you off. I was just gonna be kind to you anyway, maybe it impacts you. Maybe it doesn't.

Brandon Handley 32:58
Because it goes to the whole idea of you know, treating others as you know, we can love thy neighbor isn't love thy neighbor, them, you know, you love the neighbor as yourself. Because, you know, in essence, and at least in our conversation in our world, they are. Yeah. So yeah, I mean, you're not getting it. And I say this so that, you know, for the person out there that is struggling to deal with the people that are paying their ass or whatever, with a couple things, right? I mean, however that person is, that's kind of a reflection of who we are. Right? And then the idea of you get what you give, so no, kill them with kindness, right? And maybe, maybe take that person out of the equation and put yourself in an equation, right? Like, you know what, I'm just gonna, you're me. I love you. Yeah, you know, I

Lindsey Garner 33:55
mean, oh, I just had a thought that. Okay, I don't share this a lot. So I'm going to share it and this is what I do. So my husband cheated on me. We had infidelity in our relationship. And here it is, like, this girl that he cheated on me this was a manifestation of every single insecurity that I had. She was the complete opposite of me. And in my deepest shit, it made me super insecure and like I'm not good enough. I'm, I don't look a certain way. I don't add a lot on Instagram posting selfies. It's just not who I am. no judgement, live your life, but it's not. And I was like, Oh my God, is this what he wants? And then I I mean, it clicked for me one day and I was like, holy shit. She is everything that I am holding on to as my own insecurity and I put that shit in my path. And I'm not you know, I'm not here to say that. There's not any like, Oh, it was me that I did that. No, I

Unknown Speaker 35:00
mean, but but I mean,

Brandon Handley 35:02
so you're taking ownership of it and one way or another, right. And, and it was really interesting. I saw jack Canfield, you know, Chicken Soup for the Soul guy. He said, just just for a moment, if you can own 100% of it, by all of it, then own it, right. But if you just own 99% of it, then there's a problem, right? But here, and what you've done is you've said, you know, you're looking at this other person, those are all the vibes that you were sending out, you were like, creating this thing yourself. And you focused on it long enough with enough emotion with enough intensity to you know, kind of create your own bullshit. Gollum, whatever her name was.

Lindsey Garner 35:52
100% Yeah. Right. And, and, and crazy, like, exactly it in my head.

Brandon Handley 36:00
Right. And and, and the thing is, there's a lot of power in that then no, so Okay. dial in the wrong fucking thing. So now, now you're like, Alright, well, you know, here's what I would change about that going forward. Right? And and, you know, you mentioned Esther Hicks. Right. So you're an abraham hicks fan?

Unknown Speaker 36:23
Yeah.

Brandon Handley 36:25
The her whole principle is like, you know, the relationships that you've had in the past, right? The idea that I don't want somebody this moves, I don't want somebody does this. I don't want somebody does that, and yada, yada, and all sudden that person shows up. Right? Right. It was funny, because a meg and I had dinner last week, we were talking about the relationships that my mom had, as I was growing up, you know, her, my dad was abusive, right? And so she got us out of that before me and before it ever earned for me. But almost every guy that I recall, her being in a relationship later in life with was abusive. So just makes me think, and I'm sure that, you know, she tunes into this one that she probably say no, but and I don't know, but like, you know, the whole idea of, I don't want somebody that abuses me, I don't want somebody to treat me like this. I don't want somebody treats me. And instead of instead of saying, This is what I do want. And and I always, you know, I have Meg do it at dinner. I was like, you know, do you pull out your Google phone, you know, pull up Google put in there, type in no red balloons, right? What's gonna come up black and red balloons everywhere? I mean, it because, you know, so our minds operate in the same way. So I mean, you know, which is something you're familiar with. One of the things that you did, though, throughout, you know, kind of this whole ordeal with your husband being this way, you you manifest some pretty crazy shit. Right? Let's talk about that. Like, let's talk about how you, you know, you focused on what you mean, Tell, tell us how you manifested that stuff. And you did it and kind of squirt water and some pretty cool things to talk about.

Lindsey Garner 38:06
He? Well, so we're both veterans, and he's 100% disabled. So most of his health care goes to the VA. When he first got sick, that was what we were doing. We were going through the VA and the VA denied him care, he kept getting sicker, kept getting sicker, they couldn't really figure it out. And we had to just kind of start and think, Okay, you know what, we got to go somewhere else like this isn't gonna work. And so I recently did the The first thing anybody says with me, it's like all call your congressman call your congressman. So we did all that, right. We're like, Okay, here we go. Like, let's do this. I don't know anything about politics. But let me get started. I'm not very political. Um, so went that route, and I was on a walk one day, all my, all my best shit comes in, I'm walking that damn feral dog. And I love my dog, but he's a mess. So we take a lot of walks, because he needs a lot. And we're walking. And I was like, there has to be a place where he can get everything that he needs, mental, spiritual, physical. All of this, like it's got to be a place. And that for me, I'm, I am a big believer in feeling how things feel in your body. And I do feel like that sounds right. There it is. And so instead of going to the VA, my first thing is I call my sister, my sister's a doctor, and I'm like, maybe, you know, is this a thing like and she started giving me a couple places I could look and I just kept meditating on that. I was like, we're gonna find a place that is going to be all encompassing, is going to follow him through to the end because the VA said, No, you we're gonna send you to a nursing home. And my sister was like, he will die in that nursing home. He will not go out. It and during COVID he would have gone by himself, I wouldn't have been able to be there.

Unknown Speaker 40:06
Yeah, and sure enough,

Lindsey Garner 40:08
people reached out for Mass General and said, Hey, we can take him on not only can we take him on, we can pay for pay for what the insurance doesn't cover. And I was like, What? And then a friend of his created a GoFundMe, and it blew up and gave us enough to cover my travel costs to go back and forth and to pay for me to take time off work to be there. And I mean, I,

Brandon Handley 40:32
I want to I want to throw out there too, like, I mean, you also have a family and it's not just you and your husband. Like, I think

Unknown Speaker 40:39
a teenage daughter

Brandon Handley 40:41
right so so you know, you got all that going on. And and it's enough to you talked about, you know, being being a caregiver for this long period of time, and I chuckled to myself is like you know, for better for worse, but like, I mean, for like a half hour or a day maybe right? But you've got this you've got this whole year going on. And what I'm hearing yourself say those like you know, when you're when you're walking into golf is walks you you're kind of tossing these questions to the universe, like you know, what we're, you know, you know, feel and then you talk about feeling it and and one thing that I think is a male and and the United States Anyways, we're taught not to feel a whole lot, right. But you know, dawns on me really like feeling really is you know, your thoughts and emotions, you know, your head and your heart coming together as one and doing kind of like a purposeful way. And sounds to me like you were feeling your way forward in a way that felt best. I hate to say like, follow your bliss, or when I say I'll say follow your hunches. Are you familiar with Florence? scovel Shinn, huh? Yes, this is my jam, right? But you know, hunches or your house or heaven or something like that, again, it's one of her things, right? So you're following your hunches and you're focused on the possible and then this just started happening?

Lindsey Garner 42:01
Yeah, it does. And my marriage counselor, anytime there was like a hiccup in our marriage, he's like, Oh, there you go. You're fast. manifester. What we think you out and I'm like, yeah, damn it. Yeah, that's true. Um, yeah. And I don't know like, you can say like, I could see right now like, I want to be a NASA or at NASA thing that thing anymore. I want to be an astronaut. That sounds really cool. Doesn't land for me. It doesn't I don't get excited about it. I feel that and if I say on the other hand, like, I want to live in campgrounds one day because I love campground people. I love the lack of boundaries that exists in campgrounds.

Brandon Handley 42:48
nightmare.

Lindsey Garner 42:52
We've talked about it. I'm like, no, it's great. Everybody like comes over eats your dinner. You they come into your house. They're like, Can I see your camper? And you're like, yeah, oh, yeah, you

Brandon Handley 43:02
get rid of the airstream. I'm so jealous.

Lindsey Garner 43:05
though nobody bought for keeping it. And me and Zach in RV can

Unknown Speaker 43:09
rent them out, by the way, right? You can rent them right?

Lindsey Garner 43:12
Well, I just don't have time to manage it. I like

Brandon Handley 43:15
I'll send you a link later. But you don't have to do the management this kind of like an Airbnb forum.

Unknown Speaker 43:21
Yeah. Okay.

Unknown Speaker 43:23
Great. Anyways, I

Lindsey Garner 43:24
mean, we're gonna keep it for our road trip this summer. So Lisa, my 15 year old daughter and two dogs are taking this little Airstream. We're going,

Brandon Handley 43:33
Yeah, I love it. So standing naked in front of strangers, your blog, people should be going and checking it out. They're going to find more of kind of what we're talking about here. I'm going to ask you a couple of questions. And it's going to be kind of like, we're speed dating, right? We're seriously right now. And woo Wayne. So why are so many people depressed?

Lindsey Garner 44:00
Don't think they're connected to who they are? think they're connected what they think everyone wants them to be? feel like they're faking it a lot faking It's exhausting.

Brandon Handley 44:12
When you stay connected to who you are, like, what does that mean to you?

Lindsey Garner 44:18
Things showing up as what you think others expect of you instead of in a way that honors like why you know, you've been put here everyone has a purpose Everyone has their own path and like the more that we get connected to that and show up in that way.

Brandon Handley 44:37
So you would you would tell somebody to kind of try and fight figure out what the purpose is to start lean into it and that would lead them to kind of who they are.

Lindsey Garner 44:44
Yeah, and that doesn't mean this like giant sexy thing. Like for me, I freakin love running a retail store, right? I used to think it needed to be this like, huge thing. I really get joy out of selling yoga pants. I love it.

Brandon Handley 44:56
And that's awesome, right? And I think that that can be And it's been tough for me to find that so tough for me to find that right? If I'm not doing if I'm not doing something a little heavier, right? Because if if, you know, going back to, if I feel like I'm in a room with people talking about stubby thighs, I don't feel like I'm living my best life. Right? And so so like, how do you how do you get out of that? And there's it sounds to me, like you found ways to focus on what you're bringing into your life and to these people through the work that you do. That is driving your purpose and satisfaction, and it doesn't have to be doesn't have to be your shelter changing the world, right? So someone's world,

Lindsey Garner 45:40
yeah, in my own little universe. And I think that that's the way that's the most accessible to everyone like it. I think sometimes, this idea of like our purpose, we make it this big thing. And then it seems so far that we don't even take a step towards it. But like, if I can come into my store, say something kind to someone, they all say all of a sudden feel more comfortable in their skin, or they then repeat that that's change, and you've made it in your own little microcosm, right.

Brandon Handley 46:08
But it's also micro, right, you go back to the idea of stepping into your greatness. And sometimes that's like, 1000 baby steps to get there. Yes, right. So these small, you're right, like if we try to put this overarching sense of purpose, where it's like this huge fuckin vision, right? Like, you know. And instead we say, you know, I think it's okay to say that. This is my purpose for right now. Yeah. Are people out there? There are people out there who believe your purpose doesn't change. Right. Um, but I think that there are instances of you know, about this purpose revision.

Lindsey Garner 46:52
I can tell you right now, 19 year old Lindsey that I don't know what my Yeah, I don't think it was the same. Right? Right. Talk about it.

Brandon Handley 47:01
Let's let's do you know, I love the idea that you you feel like you can connect with the divine at will that you are divine. That to me, would indicate that you've got an idea on kind of what heaven is and how to get there.

Lindsey Garner 47:18
afraid of death anymore, either, which is cool. Like I live recklessly, but I'm not afraid of death anymore. Because I just don't view it. Like, I have a different relationship with planes of existence in time, you know that. I just don't do it the same. Also meditation can we just all get the shit out of our head that you need to be sitting on a pillow with like, incense burning, and essential oils and mala, like, my best meditations in my car. I'm on lunch break.

Brandon Handley 47:49
I'm so glad to say I was doing it yesterday, like in the car. Like I was, like, you know what, and it was very comfortable. I had like my own jams going. Also sound therapy because like, I can turn that off. I can turn the volume up and says like, I can set like theta waves in the car, right? And I'm sitting in a theta situation. So yeah, what is heaven right to you, and how would you get there?

Lindsey Garner 48:15
I think it's actually like, getting into a place. Where, okay, I'm going to describe this because my husband, I talk about this all the time. So we have two dogs. We have three dogs, but with an English bulldog. She's 11 she's kind of an asshole. She's grumpy. She bites people. Then we have Bojangles He's my dog. And he lives his life. Just like so fully. He's so excited to see you. He is so curious and just in joy all the time. And I feel like shorty, that's the grumpy asshole. She's on her like, first life Bojangles be like on his 77th he's had time to be like, Oh, don't do that. Now, okay. And you learn and you learn and you learn and I honestly, I think that it's it's an ability to have what we would consider to be like, a life. That is that where you're like, man, I am in this and I am Yeah, there's hard things but like it's okay. And you move through it. I really I think it's more than that. And I don't really think we have a concept of it. I think there's a way I could describe it. But I think it's like an ultimate sense of peace enjoy.

Brandon Handley 49:33
Yeah, I mean, so it sounds to me that you're kind of living your life as it is and finding those moments of connection. Yeah, would be to you a little bit like having and yeah, are you are you saying then that new could have heaven here on earth and not like Belinda Carlisle song but slightly different.

Lindsey Garner 49:58
Oh, way to go. Good work, Belinda Carlisle. Yeah, I do think that, uh, now I want to sing it, but I don't want that I don't want that immortalized in the podcast. My teenage daughter would be like, what are you doing? I am mortified. Although right.

Brandon Handley 50:19
Now, that's perfect. And I agree, I think that, um, I think that it is, and I think that it hasn't closed. But I think that, you know, kind of, the more that you meditate, the more that you focus on it, the more that you make that your intent and your purpose to find in your life, you know, by pop in, you know, heavens, in my Google search engine, it's a good chance that we'll find it right, at least I can dig, I don't know how many, how many O's I'm gonna have to go through to find the one that I like. But, you know, if we put that into our search engines, then we have an opportunity to find it. So, so grateful, again, for you for free to pop on. I've enjoyed getting to know you a little bit more. Enjoy, you know, thank you for the conversations that we get to have online and thanks for the conversations that you have with with Meg, I know that you get to act as a as a translator, for what I'm saying. It's true, because once he gets to translate what it is I'm saying the mag normal language. And it's a challenge, right? Because I'm so immersed in it right and and, you know, as the idea of you become what you eat, right? And if all you're taking in is this content, that's all I can come out. And we get to I get to a point and I know that I'm not the best with it, but I sometimes I do forget, you know where I came from like this is I've always been connected to source.

Unknown Speaker 51:53
No.

Brandon Handley 51:55
No. The other day when you're being asshole you weren't connected? You're totally not.

Lindsey Garner 52:00
Yeah, I really honest part of why I write is because I am terrible at communicating my husband. And if you got it helps a lot. He's like,

Brandon Handley 52:09
I mean, that's why we have 90% of our conversations on Facebook, right? Like, that's where we catch up. She'll come in and she'll come in and let me know something's going on. But yeah, I read that, like, two hours ago, we're all caught up like, I'm on your feed from but so so again, very grateful for you coming on today. I'm glad that we got the chance to have this conversation. Where should I send people to go hang out with you? which defines

Lindsey Garner 52:33
Yeah, go read my blog. I think that's a good way and then yeah, I mean, it's it's a it's a baby blog, because they do it very much on the side and I would love one day to make that thing that is bigger and then I can do on a larger scale. So yeah, go and tell me what you want me to say and start a conversation I hate small talk. So yeah, just like drop some really awkward awesome deep shit in there my best day

Brandon Handley 53:00
when somebody so you've also got the chat function there, you know, outside of some deep shifts that you want some people to drop their what you know, what are some other things that somebody might feel reach out to you for?

Lindsey Garner 53:15
Anything that I read connects you in? You're like, man, how did you do that? I'm not here to tell you like this was easy. It took me like 10 years to figure this shit out. But I can be a partner and a sounding board and nothing annoys me more than an advice giver. So I will not give you advice but there is face always face to just be where you are. And then maybe sometimes like a gentle nudge, be like okay, you've been where you are a little too long time. Let's do this.

Unknown Speaker 53:41
Like right after you get the fuck out.

Lindsey Garner 53:43
Yeah, sir. I know a way.

Unknown Speaker 53:47
Right? Yeah. Yeah. Awesome. Awesome. Okay, thank

Unknown Speaker 53:51
you.

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AYRTS CHAPTER 8 PART 2

Published: May 20, 2021, 11:06 a.m.
Duration: 18 minutes 31 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
All right, and welcome back. Welcome back to we are on Sreekumar. Rouse, are you ready to succeed, unconventional strategies for achieving personal mastery in business and life. Last we left off, we're in chapter eight, you always act in your self interest. And we finished up we did a little bit of the dropper camera exercise. And we got ourselves, I told you, there's a couple pieces in here that I think are really exciting, really cool, really cool concepts to think about. And that is the idea that the universe is a force multiplier. So if you're not familiar with what a force multiplier is, in military parlance, a force multiplier is something that greatly enhances the effectiveness of any weapon or military tactic. Bombs are effective, absolutely. precision guided bombs are more effective, really sure are. precision guided bombs that are led to their exact destination by a spotter on the ground with a laser targeting device are order of magnitude more effective. The ground spotter is a force multiplier, and because of him, that's, you know, infinitely more powerful, right? So the idea that we're gonna look at today is kind of the idea of new apply how you can how you can apply this, this force multiplier for your own benefit. We've seen it earlier happen that to the degree when we went through the gratitude practice, or PTO, maybe you didn't listen to the other ones, and you've already got a gratitude practice, then you've seen through that gratitude practice that there are going to be more things showing up for you in your life that are,

Unknown Speaker 1:56
you're just more grateful for.

Brandon Handley 1:59
The thing is that this happens both ways. This happens with your negativity, as well. And this can happen most often we see this in maybe the workplace, he refers to going through kind of talking about an I hate my job area, and you know, just listen, we all we all, you know, kind of hate our jobs and, or for some reason or another. But then the idea is, you know, basically what you're doing is you're sending these signals out to the universe, to give you more of kind of what you're asking for the idea of the universe being a force multiplier, always take a look at it in the way that the tourist field, right, this kind of, you know, energy that surrounds you that comes in and out and in and out. And now, we'll deal as it comes out of a core, right comes out of us kind of a core, you're sending it out and it goes out it gets bigger and bigger than it slips right back in and just really does the job real real well. And, you know, just just gets right back to you. The idea again, of the what you send out to universe returns. Another person that comes to mind as I think about this is neville goddard, if you haven't checked out neville goddard, lots of great content. old, old school mystic, well, you know, from the 1900s, or the 2000s, whatever, how are you? How have you worked that stuff out, but he's got a really good lecture called sow seeds of success, I've just recommend that you check that out. The idea, again, is that you're going to be sowing seeds of success in your mind versus these seeds of negativity. So see yourself being successful, see what you're doing as successful. And eventually, they're, you know, that breeds success. So how to treat your job and make your job fuel a little bit more rejuvenating. Essentially, if I recall correctly, the idea is, you're gonna go through your day. And you're going to look at doing things in a way where you catch the moments that you're grateful for, maybe you got some cool people that you really like working with, maybe you got a place where you can grab some coffee, maybe there's a water cooler, I don't know, maybe the bathroom is clean. Maybe maybe the heat, it's warmer, when you go into work that is at your house,

or vice versa. During the summer, it's cooler during the summer and just right for yourself. So the idea to, again, focus on what's right in your in your place of work. And just do it as often as you can. The other idea, too, that he mentions in here is that there's a vast web of connections, right with customers, vendors, communities, the public, the government, that you're a small part of right, everything that you do at your job really kind of goes out into the world anyways, regardless of how you do it. You know, it's going to kind of go out They're beyond you anyways. And most of the times we get caught up thinking about how it's, you know, you are just caught in this trap. And woe is me. And we talked about the me centered universe earlier. Well, now you're looking at this and I use, you know, how do you how do you make whatever it is that you're doing, beneficial for the rest of the world.

Unknown Speaker 5:24
And

Brandon Handley 5:26
one of the ways that I was able to do that in a previous job was to, you know, I got all pissy right. Before the book, I was like, Oh, I do is hit keyboards and click clack, click clack, I do is press buttons. And I was like, No, I mean, that's not what I do. What I do is at that point in time, I was selling hardware to internet companies that were providing the internet. And I was like, what I'm really doing is, I'm really helping to build the internet out there, making sure that like, everybody's got faster, better internet. And then we can do things like I'm doing right now share out videos, watch these videos communicate with each other from afar. So once I changed my perspective on what it was that I was doing, I was able to do with more ease, it was definitely easier for me to do my job. And I did it with a little bit more joy. He says the cathedral story, which I think is one that a lot of people are familiar with. And it's basically the idea of there's, you know, an architect walking or walking along a dusty road. And he comes up to three guys who are building out a cathedral talks to the first guy, first guys like, Hey, can you see what I'm doing here, I'm breaking rocks, because I do it, I do it to get paid, right? That's just my job is why I get paid to do. The second guy goes, I'll make the small stones that will go into the wall of the building. So I do it so I can feed my family, right, it's a little bit more purpose and a little bit more vision of what he sees himself doing there. The third guy goes, I'm hoping to construct this wonders Cathedral you see before you, when it's finished, people come from many countries to gaze upon its Marvels. So that guy sees the entirety of what it is that he's a part of. The architect comes back a few years later, and he's looking for each one of these guys, the first guy that was just crushing stones, he, he kind of passed off, I know he grew up, had a little family just kind of passed off away. And then the second guy, he he was able to find him and he was able to do you know he was doing, he was doing work. And he was living in modest comfort. And maybe he wasn't like super imaginative, but he was still known, well liked. And then the third guy, well, the third guy, he he was, he was famous and everybody knew who he was because you know, he just did everything he did with that kind of gusto. So the the gist of it is don't break, don't break, the rocks are going to all be a part of the team that builds a cathedral. And when you think about it, no matter what it is that you're doing, you're part of something much larger than yourself. And if you can find the purpose, but a purpose within what it is that you do, and how it gets out into the world that makes it all that much better. He also has an awesome line recorder has this great line in here that even the water bear in a caravan contributes to its success. And when you think about it, it's just like it's it gets so frustrating. And there's certain times when you're in a role. And you don't feel like you're playing the role to the best of its abilities, but you're still a part of the team, right? No matter who you are, what you're doing is part of the team makes it function as a whole. As the team that wins. It's never a single individual who makes it all happens. So no matter what you think about even the water bear in the caravan contributes to success. So always think about that one. So what can you do the kind of helps you, you know, bring a little more vitality and enjoyment into the role that you're doing. One of the one of the things that he recommends osric more recommends is that you learn a new skill in the part of the job that you enjoy. So I don't know, for me, part of what I have been able to do in previous positions, even though it wasn't my exact role was programming, and being able to code something. So you know, I spent about a month like learning different types of code and automation. So learning a new skill in the part of the job that you enjoy for a month at a time he recommends the other you know, do other things you so if you do that for a year, you know it's going to kind of pass by pretty quick and you're going to be kind of more in demand for exactly what it is that you're what you're interested in what's up but you go through these exercises where you know you find a new skill and you want to do that it's something that you enjoy and you just start learning a couple great places that you can do that are at Udemy place I love is Coursera I've taken plenty of courses there that are just fantastic. You know, everything from there's happiness studies International, the International Business School like India, learning how to learn parental studies, business, finance, psychology, whatever you're looking for you, there's a good chance you can find it, there are other ones I've taken over, there are

sales, there's a great sales course over there. So anything that you're looking to do to improve in yourself, that's a great resource, Coursera Udemy, Khan Academy, as so many different places that you can go to. So it says here, let's see what else, you know, essentially, you'll have an increased job satisfaction. He says, for about two reasons. One, you've acted in your self interest. But you've also expanded your understanding of self interest. And what you're really doing is using the law of increase and knowledge of the universe's force multiplier, to your advantage, right. It's pretty awesome how it all works out, and you can definitely kind of find yourself in enjoying your job and your life a little bit more. So do this, do this. And you know, at the beginning, you might feel like you're acting out a play, and it's not you, you might feel a little alien. And, you know, listen, the whole act as if thing and the best way I like to think about it is, you know, who's the future you that you, you see, that you're trying to resonate with, you know, viewer to project an image of who you want to be to the future. And you see that, you just close that gap resonate with that and start being that person today. You don't have to wait to be that person at a later date, you can do it anytime that you decide you're willing to just start that. You know, Tim, was it. So he says to like, you know, kind of do it like it's a method acting right? First, you may feel out of sorts, overtime, you will absolutely sink into your role. Think method acting. And the deal is just don't break character. If you're not familiar with method, actors just deal they, they just practice being that character for such a long period of time. So the other one, I think, is really a sneaky, clever one that he puts into, are you ready to succeed in chapter eight is this new take on networking, basically, you know, just to talk about the the idea that traditional networking is filthy, we go to these networking events are either to your, Hey, I know somebody that's going to be there that can do something for me, hey, there's going to be somebody there that I need to make a connection for me over to this person or that person. And to be honest with you, that gets like it's super exhausting, gets super tiring. And in the end, you don't you don't feel like your best, right, you can go you can go to some of these events. And do this, I've done it. And I've just come out of there just feeling tired and exhausted. And as if like I didn't, I wasn't nothing has dried, there wasn't a benefit to what I did not to myself were the people that that I was, quote unquote, trying to network with. The idea though, is to exercise and the idea is to pick five people that you'd like to cultivate, or they can be anywhere they can be people you already know. They can be friends or relatives, business acquaintances are fellow hobbyists. And really, you want to figure out like, what is it about that person that resonates within you, kind of jot that down. And then you know, let them know how they've impacted you and your life and shoot them a note, be 100% sincere right from your heart. And if it's not, if it's not from the heart, it's really not going to work out. Ideally, you're going to find a specific way that what it is that you do or have the capability to do, can benefit them and offer some of that to them. One of these that he recommends is that you learn through a company newsletter that an executive in another department is trying to organize a group to adopt an inner city basketball team, offer to join him and also to recruit others. So what can you do that just really helps somebody along their journey. So you can reach out to them any way you want. emails, super easy, Facebook, Instagram, anywhere, anywhere, anywhere, you can connect with these people and you truly you know, are looking to make an effort to help others. That's gonna make all the difference in the world. And when you when you do this, when you go through these exercises, when when when you when you act from this place of sincerity when you go to help these people in a truly genuine way. You're going to actually end the day, feeling energized lead this process of going to help others in a way that is, you know the benefit to it, but that's not really why you're doing it yourself. Somebody else grow or flourish are participating and helping that happen. And that's generally just going to, it's going to make you feel good, right, it's going to make you feel good. And at the end of the day, you can end up being actually more excited and more filled with energy than, than any other time you go to a networking event, the traditional way, and just kind of burn yourself out. And the idea is, you're not really trying to form any specific network,

right, this network is he talks about goes this, you know, if you're trying to form a network, it's going to require much effort and gameplay, right, that's what I was talking about filthy hands, it's kind of like, your network will form with little conscious thoughts devoted to it, and it will be exceedingly strong. And I can tell you, from firsthand, going through this exercise, it leaves them at least in part and doing doing some of this stuff where you reach out and you sincerely help others with without any expectation of return. I think that's key, right, your your or without any expectation of them, you know, how they receive whatever it is that you're delivering. So first of all, you get to feel like really good to do what you're doing, because for some reason, it just feels good, you're doing the right things for the right reasons. And then, you know, if, if isn't received in the way that you'd you would hope that it was received. That's okay. Like, it's really okay. You know, don't don't sweat it, just know that you did the right things for the right reasons. And

Unknown Speaker 16:37
be cool with it.

Brandon Handley 16:39
And I can tell you, again, from personal experience It Like It, it, it's awesome, right, you're gonna get you're gonna get something in return. And it doesn't even necessarily have to be from that person. Or any anything that you're directly involved with, it could come from any other different space. And, and you'll, you'll again, feel I want to say powerful, but like really just feeling that you're, you're alive, right? You're doing something that that's, that's a way to not necessarily it is it, I guess we look at us making a living, right, you're making a living in that way. So I'll leave you with this. The idea is a virtuous circle beats a vicious cycle any day. And that's a great line out of that. And that new take on networking would be again, a virtuous circle beats a vicious cycle any day, get rid of the traditional networking, and try to incorporate this sincere network building where you can go find people that you're excited to be around, find people that you really want to help out, and help them be successful. For the reasons that are to just simply see them be successful, what can you do to help them out. So that's gonna do it. We finished up chapter eight on this one, and we've only got one more chapter to go and I'm looking forward to finishing that up with you. I certainly finished it up myself. I'll go through with the notes together. But it just really enjoyed you guys hanging out with me going through this journey. And looking forward to sharing. Like I said, chapter nine and once this course starts with Sreekumar, sharing kind of what I've learned through there. Alright, take it easy.

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AYRTS Chapter 8 Part 1

Published: May 19, 2021, 9:06 p.m.
Duration: 10 minutes 6 seconds

This one was a battle!

The audio on the intro was messed up, so I clipped it out to spare you... that being said, enjoy!

Brandon Handley 0:00
Let's hop into it. Let's hop into it. Part Two, the first part here talking about the chapter eight, you always act in your self interest. Everyone does, right. So the opening talks a little bit about how you essentially carry a lot of guilt and blame, you know, everywhere that you go out, and he talks, he lists a number of different ways that you do this. And, you know, a couple of different ways that you'll do this would be, you know, kind of beating yourself up for bingeing a Netflix series that, you know, you shouldn't have bins, or maybe, you know, you've gone off off of that diet that you've been working on, or maybe there was a was an important interview, that didn't work out quite the way that it was. And then there's another one. So you blame yourself for all those things. And then, then there's the other piece of blame, right, where you blame your parents for kind of who you are and where you are today. And things like that, or your spouse's significant others, and other people who may have ruined your lives, right? Children, relatives, co workers, it's all their fault. They just talks about the idea that these are really terrible burdens to carry. And I love the idea that he talks about when you're carrying those that you're not free to pick up some of the better things in life and keep it short. You know, the good news is really, you can let go of these things. And we're going to walk through a little bit of how that gets done. So we start off with the idea of laws of nature, and the idea that they are fixed, and immutable. Right. So gravity is an example of a law of nature. And the idea of it is that you really don't blame gravity when something happens. And the story that he tells in this book is the idea that you've gone out and you've got this magnificent camera, you're out there taking pictures, next thing, you know, you turn around, and you drop the camera, right? you're you're you're you're going to be upset first show what show you're going to be like, man, maybe I should have gotten that. Maybe I should have gotten that insurance, I but the thing is, you're not going to be pissed at our gravity for doing what is just done, right? Ideally, you're gonna you're gonna work to shape your life around gravity and kind of what happens in it. And, you know, so how does that look, you know, that looks like you've got a, you've got a strap right? around that super expensive camera, it's around your neck. So you know, you do you at your house, your ceiling has a certain pitch, so that the water, the snow goes off in a certain direction, you know, at the park of a car, can we park in the car at the top of the hill, use the emergency brake, and you've got the parking brake, all these all these are examples of ways that you shape your life around this natural law of gravity, talks about the idea that there is another natural law. And that is the law of self interest. And once you learn a little bit about what this law of self interest is, you will cease blaming others and you will cease flaming your self, quite exciting to know that there's a way to release these things that you've kind of been putting out there on everybody, including yourself. So what is the law of self interest, the law of self interest is, drumroll please, everybody, at all times, always acts in his or her perceived self interest. All right? Again, everybody, at all times, always acts in his or her perceived self interest. Now, you may disagree a little bit, you may list out all the different things that you do for everybody else. That the Justice though is if you look at it directly, you're going to realize that what you do is because you you got like this schematic, you've got a blueprint, you've got the certain way that you believe that you need to be one of those ideas is being a parent and creating that lunch for your child in the morning. And you know, I've certainly done this, but you know, the the outside, you know, we see, well, you know, I'm doing it because I want to have a healthier lunch I want to I want X, Y and Z to happen. But the truth of the matter is, is that I'm doing it because I have this certain way that I feel like I am and in order for me to fit within this. This paradigm. Then I've got it I've got to do I've got to make this lunch and I'm doing it and really almost as much as my self interest is anything else.

You know, another place that another place that you'll see this is, you know, maybe there's a hard luck story going on maybe, maybe there's a hurricane or there's a relief fund. And hey, you know what you go when you donate to that, because it makes you feel good, makes you feel good to give. And it's because it's because you've got yourself and this certain category of the idea that you're a compassionate person. And in order to act within that schema, within that certain degree, you've got to donate otherwise, I mean, you're not that person that you feel like you are, right. So again, you are working within your own self interest, even if you are out there giving to others, right, you're giving to others, because that's what you feel complete who you are, that, you know, that makes you feel like you're a good or better person. And, you know, it's really not a secret that the idea of philanthropy is to cater to the egos of the wealthy, by demonstrating that they can make a difference. Right? Truthfully, you're still acting in your own perceived self interest. And once you once you realize this, it can become, he says, a wonderful, and liberating, even if it doesn't seem that way first, because at first, you're still kind of you're walking, you're walking through your own. You're kind of walking through your own minutiae, as it were, was that is that right? I don't know, I don't know if that's exactly the right way to say it, is the idea. So if you act like this, if you're acting like this, in your own best perceived self interest, and everybody's doing it, you, you can kind of stop feeling guilty about it for yourself, and then you can also start to see it in the, in the, in the through through that lens, realize that, yes, that person may be doing it in their self interest, but everybody does. So you can kind of stop beating them up for it, right? Like, you know, blaming, you know, your parents for doing what they've done. And, again, a lot of times, as a parent, I can tell you, like, I don't want my children to do X, Y, or Z. Because sometimes that's almost a reflection on me. And, or B because, you know, I'm raising them to be a certain way. And, you know, if they, if they don't, you know, kind of do that, then do I withhold something from them, right. And then so later in life, they're gonna blame me for, you know, for example, my youngest son wants me to take take them to do like, axon is like, nine. I was like, well, maybe maybe not. Right, but, you know, come to a point later in life where he's like, you know, I could have been an amazing actor or something, my father, but he'll have to understand that I was just looking out for his, you know, kind of all the self interest, right? So in terms of when it when it comes time to blame your parents for anything, they're really just out there doing even though it's their best interests, are they looking out for you, too, anyways, you know, gets convoluted, I guess, if if you if you kind of walk it all out with the the the general ideas like everybody is acting in that same way, right. So if your parents were doing it, back, then it just let it go. You're doing it now, I promise you, you got a little sloppy in there. But I hope you followed the gist. The idea really is, again, everybody's doing it, you're not the only one, don't beat yourself up for yourself, if you do it, and don't be somebody else up for doing it. Right? Just kind of understand that, you know, they're they're working it out

Unknown Speaker 8:47
in their own way.

Brandon Handley 8:49
So it talks about the exercise of kind of dropping the camera. And the idea is, you know, take a take a moment and think about three things you regret having done what should have and why didn't eyes, think of how when you did them, you were acting your proceed best interests. And today, with greater maturity, you may see clearly what you did not then that that you thought was in your best interest, but really wasn't just kind of goes to the idea of my Angelou line, you know, do do your best, do your best until you know better really is kind of what it boils down to. So we'll pause here on chapter eight, you always act in your self interest everyone does. And I will come back to it and we'll finish it up. We've got two more sections on it that I think are probably a couple of my favorite two. When I when I first saw them and even even when I first saw the residual continuous impact of them. By my fourth time of reading this book has been in itself a force multiplier. So we're going to the universe is a force multiplier. And we're also going to do a new take on networking. Come on back Chapter Eight. Get that right back on boy.

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Inches of Separation

Published: May 17, 2021, 12:01 p.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 21 seconds

Unknown Speaker 0:02
We live or is it memorized? gonna apologize ahead of time. If the sound is up to its usual standards, not up to teasle standards. That's because we are leaving. We're leaving Brazilian jujitsu. This is the BJJ report it I didn't didn't make it in last week for for any number of reasons. One was what was the reason? What were some of the some of the reasons some of the things I said to myself, I mean I could have come Wednesday morning I just didn't. And then I've gotten my second COVID shot on Wednesday. And I was recovering from that I don't think I was too sick but I also didn't want to I didn't want to wake up or stress myself out to get into it. And then what happened Saturday that I just again, could have made it

Unknown Speaker 1:10
just made the decision to do a couple of things instead that was to run around the family and just kind of enjoy the day we did a lot of we did a lot of running around to check out

Unknown Speaker 1:23
houses it's not the impossible houses to drive around the area went to a farmers market so I grabbed some veggie plants for Mugu. I'm calling it my gorilla garden you know we live in we live in a townhome now is a Jo A's and you can't just can't just go thrown up kids goes off a garden anywhere you want. And so got all kinds of plans got that put together. And then also we have a restaurant stores not too far away and one hit that up because somebody's given us a pizza oven to to check out gasps our pizza oven. And we're really excited to give that a shot. So the best flower to use didn't know this was going to be a cooking show. Did you see that flower to use when you're making peace with those is this high gluten flour. Do that instead of trying to add sugar to make it a little bit easier to use the ETS really enjoy that gluten. And that's usually why people put all extra sugar into their flour while they're making pizza, those so these can just go haywire. However, the gluten extra glutens make it a little bit a little bit to hear a little bit puffier a little bit nicer. So I had to go do that, didn't I and you know, got all kinds of extra goodies from the restaurant supply store system. system was fun to to hit one of those. If you've got one nearby and you enjoy cooking, and you haven't done it yet, I can't. I can't recommend it enough. It's like being a kid and the playground. So what did we take away from BJJ today BJJ today was they call nogi. What that means is that typically, you know, typically when I go to Brazilian jujitsu, there's this uniform, there's these, these these leggings and then there's this, there's this really kind of coarse and heavy top kimono, like maybe just now that you put on and about. And this gives you something to grab on to this gives you some type of sometimes even defense because as somebody who's going to choke you or do something else sometimes sometimes it's just enough of that ghee in there to let you survive. Also when when somebody else's when he gives you something to pull on to choke, gives you something to hold on to to get grips to keep them pull close to you. So you can direct them you can grab their collars, you can grab their sleeves, you're able to grab the cloth at their at their knees and kind of pull down and there's a lot of a lot of ways that you are able to control or be controlled via the GI also with the GI like I talked about all that extra space and that can prevent someone from getting a move like we learned today or protecting actors in those which is called Today we've practiced companies called Anaconda which is a has an arm choke. And only one called the doors to my arch nemesis, the doors, which is another head and arm show. And, for me, my arms are the normal size. But it makes it a challenge to get these moves to to execute these moves when everybody's in a GI, so if you're wearing a GI outerwear and a GI swooping to give you that darce get your hands on so it's hard for me to as presented Anyways, I'm sure there's plenty of techniques, I'm sure there's money was made edit. But it's hard for me as I know it today. To execute if everybody's wanting to geek, my jammies, there's just a little bit of fabric wrapped around, but it's not super tight. It's not like it's not like thinking of whatever they wear, when they're fencing, it's always this big, puffy, quilted thing. But it does make it a challenge. They call it they call Brazilian Jiu Jitsu,

Unknown Speaker 6:14
it's like a game of inches. And it really is. So when I go when I go to hit my gonna hit that doors when I go to hit that Anaconda. And there's a there's an extra half inch to an inch of fabric all scrunched up between the two of us. I'm hard pressed, real hard press to hit that real hard pressed to hit that. So there's a thought for me as I was loading into the car to head home today is to this if you just remove the smallest of your obstacles and anything the smallest of obstacles, as this is spirituality. Based in this podcast? What's the smallest obstacle that you can remove between yourself? And we'll call it God the universe spirituality? What is what is the what is the smallest thing you can remove? To get you closer to that what is what is the one what are the tiny pieces that are keeping you from executing, stepping closest to what you want to move closest to. And, again, game of inches, I still recall my first Brazilian Jiu Jitsu match the tournament where the guy literally got me down and wasn't in the best defensive position. But he wrapped up my wrapped up my hips and slowly like inched up my body and pulled me into position had me in a padded ear basically flattened out on the ground. And all you do is like lift up my head just ever so slightly. So he could flip his arm underneath my neck to choke me. And these are small pieces that I'll never forget, because of just what we're talking about these these these inches, these small spaces, the small things that allow us to execute. I say allows to execute. And the reason I say that versus could have been the smaller pieces that allowed me to defend and stay where I was. The idea is that we spend a lot of our times defending where we are today. So that we can stay where we are today or defending what we have today, so that we don't lose what we already find to be so valuable, or at least defending what we already have. And oftentimes, we've only really, really like once you've got that much you just you're just afraid of the alternative. And that alternative could be in your mind, death and destitution whereas the alternative could really be what's right in front of you, what do you what do you what do you really want and you don't go after what you really want because you've got this thing that you barely even want. You've got this other thing that you're afraid to let go of, against the smallest thing that you can let go of that allow you to get to where you want to be is kind of the idea of today. So what is what is your game adventures? Where Where do you want to see yourself that? If it is spirituality? What is it that you could be doing? What could you let go of? What thought? What belief? What thing? What action could you let go of so that you could be closer to God be closer to Universal source energy is, I guess another way to another way to term it. And I term it that way, simply because that's been my experience, my experience has been if I let go of everything, if I let go of something as simple as breathing to my chest, versus breathing to my gut and belly, I can feel a difference in the energy sources that surges through me, I know that sounds a little goofy.

Unknown Speaker 11:07
But it's so true to release, the tension in my upper body allows me to relax more and feel more at ease. And more and more at ease in life, then I'm more likely to feel the source that is always flowing through me always available, always that will always, always there to flow through me, naturally, and it's not forced. Right. So again, just letting go of some small things, other small things that I've noticed that if I let go of them, again, I'm more relaxed, I'm closer to feeling a source and being at ease at peace. Something as easy as when I'm reading a book or reading a book. My fingers are pressed up so hard against the pages sometimes. And I think to myself, like, wow, do I really need this much pressure on these book pages to keep them from trying, right, probably something in the subconscious of the child that says, hey, you got to don't let that page turn right does is like there's a stress, keep it on that or a did a great job on that page, shut that. Again, small things that are going to allow you to get to where you want to be. By simply by removing all the things that you're already doing anyways, that's kind of the thought BJJ reports this morning. As soon as I open up the door, and I thought I thought about the idea and communicate it to you hopefully, you're having a great day. Hopefully, you're getting something out of these. What is it again that that maybe you can let go of gets you closer to your own spirituality, your own sense of being your own kind of at ease.

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Tom Paldino | Healing with Scalar Energy

Published: May 16, 2021, 11:47 a.m.
Duration: 46 minutes 14 seconds

Tom Paladino is a scalar energy researcher based in Florida. Scalar energy is the fundamental life force found everywhere in the world, space, and universe. It originates from the sun and stars. Chi, prana, OM, mana, life force, pyramid energy or zero-point energy are synonymous terms for scalar energy.

He theorized that all energy in the universe initiates as scalar energy; and that the sun of our solar system and the stars of the universe are the points
of origin, “the storehouses,” for scalar energy. He further theorized that scalar energy is instructive energy, as the entire universe is instructed by
this Divine Essence. Subsequently, all spiritual, cognitive, emotional and physical action in the universe is initiated and maintained by scalar energy
instructions. Scalar energy provides order in the universe.

Where can you connect with Tom?

Insta @scalarlight

FB @light_scalar

YouTube @TomPaladinoScalar

Brandon Handley 0:00
Go 54321 Hey, there's spiritual dope I am on today with Tom Paladino. Tom is a scalar energy researcher based in Florida. scalar energy is the fundamental life force found everywhere in the world space and universe. It originates from the sun and stars ci prana. On manna, lifeforce, pyramid energy or zero point energy are synonymous terms for scalar energy. Thomas theorized that all energy in the universe and this G's a scalar energy and that the sun of our solar system and the stars in the universe are the points of origin, the store houses for scalar energy. He further theorizes that scalar energy is instructive energy as the entire universe is destructed by this divine essence. Subsequently, all spiritual, cognitive, emotional and physical action of the universe is initiated and maintained by scalar energy instructions. scalar energy provides order in the universe, man, it's awesome. I've never heard about it until we connect it. So thanks for Tom for introducing scalar energy in this form to me.

Tom Paladino 1:12
Thank you, Brandon, thanks for the opportunity to speak on your podcast

Brandon Handley 1:16
100%. So I always like to open these up with the idea that, you know, we as human beings are vessels for this divine energy, right. And that's kind of what what's coming through us is meant for these explicit moments, you and I know we're gonna get something from this and the person who's listening to this podcast, there's a specific message that they're going to get that could only come through Tom palatino, what is that message today?

Tom Paladino 1:45
Everybody possesses scalar energy, I have instruments but but even more importantly, your mind and your heart are scalar energy vessels. And as we get into this discussion, you'll see how important it is to think highly of yourself and highly of others, and to have a good heart. Because your mind and your heart trajet transmit scalar energy. It's so important.

Brandon Handley 2:13
It's so great. I love the fact that I mean, you're scientifically based, right? You know, you've got the instruments, and you've got the tools. And you've got these use cases and factual applications, versus me who just certainly sits in here in my room and just tells everybody that they can, you know, do what they want and feel how they feel. And it's going to impact them, right. So you've got you've got tests, you've got things that you actually showing up for the one that's what I think is great, right? This is just it's kind of the pinnacle of, you know, science meets, you know, divine nature slash energy. And oh, yeah, by the way, it works.

Unknown Speaker 2:55
Yes,

Brandon Handley 2:55
I like so how did you? How did you find yourself in this space?

Tom Paladino 3:00
I was always intrigued by what what some I called metaphysics, that, you know, the blending the merging of science and religion, science and religion, as far as I'm concerned is, is an equivalence, it's the same, it's just a different way of looking at reality. So, as a youngster, I started to study Nikola Tesla, the great scientist, and he was a mystic, but he also was a scientist. And he really could blend those two worlds. And that's why he's so prolific. That's why he his work was so monumental, because he didn't discount any approach. He accepted reality as it is, he had no preconceived notions, to discount something, he was an open vessel, if you will. And I want to be an open vessel, I want God just to help me and to show me the way. And as long as you don't put any impediment, he will do so. And you'll see how you can become a prolific inventor or, or theorists, if you will.

Brandon Handley 4:03
So you brought up the idea of impediment. And I think that I've heard you say this a little bit. I'm listening to one of the other podcasts. What would some impediments be?

Tom Paladino 4:15
Every everybody has an impediment. And the role has created those impediments. And sometimes sadly, we've bought into it. And you can't limit yourself. Don't let the road limit you don't limit yourself. People have unlimited potential. But you know, some people say they we live in a box and in many ways we do. don't define your life by by the way others want to place you in that box, you really have to live outside of that box. And you have to follow the truth. I've always prided myself and in following the truth, if you will. And I realized I'm iconic classic. I realize I'm cutting edge. But that's what it has to be. You can't necessarily Run with the pack all the time. The pack is not necessarily correct.

Brandon Handley 5:05
Yeah, no, it's funny, right? Like, I've never been a big fan of the pack. I'm not sure whether or not that served me or not to date. But it sounds like you know, again, it's, it serves you and allowing you to, to follow a path less traveled and finding some pretty, pretty exciting spaces and places. So you tap into Nikola, and you realize that he's open, nothing is left out. And then, you know, what are what are some of the next steps, right, like walking through, like even bringing this up to your family and saying, Hey, you know what? I found this thing called scalar energy. And I'm all in what's your family saying to us? I mean, where are you? What's happened at that time in place?

Tom Paladino 5:50
Well, God bless my parents are no longer with us. But they always looked at it with a critical eye, if you will. They were really, really not too keen on this, because they just didn't understand it. And I have a very supporting wife she's fully in. And thank God for that. But if you will, what am I describing? I'm describing a new technology. It's technology where we can harness the sun's energy or the stars energy. And many people think that that that is just a little bit too esoteric, then how could you possibly do that? Well, Nikola Tesla did that and was very successful. And in many ways, I'm walking in his footsteps. So it is a new and emerging science. It's the new way of looking at reality. And I consider myself a trendsetter. There's not many people on the planet that are doing what I'm doing. So for now, I stand alone. But I know that this will pay big dividends in the future, and then eventually, the world will see the merit of this research. So I'm at the vanguard, I'm happy to be at the Vanguard. I can't say that there's many people are following in my footsteps or the footsteps of Nikola Tesla, because it's, it's so laborious. And it's so difficult, and it's hard to get people to even convince people that this type of energy exists.

Brandon Handley 7:14
So how have you been able to confirm that you're continuing Tesla's work? Right? Right?

Tom Paladino 7:22
Well, it came to my observation that test the leader in his wife was not working with electricity, he himself said he was working with non hurting energy, meaning it's not electricity, it has no frequency. And that's what I'm working with this energy. scalar energy does not have a frequency, it's nine hertz. And so in that sense, I'm following in the footsteps of Tesla, Tesla had scalar energy instruments, I have scalar energy instruments. What's my point? Well, if you can go back to whoever the series of events that brought upon the computer that was quite unique, you know, there are many people who could lend their hand to that. But nonetheless, it was, at one time, it was a new science, that new and emerging science, and that's where we're at right now with scalar energy. There's very few researchers, it's the new and emerging science. I know I'm on the right track, I know that I have bonafide scalar energy instruments, and what I really want to inculcate is this, it's not electricity. I'm working in a different dimension. This is what it's hard for people to understand. It's not electricity.

Brandon Handley 8:36
Tom, so non hurts in? And I'm just trying to let you know, right? I'm thinking of radio waves and frequency, if it's not hertz, and does that mean that there's like, there is no upper down amplitude or anything like that. And that is just it's available kind of at all times.

Tom Paladino 8:56
It's the matrix it permeates the universe.

Unknown Speaker 9:02
The universe.

Brandon Handley 9:05
So we're already kind of immersed in it, we look at it like more like almost like holographic technology.

Tom Paladino 9:11
Exactly. Okay, universals holographic. So in a hologram, there really is not point A and point B. Everything is one point.

Brandon Handley 9:21
Right?

Tom Paladino 9:22
There's terms that you use, such as quantum entanglement, meaning what that everything is connected pre connected. So if you will, let me use this analogy. If you're looking at the East Coast of the United States and the West Coast, those are two different regions. New York City is not LA. In the electromagnetic spectrum. Those are two cities in the scalar energy spectrum, New York and Los Angeles are connected. They are pre connected, meaning what it's a holographic representation of the United States. It's no longer that can be plotted out on the grid system. No, everything is one point. It's quite profound.

Brandon Handley 10:04
I love that. Right? So there's no time and space in that. And then my interpretation, my understanding is that in a hologram, all information is contained in any single point of information. Yes. Okay. Really? Okay. So, so, so scalar energy is is, is all about there is no. Is it is it? Is it right to say that there is no specific, like variants in it, right? Like it's one size, energy that fits all type of thing.

Tom Paladino 10:46
Yes, that's it. That's a nice way of describing it. It really is the mind of God, what some people call consciousness, you've heard that time consciousness, what does that refer to? It refers to information field, a universal holographic information field, that's what I'm working with. Now, you could you could see why if I had my druthers, the entire road would be on scalar. Because it's an infinite source of energy, it's kind of obvious.

Brandon Handley 11:15
Here's what I liked about too, I heard your account, like I said, I listen to a couple of your podcasts. And one of the things that I really enjoy is like, you know, I'm working to, you know, maybe branch out and you know, connect with a few 1000 people, right? And and what is your vision for your practice, if you could share that with the audience,

Tom Paladino 11:34
I want the world to convert to scalar energy, it's a much superior technology than that of electricity. And once we have this new technology in place, it will really forward the human race, this is really going to help to advance mankind. So if you look, look at our trajectory, look, look how mankind has has progressed over the centuries. And technology is one of the tools that really have made our lives enjoyable, affordable, comfortable. I'm saying that scalar energy is the next quantum leap, you know, the pun intended scalar energy is going to be the game changer for us. So your your, your your goal, your mission is to impact slightly more than 1000 or a couple 1000.

Brandon Handley 12:22
Your goal is to impact the entire planet. Yes,

Tom Paladino 12:27
that's my gut,

Brandon Handley 12:27
which I love. I love that right? Um, yeah. And and the fun thing is, is there's no reason why that's not possible. Right? Right. If we look at the grand scheme of things, you're leveraging universal cosmic energy, which is the entire, you know, currently known universe to worldly, right, which is like this speck of dust. So why not? Why?

Tom Paladino 12:59
Why not? Why not reach for the stars? Why think small Think Big? Right?

Brandon Handley 13:05
Right. Right. So the tools that you've developed? How are they able to, you know, how many people can your current tools impact at one time? Well,

Tom Paladino 13:20
I want to make this clear. When I work with people, I work with them by way of a photograph. Now, what do I mean people email me their photographs, and they I connected them in the quantum realm, there is no physical connection. It's all informational. So to answer your question, my instrument can easily work with 2030 40 million people a day by way of a photograph. Now you see why I'm thinking big scanner energy instrument can send energy by way of a photograph to 20 30 million people in one day.

Brandon Handley 13:54
Yeah. So what Yeah, and I've heard some other stories, too, just the eradication of HIV, herpes, other viruses? You will Let's share a couple of those stories, I think, yeah, the story of how many people that did they went through an HIV study in Africa,

Tom Paladino 14:14
right, right. Well, let me lay the groundwork. With this instrument, I can control molecular forms atomic forms. So people will send me photographs and I can I can buy wave their photograph, I can identify a virus that they have, by way of the quantum field again, everything I do is by way of a photograph. So I have been receiving photographs from an HIV AIDS clinic in Delhi, India, and many of those people are HIV positive. And by working through their photograph, I can detect the HIV virus from their photograph and I can negate it, break it down, transmute it, call you call it whatever term you want upon the photograph. So my work is directly and exclusively to a photograph. Well, lo and behold, these people are going out and getting a test. Some of them are polymerase chain reaction tests. And after I work with these people, they find that they have no HIV. It's been eradicated. It's been fragmented. So you can't, you can't explain the apple by the orange, so to speak. And if my scalar energy instrument is working in one paradigm, scalar energy, it's hard to relate that and to substantiate that and then the electromagnetic spectrum. But the evidence is becoming overwhelming. If I can eradicate breakdown a virus by way of a photograph, that usually translates into better health for a person in the electromagnetic spectrum,

Brandon Handley 15:53
looking at reality, so you but but let's go back to you know, it was it was 50 people in the study, right? And how many of the 50 were you able to eradicate the HIV virus and

Tom Paladino 16:05
Oh, so far, everybody that had a test, everybody gone to get a test, all of those tests are negative, HIV negative. So again, let me put this in the context. I live in the United States, I've never been to India, but people from India send me their photographs, people are HIV positive. And after working with their photographs for a few months, many of those people will subsequently get a test the polymerase chain reaction tests and those tests come back negative.

Brandon Handley 16:36
and want to go back to kind of the beginning of the conversation, we said everybody can kind of do this. Right? How is does your tool like train the person to do it? I'm just kind of curious, like, how do you see that? Right?

Unknown Speaker 16:53
here's,

Brandon Handley 16:54
here's an, I'll bring it up for this reason. I'm like my sitting around, you know, Yogananda. Autobiography of a Yogi right. And one of the scenes, a couple of things, one of one of his masters in their chairs a person by giving like them a drop of oil, right, but the drop of oil is more of a prop. Right. So I guess the greater question would be, is it your machines? Or is it you, Tom? Who through your machines are curing people? Right? Yeah,

Tom Paladino 17:26
I would say it's, it's, it's God's energy. This is what I've discovered about scalar energy. I don't claim any healing ability myself, I believe what I've tapped into scalar energies, the divine energy, what? consciousness or or the gift of the Holy Spirit. I know people have holy healing hands, holy hammer, if you will, right. That's pure energy hands. So what I'm working with in and of itself is a healing property. scalar energy is a healing property. And when I send that scalar energy to a photograph, although it's symbolic, it nonetheless seems to have a healing property.

Brandon Handley 18:07
Right, right. Right. I mean, look, if it's working, I'm more of the I don't care how it works kind of guy. I mean, if you come up to me, and you cure me, like, I remember, who was it, it was the Wayne Dyer, you know, talking about crystals, right? And he's like, Listen, if I've got a if I've got hemorrhoids, right, and you told me that I sit on this crystal chair over here, and it's gonna cure my hemorrhoids, and I go sit on that crystal chair. Why wouldn't I? Right, right. Just like so just like this, if you've got if you've got a virus. And and let me go back to how quickly how much time does somebody need to be in treatment for that cure to occur?

Tom Paladino 18:52
what I've seen, it only takes one day, one session, one treatment of a photograph, because everything in this scalar realm is instantaneous. There is no time lag. Right? So all action is instantaneous.

Brandon Handley 19:07
And I know we haven't gotten to this part yet, but I mean, how much would it cost me today? If I wanted to sign up and get one day treatment?

Tom Paladino 19:19
Sure. We we break this down by 30 day sessions, our least expensive is $89. It's a ongoing session. And it's it we break it down into 30 day calendar days, if you will, right. And a lot of people opt for that because it's inexpensive. If they feel comfortable, it does enhance their spiritual, mental and physical well being I have to you know, accentuated This is also a spiritual emotional and mental uplift if you will. We see great results spiritually and cognitively.

Brandon Handley 19:58
Right. Let me when you when you talk about about dealing with divine energy. You got it? I mean, innately right there. It's spiritual, right? Like, I mean, there's Is there a Is there something required from DICOM patients clients? What do you call,

Tom Paladino 20:16
I call them subscribers. Appreciate that, because they're not patients. This is not Western medicine. I'm trying. I've tried so hard to distance myself from Western medicine, not that I don't believe in western medicine. But by virtue of the fact, I have nothing to do with Western medicine or Newtonian physics,

Brandon Handley 20:36
but it's a whole different paradigm.

Tom Paladino 20:37
Exactly. It's a whole different paradigm. So I don't want to compare myself, or latch on to some certain buzzwords where it's confusing.

Brandon Handley 20:46
Right, right. You also mentioned to the the idea of comparing the apples to apples and apples oranges. If I had to, though, what would the electromagnetic comparison beads to be able to weigh this thing out? Right? I mean, because look, if if I just made you off the streets, Tom, and I'm not like I'm and I'm not Captain spiritual, which I, which I already am, right? And I'm already a believer, like, it doesn't take much for me, but like for the non believer, like, what can how can how can we compare this? How can we help them to see that? The what's the benefit in it for them?

Tom Paladino 21:23
It's tough. Let me let me frame it this way. All energy begins initiated from the stars that scatter energy, it's a double helix. And then when that energy breaks down, are converts into electricity and magnetism, that's an inferior, that's a substandard energy. So if it's like Grade A or a Grade B, what do you want in life, I prefer grade eight energy, which is scalar energy, which is the primal energy of the universe, whereas electricity and magnetism is a derivative, a derivative of scalar energy, and it's inferior. Why work with gray? b? Why work with the inferior energy? I don't want to hate grade v.

Brandon Handley 22:07
So yeah, man, like, I mean, talk to me a little bit more about the journey, though, into it, right, like, so you got your parents that are kind of just believers are not necessarily just believers, but they're like, there goes Tom, right, with a scaler. You know, turning this into a career you've got, you've got an actual practice, as it were, you've got an office, you've got, you know, you run a business, right? So I gotta imagine there's some business loans here, there. There's, you know, some some people that you're trying to hire. And you know, there's some conversations and what

Tom Paladino 22:41
is some of that like, because I'm curious if it's the necessary component, if you're going to bring this out to the, to the public, I've been at this now for 40 years, I've only had a public website for 10 years. So the previous 30 years, I was acquired researcher, and I enjoyed that. But there's only so much you can do. So I said to myself, in order for me, really, to get this out to the general public, I have to demonstrate something that's going to help people I have to prove it. And that's why I brought the website on. Otherwise, I would continue being a quiet, not unrecognized researcher. Well, to answer your question, after 10 years, it has been quite laborious, a website, hiring people advertising, although I enjoy it, nonetheless, a podcast every other day. All of this is an effort, and it's time consuming. And this is what has to be done. Now, and again, I'm one of the few scalar energy researchers out there. So this is quite a novel topic to most people. So again, I'm leading the I'm at the vanguard of this movement, but just a few people.

Brandon Handley 23:53
So what's what's that space look like? Right now? How many people are invested in this? across the world?

Tom Paladino 24:04
I see a growing awareness to answer your question. It's a growing awareness. How intrinsically involved are people that's that's hard to say. But at least I see a growing awareness and what the next five to 10 years should experience should be really hyper growth or or people should at least become aware of this to the point that it should be a household word in the next 10 to 20 years. So we still have a lot of growth to go, but the tough part is over. I can I can see that. You know, we are riding the wave, there is a wave now finally.

Brandon Handley 24:40
Well, you know, I guess the other question, too, would be you know, you brought up Tesla who was a Marconi, who's your Marconi.

Tom Paladino 24:50
I admire tests. I admire all scientists, but nobody can hold a candle to test them. I studied what I mean

Brandon Handley 24:57
by that, right. So you remember like Marconi was the guy that It took a took the radio wave patent or the wireless technology patent, basically. And Tesla had already kind of figured it out. Like, there's got to be somebody else out, there's kind of maybe they're not stealing your stuff. But like, who would you say your peer is out there? Do you have a peer,

Tom Paladino 25:15
I don't think I have a peer at least I haven't seen it quite yet. I don't mean to be condescending, but it's so hard to invent these instruments, control them, and then to be able to administer this energy. You know, I always give people that analogy. Now, a couple 100 years ago, we knew that there was electricity, we would get a static discharge, but from a static discharge to controlling and harnessing electricity and a conduit in a in a home environment, and to be able to control it without hurting yourself that that could took some doing so that that, if you will that timeline was a rather protracted timeline?

Brandon Handley 25:58
No, you're right. I like it. I like in this type of energy to once you kind of tap into this divine source, right, very similar to what you say you can use it improperly. And you can do a lot of damage to yourself, how have you been able to harness it and focus it for for good? Yeah. What was that process like for you?

Tom Paladino 26:24
Like anything, this is a tool and the tool can be used for good or evil. And I'll start off by saying that. So what do I do with these instruments, I have a a pro forma, I have a technique and I never deviate from it. And the technique that I've developed is, is help the getting it it is it does enhance our help our quantum help. And that's the key to follow those parameters and stay within those parameters. Tessa sometimes would prefer to scatter energies, the ability to eliminate the world he considered it radiant energy, and he was going to provide free energy for mankind. So his instruments were much stronger than mine. And, and some people think that the military tried to persuade him to develop this for for the sake of weaponry. I don't know how far that went or, or if Tesla ever shared any information. But that's the potential here. This energy is so strong, and it's a fundamental primal force in nature. This could be one heck of a weapon.

Brandon Handley 27:35
Right, right. Yeah, if if I think some of the stories or documentaries that could be believed, like as soon as he died, right, like that his hotel room gets raided, and all the information is taken out. Right, right. The date, I gotta imagine that I got to imagine too. I'm not a super conspiracy theorist. Guy, but you know, it was him and Gosh, who's the other guy? Westinghouse. Edison, right, like the rivalry that was going on? And, and, you know, big business, if you're giving out free energy to everybody. I mean, what's that gonna do to all these other people that, you know, are kind of counting on right. And this is a monopoly era to where it's like, right that that was going on?

Tom Paladino 28:20
Yes, yes. And as the story goes, JP Morgan was a one time financier for Tesla. And according to the story, once, once Morgan understood that Tesla had a free energy device, that ended their relationship. He never got a penny again from Morgan.

Brandon Handley 28:40
Yeah, what a shame, what a shame. Um, you know, so much so much to dive down into about him. So I think some other questions I would have to a big part of this podcast is really, you know, kind of facing some of what you've had to face yourself already is kind of coming out with like, some of these non traditional beliefs and stepping into them, right, you open this up with one of those types of things where, like, you know, you surround yourself with positive energy and kind of move yourself forward through that. And you know, a lot of a lot of good things can happen for you. You did mention your children, how old are your children?

Tom Paladino 29:17
I have two stuck kids 30 and 31.

Brandon Handley 29:21
How do they How do they How are they with this for you?

Tom Paladino 29:26
They're fine, they understand it? Because they see that I'm grounded on a fairly grounded person. I'm not up to the clouds, and they see the merit and they realize that this is a scientific process. Now they've seen the laboratory. So this this is not, if you will, anything but a scientific approach. No,

Brandon Handley 29:48
I mean, great. And I love that. So have they, at any point, like tried to join you with the studies or anything like that?

Tom Paladino 29:56
No, and I'll tell you why. For one glaring reason I don't mean to be condescending to anybody. There's no money in this. There is no career.

Brandon Handley 30:07
We not an interest or cure a cure for the whole world. And there's no money.

Tom Paladino 30:12
No, no. As as of right now, no, I, I live hand to mouth rankly. And it's amazing how this is suppressed technology. Let's let's just cut to it. And if what I'm saying is true and accurate. Well, you would think that responsible parties from the government, academia, to corporations to think tanks would approach from not one,

Unknown Speaker 30:39
not one. Have you tried to approach any of them?

Tom Paladino 30:43
Yes, yes. And there's no interest.

Unknown Speaker 30:47
There's no way

Tom Paladino 30:48
to cut to the chase so many. And I'm not pointing out any specific government corporation or individual, but so many people are in lockstep with the status quo? Yeah, I

Brandon Handley 31:01
mean, there's the status quo, right, don't deviate from the norm. You know, that's kind of the old, old school, tribal, you know, scarcity, get thrown out of the getting thrown out of the tribe mindset. Right? If you if you deviate from from the norm. Do you have like, what the typical reason? I mean, I gather not interested but like, what do they say? They just say that that can't be real. There's no way Why would we do that? Like, what is the response?

Tom Paladino 31:31
Most people look at my results, I'm results driven, I believe in performance. And after they look at my results in performance, they usually, they usually keep their mouth shut, because they know that that there is performance, and they know that this is just not hyperbole, but they don't want to help. You know, in general, people and entities do not want to help me, because it's against the status quo. And this is a threat to the establishment. I can't stress this enough, scanner energy is going to make obsolete many of the existing monopolies. And what I'm doing is such a threat to those who have this monopolistic control over society.

Brandon Handley 32:16
Have you had anybody tried to, you know, kind of any such suppression, like, you know, just kind of like people trying to steal your equipment or break into labs kind of software? Like now I'm now I'm all in like, I'm just kind of like, you know, what can be happening? Because, like, you're saying, like, this is a technology that, you know, it's taking you years to build? I imagine that if somebody breaks in and, you know, messes with instruments that that's kind of set you back? Yeah, yeah.

Tom Paladino 32:43
But I have to rely upon God's help. And you know, I can't stress this enough. I'm, I'm alone, there is no second scatter energy researcher, there is no research term. You're looking at the research term, team.

Brandon Handley 32:57
Yes. I mean, God. So what do you mean? How are you going to propagate it? Right? How are you going to make sure that it enters

Tom Paladino 33:06
your right? I'm 61 years old, and I don't have a there is no protege. Nobody shows any interest in this. So the world has to embrace this within the next 20 years? Because I don't, I don't I don't know if I'll be around much longer. So with that in mind, this is the challenge. And I just take this day by day, it's all in God's hand.

Brandon Handley 33:34
So what if I don't know what somebody is listening to us today? And they're like, Hey, I'm totally interested in becoming a protege. I'm totally interested in becoming an understudy. Are you open to stuff like that?

Tom Paladino 33:45
I am with this caveat. You have to be financially secure, there's no money in this. I'm gonna repeat that there's no money. Remember to you have to be willing to study, perform independent study for 1020 years before before you really understand this? How many people are financially stable, or perhaps well to do and want to spend the next 20 years laboring with a science that's not recognized that might not pay any dividends? After 20 years of research? Very few people want to make that commitment.

Brandon Handley 34:26
is tragic. Right? Given given, given what you're saying and you've proven it can do that there's nobody else kind of willing to pick up and carry that torch with you. finance it or anything like that. That's, I mean, to me, that's, to me, that's mind boggling. Because we go back and you talked about the people getting cured from HIV, there's no news flashes. There's no you know, anything like that. There's nobody publicity like who's I mean, have you reached out to newspapers and anything like that what's happening there? What are the No,

Tom Paladino 35:04
they don't believe it. It goes against their grain. And he you have to consider many of these media outlets. They're funded by Big Pharma. They're funded by big oil. They're they're in bed with with big government now.

Brandon Handley 35:21
So what keeps you doing man? Well, what

Tom Paladino 35:24
do I tell people just just help get the word out? It's all grassroots. And you know, we've got some of the greatest technology in the world. It should be headline is it's not, it won't be. It'll all be grassroots. And that's why I appreciate your platform. Brandon, I appreciate what you're doing. That's what it's gonna take grassroots.

Brandon Handley 35:44
Yeah. I mean, it's just a different way of thinking. said it's possible. Right? And why not? I mean, the real question is, why not? Yes. Right. And if you're, if you're, if you've got studies and proofs and theorems, I mean, why not? That's, that's what's killing me. So, yeah, definitely a lot of fun. I'm sure we could probably, you know, go all over the all over his face with it. Um, let me help me. Um, so, one thing I was thinking about, right, as we're doing these, I almost think about these kinds of podcasts is as like, speed, dating, speed dating space, right? Like, you know, there. That's probably what it is, right, Tom? I mean, you know, somebody tunes in maybe they catch one or two words, eating somebody, whoever's picking up the podcast. Today, they're dating Tom palatino. Right. You know, so if we're, if we're going to speed date or something like that, what is, you know, find my questions, because I've got some and just top of mine, like, what's religion getting wrong today?

Tom Paladino 36:51
I think this the centerpiece of any, any religious movement should be love. And I'm sure there's problems in the bro. But if you keep it positive, you're gonna get over many of those problems. Let's face it, most of the problems in the world or man created, we've created these problems. So I see the problems in the real, what do I try and do I try and pray every day, I try and pray for world peace, I treat people fairly. And I try always have a productive day. As a researcher, I do my part. And I always reach out and and I'm working with people that the indigent around the world, I'm providing free sessions, because you know, the people in India that we spoke about, they don't have a dime to their name. So you have to give back to society. And there has to be a new way of living. And money should not be the common denominator. It's a shame that it's the common denominator.

Brandon Handley 37:49
No, I agree. I agree. One of the thoughts. And it's interesting, we have interesting conversations here at the house. Because my wife and I, we have new kinds of different upbringing backgrounds, right. And as I've grown older and older, the more I realized that we don't work, shouldn't be working, to earn money to be working to either kind of, you know, towards a meaning or purpose or adding value, right? And if I am at a job earning money, and it's a job that I don't love, then basically I should be looking at that as a paid internship, what can I learn at that job that I could use later in life? Right? to to do well, let's do one or two more questions of just kind of, you know, General, General stuff, you know, so what I was asking about in terms of, you know, bringing this to the forefront and talking about, you're sharing this information with your family. First, there's got to be some fear in there, right, that you were able to overcome and sharing that with them. Right. So

Tom Paladino 38:56
here, I have brand new, I have no fear because I've been around the block one many times I could care less what people think.

Brandon Handley 39:06
What what what does everybody else so afraid, often?

Tom Paladino 39:11
You know, sadly, this is a world that that depends on a conventional approach, conformity, and a lot of people don't realize they're conforming to something that's wrong. The paradigm is broke. Look at the world. There's a lot of brokenness. There's a lot of tragedy in the ropes, stop doing the wrong things. If it's not working, we need a new approach. If the model is broke, is broke. Try a new approach. Stop conforming. What is wrong? If it's wrong, stop it.

Unknown Speaker 39:45
Tom, if I'm conforming, how do I know what's wrong?

Tom Paladino 39:48
Well, you judge that by the results, obviously, you judge that by the results, you know, I have a very wonderful charmed life. I have a very productive life. I always Look to improve it, but I know that I'm on the right path. Because it works. I'm not in misery. I'm very happy. If I was miserable, that I would change something for the better, right?

Brandon Handley 40:12
Yeah. One of the things is not everybody's gonna see the video, I'm definitely gonna share the video out on certain platforms. But if you're not able to watch the video with Tom and I today, Tom, how do you again,

Tom Paladino 40:25
I'm 61 years of age,

Brandon Handley 40:27
man, you guys, I really want to look as good as Tom at 61 I'm just I'm just saying you know, Tom Tom, you got you got fresh skin, you've got like, You're, you're not sagging, you're not falling apart, you look like you're enjoying life. And I could only aim can only aim to, to get to that point, I'm going to tell you, for you,

Tom Paladino 40:47
I'm going to tell you a secret there. With scalar energy, I can assemble nutrients. So 22 hours a day, I have a process where I can create assemble nutrients, vitamins, minerals, antioxidants, my body is slowed down my aging process significantly. That's why I look this this way at age 61. I don't have sagging skin.

Brandon Handley 41:12
The the and that goes back to what scalar energy is is destructive energy. Is that correct? That's right. Correct. And, and so just by saying that, when you receive that energy that is instructive, creative force energy entering your body saying, we're gonna need, you know, we're gonna need like 99 sets of B, we're gonna need X, Y, Z of C and E and deliver these to Tom today. Is that is that, you know, a fair thing to say?

Tom Paladino 41:42
I I'm not suffering from the free radical damage that other people are. Because I'm under the care of scalar. All day long.

Brandon Handley 41:52
Nice. Nice. Love it. What is our greatest distraction? Tough?

Tom Paladino 42:00
It's hard. that's a that's a singular approach for everybody. I think I think with many people that their greatest distraction is they don't concentrate on themselves. If you just cut that make them selfish. Well, no, I wouldn't say so. I'm not I'm not excluding mankind, but try and do your best. And don't try to extrapolate too much to the road. You can't control the road. Trying to make you try to make yourself and your family happy. I see the misery around the road. All I can do granted is pray for that. I take care of my wife, I take care of my, the people that I work with through scatter energy. That's my reach. That's all I can do. And that's my focus. Sure, I see the unrest in our country. Okay, I see that the the fighting I see the, the racism, all I can do is pray for that.

Brandon Handley 42:59
You mentioned pray a few times. Tom, are you? Are you a Christian? Are you nondenominational or? I mean,

Tom Paladino 43:08
I'm a Christian, by the way, I believe prayer is the analog to just give them in other words, my instrument is the scientific analog to prayer.

Brandon Handley 43:20
Yeah. Look, I mean, it's like you said though, right. Like, you know, and I don't bring that up to to question. Any type of like, you know, is this tom tom stuff only works for Christians, right? Cuz clearly it doesn't, you know, you're, you're directing this at anybody who's open and receptive to it. And I think that, I think that it'd be great if they're, you know, I guess more Christians like Utah, right. More people in the world that are that are that practice their religion? Right. Right. embrace their religion and and appreciate everybody else for who and what they bring to the table as they as they are. Right? Um, anything that Oh, yeah, I mean, so yes, you do a 30 day but if I went to your website today, could I get a trial of scaler?

Tom Paladino 44:09
Yes, yes, we we offer 15 days of free sessions to everybody you visit a website you can your entire family will be treated for free. No questions asked. We do that because of my humanitarian proclivity, I want to help people. website is scaler, light, calm visit. Upload your photographs. Remember, we work with you by way of your photograph, all you have to do is email us your photograph.

Brandon Handley 44:36
And this includes pets.

Unknown Speaker 44:37
Yes, very good.

Brandon Handley 44:38
Yes. Yes. So this includes pets as well. And I think for this, I think it's remarkable that you're offering it for 15 days. It's kind of what I alluded to earlier in the conversation is if, if some of these things can be cured in one time in one session, who sounds like if it's me on the streets or anywhere you And I'm tuned in worst thing that could happen is that it takes me about five to five minutes to log into the website, enter the information, subject myself to cosmic energy and potentially be cured of viruses is that I mean, is that the worst case scenario here?

Tom Paladino 45:21
That that's it sounds simple. This is it's deceptively simple. It's so simple people saying that can't be that easy. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 45:29
no. Well, look, I mean, so I would have to say that anybody listening today that if you don't have it, the very least try this out for yourself today. You can be very remiss, right? I mean, because chances are in the same time today, somebody is going to go, you know, I know I've already bought something off Amazon today, right? Somebody is gonna go check prices somewhere else on something else. You could be cured of whatever ails you. There's a possibility than why wouldn't you do it? So, Tom, man, I really I really enjoyed this conversation. It's really been a pleasure to hop on here and connect with you. Thank you so much for being on the podcast today.

Tom Paladino 46:10
Thank you for the opportunity. I enjoyed myself.

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Mark Youngblood | Clearing your blocks and limitations

Published: May 9, 2021, 12:41 p.m.
Duration: 1 hour 6 minutes 55 seconds

Mark Youngblood is devoted to elevating human consciousness and promoting spiritual growth, individually and collectively. He is the founder and CEO of Inner Mastery, Inc., and an internationally recognized speaker and author. He has been practicing transformational coaching and teaching the Inner Mastery Methodology for more than 25 years. Through his Pathway to Radiance online programs, he helps people heal their emotional wounding and clear their blocks and limitations so you can Love Yourself, create a Life you Love, and shine your Inner Light on the World!

Connect with Mark by checking out his website right here: Pathway to Radiance

Transcript below is machine generated and is not edited:

Brandon Handley 0:00
All right, well, let's let's get it fired up and we'll go 54321 Hey, there's spiritual dope. I am on here today with Mr. Maher Youngblood he is devoted to elevating human consciousness and promoting spiritual growth individually. And collectively, he is the founder and CEO of inner mastery Inc, and an internationally recognized speaker and author. He's been practicing transformational coaching and teaching the inner mastery methodology for more than 25 years, through his pathway to radians, online programs, he helps people heal their emotional wounding and clear their blocks and limitations. So you can love yourself, create a life you love and shine your inner light on the world. Mark, thanks for being here. It

mark youngblood 0:51
was my pleasure. Thanks, Brandon. I really looking forward to the conversation.

Brandon Handley 0:55
Absolutely. I think you're the first person I've ever introduced in the style of, you know, getting to the ring. But there you have it. I like to I like to open these up with the whole idea that you and I are here at this exact time, space and place in the universe. So that source can speak through us. Right. Right. And more specifically, you to somebody out there right now, a specific message and what is that message that's kind of streaming through you right now Mark?

Unknown Speaker 1:29
Well, you know, the

mark youngblood 1:30
primary theme of all the work I do and spiritual domain, really also in the corporate work that I do, is that, you know, our calling is to, is to really reveal our ratings. It's, it's to recover, that knowingness of who we truly are, and our true self level, and to be able to live our life from that center, you know, we call it living from the soul side. So, you know, in your intro, you said a little bit about kind of my philosophy, but just to recap it, you know, my approach to working with helping people to, you know, raise your consciousness and live a much better life is that we're already souls, but we don't have to become more of one, we have to become less of what we're not. And that's all the stuff that's between us and being able to be the soul, that's that, the layers of ego and all the one thing and the identification with being an ego and being a personality, that when we clear that out, the light just naturally shines, we don't have to try to shine it. And so that's, that's what's up for me, you know, it's, it's always what's up and both for myself and for the people I work with out in the world, is to shine more that light, you know, every day, clear more of that blockage out of the way center more into that identification with who we are truly, and that's the, you know, magnificent soap.

Brandon Handley 3:01
That's, that's, that's great, right? It kind of makes me think of me with the house, we just moved out of had a, this kind of this does UV light to clear the water, right? And, you know, if you didn't clear the rod, every once in a while, of that light, and then you know, the light came out, right? So it's kind of like the same thing, right? You're basically helping us clear clear the light there. That rod, one of the things that I noticed about you just kind of working with you and and just my own introspection of your choice of the word radian, right. I thought that I think that was a really great choice of words and determine and what we do here. How did you? How did you land on the word radiant? You know, actually,

mark youngblood 3:50
I had a friend who was teasing me about it and going, what are we radioactive? No, not

quite? Well, you know, there's

Brandon Handley 4:02
always some jerk out there, Mark.

Unknown Speaker 4:04
He's a great guy. So

mark youngblood 4:05
a friend of mine, who's yanking my chain on it. But you know, every image you've ever seen of awakened people, when they've been depicted, they're glowing, you know, that they just are shining. And, you know, in my own inner eye, when I look at people at the soul level, they're just blazing with light, you know, and they're in. To me, it is radiance. You know, it's just, it's, it's an effortless shining of our inner magnificence. And, you know, it's who we all are. And that's a such a liberating idea. You know? It's so funny. I don't know, what sort of religious background you have. Brandon. Maybe you can tell us about a second.

Brandon Handley 4:51
Yeah, yeah. I'm 100% open. I can you know, I think that you'd asked yesterday or today about you know, kind of who you know. You know, I was questioned about asking about a woman who had been impactful in kind of our journey, right? And I told you, my mom, because I literally, this is all the stuff that kind of were having a conversation about, I was taught at a very young age, but I wasn't able to process it the same way. Right? But now it's like, kind of it's, it's, it's almost like, this was always my first language, but I was never able to speak it.

mark youngblood 5:23
Yeah. Yeah, that's, that's fascinating. Well, I was raised in a Methodist, which is kind of a moderate Christian religion. And yeah, we were taught that, you know, we have a soul and the devil can get it, you know, like, it's some sort of a little crystal or a gem or something, you know, and you've got, with everything, like it's gonna, you know, be taken away from us. And, you know, I think it's completely opposite, instead of being a person who has a soul, where a soul who has a personality, and, you know, it's, it's invented, you know, who we think we are, we created it, from the moment, we began to have a sense that there's a self here, we invented a story. And a lot of that story is really limiting. Now, almost anybody is functional in the world has a part of their story that actually reflects some of their soul qualities. But there's so much embellishment and a lot of garbage in that, that, you know, teasing the two apart, and really knowing what aspects that I'm bringing to the world are truly coming from that soul perspective, and what is just as made up, you know, and I'm coming from this invented facade, that it's performing, you know, it's, it's out trying to convince the world of who it is. And to separate those two things. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying the Eagles are bad, I'm saying that you don't want to identify with it, and you want to clear it out, you want to clear out all the limiting beliefs and all the wounding is holding on to that or as you were describing earlier, you know, that junk is blocking the UV light or blocking the soul light. And you need tools to that, you know, you need ways to go about doing it that are proven, and the work. And once you do you know, then it's, it's like eating a chocolate elephant. And I don't know if you've heard that expression before, where you know, the idea of the chocolate elephants the big change you want to make. And so with this, it's, it's about just taking a bite, you know, every day or a few times a week, and just eat, it adds up, it adds up over time, you know,

Brandon Handley 7:43
100%, I have never heard it referred to as chocolate elephant, but I will it is now Forever, forever. And they're back real quick though to to I'm gonna jump all the way back to radians and then we'll walk walk forward from there. But you know, you're talking about, you know, that that light that naturally shines, and I love that you also just kind of talk about it with being effortless. Yeah. The other idea too, is that radio, you know, radio point is, is his center, and it's spherical when it comes from all spaces, right? It's not just not just flat and 2d, it's, you know, it's, it's amorphous. And so that's the vision. And that's, you know, when I think when I thought about the choice of word radiance that you chose as a will, that's perfect. Because just like you're saying that is the light that naturally shines doesn't shine never signs in 2d. It's wherever there is space for it to shine.

mark youngblood 8:39
Right? Right. Like that. I've never heard that. I love it. It certainly fits.

Brandon Handley 8:45
Yeah, I mean, so that was that was had that's that was my thought on where it came from for you. But you know, so that there we go. Right. But then we kind of joined it up in the middle there. Never, you know, and never really thought about that too. Like the soul getting taken away. I always thought about like, maybe the soul getting murky or something like that. And so it's kind of like the idea of, you know, the devil trying to come up, take it and you've got to try and protect your soul from getting stolen, right?

mark youngblood 9:13
Yeah, yeah. It's, it's such a strange thing. To think of it that way. But but it's the common thing, you know, you know, almost any movie that has references to souls. It's like that, you know, it's like, the what's the guy's name? That was the blues singer Robert Johnson. Is that his name that that went down the crossroads and he sold his soul to the devil to be a great guitar player. You know, like he wouldn't get bargained bartering away.

Brandon Handley 9:39
I remember I mean, I think of the song right, like, uh, you know, I remember the song right, like, it's kind of similar to that, like, devil went down to Georgia. Yeah. similar background, right. Yeah. doubling down short. Anyways. Yeah. Well, um, you know, what I want to know too, is a little bit about the journey of Mark Youngblood and just kind of how you came into this space for yourself, if you could shine a little light on that, if you could,

mark youngblood 10:07
yeah, I'll be glad to, you know, and, and one of the great things about, you know, telling stories like this brand, and I really want to acknowledge you for your work and for what you do with this This podcast is, is that by hearing the stories there, they're that every man and every woman story, right, this is nothing special. You know, it's not for some select few, it's for every one of us. And, and that's, you know, one of the things that gets to come out of this. And, you know, I have a model for the evolution of consciousness, and I call it the pathway to radiants. And there's stages and, and in my own life, you know, a lot of the development of the model was based on noticing for myself what happened at various kind of plateaus in this journey. And, you know, I had a, I had an awakening moment. And it was when I hit rock bottom, and in my model, the first stage of everyone's life is the wounding stage. This is when we're born, and this is, you know, and we're growing into a personality. And we're taught all these limitations, and we have things done to us that leaves emotional scars, and energetic scars, for that matter. And, and then we come into adulthood, with the baggage, you know, all of this baggage. And that's what makes us unconscious to who we are. And, you know, I've always been really curious about what leads someone to wake up, you know, what causes that to happen. And in my own life, I had to hit rock bottom, and that's where most people crack open, they either have the opportunity, at that moment, the weight awakened to a higher expression of themselves, or clean to the behaviors that put them at rock bottom, you know, yes.

Brandon Handley 12:08
Do me a favor to like, how would you define waking up? What specifically do you feel like you're waking up to,

mark youngblood 12:14
there's more to me than this body, this personality. That was my first awakening, because it the actual event was I was highly ego identified highly. And I was also deeply wounded and insecure, and I needed to prove myself to the world. And so I started this business, and I was telling everybody, I was gonna make millions, it's gonna be famous, it's gonna be wealthy. And, and, you know, I pulled it off, I was able to actually build the product that I was trying to create, at bat couldn't sell it, because I didn't know anything about selling, and I put all my money into it. I was down to about two weeks worth of money, I was gonna not be able to pay my mortgage the next month. And, and I had been trying to avoid admitting I was going to fail, because I couldn't admit that, you know, I was it, everything would fall apart. And it did. And it did. And I remember I was in a panic, I still hadn't admitted it, couldn't eat. I couldn't almost, you know, couldn't breathe. And I was sitting at breakfast, made some instant oatmeal. And I took a bite and was like sada could not even swallow it. Because I was so panicked. And I didn't know anything about meditation. But I knew if I close my eyes, and I changed the color from red, from white hot, to read, to a cooler color to blue to deep blue to black. That calmed me. And I did that. And when I got to black, there's something in me that said, I give up. Ice, I quit, I surrender, I can't do it. And in that moment, everything within me lit up, like the most brilliant white light that you could ever imagine. But just blindingly lit up until all I could see was white in my mind's eye. And I was flooded with feelings of well being and of love and comfort and peace. Well, my eyes popped open, and I felt like I had never seen the world before I walked outside and birds It was like I never heard birds so beautiful. I've never smelled air so pure. I never seen a sky so blue. Everything was just lit up for me. I went inside I was voraciously hungry. I ate three bowls of oatmeal, call my parents and said the company's got this failing. I got to get a job. And that's what we are. You know it was it was hitting bottom. And when I woke up to was this tremendous hunger to find out what that something more was because Some part of my soul was able to break through. And and I wanted more. And so I just started this incredible journey of reading everything I could get my hands on, starting to do kind of out there transformational things like holotropic breathwork. And oh, yeah, I

Brandon Handley 15:22
mean, I'm gonna jump in here real quick. I mean, because I mean, right there, right? I mean, you're, it's funny to me, right? You're seeing a lot of breathwork popping up now in the social media space, but it's always been going on, it's just a new awareness to maybe this generation, right or this space. But at the time that you were doing it, my guess is like, when did you start doing that? breathwork

mark youngblood 15:49
I think there would have been in about 1985

Brandon Handley 15:54
or so. Yeah, you were getting some looks? Because you may you were getting some looks, you got the selfies that are, you know, yuppies are coming into their own right about that. Right? Right. Well, good mark, we told you we don't do that. No more. Right. And so so you got those guys coming in at it. But I want to I want to touch touch on a couple of things that you're talking about before moving forward. Because you know, you're talking about your ego identity. I'm personally I always get caught up in exactly what ego is. But you know, you're sitting there, you're in a space, you're being overwhelmed. You're you're feeling like massive constriction, you've lost like all flavor and sensation, like life sensation, like, I can't, no more. And then the moment of surrenders is that kind of that, that moment of release? Yeah. And the giving up like I give up, doesn't have to signify I give up on life. It's like I give up on. I'm gonna say, pardon my French on my podcast, where I give up on all this shit. And I let it go. Yeah. Right. And as soon as you do that, as soon as you did that, yeah. You opened yourself up.

mark youngblood 17:02
Right? And here's the thing about it. I, I didn't know I was going to do it. It was spontaneous. And it doesn't work to just go okay, I give a

Brandon Handley 17:13
we talked about this in your group the other day, right. And we talked about the idea that if this is something that you're looking this in relation, my similar state of that space of this, the all of Canada, I jotted down here I tuned into a whole new channel right there like you went outside you like you You walk in as the Disney Channel now it's all lit up. It's vibrant. There's their sense, there's smell is this is like, where, where's this? Where's this wonderful place? Ben my entire life. Right? And it's like, and it's like back then. Right? Like, and I was already thinking about this earlier is like, we had we had those rabbit ears back then. Right? We had to tune in even like the UHF. If you really wanted to get like Fox back in the day, you had to like go to channel 47. And channel 47, you had to direct it, you know, put it put a little bit of aluminum on top there to really get to get to that channel. But you knew a sense of space. Yeah, that had always been available to you. Yeah. Right. But it wasn't until you let go of who you thought you had to be to be successful. Or, again, just letting go of it all.

mark youngblood 18:21
It was, you know, probably letting go might not be a word that represents what it was more like a collapse. It was more like you think about the ceilings coming down. I'm getting crushed under the weight, I've been trying to hold it up trying to hold up and while I was holding up was the false image of who I was right. And, and trying to defend it against the world. And the weight got too much. And I just went I quit trying to hold it up. And it's just like, and to me, it was ego death. And you know, there's definitely a part of me died in that moment.

Brandon Handley 18:57
And this, I just want to get back to the point though, to where like you, it's really hard to time this moment. Right? Nobody, nobody times overall collapse, right? A life collapse. You know what, like, I think Tuesday at 445. And falling heat to the ground with all with all this and it's on the calendar

Unknown Speaker 19:17
is gonna happen, right?

Brandon Handley 19:18
If I'm lucky, I'm gonna have a spiritual breakthrough at the same time. Right? So don't bother calling me at 445 on Tuesday, I'm busy. So that it doesn't it doesn't happen like that. And I think that was one of the things that you're saying to Salt Lake. Yeah.

mark youngblood 19:33
Right. Right. Lots of other people wake up in different ways that I think many, many, many people wake up when they reach their own personal collapse. That could be you know, if you're identified with your job getting fired, it could be a scandal. It could be you know, the collapse of your marriage or death of someone close to you a threat to your own life. Yeah, lots of things. And kind of in the painful way of waking up, can do that. But you know, it can also happen spontaneously just out of grace. You know, it's, that's what I was saying a while ago, to me, it's a little bit of a mystery how it happens. And I don't think I could have rushed it, I don't think I could have done it, you know, in any other way. Now, I will say this, the people who are listening, if you haven't had that moment, I do believe that you can gently evolve your way forward, using tools like a I'm gonna say, my inner mastery methodology, which is kind of a toolkit for emotional healing, you know, being able to change how you think clear your energy, that sort of thing. But there are other tools out there. If you devote yourself to doing that healing, proactively, without waiting for things to get bad, you're going to be raising your vibration, and you will reach a threshold because there's not just one threshold, maybe we ought to talk about this, Brandon is the plateaus, you reach a threshold new plateau, then you climb again, and you reach the next threshold, you break through to another kind of awakening to that next level of consciousness. And then you know, you're there for a bit and then you climb, climb, climb, and you break through the next one. And you can get there you can break through without the world having to go to pieces, if you do your work, because this is as your vibration increases, you got to think about it. Kind of like turning the the stove, the heat on the stove up under a pot. And it reaches a boiling point. And at that point, everything in the water comes out, right? Because it's boiling it out to the surface. Well, when you reach these thresholds, it's a quantum leap, you're here in your vibrational frequency and boom, you pop up to another frequency, but you still have frequencies in you that don't fit this new frequency, they're appropriate for that bed level you were before, and they're going to boil out, they're going to start coming to the surface to be cleared. And that's why we call it a dark night. This kind of disrupts your world for a while,

Brandon Handley 22:21
I would have to say that, you know, I shared this again, in the group that I think that I you know, my first kind of stumbling into enlightenment as it were right. I hesitate to call it enlightenment, my, you know, I stumbled into just a different channel, right? A different way of being real similar to your moment. Right, and I couldn't have timed it. But to your point, and maybe you reminded me of the book, neuro Dharma by Rick Hanson, too, right? He echoes your sentiment where you can cultivate this space, right? You can, you can, you can begin to do the work now. And that'll make the landing or you know, the space, a little bit more prepared, right, like yours, because yours was under the heap of ego identification. You know, I was like, What just happened? Right? Like, you know, like, Where am I and what just happened. But if you kind of just do the study, eating the chocolate elephant, right, the elephant, you know, and with the idea of just cultivating the space for yourself, right? And I always, I use this line at work all the time that you gave me in terms of even coaching, right, or working with a teacher is that, you know, as like, Hey Mark, I'll reach out to you, if I hit a wall or something you're like, well, wouldn't it be a better idea to like, I don't know, kind of not hit the wall. Maybe just, you know, get some guidance, and just be like, Hey, hey, Brandon, there's a wall up there. Don't hit it. I like to say, you know, because, and again, we are so I think as as Americans, I would say hardwired to Yo, yo, I get it from my children, they're still young, right? I can do this myself, right? Because we've asked them to do some things on their own, like, you know, we want you want you to be self sufficient, but we don't want you to get hurt. Right. Right. And and so we, you know, it's very difficult for us to ask for that help, or go to somebody to get that guidance, right. Because we've been taught that we're supposed to kind of do this on our own. How do you How would you, you know, I imagine he would do it just like you told me like, well, maybe you don't want to hit that wall, but like to somebody who's not engaged in the space yet and wants to get there.

mark youngblood 24:40
Yeah, you know, I happen to think based on years of doing this work, you know, I did lots and lots of development, self development work by going to programs, like neuro linguistic programming, but then getting into shamanism and doing some really intensive work. shamanism and just different things like that. And over decades, I collected what works, at least what works for me. And kind of put it together, you can think of it like, you know, a cool toolkit or a medical kit. And, and you use the tool that's appropriate for what needs to be changed in any moment. But I believe there's four dimensions here that are vital to the journey, and you can't leave any of them behind, or you'll regret it. One of them is soul connection, is that it's absolutely essential that you learn how to engage the soul in your journey, so that it will support you in that journey. And, in a real sense, do some of the clearing away of stuff for you, but will be your companion and you can get guidance from yourself. So that's part one. And part two, is you have to be able to manage your thoughts, because we're the CO creators of our reality. And our thoughts are going to play a huge role in what's going to manifest for us. So being able to change your thoughts to learn how to not let the autopilot run things, but to stay in the driver's seat is crucial. Third is emotional mastery. And this is not only do you not want to act out in the world in a way that damages relationships and, and that sort of thing, or, or suppress the emotions as a way to not act them out, you want to get in there and get rid of all the emotions that have been piling up since almost birth, because many of them are still there. And that's leads to not only are they low vibration, and there's some of the biggest boulders you need to move out, but they lead to inflammation in the body. And that leads up all the chronic diseases, and we've got an epidemic of chronic disease right now. And then the final is we're energy beings, right. And as energy beings, we need to manage our energy body, just like we do our physical body. And you have to have hygiene, because we pick up each other's energy and are you able to, to keep that heavy energy off of you. You know, it's like, if you were to climb around the attic with a white outfit on, what's it going to look like. And that's what our world is like, and if you pick up everyone else's heavy energy is going to bring your vibration down. But also we have vibrating frequencies, that are patterns in our energy body that are like magnets. And you can think of them as karma, you know, they're the, they're the unresolved patterns that are looking to be completed, they're looking for the end. Like there's this little musical tittie, that goes down that, again, it has an end to it. But if you went down after that, and stopped right there, there's, there's just this waiting and waiting and waiting for, you know, for it to finish. That's the way these patterns are. And so they'll stay there and keep attracting into your world. Everything you're experiencing until you clear that pattern out and put patterns in place to manifest what you do want. So those are the four dimensions. It's soul connection, mental mastery, emotional mastery, and energy mastery. And I think you need tools and all those dimensions, whether you get information you get them from, you know, any number of sources, is that you need to have those, you need to be able to do your own work to progress. So, I don't know if that was a tangent or if that answered your question.

Brandon Handley 28:34
Well, I don't know. I think that you know, for for sake of anything marketing wise, for dimensions that are vital. You know, that's a headline right there. Totally using that. You know, as you lead into that, I was like, well, we need to know what this is. Right. So very good there. For sure. One of the questions I mean, I don't know that I've ever noticed overly much in the groups or the workings that we've done together. As you as of a law of attraction kind of guy. Are you a law of attraction kind of guy? Or are you just kind of like, this is just how it works? I don't call it law of attraction.

mark youngblood 29:14
Well, I mean, you can call it law of attraction, and because it is the way it works, and I don't emphasize spending a lot of energy, trying to get the world to dance to your tune. I'll spend a lot of energy on that. I did, I did early in my journey, you know, cuz it was kind of, you know, that shiny object exciting, right? It's an appropriate part of most people's journey to learn, hey, I can manage that stuff. And, and that's totally cool. And it is cool. But it's like, it's like a, you know, a baby discovering they can talk, you know, but I mean, it's our nature to talk. And it's our nature to manifest and we're, you're already manifesting thing in your world, right? It's just it's not directed. It's not intentional, right? And it's disrupted by you know, a lot of the garbage that's in the way of being able to bring in, you know, what would be a great life. But I would say my focus is on get clear about your life path, get clear about your life purpose, learn to tune in to guidance that shows you your path forward, and it's going to open up for you. But part of getting there is your thoughts have to line up with that path. Right. And when you do, that's not to say that you won't have challenges, I promise you, you'll have challenges. But it'll feel right. You know, it feels like this is just the journey. But I bet you, Brandon, that you have had times when you weren't on your path, that you had difficulties, and you knew something was wrong with the fact that you had those difficulties. Right.

Brandon Handley 30:54
So I mean, looking back and and even looking ahead and a right now, especially right as I think as we become more aware of this feeling of the sensation of you know, hey, I'm, I'm working towards this thing, and I'm putting way too much effort into it does that, you know, why am I putting this much effort into it? And is it on? Is it in alignment with my purpose and path? Right, and then we kind of take a look at it that way, you're able to realize, oh, because it's not in alignment with with anything that I truly believe in in life. I think that's kind of what you're getting at, right?

mark youngblood 31:31
Yes, that's right. There's a different feel to challenges when you're on your path than when you're off your path. And you know, you're off your path.

Brandon Handley 31:39
100% I couldn't agree more. I mean, again, spiritual dope is on my path. Yeah. Right.

mark youngblood 31:46
I can feel it in you.

Brandon Handley 31:47
Yeah. And, you know, it's it very differently compared to the other two projects that I've spun up that were real similar, right. So those, that was a massive effort, massive, doing massive, like, ah, right, and, and, you know, the second one was less, and this one is even less, you know, more so, right. And there's still moments to your point where I'll be doing things I'm like, is this really is this necessary? Yeah. All this doing what I'm doing? And who's this? Who or What is this? And even recognizing Who or What is this for? Is this for my ego? Right? It's just for me, just to say, Hey, I just did this, and whatever. But, you know, I think one thing that I think I lost track of here in our conversation, this is all all been really, you know, great, great conversation, you know, so I want to go back to you being suffocated underneath of them, you know, your crashing moment? And how do we how do we, you know, move forward from that moment to integrate that awakening into the rest of your life and fulfilling life? Yeah.

mark youngblood 32:51
So so the question you're asking that if someone right now is in that point, and they're their breaking point, what do they do? Yeah, yeah.

Brandon Handley 32:58
How do you move forward from there? And how do you Well, I think next up, you know, the

mark youngblood 33:02
thing I didn't mention a while ago, and, and, and it's crucial, really two pieces to in successful spiritual evolution. One of them is you have to have the tools to be able to do your work. But number two is you need a community. And I would say, to everyone out there, that the number one thing to do, even before you get tools, the number one thing is, is get with a spiritual community. Because that community is a space, it's an energy, that when you tap into it, it's going to lift you up. And this world, if you have to navigate it by yourself, there's so much about it that is designed to cause you to go down and we call it the elevator, kind of go down the elevator to lower consciousness, and your community brings you back up your community lifts you up, and starts helping you see a vision for yourself that you never even saw for yourself before. And that's part of you know, what I offer as well, I have a free community on Facebook and a common rating. So community and then one that you join in, it's private, and it's got a ton of content in it called salsa community. But that's so you marry content with community and you've got a wonderful combination. And so, you know, I guess that's my best advice is, is go get in a community and then start finding what are the tools and practices that I resonate with most that I will adopt and start using for myself because, you know, this is not about how anybody else fix you. This is not about having anyone else take responsibility for your journey. This is a fundamental thing that your journey is your job. And, and a lot of people don't want it they they want someone to come do it for them. And and you'll be waiting a long time. It just doesn't work that way. You've got to be able to be the one sponsible

Brandon Handley 35:00
and that's important, right? And I do love the community to definitely want to hit on the communities that that you've created. I would also, you know, I would also say to like, if you find a community, and it doesn't, and it's a spiritual community, and it doesn't feel like a fit, leave, go find another one that feels like it's a fit, because there are plenty of them out there, right? If you if you're kind of in this space, and you're like, I found a community, but I don't feel like I'm in the right place, then you might not be and that's okay. You might not be That's right. One of the things that comes up a lot mark, I'd be curious to just kind of what your take is on it is that you see people who are often going through this process, and they feel like their relationship is hindering them from growing? And, and, you know, and it's funny, because I initially struggled with this. But you know, I came pretty quick to terms to in my own relationship, and, you know, everybody's relationships a little bit different. But, you know, it was like, Well, I'm not, we're not growing at the same rate and pace. Right? You see that a lot? How do you address that to somebody that asks you,

mark youngblood 36:13
oh, my gosh, I've spent so much time thinking about that. You know, there's, there's a point at which the gap becomes so great that you're operating from completely different worlds. And there's almost no meeting in terms of making meaning of things, there's no meeting of the mind that the meaning is fundamentally different. If the two people stay close enough, that they can synchronize their interpretation of things in the world, and then the path forward, so that you're able you as the spiritual aspirant are able to continue to follow your guidance, you're able to continue to walk your path, then that's relationship that can continue to work. In my own personal opinion, speaking solely for myself, I believe that our number one job, you know, our number one purpose for being here is their spiritual journey. And if a relationship is holding you back, then it's finished its job, it no longer serves you, it's time to move on. Because there will be another one waiting for you, that is a partner that meets you where you are, and is ready to walk the path with you. And I had that happened to me divorced about 10 years ago. And it wasn't a match. That's all I'm gonna say. It wasn't a match in terms of how we saw the world. And it was a big barrier for me to be able to move forward. And, and guidance, you know, I had several times where Spirit said, you work together as done, it was beautiful. It served its purpose, you know, it catapulted you on your journey. Congratulations, move on. And I fought and fought and fought until it ended up being a painful break. And right at that moment, a new woman came into my life, who happened to be my high school sweetheart, who had evolved tremendously in the 35 years since I'd seen her. And, and our journeys are perfect, you know, right, where her consciousness is, mine met hers. And we had been walking with spirituality at the center of our relationship ever since. And my consciousness has skyrocketed since that shift. So I'm only speaking for me. And there's a lot of people with lots of family that are affected. And it has to be a personal choice. It has to be something you know that you get clear guidance on, what's the right thing for you. And I always believe that, that the number one thing to do is if you get your own inner guidance, that's your truth and follow it, no matter how painful it might be. Is that helpful?

Brandon Handley 39:04
It is helpful. It is helpful, right? Everybody's journey is certainly their own. And you I guess one question that comes out of that, for me is, you know, why did you fight it to begin with? Right, what took Why did you know? Let's talk a little bit about that fight.

mark youngblood 39:17
You know, I think I mentioned earlier that that we go through these plateaus, and we have these breakthroughs, okay. And this was a breakthrough for me, because I had I had tried to leave that marriage when my son was three years old. And I realized because we continue to go to counseling, and we were just separated. I hadn't done my work that I was, is the least as big a part of the cause of what was going on is her contribution. And what's the point of going somewhere else to ruin that relationship when I I could stay in this So I came back. And you know, and from that point on where we are married 21 years, so is there a long time. And believing meant going through that, again, leaving meant leaving my son who was a junior in high school, it meant going through the pain of a separation, it which is no picnic, and it wasn't, you know, it was it was extremely difficult. And so I kept rationalizing it away, because it was that doing it would have been too painful. And spirit told me three distinctly clear times, move on, it's, it's time to go until there was a breaking point, something happened. And that was it. That was it couldn't stay anymore. And it was certainly the right thing. But that's what I would say, is that I was clinging to a smallness, you know, I was clinging to a smallness,

Brandon Handley 40:56
claim to a smaller thing, you know, as you were talking, just jot it down, like, you know, pain and fear, right? Like, who wants to go through all that? I mean, you know, like, you know, you've invested a lot of time, and energy, right, and believe that So,

mark youngblood 41:10
oh, friends, you got to remember, you know, you've built up 21 years of friendships and all that. And, you know, you have to everyone has to ask themselves, if the end of my life, what will have mattered, that I played small, and I didn't upset people around me, or that I followed my truth. And I'm broke through and I would I had this massive shift in my consciousness. Yeah. And that's something I think about all the time, there'll be a point when we check out when not one thing on this planet is going to matter. Right? It's kind of matter is the evolution that you achieved. Right, this spiritual evolution. Now,

Brandon Handley 41:49
that's, that's great. Thanks for sharing. I mean, I think that that's, that's really helpful for for people that, you know, who feel like they are kind of hindered by the things or you feel like they want to try and make it forward. And, you know, they, they, they're suffering through a lot of the same stuff that you suffered, right, like the pain and the fear. And, you know, is, is something better on the other side of that, and for you something was right. And yeah,

mark youngblood 42:15
well, here's what I would say to that, if you don't mind me stepping in here, I don't know is that when you say yes to your journey, Providence moves, that Spirit will come to you. And spirit will bring people it will bring the resources you need, it will bring the opportunities, it will support you and moving forward on your path.

Brandon Handley 42:38
Because it's like that trust game, right? Where you fall backwards. And you know, I'm a big fan of Alan Watts, right? Where he, you know, he's got that one, we're just looking to trust the universe is another, right, and, you know, universe to be your friend. Let's talk a little bit about that. And thanks for sharing, you know, kind of the journey into that space and kind of how to navigate going forward. Let's talk a little bit about some of the programs that you've created. I know, you've got a couple books out there as well. Yeah, what did you know what is uh, you know, the program you've got coming up here. So Mark?

mark youngblood 43:12
Well, I would say the first thing people would want to explore would be the soul side community that is available for people to join. And, you know, you're a member of that brain and you know, how magnificent You know, this experience is and, and how much evolution can come from it, and how much good can come from it. And when you join, you don't just get to come into the community, and have, you know, all those people surrounding you and being supported and being able to show up now, let's see more about that in a moment. But you're also going to come in, you're going to get some initial training for free. And initial training is the sole connection and divine guidance trainings, because job one remembering is to learn how to connect with yourself. So the very first thing you're going to get when you come in is how to do that. And there's I think there's seven or eight lessons in that that are really powerful lessons, to in just a matter of a few weeks, achieving that goal for you, is to be able to have that connection. And to get that guidance, and the community itself. I provide content every week, you get some new information that will help you to learn and grow, provide new tools, new tips, we have group calls, zoom calls, that we get together and talk about a topic and everybody gets to share their point of view. And, and if you have questions about life, about your own situation about any of the training that you're going through, then you can bring them up there and you're going to get answered about one of the things you asked earlier. You know, and you're making the comment that the people don't ask for help because of this whole, you know, the strong you know, gotta be strong, do it yourself. But there's another reason The other reason is the lack of safety. And that's one of the things that community provides, is it is such a safe place, it's utterly private, no one can see what's happening in there. Everyone's committed to everyone else, no one gets invalidated, nobody gets shamed, that you can say anything you need to say. And then people are baring their souls about crises that they're having. And Kim, you know, helped me have the strength to move through it. You know, we don't, we don't fix it for anybody, what we do is support you in having the strength and, and knowing how to do it for yourself. And that's one of the great beauties of this, as most people, most people never had a relationship. So honest, you know, so open, and so willing to be seen, and, and for others to be gentle, when you are trying to be seen. And it's about kind of the messiness in your life. Right.

Brandon Handley 46:00
Absolutely. Real Humpty Dumpty stuff, right, like I fall down and all the king's men Couldn't put back together again, but like, you know, it is it is I love the idea of not fixing it for you. Right, I think helping others to fix it themselves with with the support of the community. Yes. Right. And not only, you know, with the supportive community, but with with some new tools, and not just with new tools. But hey, here's how to apply these tools. Yes, what you offering do a really wonderful job. And one of the things that I like I love about what you put out there, and the support that you offer, and the community offers is patience. Right, right. And it takes it takes patience, because sometimes people like myself, you know, for example, they always get it right the first time. I know, that comes this sounds crazy. But you know, and so, you know, you work with it through to a solution for people. And another thing that you you offer offer, often that I see posts is you asked for prayers for people, right? Yes, I love that you do that. Right. So I think that that's something that's kind of underestimated the power of prayer, or we, you know, good vibes, or whatever you need to call it right, you know, I let's all send like, you know, concentrated thought of good thought and healing towards this one space. And so, I enjoy that you do that? I don't think I've ever shared that with you before. So, you know, I think that that's a real powerful tool that you're helping others to see for themselves. Yeah, one of the other tools that you you've given a couple of free transformational coaches assessments to me personally, yeah, I found them to be I was just thinking about it earlier. So the, the work that you do is so surgical. Right. But it's, you know, when you think about it word for it really is though, is surgical, like and, you know, not like, you know, I'm a barber from the 1800s surgical, but like laser surgery, and where it doesn't feel like I'm being you know, beaten and battered to our conversation, there's a there's a true, it's not invasive, and I come out of it. And like, there's like this, this is, you know, just amazing feeling. So I think that, you know, that's, that's awesome. And you share those with people through the group as well. The right wanted to, you know, once you just really quick, let's walk through doing like, you know, I love the kind of the clearing the energy thing, walk, walk, walk us through, you know, we kind of do the cyclone process, right? Yeah, yeah, yeah.

mark youngblood 48:44
So, this would be a great thing, that's a tool you can everyone can begin using right away. And it's the idea that our energy body, you know, it interacts at an energetic level with everything and everyone, and we pick up other people's energy, we also kind of off gassing our own negative energy. And if you ever saw the movie peanuts, and the little boy that walked on and, and dust just fell off them, that's, that's what our energy bodies look like, they're really generally dirty. But there's a very simple technique that gives you two versions of it, that you can use to clean this out and wash it out. And one of them is just thinking, imagining a white waterfall, you're, you're standing on a waterfall of white sparkling light, that's washing down through every part of your energy field all the way out to the edges of your RF through every cell of your body, washing any loose or negative energy negative, and then a kind of evil way but negative in a heavy vibration way. So it's washing this energy out and just visualize that and you can almost imagine water, this clean water coming in and then it gets dirty as it as it flushes this out. And you'll you'll start to have sensations you'll feel lighter, cooler, often. So that's the white waterfall, and a more powerful version. But different people respond to different forms of this is to imagine like a whirlwind like a tornado, that is a brilliant white light starting 30 feet above your head, coming down to the center of your body and out larger than your whole energy field, sweeping out that that heavy energy sweeping out the cells of your body, and then carrying that down 30 feet in the earth, and it deposits it there because there's beings that will consume consume that energy, because it's just, it's just heavy energy. It's nothing bad or toxic or bad. It's just heavy, and you want it out of your field.

Brandon Handley 50:42
Now, thanks for sharing that. And I always find that to be I always find that process to be super helpful, right? It's just yeah, helps me feel lighter, brighter, like, I've just been Clorox or something.

mark youngblood 50:56
Well, and you want to do it many times a day. Anytime you've gone out, and you've been around people, before you go to bed, it'll help you sleep when you first get up. You know, you had a lot of people when they're taking a shower, it's a good reminder, I'm in the shower, let me just do a white waterfall on in the shower. And I call it energy hygiene. Yeah. And you keep your energy clean, just like you do your body. It's one of many tools that are important. Like

Brandon Handley 51:22
something else you you hit on during that that I know that I've been personally struggling with is that when you think about the idea of you talks about kind of washing this energy away, or getting you know the cyclone to deposit this other energy. Yeah, and using the word negative simply because we don't have a better term for it. But But what you're saying, and I'm hearing, and it's great for me, because I've always been like, well, I just want to be like all positive energy. So I'm gonna breathing positive, and I'm gonna read out positive and I'm not trying to bring any detriment to anybody anywhere. I'm gonna say it's the idea is the idea of, you know, that energy, the may not be benefiting me may be benefiting something somewhere else. I like to thank you. Yes, that's very helpful. Yeah, like, I'm

mark youngblood 52:20
okay. Right. It's just, it's just frequencies, right? Maybe we should call heavy because it's heavy, this heavy energy that you want.

Brandon Handley 52:31
Yeah, yeah, no, and that's helpful, right? Just the idea of, of, of that, which isn't serving me may serve something or someone else. And in a positive, beneficial manner,

mark youngblood 52:44
right. By the way, one final thought on this is I may, is, every time you do any sort of healing work, energy work, meditation, yoga, you want to do one of those waterfalls, or whirlwinds. Because you're breaking up at least little bits of energy. And if you don't flush them out, they'll congeal onto the structures of your energy body, and it's still heavy. Yeah, getting there. So so just clean it out and let it go. And that's how your vibration pops up and up and up and up. And you can imagine, you know, doing that, in the eating the chocolate elephant form of doing healing techniques, fleshing that out, how it just gets lighter, and lighter and lighter, and all of a sudden, you start to be intuitive. All of a sudden, you start to understand things, all of a sudden, you have greater emotional control, because more of your light is shining out. And you're not having to try as hard anymore, to be a more magnificent, radiant person. That's how it works.

Brandon Handley 53:43
It's great. And thanks again, Mark. I mean, this is I actually I want to hit on one more thing is, is your book The the emotional mastery, but it wasn't the emotional mastery of the book that you share with me. I wanted to mention that book real quick to people as a tool that Mark has craves, really, really well done. And I think that that's another space that men in America, especially shy away from, right is dealing with their emotions. Yeah. So this job, maybe a five minute segment on how the how to start that work as a guy, right? Yeah, show mastery. Yeah.

mark youngblood 54:23
Oh, my gosh. You know, it's interesting that you bring that up. You know, I've got to two communities. And the ratio of women to men is about 75 to 80% women, and they're balanced as men. And we needed 5050 we need a lot more men to get on board with it. But the book is called dear human, mastering your emotions, dear human master your emotions, and I have a bunch of tools in there. That's a really great book. And you know this brand and but I don't think this audience is hurt yet. In the other part of my world I'm an executive coach, I work with CEOs and corporations and their teams, their senior team on how to be exceptional leaders. That's your long program, one on one work, very intensive, and it's all about consciousness. And these people brain And to your point, they'll do an assessment and assessment comes in and goes, your emotions are shut down. And so a big part of the work is to get them to, you know, reclaim their emotions reclaim their body. And and also to not let those emotions run them. And to be we call it the pilot or autopilot who's in charge here. Is your reactivity, your autopilot, and subconscious reactions running things, or is your pilot staying in charge? And then how are you going about that? So we teach tools for that we teach tools for this inner self mastery. And, and that's one thing that men can relate to, you know, if you give them an analytical process that they can see where simple,

Brandon Handley 56:05
yeah, we're simple creatures, we like pictures and things you can see, you know, you know, just tell me a map, and I'll follow it.

mark youngblood 56:13
So here's what I do I teach these tools, I have a tool called during the pain, that when you're triggered, it's a quick visualization to release the emotional energy may affect anyone who joins my email, this gets that immediately. give that away. That's one of those must have tools. And so it's a way that when you lose the charge, your head clears up, and you're able to make better choices. But then there's also, you know, how do you let go of insecurities and he clear those out? You know, how do you? How do you clear out old resentments? You know, what are the practices for that? So, one of the things I have found, as a motivator for men, I believe that was your question is how do we get men moving? What do you care about? Do you care about having a better marriage? Do you care about a better career? Do you care about being a better leader? What's the goal that would make doing this work worth it for you? Because that's what I do with my executive coaches to say, I mean, my executive clients, when I'm coaching them, what's, what do you want to have happen? Well, I want to be able to be a CEO one of these days that, you know, I want to be able to lead this company and really have it grow, I want to have a huge impact on the lives of the people that work for me, awesome. Here's what you have to do to get there. You know, so you can think of it like a Trojan horse, the Trojan horse, is the goal they want, you know, it's the big shiny thing. And inside is the thing that delivers it, okay. And that's transformation. That's the raising of your consciousness, learning how to master your emotions and, and elevating how you see and interpret the world.

Brandon Handley 57:50
That's powerful. Right? So I mean, essentially, you know, what I'm hearing you say is, you know, give them something to make the transformation worth it, right, be like, you know, help them to identify, you know, alright, well, hey, this, this, this massive goal for you in your life that you would like to get to? Well, guess what, the one thing that's keeping you out of, from that space is everything that you've ignored for the past.

Unknown Speaker 58:17
You've done

Brandon Handley 58:18
really well with, you know, you got good grades, you did the right things, and you climbed the right ladders for right here, right now, where you're at, you've got to address the shit that you haven't addressed. My life. And, and, and it's important to write and I think one of the things that I always hit on when I talk with some of my clients, or even just conversations is that, again, especially as men, and I'm sure there's plenty of women out there, too, like, we've been told to shut we feel like we were taught to shut down our emotions. And so we don't even have the the tools. Yeah, to to identify them. And and that's that that doubles the frustration too, right? We're like, wow, what am I feeling? Like? I don't know what it is. Is it anger, frustration is all the things and just gonna lash out? Because you have no way if you don't know what it is, how can you?

mark youngblood 59:16
That's exactly right. And I was raised in a spare the rod spoil the child household. And my father was pretty extreme in his punishment. And then, you know, after he'd beaten us, he would say, Stop crying, or I'm going to give you another reason to cry. And so we just weren't allowed to cry. I mean, I'm sure you've heard that story from other men. Yeah. And of course, their peers shall not simply show any sort of weakness and nothing worse than to be a boy called sissy. So sadly, now, I think it's changing. You know, it's changing. Yeah, I

Brandon Handley 59:50
would say it's changing. It doesn't it doesn't, you know, it's, we're definitely at the changing of the guard, right. We've got, we've got the boomers that you know, kind We still are holding on to, to that as we've got. And I hesitate to call it like an evil society or anything like that. Because again, you know, yeah, I think that each generation serves its purpose. Yeah. move us forward. Right.

Unknown Speaker 1:00:16
Right. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 1:00:18
So to your point that I believe, that I see changing, could it also be that I'm so saturated in this space? That that's all I'm tuned to? I don't know, I'm okay with either one of those two, though, to be honest with you, right. So, in order to address some of this emotional mastery do do check out, first of all, the book that Mark has mentioned, I think that that I think that's very helpful and beneficial. And then, you know, if, if you're looking to join the community, where should we send people mark to go ahead and join the communities? Yeah,

mark youngblood 1:00:57
so there's a free community that I'm in periodically, because I'm finished so much time and salsa community, it's, it's called the radiant soul community on Facebook, and you can just search for it. And it's free, and you can join, that's a public community. So it, you know, it's lovely, but it isn't the place you go to actually tell the truth and do your work, because it's public. But to join the soul side community, here's the link, and I'm going to read it to you. It's go, like the word go dot pathway to radiants.com. Ford slash soul site. So it's go dot pathway to radiants.com, slash Ford slash salsa. And you'll go to a page that describes what all you get in the community. And you'll see some videos where I've talked to you about it. And it's got a, you know, if you get the money back guarantee, you know, there and it's a 30 days free, so you get to trial for 30 days. And and once you join, you can quit at any time. And and so, you know, what's, you know, what's the risk, right? And you get to keep the training,

Brandon Handley 1:02:18
right, I love it, who is who do you think is an ideal fit for this program?

mark youngblood 1:02:26
I think the ideal fit are the people who are starting their journey. And the people, so beginner to intermediate, I do have training for advanced, it won't be there probably for another year. But for right now, if you're beginner to intermediate, and you're wanting support to really accelerate the transformation of your life, to raise your vibrational frequency to evolve your consciousness. And in doing that transform your world for the better. If you're hungry for that, then this is the place we're going to support you in that, we're going to give you the tools to be able to heal and to and to let go of the stuff that's blocking your soul light from shining. And, and you'll, you'll see dramatic changes and even a year, you know, you'll see dramatic changes in a year.

Brandon Handley 1:03:24
So I'm gonna, I'm gonna just jump in here to and share that I believe that what one of the things that I really enjoy about your community and the materials that you've created to help accelerate the journey, or even facilitate the journey, right, not even necessarily accelerate, it could be there. But it's in a world where there's a lot of Whoo, which I enjoy the hell out of it. Right. I enjoy that content. And in and in the world of, you know, just corporate, you know, follow these rules, lines, and whatever you've created what I would, I would, I would, I would say a happy medium. Yeah. Right. Which which, which allows for anybody in off the streets to come in into a space where, you know, you're not gonna nobody's gonna shove CBD oils in your face. And, you know, you're not gonna get like, I hit a pothole you as soon as you step in, and you can have real honest conversations. There's some other groups that I'm in to where, and I'll not say they're not right or true or anything, but there's something they're not for me, really, they're talking about, like, Oh, I was possessed by a demon. And then they go off on these, like, there's none of that, which makes me feel more comfortable because I feel like I'm surrounded by normal people. Yeah. normal life who are on their journey, right. And so, so no, that's

mark youngblood 1:04:49
that's such a great point. Yeah. Thank you for calling that out. And I think I'm an everyday guy, you know, somebody who can sit down and look eye to eye with the CEO and talk to him. About how to run this business, and also someone who can guide you on a shamanic journey. You know, it's about grounding it. You know, to me, it's all about, can I use it to live a better life? Can I use it to bring more light into the world? Can I use this predictably to evolve my consciousness? And that's what I care about, you know, and that's, I think, what you were pointing out and what you're describing

Brandon Handley 1:05:25
now 100% Exactly. So Mark, thanks for being on today. We can go over to I scroll all the way up to the top we go go that pathway to radiants calm soul side if this is a program that appeals to you, Mark and you'd mentioned a email program to His will. What if they just want to join your email list? How would they do that?

mark youngblood 1:05:50
Yeah, so to join my email list, you want to go to drain the pain calm drain just like the drain in the sink, drain the pain.com and you'll see some information there you just sign up and and you'll you'll get a bunch of really great stuff right away including the drain the paint at me. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 1:06:12
I'm just gonna you know keep piling on the the love for Mark and the tools that he's given here during the pain technique is really awesome. super beneficial. That was in one of our we did that one of our sessions. Together, you walk you through it, and I just did the amazing, just just amazing techniques and you're going and you can't sort of stuff you can't describe as this the stuff you've kind of got to experience for yourself and go through it. But so for a few of you listened and you've made it all the way to the end here today. Head on over to drain the pain and check it out and you know, reach out to mark for some of these other awesome communities. Thanks again,

mark youngblood 1:06:48
Mark. All right. Thank you, Brian has been just an absolute pleasure.

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Published: May 7, 2021, 11:35 a.m.
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Unknown Speaker 0:01
But can you get a couple of BJJ reports in this period of time? So first of all, I will say that if if the sound quality on these isn't the greatest, that's simply because I don't know where my lav mic is. And be, I'm driving in the car. But, you know, we live in this, this land of high productivity and all these other things. And there's, there's some times where I just want to create versus consume a and b. maximize my time. How do you how do you maximize your time? Where do people always like? Where do you find time to? To do all the editing for your podcast where you find the time to? To do anything? And sometimes the short and simple answer is you just you just fuck us free, you make the time

Unknown Speaker 1:09
you find the time, if it's important to you, you will find the time to do it. I always say that because get up at four 447 so that I can snooze for at least three minutes

Unknown Speaker 1:30
and drag my ass to resilient jujitsu. So I can get there at 530 in the morning. So that I can get the exercise that I like, was available, I haven't done it for mostly year, in once. But creating that time to do what's important. So like I said, I'm maximizing, maximizing this 20 minutes to just kind of pop in here and tell you, you know, hey, if it's important to you, you'll find the time and when you do it, you're going to be you're going to be pleased with yourself, you're going to be glad that you took that time to do that thing that you kept saying you wanted to do. And you did it. And you finally fucking did it. I was a couple conversations I had yesterday that that illustrate this, again, just really kind of glad that something went out in Florida or not in Sweden, or Texas. So things haven't been this wide open this a way that has been for some other places. So being able to get out and see people has been great. So yes, I was able to get out and see see a couple of people. And, you know, talking about making that time again, going out to grab breakfast with somebody that I know, admire, know, like, and trust and respect. And is the finding that time to find somebody who also has the capability to elevate you and and has good questions and is also just a joy to talk to and not like this just a friend, right? And then so so finding that time and getting that time in yesterday was was awesome. Again, had the wake up, you know, actually didn't have to wake up to do to get there on time. But I still woke up at 530 so that I was able to meditate, so that I was able to journal that I was able to put my gratitude stuff down in the journal the way that I aim to do every day. And if I don't do it first thing in the morning. And that time that I have set aside, it's not usually it's not, it's not going to get done. So So woke up and made and created that time where it would have been so much more comparables as lay in bed we're doing great. And I wouldn't have had outset either way. However, I'm just telling you that if it's important to you, you'll make that time so make time for that make time for that breakfast and you know, just it was meaningful. And so that's another place where again, if you're trying to find that time and trying to have that time, proofreading it and asking somebody to to repeat part of a group, I'm not sure what kind of groups out there these days, I know there's a number of groups like Toastmasters and all these others, there's all kinds of organizations that he doesn't have to be, you know, waking somebody up out of their bed and saying, hey, let's go, let's go grab breakfast, there's all kinds of groups that you can find that are willing to spend that time with you. And my guess is that they're starting to pop up again right now. And the second part was of the day was, had I grabbed once with another friend slash, you know, working, working co here, you know, the partners that I work with in the industry. And, you know, she and I were talking, and she was talking about wanting freedom, and in her life, and I asked her, I said, you know, what do you what do you want to do with that free time? She said, I don't know, like, wake up and, and exercise when I want, you know, just do things on my own schedule. I saceur is the point like, What? What's stopping you from doing that right now? And she tells us, he goes, nothing, I guess, and I'm like, okay, you know, what, that's often that's often the thing that we find. And we talk about these things that we want to do. And the first question that's gonna come to your mind, is what's stopping you from from doing that thing. And you'll hear a lot of people say, money. And you'll hear a lot of people say, time, we've already talked about time, we know that time isn't the enemy, that the time is available,

Unknown Speaker 6:41
the time is available for you, you've just got to make the decision, that that's what you want to do. And a lot of other people talk about money, you know, being in the way of what they want to do. And that's also simply not true. Because my guess is my question is, you say, first thing you say is Oh, money stopping me from doing what I want to do? And the first question that somebody got, gotta ask is, is that true? What How do you know? What have you found? That, you know, if it's money to stop me from what you want to do? My guess is that money is stopping you from the scaling up of the thing. Money stopped me from the scaling up in the thing, meaning? Maybe you've got an idea. Have you tested it? Have you put it to the market? Have you gone to the bank? Have you asked for a commercial loan? Have you looked for partners? Have you exhausted the truth of that statement of you know, what's stopping you from doing what you want to do? And you saying that it's money? Are you certain that the only way that your plan could ever happen is money my other than, then I would say that chances are, what it may be stopping you from is accelerating the process, accelerating the scale that you're trying to achieve or trying to get to, and you know, what you're trying to do and accomplish. And this was the other part of the conversation yesterday was like, when you go from one level of being a professional in the industry, in any industry, and you swap roles or, or you know, things that you're doing in life, then you're not going to be at the same level, there's a good chance, you're not going to get paid the same. And there has to be a willingness to, if that's what you say you want to do, there's got to be willingness for you to absorb that, and be doing what you say you want to be doing. Otherwise, chances are, we go regardless of how much you say, that may not be what you want to be doing. Right. And you can always be doing something, you can always feeling something to take slow and steady steps towards it again, the money is going to be the accelerant. And since we're, since we are, since we're spiritual beings living a physical life, I think that you know that intent and that fear, getting rid of that fear,

Unknown Speaker 9:21
and starting to take steps into that space of the thing that you say you want to be doing.

Unknown Speaker 9:29
Or you know, even aligning yourself spiritually. So the things that you are doing, will begin to change will begin to change the way you approach it. And so what does that mean? It means that again, once you start taking action towards the thing that you say that you want to be doing, it's kind of like this signal to the universe. You're sending out a signal regardless whether or not you think you are to the universe. Or even somebody else like sitting around and looked at and seeing you. You're signaling them, you know, so maybe you've got to take it from 100% exterior way of seeing things. And you feel that if people see you doing what you say that you

Unknown Speaker 10:17
want to be doing, they will recognize it. And if you share it with them verbally, maybe they say, you know, yeah,

Unknown Speaker 10:27
I've got somebody that you should talk to. Right? Or, you know, Hey, I know a guy that sits in the same industry, would you like to talk with them. And that happens in more ways than then then then acts your way. So if you see an exterior only, that's fine. You could do the same thing with just taking the actions and not even telling anybody else really what your intent is. And I promise you that the universe, the world, whatever is going to see your intent. And how does that how can you validate that for yourself? This is along the same lines of letting go. And it's, it's when you again, you start to start taking small, tiny steps that maybe other people aren't even going to recognize what it is that you're doing. And suddenly, you know, after you take this first couple of steps, you're going to recognize that a, Wow, you are taking steps. And that you can start working towards that thing you said you want to be working on. For me, it was the first the first podcast I did, as fatherhood for the rest of us. And, you know, it was it was just awesome, because like, I was really scared to start it. I didn't know how or what it was that I was doing. But as I began to do it, I began to learn more about learn the things that I didn't know, learn, learn that right, you begin to learn as you start to do, and, and then the resources of people that would reach out to me, because of what it was that I was doing in the industry that I was in, again, just simply podcasting in an industry that I was in an area space, that area that I was interested in, gave me confidence to reach out to people to say, Hey, I'm in the Dad, I'm a dad podcaster looks like your dad, he's off about being a dad, wherever you are. And he has some tips and tricks to help other fathers to be successful in fatherhood and in life. And that opens so many doors and the more people that I engaged, the more confident I became. And the same time more opportunities just started falling from the sky, like falling from the sky. Again, one of those that I can share I was being contacted by the state of North Carolina, who was I think they're working with students is working with either foster children or something else. And a big part of of that system. Is that fathers, fathers, fallouts, fathers aren't there and so, you know, makes it challenges the family life and then like, you know, at a certain point, these kids got to go be fostered. So I was being contacted to speak on that to help create a program. And so things like that would just kind of open up for themselves with simply because I was doing and following something that I was interested in and had had signal to the universe simply by stepping into that direction. Please show me and share opportunities that are in line with my my spiritual intent. And so my question again to you is what is it that may see your spirits saying, right from my friend she's wanting to Spain's you want to do or exercise? Have more of that in her life? And, you know, what would it look like? You know, what would it look like? Cast yourself what would a perfect day look like for you? plan it out, and go do it. Take that vacation days, go do that thing that you you say that you want to do and see That's your perfect like if you had the opportunity to do it for a week doing what what is that? You know, how does that look for you? How

Unknown Speaker 15:08
does it actually feel to experiences and try it on you know, let your let your spirits say let your hearts follow your heart song is the lose debut I had with Tom Cat shoe was was released, check out him and his content with you talking about involving your heart song. He went from being a lawyer to a therapist to use kind of this holistic energy, spiritual author and coach and therapist and bringing all these pieces into his own practice. Now I stress the word practice, because these things are something that you never do you never finish it. You never and this type of search or goal seeking or living way of life and feeling, feeling your bliss. So yeah, make the time for it. Like I said, the BJJ for today's today's thing is you're making that time for the thing that you said it's important to you kind of brushing off the excuses. That that you're suppressing, if so, you're essentially you're suppressing yourself from having the life that you say you want, and there's nobody else that's that's keeping you from it. And, and once you once you make that time, and once you take a couple of those steps, and once you see this evidence of it, I promise you that you'll have at least that experience of of having that time for yourself and doing that thing that you said you wanted to do. And having that heart song, and feeling and following your bliss and feeling feeling into it and experiencing it. And once you kind of had that experience, I don't think that you can quite ever look back. That's it for the BJJ report. If you're enjoying this podcast if you're enjoying the guest please go to good iTunes and leave a review shoot me an email Brandon at spiritual dope.co if you've got a topic that you want me to hit on, in particular, and from any angle, let me know Susan do an email like Hey, what do you think about this? And how does this line up into spirituality? If you've got some questions, happy to attempt to answer them from from my perspective, but a lot of this happens through dialogue through questions through comments and questions. So take it easy. Thanks for listening.

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Thomas Capshew | Finding your Heartsong

Published: May 2, 2021, 6:55 p.m.
Duration: 55 minutes 55 seconds

Thomas Capshew, Ph.D. is an expert in the field of human potential. Dr. Capshew utilizes psychotherapy, meditation, energy work (Reiki), hypnosis, shamanic practices and spiritual mentoring to help his clients find positive change in their lives. With the heart of a social worker, the mind of an attorney and the soul of a mystic, Dr. Capshew spreads consciousness through his writing. He published both “Divine Warrior Training: Manifesting the Divine in our World” and “Consciousness Rising,” to spread love through the world and to advocate for a peaceful, loving planet. Currently, he resides in Fredericksburg, Virginia and enjoys the outdoors, photography and music.

During these uncertain times, the world is yearning for a shift in consciousness. “Consciousness Rising” by Thomas Capshew, Ph.D. is an enlightening new book that explores the beauty in pure, collective consciousness. By illuminating the destructive nature of the dominator consciousness, Dr. Capshew explains how the best way to bring global change is through self-love and love for one another. With the help of Dr. Capshew’s teachings, readers will understand the importance of attending to one’s own heart. Through the use of mental and spiritual techniques, readers can use neuroplasticity to reframe a more positive mindset and meditation, boost their connection with the Creator and understand that they have inherent value as divine creations. These constructive changes can extend to the outside world and build strong connections between the seen and unseen worlds.

https://thomascapshew.com/

Have you ever pondered upon the fact that you are capable of so much more and this world is restricting you? Do you feel that you’re capable of doing better things for your happiness? You’re doing your daily duties, but there is always a greater calling and a consciousness to discover? People like to live in disbelief and not gain the consciousness they can and agree to live the same monotonous life. But you realise you can do way more and are capable of achieving greater satisfaction and good?

Here’s the hard truth: you are so much more than you believe you are.

In this episode, we are joined by Thomas Capshew where he talks about his experience throughout his life and his recent book.

Tune in to this episode to learn more about this whole new array of things and how to get your hands on it.

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

  1. Understand the different ways you can bring up your energy and develop a relationship with your interior self.
  2. Discover the importance of listening to yourself and your heart.
  3. Learn the significance of meditation, and Thomas also describes in detail different critical points from his book.

Episode Highlights

[01:34] A Message for the Listeners

  • Thomas delivers the message of more healing over trauma over this entire year.
  • He also mentions that a massive shift will be seen in light, love and life all over the place.
  • The media will only bring in negativity, and hence he promotes that we see around us to see all the positive solutions coming into force.
  • He describes how we are all a part of the consciousness that created this world.

[06:30] Introduction

  • Thomas explains his meandering path through life.
  • He also describes his experience in his childhood growing up in a Christian household as a fundamentalist Christian, going to Law School and then moving to work as a Social Worker.
  • He mentions having a crisis of faith and describes his experience with getting people to adopt Christianity. 
  • He talks about his awakening towards the idea of spirituality.

[18:15] Consciousness Rising

  • He talks about how he had no plans to write a new book, but he got instincts that lead him to write Consciousness Rising.
  • He describes that he talks about how it is essential that consciousness keeps remembered in this material world.
  • Thomas goes on to describe his idea of consciousness. 
  • We’re a part of a vast hide and seek game, where the intelligence and universe forgot themselves, and now it is coming back in a full circle. 

[28:48] Lawyer to Social Worker

  • Thomas talks about how he wanted to follow his heart and do the right thing for him.
  • Sometimes you have to make a bold choice and be courageous.

[31:20] Topography of Potential

  • A mistake is only a choice that you haven’t learnt from yet.
  • Everyone comes into this world with a map, also called topography of potential.
  • Developing different skills is essential to realise the heart song.

[41:07] Tsunami of Acceleration 

  • The tsunami is just the volume of consciousness coming into this world.
  • We are accelerating the recognition of trauma and healing and making it a win-win for everybody. 
  • Additionally, we are also in an over-flooding of information which requires our brain to process vast amounts of data.

[45:52] The Dominator Consciousness 

  • Dominator Consciousness is what has been embedded into us humans for over a thousand years.
  • It instils in us the sense that we need to have power over people.
  • It is about creating a scarcity of resources. 

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Brandon

Brandon Handley 0:00
Yeah, that is worth that it's worth hitting on right? You know, so that you're kind of teed up then so Alright, we'll get it going. And 54321 Hey there spiritual dope. We are here today with my guest Thomas cap shoe. He who Tom what I do with it what I do with your bio Tom. There we go. He is an expert in the field of human potential dr capture, utilize a psychotherapy, meditation, energy work Reiki, hypnosis, sermonic practices and spiritual mentoring to help his clients find positive change in their lives. With the heart of a social worker, the mind of an attorney and the soul of a mystic Dr. Cap shoe spreads consciousness through his writing, he published both divine war warrior training, manifesting the divine in our world and consciousness rising to spread love through the world and advocate for a peaceful, loving planet. Currently, he resides in Fredericksburg, Virginia, and enjoys the outdoors, photography, and music to a doctor. Good Doctor. Thanks for joining us today. Um, I like to start these off with the whole idea that source speaks through us, right? We're kind of like these conduits for divine energy creation. And right now, in this very moment, something's common through you that needs to be shared with somebody who's listening to the podcast, what is that message?

Thomas Capshew 1:33
The message is that this is the year where we are going to have more healing happening in the world on this planet than we have trauma happening. There's there's, we're going to reach a tipping point where the collective trauma and wounds that we've all experienced, will be outweighed by the amount of people working to heal those wounds. And from there on out, we're gonna see a huge shift in the amount of light and life and love that flows into the world.

Brandon Handley 2:22
Where do you feel like you see that

Thomas Capshew 2:26
it's happening all over the place, you know, if you just listen to the media, you're not gonna see it, all you're gonna see is negativity, because that's what attracts people. It's like watching an accident, you know, you can't take your eyes off of it. But if you look at what's happening in our communities, what's happening with each other, it's creating all kinds of Win Win situations from people developing organizations that transform homelessness, to poverty, to all of the all of the major questions and issues that we've had as collective humans. Those are all coming into new positive solutions. There's a website that I follow, called heart math that does a global coherence project where they've got these measuring sites around the world that show when the human collective gets gets into coherence with each other, and it's happening more and more frequently. So there's lots of lots of evidence. I'm a licensed clinical social worker in Virginia, and have a private practice here, as well as a practice online. And in the last couple of months, I've never had the volume of people coming in saying, you know, I'm 55 years old, and I've been carrying this around since I was eight years old. I want to get rid of this. From that happened to me this this event that happened to me at eight years old. I'm no longer interested in having it limit me. I've had such a volume of people coming in, in the last few months that are shedding their wounds of the past.

Brandon Handley 4:46
That's great. Do you think that they have what do you think the reasons? Is there something pointing to that like what the reason is for them now? Why now really sad trauma right?

Thomas Capshew 5:00
Well, I think collectively in in my book consciousness rising, I assert that we we are all part of the consciousness that created the universe. And from a vibrational standpoint, as, as time moves forward consciousness, the vibration of consciousness rises. And so it's easier for people to see their limitations and to recognize that they can shed those limitations. So collectively as a species, our our entire collective is raising its consciousness. So it's, it's getting lighter and lighter and easier and easier to shed those darker energies that we took on when we got wounded.

Brandon Handley 5:57
Gotcha. So, you know, it sounds to me, like, you know, just consciousness as a whole is, is evolving, right? And that's what what we're what we're experiencing when we see people who are coming in and releasing the trauma and letting go of the things that are limiting them.

Unknown Speaker 6:13
Right, right.

Unknown Speaker 6:14
Look, I

Brandon Handley 6:15
really enjoy the book, actually, consciousness rising. I want to share it with you. But you know, I've got I'm using a, you know, reader on the Mac Book here. And yes, I've got highlights, you know, just highlighted many, many different things. You know what, let's talk a little bit before we jump into the book, though, let's talk a little bit about you know, who is Thomas cashew? Right? Like, no, you've got, you know, what I know about you is, is where the pieces of whereas it says no kind of with the heart of a social worker and the mind of an attorney and the soul of a mystic. I know if you were those pieces come from myself, but let's let the audience know, like, where does the the, you know, the mind of an attorney come from? in that?

Thomas Capshew 7:08
Yeah. Well, I've called, I've had what I call a meandering path through my life. So I started off as the middle of five children raised in a fundamentalist Christian household and started off my college career studying to be a minister, and ended up having a crisis of faith and left the church kind of ended up getting a psychology degree undergrad and then owned a small business and decided I didn't want to do that any longer. And so kind of on a whim, I went to law school. The reason that I went to law school is because I was a janitor in a law firm and had a running dialogue with the secretaries about how often I was supposed to clean the the kitchen. They were messing it up every day, and I was supposed to clean it up clean at once a week. And the attorneys told me, they were laughing about the messages. We were leaving back and forth. And they said, you should think about going to law school because you make good arguments and you write well, so you know, a few years later, I went to law school. I practice law in Florida for seven years. I enjoyed it. I was good at it, but it didn't make my heart sing. And so eventually, I got involved in the legal aspects of assisted suicide. That was back when jack kevorkian was doing his thing. And I was doing legal seminars for hospice. Workers about you know how to navigate that thought, and I got to know some social workers and thought, hey, that's a good combo social work and law. So I went back to school and got a Master's and PhD in social work, and then graduated and practice social work. And in the meantime, I decided to go to an interfaith Seminary in New York City. And God ordained as an interfaith minister, which kind of completed the circle of my meandering careers, but it's really fun because I feel like I've put them all together and what I do now, which is, you know, I've got I've got the ability to see clearly the what's happening, which an attorney does. I've got the The compassion that a social worker would have and I have the spiritual focus of my, my interfaith ministry.

Brandon Handley 10:13
Well, you know, I always think of life is the family life Cirque family circus, right? And that path that Billy goes on when he's kind of walking around the neighborhood, right? It's just kind of like it's just and, and life is not linear, right? I don't care. Yeah, I don't care who you are. I'm sure you went to school and you had some goals, and you met them? Right by becoming a lawyer. And that seemed like it was linear. But I'm sure that the whole path there and throughout was not right. Right. I'm really curious. So I'm not aware of what a fundamentalist Christian is. Could you just elaborate on that for me, because there might be an audience member to that might not know what that is?

Thomas Capshew 10:57
Okay. The way I'm using that term is someone who believes that the word the written New Testament is to be taken literally, and that that's what you use to decide how to live your life on a daily basis. And so, it's non denominational, meaning it's not, you know, one of the big it's not Catholic, it's not Methodist. It's, it's just each church stands on its own. So it's fairly constructive around behaviors. No, no drinking, no smoking, no dancing. No music in the worship service, other than acapella singing. So that's what I was raised in.

Brandon Handley 11:57
Sounds very, if we're gonna go to the 80s. Very Kevin Bacon, very Footloose. Right. Yeah, reference see, you know, I'm happy to share my my age, you know, as we as we mark ourselves as we go through these, um, the other piece in here is, you know, so you. So even though it was kind of restrictive, you still went to go study to be a minister right off the bat. Right. And I'm just curious, you mentioned the the crisis of faith, what what do you what do you feel like that was?

Thomas Capshew 12:34
Well, one of the things I did, as a member of the church is I did missionary service. So I went to Europe to try to convert people to Jesus. And the crisis of faith that I had was, I had this question that the members of the church couldn't give me an adequate answer for and that question was, say, there's a guy that lives in the jungles of Brazil, and has never even heard of Jesus, much less, you know, been offered to accept Jesus as a savior. And but he lives a good life, and he takes care of people and he does the things that Jesus would, would ask him to do, and he dies, does he go to heaven? Or does he go to hell? And the answer that I got from everyone in the church was, he goes to hell, and it's your job to get there before he dies, so that he won't go to hell. And that this wouldn't compute for me. As, as I have come to know my Creator. The the creative force of the universe, I the shorthand that I use for that force is love. That love is what created the universe and what is that energy that sustains us? And so, obviously, if the Creator is all loving them, they're you know, may not even be a hell much less. Have some arbitrary decision that some guy that's not heard of a certain person that's gonna go to hell.

Brandon Handley 14:37
Yeah, like, what about everybody that came before Jesus, right? That makes sense, right? I mean, I can see kind of where that that that breaks down. And then, so you're going through law school, you become a lawyer. We'll hit on heart song here in a little bit. And where you know what They're kind of in here, do you go full on spiritual? Right Where's like kind of your I know in your book you and I jotted it down to our at least I highlight it in the book. It's like, life's kind of like a series of awakenings. Right. And it's not just like, not just, hey, there's one awakening moment. But you know, there's a series of them. But if you could kind of pinpoint where you feel like you had maybe your first

Thomas Capshew 15:31
Well, the first awakening was the crisis of faith. The Awakening that brought me to the work that I do now is that, as a social worker, the spiritual component often has not considered. And when you think about mental health, often times what I've found in my practice, is that mental health issues arise out of a spiritual discontent, out of kind of not really knowing what you're doing here, not having a framework for how the world works for you. And so then out of those out of those uncertainties often come anxiety or depression, you know, if if you're working in a, in a job where you're doing something that doesn't really make your heart sing, then it's really easy to go into depression, you know, what am I doing here? Why am I doing this? Am I am I just doing this to get a paycheck so that I can pay my mortgage so that I can, you know, not be homeless? I mean, what kind of life is that. So that's where the spiritual discontent comes in. And if you focus on getting to the essence of why you're here, why you're on the planet, at this moment, or at this lifetime, then you can start moving into a place where you're, you're enjoying waking up and getting up and doing what you feel is what you're supposed to be doing for your life. Instead of doing what somebody else wants you to do for your life.

Brandon Handley 17:35
Right now. Understood, right? Definitely, definitely something that we hit on on this podcast often, right? You know, when you find when you find, you've kind of woken up to the idea that what you're doing now is really everybody else's best idea for what you should be doing. Right? And then and then then trying to figure out how to unwind all that into what you at least feel like you should be doing. So. No, I love it. So let's talk about the book. Let's talk about the book consciousness rising what you know why you why here, why now, this book?

Thomas Capshew 18:14
Well, let me tell you a little bit about how this book came to be. Because after my first book, divine warrior training, I didn't really have any plans to write a second book, but about four or five years ago, I kept waking up at 4:18am and got up and had stuff to write down, you know, typed out stuff, and I'm like, oh, okay, there's, that's an interesting article, like one of the first ones was, nothing exists outside of relationship, that you can't even define something without defining what it's not or what it's in opposition to. And so, over the course of the next couple of years, I just kept on getting prompted to wake up at 418 and write stuff down. It wasn't every every time at 418, but more often than not, and then eventually it dawned on me again, you know, kind of those awakenings to what source has in store for you. I said oh, this is a book and originally it was a book called The human value proposition which is the first part of consciousness rising, but eventually developed into what what we have now and the Why is mainly because I think Think it is in evitable. It's the, it's absolutely essential to reality that consciousness ends up remembering itself in, in, in the material form. That's the whole process that we're a minute part of, we're actually the leading edge of the material form, recognizing everything as divine. And we're just, we're just on the cusp of getting to that place where we say, you know, there's everything sacred. There's nothing that's not sacred, and we need to start treating everything that way. And when we do, our whole world is gonna shift.

Brandon Handley 21:03
Oh, absolutely right. I love the idea of kind of being on the edge of consciousness, right being kind of, um, I always think of it as, you know, just being literally on the razor's edge, right Is that fine as the universe continues to expand? We are, you know, the, the expanded, you know, de expansion of consciousness, right? And right on that edge, right? Always right on that edge of edge of creation, right? This is what's happening right here. And now, what would you tell me what you mean by consciousness?

Thomas Capshew 21:38
What I mean by consciousness is intelligence that created the material world. So in my first book, divine warrior training, I talked about I call it I call this process, the god game. Gods. You know, one of those shorthand labels for consciousness as well, although it's kind of been co opted by some people to be something less than what it is. But the god game is, before anything in the material world existed, there existed this intelligence. And this intelligence, decided at a point of singularity to begin a process where matter, matter was created, and matter is more dense than intelligence. And the the game is that, from that point of singularity, it created the material world so that the material world would eventually be able to recognize the intelligence of the universe. So it goes a full circle back, it's like a Hide and Seek game, you know, we're part of this huge Hide and Seek game where the intelligence of the universe forgot itself. And now it's coming back to remember itself.

Brandon Handley 23:18
Love it. So the guy games, the game is, essentially just to recognize the intelligence of the universe. Right. And would you say that, is that part and parcel to reconnecting to it as well? Is, is that the recognition period? Is that the recognition period when you actually connect? reconnect? Yeah,

Thomas Capshew 23:43
yeah, when, you know, we've all humans have experienced a habit. We've all had an experience where we've felt one with everything. Most of us have some, some people say they haven't felt that but many humans have felt that that's reconnecting that's joining back into the the understanding that everything's connected. Everything you and I are connected, every person that listens to this, every person that doesn't listen to this is also connected. So that's, that's the, that's the inevitable movement forward of consciousness to get to that place where I recognize that you're a part of me, that I'm a part of you. I'm a part of the plant that's sitting in front of me, we're all connected.

Brandon Handley 24:48
So, I try to I try to share out the idea that, you know, the universe crew was created, you know, from something the size of a pea, right? You know, and And if we think that we're not connected, like, after all being kind of jammed and crammed into the size of a pea, right, knowing what we know, to about just kind of like, how, you know, photons and you know, everything just stays connected, right? There's no masses, not masses, there's never never need less mass, right? You know, the same amount of mass exists and in perpetuity. So, at one point, you know, we, we've all been a part of one another, right? So we we carry it, even, even from a material level, right? Even if we can't, even if we can't wrap our heads around, like being synced on an energetic level, we can wrap our head around the the idea that we all share some type of at least a couple skin cells from whatever, before us, right?

Thomas Capshew 25:54
Well, if you think about atoms and molecules, atoms, you know, don't, don't disappear, they just get reconstituted. So, you know, we each can have atoms that used to be part of Albert Einstein, or part of Hitler, or part of Jesus, you know, those, those atoms that the material world just is in constant flux of shedding stuff and reconstituting as, as something else. And so we've each got that that we share.

Brandon Handley 26:38
Now, and I just think it's, you know, sometimes it's challenging to share that idea if somebody is not in this space, quote, unquote, right? So if they're like, oh, what are you talking about? You know, how do you? How do you share that idea? So thanks for thanks for walking through that visual as well.

Thomas Capshew 26:56
Actually, COVID has helped us with that a little bit. Because we now understand in ways that we didn't before COVID, that respiratory droplets are what sends COVID from me to you. And they're not anything that we can see. But we've certainly been able to verify that with science, right? And so then my, my being in proximity to your being has an impact, even if I can't see it, right. And so you take that from the biology of COVID. And you put it into the energetics of physics. And, you know, anytime you're in close proximity with anybody, your your atoms and photons are all mixed up together. And, you know, we know that intuitively. Right? You walk into a room, and everybody's angry, you can feel it, right. You walk into a room and everybody's having a blast, you can feel that. Right? You can't necessarily measure it, because it's energetic versus, you know,

Brandon Handley 28:22
that we can't measure it because we haven't developed the tools to do it yet. Right. Like, I mean, it's, it's really, it's really kind of what it boils down to, right. There's, I'm sure that there's you know, I'm sure there's somebody who's working on it right now. Right? I'm sure there's a prototype no doubt, no doubt. Um, one more thing, too, is is, you know, gone from a lawyer to a social worker, right? Why do that?

Thomas Capshew 28:46
Yeah. Why do that? Exactly? Well, because I wanted to follow my heart. I enjoyed practicing law. I was good at it. My last job was as an appellate Attorney for the Department of Transportation in Florida. And if you you know, you want to look it up. I my last case, was before the Florida Supreme Court, and I won that case seven to zero. And as it was estimated that I save the state of Florida, $660 million. So, you know, it wasn't that I couldn't do that do the work. It's that didn't make my heart sing. When I chose to go back to school, and I'd love to study I'm a lifetime student. When I chose back to go back to school, my attorney friends, half of them thought I was nuts, to go from law to social work. The other half were envious. Because they weren't necessarily doing what they wanted to do, but they felt like they were stuck. So, you know, sometimes you just have to make a bold move and be courageous and say, you know, this is my life and I'm, I've got to live it the way that I think I'm, I need to live it, even if you make a mistake. And it wasn't a mistake,

Brandon Handley 30:20
not not Oh, you know. And of course, you know, my first my first thought is I will not for you, Tom. Right. I know. So it worked out for you. And, to your point, though, too. I think that even if it's a mistake, I did a recent interview where, you know, we're just trying to talk talk talking at the end of the interview and, and she was just talking about whatever it was, she's doing, developing into, like, you know, being making a living, I'm like, Look, worst case scenarios, like you're doing something that makes sense to you right now, to your point, you know, following the heart song, let's talk a little bit about that. Because that is one of the topics in the book is the heart song. So, which, which I thought I thought spoke out nicely. I think it came in yet right underneath of. And I like that typography of potential, right. So let's talk about a little bit of what is the typography of potential and the heartsong.

Thomas Capshew 31:17
Okay. First, I want to comment about a mistake, because a mistake is only a choice that you've made that you haven't learned from yet. Once you learn from edit, it's no longer a mistake. It's, it was maybe a missed direction, but it adds to your, to your path. riddle me

Brandon Handley 31:43
this one. I've seen this. I've seen this a lot of times, and like I'm in the hardcore Personal Development Series, right? I just say hardcore Professional Development Series for these people that like, you know, you know, grind and hustle people, right? But the idea that a mistake made more than once is done on purpose, true or false?

Thomas Capshew 32:09
No, mistake made more than once is you haven't learned yet. Got from ionic standpoint, we, we create circumstances over and over again to heal ourselves. And sometimes that circumstance will re wound us. But that's part of our energetic move forward is to try to create the condition that will create the healing.

Brandon Handley 32:43
Yeah, no, thank thank you for that. I, like I said, that's one that always kind of irritated me, right? Just like, you know, who are you to make you to make that claim, right to be like, well, you made that mistake more than once. That's on purpose. What are you talking about? Right? Like, how can you be so like, that's, anyways, anyways. So typography, potential heartsong, let's say,

Thomas Capshew 33:04
yeah, typography of potential each one of us is born is created by love and comes into the world with a typography of potential. Just like a typography map, there are things that we will easily be good at, and things that we will have to work like hell to be good at. So there's valleys in our topography of potential as well as hills or mountains. So a good example is comparing my basketball skills to LeBron James basketball skills. I was born with a valley in my typography of potential for basketball. LeBron James was born with a mountain. So absolutely, he's worked his butt off to get where he is. But he started with the ability with a lot of potential that he just built on to make him such a phenomenal basketball player. I, I would never have gotten there, because I didn't have that preset group of skills. I had other skills that you know, I've worked to develop. So each one of us has that topography of potential. And our work is to develop a deep enough relationship with ourselves so that we can know what what that typography is so that we can find what I call our heart song, which is our heart song is that one purpose that we are on the planet to fulfill. Oh, you know, for me, it's working with people To live up to their potential, you know, that's, and it's taken me a while to come to that, understanding that that's what I was put here to do. And so developing different skills that helped me to live that heart song, you know, over time, what we've what we've done with people, we've, we've, as a as a species, we have wasted so much human potential. In fact, all of us, every single one of us will die without actualizing all of our potential.

Brandon Handley 35:39
I mean, and just pause there for a second. I mean, is that necessarily a bad thing? Is, is that a good thing? or a bad thing? Right? And like, yeah, let's say that, you know, you're doing all you can to maximize who you are? Or is it more to the sense of, there is always something more and greater that you can accomplish? Right? And regardless, regardless, right, so, inevitably, yeah, well, we're all gonna perish leaving something on the table. Right. Is that? Is that kind of the thought there?

Thomas Capshew 36:14
Yeah. And, you know, I'm not saying that that's a bad thing. But what I'm saying is that the way we've built society, is we really don't work at helping people develop their potential. We work at it our schools, work at developing people to work for other people, instead of to follow their own dream. And so you know, who's, who's the next? Yo, yo, ma in, you know, a low income area of Chicago that won't even know that for the their whole life because no one introduced them to a cello.

Brandon Handley 37:09
Right? Yeah. No, no, that's fair. That's fair. Yeah, that was something you had on in the book as well. It was it was talking about, I guess, coming along your path or opening up to your heart song. Or it might it may have been another section. And of course, this folks may, just because we talked a little bit about saying, you know, things may look bad right now, but they're actually good. Right. And one of the things for me, it is turned out? Well, in this related sense of the story of your book, we've had to pull our kids from the educational system, right. And we've been able to teach them at home. And I'm very excited about it, because I recognize that we're not like crushing little souls. Right, or, or trying to morph them into, you know, the, the solid and industrial line workers, right. So, for me, it's very exciting, right to, to be able to kind of break a shackle as it were, and to be able to, you know, we talk about coming back to ourselves, right, by coming back to ourselves, but a big part and this is my opinion, right? A part of us coming back to ourselves is because we've been layered and layered and things that we aren't by by the social conditioning, right? So if you don't get socially conditioned, right, then who do you have to come back to, then you have the opportunity to live out your whole life as who you're supposed to be? Right?

Thomas Capshew 38:47
Right. So imagine a world where every newborn was seen as God as seen as a divine being with unlimited potential. And our job as caretakers for that newborn is to help them develop there in a potential what, what kind of world would we have within five years mean that just think of the transformation where people would all be doing, what they love and what they were meant to be? And, you know, everything. My My belief is that if when we live into that world, everybody is going to be doing their heart song, and everything's going to be taken care of, I mean, Providence, you can I, I could be a janitor and be singing my heart song or I could, you know, decide that I'm going to figure out a way to convert you human excrement into energy for, you know, whatever, right? That the possibilities are endless if we start with the idea that as parents and as caregivers, were shepherding in higher consciousness, when a baby gets born,

Brandon Handley 40:27
I think it's interesting to think of it that way, right? To just realize that that's the consciousness expansion, kind of come right in behind you. And it's, it's your, your job or your goal or if you put effort into it, then you can help accelerate that expansion. Is that how you kind of look at it. So you also bring up the idea, and I thought this was pretty cool too. And it really kind of relates to, to the whole thing, but the tsunami of acceleration, right, or the tsunami of consciousness, and kind of what we're doing here and consciousness rising, always share a little bit of that. And I'd love to hear, you know, have you share where you see that coming into play?

Thomas Capshew 41:14
Well, the, the tsunami is just the, the volume of consciousness that's coming into the world. So if you think about it, 50 years ago, we didn't have a word for domestic violence. We didn't, we didn't have a word for child abuse. Those were concepts that have come into existence in the last few years. We are, we are accelerating the recognition of trauma and of wounds, that then we begin to heal by raising our consciousness and recognizing the way that we can treat each other that is a win win for everybody. And so that, that tsunami is happening. The The downside is, we're also in a tsunami of, of information. We have never, it humans have never had access to as much information as they've had in the last, you know, every every year it grows exponentially. And so, the problem with the access to information is that it it requires our brain to process the information, our brain is also designed to look for danger. And so that's where fear comes from. And so, there's so much information that anybody can access a limited amount of information and go to fear. And that's what happened. That's what's happening in our society is, we're getting siloed into different information flows that create fear of each other. And stead of going to our heart where we access our Creator and the love of the universe. And our heart is the place that when we live out of our heart, then we see the expansiveness and the way that we can all win and all get along and live into our potential and live our hearts song. So, you know, there's a couple of tsunamis going on. One of them is pushing us toward fear and one of us is one of them is pushing us toward love. And the great thing about being human, probably the the one thing I'd say is the most. The bait, the best thing about being human is we have choice. We get to choose, choose love, choose fear. You know, fear is of the head. Love is of the heart.

Brandon Handley 44:36
I think that the power of choices is it's recognized and it's often on recognized, right? So it's like for one once you recognize the power of choice, you're you're you're astounded, right but until you realize just how powerful choices the word and meaning seems arbitrary right? You know, because, again, go back to the you know, we you feel like you made all your choices yourself, but really you just accepted everybody else's choices for you. Right? And then and then at a certain point, you realize, yes, you accepted all their choices, but now you can start to see and turned your knobs and whatnot for yourself right to make your own conscious choices, right. with intention purpose, for those outcomes. One other term that you have in the book that I really enjoy, is the dominator consciousness been no, you know, to me, that's kind of what we're coming out of, if we choose to look at it that way. But could you share what what that what that what that means?

Thomas Capshew 45:47
Dominator consciousness is what we've been embedded in for 1000s of years. And it is the sense that it's important to have power over other people versus power among. And so what what's happened is we've bought into the idea that there's a limit to power, and resources and love, and all of those things are limited, when in fact, they are not, they're unlimited. If we access power from our Creator, there's plenty of power for everybody. If we access resources from our Creator, there's plenty for everybody. If we access love from our Creator, there's plenty for everybody. So the dominator consciousness perpetuates itself by creating scarcity. And then selling that resource to people. So for example, land is is scarcity, you know, is there's a certain amount of land available and, you know, if you live in Northern Virginia like I do, you've, you're gonna pay a premium for a piece of land, if you live in the northern territories of Canada, that same size land would probably be, you know, a miniscule amount compared to what it is in Northern Virginia. So it's creating scarcity and then saying, Okay, well, I'm going to have power over you by marshaling resource and then not sharing it with people. So power among is understanding that we all have capacity to access our source of power and love and resources. And when you do that, you become a manifester, yourself and you you bring into the world, the things that are needed, and with your co creating with the Creator.

Brandon Handley 48:23
Yeah, that's, I mean, that's the part where you really know where you release that scarcity, where you release, release that restriction on yourself, right? And you open yourself up to the possibilities, right? And therefore you know, you you are this kind of goes back to you now you're making those conscious choices now you're in alignment with who you are. Now you start singing your heart song, right? And and, you know, you begin to kind of let it all in

Unknown Speaker 48:51
what is

Brandon Handley 48:54
what is like one practical tool that you would give to somebody who's on the journey today.

Thomas Capshew 49:01
The most useful, practical tool that I suggest is to develop a practice where you go to your heart, where you meditate, and you access what I call the temple of your heart or the Sacred Heart. And from that place, you can access the resources of the universe. And so developing a relationship with your your interior landscape, as I call it, is probably the best thing you can do to find your path forward. Because our mind is what keeps us engaged with the exterior world that we see. And we aren't going to find our passion and purpose out there. We'll get a lot of people that will tell us what they think it should be. But only when you access your heart. Can you hear that? Quiet whisper of your heart song. And that's the only place in the in the world that no one else can go to. But you? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 50:22
Do you have I think I think I've seen some meditations that you offer. Do you have a meditation that would somebody could experience like this?

Thomas Capshew 50:32
I do. There's a on my website, which is Thomas kept shoe.com there's a free, choose love meditation that you can download. And in the last couple of months, I got a bunch of meditations put up on my, in my shop. They're they're really expensive, though. They're 97 cents apiece.

Brandon Handley 50:59
Oh, breaking the bank.

Thomas Capshew 51:01
Yeah, right. So what I do, I do a particular kind of meditation called x asis meditation. And the purpose of the next asis meditation is to shut down your mind and shut down your body, so that your consciousness can expand and move out into what I call the sea of possibilities. And so next asis meditation takes you, it's a guided meditation that takes you on a journey to a place where you become one with everything. And then I've got a series where you, then I lead you back on a level zero, the level one you, you go to the sea of possibilities and spend three minutes and then I lead you back. level two, you go for nine minutes, and then I bring you back. And level three, you go for 27 minutes, and then I bring you back. And so the purpose is to develop the skill to be aware in your consciousness without having your mind intervene. So it's, it's a, it's a bit. It's theta brainwaves for those of you that are more into the science. We're right now in beta brainwaves. If you close your eyes and breathe down into your diaphragm, you'd go into alpha brainwaves, which is light relaxation. Theta brainwaves is four to eight hertz, and that's deep relaxation. And that's where, you know, you come up with a lot of creative ideas and stuff like that. And then delta brainwaves asleep. So that phasis meditations are designed to have you hit that theta brainwave range and move out into your consciousness and leave your mind and body behind for a given period of time.

Brandon Handley 53:19
It's always nice to lead the body time. Always nicely the body so just real quick, who would you say your ideal like client is if you've got like an idea of that.

Thomas Capshew 53:29
Um, my ideal client is someone who is self reflective and who knows that they're they're a spiritual being having a human experience but often gets trapped in the human experience. And so you know, my job is to kind of help them tip that scale over to where they can live their life knowing that they're a spiritual being and everything they experience as a human experience.

Brandon Handley 54:07
Awesome. So if your ideal client is listening right now they should go to find more of you at Thomas capture calm or where were they find you?

Thomas Capshew 54:19
Yeah, that Thomas capture calm. I have, they can click on a free 30 minute consultation. So we can chat about what their needs are and what skills I have and whether that's a good, good match or not. I'd also like to offer a free ebook to your listeners. So if if you want a ebook of consciousness rising, then you can email me at free ebook at Thomas captured calm. So make sure you got three E's in their free ebook At Thomas capture calm and I'll send you a download for the book.

Brandon Handley 55:08
I know we didn't like to talk too much specifically about the book, but it's definitely it's an enjoyable read. I think it's effective. I think it's practical. I think that you know, it's very it's, it's almost like a spiritual lawyer wrote it. Alright, so Tom, I want to say thank you so much for spending some time on spiritual dope today. We really appreciate you being here. Thank you for I'm really actually interested in your spiritual warrior book. I think that sounds like fun. And thank you for sharing this book with me and sharing it with the world with the work that you're doing.

Thomas Capshew 55:44
You're welcome, Brandon. And I'm really grateful for you having me on and all the work you're doing to move consciousness higher.

Brandon Handley 55:57
And that's where we'll stop Tom. So I appreciate you

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Keep both hands on the wheel

Published: April 30, 2021, 11:40 a.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 34 seconds

Unknown Speaker 0:02
What is going on a BB, that's me backing up, backing up into your life. So just checking in on you guys, then a minute, for a lot of things, and one of those things that has been a minute for my life is Brazilian Jiu Jitsu a little over a year, give or take some true practice in it. And when, when I was doing my podcast fatherhood for the rest of us, that's when I started, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. And he used to do a thing called this thing called the BJJ report, right? Because I come out of there come out of it, too, so pumped up and energized, really, really using my body. And, you know, connecting connecting with myself. In the divine mindset, divine framework that I have set up. A big part of how that originated in generated was through BJJ. And the idea is, when you're kind of in the state of flow, which I talked about this numinous feeling, which is when you are in a state of flow, there's this sense of time slowing down the sense of you being immersed. And all this surrounds you. And the, the idea of of newness is being a part of, of the all being a part of everything, as moving as one. And this is something that spills into again, this is something that's in BJJ. Brazilian Jiu Jitsu for me. Of course, a big part of is when you first start off here, you're doing nothing but struggling for survival. You are, You are just a white belt, you are just beginning your journey. And come hell or high water was choking you out in the morning, right? No one, so can you out or however repeatedly? You are, you're getting choked out, you're getting put in armbars. You are You, you don't know what you don't know. And so you repeatedly put yourself into bad situations that are going to cause you to lose your rate of survivability is, is that a thing? Your rate of survivability goes down. And this applies everywhere. If you think about it, it applies everywhere. And until you enter and or have seen several of these moves. Many, many times. And you have experienced though, you will continue to flail, and you will continue to ride the edge of surviving. And that happens to us in all facets in all areas of life. And it's not until you take the knowledge of what you're being taught. And you apply it to where you are. And it's got to go further than that. It works. You take the knowledge, you see it in action, you know how it's supposed to work. You can tell somebody about it all day long. tell somebody about it all day long. So you can show people how to do it right. But the question is, Can you do it? Can you apply? And it's when it's when you apply it and then you see it working? And then there's that that jolt of like there's that you rica moment

Unknown Speaker 4:56
where it's like wow, it's actually coming together and There's, there's a, just the just these kind of grand epiphany is right. And the other 50 has a pineal gland. And just kind of like basically the the lightning rod getting hit. And I share all this because it's been a while, since I've done some singles It's been a while since I've felt the kind of motion and or emotion and or just something circulating percolating that I felt it was worthwhile sharing. And so the, the BJJ report, that's how that's what this is. And that's just a part of my journey in the spiritual space too, because it was because of, and is because of BJJ, that I just started seeing all this stuff come together, and it made so much sense. The idea again, it's not just the knowledge, the application of the knowledge, and then just general awareness. Going back to you don't know what you don't know. Well, how are you supposed to figure anything out, if you're not aware of what the things are? new job, children, just life in general, the first time that you do a lot of anything, you're gonna it's gonna suck, it's gonna it's not going to be done to this high level of aptitude. They, what do they call it, like, the young, confident, incompetent, unconsciously, competent, unconsciously competent, and, you know, whatever competent does this kind of four levels. Were, even if you did it right on the first time, you're not sure how you did it. It's when you start repeatedly. Being aware of your situation, having had the experience of what those opportunities are, and the beauty of BJJ. And life really is that when you don't hit the move, when you don't defend against the choke, or yarn bar or the submission, and you get submitted, doesn't matter. Doesn't matter, you can contract you can congratulate the person next to you and

Unknown Speaker 7:35
you can get better. It's not about stopping when you become defeated. In that situation. It's about moving moving on moving forward, having that forward progress and having the spirit

Unknown Speaker 8:00
and the will to want to improve yourself, for yourself. And your your own well being and tying that all together, right by mine is spirit. I don't know that there are, you know what, there are plenty of places to tie that all in together. Where I see it and learn from it the most currently is to be BJJ. However, you know if you can figure out that, at least the ways to get your, your mind and your spirit together at least you've got two out of three, but a lot of people can't. There we go. A lot of people of course, always talk about the three legged stool, you need that third leg. So that's the I've been missing kind of the third life because there's not a whole lot of other exercise. For me. That works in the same capacity. Now you can be doing yoga, that can be your thing. Nothing wrong with that you can be doing bike riding your your triathlon, and you're, you're getting your steps in. But for me, this is one of the places where I can have the opportunity to have body mind spirit all tied in together as one, sharing the journey with you as we continue that that's my spiritual dope. That's one of my hits. Of course, you know, other hits include on the way home, see the family, getting getting the family time in and seeing everybody beyond beyond survival, right seeing everybody having survived through through this pandemic. And now coming out of it. There's still plenty of places and you know that are not in an also spot but seen as Everybody comes out of it does this renewed there's a, there's a revitalization there's a revitalization for for people seeing each other again, being able to see each other again. And, and evil. To live again. And I'm not saying that again, I'm not saying that we weren't living in this past year, I'm not saying that you can't live in any other way. You know, without people like, again, we were very fortunate, nobody got sick, and we were able to live, live in live in a pretty awesome way. That being said, seeing people out in public, and seeing people doing some type of normal normalcy. It's this revitalization. And so coming out of, I guess, the darkness, we'll call it, we get to experience and there's a renewed appreciation for some of the things that we once took for granted. And so it's my hope for you that you're recognizing something similar like that in your life, and that you won't take the, the these moments that you're given for granted, right really relish these moments. I mean, there's people out there that lost people, to COVID. And so they don't get to experience those moments again. But going forward, they will really appreciate the time they get to spend with their loved ones more. And being able to be with with their friends, again, being able to experience some of those moments. For so long, kind of held us hostage, either physically or mentally, in a scarce scarcity mindset, a fear mindset. So if you made it, you made it through there, you know, recognize that you've been given the opportunity to continue to

Unknown Speaker 12:23
enjoy it and have a great life. And hold on to it for a moment enjoy. What is it? What is this going to bring to you in these offices,

Unknown Speaker 12:36
all of this is just kind of brought to you by being able for me to be able to get back into optimization just to take a moment and put it all together, getting out of strictly survival mode. And being aware of this kind of what else is out there being aware of what else is available. And having some extreme gratitude for that. How grateful Am I that I get to have this experience and life experience? So hopefully for you, you're enjoying yourself, you're enjoying life you're enjoying. Whatever it is your spiritual Zopa is the golf courses are open, spring is open. Your life could be taken off in wishing and with the best and enjoy your spiritual death today.

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Sarah R Adams | The wonders of the inner self

Published: April 25, 2021, 4:27 p.m.
Duration: 1 hour 2 minutes 22 seconds

Have you ever pondered upon the fact that god exists everywhere, even inside you? Do you feel that you’re capable of manifesting things for your own happiness? You’re doing your daily duties but there is always a greater calling? People like to live in disbelief and not gain the consciousness they can and agree to live the same monotonous life. But you realise you can do way more and are capable of achieving greater satisfaction?

Here’s the hard truth: you are so much more than you believe you are.

In this episode, we are joined by Sarah R Adams where she talks about his experience with the supernatural, energy and gaining consciousness.

Tune in to this episode to learn more about this whole new array of things and how to get your hands on it.

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

  1. Understand the different ways you can bring up your energy and gain consciousness. 
  2. Discover the importance of the supernatural and realize how the divine is inside you.
  3. Learn the significance of practicing consciousness and seeing more than the material world.

Episode Highlights

[01:00] Introduction

  • Sarah talks about how it wasn’t easy to bring her knowledge to the public eye and how it was a learning process to handle it.
  • She talks about how life is hard for many people and humanity on a lot of levels and how she helps them tap into their inner self. 
  • She talks about her working experience and her journey with Gaia.
  • She mentions her experience with the death of a close one and her working experience with the Vice. 

[07:30] The Feeling 

  • Sarah talks about how she can feel the pain and suffering of other people even though they are across the world.
  • Whether we know it or not, we can always feel a person’s suffering. 
  • People need to realise that they are more than just a physical body but rather energy.
  • People need to go out and bring out the cosmic energy.

[12:36] Interacting with Mythical Beings

  • Sarah discusses how she interacts with mythical creatures just like any other human beings.
  • To interact with these beings, you have to bring your consciousness and energy up.

[15:56] Reconnecting

  • After bringing in the energy, you have to master it. 
  • People don’t know how to clear their energy and are stuck in a web.
  • To access the energy, you must acknowledge it first.
  • If you are a mess on the inside, you are a mess on the outside.

[22:10] Instructing Energy

  • Mastery can be achieved by everyone.
  • Being on the earth, is a gift given to us.
  • You need to go in and clear your energy field and create a new space for yourself.

[25:22] Books and Religion

  • Sarah talks about how she loves books.
  • The true word of god is within us and that is how we can access him.
  • Religion causes havoc and puts the wrong idea in people’s heads.
  • Everyone puts lies and the truth together to make it believable and magnetic as in the Bible.
  • Sarah talks about the matrix and the different systems explaining energy level and functioning of creatures.

[38:55] The Divine

  • We must all work together to heal the world. God is energy that flows through us.
  • We are all a part of a beautiful divine puzzle. 
  • People need to find their issues from their inner self.
  • Religion keeps people from healing. 
  • Once a person realises his powers, he is more powerful than the angels.

[44:56] God

  • If god were here, he would not put anyone above anyone else.
  • Some people are really accepting of their powers while others go on questioning their existence. 
  • Sarah talks about her reincarnations and her bodies from the different times. 

About Sarah R Adams

Sarah has experienced many things from seeing abductions to seeing angels who aided her. Her awakened consciousness increased as she got older. She experienced the supernatural and past lives in Egypt & Atlantis. telepathy, weather abnormalities, feeling others emotions, remote viewing, quantum leaping, and time travel are among the other alternate realities Sarah has endured. "I’ve healed so much and believe every day is a healing journey to greater heights".

Sarah works with many clients around the world in what she calls "Intuitive Healing". This includes using homeopathy herbs, supplements, diet super foods, detoxing, energy work, essential oils, visualization, mediation, subtle energy work, cellular work, all to heighten the frequency of the temple and precious bodies we have been given. She has made TV appearances on Gaia TV including Beyond Belief, Buzzsaw and Ancient Civilizations as well as Coast to Coast AM, Vice TV, The Bases Project, co-hosting the Divine Truth Show on Revolution Radio and many others.

Sarah Adams continues to be a major force in the world of enlightenment while healing many around the world.

Connect with Sarah at https://www.sarahradams.com/ or on instagram @divinehathor1985

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Brandon Handley 0:00
All right, cool 54321 Hey there spiritual dope we are on today with Sarah R. Adams Sarah has experienced many things from seeing abductions to seeing angels who aided her. Her waking consciousness increased as she got older, she experienced the supernatural and past lives in Egypt and Atlantis, telepathy, weather abnormalities, feeling others emotions, remote viewing, quantum leaping, and time travel are among the other Ultimate Reality sir has endured. I've healed so much and believe that every day's healing journey to great heights real quick in there. I mean, it's just in the intro, sir. endured so much, right? I mean, entered all these different all these different phases, phases and places is that kind of what you're saying there that you've entered.

Sarah R Adams 1:00
So it's been a long journey. And, you know, thank you for bringing that up. Because this morning, I was pondering on that, during my meditation, you know, it wasn't so easy to bring all the knowledge and all the things that I experienced to the public eye, because there's still a lot of close off people out there. So it was definitely a learning process for me of how to handle that and how to cope with it. So that was definitely hard. At one point, I almost stopped doing this work. And I'm very blessed that I had some major supporters in this field that reached out to me to encourage me to continue the work that I do. So yeah, that was that was definitely hard. And then, of course, you know, I've come to a plan, I've been putting it on a planet, where it's, life is hard for a lot of people and I'm able to tap into their feelings, their emotions, their hardships, that suppression that's going on on this planet. So that also was very tough journey for me to just, you know, be able to just be able to, to process that because it was really intense to experience all of those things. But on the bright side, I, you know, I'm able to really help out humanity on a lot of levels. And I've helped out 1000s of people all around the world, of course, I'm doing a lot of work to help out the planet. So in the end, there's, there's the light at the end of the tunnel less or shit,

Brandon Handley 2:32
not for sure. And you're talking about, you know, the beginning of your journey, or at least, you know, prior to where you are now. And, you know, as I hit in dirt first one of the things that I noticed on your bio, too, is that, you know, you've made two appearances on Gaia. TV, beyond belief you've done with coast to coast, Vice TV and saw these other faces. So, you know, continuing to move forward for yourself, you were able to and I feel like you know, at least this country and maybe the world is opening up to this space in place, right? Or somebody like yourself that's got these talents and gifts to share, right?

Sarah R Adams 3:15
And it is you know, so I decided to work for Gaia. I had, I had a an experience in England, that was very tough at the time, I lost somebody that I deeply loved. And we were doing a lot of work in this field. I kind of just, you know, stayed in England in a small seaside town, with family with extended family members and I decided to stay there and kind of step out of the public eye. And then I got this call from Gaia and Gaia. They when the producer spent like four hours telling me you know, we're really professional here, we're going to be very good to you. We we love your work. We have a lot of faith in you. We want to support you can you fly over to the United States and come and do some work with us. And of course, Netflix reached out to me at the same time for two other shows. And I ended up deciding not to work for Netflix and Gaia because that was initially what my read was to choose Gaia because I believe they're doing good work for the for the world because they are given the experiences of blessed intuitive healers out there and have awakened people out there to a larger platform and a lot of people are open to Gaia and it is for me it's amazing because it was hard before you know you do your YouTube accounts, you do your interviews, your live feeds, but then Gaia really is at a level where that's becoming more mainstream and they've done a lot of work to get us out there and I'm so thankful for that I'm so blessed for that. And for the just for them giving me a platform so I could get the information that I have out there. Because for me that information is vital. And I checked a lot of information on self healing on healing others on healing the planet. And these are this is information humanity needs right now. So I am deeply grateful for that.

Brandon Handley 5:22
Yeah, no, that's, that's awesome. Right. God is a great platform. I think it's interesting that, you know, you chose that over Netflix. But you know, my instinct would also, you know, say that, you know, that's the platform that was right for you, right. I mean, it's a kind of, like a forest bias kind of situation, right? With Gaia.

Sarah R Adams 5:45
I'm tremendously thankful to device because we did film this whole show. Of course, at the time, I wasn't doing very well, I was trying to cope with a with a person who is close to me, like I said, that passed away, it was in mainstream news, it was very hard for me to deal with, because I feel the energies of everyone. And I'm Vice came over I did a charity event in England, for children who have cancer, they came in helped me out with it. They stayed with me a little bit, and were so supportive. And, you know, then they decided to air the show eventually. And they were so sweet. They got on radio shows, and were so supportive of me, they eventually decided to the show, like a day before, I was like, I don't think I could do this, right? Like, you know, I just don't think that I can be out there more. I feel like I have to be in the public eye. They were so nice. They completely just got rid of the show never aired it. So I have a lot of respect for advice to

Brandon Handley 6:43
the school. Let's say that they respected your wishes in that way. Yeah. So I love to start this off with this is not on, you know, usually I do a quick intro and to jump right into this question. So this is a, you know, we're here, right? You and I are connecting here for this moment, this time, space in place, to let source speak through us to somebody who's going to listen to the podcasts, or maybe watch the video at some point. And they're tuning in to get a message that only you can deliver right now. So what is that message at this point in time.

Sarah R Adams 7:17
So, you know, for me, looking around, and even feeling what I feel from the planet and from the masses out there. And this is why I do the work that I do because I know of course I hear about homelessness and see homelessness and hear about abuse going on, I see it. But I feel it because I'm in God consciousness, I can feel what's happening across the world, the pain and suffering. So this is why I'm so passionate about helping out humanity. This all needs to shift and change. And we need to understand that whether we know it or not, we're feeling that person's suffering across the world. We're feeling the the energy of that person suffering, we're feeling their emotions, we're feeling everything, even though many are not aware of this. And so for me, awareness is really important right now, people need to become aware that they are more than this physical body is that they are energy and energy is what is what we're basically everything is made up even solid objects, like the chair I'm sitting on, it's just condensed energy that creates solid objects. So when energy is condensed, it creates solid object. So for me, people need to become reconnected. And once they become reconnected to the energy field within them, which is their soul, their spirit, there's many names for it, then they could channel that energy, they could channel that energy to heal their organs, heal their physical bodies, and heal those around them and also heal the planet because the planet bunches on on energy, our bodies function on energy, we have a problem right now, this plant is depleted in energy, people are depleted energy, you know, and there's, of course, there's a lot of, there's a lot of info in the awakened community, about DNA and how you fly up your DNA how you should, you know, charge your chakra system your aura. But what people really need to understand is that they need to actually go out and do these things. They need to go do them and bring in the cosmic light and we could touch the moon, the stars, stars, the sun, we can even ask other bees come charges with ancient light codes. When that happens, we're going to start to become more full of energy full of energy, our whole system will light up our DNA will light up because a body says a body that is deleted that is depleted. Functions right here in energy. It functions right here in consciousness, we need to ascend to higher consciousness to fix the problems to be solution bringers on this planet, and so we need to go we need to step from up down here to appear energetically wise. When we do that. We're going to be gone conscious And we're going to have the biggest library that's infinite, that that's eternal, challenge us the solutions for everything before for the suffering for the homelessness for everything. So I think that that's really important right now, you know, it's important, we were more than words that we actually bring in that energy, that we start to understand how energy works. And that we need to start to understand there is a lot of beings out there that want to help us, we need to do the work to bring in the energy, because again, we're at here, the bees are here so we can access them. But once we bring our energy, if we're going to get to the same levels, these bees, and they will interact with us. And then also, you know, there are kin they're going, they're more than willing to bring help and solutions to us. So for me, the biggest, biggest thing is that humanity understands that they have a soul, it's made of energy, they can charge their bodies with more energy, and they can use this energy to go higher in frequency so that they can become multi dimensional again, so that they can reach new heights of spirituality, then they could channel the energy through them to heal the planet to heal the oceans and to clear the pollution and the negative energies off this planet.

Brandon Handley 11:17
So no small message, or a small message, a small message, right? No, and just just help me out here just with some of the language. So if I say God consciousness, and and and and then kind of the way that we're talking and what you're saying, could I liken it to the Akashic Record?

Sarah R Adams 11:37
Yeah, you know, that's Yes. Akashic Record. vast library of eternal knowledge. Yes.

Brandon Handley 11:47
Okay. Every part of it. Yes. And, and I know, you talk about, you know, different beings or ETS, etc. Are they you know, would you say that they're among us, and it's just our inability to recognize them? for like, the dimensional are currently limited. Well, so the most of us, right are limited capability to see multi dimensionally or at a higher level. Um, and, or simply like, a belief block, right? Just like, you know, if you believe the stories of like, back in the day, when, you know, the story goes, Hey, you know, when Christopher Columbus came over with the boats, Indians didn't see the boats because they didn't know what a boat was. Right? So how are you going to see something? If you don't know what it is?

Sarah R Adams 12:42
Well, you know, it goes back to the whole thing of energy that I just explained, yes, there's many different beings I interact with leprechauns, fairies, elves, many different mythical creatures that I speak to, and I see them like I see you. Now the thing is, is when your energy fields down here, you're functioning from lower consciousness, when your energy fields up here, you're functioning from higher consciousness, and you're also tapping into these other beings, when you're functioning from up here, it's all about energy a depleted body, simply your client kind of robotic kind of show off, you can't access other realms, you can't access other dimensions. So you're down here living down here. So the thing is, is that to be able to communicate with these beings to interact with them you have to bring your energy up you have to bring your frequency up. And of course when I go to save God, you know God consciousness for me, God is an energy that flows through everything it flows to planets, to realms through everything, and this energy interacts with us of course, we have a certain amount of it in us and otherwise we would be dead because the organs and everything functions on energy but what we need to use we need to understand how to bring energy into us. So we can speak to this moon stars the sun, the ancient spirits of light, we can say, you know charges with more energy and that will happen as our frequency goes up, then we're going to start interacting with other beings. And even a non believer can do this for somebody who's never had a spiritual experience in their life or or interacting with an ET or any other supernatural creature. If you just bring your energy up, you'll have those experiences.

Brandon Handley 14:21
Okay, so if Let me also are you I'm sure you're familiar with David Hawkins and the consciousness map Yes or no?

Unknown Speaker 14:30
A little bit.

Brandon Handley 14:32
Okay, and I bring that up because he's got like, a basic graph right? Just says hey, you know, low consciousness down here. And you know, gives you like, certain like levels right? Sounds like a ladder up to like, you know, God consciousness, right? Because, you know, where if everybody's got like this lower consciousness now, then we're stuck in fear, right? Then if you're stuck in fear, then like, you know, you can't see shit. You're stuck. You can't see anything because you're just all using See his worry and fear? Yes. Right. And it's going to take you to kind of there's a tipping point is like courage, right? Where you know this on the ladder where just says, Hey, alright, well, I stepped into or accepted like, you know, my divinity like might you know my source energy but it's going to take me a little bit longer to figure out what to do with it next right like now you've got the source of energy you're connected, you're tapped in your love but you're like still like this big blob because you don't know what the hell to do with it. Right? Right. And then, you know, so he walked in and so you kind of walk up the ladder until you get to this higher consciousness spot that you're talking about? And then you know that part, you're at that that part but how do you how do you how do you walk somebody into, you know, get to get to become reconnected? How do you walk somebody, yourself like to get shot, like God love to get charged some ancient like codes, I'm down, like, I mean, so what's that process?

Unknown Speaker 15:56
I can arrange that for you? And yeah.

Sarah R Adams 16:01
You know, okay, so you're right, you know, you tap into, or you bring in this energy and you're kinda like everywhere. So then you have to master that energy. Because, you know, God, which we're gone mastered the elements price master the elements Christ had owed to the ocean to comment it did. So you know, instead of letting that energy just everywhere you channel that energy. So you say, Okay, I want you to, to do this, this and this, and you instruct that energy. And that's where you actually achieve what I call God. Entire, the entirety of access and God consciousness, because if you're just in that chaotic energy, it's going to eventually you know, cause a lot of problems. So then you have the energy you instruct it, okay, channel to the planet here, channel to my life here to create a new more success and blessings channel to this person here that needs it. So then we must know how to master it, which is quite important. Probably the most important, above all is knowing how to master yourself. So we have so many co pilots out there, nobody's living as a master pilot of themselves, their energy fields, and this is causing a huge problem. They're not, you know, we take showers every morning. But we're our energy fields are full of gunk. And nobody's actually cared to clean. A walk, you know, the city's his stuff. And it's passed back and forth and eventually returned to this like dense web of energy. And they don't know why they're depressed, why they're feeling bad, why they're sad, why nothing is manifesting good in their life. It's because they're all in that web. So it's really important to understand how the energy field and to clear it, bring in energy and then master that energy.

Brandon Handley 17:43
How do I get myself out of the web?

Sarah R Adams 17:47
You know, so I work in symbolism, of course, I've done some work on Gaia for this. And the body of Christ said that the body is a temple. The body is the original church. By the way, we weren't meant to go to church to access God, we were meant to this soul code symbolism permit to access God within here. No, we're looking for God and books, religions, all this all these places, failing to realize that the most powerful force actually lives within us. So to access that force, you must first acknowledge it, you must acknowledge that there's this energy within you. And then you must also start to communicate with it. So it's formed through our organs is formed through ourselves. So to bring more energy in what I like to do is I like to speak to each organ. So what I do is I visualize my DNA, I visualize it, and cosmic energy pouring into my DNA to light my DNA. Then I visualize a golden tunnel, I visualize myself flying up to the skull through this golden tunnel, until I got goosebumps all over my body. And then I go to PES five Do I go to 22 D. And once I get to 22 D, I mean God consciousness, I have my mind clear. I focus on my liver and you don't even need to know where your liver is, or the organ you're working on. And I ask I say, I say, is there any desert energies? Is there any toxins? Is there any ancestral energies? Is there any dense dense, toxic energies from things that happened to me traumatic energies, and then I clear my mind and weight and the organ response to a thought almost telepathically. And sales show me either I'll get an image of like this black smoke energy that needs to be spent, there's dense energies that need to be cleared or I'll say, anger or it'll say hurt or pain. Then I tell my system, just like you would press Delete on your computer, I tell my system, delete this out of my system, and I can feel the energy completely been removed from my system. Then I ask the Oregon again, I say what color do you need, and then they'll tell me gold or blue. blues great for inflammation. Bold is great for to energize the organ. So I go through all my organs and do this, myself, my bones, my brain and do this because again, going back symbolism, if you go to Europe to the ancient churches there to the cathedrals there, they have an origin in it. And of course, when you play the organ the symphony is, is heard throughout the entire church. So our organs create the symphony, that that that flows through our entire body, our aura, our chakra system. So if one of our organs are off, it's just like one of the keys of that Oregon, in that church feed off which will, which will create a symphony, that that sounds that that's off, that's out of tune, that's out a symphony, and in basically the same as what the frequencies in our bodies, when organs are blocked by toxins, by trauma, by all these negative things, and their energies are off, then the frequency, the tune of our frequency, the symphony of the Divine within our frequency field is off. And then we start to create all sorts of issues everywhere in our life and our physical life, which is a reflection of our Symphony that's off within ourselves, our frequency, that's all within ourselves,

Brandon Handley 21:18
I can definitely see that right, you're a mess on the inside, you're gonna see a mess on the outside, right? I mean, right? Um, you know, how does one learn, you know, to master the energy, right, instructing the energy, I really enjoyed that versus kind of like, Sounds Sounds like a little bit more fun than your traditional prayer type of thing be like, please, you know, be really cool. If this happened, you send an instruction out again, you have to use in some program language, like, you know, create an instruction, this line always works for, you know, this thing, right? But how do you know, how do you tell somebody to, you know, again, going from, Alright, here's all this energy, it's a mess, but like, how do you go from that to just being able to instruct it? Because mastery is something that takes a long time, it's not something that takes a month. Right? So what are some of the stuffs there?

Sarah R Adams 22:09
I think, reason that, you know, it mastery, for me can be attained by everyone in quite a short, short space of time, once they understand how their system works, because we're bodies, right. And we're seeing them as prisons, we're seeing them as negative, we're seeing that we're caught on this planet, rather than understanding that their divine tech. And this was a gift giving to ourselves when we were in the realms of spirit. So we could have a 3d physical experience. And we are not, we are not treating this physical body, this tech, right, we're not understanding how it works. So you know, because of this, I feel a lot of the and while I'm very thankful, and have a lot of honors, honor for those who have taught about mastering oneself, I believe, once you connect to your system, it goes quite quickly. So you speak to your organs, once you learn just to do it to one which takes a couple of minutes, I teach this to my clients, then you go through them all, and it doesn't take long. And you know, in three weeks, I have people who are completely it's almost like they're reborn again, they're they completely are mastering their, the frequencies within themselves. And they're there. They're channeling higher frequencies. And so I really, for me, the knowledge of how to how to unite the spirit, God energy. So it's one with the physical body, which is also divine tech, that knowledge has been lost. And so this is creating a problem because there's there's people discover different ways to master their energy fields, but they haven't truly tapped in that, hey, you can go into your system, just like a computer, where you press Delete, you can delete all of the old energy system out and then rebuild a new energy system. And this is what Christ meant and Bible that thou shalt be born again, it doesn't need to actually physically die, it means that you need to go in and clear all that old energy field and create a new one. And you can do so. And, you know, it's quite easy to do once you once you step into that.

Brandon Handley 24:18
I mean, I guess I could see that right? The idea of connecting, going through a process learning the process. And then once you're, you know, tuned in, tapped in turned on, right, you're you're Oh, yeah, you're good to go.

Unknown Speaker 24:33
But well, you

Brandon Handley 24:35
know, the other part too, right. I think you mentioned this and I wanted to tap on it. He talks about like books and religions as being not like imminently necessary right for, you know, to be able to do this. However, I mean, would you also say that i like i like if I read a book, and I understand something to me that I think As my level of where I am versus the book per se, right? Is that fair to say? Like, so if I pick up a religious book and I'm like, Oh my god, I have an epiphany. It's not necessarily a book. It's just my understanding. Exactly.

Sarah R Adams 25:14
Yes, exactly. And, you know, the thing is like, I love books, by the way, a lot of antique books. I have books from England, I have quite a library of say love books, but at the same time, I know being a God consciousness, I instantaneously know things. And like the Bible, okay, so the Bible, first of all, it's not, it's almost like being worshipped. People are so obsessed with the Bible. It's insane. It's, it's, it's deterring them from a god, which

Brandon Handley 25:47
was misunderstood, right? Like, I mean, it's been like, passed down from generation to generation, you got this one group of people is like, hey, let's, let's take all the literal meaning out of this whole thing. You know, which could, you know, translations never been altered over, you know, 1000s of years. So, you know, I'm sure everything in there is like, perfect. Right. And then they,

Sarah R Adams 26:07
well researched the Bible. It's First of all, it's, it's not the word of God, because it's a lot of different prophets, prophecies, history, and mishmash of things laid down put together then to then create the Bible, which is said to be the Word of God, which isn't true at all. Um, but the true Word of God is within us, when we tap into that higher state of being, we just instantaneously No, because we're in God consciousness, and we don't need to read a book, because God is within us, and we're accessing that. So for me, when it comes to religion, um, and, you know, this might be controversial to say, but I know don't say controversial stuff, and I honestly don't care because I know people need the truth, it's going to help them out of this world that they're living in of dense energies. And in the Bible, there was also a lot of political stuff put in there to suppress people, you know, just like says, pay your taxes, and this and this, and this. And then of course, it's, you know, way the Bible too, is, for me, it's quite a dense energy, because there's, there's, there's the murder of millions of people in there, there's the murder of innocent animals as sacrifice. And you know, any logical person, any person who's somewhat functioning, R is going to look at that state, why would God construct to kill children, animals and 1000s of people, you know, if your god you would ever do that, that's, that's, that's not gone. In fact, that's the opposite of it. So for me, religion has caused a lot of havoc, it's also put made people think that they're sinners. And it's made put people in this sort of like, energetic West system, which I feel is part of the false matrix system, false light matrix system, where it doesn't tell them how to actually heal, it just makes them feel bad, because they're sinners, and they have guilt and everything else. And it's quite huge problem on the planet right now. And to send it to God conscious, you got to get rid of all of that, you know, and it's sadly it's ingrained in our very DNA, some of us because our, our grandparents and so on, have the everybody's been in religion, and whatever you believe those codes are going to go into your children and your grandchildren. So a lot of people they, they're, they're actually being born with these codes that need to be re deleted out of the system. So they can have a free mind. So their souls can be free, so the energy can be free, so that they can actually function function from a higher consciousness. So it's really important to to get rid of all of that, hey, the Bible is, was also King James, who had the whole Bible done, who did a book on demonology. Nobody knows this.

Brandon Handley 28:47
Nobody's got that one.

Sarah R Adams 28:50
Yes, nobody's got that one. He wrote a book on demonology, how to summon demons, but the Word of God and I do water research. I've done a lot of research on the Archons because I've encountered you know, spirits that feed off of other people's energy field. And I really feel the Bible is tied into the archives and into lower spirits. Once we're clear of energy, of guilt of negative energy and guilt and all that stuff, no, no negative spirit can can access us. So they want us to have guilt and they want us to feel like sinners, because when we do things can ask us to feed off their energy fields. I think it's kind of religion was created. Almost for me, the opposite of the Divine is connected into the lower energies,

Brandon Handley 29:33
not 100% I can I can see that right and especially if you're taking the Bible at kind of face value. I guess I'm referring to a lot of some of the other people that have given me a different perspective on it. Like neville goddard is a guy that like you know, I think gives you like a fun perspective on the Bible that doesn't, it's not the is based off of like astrology and all these other things versus you know, some other stuff and versus what I was taught growing up, I remember very clearly, like really listening to him, like driving off to some back roads, like talking about the Bible, like, you know, and to me the way that it was intended to be delivered, I was like, that's it. Why is this? Why isn't anybody talking like this, this is what you're you're supposed to be hearing versus, you know, if they're talking about, like, for example, one of them was like, talking about the sheep, not following the sheep, per se, but like, you know, about, like, it's the rough texture of the sheep versus something else, like all the symbolism, which, again, I'm sure, you know, up your alley, right. So not to dive too deep. But I mean, I think that to me, again, the bigger part of it all is like, you know, when you're reading books, and I don't feel like they're, I feel like there's definitely misinterpretation of the Bible. And I also feel like, to your point, you don't need to go, when you go read all those books, understand that the things that are lighting you up are coming from your own understanding from within, right, not from that book, per se.

Sarah R Adams 31:02
Yeah. When you know, and there's codes and symbolism and everything. So like, if I read something, and I've read the Bible, like, countless times, and I, when I read something, I see it differently, I'll notice a person who reads it that, you know, they haven't access God consciousness. They'll take it literally and see it differently than me who actually sees codes in it. I mean, there's a lot of codes and symbolism in religion, but those are stolen. Those were stolen from the ancient prophets, prophets, those writings and then, you know, given to us in different religious books, but is there sure is there some truth in bio, of course, there's some truth in the Bible. And otherwise, that would keep people attracted to so they always put truth and lies

Unknown Speaker 31:46
together. It's sure. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 31:49
no, for sure. For sure. It was funny. That's who I had as a, I made a little note here, when you're talking about the matrix. Remember where they're the the cat like in the one scene, that kind of glitch for a second, like you said in the matrix, and then it was like almost a glitch when you said it was just kind of funny because you glitch in the matrix?

Sarah R Adams 32:06
She said, there's two matrix, there's two light systems, globalist plan. One is the original light system on the light system of ancient light, which is going through the forest, it's flowing through everything. And then we have what I call the false light system, the false light system, is the pollution on this planet, because pollution is heavy, heavy, dense energies are being bombarded with pollution, negative belief systems, that's another one. Whether you know, and we are actually born into a system where there's, we go through schooling, that's a system that closes us off from our creativity from the divine, where we go through jobs, that's another system that makes us you know, basically almost like it slaves us for money. And it keeps us from our true calling, calling our soul path, we have all these different systems that are a part of this false light matrix system that we are born into, and that we grow into and that tell us what to think it tells us what to eat, it tells us how to dress, it tells us what to do on every single level, while it's hitting us with pollution, so that our bodies because each cell by the way, and this is some This is some ancient knowledge here, because the ancient Egyptians, they used to be sun worshippers, and they would bring in the light of the sun and that would charge their aura and they're in all the organs and of course, their chakra system. The cell is a solar panel with the light would come through it and charge our solar energy. However, the the brushes are, the pollution comes into the cell, and specifically heavy metals, we're being bombarded with heavy metals everywhere, putting in different things like vaccination and stuff as controversial as that sounds. So heavy metals get into the cell and reflect out like a mirror. So the light cannot charge our auric field and our energy systems. So we are basically lower consciousness because we are not not charging. This is why we have so many energy vampires, people are depleted in energy, often, they are terrible to themselves and others their murders their abusers. Anyone who does not have a higher energy charge, they are basically functioning from lower consciousness, and they're they're vampires. They're energy vampires. So we have this whole neural connected false light matrix system, which blocks the shoe light out is fucking, like I said, on a cellular level on an energetic level on a thought level, in the belief systems on all these different levels. And sadly, much of the planet this planet many millions of people are tapped into that false light matrix system and function from there. You have to completely disconnect from that and then you have to reconnect to the true life. That light of the Divine that flows through everything. So, you know, you have to kind of peel back the layers almost like an onion, you've got to peel that back so you can get to your core energy within yourself of the Divine

Brandon Handley 35:15
was something was first up. Like, I mean, you know, how do you recognize you're you're in, in, like, the bad matrix,

Sarah R Adams 35:26
I think it's really easy to tell, you know, you're going to be depressed, you're going to be stressed, you're going to be worried all the time, you're going to be tired. There's no joy in life. Because, you know, again, being down here and frequency, you, you have to be high frequency data, joy, bliss, love all those beautiful things to feel good. So if you're down here, you're gonna be sick and everything else, and that's, you know, then you're gonna be you're gonna feel like you're you're suffocated in life. Those are a few of the things you know, that will tell you that you're connected into the lower energies. And then of course, you need to start with level number one, and that's the physical body, you need to start to detox it, detox it, detox it, and bring in light energies. So then, you know, you can bring in light energies, without doing any what I call visualization meditation, which is another level of bringing yourself up through drinking herbs, bringing in a lot of food that has light energy in it, that's fruits, vegetables that have charged with the sun's energy that moves energy to certain bring that energy into your body. Because our diet, you know, I noticed specially here in the United States, our diets are depleted in energy, literally minerals, nutrients, we're in a dead diet. So we're a week later, we like a walking dead. So it's so important to bring those things to bring in vitamins and nutrients into your system to bring in a water that's charged with energy. So I put my my water by the way, in mason jars and put it under the sun and moon put crystals in it. So I'm charging it, that's one of the ways I like to do it. So then you're going to start with the physical to just start to simply change his frequency through your diet through de toxin. And then you know, start to do things like meditation, visualization, meditation, start to do things, you know, physical things to get your body also healthy, such as working out yoga. Things like those are a couple of the first steps that people need to take to actually get themselves to higher frequencies.

Brandon Handley 37:30
Right? So this is, those are a couple, the first steps you're going to take to break out of the, I'm just gonna call it the dark matrix into the light matrix. Right. And it's kind of interesting as you're talking, right, the the foods was like energy. I forget, I was watching some, you know, plant based diet but but, you know, basically you're eating if you're eating you know, freshly grown in the sun, vegetables and fruit, you're eating the sun, that's sunlight, right? I mean, it's literally captured sunlight. So at least if you're getting it into you, I could just see myself blowing out like the the metals or whatever from the inside.

Sarah R Adams 38:09
And that's another thing, see what toxic toxins, um, you can also go in your system, and tell your system to transmute them. So you tell your yourselves, you know, I want you to transmute the energy of toxins chest, made it to golden light, and then charge yourself, you're telling yourself charge itself with that. So we can actually go in our system and tell our system to transmute these energies of toxins into higher frequencies that will then charge us and bring us into higher consciousness.

Brandon Handley 38:44
what's the what's like, a timeline for something like that right to to is that require like belief that you you and your system, and your body can do that for yourself.

Sarah R Adams 38:58
And, you know, that's why they really, in society try to make us feel less than inside. Because once we believe our God, that manifests is in herself. And we are immensely powerful.

Brandon Handley 39:11
So real quick, though, so if I'm God and your God, like, what's up, I mean, you because I think I think a lot of people, though, if you if you were to say that, and you're saying it right now they're like, well, if you're a god, you know, why is the world like this? Why don't you fix it? And if I'm God, then like, why is my world like such a shit show? Right? Like, so? How do you address that to people?

Sarah R Adams 39:36
So it wouldn't be fair, if only your God or I'm God, and we have all this power, that would be imbalanced. So God wants us all to know, we're all God. And we must all work together to heal the world, because that's fairness and balance. And of course, God is energy that flows through us. It flows through you, it flows through me and we must have All acknowledge that word God, this is quite important for the planet right now. And that because when we knowledge that, then there is no fair there is no, there is no nothing that can hinder us from healing our planet, but it would be unfair if just one of us forgot. So yes, even though I have quite immense divine power, it's not up to me to clap, it's up to me to say I have found God within, and pass that light to others until everyone saw their light within and works together to heal their planet. That's what the divine wants, it wants us to know that we're all pieces of this beautiful, divine puzzle. And we're all needed. And we all need to step into our Christ consciousness, not just one of us, because, you know, if one of us came and healed the entire planet, it wouldn't fix the solutions go back, they, they would expect to save your over and over again. They haven't stepped into their Christ selves. But once you step into your Christ stuff, you understand that you come from a place of compassion and goodness. So you understand not to continuously do harm to yourself and others. So this is a this is kind of the grand plan divine plan for humanity. That's why in religion when it says, you know, just there's one Savior, that's such a, it's false. Christ said, All our Christ, Christ was trying to show people, I have powers, and you can achieve this too. And price that I'm God. And that was very controversial back then. But Christ had realized that he had this God force within himself, and he became one with it, and realized he was gone. And so he was trying to teach humanity.

Brandon Handley 41:43
Now that makes sense. I mean, I think that makes a you know, to the same to the same degree, almost, that if you and I were to run out and say that, God, right, those people right now are like, no, you're not like, That's messed up. You can't talk like that. Right? But all you're really saying is like, you know, I am filled with source energy to your VM. We started this whole thing off with a, you know, without that, without that divine energy within your body, that lifeforce within your body. You don't work? Like I mean, and nobody figures out like how, like when you die, like nobody's like, hey, did anybody catch the battery that fell out? You know, where does? Where did that life source go? Where did that God force go? Right? So and, you know, you're talking about, like, you know, Jesus, I can do these things. And you can, you can do the same and so much more. Right. And that's, I think, I love that line. I'm like, well, Dude, what's up? You know what I mean? And so,

Sarah R Adams 42:39
like, what's the Why? Why are you guys not healing people? Why are you guys why is the earth this way? Because they haven't found the the, the issues within themselves, they have actually become one with the energy to understand their God. So that's why nobody is really healing themselves and others has done this religion actually keeps people from accessing that. And, um, but yeah, I see that all the time. But hey, of course, I have been in Christ consciousness, I manifest myself beautiful, happy,

Brandon Handley 43:07
like, it's worked out.

Sarah R Adams 43:10
Everywhere. Yes. So I am the master of my life through that.

Brandon Handley 43:14
works, right. But But I think what you're saying though, too, and I heard down, like, it's like a string of Christmas lights, right? Like, if one goes out, like, then the whole thing's not working, right. So we're all kind of like, in that string of Christmas lights. If we're, if we, if we got a few that are busted, the whole strings not gonna work. So we all got, we all got it, bring our lights and you're passing the light on to the next person, next person, you have just as much in you, as the next person does. It's just their ability and willingness to recognize it, harness it and nurture it, is that what you're saying?

Unknown Speaker 43:49
And, you know,

Sarah R Adams 43:52
like I said, there's some truth in the Bible, but it says that, once a man realizes that he's, he's, he's got Christ within him that he has power, more power almost to the angels. And that's, that's amidst power. And, but but God being fair to all, even with beings like me, who have come to this earth to channel this information, I don't ever want to be on a pedestal. I don't ever want to be above anyone. I just wish to show them what I have done within myself.

Brandon Handley 44:30
But I think that that's it. That's so that's a tough one for people there because like, you know, it's like, again, you're not saying you're above or beyond anyone, you just made a different choice to recognize your your connection to source right and that's, that's it, right? It's not like, it's not like you're better than somebody else. Not like your higher not like your lower not like you're more powerful than anybody else. See, there's just like, this is, you know, like the whole Jesus thing, you can do this and so much more.

Sarah R Adams 44:57
Exactly. So I you know, I've devoted my life To showing people why achieved and that they can achieve just as much within themselves. And this is important because God is so fair God would not put one above another. So there's just those of us who have realized that we're God and we're worthy, our own price, and there's those who have not that they're below us. Just they haven't realized that yet. And at some point in the future, they will realize that

Brandon Handley 45:31
right, or, you know, depending on like, I guess where you were your stances on like the reincarnation bit, right, or just like, in next lifetimes, until, like, there's a full recognition of, you know, soul experience, right, I'm here to have an experience. And you know, if I don't figure it out this time, like, maybe you know, next time, right? So what are some of your biggest objections, somebody, you know, when when you tell them that they are God, that they are source? What do they say to you,

Sarah R Adams 46:03
it almost releases that makes them so happy, because they, you know, a lot of people look up to me. And so when I tell them that they're like, incredibly happy, and they're, it's eye opening to them, because they're like, Wow, you've achieved so much. And you do all these things, you travel dimensions, you go out of your body, you speak to ETS, but you're looking at me, and you're telling me, I'm God, and that really in a beautiful way shapes them, and they start to think about it and helps them wake up. And they're very accepting of that. And they, you know, I help them realize their power within them. And that, you know, even though a lot of them a lot of people I come across, you know, sometimes they'll just be having my, my cup of hot chocolate or tea, and I'll look at the person who's talking to me, I'll say, you know, your God. And they just smile, and they like, tell me, you know, tell me about this. And I tell it to them, they understand it, and it really helps them to wake and more.

Unknown Speaker 47:11
That's cool, right?

Brandon Handley 47:14
I definitely haven't gotten to the point where I run around tell people that they're God, right. But yeah, I see, you know, definitely. To the point, though, where I know that I look at everybody and everything is divine, right? That's just kind of point that I'm at

Sarah R Adams 47:27
what he says all the time, when I'm walking on the street, I see a smiling child or a hair, bird chirping, or I feel the wind blowing through my hair. I'm aware, God is within me and all around me. And God's always speaking to me. It's such a beautiful thing. And it's, for me, what's heartbreaking, is that knowing that humanity has, they're not opening the door to that. And that's the solution. And once they did they never be lonely. Even if they were in the middle of the desert, they would know that they're gone, they're okay. And everything's gonna be okay. And and there would be no fair, there would be nothing, you know, that could hinder them ever really, truly hurt them in any experience. So it for me, it's really intense because I get to experience this. But I realized how hard it is for people who don't have that support from the divine. It's really hard. They're 3d lives.

Brandon Handley 48:30
Do you feel like we're turning a corner at all? Do you feel like the realization and recognition of you know divine within Christ Consciousness is accelerating?

Sarah R Adams 48:43
I do I believe that the pressures of you know COVID the pressures from our politicians, the pressures from our economy that is just been destroyed via these different things. I feel like the more pressure that humanity has on it, that they're going to look deeper within they're going to start to look deeper within and find that power, and that's going to help them transcend all of these things. And that pressure is there to help them access the Christ consciousness to push them within more to step into their God consciousness.

Brandon Handley 49:24
Like a germination a source.

Unknown Speaker 49:26
Yes,

Unknown Speaker 49:27
I got it.

Brandon Handley 49:30
Let's do ETS. Before we leave, just for fun. Give me the lowdown on the ETS Anju

Sarah R Adams 49:38
Whoo. So I you know, I had when my team who saw me shape, shape shift into et By the way, so I get this question a lot. People are like, what are you you're you supernatural?

Unknown Speaker 49:52
Are you a goddess? Are

Sarah R Adams 49:53
you a witch? Are you this? I've had 1000s of different labels and names thrown at me. So, you know, we have these bodies right? So we have many other bodies A lot of people don't remember this, but this is their only body that they've had. They've lived on other planets they've taken many different forms but above that they were in their spiritual in spirit

Unknown Speaker 50:17
world

Sarah R Adams 50:17
so their God consciousness, somewhere in God consciousness, I've taken bodies of ETS I've taken bodies in Egypt and Atlantis and this is my, you know, most recent body

Unknown Speaker 50:29
to daily driver,

Sarah R Adams 50:30
right so just like we take off clothes and put them on that's how I see it. So yeah, I have had some incarnation says ETS different ETS Um, so that's something that I'm highly aware of. I have merged in the energy from whenever I was in et so I have that energy within my field they beat motion energy for when I was in Atlantis from when I was in Egypt, and it has a lot of information it's kind of amazing because I kind of left all this information and then pulled it back into this lifetime so that I can help out with the, with channeling knowledge to humanity. That was all this information I cut it during the time I went to fit into physical bodies. So with ETS, I mean, they're again, they're just a different body that they put on for a while to have experiences in. I speak to them sometimes like I said, I definitely go into the energy of when I was at et and shape shift that I'm quite aware of that people around me too. But for me ETS are our they're my kin I'm always up with the council's they, they're so telepathic and they're so they can feel things from other planets, they can be another solar system and feel things that happen on our planet. They're quite in tune. And they're kind of like the Sears is the divine is because they're the powers that they have the technology they have comes from the divine they're so close to the divine. It has an immense power that gives them all the technology all the abilities they have in fact Believe it or not the ET races that are that are the have the most light energy through them are the most advanced races not the ones who still energy.

Brandon Handley 52:14
Got two questions left. Got a favorite favorite et Ah, I

Unknown Speaker 52:18
can't see that I

Sarah R Adams 52:20
I feel heartbroken say that because they all love me so much. And I love them so much.

Brandon Handley 52:24
So I just today could change tomorrow.

Sarah R Adams 52:29
I still have to stick with all of them. They do such divine work for the planet for humanity, and I'm so grateful to have their

Unknown Speaker 52:35
presence in my life.

Brandon Handley 52:37
No Wrong there's no wrong answers. Are we that much more removed than from ETS in terms of being close to the divine? I mean, is it harder for us to get that close? Or have we made it harder for ourselves to get that close?

Sarah R Adams 52:52
humanity's made it hard for themselves, you know, because never left humanity. These beautiful beings, interdimensional beings ETS never, never left humanity. They've never turned their backs on humanity's humanity has turned its back on itself. And on God on its own children on it on its own planet, because they're not they're not stepping into God consciousness and they're simply living a 3d life. So if humanity was made the obstacles for themselves,

Brandon Handley 53:23
so self inflicted kind of walls and cutting ourselves off from source. intentional or unintentional. You know, I think I think it could be argued either way, right? You know, what's the Maya Angelou line where, you know, you do your best until you know better, right? And, yes. And I think that, you know, we've done our best with what we thought was the right thing for quite a long time only kind of to get to this point and be like, Oh, really, this is the best we can do. I think we I think we missed the turn back there, right? somewhere. So we should have turned left. We should have made a right. Well, so listen, I you know, there's so much to do, which barely scratched the surface of you. But I just want to say thanks for popping on today. What is you know if what is like one thing you wish somebody had always asked you but never had?

Unknown Speaker 54:19
Hmm.

Sarah R Adams 54:22
That's a hard one. But let me think for a second there. You know, I think that I wish that people would have understood that I was only that I'm only trying to bring them goodness and asked me about that more deeply and intensely when I was younger, when I had just gotten this filled in when everything was chaotic for me. You know, I wish they would ask more questions that came to me about the things that I experienced and about me being different. That would have been amazing. Now they do. So I've manifested that. But it's something that I would have wanted when I first got into this field,

Brandon Handley 55:09
how would that have helped you?

Sarah R Adams 55:11
I think instead of people misunderstanding me, because a lot of them did, it would have helped them understand me a lot more,

Brandon Handley 55:18
just by kind of asking questions versus what was happening,

Sarah R Adams 55:24
versus theories or fair or I feel like people are very fearful of things that are different. And instead of approaching and fair, or having their theories or beliefs, they should approach with kindness and by asking questions, and getting to know those who are different, because, you know, I've had my share of where I was misunderstood, despite the fact that it was only trying to bring healing and goodness to the world. So I hope that that's something that in this community, people can do more, they can just simply be honest with you ask a question, without any ulterior motive behind it, or belief system or theory about you. As somebody who has a, you know, I have a huge following. You don't really know me, but you can ask me questions now honestly, answer. So I that's what I feel. There was a lot of questions back then maybe not now that I wish people would have asked me so they will could have understood me better?

Brandon Handley 56:26
was one question that I could ask you that would help me understand you better.

Sarah R Adams 56:32
Take a guess. And you want go ahead. Come on.

Unknown Speaker 56:37
You can ask me anything?

Brandon Handley 56:39
Yeah, I mean, this is what I feel like I should have asked asked earlier in the show, but I mean, Was this something that you experienced? And I believe if I caught correctly, there was some abuse while you're growing up, too, right. So was, you know, Was this something that was trying to manifest then? And Was that something that was holding you back from sharing more of your gifts?

Sarah R Adams 57:05
No. So I chose to come into I chose to come into a body and experience abuse, I could understand it, how can I go to a planet and help out that planet, I didn't know what they were experiences. So for me, that just gave me a lot of knowledge, it could destroy me or truly hurt me. I think what was more heartbreaking was the public and the people in the awakened community, who were not approaching me in the right manner. And that's that made it hard for me on my journey at a certain point of which I, you know, overcome. And I know how to deal with the public better now. Because back then I was so you might say non human, I was so different. And everything was quite intense for me. And I, people saw me and they were like, Oh, she's definitely different. And it kind of, I feel like maybe made some of them afraid, or they could understand things. And they didn't approach with questions and kindness. Rather, they approached with being quite harsh. That's what really I had a hard time in my journey. And at one point, you know, I just took a timeout, and Christ and Jesus appeared to me, sorry, Buddha appeared to me. And Christ Buddha said to me, now, you know, how we felt, we were just trying to help out humanity. And they Christ was like, they killed me, because they didn't know how to approach me, they didn't know how to understand me. And even though I just wanted to help them, they did this to me. And now you understand this. And now you understand that you're on a planet, where even though they think they're very bad, they're quite primitive in knowing about the divine and about energy, and a lot of other things. And because you're bringing this information, is that's really triggering them, and that it's bringing up a lot of things in them. And it's bringing up their fear of anything that's different. So I and I got to feel the emotions of Buddha and Christ and how heartbreaking it was for them just to want to help the world and have experienced that. And they did provide support for me, they were like, you know, this is your journey. No, we experienced this. And we knew it was gonna happen, but we're here for you.

Unknown Speaker 59:21
It was beautiful.

Brandon Handley 59:23
I think that's that's huge. Right? I think, first of all, your capability, I guess, and our willingness to view, your abuse in that light. And I think that, you know, I caught briefly, you know, maybe that's part of how you were able to heal yourself was by being able to see yourself in that way. And kind of, you know, how can you How can you take your what seems like this really awful thing from your past and harness that as your power, right? Or at least bring it into yourself and accept That, you know, plays something good for you and who you are today. Right? So I think that, you know, I think that's a really cool way to take a look at it. And also, to your point, again, you know, of coming from the space and trying to have a conversation with somebody who doesn't understand it right. There, the questions can be awkward. So the questions would be like, well, what, uh, you know, so, the question is, can be awkward, so I can understand to like, you know, the desire to have somebody ask you questions that in kindness, right, versus, you know, kind of, I don't know about like, I wouldn't say mean spirited, but like, again, if somebody doesn't understand, then we come from a world, kind of where you poke fun at it until, like, you know, you understand it, right? Or something like that. But, uh, again, I just wanna say thanks for sharing, you know, all who you are, in again, this kind of short timeframe. Today here on spiritual dope, and where can people go find you?

Sarah R Adams 1:01:12
Thank you, I really enjoyed this. And, um, so they can find me, WW. Sarah are adams.com and that's with an H, of course, and I am doing a lot of great projects. I just opened the retreat center here, Sedona, Arizona, I knit a store, I coach people you know, on how to heal, how to access the dimensions how to speak to ETS, and I'm doing the wealth and conference here this summer so they can find out more about that. They're

Brandon Handley 1:01:42
also about the conference

Sarah R Adams 1:01:43
is you know, it's an E t conference, and it's gonna have a lot of my Gaia friends there that do work on Gaia. So we're gonna have a great time. I am excited about this. And I just say wanted, you know, they contacted me, they said, we know that you are in contact with ETS, we know that ETS have a lot of messages for the planet of how to heal the planet. Can you just come and channel that for us and speak about that? And I? Yeah, I'm more than happy to go do that.

Brandon Handley 1:02:13
Why would you say no? Now very, very, very cool. Again, thanks for being on. It's a lot of fun.

Unknown Speaker 1:02:19
Thank you.

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Raine Dalrymple - Sight Beyond Sight

Published: April 18, 2021, 1:53 p.m.
Duration: 52 minutes 32 seconds

It was great to sit down with the author of "Sight Beyond Sight", Raine Dalyrmple as we cover many different grounds on spirituality!

Have you ever thought that you had a particular motive when you were born? Do you feel that you’re capable of living way more through spirituality? You’re doing your daily chores, but something feels empty and left out? People like living the same monotonous life and choose mediocrity every day. But you realize you can do way more and are capable of achieving greater heights?

Here’s the hard truth: you can so much more; you just have to realise it.

In this episode, we are joined by Raine where she talks about his experience with consciousness and the more significant sources.

Tune in to this episode to learn more about this whole new array of things and how to get your hands on it.

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

  1. Understand the different ways consciousness can affect your lives.
  2. Discover the importance of the more significant source or, as everyone calls it, ‘God.’
  3. Learn the significance of practising consciousness and seeing more than the material world.

Episode Highlights

[01:00] Introduction

  • Raine has spent about two decades in the education and teaching department in different genres.
  • We are all evolving every day, and hence what we were yesterday might not be what we are today.
  • To believe is the biggest thing you can do, not only for you but also for the people in your lives.

[04:04] Believing 

  • It doesn't matter what phase you come from or what religion you practise; we’re not alone.
  • The source is the supernatural superpower that helps us live a better quality of life. 

[07:04] Role of Consciousness 

  • Consciousness is the ability to be able to comprehend what is going around us entirely.
  • Raine talks about how she realised her abilities from her trauma in her 20s.
  • She describes the concept of the threefold plane.

[14:50] Paranormal Experiences

  • Experiences that defy logic.
  • She tells the story of her experience with angels from when she was pregnant with her daughter.
  • She also talks about the visions she experienced from the source, which eventually lead to them being an inspiration for her book.

[19:32] Merging Worlds

  • Raine talks about how it wasn’t her goal to get here, but now it brings her gratitude, realising where she is. 
  • You get what you ask for.
  • When you start incorporating it into your life, you start relating to other people more.

[26:44] Books and Courses

  • She started writing about nine years ago.
  • You have to understand the barriers, the blocks and become a better person through realisation. 
  • If you work towards something without eminent pressure, you will be able to do it.
  • The book walks you through different aspects of life and makes you realise things.
  • To be human, we need that interaction with people. This is what Raine achieves in her different programs. 
  • She explains the practical experiences given in her book. 

About Raine

Enjoy this Podcast?

It’s easy to show the side of ourselves we’re proud of. But actual change and self-love come with being able to accept all of you—even the sides you’re afraid to show the world. If you enjoyed today's episode of Spiritual Dope Podcast, then hit subscribe and share it with your friends!

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Have any questions? You can contact me through email (brandon@spiritualdope.co)  or find me on instagram, and Facebook.  

For more updates and episodes, visit my website. You may also tune in on Audible, Spotify, and Apple Podcasts

To spiritual highs,

Brandon

Connect with Raine today: https://sightbeyondsight.org/

Brandon Handley 0:00
All right. Okay, ready? 54321 Hey, there's spiritual dope on here today. We've got a very special guests. We've got rain Dalrymple. Let's get right to it, right

Raine Dalrymple 0:15
certainly did.

Brandon Handley 0:16
Yeah, good, good. It's just got a it's got a spelling. It was confused me rain. And so thank you for I butchered quite a few names coming on.

Raine Dalrymple 0:26
Well, often what I often what I'll do is in you'll notice in my book, I just write rainbow, because it's way easier to me.

Brandon Handley 0:35
What's the what's the origin of that last name? Like? What's, uh,

Unknown Speaker 0:38
what was it?

Raine Dalrymple 0:39
I believe it's some Scottish and I think there's some English and French in there. Okay. Okay.

Brandon Handley 0:46
Good to know, good to know. So rain, you and I, you know, you're an author, you're a teacher, your your number of things, but like, you know, if you know, for this podcast, what would you tell people? Who How would you describe yourself? You know,

Raine Dalrymple 1:01
I would say that, you know, I spent a little over two decades in education and in the helping profession working with all genres, like persons with disabilities, daycares, ex offenders, women, men, there isn't really, you know, any genre I haven't worked with, I don't I don't think. Um, and so now, I've taken all of that information and that growth on a professional level, as well as my own personal growth in my own life experiences. And I've pulled that all together. So I would basically say that I'm, you know, an author, content creator, visionary. But that's good for now. There's lots in there and intuitive.

Brandon Handley 1:51
For sure. I love it. I love it. Thanks. It's a sometimes like, sometimes the BIOS that, you know, we share back and forth, they don't really catch the essence of who you really are, like all the time, right, that they read well, for sometimes, like, Who are you really? Right. And I actually

Raine Dalrymple 2:09
did tell you the truth, I hate writing them, because it's like, Okay, how much do I say I do? And how much do I leave out? Because it can tend to go on and be dry? And you're like, sure. Yeah, you just you don't want to hear all of that. Right?

Brandon Handley 2:24
It all It all depends, like I said, when it's in when it's in writing, it's I think you can take it in a little bit faster to write and then like, when you when, you know, how can you be concise enough to just deliver the essence of who reign is right.

Raine Dalrymple 2:38
So thank you. Yeah, for sure. And we're all we're all, you know, we're in this evolution. You know, we're maturing, and we're growing in everything we do every day. Right. So what we were yesterday, we may be something different tomorrow. So yeah,

Brandon Handley 2:54
absolutely. I couldn't agree more. So like to start these off with the whole idea. You said, you know, you're an intuitive. And, you know, you've seen angels, and so you're no stranger to kind of opening yourself up and connecting to source. And I'm going to ask you to do that to share a message right now to a listener that could only come through you today, right now, in this moment through source, what's that message? Say? Right?

Raine Dalrymple 3:27
I'd say the message would be to believe that would be the biggest thing that you can do, not only for yourself, but for the people in your lives. And and also for for the angels and, and the universal source that exists.

Brandon Handley 3:48
So to what and so if I believe in that, and for myself, I like that. And for for the people, right? How does that extend to two people?

Raine Dalrymple 4:03
Well, really, what it's saying is that it doesn't matter. You know, what faith you come from what religion you believe in? And then let me just say they're in the benevolent realms. Not in the malicious for humps, although it is all energy. It's all the same energy, energy is energy and it's alive. But what we really want to understand in our own awareness is that we're not alone, right? We're not here alone. We're not even when we are alone. We're say living in our apartment by ourselves. We're never truly alone. Because we have source which is God's source, the divine, whatever you want to call it. I mean, again, those are labels, right? And we're language people, right? So we have to attach some kind of a word to it. But source is source and source is an energy. That is the superpower is a super conscious power source. And so when we tap into that, we come to understand and learn what the role of consciousness is, and how it can function in our lives to help us to live a better quality life.

Brandon Handley 5:23
Now, you know, a lot of good things in there, right? Obviously, right? You hit on, especially the benevolent realms, right? Just trying to see what kind of good source can bring to us, right. And especially if we believe in source as being benevolent, we can do that for ourselves and for others. The idea of not being here alone, just as you spoke about not only being connected to source but you know, potentially angels or other others, right. Always, always interesting to hear that we, as humans, can only see like less than 1% of natural light anyways, or the full spectrum. So there's 99.99% that we're missing out on. And he hit on to like, what is the role of consciousness was, you know, I know that this is something that's, you know, going to be big for you, in your book and sight Beyond Sight? Is, is consciousness, how would you? How would you? What would you say consciousness is because I'll just give you kind of like, where I get twisted, I still get twisted on it, right? Like, I'm always like, consciousness of of what right? Like I'm, when I'm conscious of something, I'm aware of something. And what that something is, can be any number of things. But then when we refer to you and I, in this conversation, consciousness, we're speaking of this greater consciousness, this collective consciousness, what are what are we saying? or What are you saying? And when you say,

Raine Dalrymple 7:02
well, consciousness is the ability to be able to see that there is more to us than you touched on it. You talked about the human condition, right? In a sense, you said, our humanity. So yeah, we can go about our day, and we can live our day, no problem, without being fully conscious that there's something more out there than what we're seeing, because we have to remember that we're living in the 3d world, which is we, we believe in what we see, right? We see the table in front of us, we see everything in the materialistic world. And so that's what 3d basically is, it's living in that cerebral world, of like our left brain perspective. So you know, strategy, logical, that sort of thing. When we're talking about consciousness and becoming awakened to it. Now we're starting to see more than what's in front of us more than just the table in front of us more than the room that we're able to see in a spiritual realm. And we're able to hear, feel, see, and sense spirit, right. So it's all about when we are able to do that, first of all, we want to become aware of it, and we become aware of it. being introduced to it in a lot of ways, some people are introduced to it, you know, by attending a church revival, some people are introduced to it by sitting in a sweat at a sweat lodge, some people are introduced to it by, you know, just surviving, surviving a vehicle accident. There's a lot of ways that were introduced to it. Some people are born with that psychic intuition. I'm sure you've heard of that. And your listeners have heard of people talk, you know, Sylvia Browne, and, you know, those sorts of people that said, they always knew since they were three or four years old, and they were getting messages. My my recollection, didn't, I didn't really start feeling that happening for me until my 20s. And I, you know, I talked about that.

Brandon Handley 9:21
Yeah, I think in your story, right. You mentioned though, that you had something occur when you were younger, but you didn't recognize Yeah, till later in life. Let's talk a little bit about that. Because, as you're as you're talking about the introduction to it, right,

Raine Dalrymple 9:37
yeah. I didn't go. I didn't go deeply into a lot of the trauma that I experienced in my life in the book because that wasn't the object of the book. I do talk about trauma. I do talk about difficult times, but I always want to bring that back around to Okay, yeah, that happen. Shit happens, but how can we fix it? What can we do to Change that what can we do to change those blueprints that happened to us, you know, in those childhood years, or if say, you know, a woman is, you know, raped when she's, you know, going out to her car in the grocery parking lot or, you know, like we you know, there's things that happen in life that are not very nice in there pretty ugly. So what happened to me when I was about five, I had a trauma happened to me. And I, I just remember feeling my my soul, lift off my body, kind of like, come forward a bit, a few a couple of inches, and then lift up, out through the top of my head. And I'm sure some of your listeners have heard of people that have died on the operating table, and had that similar type experience. And I just remember I went by slipped through the crack in the, in the ceiling. And when I, when I did that, I was out into the other room. And I could see all around, but I couldn't hear anything. It was like I was buried in this hole, and I could not hear anything. I'm like, it just there was there was no sound, it was just like dead air. And then I slowly, I don't know how long I was in that state, you know, kind of floating. And then I went back through the crack and slipped back into my body. And so nothing really, you know, paranormal happened to me for many, many years that I can recall. Until my 20s, I started questioning why I was here, questioning my purpose, trying to understand what is what there's got to be more to life than this. And as I started opening myself up, right, in that awareness, then I started having a lot of these really strange experiences. And so that's sometimes how it can happen. A trauma can trigger us to have an experience. And then that then opens up what is often known as the threefold flame, which is within us. So when we say yes, there's something else out there in that in that big old, universal world, that is all empowering. It's also within us, and that's what people that's why it's so important for people to read my book, because they're gonna get it when they read those stories. And they're, they're gonna go, oh, okay, whether you've had no experiences ever in your lifetime, or you've had experiences, there's going to be something in there for everyone, they're going to get it and they're going to go, yeah, I actually have felt that warmth, you know, burning inside of me, or when I lay down to meditate, I can feel that energy, that that flame that's alive within me. And that's the connection to, you know, that superconscious. Divine that we know that we call God, most of us.

Brandon Handley 13:10
Yeah, no, that's awesome. Right. A couple couple questions I have in there. Let's see, I guess kind of walk it backwards. And, you know, listen, I agree at least that, you know, having felt that warm. Having been in that scenario, that's a that's a, just a wonderful connection that you can you can experience them in so many different ways. So if you're teaching people how to do that through through your coursework, that's amazing, right. I think that that's, you know, highly valuable. And we'll talk about some of the benefits that as we kind of move forward, but what is I'm not familiar with the threefold flame, what is that?

Raine Dalrymple 13:48
That's a Christ consciousness. experience. So it's, it's it's a it's an energy source of God. And so it's the threefold flame of love and light and power in a positive way.

Brandon Handley 14:11
Okay, no, thanks for sharing it. I'd never never heard about it. So I'd like to I like the imagery and kind of the application and again, yeah, together then you've kind of got this. This kind of, like, inner sun as it were, right? Exactly.

Raine Dalrymple 14:28
Yes.

Brandon Handley 14:30
So you've also made reference to a couple times even before we got going, you know, paranormal experiences. Um, and and it was funny because you said you know, you, you asked me if I'd had some paranormal conversations on here. I guess I had never really put it into that light. Right and thought about it is paranormal. I'm just like, well, this is just one person's experience. That's another person's experience, and I never done the paranormal at it. What would you consider paranormal just so I can Yes, and we can understand that a little bit better.

Raine Dalrymple 15:02
Well, paranormal are experiences that we have that belie logic. So, for example, when I was pregnant with my daughter, I had gotten up in the middle of the night to use the washroom. And when I walked out of my door door, the doorframe of the bedroom, the bathroom was over to the left, and I saw something sitting on the top of the stairs to my right. And, you know, you're half asleep. So you know, you just kind of like, like, looked. And when I did this double take there, on the top of my stairs sat an angel, and I could clearly see and feel that it was a male, on his back was to me, and I could see the wings and the white. And then, you know, as quickly as I looked, he was gone. Right. So it was, definitely, because I was worrying, you know, most mothers that are pregnant at some point in, you know, those nine months, they, you know, they are often concerned, they want to have a healthy baby, and, you know, those sorts of things. And, and I just took that as a very positive sign that he was just letting me know, everything was going to be okay. Right. So that gave me that sense of peace. And that is, is often you know, when angels come to us, that's their role is to encourage us to bring us that piece to help us to, to not worry to not, you know, having xiety and to trust, right to trust that everything will be okay.

Brandon Handley 16:42
Well, I would like it if an angel or two would show up and bring me a little sense of peace and encouraged. So, you know, it's funny, like, I guess that's just because they're the paranormal. I don't know, if I ever did or I just, again, to me, it's just your experience, right? You're you You're, you're open to receiving that, right? So so you're capable of it, right? If you're open to it, then you're capable to see it and receive it. And, and for you, it's easier to believe, right? Especially as you have had, my guest is more than one of these experiences, as your you know, so you're, you're in your 20s, you've, you know, you have the introduction to kind of source and these experiences when you're much younger, and now it's happening much more often. And you're in this kind of educational, organizational space, or you're a professional,

Raine Dalrymple 17:42
right? Actually not yet Nika, because at that time, I was raising my children. So I was I was home with the kids, and I was, you know, doing laundry and making meals and that sort of thing. So I think it was the perfect scenario for source to come to me and all these different ways, you know, visions, I was starting to have visions, just like, you know, I'd lay down to, you know, go to bed at night, and all of a sudden, just visions would start happening to me, and I'd open my eyes, and then I closed them again, same vision would continue to happen until I let it play out. So, you know, it caused me to, you know, question What's going on? First of all, what, why, why me? Why am I having these, these visions and to try to understand what the message was as well. Right. So, you know, I started charting my dreams to under, you know, better understand what was going on in my life. And, you know, it was really, it was really just, it was a school, essentially, from, you know, the divine was passing on to me to, to go through this. So that I guess, at some point, I could do this book and share it with people.

Brandon Handley 18:52
Right, so I'll be part of a big part of what we'd like to do here is understand, right? How, just again, in your story, how were you able to incorporate I guess, your your connection to source and spirituality? I guess after you raise your children or got back into the workforce, like, how did you merge the two worlds, right? How did you merge the spiritual world with like, yeah, Hey, I got to show up at work today for this cup of coffee and then type my TPS report.

Raine Dalrymple 19:29
Right, right. Well, what's interesting about all of that was that wasn't my goal plan. In the beginning. It wasn't to, to teach in that way. I was I was brought into that world through opportunities and doors that open for me. So again, you know, that brings us to this place of gratitude because we realize a lot of times things that we do Experience aren't are doing, they're there, they're from, from a higher power that is guiding us and directing us. Now, keep in mind at anytime you can say no to any of it just like you yourself friend and can say, you know, I would really like to have an experience, like, give me something here. And when you ask, eventually you will start to have experiences that might start small, where you say, you know what, you know, if you really do exist up there, source, show me I want to see feathers, I want to see feathers, and lots of them. And you know, there's a couple of feathers stories are one at least that I shared in the book. And so you know, you might end up you know, waking up in the morning and you making your bed and all of a sudden, all these feathers come flying out of your pillow and you don't own a down feather pillows. So how in the heck did they get in there. So this is just kind of the fun way that sometimes they, you know, show us these signs, because they really want us to believe they really want us to know that they're there and to to also ask and to lean on them to help us. So, you know, you can ask, right? I guess it kind of got Oh, okay, so you were asking me, I get off track on these stories. That's okay.

Brandon Handley 21:15
So the biggest the biggest part, right of a lot of this is, once you've had a spiritual experience, it's really hard as hell to get grounded again. Right. And it's really hard to go back. Right, right. It's hard to it's hard to say, Okay. Yes, I'll go to work today. Right? And I guess, you know, so how, you know, how were you able to have that experience, and continue to stay in, you know, connected to source and then integrate into? Well, we'll just call the real world for now.

Raine Dalrymple 21:53
Yeah, for sure. So, you know, as you mentioned, we're, we're, we have this human body, but really, we're a spiritual being, you know, functioning in the human body. So, you know, you're going to work and you're, you know, you're taking care of youth, or you're, you're, you know, when when I was at the time, when it's, you know, started progressing, and I started incorporating it, I was working with persons with disabilities. So, when you think of it, it was very helpful, in a sense, because it really helped me to interact and relate with the girls much, much easier than if I were functioning out of this real word, man, real world mentality. And then fast forward, you know, down the road, and, you know, working with children, and, you know, they're just like, they're just like, everything is amazing to them, right. And they're just bundles full of love. And then, you know, working in, you know, helping people with life skills. So now you're incorporating the imagination, you're incorporating creativity, you're incorporating all of these wonderful tools and skills that are opening and awakening the people that you're teaching. So, for me, it felt like it was very easy to incorporate the two, because now you're living that world, like you're living in that world, you're living that life, you're incorporating the two in your own life, into your own world. And so then it therefore becomes very easy to talk to other people about it, and to share and to help them to see their own value, you know, as a spiritual being. And I don't mean religion, that's not what I'm talking about, just as a person that can see possibility in their own lives. Right?

Brandon Handley 23:50
Absolutely. Right. How can we, how can we show someone the greatness that's within them? Right? And in a sense, I recall, I recall when you first started into this space, right, feeling this way and feeling that everybody has that within them, right? Everybody's got it. And I recall going to I was at I was at a convention, and I was talking to people I was like, Well, you know, we can talk about what it feels like to step into the greatness of who you are. And man, the looks I was getting, and people were like, What are you talking about? I was like, and as they say, there's an uncertainty to believe that there's greatness within you, right? Or what's or even doing, or there's an uncertainty to recognize that what you're doing today right now in this very moment is great. Yes. Right. And so I think it's very shameful that that we can't see this for ourselves, right? That's

Raine Dalrymple 24:55
and it's amazing that you shared that with those people because I mean, as such If you you look across the world right now, like many people are still asleep, you know, even after this whole year of the madness that's going on, we are still asleep.

Brandon Handley 25:10
Yeah. So here's I think, I think here's what kind of sucks in my mind is that we're also who were we're in the midst of like this this quote unquote woke culture thing too. And I think that there's, you know, there's, there's, there's this like woke culture to, you know, I think racism and schism, right. And then there's also this woke culture of spirituality wokeness, or awakening. But then there's also this idea to rain, you know, just kind of bear with me, I so I hate the idea that like, you know, now we say, you know, awakening or something like that it gets kind of tied in, it's tied into that now we got to disassociate from like, kind of the headlines in the media to just to discern that what we're talking about here is like a spiritual awakening, or awakening, not even a spiritual awakening, awakening to the greatness of who you are waking up.

Raine Dalrymple 26:03
I really like that. Yeah, right. That's more accurate

Brandon Handley 26:06
wakening to who you are, and, and, and accepting that. But again, so this is something that you are facilitating, which is awesome, right? This is something you're facilitating through your book and your courses, let's talk a little bit about, you know, how you came to, you know, how you came up with the title of your book? And, you know, also, why now, why you thought those types of things right, so, how did you know what, what made you decide that it was time to start writing? And?

Raine Dalrymple 26:41
Well, it's kind of a funny story, because I actually started the book, probably, oh, probably about nine years ago. And it's probably To be honest, it was probably more than that. So what happened was bachlin, you know, we first had computers, and they were like, the dinosaur computers. I had been, you know, typing it up on there. And I had given a copy to my Google my Google room, I met one of my mentors. And I said here, you know, like, it was like, maybe a chapter there. And I said, you know, can you give it a read and see what you think of it? And like, not too soon after that my computer crashed, and I lost everything. Right? So I thought, Well, okay, no problem. Like I first I was really upsetting. And I gave him a copy, I'll give them a call. And I'll, well, just what he lost it. And I was just like, beside myself, because I thought, What am I going to do now? Like, how am I going to get those words back. So you know, I sat down and kind of tried to recall what I could. And then I had taken on, I had moved to a different province and I had taken on working two jobs for quite a number of years, I did that often on, you know, working two and three jobs. And so I didn't, I didn't have time to work on it. So I put it up on the shelf. And then when I did finally pull it out, again, that would have probably been about six years ago, and just kind of jotted some things down. And then really seriously, two years ago, sat down in the winter and just did a whole pile of writing, then picked it up just a little over a year ago. So you know, just before all this madness started happening, I thought, you know what, I've got to get this done, something was just pressing me, I've got to get this done, I've got it, you know, whatever happens, I've got to get it done. So I too, have found it very intriguing about the timing, because it's just so relevant to what's going on right now. And I think more than anything, you know, you speak to, you know, the reality piece and the spiritual piece. And really, the book is about bridging those two together, you know, because we do need, just like both sides of our brain, we've got the logical side and we've got the creative side, we need the two to converge to function, you know, in, in a, an optimum fashion, right. So, you know, bringing, bringing those two elements together. And again, it's it's like you talk about it's we are all unique, and each person through these experiences through the growth through the transformation, you know, through understanding what their limitations and their barriers and their blocks are. And the personal development growth that they go through is what is helping them to be to become a much better person happier for themselves and within themselves because a lot of stuff happens in life. We've got relationship stuff with family members and exes and you know, jobs you know, job loss and loss of, you know, grief and loss of People in our lives and pets that we've lost and all of those things that happen that really pound on our, our soul self, and really cause us to lose that fire inside of us and that hope. And that faith, like on the cover of my book, I say hope where there is no way make away. Right. And that's what I want people to learn is that, you know, it doesn't mean we're going to be successful at everything we tried. But the fact that we're taking those steps forward, and we're moving forward in that tenacity, and determination, and perseverance, those are the things that help us to create a much better person, and a much happier person. Because now we can say, you know, you know, I did this, I, I wanted to learn how to play squash or I wanted to learn how to canoe or I wanted to, you know, get on a team and learn how to, you know, and be involved in racing, you know, kayak racing, whatever it is. Just throwing some examples, though, you know, work so, right,

Brandon Handley 31:07
because I think that,

Unknown Speaker 31:10
you know, we leave,

Brandon Handley 31:12
we leave ourselves for too long, and then we get back to ourselves and like, I would love to go do this, but, or, I'd love this, but we get lazy. Yeah. Or we say, All right, I'll give it a shot. And then, you know, when we find that we're able to accomplish that thing for me, for example, it was going to do a triathlon. Right? Like, I was like, You know what, I'm gonna give it a shot. I'm just gonna, you know, we're gonna go do a triathlon, and yeah, and rain. I was not an active guy was not right. I was actually I was not an active guys. So it took a little bit of training a little bit of time. And I went, I did it. And I was like,

Unknown Speaker 31:53
wow,

Brandon Handley 31:55
you know, pretty good. And I'll do another one. So I did a couple more. Right. And so having that experience of this thing that I never thought I saw myself doing, and then just getting up and going and doing it. And it wasn't even hard, per se, right. Like, I mean, right. But I was wore out, don't get me wrong, but it wasn't hard. You just it just took going and doing it. Right. And working towards it. And and, and this, I think I think I think that one of the things that's great is that if you work towards it without like this imminent pressure on yourself to succeed, just to go do it, right, just to go do it. Yeah, is enough.

Raine Dalrymple 32:35
Yeah, you can't be active in the present moment, right. So you were you made a decision in that present moment. Instead of Couch Surfing for the night, watching another movie for the seventh night in a row, you're gonna get it on your own, you're gonna do it,

Brandon Handley 32:49
I binge, my fair share of Netflix, I know, I'm just like everybody else out there. But there are certain things that I'll get up and I'll go to just a little bit differently, that gives me a sense of purpose, or a sense of contribution to the larger part of ourselves, like you were talking about, like where our body and our spirit and we need both, I think the one thing that gets the most neglect is our spiritual self, which I want to have to go ahead and assert is the larger part of our being

Raine Dalrymple 33:20
well, and they're all interconnected. So you take your example. You said when you were done? Yeah, it was it was a little bit of hard work, but it wasn't like so hard that you couldn't do it. And you actually felt really good after you, you know, those, you were alive, you felt alive, you were in that present moment, and you showed yourself with determination and commitment, you can do it. So that that really it can feed the ego but in a positive way. Right? It but it fed that that whole aspect of who you were, and you looked at yourself, and you went, Wow, I did that. Right. I actually accomplished it. And it just, it gives us a better sense of who we are, and that we can achieve anything that we set our minds to. It's just to follow through.

Brandon Handley 34:12
Right, right. Yeah, it's pretty much just a follow through and just just to go do it. So you know, you've got storytelling and some practical thoughts and some other you know, awesome stories inside of sight Beyond Sight. You're gonna walk people through you, you're gonna walk the reader through some journeys and some specific stories that will help them kind of come alive and recognize that they too, absolutely have what you're calling the threefold flame within them, right. And then you you you can get the book and then you also offer a couple different courses, right? You got a couple different programs, and if I'm not mistaken, is it the eight you they Key keys to consciousness consciousness is that going to be the one that kind of directly relates to sight Beyond Sight?

Raine Dalrymple 35:06
to quite a bit, a quite a number of the courses that are offered are all based on the keys to consciousness, because really what we're talking about is everything that we're talking about is is, you know, finding, finding who out who we are. Our own uniqueness. Core, for example, is chapter six, I believe five or six, I think it's five. You know, it talks about, you know, nutrition and, and health and well being even myself, like, I have been so negligent with doing the, the exercise lately, the yoga isn't happening, you know, nearly as often as it should. So I joined yesterday, actually, you know, a mentor that's running a program for about 30 of us online. And so now, you know, I've got that commitment, right, the commitment to just as you committed to doing the triathlon, about that commitment, now, I'm committed, right, I've talked to him, I'm signed up, and now I'm committed. So you know, you know, at the end of two weeks, I mean, I'm going to feel better about myself, I'm going to feel happy that I contributed that time, to my physical well being and, you know, I can incorporate, you know, smoothies, and, you know, so we do as people, we need the interaction, you know, we're finding that out big time in this last year, that we need that interaction with people, we need to be interactive. So I have many programs actually, that that I run. And if people want to connect with them, all they have to do is go to my website site, be on site.org. And I'll, you know, I'm just starting to upload those on to there's a couple on there now, but I'm just starting to upload those onto the website. so that people can, you know, whatever, whatever they need, they can get one on one coaching and support with me. Because truly, we are all so unique, that it's I really like to I do really like to have like a free discovery session with with everyone that calls or contacts me, you know, via email, because I want to know where they're coming from and what they need, there's no sense of me sitting and spilling out a bunch of stuff that, you know, are my suggestions if it's not going to help them. So what I do is I combine that intuitive piece. So you know, I do do the angel card readings, but I also Intuit I just grabbed it from the, you know, my guides and walk them through, you know, interact with them, to find out what it is they need, you know, some people come to me wanting to understand, you know, their past, they want to understand what they're going through now. And they also want to understand what can they do going into the future. So that's also, you know, a piece of that intuition that happens. So it's just really a lot of like, you know, coaching, support, you know, supporting people in their own walk and in their journey. And, you know, I also, you know, I'll be doing artwork, you know, creative art, you know, in zoos, and, you know, on lives, and all that kind of stuff, you know, I'm partner partnering with some other people, so that we can kind of give people a variety of services. So it's, it's really up to each individual, all they have to do is reach out to me, and then you know, we can take it from there we can we can grow from that point.

Brandon Handley 38:36
Well, that's awesome. Right? So I mean, you have a lot of different options available for someone. So if I, you know, so my, my pathway to you could be could look like this, where I pick up the book, right? I read the book, and I find that it strikes a chord with me, right? I said, you know, rain, she's got it nailed down, this is me to a tee, gotten everything, gotten everything just right. And then I'm like, Alright, well, I do want to know more, but I'm not quite ready to commit to a program or anything just yet. So I can come over to your site. And when I'm at your site, I can see over here, you've got your eight keys to consciousness, which you're telling me it sounds like it's kind of like a foundational course. Right? All the stuff that kind of we're talking about here. So yeah,

Raine Dalrymple 39:23
like, you know, if some, when someone picks up the book and reads it at the end of each chapter, there's a practical buoyancy section where there's three to do tips. So it's kind of a nice way to for them to segue into you know, taking action. You know, having running a salt bath and putting on some music there, you know, just simple tips. You know, doing a collage, you know, grabbing some scrap paper, you know, magazines around the house and creating a collage. You know, people are welcome to do that on their own right because these are just some practical tips that they can incorporate in Your own personal growth, right?

Brandon Handley 40:02
When was so just I mean, share with me a little bit of why I might want to do you know, a clause. And how's that gonna? What are some of the benefits I'm gonna get from that?

Raine Dalrymple 40:15
Well, let's just say, you know, right now a person is not happy in what they're doing for work, they're, you know, they're, they're not happy going to work every day, they're really actually quite miserable, they don't enjoy getting up in the morning, or you have someone who you know, is laid off right now. And they really, they really don't know what direction to go in. So we know we can go online, you can go and see an employment counselor, and you can do these tests that kind of point you in the right direction. Or maybe you should be going to school for carpentry for the next, you know, number of years. Or maybe you could do this, or maybe you could do that. But there's also this creative aspect that you can tap into. So you know, you get out a gripping piece of paper, and you grab a bunch of magazines, and and you just start looking through them, you start cutting out pictures that speak to you. And then when you go to put your collage together, you know, you're gluing pictures, let's just say, you know, I remember when I did mine, many years ago, I started noticing I was cutting out a lot of fashion, like a lot of women wearing like the big hats and Paris and, and you know, the really nice fashions. And when I got done, I thought wow, you know what, I guess it's time for me to, to clean out my wardrobe and get rid of some stuff, and start incorporating some of these stylish new outfits into my closet, right. And that gave me a sense of confidence of self confidence. And I felt, you know, happy to get dressed up. And you know, where are the big earrings, you remember those days, the big earrings and, you know, the blue eyeshadow and whatever, whatever it was, but you know, it made me feel good, right. And it's it helped me to see that we can create our image, we can change our image at any time, we can wear the suit and tie we can wear the hippie pants, we can we can be whoever it is that we choose to be. And we can change that that image. Right? So it's all about growth. It's all about that. That internal growth, right. And when you look on this clause, you can see, wow, you know, maybe maybe someone who was interested in carpentry didn't realize they were but here, they were cutting out all kinds of decks that you could build for the summer and, you know, these like extended rooms on people's houses. And they're like, wow, like, I really, I might like, you know, doing something like that maybe I should look into, you know, being an apprentice in carpentry, right? So it just opens our eyes, it opens our eyes to other possibilities.

Brandon Handley 42:58
I like it, right? So it gives you the opportunity to kind of step away from the business of life. Kind of just open yourself up to anything really like if you as long as you've got like a collection of magazines, you just kind of you fan through it and pick out kind of whatever is stimulating you, right? And then and then you can kind of see down there we can call it like divine guidance if we want or just call it like a almost like a Ouija board except for like what you're calling forth. It's just like, what's what's piquing my interest these days where, you know, where should I be spending more of my attention, and then you you kind of see this picture unfold in front of you. And you could, you know, almost take a look at that as a divination tool, right?

Raine Dalrymple 43:50
Yeah, exactly.

Brandon Handley 43:51
So So, ya know, it's interesting, if

Raine Dalrymple 43:52
you don't have a bunch of magazines around, you can, you know, because we're also tech savvy, you know, to a point, you can go online and you can just start pulling pictures, you know, off, you know, pixels and, and that kind of gives you an indication as well, you know, create a collage on your on your computer, right. So there's a lot of different ways we can do it. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 44:13
I love that. So there's a couple nice examples where somebody could actually just kind of go out there and do that today if they wanted to. So I love being able to share that. Another one that you've got another one of your courses here is the business business savvy empath. You know, talk to us a little bit about that because I think that, you know, that's that's a place where you know, a lot of people are in business, right. But not everyone in business is a you know, has empathy and or vice versa. The empath may be like, well, I don't want to be in a business setting because they're all gonna they're gonna they're gonna harsh my mellow. Right, right.

Raine Dalrymple 44:47
Well, the business of empath is just about how can I hack? How can I hack my imagination and my spirit connection, to better understand how I can run my business in a productive way. You know, it's, it's not only a logical, but it's a creative again, those two, two facets coming together to help a person understand, you know, back in the day, you know, they talked about you know, when you're climbing the corporate ladder, you know, in the, you know, there's a lot of, you know, mean stuff that goes on when when that sort of things happens, you know, you're stepping on people's toes and that sort of thing. And when we, when we tap into, and when we're showing how to tap into our own unique nature of consciousness, we realize there's room for everybody, there's room for everybody to be successful, whether it's in, you know, a corporate company, or whether we're running our own business. And, you know, it may get to a point where you are in the corporate world, which many people have been, and they've left that corporate world to branch off and run their own business. And so it's just really tools and techniques of a spiritual nature as well as the logical nature that we look at, on how can we tap into what can best guide us to being successful? You know, in our, in our, in our genre of what we're doing? Do we have blocks there? Do we have money blocks? Do we have? Are we do we have a fear of success, right? versus the fear of fear of failure. So all of those things play play into that, right? And just helping a person to, to personally develop themselves, which obviously affects our business world, right? Because, you know, it's about walking, walking the talk, right? So whatever we're doing in our personal world, you know, for sleeping until noon, and, and that's okay, if that's your schedule, some people are just not morning people, and they want to sleep until noon. And then they're up till midnight, running their business, because of the nature of it. So it's also coming to understand what is my schedule? What do you know? What, what is conducive for me? You know, so that's just a practical way of looking at it. Right? And, and just also saying, Okay, well, if I want to, you know, I want to get up at six or 7am and beat beat the mad rush, and I want to get out knock on business doors, than I have to get up. You don't have to get up at seven. So there's, it's just a lot of, basically, that course, is converging the two together to help it work for you.

Brandon Handley 47:43
think that that's a that's a great one right? For especially, especially new, as we talked about earlier is, you know, once you once you kind of hit that spiritual high, it's really hard to come back down, right, and then you know, so sounds to me, like this would be something that would help somebody that's had a spiritual high as like, Alright, let's get to you know, reintegrated. Let's take some of what you're learning here of what you're feeling and help you to integrate that into your, your daily work life. Yes, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And that's, that's huge. Because I don't think there's a whole lot of that out there. So thank you for you know, being any one of the people that's trying to, to get people to recognize that in themselves

Raine Dalrymple 48:29
for that pass. Yeah, help

Unknown Speaker 48:32
them to clean it up.

Raine Dalrymple 48:33
I mean, we know that we know it's changing, you know, we know that the dynamics of work are changing. And the numbers of people working online has massively increased, and it will continue to grow. So, you know, some people don't even know what they want to do yet. So you know, connecting with me and us just, you know, hashing over things and, you know, doing some strategizing and incorporating that intuition that can help to lead them into and onto a path that would be productive and satisfying for them to experience fulfilling right are all looking for fulfillment

Brandon Handley 49:17
that's the gist of all this right the gist of the podcast is that and of itself, right? How do you again take your you know, your spiritual self or integrated spirituality, material, you know, all of it for a more fulfilling life? Right? And that's, you know, so that sounds like what your sounds like what you're sharing out there as well and trying to get you know, people woken to the you know, again, waking to the the greatness that they have within or at least to

Raine Dalrymple 49:49
be aware of it at least,

Brandon Handley 49:51
you know, recognizing the the light within the passion within the whatever, you know, whatever gets you up. Yeah, right.

Raine Dalrymple 49:59
Ever is gonna ignite All

Brandon Handley 50:00
right, ignite you and then you know, kind of kind of continue to fan that flame in, I would imagine a controlled way, right? In a way that says, Let's, let's direct us towards a positive outcome, and a good way for you to go forward, right? Because I think that we see a lot of that too. Where again, you get so high, you never come back down, right. And you know, you're not able to apply that, bring it back down and share it with the rest of world and it gets kind of lost in the ether. Right? So thank you for THANK YOU FOR YOU KNOW, writing the book, thank you for creating these courses. Thank you so much for coming on the podcast, say to share, you know, what it is that you're creating and bringing into the world today? Where, where should I send people to connect with you Ray?

Raine Dalrymple 50:48
Well, obviously, they can go to the website sight beyond sight.org, they can email me at sight Beyond Sight 222, at gmail.com, they can also give me a call or shoot me a text at 306-980-7758. Any of those, any of those ways that they want to reach out is fine. I do have some books left not many now from the pre sale package I bought, and I'll be ordering more of the books so they can get the book directly through me. So all they have to do is message me and I can get it out to them right away. And they can also find it through freeze and press the freeze and press bookstore. And also through Amazon. My understanding Amazon has the price marked up a bit. But $8 I think so whatever, you know, whatever way that they, you know, see fit to, to order it, they can also get the E book through me directly. And if they do decide to sign up for, you know, the membership packages that I have the monthly membership packages, which are basically a $120 package for 4997. They can get the book free. I've done a lot of incentives out there.

Brandon Handley 52:05
Yeah. Sounds like it sounds like you've got a lot to offer. And, you know, for anybody that's listening in today. Listen, I think that you know, Ryan's got some really great materials out there that are really going to help you to open up to yourself and then also be able to apply it to wherever it is that you're guided to.

Raine Dalrymple 52:25
Yeah, thanks so much for having me, Brandon. I really enjoyed it.

Brandon Handley 52:28
Absolutely. Happy to have you on all right.

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Rev Craig Wright PHD | Numerology and Spirituality

Published: April 11, 2021, noon
Duration: 55 minutes 53 seconds

Have you ever thought that you could become a better version of yourself using numerology?
Do you feel that you’re capable of living way more through spirituality? You’re doing a lot, but
nothing seems to work out. People like living the same monotonous life and choose mediocrity
every day. But you realize you can do way more and are capable of achieving greater heights?

Here’s the hard truth: you need to set in place things that you believe in and focus on them
rigorously.
In this episode, we are joined by Craig Wright where he talks about his experience with
numerology and spirituality.
Tune in to this episode to learn more about this whole new array of things and how to get your
hands-on it.
Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full
episode:

  1. Understand the different ways numerology can have an effect in your lives.
  2. Discover the importance of spirituality and numerology in ones life.
  3. Learn the significance of numerology in daily lives.
    Episode Highlights
    [01:41] Freewill & The Self
    · Each of us has a contract with our creator, which consists of the gifts that we receive
    and the promise that we make.
    ● Craig talks about numerology and free will and how it leads to different things.
    ● Everyone knows what it is like to be numero uno but every number has a meaning of its
    own.
    [08:11] The Start
    ● Craig talks about how his journey began and explains his ‘Wake Up Call.’
    ● He also talks about his set of realizations from when his best friend died and how he
    found himself.
    ● “Why am I here?”, “What is the meaning of life?” are some of the many questions he
    began asking himself after the demise of his Best Man.
    ● He talks about the book “In search of the third eye” and his journey of discovery from
    there.
    [17:53] Levels of Acceptance
    ● After Craig discovered himself, he became his first client.
    ● Craig talks about how he ditched being a pilot and get out on this spiritual journey which
    further expanded into numerology.
    ● Craig discusses his analogy of the number four.
    [29:09] The Journey
    ● Craig talks about how things didn’t work out for him in the beginning but everything
    started to fall in place once he started reading.
    ● He talks about how he started receiving information from the universe and the hints to
    help people out.
    ● Talks about how he ventured viral and started as a numerologist.
    [35:00] Making a living
    ● Talks about how he started his services out as a labor of love and used to give seminars
    where no one showed up.
    ● Today, he successfully runs workshops, teaches at a local community college, and
    creates curriculums.
    [42:50] Cultivating Yourself
    ● The mind is very eager to see and the universe puts things in place for you.
    Powerful Quotes from the Episode
    “There is a difference between figures and numbers.”

About Craig
Craig Wright is a native of Baltimore, Maryland where he studied religion and philosophy in his
youth as a member of the Baltimore Ethical Society. He holds degrees in Psychology and
Metaphysics. He is an Ordained Metaphysical Minister and a Certified Metaphysical
Practitioner.

It was the tragic death of a friend in the summer of 1972 that prompted Craig to search for the
meaning of life. This began his study of NUMEROLOGY. After many years of personal research,
Craig went public in 1988. This was the year he met Rev. Hazell Cassell and was invited to be a
guest on her radio program. Craig's presentation on Numerology generated so much excitement
that people began to ask him to share his knowledge about this fascinating science. The
momentum has continued to grow. Craig's services have been sought nationally and
internationally. He has served as a resource to several Human Service Agencies by conducting
seminars and workshops. He has a wide array of clientele who consult with him regularly on
personal as well as business matters.

Connect with Craig here: http://www.craigewright.com

Enjoy this Podcast?
It’s easy to show the side of ourselves we’re proud of. But true change and self-love come with
being able to accept all of you—even the sides you’re afraid to show the world. If you enjoyed
today's episode of Spiritual Dope Podcast, then hit subscribe and share it with your friends!
Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning into this podcast, then do not hesitate to write
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Brandon Handley 0:00
All right, well, let's get on that. And 54321

Unknown Speaker 0:07
Hey, there's

Brandon Handley 0:07
spiritual dope. I'm on today with Dr. Craig. He right. He's a native of Baltimore, Maryland, where he studied religion and philosophy in his youth. As a member of the Baltimore ethical society. He holds degrees in psychology, and metaphysics. He's an ordained metaphysical minister and a certified metaphysical practitioner, we're going to talk a little bit about a story is how you got there. So I'm gonna leave that out. But one of the big things that we're gonna be talking about is numerology kind of how you went public with your story, you know, the radio show that you were on for quite some time. And just unless we're gonna talk about, you know, the, the journey. So Dr. Craig Wright, thank you so much for being on here today, how I like to start these off is with the idea that you and I are here, connecting, and sources, you know, kind of put us in this time in this place in this space, so that a message can flow through you to somebody in the audience today. What does that message just come through, you

Unknown Speaker 1:12
know, that message would be, each of us has a contract with our Creator with source doesn't matter what name you use, God has 1000s of names depending on the culture you're from. But each of us has a contract with source, and that we are giving gifts. And we make a promise, the contract has come out composed of gifts that we received, and a promise that we make, and that information is is available, because it shows up in the numbers and our birthday, in the letters in our lay.

Brandon Handley 1:53
That's powerful. So it's interesting to me. And of course, the first thing that comes to my mind is we were talking you know, we connected online and you mentioned like this show to be on the show. And one of the first things that kind of comes into my mind though about numerology that i i think that you know, some of the naysayers, right would say, Well, if it's all in the numbers, is it all predetermined? Right, or, you know, what happens after? You know, you give me the some numbers? Is it fatalistic? Is it something else?

Unknown Speaker 2:30
Well, no numerology does not rob us of our free will. For example, if you're born on the first of any month, one of your gifts is leadership. Everybody knows that number one. So you could be an engineer, you could be a pilot, you could be a fashion designer. But whatever you decide to be using your free will, you're going to be the cutting edge, and you're going to be the best at it. So the number one will reveal your creativity that you're here to be an originator, not an imitator, you're here to lead not to follow. And more than likely, if you're born on the first 10th 19th or 28th of any month, you're going to have opportunities to become self employed. Those are the number ones. If I may, at this point, it's important that we realize there's a difference between figures and numbers. If I hold up a pin, and I say I have one pin, that would be a quantity. In this case, number one, this is a figure a quantity. But if I look a little closer, and I say big pins are number one. Now I'm no longer talking about a quantity, but a quality, at least in my opinion of being the best. So everybody knows what it means to be numero uno, but every number has a meaning or every number reveals a spiritual quality, a spiritual quality. So getting back to your question. No, it's not fatalistic. For example, it'll tell you, hey, it's springtime, time to plant but you can plant that is tomatoes, okra, corn, whatever you choose. But you don't want to plant in January. What is freezing? So that's the benefit of numerology.

Brandon Handley 4:25
I gotcha. I gotcha. That makes sense. So I want to I definitely want to talk a little bit about your journey into this space. You know, it kind of happened, right? You got a new tragic death of a friend, your best man for your wedding, if I recall correctly. Yeah. And and yeah, let's just talk about an area. You know, let's talk about kind of how that hits you. And what you did, how that how that kind of spurned your journey.

Unknown Speaker 4:54
That was my that was my wake up call, if you will, for my call. to spirituality. I showed a propensity for math and science when in seventh grade, my parents decided they were going to have an engineer in the fam. My mother was a schoolteacher. So I was never out of school, math, science, every program, summer school, anything having to do with math and science. I was there. I was preparing to become a jet pilot. I wanted to fly jets with the Navy. By the seventh grade, I knew every jet they own. I knew what what armament they had, what caliber machine guns, they had, oh, I was prepared to become a technocrat. I didn't I wasn't a believer. At that time. If you couldn't measure it, quantify it. I was able to, to we say figures, not numbers at that. But when my best friend was from a drug overdose, Brandon and I didn't even know he was using. So they told me a lot about myself. I was too self absorbed. I wasn't paying attention to anything around me. And it also told me that it started my search for life, I began to ask those tough questions. Why am I here? What's the meaning of life is going to be this arbitrary? Take me now I don't want this pain anymore. And I gotta tell you, that happened when I was 21 years old. And I've never really had a allow myself to get that close to another individual since then. But what did happen was, I begin to pray for the very first time, and I begin to ask the universe, why am I here? What's the meaning of life? And the answer came back to me in a form that I would understand. I just was in a state of of yearning and wanting to know, and I heard a song that was on our radios, it was called in search of the Third Eye by a man who just play some of his music won won the Super Bowl this year. Roy airs. So this song mystify me search for the third eye, what's that all about? The lyrics were sequence of numbers can be found secrets of wisdom can be found. So this was before Amazon and Google, it took me two years to get a copy of that book. After both are bought the album, read the cover, took me two years to get the book. But once I got my hands on it, it was called in search of the Third Eye by various family order. And this was a book the artists read, who compose the song. So I'm reading the book now, on one from the song to the artists to the book, in the book was talking about the secrets of numbers. And I discovered, I was a number seven. And that the purpose of my life was to study the meaning of life and share it with others. I was like, oh, my goodness, that's what I'm doing. So I realized that there is no greater love that a friend has this is how I rationalized his passing. Because Scripture says there's no greater love than a friend later in his life. So I said, Okay, I'm gonna change because of his passing. And I started going to the Library of Congress, reading everything I could get my hands on, about the sequence of numbers. Now you can go to the library and find 20 books on the shelf. There's even a there's even a numerologist for Dummies. But back in 1972, if you want to read about numerology, you had to go to the Library of Congress and study the journeys of Protagoras, how he went to the Mystery Schools in Egypt and study with the Masters there, who taught using the oral tradition. And then he came back and shared what he learned. And the Greeks became famous.

Brandon Handley 8:56
And I love that as it's, um, you know, one of the one of the quotes that you one of the things you're referencing already was something that I believe you found from Pythagoras, right? was the idea that there's a difference between figures and numbers, right? Yes.

Unknown Speaker 9:12
And

Brandon Handley 9:14
I know you've already kind of illustrated so yeah, absolutely. Right right now on touch touch of the finger, you know, you know, you sent me your book and an email right, I was able to read like numerology information, touch of a finger. I can go to Amazon and I've got something on Kindle instantaneously. Yes, I go download like these great, you know, these great mysteries and, you know, moments as soon as soon as it comes to my mind, but what I think is interesting so far, right? Is that here's this, you know, arbitrary song that plays, right, this strikes a chord for you, and sets you on your path.

Unknown Speaker 9:54
Yeah, amazing, right? sequence of numbers. This The only way I could have, I could have even accepted the concept that there was a higher being and that it was influenced my life in any way. And it was a tremendous wake up call, you know, and it came to me, not from some guy up on the pulpit in a in a yellow suit. Gallery, right. It came to me through my own research. In a call a discovery, no one else knew what I was doing, or what I was, when I was pursuing. It spoke to me, it fed me in a manner that I was ready to receive through numbers. It was the only way in for me.

Brandon Handley 10:49
Yeah, no doubt, no doubt, right? No, I also gotta imagine like Baltimore. You grew up in Baltimore. Was it the city proper? Or was it the suburbs? Yeah, I

Unknown Speaker 11:00
grew up in Baltimore City.

Brandon Handley 11:01
Yeah, yes. I mean, you know, city city proper. It's no doubt like, especially in that time to that. It's really a good idea to run around and talk about being spiritual, right? Especially as a male, right, and it's right, and in that city environment. And then, you know, the scientist, you're not even just spirituality or things, you know, easy. Or, then now you're throwing in numerology tonight, you're like, Well, does not just spiritual, but like, let's, let's, let's do numbers, too, right. And I think that that can be, you know, that can that can throw people off to I imagine, just

Unknown Speaker 11:39
did

Brandon Handley 11:40
levels of acceptance, right, you know, what, what people are willing to accept? And and, you know, so

Unknown Speaker 11:46
very true. That's very true.

Brandon Handley 11:48
So when did you become a pilot?

Unknown Speaker 11:53
No, after my, my discovery, after my friend passed, and I discovered numerology, I became my first client. And I began to, instead of going to the Air Force is setting engineering, I went to seminary, I went to the seminary. I thought that was my calling. But what happened was, once I got into seminary, I discovered, there really wasn't a search for God there. They had already done the surgeon and everything figured out, they wanted to make sure you were saying the right things before you could get their degree.

Brandon Handley 12:34
Yeah, that's I think that's the challenge to have spirituality slash religion, right. I mean, that's, I think, one of the one of the reasons for spiritual dope, right, the podcasts? Because, like, let's, let's have a conversation about spirituality that isn't previously dictated to us as whether or not this is acceptable or not. Right. Exactly. And so you found you found that they were just trying to dictate to you, you know, here's the right way to say it. Right. Is that is that kind of what exactly,

Unknown Speaker 13:05
that's exactly right. I was getting good grades, because, technically, my, my writing skills and my, my research was spot on, they, they could not deny what I was saying, I was finding evidence of reincarnation, I was finding evidence of numerology how every time the number 40 shows up, for stands for order, and zero is a symbol for God. So every time a number 40 show up, God was establishing a new order, 40 days and 40 nights of rain, 40 years of wandering in the desert. And each time that number precipitated a tick or change, that God was bringing a new order, so that I was getting good grades, but I was very uncomfortable there. Because it was like swimming upstream. So

Brandon Handley 13:56
one second real quick there, cuz I've been, I've been on the number 40 for like, years now. I'm like, what, because it's always showing up, just like he said, I'm like, there's gotta be something, right. Like, there's got to be something because there's 40 days, 40 nights, there's, you know, the, the whatever, but I also call it to age, like, when we turn 40 like, there's a massive shift, right? Like, you know, there's a massive shift and kind of who, you know, a lot of us are and and i think that you know, 40 is illustrated in my take on 40 has always been like, you know, these are the signals like it doesn't always have to be the ages and years but also kind of what you know what you're saying there's numerology, numerology there, but in my mind the most well, that's just like the signal like age 40. Like, you know, you're gonna ask, I'm really serious, right? Yeah, something's gonna change in 40 days and 40 nights, you know, be ready, you know. So that's really interesting. Thanks for thanks for sharing that. It's been on my mind for literally a few years now. So thank you.

Unknown Speaker 15:00
So my body was I called a picture. That's right. That's spirit, isn't it? That's it. That's it. So for us, they asked for order. If you think in terms of Adam being one is being too with one or two fit together, there's tears, there's three, right? So you can't have a kid crawling around. So you put them inside the playpen, so forth sided figure. So you have some order you get your work done.

Unknown Speaker 15:24
is great.

Brandon Handley 15:25
Yeah, I love you know, so one of the things I love about, you know, finding and establishing a pattern order, and you're doing it with like numbers, you you, you begin to, you begin to apply it anywhere, right, you get a you get a certain kind of set of knowledge, and now you're able to apply it and in so many different facets, that without any of that knowledge, you can't, right. So you know, that's

Unknown Speaker 15:48
exactly right. Yeah, especially that number for the 40 minutes, when it comes to a home, fixing, mending and repairing. So whenever my clients contact me with an address, like 2102, number 1921, apartment B, I always tell them to avoid a house with the number four, unless they're prepared to do a lot of work on it. And a lot of renovating it, keeping it a

Brandon Handley 16:16
you know, keeping it a casino because it's a good one to keep in mind as I'm in moving to my next place here shortly. So I'll keep in mind that to keep the number four out of the equation. For sure. So, you, you know, you took this kind of, um, you know, even at the age of 21, coming out of Baltimore, young excited, man, I gotta imagine, like, you know, even spirituality, right, like, that's still tough grab. And so you follow through seminary and into what just trying to follow the journey?

Unknown Speaker 16:51
Well, seminary didn't work out too well, for me, I just, I was just there one semester kereta a 3.7. But um, after that, I started going to the Library of Congress and studying on my own, studying the information that I was being called to. It was just fascinating. He was like, it was food it was, it was the answer. It was what I was looking at before. And it was telling me all the questions I had while I was here, what I was supposed to do, and I was studying it and learning from it. And after a while I started getting clues from source to share. I will be in a checkout line. And I will see someone's name on their on their name tag. And I will hear information. If I read in a computer, I will hear information about I can't hear you information about it. I'm gonna share a little later, but this is how it started to happen. And and I wouldn't, I didn't know what it was, I was afraid. So literally, I heard a voice tell me you have the gift of discernment do not wish I had to go look it up. I didn't know what this tournament meant. So I had to go look that up and say, Okay, I'm going to be getting some information from from what I've been studying now. Now I've reached a certain level, now the university is going to start using me. So my heart's pounding a little heavier. Yeah, because it's not only about me, I'm being asked to share information. So eventually build up enough confidence to start doing that. I would tell someone Whoa, I know, you've been waiting for money a long time it's gonna be it's gonna be in your mailbox. You know, things like that, you know, in the checkout line, or whatever, way fast so nobody would know who I was or anything like that. But I had to come back the next day was to buy some milk, but it was Hey, how did you know that? You arrived I was there. So that's how the birth started getting about this guy knows about now but so people started contacting me. And I didn't I didn't know what to do. I didn't have any services, anything like that. I just share information with you. So

Brandon Handley 18:54
so you know that two things. Two things there right? Well for I love the idea, right? Hey, universe is gonna start using me right? Like I mean, just so you set yourself up as a as a vessel, right? You set yourself up as a conduit and we talk a lot about like, you know, receiving we talk a lot about tuning in and all that kind of thing, but it sounds to me like you just you know you you allowed right and and you let it he let it coarser you so I think that's pretty cool. And you know, second part, like you're talking about right now, just thinking you didn't we didn't have what we've got right now. You couldn't you know, your credit, you couldn't go back there and spin out spiritual dope back then. Right? Because you had like a street corner like maybe unspiritual dope was that corner that block, you know, so? Yeah, tell me a little more about the time.

Unknown Speaker 19:52
So I'm continuing to listen to the radio station. It was it was a College Station Morgan State University. Radio where I heard the song in search of the third. So I'm continuing to listen to the station. And a lady comes on the station a Reverend Hazel caselle. And she has a radio show. So he is teaching classes about spirituality. I said, Oh, I needed to learn some more about this. So I went to visit her. And I'm talking to her about a class. So I'm getting ready to leave her office. And she says, aren't you going to tell me about your gift? I didn't say anything to this lady about numerology or any special gift. But she has psychic abilities. And she says, I'm seeing numbers around you. You haven't said anything to me about it. So I gradually came back to the opposite said to and I started sharing with her what it happened, what my experiences was. So see if I knew her or her radio show. So okay, I'll come on your show talk about numbers. So people calling in giving their name and their birthday, I'm doing readings over the over the over the air. And at the end of the show, she gives out my phone number. Well, I guess I was kind of naive. Now I expect to give out my number and my website. But not this first show. I'm just sharing my gifts. And she gave out my number brand. And people started calling me my phone off the hook. I had to go back home and create services. Well, this will be a reading and I'll call this a forecast and to meet the demand that that that people wanted to know. And that's how I got started. Yay, a numerologist I did not plan it. I had never heard of it. It just happened and I really feel like it was my calling. And and that is why I'm here to be of service to God to share information about about these numbers man is so fascinating. And so complex yet it's it's all around us. Right? It's like we come with a owner's manual. Like when you buy you buy a new gift or you get a any type of product. You open it up it says here's the owner's manual read this first name on our birthday. We're totally blind to it, you know? Sure.

Brandon Handley 22:05
No, no, it's Yeah, that's you know, he was always walk around be like, well, we didn't come with an owner's manual. Now you're telling us that we do. So they have to dig into that. Right? Well, I was asked to dig into that. So, you know, you've been able to sustain through numerology is my question, then, you know, have you been able to kind of like make make make your living out of out of this practice?

Unknown Speaker 22:30
It's interesting. It started off there were no, okay. No, it was a labor of love. Like I said, I didn't reach out to start a business. It was only people contacting me for my services, and my hallways was was doing something else with this was sort of like a vocation. But as time has gone on, when I was 21, I eventually I ended up having a show on sa radio show that I would say radio station, I was listening to doing a numerology report. So over time, I would give classes announced workshops, nobody would show up. Nobody will show relevance place. Zero. But now, yes, workshops. been teaching at the local community college. One of the people heard my show in a radio was a program director at a community college in Baltimore County in the asked me to create a curriculum to teach numerology and make it available. That's true. Things have really changed his math, t 72.

Brandon Handley 23:49
A couple things, a couple things have changed, for sure. Things have changed.

Unknown Speaker 23:57
I love how you say things like that. I told you, I was picking up things for you too. And what I picking up is global, a global impact. That's what I'm picking out that. I don't know if you can translate your show into other languages. But I'm picking up your impact is is going to be global. And people from different cultures from all around the world are going to start tuning in to your show. And and what you write new habits. I know you didn't tell me you were an author or writer. But I'm showing up and picking up your writer is something you write has a potential to go to the big screen.

Brandon Handley 24:36
Mm hmm. Well, I don't know what I'd write that would go to the big screen. But you know, there's still plenty of time. You know, I love the idea though. And thanks, man. It's really interesting. I was just talking to talking to somebody this weekend in New Zealand to get connected with somebody else who's you know, got some global initiatives and here's the thing Being able to have that conversation. So, you know, yeah, like, I got like little goose bumps and like, my hair is rising up over here. So on the different cultures, right, that's what this is about. It's, it's, it's not about, um, it is about is exactly what it's about those different cultures if you look at if you look at the graphics for spiritual dope, you see, you know, Jesus figure there you see Buddha there, and my original one had a, you know, Shiva on there, right. So it's just kind of like, you know, we're all saying the same things we've all got, you know, how do we light this fear up within us? How do we how do we, how do we honor it? Right? I think that's one of the first how do we recognize it? How do we honor it and how do we allow for it to bloom right, what do we do to cultivate ourselves? Right and and nurture that and and share it, but now so so thanks, man. That's it. So is that is that done through numbers or just straight vibing?

Unknown Speaker 26:02
Well, I think straight vibing led me to numerology. I'm listening to the song doing the research on pursuing holding a my consciousness because I believe the mind is so opposed to see. And what we're co creators with the universe. sparks from the big flame, if you will. And by holding it in my mind, it just manifested that book. That book showed up in a bookstore in house and there was only a business for a year and a half.

Unknown Speaker 26:32
That's crazy.

Unknown Speaker 26:34
Okay, universe put that stood there for me, right. But yeah, I think i vi, to numerology, but after that, I just began to study it and apply my skills, my technical abilities. So there's so much they give me their birthday. And I can edit out real quickly, because I'm used to formulas and things like that. So math does math doesn't frighten me. So I can look at an a tag editor, convert the letters to numbers and give someone a reading within seconds just because of you know, the, the pathways, the mental pathways I created by studying math and science. I didn't know I'd be applying it this way. Yeah. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 27:19
You never you never know how it's gonna strike. Right? So real. If this is okay, you know, so it's my wife's birthday. Next week. Can we can we do her? Do her numbers? Yeah. So. So what do you need the whole year, month, date and year? So March 16 1974.

Unknown Speaker 27:43
Okay, Okay, awesome. Eat number in the birthday represents a gift. Okay. Then if you add it all up, you have like the ultimate gift. So I like to think of it as a contract with creator in these closets. The first clause is the number three. And the three is a symbol for expression, and you singing, painting, dancing, writing, anything artistic, decorative, colorful, is also a symbol for abundance, because the story of the Christ is about the number three, he was taught by three wise men. And there's a lot of other references, but we know he arose on the third day. That's Easter, I left a lot of about for the sake of time. But when asked Massa, why are you here, he says, I'm here to have life and have it abundantly. So the three stands for abundance. So your wife gift is to always appear younger than she is. If he's in a room and children are there, they will be drawn to her like a magnet. She's extremely creative, in terms of her artistic talent and ability. And you may have channels getting a word and once he starts to communicate, because threes are expressive, okay. Now, I'm going to skip her day for a moment because her year is also a three. If you add one plus nine plus seven plus four, it adds up to 20 119 is 1074 is 1110 1011 is 21. Are you with me?

Unknown Speaker 29:25
Because I'm tracking?

Unknown Speaker 29:27
Absolutely Did you add two plus one, that's also with Ray. So he's got a double dose if everything that I shared with you about the number three, full abundance, social activity, mixing, working with children, being an artist creative, seeing the penny dancing, writing a double dose of that. Now her date of birth is a seven, one plus six is seven. That's the number of face. On the seventh day God rested. So as social as she is There's going to be times she's going to be by herself. It's almost like what happened? Did the cloud come over to set on? Where she go? Right? What what? Because it's the exact opposite of the number three, which makes her social. So her rhythm will be to introspect, and then to project to interest, fat, and then to project because the seven makes her a minister, does it matter? She goes to school, where's the row? Seven is the number of faith. So she's a mountain mover. Okay? She's a researcher. That's my number. The number seven so sees a researcher and analyst or thinker, does he take things at face value? Oh, she goes deep. She is the reason why you are walking that straight line. If I write about the man, Maria, number seven female, okay, you don't have to worry about being going astray or doing anything wrong, because she'll sense it before even comes to your mind. My wife was a number seven. So I can't even dream about doing anything. I mentioned you might be a writer, your wife is definitely around this. About the book, hobby. Okay? hobby, okay, this is your second letter as a two, oh is a six because the 51 five or six, that as the 14, a K is to the left of ladder. One plus one is two. So the word book vibrates to the 16. So when you see the 16 Not only is he a researcher, but she has the ability to communicate it. So she's writing has a potential to write lecture travel a share her expertise. I don't know what her expertise is, okay, numerology does it, box her in. But that seven tells me whatever she does, she's the expert, a people will seek her out for her expertise. It also tells me she's so creative. Her main challenge is to follow through. To follow through completing projects is going to be a task. Because her creativity, so delegating is important. Now let's add it all. Okay, so that those are the clauses in her contract. Craig, real quick,

Brandon Handley 32:32
I lost her picture. Can I get you to come back? Oh, sure. Sure. I

Unknown Speaker 32:36
don't know what happened here. These are the gifts that God gave her. Okay, that I just shared with you, the creativity, the mental ability to analyze. So if we add it all up, is three plus 16 is 90, which tells me as a numerologist. She left the house as a child, she got out of the house as fast as she could. It was quit out of there, man. And it was someone in their family who tried to keep their keeper under their thumb. But she said find them because that spot her originality and her leadership that brought it up. But I digress. If we add 19 to her a year, which is a 21 guess what 19 to 21 add up to Brandon

Brandon Handley 33:23

  1. Is that right?

Unknown Speaker 33:28
42? The number 40 see

Unknown Speaker 33:31
that crazy number, right? Well,

Unknown Speaker 33:33
you're right, plus 16 plus 21. Three plus 16 plus 40. So your her death is the orderliness of God. So he embodies it to wherever she goes. That's the energy that she's taking with her. So people are going to call her mean stubborn and strict.

Brandon Handley 34:00
I mean, I don't know if they would say to her face,

Unknown Speaker 34:04
probably a bad idea.

Unknown Speaker 34:07
Also, as a number 40, when you guys have entertainer has gas, after they leave, you will find her going around the house, putting things back in their place where they belong. So orderliness is very important to the number 40. As his eyes are numbers, he's probably extremely good with numbers. Well, she

Brandon Handley 34:28
will tell you, she's not but most you probably, you know, it's one of those things right? It's what you tell yourself. It's what you tell yourself, right?

Unknown Speaker 34:36
That's the number four. The fourth book in scriptures is called numbers. So people four is always concerned with measurements and things like that. So you get involved with numbers when you do research and studies and things like that. So right. And I will also share with her that this year was as a 223 is going to be a year of said numbers. 1923 is 42. This is a number six year for her. And number six year, so she's going to have a chance to use her creative talents, skills and abilities this year, she couldn't have a chance to join with others in some goodwill projects, they're going to be reaching out for her to to work together in a goodwill project. And a lot of people do get a new home in a number six year, so the focus is on the home, and the six year domesticity the whole community, in your relationship

Brandon Handley 35:46
towards fun, right, that's a lot of fun. That's, that's great. So thanks. Thanks for doing that.

Unknown Speaker 35:50
It is a love vibration.

Brandon Handley 35:54
Well, that's awesome. So you know, so you kept at it, and you feel like, you know, what was it like, I guess and you know, kind of communicating this as your primary path to like your friends and family? And how long did it take you? So how long did it take you? You know, to? To even feel confident to do that? And were you scared to do it?

Unknown Speaker 36:17
Well, with my immediate friends, I went to right away after losing my friend to that drug overdose. I wasn't taking any chances on quoted back any information that I now have revealed to me about them, because I knew that he burned things. So I started sharing information with them. Many of them were receptive. But some of them ran away, they became afraid not because the info meishan wasn't accurate. But because the information was accurate, on and they felt. And now before they were invisible, now I knew everything about them. So people started running away from me, not because it wasn't true, accurate, but because they didn't want to stand in front of an X ray machine. Sure. For sure, but then there was also the other side of the coin. And people thought I just lost, I thought I just lost my mind and flipped out. And that what I was doing was actually something demonic and evil. So I took that this spirit said, what do you what do you have me doing here? Look him, he told me this. This is where I'm supposed to be doing. I'm trying to share it. So spirit told me I wasn't ready yet. I was, you know, going off too quickly. That to continue the study. And when the time was right. God told me he would bring his leaders to me. So it wasn't a type of thing where I could get on a hit a brass, hit the symbol and advertise and put it up in the lights come to me Come to me. I had to be patient and wait in study and to be prepare to prepare myself for the time when God was going to start sending people to me. So that's what I did. I just zipped it up, it started studying. And the people who found out about me found their way to me. I had prepared my services now. And it wasn't a a wide stream of clients. But when they came I was I was ready for them. And I knew they were leaders, right? That they were leaders and it hasn't changed. You are a global leader. The name brand is a number 32. And that's America's birthday, July the fourth 1776. And the number 32 shows up in all of America's leaders in George Washington's bow total. And Barack Obama has showed me showing up in your first name. The number 32 is called the ruler of all nations and people. And because I studied that, that's how I know you're going to have a global impact. Hmm. So this is why you're starting to meet people from other countries. And sooner or later you will have a network all around the world because that's that's what you came here. That was your contract. Promise creator that you would impact the planet. So you may not be telling other people that's your goal. But that's that's pretty much what the universe has planned for you. Your last name Handley the valtos a number 13. So I want to talk about that people are so afraid of the 13 branded, they won't come outside on Friday the 13 people are terrified, for sure and for good reason. The 13 is all in Nothing is an all or nothing type vibration. And what it stands for is change, release and transformation. So it does mean death, but not how we think of it. Because we are spiritual beings here for a temporary spell, what we call it death is simply returning back to our original state. Sure, is the transformation. So the 13 stands for change, release a transformation. And when it shows up in your name the way it does for you, it means you came here to be part of the transformation that's taking place. We've heard songs about the Age of Aquarius. Well, by golly, we're in it.

Brandon Handley 40:46
Where are you? Yeah, and you know, I'll throw it out there too. I am an Aquarius to say,

Unknown Speaker 40:50
wow, you

Brandon Handley 40:52
know, I'm all in right? Like, I mean, do I need any other signs? There's something that I'm missing. Change,

Unknown Speaker 41:02
right? It's transition. So when people meet you, they'll be transformed. The 13 is represented by the butterfly star. So calling around is that with wings fly, save energy save manager now, but also the Phoenix that goes down in flames and then rises from the ashes. So people should never count you out.

Brandon Handley 41:33
That's I mean, it's great. Right? I love I love both of those. Both those symbols, right? We always we always look at you know, the caterpillar. And then you know, going into its cocoon, and just totally eradicating what it was before getting into a big new mass of goo. And then coming out like this beautiful thing, right? So always love that. And same thing with the same Yeah, Phoenix is always a great story to write down to the ashes and reborn again, and into something more beautiful than it was before. And you know, as they say, powerful, but you know, powerful than more, you know, but maybe, maybe, you know, it's funny, I just shared the quote, that, uh, that kind of speaks to how I felt like upon like, my awakening, if it were as it were, right. I was like, I don't know what this power is. But I know that I'll figure it out. Right, I'll work towards figuring understanding it right. And that's me, just kind of right. The the Phoenix has probably always been that capable, but it wasn't until it was down and out that it's got to strike forward and search for it and, and come into its own power.

Unknown Speaker 42:45
Awesome. Awesome, man. Awesome. So most people, most people give up at that point. Most people, they, they check, you know, they turn to different escapism where they just hold on and go through that pain. You know, it's it's the old Coke is the old say, but no pain, no gain, you know, is this what you grew up? A farmer has to break up the soil before we could plant a seed.

Brandon Handley 43:18
No, hey. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. And I see that 100% the other thought, you know, and this is recent, recent one, the mean just just a quick exchange of of, you know, quotes and whatnot and thoughts on this. But there was, um, there's a lady that I listened to system or her meditations and, and just talking about pain as as a as a gateway to the divine, right. Unless we unless we allow ourselves to actually feel that pain and said that we continue to most of us shove shove pain away, right though I don't want to touch it, it hurts to keep that away. But if we go ahead and accept that pain, and feel into it, and we realize the power that's within that pain, and I don't know if you transform it or just feel it right and be okay with it, but a pain is also a gateway to the divine. And so I recently just kind of you know, that did it hit me. So what are your lines here and Craig, this has been awesome. I'm really enjoying it. And I know that you know, the audience will as well. But I love the line that you've got on on your website says I use my gifts to help I use my gifts. I use my gifts to help my clients understand themselves as spirit by journeying within we can discover a higher self higher purpose and divine well. Now is that from scriptures, that's something that you kind of came up with on your own just a curiosity there. I love it.

Unknown Speaker 44:39
I notice that something I came up on my own just over over time over the years people asked me the question, you know, we do was was it about was it four? Right? So that's, that's what I came up with. I realized that, you know, the body is a temple of the spirit and we're We're not physical beings, we have an occasional spiritual experience, the awakening is oh my goodness, we're spirit inside this this vessel by hand. So with numerology, I'm able to enable to share with people who they are in terms of spirit in terms of energy, so they can see themselves that way. because very few people will come up to you and talk to you in those terms. You know, they're talking about What school did you go to what car you drive when you work, you know, how much money do you make, but not what's your contract with God? What do you do earn your body to when you book your trip?

Brandon Handley 45:41
No, no, that's absolutely, absolutely. And so, you know, one of the things that, actually, so I mean, it's almost like, here's a UPC code on everybody that walks by, right, you got like, you got a scanner, they listen, let me tell you about you. First of all, these these ingredients are, you know, anyways, the idea is that to you know, in your book, you spell it out a little bit. It's not just to learn kind of numerology to figure out who you are, and just your kind of divine contract in your book, you also illustrate how you can determine relationships that, you know, beneficial in you know, you know, in matchmaking for sure, and like, you know, kind of find my next significant other, as well as you know, how things will work out at jobs or what what are good job fits, maybe give me like one or two scenarios, I know you listed out for my wife, Meg, you know, the number three, or was it number 16? Number, the book and being able to be a writer? What's like,

Unknown Speaker 46:49
like, what's your date of birth?

Brandon Handley 46:51
My date of birth is 125 1976.

Unknown Speaker 46:56
Okay, so you're also a seven, your wife is born to 61 plus six is seven. You're the 25th to plus. And it just so happens. This is crazy. You are both savage in compatibility. In my book starts on page 77. By case you

Unknown Speaker 47:29
I'm going to share with you what it means when two sevens, okay? to service. Now, this is in your day of birth sector and the day of birth and the compatibility report. Is the canvas for the relationship. No, it's not. It's not a it's the weakest energy really, when you're doing compatibility. Like if you go look at two artists, you go to a museum, look at a painting, you know, but the canvas is important, right? Canvas is important.

Unknown Speaker 47:56
So

Unknown Speaker 47:57
here's number seven, and number seven compatibility, and my book is on page 102 sevens. Silence is so much peace exists with this combo. On the seventh day God rested. So there's silence, there's peace, there's non verbal communication, there's no way without even speaking, okay,

Unknown Speaker 48:19
we're definitely there.

Unknown Speaker 48:24
This could be a couple who miss as hermits, or older friends or civilization and blissful solitude surrounded by nature, she herself is likely to be away from it all. Very spiritually inclined to sevens. But who's going to pay the bills, if both are lost in the world of thought, see that we got

Unknown Speaker 48:51
that we got that from

Unknown Speaker 48:55
very eccentric unit, with each being absorbed in their mental interests. So that's a couple of sevens there, right? When added up your wife's month, day and year, it added up to the number four. Now that's the most important number in a compatibility chart, the sum of the month, day and year. So for you, it was 125. There as of the 26th. So your gift is leadership. The number one, everybody knows that. I talked about faith aspect of, of spirituality being a researcher and analyst or thinker your year as up to 23 1976 is a 23. Okay, this happens a lot. I start I have one in kitchen and spirit kicks in. I don't know why the camera keeps going up. Spirit is telling me to share this with you on you're going to have a business and have an opportunity to hire your family. That's showing up family entrepreneur. vibration shows up in your chart. But I digress. This happens a lot. I have an intention, but something come in from the

Brandon Handley 50:09
universe. Where does that where does that where does that come from? Is that coming from a number or is that coming from a vibration?

Unknown Speaker 50:15
It's coming from the number, your month is a one in your year is a 23. Okay as up to 24. And that's called the family entrepreneur vibration. Okay? The family entrepreneur vibration, of course, is showing up in your chart, starting your business and hiring your family. So as I said, I digress it off, this happens in the house, I have an intention, the universe will say okay, while you're open, share this. I wanted to share that with you. So your mother today is 2424 25 is 49. So not only do your your birthdays match, but he's a 44 plus years for your 44 plus nine is 30. There's a 13 again, right one plus three is four. So you match not only do your days match, but when I have your muffin here that matches man when you when you took one look at her the earth must have shook

Unknown Speaker 51:26
there's no doubt in your mind because you guys. So for for for what does that mean? I share seven seven nonverbal communication. Two fours both are very fixed in your point of view, and somewhat stubborn for us. Okay. Okay, realized material conference and business success. This is a workaholic combo that might put too much energy into working in building.

Unknown Speaker 52:09
Right not have fun. Yeah. any conflicts will be around budget or time issues. Because four is orderly. So there's budget and time issues. Here, he should have their own bank account. This is a great business combination. So if you come to me seeking advice, as a couple, that's what I'll be telling you. Right. Now other when it comes to time, and budgets, because it was about keeping the trains in order, making sure everything is growing. I'll tell you about the number four. You see when a plant a new tree brand, and they put spikes in the ground with that Robert wanted to hold it in place. Yes, sir. Before energy. Right. To the left, but it gets a good root set. Right? goes up tremendously. Education, pending it without those bikes, right. The tree is saying you're stubborn, you're me. You're strict, even though you're saving the tree lives, right? When people are complaining about you being stubborn, or mean or strict, that's when you know you're on your job.

Brandon Handley 53:43
I'm here, I'm here, sir. And I'm doing my contract. I gotta

Unknown Speaker 53:47
make sure whatever gets off the ground. It manifests because God created Earth on the fourth day on phase commit the physical manifestation under your energy, Brandon. So were other people have ideas and dreams. You had the ability to make your dreams reality.

Brandon Handley 54:11
Well, thank you, man. That's, that's, that's awesome. That's awesome. That's a ton of fun. It really is. And I know you do so much more to I didn't even go over all your credentials for the audience putting out just just so everybody understands this, you know? You've got Reverend Dr. Craig he right PhD, right PhD in metaphysical counseling metaphysical science metaphysical science. You know, Minister, metaphysical practitioner, so, you know, this isn't obviously it's not news to you, right? And you've actually taken the time to go and and to an actual school and get, you know, educated in this material, whereas you probably you know, you probably didn't need to you probably found out most of the stuff or a lot of it on your own But you, you put forth a lot of extra effort. So I really appreciate you reaching out to me and being here today on the podcast sharing just a small amount of what it is that you do. And even this, this whole conversation has been very impactful for me. And it's been a lot of fun. So, you know, if somebody else wanted to reach out to you to get this kind of service, where could I send them to, to connect with you?

Unknown Speaker 55:27
Well, they could visit my website, and they could see all the services that are available to them. And that website is www dot. Craig he right that, that c r AIGEW rI ght.com.

Brandon Handley 55:48
Awesome, Craig, thanks for being with us today.

Unknown Speaker 55:50
Thank you, Brandon.

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Rick Thompson Acceptance and Glory of the Self

Published: April 4, 2021, noon
Duration: 47 minutes 5 seconds

Have you ever thought that you could become a better version of yourself? Do you feel that you’re capable of way more than you’re doing? You’re doing a lot, but nothing seems to work out. People like living the same monotonous life and choose mediocrity every day. But you realize you can do way more and are capable of achieving greater heights?

Here’s the hard truth: you need to set rules for yourself and believe that you can do it.

In this episode, Rick Thompson talks about his book and how he helps people become the best versions of themselves. He discusses the subconscious mind and how important it is to accept things and envision the future.

Tune in to this episode to learn more about bringing the best out of you and setting rules and goals to be glorious. 

Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:

  1. Understand the different ways your subconscious mind works and learn it to put it to the best use. 
  2. Discover the importance of setting rules and believing in what you can do.
  3. Learn the significance of goals and envision the best for yourself. 

Episode Highlights

[01:10] Gifts of God

  • You’re given everything. All you have to do is accept.
  • Rick talks about the first half of his book and talks about how our thoughts put imagery in the world and have the energy to co-create.
  • Rick shares his story of being in heaven with a huge box. He continues by talking about how he got where he is today.
  • Rick shares his experience of losing his wife and how he learned to cherish things.

[08:08] Envisioning and Searching

  • He continues to talk about how he dealt with his life’s demise and found a vision and a mission.
  • If you put thought and effort into something, you can achieve it. 
  • The future is what we believe it to be.
  • If you want something special, you have got to believe in it, in such a way that it exists for you.

[14:23] The Subconscious mind 

  • You have got to release and get rid of the negative energy. The things that are made for you will come to you.
  • It’s about flowing with the river but paddling gently in the right direction. 
  • You have to put thought and energy into life when you are contemptuous. 
  • Rick talks about his life after his wife passed away and wanted to find a motive and was looking for contempt. 
  • Someone thought of the world, and it was created because everything is a wave until it is created.

[18:53] Managing and Exploring Life

  • You don’t gotta go to work; you get to go to work. You don’t gotta get up; you get to get up.
  • Rick talks about how everyone is in a different arena and helps them open up to it to gain everything possible.
  • If we help each other become better, the world becomes a better place one step at a time.

[21:24] Imparting Knowledge and Setting Rules

  • Rick talks about his children and grandchildren and how he works on imparting knowledge to them.
  • If you have focused thinking while doing something, you will get good results.
  • You need to have a specific set of achievable rules, bring you happiness, and be realistic. If you are miserable, it’s because your rules don’t align with your life. 
  • Words are compelling.
  • You are what you say you are. 

[28:45] I am

  • When you say “I am,” your subconsciousness knows what it is, and it just connects.
  •  Some things are so well taught that we don’t even realize that we are doing it.
  • Your kids reflect exactly who you are without any filters.

[32:37] Dismantling Logic and Reason

  • You should figure out what makes you feel bad, listen to what other people say, too, review your rules and feel what is true inside you and get it in alignment.
  • Rick talks about how he likes to unfold and his favorite music and its influence on our life.
  • There is always good and bad, but we do have a choice. 
  • Rick talks about his favorite mantra of Ho’oponopono and the story behind it. 

[41:00] The Journey

  • Rick talks about how happy he is with life and feels like he has lived to the fullest, but life goals are always ongoing. 
  • It’s not the trip; it’s the journey.
  • Ricks discusses his book and the calling he had to pen it down. 
  • We all have feelings, and if we listen to them, they guide us in the right direction. 

5 Powerful Quotes from the Episode

“Pain is a pathway to the divine.”

“What you believe in, as if it has already happened, will be yours.”

“It’s hardest to see your own self.”

“You can’t make everyone happy.”

“If you are not loving yourself, who is going to love you.”

About Rick

Rick is an engineer, businessman, and investor based in Seattle, Washington. He is the CEO in the cement and steel industry and is recognized as the leading authority. He is highly skilled at defining objectives, accessing requirements, and solving problems on and off the work field. His latest book helps you tap deep into yourself and discover the quantum realms.

https://www.thequantummindset.com/

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Brandon

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Brandon Handley 0:00
So 54321 Hey, their spiritual dope, man, I always I always say my name and Brandon Handley here. I can't, I can't help but say, Hey, it's me here. I'm back again. I'm here with Rick Thompson, who's an engineer, businessman and investor based in Seattle, Washington. He is a CEO in the cement and steel industry is recognized as the leading authority on post tensioning procedures working with big tech clients such as Microsoft and Google. Rick has been infatuated with science, math and the workings of the world since childhood. He is highly skilled at defining objectives, assessing requirements and resolving problems on and off the word field. His practical approach to business life and science is what makes his recent book very special and adjustable to the average reader. His book, his guide has guided programs and will provide you with tested nuts and bolts methods for entering the quantum mindset and tapping the heightened tools for manifesting your deepest dreams. And, Rick, thanks for being on the show today.

Rick Thompson 1:01
Thanks for having me. It's always an honor and pleasure to share with others,

Brandon Handley 1:05
our present so I love to start this off with the whole idea that you know, your god man, that, you know, we are we are vessels for the creative energies of flow through the universe, and that you and I are connecting through this medium through this amplification through the podcast, with at least one specific person that's going to catch a message that can only be delivered through you today. In this instance, true source. What does that messager

Rick Thompson 1:35
well, that you're given everything and all you have to do is accept?

Unknown Speaker 1:42
Yeah, well,

Brandon Handley 1:42
I mean, let's expand on that, right? I mean, I mean, I think that's gonna be a big part of the conversation, where, you know, if I'm out there, and I'm like, Hey, man, I want everything How come was not here?

Rick Thompson 1:55
Well, that's what the book comes, I go through, you know, the first part of my book really tells the physics behind it, until cell particle doesn't really become a particle until it's observed. So through many of the things like, they have this water crystal, that when they put positive energy on it, it turns to beautiful crystals. And when you put negative energy on it, and they have these different tests, even with the plant, they can kind of do these things and measure that reaction. So our thoughts in itself put energy into the world. And we have the power to So speak cocreate, because our energy is creating part of the world in front of us, you know, there's all these other things that have been created before or by others, but we have the ability with our energy to kind of trade what we want. And to me, I have a story I like to tell, can is, puts this perspective helped me to learn that when you go to heaven with you is a giant golden box. And on that box is your name. And you get up there and you see it and go, Wow, this box is beautiful. And I wonder what's in it and finding us what's in this box. And they says, Well, normally we don't tell people what's in the box. But you ask, and it's your box. So they open it up. And in it is all the gifts that God gave you that you did not accept. And so, you know, it's the truth that like the sunshine shining on your world, given everything, we just have to accept the gifts that he gives us. All of this go around telling us how unworthy we are and how we don't deserve and when smart enough. And you know, that's just the negative or whatever power, you want to call it on the other side, kind of drag a spout away from all the beautiful things that life has given us and makes possible for us.

Brandon Handley 3:39
Now love that. So you've got you've got quite a quite a few things in there. I heard that story heard you tell that story a little earlier. And I really enjoyed the first time I've heard it definitely, definitely made me you know, stop and pause and think about what gifts survive, you know, kind of rejected. And then you've also got the route that's the particle particles could be a wave or a particle, right until you observe it. Right? That's the that's the physics piece that you're talking to. And then you're also talking about Mr. He was a more a motto, right? The Japanese water experiment that was done. And I think that those are all awesome examples, right of physics. And then, you know, also the power of the mind. I think a question that comes to my mind is one of the same ones that I have for myself, like, what were some of the gifts that you were not receiving? That you recognize that that you actually had a gift for? I believe, I believe one of the stories I heard was that you were told that you were slow and that you had a learning disability and that you were a dreamer. But here you are today. You know being being this being this catalyst in the world that you are today. How did you how did you come upon that?

Rick Thompson 4:52
like to say you live life, and it's for me, it's like what didn't happen overnight. But that's it. Child, you know, my father left me when I was very young, and I never saw him again. You know, my mom had to raise me and she did remarried, and she remarried a great kid guy. And, you know, you can say, that's the happiest day of, you know, my dad left, he gave me $1. And it made me really happy me and my sister both got a dog because dad can have any piece of candy. We're very young. And it's just, you know, it was so much to me as a little kid, that it was really excited. But that's also the last time I ever saw. So I remembered as a happy moment. But you know, it's kind of sad, because I never saw him again. So, to me, that's a gift. I was given a happy moment to remember my father by at the last moment, even though it's a breakout, and the things he went through and the suffering he had to do, because he wasn't there, I didn't have to suffer through I had a very good life. And because I was kind of feel rejected as a child, I think that's why I got branded kind of the way I did. But as I read and learned and grew, you know, I and I learned to understand what was going around me and realize that I wasn't. And I started applying those applications in life. Like, when I was in junior high, I decided I wanted to set a track record. And one of the things I did is I just envisioned it and said it. And I actually made bets with everybody the year before, saying that's what I was going to do. And the next year I did it, and Matter of fact, I did it way above what I had ever expected. And so kind of helped me to find that what you believe in, you can make happen. And I had a very, I had a great life, you know, I was married and had children's and a nice house. And I wasn't super rich, but I definitely wasn't poor. I lived what I would consider a good life. And that life was so good that it's like what do you do to make a better life, I was happy. I was loved. I lived where I wanted. But 10 years ago, my wife passed away. And when she passed away, it created this terrible pain. And of course, the question is always why God mean. And I dealt with that for a while and started searching the world out. And instead of complaining about what was taken from me, I found that it was more important to cherish what was given. Because my wife taught me how to love and be a really good man and taught me so much. And she was so kind and generous. And I don't know why things happen. But if I try to explain them, I just go crazy. But I do know, by changing my perspective from meaning me, why am I suffering to the gifts I got and what I can do for others, it allowed me to, you know, rebuild a new line to help others. And I do it in her name, kinda, you know, in her memory and her kindness and loving me, I help others and try to be the best man I can and just grow a little bit each day to be a better man. And those experiences are the kind of gifts that you know, when they happen, you think they're not a gift, but when you look back at him, and look at both sides, you know, through your entire life, they turn out a gift that really makes you the person you want today.

Brandon Handley 8:24
So that's, you've got your gifts that you were given, right? I mean, you do you go all the way back to the last time you saw your father, you know, I kind of jotted down, you know, this would be a story, right? Where you asked for a penny and you got $1, right, you asked and you receive but like, you know, maximum amount. And how there's also you can look at that as a happy moment and and a sad moment, right. And then you have the other part that you talked about there was setting the track record and envisioning that what's kind of funny is a real similar story that and that's what's one of my anchor points to to kind of recognizing the achievements I was like, first or second grade, though, and I ended up being like the fastest kid right, but like just kind of coming back and envisioning that like seeing yourself doing it and living it right. And, and then, you know, you've also got like this kind of this life that you're living that you love, and how could it be any better and then and then your wife passes away. And that and that was like the you know, silence me to like, you know her again, listen to another one of your podcasts. I was like, No, she was true love to you. Right? That means a big big part of your life and you are in a you're in a lot of pain and I love this line. There's a person I listen to Sarah blonde and and she's got this. This meditation is called, you know, pain is a gateway to divine and it sounds kind of like it that's what it that's what it did for you. It opened up a pathway to the divine for you. Is that what you were searching for? right because you said you kind of went out there searching. You were your why God me And were you searching for like, why are you in pain were you searching for? What was it you were searching for? In that moment? I'm just curious enough.

Rick Thompson 10:10
I was kind of searching is why am I hearing? What should I do? If I'm going to, you know, wrong to hurt yourself? So I can't do that, because that would be a sin. In my rules anyway. And then, so I say, Well, if I'm gonna be here, then why? And what can I do to make it what you want, but you need what there is for me and the world. And so that's kind of why I wrote the book, because I wrote some books. So I hope I can get other people to realize that if you put the thought and effort towards what you want, you can achieve it. You know, we're all given everything to me. And if you put the action and the proper thought towards it, you will be given those things. I know, when I started doing it, after my wife passed away, I believe that will just give me everything. I, you know, work and my brain chemistry. And, you know, when I had that positive attitude, and I really protection for us, and it's just like, whatever any kind of showed up. So I felt very blessed. Today, I feel extremely blessed. Right, this very building, it's not like, there is a more, but it's not like, I don't have enough you.

Brandon Handley 11:28
Right? I mean, you get to you get to a great point. You know, but again, to so it looks like looks like sounds like what it was like, you know, why am I here? Right? What you're searching for meaning, you know, I mean to, you know, Man's Search for Meaning Viktor Frankl, right? Like, what are you? You're searching, right? You know, what, if you're going to take away the things that the, you know, what was making my life so great, then why am I here and kind of searching for purpose is kind of what I'm hearing. And then you're talking about, you know, the idea of, you know, kind of thinking and taking action. But what about the effort and effort doesn't have to be like this extreme effort to have to really try superduper hard and like all my waking hours does that need to be? Is that how we get things? Or how, you know, what is your recommendation in regards to that?

Rick Thompson 12:19
Well, I think it's more, there's a conscious mind and its subconscious mind. And the conscious mind thinks, and it can think about stuff, but it takes a ton of energy and your body's chance to physically try to reduce energy. So it will use everything in the lower levels again, so you, they tell you, like 10% of your brain, you only use 10% in your brain. But the truth is, you're only using 10% of it consciously, you're using 90% of it, subconsciously. So what really creates a future for us is what we totally believe. And it kind of says in the Bible, what you believe in as if it's already happened, will be yours. So that belief is a subconscious belief, not a conscious belief. It's when you automatically throw the football and it goes through where you want, you didn't think about it, it just happened. And the same thing goes for things you want in your life. If you want something special, or you you got to believe in it in such a way that it exists for you. You can see it in people that have been successful. It's like, Man, that guy just goes through life, he doesn't put any effort into it. And it just all happens for him. That's the way it needs to work. Because if you believe 1% subconscious, then you're putting very little energy into it. But if you're thinking about it and trying to force it, then it doesn't really come to you. So that's why people say, I put all this thought and energy into it. But you just can't pound it in you got to kind of like, be in the wave and float with it. And it's got to come from a subconscious level not a conscious level.

Brandon Handley 13:56
Yeah, and I've definitely seen this show up in my life. And I guess a couple questions I would have would be you know, do you feel like you are doing it? Or do you feel like the creation, the experience is happening through you and for you. And you know, just kind of curious on your take on that.

Rick Thompson 14:18
I feel like it's happening, too. And for me, it's just you're going with the flow. I think that negative energy like bad thoughts are the things that hold you back. And the main thing you got to do is kind of forgive and get rid of the negative energy. And when you can just release and let go and you become part of the the universe the world whatever God however you want to describe it. Then it just flows with it and the things you're supposed to do and the things that are supposed to happen come to you and you have choice, kind of but you know you're kind of set for a path you're given powers and those ones that you enjoy are the ones you set to do your stuff. We are getting There's a choice between what we want to do. And when you're choosing the things that you're best at, you're the most happiest. So I feel like it's letting loose and accepting the flow of the river, but paddling gently in the right direction.

Brandon Handley 15:21
So, you know, where do you feel like you first saw this happening for you in your life and began to accept it?

Rick Thompson 15:31
Well, I thought at a younger age and started to accept it, but I saw it the most after my wife died, because I put more mental energy into it. One of the things I found that, you know, can't contentment, you don't have to put much thought into life, or energy into life if you're totally content. And when I was married, with my wife, and my family and kids eyes, I had a good job, I had a happy life I was loved. I was very content. And I didn't have any need to really find a change. But then when my wife died, I had pain and suffering, and I was not content. And through that, I put a lot of effort. And because I opened my eyes and looked more, I saw things I never saw before.

Brandon Handley 16:20
Yeah, I mean, what what an example of the some of the things that you you saw that you weren't able to see before?

Unknown Speaker 16:27
Well,

Rick Thompson 16:30
I just went to other people, and I saw people able to do things, you know, I saw people that could, I saw a guy that could look at somebody's eyes and a picture and tell what they're thinking, I saw people that spiritually came up to me and talked to me about my wife, and I just traveled around and I read books, I started becoming more thirsty for knowledge, because I wanted to find what it was. So I read books, and I put them together and tried to see how they fit. And then I asked different questions like what makes a man happy and successful. And I looked at those, and when I saw them, you know, I saw the spirit, spiritual world kind of open up, or we're all connected, we're all connected. You know, through quantum physics, if you want to think like, somebody thought of the world, and it was created, because everything's a wave until it's graded. Well, the person is better the world and everything was God, he thought of it. And then he was all created. And they say, the world is created in seven days. If you stand on the event horizon, and look at the creation of the universe, it would look like seven days standing there at that point. So it is possible from his perspective, that the world was really created in seven days, in our perspective, it's not from his it could be and I just found things like that. And other people scientist, I, you know, we're interested in when they search and try to find, you know, what puts together universe they all end up turning to God, say, there's a creator that created everything.

Brandon Handley 18:12
Right, the I love that perspective of, you know, kind of standing on event horizon and seeing, you know, in seven days, kind of everything being created, that's a really cool visual.

Unknown Speaker 18:26
It's pretty cool visual. So

Brandon Handley 18:27
when, you know, so you're in a steel cement business, right? You know, I don't hear too many people kind of getting into this, in the steel, cement business, you know, you're CEO of your business, and you know, how how, you know, encouraging your, your, and you're out there right to like, what I mean by that is, you're putting your books out there, you're talking about this stuff. I mean, so how is this showing up in your business?

Rick Thompson 18:54
I meet several people that work for me, and I try to teach them those ways, and help them to look at the world differently. You know, one of the things I love to tell people each day is you don't got to go to work and get to go to work, you don't got to get up, you get to get out. You know, it's all a matter of perspective, how you look at it, I get to do everything I do all day long. I don't have to, if I truly didn't want to I can say I'm not going to do that. But I'm electing to so instead of saying I have to, I like to say I get to and I teach people those kind of things one step at a time and see where they're at in life and try to help them because everybody's in a different arena and try to open up the world to them. So they'll know that anything for them they want as possible.

Brandon Handley 19:40
Have you had Have you had people you know and underneath kind of like your tutelage at the company, who've really been able to take to this and shine and really apply it.

Rick Thompson 19:55
Well, I don't have a very big company, but I think they all take to it and shine with it a little bit. That's what I like to believe in my heart. You know, I always say it's hard to see your own cell. But what I see is people are taking it in their life to become better. I've had several people say that it has changed their life. So I'm very grateful I, like I said, you know, we help each other become better, and the world becomes a better place one step at a time. I'm not looking for any glory or anything, but I'd sure like to see the world become a better place each day, just like I'd like to grow a bit each day. And by helping others having a better attitude, you make the world better, and they help others and so on, and so on, and so on. And

Brandon Handley 20:35
that's great deed and your, your, your children to write How many children do you have?

Rick Thompson 20:41
I have? Well, I'm remarried. So I have to buy my first wife, and three by my second wife. So we have five children and four grandchildren. And my daughter has two and she has two. So I have my children.

Brandon Handley 21:00
Uh, thanks for not making me do the math, uh, the the, you know, so the idea of really is as a parent, right now, as a grandparent, how are you trying to impart this to your children in such a way that I can tell you right, when I first kind of had some of these moments, and first had some realizations, I'm, you know, trying to stop it, and my, you know, my kids are kind of young, but like, just making sure that they're exposed to it. So that, to your point, right, that you don't have to wait till later in life. To learn this stuff, right? The sooner that you learn it, the sooner you can apply it, and hopefully, you know, how you don't have to suffer through some of the shenanigans? I did. Right? Or, you know, that's what we'd like to impart. Right? So have you know, what's it like sharing it with your children? And what are they? What are they?

Unknown Speaker 21:51
What are they doing with it? Well,

Rick Thompson 21:53
they're very grateful, they're good to me, I love my children, they love me back, I feel very grateful. They're using it to help their lifes grow, and envision what they wanted a life and have a great family and, you know, see what they would like to receive. The grandkids are at a young age, the way I work with them is I just spend time with them, I spend as much time with them as I can. And when I see the opportunity to teach them something and they're listening, then I try to grab hold of that opportunity. I don't go up and try to force them to go like, this is what you need to do. I wait for the challenges in life to come along. And then I make suggestions to them. Like, you could look at it this way or that way you have a choice, and try and teach them that they have a choice, because the truth is they do learn the most, and set the most rules from the age of one to seven. So we have an opportunity to really teach them very positive thinking processes at a younger age. And that's what I try to do is make sure they're not putting themselves down and saying they can't. One of the things is, you know, I have a grandson that's playing football right now. And, you know, we want to make sure to teach him that he's doing a good job. And he's not putting himself down for anything he does, you know, the thing you need to look at, did you put the effort and then you did great doesn't matter. You know, you did great if you put action towards it and proper thought. And the other thing I try to teach him is a lot of it can be thought because if you're thinking correctly, when you're doing stuff, you're gonna get a better results. So what are you thinking about why you're trying to accomplish your task. And these are the ways I go about it with stories, because I always say stories like the golden box, or other stories, our best way to impress people with different ideas. But the bottom line is I just want to have a happy life. And it's their choice, what they really decide. I just want to help guide them in the direction that will help them the most.

Unknown Speaker 24:05
Yeah,

Brandon Handley 24:05
and it's tough, right? Especially again, as a parent, and you just want them to take this stuff in and you just want to it's like if we could just like stick a USB, and stick into our head or something and be like, hey, you're going to need this later at some point, right? That'd be for, you know, skip over these chapters. You're not going to need these. But if we could do that, that'd be that'd be a lot of fun. You know, what would you mean, though, you said, you know, kind of proper thought and thinking correctly? What do you what do you say? And then when you say that,

Rick Thompson 24:36
well, everybody has different rules. So you want to have good rules. You don't want to have rules that say, you know, I'm not smart, or I'm not able to be happy. Or maybe some of the rules I see that hurt people is like, my job is to make everybody happy. Well, that's an impossible goal. You can't make everyone happy. So you If you make your rules too complex in life, you're gonna fry pain and suffering about it. What you want to do is have rules like, you know, no matter who you are, I'm going to give you a smile, or I'm going to treat you with respect, I have control of that. So if my rules are like that, then I can control the world around me to a degree, people might be unhappy, or they might be sad, but it's not going to be my fault, because I didn't achieve it. So you just got to be careful with your rules in life and what you kind of set in on yourself, so that they're achievable. And they're realistic, and they're beneficial to you. Because most of the things that getting away are going to be our rules that we have about how life should be, you know, if you're miserable, is because your rules don't align with your life. And you can change them, if you want. That's the one thing we have control over. You can't change people, but you can definitely change your rules.

Brandon Handley 25:55
So that's great. How do I align those two?

Rick Thompson 25:59
Well, you, it's gonna be a little bit different for everybody, because we live different lives, and we're all different. But what you want to do is kind of feel in your heart and your soul what feels right. And when you have bad feelings. You want to say, Well, what caused? What caused me to feel icky about this or bad about that, because we all have those feelings. And then you check your rules out and say, okay, what's not in alignment that's making me feel that way? And what would I need to do to make that a good rule that it'd be enlightenment and would make me happy. And you review those rules, and then you would repeat them, like, whatever the new rule might be, just before you go to bed, or when you wake up, it just depends upon each person's individual, and what they really want out of life. And how they even define words. Because the words may mean something to somebody else when they say him than they do to you. But the I am words, I am this I am that are very powerful. If I am a good man, you will go out of your way to be a good man. That's what you say and believe. If you say I'm a bad man, you'll go out of your way to prove to people that's true, too. So those roles that we make for ourselves are very important to be in line with the happiness and the joy we want in life.

Brandon Handley 27:18
Yeah, see, I can definitely relate to you know, you are what you say you are, right. I mean, you really are fine. If I look back, and oh, man, oh, Jeff, those misspent youth, right? If I look back at those misfit years, when when I was like, Oh, I'm this I am that and and you know, just kind of, and doing it unconsciously and becoming exactly what I said that I was at those points in time. And it's just unbelievable how, when you start making that choice consciously when you start saying who you are to yourself, and looking for evidence of that, right? I found that to be kind of the one of the pieces that is key here is to state who I am today, right? Who am I today? And that's like, whoever I want to be even in the future. I already am that right? So what are the pieces that or in the future necessary for that whole thing that I have right now to begin to build on that? I found that to be super, super potent for me. But one of the you got a couple things in here too. First, you know why? Why is I am? Like so powerful? Like just saying I am Dude, what would you say there?

Rick Thompson 28:43
That's a good question. I'm not exactly sure why I am I just know through research that I am. Because your brain is your subconscious is really one liners. So I think part of it is because it's just a simple one line I am. So your subconscious knows what I am is and then it just connects. And it doesn't have to have logic or reason to connect. It just connects. So the I am statements or this is true statements, or how our subconscious is stacked. And then we use those bits of information to think with. So our conscious mind least allows us to analyze and lose us a lot of energy to decide what's good or bad, or change however we need to. But our subconscious mind is kind of like this deck of cards that's already pre stacked. And if you get that situation, that's what's going to happen. It's it knows these rules, and it's going to give you those answers as quickly as possible. Because to jump out of the way of a car. It's like you don't want to think about it. You just do it. And a lot of things in life are just like that. You don't really think about it, you do it and even some things are so well taught to us that we don't even realize we're doing when they happen you know you can be talking to somebody and get that funny look on your face or you say this Word, and it kind of offends them a little bit, but you didn't even know you're doing that you just do it. So when you get those hard feelings if you analyze them and kind of see what's going on, it helps you to adjust. I have a story about my daughter that kind of puts that in perspective is when she was very little. I was an ironworker. You know, iron workers are tougher than iron. At work, and I would take that home. And because I was loud and forceful, she said, Dad, you kind of scare me when you know. And she told me one time, and I said, Okay, and she told me, I never talked to our studio like that again. But I didn't know I was, it was just a habit, I brought home from work. I think a lot of us bring home habits from work and other things. You know, they kind of accomplish what you need at work, but they don't accomplish what you need out of life.

Brandon Handley 30:52
Yeah, that's powerful. That's one of the things that I found to be the gift of having a child, right. Like, they always say that children are a blessing and a gift. And when you're changing diapers, you like that, you know, like how they are. And like, you know, you want a good night's sleep. And yeah, there's realize that here, but I found that they are just amazing at reflecting who you are right back to you without a filter without that without that world filter that says oh, you can't say that, right? Oh, you can't say that to a person. Right? That kind of thing. So I, I love I love the children for that. And and how they

Rick Thompson 31:35
write they shine. You're right. But I love it too. They say exactly what you think,

Brandon Handley 31:40
you know, sometimes it's not so great or

Rick Thompson 31:41
chubby pop up.

Unknown Speaker 31:46
And, and, and,

Brandon Handley 31:47
and and they you know, they they will say what you say right? They'll talk how you talk and you'll hear them talk like you talking like oh my god, I sound like a jerk. Right? Or like, Oh, that's rough. I live really that rough. Because you know, you have that kind of influence on them. Especially like you said, that age like one through seven super impressionable. That's also, like you said that the kind of the age where you build some logic and reason. So what what is, I mean, we've got some of these logic and reason codes that had been imprinted. Like through that age one through seven. And then I don't know, we go through like 2020 plus years, maybe 30, maybe 40. If you're a late bloomer like myself, when you when you finally realize that, hey, you've, you've got all this logic and reason that you built up over the years, how do you how do you begin to, like, dismantle that.

Rick Thompson 32:42
Or you'd like to say you want to see the things that make you feel bad, and listen to what other people say to and you want to review your rules, because it's a basically gets down to what did your subconscious really believe, you know, you can tell like, I'm going to be a millionaire. And your subconscious will tell you kind of like now. Now you're not ready yet. So you can feel inside what's really true, you know, and when, and when you get those in alignment, those feelings, you know, I'm going to do this or that and it feels right, then you're getting the right belief behind you, and you just reinforced those, as we get older, I think it's harder to change in, you know, that's why as a child, it's a gift to kind of help them teach so much because it does stay with them very easily through all their life. As we get older, we kind of reinforce it with you know, talking to herself, or, you know, I like to use music that sings good songs to you, that tells you the kind of stuff you're trying to think correctly. I pick out certain songs in the morning to listen to that will help you get started that just kind of put that thought into you, or you can use mantras, but the hard part is to sit down and say what are my rules? And do they serve me and the people around me? And if they do then they're good and if they don't then we'll Why don't you adjust them a little bit?

Unknown Speaker 34:04
The

Brandon Handley 34:08
good music? What do you know? Are you willing to share kind of what your your your morning wake up routine music is I mean, what gets you going?

Rick Thompson 34:17
Well, I'm not really good with all the names but I have you know, I like pop and I like different music. I have a handful that ranges from you know, classic rock, country music, and I just look for things that say positive stuff. Like there you know the song This is going to be the best day of my life.

Brandon Handley 34:37
Yeah, it's a great song. I liked it. That's

Rick Thompson 34:39
a good song. I like that song because this is going to be the I think I like to wish people I hope this is the best day ever had and I hope tomorrow is the best they have every day because every day is the best day from here on in Godrej. Like,

Brandon Handley 34:51
right, right. Hey, listen, I mean, so for years, a couple years they're not mine is COVID I go to jujitsu To write and and when new barriers How you doing? Do you have when you're getting ready to spar and like how are you doing? Like, best day in my life everything is call me to this moment, right? Like, I mean, this is the right now is the best moment of my life. It's all it's all built up to this moment. So any other good songs that you like? I mean, I know that for me, I literally just answered this question the other day, you know, KC, and the sunshine berry walking on sunshine, right? Yeah, that's the song that's like, I mean, we, when you hear that song, you gotta you have no choice. You got to, you got to smile, you got to be walking on sunshine, anything else you got,

Rick Thompson 35:35
I got a ton of them. But I don't want to offend anybody. But you know, when I die, and I'm gonna go to the place, that's the best.

Brandon Handley 35:41
Yeah, that's a

Rick Thompson 35:43
champion. And, you know, I have a loved ones that I like, just, you know, what loves about and different things like that. I mean, I'd be interested from the audience, because I'm always looking for new songs, what they think are the best songs because I really think that starting your day, like that, or listen to that kind of stuff really makes an impact on your subconscious way of things. And so many songs have, you know, negative impact on them and stuff. Same as movies, so many movies can have, you know, very negative implications to them. So I'm looking for stuff to put that positive in positive thinking into your brain, so I can get that positive thinking out of my brain.

Brandon Handley 36:27
So it's funny you say that because remember al gore Al Gore, Al Gore and tipper Gore, was it remember, they were trying to get like some of that, you know, all that, you know, not bad. I wouldn't call it bad music. But now I wouldn't listen to it. Right. Some of the some of the stuff that I listened to when I was younger, because of, of just how influential that is on our minds. Do you remember that? Like I do, I

Rick Thompson 36:49
don't have to say about that. Because you know, they. There's good and bad in everything. It doesn't matter what it is? Yeah, you know, you have a choice. If you choose in those kinds of things, there must be a reason I don't judge because I haven't lived your life. But that's going to get back to what are your rules? To your rules say that you have to fight everybody that comes along? Or can you negotiate it? And yeah, like I said, I have not lived the life of the people and how they make the decisions, or why they like stuff. I just know, for me, that's what I prefer to have happy life. And that's what I would recommend others. But some of those tunes that are got some weird lyrics, and let's just say they got catchy tunes.

Brandon Handley 37:41
Hey, listen, don't don't get me wrong. Like, there's still gonna be days when I still play some songs and stuff, right? And and it's interesting, because I don't listen to music quite as quite as much as I used to. And what will happen though, is that those lyrics will pop up in my head, like the next day or a few days later, I'm like, oh, wow, I you know, I haven't seen that in forever. But then I can also recall, just the last time I heard it, and just I'm so cognizant of what goes in now. And seeing it show up later, right, like literally planting that seed in my mind, and it shows up somewhere else later. And I think that's the kind of kind of what we're hearing to for you. I think another one I like to Rick is I can see clearly now. Right? That's a good one. I like that one. What about like, a couple mantras? Do you have the what's what's one or two matches that you find yourself using to help you stay positive,

Rick Thompson 38:41
I like to use Have you heard of Ono Pono.

Brandon Handley 38:44
I've heard of it, I have not delved deeply into it and want to tell us a little bit about what that is.

Rick Thompson 38:48
So Ono, Pono is a like a Hawaiian chant. And there was this guy that went to a prison. And he was hired as the lead, you know, the director of the prison. And when he went there, it was a terrible place. And people were fighting and having all this trouble. And all he did in that prison was to take the people's pictures, and he would do this pair of them. I love you. Please forgive me. I'm sorry. Thank you. And he would do that in there. Because he felt like, you know, they he needed saving. By saving himself by asking for forgiveness, he's saving them and eventually that prison, you know, it got better and better until they actually shut it down. And so those are that's one of the things I like to do. You know, I think about all the little things I did wrong during the day or the things I said to people, and I'll pick those people out, and I'll do that at night. Or maybe right after I just did it wrong. And I just send that out now. I just think it makes a big difference. You know, it's a simple jet, but I love you Please forgive me. I'm sorry. Thank you.

Brandon Handley 39:53
Yeah, that's, that's, uh, I love that. You know, I love that. I love that story. And it's first I've heard it It reminds me to of, you know, the meta meditations, right the loving kindness kind of real similar, right we send you know, no love and kindness out to somebody other people, some some that you're having some that you're on bad terms with some people that you don't know at all or whatever right now close ones and yourself, right? I think that that's always important is to, to make sure that you're giving yourself a little little love. I mean, love yourself first too, right? I don't know about you. But if you're not loving yourself, then who's gonna love you? Right? Right?

Rick Thompson 40:33
I agree. It's kind of like the oxygen mask. I don't put them oxygen mask, or I don't take care of myself, how can I help anybody else? I need to take care of myself enough. So I'm strong to contribute to you.

Brandon Handley 40:45
Know, and you so you, you felt like, you know, again, you kind of fell into this stuff? Have you applied it in your business? Has your business? Do you feel like your business has been exponentially more successful? Or do you just feel more successful as a person in general, because of all that you're doing in the way you're employing it? Or is it both?

Rick Thompson 41:06
Both? I feel like my life is way better. I'm happy. I feel like I live. I'm grateful every day I lived a blessed life. I feel so blessed. I'd love to have everything I need. It's a great life. And my business does well, and I help others. And I mean, it's not the trip, it's the journey. So the goals are always more the goals are the opportunities to go forward. I have goals to do all kinds of things in the future. Just because I want to contribute and make the most of my life. It's not like I need more. I have everything I need today and more. It's just fun to travel the road.

Brandon Handley 41:47
But what would you say the importance of recognizing that distinction, that you just said that they're you know, you'll want more? But you've got everything that Jordan need right now? How does that change? Kind of the effort, stress levels, etc?

Rick Thompson 42:07
Well, I think it's, again, your rules, I think the stress level goes way down. If you can believe those things totally. Can I don't need more, I don't have to have this, I'm not suffering, you know, I'm not worried about this or that or that. Those things go away. And I forgive those that make mistakes and don't hold grudges, and I get rid of that negative engine energy I feel and you write on that energy wave or that love wave, whatever you want to call it. Right? Everybody calls it different. But it's existed for millions of years, because they talked about it. For me. The physics is different today than it was at the beginning of time. Right? We just call it different stuff and look at it from a different perspective. Right? The physics are all still the same?

Brandon Handley 42:50
No, I mean, you know, to your point earlier, I think a little bit on Nope, we talked about it while we're here. So much, but everything, you know, God's created everything right, you know, everything has already been created. It's really just our awareness of it. Right. And maybe, I don't know coalescing it through our thoughts and being able to see it, right. I mean, something along those lines, the so what made you What made you decide that, you know, you should be putting out a book. And now, as it relates to this material, why you Why now?

Rick Thompson 43:27
Well, it's just the way life went. And, you know, you kind of the calling, there's just something that says, hey, you should do this, you know, I thought I'd never be able to write a book. My history is not a writer, you know, I love science and stuff. But when it comes to the English language, those kind of things, I'm not top notch, I have a lot to learn. But someone came to me and said, Hey, you should write a book. And then I started thinking about what I learned. And I love the subject of science and how energy comes together and how it can help your life. And it helped my life so much. I just had that calling that how do you help somebody? I don't know for sure what I'm supposed to do to help others. But when you get that feeling in your heart, like you should do something. I tried to do it, and I got that feeling in my heart. I should do that. So I did it.

Brandon Handley 44:14
Nice. My sounds like I mean, it sounds like to your I always get some backlash when I say, you know, following your bliss, but I mean, when you follow, I guess you're kind of heart hearts guidance is what I guess we could call it. Are you following the guidance of your heart? And that leads to something good? Is that kind of what you're saying here?

Rick Thompson 44:36
Yeah, I believe that. You know, we all have feelings. We all have feelings. And if you listen to them, they'll guide you in the right path. When you go into a room you can tell rooms negative or positive. You can tell so many things in life, we don't realize. It's like the water crystals. You can prove that your energy does it but there's energy there. You can when we They do statistics on good and bad things happening when they have prayer, they have perceptions. And statistically, they can prove that when they have those set prayer sessions, the bad events go down. So our energy out there that we have, connect with everybody is available. So what do you do to make that work the best for everybody?

Brandon Handley 45:22
That's awesome. So where the title of the book again? Where can people kind of go to find it? And where should they connect with you?

Rick Thompson 45:32
The title of the book is the quantum mindset in a nutshell, and I have a webpage, that's the Quantum mindset.com. You can go there and connect with me there. And if you look up the book and stuff, it'll connect you to me. And through that website, that's the best way you want to email, ask questions. If there's something I can do to help you just let me know. I'd love to help. Awesome and who

Brandon Handley 45:55
would you say like your, your ideal reader, I guess if you know, if we were, if we were talking marketing terms, that avatar or even your niche, like, who's gonna be picking this book up? Do you think Who's this talking to?

Rick Thompson 46:11
I think it's people that are trying to understand life and maybe are looking for a change and not clear whether they can really make that effect on their life. This book gives you a lot of solid facts about why this is possible physically. And if you're looking for that kind of supporting information, but I think anybody who's looking for to change their life with positive energy, this book is a good place to start.

Brandon Handley 46:38
Recommend I just want to say thanks for I know you're a busy man. So I want to say thanks for stopping by spiritual dope and hanging out sharing some of your story, your insights, and you know, hopefully somebody out there is no totally influenced by our conversation today. So thank you.

Rick Thompson 46:53
Well, I hope it helps people and that's why I'm here to help you and I'm very grateful for you having me here today. And hope you have a wonderful day, your week. Bye.

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Kurtis Lee Thomas | Finding a Miracle in Breathwork

Published: March 28, 2021, 12:17 p.m.
Duration: 47 minutes 45 seconds

In this podcast, we interview Kurtis Lee Thomas, Corporate Mindfulness Trainer, and the book’s internationally bestselling author, The World is Yours, The Awakening - The Secrets Behind the Secret.

Starting, Kurtis gives a message to the listeners of the podcast, “Whatever you want for yourself, you must do for other people first.” He also talks about the universe and the power it holds. 

Next, Kurtis explains breath-work as a healing mode and the process of dealing with emotions, stress, drama, trauma, and the emotional intelligence of dealing with things. He also discusses his experience with breath-work as compared to numerous techniques that he has tried. He explores the spiritual awakening concepts from his 3-D world and how to get a bigger picture of this world. 

He talks about his best-selling book, which he wrote after going through some unhealed trauma. 

He also talks extensively about the art of manifesting and the fact that we need to know what we want to achieve. 

Next up, Brendon and Kurtis talk about the factors holding us back. Self-sabotaging by focusing on what we don’t want and holding on to something from the past that we don’t need. Then they continue to discuss breath-work and letting go of things. Kurtis says, “you need to let go if you want to let in” and explains how stored emotions create stories. 

Kurtis discusses going from having zero spiritual experience to actually experiencing everything in a span of a month which then led him to research for 10-12 hours a day. He talks about his experiences from the spiritual world, the law of attraction, and cosmic consciousness. 

He then explains how the earth is not our home but our mission and continues with the power of breathing and its techniques. He explains how when you breathe full, you are living your life to the fullest and when you breathe shallow you are living a shallow life. 

Moving on, Kurtis talks about the idea of letting go of things and how it all comes down to comfort. He explains his idea of negative energy having consciousness and the greatest fear of its being destroyed. 

He then goes on to talk about how we live in the age of anxiety and the idea of this population being scared of the future. 

Next, they talk about the game of integration. Kurtis talks about the learning from Buddha and Jesus and integrating knowledge into this 3-D form of life. 

Towards the end, they talk about Kurtis’s experience with fatherhood and the blessing he had to raise a daughter. Ending the podcast, they discuss Kurtis’s new book.

Podcast Outline:

[00:00] Introduction 

[01:06] One message to the listeners

[02:53] Talking about the present

[06:06] The technique of breath-work

[07:54] Introducing breath-work into regimes 

[10:28] Self-sabotaging and holding on

[14:30] The power of breath-work

[16:07] The wakening experience 

[18:40] The significant personal experiences

[24:20] The power of breathing

[27:40] Letting go

[31:16] Breath-work and anxiety 

[37:15] The game of integration

[43:05] Fatherhood

[46:00] The new book: Breathwork Detox: How to Thrive in the Age of Anxiety 

Connect with Kurtis on Insta: https://www.instagram.com/manfromthestars/

Transcription below is machine generated:

Kurtis Lee Thomas 1:06
Oh, man, you know, I will say every year, I have like one message, one mantra that I live by. And, you know,

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey, their spiritual dope I'm on today with Curtis Lee Thomas. He is a corporate mindfulness trainer and a number one best selling author of The World Is Yours. The secret behind the secret. The book has been seen in the hands of mega influencers, like Oprah Winfrey, Tony Robbins, Steve Forbes and Kanye West. Curtis is the founder of breathwork detox and just released his new book titled How to thrive in the age of anxiety and curse before we even get started. Man, I want to what what is your what's your Instagram?

Kurtis Lee Thomas 0:36
handle? Man from the stars? What's that all about? Man from the stars?

Brandon Handley 0:41
Yeah, so

Kurtis Lee Thomas 0:42
I am, you know,

Brandon Handley 0:43
I love it. I love it.

Unknown Speaker 0:44
I love it.

Brandon Handley 0:45
So, before we get started, how I like to get these going is Look, man, you and I are creators, right? And the universe creates through us and creates moments delivers messages, yada, yada. There's only one message that can come through you right now, at this time for one of the listeners, what is that message today?

Kurtis Lee Thomas 1:18
I'd say the first rule of karma states that whatever you want for yourself, you must do for other people first, you know, so that was like a big realization, you know, for me, and like, I was looking for a mentor, like I wanted, like, this billion dollar, you know, big business mentor to help me you know, you know, build my success. And I sat there and looked in the mirror. I'm like, you know what, I'm not even helping anybody. I'm not mentoring anybody? How am I going to expect to attract that if I'm not even willing to do that for somebody else. And then, so I agreed to bring somebody on, as soon as I started mentoring somebody, boom, the mentor popped in my life. So it's like, you know, we all want we all want why, but like, you know, learn to like, learn to use the natural ebb and flow of the universe and to, you know, give and receive, you know, we got, you know, a left and a right hand, and we get a take as much as we were willing to give, you know,

Brandon Handley 2:09
that's great. I mean, it sounds like, sounds like you get what you give.

Unknown Speaker 2:13
Yeah, you know,

Brandon Handley 2:15
and, you know, I love the idea of you know, you're you're big in law of attraction, if I'm not mistaken. Obviously, you know, we're talking about the secret a little bit today. If you look at the idea of like, the tourists, right, the tourists in the field, right? And like how starts off kind of small from the inside. But as it goes out, boom, it gets bigger, and it comes back to like, no matter what, so like the universe's force multiplier, am I right?

Kurtis Lee Thomas 2:40
No, yeah, it is. Yeah, like magnetic beings, man.

Brandon Handley 2:44
Yeah. Well, so let's, let's, I mean, let's start off with me a little bit, a little bit more about, like, where you're at today, and then we'll just kind of talk about how you got there. Right. So you just finished up, like, this new book on breathwork. And, and you're, you know, you're leading the field by doing like, even corporate training with breathwork. Let's talk a little bit about not that what's going on there.

Kurtis Lee Thomas 3:06
Yeah, man, just I just found breathwork to be, you know, literally, like the most powerful healing modality on the planet right now. You know, and through my own journey, you know, I've done a lot of stuff, you know, many things that were, you know, invasive, you know, like, combo, you know, putting frog poison inside of us. So you can projectile vomit out toxins, like does pretty invasive, and then go into the jungles and you know, drinking Ayahuasca for, you know, seven days, you know, seven times in a row and within nine days, like some intense stuff, and, and, you know, other modalities, healing modalities, like ozone therapy, and like, you know, pretty still biohacking stuff. And like when I found breathwork, like it was the secret sauce, because I had a five year stomach issue that doctors could not tell me what was wrong with me. I'm talking dozens of doctors, and I went to one breathwork and eradicated my stomach issue. And to the point, I was flabbergasted of like, how that was even possible. And then I hit me, I'm like, wow, the reason why these doctors couldn't tell me what was wrong with me, is because my issue wasn't physical. It was energetic. It was emotional. And you know, and this was at the time where, you know, I'm holding on to a certification for life coach, hypnotherapy, NLP, Reiki Master, like I have all these, these tools. And still, I was never taught how to deal with emotions, you know, how to regulate emotions, how to, you know, release the suppressed trauma and all the stuff that we all have from childhood, then, you know, we didn't have the emotional intelligence back then to learn how to deal with it and started becoming compounded because it kept coming in. But we were figuring out how to deal with the old stuff. And I was one of those people and I got messed up. And you know, it started messing me up physically. So, you know, to me, breathwork was the Trojan horse. Like I actually was taken executives and see To the jungles, the drink I Alaska because I love to give people an experience and I want to give people their results that are immediate and undeniable. You know, and in, you know, I Alaska does that. But it's you know, you got to take time out, you got to go to the jungle, you got to get a shaman, but breath works like the Trojan horse, you go in there, just say, hey, let's breathe today, you know? And then these have these profound cathartic releases. And you know, you got dead metal tryptamine Yes, accreting and people are like, you know, dreaming while awake and having these epiphanies and realizations and healing traumas, all from breathing. So I'm like, okay, the world needs to know about this man.

Brandon Handley 5:39
No doubt. You know, I recently, within the past, probably six months, maybe the past year, right? Because I can't I can't understand what happened with the timespace contain with 2020. The breathwork, right. You showed up in my life? No, first, you know, I think most people right now. It's like Wim Hof The Iceman. Right and his story. And then um, you know, another place that it showed up for me was, and I was actually a little disappointed I'm not gonna lie I looked at you know, you listed out these breathworks need to add one is the Japanese breast called like hora h A Ra. And I was reading this book by like, you know, some German dude. And then next thing I know, I got a buddy of mine who's who's just started doing some breath work and, and I had my hands out, I was like, just like everything else, right? Just like everything else, right? Like in this self development phase. Now, I'm cool. I'm gonna be good. I'm gonna be over here. I breathe in pretty well, my entire life. I don't need what you got, right. But what happened was a buddy of mine. You know, he's like, I've been going to the saint is awesome. I was like, Alright, I'll fucking go. It'll be fine. And I went, and mind blown dude. I'm like, Mind blown. I don't have I lost experiences. But I had plenty of other like you call them evasive experiences, or? We'll call it that and plenty of them and many different varieties. And the beauty of this, this breath work that you're talking about is just that right? It's clean. And it's comes from breathing. Exactly.

Kurtis Lee Thomas 7:16
Everybody's everybody's holding pain, how we all

Brandon Handley 7:20
first, sir, for sure. The breath works pretty amazing. And so you were already kind of out on the, in the front end of kind of like this exploratory space, though. With your life coaching with Reiki and the doing the law of attraction, right?

Kurtis Lee Thomas 7:41
Yeah, yeah.

Brandon Handley 7:44
Just so you know, bring that up, because you're kind of already out there in the forefront and having these conversations so what happens like when you when you when you start bringing breathwork to it?

Kurtis Lee Thomas 7:53
Yeah, well, I realized like, once, you know, my whole first book, The world is yours. The Secrets Behind the secret was all about awakening, spiritual awakening. And, you know, it could help anyone at any level, you know, awaken, awaken from their slumber of what's really going on in the world, you know, the 3d world, the spiritual world, it kind of just really gave a good breakdown of the overall bigger picture. And I realized once you start waking people up, you know, the next thing, they're like, Okay, I'm awake. Now I can see all my stuff my lights turned on. Now, what do I do? I mean, like, life isn't all peaches and cream, after you wake up. And I was like, wow, we can always people up and you know, their lifes are better. You know, they're there. Because, you know, when you wake up, you start researching crazy, go pretty much insane, you know, for a good phase of your life. So I'm like, I need to come up with a tool. And of course, like, you know, I didn't, I found it through my own pain and suffering and, and then I found that tool. And that's why I wrote the second book because I was like, it was meant to be like a gift for all the people that I woke up Okay, now, here's how you can like work through all the traumas and stuff and you know, in in the crazy information that you have to disseminate now that you're awake, and but I did realize something like I realized some super important and powerful from teaching breathwork for the last decade, I'm sorry, I'm teaching the law of attraction for the last decade, and I realized that the majority of people self sabotage their manifestations. And what I learned is that you know, I really don't have to teach anybody how to manifest because they're already manifesting. Everybody right now listening to this in this very moment you are manifesting the mechanics are

automatic.

I can remind you that you get to have some clarity you have to remember and know what you want because what you want is up to you but how and when you get it is not okay and then you got to be able to you know, be able to feel the will see the visualizations of it. If you can't see yourself achievement achieving that, then who else can and then if you're able to see yourself achieving Then you're able to feel the emotions. And that is what activates it and sends that beacon out into the universe, you know, and then you have to become aligned with that and take some sort of action that's going to give, you know, be the breadcrumbs to you achieving what you need to achieve. That's the mechanics of it. We do it every single day, the small things and big things. But the reason why people say I want this, I want this, I want this and they're not getting that is because they're self sabotaging. Now, they're doing that for two reasons. One, they're focusing, they're really focusing on the things that they don't want, instead of the things that they do want. And we just kind of do it naturally, because our brains are hardwired that way. And I read a study that said, you know, 80% of our thoughts, humans are negative in nature. And 98% of our thoughts every day are the same thoughts we had the day before. So we're on this shitty hamster wheel, recycling these crappy thoughts every single day. And most of it is worry, doubt fear, lack scarcity. And we're focused on the things we don't want to happen. We're not tapping in to the vibration, of visualizing and feeling the feeling of already achieving and having what it is that you want. That's the secret. It's easier said than done. I get it. But why is that the wise important? Why do we keep doing that? And it leads me to the second thing, and that was the game changer as far as manifesting. And what I learned is that people are self sabotaging because they're still holding on to the junk, to the old limiting beliefs to the old trauma to the past breakups to the partner screwed them over all the stuff that they weren't given the tools of how to emotionally heal and to let go and forgive. Yeah, we know forgiveness is the root of all healing. But How the hell do you forgive? Where's the booklet on that? You know, it's like, I didn't learn that stuff. And it wasn't until breathwork that I realized, wow, I'm my own healer on my own everything. And that's what I want to do. I want to empower people to do the same because that breathing technique goes into literally every Nadi in your system 72,000 Noddies in your system, and clears out all those emotional blockages. This is why you got a roomful of 100 people in a breath work, and you got 85 of them breaking down in tears. I don't care who you are, how bad acid you are. I've done this in prisons, I've done this for NFL players, I've done this for war veterans, you get the baddest people on the planet, you show them this breathing technique, they're going to break down. And they're going to do it gladly, because it's stuff that they've been holding on, that's just so heavy that you just can't hold on to no more because it's weighing you down. I mean, it's it's literally blocking your manifestations. And once you clear out all that stuff, I know you're able to land or take off, like think about it, we all want to take off somewhere, but you cannot take off the you know, those people will not let you take off unless you clear the runway, you know, air traffic control would not let you take off unless you clear the runway. And if you try to land somewhere in life, then that runway has to be cleared. You need to let go so you can let in. And what happens is when that junk still sitting there, you know, occupying the space that you're the good stuff wants to come in. Right? What does that airplane do? It starts circling it circles, it circles until the runway is clear. And that's why we feel like we're going in circles and we're on this hamster wheel. It's not because the the why the reason why people are self sabotage is because you got to let go of the stuff that's blocking the way for the good stuff that you want. That's it, release and let go.

Brandon Handley 13:33
Who cares? I work so hard for all these, you know, emotions and all these things, right? This is my story. You know, this is this is, uh, you know, I am this way because of the breakup, I am this way, because, you know, he kept all my CDs, I am this way, you know what I mean? So,

Kurtis Lee Thomas 13:53
let me say this off of that, that is important, and what you what you're hitting on, and it's the cause of it, actually. Because you know, and the reason why people don't heal isn't because of their biology. It's because of their biography, the same bullshit story, they keep telling themselves over and over again, you know, even if it's true, that's what's weighing them down. That's what's holding them back. And, you know, stored emotions create stories. And when we learn to get rid of those emotions, the stories go with them, and we learn to get rid of the stories, those stored emotions go with it. But I realized, the key with the breath work is it gets the emotions out. And then the stories come up and you realize that bullshit and you stop saying them and you create a new narrative

Brandon Handley 14:42
in your life. That's awesome. So you get I mean, you know, through through the power of breath work, you've got a kind of a release mechanism, a recharging mechanism. And, you know, if you did it right, then you know, your head was supercharged. Right and And, you know, you kind of you got these visualizations and you haven't experienced that. Even if you've done iosa even if you've done copious amounts of shrooms or anything else like that, in your life, this experiences is wholly different than that, right? And it's, um, not a big one to say, elevated, it's an elevated experience, though, right? And, and all senses of the word because again, it's something that you just did just by breathing, you elevated your whole sense of being just in that moment, right? And, and you super, super, really got past your stories and your bullshit, right? And again, um, so you know, what I'm really curious about, though, too, is you talked about your awakening experience, right? I think that what's what's kind of interesting about these awakening experiences is that they can happen at any time in your life. And it sounds new, you're younger than me. But that doesn't mean like, you can't, you can't have that experience, right? It doesn't matter how old you are, you can it can come at any time. So I'm curious to hear kind of about what your awakening experience was. because like you said, when you have that you're like, I gotta go figure out what just happened to me. What just happened to me, and they like, you got to go learn so much stuff, right? Like, alright, well, this, you know, it's totally real, because it just happened. right to you. Right? And so, tell us a little bit about that. And then like, you know, kind of what you did to get your, your sea legs back, right.

Kurtis Lee Thomas 16:33
Man, I'll say that I had the most because I'm a very stubborn minded, Capricorn logical, analytical, so the universe had a knock me upside the head in every direction. And I went from having zero, you know, spiritual experiences, nothing like that would ever stand out. And within a matter of three months, I had every single spiritual experience you can imagine. And because I believe that they happened all at the same time, it caused me this, like, shattered my world, my reality, my life went upside down. But really, I later found out it was turned right side up. And I started researching and, you know, luckily, I had a little money saved where, you know, it shook me so much. I didn't work, I think, for that for the rest of that year. And I was researching literally, probably 10 to 12 hours per day, every day, while I was getting headaches and migraines, it was pretty bad. And, and yeah, I became obsessed, because I have that obsessive, you know, personality. And when I need to learn something, it's like, I got to go all in. And at the time when I was when I was awakening, which is probably 1010 years ago. I remember searching stuff on YouTube. And I searched at all like all the spiritual alien, weird stuff that was there. I got I consumed all the content, literally, all of it, where I was waiting for people to post I had notification I'm like, like, when's people going to post like, I'm searching for that I couldn't find the information. Now, today. I mean, I'd have to live, you know, 1000 lifetimes to be able to watch all the videos that are out there.

Brandon Handley 18:11
Yeah, no, amen. Man. I mean, I saw I saw on your pictures too, like you're hanging out with Bruce Lipton. He was definitely part of my, you know, experience of like, hey, I've got to go out there and learn everything, all the all those all of his videos, and all that kind of content. So what would you say? Like, what were some of those specific experiences that if you could share any of that?

Kurtis Lee Thomas 18:35
Sure. I'll give me like the top the top one. So, you know, one was, I had no idea about the spirit world. And my brother had passed away, and it was sudden, nobody knew who did it. It was a homicide. And I ran into a psychic. And she, you know, I didn't believe in psychics at that time. And long story short, she connected to him, I had a conversation. I didn't, I was very skeptical, then all of a sudden, I'm like, Whoa, this is him. Like his personality was coming through. He was telling me things that only only me and him knew. And I was like, wow, like, how does this How is this all possible? And then he told me like the like, What happened to him? You know, and who did it? And it was pretty wild. And you know, Nobody. Nobody knew. And I was the only person that then you know, had this conversation. And then two weeks later, they ended up catching the people that kill them. And it was the same names he told me in the session. And I was like, What in the world? Like, how is this possible? So now, I'm like, want to learn about like the spirit world. So that was like one part. And then you know, I I started learning about the law of attraction, I read the secret. So now I started becoming more empowered. like wow, like my thoughts can really turn to things like oh yeah, this happened. And then the universe shows you more synchronicities and some weird stuff started happening and then The railway stuff started happening where I started astral projecting. So at nighttime was like, I didn't know your soul can leave your body without dying. Like, nobody taught me that I didn't read that in the manual. And I started having those lucid dreams. And then I actually seen a UFO, several UFOs. And then I learned about something called sci fi, which is Close Encounters of the of the fifth kind where these people from around the world, they'll go to undisclosed locations, and they'll call in extraterrestrial ships. And I'm like, this is a thing, like, like, Where's the How much is it? 300 bucks take my money, like, I just, I'm going like, even if it's like, just to prove myself. And sure enough, Bro, I went to this training in Joshua Tree. And there was a three day training and every single day the ship showed up. And I was like, wow, is this not in the news? How I was not people talking about this, I got a cool little certification, C five, certified basler that I you know, I don't think I can show that to too many people. But like, This all happened in like, three months, you know, it's like, and so now my life is like, completely. And you know, what, and I've mentioned the ET thing, because what really happened is when I when I saw the UFO, you know, it was like, from one moment to the next I was changed person. Because what happened in my brain, if I can articulate it is I was like, wow, you know what? Anything is possible. Anything is possible. And like I realized at that moment, oh, this is why this is the most top secret thing in the government that they don't want you to know is because if people knew the truth about ETS, it literally expands your consciousness faster, and more efficiently than any other truth that I ever had. It's like you just shattered this glass ceilings. And next thing you know, you got cosmic consciousness. So I started to stop thinking in 3d. And earlier you asked me, Why do I call myself man from the stars, is once once I started researching and understanding the totality of who I am, why we're here, what's really going on the you know, the greater narrative of galactic history because, you know, people whose there's people out there still believe Christopher Columbus discovered America. I mean, the guy was given a map that was already drawn out. And when he got there, people were already there. So How the hell did we buy this when we were kids, you know? So it's like, they don't we don't even know. And if you look at the history here in the United States, and you go to China and Russia, you're looking at completely different histories. You know, it's written by the victors. So forget about we don't even know world, US history, nevermind world history, forget about galactic history. And what I learned about it is that, you know, Earth is, is not our home. It's our mission. There's a lot of light warriors, you know, in lightworkers, who came here with a very specific mission. And right now people are stepping into their power. This is why you're here, this is why you have this podcast, this is why you created the space. This is why you have these listeners, this is why we do what we do. And it's been culminating and building up to something bigger,

Brandon Handley 23:04
which is right around the horizon. And, you know, this is this is why we do what we do. Now, that's powerful, right? It's great that you say that right? When you when something is shattered, right? And the illusion of something shattered like that, then that opens up a whole bunch of other possibilities. It just says, Well, if that's not real, if everything that I've been told up to this point, you know, in this one moment, this is a pretty big moment for you. And if that's not real, then your mind blown, right? But the the other part of it, too, is what you do right now with the breath work. You don't even know how to breathe, what else have you been doing wrong? And that's the thing that you do every single day of your life. Right? I mean, that's, I mean, that's Sorry, I got to it that it sort of was like I was like, we're not even breathing, right? I mean, when we're not.

Kurtis Lee Thomas 24:00
When you say that, it's literally like, like, we actually do something called paradoxical breathing. So like, if I have a room and I'm teaching like 200 people in a room and I say, Hey, everybody on the count of three, you know, put your hand on your belly, put your hand in the chest and the count of three, everybody take the deepest breath, and they everybody goes through that. And you see all that chest fills up and not one belly moves. But guess what, if you ever watch a fish or dog or a baby, if you watch them breathe, when they take a breath in, the only thing that moves is their belly. Hmm. And that's how we're supposed to breathe, posted, breathe through the diaphragms and, and hit that power center because the belly is where 80% of our serotonin is produced, is where 80% of our immune system, you know, is so it's like the two things we crave the most is what held that happiness, right? And it's located in the guy without even breathing in there. And we actually do it on purpose. Subconsciously on purpose, if that makes sense, is because the stomach is where we house our emotions. And so what happens is we store a lot of trauma there. So people subconsciously don't want to breathe into that area because they don't want to feel the pain of life. But what happens is, when you do that, you also stop the pleasures and the joy of life. And that serotonin production in your immune system, and you know, we got to breathe full, because when you breathe full you out, you live a full life. And when you breathe shallow, you're living a shallow life. Like, it's all everything is connected to everything else, that how you do anything, is how you do everything. So it's like, you know, when people come to my breathwork sessions, that we talked about this earlier, I said, you know, life life and breath work is like an ATM. You know, you're going to get out of it, what you put in, you know, so we got, we got to do deep breathing, we got to do conscious breathing, and I know it sounds so like, like flimsy. wimzie. Like, oh, yeah, come and breathe with me. It's gonna change your life. Or, hey, come take this walk with me, brother. You know, Brandon, come take this walk, I'm gonna change your life. It's like, Come on now. But when you go to this breathing venue, like we have just socks get knocked off. You don't know what the heck hit Yeah. And your life changed? And, you know, 30 minutes?

Brandon Handley 26:07
Yeah, no. 100 100%, right. You know, just like kind of like all these other things like where you set an intention for the those breathwork sessions and you come out of it. And some of that stuff's already been done. you couple that with the power of, you know, kind of law of attraction and thoughts create things. And when you couple that with know, the emotional outlet and the visualization of a breathwork session, you're like, not hyperdrive, right, like, I mean, it's Yeah, it's gonna happen one way or another. And that's, um, you know, I just think another, another tool that I, you know, I, you know, I'm curious. Now. Now, of course, I'm like, none of us good enough. Now. I'm like, now I'm like, Alright, well, what's next? Right?

Unknown Speaker 26:53
Because Yeah, the law

Brandon Handley 26:54
of attraction, things is pretty well figured out. Right? Like, you've got that pretty much nailed down. I think one of the things that's important too, is like, you talked about it kind of in the earlier right, let go stuff so so you can let other stuff in. Right. And that's kind of like another piece of the law of attraction, like people are holding on to what they've got what already is, right? versus like, you know, the possibility of what could be and they're so afraid to let go of all the things they don't even want. Exactly, right. There'll be like telling you like, oh, that thing, I hate that this thing, I hate this, I hate this, that the other thing, but I'm, I'm afraid to let go of it to get what I actually want. I mean, talk to me a little bit about through that, and like kind of how you get people past that.

Kurtis Lee Thomas 27:41
I mean, that is like the ultimate paradox of life, right? It's like, you know, we want all these things, but we're afraid to let go of the things. And it really comes down to the emotion, if you'd call it that of comfort. We become comfortable with the pain in the brain, the brain is not designed to make you smart, and make you all this money. The brain is designed to keep you safe. And it keeps you safe by keeping you comfortable, it keeps you in a comfort comfort zone. That's why whenever you venture outside your comfort zone, the brains like Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, what are you doing? It's like, you know, fear, doubt, failure, all these like little missiles coming at you trying to prevent you. And you got to overcome that, you know, and even with breathwork, you know, the hardest part of breathwork is the first, you know, eight to 10 minutes, and all the things that's going on behind the screen of your awareness comes to the forefront, and the brain literally tries to prevent you from continuing the breath work, being to have a breakthrough, because it's afraid, you know, that it's going to be eliminated, you know, you can kind of connect this to ego, we can get a little bit deeper, because I had this philosophy that negative, heavy and negative energy has consciousness, you know, it's a dense consciousness, and its greatest fear that it holds is the fear of destruction, fear of elimination, and I learned this taking people to the jungles of Peru. And when I noticed, you know, to 23 people, you know, you'd have almost every single person would have these stories of how it was almost impossible for them to get there. And it was because, you know, all these things came up that tried to prevent them from getting to the jungle to have this experience. Because that energy inside of them, which is a part of them was had consciousness in it knew it was going to the jungles to be eliminated. And it did everything to prevent that person from having that breakthrough because it feared death. Right. So I think that the two reasons is is one that energy that that's in us, it we're comfortable with it and went to the point where well we're willing to hold on to it because we're afraid of the unknown. We're afraid what's next, even if it could be good you You know what whatnot. And then the other thing is, you know, the consciousness of these energies that are inside of us that are living that we're looking to get out. You know, these traumas have have stone stories in personality. And you know, they don't want to leave. So you got us the comfort, the comfort, and you got the the energy of that that does not want to leave. And when you take those two together, a watch is why it's so hard for people to let go. And the reason why the breath works so powerful because all you got to do is sit down, lay down and breathe. And you push that stuff out of you. It's like, Oh, you Listen, don't worry about just breathe, and it's gonna come up. It's gonna release. You might cry. You might laugh, but it's coming out.

Brandon Handley 30:43
Yeah, man. It's like a second neuro blast. Right. I love that. That idea, though, of kind of negative energy having its own kind of lifeforce, right? It's kind of like, Hey, I'm going to show up no matter what you do. And you have to try like hell to get rid of me, like a grease stain stuff worse. But um, yeah, I think that one of the stories that, you know, you talked about, yeah, I think that's really interesting. But one of the things that you talked about, too, was, you know, how does breathwork help out with anxiety? I think you've got a little bit of a story about that as well.

Kurtis Lee Thomas 31:17
Yeah, you know, they say that we right now we live in the world of anxiety. You know, this is the age of anxiety. And I remember five years ago, I read an article that said, By the year 2020, anxiety, depression will be the number one disabilities worldwide, not even United States. And right now we're in 2020, what are we in 2021. And that has fully manifested that prophecy. And, you know, anxiety is the number one, this was pre COVID these when they these statistics came out. So imagine like, now we got suicide at all time rape, and how I feel why breathwork So, so powerful. Well, let's look at anxiety because I had anxiety and I had panic attacks. And I feel like they're connected. Because, you know, I tell people that make sure you kill the monsters while they're small. Because what happens is stress is what you really need to look out for, because stress, when it goes unchecked, turns into anxiety. And when anxiety goes unchecked, it turns into panic attacks. And, you know, all, you know, kind of stress and anxiety in particular, what is anxiety? Why do we have it? It's fear of the future. You know, so the body, the body tends to live in the past. Right? The minds tend to live lives in the future, you know, the soul wants to be present. So when we have anxiety, it's because our brain is going somewhere in the future. We keep going in the future. We go, here we go. We're overthinking. We're overthinking. And, you know, those thoughts kind of just circulate us. They're, they're around us. 24 seven, and with the breath work, you know, when you go in and start like meditation. Meditation is to me, is an advanced practice. And why do I say that? I say that, because if you try to, in the age of anxiety, if you try to get somebody, which is almost everybody who's stressed out, you know, to sit down, sit still, and don't think about for the next 20 minutes, you're going to be more stressed out the fact that you can't do it. So and what are you trying to do in meditation, you're trying to take all these 55,000 thoughts that you had during the day, and you're trying to calm them into the from the frantic ocean into a calm you know, peaceful Lake without a ripple in it. Cool. If you can do that by praise you great job. Now breath work, you take in this crazy, you know, thoughts, and every going through your head, and you stop breathing and you're pushing them out of your energy field, instead of waiting for them to settle. You're literally taking an action which is great for OCD people, you know, all these like overachievers, and people who can't focus and your ATD ADHD like those people breathwork is great. Because you give you some self something to do. And you just pre Breathe, breathe, and you push those thoughts out. And that clears away a lot of the the anxiousness that people have. And then a lot of the things that have been trapped in the body because the issues are in the tissues that does traumas we store them in the body. And when you start to clear that stuff out, which is causing a lot of the anxiety, it's all it's all connected. And you know, I see people, you know, completely eradicate, you know, their their anxiety or panic attacks, you know, from breathwork. And I was, you know, I was one of them. This is why this is why I'm here. Yes.

Brandon Handley 34:37
I mean, it's all part of what you do. I know you shared on another show the straw method. What's another one that you like, for somebody that's anxious or maybe just trying to get a little bit of focus on the day?

Kurtis Lee Thomas 34:50
You know what the one that I like, is that sounds stupid to everyone but it's actually my favorite is the sigh it's the most over Like underrated, you know, a tool is because if you're just in the insane your car, you just take a deep breath, right? And just let out this loud obnoxious sigh. And you do that, like, let's say three times in a row, your energy state is going to change. Because you have to look at the body like, why does the because we side naturally, you know, why does the body sign naturally, when we sign naturally, it's to relieve pain. And stress from the body it releases is the pressure valve to release pain and stress, have you experienced something really stressful the body. When it's all done, it's like the pressure valve. So release. Now, if you can consciously do the psi, and utilize that pressure valve release, it's like you're gonna change your state throughout the entire day, just by doing that one breathing exercise every single day through three sides at a time, three times throughout the day, nine sides a day, and you will notice a difference.

Brandon Handley 36:04
That's perfect. Because it doesn't take a long time. No, it's not hard to remember. And and, you know, you can do it just about anywhere, right in between. I know, for myself on my day job, right? I mean, I've got today for mattify as on calls from 10am to 6pm. Right, back to back. All right, but there was enough time in there for me to make a bagel sandwich. And I could have also, you know, side three times if I needed to, right. So I could have, you know, just kind of brought myself back to just like, just a couple of times, I'm sure that like I might have done it on calls. And that might not that yeah, that's not cool. So make sure you get an in between calls. So I think that that's, you know, that's really practical, something you can apply, like, anywhere, anytime. So thanks for sharing that. You know, again, a big part of this, too, is like, you know, we talked about, you know, pulling all the spiritual stuff and and integrating it right, I talked me a little bit about your practice on how you, you've been able to do that for yourself.

Kurtis Lee Thomas 37:07
I truly feel that integration is the name of the game. And being able to integrate is the game. Like ultimately, if you look at like, let's say the most spiritual people to ever walk the earth, you know, you call them avatar masters, you know, enlightened avatar masters, you know? And what are these people do? Right? Oh, let's start with an ego Why didn't they ever have Native Americans love the eagle as a powerful Totem because it can fly superduper high. And what that represents is the ability to go up in the higher esoteric metaphysical realms and, and see life from a higher vantage point, higher consciousness, and then also that animal that can fly higher than most birds, it can land the ground, and walk the ground with the creepy crawlers. You know, and that is the integration that is, you know, the avatar, what do they do, you know, they, they get enlightened, you know, they ascend, you know, and they can, you know, they can ascend to heaven, they get all this information of you know, who they are, they don't have to come back. And when they choose to come back and embody in physical form, you know, that's truly where they're, where their power is to take that higher knowledge and integrate it into, you know, physical form and deliver it in a way where the people can understand, because you don't have to talk circles around people, you don't have to act super smart, like look at all the parables and, you know, the metaphors, the simple ones, you know, that Jesus and Buddha used, and as they're around now, because they're so simple, you know, it's because people can understand them, people can relate to them, but they went all the way to those, those higher planes, but they were able to integrate, integrate that knowledge back into, you know, this 3d 3d form. And that's the value that I see around integration. So like, you know, how do I personally, you know, integrate a lot of things I think I do, kind of like, naturally that I don't even, you know, realize, you know, my daily practices, you know, are the breath works, you know, that that's the, you know, that's what kind of brings me up, but it also grounds you, when you start breathing into the belly as well, it does be grounded to the earth. There's things I do outside, I go outside and barefoot on the grass, and I put my feet in there, you know, and I just ground myself I connect to the, to the light in the in earth, a lot of people, you know, they know we have the sun, but they don't know that there's a light in the center of the earth. And I connect to that light and that helps ground me, you know, to Earth consciousness because I used to just focus on like, Oh, you know, I can open my crown chakra I could open my third eye chakra I need these spiritual gifts, you know, and you just focus on all the Shockers and like, I realized that's not what the power is. It's like when you want to manifest, you can't manifest unless your root chakra is grounded. And this is why you see these all these spiritual people they say, you know, they're all in the heart and they like lie in love and you know, the third eyes open but You're broke. And the reason why they're broke is because their root chakra, they can't manifest they're not connected to the earth. Well,

Brandon Handley 40:09
I mean, I think I think it's a number of things, right? Like, it's not being grounded, right, just like you're saying, right now. It's not being grounded and just just not not integrating, right? Yeah, they've gone up. But then you come back now,

Kurtis Lee Thomas 40:25
yeah, you gotta come back down and get back down to everyday life. And you know, what part of that is being human. And, you know, I know you meet some people, and they get a spiritual stick shoved up their ass. You know, and I never wanted to be the that person and even like, the work that I do, and I'm teaching, I'm on stage, and you know, I never want to be put on a pedestal. You know, and the reason why I do is because, well, first of all, there's only one way to go from there. That's down. And, you know, I feel like I make a practice of myself of I won't say humiliation, because I don't I don't like that. humility, humility, humble, I'll say I'll say, transparent, you know, I just try to keep it real. I try to show people, my, my humanity, you know, at all times, and you know, I take this facade of like, Oh, you think I'm this, you know, I'm human. I'm just as messed up as you are, right now. And when I do that, it makes me human. But yet, I'm still I still have all the gifts and all the research and all the things that I'm doing to get me up there and let the shoppers but i don't i never think I'm better than anybody. And I don't think anyone's better than me. You know, I just kind of stay in this place of neutrality. And I think that is that is the Yin Yang. That's the place that you want to be, you know, between, you know, the five, you know, the five D and the 3d, you just stay stay neutral, stay grounded, stay present, and stay real.

Brandon Handley 41:53
Right? Yeah, no, I mean, look, have you seen the website yet? Right. But I mean, it really, it says that, right? It's like, you know, don't come at me with your patchouli, your sandals and your wooden beads were cool. You know, because there's, there's other things going on. And that's that, that crowd, you know, I say that crowd, you know, I'm not trying to say that, that we don't need them or that or this. But it can also happen in another way. Right? Like you and I are talking about right now just kind of like there's a grittiness to spirituality and life, there's a reality to it. And, you know, kind of not forgetting where you came from, right? And everybody, you know, the person behind you could be, you know, more advanced and a different state that you don't recognize, and since you can't recognize that you don't think they're advanced, but they're like, way beyond you, right? And you like, you know, they like No, man, you gotta eat kale or whatever type of thing. So, so, you know, I get it. So one other question too, as we kind of wind this down, I know that, you know, you were showing me your, your drink that your daughter brought him? How is a? How are you sharing this? As a father, you know, as a parent, your children?

Kurtis Lee Thomas 43:05
Yeah, you know, um, so, you know, I'm a single father and my daughter's 14 now, and I will say, because, I think because the chunk of my greatest awakening when I was kind of like obsessed was when she was really young. So she actually grew up around crystals and sage smoke interface, you know, and, believe it or not, she, you know, she has her own connection to angels. And, you know, I used to ask her for like, advice, like, kind of just, like, kind of desperate. And she would give me the best advice that I've ever got. And then she's like, literally, when I started asking her, then she'd be like, okay, I can ask her something, and she closed her eyes. She'd look up, and she'd get the information and she'd come back. And she would say some things that was way beyond her years. And I was like, Whoa, this girl's like channeling some some good stuff. So I kind of had my secret weapon here, you know, the entire time. And to shoot, you know, it's been a blessing to be be able to raise her that

Brandon Handley 44:08
frickin mute button. So, the, what's cool about that is, you know, like, You're, you're not, you're not helping, you're not diminishing her gifts. Right? I you know, I think, I think you probably agree that what you and I have gone through an awakening process is more or less coming back to ourselves, right? Whereas, you know, we weren't shown who you were or allowed to be ourselves growing up, right? Like, Hey, shut up, be quiet. You know, don't do this. Don't do that. And oh my god, you stop dancing like that, or whatever, right? You know, or you can't think this and you can't say those types of things. So what you're doing though, is you're saying Alright, look, come out with your angel stuff. I mean, we've all got something right. What's yours and we Got a connection? How's it going to express itself? And that's how she's expressing her connection to the divine. Right. And, and your instead of you saying, You better not tell anybody about that. You maybe do, right. But like, at least you've got an open dialogue between the two of you with that, right. And I think that that's really important. That's awesome that you're doing that.

Kurtis Lee Thomas 45:19
Yeah, man, it's great. You know, and a lot of the things like, should give me advice on business. And, you know, she told my one of my buddies, would I do book signings, she would come in, she'd set up a little table, and she'd say, $5 for reading, she's got a good making, making money and like, eggs is totally cool. But you told one of my buddies, he need more confidence, you have lack of confidence. And the girl you're with, she's no good. And he's looking at me like, dude, I wasn't ready for that. I talked to him the other day. And he was like, dude, man, your daughter blew me away that day. She was so right. And you know, he, he never forgot that he used that to, to help him. You know,

Brandon Handley 45:56
nice, man. That's cool. Very cool. So man. So the latest book is called,

Kurtis Lee Thomas 46:01
The latest book is called breathwork. detox, how to thrive in the age of anxiety.

Brandon Handley 46:07
And your book prior to that?

Kurtis Lee Thomas 46:10
The world is yours. The Secrets Behind the secret?

Brandon Handley 46:13
Yeah, and where can I get those?

Kurtis Lee Thomas 46:14
Those are both on Amazon. So you can go on Amazon, you can. The first one has an audible, they both have Kindles, and they both have paperbacks. Who is your ideal client? My ideal client? Great question. my avatar, let's say I, you know, I, I love people who are skeptical at first. And then they come in and their world gets rocked, you know, they heal. And, you know, then they they're fully committed there they awaken, you know, and then they start to step into their power. And, you know, then they start to, you know, do what I do, whether it's you know, you know, teacher trainings, or, you know, writing their own book and telling their own story and all the things that they always wanted to do, but never thought that knew anyone would listen or everyone anyone cared. I just like empowering people.

Brandon Handley 47:14
Perfect, man and then the website and where can they reach you?

Kurtis Lee Thomas 47:17
So they go my website man from the stars.com or they can go to my Instagram, which is man from the stars, and I'm pretty active on it. So you can send me a DM and, you know, hopefully, I can get to it.

Brandon Handley 47:34
Awesome. Paris. Thanks for stopping on spiritual dope today.

Kurtis Lee Thomas 47:37
Thank you so much great for having me. And yeah, that website is awesome that you have and I was

Unknown Speaker 47:41
looking forward to this

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Deb Levine | Candid Conversations about Mediumship

Published: March 21, 2021, 10:20 a.m.
Duration: 54 minutes 52 seconds

I am very happy to be able to share this candid conversation on Mediumship with you today as I interview a good friend, Deb Levine.

Please check out her website when you get the chance over at https://www.thesoulwisdom.com/

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey, there's spiritual dope. We are on today with my friend, Deb Razar. And Deb, I don't know if I've ever told you this, but um, you're one of the main reasons actually, that I am doing this podcast, you were a kind of a catalyst for, you know, help me get the leap into spiritual dope, I'm just gonna let you know that just by doing kind of what you did, I said, that was a friend of mags from way back in the day, like childhood days, she's an evidential, medium, and intuitive. She, you know, she helps people kind of like, connect with their loved ones who have passed. And I'm just kind of reading your bio off right now. And you know, you know, your calling is to serve the spirit world while bringing hopeful, helpful and healing messages. To me, you, your loved ones in the physical world. No, but your medium, right. And like it took you a while to just kind of accept your gifts. Right? And, you know, when you would share this coming out letter magazine, or virtually coming out letter, what's this going to be about?

Deb Levine 1:09
Well, she told me what she thought it was about.

Unknown Speaker 1:11
Now, it's not that

Deb Levine 1:13
there's anything wrong with that, but it's not bad,

Brandon Handley 1:15
per se. So this coming out letter was like, you know, I'm a medium coming out letter. And I thought that was a I thought that was kind of an entertaining thing. And then you had given me a reading that connected me with my grandfather. And, you know, the catalyst, just just so you know. He knows like, Yeah, I was like, well, you're kind of like stepping out and doing this thing. And I was like, What the hell am I holding myself back for? Right? I was like, I was like, the time is now. And, you know, just kind of stepping into it. So you know, I want a quick, I'm gonna start this off with a thank you, you know, for helping be the catalyst inspiration and a part of the journey. So thank you,

Deb Razar 1:51
You're quite welcome. Happy I could be a part of that.

Brandon Handley 1:54
And, and then I always start us off with something, this would be an easy one for you. I always start these off with, you know, source, as you know, divine energy speaks through us, right. And we are here to get today to speak to somebody who's listening in on this podcast, right? And there's a there's a message that can only be delivered right now, through you to that person, what is that message today?

Deb Razar 2:19
The biggest, the first thing that comes to me is to really trust in yourself. If you don't, first and foremost trust in yourself, especially in the field that I hate saying the field that I'm in, but with what I do, it's impossible for me to trust in what I'm, you know, hearing subjectively, from the spirit world. And the most important thing, when I say to trust yourself, it's to really, you know, they say there's intuition, gut instinct, but it's really to trust your soul to trust what your soul is telling you. Because that's where all of the answers are, it's not going to come from anything external. It's not going to come from anybody else, you can ask for 50 opinions from 50 friends and family members. And really, ultimately, what matters is that you trust what your soul is telling you. That's probably my biggest message.

Brandon Handley 3:06
So where do you feel like you You? First, finally learned to trust that for yourself?

Deb Levine 3:14
Well, it was definitely not an overnight thing, as I'm sure you know, because I know that you've done a lot of, I call it self development work. And I think we're all works in progress. And I'm not done, I'll never be done. I mean, until the day I physically leave this earth. But this was a long journey. For me, really, I say, on my website, sort of back to myself. Because the way I'm living now is very true to me, and very authentically, but it wasn't always like that. So I think it was a process of really coming. I don't I would say, coming to terms with but understanding that there's a real duality to me to each of us. And there's, you know, there are a lot of things that we don't particularly care about ourselves, we, you know, traits that, Oh, I wish I wasn't so stubborn, or I wish I wasn't so, so messy in my case. And there were these qualities that I have that I would really shame myself for a variety of things you would a podcast isn't long enough for me to tell you what I used to shame myself for. And then they're there. The other part of that duality are the things that I'm proud of the parts of my personality that that I really feel good about that the things that I'm not afraid for others to see. I feel like a lot of us walk around and, and we show one side of us, we show the side that we think is safe, because we all just want to be seen. But yet if you think about it, we're not truly being seen if we don't really show who we are at the soul level, so I can show you something and make myself look good. And yeah, look at my kids. They're all perfectly dressed. And my house is so neat, which it's not this is just an example, but that may be what I'm presenting, but that may not be what is authentically me. And that was my that was my journey. If you will, that I needed to reconcile the fact that there were all these things that I really wasn't happy with with myself. And instead of complaining about it, and or shaming myself about it, I realized I was the problem, but I was also the solution. And so in order to do something about it, I had to take that journey inward, which no one likes to do, because it is quite honestly the most uncomfortable journey ever. And that's the journey back into ourselves. And it sounds super cheesy, but it's, it's really the truth, I had to come back to myself. And sort of, it's almost like, if you picture like a big toy box, you open a toy box, and you kind of take everything out, you want to see what's in there, I had to kind of assess and look at everything and say, Okay, these are the things that really aren't working for me, or these are the things that, you know, they're just sort of inherently a part of my nature. And I'm not in love with him. And I don't love other people seeing them. But it was a matter of really accepting those things about myself forgiving myself for the things that the things that I wasn't super jazzed about, but also realizing that all of those things that were more, I call them the shadow side. They were also there to teach me a lot of great lessons. And without them, you know, I wouldn't really be able to focus on the light those qualities that were really helping me be my best self, they have to coexist, they can't be mutually exclusive, because that is what makes up is my perspective only but that's what makes up the soul. Both of those the balance that duality. And so that was my,

Brandon Handley 6:38
yeah, I'm with you. Right, the so I've got that jotted down for one second. You know what, I think that I don't do the best job of this part. Right? Let's let's do let's do a real quick from your from your mouth, right? Like you're doing a medium, you are medium. Now, I'm a little bit more about kind of what you're doing in this space, right, just so people kind of get an idea of your spiritual journey and spot right now.

Deb Levine 7:08
Well, thank you for asking that. Because I think a lot of people and as you said, I'm a medium I I'm able to connect with people that have passed, is that the only thing I do not remotely, in fact, it's a very tiny part of what my mediumship is. Now, if you have 10 different mediums on your podcast, we are not all going to work the same way. Now what we what we all will work with is energy, every medium will tell you that. However, there are mediums that will be very, very factual, they'll be able to sit and I'll be able to tell you things about your grandfather, they'll name 30 facts, you know, he was an atheist, and he you know, worked in a in a shipyard and all these things and, and that is to prove that that life exists once the there is the death of the physical body. So am I able to provide evidence that our loved ones still exist? past the death of the physical body? Yes, I am. But what my sessions are really about I had one client tell me it was almost like I held a mirror to her soul. I was like, Wow, that's really deep. I almost call it like a very gentle soul excavation, if you will. Because what I'm doing is I work intuitively, if as much if not more, so then I'm working with spirit loved ones. And this has probably changed a lot. And I don't I can't remember our reading to be quite honest. But I feel like there may have been a mix, but now it's even more. So when I'm reading a client intuitively, I'm telling them about their personality and things about their life. Yeah, you could say well, why would someone want to pay to be told things they already know about themselves. But that's just how we start then we go deeper. And and I like to say I am not a fortune teller. I do not predict anyone's future. That's not what any medium really should be doing ethically and morally, we don't know what holds for people's future because there is freewill. You have the choice to make about your own life. But what I am able to do is to go deeper beneath your subconscious and sort of when I say excavate, gently pull out things that you are aware of, on some level, but on a deeper soul level when I'm showing them to you when I'm holding up that mirror. It's taken in a much different way. I'm almost I'm I feel like a session with me can help bring someone back to themselves. I'm not doing any healing. I'm not healing people. I'm not you know, waving some kind of crystal wand. That's that's not my job. That's not what I do. But with the spirit world facilitating with loved ones in spirit shining in now I talk about the loved ones personalities and the relationship between them and my client. And the healing that can take place when dad in spirit is talking about his personality and maybe challenges that he had when he was alive in the physical world. And dad son is facing something similar. It's almost like this light bulb goes off that the messages that the loved ones in spirit are bringing to my client are those in that moment that are meant for my clients greatest good and soul's highest purpose. And there's a lot of growth and a lot of shift that can happen. It's also I have on my website, I will not see clients unless there's been six months in between each reading. Because look just like when you go to therapy, you're not going to change overnight. I'm not a therapist, I'm not certified in any of that kind of thing. But even with a with a with a session with a medium like myself, what I'm presenting you is going to sit with you for a bit, and it's going to cause you to sort of, you know, there's a lot of self reflection that happens afterwards, there's a lot of there is a lot of healing that can take place. But the healing is on the part of my client, I can't do that work for someone. And maybe the client says, alright, well, that was okay. I'll just take that for what it's worth. And, and I may never hear from them again, I tend to have a lot of repeat clients. After six months, I always say six months to a year. And I just had I can think of three women I've had over the past week and a half. When they came on the screen on the zoom screen there, I could feel their energy had changed so much, it's the best feeling for what I do, because I get so excited for them. Just the wholeness that I felt from them the shift, what they were emanating, I could feel that. And that's the power of the work that that I have been called to do. And that I feel so grateful to do because the change that really can occur, it's almost like I was given this blessing of having this torch, and we all have torches, right but some of us our lights gone dim a little bit, some of us the lights gone out, if I can just assist and help someone like their torch, it's their job to keep that torch going, it's not going to be my job. But the fact that I can help light someone back up again, there's nothing greater to be able to offer to people. So that's kind of in a long way. That's kind of what I do at spirit communication. It's intuitive work, it's all combined to help my client get to a deeper part of themselves. Really.

Brandon Handley 12:10
Wow, that's awesome, right? It's kind of interesting, right? You said you started off with you know, how every medium is a little bit different. And in the image that came to my mind is you know, you just simply different lenses, right, simply different lenses, different perspectives different, you know, I'm thinking of like crystals and prisms even like different ways of refracting that energy. Right? So different way different ways of kind of refracting that love to the, you know, a mirror to the soul. And I think that that's, you know, I don't I don't the term lightworkers not not my jam, but I guess this as close as I can get right.

Deb Razar 12:46
I don't use the term either. But I yeah,

Brandon Handley 12:48
does that mean you know when you're just kind of in circles and everybody's you know, doing something similar as we are we're you know, you are showing someone the light within them right themselves and helping to extract that and

Deb Levine 13:01
everybody has it. And I believe me, I know from experience, there are times when it is so hard to find that within yourself I have the reason I this all came smack dab in my face there were there were always I mean, this is who I've been since I've been a little kid. But the reason that this came out, as it did was because of the the difficulties that I had in the work I was doing with myself that there were serious anxiety and stresses and, and that brought me to where I am currently.

Brandon Handley 13:34
I think what's interesting, too, right? A big part of what you're talking about is, you know, you you you shoved your light down for so long, right and you you shoved your own light down so long. And then you talk about doing this shadow Shadow Work. And what's funny is the more the more I think about the Disney Peter Pan, you know, the more the more I realized that like you know, you know how we lost a shadow. And then so back on like, I'm like, oh, wow, that was pretty potent stuff. Yeah. All right. But the idea of going back in and and accepting all of who you are, allows you to bring that authentic self that you're talking about come out and share exactly who you are with everybody else and just kind of like it's a it's a more powerful but gentler way of being I would agree right? Um, and I also love the idea of like you know, once one you know so one session with you is basically a six month to a year value, right? It's kind of I mean, you know, you know it to spend like you know value into that but that's kind of what it is and then you bring it you know how and that's how we open it up right like you helped me kind of bring me back to myself through the connection with my kind of grandfather and and by showing that like you know, you can just stop into who you are, and just go do your hell with it. I mean, what's gonna happen? Right, exactly right. Yeah. And so you know, lots of stuff packed in there. And then you talk about, like, you know, the shift in energy. But I'd like to hear you kind of, again, where? Before you were doing media, and I don't actually, I actually don't know. So before you were doing medium work, what kind of work were you doing, like what was, you know, kind of paint the picture before stepping into that, and then illustrate maybe your shift and acceptance of who you are.

Deb Levine 15:32
Okay. So before all this, I mean, and I still am, I, I'm a mom. And I used to say, I'm just a mom. And now I've scribbled that word, just out with black sharpie, because that is, you know, from from parenting there, there's never it's not just a mom or just a dad, even I mean, it's a parenting is, you know, and, and I parent with my full self, and I try to be as present as I can with my kids. My background, and where Meg and I went to college. My background is in advertising and public relations, I was always into creative writing, I really thought it'd be cool to be the next Amanda Woodward. Because you know, we were all into Melrose Place back then not that that'll date me. But that was not a really practical thing, because you had to, you know, move to New York or LA, which I wasn't prepared to do at the time. So I fled my East Coast roots and and came out to Arizona, and I ended up working in radio for about four and a half years. And I was on the sales side of things. So I was in advertising technically, but I was on the sales side of things. And my managers, this is funny, I two nicknames I was called at this is great at 23. Everyone would love to be called This Old Mother Hubbard. And I was called everyone's conscience. I didn't know whether or not to take that as an insult or a compliment. It's just kind of funny. Now looking back on what I do, there was there was a lot of CD stuff happening in radio, a lot of my older men cheating. And it was just it was icky. And so here I was the young one in the group, I was one of the youngest. And they thought of me as their conscience, which I laugh now it sort of makes sense a bit. Not that I was an angel by any means. But it's just kind of funny thinking about that. And then, you know, I wasn't happy with what I did. In fact, I was I was the George Costanza of my office, my sister used to crack up because I would act all stress, and I have these deadlines, but I was really going into the coffee room because there was a copy room then. And I was photocopying off of the internet recipes from Epicurious and food.com. I kid you not when I was done in radio, I hope my bosses are my own bosses aren't listening to this. I probably had a binder this thick. I've always been a cook and a baker. And baking has always been a passion. So I left radio and I went to Baking and Pastry school for a year I worked for a wholesale bakery. Then I started working for Jenny Craig, which everyone cracks up like, okay, at first, I'm making the baked goods and I'm helping people lose the weight. The takeaway from this is that I had no idea what I wanted to do. I had friends, childhood friends, people make nose, they were all successful. They worked for wall street, and they were pharmaceutical sales reps and occupational therapists, and they had these big jobs. And they made these big salaries. And I was going from job to job to job and I remember saying to my parents, I just don't want to work at a desk in an office. And my dad said, what does that mean? You want to be a plumber? And I'm like, No, I just I want to help people. And I just want to do something that feels good. And you know, I was just like living on another planet. I had no attention span for anything. Every job I was bored, instantly. pastry school I loved but I didn't love baking for somebody else. And right at the end of my reign at Jenny Craig, I was I was a program director, I did sales, I love the emotional part of that I dealt with, you know, I was overweight on and off throughout my life. So to work with people like that one on one, it really it felt like I was giving back in some way. And then at the end of that I quit a week before I had my daughter, and I haven't been back in the quote unquote, workforce, the real workforce. Um, you know, I started working for myself. So

what I realized was, I was floating around because nothing stuck with me. And you know, like a lot of people do. That doesn't mean that everybody's a medium because you can't find what you want. But I just knew that I wasn't the kind of person that cared a lot about making money, and I wish I had been is maybe I would have, you know, found some big career and stuck with it. But I always I just want to do something that you know, where I feel good about what I do, where I feel like it's really making a difference. And you know, it's so cheesy to say that because so many people say and I was young when I said it, but I would get into something. In radio, for example, they gave me the difficult clients, the ones that had were going through divorce, the ones that someone had died, I made the least amount of money I was the least paying sales rep and some of these sales reps made well into the six figures. I was making nothing but I've been on the phone for hours with my clients and oh, they're breaking up with the boyfriend. They're going to talk to Deb and we'll get another deal out of it because they trusted me My strength I suck at sales. I hate asking people for money. It's so uncomfortable for me. But what I don't second is relating to people. I've always always always related with people my first job when I moved to Arizona three weeks I work for enterprise rent a car. Sorry, enterprise rent a car. crappiest job I've ever had will pick you up. You know, that was the phrase. And here I am. It's 115 in Arizona. If forget about the dry heat, it's freaking hot. And I'm wearing I had to wear a suit with pantyhose. No laughs It was so awful. I was sweating. But the people I picked up by the end, they became my friends to the point where after three weeks, the last lady I picked up. She said, You're here this dynamic personality, what are you doing driving for enterprise, she said, We need someone in our events marketing. Here's my card, call me I'm gonna get you an interview. And I thought, well, she's not going to remember she did. And a week later, I was working for her company as an event planner. So I just kept jumping job to job to job The only thing consistent was that I love relating to people. I've always loved it. So it makes sense. My medium should make sense because not only my relating to my clients, but I'm also relating to their loved ones in spirit who are still people just people not in the physical sense. So they have stories to tell. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 21:15
Not non corporeal presence, right? Yeah. Yeah. So So. Right, I love I love that, you know, kind of hopping around, nothing kind of fits. I love the idea of the and I love cooking too. And here's how I relate to kind of being in the kitchen. You're, you're connected to like a creative source. And that's for sure you're in the creation process during Yeah, so you're, you're, you have to be all in. Yeah, when you're cooking, because otherwise it falls apart. Right. So you have to pay attention. That's one of the things I haven't cooked in a while. And I've kind of missed that, because of that. So, you know, when is the point where, you know, accept the shift into your medium, ship your gifts and say, You know what, it's now's the time to make a go of this thing.

Deb Levine 22:10
You know, it was kind of like the I often I think a lot of people have to get to what, you know, they call it the dark night of the soul. It's so dramatic. But I never know what that meant, until I really felt like I was there. And I say that, obviously, with the caveat that that's different for everyone. I mean, there are people that have really lived through severe tragedy. I have not lived through any kind of tragedy like that. But for my own world, what I was dealing with my anxiety, which I've had since I was a little kid, which what's fascinating is and all of these mediumship courses and workshops and and groups that I'm I've been in and still a part of, I don't know that I've met one medium that has not had anxiety or or does not have, you know, chronic anxiety. Whether it's social anxiety, whether it's because when you're feeling all of the emotions, and you have other people and what I didn't know how to deal with energy. At that time, I didn't know that I didn't need to take on everyone's energy that was around me in a room. And why was I feeling so sad? Why am I depressed? I didn't realize that I was picking that up from, you know, someone in my college class that I was sitting next to all the time. I didn't have knowledge of that then. But what happened was, it really all came to a head for me when my grandmother who was one of my dearest friends, she died at 102. And I felt her Well, I mean, there were a lot of things that have been building up to it. But my anxiety had taken on legs right around the time when she died. And after she died. It was to the point where it didn't just feel like regular anxiety anymore. So I've been in and out of therapy for years. Just you know, because it's been very helpful. I've had a sister that's been ill. So I was always in therapy for one thing or another. And my therapist who I really love and trust, my anxiety was just an awesome I remember her telling me She's like, yep, I was like, there's a mile a minute and she's like, just take a pause and breathe. And she made me take a couple breaths just to kind of slow down and she said while I'm breathing, she's running around behind me and her filing cabinet and she pulls out this like pamphlet of paper stapled in the corner. And she hands it to me and she starts talking and I'm not really listening to her because I can never do two things at once and this kind of explained why and I'm going through it I didn't even read the top I just there were all these questions and asked you to rate yourself on a zero meaning on the low end to a to attend. And everything was an eight or a nine there. Oh, I can't I can't remember I'm having a heart You know, having a hard time finishing a project or getting sidetracked very easily like it when someone's talking to you not being able to focus or or becoming too focused spending too much time on one thing. And I'm like, Well, I'm like, Why are you giving me and we know I have anxiety? And and then she said, That's not an assessment for anxiety. It's an assessment for ADHD. And I was like,

Unknown Speaker 25:11
What are you talking about? Well is

Deb Levine 25:12
ADHD? I mean, I would have like that's something that kids have, you know, when it well come to find out that one of the most Miss diagnosed group of people with ADHD are women in their mid 40s. Because what happens is forgetfulness, that was nothing like memory, that can be hormones, you know, perimenopausal which I am not sorry for the TMI, but it can be hormones, it can be all these things. And interestingly enough, anxiety is a, what's the word I want? is a culprit if you will have ADHD. So it's almost like what comes first the chicken or the egg, the anxiety happens because of the attention deficit, hyper focus disorder. So in children, that h is hyperactive, in adults, it's height for me, it's hyper focus. So I was I was going to bed at four o'clock in the morning. Okay, I'm on my laptop, because I'd seen a woman This is a true story with a cute pair of shoes. And I said, Where do you find them? I don't know. I got them six years ago. Oh, damned if I wasn't gonna find that pair of shoes. I can tell you. I'm online. I'm gonna find those shoes. Meanwhile, I've got the Real Housewives of some city on TV. I'm eating chocolate constantly eating chocolate because I had a problem with sugar. I could not get enough sugar. Well, then it was explained. Of course, you couldn't get enough sugar, because what your brain is missing is that serotonin release. And that's what sugar gives you. My other love. In addition to baking and eating chocolate is exercise and fitness. I've been into weightlifting. Since I was 17 and intense workouts. I was into CrossFit. All that. Well. That's another thing that's going to produce the serotonin and the dopamine release in my brain. So all of a sudden, everything sort of started to make sense. Now, I don't like to use this as Oh, well, I have ADHD. So my house is a mess. I mean, my house is a mess. And maybe it's partly my ADHD maybe it's just because I didn't feel like cleaning it. But what I want people to know and I was in I think, you know, I was in a documentary on Amazon Prime with with one of my mentors amazing medium Suzanne Wilson. She's known as the carefree medium

Brandon Handley 27:17
with the documentary.

Deb Levine 27:19
It the series is called life to afterlife by Craig McMahon is the producer. And there's there's several in that series and the one I'm in I hate the title, though. Sorry, Craig. It's really cringy it's, I want to speak to the dead. It's a little sensationalized, because it's not like that the documentary is not like that. I did not set out because I wanted to try to speak to the dead. I couldn't help it. So I'm just tossing that out there. But

Brandon Handley 27:43
real quick, one of the things that I that I find interesting, right is this relationship to the anxiety and the energy field and the mediums and it's interesting how you kind of tell tell it is, you know, you weren't aware of a way to kind of grab hold of the energy, protect yourself and redirect the energy that was coming through you. Right, right. And I hate to do that, but I always liken it to like, these, like old kung fu master flicks, right. You know, or even like, you know, the, you know, you know, the teacher will appear when the student is ready.

Deb Razar 28:18
I love that. I

Brandon Handley 28:18
love that. But it so happens, right? So, so happens, then you My guess is at some point, you know, you run into a teacher, you have some conversations, and you're like, how do you know so much about what I'm going through? Yep. Tell me exactly. Yeah, tell me.

Deb Levine 28:36
So what I was going to tell you about about the the documentary, The reason I brought it up is because when Suzanne approached me to participate in it, I said to myself, I'm going to do this, but I'm going to make sure that everything I say is my truth. And then I'm completely authentic. Craig did a great job with the with the editing, because on my hands, I'm all over the place that you know, I'm affiliate girl, that's how we talk with our hands. But I did speak about my ADHD on there, and I would I had some people that's Oh, you don't want to divulge that and people are gonna judge you. Number one, I'm not concerned about being judged anymore at all. And that that is a true statement.

Brandon Handley 29:15
And that's what I mean, right? Like, I mean, how liberating is

Deb Levine 29:18
so liberating. You don't? I mean, it's amazing. But more importantly, I needed to speak my truth. Because if one person heard me and felt like this, again, everything I say feel like is so cliche, but if I can help one person, but it's true, and I've actually had so many people reach out to me randomly on Facebook Messenger saying, I really connected to you, because I also you know, I thought that I was just really unmotivated or really lazy or and it doesn't mean that every person that reached out to me feels like they're a medium. This is only a part of my own personal journey. But I it upsets me that there is a stigma and for children as well. This is something that never popped up in My, in my childhood, maybe it was there in subtle ways. I mean, I was a good student, but I had to, like I had to be in a room with no noise. Like I had friends who could study with music on and talking, I needed to total quiet otherwise my mind was listening and taking in everything around me. But I also need to express that I don't define myself like, Oh, I'm an adult with ADHD, it's one little bit of me and I actually have a mentor that thinks that I really may not have it, that it might be just sort of all the other things in my life that that were were big stressors. And maybe that's true, too, you know,

Brandon Handley 30:37
so so here's the thing that, you know, I'll you know, if you don't mind, I'll share my take on this now, right. Like, I mean, we were raised to be distracted. I mean, look at all the different courses, I mean, that we had to take, right look at, you know, the television programming, 20 minute blocks, you know, or 10 to 15 minute blocks, and then, you know, six minutes of 32nd commercials, we were trained to be fucking confused and D rains. Right. And so here's the result. And, and, you know, so the reason, my reason for saying that, you know, you don't have an attention to or like you're hyper active or whatever deficit because that's, it worked. The training worked, which is which is which is, you know, which brings us back to, you know, reconnecting with yourself, which is what you've done,

Deb Levine 31:28
and you literally just touched on something because as you were saying that he like this light bulb bulb went off and it was gonna bring me back around to the point where you use the word distracting, like there have always been so many distractions. And for me, what my distractions were whether they were connected to ADHD or not, I needed at that heightened point of anxiety I needed my distractions where I've never been a drinker. It's chocolate lit like food, it specifically sweets, and I would binge on chocolate, and then I would go into a shame spiral about it. But what the chocolate was doing I was numbing everything I did the online shopping the watching too much reality TV, having it all at once. It was a way to quiet the noise. Now remember, I'm a medium. So there was all this noise, this energy coming from everywhere. Think about it. How is that going to? How is that going to silence it? I didn't know what I was dealing with. So I use every external source it's a good thing. I don't like alcohol and I've never been into drugs because I probably would be you know in a right now. I'm not making fun of that. But I'm being serious.

Brandon Handley 32:31
No, that'd be a definitely be. Just another another thing to pile on top. Yeah. Did you ever try a foil helmet?

Deb Razar 32:43
Or being here is

Brandon Handley 32:44
semi facetious, right, like but I mean, if you if you you know the Gerrish I put on like a foil helmet to stop, like, all the noises right now. And when I don't, okay, you know, like, I mean, honestly, like, I mean, if, like, you know, if, again, if I'm, if I'm having all these things happen, I'm just thinking, like, you know, I could see myself actually doing that at some point, especially like, if all these noises are always coming through, and I don't have a teacher, I don't have a guide. We didn't get that in fifth grade. We got, you know, we got phys ed and other things, but we didn't, we didn't we didn't we didn't train it, you know,

Deb Razar 33:15
to the disease.

Brandon Handley 33:17
You know, that wasn't an option. Right. All right. So so i would i would literally probably see myself putting putting try trying it right. How do I how do I quiet it?

Deb Levine 33:26
Well, here's the thing is that when I say all the noise and the distraction at this particular time, it was I wasn't hearing from spirit people. I it was, it was the energy, it was the emotion it was I was like a sponge. And it's a lot to be a sponge for everybody else. And I've been this way since I was a little kid, if if someone in my family was having a bad day, I was feeling the bad day, which is probably why I ended up in therapy. Each time my sister had cancer, she never complained. She was a warrior. But I is like, I wanted to take all of that on. And I think in a way energetically I did and and so I was, you know, super, super low. And look, there's always going to be stuff, there's always going to be stuff happening around. when I really started hearing from the spirit world when I say that now there are mediums that hear objectively, meaning, you know, oh, I hear voices in my head. I don't hear voices in my head. Just to clarify, and I'm not saying this to joke because they're mediums that objectively hear like your grandfather in the spirit world. They might say like, I see your grandfather behind your right shoulder. That is not how it's come for me. Now. The beauty of mediumship is that it's a self development journey. It's always changing always. So may I eventually at some point, see someone's loved one sitting next to them. I may but as of right now, the way I say it is it's like a picture in my mind's eye if I asked you right now, to remember your favorite scenes from your favorite movie, and like play it in your mind like it's a real you could see right you could see the people what they're doing. You could even hear your favorite line even though you're not hearing it being played in your ear. So when I explain that I see an eye here that is subjectively, okay, that's really important. So it wasn't that I was I was being bombarded by like, Hey, can you get a hold of my nephew? And hey, can you get a hold of my daughter of it? Because that would that would really drive someone crazy probably. And there is a huge stigma that we're all nuts, right? I mean, it was like, you know, I should have come on with the headscarf and, and the others patolli everywhere around me and I just burned my Sage actually did burn a little sage, I do like sage. And there's nothing wrong with petroleum headscarves, and all those things. But the point is, and yes, I'm holding a crystal because my holy and crystal grounds me like I tend to be like very up here. And so it grounds me whenever I am, whenever I need to discuss or when I'm in a reading I typically will hold will hold some form of stone. But there is no one size fits all for mediums. I mean, a lot of people think of mediums they think of the Long Island medium, Theresa Caputo, she's a character with the long nails and she's got like a stick I call it she got the blonde hair and

Unknown Speaker 36:00
but

Deb Levine 36:00
the sad thing is, that probably detracts from the fact that she really does, you know, hear from people's loved ones. But there's not a one size fits all, we don't all look a certain way, if you saw me on the street, you just feel like, oh, there's some, you know, middle aged woman with two kids and you know, living her life. It's not like, you know, my walk around, like with this, and I have, you know, scarves all around me, I just think there, there are lots of stigmas. You know, my add was a soup, I feel like I had to sort of rebel against all the stigmas, if you will, especially now.

Brandon Handley 36:31
Well, I mean, again, you just had to, you had to go in, see who you were for yourself, and make the decision to accept yourself as you are for who you are, and roll with it. Right? Yeah, kind of step into that and, and share yourself with others, which is we know, kind of what you're doing with the soul wisdom, right on your website is what you're doing with offering readings. And so that was a big part of this podcast is, you know, talk about, I guess, you know, kind of merging all of who you are your spiritual self with the material world writer, you know, bringing that out, like, I mean, one of the one of the other things that you hit on too is like, you know, we've got these two separate selves. And I always think of like, you know, the matrix, right, there's, you know, Mr. Neo, you one life, you're blah, blah, blah, this one guy and this other person, and that's so true. Right? So how do you, you know, how do you feel like you have merged the two? And, you know, what's your life been like, because of that.

Deb Razar 37:38
So when you say, how have I merged my mediumship? With now that, that it's a technically a business as well? Yeah,

Brandon Handley 37:45
sure. Sure. Well, I mean, right. But that's, but that's also just, that's another stigma, right? Like, that's just something that you don't want to because you're like, this is helping people category, right? You don't want to you don't want to, like be like, but it is right. It's just, and it's just, it's, again, we wanted to we just want to be ourselves, right? Without, right without classify or label it. But like, exactly those labels, unfortunately, hopefully, other people what. It's hard, it's hard to put yourself on the map if you don't share the map.

Deb Levine 38:17
It's true. It's true. And I, I think what had to happen for me was that once I really decided, and it wasn't choice that I was going to live, to really live my authentic truth in every facet of my life. You know, I have a mentor that says mediumship is not spirit communication, or just intuitive mediumship is, is, is our life. I mean, being a medium is being alive. And being alive means being, if, if I really want to do my soul's work, as a natural medium, I have to work my mediumship the way I work my life. And what I've decided to do, again, this is just I'm one person, you could ask 10 different mediums, they'd say different things, I have to show up every day, as myself, again, I said flaws and all that, that whole duality, because what I'm able to do then is is hopefully, especially in a session with me, allow other people to see that it's okay to show up as yourself. You don't have to be X, Y or Z to be enough. And again, everything I say is written in every book everywhere. You know, we are enough as we as we are and I you know, I used to hear they go oh yeah, I'm enough as I am, whatever. But if I were only skinnier and apparently had more, you know, this that

Brandon Handley 39:38
shirt No, you're right, right. It is all in these books. And it is a number of these things. But it's a it's a different level of understanding. right there's, there's there's the literal understanding, and there's the outward facing physical application of this shit, right? You're like, Oh, I'm enough. Yeah, I showed up for work and I sharpen 72 pencils, whatever. Right, I'm going off gay, but like, you're the I'm enough is like, you know, that's the inner work that you're talking about it most

Deb Razar 40:07
important work,

Brandon Handley 40:08
right? It's it's the, you know, the, the, you know, the most neglected. Right. Yeah, yeah. And then and then different levels of understanding, right? Because not for nothing, you know, four years ago, you know, if you'd said that this is what I'd be doing or any of this stuff, I would have laughed at you.

Deb Razar 40:27
Me to me? Yeah, yeah, I get that. So, go ahead. No, I

Brandon Handley 40:32
mean, just I mean, that's, it sounds cliche, right, only because it's real, unless you've experienced it subjectively, because you cannot, unfortunately, have somebody else's experiences for them, like you were talking about earlier. You know, you can't do the work for somebody else. Now. You can't show up inside of someone else for them.

Deb Levine 40:57
Now, you can. No, but what I think what I think did it for me, you know, when I first like when I could not turn off the gifts when I was getting all this information about people that had passed, for people that I even like sort of knew, but didn't really No, I mean, it's it's funny, and Magnus is, I've gotten in touch with some some people that I've known since childhood that we've known since childhood, because their loved ones came to me and I, I was pretty proud of myself for having the coneys to reach out and say, Look, I know I haven't seen you in 2030 years. But hey, I'm able to communicate with the dead and I've got your wife or your dad or whomever with me, that for me, took not staying small anymore, because oh no, what are they gonna think they're gonna think I'm weird. I didn't care. I didn't care what they thought, because if I knew that their loved ones had an important message for them to receive. Now this is before i was i was i really sort of had honed what I'm doing because there is ethics and morals. Although we don't take the Hippocratic oath. We don't. We're not therapists, we're not doctors, but it is so critical to have ethics and morals in in what I do. Because people are trusting me. I mean, when you when you have a session with me, it's almost like I say like, you know, you can try to bullshit your therapist. I've tried that once or twice. And we want to sort of show our therapist like the good side, which you can't get help that way. But still, it's been done, people kind of try to BS, the therapist, when you're coming with me, it's almost like we're now we've now been, it's like having seen your therapist for seven years. Because all of a sudden Our relationship is like boom, because you can't, you're not going to be able to, to show me something that isn't true, because I am an intuitive. So I'm going to know that it's not true. Now I also my job is also to tread lightly. If I know that someone, someone can't take the information that I'm about to give that, or they're not ready to hear it.

Unknown Speaker 42:48
Hi, buddy.

Deb Levine 42:49
How are you? It's so good to see you. I got to chat with him after. If I am. My job as the medium is to be able to gauge whether or not my client is really ready for this gentle soul excavation, I will never force on someone shoved that mirror up to your face. That's the job of the medium. And there can be ego involved. And there is is zero place. I had a mentor say the first two letters and medium don't belong there. Because this is not about me, this is not like a look at the pony trick I can do. I'm not doing anything I am being I am being my authentic self, the channel, if you will. I'm a conduit as a better word for it. And my job is to be open to not impose any judgment to not impose any meaning. And to listen to what the loved ones in spirit have to say, to make sure that my client receives what they need. When I first started this when I first started my development, I was so excited about my own experience. This is so cool. Oh my god, that guy just told me where his ashes were. And the wife just said, No one knows that. And was I patting myself on the back. But no, but I was like, This is the coolest thing ever. Oh my gosh, how is this happening? But guess what the experience is not for me. It's not about me, I have nothing to do with this. Once I got over that that initial excitement. It's why my mediumship changed. It's why my my sessions are not merely spirit, contact communication, where I'm just giving a lot of evidence. Because what happened was when I really went in and did that soul work on myself, when I really learned to accept being in my truth. I could then accept this the truth of the Spirit people had for their loved ones. And I could help then my client discover if they hadn't already their own truth. That's the only way it's that triad of energy. And that was when it almost came full circle. It wasn't just like, this is so awesome. I'm talking to people that aren't alive anymore. But yet I knew all these things. That's not what this is about. This is so much deeper and there can be so much healing and soul work done. A medium ship session, if your listeners take nothing away, it is not just spirit communication it can be. And if you are, if you have a loved one that you're really hoping to hear from, I, the medium has no control over that the spirit world knows what my client needs. In that moment, as I said, for their soul's highest purpose and greatest good, they know, it's only going to be hopeful, helpful or healing, there's nothing else that it's not dark or fearful. I don't there's no fear around what I do I have the utmost respect for this

Brandon Handley 45:31
calling, if you will. So I mean, it's almost not almost I mean, you are tuning into that connection as a medium for your clients to, you know, pull that in through the universe. And, you know, if you've got your ego involved with it, there's it's almost like you're attaining the water or near the source, right? And then, as you do this mediumship connecting the source, you know, and and, you know, translating it right into words, for for, for for the person who's there, your client, essentially, you're reconnecting them the source, right?

Deb Razar 46:12
It Well, except, if you look at it this way, again, just my perspective. We all have the connection to source because it's within us, right? Yeah. So if they've lost that connection,

Brandon Handley 46:23
it's kind of like, you know, I don't know what a jumpstart right for your heart, right?

Deb Razar 46:28
jumper kit, your jumper cables for a car even? Yeah,

Unknown Speaker 46:31
yeah, that's exactly,

Unknown Speaker 46:32
yeah, yeah, your batteries there. It's just like, drained or neglected, or

Deb Razar 46:36
a great way of putting it. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 46:38
Right. And so that's, I mean, that's awesome. Right. And again, the, the, the experience I had with you was, was amazing, always grateful for that. And, you know, I think, you know, I know, I was on my way as I was just doing some things that but I wasn't doing them in 100% authentic manner, and in a way that I was still masking myself, right, and what you did kind of allow me to just obliterate the mask and say, fuck, let's go for it. And

Deb Levine 47:08
that's the greatest thing I could hear, by the way from, from someone that I've worked with, because, and I've told you this before, because it's all the ripple, we all have that ability to give back you are doing, you are really doing so much good. You have that energy about you where you're so curious, you're just so open you you want people, you want an understanding, and you really get excited, and you want that understanding to be shared among other people. So the fact that I was able to kind of give you that little spark, look what you're doing now for so many other people. So that's what I love, we are really all connected. Again, I'm gonna sound super cheesy. But if we can see each other as that we're all extensions of one another and not look at each other as like, Oh, you have that I want that. And it's not about that. I mean, we really can be support for one another and be each other's cheerleader. No matter what we do, no matter what business industry calling, there's not one more special than the other what gifts someone has, when someone comes to me, if their gift is there, an electrician, and they're they're so good at and they're helping, you know, out here, let me tell you in Arizona, your AC goes out your host in the summer, right, it's 117 degrees, that someone's gift, and so long as they're living authentically, they're living their truth, they're passionate about it. If I can help spark that in other people, then as I used to say, like, I just want a job where I can help people that I really feel like I'm getting to live my very fullest life in that sense. And that is, that's really the greatest gift that I've ever been given through all the shitstorm that i've you know, kind of had to get past to get to this point. Every bit of it was worth it to be right here.

Brandon Handley 48:47
Well, you know, some people never get to that point, right? It's not about how long it takes you to get to do get there. Right. And and, you know, Meg and I certainly have the conversations where I believe that more people get there than not it's just males out there there's well there's not an understanding of where they are because of the Western you know, kind of mindset and it's like oh shit, I'm I'm gonna need like Percocet I'm gonna I'm gonna need a whatever this that whatever's going on here has got to be shoved right back let's

Deb Levine 49:19
commit let's do whatever we can let's find ways to numb it and to not to feeling the pain no one look it doesn't feel good to feel pain whether it's emotional pain or physical pain we all as human beings want that. Whenever pain starts, what can I do to stop it?

Brandon Handley 49:36
Why would you so I mean what I'm looking at those isn't isn't pain. It's that that this reignition of source and energy and feeling it kind of like you were feeling it all coming from everywhere and and not knowing what it is but since you don't know what it is being fearful of it and trying to block it all out. Right. So yeah, keeping yourself disconnected from source and

Deb Razar 50:00
Yeah.

Brandon Handley 50:01
Right. But but but simply just because of all the stigmas and all this other stuff anywho that's not what you do what you do is help people connect to that, which is already there, show them kind of like their own inner hidden city of glory or whatever right and

Deb Razar 50:18
I need you to write my website and

Brandon Handley 50:22
so you know, you help people you map it out or at least you know, show it so that it is possible and you're doing this on the soul wisdom calm. And then you know, tell us a little bit more at least know what's offered on the soul wisdom calm and is that the only place they can connect with you? Where should they go if they want to connect with you.

Deb Levine 50:42
It's vessel ism, th e Sol, s o ul wisdom, calm all one word that is the best place, there's a way to email me directly from Matt, it has my business number is on there as well. It's interesting, but as I've developed, I've whittled down my website was pretty small to begin with. And I've whittled it down because I used to have a medium ship offering a mediumship session and an in and an intuitive only session. So if someone was not interested in hearing from loved ones in spirit, they just had like, they've got life issues, they've got things on their path, they really want to get into the meat of I took that away, because what I realized was, if someone's coming to work with me, they have to have some sort of trust with me off the bat. as of lately, I mean, I don't market myself, it's all been referral. I mean, thanks for the documentary with Suzanne Wilson really was a big help. This I was on your friend, Mona Lauren's podcast. That was that was a help. But other than that, there's not really a way that people hear about me. So typically, they've heard from a friend or a loved one. So they come with sort of a sense of trust. If they're coming to me with that sense of trust, they have to trust me, but more so they have to trust the spirit world. Because I my hope is that my clients come the best way to get the most depth out of a session is to come as open as possible. Because if you're open, then you are going to receive what it is that you need, which I can't know because I don't know my clients before I work with them. They're strangers to me, we leave usually as friends, but they always start out as someone I've never met. I don't like to know anything about the people I work with. If they're open, now, I just say I offer a mediumship session a mediumship session, which is what I was saying earlier is not just talking to dead people, a mediumship session is talking to the dead but it's also intuitive information. Is it more one and less of another? It may be we never know because it's different every time could I call

Brandon Handley 52:36
it like continuation of energy instead of the dead right like I mean yes it's really I mean it's not dead

Deb Razar 52:44
Yeah, there is no there there is a there is no Yeah,

Brandon Handley 52:46
yeah so so I mean just energy continuation of my grandfather. Dead does

Deb Levine 52:53
sound It sounds very harsh. There are people that say well, dead is meaning like the physical bodies die but I call I really call them spirit people because their their spirit hasn't gone anywhere the essence of who they are that that is still very much alive. So on my website again, it's it's it's very it's slim. That's my offering. I am and I had changes to I do have I am certified in sound healing. And for a while I was offering sound healings, then COVID hit and it's possible. I've done sound healings over what do you call it Facebook Live, you know, just work like private Facebook Live groups. But I find that I use a gong and I use a crystal singing bowl and I've got a rain stick and I've got a wave drum. What I find is my sound healing is really an extension of my mediumship. So that's a whole story for another podcast but sound

Brandon Handley 53:44
so so that's I mean, that's that's a basically a part of your offering, right part of the suffering. It's

Deb Razar 53:49
not on the website anymore. I took it off.

Brandon Handley 53:51
Well, I mean, let's say that you and I are talking and intuitively. You're like you know what? You need some noise, bro.

Deb Razar 53:59
Yes, I need some noise. I gotta get that gong out for you. Yes,

Brandon Handley 54:03
no. So real quick, so I'm just gonna I'm gonna wind it down here Devin, you and I can keep talking right so everybody you know go to the soul wisdom.com checkout and see what she has offer there. My Instagram You

Deb Razar 54:16
mean to tell you that sir. Instagram is so wisdom. So wisdom easy. Yes. Thank you. Thank you for that. You

Brandon Handley 54:24
know what I was always saying like so was the MAS or something like that. But it's so wisdom a wisdom AZ so

Deb Razar 54:30
wisdom was taken so AZ I'm in Arizona, so

Brandon Handley 54:32
that's where they're not sure. Yeah, that makes sense. No, sorry to interrupt. No, you're good. You're good. So you'll connect back with it. This is something that you're more interested in. I'll have links also in the podcast notes.

Deb Razar 54:49
I appreciate you having me on. It was fun.

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ARE YOU READY TO SUCCEED | CHAPTER 07 | DEEP DIVE 2 of 2

Published: March 16, 2021, 12:55 a.m.
Duration: 19 minutes 30 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
And welcome back to part two of chapter seven. Are you ready to succeed? By Sreekumar Rao, and we are picking up where we left off. And that is the idea that it's okay, that the tree is cooking. Right? So what happens? What do you do when the universe gives you something beautiful, yet unexpected? Do you know you take a look the rainbows and the trees and all the beautiful VISTAs and you say, Man, that would be that would be better if it was over here to the left, right? That Rainbow is missing a color? Or do you just kind of take it and accept it as beautiful and wonderful. He talks a little bit about the idea of, you know, here, here are some of our, here's, here's some of the other ideas here, as you know, you don't see the world this, this line, right? I think is pretty, pretty impressive. And true, right? You don't see the world as it is, you see it as you are. So the idea is, when something is good, like the rainbows and the trees and the beautiful VISTAs, you want more of it. And then when something shitty is happening, either you get a flat tire, you're stuck in the rain, and it's cold outside, and you can't find the tire jack, that's something that you just want it to end immediately. The funny thing is, is that both our form of clinging, right, both of these ideas of good or bad, wanting more or less of it, our sense of attachment, right? Which, as we all know, if we are falling long, anything that's happening here, and especially you know, Buddhism, right, that that's a form of suffering, you know, attachment leads to suffering. So if if you don't just kind of accept it as it is, maybe that crooked tree, just see it, there's really nothing that can be done about it, you just kind of recognize it and see that it is a crooked tree versus Ooh, that'd be a lot better. That was fixed, right? That type of thing. So the idea then, is that maybe what you don't even realize what happiness is? And he posits that the idea is that happiness is and are the moments where you are free from want. How great would it be Oh, so those are the moments that you're free from want. This is the moments I mean, and then I went back up to the top there, where there's where there's no pressure. Or if you don't want any more than what you've already gotten, you're content with what you've got, and you're not afraid of losing anything. Right? Because that's that's a want as well, then, then you you're happy here in a moment of that could be a moment of happiness is as it springs from acceptance of the universe as it is. Right. Which I think is pretty cool, too. And then the idea is there's absence of constraints, right. But I still I think, I think the biggest part of this one, right? You don't see. You don't see the unit. You don't see the world as it is you see it as you are. When you talk a little bit about this talks about he gives a little story about an alkali and a master. And how he's like how the how the Aqua it's like a dog with a bone. Right. And the idea is that even you know the dog is chewing on a bone and it's cutting his mouth and the blood inside of his mouth makes them feel like there's meat on that bone. And the dog keeps chewing on it because he feels like there's meat on the bone. Right? Yeah, the idea is that he says here peace and contentment and joy seeker inside says master but you keep hunting for it on the outside the worldly things you pined for so desperately and collect so graciously wound you in some manner the bone cuts the dog same as the bone cuts the dog but you think pleasure you derive it from those objects that you've got, right? Like I said, so the things that you want are the things you've already got. So you cling to them so hard, but in reality, right at the things if if the things that you're so afraid to let go of are making you upset, then who owns what right to the things around you or you get that you get the idea. So he says hey, you know, make changes by all means this next piece of the

chapter and talks about acceptance And how it's it doesn't mean that you just accept the things that are out there, you still go ahead and you fight the good fight, right, you're still out there working to bring out something beneficial, that is better for everybody involved, that doesn't mean that it doesn't mean that you just accept everything that that's out there, you're still you're still working, working for everything. uncouple your well being from the upshot, right? Even if the outcome is something, you've used the disasters, right, I think the idea that uncouple your well being from the upshot is that, you again, what you're what you're looking to do, and he says, you know, even if the outcome is something that you've used disasters, this is a learnable skill, right? If when you are working to bring out something that's beneficial for all, if it doesn't turn out, okay, then the idea is, you know, the the effort and the intent towards that was something to be a benefit. And the idea is, if you're, if you can, like it says on couple of your well being from kind of the outcome, and you're not emotionally involved, then you're not going to be you're not going to get upset, you're just gonna understand and maybe take the lesson away from the objective outcome says, references, recent outnet recent email, guys, if you're not on his email list to Sreekumar Rao email list, then then check it out. I forget specifically which one this is the email, but I think that it had to do with things that it had to do with I think it had to do with like, income and making money. And how is basically, our emotions are tied to some outcomes and how things are all working out. But um, again, I forget exactly what the email is get on his email list. And he get he gets out some pretty good emails, usually weekly. So again, if you don't know how it's going to working, you just give it your best before intentional intention, and benefits of all, you can rejoice once once it's over, I've got kind of Henry Ford listed there as well. You know, his intention was to benefit all right, it wasn't he had success, because he was trying to benefit all he could have made things more expensive, but he was looking to help the greater population, and not simply just himself, right. So this is the email, I think that it references more, so it will come if you don't seek it. The idea is to do to do to do this is probably the best line from it, what you seek is within your grasp, but you can only reach it if you let go of what you're clasping to so tightly and this kind of moves up into even the uncouple your well being from the upshot, right. So oftentimes, what we're looking for is right in front of you. And your says here, you're bound by the things I said, again, you're bound by your emotion to the desired outcome. And you're bound by the the, I would dare say call it the narrow vision of how you think it should turn out, and how it should work. But oftentimes, it's already kind of working out right in front of you already. And you're participating in it and it's happening through you and for you and sometimes to you. But you don't see what's happening because you've got an emotional investment to an outcome that you've pictured working out in a certain way. But it will come if you don't seek it to the to the to the let's see what he's got here. In this story times got a really good story. I love the story in here. Just basically about a basically about a king who runs in Osage Sage says hey, he, the king sees that he Sage is super wise. And he wants to Sage to come and teach him the way you know, wisdom of his ways. comes in and sage says Hey, I'll come in and I'll I'll do it. But you've got to give me everything I'll ask for without getting, you know, freaking out at me. And you essentially it gets to a point where Sage does something so that the king gets pissed off and he flies off the handle and stays like alright, I'm out. Right and then the idea is

Sage says he's out he rolls out. And he the cane says no, no, please stay and the king and the sage says, Look, man, I told you, you know, I was gonna roll out and here Here's the deal, I do have something to share with you walk with me for a while, like a week or so as, as I roll out, and I'll share a couple things with you. And what he does is he ends up sharing with them that that, that the sage was still happy, regardless of whether or not he had the things that he had, he was happy when he was the sage with nothing, and he was happy when he had everything as a king. And then he was just as easy to roll out of the kingdom. And, and go back to what it was, and have what he had he was he was happy, and content with the life that he had, whether it was with seemingly little or everything. And the idea to is if it will come if you don't seek it is like the idea it will just come right. Play that like a cat, right or a dog. And you know, as soon as you turn away, it just kind of comes up on you. Right? So exercise list your accomplishment, go ahead and go through, I think that's pretty self explanatory. Do that. And then he's got the exercise corollary, this was one that's still a challenge for me to do, and actually did a little bit of it on an Instagram story, did a little bit of dancing, right. But the idea is, what is something that you truly enjoy something that really brings you joy. And it doesn't, it's not directly aligned to anything, right? It's not directly aligned to like, like, for example, personal growth is not aligned to doing anything better. It's simply aligned to you feeling good and enjoying life. Right. And the idea is that, do it right now, don't stop, stop and wait, and then be grateful for that opportunity to do it. Let's see here. And then yet and then do it now, give thanks to the universe for allowing you the time to do it. And by the law of increase. Right, which we talked about it at some point. And of course, we know the universe is a force multiplier, by the law of increase, more of those moments will appear in your life. The other exercise is dropping destructive habits. Bob last really quick, note the damage being done by your behavior. And this is something that you can work with your kids, if you've got children right recommend same thing. Recognize that you are not a behavior or therefore err, go when you're talking with your kids separate their behavior from them, right. Don't beat yourself up again, with children don't beat them up, though separate them from from the behavior. Admit that you have some bad habits, simply be aware of when you're working on those habits. And when those are being triggered. And then just anytime you bring awareness to anything and you recognize it, you begin to you begin to you begin to kind of lessen it, you begin to do it less because you're you're intentional. Your intent is to drop those destructive behaviors, it's got a pretty cool exercise too along the way. Breathe in Golden strength, giving light. He says also go into witness mode at this point, you know, so breathing golden strength, giving light and breathe out negative emotions that in the visual is leaving your body in a dark stream. I personally still have a challenge with this one. I'd like to breathe in Golden strength giving light and breathe more of it out. And more of like a filtration system. Right. So I could I certainly I don't want to I don't want to. I don't want to put any negative energy out there, I guess is my challenge. Sure. I'll get over it. Let's see. And then finally, the exercise of your ideal life. We'll let this one run a little long. Understand that your ideal job doesn't currently exist? Are you quite literally as co creators with the universe you have to create it? And then really the idea is how can you do something or achieve something or find something? If you don't know what it is just spending some time writing down and writing out what your the vision of your ideal job is.

You will have better chance of succeeding. If you clearly know what it is you're trying to do. Right? So so many people do this The one person that comes to mind each time I think about this is Darren Hardy when he talks about his ideal, his ideal life partner, right, his wife, and how he would write about her, like, all the time and like, coming into his life and what she would be like, and what kind of why should we be. And eventually, at some point, he found exactly those things I can tell you to off my own personal experience, each time I go through this exercise, I see pieces of it come through in my life. And And the thing is, you're essentially just kind of tuning your, your algorithm, and you and your spirit and your whatever, to get aligned to it to recognize it. I've taken all the questions that he's got here that are prompts to do this exercise. And I posted them on spiritual dope, I'll post them on this podcast as well. So you can go it's on jotform. But I put it on side of spiritual dope. So you can go you can you can put your you can answer the questions, you and you write it out as if it's happening right now as if it is present tense. And you just follow the prompts and right through it, and I've made it so that you can save it as you go along. Because it's pretty long. I've also made it so that you can send it to yourself, and and you've got a copy of it. helpful hints. I've got written down here, just fucking do it, right. And if you've got writer's block, just sit down and start writing don't don't on there's nobody's judging you. Except for you. This is yours, your own your very own on the end. Also, you should be doing this one time every four to six months, refining it, right, getting better at this and tightening it up. Again, just getting getting more clarity on your vision, getting more clarity on the job that you are creating. And you know, I love it because we realize this isn't going to happen. Immediately. This he says it's your life's task to assemble all the pieces and the idea is that it truly Could take the rest of your life and that's okay. Right is the ideal, your ideal job. And if it takes you a lifetime to create it I don't know if there's a kind of a more walk well, I mean, are more worthy endeavors and what you're doing those inclusively making your life as good as you can make it by having a job or the work that you do that is corresponding to all of your life's ideals, I suppose, if you want so that is God that's gonna close it down for you on Chapter Chapter Seven of Are you ready to succeed? I circumaural we've only got two more chapters left. They are you know, I think that pretty potent. Chapter Eight is actually pretty short. Doesn't mean there's not a lot packed into it. If you've enjoyed it so far reach out to me let me know your thoughts. love to know which you know, you tried out and use exercises and maybe you run out and grab the book for yourself I know that I've I this is one of the books that I've sent out many times too many different people and always happy to have a conversation about it's Matter of fact I'm just about done having a conversation with somebody else around the book. And she and I just have had a discussion right now what are the what's what's the impact been on her was impacted on me through reading this book? Have you done the exercises so you know, we we kind of hold each other accountable to actually going and doing the things that's where the true value comes from the true value isn't reading these things and being able to spout it out or even just sharing out this conversation the way that I have and with you the true value of this comes from actually doing the work. Alright. Take it easy. We've got plenty of other podcasts coming your way. I will also be saving my mind map right What am I use an X mine the way I mapped these out and I've got the nodes. These are also videos created as I do the podcast. So

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ARE YOU READY TO SUCCEED | CHAPTER 07 | DEEP DIVE 1 of 2

Published: March 15, 2021, 12:52 a.m.
Duration: 15 minutes 51 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
What's going on? What's going on spiritual dope, how have you been? I have been pretty busy. pretty busy lately. So that doesn't mean that there's never enough time to be doing the doing the podcast. That'd be being said. I was doing some other things. And I got busy not doing the podcast, I also been doing 100 day mailer program, so far as to say that at this point that that is not 100 consecutive days. turns, it turns out that that's going to be exactly what it sounds like 100 day email program. If you're not a part of that, reach out to me, let me know. And I'll connect you with that 100 days of being on a spiritual journey. But I shared something in there about Ani, the Franco big fan of Alan Franco. And she's got a live album. And in that album, she just talks about life kind of happening to her and she says, I got kind of distracted right now. I'm always entertained by that. And that's exactly that's exactly what happened to me. While I was in the process of this, and and secondarily, when I'm doing these, I don't want to move forward until I'm doing the we're doing the are you ready to succeed? By Sreekumar Rob doing the chapter seven. And I don't like to move forward until after I've done at least at least one of the exercises, if not all of the exercises that are mentioned within chapter and I hadn't done it. So that was why I didn't do any podcasts. We got, we sold our house, we did a bunch of move in, downsized, outsized, whatever size and just made a move to a to a newer place. And right now we're also in transit. Right? So we're we are at an Airbnb for a month, people are always like, well, that'd be great, man, let's I want to be a nomad. Maybe, maybe not depends, depends on how you want to chase that down. But so far, it's been fun. We're having a lot of fun, and we're enjoying the journey. And I want to say thank you for always being here. appreciate the fact that you keep checking in and seeing what's going on. And, you know, let's finish this thing up, right? I know, I forget when this started, but we've been doing it for a while. So we are on chapter seven of Are you ready to succeed? By Sreekumar, Rao subtext is unconventional strategies for achieving personal mastery in business and life. And this chapter is called freedom and happiness. They ain't what do you think? He starts off Sreekumar starts us off with a with a with a pretty cool story. And it's kind of one that hits you in the gut, especially if you're a parent. And basically, basically, it's a story about a guy who is doing his job, right, who's dedicated more of his life to his job, then then, let's say his family, and he's got himself into such a place where he can't leave. He can't, can't leave the situation, right? Like he's deemed integral to whatever the situation is, is going on. And his child is about to give a final performance at school, and he's going to miss it, and he's going to miss it, he realizes that he's missed all the performances, and that he essentially where he is right now, he feels like he is shackled in his life. And if I can hear from any of those parents out there, going through this journey, who understand and realize that they, they, they're missing out on some of their children's life, because of the time that they're dedicating to their, to their jobs. We go into name moves on into freedom, right? So the idea is that what is your definition of freedom? Right, what is your definition? Trying to think? You know, what, what does he put in here? One of the things that he puts in here and I've got it highlighted in the book is, you know, have you thought about the idea and the concept of the freedom from the constant desire for more How would it be wouldn't be nice if you felt free from the need and or desire to want more, more than what you've already got in your life. And, you know, I personally think that that's the one a big one right?

When you if you could drop the the idea that anything else that you You're wanted, and be happy with what you've got and where you are? How would that make the war with the pressure in your life come from then? Where would the pressure in your life come from? If you dropped the desire for more? Then he moves on. Right? So the next part of the book chapter is stone walls. Do not a prison make. The idea is that you're just like, kind of imagine the perfect day where where are you? What do you do? What would you like to be doing? What is your work? And are you pleasantly challenged by it? Do you get the opportunity to hang out with a friend whose company you actually enjoy, where there's no tension, no sense of upmanship? Maybe never the day you get to watch a show that is purely instructive and enjoyable. You end the day with a sense of ease and wonder that you have the life that you do. And the question he poses is, Do you recall last time you had this kind of day in your own life? And do you feel like if you would like that it's possible, right? It's definitely possible to have a lifetime of days like this. The The idea is, and this is where the the chapter comes from title title, this sub chapter is, is you will need to escape from the prison you're currently in. Right. So whatever it is that you're doing right now, it's kind of it's kind of self imposed as kind of the idea and he illustrates this, in this next exercise, which is probably one of the toughest exercises in the book and the exercise is do nothing, do nothing for 30 minutes, sit, meditate, no humming, no audio, no other thing, you have a focal point and do nothing for 30 minutes. And the idea is that if you are not able to do this, if you're not able to do this for 30 minutes, with your own time in your own life, how free Do you think you really are? moves on to happiness, right? So we just kind of talking about freedom a little bit there, moves on to happiness and and the gist of it is, is happiness is something that most of us we seek outside of ourselves, we also seek it from others, right? We seek the validation from others to to kind of let us know whether or not we're happy or maybe even look at comparing ourselves to other May we compare ourselves as one as miserable or somebody we think is happy. And, and then we we put ourselves in a position to you know, there's like a happiness gauge, if you will. And we put ourselves along there. He shares a short story from Anthony de Mello. And let me see if he tells us who and Melo is. psychotherapists and Jesuit priest, Anthony de Mello, pretty pretty, I think, fairly well named no name in this space, if you're not familiar, check them out. I haven't really checked them out beyond this, and hearing them quoted from place to place. The idea is, when you are living your life, are you doing something for that innate soul feeling of joy that often comes from giving or being is simply being happy for who and where you are versus the being recognized by somebody else or some, you know, a group. So when you're doing something to be recognized, right? You're doing it so that somebody says, oh, great job, and that's where your happiness comes from. Right? So the validation from somebody else that tells you that what you've done is in accordance and allows you to be happy or maybe gives you an applause because you've been on stage missing doing anything. Or maybe even at work, right, you get your happiness because you're your boss thinks that what you've done is great. And so now you're happy. The idea though, it's pretty powerful. That he kind of gives, he outlines here is that when you're doing some of these things for outside of yourself that these are,

where's it good to hear. the true nature of worldly feelings are they are not natural. They were invented by our society to make you productive and make you controllable These feelings do print do not produce the nourishment and happiness is produced when one contemplates nature enjoys the company one's friends or work. They were meant to produce thrills, excitement, and essentially emptiness, right, because even at the end of the day, if you come home and, and you're excited about maybe the accolades and something else that work, and there's really nobody else gets it, but you, I don't know that that's here, maybe maybe that's not where he's going with this. But the idea is, that's not really true happiness, and that that's not really I don't think long lasting. So he, he also illustrates it with this other story of CEO who's worked for 20 years to reach the level of CEO. And then right as he kind of transitions into that ball, you know that that role, a company gets bought out, company gets bought you imagine working here and tired, 20 years to reach level CEO. And as soon as you reach that level, the company gets bought, and essentially, you get canned. Put yourself in that position. And then just just imagine, like, how hard that must hit you? And how would you feel? Would you know, the thing that you strove so hard for and even granted just for a moment? Because taken away? What does that do for your sense of happiness, right? He also says, Here, look, there's nothing you have to get in order to be happy. So I think the best example of that is right now you could, if you really wanted to recall a moment where you were happy and feel happy right now, if you want it or take a look around you and see what you have that's available to you that might not be available to anybody else. And you, you might be able to find happiness, right where you are, right now, in this moment. talks about the power of brainwashing, right? I think that you know, that there's a lot in this chapter. So, so the idea of if we say that, you know, you can be happy right now. And if Happiness is your innate nature, then why are you filled with anger and sorrow. And it's because of this mental model that we've been fed over and over again, of we are better if we are successful, right? You are incomplete, and your life is incomplete. And you know, we've got all these marketing products and solutions that help you to manufacture your needs. If you even if you look at some of these marketing materials and, and sales materials, you'll you'll see that this is true, you know, some somebody creates a situation shows that somebody is happy. And and By comparison, you don't you're not supposed to but you're going to no matter what By comparison, you see somebody who's happy and joyful and smiling because they've got a thing, or, or a product and and you think that you do you need that in your life, right? That's a manufactured need. is a hot dog happening here. So let's see. So it evolves around your own life and patterns, trying to look here at why I jotted this down, right. You know, your life and patterns of consumptions, you're absolutely convinced that, you know, you need to maintain your particular quote, unquote, standard of living and maybe improve on it right. So, again, this is this is kind of like just what we've been fed, right? You believe and just for, he says, Hey, you believe that you were immune. And the deal is you swallow at all. And the thing is, you are not paying attention, right? So

this is this is the idea of conscious behavior conscious and being woke doesn't necessarily mean that you've just connected to your spirituality, consciousness. mentality means that you're paying attention now to the shit that's going into your brain. Right? You're paying attention now to the thoughts that you accept and who the authorities are and what you're what you're willing to believe. And you're paying attention now to the stories that you've told yourself historically, and the stories that you're going to keep telling yourself but so I don't want to make it all out to be just the marketers either and I don't think that he does, and he has not just from advertising is not just from market, it's not just from sales. This, this this brainwashing comes from your parents, from your friends, from teachers and coaches, anyone who is an authority or someone that you know, like and trust, right, this is sales one on one, this is marketing one on one, but these have all contributed to who you are, where you are, and your current situation. Now, the idea is your question these beliefs, values and these mental models and he says the answers that you find are very counter intuitive. Let me see if he gives an opportunity for you to. He doesn't say, right here, and maybe he does a little bit. I'm just looking for a place where he says in the book that was an example of a counter intuitive answer. He does not say We'll see. We'll see how this keeps lead. Now. It's been a minute, since I've read it and wrote down these notes, but I think, let's see, where are we here in timing. 15 minutes. So I'll pause this here and we'll go and, and this one, check back in for should be just part two, maybe we get to a part three of chapter seven.

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Kiko Ellsworth | From winning the Emmy to Winning his Soul

Published: March 14, 2021, 12:08 p.m.
Duration: 54 minutes 9 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey, there's spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here. I don't know why I always introduce myself. The host is never gonna change. I'm spiritual dope podcast and I'm on with Kiko. Ellsworth Kiko,

Unknown Speaker 0:15
you know,

Brandon Handley 0:15
has a has a great story, spent some time in Hollywood, then, you know, transitioning, we were just talking about, like, you know, metamorphosizing into this kind of goop into butterfly mode. But you know, Kiko for the people that aren't familiar with you like, what do you like to tell them? Right? Where are you from? What do you about and you know, what's happening with you?

Kiko Ellsworth 0:39
Well, thank you for having me. And I want to say, blessings and love and peace, to all of my brothers and sisters, I love you. And I think that's the most important thing that I want to communicate, probably throughout this entire podcast, write that in there. And I truly do mean that. So, you know, I think, you know, kind of like, just really starting off, we, you know, I think we're all just born with a purpose, and we forget what it is, I think that's a part of the game. And a part of the game is to remember, and just a part of my, my story was to had to do with Hollywood and forgetting and kind of getting caught up in that and learning the tools and the power of that sort of medium. And how it can be used for anything, whether it be good or negativity, or it can be used for anything. And so I've just basically found my way to using it for good. Which brings me here to you, brother.

Brandon Handley 1:38
There you go. There you go. I love I love the idea that we can, you know, it's just a couple people connecting, right. And, you know, that's, that's all we're really doing. And we just share kind of a, you know, shared spiritual sense of being right, whatever that means. But so, the, I like to open these up with the whole idea that whoever's listening to this podcast today, whoever we're contacting today, they're gonna hear some that can only come from spear from, you know, the universe, through you to them today, like what is that message, you know, what's coming through you to that person today.

Kiko Ellsworth 2:22
That's beautiful, as beautiful. You know, what's coming through is for us to, you know, as you're listening to this,

I think we forget how beautifully made that we are. And we kind of think that we're these humans, and that we're these bodies, and that we're these titles and jobs, and, you know, and we get all uptight and shit and we perform for people, and we put on these masks and say these things and, you know, but at the end of the day, I think it's, it's really about, I don't want to say the the superficial way. So I'm gonna go underneath it is really about really, you, you knew your soul, your swagger, your mojo, your style, how you your opinion, your voice, your spin on things, you know, because nothing's new under the sun, and they're there. No, one's really different, really, in the sense really, except in how you do what you do. And that's just your, that's yours, your soul, your swagger your, how you go about life, and that sort of spirit that wants to express itself through you. And so, you know, we become very unique if we, if you do you if I do mean if you know, Brandon, you do you and but if we got to get caught up in the, you know, the mainstream of life and pleasing or playing the larger game instead of going within, then we kind of missed the mark. We kind of what I like to say we sell our soul, you know, and I don't think selling our souls necessarily like signing this contract with a devil and nothing like that. I think selling our soul happens in these little tiny micro ways every single day. These little ways that you're not freaking true to yourself, these little ways where you just not speaking your truth, these little ways where you just don't take the time to see what's really there for you. You ignore your intuition. You're ignoring what you know you're supposed to be doing. You're paying attention Are you giving too much attention and credence to the fears that are stopping you from doing what the EFF you are supposed to be doing in your life? You know,

Unknown Speaker 5:10
I love it.

Brandon Handley 5:11
Right? the you know, the the vision I've got when you're kind of talking like that it's, you know, you're already a star like, you know, blazing star out there. And like, you know, each time you're not being your story self, you're just kind of losing Stardust, right? You're diminishing yourself and you just kind of become a decrepit, right. You're not you're not being true to who you are. And, man, it's the worst, right? I can still remember, I still remember way back in the day, some some warehouse parties. And I still remember these two girls dancing, right? And I could show you my dance, I was doing like little, little white guy up on the corner, just kind of like dancing like hiding in the shadows. Right. And I but like, I was really just kind of pulled into myself and I wasn't, you know, just pulled into myself. And I was tight. And I was I wanted to dance. But you know, I wasn't sure that I was doing it. Right. Maybe people would see me and then I saw these, like two girls out there. Right. And, and, you know, they're, you know, back in the day, like those big baggy, like party people clothes, right, like his big old clothes, and just like whatever. And, you know, they're just just playing in their arms out just like taking all this space. I was like, that's so like, it's a straight up, just letting the energy flow through them. And being all of who they were, they did not give a fuck, right? They didn't care. And, you know, I was so inspired like, by by those two girls, it's like, just letting it all just energy out. And I was like, from there on out. Right, like so, you know, like, you're saying like little pieces that you're not giving into right, that you're that you're ignoring are literally diminishing, you and who you are.

Kiko Ellsworth 6:56
Yeah, and that's like, you know, it doesn't just, you know, I'm glad you brought that example, because I have some of those images. Like my very first girlfriend, I remember going to the club with her back in the day when I was like 15. And I remember getting on the dance floor, and I was that guy that you were taught that you were as well. And she was that that girl that you talked about that you saw. And she was out there. And she I just remember her hair going all over the place. And she was just doing she was taking up all the space. And I was like, whoa. And you know, I was inspired and also intimidated at the same time. And, but I never forgot that, you know, and, you know, it's it's a, it takes, it takes practice. It's interesting, because it's like, you don't need to do anything to be you because you're already you. And at the same time, it takes practice, in a sense, shaking off and creating the space that you need in this world. So you can actually be free to be you, we have to create the space, we have to exercise our muscles, we have to exercise our expression, our voice. And if we don't give it the attention and exercise and practice that it needs, when we call upon it, we're gonna get out there on the dance floor and be like, I want to dance and I know I can but like, I'm kind of like, you know, kind of like, I don't know, I haven't been practicing and will be just out of shape. That's right. Every every, I'll just say like, every, every every like, you know, as we talk, like, every moment is a moment to practice being you don't have a word. Of course, I can just talk to you like this. And I can just shoot words out of my mouth. And I can just talk and talk and talk and that's fine. Or we can talk and we can feel the word and be present with who we're being what we're saying, present to the vibration of the words coming out. You know, and this just like, practicing taking up that space in our communication, and there's so many ways to just play being you. Well, I

Brandon Handley 9:06
mean, look, I mean, I would relate it back to dance. So it's just another dance, right? Just another. I like it, I liken it to double dutch too, right? Like always, because you know, you got the two ropes going, right? You got the two ropes going,

Unknown Speaker 9:21
Yeah, and you've got to get in that

Brandon Handley 9:22
rhythm. And you've got to do you've got to jump in the middle there, right. And if you mess that up, you're getting hit by one of those rows. But when you do it and you hit it, you know, you're just having fun, you're just dancing in the middle there. And you're going all around but the same thing with you and I had a conversation and a conversation that you're present for, right? There's a there's, you can feel it. Right. And and that's that's a lot of how I liken it but I also understand too that you know, you're into martial arts or you know, you're a yoga teacher Kundalini, and all of these things, you know, they kind of all do this same thing. I mean, it correct me if I'm wrong, like Talk to me about how you see maybe martial arts playing a similar role as dancer or being present in that space. I'd love to hear that.

Kiko Ellsworth 10:09
Yes, yes, it's interesting, you bring that up, because I think that you're totally on point with that. And that's, that's exactly what my philosophy is. Because I don't, I don't see myself as an actor, or even a martial artist, or this or that, you know, at the end of the day, you know, I see myself as a creator, and I express myself in these different ways. And I allow myself to express myself through the art of acting, or through the art of martial arts, or through the art of dance, or through the art. And, you know, for me, my, you know, my job, my responsibility is to try to find as many ways as I can to authentically express my smile my soul in a way that it wants to express itself, it might not want to express itself, and I don't want to paint right now, I'm not looking for that. Or this, you know, my head right now. It's like, it's the drum, it's my, maybe it's not the guitar just yet. I'm not ready for that, or whatever the case may be. But for right now is, you know, for me to look in the way that's most true for me, you know, how, how, what feels right for me to express myself right now? And am I allowing that to flow? Or am I like, getting caught in Am I am I blocking that energy from, you know, letting it express itself, because as far as I'm concerned, man, it's like spirit just wants to express itself as much as it can through you. As much as it can through me in through all of our brothers and sisters. And if you just do your thing, Brandon, if I just do my thing if I just because it's there's so much work to do over here. For me, I can't I can't worry about your work, because I got so much work over here to do you know, and if it's like, if we're both doing our work, then it's something beautiful can happen in between the interaction between, you know, souls like you and me, man. So I appreciate it.

Brandon Handley 12:10
And I love it. As to Pete waitley, definitely one piece in here, right? How did you come to find yourself as a creator? Right? How did you when, when do you feel like you accepted that moniker for yourself? And then what, uh, you know, how would you state yourself as a creator, like, as a spirit flowing through you? You know, I'd love to hear kind of what your take is on that.

Kiko Ellsworth 12:35
I think that over the years, I've been calling myself so many things, and they've all been inaccurate.

Brandon Handley 12:43
Okay, so I bring that up, though, because I mean, we're creators of our own lives, right? And, and the sooner that we accept that, the sooner we can get to creating our own lives, right. And like, you were saying, you know, letting I love to like you, when you were talking about blocking spirit or not letting spirit kind of flow directly through you, you put your hand to your head, right? And that's, that's what happens, right? When, when we're, when we're kind of and have this conversation last night with a coach. When we're paying attention to ego, we're using our head, right, and there's, there's kind of like, this is blockage, right? But then like when we're just fully accept, and you brought your hand down a little bit, like, you know, kind of, we're full of expressing spirit, like, it's kind of flowing down through you out through your heart, and like, you know, you open up your arms a little bit too much. It's like, it's just coming through, like, a tsunami.

Kiko Ellsworth 13:36
Yeah, I think that's interesting. You picked up on that? Yeah. Because it's, it was totally unconscious. But I think that that's exactly accurate. When you if you were to, like, unpack what's going on that when we when we stopped flowing, it's, it's, it's this, that stopping the flow is our head. And it's also we're stopping the flow of this energy of seeing of the being, and we're this totally stopping and then but when we allow it, to have its way with us, man, man, just just that, that fun happens, you know, and so I think with with regards to like, accepting myself as a creator, you know, um, you know, I think the the frustration of like, what do I call myself? What do I call myself? am, I'm an actor, I'm a, I'm a director, I'm a teacher, I'm this, I'm this, I'm this and I'm like, I'm like, Damn, I was like, What? I don't know. And just changed like, hundreds of times. And, you know, I think just to keep it simple and truthful is like, at the end of the day, like, you know what, I'm a creator. Like, let me just get back, boom, I'm a creator. And so, at the end of the day, that's what I resonate. That's the truth. We're all creators. We all create our lives. We're all creating every single moment I'm creating right now. I'm creating something into the universe right now. with with with how Everything I'm doing thinking, speaking, vibrating, moving, creating something with you, my brother, listeners, my brothers and sisters with myself, you know, so, and then, you know, at certain points in my life, I've just learned that okay, and this era of my life, like right now in this era of Kiko sallallaahu Ellsworth slife right now, you know, because sometimes we need a little more definition than just creator because that's so broad. It's like, okay, but yeah, what do you do is like, okay, yeah, let me just kind of do this human thing now, you know, but at this point in my life right now, I'm identifying as, you know, an actor on camera artists, you know, that sort of identity, inspirational speaker, and high performance love and lifestyle coach. So those are my Those are my, my things that are most prevalent in my life is being able to express myself on camera, inspiring, and people, you know, speaking people speaking, on the stage with people, whether it be virtually like this on stage in front of 10,000 people, it doesn't matter. And then also actually doing the work like helping people to do the day to day work, whether I'm teaching a Kundalini yoga class, or breath work, or teaching a man how he can activate all of his cylinders as a man. So that's, that's where I'm rolling that right now, man. Yeah. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 16:29
That's great. I want to I want to get back to that. So what I want to do is kind of break into the one piece, right, you know, for a while there, there you are, your your, your Hollywood, your Mr. Hollywood Kiko? Right and you kind of like the Playboy, your party, and you've got the ladies, you've got the, you know, the vehicles and you're having a good time, right? Where is where is kind of the, the reckoning moment, right? where like, this is gonna, this this, this isn't working, right, this, uh, this isn't satisfying, this isn't fulfilling. I mean, I'd be curious to kind of what did you even recognize it as a Was it a slow burn out? Or what?

Kiko Ellsworth 17:09
Yeah, there was a few of those moments, actually, you know, 211 was, you know, and living the fast life with a woman and then you know, doing that, and I'm in the moment, and then like, this, this is, I'm in the moment, but this is not it. This is not the moment I'm not feeling it. I'm not even connecting to this, to this, this moment. This is supposed to be this is supposed to be it. This is supposed to be the fun of, of, you know, you know, being with women and, you know, running this and you know, and it just, I just remember, like, kind of like being pulled outside of my body outside of this experience that's supposed to be, you know, it, you know, the intimacy of being with a woman or women and all that stuff. And I'm like this, I'm like, I'm doing this act. And I'm like, just saying it, man. And it was like, my spear is like, yeah, you keep doing that. But like, I'm gonna be over here. And you do finish that or whatever. But I'm gonna be over here. And it's just like, Whoa, I was like, Okay, this doesn't mean much.

Brandon Handley 18:18
Yeah. So kind of like a hollow hollow moments. Right. And so hollow man, recognizing that, you know, recognizing them was it's your product of I want to say the simulation right, you know, a product of the of the simulation right, the product of I hate to say commercialism, because I'm not going to try and like hate on commercialism. Right? Because even as even as you did acting and entertainment, and that might not have been like the most fulfilling, you know, if you if you were to take that kind of role right now, you you might you might turn it down. But at the same time, there's value in entertainment, right? Everybody needs everybody needs that piece, right? everybody's like, the world's like, you know, you can get yourself down every once a while you just need something to distract. You need something to be entertained, right. So what you were finding hollow moments, right? So when, you know, when do you feel like was the Kundalini rising moment, right?

Kiko Ellsworth 19:15
Well, I was a slow rise for many, many years. And I had to add a big break down moment. But I remember another big choice of mine was when I was I remember that show heroes years ago. I don't know if you remember that. So I had a role on there. And I remember, they want me to continue to be on the show. But it overlapped with my spiritual development in a way that, you know, I was trying to learn how to be in a relationship with this woman that was helping me to advance spiritually, right. And I ended up marrying her and we ended up having a completion ceremony as well. And it was like Okay, you got to choose us. Shoes, the money in the show, and some this or you choose this over here, but you can't have both because they're both at the same time, it's like, you're gonna choose this, you know, going on a trip with her and, and, and developing and investing in your relationship or you're going to cancel the trip, postpone it, put that off, and then actually do this. And for me, you know, I just felt like I needed to choose me in that moment, and, and be willing to sacrifice the money, the fame being on a on a hit show. And that those sorts of things. And you know, and I did, and I ended up losing, you know, that role, they ended up like killing me off and stuff like that, you know, because there's someone else that's willing to take it and do those things. And

Brandon Handley 20:47
that was another moment. That's super powerful. Right? That's, uh, you know, God, I don't know that Jesus lies in the Bible lines, but I know that, you know, a big part of it is like, you know, get rid of everything else and follow me, right. And by saying that he's you know, basically you saying, doing what Jesus did, you know, get rid of everything else. That's kind of distracting and follow yourself, right? Follow follow the truth of who you are. Or at least pay attention to that intuitive moment, like you did. And choosing yourself over anything else. That's huge, man.

Kiko Ellsworth 21:24
I'm, like, enlightened, like, I mean, you tap in on it right there, like? And it goes back to the very first question that you asked me when we first started all this, right, choosing yourself, but most of us I know that I have very low self esteem, and I was very insecure, very low self esteem. When I now that Looking back, I realized that I didn't think much of myself. I and I looked at myself, and I just saw this sort of, you know, a human, you know, I didn't really see a divine being It was beautiful, and powerful and influential. And that that has all these magic, like literal magic. You know, I didn't see that. And so I think if we don't see that, we're like, Well, why would I choose me? Like, I'm just, I'm just a little old me, you know, I'm saying, Yeah, yeah. Because that's glitz and glamour. You know, I'm

Brandon Handley 22:22
saying that is? I mean, that's a great word for it, though. Right. That's the glamour. Right. That's that, you know, you're talking magical sense. Right. That's, that's the glamorization of this thing as its disillusionment. And I think that, you know, I don't know if it's purposeful. I'm not again, I'm not, I'm not a big conspiracy guy, either. I don't have that kind of time. But like, when exactly we weren't taught, we're taught to play small, right? We're taught to play small, we're taught to be humbled to, you know, be grateful for what you get, you know, don't ask for more than you need type of thing. So you are taught to be big. You weren't taught to, like, find that expression you weren't taught to? Even if you went to church, like you, and as a child, you wouldn't have understood to look for your divinity. Yeah. Right. Um, you know, at least again, not and mostly in like, the western civilization. And this is just another parallel before we started the show, you know, you know, I came upon the same thing myself, like, probably this started spiritual dope, right? Because at the start of spiritual dope, was the recognition of myself as a divine being. Right? 100% right. I do. So I've got a mini course called, like, the divine framework, right? Like it's recognized making that choice to recognize yourself as divinity is connected to the divine.

Kiko Ellsworth 23:46
What can be better than that? Yep. Because look, look, I mean, you you hit it, we were taught to be small, right? But, like, for those of you that are listening to this, you know, you are big like this is your world. Literally, like Neo in the matrix are the one that says

Brandon Handley 24:15
100% So uh, yeah, all good stuff man. And and I literally had during my awakening period, just because you're bringing up Neo references remember that part where he goes in there and he starts replicating, right? Dude? sober like for like months right? Like I didn't stop drinking right but if similar to your story, right, like we can get more into that and but replication moment, like we're like that same noise like in my body, like I was like, This is some fucking shit. Right? Like and again. So was the day is long and that was happening. I still remember calling my wife and let her know that like all this shit was going on. She's like, are you okay? Are you sober? I was like, Yeah, and that's the problem. Right like going through. I was like, that's because because you know if it was drugs or something else, I could I could I could put point to it. So, you know, you're, you're doing this right and you choose you, what are your friends saying? What are the people around you saying,

Kiko Ellsworth 25:08
I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't really know, I don't care. And at the same time, the ones that are showing up and saying things are, are are inspired, they're on board, you know, my main focus is me. And being true to me, like I said, I got enough work to do, to stay aligned with me, and to keep diving deep within me. And, you know, sometimes I come out and people have a response. And that's, and that's cool. And at the same time, you know, I'm okay with people not agreeing or saying certain things. Because at the same time, you know, it's got nothing to do with me. And I realized that as well, like, they're having their own experience, you know, whether they want to, you know, be responsible for that they're the creators of their own life and not in project what they want to project. Like, that's, that's on that's totally on them. And, you know, at the same time, there is a certain amount of reflection that I can get back from people, that also may just kind of give me a read on how I'm coming off or how, because I know, like, say, for example, if I say something that's a deep truth to me, and then I can calibrate that on a response that I get if someone responds negatively, I'm like, Okay, great. I understand that. But I'm also, you know, I'm also calibrating that this was a deep truth of mine, and I can bring up things for other people. So being able to discern the difference between, you know, if I, if I, if I'm standing in my truth, and it's bringing up negativity or something from someone else, I have to be able to discern, okay, this is something that's bringing up for them. And that has nothing to do with me. And at the same time, if it brings up something positive, and if it inspires somebody else, I have to realize that that that communication got through to somebody, right, and it inspired somebody. So I have to discern the difference between one action that can inspire some biomek. Okay, great, I see how it's resonating. And at the same time, if it brings up something negative, and someone else, being able to discern that same energy is bringing up something that has nothing to do with me, but has something to do with what someone else needs to work through in their own life, right. But I got to keep doing the same thing. I got to keep doing my thing. And my job is still the same. It's just like, Am I am I doing? Am I am I aligned here? Am I doing my Am I expressing myself better? Is it better? Am I speaking my truth? I got a lot of work to do, man. Look, I got a lot of work to do, bro.

Brandon Handley 27:42
100%. Right, right. And it doesn't stop. Let's talk. I mean, what what are some practical applications? Right? So you have the work, right? have, you know some of some of what you're doing? I know that you're you're you're helping men and women to find themselves to activate themselves to to be true to themselves? What are some? What are some practical teachings that you're sharing out there that some like, I don't know, man? What's something, you know, give me an example of something that you're working on today. And let's just walk it out. Right?

Kiko Ellsworth 28:14
Yeah, yeah. Well, let me just preempt it with this. My, my work that I do for myself, at times looks different than than the work that I do at times with people, you know, and it's, it's all it's all but it's all the one in the same as well, right? So say, for example, I'm creating this one course that I'm doing, and it's a, it's called, everyday divine love. It's just like, how you can express every day, divine, dope, powerful love, being able to say your brand, and I love you, brother. I love you. Every day, divine love being able to see the Divinity in you and me, and not feel like this is taking me away and making me less than a man like nah, every single day, I can say I love you to my brother, and not feel weak. Every single day I can say I love you to my sister, and not mean nothing sexual. I just love you, my sister. I love you. I want you to fulfill your divine mission because you came in for mission. And I want you to fulfill that. So, you know, that court and that particular course, it's really about like two things. It's about anchoring in and giving them the framework to be able to authentically start to anchor themselves for that clarity to being able to see everyone with that divine love Now that doesn't mean that we're all like a just vulnerable to everybody in the way we would get ourselves hurt. Because it's all about healthy boundaries as well too. And just because I love I love somebody that's evil, but you need to stay over there. I love you because everything's spirit right but You're at a vibration that I will not allow to come into my space at the same time, you see what I'm saying. So anchoring in that sort of insight filter to be able to see the divinity and everything. And then also the basics of breathwork, that the basics of being able to breathe properly diaphragmatic breathing, having a complete breath, most of us originated, our breath originates in our upper chest, or our clavicles, as completely unproductive. And that's going to take you completely off your path, it's going to be counterproductive to being who you need to be, and fulfill your mission. So with that, it's like, anchoring in that divine love and anchoring in just breathing properly, nothing, nothing special, just anchoring that breath down there into that diaphragm into that lower, you know, and then that chest, and then up here, and then learning how to breathe completely, right. And in that way, we can actually have, you know, sort of be the creators of our life in a very responsible and controlled, free flowing way. So that's something that I'm creating right now. But that's something that I repeatedly do, because a lot of people are so stressed, and they just don't we just, we're just in here, we're just not taught how to breathe

Brandon Handley 31:15
in and,

Unknown Speaker 31:18
you know,

Brandon Handley 31:20
if we don't know how to breathe, then you know, what else don't we know? Right? And I think that that's the crazy part. Because, you know, there you are, you're breathing, and you've been breathing your entire life. And now somebody is going to count and be like, you're doing it wrong. Like, what? What do you mean, I'm breathing wrong, I'm here, I'm alive. I'm doing well, aren't I? Like, you know, that's, are you? Right? I mean, that's a great question. Right? Like, are you? What is your What is your breathing style?

Kiko Ellsworth 31:52
You know, and it changes, obviously, for me, you know, I just make sure that like, say, say for example, my default breathing, that it always starts down here, it always starts down here. And it's something that I are constantly being conscious of a practice of just being aware of where my breathing is at. And never make myself wrong, just because like so you know, maybe in the day, I might start my breath here. I'm just conscious of it. So it's my practice to constantly be aware of how I'm breathing, where I'm reading the rate of how I'm breathing, the pattern, how I'm breathing, I don't ever feel bad. If I'm even breathing like up here. I'm not perfect with it. I'm always aware of my breathing. And then if it is somewhere else that is not necessarily optimal. I bring it back down to my belly, my navel point, my diaphragm. And what I like to say is I breathe low slow and it creates that glow. Number Baby,

Brandon Handley 32:55
I love it. The the you're talking about though, twos taken away judgment, right, just because you're not doing it and what you feel might be the best way for yourself. You're not beating yourself up over it.

Unknown Speaker 33:06
He know. Right?

Brandon Handley 33:09
So I asked that question, just out of curiosity, because there was are you familiar with I'm sure you probably are Hara style breathing, the Japanese and style of breathing? No, I

Kiko Ellsworth 33:19
never heard of that. Actually.

Brandon Handley 33:20
That's pretty cool. It's a little bit different than just I guess the in the book anyways, it says is a little bit different than Indian style of breathing, just because it stops it stops the diaphragm or the belly from dropping a little bit lower that I don't I mean, so. But it stops it from dropping just as low. But the thought that I had when I when I learned how to do a little bit of what you're talking about, right and and implementing this Hara breathing is the idea of

Unknown Speaker 33:51
Holy Grail.

Brandon Handley 33:52
Right? If you look at it, right, and I almost ended up like this. So the base down here would be the bottom of the chalice, right? And if you're squeezing here and you're breathing your, you know, your belly here, right? And then you've got up here on the top of the chest. This is the holy grail is breathing properly.

Kiko Ellsworth 34:08
Yeah, I'm gonna run with it. Yeah, you know, you're right. Because just briefly, the breath, your your quality of breath, directly influences your quality of thought. The quality of thought directly influences your quality of emotions and feelings, right? How you feel out throughout your entire body. And then our feelings and emotions directly influence our words and our actions. So our breath literally influences our ability to create the quality of life through our words. Someone that's breathing and I love the saying is like if you picture like a I think it was like a it's an old saying, but it goes. Deep breath, long life. Shallow breath close to death.

Brandon Handley 35:00
Oh, no. That's funny sounds like it's from like five fingers of venom or something like that.

Kiko Ellsworth 35:05
Yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly.

Brandon Handley 35:07
You picked up on that. Um, and so, so um, and another thing you mentioned in one of the other podcasts, I thought was pretty interesting. And they brought this, they brought this up in this book is called hair, how to find it, or how to share your link when I unpack. Because it's actually really interesting. It comes from, from a German psychologist who's been about 10 years with Zen Buddhists in the 40s and 50s. Right? So he was kind of a foreigner in this space. And one of the things they talk about, and there was something that you you brought up is like you by changing the way you breed, you change where your voice is coming from, talk a little bit about that, and how that comes about,

Kiko Ellsworth 35:51
oh, man, I I remember when I when I started doing Kundalini Yoga. And I'm doing class like 4am, early in the am 4am 4:35am. And I remember at that time, I was, I was so uptight. And I'm doing these mantras, there's a lot of mantras and stuff like that. And I remember that time, my voice was caught in my throat. And it was like, it was like, up here. And it was like, tight. And it was it was higher. And it wasn't coming from my diaphragm. And it was really heavy. And I remember in that class, I was like, why am I so stressed, I'm like, there's nothing happened. It's 430 in the AM. And I felt how I was holding everything up here, and my throat, and my shoulders. And when I learned how to breathe, my voice, my breath and everything just dropped down to my diaphragm, where it's supposed to be, you know, where, where you can blow where you can, you know, where you have your power. And that's, that's where my got my voice back. The creativity just started flowing through my pacing on how I talk, you know, slow down, you know, you just you just start to get yourself back. You know, this is beautiful, man.

Brandon Handley 37:19
100% 100%. And so this is something that you're you're another another piece I enjoyed hearing you talk about was how acting helped you to connect to your emotions, right? And to actually feels I love that. It's funny. About two weeks ago, I interviewed Anthony Mondale,

Unknown Speaker 37:40
are you familiar with him? Mondale?

Brandon Handley 37:42
Yeah, he's an acting coach out there in LA. Just wasn't sure if you guys ever cross paths?

Kiko Ellsworth 37:47
No, not my dad. One of my great friends is Anthony Montgomery. Not No, no.

Brandon Handley 37:53
Yeah. So when I was interviewing him, it was talking a little bit about this, right. Like, you know, he was saying, like, everybody needed, maybe I think classes. Absolutely. And, and, and I connected the two today when I was listening your podcast earlier. So talk a little bit about how that works. And you know, what, what, you know, how can somebody apply acting to, you know, figuring out their own emotions and their shit?

Kiko Ellsworth 38:17
Yeah, I think especially for, especially for men for both sexes, obviously. But especially for a man like fought for man, like, what we're coming from is like, Man, you better not cry, you better suck it up. You know, you being a little worse, you being that, you know, you better man up you better, you better you better man up, you know what I'm saying? We're coming from that sort of up tight, macho, you know, illusion type of crap. So, you know, a lot of men, you know, it's good for men, because it's almost like an excuse to cry. It's like, we have an excuse. It's like, Oh, no, I wasn't really going to cry. It's like, I'm an actor. So I get to cry. It's kind of like a bridge. And you're just

Brandon Handley 39:00
practicing for a role, right?

Unknown Speaker 39:02
Oh, man.

Kiko Ellsworth 39:04
You know, I was a real, you know, but but it gives us an excuse to get in touch with ourselves. Because once we make contact with ourselves, we go beyond that, that sort of fear. And we realize that, that it's actually okay. And that is actually a natural part of us. It's actually those if you imagine that we're a 12 cylinder, high performance vehicle, and that we're only using our masculine side, right that that strong, aggressive sun energy, we're only using six of our cylinders. But when we start to tap into that, that Yin, that recessive side, that feminine side of who we actually are that part that can slow us down and be more sensitive and creative, right? Then we actually get in touch with those other cylinders. Because, you know, being in touch with our emotions allows us to navigate life. I can't always just be aggressive with you or A child or a woman, I can't always be completely masculine. I have to know when to receive, when to stop, when to listen. And then when to apply myself to penetrate. It's a dance just like martial arts, I can't always strike I got to know when to block. You know, the best martial artists are boxers, the ones that know how to like, you know, like, Oh my God, look how he's like slipping that punch. Look how he's blocked and look at how he's moving. That's a feminine move right there. That's, that's it, that's an emotional move. That's being sensitive, that's being aware. And being aware and sensitive of what's going on with you from an emotional state is, is essential. If a person but particularly a man because we struggle with it the most. If a man wants to evolve, particularly he has to be aware, really aware of his emotions, if he wants to evolve as a man, if not, he's gonna he's gonna be like a dinosaur. And he's gonna, you're gonna die, he's gonna, he's not gonna be able to keep up with evolution does so so I mean, look, I

Brandon Handley 41:05
mean, there's, what you're saying is there's there's a lot of power in feeling that emotion and recognizing it, what's what's, uh, what's like the first tool that you give to a man who's just trying to figure out his emotions.

Kiko Ellsworth 41:18
Uh, it all It all depends where he's at, you know, for me, it's,

Brandon Handley 41:23
I'm in off the streets, and I, I'm tough as hell, and I don't have any emotions. So what's, uh,

Kiko Ellsworth 41:30
yeah, yeah. Well, I think the first thing is having a real conversation to acknowledge that everybody has emotions. And that, if you really are man, let's say for example, I might be dealing with this stuff, too, right? It's like, okay, so you're man, you're tougher. Right? So So when did you get hurt? So I know that cuz everybody gets hurt. You weren't born? It's where were you born this way. So where were you like before? You think that you didn't have motions? When did you stop having emotions? Look, your heart. Let's be real. Let's be tough about this. Who broke your heart, man, I don't remember who broke my heart. And I'll share, I'll share myself and I might even tear up I because I need to create a space right for him. So he feels safe, I need to lead by example. Right? So I'll create a space where he can start to see maybe himself in me. And then he can start to share himself. So he needs to learn how to explore the inner workings of his if several, he never felt safe to explore the inner workings of himself to reveal himself to himself, literally. That's how he's going to find him his strength. So, you know, some it's, it's, it's, uh, you know, I don't ever come out at the same way. And at the end of the day, I don't go out just looking for men. They gotta want it themselves.

Brandon Handley 42:40
We look. Yeah, that's I mean, that's huge. Right. Gotta want it.

Kiko Ellsworth 42:48
Yeah, right.

Brandon Handley 42:48
I still, you know, I think that I'm not sure if you were like me. And, you know, when you first kind of had your moments of awakening moments, or you're, you're like, Hey, y'all are spiritual now. Right? Yeah. Like, like a, you know, it's like I was. No, I'm

Kiko Ellsworth 43:05
not I'm not doing the drinkin and stuff.

Unknown Speaker 43:08
Already. Yeah, I'm

Brandon Handley 43:10
like, it's old school, right? Like, quite literally, like, I'm like, Hey, y'all, let's go streak in, right. And everybody's like, nobody's coming with me. But that's okay. But you know, there's also that point where you realize, like, you were talking earlier, it's, it's your own experience, and everybody else is having their own experience. And you got to want it, right, you got to be looking for it in order to, to immediately if you're not looking for it, you won't find it right.

Kiko Ellsworth 43:35
At some point, you're being selfish in that sense. You know, I'm gonna say it like that. You got to just start thinking about you. Because here's the thing. Like, I might say this to a guy too. I might say this, like, Look, you're gonna die, dude, you're gonna die. One day, you're gonna die. And you can either look back on your life because I believe we're gonna be able to look back on our life. And no, we're just gonna, you're gonna know. And so like, you can live a life that you're proud of. Right? And you can really have shown up in the best way that you can, or you can continue to, like, do what you've been doing. Right? Like we want to, we want to die proud. We want to challenge ourselves. We want to evolve ourselves as men, and be that and do the things that we need to say confront the fears, we need to say heal the relationships that we need to heal. You know, one of the most proud things I'm most proud of, is I you know, me and my dad I really was like over 30 years I healed my relationship with my dad. I created 100% peace with my dad. That was the relationship I did other ones too. You know, I'm saying but that was the one that was the one that was the monster that was the one I was most afraid of. That was the one that was the breakthrough. Right? What

Brandon Handley 44:39
was what was what made it the monster like I mean, what was what was it that you know, what was the wall like?

Kiko Ellsworth 44:46
Because I was afraid of my dad. I was afraid of my dad. You know, growing up. That was where a lot of the abuse happened to alcohol the the manipulation the that sort of thing you don't I'm saying I was afraid of my dad. He was the big bad monster. You know what I'm saying? I'm walking on eggshells being afraid It all started with, like, you know, my dad, you know, and now you know, but my dad, at the time when he had me when he was so young, right, I don't blame my dad, you know, like, but for me for being a young boy and and then having your dad, your hero, that figure and then being afraid of that, and then you have and then having to overcome that your entire life. You know, I'm saying that's that's like the big bad monster. So for me to, you know, when I was engaging in the world The reason why I didn't have my voice and the reason why I was afraid is because I was initially afraid of my dad.

Unknown Speaker 45:32
Yeah, well, I

Kiko Ellsworth 45:32
mean, that's why I was afraid to the entire world. Yeah, cuz.

Brandon Handley 45:36
Yeah. So I mean, I didn't mention it. But my first my first foray into doing the podcast was fatherhood stuff, right? covering the fatherhood space, right? Just understanding how important that is to have somebody that does the first stop. Right, your first office at home? Yep. Right. And so having to deal with a father like that, that tells you a lot, right, and what you had to overcome. So I mean, that's powerful that you did it, like, what do you do? You know, what do you attribute the largest of it, you know, kind of overcoming it just all the work that you did on yourself and fully accepting him for who he was? And, you know, what, what was the final breakthrough for you?

Kiko Ellsworth 46:13
I think, you know, it's interesting. My own dedication to myself, being selfish, wanting to be just the best version of myself, helped me to be the person I need to be to really make that job happen. That's one thing, right. And then along the path, I realized that I was in a Iosco ceremony, you know, one of these Iosco ceremonies, I've done like a lot of those, right. And in one of these ceremonies, I wrote down two words, I wrote down, Hey, Dad, that's all I wrote down. Because at that point, when I was in that, in the middle of that, I realized that if I could just say to my dad, Hey, Dad, with an open heart, peaceful, love, I realized that's what I wanted. And I didn't realize it. And many of us men don't realize we like oh, or woman or whatever, like, I'm cool. I'm cool. Just being over here. At the end of the day, I just like I challenge you, that we all really do want it, we might not think that it's possible, there might be a lot of pain, there might be we might have given up hope, we might not have the tools, we might not have developed ourselves enough. That might be looking like a big 30 foot 100 foot wall 20 feet thick, it might look impossible. That said, the child inside of us still wants that peace, wants that relationship still wants something healthy. And I think that we have an opportunity, we might not have been able to do it as a child. But we have an opportunity if we actually get the tools and the resources to be able to actually create that some of us got a really it took me 30 years, you got to fight for that. And then gonna be easy, right? You might not, you might never get the response that you need. But it's not about that always, it's really about like healing this up in here. And let me tell you, when I finally broke through to my dad, Yo, I found it I put it like this. I had there was like three, not physical fights. But there was three fights with my dad like emotional fights. The first one was like an explosion of volcanoes all over the place. crying tears, I remember was like, in the beginning, it was like in the middle of an alley dives, I got out the middle of his truck. And I was yelling at him. And it was just, it was all over the place. A second one. Same thing, but not as intense, right. Third time was same thing. definitely like it was like about 25% and intense. But I was much more in control with my tools and how to show up. And it was like, it was like I had to manage my ego and my spirit manages, right, keep him so he wasn't able to like run away and get out of the situation. And you know, hit it over here with my ego, maybe confront him with something and then speak my heart and then do this but and then also not be emotionally attached to what was going on with him. But be my own. It was there, then and then it was like and then it was like I remember the moment then he sat down. I'm not gonna tell you some Look, look. It's like Scarface waving a little white flag. never see that happen ever. So you're going to shoot me like I'm going out with it's like right? See, my dad at that time. Put it to sit down was like seeing having Scarface surrender. And I remember in that moment, everything changed. because something happened that I didn't even know that I was looking for and my dad Man, he spoke to me in a tone that that I hadn't heard like, in 40 years. Since I was a boy since I was like five. And a part that that little boy inside of me was like, I remember him. Yeah. I remember that voice. Yeah, I didn't, I didn't. I wasn't available for it in all the stuff that had happened throughout life, and all this stuff. But that didn't change the fact that when I heard that voice, that's what I wanted to hear.

Brandon Handley 50:35
Yeah. Yeah. I love that man. Yeah, you were able to just kind of get back to to the space, right? Where is just the two of you. You know, there's that Father, Son and father child bond. I mean, look, you've got your daughter, right. I don't know if you've got any other children. But there's that bond and do when when you're given all of your heart guests. And that's kind of a tone that you heard from your father, right? Like, get the unconditional love of a father and a child. And that's what had been missing for you for so long.

Kiko Ellsworth 51:05
Yeah, yeah. And as soon as I broke through with my dad, I was able to connect with my daughter at a deeper level, because I had a block with my daughter.

Unknown Speaker 51:14
Yeah,

Kiko Ellsworth 51:15
up until that point, when I broke through with my dad, I broke through with my daughter. And she also established a connection with him because she was like, disconnected from him, too. And I was wondering what was happening. And I was like, I want to be more connected. But it's not. That happened. It just started flowing.

Brandon Handley 51:32
There it is. There it is, man, I love it. So you know, you've got this, you've got training, you've got courses, where, you know, you're working with other people, I believe, you know, that you're also getting back into some acting right? You're getting back to work?

Unknown Speaker 51:48
Well, in front of the camera, we'll get in front of the camera. Okay. All right. All right.

Kiko Ellsworth 51:54
Yes. Is back for sure. Most definitely, absolutely.

Brandon Handley 51:58
so forth, we expect to see you this year.

Kiko Ellsworth 52:03
You know, this is what matters most right here having these conversations. And, you know, this, it starts with, like, it has been starting with, like these sorts of podcasts and these sorts of interviews. You know, I walked away from entertainment, because I didn't, I didn't have anything of value, in my opinion, to talk about, that truly matter, anything that I felt where I had a real foundation to stand upon. But being able to talk about things like my relationship with my father, now I got something to talk about. For me. That's the stuff that matters in life. That's the stuff that matters when we are on our deathbed when we're transitioning and going back to our home, right? That's the type of stuff that we can be proud of, you know, so, you know, starts with like this, I'm doing some a lot of public speaking. This this year as well, too. It might not be this particular year, like in TV or film. But that that will likely happen in the next like two years or so. What I'm what I'm doing is I'm getting back in front of the camera in ways that are most meaningful. And my job is just to listen to spirit, and to do and to go where spirit guides me. And like right now it has me speaking with you. And I'm so blessed to be here with you, brother. I'm so appreciative of you and holding the space spiritual dope podcast. Thank you to you and your listeners, man. And I'm just you know, I'm just grateful man. Yeah, thank you.

Brandon Handley 53:30
I'm so appreciative to have this opportunity to speak with you right to get to connect. And to be able to use a platform like this to do that. Right. So where can I send people then to connect with you? Where should we Where should we go? Get us some more Kiko?

Kiko Ellsworth 53:43
Your Yeah, um, you can find me on Instagram. It's just Kiko Ellsworth KKOELL sw rth. On Instagram and everything is like you can find everything that I do. They're awesome.

Brandon Handley 53:56
Well Kiko thank you so much again, man. You know, I'm sure most of people know you know, novice days is is is what it means to say, you know, I salute the Divinity within you. So I salute the Divinity with

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Mikal Shumate | Author of Blue Collar Enlightenment

Published: March 7, 2021, 9:35 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 10 seconds

Mikal Shumate grew up in a blue-collar family, served in the U.S. Navy during the Vietnam War, and worked in the construction industry for over 45 years before retiring. He holds a certification in interpersonal and trans-person counseling, and is an ordained spiritualist minister and oneness trainer. A lifetime of interest in learning about and obtaining higher consciousness lead Mikal to study and decipher the mysteries of all the world’s major traditions, spiritual philosophies and experiences. This ultimately led him to discover and interpret the mechanism for achieving awakening and enlightenment, which he now pass on to others within the pages of “Blue-Collar Enlightenment”

Connect with Mikal at LoveLightConsciousness.com !

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey, their spiritual dope this is Brandon Handley. And I am on with Michael Shumate, who grew up in a blue collar family and served in the US Navy during the Vietnam War. He's also worked in the conduct construction industry for over 45 years before he retired. He holds a certification and interpersonal and transpersonal counseling and as an ordained spiritualist minister and oneness trainer, after a lifetime of interest in learning about and obtaining higher consciousness, he was led to study and decipher the mysteries of all the world's major traditions, spiritual philosophies and experiences. This ultimately led him to discover and interpret the mechanism for achieving awakening and enlightenment, which he now passes on to others within his new book, blue collar enlightenment, Michael, thanks for being here today. How are you?

Mikal Shumate 0:51
Thank you. I'm doing well.

Brandon Handley 0:54
Fantastic. Awesome. So I'd love to start these off with the idea that you and I are basically, you know, we're conduits for source energy, right? And, and we, you know, something's flowing through us, you and I, today through this podcast is hitting somebody's ears, or maybe a video depending on what they watch the video, but there's a message that can only be delivered through you to that person today. What is that message?

Unknown Speaker 1:26
That

Mikal Shumate 1:28
it is possible to live life in a peaceful and happy state of consciousness where you're not stressed, and you can achieve anything you really want to achieve.

Brandon Handley 1:51
So I think that's a I think that's a powerful message. Right? And, and, you know, you build out this system for it. But even before we kind of get there, let's go, you know, what are some of the, you know, the, I'd be curious about what is even a spiritualist minister, right, and just kind of let's talk a little bit about your path and how you got to where you are today. So in in regards to even being the spiritualist minister, what would you tell me that is, and what's that mean?

Mikal Shumate 2:19
Well, early, early in my life, I had a number of experiences they had to do with people that I knew or people that I met. The most profound was a woman named Nancy Cappy who actually, at the time that I met her, I was a young man in my late teens, and she worked with my mother at the time in are in the same company, and they knew each other, so they and we also had a group of friends and things like that for the family. And so she was part of that network. And she did what are called reads. Okay, well, readings, you know, in most terms are, are seen as being psychic readings, she was psychic, but with a very definitive methodology. And her her method was Auric reading. So she would read the energy fields around your body. And she, I mean, she was she was one of these people that was born that way. You know, and she just, she just over her lifetime learned until she got to the point where that's all she did was, was her work by reading orders. And she, she had a profound effect upon me. I came home I was in, just joined the Navy. I came home on leave. And our neighbor, Latasha comes by and says, You got to go down and see Nancy. So why would you know, she's doing readings down here and was in San Diego. She's down here at the waterfront, and you need to get out and see her. Well, okay. Don't What else you got to do, you know? So I found a hotel room down on the waterfront where she had rented a room it was giving readings. And I walked in and she looked up and saw me and she just kind of stared at me for a minute. And then she finished what she was talking about. And then she says, may I come to you? I had no idea what she was talking about at the time. So she said, Yeah, okay. And so she, she told me things about myself. And two profound things stuck with me out of that. One of those was that I needed to learn how to separate my work life. from my home life. A lot of people bring their work home with them. And she told me, it would be very important for me to separate that. Which I learned to do. And in fact I do, I learned it so well that I would tell myself as soon as I get home, I need to call so and so and I wouldn't remember until the next morning. So it's, you know, so that separation was important. And then she also then exposed me to the idea that there was something else beyond what I had learned in my life. That all fell into the category of spirituality. In spiritualism itself, to answer your question is the study of psychic phenomena, the study of energetics that are beyond our normal, day to day process. And what it did for me was, it inspired me to, to wonder about and seek to, to refine and define and understand what consciousness is. So I had like, two, two operations going on in my life, I had my, my, my work, business, all that sort of thing. And then on the other side of it, I had my quest to learn about spirituality and consciousness. And, and then, of course, that evolved over the process of time. And we're talking about, you know, a 50, year 5050 plus year process, actually, over 60 years, almost 60 years process, to try to figure out, you know, who I am and what I am and who we are, and what we are, and that sort of thing, in my book is the culmination of that process up to the point I wrote a book, because consciousness and awareness is not something that you just reach it reach an endpoint, and that's it. No, it's not like, it's not like, okay, your body has

reached its limit, and you drop the body and whatever happens after that, right. So it's not like it's not terminal. Yeah, no,

Brandon Handley 7:26
I get that for sure. Sure. Just to jump in real quick. You know, we're already got a little bit to unpack there, Michael. So before we, before we get too far along there, right. I love what you're saying there in terms of, you know, there is, I mean, there may seem to be points where there's a plateau, but it's still ongoing, right? Even if it levels off, it's still expanding that that consciousness that you're talking about, right? Yes. And my

Mikal Shumate 7:49
experience is that we, that it's like a ladder, you you expand, you reach a point, and you stabilize it, that area, you in my experience, I would like have what they would call a colic cathartic experience of reaching a plateau. And then that experience then becomes normal. And it's like, okay, at that time, you know, it's like, You're full of Listen, you're full of joy, and it's just this wonderful thing. And then, and then that just kind of becomes ordinary. And then as you grow, then you step up again, and it's just a continuous process of that. Enlightenment is not a endpoint, it is a actually a beginning point of the understanding of the totality of your consciousness.

Brandon Handley 8:42
Can I tell you how frustrated I was with that one, right? Because, you know, as I as I look back on my experience, right, kind of mine was kind of a sudden, sudden thing, right? Kind of, like, I would liken it to a discarded seed that just goes ahead and sprouts anyways. Right? And and really, there was no stopping it. So you just kind of like, Oh, well, great. This is amazing. And then it's taken me personally about three years to kind of understand what's going on, try to verbalize it and really develop it. It's like, just like literally like being reborn, right? There's this whole there's a whole new language that I don't understand, or I understand but I'm looking for the language to to encompass the experience. Right. So when you know when so you've got this you got this lady, right? What What is it that makes you even believe her right at that time, because she's telling us some things. I'm gonna you know, your your your your, you know, late, late to your late teens or early 20s I'm guessing and what makes you believe her that what she's telling you is something that's even worth pursuing.

Mikal Shumate 9:55
Well, my attitude is I am I am a A dyed in the wool skeptic. So you can, I will listen to whatever you have to say. And then I will look into the world and see if that's valid for me or not. And so what what happened with me was, you know, a number of things that she talked about kind of resonated. And okay, well, let's, let's just see what this is. And actually what happened was, after I, after I got out of the Navy, I went into college. And after going to college, I came back to my hometown of Encinitas, California. And there was a place there called the chapel of awareness that I happen to just walk by one day and see Oh, no, and, you know, it's like, you know, your your, if you allow yourself to be spirit will drive you to wherever it is that you need to be. So,

Brandon Handley 11:03
agreed with that real quick there. You know, what, what would you say specifically resonated with with you? I know, it's been a while, right. But you said a few things she'd said resonated. And I'm just curious what those resignation points were?

Unknown Speaker 11:16
Well,

Mikal Shumate 11:20
gee, it's, I mean, you're talking.

Brandon Handley 11:23
As I say, look, if you can't remember, if it's I get it, but you know, that was this kind of the question that popped up in my mind, you know, what are these? What are some of the sticking points?

Mikal Shumate 11:31
Yeah, I think, you know, the, the, looking at that process, because that was just a step. You don't know, it's just one step in a whole lifetime of steps. But I did, I did study spiritual ism, which is that study of psychic phenomena and, and contact with just disconnected, you know, disembodied souls and that sort of thing. And a lot of other things, which is a very primal level kind of experience, you don't have to be highly spiritually evolved, to be able to connect into that frequency of energy, you just have to have that resonance in you, that resonates with you know, whatever it is that you're you're trying to connect with. Like that. For me, for me, it's a very, was a very primal level kind of thing. And there's a whole lot more stuff, the increases with frequency as your

Brandon Handley 12:38
frequency goes up. And I think that i think that's interesting, too. Even going back to kind of, you know, the, the kind of awakening experience, right, where the awakening or the initial enlightenment isn't, isn't the end point, right? That's, it's kind of ongoing, whereas even Alright, well, hey, here it is, I've awakened, not only have I awakened, now, I feel this the source energy flowing through me right now. Now, what I'm hearing you say, is that you don't even have to be like that elevated or, you know, you don't have to be that deep end to be able to do that right to connect with sources that what you're saying, like, you know,

Mikal Shumate 13:18
we're not talking about connecting with source we're talking about connecting with, with the spiritual entities.

Brandon Handley 13:24
Okay. would you would you define things?

Mikal Shumate 13:28
Well, the requirement, as I've come to learn, okay, the requirement is that you need to resonate at the same frequency, it is true, all the way up the scale, you want to resonate with your higher self, you have to bring your vibration, so to speak, you know, that's the term that was used when I was a kid, you know, you got to raise your vibration,

Brandon Handley 13:50
it's back Michael, just say no, it's it's all it's all coming back, right. It's a cycle a cycle of things.

Mikal Shumate 13:58
So so it's like, you know, the higher you raise your vibration that gives you the ability to connect out to other intelligence at that vibration, because we are in we are in we have been divided there. There. There has been definition stated that we have that we have dimensions of existence, like the third dimension is the primal dimension of existence on Earth, right. Raising that vibration of Earth up to the fourth fifth dimension is now what what's being called, you know, the evolution of humanity. A lot of things come together as you gather pieces of the puzzle. And so what happened for me was I spent pretty much my lifetime gathering pieces of the puzzle. And about three years ago, three, four years ago, it all kind of coalesced and children came together and I had a much clearer Understanding of a much larger picture. And that's really where where my book takes people is how to get yourself into that state of being. So that you can, as you say, connect with source, because ultimately, everyone is connected to source,

Brandon Handley 15:23
for sure, for sure, for sure, right? It's not that you're not connected to source, it's your ability to recognize your connection with source or your awareness or, you know, kind of, you know, listen, so my mom, I was born in late 70s. My mom, you know, in San Francisco, right? So I've got a little bit of background in tuned in what does it tuned in turned on or whatever? Tune into now, whatever you tune in, drop out, whatever, you know, so there it is, right. There it is. Right. So the language right there, you know, is it right? It's already kind of in existence, kind of like there's already like a radio tower out there. All we got to do is dial into it. Right. And, and just recognize it. And and I think you would you say that you've got to want it, which you've got to say that you've got to be willing to receive it, that type of thing?

Mikal Shumate 16:15
Well, I yes, I think I think there are exceptions to people that with people that actually came in to, specifically to do that kind of connection. But for most people, you you meet, you need to be drawn into the what I would call it spiritual curiosity. Okay, so if you're, if you're, if you're, if you wonder, what is this? And you know, I mean, I would think that a majority of people wonder about, you know, why they're here on this planet at this time, and what their purpose in life is, and, and such like that, you know, the big existential questions that people have, but I think that the basis of all evolution is spiritual curiosity, that you want, you have a, you have an innate internal sense that there is something else and you want to find out what that something else is. And it can be drawn, you know, depending on your state of evolution, it can be drawn into a religious movement, you can be drawn into, you know, higher consciousness type movements, you can be drawn into meditation, you can be drawn into all kinds of things. I mean, there's 7 billion people on the planet, and there's 7 billion ways in which we can access this information. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 17:44
100%. And that's why like, I was definitely catching, catching your language saying, Hey, this is what you know, in my experience, this is what's been valid for me. Right, I'm hearing you say that. But what I think is also interesting, too, is that, you know, so here you are, you're, you know, you're in the military, how long were you in the military? And, and kind of what was your experience while you were seeking through that we sharing your experiences of seeking through that? Or was that kind of a solo experience for you? Well,

Mikal Shumate 18:14
I was in the military for three years, nine months at 26 days. Counting, right, so I did a minority term where I enlisted when I was 17. And I got out on my 21st birthday. So

Unknown Speaker 18:31
it was

Mikal Shumate 18:34
it was a process of working out. Or at least at least, the beginning of working out things from my childhood, in the military. It provided it provided a structure for me. It provided discipline,

Unknown Speaker 18:59
and

Mikal Shumate 19:02
gave me a chance to discover what I was capable of doing as a person. And that I was capable of going through this training and such like that. But more More importantly, what it was it was a mechanism for, for my future. In the fact that at the time, they had the GI Bill, well, they still have gi Yu GI Bill, but at the time. The GI Bill was very generous. And when I got out of the Navy, after about two years of, you know, flopping around and in society, I thought, you know, I want to I want to get an education, you know, I'd be the first person in my family to get a college education. And so the GI Bill help you do that. And, of course, when you go to college, what happens there is it's not about necessarily the subject matter. It's about the exposure to all the different things That at that time was probably the best way to broaden your horizons to expand your perspective on the world. Nowadays with the internet, it's a whole different story, because there's so much information available on the internet that you have a world education, you know, just by sitting in your, in your home, you know, but for me at that time, that was a, it was a mechanism that took me in to set me up for how I was going to operate in the business world and make a living and that sort of thing, at the same time, giving me opportunities, because where I went to school was up in the Monterey Peninsula for two years, and then up in Sonoma State University, for another three years. It gave me an opportunity to be exposed to a lot of different things, culturally different people, and become aware of other types of spiritual movements. It was a time of the Maharishi doing his thing. So I got exposed to that I got exposed to people that were interested in different spiritual paths, different gurus and things like that, because it was a lot of influence from the east coming in, at the time. So in that in those five, six years that I was hanging around in that environment, I got exposed to a lot of different philosophies, a lot of different perspectives and things like that. And each one of those things, gave me a piece of the puzzle.

Brandon Handley 21:38
Sure, sure. And that's pretty cool. How you're the first you like that you're the first new college, college graduate, right? And in your family taking kind of advantage of that mechanism for a future, let's talk about, like, how you're talking about the idea of, you know, going in getting that education, but the education, you know, and, you know, like, you keep saying, you know, in my experience, right, and my experience, you know, going back to school, after you've had some world experience makes that education a little bit, a little bit more applicable, right. If you just go from if you just go from school to school, you're just continuously learning, you don't have some real world application. So what you're sharing is that you were able to go, you know, finish up school, go to the military, you know, like you said, flop around a little bit. And then when you went back to school, you were able to kind of learn some things that you could actually apply to the real world. Is that how I'm picking that up? Yeah. And then it's pretty neat. Like how you were exposed to all these different types of new philosophies or philosophies. I think that during during the time that you were growing up in that period where we're new to the United States, right? Yes. What was your What was your personal background prior to even jumping into these these Eastern philosophies? Were you a Christian?

Mikal Shumate 23:04
Yeah, we was Catholic. I'm the old guy. So I'm the oldest of nine children. Guess what, guess what religion? We were. Right. Right.

Brandon Handley 23:16
Right. That's fair. So it wasn't Mormon. Yes. Were you? Did you know? Did you break away from that faith while you're studying all these others, to go off on your own and figure it out yourself?

Mikal Shumate 23:28
Actually, I broke away from from Catholicism when I was about seven years old. that I had, I had an experience that kind of made me stop and think and look, it's like, you know, this has always been part of my character to, you know, wonder about things. So, one Sunday, we were getting ready to leave for church. And I think we were there was like, four or five children in the family at that time. And I just put on Sunday clothes, all the good clothes and all that sort of thing. And I and I would walk it outside. I was I'm six foot five now, which is shrunk from six foot six. And I was so I was a tall, gangly, uncoordinated kid. And I stumbled on the way out, stepping down the porch, and skinned my knee. And I tore my pants. And my father just got furious with me about it. And I couldn't understand why he was so mad about it. No, it wasn't that I tore my new clothes and things. He says, We can't go to church with you looking like that. And I thought, why not? Because why does Why does God care what I look like? And that just started me looking seriously at Catholicism and things. You know, and religions in general, over over my lifetime to see what it is that you know, that was that made sense of what didn't make sense. And so that was that was that was the initial point right there that was early in my life.

Brandon Handley 25:16
Yeah, I mean, that's definitely young to be breaking away from your own kind of foundations right or even your family structure. So that's pretty cool. Let's, um, let's talk a little bit about, you know, the idea that you've got this mechanism for achieving awakening and enlightenment, right, let's talk a little bit about maybe what we can find inside of the book, blue collar, enlightenment.

Mikal Shumate 25:36
Okay, well, the, the, the essential point is that the, there's a, there's a whole process that I go through in the book to get to this point, but the essential point is, is that the, the best state of being is to be present. Totally present for the experience of your life. And what keeps us from being present is our memories, which are, which we indulge in the thoughts of our past, actions and, and, and things like that. And that's most its most destructive and most seriously understood. If you think about times, when things that happen to you, and it just rolls around in your head and rolls around and just won't let go will leave you alone, it just, you're just stuck back there at that moment in time. Well, the past is the past, it's gone, there's nothing you can do to change it, you can reiterate yourself experience within your mind as long as you want, it's not going to change anything in the future hasn't happened yet. So that's it, that's a you know, the reality is, is that we live our life, in moments by moments by moments. And so if we can be present for the moment, then what happens is everything changes because at that point, we are connected to our core self. And we are able to be guided to that thing, which is the most appropriate for us to be

Brandon Handley 27:31
what would you say some of the mechanisms are specifically to stay president way? How do you how do you break out of, of, you know, living in the past or in the future and bringing yourself to be fully present?

Mikal Shumate 27:44
Well, it is a it is a actually a very simple thing that is hard to do. That's what I find about the truth about most things is they're very simple. It's just that they seem to be hard to do. So what I was, you know, I I trained in for about 10 years in India, learning different kinds of meditations and processes and things like that. And one of the most influential people on that kind of brought me to the Enlightenment moment was a couple of people called, well, it started out with oneness universities, where I studied with Sri Bhagwan Shri Rama were the founders of that his son tree mine stopped.

Unknown Speaker 28:45
You can just go with a son,

Mikal Shumate 28:47
he and his wife prekmurje have taken over the, you know, the university and combine their operations to into what's called

Unknown Speaker 29:06
one one world Academy.

Mikal Shumate 29:12
It doesn't make any difference. What what he what he showed me was that there are only two states of being that you can possibly be in. You're either in, you're in a state of being happy or you're in a state of being stressed. So, understanding that what isn't if you take a look at what is it you can do for yourself to resolve stress in your life. The most effective thing that you can do is calm the mind. And how you learn to calm the mind. The best way that I know is to learn how to be silent, which is is what is what we call it meditation. Okay, so if you if you Put yourself in a position where you can be called, where you can slow your process down. And your awareness can watch the mind, then what happens when you start watching the mind is it starts, it doesn't like to be watched. So it will stop chitter chattering, in this stopping chitter chatter will happen a little bit at a time. And as you persist in the process, it becomes more and more and more until you can sit and be in silence. In in when you're sitting in Venus as your total awareness and experience of what of what is there for you. And that's, that's how you get to that point. After that, it's, you know, there's all kinds of things that can happen for you, who become aware of, in fact, you know, science is actually catching up with spirituality now. They're, they're aware that everything in the universe is connected. Well, all of us are connected to each other. What I do affects you, what you do affects me on some, at some degree in some level. And so when we're able to be in that space of silence, we're able to be in a place of total connectivity. And therefore we have access to the field of consciousness, which then can out of which we can then create whatever it is that we want. The reality is, is that we're doing that all the time. We just don't know that. That's the we're creating our life. We're, you know, as they say, we're co creators of the experience.

Brandon Handley 31:51
Yeah. 100%. I think that were, I love that you got the opportunity to spend, you know, 10 years in India, right. Do you think I mean, just out of curiosity, do you think that your experience is still possible for somebody else today? To go back? Well,

Mikal Shumate 32:06
it wasn't 10 continuous years, it was over a period of 10 years. Okay, gotcha,

Brandon Handley 32:11
gotcha. Well, I mean, even

Mikal Shumate 32:15
the most time I spent there was like about six weeks. Okay. Is it possible? Absolutely. Okay. You know, it given the current pandemic condition, we have to get through that. And then once we travel again, right, yes. All those things in India are still there, right? If you feel drawn to that,

Brandon Handley 32:36
right. 100% 100% I mean, you're you're out there. I think Monterey is got some places out there. I was just out there in LA not too long ago, where they've got the Self Realization Foundation, right. Yogananda

Mikal Shumate 32:51
fellowship,

Brandon Handley 32:52
fellowship. That's,

Mikal Shumate 32:53
that's in Encinitas. That's where I used to live.

Brandon Handley 32:55
Yes. I mean, you're right down. Did you did you did you spend some time there? So, okay, I mean, yeah. Okay.

Mikal Shumate 33:02
Most, most the time it was my biggest exposure was when I was young, you know, and we actually we, it's, it's actually, there's a state park there called Swamis beach. And that's, that that's because the locals used to call the place to Swamis place, you know? Who was there? Yeah. pazza Yogananda was a great influence on me very early in my life. Okay, his

Brandon Handley 33:31
book, right? I actually just ordered it. I've never read it. And I said, Fine. You know, I'll go ahead and read it. Yeah, it's, um, I don't know if you know this, but Steve Jobs actually handed out that book on his deathbed. So what was the Yeah, Steve Jobs died. He gave everybody in attendance, a copy of that book?

Mikal Shumate 33:49
Yeah. So I thought that was it. There's a lot of there's a lot to be learned from that. That's one of the one of the things that I read when I was younger, right.

Brandon Handley 34:02
You talked about, you know, just jumping back a little bit in the in being in the military, and processing, like kind of some childhood stuff. Was there anything like in there? What would you say you had the process? to kind of get through that, how did you do it?

Unknown Speaker 34:22
Well,

Mikal Shumate 34:32
this is a lot of things. Probably just, it just, it just gave me an opportunity to grow up, you know, to to transition out of childhood behaviors into a more disciplined adult behavior. At the same time, I recognized after a couple of years, that I didn't want to spend my life doing this. So I knew that Did you know that this was just a one time thing, it really was an opportunity for me to get away from home. My father was very abusive. When, when I got big enough that I could square off against them, he stopped being physically abusive to me, and just mentally abusive to me. And actually, it was so, so intense that I actually left home. When I was 16 years old, I left home. And but, you know, after a few months, out there on your own living at friends, homes, and that sort of thing, you know, it's like, oh, what are you gonna do with your life? Boy? Well, that's what I say, Well, you know, I could join the Navy.

Brandon Handley 35:49
Nice, nice. Well, look, I mean, you got it. Oh, yeah. Yeah, good for you to kind of kind of get out of there and away from that, right, split off from there. And I'm sure that that has a lot to do with what you needed to process kind of going counter that. And even kind of going forward, right? That's not the type of thing that just that just falls away super easily. So thanks for Thanks for answering that one. You know, you talk about the calming the mind silent meditation. And I'm just trying to imagine you out there working in the construction industry, pausing in the middle of the day, taking some deep breaths and saying no mistake or something like that. How did that how, how were you able to, you know, weave this into practical application on the job and that sort of thing. Just curious how it shows up there for you? Well,

Mikal Shumate 36:36
it's not like it was a continuous day to day process for most of my life. Once, once you achieve the ability to do this, then it's fairly easy to exist in that state. It doesn't mean that you don't have thoughts that the, the achievable goal is, like 70 to 80% of the time, you're in this state of presence, not 100% of the time, if I was there, 100% of the time, I probably would have no reason to stay here. You know, if I drop the body and go do something else. Yeah. Right. But so it's not like it's all the time and it we're talking about a process here for me, that has spanned a period of Firstly, 60 years. Michael, would

Brandon Handley 37:40
you say there's any way to accelerate that,

Mikal Shumate 37:42
I would say that now is the time to accelerate that, that that it is the energy and everything is changed the dynamic, the the the the push for ascension into higher dimensions and things like that, have brought in an opportunity for people to, to make these transformations in their life, and do it in a very short period of time.

Brandon Handley 38:10
What would you say? There's evidence of that, right? Where, where? Where would somebody See that? I guess, what's the basis of that statement for you?

Mikal Shumate 38:18
Well, it has to do with all the people I'm in contact with, and the things that I am continuously studying. But also from, from my experience, because it didn't all come together for me until, you know, 20 2017 2018 that's when I had my transformational experience. And, and discovered what this actually feels like. I mean, you know, this is really, we're talking about, we're talking about the mechanism for, for experience on this planet is feeling. So, you know, you pay attention to your feelings and how you feel how you how your body feels, how your attitude is, and you can accelerate this process now. And the only way that you're going to know how long that's going to take is to start doing it. But I'm, I'm very confident in in my observation of my environment and my experiences out in the world these days. shows me that yes, it's possible to make these transformations and make it you don't need to spend

Unknown Speaker 39:43
years in India

Mikal Shumate 39:44
a lifetime or you don't need to spend lifetimes doing

Brandon Handley 39:47
this. Sure. Sure. You got a couple things in there that that are intriguing to me, right. One is that you're an older male, right? And and, you know, born born and raised Western civilization, a different generation. And it's this idea of males dealing and with their feelings, right? How did you kind of come about that spot yourself to say, holy shit, I gotta I gotta pay attention to my feelings. Right? This is, this is this is the key. And then you know, so finding that key. So it's like you find the key, and you're looking for a lock, right? You're like, you're like, holy shit, here it is, the feeling is the key. What does this unlock and sounds like that, that unlocks this kind of an ongoing, enlightening experience, but just I just want to hear how you were able to get there and especially share it out with the males out there? Well,

Mikal Shumate 40:45
I have to say, first of all, I have been very emotionally aware, from very early in life. A lot of emotion was not very positive emotion. But it, it my awareness of how it affects my body and such like that. I've been aware of that for a long time, I consider myself to be very male, female, balanced. It's, I'm unusual for males. Most, most, most people are one way or the other. But I think that simply the process of being aware of what's there and acknowledging the truth of what's there is what transforms your ability to have, you know, a total experience.

Brandon Handley 41:55
Agreed, right, agreed 100%. But again, you know, it's, I guess, how did you be? What do you have a point in your life where you feel like you were always kind of emotionally aware and how it was impacting your body? Your daily life? Isn't a pinpoint for that, right? Because, again, this is something that I see over and over, especially in the western male civilization, right? Not understanding what emotions that they're feeling to begin with, right, nor understanding, you know, kind of the impact on the body, right? The, you know, if we look at alchemy, right, we are walking chemical creation factories, right, and what we feel, creates those chemicals that impact our body that impact, you know, our magnetic field and resonance, right, and on and on and on. So my question to you again, is, was there a point where you said, This, is it right, or you began to recognize those feelings and emotions and the impact that they were having? Or is it just always innate for you? And that's, that's

Mikal Shumate 43:03
its primary, it's primarily an eight. And there was a point where I recognize the impact of emotions on the body. And interestingly enough, it was when I was in college. It is one experience of many that stands out for me. I had been in a relationship and then had the gone through a relationship breakup. And it really hit my sore plexus. To the point where I had gut pain, like, I just couldn't understand why, you know, it was just, the emotion was so intense. And interestingly enough, the solution was hugging a tree. Somebody told me, you know, yeah, tell me. Tell me, the trees, trees will help you release this emotion. So I said, Okay, fine. I, you know, I've had enough of this. And I found a nice, I think it was a nice redwood tree or something like that big

Brandon Handley 44:17
tree,

Mikal Shumate 44:18
and just grabbed the whole thing and then held on for an hour or so. And it actually worked.

Brandon Handley 44:25
Wow. Well, you know, I've definitely seen that type of thing. I've got a bunch of trees in my backyard. I'm like, I kind of want to go try it out myself. But I want to do it in private, right, like, Okay, this tree and I have a moment, please. So, I enjoy that. And I also just, I see a sea kind of, and I'm familiar with this type of someone's this, this this gut punch right? Where your your feelings are just all centered right there. And just for that one moment, you're kind of your hidden pain, right? That solar plexus, right? Yes, and there's just there's nothing but that moment which, in honesty, you know, if you, you know, if I reflect back on I'm like, there's a moment where I was truly present to myself right truly present to what was happening within me. At that time, I wouldn't have addressed it. In the same way, I would have just addressed it as this sucks. But at the same time, that's what I was present for was just that feeling emotion and listening to my body. Right, and just kind of coming, you know, surrendering to that moment? space. So how can you use good ideas? If you're going through this type of thing? Michael, just I mean, another one, if you said there was a keystone to your entire program, you know, sounds like sounds a little bit like, you know, calling the mind awareness be present? Are there any other key stones or just really revelatory moments? What do you do even recall? Like, when you recognize the whole puzzle had kind of come together for you? You know, you're talking 2017 18 you're like, Eureka.

Mikal Shumate 46:07
Well, yes, there, there was a thing I was. I was studying at the One World Academy. And, and they were taking us through a process. And that process was called

Unknown Speaker 46:31
the

Mikal Shumate 46:40
minds, the mind slips. Oh, mercy. Google, will be

Brandon Handley 46:55
able to edit that out. And yeah, just a space. But there's a process that you were going through, you don't remember a specific process? And that's all right, can you talk a little bit about like, what happened during the process, and then maybe, what the well actually what

Mikal Shumate 47:09
happens, what happens in the process is they they take you through a meditation where your where your consciousness has expanded out into what they call the, the limitless field of consciousness. And you can, if you can experience that space, then what happens is, there is a space where there are no limitations. And if you can focus on one single thing and focus on a clear intention for that, then you can create that intention manifesting. So

Brandon Handley 47:59
do you have a recollection of maybe the first time you realize was this the first time you realize that you were capable of being the CO creator and manifesting those things? Or do you realize that before?

Mikal Shumate 48:11
Well, what manifested what made this sink in it actually like to be honest with you took me it took me months to really realize what had to happen. But at the time, I had a very serious cancer related growth on my cheek. It was it covered it covered a good portion of my cheekbone, and it was probably a couple inches in diameter. And so my, my wish my intention was that my face heel, and this, I mean, this looked like a charred burned mass on my face. And but we did that meditation is the great soul sync meditation. That's what is called the great soul sync meditation. So available on YouTube.

Brandon Handley 49:08
We got that one out right now. Right? Hey, guys, here's the secret. Oh, wait, I forget what it is. But good luck out there.

Mikal Shumate 49:17
Hey, I'm 75 years old. What do you want, you know? But anyway, that was about four days before the course ended. By the time I left, at the end of those four days, that great big mass had shrunk to about the size of a dime. And three days after I got back home, which was about five days later, it was completely healed, because I had an appointment with my dermatologist. And he looked at that and he said, My God is incredible. And so it's like okay, Miracle, right? Well, we can create miracles. And that's when I discovered that process and what it felt like to be connected into that space. I mean, this is the most important thing is what what it felt like. Because when you have a feeling, you now have something you can relate to other than just a thought. So you can, you can be aware of that thing when you when you get back there again, you go, Okay, I'm back here again,

Brandon Handley 50:38
Michael, what's up? What's the miracle feeling? Right? Like, I mean, what does that feel like? Tell us a little about

Mikal Shumate 50:43
that. It's, it's, uh, it was, it was, it was a soul premiere, it was a slow dawning process, that of what actually happened after I had a few months to, to, you know, live with it, and be aware of it and have people talking to me about it, and that sort of thing. And, and it's kind of like, okay, yeah, this is something that is possible. And, from that, in the experience of learning how to meditate to the point where I can slow down in inactive consciousness where I can be present, you know, those things came all out of that experience. And for me, it's, it's a, it's easy to recognize when my thoughts are running. And I can stop the train. And I can be present, I can move, actually, you know, I mean, this is, this also involves some physical awareness in the heart is the key to the whole thing. So it's like, there is a, that's where our connection to sources, there's a little, little tiny space in the heart, where that little spark of of source resides in us. And so connecting with that source connecting with that spot, and you're able to do that by being present, you've moved, you can actually, actually, you can move your consciousness anywhere in your physical body that you want. I don't know how much time we have. But I, I learned, I learned that when I went through the string, II St. Earhart seminar training back in the 70s, early 80s. We had an instructor who had a scar on his face, and it was an ugly scar. And he says, I'm going in this weekend to have had this scar produced fixed. He says, I'm going to do it without anesthesia. And he says, and that's because if you because I know that if you put your consciousness right there at the point of pain, pain has the job is to tell you that something's going on here that needs your attention. If you put your attention there, if you put your awareness and your consciousness at that point, he will not hurt to pain will have recognized pain will recognize that it's done its job and it will not hurt. This guy did that process, I discovered the truth of that as, as in most things, through my own experience, when I cut myself and slice my finger in, you know, a work related kind of thing. And, you know, I bashed it, it was throbbing in it, so it's okay. Little mind pops up and says, Well, what about that thing? That guy said, Oh, well, let's try that. Okay, so I just focused my attention, put my awareness and my consciousness into that point. And it's not hurting. Because it Okay, this works.

Brandon Handley 53:52
Right, this works. And I think that I think that a lot of times, right? It's, it's when somebody tells you something like that, or teaches you, you know, you kind of want to call bs you like, I will bs until you actually experience it yourself. Right. And it's one of those things that can only happen internally, and it's subjective. So it's difficult for somebody else to outside of you believe that right? unless they've had that experience themselves.

Mikal Shumate 54:21
Yeah, I think I think it's where healthy skepticism comes in.

Unknown Speaker 54:24
We don't for sure,

Mikal Shumate 54:25
allow the possibility that this thing may be, in fact true. But don't just become a believer actually branch out and be in become a knower right

Unknown Speaker 54:41
now and yeah, no,

Brandon Handley 54:42
this thing is true. For sure, for sure. You know, when you're talking about being a co creator, you know, I was definitely skeptical of that kind of thing before until, you know, I've had some experiences myself where there's just been co creation, right, like, Wow, I can't believe that happened almost identically to What I saw my mind with great ease and just kind of showed up in my life. Right? And and that's, I mean, it's pretty crazy. And you have to be willing to look for it right? You have to kind of be willing to look for the evidence of that. And all those other things, one more thing for you kind of before we tie it up, right? This is the book is for ordinary people. Right? And I'm just curious what you mean by ordinary people,

Mikal Shumate 55:26
people that have no spiritual training, particularly spiritual training. I try to keep all the blue stuff out of the book. No, it's because I don't want to put people in a position where they have to decide whether this stuff is real or not, you know, I don't want to turn people off, it's a process a very simple process of understanding our relationship to our existence on this planet, and how we can change our experience of that get into the point where we're living in that, what krishnaji calls a beautiful state as compared to be in a stressful state. So if you're experiencing negative emotions, you're angry, you're, you're sad, you're having you know, those kinds of experiences, you're stressed. That's one way to live life. The other way to live life is to, to recognize that those things are just thoughts in your mind. And it's not you. So that you can and then to recognize an experience that you can be something other than that. And, you know, most people have had some kinds of, you know, really positive experiences in their life that they can relate to, to that sense, that feeling of being that way. And in my book, I take you through all the background understanding of how to get to the point where you can know that this is possible, and then it's up to you to to do it.

Brandon Handley 57:07
That's awesome. That's awesome. I love it, man. What you know, and why now? Right? Why? Why? Why this book? Why now for you?

Mikal Shumate 57:16
Just, it's how it evolved?

Brandon Handley 57:18
Yeah. Okay,

Mikal Shumate 57:19
I gotta do what I got to the point where I, where I understood it. I just was, I was just was guided, to be honest with you, I was just guided to, okay. You know, I've been, I've been writing these pieces and things like that, you know. And now it's time to put all this stuff together. And because as I go, as I go along, in my training and my experiences and things like that I you know, kept it not necessarily a journal, but I kept a log would write things, things would be inside ones be inspired by I'd write it down. And so all that stuff I brought together into the book, and even the name of the book came to me, you know, I was just like, I was told, look all enlightenment. Let's, let's name your book. Okay.

Brandon Handley 58:10
I think I think it's a great name for the book. And I, you know, I'm pretty excited. I haven't read it yet myself. But I think that I think that what you're talking about is going to speak to the blue collar people to those ordinary people to somebody who's maybe had one or two experiences and doesn't know how to kind of pin it down, right doesn't know how to recreate those experiences. And it sounds to me like, you're helping someone to, again, decipher the mysteries, right? And some of those mysteries are what was that feeling that I was feeling and how did this happen? Right, and then being able to pin it down, recreate it and and implement it for the rest of their lives that said about what it boils down to?

Mikal Shumate 58:48
That's it's a path to do that. Yeah, for sure. Why can you just all you have to do is do the work?

Brandon Handley 58:54
Do the work, right. I mean, that's, that's all that's always the challenge, right? That's the challenge is actually doing the damn things. Right. Dude is a simple,

Mikal Shumate 59:02
simple process. That is hard to do. For sure. So this

Brandon Handley 59:07
helps you to do that. Where Where can I send people to find out more about you and this book?

Mikal Shumate 59:14
Okay, well, I have a website. It's love, like consciousness.com. My book is available to my website. It's available on Amazon. It's available on Melbourne press, who is the publisher of it? And there's a number of things on the website. recently have happened. articles that have been published and that sort of thing that might interest people.

Brandon Handley 59:43
Okay. Would you call those kind of just add ons to the book, right? Be like, hey, since I've written the book, you might want to you might you might want to find out about this. Right. Right. Right. Okay. Well, great supplemental material can be found on love, light and consciousness as well as the full book, Michael, I just want to say thank you so much. much for joining us today on spiritual dopes Ben great.

Mikal Shumate 1:00:03
Hey, if you send me a link, I'll put it on my website.

Brandon Handley 1:00:07
Absolutely. Absolutely.

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Allan Dubon | Finding your purpose through service

Published: Feb. 28, 2021, 1:19 p.m.
Duration: 57 minutes 22 seconds

What do you do when you are diagnosed with cancer?

Do you curl up and ask why God why?

Or do you look for ways to serve?

I have known Allan Dubon for quite some time now, a few years at least...

A year ago at this time, we touched base for a brief conversation, and he asked me what he could do for the podcast I had been working on... and while we chatted, he told me that he had Leukemia.

My mind imploded a bit, and it was a continuation of his regular self... someone who is out there to serve you no matter what your field or background is.

Take a listen to hear where Allan learned how to give, even if, especially if you have nothing, and the impact it can have on your life.

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey there spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here on with my good friend Alan do bond Allen has had quite a bit of impact on on the result actually, Alan, I reached out to you. When I thought of spiritual dope, I was like spiritual dope. And Alan and I'd worked together on the prosperity practice when I did that. I was like, I want to do this thing you're like, Well, are you sure you really want to do the same? Or is that just another shiny object? I'm like, No, bro.

Unknown Speaker 0:34
I'm in. I'm

Brandon Handley 0:35
all in. And Alan was part of giving me the green light. And I think what's really fun out is just as earlier this week, I'd interview somebody else that has been a big part of of helping to create the space that I'm in today. Right? So I'm really glad that what I'm able to do is share some of the people that have helped me to get to where I am today, with everybody else, right? Like, you know, it's not like, it's not like I did this by myself. Right. And I think that's really important to know, like, I didn't do this by myself.

Allan Dubon 1:07
Like, I love how, how this has worked out way better than prosperity practice. You know?

Brandon Handley 1:13
Yeah, it's interesting. It's so interesting. But before before we get into all that, right? Before we get into any of that, actually, and this is about you. This is about you today. Let's give the audience a little bit of you know, who is our bond? Let's get the let's get the background. Who are you? What are you doing here? What's

Allan Dubon 1:28
up? You know, I would have answered this question differently about a year ago, considering and I know, we'll get into all that. So I won't deep dive into that yet. But I'm really what what I've learned that I am, is I'm a guide for people to change their lives for the better. And I tend to go down the business route for that, you know, I came from, from immigrant parents. And, you know, my dad took off when I was nine, and, you know, poverty, you know, you can call a lot of it a sob story kind of stuff, you know, the other sad points that that are there and, and I just kind of use that to drive me to work harder, and promise to never be back in that by my own choice. You know, so yeah, so do you like business consulting and, and connecting with amazing people like you, and just try to serve the world with my talents as best I can.

Brandon Handley 2:30
Hello, brother, and you really do you do a great job of it? And you know, by connecting with others? I've never once seen you be like this over marketing guy. Maybe you were at one point. I don't know. I know. I was like a man. I was like, hey, look at all my shit. I was like, hey, and like, you know, here's 20 questions, engage, engage, engage, engage, engage. And then like, you know, fuck it. Anyways. You know, I think but I think that there's a place for that. Everybody has to learn some way. But I appreciate what you do, how you go about it. And I think you're the genuine, genuine deal. So that being said, what I like to start us off with is the idea that there's somebody out there who is listening in and they're listening for, like, you know, source talks through you and I right, yeah, listening to what source has to say to them? Through you today. What is that message?

Allan Dubon 3:27
Oh, that's big man. For me, it's don't wait. Don't wait to do the things that you've been saying you're going to do. And it really comes from, like this past year that that have gone through March of last year, which we're in the end of January here. So just shy of a year, I found that I had leukemia. And, man, you want to talk about a gut check, you know, and I come from the world of medical lab science, I actually worked in the laboratory for the cancer clinic hospital I went to a couple of years ago. So you know, just kind of knowing that, you know, we all know we're gonna die at some point, but we all kind of think it's further along. It's another time and you know, unless you're sick, right? But you're not sick. I was doing great. I was losing weight. I was getting healthy, working out every day. And all of a sudden, everything just changed in my world stop. And so I realized I may not have the time that I thought I had to accomplish the things that I wanted to accomplish. And so for me, it's don't wait, get get to it.

Brandon Handley 4:51
Yeah, I love that. I think another message that you are a big proponent of as well as is, you know, stop playing small All right. So let's talk a little bit about again, you know, let the don't wait, right? What are some of the things that you felt like you were waiting on that you felt like you had time to accomplish? And then like, you know, going through the sickness, you know, what were some of those, you know, things got hammered home, right? Like, oh, shit, if I get, look, I, you may not have been this guy, man. Dear God, if I get out of this, I want to do this. There's no need to peanut butter sandwiches, right? So, you know, what were some what were some of the promises, like maybe you made to yourself while you laid there and gone through this? And then, you know, where do you see those going?

Allan Dubon 5:44
Yeah, part of it was realizing a little bit more of what's important. So I've gotten kind of caught up in my identity as a provider. And I think that happens to men a lot, you know, at least from my experience. And so I was really pushing that provider thing, you know, my wife would, she was very good at saying, Hey, we need you. And that's okay, well, let me calm down the business a little bit, you know, rearrange some stuff at work, and, you know, take me a couple weeks to wind that down to, to be able to give them more time. And sometimes that was the frustration, right? I'm doing this for you guys, for my wife and for my kids. And, you know, I think sometimes when you you come from poverty, and you get a chance to not be there, you drive that part home, but you forget, I may still be here, but I can be an absentee Dad, you know, and I don't think I got that far. But, but I definitely could have fallen into that trap, you know. So that's kind of one of the big things that that came from that and then, you know, not waiting to travel and stuff. Like, my wife and I talked about traveling for a long time. And, and it was, well, we'll do this, we'll do that. You know, and, and now it's okay, as soon as things get a little bit, right with my health a little bit, you know, thank goodness, I'm cancer free. Now. Now, it's just getting getting more strength back in my body, and getting what I like to lovingly call my puppy shots, and get my vaccines because it wipes out your whole immune system. And so, once I get vaccinated, a little bit of strength, and we kind of recover a little bit from the the financial hit, that comes with something like this. It's traveling, you know, so that's gonna be a big thing for us. And then I think the third biggest lesson was, get out of debt. Like, you know, we didn't have crazy amounts of debt. But I'll tell you what, when you're, when you're looking at it, and you say, if I die, I wasn't afraid of death, I was free to leave my family crippled with debt and other stuff that I took care of. And we could go through, you know, as when things are normal. Now I'm very focused on we're going to get out of debt, so that if anything ever happens, we don't have to worry about that. No,

Brandon Handley 8:24
no, that's powerful. Right? It's powerful. I love the idea, right? You know, you always you always putting something off, because of, you know, when we have enough or when is the right time, right. And then there's also the idea of, you know, just like you said, you know, what else is important as you know, to have that family time, right, you that's something that you can never get back. Right? You can never you can never get that back. And I know that I'm guilty of, you know, kind of the same thing you're talking about sometimes it's ways too far, one way, right? The pendulum is always swinging, right? It's like, is there too much time with them? Is this forced time and they can tell like they can tell like you're just making time just to make time? Right? Like, they're like, No, just go away. We don't even want to hang out with you. Right? And then there's a time when you know, you're everybody's there and it's a it's a good time, right? Like, I know that we spent last night watching Ant Man like all together just like impromptu, right. And it was just it was just great. Like there was no it was no no force to it. And everyone's just kind of chillin and I'm remember, just now on the fucking couch watching anime hanging out, right because that was great. Let's talk about like, the spiritual side of it right? Because I know that again. We were talking a little bit before here. I love that you brought this up like how you were, you were forced to kind of determine whether or not like what you believe spiritually was showing up in your world outside and it caused you to kind of take a deep look at that. Something I'm definitely curious about, especially going through what you went through, right? having known you, you know, a little bit prior to and a little bit after him, I'm definitely curious to see kind of what's changed for you in that in that aspect.

Allan Dubon 10:12
Yeah. You know, it's, it's one of those things that pretty much covered your bullshit, right? Like, where? Where is it? Where is it Bs and where is it real? You know, and, and I think sometimes it becomes that trial of your faith, as far as you got to prove it. And it's never perfect, right? Just kind of like life. And you know, you're never the perfect Dad, you're never the perfect husband. But you can be a really damn good one, you know?

Unknown Speaker 10:38
Sure. Real quick.

Brandon Handley 10:39
Absolutely. Real quick, though. Do you have a faith background? Do you have a faith based background?

Allan Dubon 10:44
Yeah, yeah. I was born when I was born, we were Catholic. And, you know, I think that's a default setting on Latinos. Know, that, you know, everybody we knew was Catholic and all that kind of stuff. And then we moved to Utah. And we became LDS, you know, are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. And, and that's been my, my background. You know, and it's been really interesting. Because I don't fit necessarily that mold as as ultra conservative ultra, this, you know, ultra that. But it's, it's brought a lot of great value to me, and a lot of a lot of where my understanding comes from, you know, and so, you know, when when I was told what happened, you know, hey, you've got your white blood cell count 68,000. Well, like I said, I'm a lab scientist who is trained in cancer stuff in blood cancers. I told the doctor, I'm like, Well, shit, that's cancer. I know. She goes, yep, she goes, I can't tell you. Because you know, you got to do all the confirmatory, especially, but you and I both know, it's cancer. I was like, yep. Okay, cool. Here we go. You know, and at first, everything happens so fast, you don't have time to think you're scared, but you don't quite know what you're scared of. it because it's happening so fast. But once I got into the hospital, I'm sitting there, and you know, you get a long time even, even though my wife was there. She's in her head with her thoughts. I'm in my head with my thoughts. You know, we'll hold hands and stuff, but sometimes, it's like, she wasn't there. For both ways, right? Like to her I wasn't there. And

Brandon Handley 12:39
yeah, man, look, I mean, you guys just both like, speculating on what the hell is? What's the future? What's the future hold right now? Because, you know, somebody says cancer, and you're like, well, I don't know that I'm gonna have all the time that I need to get everybody to where they got to get to and do all these things. You know, house, you know, vice versa, right? Like in here, like how, you know, how do I get through this? Right? How do I get through this stick with my family? I still never been to Brazil, and I gotta go. Right? Right. Like, I never make Carnival shit. I always make carnival. Right. And I never went like, I mean, you know, Jesus, if you saved me now.

Allan Dubon 13:18
You know, and, you know, funny you say that. And I and, and I don't think it's bad. If that's where you default to, like, Hey, I'm going to promise to do this. You know, we hear about stuff from religious folks, they religious leaders that have done that, and that's how they change their life, you know. But, but I really didn't want to fall into that I wanted to be as I guess, real as I could about it, you know, definitely promised to be a little bit better. You know, obviously, you know, I think that's human default. But, but I didn't want to negotiate with God. Because because in my opinion, it's already kind of written out a little bit. You know, I'm not a, I'm not a no matter what I do is going to end up this way. But but very much like, I think I don't, you know, so I'm not gonna win, right. I

Brandon Handley 14:06
mean, there's the there's God's got a plan for everybody kind of thing. Right.

Allan Dubon 14:10
Yeah. And so, you know, just kind of going through that. And it was one of the biggest things to me was, I've always said that I wasn't afraid of death. Maybe the mechanism of death. I don't know. Fire. Not so happy.

Unknown Speaker 14:25
Right, right. I think we all kind of go out in our sleep, right?

Allan Dubon 14:28
Yes, yes.

Brandon Handley 14:28
I'd like it to be asleep, painless. I mean, or, you know, whatever. big truck one

Allan Dubon 14:33
or the other. For sure. You know, so that's kind of where I was like, Okay, I'm here I am. I am a little nervous. But I had to, I had to think about it, right. And so it's like, well, I can't control that. If I die. That's not up to me. We can do everything we can on this side. But at the end, it's not up to me. And so it'll be The adventure and so if I die, and what I believe is true, then there's happiness on the other side. And it's a little sad because I'm leaving my family, but I'll know that they'll join me later, you know? Sure. If it's not true and not we don't exist after then I don't know better. So that's fine, too, you know? So, you know, there's there's that element, and then, but mostly it was, you know, we talked a little bit about this before was, is this a curse on me? Or is this a blessing on me? Is it all bad? Like, where's our attitude? You know? And, and I'll be honest, I went through a little bit of the Why me? God, I'm a good person, I help people. Sure, you know, and, and then I started thinking of like, well, Michelle's, my wife was like, Michelle's mom died of colon cancer. And from everything I hear about her, she's an amazing person better than me. Right? So why, why would I be better than her? In this negotiation, if you don't diagnose? Good, you know what I mean? Right, right. And I've met other people that I know, that are amazing people who cross the line, and they went to the other side, and so sure, you know, so there was that part. But I think what really pulled me out of this pity spiral that I like to call it is I, I went back to some of my core principles, and it was what do you do? When things suck, you do what you can, and then you serve others. And I learned that from my mom, we didn't have lots to eat, you know, growing up and, and stuff like that we get some pantry help from churches, or from the, you know, the state people that do that kind of stuff, right. But I remember she got connected with a local grocery store. And they, they were just throwing out their, their bread that had like a day left or whatever, you know, they they old or they day left or something like that. Sure. And she wouldn't talk to the baker and said, hey, why do you guys throw this out there like, well, it's only got a day and we can't sell it, you know, and we got new stuff coming out. So once or short, she got that connected to where we would go up there, we didn't have a car. So we would take these little push cart things, walk up to the store about a mile away. And the baker would give us the day old stuff so that we could give it away. Other folks who didn't have a lot of money, right? Well, that turned out to be so good. And my mom connected with enough people that after a while, they were sending a small box car full of a bunch of groceries that they were just throwing out. Yeah. And they knew my mom wasn't going to go sell it right now is the big thing. And so we were helping people from all over the state, you know, within reason, sugar, driving, distance and all that, but we didn't have some time stuff for ourselves to eat. And here we were helping other folks. You know, and I remember talking to my mom about it, and she says you serve others when when things get bad. You serve others. Yeah. And she goes when one of us eats we all eat. Yeah. And so I was like, okay, you know, and so when I when I got that pity in when I was in the hospital, and I was in there during the big COVID part, right? Yeah. But my wife was able to be there right at first. So that made it easier, scary, but easier. And then the second time I went in they they said nobody can be there with you. So now truly alone with my thoughts. Yeah, that's where it can get. Kinda.

Brandon Handley 18:41
Well, that's what I mean. I remember, I think you reached out to me. We reached out, we chatted with each other a little bit while you were in there, right? You're like, how can I help you? And I was just like, Yeah, I just love that. That was your attitude, right? Like, there you were, there's really no answers for you. Right? You got no answers. And you're going out kicking. Kicking right? Like it just it didn't, I'm sure there were there must have been moments where you know, you were just down, right? There's no, there's no way. You kind of get through all that you don't have a couple of those moments. But I love what you're saying they're they're right. When you're down and out. You know, you do do what you can for yourself that you know what you're in control of, and then you know, try to serve others. that's a that's a great, great way to be.

Allan Dubon 19:34
Yeah, and it's not easy, man. Like, and I don't say that, like, Oh, I'm awesome, because it wasn't easy, nothing like that. But sometimes I had to fake it and just try, you know, and and so, one of the things I was like, You know what, there's about 13 to 15 people that visit me every day, you know, between the doctors and the CNAs and the cleaning folks and you know everything that everybody comes in As I said, they're not always the same. It's a learning institution. You know, it's connected to the university and stuff. And so we get different kinds of folks coming in, and then some of the same people. And I thought, you know, let's learn their stories, because we get so caught up in Well, they're here to take care of me. Right? Yeah, that's their job. Right. And they do it very amazingly, by the way, shout out to Huntsman Cancer. Nice, because their people are just miles above any. I've worked in healthcare, my whole life, pretty much. And these guys are just miles above everybody else. But you know, it's still their job. Right? They're worried about their college credits their kids, their everything, right, for sure. And so I started to talk to them about the stuff that I was good at, you know, business and Future Planning and missing this and, and really helped me take my mind off of me. Sure. Self beneficial, you know, right. But we talked about their goals, and, you know, they come back and they didn't have tons of time. So this little 10 minutes thing, they're hooking me up or whatever, right on. And it's like, Cool, well, how's your classes? You know, there's a guy that that was in a freaking concentration camp. Or not concentration. When they're going away from like, a refugee, thank you refugee. See, there's my cancer fog, but I thought it was weird sometimes. But yeah, so he's in a refugee camp for several years, right, came over to the states started, started the process, you know, he started school, and there were some other friends that came with him from that camp. And, you know, life happened to him, you know, he got married and some other stuff, and now is not married. And, you know, so to get a little rough honey, he stopped his schooling, and he's like, ah, maybe I'm too old. Maybe I'm to this, like, Look, dude, let's get you back in school. You know, like, it's still your goal. So you had four years that, that didn't go the right way. Sure, I still gonna keep living. So those years are gonna keep ticking let's and so then he signed back up for school. That's awesome. He came back and thanked me and I can't I just can't tell you how amazing that felt that he was. I mean, I hate school. So I feel like I punished him. But you know, and as they know, it's gonna get his dreams and his career going and he wants to go be a nurse practitioner eventually. And so, you know, get some back on track to do that, you know, and talking to others about their life and their heart stories. And, you know, one of the nurses that told her she needs to read a book because she's had some siblings died, and her mom's died. And I think her dad was still around, but it was kind of sketchy. You know, how that went. And so, but she was pushed through all of that. And statistically, she shouldn't be there, right? statistically, she should be in the hood, just being poor and, and working a menial job. Right, and then falling into, or falling into the same traps that her parents were into, you know, right. But But she broke through, you know, and so, just kind of things like that, that, that really opened my eyes to, hey, yeah, they're health care workers. But but they're people first,

Brandon Handley 23:25
right? Right. Now,

Unknown Speaker 23:27
it's so easy, it's

Brandon Handley 23:28
so easy to lose sight of that, right? It's so easy to lose, you know, these people are here to save my ass. Right? And you forget that they're, you know, you can, you can easily forget that. There are people to just like you're saying, but, you know, I'm gonna lean back in again, one more time into, you know, kind of the serving people right to take, take it off yourself, even if even if, you know, sometimes you have to fake it, right? I just had this conversation this past week, like, even if you have to fake it a little bit. Yeah, even if it's not even coming from the most genuine place. It's still a lot better than just about anything else you could be doing. Right? Like even if you're like, even if you're certain, like in some point, at some point, it becomes there's a tilting point right? You know, for like a while here. I mean, we talked about this from when I when I did follow him for the rest of us, right? For a while there, it was like I'm doing this for all the wrong reasons. But then at some point, it's like, I'm like, that's just becomes who I am. And now I'm doing it for the right reasons. So it's just kind of like it's like a training mechanism training tool, right. So that now when you go out there and you're like, I'm, I'm serving to serve is there's really not this like there's not an mo right, there's not like something behind an agenda behind it. Right. And when you start doing that, like you start feeling like you know, sounds like you were feeling right, like you're connected, there's your your your your your mind is taken off of all of your woes when you're focused on helping somebody else. You know,

Allan Dubon 24:57
I've always well, not always When I learned this principle, I created a little saying it's, you become what you act. And so, and it's not a fake act, it's, if I want and I learned at first with weight loss stuff. You know, if I keep eating like a 350 pound man I'm gonna stay in. That's where I was right? So 350 was my number. And I'm like, if I want to weigh 180 or 200, I got to eat and move, like a person who's 180 or 200. And I'm not there yet, so I have to act like that. And am I gonna mess up? You betcha. I love ice cream. You know, you can poison me with peanut butter and ice cream. Those are my two. My two big things right. But that

Brandon Handley 25:47
ice creams are poisonous. No.

Allan Dubon 25:51
But, but it's okay. I messed up today. I had a big bowl of ice cream or whatever. Yeah, well, guys that weigh 200 eat ice cream. Yeah. But they don't eat it every single day. And they don't you know, when they enjoy a big indulgent thing, they might go for a run or walk longer. Wait, lift longer, right. And so it started being that it's, it's what you act you become. And so you know, that that's kind of, like

Brandon Handley 26:21
buying 100% man or buying 100% you know, me, this is again, you know, the exact process that I went through with my father and for the rest of us. And also just with anybody else out there that you're listening to like anybody you're you know, mentorship through even like, through all the online videos, YouTube and all the other stuff. Like, you start taking that on everything that this goes back to those sayings like you know, your weight. Are you Wayne Dyer fan? Yes or no?

Unknown Speaker 26:49
Yeah. Yeah. So

Brandon Handley 26:50
he's got that story. Like, you know, he asked me to say, so if I ask Alan, like, when I squeeze an orange, what am I gonna get out of it?

Allan Dubon 26:57
Oh, I don't know him that well.

Brandon Handley 26:58
So it says like, the answers on shoes, right, but like,

Allan Dubon 27:01
Oh, well, that he had something more special.

Brandon Handley 27:06
So the deal is, so that's all you can get out of it. Because that's all you know, that's all I can ever come out of it. Right? This is an orange juice. That's, that's what's inside of it. So the other idea though, is like, whatever you keep putting inside of yourself, that's all it's gonna be able to come out. Right. So this content that you're trying whoever it is that you're trying to become whoever it is that you're acting as if as I'm an acting as if you like, this is who I am now. That's all that can come out. Right? And you you act as if you, you consume all that and and you put all that in you and that's eventually quite literally all that can come out. It's It's It's uncanny. Right? And I think that it takes a takes a little bit of time. But once you make that decision and start to step into it, like you're, you're you're that 180 pound man that you're talking about, right? Yeah.

Allan Dubon 27:53
Yeah, I had a teacher tell me because I was I was going through some pity cycles stuff. You know, my dad's gone. We don't have a lot of money. And, you know, yeah, like, like, stacking up all the stuff that is against me

Brandon Handley 28:06
are now pretty limitations.

Allan Dubon 28:08
Yeah. And, and he told me, you know, you choose to be happy. And my young brain, I didn't say this to him out of respect from inside. I'm like, EFF you, dude. You got family, you got her perfect life a beautiful wife. You guys make money here as a teacher, so I thought they made money. Boy was Iraq. But, you know, so my head, his life was perfect. Sure. Well, he had a kid that was going through some stuff. And you know, it just wasn't perfect. Like I thought it was and he's not making the kind of money he should because he's a freakin teacher, you know. And so, you know, it all kind of clicked several years later, but I, for some reason, I always remembered him saying that. And then so I was still in that bad cycle. And I said, Okay, I'm going to choose to be happy. So I literally woke up and said, I'm going to be happy. And I felt like such a liar. You know, which I was, I wasn't happy. But I kept saying that every morning I kept saying and then all sudden, I just started being more positive. Sure, nice. My circumstances didn't change. They're still poor kid and, you know, all the others crap that that are talked about, but I chose to be happy. And so I think that's part of that was the beginning foundation of this stuff that I've learned and magnified through my cancer experience, you know,

Brandon Handley 29:42
which, you know, you talked about being called on your Bs, right, like, on what you believe? What were some of the things you felt like you were called on and your spirituality and like, you know, what, what kind of maybe got strengthened and how you apply that to this.

Allan Dubon 29:55
Um, part of it was, was talking to God right and So, to me, I don't think you have to necessarily get on your knees and, you know, Dear Heavenly Father kind of thing, like, I do that. But I also think that you can talk way more often. Like, there's times when you go talk to your parent that it's a little more formal. And then there's other times you're like, Hey, Mom, you know, what do you mean by this? You just throw it out there. And let her let her ruminate on that a while and she gets back to you. You know? So it's a little bit more of that, right? Like, and so it was, I did that more. And then it's like, why did I ever let that go? You know, and not that it was gone completely, but I wasn't doing it as much as like, I got an open channel, you know, like what you say, you know, God source universe, like, I love that, you know, because you can, you can label whatever you want. And

Brandon Handley 30:52
look at what it is, whatever it is, whatever, it clears that channel for you. Right? Like, if if you've got to tune in to Fox to get your information, you got to like, I mean, I don't care how you, you know what channel you call it, right? But it's the one it's, it's a filtration system, right? Your mind is a filtration system, right? And you're in like, for a lot of a lot of other people like the word God is just it's a bad fucking filter, right? Yeah. So if I call it universe, I'm totally Oh, universe. Well, that's different. Right? Like, let me tune into that. I feel it's right. So. So there's just there's like this open lane of something that's never been filtered. Right. So so that way that just like, like, it's just a brilliant conduit. So that's why that's, that's my reasoning and logic. I'm getting closer to being able to use God myself, like just, you know, being comfortable with it, because it's not something I was ever comfortable with. Yeah, but I'd like to hear so tell me more about like, what are some of the conversations you have? Right? What's some of the feedback?

Allan Dubon 31:59
It was, it was a lot of, you know? Am I fulfilling my purpose? Am I being good enough to people? You know, am I loving my wife enough? Like, you know, I'm thinking here my time, my might, my temp, my ticket might get stamped here in a second, you know, and I get on that train to the other side, you know, and so, did I do enough to show my wife I loved her, I cared about her was a good enough man to her. You know, just all these things? And same thing with my children? Did I teach them enough lessons that they're going to be? Okay. Like, like, if I go out? Yeah, they're gonna suffer some, and they're gonna be sad, and they're gonna know, but that I give them enough tools to work through their life, to learn things to be good to other folks and to become good members of society, you know, and be able to take care of their families. Did I do enough of that? You know, did I serve my fellow man enough? Or was it all lip service? I could put it on Instagram, you know,

Brandon Handley 33:14
call me out, bro.

Allan Dubon 33:19
Lot of that kind of stuff. And

Brandon Handley 33:21
so what was I mean, you know what, you know? What were some of the responses that you felt like you got?

Allan Dubon 33:30
I felt that I was told that I had done well with what I knew. And that I was going to be given a chance to be even better.

Brandon Handley 33:40
So you had a sense of hope? Yeah. That message me a response message, right?

Allan Dubon 33:47
Yeah, there's times where I'm like, I think my I think I'm hoping I think I'm telling myself,

Brandon Handley 33:53
I got the wrong line.

Allan Dubon 33:55
That was me saying to me, like, you're not gonna die, you know? Cuz that's a great

Brandon Handley 34:00
question, though. Right? How do you differentiate from you know, this is a, you know, I'm sure it's a slippery slope, but like, how do you differentiate the response that you get from yourself versus when you get from God?

Allan Dubon 34:12
To me it was, or at least what I felt right. It was a feeling. Yeah, it was. It was a feeling that I didn't feel like I was doing it for me. Like being told that I was going to live through this sometimes felt scarier than Hey, you're checking out in too much. Yeah, cuz you got a lot of bills you're racking up.

Brandon Handley 34:34
You're gonna have to show up for like, you're like really, really? Well, you know, listen, if I just finished up this pudding and, and roll out like, I'm cool with that. Because Yeah, because there's there must have been some of that thought too, right? Like, be like, holy shit. Like, when I come out of this, like, I might even be destitute, I'm going to be worse off like, yo, you know, the struggles are going to be real, right? Like, what's the quality of life going to be if I if I if I do get to live This Yeah,

Allan Dubon 35:01
yeah, those are all real. That's the not pretty part of it. Right? Not that there's really any part of it right? Yeah. But you know what I mean, though, like, like, there's stuff for you like, Yes, I got to ring the bell, because that's kind of a big thing in cancer stuff is when you when you're told you're sorry, my daughter calls me when somebody rings it. But But, uh, that's funny on a ring. You know, it's, it's one of those things. It's like, okay, yeah, I get a ring the bell and I get to say, you know, cancer free or I finished my transplant or, you know, what, what does that mean? Like, I walked out of there looking like a freaking cancer patient. I'm a brown guy, and I was pretty white, we were pretty pale. You know, and, and then I lost like, 100 pounds. And he wants

Unknown Speaker 35:55
to do it that way.

Allan Dubon 35:56
Yeah, you know, I couldn't pick up 50 pounds. And I know, this is from a guy who could pick up 300 pounds with relative ease, you know, like, yeah, it's heavy, but I could do it, you know. And now I can't even pick up 50 pounds, it was heavy, can you open my

Brandon Handley 36:13
eyes that must have felt like, you know, especially coming from, you know, Western society, being a male needing to be kind of this strong guy and facing your mortality, and then also facing like, you know, all these things that you couldn't do, and needing help, especially when you've labeled yourself and identified as the provider.

Allan Dubon 36:33
Yeah. Well, and, and also the protector, right? and stuff growing up against women and that I don't stand for, like, I can't tolerate that. And now being in a position that if somebody came up and slapped my wife, or my kids are some, I pretty much I got to sit there and you know, like, I still go fight them, but they kicked my ass, you know?

Brandon Handley 36:56
I'll come in for you.

Allan Dubon 36:58
You know, but but it's, it's that thing. Like I could not protect my family. And that, that both financially and physically right. So that, that messes my head a lot. Well,

Brandon Handley 37:09
I mean, that I mean, that's the whole like, I mean, I hate to, again, I'm not a genius, dude, I'm not big on the Bible, but like, kind of the meek shall inherit the earth or like, kind of going through that feeling like, feeling I'm not even saying like, you know, you're inheriting the earth, but like you going through this process of just being completely and totally. You've got to surrender right to everything. So I mean, yeah, tell me a little bit about, you know, applying that to your situation because surrenders big, big one, for sure.

Allan Dubon 37:36
You know, my wife and I discussed this, we didn't use that word. I wish I would have had it. And I'm gonna talk to her tonight when she gets home from work, you know? But, uh, you know, she's like, How can you be so calm about this, you know, cuz she'd have moments where she just she tried to be so strong, like, too strong. And then it would break. And so she cried. I'm like, I'm sorry. You're the one going through this. And we know, we are going through this. You know, and, and so one of the things that I told her as I said, I had to give up, not give up on fighting, give up on controlling any of this. We are not in control, not you know, we talked about believing in God and that he's in control. I said, we're still human, we still want to be in control. And we think this, we think that we're in control of stuff. We're not not at, all right.

Brandon Handley 38:29
Wrong, people are flying through the sky and all these other things. We're like, I got this, right. Thomas Moore.

Allan Dubon 38:36
Yeah. So like, you know, one of the biggest things was they had to stick a needle in my back, all the way into my spinal cord, pull out spinal, cerebral spinal fluid, awesome. And then put in methotrexate chemo and another candidate I remember the other 10 was called a screw

Brandon Handley 38:55
for the bone for how to

Allan Dubon 38:57
go Yeah, sir, to make sure that the if anything went past the, the brain barrier, then if they killed that too, right, because that's my kind of leukemia likes to hide there. And so they check it do a count and then put that stuff back and tell you what and they don't they numb the spot where they put it in, that's it, you don't get anything else. So you are wide awake and you know, fully lucid and you know, stuff like that. And you know, they punctured into my lung to get a biopsy when I got pneumonia and you know, once again, they just numb the spot. And the rest of you is very much awake, you know. And so these things are are pretty scary, because of the level of payments that are they can numb it up but there's still pain. Yeah. And, and then the lack of control. Right?

Brandon Handley 39:55
Right. Like you got no control over that I

Allan Dubon 39:57
got I can control my breathing. Not flinching, you know? And so that's all I focused on. Like, if I flinch, they could hit a nerve. They can collapse my lawn, you know? And a real comfortable stuff, right? You didn't know you'd get an anatomy lesson here. But what I controlled my breathing, right? What I could, right. So this is kind of coming back to that, that pity party stuff, I control what I can and then I serve others. So Mike Okay, how the hell do you serve others when they're stabbing something in your back? Those came through the back one of the top for the lungs and one, you know, times it wasn't just a one time thing you know, we talked about stuff I used to sell real estate. So we talked about real estate and the guy was buying a house and something oh, you know, ask your mortgage lender this and do that and don't buy this. And he's like, dude, how are you? Like, so focused on a mic? Because if I focus on what you're doing, I'm gonna freak out.

Brandon Handley 41:00
Right, right, right. Now that's true, right?

Allan Dubon 41:04
Totally self serving.

Brandon Handley 41:06
But again, you know, again, like, you know, you're doing it to, you know, you're doing it in a way is like, how can I still help this person along? And when you're doing that, again, like, it's just, it's almost like a burdens lifted off you. And it's really also a lot how we start the podcast off, right? Like, there's something that if you open yourself up to it, right? Like, if you're asking a question is how can I serve this person? What can I do to serve this person? source will provide you with something, right? And while you're filled with doing that thing, you're essentially being filled with source, right? Like you're, you know, so there's this kind of life giving thing flowing through you, so that you can provide to this other person and it takes away your pain, man.

Allan Dubon 41:50
Yeah, it's how I surrendered back to the original thought of this. Yeah. How I surrendered, it was forced on me, I could always decline you. They always tell you, you don't have to do any of this. We can just give you stuff to keep you comfortable. And I gotta live. I have to be right. You know, I got kids, I got to fight for my wife. I got to fight for you know. And so as like, if you guys think I got a shot, I'm fighting he, you know, we're doing this. Yeah. But they always say, Hey, you got a choice. You don't have to do this. All right. Well, my surrender was, I can pray all day. But if I just pray and don't take the action, you know, back to the Bible. Faith without works is dead, right? Yeah. So yeah, God is powerful. But he's given us science. He's given us all of these tools that aren't yet. Right. But they're the best things that we have.

Brandon Handley 42:45
But yeah. Yeah, for our level of understanding, right, yeah, we can

Allan Dubon 42:51
eat healthy, we can do good. But the blueberries not gonna take away the cancer. You know.

Unknown Speaker 42:57
I love antioxidants.

Allan Dubon 42:59
But, but I can eat the good stuff to help feed my body so that it's can tolerate what's going to happen to it a lot better. Right. And he got that's kind of the approach I took was faith, body nutrition, which I'm still not perfect at. And, and science, right, let them do what they're gonna do. I can control what goes in my mouth. And sometimes I don't choose well, because of ice cream.

Unknown Speaker 43:30
Most tracks.

Brandon Handley 43:32
So when Yeah, let's just talk a little bit about how like maybe your has this change kind of your, you know, going through the cancer, reconnecting. having these conversations with God. How do you feel like that's helping you move forward for a more fulfilling life right now?

Allan Dubon 43:48
You know, it really woke me up. Like what I said at the beginning, you don't have time. You just don't? Yeah, so it's a little more urgency. Not enough fear, like, Oh, crap, I'm gonna die. But in a dude, I gotta get my butt moving. I can't half asset, you know? Sure. And that the world is good. You know, we've we've seen a lot of craziness, no matter what, you know, here in the States, no matter what political side you're on, there's craziness on both sides. Sure. And, and, you know, manifests in different ways. And, and so there's a lot of that, and the news media wants to just sell us scary stuff, you know, tornadoes, politics, you know, and everything else in between. But I got a chance. This is where the blessings come in. I got a chance to not have to focus on that. I didn't have the energy to focus on that. While I was crazy, I didn't have to write right. And I get to see what beautiful people there are in the world, huh? I got to see people. You know, my my wife's cousin. Just Did a little GoFundMe for us, you know, one of the people that donated reminded me that story of the widow's mite, you know, the rich guys were tightening everything and just throwing buckets of money in. And she threw in essentially a quarter, you know, or whatever. And because that's all she had, well, there's a lady who she's like, on her third round of cancer, her husband and her son have died of cancer. Wow. And like, all of this crap, and she gave 20 bucks. And she was amongst the smallest donations monetarily. But I'll tell you what, to me, she stood out the most. Because here she is. I'm getting I'm really starting to understand at that point. I haven't even seen the biggest bills, but I'm starting to see him and I'm like, holy poop, you know, like, how are we going to do this? Right? And here she was, has lost the stuff that's most important in her life. She's fighting alone. And she's willing to give me 20 bucks in my fight. Right? You know, and she doesn't really know me. She knows sister in law, you know? And so it was stuff like that people, how can we help you? How can we do this, you know, our next door neighbors, when I had to get in my very first time being admitted. They called us and within, they said, you need to be here within an hour. Well, I live 45 minutes away from the hospital, and they're like, be here within an hour or you lose your room. Oh, you know, and they're like, and you're kind of cancer needs immediate attention. Okay. So we go to the neighbors, essentially, my wife pretty much tells them here, take my kids, were going to the hospital, they didn't know I had cancer. Because we hadn't told anybody. We didn't want to stir the pot yet until we knew what we're fighting. Right? All of a sudden, it was real and right now, right? She's crying, and she's telling them and we don't know, when we're gonna be back. You know, her and her husband were like, go, just go. Don't worry about it. We can bring you clothes, we can go buy your underwear, what you will bring your stuff just go. Right, you know, don't miss your spot. And so we grabbed a couple things, you know, and I was there for two weeks. We didn't know that. Yeah. And I think I'll be honest, I don't really remember if my wife went home, she might after a few days to get some clothes, in and out. And then back. So my kids were with the neighbors then with my, my, my wife's brother, and his wife, you know, for a little bit and stuff like that. And so it was just people who stepped in, who have busy lives, they're doing their stuff, you know, right. And all of a sudden, our emergency and they're stepping in, you know, and just lots of acts of kindness. You know, we're talking about Instagram, you know, posting stuff on Instagram, somebody gave us what, what I think is called a heart attack I've learned. And so they come in and just put a bunch of hearts on your door and like little nice messages. You know, we love you. Nice. Yeah. Well, I told you I got a ring, right? My ring wasn't working. So I have no idea who it was. Right? And so they came in, did a heart attack. And then all sudden, we have this big knock. And it's like, eight or nine o'clock? I don't remember. So like Who the heck, you know, right? So we go downstairs and just see this beautiful message. That's great. It's it's cheap construction paper and

Brandon Handley 48:37
workers. You know, I mean, like the money, it says he hasn't that doesn't have to take a whole lot to just do some acts of kindness or make somebody's day. Right you. And and again, I'm gonna go back to how you feel while you're doing it. Right. You know, is is kind of the key, right? You're gonna feel good, like, you know, you feel good. The recipient feels good. You're not in control of how the recipient is going to receive that. But as long as you are in the spirit of giving to give, and you're not in the spirit of giving to receive a reaction. Yes. Right. Because I mean, that's, that's a big thing, too. Right. So I think that that's kind of what you're illustrating here is right giving without, like, this expectation, giving, you know, so that, you know, you can be of service to others. And you know, kind of, you know, I think the other part was like, you know, you asked it in your conversation with God is like, Am I fulfilling my purpose? I think that'd be a word. What was the answer to that one? What did you feel on that?

Allan Dubon 49:38
I felt that I had done well, but not good enough, and I heard a little it wasn't a reprimand. But it was a you can do better. And, and really, it's about being more purposeful. Not just We got an extra 300 bucks around Christmas time, let's, let's see how we can get some gifts for that, which is great. And that's that's a good thing. But now, you know, somebody took care of our Christmas for us. And a couple families, you know, and, and they organized and all this kind of stuff and my kids now are like, Dad, can we do that for somebody next year once you got your job again? Because I'm not working and stuff? Right? It was awesome. Well, I

Brandon Handley 50:25
mean, I still got you still got your consultant services, and you're still able to do that. Right. So I mean, I know that you've had some tremendous success there in the past, I know that you've helped me, you know, put put business stuff together, you've helped me put my websites together. So I know that that's stuff that you're still capable of doing.

Allan Dubon 50:43
Yeah. And it's just, you know, I'm, I'm just getting to the point where I can consider that. Right. You know, cuz, energy wise,

Unknown Speaker 50:52
are you still pretty depleted?

Allan Dubon 50:54
Yeah. So it's, it's the commitment, right? Like, could I build a website? Yeah, but can I commit to

Brandon Handley 51:01
a timeline?

Unknown Speaker 51:03
Yeah.

Allan Dubon 51:05
Stuff like that. It's kind of teaching me that patience. And that. Would you call it? Surrender? surrendering? Thank you. Yeah, yeah. It's okay. I'm learning patience. That's what I mean, right now. Yeah. And I hate it. But I get the value of it. Yeah. Yeah, it was.

Brandon Handley 51:32
I mean, there's, there's a whole idea of like, you don't you don't have to slow down but Calm down, right. Like, take it slow. Not even again, not slow, deliberate, purposeful, intentional pace, right? Not not frantic, as if there weren't enough for everybody. Because there is right and and not, you know, I love your experience is is also to the idea of Providence, right? Like, you know, you've been the provider, but people will provide for you. Right? And, and it's not that it's something that you're not looking for a charity, but it's something that will happen naturally, if you kind of allow for it, right? Again, the Providence surrendering to the universe to God, whatever, just being like, Hey, I'm doing what I can, right. So you know, what does it mean? So, what does it feel like? Then? I guess if you know, if you're not fulfilling, what do you feel like you could be doing more? Do you feel like you need to be playing bigger? You know, what, what's that look like for you?

Allan Dubon 52:37
Excuse me a little bit of both, right? It's I was, I had exceeded I like to I'm a data nerd. So statistically, people who had my upbringing, don't reach where I've reached, sure. But to me, that's not good enough. And it's not to aggrandized myself, it's, I can serve others. And so it's, it's that tool of, or not the tool, it's getting the tool, which is money, and connections and stuff like that, so that I can then teach others how to grow out of their situation, wherever that might be. Right. Right. And so claim bigger to that with urgency. But not frantic, like you said, calm down. Right. But that's my calling, right? It's made very crystal clear to me. And, and, you know, taking care of people in that sense. And then planning and purposefully doing things like, hey, once I get my job back, we're gonna, or I can do my business or whatever, you know, however, that looks, right. We're going to create an account where we're going to start actually putting money away every check every sale, every whatever, so that it's not, oh, we happen to have an extra 200 bucks. Let's get a couple Nerf guns and pray vows for these folks. You know, it's it's right? Hey, we can really plan this out. Right? and serve one to 510 families, whatever it is, right? But make it purposeful versus Oh, we're gonna be good people and help. But it's because we happen to have 300 bucks extra for sure. No, I get it. I get it. You know?

Brandon Handley 54:17
Yeah, no, that makes sense. Man. I love it, though. I mean, so, again, I've loved I've loved your journey I've loved you know, I don't love that you had cancer. But I do love that, you know, you kind of, I love the way that you went through it. And how you you kept your shit together, for the most part, how you faced it with this attitude of service. And I'm just super glad that we had the opportunity to connect and that you made it through man, you've been a big part of like I told you at the beginning a big part of spiritual dope, big part of my own journey. And, you know, I'm not a data analytics guy. So you know, my forecast though, is like more Allen Right, my forecast is more out in the life and, you know, so if, you know, if you were coming out of it and you had more energy right now who would be like somebody who's your ideal client,

Allan Dubon 55:17
somebody who's got an idea of where they want to be, and a purpose. And it doesn't mean you have to know exactly what the business is, or anything like that you can, or grow the business or whatever, but really, it's about purpose. And the purpose to me needs to be more than just, I got to make money. It's got to be what am I going to do once I make money in my life? And how am I going to serve others? Because that's what drives me is that money is a tool

that spans the gamut of Hey, they're they're only making 50,000 a year or maybe they're making 5 million a year you know, it spans all of that because it's, it's Hey, it's more of a purpose driven than I want to make this much per sale. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 56:18
I love that right. When you when you inject purpose and that kind of everything that you do you really do accelerate it right. So So what you're offering do then is to help people kind of get clarity and accelerate their their purpose and vision so that they can have a more fulfilling life is that what I'm here?

Allan Dubon 56:35
Yeah, yeah. Awesome, brother.

Brandon Handley 56:38
Hey, thank you so much. Like I said, I know you're you're still kind of coming out of it. But I appreciate you jumping on and sharing a bit of your story sharing you know your conversations with God even though you're not you know, what's the guy's name Neale Donald Walsch or whatever. So Alan Duvall take on conversations with God today. You know, fighting cancer. And and you know, getting a second shot, right? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I love that for you, man. So thanks again. We're have some people check out more on.

Allan Dubon 57:08
I'm pretty much Alan dubon everywhere. ondemand.com on Instagram, Facebook, and Alan dubon, even clubhouse. So

Brandon Handley 57:17
awesome. Awesome. All right, but thanks for being on today. Thanks, guys.

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Elyse Archer | Sales with Spirit

Published: Feb. 21, 2021, 2:16 a.m.
Duration: 55 minutes 54 seconds

Join in the conversation as we host Elyse Archer of She Sells this week on Spiritual Dope.

Connect with Elyse over at: https://elysearcher.com/

Also, Elyse, mentioned the book The Diamond Cutter, check it out below:

Brandon Handley 0:00
321 Hey there spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here. The voice of a generation as we know, Mays was self self indulge every once in a while and I'm on with a quite somebody quite special Elise Archer. And I'm just gonna, I'm gonna let her do the bio for herself in a second here. But before I do that, like Elise is the reason I do a podcast. Right? Before I met Elise, I'd never listened to a podcast, or I was like, fuck podcasts. Like, that's not for me. And when I when I met Elise, Alicia, we're doing your podcast with Greg and, Mark. Good. Morning. Yeah. And, you know, and then you know, we're connecting at some of the networking events. And then I eventually hired you as my coach. And then when we got through the coach, it was for sales coaching, we got midway through the coaching. And I was like, This is more like, I'm getting life coach than sales coach. And and it's okay, because it's transferable, but like, as like, Well, you know, what, at least what we've been working on, like, it's been the sales, but I really want to do this, like podcasts, and I was fully expecting you to be like, eyes on the prize brand and focus on what you said you were gonna focus on and you got it. And instead of doing that, instead of doing that, you're like, well, how can I help you? Right, and you connect them with some other people. And that moment that that was like a life changing moment for me. So thank you for that. And I'm gonna let you do your own little brief intro. Like Elise, what do you all about? And share a little bit of that? And then we'll get it going.

Elyse Archer 1:36
Oh, my gosh, I love that. Yeah, it's it's so cool, just to see what you've created in a short amount of time and to see the evolution of it as well. So yeah, thank you so much. I was just thinking before cutting on his podcast, this is so much fun for me, because I do most of the podcast interviews I do or straight business sales, personal branding. And so this is pushing my limits, because this is actually the stuff I care about, like this is, this is the real, I feel like everything I do in the sales and business world is kind of the Trojan horse to try to like, talk to people about spirituality and help them just develop and grow personally. So this is so much fun. Okay, so with that about me, I'm a new mom. So I've got a little boy, he's six months old. And that's so much fun. Yeah, yeah, it's the best. I love it. I didn't know how I was gonna feel elevated. I

Unknown Speaker 2:24
know.

Elyse Archer 2:26
My gosh, No, I know. And he's kind of he's past that, like the blob stage now. So he's doing things which was, but especially for my husband, Jason, I think it's more fun for him now that he can interact. And, yeah, I'm a business owner. So I do a couple different things. I'm a founding team member of a company called brandbuilders group or a personal brand, strategy firm. And then I also recently launched another brand that I'm running called T cells. And it's a it's basically sales, training and mentoring for women who want to break through six figures and learn to sell in a way that feels really authentic to them. And we can, you know, take this conversation wherever you want it to go. But that's a lot of my background is coming from corporate sales and seeing, you know, sales and business strategies celebrated that, frankly, made me feel like crud when I implemented them, because they either kind of blurred the lines of integrity, or were all about Push, push, push, hustle, and I did it, I did what I was taught, and I financially, I did pretty well. But it was really, really detrimental to not just my mental health, my physical health too. And so a lot of my own journey has been about I would say, reconnecting with myself, like how I'm actually wired, how I was innately designed and learning to trust myself, trust my instincts, trust my body, trust my intuition. And, and I'm really lit up now about helping everyone do that. But specifically, I my brand really is catering to women, because I think so much of what we're taught, just growing up is like, we, you know, our bodies look wrong, or they're not the way they should be, or they're for other people's pleasure. And it's just, it's really disempowering. And so, I'm so passionate about helping myself reconnect with my power and then helping other women reconnect with their power as well. So that's, that's a little sliver of what I'm all about.

Brandon Handley 4:15
Just a tidbit.

Unknown Speaker 4:16
Yeah. Just a little bit.

Brandon Handley 4:18
I love it. I love it, you know. And again, you know, when we connected, it was just, I think it was a, it was just an interesting journey. You You and I are connection, right? And just kind of how that how that all? We'll call it manifested. And let's start off with the first question that so we have all day to talk. So usually like to start us off with, you talked about connecting with your power always align it with like source, right? So the idea is that source speaks through us to speak to somebody else, right, you kind of get this divine inspiration to share something with somebody else. So the deal is there's somebody listening to this podcast today that needs you to kind of ignite them to connect them to their power through a message. And what does that message to that person today? At least?

Elyse Archer 5:08
I love that question. I mean, the biggest thing that shows up for me is to trust yourself. That's like I said, that's so much of what I feel inspired to share with this brand. And like I mentioned before, a lot of my journey, especially in my teens, and 20s, were, it was it was not trusting myself, and whether that was not not being proud of my body. And I struggled with an eating disorder for 17 years, or feeling like something was just off with, like a client situation or something I was being told to do at work. All the way to, you know, when we got pregnant for the first time, a couple years ago, I went into sheer panic, that I was like, I just, I felt like I was going to lose the pregnancy. And I went into sheer panic about it. Sure enough, we miscarried. And I learned in that moment, I didn't trust my body. And it's been so interesting, this journey of learning to I think a lot of times we have to like kind of be brought to our knees to be able to be open to whatever that that message is that we're meant to receive, and then carry forth into the world for other people. And that was it for me. But then even talking with my mom about it, a lot of her own experience, too, was she didn't trust her body. And I think a lot of this stuff goes back generationally. So you know that, whatever that thing is that you feel like you want to do, but you can't do or you have this intuition to do something or you're like that logically doesn't make sense. If I could encourage someone to listen to it, and trust that it doesn't have to make sense for anyone other than you and to kind of stop looking outside of yourself. Even I promise, I'll be quiet in a second. So you can respond or ask your next question. But I think about the coach I'm working with right now like this was I just did a pretty big financial investment to work with a new coach. And I knew that it was going to trigger all of my scarcity mindset that I was part of me was still clinging on to I knew it. And sure enough, a couple of weeks in it did. And I knew in my core, my intuition this whole time that it was the right move. But logically, it would not be anything that my dad would have told me to do, it would have been anything that a lot of even business mentors, who I look up to would tell me to do and I was on a call with her a couple weeks ago, and I said, I found myself going into panic about making the wrong decision. She was like, when do you find yourself going into panic about that. And I said, usually I'm reading, it's when I'm reading like a business book, or I'm listening to financial management training from somebody else. And she was like, stop it, cut it off for the next three weeks, no consumption of any of that stuff. And I cut it off, and I feel so at peace. So it's not that we want to not learn and educate ourselves and challenge our thinking. But I think at the end of the day, you know, your best path for you. And you have to trust that everything that you're doing and when you act on those instincts, it's always unfolding for the greater good and for your greater good. So sometimes just putting those blinders on and trusting that you know, what you need to do, is the most powerful thing you can do. So that would be my message.

Brandon Handley 8:14
After keeping it short.

Unknown Speaker 8:15
I'm gonna be all day

Brandon Handley 8:20
I kid I kid I love it. I love it all like and one of the parts where you brought it to know you had to kind of come to your knees right to just kind of accept your your intuition piece for a lot of people would you consider that? You? d a fearful, dark night of the soul for you? Would you consider that a moment of a or maybe like even a dark night of the soul? Whatever, right? And then and then, you know, there's the idea I love I love what you're saying there with with your coach, because I bet you it's almost like it's almost like a deprivation for you knowing how much you consume to improve or be better or find another technique or whatever, right? Like Hmm, I have to cut all that off. Right like so you probably feel a little bit like a junkie having to withdraw from that at least look and I know this from my own experience, right? I'm like, I'm like What do you mean? Don't Don't do it all like right now.

Elyse Archer 9:16
So it was in that did one thing I'll just add to that is like, she really kind of pushed me with that cuz she was I was like, but I love learning and learning is good. And I love reading. She was like, that's your comfort zone. She said, study yourself for three weeks. Just study yourself. Whoa, this is so uncomfortable. But that's right. That's what we need.

Brandon Handley 9:33
Well, that's tough, too. Right. So jumping in there and studying yourself. And what I'll throw in there though, too, is like, so it's very, I'm still going through this book again. Right? Like, are you ready to succeed? I can't remember if I saw I might have sent you one too. I can't recall if I did. I think I sent you have a kid's book that isn't yours. Yeah, I

Elyse Archer 9:50
don't I'm not familiar with this book. So

Brandon Handley 9:52
this is Sreekumar Rao. This is actually by way of Elise Archer at some point. It was back in the day when we were doing the coaching There was a guy that I looked up Sreekumar Rao on like, you know, you are hardwired for happiness, right? And turned out like, you almost cried, watching his little story or whatever. And I was like, Alright, well, I gotta get his book, got his book, yada yada went through it. But one of the pieces in here it's just really talks about there's two pieces in here that you're saying that resonate with me. And one is like, talking about putting all that effort in, right? Like I gotta do I gotta do I got consumed content consume content, you were finding like each time you like power, something that didn't correlate with how you were feeling or doing it was like, it was like, striking the wrong chord. Right? Quite literally. It's like, you're like that is that is out of that is that's out of tune with who I am. Oh, my God, I need to make an adjustment because this person, you wrote this book, he's an authority. Right? He

Unknown Speaker 10:48
knows. Oh, my gosh, I

Brandon Handley 10:50
shouldn't Holy shit. Did I do the wrong thing? Right. So that that's one piece, right? is to not let the wrong thought in your head. Right? It's better. It's like better like like literally cut yourself like with a razor. He says in this book, this came from like a Swami. Right? It's better to cut yourself like a razor than to let the wrong thought into your head. Hmm. Right. which I know sounds to me. Like, you know, that's that's kind of what was happening to you. Like, you know, you're you're on your path. But you're like, you like this guy's awesome. I love 98% of what he does. But this piece right here is just like a BB in my mind, right? breaking all my shit. And thank you so much. Right? And then and then the other piece is like, we're trying to do it so fast. Right? We're trying to we're trying to do is we want it so bad. We're trying to do it so fast. There's another story in this book where he talks about the idea of, you know, if you try to do it so fast, and with so much energy, it's actually gonna take twice as long. So it sounds like your coach sounds really similar to what your coach is saying is they stop taking all this like outside influence and jam in all this into your cranium. Study yourself, trust yourself. And that's what you're saying to is like, kind of trust yourself and believe in yourself and kind of tune out all the other shit.

Elyse Archer 12:01
Yeah, well, that's so interesting what you said about if you try to like, push and force it into it so fast, it'll take twice as long. It's interesting. I hadn't thought about it like that. But because it's counterintuitive. It makes a heck of a lot of sense. Because you're kind of going up river versus letting yourself flow and stuff, right?

Brandon Handley 12:18
Yeah. here's, here's how, like, I've visualized it more recently. And this is like, this year, right? Imagine, like, you feel like you're literally putting all the thought energy or whatever things, right? If we're putting all this energy into this place, right? Then nothing can get in. So if we create space for something to come in, right, if we back up for a second, and let it come to us, then it comes to us, right? Because otherwise we're blocking it. We're like, I've got to put everything into this spiritual energy, right? Like, I've got to put all of my, you know, essence energy into this thing. And I want it so bad. If it doesn't, we've got all these things caught up with it. And instead of like, I do really want it I want it really bad, but like, I want it and kind of like, the way I like flowers and, you know, gardens and stuff where if I go and I plan it, you know, there's that whole other thing to where, like, you know, if you plant something you don't keep pulling it up, right? And check into the roots and be like, you plan it. Come back up. Yes, it does what it's supposed to do. Yeah, it'll do anyways. And those are some thoughts that are like, you know, coming on mine is I'm hearing your story, right? I'm hearing like your coaching unfold. So thanks for letting me ramble on

Elyse Archer 13:26
I love this. This is no I feel like I'm getting a good like a spiritual lesson from you. And this this is awesome

Brandon Handley 13:31
was so that was so here's the other thing, right? Like Elise guys is I went through like my quote unquote, like a call, quote, unquote, because nobody can like point a finger and say, Hey, that was an awakening experience. But remember, if you don't remember that time, I called you up. I

Unknown Speaker 13:43
was like, Oh, yes,

Brandon Handley 13:44
I went through some shit. I don't know what it is. And it's like an awakening experience. So Lisa's been again, guys that's, you know, just want to share our relationship with the people that are listening, right, and how this kind of all came together. You came to me as like a sales coach. But what ends up happening was all this inner work that I hadn't done before for personal growth, and it manifested into culminated into like kind of an awakening experience. Right. And from there, we still maintained and again, that was another thing where you were like, Well tell me more about that, like, because you're just as excited as I was for that, too. So I think that that's says a lot about kind of who you are and what you accept in your life. So I do want to hear like, you know, how you talked about helping people find themselves spiritually through your own process. And I'd like to hear how you're doing that. Because what happened with me might not have been intentional. And and, you know, how do you feel like you're doing it intentionally right now?

Unknown Speaker 14:43
Oh, wow.

Elyse Archer 14:45
Yeah, gosh, I don't so I don't have like an intentional method to it. I think it's more me think about that cuz I want to actually, I want to, I want to think about what the right or just what the true answer is for me there. I think I think for me, a lot of my own journey has been around overcoming a lot of feelings of unworthiness and worthlessness. And I think a lot of that is conditioned, that's part of why a lot of the, like the clients I work with are in a business environment in a business setting. And so a lot of times they'll come for, you know, I want to make more money, or I want to grow my personal brand and presence and just through that process, usually what comes up is, are there tactical, pragmatic things that they can do to do that? Absolutely. But also, and I think the more important thing is we dig into just limiting beliefs that are showing up for them around, you know, I want to make this amount of money, but even the word want means you don't have it, right. So it especially the women, I work with those, those cut, you hear more than their story. And they talk about feeling unworthy or scared to show up or scared to speak up. And it doesn't matter how good your website is, or how good your sales process is, if you have that limiting view of yourself, you're only going to be able to operate within a box that's like this big right? And get results that are about that big. So I really like I said, I don't have a set processes, something I'm kind of like working on developing on right now. Because I do want to be able to take people through a more like a more intentional process. For me, it's typically kind of intuitive with my clients. But that's usually what I'm listening for when I hear my clients talk is, what are they actually saying about themselves. I was on a call with a potential client the other day. And the first thing she said when she got on our call was she said, Oh, you know, I'm just sitting here procrastinating, like I always do. And she's a woman who wants to break through six figures this year in her business, and she's a go getter. And she you can tell like she's you know, she's an aggressive goal getter. But the first thing I said was, whatever you describe you prescribed, right. So if you're sitting there saying, I'm procrastinating, like I always do, you're going to continue to procrastinate on accomplishing your goals on making your sales calls on whatever it is. So I just I think because so much of my own journey involves poor self talk poor or poor self image, I can hear it, and I can see it and other people. And then that's what I try to pull out. Because usually we're just we're not even aware of it. It's so ingrained in how we think and how we talk. And most of the people around us usually use disempowering language and thoughts. And so it's kind of just part of our society. But once you realize, once you're aware of it, you can't unknow it. Right. And so I care so much now for myself about how I feel and how I speak about myself. And I try to get my clients to that same level of self awareness. Because the tactical stuff is like 5% of the actual process, the 95% of it is how you think and what you believe you deserve. So I don't know if that answered the question. Like I said, there's not a real thought out process. It's super intuitive for me, but that's, um, that's that's kind of how I do it

Brandon Handley 18:01
a little bit. I mean, it sounds like there is right, so the process is to kind of just identify where they are, right? You know, are they saying something that, you know, you've been able to get look as, I don't think it's any different than being a doctor, right? Kind of, when, when you first start off, you're like, maybe I shouldn't amputate that leg, I don't know. But I'm gonna go ahead and I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna go ahead and cut that one off, you're doing the same thing with like somebody limiting beliefs, right? Or identifying it. And over time, over time, like you become skilled enough to be like, Oh, that's this. That's this. That's this. That's this just because of your exposure, experience. And then your own way of working with people in that space, seeing what works. A lot of these things that you're using a lot of the tools that you're using, I'm guessing, aren't brand new, right? These are tools that have been around for quite some time that have had success for years and years and years. It's just how do you how do you share those tools with these people? So what would be like one thing that you help? Like, when you identify like a limiting belief within somebody else? Right? How do you how do you identify that for somebody to get them past that? Yeah, well, I

Elyse Archer 19:07
think the first thing is just reflecting it back to them. So that's part of where there is value in having a coach a mentor, just somebody who can hear how you talk. And and actually help help you become aware and almost be a mirror for Do you realize you just said that? Because like I said, oftentimes, our language is so it is it is so subconscious, we don't even realize we're saying it. So it's like, hey, do you realize you just said that? And then oftentimes people don't even realize it's a problem. They're like, well, so you know, so what? So what did I said that and I think so for some people, they're already really into law of attraction and, and positive self talk, but for a lot of people I work with, they're not familiar with, with what that means, and how it how it impacts them. So we talked about, you know, whatever you're saying you're giving a command to your subconscious to create this thing in your life. And so we start to look at what's a new and better and different way you could say that The other thing that has been really profoundly transformational for me in my life and that I recommend for a lot of my clients is Joe dispenza his meditations like I am, I'm guessing you follow Him, and I'm such a fan of his work. But every single morning, I'm doing those meditations. And I asked my clients to do the same, and it helps you start to feel the feelings of abundance, genius. Courage, right? All those things that, that we want to embody. And so I get all my clients doing that, as long as they're open to it, and that is pretty darn transformational as well.

Brandon Handley 20:40
Now, 100%, right, yeah, Joe dispenza is great. He's one, there's one that I listened not not even. Not even a meditation, but he's got like a 10 minute piece that like I listened to all the time. It's just, it just reminds me like not to look at like, not to look at my social media first thing in the day not to, you know, to retune yourself, right, like to retune your your whole, you know, your whole experience? Do you live life on your terms? Not according to what kind of everybody else is already doing? And that's why I enjoy him and that. So meditation, getting them to connect with the meditations? Or where did you find that to be kind of like the game changer? a game changer for you? Hmm.

Elyse Archer 21:24
You know, it's so I've been meditating off and on for probably five years, probably, well, I really longer than that, but like, actually really going for it for about five years. But I would say it's, I kind of, I would do it for a while, and then I'd get off of it. Because it was like, you know, I'm still I still was in the mindset of i, this time would be so much better spent if I was sending emails or creating the social media posts. So I was still in that mindset. And really, I would say, it's, it's honestly been more in the past few months that it's kicked in, for me how critically important it is. Where, even though I think I had done a fair amount of work on releasing anxiety, and like I mentioned, like not trusting myself and stuff. So I'd gotten to a pretty good place about 12 months ago, but I still would have almost this low grade anxiety running all the time in the background, especially on Sunday nights, looking at the week ahead of like, Oh, you know, I've just I've still got all this stuff that's been done that I thought I was gonna try to get done this weekend, did I just piled too much on my plate, and then I would kind of beat myself up about just not being, you know, good enough. And I Gosh, if I was better, I could have gotten this done. So it was this habit in this perpetual like cycle that my body was almost addicted to the feeling and the anxiety. And some time, I think sometimes we just have a moment. And for me, I just had a moment, I was like, doing it this way, has gotten me this result. I've been feeling this low grade anxiety for years for most of my life. What if I didn't have to feel that way? What if that wasn't the reality for everybody? What if I was what if it was just a decision that I was going to feel differently. And that's when I started really doubling down into a lot of Joe's work, and into just studying, you know, the different energy centers of the body and how to get them in coherence. And I will say, I mean, it's a very short time as of the recording of this interview, but for about a week now, I've had really consistent checks up brain heart coherence, where you just you feel like in the flow all the time, no matter what. I had that for about a week, and it's been so transformational. Like, I'm not afraid of anything that's coming, I'm not anxious, I'm at peace, I'm present. With the people I'm talking to. I'm excited. I'm not triggered by stuff the way I was. And it's just it's a totally different, I was able to get there like a little bit before and I could get there and kind of keep it for a while during my meditations. But then something would happen in life, and it would trigger me or throw me off and I'd have to like work to get back. And it's been really darn consistent. For like I said, about seven days. And I think it's it was just a decision of, I can have this all the time if I want. And so now i'm i'm showing up on that meditation, that was some ferocity my friend cuz he's like, Oh, this is good, how much? How much better could it get?

Brandon Handley 24:19
You show it to meditation be like, I'm gonna take this bitch down. Yes. So so that's great. So there's, there's a word that I use in tandem kind of with, with with, with what you're talking about there. And that's the word numinous. Right? Like where you've got this connection to source and it's just effervescent. And it sounds like that's been your week, right? Nothing can derail that, right? There's nothing stronger than it and there's no worry, you've given yourself some trust, you've given yourself some grace. And there's a it's just such a great feeling, right? Like how did happen and where's and it's always been available. Right, that's the thing like to you're like, well, all I had to do was make a decision to make this a conscious choice.

Elyse Archer 25:06
That was it. Yeah, that and it's and it's not like nothing has happened, like, I got a mega tax bill I wasn't expecting because of a miscommunication with my accountant. And in the past that would have that would have thrown me, you know, and this I was like, okay, like, I, you know, I am being honest, it threw me for a couple minutes. And then I just like I'm snapping back into it, because nothing is worth sacrificing this level of vibration and awareness and feeling nothing. So we're just going to do it and move on. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 25:37
yeah, no, absolutely. 100%. Right. So I thought I definitely talked about this in my process, too, right? To where you make the decision, right, literally, like, so I created that, you know, this thing called the divine framework, right, the first piece of the first piece of this puzzle that you just talked about, is to make the decision. Yes. Right. Like, this is it? This is I'm going for it. Right. But the one thing that, you know, you talked about, like kind of this belief system, you talked about the boxes right and and discover on uncovering kind of like the those limitations, right? Those self imposed limitations. It's kind of like this whole mindset thing. This is just how spirituality has kind of shown itself for me, right? Like I did the I did the coaching with you awesome stuff. Great stuff went through like law of attraction, right? And I was like, well, this is this is all kind of stuff that I'm putting out there. What if I shake it back and understand that this is a benevolent universe? And that it probably wants things more for me than I actually want for me. What can you show me? Right? And how can I take who I am eternally spirit, like spiritual DNA is perfect, right? I mean, we all have, we all share the same spiritual DNA. But I went from having a human mindset with all these worldly things that we know how to use, right. And, to your point, I've made it this far with this human mindset with this human capability. As like, what happens if I choose divinity? What happens in right? What happens if I'm connected to source at all time? And if I accept that source is everything, right? Who, you know, what am I capable of then? Right? And so that's just fucking blew the lid off it. I'm like, you know, and that's, that's that again, just another choice to make right then. And so you can take a look at spirituality and the, you know, you can call it maybe it's Christ consciousness, I don't know, right to decide, like, Hey, listen, this is this is Buddhist consciousness, I make this decision to do what you did, to say. I'm just gonna stay connected to this ship, because I feel real good. I don't have to drink to get here. I don't have to get high to get here. All I have to do is show up and decide to be here. It can't be that easy lease.

Elyse Archer 27:56
It's it. It is literally it is a decision. I mean, that's it. That's been a huge lesson for me in the past 12 months that I think we could be scared to make that whatever the decision is. Whether it's a decision to show up differently, a decision to to move right a decision to, for me invest in this, this high level coach. One other thing that happened for me a couple months ago is I made it not I guess it was more a month ago, I made a decision to spend more money than I knew where it was going to come from to work with this particular woman. So I felt very intuitively guided to do it. And I remember going through the fear and I like I said yes to her verbally. And then I like kind of shrugged back for a week and I vacillated It was like, Oh, this is a bad idea. It's not it's not responsible. It's not smart. And I reached the point. And I think you saw my video I did on Instagram about this. But I was just thinking about why am I not moving forward on this. And it was the fear of the unknown. It was the fear of making a bad decision in the unknown. And, but what it reminded me of was, when I was in my late 20s, I was in a just a, I was in a marriage that was really toxic. And I was so scared to leave because I was afraid of the judgment of being young and being divorced. And my family put a lot of money into the wedding and we were only I mean I knew before I got married to him I shouldn't have but at this point where I reached kind of the turning point we were like 1214 months in I was so scared to do it because of the fear of judgment and what was going to be on the other side would I ever find someone who was actually a good fit for me all that stuff. And I just reached a point where I said it can't be worse than this you know so let's let's pull the trigger and do it and so I I asked for the divorce and six months to the day that I did. I met Jason who's my husband I knew within minutes that he was going to be my husband. very inconvenient by the way in North Carolina. You've got to be separated for a year so we were still tech Are you gonna you remembered for a year for you to get remarried.

Brandon Handley 29:58
For the for the guys out there. They listen, they're gonna probably, they're gonna want to know, what can somebody do in a couple minutes to make some money?

Unknown Speaker 30:07
Right? I

Elyse Archer 30:08
know, I know. Yeah, they are. He just showed up and I was like that, you know, you hear about you know it when you know it, you know it I've never had that experience before. But I, I knew him. I knew that I was meant to be with him. So that's a whole nother story, because then I had to proceed to chase him and date him and all of that stuff. It was a frustrating courtship, I will say, but here we are. So

Unknown Speaker 30:29
if I had to do one, that one, I won that one. Yeah.

Elyse Archer 30:33
But if I had not left that situation that I was so scared to leave, I would not have met him. And we would not have our son jack now. And that just puts things into perspective for me. And I think everyone can relate to something in their life where they've been so scared to make a move, because they didn't know what was on the other side. But think about what happened in your life is a result of what you have now that you wouldn't have had if you hadn't stepped out in faith. And for me, that was like, this is it. Like, I don't know what's gonna happen on the other side of this, but I know, I can trust my intuition that's leading me to do this. And I know something really good is gonna unfold, even if it's not what I'm expecting. So it's kind of that surrender, like, Alright, I'm along for the ride.

Brandon Handley 31:16
That's it. I mean, that's it. 100% right. You know, it's, it's following your intuition. And kind of, you know, trusting it. And for you, you know, that's seems to be working fairly well. Seems like, hey, look, what I love, too, is like, you know, listen, no matter how much of this work you've been doing on yourself, I've been doing myself, anybody out there has been doing it themselves. years, right. You're still catching yourself, like beating yourself up? Right? You're still catching yourself. Like, you know, there are moments where everything's not fucking perfect. And that's okay. Like, and I think that, I think that that that can be a challenge too. Because to accept that right to to be able to say, this, this moment, right here is not ideal for me. But that's still going to show up no matter how much work you do. And I think that that's important for people to hear and understand. Because they put themselves in into, oh, I shouldn't be feeling this way I shouldn't, then they beat themselves up for feeling that way at all. Like you're saying, like, I shouldn't be doing this way. And, and and I should be you should I've done it differently. And all these other things. And I've had another guy that had on and I know well, you called it he has the acronym, acronym Tina, right? There is no alternative. However you did it, right. There's no alternative to what's already been done. Right? The only alternative mate would be like your perspective on that, like, as you move forward, you'd be like, you know what, you can look back and be like, you know, what, in my mind, at that time, this is what I thought was going on. But now if I look back, it's a totally different scenario. your perspective on what happened may be different. But the actual event, there's no changing it. Right? That's your your way past it. Right. Yeah. But you know, so how would I mean, a dress that though right, especially for you know, you again, being a coach, having gone through, like all this work, and still finding, you know, yourself kind of having those challenging moments? Do you accept those for yourself? Or do you beat yourself up for having those and then, you know, how do you get through it? What do you do from there?

Elyse Archer 33:28
Yeah, yeah, that's a good question. I, so I do accept myself for having those. And I used to beat myself up a lot over it. And I think a lot of that is just we see people, whether it's our parents, or like, for me, I saw I like, I love my mom dearly, but I saw her do that my whole childhood growing up. So I that's how I operated for a long time. So now with those moments, I am so conscious of how I talk to myself, because I realized if I beat myself up, I'm only perpetuating the negative emotion negative feeling, I'm just going to attract more of that back into my life. So yeah, I mean, even yesterday, I had an introduction to like, a big time, big time, big time podcast to go on. And I had been like, really psyched up.

Unknown Speaker 34:11
You know, we've been talking for a while.

Unknown Speaker 34:14
See, it's always working.

Elyse Archer 34:18
So I had this. So this was like, you know, like, top 100. Like, it was a big it was a just in terms of audience a big show. And so I got myself kind of psyched up for it. And I get on the call with the woman I'd been introduced to who is kind of like the gatekeeper and she was like, Oh, I'm so sorry. If there's a misunderstanding. You know, he's booked up for a whole year like I just really wanted to get to know you. You seem like a cool chicken. It was like, in that moment, I felt I felt disappointment. And then I gave myself like two seconds to feel it. I was like, okay, nothing is worth feeling that nothing is worth perpetuating that. So let me instead flip this and focus on how can I show up for her in this moment because I genuinely believe everything is always working out. For me, and if this is not the thing that's meant to be right now it means there's something even better down the road. So cool. So let's have fun with this. And let's like, show up and have fun. And then who knows what will happen in the future. But I think it's that an attachment to like things being so perfect that for myself, for a lot of people, right, I think a lot of women I work with everyone, we can get kind of caught up in perfectionism, and things have to turn out the way we thought they would. But when you can be kind of unattached and just more attached to like, feeling good and having fun and showing up in the moment. It's, it's a heck of a lot more enjoyable. And you end up

Brandon Handley 35:35
Yeah, listen, you could find yourself on spiritual dope, too, right?

Unknown Speaker 35:40
I love it.

Brandon Handley 35:41
But the deal is to have right like, I mean, that is, you know, the dude, you're talking about that seven days of being connected. That is, that's the spiritual high, right? That's, that's the, that's what the spiritual dope is. That's the hits. You know, when you got that meditation, and you've got that meditation buzz of man, I was just so connected, I was so aligned, I was so detached from, I don't want to say worldly things. But I was so detached from all all the activity and things that I felt like we were talking earlier, like, oh, maybe I gotta go make another pose. Maybe I got to go do this, maybe I got I got, I've got 10 minutes, I can squeeze in like five posts, maybe I can I am in and check for emails, right. And instead of being like, like, your coach is saying, Go study your fucking self for a minute. Right? Like, you're pretty special. Right? recognize that? You know, I think more recently, you know, some of the meditations that I'll do would be like, how far can you visualize yourself out? Right? And I'd be like, oh, infinite, right? The edges of the universe? Yes. But then more recently, I was like, well, inside is just as infinite to like, how deep Can I go into myself, and it's infinite. So it's infinite internally as much. So like, that was there's been like a new rocking revelation, right? Like, where you just kind of you go internally, and you just hang out with yourself. And you see that, like, you know, you are 100% connected to source at all times. And it's like, you're saying, it's a choice to say, I'm connected in this moment, to the person to the lady that was on the call, or title for my own shit. And I could I could show up and be there for her, or be tied up my own shit. And again, you're like, I'm gonna take this moment, be there for her. And be open for the intuition, the inspiration, what's coming out of this that is meant to be like your best.

Elyse Archer 37:35
Yes. I don't want to add something to what you said about just studying the depth of ourselves. So one of my girlfriends, her sister, passive cancer a couple years ago, and they were super close, super, super close. And I wouldn't talk about this on most any podcasts. I'll talk about it here because I feel like you'll get it. So she her sister passed. And then a mutual friend of theirs, called my friend out of the blue a couple months later, and she was she was like, I don't know, I just feel like I have to call you. And we needed to reconnect. And this, this woman also channels and connects with people on the other side. And suddenly, while they were talking, my friend's sister Lauren started coming through her and say, like, really literally reconnecting with my friend and what Lauren was saying, was, she said, You have no idea how big we are. She said now that I'm on the other side now that I can see it. She said, imagine like zoom out look at your house. Imagine you're looking at it from above. You see the house and then zoom out to the block and the street and then your city and then the world and then the universe. She said you're so much bigger. She said we are so much bigger than we know. She said I can't wait for you to see this and know this. But she was just like, it's you should have this this one on your podcast, I can introduce you because it's powerful. It's so powerful. But that perspective from the other side of are so much bigger than we can even fathom. Have

Brandon Handley 38:59
you connected yourself to that yet? Um, have you had that experience for yourself?

Unknown Speaker 39:04
No. Have you I want to Oh, can can you tell me about

Brandon Handley 39:07
it? Because I mean, it's you can't right that's the whole Yeah, you can't that's the whole like, mystery school mysticism. translate that thing now? I did do I did do one good podcast on it where I'm not sure if you've done breathwork yet.

Unknown Speaker 39:23
A little bit not

Brandon Handley 39:24
not a ton, but a little bit. It's like it's it's it's like, cracked out. Meditation. When done when done well, like when you when you nail you'll know when you nail it because you'll come out of it. Like, what the fuck just happened? And can I get more of that all the time? Anytime? And the answer is yes. Right. Which is also powerful because that's just like, like I said, meditation force multiplied and add connections and scenes, that you know, in those moments, that that's the That's just like a knowing, right? Like, it can't be anything other than that and and more back to what you were saying before is it doesn't you don't need an external validation for that type of thing. You know this as truth. Right and and so, yes, right and that's the that's the question all right and and you know, I had similar experience to where this actually so to Elise has meant guys just again so lease is a lease is actually responsible in part for spiritual dope as well I don't know if I told you that or not it was the interview without What was her name last one you got me in contact with the spiritual

Unknown Speaker 40:41
Oh, Regina Yeah,

Brandon Handley 40:43
so I interviewed Regina for the prosperity practice which in its own right was fucking awesome. I did love it and actually enjoyed it. But I also realized that I was I was kind of, you know, trying to sell the people what they wanted, but then give them what they need. And finally, I was just like, you know what bucket like your friend, right? Like, a much bigger, you know, spirituality, right? our spirits are much bigger than our bodies and it's self evident. There's like, you know, recordings of it with just even just with your resonance, right? You talked about also like the mind, mind heart coherence, experience that often, right? And that's through meditation, but again, like through a number of things, once you recognize how to connect that and resonate that piece, and then you're like, oh, like, like, all the time like it just like, it's so great. Anyway, so yeah, so I interviewed her. And I was like, Why? Why am I holding back? kind of the best part of me? The best part of like, what I believe, right? Because here was this, you know, here was this, you know, ex lawyer fucking doing it. Right? And I was like, why am I waiting? Right? For who? Who, who? And then this came all the way back from my first podcast. So anyway, so first podcast was like, who gives me the authority to do this, right? I do. You do. You give yourself the authority to be you, right? You know, to go out and do the things that you know, that you can do that you're capable of that you're called to do, right? And that's what you're doing now I get to be a witness to seeing you punch through like each layer of that shit, right. And that's what's been fun for me to kind of watch you too, because we've had I feel like kind of similar experiences in that way be like, like, this is all shit. I'm out of here. This is better, but and it's not even leveling up. Right? It's just finding yourself in a different space because even even to a different level of awareness to what already is. Right? It's just and goes back to your belief system be like, how When do I get to the side? Like, there's more? Well, there's a whole universe that is currently yours at your disposal. How do you want to use it? Right? Do you want to use it if you if you again, if you want to use your human self have fun with that. Right? And you've experienced that? What do you want to do with your Divine Self? What do you want to do with your universal self? Like what other kind of mindset Can you put yourself into and there's again, that's unlimited to

Unknown Speaker 43:16
this is so good. Oh my god. Yes,

Brandon Handley 43:20
yes. Yes. So again, guys, it was Elise who connected me with Regina and then when I connected with Regina, my wife had a friend who was medium as well on channel with me so it was combination of my wife whose childhood friend who she connects me with my grandfather like my closest you know, kind of Anthony in my life and and doing it with Gina and like, it was like the the medium wrote like a coming out letter of like, mediumship, right, like to her family, like I'm coming out of the closet medium type thing. So I was like, I was like, You know what, fuck it I'm coming out of the closet like spirituality and we're just we're just gonna go do it and ever since Sinhalese blown up blown blown. I mean, just the doors been blown off the people I've connected with, you know, I just interviewed my man here. I released you know, and and that, that was no following intuition. There was a 215 phone number, which is a Philadelphia area phone number. I was like, You're fucking up here. I'm calling. And I just called. I was like, I was like, I was like, Listen, I was like, I got like, you know, his pm and she was awesome. knew where she lived. We had this great conversation. I was like, I just got to let you know I love this book. I've gone through it like four or five times I leave groups on it, yada yada. Would he be open to being on the podcast and she goes, You know what he normally he hates them. But let me see what I can do. That's so cool. But again, so thank you like this is kind of like a trivia tool, a lease podcast. A lot of a lot, a lot of things because it's been a lot of fun and without your support. You know, in part, of course, like us, all other all other people that have been a part of the journey, but you've been a big part about it. So I thought I'd share that with you.

Elyse Archer 45:11
Thank you. Thank you. Well, any audience? Yeah. And I think to just to see kind of how you've, you've taken every step of your evolution and turn it into something that's good for other people. And I think that's really cool. Because I do think back to when we were first working together, and it was like, how do we sell more of these?

Brandon Handley 45:32
things? Right. But that goes back to what you were saying, like how, you know, there was like, you know, you were selling stuff, and you were doing it where like, there was like integrity issues. And it's like, yeah, you could sell something. Yeah. Maybe you could overcome some objections. Yeah, you maybe get this person to do this thing. But like, in the end, at what cost to you? And who?

Elyse Archer 45:50
Yes, exactly, exactly. Like, what is it actually all about? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 45:55
Well, so how do you I mean, I think that leads into a really good piece. So So how do you do it now where you've got it all tied together, that you feel aligned with what you're doing.

Elyse Archer 46:04
Um, I just really listened to what, what my body says about what whether it's working with a particular client, whether it's launching a program, and I don't fault myself for changing my mind, either, like I launched something new with the rollout of my new brand that was actually it was based on what a shaman who I follow what he does, or just like a $10, weekly, I drop in, he goes a healing temple. And it's so much I was like, Oh, we should have that for sales, that would be so much fun. So I did like a $10 weekly drop in sales training. And it's been, it's been fun, but it's like the numbers started off really high. And then they kind of dwindled with the number of women who were coming every week. And I used to go into panic about that. And now it's like, oh, cool, I'm being divinely guided to transform this into something else. So I'm transforming it into something slightly different a monthly membership, and women are signing up for that really fast. So it's like, just knowing that it doesn't have to be perfect. But if I take the, I listen to what I'm being told to do, I take the action, I'm not attached to it being that way forever. And then I just kind of keep receiving that guidance. And that's how I've launched my programs. That's how I choose which clients to work with. That's how I chose my brand colors. Like all of it, it's just all the

Brandon Handley 47:21
colors, by the way. Don't go gold, white, and red, which are which are all pretty cool. Yeah, I like that too. Like you talked about, like, you know, being able to change like kind of like your your and and, you know, in the business world or be ready to pivot, pivot, pivot. But being able to pivot, right, being able to adjust on the fly is something that I think a lot of people have a challenge with, too. How do you help them to overcome that, like, be like, Oh, I made this decision to do this thing. And I was told to commit. And, man, if I, if I just stick with it, persistence, and yada, yada, yada. So how do you help somebody that's stuck in that space?

Elyse Archer 48:01
Yeah, cash. And it's tough to write because we hear self discipline and persistence. And there's a lot of value. There's a lot of value to those attributes, in a lot of ways, but I think sometimes we get, you know, you hear like sunk cost theory in business. So I've put so much time and energy into this. And we can hold on to something just because of that, just because we already invested a lot of money or a lot of time. And even in our core, if we know it's no longer the right thing. So again, it comes down to intuition. And so if I'm working with the client, we kind of we look at, okay, if you were, if you were starting this today, would you do the same thing? Like if you were starting from scratch? Would you do the same thing? If the answer is yes, then it's okay. You probably just need to keep going at it for longer. Like it's just, it's keep showing up, keep doing it know that just like you said, with the flower when you plant it, it's gonna take a hot minute sometimes, and that's okay. But if you're being honest, and you wouldn't do it again, the same way today, or you wouldn't run this program today, or you wouldn't. I mean, this is a big one, but you wouldn't marry this person today. Right? Like, then I'm not counseling people and relationships. So take that for what it's worth, but you kind of look at, okay, are you attached to this just because you've put so much time and energy into it? Or are you attached to it, because it's actually what you're meant to be doing. And it just needs a little more time to mature or grow or terminate.

Brandon Handley 49:23
I love that. I love being associated. Again, you know, I'm a big fan of the word grace these days. So give yourself a little grace and let you kind of, you know, let that let that life energy just go ahead and propagate the way that it's supposed to. Right. And I love though, to that you're saying you know, if you started today, would you still do this? Right? Because again, we we put all this energy into the sunk cost thing even like, well, the Titanic sinks, it's sunk, right? Like I mean, fucking let it go. Right? They jump off the boat because it is sunk costs, and it hasn't accelerated you or gotten you to where you think you should be by Now and if you were to, you know, kind of continue that trajectory, it's down at this point, right? I love it. I love it. So, what, um, you know, let's what is a, you know, a hit of spiritual dope for you like, you know what, you know, meditation, I mean, having, you know, maybe looking at your son, you know, what is what is something that, um, that's just your pure hit a spiritual dope.

Elyse Archer 50:24
I mean, it's totally hanging out with my son jack now like that's just to see see the pureness of a little kid and to see how they just just their wholeness and their appearances, and his unfiltered laughter is so much fun. I absolutely love that. And then I think the other thing is just when I can show up and give or do something for somebody else that has nothing to do with me. And that's actually, when I found myself a couple months ago, like going through some of that Panic of like, Oh, my God, am I doing making the wrong decision or the wrong choice? That's part of how I would shift out of it is I would be like, What can I do for somebody else right now to get my head out of my ass and focus on what really matters. And that always, to me, that always helps. It's that quick shift. It's like, What can I do for someone else, whether it's write a comment on their social media, whether it's had a client who wants to book club, I was like, I'm gonna join my clients book club right now. And that's gonna make him feel good when he looks in his inbox and sees that he's got a new member. So just stuff like that. Right? It's, it's always kind of getting our focus off of ourselves.

Brandon Handley 51:31
I love this. I mean, it doesn't have to be complex, right? You can go out there and kind of give of yourself and support somebody else in small meaningful ways. And you're gonna feel better about yourself. Hmm,

Elyse Archer 51:42
yeah. Well, and it's the whole Have you read the diamond cutter?

Unknown Speaker 51:46
No, I have not, oh, this

Unknown Speaker 51:48
will be a good one. I

Unknown Speaker 51:49
think you'll be into this.

Elyse Archer 51:50
So the principle behind it is whatever you want for yourself, help someone else get it. So I've got my, my mastermind partner. She's also going for seven figures in her business right now. So one of the things that I've done and I told her I was like, This is not entirely altruistic that I want to help you do this. Like, I'm really curious energetically how this works for me.

Brandon Handley 52:11
It's interesting, though, at least, right? Like, when I started fatherhood, for the rest of us, it wasn't for the pure reasons. Right? It really wasn't and I can look back and I can say that right? I'm like, you know, I did this for all the wrong reasons. But I was doing the right things, even if it was for the right reasons, for all reasons. Yeah. And that kind of tilted the whatever right into into always say like, I'm like the Grinch my heart grew to sizes too large or whatever, right? Like it went from being like, you know, this thing to write. So I think that you and I think you know, are you know, when you collect new Java Roman back in the day, I remember him going into, you know, talking about that, right being like, what happens if you do the right things with like, the wrong reasons. Now, I would say and wrong reasons is really kind of hard. You can't really say it's for the wrong reasons. You're really trying to do it for the benefit. Yes, of you. And of them, but like, you know, that kind of shakes off. Just Just for I mean, my experience has been that kind of shakes off like initially, it's kind of like, I'm doing it mostly for me a little bit. You still feel okay, I'm doing it for like, you know, at least I'm not, you know, at least I'm not calling you an asshole, right? Like, you know, merger. Nobody's a jerk. I'm doing all these things. And eventually, that it's just kind of like rust away until like, this purity situation happens where like, that's just becomes who you are. Right? So there's really nothing wrong with like, trying on different clothes until you find the pair that fits.

Elyse Archer 53:38
Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. And I think it's you always know because it's the energy or doing something and like, how do you feel while you're doing it? If you feel secretly like, with this, this friend of mine, who I'm helping, I'm just kinda like consulting and helping her for helping her hit seven figures in her business this year. It's like, the energy that I feel around it when I do it. If I felt jealousy or if I felt scarcity or like, I should be spending the time on my own stuff. exactly what you're talking about, right, like doing it for the wrong reasons. But I think it's it's, you can tell when you feel like whole excited, fulfilled, relaxed while you're doing it. It's really different.

Unknown Speaker 54:13
You are at ease. Yes,

Brandon Handley 54:15
you're at ease and the things are easy. They're simple. They're fulfilling. Yeah, right. All right. Super awesome. As always to catch up with you. Unfortunately, we can't stay on all day. So where can we send people to go find more Elise Archer,

Elyse Archer 54:33
thank you so much for having me. Elise. archer.com has all the things and then on all social media. I'm at Elise Archer. So with love, love, love to connect. I've got a podcast, she sells radio so people can check that out. It's like sales with a healthy dose of spirituality.

Brandon Handley 54:49
Now, who would you say your ideal client is Elise?

Unknown Speaker 54:53
Hmm.

Elyse Archer 54:55
It's often a younger me. And I'm not saying that in an egotistical way. It's just I can really help them. A woman because I know

Unknown Speaker 55:00
what's going on.

Elyse Archer 55:02
So it's typically going to be a woman who is either a business owner or she's in sales, she's looking to break through her first six figures. And it's like, something's not quite clicked there. But she's ready. And she's probably a little bit turned off by a lot of what she's being taught from either corporate sales training or from the book she's reading and it just doesn't quite feel right to her and she's like, could I reach my goals in a way that actually feels really good to me and other people and I love helping that type of woman so that's my ideal client.

Brandon Handley 55:32
awesome guys. Go

check out Lisa's especially, you know, if you meet that description, I can promise you that, uh, you know, it'll work out for you. Right? guarantee that, you know, to go through some of the coaching or some of the programs that Elise has offered, they will be valuable to you.

Unknown Speaker 55:48
Thank you, my friend. Thank you. This has been wonderful.

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Kat Kim | Spiritual Non-Conformist

Published: Feb. 14, 2021, 12:09 p.m.
Duration: 59 minutes 27 seconds

I had the opportunity to speak with Kat Kim recently... we had a blast! Be sure to listen in to hear all about her spiritual journey!

From her about page:

I serve the Spiritual Nonconformist, the misfit, the misunderstood.  

In other words, the changemaker.

For over ten years I've applied what I know about behavioral change and spiritual transformation to help my clients create radical, nonconformist change in their lives.

My approach is based on Hermetic Philosophy, New Thought teachings, and the wisdom passed down through the ages by Buddha, Jesus Christ, and Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

(And Chomsky. Can't forget Chomsky.)

connect with Kat over at https://www.katkim.com/

Insta: @katkimofficial

FB: @MissKatKim

Brandon Handley 0:00
54321 Hey there spiritual dope. Brandon Handley, your hosts here with cat cam and I'm gonna flip it for the new year. Normally I introduced but, you know, cat cam once you go ahead and give the audience a little feel for what you're all about.

Kat Kim 0:18
Okay? Hello, everyone. I am a former crack addict and drug dealer facing three years in state prison turned a spiritual teacher leadership coach, I founded a school called the School of divine confidence. I am the person that will help you overcome your fears, blocks and shame. So you can step into that best version of yourself where you can truly make a difference.

Brandon Handley 0:43
I mean, you opened right up with it. I love that. So we'll definitely get into it. So the way I like to start this off with to say like, you know, universe power, creative source, all that stuff speaks through us right and and our message is received to somebody out there in the audience today, it can only come through this medium. What is your message today?

Kat Kim 1:03
My message today is that each and every one of us has this indescribable, of limitless power that we have access to. And most of us give up, give that power away. Most of us give that power away to the outside world of circumstances and physical things and elections and all the madness. You know, pandemics out there. But I have defined divine confidence to be an having an unshakable faith and knowing who you are, and what you're here to do, regardless of what's going on in the world outside of you. And I really, truly believe that we all have access to that divine confidence.

Brandon Handley 1:48
100% Amen. Amen. I love I love to like the clear delineation of you have access to it. Right? Everybody's got access to it. It is fairly innate. Right? But it's like, you still it's you just don't know it until you access it. Right? Like, holy shit. This has been here the whole time. Yeah. And I love that you've got this Divinity School. Like I said, we have a lot in common. I too have a course on divinity. Right? Like, it's just it's straight up just called the divine framework. But why don't you give me a little bit of what your divinity school teaches? You know, kind of how you landed on it, that kind of thing. Yeah,

Kat Kim 2:29
I Well, can I start with where I began?

Unknown Speaker 2:33
This would you man.

Kat Kim 2:36
Thank you. There's a backstory to this. When I was six years old, my mother began feeding me diet pills. And this was kind of like the lifelong like the beginning of a lifelong struggle of low self confidence, horrible body image, no self worth, I was barely tall enough one day to, you know, put my hands on the kitchen counter. And I remember one day looking up at her. And she was cutting something at the kitchen, on the board on the cutting board. And I asked her, What are you doing? And she said, Well, these are diet pills. And these are for adults. And since you're only a child, you only need to eat half of them. So she she continued to cut them. And I did not question her. I did not think there was something wrong with it. I just fully accepted in that moment that there was something wrong with me and my body and that I needed something outside of me in order to be okay. So I began to feel absolutely ugly, fat, unwanted and unworthy. All by the time I was in second grade, really. And my also grew up in a very emotionally and physically abusive environment. And I started rebelling at a really young age, I started doing started drinking and smoking at 13 doing hardcore drugs at 16. And by the time I was 18, I was dealing cocaine. And I was transporting it from Washington State to California. on the plane, this is pre 911 it was really easy to do this and not that I'm giving you guys ways to do it. But the way I did it was I just snuck the drugs inside of maxi pads. So it'll be weird if

Brandon Handley 4:18
you did that. I pulled it off. But I mean, listen with these days and ages. I'd be like I identify as and and you know who's gonna try and you know, you can't you can't fight that. Yeah, yeah.

Kat Kim 4:30
So, one day I got caught. I was arrested. I was handcuffed in Oakland, California, of all places. Oakland at that time was notorious for its high rates of homicides and violent crimes. Now, I was right there in the middle of that. And I was absolutely fearless. But it wasn't the type of fearlessness that comes from courage. The root word of courage is courage, which is the heart. It didn't come from there. It came from a place of having absolutely no reason. Guard from my life, my future my health, my body, I didn't care. I didn't give a damn what happened to me I was on the fast track of self destruction, I had no confidence, no self worth. And so while I was in jail, I was like, I want to network while I'm here, I'm in Oakland, I'm gonna, I'm gonna, you know, make some deals while I can. So

Brandon Handley 5:19
that's like the central hub, right? All the people, you finally made it when you get to Oakland, right? You're like, Hey, you know, I'm here, I made it. Home spa.

Kat Kim 5:32
Never thought of it that way. When it's so true. I was like, I'm here in Oakland, I'm gonna make I'm gonna make the most of it as I can. So even while I was there, facing three years in state prison, I was like, I'm just going to try to make some drug deals while I'm here while I was here. While I was there. I pled guilty. During that time, I went to the part of my whole thing they give you know, they made me go to rehab for two years. Long story short, I cleaned up the drugs. But this feeling of not being good enough, having no self worth, no self value, stayed with me. It didn't go anywhere. It was part of who I was. And so I started getting involved in really toxic relationships with men that were emotionally abusive. This entire time. Brandon, I hated the way I looked, I walked around like I was the meanest, nastiest bitch alive. And of course, because I believe that to be true about myself, I attracted everything into my life that validated those beliefs. And it really wasn't until many years after getting out of jail cleaning up that I was walking down my apartment hallway one day, at that time, I was very, very depressed could barely even move. I remember one day I was trying to like lift my body off of the couch. And I couldn't because it was like this dark energy pushing me down. Somehow, that particular day, I managed to get up, I was going somewhere I don't even know where. And I was walking down my apartment hallway to my elevator. And there's this mirror that hangs on the wall, top to like ceiling to floor, huge mirror. And walking down, I look up and I caught a glimpse of somebody standing in the hallway. And I see her in the mirror. And she's just kind of really uncapped, and she's wearing big baggy clothes, Her face is really swollen and puffy. And even while I was wallowing in my own toxicity at that time, I was depressed and, you know, essentially just hating life. I remember just looking at her and thinking, Oh, my God, at least I'm not that bad. And there was something about her, it wasn't even just how she looked, it was this deep, dark energy that was coming from her that made me feel like my goodness, at least I haven't gotten that far. And it hit me like a ton of bricks, there was nobody else in that hallway. There was nobody there. It was me, I had become so disconnected with who I wanted to be as a woman who I was being called to be and who I was being that I didn't even recognize myself when I saw myself in the mirror. And finally, that was my wake up call. And this is you know, sounds overly dramatic. But this is literally how it happened. I walked into the elevator. And now you know, I'm facing that wall with the mirror so I can see myself in the mirror. And the elevator doors are closing in on me like this. And I said, This is the moment that I'm going to do whatever it takes to become the person that I want it to be.

Brandon Handley 8:25
No, I love that. Right? Like, even even if, even if, like you know, it sounds dramatic. That's your moment that you chose. Right? That was your, your Pinnacle point, right? I think that. I think that when you recognize that too, as you as you're going through it, you're like, no, this is my shit. And this is what I'm gonna do. And here's how I'm gonna do it. I don't know how it's gonna work out. I just know that I'm stepping into it, and I don't fuck it. That's it. Right. I'm done. I'm a high school dropout left that part out. And then the other part was, was when you went in. It's not San Quentin, but I just wanna say San Quentin. Brooklyn, what do you want to Oakland? Was that from the bus ride after after? When you turn yourself in? Or was that something else? Did you know about that story? Oh, man. I poked around. I did.

Kat Kim 9:24
Yeah, that was that. Was that that? Was that? That one moment? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 9:29
Okay, so so i think i think that's really key here. Because you are at like, this kind of desperate moment. But you're also still very humane. Right? Like, so. For those of you that don't know, you know, she got a bus driver and shovel for sniffing some coke on the side of the side of the road. Cops knock on their they bust the cop who's a black guy. She's Asian. And like, even in that time, you're like, you're like, Hey, I'm Asian. These biases should still look a mess out there. And you go in and you're like, hey, by the way, this is my drugs. He had nothing to do with it. So you you kept him from getting into jail and you put yourself in a position and my guess is like, again, you're kind of like, you're juxtapose them between being this badass and being like, Well, I'm not gonna let that guy go and for me,

Kat Kim 10:14
yeah, it was it was a trip. So this was Yep. I got off the plane when one day. I had my drugs in tow. Pete feathers?

Brandon Handley 10:26
How much were you? How much were you? carting around? Just out of curiosity?

Kat Kim 10:29
Oh, um, I don't even remember. But I remember at one point, I had a kilo, which is

Brandon Handley 10:35
a lot more than a little bit. Yeah,

Kat Kim 10:36
yeah. Oh, yeah. For sure. I didn't get caught with that kilos, though. That was,

Brandon Handley 10:42
that would have been longer than three. Yeah.

Kat Kim 10:44
It was longer. But that one day, I got off the airplane. got onto the shuttle bus. And you know, what, uh, what's the I always fuck these words up? Like, these American idioms for birds of a feather flock together? Right? That's, that's it? Okay. Sure. Somehow, I ended up being the last person being dropped off. I'm sitting in the front with the driver. We somehow started. I mean, who starts talking about drugs? Well to druggies. They get together

Brandon Handley 11:14
in conversation.

Kat Kim 11:14
Yeah, somehow it just came up and and I was like, Oh, yeah, I have some cocaine. He was like, Oh, really. So he pulls over the the shuttle bus into the Oakland Hills. And I proceed to pull some cocaine out. He puts it into a piece of paper. He doesn't really weird. I've never seen anyone smoke. Or, you know, sniff cocaine this way. It was just bizarre. Anyway, whatever, you know, you do you. So he, he pulls it out, he does it. And then right at that moment, there's a flashlight that's beaming in in the window. And it was two cops. Because very strange. There's a random bus in the Hollywood Hills just parked there. And he, he literally got red caught red handed, it was in his hands, and he threw it on the floor. The cops pulled him out. And they arrested him. They told me to sit on, you know, outside on this rock. And I'm sitting there and I'm watching this whole thing unfold. And I'm like, Oh, my God, like, I'm gonna get away with this. And then what I did was I I'm gonna I better, I better walk, you know, so I pulled the rest of the cocaine that I had in my purse. And I saw it behind me in a rock behind the rock. I was like, I'm not gonna get caught with this. And as I'm watching this whole thing, unfold, all of a sudden, I get this, this voice in my head, and then it tells me the truth will set you free. And I'm like, the fuck are you? Seriously? You're gonna you whoever you are. You're gonna cut off all the time.

Unknown Speaker 12:46
Right? Yes, exactly. Now's not the time.

Kat Kim 12:50
And I didn't believe in God or spirit. I wasn't even nothing. I wasn't spiritual. At that time. I haven't gone I

Brandon Handley 12:57
we I

Kat Kim 12:59
wasn't high. Okay. Yeah, I was just a girl sitting there getting free, because all of a sudden, it came. And I just knew in that moment, it was God. But I would never admit that and not even tell the story for years and years and years and years. Because I didn't believe in God, it would be weird for me to say God came and told me this. But at that time, I was just I just knew that God said, The truth will set you free. And I was like, fuck. So I called the two cops over and I told them, Hey, you got to let this guy go. Those drugs are mine. They were flabbergasted. They were like, What are you talking about? And I was like, no, they're really mine. And, and I mean, the guy was already handcuffed and booked and put in the car. And they didn't believe me. And so I went back into the behind the rock. I was like, Look, this stuff is mine. And then I was like, and there's more in my luggage beside the car. And so there were they just were like, we you know, because there was one of the cops was like, You know what, I would let you go. But now there's another cop with me. I can't even we have to take you in. And that's when I had all these like, I realized that kind of the inequity of the whole situation here I was Asian girl and there was, you know, a brown man, I'm like, he would have been fucked up and screwed. And I wasn't being a martyr or anything like that. But I just knew that this was my journey. It was for me, all of that came to me in that moment that this is my journey. This was for me. It was not for him. And then I had to take ownership of this. So they arrested me and then they read me my Miranda rights, which is a whole nother thing. You you hear people you hear like the cool cop catching the bad guy on TV and movies and you hear the Miranda you know, the rights being read all the time. You know, you have the right to remain silent and whatever. But to hear it being read to us just bizarre. That was the most bizarre part.

Brandon Handley 15:00
I don't want to say that I've heard it before, but I've heard it before. It's very surreal. Right? It's very

Unknown Speaker 15:05
surreal

Unknown Speaker 15:07
for me, thank you. So

Kat Kim 15:09
it was so weird. And they proceeded to book me and take me into, into sanguine. Yeah, yeah, yes. Yeah. So that's my, that's my story there. And the funny thing of all that Brendon is like, I just, I wasn't scared. In the cop car. I just knew that this was a journey made for me. And I wasn't afraid of what was what was yet to come.

Brandon Handley 15:37
I mean, that's cool, right? It's, it's cool in the sense that, you know, you just you put yourself out there, right? You were probably already still feeling this kind of Fuck it. I'm hard as hell does, you know, I'm Cat Cat Cat can pitch. Right? Right. And you're like, you're like, you know, you're on in and you're still like, you know, drug dealers, drug dealers, and you're, you're having your conversations, you're still trying to network while you're in there. Just because I mean, that's just that's just the nature of that space, right, the space that you were in. So what I'm curious about those I said, you go on for two years of rehab. That's a long time for rehab. But what's interesting is, to me is how you came out of it with a poor self image. Because in my mind, you know, if you if you go through two years of kind of like a rehab program, they should have this kind of building you back up as part of the program. And it doesn't sound like that was there sounded like the only thing that they were there to do is to make sure that you don't do drugs again.

Kat Kim 16:43
Yeah, yeah. Well, oh, there's so many ways I could talk about this thing that you're bringing up right now. Firstly, do I want to share this part of the story, okay. So I will might as well, as part of the program, you're supposed to go to Narcotics Anonymous, and you know, you're supposed to get signed off and all that. And I went to my first meeting, I went to two of them. And, again, I just had this sense of knowing like, this is not for me. And I do not advise anyone to do this. I'm not sharing this so that people will follow this. But I just, I just knew it wasn't for me. So I didn't go and I ended up forging the signatures. So I didn't do that portion of it. And rehab was good for me because I had to not do drugs because I didn't do pee tests every week. So I I cleaned up the drugs. But that feeling of not being good enough unworthy, unwanted, ugly, that that doesn't go away, just because you go to rehab, as we all know, I mean, if that if it were that easy, then we wouldn't have these issues with people in their in their addictions to whether it's drugs or alcohol or shopping, whatever that is, the sense of not being good enough and unworthy. I took that on at a really young age. That was handed down to me from my parents, generational trauma, that type of thing. And that that is what stuck with me all through these years and into my adult life.

Brandon Handley 18:17
Yeah, you mentioned that as part of your culture too. Right. Like just kind of the same in your own culture. Right. Crane? Is that right?

Kat Kim 18:25
Yeah, yeah. So

Brandon Handley 18:26
just being you know, from generation to generation, there's a you know, just a different sense of being and kind of what you have to live up to, in your heritage versus American slacker ism.

Unknown Speaker 18:36
Right?

Brandon Handley 18:38
Call it what it is, you know, y'all know about slacker ism. But um, so you're still fighting like that kind of image. And then, you know, we're working our way up to the Divinity School. But I know that there's a couple other pieces in between this wants to go ahead and share kind of what happens after rehab, and you're still fighting with your image.

Kat Kim 18:57
Yeah, so it's that, you know, I'm getting involved in really toxic relationships with people. There's just it was so so unhealthy. And it was that moment. Again, it was it wasn't until that moment, I was walking down my apartment hallway, I saw that version of myself, that was not really me, but that had been living my entire life. And that was that moment where I decided I would do whatever it takes to become the woman that I wanted to be to be. I wanted to be beautiful. I want to be powerful. I wanted to make an impact and transform lives. And I wanted to walk into a room and have people notice me not forget that I ever existed, because that's who that's usually what would have happened at that time. And so, I began studying everything under the sun around transformation. I was so upset I became obsessed about transformation. So I became a professional certified image consultant, I began to study like colors and style. Like how do you accentuate the most beautiful part A person's face and body instead of hiding yourself all the time. And then I became a nationally certified personal trainer to understand what the body goes through to undergo to undergo transformation. And this kept on taking me deeper and deeper. And then I became a transformative life coach, I studied three years about the mindset and you know how our thoughts and our feelings impact our, our behavior and our results. And interestingly, this quest for transformation on the outside kept taking me deeper and deeper inside into the world of spirituality, metaphysics and quantum physics, where I discovered that everything that we are seeking on the outside everything, whether it's more money, better relationships, better health, all of that, all of that does not exist unless it exists on the inside, in the metaphysical world, beyond the physical within our minds and our hearts. And this is where I discovered that if we want something in the outside world, that thing is not going to happen unless we it's within us unless we're embodying that thing. That's where I discovered where transformation happens the quickest and the easiest, and and then on another level, Brandon, it's like this. I just because I was so obsessed about like finding the source of all things I discovered. Without knowing it. And without wanting this, I discovered that the source of all things is his spirit, or God, I

Brandon Handley 21:35
was gonna I was gonna try. I was gonna try and garble it out there. And you know, maybe I'll have to, like beep it out or something. She gave us the answer, but nobody knows.

Unknown Speaker 21:45
Yeah,

Brandon Handley 21:46
yes. Yes. Um, so, yes, yes. And yes. I love it. Right, like so. I'll let you continue, then I'll then I'll then I'll throw some more stuff at you.

Kat Kim 21:57
Yeah, yeah. Well, and this is what I discovered where divine confidence comes from. It's an unshakable faith in knowing who you are and what you're here to do, regardless of what's going on in the world outside of you. That means regardless of how much money you have, regardless who the President is, regardless of a global pandemic, regardless of your past and your history, and all the mistakes and you know, things that you've done, divine confidence is is is this unshakable faith and knowing who you are and what you're here to do. And this is why this is where I've committed myself to helping other women, other people like me go through that same transformation, and that's where I founded the School of divine confidence. But I primarily work with people kind of like myself, non conformists, misfits, people who've always felt like they've had one side, one side.

Brandon Handley 22:48
So you, nonconformists, misfits, I was listening to you earlier today. And I thought at first I thought you said nonconformist mystics. I was like, well, that's cool, too. Like, it could be nonconformist mistakes. I mean, yeah, I would have to say a mystic is a non conformance by like, you know, default, but like, why not like non conformance mistakes as well. So continue?

Kat Kim 23:08
spot on, spot on? Absolutely. Yeah. All of the above? Um, yeah, you know, I work I work with people who've always felt like they've had to fit in, but they don't, and they're always trying to conform, but they can't. Those are the people that I love. And I actually call my people, misfits and mutants. Because when, when one time one of my clients called me Professor X, and he said, You are like Professor X, you you see what, you know, the the gift in people, but you only work with mutants, like that. So spot on.

Unknown Speaker 23:44
Yeah,

Brandon Handley 23:44
I get it. You know, I think that's got to be the deal is it's funny, you know, so my kind of my five words or whatever kind of value prop or whatever, you whatever you want to do with it marketing? Or just my words, right? It's courage like understanding and and really those people that don't fit in it's because like, is it their soul contract that like, I mean, sounds to me, like you never really found like your space, right? But that's because like, the space that's been set out there is like a space of conformity. And you're just like, yeah, it doesn't fit. It sucks to be sitting on the outside, but in the end, I'm super glad I never fucking made it aim. Yeah, right. Like, I mean, I'm a high school dropout as well. That's something I don't think that I've shared yet. On this audience had my fair share of drugs in hand and sold my fair share, but I mean, look, you know, it's also like you say, who we were yesterday, and all those years before it says that's not like my growth trajectory. I'm like, Yeah, that's it was fun. I you know, I can never tell you that I didn't have a good I had a great fucking time. I had a blast. Had some moments of tears and shit that sucked. Yeah, but like, I mean, that just comes with any territory that you run up against. But then you talk about mindset coach like becomes like doing this mindset coaching. Can we say that? Going through your debating course even though we haven't talked about it yet just based off of kind of how I run mine is like, divinity is a mindset. Right? Once you tap into the divine, you're like, well, like that's that's spirit. That's source. That's all encompassing. That's infinite. Yeah. I think I'm gonna be alright. Yeah, right. Like the whole the whole the whole, like, I'm gonna get my worries over to God even though I like I'm not a Christian. I'm like, I buy into that. Like I'm like, Yes. So the subconscious you talk about it covers 95% of like, all of our stuff, right? Not to mention, pumps, our blood grows our hair. Yeah, there's all this stuff. I don't know how that works. Yeah, I'm doing it. And if I can do this, yeah, what else am I capable of? Yeah, right. Yeah. I mean, cuz I'm like, whatever. So um, but everybody has that open to them. So I'm curious. You know, I want to hear you talk. And this just could be me like I hear thinking grow rich. I hear Bob Proctor in the background. Huh? Do I Do you? Are you thinking grow rich and Bob Proctor fan at all? Any of those?

Unknown Speaker 26:25
I will.

Brandon Handley 26:27
I hear you say like burning desire and stuff like that, like, you know,

Kat Kim 26:30
oh, you know, that's I read thinking grow rich. I read that a long time ago. For sure. I know, Bob Proctor? Um,

Brandon Handley 26:40
who are your favorite? Like, who are your big teachers that made you like really? Get it? Like when was like the moment like you? You talked about being like, here's your my drugs. I'm hiding behind the rock guys. I'm like, Hey, I'm in your head. You're like, not right now. Not today. But you're like, I'm not gonna tell anybody that it's God. When were you able to say you know, comfortably? Hey, I've had conversations with God. And that's all spirit. And what got you there?

Kat Kim 27:04
So that's good question. Because at that time, I didn't even believe I didn't know that.

Brandon Handley 27:09
Yeah. So when when did you When did you say all right? Okay, fine. I'll let people know. Right? We're seeing each other. I'm saying, God.

Kat Kim 27:18
When did I come out of that God closet? Right. Yeah. Um, so I began, like really diving into spiritual studies over 10 years ago, you know, yeah, I read, thinking Grow Rich, I read all the books, I read all the books, you know, law of attraction, and Esther Hicks and all that. But I started to really, really dive even deeper about five years ago, there's been a while maybe we'll save this for another podcast episode. But there was another thing, a big huge ship that just shit hit the fan in my life on another level, during that time. And I literally was brought to the ground on my knees. at a certain time in my life, when I knew I was absolutely powerless. And I had nothing. There was nothing I can do. And the only thing I could do was finally just like, like you said earlier, actually, you hit the nail on the head, like surrender. I the only thing I can do right now is to surrender to this thing. I don't know if you're out there, God, but this is you know, it's so fucked up right now. It's almost funny. Here. Just take it it was

Brandon Handley 28:24
this, right? Yeah,

Kat Kim 28:24
it was almost like that it got to that point where it was. There's almost like a freedom to it. I didn't know whether it was gonna work or not. But I think that was actually the key. I was like, yeah, it can't get any worse than this.

Unknown Speaker 28:39
Well,

Brandon Handley 28:41
it didn't turn out that way. For you. That's good. Right? You know, the deal is, though, is like you you handed it over without expectations, right? You handed it over, and you're like, you know what, I absolutely surrender. I'm not doing such a good job with this by myself. Right? And I'd like to say like, you know, I definitely want to talk more about your school divinity. But like, you know, once you kind of, you know, we act as humans before, before we access this source energy in this space, right? We act as human and we deal with all these worldly things, right? And you hear all the time again, not like a super huge Bible guy, but like, you know, you can't do it through worldly means you like, and then you're like, but I could do it through spiritual means. Yeah, right. I could do it through like metaphysical means. And then you also talked about like, you know, kind of this level of success, you've got to have a level of belief that you can actually achieve that and well, if I look at my history of just Brandon and what have I achieved by myself, right? Maybe not all that I want to achieve I can do by myself. So if I just go ahead and I take in a little bit of God a little bit of divinity and then what am i capable of right like what what can we you know, we can go down like you know, the The Wizard of Oz, right, like arm and arm like skipping down the yellow brick road. Right, like, then we're done. We're a trio and then there's like a time team of us doing something versus Brandon, the human and his worldly ways?

Kat Kim 30:04
Well, yeah, so check this out this Oh, this is I remember now clearly what the turning point for me when I went from spiritual mainstream law of attraction to

Unknown Speaker 30:15
Yes, yeah next level

Kat Kim 30:17
to the next level. One of the things that that one of the handful of things that was happening for me at that time was my niece got arrested for the same crime. on another level like she updated me. I was like, Oh, look at you. Same drugs, more of it more serious. And almost in the same area of Northern California. And her bail was $1 million. And I just became frantic. I was like, Oh, my God, I have to get her out of there. I don't know what to do. The bill was at $1 million. It was a very, very difficult time for me. Like I said, though, that was just one of the things. There was a couple other things that was happening. I'll just say it my dad, I discovered my dad had a gambling addiction. And we were $250,000 in debt. So there was like things happening.

Brandon Handley 31:10
So you so you called us just so it sounds like Yeah. And then and then I mean, I don't mean I don't mean to like call it out. But again, with with their culture to compounding that.

Kat Kim 31:21
Yeah, exactly. Hush, Hush. Nobody talks about it, don't anybody. I mean, so much shame wrapped in all of these things. And I got to the point, like I said, where I was like, I don't, I can't, there's nothing I can do. I can't stop my father from gambling. There's nothing I can do about my knees. I don't have a million fucking dollars, by the way. Right? So I went to that part. Yeah, I went to my spiritual center, I started going to a spiritual center at that time, almost as everyday, as much as I could, because I needed some sort of sanctuary. And they had a prayer box. And the spiritual leader at that time said, if you need a prayer, you know, put remote Don't forget, don't forget to put a prayer in the prayer box, I thought was bullshit. I walked by it. It wouldn't hurt. I have nothing else to do except for wallow in my pity and my anger right now. So I wrote on a little tiny piece of paper. I need a million dollars or I wrote something like my nieces. And you know, her bail is $1 million. I need help. Please pray for me. I don't know what to do. I wrapped it up and put it in the prayer box. Lo and behold, that $1 million bail, it went down to 500,000. And then they wanted me to appear in court. I went to court with my brother, my brother's daughter. And while we were at court, they brought that $1,500,000 to 020.

Brandon Handley 32:53
That's awesome, right like me. So that's it. That's and and so were you at a level where you could look at it that way yet.

Kat Kim 33:01
I was beginning to see. What was that? If that's not an answered prayer, I don't know what what is. And this will happen in a very short amount of time. It wasn't like I put this prayer and the prayer box. And then a year later, it was like I put the prayer in there. And then six weeks later, boom, that $1 million went to zero. And of course, who knows what I don't know the legalities of all of whatever. But in my mind, it was that the burden of $1 million that was lifted from my shoulders. And I was like

Brandon Handley 33:38
you said I think that's the thing too, right? Like, it doesn't matter what it looks like from the outside. That's been your experience. And you know what, like, I mean for somebody to be like, well, that's coincidence. Oh, that's just the way the law works. You'd be like, Yeah, but I put a prayer and a prayer box. Maybe you didn't catch that. Right. And so I think I think that's the other thing that I want to chat with you a little bit about too, right? Because again, so let's see high school dropout drugs, bad choices, bad choices.

Unknown Speaker 34:08
And then

Brandon Handley 34:11
you know, I ended up having my family and had a little epiphany in the middle there as us come along but before I came into this podcast and this base literally just in this past year I was doing something called the prosperity practice right like based off it based off the Esther Hicks game right have $100 in your pocket and yada yada and it was I was very very seldom what they want give them what they need, right like because everybody everybody you talk about this I want to talk about to the the spiritual consumerism right but like everybody just wants like, you know, everybody wants all the stuff but like they don't want the rest of the shit that goes with it. I don't I still I'd love to hear more on that but I was like, you know what I was like I'm hiding behind the saying and it's much more than just like this law of attraction and even when I was doing it, mine was more along the lines of Like neville goddard and like some of these other people, right, like, yeah. And then I just fucking, I just, I just let it go. I was like, you know what I was like, I was like this, it's all spiritual. To me. It's all like, that's what it is. And I'm gonna lead with spirituality, and see where it goes. And ever since I did it, like it's just blown up. I mean, nobody reached out to me when I was in prosperity practice, you've reached out to me, people reach out to me, like left and right to be on spiritual dope. And it's just like, so it's just like, it's like, it's fucking crazy, right? Because now, like, when you're like, in alignment with spirit and your purpose, and yourself then just starts to happen. And you're like, Well,

Kat Kim 35:38
yeah,

Brandon Handley 35:39
where's this coming from? Right? That was the other piece I want to ask you to was like, um, you know, when you talk about your, your divinity school, right and and getting into is there is there a piece in there where it's, you've got the self confidence, and all that is there a piece in there where you delve into purpose as well?

Kat Kim 35:59
Oh, 100%, it's all it's all purpose. It's all purpose. And that's part of the framework where I help people, I just want to teach give my students the skills to know how to reach their own divine confidence at any given moment at any given time. And I think that's the, you know, the false belief that our purpose is something is a one time thing. And that it's something that we, you know, our purpose is going to be this thing that we do for the rest of our life. And, and that's actually not the case. That's, that's the opposite of spirituality. Spirituality is being in the moment and the here and the now and being present to the gifts and what's whatever is wrong with you. In this moment, as we know, there's no, there's no, if you're regretting the past and your future tripping, then you've, you've missed the point of this present moment. So, you know, part of one of the things that I teach is that your purpose is not in the future. It's right here, it's right now. And if you can, if you can, if you know how to ground into that and become present to that, what else do you need, and just like you shared, like, once you, you know, align with that, then everything unfolds naturally and easily. And that's what I think a lot of people, most people have a hard time grasping. It's that surrendering and letting go of having your their hands in all the details and having to know how everything is going to happen with us, because how it looks on the outside. Right, exactly.

Brandon Handley 37:26
So so what you see on the outside, you see other people doing on the outside? That's, you know, I can use some examples, like when you know, what, are still working sales. When I see historically, like people like acting frantically, it's always going to be frantic for that person, right? Like, yeah, that person is always on fire, this person is always this way, this is always going to happen for that person. Because we talked you talked about earlier, like, you know, your level of belief is, oh, I have to do it this way. This is the way I've had success before. If I don't metal the whole time, then it's just not gonna happen for me. Right. But like, it doesn't have to be you. Yeah, as a matter of fact, it's not you. It's maybe maybe it's initiated through you, but like, you work with a team, most likely of other people. Yeah, you don't have to, you know, be on them. But again, you're, if you're tapped into your purpose, and you're live with that, and you're, you're, you're you're rolling with Jesus, or whatever, you know, whatever you're doing, right, and you're tapped in the source, and you can kind of step back for a second and let it like, gently unfold and it will. Yeah, but try telling somebody that. Yeah,

Kat Kim 38:36
well, that's part of, you know, that's part of kind of this toxic masculinity energy that we've all been kind of fed into what I mean by that there's the masculine, and there's the feminine, and they're both equally beautiful and powerful, right? But when the masculine energy is about, like, you know, is very linear. It's taking action, it's finding something and moving towards it. Regardless, the feminine energy is about allowing, it's about letting it's about being right. The masculine energy is about volition. So you see something, you go for it. So in this world right now, we that's it's become toxic, where we're meaning we've taken everything, and we've turned it into something that we have to set a goal and we have to make it happen, regardless of who gets harmed in the way

Brandon Handley 39:26
out of success. You're not a success if you set a goal and achieve it. Right.

Kat Kim 39:32
Exactly, exactly. So now we've we've all been conditioned to believe that that's the only way and the one way that we achieve success that we have to set that goal, we have to go for it. We have to power through it, just do it. I mean, we see it all over in marketing, but we see this now in our government, we see this in extractive capitalism, we see this, you know, and what I mean by extractive capitalism going for, like reaching, you know, revenue goals, regardless of who gets harmed in the way we go. So the natural resources that we demolish along the way, so it's this, it's not a person, it's not a it's not a political party. It's just the collective energy that we've all kind of we've all been part of, and we've all molded into. And spirituality has also been kind of swept into that as well. And that's where I came to see that. Even spirituality can be toxic when it's just about what do I want to manifest? How much money in the big house and all of that? And what what, how am I going to think positive, and bypass all the issues that come along with this type of lifestyle, not going to talk about that, but I just want to create the life that I want. And I'm going to use spirituality to do it. And now I'm spiritual.

Brandon Handley 40:49
And that's true, right. But I mean, again, like there's, it's funny, my wife and I were talking earlier, like there's a different level two, where it sounds like you've achieved right, like you've gone through, you know, you've gone through that phase, right? Like, it sounds like you went through that phase with like, you know, Esther Hicks and law of attraction, right? And But you came out on like, the other end of it, right? Where we're sure it's okay to want. But the idea to, you know, want a want without attachment to the outcome, right? Like, yeah, I'd love this to happen, right? This would be great. I'm gonna go work towards it. But I'm totally cool. If it doesn't turn out the way I envisioned it. Right, it could and then maybe accepting that outcome, right, like the outcome they come in, came out pretty cool. Right? Or just being like, Alright, we're gonna try a different way. Right. But not getting caught up in that?

Kat Kim 41:43
Yeah. Well, that's what I was gonna say. But the problem is, is most people are attached, doesn't

Brandon Handley 41:47
it? Yeah. 100% Yeah, yeah. But you know, that's, that's the same thing as even even creating a goal, the challenge because people are like, they're afraid to share what they even want, even writing it on paper to themselves, because they've always been taught, Hey, you got enough, you should be happy. You're, you know, even some of your words, right? You should be lucky, you got what you got. Right? Like, and, and, and that kind of thing. So. So now it's like, but I want a little bit more, but everybody says I can't?

Kat Kim 42:16
Yeah, well, it's totally mixed messages. There's that part where you should be happy with what you have. And then there's the the overarching message that we receive from all the marketing out there and the consumer culture that actually, you need to do more and more and more and more and more and more, so that we get mixed messages. And I think the key here, Brandon, is that, again, design confidence means taking your focus away from that outside world, this is the practice of spirituality, taking your focus away from the outside world going inwards, and really digging in very deep into and finding out what actually do you want in your heart of heart? What is your heart's desire. And that's where the connection to your real source and to your true calling actually is right there. And that's the thing that's hard for people to do is to disconnect from social media, seeing all these Instagram posts of people who have all the money and all the cool pictures, and really going into to find out what actually Are you being called into? What is your true true, true good in this moment?

Brandon Handley 43:22
So how do you find yours? By

Kat Kim 43:24
that process?

It's it's a constant process. It's like,

Brandon Handley 43:29
were you listening, Brandon?

Unknown Speaker 43:30
Yeah, hello. Oops.

Kat Kim 43:35
Um, but something important about that, let me answer this is like, I have to find it again. And again, and again. Because I'm, I am, I am part of that culture as well. I have, you know, I'm on social media, I see all the things I'm not free from that. I want all the money's, okay, I want all the things,

Brandon Handley 43:53
all the things, right,

Kat Kim 43:54
I want all of it. I want all of it. And I see people who have more than me, and I'm like, fucking a, why don't I have that? And then it's that reminder. Well, let's, let's go back in, you know, and that's that process of reclaiming my personal power, and my divinity. And that process is about letting go of that attach to the

Unknown Speaker 44:13
outside world.

Brandon Handley 44:14
So what is your What is your process and you know, to attach to divinity, right, like, how do you help somebody uncover that for themselves?

Kat Kim 44:21
Yeah, it's, it's, it's like, um, you know, the questions that I asked, well, there's, there's first I asked you, you know, like, first you have to get really clear on what what's not working in your life? You know, what are your biggest challenges? What are you Where do you suffer the most? What's the thing that you keep coming up against? Most people are trying to run away from that, but I want to say no, that's actually here to show you. If this is not the thing you want, what is the thing you want? What? So that's how I guide people if this is what you don't want. Let's use that to point us in The direction of what you actually want. But once you figure out what you want, it's not the tangible thing of it. It's the essence of it. So for example, if you want a big home, and you want to be able to come home and take care of your family, and you want your own space, okay, that's great. That's the physical representation of it. But what is the essence of that thing?

Unknown Speaker 45:23
For you, like,

Brandon Handley 45:24
why is that? What what what what does that represent to that person? Is that what you're saying?

Kat Kim 45:29
Yeah, what is the essence of the physical, tangible thing that we want, when we can get to the essence of it? So for example, if we're getting to the essence of that big house, maybe it's connection with your family, maybe it's family, that is the thing that you're actually craving. That's that inward journey, we're so focused on the thing and not the essence of it. Looking at it, the essence of it, that's the calling that's God, that's the way God is showing up for you in the the essence of it, know how to process it. Outside of the tangible.

Brandon Handley 45:58
Yeah, even even on the outside, even, even during Look, I'm not that deep into my journey, right? Like, I think I'm like, three years in, but I took the accelerated course. The meditation, you know, has been something big for me. And usually when I do like, meditation, I'm big fan, I love headspace. And he's always like, you know, go to like, the, you know, make that light edges of, you know, how far can you expand it? I'm like, as the universe bro, let's go, right, like, you know, right outside and riding that edge, right? Because that's where the creation is, right? Like this, in my mind anyways, but then even just today are inside is just as infinite as the outside, right? Like, you know, random epiphanies are inside. But that's what it was, like, you know, I spent a little bit of time digging around inside and meditating and reflecting on the inside. But if you think about it, it's just as infinite as all the rest of the universe. And so I spent some time there.

Kat Kim 47:01
Yeah. And if you think about it, it's like, all of all of God or spirit, whatever name you have for it. All of God is in you just as much as it is in the universe. All of God is in the tip of this pen that I'm showing you right now, as it is, is a new God doesn't get split around. And in, you know, allocate 10% here

Brandon Handley 47:26
20% here, right? It's like the sunshine, right? Like, they're the sun's out there. He's not like, everybody can go step out and get as much sun as you can today. Right? Like, I mean, it's, it's, there's no allocation to it outside, like no shade, whatever. But I mean, essentially, like, everybody gets the same amount of sun. It's like infinite, there's more than we can use and that kind of thing. Just the same as like you're saying, hey, gods, like, there's there's more than you can use feel?

Kat Kim 47:49
More than more than enough, more than enough. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 47:54
So that's fun, right? What do you want to go What's next?

Kat Kim 48:01
Oh, well, hmm. You know, I think the interesting part of all this is yet like, you know, I was on this spiritual journey, manifesting things teaching people how to manifest and then and then it was like, I went to this kind of dark night of the soul again on I do that a lot. Dammit.

I need to cut those down.

Brandon Handley 48:24
Here's the thing. I don't know that I've had any, you know, so like, I'm almost jealous, but I'm not. Like I was like, dark night of the soul. But I'm like, I'm not gonna pass. I'm cool.

Kat Kim 48:36
No, they suck. But yeah, you should just pass but I um, you know, this is now I started going to my spiritual center, I did the prayer and the prayer box got obsessed with this thing called God and prayer.

Brandon Handley 48:52
What kind of spiritual center was it by the way,

Kat Kim 48:54
it's called science of mind the centers for spiritual living. It's a philosophy of thought that really combines it goes into the golden thread of all spiritual traditions and essentially boils it down to that we are all one and we all come from one source. And it's it wasn't recognized it didn't it wasn't trying to be a religion, but it became a religion is now officially recognized as a religion as of maybe five years ago or so. And I started just really going deeply its study of mysticism, essentially. And I became licensed as a spiritual practitioner took me three, three years to do that. And I learned about our connection to source and you know, the power of prayer and I read all these cool books. It was just like, it was like, law of attraction on crack.

Brandon Handley 49:48
Yes. It's like it's a it's a you know, it's more than a force multiplier, right. Like it's and and I love you know, I love that you bring up drugs right? Because Here's the deal to like, how would you define the difference between you know, being cracked out or high versus having a spiritual high?

Kat Kim 50:15
Well,

Unknown Speaker 50:18
I don't know. I mean, one of

Unknown Speaker 50:19
I mean,

Kat Kim 50:20
one's gonna fuck you up physically. I mean, as your I mean, the reason I'm, I'm trying to go back to my days of smoking crack and all that I'm like, the only thing that I can you're kind of giving me like, what do you call it when you have like a craving? I'm having a moment where I'm like, oh, that would be really nice if I could smoke.

Brandon Handley 50:44
Right there. I mean, crack wasn't my thing. But like, yeah, definitely, like, I'm always like, you know, I did, did the party scene right back in the day, like the rays and dance and all that stuff. And I'm always like, Man, you know, I wouldn't mind a couple pills and some acid. It's just gonna dance,

Kat Kim 51:00
acid, ecstasy, cocaine, all of this. Yeah, you're making me feel like oh, that would be

Brandon Handley 51:13
the question was question was is, you know, when when you think about it, right? And your connection to spirituality versus that same ethereal high that you get when on drugs, right. So you get that you get that kind of high when you're on drugs. But then there's the kind of high when you get when you're in spirit to aka spiritual dope, right? Like right now. That's where spiritual doubt comes from, like, get your head in spiritual dope, because like, you can have this. So how would you define the difference between the two?

Kat Kim 51:39
Really good question. Um, so here are the here the similarities that I am that I'm putting together that I have never really thought of it because no one's asked me that question. And this is really important for people to know who are on a spiritual journey. So when you do drugs, as you know, you get high, and then you you have that crash, you crash afterwards. And it really, really sucks depending on the drug that you do and how much it's I mean, you're out for days. The same thing is with spiritual highs as well. And I think that's the thing, a lot of people who are on a spiritual journey, they're seeking this, the eternal high. Like, once they get there to some sort of Nirvana that they're gonna stay there. And then when they dip, you know, when they crash, that they're doing spirituality wrong. And I want to tell you, actually, it's, it's still it's all part of that journey. And that's the part the dip, you know, the crashing the part where you don't feel good about yourself, the where the part where you are confused, and there's darkness. I, I would want people to know, and this is what I teach in the school, divine confidence, too, is that there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing wrong with being there. It's all part of the journey. And trying to go for that peak and that high. And dismissing everything else as not being spiritual and doing it wrong. That's where that's where you get fucked up. Because now now you're trying to constantly seek for that hot, you're a fucking drug addict. Damn it.

Brandon Handley 53:10
is. And then and then the deal is, though, is this like? Yeah. But I could think of worse habits.

Unknown Speaker 53:19
I know.

Brandon Handley 53:22
That so so. But that's a great call out right. I mean, I probably hadn't thought about it. And that that in that fashion before the coming down from spirituality, and then feeling like I'm doing it wrong, right, or getting caught up in it. I'd have to think about it right. But I mean, so so you would liken it to at least kind of coming down parts of it right? Where you where you have your highs, and then would you liken it to also like if you have a large spiritual high or an ongoing spiritual high, then there's going to be a substantial recovery period.

Kat Kim 54:01
I think there's always going to be highs and lows to everything that that's the eternal spiritual truth. And in my Buddhism practice, I practice, the passion of meditation, and all of that the personal meditation is centered around this one law, which is the law of impermanence. Meaning that all things arise and all things fall. And if you look out in nature, in the nature, you know, the seasons arise and fall, plants and trees arise and fall. Humans are life. We live we grow, we grow strong, and then we decline and then we die. Everything our emotions arise and fall, our cravings arise and they fall. Where suffering happens is when we get attached to one thing arising and staying there. Or one thing going away falling and staying there. That's where suffering happens is that we want something to stay the same or change but The truth of all things in all of life and all of nature is that they, they arise and then they fall. So when we can accept that, then we can accept even, okay, let's, let's continue to use the analogy of drugs, for example, that craving. That, that, that that sense of like that craving for a drug, you know, or any food, or having sex or anything that drives pleasure. You know, the truth is, that sensation is going to arise and if we allow it, it will fall, it will go away. And if, you know, if we're really practicing spirituality, if we become aware, then we can just simply observe that craving come up, and we can watch it go away. But, you know, we most people can't, right, they want to react, they're reacting to that craving. Well, I

Unknown Speaker 55:51
think I think that to

Brandon Handley 55:54
that, that that takes practice, right, catching yourself, right where you know, you know, making the conscious choice right you know, awareness of all things not just like your spirituality awareness of Oh, that's a craving Oh, that's a you know, whatever. I think that's huge. I like it. what's what's hot in your world right now? Like what what are you working on that? You think people should come check out your school? Is there anything else going on? Yeah,

Kat Kim 56:19
I got this school going on right now. It's called the school divine confidence. But what I've just recently launched it's as this is what be my second episode is uncertain.

Brandon Handley 56:30
sermon. Yeah. I'm

Unknown Speaker 56:31
serving.

Unknown Speaker 56:33
La.

Kat Kim 56:34
Yeah, it's a it's a weekly uncertain where I share a life story, a spiritual lesson, a rant, a sermon on whatever topic to keep us affirmed and galvanized on our spiritual journey, but it's really about deconditioning decolonizing undoing, right? And conditioning uncertain. And

Brandon Handley 56:58
I love it. I love it. What what brought that about for you?

Kat Kim 57:03
Going back to what you and I started off with his I just found this passion for talking about spirit and God, but I'm not religious, I'm not religious. So

Brandon Handley 57:13
is your is your God, like, tell us about your God? I'm curious,

Kat Kim 57:16
oh, my God, my God is my god swears all the time. My God is like, very passionate by God is a thing. It's an experience. And it's something that I can call upon at any time. It's not this thing that I have to pray for, or pray to is just this, this, this, it's an energy, it's a vibration, I call it God vibration. And, and the more that I access that, that just the easier that all things become. And the more I study it, the mysticism, metaphysics, when I, the more I study, the source of all things, is just mind blowing, to know and to really understand that oh, my God, I am that source of all things. So that's, that's what this exploration of uncertain is, is, is a different idea and relationship of God and what we can and what's possible with that?

Brandon Handley 58:17
That's great. It's great. I love that you're, you know, you're taking it out, right, you're bringing it to the people. And and you're doing it in your own way based off your experiences. So that's great. Thank you so much. So where am I gonna send people to go kind of hang out with you?

Kat Kim 58:31
Yeah, so I do these. Yeah, I do the weekly uncertain. I do them live every week in my facebook group. It's called The Confident leadership community. So come on, join me in there. I've got free training going on. I've got things to offer you. Come say hi, I'd love to see you.

Unknown Speaker 58:47
Sweet. Who's your ideal client?

Kat Kim 58:50
My ideal client is the person who just knows in their bones that they are being called to do something important, but they feel stuck. They're uncertain. They feel that the thing that they want to do is impossible. It's the non conformists, the misfit. It's the mutant out there.

Brandon Handley 59:07
Somebody who knows they've got power but hasn't figured out how to control it and is afraid to share

Kat Kim 59:12
Yep, yeah, to come out and be who they really are someone who's always been trying to fit in and they realize oh my god, this isn't working for me.

Brandon Handley 59:19
Sweet Why, thank you so much for coming on today. Kat can really appreciate

Unknown Speaker 59:24
ya. Thanks for having me, Brandon.

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Anthony Meindl | You Knew When You Were Two

Published: Feb. 7, 2021, 12:07 p.m.
Duration: 55 minutes 30 seconds

Be sure to connect with Anthony over at his website here: https://www.anthonymeindl.com/

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey there spiritual dope I am on today with Anthony mondo. He is an award winning director, writer, actor, acting coach, entrepreneur, author and inspirational speaker. As an acting teacher. He's known for revolutionising a more modern understanding of acting training. He found it Anthony mine does actor workshop in 1998 and now has the largest scene studio study studio in Los Angeles and locations and nine other cities around the world, New York, London, Vancouver, Toronto, Atlanta, Santa Fe, Sydney, Chicago and Cape Town. As a filmmaker Anthony has received a number of awards and acclaim. His latest feature film, where do we go from here is available on Hulu. The film premiered at outfest won Best Screenplay award at q films Long Beach and the Jury Award at nycs East Village queer Film Festival. He's the author of five books, including the bestsellers at left brain turn right and book the fucking job. his memoir, you knew when you were to release in September, which I got? Yeah, that's how we connected. And thanks for being here. I'm super excited.

Anthony Meindl 1:09
Yeah, my gosh, I was like gonna fall asleep during that intro Jesus. My Suppose,

Brandon Handley 1:17
you know, I had to cut some things out. I was like, I was like, is this gonna I wanted to include though your I wanted to include? For sure your you know your film, right? Because I think that's, that's pretty big. Right. And that's got to feel good. Especially going through your memoir, it's got to feel really good for you to have that out and have won those awards.

So yeah, thanks for being here.

Anthony Meindl 1:38
Well, thanks for having me, Brandon. Like, I mean, I don't know how spiritually dope I'm going to be today. But I will try to be my dopest. And we'll

Brandon Handley 1:45
find out we'll find out. Yeah, so how I like to start these right is, you know, universe speaks to us, right. And this podcast amplifies what we're saying. And there's gonna be one specific listener out there today, that's going to hear the message coming from you. That's through source. What is it?

Anthony Meindl 2:08
What's the message? Yeah. You know, I think acceptance is really a very strong word. And really is to me, the walk, we're all walking on life, right? Like, because in life, because at the end of the day, there's nothing else right? Even if we fight against, like, we can use COVID as an example, even if we fight against COVID it is what it is. And it's here. And, you know, if everybody looks at their own journey, the things that they've maybe railed against, or fought against, is oftentimes like a misuse of energy because, or maybe it's necessary then to get to that place of surrender, or acceptance or letting go or, you know, so I think that the, the point that life is often trying to show us is how do we exist with what is and fighting against it is what causes a lot of suffering. When I'm not, you know, when I teach, or I talk about these things, I'm not saying I'm the master of it. I mean, I definitely know these things, more than just being concepts. I do practice them in my life, but I get triggered and challenged. And it's it is also what it is, you know, I went for a walk yesterday, and I heard a little girl, she was like, near her fence, and she just shouted, Let it go, let it go. And I was like, Oh, my God, this is a sign from the universe because I was in my head about stuff. And I was like, This, is it accepting and letting go letting these burdens go? They're a burden, because we make them so often, you know what I mean?

Brandon Handley 3:42
Absolutely not. I love it. Right. So acceptance and surrender, I think are some of the big ones there. And the idea of COVID is here, right? Like this is this is what are you going to do about it? Right? And if you don't have an impact, like, if you can't impact it, then just just let it be. Right. So let's, let's dig in to your, well, you know, what, actually, to it reminds me of one of the lines in your books to write of the I guess there was some, you know, spiritual master, who was a master, but he's like, I don't want to die. Right, right. Like and so just like you're saying, like, even even though you are, you know, novice Dave itches, right? Like, hey, you know, everybody's fine. And I feel good, but there's still gonna be the days that you get angered. So talk to us a little bit about that. So knowing that, you know, all these things, but still feeling these other feelings.

Anthony Meindl 4:36
Yeah, you know, also burning Can I just I want to say one other thing about acceptance, because sometimes when people hear that they might mistake. The first meaning of that to them might mean Oh, well, that just means we're supposed to accept injustice or accept. You know, people dying of COVID No, no, no, it's not about inactivity. It's not About inaction. It's not about pretending that something isn't there. It's really about having this awareness that I think the point about acceptance is we have these constructs in our mind constantly about what we think life should be. And in particular what our lives should be, when I get married, it will be this, when I get successful, it will be that or today, I should be having this because I want blah, blah, blah. And then when that doesn't happen, it creates so much strife and internal and sometimes external conflict, right. And so a more Buddhist understanding of acceptance, when I say that word is understanding that this is what it is. And then from this point, how do we invite that thing in to be a part of something that we also have to deal with? Because it's happening? I actually think it's the rejection of things that cause us to be in so much pain, right? Like, whether it's the social justice movement, or things that we climate change, things that we have not addressed, eventually are going to make us contend with these things. So I just want to make sure that acceptance doesn't mean like, pass this pass entity. And I think that also leads to the question just asked is, like, I think, I think we battle our ego. And I think that ego is necessary. It's part of what gives us the distinction of being in this body. But we also are something other than I always love the iceberg analogy, right? Like two thirds of the iceberg is under the water that we don't see. And we only see a third of that. And so that's like, maybe comparable to ego, right? Like we were missing the the soul of the spirit that is hidden from us. And so we're operating from just what we see all the time.

Brandon Handley 6:50
Well, yeah, it's funny, you bring that up? Because that's it exactly. I think I had this conversation twice, yesterday, once with my wife and another with a client. Just the whole iceberg analogy. I mean, one part, right, you don't see all the all the struggle that goes into what's on the exterior. Also, you know, the reverse thing being happiness precedes happiness. Right? So like, what's inside here? shows up outside there, right? But from the outside, say, you're looking at me, and you're like, you know, he's got all the things. And he did it by those actions. But that's not really it wasn't those actions. It was like the intention behind those actions. It was, you know, the thoughts and the feelings, right? That kind of built up to all those. But I love I love though, you know, acceptance is not passive, right? acceptance is, like you're saying invited in. And I also like, the idea of the the things that we're pushing away are kind of taking all the energy away from us, right? Have you? What's your take on Shadow Work? Have you done Shadow Work is that something is running with?

Anthony Meindl 8:05
interesting that you say that? Because I, in my teaching of actors, right? I I've often talked about the shadow self. And I've given many lessons on like, light and, and shadow and, and without going into too much detail. But somebody wants to do some time came up to me and said, Do you do Carl young? Is it young work that you do, you know, young Ian work? And I was like, No, I've never I mean, I've been to therapy. And I've read Carl Jung, but I don't really remember it. Right. And, and she said, because this is very young in what you're doing. It's all he was all about shadows, the shadow self. And, and so I mean, not consciously, you know, I think I tap into the universal pneus of things when I teach, like, a lot of people are like, were you ever in a and I was like, I wasn't I'm not I don't drink, you know, but like, I definitely tap into the principles of sort of, I think, these universal spiritual messages. And, but I mean, I think that's a great segue that we all are channelers at some level, and that the universal principles are alive within all of us. And they're, you know, encoded in us. And they're also decoded, if that's the right word, like, each person interprets the information differently. And I think, again, to have a practice that helps us have access to that more often is kind of part of being here on the planet.

Brandon Handley 9:31
What's your biggest one acting or do you have something else? Right?

Anthony Meindl 9:34
No, it's interesting, because when I when I work with actors, Brandon, I definitely feel like I channel like I go to I mean, that's it's such a, whatever that word means to people, but I definitely am. So in the moment. I don't know what I say. Oftentimes, like today I was coaching somebody and he could see here I just, he was like, Oh my god, you got to write that down. I was like, I don't know what I said that he would tell Really good. Because I was like, it's brilliant. Because I don't think I'm saying it's right. And the person meeting the moment and me with them observing it gives the insight as to how to unlock the person. And so that is a lot of shadow stuff, too, is like, I do think it's scary. But I think COVID is a great reminder, going into the underbelly of stuff that is very scary and confrontational is necessary for us to get to the other side of what is our purpose? Why are we here? What is this mean? Who are we like, but but if we, if we continue to go on living, like I think, especially as we had been, I think we're, we're really asleep at the wheel. You know, what I mean?

Brandon Handley 10:47
Not 100%, I, you know, I hate to say that, you know, with with all the deaths, and all the lock downs and how life is, is a good thing. But like, it's also been kind of this good thing, where now we've got more people who are taking this time to go inside to really take stock of what's important to them, right? The example I use all the time, my wife quit her job, so that we could, you know, homeschool our children so that they weren't exposed to, you know, the possibility, right. And, and there's no need to live in fear. But like, why subject yourself to that possibility when there's an alternative? Right. And and what it's done for us is, bring us closer together as a family really see? What had been put on us x from the exterior, right, and like, so we're doing this from the inside out. Anyway. So, you know, it's been a good thing. And sometimes it's hard to see that right in the middle of it. Right?

Anthony Meindl 11:48
Well, when you're in it, for sure. Right? That's comparable to when you're going through a divorce or a breakup or something tragic is happening, and, and you have to hold on, like, I'm always saying, you gotta hold on for dear life while letting go at the same time. Right? It's both. And, and and then I think when you get to the other side, you you are like, Oh, my god that was so essential and necessary. And I think what you're speaking of is absolutely correct. I think, yes. You don't want people to suffer and you don't want, you know, so many lives that were lost. And we also understand that to be from a governmental place, not having things in order, like they could have been like a lot of these deaths could have been prevented. But beyond that, I think I find it interesting that the universe is always course correcting that maybe not at this epic scale that we're experiencing right now. But like an individual experience, like you often find, like tragedy or upset occurs in our lives to wake us up to this other life. Yeah, you know,

Brandon Handley 12:51
yeah. 100% So, again, thanks. Thanks for sending me the book, right. Oh, yeah. I love that. I love I love that got the where's it so i got i love that. And, and I really enjoyed, you know, kind of gone through I had no idea what to expect. Right. And, and are to let you know, like, there's so many pieces of it really, really touched me. Right. Just kind of, especially the piece like about your father, even at the beginning. Like there was some great laughs right, like, you getting shoved down the laundry chute. Yeah, I don't want to give too much away. I don't want it too many spoilers,

Anthony Meindl 13:26
right. boiler I survived it.

Unknown Speaker 13:31
Yeah, right.

Brandon Handley 13:32
The there was a lot of fun takeaways. Lots of underlining lots of just kind of, you know, gone through it. And just the way you told the story was a lot of fun. Right? And it wasn't it wasn't, it wasn't boring. Like it was fun, right? And it was it was genuine. And you could tell that it was like 100% you. And so I just want to share that with you because I haven't written an Amazon thing yet. So I'll just have to go back and type this out.

Anthony Meindl 14:04
The best review you give me on Amazon was it wasn't boring.

Brandon Handley 14:09
Just didn't suck

Unknown Speaker 14:11
the way

Brandon Handley 14:14
so let's talk a little bit about how you know you went from you've got a couple other you know, bestsellers and you're you know, doing acting and what makes you want to become a writer and then what led you up to saying, hey, now's the time for a memoir.

Anthony Meindl 14:28
I know like I do feel I do you have a birthday coming up next week. I feel pretty young to have a memoir. But I you know, I guess we call it a memoir, but it's more short stories of my life. And like, you know, I maintain one of my biggest principles in my teaching for all creatives is that we all have a story. And that story of our life is the greatest expression of art, you know, waiting to be shared with the world. And it manifests differently for each person, right? It could be you're a cook in New York City. Or you're a ballerina, you're an actor, you're a writer, or whatever. And I think the, the interesting thing is the things that we have experienced in our life, at a literal level, and then at an artistic level, are are all essential on the journey of our life. And it's like what you just said, when you're in it, sometimes it's really difficult to see it. But if you look back at the Mosaic, or the jigsaw puzzle of your life, and pieces starting to come together, you see themes, right. And I just for me, in my work with with artists is trying to take that autobiography out into the world in on whatever Canvas, they want to, you know, share it. And for me, it comes in many forms, whether it's the films I'm making, or the writing I'm doing or teaching or acting myself, or, you know, but I think we do do that unconsciously. I'm just trying to, you know, how you engage with the world is a part of your autobiography, it's been influenced by the things that Brandon has experienced how you and your wife make a dinner together. I know, it sounds so highfalutin, but it's not it's really infused with who we are. And I think we and, and I'm not saying these tasks aren't also sometimes mundane. You know, writing is sometimes really boring, and I hate it. But, but I also know that it's, it's purposeful. And so that's what I try to teach people is how to honor their autobiography. Because so many people Brendan, I think your listeners and and like you were saying earlier about people that you know, see the external or we don't, especially in our media obsessed culture, we see somebody who is successful. And we don't, we are only getting like, they're, you know, they're they're opening night, we don't see the dress rehearsal. So we're comparing our lives that we often think is like a train wreck to something that's presented to us as law. And we then then we link, I think, do a snow job on ourselves thinking, I suck, I'm untalented, I'm stupid, I'm not worthy. My story, nobody cares. And that's when I think we, we lose sort of the, I don't know, connection to the magic of our autobiography. We cannot compare. That's just the problem.

Brandon Handley 17:19
Right? Right. Well, it's, it's the whole idea and is the cliche, life is what you make it right. Like when you're talking about, hey, when you come into the kitchen, and you're and you're cooking with somebody else, then it, it can be an amazing moment. You can make that a miraculous moment. Or it can be right or it can be like, right, yeah. And so, but in the end there, too, what you're talking about in my mind, right? I love to like, you know, make you purposeful, and living your biography. But you get to this point where you start to, you're like you're talking about why would anybody want to read my thing? Why would anybody want to participate? You're making yourself small in that moment, right? Yeah. And that doesn't serve anybody. Right? Like, where I didn't really find in your memoir, and maybe it's because reading too fast, but I don't really find the space where you decided that acting was kind of like your purpose. And you felt like you needed to be on the stage to share all of who you were. So where was that?

Anthony Meindl 18:27
I mean, I maybe, you know, in this, I'm writing other stuff. You know, maybe I will revisit that. Like, I'm just curious. Yeah, no, no, it's a great question. I, because I remember distinctly, I remember hat going out for dinner with my parents and telling them I wanted to be an actor. And, you know, they were like, Huh, but then they were like, Okay, my dad again was like, if that's what you want to do, you know, he was like, go and do it. You know, they've always been really supportive. But I think, I guess in answer to that question, I just have always felt like not an entertainer, but like an expresser. of, of things. And I feel even more than being an actor. I've always been a teacher. Like if I go back and look at my own spiritual life as a child, and like, just the things that I was interested in. I and in my role in the family, I've always been the mediator, even though I'm the youngest one. All my siblings, and my parents kind of come to me as the sort of what did they say? And you know what I need? Right? So it's interesting that I've always kind of, and I was always obsessed, you're too young to know this but all your lives nobody will know this. But when I was in high school, I took this class call. It's so it's so hilarious. Anyway, it was called I, oh, gosh, I think I can or something like it was I can't No, it was called. I can clap. Oh, wow. I hadn't thought about this forever. And it was written by it was a class about having a positive mental attitude about life. And it was the teachings of Zig Ziggler I love Zig. You you've heard of Zig right? I love

Brandon Handley 20:03
Yeah. Yeah, I'm newer.

Anthony Meindl 20:05
Right? And so born to win. Yes. I will never forget, I was in the 10th grade. And I took I took the class because like, it was a pass fail. And it was I could get out of math and take that class. Right. But something deeper must have made me want to take it. And since then, I've always been obsessed with this sort of, yeah, dawning consciousness of what it means to think our way into the world, you know, not mind over matter. Its mind into matter. You know what I mean? I love that. Yeah. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 20:42
I love that. The Zig Zig has a lot of fun. Right. And and I think that he was, he was kind of before his time. Oh, right. In this space, yeah. And this face. And he's actually, that's actually probably how we're talking today to be to be quite honest with you. So it was through a book of his that I read and ended up down this this path.

Anthony Meindl 21:07
Oh, see? Yeah, that's, that's funny. It's interesting that you start to find these, you know, connective tissues throughout our lives. Right. And you're right, yeah. That the whole wellness movement and meditation movement, and he was one of the original thought, you know, forward thinking people about, you know, how to live our best life. It's interesting. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 21:31
Yeah. So the, the, the, a lot of the a lot of this podcast is based off of, you know, finding your spirituality, right, how you found your spirituality, and how have you leveraged that, like, for your success, or found a more fulfilling life because of it? Right. So why don't we talk a little bit about how you, you know, became the spiritual guy?

Anthony Meindl 21:54
Well, you know, I also, I think it's a great moment, Brendon, to tell people like, our spirit is innate. Like, it's, I think, I think, again, with social media and like anything, if we, sometimes when I like, will watch somebody talking about spirituality in a certain way that I like, I sometimes I find it challenging because it can, again, create this sort of schism in ourselves thinking, we're not doing spirituality the right way, or I don't always feel love for God, or mean, or I want to just say, fuck you, you know what I mean? Right, right, right. Oh, that's all that's the real spirit. The real stuff is right. With it, and we our culture, loves to live in this sort of, like, you know, they call it on social media like oh my god, something positivity, like toxic positivity. Yeah, there's

Brandon Handley 22:53
that there's that I've got. I've got answers for that, though. Okay, but well, so my answer for the there Yes, there is. Toxic positivity. That's the, you know, like you were talking about earlier, in the acceptance piece is just like, oh, not taking action, right? Same, same thing. But positivity doesn't mean like, hey, everything's fucking great. Positivity simply means we're moving forward, there is a positive space here was like, all this shit just went down. Guess what? We're gonna keep moving through it. Right? And, and the thing that you're talking about here is not in my mind. It's like, the genesis of spiritual dope is that spirituality is gritty, right? Like, there is a certain like, element of, you know, you are washed up, beat up, dried off, and you are coming back together, like kind of, you know, hopefully stronger than you were before, or whatever. But like, you get to it, you get through a certain point in a degree. It doesn't have to be like that. But then here's what happens. people forgot like, who they were, like, you know, maybe two months ago, right? Like, you were the person like two months ago, like, you know, I don't know what I see some I saw somebody like saying, Hey, you know, we used to, I used to, you know, do cocaine and ecstasy and lick like, whatever off my wife's nipples or whatever. Now we're getting mad at each other because I lied to the dog was a meme that I saw. Yeah. So spirituality is just that they're like, you forget, like, where you came from? You're like, hey, yeah, you know, you did all those fucking things. And you were, nobody's saying or even. Not a mess now. Right? But you've got like, I love the moment. So share the moment where you truly, at least in the book, right, you connected like with spirituality right before a book fell on you.

Anthony Meindl 24:35
Yeah, I think like what we're talking about, of like, you know, grappling with, again, the questions why we're here. How do we, how do I make meaning of this life? And there's got to be something more right. And I was always searching with those things. And the shorts or I had an acting teacher who asked me Do I meditate after a scene one time and I was like, No, and she's like, and I literally had, like, No, I mean, grapple with these things. But I didn't have an outward process or practice of spirituality, right? She's like, I want you to start meditating. And I was like, how and she's like, I don't know, take a candle do what you ever want. So I started with, you know, I was just like, oh, and I was like, This is so boring. Then my friend but that's this is the funny thing is when you know, the pupil is ready that the the guru appears kind of thing. So weirdly enough, my friend gave me a book around that time, and up until then, he knew him to be very spiritual, but he'd never really know engaged with me maybe that way. So he gave me this book by paramahansa Yogananda. And I was like, What's this? It's like, 500 pages. This is way too long and boring. And I was like, Okay, thank you. And I put it away, cut to I moved to LA and I took that book and everything for I was living in New York City at the time, right? When I moved to LA, and I was like, in my place, my apartment at the time, like three or four months. And I was I literally, that book fell off the shelf. And it's weird, because it wasn't even it was in the back of my shelf. I don't even know how it happened because it was buried with books. Like, I'm never gonna read this. It's never, and I picked it up. And in that moment, I was ready to read it. And I read it. And I was like, Oh, my God, what's happening to me? Right, and it was just an awakening and opening an aha, like, my heart was very full. And I talked about it in the book. Like, I felt a tremendous amount of love that I it was, like a real thing. And then it disappeared. I was like, Oh, my gosh, how do you get that again?

Brandon Handley 26:40
Right. Right. Right. Okay, so I so 100% that I identified with that so hard, because I went through a similar experience. Right. And, and, and, and so it was great. It's always great when you're like, Hey, I'm not the only one. Right. Right. And then and then the other thing that I found very interesting was, I haven't read that book yet. But I just watched a just watched a documentary on him.

Anthony Meindl 27:10
The Netflix documentary? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 27:14
Yeah, it was one of them. Right? Like Netflix, or Gaia or whatever. You know,

Anthony Meindl 27:19
it's called, um, you're the name of it. Not into the light.

Brandon Handley 27:27
I don't remember the name of it.

Anthony Meindl 27:28
Okay. But but it's worth watching. It's a beautiful documentary.

Brandon Handley 27:32
It was really yeah. So it was really well done. But you know, so the my biggest takeaway, though, was wasn't just about him. And it was so awesome. Right? was super cool. Was that Steve Jobs left that book behind. Right, his funeral. That's right. So Andy, and like, you know, since we're in this synchronistic kind of space, right, I've read I wrote an article on just that. This past week. And that was like, the day before I read that chapter. I was like, shop. So and, and and so So did you move out there then? And have you been to the US and our house?

Anthony Meindl 28:07
Yep. So I went to Yeah, I've done every I mean, I went to India and I spent time in one of his ashrams there, and like, you know, I wasn't really I didn't convert to like, Guru is, um, you know, I've been very cautious about, you know, because you you read, or you watch documentaries about major cults, and you're like, Oh, my God, that could have been me, you know, it's like, I'm always like, Oh, my God, by grace. And and I'm not judging these people, because they come to that aspect with such an open heart and these things that we're talking about seeking and wanting to know more and but, you know, with Yogananda was very practical. It was like, there is a way out of this suffering. Just do your practice, get over it. Like, it's really, you meditate, you get your butt in the chair, and you do it. And I'll say to the great thing about when people come to me and ask about Yogananda, or about any kind of meditation, what I always advocate because he says this, and I found it to be true for myself. After I read that book. I did not I didn't just sort of go to him only I it opened me to I did have a passionate retreat. You know, I did everything I did. I Alaska, I went on the journey of finding what felt right for me. I went to India a couple times. And so I think when somebody is is open, then you just have to I did tm, like I did, you know, you try many different things, and then you'll find, like, what feels right. So that's been and it changes and it can change, you know?

Brandon Handley 29:44
Yeah, no, absolutely. I agreed, right? It, it speaks to resonance. And I hate I hate I hate resonating with anything but it's the truth, right, like you'll find you'll find exactly the kind of, this is the space you should be in right now. And this resonating with me the strikes a chord my body's like, it feels this feels amazing.

Unknown Speaker 30:05
Right? Right. Right. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 30:06
So the I wasco was was actually pretty funny too

Unknown Speaker 30:12
loud. Yeah. It's funny.

Brandon Handley 30:14
I mean, tell us tell us a little bit about like, I mean, would you recommend somebody who's a seeker? Does the same trip that you did like down down to? Where do you head down to? I

Anthony Meindl 30:24
think, yes, I did it in Brazil. Also, I have a good friend, who also teaches with me, she did it in Peru A number of years ago. But you know, it's interesting reading because this was way before I Alaska has become what it's become, like, I don't know which coast you're on or where you are. But I'm on the west coast and like, they're, they do Iosco ceremonies here, technically, illegally, like, all the time, it's become very, I think it's great. Like, why not, however, comma, you know, I think it you kind of, and I'm not a purist about everything, because everything changes and to have access to ceremony. And to that wisdom is great, right. But I do think, for me, I was going through a horrible breakup, and it was in a lot of pain, in a way I had never experienced and my friend recommended. So this was only got 2008. So how many years ago is that? Right? So 12 years ago, 13 years ago, and I, I just I literally she told me about it, I went online to the place, she said, I booked it without even knowing what it was. And then I did a deep dive into what it was. And I was like, Oh, my God, and I was like, I gotta get my money back. So I could literally call the guy and I was like, um, you know, and I don't think this is my thing. He talked me off the ledge. I'm glad he did. Right. And then I went there. And I had this whole amazing experience of being in nature and the shaman was from that area. And so I think there's something to be said about doing it. You know, it's like anything like going to India? You can't find anything that replaces India except the experience of India. Right. Right.

Brandon Handley 32:06
Yeah. Yeah. So it's just diminishes the kind of the truth of it,

Anthony Meindl 32:12
maybe, yeah, maybe. And I know that there's, I'm sure there's some great healers and and, and teachers of Iosco that have moved to LA or whatever. And so it's fine. Just I want people to make sure that they know, you know, just make sure you know, the source, that's all.

Brandon Handley 32:27
Yeah, no doubt, no doubt, right. Definitely, you definitely don't want to take away from it. So how do you feel then? You know, when, when you went through, like kind of this and awakening process, right, there's about the same time that you started your school? Right, is around that? Well,

Anthony Meindl 32:46
yeah. I mean, I started my school, literally, around the time that book fell off my shelf. So in 1998,

Unknown Speaker 32:53
yeah. So,

Anthony Meindl 32:54
I mean, I've been teaching, you know, prior to them, but it really kind of coalesced there. And I just, I felt a very strong message to at the time. Now, when I look back, I was not, I don't want to say ahead of my time, I was in the right place at the right time, because the message that I was teaching was all kind of like conscious awareness through our work. And it was very spiritual and very much about presence essence, the moment, The Power of Now, all of those things before they've become so much, you know, they're, they're so cultural now. But I and I was kind of like an outcast at first, because it was very Mooney, still in the 90s in the early 2000s, you know, what I mean? And now that work, the work has caught up with itself. And I am very blessed to have been teaching this for 25 years, because I do find that this is, this is where we are heading, you know, you know, well, I think culturally look at this is a great conversation we're having you have a podcast called spiritual dope, you know, like, I teach from a very spiritual place and, and there's no shame around using the word soul or spirit or consciousness as our real and it's hard to I also think it used to get a bum rap, but it was so like a llama dama ding dong, and like airy fairy, it's science. Now we know what our brain does. When we meditate. We know what happens when we reduce stress levels and reduce cortisol release from our body, you know what it means? So it's, it's those things that were fringe during Steve Jobs time, right, right, are are not fringe anymore. And to have a language around it is it's a real thing. So it's exciting.

Brandon Handley 34:36
It absolutely is very exciting. What do you think the future of it is for us in this area?

Anthony Meindl 34:43
Well, you know, I'm sure. You know, every prognosticator has so many things to say about 2020 and 2021. And I'm like, Jesus, I mean, Brendon, here's my thought about I Oh, I'm feeling like I'm gonna cry. I do cry a lot. Don't worry. It's just tears of joy. I do feel I don't know. That's the first thing. Nobody fucking knows camera should

Unknown Speaker 35:06
say that. Yeah, you're right.

Anthony Meindl 35:08
Maybe maybe a guru in India knows but I don't know, I think

Unknown Speaker 35:13
my

Anthony Meindl 35:15
where I take some sort of have peace I read this book during COVID or a couple months back called, oh my god, it's called kindred and it's about our Neanderthal on Neanderthal cousins, right? And just what the planet was like, during their time and how they were not these brutish, you know, brutes, you know, unsophisticated and uncultured. And they were actually, like, I don't know, quite advanced, really, you know what I mean. And, to me, it was a watershed moment, in a way because I, I kept thinking about during there, and I wrote a piece about this recently, but how during their time, there was no an early homosapiens, there was, there was no destination. Being on this planet, there was no ending to get to all of life was only journeying. And we still in our DNA, we are journey men and women, we are nomads, right? It is in our, our system to want to travel and to keep migrating, right. And I think for me, reading that book made me Just think about the the constant journey that we're all on. It's an and I guess my point, sorry, I was gonna say was like, they wouldn't have even known what the word destination was, because it was all journeying. And it was all uncertainty. And that, to me, is so powerful to live in that place. Because we as a modern culture, because of the modern conveniences that we've become sort of asleep, because of we have fallen asleep to the truth that we are still in uncertainty, we are still in the unknown, we are still on the great journey. I don't care that you can go to the target and buy yourself, you know, underwear for $9 it you at Target isn't a real thing in the big scheme of things. What's target you're aiming? Like we're journeying? Yeah. And there's you you we have successes and milestones. And those are all things to be celebrated. And I love that we have technology that that creates so many things for us. And yet, we don't want to lose sight of the journey.

Brandon Handley 37:44
Yeah, no, I love I love the idea to have, you know, it's it's all uncertainty, right? and always has been, always has been, and you know, COVID prove that out. Right? Like COVID is like, Hey,

Unknown Speaker 37:57
hello. Yeah.

Anthony Meindl 37:59
On a rock spinning in the middle of dark matter.

Brandon Handley 38:03
Right, right. Yeah, good luck, guys. Uh, and, and the idea to, you know, when you're talking about, like, all these things that are being mass produced, you know, getting something from Target that's being mechanically produced, it just kind of makes me think a little bit to have the experience, right, like, you can go I can maybe I can go out to LA maybe find somebody like, you know, off the streets and and, and, you know, have that iOS experience. But am I gonna have to deal with fucking snakes? Am I gonna have to drop off like, you know, go through a couple plane hops go to the river, you know, deal with the tarantula and all that other shit? No. And I mean, there's, there's something lost in in that actual journey. Like, if it's super accessible. Yes, the joy in that, like, you know what I mean, it kind of diminishes the I don't know, it. Well,

Anthony Meindl 38:51
that speaks to our disconnect from journeying. The, the uncertainty that is the truth about existence, being too reliant on like, our phones and things and buildings, and like what we've become accustomed to right. And also, I think it speaks to the biggest challenge we're facing is, is our disconnect from nature. And so that's again, we're part of that that's, that's an impulse and a pulse inside us. And I think we're at to our detriment, we're seeing how we have separated ourselves from this matrix, if you will, the nature matrix, and that that's one thing that I think people are not aware of. The planet will be fine. Yeah, it will, again, turn into another been six or five other mass extinctions and it will turn into something else. Right, you know, but it's interesting to really think about Wow, we've made the thing that isn't real real.

Brandon Handley 39:54
That's fair. That's fair. I enjoyed your your what you took the piece of Want to pay you to the toilet paper roll? And you did that? Oh, you saw that? Yeah. How long? How long have we been here? We're like, you know? Like, not even nothing,

Unknown Speaker 40:07
right? Nothing, right?

Brandon Handley 40:09
I'm pretty sure the dinosaurs weren't like, hey, they'll never get rid of us. Right?

Anthony Meindl 40:13
And then in a flash were gone. Right? Isn't it crazy?

Brandon Handley 40:17
Maybe they just packed up and flew off, though. Come on, we don't know nothing about him. He don't know. Don't know, we don't know. So let's talk a little bit about like, you know, how, how is acting, you know, kind of beneficial during even like COVID uncertain times or just in in a in a matter of finding yourself in flow and being able to express yourself. Tell me a little bit about that? Well,

Anthony Meindl 40:42
I always say, and I guess maybe I should just march to Congress and do it myself. I wish somebody could hook me up with, you know, a congressional page or someone, I feel like I should go teach an acting class to everybody in Congress, because the art of acting is the art of empathy and compassion. And what we've lost, you know, again, it makes me really sad, is this ability to stand opposite someone we may not agree with, or be in conflict with, but still see their humanity and still, to let them in? And I think acting does that, that you that actually through conflict, you have resolution. So I think conflict is really an important. And it's, it's kind of what's evolved us, as you know, as a species as from organisms to it's not been easy for anybody or anything, you know, that to be alive on this planet is churning, constantly churning to evolve into something else. So there is going to be conflict, but conflict does not have to necessarily mean what's it's not a pejorative, I guess you know what I mean? In other words, like, I guess I heard the other day that it's, it's thinking more in terms of like, even, let's say a lion attacks a zebra, right, and kills the zebra high conflict. And it sounds like one person, one animal wins, the other doesn't. But if you then step back and see that it's all part of the system, it's actually a cooperation. It's it's like, it's all part of this thing. But I think if once we become fractured, and we don't see that opposing views are also part of a thing. That's why we are, I think, in trouble. Because it's not black or white. It's not republicans are bad. And democrats are correct. It's not. It's really about. We need both. It's Yin and Yang. You see what I'm saying? its shadow in light. Yeah. So I don't know if that answered your question. But I don't know. I did. It didn't. But I guess my point is acting is the exploration of all of that. And I think everybody should take an acting class, because you're more in tune with, I think it's the scariest thing for many, many people. I teach a very well known. WW. How many W's are there WWF? Or www f whatever?

Brandon Handley 43:14
The rescue? Yeah, I think two Yeah, two dogs.

Anthony Meindl 43:18
Or maybe he's a famous boxer. Lightweight by godsey is terrible. I don't know those sports. But anyway, he either you would know. And then I can tell you when we're done. But I mean, I've interviewed him for my podcast, so it's fine. I can name names, but um, but he even said he was the world lightweight champion, or whatever category class he was in. And he said, Tony, being an acting class with you was scarier than fighting for that crown. And, and I think it speaks to having to be vulnerable and exposed and to share ourselves. So that's why people should take class,

Brandon Handley 43:58
to be able to connect with that right to be able to connect with themselves and and to put them out there and share that right. I think it's that sharing part that really holds a lot of people back, how's acting help, you know, helping that person get over that?

Anthony Meindl 44:13
Well, I think we've become less self conscious about ourselves. And also, we have so much shame Brandon around, you know, we have so much shame around our feelings, our thoughts, behaviors, our past, the mistakes we've made people we've hurt, and again, realizing it's also part of the journey. If we're contrite, and we've learned and we've made amends. It doesn't define it's one part of a chapter, you know, it's not even a chapter, it's maybe a paragraph, you know, but I think we were in a shame based culture. Sometimes we don't have a we don't have a relationship to that stuff. That's also an important conversation to have the shadow stuff. So instead, we go underground with it, which then becomes more toxic and more painful. It leads to you know, there's no doubt That these things then lead to unhealthy expression whether that's opioid abuse or, you know, whatever, it's the toxicity it finds its way.

Brandon Handley 45:12
Yeah, look, I mean, it's gonna make its way out each each thought is a seed, right? You know and and, and you know if you look at you know you you live in LA right you walk down the street cement is broken by grass seeds right that type of thing so I'm in a seat is a seat it's gonna find its own way to express itself right and you know, we're humans that's what we do we express that's we show up to express and it's really interesting how that shows up. So, di di Did you find anything writing this book about yourself that you had forgotten about? You weren't aware of? Were you able to share something through this book that you was like a major release for you just curiosity? Yeah, yeah,

Anthony Meindl 45:56
I mean, I think I've always been on this journey of like, for me, I was bullied a lot. And so I think that everybody has suffered from bullying in one form or the other. Even the bullies that perpetrate the bullying are really probably victims of either their own self bullying or are scared of or threatened by the people that they bully, you know what I mean? And so nobody escapes it and and and yet, so it's caused a lot of damage, but it's also put me on this path of healing and teaching and, and also seeing that it's created my art it's really helped me have a voice and and hopefully help inspire people in finding their voice through their pain and their struggles. And, and so I think, I think for me, it's been all these things help heal. And and yeah, I had a lot of epiphanies. When my editor told me, she's like, I told her when I was in therapy, because at one time I complained to my therapist, I was like, is everything you have to do with our childhood? Oh, my God. And I had great parents, as you can probably guess, by

Unknown Speaker 47:00
reading the book, like your mom

Brandon Handley 47:02
says, I want to know more about your mom, though, too. Like, she just seemed like the badass. Right? Like, yeah,

Anthony Meindl 47:07
yeah, she's very private, like, but but but but even having great parents. Like, it's funny, because they say having read the book, they weren't too happy at first, because they thought it depicted them as terrible parents. Wow, I was like, Oh, my God, you guys, it's a love letter to you. It just goes to show you our stuff doesn't help us see things clearly. Right? So my editor said, I want you to whatever you're talking about in therapy, when you have an image of a story that comes to you, I want you to start writing it down. I was like, Do I have to? Just like, yeah, so that's how the genesis of the book occurred. So we all have stories, Brandon, that's my point.

Brandon Handley 47:48
Not I love that. I was just curious if there was like anything that really just um, you know, jumped out at you that, you know, you hadn't thought about for years or, again, was able to just you were able to just really release something. Yeah,

Anthony Meindl 48:00
what can I say? I've said this, I had the guy have a lesson about it. One person's tragedy is another person's Tuesday. Because this is true. That's a good quote. I've never said that way before. I'm going to use that. But I think I have it in my book. Because my brother, one of the things that I realized is when I wrote the book, and I shared with my brothers some of the things, my brother is that an amazing human being, and we're very close. But we, you know, I was this gay, little kid that didn't even know what being gay was. And so he made fun of me, like any brothers would, you know, beat up or make fun of their younger brother. Right?

Brandon Handley 48:35
Especially during that time, right? Like, that was a very nice times. Yeah, that's

Anthony Meindl 48:38
right. And so I in the book, I have a really haunting story about an event that occurred with my brother, you know, making fun of me or bullying me in a way about being gay. And it affected me so much. And yet, when I shared with him about it, he's like, Oh, God, Tony. I don't even remember that. Yeah. Right. He was so apologetic. So it just made me realize, like, oh, gosh, for me carrying that around. That was like a really intense moment. And for him, it was just a Tuesday.

Brandon Handley 49:12
Yeah. Yeah, but so sounds like you had an opportunity to kind of release that right. Oh, for sure. And that that was no, it's amazing when you get to release something like that. Just how much lighter you feel?

Anthony Meindl 49:24
Yes, absolutely. And forgiveness and, you know, all kinds of things.

Brandon Handley 49:29
So I'm gonna move it back into spirituality just for a second. Yeah, you use that for you know, that's that's basically your coaching, right? Like your coaching is your spiritual practice. You know, you've gone to India you've had chased, you know, you've done the soul searching, you've been the seeker. But without spirituality without you know, kind of developing and honing your practice. You wouldn't be as fulfilled as you are now safe to say.

Anthony Meindl 49:57
I mean, it's impossible to answer random because There's only been this unfolding there is a you can't put that back in the bag. I've got a friend of mine,

Brandon Handley 50:06
a friend of mine, he goes, is he could use the acronym Tina, there is no alternative. You know, but you know, if you look at, you know, I guess the kind of the pre the pre awakening and pre spiritual Tony versus, you know, novice a Tony?

Unknown Speaker 50:26
Ah,

Anthony Meindl 50:26
I mean, I think that they still are so interconnected. You know. And I think again, I think the thing for our your listeners is to remember that spirit abides within us whether we have a conscious relationship or dialogue with it, it's there. And it's there to be awakened whenever you're meant for it to be awakened. And so for me, it was always something that was a part of my experience, even if I didn't know how to label it. You know what I mean? Yeah, no, I

Brandon Handley 50:54
agree with that. Right? Isn't? You said it a couple times. It's in a right. It's everybody. It's in everybody. Right? is and what I like, though, what you just said there was like, addressing it consciously. For me, I did, right? for 40 years, I was like, I was like, I got all this other shit to do. Right? And then then my spirit was like, I was like, Well, what do you want? Right? I'm very similar to your, you know, your moment, like there was like this. You know, days, maybe weeks, I forget exactly how long like you've got this kind of natural, vibrant body. Hi, you're like, I didn't miss anything. I didn't take anything. And so what's happening right now, you know, in my mind, after talking to several people, it could only be one thing. Right? So but it's it's inside of everybody. And having that conscious conversation with it, I think is the important thing, and not giving up who you already are kind of really loose back into this too. Because, like you said, You're not separate from who you ever were just because like, you know, you have this spiritual moment. It's not changing yourself either. Right. And we talked about like the the grittiness, allowing it to still be gritty, like, I mean, yeah, it's okay.

Anthony Meindl 52:12
It's work, right? I mean, it is work. It's a relationship like any other. I also think though, as I've gotten older, I have a birthday next week. And I, I, when I look back at those stories I told or when I think about even my 30s, cuz I'm gonna be 53. I'm like, whoa, I'm a completely different Tony. And if, if you follow science, right, they say, cellularly, your body is regenerated every seven years or something like that, or so I am, like, at a atomic place, I am completely a cellular place, I'm different. But also your awareness and your evolution. If you do work on yourself, you are changed. I don't even really identify with that, Tony. So every decade or every year, really, you're a different person, which is so cool. That also speaks to how people can change even though I know there's the saying that you can't change someone, but we do change.

Brandon Handley 53:05
Rod, you had a great line in the book too, about realizing in a relationship that, you know, you can't change somebody realize you can't change anybody that the only thing is leftovers, like love or something like that. That was like a really good was a good line. It's right. And it is and then the other part, too, that you mentioned there was your awakening was a Saturn, you know, rebirth away, you know? 29 so I'm in I'm in one of those this year, I think. So, which is also just more entertainment value for me as I'm reading the book. Anyways, listen, I you know, I identified with it, you know, you know, it must have been a challenge, you know, sounds like it was a challenge, especially growing up gay in the Midwest, right? I'm actually from San Francisco, born in San Francisco in the 70s. I was back out there in the 80s. And, you know, I always I embraced gay, you know, growing up, right, like, I wasn't gay, but I was like, it was there. So it was just like, hey, right, that's just part of part of life. Right. So, but then to, you know, kind of, you know, be able to express that run your business and and, you know, fully express yourself. I think that's super awesome to be able to see who you are and to Yeah, well, thank

Anthony Meindl 54:15
you, Brandon. I feel like I've known you and I, it's so great to have this talk about I'm so inspired. Like, I feel like I can I have to go teach it a little bit. But I feel like oh my god, the class tonight is gonna get an extra dose of spiritual dope ism. Now. That's right. That's right.

Brandon Handley 54:31
Get your head. Right. So get your commercial dope, Tony. Thanks again for being on Where should I go and send? Is there anything else that you want to you want to cover anything else you want?

Unknown Speaker 54:42
covered at all? Awesome.

Brandon Handley 54:44
Where should we send people to go hang out and find you? Yeah,

Anthony Meindl 54:48
I mean, I guess if they're interested in my work, I guess, acting related or otherwise, you can go to our website www dot Anthony meindl memd elle.com and then you can always find me on Instagram, just Anthony meindl I'm on Twitter, but I don't really use Twitter. I just, it's too much so but so but I am on Instagram because I like photos. So, you know, you can always hit me up there and, you know, I really do try to answer people's questions if they DM me and I try to be in service as best I can. So,

Unknown Speaker 55:24
yeah, awesome. Thanks again.

Unknown Speaker 55:27
Thanks, man.

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Adam R. Walton | Flipping the Spirituality Switch

Published: Jan. 31, 2021, 12:34 p.m.
Duration: 1 hour 1 minute 4 seconds

Connect with Adam Walton on his website here: https://thementalmasteryalliance.com/

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey there Spiritual Dope, this is your host with the most the voice of a generation. Brandon Handley. And I'm on today with the Adam Walton. Adam. What are you running these days? Man? What Where should I? You know, even if I just say it, I think the I know you best is the mental mastery, but I believe you're the mental mastery Alliance now.

Adam Walton 0:26
I've always been the mental mastery Alliance.

Brandon Handley 0:30
So there you go. You know, I know Adam as he's one of my first coaches, Adams actually the person that gave me that line that I that I just threw out at the beginning, they're the the voice of a generation without Adam. You would not have the voice of a generation does know that. I think he did that. Right.

Adam Walton 0:48
I did kind of know that. Yeah. But I mean, the reality is, they would have the voice of a generation because my friend, you still exist. And you were partially there, I just figured why not glorified. And that, that's, it's it's 100%. Sure, like you really have to envision what you want. And just like anyone that's getting started in anything that's new, it's really hard to believe in yourself. So when you start announcing yourself as the voice of a generation, you live up to your monitors, you really step into that power. So it's not like you have to, you know, slow it down or play small, you know, when you are the voice of a generation, which you currently are right now. You stepped right into it.

Brandon Handley 1:30
I love it. I always like to say that. And I it's funny, every time I say this, I always expect somebody to send something to me. But nobody's ever said that I can't be the voice of a generation.

Adam Walton 1:41
Right? You've also never specified which generation so all the haters can beat

Brandon Handley 1:46
the hell out. So I usually like to start this with a phone one, right? The The idea is that the universe, God, whatever speaks through us, right? And somebody listening to this podcast right now is going to get a message that can only be delivered through source through Adam Walton to them, what does that message, do more.

Adam Walton 2:12
Simply put, do more, no matter what you're doing right now do more. And that's that's the one piece of advice that will get you from where you are to where you need to be. If you there's there's a there's a statement, when you have a job, when you work for somebody, when somebody is hired you to complete their tasks. always deliver more than is expected. And when you do that, you change the way you operate. sequentially, you change the way you operate mentally, you change the way you operate physically and spiritually. If you're saying I am tasked to do this thing, then that is the limitation you put on yourself, that is what you will do. And you will do a basic job of it. When you do more than is expected.

Unknown Speaker 3:00
You'll always amplify.

Adam Walton 3:04
In other words, your tasks, you'll amplify your output. And when you amplify your output, you feel it internally. So without trying to seek praise from anyone or anything anywhere, other than how you feel about yourself, always do more.

Brandon Handley 3:25
I mean, I think it's pretty, it's pretty powerful message. how,

Adam Walton 3:28
you know, what's a good example of that? Because I think that I know that for myself. You know, historically, it's like do more as I do more of what, how right? What would you tell somebody do more looks like? Just like you said, do more of what and how if you're going to take up the moniker of doing more. And then you ask yourself, what more can I do? Well, now you've got an you know, you've got to give yourself an answer. And when you do you execute on doing more so simply by asking the question you have effectively done more. Also, when you're on that line of thought, you have the ability to to create more. And there are so many times and I'll tell you this just like the more you try to push in anything and the more you try to do something positive you're gonna get you're you know, you're gonna get a pushback, a naysayer, anything. Because if you're if you've decided at this moment in time that you're going to step into your purpose, for example, know that if you've not started this journey, you are starting from the beginning. But the beginning is a little bit into the race and into the race, you're still in the crowd. And that crowd is of people you joined a race with that wasn't your race to begin with. So the people that will say the negative things or the people that will get inside your mind are the people you associated with before you became I would say aware before you became self aware before you became spiritually aware before you started this journey at all. On this path, on this journey, you are going to unload these people one by one, so that you can make room for the new people that are in this journey on this path with

Unknown Speaker 5:11
you.

Adam Walton 5:12
It's not a good thing. It's not a bad thing. It is merely an experience. So embrace all of the negativity, embrace all of the uncertainty because it is those uncertain moments that is those negative moments that create the positive view. Five years from now, one year from now next week.

Brandon Handley 5:31
Yes, sure. I mean, you can look at any event or an experience is coming into your life right now. As a negative right now, like, you know, you say, hey, this negative is COVID, right? You just had whichever you gallbladder taken out, whichever.

Unknown Speaker 5:46
My gallbladder tried to kill me, right? Yes,

Brandon Handley 5:50
yeah. And and I think, if you were telling me, you know, you we connected a couple weeks back, and he said that he just came out of hospital. And I think I asked you, I said, Well, you know, were you it was your back? You? Weren't you laid out for about a year or so with your back as well. Correct? Yeah.

Adam Walton 6:06
So what what happened with me on that on that the back part was when I really stepped into my purpose, the world without my own desire, or anything slowed me down, basically put me in bed for a year. That gives you time to think.

Brandon Handley 6:25
So does, you know, but talk to me a little bit about going through that. And before we even got fired up here, I think, you know, when you and I first connected, I wouldn't have put you, I think in the spiritual journey space. You may have been on your way, right. But somewhere along the way, you and I both kind of started sprinting or running towards this spirituality bit. Where did you get like this kind of fever, the bite

Adam Walton 7:01
when you and I first met, I wasn't allowed to be myself based on contracts negotiated at the time I was a entity of another unit. So my spirituality started, my spirituality started when I was born. I never fit in, I was never part of the third dimension, I was never somebody who looked at something and agreed with the television agreed with the narrative agreed with getting a job, I questioned everything since birth. And it's been referred to as a fourth dimensional entity, I arrived here as a fourth dimensional entity. You don't know what that means, obviously, because when you live in the third dimension, you have to look at all this shit, that doesn't make any sense. But you have to look at it all. Now, when you and I crossed paths, I was living my best life. As a sales coach. And as somebody who had the ability to see into people's souls, I utilize both skills. Coaching was coming naturally, next, and the dark night of the soul is the main thing that pushes people into the next reality. I've gone through probably about four of them in the past three years, where I've been forced to deal with myself. So when you step into purpose, when you step into your ascension, your light your journey, your reason for being here, a lot of other bullshit disappears. A lot of stuff that that is not necessarily goes away. And what I find entertaining about that moment is everybody has this preconceived notion of what a spiritual person is. And I don't live up to any of those preconceived notions. I come from a very cruel background, I come from a ruthless background, to be honest. And it's been said that you need to be capable of evil, to be able to spread positivity to be able to be capable of pure positivity, because anyone can be nice. But to be capable, and understanding there must be a contrast. So anyone can be something but if you're truly capable of evil, and you choose against it, or you learn from it, and it creates a new, then that's an entirely different state than saying, I believe that we should all be a certain thing. That's a very controversial statement. If you want me to unpack it more I can. But for the most part, there's one meme that I absolutely adore. And it says, Don't let the spirituality confuse you. You know, there's gangsta under here, and a lot of people

Brandon Handley 9:43
100% 100%. Right. Like, I mean, I don't know that. I think the contrast is necessary. Right? You know, I wouldn't say personally, I look from from my vantage point, I wouldn't say I'd have to know you have to know evil. To know good, right. You do, because at the same time, you have to know, you have to know.

Adam Walton 10:05
And this is a really valid point, because you have to know light to understand darkness. So on that note, when I say you have to know evil, I'm not saying that everyone's evil, but I am saying that the most spiritually enlightened people I've ever met, have lived through some shit.

Brandon Handley 10:22
Sure. Look, man. There's no doubt right. Like, I don't I don't think that I don't think that I'm bringing my personal take is I don't think that. Again, there's no preconceived notion, right? It comes from anywhere, you can get it anywhere you get it, like it can happen in any way. Right. And that's the beauty of it. So I definitely appreciate

Adam Walton 10:43
up right on that one.

Brandon Handley 10:44
Yeah, yeah. I appreciate your journey. Right. So I mean, you know, tell us a little bit about like, let's talk a little bit about like this, you know, as the Adam Walton that I met, right, the Adam Walton that I first met him as his coach life coach. You know, the story is, you know, you've had some success, you know, throughout your life, you built it all on your own. And then, you know, the atom, the atom Walton I first met, even though it was a kind of a package deal. To me, it seemed, you know, seemed genuine. Right. Seemed always, yeah, always genuine. Yeah, always genuine. But the atomwaffen that I feel like I know, now is just more expansive, shall we say? Right. And I think that that's a good phrase for it. Right? There's a different, you know, you said fourth dimension, no being and I think that there is there there multiple new dimensions about you. So let's talk about like that transition over the past, like three years and what's happened.

Adam Walton 11:47
Berbick, the, you know, when I was when I was referring to earlier, it leads into this, you know, when you when you find, when you find when we were Okay, so, when I was talking about evil, you know, evil versus good. Again, the contrast, every single thing is contrast, you know, you don't know heat Unless, you know, cold, you don't know, light unless you know, dark, the Yin to the Yang, this idea of who you are at any given moment is only compared to who you were. And when you are somebody who, you know, has gone through certain experiences and has been talked to and dealt with a certain way, you have certain notions of who you are. And based on that, you have certain notions of where you think you can go. spirituality and how it compounds is, by taking those extremes, my journey, specifically not, you know, everybody's got a different path. But my journey specifically was taking those extremes and experiences and viewing them as teaching moments, rather than painful experiences that I wish I'd never lived. You know, if I go back through my life, and if I go back through my experiences, every last one of them formed who I am, and who I am is amazing right now. But nowhere near where I'm going to be in 10 years, and where I'm going to be attending. And that's not me to to my own horn, I'm not trying to impress anybody, I'm not trying to do anything, I am just simply on a journey for myself. And we're in before it was always nice to you know, do this, you know, be kind to others, and all that sort of stuff. And you think to yourself, it's a good idea to, you know, be kind to other people, for other people. And you're but you're being bombarded with it right now in the media, which is, you know, wear a mask for other people get vaccinated for other people, you know, nobody's really questioning the fact that all of this stuff needs to be done for you. And if you raise that point, then you're selfish. And it's interesting that the entirety of the world has decided that we need to think of other people as opposed to focusing in on who we are, and what we're capable of. Because first and foremost, with regards to the vaccines and the masks, if you're not wearing a mask, my mask doesn't work is such bullshit. If you're not going to wear a mask, and and people in old age Homes is going to die again, bullshit, right? Everything has its own purpose. If I were to walk into an old age home, I would mask up, right, but for me to not be able to have my friends over. And then and then and then be able to go to Costco, you know, two totally different things. And I'm speaking on this because this is the grand awakening. What we're seeing right now is the veil being pulled. What we're seeing right now is the holes in the story. So every single thing that's ever taken place in my life, is now being compared to what's happening in the sandbox is not being compared to what's happening in the ethos of the realm in which we're all inhabiting. So I am now able to compare my life story to what's being offered to me to the experience that we're all collectively having, collectively having a unique experience, which is a very interesting thing that a lot of people can't wrap their minds around. And that's because they're all tied into each other. The third dimension you're all tied into one another as opposed to experiencing individuality inside the culture. If you're a Star Trek fan, just picture Seven of Nine, or whew, if you want to go right back to the Star Trek, the next generation, phenomenal things, there's a lot of stuff in Star Trek, actually, they talked about the Dyson sphere as well, fantastic, completely different episodes. But when it comes down to your spirituality, you are experiencing this world in this realm.

Unknown Speaker 15:21
With your background,

Adam Walton 15:24
therefore, your background and my background are entirely different. I'm not better than you, you are not better than me, a man who is born into money, you know, to a poor man, seems like he's got it all. But he's got his own problems. A man who was born with nothing and no legs, or what have you, whatever it is, you know, he's got his experiences, and for you to be like, Oh, poor him, that's you, implying your experiences onto him. Therefore, you're forcing him to play inside your ethos. It's an interesting reality, to understand that we are here to experience individually, the collective, and you start off inside the collective as is your experience for comparison. The only way you can break out of the collective is to understand that exists, the only way you can understand it exists is for it to exist, which then brings back good and evil, if evil is being perpetrated to wake you out of the collective consciousness, and it's an agreed upon contract, ie soul contracts, something that people can walk into, is evil, actually evil? Or is the act of evil good, because its end result is for you. Now, that's a huge debate. Everybody can have their arguments and their and their competitive thing. Perfect, but it's a topic that nobody discusses. We look at evil and good as black and white. And it certainly is not.

Brandon Handley 16:52
I mean, look, I like it, right? Do you gotta have any hero's journey, you gotta have the antagonist, right to something's, there's got to be some type of catalyst, there's got to be some type of obstacle to overcome, right? In order to flourish. Just like, you know, cheese goes, I listened to this morning. I forget what it was exactly I was listening to this morning. But you know, think of a walnut shell, right? I mean, that for that tree to express its life, it's got to do battle with that shell, right? It's got it's got to penetrate and get out of that shell, it's got to reach for the light. And then it's gotta, you know, then it's got to reach to the ground. And first of all, it's got to know what's inside of show. Look, I mean, it's just gotta it's already knows that's, that's the that's always the beauty. Right? You know, the rest of nature outside of human beings, right? A tree trees, a dog dogs, humans were like, What the fuck is going on? Right. So, you know, and I enjoy, I enjoy your perspective. So what I mean, just talk a little bit about what led you there again, so I mean, your your, your Adam, you know, the, you know, I wouldn't call it like pre spiritually, you know, the pre awakened, Adam, I guess we could have, right. You know, and how do you slip into this space?

Adam Walton 18:09
It wasn't, it wasn't any one thing. Obviously, it was a collection of things. And like I said earlier, you know, being born fourth dimensional, it sounds Jujuy. But at the end of the day, I always viewed things differently. So when I was able to not think I was crazy for viewing things differently. And when I was able to see that the society was trying to give me ADHD, and this and anything, for me to understand why I was so good at sales. For me to understand why I understood what people needed, I had to dig deeper into myself. And to do so I encountered more answers to the questions I was asking the questions were changing, the answers were changing, and they were leading to more questions. The more questions that were being answered, the more questions I had. And then when you stop living, fourth dimensional, third dimensional and you start living fifth dimensional, it is a shift, you go back and forth. You can visit the world, fifth dimensionally, so you can see it but you can't live there because it doesn't make sense because this is where you're going. It's not where you've been. And it's not anything like where you where you've been. fifth dimensional living is understanding and when you can understand certain things, a lot of shit just goes away. And when that shit goes away, you have so much more room inside yourself to embrace new things. You stop worrying about am I going to live Am I going to die? What if I crash? What if I this What if I don't make any money? What if it doesn't work out? What if it does work out? What if I do this? What if I do that? When all of those noises leave your head? You can amplify everything that you're doing at the moment that you're doing it.

Unknown Speaker 19:49
How did I get there?

Adam Walton 19:52
Honestly, I would have to say the leaps all came from Dark Nights of the soul all came from going toe to toe with what I believe To be true, entering painful moments, the back putting me in bed. You know, when you when you're sleep deprived for over a month, and you are faced with chronic pain, you ask certain questions, you change the way you do things. And when you're when you come face to face with your inner demons, whether you want to or not, when you're in that much pain for that long physically, there are people that you meet inside your mind. Dark Nights of the soul also come from smaller experiences also come from putting yourself out also come from you allowing yourself to have that experience. And collectively right now the universe is going through a dark night of the soul. And you're seeing an awakening to the illusion. Some of us are some of us aren't, you know, and there's a lot of questions, I have a lot more questions about where we are now than I did. Before, you know, before you see what's what's what's, you know, the world the game that we're playing, because, because it's phenomenal. So my spiritual journey is is just beginning. I am growing exponentially, I have changed my focus, I no longer need or want what I used to want. Now I want to make a difference. Now I want to make a change. Now I want to have a voice. Now I want to share my message. Now I want to be a guest on your podcast show. I've always wanted to be a guest on this show. Come on. Have you seen the artwork for this, ladies and gentlemen?

Brandon Handley 21:33
I'll tell you, James, James knocked out on that. The CIO sounds a little bit like you're talking about finding your purpose. Yeah. And what's that? You know? So what does that mean to you?

Adam Walton 21:50
alignment, basically, my purpose isn't anything other than what I needed to be. And, and my alignment, you know, what's funny, is boredom. Boredom goes out the window, the minute you start aligning yourself properly, you start you start finding fascination, and all kinds of things. I mean, all kinds of things like boredom is just not challenging yourself. And and it's really interesting, how that plays out, you know, and just this growth, this this alignment, you know, how do I how do I not sound like every other person speaking in broad terms, I mean, it's almost impossible not to because every single person's journey is different. And every single person is allowed to have experiences. And the minute you stop asking, if you're having an experience, you understand that you are having an experience. So everyone out there that is experiencing something weird, they want answers. You give yourself those answers. And then when you start believing in yourself, you you move in leaps and bounds.

Brandon Handley 22:53
What do you mean by you know, start believing in yourself?

Adam Walton 22:57
Well, let me ask you this. Do you think that you can fail? No, no. Did you think that you could fail when I met you? Yes. No. How would you explain that difference? Because you actively right now know that you cannot fail?

Brandon Handley 23:15
It was going through the process, right? We talked about that. It's uh, you know, there is it's funny. I actually I posted a meme. I think not too long ago, just my own meme. I said, What the fuck is the process? Right? Because people always say, trust the process. And you're like, what the fuck does that mean? Yeah. And and until you go through the process? Or a process? I guess. Right. It's, it's tough to discern. So that's how I got there was by trusting the process and going through with it.

Adam Walton 23:50
That's right. And that's, you know, that's basically you know, the gist. So when somebody says, you know, when I say to you, I cannot fail. All I can do is have an experience and make a decision about it. Right, the world doesn't get that just yet. There are so many people that like explain that make that because of course you can fail. I think one of the funniest realizations I ever had was the Yoda saying, Do or do not there is no try. Sure. And I was like, when you're living in third dimension you're like of course there's a try there's try all over the place you do nothing but try until you do or do not. But the reality is that we live in Yeah, and results you live in and results you either do it or you don't do it.

Brandon Handley 24:27
That's the the other one and the matrix, right. Stop trying to hit me and just hit me. Yeah,

Adam Walton 24:33
great. Trying to hit me exactly

Brandon Handley 24:36
right. Just hit me. It's real similar to that. So you know, the dark nights of the soul you kind of went through. And I think one of the things I like to always understand is, now that you've kind of got like this purpose to kind of share your message out. I believe you're still doing you're still coaching and you know, trying to get others to Understand what their messages right align with their purpose so that they can go through the process, right? How are you seeing? Are you seeing a leap in fulfillment in your life. And by living it this way, versus what it was before, and is there any way you can kind of compare, compare and contrast that for us

Adam Walton 25:23
100%, there's, again, you know, the lack of boredom, you know, all that sort of stuff, you know, comes into it. My purpose in life is to wake up lions, is not to wake up sheep is not to, you know, dismiss them or anything like that. But my purpose in life is to push those that need to be pushed, to step into their light to step into the light of change. And it's not even that I'm doing it for them, I'm doing it because I need to do it. Once that person is awake, and once that person is off and running, they no longer have anything to do with me, my purpose was not to get praise from the lion that has now awoken, my purpose was to simply wake that lion up. My purpose was to allow them to understand their purpose a little bit better, and to show them that they're not crazy for having that identity. What was I doing? Well, being third dimensional, I was teaching people how to sell, I was teaching people how to close, no matter what realm I lived in, I was always teaching people. And when you live in that realm, you are always under the gun, you're always under attack. And it's really interesting, because you will find people say the craziest shit about you, when you're in the sales room when they don't even know who you are. But when you exude some sort of energy that they don't have, they want to bring you down. And interestingly enough, that isn't about, like you or them or anything, that is the experience, you have to get stronger by understanding that these things are happening so that you can face your own, you know, whatever growth patterns that you have to face. And they have to do it so that they can understand that it's not the right thing to do that you don't you don't chop somebody down, right? Yeah, the same debate goes with bullies, a lot of people will talk, you know how bullying is bad. But bullying teaches the bully a lot. And it teaches the one that's being bullied a lot, and everyone has these experiences. So you know, it's an interesting jump, how I went there, but it you know, it, when you find your purpose, you understand that you are contributing properly in your realm. If your purpose has to do with avenging the weak, maybe you were bullied, and maybe without being bullied, you'd never have lived into your purpose, if you were a bully, who turned his life around, because he saw how terrible it was for the other people being bullied. And that leads you into your life purpose, go for it. You know, the world in society is so quick to point the finger at so many people about so many things, without understanding that every usually for the most part 90% of everyone who has ever perpetrated a crime or, or whatever, is at some point a victim in their own lives, either repeating a pattern, or you know, built up anxious or being, you know, having, you know, trying to take their power back from being a victim, whatever it is, again, the Battle of good and evil, what contrasts for the sake of the other to contrast. So when you talk about stepping into your purpose, if you're a quote unquote bad person, once you understand that, that can't possibly be true, and that you have the ability to step and move forward, you realize that the third dimension has always tried to make you look at your past and make you compare yourself to who you used to be. As opposed to living in a fourth or fifth dimension, where you compare yourself today to who you want to be. I look at myself today and say I'm not this person yet, I need to work on that, that that I need to go through this, this and this to get there. They're in there. But since the entire world for the most part is coming from, I'm not this person, because I used to be that person. And that person is holding me back from becoming this next person. But that's how you're trained to think.

Unknown Speaker 29:03
So

Adam Walton 29:04
when the world decides it wants to wake up, like you keep trying to ask me about me, and I keep reflecting back to the world. Because I am not the person you're interviewing. Even though I sit in this chair, you're interviewing the experience, and I can share my experience or I can share a perspective of experiences. And you're getting both and I ramble a lot, but that's okay. People seem to like my voice.

Brandon Handley 29:27
I see what I want.

Unknown Speaker 29:29
You damn straight. Do

Brandon Handley 29:31
idea is it's funny, you know, the experience, right? The the idea though, that we experience, time, or anything else, you know, and knowledge is that that is of course an illusion. Right? what we experienced right now is what we're always experiencing, which is, you know, an eternity right. We're experiencing eternity right now. just you know, how do you want to see it? Right? dia fulfillment piece, right is kind of still on getting that right. Do you feel more fulfillment in general? With this kind of wave waving?

Adam Walton 30:20
Oh, yeah. Yeah, I have a question for you as well. Sir. The fulfillment man, honestly, how can I put this fulfillment when you stop doing what they tell you to do smoking cigarettes, drinking booze, being debaucherous being an asshole, all the stuff that you've ever been taught to do in life, you know that small consumption of alcohol, when you put it all aside, and you realize that you're so much more than what they told you to be? film, it's massive. It's absolutely massive suit. Like, I'm assuming that you haven't picked up a drink in years. But when you put it down, you put it down. You never you never went back to it.

Brandon Handley 30:54
Yeah. happiest, happiest I've ever been. Yes. Childhood? I'd have to say right.

Unknown Speaker 31:03
And a lot of that

Adam Walton 31:04
a lot of that is tied into you. Aligning, not you quitting drinking, quitting drinking was a result of alignment. Look at our mutual friend,

Brandon Handley 31:12
Jeremy. Yeah, no. But it goes back to what you were saying though. Adam, I called for the person I wanted to be, versus maintaining the image of who I was. I said, Hey, you know what this isn't? This isn't who I want to be going forward. That's right. It doesn't it doesn't this does not, you know, align to who I want to be going forward, who I want to be going forward, has all these capabilities. And one of the one of the capabilities is, is the strength to to say I don't want to drink and I don't want to hang out with everybody else and do the same things everybody else is doing. I want to be doing what I want to be doing on my own terms.

Adam Walton 31:52
And you did it. Yeah. And that's pretty much how simple it is. It is. And there are so many people out there that will say oh, you know, addiction is this? How many times have I heard 1000 people say, quitting alcohol is one of the most painful and hard things to do. I was a seasoned drinker, and I stopped, right, right. And then you know what they say? Well, that's you. That's not everybody. And I say I can only speak from my experience, your experience. And anyone that says it's hard is typically somebody who hasn't gone through it. Or typically somebody who went through it the hard way and didn't decide to look at it the easy way. Equally, I don't look at it for themselves, they probably look at they did it for somebody else. They didn't do it for themselves. You're right, you're right. There's there's a book out there called the Alan Carr, the easy way. And that is how to quit smoking. And I was a smoker. When I met you, I was also a cigarette smoker. I smoked a pack a day for years. It was disgusting. But when I was a kid, it's just what you did, where I grew up, where I came from, you smoked cigarettes, the cool kids wore leather and smoke cigarettes, cigarettes, they're not ridiculous. And there's no more leather stores. And it's also full pod to where the skin of another animal. And when you think about that, should it it is a bit peculiar where, anyway, you know, I'm my alignment, my journey and all that sort of stuff is is bringing me to where I want to be. And that is, I'm fully able to defend my position. I also don't speak my position to the most part, I don't find it's necessary for me to communicate with anyone that may or may not understand me, I will talk to everybody on their level, I will answer any question that anybody has. And for the most part, I do my best to allow people to simply be, and you'll find in that sense, too, that people will interact with you a certain way. And they will like you or they won't like you no matter how enlightened or experienced you are. There is an energy working to you know, in, in in congruent with, you know everything where magnetically we're all aligned or attracted. You know, there are times where you can take a magnet and you can pick up other magnets and that same magnet will push off other magnets, if you just lay out a ton of scattered magnets. Some will pick up and some will drop off that humanity, right. And if you flip a magnet that picked up, it'll push off as well. So you're not necessarily aligned with everybody at all times. But for the time that you are aligned, go for it, have your fun, do your thing. You know, but to have any expectations much more than that is foolish. If you want to grow with somebody do it. If you want to grow through people do it. Don't hold anyone accountable to them living up to your expectations or fitting into your narrative and your reality. Grow and see who grows with you and see who you grow into and see who you meet on your growth journey. Because the alternative is to sit in front of the television when you're not at work. And that to me is in bullshit. Because there's so much more to everything than what they've allowed us to beat. The typical third dimensional person is somebody who is dating somebody, they don't want to date at a job. They do. Don't want to work at not making as much money as they want to make living in a house, they don't want to live in addicted to alcohol, and not even realizing it. That's your standard third dimensional individual or entity, anyone asking the question or trying to step out of that is, is, is drifting into fourth dimension. And anyone that's actuating, and visualizing, and making real, what the secret, the secret to try to make you know, money off, when you try to make that real when you when you live in visualization. And when you live in actualization, you've stepped right out of it. Because here's another thing too, when you're living in third dimension, you are experiencing everything you've put the effort into experience. Therefore, everything that you have is a result of your physical actions towards the manifestations that you've created. You are living in the result of the effort that you've put in at any stage of life, basically.

Brandon Handley 35:53
Are you saying that the third dimension is a result of like physical activity? And the fourth and fifth are the result of other activities? No, they're

Adam Walton 36:03
all mental. So the third dimension is not thinking for yourself. The fourth dimension is asking questions. The fifth dimension is believing.

Brandon Handley 36:10
I like that the third dimension is not thinking to yourself, the fourth is

Adam Walton 36:15
asking questions.

Brandon Handley 36:16
And the fifth is believing in yourself believing believing in yourself. And you know, when you're saying, believe in yourself, you're not talking about the confidence to do something and like, you know, go climb a mountain, believe in yourself. I don't know, I would I yeah,

Adam Walton 36:33
I don't let me pick up a car right now.

Brandon Handley 36:35
I mean, the theory says Yes, right. The theory does say yes,

Adam Walton 36:39
but what if I said to you, Brandon, I'm gonna give you one year, do whatever you have to do. But at the end of that one year, I want to see you on this exact day, next year, you're gonna pick up a car, you can do that. And if everything is happening all the same time, then by the time one year rolls around, you and I are going to be standing face to face on the side of a car. It'd be a look car, like a 1987. Look car, so it won't be too hard. You

Unknown Speaker 36:59
know? No, look,

Adam Walton 37:01
I'm not I'm not gonna push your buttons too hard. Or you go. And exactly, yeah, so you just pick that up, right? But you've hit the gym, you've done the training, you've you've understood, you've learned you've taken in the knowledge and you've picked up the car. But as it stands right now, Not a chance.

Brandon Handley 37:13
What else? That's right. That's what that's for the thing. Is that right? So I mean, you know,

Adam Walton 37:17
manifestation, that is 100% manifestation in the realm that we live in. It takes a minute to go from here. I'm pointing at my brain, ladies and gentlemen, I don't know if he's going to use the video for this. I'm pointing at my brain from here to here to tangible, right, that belt behind me on the wall. Before I had that belt, I wanted it. Right. And then what did I do? I earned some money. I called a guy, a shipping company picked it up. It came here, I manifested that belt and created it.

Brandon Handley 37:45
Sure.

Adam Walton 37:46
Anything that you want in this world, you create, right, I'm

Unknown Speaker 37:49
created.

Adam Walton 37:51
Now the thing is, we think we want things because we've seen them on TV. Imagine what you could create. If you could tap into source directly. like holy shit, I want that gergan slog right, you know what that is? But go ahead. Exactly. And then you just manifest it. And I was like, What the fuck is that? You're like, it's a gurganus log, you son of a bitch. You want it cuz you've never seen one before? Right? Right. But the minute your neighbor sees your gergan slug, he's gonna figure out what it is. And he's gonna get one make one do one? Sure. Sure. Yeah. So we grew up at a time to where, bro, you know, you and I probably didn't have the coolest car in the parking lot. But we had a car in the parking lot when we were in high school. We didn't have we didn't have parents money. But we had our we had our efforts, you know, we pushed what we had. And we believe where we were. So we actuated based on what we believed.

Brandon Handley 38:41
Well, so so I want to I want to so I'm gonna jump in here, right? There's two things. One thing is like, Alright, well, when you when you said, you know, kilos up a car. And, you know, the working theory is that I could do it today, based on you know, kind of what we've seen before, just out of the idea of like, you know,

Adam Walton 39:00
a mother strength

Brandon Handley 39:01
is everything, right? I mean, of course, yeah, but but right. But because because I don't believe right now and myself enough to

Adam Walton 39:10
do the thing. Tapping matrix 100%. Now, you're talking like fifth, you're talking like sixth and seventh dimension. Because there are people that have done feats of strength on a regular basis. Right, but and there are also myths and stories and these people just tap into source immediately tap into source. You know, if you're, if somebody is trapped under a car, I guarantee you can pick that car up. Sure. Because Because the physics go out the window, again, the matrix,

Brandon Handley 39:38
don't bend the spoon that and then that I think that then there's the you know, there's the necessity that says, hey, you need to be able to do this. So source allows that to open for you. Right provides that for you. And then the other part now, this is this was a really eye opening moment. This was a conversation you and I had. Geez Adam, I think was a year ago. Driving around, and I was just leaving my real estate class. And I was talking to you about this teacher who was in there. Who was teaching motivational interviewing, which is something that I was really interested in. I was like, I mean, what are the odds that she's in there? Right? What did you say? to recall?

Adam Walton 40:21
She was in there, because you needed her to be in there.

Brandon Handley 40:23
But you said, I said, What are the odds? And he said, 100%, right, the odds are 100% I was like, motherfucker, you're right. Right. And, and, and, and then you said, something along the lines of she was in a, you know, because that's the only way that you believe that it could happen type of thing, right? So it's, you know, you create your life, and act upon it in a way that you believe you should be. And that's the only way that it'll happen. So until you change, what you believe in, and what you believe yourself to be capable of, you won't take any actions towards it right type of thing. He won't see it. Right. I think that's the other part too, like until you believe. Right, you won't be able to see it.

Adam Walton 41:07
Yeah. I mean, when you also when we talk, if you're right about all that. And as I stutter, if we talk back to the car, right? The idea of you being able to pick a car right now, we agree that it could be done immediately. But we also agree that it's more likely that you'll be able to do it in a year, for sure. You know, Now, that being said, for you to be able to tap into source on a regular basis and pick up a car is not the purpose. For you to become the person that understands how to tap into source and to regularly pick up the car is the purpose of that we are not here to do the thing. We are here to become the person who can do the thing. So that's the cool part. You know, how many times to and maybe this is just me, but every single time I've ever acquired whatever it was I wanted, when I bought the thing I don't care about anymore? Yeah. You know, when I bought my first car, I was like,

Brandon Handley 42:04
yeah, that's the journey. That's the journey.

Adam Walton 42:07
That's life, life is all about that thing. And now again, the car also, when I bought my first expensive car, I was, you know, fully immersed in the idea of the third dimension. Now, what you have validates who you are, which is total bullshit total.

Unknown Speaker 42:23
Self again, that's,

Brandon Handley 42:24
you know, that's gonna be that's gonna be actually the same conversation this weekend with somebody we visited. You know, once you have a bunch of money, you realize you don't change. Right? I mean, it doesn't change who you are inherently, I mean, changes. I think it does change some things, right. It allows you the space to kind of fall into expansion, because you're not as worried about a survival mechanism, right? It's not necessary, though. That's what that's what that's one thing I always like to point out like, so once you have enough money, you stop worrying about that. And you can start exploring some of these other things like spirituality, right? Well,

Adam Walton 43:07
here's, here's another thing, too, if you don't have enough money, right, you you get stuck in that rat race, right? You can also say to yourself, I need more time. So I'm going to totally downsize my house, I'm going to take up a job at McDonald's flipping burgers. And I'm going to make sure that my bills are paid and that there's food on the table. And I'm going to spend every waking moment after that focusing on my craft, focusing on my message focusing on my person, and creating. So you don't it's not that we don't have enough message or instant message. It's not that we don't have enough money. A lot of the time, it's that we don't know how to utilize our moment.

Brandon Handley 43:42
I think you hit on something there too. Right? Creating, right spend time creating. And I think that most people would would would say when you say, you know, they've got to create, they've got to be an author, they've got to be an artist, they've got to be something else. What is when you're saying creator, what are you saying?

Adam Walton 44:03
Create?

Brandon Handley 44:04
Yeah, but I mean, you know, what's that look like? I mean, it's,

Adam Walton 44:08
yeah, it's it's a heavy word. Creating isn't art. Like, a painter isn't creating paintings. a painter is creating himself herself, themselves itself, we self whatever junction people want to use these days. a painter is creating, and the result of their creation is art. So somebody who is completely stuck in a job that they hate without with a spouse that they don't care for, in a situation they don't want to be in can start creating that moment by saying, I don't want this anymore. They start creating, the more time you spend creating, the more, the more likelihood you're going to succeed. Just like the more time you spent playing darts, the likelihood is you're going to get better at darts. So, creating is becoming right and then if you want to Paint if painting is your creation, you start painting, you know, you start, you start with, with the materials that you have, you pick up a box of crayons, and you hammer it out and you work on your draw, you work on your lines, you work on your dimensions. And then from there, you, you know, you sell one of those things, you get really good, or you get noticed, or you upload it or you go on to Fiverr, you go wherever the world is completely open to anything that anybody wants to do, you can sell your painting, you can sell a class on how to paint, you can draw, you can do anything, you just have to find out how to get there, how to do it, whatever it is that anybody wants to do, they just have to do it.

Brandon Handley 45:35
But that also goes back to again, what you're saying you got to believe in yourself, and you got to want to want to do it right. You have to believe in yourself, and then kind of take action towards it. Right? Just even if there's just tiny steps, right? Yeah, you know, sell something on Fiverr. Go to Fiverr. put yourself out there, right? To be found. Right, of course. And you believe that?

Unknown Speaker 46:04
Why not you

Adam Walton 46:06
a fun story about Fiverr. I'm on Fiverr. And I went on there and I do writing I just two short stories. I do blogs, I do, you know, content, written content for coaching pages. And from there, I charge peanuts, you know, but every now and again, like just the random stuff that is fun for me to do and takes no time at all. I, I have some, it's like 30 or 40 bucks a page, right for 500 words, which I've undercut everybody, but from there, it's blown people away, when they kind of understand when they kind of do some research on who I am. Like, why would I be on Fiverr? Why would this be a thing? Like why would because the perception of who I am, as you know, on the internet a lot bigger than who I am right now. I'm just a dude, that's all I am. But it's funny, because from Fiverr, I get paid to practice writing. Right? Right, because I can, here's the thing, I can write whatever I want. But you know, when you have an idea in your head, you don't believe in yourself or whatever it is, when you're just getting started on any one thing. It's hard for you to be like, I have some ideas and I want to craft but when somebody says hey, can you write this, this and this, these are the things I want to talk about, this is the thing I want to do. But and then you're you're on it, you're like, Alright, I got this figured out, then you go do it just like it's easier to help everybody else. And it is to help yourself.

Brandon Handley 47:16
Now that's right, you know, and I love I love that you brought that up. You know,

Adam Walton 47:20
I want to finish that thought though, too, though. God. So from from Fiverr. For anyone listening from anyone jumping out, the real reason I'm there is because it's free advertising, I have acquired five people specifically that have gone into my full program from a $5 ad they've dropped 25 K, right. So you can't judge anything, you can't judge anything on anything, you should just be wherever you need to be to fish wherever you want to fish to eat whatever you want to eat, and have fun with it experience and drop every single idea in your head that you think is a certain thing and just go and run and be free.

Brandon Handley 47:58
All right now that's that's really cool. I love that. I love that you're doing that. And and, you know, the perspective there. Makes me think about again, like, you know, kind of podcasting right makes me think of the idea of you, when you if when you interview me on your podcast, it's easier sometimes. Right? Just you're just the one if you're the one asking me the questions, it's easier for me to come up with the answers. Because those are some things there's some questions I might not answer, or think of on my own as valuable content or anything else. But when somebody else asks you a question, it comes out so naturally, right? Just like when you're writing for somebody else asking you to write for them. It's, it's just coming right through. Mm hmm.

Adam Walton 48:42
I think that's funny too. Because, you know, you've been on my show, and and it is it is it's different in, in, in in so many aspects because on this show, too. I you know, I love doing these shows, because it is always me that's, you know, steering the show or running this or asking the questions, but I have the opportunity on the show just simply to answer your questions. You know, and, and, and I love I love the creativity because it is it's identical again, you and I can have a conversation. Right, your show is your show, My show is my show both are a little bit different. My show is certainly a little bit more out there than your show. I like to talk about little green men. You know, I like to I like to be able I like to be able to expand on every single topic and tie it all back into source because there is a truth in everything. Sure. And that you know, that's a fun that's a fun conversation I have now like I said I don't have your fancy artwork but I do have you know I do have the joy the gift the gap. Another fun thing too is you don't have to be doing anything like nothing has to be sitting there like I was teaching you guys how to podcast long before I even had a podcast. And that was because I had the you know, I had to know how I had the knowledge but to me I was rammed with other things. I had different stories in my mind. You know things I wanted to accomplish things that I had set out in the in the initial states. I've always said, I've got to get this going. And it's very important that people have it. But how do you how are you to be taken seriously, if you're teaching something that you're not following through with, which was ends because of you guys that I said, I have to have this podcast. So I'm going to keep teaching people that this is the way to have the message out there. I need to have the message out there. And I was teaching off stat, therefore, I was saying, These are the things that I know not obviously through Sam, all that other stuff as well. But for me, you know, to launch into just do it. Like it's it's such a wonderful world to be on the other side of it. Once you you know, once you cross over that, that doesn't even matter. 1010 podcasts, 50 podcasts, 100 podcasts, every single podcast, you get better.

I mean, the first podcast, ladies and gentlemen is funny because it is just you sitting in front of a mic in front of your computer going,

Unknown Speaker 50:46
I don't know what I'm doing. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 50:49
100%

Adam Walton 50:50
and then you're and then you're out and then you're rocking. And then you know, you and I know right now that there's an audience right now listening, they're sitting there, they're enjoying their night. And this is the entertainment that they've chosen over television, and I'm so grateful and thankful for that, to be the truth and to be the new reality in which you and I reside. I love that. Every single one of you listening right now, you are amazing. You're amazing.

Brandon Handley 51:11
100% I mean, you know, listen, I think about I'm thinking about the Jim Rohn stat piece that just says, you know, focus on the few, right, I don't care. This one's not about going out and getting numbers. This one's about connection. You know, there's podcasts, this podcast is about connecting with people who are either on the brink of an awakening or just kind of somewhere along their spiritual journey, or just coming along. Right? for the ride. And and

Adam Walton 51:49
where do you think you are? on your journey, right? Now, if you were to say, if I were to say, Are you enlightened? If I were to say to you, on a scale of one to 10? How far up? How far up? Do you think you are?

Brandon Handley 52:01
Like a three? Yeah, because let's just like you said earlier, there's so much there's so much. And I'm just barely beginning to scratch the surface. Right? Where I'm just, I'm just starting to just starting to scratch the surface of my own potential reality, my inner self. Who or what I think the universe is all that all that stuff, man, how about you? It's good question. I like it.

Adam Walton 52:30
Man, I say the same thing. You know, I'm a three, I'm a four. And that's an ignorant statement for me to make, because that's only being able to base things off where I have been. Right, right. Right,

Unknown Speaker 52:41
for sure.

Adam Walton 52:42
You know, and and, you know, I don't know, I don't know how far I can go, you know, you know, that's why I say low. You know, I say low because, you know, three or four fours high three would be decent. But I mean, we could be at point two, you know, for sure.

Unknown Speaker 52:56
Right. Right.

Adam Walton 52:56
Or, you know, we could be at 10. Like, this could be it. Here we are, you know, it'd be weird if it was because that drop off. But you know, I have so many more questions, and I have so many more things I want to experience and journeys that I want to go on. I wake up every morning excited. You know,

Brandon Handley 53:14
you know, here's what I'll tell you. I am though I am not as much about the question so much as I am about enjoying the experience and just being

Adam Walton 53:25
Yeah. And that's it. But that is the question. You're living in it. For sure. Your that's your question right now. That's what's cool.

Brandon Handley 53:35
Yeah, it's a it's a look, it's it's a it's been great. It's been perpetual. And it's been it's been, there's been more joy, and there's been more fun in it. I think, then there's been a long time. I think you also mentioned a little bit earlier, not necessarily about societal pressures, but you know, doing the thing that everybody says you're supposed to be doing, versus letting go of all that shit. Right? And not having all that pressure. I think that that's huge, too.

Adam Walton 54:08
I agree with that. I agree with that. Once you you know, once you instead of viewing peer pressure as a pain point, you get the opportunity to view it as a lesson. It's cool. If you say to yourself, why would I be concerned about I don't know. Anything. Really? Why would I be concerned about this? Like, Hey, man, have this drink? Well, you don't drink like fuck, you know? Why would it be like oh, I really should. What weakness inside me says I really need to do what Chad's doing. Right. I'm gonna pick up my hacky sack and just play because my name is Chad. Right? That's, you know, no offense to the Chad's listening. That's just running.

Brandon Handley 54:46
Sorry, Chad. Yes, sir. Chad. Yeah, you

Unknown Speaker 54:49
know who you are.

Unknown Speaker 54:51
But that's

Adam Walton 54:52
so funny. You can't say that name without it being funny. It is what it is man. It is what it is. You And and like you said, waking up and just being like, you get this opportunity to be like, I want to learn my lessons, I want to understand why I think the way I think I don't want to blindly accept that I think the way I think, because one of the coolest things about stepping into purpose and stepping into a higher dimension mentally and physically is that you understand that you're not having thoughts you're experiencing them. Much like the radio isn't creating music. It's tapping into a frequency and amplifying it. So, you know, all that self hate and self doubt you're receiving that from somewhere, step your frequency up and you'll start receiving different messages.

Brandon Handley 55:37
Yeah, it's a shared a lot. I put the book on my reach, where is it power versus force sent you the link actually, to his like, subsequent, he's guys got a lot of books, David, David R. Hawkins. I sent you that book on surrender, which is super awesome. But in that book, he's got like a map of consciousness. Right. And that's kind of one of his big, big pieces that he's contributed, I think, to to kind of where we are, and what you call like the, you know, ripping of the veil or whatever, right, the thinning of the veil, whatever you want to call it. I feel like he's contributed quite a bit to that. Because there's a there's a, there's a map of consciousness, right, here's where you are. And if you kind of, if you can leverage that and see where you are, you can kind of know where the next step is. Yeah. Which I think is really great. And, yeah, you know, if you're feeling hate and anger and frustration with your with the world, chances are you're feeling that with yourself. Right? And how do you want to address that?

Adam Walton 56:39
Yeah. And if the world is showing it to you, it's something you need to overcome, because it's all that's also your fault. Right, right. Now, I've also I've been on the hook so many times for victim shaming, is that the term I don't know what it is, were you like, you're like, like Dave Chappelle, He's, uh, he made the joke, Oh, she got, you know, assaulted. And he's like, wow, what was she wearing? You know, I don't, I don't, I don't put myself in that category. But I get I get the finger pointed a lot at me for that sort of stuff. Because again, you can misplace humor, you can do whatever you want, the world seems to want to live in its own narrative and drag everybody else in through theirs. Sure. And for me, it you know, it's it's, it's a certain it's a sensitive point, but it's a certain one, like, if I'm out drinking all the time, there's a there's a high likelihood that I'm gonna get punched in the face. It for history never happen. Or there's certainly a higher likelihood that I'm going to get punched in the face being out drinking, then if I'm in having intellectual conversations with individuals, for sure. If you love the idea of being out drinking, and if you want to get mad at me and said, Well, what you can't be drunk and have an intellectual conversation, man, you can do whatever you want, anywhere you want in life at any point, right. But what I will say is if you want more out of life, you're going to come into certain circumstances and situations that change the way you specifically do business. And once you get to the other side of how you've done that, you can look back and say, Man, I got punched in the face, because I was out drunk, running my mouth, you know? And that's it. Which means I'm the victim of assault. But it's because I was an idiot that it happened.

Brandon Handley 58:13
You're the one who created the situation.

Adam Walton 58:16
Yes. And that's not all of them. I'm going to put this in an Asterix Ladies and gentlemen, the world wants to you know, eat everybody alive right now. That's for sure. Every situation. It's not a blanket statement. That individual experience statement. Sure. No, no, no, I

Brandon Handley 58:29
get it. Right. Listen, that disclaimer, right?

Adam Walton 58:34
Exactly. I mean, there's millions of people listening this podcast right now. I know. Right?

Brandon Handley 58:38
Listen to listen, they're huge. They're huge. And you know, I don't want them I don't want an avalanche on Adam's House because he's a dick.

Adam Walton 58:46
I spiritual dick

Brandon Handley 58:50
telling you that you got punched in the face and it was totally your fault. It is right you got you put yourself there and then look, man, there's definitely situations where like, you know, people like well, this happened in the world and you're saying that was their fault? Like, come on, man. The take it with a grain of salt. You are where you And hey, that could be your soul contract.

Adam Walton 59:06
Right? Yeah, that could be your soul contract. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 59:09
we don't know, man that nobody knows. So for you for anybody to come up and say Yay, or nay. But I mean, you know, at least in our current level of understanding and experience to date,

Adam Walton 59:20
here's an extra step to that soul contract. It could be your soul contract to be murdered me making you the ultimate victim, right? And then but it's not. Your soul contract isn't for you or for the murderer. It's for the observers of everyone that witnessed you getting murdered. Right, and then you and the murderer, soul contracted into this to wake the world up. So the murderer has to commit a heinous crime of murdering and the victim has to create or has to be the victim of a murder. Both of them signed on to this so that you and me could witness this and change how we do life. That's how soul contracts can work as well. For sure, you know, there are some extensive quantity that go into every single experience. It's, it's mind bendingly beautiful,

Brandon Handley 1:00:06
not 100%. Right? It's life. Right. It's it's life. And I think that that in itself is beautiful. Just like you, sir are beautiful. So where can we send people to go hang out with Adam?

Adam Walton 1:00:21
There's a lot of changes going on. But you can you can check us out right now, at the mental mastery. alliance.com. All of our social links are there. Everything's there. We are just having fun with everything right now. Everything is tickety. Boo. So definitely come give us a check out if you like social media, if you don't like the computer, that's cool, too. We're everywhere. We have our own podcast, all of its linked back to the webpage. So in the liner notes of this episode of my webpage was there then everybody would get to see what we're all up to. And there's a ton of stuff going on. So we encourage you all to pop by. And if you don't want to do that, amen. Cool to

Brandon Handley 1:00:58
Adam, thanks for stopping on today. I

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always enjoy the conversation, brother. Absolutely my friend. Great time.

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Mike Iamele | Removing Toxicity from your Purpose

Published: Jan. 24, 2021, 5:22 p.m.
Duration: 51 minutes 50 seconds

Connect with Mike today! https://mikeiamele.com/

Mike Iamele is a writer, life purpose expert, and brand strategist. With his proprietary Sacred Branding® system, he’s helped hundreds of people to connect the dots between their lived experiences to find the common threads that explain their subconscious motivations, unique genius, and life purpose. People use this work for all kinds of things — from branding and building a business, to exploring identity and sexuality, to finding their artistic voice, to even re-discovering themselves after a life-altering event, like divorce or retirement. Mike’s also the author of Enough Already: Create Success on Your Own Terms (Conari Press 2015). He’s shared his provocative and vulnerable take on life in dozens of magazines, podcasts, and online publications, including a personal interview with NPR about his viral story on rethinking sexuality in his first same-sex relationship. Prior to Sacred Branding®, at only 22 years old, Mike co-founded Torch Communications, a boutique public relations firm, specializing in healthcare and disruptive technology. He currently lives in Somerville, MA, with his husband and two adorable dogs.

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey, their spiritual dove is Brandon Handley. And I am on with Mike Iaconelli who is a writer, life purpose expert and brand strategist. With his proprietary sacred branding system, he's helped hundreds of people to connect the dots between their lived experiences to find the common threads explained their subconscious motivations, unique genius and life purpose. People use this word for all kinds of things, from branding and building to business to exploring identity and sexuality to finding their artistic voice to even rediscovering themselves after a life altering event like divorce or retirement. Mike is also the author of enough already create success on your own terms. He shared his provocative and vulnerable take on life in dozens of magazines, podcasts and online publications, including a personal interview with NPR about his viral story on rethinking sexuality in his first first same sex relationship prior to sacred branding relationship prior Okay, sorry. Prior to sacred branding, at only 22 years old, Mike co founded torch communications, a boutique public relations firm specializing in health care and disruptive technology. I'm not gonna tell you where we live. They can find that on their own. But here's the deal, Mike, first, first of all, just while I'm going through this, thank you so much for joining me today.

Mike Iamele 1:24
Yeah, thanks, Brandon. This is awesome. I'm glad to be here.

Brandon Handley 1:26
Awesome. So I'm reading this. It's funny, though, because I was reading this earlier. And when I read it in his first same sex relationship, so like, I mean, multiples or, like, I mean, you What happened? There was

Mike Iamele 1:41
a great question. Let's dive right in. Um, you know, I previously had no conscious knowledge, no interest in men. To my knowledge, I've only dated women. And it was a time where I actually woke up one day vomiting blood. And that didn't stop for a few months, I was really, really sick. I was going from doctor to doctor trying to figure out what was wrong with me. And my roommate at the time was a friend of mine, we actually two roommates, but one of them was a friend of mine who was in the healthcare profession. And so he kind of became my caretaker, I couldn't drive myself to these appointments. You know, he really took care of me. And after about two months, I felt like I felt something. It wasn't sexual. It didn't even feel romantic. It just felt like something was a little different. And I think if it were any other time in my life, I probably wouldn't have acted on it. But I thought I was going to die. And so there I was kind of saying like, Well, you know, and I felt really weird. I said, Hey, I don't know what this is. I don't know if this is anything. But I kind of have these feelings. And he reciprocated he felt something. He didn't know what he also had never dated a man. And that led us on a year and a half, two year journey of exploring what that is. We are married today. We've been together for over nine years. So yeah, yeah. Yeah. Thank you.

Brandon Handley 2:59
How cool is that? How cool is that? So that's usually not my first question. But when I was reading through that, I'm like, what is what is in here? Right? So here's my first question is, hey, look, you know, we're both in the spiritual realm, we both we're both in this space where the universe talks to us, right? We're conduits for some type of energy, right? In these body shades, forms, minds, whatever the hell right? So given that, when we're when we're having a conversation, people that are tuning in listening to podcasts are tuned into something that only you can deliver, right, at this time, you know, sources delivering what message to them through you right now.

Mike Iamele 3:38
So what's the message I'm delivering? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 3:40
What's the what's the message, the sources sources pulling through right now,

Mike Iamele 3:44
you know, the message is that it's ironic because it's exactly what you're talking about, that every single one of us has a unique way, energy flows, unique sensitivities, unique purpose. And the thing is, I get really fired up about this, because the way we talk about purpose is toxic. And it really induces shame. And the reason for that is we talk about purpose, like it is achievable and aspirational. So we'll say things like, Oh, my purpose is to be a life coach. My purpose is to write a book, my purpose is to get married. And that's awesome. But here's the thing, if you can achieve it, that means you can also fail it. And that doesn't make sense, like how you fail your purpose. And more than that, if you can achieve it, it implies you didn't have it at a certain point. So did we just not have a purpose as babies like that doesn't make any sense whatsoever? Sure. And so I talk about purpose, a lot more like sensitivities. And here's the thing even as a baby before I learned one word I was sensitive to some things. Some babies are sensitive to music, and they can probably hear notes that I can't hear. Some babies are sensitive to certain colors. Some babies are sensitive to freedom. And if you're sensitive to freedom, you're probably going to feel trapped a lot more easily than I am. You're probably going to look for opportunities to feel free all the time and you're probably gonna create your best work when you do feel free, right know that sense? activity is going to start to color your entire experience of life. Every moment of your life, every trauma you have, every job you have, every relationship you have, is going to be either expressing or suppressing that to some degree. We're going exactly through that sensitivity. So we're sensitive. That's how we experience life. We see taste, touch, smell life, there are senses, right? That's what purpose is. Now, if I've got a container that can totally hold my purpose, it's like talking to my best friend. And time just flies by and genius just feels out of me. And I'm tapped into that unique thing coming through me right through my senses. Yeah. And then we have those other conversations, were kind of like, Am I saying the right thing? Am I doing the right thing, am I and we're on that level of technical. And then when we say if we're on the level of technical, we have no idea what the essence is, we're not actually tapped into essence, we're just trying to kind of mold this awkward container. But when I know I have boiling hot tea, I'm not going to put that in plastic, I'm not going to put that in a cup with a handle, I'm going to choose the right container. The second that, you know, essence, everything starts flowing. And that's why whether we're talking about relationships, whether we're talking about spirituality, trauma, healing, you've always no moment of your life has been wasted. You everything has a purpose. Obviously, the word purpose means why. But we have containers that can hold that purpose and containers that can't. And my interest in life is just knowing who we are removing any shame and then finding containers that can actually hold us.

Brandon Handley 6:29
Now. I love that, right. There's a there's a lot in there. And I think that that's a I think it's a great message. One of the one of the things that I wanted to share to what you talked about is you're going through your branding system, right, and how that can help you explore, explore your spirituality. And one of the things that I mentioned to you right before we got started here was, you know, more people reached out to me on on spiritual dope than a couple other podcasts. But what I did also nothing that I recognized and some of my other podcasts, the people that did reach out to me, my first one was fatherhood for the rest of us. And I had like this kind of weird dad snare, everybody's got a weird dad snare and always got to the you know, whatever. But like, he was like, he heroin overdose died, stuff like that, right? Like, about 30 40% of people I talked to. That's similar story, right? So you would track kind of who you are. I'm not saying, um, you. But you track like, like mines, right? So the people that are reaching out to me are also experiencing kind of what you're sharing that this your sacred branding system, right? And recognizing that marketing, isn't this the skeezy thing? Right? There can be some goodness that comes out of going through understanding what is your branding? What is right, so let's talk a little bit about your sacred branding system so that people can kind of understand it from that perspective.

Mike Iamele 7:54
Yeah. Well, let me tell you how it got started. Because it is, you know, everything looks glamorous, or retrospect. But I promise you, it is not. So, you know, I was at this moment where I was really sick, like I mentioned before, and I was kind of sort of navigating this relationship with my roommate. And I went around from healer to healer. You know, I wasn't into alternative healing at the time, but I was really desperate. And so I started going to reflexology, and Reiki and acupuncture and you know, energy healing, you name it, I was there. And one healer said to me, you know, can I pull a card for you? Okay, that's what you want to do. And she pulled a card, and she said, Oh, my God, you are going through a shamanic healing crisis. And the second that you start to realize, and change your path and find new containers, everything will change, you will magically get better, and it's gonna change your life. So I took it with a grain of salt at the time, but I bought a few books that she had mentioned. And I went on my way. And through this process of discovering, I started realizing this new spiritual part of myself. And so this is happening simultaneously. I actually owned a PR agency. So as you mentioned, I worked in public relations and health care reform. And I never thought that would be fair job. I loved that job. I mean, I liked it. I should say it was good, but it wasn't fully fully right container. But it was good enough. And so this crazy thing happened, where I lost my passport, the day before my family was going to Aruba for New Year's, we always go for New Year's, my passport disappeared. I keep it locked in a safe wasn't there. So I drove back and forth to my parents house to my house. Like I didn't sleep that night. I was just driving. They were an hour for me, and could not find my passport. They went to Aruba. The next day. I was stuck at home. And so I you know, said to my partners, listen, guys, why don't I take off next this next week? instead? I'll work this week instead of being on vacation. And then I'll go Ruby late and meet my family there. And kind of uncharacteristically, they had some issue with us. And so I thought, all right, well, I will work but I'll work from Aruba. I'm going to Aruba and they said well, we don't know if You're really serious about this company. And I was like, You know what, maybe I'm not. And so I went to Aruba. I came back, and it was like someone else was speaking for me. I just said, I'll give you a year's notice, we're gonna restructure, and I'm leaving. So now here I am sitting there and thinking, what the hell am I going to do with my life, like, I don't have a plan, you know, I can sell my shares. I have a little bit of money, but I don't have a plan. So I went to herbalism school, I went to nutrition school, I literally went to two schools full time that year, while working while taking spiritual classes, while exploring this relationship. It was the worst year of my life. But I finished it. And I thought, well, I don't know what to do. So I decided that I was going to be the health and wellness coach for the Boston entrepreneurs, because I knew them all. Why not? Like I was an herbalist. I was a health coach, I can do this. And it was okay. I wasn't making a ton of money, and I really love it. And so I started writing a blog. And this blog got decently popular. And someone REACHED OUT out of the blue and offered me a book deal. And I thought, Oh, this isn't this is my purpose. I've always meant to be a writer, I'm going to do this book deal. So I write this book, I go on a book tour. And I hope not everybody's listening to this part. I didn't love it. It wasn't great. still buy my book. It's good. But I did not like just being an author and doing the book tour things, a lot of pressure. I didn't feel supported. And so I thought, well, crap, I'm wasting my time. I'm wasting life. How do I not know my purpose? Now I've gone through the crisis. I've done all the things that every book tells me to do. I've one on every life purpose webinar, every life purpose training, I don't know my purpose. So I go back to the drawing board. And I said, All right, what am I good at? What does the world need? And I've had circled that middle ground. Oh, it is so obvious. How did I not see it? I meant to create a blogging course. But this blogging course, is just going to be a blogging course, it's going to be deep, it's going to be spiritual, it's gonna help people find their voice. And it's gonna help them get booked deals and all this great stuff, right? So I create this course. And of course, you know, you got to go pro. So I put everything into this, like, I've got the lighting kit and the nice mic, and the Facebook ads, and the web designer and the business partner and all that stuff and put it out to the world. And five people bought it. The loss was extraordinary. I mean, that was the last of my savings, I was done. So I was mortified. I knew, I guess I will ask my partners to take me back after a year, who knows what's going to happen? I still don't know my purpose, after, you know, decades of trying, but really a year just focused on that I still can't figure it out. I'm a failure. And so I decided to host a failure celebration, right? Because at least you know, maybe I can flip the script and celebrate Well, maybe something good came from this year. And I went into a Facebook group I was a part of. And I said, I'm happy to, you know, do some branding for you. And some work that I came up with way back in PR. It's a simple system we use to help CEOs kind of think about their messaging in a very concrete simple way so that they can make sales decisions and messaging and interview talking points and press releases and all this stuff. Very simple. And so I went in there, and I offered it to these people. But these weren't the, you know, tech entrepreneurs and healthcare politicians I was used to. These were life coaches, and artists and healers and all types of cool people. And every single one of them said to me, Mike, you didn't just tell me my brand. You told me my life purpose. It's like, wait, wait a minute. They're like, What are you trying to say? And so I had to go back to the drawing board and figure out what am I actually doing here? What's happening that's telling these people claiming that they know their purpose in a way that's never been articulated before. And so I did the process for myself. And I discovered six words. And these sorts of six words are aligned, zany, free, unmistakable, successful, and vulnerable. And the second I saw these words, every moment of trauma in my life starts to make sense, because I started to feel every time the opposite of those when I was protected. When I felt like a failure, these articulated better than anything, the biggest trauma of my life, I started to look at what felt good about it my PR job, but what didn't, what made sense in writing, but what didn't. And as I started to do that, simultaneously, people started asking me, what do you call this? And I said, it's branding, but I guess it's sacred, I don't know, sacred branding. laughs That word on there. They start telling their friends and I was open for business. And I never went back to PR, which I thought I would the next day never did and that was six or seven years ago. Now. I

Brandon Handley 14:29
think. That's great. That's great. And I think that, you know, look, you you just stepped into kind of like your fear, right? And and you you surrendered a little bit, right? You just you just said you know what, this is what I got. I'm having this conversation. I'm gonna have the failure party, people are gonna step up. Do you happen to be in this group, like you said, of like artists and you know, these kind of spiritual people and you're helping them find their purpose, and if I recall correctly, you're like, I didn't even know what mine was. All right. Hold on a second. Yeah, I did what? Hold on a second. Wait, I'm gonna come back. I'm watching Oh, this works because now I'm gonna work. It's like kinds of hypnosis on yourself though, right? Like, all right.

Mike Iamele 15:11
So the irony about it is like, if we look at those words successful, I was hosting a failure celebration to make success, right, I was being super vulnerable, I was aligning with my type of people, like, when we start to unpack what that means, well, da, this was gonna be a moment of success for me. And that's why I always call this you know, a reliable, predictable formula for success and fulfillment that works in any situation without fail. It doesn't just work in job because it's kind of To me, it's like shooting darts, like most of us live life where we're shooting darts in the dark, we kind of sometimes stumble upon success, and we that feels good. But even if we have something successful in our lives, we don't actually know what made us successful. So we're an artist who might say, well, was it the medium I was using? Was I feeling inspired? Did I have a lot of spaciousness that day? Or if we're an entrepreneur, we think, well, was it the image? Was it the coffee was not asked these questions? Sure. relationships, same thing. What I often think is, when we do this work, what we're doing is we're mapping our experiences, you know, to do sacred branding, we're mapping out traumas, we're mapping our highest access points, we're starting to notice a pattern and boiling that pattern down. And it's kind of like flipping on the lights, doesn't mean I'm gonna hit the bullseye every time, but I know what I'm doing. I can practice, I can say, Alright, I know I need to be vulnerable here. It's really awkward for me, but I'm gonna keep practicing what that looks like in relationship until I can hone that sensitivity.

Brandon Handley 16:32
Right. Right now. That's fair. That's fair. The one of the things that I see out there is people trying to be vulnerable, but really, they're just vomiting, like, or, you know, just just doesn't come off as genuine. So how can you be authentically vulnerable on purpose?

Mike Iamele 16:52
It's a great question. You know, I think that I think that there's a difference between maybe intentional and strategic care. I think that this, you know, I guess the bottom line is, what is the reason that we're being vulnerable? And that's what I'm really interested in, when we go down to the brand energy level, is it about connection? Is it about intimacy? Is it about, you know, feeling aligned with somebody? Is it about being seen? Is it about feeling abundance, like, there's a reason that we're doing it in the first place. And if we're not really tapped into that we're kind of deceiving ourselves, we're basically like, I want to make a lot of money. And so I'm being vulnerable to make a lot of money. But I'm not actually conscious of that I'm actually owning that the shadow. So it starts to come across as inauthentic. But I think when we really know who we are, and what kind of owning and claiming that, you know, I often say you don't have to assert what's claimed, right? If I'm asserting something, I haven't fully claimed it. So if I have to be like, Oh, I am super masculine. That's not something I've planned. Oh, I'm super vulnerable. That's not something I've claimed, right. When I've claimed it, it's just internalized, and then I kind of exude it. And I think that's what I want for every person to be able to exude the authentic flow of who you actually are. Right?

Brandon Handley 18:01
I mean, that kind of goes back to like your beginning, right, you know, how can that person find out who they truly are? Right? And then helping them to figure out how to truly express that. Is that you know, I mean, that's kind of that's kind of, that's the business that you're in? Yeah, that's

Mike Iamele 18:16
right there. you boil it down. Absolutely. Yeah. No,

Brandon Handley 18:18
I love it. You know, me. And it's funny the story that you're telling, too, because it's exactly what happened to me, right? My first podcast was like, I gotta I gotta hit these notes. I got to do these things. I want to do it for money. Like, I didn't really want to do it for money. But I was doing it for money. I was like, yeah. And then and then like, I was, like, you know, switched out did another one. And that podcast was wasn't in straight alignment with who I was right? Like this. I was like, it's almost there. I've almost gotten it, right. And then this one is like, is better? Right? This one? I'm like, I'm almost there. Again, like so again, like, and and? I'm sure, right. I mean, would you talk to kind of how the universe opens up once you find your alignment? Like, what's that look like? For you?

Mike Iamele 19:02
Yeah, absolutely. Well, I think, you know, it depends what language we're comfortable using, whether we want to call it the universe, whether we want to say we're just putting ourselves in the place of opportunities, and the right thing comes.

Brandon Handley 19:10
I think that that's great, too, right? Because I think that a big a big challenge for the people that are like, you know, the spiritual ilk, or are super artsy, they're not going to be as comfortable with the business language, right? And that's, and that's why they're open to this other. Let's open up to the universe. Let's have a vision board, let's, let's do these things because they are these are goals, these are planning, these are all those other things, but it's in a language that they their brain, and their subconscious will not filter out, like, oh, we're gonna do it like this. That's great, man. My energy is in alignment. Let's do it. Right. Whereas like, if you're like, let's let's come up with a plan. I'm not much of a planner. I don't I don't write hate plans.

Mike Iamele 19:56
Well, I think the thing is, you know, we all have our own Attachment towards our own language, our own connotation. And that's why as much as I think things like, you know, MBTI or enneagram, with these systems are really awesome. I'm a big fan of, you know, speaking to our purpose in our own language through how we associate with words. And that's why you know, I don't really care. I tell people, if your words of Sally Bob and Jim awesome, if that means something to you, you go for it. And so my job is just to help them map how they use language and begin to boil that down to overarching themes. And it's a really cool process. So we can

Brandon Handley 20:32
do. I do I do. Okay,

Mike Iamele 20:37
so, do you want to be a guinea pig? Or do you just want me to speak to your guinea pig. So this is gonna be my super super, like, dumbed down shoddy way of doing it. But if anyone wants to reveal a little bit more real, you can just go to Mike iaconelli.com slash map, it's free. It's 36 minutes, and you're gonna get a worksheet. So it's super cool. But let's play now for 10 minutes. Okay, so Brandon, can you take a moment to close your eyes, and I want you to think about three jobs that you have had in your life. So just three jobs could be anything, it could be back in high school, you were, you know, a cashier, it could be a current job, it could be podcasting, just anything that you want. And when you get your mind in those three jobs, I want you to pick one of them and tell me what it is.

Brandon Handley 21:32
So, you know, once upon a time like that to my laptop, my eyes are not to show.

Unknown Speaker 21:37
Yeah, I know what's happening.

Brandon Handley 21:40
You know, so once upon a time, I mean, this is going back 20 years, like I used to do two bunches like the raves right the nighttime parties, but like I do the promoting for them, right? Or like help hosts are like pull, pull, pull, pull the gathers together, right? I mean, so awesome. So you know, getting people together and and seeing them having a great night. I mean, that that was it. Right?

Mike Iamele 22:01
So you're already getting ahead of the game. You're so good here. So I want you to tell me, what are three things that you either made people feel or you gave to people? And so my example is you might make people like you said feel happy or fun or connected, or safe? Or maybe you made them feel like energized and manic. Like what were three things? Yeah, look, I

Brandon Handley 22:21
mean, people feel a you know, look, if you're going if you're if you're on just as parties, like you get like, that's an experience, right? One time experience, probably never gonna happen again. And it's a life experience.

Mike Iamele 22:34
All right. experiential. We've got that 100%

Brandon Handley 22:38
straight bliss, man, right, dancing out dancing all night long. Right. You know, they stop dropping, I don't know, whatever spelling.

Mike Iamele 22:46
So it's experiential. It's bliss. Is there anything else that you wanted to make people feel? I

Brandon Handley 22:50
mean, is active, right? It's engagement.

Mike Iamele 22:52
Perfect. Perfect. This is great. So now pick a second job. And I want you to tell me a little bit about that job and then do the same thing.

Brandon Handley 23:00
The podcasting, right podcasting, the connections, like you can't, it opens so many doors, right? Like, I mean, it's a straight up opens. Like I can call I can talk to anybody, right? If there's, I literally just interviewed one of my favorite authors a week or so ago. Sreekumar Rao, right? I have a podcast, would you like to be on it? Right? This is my space. This is what I do. And I think you'd be a great fit, right? I mean, so connections and then being able to connect, like you to the audience, right. So So Mike, I'm always on I'm like, I don't just like Mike, you're gonna like Mike and here's why and, and just listen to him. Like, I don't have to tell you, you're gonna be able to decide for yourself. Right? So sharing those connections. And what's left, I mean, it's just, it's just fun. Because you get to you get to this, this is an amplifier. Right? The microphone is an amplifier, I get to share my message with the entire world. And if anybody is any, like stratosphere, right? This is like radio waves. It goes all awake, universal man. So communicating my story to everybody that

Mike Iamele 24:09
I love that got universal. It's amplifying. It's fun. It's connecting. Awesome. Got some great language. All right, one more. So the last job Tell me about it and tell me three things that you wanted people to feel from it. And,

Brandon Handley 24:25
I mean, I think bartending was probably just so much fun. And again, like it's just always about other people connecting with other people being mean that kind of, I guess, you know, and even in like with the podcast, kind of being that that hub, right, that that that kind of generates all that energy to make it all happen.

Mike Iamele 24:46
Mm hmm. I love that. I love that. Okay, we've got some good good mapping going on already. But now I want you to take a moment Brandon and close your eyes again. And I want you to think of a really challenging moment. It could be frustrating. It could be And successful, it could even be traumatic, although we don't want to go into any trauma that feels traumatic to think about right now. But anything that feels like this was a really tough moment in my life. And I want you, you don't have to tell me what it is, if you don't want that, I want you to tell me three things you felt in that moment.

Brandon Handley 25:18
So I think I think I've talked about it before, but like, there was a point when I was doing like my fatherhood for the rest of this podcast. And then I got offered an amazing job, right, like a great salary. And I was like, Well, I have to stop focusing so much on this father for the rest of us thing, right, not attached my identity that that I and I realized I was like, Oh, my God, I attached my identity that same time realize that I was willing to kind of throw that away for a bunch of money. So I was kind of battling that. Right. So that was it. That was conflicted. Right. And, and it kind of, it tore me apart in a way that I wasn't expecting, you know. At the same time, it also made me realize how much I attached my identity to what it is that I do.

Mike Iamele 26:04
Yeah, that's, thank you for saying I'm gonna try to remember that because it's something really beautiful. We'll talk about right after this process. But um, so what do you what did you feel? I know you say conflicted, but what do I mean? Did you feel like you were like, disgusted at yourself or wanting the money? Did you feel angry? Did you feel frustrated? Did you feel blocked or trapped? Like, give me a little bit longer? Yeah,

Brandon Handley 26:25
I mean, I could probably go with like a little bit of of trapped or locked, right? I mean, look, I'm, I'm a family man, when you're looking for, you know, make given stability to children and my wife and, you know, trying to give them that life. Give them you know, the the white picket fence and all this stuff, right. We've been trained very well for this

Mike Iamele 26:43
shot. Yeah, absolutely.

Brandon Handley 26:45
Yeah. So I mean, that's definitely it was, I think, traps kind of a harsh word. But I definitely felt like you know, I had to do that thing, because that's what was expected. Right.

Mike Iamele 26:56
So we're better word be obligated. obligated. Good. Okay, that's good. Okay, cool. So what, then if you felt conflicted, you felt obligated? What would you have wanted to feel ideal world if you could just magically have the perfect situation? What would you have wanted to feel in that situation? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 27:12
I mean, it should be easy, right? ease is what you know, ease, there should be no tension if you're doing the thing that you're in alignment in life.

Mike Iamele 27:21
Right. Right. So just flow II happening, okay. And maybe agency rights, not obligation, you're choosing it, you're just kind of Right, right. I

Brandon Handley 27:30
mean, I'm taking, you know, look like if you just take money out of the whole thing, like in this situation, like, Can you just go do what you want without money? Right, then then it's easier, right? Like, like, maybe

Mike Iamele 27:41
you're passionate, right? Because you know what?

Brandon Handley 27:45
I'm a 5050 on the word passion. Okay. I don't like to flame out on something, right? Because, like you like, you know, what is it? Is it better? What is it better to burn out? Definitely anyways, man, I don't want to I don't want to use it. I don't. And it's a trigger word, obviously, for me, right? You know, being passionate about something because I want I want to follow it through again, with ease, like, You figure if you're passionate about something, it's burning, all that energy is burning up quickly. Right. And, and it has the opportunity to dissipate, but at the same time, it could you know, be the igniter of the fire. But that's where I'm at with that.

Mike Iamele 28:21
I'm just gonna call it one thing. So I think it's really interesting here. First of all, you know, anytime we have a triggering word, it's where we have energy, right? So it doesn't mean that this is a word that we're interested in using. But what it means that there's something in this concept that feels interesting. And I think what's really fascinating for me, is we've talked about a lot of words, the very igniting very, very before we talked about amplifying and energizing for sure, excited, but we want something sustainable. So we just learned, okay for you. It's got to be a sustainable version of that. That's great, because all we're doing is mapping how your mind works right now. Right? All right. Now, last thing, close your eyes one more time. And I want you to think of the happiest day of your life, or one of the happiest moments that comes up. And I want you You can tell me about if you want, but I want you to tell me three things you felt in that moment.

Brandon Handley 29:09
So I mean, I have to say it was probably when my first son was born. Right? Um, man is just, there's just nothing. Nothing really compares to that. Right. I'm one of those reasons is, is you know, I never thought I was going to be a dad, right? I didn't have like a good dad experience. And so for this opportunity to just kind of present itself. I was like, this is awesome, right? I get to be a dad. I was like, I'm not gonna suck at this. Like, that was like the one thing I knew I wasn't gonna suck at. Right. So I was happy to take that on and to, you know, be able to have that role in my life, you know?

Mike Iamele 29:48
So, you know, and that's beautiful. Thank you for sharing that. So I know you felt you know, happy. What else would you say? What did you feel in that moment?

Brandon Handley 29:57
I mean, touched right. Like that's like, you know, we It's probably you know, if I, if I'm looking back, you know, connecting the dots backwards, I'm sure that I've been touched by source like several times, but like it was one of those recognizable times you just like literally feel blessed. Right? And I'm not I'm not I'm not a Jesus guy. I'm not a god and by but like, you know, you feel blessed you feel touched in that moment. So that,

Mike Iamele 30:23
yes, beautiful, and I'm getting the sense that you can correct me from your I'm wrong here. But that there's a sense of alignment. Like it almost feels like this was meant to be or kinda Yeah,

Brandon Handley 30:32
look, I mean, it's just there's no other way, right? I've got a friend of mine who's up in Boston as well, you guys just should connect. He gave me the acronym Tina, right? There is no alternative.

Mike Iamele 30:43
Yeah. Oh, this is beautiful. All right. All right. So you're I only picked these moments because these are emotionally charged. And we're gonna get you know, squeezed the most juice out of the emotionally charged moments. For everybody listening, you know, if you go check out that webinar, Mike on mlb.com slash map, it's a little bit more in depth, but I'm trying to keep it brief for everyone here. So one thing we've seen is we've seen a huge theme across your life of this feeling, you know, wanting to make people want yourself feeling energized in the flow, a sense of ease, you know, a sense of being touched or blessed by things, connecting and Amplifying Voices, whether you're, you know, club promoting, you're amplifying a message or energize people amplifying the voices. When you're doing that with podcasting, for sure you're doing that, you know, I'm sure that these are, you know, lessons that you want to send your kids or your child, so you know, helping to energize them helping to amplify their voice making them feel they have a strong voice, and they matter. These are themes that I've gone through your life, I'm gonna guess that if you look back to some of those traumatic moments of your life, you might feel there were points where you didn't feel like your voice could be spread out far and wide, or you didn't feel energized,

Brandon Handley 31:51
suppressed, for sure,

Mike Iamele 31:53
exactly. And so we're gonna see those shadows, the exact opposite to what we talked about, they're gonna start to, you know, to articulate some of the darkest moments of your life. And now we can start, let's say, all right, and I have with my best friends, yeah, I feel this. I feel like my voice matters. I can speak up, I feel energized, I feel excited this ease this flow. When I talk to these, you know, really awkward people and people I don't really like I don't feel those things. It's

Brandon Handley 32:15
like a blanket, right? I mean.

Mike Iamele 32:18
So what we're doing here is we're just mapping your sensitivities, we're understanding and you can go back and use this work for past trauma. You can use it for healing, you can use it for business building, because now we know all right, you do really well, when you have guests on who are energizing and exciting and alive. You love connecting with people, you love Amplifying Voices of people who matter to you. So you need to make sure that you've got guests on that you really believe in their mission, and you're excited about it, and they want to help amplify your podcast too. And now all of a sudden, start changing the business decisions you make and how you show up. And you asked me before you know about vulnerability and authenticity. For me, if I mean for you, it's really going to be about showing up with energy and that voice and giving the message because that's what you do when you're most authentic. And I just think I mean, this is my shoddy way of doing it with you today. But I think it's so beautiful when we know that because again, it's like we turn on the lights. And now we can practice hitting that Bullseye doesn't mean we're gonna hit every time, right? We know how now,

Brandon Handley 33:13
right? So now that was awesome, man, I really enjoyed I enjoyed that. And and you know, that practice would be built into your branding, right? So a lot of a lot of times I think that people will be like, Hey, I don't I don't know, my art type is right. Or I don't know what my you know, I don't know what my niches I don't know, I hate the word niche. I don't do niches right. Like and so, or, you know, you know, I don't want what's the you know, avatars are dumb man, you know, so. So, this this practice sounds like it, it kind of can substitute for some of those marketing pieces, right? Or branding pieces without robbing the the non marketer guy or girl wrong, right?

Mike Iamele 33:57
Absolutely. Well, I think one thing you said that was really interesting is you talked about how so much of your identity was in what you did. And then podcasting and it's really hard to let go of. And I don't think that that is abnormal. You know, a lot of us we do one of two things, the big containers in our lives, our relationships, or jobs, right? Those are the two containers where we're talking about life purpose, we're probably talking about one of those two things. And the thing is, those are just containers for those energies to flow that we just talked about. So is your healing. So is your morning routine. So is the way you get dressed. So is the way you decorate your house. So is the way you do yard work, or your friendships like these are all just different containers. And when we are so attached to a container, it means we don't really know what the essence is, because we don't think we can get that same essence somewhere else, right? When we know that essence. It's like, oh, that job went away. Now how can I make my new job? You know, be connecting and energizing and amplifying all these things? And then we're going to start to look at like, Alright, where am I gonna fight for my voice in this job? Where am I gonna win? What am I not willing? To settle on, and what am I willing to settle on? And that's really important to me. Because when it comes to marketing, you know, a lot of people think it's something really different and hard and complex. And the truth is, it's just another container. I had no plan for this conversation. And you know, sure one of my energies is vulnerable. So I show up and I share whatever it feels called. And I'm zany, and I'm loud. And I like to be crazy and play a little bit. And that is part of how my energy flows. I don't know, what do you call this marketing right now? Maybe, maybe not. But it's just me being myself. Sure. So is working with people and so is, you know, getting to teach live and hanging out with my husband and the way I dress? Right? Well, I mean,

Brandon Handley 35:40
not for nothing, right? Like, so I mean, what's your, your, your, your kind of like zona genius, or, you know, whatever you want to call it is, is, is being able to help somebody get clarity on themselves? Right.

Unknown Speaker 35:50
Yeah.

Brandon Handley 35:52
Right. Right. Right. And that's a real challenge. I think that for an individual to go through I think, I think, and this has been my experience, right? I think it's a real challenge for a lot of people who would like to get into podcasts and YouTube and whatever, you know, the the, is there a name for like, what's happening like now like, in in the kind of industry, it's not like just social marketing, but maybe it is right. But the deal is to try and run at it alone can be very frustrating, and especially when they see how easy it is for Mike. Right.

Mike Iamele 36:27
Thank you for saying that. Because I love to, you know, share all my vulnerabilities. Believe me, everything I said earlier, looks graceful in retrospect, it's not it's never retro, you know, graceful in the moment. And I think the thing is, you know, we do this work, because this system can run independently of me, like, you can go check out that webinar, you can go, you know, sign up for our course, later on, like, eight works, because everybody thinks they're all over the place. Everybody thinks, oh, Mike, but my jobs they don't even make sense. They're not remotely similar. You don't know. I can tell you that's true of me. Right? I work in health care form. And then I'm, you know, this herbalist, and then I'm like the spiritual teacher, I don't know what the heck I was doing. But you know what, it all boils down to connecting dots. Here's the thing. I literally align vulnerabilities and people's zaniness and idiosyncrasies to help to free them from the stories and make them successful and understand that unmistakable ality that my energies told me that they told me what I do, and everyone else's do your lived experience has the blueprint for success, the blueprint for fulfillment, because you have been successful somewhere in life. Yes, that's all Yeah, we can map Why then we start to understand your formula. That's not something exclusive to me. I know people listen, I said, screw you, guy. Like you don't know what I've been through. That's not I can promise you that because I thought I was the most fucked up of all.

Brandon Handley 37:47
Well, and I think that you bring up a good point there too, once you kind of understand the pattern, right? Once you once you understand how you can connect one or two dots, like you can connect the third. Yeah, fourth, or fifth, right? So going through the work, right, what would you say that means to you?

Mike Iamele 38:09
It's a bold question. So you know, the work can mean many things. So if we're talking specifically about sacred branding, which for me, it's all the same, like the work spiritual work for me is safer branding, because it went about the person going through it like, like, so if somebody's going through sacred branding with you, and they have to do the work.

Brandon Handley 38:27
Right. What does that mean? So

Mike Iamele 38:29
it means, you know, basically committing to your energies, here's the thing that will happen. Inevitably, almost every person who's done my work, will after a year or two years, say, oh, Mike, I went through a monumental shift in my life, I got to redo it, my energies are wrong, I got to redo it. And what's happening there is not that their energy is wrong, because anyone we've done this with wife, kids, anyone over the age of 13, their vocabulary and their conceptualization of language isn't changing enough for their energies to change. What's happening is their understanding of those energies is changing. And so what it's asking for is intimacy. intimacy is when we commit to something and we learn more about it, it's a lot easier to just run away and try to change say, this is

Brandon Handley 39:11
one more time and intimacy is what

Mike Iamele 39:13
Yeah, when we commit to something and learn more about it and ourselves and when we're deepening right? If we commit to a relationship, a relationship is gonna challenge us of course, we have to learn about ourselves, we have to learn about our partner through that relationship. But if we every time we get challenged, run away, that's not intimacy. That's not commitment. So what doing the work is is actually committing saying, alright, what can this interview this moment right now teach me about aligned, zany, free, unmistakable every fight I have every you know, challenge my life is to ask myself, what can I learn right now about success? What don't I know about it? And it starts teaching me more about myself. And then we start doing deconditioning because here's the thing we've got a lot of toxic conditioning in our society, both some we've talked about on this podcast, but also some we haven't. And that's not a That's not something we're born with. We were born was

Brandon Handley 40:02
like, What? Yeah, what's one or two?

Mike Iamele 40:04
I'm talking about misogyny and racism and homophobia. I'm talking about, you know, beliefs about making money and spirituality. I mean, there's a lot of conditioning out there. And so when we we weren't born with that we were born sensitivities. So we weren't born with conditioning.

Brandon Handley 40:19
What's the deconditioning? Well,

Mike Iamele 40:20
what I'm saying is that if we to know what we aren't, we have to know what we are. And when we know those brand answers, I used to ask myself, what about this moment isn't actually vulnerable or unmistakable? What's wrong here? What do I believe that's not actually that, and when I can anchor it to something, I can pull out what isn't that it starts I mean, we do this at the higher levels of the work, but it starts to become a lot easier to say, Hey, you know what, I'm ready to let go of that belief. Because actually, I can see my truth, and I can feel it. And you know, I it's a sensitivity so I can literally feel it in my body, it's not just a thought I have in my mind, it's something that I can feel and you know, at higher levels, we start thinking about, okay, let me feel what successful feels like my body. Now, let me feel unsuccessful. And so when I walk into a room, and my stomach tightens, immediately, I know I feel unsuccessful, I'm gonna say no to that opportunity, it starts becoming intuitive because your body, it's your senses, right? Your taste, touch smell, it can tell you these things, your thoughts, your conditioning can't do that, because it's not really who you are. So the more we start tuning into who we are, we can actually trust our intuition more, we can trust our bodies more. And that's why we get better at hitting that bull's eye, right? Because now we know the opportunities that will lead us to success, you know, the flow with the universe. And, you know,

Brandon Handley 41:32
you tell me, tell me about tuning into your intuition, right? And how, how do you begin to trust that intuition, right? It's funny, because guys, anybody's listening to podcast knows that. Nine times out of 10, I'll jack up a name. and nine times out of 10. I know, I should have asked before we got going. And what's funny is that, before we got going on the podcast, they like followed his intuition. You know, also something that maybe it not only you know, is has he had the experience of people butchering his last name, but he knew, connected like an intuition to me and said, Hey, do you need to know how to pronounce my last name? Sure. Right. So how do you, you know, how, how do you begin to trust your intuition? And not just in a negative sense, right? Because a lot of people are like, Oh, I shouldn't do this. And and they follow that to a fucking tee, right? Like, like, Oh, I shouldn't? If it's a no, I'll follow that. Sure. But how do we encourage people to follow their yeses?

Mike Iamele 42:34
You know, I think it's the same thing we talked about with intimacy before and commitment. It's really about saying like, Okay, first of all, if my energy is vulnerable, I know that when I am in safe, vulnerable space, I'm going to be more intuitive. I know that when I speak a lot, like I do a lot of processing, just speaking out loud. It's why I can't shut up, you're probably like, Mike Shut up. I can't because that's when things start flowing. For me, I know that I know, vulnerable. So what will I do to do that? Well, sometimes I'll close my eyes when I want to be intuitive to be more vulnerable. And what starts to happen over time is, the more I do it, and for me, it's got to be in safe space with people I can be vulnerable with, I practice being intuitive for a long, long time with people I trust to like it. So I internalized that vulnerability. Because at first, we think it's outside of us, right, we've got to be in the perfect vulnerable condition. And we've got to be in the perfect zany, you know, where people can be playful. But over time, we internalize that sensitivity. And now I don't care who's around me, I don't care if you think I'm fucking crazy, I'm gonna be vulnerable, I'm gonna be who I am. And trust my intuition. And so I think, for me, it really starts with knowing again, I mean, I am obsessed with the brand energies, I'm obsessed with my work because it's knowing who we are. And then it's just tuning into that and practicing, it's throwing at that bull's eye over and over and over again, until we know we can hit it. But we can't practice if we don't turn on the lights. So we need to connect those dots.

Brandon Handley 43:57
Awesome. So you're, you're you're lined up with your purpose, you're fully charged. Can your purpose change?

Mike Iamele 44:04
So great question. I love you throw the good ones at me. So your containers can absolutely change. And they do change containers, the temporary relationships and your physical body changes your desire for sex changes, your, you know, your home changes, your job changes all these things. But what you want from that, and what you give to that doesn't change, because that's your senses that you've had since you were born. So I teach classes on your sex intimacy all the time. And people always say this while my body's changing my desires changing all the time. But sex that's just about getting off. isn't all that interesting, in my opinion, like, sure it can sustain us for a little while. It's not interesting. We always want something specific from sex. It's to us, we might want a space of vulnerability, a space where we can be playful and explore our deepest fantasies, a space where we can explore submission or dominance or whatever. That's what we actually want and would probably want to explore that over time. Now, the definition of what that looks like is going to dange vulnerable sex to me today very different than it's going to be in 50 years. I understand that. But I still know when I'm actually looking for. And so I don't have to be so attached to the container like you before with Oh, the podcast is the only way I can say that. Yeah, exactly. We let that go. And now we just have the essence. You know, you

Brandon Handley 45:19
bring up a good one, too. In the sex energy piece, I actually had somebody reach out and ask about, you know, why, you know why I might think that, you know, nuns, priests monks, abstain, right? Or even how does sexuality play out in spirituality? Right, is spirituality like? And the question was, was it is, are they missing it? Right, maybe, like, maybe they missed, like, just how the connected in spirituality was. But I think that kind of what I'm hearing you say a little bit too is like, if we just follow our basic needs, like the running as it were, right? That's not so spiritual. Whereas you can explore these vulnerabilities and make that into a spiritual, evolving experience.

Mike Iamele 46:07
Well, I think what we're talking about here is empty containers, right, we have a bunch of them in our life, so we can buy beautiful art, or we can shop at home goods, I'm not shaming anything about that. But the Home Goods piece isn't gonna make me feel something as deeply as an artist putting their intention in because it's full of assets. And so we've got a lot of, you know, like, sex feels good. Most people like sex, but it's not going to nourish us deeply if it's not full of essence. So it's just kind of like, Alright, this is a biological need, I get off, this feels good. And I move on. And now I didn't have that deeper transformation. I didn't work through my shame or trauma, I didn't feel this great, you know, divinity or connection with God, I just thought, that's cool, but it's empty. And over time, it's slowly killing us. Like we live in a world right now, where we are not sensitive enough, we're not we're numbing out, right, we have an opioid epidemic going on right now. Um, you know, there's a lot of whether we are coping through this pandemic, with, you know, food, or drugs, or alcohol, or movies or TV. And those coping mechanisms aren't inherently bad in themselves, but they can be ways of escapism, and this association, right, for sure. And what I always say is, look at art, great art, when an artist puts their heart and soul on it, it moves us, he can make paintings dance, and spark cultural revolutions and political movements and make words jump off the page. It makes us feel alive, it makes us feel more sensitive. When we feel essence, when we feel someone so tapped into their essence, we become more sensitive, not to them, but to our own essence, because that's what we grow up that

Brandon Handley 47:38
no, yeah. And you know, that that also brings up the whole idea of, you know, look, our energy fields, right, raising our BB around people that are, you know, high vibe, right? Where is is as long as you and I are like connected in the same way, a kind of vibratory field if I'm vibe and higher, and I'm, you know, strong with that, like, I can help bring you up, right, and vice versa, or transfer transfer feeling without like, craziness.

Mike Iamele 48:04
I mean, it's basically our vibe is naturally high when we're fully here and fully ourselves. And so yes,

Brandon Handley 48:10
it's part like the essence part. I know you said essence like several times, would you would you? Would you? Would you liken that to connected to source

Mike Iamele 48:18
Sure. Exactly. Connected to source, lifeforce energy, and we know what sexual energy if we're talking about sex, any of these things, essence brand energies, you know, life purpose, whatever you want to call it. I'm not a stickler on language. And I've purposely used a few different language in this talk, because I don't really care. Like I your brand energies are your own language, you choose that yourself, it's what resonates for you. But when we are fully in our bodies, and we aren't, you know, a lot of times we have trauma, so half of me is back in this past memory, and half of me is over here and half, you know, it's like a Harry Potter Horcrux. Right, we're split in a million different ways. But if I'm fully fully present, I've a lot more power here. And so I want to fully be present and sense the world see, taste, touch, hear smell more of the world. And the more I'm tapped into lines and zany and frayed, that's how I do that. And that's how I do it for other people. That's why I love podcasts, because we just get to hang out and activate people make people more sensitive to themselves and it's so much fun. And so yeah,

Brandon Handley 49:17
percent i think that's you know, that's, that's, uh, you know, what they, you know, I don't know how many episodes it took me to get to activate somebody right? Like that's what this that's what it's for. Right? That's exactly that's what 100% it's like, you know, looking for one person out there This podcast is for one person to be activated. Right and so like that's what you just did you just you know, self when you activate it somebody out there congratulations. Yeah.

Mike Iamele 49:40
And yours while they

Brandon Handley 49:43
love it. I love it. Well, man, look, look anybody. I think you got a great feel for what it is that you kind of deliver even though you know you kept saying shoddy. I think that you know it was very well done. had a lot of fun with having you on here and they would be Recognize that if they should reach out to you that they should, right? And where should they go again? Like,

Mike Iamele 50:07
yeah, so Mike iml.com slash map ma p for mapping your sensitivities, and it's 36 minutes, you get a whole training, you get a worksheet, it's free. Go ahead and do that, because you'll start to know your sensitivities.

Brandon Handley 50:19
Who's your ideal customer?

Mike Iamele 50:21
Oh, gosh, so many. I mean, people use this word for so many freaking things. But I really love people who haven't felt at home and other spiritual practices, you know, it feels very dogmatic. It feels like they've had to internalize a lot of stuff that doesn't match up to critical thinking. And I, you know, we're intelligent beings, like, it doesn't make sense to talk about purpose as achievable, even though we're told that like, Oh, your life purpose is to be a life coach, or we say that this pisses me off, you join a life purpose webinar, right? And they do one or two things, they'll say, at the very end, your life purpose is to love. Great, awesome, I'm all about love. How does that help me with my trauma with my relationship with my business in my marketing, that doesn't help at all, we'll go the other way. And they'll say you love writing your purpose is to be a writer. And again, like you if I internalize that, and I did for a while, well, now when I give up my writing job, I feel I have no purpose.

Brandon Handley 51:13
You want somebody to detach from your sense of a day,

Mike Iamele 51:16
right? We see that with people who go through a divorce or get laid off or lose a job or change jobs. You know, we see this breakup all the time, these problems with mostly its job or its relationship containers, when they break down, we lose our sense of purpose. And that doesn't make sense. So I really like people who actually want to take some critical thinking and say, wait a minute, let me think about this. Let make sense to me. And then feel right to me in my own language. Hmm.

Unknown Speaker 51:41
Nice.

Brandon Handley 51:42
I love it. Well, man, Mike, thank you so much for coming on and being a guest on spiritual dope today. Yeah, thanks

Mike Iamele 51:47
such an honor.

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ARE YOU READY TO SUCCEED | CHAPTER 06 | DEEP DIVE 2 of 2

Published: Jan. 13, 2021, 2:07 p.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 49 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
All right, spiritual dope, what is going on today? Today we are on chapter six. Are you ready to succeed? By Sreekumar? Rao? Again, just just just a great book. We're on chapter six. This is which addresses this is I'm sorry about that.

Unknown Speaker 0:23
We,

Brandon Handley 0:24
you live in a me centered universe, right? You live in a me centered universe. And we are on part two. And I believe we ended at the end of where we ended up, we ended. There we go, we ended up surrender to the universe last time, right. So

Unknown Speaker 0:49
what we've got here are,

Brandon Handley 0:51
we had an exercise, but here's a couple helpful Hansen. A big part of it. Maybe I said it last time, maybe I didn't, I don't recall. But you know, it bears repeating. It's a consider in when you're surrendering to the universe, and you're working with everybody. And when you go forward with your intention, consider an idea that there's a there's a resolution where all parts are better off, everybody is better off. Right. And it may not be readily visible. One of the things that I studied over the past couple years is just negotiation. And there's the the idea of pizza. And there's two people that that want a pizza, there's 100% of a pizza, right? But how about the idea that maybe this is a mushroom pizza, and maybe one person loves mushrooms but hates the crust? And the other person only likes

Unknown Speaker 1:46
crust?

Brandon Handley 1:48
So what do you do, we give one person 100% of what they like off of that pizza, right, they get, they get the crust, and the other person gets the entire pizza with, with the mushrooms, right? So you get 200% out of that pizza, then you get 200% of that pizza. And, and both people get 100% of what they like. So there's opportunity all over the place out there for everybody to get all of what they want. The problem is, is most people don't take that extra effort to kind of dig into it and figure out what that extra could be for the other person or what is that 100% for the other person. So as we move on, right, so that was a helpful hint for for that as we move on. We go into the idea that his surrender is not a passive experience. There is not passive acceptance, right? You're not gonna just accept injustice as it comes along. And and, you know, look, there may be times where you stand up, and you stand up for the injustice, maybe you see some injustice at work. And, you know, maybe you rally the troops, and you go to stand up for that injustice, but it doesn't work out as a matter of fact, for some reason, somehow, you end up getting punished for this adult, the idea is like don't don't get, you know, all sad and mopey. And, you know, dejected. Take a look at what you did. Think about what you did well, in that you stood up for injustice, right? You rally the troops, maybe maybe it was the actions in particular that they went awry. Or maybe it was the overall approach. Maybe it was the actual group of people. So maybe next time you re approach it with a different tactic or a different strategy and maybe maybe a different maybe a different set of people. So the other thing is, are you in this is it when you set out to do something that doesn't work in your favor? Do you need to you need to try and figure out how you can simply let it go with out the emotional baggage. All right, I know that we talked a little bit about just you don't want to be sad, morose, you don't want to, you know kind of be attached to that thing. And then, you know, the negative emotions when you can let go of those negative emotions. It's literally like a force multiplier. Imagine how much weight would be lifted off of your chest. If you if you could just let go of the negativity, right, you've got to deal with it. nobody's saying you don't have negative emotions. It's not letting them drag you down and get all mired up in it. So the sooner you can let go of those and and move forward right in a positive manner and positivity meaning forward motion forward momentum, not simply like, oh, everything's all fucking rosy and cheery. It's a move forward. Right. And at some point, at some point, it's gonna feel like the universe is actually working with you is actually dancing with you. It's such a it's a kind of a Beautiful Thing when it happens. And when it happens, this goes back to the chapter on miracles and being able to recognize that you are working in tandem with the universe to create these miracles. That's a beautiful dance scenario. And listen, this may take years, it's going to take years, I don't know, most most people, it's going to take years, it's going to take time to get better and better and better at it, and perhaps even decades deal is you got to persist, you got to keep up on it. And you cannot fail, right? If this is your approach, if you're letting go of negative emotions, if you're working towards the greater good for everybody, then you really can't, you can't fail. So it gives an exercise of the other sensitive universe. So you're going to pick one, you're gonna pick one week, we picked to one hour time slots, where whatever it is that you do, you were doing for the sole benefit of others involved, right, you're going to listen actively. And what that means is you're going to listen, to listen, not to respond. Another way of active listening is, and this is I forget the name of the book, motivational interviewing, really great book that was created for

addictions. And people in rehab, however, is very useful in coaching. And anywhere really, you teaches you how to actively listen very well. So you'll listen to somebody, they'll talk, maybe you'll ask him a couple questions. And it's a little It is like he Miller's the author. So one of the things that he recommends, and this is listen for for two lines, and then you'll kind of reflect back to them. Right? Listen, question, question, reflect back actively, you know, what you just heard summarize it. And there's different ways to do that. So, but while you're doing that, too, you will think of ways that you can be of service to them? How can you help this person move forward, again, you know, positive momentum, or, you know, deal with their situation, or just, maybe you're just there to listen, and that's okay, too. So you're going to practice, you can practice this with strangers anonymously, right? You don't have to tell somebody that you're doing this and you can you can you think of ways that you can be service to them, and you just go do it. And what you want to do is you want to take me my an eye out of the picture while you're listening. So, you know, especially those variables, and then don't just go give everything away, right, don't just let it all go. Given this comes from Buddhism, and you give with wisdom, right, you know, give with wisdom give with, like, where you you feel like, it's going to have the most impact and, and that's one way to kind of approach that as well. Be creative, there's so many ways that you can go out there and you know, help make somebody's day or help this, you know, person out and in a one hour time slot. And so ideally each day, you know, so you're going to do that, right. And then there's other pieces, so each day, deliberately and consciously do more than one thing to make the world a little bit better. One of the ways that that I found are a couple of ways, especially given our social media nature is hey, you know, go out there and given give out some LinkedIn recommendations, right? Maybe you've got a friend that's written a book, go leave Amazon book review. Maybe you have a friend who's got an Etsy shop, share their shop, buy something from them. Maybe again, that's the you know, same for people that have written a book, a friend of yours writes a book, don't ask for them to give you a copy, buy a copy, support them. That's what support is support isn't reading it for free. It's going out there and you know, how can you support that person and give them some encouragement to help move them forward? I'll be practical and empathize. Your attitude I've got here in parentheses is is actually your approach. So attitude is actually your approach. It is super important to not expect gratitude from others for what you've done, rather be grateful that they have allowed you to serve them. Right be grateful they've accepted your gifts. You know, essentially with the universe moving through you creative source moving through you has given you the capacity to gift to that person. So you're able to serve and that is a gift right that they're they're giving you a gift by by allowing you to serve each day make someone's day is another piece of this. Hi, again, I go back to the LinkedIn recommendation somebody on Facebook, so on Insta share their share their post, make a comment You know, show them that they're not alone and whatever it is that they're going for and doing. That's these are super simple ways that you can help make someone's day friend alien that I'm doing this with, you know, she writes, she writes a newsletter, maybe you get somebody newsletter reply back to the newsletter, and and say, Hey, I really appreciate you know what you wrote here today, thanks for sharing. And oh, I didn't see it. From my perspective, just a little bit of there are so many I know, there's so many newsletters out there and so many materials out there. But some of these are genuine and written from the heart and not strictly written to get you into their program. Right. Some of these are true, true things. So what do we got here? That's one way you can make someone's day, eventually, you know, this practice becomes a part of your life. It's not just, it's not just Hey, I did this for the one week. Now, how many of these can string together? Like with meditation with exercise? How many of these great moments Can you string together in your life? Where it's consistent, and it's a steady flow of the universe giving through you to how cool is that, right?

So the idea, though, is that this is true of all the practices in this book. This isn't just for the duration of going through this book or doing these exercises. It's for the rest of your life, right? I mean, it says, you know, appearance isn't something that's going to happen in days or weeks. Now, that being said, you will notice, like almost immediately the benefits, but imagine, you know, just how great the benefits are in such a short period of time. Right? Well, those benefits be over time. However, there's benefits pay over time. So it's common for this is under helpful hands. As we finish up the exercise of the other centered universe, it is common for others to feel dejected, if they do not get the response that they're looking for. Now, listen, if this happens to you stop, stop at. Focus on how you are feeling. When you do what you set out to do. Focus on how you're feeling when you are giving or when you are in the process of doing it. Not so much the outcome. Obviously, you want to give the gift you want to serve in some capacity and manner. It's while you are doing that, that you feel great. And oftentimes, you know, if somebody does react positively, you're great. And you know, that's a good feeling. But if if they aren't responding the way that you feel like they should just stop it, relax, chill. Let's step back a second focus on what it is that you set out to do. What was your intention when you got out there to go do it and eventually, you will find joy in what you do, and not the results that you get. I think that that bears repeating, you will find joy in what you do, not the results that you get. So there's always some way to make someone's day Don't be lazy, figure it out. And then finally, you know, keep a journal so you can flip back and reflect on how this process has been working out for you. So had to whip through that one wanted to get it out there for you. This weekend will be the release of Sreekumar Rao's podcast super excited about that, as I have been with so many others in and this is it's it's interesting the journey that this podcast is going on. So anyways, take it easy, don't have a sign off and we'll chat later.

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ARE YOU READY TO SUCCEED | CHAPTER 06 | DEEP DIVE 1 of 2

Published: Jan. 11, 2021, 11 a.m.
Duration: 21 minutes 27 seconds

These two books will help with the concept of surrender in greater depth and detail.

Unknown Speaker 0:00
What is happenin? spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here, voice of a generation as we jump into yet another chapter of Are you ready to succeed? Hello, you know this was already ready to succeed is by Sreekumar Rao. And I love how has pm a lot of gruesome conversations with her. She says this is a there's kind of it's in my voice, right? How am I seeing this and what is what is my take on it in all honesty to like this, this, this just helps me to dig deeper into the content helps me to get closer and more personal with this content. And hopefully, you know, hopefully it's something that brings you some value, right? Hopefully, this is something that

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once you've been introduced to it, it has a tremendous impact on you, just like it has had on me over the years. And you get some big takeaways. So what we're going to talk about today is chapter number six. Your me centered universe creates the stress in your life. He says, Hey, you live in a me centered universe. I still remember first time I saw this as like direct attack, shots fired man street from our man. It's not cool. But it's true, right? No matter what happens to another, you worry about how it is going to impact you. No matter what happens, you know, something happens to your wife, your son, your daughter, your mother, you're like, well, geez, how's this going to impact the rest of my day?

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I'm guilty, definitely guilty of it. This is inclusive of your altruistic measures. Anything, anything that you feel like you're doing altruistically, more often than not, you're like, Well, you know, how are people gonna see me out to this outcome? What are people gonna think of me? And I remember when I first started my journey of, you know, kind of social networking and getting out there it was, it was, it was so it was for a reaction.

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Did this was soccer coaching, I was like, Well, I'm gonna go to soccer coaching so that I can network and possibly meet people and further my career versus, hey, go out there and do this for the right reasons.

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Nonetheless, you know,

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it's still, I still still got out there to the coach, and I still had a good time. But I didn't, you know, it wasn't wasn't with my heart in the right place that time, same thing, you know, with Toastmasters and other functions. So definitely done things myself, historically. And even to this date, where even if I feel like it's for a good thing,

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sometimes there's something

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backed into it that says, this is this is for me, and the the outcome that I'm looking for.

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We don't want to hear, but it's true. But it's true. It's true. So he launches into you know, a real simple exercise that you can do, just to see how this shows up in your life. So this should be super easy for anyone right now out there using zoom or Microsoft Teams, or, or anything, right, simply record a call that you're having, and listen to how often you say, me, I or my, I should go check out you know, my podcasts I've done for interviews, right? How often How often do I say I'm here? Or am I right?

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And, you know, reflecting even right now, I'm sitting here reflecting on I'm like, yeah, we'll want to do it aren't aren't I just trying to engage or share an experience? And maybe not right, you know, inherently made. That's just the ego showing up. I don't know, I'm not a psychologist. So listen, this is a big one, this so this one's super, this one's super helpful. says, Hey, you know, this is we're gonna talk about the stress in your life. Right, Jay, and again, you are me centered universe is what really is the creator of all this stress in your life. And when I walked you through this, when I walk you through this, you're gonna you're gonna be like, Oh,

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just way I've been right. So Sreekumar walks you through this, it says, you know, things are always going on. And you were always, always going to react to them. The thing is, you're not, you're not reacting so much to the event itself. What you're doing is that you are reacting to the potential future outcomes. Now you're worried about what's going to happen. If it doesn't work out in the way that you want it to.

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or the give much thought about it. Honestly, you hardly give much thought about it working out the way that you want it to.

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And that's because oftentimes, it seems seems like the universe is against you, right? And look, it's tough to accept

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Thing is, you know, this even this even seems to compound and cause more stress, right? Because you're like this is, you know, I want it to work out this way. You are you're you have a desire for a specific outcome and you believe that should you follow XYZ steps, the universe

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should fucking reciprocate. Right? And then it does it. And then it does not reciprocate. So you

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take it personally.

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How often you know, I can't stand? I can't stand the acronym FML you know, people were like, Fuck my life and I really wasn't what a guy hates me or maybe Yeah, then I've been I've certainly been guilty of being like, man, it feels like me against the world, right? judge you against the world fucking you against the world. God hates you called another shit. just doesn't make sense. Fuck my life. So when you react to these events, you know, it's it's, it's because

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you have expectations for everything. for everyone. And oftentimes, these expectations are communicated right? You just feel like these things should just kind of act out the way that they want again.

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You're like, hey, universe, this is how it should supposed to work and yada, yada. And then it doesn't, you're like, well, you're just fucking pissy about it. So you expand a ton of energy trying to get others to conform to your expectations, right? And then when you feel like you aren't being heard, you turn up the volume and extra notch, you expand even more energy and then the results still do not change.

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The universe, man Geez, right, right. And then it's like, Hey, I go on vacation and it rains, I go, I go to catch my bus. I missed the bus. My bonus wasn't what I expected and the whole the whole universe always against me not and then then. And then then this is where the compounding comes in, then you punish yourself. You become uptight, you become anxious, you become irritable, you're depressed or sit around and like you just, you just morose right and just feeling awful. And then

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essentially, like, you know what, you take it out on those that are that are close by, right, you withdraw emotionally. And you stop spending time with those that are close to you generally unhappy. I still remember I still remember that this was

Unknown Speaker 7:36
to a tee. This was how I wanted my first podcast coach, I wanted to coach with Sam Crowley.

Unknown Speaker 7:45
You know, I that's exactly how I treated me because I didn't you know, she didn't react the way that I wanted her to.

Unknown Speaker 7:52
And I recall feeling this way. At the same time. You know, it was during that time that I was feeling that way. I was like, You know what, this is? The I did I put it back on me I was like this, you know, she just was acting in the way that she thought was

Unknown Speaker 8:09
best for us and our family. And I had to I had to I had to go and understand that and so I let go of it. And, you know, eventually, you know, we agreed to go ahead and take the podcast coach, but that wasn't before I became emotionally withdrawn, stop spending time. You know, with her, I was just generally unhappy right now, you know, I don't know that I punished myself so much. I punished her and the family because of it. And that's not fair. Right? That's not fair.

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So, you know,

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Sreekumar Rao causes a very toxic cocktail. Sometimes we drink this nearly every day. Sometimes we drink this nearly every day. But you know, he goes the good news is it doesn't have to be this way. Now, the first thing you're thinking to yourself probably is that

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you're going to give up all expectations, right? That's what that's just not possible. That's just not possible. Everything. Every action you take, there's that there's expected outcome. You go to fry an egg, you expect it to fry right? The problem isn't so much with the expectations as it is with the reaction to the outcomes. Now let's just take a look and just say hey, look, you have a limited control over yourself really you do and you and then you have literally no control over the outcomes.

Unknown Speaker 9:42
I can't really I mean, I can think of a million things right you even just like if you start off the day with a schedule events are planned and you think of even mike tyson is like everybody's got a plan until you get punched in the face right.

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So whatever your outcome desired outcome is

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In the actions you start take towards that sometimes your day ends up, you know, just like I said, you start off your day with a plan and your day just ends up turning out completely different than you had thought that it might turn out.

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You know, so he says, Hey, you, you do something with the desired outcome of a more often than not, you get result B, C, D, E, or even f. So, if that's all going on, how do I prevent, you know, the toxic feelings you might be asking? So one of the things that you can do is just accept whatever outcome occurs, right, then whatever it is, this is the outcome, that's the outcome, there's not a whole lot, you know, that you can tie your energy up with the the outcome, especially, you know, if it's, if it didn't happen the way you wanted it to, we'll pocket I mean, there it is. You can't change the past.

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Except whatever the outcome is, hopefully, you can do it cheerfully. You know, there it is, I knew it wasn't what I was expecting. And he says better yet.

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If you can actually embrace the outcomes,

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I don't know of any scenario.

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I can think of plenty of scenarios, actually, you know, I think about even being let go from Cisco a couple years ago, I

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felt like a weight the way the world was lifted off my shoulder, actually, I didn't brace it, I was like, great, you know, now Now, this gives me time to kind of go fine and opens me up to go do something different, find what I really want to do, or just try something different.

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Total, totally unburdened by something. And then, you know, the idea is, just doesn't mean you compromise your values, right? This doesn't mean like you, you sit there and you watch injustice, go on, etc. And then I'll throw this out there. As a side note, if you've never done a values exercise, you should check those out. And if you want to do one with me, reach out right reach out. Brandon at spiritual dope, co or hit me up on Facebook or Instagram. That's something that you're interested in. I think that I think it provides a lot of value if you go through it.

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Do the work, right. Good thing bad thing. Who knows? What's the time around this one so far? Guys? 12 minutes, a little rushed through it. I want to get to a piece at the end here. That I think is gonna be beneficial to a couple people I had mentioned that I was going to be doing this one because people are looking for patience and how do you kind of you know, seriously let go and and not be so uptight and strung the fuck out. This is very helpful. Once you kind of begin to employ this practice in your own life, so it goes good thing, bad thing. Who knows? Any time that you have an outcome, you see an outcome, you assign it a label, you say hey, this is good or bad.

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There's a little Sufi tale that he shares in the book and basically, you know, it's uh,

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you know, a farmer

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loses his mayor. And, or stallion, whatever loses a horse. And people are like, Oh, that's terrible. And you know, the old guy goes, that good thing, bad thing. Who knows? Next thing, you know, the horse comes back with, you know, 10 others, and he's able to get them all locked in pretty well. And people are like, yeah, yeah, well, that's good. He goes, good thing bad thing. Who knows? Then, you know, his son, you know, breaks, you know, get gets a horse horse tramples on his leg breaks his leg, you know, so he's maimed and lame, can't walk, you know, well for the rest of his life. And people go Oh, man, that's what a shame when he goes out good thing bad thing knows. Well, the next thing that happens is that

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you know, the army is running around collecting soldiers, and they're taking all of the able bodied men. Well, they can't take his son because he's got you know,

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can't he's got a lame leg. So you know, it goes on infinitum. Just in that way, you know, people like good thing and he's again, good thing bad thing. Who knows? You don't know what's gonna happen and essentially, you know, take stock of your current life take stock of where you are right now. What do you have that you feel is good or bad? The question is, how can you be so certain that it is good or bad? Is it possible

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that you just don't know right? Don't know how this whole thing ends up. So

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I think is a you know better just to kind of accept kind of what's there in front of you. So it gives, it gives an exercise, right? exercise of good thing bad thing recommends that you look back through your life. Look, the things that you once deemed as a bad thing

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has

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That thing in fact, over time become lemonade. He does recommend that you know, leave leaves the super painful shit alone, right? He doesn't say I say like that. But he says a nicer leave the super painful shit alone. All right. But you know what what can you make lemonade out of what have you already made lemonade out of if you go back and you look over your life.

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Finally, not the last part in this chapter. But the last part I'm going to do for today. This is the surrender to the universe. exercise a little bit more than exercise. But essentially, most people believe it Where we at, again takes take a look back, right and see what kind of bad things have actually become good things. If we look over COVID, maybe something good has actually come out of that. If you look over jobs, good or bad, maybe something good has come out of that. And essentially, the stress in your life is caused by your reactions to not getting what you want.

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And you can eliminate like nearly all of this by surrendering it to universe and Sreekumar Hales This is one of the most powerful pieces in the book. And to be 100% honest with you.

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Two or three years had to go by and I've had to read, I've had to read two other books. Before I even caught just how powerful this was, in my own life. And in this book, but those two books that I've read, just to share is Hawkins surrender and

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Michael singer surrender experiment. I think those are really two good books that really go deep on surrender.

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So if you don't get this concept immediately, if you pick up the book, and you don't get it, then check out those two books. And I think it will help explain a little bit more. He says, and this is true, you know, if you can surrender to the universe, you will eliminate 90% of your stress.

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90%

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that's nearly all of it. Right? That's, that's a lot, a lot. So, look, you've you've been led to believe your entire life, that surrender is for the weak. Listen, you're not playing dead, you're still setting your agenda for what you want to happen. What you're giving up and what you're surrendering?

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Are the predetermine expectations. So what do you do, you still take all of your actions with a clear understanding of what you would like to have happen.

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And this is a piece that maybe you haven't done before, but you consciously whiz for benefit to all parties involved. Oh, everybody, every fucking buddy. All right, recognize your actions are only one possible way to achieve the outcomes. Right, you have a limited understanding of all the forces at play. What this makes me think of is, is like the Bible, right?

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scripture, I don't even know where it comes from, or where the lines come from. But you know, he has ways which you don't know of like then yet again, I always throw this out there. You don't even know how you're alive. How does DNA work? Nobody knows the exact specifics of how things work. So recognize that your actions are only one of the possible ways to achieve the outcomes that you're looking for. And let go. I can like go go do what you're trying to do. But then like go, right.

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Don't go chasing it with like, extra attachment strings, just like all pull at you after what you've just done. So detach yourself from the outcome. accept whatever comes again, cheerful, if possible. And if it's possible, to welcome the results wholeheartedly. Then your your perspective on them will be transformed. 100% right. It's a whole new event. That's that's happening and unfolding right in front of you

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detaching yourself from the outcomes Sreekumar says is it's it's skill, like riding a bike. The primary reason you haven't done it up until now, you hadn't thought about you didn't think it was possible. And this may be the first time that you've considered the possibility that you can detach yourself from the outcomes and let go of that fucking stress.

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Because you believe that the outcomes should be what dictates your reaction, right? You don't get something you're sad. You get something and you're happy. And you also believe that the older you get, the less things go your way. Well, no, no, that's great. This isn't that's not it, right actions are within your control.

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The outcomes are not however,

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reactions are within your control if you decide to seize control, and that's, that's going to take, that's what's going to take practice. That's the skill you need to develop.

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And let's see, I think that that's going to close it for Oh, wait, yeah. So that was the process of surrender that need to go through. So surrendering to the universe, letting go of the outcomes, detaching yourself from the outcomes is really the key. key piece. Not really yes and no.

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Yes, like but it's not detachment with everybody go fuck themselves kind of thing. It's detachment with

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wishing a good intent to everybody involved. And I think that one is the difference maker in this whole thing. All right, guys. Stay tuned a little bit later this week, I will get the rest of chapter six out there. There's still quite a bit more

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potent material. Probably a quick one after that, because we will do some exercises. A couple more exercises and just a few more pages to dig into here for you guys. Hopefully, you are enjoying Are you ready to succeed in the voice of spiritual dope, hopefully you're enjoying everything that's going on out there. This is 2021

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and it has literally already begun.

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Krista Xiomara | I'm Awake! Now What?

Published: Jan. 10, 2021, 8:15 a.m.
Duration: 54 minutes 50 seconds

Krista Xiomara is a writer, blogger, podcast host, poet, and author. Krista lives and thrives in Austin, Texas with her dog Penny Moon and maintains her spiritual practices through the lens of Buddhism. She is committed to raising the greater collective consciousness of the world through her podcast, writings, and speaking engagements. Her first non-fiction book, “The Alchemy of Kindness” focuses on helping individuals move from self-rejection to self-love through transforming their internal dialogue with radical kindness and self-compassion to create and sustain long-term unconditional positive regard for oneself.

Podcast: http://imawakenowwhatpodcast.libsyn.com/

Website: www.iamkristaxiomara.com

Instagram: @iamkristaxiomara @ianwpodcast

Brandon Handley 0:00
321 Hey, there's spiritual dope. Today I am on with my guest, Krista zetta mata on Ted's butchered it, but I did my best. She is a writer, a blogger, a podcast host poet and author, Krystal lives and thrives in Austin, Texas with her dog, Penny moon, and maintains her spiritual practices through the lens of Buddhism. She is committed to raising the greater collective consciousness of the world through her podcast, writings and speaking engagements. Her first nonfiction book, the alchemy of kindness focuses on helping individuals move from self rejection, to self love through transforming their internal dialogue with radical kindness and self compassion to create and sustain long term unconditional, positive regard of oneself. Woof, we got through it. So welcome to the podcast. And thanks for being here today.

Krista Xiomara 0:56
Thank you for having me, Brandon.

Brandon Handley 0:59
Absolutely, absolutely. So I always start us off with the idea that spirit the universe speaks through us, right? There's this inherent message that's coming through us today, specifically through you, that is for somebody who's listening. What is that message?

Krista Xiomara 1:23
I think for me, the message is always about homecoming to ourselves. Because we are living in a world that is constantly taking us away from ourselves and asking us to be something other than ourselves. And so I think in the vein of my book, my podcast, my own journey, it all comes back to I really, truly believe that the path to enlightenment is the path of self love and self return to oneself. I think there's no higher purpose we all have in this life, except for returning to ourselves so that we might love and greet the world from a very different place than it usually asks us to.

Brandon Handley 2:16
That's a fantastic message. It really is what it is. And you know, of course, the first thing that jumps out to someone that's not in this is I mean, look, even for myself, I'd run around and and she told me years ago, that you had to go on a journey to find yourself and be like, Well, you're right there. Where do you need to go? Right. So what do you mean by you know, there's that I love it. What says but what is what do you mean by this journey to ourselves, return to oneself within that?

Krista Xiomara 2:45
Yeah, so I, I referenced in my book, and in the podcast, oftentimes this extended metaphor that I like to call the puzzle. And it's this idea that we come into this world as a fully formed puzzle. And we get thrown into our families and society and to relationship with other people. And immediately when we land in our family, our family starts to take some of the puzzle pieces out to match with their puzzle pieces. Sometimes they don't like the way your puzzle pieces look. So they they chuck them. And when you grow into adulthood, you will look into the mirror. And you will see that not only are you missing puzzle pieces, but your own pieces are disorganized and out of place. And my podcasts that centers around the idea of personal development and spirituality, which inevitably, continually cross over one another. If you go on either of those paths, they both cross each other over and in our human experience in coming home to ourselves. Part of that homecoming is about going and finding our puzzle pieces that were chucked out the window, finding puzzle pieces that that actually make a better mosaic of what we actually landed in in this life, and then putting ourselves back together as our authentic, beautiful whole selves. Because we arrived here hole, and the world tells us we're not that tells us we're broken. It tells us we're damaged. It tells us we're not good enough. It tells us we're not thin enough. But we land literally in this human form as these beautiful whole human creatures. And to me, enlightenment in this age is about ascending beyond our current culture, and living so at peace with ourselves that we create piece around us.

Brandon Handley 4:54
That's great. So when you talk about these puzzle pieces, and you're telling the story, I always think about Humpty Dumpty fell off the wall, Humpty Dumpty had a great fall All the King's Men, right? And so it's kind of similar, right? Like you're the only one that can put all your pieces back together. Right? You're the only one that recognizes even your own pieces. Right? And you also are the only one that has capability to recognize that this this, this picture is complete.

Krista Xiomara 5:19
Exactly. Right. Right.

Brandon Handley 5:22
Yeah. So. So let's talk for a second on on your podcast. I'm so jealous of the name of the podcast. I really am. It's so simple. But it's an it's so but it's so perfect. What's the name of your podcast?

Krista Xiomara 5:36
The podcast is called I'm awake. Now what?

Brandon Handley 5:39
Man is genius, right? So how did you know first of all, how did you discover that you were a personally awake? How do you define awake? And then what made you decide to be a voice for that?

Krista Xiomara 5:52
Yeah. So as many people who've listened to the podcast know that my journey started out, in a very weird offshoot of Catholicism growing up that was based a lot in conformity, fear and submission and denial of my own humanity and my gender, essentially. And towards the end of my 20s, I started to question start questioning a lot of things. And I started to look at the way the church taught, and the way I grew up, and the people that taught me my Christian values, and they weren't in alignment with each other. There was a lot of contradictions, there was like a lot of loopholes, and I'm very much a type a person, and I very much love rules. And so I one day just realized there are all these rules in the Catholic Church that people are supposed to follow. And maybe people are following them to like 45 to 50%. Like maybe that's, that's really giving a lot of credit to a lot of people. And like, what is the point of all of this then? And that was like the first breaking I was like the first cracking open of my conditioning, my cultural and religious conditioning, where I started to question like, Well, what does this all mean? What What do I believe, and I basically pulled myself out of my religious experience, and found myself in a yoga Ashram. And that's when I realized that in my conditioning, I was asleep. And I would refer to myself as a sleep walker or a sheeple. And then when I came onto the yogic path, I realized that there was this other more inviting, more self led way to be in relationship with yourself, the world and God. And I realized that was an awakened state and awakened a way of being with yourself. In addition to that those people that I met in that yoga ashram, were so at peace, and within so much harmony with themselves, that I knew that's what I wanted, I could point to it, I could see, that's exactly how I want to live in myself and live in the world. How do I get that? And so this awakening started to happen. And it was like a decade's long journey from like about 28. to, to 37 was a huge opening and cracking open of everything. And I, like you immersed myself in a great deal of texts and experiences and ideas and curiosities and curiosity. I think, if anything I've learned is a spiritual practice, the practice of curiosity is a spiritual practice, they're one in the same and you cannot go on this journey, and not be a curious person, because you'll, you'll bump you'll get stuck. So if you don't have curiosity as your lens for a lot of this, you'll get stuck. And so I knew that when I got to the other end, I love podcasts, I love radio, I love all of that. I knew when I got to the opposite end of it, and I had matured into a place of my own homecoming spiritually, that I wanted to create a system and a community where people could go and listen to like your story and other people's story of like, how are they navigating this awakening, which is very disorienting, very cumbersome, very scary, because you've got a dress like the light and the dark parts. And so my podcast was birthed in this idea of like, you wake up, and now what do you do?

Brandon Handley 9:42
And it's so so true. It's so disorienting, even even right from the onset. I think what you said there was, we do recognize that in you know, your your, your place of faith and religion, that just about 40% of the people They're not following the rules. So why am I trying so hard at it right is my guess because you said your type a right? You're like, why am I trying so hard? Why am I putting all my effort into this? And these guys are getting away with 40% something's something's not lining up. So and then and then, you know, that begins to kind of crack the veil, right? That begins to up against to say, Well, if that wasn't right, man, because you probably based sounds like you base quite a bit off of that, right? Or at least from that space. And now there's now everything's just kind of flying off. Right? That's the whole the whole, you know, well, Jesus, the Wizard of Oz, right, the man behind the man behind the curtain curtain. Yeah, yeah. And, you know, what you're saying to me, too, is really, really reminds me of the Alan Watts. Knew, and I know, fans of Alan Watts, right? So it reminds me of like, when he's talking about the monks in Zen Buddhism, when they would go up to the samurai eyes, right? And the samurai is bialik I don't know what Samurai is do but they, you know, they do their Samurai thing. And then the monk shows like no fear because he's a total peace with himself. Right? He's like, go ahead, I'm good. Do what you got to do. But and, and and then the samurai sees, you know, kind of what you saw these people are so at peace. So it like they have something and it's, it's nearly palatable, right? You can almost touch it.

Krista Xiomara 11:25
Yes.

Brandon Handley 11:25
And you're like, you're like, I want some of that.

Unknown Speaker 11:29
Mm hmm.

Brandon Handley 11:29
Right. And so that's that's kind of what I'm hearing you say right. But uh, if you know, so how did you decide to head in you What made you go to like yoga and an ashram? Right, because that's a, that's a pretty big leap from from from Catholicism.

Krista Xiomara 11:47
It's a huge, it's a huge leap. I read and this is going to be this is the cheesiest part of my whole story, but it's so it I can't deny it. It's everywhere. I've said it multiple times. But I had read Liz Gilbert's Eat, Pray Love. I know. You just posted an Elizabeth Gilbert quote today. I love her. She's everything to me. To me. She's like my, my female Jesus on this earth. She's so honest and transparent. And after I read her book, I was like, if she can figure out her life, and then yogic ashram, I think I can too. And she was right, because it's the source. It's so old. It's so ancient. It's so tied to the truth of what we are, beyond our current civilization. They have all of the wisdom there and their texts. So I landed in that I luckily had that yogic ashram in this tiny town of Spokane, of all places, Spokane, Washington.

Brandon Handley 12:49
Yeah, that's, you know, it's funny, because that's my, my, I spent a summer up there. Growing up, it is it is tiny. Like you said,

Krista Xiomara 12:59
there's like 200,000 people there something at the time, but yeah, and so then that led me again, like, curiosity became my guiding light. So the SWAMI who created that ashram there, Swami shivananda, Radha, this beautiful German Swami who is now passed on, but she had a prolific writing career. So I read all her books. And then I'm very much a root cause kind of person. I work in quality management systems in my regular life. And so when I want to understand something, I have to get to the base of it. And so once I dipped into the yogic ashram, which was based in Hinduism, that kind of led me down the path of Buddhism and Zen and Sufi ism, and Islam and Judaism. And then I realized I need to really understand these other religions and philosophies. And I really got into stoicism with Marcus Aurelius. And of course, then you go into the spiritual side, which is like all of the beautiful teachers we've had, like Alan Watts, and Wayne Dyer, and Michael Dooley, all these people have done such massive work and you just realize they're all saying the same thing, which is, you are God God is you live a life that is honest and pure and of service of others. And that's all you have to do and show up in this world as

Brandon Handley 14:32
so how are you accepting yourself as you know, God, right, I think that that's definitely been one of the bigger stumbling blocks, right? Because we also, we, you know, Westerners, we've got like this, you know, one concept of God, right? And then Hinduism and Eastern and other spiritualities have this other concept of Gods so when you say that, we're all God, what is your concept of that and how do you sleep at night with that? Right, like, I mean, cuz that's, that's definitely a challenge because, um, you know, I can tell you just from my own practice I can I can do like great meditations and I'll be like, I can get myself to like love. But I can't, you know, sometimes I had that struggle with, you know, seeing myself as God, right? Like I can be I am love. Right? But then I'm like I am God. I'm like, Hey, wait a second, buddy, what do you think in there? Right? So just walk me through that? Because I'd be curious to hear what that sounds like it looks like for you?

Krista Xiomara 15:29
Well, yeah, it's interesting that you bring that up, I would say the thing, where I've shaken out in my relationship with God, which is too small of a word for what created us, I think. And I don't think it's one person. But one of the things that I, I came to terms with on my journey to is like, in Catholicism, and a lot of the Abrahamic religions, and even some of the Eastern ones, there's this idea that God exists wholly in perfection, and that divinity equates perfection. But if you look around the world, if if a god or gods created us, there are so many imperfections in this world that make it absolutely beautiful. You can walk into a forest, like right now I can see outside of my house is the greenbelt here in Austin, which is like our, our forest, and it's untamed, and it's wild. And it's, you know, it's not perfect, and we're not perfect. And that means that the thing that created me is also imperfect, and I'm comfortable knowing that it's probably still evolving to, and we're evolving together. And that wisdom that exists in me to understand that helps me connect to my own divinity and remove that disconnection that I grew up with that said, like, God is in this place, and God can only be accessed through these people. And God is only available to X, Y, and Z. But I think we are born with a god shaped portion of our of God in our body and in our soul, and in our energy that circulates us as human beings. And it's a matter of recognizing that in ourselves. It's, it's not that you're better than anyone if you know that you have God within you or that God is something you know, unattainable. We all have it. And I think the manifestation of understanding that God is within you, is when you act in kindness and compassion and humility to other people. Because that's, that's literally God working through you, that's your own divinity, that the part of you that is God is coming forward. And it's manifesting as those actions as this podcast. As of the way you help people as a coach Brandon, like, that's, that's you and God, that's like you guys co creating, it's this beautiful co creation that we all get to be a part of that has been denied, especially in the Western world, because it's built on these Abrahamic religions and say, no Gods this other thing, but it's not.

Brandon Handley 18:15
Fair enough. Fair enough. You know, I 100% agree with all all what you're saying. And the one thing I would say, though, is I was recently introduced to a new definition of the word perfect. Meaning that you don't need anything else. That's all it means. Right? So actually, if you go to sleep tonight, Crystal, Do you need anything else? done today? You're perfect. Today, the world you live in is perfect. Mm hmm. Right. I mean, that forest over there, it doesn't need anything else today to be that forest, does it? Now it's a perfect forest. Right, you know, so somebody had introduced it and just said that that was like the old, you know, way back when that's what that word meant, like, you don't need anything else. And if that's if that's the definition of perfect, then there's a lot of us that are perfect, that don't think that we are right, therefore we keep ourselves from saying, Man, I can't access God, because last time, you should see me last week, that wasn't cool. Right? Or like, you know, they've got all these things that that make them think that they're being kept away from God. Right? The only thing that's keeping them away from that is themselves, right?

Krista Xiomara 19:26
That's exactly right. Right.

Brandon Handley 19:28
Yeah. And to your point today, it doesn't make somebody better or worse to say, I'm connected to God. Right. I'm divine. You know, that's, that's basically it boils down to a choice. Is that fair to say?

Krista Xiomara 19:43
Well, yeah, and I would say the when if if somebody is saying that, that should raise a lot of alarm bells in your mind, if they're creating that disconnection to you from them because they have a closer connection to God than you should run for the hills.

Brandon Handley 20:02
No good can come to that. That's what that's like the Crusades. Right. So, you know, so what made you decide to be the voice though, you know by by taking it and you know, by literally opening up you know their voice and bringing this to bringing us to the greater masses a and then be like, talk about stuffing into that like What gave you the confidence to be that person.

Krista Xiomara 20:24
Um, I mean, I'm not know if it was a matter of like confidence more than the desire to help. So like a lot of my motivations as an individual comes from the desire to alleviate other people's suffering, whether that's through community through the podcast through holding space for them to process things, whether it's just been friendship with somebody, so they don't feel alone. The my motivation was that I know there's people that need to hear these things. And I would say the best example of that was the summer when I finally put into one conglomerated space, the journey of me leaving my religion of origin, making sense of all of that trauma, releasing it and coming home to myself. And I can't tell you how much I've heard from people all over the world about how liberating it was to have somebody regurgitate that life experience that they had gone through, and that they were either at the beginning, the two middle parts or the end, and feeling like me, too. And I think when we do this work, like and you do your spiritual dope, podcast on your coaching and stuff, I don't think there's any deeper modality of love that we can do for each other than to see and hear each other. And I think what's funny about the world we live in now is social media is exactly that. It's this deep seated desire to be seen and to be heard, and to feel like you matter in this world. And I think us on the spiritual path. Our goal and creating this content is to also be a mirror to the people who are in the process of it all. Because we need each other and we need each other's experiences and wisdom and honesty and integrity. To help us through this this journey. We can't do it alone.

Brandon Handley 22:40
Yes, so how many? You know, when you open it up? Was there any fear? Was there any family or friends? were surprised or shocked by about kind of what you were doing in that space? How about your co workers, right? Like, I mean, is this something that your your, you know, your day job, right, you've got the day jobs, that's something that you know, you share with openly there? Or is this kind of like, you go to work today is Christa. You know, I'm here working today, and then you come come home at night, and you're like, let's finish delivery at some people. Right?

Krista Xiomara 23:18
Yeah. Well, it's funny, just to that point, and then I'll answer your question is one of the things that was, was very much a bone of contention in my own life when I was in my religious upbringing and still in the church of origin was, I did feel like they're like I had a dichotomy. There was like work Krista and then there was like, religious Krista and sometimes religious Krista could come out and sometimes only work Krista could come out or Krista in her marriage or Krista with her friends, or what not. And the thing that has been the most liberating on this path is that I the just the the ability to show up as yourself everywhere all the time is more peace than I could have ever asked for in my life. And so if people ask me about my podcast, or I'll tell people about it and my work life, but more than anything, what has changed about diet, you know, the duality of Christa, old Krista and new Krista is that my spiritual practices come into my work life and so I'm just as compassionate and kind and, you know, harmonious with my co workers who don't know anything about me. There's a lot of them who don't have never met me. I work remotely no matter what, because of COVID but, but I show up like that to them the way I show up to my podcast guests, the way I show up to my family, that I'm in relationship with my friends, and that's the thing that has changed more than anything. So I do tell people about it. Mostly my family doesn't really care, they don't really even understand what it is like they're so in their own world and in their own religious experience, still that they don't really get it, they don't understand that it's a thing that it's grown, that it has a lot of reach that people are super interested in it. So like, there's a small subset of people I get to really celebrate my podcast with like, you are one of them. And you know, the other people in my life, like, everyone else could care less and

Brandon Handley 25:34
less interesting, though, you know, it's all it's always interesting to hear, you know, how you kind of charge for arthritis. What I'm hearing, you say, though, too, is, at some point, there was a merger of the two of us, or maybe there was a, or maybe the you left behind all of all of this, and you're like, this is all I'm going to be, you know, this is who I am. Now, this, this is what this looks like, to me about like that decision? Because I think that's pretty interesting.

Krista Xiomara 26:01
Yeah, I mean, I think that our society asks that of us, our society asks us, all of us, men, women, children, mothers, fathers, to show up in these really specific ways. And even the people that we have relationships with, sometimes don't even want to see all of us. And so in my book of the book, that I'm writing, the alchemy of kindness, I say in there multiple times that it's like an it's like an act of bravery, to never turn against yourself to love yourself, no matter what you do, because we all make mistakes where, you know, I don't always show up compassionately. Although like, I wish I could I wish I that would be like every day of my existence. But I still fail in that in interactions and certain things like that. So for me, thinking about that, that whole idea of coming home to yourself and having that, that, basically, it's like if you think about it visually, like maybe you're projecting out these different kind of what are they called, like emojis or I'm not, I can't think of the word right now. But you've got these projections of yourself in the world. And in this journey, what we do is we like suck it all in and we become one, in and of ourselves. Because when I was living in that other place, I was very much at war with myself, I was at war with my ideals. I was at war with my words and my mind and everything. And being able to bring in all those parts of ourselves those avatars, that's what I was trying to say, you know, we have these avatars of like, podcast, Brandon, and podcasts, or Brandon father, and all these things, these avatars, but we're really the central core, we're the bean and bringing it like bringing those avatars in as part of the work on this path. Because to live authentically and truly, in yourself is, is I think, again, the work that we have to do here because our society has become something very wild and different. And authenticity, authenticity and wholeness is not always wanted.

Brandon Handley 28:23
So, the one thing that I see out there a lot, and you know, again, I agree, I agree with everything you're saying. The one thing I see out there a lot is is this idea of being the be your authentic self.

Krista Xiomara 28:36
Yeah. The bumper sticker.

Brandon Handley 28:38
Yeah, I haven't seen it. But I haven't seen a bumper sticker since March. Um, the the idea is, though, whoo, and what is your authentic self, and what you're describing is like, stop, stop, stop, like projecting all of what you think everybody, you think what everybody wants to see. And pull that all back in. And really sit with yourself. Right. And, and, and, and that's it. That's just the one, the one self that that needs to happen. And that is your authentic self. And you'll be able to know and feel your authentic self when every day doesn't suck anymore.

Krista Xiomara 29:18
And when you're not questioning everything, right, you know, you're not in alignment with yourself. If you don't know what you want, if you let people make decisions for you, if you feel uncomfortable, even facing yourself. Those are like the big red flags, that you're not living in authenticity with yourself and that you are not in alignment with your core being. And I think a lot of people go on this spiritual journey. And that's the outcome. The outcome is them coming home to themselves. A lot of the spiritual other work is healing and releasing stuff that no longer serves you and, and and finding your true self. Honestly, I'm sorry, I'm beating this To a dead horse, but it's how I feel this journey is is. That is the purpose that, like all of us doing this work is like if we love ourselves, and this is a universal truth that I hated hearing, and I didn't know it was true, I had to hear like 5000 times. But if we love ourselves, and we're at harmony with ourselves, and we're at peace with ourselves, and we are authentically in alignment with ourselves, the world aligns itself as well, because when we show up authentically, then we allow other people to show up authentically, when we are compassionate with ourselves and other people can give some self compassion to themselves and give themselves a break. Like that's what it's all about.

Brandon Handley 30:45
Where do you think you first saw that evidence, right evidence of that concept. And when did it finally click?

Krista Xiomara 30:53
I did say 10 years. At the yogic ashram, honestly, that was the first time where, like, the thing that with the authenticity, to just go back to the story about like, living in these dual places in my religion of origin, there was in the religion of origin, there was very much this idea of Do as I say, not as I do. And then going into the yogic ashram and watching people match up their actions with their words. And I was like, Oh, these people are living it. They're living their true, honest, transparent, authentic selves. And I knew that that's what I wanted, I didn't know that the outcome would be this huge homecoming at all, I had no idea that that would happen. I just knew I didn't want to be in conflict with myself anymore. And I felt very conflicted in my religious experience. Not because necessarily, even I wasn't living up to the rules. But the goalposts was always moving. If we want to talk back again about the God thing. It was like, you know, I, I,

Unknown Speaker 32:05
I,

Krista Xiomara 32:06
you know, I was abstinent I didn't do drugs, I didn't, you know, drink, I didn't curse, and I still wasn't good enough for God, I still wasn't good enough for my church, not you know, the goalpost just kept moving. And then you I went to the yoga ashram, and I'm like, No, these people, they know what they're doing.

Brandon Handley 32:27
That's hilarious. You know, I was never none of those things. I probably would have been incinerated going in. And that's always what I kind of thought. Like, they're not they don't want any of this. Um, you know, I love what you're saying there, you see that these people are actually living their truth. And you know, you're living your truth now. And then, you know, I like to hear how we'll just call it like the universe has opened up for you, because your podcast looks like you've had, you know, just a great run, right? You've had a great run, you're having great conversations. You're putting out a book. My guess is you've got more behind that. But also sounds to me, like you've found a way to and I'm just guessing here, you found a way to like, kind of surrender to it and let it like, be organic.

Unknown Speaker 33:19
Mm hmm.

Unknown Speaker 33:21
That's about that.

Krista Xiomara 33:22
Yeah. I mean, if we want to talk technically about the podcast, like, like anybody else, I started, I don't know what the hell I was doing. And I had to learn how to edit. And all of that stuff. I just had an idea that I wanted to put this information out, and I just needed to find a way to do it. And I had to figure out all of those things. And what I, I recently did an interview with a gal about how to start a podcast and one of my advice for somebody was just go in knowing that it's gonna evolve. And that's part of the process instead of being stuck in this like, box. So my first two seasons, I didn't know what I was doing. I changed the format a couple times, I changed the way it was, you know, presented, I changed my branding, and I did a bunch of things. Like, I didn't know what I was doing. And that was okay. And finally, after with a lot of trial and error, like I think our life is supposed to be it's supposed to be this loving, existence of trial and error, and we don't get punished when we error. It's just a learning lesson and we pivot, right? So I pivoted, and I found the right sequence. And I found an audience that resonated with what I was saying, which allowed me to bring bigger guests on because like, the bigger your podcast gets, the more people want to come. And I was just telling a Mona, who, you know, it's funny to think when I started my podcast, like, every week, like seven people would listen to it and now it's like, Up to 21,000 people a week. That's a lot of people listening

Brandon Handley 35:03
does a lot of people. Yeah, not congratulations. That's fantastic.

Krista Xiomara 35:06
But it was yours. You know, it's not like that happened overnight. This it has been me just diligently sitting down and saying, I don't care about the numbers. I don't care about the monetary compensation, what I care about is being of service to people on the path who need help. And I'm going to show up, and this is what I'm going to do, as that's as simple as I can explain it.

Brandon Handley 35:30
No, I mean, that's perfect, right. But again, so thank you for that. What I'm looking for is just the path opening up, right? And it sounds to me again, like you've like, again, you've kind of surrendered, right? You're not forcing something. You're not saying hey, you didn't come up and be like, Alright, well, 1231 2018, I'm looking for, like 75,000 downloads and that should that be a great year, right? Instead, you said, Hey, this neat, I need to do this, this is something I'm doing. This is something that I'm doing as much for me as for anybody else, I'm looking to be of service. I'm not looking for anything other than that, like you're you're doing it in an altruistic nature, right?

Krista Xiomara 36:16
Mm hmm.

Brandon Handley 36:17
But the idea is that once you kind of move with your intention with your purpose, and you know, you're in full alignment, the idea is that the universe opens up for you. Have you found that to be true for yourself?

Krista Xiomara 36:30
Yeah. And that's one of the universal truths. I know, you and I have talked about this already that it is true. I just think that when you go in, honestly, and you ask to co create with the universe, like, honestly, things just fall into place. And there's no easier way to say it is that like, when I wanted to do the podcast, I was actually telling my therapist about it. And she told me about this guy who happened to produce his own podcast, and he could help me and he helped me and tell me get it off the ground. And it was like, in the alchemist, where Paulo Coelho quotecolo, says, you know, like, the universe will conspire to bring everything to your plate. And it, it really is true, I think, the thing that I would leave the audience with is that you just have to continue to make actionable steps and show up and sometimes your steps are in the wrong direction. But the universe will course correct for you, it'll let you know you're on the wrong path. And you just keep putting one foot in front of the other. And this idea of the surrender, is that I have this idea, but I'm not tied to it. And that's where the surrender comes in. So I had this podcast idea, and I thought I wanted it to be this thing. And I let it evolve and become something that it is today and have had opportunities because of it. In that way, is a large surrender, because I let it do what it needs to do. And I'm just kind of the conduit at the end of the day. Does that answer it?

Brandon Handley 38:11
It does? Yep. I mean, that. Nailed it. So that I mean, that's the space though. And then I think that how would you tell someone that you recognize that you're a conduit?

Krista Xiomara 38:25
Hmm. That's a really hard one. I would say first go read the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle Lee, and help you, you have to do I think anybody This is just a generalization, I think if you want to become a conduit, and a true co creator with divinity, you have to face the, I guess, the idea that you have an ego. And you have to kind of fight with your ego until your ego takes a step back. Because a lot of work can be done from the ego. And a lot can come from the ego. But where that becomes a problem is I think, if you're working egoic Lee, it takes you out of that alignment, and that co creation, and then you start to have, you know, obstacles or things don't kind of flow as easily. I've seen that too. And I've, I've had to fight with my own ego all the time, you know, throughout this whole process and to continue to recognize when it's trying to push itself forward when really the universe is asking me to show up in a very different way. So I would say start there. And then just know and trust like I do say this in my book, too. It's the it's in the introduction and it's the I say that When I went on the spiritual journey, there were two things that I learned. And the first one is that when you go on a journey, whether it's like physical or spiritual, there are proverbial, you know, twists and turns and things you cannot anticipate you have to be ready for that. But the second thing that you learn on this journey, if you stay open, is that the universe is literally there to bring you the tools, the people, the experiences, anything, you need to be able to become the conduit to your own life journey, and show up in a way that resonates with people. So that we can all help each other.

Brandon Handley 40:40
Yeah, fair enough. Fair enough. I mean, what I'm what I think I hear you say that, too, is uh, you know, egos, the guy that says, you know, ego egos the voice inside you saying, I'm doing this, this is me, watch what I can do. Right. And whereas the conduit says, I have the resources of the universe, and it's just flowing through me, I literally wrote down this morning, I wrote down this morning, the idea that I'm, from a humanity standpoint, if I view myself as strictly human, then all I'm left with his, you know, my human capabilities, and the things of this world, right now, if I open myself up to being divine, or of this universe changes, right? I mean, and so there's nothing you can't do. Right? And I don't have to be and I'm not the one doing it. Right. And you know, so I think that's what I'm hearing you say, right, and kind of break in and having that breakthrough. And then looking for evidence of that, right? I think that that's really important. Right? So to set your intention to say that I want to become a conduit, here's, you know, you're talking about breaking through the egoic structure, and then saying, you know, now, where am I seeing it? Right? How am I seeing it? And I think that that comes from setting an intention and not acting on it right forcefully in such a way that to your point, like you do need to take action, right, there needs to be some type of whatever move to go get it. This is, you know, the call of, Hey, this is the hero's call type thing, you know, you're called to go do this thing. I'm not gonna do it. And so nothing's gonna happen then, right? There is no transformation, there is no transition. If you're called hero's calling, like, Alright, I'm gonna go do it. And then you're met with obstacles, but like, right behind that obstacles, like the thing like shut up? Right? All I had to do was pick up that rock. That's crazy.

Krista Xiomara 42:34
Yeah. And I would say that a prayer that has become like, a mantra to me is, I will literally say to the universe, like, I want to do this thing. And I don't know if it's right. But I'm gonna take these steps. And I'll just wait for you to answer. And that's literally what I do when I want to do something new. Or I want to venture out into something else, or write a book. I just say, I don't know if this is right, this is what's in my heart. And I need you to tell me if I'm on the wrong track, and I've never been misled. It's never it's, it's it's either shut doors, or open doors. And that's how I know. And it's like, you know, we have all of these other senses that we can tap into from our own divinity that allows us the wisdom to know what's the next right step every time.

Brandon Handley 43:28
That's awesome. That's a great one. That's a great one. So your book is coming out when when can we expect your book,

Krista Xiomara 43:35
ah, this has been like the biggest labor of love that I've ever had in my life. It's taken me two years to finish this book. And I'm still not even done yet. I'm I'm My goal is to get it done by December and have it out. And in mid March is the goal to after it goes to the drafts and the covers and all of that. But my, I think also to let me just back it up for a second what I've learned on this, this journey, as well, and having the podcast is that a lot of people have different entry points into spirituality, how we find it some for some people, it's addiction for some people, it's trauma for some people, it's the religious experience for some people, it's, you know, no religious experience, but we all have these entry points, but we all come together at some point our experiences kind of merge at some point. But the the, the conflict that I was talking about earlier that can that was contained in my mind was also this deep seated self hatred. And that was my entry point. And because I only needed peace, and I didn't need peace with the world, I needed peace with myself cuz I hated myself. I hated everything about me. I hated myself to the core. And it's like one of those things that people never want to talk about. But it was a it was a very big struggle of mine. And it was my entry point. into leaving my religion that I had an inclination that it was a contributing factor to my self hatred. But I didn't quite know if it was. And so the journey of the alchemy of kindness, the book is about, like, traversing my past to understand where did the separation happen, that I started to hate myself, because I certainly wasn't born hating myself. I be and then I did. And then unraveling the tools that I picked up, that helped me reverse that self hatred, and then the practices and the daily living, that allows me to stay in congruence with myself and in love with myself in an authentic way, not just like, Oh, I love myself. Not like that, like truly like, yeah, like, I don't say, a harmful word about myself, don't criticize myself, all those things. And so this book, I knew, like I did with the podcast, I knew that once I got through that whole thing, I really wanted to create a roadmap for people to unravel their self hatred, because it is a true epidemic in our society. And the, you know, the most hardest part of self hatred is is annihilation. And so, you know, I had a couple of times where I had suicidal attempts with my life. And because I was just like, I cannot stand myself, like, I have ruined everything. I'm like, an embarrassment to my family, and all of these things. And my self hatred took me all the way up to annihilation, like it does with a lot of people. But there's another way, you know, there's another way and the other way is that you're fine. And you're great. Just The Way You Are you just have been told you aren't.

Brandon Handley 46:56
No, that's powerful. That's powerful. Would you look at that, as you know, hatred is a gateway or addressing your pain as a gateway? How would you? How would you kind of determine to find that?

Krista Xiomara 47:08
Well, so for me for my experience, and I think it can be both and I'm guessing, for me, it was that I was in so much pain with my own internal conflict, like not being able to look at myself in the mirror for very long, or not being able to be in relationship with people and feel like they didn't like me, because I didn't like me. Like, I just assumed everybody hated me, because I hated myself to know. And the the pain of that was like, okay, there's something really traumatic living here, that I have to address now. And what is that, and I didn't do it on my own, which I say in the book, you know, I definitely had to go to therapy, I had to have a lot of spiritual experiences that helped me, come home to myself. And then the, the longevity of my self love really came into focus when I found Buddhism, because Buddhism is truly a homecoming. It's like, go and be by yourself, and sit with yourself, and be okay with everything that is, but be okay with yourself. That was like the most eye opening teaching I could have received is what the Buddha did in his life. And I was like, Oh, this is how I'm supposed to exist within myself, then I can attain that, and I'm gonna live it and practice it until it's in, like every molecule of my body. Right? So yeah,

Brandon Handley 48:46
just just be that. I love that. So you said, you mentioned your spiritual experiences a couple of times do you have like one or two that you could, you know, specifically point to as a specific spiritual experience?

Krista Xiomara 49:01
Like, do you mean through the self that allowed me to create some some self healing in this vein of the book or some are just like spiritual experiences

Brandon Handley 49:11
that yeah, I mean, you pointed to, you know, you pointed to like, along the way, having some spiritual experiences and you know, what does that mean? And what is one that might be specific?

Unknown Speaker 49:20
Mmm hmm.

Krista Xiomara 49:26
Let me think, um, I think one of the, one of the most significant spiritual experiences I had was, when I was in this really, I've had like, a couple dark nights of the soul. I would say, I think we all do in our life because it's hard to navigate humanity being human. But in one particular one, it was up towards the beginning of my spiritual journey. And I don't know why I looked it up. But I looked up like spiritual cleansing or healing or something. And I found out about Reiki for the first time. I'm, it's an energy healing modality. And I went on and I looked at all of these people online, and I started to look at their faces. And I was like, Hmm, I could send something about each person's, you know, you look at pictures, and you can really kind of get a sense of the person's own energy. And I landed on this girl named Chelsea. And she is like this petite, tiny, little white, white light Angel, very creature that I don't even think she's human is what I've just decided. And she, I went to her. And I just was like, I feel like I have a great deal of dark energy within me. I've done therapy, I've gone on spiritual retreats, and there's just this thing that's stuck. And I don't know how to get it out. And my curiosity led me here, can we work together, and she gave me my first Reiki healing that I had ever had. And I literally feel like she physically pulled out this darkness from my body, and liberated whatever that part was of me. And I saw her for a handful of more, have more sessions. But I think she truly was the person that I just think she did her work, so I could do my work. And I needed to go see her. And that was, that changed me I was forever changed by this very healing process that I didn't even understand that at the time, I didn't know anything about Reiki, I didn't know how it worked. I didn't understand it. And it was really bizarre going through it the first time. And but also, just like, this beautiful experience that truly, I think, went beyond the natural world of something I could never understand, I still I still struggle to understand how it all works, and how it's all connected. But that was a really big experience that helped me, it was a spiritual tool I took on the way to back to myself.

Brandon Handley 52:24
That's powerful. I mean, if you've got all that darkness, you know, caught up in Saudi and somebody quite literally able to rip it out of you without I mean, they don't, they don't touch you, right, like, I mean, now. This is a this is a you know, and if you can go through that and have that kind of sensation as you leave that place. And, you know, there's no drugs involved. There's no like weird things happening outside of that thing. That's powerful. And that's, that's something that resonates.

Krista Xiomara 52:52
And she was powerful. Like, I clearly didn't even know what was happening or what was going on. And she was so powerful that she was able to do this thing that was set me back on my course and really liberated me. And it was like all those things. It was like the therapy and it was like my spiritual journey and reading books and letting go of my ego and dispelling all the stories I had told about myself. And then I needed this other thing that could help me literally lighten up so I could enlightened because I was stuck. I was truly, truly stuck.

Brandon Handley 53:36
So the real recommendation here is go read Eat, Pray Love. Yes. And this will get you started. Right? Right. And along the way, pick up Chris's book, which will be out in March of 2021. Right? I mean, you can just set the date, let's just do it, right. It's common, it'll be there. And then, you know, go over and you wish wish was some people go

Krista Xiomara 54:00
check it out. You can just find me on Instagram at IN w podcast, I'm in the process of redoing my website and stuff. And I do have some other projects that are not ready to be spoken about. But there'll be very exciting in the near future. But Instagrams the best place to catch me for now while I revamp everything.

Brandon Handley 54:20
Okay, so if you're listening today, then make sure you head on over to spiritual dope or the podcast outline and the link for Chris's Instagram to the podcasts will be available for you. So Chris, thank you so much for coming on today. And you know, sharing pieces of your journey and how you got there and just spend some time with us today. I think that I think what you shared it out today was super valuable for anybody who's tuning in. Yeah,

Krista Xiomara 54:45
thank you for having me, Brandon. I really enjoyed our time together.

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Jesse Cole | Kingdom Mogul Coaching

Published: Jan. 3, 2021, 8:15 p.m.
Duration: 55 minutes 41 seconds

I had the opportunity to meet Jesse in person years ago... and what a powerful presence... more I spoke with him and learned about him... the more I knew that he needed to be on this podcast!

As you know, I get to help people cultivate their experiences, uncover the transformational principles that are hidden beneath the surface, and convert those principles into a message they can monetize. As an author, speaker, coach, and executive producer I understand the value of an authentic message. A story that is birthed by a major test that produces transformation.

My clients desire authentic encouragement, graceful accountability, and a safe space to develop their message, free from judgment. Ultimately, they want to use their experiences to empower others.

You might not know that in addition to coaching, I am a husband, a father, and the oldest of my parents four children. I believe that my family is the true expression of my purpose and assignment in action. Over the years I’ve helped my parents launch several soul-food restaurants and plant and lead a few churches. I also worked in the field of education for 15 years. I acknowledge that these are all avenues from which God has been able to get His work done through me. So, for me, platform building has been my lived experience. But it hasn’t been an easy journey.

Head on over to Kingdom Mogul Coaching to connect with Jesse today.

Brandon Handley 0:00
54321 Hey there spiritual dope today I have a very, very special guest for us, Coach Jesse Cole. Jesse is, not only is he a coach, he's a husband, a father. He's out there he's doing. He's helped his parents lost several soul food restaurants. He's helped plant and lead a few churches. It's been in the field of education for 15 years. I mean, Jesse, you're out there. You're doing you're doing TV shows. Now. You're doing a coaching you're I mean, you got some? I know you do. You've written a couple books at least. Right? So you, you're all out there and man, I want to say it. But I know this is your line, please. I always love hearing you say What? You know, I'll make I'll make your page me Jesse. What's the first thing that says there? What do you want to become? Depends on your willingness to become always man every time makes me feel so good to hear you say. So glad to have you on. Thank you for having me. I appreciate you for inviting me. Oh, man. Yeah, absolutely. And you know, so here's how I start off every one of these. I'm so excited. First of all to have you on I know you and I we go back always now. So I feel like this one's much, much more in your wheelhouse. Not, not much morning, we'll have something last one, you were almost like fatherhood for the rest of us. Right. And

your father's that was in her wheelhouse, too. This one is also in your wheelhouse. So very excited to have you on for it. Um, I feel like, you know, God, you know, definitely got it for you. Right speaks through us, right. And he speaks through us, for other people to hear us. And in that, in that you and I are having this conversation it is for somebody who is listening today. And they can only get a message that's coming from God through you to them today. What is that message?

Jesse Cole 1:52
Learn how to wrist.

Brandon Handley 1:56
Yeah, tell me more about that.

Jesse Cole 1:57
Yeah, man, learn how to rest this is something that I've been learning how to do for about about the last year or so, you know, we are in this hustle and grind culture. Everybody's going after trying to get the bag trying to, you know, grind it out. And one thing that God has taught me is that

his grace is better than my grind.

I can get more accomplished, you can get more accomplished through me

if I learned how to how to rest and flow in him. And when I first got that revelation, or that message, or whatever you want to call it, it is it was foreign to me because you know, probably like you and a lot of your listeners. We are high achievers, we're actively engaged and, you know, trying to accomplish some goal whether you try to be a better father or a husband or a business leader or whatever, you try to do civic leader, we're actively engaged in trying to accomplish something. And oftentimes, we can lean on our own understanding our own, influence our own education or frameworks, whatever you want to call it. We try to get that done. And we forget that it's got to be has given us that talent Anyway, you know, he's given us purpose. He's given us an assignment anyway. So he knows how to do it better than we do. And so leaning into him, gives us the unfair advantage, meaning we can get more done by resting in him, then we can do by grinding it out ourselves.

Brandon Handley 3:40
Yeah, man that is perfect. Is that now? By no means? Am I familiar with Scripture? like so much right. But is that along the lines of he has ways we know not of type thing, right?

Jesse Cole 3:51
I'm the same way man. Listen, my dad, my dad is a password evangelist. But I don't mean that I'm somebody who's pulpit You don't understand. So I grew up. I grew up in that house. So I can, you know, you can sit down with my dad, he can close scripture. I know what's in there. A lot of times, I don't know where it is. I got a trip to my Bible app to find it. But I know it's in there. So I want to be I don't want to come off as one of those people. That's like super super churchy, and super, you know, bible thumper like, that is not me, right? But because I have relationship and it is growing with God. I understand that. My life can only be good by being led by him. Like, I really believe that. And so yeah, I try to stay in relationship with him. It's not It's not about religion. For me. It's about relationship, and that that's much more impactful.

Brandon Handley 4:43
Well, you know, what's pretty cool here. I mean, that's exactly how this podcast is kind of real similar to your story, right? As I as I go over and I look at your kingdom mobile coaching website, and I go to meet Jesse. There's a bit in there that says, you know, You went most of your life, just kind of on your own talents and skills. Right? And then there was a moment that you had, that you were like, life change. Let's talk about that for me, because that's a lot about what this podcast is about. So wants to share that with the listeners.

Jesse Cole 5:19
So what did you read? So I can make sure I'm telling you that

Unknown Speaker 5:23
there are a lot of you guys. I mean,

Brandon Handley 5:25
your your, your prayer walk right. Well, coming up. Yeah. Before you jumped into before you jumped into this space right now.

Jesse Cole 5:33
Yeah. So right before that, I believe I had just got fired from my job, right. As you mentioned, I'd worked with an education for like, close to 15 years. I started off as a substitute teacher making like $80 a day before taxes. And then that was how I first got into education. And from there, he was the Dean of Students, basketball coach, choir teacher, parent teacher liaison, like, almost every other year was, you know, it was I was going up. And so my last year in education, I was actually working on a college campus as a success coach, meaning I would help students pretty much not drop out of school because it was too hard. So the program was ending and the funding was coming to a close. That's what they told me. They let me go. And I was at a point where, okay, what's like, what's next? what's what's next? Because I don't want to do this anymore. So, so what's next? And so I went on this walk, one Sunday morning, I think it was like, May, somewhere around there, seven, eight o'clock in the morning, through my hoodie. And I heard, you know, heard God say, I want to talk to you, knowing God speaks to us through Holy Spirit. So it was it wasn't like an audible voice. It was, you know, God's Spirit, like God talking to my spirit. Like, that's how I heard you. Get up, I need to talk to you going this way. I went on this walk plugged in my earphones, plugged them into my phone. And as I began to walk, I began to hear, he began to give me instruction on what Kindle mobile was supposed to be, from the books, to the coaching programs, to the conferences, to everything that I'm doing right now. I heard close to two and a half years ago. And as I was hearing it, I was speaking it into my phone. And I would listen to that recording over and over and over again for weeks on end, until it got burned into my brain to where I didn't have to listen to it anymore. Now, I began to walk it out. And I haven't listened to the recording in about a year or so I actually lost it in my old phone. I don't even have it anymore. But it's so ingrained in this type

Brandon Handley 7:54
of thing you put on a Google Drive Jesse something.

Jesse Cole 7:57
Know what that's that's a different story. It's so ingrained that I'm beginning to walk it out. And I looked at my vision board because I I wrote the stuff down and looked at my vision board, and over 80% of that stuff that was spoke to me spoken to me on that morning, either I've already done it, or I'm walking in it right now.

Brandon Handley 8:20
Yeah, that's fantastic. So if on a timeline then that's 2018.

Jesse Cole 8:27
Quote, like maybe before the summer of 2017, somewhere around there, so there's that like, right about when we met then was that what was that?

Brandon Handley 8:35
That was the Crowley event. Yeah, that was like 2017 that was 16 those 17

Jesse Cole 8:40
was 17 happened around the same time.

Brandon Handley 8:44
Okay, okay. All right. Yeah, man and and you know, here's the thing that I think Yeah, I feel like after I think about seven months or so after that event, like I had something similar happen to me right like, you know, Touched by an Angel or whatever you want to call it right? Just a moment where just like, that just happened. Right? detaches happen, and you're like, it's a little it's a little unsettling because you got so much you know, you got the you got the lifeforce you got you know, God energy you filled with it. Right. And, and the thing is, is I can listen to you, I think, you know, and I can hear the difference between before and after. Right, there's a whole different Jesse, from before and after that event, right from from kind of when you were you when you when you had that message delivered to you right, and you started walking it out, talking it out and walking it out. Yeah, I mean, and and, you know, I'm just kind of bouncing off because this and similar thing happened with Father who for the rest of us, right, like I had to talk it out like the one I started talking it. It started to I started talking so much it had I had no choice. Yeah, right. So that's really cool to hear, you know, just kind of hearing your journey. Well, let's talk about now, how you're applying that to your business, right? Because that's another piece that is a challenge, right one now Now you've got that you've been touched by it. And you're like, if I lead with this, there's a lot of people that might not respect me, I might not be able to do the business, I'd like to do that kind of thing. So let's talk about like, getting through that, and then doing it.

Jesse Cole 10:30
So I'll preface it by saying this, there is no separation between my faith and my business. There isn't, yeah, one one informs the other. And without that I couldn't do what I'm doing. It actually drives my business, you know, I help people grow their faith as they grow their business. And so in the beginning, you know, when I met you, when it was new to me, I felt as if I had to, and I can say this with all clarity, I had to present myself in a certain way, whether you want to say polished or scripted, like I felt as if I had to present my way like that was that way, in order to be respected for the work that I've that I'm doing. And so the messaging hasn't changed a bit. The same thing you heard me say in that room, I still talk about that stuff. That's still my same message. Right? But the way that I show up is different. Right? One of my mentors asked me recently, she said, Jesse, I've seen a difference in you over the last year or so what's the difference? And I said, You know what? I've taken the tie off. That's it, huh?

Brandon Handley 11:37
Nice.

Jesse Cole 11:38
Nice. Oh, and you know that and that's just that the symbolism where, where I felt as if I don't have to be all buttoned up anymore. If I don't want to be I still like dressing up.

Brandon Handley 11:46
Look at you look good. dressed up. I don't know. No reason not to write.

Jesse Cole 11:50
I love it makes me feel good. Sure. But it's because I want to not because I feel like I have to go to for somebody to respect me or to receive me that. So that's the biggest prints that I've that I've had since the first time that you and I met man. And so yeah, what was your question? I think I got I went down a rabbit hole.

Brandon Handley 12:12
I went with you. It's you know, so you said it right. There's no separation between your faith and your business. The question is, though, is like, you know, leading with that, and and, you know, what? Was it a challenge for you to step into that space immediately where there's some fears? You know, let's talk about that. And how do you kind of got past them? And, and what happened? Right, let's talk about the journey.

Jesse Cole 12:38
So when I first began, when I first launched, I was trying to sign I was trying to sign up for a networking groups and go into all these networking things. And they were actually, you know, Jessie, what do you do? And I'm like, I'm a CEO of T Mobile coaching to help you grow your faith as you grow your business. Right? proud. I still am proud. Yeah. Crickets, like nobody anything. Because when people hear the word faith, they equate that to religion. Mm hmm. They equate that to, oh, I gotta go to church every Sunday. Right? Right. And maybe how I was showing up, kind of perpetuated that as well. But when I hear faith, I don't just hear, I don't hear religion. Like, it took me a while to learn how to help people understand what faith is. So if you are a CEO of a company, it requires faith for you to show up every day to lead your team. Right? If you are a salesperson, and you got to make 80 calls a day, that requires faith because out of those 80 cars, you might get hung up on 7070 times. So what's what's keeping you making those calls? What, what what keeps you motivated to make those calls every day? There's something bigger that you're thinking of. It requires faith. It requires faith for a father, to raise his children. It requires faith for a mother to stay married like it. Faith is in everything that we do, right? Yeah. And so teaching people that faith doesn't mean, I got to go to church every Sunday, or I got to pray for 30 minutes a day, or I got to read the whole Bible five times a year. If you do that, that's fine. Sure. If you feel like that's what you'd be allowed to do, that's fine. But that's not what faith is. Faith comes through relationship. Faith comes through through hearing, being able to hear what God is saying to you. And then not only that, being obedient to what what you hear you know, I'm saying so that's what that's that's how faith works. And so really trying to break down or help reframe what faith looks like to people in their in their different marketplaces like that was my biggest challenge, man. helping people understand that I'm not talking about church. Sure. Talking about relationship.

Brandon Handley 15:03
Where now so where do you feel like you kind of had the big, biggest breakthroughs on some of that, where you realized how you were being received and how to make the transition,

Jesse Cole 15:14
without watering down the message? That's right. Because Because the message is the message. I don't feel like I have to chase anybody for business. I don't feel like I have to adapt to market trends to get business. I believe that if I am just faithful to what God told me to do, if I just prosper where I'm planting, then the right people are going to find the fruit that's on my tree. You never see an apple knocking on somebody's door and saying, Hey, I'm apple. No, if you went to Apple, you got to go to the apple tree. Right. And so if you are faithful to what you've been put into your, your purpose in your assignment, right, your purpose is why you were created. And your assignment is how you demonstrate that in various environments. So I believe that my purpose in life was to encourage and equip leaders to become the better version of themselves. That's my purpose. So what is my assignment? is how I do that, as a father, how do I do that for my children? How do I do that with my wife? If you meet me in the grocery store? How can I do that? Then, like that is my assignment, right? How do I demonstrate it? And once you know what that is, you unstoppable. Stop.

Brandon Handley 16:31
So prosper. I'm planning. Nothing better than that. Right? I think that's fantastic. here's, here's a question, though. You know, you hear the messages maybe from God, right? And you want to be obedient to it? How can you be certain like when when do you get to determine that that's the right message that you're receiving? That's in alignment with like, your purpose and stuff, right? Or if it's just like another squirrel.

Jesse Cole 17:05
A lot of squirrels man, where it was right. And, um, and I fallen guilty to that I've fallen prey to that I'm candy. I'm not even gonna lie to you. It doesn't. It's not it's not a perfect journey. But it's purposeful. I like that. It's not perfect. It's not purpose. It's not perfect, but it's purpose.

Brandon Handley 17:21
It's recorded, we got you

Jesse Cole 17:24
had to remind myself that. And so how the purpose of Holy Spirit is to lead to teach, and to lead and guide us into our truth. Right. That's the purpose of God's Spirit is to teach us and to lead us into our truth. And so when I hear instructions from God, I believe that is because Holy Spirit is speaking to me. And Holy Spirit is not going to tell me anything that's opposite of what God wants to happen in my life. Right? So if I'm hearing these instruction, no matter how crazy it may seem, My responsibility is to receive it. And be obedient to demonstrating

Brandon Handley 18:12
give me a crazy one, like what? So what's a crazy one you've been obedient to? Which is like, I don't even know.

Jesse Cole 18:18
Okay, so I don't even know. So recently, so I just got done with a six week coaching program that I called Kingdom confidence, right? So typically, when you have a coaching program, you have a framework, you got a marketing campaign, you got to promote it, all this stuff. So let me tell you how this thing came to me. I was in the middle of recording a podcast. And as I'm recording this podcast, Holy Spirit says, when you get done with this, take your phone out and shoot a video and talk about Kingdom confidence. Now I like I know what Kingdom competence is. I was like writing. I have some notes in my journal that pretty much had Kingdom confidence, right? So I had I had an idea of what he was talking about. But I didn't intend on making it into a coaching program just yet, because it was just still fresh to me. He said, when you get off of this podcast, take your phone out, record a video saying that you're launching a free six week coaching program called Kingdom confidence. And this is what it's going to be about. Now, Brandon, I didn't have any marketing behind it. No graphics. No, nothing. All I had was some notes. Right, right. And a cell phone. That's right, said okay. I know what I heard. I'm about to do it. Right here. My phone. Oh, hey, I'm launching a six week free coaching program called Kingdom confidence. This was going to be about right. I didn't have anything set up as far as payment gateway. Well, it was free. So when the payment gateways, I didn't have a zoom set up to handle leads, and I had none at all I had was the instruction to do right now, after I gave after I posted that video on my social media. I said, You know what, it'd be nice if I had like, 40 people sign up for this thing. Yeah. Right. So by the end of that whole thing, 35 people signed up for it. So we almost hit the go. And every week for six weeks for 90 minutes. 22 people consistently showed up for this coaching program. That's nice, man. Yeah, right. Yeah. I didn't know that all I had was notes. Sure. I, but my responsibility was just to be obedient to what I heard, and to, and to provide the environment for God to do what he wanted to do. I was just facilitating the environment, but he already had it worked out.

Brandon Handley 20:51
Yeah. That's great. I love that. It's just like, we just like we started off the beginning this conversation, right? God speaking to you, because you got to reach those people. Right? I think it might have been you, too, when we were when we were at that event, talking about like, if you don't go and do the thing, that God's kind of speaking through you spirit universe, whatever, right? thing you're not getting, you're not getting to that other person that needs you.

Jesse Cole 21:17
Yeah, somebody needs your message. Right? And sometimes we get caught up in trying to do a perfect man. Not me, man. Or we look at what everybody else is doing. And we compare, yeah, asked, but you got to understand that you are your unique being, nobody can do it like you. Nobody can shoot this podcast like you. Nobody can. Nobody can speak like you, I believe that if you put me on the stage with the best speakers in the world, I'm gonna still stand out Why? Because I'm comfortable doing it like I do it. We can be talking about the same message, we can have the same script, but nobody's gonna do it like Jessica, nobody's gonna do it, like branded. And it's not, um, it's not a conceited or pride. It's like, no, this is what I'm called to be. There's somebody in this audience, right? Somebody in the world who needs what I have, they need just what I have to help them get a breakthrough. And if I don't show up, they wouldn't get that breakthrough.

Brandon Handley 22:16
100%. Right. 100%, I love to what you're saying is, is a really how I roll. This is my third podcast now. First one, I did not go and see kind of what everybody else was doing. I did not go check and see what everybody else is into. I knew that. If I did that, a, I go try and copy. So I ended up copying somebody by accident wouldn't be on purpose. But like, once that stuff gets seated, you got you have no choice, right? You're like, Oh, that was supposed to be done this way. And same thing with the other two, right? And all the same. And, and just like you're saying, You You're resonating, you're resonating, you're like a bell man, like I'm like a bell. We're both like bells, right? But we're gonna have a totally different sound that one or another person's gonna know be appealed to. Right. And and, you know, we're showing up. So we're showing off so other people can show up, right?

Jesse Cole 23:17
Yeah, I won't hurt somebody right now that's listening. That know, you may feel like you don't have enough or you don't have enough experience or whatever. Listen, all you have to do is just show up the best way you know how. And over time, the message is going to get clear, your methods are going to be become more quote unquote, polished, but you got to start. You have to you have to get started. No more analysis paralysis, we can look at what everybody else is doing. And we can look at our strategy. But if you don't take that first step, you never know what that first step is going to feel like

Brandon Handley 23:59
to step out in faith and step out in faith, you got to step out in faith. I mean, you gotta you gotta believe that, you know, just like Jesse, you're hearing Jesse here, talk about his message. And you know, just following some of these things that don't make the most sense. But sometimes you just do them without these crazy expectations. And those are the ones that didn't pan out.

Jesse Cole 24:20
Right? And even even if it doesn't, quote unquote, pan out, you are obedient. Because you because you learned the lesson. Like there are a lot of things that I stood I stepped out on faith. And it didn't pan out like I thought it was gonna pan out. But the lessons that I've learned in that journey, or in that experience helped me for the next thing, right. So as far as like there's in the kingdom of God, there's nothing lost. There's no there's nothing lost in the kingdom of God.

Brandon Handley 24:50
Tell me more about that. Like I don't know, I've never heard that before. What's that mean?

Jesse Cole 24:54
So if if you believe that if you believe that Jesus Christ at the center God if you believe that God is your is your is the father of everything, he's your Creator, right? he is he is the head over everything right Kingdom means God's influence in the earth, right? And so in, in God, there's nothing lost. There's like no experiences is lost, no question is too dumb No, like no hurt is, is everything is valuable. And the world, you know, we have this canceled culture where we try to devalue people. But when it comes to God, your Creator, right, you're the person who made you, when it comes to him, there is nothing lost, nothing is too small for him to work with. You know that there's a scripture says if you have faith, it's the size of a mustard seed, right? If you know what a mustard seed is, that's one of the smallest seeds that he got that much faith, you can move mountains, if you got that much belief. You can you can you can speak to a mountain and tell it to be cast into the sea. If you believe in Don't doubt there's nothing lost in the kingdom of God, every thing is valuable. There's a story about Jesus. When he was in a temple, and people were giving offerings, you have people that were rich people giving offerings, but then there's one lady walked up and all she gave was to mites was like equal to like a penny. So you got these people giving, quote, unquote, millions of dollars in offering. But you've got this poor lady coming up giving to small pennies. Right? And Jesus says she gave all she had her name will pretty much ring bells forever.

Brandon Handley 26:45
Wow.

Jesse Cole 26:46
Yeah. You know, I'm saying there's nothing too small. There's nothing lost. So if you're going through some kind of trauma, some kind of abuse, some kind of hardship, and you feel as if God can't work with that, Oh, yes, he can. I have clients right now that have gone through drug abuse, sexual abuse, molestation, lost kids in their building platforms, from that trauma, there's nothing loss.

Brandon Handley 27:15
Talk about that, you know, building from that trauma, right? Like you said, Here, everything is valuable. And I recall, you know, telling my story once upon a time, and somebody was asking me, okay, what makes you different from the rest of the groups and all the other people out there doing what you're doing? And so I got my story. And he goes, everybody's got a story. I was like, that's cold. So, basically, you know, so sounds to me, like these people have stories? What do you do with that?

Jesse Cole 27:49
Yeah. So with the kingdom platforms coaching program, what we do is, we help you identify what your story is in your trauma. And we pull the transformational principles from that, from that story. And we help you develop those principles into a book, and empowerment program, and a event, whether it's a live event or a virtual event. So we're helping you monetize your story pretty much.

Brandon Handley 28:15
What are some of those transformational principles? Jesse? Yeah.

Jesse Cole 28:18
So this is this is this is this, we talked about faith and craziness. This is crazy, right? And so everybody's story has different transformational principles. So I can't say, here's my framework for transmitting transformational principles. This is how it's gonna work. Now, I don't work like that, right, Mike? is being able to hear somebody's story and fill in the gaps, right? So you can, you can sit here we can, you can tell me your story. And then 10 minutes, we can have eight chapters for your book.

Brandon Handley 28:49
Because that 10 minutes,

Jesse Cole 28:50
that's my, that's my gift, is the gift of listening, and being able to fill in the gaps, right? For me. In this coaching program, excuse me, it's not about graceful accountability. So now that we are partnering in this coaching program, and now that I have your story, right, and when we put these principles out, now, you You're, you're accountable to developing these principles. So the whole coaching Pro, the whole coaching process is us developing the lessons in these principles, which become your book, and from that book, your coaching or your empowerment program comes from that your modules, right. And from that, now you can have any event.

Brandon Handley 29:37
Sure. That's fantastic. That's awesome. I love I love how you're, you're guiding people, right? You're helping them to see who they truly are, right? Sounds like right, like, hey, that's great. Here's your story. But here's what you really just told me. Right? And then you know, we're going to pull out of that story. These amazing things that maybe you didn't see Because you're too close to the source, right, you're too close to the source. That's not you know, those ends up becoming their pillars. They get to build everything on.

Jesse Cole 30:08
Right. Right. And the good thing about a story is, it's always unfolding, right? So as long as you're alive, you want to be able to add to that story, because you're going to be learning new lessons. Sure. never stops. That's best. Pretty cool. So

Brandon Handley 30:23
do you feel like, you know, after after your clients go through the coaching with you? Now they get to they, they, they understand how to see their own principles. Now, as they develop?

Jesse Cole 30:37
Where do you pay depends on the person, right? Depends on know where they are in life and things like that, my responsibility, my only responsibility is to show you how your story can impact other people impact the lives of others, to help you build a framework around your story, and then monetize that framework. That's my responsibility, right. And so some of some of that some of the things as far as my clients from the past, and I have right now, again, I told you, I have some people that are going, you know, overcoming certain types of abuse, right. And so the most, the the most transformational part for me as a coach is helping them to walk with them as they relive these, these these traumatic events, right? Because as they're writing it out, it's bringing back memories is bringing back hurt is bringing back these emotions, right? And so now they have a safe place to to like, filter through those emotions, and then pull those principles out through through the coaching program and like up, Grant, I love what I do, Brandon.

Brandon Handley 31:46
I know. I know you do. I know you do. That's why I love I love catching up with you. I love seeing you do your work. And I know that it's purposeful and meaningful for you. Yeah. And and it shows it shows I mean, talk about so. So again, you know, we met up several years ago, you're doing you're doing the mogul, Kingdom mogul. But now you're also got a show, right? Don't you have a TV show?

Jesse Cole 32:12
Yeah, so I work with one of the local TV stations here in my city. And so I work part time there. But I also have my own show called Kingdom platforms, right. And a podcast called Kingdom mobile podcast. But the kingdom platform show is going to choose me is going to be relaunched in January. We just got some distribution here in the city in March in the Metro Detroit area for three cable stations and like 144,000 cable subscribers, I want to be able to be able to watch the show, weekly, you know, so pretty much what I'm doing right now with you. I'll be doing that with other business leaders talking about their platforms and how they are applying faith to their business

Brandon Handley 32:55
plan. Okay. That's fantastic. And but I think that this is still fantastic that the idea that it came to you would you call this a vision, right? Where did it come to you in a vision? And now you're just kind of you're playing that out?

Jesse Cole 33:13
It came to me? I didn't I didn't see it until after I received the instructions. Sure. Yeah. It came to me through a prayer walk.

Brandon Handley 33:21
Okay, I was listening.

Jesse Cole 33:22
As I was walking, I wasn't listening. And after I got it off, then I began to see it through an act of obedience. But here's the thing, clarity plus obedience equals success. People want clarity all the time. But once you get the instruction, if you're not obedient to the instruction, you're not going to be able to receive or get the results that you desire, or that you're supposed to have clarity, plus obedience. That's what equals success.

Brandon Handley 33:50
Without when you say obedience, would you liken that to like intuition?

Jesse Cole 33:56
lunches? No,

Brandon Handley 33:58
I helped me out with because I mean, I mean, if I if I, if I get the clarity? Well, I mean, then yeah, it's not like kind of intuition or, or something like that. What does obedience mean?

Jesse Cole 34:11
Well, in the beginning of our conversation, we were talking about relationship. You have you have two sons, right? That's right. And so you're their father, right? You know, you provide for them? Yes, sir. We're creating an environment where they can thrive. standards and your household

Brandon Handley 34:32
did this, I'd like to believe to

Jesse Cole 34:34
wash the dishes, you know, right. So you give them instructions. They have. They have a choice to be obedient to those instructions or not. And there are consequences for both. Right. And so for us as believers, for those of us who believe that Jesus is the Son of God, and that God is the Father, and the Holy Spirit is our comforter, our teacher God has given us instruction, through Holy Spirit. Once you get that instruction, you have a responsibility to be obedient to do what you hurt. So, when I'm talking about obeyed, I'm talking about do what you hear. So this is not intuition. This is not, um, nothing else outside of being obedient to what you hear. And you can only hear if you are in relationship,

Brandon Handley 35:28
if you already tapped in, don't just saying yes. So I mean, that's important, too, because I mean, we can go all the way back to beginning where you're, you know, I'm trying to where's the piece that talks about? You? You? You did it all through talent first, right, talent and skill first, but I think that once you get tapped in you develop this relationship. It's a whole, it's a whole new relationship.

Jesse Cole 35:52
Different levels? Definitely. I

Brandon Handley 35:53
mean, it, you know, I always talk about it in terms of, you know, in terms of awareness, right, of, you know, becoming more aware of what's already kind of there, right, you're like this, is that relationship, Jessie, correct me if I'm wrong, had been available to you your entire life, yes or no? Absolutely. And it wasn't the problem comes a certain point in your life when you accept that relationship.

Jesse Cole 36:19
Absolutely.

Brandon Handley 36:20
And it's Once you accept that relationship, that there it's just like, there's this powerful merger. And, and you're You, you, you're able to kind of gain that clarity that you're talking about. prosper, where you're planted. And then like, really, really, you know, take develop that purpose, right. And you've got a comfort and walking in faith. Because, you know, this relationship is genuine.

Jesse Cole 36:51
Absolutely. Yeah, absolutely, man. So like it. I've, I've been able, I don't know, and I'm kind of leery of saying hi, because it's not about me. But what I've been able to experience over time through relationship is that I get more done. When I don't try to do it myself. I get more done. When I am getting instruction, from God, the Holy Spirit, because he sees that I can't see the end. He sees the end. And so his instruction is leading me to an intended target. But something I can't see. Sure, oh, if I'm not obedient, I won't be able to reap the benefits of that relationship, like like he would want for me to do right. Sure. Now, I've learned that I've been able to gain more or do more, with less, because I'm in relationship. Before this call, I was on a call with the client, right? We were talking about flow. And I gave her this analogy of an athlete, I played college basketball, so I can break it down this way. There were times where I may have scored 25 points, 12 rebounds, two blocks, two steals. And at the end of the game, somebody might have said, Yes, did you know that these were your stats, I'm like, not even know it. Why? Because I was in flow. I wasn't I wasn't like I'm about to score 2522. And two, it just happened. Because I was so tapped in to the flow. And because I was tapped into the flow and not trying to force it, I was able to get those statistics. That's what happens with relationships. When you are you know, you use the word tapped in when you are obedient. When you are tapped in, you're able to get more accomplished with less effort. And that wipes out the whole grinding and hustling piece,

Brandon Handley 38:49
which is which is great. Right? Which is great. You said it too early. It's funny, because I feel like I'm learning that more of myself this past year as well, right? If I step back a little bit, I can allow for the space to be filled up with what I'm looking for, right? Because if I'm standing right here, in in this space, nothing can come into it, right? I can't receive anything if I'm standing in the way, all that stuff, right? So there's this, this is kind of a catch 22, though, isn't adjusted, because if I'm in the flow, and I'm just dealing with things that are right, and they're coming to me, how can I have a goal? How can I have a plan, right? That's to me, always kind of confused, still kind of confusing to me, right? Like, I'm like, these are things I would like in my life. But I don't want to put so much pressure on them that, you know, I'm upset if they don't show up or I feel like I'm doing all the work, that kind of thing. So you know what, how do you feel about that?

Jesse Cole 39:42
Let me read you something. I'm glad you said that and read you something. Because oftentimes we try to we try to put our plans in front of God's plans. He's our Creator. He's the one who's given us purpose. Right? And so he knows what's best. For us not saying that we're not smart, and that we don't have education, and no, we have freewill. And we still have that. But his ways are not our ways. His thoughts are not our thoughts. He knows the end from the beginning, right. And so once you once we learn how to relinquish our own self control, and our own agenda, and submit to what he wants to do, then our desires become his desires. Because he knows what's best for us. Right? Let me read this to you, Thomas, Matthew 11, verse 28, through 30. And this is when Jesus was talking about flow, talked about flow. Jesus says, Are you tired, worn out, burned out on religion? Come to me, get away with me, and you will recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me. Watch how I do it. Like this. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won't lay anything heavy or ill fitting on you. keep company with me. And you will learn how to live freely and lightly. I love that.

Brandon Handley 41:21
Yeah. How can you not

Jesse Cole 41:22
like that right there? And this is Jesus, the Son of God talking to his disciples, right? who are who are businessman fishermen and tax collectors in Oh, they were they were in the marketplace.

Brandon Handley 41:36
They were grinding it out. Right?

Jesse Cole 41:37
People who are used to again, yeah, grinding it out. But he's telling them listen, Take my yoke upon you, like learn from me. I want to show you how to live a life that's free and light and unforced. Right? I don't know stuff, anybody listening right now. But up until this point, I can tell you that there are some times in my life where my grind and my hustle made life hard, right? About to be 42 years old and minute. And I live in a life and free life. And Jesus says that when we follow Him, when we do it the way that he does it, that how life was intended to do it to be to be lived, then we can experience that. And then our desires No longer are our own desires. Our desires, and God's desires began to mesh there's a thread of connectivity between them both right, then we can have even more than we've ever expected. And here's, here's the issue though. Humans don't like to let go of control. Hmm. We love to have control. We've been taught, especially those of us who are leaders, you got to be in control. You got to have the authority. Right? God is saying, I'm the authority. Let me show you how to live this life. Follow me. Right.

Brandon Handley 42:59
Yeah. I think that's fantastic. Because I don't know how to create life. But here I am. And I'm alive. Right? So some pretty powerful stuff. I can't even tell you how I got here, Jesse. Right. I can't tell you how my food digests and their science and stuff. But do they really know? You? Don't I mean, so, like, I'll eat some food and it gets converted to life. Right? That's not me doing that. That's, that's a, that's a grand design that was like, sent here implemented, and it's happening. So I gotta trust. I gotta trust in something much greater than myself that it has made that happen. Right? I know. I know. You call it God. For some reason, I've got a mental block on that. So I gotta call it like the universe. I gotta call it a couple of other things. But we're saying the same thing.

Jesse Cole 43:50
I want to ask you that question. I hear that a lot. And I'm asking you not to judge. This is like, free zone. Why do you think people replace God? With the universe?

Brandon Handley 44:04
Hmm. Well, you know, for me, it's just kind of a it's really similar to you, right? Like, when you when you went to and he told people to kind of step into faith or you know, you know, I connect you with your faith and you look the way you did, you're presenting a message they're like, I'm not gonna see you. It's a big sale, Jesse. Right? Like, that's just like that. They're not having it. Right. So real similar thing. It's like a fine line with this. This it's because it's been institutionalized. Right, this word, the word has been, it's been and, and, and the meaning and the truth of it. of God. Right. And and what it's attached to it. Road is bent, corroded, it's been it's just, you know, it just hasn't. And so now, you know that so now it's like, Okay, let me try it. Let me try this other thing out. It means exactly. The same thing, right? It's it serves exactly the same purpose. But this way I can disassociate myself from these institutions. Right? Because then I think that that, that that's probably about it for me.

Jesse Cole 45:12
I get it. Um, here's here's, here's my thought on that just because something has been marketed wrong doesn't mean that it's wrong.

Brandon Handley 45:23
But I don't disagree. Like I said it's just a mental block is history it's straight mental

Jesse Cole 45:28
issues and just in not and again, this is you know, judgment free zone this this for those of us who are those of you who are listening right now, I agree with you, man, like God has been Miss marketing people have been Miss educated on who he is being we. And I know because I grew up in a in a in a house full of ministers, right. And so we we look at God as this one. No, I did in the beginning, especially as a kid, this big old monster in heaven, waiting to pounce on me when I did something wrong. That's right. Oh, I saw God as a kid. And my friend, that's

Brandon Handley 46:03
not my friend.

Jesse Cole 46:04
Yeah. That was so I was I was so afraid to go to sleep. Because I knew I did something wrong. And what if I don't wake up? What if God destroys me in my sleep? Right? And so I was taught that whether it was indirect, I was indirectly taught the fire and brimstone and that God is he's waiting on you to do something wrong. Right. And until I became older, and I began to seek him out for myself, that I began to see how God is a good father, like he wants good stuff, right? Like, he loves me. He wants to hug me and kiss me and tell me all that good stuff. He wants me to do well, and till I discovered that, that I was able to embrace where I am right now. So yes, you're right. God has been institutionalized. He's been given a

Brandon Handley 46:58
unset. I think the deal the deal is really, is if it's forced on you, you don't want it right. And Christianity is something that, you know, more often than not, people feel like it's forced on them. Right now, if you come to me, we have a conversation like you and I are having now I want to come to your house of prayer, I want to come hang out, I want to see what's going on there. Because I can feel the life coming through you. Right? I'm like, Yeah, let's go through the same thing. We're walking with the same person, we're walking with the same, you know, same life force, right. So it's when you do what you said, when you start to seek it when you start to, you know, what's, what's the line? Right, you know, and all you're seeking seek understanding. Yeah, right. And all you're seeking and seek understanding and, and that's when you begin to see that what's in that book, those stories, those lessons and all that's in there. It's all real, real good stuff. Right. That may have been misrepresented. Right. Or and again, you didn't have the level of understanding that was necessary. Don't wait, no, no, no pearls before swine, right? So you don't have you? You couldn't you couldn't understand that stuff. Because even it was right. Funny, right? It was right for your entire life. Like we talked about earlier, this relationship was open to you for your entire life. Right? And you didn't take it on until you are ready for it. You're like, you know what? Not right now. I'm not ready. This it just wasn't your time.

Jesse Cole 48:26
It for me, for me, it wasn't like not right now. I was not ready. And it was I didn't know any better. But like a certain a certain message was being put in front of me for so long. That when I finally got up got out of the environment that was perpetuating that message. That's when I'm, that's when I figured out that it was more to this than what I was what I had learned. Sure. And I call it I call it the church that killed me. Right? Because for all these years, that was at a time I went to college. I didn't know that this was available. Right? Because of the institutionalization because of the big monster God that I was. I didn't know this was I didn't know that. I could just walk with him and talk with him. Hmm, I didn't know that. He loved me as much as he does. I didn't even know that I had this thing called purpose and assignment in my life. I didn't know that until I got out of the environment that was perpetuating that once I got out of that environment, I began to search like willingly and actively figure this out for okay guy, like who are you for real 100 that

Brandon Handley 49:37
what prompted that for you, Jesse.

Jesse Cole 49:40
Um, when I when I when I set foot on a college campus, down in southwest Virginia. And it was a it was a liberal arts Christian college. And I saw how people were responding to God and it was different than what I was used to Right. And it looks genuine. Right? Well genuine. And I'm like, I wonder what that looks like for me? Sure. I don't want to do it the way that so and so and so did like, what does that relationship look like to me? right for me? And went on got on a journey. And man, I'm still discovering man, I'm still discovering this thing, right. And I'm excited that God continues to reveal Himself to me to relationship. But yeah, that's when it started, man. So I began to go to different churches, I grew up in one denomination. When I went off to college, I began to go to visit different denominations to sit like even some places where you might have might consider a cult like I've visited everywhere. I didn't join, but I've visited everywhere. And my purpose was my purpose for visiting was to see what made us the same. And what made us different. Sure. Right. And what made us different is how we worship God, the manner in which you worship God. Right? It wasn't a heaven or hell thing. It was like, okay, they do it this way. They do it this way. But what made us the same was that we all loved God. All right, that was a thread of connectivity that I began to hold on to, that I'm still holding on to this day, like, that's what makes us to say, we're all God's children, and he wants to have relationship with us. That's what I hold on to. That's, that's cool.

Brandon Handley 51:29
I think it's pretty interesting to how, you know, you grew up in a house of ministers, but you weren't able to establish that relationship. until after you left. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 51:39
Yeah, it was, I

Brandon Handley 51:41
mean, what's that

Jesse Cole 51:43
all about doing? About being sure as a kid was about? We call them the acts of service? Right? But doing it would go into church and doing this and doing ministry? And do you know, I'm saying, like really performing, versus just being who we called you to be? I wasn't taught that. I know,

Brandon Handley 52:06
that's important to you know, how being who you were called to be? How do you feel like you discern that?

Jesse Cole 52:14
I feel as if I've always known that as a kid. Like, when I look back on it now, different memories come to come to mind where I felt as if I was, I was always walking in purpose without knowing that I was walking in purpose.

Brandon Handley 52:30
Just like the Steve Jobs line, right? You can't you can't you can't connect the dots call forward. But you can act on going backwards, right?

Jesse Cole 52:36
I remember sitting in church business meetings as a kid, like 910 11 years old, and having discernment. And knowing who was a snake and who wasn't. I knew this as a kid, right? I remember connecting with people and being able to see people's lives without them even telling me anything. As a kid, I didn't know what it was, I just knew I was different. I didn't know how to demonstrate that in real life. It's just something on the inside.

Brandon Handley 53:06
That's that's pretty cool. That ties in I just listened to your talent story a little bit earlier, from the vault on your podcast, right? So I mean, kind of like you had these talents. Initially, you kind of hit him, because you didn't know how to use them. Yeah, right, I think is kind of another way to take a look at this whole thing. And now that you've discovered what your talents and gifts are, you're cultivating them, you're sharing them, and you're using them to help shine a light on other people so they can shine their own lights on others that type of things that I'll sum it up.

Jesse Cole 53:42
Pretty much. Yeah. Just being obedient to my assignment and my purpose. And through that, all the other stuff you just mentioned, that happens.

Brandon Handley 53:53
So Kingdom mobile coaching Comm. That's where you can kind of hang out with Jesse Jesse, what's what's like, an initial session with you look like?

Jesse Cole 54:03
Yeah, so we have. So Kingdom platforms is this. We do a one hour discovery call. And that discovery call is just to see where you are. See what your vision is to see if we can help you. And if we indeed can help you, then you move on to the six month program where we help you uncover your story. Write your book, develop your empowerment program, develop your event, so begin to monetize your message. So that's it's really that simple. You get on get on the calendar. You know, we we talked for hour. I see where you are. We see if we see if it fits. If it fits, we move forward.

Brandon Handley 54:46
That's great. That's great. Jesse, I'm so I'm so proud of you, man. I mean, you know, I love I love what you've brought into this world. I love that you're walking in your purpose, right? And I just love that you're doing what you're doing and you You do it. You do it with grace. Thank you. You do it. We really do. So one more time. Where can people go and find you Jesse?

Jesse Cole 55:09
Yeah, so Kingdom mogul coaching.com. That's Kingdom like the word Kingdom mogul mo GUL coaching.com. So that's the website. You can go learn more about the story and get on the calendar. But you can also follow us on social media. So Instagram is coach Jesse Cole. And Facebook is coach Jesse Cole. And I'm just coming off from a 30 day sabbatical. So I'm just about getting back into social media. Welcome back, Jesse.

Unknown Speaker 55:39
You, man.

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ARE YOU READY TO SUCCEED | CHAPTER 05 | DEEP DIVE 3 of 3

Published: Dec. 30, 2020, 1:09 a.m.
Duration: 37 minutes 54 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
Chapter Chapter five, you can change the universe we're going through, are you ready to succeed by sukumar Rao, if you are digging some of this material, I will let you know that there is a course that he offers called creating personal mastery, it's available online, I'll go ahead and include a link to it. Let me know if you're trying to get into there. And if you want more information, I can tell you that I am I have applied myself and will be taking it later this year. And I encourage you to check it out. One of the reasons I signed up is because this to me, Sreekumar Rao is a master, right? There's very few that I know of, that we have access to that can teach this material the way that he does, and makes it and turns it into practical application, something that you can use every day everywhere in every way. So not a paid endorsement. But I do want you to know that it's something that resonates with me, obviously, I mean, that's why I'm digging so deeply into this material so that it's something that sticks to me, something becomes a part of me. And if it is, again, if it's something that is of interest to you. Go ahead, check it out. I'll leave a link to that one as well. Look, I'm making another note CPN wasn't even planned. Link on part three. And let's head into, you can influence the universe and create miracles. This is a this is a chapter that I shared with a friend of mine. A couple years back now while I was on the plane out to Denver, and we were having miracle conversations, I think that I was going through a course in miracles. And I was heavily influenced by a Course of Miracles. I was heavily influenced by Abraham Hicks, neville goddard, I was deep into that material. And I was seeing Listen, personally, I was seeing all kinds of miracles happening in my life. So again, I've got it right here. He's not this is this is like a sub chapter within the chapters. I think that this is the gooey goodness part of the best, one of the best pieces of the book, as far as I'm concerned. So right now most of us, you are probably so convinced that you are separate from the universe. And you spent most of your life pointing to your powerlessness that there's no

there's no way. There's no way that you will you can create miracles. Right? No way. The thing is that you need to look for look for the connection, right? Create the conduct your direct creator, a guaranteed right. What would you like to create in your life?

Unknown Speaker 3:05
What would you like?

Brandon Handley 3:08
What would you like to create? Right? You need to have the firm conviction that the universe has intervened for you on your behalf if you have not listened to. Here's another note for myself to make. If you have not listened to Alan Watts, trust the universe is another lecture. Go listen to that. I'll put that I'll put that in the podcast notes as well.

Unknown Speaker 3:30
You need to

Brandon Handley 3:31
learn how to trust the universe as another as if it were another and you have to begin to believe in some way shape or another that this is a benevolent universe. How have you gotten to where you gotten to today? Again, if you are listening to this podcast, there's a good chance you're better off than when you know your news. Random percentages at least 80% of the world. All right. Mute, clean running water. Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have food in your fridge? Do universe man I mean? What are the odds at first of all, it's one in 400. Like what trillion that you're born? That's that's just the beginning of it. But now you're on a country with are we seven eight I don't know how many billions that we're at. You are one of the lucky ones that has clean running water. You are one of the lucky ones that has electricity a switch you can flip on even even if you were listening to this in a shelter, you are in a shelter with clean running water with electricity with a warm running bed with soup food. This is a benevolent universe, okay? So, you know, look, you need to create that connection for yourself. And, and initially that may not be easy, especially if you've got some filters, you know, set up you've got you've got some kind of filters and walls and you can't see it that way. That's okay too. But But again, realize, at this point as we've gone through this chapter, that is your choice you choose, you make that choice. Okay? So he uses the idea of parking spot, right? Maybe you're trying to find a parking spot, and all of a sudden you got lucky, you found a parking spot, right where you wanted to find it. And what a coincidence, I wanted a parking spot, just like that. And there it was. But you would consider that a coincidence. The other idea is like, Oh, well, what about when you learn to play tennis, you know, you've got your forehand, backhand. And, and at some point in time, like you're, when you're learning to play, it's hard, right? It's a challenge. It's when you go all the times when you put in the practice is when you put in the effort, it's when you have someone working along with you, that can teach you as well. And at some point, it clicks. And then you say to yourself, Well, that's because I put the work hands because I put the effort in is because I learned how to play tennis with someone who knew how to play tennis, I had all the lessons, and it just works. And now I'm a great fucking tennis player. Right. The other example that I would use, you know, in this is just for my son, right now he's going from, you know, playing on a tablet, to try to use a computer, right, and the controls are eminently different. The same time, you know, he's going to have to learn it one point, if he wants to, you know, advance with the computer, how to knock it all out. And he'll sit there and say, Well, you know, I've been, you know, for years on the mobile, and it's gonna take me forever to do the computer. However, again, little bites built up over time. And at some point, when you look back, you will realize that you were always capable. And it wasn't until you begin to take serious efforts and move towards that what you know, you're capable of that it begins to click. So it goes, Hey, understand which one of these models will serve you best, right? If you want to consider everything a coincidence. And and in practically random with zeros system with the zero way to, to kind of recreate that, at how's that going to serve you? How will that methodology and mental model serve you? Right? He says the second model where we know you're learning how to play tennis until it all clicks, this is the one this is the one this transformative, right? This is the one that's powerful, capable of delivering results. You don't have to take my word for it. You don't have to take his word for it. Here's what you got to do is try it. The cost to you? minimal, you don't need to share this with anybody. I love this too. I think Let me see if it gets in. If it gets into it yet. Hold on. We'll get to it. Right? We'll get to it. So you know, how do you do it? Right? How do you do it? How do you do it? How

do you do it? How do you do it? And that's when you think of a friend when you think of a phrase, you know, sometimes you send out like these mental signals and you do with a light touch of emotion. And you just kind of say, Hey, you know, the universe is going to let that happen for me. Deal is it's like you don't recognize you don't consider these miracles. You consider them again, you consider them like, you know, why would it What a coincidence, I was just, I was just thinking of you Mike, what a coincidence, I was just thinking he Tom. Or maybe when you see a phrase or you've got a favorite song. And that song shows up in the next show that you watch or you know, you hop in the car and you listen to the radio because you still have one and your favorite song comes on. I can't believe I was just singing that song. I'll give you an example to my house. My current house it's very you know, I would go to sleep at night and I would visualize this this really interesting shaped house like almost like a U shaped house with Windows on each side. So you can see the people walking on either side and like wave to them and it was in this kind of perfect wood setting. And it was it was peaceful and remote. And guys, ladies gals it happened right and the thing is, I didn't have like a bunch of emotional energy tied up into it. I had this kind of this thought this idea and I let it go. Right. But I had it repeatedly. I had it often. But I didn't in didn't put this. Too much pressure onto it or too much energy into it as though it had to happen. It'd be nice I didn't you know, I didn't have this grand expectation that it had to happen. So, um, doo doo doo doo, doo doo doo money, right? money too. These are just a couple more examples. Last year here before I did really powerful exercise where I was just doing a budgetary exercise. And I not something that I'm super big on doing, but the exercise was to write down, you know, kind of all your debt, how much you make, and how much would you like to make yada, yada, and then add on 15% get real clear on kind of what you want to use it for what your intentions are, and all this other stuff. A year later, I had like almost the exact amount. So and and, and when I tell you like it was it was more than I expected. It was more. I didn't, you know, I couldn't think of it as real, right? Because I couldn't, I couldn't have thought about that going forward. Now looking back, I can see this as a miracle, right? I can write down this as a miracle. And that's exactly what it says. To do here. Pay careful attention to such happenings explicitly. Recognize, acknowledge and break them down. list what happened the date the time, permit yourself to feel elated and write them down, write down the feeling as well. You know, that's that dude. Somewhere It really is. It's crazy how it will happen. And then mentally play with the idea that these are not coincidences. Albert Einstein, either everything's a miracle or nothing is a miracle. Okay. And then work through this. As I said, trust the universe as though or another so noted as the universe trying to make itself known to you assist the Universe by saying, hey, universe,

Unknown Speaker 11:55
I see you.

Brandon Handley 11:56
I see you given me all this, and I thank you. Right, give thanks. Believe what is the line that I've been shouting recently is believe receive and gift thanks, grateful. You let it go and give something to somebody else. I mean, that's a, we're getting into the next chapter already, I get myself anyways. So assisted by showing some attention, create miracles with the expectation that they will happen at least 50 times a day. This is I need to do more work on this. This is why I'm not rushing through this book. Because I need to pay attention to the lessons I need to motivate myself inspire myself to do these more myself, what's this game, why I'm going through this, this is not just to share it with you, so that I pay close attention to details of what I know will make me successful and, and take action on some of these things, right? So listen, there will be flubs, there will be there's no out of those 50 I don't know how many you're gonna get,

Unknown Speaker 13:04
I don't have any, I

Brandon Handley 13:04
don't know what your belief system is, right? I don't know how many filters you've got set up, I don't know how clogged up your drains are to let some of this shit in. And that's gonna, you know, that's gonna, that's gonna impact a lot, it's going to impact a lot of what happens there. So the deal is, there are going to be some don't come come through, right? There are going to be some that do. Focus on those wins, jot them down, write them down, say, Whoa, feel elated. Let it happen. And initially, you know, this, this is going to change, this is going to change your way of thinking. And you're going to be excited, and you're going to call it out. But over time, over time, this is going to just become a part of your daily, it's gonna become part of your daily, you're going to begin to accept that the universe does work in this manner that you do need to close the universe as though it were another just get into it, man, give it a shot. As you as you kind of begin to accept it for yourself, you're going to notice that the number of events that you consider miracles are going to increase. This is when you need to, you know, take this as a signal to start making bigger and more important things to happen. Our belief systems have so many walls up and filters in the way for this that even even if you see the small ones happening, it's challenged to start making this larger leap. I'm only telling you because that's been true for me. And I need to take this to heart myself and and start making bigger and more important things happen and allowing for the universe. Right? And I don't think that there's any better time then than right now especially as we we head into the Age of Aquarius. Look, I'm not like this astrological. All these things but let's use some of these things as symbols and like when they show up in your life as parts of miracles and all the other stuff, of all the times of all the things of everything happening in the universe right now. We're living in a pretty crazy awesome time, right Frank and junction moved into the Age of Aquarius, when 400 trillion. Listen, the start to use some of our galaxy billions of galaxies, right? Just imagine that some of these forces are taking place in your life right now how can you apply them as though this were some type of mental kung fu and you're going to use the, you're going to use the the great momentum of the universe to to your own benefit. And so at some point, though, this becomes commonplace and simply a way of life. I have this one thing with my with Meg, who's got her Etsy shop up and running. And sometimes, so no, say hey, well, I didn't make that much money this week, or you're just talking about the the amount of money that you're making, as large or small, then you know what, take away these labels, and just realize that it's a happening, it is happening. That is, it's not it's not a large or small thing happening. It's happening, period. And it is a miracle. If that's how you want to see it. We're gonna pause on this one, and then we're gonna jump into who, let's let's, I don't know how many, how much longer it's gonna take. But like I said, I think this is a really powerful chapter, one of the most powerful chapters in my mind. And one of the ones that if you're not going to apply any of the other ones, apply this 100%

Welcome back spiritual dope. We are headed through what are we headed through, we're headed through, are you ready to succeed, you can change the universe, we just got done finishing up with how to create miracles in your life. And right now we're going to go through a couple of the helpful hints, a couple of helpful hints and of creating miracles. First of all, do not share this process with others. And the reason is, is they will share their skepticisms and bring you down if you're not familiar with the story of the kui crab.

Or the crabs in a bucket story is the idea that as the crabs are trying to leave the buckets, the crabs beneath it will reach up and pull it back down right almost as to say, Hey, don't go out past that room. We don't know what's out there can't be safe, you better stay here in this bucket with us. When you try to share this miracle mindedness stuff with others, they will poopoo you and they will you know, wet blanket, Debbie Downer all that shit. So here's the deal. Do it silently. And allow for your own fate to develop a lot. See this stuff for yourself. Start with something small. Write start with small stuff. And the reason I say start with small stuff is because it'll be easier for you to see it happen with small stuff than it will with the large stuff right here. You just trust me on that one. Right? And allow for your own faith to develop allow for yourself to build that muscle of miracle, you know, miracle creative muscles. And it may take longer for some than others. And that's okay, stick with it. You know, if you if you've made it this far, and you'd be gone at all. Here's the thing is, if you've done it at all, if you've done it once, if you've done it twice, if you did just one day of it, then you probably saw a result. All right. And you can't go back after that. You can't go back after that. So you can produce miracles. You can engineer coincidences. There's the the the idea even in the beginning of the book is like you can make these serendipitous moments happen. He shares a story in the book I'm not gonna I'm gonna go ahead and go pass it. I'm trying I'm trying to think of some of my own. The house was one right The house was one my job so the work that I've ever gotten in my life evolved been in by some shape or form a miracle. The job that I currently have right now is is something that I did not consciously create, but I did consciously create so how does it how does how does that look? So right now I work at a technology company, a service provider company that you can we have over, we have hundreds, almost like, you know, 1000s of OEMs. And, and some of them are huge right now, if you look at Microsoft, Amazon, and then you look at the industry that I get to play in, it's with gaming media and all this other stuff. And the thing is, these are all things that like I looked up to and love as I was growing up, and now I find myself smack dab in the middle of being able to help these people create the things that I loved, right? So I get to participate in gaming at Activision Blizzard conversations with them. Me and Microsoft, it's just crazy. Right? So how does that happen? To guy that, you know, never finished college.

Unknown Speaker 20:55
Right?

Brandon Handley 20:56
How do I end up in this place in space, it's not something that I kind of created by way of miracle, right. And if I, even if I go back, and I look at it, I did create it consciously at some point where I said, hey, yeah, that's the job. I would like, I'm not going to shove and push and, you know, all this force and energy into it, this is what I like. And it did come to me by by way more of of allowance. And buy, don't believe receive and give thanks. It showed up right when I needed it. Right when I you know, pandemic hate. This job showed up and in a way that I needed it more than anything else. And that's not a miracle. I don't know what is right. So I'm willing to look at it that way. And I'm willing to go back and look at it my

Unknown Speaker 21:57
own.

Brandon Handley 22:03
My own my part in the process, right? How did I How did I take part in this? And I did not do it by myself. I did it with the help of the universe, I could have done it by myself, how does somebody do anything by themselves? They don't? Again, it's when they think that they are the ones doing it all by themselves that I think that there's a large there's a restriction of flow of restriction on the flow of what is possible for you, especially if you feel like you've got to do it all by yourself. How much can do by yourself? versus how much can you do with the assistance of the universe? Who's on your side at all times? All right. riddle me that Batman so so here, listen, to change, to change your universe, discard the model of frantic doing this is also awesome one. Honestly, this is another one that you let go of the frantic doing when you practice a little bit of surrender when you when you take on the ownership of I'm not doing this by myself, I'm doing this with the universe. Because this sigh of relief, right sigh of relief, a little bit of calm wash this whole view and a little bit of allowing the power, the energy that creates worlds right connection to source to flow through you and towards that what you truly desire. That's a fabulous feeling. So the current model of life for most is the harder I work, the luckier I get. Now listen, I believe I believe in preparation, and believe in pre paving. I believe in creating a vision, I believe in establishing a goal I believe in walking towards it, right. That's all part of visualization. That's all part of having faith in yourself. I mean, it's no different. But the you know, to put a huge emotional focus and energy into a specific way of how it has to happen that is by your own plan and by your own design. Leave you leave a lot to be desired in that on this and so the harder I work the luckier I get this is like in relationships, you know, how many times have you struggled to get into relationship and in the end of that relationship, you got the girl you want and you live in the house that you want to live in, in the neighborhood that you want to be in at all fuckin sucks. And you end up like you're on a hamster wheel and, and you're like, you're like, well, this is this. I've been around people like this. Right? This is just how life is this is the reality of life. This is everybody goes through this. This is that. It's no different for everybody else. Everybody does this.

Unknown Speaker 24:58
That's not

Brandon Handley 24:59
fucking True. That's not true. It can't be true. Right? This is a reality, this is not the reality. And you get to choose which model of reality you are going to work with. So when you change, so does the universe. The the alternate to frantic doing is calm being, Bob Proctor has a line for this one. Yeah, he goes, I don't need to slow down, I need to calm down. And this, this brings to mind, the idea of when you excite when you are excited, and molecules are excited, there is a there's a frenzy that's built, there's just bounce around every which way in every direction. Or that and then there's, you know, calmness, a surety of confidence that happens by repeated practice over time, right? That's when you go and you do the things you know, you wrestle with your kids, and you know that it's calm, and it's easy, you're not not you're not expending too much energy. You write your name, you do the things that you do every day, there's a calmness that you do within, right, and you can find that same calmness in everything. It's just a matter of again, you know, something happens, something pops up, you don't overreact to it, you step back, you take a breath, you realize, hey, what's happening here in this moment, right? Use the witness, leverage the witness, as you begin to Nugent leverage to leverage the mental chatter, all the stuff. So and you'll begin to understand that each time as you're changing your mental models, as you go forward, you are becoming different person. And the interesting thing is that the universe has no choice. This is a his his words. industry, the universe has no choice but to change in accordance with the person that you will become. If you haven't heard that from Bob Proctor. If you haven't heard that from Abraham Hicks, if you haven't heard that, from the Bible, Buddha, I don't know every you know, the people that have made it. Throughout the millennia. Elan musk even has most recently a line, you know, of, you know, every person's got a level of understanding that at some point, when you get to that level of understanding, and you begin to see this happen for yourself. It's pretty intense, right? So many cases, as men, he says it's more efficient to do the internal work, meaning again, just like I said, there, do some of this to sort of voices judgment, clear outside mental clutter, lovers, lovers, the lovers to witness and all that type of internal work, do the gratitude and, and you're gonna feel like a different person, you are going to project or you see a mirror of who you become on the external, that doesn't mean that they're still not the external stuff that needs to get done. I still have to reply to emails, I still have to record this podcast, I still need to send it out, I still need to, you know, do all the external stuff, show love, eat all these things, right? You still need to do those things. Just much less than you thought sometimes it's great to let go of some of the timelines and the ways that you think things have to happen and allow for them to happen. And sometimes they happen in ways that are much more to just cooler, right? They're very, they're much cooler, they're much more spontaneous. There. They are miracle stories, you could tell them here like wow, that happened in a way that I never could have written about right? I never could have forecasted. But it does, right. He says the example he uses of kind of searching for a job. And when you become clear on what it is that you want, the universe will show itself to you with ease, meaning the path will open up for you and it becomes quicker and instead of it. It's kind of like take the idea of a walk in sand dunes in the Sahara right walking up sand is is a pain. Yes. And takes a lot of energy. you exert yourself and it's just hot and annoying and sand everywhere. Nope, nope. no bueno.

Versus getting hot to lose track right? It becomes so fast and accelerate even think about the Hyperloop right? You just you just get sucked in and pulled in along the way and it's so crazy because you're not you're not Pushing anymore you're being pulled

out, I'm just thinking about it because it's so true, like methley is so true. And there's just there's this way that that happens. And with ease doesn't mean that it's easy, right? It does mean that it is with ease. And there's this, there's this wonderful sensation that happens when you're doing it. So practice over time. So it says here, largest, largest stumbling block, I mean, flip over to the page. It's a, one of the largest stumbling blocks is

Unknown Speaker 30:44
to do to do

Brandon Handley 30:48
that, I mean, look, the largest on the block to me, I can't find it right here is that we? We, we don't believe yet, right? The largest stumbling block is that we don't believe. And, of course, if we don't believe we can't perceive what's happening in front of us. And you will believe that all this stuff is happening when you start seeing it in front of you. I'm sorry, I lost track there, guys. So as we kind of, you know, there's gonna be the frantic, you're not gonna be able to stop the frantic doing right away, right? So you'll keep doing that. But at the same time, start doing some of these smaller things where you do allow for the universe to step in, and you allow for universe to participate with you. Right? It is and it is allowing you're not it's it's funny, because you're not the center of the universe is allowing you to do something as you are allowing the universe to work with you. It's like I Oh, come on in. Right, like can't Yeah, vampires can't come into your house unless you invite them in. Same thing with universe you can't come in and can't work with you in a way that is in tandem, right in a way that is beneficial to both unless you to agree to work with each other. Right? And if you're if you're a fan of like, all that stuff, right? You most likely sign some type of soul contract somewhere with the universally hey, here's how this is gonna go now. And universe is gonna show up, knock on the door and like, go away. I'm busy. I got the chicken under control. And the thing is, you don't right. You're frantic. You're going crazy with it. And you're like, at some point, you have this breakdown this meltdown, you're like, this is fucking bullshit. Life sucks. And you're like, I could really use some hope. And you let the universe like knocks again, you're like, go away, I don't believe you. And then one day, you're just like, fine. Okay, come on in. Let's go. Right? I'm gonna go back to the idea of, you've got beliefs so deep right now that this is impossible for you. Most likely, right? that these aren't interference on the reception to and from the universe. Work on your reception, right? work on allowing, you know, allow it allowance could be something just as simple as somebody gives you a compliment. Work on that. Because if you don't accept compliments, if you don't accept gifts, if you don't accept just a simple Thank you with grace and ease, how are you going to accept the infinite power of the universe to flow through you as again? You agreed to do with it when you came in, right, that's probably on the back of some universal bar napkin that has you know, tear stains and and shenanigans on the back of it. Like oh, man, I love you, man. Let's

Unknown Speaker 33:42
go to sleep tonight. And

Brandon Handley 33:43
you wake up next day you're on planet Earth, you know what the fuck does happen? anywho. So let's say keep track of your successes. Ignore the failures. Keep doing what works. I mean, this is another one that I got from Bob Proctor as well. You know, stop doing the shit. That doesn't work. Right? That didn't work. Stop doing it. That did work. Wow, that works. Keep doing more of that. Right? That works with children that works with your job that works everywhere. On a run right to the end here. You know, a note of caution. Once you head down this direction, you can't go back. There's no going back. It's like the fucking matrix. Man. It's like the red pill blue pill. You can't unknow this. You can't undo this. Once you create and accept miracles in your life. Once you see your life as America once you see that everything is a miracle. You're in man, you're injured. You're part of the you're part of the circle of trust. Right? You will be teamed up with the universe Do you need Who else do you need with you at that point? Right. And you may think this is shenanigans you may think and slop jokes you may believe this can't be possible for you. real question is what do you have to lose? I can think of a couple things you might be able to lose, you might be able to lose 10 minutes of a crappy show that you watch on TV, you might lose 10 minutes of the news, you might lose 10 minutes of sleep, if you went to go to 10 minutes a day, right is all that it is all it takes to create a miracle. And if you're not willing to create miracles, or see them show up in your life, for the absolute cost of 10 minutes of your life a day. Again, your choice, no problem, no skin off my back. I'm just here to present some information. And I'm here to do it as objectively as I can. But also, I've had these experiences myself. So what do you have to lose? Try it out. Keep with it, you absolutely will find yourself in a whole new world. And, you know, even he's even even Dr. Houses in his book, because it's not here to make, you know, shove this on you. Where's, where's it, I get to the back of the book, no to caution, did it.

Unknown Speaker 36:09
Just look,

Brandon Handley 36:12
because I have seen innumerable people discover this from sales, I cannot provide you with persistence that you'll have to supply from within yourself. He says, trust me when I say it'll be well worth it. You've got supply around persistence, right? You've got to you know, you've got to be the one that is able to supply your own belief. You've got to be the one that identifies and labels it as such, again, those are yours to create. And this is your reality, right? This is a reality, not the reality, your model. How can you put this to work for you? And, you know, where's the last line here, one second here, I'll pause it for a second while I go look for it with there it is when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change, ah, how many times I hear that before implementing some of the stuff into my own life, tons of times. And every time it got that same noise out of me. So try it for yourself and see if it doesn't happen for yourself. Again, the worst thing that can happen is that maybe it doesn't work out for you. And you chalk it up to bullshit and shenanigans or you begin. I hate to say you begin because you always have created miracles. But now you begin to notice that you are the one who's influencing the universe. You begin to see exactly how powerfully you are able to show up when you allow yourself to show up. And that's going to wrap us up

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ARE YOU READY TO SUCCEED | CHAPTER 05 | DEEP DIVE 2 of 3

Published: Dec. 29, 2020, 1:06 a.m.
Duration: 10 minutes 23 seconds

A couple of links were promised on this one:

https://theraoinstitute.com/learn/

random love and kindness meditation : https://www.mindful.org/this-loving-kindness-meditation-is-a-radical-act-of-love/

Brandon Handley 0:00
Welcome back spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here voice of a generation of people that they see the microphones I've got when I'm on my, my work calls zoom calls. And I'm like, that's, that's pretty big Mike, what are you gonna do Sing for us that the chokes got to happen, right. And I'm always a pretty sure is the last thing that you want, bro anywho we are working through chapters, chapter five, you can change the universe, we just got done doing the law of increase. And we're going to do walk through a couple of exercises, and then helpful hints, and then we'll cut it and then we'll continue through the chapter. This one's a little bit longer than some of the others again, feel a key, Dr. Rao snuka snuck one in here that is a true gem. And and it bears much attention. There's much attention. So appreciation and gratitude exercise, this was pretty simple. If you don't already have a gratitude exercise, I imagine most of you listening do. The idea, though, is that this is the last thing that you do at night. Last thing you do at night is that you write down things that you are grateful for that have occurred during that day. So please give some focus and some things that you're grateful for during that day, spend about five to 10 minutes doing this. And do do it at least for a week, do it at least for one week. And I know that historically, I haven't done this one at night, even though again, I've gone through this book several times. And I've done it more often in the morning. This past week, I probably did it three days out of the week. And what I really love to do before I go to sleep is to put on like some other audio or something like that. I'll usually listen to some Vedanta society out watts, whatever, you know, whatever Swami is hot that weekend when Brian and I'll put out some audio. And so since it says right here, the last thing you do at night, I haven't been doing that. And I've been going to sleep right after I write out this gratitude. And he says, Hey, pay special attention to your morning chatter after you do this, I can tell you, I can tell you that there's a massive difference between doing these when you wake up versus doing it when you go to sleep. And of course, I'm going to go ahead and I'm gonna, I'm going to plug the subconscious again, that when you're going to sleep and you do this, and you love some of this information into your subconscious, that you're you're planting seeds that are overnight germinating and just setting your mind straight and you're getting you're getting that mental chatter to be the mental chatter that you want to hear. You want to see your appreciation, gratitude. So that's the first one. And and I can tell you again, if you haven't done it at night and made that the only thing that you do again, I have done it where I still put on some audio afterwards. And who knows who's duplos Mario from done? What happens is, it's almost like gibberish. Yeah, you interrupt the signal, right? You blur the signal, like old school, gravity or antennas, or maybe you're driving through a tunnel, and you got a satellite radio, you lose connection for a little bit, right? You've disrupted the signal that you've created for yourself. Especially in the very beginning when you're when your signals faint and weak to begin with. That's what some of this other stuff does, right? It's a massive interference between what you're trying to create and your belief in it working right. So, just got a part two to this appreciation and gratitude. This is in tandem or long with or as, as you as you kind of gotten stronger or better with appreciation, gratitude exercise number one. And that's going to be include moments of gratitude within the day. I do it with your heart, do it with your body. Really, really feel that emotion really, really feel that gratitude. I would I would dare say that gratitude is more of a feeling.

It's a thought and a feeling. It's a thought and a feeling. You do it with your heart do it do it with your mind, or just for a minute, merge them all and really connect and really feel, really feel it. That's when it's the most powerful. And he says, you know, do this throughout the day include moments of gratitude within the day. And just notice your tenor throughout the day. Very similar to noticing your mental chatter, your voice a judgment includes your witness in that so that what is your tenor? What is Brandon feeling right now you can see the feeling, you can almost see the emanation of emotion when you are in gratitude and it's just as much larger field of vibration, it's a clean and clear and wonders signal. helpful hints This one's kind of fun. I mean, because look, ideally to as you're going through it, don't just apply this appreciating gratitude to yourself and the things apply this appreciation and gratitude to the people around you. Look for the things that that maybe historically, you'd been like, you know, this person's put some me off this person's a challenge and get out of this kind of victim mentality role. Put yourself in their shoes, understand and make the meet this huge attempt. This was a shift for me, but make this huge attempt to love everyone as they are. All right. love everyone as they are as they exist currently, right now. And understand that they are doing the chances are that in that very moment of their lives, they're doing the best that they know how, even if you feel like they're being lazy, even if you feel like they're not pulling their way, even if you feel like for some reason they're trying to be some versiv to who and what you are. Give them love because they're teaching you something. They are teaching you something. And that's the lesson, right? The lesson is, everyone is kind of a mirror of who you are, if there's a trigger that they're triggering within you. What does that trigger? Why are you triggered that way? Give them love for teaching you that lesson. He also says hey, if challenged with others, well realize that you're actually wishing yourself well, right? Just because what's what's the line? You know, wishing others well is like, you know, something like the drinking the poison line. So big one there. And I think I think that's it's important, right? To go through life, honestly, not mistake, I was taught that honesty means you know, I salute the Divinity within you, right? See the divine and everyone around you realize that they their light is just as bright as yours. Even if they can't see it for themselves. Even if you feel like they're breaking their lightbulb and trying to stab you with it. They're not. Right. They're not just to see them as you see yourself and I think that the other line is you know, love your neighbors as you love yourself. You know, make sure that you love yourself properly or enough so that you are able to love others in the same manner. So let me see here. So again, he says, Hey, you will soon see this practice increases the good things in your life and it will not take long. I promise you this, there's there's a there's this huge elimination of stress when you can look at everybody as doing the best they possibly can. As as you're giving them love, as you're thinking positive thoughts about them. Another great exercise for this one is a loving kindness meditation, make a jot here on section two. Right here, your pencil going down here. If you do, that's great. If you don't, that's great to a section to add in loving kindness, meditation, if you've never done one, this is really nice and life altering as well. And I think it actually leads into the next chapter. We get begin to and listen, maybe you're not but I know that I definitely have been lived in this nice energy universe that and again, we'll talk more about that in the next chapter. You do this loving kindness meditation, and you get to start to

give your love to others in just like 10 to 15 minutes a day doing this and there's such as wonderful reduction in stress and this wonderful sense and feeling of giving that up. I think you'll you'll truly appreciate it. We will be stopping here as we mosey on through chapter five or E rates succeed you can change the universe

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ARE YOU READY TO SUCCEED | CHAPTER 05 | DEEP DIVE 1 of 3

Published: Dec. 28, 2020, 12:58 a.m.
Duration: 17 minutes 33 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on spiritual dope?

Unknown Speaker 0:05
Hey,

Brandon Handley 0:05
hey, hey, Brandon Handley here the voice of a generation.

Unknown Speaker 0:11
We are live

Brandon Handley 0:12
on Christmas Day 2020. Thomas over, it's almost over everybody, we've almost made it through 2020. If you are able to listen to this podcast, if you were able to tune into what is happening here today, there's a good chance that, uh, the rest of your life is going to be super awesome, right? If you've made it through 2020 unscathed, meaning alive, you've got a lot, you've got a lot ahead of you. And this is going to be a year, of course that we all remember. At the same time, it's going to be sure that we're all just as just as ready to get beyond just ready to get beyond. So we are still working through, are you ready to succeed. And we are on chapter five, you can change the universe. This is the chapter where it finally dawned on me just how powerful this book was laying a little bit of incense over here, we get ourselves into the mood. But I was sitting on a plane flying I think out to Denver, a friend and I were we're having a conversation online earlier that day, about you know, miracles, just in general about becoming medically minded. And as we go through this chapter, you're going to understand exactly why he sneaks in, right? I know that I put it in here somewhere that he sneaks, this kind of squeezes this chapter in, underneath of, to me, almost should be like two chapters. Right? Of course, I'm not the author, but you know, sneaks this one in here. And it's pretty awesome. Pretty awesome. So stay tuned, we're gonna get through this one here. Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, whatever holiday you celebrate. You know, the holiday I celebrate the most is every day is a holiday. I've got up on my board right now, on my whiteboard, you know that this is fun. I'm having fun, be fun. Not too long ago, I also had up on my board, my whiteboard. flyff is a treat, man, we got a joy, we got to celebrate it, we can't just can't just go through it without without looking forward to it right, looking forward to every day. So whatever day you're celebrating, I hope you're celebrating today. And today, we will be going through chapter five, you can change the universe. In addition, if you would like to get access to this mind map that I've created for this, just check on the website. I also create the videos, as I'm creating the audio so that while we are going through it, you could if you wanted to just see me kind of poking around as as we go through this mind mapping. So without further ado, the introduction to this one, you know, this is another part where I really resonated with us Sreekumar Rao, he's talking in the beginning of this just about the spirituality of his mom, as a mother, how she was super spiritual, super connected. And, you know, my mom was too, right. Just just, you know, super connected in a lot of ways. The deal is, is that, you know, when we're when we're young, and full of, you know, vim and vigor, or some vinegar, and whichever one you want to take a look at, especially as a young young man, we would just resist because we already think we know all the things you know, we we get a few right answers, we're told we're super smart. Next thing, you know, we know everything, just how just how it rolls. So his mother was super spiritual, that was kind of his foundation to a lot of this. And she thought that the universe was benevolent, right? And that, that anytime the universe was, you know, it would pull you out at all times, right? It would, and alliances would permit one to surface even when swallowed by tidal waves who just always kind of reach out, reach out to you. He also says, Hey, he resisted his mother's wisdom. Just and again, I also resonate with this so hard because I just I didn't you know, my mom had a lot of a lot of things to say that were fairly wise and I was like, No, nope, no, no, no.

And, you know, especially now as a father, right, as a parent myself, I'm like, you don't want to share, share this stuff with my own children and let them know. And I've got the full realization, though, that the, they're not going to automatically grasp it automatically and grab onto it, especially because this is this is the world that we live in, they're surrounded by a society that this isn't the loudest noise, right? This isn't the thing making the most noise out there. This is the thing that's spirituality that is, that's got this little ebbs and pockets, there's, there's fights about who's right or wrong over where the soul goes over what the soul is over what spirituality is, and it's like, holy shit, man, just let it go. So it's not too much different than you're a human, you've got a spirit, you need to attend to it, that's really it. And then you know, also recognize that the spirit of you is much larger, and greater and connected. than, than the physical sense being that you can, you can see right now. So that's my personal take, anyways, you know, we get, we get tuned into this, and we get taught this stuff, you know, when we're younger, a lot of times, but we don't have this kind of foundational obvious knowledge to be able to see it. So obviously, we're gonna resonate with everything else that we see, especially when there's only one of them, like his mother, my mother, and maybe myself. That sees it, and it's not until it becomes the mass masses, right? That it becomes kind of like this easily accepted thing, even that it becomes kind of regurgitated and a lot of a lot of one of the true message is lost in it. So anyways, you know, his his mom tells this story about, you know, or I think he tells a story about he, why, why are watermelons growing on the ground, when they're big, and they're just supported by vines and cherries, which are tiny, are supported by like this, this big tree? And at some point, you know, a cherry falls on his head. And his mom says, Well, you know, if that had been a watermelon, then that would have cracked your skull. And then he goes ahead and make some jokes, because what about coconuts? What about what about durian, which are like these large, large fruits in the trees that, you know, could fall in and crack your skull? Meaning that, hey, the universe also has these other things, what about them, not the line that his mother says that that I really enjoyed, and that we're still in the intro of this, that is that. If a boulder falls, faith, you know, we'll turn it to dust. I love that line. You know, if you think about it, anything that seems kind of impending, or when you are living in fear of the whole world or the universe, and it's kind of coming down on you just you know, over the past, over the past year and a half, I've been really fond of saying, you know, let go let God or at least acknowledge that your subconscious is connected to something so much larger than you and give some trust over to your subconscious and your imagination to convert those worries into something, again, that you can handle. ie if a boulder should fall, have faith that the universe will help you out, be benevolent or that you're more powerful subconscious will turn that boulder into dust into something manageable that you can handle. And you see it happen every day. How many times have you heard me say, I'm going to go ahead and trust a thing that is able to pump blood that's going to take when I fall asleep at night, I don't have to worry about whether or not I keep breathing. my subconscious keeps me freezing, there is something alive and intelligent in me that says hey, B, go ahead, you go to sleep. And we'll go ahead and keep your your as alive. Right? So who whatever is doing that for me every night that I've ever fallen asleep for my entire life anytime ever and keeps pumping the air into my lungs. I'm going to trust that okay. And that's within me and connected to something else. That's my opinion. I'll kind of take it. So proof cuts both ways. Moving on, you know, coming into proof cuts both ways is hey, here's the idea of you can witness be witness to the winds or you can be witnessed To the ruins that is you can say, Hey,

I expect nothing but the worst to happen all the time and be you can be the person that says, oh, there it is there happened, I told you, you know, that shitty thing was going to happen or you can be witness to the winds, and you can be optimistic and you look, you can look forward to them. And, and, and exists, right both of them kind of exist. Looking here in the book real quick here. You know, ideally, look, it's a choice, right? You can live right in a world where you know, the the universe destroys those boulders for you. Or you could live in a world where there's all kinds of misfortune and crap out there in the world, right? And the deal is, you have a choice on which would you pay attention to? I'm not sure that we've gotten there yet. There's another part and i'll go ahead. So it's your choice, right. And Dr. Rao makes this note, you don't need to have a revelation to make this change. You can do it right now, this has been part of my very own platform for a number of years, where a lot of people tell you that, in order to have this kind of spiritual awakening or law, not even a spiritual weakening, when you have this, this whole life change that comes over you. It doesn't have to be after you fucking hit rock bottom, you don't have to wait till you are crushed under the weight of the world. You can do this. As soon as you're ready. You can do this as soon as you are ready. Moving on, we're going to step into the law of increase. And the idea is, can you take you have the opportunity to take a look at the universe as as a conscious entity, right, and is intimately intertwined with you and everything that it is that you do. Now, he talks about let's see here, it talks about the idea that you can you know it I love this, it wants to give you what you desire, and you are able to influence it, you have the capability to influence it. And here's, here's one of the here's one of the ways that you can influence it. And if you've heard this one before, stop me. But hey, whatever you are truly grateful for and appreciate will increase in your life, right? And the idea is that you just you just got to start doing it right? You just got to start paying attention to what it is that you're you're grateful for. He says, Hey, skeptical, I don't blame you. Since I once felt this way. I know that I can't change your mind. And that's, this is one of those things that you can't tell somebody that this is going to happen. You simply need to try it for yourself and apply it for yourself before you start seeing it. You start seeing it happen. And he tells the story of two dogs, right. There's there's a, it depends on who's telling the story. I think I remember first hearing it from Zig Ziglar he's talking about the anyway, Indians and how they're up. They're having dog fights. And the grandfather was the one who did the dog fights and it was never the same dog. But the grandfather always got the same dog. You know, always bet on the same always bet on the winning dog. And the child goes, Hey, well, how how do you know which one of these dogs is going to win every time? Right? How do you know which one of these dogs is going to win every time grandfather goes, Hey, the one that wins is the one that you feed. The one that wins is the one that you feed. Alright, so wrap it back up there and we'll look at you know, when you give your energy to that what you are truly grateful for and appreciate. You will inherently see more of that in your life. That is not to say that is not to say that you're not going to have things in your life that aren't going well for you. You will we all will look there's going to be things that pop up in our life that need to be addressed. Right. All these things need to be addressed. And you will do what needs to be done to fix or contain the bad but you will not expand emotional or psychic energy on it gives you a story and and of when we first moved into our current house, we first moved in some big big house and

I was concerned every, it's actually a bitch and whine and moan and every time I hear the heat turned on in my mind, like, Ah, geez, there goes, there goes another 10 bucks, you know, just for firing it up, right? And it was pretty cool. The window was pretty cool. We're getting down to, you know, 20s teens, and it went out, the heat went out. So do universes like, well, he wants to have to stop happening. He wants this bad thing to stop happening, I was investing emotional and psychic energy on it. And guess what it increased, it increased in a way that I didn't want it to right that dog, the one that I was feeding was not the one that I wanted to win. And that's scenario. So when I was a when we got it repaired, when we got it repaired. The the emotion and psychic energy that I spent on the heat being back in my life was was that of joy, right of gratitude. Like, I am happy that I have he, I am so happy and grateful that I receive a heat bill at the end of every month. Because that means that my heat worked throughout the month that I was able to pay for the bills, that you know that I still got an account that's in good standing, that I'm able to stay warm and comfortable in my life. So those are a couple of things that even when you think about the law of increase, and it will go in both ways. But the idea is that you want the dog that you want to win is the one that you are, you're truly grateful for right the one that one that you're really happy to have. So again, I know that I showed the emotional and psychic energy on something that wasn't great. But I also showed you what happened. What when you put your energy on, you know, whichever dog so I've got plenty of stories don't get me wrong, I've got plenty of stories. That's this first one that comes to mind of when things have have gone right and or well, but this also just shows what happens when you expand emotional and psychic energy on the things that are not great in your life. Cut it here and we'll get on to section two

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Randy Hyden | Sober. Soulful. Successful.

Published: Dec. 27, 2020, 6:48 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 26 seconds

The upcoming summit that will be a launch for the membership group. Summit will be 3 days and called Sober. Soulful. Successful. and have speakers than embody these topics.The thread through all this is that we can examine our problems, our pain, our passions and find our purpose in life - which is so needed to counteract temptation to return to self-abusive lifestyle. My getting clear on our intrinsic motivation, we can ask ourselves, "What is more important right now- immediate satisfaction or long term gratification?"So many people are working poor. Plus, they are doing a job that they hate. When we get clear on our highest values, surround ourselves with people who share these same values, live in alignment with self evident principles, we can get clarity and confidence to be more like the person we were born to be - (which is an internal state of being) We were not born to have anxiety, burnout, regrets, resentments and shame. Get those head trips less important to you and you will easily recognize what makes you come alive and the you will do it!

Head on over to https://www.aattitudeofgratitude.com/about/aags-founder/ to find out more about Randy Hyden

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Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one to hear. You've questioned so much more than those around you. You've even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general You're so limited in a thought process for sure. You are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside get can't quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast to show the answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you. This world the people in it? Most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don't have to have all the answers, but we sure do love living in the question. Time for another head of spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let's get right into today's episode.

Brandon Handley 0:43
For three, actually, how do I pronounce your last name?

Unknown Speaker 0:47
heighten?

Brandon Handley 0:48
tiden? Okay, Randy hyden. Right. Yeah, good. Yeah, I can't tell you the number of times I put your somebody's name by accent then can I got it? So just make that a practice of asking before we get going cold everything but a gentleman. Fair enough. Fair enough. 54321. Hey, there, spirituals open. Thanks for tuning in to another interview episode I am on today with Randy hyden. He is the creator of attitude for gratitude flow. And he's coming up to you with a new summit. That's going to be three days. That's called sober soulful and successful. I used to have speakers that embody these topics. And, you know, Randy, and I connected kind of in some odd areas. And I haven't told Randy this yet. But Randy was brand new saying like everything that was on my mind. And like Facebook and posts, I was like, man, I gotta get to know this guy. And we did Connect. And so that's pretty much the genesis of how we got john here today. Randy, did you know that I was talking? I was like, you're just saying everything on my mind?

Randy Hyden 2:02
Well, I find humor in that because I recognize that you were what you were posting was like, so I don't know, maybe? Maybe we're the same person in two different dimensions.

Brandon Handley 2:14
Well, I mean, I think that that's interesting, though, too, right? We just we have the same kind of the same things kind of on our hearts, and we're sharing them out there with the public. And I think that that's a I think that's neat. Um, you know, just kind of, uh, you know, that everybody talks about vive and are resonating. And there you go, right. We're like two different tuning forks on the opposite side of the country.

Randy Hyden 2:34
Yeah, it is cool. Yeah. Because there's, you know, we read about this stuff, but until you actually experienced it, it's all concept. For sure, for sure. is very real.

Brandon Handley 2:45
Yeah, absolutely. So I like to start these off Randy, with the idea that you and I are vessels for creative energy, God universe, whatever you want to say. And that, you know, there's a message coming through you for somebody listening to this podcast today. And it can only be delivered through you. So what's that message?

Unknown Speaker 3:10
Uh,

Randy Hyden 3:13
well, the theme for all the groups with the summit and the free membership group and Facebook and the paid membership group flow, is to be more like the person you were born to be. May I explain how I came to that message?

Brandon Handley 3:32
Absolutely pleased to. Okay,

Randy Hyden 3:34
so because our listeners may not know, I am 13 years sober. Coming up next week will be 14 years sober. And so that's, that's something I'm very proud of. Especially because what I was new, like many people in the first year of sobriety was a day by day sometimes by an hour by hour proposition. And during those difficulties, gentleman who eventually became my sponsor, mentor, Bob, he, he told me it goes, if you hang around and do this thing, eventually you'll be more like the person you were born to be. Actually, if they could get it since this crowd is okay with the word God, he actually said, you'd be more like the person God made you to be and get the goosebumps right now. And so that was the promise I held on to in the beginning. And frankly, I still I hang my hat on that. In the beginning, I had no idea I used to pray God provide all that's needed and move what's not for me to be more like the person you made me to be. I've said that prayer, or some form of it countless times, hundreds of times, maybe maybe over 1000 times. I've prayed prayed that. And up until recently, I had no idea what the heck that was. And honestly, on the outside, I still don't even know what it is. But on the inside within me what I carry with me, I believe that none of us were ever created to carry around anxiety. We're not meant to be burned out. Regret, resentment, and most of all shame. I do it, perhaps I'm just some kooky guy. Well, I am kooky guy. But again, maybe this this is is only something that I just carry with me. But I really truly believe in everything I want to bring out as messages. And so it's we were never made to carry around the shame that we do. So that's what the intention is, again, long, a lot of letters and words and in such a cut out that to reinforce what I mean by to be more like the person you were born to be? No, I

Brandon Handley 5:47
mean, I look, I love that, right. And I think that, um, you know, what you're speaking to is really, what happens somewhere along the journey. And maybe not to everybody, but to more people than we're aware of, because you're talking about this. I, you said you didn't realize what this meant, until more recently, right. And it's not something that's easy for you to put into words. But it's a more than a feeling, right? It's more than a feeling. And, and as you and I connected, you can kind of tell who's in that space. Right? So why don't you talk to me a little bit about what that space? Where would you be comfortable with calling? I mean, I don't think the you know, awakening, maybe not your term. Nor is like, you know, finding your true self? or How would you describe it for somebody that's curious about what that means to you?

Randy Hyden 6:50
Well, thank you. Because honestly, that's been part of my challenges. This thing's been percolating in me for years. But trying to talk about something that, again, as I mentioned, I don't even really fully understand, I just know, I have a thing about me right now where I could move with a lot less resistance. You know, my intention is to experience and express inspiration. So others may do the same in their own unique way. And together, and we make the world a little better place. With that intention, I I don't sweat things like I used to. I give myself a lot more room to be imperfect. And that's, like, 1000 miles away where I was 14 years ago. But even then, again, he's progressing. And yeah, you know, we try to, you know, talk about things that no, it's like, joked around about us, you know, frequencies and then the, and maybe we're the same person in two different dimensions and stuff. I mean, it's all concepts. It's all words, it's, we're trying to communicate something that really truly, it's difficult, if not impossible to communicate, but when it's experienced. You can you can talk about love in such earlier. Oh my gosh, yeah, I remember my best friend, he fell in love before I did. And I saw the change. His girlfriend was a friend also, as well, we hung around a lot. And I saw the change in both of them. And I thought it was the coolest thing. Really, really happy for both of them. But I you know, I had no idea what love was until I fell in love. That makes sense

Brandon Handley 8:42
that absolutely absolutely right. Again, these are these are things that these are things I always joke about the the idea of, if you would have told me maybe three or four years ago that I'd be doing this spiritual dope, personal, personal development space, and all these other things I might have punched in the face, Randy, I might not have been to because you look like you punch me back. And I might get fucked up. But the whole, the whole idea is that there's no way that I would have found myself in this space until I you know, went through the space. And then you hear people always saying, trust the process. I'm like, now like, trust the process. Right? It has, you know, that has meaning now, whereas before, it had not

Randy Hyden 9:30
zactly Exactly. And of course, we all assign meaning to everything every moment, consciously and unconsciously. And naturally, how I'm going to view the meaning of our time together is going to be different from here then we could both say, we appreciate sharing some of your day together. We appreciate the listeners, you know peeking in on this conversation is But what exactly that looks like what that feels like and stuff. It's very unique and it's very personal. But again, something like gratitude or appreciation. Thanksgiving and stuff is a universal concept it is seems to be something that's wired into all of us. But until you experience it, but I laugh I laugh so hard when you talked about punching somebody in the face. Yeah. When I, I surrendered. If somebody had told me you're in exactly the right place you need to be. People may have heard that saying as well. Right? I sure is anything. Yeah, gotten violent. But now looking back at it and stuff. I yeah, I've said it countless times. And I tried to be a little mindful about that. You know, which is another thing, Mike. Mindfulness, what a word that gets thrown around all the time. And it's, it's very personal, it can mean different things for now. Yeah. 100%. Right, to to listen to people in a way to understand when I'm making a statement, whether that's going to be something that's possible for them to chew on

Brandon Handley 11:02
the right, I mean, that that talks to the whole idea of, you know, kind of talking to people where they are.

Randy Hyden 11:08
So, so how I get there,

Brandon Handley 11:10
I listen, I'm not

Randy Hyden 11:13
really been a challenge with we've tried to put some messaging out there, which means like marketing, and branding, and all this kind of kind of stuff, bringing this out. But you know,

Brandon Handley 11:22
I want to pause there for a second. Right, Randy, can we I think I think that marketing and branding. First for many, and even even, like, as you're talking about it, it's kind of like dismissing it for a second. But all you're really trying to do and correct me if I'm wrong is, you know, share out something that could truly benefit some people and highlight some just amazing things that you know, could theoretically, PR your experience, bring people to a great place. Right. So I mean, if you're using marketing and branding, and then again, you know, we we met through, I think James Gaffney, Jimbo, Uncle Jimbo. And, you know, his idea of branding is branding is your promise. Right? And so if you're what you know, is sticking with that for a second, you know, as you're doing your marketing and your branding for your school over here, again, just read it because I have a short term memory today, silver, soulful, successful attitude of gratitude and flow. What is your branding? What is your promise to these people that they can hang out?

Randy Hyden 12:32
Well, you know, I touched on it earlier, but it's, it's great that, you know, can we bring up uncle Jimbo? Because going through his class really helped me understand that. Just be yourself. And, and when you get back to words, like authentic, we're being authentic, the people will get, they'll dig it, and they'll hang out with you, and maybe even spend a little bit of money and stuff and those that don't dig you, they gonna hang around very long and don't sweat it. Again, you're just trying to manufacture it. Frankly, I was a big part of why I was miserable. I was using drugs all the time, I was trying to create this persona that people would like, so I could fit in. And I wasn't true to myself. And consciously and subconsciously, I really hated who I become. It's phony. It wasn't true to myself. But then it was really scary that if I did share who I was, maybe things go from bad for worse. So I just kind of bounced against the walls, sometimes literally, but metaphorically and stuff. I was trying to navigate my way and then it was just kind of the whole stuff is Hey, man, you know, just stop trying so damn hard.

Brandon Handley 13:51
Yeah,

Randy Hyden 13:52
yeah, yourself. And that's a funny thing. Oh, it winds up being probably better than I ever the persona I ever tried to manufacture. But yeah, James was huge. And after that,

Brandon Handley 14:05
yeah, no, I mean, that, you know, not for nothing. The course that course is, you know, for 100 bucks, top notch. I'm not trying to send people there, but I am at the same time. Like, I mean, go check that out. If you're going to check out a marketing course go check that one out. Where would you say, you know, the, you know, you've gone through a transition, right? You've gone through a shift. And Wayne Dyer has a movie called The shift. Have you ever seen it?

Randy Hyden 14:33
No. But I love windows, everything that I have, you know, consumed has been beneficial. So you're mentioning I'm going to stick it out? Yeah, so

Brandon Handley 14:43
absolutely. And in the in the movie talks about men going through the the shift, quote unquote, right? It's around a certain age bracket. You and I are both in it. But it talks about the change of you know Have your attention, right? What do you focus on? Right? Do you were talking about being focused kind of like on the person you were supposed to be for everybody else? And maybe some things that weren't so beneficial. And into maybe spirituality and discovering your sense of self? Is that make sense?

Randy Hyden 15:23
Oh, yeah, yeah. So what I'm hearing you mentioned about is what some people refer to as the first half and second half of life. Sure, okay, existential, an existential crisis type of thing. You know, and my understanding of it is, it's not necessarily something that is chronological, or, you know, it's based upon how many years you are, but it does commonly happen around the 40s area. Because we've gone through the process of establishing our identity, doing the things that we need to do with the egos really serving its purpose, you know, how do we dominate to get the mate? You know, the career, you know, how do we, how do we do all these things to create something that we could call security. But eventually, there comes a moment of clarity. And usually that comes through crisis, where you start realizing the paradigms that one serves, you are no longer beneficial.

Brandon Handley 16:24
Yeah. What do you think?

Randy Hyden 16:26
What your view is, though

Brandon Handley 16:28
it? Where do you where say, when? Or what was the situation you feel? You might have crossed the rat threshold?

Randy Hyden 16:36
Well, it's I'm 56. So I got sober when I was 43. And,

Brandon Handley 16:42
yes, okay, with sobriety for you. Is that what you're saying?

Randy Hyden 16:44
Yeah, so sobriety, there is the case, you know, and, yeah, it's so personal. I was in the middle of a fog and lots of confusion, lots of overwhelm happening. It's hard to really, you know, try to be definitive and objective about my experience. But that's part of the thing that's really good. When you're in the 12. If anyone's familiar with 12 step programs, the pay it forward paradigm, no one else who's suffering how you once did, you process your pain, you've gone through a lot of problems, and you found a passion. And you want to pay it forward, you would like to help others. And as I've had those opportunities, I've been able to see myself time and time again, and go, Oh, yeah, I remember that. Yeah, that's just like, if anybody is, again, if you haven't experienced, but you've heard of these concepts. It may not necessarily be resonating with you, but anybody who's gone through it, the when we talk about how I've received more than I that I've ever given, or, I mean, these people, well, the first time I ever, ever sponsored a guy, I asked my friend Alan, who eventually became my sponsor. And hey, Tony wants me to sponsor, and I don't know what to do. I haven't even gone through the 12 steps myself, which again, is gone through this proc official process. I'm like, What am I going to do? And, and Alan just smiled. And he just goes, how you may be able to help Tony may not I don't know how it goes, but I'm positive. Tony will help you. Wow. And that was enough for me to smile like you did and move forward and work with Tony. And yeah, yeah, I hope I helped him a little bit. But I know for sure without a doubt that that's been a first person than every other man since then, like from greatly and have to give credit the thing of expanding upon this to this these things flow, attitude of gratitude, the summit called you know, sober, soulful, successful, is to have a more than just Randy talking about this, but having many voices, in their own words, their own emphasis, talking about the similar thing. So we can help other people maybe experience in in their own unique way, this inspiration that comes when you're, when you're present in the moment with another person. And you're some people call it active listening. I call it listening without opinion, but being really present, right? And there's something that happens, my guess is that it's kind of like an end run around my ego. So why ego still present all the chaos and confusion, the scrimmage is going on in front of me. And somehow I snuck around the side got in the goal line. thing, for sure. My soul has been trying to tell me but there was too much noise in my head, you know that. We have these voices in our head, you know, the Buddhists call the monkey mind and stuff. And it's, it's like if you and I if I was talking over all the time, I'd never be able to hear you, right. So again, I go All these voices in my head when I can get into the state, and it's just like a meditation, I'll focus on my breathing and stuff, but I will really listen to it. And I could, maybe there still every now and then some poo get flung around in the monkey mind. But all in all, there's enough quiet that that I'm hearing something then I need to hear. And that's what I mean by experiencing inspiration. That's something that makes me just, I don't know, people out of my life,

Brandon Handley 20:31
I'm sure. You know, let's talk for just a second I mean is it is it sobriety you you feel or sobriety you feel that in of itself, or this connection to source type of thing connection to a higher power and this? This is? Quite honestly, this is why you get your head, the tagline of spiritual dope, right? Is that spiritual high? Right, of that life high? And I think you just you just said that. So we, what is that for us? Is again, is it? Is it the spiritual high that kind of keeps you going that keeps you sober? Or is it the sobriety that led you there? Right? Or is it kind of chicken in the egg? Right? Yeah,

Randy Hyden 21:18
it's it's, you know, maybe so maybe no, it's not dualistic thinking, however, I get, I came to this spiritual way of life, not by virtue, but circumstance. The 12 step is teaching you that get there are some disciplines and some actions to practice daily. For myself, I grew many times through the day of getting just getting centered. asking myself What's more, what's really important right now, what's really happening, I'm just taking the 10 deep breaths, it's just when I I'll just, I'm just again, this is my mindfulness, I realized, I'm, I'm either dwelling in the past or projecting in the future, I'm not present in furniture, usually, when I'm catching it is because I'm just not at peace, I'm just kind of a little irritated and stuff. And because I've done enough times, being I've experienced what it is to have some common peace. I could notice when it's been disruptive, before, it was just basically, dumb obedience, you know, which, again, you got to do this type of stuff, right? Want to get back to being restless, irritable, discontent, and, you know, needing to use the drugs and alcohol to supply what's needed to find some kind of peace. I think a lot I feel a lot and with people, in addictions, in the spiritual ways, are a way to be able to still dance with those demons. And and Yeah, well, Karl yune, integration, work and all that kind of stuff. That's, it's not talked about in that way. But there's methodologies in the 12 step program. It's the personal inventory is getting clarity and confirmation all those causes and conditions that brought you to this point in life. Right? And without trying to go through all with what processes yet you everybody I've known that's gone through that has a huge epiphany. For myself, the first time I did it,

Brandon Handley 23:23
decided the inventory.

Unknown Speaker 23:25
Yeah. Well, I

Brandon Handley 23:25
wanted to pause for one second that Randy because you mentioned a pretty good, a pretty good mindfulness habit that you've got. And kind of how to recognize, recognize when you're out of out of peace, you said, right, when you're not at peace, if you don't mind, just talking about what that is, again, because one of the things that we'd like to be able to share here is, you know, practical application of this stuff, right? Not just all theory, like, you know, so sounded like you said, you know, if you find that you're, you know, kind of your monkey mind stirring up or you're, you're finding some type of irritation you take you, you know, at that point in time that you are either living in the past or the future, and you take 10 centering breaths, is that what you do? Yeah, yeah. expand on that at all

Randy Hyden 24:16
right? Take the breath. So I'll kind of ask myself, like, okay, what's happening right now? Just take a few breaths, and just focus on you know, like a meditation, the cool air going in warmer air going out? And, yeah, then the answer comes to me, which again, is the point right now I'm actually kind of concerned because I've concluded countless times that it's either fear or it's love what's going on, and again, if I'm out of peace, it's some kind of fear. Because I, frankly, I use the word anxiety because people don't like to talk about they've got fears and stuff. Sure. But the past is, you know, naturally leans more towards the word of regret. But yeah, fear that I won't have something I prefer desire and lose something then I'm attached to, right? Um, you know, or my bullshit is going to get found out. Do ones that come up countless times, right? So being rigorously honest, minimizes the bullshit that's going to get found out, right? And then understanding also, frankly, it's all bullshit. Right? I know, myself, I don't take it that seriously. And if you laugh at me, and you try to insult me and stuff, again, I just kind of frame it all up with that same way. It's like, yep, you're right, you know, thing.

Brandon Handley 25:38
Right? Right.

Randy Hyden 25:39
But if there's someone that I really am kind of attached to their opinion of me, we get typically I'm not conscious of that. Right? I respect you, Brandon, if you were to say something that may or may not have been designed to twist the knife, right? I felt a little Sting, say something, right? And sold or whatever. And it doesn't mean it was intended to be that way, if I interpret it, is that that's one of those disruptions? Yeah, no, I

Brandon Handley 26:09
and I love that you brought that up, I experienced that recently, myself, you know. And through these mindfulness practices, though, that you and I are talking about, I was able to, I was able to pinpoint, and I was like, Wait a second. You know, I've attached like an authority to this person, I've, I've given this something that I mean, that's quite literally what I've done. I've given him power over me, right? whereas he has none. Right? And able to just to just notice it. And also notice, too, that could just be simply my interpretation of, like you said, my own bullshit, right? And just kind of, you know, being able to identify it and let it go.

Randy Hyden 26:54
Right, right. So again, that's the thing is you can win. In that hypothetical situation, again, where I feel the same thing. That's when I would first ask myself, you know, also just kind of, I didn't feel good for myself, a lot of my, my attention gets around the neck and shoulders areas, everybody has it in some people in the gut and stuff, but you know, I feel this and it's just like, okay, I asked, okay, what's going on right now? Take a deep breath. Me, you know, get sometimes 10 sometimes it doesn't take that many and stuff. And it's just yeah, Allison identify? Well, I have put myself beneath Brandon. Right, right. Right. Right. Yeah. Okay. And then I can do it repeat over it a couple times. And it's, it's amazing ones becomes practice. Yeah, you just did. I can. Sometimes it's, it's less than 10 seconds. I'm back centered. stuff. And if I don't have to do as deep of a inquiry into the situation,

Brandon Handley 27:51
right? What would that inquiry look like for you? Um, if you if you put me above you, what would that inquiry look like?

Randy Hyden 27:58
Thanks. That's a great question. So it is I would think a lot, it would just be good. a million questions, you know, is, why am I doing this again, it would default much more to again, kind of the self loathing type of stuff. What the hell do I think he's so great. Oh, my God, I embarrass myself this show. Listen, that, you know, it's I think a lot of people have had moments.

Brandon Handley 28:22
Absolutely. You know, that's why I think that this is this is, this is very helpful for for someone who hasn't found that yet, or hasn't identified it yet. As you and I are talking and as like I said, I just realized I did this just a couple weeks ago. You know, I was I taken a course where, you know, you were taught to identify whether or not you put someone above or below you, right, and really, no one is above or below you. But sometimes you do it by accident, right? Sometimes mentally, you just don't recognize it. And it wasn't, it wasn't until recently that it did a little click right and like, Oh my God, that's what just happened. So my hope is that if you know if you're listening today, and you hear Randy talking about this, that this is something that if someone has pissed you off, if you feel hurt by someone, the good idea to ask the question, you know, where where have you positioned them in your life so that they could do so?

Randy Hyden 29:23
Yeah, yeah. And again, mature shorthand of that is what's really important right now.

Brandon Handley 29:27
Yeah, I love that.

Unknown Speaker 29:28
Yeah. Yeah.

Randy Hyden 29:31
It call it intuition subconscious, God, universe, whatever it is. There's this small still voice that it began if I make space for it will remind me Oh, yeah. You think you're above bread? Oh, you think you're below four grand? And it's just, it's good. I don't have to discuss it much more than that. It's like, Oh, that's what's going on. Right now. We're again in the past I would have turned this into, like 1000 word essay in between my ears. and stuff and then right you know, but yeah concluding is like okay so all that stuff is fear and really truly when I can take that and make that a whole lot less important again I'm not trying to present myself as some kind of guy that's got it all figured out guru whatever I'm just sharing techniques and tips that have covered be a lot less alcoholic whatever behavior I exhibited when I was alcoholic I mean there's a thing in the in the rooms if anybody's in recovery you'll hear a phrase called dry drunk talking about is you're still thinking and feel the same way as when you were drinking you just have accidents going on. There's no entity in that person's wife. I mean no bullshit. The been in meetings where people told people to go get drunk. Wow. Because the egos you need to go get drunk right now. And, and not like it like one person would say and then would kind of echoed around the room because that person was just so far from peace. Now that I know some people might think that's crazy. And all those kind of stuff my shirt and did happen reffer I remember exactly that day we were I was sitting in around the tables. But yeah, I mean, again, that's just that kind of person where it's just basically it's it's a knee jerk reaction to somebody being so aggressive and lashing out at everybody and stuff. That almost kind of retaliating in a way that could be interpreted as revenge, or at this time, it's like, dude, oh, just go get drunk, man. Get out of this meeting. I don't care if I ever see you again, kind of stuff out extreme and this person was proclaiming? I have no reason to doubt it like 30 some years of sobriety. Wow, good 30 years that you've been abstinent, but apparently you've never gone through and done one or two that we're touching on here to try to diminish and minimize that. That and, but also want people to know that. You don't have to necessarily have gonna say things extreme. Right? The chaos, the confusion, all that kind of stuff that addicts and alcoholics are getting the bottom. Right. You can it's just human condition. Yeah, we're getting we're indoctrinated with a worldview around us. We're here. We're in North America, we're materialists, we're consumers and such. The media the messages that come around, you know, whether it's through the official propaganda or the how that those messages are repeated, or, you know, in our, in our workplaces, around our homes and stuff, you know, we start adapting these things that didn't work enough that we continue on with, you know, how does, how does this continue? Because there's a little bit of usefulness.

Brandon Handley 32:55
Sure, sure.

Unknown Speaker 32:57
Enough in it,

Randy Hyden 32:58
the bonding, we have the commonality and stuff that but yeah, but in again, is it? It's so difficult for me to say any other time than that, you know, just for a milestone of my sobriety date, November 6 2006. For me, too, because that was the first day Frankly, I think up until then, for last I don't know how long because again, it's just a blur. I didn't care if I lived or die. Sure. And and suddenly, I didn't care. Oh, you know, they they talked about, like divine intervention and stuff. I explained it any other way. Yeah, that was perfect buddy. Who goes on for years. And again, some days wishing I was dead. Just really? Don't think it's also now everything changed. Like that kind of stuff. But just the door cracked open enough. Also, and I was considering that. Yeah, you know, everything I desire. Anything I could commit to my education, my health, my career, my marriage. Anything that I could consider that I would commit to to try to make better was I school when I'm getting blackout drunk every night?

Brandon Handley 34:10
Yes. Not easy.

Randy Hyden 34:12
And, and that was the instead of the typical, okay, big deal. Now, it it bothered me.

Brandon Handley 34:20
Yeah,

Randy Hyden 34:20
I was like, man, maybe you really should stop doing this. And and that conclusion came it was just in the workplace. It was just a team building exercise, go around the table. Everybody around the table, identify somebody they respect that they you know, admire. And then the second rotation around the table was what characteristic does that person possess that you wish you possess more of? Right, render out Eric bepro best man at my wedding. So yeah. Um, Eric is a third degree black belt. He is a master technician for Nissan and Infiniti, Toyota and Lexus IS A GREAT dad, great musician. I mean, he's the guy who, man if if he puts his mind to it, he does it. Right. First Response, I named him and I was going around thinking my head what my answer would be, I was gonna say discipline. But I realized the source of Eric's discipline is commitment. Right? So again, when Eric makes a commitment, he honors it by his actions. Wow,

Brandon Handley 35:27
Dad love that. I love that

Randy Hyden 35:28
demonstrated that for me. And I knew, because we're friends and such that this was something that was not like trying to, I don't know, figure out how to do a manned spaceflight to Mars or something, right? You know, my friends can do it, then maybe I can do it. And he didn't know at that point in time, we were two different. He's in Las Vegas, I was in Southern California. So it wasn't like we're hanging around all the time. But again, somebody had demonstrated to me what it was like to be a man who could make commitments and be disciplined enough to achieve his goals in life. And therefore, you know, it wasn't like, I don't know, watching some movie where you know, you're, you're inspired by the hero and the story and all that kind of stuff. It wasn't fictional. It was, it was very, very true. And, yeah, so that's very powerful. And I, again, that happened over and over this last 14 years of people I would meet men I would meet, they would would have something that I wish I had a little bit more of. And I was very fortunate. The Psychology of this is that it's kind of Shadow Work. What we are attracted to, is something we possess in ourselves. But now, some people may have also heard it referred to and can spot it, you got it in negative form. Absolutely. So those that those people that do things that annoy us, we find unattractive, that's something we're carrying in our shadow. So again, another practical tip, when I find someone who's behaving in a manner that again, I can proclaim them to be a jerk. And write that, um, that's a moment for me to reflect and it's like going, how am I like that person? Right? Or, you know, so? Oh, yeah. And I can be a little more again, back to mindful I can just be conscious of the fact that I don't want to be loud, rude, obnoxious, but I'm gonna dominant. an egomaniac with an inferiority complex was raised. Not sure. I don't want to move through life. Okay, ready? Is it important enough for you to do something about it? Yeah. So again, having a mentor, a person that I admired, and something that I wished I could have more of, in, that they possess in their character? Yep, they could give me some tips, some techniques, couple, you know, shortcuts to how to say that I wouldn't have to necessarily take as much trial and error process to figure out how to do this. And again, it's always simple. You want to be more honest. Okay, just be more honest.

Brandon Handley 38:13
Right? It doesn't have to be complicated. Now. One of the things you know, we do here spiritual dope is we talk about, you know, how do you take these, these kind of their revelations and usually, you know, just does what they are the kind of revelations of epiphanies and new ways of being and integrate that into your daily life. And what I want to read a little bit about what you put in what you put in information that is shared with me here is you know, what, what is more important right now immediate satisfaction or long term gratification, but this other piece really kind of stood out to me as well as so many people are working poor, plus, they're doing a job they hate, we get clear on our highest values surround ourselves with people who share the same values, live in alignment with self evident principles, we can get clarity and confidence to be more like the person we were born to be. Which is an internal stuff I'm just going to finish read it because it's really great and you know, touched me when I read it is an internal state of being we were not born to have anxiety, burnout, regrets, resentment and shame. That's what's covered in the beginning. I get those headshots less important to you, and you will easily recognize what makes you come alive and and then you will do it, then, you know. So, again, you know, how that feels good to say. Feels good to feel, you know, it feels good to read. What are some ways that you can suggest to people to apply it?

Randy Hyden 39:44
Well, first, thank you for sharing that. I know those are my words. When you read them. I'm like, Yeah, I did write that. Honestly, man is I've been talking about I've retained, I don't know, 20% of that. But what I know when that was written it was very much Begin about just getting clear what's important right now getting centered, and then float out.

Brandon Handley 40:05
That's great.

Randy Hyden 40:06
And, and yeah, I'm just gonna go, that's good, man.

Brandon Handley 40:11
That's great. I mean, again, like, like I said in the beginning of the podcast, right, you know, something, we're vessels for we're vessels for creative energy, right? where, you know, if we look at God as the creator, were made his image, then we're creators, two or four attached to God, Gods with him as well, you know, all one, then again, we are creators, we are vessels for creative creativity. You know, whatever that looks like to you is one thing or another. But when you communicate, and you and you share something out the way that you wrote there, that's, you know, that's truth flowing through you. And that you're, you're you're needing to share with others. Right. And that's, that is a creation in my mind.

Randy Hyden 40:53
Yeah, so they get so as I joked around and said, it's like, it's all bullshit and stuff, you know, a person just trying to be light hearted. But on the other hand, yeah, when you talk about truth, yeah, when I can get in that, quote, unquote, spiritual state, which, whatever that is, I'm no monk.

Brandon Handley 41:14
It's a surrender state, right?

Randy Hyden 41:16
It's a state of surrender. Again, it's just again, the practice is just I do my breathing. I'm letting the noise in my head, dissipate in just calm down. And this just comes through. And it's like, I'm collaborating with God. And it's, this it comes back. I've said it already before a couple times, in stuff is. In fact, you have lots of words right now you just really can't describe this you have to experience and it's amazing. And it's, it's like life is better than you could ever ask for even even imagined. And, yeah, so therefore, again, default, you know, otters at god okay? I'm some some guests on my guest forgot, you know, kind of thing. I don't, I don't think I've had that many just flukes in my life. They're just dumb luck, dude, something came out of you. And in fact, we haven't really talked about this other thing. I've got a collection of writings when I went through my going to talk about my friend Alan and him eventually becoming my sponsor, Alan had I don't know what it was an aneurism or what exactly it was. But basically it was were a spinal cord went to his brain, it exploded where the to attack. And yeah, and I was overly dependent super codependent on this man. Right? He couldn't talk, he was doing care and all this kind of stuff. I mean, it was a major thing. It took him probably eight months before he could even like point at letters, spelling things, things out. And because I was so relying upon him to process things that were percolating in my head. I was very fortunate, a mutual friend suggested start journaling. So I've Frankly, I got a collection of a bunch of stuff that I would read to my wife. Similar you just read that to me, and she'd come back was she goes, did you write that? I talked to you every day and you don't talk like that stuff. But it was again it was not by virtue but circumstance that I was processing shit that had to come out. And and because my ego my wind and stuff, trying to discern whether this was something that is politically correct, or you know, is appropriate for for this conversation and stuff and get my being so much in my head, and instead trying to find some balance between the head and the heart stuff coming out that all Yeah, you know, this is where I guess this is like a lot of my low self esteem. And think I wasn't capable, I wasn't worthy of really being the man that against that I aspired to be also and it's just like, dude, you're you're not as big of a piece of shit as you think you are. I you know, counteract that I did get through my grandiosity and I had to get my moments of humility to come back. And when I was good about man, it's like I am either. Not right of it. I think it's the pendulum still rocks back and forth with those 100% but it's not as far and therefore it's not as long and there's, there's a lot more time where I can be centered, I can be in alignment. And I know I'm really grateful that I'm still alive.

Brandon Handley 44:39
Yeah,

Randy Hyden 44:40
I'm old. For some people. It's just again, just, you know, start going against it as you get older. But yeah, we all went at it pretty hard. When we were younger. I was no longer here and Alan died a sober man, but there were two other guys. He was smoking. When I was around mark, Marty and Tim, and I was envious of them, they hadn't made the progress they had had had the spiritual awakening before. I did. I wanted that and stuff. And for whatever reason, it didn't seem to stick with that. Of the four core of us. I'm the only one who's still on this planet. Wow. Yeah. Well, I mean, I know why they're gone and why I'm still here. But my back to guessing and in such is I think this recovery was not just for me, either. There's a big reason to my motivation behind this one, as you know, was instilled upon me, and it's out of gratitude. Have men helped me that I want to help people, this law of reciprocity. But yeah, I shares we're talking right now, Brandon, everything that I'm doing right now, is is is my desire to share freely as it was freely given to me the opportunity to see these principles to see these processes, but basically, the principles and process of a 12 step thing is a 12. is no one's ever heard the 12 step before. The 12 step is having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps. We practice these principles in all airfares, and try to help the person who's still suffering.

Brandon Handley 46:15
Not I mean, look, I love that right. I definitely love that. Well, let's, let's let's um, you know, let's we're winding down, I want to just give the opportunity for you to chat a little bit about what people can expect and when we can expect the sober, soulful, successful summit.

Randy Hyden 46:34
I should be better prepared. I don't have the exact dates. We'll call it middle middle of January. Okay. So yeah, very, very grateful for this at that. Yeah, I just kind of popped into some Facebook groups and stuff. And some people I've known over the years, I have like 30 people that want to be presenters. Wow. At this, it's, it's amazing. Yeah, we'll kind of see how as things progress, who loses interest and this stuff. Um, but yeah, so basically, again, with if you've ever been to a music festival, and over three days, and each day, there's the headliner. And then you have the supporting acts. So if you can figure One day, the like the Friday would be super. And the headliner for the second day, it's so full. And then the third, third day successful. Now, again, these all are part of a fabric they all intertwine, and again, these people I envisioning, and where they could probably get plugged in on any day, but it's their presentation. It's their moment, I'm really just facilitating, then the opportunity presented to an audience we're going to have. But yeah, if you could imagine you go to a concert, you want to see the headlining band, but you heard one of the opening acts, and you've never heard of them before. But after their performance, after what they share, you go, oh my god, I want all the records now. And now I go through there, and they hear something that they want, and then they'd like more of it. Well, they'll be kind of like, what we're doing right now is, tell me a little bit more if they want, want to connect with you. But also, that's where this flow community is all these presenters and more, we're gonna have like 30 people, or more, my intention is even more in the community that have gone through the problems, and they've gone through their pains, they've processed the trauma, but also got clarity on their passion, what they're being drawn towards, and, and basically wanting to pay it forward in this in this online community called flow state of being present in the state of flow. And I'm really, really excited because again, the premise is that, you know, somebody might did what I say, and we can connect, and we can have something that again, it's hard to describe, but maybe not. And again, that's Genesis a quad like something that you present somebody who could connect with what you you're sharing your language, your emphasis more so than me, and that's fine. So again, we're just kind of stacking the debt, we're increasing the odds, if somebody comes in there, and like myself, I didn't know what was going on, I just knew I was miserable. You come in there, it's a place of respect, kindness, you know, and, and it can, one of the ground rules will be if you want to, you got to vent there'll be a section or called Get it off your chest. Like, you got to vent and stuff, but you can't. You can't do the stuff you see in social media, people make it if I disagree with you, and stuff, then I'm going to try to win the argument in a Facebook post and stuff and persuade you to think the same way I have this right. You know, hey, if you want that, hey, there's this thing called Facebook. But if you'd like to have a situation where you're connecting with other people that are on this path of again, Randy, let's be clear, real quick. you're developing this platform off of Facebook then as well right so flow is outside of Facebook, and In its own community, is that correct? Yeah, yeah, it's on the circle platform, it'll be developing will be launched that will be in the next 30 days, because what I want to do is have something going on. So when the summit happens, and people want to go to it, there's already people instead of a ghost town.

Brandon Handley 50:16
I got a question for you though, too. I mean, could you know, you know, do you, do you feel now two things one, do? Can you imagine, you know, 13 years ago and seeing yourself do this now, that's one and two, you know, a big part of what it sounds like you're doing is, you know, you're, you talked about it early on, you know, cheese here, you're moving with less resistance, you're moving with purpose and intention. Sounds like you're trying to and you really are. Serve something greater than yourself.

Randy Hyden 50:50
Yes. Thanks for recognizing it's cool. It's, it's a good compliment. I like that. Yes, I am intentional on that. And in regards to the first part of the question. Yeah, I used to say what I get I do have a Judeo Christian, you know, basis for my view. But yeah, I would talk to people and say, Look, I could sit across the table from Jesus Christ. And I know for sure, this is us. And then we can substitute Buddha whoever or whoever and kind of stuff. But this divine person pretty much got it all figured out and knows who I am and can say, hey, yeah, 13 years down the road, Randy, this this and this is going to happen for you. And I'd be like, you know, dude, I heard every word you said. But you're gonna have to repeat it back because as far as I'm concerned, you got me confused with some other Randy dude. Right? Right. This is not me, right. But yeah, now that you can back to the incoming into we've got to experience once we go through this stuff. Yeah, my confidence is my clarity is increasing or getting sharper. My confidence levels are rising that I can practice imperfect action. And which I one thing here real quick. So in that again, the it church, the pastor de Brisbane, another mentor of mine, and such. He was talking about how the Hebrew culture 2000 years ago, the time time the Jew, Jesus walked around their concept of the Word Perfect, met, lacking nothing. So again, Randy, most of the time up until he shared that with me, perfect was getting my way. You know, I have my preferences. I have my attachments a perfect world, this would happen and this Right, right, right. You know, and so but with that concept, do I lack anything?

Brandon Handley 52:47
No, man.

Randy Hyden 52:48
No. And so that's about the most most spiritual thing right now. This is the latest epiphany. epiphany for Randy is Yeah,

Unknown Speaker 52:59
I lack nothing. That's great.

Randy Hyden 53:01
I walk I get to walk around the block this morning, beautiful day as I'm walking around here and the birds. And I just everything was okay. Yeah, my three, I'm safe. Have my health I have people that I love. There's people love me. You know, I have a vision. It's, it's coming forward.

Brandon Handley 53:22
Powerful, too. You know, if you don't mind, I think that I think that what is your idea of vision? And you know, what does that mean? mean to you?

Randy Hyden 53:33
Well, you know, you can we've been talking about my vision it in that way. But, you know, I think for myself a lot of times what I would call purpose, or my calling. Dr. Stephen Covey called it your voice. In such. For me, it's something that's really important, but it's also benefits others. So first, someone else again, on the exterior, whatever it is, what's important to you, and then back to get it. Perhaps you want to be a pastor priest, you know, guru and stuff and you want to share enlightenment with other people. Okay, that's something that again, just resonates with you again, my definition of spirituality is that that what animates life and what just makes me just be more alive than normal. But I have no concept of time I'm gonna just present and everything Life is good. But then again, maybe somebody's purpose is just to be the dad they didn't have Yeah, look, I mean, they feel great being the dad right. And and it's obviously gonna benefit the kids. Yeah, I

Brandon Handley 54:43
mean, there's beauty in that right. It's just I think the the idea that you said to on vision is this kind of greater than yourself, right includes others has has purpose and feeling involved in it. sighs this guy says curious what your take was. And, you know, how important do you feel like it is for you to have this vision?

Randy Hyden 55:07
Well, when I, when I was newly sober, it was what kept me sober. And in this vision I've been sharing with you, and with people listening here and stuff, it's evolved over the course of time. But it's been in North Star for me is, you know, trying to bring the principles in the process, the 12 steps. Initially, it was because I was going to church I was considering vocation would be in a pastor and stuff, bringing that to the church community and bringing more of the church community to recovery, and all that kind of stuff kind of being a bridge. So read my earlier writings are much, much more Christian in their orientation, good or bad. It's just again, I could reflect and see where my head was at that. But yeah, on the other hand, you know, it's, again, to be intentional to be in a state of flow is to be focused, okay, so am I going to just be focused on the moment or in this conversation is a piece that will, you know, it's presenting the vision to someone else, it is a marketing, it is a brand people again, I'm just being myself, you know, but it is in a shaper for his uncle Jimbo said, Just be yourself. So again, this is intentional in the process of bringing it forth, you know, so more people can know about what something is really important to me. And, again, it's really interesting how, again, I'm meeting people like yourself, that I never get one, we known each other for a short period of time, definitely listen six, six months, and we've only had a few conversations, but I really enjoyed what you put on Facebook, I really enjoy our conversations. And and again, there's more of you, that have been coming together. This is the third conversation today, of people that they get all at all, are just really the beginning of a friendship of a relationship. And as we choked around again, I made it's proving to me that I am in a frequency level that is attracting people also at that other higher frequency level.

Brandon Handley 57:09
Yeah, I

Randy Hyden 57:10
love that is really super, because it's back to I don't trying to find balance between the subjective and the objective. Okay, and again, here suggested being basically my personal preferences, my opinions and interpretations of moments and such. But the objective kind of just being too close to 401 can be four as well, too. But you know what I mean, just trying to be and when involves human beings, again, it's, it's like we go into a court of law, it's in perfect, but it's the best way guy is when you've got three or four people that are verifying the facts of something happening, then there's this guy called the judge or gala call, the judge that looks at all these different things and comes finds the commonalities and conclusions is with us is what we've been talking about.

Brandon Handley 57:58
Yeah. I mean, that's the thing, too, right? I'm glad you brought that up. I mean, you get what you put out, right. And this is just another example. Or you get what you put out, and the idea of, you know, kind of what you seek is seeking you. Right. And so I think that that's, that's a little bit about what this exemplifies? So, Randy, I mean, this is, it's been an awesome conversation. I feel like, you know, we could definitely, you know, have many of these, and I think that we will, I'm looking forward to two more of them. But for now, we got to close it on down. And what I want to do is let people know where they can come find out more about Randy Hyde, and where should we go to find you?

Randy Hyden 58:41
Well, if you're on Facebook, attitude of gratitude, or a attitude of gratitude, long story on that. Yeah, the in 30 days, if you're listening to it for 30 days, or this time we're recording it. Flow is just www FL Oh, ah, it's all I could get for a URL for the workflow. But afterwards, I was like, like, oh, whoa, I think it's gonna work. And then there is a website called Attitude of Gratitude as well. That's back to where like when I talked about where it was more about leading people in gardens and stuff that's going to be revised soon. But yeah, and then, I guess I probably get a website going for this, you know, silver, soulful, successful thing. That'll be, that'll be in Facebook land. Promoting that. And again, I'm very fortunate. There's a lot of other people that believe in it, support it and think it's a good idea too. So yeah, that'll be happening in January. So

Brandon Handley 59:47
awesome, man. Well, thank you so much for thanks for thanks so much for stopping by and hanging out today.

Randy Hyden 59:51
Thank you. Again, thank you so much.

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Brandon Handley 0:01
Well, hello, welcome back. We are here on spiritual dope. Brandon Handley with a I'm just playing with video stuff here. Sorry, my bad I got distracted squirrel. Chapter Four, you can't kill it and it won't shut up. Yes. I'm sure you've tried to go to sleep at night, your mind just won't shut up and just keep keep going and going and going. Anyways, we are on chapter We're on chapter four. And we're at this exercising this exercise of present moment awareness. Again, this is coming out of Sreekumar. Rouse, are you ready to succeed book. And just based on a conversation I had earlier this week with somebody close the organization. As long as I kind of give out information about where this is coming from, then I can use it some as my understanding. So I just want to make sure this is this is not mine, this is coming out straight straight from the book. But I just want to give you a little bit about the exercise. So you know, pick one day to do everything, deliberately and unhurriedly. Like, I made fun of myself, because I was watching a TV show while typing out my outline. So don't do that. Or let's say you're in a meeting, or you're just talking to someone, put your phone fucking down, put it down, put your phone down, and just hang out for me, right, there's nothing in the world happening on your phone, right now that you can't talk to someone just with full attention for a little bit. He also talks a little bit about you know, where it says, do everything deliberately on her lead doesn't mean do it slow, doesn't mean slow down, it means like, just do it so that you're not in a rush, do it without a frantic pace. still recall, you know, one of the things my mom would always be haste makes waste, right? You know, but deliberately and unhurriedly, right, there's no rush, don't be rushed. If somebody you know, somebody is like trying to rush you through something, it's like, they're asking you to make a mistake. So it's almost like a guarantee. So you just, you know, don't react to that state law, I'm gonna do, I'm gonna do my best I'm gonna do these things I'm gonna do with deliberation. And I'm going to do with intention. And I'm not rushed to do this. There's, we live in like this. things need to be done fast, need to be done quickly. You know, but it's not, don't don't. So do it with intention and deliberation, so firm and deliberate to one step at a time, these are some of the words that he uses in the book, you know, methodical, right, you know, create a method, plan it out. And then you know, kind of follow along with the methodology that you create throughout time as you go through it. Let go of the mental models of how it should be and let go of your idea of what you think the results should be too, which is also pretty cool. So, you know, do do the things with this deliberation and unhurriedly, do these things one step at a time methodically. And then let go of what your idea of what the results should be, you know, you've got an intention, set your intention, make that be the thing, but then let go of that. And what you'll find is that a lot of times when you let go, but the idea those results should be something comes back to you that's almost greater than you could have imagined possible, which is something that that I've seen in my own life, so and then really listened to others. remove yourself from the picture in while they're talking. Maybe don't imagine yourself in their place. I don't know I say that, because that's what I do, right? Somebody is talking, I'm like, oh, let me My mind is puts me in there. I'm like, that doesn't work out. So remove yourself from the picture. And just imagine that person in the picture. And that's pretty powerful as well. So look, here's the deal. Being able to be 100% to present to all things is certainly not expected. However, if you do try, you will get far more done, which much less stress. And ideally, and once you sample some of these results, you want to do the exercise more often. And again, I'll tell you, just from experience, it's not like I'm doing less, by not all tabbing or checking emails or whatever. It I'm still doing this I'm still putting the same amount of effort and energy and all things that I'm doing except for now. It's more focused

Unknown Speaker 4:52
and intentional,

Brandon Handley 4:54
and it has a better result. And you'll there's less stress involved because your login and not all tabbing you're not trying frantically trying to bat everything away or better thing down or, you know, you're not the the goalie in hockey net, you're trying to block all the things coming through. It's just, it's just you and the one thing that you're focused on with, with the full knowledge that you're being deliberate, you're being intentional, and you're, you're giving space for for that which is right in front of you. So second exercise in this piece, too is a this is a companion exercise is not not necessarily that you have to do it. But it does not replace the first exercise. So it says a, for seven days, eat one meal in complete silence. Pay close attention to the act of eating too slowly, thoughtfully, include all all the details. With your eating, right, the saliva that's like coming into your mouth your teeth as they cut through the food, like what are the sensations, right? What are the subtle flavors? You know, what about your hunger pangs? When do you get hungry when did and then when do they go away. And then you'll bring the same level of attention to your drinks as well. And you'll find you'll just find yourself that more much more deeply immersed into your experience. And there's so many studies to that show, if you just kind of eat with full attention you just it's better for you and her body. So you can do this with your significant other or maybe your children or you know family members if you if you if you'd like but so long as it is done in complete silence to each mouthful 30 times and by that time is your mouse cuz it's gonna be like weird. And he recommends that hey, you know, do this, especially if you if you have food issues. If food is is one of the things that you're challenged with, then give it a shot. I can tell you right now these these are both tough, they're super tough. I haven't done the the seven days eat one meal please silence I have done the exercise present moment awareness. But we are so we are so distraction oriented, right we are so you know, distraction driven, versus, you know, being present in the moment being there that it's a challenge. Some common reactions and helpful hints. Look, he says nearly everyone will find it impossible. Be mindful 100% of the time. The thing is, is do not berate yourself, let's say if you lose your witness, either, right? Don't Don't, don't get upset with yourself, don't beat yourself up. It's totally normal. You know, and and, you know, you're going to lose the witness, you're going to lose your ability to pay 100% Attention all the time, because again, this is brand new, right? And if you can, he says here, if you can summon the witness a couple dozen times a day, you're doing very well. I'll make a recommendation out there, put it on your phone somewhere, make a sticky, figure out some way to remind yourself to summon the witness, I know that I'm not the greatest at it. Again, I'm not going to beat myself up over it. But it'd be nice if I put a reminder for myself and I would see it more often. Right? You will immediately notice you're less carried away. If you retain if you remain, you remain. You'll you'll immediately notice you're less carried away when you're going through all this and it's really it is it's it's awesome. Right? The stress levels diminished much greater than you could probably imagine. And then if you can retain the witness in throes of emotion even better look, if you've got children, if you're married, if you're anybody in the world in 2020 you're going through some frustrating times you're you know what frustration is I get frustrated. Sometimes you do act out of out of emotion, right? But if you've got this witness, and you do this quick zoom out. It could be in the middle of an argument. I know that this happened that way for me, you do this quick zoom out. And you just look at yourself arguing with somebody over nothing.

makes it so easy. It's like an immediately you're like, stop. It's enough. And you can just just like that. It's like instantaneously putting out a fire, even if it was like, even if it was as hot as the sun, right instantaneous, just like that, it's, it's amazing. If you have a massive resistance to eating mindfully, don't shove yourself into there, again, forcing yourself to do something that is totally not up, you're up your alley. That's okay, you know, just use gentle force no more. And then over time, you know, the resistance will go away, just like anything else. And the more you do just a little bit of that thing, it expands. Over time, you'll look back and be like, holy shit, look at how far I've come. A couple things here. He says, Hey, people, notice that they're full, long before their plate is empty. benefits, right. And it tends to, you know, sustained weight loss occurs frequently with the eating mindfully exercise. And look, the idea, again, to be mindful at all times, is challenging. And again, you will, you'll catch yourself, you know, trying to do it all at the same time. And, and trying to imagine, maybe that you're not doing it as well as you should. Because the chances are, like, I should be an expert at this, if you've been trying for like a week or a day, you know, and it's common, he says to feel overwhelmed, right. And the deal is, if you begin to feel overwhelmed, well, I'm simplify, right and I he gives a really nice tip here is to pick a couple of slots that are no longer than 10 to 15 minutes in duration. And just like with the eating piece, you know, as you become more comfortable, right, with little bits of time, you'll be able to expand on the amount of time that you are able to be mindful, I don't believe that anyone is 100% mindful at all times, but you know, look just try your best right and and remember that if you're just starting this journey that give yourself some grace, right, give yourself some allowance to to grow into yourself. So as your practice grows, your witness will grow stronger. Imagine that you're in an unsavory area and you've got people that come to your door knocking and you're like they'd knock on the door you open it up you crack it open and they smell like they smell like alcohol marijuana then look man you know you know the area these are guys and gals that you're like nope, nope, no, thank you, you slammed the door shut you guard that door your life Well, you need to protect your mind with the same intensity that you protect your your overall life and well being. Same story was told to me in a very similar fashion. Imagine you've got cancer, right? Imagine you've got cancer, don't you go out and get the best help that you can afford or is even available? Right? Your mind is no different. Your mind is no different when you let it go and waste away. You've basically got you know cancer of the mind, you need to tend to that shit you need to need to make sure that you're very mindful of what you let in what types of media do you allow into your mind? We're so the leusd by violence and derogatory media, you know, that'll happen in different types of music, different types of shows different types of videos that we watch. And it's like, what are these programs really telling you about the how the world really is? Right? And you got to ask yourself these you know, what type of emotional space these these things leave you in? When you're done watching it? Do you feel relaxed at peace and full of joy and wonder Are you

Unknown Speaker 14:03
hyped

Brandon Handley 14:04
up, strung out breathing fast and like filled with tension? These are questions he says to ask. I think they're really good ones. Is your forehead furrowed or smooth? Are your muscles tight or relaxed? And you know, it's a better question is how do you want to feel? And if these programs are making you feel, you know, all jacked up like you're tense at the end? Is that how you want to feel? Because again, this is this is the stuff that you're allowing in your life you have control over that. Don't Don't think that you don't see the news? Do you watch the news? I haven't watched the news and like so long. I can't tell you just how great I feel about it. I know that there's plenty of people out there like Hey, you got to be up with current events. Is that the other thing? Do I

Unknown Speaker 14:51
Do you?

Brandon Handley 14:52
How is that serving you?

Unknown Speaker 14:54
All right.

Brandon Handley 14:56
And this year, I mean, look, this year, the news has brought and you know, this level of awareness but it's also brought this crazy sense of tension to our to our world, right? The focus on COVID Yeah, we need to know about it, but like the the 24 seven, focus on it? What's it doing for you? Right? How's that making you feel? Black Lives Matter, you know? How's that making you feel like What the What's going on in the world right now we are in such like this. You know, imagine you've got a rubber band in your hand. And it's like the, you know, the big one on broccoli, the big purple one, he stretched it out in the fuckers hard as hell to stretch out anyways. And then like, for some reason, it breaks and snaps your hand and like, fuck manage? Oh, you just get pissed about it. Right? That's like, that's like watching the news, you know, the things are going on that they, you know, tend to share or the things that make you say the fuck, right? Like, is our world really like that chance? And the answer is? Yes, it is. There's that isolated incident that made it on camera. But again, that's an isolated incident that does need attention. But it doesn't need to be the thing that is blasting at you 24. Seven. And that, you know, that's inclusive of just entertainment, where you're watching people get killed. Murdered means all the time. Is that does that make you feel good, right is that what you want to see is that what you want to go to sleep at night, seeing in your brain and dreaming of? I know I don't. So sorry to drive that one home. So I love this, I love this quote, It is better to allow yourself to cut is it better to allow yourself to be cut with a sharp knife than to read a wrong thought into your mind that was a Swami Sivananda who is actually used to be a medical doctor as well. Look, your mind is precious can protect it, the witness will hold up a mirror and show you what it is that you are really doing. The knowledge that you you know, you kind of watch yourself in that way in and not attached. Simply observational manner, it will it will produce change all on its own. Right. As you go through, you will build up a lot of momentum. It's going to take some time to make its way through. And the thing is to when you recognize that your witness is missing. When you recognize that you're going at this alone, you know, go out find your witness be like Yo bro, where'd you go? What's up, I'm done persistently. change will happen. And I can tell you, you don't even have to do it persistently, just any any amount. Even over a short period of time, you will notice a definite difference. And I can also tell you that when you go to like stop it right when you go. You're no longer doing it. When at any point when you do notice that the witness is missing. You'll you'll notice it in a manner that because it'd be like something's missing. Right? That's it? Yeah. You'll notice it. You'll notice something and be like something's missing. What is it? And then you'll remember that as the witness, you'll remember that is your mindfulness practice. And that's it guys. That is it from chapter number four. You can't kill it and it won't shut up. But you can leverage it. You can leverage it, it can be your friend. That chatter can turn into that seemingly painful antagonizing chatter of like hell, so that motherfucker, you know, you can you can make go away and you can convert that into your strongest champion. champions, right? So I encourage you to cultivate your witness and tune back in guys I'm so excited listen to for those of you that have listened for those of you that have participated, and spiritual dope, thank you so much. 2020 has been one hell one hell of a year that I don't think you will ever forget. And 2021 has a lot of really awesome things coming up for it in terms of for you.

I guarantee you you've got some really awesome things coming up. And then I also I want to tell you that you know, 2021 has some really awesome things coming up for spiritual dope. Have some amazing guests coming up. One of those this week Mr. Rao, I was able to secure a, a, an interview with him. And that's just part of the miracles that have been created my year in 2020. And there's so many other awesome and amazing guests and I'm so thrilled to be able to do this with you for those of you that have been reaching out and sharing your thoughts on the podcast, thank you. It means the world to me and I hope to we'll continue on. Alright, we will continue on and looking forward to bringing you the best that I can. When I'm able, right so take it easy. This should be out for the holidays of 2020 enjoy your holiday season be safe, be well and until the next one

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ARE YOU READY TO SUCCEED | CHAPTER 04 | DEEP DIVE 2 of 3

Published: Dec. 22, 2020, 1:27 a.m.
Duration: 12 minutes 17 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
Welcome back spiritual dope we are working on are you ready to succeed written by Mr. Rao? And we are on chapter four, you can't kill it and it won't shut up. And we're on part two of how many I don't know, it's just God, we'll have to, we'll have to play by ear. We just finished up with by golly,

Unknown Speaker 0:19
I'll stop that mental

Brandon Handley 0:20
chatter. And now we're going to get over to an incredibly fertile plot of land. So the deal is, look, mental chatter is not the the overall enemy. It only seems to be the enemy, because you just let it run amok. I'll give you my, my chickens, for example, right? Like, if we don't clean up bathroom makes a big old mess, right? If you don't, if you don't know that they're running around, it'll make a big ol mess like our kids, right? If we, if we leave him alone for too long in any one area, with all the things, they'll make a big mess, because you haven't been paying attention. I know mine, mine, don't do that. And you haven't been aware of it. So the idea is, though, now now you are aware of it. All right, now you're aware that, you know, you're you've got this mental chatter going on. And it's been going on all this time. Sreekumar says, hey, look, imagine this is a plot of land with plenty of fertile ground. And if you've ever, if you've ever just kind of cleared off a spot in your yard or anywhere, and then you walk away from it for a while, you know, with your intention was, Hey, I'm gonna, you know, do this garden. I mean, I don't know how many of you guys tried to do a garden over, you know, 2020 COVID. But what happens is, if you don't pay attention to it, you're gonna get all kinds of overgrowth, and there's no way that you're going to be able to see, you know, the bare ground that you left behind is going to be so much overgrowth, it's like, wow, I'm not even gonna bother, screw it. Like, I'll get to this next year. I know, that was me and my, my garden this year. So but imagine now what what happens if you leave this incredibly fertile plot of land alone for years, and years, you'll have a forest job a big old mess. So your mind is pretty much the same thing. Right? Your mind will grow and nurture no matter what you kind of, you know, let in there or on there, it can not be prevented. There won't be it's impossible, right? Something's going to grow there. It absolutely will produce. And here's the good news. The good news is you may influence the garden, right, it's going to take, it's going to take some weeding, it's going to take some rowing. And eventually, if you've ever had a Successful Garden, you'll know that you'll have so much leftover and you'll have an abundance, you'll have so much leftover, that you'll be sharing it with others. The I remember a garden that I had a few years ago, and a fig tree and all this stuff I had so much I didn't know what to do with it, though I couldn't even with the tiniest garden, I had so much I didn't I had to give stuff away. Right? This is this is like your mind when you nurture these, these awesome thoughts when you begin to nurture? How you cultivate the mind, right? I mean, it's literally cultivation of the mind. So the deal is, you've been away from your mind, you've been away from tending to your mind for four years, right? You've been you've not been tending to the idea of your mental chatter you just been like that? Well, that's just how it goes. And it rolls out this way, right? Because who has taught you previous to now that you just you write it out, there's just your thoughts, your thinking your thoughts, and there's one thing you can do about them, they come they go and you know, you talk yourself like shit that'll happen. But deal is of course we know this now. That's not that's not necessarily true. So when you show up to your garden, and it's a fucking mess, don't be surprised, right? The real thing you want to do is be grateful that there are some useful plants right thoughts and ideas anything good at all in there. And then literally set about to tending to that shit, you got to imagine that imagine the the people that came to the United States of America, and they had to they had to cultivate the land right in order to grow they had to clear down fields and forests and they had to create fields and they had to do that do a lot of that they'll do a lot of work. That's your mind right? You know just pretend like you're no secrets for Columbus when there's somebody Christopher Columbus man, but the deal is imagine years some years some adventure, right? And you get stranded at some Island and right now you're you come into a place that you're very familiar with your mind, you know, the things that are in there and and now you know Now you know that you can create within your mind, right? So we've got this, we've got this idea of your mental chatter. Now you've got the idea of, you know, awareness, right. And he's got a great line. And it's the weeds in your mind will wither

once exposed to the light of awareness, and you know, plenty of people will tell you this one too, that, you know, darkness goes away, once you expose it to the light, right, it's super, super simple, same thing. And you will recognize as you begin now, with their, with your practice, the distracting and unsupportive thoughts are the things that are bringing you down and simply not serving you, you'll be able to, you'll be able to recognize those now. And, you know, simply recognizing that you're having those thoughts will tend to diminish them, right, it's kind of the idea of weeding them out. As built up, round up in your mind, if you will, or again, you know, think of it as like this kind of nocturnal plant that once exposed to the light just shrivels away, you don't really have to say or judge anything is something that I would say about this experience, once you just recognize it, you know, see the thought for what it is, it's a thought, it's no judgement to it just be like, Oh, it's not really helping me, ah, I'm gonna let that one go. Or, and literally the other concept of it is, it is a stream of consciousness. Let it go on down its merry way and it's bubbling fucking broke and just let it go. So we get to the witness, right, the best friend you will ever have. This is what will assist you with your awareness. And this is the idea of right of watching your thoughts dispassionately and again, he calls it says, this does have a name they call it the watcher. And when I say they, it is a universal concept. I know that this is prevalent inside of Hinduism, and in mindfulness and meditation. And you the watcher merely observes, right? It is dispassionate, there's, there's no judgment, again, no labels assigned, you just you look at these things as their thoughts or emotions. And I learned through about that myself and headspace, right thoughts or emotions, what is it, and you don't have to say that's a good one or a bad one, just which one is it and be dispassionate about it. Once you begin to leverage the watcher, you will begin to feel like you are on two tracks. There's the just kind of emotional piece where you are doing it, where you are the one doing the things, but then there's this uncanny ability to kind of watch yourself doing these things. And it's very interesting, right? It's very interesting. So initially, he says, Hey, initially, you you won't be able to hold the water for a few seconds, right? Because it's, it's basically like saying, the mind is like, ah, or we're like, shut the door, I'm in the bathroom, right, it's natural for the mind to resist the light be just kind of shoved away. And I think the other idea too, is like you're building a new muscle, you're building a new skill and it's not going to be until after repetition that you're going to be able to hold the watcher for longer periods of time. And I jotted down here too that the watcher can be seen and NLP exercises. Consider the idea of, you know, if you kind of close your eyes and you know, remove yourself one person back, take one step out of yourself. And then pretend like you're watching yourself, when you when you remove yourself and you see yourself as here I see myself is creating this podcast saying these things and I can see my face and emotions and feel them. But I'm one step removed. And then you can do it a second time. You can say here's the guy watching a guy who's doing something then you can do it a third time. Here's the guy watching a guy watching a guy watch a guy doing something and it's kind of once you get pulled away like that far back the emotion the passion and and these kind of attached emotionally the attachment to what is happening begins to diminish and I think that's very interesting how we're beginning to see the merger of of these kind of East meets West the psychology energy fields and thoughts and processes. What's even funnier is you know, here we are like NLP who does brand new, you know, thing Neuro Linguistic you know, practices and These are things that are, you know, 1000s and 1000s and 1000s of years old, that, you know, people are stumbling upon and feeling they're brand new whereas, and primarily because they're not familiar with Eastern philosophy or an Eastern way of thinking. They, they're like Eureka.

So, and if you if you've been following along through this book, and if you've been following along through some of these exercises, and you've sincerely begun to watch your own thoughts as passionately, chances are that you have begun to see your voice of judgment kind of diminish. And it's very interesting how you how quickly you can stop beating yourself up simply because you are you, you've got this, you know, you got this witness, you've brought somebody with you, you've got this observational ability that you didn't really have before be or realize that you had before because you've been so attached and invested in your thoughts. Because your thoughts, they're not man, you've gotten these thoughts from like the rest of the world. So they're your thoughts. And then they make you body and your life and you feel these things. And these are my feelings. Oh, makes me so mad. Like, if you take a step back, and you're like, well, that guy's just getting mad because he thinks it's these thoughts, those sayings and he's feeling this way. But as an observer, you know, you can kind of zoom out as it were, and you can see the the, the forest right, you know, people always like you can't see the forest because of the trees or whatever to close the tree. So it's the same thing. We zoom out and you get to see the whole scene. And you get to detach on the video, those emotions because, you know, they're no longer your emotions, you're watching somebody else's emotions. And it's very interesting anyways. So the the witness is the friend you ought to care for and nurture more than most. I think that's I think that's pretty interesting one, so I'll stop it on this one too. We fill out a little bit more to go through on chapter four.

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ARE YOU READY TO SUCCEED | CHAPTER 03 | DEEP DIVE 1 of 3

Published: Dec. 21, 2020, 1:18 p.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 56 seconds

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Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here at voice of generation, we are going through chapter four of Are you ready to succeed by Sreekumar Rao, it's been a minute, but uh, you know, I was actually having a conversation with somebody else who's gone through this book with me this round. And this isn't one of those things where you're trying to blast through it, right? You're not trying to, you're not trying to blast through life or, you know, same same concept of trying to enjoy life relish life and just experience it. So, in that, in that regard, that's what I'm doing with this book. If I'm not able to do some of the exercises, to the degree that I'm satisfied with personally, and not even to the degree that I am beating myself up, but to a degree that I just want to make sure that I have done some of these exercises and that I am happy with my results personally, right. So not a rush to get through them. Not a rush to get through life, right? Want to be able to relish and enjoy it. So we are on chapter number four. And chapter number four is you can't kill it. And it won't shut up. The witness is your salvation, right? That's the name of the chapter. And this one, to me. This was a little sneaky, sneaky, I'll tell you, I'll tell you about it kind of when we when we get away is not the chapters naked. So the next one, this one's still sneaky. This one's thinking. And I'll tell you right now, too. I went through this book, Chapter maybe maybe a few weeks ago, a couple weeks ago. And what I found was super interesting was the idea that there was stuff that was redoing when I was coming back and going through the chapter, again, taking notes and building out the map. There was new stuff, there was stuff that I didn't see before already, again, and it only been a couple weeks. So let's jump into it. We're going to be talking a little bit about the mental models again, right. And the idea is that your personal reality is kind of it's between your two years, right. And the idea is that most of these models that have come through into your life that you've accepted, they've been accepted without questioning. I think that the idea is that sometimes an authority figure will toss something out there into your into your life, or television show that you watch or a series or something, that over time, regardless of whether or not you're doing it on purpose, you have developed this you've accepted these mental models, right, they've just been pounded into your head over and over again, that they're stuck there. Right. And these day, create your reality. Remember, it is a reality, not the reality. And, and or at least your perception of it. He does illustrate this with a pretty cool story, basically, you know, and this could happen to you anywhere, anytime, yourself with, you know, let's just pretend that any surprise birthday party, right, that made the first couple of times that you've gone through one, at least I recall getting through one. And you know, I thought people were doing something behind my back, or maybe the party wasn't going to happen or whatever. You know, I think we all go through this. And if not, I say that just because I want to be alone. But, you know, I still remember, maybe a birthday party doesn't happen for you. And you're like, Man, what did everybody forget? And then next thing, oh, there's this big ol surprise party and you're like, Man, that's so cool. They did that. But like there's this big, long period of time where you're all worried and concerned. And and the idea is, you know, it doesn't matter whether or not it's true or not. What matters are the actions that you take, based upon what you believe, you know, so, so what? So there's a line that, you know, that's not what you know, that is not true. What you know, I don't know, there's a, I think there's some Shakespeare line or whatever. But the deal is like, what you think, you know, is really what you act on. Doesn't matter whether or not that's true. And that happens in a lot of different places. And sometimes when you act on those things that you believe to be true. You can make a complete ass out of yourself, right? You can make a complete ass out of yourself. He also talks about the I love this idea that you manufacture, emotion to external stimuli, right? This isn't new to you. And this will also happen to when you're watching a movie.

You know, so if you're watching any movie and you can see you know something's happening on the screen and and it's a love scene you feel good she it's a heart touching scene, they call the heart touching scene for a reason, right? They make you feel this emotion. The thing is that you remind yourself during that period of time, that you're watching a movie, like, gosh, if this isn't real, it's cool, man. Cool. The thing is your personal reality, the reality that you create in your mind during the day, when it's not a true movie, it's not much different than a movie, right? Your your perception of what you go on is going on around you. The thing is, you believe you're in your reality, your realities, it's got, it's got emotion, it's got, you know, it's got these, it's like the longest running series, right of your life, because it's been going on your entire life. And you allow for your emotions to dictate your reactions instead of instead, just like, you don't recognize that you have this ability to hold your emotions in check, just like when you're watching a movie.

Unknown Speaker 6:09
Right?

Brandon Handley 6:11
But it's just, it's the same thing. You can, you can almost, almost invariably just watch yourself in a scene as it is playing out in real life. And if you could hold off for just one second, if you can offer just one second before you react. You can save like, you can save yourself a ton of ton of time and effort. Because then you don't react to the new remind yourself, you're like, Oh, shit, this is in my mind. You know, maybe that's not exactly what's happening. Maybe I'll shut up for a second and just let it play out. Right? Maybe, maybe there's not a ghost in the closet with Scooby and Shaggy. Yeah, right. Maybe there's they're eating a sandwich, who knows what's happening. So does reality work for you, you've got to, you know, maybe, maybe go through and reflect on your ideal reality exercise that you could have done earlier. And if you didn't, you know, go check it check out doing the ideal life exercise. And if you can't find it in the book, feel free to reach out to me, I'll be happy to provide you with one. If you did the exercise, have you already created zero does your ideal life exists for you? Right now, today? If so, great, you're down here, congratulations. Call me. I'd like to know how you got there. But if you are like the rest of us, if you are like the rest of us, most of us most of I mean, I don't have a stat here. But you are massively dissatisfied with the life with the reality that you've created between your ears, you are concerned with what others are thinking of you, you're always thinking of ways to win them over. And you you're attempting to try to climb the corporate ladder, or maybe be successful in some other way. Maybe it's not the corporate ladder, specifically that you're trying to climb, but you're always, you know, trying to impress somebody or you know, make it to the next level play. It's always like level up. And each rung of that ladder that you're trying to climb up and down, or each level that you get get higher up into each one brings maybe a little bit of joy, like I made it, but then then it just it goes away, right? Let's just say it's like a quick hit. And easily, you plateau, like almost immediately. You have frantic actions, do you want to hold on to the things that you've got? While you're trying to get more, right? You don't want to lose anything, but you want more. And, and often this leads to, you know, dropping balls. And you know, lots lots of frustration can happen there. And at some point, some point, this one just knows that every time I read this, you get through reading how all this is you're, you're doing this, and he gets up to a point, you realize that there is a song within you. And you don't know how to get it out. You don't know how to get it out. You realize there's a song within you and he don't know how to get it out. Each time I read that each time it's like a severe impact because it's so true. So true. And and you know, look, I've had multiple conversations recently where all of us so many of us have been directed in what to do that we get to that point. And we realize that we've been directed what's doing and we want to claim our lives as our own. Right, recognize that we have this capability. And we recognize that there is a song that we want to sing We want to let it out and where we're at right now. It's not. It's it's not conducive, right? It's not. There are people around or like don't saying, I know, it's like the song metaphor, but your song can be anything, right? It's a, it's an artwork, it's a way that you feel it's how you live your life. So, I'll get to the next piece here. So he goes, uh, by golly, I'll stop that mental chatter. So that's all the stuff that's gone in your ears, right? You're still trying to climb, climb this corporate wrong. You're beating yourself up, you're trying to, you know, you're trying to impress others so that you can get to where they told you that you want to be. Right? And, and, and so that they'll give you permission to be great, right? And so you're like, hey, look, I'll just, I'll just stop that mental chatter. I'll just stop it. I'll get rid of it. And the deal is that you may try and you will inevitably, you know, you, you and evitable bleed, you will find that you cannot, you will find that you cannot stop that mental chatter. You cannot stop that voice of judgment that's always beating you up. And

we're just judgment. It doesn't always have to be beating you up, like we talked about before, it could be saying something positive, the likelihood of the positive voice judgment is less likely than then most others. But the deal is right, what will happen when you attempt to put an end to the mental chatter? Well, what happens when he gives anything some energy I wrote down here, remember, the Gremlins don't feed those Fockers after midnight look, because they turn into monsters, you feed those you feed those things. The any energy, anything you give to energy is simply going to grow. Right. So don't feed those fuckers after midnight. Because they're Gremlins just in your mind. So he's got an idea here that he talks about. Imagine a wild horse that is running in a field. Sometimes it's standing there peacefully. But what happens if you go out and you try to mount that horse, chances are, it's going to buck and throw you off. And honestly, I've experienced this. Remember, I was about 10 years old out in a ranch in California, and hopped on the back of a horse and, and didn't necessarily bucked me off. But it didn't didn't really follow my every women command. And there was a gentleman right another horse in front of me who the horse thought that he was on it, it lost control, right and it took off running with him, ran him into a tree branch, I saw that guy get thrown off the back of the tree on bounce and I'm sitting I'm like 10, or 11 I forget was like holy shit. And I had two things happening. In my mind, I was like, I hope nobody hears me swearing. Because my you know, my family was watching from a distance as as I was riding this horse, and I was like, I don't want to be the one that gets, I don't want to get knocked off the horse that way. So I pushed myself off the back of that horse and smashed my face into the ground. And I, you know, I survived the incident. But, you know, when you get on something that's running full bore, with all that energy as a good chance that you're gonna get knocked off knocked over or it's just gonna take off without without any control and go to a place where you you don't want to be. So I'm going to clip this one here and we'll clip on this one, this one, there's quite a bit of information in this in chapter four. So click here and come back in just a sec, or when you need to be and we'll continue

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Jean Walters | Spiritual Transformation Coach

Published: Dec. 20, 2020, 1:57 p.m.
Duration: 57 minutes 37 seconds

Stop in and check out the conversation that Jean & I had reviewing her recent book “The Journey From Anxiety to Peace: Practical Steps to Handle Fear, Embrace Struggle, and Eliminate Worry to Become Happy and Free".

 Jean Walters is a Saint Louis based teacher of self-empowerment principles for over thirty years.  She has studied metaphysics extensively and applies univeral principles to every area of her life. 

Jean's mission is to guide people to the Light - to encourage, instruct, and assist others to live freely and express from their Highest Selves.  Jean is an Amazon Best Selling Author.

She has been listed in Who's Who over 30 times.

Connect with Jean over at https://spiritualtransformation.com/

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Unknown Speaker 0:00
Your journey has been an interesting one up to hear you've questioned so much more than those around you. You've even questioned yourself as to how you could have grown into these thoughts. Am I crazy? When did I begin to think differently? Why do people in general appear so limited in their thought process? Rest assured, you are not alone. The world is slowly waking up to what you already know inside yet can't quite verbalize. Welcome to the spiritual dough podcast, the show that answers the questions you never even knew to ask, but knew the answers to questions about you this world the people in it? Most importantly, how do I proceed? Now moving forward? We don't have to have all the answers but we sure do love living in the question. I for another head of spiritual dub with your host, Brandon Handley. Let's get right into today's episode.

Brandon Handley 0:42
Hey there spiritual dope. I'm on today with Jean Walters. She's the author of the journey from anxiety to peace, practical steps to handle fear, embrace, struggle and eliminate worry to become happy and free. Now Jean has written a large number of other books and has you know, she's been at the forefront in this movement for personal transformation, clarity and truth for over 40 years through her writings, consulting coaching and Akashic Record readings, which we got to talk about for people all over the world. She's been a consistent source of light, clarity and inspiration, she's intention and commitment to deepest truth have brought her to share her wisdom and guidance to 10s of 1000s of clients and students as the leading authority on metaphysics, she promotes deep spiritual connection and enlightenment. She's authored articles and columns and major newspapers and magazines all over the United States, and is a best selling author on amazon.com. There's quite a bit more here, which will be part of the post. But your overall mission gene is to lead people to light to encourage, guide and assist others to live freely and express from their highest selves. Yes,

Unknown Speaker 1:52
thank you, instead.

Brandon Handley 1:55
Thank you. Thank you, and thank you for being on today really looking forward to the conversation happened for a little bit here. Now, one of the things that we touched on there, see Akashic Record reading, and I think it's gonna play really well into how I like to open these up. And that is, there's somebody who is listening to this podcast today. And as you and I are designed more as like these vessels for energy to speak through, right? What is that message that somebody needs to hear from you today? That's kind of sources speaking through you,

Jeane Walters 2:30
you know what, as we talk, they're going to find their message. So we'll probably cover a range of topics and ideas through this podcast, but something's going to stand out to each person that listens, that at the end of every class, I say to this, who is what was it that stood out to you tonight, and they always have something and the point of it is, is that you're going to hear something different than maybe I do, but it's going to resonate to exactly where we are in life. And that always works. It's, it always works because spirit is omnipresent, omniscient, omnipotent, and it's always there, we're in it, we're above it, we're living in it, we're breathing it. And so we're constantly being guided every single day to what it is that we need to understand, change, let go of move forward with the opportunities are there. So somebody I what you really, I hope people will email you and say, Hey, this is what I heard. That would be wonderful for you. And then you're pass that on to me. And we'll both we'll both celebrate. How's that?

Brandon Handley 3:32
Absolutely. I love that. Right? That says nothing better than somebody reaching out to you and letting you know how you've impacted them. Yes. And And to your point, you never know what is they're going to hear or receive. And they come back with some of the kind of uncanny things like, wow, okay, I didn't hear that in the conversation. But I'm glad you did.

Jeane Walters 3:52
And people call me like, 40 years later and go, you said this, and it changed my whole world. And I went, Oh, well, that's cool. I don't remember saying it sounds like something I would say.

Unknown Speaker 4:05
Sure.

Jeane Walters 4:06
It's always thrilling when that I get that kind of feedback.

Brandon Handley 4:09
That is absolutely. So let me let's talk a second about how you found yourself in this space to begin with. And I love the listeners to understand that and a lot of us, myself included, I mean, I'm probably three or four years into this kind of journey myself. So I'm super curious to hear how you came into it and how you stuck with it and what that's done for you.

Jeane Walters 4:29
Yes, well, I had the opportunity to grow up with a very fear based mother and so she was a constantly worried constantly anxious and pretty much a wreck and today we would probably have diagnosed or medicated her and you know, so forth. But back then we didn't do any of that stuff. But she was she was everything I read accuse her that you could make a hangnail into cancer, you know, because everything was just disastrous. So I I didn't like it and I was constantly talking trying to talk Come out of it. And I was trying, I was pointing out things that she could be happy about all the time. And so we were fighting, and we were, we were like on opposite ends of things. But the thing that occurred to me is that I'm going to find another way, I'm going to find another way. In fact, I'm going to eliminate worry from my life. And, and that's exactly what my journey was started. You know, I started reading and studying and finding ways and this was before you heard about meditation, and now it's rampant. But this was before that, and I did, I went into some metaphysics classes, I learned to meditate. I read the Bhagavad Gita, I read the life of masters of the Far East, I just gobbled it up. And but the thing is that I learned how to practice it, because I have a very practical side to me where I don't want to just hear about it. And I don't want to read about it, I want to do it. So that's how it moved me forward into a different kind of lifestyle. So I can say that I have eliminated worry from life, because I see that there's another way to be, you can get above the things that are going on, and you can look at it from another dimension, and you can get your answers that way. But when people Meyer themselves, and I mean, that's the right word, Meyer themselves into trauma and drama, and so forth, all they can see is more trauma and drama. And that's what was going on with my mother. So she was unable, she was unwilling, I think, in many ways, she was unwilling to actually look at life from another point of view. But I at the very end, she was she actually thanked me and was very respectful, which I thought was pretty amazing. For someone like that, you know, it I I saw her anxiety affecting her health, and I really knew that it was affecting all of us as a family. So anyway, I don't know, I think, I think that was a gift in many ways, because it really motivated me to look beyond to find other ways to dealing with life. And there are answers everywhere. I mean, Jesus gave us a lot of answers. So did Buddha, and probably every other master that we could study, you know, they all had the same kind of answers to help us though.

Brandon Handley 7:14
I love it. Um, it you know, when you when you say it like that the the idea, even like we already said is that, you know, you've got Buddha, you got Jesus, and they've got their, you know, they're their kind of doctrine, if you will, or at least knowledge that then wisdom that they passed on. But each person is kind of going to have a different approach to that. And they're only going to be able to hear maybe so much from from one of those. So you need, I think you need all those different flavors, if you will, so that everybody's able to kind of come at it from a different direction.

Jeane Walters 7:45
Well, they were kind of like the finger pointing in the direction, basically, I don't think they were here to be worship. In fact, I don't I know for a fact that they did not, that was never their intention, but they pointed the finger in a direction and the direction is really self mastery. So that's, you know, basically what I'm getting to more in this book is how to manage how to take control of your own mind. because your mind is the part of you that creates your experience. And if we're constantly looking at what if this, and what of that and what I should be afraid of today, then we're gonna constantly be creating, you know, an experience of fear and drama and pain and suffering, which is unnecessary. But we have but is it by discipline, because we have been surrounded with all kinds of negative messages. I mean, just all you have to do is turn on the TV for five minutes, and you've got a half a dozen right there. So we have to choose very carefully who we allow in our life, what kind of activities we partake in how we choose to look at these things. And you know, it's like, I think you and I were talking a little bit earlier that an opportunity can show up or, you know, to meet a certain person or to try a new experience, what I've learned to do is listen to my intuition and go, is this something I need to do? Is this some business, right? And when it clicks, as I say, what sort of clips then I move forward with it. And I think anybody can do that. It's not magic or anything, but we have to train our minds so that we're actually receptive. Also, people tend not to create goals, they don't decide this is, like I said, early, you know, I want to learn away so worries, not even part of my life. And I so that was a focus. And because of that focus, I took all the steps to move in that direction. It didn't happen overnight. But I learned and I think that's the thing that people have to understand is that this is not this is not like a lightning strike that hits you and all of a sudden you're aware, but but it's a matter of steps because we we have to in many ways we have to move beyond the the ideas and beliefs that we were taught you know, I that's a big thing that I do is I help people recognize where they got stuck, what kind of belief they bought into that has kind of in many ways messed up their life. And unworthiness is a universal thing. You know, and they base it on the craziest stuff, you know, be I'm unworthy just because I must be because that's what I was taught. That's silly.

Brandon Handley 10:24
Yeah, like that. I mean, you talked about one in the book to the, the, he talks about kind of putting yourself not first, right, because, you know, some of you are maybe smarter or raver come to answers ahead of others. So you learned a lesson, you thought the lesson then was, hey, I need to hold back and let the rest of the group catch up. You want to talk about that for a second, and maybe how you broke through that one?

Jeane Walters 10:48
Here. Yeah, that was a very powerful remembrance that I had. And it was only a few years ago, I remember that. And then it kind of made sense to me how I had been conducting my life. But I'm a twin. And my twin sister was always a little bit behind on certain things like math and things like that. And so I was constantly like, you know, Gene, teach Jane, you know, Gene, she doesn't get it work with her. And so I learned how to be a teacher early in life. But one day, my mother, my sister, and I, and we were together with our third grade teacher. And she said to my mom, Jean is ahead of the class, and she could skip the next grade. But Jane is with the class and she's right where she needs to be. So I think you should hold Jean back, because it would embarrass Jane. So think about all the messages that were there, you know, the message is, Jane's embarrassment is way more important than jeans moving where she needs to be. And, and so I was basically taught to be ahead, or to be in some way smarter, was not the thing that was going to be honored, what was going to be honored. And this was definitely honored and my family, the poor, the victim, the poor, poor me person, that was the one that got the attention. So I disengaged early in life and became very independent. Because I saw this phenomena I saw really that you know, and I would even try to talk her out of it. Now I can change, you can do this, of course, you can do this. So later in life, I realized, oh my gosh, that's a phenomena that has taken hold in my life like I hold back, because I know the answer, but they don't. So I'll wait. And I and I have done that I did that. It really made me very mad, which was a good thing. Because I was I wasn't mad at myself for buying into it. But of course, I was a kid at the time. And I think some of the people in your audience are going to this is going to resonate to them, I really do believe. But at the same time, I thought no more. I'm never holding back again. And so that became my credo from there that point forward is like, if I feel an urge to take a trip, or learn a new subject, or speak in front of crowds, or whatever, doing it, I'm doing it. And even if it scares the crap out of me, I'm going to go do it anyway. In fact, I'm going to do it twice as hard.

Brandon Handley 13:16
Yeah, one of the things that I heard another two is a, Your Honor, anger almost a little bit, right, you had this energy. Yeah, this is something that recently for me, had always been dismissive, kind of, of like, my anger or whatever. And more to your point, like when you grow up, you know, you, your parents be like, Well, you can't be mad at this. Can't be mad at that. So it's like a kind of a depression, right? Well, I guess I won't be angry at this, and I won't be angry and mad the other day, and, and it was a, I just held it for a minute. I was like, You know what, that's I'm just angry. And that's okay. You know what, that's that's what that emotion is that I'm feeling. And you could take it from there and redirect it right. And, you know, kind of redirect that energy. But there's no sense in not acknowledging it for what it is to open this other door for you. Right, that, you know, that anger, that frustration when you found it and acknowledged it opened a new door for you?

Jeane Walters 14:09
Yes, it did. And also, the other thing I would urge people to do is when they feel that anger to ask themselves some questions, what am I really angry about? Because I can say I'm angry at my teacher, I'm angry at my mom, I'm angry at my sister. But really, it was me that took on the message and said, Okay, now you have to hold back. They didn't say it. I just said it to myself. And that's what happens with most people. They take something and then they internalize it and make it about themselves. You know, and though that's so those are some of the things we're in what I work with someone I can catch that and go, this is what I heard you saying this is where you're telling yourself you can't move forward. Right? And when a lot of times when they just see it, it's like whammo, you know, like for me, it was a breakthrough. And, and for them, it could be a breakthrough. too, so we have a lot of breakthroughs in life if we learn to use them. I don't think anger is bad. I think it's really hard on you if you live in anger.

Brandon Handley 15:09
Sure, sure. I mean, again, like SOS It was a I've been dismissive of anger, right? And kind of like I had like, a wall off from from accepting or acknowledging the emotion versus Okay, that's anger, you know, to your point. Where's that coming from? Why am I feeling it? Am I angry at me? Or the situation? Right, you know, just don't even pretend.

Jeane Walters 15:32
What do I believe that I'm angry about? Sure.

Brandon Handley 15:34
Yeah, I mean, because the opportunity to kind of take one step back away from it. And I love that you kind of talked about this in the book, tuners, a.

Jeane Walters 15:42
angers powerful. Yeah, it's very powerful. And I what I notice about anger is we people get angry, when it's time to take a step forward. Anger is like something that serves you, if you use the power of it to move forward. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 15:58
yes, it's making me think it's making me think of the thrust of wings, right? Like, you're right. I'm just gonna get every lift off out of here. So

Unknown Speaker 16:07
so I really Yeah,

Brandon Handley 16:09
I like that, too. So and one of the things that to anxiety that your book is kind of covering anxiety, right, how to go from anxiety to another. And, and one of the ideas that struck me, and I'm not sure if this is true, like you are not on anxiety, but like, to me anxiety is kind of like this energy source and not being able to direct it right, appropriately. And, and so you're just kind of like, ooh, what do I do with all this, and then having no internal or external appropriate, quote, unquote, direction causes this, this anxious thing happens, that makes sense,

Jeane Walters 16:42
oftentimes, is being in it, whatever the in it is, you know. But one, one thing I would say, and I say, to give you an immediate change, is if you're sitting, then get up, or if you're inside, go outside, whatever you're doing, stop that and do something different. Just shift it, shift the energy, and just like that, you'll get some relief. But once you like, let go of what you're doing and where you're at, then you can actually move your mind to a higher place, like imagine that you're sitting on top of a mountain, and you're looking down at the problem, whatever you think the problem is, and you're just sitting there observing it, without any feeling, just watching it, your mind will now be open to some other ways of dealing with some possibilities will come through. But we have to shift our mind to get out of that mindset first, you know, and most of the time, we're anxious because we're feeling helpless, or it but the truth of the matter is, you're you're never really helpless. You, you can always do something different. You know, even if it's like, stop everything, go to the gym for a while or just get outside and take a short walk five minutes, you'll come back, you'll you'll be have a new fresh mind, your mind will always channel your answers, if you discipline your mind to be able to do that. Do you want to talk about that?

Brandon Handley 18:07
Yeah, I do. So I think he talks about it in the book too, right? And I'll give you just my perspective. And see we'll play off of that if that's okay, you know, just kind of, you know, your, your your consciousness, like what we're eminently aware of, like, I can see you You can see me we can hear this conversation, but the, to leverage it as kind of a filter as to kind of what you accept, assess like the, we'll call it the 5%. Right? That's my active brain. And then my subconscious is the rest of my brain like another 95% of there's like, this is the thing that breeds my breath, does my blood draws my hair knows, I don't know how to do any of that. But I'm doing it right. So once I realized I'm doing all these super powerful things already, I'm like, Well, why don't I toss this question that like this 5% of like, my brain does, like, there's a squirrel type stuff, right? I'm like, Alright, well, I tossed you know, the the one that's got the capability to breed the breath and do all these things. I'm going to toss the I'm gonna toss the question to that. Yeah. And, and, and just walk away? Because I don't know that I mean, so how is your approach similar? Where would you you know, I'm sure yours is different. But I'm just curious. So

Jeane Walters 19:20
no, I love that. But because it's like getting into the not knowing is what I call it getting into not knowing is powerful. And the reason it's powerful is because we open our mind to the field that knows, but we can't open our mind to the field that knows, as long as we're going, Well, I know what I have to do. And I'm going to do this and I'm going to do that. And this is way we've always done it and so forth. And all we're doing was is on the dribble. We'll go around it. Yeah. So if you take if you go to not knowing and go, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know it. I just think there's tremendous power in that. My method is to meditate and so basically What I'm doing is going into my 5%, as you would call it into my Viber set and just yielding to it, and allowing myself to just live in that spaciousness, because it's very spacious. And to just be there, and whether if I have a question, okay, but sometimes I just go, there could be in the spaciousness, what it does is condition, your mind that it conditions your mind, and your mind is way bigger than your brain, by the way. But I know you know that. It conditions you to be able to live in this spaciousness all the time. So a lot of people don't understand it, because it's very nebulous. I mean, there's not a forum to it, you know, and we like to have forms to everything. But anyway, once we learn to practice that, you'll notice that people who meditate regularly are calmer, they don't tend to be reactive, so much. They're just they just healthier, because the blood pressure goes down. I mean, all of this been documented. But I love your idea about, go to the 5%. And just listen to that for a while. When you meditate. After a while your intuition gets stronger and stronger. We all have intuition everybody does, but it gets stronger, stronger to where you're really learning how to listen to it all.

Brandon Handley 21:15
Thank you. And then you know, kind of the idea of, you know, what you focus on, right? I mean, that's the other thing too, right? If you focus on that victimhood, you know what happens, right, and then how I weigh it, let's talk a little bit about that. And maybe how you've gotten some clients to shift?

Jeane Walters 21:32
Well, first of all, you have to point it out to them. And, you know, if they're real attached to it, they don't like it. If you put it, but but you know, I feel like my job is my job. And if they come here, then they're ready for me. So you have to point out that Oh, my gosh, you sound very much like a victim, you know, like, and you're letting this person run you. And I pointed out a lot, you know, I mean, people do it. Like you're letting the news run you right now and you're letting the politics and what everybody's saying run you I had a little girl in here. She's 18 very cute. And she said, I asked her a question about how do you feel about that? And she said, Well, I I have to I have to talk to my friends. And I go, No, no, no, no, I don't want to consensus. I only want to hear what you have to say about it. What do you feel? And she was like a deer in the headlight. She She was so not used to just coming from our own heart. But when I said, No, wait, just tell me what you think she did. And she was so clear and so perfect. And I was hoping that that was the moment she walked away with that, that she doesn't need a consensus to figure out what she what she feels. So but I think that's kind of typical. I hear it a lot like, well, so and so said this, and so and so said that I went and what are their credentials now?

Brandon Handley 22:51
Yeah, I mean, you know, look, we've been, we've been conditioned to look for others for answers all the time, right? School, go through school. Everybody else in front of us got the answers. Yeah, you're at home, you know, your parents have the answers for what's best for you. And even as a parent, right, like, I realized, I don't have the best answers for my own children. Right, like, but that's how we grew up. Right. That's kind of how we grew up. I think that I'd be curious on your take, too. Are you seeing from you know, you've been you've been at this for a little bit now. Are you seeing a pickup, a rise in consciousness and awareness? I like to I like the word awareness, I think more Are you seeing present arise?

Jeane Walters 23:33
I do. I think this whole time period that we're in right now is chaotic, but the thing about it is, is we're moving as a whole quantum field, we're moving into a different part of our growth, we're changing from a very masculine, you know, very aggressive kind of energy into a calmer, more nurturing energy. And it's kind of a mess. I mean, we're, we're moving from one to the other. We're not in one completely. We're not in the other completely. So it's kind of mixed up right now. But but it's all moving. And if we look around we go. There's people being very kind. There's people. Here's something I hear all the time, I'm simplifying my life, I'm simplifying my life, I'm giving everything away. You know, I don't want to have all this stuff anymore. And I think that's a sign that's a sign and I'm here at least every day, that people are just moving into a simpler energy. They don't want to be cluttered anymore. Yeah, they don't want to be owned by the what they own found out

Brandon Handley 24:33
that I mean, because he owned you, and the things that you have basically own you right and that or identify you and

Jeane Walters 24:43
you have to take care of them. You know, they're taking space in your house, or you're paying for their space that they're sitting in a box on the shelf. That'll never be in

Brandon Handley 24:51
the boxes. Lots of boxes. One of the things that you've got in the book I really enjoyed too, and I think you touched on it for Second, is that in your spiritual nature, you are also perfect. Right? We talk about this reminds me of a line that I heard from Bob Proctor a lot. It's just like your spiritual DNA is perfect. Yes. Right. So what do you mean by that? Like? And how can how can I begin to use that as a seed for my own greatness?

Jeane Walters 25:22
What a lovely question. When you see a baby, you see pure light and energy you see love, you see inquisitiveness, you see, adventure, you know, you see, what is this? And what is that? And how does it work, and I want to do it, and you see joy and laughter, right, that's our true nature. And so what we do tend to do is look at our body, we look at our things, we look at our form, and then we judge Well, you know, my nose is too big, or my losing hair, whatever it is, we make up in our mind. And we make that, you know, I, I, this thing about finding, you know, finding something wrong with you. I mean, a lot of that has been grown out of religion as a matter of fact, but as pure as pure energy. And when in the violences, God made light and called it good. And if you look, if quantum physicists look deep, they say take a microscope and look deep, deep, deep into everything, every substance, and you what you'll find is light. So that means if you look inside of us, you're going to find light. I've seen it since I was a little kid the light. But so that's who we are, we are the light, but we've taken on all these other identities. So. So when we're rebel, for instance, then we're living out of rebelliousness, which can be a good thing or a bad thing, depending on how we use it. But we're forgetting that who we are as a as a being is perfect. So that means when we come from love, we're perfect. But we're always perfect. As a spiritual being, we're always always perfect. It's when we identify with something beyond that, that's when we get in trouble. That's when we that's when we look at ourselves and find fault and judgment and so forth. Does that make sense? Is that

Brandon Handley 27:13
it does, I enjoy that. It's just so once you realize I yeah, once you realize that, you know, applying that right? And so I think, you know, for example, what I do is I once I realized that I used that as a seed for just to let my spirit grow, right? Not necessarily make myself feel better about anything, but just to realize that creature of divinity creature, the light, right type of thing, and again, spiritual DNA is perfect. So what am i growing? You know, I'm you look, I'm not gonna sit here and say, I'm perfect. You belong in

Jeane Walters 27:49
consciousness to have that awareness that you are in every moment, that perfect self. Yeah, you know, and that means if you fall off your bike, you just get back up and get on your bike, it doesn't mean anything about you. It doesn't mean you're a bad bike rider or that you're a klutz, or anything else, it just means you fell off your bike. Sure, all that life is that, you know, we define ourselves too much at the times, but what we did or did not do, and, and that's, it's good to learn from those things. But it's not okay to define yourself as a loser, or even a winner or, because that's a definition again, and it live, every definition limits ourselves. It Right now, we said we're probably going to Democrat, we're an independent, we're, we're, we're limiting ourselves, because then we had to fit into that mold, whatever we dream up that mold to be. And we're, we're we're more than that. We're more than that. So I think this whole idea that we have spiritual, our spiritual DNA is perfect is realizing that whatever direction we go, we're gonna find our way.

Brandon Handley 28:57
Let's talk about that a little bit, too, because I really love that you hit on that in the book as well, you know, kind of no matter what choice you make, you're gonna be okay. Right. So let's talk to the audience a little bit about that. And maybe some examples of where you seen that play out for yourself.

Jeane Walters 29:14
Well, divorce. I mean, the first time I got a divorce, it was like, Oh, my God, you know, it was a stigma. And yet at the same time, and I've worked with so many people and picked on was there's more diverse people than there are people are long term marriage, you know, that allowed, you know, I feel like there's a theme and a purpose to every marriage and every relationship, for instance. And that when you maybe it's to help you that my first marriage was to help me become very strong and independent, and to learn how to be responsible. I had four kids, you know, so there was a lot of responsibility there and I learned it but there was a point at which I needed to grow beyond that, and I was not going to be Be able to I was going to be held back again, hold back. So it was time to move on and and find another way. So is that a failure? Is that a success? What is it? You know, it's To me, it's like, it's not even falling off your bike, it's just realizing this particular part of the pathway is now complete. And I like the idea of going you completed that graduated from that. And because I think that's a more accurate way of looking at things than to say, Oh, that was so sorry, that failed for you. And it didn't fail. You know, it was a great success. I was even confronted someone on the radio, and he said, Oh, boy, you're just saying whatever you're saying, because your marriage failed. And I said, I didn't have a failure of a marriage. My marriage was perfect. You know, it got me exactly where I needed to be. And hopefully him too, depending on because willingness, you know, but I think that's a really typical example for a lot of people. And the same thing is true with jobs. I've seen people there was a fellow I met who was a head engineer at this company. And he had been there a long time. And he was going to be a lifer. And something happened in the company, that and they went down, the buck fell on his desk, and they said, you know, your fire, you can't be here anymore. And he, first of all, he grieved. And then he said, Wait a minute, I've always wanted to start my own company. And he said, I never would have done that as long as I was in that situation. And so he started his own company was very, very successful. So I think that that's how I look at things that happen for me and with other people is that there's beginnings, and there's endings, there's always beginnings. And the first time I did a lecture, I was a total mess. But I know I was scared. And so what I did was, of course, I did it. And it was not very good. But each time then I went out to do a lecture I asked myself, so what exactly happened just then? And when did you get comfortable? And what made you comfortable? And when I started answering those questions and looking at the whole experience, I realized, when I decided to shift my attention to the audience, and not to me, I was fine after that. So. So that's why the transitioning, inexperienced is a wonderful thing. Because you you can learn so many beautiful truths, by just observing it and asking yourself some questions. But the second you start judging it, then you're, you're kind of lost, because now it's a bad experience. You know, I've heard people told me that being sick was the best thing that ever happened to them, because they realized they weren't doing what they really wanted to do. And they can one gal one fella told me, he decided to become a clown. And he said, I've always wanted to be a clown. And so he decided to become a clown, because he got sick. And he realized I can't waste my life anymore. So those are the things that I just really get a lot of inspiration from that. That's kind of how I conducted myself.

Brandon Handley 33:11
So if you're sick, you know, you're not doing what you maybe you should be doing. realign yourself. And so I think that that's, that's also a lot of fun. And I think that there was, you know, another similar relationship that you mentioned in the book, too, that I thought was pretty cool, right? Like, there was a woman who had grown past that kind of relationship, but it was her self that needed the focus. And so she gave herself the focus. And it was just within that, that time that you know, she became happier and kind of let go with some other aspects in the relationship that she been giving energy and attention to, and therefore how to happier relationship.

Jeane Walters 33:49
Yes, yeah, right. That happens all the time. Yep, sometime, Brandon. And because we were so sort of programmed with this idea that we're here for everybody else. And I love the idea of service. I love the idea of service. But I think the first person I serve is me, you know, because there's no way I can serve anyone else if I don't pay if I haven't nurtured the quality wisdom within my own self, you know? So yeah, my mother was a great martyr. And we all all three of the girls learn Marty damn well, but I would catch it and go, Oh, my God, that's my mother. And, you know, and I need to stop and reevaluate and go, Wow, how much do I give and how do I give and what really works for me because I am a giver. But I don't want to exclude myself in the process, because that's part of what made her sick. And it makes everybody sick.

Brandon Handley 34:51
Let's uh, right. So, you know, kind of what you're saying to and you also said this in the book, give, give, give like friendship. Brain give of yourself and I love the I forget where I heard it, but you're, you know, you are the giver and the gift. Yes. So So what does that mean to you and just share that with with the group.

Jeane Walters 35:15
We have energy coming in through us all day long it comes into us. And then our job is to give it out. Okay, so we can give it out through a smile. And we can give it out through applause. Or we can give it out through supporting someone or we can give it out through writing a book or doing a podcast or giving out energy. And so many if we don't know how to do that, well, if we're not following the our own inner voice, and if I'm an artist, I want to give art, if I'm counselor, I want to give help and wisdom and support. So when we're when we're listening to that we're giving it but what happens is it comes right, the energy comes right back into us only it's multiplied. So giving is a very powerful thing. And the giver is is the one that gets the most out of it. But what we're giving is, whatever I am is what I'm giving. So I'm giving nurturing, I'm giving kindness, I'm giving loans, I'm giving you support. Somebody else is giving their artistic ability, or someone else's giving. They're fantastic on how to fix cars, they can listen to an engine and go, I know exactly what it is. I think that's a huge gift. I think somebody else's giving. They know how to grow vegetables like crazy. And then they they do that and give that. So we're giving all the time we're giving up who we are. And that's exactly perfect. That's exactly what we're here to do. So you're not to, you know, there was a story of Norman Vincent Peale. Remember him power positive thinking. And he told a story about this young man he was working with and a young man had failed at the insurance business three times. Why was he in the insurance business because his dad was very good at the insurance business. And he wanted his son to succeed. But he forgot to notice that his son was not an insurance man. So what the son with peel was noticing as well. He was talking to this kid, he was feeling the wood on the table next to him. And he made a comment. He said, I noticed you're feeling that word on the table. What is it about that? You said I love Ford. I absolutely love what I love. I have a building with it. I love making furniture out of it. I like designing furniture. I love it. And he said, Why aren't you doing that? You know, so the kid got permission to follow his heart and do what he loved. And he was wildly successful doing this furniture. So to me the gift was his beautiful creativity, ability, his skill, you know, and what he received back was was appreciation, low money, you know, whatever. And, but he prospered because of that because he was alive now doing what he giving away what he what he was

Brandon Handley 38:10
right. And I love that and you talk about it in the book as well is the idea of kind of just doing what you love. And not chasing the money for it and think I'm guilty. Just as much as the next person. Especially with like, you know, social media, Instagram, all the all the Go, go do this thing that you love and monetize it, do the things you love and monetize it. Yeah. And and just trying to let that go what you know, kind of walk somebody through that, you know, how do you detach yourself even from the monetization aspect of it? Knowing I think, again, to that everything's gonna be okay, just go do what you love. I mean, when

Jeane Walters 38:49
you get I think it, it becomes a natural movement. You know, you have to like, plan, I'm going to make a lot of money with this furniture, I think it becomes a natural movement. Like, I love your chair where you build me a chair like that, and I want to give you money for it. Okay, great. I'll do that. And so I think it becomes a natural thing it did for me anyway, I was teaching a lot and in my students would always come to me and my counseling. And then one person said to me, why don't you that's your really your job. I mean, that's really what you're here to do. Why don't you just do it and get paid? And I went, well, it made sense to me, because I realized that when people pay for it, they receive it. Have you noticed that?

Brandon Handley 39:34
Well, yeah, there's I mean, there's a big there's a big piece in there too, right? Yes. And you'll see the flip side of this where people will, you know, say, Hey, I'm gonna charge for something such as spiritual coaching, right? Like, well, you don't need to charge for that. Well, if you don't set a value for it, then then people won't value it and it's not just and and, you know, listen, that to me is more of just a socio kind of setting that works. Right. And if I don't charge you for it, then then it's gonna go on the shelf with everything else.

Jeane Walters 40:05
Exactly. And that's what I noticed. Because in my in that when I first started teaching, I wasn't charging for classes. And then then I noticed they weren't taking it seriously. When I started charging for the classes, everybody started doing the things they asked them to do.

Brandon Handley 40:20
And the results were probably, you know, twice as effective, right? I mean, if if I give you something for free, and you don't use it, how useful is that?

Jeane Walters 40:27
Yeah. And it's also frustrating for the teacher 100% Why am I doing I'm sharing this beautiful stuff, and you're not doing anything with it, you know, but I want to get to your point, though, I think it happens organically. I mean, I think that when I have a fellow that was going to the junkyard and picking up pieces of interesting metal, and then then he would solder them together or whatever, he found that and make these art pieces. And he just, he loves doing it. But at some point, he decided to take him to an art fair, at some point, he's selling his art pieces. So I don't think that you have to start out with the idea. Like, I'm gonna make a million bucks This way, you know, I but I think it comes organically, you know,

Brandon Handley 41:09
that makes sense, right? People start doing their art as kind of a again, you get and get rid of getting rid of the idea of a side hustle or putting pressure on yourself to create, right, and I think that that's not a piece of start winding down here with, you know, the idea that you need to create, you know, your experience here your spiritual, everything boils down to the need to self Express, self actualize, and create a soft people about that.

Jeane Walters 41:40
Well, and even as a dad, you know, as a creative experience that, you know, when your son asks you a question, you'll, you'll have to ponder or maybe you want to take them someplace, and then there's maybe something that you're instructing them with that, but it's a creative expense, even like when they're crying and you just hug them. That's a creative experience. So in we're here we are creative beings. And we're constantly emitting our, our channeling it. channeling is a great word, our creativity. And so we just do what comes naturally. And we're really good at it, like, you

Brandon Handley 42:17
know, so I remember talking to somebody, I was coaching somebody, and I said, hey, you're very creative. And she goes, Well, I'm not creative. I don't know how to draw, I don't know how to do this. And you're breaking out of that paradigm that creativity is bound to paint, this is bound to a musical instrument. And to your point there, you're saying creativity is creating a moment, right? Creating an instance where it's memorable doesn't have to be memorable. You are the creator of that, right?

Jeane Walters 42:43
Yeah. And then take it to another level is that where are you focusing your mind? What are you creating today? are you focusing on everything that has gone wrong in your life, then then you're just creating more of that. If you focus on your appreciation, joy of everything, that's that you've experienced everything that's right in mind you, you create more of that, wherever you put attention on grows. And so that's, I guess, the biggest meaning and message I'd like to give out is that pay attention to what you're focusing on, because that is what's going to grow in your life.

Brandon Handley 43:18
I love that you bring that up, because I'm just kind of glad I had some highlights in the book, right? While I was reading and you know, right there, what you're saying too, is when you stop focusing on negativity, but I have this line highlight is the moral Is that you, if you are removing negativity, from your thinking, be sure to grow something new. It's there. And I think that that may be a piece that is often left out in that conversation like, oh, if I just focus on both, so talk me through that one.

Jeane Walters 43:46
Yes, yes. The mind is always full of ideas and such. And so we if we say we're going to create this empty mind when we meditate, No, you're not. What you're going to do is in the beginning, and you might get there eventually. But your mind is always busy. So if you if you don't choose where you're going to focus, then it will keep going back to what you've always focused on. So you're really training the mind your it's about training the mind to be where you want it to be, you know, Arnold Schwarzenegger, I just think he's an amazing example of this. He was born in Austria, and he decided he didn't want to stay there. But he went to a Kawan movie, and he decided I'm going to be an American cowboy. And so from that point on, he focused everything he did toward that goal. And he said, people would tell me all the time, it's impossible. He said, I didn't pay attention. They told me you couldn't do it didn't pay attention. Your accent is too thick, didn't pay attention. And he just he took the English lessons. He, he did the bodybuilding thing. He found his way he people started supporting him. You got to the US me focus, focus, focus, focus, and he refused. used to any idea that he wasn't going to make it. And I think that is so powerful. But that was the way he chose to focus his mind. And when we do that, that's amazing. I mean, we can move mountains, we can move mountains. So we have to recognize when we're off the track, and then we have to recognize we are off the track and move ourselves on the track. What is it you want? Now? How can you begin to focus now, what's one step you could take today that will move you in that direction, anytime, write a letter, send an email, you know, make a phone call something, get busy, you know, and when you do that, you move toward the goal, the goal, the universe works that way. Whatever you focus on increases, the universe completely support you in that. And so when people are worried, worried, worried, worried, worried, worried about being sick, sick, sick, sick, sick, guess what happens, you know, and so this is so important, and it's so relevant right now that we decide we're what we want to focus on and keep moving. Just keep moving.

Brandon Handley 46:03
The big partner, right is just to take that first step. And make it be small. And that's fine, right? Because a just any, any, any action into the direction of your dreams, your desires, whatever you feel like calling it to me anyways, your signals, the universe is like, Okay, I'm ready to I'm ready. Right, let's let's start. One of the things that is newer to me, and I'm curious on your take on this is the idea of surrendering to the universe, right? If I surrender to the universe, how does a if I surrender to the universe, I'm like, Okay, give me all the things or do all the things and like, I'm not gonna try and direct you because the universe has a greater idea and more experience than I do. Overall, right? But how do you pair that up with like, setting goals or like, you know, trying to make a direction? I think that that's, that's an interesting one, which I

Jeane Walters 46:59
love that. Thank you for asking that question. That's great. So I said, so we set a goal, like Arnold is great example, I'm going to be an American cowboy, I'm going to be in the movies, and then he surrendered to how it was going to happen. But everything that walked across his path that looked like a pet, a way to get there, he took advantage of it. So that's what we do is that we set our, our intention, you know, I, for me, it was I want to live in this energy of this higher self, I want to live there, and I want to help other people live there. So then I look at a class and a class might show up and go is that part of my journey? Is that I look at a relationship and ask, Is that part of you know, am I lined with this vote? And my focus? Is this part of my alignment? And then we get those answers, we begin to see that all of those things show up, because they're in alignment with what we've focused on. But, but he didn't say, well, it has to be through bodybuilding, or it has to be that bodybuilding magazine showed up. And he went, I'm going to do that. And that was part of his journey. So I think he's a great example of seeing he knew what he wanted, and he didn't know how he was going to get there. But as things showed up, he would take advantage. So that's what surrendering to the universe is all about. I don't know how I'm going to get there, you don't know, you're going to get there. So we acknowledge that. And in so doing, we create mental space to go. So what's the next opportunity?

Brandon Handley 48:28
That's great. sounds a little bit like the line of you looking for the evidence of it happening, right? And also, I guess it I don't know about for you. But for me, I've got to have this kind of mentality of you know, this is a benevolent universe, I'm here for a reason and a purpose. You know, this is my intention going forward. And now I'm going to look for the evidence that the universe is kind of setting that up for me.

Jeane Walters 48:55
Well, if you think about your son and say, You're I don't know how old he is, but you're going to teach your mind or throw the basketball or something or ride a bike, you know, you know that there's you start with getting him on the bike, and maybe you're holding the bike. But at some point, he's now balancing pretty well, and you can kind of push the bike forward, and he's got it. So to me, if you look at that as an example, that's exactly what the universe does for us. You know, it's teaching us through different modes and modalities, you know, how to get on the bike and ride it know without crashing?

Brandon Handley 49:30
Sure, sure. Well, is there anything else out of the book that you want to hit on? While we're here?

Jeane Walters 49:38
The main thing that I am saying in this book is you can make a choice. Yeah, you can make a choice that if you want to live in a joyful life, you can choose that and then and then do the things that are necessary. There's practical steps in every chapter. So you start One step, start on another step to get started, and start moving your mind and your energy in a way so that you are living the life you really want to live. Your it's your choice, you have dominion. That's the main thing I wanted to teach with this book.

Brandon Handley 50:17
That's powerful. I think that, you know, toy choice, it's like, because I have it written down here, to kind of hit on choice. But, you know, making learning to make that choice. Finding that awareness is kind of where the power is at. The funny thing about that is this for me anyways, when I did my journey, I thought I was always making choices, you know, but what I was really doing was accepting others choices for me.

Jeane Walters 50:43
Yeah, right. That's what we do we start out that way, because we don't even know that we can make a choice. Right? Yeah. And then, and then sometimes the parents these days are going well, do you want to do belt volleyball? Or do you want to do soccer, you know, so there is a choice about But before that, we're just told, do this, do this go shorter this time, and whatever. So we do have to kind of teach ourselves along the way, we really are our best teachers.

Brandon Handley 51:09
And for people that haven't figured that part out yet, like, what is

Jeane Walters 51:15
your life, just like your life and go? How is my life right now? Where am I happy? Where am I not begin to look at that and go, what choices got me to this point? And what would I like to change? And then what are the choices, I need to make an order to move in another direction. Just look at your life, your life will tell you exactly what your choices have been. And that is no judgment at all. Just observe it like you're observing somebody else's life. And then ask yourself some questions. You know, does this fit me? Because sometimes we stay in things so long that they don't fit anymore. And then it's not serving anybody to stay in something that's over. It's finished. You know, people die in their jobs. I mean, they're like, they have dead eyes.

Brandon Handley 52:00
Yeah. Listen, I mean, so I mean, that was I mean, my 20s I was, I was at I was at a job. And it was, it was a fine paying job. It was a corporate job. There was money, there was benefits. But what there wasn't was living. Yeah, I looked around everybody, and I saw the day everybody's kind of walk around like zombies. What you're talking about glazed over. And I set myself as like, if this is gonna be like, the end game as it can wait. Come back, right. This isn't. This isn't where I'm gonna spend my youth. And and I didn't. And

Jeane Walters 52:38
you though, I mean, really. Kudos to you. Because you went for the, you know, he had a lot of money at the job, and a lot of people will stay for that. literally dying inside? Yeah, they have money. Sure. It's like believing it. You can have money doing anything. I mean, I feel like money is one of the easiest things to get.

Brandon Handley 52:59
Sure. But well, hey, let me share that one with people. Because I mean, what how did you develop that mindset?

Jeane Walters 53:05
Well, you got to get past the unworthy stuff. I mean, you got to get past this idea that you're limited being you know, like Arnold, he, he grew up in Austria for heaven's sakes, he didn't even know English. Right. You know, those were limitations by a lot of people's estimation, but he decided no. So I think it's how we look at things. I mean, it a lot of people just don't feel like they deserve to have an amazing life. And but their father, I call it the yellow brick road. You didn't you know, you grow up, you graduate, you get your education, and you get married, you have kids, and it's like, wait for retirement. And, you know, it's a road to death. Yeah, sure. Yeah. You know, I'm, I always want people to look a little higher than that, you know, like, those are all great things in their turn, if they're right for you. Sure. And they're not right for everybody. Right. You know, we can't make it a cross the board formula, but I think that's what we have done culturally. Right. You know, in your measured by that like, No, no, no, no, no, you don't get to be measured by that. How many toys do you have? You probably have more toys than I do. So, does that mean you're more successful than I am? No.

Brandon Handley 54:23
Right?

Jeane Walters 54:24
What is if success is joy?

Brandon Handley 54:26
Yeah, I mean, look, you got to have some joy, right? in your life.

Jeane Walters 54:30
What are the most, you know, I think about a Mahatma Gandhi didn't have any money. Okay, um, Jesus didn't work on money. You know, Buddha didn't. He was rich, but he gave it all up. So all of these great masters. I mean, I don't and Martin Luther King didn't like work to have a million dollars. He didn't do that. He had a mission show all of these great masters. were telling us that, you know, money was not their endpoint. Doesn't but I don't think money is a bad thing. I don't want to give the wrong message. Oh,

Brandon Handley 55:03
yeah, no, no, but but but but the thing, more important to what you're saying before, right? You know, do what you love and the money will follow. But we're talking about these other people, you're talking about the Masters, you're talking about Martin Luther King, what they did have was something greater than themselves in their purpose.

Jeane Walters 55:21
And they were fed and they had whatever they needed. I mean, Nelson Mandela is another great example. I mean, you know, it wasn't money was not the end all. But, you know, he had what he needed. I mean, he never went hungry. So that's how life is, you know, we can't make money, the goal, we can make it something to enjoy

Brandon Handley 55:42
100%. And it's funny, because, you know, we have this kind of this conversation with my children, too, right? They tell like, hey, I want to, I want to get a good education so I can get a good job. So I can do as I stop, I'm like, wait, you you want to you want to provide value? Right? So I mean, just kind of flip the script a little bit. Yeah, I want you to make money in our money. Absolutely. But yeah, to do it, be because you're providing value and we're columns, he wants off, whatever, you know, have those those conversations with the children. So this has been a blast. I enjoy it. I want to say thank you for you know, it was your assistant that reached out to me, but you took the call when I called you back and enjoyed our conversation that first time. Enjoyed this conversation. And you've got plenty of other books for people to go to check out on Amazon. But this one, the journey from anxiety to peace is Is it is it out there now is it released?

Jeane Walters 56:32
It's Yeah, it's available. It's actually international bestseller. Look at anything about the world ready for

Brandon Handley 56:38
you.

Unknown Speaker 56:40
It tells me there's a lot of congratulations.

Brandon Handley 56:43
Yeah, there's a lot of anxiety and I think this is I think this is a great book and like you said you've got on you know, in the sub sub text right? Yes, you know, practical steps to handle fear embrace struggle, eliminate worry. And you did you had a lot of yet a lot of great tips in there. Just like you had the practical applications here in the conversation as well.

Jeane Walters 57:02
Thank you so much, Brandon. I really this is fun, and I really appreciate it.

Unknown Speaker 57:06
We really hope you enjoyed this episode of the spiritual dove podcast. stay connected with us directly through spiritual dove co You can also join the discussion on Facebook, spiritual dough, and Instagram at spiritual underscore go. If you would like to speak with us, send us an email to Brandon at spiritual dog Co. And as always, thank you for cultivating your mindset and creating a better reality. This includes the most thought provoking part of your day. Don't forget to like and subscribe to stay fully up to date. Until next time, be kind to yourself and trust your intuition.

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Sean McCoy | Physics God and Then Some

Published: Dec. 13, 2020, 12:29 p.m.
Duration: 51 minutes 12 seconds

Sean & I first met a few years back on Fatherhood for the Rest of Us & we hit it off... to me it was obvious he needed to be a guest on Spiritual Dope. I hope that you enjoy listening to this episode as we did having the conversation.

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go. Hey there spiritual dope I am on today with Sean McCoy who is one of the hosts of the company table podcast, which is a series of recorded conversations, which he invites people to come to the table to have authentic, open and honest conversations across a spectrum of subjects ranging from difficult fun to controversial, the primary goal of the interaction is exemplified love and understanding and a discussion that would inform the listener while encouraging the happy conversation of their own. Man. It's been a minute and for those of you that don't know, Shawn, I've had a couple conversations before that was back in fatherhood for the rest of us. And when I spun up spiritual dope, I came across like your podcast has like, man, let's get you back on so so I'm so thrilled to have you back on. Thanks for showing up today.

Unknown Speaker 1:07
It's a pleasure to be here, my friend. And I really love what you're doing. You know, when I first saw the title, I was just kind of was enamored with this idea, cuz I've had my own transition, even the last 24 to 36 months around around cannabis and around what that what that word means. And then I think just the idea of that intimacy with the divine intimacy with where you're going with life, just in another way, you just kind of you just bring it the style as far as just as it's very open, very inclusive. You're trying to understand there's no, there's no desire to control or is it to overcome or to try to convince and I just think it's a beautiful way to do it, man. Appreciate your work.

Brandon Handley 1:41
Now, thank you so much. Thank you. So I appreciate that means a lot. It really does. We'd like to start this off I say we on the host creator and all the other things but I like to start these off with the idea that you are a vessel for the divine right and and what comes through you needs to come through you for the universe to operate at its optimal scale. Right. And it needs to, you need to deliver a message to somebody who's listening today. Right? What is that message that's coming through today? Sure.

Sean McCoy 2:10
So I just finished coincidentally, the book it's called the physics of God with Joseph Selby. And Joseph Selby is a quantum physicist. And I'm in the in the so interesting to me that I finished it today coming on your show, because one of the things in so he interplays You know, he kind of remarries science and religion, which I think had the big split back in the time of Galileo and Copernicus that was really kind of this, the beginning of the end of that that beautiful relationship where it had to be one or the other. And that dichotomy that dualism, I just, it has to be that's been a big area of growth, for me personally, just getting away from all that polarity. But in that one of the things that he talked about was in Genesis, he alludes to this idea of looking at these quantum experiments and talking about quantum entanglement quantum foam, and all these other real fancy words. And I'm, I can, Sam, if he asked me to explain it to you unpack it, about 50 60% of it, because it's not, you know, I'm a pretty heady guy, like I like to think but it's, it's complicated. But overall, one of the things that underlying things that made me think of what you just said was, in Genesis, we've heard this phrase anybody's heard it, that man is made in God's image in the typical response to the typical kind of human thought is that there's a human element to God and he created and that, you know, we had, he had elbows and maybe some sort of element of the physical versus this idea from a quantum standpoint of looking and saying, no, it's eternal consciousness that God has, that he's infusing and creating you with that image, because that's what we all have internally. So instead of being limited by the physical, and saying, Oh, this must be some physical manifestation of God, it's more of a vessel to hold the manifestation of God which is the eternal self and the eternal consciousness of all of us so that I just kind of felt like that was one of those points in my head as I was listening to it this morning as I was out mountain biking like I just told you to do now the just in terms of your show and just the people in who's out there wanting to know what what in the world is going on? Where is my place? And all this? What how in the world? What do I know to believe in because as soon as you find anything, there's some other use especially now you can google anything and there's gonna be somebody else telling you all the things that are wrong with it doesn't matter if it's a business No matter if it's a belief or whatnot. And I think part of that mystery and part of that chaos is intentional into give us this this desire to seek and this desire to continue to go internally and this desire to truly try to be intimate with both ourselves others and the divine and so the ultimate message around all of that is that in that journey you're not alone is one of the biggest lies out there this You and I were talking about our reminiscing I think you remember that shoot out the shower story that I told you about that is not out here this is I you know, I was first deciding to become a Christian and following go against this all this stuff I'd ever thought and like what in the world is my problem and I was in the gym in in the water was coming to my head and it was black and I can remember that you know this this radiance you know I get away from this idea that it's light darkness but just this radiance off in the distance that you know started to go to and I could feel it. Like I'm like in my body but I'm normal but then my it's this weird thing started to transition I got scared, right? You get kind of like, Whoa, this is way too kind of UI. I know one of your big questions about you know, and I don't go too far ahead, but just understanding that you're your own self, you know, your your self awareness and, and then I kind of put the kibosh on it, you know, just that moment of just fear. And, and you'd mentioned, yeah, you kind of you're like, yeah, you're not gonna have that same. So I think that idea of, I think if we all took a step back, and all the weird stuff, we've been through all the stuff that we've experienced, it doesn't make any sense that it's okay to it's okay to relish and it's okay to be to sit in the mystery and to sit in the unknown. And that I think we get too involved sometimes to try and to fill it, try to give it some parameter and some frame. And just instead of just basking in the idea that there's a, there's an element of this that we just can't figure out. And then even if we do figure it, even if even as we go on that journey, what you may define as the divine or what you may define as these things, so not it doesn't become a situation where I'm trying to get you to understand it the way that I do. But we can kind of find some commonality back to what we're talking about before. One of the big words that's been kind of redefined for me is the word peace for a long time. Always envision peace as this idea that there's no problems that everything is you know, calm. It's like just, there's there's no issues, there's no anger, there's no fighting, there's no, it's just one thing. And if you go back and look at the Hebrew word Shalom, and really what it means it talks about tension, like this tension between between areas, and if you look at the way bridges work, you'll get the way that how's it anything, that what creates that structures, there's there's counter tensions all over the place, right? tension bridge, and you'd suspend ropes, muscle works by tension, and so is it but when you look at it, we look at a bridge, it's not moving, but it's under incredible tension. And we see it when that tension breaks. So in terms of human in terms of relational aspects, it's not about whether or not I can convince you of something that I think is right, or try to get you on my team, or try to use fear and shame and manipulation and power and authority because of my own shortcomings to get you to conform to something that I want to but can I sit in the attention of a differentiating opinion, thought truth, whatever you want to call it? It? Can I relish with you in that it can that is that okay? And I think that that's where When, when, when all the great wisdom books talk about peace, I think if you really break it down, and if you really go further into the, the basic tenants of all of them, that's what they're talking about. And it's not that you can get rid of that tension. And so we try to act like you know, it's always like, you go back and read ancient wisdom books, again, it's like, you can hear today's story, then I was just having this conversation with my hands, you can hear the you go back and read him back at Kurt, you just got into reading Jeremiah, which is one of my favorite Old Testament prophets. And it sounds like they're talking about today, those books were written 2800, you know, 3000 years ago now, you know, in terms of accuracy and verbatim, and is it inherent? I'm not an inerrant. I'm not gonna say, I mean, nothing is inerrant. I think that's part of the beauty and mystery of all this. And so it's more about the con, it's more about what was the big takeaway, if somebody's lamenting, if they're not sure about tomorrow, there's all these what do they do, there's the chaos of life. It's never, it's just crazy, right? And we like to think that it's never been crazier and never been more worried, never ever been weird or never been more uncertain than it is now. Because it's the only reality that we have. It's like the cart totally kind of thing of like, it's just the power of the moment. And we sometimes dismiss and forget of what has come before us. And so so but when you read these old ancient writers, and you're like, wait a minute, that sounds like now. And so because we think that because technology or other things have progressed, that means people are progressed with it. And it's not really what that's not the same. It's not the same thing. It just means we're right, we're doing this by computer on on the internet versus, you know, versus some written letters like back in the day and look at some of the founding fathers and some of the people before that they would have these great debates. And people don't realize that they would have them over the period of weeks and months over written letters, right, versus we can talk all day long over and over again, re edited and other assist, right, it's all here for us. So really all that to say, you know, the three great questions that I always think about in terms of what people are, can take away when you're looking at things and where they can find hope and inspiration, in a sense is as you look at things that used to be Is it good? Is it true? Is it beautiful, was the original kind of that's the first way to look at it. I've been having this internal war around dualism, because as soon as you because good and bad is all subjective, even then, as an opposite you start going down that road. And you know, truth is a is a funny thing.

Unknown Speaker 9:12
Is it so as I know, that's absolutely true. It's like wow, you know, I used to think so too. Not so much anymore. And so instead of that, I like to say, is it beneficial? Is it is it harmonious? And is it beautiful? And so in terms of is it beneficial? Because that that really broadens that ability to understand the impact something has on you know, is it a bad thing to have cancer? Well, it could kill you. And that's our initial thought is No. But if you've been around suffering, if you've been around some of these things that people go through, there's a there's a transformation that happens and this comes in part of the journey. The last couple years of recognizing this frequency isn't you talk about your undercurrent to talk about formulas that walk through life, others a gentleman by the name of Alexander john Shi'a, who is one of two people they've been the most profound, had the most profound impact on me in the last couple of years, just in turn. My way see the divine The way I see the Christ if you will

Brandon Handley 10:05
see an author or friend or he's

Unknown Speaker 10:07
kind of a way to become a friend like him and I like we actually talk once a week now we're doing some things personally but he from a from an educational standpoint, was a anthropologist. He went to university Notre Dame, he studied under Joseph Campbell, Joseph Campbell was the hero's journey. Joseph Campbell was inspired Star Wars, right. So just he was a student of Joseph Campbell.

Brandon Handley 10:26
That's some powerful lineage right there.

Unknown Speaker 10:28
Yes. And so it's so this comes into play, because you could you know, this, around the storyline. And so, but he grew up, he grew up Maronite Catholic, but he grew up in Birmingham, Alabama, in the 50s. And he's Lebanese, he was first generation full Lebanese in, in the US. But because of this goes into this country how this works out because of segregation laws in the 50s. And 60s, they weren't allowed to live anywhere by themselves. So they were like, it was like living back in Lebanon. So the irony is in terms of, like beneficial, so we would say none of us, I mean, like to think but would say that we should have laws that separate people based on ethnicity. But there's a beautiful way that shows Well, something that's negative like that can actually become a bit of a positive, if you will, depending and it allowed them to grow up kind of in this old way. He grew up basically in a Lebanese village in Birmingham, Alabama, with just his just his people, because the laws around it wouldn't allow for them. And he was 13th 13th generation, his lineage goes back that many like 1300 years in terms of this particular tribe and his people and so he wasn't a student of following that of Christ. You lived it, like it was a every day, embodied, very intimate, very traditional, very ritualistic very much in that in this in this sense, and not traditional like is in terms of like closed off. But in terms of like internal internal kind of discovery, internal kind of looking at is in terms of So anyway, partly Isn't he but he realizes he needs to go somewhere else besides seminary, he needs to go somewhere besides your traditional and become just a priest because he was supposed to, that's the reason he was named Alexander. So he goes to Notre Dame realizes that he cannot really get exposed to this because you can become this anthropology student in between Joseph Campbell and just the teachers that it blows up his whole foundation, because he was in this tribalistic, kind of like almost kind of set. And now it opens up his mind all these other ways. And all these other things, he starts to see the same pattern of the same elements throughout all these different whether it's an ancient civilizations or current ones. And there's uniqueness. But there's also this synergy. And he starts to recognize this one, and he goes and becomes you get this masters and his PhD in clinical psychology. And then he goes on to use that as a practice. But he really is this internal struggle, he spends 40 years, and he has this moment where he takes the hero's journey, Joseph Campbell's journey, you can kind of come up different variations where there's kind of four primary paths, there's the first party step into the challenge, right, there's the there's the opportunity where you can begin the path. Second is the issues, the obstacles that you that you go through. Third is that is the transformation evolution, the fruit, the boom that you get in the fourth is in the service relative to that. And so that's the those are the main Crux doesn't mean tenants. What's interesting about those four concepts is they are also the main tenants of all of our lives. As I start to see it, we all know this story. We've all had challenges, we've either stepped into it because we decided to a new job, a new podcast, a new, a new whatever, you have these moments of like stepping into this idea of like understanding things a different way. That takes courage. And there's a step into that, right. And then there's then what you do is like, great, here we go. And then all sudden you trip, you're like, oh, what's going on, and there's obstacles, and that suffering is typically looked at as something we're trying to avoid. But the irony is, that is part of that crucible that is part of that that intensity that allows for growth to happen, that's where you become, I don't like to use the word strong because it starts to create a, an element of like physicality, with just the ability to resist and that's that growth that comes through that resistance, if you will. So as you grow through that, well, then there becomes a point when there's a fruit, there's a boon that happens, right? There's something there's an evolution, there's a transformation, there's a recognition, it's like rings on a tree is that grow out, right? Don't say this is the next ring, and you're there. Yeah. And then of course, the fourth pass is this really, really critical part? Because now that you've done that, what are you going to do with this gift that you've been given? What is this new perspective? And now you start back at the first path, right? And now you start over because it's not a linear thing? You're not trying to get to a place and be done it's this just continues man, we're just on this.

Brandon Handley 14:12
Right? Absolutely. So you know, we got we got a lot in there to unpack my friend we got a lot and unpack so I'm ending with that last piece that she just said there. You know, the idea of to me is kinda like that Golden Ratio right of how the spiral continues to get larger as you say, you know, you start off in the beginning and then that's your story like it just continues to get larger there's more greater pieces that come into it but you keep circling around kind of the the primary aspects of your life and and your story, right, but everything else you bring into it, it gets larger, your boobs get larger, your challenges seem larger to the people beneath you, but like the those challenges are just your next evolution point. And it's also like you said here, too With the idea of Yeah, going through all that, and then what do you do with that? Boom, right? This is done. I mean, look, man, not for nothing. That's what you and I are doing with these podcasts, right? we've, we've discovered something else in our lives that it makes sense to share it out with other people help people maybe to find that for themselves. You know, a big piece that I'm doing right now is comes out of a book called power versus force. And the idea of, you know, accepting that challenge, Shawn, it's gonna take what what's it going to take? It's gonna take a little bit of courage to take that step if you don't take that step, right. The refusal of the call, right, that's another part that's a you know, that's another big part. Right? So if you refuse to call the hero, that's where you find in my mind, you find a lot of regret the coulda, shoulda woulda is what if I didn't take that path? Right. So that's kind of the refusal is is leads to this kind of life less lived. scenario.

Unknown Speaker 15:54
So stillborn is the word I always think about. Hmm, wow. So stillborn or stagnant? Like, like, if you refuse to recognize that pet like you don't have to go down it. You don't. I mean, you can even be when you've had, I'm sure you've seen people where you've had a major life challenge or change. It's even forced upon them. And they're still it's like this, we call it denial or whatever. But they're just not not going down the path. And so it's like a broken record just kind of caught. Yeah. In that. You can't go any further. And that's the that's the irony. Is it in? Is it everybody has the opportunity to say no, but you don't have to go down these paths you, you can get the boon and then just sit on it. Right, right. Yeah, you've decided to take this. I hear it when you're when you're talking. Like there's been a revelate there's an intimacy there's, you've seen something and now you're like, ah, heck do I do with this thing? That's it.

Brandon Handley 16:39
I mean, that's, that's it? 100%? Right. I mean, that's the that's the genesis of spiritual dope, right? The deal is that here, here, there's this new, not necessarily even a new way of thinking, it's just new to me way of being. And now how do I integrate that with all the other things and everything else has always ever been, and not even necessarily for benefits so that I can exist on all planes of existence, right? And just keep moving forward. And not feel as though I'm not honoring my inner self as well. Right, this connection to God, this divine right, this thing that really deserves much more honoring than I've ever given it before. But now that it's here, I'm like,

Unknown Speaker 17:20
shit,

Brandon Handley 17:21
we got to do something here. Right. Right. So and, and, you know, I mean, just just for your own knowledge, like, I struggled with that, because it's something that I've been with for a while, and I did the other podcast where I did prosperity practice, right. But then I was like, I'm still not honoring the truth of how I'm feeling right. I had a few conversations with some people that I knew that were and are. And I was like, well, there's no reason why I can't do it, too. Right. So let's, let's begin it with spiritual dope, right, let's, uh, you know, I can help people through through that and find people such as yourself, and some others that are leading a life through spirituality, and having a more fulfilled kind of life purpose, because of it, right. And when they, you know, when they get to the end of it, they're gonna be like, I did everything to honor like, the divine within myself. Right.

Unknown Speaker 18:11
Right. And also, it's also a gift, right? It's part of this is this, the opportunity comes to me you sort of define kind of why I mean, like, I love science, like it's a part of this book is teaching us we can't really trust even what we're measuring. Even if we could, you know, the irony to science is they could never answer. Scientifically speaking, you cannot use the scientific method to answer the question that we all want to know.

Brandon Handley 18:35
At least it's subjective, it's always going to be subjective, actually, I mean, I did a podcast on last week on this, right. Like, the whole idea is like, it will always be subjective. But there are distinctive patterns in people who have fallen into this. And that's, that's why when you read meditations, that's why when you read the Bible, that's why when you know, you read any book of wisdom, you can now see that pattern, you're like, holy shit, that's the pattern. And and you can recognize that everywhere you go, you know, so the whole idea of everything's a miracle and nothing's a miracle. Everything's God or nothing's God, right? Like, you just got to make that choice. And that's what you'll see. So you know, one of the things that we you touched on it right was the you're kind of yours what yours was quite literal, come to Jesus moment, while we talk about what that was like for you again, because this This podcast is, it's also the gives people that understanding of Alright, well, this is happening to me now, what do I do with it? Right? We've been through a part of that. Obviously, we haven't gotten to the end. But what does it look like from your perspective?

Unknown Speaker 19:44
Well, I think part of it is you have to be willing to relinquish control in a sense of what you think you know, and what you think is even possible, and that we've allowed ourselves I know I did for a long time. So when I was younger, up into my early 30s allowed myself to believe that because I was heady and because I was smart, because I had, you know, people told me so and I knew it. But somehow you've got that you've kind of figured it out. There's there's a, there's a humble aspect to all this, that if that if I were to say anything from a preparation standpoint, it's truly and this is our podcast, the one that I did. And even I think it dissipated a conversation, are you willing to just listen to this, hear it out. Now, I understand that you can't hear out everything that's ever thrown at you. And there's a lot of noise out there. And there that is now more than ever, so the biggest challenge are so much noise, right? We can get lost in YouTube for hours and not even know where we're at, or Instagram or whatever, you can get lost in the noise. But back you're saying about this frequency? If it's answers those questions, is it beneficial? Is it harmonious? And is it beautiful? Whoever saying it or whatever saying it, I think if you use that as kind of a starting point, say and then hear it out? I mean, how do you how do you sit there and listen to some of these ancient masters and some ancient people that and I mean, like even modern day ancients when they give wisdom and they give when they when they talk about these things. So all that to say that, just just be humble about what you're doing. And be humble about the approach and realize that it's okay to say that you don't know something. And and then allow yourself to then explore and in really taking things that are uncomfortable, it took me forever, Brandon to not wince during the name Jesus. I mean, it took me years to not because for years, I was kind of like the, the church leader on Saturday Night Live where it was like, I would hear that word and just go, Oh, God, every time somebody resists Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, you know, kind of thing. It took me a while to tour that name didn't, didn't bother me. So I think in terms of that, in terms of that approach, there's also a little bit of grace you have to give yourself to understand your and you have to knock off some of these old habits. This idea of, like, favorite real quick,

Brandon Handley 21:47
what is Grace mean to

Unknown Speaker 21:49
Grace's the capacity for growth, the capacity for wandering and being lost a little bit from making the decision that maybe turns out later Nabis beneficial graces allowing for exploration and just the existence of a maybe even since I was a negative energy, but just an incomplete perspective, allowing for that incomplete perspective of yourself because that's the thing we become self critical. Go back. I should have known better. How did I not know better? Oh my gosh, now that I know I will never get it wrong again. Right now. Okay, now I get it all now get all figured out. But just do it this way. It'll stay that way. And I won't falter. This hole is the one phrase that is getting more and more old for me is around. Oh, well. Nobody's perfect. yet. We got that part. Everybody. Like we we all check the box that nobody's perfect. That's true. Okay, but what does that even mean? So that means there's that there's an allowance for for that stumbling. There's an allowance for just that even hurt and pain and just being flat out wrong. In some cases. Last night on LinkedIn, of all places on social media, I saw a gracious interaction between two people, where one person was just being a smartass, and just a just a troll, just a absolute troll and just the other person responded with absolute kindness, absolute kind of truly, this and I even reached out to him personally. And now we're connected and they're gonna come on this oil and gas podcast that I'm doing because I'm like, I'm like, that was an amazing example of just, it was inspiring because to see somebody do what you hear mostly is all the ridiculousness, right? We don't see that. So grace, and even if you do, Grace is allowing, what about that idiot? What about? I was I talk to my people that I know that follow Christ? And they're like, do you know that Paul wrote half the New Testament, more than half the New Testament? Oh, by the way, he had a massive conversion story. There was a there was a point in his life where he killed Christians, because he just just because to eradicate them from the earth, like in a is awful ways you can approach a group of people like just ethnic cleansing, he was the guy in charge. And I was like, What? Yeah, the guy who wrote more than half the New Testament is attributed with with living a lifestyle like that.

Brandon Handley 23:57
I did not know that. I mean, that's I mean, that that again, that's, I mean, that's a powerful image. It just one of the things that you think about right brings to my mind anyways, is maybe even our judicial system, or our penal system, right? Where, hey, somebody goes and makes like this stupid mistake, right? Murder is a stupid mistake. Not everybody means to murder somebody in this in certain scenarios. And I think that something you and I have probably learned along our path is how to, you know, not let our not be controlled by our emotions. It's something you hear everybody always say, but that's not easy to learn. Right? And it's, it's not easy to get somebody who's a good teacher that either right and so that we don't have a whole lot of examples of that. So, you know, somebody goes to the penal system, murder somebody, I'm not saying that's a good idea. Don't go out and do it. But in the end, like, I mean, you're still going to be accepted by God. That was a big mistake, but like, this person still has the capability to become and do some great things. for humanity?

Unknown Speaker 25:01
Well, let's do that. What makes me think of that is a former military. And so murder dependent back to the good and bad was beneficial, not beneficial, but what we celebrate our heroes in the uniform, right? The most celebrated people. I mean, Chris Kyle, people like that, that we think about, he was a sniper, like his entire job was to kill people were the right man. That's what he did. I mean, that's not such sugarcoat what his what his job was, and what he was given awards for, and medals and book deals, and a movie was made. So So it all depends on context and the perspective of whether you think it's the right thing or not. So I think that's, that's really important, too. And then, and then again, back to your question about grace and redemption is it should it only be for one or the other based on what we think is, you know, acceptable or beneficial things are good or bad at that time. And that's where you talk about dope. And one of the big areas in my life that kind of took a big, a very big deconstruction, or just was around legal narcotics is around drugs, including psychedelics, and I grew up kid in the 80s, total square, I didn't drink till I was 21. Because it was illegal. That would give me a hard time they thought it was ridiculous that would do that. I was just kind of the way that I was wired. It didn't mean that I didn't drink. It didn't mean I didn't speed. It didn't mean I didn't break the law, or I wasn't, you know, I'm not I'm not Jesus, and nor do I claim to be, but I tried to strive towards that, in the last couple years, one of the areas that that really kind of shattered this idea of kind of this, this belief, I was given before these this perspective, that was defined around illegal narcotics and the whole story behind that whole the whole drug war and start looking at cannabis, as well. I think it's funny, we call it spiritual dope. It's like, you know, if you go back and read, look and look at the plan to look at what it is, I can honestly think that might be the most valuable plant ever that God's ever created, the utility of that plan is incredible in every way. And so the idea that we've outlawed it, especially based on something like race, and we've criminalized it, and there's people that if you look at our our incarceration rate in the last 50 years in the United States, leads the world in incarceration per cat. I mean, that's, that's not something we should want to be number one, and that is any group in the organization, right? I mean, mass incarceration is not, it's not a sign of a healthy, vibrant culture, in my opinion, which is really incredible. If you think of how well we've done economically, or even everything else, that we've done this with a massive segment of our population, disproportionately, you know, disassociated from everything that we do. And I think that's a real opportunity going forward. But part of the pandemics put out there and pushing these social issues to the top is it's like, it's not about even equality, or just you know, we have to have, you know, a one of everything. It's more like, you're just you haven't tapped into this base. It's almost like knowledge, like, you haven't even tapped into this amazing group of people. And you've been putting them to the side and oppressing them. And now it's a chance to bring back everyone to the table, man, what you know, got Gumbo and all that stuff. You know, it's all better when there's this massive numbers of ingredients going into it,

Brandon Handley 27:43
not 100% and I love me some gumbo. I'm loving some gumbo, the you know, you brought you know bringing up dope, right? Like so what is your spiritual hit? Like what it what is your spiritual high?

Unknown Speaker 27:56
It's happened to me a couple times. And it's that revelation or that being exposed to something that I didn't even know I needed to know, that I didn't even know was even possible. And it kind of redefines what it resets the foundation it is. There's a part of it that is awful. Because it's like erasing the whole white chalkboard, the whiteboard all over again, you got to start over. But when you do that, it's this revelation of opening the what's possible. And I'll give you a couple examples. One back to Alexander, he was talking to this other podcast about so near make Jesus his name was Yeshua, and Yeshua and he said the word in Aramaic for from us for what we call Messiah, or the Christ was missy. Missy. It's an it's almost like an automatic pa it's this number I was out I was outside doing some work in the backyard and listen to sing ecosistema See, it was the issue of the must see what it is is in the word. The phonetics require the breath expulsion at the end. And that that breath expulsion is the real embodiment. So we think the way we speak English is totally different than the way that Aramaic, and a lot of other languages convey what they're trying to say in terms of there wasn't there wasn't a very large in terms of phonetics, but in terms of how it interacted, it was conveying something. That breath right? In Genesis, right God breathes According to the legend breathes life into the dirt, right? There's a breath whenever there's when you're first born, there's a breath, the last breath you take, there's something in this there's something that's alive. It's symbolized by breath. And so that energy which is in all of us, right, this is where we start to derail because the word goes to become a cya. And is supposed to be this thing, which shows he was in charge. And he was this. In my experience, anything that starts to go towards power and privilege and authority as a justification for its existence is kind of the beginning of the telltale sign that it's off of this. It's off the divine, because now you're just trying to control people now becomes Well, he's the Messiah. So now we have to follow him. Everyone else is toast. This is the only way right and that just leads to division. But this but the way that Alexander was explaining that in in Christianity first started to expand that what they would do is they would go find when they would go to different cultures different In areas and spread, they would see the Christ and it wasn't the person wasn't really even the thing either. It was this spirit within, it's this. It's this breath within all of us, right? That, oh, you have this story, you have this ritual, you go through these things like we do. It was more communal, like we know your story. We know that story, versus here's the right story. And we're gonna, we're gonna tell you to take the story you have now, you need to just erase all this stuff off the cave walls, get rid of all your traditions, know your culture, and just adopt this new way. That's just divide that's just conquering? Well, I

Brandon Handley 30:32
mean, I think I think you said it in the beginning, right? We can look back over history. Look at all the books of wisdom. Look at all I mean, not even just the books wisdom, we can look at Joseph Campbell's, you know, the hero's journey, and we can outline just about anybody anything anywhere with that same story with the same fundamental, whatever's right. And it's timeless, right? These stories, these ways of being these thought patterns, there's all this stuff you've been saying like, hey, right now, we think this is the craziest it's ever gonna be or we're the most technologically advanced. So that must be guess what hasn't gotten an implant is your brain. Right? Your brain hasn't been upgraded? Just, you know, for sure. You know, probably in 2000 years, you haven't evolved that much as a human being. Right. So I love you brought that up. You know, the other thing you brought up too, is just kind of like the idea of you were saying I think resistance but as you grow, right, but the word I might throw out there's like resilience, you develop a resilience to as you grow, right? Is that kind of like what's your look like?

Unknown Speaker 31:38
It's one of the it's one of the byproducts is certainly one of the things that this the second during tertiary aspects as you go through these kinds of things. You realize when you've been there before, like when the tree is getting bigger, it knows, hey, the storms come in. Last time, I didn't know anything about it got through. Okay. All right. So it doesn't mean it's gonna be easier. It just means that I know, my ability to kind of hold, stay steadfast, maybe greater, because I know, I know this, I know this song, I've done another stance, so that you know it like, like a book or like memorization, it's just you're familiar with it. So that familiarity, if you allow for it to come in, but also don't think that it means you know exactly what's gonna happen next, is this more of what is the essence of resilience? It's kind of come what may man if your lights go out or be okay, if it's flooded, we'll be okay. If it's a drought, we're gonna be okay. If it's a boon if we get a win the lottery, right? I'll be okay. Because that's not always guaranteed to be okay. Whether it's a clinical good or bad thing that you get, right? Well, I

Brandon Handley 32:35
think that's the other thing you were talking about is this dualism aspect can explain dualism for somebody who's not familiar with it. So

Unknown Speaker 32:41
dualism started. It's a nervous, Italian kind of byproduct from the Greek philosophers of kind of breaking things all the way down to their base level, in that we started to look at things from a polarity standpoint, if for everything, there's an opposite, right? That there's this idea that plus minus Yes, no good, bad. And that there's this, it's a tendency we have in ourselves to kind of limit the perspective of what we're looking at real in regards to a situation or something or how we measure it. And we can even see it when you see someone like technology around, you know, polarity, and stuff like that, in terms of electricity and things of that nature. And so there's this, there's this tendency, and there's also this human tendency to kind of break things down that simply. And the problem is we forget, as we break down the human being into like, Oh, it's just atoms or just protons, neutrons or protons and electrons, it's kind of it's, that's an atomic level kind of idea of right what we learn in school, there's plus and minus, and if there's more or minus than Plus, it's a negative charge. And if there's a positive charge over here, they come together, because positive opposites attract, and we kind of hear all this stuff. So we start to kind of really differentiate everything we think we know, in terms of what it is and what it could even be, is having one or the other. Right? And so then it becomes this, I mean, even think about it, if you just everyone takes a step back, look at the things that they look at that they were college rivalries, there's kind of one primary rivalry is always them versus us, or, you know, man and woman, or, you know, hate and love, just just emanates in everything that we do. And what's coincidentally is that the other person had this massive impact on me as a lady by the name of Janet Williams and Janet Williams wrote, she introduced on this other podcast called Nomad apophatic theology, and it's not even the right way to look at it. And what it tries to posit and there's a really, it's really hard to describe, because it doesn't have a description, but it does is a little bit what you're alluding to. It's both good and bad. It's both but it's neither. But it's so it's, it's like part of this is the idea of where you kind of go to with all this kind of introspect is around God. So God is all things that is in everything, but God has nothing God is both but God is neither. And then it's the idea that even if it how we think we can even understand and conceive certain things like the universe or even the divine did it's anyone that tells you they know God or what God is. It's not I don't mean this to be insulting, it's just I think it's it's this part of the journey of it. It's just going to be incomplete. And that even what we think it is, you have these experiences, I saw God or I felt God's presence. And I like what I talked about, and that we hold in those things become idols. And that the real idea behind telling people not to stay on the idols is even if that experience is with, like, if you're there, if you're Moses and God parts of the Red Sea and saves everything, and no brings the Red Sea down on the Egyptians, that's a pretty stellar experience. If it happens that way. You're Moses, you're thinking you can't get any higher, it can't get any better than this, right? This is the pinnacle of all that exists. There's a there's an element of that, that's, that that becomes an idol. No, I

Brandon Handley 35:36
think i think i think that too. It's like we open it up with right, you're the vessel through which the universe God creation acts, right, with, when I start to say that this is me doing it, then then I start to I start to limit what is possible, right, I start to set up like all these blinders and everything else where whereas, you know, if I start to just say, hey, the The only reason any of this is happening is because of, you know, divine source flowing through me and, you know, helping guide me, right. So when you start to think that you're at the pinnacle of anything in your life, I mean, again, you you're starting to throw up a limit. This is just me, you know, kind of spitballing right, but you know, you start to, you start to put limitations on yourself.

Unknown Speaker 36:21
Yeah. And it's, it's something that that goes into one of the things, there's eight fundamentals with these eight areas of what they call cognitive dissonance. And these eight biases, and one of them is called the errors of framing is this is this idea that you've that what you think you've known so far as to what frames everything? And what what creates the structure, it's out there that you, that's all there is, and there's not a possibility for something more. And part of the reason that he studies it is around innovation. So in terms of terms of actual innovation, both technically on a personal level, or anywhere else biases will keep you from seeing what could what could be possible. So that's one of those areas made me think of that is their idea of errors of framing, and part of it is like, does a fish know that it's in water? Or if it does, is it you know, it's good? It's kinda one of these things, if you don't know, what else is here, or you think that what is there is all there is, or you've been told, right? There's nothing else out there for you, Brandon, you'll never, you can never go past this city line, or you can never nothing that you can't go past this area. And it becomes a self limiting belief, because that's what you've been told. And it's part of that frame, then it's, if you don't trust it, it's not safe. You're not you're not risky, just for the sake of it. But don't don't limit, like I said, Don't limit the ability. And it's, you know, look, I can't be an opera singer, I know that. You can't, there has to be some reason this, this goes back into the balance of things around just from a pro beneficial effects to harmony. In those three questions. You know, if I sing, it's not gonna be harmonious, literally. But if I can connect with people on a personal level, work with them and go through life with them, there's, there's a human harmony that you can create as well. Right.

Brandon Handley 37:49
Do me a favor, like, you know, so we're talking all this a lot, a lot of theory here a lot of just kind of inner work a lot of ways that we have felt what is something that you know, would would be some practical application to give somebody who's listening to some of what we've learned throughout this time?

Unknown Speaker 38:06
I think the part that always catalyzes me, or is a catalyst for me is to take take an argument, take a subject, take a perspective, that is that, you know, is is fundamentally different from yours, as you can imagine, and go listen, purposely fine not to counter what I said about dualism, but it's more of the context around if I'm having a hard time, I just don't understand what drives didn't have to be something opposite or something you're against. It could just be I don't understand what drives what is the deal with, you know, well, hobby ism, and Islam. And what's the deal there? Why would that was that was what goes on bin Laden was if I remember correctly, that was part of his sector, what is the deal with name, your favorite subject, your name or area or something that challenges you that causes you or you at least has the potential to stern you and maybe it's anything you've said, I will never change my mind about that. I will, because I, I walked the earth and said, I would never walk into a church for any other reason than a funeral or a wedding. When I did, I'd want to leave just as fast as I got in there. And that was my way for a long time. But when you're when I had to take a step back and go look at this differently, like is this something that turmoil and again, it's going to create turmoil, but that's where the greatest opportunity is for growth doesn't mean you have to step all the way into it. But if you if you, if you just stay in the echo chamber, you just stay with the rhythm that you're used to, if you just stay in that pattern, you know, and you'll go out and branch out, especially if it's something that's different, or unique, or in that opposite, but just a different frequency than what you're used to. Then you never say that's why travel is so important. That's why and I don't just mean travel like Europe, or you know, some jungle in Asia. If you've never been to New Jersey, go to New Jersey, go to go to you know, Seattle, go to Chicago, go to Austin, Texas, you know, go to these places, big and small and just in feel no in if it's uncomfortable, right if it's and I get this way. I mean, I went with my wife this probably about a year ago. We went to there's a pride parade, gay pride parade here and we have some friends of ours and we went to church with them. They wanted to do the big free dad hugs and free mom hugs things. And we went and did that. And you talk about being out of your comfort zone. I mean, you know, look, I've never had an issue with it. I was in the Navy. I don't believe in any of that violence, or, you know, look, I don't understand it, like not even for for a moment. I can't relate. And I do think that's more of a detriment. I'll get to that in a second, if you want to talk about that. But I heard something in relation to that. Anyway, you talk about different man, you walk out, you go, and you walk up and down the streets of Houston, Texas, that are filled with people for Pride Parade, and you are, you know, you've never experienced that life or knowing about that world. It's going to challenge you, and a lot of ways and I think that discovered we tend to run away from it, if you can hold and you can stay steadfast. And yes, it may be uncomfortable, and it doesn't mean you're gonna like it at end of the day. But it will change you, I think it will change you in my experience. Rarely is it changing you for for the worse, for lack of a better word.

Brandon Handley 40:53
That's a great story. I love that, you know, you kind of put yourself out there into a situation where you were uncomfortable, but apparently you must have saw, like, you know, some beauty in it right? You must have saw some benefit. And you may not you don't have to understand it in order to look, you don't have to believe it for it to be true. Right. And you don't have to understand it. To for to participate in it. So and I love that what you're saying here is, rarely do you put yourself into something like that, and opportunity for growth and it comes out poorly. Right. Right. That's awesome. So you know, where where were you, you know, we met and over here at come to the table podcasts, right? Is that something you're still running? Or if you're spinning into something new? Where can somebody get a little bit more? Sure, McCoy.

Unknown Speaker 41:47
So right now I said a couple different things. So the podcasts that come to the table, I hit my 100th conversation, there was a number that popped in my head back in February. And then I used part of the pandemic to kind of get there and kind of round it off, I had to take a real hard look internally and realize it was more my journey than it was really doing it for the listener if I was going to be quite honest, gotcha. It was a sobering thing that I was kind of railing against the, the structure of like, I have to do all these things in a structured way. This kind of free flowing stream of consciousness consciousness kind of thing, just I just saw it, it filled me with 100 stories of people, plus all the other ones, all the other stuff, it just, it was just a chorus of, of the mercy of life of Breath of just everything. So it's in it continues to have a significant impact on my life. Today's the fruit, if you will, continues to be born. This is a good example. But I also realized that I needed to it kind of run its course and there's some other stuff that was coming. I got a friend of mine who's gonna show real quick before we jump on to the next piece

Brandon Handley 42:45
talk about that, because that can be a real challenge. For some people, it sounds to me like you found a pivot point. Or you found a point where it's just like, Alright, this, this is filled its role in my life, right? Because you got a lot of people that are like, Oh, you got a, you got to see it to the end. And or maybe I'll tell you, I had a big I had a big problem with, um, when I stopped doing father for the rest of us, right? Because I had attached my identity to that, right. And I was like, oh, man, I've built this community. I've done this and what do I do? And you know, it was tough to break away from that. So talk a little bit about that right, first first occurs to start it up, and then the curse the stop it.

Unknown Speaker 43:19
Yeah, I think it's definitely much harder to stop it. I mean, it's, it's when you dive in, you're naive in a way, you're not sure what's going on. But when I think you're realizing that it's time to walk away, and it's not. Yeah, you don't like it necessarily. I mean, I didn't really like it. And like you said, you put so much into it, you put heart and soul and you're wanting things and just the amazing conversations of people that you've come across. If we just take the time, I didn't have anybody famous in my pockets ever. But I would tell anybody 100 times out of 100 go listen to Brad spot bill this, there's wisdom in his words back then even and I think the other part that makes podcasting so amazing, which may make it a little easier to walk away from sometimes they're all still out there for people to discover. And people will and this is where I just trust a spirit and divine will bring people to the point where they can listen to something based on when it's necessary when it can serve them and help them but also realize that I could do a better job of setting the table, if you will. And also he also needed a little bit of you got to get some time. Give yourself some time to decompress, and some time to process that kind of stuff. Yeah, it's like drinking from a firehose you're doing one episode a week, hours and hours and hours editing and, you know, it's it's like drinking from a firehose and sometimes you ventually got to turn it off for a little bit. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 44:32
absolutely. Absolutely. I know that a I forgotten how much effort it is to really be involved in it. Right. Dylan? This is taken a considerable amount of effort. I'm loving it, and I'm enjoying it, but uh, I did forget for a minute, just how much time can can be involved with it. Okay, so then you're looking at this I mean, if I understand correctly, too, then you're looking towards a new new space. Is that right?

Unknown Speaker 44:53
So yeah, so one to two areas. One actually got hired professionally to host a podcast and oil and gas talking about The environmental, social and governance issues within the industry is I'm currently working on that I have a co host with me, it's like a true show like there's developed, it's, it's really, really coordinated, complete opposite of what the other one was. I mean, it's very structured, has conversation, but it's got three parts. It's it's like a chorus. I mean, it's there's a lot to put together. That is one of my guests is a political theologian, Steven Backhouse, who was instrumental in my kind of my deconstruction around nationalism, which is a whole nother part of the story. But he reached out to myself and another guy that we know to help him start this podcast called 10th theology. And it's just about renewing the renewing the political imagination or renewing the imagination, just as somebody who's a follower of the way, they're not even a Christian, it's this get to where you know, you're your lead, or you're following this way versus it, the big crux of it, just to kind of put it out there is also around the fundamental what we call fundamental evangelical Christians that are kind of dominating the conservative politics, the United States, it seems to be kind of almost like that. Everybody's assumption is if you're a Christian, I mean, I'm a white 46 year old Christian, technically from Texas, right. So I was like, Okay, well, then you must vote for you must have to vote for Donald Trump. You gay. I

Brandon Handley 46:08
mean, you gotta be Republican. Right? You

Unknown Speaker 46:10
can't you hate gays, you Although run the whole gamut. And oh, my gosh, there's a lot of people that are like waving the flags going, please don't do that. Please don't do that. Sure. Yeah. And so it's challenging that narrative, as well as the internal narratives that we have. Because it's not like, again, it's not. This is where dualism comes into it. The answer isn't for the Republican Party to go away. The answer isn't for you, angelical Christians to go jump in a lake? The answer isn't for liberals to die or liberals. It's just not right. It's not an answer. Right. Have you seen this historically? I mean, you find me a place where there's where you eliminate all certain ethnicity, type, gender, religion, whatever. Show me where an elimination of that has led to prosperity? Yeah,

Brandon Handley 46:52
I don't think elimination does it acceptance, does it? Well, man. Look, I always enjoy our conversation. I'm sure we could chat about quite a few other things. But you know, what would like one parting piece before you today to leave everybody with

Unknown Speaker 47:08
you? I know you like to ask them. When did you become first aware of yourself?

Brandon Handley 47:11
Yeah, that's a good one. Sure.

Unknown Speaker 47:13
I was about six years old, I was going down the street called Murphy road in Missouri city, right outside of Houston, I can almost take you specifically toward that spot was and I remember, I just kept saying to myself as a very young person, who am I who am I, me, me, me. And I found myself kind of this understanding of your own consciousness, your understanding of your own self around what that means. And I do think there's an is a very young person, absolutely ill equipped, and had no support structure to help me process that. And so I kind of put that voice to bed for a while. And it's been a long time. kind of let it out a little bit. I think in the shower, that one day, it's always there. But you're kind of letting the world the voice win. And be domineering. And I think I would just encourage people to listen to that voice in their head that they've had in it those things that they think are cuckoo, or the things that they think are surely this is not something's wrong, you know, I mean, if it if it starts to become part of an inner journey of awareness, yeah, it's again, it's scary, and it's Rocky and it becomes really, really weird Twilight Zone music kind of stuff. But I think that's, that's the point. That's one of the areas that we're supposed to is that realization of self are and what it is, I think those that allows for us to embrace all these other things we hear about whether it's giving of oneself or its community, or how do we sit at a table truly with somebody because we say all this stuff, like it's easy, but when you're actually sitting there with somebody and they're looking at you going, No, Brandon, I can't stand x kind of people because they're all this or it you know, those that what about what about what about this? The biggest argument what what do you do about something breaks in your house? What about this? What about rapists? What about what about all the hundreds of the border that disappeared? You know, two years ago that somehow didn't you're only there for a little bit? Or? What if What if the democrats win the election? What are you gonna do about that? Right, because you're just, you always have an argument to put that but that voice away, right, not listen to it, and then not embrace it. I would just encourage people to do so even if it's crazy, even feels odd and weird, and it's not gonna be like the movies. Yeah, it's

Brandon Handley 49:14
not gonna be like the movies. It's not gonna be like the movies. Well, Sean, thank you so much for partnering with that one, too. And like you said, right, to become aware at such a young age and not have the system support for that. That's look man that's that's that's where I found myself at 40 right so becoming aware and maybe you know, to your point like maybe re becoming re aware I don't know right? reborn right type of thing and, and recognizing it and instead of shoving it away like this is the moment now to accept that that is who you are, right framework or not, but this again, this podcast, you know, check out, come to the table podcast and look for places where what you're actually Experiencing fits a framework. I actually, again, this is something I said last week on a podcast that I put out there. I wasn't. I don't know if that's true for you or not. I wasn't out there consuming all this information looking to have the experience. I had the experience and then I had to go look for the information so that I could understand it. Yes. So thank you so much, man. Appreciate you for being on today.

Unknown Speaker 50:23
Man. I appreciate what you're doing. Keep it Keep up the good work and you keep it going, brother. Thanks for listening to the spiritual

Unknown Speaker 50:35
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ARE YOU READY TO SUCCEED | CHAPTER 03 | DEEP DIVE

Published: Dec. 7, 2020, 11:44 a.m.
Duration: 16 minutes 6 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
And here we go spiritual dope, what is going on with you today? Then a minute in a minute, but I am back with another episode that digs deep, deep, deep, deep, deep, deep, deep, deep, deep, deep into, are you ready to succeed? Ah by srikumar Rao and we are on chapter three. And this is a chapter all about that mental chatter. So we get into it, you know, he breaks it down and says listen to the first thing you got to do is come to terms with the fact that the world that you live in isn't real, because we covered that in the last chapter. If you don't recall, right, this is just like, everything is kind of in your mind, one way or another. It's a perception, it's all these other things. And there are these beliefs and ideas and models that you've created over time. All right, you've created your reality, using these models. And if you poke poke at any of them, any of them, any one of them, they will crumble and fall, if pushed hard enough, but the the deal is that you've created your very own reality. And what you mentally create shows up in reality, whether you haven't actually created it or not. Right, so most likely, the reality that you've created is unconscious, and that's okay. But that doesn't save you ignorance does not spare you from the reality that you do create. What happens then, is that, you know, you need to become aware simply of these facts. And you can become aware of them. Most people that apply to this are some law of attraction fans. And you may recognize this out of there. So totally different context. But same scenario, right? So whatever you're focusing on in your mind, now is the same stuff that is eventually going to show up, whether or not you're paying attention to that or not. This third year, third year, that I've read this book and gone through this book, and this is the first time that I've caught that, right, it's the first time that I've caught this piece in this book, and it's made made more sense, right? different level of understanding. So we're talking here about your mental chatter, right? It is your constant companion. It is that on going dialogue monologue that's always going on within your head. And it is your stream of consciousness and the hilic how he puts it in the book, because it can be a bubbling Brook. Or it can be white water rafting, and it's always going on. And we're kind of like most people, especially in western civilization, you're beating yourself up, it's always like, you should be doing this should be doing that. It's like one thing to another. It's exhausting, right? So he was down through some other stuff inside the book, kind of like the Giza. Imagine just your day and a steady stream of consciousness, what it's like and how it never shuts up and leaves you alone. He goes to wonder isn't that you feel stressed and overwhelmed. At the end of any day, after that stream of consciousness that ongoing Mandala is whether or not you were functional, at all, whether or not you're functional at all. And you can see right now, during the pandemic, especially during the pandemic, there's so many people that they can't take any more of it. And it's a lot. Sue your surgeon, let me see if this is where the quote is. He's actually got a great quote in this book somewhere

about your surgeon and it might have been in this chapter. But here's initially right, so he boiled it down to like, your mind is like a computer. It's always running. It's always doing this mental chatter. And it's basically like, it's lines are crossed, right? It's basically just like, the worst, right? It's a frickin mess. And, you know, it's like, imagine you had gotten a computer like that, like your mind, which is exactly what it is. Wouldn't you return it? Right? Wouldn't you be like, you know, how long would you put up with it? says how long he goes, how long would you take before you were laying out your case to the best mental malpractice lawyer in town. And how easy would it be to collect, right especially with the way that your mind and your mental chatter treat you? I throw it in. It's kind of a Wouldn't you look for a manual? Right? Wouldn't you look for a manual if he had this thing? And like, Man, it's pretty powerful. It's pretty potent, but to really like, know how to work it, And to me, that's what this book is. It's really good at it. Now, certainly, certainly combine it with a lot of others. But this book to me, and this, this whole thing is a little bit like a I'll keep these. If you're if you're a if you're curious. And you want to look at it. I'm also creating videos of these with a mind map that you may want to follow along with me not. I don't know, let me know though. It helped me to kind of break it out. There's a guy named Joseph Rodriguez, I want to say his name's Joseph Rodriguez, that does some of these. And I got the idea from him, because I like how he goes through it this way where he builds out the mind map, as he's as he's talking along with you on it. So I figured I'd use it for myself as well. I'll have to tag them somewhere. So look, little droppings. That's your vo J. The DOJ if you haven't femme said already. That's your voice of judgment. He srikumar Rao got it. The idea from Michael ray is professor of Korea. He was professor of creativity in Stanford. And the book's name is he he recommends his book, creativity in business. And if you're looking at three Kumar Rao's creative and personal mastery course, one of the books that you it's required reading for the creative and personal mastery course. So vj comes out of there, right voice of judgment, that's kind of basically what your mental chatter is usually prattling on about it's all like, judging you, and judging you. And everything else in one way or another. Right. And he lists a couple different ones. You goes there's a there's outright subtle insidious, every once in a while, there's gracious, right? A couple examples of those. And there's insidious, right, just downright kind of nasty, and they're ingrained, but outright would be like, hey, you're such a dummy. How'd you get this job? subtle may sound something like, you know, maybe you're or maybe you look at one of your co workers, and you're like, ooh, he is so smooth. He's not tongue tied in meetings like you who that's the kind of guy that gets a promotion, not a smoke like you. That's your voice judgment. That's your mental chatter that's talking to you, right? What a jerk in situations that you're judging your voice of judging your voice of your own DOJ in situ, it's just nasty. Every once in a while. It will be gracious. And it'll say something like, hey, look at that charming couple, they must have a great marriage, right? That's just being kind of gracious and looking at them in other ways. And but others are not free from your voice and judgment. Right. And it also reminds me of there's a little story that a bunch of kids are sitting in class, teacher goes up rights 19th rights 20 problems up on the board. And one of them's incorrect. And the teacher says I was anybody notice anything up here? Everybody, all the kids raised their hand, they then they all say, well, you missed one, you didn't get one, right. And so they were so focused on the one that was wrong. And the teachers like, Well, what about the 19? Right ones, right? We're so focused on what's wrong, that we tend to typically not focus on the things that are wrong. So what happened, what happened to focusing on the things that are correct or right or good in our lives, that's where I where I'm getting at with that is always always always on the voice. The judgment is always on it keeps you trapped. It's like kui crabs

story, it's like the crabs or you hear all the time, or like anytime you start to go out beyond the edge, it just wants to pull you back in and keep you right where you are, so that you don't dare stick your your, your head above and get it chopped off or anything like that, right. It's like coral. If you're familiar with corals, or the super tiny little living things, they're not super big. But over time, when they die, they leave their skeleton there and they all grow up over time they build up over time. And if you're not familiar with anything nautical, you know, there's big these big, huge coral reefs throughout the world. I mean, you rip a boat apart on those so even though they're small voices and judgments, just mental chatter over time, it can grow up and just for us, you said your mental diet. The soft voice and judgment is your mental diet and it you're gonna absorb it. Generally you do it honestly. And without permission, going all the way back up to the top it's like, you know, is these are these are this is your mental model most likely has been created unconsciously over time. Regardless of whether or not it's been created unconsciously, it's been done, it's done right, you haven't really created a filter, it's coming in on filtered and unobserved without permission. It's like all the Trojan horses and it's a hijacking these, these dislike the mental patterns like these little pop off. So me, I think when you wrote the book, they are more prevalent on the internet. And he was always like, you know, sometimes you just get like, pop up after pop up, he couldn't make it go away, really reminds me of you get more modern, it reminds me of the pop ups or just trying to install a free app on an Android voice. Who needs that? It's like your database is continuously updating to so like, as soon as you build this kind of you build this mental models, you build these vlj builds up over time. And eventually, it just ends up in this big, huge relational database. It's just constantly updating, you can never change the records on it. Here's a backup there. We go, right and haven't up until a kind of a point of recognition, where you go back and fix fix something or delete a record or modify a record, right? You were not born this way. He goes on to say, you have picked this up through socialized behavior. You have picked this up through cultural conditioning? He asked Yes. Question is, have you ever made a purchase to buy something to show your status, and you don't even want the thing he meant that's the type of coat that you know, conditioning that we're talking about here. And he also mentions the idea that you may, in certain situations have to comply behaviorally. But you never have to give up your equanimity, right. You never have to give up who you are as a person in regards to working with somebody else, or applying the voice of judgment to yourself, because that's all internal. And he also goes on I love this because it goes on right now, once we get to this point, once we start to get to this point, and you start to get to this point, you're working with your mental chatter, you are both the doctor and the patient. You want a doctor and a patient. So now, who is going to lead into is, is doing the mental chatter exercise. You know, you can simply google that, you know, what is a mental chatter exercise look like? But in terms of that, you end up becoming the doctor and a patient, you end up understanding what it is, that is your mental chatter. What is it? You will notice, from this exercise from this practice of noting your mental chatter throughout the day, throughout time, you will notice what you're building your life on those are the foundations that is your very own coral reef that you are building. And you're going to want to do this without judgment. And voices judged post judgment, right? Stop, start to do it. without judging yourself. They're just thoughts. They're not even your own. They showed up over time, like, oh, there's another one. That's another thought. That's gonna sometimes cause you to have a feeling or an emotion. That's just a feeling or emotion. Just judge don't judge it. Just note that that's a feeling. Just note that that's an emotion, the voice of judgment, voice of judgment. Note that that's a voice of judgment note if it is an outright mean one if it's subtle, mean, maybe it's being gracious and all these other things, but most of the times they're beating you up and not building you up.

I noticed this passionately, he don't let it Rouse you don't let it tear you apart. Don't let it beat you down. It's just again, they're just thoughts. They are just thoughts. Once you do this practice, over time, there will be less hijacking. Imagine you've installed pop up blocker. It's really what it is. And he likens it to shoplifting if you've ever been to grocery stores as shoplifters will be prosecuted. It's proven that just putting the signs up alone will reduce the shoplifting. I think we got through that one pretty quick. It's actually a very big part of this book. It's a very big part of this overall practice.

But that's the fundamentals right that's fundamentals and that's where you can you can begin to build yourself up on and you can just begin to note your mental chatter throughout the week and like I said you can go ahead and look look that up online to see if there's a good one for you. But yeah that'll close it down like I said, head on over to spiritual dope and you can go I don't think the video is posted yet somebody's email Brandon as spiritual dope co if you're interested in the videos I'll be happy to share them out with you but now you got an idea of what mental chatter is when it shows up in your life. Now that you're kind of armed and you're aware it's it's worth knowing is half the battle GI Joe. It's it's just knowing right now that becomes a this is something that you can negotiate with. This is something that you can actually acknowledge, and you can have an impact on it. All right. Yes.

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David Michael Reed | Freedom and Authenticity of Expression Coach

Published: Dec. 6, 2020, 12:48 p.m.
Duration: 1 hour 3 seconds

Check out this conversation between cohost of Your Essential Nature, David Michael Reed and I have as we explore his spiritual journey with you today!

David Michael Reed (D.Mike) is the owner/host/CEO of the edutainment platform Game Of Unity LLC, which provides a fun way to reimagine how we interact with humans in general, and a director for the non-profit organization The Briar Farm Family Foundation, which is focused on providing food and knowledge to the community.D.Mike is a freedom and authenticity of expression coach. He quickly realized the power of staying connected to your true nature, having to navigate several vastly different cultures within a short time frame.

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Brandon Handley 0:22
Hey there spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here and I am on today with David Michael Reed who likes to go by the mic. He's the owner hosts the CEO of the edutainment platform, a game of unity, which provides a fun way to reimagine how we interact with humans in general and a director for the nonprofit organization the Briar farm Family Foundation, which is focused on providing food and knowledge to the community. D Mike is a freedom and authenticity of expression coach, he quickly realized the power of staying connected to your true nature having to navigate several vastly different cultures within a short timeframe. Although he studied biochemistry at the University of Oklahoma, his interests have taken him to study much more broad realm of knowledge. He utilizes his various interests, formal education and personal experiences to formulate his principles of unity. From here on out, I'm gonna direct you to check out his YouTube show, which he is a member of your essential nature, and you can find him on Game of unity.com It's a mouthful D Mike, thanks for joining today. How you doing? I'm doing really great. Appreciate it. How you doing, Brian? Oh, man, I you know, look, I like I said earlier, it's just another day in Whoville, but but I'll tell you what I am. I'm going through a book that I go through it like once a year right now it's called Are you ready to succeed? d maiken. And I'm at the very beginning of its 10 week kind of books, and you're asking I'm just gonna go. But there's one thing in here, man that you know, I saw it again today. Like I've got like all these highlights in here from years ago, because that's part of the process of this book. The book asks you for a commitment like when you start right.

Unknown Speaker 0:02
You're listening to the spiritual dope podcast with your host, Brandon Handley, the spiritual dope podcast. Be sure to follow us on Facebook and on our website, the spiritual dojo. Ready, set, go.

Brandon Handley 2:00
And one of the lines in here man is that each day that you're not radiantly alive and brimming with shear is a day wasted every time. Yeah, I read that line. I'm in fact it man. I'm like, I'm like holy shit. What am I you know, it's just nosy in Whoville was it one where I was radiantly alive. And you know, so did I waste a day? I don't know. So since you asked, yeah. That's kind of where I'm at. So um, you know, I like to start these off with, we're vessels for creative energy, universal energy, God, God, whatever you feel like you need to call it right source energy. And there's somebody out there listen to this podcast today. Who does a message inside of you, right, that needs to you need to deliver through source to that person? What is that message?

D Mike 2:47
That's a great question. And I appreciate that, you know, I really feel like my medicine, I was just speaking about this recently. And I really feel like my medicine, what my personal message, what I've come down here to do is to is to be a bridge. And I know that whenever I was coming up, I felt like I had a lot of skills, I felt like I had a lot of resources, but I still wasn't connected to my power, I still wasn't able to create how I wanted to. And you know, I always felt like I was being kind of tapped on the shoulder by spirituality of by by something greater than me that was trying to connect me to my power in my authenticity. And I was going to shut it away, just because I think it was mostly because I had a lot to do with the way that I was brought up and the environment and my peers, and maybe the demographic that I that I chose to come into in this incarnation. But I never wanted to connect to that power. I never allowed myself to step into that because of just certain stereotypes and certain ways that people told me that I needed to behave. So I got really good at wearing a bunch of masks and figuring out how to get love by being a certain thing to different people. And and by and by not tapping into my true potential and my true authentic nature. And so what I've been able to do in the last few years since I've been on the self discovery and inward journey is really very technically take a look at all of these masks and realize how I can step into my authenticity and therefore find my my truth and my power. And I think that being in the circumstance that I am, where I was moving from, as you talked about earlier in the intro, thank you for that, by the way, living in such radically different cultures in such a short amount of time, I'm able to see this main kind of thread that moves through all of us. If you're in whenever I was in the streets of Compton or in you know, in a mansion and Johnson County in Kansas, there's still that one thread that I feel like unites us all and I think that's what I'm here to help do is to help us all to realize that unity and to realize our potential and our strength that's in our authenticity in our unity whenever

Brandon Handley 4:46
we come together so you know I love I love you got a couple couple things in here too. So you know as you're as you're coming down here, you said to be a bridge on you. It kind of prompts the the idea of like where are you Come down here from right is one question I would have. And then another question I would have is like, you know, I love how you said you chose kind of this place to travel through. Right? Why don't you talk a second about that, like, you know where it's coming from? Yeah.

D Mike 5:15
Yeah. And that's a that's a phenomenal question. And I think this is one of the most important questions that we can really ask whenever we're trying to find ourselves and to and to get on this path. And so the way that resonates with me the best, and the way that helps me to be the best person that I can, is to think about things in a way that first of all, we're all here doing the best that we can, and that we all have a similar mission whenever we get together, and we realize our similar goals. And so the way of looking at things that is the best for me to be the best and most effective human that I can be, is to believe that this is a this is a chosen time with everything that's going on right now. This is a chosen time for me to come down into this incarnation into this body at this time with the particular family and people that I have around me with the circumstances that are going on right now. Not only does it make the most sense that I chose this, because it makes sense with everything that's going on right now a lot of people are freaked out. And I'm kind of like, yep, this is exactly where I'm supposed to be right now, because of all the circumstances because of the demographics that I've come down in. And so and so where I came from, and I mean, I think that we all come from source, I mean, that that's really kind of what it is. And I think that that's what I'm talking about that energy that's moving through all of us, it's really our true nature, your essential nature, that's really it. I think that it's, it's the same for all of us, and we came down and we're in, we're wearing these suits, you know, we're in a brand new suit, I'm wearing the D Mike suit. And we're and we're able to have these different experiences and and see each other in these nuanced ways, while still maintaining that the true self like our true self, and our true nature is really the same. So that's why I'm saying that whatever I'm talking about where I came from, is just from, from our God, Goddess nature, that we are coming into these into these human forms to have a human experience. So you're saying that to God, nature, your essential nature source,

Brandon Handley 7:20
that's where you came from?

D Mike 7:21
Absolutely, absolutely. Awesome.

Brandon Handley 7:23
So the idea that you come from source i think is a little bit more approachable than godlike energy, right, even though, you know, it's the same thing. Right? Why do you think that is? Like, what's the hang up on God?

D Mike 7:37
That's a fantastic question. And yes, I think that there is you said it exactly right. I think that there is there's a hang up on God. And I know that for me, in particular, there's a whole thought form about this word, that is God and what it means. And I think that it's tied to a lot of our upbringings. I can say for me, myself, I was I've been brought up in the church, Southern Baptist, and there is a whole way of thinking about God and what that means. And it's been my experience that within the within the church, at least in my upbringing, there's been a lot of fear behind it. And it's a whole lot of control issues, it's a lot of things that are saying you need to behave this way you need to do this, or else the, um, the consequences are absolutely unthinkable. And I think that that kind of brings that's kind of brought in through our thoughts of whenever we think about God. And so even though a lot like in my upbringing were made in the form of God, even but, but still, to maybe include yourself as God, I know that there's a lot of fear behind that, and a lot of people's upbringing and a lot of, and it's it's blasphemous. And like, I'm, like I was saying, it's just the amount of fear because of the consequences are just so great that you don't even we don't even want to allow that kind of fuss and thinking to come in. So to be able to think of yourself as God, or to be able to think of it in a different way. I think that's one reason why there's so much as the hang up because of the fear and the consequences, the way that we were brought up. I like that

Brandon Handley 9:07
right. And I think the idea too, is that the were brought up to believe and think that we are separate from God, right? And then we also have to take a look at this desert, there's a big God, G, big G and a little G. Right? So the big God and a little God, and even then I think we have a challenge and trying to associate ourselves with God. Now if we look at the idea of in some cultures, they say God is love, right? So are you is it much easier for you to say I am loved then I am God.

D Mike 9:39
You know, that's kind of a difficult one there to make that kind of distinction to see which one resonates more to say I am God which another reason I think that people will kind of have a hang up about that is because that kind of puts you in the all powerful all knowing and people are like, I don't know everything, you know, I'm not all powerful. So so they want to separate themselves from that, but on that same token I know that there's a lot of times whenever I don't feel like I'm always loved. And you know, I think that that's one of the big reasons I was so excited to come on to this show in particular is because, you know, we're talking about like, Hey, this is spirituality. And sometimes it looks like this. And sometimes it looks like that. And, you know, coming from going back to my story, living in Compton, Los Angeles, and then living in Johnson County, Kansas. And I see this energy that people identify with and and so I think that me saying that I am love which one would want to be easier. I know that every day I'm feeling more compassionate. And I'm feeling more in low I'm letting my guard down a little bit more. All of the time. I'm becoming more authentic, which I think that is at our at our heart and our true nature. Is that that compassion and that love So yeah, yeah, I think that God is love and everything is a fit. You've heard the phrase, everything is love, or a call for love. So I think in that way, then yeah, I mean, I think that it's easier to say that I am low rather than I am this entity that is God. Yeah, look,

Brandon Handley 11:01
man, like sometimes I burn water, right? So like, don't you don't give me a god, don't give me God privileges. I'm just gonna mess it all up. Right. And the same token, I had a really good conversation with your co. co partner me this weekend, actually, one of the things that she brought up, and I thought it was really awesome, just as it relates to kind of God was that, you know, she grew up in the Catholic space, I'm sure you know much more about her than I do. I've spoken to her for about an hour, but she brought up the idea of having in Christianity, like an army of angels, having your back, I was like, when you can have that mentality. That's great. You know what I mean? And having you know, you, maybe you're maybe you can't identify holy with I am God, but if you can identify with having God's army, that's got your back. I mean, that's, that's, that gives you a different way to go out and about, right,

D Mike 11:51
we're sure, right? See how that would, that can provide a whole new perspective. For sure. And, and I think that that's, and then so we're getting into something here that I think is really important, especially coming from, from my perspective, and that's, and that's like the Unity the Unity principles. And so we're getting into getting into labels and things of that nature. And, and so like, you were saying, You and me, were talking about having a host of angels behind you that are that are protecting you and helping you cool, I think that's awesome, whatever makes you feel empowered, and and powerful and useful enable ability, you haven't having the ability to create, I think that's awesome, you know, some of my more more recent crowds that I've been hanging out, it's like about having angels, or having guardian angels, or, or any of the being, I mean, I've heard any, any of the representatives or we're even Tupac, you know, people talking about all kinds of spirits, leaders that they have. And, you know, I think that there's a lot of crossover, if we're talking about the angels in one religion might kind of convert and be this other entity in a different religion, but I really feel like it's just the energy behind it. And it's that feeling power to feeling supported. And so as far as any of the labels go, I think that, you know, my middle name is Michael. So maybe I'm calling on that Archangel Michael, you know, I've had several sessions where people tell me, oh, this, this angel, this person is there supporting you. And I think it's great to feel that to feel that I'm supported. But I try not to get caught up too much in the labels.

Brandon Handley 13:21
Now I'm with you. Hundred percent hundred percent, you know, reason why I kind of resonated with that thought process myself was thinking of the universe's benevolent right thinking that the universe, all things and like, like you said at the beginning, right, you are here at this specific time at this specific place, juncture, all these things for yourself to basically become right, you know, this, this, you're here for one purpose, right, you were sat down here, you were, you know, putting the toaster, whatever you're here for just like one reason, and it's gonna be a blip on like the map of like the universe and all this other stuff. But the timing isn't going to be so impeccable, that you're not going to have all the support that you need in order to move forward. Right, right. Like you're not here alone, you are here with source energy, right, which is a part of you, God soars. And so that's the idea. Right? I

D Mike 14:15
think so. And I think that that's really important to say that we're not here alone. And I think that part of the decision to come down here and to be born to specific parents in a certain body, I think all of that planning and putting in the people and some of the incidents that in some, some of the challenges that you're going to face whenever you come down here, I think that all of that is part of the planning of whenever we come down here and and and then also within that, just there's the challenges that are kind of laid out before as well. But also there's the helpers. Also, there's the the people who are going to be who are going to show up at exactly the right time. Also, there's the event that's just going to present itself to you and the tickets to it are just going to fall out of the sky and you're going to come in you're going to have an amazing experience that that exact perfect If it's going to push you forward, I also believe that that we that we have those factors that are pushing us forward as well. I think it's all part of it. It's all part of the planet.

Brandon Handley 15:09
Yeah. So coming out of Compton into the central United States of America, which is kind of it's kind of entertaining, like journey, I'm sure. Right. I've never been to different worlds, no doubt, right? Where do you feel like you kind of stepped into this awareness or acceptance of your power?

D Mike 15:26
That's a great question. And I think that that is sort of the underlying concept that's really gotten me to where I am now. And to a place where I'm formulating that the Unity principles and really integrating and living them. Like I said, I always felt like I was searching for my power, even though I felt like I had a lot of tools. And I was always tapped on the shoulder, like, I was always getting these little messages, I would always see my birthday and certain number of patterns that would kind of be kind of hinting at me. And I would always be like, you know, whatever, that's completely crazy. That's, there's no place for that in my life, I was just always shoved away. And I think it was up until about, I mean, it was probably 778 years ago, whenever I was in Compton. And I think it was just a dichotomy of my experience. I mean, I got to a point where, or whatever it was, I was at a point where I was like, you know, what, I know that I can do better than this, I know that I can, I can create, I know that people can do this, it was more of that, like, I know that people can do this, and I'm a person so so I know that I can I know that I can create. And and so it was the it was the contrast of looking around and seeing I mean, I was in the middle of Compton, war torn games, you know, seeing a hearse, the helicopters flying overhead every day. gunshots is just a regular thing. And so but whenever I was in this position, it was something it just pricked my heart, it was something that came in that I knew that there was something else different that was going on in the world, other than what I was feeling other than what I was seeing. And, and this this huge just waves of compassion, and just downloads of just empathy for the people that I was seeing around me for the rampant homelessness that was going on around me. And so whenever I would interact with the, with the those people, and I would see, I would feel this, this energy that was that was behind this, you know, you would think that it's just like this is just everybody's just distress. And nobody has any kind of, of power or any kind of hope or anything, but I felt the exact opposite. And so I think whenever I was able to feel this, this energy that when people were talking about it to like, I mean, I would talk to these homeless prostitutes that that were, you would just think that would have no place in spirituality or anything like this. And they're talking about this energy, this thing that's binding us together and this force and would come in, I don't quite know how to talk about it. You know, the same thing that I'm at this, at this point, I had found a teacher in a community here in Kansas, and they were talking about these same concepts. And so in here, I'm thinking I'm in these two completely different realms, physically and spiritually, but I'm feeling the same things. And I'm, and I'm seeing and I'm witnessing the same things. The this energy that is that's in both places, and I guess, got this idea about, about unity. And I and I saw how differently we approached strangers, because people that we don't know, and how differently we treated them from, from people who are familiar to us. But realizing that all of those people have the same attention, we all have the same grace, we all have the same things that drive us. And and I and I want it and I got the idea. If we could live in a world and live in a society where we treat everybody, like family, we treat everybody as love, which we all want to do. You know. And that's what I really believe. I think that we're all kind of even though we might live in fear at some points. I believe that we all want to live this way. And if we settle into that, and allow it to come in with the shift of consciousness that I think we're all feeling Rossing we're all talking about, then we can make those those small shifts that it's going to take so that we can see each other differently, and create a whole different way of relating to one another and create a whole new world. And we can do it really quickly.

Brandon Handley 19:10
And it's perfect, right? I mean, I agree who we want to, we want to love each other. We want a lot of the same things. We of course, I think we've been we've been taught that primarily, we want it for ourselves first, which is fine, so long as we want it for everybody else, right. And I think that it's when we realized that we want it just forever. We want it for everybody else I was more than we want it for ourselves, while at the same time giving it to yourself, like you've got it like I love the line. I don't know where to how I got it from but like you're the giver and the gift, right? Like so you're you know, so you got to get and you also have to give that to yourself in order to resonate it. Right. So I mean, whatever that looks like for you. So you've got to give yourself love so that you can love. All right. I love it. One of the things that you brought up in there one thing I was just gonna I was gonna make a little, not everybody wants You saw our families retreat, you know, it's tough, right? Some some family member, you're like, I'm not watching you like family, but a lot that goes, what what do you think is the fear? Right? What is that fear? That's that's keeping us from doing this like, Well, you know, what's that? Why aren't why aren't we doing this already?

D Mike 20:18
You know, and like I said, I think that this shift is, is going to be accompanied with this shift in consciousness that's coming in. And I think that the answer the question is, what is that shift in consciousness shifting us from? And I think that what's been instilled in us is competition, scarcity, lack. And whenever you believe in these kinds of things, then you start thinking, well, I've got to get for myself. And also, and also within that belief set and belief system is separation, right? Because like, you're saying, I need to get this for, I need to want it for me and not for yourself and not for this other person, nothing for that. So it's this idea of separation. And again, this goes back to our true or true nature and our true source, if we can get back to thinking of ourselves holistically like that, like we are one being expressed in different ways, but we're here to support one another, then then I think that we can shift away from this separation, which then breeds competition, scarcity, lack all of those things, because that's why we're not doing right now. Because we're, we're in this, we're in this, this bubble, this this place where we think that I'm different from you. So I need to get I need to get and there's a lack, there's, there's a lack of things there isn't there, we don't live in an abundant universe. You know, we act like we don't like one plant doesn't produce an infinite amount of plants, we've bought into this lie, that there is scarcity. And if you have, then I don't have. And so that's what I think is the most important thing about unity, is whenever we realize that we're not separate things, and it doesn't even it doesn't become a question of, well, I want this for me, and not you. It's just that we want abundance. And I think that, you know, we there is abundance, and whenever we can look at it that way and think of it that way and understand that that is what shoe that once he does create an entire infinite amount of resources, and not just not just one more, and then and then we're this, this universe is huge and ever expanding, right? We're never going to run out of stuff and we're not going to and we don't need to fight over this stuff. And, and so I think that one of the main principles that I'm integrating and trying to help spread is is that of, of unity, of that of collaboration over competition, I've seen what happens whenever we compete, and I'm seeing what happens whenever we come together. And and I think that's another aspect of what I'm here doing is I've whenever you take like the more different people are and you come together and realize their unity, the more profound the solutions and the creations that they make. And so the more courage that we can have to reach out to people who are different who look and think and that can feel differently than us the more authentically courageous we can be. And having forming these true connections and true bonds with people and realizing that we are just the separate organs of this trying to animate this this same benevolent body then then that's when the magic really starts happening. And I think that that's what's keeping us from from doing it already. Is that fear?

Brandon Handley 23:29
Perfect. I love I love the imagery too. Like it's funny you brought up Oregon's of kind of a divine body universal body, I was think about is more like a little blood vessels or little little blood cells. Either way, you know, we're where we are what makes up the body of this universe, right? Yeah, I love that you hit on the you know, this is an expanding universe. Let's for a second though, is the universe. Infinite? Yes or no?

D Mike 23:59
Well, if it's just a yes or no, just Yes or no? Um, then yes. Okay.

Brandon Handley 24:05
How does something that is infinite expand?

D Mike 24:08
So yeah, that's a great question.

Brandon Handley 24:10
And then just let's just couple it with these pieces. These are just pieces that I love to throw into the pie right? We are part of the universe the universe is expanding at an accelerated rate. Does that mean that we to therefore Ergo our consciousness is now expanding and an accelerated rate because we are part of the universe?

D Mike 24:28
I think that's exactly what honestly i think you know, and that I think, I think that's exactly what it is the universe is expanding and and i think that consciousness I really kind of feel like the the fundamental elements that makes up everything is consciousness. And I think that it's very, you know, getting into theoretical physics and whatnot. Every time we try and review the edge of the universe, it expands or, or something happens that we're not able to get past that and see what like what's quite past that boundary. And yeah, I think that's that's the universe that's that's us expanding, I think us our experiences here are creating that consciousness, which is the expansion of the universe. I mean, it makes it it's really difficult when you try to think of it in in spatial terms, we, you know, kind of finite three dimensional terms, something being infinite and expanding. But I think if we take it back to our true nature of spirit, and think about it as consciousness, and think about how we're expanding just by, you know, we're creating, we're making love, we're creating love, we're creating consciousness. And the more that we are, the more that we're able to focus, the more that we're able to, to have consciousness and be conscious of ourself, which is the universe, you know, as within, so without, so the more that we're able to focus on our own consciousness, then then that's creating consciousness, which makes more of the stuff that we are, you know, which makes more of the stuff that is. And so that's how something can be can be infinite and expanding. You know, whenever we think of things in terms, I mean, I'm a big math nerd. And so, you know, I love calculus and numbers and, and thinking about the concept of infinity and how something can approach infinity faster than another thing can approach infinity. So there's different ways of thinking about this. And we try and we try and put it into our finite minds with numbers and symbols and things but really, it's an it's an infinite mind, that that we're trying to access in order to think about something as big and as complicated and complex as consciousness and infinity expanded

Brandon Handley 26:33
a little bit. Thanks for thanks for that. I always, always just kind of enjoy thinking about it that way. And one of the reasons that that happens, right, you know, obviously, you know, you kind of make that connection with new or expanding our I think that we talked about you talked about like this shifting consciousness now that we're seeing, and, and how it's kind of almost like a tsunami, man, it's just kind of showing up in a big way. Right. Now, one of the things that I'll meditate on is getting to the edge of the universe and like kind of riding that wave of the like edge of the universe, right? And then of course, I'll be like, well, how can my mind even fathom like what infinite edges are, but hey, look, man, that's where we are. Right now we are riding on the edge of expansion. Right? So now so so I love how you kind of put it all together. And I'll throw one thing out there for you too, because of all the people fucking Tony Robbins. I saw him last year. And I saw him last year. And one of the things that he brought up, this wasn't like one of his things, but he just happened to be at some event put up brought up the idea of competition. And as you and I are discussing competition in this context, it's to compete for scarce resources, right, it's to compete for theoretically, scarce resources. Whereas, you know, he brought up the idea of competition being more in lines of just say, you know, you are great with what you're creating and your creation, and you're driving me to be greater, or, you know, trying, I'm trying to compete with you, in terms of bringing the best of each other out of that type of competition. I was like, Alright, Tony, you got me on that one that really just kind of, it helped me change my perception of cop, just the word competition, right? Instead of being triggered by them. Like I could see this in another way.

D Mike 28:17
For sure. And I'd love to speak on that. Because I mean, I'm the I'm the son of a baseball coach. Yeah, I was captain of the basketball team in high school. And I'm very, very competitive with my with my family members, whenever we're playing a board games and whatnot. I'm very upset that my little sister beats me every time and every game that we play, we play. And that's and that's and I love a competition, you know, and competing and getting better and having that resistance so that I can I can get better. Here's the thing. Whenever we're done playing board games, at the end of the at the end of it, we put the pieces back into the bucks, and we hug each other and we have dinner and a drink together.

Brandon Handley 28:57
Yeah, yeah, that's a that's a beautiful competition right there. Right. And that's, and that's a competitive spirit. I think that the words been buffed up over the years, right. Like, I mean, like a competitive spirit isn't one that wants to does living in fear. A competitive spirit is again, your essential nature is to be seen to shine to be the best of all that it can be if you cultivate it, if you if you allow for it to be, right. So that's just just my shtick. On the one time I saw Tony Robbins and he changed my life for a minute. At least at least Hey, look, you know, it's just the smallest trajectory, right? The Butterfly Effect all that stuff that just kind of really sets you off. The other thing you brought up to like in the very beginning here was just, you know, talking about wearing a bunch of masks, talk to me a little bit about like some of the masks you've worn some of the masks you've discarded, and maybe even some of the masks you still put on for sure.

D Mike 29:52
Yeah, no, this is a this is something that that's really integral to my growth within the last four Four or five years ago, especially, but yes, and as I was talking about earlier, I think that maybe just the demographic and the geographic area where I grew up, you know, being a being a black male. Growing up, especially in the times, whenever, you know, people weren't, people weren't talking about their feelings, and it wasn't okay to talk about it, any of that empathy and any of these kind of things. So and then, I mean, even so, then moving up to Compton. And when I was on the train out there meeting other people who told me, you have to act hard, you have to act this way, you know, in order to in order to receive love, I mean, that's essentially what it was, in order to, in order to be accepted, in order to receive love, you have to be a certain way. So but that wasn't me, I always felt like I was very into things that were that were maybe had a more softer kind of power to them, you know, I there was a whole other side of me that I was told that I was not able to access if I wanted to fit in. So I wanted to receive love. And so what I did is I got really good at wearing masks and putting on different airs and being a certain person in front of this person, and then a different person in front of that person. And, and I got really good at it, you know, I was able to, you know, I can make people laugh, I can be exciting. But there was still a whole side of myself, that I was pushing out of the way that was shoving down and I wasn't allowing myself to access because I was told, and I was allowed myself to believe that it was weak, and that it was unacceptable. And so whenever I allowed myself to rise, you know, I had that awakening that I was talking about. That's whenever I really felt like, I was like, Okay, now I can go in and I can just completely take an honest look and say, Who am I? How do I feel in this particular time in this particular incident, because I was trying to please everybody and realizing that I wasn't able to please anyone, you know what I mean? And, and I wasn't able to find my power because it wasn't authentic. And so whenever I finally started saying, Okay, you know what, I have to admit to myself that I'm wearing masks, this is not me, you know, just getting courageously authentic, like that and be like, I'm gonna do this. And if if people shy away from me, that's already happening, you know what I mean? I wasn't able to create the relationships and things that I've been bringing the people into my life that were supporting me. So it just, it got me to that point where I was like, You know what, I have nothing else to lose. So I'm gonna, I'm gonna examine this and realize, Hey, you know what, this is me, this is me, I, you know, I'm emotional. You know, I cry whenever I'm excited. You know, I, you know, do do these different things that might, I didn't think that were acceptable. And, and whenever I started looking at things like that, whenever so looking at myself that way, it's still the exact opposite of what I thought, I felt absolutely powerful. I felt like instead of having to remember who I was, and how to react in this certain way, I could just go inside and say, How do I feel at this time? And whenever I was able to access that authenticity, then it made me see, well, I normally would have reacted like that. Okay, cool. So there's a mask, and I'm able to see all of these different ways where I've contorted myself into being something different, and separated myself from from my power. And so as far as us tell us about some of the masks that I that I still continue to wear. And I think that it's there's a couple of things. First of all, it's always a process, there's always times whenever I'm going to see something else I'm like, and I feel it in my body. And like, that's not authentic. You know, I'll say something and I'm like, oh, wasn't courageous there. You know, I ran a program I wear I wear a mask doing that. And so and so I'm always able to get more authentic. But then the other thing is, you know, as long as I'm aware of the masks, then whenever then I can try them on, I can put them on sometime, you know, it's like, if I want it, I kind of feel like that's what we're doing. And when we're source just we're playing I'm playing out the mic right now. So and I can kind of do that in my real life, as long as I'm aware. Like, this isn't how I you know what I mean? This isn't much I'm just, I'm just playing here. I understand that I still have, I still have my anchor to my true self. But yeah, I still do. But I play with them sometimes. And and I think that it's to me, I think it's about the awareness of it. To me, it's about knowing who you are your true self, and not trying to deceive, you know, I don't do it and trying to deceive anyone and trying to deceive myself. And that's kind of what I'm saying is, whenever I put on these masks, I make it very obvious, like, Hey, I'm putting on this mask, and I'm just playing with it. And I make that very obvious to everyone involved. But having that awareness and having that ability to come back to my true self and my true power at any time. I think that that is that's where the true benefit of the journey happens.

Brandon Handley 34:26
The idea that it's being aware when you put those masks on or offer or change them out. I think that that's that's a great one. You said it a couple times too. So we'll hit on, you know, courageously authentic. I'll let you know this little tidbit for me the past month or two courage has been a big one in my vocabulary that's coming from the book, force first power where there is a map of consciousness on on there, everything below and it's done like in a logarithmic scale. You know what that means? I don't because I didn't get the calculus, but it's done in a lot of this done in a logarithmic scale. And it starts at zero, which is like, you know, and 20. And you know, up, there's like, grief, sorrow, anger, yada, yada, yada. 200 is 200 is courage. Okay? And then you've got hope and love and enlightenment all up here, right enlightenment 1000. So the idea is it 200, you know, you can go up or down at 200. The idea is, once you get to 200, once you are courageously authentic, right, once you once you take that courage in that moment, you empower yourself to step into what you believe is possible, by just being you that's where that's where the magic, that's where the shift happens. Right. So that's why I bring it up. And you know, how does that relate to, you know, what you're saying here as courageously authentic?

D Mike 35:56
Absolutely. You know, the same that that the treasure you seek lies, and in a cave that you that you feel to enter? And I think that, you know, I've heard it called the emotional tone scale, however you want to call it, but whenever you get to courage, I think, then that's when you start to see the benefits. So so it's like, you know, you're thinking, Well, how do I get there, like, I'm too, I'm too afraid to kind of to show my true self, I don't want to, I don't want to have it put up for scrutiny, I don't want to have to maybe fail at something with my true authentic self. So we stay small, and we stay, we don't enter the cave, but whatever we do, and we and we just are courageously ourselves, it's just a few seconds of courage, then you automatic thing, you start to see the benefit. And then I think that's why it takes off because you like because then you start to tie that action of being authentic to the benefit. And then whenever and then whenever that happens, I know for me, it was over without for that. Because I was like, oh, I'll have to do is get a little vulnerable for a quick second, realize that the outcome is not going to match up with the fear that's keeping me from doing it. And in fact, this is going to be something amazing, I wasn't sure I could attain on the other side, then then it just starts the ball rolling. And then it's like, okay, where else can I be authentic? Where else can I be vulnerable, what other side of myself, I've been keeping inside and not shiny out, you know, because because of fear. But now realizing that once I do that, then people are gonna start paying attention to me. I mean, that's whenever I started gaining attention, that's whenever I started getting to getting momentum is whenever I started accessing that courage, and whenever I said, you know what people might think of me in a certain way, but people already think of me in a certain way, when people are gonna expect certain things from me, or people are already expecting certain things for me. So you know what, I'm going to police myself, and I'm going to be completely authentic, and I'm going to behave in the way that I want to, and that would make me proud. And that resonates with me. And that's the thing is, whenever it's that, you know, Oscar Wilde says, Be yourself, everyone else is taken, you know, it's because you are the best at being yourself. And I'm not I'm not very good at being anybody else. I just try. I've tried to be all these other people. And I wasn't very good at it. But whenever I started being myself, then people started responding to me, like, Wow, look at this authentic being. And I started hearing on one of my favorite compliment that I get all the time is, you're such a bright light, you know, it's like you're such a bright light people come up from across, and all it is is they see me attached to my authenticity and being real. And I think that that gives permission to other people to do the same thing and to tie into your authentic, courageous authenticity. And I think that's where the power lies.

Brandon Handley 38:32
Would you call that one of your small shifts?

D Mike 38:35
Oh, absolutely.

Brandon Handley 38:37
That's what I mean. So in terms of, you know, you mentioned earlier, just kind of these small shifts right towards I think unity and whatnot. Sounds like you're saying, you know, courage and this being created justly authentic is a piece of it. What are what are like one or two of these other small shifts that have benefited you that you share with others?

D Mike 39:00
Yeah, so the Unity principles that I've got on my website, and they're all changing all the time and being added to and whatnot, but a lot of the small shifts, first of all, it's it's like we're talking about being courageously authentic. Another one is looking at everybody, like they're doing the best that they can, and seeing the god nature in everyone. I think that that is the reason that that is so important is because we're social beings, and we gain our power from being in groups and being able to to support one another. And as I've been talking about before, the more diverse or different the people that come together with these nuanced ideas, the more profound that the shift is. And so whenever I would look out at life and see everybody as you know, nobody, everybody's messed up, everybody's just out for themselves and nobody has any and all this then I cut myself off from so much benefit. And whenever I started looking at whenever I started looking at everybody is just extensions of myself of non judgement, that's kind of another spin off. That's a That's a huge one to not judging people. And so whenever you're realizing that you see the best in everybody gushing about people, instead of gossiping, gushing, not gossiping, I think is is a huge one. Because I mean, for one, and just being charismatic and asking for help, whenever you're gossiping about somebody, the person who hears you, they're gonna attribute those negative characteristics to you, even though you're saying that it's somebody else. So always gossiping about somebody about people and things, that also just puts you in this mindset of searching for negative and searching for for things that aren't going to be beneficial to you. So I think that it's all about your perspective. And whenever you look at people like they're doing the best that they can, even if you can't quite get there and thinking, but if you look at people as doing the best they can, and you look at them as bright, capable angels, you know, that are there to assist you and that you have something to share and assist them with, those are some of the those are some of the principles that that I can just implement immediately, and start to see magnificent, magnificent change just right off the bat. Love those. Remember, it's

Brandon Handley 41:03
funny, you bring that up, you know, seeing everybody that greatness, seeing the divinity and everybody has to remember coach in a bunch of like five or six year olds, and I was actually doing the assistant coaching and the guy who was coaching had been known for like 45 years, right? He was always Grandad. And I forget what I said, but he's like, there's something good. And each one was like, I don't know are you see? Yeah. But I was joking, kind of mostly, but not really just in that moment. But it was great to hear somebody of his age, right saying that of all these little kids. And I thought that that was pretty powerful. Because I was I was being a judgy, son of a bitch that day. And you bring up non judgement. For me. It was going through headspace, the headspace app, and how Andy right brings up how do you train your mind? And when you have some of these thoughts and your own thoughts, and you're judging your thoughts, right? He's like, Don't judge any of your thoughts as like, Ah, there is such a weight lifted when you're not even judging your own thoughts. And then you're like, Where else? Can I apply this non judgmental, blah, blah, blah, right? Because I can look out there somebody, I can start to think it but no judgment. Right. I mean, they're just they're doing and I think it came from also from Abe Lincoln, when somebody was talking to him about southerners. And he goes, you know, what, if it was me, I'd be doing the exact same thing that they're doing, right. And like, it's not a judgment thing. It's like, they just happen to be doing what they're doing, because they're doing it. And I'm not going to judge him on it. Like, I mean, that's not what I'm doing. Right. But I can't say that what I'm doing is any better than what they're doing anyways. Right? So I mean, you take judgment out of it.

D Mike 42:38
I think it's, it's expanded compassion, it's expanded empathy. You know, we make up these stories, we see somebody doing something, and we automatically make up a backstory, we know what happened while they were doing this. And that's why this is so stupid of them, like, how could they you know, and we think we know what they want, we think we know what the what the goal is, and all of this, and, and once we make up this thing, that that they should be behaving differently and better, and we know how that is, I think it's just a, it's a, it's a bigger step of empathy. And, you know, I'll try to make up, I'll try to make up so you know, I get cut off cut off in traffic, and I try to make a different story like, wow, you know, what, I'm sure that they have something huge going on right now. You know, like, they really needed to be in that spot. And I get it, you know, what I mean? And I just think whenever we're able to look at it, look at things like that. And I think it really expands on everything. Because I'll find myself I'll be I find myself like in the middle of the lane on the shoot, and I need to get in a suit. And I'm like, and I cut somebody off or something. Um, and you know, I'm sorry, but, you know, so I get it. And I think that I and just on that example, it's one of the greatest I made a post about I just made a post about this, but it was the greatest thing I saw that happen. I was driving and I thought, there's two cars in front of front of me, and one of them cut the other one off. And I was like, Oh, no, here we go. But you just saw that, okay, you know, I get it. And I was like, that's the consciousness shift that I'm talking about. Right now. We're starting to we're starting to show up differently. We're starting to not judge we're starting to have that expanded empathy and tell it we're telling a different story and realizing that we don't know where they come from. We don't know where they're going. We don't know what's going on with them right now. So whenever we see this action, whenever we see something that we'd normally judge, like you said, At first it pops up and you're like, you know, you get that that inkling that you want to just just tell them new one, but, but just whenever you can have that expanded empathy. I think that that's, that's, I mean, that's all it says that's that's what the shift in consciousness is helping us to do. Thinking of other others as ourselves and telling a different story.

Brandon Handley 44:32
Do you feel like this kind of this shift in your own consciousness to sleeping with spirituality has led you to a more fulfilling life at this point in time?

D Mike 44:43
infinitely? Yeah. in in in what, how I can, how I can speak that. I think that's the most important thing because what's all this for? You know, it's like, what was spirituality? Like? Why does it mean like, what are we doing and all of that? I think that That is the whole thing. And I've kind of touched on it before I felt powerless. And I and it was so frustrating, because I'm like, you know, I got social skills. And you know, I can I can, I can talk I've got, I can do all these things, I went to a good school and educated and, and all this wasn't Why can't I create what I want I want to create, I'm doing nothing, nothing is as I want it want it to be, and I'm not happy. And that's what it that's what it wasn't, I think getting to just rock bottom as far as that, just getting to where I just, I'm not happy and realizing it. And I will try anything. I mean, I asked my dad one time, I remember, after a long night. And I was like, you know, what is the point? You know, what's the point of all this? And he's like, Well, yeah, you know, you, you you're you go to school, and you get a job and you get married. And you have, and I was like, I don't want any of that. You know, I was like none, I don't want any of that at all. And so I was like, Well, you know what, I'm gonna find out what happens whenever you don't do all of that. What I'm saying, I'm gonna find out what happens whenever you do what you're not supposed to do. And so I started, I stopped just listening to myself and just doing because I didn't have anything to lose. And I just wasn't happy and started started behaving the way that I wanted to behave. And I started learning about the things that I wanted to learn. And I started allowing myself to listen to that, that beckoning that had always been kind of calling me. And so it led me on the inward journey, all of these things, these benevolent features that I placed in my life led me into this path. And I started realizing about unity, I started realizing about cooperation, I started realizing about empathy, and how and how we're also connected, and it opens up things to me. I mean, it really does. I'm not saying that's what it actually does, is, it makes me It gives me the self confidence and the self love, so that I can I can share that with the world. And I can call in the help Colin people who want to support me in my journey. And then through that those collaborations, it opens up a whole new world with a whole new set of resources, and a whole different mindset, and a whole new set of skills and power to be able to create precisely what I see in my head,

Brandon Handley 47:07
you got to see it there. First, you create yourself some serendipitous moments, right? When you step along that path that that you're describing there, right? When you say, hey, this world you're living in, that's cool, you can have that I'm gonna go down here and see what's over here. Right. And it's it is it is a path that think is less traveled, I don't know that it's so much less traveled as it's not talked about as much, right. And I think that one of the reasons for that is because you can't teach it per se, right? You can't teach somebody else what your personal experiences are. And so that that's where it becomes a challenge. But that being said, there's, there's certainly key Mark indicators, right of Oh, you're on that path of whatever. And you can tell that in the conversation and mannerisms and so on, like, okay, I kind of get where you're at, right in life period, like it's, and that's going to be in a conversation with somebody who's in a corporation, or just off the streets, like you were saying, I can talk to a prostitute who's all cracked up and like, we can have a conversation, she could share what's on her mind and be like, I could see where you are in your life. Right? There's, you know, there's different time space continuum continuums of life, right? Nothing is totally linear, whatever, all that jazz, give me a blurb, a little bit on your game of unity so that people kind of know where to go check that out and what's happened in there,

D Mike 48:33
for sure game of unity.com I think this platform, I think, is sort of the culmination of everything that I've wanted to create for myself and then to be able to share with everybody and it comes from whenever I was going through the process and having this having this awakening and looking for support going down the YouTube rabbit hole all of this and looking for people who are thinking that I wasn't insane if somebody told me I wasn't insane, and to show some kind of support and maybe some some knowledge. And so and so that's what this is, it's it's to hold your hand as you go through this process of awakening, and self actualization. It's and it's called game is unity because it's fun, it's supposed to be fun, I think that that's what we're here doing is we're here to create and to and to have fun and to and to relate to one another. And I think that's that's probably the main thing about game of unity because what it is once you join the game when you're in the game, then you know the council is going to be sending you different tasks and and different challenges and they're all aimed at helping us to relate to strangers and to one another and in a more beautiful way in a more empathic and a more courageously authentic way You know, there's challenges such as you know, before Corona Lottie was to go and, and high five, somebody who lives differently than you know, there's no things like that, that you know, my vision of the entire world is playing this game the entire world is courageously going out, trying to connect with people who think and look and act differently from them. You know, the entire world was going out and saying this Can I support? You know, how can I get support from you? And how can we come together to create something amazing, we have the entire or the majority of the world playing this game and relating to each other in this way, realizing, hey, I want to go to France, I don't have to, like make up a trip and see how I'm going to eat and whatever, we can just say, there's humans there. So I'm going to be taken care of all I need to do is get there. And even there's going to be humans along the way, they're going to help me get there. And I think that so the game of unity is to help us and push us in that direction. And to aid us with this aid of the the shifting consciousness. Now all of this together is going to help us to relate to one another, and amazing and new and profound way. And we're going to create bliss and heaven on earth.

Brandon Handley 50:39
Sounds like a game I should be playing. I love it, man. That's awesome. I love that you've created that. Right. And I think that I think that's one of the things that we talked about. When we first connected, right? Both of us kind of connect and creating the space for those who are like you said, Man, you're looking for support. When you enter this realm, you're looking for something this indicates that you're not crazy, right? And and and so, you know, how can so many people be feeling this way? And everybody be crazy, right? So that that doesn't make any sense. We're rational beings, we know that's not possible, right? Unless we're all drinking the same water, whatever. So but the deal is, is, you know, there's going to be different people there. Who can, you know, kind of catch you who can who can coach you into not, you know, hitting the walls, as you as you come come into this newfound space, right. So that's kind of what you created, you've gotten, you've done it with some joy, and some creativity. So thanks for creating that man. And then and look, it's needed. Oh, my god, did I need it right on, I was like, when when I came, you know, to my awakening, whatever you want to call, I was like, What is going on? And why do I feel so good and weird?

Unknown Speaker 51:52
For

Brandon Handley 51:55
you, like any like, well, it's and not gone. so crazy. But um, you know, so you look for some people to talk to. So you're setting yourself up to be, like you said earlier, you know that that beacon of light right for somebody to kind of come and come and hang out with and that's great. And you're also doing that over on your essential nature. You want to talk about that for a second?

D Mike 52:13
Yeah, I think that that's actually an amazing segue, because we're talking about this, this one energy that that we all kind of came, we all kind of came from. And then we're trying to find we're trying to find somebody who relates to us coming down to this plane, somebody who can tell us that we're not crazy. And so I think that that is the idea behind your essential nature that our podcast is that we do have, we were trying, we tried to be very diverse in our demographics, you know, we've got different races, different ages, different sexes. And so we all are kind of saying the same thing. We're all talking about this message of unity, we're talking about compassion, we're talking about this energy that permeates through all of us. But whenever we have a diverse, it's exactly what we're talking about already having diverse people coming together to create something amazing, but also, it provides several different paths in so I mean, there might be somebody who looks at me, a guy who just moved here from content, and whatnot, and I get that he doesn't, I don't quite resonate with them, but then they're gonna see they're gonna see Ben, who's a chiropractor. And, you know, he's got to, he probably relates to a different demographic. And so they'll hear his message and they're going to come in, but then there's going to be the people from Compton and all that, who I believe it who I'm talking about, we all have the same, the same energy moving through us. And they might like it, you know, me who you talk to isn't like, Oh, you know, it's kind of throw that away, and then look at me, but Okay, well, I do relate with him. And you know, vice versa, all of all of this. And that's why so we have these different expressions, that I mean, it's the same, it's the same message that we're trying to, we're trying to express it through these different mediums, and so that we have, so that we can have something for everybody, because we want to bring everybody into this place where once you get in, you're in and you realize none of these demographics matter, you know, we're all the same, we're all going through the same thing. So we're just gonna have these different attraction points, and whenever So, so we're calling up this world is like, hey, there's something for everybody. And then we want to draw you into this, this layer of support and beauty. And then once you're here, you'll just you'll have all the support of everyone, and you'll be able to see all the beauty of anyone and just pushes you further into that idea of unity.

Brandon Handley 54:21
Not for sure, for sure. I love that idea of different attraction points. Okay, you guys do a great job of bringing your diversity to it. Right. And you got lots of people represented there. And, you know, I think that one of the things that needs to be recognized, and I'm terrible at it, right, like, definitely, I'll judge somebody who's younger than me by significant amount. I think I gave me you know, a little less credit than then do we had a great conversation. I let her know, at the end. I was like, You know what, you You brought more than I expected, which was great, right? Like, I mean, so it was like, man, I got kids and they show me more spirituality sometimes. And I see anywhere else. I'm like, Oh my god, you know, and that's one of the things Things that we as parents try to do here is to not take that away from them. Right? How can we how can how can we keep that light that you've already gotten there? And the things that you and I are struggling with the all these masks and all these? How do I bring my authentic self everywhere? How do I keep my children authentic? throughout? Right? Create human beings that are authentic from day one, right? And let that stay. So because it's already there, right? It's, it's the idea is that, as you and I, you know, I don't even like the word evolve anymore, as you and I gain more awareness of who we already are. Right? It's our work. It's our awareness. It's expanding, not so much that we are expanding, right? Yeah, just let you know, man. Yeah, it's just a play on words like how do I make this work for me? And that's all it really boils down to, right. Like you talked about earlier, like, yeah, you can say love God, whatever the hell you got to say, to make yourself sleep at night, I get it. So one thing like to kind of hit on like, so the idea of spiritual dope is like, you know, you get that spiritual high, right, from, you know, whatever spiritual sense or thing that you do. Where do you get like your spiritual hit from?

D Mike 56:10
Yeah. Oh, man, that's a really great question. And so I think that that kind of ties into, you know, so so my phone would I fully call myself is d Mike, the young mystic. And so a reason that I call myself a mystic is because I don't follow one teacher or one set of principles solely, you know, I try and get a little bit of, you know, a little bit from this study a little bit from this from this study, and live from this practice. And so I would say that I get it from life, I get it from so many different places, but then I think it's always about taking it back inside and seeing what resonates, I get my, I get my, my spiritual hit from experiencing as much of life as I can. And that's people, places things, everything. And then whatever I read and take in from people, I immediately take it in, and I assess it, you know, courageously and authentically, what feels good to me. And whenever I'm listening to audio books, when I'm listening to podcasts, there's always something that will, that will stick with me something that will kind of resonate with me. And I'll always give myself the space to explore that, you know, write it down, make a note of it, however, and then explore it. And just through my, through my experiences, I think that's where I get that spiritual hit. It's whenever I manifest, I mean, in whenever you manifest something, so specifically, you hold something in your mind, and you go through the the manifestation processes, and then you don't even realize it, but then you just sort of become aware and you're like, Whoa, this is what I created in my head. You know, that's my spiritual hit, being able to help somebody whenever I'm sitting across from from someone, and you're able to just gently listen to them. And I'm in that space with them. And I'm looking out through with with four eyes now from their space, and I'm able to see something that they weren't, and I'm able to help them, help them have that light go off. You know, that's where I get my spiritual from helping people. You know, like I said, I cry whenever I get emotional, anytime that I see somebody helping somebody or, or seeing somebody going out of their way, in bringing that consciousness and that empathy into real life interacting with people. That's where I get my spiritual hit from, from life from people. And from my interaction with the world. Perfect, man, I

Brandon Handley 58:25
love it. I love it. You got your spiritual hit from life. And it's funny, because, you know, like, Ohio life was somebody I'd laugh at, like years ago. I'm like, Yeah, that makes sense. Now, that's, you're so right, you can't get on in life. So it's funny how life changes. So where and I appreciate you stopping on today. Thank you so much for being here. Where can people go find you?

D Mike 58:45
Yeah, for sure. So I'm keeping up to date with unity.com is where I store everything that I've got coming up that I'm doing, which is a lot here, especially towards the end of the year. There's so much being able to be on so many amazing podcasts like this. And then yeah, so game of unity calm, follow my blog there and join the game, then you'll be able to see everything that's that I've got coming up. Your essential nature is on all the podcasts and Spotify, YouTube, all those those mediums, so check us out. They're

Unknown Speaker 59:14
awesome.

Brandon Handley 59:16
Thanks again, like,

D Mike 59:17
hey, thanks. Appreciate it.

Unknown Speaker 59:24
Thanks for listening to the spiritual, spiritual Joe. Be sure to follow us on Facebook and on our website does spiritual joe.com

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The Spirit Creates, the Body Acts

Published: Dec. 4, 2020, 12:55 p.m.
Duration: 15 minutes 29 seconds

No way shape or form is this concise, but it is truth and I am 100% compelled to share it.

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on spiritual dope? How are you today? Listen, listen, man. So this morning has been, I'm interrupting my own daily routine. Because I had such a powerful. I'm not I'm not a big fan of how to download, right? When I hear somebody say that I'm like, shut up,

Unknown Speaker 0:30
I don't care.

Unknown Speaker 0:33
It's true.

Brandon Handley 0:36
So with that being said, I won't be able to say that myself, right, because I'm contradicting, contradicting myself. What I can tell you though, is this morning, I did have a very powerful meditation. And it came through by way of breathing exercises that I've been recently introduced to. And here's what I want to introduce to you. First and foremost, and as soon as you hear it, as soon as you hear it good, like, duh. But the real question is, is, you know, how do you know that? That's true? Right. So here's, here's the, the grand epiphany this morning. Well, and I'll say that I was in total source connection. Right, at this point, but, you know, spirit creates, and the body acts. Right. Alright, so spirit creates, and the body acts. So what does that look like? So, you know, in, I'll just kind of briefly go through kind of the meditation I had this morning. And it was, you know, very visual very, you know, kind of kind of potent, right. And this is, this is a big shout out to a friend of mine, who her husband is going through, you know, just this powerful bout of fighting, fighting,

Unknown Speaker 2:11
you know,

Brandon Handley 2:14
disease in his body, right. And, you know, here's, you know, Lindsey, I'll throw your name out there. Because it's true, right? So Lindsay, I know, I know, you tune in from time to time and kind of jumped out, I jumped out of the meditation this morning, I felt like you needed to hear this. But this is not just for you. Right? It's for all the listeners out there. As for anybody who who's going through this, and it's, it's really kind of on, if you think about, once we get on to you know, it's kind of like, accessing the Akashic records, right? If you if you've ever watched a bunch of these other movies about connected consciousness, Carl Jung I don't think he called it connected consciousness, but it was something similar. The idea is, once you tap into that, it's known, it's just it is just known, and you can feel it to be true. So that the thought is really, I'll get into the meditation. So meditation was, you know, what was I creating? What was the kind of bringing in and, and it's, I'm not creating anything by myself, I'm creating with the entirety of the universe, which is creating through me, right, and it's barely like, I'm doing anything, it's, it's cleansing, you can call it healing, if you want my removing the filters off of my spiritual capability, right? capacity, removing blockages that allow for spirits and, you know, source energy to resonate within, you know, the image I had in my mind was, you know, geez, you know, if we are star seeds, right, if we are star seeds, you know, just so you know, it's one unfortunate one in 400 trillion chance that you do listener, Lindsey Zak, you have got an anonymous listener that tunes in from time to time, Alan, you know, who's just fought through, you know, cancer at a younger age. You know, all of you are already aware of this connection to source and if you each and every one of you already know that you are one in 400 trillion chess know that there's more stars. There's more planets in the universe and there are humans At any one given time, right? So what are we here to create, we're here, you know, to create, you know, loving moments, we're here to create divine moments, we're here to give all that we allow to pass through us. Back. Right, so we are star seeds, and we are here we are accumulating, we're allowing exactly how much of that, you know, energy source today, to to become and be that light that is here to share with everybody else. Now, what are you becoming? How are you letting that energy into you? How are you removing the blockages from your human self from this one worldly self? To you, which you diverse, there's less likelihood of you, then there is this planet, if that makes sense, right? So there, there are more planets in existence than stars than all the grains of sand

Unknown Speaker 6:21
on this world.

Brandon Handley 6:25
And if you kind of you look that back down on that, there's less of you. So what has happened, right, and I'm gonna use this example. So what has happened in our lives, that we can't see that you can't see. If you haven't already recognized your own fucking greatness yet, if you keep shrugging it off. That's for everybody else out there who I can see the greatness in You, you, you, you and you.

Unknown Speaker 6:55
little old me.

Unknown Speaker 6:56
I don't know,

Brandon Handley 6:57
right? How's it happen? Unfortunately, or fortunately, you know, I got to witness, you know, the, I get to witness the build up of a child, right? And children. And, and I get to see the immediate reactions of how somebody formulates themselves. And I'm no psychologist, I'm no specialist, you know, but I've studied a ton of this shit. To know that, you know, when you see an accident, you can see what is happening right in front of your eyes. That's the beauty. That is the blessing of children, that is the blessing of a child, that is a blessing of a relationship, if you are open to watching it, and you're nurturing it, and you're so fucking fully vested that you don't miss a fucking beat. Right? So, you know, my son yesterday, you know, Finn was, you know, haven't had in a moment. And, you know, it was Meg and boys, and, you know, they were supposed to be just kind of, you know, chillin, standing still, and, and, you know, just being really respectful, respectful in a zoom scenario. And, you know, they were just kind of they were, they were, they were just acting out, right, they're just being kidnapped and out in front of this scenario, but what happened was, you know, Meg got upset with them and, and then took it so hard to get so hard. Right? And, and he's like, he's like, you know, he just, he just took it so hard, right? Took it so personally. And, you know, both Meg and I consoled him, and he had just tried to help me understand the situation, everybody, if you're in, if you're in COVID times is under a shit ton of pressure, right? If you've got a job, you're like, Can I keep this job, right? If you, if you don't, like, life is fucked. If you're going through cancer, if you're going through a z scenario, then you I know somebody that lost a brother, you know, this year because of COVID. And the condition, so people losing people, because, you know, they can't get in the hospitals because of COVID. And the situation is just 10 cents situation that the world is in. So there's, there's lots of tension and and there's an emotional release. And like I said, so he took it personally. And, and I went up and I, you know, I had to imagine, too, that I was blessed to have the job that I've got, where I could break away and be here for him. Right? You know, I'm thankful to the universe, Jesse for creating that moment so that I could be there for him. Right. So that he and I could have that connection. And I saw him, you know, kind of balling up and shrinking up and feeling bad for for, you know, how he had acted. And I looked at him and I realized, in that very moment, he was shrinking up. He was not recognizing his greatness. You know, he wasn't feeling his greatness, right. I mean, it wasn't a built up moment. I'm not alive for all of us, but we had to and let him know, say, hey, look, listen, no, you are great. You know you are not you are not that moment you are not that action separate that moment from who you are, in truth and who you are is great, who you are is amazing, who you are is kind, wonderful, and giving and all of these amazing things. So what happened to us, right, so what happened to us we didn't, I don't know that all of us got that fuckin message when we're going up. So we, we continue to shrink, we continue to shrink all the way fuckin down the fit into a mold that is acceptable, you know, the, to, to what we believe is correct, right? Those of us that you know, right now the industrial age and and and the jobs that we have, you know, have created this mold in this economy and where we are as forced us into this way of thinking that has gotten us so fucking out of alignment with who we truly are and what we're truly capable of. Because we are tight his little fucking balls, like seeds, we are straight up star seeds and until you start to recognize that greatness in yourself. That's when the you know, the the seed shell begins to soften, that's when you begin to share your light. That's when you begin to unfurl and recognize the light Listen, we've all done and been a part of some things in our past that have created who we are.

And, and and felt as though we have been created for a reason. And up to a certain point up until now, I should listen to this podcast and you already know that you are a creator. So what is it that you are creating today? And you know, I'm gonna throw this one last piece out that the reason you know that I was thinking of my friend Zack and Lindsey for this for this one too. And she just didn't you know, didn't cry, not inclusive of Jesus. But the the network that has been established because of this podcast, because of this way of being has also been amazing. So the idea is, comes from epigenetics and the studies that that they're finding right now, even though science can't release and confirm is your take that creative, loving energy that you are they shown studies where they can take like this resonant literally like a light scan figure like a CD, right of health, or have health of stem cells and regeneration and rescan it on to things that are diseased to make them healthy again, so think of it new when the doctors are doing it, that's exactly what they're doing. They may not be doing with the full knowledge that they have that capability. But you know, Lindsey for or for anybody else out there that that is in healing mode that is that is creating a healing atmosphere that is you know, has the universe on their side know that if you were to scan health from you on to another and see them as healthy, then that's one possibility to to help to help the other to heal. The entrainment field has been shown as true, right? Your resonant field has been shown as as as a real thing. Right? So just because your true science hasn't, you know, grabbed onto it and and said that it's true, doesn't mean that it's not fucking true. Guess what, 100 years ago, they didn't think electricity was a real fucking science. Okay, so listen, and then the other part of that, too, is, you know, the spirit creates, the body listens and listen, you know, that's something. And Lindsey, if you haven't already shared that with with, you know, Zach and loved ones if there's somebody out there that's in need of healing and his strong spirit just like he has Zach it's just like, Alan's been my friends, you know, people who have who have who have beat the odds. I know that they're strong in spirit and I know that they have a belief in something greater than them. The thing is, is that there's there's some people that may not have that full belief that the unit Verse, God, energy, whatever you feel like you need to call it is on their side. And I'm here to tell you that one in 400 trillion, less of us than there are planets and stars for this brilliant, loving, creative experience that we're not here for some reason, other than to be able to, to, to create some fuckin miracles. I don't know what else we're here for.

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Sam Crowley | Every day is Saturday | Bringing you to Christ

Published: Nov. 29, 2020, 7:31 p.m.
Duration: 32 minutes 38 seconds

Sam Crowley is a former Fortune 100 exec who launched the personal development brand Every Day Is Saturday & the hugely successful EverydayIsSaturday.com. Sam is a best-selling co-author, speaker & business coach.

I followed Sam's podcast for a while and eventually, I got the bug... I needed to create a podcast and I hired him to be my coach... it was during the process of creating the podcast and working with Sam that I had my "awakening experience" and at some point I had asked Sam if he could tell me what he meant by bringing someone to Christ.

That was a couple of years ago, and I wanted to capture what that meant from him again so that I could share it here with you...

Check it out and, hey, check out his podcast as well... very good spiritual dope!

Interested in working with Sam? Check out his current site: https://launchmymovement.com/

Transcribed from Otter.ai

Brandon Handley 0:00
54321 Hey, their spiritual dope I am on today with the legendary Sam Crowley from every day is Saturday and something I haven't talked about on this podcast is is that Sam was sounds like my coach Sam's like the reason I have a podcast at all. So, you know, super excited to have you on is Sam, what's going on?

Sam Crowley 0:25
Hey, Brandon, great to be back, man. It's been a minute since the last time we chatted. So I'm fired up. And I love spiritual dope. I think that's a great title for a podcast. So congrats,

Brandon Handley 0:35
man, I appreciate appreciate your huge inspiration as to why I am where I am today. And I think that your message will really resonate with the people that are listening to this podcast. And I always like to start these off with like, Hey, you know, God kind of talks to us, right? We're just we're just here, living out his message. Right? So in that vein, what's God saying to you today that my listeners need to hear?

Sam Crowley 1:00
Well, I think no matter where you've been, man, no matter how big of it, like I am the world's biggest screw up, you know, I've made way too many mistakes in my life and you know, too embarrassed to talk about most of them. We hide a lot from you know, our authenticity, because we're afraid that other people may not want to hear it or resonate with it. And you know, we end up tripping over our past man. And I'll tell you, if you and I'm not saying you got to put all your stuff out, you don't need to do that. But I just did a Facebook Live Video literally right, before we jumped on about this topic. So if I can share that if it's okay, I just yeah, absolutely just want to say that, you know, I help people really gain clarity and with their messages, you know, and people are like, Well, I'm not an A list celebrity or nobody knows me. And I'm not famous that. That's great. Like that works in your favor, because I don't know about you, but I am way past wanting to hear from Hollywood or a list celebrities about how to live my life, or who to vote for or anything like that. I just, I go to a movie, I want to watch a movie, you know, I want to learn from everyday people that are struggling, that are having financial relationship, money problems, not that they're whining on me, but they're one step ahead of where I am. So if I'm making 10 grand a month, I want to learn from somebody making 20 grand a month, if I'm in a, if I got a girlfriend, I want to learn how to make that person, my wife and how to treat her right. If I want a closer relationship with God, then I want to plug into somebody who doesn't need to be a pastor, just but somebody whose works have some messy stuff in their life. And they figured out how to just get through the valley, they haven't figured life out. I mean, nobody's got that figured out. So God places on my heart every day, watch what you say, Crowley because you're a loose cannon out there. Okay, the tongue can be used for good and not so good. It can be used to tear down it could be used to build up. So make sure you try as best you can. Because I know you're still gonna screw this thing up. But you got a podcast, it's been downloaded 20 million times you got a little bit of responsibility. Now you're not that bubble on a skillet, from way back in the day, who could just go all over the place. And so I just want everybody to know, your path should be celebrated that you're still here. You made it through. Nobody wants perfection. They just say they just want to know, can you get me from point A to point B, that's all anybody wants. They want to pay you to solve the current problem in their life. That is if it's cleaning your carpet, trimming your trees, coaching, building a website, figuring out a mortgage, that's all they want.

Brandon Handley 3:19
That's it, man. I love it. I love it. You know? And that was actually again, one of the things I loved about you, right? It was a week we connected you. You're promoting your podcast course. And I bet I was like that's it. I mean, this guy's got something I want, right? And that can get me somewhere. And that was the course. And then when I got the course, here, Sam Crowley shows up and like a baseball cap. And you know, there's a whiteboard flip chart, he's just doing your thing. And you look, it looked like I could do it. Right. I was like, Well, okay, that's the next step for me. How can I How can I move to what Sam's doing right and share at the same time share my message, right? I share this thing that's in my heart, finding, what is that thing in my heart, right? Because man, talk to me about how you know, give the audience here who doesn't know every day is Saturday, a little bit of background?

Sam Crowley 4:12
Well, my daughter back in the day, I was a corporate slave and I've been in the corporate game for 15 years, and I don't want to look a gift horse in the mouth. I was making about 110 grand a year salary, stock options, company car, all that stuff. But I had just become a dad recently, a few years prior to that. And my dad left me and my mom raising kids by herself. This was the late 60s I was born in 1968. My dad left you'd had he went crazy. just lost his mind left. My mom's raising kids so you know, welfare and all that stuff. Free cheese, goodwill, clothes, all that and you know a beaut alcoholic mom pretty abusive verbally, but I knew she loved me deep down knew she loved me. She never told me never heard it once from a parent in my life. Wow. Or you are loved and I searched for that my whole life. It has a lot to do with why sometimes I do. stupid things is because I'm looking for that acceptance. Because I never had a grown up, man. All I ever heard from my mom was I never asked for you, and I never wanted you. You know, that's what she told me a lot, you know, while she was on the ball. So I never held that against her though. So I said, God, if you ever get any kids, I'm just going to be the best part. I'm going to be that Dad, I'm going to be throwing the football, I'm going to be going to the games, the ballet, I'm going to be picking them up. And you know what, man? My daughters have never they don't even know me ever having a job. They don't recall me ever go into a job. And they don't ever resonate. They just know me as the guy that's into drop offline and the pickup line at school. And look, man, I am not you know, Mr. Mom, I've got a wife at 22 years, he does an amazing job. We have four daughters now. Youngest of which side story was born at 24 weeks one pound. And we didn't sleep for three years because the kid was in children's hospital. 221 days begging for life. When she comes home, we turn her house into a hospital. She was on a train ventilator and all of that. So you know, the everyday Saturday story, by the way, she's six years old. Now the happiest kid you'd ever seen no trick, no ventilator still has a little bit of a feeding tube stuttering problem, things like that. But she's built in the image of the Creator, just like you are just like every listener is built in the image of the Creator. You know, I'm a Christian. So I believe that we all have the Holy Spirit inside of us. And I think it would be a pretty cool conversation when we get to heaven. Everybody in the Old Testament, you got Moses, you got David, you got everybody like that. And, and they say, Man, what is it like to live with the Holy Spirit inside you? Hmm. We didn't have that before Christ, like, Whoa, that would be like, wow, you got all these people in the Old Testament would have loved have had the Holy Spirit, the Spirit Jesus left behind when he died on the cross inside of them. Were bulletproof man, you know, we're only here for a short period of time. That's why I walk around with kind of a chip on my shoulder not to be an ass but just to say Hey, man, I got the Holy Spirit inside of me I don't worry about finances, I have a little bit of anxiety, worry about my you know, but but that's what it means to me. And the whole everyday Saturday messages is an opportunity for me to show up as my real self. And I know I'm gonna make some people I'm pissing people off, I get it, I'm gonna acquire taste. And I'm not I'm not everybody's cup of tea, I get it. But I've been able to, you know, through only through the grace of God and the Holy Spirit inside of me to be able to build a movement here that people can resonate with and just allows them I teach people how to share a compelling story. That's it. I teach people how I do 10 minutes story, podcast, in my car in a Dunkin Donuts parking lot. And I've been doing it for 15 years. And that's really the crux of my business. It's so embarrassing. But it's what I do. Like that's all I do

Brandon Handley 7:42
not and it works for you. Right? I never knew the the part were never never caught that, you know, your mom never even said that. You know, I love you. That's tough, man. It's a tough way to tough way to grow up.

Sam Crowley 7:55
But you make you appreciate, it makes you appreciate because it makes you do a 180 in life. Like if you've been if you've been an alcoholic really makes you want when you finally get on that and you're sober for X amount of days, or you've been a drug addict or you've been up up, you've been addicted to porn. We all have addictions, man, I was addicted to money and ego and all that. But when you never hear I love you. You say it all the time to your kids when you don't have a drink? Or do you make sure you're more cognizant and forgiving of those that are going through tough times? I think it I'm not trying to go all you know the other way. But I really think it's a blessing if you can just look at it from that perspective, you know?

Brandon Handley 8:32
Well, yeah, I think that it's a it's a big challenge to to get to that point, right? You got to get you got to get to that point to be able to say, you know, everything that I went through was to prepare me for what I need to go through. Right, or to help other or to help others get through similar things, right? Be like, Hey, here's, here's a path forward, you know where you are, right? Now, if you're talking to somebody that's in a similar situation that you went through, be like, hey, there's, there's a way out. And here's what I found. That works for me, right? I love how you brought up like, you know, kind of the Holy Spirit, right? Being imbibed with that touch. I mean, I'm not 100% sure what you mean by that. So if you could tell the audience what that means to you, I'd love to love to share that.

Sam Crowley 9:08
What Jesus said that I leave my spirit with you when I die, I'm going to heaven. And I'm seated at the right hand of the cross. And I will come back again one day to judge the living and the dead, you know, and as Christians, we know that Jesus died on the cross for all of our sins we Christianity is not a deeds driven religion. You can't you know, you can't go and give money to the homeless or donate your clothes or say 10 our father's in a hail mary or anything like that. That's not getting you into God's already given us through the grace of his son's death. We have that tickets been punched. So it's not like you go out there and you don't act nice. It's just that it doesn't matter. Brandon, you could give all your money away all your earthly possessions away. I could go kill somebody and you and I are still getting into heaven. As long as I asked for forgiveness of my sins and accept Christ as my Savior. There are 10 commandments in the Bible. Thou shalt That steel is one of them. That you know. So if you steal $1 from somebody knowingly and I go kill someone, those are viewed equally in the Bible isn't as you've broken a commandment, there is no little white lie or venial sin or mortal sin, all stuff. So what it means to have the Holy Spirit inside of you is that you've got that power of Jesus Christ inside of you, doesn't mean you won't die of cancer. Now, I mean, that we have, it's a fallen world. That's the other side of the coin. You know, I've lost friends in my 30s and 40s, I lost my mom in 1997. I mean, I've had nasty things done to me, I've done nasty things to people. I mean, it's a fallen world, man, we also have this thing called free will, you know. But when you have the Holy Spirit inside of you, that means you have Jesus Christ himself inside of you. So when you have those bills that are sitting on your coffee table, and you just got laid off, it's not like it's a get out of jail free card, but it should allow you to rest in the peacefulness of Christ to know that we this is just a temporary gig, man, even if you live to the mortal age at 78, the average mortality in the US there, and I'll give you the exact analogy of a gentleman, this pastor, Francis Chan, who used this analogy, imagine a row that goes all around the world, millions and millions of times just this big row, and millions and millions and millions and millions of feet of this row, at the very beginning of this rope rain is just that red marker. And just like that just right, the very beginning. That's life on Earth. No, no rest of the rope represents eternity. So that's why, like I said, I get mad, I fly off the handle, you know, and I get anxious about stuff. But when you rest in the word, you're never anxious, because you're resting in Christ Himself. This is all just such a temporary gig, man. It is.

Brandon Handley 11:51
I love it. And I love the idea too, that you, you don't hide this from anyone. Right? Or at least back it up. Because when when I did, when I was, you know, a big listener of yours. You were, I think just kind of leading into sharing, you know, your Christianity like, full on like super hard, right? Like it was your it was it was the, you know, armor of God ages or whatever like that, right? Like, this is like you were just going full on. You talk about what it meant for you to incorporate that into your podcast. Well, you

Sam Crowley 12:28
know, I've always been a Christian was always like, I grew up Catholic. And then in 2005, I would, I would say, that's what most people would view as the word like being saved. Like you've accepted Christ into your heart, you know, and then around, you know, five years ago, or so when I was going through all this stuff with my daughter, I'm like, man, all I have all we had was faith. That's all we had. We didn't have anything other than our faith. I'm not, I don't know what to do with a kid born at one pound with a hole in her heart, several brain bleeds. I don't even know she can see me. I mean, what do you do with a kid at one time? All you have is faith in God that at that point, at least, that's all I had. So I started, you know, sharing more of it on social media. And then what's funny is I just did one town a lot. I sent an email out to my list, and I said, Hey, man, I gotta give praise to God. You know, I don't know if you guys get this, but I am a Christian. I believe in God, I just like everything I just told you, you know. And I had an email list of 39,000 people at the time, and I said, Hey, if you're on if you want to stay on my list, man, and you believe this message, you click this link. Well, 38,000 of them did. Okay. So my email is basically going from 39,000 to 1000. But my business increased that year. So I mean, look, I don't know, but I just, I'm not a preacher, Pastor, teacher,

Unknown Speaker 13:37
you know.

Sam Crowley 13:39
I mean, I think even Tony Robbins would acknowledge that all of the motivation that he says, or Jim Rohn, or Les Brown, it all comes from the Bible. It's all the parables that Tony talks about, and Jim Rohn if you've never listened to him on YouTube, it's a must listen. They all come from the Bible, Bob Proctor, they're all biblically based, you know? And so they're 66 of the best motivational books you'll ever hear all wrapped into one book called The Bible, and a lot of people butcher it. Like they'll say, money is the root of all evil. Well, no, the love of money is the root of all evil. Yeah, it's easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than a wealthy man to get into heaven. Okay, but that's because money's reference. There's a reason why it's referenced more than any other phrase in the Bible, because God knew it would become an idol to us, you know. So I'm not a pastor. I'm just really in tune with the Christian message. And if anybody wants to talk about religion over a beer, a glass of mirlo, I'm that guy. If you want me to quote scripture, I'm not that guy, because I can barely quote it, but I know who wrote it. And I'm got a pretty good relationship with the guy, I think, you know, but I'm not here to bring anybody to Christ. I'm here. If anybody were to say, Hey, tell me more about it like you did.

Unknown Speaker 14:46
I'm here to tell you more about it.

Sam Crowley 14:47
But I think the worst thing we can do as Christians is to try to beat the fish into the boat and say, repent, repent, you know, your last day No, because people don't read. I think people resonate with more how you carry yourself, you know, then how you can Quotes scripture that actually turns me off on somebody does that like, quotes the Bible and throws it back at me, you know?

Brandon Handley 15:06
Now that can be that can be annoying, but it's funny. It's funny it's you bring up, you know Bob Proctor right. And and that line the the idea of people people don't resist change they resist being changed right from Bob Proctor like that's that's one of his lines the you know you brought up you bring it up like you know maybe your job is not to bring people to Christ but we you and I had a conversation where in that moment you felt like part of your role was to bring people to Christ. Even if you don't feel like that's your job? What does it mean to bring someone to Christ them?

Sam Crowley 15:41
Well, I think we have a mutual friend Adam, who thanked me because he claimed that I had brought him to Christ and he got baptized, and he let me know about it one day a few years ago saying, Hey, man, I got baptized, you know, you're the reason I came to Christ and like, Wow, that's pretty big deal, man. Like, I would give away all my money and all everything. God if some if I were to get that message, you know, because, as Paul says, and all the apostasy I mean, the reason they were persecuted, and all of that is because they want they were preaching the gospel, you know, and we're sick. We're the only reason we're here as Christians is to share the good news. But I gotta tell you, dude, I ain't going to Kroger in the produce section and sharing the good news with a stranger. I just don't do that. And I know I'm supposed to do that. But I just can't, I can't do that, you know. But to bring somebody to Christ is like, that is monumental. I mean, that is amazing. Because now you know that they have that everything I just talked about earlier, they have that they rest in that piece, and they have that relationship. And it's a personal relationship to everybody. That's why I'm not in your face. But it's personal to people. So, you know, if you are messing up, I'm not here to say, you know, stop watching the porn or stop stealing money or stop gambling or anything like that and say, Man, if you if you want to talk about it, if I can help you at all, I can share some great resources with you, but only when you're ready, because if you're not ready, it's just it has the opposite effect, you know.

Brandon Handley 17:02
Now, I like that a lot, too. I think that's almost fair to have some of these. I don't know, put ourselves out there some of these endeavors, right. But also be willing to take that step towards that if that's something that you think is good for you like, go go explore it and go find out what it's like. And again, go to somebody like Sam, or others, like, you know, for Christianity or podcasting and marketing, right. For me, I think I think a big part of this whole journey has been having faith in what's inside of me, right, the spirit that's inside of me, Holy Spirit, I guess, right. I think that I could make that linkage, feeling that and then stuffing, you know, this was another huge. I love that. I still like this is a lie that echoes from Sam's podcasts from back in the day, because when was the last time you stepped out in faith? Mm hmm.

Right.

Yeah. I'm sure he probably said it several times since since then on the podcast, but you know, you would hear Sam go When was the last time you stepped out? When is the last time you went out? You did something that you you believed in right. And in yourself, right. with purpose and passion does and Sam, if you haven't listened to Sam's podcast, this is something that he does very well. I told him I hadn't listened for a minute. And I picked up podcasts listen a few this morning. It seems like charging, charging, gung ho with everything. And then it was so much it was so much fun just to because you are motivational, you are inspiring. You know, I caught the one where you know, your daughter was being bullied. Yeah. Right. And just just how fired up and how authentic you are. On your podcast, when somebody you know, reaches out to where should they be in life? Or what should they be thinking when they reach out to Sam Crowley to have you coach them or mentor them for podcasting,

Sam Crowley 18:54
they got to be ready to step like you just said it step out. And a lot of people really, they just and I was that way to man, I'm not here again, you got to be ready, you got to you got to be ready to launch your message. And that sounds pretty, like scary. And what do I do? It's nothing. I mean, it's just let me help you gain clarity on what your message is, like I said, you could be a carpet cleaner, tree trimming trees, you could be a motivational speaker, whatever it is you want to do, but everything comes to us through the power of a story. And I teach people how to tell their story. So you got to be ready to create your million dollar message, and then learn how to make money with that message. And that's an organic play. It's not a push button. I mean, we can all buy Facebook ads, drive traffic to a funnel and then deal with all those numbers. I'm more of an organic guy where I like to build it from podcasting is my main thing, but you could do it on YouTube. You could do it on Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram, I mean, I'm just I focus on podcasts and because I've been doing it 15 years and I like to do simple, better. You know, if you talk about that one phrase right there, do simple better. So keep it simple and do it Better than everybody else. Don't keep you know, look squirrel, you know, and you go chase in 10 different things. It's just, I've seen that I've done it, how do I know what doesn't work? I've done all this stuff I talked about that doesn't work. The only way I know is because I've actually done it myself, you know? And so I've chased those squirrels to shiny objects thinking I'm gonna get on a webinar. Oh my god, I'm gonna do real estate liens and tax liens. And I'm gonna go do commercial real estate and I'm gonna go be an MLM. And I'm gonna have lotions, potions and pills in my basement. My I've done all that man. And you know what that works. There's billionaires in the MLM industry, you know, who isn't passionate about lotions, potions and pills, this guy, me, I wouldn't be good at it. Because I'm not passionate about it. You know what, I'm passionate about getting on a podcast with you and talking about stuff that's real. And, you know, when you talking about faith, a faith that's never been tested can't be trusted. So if you think that you're going to operate that faith muscle without ever stepping out, it ain't gonna work. Because if you've never tested it, how could you possibly trust it? You know,

Brandon Handley 20:59
always so much fun with Sam Crowley always so much fun. Sam, I know we've got kind of a short time period today. So I'm not going to try and drag anything out. You got time? Yeah. Well, I mean, you know, when I'm, when you also talked about being saved in 2005. Right. I'm curious what that look like and felt like for you?

Sam Crowley 21:21
Well, I had been through a bankruptcy. So I was humbled. Thank God when he's when you're ready to come to him. He I think he's gonna humble everybody. At some point in time. I had an ego the size of Montana. Like I said, I was running a $90 million corporate division here in Cincinnati. And I had all these employees problem was I had 20 college credits, most of them gym and health class. I was ill prepared to manage anybody. I couldn't get my dog to sit, let alone you know, get employees to listen to me. I was not a leader. I know. I am not john Maxwell. Okay. So I was just terrible, I think at what I did, but I was getting all these accolades and getting promoted, but I didn't have a passion for it. And it all came crashing down. I left and I thought there's going to be I bought a quiznos franchise and that what the hell I love went bankrupt, lost 300 grand, borrowed money from my sister lost that I had no money, man, no money, file bankruptcy October 11 2005. It was humbling. I didn't bankruptcy is like a scarlet letter. I thought you could just not ever recover. It's done, you're done. And I lost my job and why I left my job. But then I went back to my job three months later working for everybody that used to work for me. And that's when I would start going to church with my wife. And I'm like, Man, this is crazy. What's really putting her hand in the air? What we don't do that at cat like growing up Catholic. You don't talk in church? You know, what's that PowerPoint up there? Man? This is good. This is what is this a movie theater production or something? But then it started to work. And that's what God does. He starts to work on a broken heart, a broken person, you can't we got this facade up. You got that ego like I you know, you can't God can't go to work on you. But he will, he'll get to you. And he'll get to you through the crack in your armor. And we all got to crack an armor and heal us and Satan will get to you through the cracks in your armor to. And when Satan gets to you through pornography, through drugs through alcohol through money, he knows the crack in your armor, he will work that crap. God was looking for the light and he's looking to work with you and work on your heart. Satan's looking to do one thing that's all he can do is why he's got to lie. It's all he does is lie. The one trick that's the lie to you. So when I was saved, I accepted Christ. I said, Man, I can't do this anymore. I don't want the ego. I just don't want any I just want a relationship with God. Now I know why I'm here. And that's you know what happened?

Brandon Handley 23:34
as powerful I'd never heard that story from you before. So I appreciate you sharing that. When when you not now you're not you're full in right. Do you feel like your business is more fulfilling? Because you've got your spirituality? Lead on it?

Sam Crowley 23:50
I think so. Yeah. I mean, look, I don't have it figured out. I feel like you know, I have I listen to great podcast elevation church, Steven furtick in North Carolina. I love my favorite podcast. I listened to a lot of spiritual things like that audio books to keep my mind where it needs to be. And here's the thing I do have that I don't think I used to have is when I feel myself straying off course. God brings me back and look keep the main thing the main thing remember your dad your husband? Yeah, you know, this business isn't everything cuz? Look, I have ups and downs like everybody does in business and relationships and you know, finances all that stuff and health. But I feel like you know, now at least I've got kind of an internal GPS guiding me. I didn't know that before.

Brandon Handley 24:39
You mentioned like the health part. I know. I remember. One of the big parts too. When we first connected you were doing 100 laps, I think through the pool. Right? And that's, that's actually what I mean. I ended up doing it too, which is really funny. I ended up you know, swimming and doing a triathlon and, and getting healthy. You know, how's that tying into to kind of everything you're Going to

Sam Crowley 25:00
Well, my wife and I joined this eight week fitness group six weeks ago and I weighed 210. But I've kind of purpose because I drove the car off the cliff with food night before I started going out to a big dinner and my wife and I weighed in at 210. down to 190. It's only been five weeks. We're on week six. Now, my wife and I've grown very close together through this because we're doing it together. I did drag her kicking and screaming. My wife is not overweight. She's like, I don't want to do this belly. Come on, let's do it. But she feels amazing. We feel amazing. We've gone closer we eat together now breakfast, lunch, dinner, because we got to eat the same types of foods and stuff. And I always think that, you know, health is so amazing. I'm 52 years old man. I feel like I'm 25 I'm not really I'm not just saying I really do I feel the aches and pains. And I get up a little bit in the morning that I didn't when I was younger, but I mean, I'm running three, four times a week I'm lifting three times a week. I feel like I could you know, get in a ring with a gorilla and beat the crap out of them. And I feel like I can outrun Roger Bannister, man, you know all of this at the same time. And I say all that jokingly because I can't do any of that. But health wise. Right now I feel I'm just getting healthier and stronger and my mind is sharper. And for example, I gave up cream. I never had sugar. I gave up sugar a long time I gave up sugar and pasta A long time ago still eat bread sometimes. Well, now I'm drinking black coffee. I'm not a black coffee guy at all like I can I wanted to vomit on the first day. I thought I'd have to have black coffee. Well not you get a little bit of you know, flavored coffee like cinnamon or snickerdoodle. Something like that. It doesn't count against you. It's all about that intermittent fasting. You know what I mean? Sure. So I'm a black coffee guy. Now I'll never go back to cream. I haven't had cream in six weeks. I haven't had sugar in six weeks outside of fruit. You know, natural sugar.

Unknown Speaker 26:42
Feeling amazing.

Brandon Handley 26:44
Imagine imagine putting cream in your wine. That's what you'd be doing now. Right? That's what it's like. I mean, cuz I've been a black coffee guy for years. And like, really? Oh, yeah. When I see put people put cream and sugar. I'm like, that's a Why would you ruin a good coffee?

Sam Crowley 26:56
Dude, you should go to Dunkin because there are people who get 1213 sugars. Okay, I don't know if you've seen it. But I was in line the other day at Dunkin getting a black coffee leaf. Yeah, five sugars and on a Carmel swirl coffee which is all sugar itself. She leaves I go Oh my gosh. I said to the girl with it. Five sugar. She was a guy before he had 13 I go 13.

Unknown Speaker 27:19
How to how do you even drink coffee with 13 sugars? stick with what we're doing to our body? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 27:26
All that all that inclusive. All that included? So you mentioned you mentioned a couple of podcasts and what are some audibles? I guess that you like to keep your spirituality Mojo going,

Sam Crowley 27:40
like audio books or podcasts or

Brandon Handley 27:42
audio books, podcasts, resources that if you know the people looking for a spiritual bump, or as I like to call it spiritual dope, get their hit. Where would they go? Like what do you like?

Sam Crowley 27:54
Well, I think there's a few Steven furtick. There's my number one, like I said, elevation church. I love it. Chris vallotton has some great audio books. The one I listened to recently was called poverty, riches and wealth. It's v as in Victor al L. Ott, O n Kris vallotton. Chris with a K. K ri s. And that's a great audio book. It's a biblically based book about poverty, riches and wealth. And it doesn't make you feel ashamed for being a wealthy Christian. Alright? Because God, God, God wants us to be prosperous. He just doesn't want us to idolize money. That's all. And so look, if there weren't any wealthy Christians, churches wouldn't be built hospital England and get funded things like that, you know, we need very, very wealthy people who know how to use that money for God's kingdom. So those are the types of audible audios that I search for our wealthy, both. I don't mean wealthy, just money wise, I mean, wealthy, but I'm not going to listen to somebody who says give all your money away. God doesn't want you to buy That's crazy. You know, God, we can't money is just a tool. It doesn't like the old adage I don't know who said it, but the government can sure knows how to ruin a good piece of paper, put an egg on it, you know, money.

But, you know,

it's just I like wealthy Christians who do good things. I mean, Rick Warren wrote Purpose Driven Life, you know, and that guy, reverse tide is 90% of his money gives away lives on 10%. Now I understand 10% of 10 million or whatever, the guy has a lot of money, but still, he's given away how many other people could make that much money and give away 90% you know, so those are the types of teachings I like to listen to.

Brandon Handley 29:29
And that's powerful. That's powerful. Reminds me of a good a Buddhist Reverend on I talked to him every once in a while. And he talks about being able to give with wisdom, right? Not just not just like, give it all away. But to be able to give and know that it's going to a place that it's going to have an impact. It's like an investment in society. Right. where's this going to best? best best? best play out? Is it brother I don't have a whole lot for you today, man. It's been a minute I wanted to go. Yeah, well wanted to get you on and just, you know, thank you again for being the inspiration that you were, and are, and you continue to be for others and what it looks like to, you know, be a shining light and have a flourishing business. And that's something I think you've exemplified.

Sam Crowley 30:15
Thank you. And it's great catching up with you, man. I appreciate that. Thank you so much.

Brandon Handley 30:18
Absolutely. Where do I send people to go find the SAM Crowley?

Sam Crowley 30:23
Dale, I've got a brand new video I put out at launch my movement.com and they could check out I will launch and your entire podcast for you.

Brandon Handley 30:32
Well, well, wait a second. What's that look like?

Sam Crowley 30:36
What's that look like? All you got to do is literally talk, I put everything together with a monetization plan to show you how to make six figures with your podcast. So all you got to do is literally just speak into the microphone that I tell you to buy. Even that

Unknown Speaker 30:48
part is done. Wow. Wow. Okay,

Sam Crowley 30:51
so it's a done for you podcast is program if you go to launch my movement calm.

Brandon Handley 30:55
That's awesome, man. No, that's great. That's great. And the guys guys and girls. You know, Sam has been doing it for a long time. He is a coach for Tony Robbins. Right. Can I say that? You know, they're coaches on a podcast. Yeah. So I mean, you know, it's not like he's some dude, just like he may be doing I was basement and he is definitely like, is out there in a car in front of dunkin donuts. But uh, you know, you know, reach out to him because he's legit. He's been doing it for a long time. And if you've got a message that's on your heart, he can help you get that out there. And the part about like, it had been handheld, like to get through it. And with that kind of plan. That's awesome. Sam, thanks for putting that out there for people back. Being a good student. Dude. I remember when we I remember when we started working together three years ago. And I know that you were a bit apprehensive. I just know you were when we first started working together. Who's this guy? What am I getting myself into and look where we are over three years still friends, you know,

Sam Crowley 31:54
talk, and we respect each other. And that's what happens when you get into a concurrent relationship with people on the internet. You know, you can have these long lasting friendships, and somebody can still pay you money. And that doesn't mean you look at them with $1 sign on their forehead, we you know, we'll be talking for a long time to come. So don't be afraid to put your message out there. you'll attract individuals like I attracted Brandon. And here we are three and a half, almost four years later, still in touch with each other. That's the power of building friendships out of client relationships.

Unknown Speaker 32:25
Agree? Yeah.

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Is this your window of opportunity?

Published: Nov. 25, 2020, 12:55 a.m.
Duration: 16 minutes 6 seconds

Unknown Speaker 0:01
What is happening spiritual dope, been a minute, since I've gone to many places, in order to even do a podcast or anything from the car, which used to be one of my favorite places to hop on and do a podcast or do anything with

Unknown Speaker 0:30
simply because let's make good use of that time. Sometimes I'd rather get in the car and create, then consume. So that's what I miss about doing these in the car.

Unknown Speaker 0:46
So I had a, had somebody reached out. In regards to the podcast, I want to say thank you anonymous. I seem to be a younger lady who has kind of gone through some shit. And

Unknown Speaker 1:04
she's on her, she's on her spiritual journey. And has gone through some breakups and gone through some other stuff.

Unknown Speaker 1:13
But the big point really is she says, Hey, I have maybe this is my quarter life crisis. And

Unknown Speaker 1:21
I told her, you know, there's a, it's kinda like these windows of opportunities. I think you're, you know, at least in my experience, right, we always got to talk about, it's been my experience that, in my experience,

Unknown Speaker 1:34
I was in that space a couple times, in my younger years, where I was feeling very spiritual and closer connection to the divine, if you will, call it what you want. And when I brought it up to a couple different people,

Unknown Speaker 2:00
they just kind of gave me the eye, right? And there's like, whatever, dude. And the thing was, I didn't feel like I had somebody to talk to. Right, I know that she's coming out of

Unknown Speaker 2:15
talks about, you know, also coming out of her religion, 2.6 years. And the thing is, is what happens is, first of all, now you don't have something you don't feel like you have somebody you can talk to. So you kind of go back inside, you keep feeling it for a little bit. And then what happens is you're distracted. The pace of life picks up the game. And you kind of forget that you're on that spiritual journey. You know, you kind of forget and that window of opportunity. As I look back, it was there several times, there's always there's always a moment of transformation, there's always a moment where you can make that choice that send you down the path that could lead you to greater spiritual connection. And look, guys, and gals. I think that it's really important to say that that's spiritual spirituality, that sense of self. You know, that kind of the inside of you the divine spark that gives you life, you know, when they call it, they call it prana. You know, your lifeforce, it's going through you. And sometimes you're not feeling right, you're not feeling in touch with that if you're not feeling somewhat vitalized not revitalized. If you're not feeling that you've got some type of sensation that you're humming for in life, then you're not in touch with that and not in touch with stores you're in not connected to your your spirit, right? How many times have people say that, we're going to do this in the sphere of or that person is very spirited or a horse, spirit of horses, something that comes to my mind. Meaning that they're hard to control or maintain or they have a life of force of their own. That's driving them that's beyond your, your means of control. That meet that next internal control. My ability to control you because you're very spirited person meaning and I'm subservient to external forces. When you're driven by the spirit of something, the spirit of your your great ideas of passion Does this tremendous alignment with who you show up as every day. And that's the window of opportunity, as a window of opportunity is who, you know, if you're feeling that way. And you're able to have a conversation with somebody who has been in that space and knows what it's like to, to do both to do to reject it. Or to not be able to find somebody to help you facilitate grabbing hold of that shit and grabbing on for dear life and just saying, I don't know where this is going, but it feels fucking awesome. That's, that's kind of the, that's the window of opportunity. Because what'll happen is if you don't, if you don't, if you don't find that person, if you don't find somebody that, you know, says, Hey, you know what? Yeah, I get it, you know, align with that shit and go for it. And yes, it says just to you, because all you're looking for is just just a little, just a little bit of like, yes, okay to go for that. It's okay, that you're feeling like, you know, this, this spiritual disconnect, reconnect, because you've been outside of yourself for so long. The window closes. And I can tell you from personal experience, my window closed for 20 years. And so I told her, I said, you know, I'm just compelled to tell you how you make sure that you see this, don't lose this window of opportunity. Pay attention to it, because it's showing up in your life for a reason. And it's showing up now. So that, you may hold on to it, so that you may talk through it. And it's really, you know, that's the veil, right, the veil is so thin,

Unknown Speaker 7:19
that you can see through it. What you can't touch it, you know, the veil is so thin that you can, you could reach to it. And it always seems out of reach, but it's always right there. And all you got to do is be willing to, to stand the minimal amount of tension that's between you and your spirit to pierce it right to connect with it. And you know, that that's been my experience. And that that was my you know, that's all I can really say on that. So they're anonymous, you know, also know that it's, she said, there's a couple of pieces to write and other pieces to your brain. And your your cognitive abilities aren't fully formed until about 23 to 26. So the other piece of that is it's like it's kind of like your your whole consciousness is slamming into place right now. Right? So you're coming into being it's not like it's it's like, if we can go back to the Wayback Machine. And you'd look at some 56 k dial up internet and how long does it used to take to download that shit? The lifetime I guess what? new technology has not been invented as long as they can humans have been around and sometimes that download takes a long time for a full consciousness connection. Because if it came down all at the same speed, and just like they're your dog, right full full on explosion. So that does another piece. The other piece is you know, changing out of the religion. It's interesting. It's very interesting, because all the texts all the infinite wisdom that's in like, I think every religion is the same. You know, it's essentially the same Edwin Brian does, like Hinduism. was talking about it once upon a time. It's just like, there's so many different ways to go about it. That you know, eventually As you're done flipping through the pages of all the different ones you could choose, it's like, you just got to pick one and ride it out. You know, just kind of pick one and ride it out. And I promise you, that ship will take you there, it will take you there. Pick any one of them. They all work. What doesn't work is when you start hopping in between each and every other one of them. Now, that being said, also enjoy Florence scovel Shinn, and the idea that you can't learn your lessons from just one man. Right? So sometimes you need the other texts to supplement your current text. And how that work is, you know, I read a lot about Christians becoming better Christians through Buddhism, right, there are some, there are some wisdoms that you may not be open to, because you've heard them your whole life you've already set like some type of you've already set some type of level of understanding that you may not be willing to revise, because you said it right. You said hey, this is this, I understand it as such and does this, you know, and once you kind of lock it in, you're very reticent to alter that, unless, or until maybe you go and you pick up some Buddhism, right, and you're reading or Hinduism or whatever. And there's like this line in there. That seeks past, like the defense mechanisms that seeks past all these other levels of understanding that you've already set and created. For some, you know, Jews, even Christianity, for example, you've already set your level of understanding for XYZ story, and like the set and then like,

Unknown Speaker 12:15
something will come along and Buddhism, and it'll be almost the exact same story.

Unknown Speaker 12:23
And we'll make it click, you'd be like, Oh, my God, holy shit. That's it. That's what they meant. And you know, the book of Job. I don't even know, right, Leslie, but your filters are set to your current level of understanding. So

Unknown Speaker 12:41
if you go to this is why, like, you know, Buddhism, this is why Eastern religion is so attractive to us Westerners, because we've already we've already made up our minds about the Bible, we already made up our minds about God, we know all that should already give me something new. Right? Because we are also wise, full of it. So the thing is, whatever your your religion is, now, I promise you, the answer is available there. The thing is, you're done looking there, you want a new experience, and so you're just not willing to see it. And that's okay. But just know that you know, what your league, you know, what you're looking for, what you're seeking is seeking you what you're looking for is available, right where you are to day with the resources, and the people and the things that are there today. And that's okay. If you'd rather go look somewhere else, but know that know that it's available there for you today. Know that, you know, your group is a religion, if you've been in the same place for 26 years, you know, with the same religion there's, there's just, there's, it's in there for you. Right. And, and the way you're thinking the connection with spirituality, it's available within that group. And I say that simply because, you know, I still remember a good buddy of mine, Rudy. When I was going through like my quote unquote, awakening, right when I was going through this, you know, people like you know, existential crisis wise, going through this. Holy shit. I just connected with spirit, and I don't know what the fuck is going on. I was able to turn to Rudy and say, Rudy, I'm going through this. I'm going through this. Holy shit, Rudy, because I yeah, testimony. I was like, and he said it and it was just he accepted it just so easily. We were eating food, I still remember at the buffet. And he didn't skip a beat. Did not skip a beat. So I just watch it. Know that while it may not feel comfortable for you to have that conversation with someone that's you know, within, you know, your, your immediate confines, I guess it's okay. But the chances are is that there's much greater acceptance of who you are where you are, then sometimes you give people credit for, and especially when it comes to spirituality and that's been so far that's been my experience. So again, you know, look, windows of opportunity, meaning if you're feeling connected to source right now, follow that because if it shuts down and you let the rest of your life you know, take take place, then you may let it go. And you may, it may take a while for us to pick it back up again. If it takes a long time for you to pick back up where you left off with the ability to have the universe behind your back. You know, the next 10 to 1520 years just could be rough because you dropped it

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Emmy Harr | Bringing out your Army of Angels

Published: Nov. 22, 2020, 10:11 a.m.
Duration: 53 minutes 33 seconds

Come on in for a spin, Emmy Harr & I have a blast as we cover topics such as following your bliss and pop up christian camps.

Check out Emmy with her crew over on Your Essential Nature!

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Unknown Speaker 0:02
You're listening to the Spiritual Dope podcast with your host, Brandon Handley the spiritual

Unknown Speaker 0:11
with today's

Unknown Speaker 0:11
guest from your essential nature's podcast this spiritual worked out ready

Brandon Handley 0:20
hey there spiritual dope I am on today with Emma har and she's coming to us here from your essential nature podcast. I met Emma through Dr. Ben chambers and the your essential nature podcast. And that podcast is based on the longer yearning that we all have to know ourselves at the deepest level. And in this podcast series, they explore the template to know yourself, experience peace, and grow in mindful awareness and bring more light into the world. Who wouldn't want to be check in into that? Right. So thanks for joining today. You know, tell us a little bit about what brings you here today.

Emmy Harr 1:06
Oh, my goodness, yes. Well, um, this is a common mistake. So I'll give you a little past card for this. But my name is actually me. So just like the Emmy Awards, short for Amber. So um, yeah, as far as bringing in, I think we're just kind of in this expansion phase of getting connected with your right tribe. Okay. And with your essential nature, Ben did an amazing job kind of plucking the the the misfit toys and putting them together. And we just had an amazing chemistry as the the group of four of us. And with that, each person's kind of doing their own thing, as far as building their spiritual practice and their spiritual businesses, and helping clients that way. And so, yeah, you and I got connected from mutual friends and mutual friends. And it's just, now's the time to say yes, and manifestation. So absolutely.

Brandon Handley 2:04
I love that. So I like to start these off with the idea that sources speaking through us, and that there's somebody out there listening to this podcast today. And a message can only come through you to them through this podcast. What is that message?

Unknown Speaker 2:30
Patience.

Emmy Harr 2:34
Definitely patience, especially when it comes to the surrender process. As your life starts unfolding, it's happening for you, not to you. And it takes a little bit of patience, probably more patience than anybody wants to admit that they are.

Brandon Handley 2:50
Sure, sure. We are not patient. People, especially, especially in Western society, right. How has that shown up in in your life?

Emmy Harr 3:05
page? Oh, gosh, yeah, definitely more of a recent thing. So I remember when I was little, I always felt like I was different, not like a weird, different, but a really good different. And not an arrogant sense of I'm better than everybody. But just like, I felt like I knew something more than the average person my age did. And lo and behold, that was basically just like utilizing light, right? Like That was my gift is being a beacon instead of darkness really. And so I remember just like going through middle school, especially a little bit of high school, college, even post college, just feeling like I was like, Am I just so abnormal, that I don't have anybody, like, even my really good friends? That like truly gets me, you know, like, and I remember just like yearning for these deep relationships. And then, ironically, about five years ago, I moved from Wisconsin to Austin, Texas. And that was when my whole life was really just like, flipped upside down. like totally shaken. I remember. As soon as I stepped foot on Austin ground I remember looking straight up to the sky and asking what the hell am I doing here? Because I truly, I know I was guided down there and I knew it was gonna be like a powerful season in my life. But I mean, immediately like, I could just feel my whole aura just shaking, like could not get grounded for the first like year and a half No matter how much yoga, meditation, dance like none of that. And I remember just like crying, just begging for one person, one person that understood my heart and Yeah, then and of course, that can be friendships. I know for a lot of people, it's romantic partners as well. And we're always just craving that soul partnership. And yeah, I can tell you like, even with Austin I was that's when I started basically commission only a business insurance and finances, and I had no concept of what business or sales meant, you know, I came from the infant room with 14 infants prior to. So I was really I was on my own I had one friend that was never there, he moved from Austin with me. And then I didn't know anybody working 90 hours a week studying learning this whole new realm. You know, it was really a you eat what you kill type of environment, right survival mode on its on its best. And it just felt like I was always just like hacking away, right, like taking the ice pick to a sculpture. And yet the sculpture wasn't forming. And I was just working so hard. And it nothing was flowing, like not even my energy was. And so fast forward three years, I moved to Kansas City, again, a divine, a divine way on how I knew it was Casey that I was supposed to go to. But it just felt like a huge way it was just like, lifted off my my chest, I could breathe, even though it was freezing. And it just felt like things were coming together. And now I have an amazing tribe of members who like to have depth, in depth conversations, they like to talk about God, we can have civilized conversations, on politics, spirituality, all of this. And within the last probably six to eight months, I've just really been at this surrender phase of like, okay, universe, you're the one leading my life, I'm just swimming through it. I'm totally just at bay here. And I can say that, since that's happened, it's just been a lot more peaceful of a life. And I'm still being taken care of, you know, it's more of a less survival more of an abundance mentality. And so, you know, it's funny, I think about well, it only took me 28 years to get to that point. But I know people were in their 60s that aren't even at that point. So when I talk about patience, I mean, patience.

Brandon Handley 7:30
For sure, for sure. Lots in there. Right. So thanks for sharing, kind of that, you know, backstory on I remember, I went to Texas, went to Dallas. And I think that I had a really similar experience where I got down there and I was what what am I doing here? Maybe it's just Texas. They are, they are a different breed. And that's okay. Right. And, and, you know, you mentioned, you know, you know, all the yoga all the meditation kind of makes me think of all the king's men and all that, you know, you know, Humpty Dumpty couldn't put it back together again. But, uh, you know, but that's it, right? Like, everything you were doing you still you weren't kind of coalescing and gathering shape, they're right, or form the form at least that you were in search of, while you were in Texas, right. And you also talk about this being in survival mode. And, and, you know, kitten, you know, eating what you eat what you kill, right? survival mode aspect, and, you know, that's, it's, it's kind of a, it's a tough existence, right? There's a, there's a Francis ism involved with survival mode, right, there's a, there's a closed off sness of being in survival mode. Primarily, because you don't know that there is another mode available. Right? Like, this is just kind of how you're taught to, you know, go out there, it's like, you're literally being pushed out of the nest. Right? Yeah. Like, you know, you either fly, or you're or you figure out some other way to make it about a little broken wing. So, you know, definitely, definitely interesting to kind of be going through all that and also looking for some type of connection. You know, when when you're talking about, you know, killing you know, you know, eating what you kill in that moment. Even that phrase limits the potential of connection, right, if that's your mentality, right? Um, you know, it's kind of like, if we think of like law of attraction, like who's drawn to that, right. And then of Iran because it you know that that also to me indicates like the Yeah, the certain strength of will and desire to live and be so doesn't you know, there's also that right. But you probably weren't really thinking of it in those terms. I could be wrong, right? You may not have been thinking about it in those terms at that time, because it sounds like you're like, I gotta get the hell out of here. And where is the next year? And the next year for you? Kansas City.

Unknown Speaker 10:26
I mean, you know who, you know who

Brandon Handley 10:29
am Right, right, you're right. Like if I've got even even if I've got a map up on the wall and a Dart, the likelihood that is going to hit Kansas City, and that's going to be, you know, my nama stay place. Right. Oh, God, why and how so? Tell us a little bit about how you ended up there. What was it that drew you to Kansas City? Yeah, that's

Emmy Harr 10:51
so funny. Um, I had never even heard of Kansas City until a few years ago. And just real quick,

Brandon Handley 10:59
Kansas City's in Missouri. Not Kansas. No, it's

Emmy Harr 11:03
both split town. It's so what the hell no.

Brandon Handley 11:08
This is a strong note to that. It's like calling turkey burgers like hamburgers, right? Like that's just to know that's it. That's a turkey Patty.

Emmy Harr 11:16
No, there's Casey, Mo, and Casey. Okay. I learned that the hard way. So my, one of my dear friends from college moved here. I think four, four years ago or something. So I was still in Austin. She moved here. And I remember in Austin, when I was starting to make a little bit of money, I got the flow of business. You know, I was like, cool. The reason I'm making money and want to make money is so that I can go travel and experience the world, right? And so where do you go, you go to Kansas City to visit one of your best friends. So I remember I was I came here during summertime, in 2016, or 2017. And it was so much fun. It was great. And the irony is I remember she took me out for bagels. And we were sitting outside in the sunshine. And I remember being I was just starting to get into real estate investing at the time. And I was like, You know what, Brett? I'm, what if what if I bought a duplex and you live on one side, and I live on the other and we'll just be best friends forever, right? So, but it was just kind of like just talk, I was like, I'm not moving here like I don't know. So then fast forward a year, it was October of 2018. And end of September, I just nothing with my business with insurance was working. Everyone was canceling their appointments, I was getting chargebacks, which is where money gets taken out of my account because somebody cancelled their policy. I was nobody wanted to book an appointment. It was just like dead. And I was like, Okay, what is God trying to tell me here? Like, clearly this is a stop, right? And so, my business partner at the time, he was like, Okay, I just kind of throw it out to him. And I was like, You know what, I'm just going to stop until until October because that's when Medicare starts. And that was like a lot of what I was doing. And he was like, Yeah, cool, but what are you going to do for your soul? And I was like, what, and he was like, I'm gonna, I'm gonna almost force you to go up to Wisconsin and go visit Brittany in Kansas City, whatever you want to do. And I was like, okay, so I flew up to Wisconsin to visit family was there for a few days road trip down to KC to visit Brittany who had just had surgery. And so I just remember arriving in Kansas City. And the first day that I, the first morning, I woke up, it was 40 degrees, which, by the way, I think I was actually born on the sun. So anything less than 80 degrees is freezing to me. So the fact that it was 40 degrees. And I was just like, yes, like seriously, just a weight lifted off. I felt just such immense peace. And to me that Spirit speaking to me, that's God's peace, his presence. And I was just like, Okay, and then all of a sudden, all of these business inspirations just kept firing. And I was like, just I felt like I was home. And then, so after this, this visit with Britt, then I went back to Austin. And I was literally depressed, couldn't get off of the couch, my my friend's couch at the time, by the way, because for three days straight, and I remember my business partner, he'd have to text me to be like, hey, go for a walk today. Like I was in mobile. It just didn't feel right. And I was in between spaces because I had a duplex under contract that took five and a half months to close and it was just like, kind of a pain right? Then I don't remember how but I think my partner and I, we we met up for lunch one day, and I just randomly blurted out, I'm moving to Kansas City. And there was a sturdiness and the tone and the frequency that we both knew. We We're like, Oh, crap, it's time. And so I got everything squared away, closed on the property found renters in Austin. I hosted my parents for Christmas. And then they actually helped me pack up, and then move to Kansas City on their way back to Wisconsin, which was so sweet. And yeah, so then the irony Now, remember that story of Brittany and I bagels and the irony is now I own a four Plex. She's not one of my tenants yet, but one day, I'm sure she will be. No, but yeah, I ended up investing in real estate very quickly when I got down here and and that in and of itself was divine timing. And yeah, so it just I remember like walking in the rain and the snow that first that first season because I moved here December 2019. And I was like, yeah, this is great. Again, rain and snow, not my cup of tea. But it just felt like Oh, I'm so so happy. My heart was just Oh, singing in the rain.

Brandon Handley 15:54
I love it. I love it. It's kind of like, you know, you get this divine inspiration. And it is imminent in some way, shape or form. You don't know how it's going to happen. But you just kind of you have that you have that peek into the future. All right. And you speak it into existence, right? You make a joke about it. Right? You speak existence, though, right? It's real similar to kind of like how you're in. Kind of like you're like, I don't see any clients. I don't see any business. I don't see any of this. And sure enough, that these are the things that you're saying to yourself. And sure enough, you're not seeing any of it right. It's you're speaking that into existence. And then, you know, you find yourself in a place of harmony. And you know, this kind of good resonance where you're you're sitting or Brittany, you're hit by this sun. And things start opening up again for you because you've opened up right, because you've sent out like this sense of harmony in that space, where you were where you guys are kind of hanging out eating the bagels. And then when you go back and you're just kind of morose, right, you're like, Fuck, Texas. It's just isn't it? Right this this, isn't it? This isn't my space. This isn't something is off key. Right. And and, you know, again, you felt like in your heart to like the end, you felt the things weren't moving at your pace five and a half months to close on a place. I mean, come on. Right. So thanks,

Unknown Speaker 17:29
dad. Good. Can

Emmy Harr 17:30
I just add it took me 35 days to close on a four Plex here. Right? So wait, this is what it's supposed to be.

Brandon Handley 17:37
Right? Right. So I mean, you know, when when you are in alignment with your sense of purpose and bliss and your own good feeling. This isn't and you know, people always kind of, you know what I'm talking about following your bliss and just out there was a world we follow your bliss. Look, there's a certain that you know, there's a there's a discernment between like following your bliss and imminent folly. Right. So you were though, you know, you're following your bliss, your heart intuition. And when you're doing that, just as you're highlighting right now, your story indicates that the universe opens up and gets behind you with that right universes like Pikachu, this is this is happening, like you said, for you, not to you. Right. And so that to me, sounds like what your experience has been so far. Have I got that about? Right?

Emmy Harr 18:35
Yeah, absolutely. And I might even add, like for so I've always been deemed as sensitive, right? Like, I have an act and not only like not just really not emotionally sensitive but just like an awareness right. And one of my one of my spiritual comrades here in KC we were just talking a month ago, and she even said, because nobody can understand the why, you know, like, I came down to Texas and I again, I was guided down there, I knew it was Texas that I had to go, I could feel the energy of God saying Yes, go with that. And but I knew it was going to be like a learning curve. And so my, my spiritual comrade just made a comment, like, you know, there's there's different you know, how there's like different war zones or different like boot camps or base camps throughout. And it has a different energy when you drive past them, right. And so she said, the same thing with the spirit realm is there's these different Warzones these different base camps, and maybe just maybe Austin happens to be one of them. And I was connecting into that. And Casey like that we have a lot of like, there's the International House of Prayer here. Like there's a lot of a lot of that spiritual and spirituality. Even the religion here, you know, it's just like more

Unknown Speaker 19:57
God Yeah, so

Emmy Harr 20:01
maybe I was even picking up on that. And that's why like, which came first the chicken or the egg, you know?

Brandon Handley 20:08
Not for sure. I love that I love that idea to have you know, the the camps, right and different energies and, you know, I'm always reminded of the book the obstacles away. I'm not a big fan of the book, but that's what it reminds me of right? Have you ever read it, but the idea is, and then and then you know, as you're talking and you're sharing that kind of reminded of like, I'm even just holding up a mirror when you're trying to shine the light, right? Maybe your mirror was down in Austin, and the light was shining over into right like, Kansas City, right? You know, this is here's, here's where you catch your, your, your, your ray of sunshine is over there over here type of thing, you know, write a letter, but anyways, right? That's just kind of the thought processes, as I'm listening to the story. So you're kind of you're following your bliss. You're, you know, feeling your spiritual self, right? Where's Where did you feel like you kind of connected with your spirituality and felt the strong pull for that. And I love the idea to have like, you know, what are you going to do for your soul? I love that. Right? And Was that something that helped spark that? Or was that already in existence? Because I know, you'd already talked about a lot of yoga and meditation as well, where where did you initially kind of connect with source and decide that that was going to be a part of your life?

Emmy Harr 21:38
Yeah, so I was born and raised Catholic. And so God has always been a part of my life now. I love the traditions and rituals of Catholicism. However, the strictness never really resonated with me, but Jesus guide disciples, saints, just having an army for us. That always resonated with me ever since I was little. So luckily, I had that foundation innately and also fostered. Now when it became more of a relationship with God, instead of just an abnormal what word Am I looking for? Like just an abstract thought, right? I was in college, one of my dear friends, she had actually tricked me. And I talked about this on your essential nature, but she had tricked me on what happened to be a student led, faith based retreat. I didn't know is faith based. She was just like, yeah, it's really fun. You get to throw like, pockets of glue at each other. And there's like a mud fight and all of these things. I'm like, I'm super extroverted by nature. And I'm like, yeah, that's amazing. And I just transferred colleges. So of course, I was like, wanting to look for, like, get to know people and meet people who like to do fun things. And so when I was there, I read it, like dawned on me, okay, this is, this is about God. And I remember looking at Ashley, and I was like, what she's like, I'm sorry, I just didn't think you would come. Like, you're right. I probably wouldn't not like out of anti God or anything like that. Just a matter of, okay, like, I already know, God, I don't need to do anything, you know. But that's what, that's what opened my eyes to this concept of having a relationship. So that's how I in my world, Faith is the relationship of religion is the structure or the dogma. And so I started learning and developing relationship. And then I just had great spiritual mentors. And then eventually, I think it was my, either senior super senior year, I met a mentor that kind of blended this whole new age energy realm, she was very intuitive. I would even call her a medium. But then she also had this Christianity foundation as well. And she did a beautiful job from marrying the two. And that to me felt right and so for her to be like, Oh, yeah, I can see this energy in the room. I'm like, wait, there's a whole other round, like it was the next level of faith for me. I was like, Okay, so then, yeah, I just kind of started and just kept growing from there. And I just keep listening to what feels true for me, like what resonates it's a different frequency.

Brandon Handley 24:32
Now for sure. I love that. You know, I love the idea to this army for us, right? So it sounds like even even before you know, even while in Catholicism, you had this army for us mentality, right? The University of benevolent universe, right? This this kind of digital energy source, acting on your behalf right? And that's great. I love that. Yeah, I've never heard it said like that. And I think that that's, that's great, right? And I also like this little piece to where, you know, faith is. Faith is what again, I wrote down notes,

Unknown Speaker 25:13
but the relationship

Brandon Handley 25:13
faith is relationship and then your religions call it the framework right of everything else. No, I like that idea too. Because I look at I look at that, too. Without this kind of foundation of any type of religion, or spirituality background, right? It can be a challenge to lean into any type of spirituality, right? If you don't have kind of the foundation for it, and you start to feel you, like you said, you're kind of like, an peth, like high energy, connection to source, you can begin to wonder, what is this? What am I feeling? What am I going through, and if you don't have a, at least a framework, you are, you're kind of sLl, right? Like, you're just kind of out there without any anything to bring you back or ground you, right? Or something to at least anchor yourself to

Emmy Harr 26:16
something and I would even, I would even take it one step further. I know from my like, my parents generation, and I might even say that the degeneration just underneath them. Like it's not spoken about, even if you are extra feely, like I remember, in seventh grade, I actually became I think for at the time, one might have said I was depressed. But I was depressed because I was witnessing How rude. My classmates were being to this one, one particular classmate of mine, and I could almost feel her sadness. And I didn't know what was going on. And my mom thought I was going crazy. She signed me up for a child psychologist wanting to help me, you know, she's like, I don't know if she's suicidal. I was not. But I mean, that's how that's like, how I could process at the time. And so they shut off, you know, at no, at no criticism for themselves, but they were shut off because their parents were shut off, right? Like, that was the Great Depression era. So everyone was in survival mode. And then that's just kind of what was taught, and then handed down. And so if you're feeling me, or seeing or hearing these different things that you don't know, or you don't have the framework or foundation for, it can be really tricky when you're not even in a a, like an area where it's spoken about to normalize it.

Brandon Handley 27:45
Not 100 100%, right? And I love that too. You know, you're looking, you're looking back through history, and you know, what's acceptable in this energetic realm, right? So what you're kind of explaining is, you didn't have the ability to protect your energy field, right? Or the, you know, how do you address that again, and your parents addressed it by being like, Oh, she's okay. I don't know what the fuck her but let's go get her some help. Right? Because they did. And that's awesome, right? Because they realized that they weren't their limits, you know, as a parent myself, I'm like, Alright, we know if I'm out of all the other options, let's, who can we reach out to? Right? And what what do we got there? So, um, I love it. And then so your, your your friend, the New Age, energy, you know, connecting the realms of, you know, Christianity into all that even a mediumship? What would you say? You know, she did all that, you know, what have you taken away? And how are you implementing what she taught you? Like, what were a couple of key pieces that you you feel like you pulled away from her that you're replicating?

Emmy Harr 28:56
That's a great question. That's so interesting, because I feel like everything's just been so fluid. Like, it's just one extra layer kind of building, building bricks laying on top of each other. So to pinpoint it, I remember being in our office late on Tuesday nights where we were playing with the enneagram. Right? And she was teaching me intuition how to just pick what felt right. You don't have to analyze but just pick what felt right. Or we would play with other personality. wheels are, I don't know some more of the psychology side of, of intuition. Really, because psyche means intuition, I believe. And, but then just more I would say trusting a that you can see, like into another realm. I always thought that that was for somebody higher up right and I'm actually like in in development That that trait I didn't even realize that I had. And then I can put two into get together like, Oh, I do see things without even realizing. So trusting the intuition and trusting what you're seeing, right, because that's another form of intuition, I would say is probably the biggest one. And then also healing. So energy healing, she introduced to me Reiki, and that was a whole other like, the healing aspect was massive for my growth.

Brandon Handley 30:31
And let's talk about that for a second. So what I do want to talk about that but but before we do that, when you say intuition,

Unknown Speaker 30:41
what do you mean?

Emmy Harr 30:46
The internal knowingness

Brandon Handley 30:51
I like that. Yeah, that's good. You know, listen, because I don't know. You know, when when somebody says intuition exactly what you mean by that. So the internal knowingness i think that that, that that's a great, that's a great way to say it. succinct, even. So thank you. And then energy healing, reiki, right. I talked about that. Once I've never experienced it myself. I've had the offers right to for people to do it for me. But I've never had the experience. So talk to me kind of what that experience has been like for you. And you know, how you felt afterwards?

Emmy Harr 31:30
Yeah, so Reiki is really, it's divine lead. You know, there's a lot I'm learning that there's a lot of misconception on this new age, energy. And the fact that it's almost like black magic and know everything if it's done correctly, it should be divine LED, so whether you call it source God, power universe, he she it, you know, it's always with love and light intention. As always, if you're going to a real, a real healer, it's going to be with love and light as the intention anywho. So Reiki is basically just a cleansing of our energy centers, also known as chakras along the body. And we know that everything in life is energy, like even this hard table that I'm sitting at is made up of energy, it's just matter. And so we have energy around us also known as the aura, and then we have energy zones within us the chakras. So Reiki is really just utilizing someone's intuition because we are the vessels for God's like love. And where where things feel out of alignment or imbalanced or whatever the the word you want to use. You just send love and light because really love heals all. And so she was she was showing me Reiki and she would do it on me and I always felt like a peacefulness, a calmness. I felt lighter. People in pictures during college, they were like, are you losing weight, you have a glow to you. I wasn't losing weight. I was just reading my old baggage that I didn't need to keep, right. Like, we're emotional hoarders. I didn't need to keep that on me anymore. I learned that lesson. And so yeah, it was just it was so inspiring that by the end of college, so my super senior, I did become level one certified and Reiki. So then that led to other realms of energy healing as well. But yeah, it's it's a powerful gift. I mean, really, we're just giving each other

Brandon Handley 33:37
how, yeah, right. That's great. I love the idea to write emotional hoarders. You really are. It's like, I mean, and for no reason other than I don't think that we know any better. Right? You can't you know, what's, what's so what's the line? I forget who it is do what you do until you know better? Right? You know? And you know, you just you do best until you know better and I think that we are emotional hoarders and I love that I was pissed just a minute ago and I want to share some more about that let's we're gonna last week I was saying you know, you just hold on to that forever right? instead just be like, just let that go That was a moment and and what's next what's behind that and what's what are we going forward into? So you know, I love the idea of spiritual dope, right? How like this is just like, that's your hit every day like you can get like this you can get like this weird you know, full body super high vibration through spirituality, right? That's the kind of the spiritual dope, right of spiritual dope. So what would you say like some of your spiritual dope is if you're just getting ahead of it? What is that?

Emmy Harr 34:52
Gosh, even there's a running joke with your essential nature because every we film every The other week, and every other week when we do meet up, it's just like we're hanging out. And like buds are just hanging out at the table. Just invigorating conversation. I can't even explain it. So my spiritual dope my hit, is the conversation where we get to go in depth. Aside from that, I do get a spiritual dope when I either give and or receive energy healing. Love it.

Brandon Handley 35:29
Agreed, right? The this right here, right? This kind of conversation, we just get the opportunity to share your story. You can exchange, you know, the these high energy ways of being with somebody else. And they get it, right like to like, Oh, yeah, yeah. And not only that, but like, and there's more. But wait, But wait, there's more. Right. But wait, there's more and like, Oh, wow. Or like, why did I didn't think about it that way? And you know, helping somebody changed, change their paradigm. Right. And I think that that's what you guys are able to do on your essential nature as well. Right. So how did you get looped into doing? That was a couple other gentlemen. Right, you know, doing the your essential nature podcast? How did you get involved with that?

Emmy Harr 36:19
Yeah, truly, it was kind of one of those surrender moments where I didn't even ask for it. It just presented itself. And it felt right. So I followed it. So Ben, Dr. Benjamin chambers, he was really the the director, if you will. So he had, he had been getting a lot of these downloads, which for him is from spirit, right? downloads of some type of podcast talking about things that aren't being talked about, or in a way that they're not being talked about, or something like that. I see Benji chambers podcast on that. But he he and I always had like a sarcastic sense of humor with one another. So I got looped in with him originally, because he hosts guided meditations on Tuesdays. And so I've been going to those for maybe six months at the time. And we we have a great sense of humor. Like we just kind of shoot the shit like, give each other crap. And we just jive really well with humor, humor, humor, IQ, chemistry. Anyways, so he had brought this up, and he was like, well, I really want to get a group together. I'm going to ask these guys, but I really like I think you should be a part of it. And I'm like, okay, like, I never said no, in my brain. I was just like, yeah, it's fun. I like hanging out with you. I like to get to know other people. And I'd like to take my hint of spirituality. So in my mind, I was like, already on board, but apparently wasn't conveyed. Because he kept like, kind of pursuing or like, tickling. Like, he would keep bringing it up, like, Oh, you should do this. Like every other week, he would just make a comment as if I wasn't fully convinced or something. So then finally, I was like, yeah, so when are we like, let's not talk about it. Let's be about it. When are we? When are we filming? He's like, oh, you're in? Like, yeah. So he kind of orchestrated it. He, he knew the mic. They had met a year ago, Dave they had met prior to and then he just kind of got this sense that it would be the four of us would have a really good chemistry.

Brandon Handley 38:25
And you guys do have you guys do have good chemistry. And that's funny, too, right? The when we doing this, right? We've been talking about this, but like when it's like just pull the pull the trigger. Right?

Emmy Harr 38:37
That's kind of our mo like, I'm very much the the Dewar and he's very much the seer, I guess. I don't know, see the visitor? I think we're both visionaries. But yeah, I just I've got more of an action base to me, if

Brandon Handley 38:57
you will. Sure. Sure. I mean, look, you just you you uproot yourself ran down to taxation, then like, you're like, Hey, I'm gonna make this decision. And I think that that's a big part of it, too. Once you kind of make the decision that sounds like you just move ahead with it. Right. And I look, I made the decision, but let's, I mean, what's next, right? Like, I mean, what else we need to talk about? Then let's just go do it. Right.

Emmy Harr 39:20
That's so important to me. And that's kind of where, you know, I do feel like my, sometimes I've, okay, oftentimes, I've felt like I have to in our worlds kind of always at war in a way I know all this language. It sounds like I'm so intense. I'm really anyways, but um, so I have this like really bold entrepreneur movement maker, right? I was 100% Commission. No, of course I have that fight of me. You know, this is like I can thrive anywhere. But then I also do have this this soft, emotional conversation. Let's not do timeframe. So that's more of like the spiritual realm, right? So I consider it the entrepreneur realm, which is more masculine. And then my spiritual side, my spiritual realm, which is typically more and more feminine. And one thing that I've noticed as I'm moving it, like stepping out of the entrepreneurial realm, to the, in the traditional sense, and stepping more towards the spiritual realm, is that for some reason, in the spiritual realm, decisions are scary. And for me, I've always really been a big proponent of make a decision and commit, figure out the details later. That's how Apple moves. That's how Amazon moves, like, just figure it out. But you have to commit.

Brandon Handley 40:42
Sure, sure. So, you know, that's another part about I love that you brought that up. That's another big part about spiritual dope, is this idea? Yeah, there's of the softness, there's no timeframe, the surrender, you know, side of spirituality, there. You know, if we look into nature, right? We still have rainstorms. We still have, you know, raging rivers, we still have things that are forceful, right? And dynamically, so and it's okay to take action and be the one to initiate it to be a part of it. Right. And to go with what you feel and say, I've gone Austin, I've gone to Kansas City, you know, I'm doing these things and, and like you said, I'm committing to this, and I'm just gonna do it. I don't know how I just know that I am. Right. And that is like, like your like your Shawn attention to it's it's something that there's a fear and trepidation, I think, in making a decision with many people in the spiritual realm. And I think that mainly because if they, and this is my self speaking, right, coming into this space, if you don't have like, this kind of this hunter mentality, if you don't have like this business mindset, right? You feel almost like, it's against your nature in order to say you're committed to it, right? almost like you're afraid that if somebody finds out about, you said, you were gonna do this, and it didn't happen, and how can you believe in you know, all the spirituality then? Right? Because it's like, they don't want to be found that well, that's okay. Right? to like, not have that thing happen. Right? I love the one. There's plenty of them out, though. And the exact lines but like, you know, I always say, if I gotten exactly what I wanted, like when I wanted it, when I was younger, or any that like I'd probably be dead. Right? So it was probably spirit looking out for me for not getting what I wanted in those situations, right? Like, well, you know, so there's that, but the idea of drawing a line in the sand, or even a target and a destination for a lot of these people spirituality, it's like, they feel like it's too connected to materialism. Right? Where in actuality, a vision is not too far off from having a goal, right? Plenty people can have a vision, My vision is my goal, right? Or all these other things where ambition is more tied, you know, for me, growing up, like ambition was always tied to, you know, material success, whereas ambition can also be tied to this great spiritual vision. Right? So connecting, you know, those two streams of thought has been a big part of spiritual dopler again, connecting with somebody like yourself who's leading with spirituality, ambition and and this commitment and decision making capability that you've got is still being spiritually LED and is blowing the doors and you know, everything like I said in the beginning here is opening up for you because you're doing it that way and you're connected with your spirituality.

Emmy Harr 44:02
Yeah, and I might even say two things about that to help kind of bridge that that gap that some people in the spiritual realm like fear is a I always figured you know, God, God can see the entire forest I can maybe see a tree. So like, if he is the one telling me and directing me Hey, you need to go to Austin or Hey, you need to do go to Casey or you need to do this podcast. Why wouldn't I want to trust that like, he's got this vantage point he's an eagle and I'm just a squirrel. You know what I mean? Like hell yeah, I'd rather trust somebody else than myself. And not not to separate the two right like cuz we are all God, we're all spirit but then also it comes into the fact of manifestation, meaning, well, and this is something that I learned with my spirituality is once my intuition or my inner child or My angels would tell me something, or show me something and I would act on them out of trust. And then they're more likely because then it's building their trust. You know what I mean? Like, it just feels like a mutual pendulum, if you will. Okay, so we know that she's hearing us, she's receiving the messages, and she makes this she makes option or takes action on them. So yeah, we're gonna keep feeding her. You know what I mean? says this, this manifestation of when, when you say you're going to do something and do it, then it's, it's convincing your brain or your spiritual army that yes, she deserves more, she gets more, you know. So that's helped me.

Brandon Handley 45:41
Now, I love that, thanks for sharing that. It's really funny. There was um, you had another guest on who who really said it really similar, different different storyline, the similar outcome, right? You say you're going to do it, and you do it. And the universe becomes kind of like this. You know? Emma says that she's going to do it, right. Emma says that she's going to emphasize it's just going to keep keep opening. All right, Yep. Yep, go ahead, open up the path open up the path just because otherwise, like, right, it's like, you know, why would I open up the door? If you say you're not gonna do it? Right? Why would I? Why would I clear the path if, hey, I'm gonna be there at five and you show you don't show up? Right? Well, I'm not gonna keep open up the path for you. Right? So. So real, real similar stuff there. Um, favorite like is did you have any outside of like, of course, I Bible on scripture, any books, movies, anything that just kind of blew your mind on spirituality?

Emmy Harr 46:44
Gosh, so many. I remember there's this one movie called Joshua, when I was little. It's an older movie, I think it was probably in the 90s. But that was just like, again, learning to trust in something bigger than ourselves. And then as far as spirituality, there's like books on chakras, like aura cleansing. So that really helped me. And then I would say, probably my most recent, which was just very profound. Because of timing in my life, I just finished reading the surrender experiment by Michael singer. And not so that that was just so crazy, because I was actually part of a virtual book club club, who with a corporate couple of older women who wanted to read that book, months ago. And I was like, Hey, I'm not in like, I'm already reading free books. Right now. I'm not in the capacity to read it. But can I at least still join for the conversations, right? So don't we've talked maybe once or twice about the book, because it was such a quick read for them. And it was just fun. It was like a spiritual dope, it was a hit. But we never really registered what what they were reading, like what the content of the book was, because it just didn't feel like the right timing for me. then fast forward about a month and a half or two, I think about two months. And I just got this inkling you need the surrender experiment. And fourth of July, I was with my buddy, Jeremy Snowden. And we were just doing some inner work spiritually. And I had the revelation of a retreat center, a vision of a retreat center. And I was like, no way. Like, that's, it was so not me that I was like, This is divine. And so that it was for. So it's just after that vision that I got this inkling that I need to read the surrender experiment. So Ben actually bought us a couple copies. And we started reading it and or just before the day before I started reading it, I mentioned to one of my co workers. And he was like, oh, that'll be great. It talks about him in building a retreat center from scratch. And I was like, You're lying. I was like, No, this is super big. And man, I could not put that book down. I'm a slow reader, especially when it comes to work, like this type of inner work. Sure. But I finished that book in like two or three days, and I just I could not put it down. I was like, as is so crazy.

Brandon Handley 49:19
Yeah, that's it's a great one too. I definitely enjoy it. You know, it just begins in that, you know, with the, you know, the whole idea of how limited are you and I write with with what we think we what we think we know with our limited, whatever experiences versus what the universe what Source Energy knows is capable of. And if we go with the idea of having a benevolent universe, if we go with the idea of having an army that's helping to make things happen for us, what happens if we let go the reins a little Bit what happens if we just say, you know, show me what you got? Right? And just kind of take it? And that's the Oh, yeah, agreed. I mean that that blew my mind when he kind of described that to me in that book, right. Trying to experiment. The chakras and or, or cleansing books. Would you have like one or two that are top of mind that you share out with others?

Emmy Harr 50:24
Yeah. Do you mind if I go grab it? Because the author here? Okay.

Unknown Speaker 50:30
The more

Emmy Harr 50:32
like, it's actually an inner like, almost might I say self Reiki in a way, but it's, it's called your aura. And your chakra is the owner manual by Carla McLaren. Okay, and so it should it. It kind of goes through or walks through the process of what each aura represents how to what do you want to visualize how to clean it, how to cleanse your aura, your chakras, and then grounding yourself. It kind of goes through techniques with that. So I love that as I was getting started. Nice,

Brandon Handley 51:03
nice. Perfect. Very cool. Well, thank you so much for coming on today. Where should Where should I send people to kind of come check out what you're up to?

Emmy Harr 51:14
Yeah, definitely. So your essential nature is on both Facebook and YouTube for platforms. It's probably going to expand but for right now we'll just stick with Facebook and YouTube.

Brandon Handley 51:26
Fantastic. And before you hop off, is there anything else that you feel like you should share today with with spiritual Oh

Unknown Speaker 51:34
gosh, do

Emmy Harr 51:35
we have an extra three hours?

Brandon Handley 51:38
Sure podcast for

Unknown Speaker 51:40
surely. Surely.

Brandon Handley 51:42
Yeah. So guys, if you want to check out more Have a look. So your says me up here and Emma in the emails? Which is it again?

Unknown Speaker 51:52
know, what emails are you looking at?

Brandon Handley 51:55
I don't know. I saw Ms. I saw ms somewhere. So I just want to make sure it's me. Right. I was like, Listen, so it's me. Me. Yeah, you guys want to go find so this is probably the third time it's happened to me on spiritual dope. It's like cuz, you know, and, and I was gonna ask this one. Anyways, so if you guys want to go find out more, what he's up to the podcast that she's talking about is so much fun, your essential nature. You know, the three, four of you guys all get on there, you have a good time you talk about some really cool topics you have what's cool is it's not, you know, just diverse in you know, racial or, you know, male and female dynamics, but also the age dynamic too. So, you know, there's just a lot I think that has gone on really great with what you guys have created. So thank you for what you have created, and what you're sharing out there with your group. appreciate what you're doing.

Emmy Harr 52:56
And likewise, thank you for having me.

Unknown Speaker 52:58
Thanks for listening to the spiritual in Thank you, me for being on the show. Does spiritual dough Be sure to follow us on Facebook and on our website does spiritual joe.com

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Shelley R. Shearer | Transmuting Pain into Miracles

Published: Nov. 15, 2020, 9:44 a.m.
Duration: 50 minutes 1 second

Longtime listener first time caller... that was me reaching out to Shelley... after years of running with some of the same crews, we finally connected on a podcast!

Shelley is full of great energy and wisdom... listen in you will not be disappointed!

With 27 years’ experience in the accounting industry from bookkeeping through purchasing to software integration and setup, Shelley’s Genesys Financial clients have included those of Graphic Arts, Manufacturing, IT, Automotive and the garment industries. 

Her focus later went to implementing and managing larger scale billing platforms and Project Management.  Her focus was on helping Entrepreneurs setup their Financial platforms and Business processes.  A financial professional with a marketing background Shelley is uniquely qualified and can see all sides of business from sales and marketing to purchasing to invoicing, always allowing her to think outside the box.   

In line with her varied interests her latest business, Living Well, has taken a passion for health and wellness to business by facilitating lifestyle changes for busy executives. As the health supplement portion of her business has gone International her love of traveling was often met through her business.    

https://livingwellwithshell.com/

Audio production done by Zane Niezgodzki

Insights & Takeaways:

  • Shelley talks about how she woke up with negative thoughts whirling thoughts “swirling the drain.” She knew this was not how she wanted to start the day, so Shelley says she went into her mind and “quieted my head and started going through what I wanted to see my day look like, how I wanted to give gratitude.” Shortly thereafter the whole feeling of hopelessness and negativity was gone.
  • 4:40 Brandon mentions “manifestation just means that it showed up because they put their thoughts, intention and will behind it in some way, shape or manner.”
  • 5:53 Shelley states “We’re just energetic beings having a physical experience, and power goes where we focus our energy. So, focus it somewhere positive that benefits you. Create some more high functioning you.”
  • 12:08 Shelley states emphatically “... recognize that we have emotional responses to those thought processes, and to the trauma that occurred to us or whatever as children… As adults, I truly believe and I’ve walked this journey for 20 years, we are responsible for healing it.”  {TK: WOW!!!}
  • Prayer can be meditation, meditation can just be going over what you’re grateful for (Gratitude Practice). Make this a habit. 

Spiritual Dope Eureka Moments!

  • 8:15 “So what I found in my early adulthood was I was always breaking out, but not in a positive way. Because I kept myself so contained all the time, that when I burst out, I usually got myself into trouble. And I needed to learn for myself how to live a more genuine, and aligned life...” [TK: YES! This is so relatable!]
  • 10:38 (This hit REALLY close to home.) Shelley talks about realizing as a parent, reflecting on her own parents’ parenting, that they “did the best with what they were given... and came with all their own baggage and all their own hurts and things.” [TK: Indeed. It took me until my mid-forties to stop judging my own upbringing by the light of perfection. My parents did the best with what they had. They weren’t intentionally “bad” or hurtful, they were doing what they felt was right. Different generations, different traumas and lifetimes, etc.]
  •  20:30 Shelley mentions Dr. Joe Dispenza’s teachings where he says the best way to create your future is to imagine it. But you have to live and imagine it already happening. [TK: This brings me back to Brandon’s coaching work with me, and the exercises where I would envision with all senses being in the ideal future!]
  • It’s all in your mind! (TK: IT IS!)
  • Quit apologizing to the world around you
  • https://livingwellwithshell.com/

Transcription by otter.ai

Unknown Speaker 0:02
You're listening to the spiritual dope podcast with your host, Brandon Handley. The spiritual dope with today's guest from living well with Shell Shelly shear, the spiritual worked out. Ready, set,

Brandon Handley 0:19
go. Hey there spiritual dope. Today I am on with Shelly shear she is a Vancouver based speaker, emerging author and coach. She spent 28 years as an accounting professional helping small to medium businesses navigate entrepreneurship while having a second side hustle. Her experience has crossed many industries from graphic design, manufacturing, automotive, spa, digital marketing, to hot dog vendors, it is give her a unique perspective into people and how they handle their businesses and themselves. She has a gift for finding logic, cool, logical, common sense solutions. She has a successful podcast that focuses on not living in regret and creating high functioning habits because she truly believes everyone is enough and should have an easier, more vibrant life. Thank you so much for joining today. How are you?

Shelley R Shearer 1:10
I am great. Thanks for having me. On if our listeners don't know, we've known each other for a couple of years very casually because we took our podcasting course together four and a half years ago. Yeah. And it's wonderful to see us both still here doing what we love to do.

Brandon Handley 1:22
Absolutely. I think that is really what I think is really funny was um, when you must have connected with me on instagram when I might, you know still under like Brandon Handley and I just switched that to spiritual dope. And then it like at some point like there was an aha moment where you realize that that that had happened like I was just praying in

Unknown Speaker 1:43
a second here.

Brandon Handley 1:46
So listen, how I like to start these off with his, you know, we were talking before this everybody's connected to source source. You know, divinity, whatever speaks through us. We're basically you know, vessels for the divine. And this podcast today, you are here to connect with somebody who's listening. What is that message for that person coming through divine through you for that person?

Shelley R Shearer 2:12
My message today would definitely be emotions follow thoughts.

Brandon Handley 2:17
What do you mean by that?

Shelley R Shearer 2:19
Most people I find found in my own life as well that we are taught that we think and emotions are separate or that because of the way we feel we think a certain way and actually, that is improving quite an accurate the last 20 years during research and such that that's not the case at all. In fact, we think a thought, then we have an emotion. And the reason that's really important, in fact, I was literally brand brand new puppy in the house. It was sitting it was uptime is like Oh, I got to exercise her before I get on this podcast. I was going to do my own podcast today. And I'll do it after. And that's what actually was in my head because this morning I woke up myself personally, just rabbiting just swirling the drain. Just my thoughts were whirling in my mind. They were negative, there was nothing positive going on. It's like I can't get up and do this day like this. And that thought came to me it actually was something that I learned was kind of vocalize it's something I've understood sort of in an innate level, but it was vocalized to me by someone Jan Jansen, I think mentioned it and of course, I was in a couple months back. And she said, emotions follow thoughts. And that's what most people don't accept, and also don't consciously train themselves to change how they think. And it's probably very much how I don't know how you pronounce his last name, Tom, Bill,

Unknown Speaker 3:34
you know, the name

Shelley R Shearer 3:35
all over his all over Instagram, he's got the thought Institute of some sort. And he very much hammers this home that you know, we need to control how we think. Yeah, so with that being said, You know, I was texting with the puppy for a quick little nap this morning. And I thought, This is not how I want to start my day. And so I immediately went into my mind quieted my head and started going through what I wanted to see my day look like, how I wanted to give gratitude. And my goodness, it took like a minute and then the rest was just bonus. It was like the whole feeling of hopelessness and negativity just left because where you focus is

Brandon Handley 4:16
in your life, right? Right. Right. And you know that you're directing your energy into that space right and you're literally that energy is what it takes for something to manifest whatever that means to people out there right because my wife and I always like I'll say something about manifesting something's like shit manifested this idea i think i don't think you know what I mean. Totally. Yeah. manifestation just means that it showed up because they put their thoughts intention and well behind it in some way shape or madly, right? So no, I love I love that right emotions follow thought we're gonna have to dig into that as we kind of see

Shelley R Shearer 4:52
if you can control things you're thinking of and Jim quick that does the, the book on the learning the one that had the brain injury, he talks about this as well, because he's trying to improve your memory. And there's just so much now neuroscience behind it in the fact of gene expression and how we function, how we feel how we think. Now it's the time in this day and age, especially with what's going on in the world around us to really open up and say, let's go research that a little bit. As you and I were chatting, just before we got on the on the actual podcast was, I grew up in a very, very religious home, very, very strict religious upbringing. believed and loved the certainty of the black and white of the knowledge at the time, especially as a teenager, and then you know, walked away later. And now I've come back to it because I believe in the law of attraction. So whether someone uses God or universe or Supreme, I don't care. Right, right. Right. Energy interchangeable. Totally. Because we're just energetic beings having a physical experience. Yeah. And power goes where we focus our energy. So focus it somewhere positive that benefits you create some more high functioning you Yeah, your

Brandon Handley 6:03
choice is a choice. There's a couple pieces in that. I mean, even today, I picked up some random article that scientists are saying, there's a 5050 shot that, um, we are in a construct, we are in, you know, a program, the matrix, like a lizard is a 5050 shot. So, you know, the same way there's a 5050 shot as to whether or not there's an afterlife, right, right. So why not kind of like, make those choices consciously on what you believe? Because you have a 5050 shot? Mm hmm. Right. So um, so let's talk a little bit about like, I love, I love your podcast, I think it's really well done. You handle the guests very well, you're so well spoken, and you bring this energy that you're bringing, you know, today, to your podcast, what you know, let's talk about kind of how you found yourself in the space that you're at now. And let's give it like the leading with spirituality that you do now, like I've heard you, like, kind of referenced the woowoo. But like, or intuition, you know, how have you integrated that into your life and found more or less fulfillment from it? Like, how's that? How's that showing up in your life?

Shelley R Shearer 7:16
Well, it's funny, cuz it's something you said earlier about how you've manifested it, No, honey, honestly, doesn't matter that you're finding all the coincidences I still manifested. Because those are the those are the tracks that lead you to where you're going. And you can call it coincidence, or you can own it, and I prefer to own it. And like I said, four and a half years ago, you and I took a podcasting course. Now, just just a little quick on that one. That was a very funny thing, how that happened. I went to a Make Your Mark event here in Canada, and signed up for speaking from stage because I wanted to find my voice. I've always just felt a little bit like I you know, grew up with the, you know, be seen and not heard one of female coming out of the 60s and 70s very autocratic father very religious upbringing. So lots of rules, lots of rigidity. And I'm clearly not that. So what I found in my early adulthood was I was always breaking out, but not in a positive way. Because I kept myself so contained all the time, that when I burst out, I usually got myself into trouble. And I needed to learn for myself how to live a more genuine and, and aligned life, and got very lucky in my 20s to attend a course called the pursuit of excellence, which talks about the filters to which we see the world and also talks about personality traits. So really, right from my 20s, very young, the universe kept putting the stuff in my path, awakening me awareness, opening my scope of reference, because really, like I say, I was raised in the box. Also, though, my dad was what was so funny is my dad's an entrepreneur. So there was reason a box and I was a female.

Brandon Handley 8:55
Um, you know, what I love about your story that too, is that your dad became a successful entrepreneur after the age of 40, right?

Unknown Speaker 9:02
Yes. Oh, you do listen to my podcast.

Shelley R Shearer 9:06
Clearly, oh, you're such a sweetheart. Yes, he did. And yet, when he looked at my life, he wanted it all to be planned out, you know,

Brandon Handley 9:15
as a parent, though, right? As a parent, and and him maybe not having found his stride, and this is me talking to right as a

Unknown Speaker 9:22
parent, and you, you are the parent,

Brandon Handley 9:24
right? It's like, it's like, you know, I did it in a very uncontrolled manner, how I got to where I am today is a miracle. But, um, knowing kind of what I know, it's like, you know, here's how you can truly succeed with ease. And that's what you try to impart to your children. And we know that children are like, that's not gonna work for me. I'm not to figure out my own way. You're like, fine. I know. And

Shelley R Shearer 9:46
that I think, as a parent, that has got to be the hardest thing. The absolute hardest thing. I know, I did, you know, I only have the one son, and he has been through some very serious challenges in his life. In fact, we've just kind of recently he doesn't want to Talking about this i'm not saying anything he's not okay with. We thought he had bipolar for a number of years and have been battling that only to find out he's on the spectrum actually. And it made so much more sense. It's just he was so high functioning as a child, they never caught it. Yeah. And it wasn't till I was, you know, he was going into kindergarten grade one and I was in an abusive relationship, and psychiatrists got brought in to assess the situation, and they will deal with ADD, and we carried on and then later in life when things were imploding, it's like something else is going on here.

Brandon Handley 10:27
So it's right there, the tools right there, right, the tools weren't there. The tools, you know, didn't really exist. Exactly then but but I'd love to hear that, you know, you're fine. You're catching it now. Right.

Shelley R Shearer 10:38
And I felt I did the best I could with what I had that something I think people need to give himself grace for more, I really had to learn to do that with my own parents and forgiveness. They did the best with the not with what they were given. Yeah, it came with all their own baggage and all their own hurts and, and things. Sure, um, then I became an adult and the parents I look back and going, I didn't do that perfectly. But perfection is a lie. It's not real. If this is just a journey, we've got to keep going on. So I handled it you know, in a manner as education again, so then we come back to the kind of again the with the high functioning, right, even when he was diagnosed, my attitude was you're not going on Ritalin, and we're not living on drugs. It was learn about what ad D or ADHD was at the time. And I behaved it with behavior modification was lis one thing at a time. Like he was the kid that melted at the front door. If you gave him three things to do. He'd be sitting there with the backpack, unpacked one shoe in his hand, and crying. It's like I asked you to put your shoes on grab your knapsack can walk out the door, like it

Unknown Speaker 11:35
wasn't that difficult. But this

Shelley R Shearer 11:37
is me being a very high functioning a tech personality seeing that child? No, it simply wasn't connecting. Yeah, all those things. Yeah. Yeah. So we got you know, we like you say the tools weren't there. But I was lucky enough again, to me kind of a few people got on to those you say the woowoo side of things. Yeah. To me. It's just the holistic, natural side of things. Anti drug? As much as possible. I have nothing against medical Oh my gosh. Yes, that dental surgery. Thank you God for painkillers and antibiotics,

Unknown Speaker 12:06
right, yeah.

Shelley R Shearer 12:08
But I don't want those corrections being part of everyone's everyday life now, simply because they don't understand how to control their thought process. And then recognize that we have emotional responses to those thought processes, and to the trauma that occurred to us, you know, we're not to blame for the trauma that was given done to us or whatever is children. But as adults, I truly believe and I've walked this journey for 20 years, we are responsible for healing it, address it. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 12:34
address it just for having children. I mean, look, just it's not. I don't know, I, it's hard to say like, it's, you know, you can never say like, I know, that I always refer to kind of grown up, it was pretty easy, right? There's some shit that happen. And but like, you just kind of look at it and be like, well, that's just really gave me the ability to withstand X, Y, or Z or gave me strength or, you know, that's, you know, or, or like, he'll it right, but like, let's just feel that address it wholly absorbed that that happened. and move on. Right. Like, let that be. The dragon the wind or whatever, right? Don't

Shelley R Shearer 13:13
let it define you. Right. Yeah, that makes me sad when I let people see such negativity or illness in their life. define them as a person. Right,

Brandon Handley 13:21
right. Well, I mean, you know, so talk about that for yourself. You're doing the fibromyalgia. Right, isn't that? Yes. I mean, you know, I and I, I imagined that initially, you did kind of let it define you and kind of slow you down.

Unknown Speaker 13:38
Ooh, solid years. Yeah. Talk

Brandon Handley 13:41
about that. That because that can't be easy.

Shelley R Shearer 13:44
I'm sure the property and one of the hardest things probably about things like fibro and mental illness are they are silent. Hmm. I'm like my puppy right now. Um, if this gets if she gets a little whiny, we can just stop and you can edit for me and I'll do something with her. But that happens people people get very caught up in it. And I did. I was like, how this can be happening to me. I was functioning as a personality. I was working it was built a new house. It's like, Are you kidding me? And leave me flat for two years until I learned to adjust, get my pain under control even tried to drug route for a little bit. And then the side effects were brutal. You know, there's just a lot of suicidal thoughts and things and my husband, I were like, We can't live this way. Alright, so it was a long journey. And I went again, right back into the holistic world of how do I support my body? How do I give myself and sometimes that just want to sit on the same silly napping. napping was a huge thing. I follow naps. But that ego of mine, yes. fought me tooth and nail and we're stronger than this. We're better than this. We don't need this. Yes, we do. That's the West.

Brandon Handley 14:52
That's the western day. That's the western mentality.

Shelley R Shearer 14:57
Absolutely. Yeah. So um, so a child of the 80s I was raised in that women can have it all nonsense have we have full time careers husbands that we wait still do the 1960s housewife thing through, and three children and don't have House Cleaners?

Brandon Handley 15:11
You guys got back, man. I mean, even kidding me, I still I still I'm still very frustrated. Like, and like, you know, I believe women can do whatever they want be wherever they want, but to make a society where like, you know, you can't have at least one parent at home, to be with the family or something to make to make that success in the material realm. You know, based on sex, right, be like, Oh, you can do it, I can do it. And we're all gonna go do it like, Well, you know, who's, where's this other human aspect where, like, you know, that's cool. You go ahead, I don't even like going to work. So you know, somebody wants to show up and be like, you know what, I got this, you just stay home take care of children, um, like I'm in. Right. So I get frustrated from time to time just because that's, you know, we're, I feel like it was, you know, I'm not a I'm not a you know, conspiracy guy or anything like that. Like, I do feel like, you know, that was that was forced on forced on us.

Shelley R Shearer 16:12
Okay, you're talking to Adam, because you know, he doesn't he have a brilliant way of describing. So let me explain to me how explain surely how women completely got. How did you subserve his word for it? Where Yes, you had this great life where you were looking after the next generation, creating human beings being there having this whole emotional support for your family. And society walked in and said, Oh, but you don't really want that, right? You want to go to work for 10 hours, like your husband does, and then still come home and do that all in two hours a night? Are you kidding me? And now requires two incomes to have a home,

Brandon Handley 16:45
but it wasn't and it wasn't there. That was your idea you want you forced it? Right. Like I mean, you know, so. So really interesting. Sorry to get off topic.

Shelley R Shearer 16:53
No, that's okay. I want to vote not to like be a slave.

Brandon Handley 16:56
Right, right. Right. Right. Right. just crazy stuff. Crazy stuff. It is.

Shelley R Shearer 17:02
So you, you'd asked me about my fibro. So yeah, it was a long journey for a couple of years ago when we changed houses. And it gave us options because my income was right out the door. And I had an accounting professional income. So needless to say, that was missed. And there was nothing in the Canadian system, even what we call CPP up here, for this particular disease, there was no sort of long term disability or anything. And I was funny, you know what, as a single Mum, I carried all those extras, insurances for years. But when I got married, after a couple years, I let them go is like in our truck. Ryan was raised, we can both afford to pay the mortgage, we had life insurance in case something happened to either one of us, and I let all that extra stuff going. Hmm, not sure what it helped. But you kind of look back in hindsight, in really so that's actually was one of the things that started me finding my voice was when I started moving myself forward, it immediately was how do I help other people do the same thing? Right? How do I encourage them to not be defined by a disease, and for me a big part of it, it was on another friend's podcast a couple months back. And we talked very in depth in this because she deals with women or audiences, middle aged women. And she'd asked, you know, as a silent disease, no one can see it, what do you do you find support. And I believe that in any area of your life, though, find the support around you. And the sad part is, I hate to say it, it's not always family. It wasn't for me, and people really just always want it to be, they decide, I might need this, or I want this, but it has to be this person. And that is a tough limiting belief to let go for a lot of people because often that isn't who's going to be your biggest support.

Brandon Handley 18:37
I think that families too close, right to too close to the situation. And, you know, they know you from you know, they they know too much about you. Mistake you've ever made. Right. Right. And so they play out like the the history of you. Right versus

Shelley R Shearer 18:53
well, sad.

Brandon Handley 18:54
Right? So and that and that's it. That's not an easy transition mental model to shift. Right? So, you know, when you go to Thanksgiving dinner or whatever, you guys just happy Thanksgiving on Monday, right? You know, when you go to that dinner, you're surrounded by family and they talk about all the old you and all the old stories and and all this other stuff. Whereas like your focus is, the future is so amazing. And I'm so excited. Let's talk about what's the calm? Yes. Like I'm giving you we talked about, you know, law of attraction with a lot of people. You know, I don't know that many people actually in the space but giving thanks for you know, everything has already been done. Everything's already been created. It's just simply our awareness of that creation. So giving thanks for everything that's already been done. includes the future. Yes, it does.

Shelley R Shearer 19:49
Right. Because that is something that Joe dispenza talks about. And he Now speaking of being left a center for me. He has taken me into a whole nother realm of my Christian beliefs, like Where do we go with this? He just has a spectacular way of looking at things he says the best way to create your future is to is to imagine it. But you have to live in imagine it already have happening. That's right. Now something that kind of that he says that I really have taken to heart and I was talking to a girl from the other day, and she was going through a rough time. And I said, You know what, we have to remember that our memories, when we're remembering something, we're still living them in the now. Because our souls or spirits don't differentiate necessarily to timelines. I look in the mirror and I see the wrinkles, and I see my hair graying. And I know time is passing, because my body is aging. Hmm. But my aunt told me once when I was very young, surely what you'll understand, I was just like, barely even 30. And she said, You will know when you get older, your spirit has an age just you do. It's all right. In my mind's eye, I'm still the same person. You know,

Brandon Handley 20:52
it's so funny, you say that? I always, you know, so I was doing Jiu Jitsu for a while until COVID. And go in there and hang out with people. And you guys are being guys talking about? I'd be getting in there with a younger guy, like, come on old guy, or you're, you know, you're just getting old or I was like, I'm not getting all my body's getting old. Right leg? You know, I'm like, as you know, nothing has changed. Right? Now, there's

Shelley R Shearer 21:15
my wisdom. Yeah, and whatever, which is fantastic. Right? Oh, you've had this all blessing us at

Brandon Handley 21:23

  1. That's funny, because I remember you saying that earlier to, just to how, you know, you wouldn't exchange the wisdom right now for youth. But there's always that other line too, that people are always cracking, which is on this makes me think of your dad, too, is, you know, what would you do? What would you tell your 20 year old self, you know, and and really what they're saying is like, especially now I think even at our age, and when your dad was 40 is like, when you realize all the wisdom that you have, like, I'm just gonna go ahead and use this for the next 2015 1520 years. Right. So yeah, you know,

Shelley R Shearer 21:58
that's a very good point about having grace. Because my dad has a great education was raised and born in Saskatchewan, one of nine, and he's one of the youngest of that crew. Very, very brutal, straight out of second generation British parents, very different upbringing. So now he married a city girl with an education and a working father, that worked professionally. So my parents are actually kind of funny that way, but well suited to each other's strengths. So I could see him as a father and later in life saying, Oh, no, please don't let my children go through what I went through, like, go get an education, right? Get a career. And he always wanted me to get something good. I could go somewhere that he could travel to meet me. He's like, I need you to go work in Australia or something, Shelly honey,

Unknown Speaker 22:41
so I can run?

Shelley R Shearer 22:43
Okay, that'll get right on that. So let's just go for physical therapy and got nowhere with it. But regardless, I could see you have very valid point as a parent, right? Don't do it, you know, don't do what I did don't make my mistakes. Right? Well,

Brandon Handley 22:56
that's what we try to do. All we're trying to do is like, man, here's my list. And just like, don't do any of this, right? Or, you know, and this is this is, this is why I feel like I'm very lucky to be a parent in this time and age, right, I started fatherhood for the rest of us, that was the first podcast. And that was, you know, learning the positive opposites. Right? You don't, right? And this plays right into law of attraction is play, right? And everything else, right? You don't think about what you don't want your children to? Do? You tell them what you want them to do? Exactly. Because otherwise, you're already creating the image in their mind of what you don't want them to do. And as you and I know, the subconscious doesn't see yes or no, they just see the picture

Shelley R Shearer 23:34
exactly right or wrong. Even if it doesn't differentiate, it just sees the picture that you're playing, just like having the comment about the memories, every time. I mean, remember things, it's fun, but recognize that you need to like, let it go and go back to where it belongs. Because otherwise, you're living your current existence in that memory. And if that memory and those experiences are negative, or bad, you are bringing them into your current circumstances, like this morning, every single day of your life. No wonder there is no positive emotion going forward. Because your thoughts are all in the past and all the negativity. Absolutely. I

Brandon Handley 24:11
mean, look, it's in the word right and negative being like a re cursor, right? Like we did that. Um, so what one thing that you talked about this morning, too, was, you know, waking up and catching and creating a vision for the day?

Shelley R Shearer 24:27
Yes, very much.

Brandon Handley 24:29
Is that a daily practice?

Unknown Speaker 24:31
Yes, very much. So.

Brandon Handley 24:32
What's that, like, you know, for the audience.

Shelley R Shearer 24:37
No matter what I have positive or negative to say about my upbringing, prayer was instigated in my life. And that makes meditation for me quite easy. And because I never had grew up in the Catholic religion where I had to worry about talking to a priest. It was always a direct contact, contact or conversation sorry with source. Meditation for me is really that now which is why I talk about in my little ebook I don't care if you're lying in bed in the morning, or it's just before you're going to sleep at night, let your mind wander and just go over the positives or go over what you want to see happen. show gratitude for whatever's in your life, what's going on in that day. Because that now is in the subconscious, like you say, the subconscious isn't there to differentiate between all of this is just waiting for you to give it you know, to activate. And so activate on the positive activate on what you're grateful for. So yes, that is very, very much a daily thing for me. In fact, I even got into the habit of doing a sitting here, a gratitude journal, and someone knows, and of course, one day and you just buy them. And that for people, it's like people who go on diets, I always say get an app on your phone and write down everything for a week, though. Because your awareness you need to see because they're like, cheating. I don't eat sugar. Mm hmm. Yeah, it's every thing.

Brandon Handley 25:53
Whatever you track, right? Whatever you track, you pay, you can measure. Yeah, you can measure as well.

Shelley R Shearer 25:58
So my gratitude journal was that's became a habit at nighttime, just even if it was just three lines. It's like, I'm tired. I don't wanna do this right now. I made myself do it. It was a habit to do it that way. 80% of the time, it was getting done.

Brandon Handley 26:11
Yeah, no, I mean, you're lucky and you can't beat yourself up if you don't do it. Right. Like it's these are. And I think that that's one of the problems. Not a problem. It's just one of our, again, another Western civilization Quirk. Right. Which is, which is Oh, I missed the day. I guess I'm never gonna do it again. Oh, right. It's all or nothing.

Shelley R Shearer 26:32
Oh, I hear coaches talk about that all the time. Fitness coaches, anything is like, no, get back up on the horse The next day, please. That's why I say to people what I used to coach health stuff because I was in a network marketing company for a couple years. It was just kind of fun. And it really spoke to my need just to be healthier. Because I've always been a bit of a nutcase. Like always a bit of a health nut, what you do 80% of the time is a good habit. Hmm. Not the one day a week or the every now and then, where you just blow it all to smithereens. And you haven't gone to the gym in a week or when on vacation and drank every day. Okay, great. You did that writing on, right act to your routine. Oh, and if you can get those habits in place, and they are there 8% of the time, you will slip back to them because it's your norm.

Brandon Handley 27:15
Right. Well, I mean, that was one of the things that we learned with this podcasting course was, you know, your default pattern, right? I know that that was one of the places I first picked up on how your default patterns was through, you know, Sam,

Shelley R Shearer 27:30
right and consistency, Sam, just, you know, what, what is he? What does Sam always say? My favorite expression is Sam. Repetition reduces resistance. Yeah, I

Brandon Handley 27:39
haven't listened for a while. But um, you know, I still love them like it without without going through that I wouldn't, I wouldn't be where I am today. And so let's talk about what is it you're doing right now? Are you doing the coaching? Are you? Yes.

Shelley R Shearer 27:51
So just getting you just very small. It's just a very, it's new. It's new to me for now. I started coaching back in January, took on my first clients, okay, and it didn't actually want to do it. At first, my coach was making me I just want to public speak, I love to talk.

Brandon Handley 28:06
Clearly, you do their job, but you're very well spoken. So thanks, sweetie. Putting it to good use.

Shelley R Shearer 28:12
And I wanted to write a book. But it was like you still have to earn a living. And also there's always there's always the attitude with coaching is that you can't keep all that knowledge to yourself, if you're not, and I'm definitely so I talk about things in my podcasts, something called the sacred gifts. And it was a course I took a number of years ago and that lady is now a personal friend of mine, even though I quote and I called her, Monique ladette MacDonald, Monique, l e da Tila that you can find her anywhere sacred gifts, okay. And she talks about the things that are innately in us, like right out of the gate is one of those neat courses where you take and you realize, Oh, that's not me. That's a skill set. Like administration. I worked in an office for 30 years. All right, not my gift. Okay, I just learned to get good at it. So you can still have great skill sets and everything. But I have the gift of what they call service, and hospitality and knowledge. Those are my three main gifts. So I have to learn stuff. But then I also have to share it with you because what makes it a gift is that you share it with the world. So although I love music, I don't have a gift of music, things like that. It's something I definitely never share with the world.

Unknown Speaker 29:19
It's just not pleasant.

Shelley R Shearer 29:20
But the gift of service was and what I realized early on in my accounting career was that gift was always in play with the smaller clients I was servicing. I was helping you was hospitality was even involved in my knowledge was needed. Right? When I got to be later in life when I was at companies like Bell Canada, one of those big telco companies here in Canada. those gifts were not engaged in I load my accounting work. I thought what happened? It's the same job. So I'm making more money and I've got people reporting to me and I hated it hated every minute of it. So gifts are really important. So the gift of services there regardless and it's innate in me. Therefore, if I know knowledge, I have to be able to share it and coaching is the best way to do that.

Brandon Handley 30:00
Yeah, I love it. I love. I love coaching, I love sharing out that knowledge I love. I love seeing somebody go through the journey, right? I love, I love seeing them come into it too, you know, and just being able to recognize it like just on a visual cue or even like through some phrases, if somebody's like, typing in like Facebook or somewhere and you're like, I know exactly where you are, I know exactly what's going on in your mind. And we should talk, you know, and you know, and that's it's not a, it's not a sign of transaction I'm looking for, right? It's like, Look, this is I can help you if you'd like, kind of thing, right? Or like, so so I get that. And I've seen it, I've seen it called, here's another one of my little rants. But I've seen it called, you know, generational knowledge, right? We need to, we need to pass that generational knowledge. Yes. Right. So I feel almost, and I'm sure there's not intentional in any way, shape or form. But if you look at Western civilization again, especially in the US and Canada, the generations have been divided very much almost purposely, right? Like almost, you know, so, you know, when you get too old, they're like, well, we got to ship you off. We can't take care of you anymore. But like who, where's where's, where are the elders, and in that situation, right to pass,

Shelley R Shearer 31:22
which is a completely score, fundamental belief system, in every Aboriginal or ancient civilization in history. Right. The elders are the holders of the knowledge. We've got to the point that as soon as our kids hit nine, we've got them labeled as Tweenies, or millennials, there's, so they've got this lovely little label, and then they start buying into that indoctrinated propaganda. It's like, No, no, no, stop right now, please. Because all you are right now is just young, you might be growing up in different technology than us. Fair enough. But I think one of our biggest advantages, and just why cannot stand people to say things Oh, I can't be bothered that things will never change.

Unknown Speaker 32:00
Really?

Shelley R Shearer 32:03
Because I'm pretty sure 200 years ago, you would dive in infection because penicillin wasn't invented yet. So that's sort of, you know, willful ignorance. Crazy. Yes, for sure. Do not put our children into a box and then do not ship off for elderly. Right? There is a humongous disconnect here in our society in this in this area.

Brandon Handley 32:20
Right. Yeah. So you see to salutely All right, all right. So you know, this, this kind of innate ability, the, you know, connected to source, kind of reconnecting back to source like, kind of after pushing it aside, or, or just not recognizing it for what it was for a while how, you know, how did that show back up in your life? And what's it been like, since then?

Shelley R Shearer 32:48
I'd have to see it showed back up when I got a handle on accepting that this wasn't a punishment, because that's how I felt I felt God punished me with fibro. Hmm, I get you know, and it's funny, because I wasn't raised necessarily with some of the Catholic belief systems that you know, that things happen because you've been naughty, or that you need to do good things to earn your way into heaven. And like I say, remember, I'm married to a Catholic, and a very good friend. So some of this stuff is not I may know, I've talked to these people, I know how some of the religious doctrine works. And I've never, I've always believed in grace, because being in the Pentecostal church are simply saved, you know, you accept Jesus Christ as your Savior, and the sins are forgiven. And when you're raised with that sort of belief structure, it often makes me surprised how many people hang on to so much guilt and shame, because it's like, well, if you truly believe that you can change as a person and that there was grace and there is forgiveness from a higher source. And Shouldn't you be living in that in that grace? And that, that good stuff,

Unknown Speaker 33:54
right? Why wouldn't you be?

Shelley R Shearer 33:56
Exactly So for me, when I came to the realization that this was not a punishment, and when I also started coaching with my own coach to say, this is a journey, and there's lessons here I need to learn one of the things in you, you and I have Adam in common. One of the his strong belief structures is

Unknown Speaker 34:16
so you're able to edit this

Unknown Speaker 34:17
will be good people have dogs,

Unknown Speaker 34:21
because

Unknown Speaker 34:22
you can always get up and walk away for a second and I can monitor if you're, it's okay.

Unknown Speaker 34:28
All she's doing, she can't

Unknown Speaker 34:29
see.

Shelley R Shearer 34:31
So one of the things that he really hammered home for me in our coaching sessions were that life happens for me, not to me,

Brandon Handley 34:37
that's a great trend. And

Shelley R Shearer 34:38
when you can get your head around that as an individual, it changes everything. It changes how you look at every situation. And in fact, although maybe not 100%, you know, across the board relatable, it saved my marriage even when I was struggling a year or two ago because instead of looking at the lame, like, what are you doing? And how I'm feeling about it? Sure. Again, back to the emotions follow thoughts. Of course, I'm going to think negative or feel negatives, when all I'm thinking is he's this he's that he's, what other response is your body going to have? Or your subconscious going to accept? Negative? Yeah. So when you can take responsibility for yourself, which is what really started this journey, and then believe that life is for me, well, if it's for me, then that means everything is for me. So what do I need to take out of this situation? Well, I wouldn't have a podcast, I wouldn't be coaching, which I love. Excuse me, I wouldn't have been able to even help my son through so much of what he's gone through the last few years, because I was literally just two steps ahead of him going through my own stuff. I wouldn't have been able to repair some of the relationship with my parents. And now that you know, there are failures, you know, they've got dimension, my mother has been diagnosed as well. So she doesn't remember speaking me sometimes the day before, which is very sad. But it made me look at all of that very, very differently. What was the lesson here for me?

Brandon Handley 36:11
The idea of taking 100% ownership for your life. You know, I understood the concept, and I went and I saw cheese. Who's the Chicken Soup for the Soul guy? Okay, so I went saw him. He really great. Yeah, really great presenter, right. But he said, You know, he goes, just try it for a little bit, just try to take 100% ownership, because because if you take you know, 100% ownership for everything, everything, including like everything, everything included yet, then you know everything, it's on you, right, you've got that responsibility. But if you just take responsibility for 99% of it, that's, that's not gonna work. Right? So you've just so much is 1% can throw it off for you. And it's kinda like you said to, you know, they say this, and I think the data, you know, either all of it, or none of it is God. And just like Albert Einstein says, to either everything or nothing is a miracle. Right? Like miracles. So I love that mindset, right, and making that shift that the world is out there for you. I don't know if you're familiar with a book that I love is called, are you ready to succeed? Um, I've

Shelley R Shearer 37:29
read that one.

Brandon Handley 37:30
So make a note of that one. Oh, good. I mean, I'm on my, I'll probably read it for my fourth time this year, because, you know, I'll read like a chapter a week, and you do the exercises in it, and you go through it. And in that book, he just talks about how you know, of Indian descent.

Unknown Speaker 37:46
How

Brandon Handley 37:48
the benevolent universe has Montana, right? It's a benevolent universe. And if you can find, you know, what good the universe is kind of doing for you on your behalf today, then, that's a game changer. It is. And also to your relationship example, right? I view my relationship as a gift and opportunity for me to recognize what my triggers are. Right? If

Unknown Speaker 38:16
that's a good one. Yes. Right. Your

Brandon Handley 38:18
triggers are what are my triggers? Right? Because if I'm, if I'm, you know, it goes to that, that little letter writing exercise I'm sure you're familiar with, like, if I write you a letter, if I write a letter to someone that's pissing me off, and blah, blah, blah, and all these things that are annoying me about them? That's a reflection on myself. Right? Yes. Well, so the reverse is true, though, too. So if I write a letter of like, all the admirable traits, you know, those are the things I admire about myself, right? So I'll catch myself in the relationship situation be like, Oh, my gosh, she doesn't do those who didn't do that? I'm like, neither did I. Right. Right. So so I just look at it as kind of like an opportunity for me to recognize what my triggers are. And that was a lesson for me, because and again, too, if we don't address those triggers are the things that are always blown up in our face, they will always be there.

Shelley R Shearer 39:09
Yes. And they will always control you. So you will always be doing the neat what we like, like I like to call the knee jerk reaction versus the planned response. Where would you rather live that planned response or a knee jerk situation where your subconscious is controlling? I always love that analogy with the iceberg. And there's the waterline, and here's what everyone sees what we think is our reality, right? And then this is our subconscious, huge compared to up here.

Brandon Handley 39:37
Right? Right. So I mean, the video may not go out so I'm gonna just explain so you know, she, she just drew like, kind of a triangle and it's literally only like, in 5% maybe on the top and 95% on the bottom, which, you know, I always we can accord to your conscious and your subconscious. Yes, absolutely. Absolutely. So, um,

Unknown Speaker 39:58
you know, the

Brandon Handley 39:59
idea Spiritual dope is kind of like, we can get these spiritual, right we can get like these spiritual highs, right? Like it just like like, Oh man, I just feel like so filled with source and just filled with life. What where does that come for you like what are some of your spiritual highs? What are some of your spiritual dopes?

Shelley R Shearer 40:21
Definitely family and when I say that I'm married into an amazing family, and I have my granddaughter as well. And you know, it's funny, you should just mention that. For some reason, it just popped into my mind growing up with the Bible, and the fact that you were two or more gathered together, the Bible says there will be also wood, you know what, that is actually a universal truth. And we see it every day and mob mentality, we thinking how does all those people get crazy and will because they became a group and the energy became a force of nature, the negativity that a few people were feeling, they surrounded themselves with it. So I remember my parents telling me growing up, he was very important to go to church on Sunday for that food. And I'm thinking as I got older, like, whatever. But actually, that is very true in our lives. It doesn't necessarily have to be church for you find the friends, I found my tribe, and especially my neighborhood. So when I got sick, and we were able to move up the street into a house that had rental suite, so we didn't have to downsize was a gift, just a gift from God. And because these people, these ladies, especially in this neighborhood, and even the men, they're our friends, they're our support network. And where we are gathered together, there is positive energy. And there is thought and there is solutions talked about and not just gossip that we're looking for. You need to make a decision and actively go search for that in your life. Now, if it's going to church on Sundays, great, just don't get involved in a lot of negativities everyone's going to hell but you nonsense, because that's really roughly not going to give you what you need. There are still reasons why people gather, right? Why there are powers in numbers because exponentially our energetic beings of ourselves or a field grow and feed off each other. That's why kids and gangs run around doing bad things. And it gets worse. And the opposite is true. For sure.

Brandon Handley 42:16
I just finished reading on force versus power by Dr. David Hawkins. And he talks a little bit about this too. Like I mean, this is a you read about you read about people to spend time with Yogi's, right and how they're all just kind of sitting there and meditation and then all of a sudden, like they get that whatever happens right? They get that head of spiritual dope and like what, but he calls it it's a vibrational entrainment. So like, if you guys are all hanging out vibrating at a certain level, then you guys are also increasing each other's vibration.

Shelley R Shearer 42:48
Exactly. or something. I actively search for that in my life. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 42:53
yeah, no, absolutely. But I mean, that's what they tell you to go find people that are beyond where you are today, right? go seek those people out. And for the people that are listening that like the woowoo stuff, that's one of the reasons why is because you are in an entrainment field then. Right,

Shelley R Shearer 43:11
exactly.

Brandon Handley 43:12
How much fun is that? Like, I mean, it may make us right makes me and that's and i think that i think that you know, again, this podcast is also geared towards like taking all this spiritual energy and applying it to a successful kind of business and place What would you say, you know, how have you taken like your spiritual energy and infused that to a more holistic business practice? I would say

Shelley R Shearer 43:41
I don't think I will actually the simple answer that is I don't think I could coach without it if I hadn't made that choice and that change wouldn't be coaching okay. I just wouldn't be I was my old self is too logical to right or wrong to not self yes an ego but I was very independent and bit bit of a loner, and I still am to a certain extent I'm what they call an extroverted introvert. I need a lot of downtime to recover. And being I guess, being a bit of Pathak, I guess they call it people's emotions affect me. And I really had to learn to protect myself while still giving back. So if I hadn't come to some of those realizations, yeah, I would still just be doing accounting work and worrying about debits and credits, not about people's well being.

Brandon Handley 44:27
Tell me tell me a tool or visualization or something you use to protect your energies. And I asked this because I don't have that problem. Like I like I am. I'm not an MP, right. Like I like, I like people and I feel your emotions and we're all cool, but like it doesn't. I don't feel it. Right. So but I do know people that experienced the same thing. So what do you do to protect your energy?

Unknown Speaker 44:58
Yeah. Oh,

Shelley R Shearer 44:59
that's an interesting one. I have to be careful what I read and watch on TV for starters. Okay, very much so because it affects me, it affects my sleep and affects my thought patterns. I do take a lot of quiet downtime. And in fact, we'll be going back, you know, we don't wait up to our family's home in penticton, which the Okanagan Valley here in BC, fruit wine country for us, that's lovely. And we have a little house that I lived in as a child and has always stayed in the family. And I'm going to head back up there for a few weeks. Next month on my own, I want to do the outline for the book, because I just need to be out of the energetic field of sometimes all the chaos that's even going on in my own home. Just people I've had students that live with us and get it done. And I do you need to just decompress a lot, watching what goes in my brain, I take it all on. And what I didn't realize is when I was younger, one of the things about being my personality trait was amplified in this aspect, not realizing I had empathic abilities, in the fact that I just shut myself down, I built a really strong wall around myself, and didn't let me out very often. Because they didn't know how to protect that it was just I might as well have just, you know, stuck my heart out of my chest, lay there and let you poke needles at it. And it's like, that's just a bizarre visual. But that's almost like what felt like to me. So now I work very hard at not over scheduling my days. And not being with people day in and day out. I cannot do that very hard to my husband who's a true extrovert. But for me, people drain me they don't charge me He is a full on. We've done this, this and this now let's go to the after party because I'm gonna get you set up. I'm like, Oh my gosh, let

Brandon Handley 46:37
me go home to my bathtub. Definitely, definitely more the after party kind of guy. That's okay. So

Shelley R Shearer 46:44
you're the after party and kind of guy or not.

Brandon Handley 46:45
I am okay. At least I was right. Like, I mean, it's been, you know, my whole journey has been, you know, just kind of letting go some of the things that didn't serve me like so now I'll shut down and be like, you know, if I'm in a fun man and party atmosphere, I'm like, nothing here for me go have fun. I'll see you guys later. Right? Like, because I'd rather go watch Autobiography of a yoga

Shelley R Shearer 47:10
Yogi. Okay, you know what I mean? But that's the big thing is recognizing it about yourself. So many people remove themselves from the situation without understanding why they're doing it. The understanding of the motivation is

Brandon Handley 47:21
so important. I think that, you know, we could probably wrap it with with something like that, where you started off with that, right, recognizing where your emotion was coming from, which was being driven by a thought. And then not just recognizing that being able to transform that energy, right? It's an immediate, it's kind of like the old old school railroad tracks right here it comes to train the trains already gone. The beautiful thing about the train that we run and operate in our mind is that we can switch those tracks at any time.

Shelley R Shearer 47:53
Yes, exactly. So I've always loved the expression, like you say, to end this here, I've always loved the expression, it's all in your mind. Because it is a full believer on that I believe in the placebo effect, I believe that we have the ability to change based on how we think about things. So really understanding what you need as an individual and taking that time, and not allowing people that don't understand how paths work draining me all the time. That has been a godsend for me. And the big thing too, is that you cannot apologize for it, then quit apologizing to the world around you. That doesn't understand. Like I say I'm married to an extrovert, full on and because I'm social social story, people always thought we were the same. But I need very, very different recovery tools than he does. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 48:41
was important to recognize. So thank you. That's definitely some nice tools. I think for people that experienced that. Me on like a lead ball, like I don't even know. Right. So and it's that's okay, too. So what, where can we send people to hang out with you? I mean, it's been a ton of fun. I will keep going. But I have absolutely no,

Shelley R Shearer 49:00
I know we do. And we're gonna we'll do this again soon, I promise. And I'd love to have you as guest on my show as well, because I my listeners would just I have a very large male demographic of all i don't know why but I do. And so they would just love they love it. When I do interviews. You can reach me anywhere at living well with shell that is the name of the Instagram page, the Facebook page, my email living well with Shell at gmail, the generic one. Anything living well with Shell, you will find me on social media.

Brandon Handley 49:24
Awesome. So thank you so much for coming on today. I really enjoyed it. Thank

Shelley R Shearer 49:27
you for having me. It's been wonderful. We'll see you soon. Absolutely. Excellent.

Unknown Speaker 49:32
Thanks for listening to the spiritual Dell. And thank you, Shelley, for being on the show. Spiritual dub. Be sure to follow us on Facebook and on our website does spiritual dope.com

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ARE YOU READY TO SUCCEED | CHAPTER 02 | DEEP DIVE 2 OF 2

Published: Nov. 11, 2020, 11:56 a.m.
Duration: 12 minutes 39 seconds

The book we are going through:

https://youtu.be/oNC78IFpeFw

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Brandon Handley 0:00
Hey, spiritual zope Welcome back to chapter two of a real of chapter two of Are you ready to succeed in a real, where we're picking up from where we left off, we just got done learning, we just got done learning that your life is a reality. And we got done learning that it your problem may be that you think that this is the reality. And again, we kind of we wind unwind some of these mental models that we've created for ourselves, and the idea that we, we create all these things that are simply not real, right? These are just perceptions based off of what we think we know, and then driving it forward. So he comes in here as srikumar Rao says, Hey, you know, then Escape is possible. All right, Escape is possible. And he says, if your life is a reality, then perhaps you could shift it. And that's awesome, right? So just knowing that there are multiple options, I mean, think about family guy and the multiverse, right? Maybe you can shift it or you know, think about any time travel, movie, even Back to the Future, we go go into a reality that is created based off of an action that was taken once upon a time, where it's shifted the future, because you chose a reality. I mean, when you, we put it this way to, when you make your next move, when you take your next action, you have an outcome in mind. That's, that's the, that's the reason why you take action on it. And sometimes, that action that you take, gives you the outcome that you were looking for, sometimes it doesn't, right, so that you have multiple realities going forward. And the idea is, you can possibly shift it, right. So now the deal is, again, if it is the reality, then the life that you have now is the life that you will always have. And it's going to turn out, you know, in a specific, three determined and destined way, right? There's nothing you can do about it, suffer, just live it. And he illustrates this with a nice story. And again, I don't feel like it's a it's really my place for to really go over the stories. So much, because I've given so much of the book away, that really drive these points home, I just really feel like, again, he does a really good job of pulling some of these stories together. So that he can help to illustrate these points that he's created here. And again, I'll go with the whole idea of you, you choose your reality, you know, you have the ability to choose a reality going forward. And it's not necessarily the reality, how many times have you, you know, just kind of felt and thought some way, in any scenario, gone through life, you know, stomping your feet, you know, five years goes by next thing, you know, you have a conversation with a friend or the person or thing where you're like, man, I thought that like, you know, when you did this thing, you know, you were such a jerk, or we did this thing, I thought that was so awesome. And they come back to you. And like, that's not really how it was at all. Here's what really happened and like, it causes like ripple effect to go to the past. Right? Because it has totally changed the storyline. Now the storyline is wholly changed based off of this new information going backwards. Right? So there there are multiple realities in that scenario. So let's take a look at an alternate reality. And let's also let's let's determine, you know, what is your most important asset? Perhaps it is your ability to be happy, to be fulfilled, to be choice? Would you give this asset to boss to somebody? Would you give this asset to anybody really? And the deal is, no, you wouldn't. Why would Why would you give that asset away? Why would you give your ability to kind of be happy, on demand to be fulfilled, on demand to be joyous on demand. So why why put that in somebody else's hands

Brandon Handley 5:00
And then the other. The other idea too is when somebody outside of us knowing you, somebody just you know, they're making you frustrated, they're their actions are, you know, kind of pissing you off? The idea is like when you're annoyed, does that, does that poison your entire attitude? Why would you let somebody else outside of you? poison your attitude? And that and the deal is you're giving your most valuable asset over to another, you're letting somebody outside of you control how you feel. Think about that for a second, does that make any sense?

Brandon Handley 5:46
I mean, the answer is that it doesn't really make any sense. So how then, how then can you avoid giving power over your happiness to someone else? That's a that's the real question that you you want to ask. And srikumar Rao says that when you ask yourself this question, and you truly wish to find the answer, then chances are you're going to have a powerful breakthrough. So he says that you will slip into a parallel universe that has always been available to you, but you've never looked for it. Think about it, again. This this is if this is ringing true, then then you'll know it right? This is this is ringing true. And you know that there's a parallel universe has always been available, and you haven't really looked for it, or you've begun to kind of slip in and out of it, then then it's kind of like, Wow, I can't believe this is in a book. Right. He also, this reminds me of a quote I saw yesterday to Anthony de Mello, who is, by the way featured inside of this book. And he has this quote, which is the spiritual quest is a journey without distance you travel from where you are right now, to where you've always been, from ignorance to recognition. Again, I think that really relates to this, what Sreekumar said here, you will slip into a parallel universe has always been available to you, but you never looked for it. Mm hmm. Each time, and these aren't things, and a lot of this, I did not pick up on the first time I read through it. So it's interesting, because, again, I didn't I didn't, I didn't read, I've been through this three different, at least three different times, this being my fourth. And the way that I'm reading it, this time is 100%. Different than then how I've read it previously. So over the years, obviously, I'm going back and I'm, uh, I'm learning different things, you know, I'm seeing things differently than I had had before, because the current way of my thinking is different. So he goes through the exercise of an alternate reality. Ideally, you're going to go through some of the ones that you created before, you're going to go through some of, you know, exercise, mental models, you're going to take a look at them, you're going to go ahead and you're going to revise You know, one of them or change something, and then you're going to live that way, within a new mental model, as though

Unknown Speaker 8:48
it were real

Brandon Handley 8:51
knowing knowing that the mental models that that you have created already aren't real. And that's fundamental, you got to understand that the mental models that exist in your life now aren't real. So why not create a new one? helpful hints on the exercise Ultimate Reality is a nice story to the Yeah, so it gives a he does give a nice story that essentially outlines that what happens when you accept blame for others attitudes, right? So say somebody is outside you and the they blame you for how they feel. We know that this isn't true. We know this isn't true. We talked about it already. We talked about the idea of, you know, giving giving your assets over someone else, letting someone outside of you dictate how you feel inside. Alright, so the same now can be said of somebody outside of you if they're coming to you. And they're saying hey, You're You make me feel this way. And that's, that's on you, man, I got nothing, nothing to do with how you feel internally. All right. But he goes a cuter story than that. Again, I'm just, I want to leave some of those. There's some of those that imagination, I can't recommend this book. Enough, obviously, otherwise, I don't think I'd be gone through these exercises. And I just say no, I'm going to post in the video of this outline that I'm reading through to and going through all here. So if you want to go through and check out the video and see somebody outlines for yourself, you can go ahead and check out the video on the webpage spiritual dope coat. And the closing quote from this book are from chapter two. Again, just another one, it's just, I just didn't read these like this. Historically, it's so funny because it's the same book on the same person on the outside. But, you know, whatever's going on inside is totally different. And it's reading things, taking in information totally differently. And I gotta tell you, I'm enjoying it. I'm enjoying it again. Every time I've gone through it, I've completely enjoyed it and each time so it's like it keeps getting better. So the closing quote is your life is hemmed in by the things you know to be true, but aren't. It's time to start setting yourself Bree What is your mental model today? know that it's not real. Know that you can change it at any time at will know that. Know that. You're not beholden to it know that the story or the model that you've created. you invested so much time and effort into that if it's not working for you anymore? King Stop it. Leave it is does it fit? Stop for you anymore? Maybe it serves you at one point. Maybe that model worked for you. Obviously His work has gotten you to this point. Maybe though it's time to make a shift. Maybe it's time to make an adjustment. Anyways, that is it for chapter two. It ain't real have Are you ready to succeed a little bit of a deep dive on this. I hope that you're enjoying these I hope that you check out this book for yourself at some point. If this is something that you'd like to get in on yourself and just participate with me on then and a couple of others then feel free to reach out to Brandon as spiritual dope.co Take it easy

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Are you ready to succeed | Chapter 02 | Deep Dive 1 of 2

Published: Nov. 10, 2020, 11:36 a.m.
Duration: 15 minutes 11 seconds

The book I am digging into for you is:

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Brandon Handley 0:00
Hey there spiritual dope and welcome back to Are you ready to succeed? We're doing some deep dives on each of these chapters with primarily just because I love doing it, right. I love doing I love going through this book. This, like I said, about my fourth time going through the book. And each time I go through it, it's a little bit different. And I learned, I realized that I've learned something new, right? Because it's not that it's not so much that I think I've talked about this and one of these pieces, it's not so much what the book is teaching you about what you know, it's about your ability to grasp the concepts, as your knowledge has changed throughout time. So and also in other news, man, you know, super excited again, I love this book. I love the author, I love his TED Talk. And I've been able to book him for the podcast, I don't know how, how exciting is that? It's not really something that I really saw coming ahead. But you know, what, there was a, you know, a couple days a couple weeks ago, just kind of on a whim, reached out to him, I reached out to this PM, and I was able to secure a podcast interview with him. So How exciting is that? I guess, you know, kind of how you'd know nothing happens if you don't ask right, guys. So this, this chapter that we're gonna be working on is called, it ain't real. And what he's going to walk through here with us in this one is mental models. It's kind of like what what is a mental model? And, you know, where are they employed? The deal is that, you know, you've got, you've got mental models for what's true, you've got mental models for reality, you've got mental models for like, these are the facts, right. And you also have mental models for work, love and family. And basically, you know, you put a model up for just all kinds of different ways that how what, how is truth proceed? what is reality? How do you discern what the facts are, right? You've got a specific way that work looks for you. And your, your view is going to be different than mine. Same thing with love. And likewise, with family, it's definitely something that I learned while doing fatherhood. For the rest of us podcast, everybody's got a different view on on how the family is supposed to work. Right. But in general, they all kind of work. In, in the book, he gives a couple of different sample models. And kind of like these stories, one of them is the idea of, hey, you're not a part of the fast track crowd and you don't fit in and you're at work, right? I and then eventually you go through this kind of mental model, it builds kind of spirals down. And in the end you you decide that you're just not going to put in the effort, because you don't fit into this crowd. And you're just gonna look to the next best thing, right? That was one of the models, it's definitely more detailed in the book. And then another one of the mental models that he's got there is what men what women think, men find attractive. And then, you know, she goes in this in this model, it's a woman and she goes through the whole idea. And she's like, Well, you know, I just don't fit that criteria. So finally, I'm just like, you know what, I'm not qualified. I'm gonna die alone in old spinster. Right? And, you know, that type of thing, and that kind of that kind of mental thinking. So, you know, if you've got that type of thinking, you know, what, second, what's that? Gonna? Eventually, you know, how's that gonna play out? Right? You're not going to act on something, if that's your model. Another another one, this one's actually it reminds me of the other model reminds me of kind of like a Wayne Dyer story. And he's talking to a lady that's getting ready to move to Chicago. And she's like, Well, what do you think it's gonna be like there. And Wayne Dyer goes, well, what's it like? Where do people you know where you are now. And she goes, Well, the people are great. They're really kind and generous and all these other things. And she goes, Yeah, that's that's pretty much what you'll find there. And then another lady comes up to them, and she's moving to, you know, some different spaces as well as wage because hey, Wayne, what's it going to be like, when I moved there? She's like, he goes, boop. How are the people where you are now? And he's like, She's like, they're, they're bitter. They're angry. They, they never help out the room, because that's pretty much what you're going to find when you get there. You know, what? The deal is?

Brandon Handley 4:57
where you are, right? It's like, wherever Whatever it is, like where you are now, it's gonna be like that when you get there. It's like, you're taking that with you. And that's a model, right? you've kind of got it got that built in. So he presents some different models that you can go ahead and employ in your mind as you go through this book. And it's better to ask, right, if when you're presented with a new model, it's better to ask yourself is, does this new model work better for me than the one that I'm currently using? If you come from the background of, you know, how can you reframe that, right? It's really kind of like, you know, your model is real similar to the story that you tell yourself that you are, why you are where you are today because of XYZ, right? That's the story you've been telling yourself. But is it possible if that story is not quite right, so what happens if you decide to rewrite your story, right? Try a new model out for a while rewrite your story. And then if it still isn't a fit, then drop it, I love it. Because so many of us, we want to hang on to this story, you know, we're so emotionally invested in this story that we've created for ourselves that we've got to keep it. And he's like, if it's not a fit, if, if this is working for you, if this isn't working for you, then drop it, find a new one, find a new model, and use only what works for you. You know, these are my these are essentially models. And we'll get to the idea is like these aren't real, it ain't real, right. So it doesn't really matter which one you pick, but pick one that is working for you. The he gives you he gives you a mental model exercise. You know, I don't think this is really fair for me to go ahead and list out the entire thing or, or even share out like all of the individual stories, aside from the kind of give you maybe a synopsis of them, or give you an idea of what some of these are, right? But the first one is my mental models, right? This is write out your mental models in different areas. And you know, he goes to some of the some of these exercises, as you're going through them, you're gonna see your mental models, right. And you're going to make some changes in your mind as you're going through them. Because now you realize that you actually have that ability, you realize now that you have the ability to make a shift, to change some of your mental models, when that moment happens. And this is another thing that I love about this book, this is the very first book that I recall, that instructed you to stop reading, stop reading for a moment, and stop trying to push past that moment and savor it. Savor that moment and enjoy and relish in those new thoughts or revelations that you've just had. This is my own note right here. If you're not willing to do these exercises, if you're not willing to do the exercise, any book that you read, if you're not willing to do the exercises, when you get to the exercise, I think it's I think it's really fair for you to put the book down, because that's an indicator that says, Would you get the book for right? If you're not willing to try it out? Then Then if you're not willing to take action on some of those nuanced, not, you know, some of those new exercises and new ways of being that the maybe not now, maybe don't do it right now put the book down. This is just me talking. Because I, I know that I've gone through many books and done it and haven't done the exercises haven't followed through, haven't gone through it. And I do know that I have with this book and a couple others and each time that I actually follow through with the exercises, my life is changed. And any it's funny because I don't know, if you're listening on the podcast, and I've been able to see inside of the book at the exercise, you know, says, you know, when you're tempted not to do an exercise, resist the urge you only get out what you put in. And you know, I think one of the one of the years I did, it's like I'm doing this now, like I stopped and I you know wrote in the book, I'm doing this now and I stopped to do it again this year. Alright, we had to take a break for a second there, but we are back.

Brandon Handley 9:44
It was dinnertime. I think I think we'll keep going here. So again, if you're not if you're not willing to do these exercises, I don't think that you're just not. You're not ready right now. And that's okay, too. But you're in luck, you could only just go ahead and read the book. I'm not saying don't, um, you may, you may find an exercise past this one that you're able to do, and then realize just how just how much these, these doing these exercises does help. So it's not real, I love this, you know, he talks about the whole idea is that you cannot unlearn an idea that has taken root. And that's really, really why we got to be careful about what does go into our minds and what we really think about because once we once that thing kind of gets in there and seeps in there, it's it's almost impossible to to unlearn that idea, that concept, it's in there forever. Everyone perceives the world differently. This is what what he says here in a book that is the the bedrock of effective negotiation is to understand here that somebody else is going to perceive the world differently, and try and figure out what that difference is, so that you can effectively negotiate. This is a universal truth. The fact is that everybody is going to see the world differently. foundations of a worldview can change when we look inwards. When we recognize the whole idea, the whole idea, then is when we recognize that someone or anyone has different views, we also realize that we have the capability to change our own as well. So we can change our models, we can change the foundation of our own worldview. Once again, we get in there and we make it and make it seated. Look, we got people out there that did a to have a flat Flat Earth view, right? Who really truly believed this, because, you know, because somebody has been able to spell it out in some way that is, that makes sense to them. And that's really all you got to do is figure out a way to where it makes sense for you. And ultimately, your your whole worldview will change as well. So our worldview isn't even really knew. The deal is that we've made it out of mental models. And then once we create these mental models that we discuss, we live within those constraints, we create something based off of our perceptions, you know, what it is that we think that we're seeing based off of what we know. And then we live within those constraints, we are making our own prison the most, or, you know, or, or we're creating our own freedom. So it's merely a construct, you have dozens of models, that you stitch together to create the fabric of your very own reality. I love the concept. And the idea that he puts in here is each each one of these models that you put together is like the facet of a geo disc home. And the deal is if one of those facets isn't real, then maybe none of them are, maybe none of them are therefore, therefore, this son of a bi T, therefore, your life is not real. And never has been because you base it off of these concepts, these ideas, these constraints, your perceptions. Right, and so that part, so I remember reading that for the first time, and it blew my mind, too. So the deal is you made the construct, you live in the construct, and there are equal parts of that construct that they're real and unreal, but you made it, you live in it. And then this piece right here is kind of the next one that would, you know, just kind of blows the lid off. The life you are living is a reality. The life you are living is a reality. He says your mistake is thinking that it is the reality. All right. I mean, when you think about it, when we think about how do you even envision your future, or you're sitting there and you're like it could go this way that way or the other way. You're thinking about all of those multiple possibilities, all those multiple realities that

Brandon Handley 14:41
that could actually come forth. We'll pause it here on this part, and this would be long enough and they're about 15 minute mark and we'll finish it up. So this is going to be the It ain't real. This will be the end of it. A real CHAPTER TWO OF sukumar. Rouse, are you ready to succeed? And we'll pick it up here we go.

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Teanna Campbell | Manifestation Gangster | Neville Goddard Expert

Published: Nov. 8, 2020, 12:07 p.m.
Duration: 53 minutes 26 seconds

Teanna is like the sister I never had, a ton of fun and spot on with her gangster like approach to manifestation...

This podcast is for the person who wants to learn how to manifest but is sick of all the crackadoos out there who are super soft spoken and scared to admit that they don't know how it all works.

Teanna Campbell drops some real dope bombs to this podcast and I am thrilled that she was able to find some time and hop on as we also got to chat about a few of my favorite authors Neville Goddard & Florence Schoville Schinn.

If you are looking for a manifestation coach that knows their shit, reach out to Teanna, she is legit!

Places you can connect with Teanna: Youtube Channel

Books discussed:

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Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey there spiritual dope. This is Brandon Handley, as if you didn't already know my name. I am on today with Teanna Campbell. She is a manifestation mindset, money and magic coach, she has one goal, and it's her favorite. She wants to give you the tools and support you need to release your mind magic, reject your bullshit. And ignite your healing so that you can live life unfucked and stuff your bank account with cash and fill your life with everything you've ever wanted. I'm so happy to have you on today, what's happening?

Teanna Campbell 0:39
That was even better than I could have done. Good job. I'm just out here with you. I'm excited.

Brandon Handley 0:45
What about you, I'm excited as well, we've been kind of going back and forth, we stumbled upon each other on Instagram. And, you know, I'm a fan. And so I was like, hey, without let's let's have this conversation, you have a great brand. with just your delivery, you're entertaining, you are clear with your, with your delivery. And, um, you don't fit the same mold as everybody else to which is great. But as everybody else is kind of doing it like this kind of this, there's, there's like a certain way all this has to be done right? And like, you're not doing it that way. Like I'm like, Thank God and this is it's refreshing. So happy to have you on super excited. And one of the things I usually like to start us off with is, you know, creative energy source energy speaks through us, right? And it's kind of like we were talking about before we even got started, like the people that are looking for you just kind of show up. Right? Well, right, that says that you're, you know, that people are going to hear us talk about today is going to be for them explicitly. And it's going to come through you right now. So sources saying what to you to that one person listening right now?

Teanna Campbell 2:08
Oh, God, be you I think being authentic is really preached a lot in this industry without being celebrated or necessarily tolerated. Like you said, I don't really fit the mold. I teach this shit a different way. which some people don't enjoy. But it is authentic to me. So I just think actually follow the advice of staying who you are. And if other people aren't doing it your way, then fuck is the effort allowed on here?

Brandon Handley 2:48
I think we started it with that. I mean, it was part of the introduction. So

Unknown Speaker 2:51
you know,

Brandon Handley 2:52
I said you can live your life on Fox. And so you can follow my lead or do what you want to do.

Teanna Campbell 2:57
I mean, I say it all the time I drop it. So I just don't want to but I think that's just really the big thing. Fuck them if they don't accept it, because all of this is meant to be a very personal practice. It's not a one size fits all there is not a secret formula that someone has unlocked. It's very personal to each person, and it should be celebrated that you do it individually. So I think that is something important for everybody to remember.

Brandon Handley 3:30
Yeah, so it's like be authentic, let it go. But be truly authentic too. Right? Not just this not this authentic that everybody else thinks you should be

Teanna Campbell 3:43
different. everybody's like, be authentic, but do it this way.

Brandon Handley 3:46
Right. Right. Here's how you be authentic. And if there's a recipe for it, that's not necessarily authentic. No. Right. So, um,

Unknown Speaker 3:57
what do I think that you should have on a shirt?

Teanna Campbell 4:02
Now the bitch I was actually just designing it like five minutes ago, honestly.

Brandon Handley 4:06
Well, that's because and now also say this because you open up one of your YouTubes with that, right? And you're like, you know, people may know me as or say, I'm a mouthy, bitch. I'm like I'm like I love it. Right and I all I see is that on a shirt for you? Because your graphics are great, right? You do a great job. Who does your graphics? do you do that? You work yourself?

Teanna Campbell 4:26
I do it. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 4:28
yeah. So I love guys if you're not following, john, I'd like just go check her out. It's fun. You do a good job with the designs and the branding. And so your current brand is a manifestation gangster, is that right? Yes, it is. Let's talk about it. So tell us a little bit about if I'm checking out manifestation gangster What am I getting myself involved with?

Teanna Campbell 4:55
Um, wow. A lot of fuck bombs. And a lot of nevel teachings mixed in with the fog bombs. People have a big problem with that for some reason. I don't know why, but they get very offended and say never would have never said that. And I'm like, he's not alive right now, you know? No.

Brandon Handley 5:17
No, it doesn't. It doesn't matter whether or not never would have said it. It's how you're teaching it. But would have been funny to hear him talk that way, though. Because what this clip like Anglo Saxon, like, you know, nevel was, I mean, just how would never have told you to get fucked.

Teanna Campbell 5:38
Right? It would have been so interesting. And I just, I don't know, when I listened to him. I can actually imagine it. Like, you can hear it sometimes in the tonality of his speeches. He kind of wants to. He wants to tell people, I've told you the same thing for 20 years. It shouldn't be this fucking hard.

Brandon Handley 5:56
Right? I think i think i think if i hear him saying it, he's got the one where he's talking about getting the clams or something in New York, right? He's there with his crew. And he goes, and he gets like, he orders it for breakfast. Or he wanted clams for breakfast. Right? And he's like, he could just see it. He sauced like it like, I don't know, 9am or something on a Sunday morning. It's like, he's just tore up drinking martinis, and he's going out with his crew. And it's like, I order the clams. Right? He's just so you know, he's so funny, but you could hear him saying, like, give me the fucking clams.

Teanna Campbell 6:34
Right? Right. Like you can hear him he? I am convinced he would approve, but the very strict nashvillians don't enjoy it, avoid it. Alright,

Brandon Handley 6:46
for those uninitiated without neville goddard, what's the what's the history on him?

Unknown Speaker 6:52
So

Teanna Campbell 6:55
honestly, all, I preach a lot of neville goddard. But it's not from a place of knowing an intense amount about him, I was only introduced to nevel. It's been less than a year, because I got so excited that I had figured out this whole key to manifestation and I was teaching it to people about how it's about your feelings and your vibrations that you put out into the universe. And it has nothing to do with your words. It's all the feelings, all the feelings. And somebody came to me one day, and they were talking about neville goddard. And I'm like, Who the fuck is that? And they're like, well, that's what you teach. And I'm like, no, it's no one's not I made the shit up. I discovered this, I'm gonna be famous. And they're like, you need to go check out neville goddard. Right. And I did, and I was heartbroken. Oh,

Brandon Handley 7:48
that's the worst, right? You're like, well, I can't believe this has been done before.

Teanna Campbell 7:52
That's exactly. So then I ordered every novel book, I could find neville goddard is a manifestation teacher. He's dead. Now. This he was around. What in the 30s 50s? somewhere? I don't know, a long time ago, we were not alive when he was around, right. And he taught it almost like he had books published. But it was more underground. It wasn't like common knowledge that everybody talked about. It wasn't like Napoleon Hill and the secret to getting rich. His was like seminars that he did. And he would just go and tell people about manifestation I take him he wasn't really in it for the money. He was like, here's everything I know. So he has crap everywhere. He will just need to read it. Because I didn't make it up.

Brandon Handley 8:45
This time, the this time last year, it was totally me. Um, so I'll throw on the one of the reasons he didn't need to do it for money. It was like it came from a wealthy family. Right. So he had a super wealthy family. And while he was not relying on that, it gave him the confidence to say whatever the fuck you want to say. Because one of the things that is interesting is that if this is all you do, it can be a challenge. Right? Some sometimes you'll you'll may fall out. So lots of good word phrase sell out. Sure. So so an Alan Watts talks about that too. You know, watts fan.

Teanna Campbell 9:37
He, I don't know who that is.

Brandon Handley 9:40
So real similar with Alan Watts, right. So he's another guy like kind of they're, they're around the same era. Both kind of beat Nicky, you know, weird ways of talking, but similar space. But what he says is like when you do these things, and you have to do it as your only thing there's a certain sense Stress behind it right? A certain like this happen a certain restriction of yourself right? Not being often Sure, right? Like you're you lose some sense of authenticity because you're like, ah, but people won't buy it because it's fucking crazy. Right? But like, you also go back to the idea of like, yeah, 50% of the people hate you, no matter what you do. And 50% of people love you. So so it's like, you know, tell me get back. So you're doing the devil, you're doing the nevel f bomb gig. So, yeah, you got into it, though, kind of on your own. So how did you get into this space?

Teanna Campbell 10:42
So I taught manifestation. Before that's been my gig, I became a hypnotist. And then I got really into manifestation and using hypnosis for manifestation. And through my own trial and error and practice and working with clients, I was like, holy shit, this has nothing to do with the words and the affirmations, necessarily. affirmations are helpful, but they're not like the key to everything you've ever wanted. And so just through working through all of that for a couple years, I was like, Oh, my God, it's the feeling. It's the feeling. Right? And I was so proud. But it just started with I taught manifestation. And I was tired of traditional manifestation like, I will reference abraham hicks sometimes because I think there's some good quotes in there. But there are definitely a lot of people who have heard me say, I hate abraham hicks.

Teanna Campbell 11:48
I hate the way it's taught.

Teanna Campbell 11:52
And so just through getting frustrated with people not seeing results, doing it the abraham hicks way. I took it and figured out what worked and what didn't. And it happens to be the same stuff that neville goddard

Teanna Campbell 12:08
teaches about. Okay.

Brandon Handley 12:11
Would you so abraham hicks is a all law of attraction? Would you consider Neville Goddard's teaching law of attraction? Or would you consider manifestation? Because I think it sounds like there's a little bit of a discerning, right.

Teanna Campbell 12:28
I think neville goddard actually had a really good understanding of all 12 of the spiritual laws, he doesn't make references to each specific one. But if you study the 12 spiritual laws, or the 12 laws of the universe, each one you can pinpoint to different level teachings. So I think he just had a really good understanding of all of it. So there is law of attraction in there, because it's one of the laws, but he goes over all of that, which is probably why I enjoy his work more. I it's not all law of attraction.

Brandon Handley 13:12
Okay. No, I mean, it's interesting, right? Because that my, again, my perception is he's different than just your strict like law of attraction people and, you know, right, positive and positive thinking and all this other stuff. He's in a different different sphere, different space. And so I think it's interesting that that's kind of who you you gravitated towards and, and run through. So you did the hypnosis, right? For manifestation, and then, you know, you came across the feeling part, right? So Where, where, where did that epiphany come from for you?

Teanna Campbell 13:54
It's so cliche, but I was literally just driving in my car one day, I do all of my best thinking in my car. I am convinced if I ever write a book, it will be thoughts I've had in a car. And it just popped into my head. I don't know if I was talking with a client. I have a really bad habit of doing voice talking with clients over the phone while I'm driving. Um, so I don't know if I was talking with a client or what it was. But I remember sitting at the stoplight waiting for it to turn green. And I was just like, oh my god, it's about vibrations. And right there in this split second of it wasn't a split second, it was like 10 seconds. I had already planned out this entire course about how manifestation is vibrations and how to tune into it. And while I was launching and working with people, somebody told me about nubble It all happened very quickly, but it was just in my car.

Brandon Handley 14:52
Yeah, that's great. It's great. I think I think that is is huge right where emotion and feeling right is about big part of it when and it's also tied to the visualization aspect right? And if you tie that right to a your feelings and emotions, right, you don't know, tell me what happens there.

Teanna Campbell 15:14
Well, I will I've never actually heard him talk about it, but I am convinced neville goddard evil either was a hypnotist or had a really good understanding of hypnosis. Because everything he talks about the state akin to sleep in the visualization with the feelings, that's hypnosis, when he mentions getting really relaxed so that the images go into your subconscious mind. That is hypnosis. So essentially, in all of his books, when he's telling people how to visualize and how to relax, he's just telling everyone how to self hypnotize. And I think that's a big part of why it is so effective because hypnosis is sending messages straight to your subconscious mind, which is then what you experience in reality.

Brandon Handley 16:06
He calls the subconscious does he call it a subconscious? So he calls right

Teanna Campbell 16:11
mind more often. But I don't like to say unconscious mind. Just that's it. That just feels wrong to me since I was trained as a hypnotist first, okay, so I call it the subconscious. But he does have a few books where he also just straight out refers to it as the subconscious mind, the subconscious mind.

Brandon Handley 16:32
So I think that one of your first when we first connected you were calling it the God the God, what was it the God? God manifestation? God state God state, that's what Yeah, which is very novel, too, though, right?

Teanna Campbell 16:51
That was, so it's funny talking about authenticity. My brand is quirky and bright colors, and not like other people. And I had a friend who was kind of an Instagram goddess, she has, like 400,000 followers on Instagram, she's built up a ton of accounts to hundreds of thousands of people. And she didn't agree with my branding on either of my businesses. And so I changed it to be Instagram friendly. And she's the one who was like God state because that's what people will search for when they search for nevel stuff. And you need to go plain with black and white, maybe a little bit of gold because people respond to that. So I took everything and made it so boring. And our friendship and I

Brandon Handley 17:46
really liked it by the way, I liked your golden black. And I was like I was like it's very well done. So right. So you know, maybe that's okay.

Teanna Campbell 17:56
Just wasn't you,

Teanna Campbell 18:00
me. Our friendship ended up like not working out it is what it is whatever you know, girls do when they get together. And with time, I was like, well, this is who I really want to be. Right. So I changed it to how it was before her and probably confused the crap out of everybody. But that was authentic. So God's state was actually like the brainchild of someone else that I came up with the name, but it was with the encouragement of other people.

Brandon Handley 18:34
I hear you, I hear you. I've done many things with the encouragement of other people that I should. So let's talk about let's talk about your brand now like I mean, you've got manifestation gangster, it's a lot of fun, it is bright, it is vibrant. And you know what type of people you working with.

Teanna Campbell 18:56
Um, it's funny because I get kind of I work pretty much just with women, a lot of women business owners and a lot of the single mom kind of women I you attract a lot of what you are so because I've had healing around all of the stuff I've had to work through, the majority of people I work with and attract are actually in the same place I was in years ago. So that's almost exclusively, who I end up working with.

Brandon Handley 19:36
Now, it's interesting, and I've definitely found that to I mean, some of my first interviews were with like, you know, people with not necessarily daddy issues, but like, you know, had, you know, weird dad backstories that were almost identical to mine, right? Like my dad died of like everyone overdose, right? And like, maybe like three out of 10 people that I interviewed, they had their dad's

Unknown Speaker 20:00
I'd like heroin overdose.

Teanna Campbell 20:01
Have a beer dad that story. See? See, look?

Brandon Handley 20:07
Maybe this is more common than we thought. What's your what's the weird dad backstory?

Unknown Speaker 20:15
Um,

Teanna Campbell 20:18
wow. My dad was never involved. And I learned when I was like six or seven that my dad didn't want me and so the dad I had was actually an adoptive dad. Because he married my mom when I was like one. And then he left and then I met my bio dad, it was just like a shit show all through my teen years. The weirdest and now I haven't talked to him in 20 years.

Brandon Handley 20:50
That fucking

Teanna Campbell 20:54
No, I'm sure that you are great one. So we're not gonna say

Brandon Handley 20:58
no, that's totally true. I'm talking about the rest of them. I kid I just um, so what else is fun in this space? I mean, what is your favorite nevel like so here's another part of this podcast, right? This podcast is really about leaning into that authenticity. What did it take for you to start working in this space? Because it's not one that I would say is super socially acceptable and easy to break into? Is that what do you think

Teanna Campbell 21:29
neville goddard space

Brandon Handley 21:30
neville goddard law of attraction and manifestation coaching you know that you've got 90% of the people that you've run into relate with that's woo woo is, you know, all this other stuff. So what was it like jumping into this space and kind of leading from there?

Unknown Speaker 21:47
Um,

Teanna Campbell 21:49
I honestly didn't really have problems with it. Before I really jumped into neville goddard. I was mostly exclusively a mindset coach, like, that's why I learned about hypnosis. So I was already talking mindset stuff. I was already talking about the subconscious mind, I was already kind of in that space. And then it just kind of slowly evolved, I think, into what it is now. And because it was slow. The audience that I had built up over the years just followed with me, they evolved with me as well. So for me, it was actually a really easy transition. I didn't have a difficult time with it at all. I don't I'm not part. So there's a lot of the really big like nevel teachers, I've never talked to any of them I haven't like broken into

Brandon Handley 22:45
circle

Teanna Campbell 22:46
their circle, right. So it's just kind of me doing my own thing, but I like it that way. So I just hang out and do what I want to do.

Brandon Handley 22:58
What I'm so if I was to call for coaching with you, what's our What's our first call like?

Teanna Campbell 23:06
I just do very open. Caught like a call would kind of just start with the bullshitting. What are you working on bullshitting? It's important stuff, but what are you working on? What are you manifesting? How are you feeling about it? What are you currently doing what, and then we just break it down into what's standing in their way if they're having consistent, focused thoughts on why it's not there, or what is missing or how it's not coming. And then we just let it evolve naturally, I'm a very free flowing person, I don't have a lot of the super structure in my calls, or my coaching packages or my businesses. Nobody is built the same kind of like how we talked about in the very beginning of this, it's a very personal journey to everyone. And one type of ritual, I call them rituals, that's kind of Woo. But one kind of ritual or technique doesn't work for everybody. So I take the time to really get to know people so that it actually does work for them. So the calls there's not really a big structure to it. It's let's get to know you and see where you are. And then we just break through that shit.

Brandon Handley 24:25
No, absolutely. Right. So tailor made. Right, right.

Teanna Campbell 24:30
100% no call is ever the same.

Unknown Speaker 24:36
Could couldn't be if you tried.

Brandon Handley 24:40
And let's talk about doing doing this kind of as a parent to are you I know you said your son's at the game, right? Right now or practice, right

Teanna Campbell 24:49
doctor? I have two daughters. The one plays football so that's what

Brandon Handley 24:54
Yeah, so do teach your children and stuff.

Teanna Campbell 24:58
Yeah, yeah. My kids are like my coach when I get stuck, and I'm focusing on the wrong shit. And I'm like, Oh my god, everything is going wrong. My kids will jump in and they'll be like, Mom, what you focus on grows? And I'm like, Oh, snap. Okay.

Unknown Speaker 25:18
Well,

Teanna Campbell 25:20
thanks.

Teanna Campbell 25:22
My kids know probably as much about it as I do. I let them listen in on coaching calls. They listen to when I do trainings, there's probably the one listening in her room the next door right now. They listen to all of it, they are constantly immersed in devil in manifestation and mindset all the time. And they talk just like me.

Unknown Speaker 25:45
So, clearly,

Teanna Campbell 25:47
clearly, it's great conversation with their school teachers.

Brandon Handley 25:53
Do they? Do they bring it up at school? Have you ever gotten a call from schools and ask them what's going on with the manifestation or anything like that?

Teanna Campbell 26:00
The only time I've gotten calls from schools is when they drop bombs.

Brandon Handley 26:06
And bring out the good, that's what you focus on grows? Don't you tell them that?

Unknown Speaker 26:10
Right? That's cool.

Teanna Campbell 26:13
Just let them be just let them be? No. But they will tell their friends. My daughter had a birthday party at our house a couple weeks ago, and all of her friends came over. And it's a bunch of little 13 year old girls who wanted to be hypnotized and have their cards read. And it was I did not hypnotize them. That would be slightly unethical. But I did read cards and ship for them. So it's actually kids are really open to this stuff. And if parents were open about what they were learning and what they were teaching, and what they were evolving through, I think the kids would grow up to be even more adept at it than we are.

Brandon Handley 26:54
What I mean by that

Teanna Campbell 26:56
it's easier for them. But kids, my kids have I've been explaining this to them since they were seven or eight years old. And they have an amazing handle just intuitively on what manifestation is and how to use their mind. And they, I mean, if they want to snow day, because they don't want to go to school, they just go to bed and they say, we're not going to go to school tomorrow. And it's a snow day. Like my kids can manifest and do whatever the hell they want. And I think it's really beautiful.

Unknown Speaker 27:30
Um,

Brandon Handley 27:33
I love that I love that they love they are in that space. I think that it is very intuitive. I mean, once you kind of cross over certain thresholds. Is there any going back to the way you used to be?

Teanna Campbell 27:47
Not comfortably? Right.

Brandon Handley 27:50
You know, it's kind of it's very, you know, matrix II, right? There is no going back to you take that pill, there's kind of no going back. And if you're if you're not a fan of Abraham Hicks is like, there's there's no going back. She always says that, right? She says there's no going back.

Unknown Speaker 28:06
Right?

Brandon Handley 28:08
And it becomes, I mean, how does it feel? Does it feel it feels 100% natural to be in that state of being? Is that fair to say? Would you say that?

Unknown Speaker 28:19
Yeah. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 28:23
And would you say that it's, it just becomes intuitive, and once you kind of discovered is, it's like, it's almost like you've always known that it was there.

Teanna Campbell 28:33
Right? For sure. And I think breaking through to that side can be uncomfortable. Like, there's a lot of releasing the victim mode, and a lot of that stuff that we're taught through society, but like my kids, I've never heard them blame a problem on somebody else ever. It's always, like, they know how to take responsibility for what they've created. It's not just that somebody at school is mean to them, or that they got picked on by someone or that football practice was too hard. And their coach was mean, like they understand creating their reality, and that it's a mindset shift that they need to make. And because of that, I don't think like my children will ever be in that place of being a victim of anything, they will take control of it. For forever From now on, and I think kids are really, really good at that. If they're taught that from a young age.

Brandon Handley 29:35
Yeah, no, I agree. What, um, and I love that they take like, 100% of responsibility and that they create that space. I mean, let's talk about what it means to create that space. What is it? What do you mean by they create that space?

Teanna Campbell 29:53
I think that anytime anything happens that is undesirable, right. There's a lesson in How we kind of took part in that. And I, I do like to make a disclaimer, when I say that I don't mean the really big, bad, terrible life experiences like death. I don't include in that I don't think people manifest death at all, ever. I think that was already determined before we came here. But other things like the way that people treat you, or the results that you get either from something or from another person, it's never just something that happens to you, there's a lesson to be learned as to why that happened. If your mind was focused on, I'm not going to be good enough, or I never succeeded anything, or I never get hitched first, or people like other people, if you have those kinds of thoughts, then the result you got was a result of those thoughts. So I don't think any, that any of this stuff just happens to you. It's something that you can evaluate where in your mind, you attracted this results, and hold the space for yourself to create better beliefs and better thoughts. So that you get better results?

Brandon Handley 31:23
Is it easy for someone to change their beliefs?

Teanna Campbell 31:27
That's what hypnosis is for? Yes.

Brandon Handley 31:32
What is so can you do hypnosis? Like over over zoom? Or a phone call?

Teanna Campbell 31:40
Yeah, 99.9% of all my clients are over the phone,

Brandon Handley 31:45
or just audios and hypnosis as part of it. So you talked about earlier to like, you know, hypnosis is basically sending messages or beliefs directly to the subconscious. That's what you said. Yep. How like, I mean,

Unknown Speaker 32:04
right. So how,

Brandon Handley 32:08
how am I preventing things from getting to the subconscious? Without hypnosis?

Teanna Campbell 32:15
Um, how are you preventing things from getting your subconscious?

Brandon Handley 32:20
Yeah, like, I mean, why is it what makes it what makes hypnosis able to do that?

Teanna Campbell 32:26
So hypnosis, what it does, you spend a bit of time getting relaxed, right? So like Neville talks about that too, you get relaxed before you do the visualization. The reason you get relaxed or why your hypnotherapist will relax you is because when you physically relaxed, your conscious mind gets really bored. And it checks out. When your conscious mind isn't there anymore as your gatekeeper, your subconscious mind is accessible. And that's how you just put the messages straight in, you can put stuff through to your subconscious without being hypnotized. You just have to repeat it a lot. You have to put the conscious effort into it, you have to make sure that you're focused on it and not allowing other beliefs said. So it's you you can it's just like taking a long road I prefer just getting shit done really fast.

Brandon Handley 33:24
know for sure so but so what you're saying then is the conscious is acting as a gatekeeper. Um, and yeah, if you're trying to put new stuff in. Like if I try to put new stuff in my brain, my conscience would be like, No, no, no, no new stuff, because we've got all this other stuff here that we're so good with. Right?

Teanna Campbell 33:46
Right, right, or this other stuff we have contradicts what you're trying to put in there. Like if you have a belief that you were born into a broke family, and that you're always going to be broke, that money is hard to come by money doesn't grow on trees, etc, etc. If you have those beliefs really ingrained in yourself or in your subconscious mind, and you're trying to affirm over and over again, I am rich money flows to me money sticks to me, your subconscious mind and your gatekeeper. Like we already have these other beliefs that are different than that. So you either have to get rid of the old ones, or repeat the new ones a lot.

Brandon Handley 34:33
And each time, each time I'm repeating these affirmations, though, my subconscious is like,

Teanna Campbell 34:38
no, right? Right. Like you're just reminding yourself over and over again, like No, that's not true.

Unknown Speaker 34:47
So, you know,

Brandon Handley 34:51
I was talking with somebody else earlier this week and and the idea of, they call it the quantum question. I don't know if you've seen that when the quantum question or Have you seen Noah St. John's? Oh hell, what does he do? AV formations? Oh, yeah, yeah.

Teanna Campbell 35:11
Yeah. Asking questions.

Brandon Handley 35:13
So is that like ordinations? So is that like, so I just heard this weekend, there's some other dude out there doing the exact same thing. So he's calling it the quantum question. Because quantum, because everything is quantum right now.

Teanna Campbell 35:27
It's the new authentic, trendy thing.

Brandon Handley 35:30
Right, right. Quantum quantum authenticity. But I think that that's a trick for the subconscious right to bypass the subconscious. Yeah. Right. Yeah. So is that similar?

Teanna Campbell 35:43
Yeah. So like, you were just saying, if you have grown up and been raised really poor, do you have that super strong, subconscious belief? And you're trying to affirm over and over again, I am rich, your subconscious mind is like, No, you're not. But if you're asking it in the form of a question, your subconscious mind starts to go, hey, what? And you kind of trick it and so it starts to figure out how to make it true. So I wouldn't say affirmations, affirmations, I wish you would have named it something else that was more distinguishable. But affirmations are definitely a better tool, especially when you're starting then regular affirmations that everybody preaches.

Brandon Handley 36:32
Yeah, no. Absolutely feels like feels like feels like a nice trick, right? I feel like, you know, the brain, the mind, whatever you feel like calling it has to close a loop. Right? So if you ask it those questions, it's like, it just wants to close that loop. It doesn't really care. Just Just like, well, he asked, right, I need to find answers. So um, what is like one of your life? So? I love man, like I save like, all kinds of like the neville goddard ones. So the coin I haven't, I think is one of my favorites. Right? Do you listen to his speeches when he's talking? Or Geez. So yeah, do you have a favorite a nevel YouTube video?

Teanna Campbell 37:19
Oh, I kind of knew you were gonna ask something like this. And I was not prepared. I don't have a favorite nevel YouTube. But there's a book and it is his last book that was ever released. And I cannot remember the name of it because it's on my phone. But it's basically and you can only get it on Audible. Um, it's a collection of a book he was working on before he died. And then some random speeches that were never like published anywhere else.

Brandon Handley 37:56
Okay. The full reader? No. Who's got that one? Right. The full readers a one of those ones.

Teanna Campbell 38:06
Yeah, not a whole lot of his books together. This is something

Brandon Handley 38:09
something else. Well, I've got one audible credit. I am going to use

Teanna Campbell 38:15
telethon. Hold on. I have. I'm tricky. I have two phones. So give me such a burner and ridiculous.

Teanna Campbell 38:24
Yeah, no.

Unknown Speaker 38:28
No.

Brandon Handley 38:34
While you're looking that up, I mean, do you see the space is, you know, growing becoming more acceptable. versing The, the you know, the conservatives base? Like, what are your thoughts on kind of where this is going? manifestation or mindset training and just kind of being in the space?

Teanna Campbell 38:59
I think that people are getting more and more. Um,

Teanna Campbell 39:10
it's just becoming more accepted. And I think that by hearing your friends talk about it, or I'm hearing it talked about more on things like Instagram or YouTube or whatever it is. People are becoming more inclined to pay attention to it and to accept it. So I think it's it's making a big I hear more and more people talk about it all the time. Or people come to me and they're like, Oh, yeah, I've actually heard about that. And I'm like,

Brandon Handley 39:52
say What? Get out of my spigot.

Teanna Campbell 39:54
It's not this big secret anymore.

Unknown Speaker 39:56
Right right. Now I hear you. I hear you. And then I

Brandon Handley 40:04
was so I'm kind of waiting on you to to get your novel guy.

Teanna Campbell 40:08
No, I don't know what my phone is doing. I want it. I think it might be this one called the infinite potential, but I'm not. It's like 400 an hour. It's not really 400. Yeah, infinite potential.

Unknown Speaker 40:24
Yeah. And what do you love about it?

Teanna Campbell 40:28
It's not the typical

Teanna Campbell 40:32
stuff that you hear about nevel because it's not, it wasn't. It's not one of his big books like feeling is the secret or any of those. So it's not the same regurgitated stuff. This is like his, it's more advanced level, but he also doesn't speak quite so biblically. In some of it like he does in his previous works. It's just a different vibe. And I'm sad. He never like actually finished all of the stuff he was working on. There is one book in there that is basically like taken straight out of the Bible. It's not my favorite one. But it still has a lot of really good points to it.

Brandon Handley 41:20
Right. So I think it's interesting, too. And I don't think that we mentioned that yet that most of his stuff is out of the Bible. Right, like, right, you're like, but when he talks about it, he talks about it in a way that I know I'd never heard about it. The Bible talks about that way. Right? Because if it was like, I still remember, the first time I heard I was listening to one of his books driving from North Carolina to New Jersey. And he's talking, I got excited. I was like, this is it. I'm driving by myself like, right. Right. This is awesome. I mean, I was like, Why? Why? I was like that this book is now this book is cool.

Teanna Campbell 42:09
Right now this dude's legit. Right? I'll let him Yeah, I do. I love how he takes the Bible. I grew up in a very, very religious LDS household. What does that mean?

Brandon Handley 42:24
Oh, god. What LDS mean, okay. I don't put it okay. Yeah.

Teanna Campbell 42:29
The Mormons. Have you ever heard of those

Brandon Handley 42:31
people? Yeah, they're they're out there. What is LDS stand for Latter Day Saints? That's what it is. Okay.

Teanna Campbell 42:39
Yes, Latter Day Saints. I forget not everyone lives in Idaho, where there's a mormon church on every corner. But we grew up I grew up super Mormon, and I never identified with it. So I was kind of like the black sheep of my family because I wasn't all up in the

Unknown Speaker 43:02
Mormon.

Teanna Campbell 43:04
Hold version of shit. And they all use the scriptures all the time to harp on the way you should be. And so when Neville started using the Bible and explaining that it's a guide for manifestation, and it's not this historical book that we're supposed to, like, emulate, I was like, Oh my god, I love this guy so much.

Brandon Handley 43:30
I love to try to get anybody in your family to listen to

Teanna Campbell 43:34
my immediate family, my mom and my sisters, my brother, they have all actually like crossed over to my side a bit more. Yeah. They are not Mormon II at all. And they will talk about manifestation and they will talk about the feeling and the focus, and I think it's really fucking awesome.

Brandon Handley 43:56
I love it. Yeah. What would you say manifestation is when I'm manifesting? What am I?

Teanna Campbell 44:06
You are

Teanna Campbell 44:09
programming.

Teanna Campbell 44:12
Oh, there's so many different ways. You can describe it in so many ways. But you're programming your desired reality into your subconscious mind so that it manifests on the 3d physical plane.

Brandon Handley 44:24
You're saying my brain is a 3d printer?

Teanna Campbell 44:27
Yes. Yes. Oh, that's beautiful.

Teanna Campbell 44:33
Yeah, brain is a 3d printer.

Brandon Handley 44:35
That's awesome. That's awesome. Who else do you really love in this space? Um, outside of nevel that you kind of teach about,

Teanna Campbell 44:43
and Lauren so Val shin. She's the mom. I love her so much.

Brandon Handley 44:49
Haha. She is awesome. She's awesome.

Teanna Campbell 44:52
I don't know how she is not preached everywhere. Like I don't know where people decided. Abraham Hicks was Gonna be the one that everyone relied on but they are missing out on so much. Yeah, by not having Florence plastered everywhere, which and it's

Brandon Handley 45:13
Hi, favorite affirmations from Florence Give me one or two. Because she's she's an affirmation queen. She's a great affirmation queen.

Teanna Campbell 45:21
I don't use hers.

Brandon Handley 45:24
All right, no, no, no worries. I gotta look one up because I

Teanna Campbell 45:26
have basically one affirmation that I use. Okay, and it's not hers. What is it? Oh, it's there's nothing I can do to fuck this up. Who? I love it.

Brandon Handley 45:41
Love it. Nothing is as yours or do you have somebody you want

Teanna Campbell 45:48
I heard something similar from a YouTuber Her name is Jasmine. She teaches about like how to manifest this was a specific person, which I don't really get into because I don't give a shit about it. Um, but she said something similar to that. And I took it and adapted it to my language. And now it's just basically the only one I use

Brandon Handley 46:12
a

Teanna Campbell 46:13
lot. What were you pulling up by Florida?

Brandon Handley 46:16
Like it's like I love them all. So the thing that I love about forest is that hers like so she was an artist. So when she's writes, he does a really good job of painting the picture, which is what you're supposed to when you write but not everybody does it with the visuals that she can do. She's got one that's like talks about Here it is. Here's one that I really like, I am harmonious happy and divinely magnetic and now draw to me my ships over comm See, that's not the one I love, though.

Teanna Campbell 46:44
Like, I just like that one. I don't love it.

Brandon Handley 46:46
Yeah, but she's got so many and a couple of them. When I know when I was listening to her, like all times always listening to, you know, the game of life and how to play it and your word is your wand. Right? And one of them's like, you know, I see lines in my path, and I walk up to them realize that they're friendly. airedales, which is a type of dog, right? I didn't know what airedales were for a while, but I finally was like their dog. Uh, but it's true, right? You're, the things that you are afraid of that are on your path. If you don't walk up to them, you know, you, you're always afraid of them. But when you walk up to them, you see that, you know, they probably provide more benefit than other another thing that between I was listening to her nevel all the time. And it was the idea of just giving all your worries over to God but I also translated God into my subconscious because of, of nevel right and I was like, God all makes fucking sense as like if I just if I just give it over to like the 95% that pumps my you know, pumps my blood grows my hair grows my nails and does a bunch of other shit that even if I didn't know how to do it, I wouldn't be able to do it any better than it already does. Right? Why don't I just go ahead and let that part of me do that.

Teanna Campbell 48:10
That's where mine comes from. There's nothing I can do to fuck this up. Like I if my subconscious or my god self, whatever you want to call it is handling it. My little mere human pimply body like can't mess it up. So it's exactly the same thing. Hello. I love them. I love them. I love them. Right.

Brandon Handley 48:35
Right. And I agree, right? If you're if you're out there, and if you're in manifestation land, and you haven't checked, either one of them out nevel is is different, highly. I personally, I mean, I don't know about you, Tiana. Like I love how he talks like there's nothing better than like kind of driving down the road and listening to Neville talk.

Teanna Campbell 48:58
Right? Except you do have to be careful. There was one book I got from Audible, and the narrator was terrible. And I just listened to the whole thing. And I'm like, that is not what the fuck never would say like, I knew it was his words. It was not his tonality or his voice and I was so traumatized.

Brandon Handley 49:22
There's a guy out there, just I have Brant that reads a lot of his stuff. And he does a good job, but he's still you can't so the recommendation here is if you go find some nevel on YouTube, do not you must you must listen to him deliver it in person because his cadence is, was that a lilt to his voice right? Like he's just very, very, you know, Barbados. Just I love it. Right.

Unknown Speaker 49:51
And yeah,

Brandon Handley 49:52
yeah, check out some forums. What else do you love about Florence?

Teanna Campbell 49:58
Why do you have it She's just straight to the point. I think that's really that's how I teach. I don't do a lot of the fluff and the pomp and circumstance that like Abraham Hicks throws into it. Um, I like it very direct and to the point, and that is exactly how far it's like if you've ever looked at her books or books or this small. Yeah, it's because she's not about

Unknown Speaker 50:26
God want more, right?

Teanna Campbell 50:26
She's like, this is it. This is what you need to know. Go do. That's it. And I love that about. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 50:33
that's cool. It's perfect. What are you like, I just love her. Like I said, she paints great pictures. She has good affirmations. She's very clear, succinct. And it just all makes sense, right? Once in once you kind of get into this the flow and the pattern of this space. She's simple. It's easy, right? Keep it simple, stupid, right? And that's what she does. She keeps it simple. She doesn't try to like you said add anything to it. I think

Teanna Campbell 51:05
she has a quote as she starts one of her books by basically saying keep it simple, stupid, but she doesn't say stupid. She said something else. But that's how she starts her book. She's like, keep it simple.

Brandon Handley 51:16
Yeah. Yeah. It doesn't have to be. It doesn't have to be everything else. Right. One question for you. Right? Be if I've got a, you know, money block, right? If I'm having a problem with getting over that in my life, what's the quickest way I can get over that?

Teanna Campbell 51:37
evaluate your relationship with yourself? I mean,

Teanna Campbell 51:44
yes. Oh, every time it's when somebody has a money blog, it usually has to do with the way they feel about themselves. It has almost never really that much to do with the money. It has to do with they don't like the way they look. They don't like that they didn't graduate high school. They don't like that. They haven't had a lasting relationship. They don't whatever it is, they don't like about themselves. They're translating it over into their bank account. By healing your relationship with yourself. The money heals on its own. Pretty much every time.

Brandon Handley 52:25
keepin it simple. I love it. Where should people go to find you?

Teanna Campbell 52:32
I'm Tiana Campbell on YouTube.

Brandon Handley 52:36
You're blowing up? They're blowing up there. I know.

Unknown Speaker 52:42
Why yes, I am. Alright, Tana Campbell over on YouTube. Thank you, Brandon. Yeah, thank you for being on today.

Teanna Campbell 52:50
It was really fun. I appreciate it. Thank you.

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Are you ready to succeed | Chapter 01 | Deep Dive 5 of 5

Published: Nov. 6, 2020, 7:06 a.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 36 seconds

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Brandon Handley 0:00
So as we we continue on literally chapter one is is not even that big right? I think it's all of Was it 19 it's like 15 pages. And it's a it's a 10 minute read, but this is this is what you take away. So what are some obstacles? What are some obstacles in chapter one? to this ideal life that we're talking about what you know, who do you want to become? What kind of life do you want to have? Do you want to have that fulfillment? Do you want life to be? Oh, humming, I know, I want to be humming, right, I want to just be a beautiful state of harmony and resonance. Um, maybe at some point, I'll share this a meditation where you can find the harmony and resonance within your own heart. to to to feel what to feel that to feel that resonance that I'm talking about. At least my again, this is all coming from my place of understanding at this current place time. And that's always growing. So obstacles to that ideal life obstacles are this right? You're gonna, you're gonna run into many books and authorities that tell you to be a good human so that you can profit. Ideally, you already behave this way. You treat people right? Because it's the right thing to do. You do think you do well, to be good, not just because of profit, and then attempting to link your values with external measures, like profit, cheap it and just credit your actions. Guys, I've gone down this path. And I know this to be true. Right? I've gone down this path, simply because I was just following, you know, some of those authorities, right? I was just following some of that. And if you do it for for expected gains, and then they don't happen, you're like, why isn't it happening? And you're attached to it? And, and again, it cheapens it like, you mean, you were only doing this so that this could happen? Yeah, I'm not proud of that. But at the same time I am, because I'm aware of what it's like to go through that. And I'm aware of what it's like to, you know, kind of, you know, follow this path, so that so that I could profit, right. I always tell people, I recently this recent interview, or somebody asked me how I get along this path of healing I was that wasn't on purpose. You know, when I went into it with the wrong intentions, I went into it, you know, to be a good human, so I could profit right, I wasn't for the right intention. But I've since grown out of that, right, I've since had a change of heart, I've since had a change of being. And it's it's it's powerful transformation. And again, that this book is a big part of it, a big part of it. So we're and this is a quote from Woodrow Wilson, which I think is super powerful. We are not here merely to earn a living and create value for our shareholders. We are here to enrich the world and make it a fire place to live. We will impoverish ourselves if we fail to do so this is exactly what we're talking about here. The current society is greed driven, has been driven by untested sciences and economics and also untested behavior models to justify actions. I don't have any specifics in front of me right now. But if we look back, I mean, the look and look at right now, we're going through, hey, let's just infuse it with cash. Let's, let's, uh, we look at I'm in the technology industry, where, you know, we're shutting Huawei out of like, all different types of networks. And when I say we, I mean, the United States of America. And again, to me, this looks more like, this looks more like it's to make America great again, versus the idea of, you know, a global, a global purpose, right? You know, the Euro, right, creating the Euro, all these things that are done to all these things that are done to propagate consumerism, right, and, and whatnot. This is driven by greed versus again, you becoming all of who you should become.

Brandon Handley 4:52
You don't have to take my word for it. Take a look at yourself as what's been done, for you to become the best of who you are. In Sreekumar, says, hey, these would otherwise be considered repeated activities. And I think that if you look deep enough, and, and and tightly enough, you'll you'll find the same, you'll find it to be true for yourself. Companies are changing for the better, there's a B corpse ought to look for some more of them, but one of them that I know of is Ben and Jerry's ice cream. And then we've also got the

Unknown Speaker 5:31
oposite.

Brandon Handley 5:37
So we've talked about the different companies, the B corpse, and how they're changing it to be a humane business paradigm, the company that I'm with is is one, I believe, where they put the people first people's growth burst, and how can they come in and contribute to the company as a whole? And how can they protect their people and make it so that they are not concerned so much about the need for survival. Because once you once you put that into somebody's mind, how am I going to survive, you begin to diminish that person's ability to create to operate, you diminish that person's ability to operate from a place of not abundance, a person's ability to operate from abundance. If you take that away from a person like that, we freak the fuck out. Alright, they are going to be they're going to be looking at a ways that they can make ends meet, they're going to be looking for different things that they're going to focus on survival just spoke about, and Maslow's hierarchy of needs. When you look at your survival needs, you are not able to focus on growth and thriving spaces, because if something's missing in their survival Foundation, you will focus on that until it has been resolved most cases, most cases, see change where you are, you know, so you don't have to, you're able to, you're able to go out and look for or create a company that you can align with, you will enjoy work more, you'll you'll be in harmony with your either your own values, or that company's values, and they exist, and you can create that. Or you can create that and you will find, again, if you can align with a company's values. And if they are working, and from the position of going to humane business paradigms. It's going to be that much more, right you're going to get you're going to have that kind of fulfillment in your life. I believe that we can go ahead and we can jump into the final piece of chapter one of the ideal life. And you can we will jump into the quest for more. The idea, the myth that is that more, makes you happier. Right. And and as we go, we look back at some of these other ones I'm trying to think of, yeah, obstacles to an ideal life, you know, powerful Institute's are driving this powerful Institute's drive marketing companies, you know, the companies that are strictly looking forward to going back to even the Woodrow Wilson quote, right.

Unknown Speaker 9:03
You

Brandon Handley 9:05
You're not here just to make shareholders happy, okay. And know that so they're powerful Institute's driving that kind of economy, our current economy, our focuses and fosters consumption only. One of our key metrics that is posed as a benefit is our per capita consumption. How's that? Yeah. We're great consumers. And this, this key metric proves it right? Is that something to be proud of? And it goes, goes back to kind of a attachment to outcomes. A, you go for more because you believe having more of that. Versus more of what you already are and have will make you happier. is funny because more of anything and everything will make you happier. That's a myth. More money, cars, houses friendships, freedom, leisure. Ironically, more of less, I want I want simplicity. I want minimalism. renunciation more, more more of all these things that you know, versus what you already have, you don't need more. To make you happier. You simply, you know, you kind of, it's okay. It's okay. It's okay want more for sure. But do not connect having more with your happiness, okay? You do not need to struggle to find happiness srikumar Rao says, Hey, you know, you do the work in this book, that it will come unbidden that the you do the work in this book, and it will well you'll find happiness well up Within You Without making that a struggle without putting happiness, you know, as the goal without happiness. It's funny because happening at the word just like happenstance, you are reacting into relation to something happenstance that something that is without you that really is are the external conditions. Going through this book, a portion of what you will find is I found, at least as I have found, you will find that happiness is with you at all times, will find that happiness is with you at all times. So that's been chapter one, an ideal life of Are you ready to succeed, the plan is to go ahead and continue with this, I don't know, I don't have a specific goal. For how long this is going to take, I do know that the plan is simply to complete it. And the idea is almost that remove time, from how long these things are going to take, right? If I rush this again, then it's going to take me longer, right? If I stop for a moment, as I did, as I have done as the book recommends, when something hits you stop for a second, be with it, feel it, let it be you know, a certain line or is still every time again, guys, girls, any fucking body. The idea is, you know, when something hits you stop and be with it, feel it. So this has been chapter one. I think there's you know, 910 chapters, I forget, it's been a while but I'm gonna go through them all, I plan to share them all out with you. And let me know if you're if you'd like to a you know, join join up with the group that I've got going for this right now. If you'd like to participate, because again, going through this book by yourself while it can be you can do it and it's great. It's much nicer to kind of go through it with the community and with others. And and you'll be able to kind of bounce ideas off of each other right? The will have a diversity of minds, as it were as we approach it together. So guys, take it easy. Be on the lookout for many more interviews coming up. Many other solo podcasts coming up and again, this little little journey that we're going through. Are you ready to succeed?

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Are you ready to succeed | Chapter 01 | Deep Dive 4 of 5

Published: Nov. 5, 2020, 7:04 a.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 53 seconds

https://youtu.be/DQzc2dAKzXI

Brandon Handley 0:00
Now we will go on to chapter one ideal life. This chapter is really only like it takes you 1015 minutes maybe to read, right? These are all of my takeaways, as I'm going through this as I'm reading it as I'm engaging with it. So, are you ready to succeed? chapter one, the third ripple, which is societal change, he Sreekumar calls leadership

Unknown Speaker 0:23
bad.

Brandon Handley 0:25
Shots fired. The truth is he made there are very few leaders out there, there are many who have hierarchical, hierarchical, hierarchical positions, right? Many people who have authority out there and they can they can all put you in a good or bad place. But the deal is Oh, yeah, and and the idea is to that neither one of those, they don't really care if you achieve your potential, all that they really care about is whether or not you feel the potential you feel the need for the role that you do to reach the level of productivity that you need to underneath of them. Okay. Also, the most of these people use they haven't been trained. Alright, maybe they haven't been they haven't been trained. They don't. They may not be here and I love this not able to manifest the life force that wins dedicated commerce to their vision. First of all, you got no vision. What do you what do you personally manifesting lifeforce for right that's why did the podcast on vision that's why vision is so important. It is to help you to manifest that lifeforce. This guy to dedicate converts, you know, to your vision. What is your life? You know, what would it What is your vision? If you don't have a vision, it's very difficult to be a leader. True Self interests, teaches selflessness. Now, again, that may seem kind of oxymoronic. But the idea of being a leader is to do things in service of others. How can How can you lead others to their own greatness? Right? How can you help someone to find out the best of who they are? Right here enlightened leadership is service. So what does it What does that look like for you? Have you been in the presence of a leader? Have you been in the presence of someone who can spell out their vision and you can just, you can feel it with them, and you want to be a part of that? And they come over you? And they're like, Well, you know, how would you like to contribute? You're like, ah, I don't fucking know. Nobody's ever asked me what I'd like to do to help you, you know, help, you know, be a part of this. They've always told me what I need to do. And you know, so leadership says, Hey, you, how would you like to do today? Do you like this? Can you see this vision? Are you a part of this vision? What would you like to do to help make this vision come true?

Unknown Speaker 3:16
And how can how can

Brandon Handley 3:19
I as a leader, you help you become who you want to become? Right? throughout this process? That's the true self interest. That's the well being of all, you know, again, the vision about the well being of self alone. Yeah, sure. I could have a great life. And again, go back to just following the instructions and doing the thing and have a have a life that doesn't require or incorporate any of this. But that's hollow. That's tinny? That's Yeah, I mean, so there's, there's, there's, that's a me lacks fulfillment. Leadership is a state of being not a skill.

Unknown Speaker 4:10
I love that. So

Brandon Handley 4:10
you have to go through today. And again, going back to the idea that let's let's take, let's take Facebook, let's take marketing, let's take, you know, all these 10 x your XYZ and you know, become this person, do these things, follow these steps, and this will happen for you. It's no good to study those specific styles, right? What is it about that person? Really, what is their intention? What reflect on the deeper qualities of that person, their style of leadership? What are they really doing what they do and this reminds me of Bob Proctor right. When he started the beginning, he would go up on stage and present and you know, you I could take I could take someone's scripts, I could take the words that somebody says and go through all those things, and I could do that. The things that would not have their results would not have their results just by doing the things that they did taking those actions, that's not going to get me there. I might have some source, I might, I might have something there, but I'm not, I'm not going to have those specific results, because I'm trying to apply these like skills, I'm trying to apply these tactics, and there's no intention in there for me, and chances are that I'm doing those things out of more more of a self interest of just unify me only me, me, me, me centered, versus how can? What is it that I'm doing that is bringing you both spiritual and material growth? Right? How am I helping you by showing up today? And it's once once we once we see kind of like, you know, these deeper qualities, you know, not even just you what's beyond you, you know, what's that grand vision for the world, the universe that I live in, where, whereby my helping you helps to bring up all of humanity. All right. So then, you know, different styles of leadership and methods of awareness appear to apply to all people all situate once you get this shit, once you get this stuff, man, once you get even just the beginning of this stuff, you start to build momentum, you start to see this applied, you sit at home, you know, I always always start at home, especially when I was doing fatherhood for the rest of us. Once you apply this at home,

Unknown Speaker 6:52
with your family with you,

Brandon Handley 6:57
that will do you'll see that apply in your community that will apply at work that will apply everywhere you go.

Brandon Handley 7:05
So you'll see it in all situations is it does it again, once you've once you get it, once you understand how this stuff works, it'll start you'll start to see it everywhere you go, you can't not you are a creature, you know that that seeks and creates your own types of patterns. Once you recognize a couple of these patterns and things quite literally, almost with a noisy clump, fall into position, you can't help but see, again, the jobs quote as you can't connect the dots going forward. But as you look back, you will be able to see that this does indeed apply everywhere all the time. And if that's the case, again, copy successors, there are you'll recognize where you've been successful and where somebody else has been successful, and you're able to see the parallels, and you'll be able to apply that going forward. And again, not not just for your own success, but for the success of all people involved. Right. And so leaders, because the leader, again, once you recognize this stuff, because the leader sees clearly they can shed light on others. To me, this is the idea of seeing divinity within themselves, they can see it and others reflect it back to them. And for the greater whole, you see everything as a miracle, right? You see everything as as divine, that everything, you know, that changes the way you see thinks. And leaders, you know, eventually, you know, they can see the bigger picture because they've gone beyond themselves, they see how it's all going to interact, and they see how to apply these patterns. So the idea of organizational change, to motivate, you know, to get you just to go do something is kind of demeaning and demotivating, right, like, if I look at you as a unit and I'm like oh what if I motivate you with this and then judge you're just more productive? For me? That's kind of demotivating right and the meaning because I'm just trying to get you to do what I want you to do under me as a management and as a greater level of productivity looking at you as a productivity unit in an industrial sense in an industry and sure we all want to be industrious um but again that's for me not view my job or a leaders job again is to find out what is it that is d motivating you? What is it that if I look at the book, glad right here I think no standout 2.0 right. Wait, wait. I'm so skilled, gives a shit about your weaknesses, right? If you play together as a team, and I put you in To where you're strongest at, you play your strengths. If you're playing to your strengths, chances are you're going to be much more motivated than if I come over to you and say, you know, you know, you didn't get your TPS report done. Right? And and maybe that's just not your thing. All right, find out what it is this demotivating, you remove the demotivator, remove the op, you're not, I'm not removing obstacles, so much as an A leader isn't so much removing an obstacle so much as they are helping you to navigate. I recently had a coaching session. And I told the coach, I said, Listen, let me just keep going kind of along my own way. And I'll reach out to you if I hit a wall. And he goes, Well, what about not hitting that wall at all? Right? What if I can, since as a leader, since I've been in the year, your situation, your space before, a point out where a couple of walls are held you meet or not even you physically point them out, but just help you to navigate them so that they never

Unknown Speaker 11:15
appear?

Brandon Handley 11:17
Right? He goes, yes. What happens if I make it so you never have to hit the wall? Like Well, that's, that's great. Right? How much time is saved that? So I love it, right? He's obviously Sreekumar Rouse obviously got like a kind of a thing for like the incipit imitator, right? The exercise in this book will help you become an authentic leader, instead of turning you into an insipid imitator, right. And I think that it's a line from Sherman, I'm flipping through the book real quick here, because I've got, you need to command the souls of others as well as their bodies. And you do this at first. But by working on yourself, right, he goes, uh, commands the soul of his men, right? You got to command the soul of men, that's from William Sherman, I'm guessing from you know, back in the day that the tank leader, but you do that by working on yourself first, I can't, I can't change anybody else, the only thing I do is change myself. And then once you start changing yourself, you begin to see the change in others. I know that sounds again, you know, kind of paradoxical, but it but it is true. In addition, leadership is inclusive of your family roles. And to me, once you start doing these things at your home first, if you have the opportunity to to work on yourself

Unknown Speaker 12:47
at home,

Brandon Handley 12:48
Imagine being able to do it around those that you know, love and trust with your family, then you are able to it really it's really a great place to practice, right. And it's a good place to implement leadership, how can I help my wife You know, become who she wants to become How can I help my boys become who they want to become not who I want them to become? Who do they want to become? Right. So, leadership in the family sense. So cut it there on the third chapter are on the third, third ripple. And as you can see, you know, once once you know individual organizational and into an opportunity as you grow. If you have the opportunity to become a leader in a certain space, then you can have the most impact, a greater impact and you can become that super strong ripple.

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Are you ready to succeed | Chapter 01 | Deep Dive 3 of 5

Published: Nov. 4, 2020, 7 a.m.
Duration: 12 minutes 35 seconds

https://youtu.be/eXkhBwEBnpw

Brandon Handley 0:00
So as we continue through the book, are you ready to succeed. And as we continue on to the second ripple, which is organizational change, we're gonna we're gonna look at how we can, you know, we can look at the idea of how we connect, and how that determines our lives. And then we also look at the idea of, how do we how do we determine how do we differentiate between a pure network contact,

Brandon Handley 0:30
which are cultivated for connections and positions and and all this other stuff? Right? We go after the Hey, what do you do? Oh, man, you could really help me what I do, and let me see how I can use you. And your role for for my gain my company's gain, right versus a true contact, right? Which is gonna change our intention, how can I? How can I How can I help you out? What is it that you do? How can I help you close a gap? We look at Zig Ziglar. And his old saying, which was, you know, the more you help others to get what they need, the more you can get what you know, help others get what they want, so that you can get what you want type of thing. So that type of intention, and I love that srikumar Rao has in here, whatever you are trying to do, must bring spiritual and material growth to others, right? How can I help you to grow spiritually, and materially, because live that we we live in those two different worlds, and that's okay. And that is what's going to begin your organizational change, you know, to change how you connect, how do you connect, let go of the idea that you person or body that you are the orchestrator of the events, it goes back into kind of creating the serendipitous events, how we don't even know how we are here in existence, let go of the idea that you are the specific orchestrator of events. When when you know, so again, that also goes back to the idea of control what you can control. That's just kind of like your thoughts and emotions and reactions, responses, that type of thing. Everything outside of that. It's beyond your control. And again, this is this is this is coming at this with my current level of understanding. Okay, so second ripple, organizational change, when you have the right mixture of passion and detachment, as well as the acceptance of what really happens. So, look, I'm super excited to be involved with some of the technology that I'm involved with, and some of the ideas that I'm working on. But I'm not

Unknown Speaker 3:04
attached

Brandon Handley 3:07
to the outcome, being what I believe it needs to be right. So I think it should come out like this, or even a relationship or dinner, anything, right? I go out at night and get a flat tire, we should go out. I remember one night that Meg and I, you know, went out how to Uber and, you know, the, the date night, we hit a deer on the way home Buber driver hitting you know that that was you know, if I was would have been attached to a certain outcome, that outcome, that wouldn't have been the outcome, right. And I could have gotten angry or upset that that happened, right? I could have gotten angry the doober driver, you didn't dodge it or whatever. But I accepted it. We accepted it of what really happened. And again, in technology, or, you know, in the sales business, wherever you are, you know, you've got a great idea I made this video, this is what I'm creating. I'd love for it to have thousands and millions of views. Maybe maybe one maybe get zero views and and that's got to be okay, I'm not doing it just for the likes, or the or any of it. I'm doing it because I enjoy it. I'm doing it because I believe that there's value for you to go through it as well. I believe there's value in these concepts and ideas. And the more that I learned about them, the more that I put them into my own mind, the more that I could bring bring into the world with them, if that makes sense. All right. So also think about the idea and like he says, you know, in an army, you know, you create these different connections, right you can, you've gone through this organizational change, and army will show up to support you the moment that you need it. You ever, you know, once you realize that you're not the person that needs to To create and do it all, soon as you realize that you're a member of a team, and you're willing to be a supporter in that team. This is something that I, you know, eight years working at Cisco, I think taught me. So I went in there and I just wanted to help and

Unknown Speaker 5:19
do

Brandon Handley 5:20
do well with others and help them along. And, and the idea is that it wasn't for just six, I just wanted to help. That's wanted to make sure that the work that I was doing, was helping another person, get their sales, again, helping them to get what they need, so that I get what I wanted type of thing. But not even that wasn't even even wasn't even done with that intent. I just wanted to do the work. And I want to do it because these were good people. And, and they showed it all the time, I they would turn back around, and they would support me all the time. How but it also reminds me to have the idea of an army of angels that I had an interview with like a Mar, the deal is like, Listen, whatever you're putting out there, as long as you're putting out there, like good stuff, you're supporting others and trying to help others. The moment you need them, the moment you need that army of angels, they are going to show up and support you. In the in the chapter of an ideal life under organizational change, he's got a James Allen quote, about the golden opportunities that will present themselves on your path. And honestly, this is always happening, going back up to the idea that there's going to be obstacles in your way, those obstacles. Man, I really, I still don't like the book. But you know, the obstacle is the way that obstacle, that challenge is, is the golden opportunity. What is it that's in there, if there's an obstacle in there, it's going to take some type of growth out from you from your team, from your ability to change perspectives, you simply need to identify it as such, and move forward on that, can I make this larger, let me make this larger. On the screen that is so that's that James Allen, quote, golden opportunities present themselves on your path. As you continue through, going through this, this change, right books and other aids, will, that you need, will come to you unsought. also understand that the books for reflect

Unknown Speaker 7:27
your current

Brandon Handley 7:28
level of understanding, and often contains the keys that you seek. I think of this in the terms of, look, I went through my awakening or conscious change, you know, that was a pretty dramatic, I don't, I didn't, I didn't understand the language that I needed to use, I couldn't understand it, because I hadn't been exposed to it before. I had no understanding. And I needed I need to these books that again, this is one of the books that came to, to my, to my aid, so that I could go ahead and I could grow in it, and could learn. So as we've got the, you know, the different levels of understanding that you're going to get from these books. You know, again, you're you've already got kind of queries in your mind, right? You've already got thought thoughts and ideas of how things are working, you've already got different ways of understanding. And what you're looking for is how do you teach that to others? How can you share that out? Right? I can't tell you the number of books that have just, that just continue to pop up in my life for the past like three, three and a half, four years that have helped me to understand

Unknown Speaker 8:58
me,

Brandon Handley 8:58
right, who've helped me to understand all of all, all of what I'm going through with you right now. In Are you ready to succeed? And, you know, movies, anything really once once you once you kind of develop this, this idea of any you don't even notice it right? Really, this is kind of looking forward if you haven't already seen this for yourself. So Steve Jobs quote is you you can only connect the dots going backwards. Another interesting just kind of a tidbit here, my kids read this book, Deuteronomy Stilton. And what was interesting and I thought that it was cool that they did this they they needed keys to the crystal cavern or something like that. And and there was a crystal key that they have to find within the book. Right that that seed is planted in their mind that the keys are within the book, right? They had to find these images of the the key Within the book, and you know, they don't see it that way right now I guarantee it, right. But my current level of understanding is, Wow, that's really cool that they put actual keys within the book that would help them to unlock different different things. And that's probably not the way the author intends it. But it could be wrong. This book will help you to powerfully connect in ways so that you are in harmony with your values. And to me it has, and I believe, I believe for you that it could otherwise otherwise I wouldn't be taken this much effort to to share it all out with you. If your current level of connecting is, you know, how can that person benefit me in my life? How can I go to network to you know, climb a ladder type of mentality? Can you get there and that way? Yes. How will you feel in the end? You know, can you get there? And what's that going to look like? That's a you know, that's just a question that I've got for you versus, you know, we talked about the different ways that we connect right and how to differentiate that become a light that intersects with other lights creating a unified and brighter spot the ideas of like different spotlights on the stage, the idea of you being a light spotlighting somebody else. And what's great for them out there. When you know, you're driving up a vehicle, car, when you have the headlights go they they are they are set so that they they they intersect each other in a brighter space in front of the vehicle. So they will you know, you could do you have to manually adjust them, at least you did at one point so that they face is called light alignment. And you need to adjust those headlights so that they intersect at a certain place where the beams will intersect facing down in front of you. And where they intersect. They create a brighter light and they work together as a team. So if you're working again as a team and not as an individual, as a part of the greater whole, as a part of the all then you you will create that stronger ripple that was discussed.

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Are you ready to succeed | Chapter 01 | Deep Dive 2 of 5

Published: Nov. 3, 2020, 6:57 a.m.
Duration: 14 minutes 8 seconds

https://youtu.be/TureXu59QPg

Brandon Handley 0:01
Have chapter one ideal life on both podcasts and the video. So part two, we're going to go into the first ripple, which is individual change. And, you know, the first ripple is, you know, be you want to be so involved with work that you that you love so much that the time flies and to me, that brings up the idea of the book and the concept of flow by Matt Haley, and I don't have his last name in front of me, but but my Hayley, and, you know, the idea is that you continue to grow each time you continue to learn and you continue to expand on what you already know and love and and converge on. And, you know, when you do that time will fly. That's part of the first ripple of individual change. A penetrating awareness of the course that you are creating, what what, where do you want it? Where do you see yourself right? What exactly is it that you are creating, and when you become aware of the choices that you are making and what you are doing with your life and your goal for life, then then the course becomes, develops more clarity. Alright, so again, here are a couple that come in here a clear knowledge of your place in the scheme of the universe. That's, that's something that, that you'll recognize in this and that also aligns with vision, you've got a vision, you may not know how to get to that end. But as you chart that course, that we're talking about, in the course of creating the becomes becomes clear as you work along.

Unknown Speaker 1:53
The work that you do,

Brandon Handley 1:56
feeds and brings you great contentment and peace you're getting this is the idea that you are getting what you put into the universe if you're if you're doing this work to serve others and to help them come along themselves and to bring them along. And it's not just for you. Um, that's you literally you get what you attract, right? That's the idea is to concept in my mind, again, this current level of understanding, you will face obstacles, those obstacles are not designed for frustration. those obstacles are designed to bring out the best in you, they help you to create a strong, sharp edge going back up the flow. And the idea is you're on the ever expanding edge of the universe. And you have to keep in mind that we are approaching all of this as though the universe really only wants what is best for you because you are a part of the universe and the universe is put you here for some reason and purpose and it wants to see you succeed so the universe is in full support of your endeavors and this is just a mindset that you create within your individual change in your individual change as you go through this lock doors will open mysteriously you don't need to know how some of these things are going to happen. You simply have to believe that they can and that they will and I can tell you from personal experience that this happens you put the vision out there and you put it out there with the intent with a with your purpose and and you take the first couple steps towards that and and things begin to open up and it's a it's this kind of indescribable but it happens you essentially your personal life becomes more fulfilling right? And to be to be honest with you looking for how the question should be how do I have a more fulfilling life To me it's not your why your why it's weaksauce your why it's cool, it's a sure it's a it's a it's a cool, it's like a pebble in the bottom of the lake. Right? Um, to me, the bigger piece this is your What is it that's going to bring you ultimate fulfillment in your life. I also love that he hits on the idea is if you're a parent as I am, and if you are understand that you know in this individual change that child or children will bring you great satisfaction also know that they will chart their own path and that you will not be able to To see their path,

Unknown Speaker 5:01
however,

Brandon Handley 5:04
if you will be their springboard and know that and to know that that's the case, to me that that brings me very much satisfaction. Being a parent and seeing it, I mean, see right now, I was working with Liam, my youngest to go, you know, create a video or do something he wants to do him my vision, my path, start his path, I can give him the ideas, he can give me his ideas, and I can try and help him and enact those. And however he decides to do it is up to him each day, and the individual change is going to be a, it's going to be an improvement over the day before, each one day more perfect than the day before. If you can imagine it. Maybe you don't think that the day before you today was perfect, but who knows. Just talking to I just had an interview, I just recently had an interview and the Word Perfect means that you don't need anything else, right? don't need any more to to to get through the day or two to get through life. So if you look at yesterday, did you have everything that you needed? In sometimes Did you have everything that you wanted in that day? It's neat, but like, did you have everything that you needed in order to have a successful day, and if that's the case, and you had a perfect day. So know that today, maybe and probably is more perfect than the day before. You will feel an infinite amount of gratitude. And this gratitude is tough. Gratitude is tough because most of us, especially as men are going through life in an A, in what we're going through it and a analytical mind first kind of thing. And as men in Western society, we've been taught to shut down or remote odds, shut that shit down. Right. So everything's by thought, everything's by analytics. Everything's by logic, everything's linear. And that's just that's just, that's just not the case. So the feeling of gratitude is something that we need to implement. And once we begin to get in contact, touch our feelings and understand what those feelings are. We can begin to feel gratitude. And as we think and feel gratitude at the same time. We are we are then tuning it in, right we are then we're then tuning ourselves to gratitude, mentally, with feeling and we are pulling that into our lives. You will recognize throughout all this process, right? This is again, this is the first individual change you will recognize all this is is the cosmic principle, which according to this book is the merger or emerging of spirit, body and mind.

Unknown Speaker 8:21
Ultimately,

Brandon Handley 8:22
sensation and feeling is really indescribable. I've done a podcast called I've done a podcast based on word called numinous with Carl Jung, and Theodore auto where whereby you have tried to capture some of what that cosmic principle looks and feels like. There's other ways to go through it and feel that but that's one way to recognize it. So this type of life is your birthright. There's nothing like this. It's nothing. This isn't entitlement. This is open to everyone. And it doesn't matter how old or young you are. Sure, birth rate. I mean, God I had a conversation the other day with my wife and I love her death. And she goes, you know, I'm not special. Nobody special. We're not you know, we're not a bunch of special snowflakes out there. Yes and no. Yes. And everybody is special and everybody's looking for a way to express themselves. The thing is, is that you've been taught not to express yourself to the fullest of who you are. You've been taught to express yourself in an industrial age into what you know, what is it about you that is most productive in an industrial environment. We are not industrial beings. We are fucking human beings. So what you got to do is convert back If you are, and understand that this is, indeed, your birthright, and as we go through this book, you'll understand that this is this is a process a way to achieve it. And so during the first ripple of individual change, you will also recognize that you must desire this desperately, you must want this with all of your being all of who you are. But you must also be okay with the dot happening. It like what the hell man? And this is what a Sreekumar calls the desire, paradox desire issues a paradox. And he also because because all paradoxes are resolved with greater understanding, and we can look at, we can look at, you know, what are some things that you wanted, when you were younger? What are some things that you wanted, when you were younger, you desired it, desperately, but they didn't happen. And, you know, sometimes, sometimes I can tell you with myself sometimes, like, for example of, you know, I partied way too hard back in the day, and what would have happened if I had been, you know, super rich, or had access to a lot of money in party that same way, I would have bought, like, more more jobs or more of these things, and those things that I desired at that time. Maybe they might have killed me, right, and we go scroll back up, and we're gonna say, all right, well, let's not forget that the universe, a universe is really kind of got my back on this right. In the universe's, like, he may not deliver on that. Because that's not in my best interest. That could be, you know, something that kills me. And so thank you universe for not delivering on some of those. That sub desire pirate paradox, again, the best that the greater understanding is, you know, then I'm like, Man, I'm pissed and upset that this didn't happen. today. I'm grateful and thankful, as I continue to go through life and learn and grow more, and can deliver some of these messages as I have a different level of understanding. As it says, as we've talked about, and the story of the you know, kind of like the layman and the master, right, attempting to rush this will double the time to achieve and impede progress. Again, imagine, if I put up a wall I put up, you know, even if it's an energetic wall, I create something and I put something in the way of allowing something in I am impeding progress by trying to go harder, faster, I'm not going to recognize I'm not going to see things because I'm too focused on my personal desire,

Brandon Handley 13:14
versus what may truly be better for me. So again, nature like a vacuum. Soon, as soon as you remove any energy or substance from an area, nature will replace it with another universe like, you know, likely result that you are seeking. And you can do something you can do with like half the effort. Right? Imagine, imagine that and I'm sure that you've, you've tried to open a jar of whatever. And, and sometimes you're turning, you're turning, you're suing you putting all this effort in one way. But if you almost like if you loosen the grip a little bit and turn it like with a little less effort, it finally releases. So that's going to be the first ripple of individual change. I'm going to cut it here as well.

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Are you ready to succeed | Chapter 01 | Deep Dive 1 of 5

Published: Nov. 2, 2020, 6:44 a.m.
Duration: 14 minutes 29 seconds

https://youtu.be/LlBPCccYkKw

Brandon Handley 0:00
Alright guys, what is going on? Welcome a spiritual dopers working with a small group. And I figured I'd share on the podcast to the book is called Are you ready to succeed? This is about the third or fourth time I've gone through this book, it's very powerful. I'm gonna be working on chapter one today, and one of the things I'm working on is do a vine map of this. So you may want to check out the video, you may want to just listen to podcasts nanji, May, you may just want to reach out to me. But that that's what today is about. Yeah, so we're gonna be we're gonna be sharing some of that with you. The book is again, are you ready to succeed streak Kumar Rao. Great book, I found it when going through, you know, my Ted bench fees. And he's got a video a TED talk called, you know, you are hardwired for happiness. that inspired me quite a bit, pick up the book. And when I first got the book, in the beginning of the book, it basically tells you, you need to commit to this, you need to be ready to go through it, you should have a group to do it and all these other other pieces. And I thought that was pretty cool. But I wasn't ready at the time took me a year to even decide to pick up the book. And then I went ahead and I decided that I would also I would also create a group to do it with and I did that. And this is I think the third or fourth year that diet each year I get a little bit different takes from it. And each year I grow a little bit more and come at it from a different angle. And just just wanting to share some of it with you. This is the first year that I've gone as deep as I've gone. Where I mean, I've got notes written I'm holding up on hold up the video, but i've you know, I've already highlighted it for the past couple of years. But this year, you know, I've got I've got new highlights, I've got new underlines. I've got notes in the I've got notes in the actual book, where are you? What are these things making me think of? All right, what is one of my takeaways? What's my level of understanding as I approached this book, this year, and this time, so this year, and this time, I will be recording, like I said, the this mind map that I'm using an app called x mind, I got this idea from God, gosh, man, what's the guy's name Rodriguez, he does some amazing videos over on YouTube. And I saw him going through his ex map, an ex mine and sharing out some other books that he's done. And I figured, hey, let's try that out for just myself as a way to again further ingrain some of this stuff and really embody it. The knowledge so I'm gonna go ahead and I'm going to pop over into I'm doing this in a video, like I said, I'm gonna pop over to x mind. The book is going to be rd rates succeed. The first chapter that we're dealing with here is his ideal life, right talks about what does it look like to build out your ideal life? And you know, because he has some questions in there, he says, Hey, are you you know, do you feel he sets the whole thing up? Right? Do you feel stagnant is uh, do you have low Connections is it you know, as you feel like life is short, and talk through it, because again, look every day, this this is some of the stuff makes you crazy writing every day that you're not radiantly alive and brimming with cheer is a day wasted, which is to me, like an uppercut into the soul. It takes your breath away. All right. Um, he also talks about the idea that there's a nonlinear relationship between the work that you do and the results. And he also ties that into a story

Brandon Handley 4:16
of like a Zen master. Right? So it turns into like a story of a Zen master the uses to, you know, illustrate this and basically, you know, let's say a monk or a lay person comes up to a Zen master or just a person who has mastery and goes, Well, how long is it going to take me? Master to get to your level, or at least a level of mastery? Because if you work at it now, it'll take 10 years. A guy goes bad 10 years. Well, what happens if you're at it? 24 seven, if all I do is is this? And his intent is to cut the time in half and in his mind is And this took me five years. And the master goes, if you double your efforts, instead of taking 10 years now will take you 20, it will take you 20. And when you think about it, you just think about all the efforts that you put into everything. And in my mind, it kind of brought up this this idea of if you're also again, this comes from a level of understanding all the other stuff that I've got my mind. So it comes up with the idea of all the imagine, you know, nature abhors a vacuum, that's, that's the line that I'm working with here. And maybe instead of putting all my energy into a space, I create the space and let nature fill that vacuum. And so what's that look like? It means again, if I'm putting all my effort, if I'm doubling my efforts, I'm not allowing anything else to get in. To my space, i'm not i'm not i'm putting all my energy versus letting some other energy or ideas into it, I think, you know, right now, my current level of understanding, that's how I that's how I see that. So in the ideal life section, it also talks about learning to create serendipitous moments. If you keep doing what you've always done and acting in the way that you've always acted, you can pretty much and thinking the way you've always thought you can pretty much expect to have the same results. So what does it look like to create a serendipitous moment, maybe you're inspired to go volunteer somewhere, you're there because you simply want to be there. And, you know, you run into some other people who believe in the same cause, and, and, and they, you know, they're in the spirit of giving their opening, giving and the happy to be there. And they know that their efforts are meaningful, and you create a connection with that person, then that person and you connect and then further further on throughout life and you know, eventually create something together. That would have never happened if you didn't leave your house because you are inspired to go volunteer, go do something, it doesn't have to be a volunteer activity. But that does it does look like acting on your inspiration or inspired moments in order to create those serendipitous moments. And that's right there be moved by deep inner conviction and you What do you believe in what is powerful for you? Right. I believe in this pledge believe in this. I believe in this book, I believe in you know, caring for my children, I believe in things for my family. For before like, career, all right. I believe that you know, I want to see what happens here or or even within right? If you look at the motto, I think I was Keller Williams for a little bit. It's God family, career, God family work, right. And as as we kind of come along this path and if you're a fan of Vedanta, or you know any other religion, they all tell you kind of focus on God first, but what does that mean? That's going to be you know, something that's up to you. So, you know, your ideal life again, you there's something in that you deserve, right? You deserve to wake up and have a brilliant and beautiful life that's filled with joy. So, how do you know that this book would be a fit for you? He goes through this book and it says, Hey, you know, how do you know this book would be be for you? Well, it basically this was the line of the book that that I knew that it was for me. Do you have the nagging sense that there's a great deal that you have to accomplish in this somehow? You are not living up to even a fraction? even a fraction

Brandon Handley 9:20
of your potential?

Brandon Handley 9:26
That's it That's a hell yeah, for me it was a hell yes. Every time I read that line, it's a hell yeah. Is this is comfort, strong and growing again, that's a big Hell yeah. A big Hell yeah. Are you willing to make the effort to Know thyself every time? What who is thy self goes back into that deep inner convictions. Right? Who? Who are you?

Unknown Speaker 9:52
Right?

Brandon Handley 9:54
That's where we kind of get into you're not living up to even a fraction of your potential. Where's your connection who With right, according to his book, you know, these are these are just a couple of the the key indicators that you are indeed a fine fit to we pick up this book and check it out why change matters, right? You know shifts of consciousness can occur with started startling rapidity. When I first picked up this book, I think that I was in I was in just a, you know, follow these steps, and these are the things that will happen for you. kind of mentality, it was very external. It was very, I guess, career externally motivated. And is somewhere in between reading this book and, and, and the first and second time, it has some massive shifts in consciousness. And it's hard not to say that the part of that didn't because it wasn't because of this book, or in part because of it. So where are a couple of areas that need to change, you know, where, where change will need to occur. So that's individual change. And I think that that's, that's fairly self explanatory. It goes on to so there's three levels of it. So the individual, organizational and societal individual fairly self explanatory. Organizational. goes over says, look, the old command and control hierarchies are unsuited to our current era. Right? That and, and some of the change mechanisms that are out there, they're, they're really literally just just band aids. Right. And I love the visual that sukumar puts out there is that band aids cannot cope with a severe artery, right? She shouldn't need surgical, high level medical assistance, you know, a complete and total, you need the doctor, right? He's somebody who can really come in and help with that. So that's an organizational change, right? And then under societal value changes, better leaders will only emerge when we change what we honor. Right now, we honor a lot of this material, external success only at the detriment to the detriment often, of the internal personal self, to the family to too many other things. And it doesn't have to be that way. God, I love this line Tuesday of spreading ripples from a stone tossed into a pond. And this is under societal, right spreading ripples from a stone and toss it upon with ripples growing stronger instead of attenuating. Let's take a look at it in this in this one way. We can look at it in in kind of a social network kind of way. Or if you're from the finance world, one at one of the things that they'll have you look at and finance when you're going through it. Business Finance and and you know, who's kind of like the most likely to pay? Or, you know, be engaged with you? Is it the person that has, you know, kind of put the most money in? Or is the person who's paid last I mean, that's, that's one of the that's one way to look at it. Right? Generally speaking, it's going to be the person who's engaged last with you. Versus, you know, over time, so who the one closest and most recently engaged is going to be your stronger ripple. Another way to look at it as kind of as, as you speak your truth, as you engage others, the ripple you know, you know, attenuate it means that it gets, you know, kind of weaker as it goes out there. Instead, it's going to grow stronger. And we're going to talk a little bit about that as we get into the third report societal change, and you'll see how and why that can happen. But again, imagine, imagine that, you know, it's weak from the center and it's not until later that that, that that, that that ripple finally grows into a tsunami

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Shannah White

Published: Nov. 1, 2020, 11:15 p.m.
Duration: 48 minutes 51 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00

4321 Hey, there's spiritual dope and welcome back to another interview session with. I'm here today with channel wave. She is a super humanity coach. at Sacred reality his sacred reality is an organization that is making the mystical, practical. And what they're doing there is they're giving, helping you to create a paradigm of natural giving from an inner sense of wholeness, real intimacy, peace and freedom to be off in authentic and relationships, ease of self expression and communication, confidence and gentleness, sensitivity to love, within an inner guidance system for appropriate harmless action, and joyful alignment between inner purpose and one's work within the community. And Shana, her coaching focus is on practical skills of mine that enable you to connect with your own inner spiritual resources by which you can naturally blossom in a wholesome sense of self worth, peace, joy, and freedom to be yourself and be in love with your life. This work heals your relationship with the self, which is the basis for all healing, and all other relationships. The foundation of the self awareness practice is summed up by coming to experientially understand all aspects of the following morning meditation, which I'm not going to read about that. How are you today?

Shannah White 1:35

I just have to make one correction. It's Shauna,

Brandon Handley 1:38

Shauna, you know, it's so funny. It's so funny. I totally ignored intuition. When I was like, I asked her This is Shana or Shan Shan. Hundred percent, not not even not even a lie. Like I was like, let's just kick it off. So you got a shout out. Thank you so much for for being here today. And I love I love I love the I love the piece about super humanity. Let's Um, so I'd like to start this off with the idea that source speaks to us, right? divine energy, we are conduits for the universe. And the idea is that you are speaking to somebody who is listening today. This message only flew for them through universal source. What does that message?

Shannah White 2:28

Oh, what is that message today was a message we have right

Brandon Handley 2:31

now what's called source?

Shannah White 2:33

Aha, thank you.

Shannah White 2:36

Gosh, well, I suppose messages that you are loved in motion. And yet, I understand that you may not know how to experience that in yourself. But it's simpler than you think. It's not as far away or as complicated as we make things with the complexity of our thought process and the way we tie our emotions into our thought process.

Shannah White 3:07

It's really

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giving yourself permission to relax completely out of thinking. And there can be fear involved in doing that. But if you can open up a space where you can relax, and let your thoughts also relax. And then move your feelings and sport. Actually, you know, there's a transition from thinking to feeling because we even think in order to experience ourselves, we experience ourselves through imaging. So it's really like, the step is to turn off the imaging. Maybe you notice how you feel yourself where your sense of self is, like, I'm familiar with feeling my sense of self behind my eyes, if I'm in my head if I'm thinking and then shifting out of that place, turning off the visual processing, and moving that awareness and feeling into the body. Like for me below the jaw, maybe I start with back my head, let him move down into my being and just become curious what there is to feel in this space. And this is already the beginning of peace possibly mean really depends on who. Well, people can have challenges you might have emotional energy builds up in your fields. So that might be the first thing that you notice that you feel when you get yourself to To just feel. But as we go deeper in this experience of just feeling without thinking, and breathing, allowing the breath to be the navigation device for our feeling,

Shannah White 5:18

which means for instance,

Shannah White 5:22

I can breathe right now and feel like

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everything in letting the breath, open up my middle back and feeling what my middle back feels like. But I'm not just feeling the physical quality of my middle back, I'm also feeling the kind of emotional or energetic quality in that space in my being. So and then just being with what I feel, noticing it being curious, and being so something magical happens just from us showing up to witness what we feel. And emotion can clear just from being with that process. So that's the beginning and stop, where I'm ultimately looking to end up. There's no end really, but where I'm looking to go is deeper inside the center of my chest with this feeling quality. So after I feel a sense of ease in the hole of my body, then I will pull myself deeper inside or bring my focus, look inside with my feeling, not with my visual, but look inside with my feeling into the center and my chest. Now just keep going deeper and deeper and deeper into that center. So it's, it's kind of deeper, like the center is maybe four inches in or whatever. But I'll go deeper than those four inches into that very center. And I just keep going deeper until this warm energy ignites of its own accord.

Brandon Handley 7:08

So this is kind of a description of love and motion, right, you are loving motion. And that's kind of the journey to and through it. And some of the experiences that you'll feel throughout that process.

Shannah White 7:18

This is the description of how to connect with love energy. The to become loving motion is, you know, every time we move, okay to become loving motion is to listen to the energy of love, to find our movement to inspire our movement. In every moment, we're listening to a voice inside us, that is telling us what to do. And that's either the voice of our history, the way we've learned to process it through our personal reality, which is unfamiliar calling that the ego. Or we're listening to the voice of spirit, the voice of the heart, this love energy that comes from the center of our core, but we have to be available to hear it. When we're all busy in our head. and pulling from our history and getting emotionally involved in the way we're thinking about things. Our attention is all in the outer sphere of our being and on the material plane. Our attention is like a spotlight. So if you've ever noticed that, perhaps you've gotten a bruise and you don't know where you got it from.

Shannah White 8:39

All the time, all the time.

Shannah White 8:42

Well, for me, that's proof that my attention is like a spotlight and my attention was so exclusive on something else that I didn't even notice that I hurt myself that is on there.

Brandon Handley 8:54

That's all like that. I like that. Yeah, so God.

Shannah White 8:57

Yeah. So when we're our attention is all focused up in here. We're looking away from and not listening from, we're looking away from our feeling sense. And yet our feeling says comes back around and becomes full of our emotional reactions to what we're thinking. So there's another layer of distraction. So this way, we have this kind of unplug the thinking and let the feeling sense clear. It's like all the ripples on the water just settle out in the water becomes still and then in the stillness. Now we can start to hear like heart music

Shannah White 9:36

in the center.

Shannah White 9:39

So it's a

Shannah White 9:43

it's a listening skill, inner listening skill. But then when we can listen and actually start to feel that love energy. Then we have somebody to work with for how do I move in This moment as when when we go to do something, the first thing is going to happen is we're going to go back up here because we have a whole library of ideas that we chest of how to handle different situations. So we reach for typically, we reach for the easiest thing that we know how to do, right? So it takes patience and practice, but we can learn, we can rewrite our choices about what we trust, for how to move. So here's a really great way to think about it actually. It's whether we reach for the known, or for the unknown. Because the unknown is basically like we reach for something from memory could be a belief, well, I don't know what else it would be actually, because we started because we believe that we thought, Hey, this is good, I'll use this again, right. But the place, the alternative to that is a place where we are hanging out in the inner and I call the inner unknown, where we are choosing not to go for what we know from before. And instead, we're allowing ourselves to say, Hi, this is a completely new moment. And I do not know, based on history, I do not know, let me feel what do I feel right now.

Shannah White 11:22

Jeff becomes our

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vehicle for discernment.

Shannah White 11:30

So but then also, when we practice feeling that love energy in our center, and then we choose to move to our day, with the patience to wait in the unknown before we move. And to wonder what our What are feeling sense has to tell us about this moment, then we start to find that we can move in alignment with love energy.

Brandon Handley 11:57

I like the idea of feeling sense. All right, what does that what does that mean? Right? And what is what is feeling sense? Because, you know, I get the feeling and I sent something, right? Is this an internal external feeling? You know, just to expand a little bit on what you mean by feeling sense?

Shannah White 12:17

Sure. Okay. So the feeling sense is our intuitive sense, it's our ability to read energy.

Shannah White 12:28

And

Shannah White 12:30

our feeling sense, is also where our emotions register. I think of emotions as the energetic feedback from our thoughts. So when so it's like an instrument, this feeling senses like an instrument. And I feel it from my jaw, to my belly button, in a sphere. So I also also actually feel like I feel sometimes I feel like I feel energy kind of behind and below my arms. So it's not limited to the body. I do feel like in order to use my feeling sense, I have to bring my attention inward. If I look outward, thinking, I'm going to feel something out there. I lose my feeling sensitivity. And the energetic sense that, you know, emotion can just come and find you.

Shannah White 13:29

Where you are. Right?

Brandon Handley 13:32

Well, you know, I'm a little caught up in the idea of the Taurus right now. Like there's a toroidal field. Right? And, and so, you know, if you're looking anywhere outside of yourself, you're kind of fumbling and signals may be weaker, whereas when they come into your core, that's your receiver. Right? So I mean, to me, like, you know, that's, that's where the, that's where the signals being sent, it's a matter of tuning yourself to, to signal, right, and especially if you're not familiar with this space, if you've never been taught how to tune in the first couple times, you start to tune in, it's gonna be real weak, right? I mean, just like, again, is eerie and funny as it was at the beginning of our conversation, I had an inner sense that I should ask you, how should I pronounce your name? Right? And I totally ignored it. But now I'm like, right. And so it's when we it's, it's these small recognitions of catching those moments and jotting them down and remembering that that just happened, that you begin to develop that ability to tune in more and more often, and that's going to come to the inside though. Does that sound fair?

Shannah White 14:52

Yes. But I think so part of what's going on in what you're talking about when you say writing it down. You You're taking the time to process what happened, which allows you to, to actually incrementally increase your trust in that. And then you're like, Oh, I can trust that. So then next time, you might be more interested in listening. And the other thing is that there's a Would you agree that there's an element of do blow right past, like do rush to be rush past the intuitive hits? versus exercise in patience in the unknown? And say, Wait, I just felt something that would you say, that's part of the,

Brandon Handley 15:41

you know, I am, I am so bad at waiting on anything. So, patience, as I was growing up, I was always taught patience is a virtue. I given to the idea of of letting things unfold. Right. I love the Buddhist, you know, one of the sayings is the flower blossom thing, right? If you're trying to squeeze the bud of a flower to accelerate it blooming, that doesn't, that doesn't do it, right. So you can't squeeze that you got to let it unfold on its own. So I agree with you that it's just a matter of stop doing right start being

Shannah White 16:20

and allowing the sign and waiting like that, right, I will either move slow enough that I can process it and say, wait a minute, I just heard something, right? Or I won't. And I'll be like, Nope, sorry, I'm reaching for the nearest file and made a structure for this one.

Brandon Handley 16:41

Right, right. No. And I think that that comes that comes with time, and I love I love the idea of,

Unknown Speaker 16:49

we don't have to

Brandon Handley 16:49

slow down, we need to calm down, right? And just let the things come to us again, instead of trying to accelerate anything. We were actors in this whole thing, right? We are, you know, our lines are given to us or coming to us and and we're kind of acting them out. And we're following our intuition. But if we can slow down a little bit, we can enjoy it a little bit more,

Unknown Speaker 17:17

right?

Brandon Handley 17:18

And we can allow for it to blossom. And I don't even like that I don't like evolve anymore. I don't like leveling up anymore. Words like that. To me. That's just Where are you? Right? Where are you not above or higher than anybody else? You're just you are becoming more aware of what already is? So that's right. I mean, there's everything, you know, everything already exists. It's just what's our awareness of it.

Shannah White 17:47

That's true. That's true. What do you mean by work? factors? Enter? Right?

Brandon Handley 17:54

Yeah, I don't know. I'm just, you know, just kind of throw stuff out there. Again, like, so, you know, when we started this things off, right? Like, what's coming through us isn't sometimes even necessarily for us. Right? The acts that we do and given sometimes we're like, Why don't just do that. And I'll use an example. Like, I wrote something out last week and shared it and like, I didn't, didn't honestly put much effort into it social media posting, like, Oh, my God, I got to get a post out today, because I'm on a schedule, my train is going to be late, that kind of thing. Um, so anyway, I put a post out there. And yeah, I put some thought into it. But again, just nothing crazy. And somebody reached out to me, a friend of my friend of my wife's, she goes, she goes, can I use the words that you wrote there? I was looking for something to you know, say it. My mother's wake about my mother. And this was, this was it and this is like a day or two before and she'd been struggling find these these words. I was like, by all means, right. I was like, obviously, that wasn't for me.

Unknown Speaker 18:59

Right.

Brandon Handley 19:00

And it's like, the only you know, one or two people that saw or liked the posts. And, you know, that's what that was for. So we're kind of actors where we are receivers. And it's kind of like, um, we can act on our intuition or we can ignore it. Right. And I find that when we act on it, we tend to be doing somebody else outside of ourself. Some good

Shannah White 19:28

right? Right. I was talking about this with someone today that I feel like we could think about I don't mind the word God, but could be universe could be love of capital L could be whatever. Sure. Um, but

Shannah White 19:44

I was thinking about that.

Shannah White 19:48

Loving motion is actually God's thoughts coming to be expressed sure that it's not just us that we're, you know, are you I think from my perspective, so that looks like one person. We're all in this ocean of thoughts moving. And we can either like stick your head out of the ocean and be like, I'm gonna think my thoughts, my little thoughts, you

Unknown Speaker 20:10

know, be the wave, right?

Shannah White 20:12

Go library, right? Or I could just ride slow flow in this ocean and be part of a dance that includes everyone who's willing to relax, and also feel the flow and flow in the flow. Yeah. And then things like that happen. Which is beautiful. That's beautiful.

Brandon Handley 20:34

Yeah, when it open, when it opens up, it's great, right? And that's just the, the constant awareness, developing an awareness, being open to it. And all of that fun jazz, I want to talk about you and your super humanity coaching, let's talk about, let's talk about what it means to be a super humanity, coach, give me a one to know all about it.

Shannah White 21:01

Okay, so first of all, what we were just talking about actually does touch a little bit on what I'm indicating, by the word, super humanity. where, you know, it's natural for the human being to be an extension of love, or to be loved in motion. But we are not taught how to use our minds to enable this way that we're indoctrinated in, in a when we're young, I think from our head, and to distressed, shuts down our capacity to, to experience the energy of love in our center. And we're also taught that all the following ways you become an expert is by consuming information outside yourself, and then get a badge that says, Look, I consumed all this information outside of myself, I am now authorized to regurgitate it to you and you have to listen because now I'm an expert.

Brandon Handley 21:58

Right? I think and we were talking about this before, right? How annoying is it? Like you have to you have to run around you have to go pick up a certificate for from somebody or somebody be like, Listen, I can do this because I I consumed all this stuff guy Kiko.

Shannah White 22:10

Right, right, where there's this whole other level of authority and knowledge that comes from within, you can't get by consuming from without. So this is where this is where super humanity comes in. Because it's our heart center is a portal to connect with the divine. And that is beyond the definition of human that has been created by the mundane materialistic focused world, the the outside in focus world. So super humanity calls to, for calls out this experience of being human that is beyond what the world has defined as human and humanity. Where it's about letting go of your beliefs, getting out of the belief, emotion, dynamic of personal reality. And actually, walking in service to love energy, it really feels like walking in service, because it's not about what I want from a little I place. It's about feeling letting this energy come in and, and move you but what's really wild, okay, is that before experiencing this, it feels like, Oh, no, I'm going to give up my self, I'm going to give up my will. I'm going to be I'm going to sacrifice myself to be in service. But when you actually experience it, it doesn't feel like that. It feels like oh my god, I feel so aligned, and peaceful and relaxed in myself. And I feel fullness from my wants instead of wanting in a way that I feel empty and needy. And these wants become like, Oh, this is what I'm creating. This is what I'm becoming.

Brandon Handley 24:13

So I love I love that. Right. So I mean, a big key of this is you're working to teach other people how to create. Yes, yeah. Look, I used to listen to a YouTube channel all the time called you are creators. Right? You are creators. I mean, what else are you right? If we're here and live, let's use the Bible since everybody else using it. You know, you are made in His image. And you know, what does he do? He creates,

Unknown Speaker 24:42

right, right.

Brandon Handley 24:44

So what do you do? And you know, we've been taught to consume, right? Yes. But then if we look at Maslow's hierarchy of needs, right, the top the pinnacle of that is to self Express right to self reliance, self reliance, which is the suffix Which is to create something that will, you know, expression is that what, what's within you? Right? So and let that out and create something, bring it to reality. And that's self realization is to bring yourself to the to reality. And how do you do that yourself is inside of you, right?

Shannah White 25:23

Yes. Right? Well, so there can be self confusion because we identify with whatever we experience. Mm hmm. So, and that's where it gets tricky, because people can feel like they're expressing themselves when they're throwing a temper tantrum. temper temper tantrum because they didn't get what they want.

Brandon Handley 25:42

Sure, sure. There's definitely so there's self expression. And then there's, there's there's a emotional outburst?

Shannah White 25:51

Yes. Right. So it's the question of what is the self? And who? Who do I think I am in this moment? Am I feeling identified with a sense of perception that's based on my history, and my emotional definitions of comfort? Or have I surrendered that sense of self, and I'm grounded in feeling that love energy and the clarity that comes from that love energy, which could be called truth. And that, and then I'm feeling like, these things that are coming through me through my core, instead of from my head? Through my core, are myself. Right,

Brandon Handley 26:35

your energetic self? Is that you know, the term does that, what would you would say?

Shannah White 26:41

Yes, it's definitely energetic.

Brandon Handley 26:43

Versus versus the egoic. Self, right? Like, I don't, I'm not really good with, I'm discerning between, like, you know, you know, because to me, the the mind is, I guess, the ego itself, right? That's the piece. It's like, latching on to everything and things that, you know, again, that, that it's a part that it's what's doing all the things, right. But the mind is a tool, right? And anything that you can observe is outside of you. And if you can observe the mind, then, right? I mean,

Shannah White 27:16

right, that's true, you can observe the mind you are not the mind.

Brandon Handley 27:20

But yeah,

Shannah White 27:21

I do consider the mind to be the entire chakra system, okay. And so I think of the ego as a mode of using the mind number one, it's a mode, okay. And number two, it's also the library of files that we stored, while using the mind in that mode. Okay, so in that mode, we're not feeling love. So we're storing beliefs about about a, an experience of self and the world that doesn't have love in it. And this is why it becomes scary, to let those ideas go and becomes scary to do something else. Because we think, Oh, this is a scary world. This is a loveless world is a scary world. And we store these beliefs, because these beliefs are part of our survival strategy in this loveless world. So if someone comes along and says, You don't need to keep those beliefs anymore, yeah, kind of like, I'm not sure I believe you

Brandon Handley 28:27

will take away my things, right? Don't take away my stuff, I worked really hard to get all this crap to I like to carry around. And you know, it's very important to me that, you know, when I go down this alley, I'm scared and terrified. Right?

Shannah White 28:42

So, so yeah, it takes a while. We've also learned in that state of mind to trust ourselves are, in other words, trust our ego self. Which is a feeling like I trust myself, and I just trust everything else. But when we're looking to switch modes of mind, so that we're not functioning from memory and imagination, and pulling from ego files, and instead, we're hanging out in the unknown, not going for me to files, and then feeling and then trusting the voice of love, to give us discernment. That voice of love is we have a relationship, we are never the voice of love, we are in relationship with the voice of love. So and it changes the quality of our sense of self. But there is a requirement of trust in order to be in that relationship. When we're in the ego mode, we are not required to trust. So when we're used to not trusting, transitioning to Okay, I'm not going to pick up any of my stuff that I've accumulated for survival, and instead I'm going to trust this other voice. That's not me. It's bigger than me. Not mean,

Shannah White 30:02

that's that takes courage to do that.

Brandon Handley 30:06

use that word courage to? Because I've been reading force versus power. Are you familiar with that book? power? So that topic. So have you ever seen the, the the map of consciousness map? right you're seeing that now. Okay so David deep dives Dr. David Hawkins I think I'm saying the guy's name right. And and it talks about the the map of consciousness and basically the different levels from like, you know, feeling like you know, total crap and worthlessness, right, and how it registers it, like, you know, sub 200. And all the things that are under like, 200 consciousness map goes up to 1000, all the things that are under 200 are the things that kind of eat away, chew and tear away at you, right?

Unknown Speaker 30:55

But 200

Brandon Handley 30:58

is the tipping point towards, you know, getting you into a more involved and more integrated sense of being in love and life and all that other stuff. But the tipping point is courage. Right? So 200 is courage and courage. lets you step into your greatness, right? Your sweat your super humanity self. Right? So, okay, that's why I love the word courage. So thank you please go on. Will Tell me tell me what, you know, if I, if I'm doing a super humanity coaching session, what's that look like?

Shannah White 31:37

Okay, well. So, in my mind, there are two categories of what people need. On the one hand, they need education. And on the other hand, they need

Shannah White 31:51

company on their journey.

Shannah White 31:54

So I do work with people. In both capacities. I work with some people just in one on one sessions, that are focused on timeline traveling with them with whatever their questions are. And I'm helping them to understand their self experience, within the model of self, that we are a vessel to express love. And that when we are not connected with that, we suffer from many stresses in the mind, and many illusions of how we understand things, or is this relationship trying to have a romantic partnership, when you don't feel your heart? You You were designed to be in partnership with love. So we try to be in partnership with love with that person. And we try to see love out there. And then what happens is because we are in our head, and we're thinking and we're feeling around our thinking, and we like this person, that's what we're thinking. And we're feeling them that we're not actually feeling our own movement. So our source of joy is not internal. It's not balanced, it's out there. Now we're leaving on this person. And leaning on this person accidentally produces control dynamics, control dynamics, now you have a friction of will, between two people. Either this person wants to be in the box that you're making for them, or they don't at some point, they're probably not going to want to be exactly in the box the way they imagined it. And, but when they don't want to be because this is totally tied to your sense of self worth, and your idea of love and all that kind of thing. Now, you can't just have a conversation about Hey, that boxes the wrong shape. It's, it's, oh, Ouch, that hurts. You don't love me. So there's emotional layers, there's will friction and it all comes back to the fact that this person is not actually feeling their heart. So their sense of their definition of love is skewed. And

Shannah White 34:13

so then, how do we correct that?

Shannah White 34:18

As a super humanity coach, I will give people exercises also to help them make transitions in their self awareness, to access that love energy inside. And a person can understand the difference. But it doesn't do it to just understand that you actually have to feel that love energy and then suddenly you come back into balance. Suddenly your perception of what's going on with you and your partner changes. Suddenly, the you know, the misunderstanding that was huge, becomes just one tiny little question that you might want to ask them and otherwise it's no big deal. Right. So

Brandon Handley 35:03

if what you know, what are one or two of your favorite tools in this space that you like to use? If you don't mind?

Shannah White 35:11

tools as an exercise? Yo, so

Brandon Handley 35:13

yeah, exercise What? So I would like to know, what's an exercise that I could do? Well,

Shannah White 35:22

the, the first exercise that I would suggest working with that I always suggest working with actually is relaxing into a feeling place. So shifting out of thinking and into feeling. And I can do this with you right now, if you want to what I do with people is they investigate where they're at, with how they can express themselves in those terms. And then I will make tailored suggestions for them. So let's go. Okay, so how? What does your energy feel like to you and a sense of give a sense of where you were sitting? If you use your body as in that? Do you have a sense of where you're sitting in your body?

Shannah White 36:10

Yes. Where is it?

Brandon Handley 36:14

Like, right below my belly button?

Shannah White 36:20

Okay, so do you have a feeling like you're looking out at the world from inside?

Unknown Speaker 36:27

Yes.

Shannah White 36:29

And where are you looking at the world from?

Brandon Handley 36:32

My shoulders?

Shannah White 36:33

That's interesting.

Shannah White 36:36

Okay, so um,

Shannah White 36:40

do you feel like that feeling of looking at the world?

Shannah White 36:47

Is

Shannah White 36:51

instead of feeling or is it a feeling quality?

Brandon Handley 36:58

Study feeling or a feeling quality is a

Shannah White 37:01

kind of instead of feeling like, looking instead of feeling? Or does it feel like it has a feeling?

Brandon Handley 37:09

Gotcha. Is it got like? I don't think that. I don't know, I'd say less of a feeling quality.

Shannah White 37:22

Okay, so can you then turn off the looking quality? And kind of bring our attention behind that, that behind it into the inner space of your body? And just notice, in First of all, can you turn off the looking quality and shift to Yeah,

Brandon Handley 37:48

absolutely. I mean, yeah, I'm doing it right now as we're talking.

Shannah White 37:51

Okay. Great. So then.

Shannah White 37:54

So then, what do you notice? was just with curiosity? I don't know if it matters if you if you tell me.

Brandon Handley 38:02

Yeah, I mean, so I think something I notice is just immediately, more, more centered feeling right? Less scattered, more calmness and to get togetherness, right. So feeling versus this kind of like, um, wolf feel pulled out right now. It's just kind of

Unknown Speaker 38:30

centered.

Shannah White 38:31

Right. So, um,

Shannah White 38:38

is that exactly easy to maintain?

Brandon Handley 38:45

I don't know. Because this is really the first time I've experienced it. Right. So so as you know, and this is part of, I think, the whole journey, right? Like and coming to somebody like you say, and we've talked about the awarenesses this is something I'd never been, has been never been brought to my attention. Mm hmm. Right. And you and it's really hard to put your finger on something, if you're not aware of it. Yes. So I'm feeling it. Right. And I think that there's like some pulsating, like, urge to be like, uh, but my energy's always all over here versus here. Right. So now I'm just paying attention to it. So I don't know. Nice.

Shannah White 39:29

So probably what I would do is I would say, Okay, we'll play with that for a few days. And meanwhile, we would be talking about any thing, any of your experiences you have questions about.

Shannah White 39:44

And then

Shannah White 39:47

I, so I can either just see somebody in a session, or here's somebody a session, we do it on the phone, or I do also work with people in a different format where there's where you have private sessions like that. On the phone or in person, and then text availability, between sessions, and then also supportive educational materials that are tailored for what somebody is working on. So and if we were working in that format, then I'd be like, okay, play with that for a few days. And, you know, let me know a couple days how that's going, right. And then depending on what you text me, I might tweak it, or suggest the next step, as I would recommend it. So, um, my

Brandon Handley 40:31

comments was to have like, a videos too, sometimes, or just like, any type of supporting materials type of thing.

Shannah White 40:37

Sporting materials of this player are written, I do have an interest in producing video. They are usually, like, for instance,

Shannah White 40:50

a three page

Shannah White 40:54

very nice. So that I

Brandon Handley 40:57

know, I know that sometimes what I'll do, I mean, just, from my, from what I'll do is like, you know, similar to you, right? If somebody is going through in a different space, and like, hey, how's that going, like, Oh, I'm feeling this way or that way. And I'm like, oh, then, you know, try out this, you know, dispenza video, or Yo, you need this Alan Watts video, or, you know, this clip, or something of that type of thing like

Shannah White 41:19

that, except that I just write it on the spot.

Brandon Handley 41:22

Okay, I love that. I love that. And, you know, I want to highlight something here that we haven't really talked about, is that you've been in this space, your entire life. Right? Like, you know, you kind of grew up in like this, you know, spirituality space. And, you know, you've been involved with it, I think, head on for how many years now? Like, I mean,

Shannah White 41:47

25 years with sacred reality.

Brandon Handley 41:49

Right? So I mean, you know, and I like to throw that out there for like, you know, the the authority of sense so that somebody doesn't go like, What if she started yesterday and got a, you know, got a certificate? Because, yes, listen, and there's nothing wrong with that. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. But I want people to understand that. You're not dabbling in this.

Shannah White 42:09

Yeah. Thank you. Yeah. Thank you. Yeah, I was, I guess it would be 31 years ago that I started with a course in miracles. And then, five years ago that I started the secret.

Brandon Handley 42:20

Are you still having into Of course, a miracle? So you think you got

Shannah White 42:24

I was writing about innocence. And I wanted to really cool, pull out all the nuances of my own understanding. Yeah. So. So I wanted to read about it. And I actually tried to find something out there in the world. But I found out that people actually have a surprising perception of innocence out in the world, it's very much like, innocence is that beautiful, blissful, untainted state of childhood that then you lose it, and you can never get it back. And, and not only that, you wouldn't want it back. Because people will just take advantage of you like it's a weakness thing. And like, really, that's what people think about innocence. Yeah. But I anyway, so I want to go off with

Brandon Handley 43:12

that. Where'd you land on innocence?

Shannah White 43:15

Oh, wow. So innocence.

Shannah White 43:18

Innocence is that place where it is, it's the untainted state of mind. And children have it because they haven't learned this trust yet. Until they do learn to this trust, and then their, their state of mind is chained to the lead of the show. So they taught to this trust. Well, they might have an experience they don't understand that's painful. And so they can learn to distress from that itself. But then there are people in their life to guide them. And it could be that people guide them in a way that he also does trust. But that's not really going on, because our culture is not educated deeply enough. With with the wisdom that I think the word spiritual or super humanity stands for, to actually help a child fully resolved.

Brandon Handley 44:15

For instance, with a lot we lost half of that we got we got hold give me once. I'm going to pause this for a second record resumed. All right, awesome. So we lost two disconnected on the idea of, um, you know, the children experiencing trauma or something like that right? To?

Shannah White 44:38

Oh, okay. Okay. Right. So that you were saying that children don't have to distressed and so I was saying that they can have a painful experience, and experience distress naturally from that. But parent or guardian, if they, if a parent or guardian can hold a space of innocence themselves. And show a child through understanding how to heal what happened for them in that painful experience, then innocence we maintain trust can be maintained. But here's the other thing that's really interesting is that childhood innocence tends to give trust away easily. Whereas the innocence of that we know we earn through discipline is the trust. It's a trusting state of mind. When we give that trust to the inner voice of love, which a child doesn't know how to do, yet, it takes

Shannah White 45:43

take something learn how to do that. Sure.

Shannah White 45:47

So So innocence is actually a strength when you can allow your mind to become peaceful and untainted. In other words, unguarded and not biased by beliefs. Just open. But, but it's not open in a way that's honorable, it's open in a way that's invulnerable. Because you're listening inside. For that voice of love, which is state of innocence allows to happen, you actually have to practice innocence in order to discover your super humanity.

Brandon Handley 46:26

would you would you? Would you say that, um, it's kind of like a non attachment and judgment free sense of being?

Shannah White 46:35

Definitely.

Brandon Handley 46:36

Right. I mean, that the innocence isn't and then you know, again, being love emotion. No labels, no attachments, and no judgment is a kind of a state of innocence.

Shannah White 46:51

Right? Yes. Okay. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 46:55

that's great. So

Shannah White 46:56

actually, is also allowing the voice of truth to tell you what something is.

Shannah White 47:03

Does that make sense?

Brandon Handley 47:04

Yeah. I mean, you give me an example of that. What was that? What's that look like to you?

Unknown Speaker 47:08

Um,

Shannah White 47:10

well, what comes to mind is a very, very tiny example. Sure. I just went by really quick example. But in that moment, when you have that feeling to ask me how to grasp my name, but not in innocence would just trust that in books,

Brandon Handley 47:31

right. Yeah, sure. Yeah. I like it. Like, it's so funny, though. It's so funny how that happened. But yeah,

Shannah White 47:38

this this was just an example. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 47:40

like that. You're right. Right. And it says what trust, you know, trust? And, you know, follow that up. That's great. No, that's perfect, right?

Shannah White 47:50

Yes. And if I might just answer your question from a few minutes ago. Um, so as part of my rumination on innocence, I did go look in A Course in Miracles which, which is an old friend, but I don't, I have no, you know, phases where I don't pick it up. And then I pick it up later. And oh, my God, it's such a good book. Like, every time I go back to it, I actually get more out of it, because of the growth that I've experienced in between, has allowed me to come back to it and see it deeper. And then I'm like, Man, this is

Brandon Handley 48:19

good. Where was this? 20 years ago? Do you know so? Are you do you have like the the big one that's got all three of the books? And it was it got the it's got the text, the lessons, the daily, the daily lessons, and then it's got the teacher mode in there as well as that, right? Yeah. So do I've only read it and done the lessons and by the way, like anybody that's ever listened to this listen to this never ticked off course for articles, I highly recommend that you go through it's one year worth of like, daily, you know, kind of lessons, really, there's more of like, just this kind of moment to self reflect or take something in, right, just those daily lessons, but I'd have not read the or dug into the teachers aspect of it all. Do you find value in that

Shannah White 49:08

part? of book? I do? I do. I wouldn't say I have it all committed to memory. But one thing that's very interesting in that section is levels of trust, which has already come up in our conversation, because that's really, what you're what the journey is one measure of the journey. And and since you could if you could put the journey on one metric. It's going to be the metric of what do you trust? And how is your transition of trusting the ego to trusting the voice of love going?

Brandon Handley 49:43

That's great. That's great. I love I love using trust as a metric. That's cool. Very cool. So let's talk about you know, a little bit about you know, making the mystical practical, right and Sacred reality lists, you know, what are a couple things that you do? Because that's a big part of this podcast. Right? It's bringing the the mystical and making it practical, right? How can you How can you take these kind of thoughts and ways of being and apply them to your daily life and have a more fulfilling life? Right. So let's talk about a little bit of a couple of ways that you might be doing that sacred reality.

Shannah White 50:29

Okay, well, let's see. Um, yesterday, I spent time with someone in India, he is an India. And I'm here in the United States, in New York. And this was our third chat, they were just chatting as friends, but I'm always ready to be a beginner choose, the opportunity arises. And I actually thought you might enjoy being on my email list. So I invited him to my email list. And he said that he didn't want to be on the email list, because he was enjoying just the feeling of our organic conversation in the Facebook Messenger space. But the fact that he had this response, opened up a kind of honesty in our conversation that set a tone in his space. And so we continue to talk about things life, like dynamics and rst. But

Shannah White 51:41

I'll actually here's what it was, he told me.

Shannah White 51:46

He told me, we have a whole email, man email conversation, and it wasn't a big deal. But he wanted to make sure I understood that because he didn't want to reject me, you want me to feel rejected? And so I was explaining I feel understood. And he's like, you know, I think I'm just weird today, because I'm feeling kind of off. I'm like, What do you mean? And he said, Well, I'm feeling like, I don't know what I want to do. I don't know what I don't want to do. And I said, Would you like a suggestion? And so I, and he said, Yes. And I suggested, very much similar to what I had just guided you through. And I was focusing with him, I was focusing on the breath as the navigating agent for the feeling. And she didn't want to do it, actually, because he could feel that there was going to be a bunch of emotion underneath the surface. So then, okay, fine. You don't have to do it. But our conversation continued, and a little bit later in the conversation. Oh, yeah, that's right. So he said, You know, I will say one thing, which is, I experienced you like a candle in the darkness. Why is that? And so I started to talk about I asked him some questions. But I also started to talk about holding the space of truth, energy, because that's my understanding. That's my feeling of what he's feeling. And, and then, so as we're just exploring this topic, then he comes back around, and he says, and as far as that breathing, feeling, exercise goes, it feels to me like holding your hand and going to sleep in this deep peace.

Shannah White 53:46

And

Shannah White 53:49

he felt he has not felt, in fact, our entire relationship started because I posted about innocence. And he wanted to talk to me about it. And he said, I I lost innocence, and I will never have it again. So that's what are Are those the beginning of our relationship some weeks ago, but here in this moment together, just being really honest about what's coming up between us. She actually found a place where he felt the peace of God or the peace of truth for the first time. And he did not expect to ever feel that or anything like that.

Brandon Handley 54:29

And that's also like the the space of innocence. Right? So it was talking about, okay,

Shannah White 54:35

yes. And he felt it very briefly that he said that it was deep and real. And so why is this mystical? Right. I didn't talk to him even though I was sharing with him about the energy that I'm that I'm holding that he's feeling. The reason that he felt it is because I was holding So we were having a conversation that's bringing his understanding along. But the actual the actual communication that allowed him to experience that level of peace was the fact that I was holding a frequency. And as he's talking to me, his intuition, which is our intuition is always operating, even if we don't know how to do it on purpose, right? his intuition is picking up this frequency of truth from my energy field, even though we're seven or 8000 miles apart. And he allowed himself in that moment, after talking, he got to feel like okay, I can trust to just feel this for this moment. And, and then he felt it. So this is the beginning. I mean, that's what of course, miracles calls miracle is when love enter someone's perception and changes it. And in fact, of course, in miracles says that that is a huge time saver.

Shannah White 56:09

Sure, alters time. Right.

Brandon Handley 56:12

All right. That's all just matter of perception. Right? So that's awesome. So this is what you do. Right? This is this is kind of a, you know, you're out there creating super humanity, people. And you're helping others out there making the mystical, practical. And I think that, you know, seems like you're doing a great job, you seems like you're, you're happy with what you do, right? And this way, like, I still remember when we first we first connected, we talked to Matt, this is a life that you've always led. And I love that, too, because because it's, um, you always hear somebody say, well make sure you didn't put your ladder up against the wrong wall. Or a ladder in life. And here, you know, in my humble opinion, you know, you put your ladder up against a great wall, right? Because at the end of the day, you know, you're out there and you're being of service, but you're, you know, not being a servant. Right. Like, you know, there's, I think there's a big difference in that. And I think that that's also a challenge

Unknown Speaker 57:21

for another

Brandon Handley 57:22

another day, but, you know, for when you come into this space, you talked about, you know, letting go of all the things and giving all the things away and wanting to be of service, but like, you still need to be of service to yourself. Right? It's Jerry,

Shannah White 57:38

actually say two things that come to mind based on what you just said. One is that, absolutely, I have to stay in my own alignment. So if I'm feeling like I need to go to sleep, and someone wants to be talking to me on Facebook Messenger, the thing I need to do is go to sleep, because if I don't, I'm actually going to a won't be able to hold the space that I bought for them, I will start to feel resentful. subtly, but nonetheless resentful, because why? Because I'm not respecting myself. So it does start with a very solid foundation of listening inside and respecting what I hear, which includes time of asleep.

Unknown Speaker 58:25

Oh,

Shannah White 58:26

yeah. And I will say also, that is not just, it's not just the energy space that I hold, which is not a property of my own. It's also that listening. That's what that's what the energy is, actually if I stopped listening, then the my energy will go flat. Hmm. So it's the fact that he writes something. And then I feel inside myself. What my responses? And if I think it, it's going to come out flat. Sure. So So yes, has to take care of itself. And here's the other thing that I find really interesting and important. I did run across on Facebook, a they call it some kind of association for spiritual ethics. And they have an interesting and potentially worthwhile mission, which is that they want to get I guess, there's some people who can find themselves in an inappropriate relationship with someone who was a spiritual guide for them and and then they feel like you're hurt, whatever is going on out there. That's what they're trying to protect people from and they want to give guidelines like this is the way it should look. So it looks different than this. Maybe you need to reconsider. And sure people need help processing contrast to make healthier choices in their experiences. That's totally fine. Fine. But one of the features of this organization is that someone who serves the public in a spiritual capacity could become certified by this ethics Association, which means that they answer to that ethics Association. And I thought to myself immediately, I said, No, no, no, I don't answer to anyone but God. Like, I'm listening to love inside. And I will say and do as love directs me to do, I'm not going to sign up with some human run rulebook. completely the opposite of what it means to be in the flow, even though the character of love matches what they're trying to resemble. With their roots.

Brandon Handley 1:00:53

For me, I listen, it's not a soft, the worst thing, right? Because, you know, you and, and I could feel that way. You know, I operate out of a place of love. Whereas, you know, there's, there are the people out there that take advantage of others, and use this way of being in somehow, right, in a malicious way. Right, in a way that self serving and, and, you know, we talked a little bit, just a moment ago about, you know, a lot, you know, aligning ourselves and whatnot, but not to the detriment of others. Right. When you and I are talking about, you know, becoming into alignment with self, we're talking about how do I, you know, you know, spend time in my love being whatever that looks like to you, right, you know, love and motion as it were versus You know, this this kind of morphic space where you can create it, and you can have everybody inviting, get all this sense of being, but then, you know, basically, you're creating a cult, right, and you're like, hey, follow me, this is the only way to be you can't deviate from what I've just told you. And you know, and you're sucked in, right? And you're sucked in. And so that, to me, you know, if somebody's got a certificate, at least, like, burned by this before, I'm not doing it again, right type of thing comes from it sounds like it's not the worst thing.

Shannah White 1:02:25

It's, it comes from a good intention, for sure. It might help some people out there

Brandon Handley 1:02:30

that are upset. I know how you said to is it resonates with love, right? Just you know, from a place of love, but

Shannah White 1:02:37

it's also true that, that anyone who is hoping to grow spiritually into actualize super humanity and their self experience, the authority is within. So a mentor, such as myself, and I understand that you mentor people as well. is a is a guide. Right? But if you give, whether that guide is acting in a holy fashion or an unholy fashion, whether they, you know, morph themselves into an ego picture of spirituality, and they're acting that out for themselves in their own karmic cycle, we still have to, or whether they're acting like Jesus, we still have to, as someone who's being mentored, we still have to look within this, like, you know, we have to feel what's right. So if something doesn't feel right, and then the other person says, No, no, it is right. You gotta just leave. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 1:03:44

Yeah. And but it can be tough, right? It can be it can be really tough again, you know, we, you know, go back to the beginning of, you know, losing that son, you know, losing that selfishness sense of, of, you know, too many variables. Right. And that's the thing, too many variables. And if you have never experienced, even trusting yourself, right, that's, again, that's that that point that's that that's that tilting point that I was talking about in the in the book, Foursquare's power, of coming to courage, right, because everything under courage is is doubt, fear, all these other things because you haven't stepped into and realized your true potential. You're, you know, birthright as it were, all those things.

Shannah White 1:04:34

That's true. I have another thing to add, actually, because then this connects to what we were talking about before, like creating. And I can speak from my own experience this way too, because I had a relationship not with a spiritual mentor, but I had a relationship that before, before I really came home to prioritizing voice of love inside myself. There was this relationship with Were love was outside. And even though I was trying to work everything in a spiritual way, like really work hard at my life and in spiritual ways, but I still had this perception of love outside myself. And, and I attracted to myself, the perfect partner to act out a painful experience. Right, right. And so even when we're not relaxing and flowing in the ocean of God's creative thoughts, we're still creating because we are created in likeness and image. So our mind is creative, when we have a thought that connects with a feeling gets impressed in the magnetic component of our mind, and then that starts to magnetize something to us. So I hope if, if my desire can bless anyone, I hope that people who have found themselves in a harmful relationship of any kind, whether it's with a spiritual mentor, or not a spiritual mentor, that they find the presence of self reflection, to use the opportunity that's given to them, that where they're resonating with something that they become attracted to, and they've attracted to themselves. And if they can recognize that they can take the opportunity to become empowered through growing through that experience, rather than disempowered thinking you're a victim of it.

Brandon Handley 1:06:35

Yeah, I mean, that's not that's all along the path. Right. That's all the quote that that's the quote unquote, the process,

Unknown Speaker 1:06:41

right? Yes. Yes. That's

Brandon Handley 1:06:42

the process. So when people are talking, I always ask people that because they'll say what's the process? trust the process? was, I mean to you? Right, because I think it can mean a lot of different things. I think you just described the process fairly well. So where can we send people to connect with you?

Shannah White 1:06:59

Um, people can go to sacred reality.org and my coaching profiles on there and because send an email through the contact form.

Shannah White 1:07:10

I could also give my email address. Does that make sense?

Unknown Speaker 1:07:15

If you want to Yeah.

Shannah White 1:07:16

Okay, great. Anyway, you want people to connect with you? Very good. That's Shama s h a n n. h. at Sacred reality. Work is my email address and I'm also on Facebook. I'm Shawna dot white that three

Brandon Handley 1:07:33

nice way. I just want to say thank you so much for hopping on today. Love the conversation. I think this is a one where we could go for hours right type of conversations. So I appreciate the depth of your knowledge and you know, the things that you shared with us today and hope that the people that are listening out there they they took something away from this guy, thank you, you offer quite a lot. So thank you.

Shannah White 1:07:57

Thank you so much for having

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The Country Clairvoyant | Back to School Bitches

Published: Oct. 25, 2020, 11:06 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 8 seconds

I couldn't have more fun on a podcast if I tried.

Take a listen while Christian Bradley West & I talk about spirituality, purpose, relationships and more and how you can implement some of the practical wisdom he shares on the podcast!

Connect with Christian @ https://www.thecountryclairvoyant.com/

On Insta @ thecountryclairvoyant and let him know you found him as a guest on Spiritual Dope.

Brandon Handley 0:00
321 Hey, there's spiritual dope, and thanks for joining me today I have with me, Christian Bradley West, the country clairvoyant. Um, first of all, I just loved the name. Right. And I think that that's one of the reasons why we connected um, you know, obviously he's a clairvoyant in the spirituality space artists, textile artists,

Unknown Speaker 0:28
author

Brandon Handley 0:30
podcaster and Instagram influencer. So, you know, a couple of things that you write in here, right is a, you know, dedicated to facilitate and clear vision with within others, so that they are no longer wandering in the wilderness asking the question is, how did I get here? What am I doing? What is my purpose? Who am I? And you know, you're like, Hey, I'll spare you all the brain science focuses on patterns and behaviors. And I'll let you know, until you I know exactly how you got to where you are patterns and behaviors, right? And then, you know, you kind of say, Hey, I'm more like a spirit guide and a meat suit. Right. So this is a spirit guide me suit. What more do you need to know? Right? You know what, and so thanks for being here today. Appreciate it.

Christian Bradley West 1:19
Thank you. Thank you. And I have to say, I'm one of many. You are here, as well. We're all booty. Buddhists. They were all Buddhists. Right? We're all we're all gods. So we're all bad in some fashion. Some of us just, I've picked up the the staff, I suppose the staff are found in the wilderness and decided to go forward with Sure. Sure. No, I love that. Right.

Brandon Handley 1:41
I think that i think that that's another part where the word awareness kind of gets tossed in and out, right, like, everybody is

Unknown Speaker 1:49
Buddha.

Brandon Handley 1:50
Right? Yeah. But it's like whether or not you decide to be aware of it or not acknowledgement even. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Well, you know, so what I like to start these off with is, you know, source speaks through us, right. And certain conditions and what this microphone is, right, is an amplifier. Right? Yeah. So, sources speaking through you today to specific people that listen to this podcast. What's it saying? What's the message that you're here to deliver today?

Christian Bradley West 2:23
Ah, wow, he put me on the spot. Let's see what's coming through. Okay. So one thing that's been coming through just recently is there's there's a lot Okay, let's go here. There's a lot of conspiracy theories out there. There's a lot of there's a lot of information, right. We live in the information age, there's a lot of it, right. And there's any number of different facets. There's the truth, there's the lies, there's all those different things. And of course, people could say, oh, truth is relative, so forth, all that we get into all that talk, but we won't right now. But we could say all of that. So. But what I will point to is that none of that matters. And you're like, well, Krishna, of course, it matters. This information, we need this information to live to survive, what is it? What are you What is it? Why does it matter? And I say that because what only matters is the individual, you taking care of you. So there's could be all that shit swirling around in the world. And it is not directly impacting you on a day to day basis. If it is not speaking to your own practice of awareness, then then really the focus I want now I feel like in my message period is I want people to focus on their own individual awareness, their own individual growth, and their own choices, because that is what drives the collective right. That's what drives all of the other things. Because each of us is a piece of the whole and whole as a piece. Right. So, so, so that's been showing up a lot in talks with friends, family, other people. And and I always want to point back to the consciousness of the individual. And yes, there are many things going on. But if we don't have the facts and figures, then we probably want to just redirect our focus to what is true within us, and how we can participate with that. And instead of worrying about what's going on in the rest of the world, although to be conscious of it is completely okay. And and to some degree necessary. Not not ignoring any of it, but also realizing what we can do in our daily life in order to contribute without getting caught up in all theories and conspiracies and all of those things.

Brandon Handley 4:49
Yeah, I love it. Yeah, there's a there's a lot of conspiracy theory shit out there right now. It's just like yeah, it's it's like 2020 is a perfect storm for Yeah,

Christian Bradley West 5:01
movements around into cue non movement, there's, there are literally, it feels like we're living in a, in a, in a an apocalyptic novel, you know like science fiction it really feels that way to me sometimes it's a little scary and entertaining at the same

Brandon Handley 5:19
time. I know that when it hit right I know I heard you said like you were all packed up and ready to go, right? You're like, Hey, I did I did my supply shopping. But

Unknown Speaker 5:27
yeah,

Brandon Handley 5:28
when when we started seeing reports, my wife and I started seeing reports of like, you know, shipping rationed at the grocery store. I was like, Alright, we got to go online, we got to order, like we're hitting up like restaurants, stores in order and stuff. And mind you, like we would have only lived like maybe six or seven days longer than anybody else. Right, but but we have the toilet

Unknown Speaker 5:51
paper.

Brandon Handley 5:53
But it seems like, you know, very apocalyptic. And at the same time, it's, I think that I think it's kind of great, because this is like that, that break that the world kind of needed, right? The disruption, like, you know, hey, everybody's been asking for disruption. Like, we need to disrupt this that the other thing and yeah, you just got disrupted like massively. So you got what you asked for?

Christian Bradley West 6:19
Yeah, right. We were building to it. I mean, technology has been remarkably, art and science has been disruptive, throughout all of human history. And in the 20th century, of course, it essentially came to a certain head and in and it's still doing, especially technology. Now, it is the primary disrupter. So and now we have, as you just mentioned, the these other impinging. Yeah, and what do we what do we do with it? How do we how do we essentially take the wildfire and use it to benefit? Well, I mean, I

Brandon Handley 6:59
love how you hit on that, you know, let's, uh, you know, that talks a little bit. So like, I think your outcome is optimizing. Right? Yeah. And let's talk about that a little bit. But um, let's give people a little bit of backstory, right. concha clairvoyant. How did he come into existence?

Christian Bradley West 7:17
Well, and this is one incarnation, I'll say, I don't know if I will stay here, but it's one of the titles I always joke. I'm like, Khaleesi, Mother of Dragons, you know, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. It's like I have 1000 titles in this life already. And, and I'm at the end of it, it's just I am just Christian by the West. But how that came to be, was I oddly enough, without meaning to I had had this dream about being Native American. And then a week later, I found out that I actually had that in my bloodline through my father. And but what also happened is I did a soul retrieval because I grew up on power, the power 10 Nation property in Virginia, which is course related to Pocahontas. I literally live just miles down from Pocahontas State Park. So I grew up on that land. And, um, and had a lot of weird circumstances I always was had, I guess you could say psychic, aware, medium. And so what I did is I came back actually that week, without knowing having the dream I was coming back to Virginia from Georgia, with a dear dear friend who's also an astrologer psychic, medium person. And he tuned in and he's like, Oh, yeah, you died on that property. And we went through the whole thing. And so I went back there. And then on the drive back to Atlanta, I had the country live with me, which actually was an idea six months before, but I thought it was a distraction. I was like, oh, whatever, it's much bullshit. And then like, but the voice was in my head, like, you have to do this. And here's the interesting thing is that if I would not have started it about two and a half years ago, I would not know what I would be doing to make a living now, I don't know what I would be doing. Because my books that I had then had been rejected, like, nothing was coming through like, this was the thing. And I'd started account previous, that took me six months to maybe get 1000 followers, and in the first month with this account with the Instagram account, for those that are listening, I had almost 4000 followers. So Beginner's luck, essentially. And I was like, Okay, I guess this is what I'm doing now. And then it was like, okay, just start doing readings, which I had always done for friends and family, but then it was like, Okay, do this now. And I was like, Oh, shit. So,

Brandon Handley 9:29
so intuition. Intuition was saying,

Christian Bradley West 9:32
Yeah, there's no Yeah, yeah. Just I, I jokingly say, people could easily probably call me schizophrenia. I'm not, but that they're like, Oh, you hear voices? And I'm like, absolutely.

Brandon Handley 9:44
We kind of hit on that though, too. Right. Like, I mean, could I listen, my grandmother was schizophrenia, you know, but I went there for the diagnosis. But you know, could it have been? You know, intuition, could it have bad mediumship Couldn't have been one or any of all these other things. Absolute just improperly received.

Christian Bradley West 10:06
Yeah. And I absolutely think that I sometimes I think there's a direct line of mental illness with this work. Um, I've struggled with it periodically. Because I think when you're, when you're walking the margins of society in any way, shape or form, in your thought process, you definitely feel like an outsider. And if you're getting information, and it's coming in a quote, unquote, weird way, or odd way, it can definitely be that way. But we not only hear the positive, we hear potentially the negative as well. And sometimes you can get very consumed in those negative voices. And as we know, the collective is full of those voices going back to conspiracy theories and so forth. For so it's hard to discern. So I think sometimes the mental illness gets augmented as bad or negative, because no one is there to cultivate the listening and how to discern between what's coming through.

Brandon Handley 11:01
Right, right. And being able to, you know, tune in or tune out, right.

Christian Bradley West 11:08
Exactly. Filter weather, what radio station, yeah, what radio station and my tuning into, sometimes that dial is just all over the place, especially for people who are empathic, and I'm like, okay, the point is to learn what station you want to turn into and where they're different stations. And that takes a tremendous amount of practice, and self awareness.

Brandon Handley 11:28
Yeah. So so you know, you're headed back to Georgia, you decide the country clairvoyant, you spin up the Instagram account. You've got 4000 followers in a month, and people are probably like, how did you do that? But you basically just spun it up, and you were being your authentic self?

Christian Bradley West 11:46
Yeah, I decided that with his account, I was just gonna throw everything at the wall and see what stuck. Like, I just was like, This is who I am. I feel like I've had to learn and modify things within this space, not modify it in a negative sense, but but essentially almost like carving out a sculpture. There's like, Okay, this, this works, this doesn't work. And how and really what it is, is same with my writing is how do I refine how I use my voice? What am I saying? What do I want to say? Where do I want to direct this and become more strategic in my awareness of my own message? And it's, it's slowly evolving, I decided this will be just a meme account right now. Because I like that a lot of people go in, they change it like, Hey, this is a meme account. And now it's gonna be a personal account. I don't know. I kind of like it being little.

Brandon Handley 12:36
Right, right. Right. Yeah. No. So I mean, it is a meme. And it's entertaining. Right. Lots of entertainment on there. And, you know, I think that, you know, from, from my perspective, and where I'm coming from, I was looking for kind of spiritual accounts that weren't your everyday spiritual accounts. Yeah. I mean, look, there's a lot of them out there.

Unknown Speaker 12:57
Yeah. And, and they're great.

Brandon Handley 12:59
They're great. But like, there's, you know, spirituality isn't all, you know, like, the beads. It's not all like that, that that stupid dress that every hippie has. Yeah. And yeah, and all that. Right. Yeah. And that's why I started following some of what you're putting out there. Right. Yeah. Because I enjoyed it. It's authentic. It's real. And it Yeah, it is spiritual. The stuff that you're saying is like, it's legit, right? I know, because I got a book of what's legit and what's not behind me.

Christian Bradley West 13:33
Call your intuition. Right. Like, it's

Brandon Handley 13:39
like, yeah, look, it's you know, I try not to be like an elitist. But sometimes, like, You got it, you got to know where to cut the shit, right? Like, you know, this is like, you can tell some, some things apart from others. And that's just it.

Christian Bradley West 13:52
It's about the editing and the curating. And to me, I like to be very practical, to me, spirituality is simply rewiring the brain for more awareness, more openness to to the, to the perceived unknown anyway. And, and, and not getting so stuck in the mire of what have been right and thinking we know already. And we call it spirituality and the you know, if you look back at Hinduism, the Vedas, if you look all the way back to some of the very early spiritual texts, they all talk about, essentially changing your perspective and which which rewires the brain and the more you practice the different perspectives or the different thoughts, or it could be taken even further to live and no thought and allow things to arise from that. Then your life changes, your brain chemistry changes, your body chemistry changes, everything changes, and of course, the way that they taught me Kriya Yoga, the way you accelerate that practice is through your breath work, which is a Kriya Yoga, very separate from hatha because hot is great but Kriya Really is my favorite, because it really displaces it's a disrupter, that breathwork is a disrupter. And literally, the thoughts, it forces the thoughts to stop. And then you just see them floating up there. And you're like, Okay, and kind of like a tree you can pluck when you want, you know,

Brandon Handley 15:18
I love that. I love that. So I mean, I love the idea of no thought, Would you say that's similar to surrender?

Christian Bradley West 15:28
Gosh, yes, I can definitely be an aspect of that. Because the mind very much so wants to assume and judge and categorize and label and detail and, and do all those things, which is a great tool. Again, though, it's a tool. So either we're using a hammer and the hammer is using us. So yeah, at some point in time, to essentially surrender the need to be thinking all the time, they need to be figuring out like, last night, I had this emotional state come over me where I was very angry. And I was like, let's figure this out. And then I thought for a second, I was like, No, Christian, you can't think your way through this. Let's breathe our way through this. Let's accept it to your point. Let's surrender. Not to the circumstance, but let's surrender to the awareness of the circumstance.

Brandon Handley 16:18
Right, right now, hundred percent hundred percent. Yeah. You know, in a situation where you're angry, you know, you're restricting the possibilities, right? Because you've got like this pinpoint, you know, thing or like, Scott, I have in this way, God dammit.

Christian Bradley West 16:35
Right. Or it didn't happen that way. So God damn right.

Brandon Handley 16:38
Right. Right. Right. So like, like I had, I had, like, you know, the whole universe, and it's got a it's got land on this time. And if it doesn't, I'm pissed as hell. And you're not open or open to what are all these other possibilities? Right. And yeah, just literally kind of letting that flow through you.

Christian Bradley West 16:56
Yeah, absolutely. It's good way to put it. Absolutely.

Brandon Handley 17:00
Well, you know, look, I mean, we're, we are energy, energy currents, right, like, and just this body, the meatsuit. Right. Yeah. And the mind acts as a dam for that stuff, right? We're like, well, like, I guess I'm just gonna have to stop it. It's all gonna stay right here. And this is like, yeah, honey type flow. And you they again, you're just restricted to this, like tiny space. Otherwise, you know, we've got the rest of the we've got the rest of the universe to work with. And we're not even trying.

Christian Bradley West 17:27
No, well, and there's something so there's two things, the shamans, shamans are often called the hollow bones, right. So they're the vessel that folds the spirit, whatever you want to say. And then, and then you also have, the way you're talking about to me and an astrology thing is very Saturn nine way of looking at things from two different sides, which is, there's a great book that I loved when I was young artists called the power of limits, and it talks about pie and proportion. And and how this this number definitely had a structure to it. But the structure was potentially infinite in its incarnations. And I always love that because to me, it's like, yes, we're in the meatsuit. But what how do we maximize the potential of this meatsuit? And and through adversity through potentially, which could be potentially very much so be suffering and certain challenges in life, we begin to recognize what we're capable of beyond our conditioning beyond the domestication beyond the agreements, we were handed as children. And go Wait, But wait, there's more. Right? But But how do we do that while maintaining an open space? I jokingly say we're all walking vaginas for spirit.

Brandon Handley 18:45
Because the receive,

Christian Bradley West 18:46
right, right, because sometimes, we're definitely there's a structure to us. But there's definitely something else and what people don't realize the spirit isn't outside. We are spirit, hopefully. Yeah. Yeah. So so it's like when we surrender, we're not surrendering to something as much as we are, which is the way it looks to people. What we're ultimately doing is we're just allowing for our authentic nature without all the voices without allies without their old, old, old the past to get in the way of how we want to be now.

Brandon Handley 19:19
So how did you stumble on that for yourself? Ask me that again. How did I what I'll just stumble on that for yourself. You know,

Christian Bradley West 19:26
was it was it something I yeah, so when I started very young, I always was I was always drawn to this stuff, which again, astrological look at my chart, it's like, oh, yeah, you are spiritual as fuck and, and it's true. I always was. I was always interested in all these weird things like the angels fairies and fantasy dragons, so forth, whatever. And then when I was when I was when I was 14, I started to realize I was gay. And that was very difficult because I was this devote Christian set. Baptist and had chosen that through actually my grandparents who were my archetype of unconditional love in my life. So I was like, of course, like, they're showing me the way, so I'm going to do the church thing. Sure. And then the other aspect to it was that created so much stress, we all actually moved to Atlanta, at 16. So middle of high school, so I had to leave all my friends. And I developed Crohn's disease as a child. So those two things kind of coming together. Like a

Brandon Handley 20:32
hydron Collider, right? Yes,

Christian Bradley West 20:33
it was. So those they end also dealing with parental abuse, as well as, as a child and as a teenager, mental, emotional, and physical, became all of those things created such intense suffering for me that I just essentially, that was my initial collapse. And at that point, time, if you want to call them angels, or whatever, showed up, I didn't know who they were. But I was having these dreams with these beings and these feelings that I was having. And, and so a door open then and then I met started meeting through doing herbs and essential oils and my healing and things like that, because I got off the steroids. I was just done with the anti inflammatories they had me on went completely to herbs. So in those shops, I started to meet people that was like, Oh, I want to I want to get to know these people. What's going on here? So yeah, so that was the beginning of it all.

Brandon Handley 21:31
So it's a whole nother space. And so, you know, it's funny, because you mentioned you're gay. And and also, you know, you're doing this clairvoyance. And you're in the south.

Unknown Speaker 21:45
Yeah.

Christian Bradley West 21:47
Hence the country clairvoyant.

Brandon Handley 21:49
Right. Right. So so for, you know, for for people tuning in, you know, if you're not from the south, and if you haven't ventured to the south, I hate to say it, you know, there's a lot of parts in the south that really haven't changed in the past 30 to 40 years. So for you to be in the position that you're in doing what you're doing, I'd say that's brave, right, you know, in one sense of the word. But in the other side of that, there must have been, you know, this kind of fear stacked on fear. And I think I talked about it before, like, you know, what happens we like, not only are you gay, you've already you're in the south, but now you're like, I'm gonna be doing tarot readings. And, boy, and I'm psychic, who wants to hang out? Right? All right. So let's talk about stepping into that space and what that was like for you.

Christian Bradley West 22:40
So to your point, very much so that I, for anyone that doesn't know and the ones that listen in probably don't, um, I come from a fear space and everywhere, so that you may say, like, you walk the path of love or fear, whatever the conscious or unconscious, I always come from the fear. And what I also realize I do is I do everything anyway. So if I feel very compelled and inspired to seek something out or to participate in some way, then I will do it, and nothing will stop me. Nothing. I will, I will go, Okay, this is what I'm doing now. And it's interesting, because I haven't dealt even being gay, I haven't dealt with outside of high school, there hasn't been any prejudice in my life. There's never I've never stumbled. I also have dated very country, alpha boys a lot, they have tend to find me. And I have I was country boy, myself. So um, you know, inside, there's, there's one of those inside of me. So, um, so you know, it's true. And so I've kind of, it's odd how it's all worked out. It's, it's, it's strange, I really, I always say, I'm 50% country, 50% city. And so I just I go wherever I'm called. And I find those people, whether they're in the country, or in the cut, you know, one way to say it, or, or if or if they're actually, you know, in more urban areas, it's funny, I feel very binary in that way that I kind of flow between the two. And the fear. Of course, in the beginning, it's always the, you know, the strongest in the beginning, but I've just, I keep pushing past that. And when I started to do this, the fear was, oh my god, I'm gonna be in front of people talking and talking about my my philosophies, my, my own perspectives, and that felt very vulnerable, so that I've had to work through that a lot, as well. So have you found it to be empowering,

Brandon Handley 24:45
kind of facing those fears and and stepping into them?

Christian Bradley West 24:48
Absolutely. My perception is it's always empowering for us because if we don't turn around and look at what scares us, then we will Stay, what we resist persists. As they say, I find that to be very true. And it's of great value, that we, that we dive deep, I still dive deep, I still, one thing I'm struggling with recently is wanting to be accepted by the group. I still feel that way sometimes. And if I'm still wanting that, then there's still ego and be attached to some form of outcome. And so and so and afraid that I won't get the love and approval that apparently some part of me desperately still wants

Brandon Handley 25:32
a madman No, I get it, I get it. And, you know, this is this is something I actually just did a transformational kind of session last week or the week before with the very same thing, like, you know, yeah, like, what's your, you know, what's your hang up? I'm like, it's belonging, right. Like, it's just, and that was in the session I did was it was great, right. But you know, just saying, I get the whole belonging part, right. And and so, you know, what do you do with that, right? And it sounds to me, like, Look, you just kind of keep stepping towards it, right? Like, that's it,

Christian Bradley West 26:05
that's it, you, you acknowledge the fear, and you go, and this, and I go, fuck you, you do not get to drive the car, right? And sometimes you don't even get to sit in the backseat, sometimes you have to get in the trunk. And I just say, no, we're not doing this, I really, I really have to have that conversation with myself. That's not what I'm doing now.

Brandon Handley 26:27
That's great. Now that we're at now, where do you find that kind of impacting what it is that you do, and like, how you getting you know,

Christian Bradley West 26:35
so I show up, I participate. Because otherwise, if we feel ashamed, and we feel like what we don't have to offer is a value to people. And shame being not I feel bad, but that I am bad, right? There is something wrong with me isn't how I define shame. Um, and so if we feel any of that, and we're essentially judging what we have to offer, then we're doing a disservice to ourselves, but also to other people that might be seeking it. And right now, there's this explosion of amazing people, like you and so many other people out there who are wanting to provide information to people that can help them on their journey. And if we're not doing that, then we're we're essentially we're allowing our, the junk to get in the way, and potentially being very selfish because of that, because we want to protect ourselves, right? So stepping into that space of vulnerability to me very consciously, I call becoming available. So I value being available. So I choose the availability and what it's teaching me is to show up every day, because my inclination has been to go run in my room and hide sure the ad and become very introverted. Sure. And go, No, I don't want to do that. And what if I get judged for it? And what if people don't like it? And what? What if I fuck up? You know?

Brandon Handley 28:01
Yeah, no, look, I agree, right? I love that too. What if you fuck up? So what is your life? Right? Like, anyways? Like, you know,

Christian Bradley West 28:09
I cannot is that even true? Because as I as as one of my dearest friends on the planet says, you have to be every bend to be where you are.

Brandon Handley 28:16
Right? Well, I mean, it was funny. We're getting ready for this podcast. And, you know, we're working on the lighting and, and getting the video all set up. Right. And, and I didn't say it, but like, you know, the deal is like it you worked a whole life to get to this point, you know, this is the best you've ever loved today,

Unknown Speaker 28:33
right now.

Brandon Handley 28:34
Right? So so I'm not gonna look any better today than you look right now. So, I love that, um, what if I called up so if I call you up for a session, you know, what, what type of sessions am I calling up for like,

Christian Bradley West 28:52
so there there is. There's really two I I did put on my website, multiple options, but I find it doesn't matter what you choose, because we will always get to the nitty gritty, we'll always get to the source of whatever, whatever information is needed. Right now, the tools are different. Some people are more comfortable with astrology, so I can do that. Some people are more comfortable with Tarot. So I do that some people want Oracle cards, or some people don't care. They just go you have information for me. You can help me clarify something. Let's do it. Let's go have a party together. So we do for like an hour and we we talk we throw cards. I always start off with numbers numerology, I don't know why I'm terrible at math. And the universe is like, Oh, hey, we're gonna have to do numerology in order to tune into this person. And it is it's kind of like you giving me your passcode to the Wi Fi or your computer that we get in there. And it's like, Okay, I see this happen. Like, it's really,

Brandon Handley 29:54
yeah, it's an it's interesting process. That's cool and use, I think I heard you say like, most of the people, a lot of people are calling about relationships and whatnot,

Christian Bradley West 30:04
relationships tends to be one of the primary, um, one of the primary discussions, one of the primary readings that people want. And it is a primary way that we learn, we, we learn relationally everything in this world is in relationship you're in, we're in relationship with our microphones right now with our, with our recording devices, with whatever. So, um, but human relationship tends to cause the most amount of drama, because it is so nuanced, and so and instigate the triggers, sure, that require our attention in any given moment, for our healing, which, from my perspective, the root of the word healing is just hope. So it's whatever is going to lead us into more homes. Sure. Sure. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 30:58
Yeah. No, and I love that right. When your relationship with someone over time they get to know all your triggers, right. Yeah. And, you know, they keep pushing them and to balance with you, you know, that's where we learn how, where our points are that need to be fixed, right? That's what yeah, it's not them. It's like these are these are your triggers. They're not

Christian Bradley West 31:18
their triggers? No. Well, and and if you are conscious enough, then you'll choose someone who's not going to do it on purpose, or, or maliciously, because some people do that some people will weaponize the triggers, and general use them in order to manipulate or do whatever. And I've experienced that in my life. And I'll and I'll be like, Okay, this is, you know, you're operating in this fashion. Can we discuss about this? And, and how can I change it out also in this, like, what's going on here. And for me, what I realized is a lot of those relationships I had to step away from, because if someone was unaware of their own triggers as well. And, and, and also triggering other people to say, if you, if you don't heal your wounds, you'll bleed on others. So it's important. It's really important to understand who we are, and then also look at our partners and understand them so that we can be of service to their own process. Yeah, so hopefully, that happens. I don't see that a lot. But I do see it changing. There are a lot of people out there who are ready to come together. We talk about unconscious coupling, our conscious uncoupling, but most of it is unconscious coupled instead. Right? Right, right.

Brandon Handley 32:37
Absolutely. I mean, look, I can't I can't say that. I can't save the relationship that I'm in now that it was like a, it was a conscious decision.

Christian Bradley West 32:46
No, but it can become that it becomes that like over

Brandon Handley 32:50
Yeah, right. Like, absolutely. And as you kind of, I don't want to say evolve, like, I don't like the words evolve. I don't like the, you know, leveling up or any of that shit. Like, it's, again, I struggle

Christian Bradley West 33:00
with it to

Brandon Handley 33:02
remembering who you are getting back to your true sense of self, right? Like, because

Christian Bradley West 33:09
we'll frame it in the way of the physical realm, it appears that we're expanding or leveling up, it appears that way. But if we're coming from a space of wholeness, and spirit, and in that spirit of wholeness already, then you already recognize the entirety exists. So you're not trying to grab something in order to expand or level up, you're just going, Okay, it already exists. And I'm going through the motions here, of this experience and this physical reality. So it appears that things expand and contract here, but of course, when you're looking at it from a different perspective, everything already exists. And already is and its wholeness.

Brandon Handley 33:47
Right, so everything already exists. You just got Yeah, I'm aware of it. Right. Like that's the that's Yes, the line. That's the line. What, um, all right, look, I love it. Right. Um, let's see what else I have for you today. We talked about alkalizing your stuff, right? I pulled that out of one of the podcasts that you kind of mentioned. If someone's not familiar with a, you know, alchemy beyond transmuting gold, you know, lead into gold added to gold. Yeah, from back in the day. You know, let's talk a little bit about what does it mean to optimize?

Christian Bradley West 34:18
Yeah, so it's I also in my very country way, other way I do it is using manure to grow wild flowers. So it's taking your life's shit, right? And then consciously applying it going, Okay, what's the lesson throwing it on the garden? You know, and of course, everyone knows if anyone's ever had a garden it requires tremendous tending, right because the deer come and eat things or other critters and you have any insects and all that stuff. So you have to tend to it that way. And you have to fertilize it. You have to decide some soils need extra things in order to PR certain plants to grow and you know, so It really it's about becoming aware of what happened. What was the trauma? What was the junk mean going, how can I use this, for instance, speaking about my relationships, one relationship in particular, the person had been molested and was an alcoholic. And it I started to research more about shame, I started to research more about what healthy relationships look like, as well. I started to research all these things. And it gave me a whole nother set of tools that I wasn't using. And so yes, that relationship was very painful and heart wrenching, and very difficult to go through. Sure. And I left it with all this information. And now I work with a lot of people who have struggled with those same things either within themselves or within relationships with their partners. And now I say, Okay, here are some tools that I have to try that. So that's one way outcome is it it's like, okay, don't focus on the negative aspects of it. Although acknowledge it, don't bypass it. Okay, that was painful. That hurt like crap. But but then attend to it and go, Okay, well, well, how can I? What did I learn? what's the takeaway? What's that? So in alchemy, of course, you have the fire, right? And the fire burns away everything that isn't the gold, and you're left with the gold. And so the alchemy to me is really a process of recognizing the value in every circumstance, and taking that gold and turning into something else. And I also say, from grid into gold, so it's like, we take it and and we make it our own. But alchemy is the process that we're responsible for. We also another aspect of alchemy is applying meaning to your own life, and not allowing another person place or thing, some authority outside of you to apply the meaning. You get to decide what that relationship meant, what that circumstance meant, what that event meant to you. And no one else can decide that for you. And in that way, you're optimizing it.

Brandon Handley 36:59
Yeah, no, I mean, and I think in that situation, too, you become the true creator of your own life. Right? Like, yeah, and you've got all the pieces, the bits and pieces and the parts, but at some point, you realize that you are designing your own life, and you've got your own meaning your own purpose, your own. Yeah, you know, set of logic that makes it all happen, right? Yeah. And I saw, I love that there was another piece he said to talk about, like linearity, right? None of this is like not linear, right? None of this is linear. So anybody who says like, Listen, all you got to do is go or point A, at the left over here at point B, and you should arrive here at C, as you know, that's the direction you go linear. What did you mean? Yeah, what do you mean by that, like?

Christian Bradley West 37:45
So I, one way that I, that I described it that I love is if anyone seen the seed of life, in anyone, google it if you if you're listening, and you don't know it, so it's a set of seven circles, right? But they can expand into multiple more circles. And then if you really, if you look at it from a different perspective, it becomes a spiral. So you go around one circle, but then you hit on another circle and sons go around that circle, then you go around that circle, then you are on that circle, and then you go around that circle, then you go around that circle, and then you kind of sometimes hit on some of the things from that you've already learned, but then you go around it again. And so it's, it's not this straight. It's not this, what I call vector consciousness, it doesn't run on a straight line, no consciousness runs on a straight line. That's essentially also what I would call in computer terms in AI as well, like a current AI is running on one terms, but of course, in AI talk, there's also something called panoramic AI, which can see the whole picture, it's not running on a vector anymore. And our consciousness is kind of like that. We start off with this linearity with this vector, okay, it's one line. And then once we awaken, we start to realize we become panoramic, our vision becomes panoramic, when you start to see all these different circles, all these different things and to your point, um, you stop going, there's just a dime, you go. There's so many times there's so many options. There's so many ways of going about this. And, and sometimes, like in my healing of my body, I've had to target it from multiple ways through exercise, through herbs, through Central oils, sometimes through baths through eating certain foods through things like that. I haven't healed my gut from just choosing Okay, I'm going to take this one medicine, and it's going to fix everything, because there is no silver bullet usually. So in the linearity comes the exploration of the experience that

Brandon Handley 39:38
I love that dude, um, you know, just just while you're talking about you know, healing the gut, right. Did you go through like I Vedic, uh, you know, how did you

Christian Bradley West 39:47
I try that early on. And what what I what has worked. Actually I've recently changed it up what has worked recently because I had another bout because I took a lot of animals For a tooth and jaw infection earlier this year, and was disrupted again. And what work this time is I have flooded myself with multiple strains of probiotics or different non dairy because I can't do dairy. I'm non dairy yogurts, also taking certain probiotics, and also just really monitoring what is going into my body, I don't eat really greasy food, I tend to do my best to stay away from refined sugars, and just allow anything that could potentially promote inflammation I stay away from, and then anything like herbs like marshmallow and slippery elm that kind of helped the mucosal lining, and we're gonna sciency in that in that zone to help rebuild it, because the antibiotics kill is good bacteria that kind of helped keep that. So what I want to do is create an environment it was like, Okay, if I killed them all off, right? How do I support their regeneration? Right. Um, and before though, in the past, it's been just like, bombarding myself with herbs. But, um, but this go round, I was like, I want to be more dynamic. So even in my practice of my life, I'm choosing to operate in that dynamic space, which again, the non linearity has benefited me greatly. And I'm, I say, I'm in the trenches with everyone. I'm over here do.

Brandon Handley 41:34
Right, right. I mean, I mean, none, I don't think anybody's like, perfect with all this stuff. Right. And they caught That's why they call it that's why I call it practice, right? Like, this is this is your practice, right? This is what you do. And these are the things that you're doing. These are the habits that you created yourself. Um, yeah. And, you know, they serve you today, like, in a week, they could all fall apart. None of it's working anymore. Right? Exactly.

Christian Bradley West 41:57
Oh, which has happened, which is happened.

Brandon Handley 42:01
Tanya, so I, you know, one of the things, you know, we see out there, at least, that's what I see, you know, in this motivational, entrepreneurial, all this other stuff, right, like, stay the course, just keep with it, keep sticking with it, and you'll make it or whatever. And you know, or don't deviate, there's discipline, you got to stick with it, the rigor, yada, yada, yada. And so that can make it difficult to let go of some of the habits that you've created, or some of the things that you've done. So talk about, like breaking the habits that aren't serving you anymore, and recognizing that they're not serving you anymore.

Christian Bradley West 42:33
This is a couple of things here, I say keep going does not mean doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. So keep going and staying consistent does not mean that you don't adapt, you consistently adapt. So that's what you bring into the fold there. At least that's been my lesson. And then the other part of it is research shows because I've done a lot of research, I've researched this a lot myself, research shows that we don't break habits. So we have these grooves in our brains, right, we create this neural pathway. And what ends up happening is we choose differently. So that old neural pathway essentially grows over and starts to disintegrate as we start using a new one. And I struggle with the term habit, because any habit to me feels unconscious. So the only habit I think anyone needs is to be present and do everything on purpose. Because if you are it breaks the pattern of I have to do it the right way. Because the linearity comes through with the right way I have to do this, I have to learn as you said, You know, I have to follow this structure, I have to do it this way. Well, if that structure is not working anymore, then you become curious about it. And you go, Okay, is there a different structure, and then you start to research and then you start to find that there's other options. There's other ways of doing it. And so, And to me, that's living on purpose. It's and then connecting it to what we talked about earlier with conspiracy theories is is I say, be a researcher ask questions, because that is going to forward our momentum, with our consciousness and with anything we do. So if for whatever reason you quote unquote, as they say, gets stuck, then the next thing to do is go Okay, am I operating out of out of a habitual mode? And can I change that so again, the and they may be the only habit. The other habit is when you're operating on purpose in the present is that you're also adapting. So each moment has its own set of circumstances that are very individual and as unique as the individual approaching them. So it's of great value for us to recognize what's useful there because what it's like another example I use for being very linear is going okay, I've been using the screwdriver, you know, to to drew screws, but now it's time to use a nail. Well, if you try and hammer The nail with the screwdriver, that's going to be really difficult. So get the damn hammer and stop trying to use the screwdriver and go kind of stuff this isn't working, it's like, No, just fine, adapt and locate the tool become aware of the tool that's going to support you through the process.

Brandon Handley 45:19
Yeah, I mean, I like that a lot. Because, you know, be aware that you don't have the tool that you need for the process right then and there. Right? Like being being aware that this, this tool doesn't serve this process. What is the tool that you need? Right?

Christian Bradley West 45:34
Well, and so like I say, on my website, if you can't see the forest for the trees, then maybe you need to listen to the forest. Maybe you need to feel the forest, maybe there's a different way of moving through the circumstance that you're not aware of. Because maybe you're not supposed to see the forest through the trees. Maybe that's not the point. Then you then you stop doing that you go, Okay, I need to close my eyes and just feel out what to do.

Brandon Handley 45:58
Yeah, yeah. I love that. There's another there's another piece that I've seen a lot too is like cleaning your energies by leaning up on a tree, right? type? Yeah. But I mean, there's so many, you know, so many different places to go with that. You know, you also mentioned, you know, just asking the different questions, right. I've recently read a book called, asking a more beautiful question. Right, and just talking about it, but and it gotten to the one point and really what I loved is, you know, talking about when you decided to become like the clairvoyant and really lean into the space, you could have done this, that or you could have chosen another path, right. And one of the questions that he had in the book, and I love it is, you know, which one of these makes a better story, you know, at the end of the day, right? Which, which one of these, which one of these motions do I take in life is going to make a better story? And he's, like, always choose the one that's going to have the better story,

Christian Bradley West 46:55
right? Oh, God, I think I have done that my whole life. I think I chose to do that when I was very young and have been devastated by it, but in the best possible.

Brandon Handley 47:05
I mean, you know, I'll throw it out there. Like, uh, you know, sometimes I'll pick like, some hotels or motels that I probably shouldn't, right. But I'm more interested in the outcome, right, like, what happened what's gonna happen with it when I went to one where there was like, a Stanley Steamer, you know, vacuum van in there, and it looks like there's probably a murder getting cleaned up. Right. And, and, and when I got up into my hotel room, like the the frame of the hotel door, solid steel, and there was like, dense in there. I was like, this is just a bad idea. And I stayed there anyways. But um, you know, I was showing and sharing pictures with other people are like, Yeah, no,

Christian Bradley West 47:43
you know, I actually, I stayed in a hotel in New York, I stayed in a room that had a murder. I and I, and I had nowhere to go. I had to stay there that night. And I went downstairs and said, I need extra sheets, because somehow the bed sheet had come apart. And there was no bed cover. And the and I knew exactly what it was because I'd seen it enough. The entire mattress was soaked with blood. Kidding me it No, it was it was and it was before I had a camera phone. So it was a while ago. And But yeah, I pulled it back. And somehow and I was like, This is soaked. I say this is soaked through it. But somebody died here. somebody died on this mattress, and they did not get rid of it. Yeah, so anyway, interesting story that I really tell but you

Unknown Speaker 48:36
know, tell stories. Just say

Christian Bradley West 48:39
I was downstairs and I was like, I need to change rooms. Or we need it. I need more linens. I need something to not be so close to this mat dead mattress. And there was no other place to go. And I didn't want to change hotels and it was too late. So yeah, cuz I'd gotten in like way early in the morning. So yeah, so anyway, so it was an interesting experience. I was like, Oh, crap, someone died on in this bed.

Brandon Handley 49:06
So so you chose the better story like I did with the good out? No, it could have gone somewhere else anything else could happen? And you'll be like, I was bloody I left but no, you bloody

Unknown Speaker 49:19
does that you do. Um, and that's,

Brandon Handley 49:21
that's that's I mean, that's to me. I think that's kind of like that. That's what makes life kind of fun, though. You know, making this choice. Yeah, like, you know, I could totally go stay at the nice place and that's okay. Yeah, this is something else like there's life yeah, there's life in this place right in this space.

Christian Bradley West 49:37
Try with follow your intuition people. Something says don't go there. Don't

Brandon Handley 49:43
know. Are you are you a follow your bliss kind of guy or you know, where do you stand with that?

Christian Bradley West 49:48
Um, I think that gets really tricky because bliss can come from judgment, sometimes what I think is better or best or superior. Sometimes people go Oh, This is better than that. And so yes and no, what I am is follow your intuition. Follow, get very grounded in your own being, and your own authenticity and your values, what works for you, I like to make it very practical, because otherwise follow your bliss can be running from one thing of happiness to the other. And I don't subscribe. I don't like the word happiness, happiness, to me, points to the ephemeral pleasures that we experience in this life. And that's not to say you can't enjoy them was to say, though, is is to constantly be chasing it is like, is like trying to constantly chase the butterfly, you will never ever get it once you do get it What then? You know. So to me, it's about creating your bliss, not following it. So you want to create it. And there are tools, which was to do that.

Unknown Speaker 50:51
What's your favorite one?

Christian Bradley West 50:53
Um, well, we talked about the Four Agreements earlier from what I do. Every time I got your precise moment. I think whatever works, that works for me very early on, I'm actually rereading it. What I like the most about it is I think we only need one agreement with ourselves, which is to be honest with ourselves to be and to frame it in his way to be impeccable with your word. So be aware of the stories that we tell ourselves. So to your point, I'll say, I've made the agreement to be honest with myself no matter what. So if there's if I feel a certain way, or I'm thinking a certain way, oftentimes, I'll stop like last night when I felt angry. And so there's a narrative here, there's a story, I'm not being honest with myself, there's a lie living in me, and I want to confront it, and move through it. And record. And usually the lie for me is, you are not a value, your voice is not a value. You weren't valued and recognized by people and as a child, or you were bullied or whatever. And I still feel very viscerally that way, even though the circumstances sometimes are not there. And sometimes you can be triggered by this lawless thing. And, and some days, I don't feel it at all. And other days I do. So I just recognize the story. And then I decide to drop it and I go, you know what, I'm the author or authority of my life, right, which has the word author in it. I'm writing this, and I want to write a more peaceful story here. And this doesn't, this doesn't. This doesn't add up. This doesn't compute anymore. And I say Thank you Next.

Brandon Handley 52:24
Nice. Yeah. So so you kind of you confront it, right? You acknowledge it, and you determine whether or not it's serving you or not. Yeah. And if not, you're like, you know, what is my desired outcome? Right? Peace. What

Christian Bradley West 52:38
do I want to do now? Yeah, what do I want to do now? And I wouldn't even call it a desired outcome. Because desiring peace, to me is the antithesis of having peace, but I just choose it, right? I just say, Okay, this is I'm gonna choose this now, and not even let another story get in the way.

Brandon Handley 52:52
Right, right. What is it? The whole the lady that goes up to Buddha was like, you know, I want happiness or something like that. He's, like, removed the I removed the want and, you know, just be, you know, happiness or whatever.

Christian Bradley West 53:05
Yeah, exactly. So

Unknown Speaker 53:07
and

Brandon Handley 53:08
then you've got, you've got some books in process, right, let's talk a minute or two about the

Christian Bradley West 53:14
lineup, right? Well, my mentor says they're all the same book. Um, so the one that's almost finished is is called Zora and the songs of singularity, and it's about a dog that becomes conscious through nanotechnology, or humans disappear. And she realizes that it's happened because, and militant AI has destroyed the planet or created an apocalypse. And she has to confront the AI in order to save her humans. So she was like, but just a dog for him. Yeah, kind of exactly. which I love. He said that because today, I was like, Oh, I kind of want to watch the matrix again. So I love you said that. So kind of, yeah, it's kind of a cry. It's kind of a doggy matrix. You know, Neuromancer, if anyone has read William Gibson's Neuromancer, which, by the way, inspired the matrix, and then we'll crosskeys won't deny it. And then the other than to the graphic

Brandon Handley 54:07
was that the

Christian Bradley West 54:08
graphic novel or that it was turned into a graphic novel, but it was originally I think, published in 1986. by William Gibson, it's a wonderful book for anyone's to read it, it really it was, it was where cyberspace was coined, he really did. And it's about confronting an AI. But really confronting the people that want to stop it, but it's an interesting read for those sci fi people out there. But, um, so that that book is forthcoming. Um, I'm finishing this other draft, it started in 2011. Just keep sitting it down and sending it out, and it just keeps getting rejected. So we'll see if it's different this time because I reframed it as a young adult, because my other two books are for adults. And I said, Well, why not have it? And as always, it has a spiritual bands. It's about becoming conscious. And then once you become conscious, how do you use that consciousness? And then the other book, which I'm starting out as a podcast, is called here on purpose. And the podcast name is called, you're here on purpose. And that's the spirituality book. It's just point blank, what my philosophy is, and I, my philosophy being that everything is on purpose. And we get to, but we get to decide that purpose ultimately, within the framework of, of all the other purpose. And so what what is a value at any given moment? And how do we embrace our own value and the significance of the now? Yeah, no, no? Yeah. Yeah. So those are the two and then I have a memoir that's solely about my own story, because for some reason, I have to get that out of me. I don't know. I don't know if anything will come of that. But I've already I'm already a fourth of the way done. So I love it. And I think that, you know, you talked about before, like, it's ultimately it's about self expression. Right. expressing yourself. Always. That is I love it. Yes. That's my word. Yes. It's always about. You know, Rumi said, it's, it's not about finding the love, but I think it was me that said it but removing the blocks to it. And I feel like ultimately, what we call love is also just just expression, pure, utter, authentic expression, and we am moving toward that in her life and dropping everything that blocks that. Yeah, yeah. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 56:22
Let me get rid of the stuff that's not serving you. Right. Yeah. So the podcast is coming out when

Christian Bradley West 56:30
the plan is October. And like I said, it's it's a devotional kind of daily or weekly. It's not very long. I it's just it's just me. And some meanderings that I see people might might enjoy just thought provoking, just getting people to ask questions that you can easily listen to and 10 to 15 minutes and go about your day. Yeah. Yeah. Does that Thunder?

Brandon Handley 56:59
One of my children? Ah ha ha. like thunder, but different. Um,

Unknown Speaker 57:09
and then, uh, you know, where can people connect with you?

Christian Bradley West 57:12
So you can find me on the country clairvoyant.com my website or Christian be West? And hold on a second apparently. There's I if I disappeared. phone call was coming through. I'm back. Yeah, so sorry, guys. So yeah, Christian be West, or the country, February's calm Hussein website, or on Instagram, the country clairvoyant.com or if you Google or look up Christian Bradley West, you can find me very easily on every platform. Um, I'm also on Twitter. I don't do a lot there yet. I'm kind of in love with Instagram. Mostly. Sometimes it annoys me, but I think our social medias go Yeah, I feel like

Brandon Handley 57:56
that's a more of a authentic kind of nature to it. Right? I don't know.

Christian Bradley West 58:00
Yeah, well, people face it, Facebook will stop messing with it. But yeah. Fair enough.

Unknown Speaker 58:08
Fair enough. Um,

Brandon Handley 58:09
any, any parting words, anything that, uh, that we didn't cover that you feel like should have came out on this podcast,

Christian Bradley West 58:19
the source of all abundance, and is going to be gratitude. If people we didn't talk about abundance, or the law of attraction, or any of those things there's a lot of people get into or want to know about, and I just say, grateful, I am completely grateful we've had this talk is just delightful. I love doing this. And, and, and from my perspective, maintaining a state of gratitude is serves us

Brandon Handley 58:46
could talk about the word I mean, talk about that, though, is that a feeling? Is it a thought?

Christian Bradley West 58:51
It can be it can be instigated as by thought. My practice is for people. And this is a great place to end on is put your hand on your heart. And then you can think of something that you're grateful for. But then drop that in, simply feel into the gratitude. And don't make it contingent on something that you think you need for your happiness. simply move into it, there was a great story of a Japanese a Japanese wise woman and and and a man went to her and said I need to know how to be enlightened. And she gave him this one word that said, Thank you, I have no complaints. And he went throughout the whole way. He went throughout the whole year on this journey and it comes back to a year later and he goes I still am still not enlightened. And I've been saying what you've been saying every day. I've been practicing it. And she said thank you. I had no complaints and he got it. Hmm gratitude disrupts the complainer within us and and opens the way for any number of experiences to present it. Are life.

Brandon Handley 1:00:01
Awesome. Thank you so much for being on today.

Christian Bradley West 1:00:04
Thank you my friend. Oh, it was so great. Thank you. Thank you.

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Dr. Ben Chambers | Optimal Health and Wellness

Published: Oct. 18, 2020, 6:42 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 26 seconds

What would you do if you could experience perfection?

Even if it was just for one moment?

Take a listen to Dr. Benjamin Chambers as he shares with you how to connect with source and experience moments beyond magnificence.

Connect with Ben here: axiscw.com

And check out his podcast here: Your Essential Nature Podcast

Insights & Takeaways:

  • Brandon’s Intro: “I’m on with Dr. Ben Chambers and it's his life purpose to bring people into their optimal state of health and wellness.”
  • 2:03 Dr. Ben’s message is about “Tapping into what you are, as opposed to what other people perceive you as… We wear many different masks in life, many different personas.”
    • This relates directly to the unconscious personas and archetypes that Carl Jung discussed. It begs the question: Who am I really, behind these masks? Who am I truly when I am not portraying a persona?
    • Dr. Ben indicates that the masks/personas are not our real identities, “not really who you are at your deepest level.”
      • Dr. Ben believes that when we step away from these personas and into the present moment which is “already perfect. There’s nothing to fix, there’s nothing to perfect upon… you actually get to experience the perfection of simply being.”
  • 3:58 Dr. Ben refers to a Shakespearean quote from Hamlet which he loves: “There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so.”
    • Dr Ben speaks of a patient who left a note in his office one day which stated simply “Love is.” This also reminds him of a friend that has recently passed who once said, “We are beings of Love and Light.
      • Dr. Ben says that when we don’t receive love and light that it creates pain within us that we store as trauma and emotion. He says, “The only thing that can unlock the trauma and emotion we’re carrying is going back to love.”
  • 7:25 Dr. Ben discusses the semantics of whatever individuals call their path or journey
    • I’m not here to define that for you… whether you call it consciousness, or you call it spirit, whether you call it soul, whether you call it God, whether you call it Divine Universe, it doesn’t matter. We are all on a spiritual path and everything we do is energy. You know, on a quantum level, we’re vibrating packets of light.”
  • 19:19 Responding to Brandon’s questions about what it was like when Dr. Ben began to integrate energy work holistically into his practice with patients, Dr. Ben responds:
    • “This gets into like, fulfilling archetypal roles.” He goes on to explain how the word “Doctor” is derived from a word meaning “to teach.” Where doctors in his field of Chiropractics typically see around 100 people a day he isn’t called to spend a mere few minutes with each person and send them off. He might see closer to around 20 patients per day instead. For him it isn’t about the cash cow of having these patients return again and again as is typical with much of modern healthcare. It is about teaching them to heal and stay healed holistically.
      • “...it’s the outcome that you get, you get tired of trying to sell people a system that you in your heart believe is not complete… as a chiropractor, you can get into the fear model: ‘I got to keep this person sick so that they can continue coming in to see me. Our whole medical system is predicated on the idea of disease care, rather than healthcare… as soon as you cure them you have lost a patient. So with me, I’m happy to lose patients. I’m happy for them not to come in, because there are a lot of sick people in the world… Everyone I get to work on, I get to teach, right?”

Spiritual Dope Eureka Moments!

  • 27:30 “You can’t get anywhere by being inauthentic and you can’t get anywhere by just following a map of what someone else did or being the same as a guy across the street.”

  • 28:15 & 28:53 “One of my favorite things to do, it’s called an ‘open secret.’ Do you ever see the halos over a saint’s head? Like the golden light around Christ or around Buddha? That’s an open secret… the halo was not a fancy hat, it was an opening of the Crown Chakra. So the trick is, and this is one of my favorite things to do… I focus on my heart and I say the words ‘Thank you.” That opens the Heart Chakra. So focus on your heart. You can tap it if you want to as well, and just think of the words ‘Thank you.’ Then you focus on your crown, say ‘Thank you’ and then focus inside your head and say ‘Thank you.’ What you’ll feel is a tingling along the top of your head…”
    • “If you pay attention to the center of your head, you’ll actually feel your pineal gland. The fastest way to be able to reach your spiritual side is gratitude. So when you say thank you with your heart, it opens up your heart. When you say thank you with your crown, it opens up your crown. Have you ever seen the lotus flower before? The lotus flower is a depiction of the crown chakra opening, right and enlightenment, right? So heart opens, thank you. Crown opens, thank you, and then that golden light that you see within those religious images, it happens to you.”

49:30 “When you're playing a role, rather than being who you really are, you'll never feel whole and complete. And you'll always look for something outside of yourself to fix it, or you'll blame someone outside or something outside of yourself for why things are the way they are.”

Transcript below machine generated

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey, there's spiritual dope. This is Brandon Handley and I am on with Dr. Ben chambers and it's his life purpose to bring people into their optimal state of health and wellness chicken with illness in his early 20s. He found he was outside found hope outside of conventional medicine. At the age of 22. He was diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome, which relegated him to a life spent at home, unable to work or attend school. While he was seeking medical treatment by some of the area's experts, he was told to, quote unquote, join a support group and learn to live with this chronic illness. He could not accept this dismissal sentence. Through changes in exercise, diet, lifestyle and regular chiropractic visits, he was able to overcome insurmountable fatigue, recurrent illness and pain, and he began to rebuild his life. This journey defined his passion for health and propelled him into the field of chiropractic and functional medicine, graduating from Cleveland chiropractic in 2009. And he wants you to know that health and living pain free is within reach for all of us. However, achieving true health can be a mystery with the flood of information and Miss information present in our chiropractic energy, healer, speaker and pass it misinformation present and that he is also a chiropractor, energy healer, speaker and he is passionate about helping people to connect with deeper aspects of their being. Dr. Ben, thanks for being here today. How are you?

Dr Ben Chambers 1:29
It's an honor and a pleasure to be here. Thank you. Yeah, man, I'm doing great doing great.

Brandon Handley 1:34
Yeah, loving life, loving life. So I love to start these off with the idea that we are conduits for creative energy source energy. And that you and I, while we're having a great conversation, somebody else is out there that's listening to this podcast. And there's a message coming through you. For them today. What is that message?

Dr Ben Chambers 2:00
Well, the message would be

Dr Ben Chambers 2:03
tapping into tapping into what you are, as opposed to what other people perceive you as what you perceive yourself, as we wear many different masks within life. Many different personas, you know, you you we talked on the phone while back, you know, you're a father, you're an entrepreneur, you're a podcaster. And these are all just like hats that you wear for a period of time. But it's not really your true identity or your your your essential nature, like it's not really who you are your deepest level. But getting a chance to step away and be in the present moment, in the present moments already perfect. There's nothing to fix, there's nothing to perfect upon. So when you step away from all these roles, and all these identities and all these ideas of perfection, you actually get to experience the perfection of simply being and when you're in that state of being, there's nothing else to really fix or impress upon life begins to slow down and you feel well, you feel authentic, you feel who you really are on your deepest level.

Brandon Handley 3:04
I love that feeling, you know, being something that I was I was on a podcaster this week on you know, my buddy Jeremy, who has a positive side podcasts, he was asking me kind of what it was that I was doing to get in touch with source and how what that look like to be. And I was talking about being in love, right? And that was my meditation. My meditation was about sitting with and being in love, like literally immersed in it, emanating it and just being a love being right, what else do you need to be, you know, in that moment, and you don't need to go anywhere to find it. It's already within you. Right? You are limitless potential of all things. And so that goes to Shakespeare's To be or not to be. And the question is, what do you choose to be?

Dr Ben Chambers 3:58
Right? Yeah, when we choose that we choose that from moment to moment. There's another quote from Shakespeare I like it is things are neither good nor bad, but the mind makes it so I'm a huge fan of that line

Brandon Handley 4:10
and love that line. Yeah.

Dr Ben Chambers 4:11
But But I have a patient who is in his 80s and he's just like, he's a giant teddy bear. He reminds me of like Winnie the Pooh or something like that. And he's just he's so still that he makes me feel not still myself like I'm very still but he's like, he's like a lake that doesn't move. And he wrote down on a piece of paper my room one day just just in a calm state just wrote down on piece of paper and left it on my desk. He wrote love is and that's it. He just wrote the words love is nothing more. Yeah. And and you know, the mind goes with love is what love is that and another friend of mine passed away last year. He said, We are beings made of love and light, per se. I like to add an addendum to that we're beings made of love and light. So that's why when If we don't receive love and light, creates pain within us, hmm. And we store it as trauma and emotion. And the only thing that can unlock the trauma and emotion we're carrying is going back to love. So, you know, you think about when you go to a therapist or you pay good money for someone to work on you, really what you're paying for is care. Hmm. And then they hold the space for them to, for you to receive the love that you didn't receive a long time ago. Hmm. And then that's what actually transmutes the pain that we're holding, it's just having still moment in time where there's no past or future. And you can take love it actually bring it liberally all throughout the body. And that's, that's what that's the catalyst for healing.

Brandon Handley 5:44
I love that I love that just being able to release that pent up energy, right, that trauma, right? Because it's kind of like deeply love within you and you're saying like, no kind of loves the key to let that go right and or be in be in that space. And you talk about like a therapist or something like that this is somebody that's specializes in that abilities the same way that an energy worker like yourself or coach would do right where they they excel in being able to coax a love coach and coax right that greatness out of you right? And let you realize that right now, just like you started this off with you are great, just right. Now as you are right. I was listening to Swami one of the Swamis earlier Yeah, this week, and he was talking about you are that right? You are that right? You know, Tommasi. Right? You are that not you are becoming that not you're going to be that you are right now that, just like you were saying, so let's rewind here and stop there for a second. Because we, you know, I've listened to some of your other podcasts that you're doing. And I know that we could do this all day. What I want to share with the people that are listening with whoever's listening today to is this, this, let's talk about, you know, you stepped into becoming a chiropractor, and going about it also with this energy work that you do. And what I want to find out from you is, what was it like? And is it like leading from a spiritual space? Right, versus just your versus simply clinical?

Dr Ben Chambers 7:25
Yeah, and that's, that's an interesting, the interesting paradox of, of getting into the healing arts, or anything for that matter. Is, is I think you can you can turn the world into a binary, the binary is, people that know they're on the spiritual path. And people who don't know how you define that is uniquely you. And I'm not here to define that for you. But what do you call it consciousness, we call it spirit, whether you call it soul, when you call it God, when you call it divine universe, it doesn't matter. We're all on a spiritual path. And everything we do is energy. You know, on a quantum level, we're vibrating packets of love, we're vibrating packets of light on a quantum level. So when we're in school, it is this idea of making everything clinical, somebody comes in who's sick, and you give them a label, and they become that identity. But that also becomes a prison. As long as you're looking at somebody as imperfect or broken, they're going to present as imperfect and broken. So if you understand that, on their deepest level, they are the universe they're not, as Alan Watts says, they're not a drop of the ocean, their entire ocean in one drop. They contain within them to see to perfection. And if you sit across in them and see the perfection, it's already within rapid healing happens. But as soon as you get overly clinical, and you go, Well, they've got this malady, you're seeing them is broken, and so they present is broken. It was, um, eric erickson, the one of the pioneers of psychology, I thought it was being clever because I thought whenever I work on someone, I see them as perfect. I see them as that light. And then and then healing is very rapid, very rapid. So I thought, How clever Am I to think of this? Well, he thought of it well before me, and I'm sure Christ and I'm sure Buddha, and I'm sure others got to that Well, before I did, too. There are no unique ideas in the world. We're mining them from the field of collective consciousness. And when you're sitting across from somebody, if you see them in perfection, what will present is perfection. If you see them as broken, mobile present is Zin breaking, if you want to heal them, you have to effectively create an open space where they can step into their perfection. It's like you talked about Shakespeare, you you you project the stage like for them to step on stage and shine. And then through Free Will they have the choice whether they step into that light or not.

Brandon Handley 9:34
Now, so a lot in that, that. I would love to kind of touch on one of those. One of those pieces is the idea. And I don't have the book right here with me. There's a book called off. Power versus force.

Dr Ben Chambers 9:50
Oh, yeah. Dr. Hawkins.

Brandon Handley 9:51
Yes, it's good stuff. Right. So it's kind of kind of touching on what you're talking about there. I actually have another friend who is a therapist out in California. Talking about exactly what you're saying here. Not only are you a practitioner and you know the physical sense of being, but when you have a mindful awareness that you aren't necessarily healing that person, you are seeing that person as whole. Right? That that accelerates the healing, because the energy that you're bringing to it and the vision of that person that you see, is that, is that fair? Is that kind of how I'm understanding it?

Dr Ben Chambers 10:28
Oh, right. Yeah, it's the idea that

Dr Ben Chambers 10:32
you know, who we are is already a perfected state.

Dr Ben Chambers 10:37
Healing is, you've heard this before for the placebo effect before, right? placebo effective effectively is, is giving yourself the belief that you're going to heal, and then you're receptive to the idea of healing. I have a lot of people who will schedule and they will start to heal before they come in. So they already start the process of healing Well, before they even come into the space. Sure, they know that it's the you know, and this is actually a common phenomenon. But, but when someone's driving off to the hospital, or the doctor's office, the body already begins to heal before you've even gotten there.

Brandon Handley 11:14
I'd like to I'd like to I love that. Right. So placebo is tends to be what around 30%? Is that? Is that right? Is was that a rough

Dr Ben Chambers 11:21
number? 35%. Somewhere there abouts? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 11:24
So that that means that these are the people that kind of have an optimist approach to it knowing feeling and knowing in some sense of the way that it whatever they're about to interact with, is working right and will work for them. Right? It is, you know, it's a mental game,

Unknown Speaker 11:43
right? But what we don't talk about,

Brandon Handley 11:47
there's the 35% of the people who believe in the placebo, what we don't talk about are the people who have like, I think I heard dispenza saying it one day like a no CBOE, right. Like, there's there's got to be X amount of people that have the mental belief that it won't work for them. Right. And those people I think are right, um, I think that they're lost in the shuffle, right, like so. of the 30 of the 100%. You've got the 35% that have placebo they've got what do they call that? What type of what? Archie's what type of healing? Is it? You know, that just that they can't account for? Right that you know, so?

Dr Ben Chambers 12:28
Oh, give me a seat, right?

Brandon Handley 12:30
Yeah. Right. So they've got the spontaneous healing. And, you know, that you can't point a picture to as a matter of fact, I've I know, of two people recently, one, whose older son just recently cleared out brain cancer at the age of like, 21. Dude, like, I mean, yeah, fucking real. Unreal, dude, like me. Right? And like he would they were going out and doing things. He was on his way to die. Yeah. And they were doing things like last minute shit, because they want to make the mess that most of their life. Yeah. cleared his fucking shit up to you. I'm so sorry. Like, I can't I can't I can't be anything but excited about that. Right, right, though. So but then. So there's the 35% of the placebo that are documented, spontaneous healing type things. Where's the documentation of the people were like, Nah, that's just not gonna work. Because that's got to be X number.

Dr Ben Chambers 13:17
Right? Oh, totally. And Bruce Lipton talks about the nocebo effect

Brandon Handley 13:21
that's separate. It's okay. Yeah,

Dr Ben Chambers 13:23
yeah, yeah. And that's but we're already living it. You know, there's only a small percentage of the population are willing to see me as a chiropractor. The irony is I'm not really a chiropractor. I'll do for lack of better word energy healing, I'll do nutrition, I'll do functional medicine. I'll do whatever the person holistic healing, holistic healing Right, right, which is ancient, this is not new Chinese medicine is 5000 plus years old. This is not a new science, right. But the person's receptivity to it makes a difference. Yeah. And if someone you know, it's, it's, there's a quote from Henry Ford, whether you believe you can or whether you believe you can't You're right. So people will enter into it with a closed mind. Right, we're closed disposition and just leave them the openness to heal. We have a family friend right now, who has stomach issues and ulcers through functional medicine and through things I've seen within the Office, I've seen people time and again, he'll you modify the diet you can use to quit rated licorice, you can use aloe vera juice, you can use slippery elm, etc, etc. And, and you can do meditation and things to lower stress. Now, if he took that integrative approach, he would likely he'll work rapidly from his from his ulcer. But his lack of being open to this prevents them from seeing that as an opportunity or possibility. I hear this all the time. With the mention somebody having spontaneous recovery from brain cancer. I've had many patients who've recovered from cancer, through hands on healing or other modes. I've actually touched tumors on people before and you can feel the melting underneath your hand. Wow. But the thing is, that's not crazy. Everything is an energy. Everything's a frequency through. I haven't learned Reiki that a lot of what I do is self taught or I've taken A few courses to kind of hone hone skills. But in Reiki, they talk about bio magnetic fields in the bio magnetic field is everything has its own oscillatory field, right? And when something falls out of rhythm, it's almost like having a concert where you know the horns are coming in late or, or, you know, the flutes or the clarinets are not playing the same song as the rest of the rest of the orchestra. If you can throw it through bringing frequency or bringing energy or bringing bringing integration back into the body, get them all into concert, then the body can fall back into rhythm and healing can happen. It's it's got What is his name?

Dr Ben Chambers 15:37
Oh, so he's got

Dr Ben Chambers 15:40
he's one of the talking heads with an alternative health but he had a video where he Gregg Gregg Braden Gregg Braden. Yeah, he has a video where? Yeah, it's got Yeah, it's got a video where he's got these these Chinese healers working on a lady and they have an ultrasound. Have you seen that before? Yeah. Got and you can see the tumor shrinking in real time. Yeah, I know, if I was skeptical, I wouldn't believe it. But I personally witnessed that, and I've had so many patients who've witnessed the same thing.

Brandon Handley 16:10
You know, it's, it's the idea of, either everything's a miracle or nothing's a miracle.

Dr Ben Chambers 16:14
Einstein, right.

Brandon Handley 16:16
But I mean, even even, you know, this past year for me, it's been a lot of time spent with Hinduism and Vedanta. You know, and, and the same premises, like, either everything is God or nothing is God. Right? So, same principle, either everything is or everything is not

Dr Ben Chambers 16:40
the loser? Yeah, for a second, my internet connection is not the best.

Brandon Handley 16:44
So you know what? So it's funny that you bring up the idea of, you know, people are receptive to something or not, I mean, I mean, there are receptor cells, right. I mean, again, the biochemic, our own biochemistry mimics kind of the outside, same thing, you know, if there's somebody that's, you know, mentally prepared themselves not to receive, you know, there's there's a, I'm guessing, you know, there's a bubbling out versus like a kind of receptor field, you know, being created totally, but they just won't let that in.

Dr Ben Chambers 17:15
Well, you've heard of chakras before, right?

Brandon Handley 17:17
Yeah, not too deep on Shockers, but you know, I am familiar with them.

Dr Ben Chambers 17:20
Yeah. So So, you ever get like a pit in your stomach before? Hmm. Now, the pit in your stomach is the solar plexus chakra. Okay. And chakra can be thought of as like Windows, right? So imagine, imagine, each chakra was a room to a part of your body. Okay. And you didn't open up the windows, so the air became stagnant. Hmm. You know, or otherwise, when people close off their chakra or their energy body, it's not allowing certain things in. And it's not allowing a flow of energy within those systems. I had chronic fatigue for a long time. And so my stomach always felt tight or knotted up. And as I've gotten, as I've, as I've healed over the years, and as I've actually improved my energy, my stomach, my solar plexus, my body's very open, I feel very loose and very, very open and free. Why bring that up is when people are closed, their mid back or their chest will tighten, or parts of their body will tighten. They literally become like a rock or stone. Right? And, and I look at it like a turtle going back in it show, huh? You know, like, it just kind of closes out from the world and blocks anything else from coming in. And you can tell because when you're inspired, you're breathing in deeply. And when you're not, you're not breathing in very much at all. So when you're in the flow rhythm of life, your body relaxes you breathe, and you you're actually connected. And when you're not, you'll drink you'll smoke, you'll you'll do something to like occupy your mind. So you can be somewhere else,

Brandon Handley 18:40
right? disengaged? Yeah. disengage, disengage. So, so you're in this business. Now let's talk about what what was it like for you? What is it like for you, you know, when you started with kind of leading holistically with the energy space? Did you start there? Or was it did you start with being a chiropractor being very doctory? Right, doctor, Dr. Ben, total doctor until least, you know, stiff, and then opening up into the space and talk about what how that changed for life for you a little bit in your practice for you.

Dr Ben Chambers 19:19
This gets into like, fulfilling archetypal roles. You know, like we have this idea of what the we have this idea of what the ideal is, hmm. So the ideal chiropractor is someone that sees 100 people a day, spends three minutes with each person, you know, cranks on their neck, pizza tarda them insane. Often they come back a week later. You know, that's the archetypal form. But I didn't, I didn't like that. It wasn't fulfilling and I never saw I'd never seen more than 20 people a day. I mean, take a chance to know them. Right? You don't get really chance, a chance to connect with them. Right? But working physically with people. I found So I started working nutritionally, that would only take them so far, right. And then I started doing more of the hands on healing work and everything else. And you start to get a clear idea of why people hurt. But it's about outcomes that you get, you get tired of trying to sell people, a system that you and your heart believe is not complete. And you go like a spiritual seeker, you keep on seeking until you get a clear idea of what that might be. So it's the idea that, that, that you don't receive healing from someone else that you are healing. And you learn how to carry that with you every day. And then hopefully, as a society, we teach each other how to be healthy and whole and balanced. Like the Buddha, the Eightfold Path of, of, of harmony, or enlightenment, is just an idea of being harmonized with everything that we do. Linda case of the patient, as a chiropractor, you can get into the fear model, I got to keep this person sick so that they can continue coming in to see me. Our whole medical system is predicated on the idea of disease care, rather than healthcare. You identify with an illness, you treat someone for the rest of their life for that illness. And, and you have a patient for life. As soon as you cure them, you've lost a patient. So with me, I'm happy to lose patients, I'm happy for them not to come in. Because there's a lot of sick people in the world. They refer people that they know and I get to work with them too. But everyone I work on, I get to teach, right? And then they get to take that into their lives. And that becomes each one teach one or or the idea that what the word doctor truly means. Is teacher.

Brandon Handley 21:35
Okay, okay. Yeah, never, I never even did not know that. The doctor meant teacher. So I love that. Yeah, kind of lines back into the discipline, which is a disciple, which is like education, right to learn, right? So I love kind of, I love that thought process. The other thing I want to know you're talking in there, you know, you've got these people that are walking around who think that they're sick. And again, I'm just I'm not a doctor myself, but but like this, to me, just like these are replicator cells, right? Like, everywhere they go, like, in the body of humanity. These are replicator cells. These are people anywhere they go, they look at you, and they say, I say doctor bad. I'm sick. And and, you know, you're like, Oh, yes, you're sick as a replicator cell, right? And the next person that you look over to you like that person, you know, over, they're sick, because you're a replication of what somebody's telling you. In essence, right? So what you're able to do is you're able to see them as whole and look back at them be like, no, you're, you are whole. Right? And then, you know, you're kind of reverse that reversing that replication back to them. Does that make sense? Right,

Dr Ben Chambers 22:40
yeah, you're in training them to the field?

Brandon Handley 22:42
Mm hmm. Yeah, that's another part. So that's another. I love it. So that's another part of the force versus power, right? Power sports. I forget the name of the book, The Dr. Atkins, right. Dr. Boyce? Yeah. Um, so when you first set people set the person's, like, verbally told somebody, you were doing energy work on them? You know, what was that? Like? What was it like to step into that space?

Dr Ben Chambers 23:08
Well, it's actually more of a recent endeavor, because we're not to be fair, we're always doing energy work.

Brandon Handley 23:15
So but when you when you like, you know, you're like, hold up a banner and be like, right? They were doing energy work? Right, right, somebody who's just walking into a chiropractor's office, and, you know, you've got the people who are not receptive to it. Right. Totally. I mean, there's got to be a little bit of a fear with leading with that,

Dr Ben Chambers 23:31
right. And the thing about it is, it's, it's, you can make something esoteric, exoteric, you can make it known to people. It's just like, you know, if you never had a mirror, you know, and I was like, You got hair on your head, you know, and you'd be like, well, prove it to me, and I'm like, well, raise your hand up and feel it. I'll say things to people, like, if you've ever had a child scrape his knee, you know, and then you hug and hold them and they feel better, or you've gotten a hug. And that that hug makes you feel better, right? Or, you know, you're out in traffic and you hold your hand up like this, or you point at somebody, this is all energy, right? And it's just understanding that emotion is energy. One of my favorite things to show people I think I have it in this drawer. Actually, this is this is good timing. Is this chart. Funny that I would have it here. This is a thermographic scan of the body.

Brandon Handley 24:22
Hmm. I love that. That's great.

Dr Ben Chambers 24:23
Yeah. And what it shows is with with somebody who has depression, their body is blue. Hmm. You know, under the heat under the wave, when they're angry. There's heat rising up to their head. They're a hothead. Right? But when they're in a state of happiness, or love, right, their whole body is warm. Hmm. And that's, that's just the movement of energy within the body. That's

Brandon Handley 24:45
energy that's lighting up. They're lighting up, they're becoming enlightened. I mean, is that fair to say?

Dr Ben Chambers 24:49
Oh, no. And that's the idea behind enlightenment. Enlightenment is a very simple term, it means that you've actually taken all of your trauma, and anything that does not cause you to vibrate with love and light and you've moved it into A state where it's all of enlightened become an empty container to hold more light. Hmm. And you think about that, then the whole body on a scan would just be light. Right? It would be the energy because because because the the heat, or the lack of heat. What I love here, though, right is the science

Brandon Handley 25:15
is proving out what's already been stated for many, many years, right? You're feeling blue, there's literally a picture and a graphic that corresponds to that. Right? Right. You are You are in loving presence, you are enlightened, there's literally now a scientific thermal graphic that

Unknown Speaker 25:32
can show that, right. So totally, I love that.

Dr Ben Chambers 25:36
I love that. And the thing is science and religion, were unpaired because of not to get spiritual, but because of the church A long time ago, you know, Galileo was on house arrest for the last 20 years of his life, right? You know, Copernicus, Kepler and others who were challenging geo centricity, you know, that idea that the Earth was the center of the universe. Were castigated. You know, they didn't they want to, they don't want to put themselves out there. So there was a natural split between the church and in science, but Einstein, Newton, other great thinkers, they were mystics, right? Right. They were tapping into something when Einstein will come up with his theorems. It would be in the twilight hours of night, he was in a deep meditative state, where he was getting these visions, right. So it's

Dr Ben Chambers 26:22
essential.

Brandon Handley 26:23
If we, if we look at if we like the idea of again, the idea of like constriction, or tightening up, right, or being ultra focus versus the idea of opening up and being receptive to other things that we simply have no idea of, right? We are we are receptive to new ideas, right? You don't know everything? And that's okay. Right, obviously, and then, you know, there are going to be pieces that finally just kind of fall out of the ether and click together. I mean, those are the eureka moments, right? You know, what, what was that when I forget, you know, who that was? Who said it, but you know, running through that, you know, the light has gone off, there's an epiphany happening, wrong. And so, you stepped into this, you're stepping into this space, what I want to kind of hammer home for some people is that, you know, has you you felt Have you felt more fulfillment, with leading from this energy space than a strictly clinical space? And has your business kind of grown in a way that you didn't think was possible because of it?

Dr Ben Chambers 27:30
Well, it can, it gets into this idea that you'll never, not that it's about separating, because it's ideally we're all unifying, right? We're unifying through the heart. But one you can't get anywhere by being inauthentic. And to you can't get anywhere by by just following a map of what someone else did. Or being the same as a guy across the street. If you feel so compelled to push things forward, push it forward. But I'm occupying space that I feel like needs to be occupied, and I feel authentic in doing so. And people. Generally speaking, people do not. They do not attack you when they can sense that what you're saying is true to your core, right? Or when you can show them aspects of themselves that they didn't know existed.

Brandon Handley 28:12
Right. So what's an example of that? I'd love to hear that.

Dr Ben Chambers 28:15
Oh, yeah. Yeah, totally. Um, and maybe we can play around with this at some point. But one of my favorite things to do is it's called an open secret. But do you ever see the halos over a saints head? Yes. And unlike the golden light around like Christ around Buddha around it, that's an open

Brandon Handley 28:30
graphic. I mean, that's, that's literally part of my, that's part of my, my logo, right? My awesome visual dope logos, right, I've got behind, you know, set, I've got a Jesus piece where he's got the he's holding up and he's got a heart on his head. And that's where the lights coming out of. And then I've got a Buddha where the hearts like, you know, with the lights coming out of and so the idea got, though, so.

Dr Ben Chambers 28:53
But that's, that's it right there. These are called Open secrets. And the halo was not a fancy hat, it was an opening of the crown chakra. So the trick is, and this is my favorite thing to do, we can do it right now if you want to. So you do and you know, and anyone listening to this right now pay attention, because you'll feel it as well. That's the amazing thing is whatever you're watching, you're getting programmed to, and you'll feel it energetically. So what I do is I focus on my heart. And I say the word Thank you. Okay, and that opens up the heart chakra. So focus on your heart. You can tap it if you want to as well. And and just think the word. Thank you. Thank you. And then focus about a foot above your head and say the word Thank you. Thank you. Thank you,

Brandon Handley 29:35
like, rubbing my belly. And yeah, thank you.

Dr Ben Chambers 29:39
Yeah, but just focus your heart. Thank you focus on your crown, say thank you, and then focus inside of your head and say thank you. Thank you. And what you'll feel is a tingling along the top of your head. And you'll feel Yeah, you don't have to tap anymore. But you'll feel a tingling on top of your head. Right? And if you pay attention to the center of your head, you'll actually feel your pineal gland. And the fastest way to be able to reach a spiritual side is gratitude. So when you say thank you with your heart, it opens up your heart when you say thank you for your crown, it opens up your credit ever seen the lotus flower before the lotus flower is a depiction of the crown chakra opening, right and enlightenment, right? So heart opens, thank you. Crown opens, thank you, and then that that golden light that you see within those religious images, it happens to you. Right? You know, I'm not saying it happens the same degree as Christ or Buddha. But you actually tap into your consciousness, your soul, your essence, we have

Brandon Handley 30:36
to think though, everybody has to know that they didn't start that way on day one. Right? I mean, it didn't start like that that way. On day one, this is, you know, you're in a medical and a spiritual and a life practice. Versus right, nobody calls this a life done or a meditation done, right? meditation, perfection, it's always a practice of always, you know, not not necessarily getting better at it, simply practicing it, right. I mean, it's even, um, you know, when So, my idea or thought process about the lotus flower is also the very idea that it is and it is naturally unfolding, right? It's naturally blossoming. You know, these are these are naturally unfolding essences of yourself that kind of, if you think about the heart, mind connection, right? Like you just did there right connecting both of those, but also kind of that welling energy without that just simply unfolds. Right? Totally blossoms.

Dr Ben Chambers 31:42
Yeah. Well into your point. It is it is a process, you can reach spontaneously as spontaneous enlightenment. That's what the Buddha was said to have done under the under the forget what kind of a tree Bodhi tree Yeah, yeah, Bodhi tree. But within within the chakra theory in this is more Hindu belief. And by the way, I'm not I'm not any particular religion, I just I listen to truth, and I take it in, but they talk about like, Governor's like, almost like on a car. Right? And how, as you develop spiritually, certain centers open up more and more and more. So for some people, the wide open for other people, it's a gradual unfolding, right. And it develops, and then they're able to tap in with with greater and greater ease. Now, I love it. I love it. So um,

Brandon Handley 32:36
yeah, dude. I mean, so do you feel now kind of more in alignment with all that you're doing? And kind of like this, this greater universe is opening up for you. experience.

Dr Ben Chambers 32:51
And you're, where you're at? Right?

Dr Ben Chambers 32:55
Right. It's about trust. And it's about authenticity. And so if you're, you think about it this way, the universe is a mirror. And if you make faces in front of the mirror, it makes faces back at you, right? You know, if you yell, someone was likely gonna yell at you. But if you constantly project authenticity, what comes back is authenticity. So whenever you feel your core, you have to express if that's your truth, and then meeting into trust, like you've heard of yin and yang before, right? You know, Yin would be the the flowing of the river, and Yang would be moving away from the branches that are in the river, so you don't get hit. Right. And there's a balance between the two, there's a time for action and time for inaction. Right. And if you're floating down the river, then the river is already doing all the work for you. Right, right. Yeah. But you have to be discerning enough to know when it's time to act. Yeah. And so when you're in a state of flow, or rhythm, in a state of harmony, and you're grounded, you don't really have to use a lot of energy or effort you just kind of float through life and everything comes to you because you become the attractor field for what it is you're trying to bring in. And the more you that you are, the more you get back exactly what it is you want

Brandon Handley 34:14
with like the attractor field and with the action Do you feel like there's some type of does action um, amplify the attractor field right does like you know, so yeah, this is kind of like a you know, Dr. Ben thinks it and he does it the universe revise right? You think it you say universe knows now that this is your accordance that you think it say do it universes like Well, shit, I better open up the way because every time you know, Dr. Ben says he thinks that he does it. This is a pattern. You know, again, does do the actions amplify this kind of attractor field?

Dr Ben Chambers 34:54
Oh, most definitely. Most definitely. It's it's the idea that was Energy you're putting out there is what you're amplifying. And and how you say it. Like there's there's a guy who's he does this relationship series, I'm gonna bleep myself a little bit, but it's life is either fps or F No. Right. And, and with that, it's like, if you don't feel that with anything you're doing, then don't do it is this point? Yeah, you know, bring 100% of yourself into whatever you're doing, and it'll come back. 100%. But people, you know, we talked about the nocebo effect before, people will think the thoughts that they don't want, thus attracting them. Because what they're saying like, let's say for instance, you come into my office and you want health, right? You know, what you might be saying is I'm sick, right? I'm sick, I'm sick. I'm sick. Right? And that's what I did for a long time. When I was sick, I would, I would, I would meet you. And I'd say, you know, Brandon, I'm on chronic fatigue syndrome. Sherry, nice to meet you. Alright. But now I think I'm healthy. And I feel it to my core. And what reflects back is health. But yeah, your thoughts and your actions are creating. And if you think about God in this way, I'm not I'm not saying like, you have to subscribe to this. But if the kingdom of heaven lies within, then it means God is interwoven into everything. Yeah, you guys everything or nothing. Right? God is everything. Right? So from that perspective, every thought you have in every word you say is a prayer. And God is interwoven into all things. So you are basically speaking to the field all the time. Now working with working with patients is fascinating. As soon as I think something, I feel it inside their body. If I think the thought for to clear a release it releases. That's how fast the field responds. Right. But we are swimming in we are swimming in the ocean of God, one of our receptionist who's an energy worker known, right? She said, she's watching a documentary on sharks. And she realized that the shark wasn't swimming in the ocean. But the ocean was swimming the shark.

Brandon Handley 36:52
That's cute. Yeah, I mean, right. It's I mean, the ocean is what's moving the shark around. Right. Exactly. And creating the space for it and and allowing and allowing for, you know, you mentioned the field. You know, For the uninitiated, I don't know who's made it that far through this podcast, it wouldn't be the uninitiated, but

Unknown Speaker 37:10
Sure. uninitiated, what do you mean by the field?

Dr Ben Chambers 37:14
Right? Well, let's say that.

Dr Ben Chambers 37:18
Let's say that we're all swimming in the ocean, right? If I were to take my arm and I was to push water, he would create a wave, right? And that wave might create a splash that affects you in some way. Or maybe a child is in the pool and peas or something like that. It's warmer in one area. Sure. kind of disgusting. But eventually it spreads out everywhere, right? So if you think of like the world as as basically swimming in an ocean of water, and that what you're doing is creating a wave. And that wave is rippling out further and further. That is the field. Okay? We don't think of our thoughts as something that carry out but our thoughts are actually matter that take up space and actually have an energy of their own. Right. So when you're having a thought, or you're thinking something, you're actually like, splashing a wave into the ocean, right? You know, are you making a little ripple? Are you making a tide? Are you splashing a wave? That's going to bring back good things to you? Are you going splashing a wave, it's actually going to cause you to drown?

Brandon Handley 38:15
Well, this is so this is on, and I love it. Right? So thank you, right? And this is, to me, this is where I'd love your thought process on it. This is where emotion and mind Connect. Right? This is where the heart mind connection comes from. This is where your emotion amplifies your thoughts, right? You can have a thought of gratitude you were talking about earlier, right? It's one thing to mentally think I'm grateful for this. I'm grateful for that snippety Snap, snap snap, versus feeling it right and emanating it. And as we think about that feeling of emanation. I mean, you've talked a lot about the attractor field, you've talked about, you know, the crown chakra, we've talked about energy talked about being the central point, I think about two things, I think about the tourist field, like being being you know, you're a core of the tourist. Right? You're like you're you're that middle of the vortex there. And then also think about, um, we are electromagnetic fields, we are no different then Planet Earth, where if you look out there, right there, okay, that's a tourist field. Again, you've got energy fields, you've got the North Pole, which we all know if you play with magnets, that you know, the north and south, you know, they attract each other, but that's the same field kind of going out there it emanates. And it keeps circulating, right, I mean, that that energy field keeps moving. So, again, you know, your emotions, amplify your thoughts, without connecting your heart and mind which was a Buddhist thing that I got, you know, talking about Alan Watts earlier, when he first talked about the heart mind that the Buddhism talks about, I lost my mind as I What is it? I had to I had to track it down. Right. And it was Gregg Braden who brought it home for me and his Thomas, you know, move mountains. thing, right? So Gregg Braden has got one on that, but what what are your thoughts on that? And how do you feel like you came to that space? If you did at all?

Dr Ben Chambers 40:12
Yeah. So we're talking about like emotions in the attractor field and, and, and the spin how it actually plays with the universe itself?

Brandon Handley 40:20
Well, so Connect. So, um, we talked about emotional mastery, right? That's the idea that, you know, you either, you know, depends on your where you come from on this too, but like, you know, your thoughts and your emotions working in unison, right to totally create that yield, right? Because your emotions are what? And electromagnetic field? Is that true or fine?

Dr Ben Chambers 40:45
No, no, it's true. It's it's creating, yeah, it's creating a wave, it has its own frequency. What I'd like to add to anyone listening, because this is an important point, too, is if you're feeling anger, feeling anger, if you're feeling sadness, feel sadness. You can watch it, or feel where it's located inside of your body. Like, as soon as you have a thought, I'd like to say as soon as you have a thought. It's only happening because of the energy you're holding inside of yourself, or the trauma, right? If you can go to where you're holding it inside of yourself, maybe you feel heaviness within your chest, maybe you feel a tightness along your stomach, maybe you're having a hard time breathing. But if you just feel it, the thought will go away, because that was the fuel behind the thought. So why I want to delineate that is because people think that just thinking positive thoughts is the answer. But if you have to sneeze, sneeze, if you have to burp, burp, right, don't it's no less spiritual, for getting angry or for being sad, right. And in fact, as your as your light as you're leveling up, getting more conscious and becoming more aware and feeling more connected, more things are going to come to the surface. Because you think about it, like all the things you haven't healed from right, are looking for an opportunity to find the healing once you're in a place to do so. It's all going to rise up. When you say becoming more conscious. You know, I believe what you're saying is of your anger, your emotions, right, and catching that and feeling it is that what you're saying? it's twofold. It's it's the path of enlightenment. So it's a path of feeling more connection to God, divine universe source, and your spirit, your consciousness, your energy field, whatever you want to call that. As you become more aware of these of the whole apparatus, right? You feel more stillness, you feel more connection, you feel more love around you, you see your connection to all things around you, as opposed to being separate from the world. You feel lighter, because you're not carrying as much heaviness It was like weighing you down. For sure. That kind of conscious, but then also being conscious of what you're feeling inside. A lot of us live inside of our head, and we're not feeling all the things we've been holding on to for most of our life. Right? And you think about it, like how much have you stored in your body over the course of however many years you're alive a lifetime, a lifetime, right? And, and it all wants one thing at all wants to have love understanding compassion, forgiveness, a god day, etc. And once that in order to be free, people think that they can just, you know, get rid of this for me. You have to love it into integration, not push it away from you.

Brandon Handley 43:12
That's the idea of Shadow Work. Right?

Dr Ben Chambers 43:14
Shadow Work. Exactly. Yeah, the Shadow Work is the shadow.

Dr Ben Chambers 43:21
What What is it? It's it's recognizing, it's recognizing that just because the clouds are out that the sun is still there. Mm hmm. So you may have darkness or shadow or anger or something inside of you. It doesn't make you any less spiritual.

Dr Ben Chambers 43:47
But recognize it, hear it, listen to it, and it will integrate. There's a Japanese artwork called kansui. And consumers where they break pottery, and then they meld it with gold to fix it, but the idea is, you're already whole you're already complete. The fact that you've forgotten that is

Unknown Speaker 44:22
I think I'm getting a bit of a lag.

Brandon Handley 44:23
Yeah, we got a little bit of lag. I love kansui I love the idea of you're already hold that you're presenting another way that I somebody shared it with me not too long ago as well. It's just, you know, it takes some it's hard to it's hard to do my incorrect in that like And so, in being able to connect pottery with gold. There's an artistry to it, right? Is that is that true or false? Oh yeah, most definitely. And then It's it's almost as that is almost as though that piece looks better because of what has been done the broken pieces being put back together with those with that goal. Right with. Yeah. So it's almost it's almost better off that that has happened. So I love I love that, um,

Dr Ben Chambers 45:23
I know gold makes everything better. Right?

Brandon Handley 45:27
Gold makes everything better,

Dr Ben Chambers 45:28
but some gold on it, it'll immediately make it. It's like Jim gaffigan said, if you want to make anything better add bacon. Right, right. But the others also pretty nice.

Brandon Handley 45:36
Yeah, it doesn't hurt it. You know, I think one of the other things too, when we talk about talk about being bodies of light. I just recently saw just kind of how we literally are made from stars. Right, everything that we are, right. So you know how, you know, I don't know, play with it a little bit, kick that around for something.

Unknown Speaker 46:01
What what do you what are your thoughts on that?

Dr Ben Chambers 46:04
Well, Carl Sagan said, we're all made of stars. Hmm. So so to the atheist when I was an atheist for a while, I would say it's we're all one. So whether we're all one and unified from the Big Bang, or while one unified from stars, the universe, but the universe translates. And you may already know this, it universe means one song, universe, one song. So we're all one, whether you call it an old man in the sky, whether you call it the you know, the the singularity or the Big Bang, where we all become quantumly entangled, we're all one. And so being all made from stars just means that we all come from the same cosmic soup. And a real abstraction, and this is going to be probably over a few people's heads is if we're all one, then as you climb the ladder, higher and higher, you dance with God. You dance with with what we are on our highest level, right? With that, and you know, you would say a Christ figure or Buddha figure merged.

Brandon Handley 47:10
I love it. And then there's a there's the idea that ourselves, you know, kind of regenerate right. I also recently saw how, just what you're saying there, right, Christ and Buddhist merging, but the cells that were in Christ and Buddha, if they were ever really true people, there's thousands of theirselves in your in you right now, as we speak. Oh, right. I mean, quite literally, yourselves. Right? Like, I mean, so quite literally, right now. You know, there are pieces of Jesus and Buddha in all of us.

Dr Ben Chambers 47:49
Right? Well, in that goes back to the kingdom of heaven lies within. You know, it's this idea that heaven and hell are our actual states outside of us. But their dimensional states that we exist in all the time, and more physical you become the more earthly that is, the more hell you're gonna experience. If you become q astral, you'll become unrelatable to anybody. Yeah, but but the idea is, is that there is a cosmic seed that lies within all of us. And I actually believe as many people do that the idea of the Second Coming is really Christ consciousness, or universal consciousness and all of us. Right, right.

Brandon Handley 48:28
I mean, I mean, right? I mean, let's do it. Right? I mean, what? Why not? Yeah. So listen, the idea, again, I think for this is for this podcasts is to have people like yourself who are leading from this space, and doing it with intention, doing it with purpose, and overcoming the fear of not, you know, not being your authentic self, like we kind of talked about before, what would you know, so let's say somebody is on the precipice of taking that, you know, Neo leap, right, or whatever, you know, into themselves. And finally, you know, connecting with God connecting with source and leading with that, what would you tell somebody who's been running a traditional business? What would be some guidance for them?

Dr Ben Chambers 49:26
Well, it gets back into that idea before that.

Dr Ben Chambers 49:30
That what you are is what you attract. So if you are scarcity, and if you're fear, you're going to attract more of it. So if you begin to lean into, like, for me I was when I was atheist, I started reading the Tao de Ching, or Taoism, and Taoism didn't promise heaven or hell. All it did was talk about how we fall into a universal flow. And now all things are in rhythm together. You know, business entrepreneurs talk about flow states. It's the idea that that as long as you're being anything but authentic, as long as you're living a life that isn't really who you are, you're going to suffer. And when you're playing a role, rather than being who you really are, you'll never feel whole and complete. And you'll always look for something outside of yourself to fix it, or you'll blame someone outside or something outside of yourself for why things are the way they are. So think about it. The life of the party is only the life of the party, because they create such a powerful attractor field that everyone wants to be around them, right. It's like how the sun collapses spacetime. And planets begin to orbit, right? So if you become that if you become the most authentic form of who you are, you're always rewarded. The universe always rewards authenticity. And people can tell when you're being fake and dishonest. So whatever your song is, I like to say, this is like, Kahlil Gibran, the prophet. He said, We're like instruments of God, you know, and God's winds blow through us and we play a beautiful melody. But your song may be different than my song. And your instrument may be different than mine. And we may make beautiful music, but may we may sound different.

Brandon Handley 51:08
Hundred percent, right? Yeah, that's how you have harmony. Right? That's, that's where the symphony comes into play. Right? That's where all these you know, courses come into play. It's to hear one note over and over and over. While it may be beautiful on its own, if it's, you know, accompanied in a true harmonic way, on a true harmonizing way. And symphonic it's, it's beautiful. Right. And, and so I feel like that's what you're saying.

Dr Ben Chambers 51:43
Oh, totally. And that's what makes up the spectrum. Like,

Dr Ben Chambers 51:47
another way I like to look at it as if God the universe is light. Do you ever, ever see a light play through a prism? And it makes a rainbow? Hundred percent? Yeah, we are the rainbow. And God, the universe is the light. Hmm. So when God the universe plays into the spectrum of this physical realm, we get all these different colors. And that's what we see as differentiation. That's what we see a separation. That's what we hear is different, different tunes in different notes. But it's really just that one light being broken up into different pieces. Right. And when we when we recognize that all those pieces joining together, make that one light, we have an appreciation for the diversity that's out there.

Brandon Handley 52:31
I love that, you know, celebrate each other's diversity, right? Yeah, celebrate, celebrate each other's differences, because that's what makes the whole?

Dr Ben Chambers 52:41
Well, and it's interesting, because for someone to have a position, there has to be an opposition. So for you to have a viewpoint or a belief, there has to be something that opposes it more often than not, you know, when it comes to love, there's nothing that opposes love. Hmm, I look at what

Brandon Handley 52:54
it is, is 100%. Right. All the way back to beginning where you got the client that right side on the paper, right? Love is. So

Dr Ben Chambers 53:04
yeah, in fact, in fact, it's funny, because I have that here, too.

Brandon Handley 53:11
That's awesome. Right? That's, that's just great. It's got a client. And it's great to be able to have clients that are willing to leave that behind for you. How great is that? as we as we kind of wind down here. What you know, I love the idea of spiritual dope, right? The idea kind of comes from taking those hits of spirituality and getting your life highs, right, your spirituality highs versus Look, I you know, I listened to your podcast with with your quartet. Right, and I enjoy it a lot. And I remember hearing a couple of them talking about like raves and the rave scene. Right. And that was something for me back in the day running around, you know, just taking everything that would like, you know, whatever, whatever I could ingest. And I'm lucky to admit it, made it out made it out there on skates, but Yeah, me too. To be able to feel even better than that. Through this connection with source or whatever you want to call it. Um, is that's my idea of kind of a spiritual ness, my spiritual dope, right? That's it. Yeah. What is the what is what is something that you do? That gives you that feeling?

Dr Ben Chambers 54:29
Whether there's aspects of meditation where you reach high levels, right, and and to talk about the spiritual dope. in some circles, they say that drugs actually open up those centers temporarily. They force them open, but you don't know how to keep them open or keep them connected. That's one thing I like to do is like to commune with nature. I love doing work with people. I love. I love working in the healing arts. But when I meditate, I'll meditate with my heart and my crown and I'll feel in Hinduism Nicola. Ananda, which means divine bliss. And I'll feel this immense divine bliss coming through. And what I realized is that divine bliss is there for me and for everyone else. Mm hmm. When you realize that at the door knocking, wanting to come in is this love that is like drinking from a firehose, hmm, then you don't have to seek anywhere else. You don't have to seek outside of yourself with relationships or anything else, you'll create relationships, but they'll be relationships that are healthy and whole, and mutual. But when you make that connection, like you're saying, with the spiritual dope, it is such a sublime feeling that requires nothing more than connecting in with what we already are. That it's, it's like, I believe that the Buddha in Christ took us to the sunset, and then man tried to describe it. But when you actually experience the sunset for yourself, it's sublime.

Brandon Handley 55:50
Right now, that's perfect. That's perfect. And, you know, I alluded to Alan Watts a lot simply because, um, he was there when I came into this space, right? Like, this is kind of how my entry into the into the space was through a ton of Alan Watts.

Dr Ben Chambers 56:05
I love Alan Watts.

Brandon Handley 56:06
Yeah. But the idea is that words are clumsy and can never truly capture the the totality of the experience that you just express. Right? You said sublime. But you know, what is that? You know? So, you know, if you haven't experienced that before, I know that I've mentioned it before that it's a lot like getting into that flow state. Right. But even greater, right, and kind of like a nicer, nicer way of being. So. Thank you for that. I really appreciate it. And then what you know, look, again, I feel like you and I could probably do this for like a week straight, easily. easily. What, where should I send people to connect with you? And you know, who would be your ideal client as somebody who's reached out to you from, you know, across the pond, right? digitally?

Dr Ben Chambers 56:59
Yeah. So I do distance sessions with people. And what I do is, I believe everyone's empathic, right, but we've forgotten how to feel inside. So like, when I'm talking to somebody, I can feel what's going on inside their body. And I'll do distance Healing Sessions where I'm just having them think thoughts, or going back to an emotion or feeling, I'll show them where it's located inside their body. And then I'll help them to move it. And it only takes a second. But when you can teach people that they can move, what they're holding inside of themselves very rapidly. My website is is access CW so x is CW calm. And we're on we're on Facebook, as well as access chiropractic. And we're in Lee's Summit, Missouri. I have a podcast, which is called your essential nature. And the essential nature podcast is on Facebook. But the idea behind that is is it's like it's like a cousin of of your podcast where spiritual dope where we're just having conversations from our perspective, because like we were saying before, we didn't get here overnight, we've had to take each individual step to get there. There's a song from from Atlas sound and Leticia Sadie a. It's about 10 years old now. But one of the lines within it is I thought saints were born saints. But then I realized I grew into it. You know, I one of my one of my boys is St. Francis, I just love him because he would he would pray to Him to sermonize with the animals. And when I do energy work, that the whole back area of my office will fill with birds, we had 40 doves come the other day, nature knows what's up. But the idea is we are on this this path is trajectory. And if we're patient with ourselves eventually we reach really, really amazing heights of spirituality and connection. But yeah, that's what that's what our podcasts and that's what my life is about.

Brandon Handley 58:49
So who should reach out to

Dr Ben Chambers 58:53
everyone?

Dr Ben Chambers 58:55
No, no it people that are people that are wanting to go deeper people that are wanting to know deeper aspects of themselves. People are ready to really look at their their pain discomforts, things they've been holding inside of themselves. Not everyone wants to do that. You know, some people aren't ready to do that. But people who are ready to go deeper and have a deeper understanding of what's going on inside their, their internal world and then also how to learn how to connect on a deeper mystical or spiritual level. And they could take that into whatever belief system they have. It's not it's not specific to a particular religion. What you find is Christian mysticism, Jewish mysticism, Hindu Hindu, mysticism boot is etc. It's all the same teaching. It's just different. Different teachers. They're all saying the same thing.

Brandon Handley 59:44
Yeah, hundred percent. Yeah, there's a guy Edwin Bryan, who just tell he says, you know, look, you can you can study all of them in the end, just you're gonna have to you got to pick one up and just go with it. Yeah, right. So just

Dr Ben Chambers 59:58
get a picture of like Jesus in the swimming Dude like he's my pinup for this month.

Brandon Handley 1:00:01
That's it. That's it. I want to go with it. So thank you, Dr. Ben, so much for coming on today. I enjoyed this conversation and thanks for sharing out with people, different ways that they can kind of step into their greatness and what it's like to be able to lead a business from this space and the authenticity the way that you do it. So thank you.

Dr Ben Chambers 1:00:23
Yeah, it's been a pleasure. I really enjoyed it and Blessings to you.

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A Fascinating Behind-the-Scenes Look at Experience

Published: Oct. 16, 2020, 10:33 p.m.
Duration: 15 minutes 24 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on spiritual dope? How are you? How are you? It is it's a Friday. It's Friday. And it's been it's been a long one, you know, I've got a guy that was on Apollo for the rest of us podcast, john Daly coach Sean Daly. And so remember him saying, you know, the days are long, and the years are short. So the days have been long. But the week has been short. But we made it guys, we made it, we made it through. But it's been an interesting one. So I thought I'd share that with you has zero context on what I'm about to talk to you about. So thanks. So this is one I've been wanting to get to you since the weekend. I'm finally getting around to it, though. So the question is, question is this someone defining your experience for you? Right? your mind, your thoughts, and your personal experiences are all subjective. And that can make it a challenge when you go to discuss that with others, right. And especially, especially your spiritual life, trying to translate the spiritual life, to somebody who is I will call it uninitiated, can certainly be a challenge. But as we as we go through, as we go through that, right, there are certain levels of experiences and understanding in those experiences. Again, most of those are going to be subjective. However, throughout time, these patterns are emerged, right? They're distinguishable patterns, to and to the individual, it ends up it's not somewhat subjective, much in the same way that logic is embodied in a program, there's still a human element driving the machine. So a human element driving machine that's subjectivities, always going to be there. But there is, again, that discernible pattern of somebody kind of going through and having a spiritual experience. And there's a beauty of frustration here in my mind, because at some point, you must become the authority on a few different things. One of those is what do you accept to be true? Who are the authorities, right? Who are the authorities. And the translation of your experience, and I bring this up as I was recently in a dialogue with a gentleman I would call a teacher, maybe say, a member of the Sangha, right, somebody that I've met along my path, right, and spent some time with, and he had reached out to me in regards to a book that he'd recently read, shared, Hey, you got to read this. And I just finished this book, maybe within the past month, the book you'd recommend, it was called, it is called power versus force, by David R. Hawkins, Dr. At that, and it contains a great illustration on kind of how the body is connected to the field of consciousness. And you can use it, your body and that field of consciousness to, to calibrate the certain vibratory fields. And what Dr. Hawkins did was he created a map of consciousness, if you will, because a visual representation in a logarithmic fashion regarding consciousness at its various levels of vibratory resonance, and what do I mean by that? That what I mean is that the bottom of this field, you'll find shame and humiliation at 20. And as you scale up, you get into grief at 75. You could up to fear at 100 that there's anger at 150, the tipping point t found is at 200. All right, and then as you start to move forward, the tipping point for and so what I mean by that is at 200 and below, there's kind of eating away at right this, this kind of the scarcity mentality, this lack full mentality. And then you get, you get up to 200. And then you get courage, and then in the hope 310, then all the way up to 1000, which is enlightenment. had before before I move on, I really like for you to sit in a resonance and a couple of these feelings and emotions right at a couple of these different scales if you will, and experience it for yourself. So if you're sitting with shame, at 20 you're sitting with the emotion of humiliation. If you're sitting with shame at 20 you've almost got a feeling of suffocation.

Brandon Handley 5:00
stifled, you're free to make any move. Then you, then you hop all the way up. What is it to

Unknown Speaker 5:09
fear

Brandon Handley 5:10
at 100? And I think there's an Adam Freeland song. There's another song. Sure. No Fear is the mind killer. Here's the mind COEs feelings of anxiety, you've got a tendency to withdraw from the space that you're in when you're sitting with fear and you could feel this. There's an absolute resonance of ebb and flow that you're, you're feeling. There's a, you're sitting in a in an energetic field and just the sound resonates, vibrates, the energy field of these emotions will resonate and vibrate within you. And you crawl all the way up to this point of courage at 200. This is the tipping point. This is where you, you can go forward and my friends and I used to make a joke regarding courage. And we would say holy take some moments curves kill a vampire. And if you think about what a vampire is, it is at its base level in energy. Leach is fear in stasis, pitch, it should just take a moment of courage to banish that from your life that is empowerment. You assume control of yourself, you choose to move beyond the illusion of fear, shattering what seemed like an M surmountable giant along your path, and you smash that into smithereens tiny little pieces. And then you search forward.

Unknown Speaker 6:44
That's been my experience.

Brandon Handley 6:47
And beyond on that scale, right? So I've been beyond 200 100%. And this is what I share with my buddy, I said, Hey, man, I believe that I could at least help people navigate to courage, right? I've been there. I've had that experience. And imagine my surprise when he questioned me because that and honestly, I was expecting his support he cited he goes, Hey, you know, someone needs you got to experience that for yourself. Right? He goes on mere book knowledge won't do. And what I thought was interesting, and it was just in a moment, right?

Unknown Speaker 7:27
I suffered doubt,

Brandon Handley 7:29
maybe even despair for a moment, which you can locate on the map of consciousness at 50. So imagine that just come to this bear for a moment, that empty feeling. You feel like you've come so long or far away, or you feel like you're in a great place. And here's somebody that I placed on a pedestal right, I put them above me, in my mind, he I chose him as an authority. And I shrink back. I had my own hide my own light, it was in the same moment that I realized that what was happening was I was looking to another validation. Someone outside of me, and I was accepting quite possibly what may be true for him to be true for me. And what do I mean by that? Is that he words are his words are mirror of himself, right? In a moment's courage. I literally just metaphorically drove a stake into the heart of that vampire. I was like, You know what, fuck it. You don't need fucking permission to be great. I didn't need his permission. You know that permission is already been given to you, everyone. Everyone has been born with it. And so how can you be sure that right and what you know greatness. It's funny because nobody still remember when I when I first talked about stepping into your own greatness bag I follow for the recipe. Oh, no boast up into greatness. Nobody. Nobody wants to assume that's greatness. It's like, there it is. It's yours. It's so it's inherent. It's not even. It's not even that you you have to look for it. It's there already. And, you know, you you yourself have certainly you've learned to recognize greatness in others. And how do you do that? Right? You've got to have familiarity with it yourself. You must have experienced it within yourself. So in order to be called some somebody great, you must know what that is. Right? There's, there's something inside of you. reflecting back to yourself. That is greatness. And when I think about it, I think about it in terms of that letter that you write to somebody who annoys you. I don't know if you've ever done this exercise where you you know, maybe there's somebody that you find very annoying in your life and you take some time you write out all the shit that that annoys you about them like is that thing does uphold their laundry doesn't take the time to throw away that one dish doesn't, you know, all the things right? And the funny thing is, is that oftentimes you can find those same annoying qualities within yourself. Right. And it's really as easy, it's easy to do that one. As the it's funny though, because the same letter can be written to someone that you admire someone that you hold in high esteem. The funny thing is, the exact same thing happens here, these are the same qualities that you would Meyer, about yourself. And this is what they mean, one of one of the many meanings, right that this world is a reflection of yourself. And a yoke. So I want you to, I want you to think about that. And also want to share with you the 30. There, and I think that what this gentleman thought of really was that there are many people out there with the knowledge seeking the experience. And I would share with you with him, that for me, it's been a matter of having the experience and then seeking the knowledge and how can I express that to to you to at all, really, how can I express that experience at all. And one of those ways, really, that, you know, if you're in a similar situation, and I'll share this been my own practice and how I feel like I've done it is that it starts in a belief within yourself. And a belief that I you are worth it. The belief that there is a greatness in there, there is something within you that if you cultivate it, and nurture it, if you invest in yourself, that you'll be able to take a moment's courage, that you'll be able to journey into a dark spot, spot unknown, right? That's what I mean by darkness is I mean, you know, darkness is only dark until you shine the light in that space, right. And then you're gonna have your moments of clarity that are beyond what you once knew. And each time that you step into that space, you're gonna have a new experience, and there's going to be a different resonance of your character, a different vibration of who you are, and chances are, you're going to want to figure out how to share that out. Right.

Brandon Handley 12:21
And chances are, that the person, you know, you once were, is now replaced by the person that you have become. Over this is open to everyone. Right? If you've been thinking about who you were, and how everything in your past has put you in a not great place. Maybe that's a fallacy, right? This is open to everyone. Especially you, especially, you know, I think about people like, Dude, what's his name? Russell Brand. Rob, you know, Rob, Iron Man, whatever the hell, Tony Stark, right? These are people, you know, who were way down and out at one point, and they rose back up? Especially Russell Brand, right? Like, I think he Wow, it's so funny how I actually looked for people. Once upon a time. You know, I used to look at billboard 100. Now look at like, the spiritual 100. But Russell brands on there, right. And here's a guy that a couple years ago, he was a fucking mess. And now he's, you know, one of our spiritual leaders. So don't think for one moment that just because you stumbled out of the of the sunlight or the blocks, that you don't have the ability to win the race. And I know, I'm just using that terminology. And so I think about also, Robin Sharma, who's got this 10 News got a whole bunch of stuff is great. Yeah, he's got some self help books and whatnot. But I heard him speak on a podcast and in there he goes, you rise to your level of thinking?

Unknown Speaker 14:16
Which puts a switch for me.

Brandon Handley 14:19
Because, you know, you've heard it before you're a human being having a spiritual experience. And once you kind of make that transition, what does that do for your level of thinking? So you're given a choice, right? Which one are you going to take? Are you going to be a human being? Or are you going to accept and a moment's courage that you are a divine being and all it takes is a moment to be divine, to be filled with grace? You're going to take moments courage to call yourself a star seed, maybe an indigo child, a child of God even Yeah, it's so good and how could you not what is the child of God capable of And I love the idea. You're born into a benevolent universe. All you have to do is look for the signs. And all that takes is a moment's Cause if you can stay in that for just a moment, if you can do it once, how many how many more? How many more times can do it?

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Kohdi

Published: Oct. 11, 2020, 1:59 p.m.
Duration: 48 minutes 57 seconds

  • user avatarbrandon handley00:08All right. Very cool.
  • 00:10Very cool. Well, they'll start it off in 54321 Hey there, spiritual dope. I'm on today with Cody rain Cody rain is like he's a master of all kinds of marketing. He's got the mantas programs got this podcast visceral human
  • 00:27He has a course creators Academy that's powered by the mantas program you're looking to get into video
  • 00:33Code is your guy, he's got the Hitchhiker's Guide to video. He's got so much other he's got so much going on. I personally kind of wonder like how you keep it all together. But you know, it's obvious to me that you've got a system of implementation.
  • 00:46And you just kind of rock it out because you do have your systems in place, but man, thanks for joining us today. How you doing,
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program00:52Hey, thank you so much brother is such a pleasure to be here. Yeah. Man systems in life so many things that we, I love that you talk about systems because we are a system.
  • 01:04We are a series of processes that are constantly executing. We're taking a new devil data developing it, we are processing that data, making decisions utilizing our power of choice and for me.
  • 01:17My brain has been really scattered my whole life, because we'll just say ADHD and all these other random things. And so for me, systems and all that stuff is very, very, I don't want to say it's necessary, but it is important.
  • 01:31And so for me, kind of having that structure is, you know, the one way you do one thing is what you do everything so
  • 01:39I structure my life.
  • 01:40And that reflects in my business man. So with that, yeah, I got a lot going down constantly emotion constantly thinking about the things that a lot of people tend to ignore.
  • 01:50And I appreciate you for having me, man. Today is the best day of my life and I'm so excited. I get to share it with you.
  • user avatarbrandon handley01:55Now, man. Thank you. Thank you. I appreciate that. I always tell people I've waited my entire life for this moment right
  • 02:01Right.
  • 02:01I mean, because here we are. I mean we everything's everything's built up to this moment.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program02:04Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley02:05As far as we know, right up until now.
  • 02:07So, so, you know, I think you started off with something pretty well there and and i think it would tie into this piece, but I'm gonna go ahead and ask this piece anyways because it may may hit you differently, right. So,
  • 02:19We, we agree, like the kind of universe speaks through us. Right. And that like when somebody listens to this podcast. It's gonna
  • 02:26They're gonna hear something that you and I didn't even hear right in between our dial. I think like that these guys, this is what they're talking about. Oh my god. So to that person through you today. What, what message do they need to hear me to the universe.
  • 02:42The universe, Dorian,
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program02:43Hey, yo. Gotcha. Man, if I was to speak to anybody. My message to
  • 02:48Everyone at all times. It is, isn't it, it is oneness to what happens when I'm sorry what's most important is what's happening right this very second right this second.
  • 03:03In a perfect kind of will say execution of that or example is I woke up today.
  • 03:08And pleasure to be here right woke up. It's amazing. And for whatever reason, had a song stuck in my head. I don't remember my dreams or anything, per se, but I do remember waking up with a feeling
  • 03:19But then I also remember kind of surrendering to the thoughts and then I put on some music wasn't sure what was going to play and that first song just
  • 03:26Just hit man, it means so well you know when music hits you, that you don't feel any pain.
  • 03:33And so it hit me really hard and I had to kind of surrender to the moment and allow myself to remove judgment to remove you know will say the permissions. I might be asking for to express myself.
  • 03:48And I just stood in the middle of the room in his eyes closed and just listen to this song and try to express myself, honestly.
  • 03:57And I'm just in a moment. Man, am I thinking about what's going on for the rest of day. I'm not worried about what happened to me. I'm not worried about the projects and backlogs and clients and business. None of that stuff.
  • 04:09I'm seriously just being one with the moments just looking at it, breathing filling my heart rate feeling this my skin. The breeze from the fan above me.
  • 04:20And I'm just in the moment and I went to the mirror. I looked at myself and for whatever reason, I looked at myself a little bit longer than normal. It's one thing to recognize yourself.
  • 04:31To experience your reflection. But for me, I felt like I was looking into a whole nother world but connecting at the same time. And I realized that Cody, you're not wasting time. You're seriously experiencing the illusion of it.
  • 04:48And so it was that moment the today this morning that I was so in the moments in the expression. I was actually practicing dynamic freedom.
  • 05:02My ability to do anything and being honest and real with who I am today right is second. And I'm thinking about these things. And I realized
  • 05:13Cody, those, those thoughts are in your head, because that's what you actually want to do. Those are the things that you're interested in.
  • 05:18Go outside man do these things. There's no restrictions practices, man. Get in the moment be more in the moment. And that's why once again today is the best day of my life, brother.
  • user avatarbrandon handley05:31I love that I actually, I interviewed a you know a transformational coach last night. She's been been at the work for quite some time. And one of the first pieces that she has somebody do
  • 05:44You know she she she coaches, people who are on the business side and how and this podcast is related to this, right. Like, how, how do we integrate our spiritual self all of who we are into
  • 05:56Our business mechanical self right like this robot and, you know, checking off the boxes piece. And one of the things that she hasn't do is just what you said there, which is to do the mirror work.
  • 06:07Right. Look at the mirror and say I am here with myself. I am here with myself. Right. So, I love, I love that you're doing that and, you know, to, to others that are listening and I totally. I think that that's something you should give yourself a shot to right I would
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program06:21Like to express this on that notes.
  • 06:24Sure know about mirror work.
  • 06:26I've never done it. And so I will say this man when we feel like we're doing work.
  • 06:33Like me we're work even having that word work and
  • user avatarbrandon handley06:37Sure, sure.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program06:37Already has that connotation, or like it's gonna be
  • 06:40It's gonna be difficult. I don't like work right.
  • 06:42Like doing. And so for me today. It's once again. It wasn't like I was out to study myself. I was just in a place
  • 06:51Over the last few months, man. I've been developing and constantly evolving to be more and more and more of the person that I really am and more of the person that I actually want to be
  • 07:03And so today, it was a natural thing that happened. It wasn't like, Hey, I'm working on myself do this. What do you notice it just, I just felt like an energy line. It just kind of pulled me there. I actually caught my own reflection and I was like, I'm going to give you a moment of my time.
  • user avatarbrandon handley07:22Now hundred percent
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:16He has a course creators Academy that's powered by the mantas program you're looking to get into video
  • 00:22Code is your guy, he's got the Hitchhiker's Guide to video. He's got so much other he's got so much going on. I personally kind of wonder like how you keep it all together. But you know, it's obvious to me that you've got a system of implementation.
  • 00:35And you just kind of rock it out because you do have your systems in place, but man, thanks for joining us today. How you doing,
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program00:41Hey, thank you so much brother is such a pleasure to be here. Yeah. Man systems in life so many things that we, I love that you talk about systems because we are a system.
  • 00:53We are a series of processes that are constantly executing. We're taking a new devil data developing it, we are processing that data, making decisions utilizing our power of choice and for me.
  • 01:06My brain has been really scattered my whole life, because we'll just say ADHD and all these other random things. And so for me, systems and all that stuff is very, very, I don't want to say it's necessary, but it is important.
  • 01:20And so for me, kind of having that structure is, you know, the one way you do one thing is what you do everything so
  • 01:28I structure my life.
  • 01:29And that reflects in my business man. So with that, yeah, I got a lot going down constantly emotion constantly thinking about the things that a lot of people tend to ignore.
  • user avatarbrandon handley01:44Now, man. Thank you. Thank you. I appreciate that. I always tell people I've waited my entire life for this moment right
  • 01:50Right.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program01:53Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley01:54As far as we know, right up until now.
  • 01:56So, so, you know, I think you started off with something pretty well there and and i think it would tie into this piece, but I'm gonna go ahead and ask this piece anyways because it may may hit you differently, right. So,
  • 02:08We, we agree, like the kind of universe speaks through us. Right. And that like when somebody listens to this podcast. It's gonna
  • 02:15They're gonna hear something that you and I didn't even hear right in between our dial. I think like that these guys, this is what they're talking about. Oh my god. So to that person through you today. What, what message do they need to hear me to the universe.
  • 02:31The universe, Dorian,
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program02:32Hey, yo. Gotcha. Man, if I was to speak to anybody. My message to
  • 02:37Everyone at all times. It is, isn't it, it is oneness to what happens when I'm sorry what's most important is what's happening right this very second right this second.
  • 02:52In a perfect kind of will say execution of that or example is I woke up today.
  • 02:57And pleasure to be here right woke up. It's amazing. And for whatever reason, had a song stuck in my head. I don't remember my dreams or anything, per se, but I do remember waking up with a feeling
  • 03:15Just hit man, it means so well you know when music hits you, that you don't feel any pain.
  • 03:22And so it hit me really hard and I had to kind of surrender to the moment and allow myself to remove judgment to remove you know will say the permissions. I might be asking for to express myself.
  • 03:37And I just stood in the middle of the room in his eyes closed and just listen to this song and try to express myself, honestly.
  • 03:46And I'm just in a moment. Man, am I thinking about what's going on for the rest of day. I'm not worried about what happened to me. I'm not worried about the projects and backlogs and clients and business. None of that stuff.
  • 03:58I'm seriously just being one with the moments just looking at it, breathing filling my heart rate feeling this my skin. The breeze from the fan above me.
  • 04:37And so it was that moment the today this morning that I was so in the moments in the expression. I was actually practicing dynamic freedom.
  • 04:51My ability to do anything and being honest and real with who I am today right is second. And I'm thinking about these things. And I realized
  • 05:07Go outside man do these things. There's no restrictions practices, man. Get in the moment be more in the moment. And that's why once again today is the best day of my life, brother.
  • user avatarbrandon handley05:20I love that I actually, I interviewed a you know a transformational coach last night. She's been been at the work for quite some time. And one of the first pieces that she has somebody do
  • 05:33You know she she she coaches, people who are on the business side and how and this podcast is related to this, right. Like, how, how do we integrate our spiritual self all of who we are into
  • 05:45Our business mechanical self right like this robot and, you know, checking off the boxes piece. And one of the things that she hasn't do is just what you said there, which is to do the mirror work.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program06:10Like to express this on that notes.
  • 06:13Sure know about mirror work.
  • 06:15I've never done it. And so I will say this man when we feel like we're doing work.
  • 06:22Like me we're work even having that word work and
  • user avatarbrandon handley06:26Sure, sure.
  • 06:29It's gonna be difficult. I don't like work right.
  • 06:31Like doing. And so for me today. It's once again. It wasn't like I was out to study myself. I was just in a place
  • 06:52And so today, it was a natural thing that happened. It wasn't like, Hey, I'm working on myself do this. What do you notice it just, I just felt like an energy line. It just kind of pulled me there. I actually caught my own reflection and I was like, I'm going to give you a moment of my time.
  • user avatarbrandon handley07:11Now hundred percent
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program07:11Really interesting to think about
  • user avatarbrandon handley07:14Now, I love, I love it. I mean, you also you also hit on to you know to experiencing the illusion of time right where you were, you were talking about.
  • 07:31You're looking at yourself as a human.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program07:33Being right
  • user avatarbrandon handley07:35Right, right, right.
  • 07:37And I also love to, you know, you talked about, you know, the permission for greatness. It makes me think of that Banksy one right. The thing you know and it goes, you know, stop asking for, you know, stop asking for permission to be great.
  • 07:46You know, for greatness and yeah
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program07:49It's amazing how that works.
  • 07:50I realized today. And today, maybe is it, is it a coincidence. Is it meant to be that I have this this experience today before we had a chance to speak. I don't know, man, that's the exciting part about being
  • 08:05Right, I'm excited for those moments. I'm really excited to explore them. More importantly, I'm excited for the experience
  • 08:12Because I'm in a constant state of curiosity. I'm a constant state of growth and I know this, I repeat it to myself, and I know it. I feel I am it's it's a staple in my being.
  • 08:23Is to be in a place of evolution. And then when you surrender. A lot of times people go surrender means you got to give up. No.
  • 08:31You have to allow these emotions to set in. I remember feeling it. Tears welled up. I looked at my smile. And I was like, how I'm smiling right now.
  • 08:39Hold. I'm just being I'm just one. I just feel good. I'm accepting these things and yeah just removing those permissions when you go, man. You're the one granting permission but you're also restricting access at the same time.
  • 08:55Yeah, it's conflicting so today I was on that part where I recognized my restriction and I just let that let that down for a little bit so I can just be
  • user avatarbrandon handley09:04I love it, I love it. You talked about like a, you know, awareness and becoming more of who you are right. Let's talk about that. What does that mean, you know, becoming more aware of the person of who I am. So who do you know, who do you feel like you are
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program09:19You are your truths.
  • user avatarbrandon handley09:21You are what you say.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program09:22You are
  • user avatarbrandon handley09:23Okay, so, I mean,
  • 09:25Right, right.
  • 09:25I mean, so I mean what, what does that mean to you, right. Like I always, I think that when we were talking. I'm not sure if I hit, hit on this or not when you have me on. And thanks for having me on. It was a
  • 09:34Great One
  • 09:35Um, you rise to your level of thinking
  • 09:38Right, right.
  • 09:39So who do you think you are right.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program09:42Right. That makes sense. Well, when you think of who you think you are, it puts people in a place of contrast of going, who, who do I want to be my comparing myself to
  • 09:52There is nobody that's going to do a better job at being you than you and if someone can be a better version of you. Then you've got some real work.
  • 10:01Some people are there.
  • 10:02Right. But who am I right, I am what I say I am I'm happy.
  • 10:07Yeah, that's as simple as I could possibly put it, who I am is also what I am is where I am, as well.
  • 10:15When are you
  • 10:16I'm happening in. Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley10:17Sorry.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program10:18I'm in a place of happy, you know,
  • user avatarbrandon handley10:19Right. That's a state of being right like a state. Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. I love it. And you have a great question on your podcast and almost, you know, I think that I'm gonna steal it today for you.
  • 10:30The, you know, and you said you hadn't had the state of awareness yet, right, like, and when did you first fully become aware
  • 10:36Right. Do you feel like you're becoming more aware and, you know, what does that, you know,
  • 10:40What's that mean to you was me to become aware
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program10:43That level of awareness. I've noticed that I'll say over the past two months, right, because I've been surrounded by the most amazing people.
  • 10:53Were all practicing boundaries and communication and connection and actual spiritual enlightenment on a day to day what I've noticed about self awareness is you think you got it and then you level up.
  • 11:05Think you understand it and then you actually understand it and then you feel it, you experience it.
  • 11:12It's a whole different level self awareness for me is coming down to, and I'm going to repeat this absolute truth.
  • 11:21It's not this is what I'm going to say because it's going to sound good, or I don't want to hurt your feelings or I don't want to say this, I'm it's removing those restrictions and being like, Man, I don't like that it's being able to go. That's for me, that isn't for me.
  • 11:35That's a yes for me that's a note to know your level of self awareness stems from not looking at your reflection and going this is two separate entities and I'm connecting and I'm self aware, because I can make choices.
  • 11:49It's literally connecting to as much of your personal truths as possible. It doesn't matter what the truth is because you believe it.
  • 12:00When you're honest with yourself and you're going, I like that. But that's not my thing. I love that because it does this for me. I really enjoy this.
  • 12:11When you can connect with those things because of the truth because of what you've told yourself how you feel about them.
  • 12:18You are more real with everything and everyone. And more importantly, more real with yourself.
  • 12:25And you only do the things that can contribute to your progress through life, your happiness, man. Your success and abundance. It's amazing. So self awareness is first off, recognizing that you're in a place of growth and you don't know everything.
  • user avatarbrandon handley12:40Right, right, right.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program12:42It's knowing what you like what you don't like even not knowing what you like and don't like is still something that, you know,
  • 12:49So when you're in that place of uncertainty, then you're aware of this, it's looking at these things going. I'm unsure. I'm confused or
  • 12:59I am really centered and focused on this and feels good to me. I'm going to use this belief to guide my behavior in a positive way. So being self aware man is is really just, I'll say complete self awareness is not having to think about this stuff ever you just do
  • user avatarbrandon handley13:18That yeah well I absolutely i mean but i mean i think that you know some of this stuff is a
  • 13:25You gotta peel back to, you know, societal layers, right, that have kind of been been you know enforced on you right, you're like, Wait a second. All the stuff that I've been taught up into this moment.
  • 13:37It was serving those people
  • 13:39You know, but not necessarily me. It was serving this function, but not my function of growth right type of thing.
  • 13:46So now, and I love it. Right. So let's talk about like how are you applying some of this to your business man like I mean how the other question is like how could you not, but like, you know,
  • 13:57How do you not, but like, how does, how does this, like, you know, like I talked about earlier, you talked about like the robotic guy that you know shows up and just
  • 14:05Eight. And, you know, nine to five or whatever, you know, how is your life different because of this call it a spiritual practice right of your life practice and weaving those together. Talk about that so
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program14:17What I do is build this cerebral super suit for entrepreneurs to connect more deeply with their core audience.
  • 14:24The reality with that is you got to step into the shoes of your clients of your customers of the people you serve.
  • 14:32I don't care if it's the homeless guy. I don't care if it's this. I don't care what solution you're providing or what you're doing in life.
  • 14:38When it comes down to really expanding your business. It doesn't come down to the tech, that's the easy stuff. It doesn't come down to your sequences and your landing pages, all that stuff that's easy connecting with the people that you serve.
  • 14:56comes from a place of oneness.
  • 14:59Of understanding of self. So along the spiritual enlightenment along this journey of personal growth. You're actually opening yourself to understand and feel and have more compassion.
  • 15:12For the people that you're most likely to benefit. More importantly, how they're going to benefit from you.
  • 15:19So for me, I look at oneness and connection that is missing. Now I look at where I'm at. I'm paying attention to how I feel what I'm thinking.
  • 15:29I'm going to state of curiosity. So I'm wondering why that's all that's coming in. I'm going to state of health. So I'm changing the foods have it seen how it affects my body. I'm getting rid of things that don't serve my journey.
  • 15:41And do not serve my focus
  • 15:43And don't really deserve my intention. So when I personally develop as a human being and become more of a human doing
  • 15:53I am putting myself to in a place to thoroughly connect to everyone that I'll be serving which helps me
  • 16:01Develop better wording in my copy when I'm writing an email. It helps me reach out to better people. It helps me attract better clients.
  • 16:07It helps me build better websites helps me build stronger teams, it puts you in a place of connection to who they are in their core. So, the stronger, more
  • 16:21Will stay connected you are to yourself, the more likely you're going to be able to connect to the people that are going to benefit from your product and service.
  • user avatarbrandon handley16:28Now, I love it, I love it. So, I mean, what I'm hearing in there. Those like you know you determine kind of
  • 16:34How you love yourself and and what serving you. Right, letting go. The things that don't deserve your attention. I love that line, you know, you're going in with your journey and you know be being able to write better copy do better marketing. You're in my mind.
  • 16:51You're tuning yourself. You know, like a crystal tuning. Right. You know, like a radio dial.
  • 16:57To your clients to the people who you can serve. You're like, this is, this is what I'm transmit this is what I'm good at this is what I love to do this is if I was working with you. Oh my god, I would serve you so hard.
  • 17:08Right.
  • 17:09Space, right, like I'm and like you know you're going to be blown away by what I give you, because
  • 17:14You're you you tuned in. Not only did you tuned in. But you to deal with, like, an amplifier on your side you turned it up, you're like,
  • 17:20What's up,
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program17:21Yeah, it's amazing. And lately. My clients have been going. They've been they've been reaching out to me personally.
  • 17:27Outside of like business hours, which is the best feeling ever because now we are connected, we are comfortable
  • 17:33We are really considering each other. We're thinking about each other outside of business hours and it's more of a real relationship and a friendship went up.
  • 17:42And what I have noticed is especially over the last couple months is when you are in a place of curiosity and genuine growth and you recognize that you're there.
  • 17:52You listen more you really, you don't have to speak as much, actually there's a reason why we have one mouth and two ears.
  • 18:00were meant to listen and when we listen to people when you deliver what you actually want to say or how you can contribute
  • 18:09Every word that you say has more impact and more value. Now when it comes to connecting with your clients, how it relates to people in a digital space.
  • 18:18I'm telling you this man, the more self aware you are the more connected you are with the universe and how you relate to it. More importantly, how it is relating to you.
  • 18:29When you write your copy. When you say these words when you create that video when you do those things. You're literally creating with purpose and positive intent.
  • 18:40There are times when I will release something, and I'll type it out and I'll put it up into the digital space.
  • 18:47And it will be the same exact words no difference. Everyone's interpreting it differently from their own level of perception, their mind state.
  • 18:56The people that I love working with are the ones that feel the intent behind the message and pick up on the energy when I wrote it and they feel it speaks to them. And those are the people that I attract. This is why I have such a great time doing what I do.
  • user avatarbrandon handley19:12Now, I love it, I love it. So it's so funny, you brought up purpose and intent because you know I was gonna ask you about that right how to, you know,
  • 19:17We do deliver that message and just like you said, the people that there's there's going to be the one set of people that you know just give you a thumbs up or like or be like, you know, Hey, that was cool.
  • 19:27And then there's going to be the other set of people that are gonna be like wow that was, that was awesome. That was powerful. Right.
  • 19:32And they get, they get kind of where you're coming from on that and it's a totally
  • 19:37That the two different groups, but that doesn't. And what I think I like about that too is that, you know,
  • 19:43The group that doesn't get it today doesn't mean they won't get it tomorrow or see it like you know a little bit later down the road, and they're going to go back to your content and they're gonna be like, I didn't, I didn't even realize you were into all this shit.
  • 19:55Right. Yeah. Yeah. And because because you can. It's funny.
  • 19:59I do that without so my own my own my own stuff. Right. Like, why go and I'll look at other people's content, who I follow it earlier, but I wasn't at my
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program20:09This mind state. Yeah.
  • 20:10You go into through a different lens.
  • user avatarbrandon handley20:12And I've got a new job or I have a whole brand new lens right whole whole new lens on like, Where have you been,
  • 20:20I never even saw
  • 20:22And so it's really interesting that the content that you put out
  • 20:27People
  • 20:28Come back and take a look later and it'll
  • 20:30It'll be fresh to them.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program20:31I 100% and I was just talking about this yesterday. And the reality is to put the content out. We have to realize there's entire generations of people that are moving through going to go to catch up to us.
  • 20:42We could be saying the perfect thing right now to people that don't even exist yet.
  • 20:47Like
  • 20:48What we put out there is really important. And you think of your overall vibe, man. So as people become more connected and understand
  • 20:55Their power of influence and how we are influenced and just the decisions that they make.
  • 21:00Man, they meet someone may go, Man, I want to create a podcast called spiritual dope. I wonder if that's even a thing could click there's
  • 21:09There is, oh my god, they're talking about all the things I didn't even know it was an idea was connected. I felt it. I mean, I took an action and this is everything I'm looking for and you spark an entire movement, based on your idea man.
  • user avatarbrandon handley21:23Simple thought simple action. Right. It's just, it's just a matter of taking that action. What's funny. I mean, it's funny you say that though I did prosperity practice before spiritual dope and
  • 21:34Somebody else I spun up prosperity practice like afterwards, after the fact. Like I reached out to her. I was like, I was like, wow, you're doing like the exact same thing I'm doing. I was just like,
  • 21:43So it's really interesting. I'm not sure if you've ever seen like some of those videos or, you know, I forget, like, you know, let's talk about Tesla or being connected to the Akashic Record right or
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program21:52Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley21:53Hello, say like two thoughts happen at the same time, like
  • 21:56Different receivers. Right, so you'll receive thought somebody else or received thought only one person X on it though, or maybe both people act on it the same time.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program22:04Right.
  • user avatarbrandon handley22:05And it's not until like later that they converge and and you know you see it show up. So
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program22:10That when I remember saying
  • 22:12interprets that differently. I really never there's no such thing as original I always say this every thoughts already been funk. Like, what are the chances of you thinking of a sentence or something or whatever.
  • 22:22As someone else hasn't already done that you're picking up on something somewhere actually look at that as alignment.
  • 22:29If you're having this thought and it's moving you. That means you may actually be being pushed her poles.
  • 22:34Pulled in that direction.
  • 22:35Hundred percent old yeah
  • user avatarbrandon handley22:36Yeah. So when we talked, right. We talked about the, the, the idea of everything's already been created. It's just a job. What's your awareness of it right and it's funny that because you talked about the losing time right the future now and the past are all here right now.
  • 22:52Right, so
  • 22:53You've got the, you know, we'll call it the multiverse, right. We've got your, your quantum entanglement kind of guy.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program22:58So, yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley22:59You know you can sit there and you can think for a second, you're like, All right, well, if I make this direction, kind of like a Sherlock Holmes type you know movie right like if I go this direction. This is what will happen right
  • 23:07Right. Or in my case, it's like, you know, the, the, the Green Hornet with like Seth right and he's like sitting there thinking, and he looks like he's gone. Fast as mine is really going five minutes. Anyways, the deal is like
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program23:16I get it.
  • user avatarbrandon handley23:17You got like all these slices of possible universes, each one of those each thought that you just had they all just happened.
  • 23:24Yeah. He's one of those things happen.
  • 23:26Right, and it's happening right now. So, I mean,
  • 23:28Whichever one you kind of lock into and tune into that's the one is pointing forward.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program23:33Right, the one that you're going to resent so
  • 23:34I'll give everybody a practice right now. I've been doing this.
  • 23:37I've whiteboards all over the house Ivan. What do you walk into every door. There's a small whiteboard and it's it's whiteboard wallpaper. So I put it on the things that I
  • 23:46Hang out around most often. And so what I've been doing is recognizing words. Okay. There's a reason why words stand out to you. So Brendan, I see writing stuff down rather just like this, man. I got notepads and notepads
  • 24:02All this is not just client notes. These are thoughts.
  • 24:04These are things that are standing out to me if I here at once and it gets my attention. It means pay attention if it gets my attention twice. It means focus on that it's get detailed with it. So you'll see random words written all around the house. It'd be like proximity
  • 24:22Right, right. I was Moses.
  • 24:24And then it's just random things and then later I'll go back and connect the dots. Our oneness is
  • 24:30We're, we're basically it's inevitable that we're going to grow based on our environment or as Moses and our proximity to people who are at a higher state of consciousness.
  • 24:38That creates this infinite loop which connects that we're just just doodling manages everything is just total
  • 24:47Brainstorming so if you if it gets your attention once pay attention if it gets your attention twice focus on that. There's a reason why you are being pulled towards that.
  • 24:58Get, get close to whatever that where it is, whatever that thing is if that person if they mentioned somebody towards two people on two separate days mentioned the same person get interested
  • 25:09Yeah, that means that person or that thing is leaving an impact. And it's worth your time.
  • user avatarbrandon handley25:14Sure. I mean, the person's calling out to you right
  • 25:16If they got what they've got like something something they've got is really, it's meaningful for you so
  • 25:21You know, follow up on that, I love that. Thanks for sharing that. So, one more time. So if it's, you know, if you, if you see it like once you get your interest rate.
  • 25:30See it twice, you know, focusing on that, like, you know,
  • 25:33And then the third time, like, I mean you you're hooked right like you shouldn't be.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program25:36You, you are the third time.
  • user avatarbrandon handley25:39Right on.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program25:39If it gets your attention. Twice I say this because if we continue to go Wait I need three times right to is the coincidence three is a staple
  • 25:50Rather, if a guy your attention to times. Why are you paying attention. Why is is getting your attention, two times. First off, you could have been thinking everything you could have been doing anything.
  • 26:00It literally stopped you in thought and got your attention. It's there for a reason, our subconscious is very active at that
  • 26:09Moment. And so there's the zoo, there's something you want to get from it. There's something you want to define might be something you just want to explore for understanding but somewhere along the way your mind picked up on something and it needs clarity. There's an open loop somewhere.
  • 26:25Yeah, gotta close this.
  • user avatarbrandon handley26:27For sure, for sure. And I love that you know programmatic reference right if you've got an open loop. It just keeps going and going and going and going and going until, like, you know, there's some type of closure. Right.
  • 26:38Or control see right
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program26:39You know, just, yeah. Stop, stop at
  • user avatarbrandon handley26:42The so um you brought up something really cool that I really enjoy too is like the idea of the subconscious always being on the lookout for what you're on the lookout for you.
  • 26:52Programmatically said you set a filter, right, these things are popping up because you set a filter for that. Right. You said you said all right.
  • 27:00Hey, yo, I'm really interested in something like you know give what is something that you're interested in, you know, proximity osmosis where you know and and so now you've got your, your mind and subconscious filter on that. Like for me right now I've got divine and divinity. Right.
  • 27:17That's my thing.
  • 27:18Right. I've got a divine framework set up as my next course right so
  • 27:22Anytime somebody says divine. I'm like,
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program27:24Yeah, it's
  • user avatarbrandon handley27:25Over there. Amen. Amen. I'm like, What are you saying
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program27:27What do you got the coolest part that so you you look at your mind if we open with this as system.
  • 27:33A series of processes hundred
  • 27:34Percent computers and quantum tech and all that stuff. The quantum computing, man. It's just algorithms. It's going into this than that. If that doesn't this
  • 27:43You're just computing data.
  • 27:45So when you program your mind, based on your intent. This is why I always say define what happiness looks like smells like tastes like feels like
  • 27:56Get like get just seriously go to Amazon buy a bunch of notepads for like six books in just elaborate on what happiness and success looks like to you. Yeah.
  • 28:07Do it right, right, right, right. You're only going to spend like a half hour doing this thing. It's nothing in the illusion of time.
  • user avatarbrandon handley28:14Well, I caught the the
  • 28:16Real quick, real quick. So I mean, would you would you make them write it down or type it out.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program28:21Does it matter personally
  • 28:23I'm into writing
  • 28:25Okay, now
  • 28:26Now, and I. The reason why is because of the time it takes for me to write it out. If I still commit to that thought. By the end of the sentence, and I still feel good about it.
  • 28:36And it's an actual thought
  • 28:38If in mid sentence. I'm like, this isn't my thing, then it's just a thought. It's just something that popped in here. Probably for contrast
  • 28:45And so when I write it down. I'll say this, there hasn't been a single person that I know that is working on themselves. That isn't writing stuff down
  • 28:54Hasn't been writing a book isn't journaling isn't doing any of this man this is pages I just naturally picked it up. I don't necessarily enjoy writing
  • 29:04But I realized that for me to be honest and express myself. I need to write these things down and go back and label them right
  • 29:13These are all these are all staples in my, in my future, man.
  • user avatarbrandon handley29:16Now, I love it. I call it
  • 29:18I call it looking at last.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program29:19Thought the programming brother, when we do this when we write all that stuff down or type it out.
  • 29:26Now we get clarity. We're programming our subconscious to look for that. So when we are in a podcast and say, I got a big window right here. And if I was looking for a motorcycle motorcycles make me feel happy.
  • 29:40Anything that's going to get my attention that may resemble a motorcycle. I'm gonna, it's going to get my attention. Oh, is it. No, it's not. It's like somebody you're waiting to arrive. Is that damn is at them.
  • 29:51Right. Your subconscious is going to constantly go out and look for
  • 29:55All the things that satisfy your happiness make you feel successful make you feel to find find divinity, all of those things, man. So programming is really important, but only if it's healthy.
  • user avatarbrandon handley30:07Well, I mean, I think that, uh, you know, healthy, healthy is also subjective right initially. And I think that even if you begin to
  • 30:18Just even understand the dynamic of what you're talking about like the programming right set yourself up, you make that choice consciously to be programming yourself. Yeah, right. Because up until up until that point. I mean, I'd love to hear when you realize that
  • 30:34You needed to program yourself.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program30:37Yeah, well I was, you know, my story. Man, I'm a liver failure survivor.
  • 30:43Like I was on my deathbed, and I know what it's like for your body to start dying and have to sign away your life surrender to the universe.
  • 30:51I don't know what's happening on it was going on, but all of the decisions every single thought that I've had to that point has led me to my deathbed. Yeah.
  • 31:00And I'm still defending that for some reason, like why am I defending being here. I'm justifying my death. Oh, I lived a good life. I'm doing. Are you serious, I haven't even tried yet I'm 32 at this point on my deathbed, and I'm trying to justify that I lived a long good life.
  • 31:18And I was just meant. That's ridiculous, man. So when I get in. When I start recovering I'm realizing all these thoughts and it wasn't until I started debating my environment.
  • 31:29I'm not in that scene. Am I surrounded by those people am I doing those things am I interested in that stuff. I don't think those thoughts. Why am I still the same person.
  • 31:38Hmm. Why am I still the same guy before I died. This is a whole new me
  • 31:46Right.
  • 31:46But is it really a whole new me, this is, this is just me.
  • 31:51With a new opportunity. So who do I want to be. And then as I call this self auditing.
  • 31:57Then you start to realize where your brain starts to go, you start thinking about happiness and success and these these other things that you want to accomplish.
  • 32:03And then you start recognizing now that's not gonna work. Whoa. I just told me know what the
  • 32:11And I believe that what happened. I just shut myself down. I can do anything. And I said no to me. Why is that a thing. Okay, I can do it.
  • 32:24I am doing it. It's happening go okay and then that thought comes in again. No, no, we're doing this. It's happening. Got it. Go, then it starts to be less and less. And then I'm starting to realize that I have just created a healthy thought pattern.
  • 32:40When it comes to can or cannot there. Is it just is man, you just, are you doing it.
  • 32:45Are you focusing on your happiness. Yes, well then I'm gonna keep doing those things are you building your business. Yeah, I'm gonna keep doing that thing.
  • 32:52I am giving myself permission, I get really good at doing that and anybody can develop healthy habits healthy thought patterns, they can easily reprogram themselves.
  • 33:02From an actual neurological standpoint, we need at least 63 to 64 repetitions of anything to be considered good or for it to be written into our being all those veins in our brain.
  • 33:16Those lumps and things
  • 33:18The valleys. Those are based on repetition. Right. So developing healthy habits. It comes with practice. And once we put ourselves there, man. Then you get really good at practicing. It's not what you're practicing. You just get good at creating good habits.
  • 33:34And then this is kind of all easy peasy. From there it's difficult with there's a lot there's less less difficulty involved right
  • user avatarbrandon handley33:43I think that it's a you know it's it's the idea that, you know, somebody as they grow older, right, they, they try something once
  • 33:51And it didn't work out. I'll give a couple more shots. But you're saying it's like 64 tries and keep at it and you know it's not like it's you need that repetition. I also you're calling from
  • 34:02Your computer land right I look at that number 64 and I think about like 64 bits, right, like
  • 34:07Yeah yeah so
  • 34:08So that's a, that's interesting. So, you know, you're on your deathbed, and and you you crawl up out of that and you start to recognize
  • 34:18You know, you've got to make these these pattern changes and you've got to develop these healthy life patterns, you know, the challenge that I think that we see is somebody that isn't dying.
  • 34:31That isn't you know isn't dying and has a safe life. Yeah.
  • 34:35Right, I mean you know that they haven't they haven't drunk themselves death, but maybe they have several beers at night and maybe you so
  • 34:44How do we get someone to recognize that they've got patterns that aren't serving them even though they've got quote unquote good are safe life and they can have more
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program34:53Is that familiar do. That's the question is this, is this what you do. Is this your thing. That's where you do these are that that okay
  • 35:02Have you done anything else. Have you tried anything else you realize that you're back in the bar, you have this. How many times have you had this drink. You know what it is.
  • 35:11If you keep doing the same things, you get the same exact results results. Why do you think I became an alcoholic is because I needed more and more and more to feel normal. I've never had this until like yesterday. This is amazing. I'm a
  • 35:27New person holding pineapple.
  • 35:30I had to switch it out, like, what is it synergy raw kombucha
  • 35:35Love this. Right.
  • 35:37Did a hippie. Give it to me. Yes, but does it matter. No, my point with it is that if we keep doing the same things and living in a place of familiarity.
  • 35:46We're never going to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Therefore, we're never going to grow.
  • 35:51Is this as good as it gets. Is this as good as you want it to be. Is this what you really want. Man Seriously, look at this point, you're just writing. Just ask yourself this question, is this what I really want
  • 36:06Is this how I really want to feel if I can relive this my state of being for the end of my existence. Is that good enough for me. Can I achieve more goodness. Is this how you really want it to be nine times out of 10 it's know
  • 36:24Even in a healthy place.
  • 36:27If I asked myself, This Is this really how good you want it to be, or is this really where you want to be. It's really where I want to be right now, but it's only getting better. So know if I get complacent here I get no more results.
  • 36:42I have to continue growing right so we got to look at that complacency and go, you know what, man. Is this as good as it gets. Is this as good as you want it to be right now.
  • 36:51Chances are the same. And then we start taking action. And I know this because just the power of influence from three people, we were able to get an alcoholic to leave the bar. The other day on a podcast and he went home to go play with his dogs.
  • 37:07Hmm. He made the decision to leave the bar, man.
  • 37:11stopped drinking poison not permanently.
  • 37:14But the power of influence is there, he made that decision. It's amazing what happens when you realize that it can be better.
  • user avatarbrandon handley37:21Yeah, no 100% you know I know when I quit drinking
  • 37:27It has influenced many people right and you know we talked about being pulled you know I was pulled, man. I wasn't, I didn't quit drinking because I didn't like I love drinking
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program37:38Drinking. No, I haven't done it since.
  • user avatarbrandon handley37:41I have a blast. I you know do stupid shit all day long.
  • 37:46And and but you know it fell away man fell away is something I didn't need anymore. And I found that I could do stupid shit without having to drink.
  • 37:57And I could be there more for people. Right. And so, but but that influence is just like
  • 38:02It's not something we're not doing any force on anybody is because I just feel great.
  • 38:07I get to I get to drive whenever I want.
  • 38:09I get to do and go places, whenever I want.
  • 38:11Because I haven't had a drink.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program38:14It was one of the most interesting compliments. I've received recently is you don't need anything in your system to have a good time. You don't have to smoke. You don't have to drink enough to do anything you're just having a blast all the time right now my
  • 38:31That whoa, you're right.
  • 38:33Well, I know this.
  • 38:34But now you're saying it. So you got my attention.
  • 38:38Whoa, that's cool. And then they're going, I don't, I don't really need to do these things. It's just not really. I mean, I get
  • 38:45You know, it's not necessary.
  • 38:47It's not a staple of my existence anymore. Let's just say that. Yeah.
  • 38:51Wow, man, that's, that's amazing. And people talk about high on life. I get what they're saying.
  • user avatarbrandon handley38:57Is visual rather than just
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program39:00The Scripture that
  • user avatarbrandon handley39:01That's it. That's it. That's man. That's exactly what we're here. And what we're doing right
  • 39:07You know, talking about that. And again, you know, being able to live from that space and be successful in business right and leading leading with that right not like that's not your cover. That's not your life, you're not like I go home and I meditate, I go home and I pray. No, I read
  • 39:25When I was with with spirit. Right.
  • 39:27So, I love, I love, I love that you're doing that, and I love you know I see what you're creating
  • 39:33A see the momentum. You've got new built
  • 39:36You know what, what are some other things that you would hit on in this space that you would share with anybody.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program39:42In regards to tech or personal or just just
  • user avatarbrandon handley39:44In terms of like, you know, you know,
  • 39:46Leading from spirituality. Was it. That's right. Yeah, I heard you say to you came from, like, a hippie. You know, you kind of came from that background to right and that was real similar to me to write hippie mom.
  • 39:58And just
  • 39:59For me, it ends up coming easily because that's how I was raised, I fought it
  • 40:04For a long time, yes. Talk about that. Right. So talk about knowing that it exists, and then being like them being like, Oh, shit. It works. Yeah, I know that resistance.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program40:15Is useless. Honestly, I just posted about this. And yeah, my parents, you know, different what 6070s
  • 40:22Yeah, you know, so they were raised, like that. My parents are definitely hippies, but not like your, your typical hippie not like will say modern day hippies, or what I i actually been thinking about and you're welcome to take this and join me. Not all hippies climb trees like
  • 40:37I want to start a movement.
  • user avatarbrandon handley40:39Well, that's a special again. That's what spiritual dopes about there is a greatness. And if you go to my website right now says you don't have to wear like beach. You don't have to wear that.
  • 40:47Dress. You don't have to wear sandals. You don't have to
  • 40:50You don't have to put on this uniform to feel this way.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program40:52100%. So we'll talk about that. Absolutely. There's a
  • user avatarbrandon handley40:55Reverse it what I'm saying. And you see
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program40:57Like we're on the same wavelength.
  • 40:58Yeah, man. And so, so here's the trip is my, my brother, my older brother, he's like a hippie is of all manly man, but he's climbing trees, he's cutting trees down building homes log cabins, he makes his own tea and coffee and everything is from the earth and He is like 100% hippie.
  • 41:15Spiritual Empath all of that stuff. It's really amazing.
  • 41:19Now for me, I always thought that because I'm a tech guy right at artists. I'm an artist in general.
  • 41:25You know I connect with people in different ways, but I've been through an extreme amount of trauma before liver failure. So my trauma.
  • 41:34I've had to process these things differently. And my viewing angle my perspective on will say the hippie approach is it's a little too flu fee for lack of better words this little to
  • user avatarbrandon handley41:46motherly soft
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program41:48It's not it do, like, just take your shoes off and just seeing one drink like okay
  • user avatarbrandon handley41:53I want to kick a door. Yeah.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program41:55You can't force this hippie just like religion or anything.
  • user avatarbrandon handley41:58Right, right, right.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program41:59You have to be open to it. Oh, so on my journey.
  • 42:04As it became more receptive more open, more compassionate towards other people, and more importantly, developed more compassionate towards myself, which I learned from my mentor asara sundry
  • 42:16With that, I started to let down those walls and I started to break those permissions started signing off on my own.
  • user avatarbrandon handley42:24Certain he
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program42:25Recognizes my permission slip and
  • 42:27Walk down that hall of success and happiness.
  • 42:30And in doing so, I started to realize that people have been telling me this forever.
  • 42:35And I've been to so
  • 42:36Not have it.
  • user avatarbrandon handley42:38I mean, that's what we talked about earlier, though, too, right, like in writing your content right you're yourself. You're telling people, some things and
  • 42:45They're just not. They're not in that spaceship, they're not they're not there right and it's not until it's not until you kind of come into your own awareness of being and you can look back and be like, Oh my gosh, people been telling me this my entire life. Yeah, right.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program42:59100%
  • user avatarbrandon handley42:59Now, I love it man.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program43:01It's amazing the way it works. And I'll tell you this, brother. You remember. Oh, sorry about posting with purpose.
  • user avatarbrandon handley43:06But
  • 43:07I intent, but
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program43:08How do you think I ended up in Texas, dude.
  • 43:10There you go right person, pick up on the intent and the power and energy behind the same message and they open the opportunity like you. We want you to come here.
  • 43:21Right, that's how I ended up in Texas in a series of events had to happen perfectly in alignment.
  • 43:28And I ended up here in the most incredible place I've ever been in my entire life more growth, more happiness more communication more connection.
  • 43:36More forward progress than any other time in my entire life. And I'm beyond humbled all because I posted with purpose man right person felt it. And then we all took action make magic happen. It's really, really cool.
  • user avatarbrandon handley43:52That's cool, man. So, I mean, you know, again, this is kind of like a follow your bliss type moment right
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program43:57Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley43:57I love it.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program43:59Though well
  • user avatarbrandon handley44:00I mean you got you got to do it for yourself. Right. Like each person. Everybody's got everybody's got to find that for themselves, you know, you talk about your truth right you could
  • 44:07You could say, Hey, you know, for me, you know, at this moment, this bliss is my truth right if I'm feeling, you know, and again, I'll talk about that word, you know, vanity, I'm feeling
  • 44:17Or creative source like through me and, you know, or like we talked about resonance and we look at, like, you know, somebody just plucking my divine source string.
  • 44:26Everything has resonated and that was bliss and so I'm following that like somebody, you know, talking to me and just dragging me out and like me, like, yes, this is, oh my gosh, this is uncommon. I'm on my way you
  • 44:37Know how this is going to end. Oh yeah, they are they aware of the path. Now look, you're always on your path right it's like you've got a you're always on your path you're never all fit. It's just, you've got to make that decision.
  • 44:48To to recognize that you're walking. It's at your part of it that you're being it right
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program44:53You know, want to man.
  • 44:54Like, think of it. Think of it like this in like I if I go to the doctors right now and they they put a needle in my arm. Yeah, that's gonna be my only, you know, uncomfortable. I'm not worried about the needle, man. I'm worried about the results.
  • 45:06They want to see how unhealthy. I really am.
  • 45:09Don't want to like surrender to that.
  • 45:11Right. Some people really aren't. They're not good at walking through the doors, man.
  • user avatarbrandon handley45:15Yeah.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program45:15You're not good at that. That's their out of practice.
  • 45:18And sometimes we got to kick those doors down, they gotta be receptive on the other end. You've got to kick those doors down for yourself.
  • 45:24Man, once you open that door now.
  • 45:27Then you can see the path.
  • user avatarbrandon handley45:29Yeah.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program45:29And know that you're on it.
  • 45:31And then you can frolic down that bitch as much as you want. You know I'm saying, like, what are
  • 45:34You going to do
  • user avatarbrandon handley45:36All that. Well, I mean, look, you can't make a wrong decision. You know a lot of people
  • 45:40You know that they've got their systems in place that work for them. And if you get off of their system, they're going to come up and say, Well, well, well, you got it. You're, you're off your system and you're off your path, but
  • 45:50That's not true. You're off of what their path would be you're off and out of their system and so have faith in yourself, man. I love what you're doing, I love, I love that. That's what you know you've developed like kind of this core
  • 46:02Being again and you're, you know, you're, you're leading with that and you're in that space. That's awesome. Where should I send people to go meet up with you and find out more about you.
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program46:12Absolutely. So my primary focus right now is the mantis program so mantis is every single thing that I've ever learned tops mastered
  • 46:25All in one place in regards to not just evolving as a human being but evolving into the strongest and most accurate business mindset that you could ever possibly hope to get yourself into
  • 46:38It's the reason why I can operate at a peak state of performance for forever and cost deliver content get things done while having a family doing all that stuff.
  • 46:48So I want to show people exactly how they can implement
  • 46:52These specific concepts into their life. But more importantly, there's so many people who don't take the necessary steps because they go all but there's technology, there's this and I don't understand that.
  • 47:03I cover it all, every single aspect. So you don't have to be able to business or even bill yourself without fear man like you don't have to do that. You don't have to restrict yourself. And it's basically what I now that I say I give people the permission to evolve as a human.
  • 47:19And then, yeah, so that's the mantis program. So the mantis program com
  • 47:24And then of course graders Academy man the CCA it's an extension of the mantas program. This is for people who want to build an online program.
  • 47:33I have numerous clients 2020 is packed with people who are going. I know what a lot of information. The online learning industry is a $34 billion industry.
  • 47:44If you know something, and you want to get it out there and develop a program for people to get their hands on.
  • 47:51And I hope people evolve through that process developed a program and then also handle all the tech and all that stuff with with just with ease.
  • 48:00Then yeah, then I'm gonna communication artist. So I help people communicate more deeply with their, their core audience, not just as a servant leader, but as a professional graphic designer 20 years in Photoshop.
  • 48:12And yeah and then for everybody who already has a message or is looking to dominate the second most powerful website on the planet YouTube
  • 48:21I have the Hitchhiker's Guide to video marketing and that's showing you, not just how to get video views up into the millions
  • 48:27But I'm actually showing you how to build a complete online digital business or any product or service that you're working on. Or like to get your hands on. That's the secret behind the sauce.
  • user avatarbrandon handley48:40Yeah, man, that was
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program48:41What
  • 48:42What is there, man. So you can also find me on Facebook or is Cody rain and then you could also go to Cody rain calm. If you guys want to learn more about me or jump on my calendar, we can have a chat about you and your business.
  • user avatarbrandon handley48:53Awesome, man. Thanks for joining into
  • user avatarKohdi Rayne - The Mantis Program48:56Thank you, man, I appreciate you.

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The 3 Jewels of Buddhism | Single Hit

Published: Oct. 10, 2020, 11:40 p.m.
Duration: 16 minutes 34 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on Brandon Handley here today with do the voice of a generation have a little bit of fun as I've got some guests over this weekend but uh, you know, what I haven't done for you for a little bit was do a solo podcast and what I'm what I want to do is catch up catch you up a little bit with the Buddhism, stuff that we've been doing over on Facebook, I've had to push off for the past couple weeks, you know one of them. But I've got another that we did on Facebook with a Reverend Samurai and we did the Three Jewels of Buddhism. And if you're not familiar with what they are, and they're called three areas, which we can turn to, for refuge, right, these three jewels or refuges are essential to the Buddhist teachings. In the Buddhist times, when people wanted to ordain and become Buddhist, they formally took up refuge in these three jewels. The jewels are places where we turn toward in order to cultivate mindfulness and loving kindness. They are three different ways in which we may take refuge

Unknown Speaker 1:23
in our path,

Brandon Handley 1:25
and practice and I love the fact of the idea of refuge is somewhere we can go to find solace to be at peace, to be at ease to not worry so much about nearly anything else. As a matter of fact, you know, what I really want to do is, is, while we're here right now, is look up refuge and see what the dictionary version of this is. So that we can really just share what it is so shelter or protection from danger or distress, a place that provides shelter or protection, and something to which one has recourse and difficulty. So these three jewels of Buddhism are places in which you or a practicing Buddhist may go and find Rhys bite recourse away from a place that they're feeling challenged. The first of these three jewels is the Buddha. When we hear the term Buddha, when you hear the term Buddha, and we often think of the historical Buddha, however, taking refuge in the Buddha is less about the man who awakened and more about taking refuge in the Buddha hood with us. The Buddha taught that we all have the seed of awakening that needs to be watered if we are to liberate ourselves. taking refuge in the Buddha means turning toward the Buddha seed within we tune into the seeds of wisdom and compassion already presence cultivating these qualities and resting with them this I think he depending on when you listen to this and just recently released a podcast actually know what I didn't release this podcast, I forgot to record it during the conversation, ah the trials and tribulations of your own podcasting. The idea and is that we are all Buddhas, you are a Buddha. Simply waking up to that idea. Right? So he says taking refuge is less about the man who awakened and more about taking refuge in the Buddha hood within us you are that Buddha within, you know, I'll even I'll even line this up somehow to Napoleon hills thinking grow rich. And what he calls the mastermind is the ability to call upon others mentally as if they were in the room with you. Right. And in. In essence, what you're doing in that situation is you are vibrating yourself to that level of somebody or something within your own imagination. And when you do that, you're able to just kind of call forth from the ether and ether and sit into that space. So you have the ability should you choose to say In Buddhist light to sit in Christ light right in nature and that is you know kind of mastermind that's what they're talking about here by taking refuge in the Buddha hood with a you have it within you you are that seed you are that as they would say in Hinduism, thou art that. And you've had that seed that needs to be watered in cultivation is such a such an amazing word. You find it a lot as a matter of fact, I've got it over here in the eaching that I spend, I spend usually a little bit of everyday with most days and going through it and the idea of cultivating that greatness within you. Right and and tuning into that seed of wisdom, compassion, it's already within you, and resting in that space and being fine. Again, refuge.

Brandon Handley 5:57
Right, relax into it, relax into it. So you have the Buddha within you, you are a Buddha take refuge and knowing that cultivate that and be with it, rest with it, the Dharma. The second of the Three Jewels is the Dharma, or way. The Dharma is both Buddhist teachings and actual actions associated with the teachings. The Buddhist teaching offer a safe place a safe way of being taking refuge in the Dharma means that we study the Buddhist teachings and put forth the effort to utilize the Dharma in our lives. we meditate, take the precepts, and cultivate wholesome qualities, acting and living in this way is a true refuge in that we do not cause harm to others or ourselves and are able to find safety in the teachings. So the Dharma is both the teachings and the actual actions on if you ever heard anybody say, I've got to go do my dharma. And I was always confused. I was like, how do you do your Dharma? If that's the teaching the the words right that there's not necessarily a doctrine, but the teachings and the ways. But I think that with any type of teaching, anything you do, you must embody it. You must take action, you must live those teachings, not simply read, regurgitate, and mentally, you know, rehash and go over these things over and over. utilize it, put it into your life. And again, you know, meditate and cultivate wholesome qualities, acting and living in this way is a refuge. If you're not in acting in any way to do harm to others for yourself, how often do you find yourself just beating the shit out of yourself for something so trivial, something so small, that with anybody else with any friend of yours, you would say, everything's gonna be fine your grade, you didn't do it on purpose, that type of thing. So I love it. So your Dharma is your teachings in action. And just knowing that, that that is a practice and knowing that that's the life that you're living with intention is like, that doesn't leave room for guilt. There is no harm if you're living in this way. So there's refuge in that because you're not going to kind of be torn as to whether or not you're living in the right way. And within purpose, and your purpose is to your purpose in your actions or to live the Dharma. The Sangha, this is one of my favorites, right, the third and final today. of the Three Jewels in Buddhism is the Sangha. The Pali word Sangha refers to the community of practitioners. Traditionally, the Sangha is the community of monks and nuns. For laypeople Asana is simply a community of people on the path with you. It may be members of local meditation center, friends, that you've made in your practice, or those who sit on a retreat with to take refuge in OSI is to engage with the community of meditators. community is important in Buddhism as it is in many religious and spiritual traditions. Our meditation practice is often personal, intimate, but engaging with others is just as important. When we turn toward the Sangha, we are able to learn from others offer to help others and to use our practice to engage with others mindfully. practicing with the community often helps us to see things and in new ways working Other things which we had not previously considered. I don't know about you. But there's so many times as this final line, right is going to a new community and having somebody having a conversation with somebody, and them explaining something you thought you were thoroughly, intimately knowledgeable about, and they, they put a little spin on it. And you say to yourself, wow, I hadn't thought about it that way. And your life has changed, your life has changed for, right, forever. That's the power of just a simple community being able to reach out there

Brandon Handley 10:49
and do it in an opening way, in an open way, where you are receptive to new ideas where you are receptive to somebody else's way of thinking. And the idea of diversity is that many people from different backgrounds, many different perspectives, many different cultures, are going to allow for you to see things in a way that you had not, as, as it says here, previously considered. The other idea is that is people on the path with you, but also the people on the way, you know, people on the way to the community, that there, there's some excitement about right there, you know, people that you can see coming from a distance like, Oh, my God, I never thought that they were going to come to this community, I'm so excited to share some time with them and be with them. I don't know that. Susan, I really think that way. That's the way I think about it, though, you know, you see some people coming along the way or you're along the path with them, as they're talking about, as lay people, the community people that are on the path with you, you and I've met today, you and I have spent some time with each other, you are here with me on this podcast, or maybe you're here in the video rendition. And we're spending a little bit of time with each other. And so that means, you know, we're we're along the path with each other, it doesn't mean we're going to the same place. means we're walking with each other for a moment, which means that we are here together for a moment. Now, it doesn't have to be forever. Does that mean that's one of the things I think that a lot of people get caught up on or hung up on? People come into your life, they're just they're likely just as quick to leave? What did you learn from that person? What kind of experience Did you have with that person? Hopefully, what were you able to offer to them as well? And how did the time that you spent with each other, you know, possibly benefit the world. I'm just kind of, you know, looking at this over again, and also, you know, our meditation is often personal, intimate. I think what's even just as powerful is to meditate with a community knowing that just for a moment that your minds are in the same space and place and you're meditating together, there's a power in that, I don't know that you've ever had the experience of, of watching, maybe a concert, right? I remember, I remember sitting at MPC boys concert years ago. And, you know, up on the we're probably you know, three rows up or whatever, you know, three levels up and you can see the main floor and the main floor. The piece I forget what the hell it was for us. I think it was a Hello nasty tour. But their their stage would like move left and right. And it was like you could see the bodies moving to follow the concert and you could literally see like this Ying Yang, you know energy because of just how it worked, right? So you see energy in motion bodies in motion and people in motion. And and I say that because you know, you see you see that? vibration, you see that energy in motion in people and it's very intense to be able to see that now. I know I brought that up in this one. I forget what minds and motion together. Right. So those people work together in unison. They had different kinds of objectives. They're returning different ways but they were there together an in unison and seeing seeing that outside of you is pretty It's pretty cool. I've seen it in a number of other different scenarios or if you go to raves or been to parties like that you can see people kind of dancing to the same beat. You see them dancing emotion, I'm sure that you always hear people talking, you know, Mark marching to the same beat. But some, you know, there's, there's something to seeing people liberated by music and dancing and motion and seeing that community in action together, same idea of even quietly meditating with each other, just that energy, driving through all of you at that same time. mines in refuge

Brandon Handley 15:43
right in the Buddha, and living their dharma. So the Three Jewels ladies and gentlemen of Buddhism, the Buddha, the Dharma, and the Sangha, we should be Samurai that is going live October 17. To finish up our last one for a little bit anyways, and that'll be the Eightfold noble path. Look forward to hearing your thoughts on this one. And perhaps catching up with you on Facebook. Pete, feel free to join us for the Eightfold noble path. All right. Have a great evening, day life. Do whatever you're doing.

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Published: Oct. 4, 2020, 6 a.m.
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Buddhism Four Noble Truths

Published: Sept. 30, 2020, 12:52 a.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 59 seconds

FB 8 Fold Path Session: https://www.facebook.com/events/304193880897130

https://thebuddhistcentre.com/text/four-noble-truths

https://thebuddhistcentre.com/text/noble-eightfold-path

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on spiritual dope? How are you Brandon Handley here the voice of a generation voice of generation Heiser? You know, coming over here from the fatherhood podcast, I used to have that call to the voice of fathers to give a damn. So what are we here? What do you what is this community, this is a voice of, you know, spiritual spiritualists that give a damn anywho guys popping in here I wanted to share out something that we've just done recently over on Facebook, if you're not familiar with one of the things that we're doing over there, we're doing a kind of a weekly thing with introduction into Buddhism. And we've got one more left. But so far what we've done is we've done the Four Noble, I'm not a Buddhist, obviously. So we've done the we've done the Three Jewels. We've done, the Four Noble Truths, and one of the podcasts that we've released already is the five mindfulness trainings. So one of them, I'm gonna go over with you today, the short version of them is the Four Noble Truths. And also do a short version of the Three Jewels, but I and I'm also going to link a lengthier version of these to the website. So you can go see kind of what that Facebook conversation looked like where I had Reverend Sam, who's a Buddhist Reverend, on with me to, you know, to talk to about this. And one of the reasons that we're doing it is so that you can approach Buddhism to find out a little bit more about what it is in a safe and welcoming space. And can hear that straining, love it, want to make sure that you feel safe, right, and it's a place where I think that sometimes, for me anyways, if you go somewhere, and you're brand new to it, and there's JIRA there alone, it can be intimidating to talk to people that are there who look like super sacred or whatever. And, you know, you see a monk out there and you're like, Hey, what do you do here, and it can, some of it can be intimidating, and you hold yourself back a little bit on those conversations. And Sam and I have created, what I like to believe is a very open space and welcoming space for you to come in, explore these topics, we share out the link. And you can come there with any questions that you might have, as it might relate, like I said, we shot the link. This one was the foremost noble truths of Buddhism, and I'll share that on the page as well. And I'm gonna go over it with you quickly today, quicker than it took us are like, I think 45 minutes or so, on the foreigner will choose. So, the Four Noble Truths are perhaps the most basic formulation of the Buddhist teachings and they are expressed as follows. All existence is Duka, right? And the word Duka means suffering or anguish, pain, or unsatisfactoriness. The idea is that our lives are a struggle, and that you do not find ultimate happiness or satisfaction in anything that you experience. And this is the site this is the problem of existence. And we went back and forth quite a bit on this, Sam and I know that what he's saying here is that there's no there's no way around it. You might think that you have different ways around it. You may think that you don't suffer or have any suffering for yourself or any anguish, pain or sadness, but everybody does. All of us I have it, you have it. And so how do we how do we work through it? Once we know that this is going to show up? How do we work through it and that's part of what we what what this is about. So, the second part of it is that the cause of Duka is craving says here that the natural human tendency is to blame our difficulties on things outside of ourselves. But the Buddha says that their actual root is to be found in the mind itself. In particular, our tendency to grasp things or alternatively, push them away. Places is fundamentally at odds with the way life really is.

Brandon Handley 4:59
And again, this was inside of you, right? How do you think about something that is that is happening? And and I don't know exactly where we landed on how to grasp it them or, you know, we pull it them, you know, we leap to conclusions versus just kind of experiencing what's really in front of us without giving it some how to, it's challenging. How do you do anything? Without giving it a label, the cause of Duka is craving, right? So, things on the outside of you, right? You couldn't get this job. So you got pissed at the world, right? The world's against you. Or, you know, maybe somebody ran into your, your car and popped your tire and you get pissed and the world's against you. And that's a you wish things were better. You wish you were somewhere else and you wish things weren't the way they were? And you feel like they could do better. And the thing is, you can feel a different way or have a different life experience if you if you wanted it or interpret it differently. So yeah, that's kind of like the high level idea of it, right? We I think we spent quite a bit of time on that one. The idea again, is that there, the actual root of craving can be found in the mind itself, which kind of leads into the next next piece here, the cessation of Duka. Now this is the third of four noble truths comes with a cessation, cessation of Duka, cause with the cessation of cravings, as we are the ultimate causes of our difficulties, we are also the solution. I like to say, you know, as you are the ultimate cause of your difficulty, you are also the solution. You cannot change the things that happen to you. But you can change your response. I don't know how many means I've seen with this one, how many and you know, set in, you know, different ways. But if you change the way you look at things that have changed how you look at things, they change differently, right? They, they change just by just by your your thought process and how you decide to see them. And then you can change your response to what you interpret is happening around you. So, you know, if you're seeing a craving, and you want something for some reason, you have to understand where that where that craving is coming from what is causing that craving, and address it, right. I like to use the example of how when we want to move to a different place. We don't like where we live anymore, we want to go move or live somewhere else. And then the idea is, you know, why? what's, what does that please have that we want to move to have? That's not already available here. And when you approach it that way, you know what's over there that you don't have where you are right now is the ultimate question. And what's causing you and prompting you to move. And then when you take a look at it, you realize, well, maybe nothing, maybe there's no reason. And then when you kind of when you take a look at it in that way, you you eliminate some of the pressure to make the move right to force yourself into any certain direction. So you can change your response, right. So the thing that's happening is that I am where I am. And instead of saying I wish I wasn't here, let's say I've got everything that I need. Got everything that I really want. If I take a really good hard look at it so I can change my response. Right, so I got to get out of here can't be here. Whoa. So now I got everything I need. And finally, so there's a path that leads from Duka. Although the Buddha throws responsibility back on the individual, he also taught methods to which we can change ourselves. For example, it's a Noble Eightfold Path. And I honestly don't know what that is. But I do know this I do know that next week on October 3, on Facebook, Sam and I'll be getting together to discuss the Noble Eightfold Path can also leave a link for that in on the site. But look, there are ways around it right. Just like we said here, although the Buddha throws

Brandon Handley 9:55
responsibility back on the edge visual, he also taught methods which we can And yourself, the one that I just use right back on number three is, you know, reframing it, taking stock, separating yourself from the situation. That's a really interesting exercise you can do in NLP. Where you close your eyes, there's a cognitive behavior therapy, it's one of the two, you kind of close your eyes. And you picture yourself in your mind. And then you picture yourself doing whatever it is that you're doing, whatever the situation is, feeling, whatever it is that you're feeling, and then imagining that you are watching yourself, right? And what is the experience of watching yourself, like, you know, so when you watch yourself with all those emotions, feelings, and situations, and thoughts and ways of being? What is it that you see as the watcher, right? And then take it one more step beyond here. So now you're watching yourself, watch yourself. Right? So there's watching 1123 of us in this scenario, and, yeah, how much more objective Can you kind of become in this scenario when, in the end, right, the first person, you know, if you're sitting with yourself, and you're deep inside, you're feeling the things, you're feeling the emotions and you're experiencing everything. When you are one step removed, you for some reason, you still feel some type of sensation, you still feel some type of way about all the things that are going on, because you're just one step removed, but there's less, it's a little bit more objective. Now you're watching the watcher, who's watching you. Because one objective, there's less sensation, there's less things happening. And when you kind of watch the whole thing play out. And if you put one more in there, you put a fourth image of yourself being three times removed. It really just becomes you see somebody sitting there thinking, you're watching somebody, watch somebody else, watch somebody else who just looks like all those people are looking at somebody just thinking, you're so far removed, but you can separate yourself from yourself in that scenario. And when you do that, when you're able to do that you for just that time you eliminate the suffering, the anguish, and you're just an observer, and things just are what they are. So, I hope that was helpful for you to go through these four noble truths. All existence is Duka. The cause of Duka is craving, cessation of Duka comes with the cessation of craving. And then finally, there is a path that leads from there, the one tool that is shared with you there is helpful. And then on October 3, we are 2020 on Facebook 7pm Eastern Standard Time, Sam and I are going to cover the Noble Eightfold Path. I'd love for you to join us. It's open to everybody just kind of come check it out if you've got some questions, and just feel like you know, this is this is all part of part of it. Right? The beauty is a lot of what we do here in personal development and personal growth space, is accessible with other tools has been around for a long time. And we can apply it in different ways. And they come from different sources. And one of those sources that we have available to us at all times is this ability to access Buddhism. All right, take it easy.

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Arizona Bell | CEO Spirit Guides Media | Afterlife Expert

Published: Sept. 27, 2020, 2:06 p.m.
Duration: 51 minutes 48 seconds

Be sure to catch the Conscious Spirit Fest October 18 2020

Arizona Bell is the co-founder and CEO of Spirit Guides Media—a growing media network that's dedicated to truth and driven by Spirit—and the host of the podcast A Matter of Life and Death with Arizona Bell. A grief coach and afterlife expert, Arizona is an inspirational speaker with the message that examining death and what happens to us after death is the absolute best way to live our richest, most meaningful lives here on Earth. A rising voice in the spiritual community, she appeared as a panelist on George Noory’s afterlife expert panel at the Afterlife Research and Education Institute Symposium in 2018 and speaks regularly at various conferences and events. Arizona’s book “Soul Magic: Ancient Wisdom for Modern Mystics” is available now.

Arizona stopped by on Spiritual Dope as we covered all types of things:

What exactly is it about examing death that can inspire you to live your best life?

How do you transition from writing for medical journals to spirituality?

Different ways to pray & what exactly is OG meditation?

Make sure you check out everything Arizona has going on!

Catch up with Arizona on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/p/CDblWL1H2IZ/

https://www.instagram.com/p/B-rjRW5oCOi/

  • user avatarbrandon handley00:014321 Hey there, Spiritual Dope. This is Brandon Handley on with another outstanding guest Arizona bell, and she is the co founder and CEO of Spirit Guides Media
  • 00:15A growing media network that's dedicated to truth and driven by spirit and the host of the podcast, a matter of life and death with Arizona bell
  • 00:23A grief coach and afterlife expert Arizona is an inspirational speaker with the message that examine that. And what happened was, after death is the absolute best way to live our richest, most meaningful lives here on her.
  • 00:35Arising voice in a spiritual community, she appeared as a panelist on great George Norris afterlife expert panel at the afterlife. Research Institute education Institute's symposium in 2018
  • 00:47And speaks regularly at various conferences and events Arizona's book sold magic ancient wisdom from the modern mystics is available now or is. Oh, thank you so much for popping out today, how are you
  • user avatarSpirit Guides00:59Hey, thanks for having me. Brandon, I'm doing really well, actually, uh, you know, you never know in 2020 with ups and downs of of everything. But today I'm doing great. I'm feeling good. How about you.
  • user avatarbrandon handley01:09I love it. Right, like 2020 if ever there was a a year where you seize the day right you take it for all that you can get out of it because you don't know what's around the corner right
  • user avatarSpirit Guides01:20And absolutely, if you're not. If not now, when right
  • user avatarbrandon handley01:26I love 2024 for what is actually kind of brought brought to us right arm. I think there's opportunity to
  • 01:32Do what you and I are doing on really kind of dig deep and live our authentic lives because you don't know what's around the corner. Really presented itself in 2020 that's my honest opinion.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides01:43Absolutely. And just, I'll just riff here for a minute, in my personal life. That's how it worked out.
  • 01:48You know i i hit rock bottom and hit a period of grief in my life. And next thing you know, I'm like, Okay. Life's too short. And it really put the fire under my butt. And I got to step in and live in my purpose. And I think on a collective level that's what's happening with 2020
  • user avatarbrandon handley02:03Is what it looks like right a lot. There's a lot of raw files on
  • 02:06A lot bombs and and not to laugh, but it's again just giving us the opportunity to bounce back. And so our spiritual resilience and what that but that kind of shine.
  • 02:15But they kind of shy so I like to start these off with, like, you know, the idea is that the creator speaks through us right and
  • 02:25Universe energies, energy, whatever speaking through us today and it's delivering a message to one of our listeners that can only come through this instance right so what is that message that you would deliver to that person today.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides02:40This is man, this is interesting because right before this, I got on. And I do this typically
  • 02:45Every once in a while. I forget, but it's kind of my routine to get to
  • 02:48Get into meditated mode. Before I go on, either my podcast or somebody else's and say,
  • 02:54Let's let the message come through that needs to be heard the most that helps the most amount of people
  • 02:59You know, it's interesting. I've never been asked to to pick what that message is. So you put me on the spot, but um you know i i think that maybe the messages. What you kind of
  • 03:12You said spiritual resilience. I think that that's the message of this year. And that's the message, maybe of this podcast, because that's where we started going right away. And I think just
  • 03:24The fact of the idea that human hearts are so resilient were built in Phoenix's were born to burn and we're born to rise. And I think that it's really
  • 03:33Really important to remember that right now, when everything is burning down metaphorically or literally, you know. So I think it's really important that we remember how resilient. We actually are.
  • user avatarbrandon handley03:46Built in Phoenix is built on Phoenix's and
  • user avatarSpirit Guides03:49I don't know where that came from. That was
  • 03:52That was like our archangel
  • user avatarbrandon handley03:54Was it right that's it 100% you open yourself up to it and just allowed to kind of kind of come through.
  • 04:02And that's exactly what it is. So, whoever's out there. Just know that you have this built in Phoenix, whatever is kind of sparking you right now. You can kind of fan that and rise up out of the ashes into something more boys than you ever were before. Right.
  • 04:18Totally. Um, so let's let them give some background, right, who is Arizona bell
  • 04:26Yeah, are you
  • 04:27Doing here. Um, you know, give us the lowdown
  • user avatarSpirit Guides04:30That's literally what I've been asking myself all year. Who am I, why am I here. No, you know, I
  • 04:37I would have said, you know, for most of my life. Arizona bell is a writer, like, that was my identity that's that's who I showed up as and then a little, little bit over five years ago, about five and a half years ago.
  • 04:50My mother passed away. She was my best friend.
  • 04:53She was 59 when she passed away. I was 30 so that's pretty young, relatively speaking for both of us. And we were very, very close in it. It ripped my world apart. And that was my burned down moment and
  • 05:05And eventually became my Phoenix moment, and it gave me, like I said, the fire under my butt to really step into my full
  • 05:14Purpose and alignment, whereas before I was just sort of dabbling, you know, I was like dabbling one foot into my spiritual purpose and the other into really messing around, and not really committing to anything and
  • 05:27You know, just that kind of stuff. And so, you know, after my mom passed. I did the grieving thing for her, you know, I'm still doing the grieving thing, but I did that pretty hardcore. And then I woke up one day and I said okay like
  • 05:39I'm going to do this, I'm going to do what Spirit wants me to do. So I basically surrendered to that to spirit to source to God to divine energy, whatever you want to call it. I said, All right, listen.
  • 05:52I get that I'm here for a reason. Show me what that reason is. Bring it to me every day and I'll do it. So you know I stepped into service mode. Basically, which I wasn't able to do before I hit rock bottom. And with that.
  • 06:05Came the starting of my company, which originally. Like I said, my background.
  • 06:09Background was in writing. So I started a little digital magazine called spirit guides magazine, because I
  • 06:15I was young, relatively young in the spiritual world and I saw that there was a huge void of spirituality being targeted to younger generations and therefore there's a huge disconnect because
  • 06:26People my age millennials and younger weren't really connecting with
  • 06:31The kinds of websites and graphics and conferences and kind of that that were sort of felt a little bit outdated, but we were hungering for spiritual knowledge so that was kind of the reason I started it.
  • 06:42And that little Instagram magazine has now evolved to a media company we're called spirit guides media and within it. We have podcasts. We're starting a radio station books.
  • 06:54Everything courses and thrown a festival with my good friend from conscious living PR Mona. So we just got everything going on. So that's kind of a hope I answered the question. I don't, I don't know how to fully say who I am or why I'm here. But that's a star, I guess.
  • user avatarbrandon handley07:09Sure how that that it's a lot for us to work with. Right. So, that is how you and I connected we connected through Mona, Lauren, who was one of the first guest on this podcast.
  • 07:20And you know so super glad that we were able to get connected through her
  • 07:25Checked out spirit. Guys, you've got a lot going on there. Looks like it's kind of a community right of built up around spirituality and. Is that what the intention is just kind of a community for, like, you know, will say for a younger generation. Is that what you're saying.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides07:43You know, absolutely. The intention was to build a spiritual community. And even though we are gearing towards gearing it more towards
  • 07:52Visually towards younger people. I mean, spirituality is for everybody. So I have people across the board, you know, but we did. We did kind of dominate that you know
  • 08:0318 to 34 demographic. I mean, that's, that is what our demographic is. And of course there's outliers and the young at heart, and all that. But we did want to make it fresh and hip, you know, and that that was an intention and definitely
  • 08:17The spiritual community aspect of because for me. My personal story is, I was the lone wolf on the spiritual path. I didn't have, you know, I wasn't raised religious I didn't have a spiritual community, as in the spiritual closet, to be frank, so
  • 08:30I did this year I did the spirituality thing by myself. And so I really did want to create a community.
  • 08:37For those that might be feeling the same way. And luckily, with the world that we're living in with technology. It's easier to do that, you know, like we're doing this on zoom right now and and so I'm able to hold courses and
  • 08:49workshops and the festival, even now online and as membership community, so it's it's all able to be done online and it's it's absolutely to have a spiritual community in such a weird time
  • user avatarbrandon handley09:03And there's no no better time for us so funny you mentioned your demographics, because you're pulling off is right where I started on my demographics. Right.
  • 09:12Right on. And that's and that's simply because I speak to my generation, right. So you're speaking to your generation, you know the language you know on the spiritual connection.
  • 09:21From that perspective. Right. And that's not to say, like you said, there's gonna be there's gonna be people. There's going to be the outliers that you attract but like you're able really well able to speak to that specific group.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides09:33Right but but it ends there because I don't do Tick tock. So I don't know.
  • 09:37I don't know how much younger. I can get that
  • user avatarbrandon handley09:40Tick tock. Tick tock. Some is
  • user avatarSpirit Guides09:43For sure.
  • user avatarbrandon handley09:44Somebody platforms right I'm and I'm doing I'm doing what I do.
  • 09:49Exactly.
  • 09:50So, so I get it, I get it.
  • 09:53When you know I want to give also this kind of premise of what you were into before you got into the spiritual realm, who and what type of content. Were you writing before you got in the conscious
  • 10:08Conscious right
  • user avatarSpirit Guides10:09Sure. You know, I think, well, I was doing a couple things. There was what I was doing for work. I was very fortunate to get paid to be a writer. I know a lot of people in the writing world.
  • 10:21seek that out. And what that I was writing for what pays. I was writing for medical journals and medical magazines and medical medical medical I was writing for universities, things like that.
  • 10:34But the big bucks were in the medical field. I was the editorial director at a magazine for physicians and an assistant assistant editor at a magazine an international magazine for doctors and dentists so
  • 10:49And, you know, with my mom passing away, she had cancer. So I was all up in the medical industry going through it with her and I just found myself writing things that I didn't agree with. And so, it hit me.
  • 11:01For a while, I mean, I don't want to get to the specifics, but
  • 11:06Yeah, just
  • 11:09Just the sick, I would call the sickness industry of the of the medical industry and just a lot of things that there were ignoring about actually keeping people healthy and I had to start to believe that maybe there was a an ulterior motive to keep people sick.
  • 11:26So I and I was publishing stuff like that, you know, and that's all up for a matter of opinion, but from what I saw firsthand.
  • 11:35In the medical world with my mom and the unfairness. I will call it of that world I it wasn't jiving for me on a soul level to be writing those things anymore. So there was a there was a pick on my soul that was like, ding, ding, ding, like, hey, you can't
  • 11:49This doesn't feel right and you care about integrity. Don't forget that you care about integrity. Now, on, on the flip side, in my own personal selves. I was always drawn towards I guess soul centered content.
  • 12:03I called it love I called it like I was thinking more romantic love than spiritual, but I, I was always wanting to write about love and like
  • 12:11That kind of stuff. And like relationships and things like that, but um I so I was doing that on the side as well. I was writing for literary magazines and things like that.
  • user avatarbrandon handley12:21That's fun. That's fun. But I'll tell you what I can. I know what you're talking about with that little prick in the soul resonates with me real hard. I was in the insurance industry.
  • 12:32For a little bit. Right. And I was like, well, you know, you would you do demographics and you would do.
  • 12:40Do a risk assessment on the group as a whole. Right. And there's a sick person or two in there.
  • 12:45You're rich got jacked up with this doesn't make much sense you know these people need the insurance. We're going to raise the rates on them because they need it because they are sick because they are going to use it.
  • 12:53Or industry codes right same thing happens with industry codes. If they're in of, you know, riskier business type
  • 13:00Their insurance rates are going to go up because they've got the they're going to get the most well this person's gone in here. So we're gonna have to race, the race to cover that. So, um, I left, I left.
  • 13:10For very same thing. I was like, for a couple reasons. Actually, one was because of that soul prick right to was because and nothing wrong with people getting off on work every day you know into an office, but I couldn't stand it. I was in my 20s and watching people that were zombies.
  • 13:27Right. What are these these these a tweet covered offices, you know, walk right. I was like, I was like, if this is gonna be my toys.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides13:35Yep. Oh, I completely relate to that. Yeah. I mean, look at me, I'm like,
  • 13:40There's no way I can sit in an office. I mean,
  • 13:42I gave it my go you know I gave it my best go but somehow every job i got i ended up
  • 13:48And again, I told you this before. My mom was German. So I was raised with good work ethic. I know how to work hard and so I'd like work hard, prove myself, and then I'd be like, Listen, I gotta start working from home like this isn't working for me.
  • 13:59You know, and somehow I always talk them into it. I guess that's a skill I have but
  • 14:04But yeah, I wasn't meant for that either. I totally hear what you're saying and you know that that unfairness. As I said in that you as you just so eloquently described in the insurance industry. It goes, it goes in every, you know, it's like in the banking industry like
  • user avatarbrandon handley14:17Somebody who
  • user avatarSpirit Guides14:17More like living paycheck to paycheck has to pay the fee to like have a bank account and then you know somebody who has loads of money doesn't have to pay a fee doesn't make sense that
  • user avatarbrandon handley14:28You know, you know it does. In the end, right, like, but you know we're not going to get into it. Right.
  • 14:34But it's like, Come on, man. Um, so, so you're writing for like medical journals and all this other stuff. You have this kind of bent
  • 14:45You go through this and they jump into the spirituality, his face. I want to want to share with kind of
  • 14:51Peoples. And what was it like for you to begin to lead with spirituality. After what you've been doing your entire life and the Jeff overcoming fears deal with anybody was like, What are you thinking that type of thing.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides15:05Oh, big time. Yeah. As far as overcoming fears. So I'll just say a couple things I had the idea for spirit guides
  • 15:14In my head tagline AND EVERYTHING FOR YEARS. YEARS. YEARS. YEARS BEFORE. My mom passed away years I knew I wanted to do it and not even that I wanted to. It was like it was just implanted in my mind my spirits like you're gonna you're going to need to do this.
  • 15:28And I started to get worried when the because i'm a i'm an idea person. So I get lots of ideas. I was starting to get worried when the idea didn't go away because
  • 15:35It doesn't go away. Dang, it's meant for you, you know,
  • user avatarbrandon handley15:38So,
  • user avatarSpirit Guides15:39But I was too scared I was making pretty good money to be creative, you know, who am I to do this. And also, like I mentioned, I'm in the spiritual closet. Okay, I'm a party girl.
  • 15:50On one on one hand, and then I'm a spiritual girl when I go home like it. I did not have spiritual friends. You know what I'm saying.
  • 15:58So there's a lot of fears to overcome. But again, when I got that asked my ass kicked by grief and loss and seeing death firsthand. It was like, all right, you got to live your life and you got to do this. So I basically like
  • 16:13I just kind of like came out of the closet and like didn't like I didn't even make a thing of it like I just was like one day I owned a spiritual media company.
  • 16:22And, you know, some people were like, what are you getting up to these days, you know, but it was it was a leap that I took private privately and probably shocked. Some people when I did it, but I didn't want to go around having to explain myself to a bunch of people so
  • user avatarbrandon handley16:37That makes a lot of sense. Um, and you're a lot of different types of coaching business Christians question spiritual around to like you know don't have to go share your ideas with others. I'm just go do it right again. Good.
  • 16:51And that was
  • user avatarSpirit Guides16:51That was what I chose to do in that moment, because it honestly it made the most sense.
  • user avatarbrandon handley16:56Of it and then so
  • 16:59You start, you know, I don't know how somebody just goes to earning a
  • 17:04media company, right. So what was that process like did you have to get investors or she is fired off like
  • 17:10On to the Instagram bit or did you find some people to back you, that type of thing.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides17:15Now it was completely driven by spirit. And again, I was in surrender mode by that point. So I was like,
  • 17:22I had an arrangement with spirit is like if you want me to do it. You got to bring it to me because I'm not going to go around.
  • 17:28Chasing after all this stuff. So I'm very fortunate that my brother and business partner is a tech developer. So I had that
  • 17:37And I basically called up one of my friends who was a another co founder who became another co founder with us, who I knew was into spirituality and could handle you know some of the things like social media all this stuff. And we just got together as a trio and and literally it was
  • 17:54You know, like guerrilla style startup and
  • 17:58And now the third party left, and it's just me and my brother and we're still we're still running it in that way. And I like that way. I mean, I wish I could sit here and tell you that I had some
  • 18:08Big plan, you know, I, my German mom would have wanted me to have a better laid out plan. But I went with it. You know, I just, we just started on Instagram and started hyping it up because that's where all the kids were and we were trying to, you know,
  • 18:24That's where the kids Billy says where they used to hang out with. So that's where we were talking to, at that time, and
  • 18:30We started to get a following. And then we just launched and and honestly all all I had in mind was to launch a digital magazine.
  • 18:39And because I was a writer. That's all I wanted. You know, and I eventually wanted to write books and stuff. But from that is like all this stuff because I made that arrangement with spirit.
  • 18:48Now I'm like podcast Aston radio station and festival. All these things were like, not my ideas are now they've overrun the thing. So now it's like it's got a mind of its own.
  • user avatarbrandon handley19:00Reminds me of the Michael singer. Yeah, sort of experiment right um
  • 19:07So talk about what is surrender.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides19:11What is surrender mode. Well, I think there's two kinds of surrender mode. There's a surrender mode where we think we're surrendering
  • 19:19Where we say we're surrendering which was me a lot. I mean, I was
  • 19:23I've always been drawn towards spiritual and esoteric stuff so I knew I was writing before my mom that I was writing you know happiness is surrender. That's where you find happiness, but I wasn't doing it.
  • 19:34I wasn't doing it fully. And I only realized that when I did it fully in that was when I had to when I had to fall to my knees.
  • 19:43Because there was nothing else there and, you know, Marianne Williamson, I'm probably going to butcher the, quote, but she says something along the lines of
  • 19:51There's a certain desperation that's required before you're ready to face God and something like that. And that's how I felt. And so to me, that is surrender mode where it's
  • 20:02I am here to serve.
  • 20:05Your like basically I'm using my free will to serve your will spirit.
  • 20:12So it's
  • 20:13To me, that's true. Surrender mode, not just like, Oh, it's okay. Let it go. That bad thing, you know, but actually surrendering to a will, that's greater than your own that's greater than your own ego as well and showing up for it every day reliably
  • user avatarbrandon handley20:29How do you show up for every day, right, like so. I get it. I love this. I love that. I love the idea of
  • 20:36You know surrender. And it's really kind of how we started the podcast right now less fear talk through you to the listener. Right. And then that Phoenix between now and then there's a. It's kind of like the let go and let God right
  • 20:50Right.
  • user avatarbrandon handley20:51But to actually, you know, to say it's one thing
  • user avatarSpirit Guides20:54How to do it.
  • user avatarbrandon handley20:55How to do it without freaking out, man. Right, without freaking out because
  • user avatarSpirit Guides21:00I never said I didn't freak out.
  • user avatarbrandon handley21:03I love it. So, um,
  • user avatarSpirit Guides21:04But I will say this, I will say this. I mean I I wake up every morning and I meditate and I pray, basically I do that combo and and part of my prayer in my meditation is to say
  • 21:19You know, use me how you want to use me today.
  • 21:22And so that's a way for me that's like a action point for me every morning to state my intention which matters a lot that I'm here to be used for spirits will basically. And so whatever shows up for me that day.
  • 21:38I'm going to do it.
  • user avatarbrandon handley21:40Yeah assessments. Nice. Right. Um, and then the other part two is
  • 21:50Just the idea that these things keep opening up for you. And I mentioned kind of the surrender experiment from
  • 21:56Michael singer. And the reason I mention it because once you kind of open yourself up to it to be used to be used in service through this universal power.
  • 22:05And I love how you said you know I'm not going for it. It's going to have to come to me right
  • 22:11You said you know what you want. This is what I want. But you know what, I surrender for you to show me the way type of thing, you know, talk a little bit about that because I think that that's
  • 22:21That's very important. Right. I'm a big fan of the idea is like its first of all, most people won't like you said, you know what you want it right you know what you want to do you want to be a writer.
  • 22:31You wanted to start this media company and dig into it, but you didn't know how, but now you got it. Is it fair to say
  • user avatarSpirit Guides22:39Yeah, definitely.
  • user avatarbrandon handley22:40And so this is the point that I'm trying to drive home is that you don't have to know how, but you do have to make the decision that that's what you want a life and that's what I feel like you've done
  • user avatarSpirit Guides22:51Right. But I agree with you. You don't have to know how I am living proof of that. You do have to know what what I will say is that asked
  • 23:00For what, when I sit in prayer and meditation every day. I mean, I feel like that's a crucial point
  • 23:07Because we're
  • 23:09I had to. I had to. I didn't know that I always wanted to be a writer because I have that God given skill.
  • 23:16You know, so that's a, that's a natural way for me to go but
  • 23:22I didn't know. I didn't even know what necessarily either. I had to listen in meditation, like I didn't know that I was going to start a media company.
  • 23:30Or a you know that I was gonna, I didn't even know was going to do a podcast. I didn't know the podcast was going to turn into a an internet radio station. I've got those downloads and meditation and prayer. You know what I'm saying.
  • 23:42So, but, and I will, I will circle back to the one thing that I did know is I knew I wanted to be a writer, and I knew that starting this digital magazine basically
  • 23:53would grant, grant me a following. And I knew that in the publishing world today because I had been told this by writers by published writers that you have to have a following to even get looked at basically
  • 24:04Well, and the magic numbers like 10,000, you know. So what we hit 10,000 and then it just kept expanding and expanding and expanding and I was so damn busy. Next thing you know, we're at 50,000 followers and I'm saying to spirit, listen.
  • 24:20I still haven't written the book actually haven't even written
  • 24:23So I'm not going to go around chasing a book deal if you want me to write a book you bring it to me. Now that sounds absurd.
  • 24:29But three months later I had an email in my inbox, saying, hey, we have this book. It's already sold to this major publisher and we think you're great to write it, do you, what do you think
  • user avatarbrandon handley24:40So they have the concept of the book.
  • 24:42Yeah works on a writer and they needed a writer.
  • 24:45And you read it. Yeah.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides24:47And that's the thing these days, they already sell the concept of books, but you know now that sets me up to write the book that I want to write to write the books that I really want to write, you know what I'm saying. So
  • 24:56It's a pause for a second, though, because you know
  • user avatarbrandon handley25:00There's also the again.
  • 25:04There's, there's the idea of, you know, feeling a little bit of a law of attraction space, making the demand was fear, right, or like the idea of you asking it is given and just let it come to you.
  • 25:17Right right hand to me right if I'm coming from a law of attraction space. I'm like, Hey, I'm here, how to end up here. You're living example of this right and or of
  • 25:28Trusting the universe is another right as like your benefactor, you're like hey universe. This is what I like. You can just go ahead and have that show up. I'm not going to go chasing it
  • 25:40But then it shows up, and you're like, Well, what's next.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides25:43Right. And that, that means that means it's for you because you you can go out there and say hey universe. This is what I want.
  • 25:52I'm not going to chase it bring it to me and you're not, you might not get it.
  • 25:57Because it's not meant for you.
  • user avatarbrandon handley25:58And that's great too. Right. Like I make the lines of, you know, if I would have had a lot of money. When I was younger, or like an open like have liked it. Like, I felt like I wanted, I probably would have died.
  • 26:11Like, I mean, right, it would have been a bad. So the universe is like no
  • 26:16No, no bad idea, right, you're not ready for that. Sorry.
  • 26:20Yeah, and or we don't want you right now, right, you've got more things to do. And that's, that's another thing that I kind of look at this as like if you made it this far in your life and like you're
  • 26:28Still kind of wandering around. I like you know for the for the person that is
  • 26:33So meaningful life, you know, perhaps there is and you know you guys start figuring that out because there's no reason for you still be here.
  • 26:40One 400 what a trillion to be born and make it through like not get hit by a car or a bus eaten all that crazy crappy thing that G and just in some of whatever we know what you're doing out there. Right. But you've lived
  • 26:52And and and and so you've got a purpose and to live it. So one of the purposes that you found is by going through, you know, kind of hitting this rock bottom right, I want to just
  • 27:03dive off dependency the grief coach and afterlife expert aspect of it because we haven't yet. Um, let's talk about how you ends up even there.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides27:12Sure. I mean, it's kind of a wild story, um,
  • 27:17Because I, I didn't want to end up there that wasn't I joke. I never thought in my life. I want to be a grief and afterlife expert.
  • 27:26Can can promise you that. But, you know, after my mom passed away. And after I did the really hardcore grieving for for a while.
  • 27:36I just, I think, you know, I had already started spirit guides and I was like, you know,
  • 27:41Like, I want to go train to be a grief coach and it just kind of came to me and I was like, all right, I'll start looking into programs and I did and I found one. And I went and I liked it and i and i just got trained. You know, I just did it, but
  • 27:55But, and I wasn't even
  • 27:57I didn't even know what I was going to do with it. I just felt intuitively intuitively nudge there. So I did it. And then shortly very shortly after I had a medium ship reading
  • 28:09And the medium. Then in the middle, in the middle of it. She's like, and she's a very, very, I had to wait a year to get a meeting with her. She's a very, very popular medium and
  • 28:23In the middle of that she's like, What are you doing, I need to
  • 28:27And she's like, I'm so I'm not gonna take up your time of your reading. But after this. I need to talk to you what you're doing. Like my spirit guides are telling me I need to talk to you.
  • 28:34So we end up having a chat and she's like, Oh, I told her about spirit guides, like I've been trying to reach younger people, and she's like you and then a week later I got an email from her. And she said, I want to invite you to be to speak at this afterlife conference.
  • 28:49And I was like,
  • 28:51I'm not
  • 28:54Know that, like, I'm not qualified to be here and she wrote back, I'll never forget it. And she's like, Arizona, my dear, I have been told that you are going to be a very profound afterlife researcher and you need to be at this event. And I was like, what
  • 29:07So I went to this event to and I sat on a panel talking about spirituality, like in younger generations and my mind blew way open because I didn't know much about the afterlife, other than
  • 29:21My mom had died. I hope she was still alive and I went to a medium to find out, you know,
  • 29:26So I guess the, the, that's the long answer. The short answer is, like, Spirit just drove me there and And ever since that first conference, it was just so obvious that that's what I was going to be doing that I had a place in that world for whatever reason.
  • user avatarbrandon handley29:43So along with being a CEO media company you're also doing like this grief coach. Is that right,
  • user avatarSpirit Guides29:51Yeah, you know, and you know, I hadn't dove into the coaching part as much as I wanted to. Originally, just because I have been so busy now with
  • 30:03And and people grieving everything because grief, you know, grief, there's a misconception. That's grief, just for
  • 30:11a loved one who's passed away grief is for any change dramatic change in your world, which we are collectively experiencing like all of the changes right now, so I am
  • 30:24Drawing more back into that coaching aspect and I'm starting to get some things lined up in that way because I think it's so important and and I've been basically advised by all of my spiritual advisors that that's something that I need to get going on right now too, so
  • user avatarbrandon handley30:40I love it. Right. So just a little bit about what it means right to
  • 30:45Examine death and use this kind of as a catalyst to live our riches, the most meaningful lives.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides30:53Sure. So what people don't know is that there's so much afterlife research out there.
  • 30:59It's not mainstream so we don't hear about it or you know it's not it's doesn't get MAJOR FUNDING so we don't hear about it, but there's so much independent afterlife research outfit out there and there's so much documentation that to me proves that consciousness exists beyond
  • 31:18beyond physical death right i totally spaced out your question, though. I'm gonna go go off on a tangent
  • 31:24Oh,
  • user avatarSpirit Guides31:27I get into my afterlife brain. And I'm like, Okay.
  • user avatarbrandon handley31:30So before I let you go into the next piece of what would it so somebody wants to go buy some information for themselves in the afterlife research. Where's the first place that you would direct them.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides31:43So there's an. There's an organization called the afterlife. Research and Education Institute AR e AI and they are great starting off point.
  • 31:53I feel bad because I didn't fully answer your last question, but my mind.
  • user avatarbrandon handley31:56Told me
  • user avatarSpirit Guides31:58But, uh, anyway. So that's a great place to start off at
  • 32:02And they, you know, they are doing research, their funding researchers, all kinds of stuff and and they're just signing up on their newsletter. There's also
  • 32:11There's a newsletter that is run by a couple in Australia. That's really famous. It's called the Friday afterlife report and every Friday, they send out a newsletter of all this afterlife research that's either
  • 32:23From the past or that's come up in the past week there's tons of it out there. So those are the two places I would start the afterlife report. It's with Victor and Wendy's dammit, and then AR e AI afterlife. Research and Education Institute or
  • user avatarbrandon handley32:38So the question we had was, um, how's examining death. And what happened was the absolute best way to move on.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides32:48So, yes, yes, yes, yes. See, now that's a very important question. That's why I was having a hard time letting it go. Um, it's so important because of all the research that's out there, which is what I was getting into.
  • 33:02It proves beyond a shadow of a doubt in my mind, from what I've seen. And what I've learned and what I've experienced and what I've researched that
  • 33:10our physical bodies dies die, but our souls. Do not that we continue to live in the afterlife. Okay, so with that being said, the information that our loved ones that spirit guides
  • 33:23That
  • user avatarSpirit Guides33:25That arc angels, all of these beings and entities that are in on the other side, the information that can be channeled through them is so vital.
  • 33:37To how we live our best lives. So it's, it's an interesting paradox because we don't tend to think about death or the afterlife until we're faced with it because we're so busy thinking about life and
  • 33:47How we can live our best lives, but from what I've learned is that we can learn a lot about living our best lives from that wisdom that comes through the other side.
  • 34:00And it's a shame that people I feel it's a shame that people my age don't get to do that very often because I'm the youngest one at these events. Okay, like
  • 34:09I still don't know many people that have lost their primary you know parent or something like that, that in my age group, and my peer group so they feel like they are
  • 34:19getting robbed of that wisdom because they're not going to go looking into the death or the afterlife. So I do kind of feel like
  • 34:26It's my job to sort of bridge that gap because there's so much knowledge about how we can best live our lives that comes from looking at those more taboo topics.
  • user avatarbrandon handley34:37You know what's funny to me is just this morning I was listening to a song, ya know which one I listened to so many um I got a Swami the chain. I'm the
  • 34:49But the idea is that, like, there's one in 1000 that's capable of kind of taking this information right that the what you got. Right, so
  • 35:00You're kind of the light is lighting all those around you, as it were, with what you do. So I think that that's kind of the challenge, no matter what age group is
  • 35:09Right when you when you kind of stumble across this you know it's like you're saying you're like everybody needs to know that you can live this magnificent way. Let's follow me. We're gonna sneak in and and
  • 35:20Rightfully nobody's like I was like, no.
  • 35:23Um, but what I want to hit on though is that, you know, when you experienced this grief when you experienced though your mother's passing
  • 35:36I guess like ripping the veil right between you and the spirit world and
  • 35:42Would you, would you explain it like that. Would you describe it like that. And would you
  • 35:47Would you describe your experience with trying to share this information with other people is being challenging and not being able to accept it.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides35:56Um,
  • 35:59Yeah there it was totally an unveiling will say brought me so much closer. I mean, it was even the night, my mom passed away I her apparition came to me and I was awake, like, and she came and hugged me so the veil yeah it thinned an immensely immediately.
  • 36:20Has the information been hard for me to get out and for people to accept.
  • 36:27I want the answer to be that it's been really difficult. Like for dramatic effect, but it hasn't it hasn't. And I think that's because
  • 36:37I'm attracting the people that want it. I'm not, I'm not trying to go out there and be a missionary or
  • 36:44Or an evangelical about anything, you know, and I have zero religious ties or affiliation, which is interesting with afterlife. I mean, every, every
  • 36:53Every serious spiritual or I'm sorry, every spirit serious religion has believed in the afterlife and has after life.
  • 37:01Philosophy and I think that, you know, obviously, a lot of people thrown out religion in their lives. And I think that was kind of like we threw the baby out with the bathwater, kind of thing.
  • 37:10So I'm not, I'm not attached to any religion or anything like that. So I don't think that I come off as missionary. I just think I, I tried to share my authentic experience and people who are looking for.
  • 37:23Some answers to their own grief. They find me and it's so far the. The result has been one of comforting for them, rather than
  • 37:34You know, combative or I don't believe what you're saying. So I maybe I'm fortunate in that but you know it hasn't it hasn't been too difficult. It's actually been very rewarding. I think
  • user avatarbrandon handley37:44I can see that, especially online. What about a person
  • user avatarSpirit Guides37:48Well in person. It's like I'm
  • 37:49Preaching the choir, you know, I'm going to
  • 37:52But I will say this, I will say, even in my because I told you about my history as a, you know, being in the spiritual closet and everything, even the people in my life who like my family who's known me forever and
  • 38:02You know weren't into these things at all. They just by osmosis have
  • 38:07By coming to my events by hearing my podcast, things like that. And now they're there, you know, exploring their own stuff and their own afterlife. And now they've
  • 38:16Had certain people passed away and they're reaching out to mediums and investigating like oh yeah I remember Arizona said this, so let me invest it on my own. So it's kind of like planting the seeds, you know,
  • user avatarbrandon handley38:27Not 100% i think that what you've done is, is by your by leading by example you've given them permission. Right.
  • 38:33Yeah, showing them that you can step into the space without going on claims.
  • 38:39Right, right. That is a good that it can be a good thing. Um, I like that you kind of touched on, you know, kind of these religions and throwing the baby out with the bathwater, and
  • 38:51As far as I can tell right religions are kind of like this.
  • 38:56Again, just like one of the thousands going to kind of understand this information right and then my kind of wants to do this just the whole
  • 39:03You know, when the student is ready, the teacher will appear right and then does you like Panda hated that lines real
  • 39:11Quick. Um, but the thing. And I think that's the attraction of some of the Eastern philosophies right because they've been so the console like
  • 39:19Christianity bad, you know, the pope did this and you know those priests did that and all these things so that like they just won't accept it, even though, like the exact same thing as being in 99% of the same
  • 39:30thing over here and like these Eastern religions and they're all if you got a contract is out, man. Look what I found, like
  • 39:36You know, so I think that it really gives us people the opportunity to framework right for for their space.
  • 39:43And for everybody else is kind of rejected if there's people like yourself, and I don't like, well, there's this other space. We can hang out into what's been said and all these other places, but you just want to have this different same conversation. Let's do it.
  • 39:54Right, right, right. Um,
  • 39:56Let's talk about
  • 39:57The fest coming up. So this is podcast, I'm probably you know this weekend, which will I know the dates are like 928 or something like that.
  • 40:09But you know what's the festival. Let's talk about what you got a
  • user avatarSpirit Guides40:12Spiritual
  • user avatarbrandon handley40:13On 2020
  • user avatarSpirit Guides40:14Cool. Yeah. So it's the conscious spirit fest. It's a collaboration between myself.
  • 40:20And my company spirit guides media and Mona Loring and her company conscious living PR and so it's conscious spirit fest. It's on October 10 or no, it's not. It's on October 18 I was thinking 10 for October is on October 18 2020
  • 40:36It's a Sunday, and it's basically it's an all day online virtual festival, because that's what we're doing now virtual all day long and
  • 40:45We're so excited about it. We basically curated the event that we wanted to have right now.
  • 40:51You know we are lonely and isolated and we do need spiritual community, one way or another right now. And so we wanted to build something for people to
  • 41:02Unite and people who who are want to focus on Unity right now in this crazy polarized role. And so we've. We have everything from yoga in the morning to guided meditations to sound healing to breath work. And then we have amazing speakers that are talking about everything from
  • 41:21How to deal with this pandemic burnout to energy protection for light workers, we're going to have a medium come and do live medium ship readings and we our keynote speaker is column Adele, who's an astrologer, and he's going to be talking about
  • 41:38You know the astrology coming up, you know, for 20 2021 and all that. And in astrology in these uncertain times and what what what we might have to look forward to, you know, the good, the bad, and the ugly or whatever.
  • 41:51So, so, yeah. It's basically a day for everybody to come together and do all things mystical and create a spiritual community and
  • 41:58And hang out together. So we're really, really excited about it.
  • user avatarbrandon handley42:02Now this sounds exciting. Like I said, you know, I think I saw Mona's paying off on Instagram. I saw start following it, and it seems like you know
  • 42:10I love what you guys are putting together their talk to me a little bit about the astrologer, I think he's got like a little bit of a baton. What's his What's his
  • user avatarSpirit Guides42:17So called Collins handle on Instagram is queer cosmos. And so he has he's he's and he is
  • 42:24He's an amazing gay man and he started doing astrology for the queer community and which is was novel at the time, you know, and but more than that. I mean, he is
  • 42:35He's one of my favorite guests have on my podcast. I'll say that right now. He's so enjoyable. He's brilliant. I mean IQ off the charts and he's he's so fun. So anytime that he's around. It's a good time. And I definitely recommend following him on Instagram at clear cosmos. He's great.
  • user avatarbrandon handley42:55So yeah, I remember that you're seeing them and chocolate.
  • 42:59Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley43:00Funny Guy when I grew up. I grew up, like in the gay community, you know, was out in San Francisco, San Francisco in the 80s right and and the one thing that happened out there was like my mom was an altercation with
  • 43:16Her significant other, at the time, and he ended up by children and stuff. And so I ran across it, you know, the neighborhood and got these guys on the bed and they came. I can't rescue my mom so
  • 43:28Oh wow, for the rest of my life, you know, gay guys have a
  • 43:30Have a soft spot in my heart. Right. And it's just been in that community. It's, it's fun, right. Like, I mean,
  • user avatarSpirit Guides43:36Oh, there's no doubt about that.
  • user avatarbrandon handley43:37So it's always a good time.
  • 43:39See on
  • 43:40Where, you know, should I send people to come check out more actually know what before I do that,
  • 43:45I've done this for a minute, just because you know so the idea to have spiritual though.
  • 43:48Is that you get this kind of you for high thru spirituality. Right. And that's like on the on the take us a spiritual dope is about that and then like
  • 43:58You know, what's your spiritual hit right like and it talks about meditation, but when you when you're connected to source where, what does that look like
  • user avatarSpirit Guides44:08Whoo. Yeah, there's, there's two for me. So definitely meditation. I'm a avid meditation or
  • 44:15But their original Oh gee, writing, man. That's my space. That's my timelessness, that's the
  • 44:20One place where I don't care if I haven't eaten and that's saying a lot. I love to eat. You know what I'm saying. Like that's that's the time where time flies and I just
  • 44:30I'm in so much joy and I'm so inspired. I'm in spirit. You know that's that's where it is for me is when I'm writing. And so this man I'm preaching to myself right now. I got to clear it more time in my schedule to do it.
  • 44:43But yeah, that's my spiritual dope for sure is is being in that creative zone.
  • 44:50I love that question.
  • user avatarbrandon handley44:52Thank you. So the idea that too is like i mean i would i would i would say that
  • 45:00You know, create you are creators right
  • 45:03Yeah. And then when you surrender to that creativity. That's
  • 45:08within you, right, that is source flowing through you. Is that fair to say
  • user avatarSpirit Guides45:13Oh yeah 100%. I mean, we would we call God the Creator. And if you look at metaphysical principles as above, so below. We are here to create
  • 45:26You know, and that's why that nine to five working somebody else's dream and fluorescent lit room didn't work for me because I felt that called to be creative. I felt, what am I doing here, if I'm not creating
  • user avatarbrandon handley45:37Something
  • user avatarSpirit Guides45:38And now you can be creative, creative doesn't mean writing or painting all the time, creative can mean coming up with a scientific cure for cancer or whatever, you know, using your creative brain. You're in passionate about it. And so I absolutely agree with you.
  • user avatarbrandon handley45:52I love that you hit on life because
  • 45:55People don't always recognize that they feel like creativity has to be writing painting singing, dancing.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides46:02Brain, the arts.
  • user avatarbrandon handley46:03The classical arts
  • 46:05Yeah, right. But
  • 46:08And I know as somebody one day.
  • 46:11You just got it. What is it that you'd like to create and I'm like, Well, I'm not very creative like
  • 46:14You know you're raising kids are doing this that the other than your training things right, you're making moments, you're creating moments I mean creativity is more than, you know, put a pretty picture right so I love that you hit on that. Thanks for hanging on that.
  • 46:29Yeah, what type of meditation do you do it, you
  • user avatarSpirit Guides46:34Got just you didn't do not asked me that question.
  • 46:37I am I am not.
  • 46:39Trained in meditation at all. I'm self taught and
  • 46:44For whatever reason, I'm pretty good at it. I just I lay down you can see my bed back there. I lay down horizontally. I don't sit in lotus position or anything I lay down on my bed.
  • 46:54I play some Native American flute music and I go in
  • 46:57Los
  • user avatarbrandon handley46:59That's great to write in terms of meditation or a feeling it's got to be done a certain way or like, yeah, I did a really shitty meditation this morning.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides47:09I i think
  • 47:11I think I you know it's the keep it simple, stupid like that's that's been my philosophy for
  • 47:17My spiritual path and it's what's worked out for me. Like I and I you know in my company I've seen it all. I promote people that do it all. I'm talking like all the all the modalities and the
  • 47:29Divination tactics and all this stuff and I'm Oh gee prayer and meditation and you know we all just got to do what works for us.
  • user avatarbrandon handley47:38To so they
  • 47:40Just show us what your prayer. Looks like I always say this because I think of this Norman Vincent feel kind of skip
  • 47:49It's not as good. It's like when he's doing his own in power positive thinking thing.
  • 47:53And talks about this lady testing because you when you pray you don't like out there like a beggar.
  • 47:59You know, you're like oh please give me all these things would you like you demand you know much very somewhere, come what you're talking about, like,
  • 48:07I'm not going after it. It's got to come to me like these are things I want you know. So what's your, what's your prayer look like. Just out of curiosity,
  • user avatarSpirit Guides48:13Yeah, I mean it's it. That is a good point it start, the only it starts always with gratitude.
  • 48:20Always with gratitude and and then I do go into my demands. I do feeling that I've, I've had the shift from beggar to
  • 48:30You know, this is, this is what I this is what is going to be brought to me and I, and I've learned that over time through spiritual mentors, saying, you know, you
  • 48:38This is yours for the taking. You can you demand that so I start with gratitude and and I pray for you know what I need. In most of the time that's to take away my
  • 48:50Worries and stresses and concerns because that's the only thing in my way. So I do pray for that to be taken and I pray for the people that I love and I pray that
  • 49:02You know that love walks before me wherever I go. And then I pray to be used, how spirit needs me. And then I say, thank you.
  • 49:11Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley49:12Um, this will be like my last question.
  • 49:17So when you. I like the idea of writing when you write
  • 49:24With a pen in hand right or doesn't have to be. But I feel like that's what I'm most connected. I like to call it cosmic record player. This is my cosmic needle right
  • 49:36You know, do you have a preference of writing by hand or typing.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides49:41I'm
  • 49:43I'm right differently. I write, I write both ways. And I write for different reasons I I write. I typically write
  • 49:52Pen in Hand in my journal when I'm writing for myself and nobody else if that makes sense. And for my own clarity and my own as you say connection.
  • 50:03But it's all about the computer for everything else.
  • 50:07My hand hurts too much.
  • user avatarbrandon handley50:10Out of out of curiosity, right, like yourself. Once
  • user avatarSpirit Guides50:13I do agree with you though there's there's different
  • 50:16A whole different vibe. When you got the pen in your hand. Right, right.
  • user avatarbrandon handley50:20Now, and look, I mean, it takes a lot to to write Tom by paper.
  • 50:27Pretty fast, man.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides50:28Yeah, exactly.
  • user avatarbrandon handley50:31Okay, so where we're gonna need to go a couple places or warm place. So we're gonna go to find you and the spirit fast.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides50:39Sure, I'm okay. Ultimately, you can go to spirit guides media.com for everything that I do. And on top of the navigation.
  • 50:48At spirit guides media com you will see a link that says festival and that is where you can learn more about it. You can see the lineup. The full lineup. I didn't touch on everything.
  • 50:58And also purchase tickets and we are offering a sliding scale pay what you can because times are tough and that is
  • 51:05I feel the responsible thing to do. So we have that offered and other than that, you can find me on instagram at spirit guides media or my personal one is at underscore Arizona bell. I think that covers everything
  • user avatarbrandon handley51:20No.
  • 51:22Um, well, this event view digitally after the past
  • user avatarSpirit Guides51:28Great question. Can't believe I forgot to say that. Absolutely. So if you are able to catch none of it live or half of it live or all of it live and want to watch it again. We will send out a replay of the entire day video. So you'll get to see it all.
  • user avatarbrandon handley51:43Awesome, Arizona. Thank you so much for stopping by.
  • user avatarSpirit Guides51:45Thanks, Brandon. It's been a joy and a pleasure.

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The Five Mindfulness Trainings

Published: Sept. 19, 2020, 10:08 p.m.
Duration: 22 minutes 12 seconds

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The FB live on the trainings:

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on spiritual dope Brandon Handley here and today, we're going to cover a couple things that we actually just did introductory into Buddhism series on that we're doing over on Facebook, that we're streaming from spiritual dope page for the next month or so, where we're covering introductory Buddhism pieces. I mean, I really don't even know what stuff is. I've got a buddy of mine. Sam Sam Aussie Ivana. His name's Rodin's Paul. I don't know why he chooses all these different names. Great guy, who is a Buddhist Reverend has been practicing for about 16 years now. And one of the things that we just covered this past week was the five mindfulness trainings and the five mindfulness trainings that represents a Buddhist vision for a global spirituality and ethic. There are concrete expression of the Buddhist teachings on the Four Noble Truths and the Noble Eightfold Path, the path of right understanding and true love, leading to healing, transformation and happiness for ourselves and for the world. You know, you know, essentially two practices is to cultivate the insight of inner being or right view, a lot of these things, a lot of these terms that I'm kind of tossed out there right now they're capitalized. You know, though the word right view is, you know, what is the what is the the right view, right? is kind of one of the things they talk about Buddhism the middle way, you know, along the path. But what what we're working to do is to remove all discrimination and tolerance, anger, fear and despair. And what we're trying to do is live according to these five mindfulness trainings, and, you know, essentially, if we're living in that way, we are On the path of the Bodhisattva. And if you're not familiar with what the Bodhisattva is, it's someone who's on their way towards enlightenment, and is willing to reach out and work with others and to help others. And so when you know that you are on that path, you know that you are not lost in confusion about your life, and that you're able to be in the present. And that's that, that I think, is pretty cool. So what I was gonna do, since you, you know, may not have the hour and a half that we spent going through the five mindfulness trainings, I figured I'd give you, you know, 1015 minute rundown of what they are, and maybe talk a little bit about what these were and the five mindfulness trainings. So we're going to go through reverence for life. true happiness, true love, loving speech and deep listening, nourishment and healing and you know who you Think about the posts that you see on Facebook, sometimes the TLDR too long, didn't read. Essentially, this is just something that kind of, again cultivates that path and for you, and that when you're living in this way, again, you are on your way towards enlightenment. So let's just we'll just hit it off. Real quick here. We'll go with reverence for life for 1000. Alex, aware of the suffering caused by destruction of life, I'm committed to cultivating the insight of interbeing and compassion, and learning ways to protect and learning ways to protect the lives of people, animals, plants, and minerals. I am determined not to kill, not to let others kill, and not to support any act of killing in the world in my way, in my thinking, or my way of life. Seeing the harm actions arise from anger, seeing that harm harmful actions arise from anger, fear Read and intolerance, which in turn comes from a dualistic and discriminative thinking,

Unknown Speaker 4:04
I will cultivate openness

Brandon Handley 4:06
non discrimination and non attachment to views in order to transform violence, fanaticism, and dogmatism in myself and in the world. You know, look, this is a, we were talking on the show last week, and this is really, you know, you see these, this this, like the 10 commandments, right? Or even, you know, even more modern times, it's really long lines of the Four Agreements. Obviously, nobody you know, shouldn't run out there and kill or support killing in any way shape or form. The other part is cultivate openness, non discrimination, you know, be open to others, and what they bring to to you in the world. And the other part in here was dogmatism right. Openness towards that so you know, be open to systems and ways of change, so that we went much, much deeper into it. But I'm going to make this to the quick hit point today. true happiness, aware of the suffering caused by exploitation, social injustice, stealing and oppression. I'm committed to practicing generosity and my thinking, speaking and acting. I'm determined not to steal, and not to possess anything that should belong to others. And I will share my time, energy and material resources with those who are in need. I will practice looking deeply and see that happiness and suffering of others are not separate from my own happiness and suffering. The true happiness is not possible without understanding and compassion. And that running after wealth, fame, power and sensual pleasures can bring much suffering and despair. I am aware that happiness depends on my mental attitude and not my external conditions. I'm gonna read that line again. I'm aware that how happiness depends on my mental attitude, and not on external conditions. And that I can live happily in the present moment, simply by remembering that I already have more than enough conditions to be happy. I've committed to practicing right livelihood so that I can reduce the suffering of living beings on earth and stop contributing to climate change. When we read through this last week, we we hit on we tore this one apart, right? We just went through all of it. Obviously, I think it's timely that we're reading this and going through it as you know, social justice and oppression are kind of rampant out there. In one way shape or another and you know, true happiness is a you know, something that we want to practice the idea of generosity and thinking, speaking and acting. And that we are going to give our time and energy to those who are in need and We dug deep into, you know, who How do we determine exactly who was in need? Right? And we also discussed the idea of wisdom in generosity, right? Not just simply giving to the for the sake of giving, but, you know, where are your resources, your time and energy best spent who's going to receive you, who's gonna truly receive that benefit from you? and use it right. And, and so, that was something that we talk deeply about. And then the obviously the the piece that I read twice in here is that you know, aware that happiness depends on your mental attitude and not external conditions. Right. And then, obviously, in there too, aware that running after wealth, fame, power and sensual pleasures can bring much suffering and despair can not will or do, but they can And then that census, we talked about attachment to desires, and things not turning out the way that we want to and investing so much energy in those types of things and how that can really bring about suffering and despair. And finally, we when we ended this item about true happiness we talked about stop contributing to climate change. And by that it's not simply global warming, but the climate and environment in all situations. When you come in to a room you are impacting the climate of a room as an example. Moving on, so true love aware that suffering caused by sexual misconduct aware of the suffering caused by sexual misconduct. I'm committed to cultivating responsibility and learning the ways to protect the safety and integrity. of individuals, couples, families and society, knowing that sexual desires not love

Brandon Handley 9:05
and that sexual activity motivated by craving always harms myself, as well as others. I'm determined not to engage in sexual relations without true love and a deep, long term commitment made none of my friends and family. I will do everything in my power to protect children from sexual abuse and prevent couples and families from being broken by sexual misconduct. Seeing that body and mind are one I committed to learning appropriate way that takes care of my sexual energy and cultivating loving kindness, compassion, joy and inclusiveness, which are the four basic elements of true love. For my greater happiness and the greater happiness of others. Practicing true love we know that we can continue beautifully into the future. I think a lot of this is obvious but you one of the things that you know, obviously when you're younger, you got like this. Just sexual desire, right? And and knowing that that's driven by I would dare say your animalistic nature, right? And how do you, you know, how do you try to rein that in and that's, that can be a challenge and, you know, that's where we also see the, you know, engaging in sexual relations without true love and then the commitments as that can lead to, you know, just again, dissatisfaction right, not necessarily dissatisfaction, but it can lead to pain and suffering through that, right. And amongst many, many other things, obviously, you're going to take care of our children and families as best as we can. And all of this, you know, can be impacted as it relates to, you know, sexual misconduct and not and just pure sexual desire. That's motivated by cravings versus, you know, a tender loving a engagement, right or at least, you know, being being with someone that you truly love and that you love how it's a long term commitment may known to my friends and family. So, whatever that looks like for you, that's what true love is, according to the five mindfulness trainings, we've also got love, loving speech and deep listening, aware of the deep of the suffering caused by unmindful speech and inability to listen to others, and committed to cultivating loving speech and compassionate listening in order to relieve sufferings and to promote reconciliation and peace in myself, and among other people, ethnic and religious groups and nations, knowing that words, create happiness or suffering. I'm committed to speaking truthfully using words and inspire confidence, joy and hope. When anger is manifesting me I'm determined not to speak. I will practice mindful breathing and Walking in order to recognize and look deeply into my

Unknown Speaker 12:02
anger,

Brandon Handley 12:04
I know that the roots of anger can be found in my wrong perceptions and lack of understanding of the suffering of myself and then the other person. I will speak and listen in ways that can help myself and the other person to transform suffering and see the way out of difficult situations. I've determined not spread news that I do not know to be certain and not to utter words that can cause division or Discord. And I will practice right diligence to nourish my capacity for understanding, love, joy, and inclusiveness and gradually transform anger, violence and fear that lie deep in my consciousness. This is a lot like the sexual you know, being driven by sexual desire, right? Obviously, it's something that's within us that is propelling us forward. And then If we don't pay attention to

Unknown Speaker 13:01
it,

Brandon Handley 13:02
again can cause suffering. And this is the unmindful speech, right? We say what's on our mind and sometimes we say it in a way. That is not my fault. It just comes out. And we do it with disregard to how the other person is going to receive it. And sometimes we simply don't listen to other people. We don't feel the room. So in this we are cultivating loving speech, and compassionate listening, so that we can avoid creating the those those painful moments and suffering. And I love I love the part where it talks about I'm committed to speaking truthfully, using words that inspire confidence, joy and hope. Who doesn't like to to be inspired? Right, who doesn't win, just imagine yourself When somebody comes up to you and and they give you a compliment, and it is sincere, and it is specific and that inspires confidence, he brings you a little bit of joy. And it helps you with your hope. It's just it's just such a magnificent feeling when somebody does that for you, so if you can learn to do that yourself for others, just imagine what you're doing for those people. This other part here is it's just Paramount and

Unknown Speaker 14:31
a long term

Brandon Handley 14:32
loving relationship. If you're not familiar with me, man, my wife and I have been together off and on for you know, coming up on 20 years now. Oh, maybe it's 21 you haven't been coming along now. And throughout all the all that time most definitely spoken anger and and I you know, out of place then on mindful but as we as we've grown to to find to find that you're beginning to feel angry. And it's like it says here when anger is manifesting in me, I'm determined to look deeply into my anger. Look at that bubbling up and to capture that before it gets converted into words, to capture that before it can do any damage. That's the area where you're going to practice mindful breathing. And walking, redirect that energy. And take a look in into yourself and just kind of see where that's coming from. Because oftentimes, it could just be a, you know, a perspective. Right, and maybe that's not the intention, whatever is causing great anger and, and being able to transform that anger, or that violence and fear into understanding love and joy. That's it. It's all you know, energy Being able to up think of alchemy right transmute that almost immediately or as quickly as you can into into something else that's within your power. And that's, that to me, that's what they're talking about this and when, when it comes to your five mindfulness trainings and finally, we'll go on nourishment and healing. So where are the suffering caused by on mindful consumption I'm committed to cultivating good health, both physical and mental for myself, my family and my society by practicing mindful eating, drinking and consuming. I will practice looking deeply into how I consume the four kinds of nutrients, namely, edible foods, sense impressions, volition, and consciousness. I am determined not to gamble or to use alcohol, drugs or any other products which contain toxins such as certain websites, electronic games, TV programs, films, magazines, books and conversations. I would practice coming back to the present moment to be in touch with the refreshing healing and nourishment elements in me and around me. Not letting regrets and sorrow drive me back into the past to cover up loneliness, anxiety or other sufferings by losing myself and consumption. JACK that up. Not letting regrets and sorrow drive me back into the past nor letting anxieties fear craving pull me out of the present moment. I'm determined not to try to cover up loneliness, anxiety or other sufferings by losing myself and consumption. I will contemplate inner being and consume in a way that preserves peace, joy, and well being in my body and consciousness and then the collective body and consciousness of my family, my society and the earth Look, this is a super simple one, right? On mindful consumption, right what is overeating? Eating just to eat? Jared you're feeling you're having a shitty day and it's a tub of ice cream, having a shitty day, it's full, full pizza. Right? You're having a shitty week. It's it's a six pack or more every evening, you have a lifestyle that converts into that. Just a you know, a string of a string of, of shitty days turns into, you know, months and weeks of it. And it's just this unmindful consumption, where this is coming from. This is coming from me, I in my own past experiences where it was completely on mindful, drank. And sometimes it was sometimes it was just a habit, but it was it wasn't mindful consumption. And then I would drink to you Cover up loneliness, anxiety or other sufferings right? In those consumptions. same can be said for video gaming, alcohol, or drugs, you know, all of those things that have been something that I've been through and have come out of. And now I'm very mindful about my absolute consumption. And I just feel better for it. I mean, it's super simple. I'm very mindful of, you know, what goes into my mind that we, for the most part, stop watching most of the news. It's it's fear mongering.

Brandon Handley 19:37
And notice it tries to set a scarcity and this is my perception. My opinion is it tries to set like a scarcity. mindset is a fear mindset. And when you have a fearful mindset because of the things that you are letting into your mind through mindless consumption, you're the prey, you're the victims in that and it hate to see you know, I'd hate to see that gone through for you and your life forever. And I believe that's the intent of the five Mindfulness Trainings is for you as well. So again, that was the the reverence for life, true happiness, true love, loving speech and deep listening, then finally nourishment and healing. You can find this, I'll put a link on the site for it today, you can find the a PDF, you can download, you can print it out. Sure. If you'd like. You could also go to the Facebook Live, I'll put a link to that as well. And on the website, you can go check that out beyond the podcast as well. If you're interested, and then, you know on what's the, you know, September September 19 2020. On Facebook, we'll be doing the we'll be doing the Three Jewels Rules of Buddhism. And I'm gonna pop up my Facebook here right now I'm gonna look at the other three that are coming up here we've got introduction on the 26th, as well to Buddhism with Sam as we go over the Four Noble Truths. And then on the October 3, we're going to be going over, drumroll please. What is this one the Eightfold Path. So if you have interest in Buddhism, and you'd like to have the opportunity to speak with somebody in an environment where you know, you're safe, where it's an open and welcoming, then Come join me as I as host Sam. And like I said, Paul, as he walks us through some of these introductory pieces, and we can get an understanding of what what Buddhism holds for you. And then you also have the great opportunity to have your questions answered live. All right, so take these guests

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Donnalynn Riley | Clicks and Mortar Queen

Published: Sept. 13, 2020, 6:41 a.m.
Duration: 54 minutes 5 seconds

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  • user avatarbrandon handley00:02All right, 54321 Hey there, spiritual dope. I'm on today with Donna Lynn Riley, who is a licensed spiritual health coach who helps people develop evolve and grow.
  • 00:17The answers they find that their journey, bring them to a new level clarity and emotional adjustment to help them develop their expertise in business systems management and marketing.
  • 00:25And addition to her 12 years as a licensed coach her background is the CEO of a multimillion dollar corporation.
  • 00:31informs her ability to help her clients navigate the inner workings of business systems Operations Management and Marketing so they can successfully put it all together themselves.
  • 00:42I'm going to cut it down because that, that's great. And I'm so excited because, as we're going back and forth a little bit here earlier. This is exactly what this podcast is about. So thank you for joining me today.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley00:53Oh, it's my pleasure. It's great what you're doing. It's great that you're talking about this. It's really good.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:58Thank you. Thank you. So you mentioned that you'd call it a couple of podcasts. So what I always like to say is you know you're here today. We're using this podcast as a vehicle to send somebody out there a message, what is it that they need to hear this coming through you today.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley01:17Well, I always think people need to know that life can be a lot easier than we're making it. I think that that's a place where
  • 01:29Almost invariably people don't believe that. Right. They just go like, nah, couldn't be that I got to work harder. I gotta do more. I gotta you know think more
  • 01:43I have to put out more effort. It's got a cost more. There's got to be a big, you know, emotional or financial cost to the things that I want in life and really
  • 01:54Life can be so much easier than we make it. And I think that that's the benefit of of this approach of a spiritual practice that supports.
  • 02:06Business life and certainly family life, when I know lots of coaches who do that as well. And, you know, really kind of make it better, just make your life better.
  • user avatarbrandon handley02:16Yeah, no, absolutely. So the idea is that life doesn't have to be so hard.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley02:21Really doesn't
  • user avatarbrandon handley02:23And and also throw out there. I think in the first person that I know that's worked on Broadway. Right. And this is this is a story that you tell
  • 02:30In one of your one of your videos right and helping once you tell people use that story real quick here right now. I love that story about just what you said there.
  • 02:41Do you remember so so I'll take it away. So you were around 19 your brothers like 10 years old or new
  • 02:47Yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah
  • 02:50Yeah yeah
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley02:50Okay, okay. I gotcha. Sorry about that.
  • 02:54I was like I was there a long time. I don't know.
  • user avatarbrandon handley02:58Just getting into it right and
  • 02:59How easy how easy sometimes
  • 03:01For you.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley03:01Yeah. So what I love about that is that, um, so. Okay, so let me let me kind of lay it out here so I'm like 19 years old I
  • 03:11You know, I'm just out the gate. Right. But I'm 10 foot tall and bulletproof because so was everybody when you're 19
  • user avatarbrandon handley03:18Right. Yeah, absolutely.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley03:19And so when you're not very dinged up
  • 03:22You know, you just think like everything's okay and it's going to work out for me and I kind of lived my life like that really clearly I wanted, and I got things I wanted them and they lined up.
  • 03:35So, um, I found myself on on Broadway, which I totally expected right because I wanted it. So, and I didn't know any better, and
  • 03:46And my brother who's 10 years older than I am. He, he knew better. And he is a he is still actually a scenic artist. And so I was a sound designer. He was a scenic artist and
  • 04:01He was working down the block. So I was working on Angels in America, and he was working on City of Angels, which I love that. But there were all these angel references. That's kind of
  • user avatarbrandon handley04:14Sure, yeah.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley04:15And. And he said, Oh, let's, um, he was like down the block. And I hadn't seen him in months. It wasn't like, you know, we were spending Sunday night dinners together or something.
  • 04:24And he said, Let's go for lunch. And I was like, yeah, this is great. Yeah, owning the town, you know, in my, in my own head, right.
  • 04:32Sure. And he said, you, you. He's walking me to the to the place to get something to eat and
  • 04:40He said, You just don't have any idea what it costs to get here. You don't have any idea what these people around you have had to do to get where they want to go and in typical sort of 19 year old fashion. I thought, nope.
  • user avatarbrandon handley04:59Right.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley04:59I don't care.
  • 05:00Sure, you know, really, for me, I realized that it is a story that's centered around entitlement. Right, so it's not very popular this moment, but
  • 05:10Being able to see yourself.
  • 05:13In the position that you want to be to be able to know that these are things that can happen for you as well as somebody else because
  • 05:24You put the work in and you are talented and you did you know you met the right people and you were in the right place and you took the all the steps to get there.
  • user avatarbrandon handley05:32Right.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley05:33There by choice. You don't get to be on Broadway. If you suck.
  • 05:37You do not need. All right.
  • 05:39All right, but they send you home.
  • user avatarbrandon handley05:42Well, you know, I think.
  • 05:43I think that um I love how you're hitting on entitlement in this insane and in this way because why should it not
  • 05:53Backup people like people bash millennials for kind of having like that kind of entitlement thing. Right. Well, what I admire about that, you know, I think that they would say you got Moxie kid right like kinda back in, but
  • 06:07You know what you want and you're not settling for something that you don't. So is that entitlement, or is that knowing your worth.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley06:17Right. It's really tricky. It's really tricky and it is a lot about alignment and I've been fortunate to hear you talk about alignment on the podcast previously and
  • 06:28It's a really crucial step in that process. So,
  • 06:34Of course, if we want to get kind of
  • 06:37Cultural about it, then we can we can sort of back it up a little and say, Well, some people have a lot of things that support the belief already in their lives when they're born, and when they're, you know, one and two and three and so it, it becomes
  • 06:55There becomes a divide, but it's a divide in belief.
  • user avatarbrandon handley07:00100%
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley07:00You know, so it's a it is a really tricky thing. And the important thing for me in the work that I do with people.
  • 07:09Is to whether you've ever experienced that belief or not before is to help you to find that belief because without it is very, very, very difficult to get where you want to go. I, I know people who have done it. It's like they kind of stumbled into their success and that's okay.
  • user avatarbrandon handley07:25That's true, but it's not very reliable.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley07:29And so, you know, doing the inner work to create a system of belief for yourself so that
  • 07:36It doesn't sound crazy that you're going to have a successful business or that you're going to get a client that you want to or that you're going to get employees that work out well for you and things like that. I'm doing that inner work makes
  • 07:51All the outer stuff kind of
  • 07:52Line up real quick, like the story I just told where I went from two years or three years I spent in sound design, we're learning from the best in the business. I was already learning from the people who were there, right.
  • 08:06And and and and so I was able to do that very quickly, where a lot of my classmates in college got there 1015 years later, and they worked a lot harder for something because they didn't believe
  • 08:23They didn't know
  • 08:23They thought, oh, I have to go out and do something else first
  • user avatarbrandon handley08:27Right. We listen, even me today, right now with this podcast. I love it so much. I want to put this, I want to put this
  • 08:36Nice polish on, I want to make it feel so good. I want it to be inviting you know
  • 08:40That, you know, and this isn't wrong to hire somebody in marketing, but I like I really want these pieces I wanted to look so I want it to be so accepted because it's so
  • 08:48meaningful to me right so I'm putting these blocks in
  • 08:53For myself, right. I'm just putting these. Oh, I gotta do this like nothing can happen until this happens and all these other things and and literally that is in my own mind, nobody else's. I mean, nobody nobody else cares. That's just me. Right.
  • 09:07Right. So when you're out there.
  • 09:11And your clientele and and you're working I do they seek you out for one or the other, do you introduce like you know
  • 09:20To the business pressure, like, well, if you just loop in some spirituality, then this might be better for you, like, tell me a little bit how this process of working with you, looks
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley09:30Yeah, so I kind of stand between that space right I stand between entrepreneurs and small business people who are
  • 09:40That's what they do. That's what they've learned. They have a strong background or they have a strong desire but they don't necessarily have any spiritual practice at all.
  • 09:49And I sort of stand between that and the people who are very spiritually open but can't figure out how to turn the computer on right
  • 09:59And rent like can't figure out the details of, like, how do I charge people. And why would they pay me and
  • 10:06These kinds of like nuanced things that, of course, they have a lot of talent and they have a lot of
  • 10:13Value in the world, but so I do kind of stand in between those two spaces, I would say that for the most part, most of the people that I work with are
  • 10:26Are on the business side but are open.
  • user avatarbrandon handley10:30Okay.
  • 10:31Because okay you can
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley10:32Sort of insert and this is not you know there are a lot of really involved spiritual practices.
  • 10:39And they have value that is beyond what I'm about to express right so this is not to disparage any spiritual practices. I think they all have a lot of value and
  • 10:51But you can in a very short period of time with with not a ton of work right. You don't have to go and study with the monks for 18 years right with with putting a practice into your life. You can attain a lot of result and a lot of ease in your life.
  • 11:12A lot less frustration, a lot of movement forward right so you can start to assess your situation better and access yourself in moments that are stressful better and all of these things lead to better businesses.
  • 11:30But aren't always they're not really taught too often.
  • user avatarbrandon handley11:35I mean, if you have the capability to kind of calm yourself down in the moment, or just realize what you're about to say or
  • 11:43If you're feeling tense right so what I'm hearing you say is like you're giving them some of these tools to to really kind of ease into themselves and what they're about.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley11:51Yeah, there's bigger work that we do in order to make lasting change. And that really happens inside one on one trainings that I do or or inside group work that I do with people, but
  • 12:08There are so many little what we would call hacks right there, little, like, oh, if I do this, I feel a little better.
  • 12:16Right. And those are emergency hacks, you know, and they're really useful. They're a great way to get started. I think because
  • 12:26Getting a little relief reminds you that you're probably going to get more relief. If you keep going in that direction. And I think that's a great place to start, particularly for people who are
  • 12:41Who don't have a strong spiritual background but know that like there's something going on in my mind set or those kinds of words are being used a lot recently. Right.
  • user avatarbrandon handley12:51Right I yeah for sure. For sure. Right. Well, I mean, it's funny because, you know, I think I started off in the mindset space right but now in this
  • 13:01Next level space right where you do this practice, like you said, For doesn't have to be 18 years but you do it repeatedly and you start with like the mindset. You start with the small pieces and
  • 13:13You keep just kind of growing into these other spaces and these other practices that are available to and sooner or later you like I guess they were all right.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley13:26I love that. Right.
  • user avatarbrandon handley13:30Right.
  • 13:31Right. So, I mean, I guess you know there's something in those things and what they're saying and what they're doing.
  • 13:37But, you know, so what what led you into this pace yourself.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley13:43Well,
  • 13:45You know, that's a good question. I, when I look back at my life. I see all these moments like the one that I just described when I'm like very young.
  • 13:54That fit into this kind of way of thinking and this way of being. But I was really pretty unaware of myself and my spirituality until actually my husband got a life threatening disease.
  • 14:15And or problem he got a tumor in his brain cavity.
  • 14:20And he when he was very young. He spent a lot of time in hospitals. And so we went to the first doctor and it was a big emergency and he said, I'm getting a second opinion. And then we went to the next doctor who you know we we finagle their way into the good doctors and all of that and
  • 14:43We went and he described it. And he said, Oh yeah, you have a little time because I'm very good at this. But, you know, you got to get in here in the next month or something. So it was no longer like a huge emergency we have little time.
  • 14:56Sure, and
  • 14:59We were driving home. It was in New York City. We live in Massachusetts. It was a long drive home. We were driving home and my husband said to me.
  • 15:06Yeah, no, I'm not. I'm not doing that I'm not doing that. I don't know what we're going to do, but I think you should find me another solution because I don't, I'm not going to do that.
  • 15:17And that being that you just that just have him for you have been for me. I was like, oh,
  • 15:23Wow, okay. That should be my job.
  • 15:25Okay.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley15:29No question.
  • 15:31In fairness, I'm sure he was very overwhelmed in that moment.
  • user avatarbrandon handley15:35Right out
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley15:36Here and and so that was the beginning. That was the kickoff for me to really
  • 15:45Take a look at what is possible. So, and be completely outside the box. Yeah. So once I sort of had to be completely outside the box. Then the possibilities became very, very different.
  • 16:00So it kicked off a series of involvements with people who could help his health and who could do it in very untraditional ways
  • 16:11And also, who required of both of us that we change drastically that we, the concept that we had gotten ourselves into this mess, and that we were going to get ourselves out of this mess was not one that I heard in the doctor's office.
  • 16:31Was and it was really clear and so
  • 16:34And within
  • 16:37A few months, we were both licensed spiritual health coaches, we probably took, I don't know, six months, nine months, something like that for that process and we said, Okay, this is this, we're leaning in because we are not going where that other train was going
  • 16:59Okay, so. So that's really the beginning of when I became a much, much more aware of myself of my thoughts of my
  • 17:09Relationship to the world of my discomfort that I had become just completely accepting of right I had just said, Oh, well that's the way life is, you know and and really be in that awareness, I found new answers.
  • user avatarbrandon handley17:28So, um, you know what, I guess the one thing is right when you're we're 19 and your earlier years before you
  • 17:37had developed an awareness, you would be, what would we call you know
  • 17:43Was it
  • 17:45Unconscious competence, right, like you and I were you, you were already aligning yourself and you weren't aware that you were doing it. And then once you kind of develop this newfound awareness.
  • 17:56You were able to do this with intention and purpose.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley18:00That's exactly right.
  • user avatarbrandon handley18:02Now, so, and also throw out like when you know so I was raised by a hippie mom grew up you know out San Francisco and she was always kicking the word awareness around right when I was growing up, I was like, I'm aware. You see me run into
  • 18:15I've ever run into a thing.
  • 18:18Right, I use it everything outside of me right everything outside of me. I was I was completely aware of. I didn't miss a beat. Yeah didn't miss a beat. But the awareness that I think that you're talking about today is the awareness inside. Is that fair
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley18:32That's exactly right.
  • 18:33That is exactly right and very hard to articulate. You did that quite well that
  • 18:39People, most of the time, feel like they are aware when they start working with me, they're like, Yeah, yeah, I got that part, I need the accurate assessment. Come on, let's get to the good stuff here.
  • 18:49And and that awareness that inner awareness and that ability to kind of be with yourself for periods of time in order to deepen that awareness is very important to the next steps. And so you're absolutely right that people are like, I'm aware. Let's fix my landing page.
  • user avatarbrandon handley19:16It's all
  • 19:17It's all marketing has nothing to do with what's happening.
  • 19:19Right, right.
  • 19:21Nothing internal happening fixed that.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley19:23I just had that targeting right we would
  • 19:25All set. So, what what is what is like when when somebody first
  • user avatarbrandon handley19:29Starts off what's uh what's like one tool that you like to start them off with to
  • 19:35Begin to develop that inner awareness.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley19:39One of my favorite
  • 19:42Sort of
  • 19:47Let me go back a second here in my thinking. One of my tools that is the easiest for me to sort of give in this kind of a space.
  • 19:59Is actually
  • 20:00A little bit of mirror work. Now some people will know mirror work from different varieties of, you know, mindset work and spiritual work.
  • 20:10The mirror work that that I find is the fastest path to to becoming present
  • 20:22Which is really that first goal is just start being in your body.
  • 20:29Is a piece where you literally just sit with the mirror and look in the mirror in your eyes and say I am here.
  • 20:42Over and over and over. You're sort of calling to yourself. Right. So there's a lot of work that we do after that that involves breath and
  • 20:53Other types of awareness that we can
  • 20:55We can bring in
  • 20:57But
  • 20:59But that's really the the space that I find people kind of are able to bring themselves into the room a little bit and say, oh, OK. I am actually here. Let me give this a shot. I'll be president now.
  • user avatarbrandon handley21:12Well, I mean, cuz it's, there's still the physical aspect of it right, they're still doing a physical activity, but then they're also acknowledging that it's them right right there in front of them and pulling themselves kind of gather right there.
  • 21:27Right, so I love that. Yeah.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley21:29And it's deliberate. It's deliberate. So even though a lot of times when people start that process, they don't know. It's deliberate
  • 21:37They, they go like, well, I said the words and then I felt different. I don't know what happened. Right. But in fact it there. There is a deliberateness to it. That is really important that you are impacting you
  • 21:53In that moment.
  • user avatarbrandon handley21:57Well, that, you know, being deliberate again, you know, intentional, knowing that you're making this choice. I know that I kind of
  • 22:04laughed a little bit about it earlier, but you know, you get to wherever you are today. And I think this is what the spiritual coaches were probably telling you before you guys set the course that
  • 22:13You guys made the decisions to be in that situation right as as a collective even and you you guys when you first heard that you were just like what that's done, nobody's ever said that, you know, kind of that way right to us before
  • 22:29So, I mean, I'm assuming your husband still alive.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley22:32Oh, yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley22:35Like I hope the story has a good idea.
  • 22:37Because, you know, so
  • 22:39What happens right i mean you go in and he jumped into all this stuff, how, you know, how does it clear up on it never gets checked out again and somehow he still is what happened.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley22:48No, no. So what happens on that story is that we do the work we do the inner work and we do the emergency inner work and it is kind of emergency at that
  • 23:02Maybe for a year or so as you still feel like what's happening.
  • 23:07And we he gets checked out again. And it's shrinking.
  • 23:12Okay, and we have do have, I will say a spectacular doctor who's actually a doctor.
  • user avatarbrandon handley23:20Sure, sure. And
  • 23:22It's always handy to have one on standby.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley23:25WELL KNOW WHO DOES THIS WORK. Oh.
  • user avatarbrandon handley23:27Okay, that sounds even better yet,
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley23:29He's a trained Western doctor but functions in an Eastern paradigm
  • user avatarbrandon handley23:35Love it.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley23:36And so he his toolkit is very, very large. And he honestly I've seen. I've never seen a problem he hasn't been able to impact positively and I have seen him deal with a lot of stuff now.
  • 23:53So, so we had the guidance we had long distance guidance, because he's not right here in our backyard and
  • 24:01We had long distance guidance and we did the work. And that I think is the, the key to that is to sort of have somebody who's ahead of you who can say, yeah, no, no, no. You're going in a direction. You'll be all right.
  • 24:14Sure, sure. And so eventually that tumor went away.
  • user avatarbrandon handley24:17That's amazing. I love it. And so
  • 24:20You would attribute that almost all to the air work was there like a dietary change.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley24:26There were other changes. Yeah, absolutely. There were dietary changes, and we think there was
  • 24:35Well, in his particular case, it had a great deal to do with a inability to deal properly with pesticides and with wheat.
  • user avatarbrandon handley24:46In the
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley24:46On the dietary front. So there was that and
  • 24:54I think there was juicing and there was a lot of things.
  • user avatarbrandon handley24:57Which are look at
  • 24:59Things. Right.
  • 25:00Body. Sure, absolutely. Absolutely. So, and I think that's, that's interesting. The two right you know so change a die with this practice. I'm the things that are inside of you are the things that are outside of you know that this
  • 25:15Miracle doesn't kind of happen on its own. You gotta, you gotta put it together and you got to maintain it and you know the things that do happen to it. Your body's a miracle. Right. It's amazing.
  • 25:28And it's something like that's happening in this story right you have the ability to change that without getting i don't know i'm guessing he was getting a laser to the back of the head or something right was
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley25:39Wasn't. No, no, they wanted to do full
  • 25:41On surgery.
  • 25:43can address and take goop out
  • 25:47And put goop in from other part.
  • user avatarbrandon handley25:52Was
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley25:53Unbelievably scary.
  • user avatarbrandon handley25:55Sure, sure. So, but, I mean, the what's amazing too and your story is that a lot of people would have just gone ahead and gone that route. Right.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley26:03And they would have tried to talk to your spouse into it. It's their spouse said no. And that I think is something that is I, I have been very fortunate to be able to have that reciprocal relationship with my husband, where if one of us says, No, no, this is how I really feel about the thing
  • 26:20Yeah, even if the other one thinks like, ah, you're just scarred, we should get you over that.
  • 26:26But there is enough space. And this is an important concept in in business in the way we live our lives in general. Right.
  • 26:35Is that there is enough space for us to be scarred and still have full and wonderful lives. It's kind of I think of it a lot about
  • 26:45How you know how certain trees grow and they get these scars in them. And then we cut them up and we make them into coffee tables and we call them beautiful world would
  • 26:54Say. Isn't that spectacular right
  • 26:57Well, that's what we're making yeah in ourselves, we have experienced life and things haven't gone right and we have changed the way that we deal with things F, day after day after day and tried new approaches and had new experiences.
  • 27:14And all of those things are brought into this present moment. And if you allow them then finding a new answer that. That doesn't mean you have to like check out your whole personality becomes somebody else right
  • user avatarbrandon handley27:32Right, right.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley27:32No, no, it's okay. You can go spend time in the hospital.
  • 27:36Right show. You don't have to be someone else. You can be you and you can be successful.
  • user avatarbrandon handley27:41Right. Well, yeah. And in regards to write the
  • 27:46Merging all this together. Right.
  • 27:48But I'll say it. I love Maplewood like the birds. I'm April, right, that's kind of one of the one of the times, you're talking about right and it does become so beautiful. Right. I'm like, I'm over you're sitting right now we're turning ourselves into beautiful maple tables but
  • 28:02I love, I love the story that you're telling about that. I think that that's great.
  • 28:09So let's just I want is, what if some of that wasn't working at any point would didn't feel like, you know, because I don't want to get the impression that
  • 28:19You shouldn't keep a doctor nearby. Right. I mean, because you guys kept the doctor nearby that right live as he was a Western medicine doctor that yes also specialize in this space.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley28:29I think that the the message that should not be taken from my experience is, go do something extreme like I did right and that the message that should be taken, I hope people take from my experience is be true to yourself and find your own answers.
  • 28:54Because they are there, but they're only there if you calm down long enough to allow them to sort of become revealed. They weren't there in the doctor's office right only the first step, which was no I know what I don't want
  • user avatarbrandon handley29:10To
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley29:11But there wasn't the step of, like, I know what I do want. Right. Yeah.
  • 29:16Yeah. And in fact, I think that something very important happened there because it was life threatening. Right, it's not
  • 29:23It's not the same as in business where things can go right or wrong and we can find our own alignment. Right. But in this scenario. I think one of the most
  • 29:35impactful things that happened was that my husband had someone to turn to and say, You figure it out because he then could go about the business of lining up with becoming well
  • 29:51He didn't know how, but he had faith.
  • 29:53Yeah, leaf. He said, This person loves me and they're relatively smart. They'll figure it out.
  • user avatarbrandon handley30:02Well, I think you bring the other one up to which I always love you don't have to know how you don't have to know how you just have to know that that's what you want. That's right. Right. And us where they can just
  • 30:16Move forward in that direction. You know, as if it's not Nestle like I i get i get a little caught up in between, like Law of Attraction with like, you know,
  • 30:28Spirituality space, right. I don't think that they're one the same. I think they're very close, but I don't I don't I don't like to make a sandwich out of, I guess.
  • 30:37Um,
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley30:38But so many ways to look at life you know
  • 30:41It would be a shame to sort of collapse it into only one way
  • 30:46Hundred percent I think that's one of the reasons that the concept of spirituality so appealing to me is that it's big.
  • user avatarbrandon handley30:53Right, it's yours.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley30:54I can be a part of this energy and I can be a part of that energy and I don't have to really understand it intellectually. I just have to decide that I'm willing to be a part of that.
  • user avatarbrandon handley31:05Right. No, I see ideas. Do you even know how you're here. Right. I mean, we don't even understand how we're here to begin with, I mean. So where does that leave us so
  • 31:19Let's talk a little bit more about the outside of the story. Thanks for sharing that. That was
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley31:22My pleasure. Thanks for bringing it up. I, I had
  • 31:26Was I was gonna tell it.
  • user avatarbrandon handley31:27Yes. I mean you know that, but that's that's kind of how you got into this space. And then, you know, I'm guessing that you kind of incorporated. Now some of this spiritual practice modality. And you were seeing the benefits that it was having in the business space.
  • 31:41So at
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley31:42That time
  • 31:43I was actually the CEO of a corporation.
  • 31:46Okay, so
  • 31:49This was what my life was like, like my every day was going to work as the CEO of a corporation.
  • 31:56Right, so, you know, to, to become to to shift perspective in this massive way and then go back to work the next day and be like,
  • 32:08Oh yeah, I'm gonna do it, just the way I used to do it.
  • 32:11Let them work out.
  • 32:13Right, so there had to be for me a re assessing a real understanding of the business world so that and the end the specifics of my business involvement with people so that I could find peace with the
  • 32:36The
  • 32:38Pathway that we were on
  • user avatarbrandon handley32:40Okay.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley32:40So I had many years to do that. I didn't leave that world until
  • 32:452014 and I that the story I told. And when I got my licensure was well
  • 32:55The story I told started in 2007
  • 32:58Okay, so it was putting a time in their
  • 33:02Right to Try concepts out to go to work and to feel differently about things and then see what happens. And now have to take action right away.
  • 33:12To decide that your solution to this relationship problem with an employee with the board of directors with it. Whoever whoever you're dealing with with with the clients themselves.
  • 33:27That you are going to shift that but not by going in and saying something different or doing something different and being like, I am different. Now, now you behave differently, right, which is how people love to approach it.
  • 33:38Sure does not work doesn't work, just
  • 33:42But to really be able to take the time to say okay I am willing to to try everything that I have learned out on myself and to teach it to my staff and to pass it along to people who come and ask for it.
  • 34:02There was a lot of opportunity right now. I'm seeing a lot of people in a day. And there's a lot of opportunity and people will ask you the wildest things
  • 34:10Sure. And so
  • 34:14Yeah, so I had that I had that. And so that was a way for me to really shift the way that I saw business. And what I knew for a fact would work in business.
  • 34:27I had a lot of knowing what didn't work. And some of what did work. I had attained a position and, you know, was filling that position. Well, and all of that. But I really was able to sort of AMP that all up by
  • 34:40By being able to try these things and not know
  • 34:45If they were going to work.
  • 34:47And do them anyway.
  • user avatarbrandon handley34:49What would be an example of that.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley34:55Well, there was at one point there was a time when the board of directors was not happy with me.
  • 35:04Man I know, it doesn't mean it doesn't even make sense.
  • 35:06No, it doesn't. It kind of in this world.
  • 35:09And and was not happy with anyone in my
  • 35:15In my purview at all like not like there was no one. And so there was one particular board member who would come in and
  • 35:24Kind of create difficulty. Right. It was a time of change. And I was directing the, the company in a direction that was scary and different and new
  • 35:36And that was not really okay for that board and so that member would come in and and sort of undermine what was happening or stand in the way of what was happening.
  • 35:49And I don't think that was the intention, but I think that it was really to look out for the company and to like really well founded. But really bad idea. And so this went on for
  • 36:05Several weeks several weeks and different members of my staff kept coming to me and saying, what are we going to do this can't go on and I would have a chat and, you know, it still went on and that was the way it was. And I had tried a lot of business solutions for this.
  • 36:23But one day I decided that I was going to just focus on the inner work and I spent all of my off time
  • 36:34Doing that inner work and it was a process it. A lot of times people like me to sort of distill it down into one thing that I did. And certainly, I could name some things that you can do in that scenario but
  • 36:48Really, the important thing was that I was no longer tied to the outcome based on yesterday.
  • 36:56So that we had been through it right. This has been going on for weeks, we had tried everything we know what didn't work. We know. No, no. Right. But we didn't really we didn't because today is a new day.
  • 37:09And this is a new moment.
  • 37:11Right. And so once that happened once there was a disassociation with the past, then
  • 37:19The process of becoming holy present and allowing the other people to become wholly present other this person in particular.
  • 37:29Then the, the issues that are around, it can be dealt with and the attitude can shift. And there can no longer be. It doesn't have to be an aggressive situation, which is what had developed
  • 37:41Right. But once that all dissipates. Then you can have the real conversations about the work that really should be being done in those in that scenario.
  • 37:52Right, I should be held accountable for that in my position and that person should be able to say what they have to say. But there was no space for
  • 38:00Any of that.
  • 38:02And to east and east and east and about two weeks later, one of the gentlemen that work for me came to me and said, What did you do
  • 38:13What did you do
  • 38:14Well you fixed it for you, but you didn't fix it for me.
  • 38:19And I said, Well, I could teach you what it was like, why can't you just fix it.
  • user avatarbrandon handley38:26That's funny. That's funny. So one of the things that you kind of, you start out there to with the is not having to take action right away, right, because we feel that
  • 38:36We need to take this action immediately to for some type of corrective measure like
  • 38:42Where the like where the savior of whatever is happening, they're like, well, there's no we got to fix this. Right. But you're saying though, you just kind of step back. Yeah. But some of the things just play out on their own and right
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley38:55Yeah, that's exactly right. That's exactly right. There's actually a three step process that I teach that
  • 39:02Is a called the triple a method of transformation and that three step process is really important. Some people get one step.
  • 39:12Some people get two steps, but rarely do we hear people talk about the third, the middle step right
  • 39:18Right. So the first step in that is awareness and we've talked a lot about that today, which is
  • 39:23Wonderful. And the third step in that is the action stage right the adaptation. What are you going to do, usually people kind of jump from one to the other and they go, they go like, yes, I'm aware there's a problem. Now I have a solution.
  • 39:38And it's the middle step that is the most important and that really isn't an accurate assessment, you can't make an accurate assessment, unless you're in a receiving mode you're in a
  • 39:58Listening period. A watching period a learning period right it's you can't assess something. If you think you know everything about it already.
  • 40:09So you have to do the exploration that is that middle stage that's between Awareness. Awareness of yourself awareness of your situation and then
  • 40:21Learning so that you can be accurate in your assessment. And that's, I think, really where most of the time it all falls apart is that the assessment is not accurate.
  • 40:33Hmm. And so that's how you jump from the one step to the other step is that you go like now I got this move on.
  • 40:43But you don't know yet. But there's like a guy behind the curtain run and my thing. You know what I mean.
  • 40:48Sure.
  • 40:49So that's
  • user avatarbrandon handley40:51That's more than you know awareness of your thought process awareness of the, you know, conscious choices awareness of doing these things.
  • 41:00With purpose and intention, but also, you know, I like how you bring up this you know accurate assessment piece because it was just yesterday as matter of fact I sat down with a transformational coach and
  • 41:14It was what you're saying here is you can assess, but kind of like a and I feel like this is what I had done right I assess the situation quickly.
  • 41:24And felt that was good enough. Right. And then he goes, Well, I think, actually, you need to go one more layer deeper. Yeah. And he took me one more layer deeper. And I was like, Oh my gosh, you know,
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley41:35Totally different answer to. Right.
  • user avatarbrandon handley41:37Well, totally different answer. Totally different feeling totally different space in place and you know
  • 41:44Therefore, ergo my assessment initially was not accurate. Yeah, that's right. Right.
  • 41:53And you know we're here. We keep learning and this, this is even has to do with just, you know, if you're working with a client, they feel like they know who they are. All right. And you've got it you what you're doing is you're helping them to slow down and
  • 42:07Truly learn who they really are. Yeah.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley42:09That's exactly right. That's exactly right. And I think that was true for me. So I think that one of the things that makes it easier for me to
  • 42:18To talk to people is that I've stood someplace. Very, very similar to where they're standing and so that feeling like I know especially having some early success.
  • 42:30Right, sure. No, I do. No.
  • 42:33No, I did it. I know how to do it. No, no, actually you don't
  • 42:39Because you did it, but you didn't know how you did it.
  • 42:41Yeah, you did it, but you can't repeat it, and
  • 42:46Source, all of that.
  • user avatarbrandon handley42:48Sure, yeah.
  • 42:50But it's looking those steps and and and i think that we've been fortunate, right, like a laughed at the beginning how there's, you know,
  • 43:00There's pathways for us to take you know that the plenty of people have done this before us. We're not the first people to show up like I got this.
  • 43:08Follow me like there's no whole whole society is built on this and
  • 43:13We're lucky that we've got that available to us right that framework, the possibility to kind of
  • 43:18Go to even you right or you know your spiritual coaches to run them in the first time, like there's a whole nother way.
  • 43:25And it fits into this and, oh, I can get the same results by but but by doing it this way instead of this other brash like I'm going to take the bull by the horns and crush everybody mentality. Right. Yeah.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley43:40Yeah, I, I, actually, when I first kind of got that there was another way and that it was actually more effective I so I had been into herbs, my whole life where I felt like I i liked spices in my food, and I
  • 43:54I knew some of the properties of things. And I would you know give myself cold medicine by eating the garlic or whatever it was. Right, sure, and and
  • 44:03I got that there was, I knew about herbs and spices that there were in different parts of the world, they would do the same things, but be totally different plans.
  • 44:13And I was like,
  • 44:14Oh, I don't really get why that's true, that you can take turmeric from India and you can take, you know, yarrow from North America and you're going to get a similar thing and happening for you.
  • 44:29And I, I knew that it was possible, but I couldn't make any sense of it until we got to this concept, this concept of being present and being aware
  • 44:44And showing up in a new way and then taking action. Then I got, oh, there are just so many ways, right. I could have said 10 different things in that moment.
  • 44:57And gotten a really similar response to that, or maybe my relationship problem, like I've, I've worked with people a lot with
  • 45:07business relationships where they're particularly with employees, where they're not getting the results they want with the employees and they feel like it's the employees problem.
  • 45:18And that works. The first or second or third employee, but it does not work after that.
  • 45:23To face a few things.
  • 45:26And you can try all the techniques you want, right, there's a lot of management techniques and those i'm sure can be effective in under certain circumstances.
  • 45:37But really when you're willing to do that work inside you and the technique, doesn't matter anymore because
  • 45:45The result can happen regardless of the technique that you're using, sort of like that plant it's planted in a, you know, different sides of the earth, but it's helping your body because the world is meant to support us for sure that's what that's what is here for
  • user avatarbrandon handley46:01At least from our perspective. Hundred percent hundred percent
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley46:05Plant feels like it's there for them.
  • user avatarbrandon handley46:08But what I just I just saw like you know I think somebody talk. I think I was listening to Wayne Dyer right and he's talking about like if you lift the seeds or whatever and you plant them that they take in that your DNA, and they grow to to you.
  • 46:21Yeah, so
  • 46:22So I'll always always something interesting.
  • 46:26Always something interesting. Geez, you said something there that I wanted to hit on but uh what you know.
  • 46:34So what are some. What are some that's what's gonna say, so you're, you know, the techniques become
  • 46:42More like a again a vehicle for what's inside of you, right, and that's your focal point, you're like, All right, you know,
  • 46:49It's the techniques, not working. It's because I look I take to jujitsu right and oftentimes the, the deal is, I'm using a technique, but I'm also trying to put all this force power behind like
  • 47:04Running grown in
  • 47:06But it's when I relax and just simply apply the technique.
  • 47:11That it works. I'm like, why, what this doesn't make any sense. Right. So again, it sounds like you know if you do the inner work and you figure out kind of what's in you just you just kind of let that out, Masha, but you focus it gently on the technique, it works.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley47:23Yeah, we're back where we were when we started right life can be a lot easier than we make it
  • user avatarbrandon handley47:30And and so you know what what are
  • 47:34What are some of the other things that you're finding with your clients right. How are they, what's their reception been to their new selves.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley47:44Reception to their new cells. Fantastic question.
  • 47:48Wow. I like I'm pretty good.
  • user avatarbrandon handley47:54Sure.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley47:55You know, it feels a lot better to be not frustrated and not irritated and have a new way to accept your imperfections and to say I can be whole and I can show up and I can shift my life in these ways where I get the result that I want and still be may
  • user avatarbrandon handley48:18Not have to
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley48:19Turn into somebody else. I mean, I think these are the kinds of things that a lot of times people really feel like, all right, I want to go there. So I'll just be someone else for a while.
  • 48:33They
  • 48:34Got themselves off from themselves, right.
  • user avatarbrandon handley48:36So,
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley48:37And this is how people end up to be older and more bitter.
  • 48:43And then eventually at some point they say I'm not doing that anymore. And sometimes that's at retirement age sometimes that's a lot earlier.
  • 48:52You're really lucky if you don't have a lot of patience for that kind of thing in your life.
  • user avatarbrandon handley48:57Well, you know, you know, recently, my wife, she she hit that point right she just said this is enough. This is too much and and she's now you know we come from two different types of backgrounds. Right.
  • 49:08Where she came from, you know, the you work hard, you get a job you keep that job for as long as you can, it's safe. It's good. They watch out for you.
  • 49:16But at what cost, right, I think you'd mentioned that to like what costs like you're the costs.
  • 49:22Is you your life, your, your whole, you know, they call it grind it out for a reason. You're losing each day to the grind. So I don't want to keep you too long, but this has been, I've had a lot of fun with this conversation.
  • 49:35A lot of fun with this conversation.
  • 49:37Where, where should and we did talk about you do have something coming up. I want to make sure people know that you've got this, you've got this challenge come out to us talk on that.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley49:45You. I do. I have a five day
  • 49:49Workshop, or I'm
  • 49:53Just loving the words just scramble away from you.
  • user avatarbrandon handley49:56Absolutely, it says all day every day.
  • 49:59To
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley49:59Day challenge coming up and it, it is called get out of your head. Embrace your imperfections and get on track with your business.
  • 50:10And so that's what we're going to do for five days, we're going to go through the process and we're going to really delve into that process. We talked a little bit more
  • 50:19Earlier about the AAA method of transformation and get to apply some of that and really see what kind of
  • 50:29changes we can make in such a short period of time for lots and lots of people to to quiet the noise to to find that space that we've been talking about and to still be wholly yourself to really embrace that you're okay, as Your imperfections and then apply that process.
  • 50:51It's a very interesting process, I think.
  • 50:53It will be really great to see how everybody does.
  • user avatarbrandon handley50:56That's awesome. So what type of people should be attending this event.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley51:00Anyone who's interested in business.
  • 51:05Who is open. Yeah.
  • 51:07Yeah, so this is this work is not easy. It's not like, you know, kind of, you were talking about this with talking about your wife's background and a lot of people come from a background where it's kind of supposed to be hard. And when life is not fun. They say, what is it they say they say
  • user avatarbrandon handley51:27Oh my lemonade.
  • 51:31Life's not supposed to be fair, I don't know.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley51:33Yeah, all that
  • user avatarbrandon handley51:34All that stuff.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley51:35So what, like, I get that. And there are people who need that kind of structure in their life, and they're not ready to let go of that that's okay with me.
  • user avatarbrandon handley51:43Yeah.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley51:43Don't come to mind.
  • 51:47But anyone everyone. I hope Pro has a business involvement writing particularly I work for the most part with entrepreneurs.
  • 51:57So you're the driver of your business boat, it makes it much easier. And who wants to work on something and knows that the answer is somewhere in them might they're willing to do some work for it. That is personal. That is development personal development work.
  • 52:20And and really you show up with willingness and I'd be happy to guide you all the way through the process that would be great.
  • user avatarbrandon handley52:30Awesome and listen.
  • 52:32You know, you've had you been a successful CEO, you started off successful businesses you sold businesses.
  • 52:41And, you know, for anybody, which website. Again, Donald in
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley52:46Donnellan Riley calm.
  • user avatarbrandon handley52:48Down. So head over to the site shine house or for videos yourself, you will be able to see
  • 52:53That she knows what she's talking about. So I think that that's really exciting. And, you know, we didn't dig too deep into the business aspects of today. We just had a really great. I felt like conversation.
  • 53:03But you clearly know you know what it is that you're doing. You've done the work you contains to do the work. And you know what you're putting out. I think there's no top notch really really quality stuff.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley53:13Thank you so much. It was really a pleasure to be here and to get to talk about this topic in such depth. So that's really nice. It's great that you're talking about this in a in a really deep way this sort of spirituality and business and in that space.
  • user avatarbrandon handley53:28You know what, you got to be able to like you keep saying, and that's what it means to bring all of who you are right, they're not two separate things. If you keep your spiritual self over here and your material or reality over here, you're missing out on the one, two punch you know
  • 53:44You really you've really got the opportunity to kind of blend you're you're working at 50% of capacity. Yeah, right. So he can
  • 53:51You know blend those two which which I know you can teach how to do what you get to bring to your workplace or wherever you decide to show up after you learn about who you are. It's just, it's that much more powerful. Yeah.
  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley54:04It really is.
  • user avatarbrandon handley54:05Yeah. Hundred percent. Thanks again.

  • user avatarDonnalynn Riley00:59:18Thank you.

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Christian Wiese | A Financial Doctorate finds his Way

Published: Sept. 6, 2020, 5:39 a.m.
Duration: 53 minutes 19 seconds

When you are going through an awakening, sometimes it can feel like everything is going off the rails!

That's how it was with me, and I was lucky enough to come across an amazing spiritual life coach, Christian Wiese.

Ever since Christian helped me along the way, we have been in communication.

Take a listen to find out how you may be able to practically apply spiritual wisdom, even if you are in the midst of a very high-level financial group!

Connect with Christian on Facebook

Also, should you be interested in his books check them out here:

https://christianmwiese.com/

Brandon Handley 0:00

Two, one. Hey there spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here today. And as we continue to explore how we can apply spirituality in our everyday lives, businesses, and whatever it is we want to do. I have with me today, author and spiritual coach, my good friend, Christian M. Weiss, and he is a, he's an author, spiritual coach. But he didn't he wasn't always in the space. In 2008, he was working in the professional finance field, with a PhD in finance and as a freshly minted dad. And working in this market. He'd been introduced to a wonderful world of magic, healing and love. And he finally left the financial industry and decided to work today as an author, educator, a spiritual life coach, and he's on a mission to share the gospel of the capitalized way and to help other spiritual Travelers awaken to their path. Christian, thank you so much for joining us today.

Christian Wiese 1:05

Thank you for having me. Being here.

Brandon Handley 1:08

Yes, yeah, well, so first, you know, here's people people may not have followed me since the beginning and that's okay. So if you're just tuning into any of my podcasts for the first time, Christian I first met years ago now, when I was doing a podcast called fatherhood for the rest of us and I had reached out to fathers who had experience and kind of a spiritual awakening and Christian is the only one who raised his hand. He has lived to tell the tale so before and thank you for that. And we've had I think, a great friendship since then we actually had to meet in person last year. That was a very What do they call that? You know, synchronous, synchronous synchronicity

Christian Wiese 1:52

secret? Thanks, Jerry. Yeah, for sure.

Brandon Handley 1:54

Yeah, yeah, we that was just so random how that happened. And to me that just showed the universe opening up, right?

Unknown Speaker 2:02

That's right. Um,

Brandon Handley 2:04

what I like to start this off with Christian as a little bit of how you and I are conduits for creative energy, right? That's right. And you and I are talking to share a message with somebody who's listening to the podcast today. What What do you think that that person needs to hear today?

Christian Wiese 2:26

Well, I think the main message is life is fun. There's so much creativity in life. And we spent so much time thinking about it and thinking what we want and what we should get, and we sometimes overlook what we have and what we're getting every day and excitement and I think so again, just a little bit of background. I kind of have always been interested in spirituality. But I was in the middle of my career, the two boys had just been born. Suddenly there was that moment, which you also experienced, where suddenly you said, Wow, what's happening here in this incredible app to tell other people about it. And then I literally spent seven years doing both very similar what you're doing right now, in the day, kind of hanging out with some very smart people in the financial industry and kind of testing my spiritual theories. And then that night writing about it and writing books, and we're talking today about the second book, which I think is is really written for people like you and your, your viewers, because it makes a case that spirituality is not some sort of philosophy that we practice on Sunday. Spirituality is something that we do everyday and also at work. And for seven years. I literally tested my theories and they work, we can really be incredibly creative, connected. We can have a lot of fun doing kind of spirituality and living.

Brandon Handley 4:05

Now 100% I love it. I enjoyed the book. And, you know, right when I read the review, I'd already started reading the book. But when I read the review on the back here of the endorsement by Carl Bozeman, and this book is intended to kind of pick up before you go to sleep and just have a quick read like small short stories, right? And, you know, here's the book in my hand, thanks for shooting it over. Appreciate you sending. So the way of the Meister and it gives you some time to pause and reflect and also see how somebody such as yourself who had a PhD in it was it was at finance that she had a PhD in economics, economics. Oh my god, right. I mean, that's the that's the last place. Most people are going to be looking for a virtual coach. Right, or, or spiritual birthing at that, right? That's

Christian Wiese 4:55

right. And that often happens and I think it's really important to stress it. We always say, if you are spiritual, be on the right or be on the left, whatever your favorite direction is. But often in life, instead of being on the right, we're actually on the left. And it's extreme contrast between the two that then gets you that, that breaks through. And that's, I think, by work in the conflicts at work in the context of family and all that. It's sometimes an opportunity to opportunity to stop and say, Hey, what's going on here? What can I learn from this conflict? And the way I would put economics, economics is a science of scarcity. scarcity, the main assumption is you don't have but you want the only one right Right, right. Increase your utility and your income as your poor. Yes, the main message of spirituality is abundance. We live in an abundant world. We deserve to live in a world and that I think we need spiritual life coaches like you to remind us of that premise and we should work towards it

Brandon Handley 6:10

was like, it's like you said, Christian when you when you stop to look at what you have versus what's missing. That's right, right is doo doo doo. I feel like there's a space for an economic approach that says, hey, we actually have quite a bit Do you think I mean, I mean so look, let's not laugh too hard at this because we had, you know the Science of Happiness to psychology. You know, so, which was laughed out at the beginning, right? I'm reminded of I've listened to this guy, Robin. Oh, gosh, his last name Sharma. Right. And one of his lines is they laughed at all the great ones at first, right. So is there do you feel like is that would could we apply economy you know economics to an abundant sides. Cuz like you said, we've been focused so much on the scarcity economy. Is there an abundance economy?

Christian Wiese 7:08

Absolutely. Economics just needs a rebranding, which is

Unknown Speaker 7:13

exactly right.

Christian Wiese 7:14

I mean, we should call it the science of abundance. And there's a joke that I was told whether, whether it's supposedly true at all, no. But somebody taught at Harvard, and gave the idea of to the utility function and the income line and that it keeps growing and expanding to the right. And that is kind of our mission in life. And there was one guy from the Middle East, supposedly a crown prince. And he said, I'm what happens to the picture, if you don't have any income constraints. And of course, everybody laughed. You know, he was a prince, he had limitless resources, but it's actually a very good point is in economics, that certain bliss point where you're having more income is not the issue at all. It's about having more meaning. And I do think, to a large extent, the spiritual journey is just about awakening to what you truly want. You know, we initially think it's so much about wealth and status and reputation. And then we realized, no, no, it's about love. It's about meaning. It's about the ability to create an Express. And when you go down that path, it's very easy to be very fulfilled and happy, abundant life.

Brandon Handley 8:30

It is, is once you learn about it.

Christian Wiese 8:37

That's right.

Brandon Handley 8:38

Right. So, you know, it's really interesting. My wife just quit her job after being there for 23 years. And she's terrified because she was taught to go get a job and work and stay there for for your entire life. And that was the idea. And since she married me that was her own fault. The You know what? learning this stuff that like, wow, we, you know, you always hear about you know, don't put your don't put your ladder up against the wrong wall. That's right, right you know, we we worked for money, right and income versus working for or towards meaning or towards a beautiful life right? You know, we want we want the things we want the experiences we want I love this bliss point that you bring up. But it's once you've learned that prod and nine then you have to learn how to apply it, which is what you know, I think I've done taking the concept and applied it in life and found it to be true. You know, I think of one of your stories in the book. And actually kind of I was actually telling the story last night at dinner about how you would come up with theories that seemed like they would be sure shots let's talk a little bit about like, you know, working in the economy and you're working for I'm guessing people that had a lot of money and they trusted you, with your, you know, with your doctorate in this field to explore and give sounds strategies, right. So tell us a little bit about, like, what that looked like and what some of the outcomes were.

Christian Wiese 10:17

Um, so when I started out I was actually very similar to your vise Korea. I was there for I think, 22 years. I'm originally from Germany, I arrived in 1990. I went to Brown University, got my PhD there. And then literally, just after five years, moved one hour north to Boston from Providence to Boston and started out there. And I started out as an economist, you know, I had to learn, you know what finance is really all about. But, you know, after a while, I got the hang of it, and you can realize that finance to a large extent, yes, it's about knowing what will happen tomorrow. Extensive thoughts about psychology, human psychology, and I love that stuff. You know the the being in the pressure point and people say no, you have it all wrong. Now's the time to be actually that this year was perfect. Everybody said run for the hills run for the hills. And the moment they did that was exactly the moment that the Gnostics started taking off, right? It's all it's all psychology and you have to get a feel for it. So what in the end brought the, the the spark when you kind of awoke to something different? I can't tell. But what I can tell is that I had a very interesting psychological journey they had that place because part of the process of you know, doing this kind of spirituality for a few years is to realize that we kind of live in our head. You know, there are certain stories that we want to be nice to each other. We want to be loved. You're going to get, and there's a lot of heads, the art sometimes says something very different. And what I enjoyed in the pressure cooker environment is to kind of test and also learn. And I kind of went into two directions. And I think they're very powerful. And I think you as a coach really can breakfast that there was one this spiritual dimension where I learned cooperation and trust is so powerful if you work with a group of people and you guys trust each other. magic happens, but also learned and there was a second aspect something about myself, I had not understood how competitive I really was. And you know, we spreadsheet people will tell us Oh, we are so nice and so relaxed. But when tell people to tell you, you're full of it, you suddenly get you know, I'll show you and that's a very human reaction and I love isn't playing with both balls on the one hand showing the magic of connection tivity and caring for each other as I put it, but on the other end, also realizing, you know what, you're telling yourself stories, you're as human as everybody else. And I think that's really the the the potency of a coach to help people with that struggle because we shouldn't live in lala land, we should live in the real world, where not everything is about love. And you know, and being so serene and uncaring.

Brandon Handley 13:29

Yeah, yeah. I mean, look, that's it. That's a you know, that's, that's great. And it's an ideal it kind of world and I don't think that it's, I wouldn't say that it's impossible, but the likelihood of seeing it, and then would you really want to live it? That's another question like, yeah, that's, that's another question. And I'm reminded of, you know, at least hearing this kind of first from Alan Watts, right. It's kind of like stew you got to season it just enough. There's got to be enough, you know, kind of flavor and Taste where it's not so bland. So if we have all this, you know, love peace and serenity all the time, it's gonna be real boring. I'm sorry, right? We're not gonna, we're not going to be able to experience we're not going to even notice if we have an upper down, right? I mean, you know, I'm not saying hey, let's invite some drama. But if you don't have any drama, you will go to your head and you will create some it's just human. So you know, I love that you said that because that that is the true premise two is spiritual dope, right. So this is the this program this podcast and courseware whatever gets created out of this is like, it's not all it is a huge percentage of peace, love and light, but there's also some, you know, we've got to go through some. We've got to go through some seasons of our lives to have a fully rounded experience. That's right, right.

Christian Wiese 15:02

And something. So the way optimized, I think is perfect for this setup, because I think it speaks to the experience that many people go through. Should I be in this profession? Should I not? Am I really expressing myself creatively as I should? On the other hand, there are financial constraints. Can I really make it right now on my own? Or should I also have, you know, a secure income stream? Those are all issues we have to deal with. But the person

Brandon Handley 15:28

just has to pick that apart for right now. Right? Yeah. For everybody who's who's chased the secure income stream and the secure way of life. I think that COVID has been a true disrupter in continuing along that, that path, right. That's right. And, and also, I kind of want to just loop back to when you were, you know, understanding, you know, yes, the cooperative and trust support, right, you know, your groups and creating that and finding that also understanding your competitiveness, but you also have illustrated how you you come up with some theories that will seem bulletproof. Write that on paper, and in theory should be working and they would flop and then you would say, all right, well, here's, here's something that I'm going to throw out there. I don't think much of it. And that's the one that takes off. Right? Play with me really this then right? So I'll play let's play. Let's play like kind of spiritual devil devil's advocate type. Okay. So with the one you had these great expectations, you were kind of attached to an expectation of the one that you thought would work right there was pressure on it to work in the way that you thought that it was supposed to work. And so there was there was like a focus on it. Versus the one that you came up with great. I would say almost ease and you let it go. And you said you know what, fine, let it go. Let's Let's the worst that could happen. Right. And that's the one that you did with ease that it came in and flowed. Yes. Or to see it that way.

Christian Wiese 17:08

I think it's a very important point. Actually, that was the direction I wanted to go in my original comment. The main message is, and it's a very tough one, because we have been programmed for four decades in the education system to do exactly the opposite. But the main message of spirituality is, get out of your head. Look at what lie and look at the amazing abundance that life has to offer. And especially when it goes in a direction that you didn't anticipate. That's the time to be excited, because you can actually learn something. Right? And that was really my spiritual experience, experience and breakthrough to realize this is just a voice. It is not us. It's just a voice. Sometimes it has something interesting to say sometimes not. But there's an authority for you. On the voice in the head and that is all to spirituality.

Brandon Handley 18:03

Now fair enough. One second Chris, I'm gonna go ask my kids to go move. So the letting go right and getting out of your way. And the aspect of of us trying to apply direction, right? mentally, mentally direction versus Heart, heart feel it feeling it forward, right? That's right, feeling it forward. Well, all right. How do you do that?

Christian Wiese 18:36

Well, that's really exciting stuff happens it is we are not independent of our life. The life that we experience the people we bump into, I mean, I am always messenger it's just so apparent. person one context me person to contact me five minutes later, person one and person two are in my life connected. So I see Just even though they have no idea what's going on, I can literally see the strings. Right. So with those modern technologies, we actually can see almost how life operates. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 19:11

Yeah, yeah,

Christian Wiese 19:12

I think that's a great thing too, that that gets you out of the head. And but again, I would say is always know on which level you work. Because I think you and I do. We do different things to work as a spiritual life coach, you help people with their career choices with their personal choices, right. The next level that I'm interested in this kind of what is that no self experience. There is no self, it's just your part of life. You are there no thoughts, just the no self. I mean, that's what the you know, well, the gurus talk about it's an exciting, almost philosophy or experience, but it doesn't help so much. The guy who has those has just two newborn children and has a little make a living. Right? That's where you come in. Sure. Yeah, you know, it's such a challenge to

Brandon Handley 20:09

fall into this space, I guess it's kind of the best way to say it to to, to open once you've opened up to the spiritual self, right? Or the your spirituality, your spiritual being. How do you reconcile that? Right? How do you integrate that? And that's, that's a huge challenge.

Christian Wiese 20:28

It's a challenge, but it's also a huge opportunity because

Brandon Handley 20:31

so much for sure, listen to your your speaking a new language, you're learning a whole new way of being. So you cannot. So it's kind of like the Buddha and the and the, you know, the Rosebud, right, flower bud, you can't squeeze that right. It's expected to bloom so you got to you've got to nurture it, understand it and follow it. You know, I still remember when people were telling me you got to trust in the process before I had ever experienced the process. Right? So there's trust in the process, which is kind of a faith in this, this possible way of being that you, you simply you can't convey it in

Christian Wiese 21:17

words. That's right. You cannot write but what we can convey is how much fun it is. That synchronicity is something that we discussed in our last talk, right? I think you are also an experiencer Can you pronounce it Suresh polities scientists, so it's either the numbers or just the human connections. And the the first experience is so much fun, you understand it to gain it's no longer the, you know, it's it's all about life or death. It's literally again, you making a mistake, and you hear somebody laughing in the background. Ha ha ha you messed this one up.

Get ready not that serious,

Brandon Handley 22:02

right? Well, you know, I, I poke fun at that too because the word light is in enlightenment. That's right, right. So how can we come at this from a sense of it's heavy, hard, steady work. But it's also meant to kind of lighten the load, right?

Christian Wiese 22:24

We are creators. I mean, it just stink up an entrepreneur or the guy who inventing or an Albert Einstein every day when they got up, they were all smiles. I can't wait to see what I create today. But I think that that experience, I think

Brandon Handley 22:40

that that's a great, you know, how can somebody applied themselves in that manner? Today right now, regardless of you know, I'm in a nine to five, right? How do I apply that principle of I am a creator of Wherever I am, that might not

Christian Wiese 22:56

be the thing that you actually do, which hopefully gets your meaning but There's also the interaction with the people, you know, very much like I described as my messenger experience, you suddenly bump into that person and the person says something which the person never says, exactly that kind of word that resonates with you, because you read it yesterday in a book, and you suddenly start and this is really important. I don't know how. Yeah, this is the process. And it's a lot of fun. And everybody can experience even in a in a workplace that they consider boring. It's literally the lightest streaming in and you can experience it anywhere. But on the other hand, I understand sometimes you are forced in a new direction. And I give myself as an example, I actually had plans to be at a job until today 2020 because I'd always wanted to start with a friend, a meditation center and she just wasn't ready. So For me, that jump came two years ahead of time because there were changes at work and it just didn't work for me anymore. So suddenly a new situation comes and for a couple of years, I was a little bit bored. I have to say, Yes, I was writing books, and I was working with people, but there was always a feeling. You know, I wish I had three more hours of actual creative work to do because only so much spirituality I can do. But guess what, that was a very, very spiritual experience where I really went to the next level, understanding better about my own drive above my own cross patience above my own limits. And that's part of life. You have to if you're really interested in spirituality, and that's where the life coach starts differing from the spiritual coach. The Life Coach job is to make sure that that person is successful in the way that they want. Creating love, whatever it is that they want versus friendship quotes gets a little arrogant says, Whatever happens to you, you will learn a lot. For sure it's you know, I don't know, sometimes you have to build something and then afterwards you can have that arrogant perspective. Do you understand which direction I'm going?

Unknown Speaker 25:21

Now go ahead and give me a little more on that.

Christian Wiese 25:23

Okay, so I just saw the psychologist, the young cago stuff young, I think put it very well. He says the first half of our life journey, we develop the self.

The second half, you actually

Brandon Handley 25:40

had I had that I actually had that one.

Christian Wiese 25:42

I had that as a quote. And in the second half of the life journey, we start letting go, right. So as the Buddha which puts it over everybody else, but if you die before you die, felt kind of disappears. This integrates,

Brandon Handley 25:58

right yeah, not lost. Uh, you know, I never, you know, I've definitely always said, This ease but I'd never done this integrate. Right. Which, you know, right yeah, that explains kind of a lot.

Christian Wiese 26:19

Well, I feel bad it was like so let's take the example of when you bump into your colleague when that person says what she never says just out of the blue uses a ratchet she never used the point it's exactly the birth if you just read in that meaningful book at night, right? everything for you stops right just stared her. There are no thoughts. There is just that feeling of I can't wait to see where this is. This is going. So you see this is just an example of the self disintegrate the the knowledge that everybody talks about. You're so excited to be in the moment that innocence us Then, as an identity kind of get integrated into colleagues in the story in what's about to come. That's really the kind of, you know, living now. So it's not that you as a person disappeared, it's just that you literally just become out of it

Brandon Handley 27:16

when you become kind of the observer. Is that what you're saying? Yeah, you kind of

Christian Wiese 27:21

the actor, the everything.

Brandon Handley 27:24

And you're seeing all that at the same time. You're seeing it all at the same time. Is that what you're saying? That's

Christian Wiese 27:28

right. Yeah. And many people have thought experiences, it's just they never put in a spiritual meaning to answer just say, Wow, that was Mind blown. Yeah, sure. Sure.

Brandon Handley 27:41

I think I think that that's what you and or I or even religion provides is this kind of framework for when it does happen? That's right. Right. So because there's going to be this whole building of the ego to Carl Jung talking about that you're talking about there where you're going Go your whole life and it's gonna seem to fit everybody else's expectations, patterns, societal norms, but then there's going to be this threshold that you cross over, where you disintegrate with that identity of the self and you recognize the connectedness. That's right to everything. That's right. And if you don't know, this is where I think this is where I'm gonna play big is there's a bunch of over 33 million in the United States, right? last census not this last one. They don't claim any religion, right? So they don't have a framework for when this happens to them. That's right. So it's like, hey, it's okay. That's right. let's let's let's a let's figure out kind of, what's your what's your what's your background? And let's, let's steer you to a couple stories that reflect exactly where you are. Right.

Christian Wiese 28:52

Yeah, but more than that, if I could add on that, because I really think it's important for people like you and I and your viewers. Think of that. See? You that was brainwashed by his father mother to be somebody, you know, go to Harvard. Yeah, buddy, no be member of that golf club or whatever it is. And then you meet all those competitive people and you just put all your identity and building profits. And then there comes that moment and God forbid anybody, if it happens to anybody, but let's say the daughter certainly gets cancer. Can you just suddenly say, Whoa, I couldn't care less what the profit statement is, I need to make sure that my daughter is okay and that she gets healthy again, so that those life changing moments, but he didn't say, well, it's no longer about profit, but what is it about? And that I think is the opportunity to really have the people in the important places, CEOs, the upper management, the inventors creators, that they have that guidance of You know, moving towards a new model? Yeah. And I think if we if we get a few of those people, amazing change.

Brandon Handley 30:08

What's your what's your vision of a new model?

Christian Wiese 30:11

quantum new model is just the understanding that the economic model of scarcity is gone. That we live in a world of abundance that everybody has to find it and that's a spiritual journey because we have to start overriding the voices of our parents, the voices of society, the voices of our spouse, tables, Rosa, that's amazing thing. It's not an any spiritual folks always say us versus them. It's not true, or the unconscious person if it wasn't for the unconscious person.

It's not true, right?

Brandon Handley 30:45

We have growing Why is that not true? Let's Let's hit on. Why is that not true?

Christian Wiese 30:49

Well, it can be true in the sense that people get so annoying that we just say I have to leave. And then they're part of the process, but often, it is our own. As I said to you, my spiritual experience was for the last two years where I didn't have as much to do as, as I used to when I did exactly what you were doing having my nine to five job and then at night, you know, working streamer hours to get my books out, I suddenly realize you know, there is an inner void that I had to face. And yes, I was so cool at my work and I was so cool as a life coach and so cool in my writing, but you know what that coolness means something to me. And that's not I don't want people to project to me that's, that's not it. I have to find a way to to to face it in a void and of course the underdog it'll say meditation. You go invert, you discover the light within. The first part of the journey is we see the light without the second part of the journey is we discover the light within minutes. It's really not rocket science. So without It happens to everyone.

Brandon Handley 32:01

Well, you know, and but but it you know, it's still again, I think until you begin the journey until you kind of start to experience. It's not part of your peripheral, right? It's not it's not, it's not something that you're willing to accept. Yeah, that's right. I, you know, like I said to you earlier, I'm working on my, on some of my information, right? For kind of describing, because it's, this is a I'm building it as I go. But what does it say? I said, you know, spirituality. So this, you know, look, I'm, I'm talking to my generation, right? Mm hmm. But also, spirituality for the person that couldn't give a shit about it until now.

Unknown Speaker 32:46

Right, because,

Brandon Handley 32:48

until you until until you have had an experience, you're not going to be triggered to seek more and seek harder because you have had That experience.

Christian Wiese 33:01

I think those people are incredibly powerful and incredibly potent, because I do see a little problem as those very spiritual guys. Again live in their own head. Yeah, oh, you have to be a vegetarian. All you have to do all you have to do that, by the way, I am a vegetarian at moral grounds, but I eat a burger over the veggie burger. I do not feel any difference. However, on the moral ground, I'd say, yeah, it's not nice what we do for our animals. But the thing is, if you just live in your you have to feel it. If you just live in your head, you will always play those us versus them games and they're always different, us versus them never because the only insight of spirituality is we are all one. The critical voice that confronts us is us speaking to ourselves. We have to just find a way to either say I don't want to deal with her right now going a different direction not to say There must be a way how we can integrate our views because we have one. Right,

Brandon Handley 34:08

right right now. And I love that. I think it was for me to work with a particular group where I understood about, you know, cooperation and trust and supporting each other. And just like you were saying earlier, I feel like that's a place where, if you can't be or don't feel comfortable with being vocal about spirituality, you can apply spirituality. Would you say that that's true?

Christian Wiese 34:38

And don't talk about it, that the other mistake that the spiritual books say, they go out to the public and say, Oh, you just don't know the power of communication, the power of connectivity, the power of caring, don't say a word Just do it. Right. Because when you say something, the other person will say, Well, what a loony but the moment when you actually do it, The other person will take notice. And I do think there is incredible I mean, when it comes to the power of actually, I think it's a course in miracles that says creation is communication, which I think in our modern world is incredibly important because in a sense, it's all especially what you do. It's all about communication, connectivity, creative, creativity, caring for each other. So I had in the book, the four C's, as I called it, I think that that all applies for the modern society, especially the stuff that you're doing. And if you start using the experiment, I'm not an ego. Let me see if I think that the other guy ain't so bad. If I start with a premise, let me see what happened. In next day. The guy starts You know, taking the foreign advantages, okay, Soviet experiment wasn't, wasn't so successful. But in my experience, I did it for seven years. It worked like a charm. But it was a psychological experience. You felt the fear the other person felt the fear the getting together is a process. It doesn't happen overnight. But when you start out with that process, let me experiment those very powerful themes. A you will be successful. But if you do it on a higher level, if a CEO start saying, you know what we are all, we all talk the talk, but we don't walk the walk, right? We all say all we can take care of each other. But at the end of the day, whoever brings in the most money is the guy who gets promoted and whoever doesn't bring in the most money as a problem, right? Well, that's a very spiritual because it might be that this is support person, a blue guy who actually carries himself A team, right? But you only reward the guy who brings in the money. Sure. So if you really start with the premise, we are one unit. Let's take care of each other. Let's build something together. Let's have an incentive structure that really rewards true connectivity and trusting each other. I do think operations can go very far. Because when you really believe in the in the company you're working for you go out of your way to deliver when you think Well, my boss is just telling stories, and he doesn't care for me at all. And the moment when things don't go my way out the out of the door. You will not deliver the same goods that you do and I think it's a very powerful

Brandon Handley 37:48

100% hundred percent like, you know, I just left one company not too long ago, and that was the feel you nothing ever felt safe and secure. Right? Not for For top performers or bottom performers, nobody. So how are you going to perform on a consistent basis in that environment? versus where I'm at now, um, similar environment of me similar similar type of work. But, you know, like I said, the, from the top down, they're leading with spirituality, and they mean it. It's very powerful. It's also challenging to wrap my head around some of it, you know, because I'm just grown up with this other environment, right? So you've grown up in this other environment, you're like, Okay, well, you've got to adapt and somewhat rapidly, but it seems like what is this? So just going through a new wardrobe right here, you gotta try on these.

Christian Wiese 38:47

For anybody who has been trained by the modern Western model. You know, tough guys finish first. nice guys finish last and similar statements. America, it shouldn't happen. But the model that we are living, the Western society is living and the eastern guys are a little different. They're smarter than us. They have, they have a little bit more of that idea of oneness. And the Europeans are somewhere in the middle. So I know a little bit about it, because at work, I was covering Japan, which is really at the other extreme of the, of the spectrum. I live. I've spent now most of my life in the US, but I grew up in Germany. So I actually felt that I experienced was all three models, Europe, somewhere in between the Americans very much about the individual, and the Asians, the Chinese, the Japanese kind of really believing in the power of one, right. Every model has its strengths and advantages. I guess if you play football, you should believe in the proper cause. If you play golf, you should you should believe in the power of the individual. But if you're on a company, maybe some of the spiritual concept people make you a lot of money.

Brandon Handley 40:02

Yeah, no, no 100%. You know, just just again, going back to the point like when you show your teammates, you know, cooperation and you give them trust and you support them in, you know, give them some autonomy, right? Don't micromanage price and value their inputs genuinely. It's changes the whole dynamic.

Christian Wiese 40:29

They work from early in the morning until late at night if we need to produce something because they believe in, right?

Brandon Handley 40:38

Yeah. No, that's true. That's true. I wanted to hit you know, two more things here. The bliss point, you know, I think that's an interesting concept and idea, what would you you know, what would you say that that is, is there a specific one, there's definitely been numbers thrown about there. How can you tell that you are As your bliss point,

Christian Wiese 41:02

it's very complicated, then I do think you sometimes need a coach like you for that. Because you shouldn't short sell yourself. You shouldn't say all text is not good for me. That's what the book said, Oh, I shouldn't be greedy and shouldn't earn money. And I hate those capitalists who have that big house and right. No, that's a lot of repression in debts knew it could be true for some, maybe there are some monks, but there's a lot of repression. And I don't think that's spirituality at all. I think, again, going back to the young example, first you try to assert yourself, you say, I need a loving companion, I need a worker I can really express myself. I like because it's and I like big cars and I like to have a motorcycle. I want to have those three things. And then you try to try for 10 years. 15 years, maybe After the changes, you know what? I now understand the trade off. Yes, I could earn money but it doesn't give me meaning. Or maybe it's the kind of well I earn a lot of money and it gives me so much meaning. We can't say what happened to an individual, but everybody has to try to so the way I would put it is everybody has to create a garden, you know, the Garden of Eden, your own personal garden, and you figure out over the decades what it really is, that is important. We, of course, family men. I mean, to me, family is everything. No. But we both love creative expression and connecting with others.

Brandon Handley 42:39

Yeah, listen, I mean, that's that for me is so huge, right? I you know, we you said, you know, so we've used the word creative and creativity so often through here, you know, I think a lot of people are under the mistaken impression that creativity can only be applied to painting or drawing or writing? Where else can it be applied from your from your perspective?

Christian Wiese 43:05

Well, I was at work, as I said, I started out as an economist, but then I realized if I just put out an economic forecast, people say very interesting, but how can I make money? And you know, then you say, Okay, well, how can I help them making money and then you go into the direction of well, it's all psychology. As long as that line goes down, people are depressed, but the moment when it stops going down, that's the moment when markets get exciting. So it was about psychology about getting appealed for short term forecasts and how it can, can use it. And the most wonderful transition happened over those 20 years. 10 years I spent as a scientist, right. And then 10 years I spent as an artist, because then certainly when I came to psychology, it's but above feeling when it came to those lines that went up and down was literally taking the pencil thing I have a hunch that over the next couple of months, we will start seeing this. And I literally became an artist of have better pattern recognition is is as much an art as a science. And I immediately went into the artists position. So Can anybody be creative at Walmart? I don't know. You know, sometimes we have to leave certain places. But Can everybody within that job description can find ways to connect more to be more creative to really express themselves? Absolutely. Because I lifted I learned about I needed a long time for that, I hope with your help other people that can do it faster. I literally needed 10 years. But it's been a long time now, because I went from the left part of the brain to the right part of the brain. And you literally have to restructure your neurons to be to come out on the other side.

Brandon Handley 44:55

Now for sure, for sure. And I think Well, I think that with technology Today, not necessarily the, you know, compute power or any of these other things, but with the ability to listen to audios and go out and find what it is that is striking your chord. And you can go and you can do, you can build those neuron paths quickly. I pray, you can build this neuron pass quickly. So the others I asked about, like, you know, kind of, and I appreciate, you know, how you applied like the artistry to to your work and you became an artist in that space. But one of the, you know, you ended it with like, you know, the person at Walmart, can they be creative? Can they become an artist? I say yes, in the sense of, they create the experience. Right? You know, how do you create meaning in what it is that you do and the example that I use years ago, for me, was when I was banging around on Excel spreadsheets and press n Buttons every day as a man, all I do is I show it to work, I bang bang around on this machine, I press buttons, I say, what what are you really doing? And what am I really doing? And, you know, so for me, I was selling to a large service provider at that time. And I thought about the, the idea of what I was doing was enabling all the bits and zeros in like, everywhere that was happening because the work that I was doing was directly touching almost every bit of zero that you know, covered at least east coast. So, and, you know, I was like, well, who's at the end of the end of that today? I'm creating relationships today I'm enabling, you know, these things. So, I would say, you know, for the person that is at Walmart, and if they can create a happy experience that they can help somebody locate, you know, maybe racquetball for whatever for that person's dog. They're creating an experience and so they are In essence creating, it's your willingness to recognize your creative capacity.

Christian Wiese 47:06

That's right. I have a beautiful story that I share in the upcoming book, which will come out maybe later this year, early next year. It's called the daymaker. Did you hear that story? Now? Tell me about it. Okay, so there was a guy who was flying business class from Australia. And he was flying business class and he was sitting next to and you know, one of those very serious business type people and, and, and the guy said, so what do you do for a living? He said, Oh, I'm a daymaker. The guy looked at him as a daymaker. What are you okay, so it turns out, he was a hairdresser. But he said he had so much fun doing it and he had so much energy that, that he, you know, emitted in a sense he was doing He was making the day for people. And initially when you had to start this out a very interesting UI opinion of themselves, but then the start continues and says one day he was in this in a shop and a woman came one customer, she came two weeks ahead of schedule, it's out. Can you speak to me in Excel? Absolutely. And he said on that day, they both had a lot of fun developing support, and he presumed that she had a special event that you had to go through. So you know, they spent an hour together and then she went off. And a week later, she got a he got a letter from her saying that on that day, she actually wanted to commit suicide, but she kind of wanted to look good. And by just hanging out with that guy and feeling his energy, and you know, she always liked him, he decided not to. So you know, that really gives meaning to the word daymaker. And I think very much like your spiritual experience to see ones and zeros. If we just if we just start To remind ourselves what kind of input we have, right? I think that already would be out of this point.

Brandon Handley 49:06

Yeah, yeah. No, I love that story because the impact that you're having is so much greater than, than you're giving yourself credit for. That's right, right. That's wrong. So well, you know, so you've got the two books, you've got the way of the Meister that's out. You have the experience. Experiment. What's the other one? Because a magnificent experiment, magnificent experiment. And now you've got another one coming out. Yeah. What's up? Do you have a you have a working title yet?

Christian Wiese 49:34

Yeah, actually, we have a couple of books. So I mentioned my partner, we want to open a spiritual center and, and she has a mentor in Cape Town. And, and she has translated a book that deals with chick Gong. So the energy dynamics and we put out that that book because I think it really is addresses an area that that in our in our industry, I was almost tempted to say in our you know, in our profession is often overlooked the feelings of power feelings. So literally to understand the feelings that are going through it and having method of dealing with them. So that's one very exciting book, The title is letting go release your suffering. Okay. The other book is a little bit more into the philosophical direction that I started to discuss here a little bit. It's kind of what is religious state of no self, it's really the ultimate freedom so that the title of the book is breaking free. So really the discussing the next step in the spiritual journey that happens to everyone, which is just in a sense, becoming part of a bigger oneness, which itself increasingly being, you know, out of the picture, which is really a lot of fun.

Brandon Handley 50:54

Right, right. I mean, once you remove yourself and you know, I talked about it without One of my first podcasts is kind of letting go and letting God

Christian Wiese 51:02

Right. Yeah. Right. Same idea. Right. Do you want to talk

Brandon Handley 51:08

about spiritual center at all? I just got coming up. How's that looking for you? I think it's super exciting for you. How's it? How's that? How's that feel?

Christian Wiese 51:14

Yeah, so we got a little delayed with the COVID crisis, because, you know, meditation is all about hanging out with each other. We haven't done anything. She sits in Washington, DC. So the hope is we start something in Washington, DC, but we will only get a reading on that next year. Okay. This is just about getting the book out and hopefully, we'll build some momentum.

Brandon Handley 51:38

Awesome. I love it. I love it. So I think I think the book, both ones I've read, I've enjoyed and I think that they've helped me on my spiritual journey. They've helped me to, you know, see how you've gone through it right because others other Listen, people have gone through what you're going through for any listener out there, right. So no matter what you think you're going through Somebody has gone through this, you're not the first you won't be the last. That's right. It is a it is a wonderful, crazy experience. But there are people like, you know, I can reach out to Christian if I'm going through something and just talk about it right? And he's gone through it. A lot of the stuff that I've gone through or you're very good at helping give me direction at least feel like hey, maybe not me, but maybe maybe go you know, look in this area, here's, you know.

Unknown Speaker 52:27

And so

Brandon Handley 52:29

by reading your books, I can kind of see where my journey is going. And so I really enjoy that. So thank you for writing these books. Thanks you for sharing with with not just me, but with others, right? Your journey has been very, very helpful. Where should we send people to go kind of find you and get in contact with you?

Christian Wiese 52:47

No, I think the best way I mean, you can find me on Facebook, but otherwise, the best way is really my website. It's w w w dot Christian and then my middle initial which is m which is also the maesteg And then my last name visa.com. And they can find everything access to the books and to the block and and also to somebody who wants to work with me my services. So that's the best way of

Brandon Handley 53:15

awesome thanks for hanging out today.

Christian Wiese 53:16

Thank you so much for this

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Leah Vanderlinden | Accidentally Spiritual | Crystal Knowledge

Published: Aug. 30, 2020, 10 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 11 seconds

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The Three Best Secrets You Need to Know About Spiritual Integration

Published: Aug. 26, 2020, 7:14 a.m.
Duration: 8 minutes 44 seconds

What is going on spiritual dope Brandon Handley here the voice of a generation and today we're going to talk a little bit about int to Grecian int to gration, what's it mean to you? How can you feel integrated and of course, we are coming at this from the spiritual angle. So, you know, I got questions like do you have you ever felt like an annoyance or frustration. You know me perhaps you feel less than or a reduced sense of yourself as though who or what you are truly capable of being is right outside of your reach. Are you feeling a tremendous pressure within you as you unlock the truth of who you are, so that you know, so that you're accessing your tremendous gifts and unleashing them into the world and finally, finally, stepping into the being that you always knew existed within Look, you may certainly have a certain amount of contentedness and perhaps even a little bit of surprise with where you are in life today, given your absolute given the absolute novelty of your incredible journey. You may even be clapping yourself on the back because you've displayed perceived risks, right? And I say proceed. I play with that word a little bit perceived risks of choices that you've made in life. But the truth of the matter is, if you're being honest with yourself, it's been relatively easy, right? It's been relatively easy. And you may be wondering how the health of a little human being you was able to accomplish what you have accomplished with such relative ease. And you may even now be at the point where there's a threshold of wondering what it what it is that you could discover if you challenged yourself and I would dare say, even greater than challenging yourself. discover yourself recovering, receiving and accepting the truth of who you are. I'm going to go out on a limb here and, and guess that at times you've at least imagined yourself or currently believe yourself to be of divine origin, you may place the spotlight on this thought or concept. And if you had discovered it to be true, you may even be feeling as though you have multiple versions of yourself. Like there's the duplicity witness of who you are. There's many different versions of who you are. And a baseline you see yourself as both, you know, so we'll set that as a baseline and maybe you see yourself as a spiritual being. And maybe a material being you just just would just to regardless of how many different versions of yourself that you truly think that there are. And this is a dis a dis integrated sense of self and today, you'd like to feel the whole whole of who you Are all of who you are. A lot of people refer to this as, as this self, as your as your higher self, right? They wrap elements of vulnerability and other phrases like your true self and their questions like, who would you be if no one was watching or give me an example of a time in your life or a specific day or single experiment

Unknown Speaker 3:29
where you felt like you were doing what you were born to do.

Brandon Handley 3:35
This line of questioning and thinking helps you to tap into those aspects of your inner beingness that it's so often neglected. As you're so busy doing. You're so busy doing all the time you you just, you're not being who you truly are. For this next piece. I want to encourage you to realize and maybe accept or consider which cells You are willing to believe in? Is it the human thinking self? If it is that self that you are already aware of all the capabilities, you're already aware of all your human capabilities, thoughts and processes, what that self is capable of, simply by looking around and all that you've done, and become up until this point will give you the very example of what a conscious human is capable of doing of their human self. Right? And, you know, suppose you decide that you have again, at a base level, a spiritual self, is that self limited in any way? Does that self have any doubts? Does the spiritual self have any fears? Now, is this if the spiritual self detached from who you are in the physical world, I mean, is it a piece of you at all times or just sometimes it's great question. Is it possible to send just pure yourself anywhere. And for it to come back with a you know, with what it is learned? Can you send your spiritual self into the future? To see what it comes back with? Will it get injured? Will it be able to learn something for you? If it is possible to think, feel and believe this way at all? Is it possible to do this at any time? Could you could you hand your worries over to your spiritual self right could you hand your worries over to your spiritual self. And that self takes all of your worries, right? The self that grows your hair, the self that pumps your blood, the Celtic creates blood vessels, transforms light in the images in your in your head. You know, I can take that self, the one that creates new body cells to replace the old while you sleep. If you already tried your spiritual self or the life force or your divine inner self to take care of the small things that are daily keeping you alive, then what else? Is it? That what is your, what is within you? What else is that capable of what else are you capable of? The true challenge here is to rise to your level of thinking, right? Once your physical being is merged with your spiritual being, then you can decide to see things in this manner at all times, right? You ultimately change everything that you see. And essentially, all that you are and really that's the call to action this week or this time is to change the level of thinking, change your consciousness, when people talk about different levels of consciousness that that's what what is what is your mind focused on, people talk about a prosperity consciousness that means they're focused on prosperity. People talk about a lack consciousness that means that they're focused on everything that is missing. People talk about a god level consciousness, a spiritual level of consciousness. So, really, consciousness is what you set your mind and intention on becoming or allowing or seeing within your life. What consciousness Are you fostering? Which way are you integrating? All of who you are with all of who you are, what are you? What are you? What pieces are you neglecting? I find I found the number of people who have neglected their spiritual self and all that they're truly capable of, and they've limited themselves to this very physical knock on wood, the physical right next to you self, all that they can see or perceive right here with them. And when we think about the fact that 99% of the rest of the universe, we can't perceive we cannot perceive different you know, lights shades, smell sense. Other vibrations, right?

What else is out there that we're not currently aware of? And then you know, how do we become aware of those things and that's the challenge. Become aware of your spiritual self integrate it within you small applications or you know, put the small things at play integrated smally you're not going to be able to say, hey, and maybe you can write what what is your level of belief about what you're currently capable of, with your spiritual self with your Divine Self and continue to expand on that. And I think that you'll find it's a powerful way to live. So you're basically you're taking yourself and you're going, I'm taking my human being. I'm jumping the gap to my divine being

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Jeremy Todd | The Positive Side | The Resurrection

Published: Aug. 23, 2020, 11:39 a.m.
Duration: 44 minutes 47 seconds

Join in on the conversation as Jeremy Todd from The Positive Side Podcast joins me today. We talk about what its like to find your self through the process of book writing.

Want to touch base with Jeremy? Want to let him know how great he was to come on here and share the truth of who he is?

Please email him jeremy@jeremytodd.com !

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey there spiritual dope. This is Brandon Handley, the voice of a generation. I am on with my good friend, Jeremy Todd from the positive side, you may ask yourself the positive side of what of everything. positive side of everything Jeremy Todd and I, we go way back. So you've got the podcast positive side, you've got your coaching, you know, just high level executive success coaching, that you've been running for years now. And I've loved watching you kind of grow that business and continue to grow yourself. And we're going to talk today a little bit about leading your life from a spiritual angle and doing it so that you're having a more fulfilling more successful life. How's that sound to you?

Jeremy Todd 0:48
Oh, that sounds perfect. Thanks for letting me on your

Brandon Handley 0:50
show. jacked up and fired up. Yeah. Yeah, I decided that Jeremy I think was my very first podcast and and man We couldn't GS Remember, we're trying to figure out how to even like talk to each other. I think you had to record on your side, I had to record on my side on a child, like the cast was terrible. But the conversation was magic. And the magic continues before before we get going, right, so the first thing I like to start us off with is, you and I were conduits for you know, the creative source energy of the universe, right? And when we when we put these podcasts together, when you and I are connecting, we're not connecting because you and I, like have a good conversation and we like each other. Yeah, it's because some type of message it's got to come out of this. And it's got to come through you by being here today. What's that message that the university Sangeeta?

Jeremy Todd 1:44
Well, for me, it's, it's it's a message that I've been really resonated with recently. I've always been resonating with this message, but recently, it's more important than ever that you know, it's that authenticity and being comfortable with myself and really being with everybody out there. It's, you know, the spirituality part. to even be comfortable with that. I think there's so many obstacles in our way and so many negative things that pop up on a day to day basis in our life with craziness going on. And it takes away from who we truly are. And it takes away our message. It takes away our spiritual spirituality. And you know, I'm tired of it. I'm ready to go the other way. I'm ready to really double down on my spirituality and double down on the positivity. Yeah. Because dammit, I'm tired of the negativity. And the only way we're going to do it is we're going to lead from the other side. And, you know, that's the side I want to be on. I don't want to be on the negativity side. I want to just, you know, trust and believe in myself with thee with the powers that I have already within that, I think, and they've been clouded for years. They've been clouded in the now with the craziness. They're even more clouded. But not anymore. Dammit, I'm tired. I'm sick and tired of this stuff. And you know, we talked briefly before this started about one of the things and again, I'm going on tangent, so I apologize but

Brandon Handley 2:54
other things as a message that somebody needs here. It's coming through you.

Jeremy Todd 2:57
Yeah, you know, we talked about you know, I'm ready to That book and I'm not here to talk about the book, but really here I'm talking about is the exercise of writing. I've never done it. I've never wrote more than three pages in my entire life. And now that I'm actually trying to put ideas down on paper, it's allowing me to go through this process in my head that I've never really been able to truly, not only just understand, but comprehend. Because things happen in my life and things happen in your life and in everyone's life that they're so hard for us to understand. And I try my small little brain, try and figure it out. And then you know, you lose topics, you lose organization in your own mind, because you go off on tangents, you think about other things. But as this writing process happens, and this is I guess, the biggest thing for everybody listening is write down some of those ideas. I recently had a piece of paper and pen next to my bed. So when I'm sleeping, I get an idea, boom, I write it down. But it's just being more organized and then being able to revisit that same thought, when I will. When typically in the past, when I would have an idea. I would struggle my way through it or fight my way through it. And another Understand why is this thought in my head right now? And then I'd be done with it, I move on with it, and then it would come back. And then I wouldn't be as clear as I am. Right. So throughout this writing process process and writing these things down that I've gone through in my life, it's given me a better opportunity to understand, you know, what the meaning was, at the time in my life. Why was it brought to me at that time in my life? And what have I actually learned and where I can build from that at this point in my life? So, man, it's just in the last few weeks, last few months, I've just been really magical. And you know, that's why it just ties right into this podcast. I was excited to get on the show to really talk about these things and talk about the things that typically other people don't want to talk about it don't know how to talk about it, or they know how to talk about it, but they're scared to talk about it. And I think that's a bigger thing. How am I going to get judged? Are these Yeah,

Brandon Handley 4:44
am I weird? You know, to me, this is a you know this. So first of all, thanks for sharing that message. To me. It sounds like a message of you know, trying to reacquaint yourself with yourself. Yeah, exactly. And it's also trying to capture Those images that you create in your mind when they're clear, and they're vivid, and they're fresh on a piece of paper so that at least when you come back to them, you capture the full essence of what that image was. And because those, those little flashes of insight are just so powerful. And if you don't write them down, like you're saying, when you come back to it, it's a faded version of what it was when you first saw Yeah, you're like, this doesn't seem nearly as potent as it was, like, 45 minutes ago, right? Yeah,

Jeremy Todd 5:30
exactly. Or I could completely forget about it. And then I'm like, damn it. What was that idea that I have? It's so powerful, for sure. Now, I can't remember it. All right,

Brandon Handley 5:38
that's Tammy. It's amazing. Like I'm just like little little short bursts of like, capacitor energy, like, you know, that's the I don't know what you know about electronics, right? But uh, so there's little capacitor there that the energy gets stored in so that when you take a picture with the flash, right, it's a high burst of energy in that capacitor. Okay. But then it dissipates. And it takes a while for it to fill back up.

Jeremy Todd 6:03
Right? Yeah, yeah, yeah, exactly. Exactly. Oh, this isn't. And, you know, I just think that the journey that I'm on now it's one of the most powerful and exciting journeys I've ever been on my entire life because this is exactly like that. It's those ideas that I've never been really, really processed throughout, in my own head. And I've also mentioned this a lot lately is that, you know, I believe I have all the right answers already within me. But when I'm clouded by the darkness, or the negativity or just being busy, or all the other bullshit excuses, I can put in my own head and give myself away out. It just I've never really had the opportunity to sit down and be within myself and work my way through this and discover the answers that are right there in front of me. You know, like meditation.

Brandon Handley 6:44
You know, first of all my own throws out at you right? In this book. I love this book. It's called a more beautiful question, right? We have been taught to have answers, right. But one thing that we haven't really been taught well, and I haven't been taught well, right is how to ask better questions how to ask like those. Sure, deep questions. And if we don't ask those if we don't if we don't learn how to ask, we don't learn how to kind of do that deep seeking, right? I mean, that's part of coaching though, too, right? Like the reflective aspect of coaching. I want to I do want to lean back here for a second because you talked about being afraid to lead with like that. That's spirituality, right with that, because that could be perceived weird. And that was really kind of something I had held myself back with. Right. And I'm super glad to hear like that, you know, you you've been looking for a place to have that conversation. You've been looking for a place to have that kind of it's not necessarily exposed, but who can I talk to? That is going to understand where I'm coming from with this stuff.

Unknown Speaker 7:49
Hey, Brittany Haley. Absolutely. Hundred

Brandon Handley 7:51
percent. Right. Absolutely. And, and, and then like, you know, there's zero judgment from that, too. It's like, all right, yeah. I hear what you're saying. And I I agree with, you know, everything you're saying. And and the question becomes like, Okay, this is where you're at, just like coaching, right? Where do you want to go? What do you want to do with this knowledge? You know it, right? Yeah. Now it's, you know, that's what you want to do. So you're doing it through a process a book, right?

Jeremy Todd 8:18
Yeah, you know, and I think it's also understanding and just really have the mental capacity of understanding that, and I love this quote is vulnerability. vulnerability is my strength. By being vulnerable, being who I am and being being weird and quirky, that's my strength. And I've always shied away from that, like, you know, it's, it's, it's maybe not what so and so thinks I am or I don't want to get judged and all those other bullshit things that come in your head, but at the end of the day, none of that matters. And actually, the more authentic you are with yourself, the more powerful you become. And it's taken me a long time to even understand that point of it because, gosh, I mean, all these answers that I'm thrown out there within my life, people are attracted to me more now than they've ever been because it is different. It's what people have always wanted to do but they can't they don't have the power now they see, you know, they see you and they see me doing it. They're like, you know what, maybe it's okay. Yeah, those conversations are awesome to

Brandon Handley 9:08
know. It's always awesome to you know, and I know that even when I started on the father for the rest of us podcast, I was like, Alright man, step into your power. Yeah. Right. And, and but this is so when I met Jeremy guys, ladies and girls, ladies and ladies and gentlemen, I met Jeremy in person years ago at a, you know, a podcast meetup. And one of the things that stood out to me about Jeremy was, you know, you talked about having to have 100% faith in yourself, and belief in yourself. Sounds to me and you know, I'm not trying to be judged. You're not though it sounds to me like you kind of got disrupted with some of that, like over the past couple years, right. And that's been something that's kind of been eating you away, but now you're finding kind of a Marie Newell. of this. I'll call it you know, faith and self, you know, self belief. Is that what I'm here coming? Because I mean, you're bringing the energy so

Jeremy Todd 10:08
well, there's no question about it. And I think the biggest thing is, you know, it's that old saying act as if, And hey, if I'm gonna be honest, completely honest with myself, I've always tried to just keep telling myself Hey, everything's gonna be fine. If it's gonna be good. I'm gonna be super positive, but I've never really dealt with the reality of what I'm actually dealing with in within my soul. So, yeah, yeah, hey, that's me. And yes, I strive to stay motivated to stay positive. But man, it's those darker things that I've never really faced in the past. And now I'm to a point in my life that I just don't give a shit. Now. I mean, I just the more and more I self analyze myself, the better I become, and the stronger I become, and the happier I am. I've had this realization recently to it, and I'm doing right, a lot of writing about fear. And one of my fears was always about fear of being alone. And I really analyzed that about, you know, there's two ways, the initial way I looked at that Was selfishly the eagle Tell me why don't want to be by myself physically, like, like, I always want to have a partner with me. You know, I want to have a girlfriend, I want to be married, I want to have all this stuff. So I always felt like ask me, who what am I gonna do if I'm alone? I mean, how can I take care of myself? So it was all physical. Really the hard part of that one of the what I've really understood now is it's not the physical part of being alone. It's the mental part of being alone. How can I be alone with myself my own thoughts, I've got more time than ever now I've actually got to face these things. face these things that have always been right in front of me. All these things that I you know, my self doubt myself. You know, I'm critical of myself constantly. I don't think I'm this or I don't think I'm good enough or smart enough. So all these things now that I've understood that the fear of being alone wasn't the physical part is the mental part. And now that I'm facing that part of it, it's allowed me to grow exponentially. Because as I go through these things, I become happier with myself. I'm becoming my own best friend. Sure. And I think That's so powerful that you know we always and again this is me, I always thought I had to have that person Sure. Instead of understanding that I'm good enough and I can be my best friend and that was

Brandon Handley 12:10
that I think that there's a there's a huge there's a huge that that's how we're brought up man right we're brought up the chaser relationship once you've got that great relationship you become whole type of thing and you know two people complete each other and all this other jazz right but you know, that may be the end and then then the end result but those two people come together I love I think it's Wayne Dyer that talks about Thank you don't come together as two halves and create a whole you come together as two people. You're still two people. Right? With with Yeah, individuality is you got to come together as two whole people, right, loving yourself as for who you are and and before other people can love you. Correct. You

Jeremy Todd 12:55
can't come in halfway. You got to come in 100% because no one's ever gonna fill that void. That's something that's taking me a long time to really just wrap my head around that concept because I don't know what it was. I don't know if it's just a switch one day. I'm like, you know what, that doesn't make any sense. I mean, I kind of enjoy being alone, actually. I mean, it's all good. But man, oh, man, the more you get, you know, alone and you start thinking your way through Why don't you like little stuff? Jeremy, why don't you know why don't you give yourself excuses for not going to the gym? I enjoy the gym.

Brandon Handley 13:25
I heard you know, so here's what I mean. Let's talk a little bit about it. I know that I heard you kind of busting your balls on on your podcast about like, you know, setting up excuses for yourself and realizations and you know, your own but yeah, and weighs out more than anything. But let's talk about you know, endless I mean, that's, that's, that's, that's everybody, right? That's every human that's out there does this to a certain degree. What I want to talk about those like, you know, kind of what you're talking about is is kind of leading with spirituality where you you know, you've accepted the power within you, right? Yeah. And, and so let's talk about What that means to you?

Jeremy Todd 14:02
Well, I mean, it's almost for accepting the power of me is is tough because I don't know if I've accepted all the power within me. It's almost like I'm hitting, you know, analogy. I'm going going down a big hill and I still hold my hands on the brakes, not willing to completely let go. I'm going fast. We talked about earlier, take the hands off the steering wheel and just let it go. Right, right. I am. I'm getting closer. I believe in myself more now than ever. And, you know, you know, just to say, you know, I wouldn't enjoy some wins, and not that I've never had wins in the past, but I want to enjoy a win on the spiritual journey that I'm on now. Maybe it is when I get that book out. That'd be a winner in the accomplishment. Maybe I don't even know what what will it be, but it's almost like I'm just, this is the path I need to go on. Yeah, I feel comfortable with this path. I don't know what the end result looks like. But I've never felt so good about this path that I'm on that I've ever been in my entire life.

Brandon Handley 15:04
So let's talk. Like, let's talk a little about, like, so it's like you're kind of you're kind of shading your own light is what I'm hearing. Right? So you're kind of shading your own light. Because it's, it's a little scary to admit that what you feel inside is greater than anything that you've ever felt before.

Jeremy Todd 15:21
So exactly, right. Right. It is it is. You know, it's the self, you know, then you have the self, where am I worthy enough? You know, and these things are just there. And again, I'm not trying to say who was me and but believe me, it's the positive side guy, you know, I'm all good. But you know, in a different space, right? You're just so you're feeling when you dial down deep into it. Mm hmm. start identifying different things. It doesn't change who I am as a motivational guy, inspirational guy, but it's this new journey that I love picking this part about just to get better. And I love it. And love is challenging. It's difficult. It's extremely hard. And it's the best challenge I've ever been on in my entire life and Because of the decisions I've made in my life, they all brought me to this exact point for a specific reason. And I'm excited about where this is gonna go.

Brandon Handley 16:08
Would you call it the serve resurrection of Jeremy Todd?

Jeremy Todd 16:11
I kind of feel like that man I really do. It's it's doing things that I enjoy doing. If I don't want to do something, I just don't do stuff. I don't know how to even explain it.

Brandon Handley 16:20
But don't do things that don't bring you life. Right. Why would you?

Unknown Speaker 16:22
Yeah, yeah, exactly.

Brandon Handley 16:24
And I think that though, you know, there's also there's a precipice here, there's a there's a, there's definitely caveats to this message, right? This is once you kind of step into this space that you're in, because prior to that people would take that as meaning Well, I'm gonna go out and I'm gonna get wasted. I'm not going to do work yada, yada yada. That's not what we're talking about here. Correct. We're not talking about going out and doing whatever you want. I'm gonna go streak and I'm gonna windows and all this other stuff. You can do that. Don't get me wrong. I have a blast right there. Done that right. Don't be a jerk. Um, but talking about, you know, what are the things ones that are fulfilling you right and looking for those and then adding more of those moments in your life is that we're talking about here

Jeremy Todd 17:07
is exactly what I'm talking about and it's doing little stuff that I want to do like I you know, I went on that trip to Ireland by myself. Yeah, man, that was the coolest thing in the world but no plans just hit said hey, I'm going by myself I don't know anything. I don't know anybody. I don't know where I'm going but I'm just gonna go do it I'm gonna handle and it was a blast. I'm trying to plan my next trip and this is totally totally off the wringer but I want to go hunting for some reason never been hunting in my entire life. Right. Well, my buddy Dustin bond working you know, Dustin. Yeah, so I'm gonna go out and see Dustin Vaughn warranty and he doesn't know it yet. But I'm sure to plan a trip down to go go down to Texas and go haul Connie. Nice. I mean, I've never shot a rifle before in my life. But it just sounds interesting to go out and and again, I'm not trying to sound horrible but kill an animal. But actually not just killing the same. See, let it like actually consume the animal. And again, you know, hey, I'm eating you know, we all eat hamburger and cheese. And we don't actually see the beginning process. I mean I'm excited about the the mental journey I go on when I physically kill another animal and then consume that animal. What does that do with my perspective on day to day life with what may go and do you know, whatever, go to the restaurant get a hamburger. No.

Brandon Handley 18:18
It's a rite of passage for you is What is

Jeremy Todd 18:21
it? Yeah, it's just something different that I've always thought about to see what that process is actually, like, instead of just Hey, I'll take a hamburger. The hamburger comes you don't ever see any of that you don't see the cow Walker? You don't see it as a baby cow. Come on. Oh my god. It's so pretty and it grows up and you don't see any of that. Yeah. And I'm just really trying to get in touch with everything into my life. And that's just one small area that I can do it and hey, let's see how it goes. I don't I

Brandon Handley 18:45
mean, that can be that could that could very well turn you into a vegetarian you never know. Well, because I'll tell you I had an experience growing up as a kid I got the BB gun and there was sitting in the backyard of my grandparents house. There's a was like a little bird said On the mulberry tree, right? Yeah. And I shot it, but then when I shot it like there was this thing that kind of just went through me it was so weird, right? Like when you Yeah, you know you're ending something else's life that look, we all step on bugs, right? we all we all flesh ticks. But yeah, it has something to do with like this this this bird right and and you know other lives. So you know it's an interesting it is definitely an interesting experience to take another life and I mean, it's very different than fishing. Right fishing Yeah, sure, sure. Same thing, but you don't the same thing, right? You're taking something out. Take taking something that was natural element and eventually you're killing it and consuming it. Yeah, right. I mean, there's no, there's no way to sugarcoat that's exactly what you know. But at the same time, it's really, I think important. What it sounds like is you want to go on or that process and experience it for yourself. I mean, yeah,

Unknown Speaker 19:59
exactly. And

Brandon Handley 20:00
how's that any different than mine ground beef?

Jeremy Todd 20:05
Yeah, exactly. Oh, yeah, I would never shoot an animal but I'm gonna go buy chicken or meat. Okay, I have a big have a big steak, okay, hey, I get all that but it's just something I've thought about and I'd be really interested about the spiritual part about that is in how emotional is it going to be for me because I'm a big, I'm a big nerd. I'm a big softy. I mean, I'll probably cry

Brandon Handley 20:26
like a little baby. I think it's interesting. Um,

Jeremy Todd 20:28
but you know, if I'm going to kill it, I'm going to consume it. And I'm not going to just leave it out there and just waste it. But I'm also a big believer of everything you eat that you take the spirit of that animal to so the garbage food you do take on that animal spirit and that soul in that process, so if I go out to an animal and kill it, I'm taking on that animal soul. And I'm interested to see how that's gonna make me feel a little bit differently when I actually eat the meat is gonna be a little bit different, like, the whole process is just something

Brandon Handley 20:59
I'll never know. Doesn't, I'm definitely interested to see kind of how that turns out for you. Right. And and the thing is main thing is, is not everybody's journey is the same, right? Your journey is your journey. And like I said, I'm enjoying, I'm joined kind of the space that you're in. Because it sounds like you're kind of at this front end of it, exploring it more, you expose the, you know, call it the light, your spirit, whatever, within you accepted it. And again, now you're like,

Jeremy Todd 21:29
now what? Yeah, yeah. And that, and that's, I don't know if there's a right or wrong answer or direct explanation. But you know, it's interesting, you know, and obviously, you don't be pretty well in full disclosure, you know, coming out of a long term marriage. And, you know, it's interesting when you're in a long term marriage, and again, my perspective, no one else's perspective, but you begin to and this isn't all marriages, this is again, I'm just being very vague with this, but you begin to not develop as the person that you truly Are you almost become two people into developing and as one not this isn't anything wrong with that totally cool. But I feel like I've went down that farce down the road for so many years and so long that I'd never really identify with who I actually am because getting married at a young age, you develop each other's lives through each other through through each other's experiences and preferences and opinions and, and again, not to say there's nothing wrong with because it's shaped me to who I am today. But going through that whole process and now being and again, go back to that fear of being alone. That's part of this process is figuring out who am I actually, what do I actually enjoy? What actually does scare me? I don't know those answers yet. And again, I'd love it that I don't know the answers. Yeah. And I don't know if I'll ever know the answers because part of that process of trying to figure it out, develops the person that I truly am going to become Sure. It's like chasing, you know, chasing the sunset. You're never going to get But it's always bright and always looks good and I'm all for it. Yeah, but I mean, but hey, man, I it's exciting Dude, I I couldn't be happier. I couldn't be more excited about the future scared about the future all at the same time. But, man, if anybody out there, listen to the show, it's just an opportunity to really dive down deep within yourself and figure out who you truly are. And there's and the other thing about that is not that I have to say, but there's no right or wrong answer to that. It's not about I'm the right person or this is the wrong person. I was right. No, right or wrong. It's Who am

Brandon Handley 23:33
I? The important thing is what you're saying there is eliminate the judgment. Right? Don't judge don't judge who you are. Don't judge the experience. Just

Unknown Speaker 23:45
be

Brandon Handley 23:47
right and it's really and again, that's something that unless and until you do it, it's a very it's very, it's a that's a very interesting experience. Um, and I you know, I picked that up through headspace, right and meditation and it was like, Don't judge. It was like it was there was a I forget one of the meditations, but even at the very, very beginning, like, Don't judge XYZ don't judge this. And while I'm sure I never thought of myself as judging before, I recognize the difference between judging my thoughts and experiences versus not. And when you're not judging them either good or bad. There's like an elimination of like weight on attachment to that, because when you judge something as good or bad, you're investing emotional energy into that. And that's a hook.

Jeremy Todd 24:33
Yeah, that's well said. I mean, you're exactly right. Because when you use explain to court exactly perfect, because when you do put those emotions on things, they are heavy, and you don't need to put any emotion on them. These are the things that have happened. These This is what the decisions I've made in my past. This is who I am not right, they're not wrong. And it's interesting when you talk about judging people because we're judging. The first thing you always automatically is thinking about judging other people, but the first person you can't judge yourself. And we always skip ourselves, you know, it's like, oh, man, I'm gonna judge that person. I won't judge that person. But this person, we got to not judge ourselves and what has brought us to this point in our life is all the good decisions and the quote unquote bad decisions.

Brandon Handley 25:14
Well, I'll tell you, I'll tell you, you know, what I kind of what I kind of got it down to was, you know, I tried really hard and made a lot of stupid mistakes. Right, and, and growing up, and the things that I did the things that I put in my body, the experiences I put myself through, and if I'm still here today, yeah, there's a reason. Reason. Yeah. And so I'm exploring that my purpose changes. My purpose changes the month the meanings change, but I investigate that right. I investigate that and it sounds like again, this is kind of where you're at, right? You're investigating Jeremy's purpose. You're investigating Jeremy's self identity. And I'd like to, you know, separate those two words. myself right your yourself those are two separate words right those are two ways now when you separate those two words and you break down what is your self that's your inner being I mean you look up the dictionary self is like your inner being right yeah and and so that's the piece that gets so neglected man and you know we show up in our you know late later ages nothing is all beat the hell it's like it's like it's like you show up with a used car lot there's the one that's like got leftover because because they didn't even want to take this wasn't one it's another

Unknown Speaker 26:33
is yeah

Brandon Handley 26:36
nothing left on it right. And now we're like, I can resurrect this bitch. Yeah,

Jeremy Todd 26:41
yeah hundred percent. Well I think one of the biggest things like you were talking about there is that when when you are 100% comfortable with yourself. It gives you the ability to when other people come into your area. If you have a high level of your you know, your energies are super high. And then they're clean too, because you can have a high energy and not even understand your high energy. So when you're high energy and you've cleaned you have got no clouds of your head, and then someone else comes, approaches you you can sense their energies in one second. You know exactly what's going on. Hey, I can tell you're going through some stuff What's up? No, I'm not. Yeah, er, because I can feel it.

Unknown Speaker 27:19
Right, right. And then

Jeremy Todd 27:20
all of a sudden it starts spewing all these things that's going on because when you're super, super clean, and you have that high energy, man, you just see life differently. That's a different perspective. There's a lot of things that come to you that you're Yeah, you're blank, your brain would block before but now it doesn't block cc more you're more aware you're more alert and you just see the world in different way. It's it's powerful. It's it's the same as

Brandon Handley 27:45
saying the two is when you kind of release the fear and come at it with a clean energy. You're open and receptive things because you're you're not goes back to judgment. You're not cringing yourself. You're not afraid of that person. Because you're good with who you are

Jeremy Todd 28:03
correct? Yeah, you know, it's so funny having conversations with people now that you male, female, whatever the case is, and they don't want to tell you a story. I don't want to tell you that because I don't want you to think of me as this. I truly would never think of any differently than what we have right here. Right? I don't care what you did in your past. I don't care what happened because hey, what the past what you brought you to me, and now we're having this conversation. I don't judge. But people don't people. You know, it's almost like

Brandon Handley 28:30
if your story is funny and crazy, I'll tell you. Yeah. It was crazy, though. Yeah, but you did you did that. Exactly. Okay. Right.

Jeremy Todd 28:39
But again, there's no reason to charge anybody anything because we're all of our spirits are completely different. But we're all here. Like you said, we're all here. Everything just bad decisions. I made, quote unquote, bad decision. This brought me to this point right now and I couldn't be any happier.

Brandon Handley 28:52
Right? So I mean, talk to me how you feel, you know, a big part of this is leading with spirituality to for a more fulfilling life. Tell me how you feel like you're doing that now?

Jeremy Todd 29:03
Well, I think it's direct reflection of, of, of my podcast. I mean, I and again, I'm not here to promote promote my podcast but that's that's really what I do is I really promote a peaceful spirit, a peaceful body peaceful soul and being authentic and be comfortable who I am and experiencing that and telling people, it's going to be okay. Hey, I've got this podcast that I tell people, the most honest, brutal stories in my life. But I don't expect any judgment from anybody. I don't judge myself for the experiences I've made. But I'm living from a spiritual peaceful place them coming out just to help others. And I can't tell you how many emails responses I get from people all over the world that just call me randomly email me randomly Jeremy changed my life. Thank you so much. That you know I was going through tough times with the COVID I had a young lady that's in Las Vegas she emailed me two weeks ago and said Jeremy changed my life. I was searching for a motivational podcasts. I searched positivity and yours came up. And I was blown away. I lost my job. You know, I have no money. I've got a young child at home. I don't know what to do, right? But just having that mental spirituality, that peacefulness well come over to you, man, I'm telling you just makes a big difference and we will talk about it enough.

Brandon Handley 30:23
I think that um, you know, a piece a piece of that, right? Like, can talk to me like a little bit about what you're feeling when you say spirituality because here's another thing that, you know, I'm, I'm kind of tripping over the past few days, is when somebody says they're spiritual, but like, they don't believe in God or a higher source. There's like, I'm spiritual. I'm like, no, not. Because like that answers. It's void of weight and substance right sometimes. Sure. And so, you know, that's why, you know, I saved you. So when you're saying spiritual, to me, what do you what are you saying?

Jeremy Todd 31:00
I have a secret question. I am agnostic at best. I believe there's a higher power that I believe there's a higher source. I believe everything in my life happens for a specific reason. This is why I'm here. I don't think my mind is or my brain is big enough to comprehend what all is going on. What I do know is that everything that's happened in my life has happened for a specific reason. Whether that being a higher being whether that being God, whether that be Butoh, I mean, I've studied every possible type of religion in the world. But I believe there is something else out there, there has to be. And and again, I don't know what that answer is it. It's hard for me to comprehend. It's hard for me to work my way through it. But what I do know is that I continue to do what I believe is the right thing to do. Everything always has worked its way out every single time in my life. It always has and always will. So when you talk about my spiritual for a specific, you know, white God on top of the cloud with a white beard, right, that's not my spirituality

Brandon Handley 31:58
now, but it sounds like you've got a There's a grand design greater great. There's got to be like a universal intelligence that has kind of a design aspect. Otherwise you would have driven off the road that night. Otherwise you wouldn't have made it home safely that one time. Otherwise, you know, I mean, I do

Jeremy Todd 32:17
know. Okay, so it's it's a tricky thing to think about. Because, you know, typically when you hear the word spiritual, you're on Jesus and God and then well, that's the thing is that my spirituality? I'm sorry. I mean, it's great. And I and I respect that. I respect all religions respect everybody, but it's just not what I believe I

Brandon Handley 32:36
was just not the one that speaks to you right now. Right. So

Jeremy Todd 32:40
yeah, no judgment, obviously. no judgment. Yeah. So

Brandon Handley 32:42
so for me more and more recently, right. It's come to kind of my attention, right that this, every one of these religions is just kind of a framework to the place where you've gotten to right now place where I've gotten to right now. So we've got a set of have potential instructions. If we were to arrive at this point in our lives right now and be like, I'm freaking out, man, I know there's something inside me it's coming out. I liken it to like being a seed to write like, our bodies are spiritual seeds, right? This is this cell right here, right? And that you know sounds to me too like again I'm just I'm just coming pulling shit on my butt but like it sounds to me like you know that that spirit within you is starting to on fertile right just like a C correct and a show and there's no stopping it right it's like it's like asphalt doesn't stop like a grass seed from cracking through it, right? Yeah, exactly. And so you've got like this you've got like this life energy right now that is just unfolding, and you're letting it unfold within you right now.

Jeremy Todd 33:49
Right? And you know, there I've also you know, looked into there's a lot of studies or a lot of free legends have said that, that there is no god we are all our own God. Our God is within ourselves. We have all greatness we all we are everything that we want to be in candy. We just have to access that and work our way through it. That's another thing that you know, again, maybe that's the answer.

Brandon Handley 34:12
So so I can help you out with this one. Right and you just just from personal experience, right. So I'm in, But to your point earlier to what degree like you know, like I like you know, I'm holding the wheel just in case, right I actually got this number right, right, right. But it actually Joe dispenza Oh no, I think it was rah rah Robin Sharma or Joe dispenza. I've got 210 minute pieces that I listen to all the time from both of those guys to send them to me. Absolutely man. So one of his like you if you rise to your level of thinking, Okay, okay. So, if you rise to your level of thinking and your current level thinking is that you are a human being What's your maximum potential? Right here? maximum potential is your whom human being potential, which sometimes seems limited. Okay with that, well, if God is everything or you know, is it even within me then there's something godlike within me, right? At least I'm attached to God somehow and I'm a part of that. Now I've got a different level of thinking. Right? Because now my being has changed. Right? Or, you know, again, you know, we can you can play with like, which beingness are you right now? Yeah. hanging out in divine being right. I salute the Divinity within you right now. mistake. Sure,

Unknown Speaker 35:40
sure. So,

Brandon Handley 35:42
if you're a divine being, then you also are willing to accept grace, which is divine strength, outside strength, right, and kind of so that changes your level of thinking, I look at everybody as a divine being, right. So can we agree more, if we've got that and that's my level. Thinking, what's to stop me?

Jeremy Todd 36:02
Nothing. So I mean yourself. I mean, your your, your ego? I mean, I don't know. I mean,

Unknown Speaker 36:08
if you let that go, I mean, that's all stuff, you gotta let go.

Jeremy Todd 36:11
There's no question. You know, I think it's all those things that that that continue to work on is letting that go. But it's not. It's not like hitting a switch. It's not like often, you know, it's a process. Yeah, it's, that's what I love about it.

Brandon Handley 36:22
It's a slow build, you know, it's just like anything else. This is kind of a you know, and you can change again, you're like, Alright, well, you know, ratchet that different thinking, but if you rise to your level of thinking, What are you thinking about yourself? Right? Again, I'll separate those two words. Sure. What are you thinking about yourself? Is that is that an XYZ nature if it you know, what, what nature of the self? Are you sure? Yeah,

Jeremy Todd 36:48
no, I get it. It's a tough topic to talk. I mean, I don't want to say it's even tough. It's just for me, it's just working my way through that mental process. And I think to myself, Well, imagine what you know, like Three years ago, you know where I'm at now versus three years ago, were just gonna be three years from now. I mean, man, it's just working your way through this and getting better and getting smarter and getting stronger, and getting more free. I just I just love I just love life, man. I love the love the journey. I love the conversations. I love the deep topics. I just miss what we're here for. Right? Bam. So, again, I

Brandon Handley 37:22
feel like that's kind of where you're at. Right? you're you're you're working on this kind of determining, yeah, who the self is right? And then like, how are you harnessing it right, you're stepping into your power and making that determination for yourself every day? Yeah, I mean, tell me like I'll place you. Where's the practical application for this for yourself? Like where someplace you've applied this like way of thinking.

Jeremy Todd 37:48
I did everything. I mean, literally, I literally I mean I go to work. I'm that weird guy. I do my podcast. I'm not different do as a parent. I think that's one of the most powerful places you can do. It is not get caught up with Like being you know, I'm not I'm not a guy that's gonna like, I guess parenting is different for me than a lot of other people that I see because I had these deep conversations with my kids. And I tell them that, hey, it doesn't matter what happened, you know, if you made a mistake, it's okay. It's not a mistake. It's a learning process. It's becoming the better person that you are. My kids are weird. And I love it. I love them for it weird to society. You know, they're weird. Yeah. But they're brilliant. They're smart. And we have these deep conversations. And that's probably the most important thing that I can push on to them is that you know that the power of who they are the power of what they look like the power of their, their selves. The more with kids getting beat down over social media, their friends, and we're talking to them about different stuff that other parents aren't talking to our kids about. They can deal with this every day and this is not an easy conversation for them either. But the more we have it, the more we understand that that is okay and the stronger they become at a younger age. I would you know, no disrespect to My parents, but I would never had these conversations with my kids when I was a kid. You know, it wasn't even thought

Brandon Handley 39:04
of you never had that conversation. different times. Right?

Jeremy Todd 39:07
Correct. But you know, hey imagine 30 years from now what are my kids gonna be look like by having these conversations now? Hopefully I'm around for but my kids are gonna be so much more well off more happier within themselves more comfortable with who they are, and not get caught up in the craziness. That is that is life. So, right. That's by far the number one thing by far

Brandon Handley 39:29
your parenting so your planet, you know, and your parenting life. This is

Jeremy Todd 39:32
weird parenting, though it's just different and not weird, or it's just different parenting different from what you grew up with. Right? Yeah, and as many people do, but man, I just think it's the most powerful thing you can do right now is to teach that to your children. about spirituality. What does it mean? What does it mean to them? What does it look like? What do they believe? And then not bashing them? Like, you know, I was born and raised Catholic. That's the that's the only way you thought was born, raised Catholic.

Unknown Speaker 39:54
Sure. Jesus died on the cross God blah, blah, blah,

Jeremy Todd 39:57
Heaven and Hell and all that good stuff. That was all Have you thought anything different? You were on Galston?

Unknown Speaker 40:03
Yeah. But what literally?

Jeremy Todd 40:05
Yeah, literally Yeah. Yeah. I mean, literally you were, I mean, kicked out of school, this kid, this kid's got something wrong with them. But in reality, that's not the case. And again, I think that's one of the most powerful things that that I'm doing right now. And, you know, the mother of my children does, we're on the same page for that, too. So it's great. I mean, it couldn't be any better right now.

Brandon Handley 40:24
That's cool. So just integrating it with your daily life is kind of how you're applying it practically. And

Jeremy Todd 40:30
yeah, you know, again, it's it's it's easier said than done. I know, but I'm doing so often. I love the reactions i get i give such different opinions on different topics in different situations that I don't care what anybody says, This is how I truly feel. This is my opinion. It's not right or wrong, right. But I may see something different than may open someone's up someone's eyes instead of falling in line. That's what we get to do. This is what this is, you know, going to church on Sunday. You're doing this you're doing it. Oh, I mean, I am and I support that to do your thing.

Brandon Handley 40:59
Well, yeah. Yeah, look man, like, like we said, Yeah, everybody's path is their own path. Right. Yeah. I think that that's I think that you know, when they created this country that was the pursuit of happiness right the the freedom was a religion was those things right was you know, hey listen this is a true thing. A lot of us Christians here but uh you know

Jeremy Todd 41:23
that now religion one of the greatest the constitution one of

Brandon Handley 41:26
the greatest things ever and I love it Listen man I think there was a powerful document right and i think that that's just another one of those things that we take for granted.

Jeremy Todd 41:33
Right? It is and it's freedom of speech freedom of I mean for women they carry handgun freedom, you name it freedom. I just love it because I can be who I am and we're very, very blessed. But what are the chances? This is another thing what are the chances of us being born in this country at this time out of any other country on any other planet in any other situation? I mean, how lucky and blessed are we?

Brandon Handley 41:56
Well, I think that that's a huge part of the story. huge part of the entire outlook Jeremy, what you're saying right there is that, you know, if you look at where you are, and everything you do is what I'm here to say is like as a miracle,

Unknown Speaker 42:11
it is miracle that we're blessed

Brandon Handley 42:14
right then. And could you could you imagine a better time in the anytime to become yourself?

Jeremy Todd 42:22
No, no. I mean, can you imagine me being born with a horse and carriage? I would have been dead 25 years ago. You could survive. You

Brandon Handley 42:31
know, I'll tell you, man, I know. I know. Definitely growing up. I did a lot of like things that, you know, I should have gotten my ass kicked for. But I definitely would have gotten a shot for like an 1800s type of thing. Like,

Jeremy Todd 42:42
I mean, exactly. I am so soft and so fragile. I would have no chance 100 years ago, but I wasn't I mean, but hey, even now, I could have been born in South America or North Korea or meat. I mean, you name the country. Well, you could be born anywhere but

Unknown Speaker 42:59
here it is. Man, I'm just

Brandon Handley 43:02
so blessed. I think it's a beautiful time, man. I think it's a beautiful time we're in so Brother, listen, I know. I mean, we always love catching up on loving hearing your journey and you know how you're just you know, loving on your spiritual self and you keep growing that right and you're leading with that. Tell me like yeah, listen, people never heard you before. So where should they go check you out? If you haven't heard me,

Jeremy Todd 43:23
come on, come on rapidly for obviously, you remember the positive side podcast. It's the positive side podcast. You check out the positive side podcast calm, but more importantly, just hop on the show. And again, the intentions of the show truly, truly, truly are just to just tell my random stories through life, the stuff that I struggle with, to share those messages to understand that hey, if you are struggling, you are going through these tough times. You're not alone and we're all going to get to this together. We're all going to get better we're all gonna get stronger. So that's the biggest thing. Or you can always email Jeremy Jeremy at Jeremy Todd COMM But then, more importantly, Brandon, I love this show. Man. This is like the perfect show for you. It's this is like you wheelhouse bro. I've just been a long time ago. That's

Unknown Speaker 44:04
right. I was afraid.

Unknown Speaker 44:06
Sure. I get

Brandon Handley 44:07
it. I was afraid. I was afraid. And but it's where I wanted to be, which is the funny thing, right. And so what's what's funny is that it is opened up but is blown up and opened up like the reception. Yeah. And so me just going and doing that thing that I was so afraid to do so many years ago. Self permission. Yeah. Yes. I mean, I think that you know, listen, if you made it to the end of the podcast, that was the message that you need to hear today, man, this is like, self permission. So Exactly. Alright guys. Thank you so much, Jeremy. And we'll chat next time. Oh, hell yeah,

Jeremy Todd 44:45
brother. Thank you.

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Hallucinogens | Jung | Your Gifts

Published: Aug. 23, 2020, 1:49 a.m.
Duration: 20 minutes 12 seconds

Unknown Speaker 0:01
What is going on? What's going on man? We are taking a quick walk that's you and I right now

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through

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local park.

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Just kidding, just gonna walk in the afternoon

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just taking some

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fresh air change of scenery. We have been inside of

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the quarantine zone right?

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of 2020 and

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sometimes just need to get out everything's fine.

Unknown Speaker 0:32
And everything's great.

Unknown Speaker 0:34
Except for you know, you're in the same place all the time. And I think I think that we all love I love change of scenery, right? I don't know about you, but I love change of scenery. But as as I've been doing this quarantine bit and spinning up spiritual dope, having some just just awesome. Really awesome. Some conversations with all kinds of people in the spirituality space

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in all spaces in general, really. And

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a couple conversations popped up one of them that popped up

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was this conversation of

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kind of

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knowing that you're gifted,

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right? And having that gift

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seemingly always be right out of

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reach.

Unknown Speaker 1:36
And I can I can relate to that one. Somebody had mentioned that one to me and, and I get it. There's this piece of you, that you are. You're always being told, hey, you know, you've got this specialness about you or perhaps one day, you know, you were like this and kind of as a child I always saw, you know, we're, we're in this kind of star seed, indigo child thing. I'm not sure how many of you guys are into that. But, you know,

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I'll throw this out there. We're kind of like in a hippie 2.0

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scenario here, right? And there's many of us that were,

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that grew up

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as a, you know, kind of us original Star seeds as it were, right? This is kind of where everybody ended up getting like sky or rain and meadow and, and, you know, some child or

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whatever.

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But

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you were always told that there was something special about you, and it's like, it's killing you because

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it's right there. You know, it's just,

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it's just on the other side, and it's like the outside of what you know. And if you've listened to

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the doors,

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I think that that's what he's talking about. Go ahead and bring onto the other side. And even then, you have this kind of experience where you touch on that greatness of kind of who you are and, and and what you're about. And

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it's fleeting

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for a moment because that's been

Unknown Speaker 3:24
my experience anyways. And you know, the second conversation that kind of came up was was kind of about

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psychedelics.

Unknown Speaker 3:35
Let me see if I saved the picture of the specific on the psychedelics piece, as I'm kind of trotting around out here, because I want to make sure that I touch on it. It was like was it psychedelics as just psychedelics, or was a psychedelics in certain use cases and so So for me, that was kind of like an interesting one because I just written something

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about

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psychedelics myself, right?

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And the deal is,

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I'm gonna, I'm gonna come at it from the perspective of can't find the piece right now. Um, you know,

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this is a, it's kind of like,

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it's kind of like anything else, right? anytime that you

Unknown Speaker 4:33
you take any drug for example, you know, you maybe use steroids to bolster up and bulk up, but like, you know, you stop taking them and then that kind of goes away or you use steroids or some other kind of, you know, enhancement drug. But then when it goes away, you know, you can't you can't function without it. Right or when you are on it, you know, you mute Or you kind of destroy other pieces about yourself?

Unknown Speaker 5:05
So it's, it's like,

Unknown Speaker 5:08
yes, it works for something. But it takes away from something else. And to me, you know, that kind of disrupts what kind of, you know, spiritual dope would be about right spiritual dope would be about

Unknown Speaker 5:24
how do you

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how do you access you know that? That kind of thing

Unknown Speaker 5:31
all the time.

Unknown Speaker 5:33
Right? How do you how do you access that the greatest parts of yourself without needing to rely on some type of external inducement, as it were, which is, and that's where kind of meditation comes into play, but the biggest, the biggest part about it is I'm just scoping out this weird little

Unknown Speaker 5:58
place here.

Unknown Speaker 6:05
So how do you how do you access the best of who you are, and bring that with you everywhere that you go

Unknown Speaker 6:14
without having to rely on something

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from the external, that's drugs, that's somebody else doing something because you said they needed to do it. That's, you know, in all times in all places, right? And to me, that's your inner self. That's your inner being. That is bringing all that you are being present in every moment. And sometimes that's hard, right? Like I said before, like, I've access parts of it, but not in all the time. state of mind. Right. I access it through meditation and And, you know, through through one kind of long term

Unknown Speaker 7:06
as a as a spoke about numinous experience

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and as far as you know as it relates

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to

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drugs and psychological

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pharmaceuticals, LSD, mushrooms, mescaline. weed, I mean, you know, of ecstasy, you know, any one of those, right? Any one of those that you touch on can bring you real similar experience. However, unless you're using it, quote unquote responsibly, you're generally using it just kind of like a as a as a place to go escape. And, and, to me, it also shows this just kind of like you're relying on something outside of you. Right and and when you when you do that when you when when the only way that you can feel that way comes with its own set of dangers, right? least I was listening to Terence McKenna give a speech the other day about smell st and how it restricts the blood flow to your brain and you know has potential to cause seizures and like, make sense. Go What do you say? Have I experienced that? Yes. You know, and you know, what is the risk worth it? It's a risk versus you know, worth the reward is at the time you say, Sure. Yeah, man, this is great. This is amazing. Whoo. But then there's other times too. So it's like if you use it responsibly in a responsible space, you're in the quote unquote right headspace because imagine you

Unknown Speaker 9:00
You already are

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in your own fucking head 10 2100 X that

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in your own head and then you're you're you're not in the right place mentally or you're not with the right people who can support your your trip,

Unknown Speaker 9:21
right your, your psychological

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assistance trip man like I mean, you want to call it expansion and you want to, you know, say this all these other things that are expansive, but really, you're just in your own fucking head

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and you're in real deep

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and you can have some bad experiences and they suck.

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They make like, you know,

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you know, imagine, you know, several hours of just feeling at your worst times 10 Okay, now, I'm not saying that you can't have these other experiences. They're super awesome and super nifty and and really just life life memorable, right you know things that you totally change perspectives and, and knit all these really cool blankets and covers i don't i don't know what the fuck you knit, but you knit them together tapestries of, you know, things that are woven. But it's still pales in total comparison

Unknown Speaker 10:35
to what is possible

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by

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your own creation

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without those drugs without the need for pharmaceuticals without I mean, now listen, I don't have a I don't have an iOS experience to give you. I don't have a pod experience to give, you know, I don't have you know, look, those maybe those are the ones that you dropped through the fog. So you're And you're

Unknown Speaker 11:02
right. And you hear stories like that?

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Is that an experience that you want to have?

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Is that an experience you want to have? You want to be dropped from the center of the earth? Do you want to be dropped from the center here? That's a great question. So a mom walking here, I've got a picture of just some amazing

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mushrooms, and this

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great, kind of

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three of them in a row here, spot. So, you know, what does it all mean? And how's that all break down? Those are just a couple of conversations that I've had this week that I thought that I would share with you as it relates to you know, spiritual dope.

Unknown Speaker 11:51
And then, and then finally,

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one of the other conversations got got me into listening to Carl Young's read book and it's really just a you know, I think a him

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you know,

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going through kind of I haven't finished it yet I don't I don't

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have any super

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deep knowledge about kind of where he was when he did it or what he was about. But

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you know, I

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recognize a lot of what he's saying. And and and and what he's talking about the mental space that he is

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the mental space that he is occupying and

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in that mental space

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he's uh

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you know, he talked he goes through his midlife crisis he goes through like his midlife and and what's funny is is he had done he finds it very similar way that I did is like you either kind of accept it and you dive fucking i mean do into it. And there's a lot of power in there or you resist it or you shut it down and you're like, Nah, that ain't for me. All right, and who does some people that's the way it is, right? You know, they get out it's literally the red, blue, red pill, blue pill. And then you know, once you take once you make a choice, there's really no kind of no going back as it were. So he goes, he goes deep in it. And the thing that I recognize with him is that he's coming through a mostly Western culture, right? I mean, look, he's in psychology, which is just brand fucking new. Listen, guys. I mean, for those of you who who have been to a psychologist, psychiatrist or anybody like that, let's let's, let's be honest, this is a this is a quote unquote, science of the mind. This hasn't existed for that long. 100 hundred years and change as you know, from young and, you know, Nietzsche and those guys and, and we put a lot of stock into something that that hasn't been around for a long time. And what happens is that, uh, you know, when you're developing something like that, your mind frame you can only you can only comment something from your own personal experience No matter how much you read, right and your own perception of something else, no matter what you read. So, you know, those spots and time that these guys make make their ascertain motions and, and claims, you know, they're based off of certain experiences and sometimes those don't always get revised. Right. You know, 20 years goes by and like on, like Madonna, for example, when she talks about how she was in her 20s and 30s versus when she grew up and got older. She's like, I don't know what I was thinking. I was just saying some stupid shit because I thought that's why I was supposed

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to Be right.

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And so young talks a little bit about like, just just being in a new space, just kind of handling the space from his own perceptions and experiences and from Western civilization. And as he is going through, he gets exposed

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to

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the the eaching I think he calls it like the yellow flower as well, which is one that I'm not familiar with, but he's also exposed to Kundalini and you know, the these spaces which which most Western society hadn't been exposed to, before and, and so when we,

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from society at large make these transitions

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into

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you know, this midlife crisis, crisis of identity and all this other stuff. And Wayne Dyer calls it like the the

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shift

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and we don't have a framework For we lose, you lose your fucking mind, right? Yeah. And if you lose your mind because you nobody talks about it because they're afraid to share it because they're afraid they're gonna be looked at in in with some side eye which is one of the reasons why it took so long for the red book to be published and share it out. Right there wasn't a space that the family was comfortable in was sharing, sharing it. And to me that's a great detriment because you know, the opportunity been there for so long.

Unknown Speaker 16:37
To let others know

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that it was okay to have these experiences. It was okay to be that lost in your own mind to have those.

Unknown Speaker 16:52
I don't know I'm not done with the book yet.

Unknown Speaker 16:54
But to go through that mental space to explore All of who you are, and and you know not necessarily just be trapped in the body in the in the vessel that you you know you kind of plod along in but you know, understanding and being deep in the mind deep in the psychosis and and understanding that once you you know dip your toe into that pool, it is infinite it is infinite, right it's a it's a pool, an infinite pool.

Unknown Speaker 17:28
I'm sure there's like, you know, some trademark and shit in there. But

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the thing is,

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I guess what I'm trying to share here is

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if you find yourself in that space

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you're not the first one.

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You won't be the last one.

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And if you find yourself in that space and you find yourself listen to this podcast and chances are you're in the right space.

Unknown Speaker 17:56
We're all kind of going you know that what's the what's the line? Right? Right. was fighting dragons or whatever? I'm trying to tame mine. I don't know, I don't know that right. I don't have the right terminology for it. Because it's all newer to me. And I'm still looking for the right language for myself to to share this out with but that being said, I wanted to share those pieces of conversations with a few of the people that I talked with, as it related to the podcast, you know, for if you are, if you're out there looking for your gift, and you can't seem to find it, stop looking outside. It definitely resides on the inside and you've already got it. It's just how do you want to use it? What does that look like for you? And you know, imagine that that gift that you've been told about has fully developed? What are you gonna do with it? And what's housing and what's So I kind of look like when it shows up in the world if you're if you're again if you're the beginning of this space and you're wondering if you should take the leap into it or away from it say fucking take the leap take the leap and do it there's there's kind of like the last frontier to this space is not the last frontier we are here living as human beings and we have no fucking clue how we got here we have no fucking clue you know, we know that the the bits and pieces that pump our blood and do all these other things, but

Unknown Speaker 19:37
where does that come from?

Unknown Speaker 19:40
Yeah, who what is that life that's making that happen for you. And you know, if you want that's something worth exploring to me. And that's something that we will continue to explore in this podcast and that's what we're going to continue to do is how do we once we find these bits and pieces within a How do we leverage them in our daily lives to to just, you know, have a more fulfilling, more powerful, more impactful life. Alright, that's it. We'll talk to you later.

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Your Path is Opening Up

Published: Aug. 21, 2020, 10:15 p.m.
Duration: 9 minutes 23 seconds

 

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on? How are you? How are you I figured we would do a little podcast from nature. Don't get out to too many awesome natural surroundings too often.

But today

I'm kind of ridge climbing

and

spider webs and gone through brushes

seeing cool scenery

awesome gorge here stream and you know took the time to

just come and spend some time with it

Unknown Speaker 0:50
today

Brandon Handley 0:52
it's available right it was available it is available spiders in my face part of nature. And, you know, what can we what can we kind of take a take a look at today today was one of the things that I thought of while I was

walking around here

was

the idea that the path kind of always opens up the path is always available.

And it always opens up for you.

Yeah, there's always that option.

And how does it open up? I mean,

so first you got to you got to kind of look got to be on the lookout. And you've got to want to go somewhere, right? You got to kind of have some kind of destination in mind, in order for the path to open up. Right, so maybe, as we've talked to you before,

once you make that decision Where do you want to go?

What do you Who do you want to see? Who do you want to be?

And, you know, sometimes it's making that decision on who it is you want to be or where you want to be today. For me, it was simple. I just wanted to get to a Oh, that's so simple. I guess I want to get to the perfect place to meditate today. I wanted to find a place that was in the streams that I could sit down and meditate.

And

as I will continue to walk, there would be openings in the path that just continue to kind of unfold as as I continue to look for the right spot for me to be And everywhere that I stepped that was something underneath and needed support it every every time I went forward

the footing was sure.

And I think that

oftentimes we

were afraid to take those steps we're afraid to make those decisions.

We've been told that

you know, you're not old enough I mean, there's customer comes from definitely comes from youth could come from could come from bosses

could come from people who who just don't

come to never believed in you and then, you know, so

Unknown Speaker 3:46
or

Brandon Handley 3:49
didn't kind of lend themselves to

allowing for a belief in you.

I guess I'll give you an idea. Example.

I remember I was working with one boss at a restaurant and you know, at some point he, man, beautiful Hawk. At one point, I forget why he was giving me read me the riot act. And, you know, he asked me, he says, How many people do you think there are? Just like you come in and take this position, it was like a bartender position. As a man, I guess, you know, plenty and you know, it's just to that degree, you know, he was like, you're replaceable.

And, you know, it was a super shitty feeling.

Obviously, right, it's just still sticking with me. After all these years, even though even though I know differently today

But but it's still but it's still kind of holding me back in

some places Oh my god, you

know that well anybody can do what I'm doing and fill whatever role that I'm doing and and you know what that that that that's what seizes up the path, right so you gotta you can't hold on to those things. You can't let those be the things that that hold you back because I mean those you've got a story like that i'm sure you've got somebody that's just Yeah, they push it so much they put you in your place they put you down. They're trying to anchor you to that spot. They want you to believe that whatever, whatever it is that they're giving you in that situation is a gift from them. And the gift really, from them is your ability to uh, to step up, step out of step away from that that's, you know, toxic it's It's, uh, you know, that's what the paths are open up. Past are so open up when you step away from that. And you find that there's so much more that's greater for you out there. You know, and it'll be years later and that person but yeah, I knew you were too good for this place. And, you know, I was just trying to force you out so that you could

find out who you really were.

And yeah, sure, yeah.

But the path will open up for you. path will open up for you and you'll find yourself just loving life that much more when you allow for the for the belief in yourself to occur for it to happen. And when you take that moment of courage in your life, and that's what it is. It's just a moment. All right. I think I made a post yesterday with Matt Damon saying it only takes 20 seconds of crazy Crazy courage

and for the world to open up for you. And

when you make that decision to embrace that for just 20 seconds, right? The whole world can open up the path will open up for you. Each step you take will be firm underneath your feet.

And who knows even if even if it's not

and you slip and you fall, it's what you find on the ground that on your path, it's just there's so much available for you. That if you just let go of all the things that you think that are not it's it's it's when that it opens up right, that's when you will see so much more and start looking for ways that is possible and Books, bugs and spider webs then then your path right your path that becomes something beautiful.

And, and in reading

you know, Carl Young's Red Book, you know, he talks about he goes,

he talks about his own path. And how it can't be like anybody else's it wouldn't be like anybody else's and, and you how you need to find your own path. And it can't be anybody else's you can find someone who started the clearing for you. Maybe you can establish that with somebody but your path is your path is your own. So sorry for meandering this morning, but we can look we covered we covered this finding your own path and being on it and having the courage to take steps to go to go on that journey. Alright, so establish that to make the decision to believe in yourself to let go of the story. Is that have that have held you back then have hold held you down and understand that when you take that opportunity and you take that one step encouraged you'll find that everything just opens up for you.

Alright, well that's been it from the

little, little nature. Nature climb here. Take it easy

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Anna Champagne | A Path of Beauty | Color Healer

Published: Aug. 16, 2020, 11:34 a.m.
Duration: 59 minutes 3 seconds

I had the amazing opportunity to connect with Anna Champagne, who is a Professional Fiber Artist, Designer and Color Healer creating vibrant and luxurious silk scarves, shawls, throws and custom fabrics. Each scarf is designed and hand-painted one-at-a-time by the Artist with dyes in beautiful uplifting colors.

Anna has degrees in textiles and interior design, and has trained extensively in the holistic healing field. She is the owner of A Path of Beauty and Anna Champagne Silks, hand painting luxurious silk scarves and shawls in vibrant, healing colors and enriching people’s lives with her silks, inspirational writings, healing sessions and color healing course.

Her love and interest in textiles began at a young age. She has taught classes in weaving, computer- aided design, and Shibori, and now Color Healing.

Anna’s work has been exhibited in galleries from Madison Avenue, NYC to Carmel, CA, and at high-end craft shows and holistic shows in New York, Boston, etc.   Her earlier work is included in The Guild 4, A Sourcebook of American Crafts.  She was the featured artist in Sarasota Magazine, 2006. And her article Color Healing: Using Color and Divine Wisdom to Enrich Our Lives, was published in Energy Magazine, May/June 2017.

“I create silks that surround people in beauty and the healing energy of color that nurtures, uplifts and inspires.  Luxurious hand painted silk scarves, shawls, and throws that are as soft as rose petals and as harmonious and peaceful as being in a beautiful garden.  Live a poetic life of beauty…Joie de Vivre in Silk!”    Anna Champagne

Connect with Anna over at https://www.annachampagnesilks.com/

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Anna also has a great course for those who are interested in color healing: http://www.annachampagnesilks.com/color-healing-course/

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey there spiritual dope. Thanks for joining me again today And today, we have Anna champagne. Joining us. Anna is a professional fiber artist, energy healer, teacher, author, designer and entrepreneur, owner of Anna champagne silks and a path of beauty. She has degrees in textiles and interior design as trained extensively in the holistic healing field, including emotion code, Body Code, and transformational breathing, and created color healing for a vibrant, abundant life energy healing system. And thanks so much for joining with us today.

Anna Champagne 0:41
Thanks, Brandon. It's great to be here. Just so you know, sauna. I like that.

Brandon Handley 0:49
Got it. Got it. Thanks. So now I'm gonna have to fix that throughout the entire way. I'm on a one of the things that I feel pretty strongly about is that When we communicate on these podcasts and when we have these conversations, there's somebody out there that needs to hear something through us and we're simply here as a you know, divine vessels call it what you will right? Call what you want but I think that somebody is tuned in today that needs to hear what from you like they need to hear this somebody needs to hear this what is it

Unknown Speaker 1:31
basically

Anna Champagne 1:34
that they're loved and that they can live a path of beauty You know, that's what I'm kind of live myself and share and and it just becomes a rich life and it really isn't spiritual or regular mundane or any of it. It's all one life. So the more we kind of, you know, just bring that all together and then it's really rich and colorful and beautiful.

Brandon Handley 1:58
I love it. I love it. So it's not that they're not segmented life pieces for you. It's all one holistic life.

Anna Champagne 2:06
Yeah. And I'm still like everyone, you know, feels deeply you know that. And I do agree with you what you're saying, because that was my prayer even before coming on. I said, you know, it's not about me, it's about you know, how I can touch someone or, you know, and I pray, can I say the words that someone is needing to hear tonight, so you know, so that was perfect.

Brandon Handley 2:29
I love it. I love it. Perfect. So, you know, it looks like we've got the right person on here. One thing I do want to touch on that I know we had a little precursor conversation, you know, I caught that you studied with like Gregg Braden, Byron, and some of these other people, you know, can be a little bit about that. Right? I love these are some people that are new, newer to my life, right, but I love them. What was like one of the favorite courses or someplace that you studied with that? That was exciting for you? Um,

Anna Champagne 2:58
oh, they're all wonderful. The path. Byron Katie was great. You know, I was a transformational breath facilitator and trainer, and this was the early days, but even before she became more famous, you know, she had written her first book. And we used to bring her, you know, to our trainings or to our city or even we had our first breath cruise, and we were doing breath work. And then we brought Katie along and she was teaching some things and then every night after dinner, you know, she would just show up and work with us. And, and to this day, whenever I see her, you know, and I haven't seen her in a while, but every time she says hello, Angel, and I just feel like she sees me. Fantastic.

Brandon Handley 3:39
Yeah. When you say we in that, what are you who's that inclusive of?

Anna Champagne 3:44
Um, that's when I was doing transformation breathing years ago,

Brandon Handley 3:50
okay, that's not something you're doing right now. So much of

Anna Champagne 3:52
it's it's part of me, but now I've kind of, you know, well, we'll get into it all what I'm doing, but I'm Kind of branding my own color healing system and silks and also right

Brandon Handley 4:05
right so I mean yeah that I mean that that is your that is your that is what I see you doing right now that's what you presented to me you're doing textile you're doing color healing. Oh you were introduced to me by our mutual friend Mark Youngblood as a color healer. I was super intrigued about that. While I read a little bit about what you have to say in there. You know, tell us a little bit about what color healing is.

Anna Champagne 4:30
Well, it's it's actually a vibrational energy healing modality. And, you know, I'm blessed to be able to as a fiber artist, I campaign on cilex campaign hand dye, and through decades of, you know, working with people and seeing what the silks do in their energy field and the specific colors like you know, like the ones I have on, I just come to see how the frequencies of light color work in our own hands. energy field and affect us and I especially work more in the emotional realm. Because, you know, of course, color affects us emotionally and as a sensitive an empath, and you know, as many people are there, you know, even people that don't think there was sensitive are, you know, so that's why color is just so important and impactful. And now when we consciously use it, we can really heal like old emotional patterns, we can raise our vibration, we can direct it for specific uses. So I'm really blessed that I get to, you know, paint and die and be immersed in color and then you know, share it with others and then and then teach it.

Brandon Handley 5:47
I love that. So the colors that you're wearing today, what are they? What do they bring to me vibrationally

Anna Champagne 5:53
Well, most people have heard of like Archangel Michael. And with my color healing system. It's based on like the rays of God. Consciousness so it's kind of a very spiritual at the core. And there's these divine qualities as embodied by the archangels and angels so most people have heard of Archangel Michael and we think protection but it's also focus and will and faith. And each Archangel has their divine feminine counterpart called an RPI. So with Archangel Michael it's archiv faith. So faith is a real tangible energy to so. So for me and also, you know, blues are healing you know, they're like water, they're calming. So for me doing something like this, you know, it keeps me a little focused and it's very calming to

Brandon Handley 6:44
fantastic. I'm glad I'm wearing blue then to stay focused a little bit. Right. Now, I love that you mentioned to like, you know, that you've got kind of this Archangel as part of your story. Right. Let's talk a little bit about that. Right. So how does how does how did you leave archangels and angels into your path.

Anna Champagne 7:03
I'm just on my spiritual path. I think I knew of Archangel Michael and things because I've been on my spiritual path most of my life and knew of Archangel Michael and especially when I was actually a young mother and this is before I got on my spiritual path about 20 years ago where I learned more in depth about the archangels and all and if anyone knows about that, you know, young mother new mother just worried and you know, and, and for me being an empath and sensitive you know, I would get like open to any thought of like any fearful thought I would feel it like so much through my body, it was just hard to deal with. So luckily, I knew of Archangel Michael and then when I started calling to them, I can actually help kind of smooth down and that anxiety and fear and then I came to help others, you know, help other, you know, mothers and just other people, you know, with that as well. And now over decades, you know, he's just, I can't I don't think any of us could really be here without Archangel Michael, whether you call him by name or now or anything here to

help us on the path,

Brandon Handley 8:12
you know, if somebody is not that's a terrible way to say Archangel Li, you know, aligned, what are some other kind of spiritual resonance that they might have? If so, like you said, if they don't know them is Archangel Michael, what else might they call him or that presence?

Unknown Speaker 8:34
Um,

Anna Champagne 8:36
I think a lot of people are aware of or interested in angels. And even when I was, you know, writing my first color healing article, and actually one of my other great mentors is Jacob Lieberman. He wrote light medicine of the future and take off your glasses and see and I studied with him, you know, years ago a lot and he's just one of my greatest mentors.

was I going with that?

Oh, so when I was writing the article, I wanted to create kind of an overview of things. And you know, didn't talk about the archangels too much because really color on its own and the frequencies of color can support us whether we, we connect with the angels or you know, call to them or use them consciously, but they are here to co create with us and help support us, right in a big way. And actually, my daughter who grew up with all this and you know, is just knows me the best, you know, at one point she says, Oh, Mom, you can't you can't take the angels out. That's your brand. That's who you are. You can't separate you from the angels. Nice. But I can you know, talk about color to just as we know, I

Brandon Handley 9:49
think I think that you know, my question was definitely more aligned to other spiritual modalities right of Archangel Michael right. So if if I'm coming Going from a shamanistic background or just some other type of esoteric background, right? What would you would you align it to something else in those spaces?

Anna Champagne 10:13
I wouldn't but people that don't have the wording might, you know, call them spirit guides or something like that? I don't really I'd like to be more specific with the as I know the different things but even you know, I have friends in shamanism and they also teach angels because it's just a different aspect of you know, frequencies and energies and you know, beings and all that so

Unknown Speaker 10:41
I appreciate that. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 10:42
like I said, I'm, I'm not well versed in angels, right. And so, but I do understand spirit guide, right. So you know, if if I'm running around and I'm trying to feel something and it's hard for me to again, mentally pull On an angel vibe, right right, then I might be able to pull on some others your spiritual guide God type of thing, right? So

Anna Champagne 11:07
the way that I could talk about it, you know, I did shows, you know,

body mind spirit, Whole Health, new life and boutique shows all kinds of things for many decades. And I would have like, you know, just all these soaks, you know, in my booth, and people would come in and I always want to empower people. So even if I knew like one that would be advantageous for them, I would always say, well, which color are you most drawn to? And then they would go and usually they would really go right to one that they would feel good in and they try it on and they feel something even if they thought you know, I don't I'm not sensitive or anything they they always are, they really can feel it and then I would put on another one that maybe was even a similar color. And they would go oh my goodness, I can tell the difference. Wow. Are they put on one that's really a contrast and what go wow, that feels even different. Sure, and then people can see that. So, really, for me, the key part is, you know, healing our trapped emotions and those emotional energies that are, you know, the sadness, grief. I mean, we're human. So we have all those things. But I know we feel better usually when it's joy and love and those kind of things. So when we take those things that are actually blocking our energy, they're not good or bad, but they can become trapped in blocker energy. So when we're healing that and then they have that flow of energy from God goddess, all that is whatever you call it, your higher self, you know, I call it my presence or that presence, so So when you're healing that and raising your vibration, my goal is really to help people connect with their highest wisdom and their highest self.

Unknown Speaker 12:51
So

Anna Champagne 12:53
and that's, that's really cool. I think most of you want to be most connected with

Brandon Handley 12:58
Sure, sure. I thought, you know, it's Because, you know, I was actually having this thought earlier that you said, you know, it's not necessarily about you, when you enter into the show, it's like kind of what can you do in service of but yeah, on it, it is about you, right? It is about you connecting with your highest self and just being in that space for a moment and just accepting that nobody needs anything from you, but you've got someone that you're willing to give. Right. You know, let's talk a little bit more about the angel part though, because they're, you know, like I said, I was able to listen to one podcast that you were interviewed on earlier and you've got this amazing, kind, amazing Angel story. Once you just kind of shares sure that part.

Anna Champagne 13:43
I do and I actually have my good old Angel book that I was actually visiting a friend I live in Florida now and I was in New England visiting friend and went to my car to get NINJA book and so Someone actually tried to kill me she was mentally unstable. I didn't know her, but she was known to people and, you know, without going into this story, but still someone tried to find me over with a car. Wow. And because of it, I was hit by the car. But as I was walking, I just was like looking down. And it's like, what's going on with my ankle or my leg, you know, and then before I knew, and I just was like, kind of falling or whatever, but really ended up hitting the ankle and shattered my ankle and foot and left leg and all that. And afterwards, I you know, and I've had, you know, surgeries, and I mean, it was, it was quite a karmic thing. Quite a big deal in my life and in a real healing journey that came from it. But when I asked friends like on my spiritual path, I said, How could this have happened, you know, I'm so devout are just so connected and spiritual. And they said, it's because of that, that the angel saved your life. Hmm. And I'm getting chills even telling you that because I just feel it's so true. And I vowed to all my healing journey to help people in whatever way I can what I learned through all the healing that I did through it, but they really did save my life.

Brandon Handley 15:18
I get it. So um, you know, you mentioned that you've been on the spiritual path pretty much your entire life. And so you already had this vibrational awareness right? You already had this holistic awareness and once you got involved with fabrics and colors, it wasn't a simple transition for you into the vibrational colors.

Anna Champagne 15:46
Well, yes and no, I mean, it was one of those being sensitive and you know, sometimes feeling really lonely even if a family are feeling different, as many people describe often and just Just getting into, you know, loving being in nature or writing poetry or doing things, you know, different things like that. And just just feeling like the search. So even when I was little, I would, you know, go to the library and search even when I was little for certain things, you know, along the way. So, so it's kind of just been a journey, like many people, you know, you know, pursue this pursue that, you know, learn about this, see how it feels, you know, and, and then just keep growing that way. So it wasn't, you know, and it's not like my parents were all conscious. And, you know, we grew up the main girl, and then that kind of thing. So they weren't holistic in the least, and they still aren't. But even through that, I realized through the years, especially as I'm learning things, and you're all excited to share with your family and help them and, you know, they're like, thank you, but you know, believe what you believe or not interested. Yeah, the greatest thing I learned, especially with my dad was The greatest thing we could do for healing for someone was to love them unconditionally. Sure. And it didn't matter. All those differences.

Brandon Handley 17:10
Right. Right. Now listen, I mean, when I first had, you know, what I would classify as an awakening experience, not wanting to run around, and I guess I guess that's, I guess that's kind of the whole the gospel part of the gospel thing. You've got to hear this good news. Why don't I tell them all about this? wait a year round? This

Unknown Speaker 17:28
is awesome. Um, and,

Brandon Handley 17:31
yeah, it's not everybody's path. Right? It's not everybody's path. But it's still it's, you know, I guess when you're vibing. So hard, right. It's like, What do you mean, you don't see it this way? And how can you not feel this way? And why wouldn't you go down this path? And like you said, it's when we just step back and love them, unconditionally? who they are the way they are right now. Yeah. can't do much more than that, right?

Anna Champagne 18:01
What's tills? True? And you know, to answer more of your question. I went to school for English and weaving because I started weaving when I was about 16. And I was always doing kind of crafts and things and knitting and crochet and all that because my mother grandmother, so even when I was in textile school, for my BFA in textiles and fiber, I, you know, I started then I actually painted on really fine silk threads and wove them into scarves and shawls and will wall pieces, please. And yet, I was still gathering, you know, all the spiritual books and I was starting to get some books on color and chakras and different things like that. But I didn't read most of them years later. And the reason I realized was because I had to kind of develop my own sense of it, of the color and kind of learn it from within a little bit more of the code. So one time I remember when I was you know, I I think I was starting to, you know, maybe it was after I was at a school. And I was just questioning, you know, that format of the scarves and shawls. And then I opened one of those books and it said, Yeah, you want to wear the silks over your throat and heart chakras and I'm like, okay, that's the answer. And you know, so I still kind of use that that form of the silks and the shawls I mean, the scarves in the shells

Brandon Handley 19:26
when you say that form the you mean by put it over your chakras?

Anna Champagne 19:31
Yeah, I was just in one of those color healing books. It kind of answered that that it's really advantageous a lot of times to where over your throat or your heart

Brandon Handley 19:40
Alright, so when you're when you're when you were starting your spiritual journey picking up all these books, what kind of books were you picking up? Like? What was what was the opening of the doors for you? I guess as it were,

Anna Champagne 19:53
um, there's been so many through the years I do collect wisdom

Brandon Handley 19:58
right right there in the beginning, right. So I mean, you're you're picking up all these books, you hadn't quite read them, but they were of interest to you

Anna Champagne 20:04
somewhere the color healing somewhere.

Well, even earlier, you know, when I was 16 I was meditating at a friend's house because her parents were into Edgar Casey, airy, and all that. So, you know, I had my first and then and then when we were in Boston, I actually, you know, my then husband and I, we went to his son or I think grandson, we went to a workshop and thing, were part of that for a while, and then it always comes full circle that I wasn't into it for years. And then I was, you know, going to some conferences a few years ago and even speaking at a conference and Kevin Tedeschi who's the, you know, the head guy at the Aerie now and wrote all the books on so he's kind of a friend now too. So it's so interesting and

yeah, it was it was all kinds of things.

Or they you know, I mean, sometimes it was healing some obscure things like fear of, like fears and aliens and you know like I remember with Gregg Braden, I've healed a big piece of that, you know?

Unknown Speaker 21:18
Tell me about that. Yeah. Yeah, that

Anna Champagne 21:21
was interesting. Um, it was funny because I was one of the last people at his you know, the workshop for that day and we were at this conference center or somewhere and I was like in a dorm and I remember we were talking it was years ago you know, decades ago when you know, he's gone through different things that he's taught Sure. And some of it was bringing up like so much fear about you know, the some of the alien you know energies and and they're all frequency now they're all different vibrations so and then my my roommate didn't show up so like all night I'm like, you know, all afraid this, you know, sheets up and I had to go deeper within and then and then through it. I just I really did heal it. And now I say, you know, the same aliens that are more than negative ones that, you know, maybe want to, you know harm or they're just a lower vibration. Sure they can't touch me anymore because it's so that was just part of like the healing on the journey that I went through. So now you know and then there's other ones like I heart, you know connect with the Pleiadians and then I do paintings that were pleading and writing so, so it was pretty diverse.

Brandon Handley 22:35
Interesting. I love that I love it. I love what you did there too with um, you know, translating harm into just recognizing that the third a lower vibration, right? It is not like I like that too. Right? So that that's interesting for sure. So you've been living this life fairly steeped in spirituality. All right. Yeah, and I can't remember now already, if we talked about the beginning or not, but like, integrating Yeah, we started at the beginning, but like integrating all the whole has certainly been a challenge for me. You know, trying to say, Oh, this is this is my spiritual self. This is what I do when I'm being spiritual. And this is what I do and, you know, all these other spaces. Can you talk a little bit about, you know, practical spiritual integration? Well, so, you know, what's that mean to you? If I say something I asked you that.

Anna Champagne 23:31
Yeah. Well, that's what I really love teaching and helping people with, you know, and I'm still going through it myself. I'm constantly hitting things that come up for me and then having, you know, using different tools to heal like some of the emotional patterns and things like that. But, um, I think it's just, I think one of the biggest thing is really healing being present to what comes up and not judging it. So You know, and that's what I learned especially from Katie you know, Byron Katie, you know, you take those judgments you take that anger you take that fear, you know, whatever it is and and then you investigate and then you can you know, go deeper and especially, you know when you you see it's just kind of a projection to like wearing me like I'm angry at that person but really, where's that pattern in me and then when you so so if you keep bringing it back to yourself in a gentle way because you never want to be hard on yourselves because like I know that pattern and right so it's, it's it's just and I have seen you you know, I watched your you know, your dad podcast thing or you know, whatever that was.

And even if you I mean, and I don't know you so well, you know, but

just the love that and just the the way you were showing up with your son I mean, I'm getting emotional because I was sent to and I was daughter but It touched me because you're just present. And you're asking him his experience. And then you're sweeping in a little, you know, teaching to be a good person or to

just just weaving in those nuggets of goodness,

Brandon Handley 25:16
you try, right? Well, you know, listen in here, you know, for what it's worth. You know, my mom was a, you know, so I was born in San Francisco in the late 70s. So, that's an indicator of where I came from. I always taught like, the awareness always taught, like these kind of life lessons. And they were definitely seeds, right, because they were, they were falling on fallow ground or whatever, whatever. And it wasn't until later, when they all just kind of sprouted and honestly, when I talked about going through that experience, kind of the awakening experience, it was like all at the same time, like everything she was talking about, just like, there it is. And so that's all you know, I feel like I can try and do with the kids right on my boys and just have those conversations. Not force it on them, but give them those seeds. Right. And, you know, if it's some I feel like at some point in their lives, though, they'll turn around and dust off will sprout up

Anna Champagne 26:12
exactly like with my son, he would, you know, like roll his eyes like I just want to be normal know, he's at times you know cutting out these little swords and you know things of and you know connecting with you know, he'll deny a lot of it now but you know, but he's such a good person you know, this really is so

Brandon Handley 26:33
well i think what we were saying earlier it's everyone's on their own path, right? I don't I mean, I don't think I have a Bible or have ever read more than the six pages in a Bible. But we can really try and do is be good shepherds, right of these souls or whatever. Um, but this is about you. So we're back to you now. And so what would be like a couple tools I love you gave kind of the one example is like look for that within yourself, right that's causing that or is a part of you? Right? What what, where's that irritation that's party? You know, I saw I saw a little line today that I really like to as it relates to emotions. I'd love to hear your feedback on this is there's emotional control. Right, which is I think a very Western actually I think every culture has emotional control, right? versus emotional expression. Mm hmm. How would you differentiate those two things because I feel like you would have a good, good way to do that.

Anna Champagne 27:33
I call it really a path of emotional mastery. Hmm. Because it's not just trying to control how you're feeling because the pattern will come up, you know, it'll just keep coming up until we deal with things. And now you know, globally where we've had an experience of something big happening globally, where we're going you know, sheltering in place home, you know, a lot of fear a lot of uncertainty on These kind of things, and I still just see it as, like the greatest gift because we can't bring in what I call a golden age without bringing to light those patterns. So it's not just about expression, you know, I think, you know, because we're always creating and we're always expressing whether it's expressing love or expressing anger, you know, or sadness, you know, it's expression but it's when it when we feel like that underlying like, we call it kind of miss qualified pattern. So like, say we haven't, oh, like, like, you know, say we have an experience and it's, you know, really overwhelming or traumatic or anything. And things get and we might not even know how to process it at the moment or deal with it. And then and but then it starts coloring everything we do in life. And then, but usually we can tell by how we're feeling, you know, if we're having Are were not so happy, that's usually an indicator how we're feeling and work with thing.

Brandon Handley 29:07
And that kind of addresses the, again expression versus control, like, because we were talking earlier too about, you know, locating that feeling, right? The anger or the frustration if we go to suppress that or redirect it, is that really healing it or addressing it? Right and and i think that that's, personally that's what I've done to try to emotionally master or control right redirect. But I feel like there's would be a another way to express that because I don't want to hold on to that energy like that. Right. So

Unknown Speaker 29:47
what would you say there?

Anna Champagne 29:50
You can tell by when you say go back to a memory that was really painful. And you know, so you did And this is where I say the violet ray you know of trance transformation transmutation, you know, taking that same God energy as I talked about, and then transmuting it like freeing up the, you know, whatever traumatic emotions are there, and then it's kind of at the core, and then we can recollect it or we can use it for what we want. And it really comes back to our intention to what we really want to create in our life. Yeah, so the stronger our positive intentions, those things will just naturally come up. And if it just ends, they'll just keep coming up until we like pay attention or we might get sick or, you know, just just so unhappy or whatever it is. So, but, but there's also a way to do it. It's good to just start being aware of what you're feeling or how you're feeling in your body. But another way to do it, too, is to keep focusing on the higher vibrational states or what you do want to create because that'll just automatically start in training up. It's just entrainment, you know, physics of training that lower vibrational state into that higher vibrational state. And that's kind of what I call a lot of the path of beauty or even, you know, working with those divine qualities. You can just and actually, that's another tool to you know, you can have a state and then do affirmations and crease, things like that you can actually raise the vibration of that pattern.

Brandon Handley 31:32
I like that. I like that.

Unknown Speaker 31:34
I feel like

Unknown Speaker 31:38
you know,

Brandon Handley 31:40
raising your vibrational state through affirmations, and gratitude. I think a lot of people look at that as purely mental exercise. What do you say to that?

Anna Champagne 31:56
It's not like we're using our mind because we're choosing to and it's what we're giving power to. So if we're saying you know, like I am the presence or I am you know, whatever we want to put after saying I am affirmation You know, there's you know, with the law of attraction, all that kind of stuff if you're if you're saying something that you don't believe then that'll even cause more resistance. You know, I'm a millionaire and you're you know, you got three cents in your bank account Well, that's gonna it's not gonna resonate, but if you can get in touch with the energy of it, you know, like it's it's feeling into it really. I think more so but but you do use your mind and your thoughts

Brandon Handley 32:43
talking to more about feeling into it, though.

Anna Champagne 32:51
I think it comes down to getting more harmonious no matter you know what color you're using, or what Whatever tool you're using, if you're still agitated, then it's not really working. So if you can feel more harmonious, calm, you know, the breath is a really important thing to kind of stop that fight or flight, you know, just using the breath, and then just start feeling more calm. Then, then when you say, when you say an affirmation or things something or, um, or want to access, you know, just want to just x more peacefulness or happiness or, you know, whatever it is it you'll just, it'll, you'll feel it. But you're not going to feel it if you're all agitated, you know. And so, you know, it's like, it's like the analogy of, you know, the parent who's got the baby, and they're just like, just come down Baby, you know, like they're, you know, I never can understand that. You know, But But I learned that you know, years ago so that's where we always taught the parents first, you know, read to become, you know, if you're lying with your child at night, you know, rubbing their backs as you're breathing. Because if you're all you know, stressful, they're going to feel it. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 34:19
One of the coolest feelings to write when you're going to sleep but I missed I missed the miss my kids you know when they're just growing up you can just kind of fall asleep with them on your chest right? Yeah, yeah, love that. Love that miss it. Like where they are now though. It's okay. So, you know, are you still traveling with your art shows? Are you still doing that? Like?

Anna Champagne 34:42
Nobody shows anymore? Sometimes by invitation, you know, a few things, but mostly I'm switching over online. Okay. And teaching courses online and things like that.

Brandon Handley 34:54
Right? When you were out of curiosity, right. So just for anybody that's kind of interested in The type of work that you're doing and would be thinking about doing it themselves. How would they kind of get involved in the community that you were involved with? With the art shows and textiles?

Anna Champagne 35:14
Well, it's really an art. I mean, it's decades of lifetimes Actually, I've done this in many lifetimes. It's, you know, um, it's going with what interests you, too, you know, I mean, mostly, I'm selling the silks that they're using, you know, in their meditations or just everyday wear or even you know, you know, that's why I sell a lot to men as well as women you know, to wear because they carry that tangible vibration. So it makes it easier to access those states and things. But, you know, sometimes I have taught some of the, you know, I used to teach weaving I used to teach shabari and which is a dyeing technique. You know, I do love, you know, doing a lot of that stuff. But, you know, an easy way is just watercolor paints or you know, even even coloring on dollars, you know, that can just get you in a, you know, working with color and with pencils or markers or things like that, or, or just even watercolor, you know, it doesn't even have to be a form. It could just be working with the paint like that if you're talking about doing something that's more artistic or

if that's what you're kind of asking.

Brandon Handley 36:33
That's definitely one part right kind of getting into the art itself, but the shows right? I'm sure you invited to him because you were great at what you were doing. But like also, if somebody else was like, what types of shows were you featured in so that somebody if they saw them, they'd be able to go and kind of find out more of themselves?

Anna Champagne 36:52
The shows, I mean, I was in the high end crashes when I first got out of college and was, you know, doing those handpainted handball Then Yeah. And then I had galleries around the country. And then when I got into still just painting on silks and doing like transformational breath work and being a trainer, then I was in like New York and Boston. I'm from New England. So I would do like Whole Health, new life, body mind spirit, you know, a lot of those kind of shows.

Brandon Handley 37:20
Okay. I've never heard of those shows before. So I mean, that's interesting. Yeah. And

Anna Champagne 37:24
it's still go on, um, you know, some of them anyway.

Brandon Handley 37:28
Yeah. That's interesting, too. I mean, I guess a New England part of, you know, what was the new age?

Unknown Speaker 37:35
birthing spot, right. I mean, am I wrong?

Anna Champagne 37:39
I don't know. I think California's where you grew up is pretty cool. I mean,

Brandon Handley 37:45
I think I think that, you know, I think of I'm trying to think of who was the press, you know, the press company that came out with the kind of the New Age movement, right, um,

Anna Champagne 37:57
dress or no,

Brandon Handley 37:59
I can't really remember off the top of my head, but it's just interesting to see that there's still a vibrant spiritual community from there, right in that space. So I think that that's pretty interesting. You did. So you mentioned you mentioned your course and your shops. I wanted to bring that up too. So talk to us a little bit about the the course offering that you have right now online.

Anna Champagne 38:20
Yeah, it's an eight week online course it's called color healing for a vibrant abundant life seven steps to heal what's holding you back and increase your flow of abundance and that's those kind of seven spiritual colors, you know, those rays and you actually get a set of seven, you know, solid color sticks with it, it needs you know, once a week for eight weeks, you know, an online student class and then you have a portal with the meditations, affirmations, you know, the class content you know, more you know, all of it, but it's really meant to be for busy people. You know, everyone's really busy in life and you don't i don't want to make this Like this heavy like something they just not do or else feel so overwhelmed. So that's what's cool about you know, with with the silks because you just wear them you know through the week like each week we're learning about one color. So like for example like the solid color you know we've got the golden yellow or you know pink or you know the blues violets you know these solid colors, and you wear them during class and wear them during your meditations and the meditations tend to be seven to nine minutes maybe and just get you in touch with the divine qualities even archangels but more of the divine qualities of the color and just get you and then wearing them. It helps you know to tangibly feel so it's because there's silk has the highest vibration of fiber. The very pure colors are frequencies and you know, if you think White is like all colors, you know, of light You know, ones additive and subtractive whether it's you know, crayons, or paints versus light, and then, you know, it's easy to think, you know, the prism and the rainbow, you know, it's broken up in those frequencies. Sure. So, um, yeah, so it's, it's really, it's, it's fun and it's, it's just a easy so going back to that, so the soaks have that highest vibration, and then the pure colors, those frequencies and then the energies that I'm kind of praying in or attending in. So that's what makes them where you can actually feel the energy. So it's an added tool to be able to wear them and start feeling the energies as you're as you're learning them

Brandon Handley 40:50
about them. I mean, I love that right? Because I can I can feel the application right? You know, I can I can I can sense I get a good sense of have kind of how you would direct that. And I feel like that would be, that would be like it's beneficial, right? Anytime he's been, I think consciously tending to your vibrations. that's beneficial. So it sounds to me like that's kind of what you're doing is teaching people how to pay attention to their vibrations, right at what levels and then being able to associate them with specific colors, right, so that they can really just kind of hone in and have an anchor point.

Anna Champagne 41:29
Right. So like, even with the emotion code, say we identify a trapped emotion, say it's grief. And it happened when you were 13. You know, and then, you know, we get shifted, but then you know, we'll put like a soft pink silk over and that'll like raise the vibration. So it's still really key for me to be healing those emotional patterns that are kind of blocking that flow of energy.

Brandon Handley 41:52
So would you classify this more of a healing class? Yeah. Okay. I mean, I mean, look, that's great. Yeah. I mean I love it because it might just be a guy thing right? Or you know could just be a me thing I've never really kind of addressed this one but like you know we were taught to like you know, you fall down you dust off and you keep on going forward you know you don't really address the specific pains you just move forward you don't address the specific moments that cause you to no question 90% of your life you just keep moving forward right but if you do take a little bit of time and and heal those moments

Anna Champagne 42:33
and you know, a lot of men do this, you know, as a spiritual path to I mean, a lot of men do have my silks too because they wear them for meditation. Tell me what are some favorite main colors? I mean,

Brandon Handley 42:41
other than blue, what are some what are some what are some main colors?

Anna Champagne 42:45
Some are the those turquoise is in blues and violets some sometimes, you know more the emerald green, but actually one of my first soaps that I made like decades ago when I'm My first shows ever did with them. There was this just big guy you know and he he got the most feminine so good made to that point with yell, you know pinks and yellows and actually I have a great story about that I was at a show one time, and a guy came and usually like I do have like these, um, you know, you might be able to see they have a pattern woven in there to card. And whereas like the this is just a sharp use, it's like smooth. So, you know, mostly guys tend to like the sharp use a smoother one, you know, because these can be a little more feminine. But there was a guy that he bought one that was in like a rose pain to fuchsia to a little violet, maybe maybe a little blue, and it was in a de card. And it was a very kind of, you know, society.

Unknown Speaker 43:55
You weren't expecting him to pick it up.

Anna Champagne 43:58
Yeah, but once you put it out And he had lost like, the love of his life. He lost his wife not too long before that, and he started to feel the energy. Right. And it started to heal with that pink. So he hung around the booth a lot and you know, just shared about his wife and you know, started the healing. But others, you know, like, I have a friend that commissioned some of the biggest like, meditation blankets, you know, they're huge. Um, and I do a half version that's like a meditation shawl. And this friend has a spiritual path and master and he meditates you know, many hours a day and he calls it like an energetic cocoon because that's another thing I didn't mention. It actually silk energetically insulates you too. And when you meditate in you know, certain colors. So, you know, it's, um, I was interviewed the other day and the guy was all wearing his pink shirt and stuff. So you know, it's time for the guys to be able to flame boy Right.

Brandon Handley 45:00
Yeah, look, look, look, I mean, everybody can wear some colors and enjoy for sure. So, in your class, I'm just gonna you talk about like intentions, positive qualities and emotions. You've got some guided journaling, meditations, affirmations, you know, what types of answers, I'm just gonna kind of what types of meditations Could I look at in that class.

Anna Champagne 45:23
They're, like I was saying there, they tend to be seven to nine minutes, I keep them fairly short, you know, growing into more of the meditations, but they're just meant to, um, interest introduce you to the colors, the qualities just kind of get in, and then they bring in some of the affirmations that you can use so it's, it's kind of like a guided one to educate you. And so that you can use it as a tool. So you know, something happens and you need to just use a certain color call us or an angel or whatever it is. You kind of have those tools and another and another, like, practical way to it doesn't have to be all about the silks although that is, you know, a big part of what I do Sure, like the Emerald Ray, it's all like think nature, you know, think the Verdun greens and, you know, it's getting big now doing earthing and you know, just

Brandon Handley 46:19
tell me about everything. I have no idea.

Anna Champagne 46:21
Oh, that's a great thing for people to know about, you know, I mean, think back on wood, barefoot as kids and running around in the summer, I mean, sure, you know, but beyond that, they've they've actually found that by connecting with the resonance of the earth, hmm, that it calms our nervous system and it decreases inflammation and does a lot of things like that. So I mean, they even have earthing mats and blankets and things you can have with, you know, your

Brandon Handley 46:50
did see an earthing mat, right. So I was kind of curious about that, but I hadn't hadn't really linked it to I wasn't sure what the whole thing was. I hadn't gone too far into it. So the meditation They are, you know, to, to kind of impress upon the mind and give you, you know, pause the color modalities, right, tie that in with some affirmations. And I'm assuming the intentions kind of pull that all together as well.

Anna Champagne 47:19
Yeah, and and, you know, like, white white rays associated with like intentions, like, you know, white is like all the colors so it's all possibilities and all potential. So think of like when we have an intention where we're impressing into that purity of just all possibilities. I love it also clarity, you know, because a lot of times we need clarity to be able to have an intention. We have to

Brandon Handley 47:48
know clarity you listen, I mean, and that I think that's one of the challenges, right? You can't see two pictures at the same time, right? You can't You can't you know, you can't so you can't hold two pictures in your in your mind. Expect to clear outcome. Fair. Right. Guided journaling. I've never heard of doing guided journaling before. So, you know, what we get what we get in that?

Anna Champagne 48:11
Oh, I think it's, it's just a process of getting, you know, things might start coming up and you want to just write about it just as you would journaling when I asked some questions, you know, or how do you feel about certain colors? Or how do you feel about the certain emotions, you know, because that's the other thing. Say you have fascination, then an antidote to get motivation is like glue, say, okay, so you can, you know, just so like one one way of through that healing journey, because you know, it's it's good to be able to, you know, write down things if people choose to and process how they're feeling and what's coming up or, or what they're experiencing, you know, and also to remember, not just what's coming up, like maybe some past things But also what they're experiencing because as we know, when we write it down, you know, a lot of times, especially those spiritual highs or things like that, it's like a dream, we kind of can forget about it, you know, so, so it's just guiding people with questions and things to you know, use how they want really, but like one student, she, when she got her set of silks there was Ruby was one of the colors and it actually made her angry, it agitated her, you know, because it was a kind of a red but it has more violet in it. And then in her journey of, you know, healing and growing and all that and by the end, she was wanting to find a color for her new office. And she ended up painting it this Ruby like luckily it was just one wall because that could be a lot, you know, sure in all the walls but but you know, there again, you know, when she was putting out there They're to our group and things. You know, in our Facebook group, it's like, What color? What color? Do you think I should you know, and always, I never want to tell someone, I want them to find it themselves. And it surprised me. And by the end, Ruby was so empowering for her. And she had come through so much to be able to speak our truth and heal some things and be empowered. And that's part of the Ruby quality to have this, like this laser beam of God. You know, that just those patterns that we can get stuck in, but then when we heal it, it's really empowering. So

Brandon Handley 50:34
I love that. I love that. Absolutely. And then and then, like you said, two archangels are a big part of of everything that you do, but they're also part of the class that you teach. Right?

Anna Champagne 50:48
Yeah. And I've been surprised because people, a lot of people don't know too much about the angels, angels, and they've really been loving hearing about them and learning and using them. So

So that's been the feedback so far.

Brandon Handley 51:02
I mean, I love I love that you're doing that. And just curious why you're surprised by

Unknown Speaker 51:11
that there.

Anna Champagne 51:14
I don't know, I guess because I just have lived with them so long that I just, you know, sometimes we take it for granted what we do know and things like that and, and a lot of the people I know, know of them, but, uh, yeah, I guess I've just been happy that they've really because I never want to push any like anything on anybody I want to, you know, it's part of the course. It's, it's, at first I wasn't sure how much it was going to be part of it. But then it's like, it's just so tied in, you know, with those divine qualities and, and the way that archangels work is you know, so you call to them for more compassion or more empowerment or motivation or killing truth. You know, abundance. They literally that's what their job is that they resonate at that specific frequency of that divine quality. And then they literally when they're asked to come because they have to be asked, they'll come and really stand right in your energy field and reinforce that pattern until you can kind of hold it for yourself. So they're really helpful.

Unknown Speaker 52:30
I love it. No.

Unknown Speaker 52:33
And I think that you hit on one of the things there. I know for me,

Brandon Handley 52:39
I'm so used to my own language, right? I'm so used to what I speak, and I'm surrounded by people that, you know, it's not an echo chamber, but they understand me, right? It's like, Oh, well, you know, there's like, 20 of us here and all 20 of us know the same thing. So pretty sure everybody knows that. We tend to forget just how long it took us to get to this place right away. And then you know, like today, right? You're telling me about these. I'm taking notes. I'm like angels and you know, Archangel books, what would be what would be, you know? And since I'm saying that will be a book where somebody could kind of understand a little bit more about archangels and what you're talking about, they're calling them and seeing that vibration or feeling that vibration,

Anna Champagne 53:22
do you have anything I'm working on the color healing book. Not withstanding, actually, this this book of the angels of love and light. My friend, Mario's Michael George wrote, or painted all the paintings and I actually got permission from him to use the images in my course and in my lectures and things nice. So on his website, which is my reuse, fine art calm, you can actually download for free you know, if you sign up for his email list, but he's very generous. You can actually download the book And I, you know, offered to my students, I tell them about it. And I think one of them said that it didn't come with the color photograph. So then you know, he has those that you can buy of these amazing artworks that he does. So that that's, that's a great book. Because there's, you know, there's different ones out there and they might have you know, different energies that they're, they're different, you know, there's different systems, there's different energy, so it's good to just kind of feel it out. Because if something doesn't feel right, with any book that you go to, there's just something that doesn't feel right. No, that that's just there's something in it that maybe isn't right for you. So

Brandon Handley 54:43
that's fair. So you know, but there are books out there then that if somebody were to be interested in what you're talking about, I could definitely talk to it and you know, if they continue to be interested in the archangels and the colors and you know, they should head on over to your course. While we go ahead and mentioned your wedding go, they go to the course and where's they gonna find you to connect with you and other places?

Anna Champagne 55:10
Yep. Well, one of my websites is a path of beauty.com. And that has my blog. And so we talked about color and, and you know, nature and flowers are a big part of it too, you know, because there is such an energy and there's actually in shamanism you know, the Devas and all of the plants and the flowers are really a four kind of an angel, you know? So, um, so I spent a lot of time there. And so yeah, so I take photographs, and that's just another one of my joys of what I do. And that has a lot of the Healing Sessions different things and then on a champagne soaks calm is where you can find a lot more of my soaks. And then right now, to find out about the core It's on a champagne soaks.com slash color dash healing dash course

Brandon Handley 56:10
awesome thank you and they can find you on Facebook and oh yeah so you're on all the social media and a champion

Anna Champagne 56:18
some more than others but you know what we all have to find our way

Brandon Handley 56:22
Sure. Sure. And your site I think is pat the beauty or the is that your garden I see a lot of flower pictures of that

Anna Champagne 56:31
my travels because I travel all over everywhere I go I

you know, visit beautiful gardens if they're not my own,

Brandon Handley 56:39
know that they're, they're beautiful. They are beautiful, beautiful flowers and beautiful pictures on there. So thanks for sharing those with us as well. Is there anything else that you think that we should hit on that maybe we didn't today um

Anna Champagne 56:53
just to just to be gentle with yourself, you know, with ourselves with all you know me too, because I can Be hard of myself to, and, and just keep healing so that you can find the love and respect for others because, you know, a lot of things are coming up in the world that are very divided. And, you know, this and that and, and, you know, it's just time that we heal what's causing the discord in the separation. And you know, and the beauty of it too is we're all individual presences. So it's not ever going to be like boring or we're all going to be the same because that's impossible. You know, it's like a flowers in a garden. So, so, um, and that's what I call a path of beauty just just living from that, you know, beautiful place.

Brandon Handley 57:47
Sure. You mentioned you know, before we go here, you mentioned a hand plants is kind of crazy right now. If you could take one silk color and wrap it all up which color would we what color How would we heal the planet with today?

Anna Champagne 58:01
Oh boy, I could go through

Well, it needs a lot of violet for that transforming, you know, transmuting those patterns but Emerald is very soothing and very healing So, and then always the pink Ray, you know is is that unconditional love? Do you want to have some yellow in there too for that wisdom? I love and of course blue. You can't do it without Archangel Michael protecting us all in our path. So for Sorry,

Brandon Handley 58:36
I couldn't say one. can't just pick one. I get it. It's okay. It's okay. The world needs them. All right. So, Anna, thank you, Ana. Ana, thank you so much for hanging out with me today and sharing your story and sharing some really great insights and practical applications. I really appreciate it.

Anna Champagne 58:54
Well, thank you so much. I really enjoyed spending time with you and I really appreciate it and Yeah

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Jeremy Snowden | The Man Chaplain

Published: Aug. 9, 2020, 11:35 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 5 minutes 4 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
4321 Hey there podcast land thanks for tuning in. We are taking another hit a spiritual dope and today I've got Jeremy snowed and joining me He is a dad, a granddad friend and men's mentor. He finds fulfillment being a resource a community connector. He runs a men's growth and development group Hero's Journey men's online discussion circle, and host a biannual man's three days meetup. He spends his free time discovering life hacks, physical movement and mindfulness practices. Jeremy, thanks for joining me today. What's going on? What's up?

Jeremy Snowden 0:38
What's up? Thanks so much for the invitation, man. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 0:41
yeah, I don't it was like, it was kind of like, it was a no brainer. You know, it was like, you know, we we've crossed paths, Facebook paths so many times, right. When I spun this up, I was like, you won't point so just you're kind of like a brother, brother from another mother right type of thing. Cuz, like, I think we're the same people. Right. Right. And and and the more we have these conversations, the more we kind of find that that's true. You and I were just talking before this about a mutual, you know, mentor that we found online. Eddie Bryant, right, who's doing who's doing some stuff. And you mentioned I just discovered on the week before, so I was like, this is just, yeah, it's fun. It's fun. And it's funny. So before we even get started, man, so before we even get started, I feel like I feel like we're kind of like, we're conduits for the creative energies forces in the universe, right? Yeah. And we're put together right now on this podcast, to speak to somebody. Right? And somebody needs to hear this, and it needs to come from you. What is it?

Unknown Speaker 1:51
Man?

Jeremy Snowden 1:52
Okay, so Wow, right on the spot, did you Okay, so

I think more than anything else

For me if I was if I was looking at the person that needs to hear this you are a human being not a human doing you know there's more to you than you know that you're at then you're aware of

and just fully embody yourself No

I think that would be a good

Brandon Handley 2:24
I love it. I love it man right i mean you're you're you're a human being not a human doing we get so caught up. Gosh, reactivity, right all the activity although RUN RUN, RUN doo doo doo I got to be productive man. If I'm not productive, they're gonna kick me off the team.

Jeremy Snowden 2:42
Right? The pressure and the stress? Yeah,

Brandon Handley 2:45
yeah. Yeah, absolutely. So I love it. I love it. You're a human being.

Unknown Speaker 2:51
And I think the other thing is,

Brandon Handley 2:53
knowing yourself right? And when you get into this kind of the spiritual realm and And you're you're getting into all these different involve with all these different groups. Excuse me. And these conversations, the word self can take on a number of connotations, right? Come on, what do you got? So tell me what you know. So, I'll give you an example of something that I saw this morning. And it actually had to do kind of like Maslow's law, right? hierarchy of needs. And when you get to the top there, it's self expression, self actualization. Ah, true. So, I mean, you know, if I asked you what that meant to you to basically that's the pinnacle, self expression, Self Realization, what does that mean? Right?

Jeremy Snowden 3:42
Wow, that's deep. For me, I guess it is finding experiences where I can be the observer, so that I can see myself clearly, you know, so depression in a wave of just that one the day that you just don't want to get out of That it just feels like your blanket is concrete, you know? And you can't explain it or anything. And so I have to, I call it father myself or, you know, work within my higher self, if you will. And almost to put my hand on my shoulder, if you will, and say, Hey, I know what you're feeling. Yeah. It's almost like it's two separate people or, you know, like my tradition. It's you know, you're a tripartite three part being spirit soul body, you have a spirit, you know, or I'm sorry, you are spirit you live in, you know, you have a soul you live in a body, you know, and now it seems like it's probably more complex and yet more simple. It's just but at any point, it's just seeing myself in those feelings, I can feel this I'm not those feelings. Right. But I you know, I can resonate with those feelings. Who's the it does that that's me. You know, you talk to yourself. A couple of days ago, I was like, let's have pizza and I was like, Who's let's

Brandon Handley 5:06
good idea for us to go get these things together. And that's great though I was just I was just listening to a book this morning actually. It's called mastering your emotions and the exercises in there is is what you just talked about, right? One of those is very powerful exercise you you see you see this observer exercise actually happen a

Unknown Speaker 5:26
lot in NLP, right? I'm not

Brandon Handley 5:29
sure yet, right. So it's the same thing you you, you You see, first of all, you're already here right? But if you can remove yourself one or two or three times and see that situation just like you said, you know you're in that better fathering yourself. I love that because you know, as a father, you know what that means by you. Put your hand on on your shoulder, and you're going to walk yourself out there with comfort and care and say, Hey, Paul, we got this we got right. And we're gonna go face this, whatever it is. Absolutely. Right. Yeah, love that the concrete blanket man that made me feel I felt it. I felt that corps right. Yeah, man. So, you know, my tradition is what what is your tradition? Because you said my in my tradition,

Jeremy Snowden 6:11
right? My historically if you will, first time I make the distinction between religion and spirituality, right. I'm not religious, I'm spiritual.

Brandon Handley 6:20
Yeah, show Yeah.

Jeremy Snowden 6:21
Right. Yeah. But at the same time, it was, you know, growing up in up drew up in a Christian environment, if you will, okay. And everything was about hierarchies, structures and pecking orders. It just life in general. You know, like, who makes the most money who's the cutest who's the tallest, the smartest, prettiest? Sure. Um, you know, and just that, that linear thinking like that. And so, for me, breaking out of that, I don't know if this is the proper time to talk about that or not, but basically just I was, you know, a very Launch Bible believer in you know, born again Christian you know for quite some time and while I do admire and respect a lot of my, a lot of my time there and of course my friends and my you know who become your, your family that you choose, you know? Sure it's I can see it now and you know having the whole dark night of the soul or nights or months you know. Right So, but in that I can see the need for that as a part of part of my life. So that was my background. Sure.

Brandon Handley 7:31
Yeah. It's funny you say that right? Like I'm I'm not religious, but I am spiritual and I think that a lot of people get that confused. I don't have a religion. Yeah. But I am spiritual right because I think that you know, you have a religion you're not you are not religious you have it right. Like, that's your background and your your kind of upbringing and, and, and, you know, the path that you follow, and it's funny that you bring up you know, we we have Eddie Bryan and In common a couple weeks ago like i said i was first I listened to him but you know there's some he talks about Vedanta and Hinduism right and he talks about all the different paths of Hinduism and right in the end he does it sooner or later you just got to bet on one line later just got it you got it you got a bet on one Yeah. Oh it because otherwise you're just always kind of popping around Yeah. And it It's funny how I landed on the just pick one theory or idea and I got that through the science of getting rich Wallace D wattles. Right I've never read that book. I mean, it's it's my all time it's in my top five man it's such a great book. But it's like just follow just read this one book and don't read any don't pay attention to anything else for like until you This is part of your soul,

Unknown Speaker 8:54
bro.

Brandon Handley 8:56
I'm so sorry to dive down in that right so okay. So you're running the men's group. Let's give a little more background journey man like, I mean, let's let's do this first, I always like to talk about the front end of it, you know, what is it you're doing? Tell us about? Tell us about your tell us about the men's group, right? The hero's journey, men's online discussion circle, right? Like, how did that get started? And what's going on?

Jeremy Snowden 9:21
Yeah, so almost two years, well,

longer than two years ago, I connected with some guys and some Facebook groups. And I was just blown away to see what the same questions over and over and over again. You know, my wife cheated on me, you know, or my wife left me or my girlfriend, you know, yada, yada. Or we can't give a lot we can never, you know, come to a conclusion on anything or whatever. Right? And so I figured, you know, I'm throwing my opinion in this whole thing, just to see what happens to kind of see where I'm at with my peers. You know, where are we at? You guys don't know me from Adam. I don't know you from Adam. And you. It's almost like my friend of mine, Andy. You might No to he and he's just he just trolls your stuff because he thinks you're cool. You know? We can't is it silly?

Brandon Handley 10:07
Yeah, yes. No, he's funny though. So he doesn't get a choice. Great troll. Yeah.

Jeremy Snowden 10:12
And he's like, and he's sort of my, my spiritual project, you know, to get him to start walking along that

Brandon Handley 10:20
path. Don't go to the dark side.

Jeremy Snowden 10:22
Right and he's he's doing everything he can to, you know, push, push it up, push me off it but Anyway, I digress. But he says, You know, I said something about, you know, just try not to read the comments right about now with everything heated up. You read people's comments, and you're just like, oh, but he retorted and said that it's all about the comments. And really, that's that's that's community right there. Yeah, you can actually trace your community within those comments. You know, CS Lewis said it this way, and I'll get off my soapbox. He said, I mean,

Brandon Handley 10:55
this is immunity. That's exactly what this is the soapbox, bro. That's why we're here. All right. All right.

Jeremy Snowden 11:02
community doesn't happen until someone else says YouTube. Mm hmm. You know, and so I created an online community of people that like, we have the same kind of challenges, you know, a lot of them are still married or, or, you know, some art, you know, and the thing that we do is we use the book as an excuse a friend of mine, Stan, you can you might know him as well. Stan, Michael, he, he wants to talk to me about the law of the third's, it's very similar to this mode to Brandon is like, you know, I have this light ring. I don't know if you have a light rain, but I kind of see that as my vortex. You know, I mean, like, it's, it's almost like, if we were to practice you know, like all of the different magical traditions, if you will, where you could look through water and see spirit on the other side. That's what we're

Brandon Handley 11:56
doing. You know, we're ending the evil stepmother and Mirror mirror on the wall. fairest of them all right. I mean, come on somebody that stops everywhere, right? Like, here's the thing, like, here's the thing is what's so great about like this space is like, once you realize you tripped over into it, you're like, Oh, it's everywhere. Everybody's been trying to tell me my entire life.

Jeremy Snowden 12:16
Come on. Right? Right on your face, right?

Brandon Handley 12:20
Mm hmm. I mean, we'll cliches and you know, stuff. Your parents told you that you said, Nah, shut up. Stop. You're crazy. Don't talk to my friends. Right? It's everywhere. I was I was on the plane, coming back from Denver. And I was watching the Madeline L'Engle movie with Oprah in it. A stitch in time, A Wrinkle in Time, Wrinkle in Time, man. And it was everything you and I are about and I was like, I was taking notes like furious. I was like, oh, brah Oh, Oprah, not again, more Oprah right um, Mirror mirror on the wall. Right, just like yeah, that's the vortex that's looking looking, looking looking. piercing the veil, right?

Jeremy Snowden 13:06
Yes. I'm

Brandon Handley 13:09
with you. Yeah, tell me more. So Hero's Journey hero's journey. Tell us all Batman.

Jeremy Snowden 13:14
So it's very similar, right? You could see these different themes in everybody's lives. We're all living the same life.

Brandon Handley 13:21
Suddenly, let's talk about the things right, let's talk about let's talk about the hero's journey. Because if you're not familiar with it, who's it come from?

Jeremy Snowden 13:31
Joseph Campbell, is a mythologist very wise man who did research to be able to see these common themes and all stories Star Wars, right? Um,

Brandon Handley 13:45
gosh, went nuts. Oh, so if is he recently like that went went went when was he? You know, I do know some history on him. But I you know, I'm not this is not a test. But I want I want I want people to hear from you. I was like,

Unknown Speaker 14:00
No, kind of monopoly,

Jeremy Snowden 14:02
probably circa and I can look it up too.

But probably circa 1950s around that time, I guess

Brandon Handley 14:09
so he predates he predates Star Wars and all that

Jeremy Snowden 14:13
stuff, right? For sure. For sure. And yeah, just pulling him up here just as a nerd

Brandon Handley 14:18
with rain. Sure, man. So, before,

Jeremy Snowden 14:21
right so yeah, he was born. Right so

1904 so in died 1987 So, yeah, he was an inspiration to Steve Lucas. Is that right? I'm not a big Star Wars fan but Lucas. Lucas right, George There it goes. I think he's towards. I'm showing my own coolness right now to some of your audience. Yeah, but anyway, um, he just really, you know, well, it says he was influenced, for instance by Nisha Christian Judy Krishnamurti. Carl Jung. I mean, just Schopenhauer. I mean, like he basically canonized The concept of you know that the departure, the initiation of the hero, and the return, you know, and with each and there's got subsections and all that you could read on it, of course online. But it's just that we have the same story except I think in my mind's eye, I'm thinking what you talked about Maslow's hierarchy of needs kind of the same thing. You know, I'm saying there's, there's levels to this shit.

Brandon Handley 15:25
Right, right, right, though. Absolutely.

Jeremy Snowden 15:27
And unfortunately, we talked about it earlier, maybe some people this round just don't want to get it.

Brandon Handley 15:32
Well, there's a there's a section in the story, right is some people reject the hero's call, right? Because the beginning there, right? is is is okay. And and here's, you know, if you want my take on it, which you're not asking for, but I'll give it to you. Ain't on me. Right. So we've got the hero's journey. Then there's, there's the call of the hero, right? That's when you're when you and I are in this journey, we felt something I mean, so overwhelming that if you didn't do it, something inside you died. Yeah. Right if you don't and that's so that's the that's the hero's call, right? The hero's call is, is there's something

Unknown Speaker 16:17
within me that if I don't share it,

Brandon Handley 16:21
if I don't help to give this away

Unknown Speaker 16:24
within my lifetime I may as well stop now. Right? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 16:29
So you feel that and then you have a couple opportunities to say Nah, fuck that I'm gonna go have a beer. Right? Right and so you can sub you can sub do that in a number of ways. And and I'm not sure if you ever watched the series on Netflix it's called the umbrella factory. And and what I realized by watching the umbrella factory was there's one girl on there I'm not not to give away the whole plot, but like she was subdued her entire life from her innate superpowers. By medication, right Though, you know, to what where I'm getting there is is like a religion, ad. You know, people who my grandmother was diagnosed as schizophrenic now, we didn't have like we weren't super close, but the question begs to be answered. What's your medium? Yeah, right. Right. And and there wasn't, there wasn't the space in the place, then that we've got now available to allow for that. Yeah, to explore that, which is I love where we are now. So, to me, the hero's call is just that right? There is something within you, right? And if you if you don't answer that, you've got to suppress it. And that's when you start to kind of each time because it's going to be it's going to come more than once. It's gonna keep coming right there every, every moment in your life is kind of an opportunity for that hero's call, right? Yeah. And if you don't answer that You're gonna wither away and die. Yeah. Yeah, that's my take on it.

Jeremy Snowden 18:04
What do I think that's wonderful man, that's, that's really good. I love this volley. Plain and simple is because that's how I grow. You know, for the longest I looked around to people that were in suits on Sunday morning, and it's like, you guys can't bring the fire here What's going on? You know, and I was like, there's got to be more. And it's not that they weren't good people. It's just that sometimes when we put constraints on our, our faith or our religion, whatever it is, right, it's, it's we kind of like it's like, I used to lead worship, you know, so and I love worship music. But it was like, only part of the dance and when I when I when I stepped down from that, if you will, and began to sit down on my back porch, right, and, you know, dance in front of the moon. Nobody else is around. It's just me and God. So everything outside of my body is dancing with me. It felt more authentic. Then, you know, playing and although I still play music I still love. I still love worship music but it seemed that I was, you know, we could we following a rigid tradition didn't allow me or spirit for me to be able to just blossom it just kept me in this kind of in a confined space so sure, sure kind

Brandon Handley 19:21
of like kind of like I mean, if you think about a tangle of roots and in a confined space in a box, right, like I mean, there's just

Unknown Speaker 19:29
nowhere to go.

Brandon Handley 19:30
Yeah, okay. Well, I mean, it's fair, but I'm just curious too, because all right, look, you've got this group you're doing you're and you're and you're walking them through, like the hero's journey, right? So I stopped everybody here for a second at, you know, rejecting the call. So what happens when you answered a call is you know, take me there. Right?

Jeremy Snowden 19:48
Well, I mean, first off, and I know this different for everybody. I mean, number one is when i don't know i don't get probably the same thing. Granted, it's like even the cashier will start telling me about it. Marriage, you know, I'm saying and it's so it's like you know, I gotta also safeguard my energy at the same time but it's like working with guys that are like somes kind of like a little off and I need some just help. What they really need is just somebody to walk with them that second phase right, which is the initiation right percent, right. So it's, it's and it's it's Simba or I'm sorry. It's symbols friends. Timonium, Puma. Yeah. Cool.

Brandon Handley 20:30
Right. So now saying that the other day I don't even care. No.

Jeremy Snowden 20:34
Yeah. And then you have her freaky, right, the monkey that shows the bigger picture, if you will, right. And then the mentor Right, so the mystic, mystical mentor. There you go. And that's where I mean again, that the hero's journey arc works Yoda all stories, right. There you go. Right. Go. So walking with them is it for me at least it's as much as just for saying I see you. Yeah, I see you. And he's like, looking at you now. Right? You've done it.

Unknown Speaker 21:06
I'll tell you

Brandon Handley 21:08
that, that that saves me. when when when, you know, when that happened to me, I was like something was a little off. And I had to reach out to, you know, three, three people, three different people. And I was like,

Unknown Speaker 21:21
I don't know what's going on. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 21:24
I'm not losing my shit, but I'm not quite right. I just thought I'd let you guys know. Right? And at same time also reached out to a Buddhist Reverend friend, right? I said, Hey, here's what I'm feeling. And he goes, you're cool. I was like, working with them. Right. But to your point, this is a little over three years ago. The I had the exact same feeling of, hey, look, I want to be the greeter. Right? Kind of like a scarecrow in The Wizard of Oz.

Unknown Speaker 21:58
Right. Yeah, yeah.

Unknown Speaker 22:00
We're gonna cross paths you're gonna cross paths or paths are gonna interweave. You're on the way to Emerald City. I'm sure I'll walk along with you for a while.

Jeremy Snowden 22:08
We're off to see the wizard. Right. Yeah. Right. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 22:11
yeah, so exactly the same. Yeah. Tell me more.

Jeremy Snowden 22:14
Yeah. So a lot of the times, it's, it's a matter to, I mean, it's just us watching them as kids, we had invisible friends. Right. And then we're told, well, that's stupid, you know, but I think that they serve whether they were real, you know, if you can, if you if you accept, you know, spirits or demons or whatever, if you go along that track are whether they are just an aspect or element of our own spirit or mind. You know, however you see it, they serve a purpose, you know, and one of those is to, to watch, like, you know, again, is my tradition. It's like, there are such things, it's watchers, right? Have you noticed a lot of paintings that people do when they're shrooms are a plant medicine. There's a lot of eyes around the eyes have it? Sure. So, you know, sometimes people just need you to be their spotter, you know, as they're going through that stuff. You don't need to have.

Brandon Handley 23:15
Yeah, you listen, you Listen, don't trip by yourself on the first time, right? Like everybody knows that. I'm just saying, right? Like, it's, it's, it's very similar though, right? Like, you know, you want to be in a safe place and especially when you're in a vulnerable condition such as an awakening or such as like, you know, especially look men are just as vulnerable as anybody else. I I believe, more so because if they're going through the, you know, the call to hero, right. And they don't know where to turn. Most of us haven't been prepared for this. Yes. Right or don't recognize, right don't recognize that they've been prepared for now because I'll I would also say that due to the Your religion, you were able to put things into some kind of framework. You're like, you know what, holy shit. there's a there's a story in the Bible that lines up to the scene that I'm going through right now, what was the outcome? And you could you can say in your mind, right, this was the outcome. What does that outcome really mean, though? Because that outcome no longer is, is this kind of this story, right? No, this is no longer like, you know, you know, the walls of Jericho, just falling down what, you know, what was that story? If I could put that into modern language, right, I circled it, you know, XYZ times. And, you know, is that a story of patience and perseverance of you know, and that's what this really meant, right? And that's what I'm experiencing. Sure. Is, did you have that? You know, is that how you kind of translated your, is that what made it easier for you or was it is it a journey that kind of like really set the tone for you?

Jeremy Snowden 24:56
Right, right. Well, it was, I guess, It was a mixture of both. So as you were sharing, I was like, dude, I'm I'm letting him go, because this is really this is solid meat here. This is about where I'm at. So it came to a point where and I won't go into that on the just because for time sake, but, you know, I was going through my dark night of the soul if you will season right. And I just realized I need to zoom up a little further and not just assume that text, no offense to anybody else, any text. Okay, so across the board for me, if it does not resonate with my heart, I just can't receive it. Right. Right. So if I can apply it because I think it's wholesome, right? I mean, I All scripture is given for admiration and for admonition and examples for us and got out and I believe that they're good. They're good stories. Some of them don't apply the way that I was told they applied. And so I have to, you know, observe them as the self Right, yeah. As it's just like, you know, looking at your kids candy, I hate to, you know, make the word candy, you know, I'm saying but it's like, you know, when you're at Halloween, you're just checking get your, you know, you get your fill of Reese's Pieces that

Brandon Handley 26:14
you find those passwords don't need all those candy.

Jeremy Snowden 26:18
But, you know, I had to I had to scrutinize each thoughts, you know, of any any text. So that's why I'm listening to, you know, Edwin Bryant right now. And, you know, the yoga sutras of Patanjali. It's because there are words there. They're, what three 5000 years old. And he is explaining them and I even have to scrutinize him for myself for my own personal self right now. Not out loud, right? I'm

Brandon Handley 26:48
good.

Jeremy Snowden 26:49
All right, all the greats I don't I just, I've come here on the same dispensation and it's my responsibility to unpack it. You know, there's a difference. I put it this way. There's a difference. belief and faith, right?

And it's like, yeah, was that media?

Yeah. So like faith is all scripture calls faith substance. Right? It's a substance. Okay? Right. Whereas belief seems to me to be just an ideology, you know, and it's like, sometimes we mistake I have in the past mistakes as interchangeable. But then when my ideology falls apart, that's when your faith has to come alive. So that's what happened. Okay, so when, when that happened, because of the dark night of the soul, right, I decided to investigate and search things to see if they're actually what they really are for, for my own selves.

Brandon Handley 27:43
And describe, like dark night, a soul a little bit. So for somebody that, you know, that feels like they've been through it, or you know, or what does it mean to you because I think that that has a different meaning to people to

Unknown Speaker 27:55
write.

Jeremy Snowden 27:58
I think it's part of this The Hero's Journey story arc, if you will, in the dragons, the the bankruptcy, the divorce the, you know, the difference stimuluses that caused the response in you? Is it parallelisation? Like, I've been there, like, you know, where you're just paralyzed, you don't know what to do. It was Wednesday, like, a day ago, and now it's, you know, Sunday morning or whatever, you know, you just kind of lose track of everything. It's best. That's my own personal experience. I don't really cry a lot. It's not.

Brandon Handley 28:31
I mean, is it like a depression point? Is it a focal point? Do you have to kind of hit?

Jeremy Snowden 28:38
Okay, so, very similar to what you said. It's like, Is there a diagnosis for it? That is actually right. Or do we just what is what we call depression? Right? Yeah.

Is it? Is that

Unknown Speaker 28:54
the call? Sure you

Jeremy Snowden 28:57
believe so. You know, think it's thick. Right, and they have to withdraw themselves and and heal themselves or not you know and so you know I kind of think that ladder it's yeah I think you're right my mom actually was kids phrenic and we her and I lived with her demons you know as her behavior is powerful

Brandon Handley 29:21
I mean how do you look at that now?

Jeremy Snowden 29:25
Yeah so i i i don't know in terms of we've I guess my sisters and I've we've we've had that those conversations is a demon is a devils that are like literal doubles. Is it just the serotonin synaptic gaps and durose transmitters that blah blah, you know, misfire Listen, listen to I mean, there's always there's always a science psychology about it, right? Like I'm right. And that's, that's frustrating, right? Because you can science away just about anything you want. Right?

Brandon Handley 29:56
Let's talk about it from let's talk about it from just your You know, your own life experience perception, your own human words? Know what's out. You know, if you're looking at that right now, like I said about my grandmother does that, you know, all right, well, Was she a medium? Was there something was she in contact when you got plenty of people that say I talk to angels, you know, is there something trying to communicate through her and it was a matter of if she had had the right teacher or teaching. It could have been just tremendous power that could have brought good into the world.

Unknown Speaker 30:31
Sure.

Jeremy Snowden 30:33
Isn't that crazy, too? And could it be I mean, and rest are soul. It could it be that she denied the call?

Brandon Handley 30:42
Don't so that's the thing, right? If you don't, if you're not,

Unknown Speaker 30:46
so, for me, a lot of this is already like my first language.

Brandon Handley 30:54
I was raised this way like my mother was I was born out in San Francisco. My mom was like, I mean I picked up the exact same eaching book. She got like, I'm stupid, retarded. Like, I mean, everything she ever said is like, I'm like, Oh my gosh, she was right. Right. and and, and and like, I mean, yeah, you know, I brought up Alan Watts with her and she's like, Oh yeah, I remember seeing him in San Francisco, Alan. Know. And so, so when I experienced all this stuff, I kind of had a background in it right. I was like,

Jeremy Snowden 31:29
nice. It was almost like I'm

Brandon Handley 31:34
falling into like, down comforters. Wow, you were just like beautiful gowns. You know, like, wow, I was like, Man, this is a great place to be. Yeah. How can I explain to everybody else where I'm at, right like, I mean, and and do it in a way and that's part about this podcast, right? How can you know a big part of it's okay, great. It's cool. You feel that way, but How can you apply that in? Yeah, practicality, right? And so, so you're doing that in your group, right? you're grabbing these men. And you're saying, All right, we're cool here. This is a safe space. Here's what you're going through, and you're using the hero's journey to walk them along the journey. Right?

Jeremy Snowden 32:19
So through the challenges of everyday life through divorce or whatever. And also like, like, in my case, for instance, which in the hero's journey Ark, my dragon was hell. I mean, Holy moly, right. I mean, like, if I'm wrong, I can get a, you know, you know, don't collect $200 go directly to hell, you know, find stamped and it's your own. It's your own damn fault, Jeremy, because I'm now seeking things or allowing things or understanding things that are contrary to my upbringing, if you will. So that was my that was that was that I was just so afraid. You know what What people are gonna think, you know, how people are gonna act toward me, now that I'm able to hold space for a wizard, if I wanted to, you know, I'm saying, you know, or somebody else, it's all welcome here.

Brandon Handley 33:11
Sorry. I'm sure the reference behind that. I don't even know, man, I'm just you know, let's just like it's just like, hey, like, you know, all are welcome. Nobody's kind of kept out. Right. And so that's kind of what you were you're talking about. Right?

Jeremy Snowden 33:25
Right. But it was because I hit that firewall and push through it, you know, and what if I can give? Can I give a brief example, dude? Yeah, absolutely. Please do. So a couple of years ago, I did plant medicine over at a Native American church. Right. Okay. And I was like, for sure. This is the thing that sends you to hell

Brandon Handley 33:45
right here, for sure. Was that the first time you've ever done plant medicine? Yes. Yeah. Okay. What is plant medicine?

Jeremy Snowden 33:53
Well, I guess.

I think I guess that's not exactly true, but From a vantage point of hallucinogenic as a medicinal

Brandon Handley 34:04
right for medicinal purposes well yeah as originally intended

Jeremy Snowden 34:09
one could argue that marijuana is plant medicine. Sure. Absolutely. Talking about that about and I westca no it's the it's the South American route that is extracted created into a tea you drink it shit yourself, etc etc.

Brandon Handley 34:24
There's nowhere to go a little declare. Gives you as

Jeremy Snowden 34:29
many Doritos as

you want. You're like, absolutely

Brandon Handley 34:35
good exchange.

Jeremy Snowden 34:36
So, you know, in my mind's eye, I was like, I mean, I changed my will before I went in you know, I mean, it was I was thinking this I prepared with intentions, etc. about it. I meditated and prayed on it, and then I, you know, I went in, put your money down. That's where it's at, right everywhere. So I'm in of course, I won't go into the experience right now, but The thing is, is that things that I seen made sense to me. Yeah. It makes sense to me in a way that maybe the things that I've read didn't make sense to me. Sure. I didn't change my religion, or if you will, so much as it it really helped me to open my spirit, if you will. Everybody should do it, because it was a trip and a half and it was a heavy deal,

Brandon Handley 35:24
you know, about no doubt. Well, but I mean, look, I it's kind of like, um, it's kind of like the the walls are already weakened. And that just, you know, that just

Unknown Speaker 35:37
positive in a damn

Jeremy Snowden 35:39
right. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. You know, it didn't make me better. It didn't make me a better father or husband or getting married or anything. It just changed you. Exactly. I mean, let's just, even if you look at it from a purely scientific standpoint, you know, where it was the who's hallucinogenic. It's, you know, It was legal the way that I obtained it the whole nine yards. So I'm pretty certain that but it's, you know, I'm just

Brandon Handley 36:06
waiting for the address at the end of the show.

Jeremy Snowden 36:14
Well, but the thing that if you just look at it from a scientific point of view, where it's just a hallucinogenic that, you know, responded to your nervous system, creating a sense of euphoria and blah, blah, blah, colors, right, good shit. It was right. Nonetheless, it wasn't really about the experience, right? Because it really is about the outcome. Really, right. Yeah. I, this experience is a great, everybody's got it. Right. You know,

Brandon Handley 36:44
you take it, I mean, look at me, it's, it's, it's, you know, everybody's got experiences, right? It's, it's not that you don't have the experiences How do you translate those experiences? And that's, that's really the outcome, like so it's it's every, you know, You know, my wife has never done any hardcore drugs, or drugs. I don't think she's ever smoked a weed or maybe she took a hit, but like, she never was like, hey, let's sit around all afternoon and like smoke his bowl, like, Oh my God just filled the bottled water, right? Like she never hung out did all that, but like, um, you know, she'll have some drinks and whatever. But so she's had experiences that she's had. And I've had, you know, plenty of experiences similar to one I just outlined and much rougher and tougher. And she looks at my life like, wow, you went through some shit. I'm like, it's not. Everybody's gone through some shit. It's somebody translate that how do you? How do you take your stories, and empower yourself? Because what we've done though, historically, and I think this is part of what you're teaching your men and working with your men is take these stories and your experiences, and empower yourself. And that's kind of the pinnacle of the hero's journey is that my writers? Tell me more. I'm talking way too much. Yes,

Jeremy Snowden 37:56
this is the collaborate. I think it's great but the return That's the final third of the hero's journey the return when, you know King off, Arthur is able to pull the sword from the stone where Simba grabs the courage to be able to, you know, go and get his bride and defeat his uncle and circle and lie, you know. So. So it's it's again, it's it's, it's the, it's the return and for me, it's like well, we started at the, you know the departure like with some some of my guys, we started the departure, and I don't determine that for you. Like, I'm very careful not to try to dictate what I see God as for someone else. Yeah, you can't. Right. Right, right. Yeah. That's right.

Brandon Handley 38:42
So that's what that's what it is frustrating. Um, and that's the product it's frustrating but it's also the problem because you Yeah, it's uh, if you say you know, God, then you don't know God type thing, right? Like because

Unknown Speaker 38:58
you can't, you can't

Brandon Handley 39:00
Put that into words. If you've gotten that kind of the first place that this kind of dawned on me experiences can't be translated they must be experienced was a de five rings book. If you've ever read that, right? Have you ever read that? That Samurai? Oh, yeah. And I was just beginning Jiu Jitsu at the same time, but like he would be talking about like, you know, kind of these different sword moves and swords, spots and spaces. And he can tell you how to do the moves, you can watch how to do the moves, but it's not until not only do you go try to do the moves, when you nail the move, and you get it right, then you know, you've just executed it correctly, right? You're like, wow, you know, because it'll be just a muscle here or muscle here and change and adjustment angle here or there. That makes it all work, right. So minor, minor adjustments, but when you nail it, you've experienced it. And that's all you can tell somebody like you'll know when you get it. Right, you'll know when you write like algebra and fractions.

Jeremy Snowden 40:05
Yeah. Oh, and you're like, bingo. Yeah, I got you best nine years of my life.

Brandon Handley 40:16
So, so you're running this group, you've been running this group for a while now. Right? And and you're, you're ramping up. You want to expand my right or wrong. For sure. Yeah. Let's talk about that. Tell me what's up. Yeah.

Jeremy Snowden 40:31
So because of my experience of divorce seven years, and just when I was able to kind of release that yoke of what my reality was, or when I created as far as my story, and then realize I used to be, I used to be a husband and a father, then it'd become, you know, an ex husband. I changed roles right. And then the kids stopped calling me because they were certainly going off to high you know, High School in college. So they respect Less than less. And it's like so now I'm not even a dad. And so it you know, although I was technically Of course, you know, when they needed something specially, but and and it's just part of their journey they're they're doing what they need to do as well. But it really caused me to be up to to look inside to make it happen. And so that's sort of what I'm approaching other guys that are just having those questions right now. You know so

Brandon Handley 41:26
the question is, what is what are some of the trigger questions you hear and you're like, you're like, you're like I know it. I know you need me. Right, I can help you. What are those questions?

Jeremy Snowden 41:35
Well, the key the key word that I listened for should back in my Bible days, Hey, have you been reading your Bible? Not as much as I should? Sure. Yeah. Are you exercising not as much as I should? It's like, why don't you design a life for yourself when you fully embody yourself? And so you know, whenever I hear those kind of things like should how things are supposed to To be or ought to, if they're open if people are open to it, and again, it's a matter of audience, right? I don't know who, who needs me. I'm, I'm just opening myself to do. I'm doing a 21 day kind of a challenge. It's really not about the 21 days. It's not about doing activities, although it is it's just about someone watching you through your journey as you're developing. So those dark days where you don't want to get up and you get a text from me that says, you're making your bed right and you're doing your five push ups. Put a thumbs up when that's done, holler to you later. Peace, right? It'll put a smile on your face. It'll make you it'll make you do it even though you don't want to do it. It's valid. Right? It's just it's it's billion dollar that they already have. Sure.

Brandon Handley 42:44
Yeah. That hasn't been on hasn't been hasn't been bolstered. Right. It hasn't been supported. It hasn't been encouraged,

Jeremy Snowden 42:52
right? Um

Brandon Handley 42:55
I would you know, I would stop were we talking about it. I'm Sure you

Unknown Speaker 43:00
flow, the book flow, you bought a book

Brandon Handley 43:03
is it in his book where he talks about and I think it is in his book where he talks about like, you know, some of the older cultures like in China and Oriental cultures, they cultivated the sense of being, right. They cultivated, they were cultivated people. And we get the sense of and you know, when we say, oh, that person's cultivated, we this we think aristocratic, we think money, wealth, and all these other things, but know, what he's talking about is they've cultivated that inner sense of being right. They've cultivated that, you know, stoicism and applied it and it's internalized, right. That's, that's, that's, that's, that's what they've done. And that's what we haven't done. Right. So that in a Western culture, right, you know, and, and, and I'll throw this other one at you too, because I keep kicking it around. You know, adulting is hard, but you know what, the full word is adulterated. We've been adulterated and changed, right? There's this change and transition. So adulting being adulterated. When we go through this metamorphosis. It's a it is a challenge. And if you don't have people like yourself, myself, I'm there to catch you as you come in or greet you, right? I mean, the officer into the church is there to greet you to welcome you like that. Right? It's You're welcome here, come into this place where you're welcome. And and and be prepared to hear some stories that if you're, they're no longer pearls before swine, right, that they're no longer pearls before swine, like, these are all the stories that are now before you that after you cross this threshold of understanding, you get now you're like, Ah, yeah, because you can't you I think we're talking a little bit about this earlier. It's like you can't go to people who haven't already had the experience. Tell them about the experience, and have them ready to accept it because It sounds unreal.

Unknown Speaker 45:02
That's right. Right. But the beauty is

Brandon Handley 45:08
we've got, you know, Vedanta Hinduism, all the stories from you know, the the writing to your pata shots. But I mean even, you know, the the cuneiform Egypt lives this, these are not and this is this is what you're talking about though these are not new feelings. These are not new questions. These questions have all been answered before. Yeah. But they've been answered by generations before us who had other experiences to reference around them. Right. And we've got to do that now. We've got to retranslate those stories into a language that somebody else can understand.

Jeremy Snowden 45:46
And more or less one that resonates with our just tacking on for me, it's like, yeah, yeah, right. It's not something that I'm parroting anymore and not that you're living it.

Brandon Handley 45:56
You're living, you're living it, you've embodied it. It is now internalized and when you express yourself, self expression, your inner self. Right? That's what's coming out. It's like the Wayne Dyer thing, right? You know, if you put nothing if you're an orange, essentially right, the only thing it's going to come out of you is orange juice because all you've been putting in you is pouring right? I mean for you, all you've been putting into yourself is like this love, right? I've been putting into yourself Is this just the story and your understanding and you've been working on yourself? You've been cultivating yourself so that you can

Unknown Speaker 46:31
share so that you can get Yeah, yeah.

Jeremy Snowden 46:34
You know, I find that a lot of guys and again, I work in more in the manned space than I you know, I've got of course you know, lots of Lady for fret friends that are women but I pretty much in the man's face in terms of self development. Um, and maybe that's just more I'm just that's how I'm wired. You know, I there's a lot of common, there's more commonality, so for sure, but you find that a lot of guys have been motivated and burdened by shame. Okay, it's, it was the, it was the tool that drew the you know that trival drove him to school, it was the tool that kept him in line. It's the and then all of a sudden, you know, and that's where I'm thinking, Man, if people are feeling sensing that on the regular, something's not right, your, your, your, your heart is as a as a and this is just my experience, if your heart is just pushes that way, it's like it feels it and it pushes it away. And so sometimes people use excessive alcohol or drugs or whatever, you know, to, or eating or whatever to be able to mask that. But that's just, that's just the symptoms, you're just cutting leaves off the, you know, the, the weed or whatever, you know, but it's going to continue to grow. It's just going to be there until you find a way to be able to not even address it, but address yourself. It's okay. You know, it's alright, man, everybody makes mistake, I really do it in my there. And just going through that process of not, you know, that self talk process to bring really an impact besides the story, the stories and outside thing, which some of it was true, some of it happened, a lot of it didn't. And you replayed it, you know, 90,000 times every day over the last 20 years or whatever. So I think that's why people need to have other people it's not just by my coaching, you know, video, you know, whatever's and you will be a millionaire too. It's, hey, so was it hard brushing your teeth this morning, man. You know, you look tired, like doing a video. You know, like how when you do video with people.

Brandon Handley 48:49
So, you know when I chatted with a doctor who was helping men Go through depression, right? She was actually working on, you know, men who are suicidal, right? Trying to get them help, right because her brother had had done this himself. And so she made that kind of her life's work

Unknown Speaker 49:15
column

Unknown Speaker 49:22
for three, to one more back.

Brandon Handley 49:27
What are some, like, you know, applications of kind of what we're talking about there, right? Because it sounds to me a little bit like, you know, using the observer as a tool, right? That's what it was right? So she would she would say, hey, with men, right? They want to try it first. They want to try to do it on their own first and so she would offer them a toolbox. Do you offer your guys like a toolbox? Beautiful.

Jeremy Snowden 49:49
I think that the the book study in itself is that toolbox like resource, and it's really not me. It's the other guys I mean, we get on a zoom call. We talked about You know, like, right now we're doing Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Right? Great ground, the great book, right? Yeah, nothing wrong with that. And we're just going through it and what we're doing, we're talking the language to each other. So I use that as a toolbox. I mean, plain simple is people guys always say it's so hard to be able to be a part of a men's group. Well, the men's group is, you know, your bowling league, if it's the right guys, you know, or, you know, the people that you you know, whatever, you know, hike with or cycle with, that can be a part of your men's group. So it doesn't have to be an officially sanctioned thing. So that's my that would be my tool, my toolbox and you know, then I work on work with people one on one, you know, we do the, the hero's journey men's circle, just that's, that's what I do. That's what I do for my life, not for a living. So I'm charging for I probably never will. It's just a way to be able to have these conversations because if you think about it, in Spanish, everybody's taking Spanish, one Spanish To write, and none of us can even order from the taco truck. You know, I'm saying, why is that? Well, because we didn't get a chance to practice it. Right? So when you're reading a book, a really good book, and then you're talking to somebody about it, like what you and I just did, you know, in the hero's journey, you broke it down. I was like, amen. Amen. I was like, Wow, dude. So, you know, and then she's talking about it. What does it do? It solidifies my ideas. It helps you to contrast them against yours. Sure, not for the not for the cause of debate. You're a stranger you're hearing you know, Australia or whatever. I know you're not but you know, I'm saying

Brandon Handley 51:35
but actually, I heard there's a lot of spiders there the other day and we don't want to be in Australia. So

Unknown Speaker 51:40
Crikey there goes that cranky.

Brandon Handley 51:42
But I was like, they all said it with kangaroos and platypus and koalas.

Unknown Speaker 51:47
100%

Brandon Handley 51:50
The it's also funny too. Are you able to do me a favor man. Take your camera and swirl it around and rattle off some of the books that

Unknown Speaker 52:01
Like well now, right? Yeah.

Jeremy Snowden 52:05
Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. The Millionaire Next Door right I know that you got that. First things first time traps Elements of Style as far as writing I think you and I think

Brandon Handley 52:16
that's where we like that's where we that's where we hit off right like we really don't know. Yeah.

Jeremy Snowden 52:23
One minute to do list Heidegger Martin Heidegger, you know, basic writings pemuteran john, which is great, right? I never saw you're not so smart. It's more just a analytical book. You got some Seth Godin represent, right? Yeah, check this

Unknown Speaker 52:38
out says one way book man. For sure. Right.

Jeremy Snowden 52:42
Right. So of course Four Agreements represent right. The Alchemist over there while the heart by

john Eldridge.

Hmm. You know, so, uh, I hate to say I'm well read, but I'm just not.

Unknown Speaker 52:57
So. I think

Brandon Handley 52:58
I think the other thing you hit on there too. is, you know, it's not just reading these books, discussing them and applying them. So otherwise it's a it's what they call shelf esteem. Whoo. Right. Right. You know, what good is it doing it? Yeah. Great. You read all the books. What out of that particular book did you love right? Or you know, if you want to, you know, we'll talk about I talked about high fidelity and the crown a lot, you know, not the chronological order but how you got from how I got from like, you know, blondie, you know, Tomic in 1981 to shatter herbs and Rolling Stones like got into like a you know, man who's right out to that like a talking heads you know, it's always the same, it's the same right like I could tell you a chronological order how I made these brownies and and and the songs and how they made me move. right and and and and what I took out at that time, what was my heart feeling? Same thing with the book. So right like, What? What inside of that book made? What was the? What about that book made you move? What about that book made you change? What changes did you make? Because you've read that?

Unknown Speaker 54:18
Yeah. Right. So, um

Brandon Handley 54:23
what are some like great applications that you would give some people from any one of those books include

Unknown Speaker 54:32
include include call heroes, you know, hero's journey. Wow.

Jeremy Snowden 54:37
Um, well, again, I think that the the hero's journey is a template for your entire life and it can happen so quickly right in different areas and aspects of your life. So it's not just a one time winner takes all you know, it's it's you got to go through this story again, it's just a different story. Like, like my kids, they went vegan, right. And I was thinking in my mind Amway is next.

Unknown Speaker 55:05
This only leads to one place.

Jeremy Snowden 55:08
Now, you know, no, not necessarily, but it's just that we all go through face to face. Yeah. All right. Have you been born again yet? You know, are you

Unknown Speaker 55:16
sure? We go through the? Yep, yep. Yeah.

Jeremy Snowden 55:20
So, um, I think that probably love, of course, the Four Agreements primarily for its, if you will, the, the number, the preface, but the beginning where he talks about how society created things about us, like your name, it's not your name. It's what you're called, you know, it's not you, you know, or your language was chosen for you because of where you were born. You know, those kind of, so when you when you when you understand that part, then you understand Wait a second, then, I mean, things get really weird. You're like, what do I do with my hands, you know, kind of thing. It's, and so I really like that seven hands. Habits of Highly Effective People. Oh my gosh, in terms of, you know, if you're dealing with anger, for instance, you know, then, I mean, understanding Victor Frankel's stuff, Jewish, Austrian psych psychiatrist and lecture now he's on a table exercising his last Enduring Freedom, you know, the power to choose his response. He couldn't control the stimulus what was happening to him at the time,

Unknown Speaker 56:24
right.

Jeremy Snowden 56:26
And, you know, his response you could control because of the space in between, which is his power to choose.

Brandon Handley 56:33
Yeah, that's based in between is is it that's, that's something that me once you recognize that space in between, so there's so much power and absolute there's so much power in that. And you know, not for nothin like I was always like, felt like, you know, the fastest way to answer had to be like the smartest one right now. You're the fastest One answer, but the more I think about it, like, the person who goes away and comes back with an answer, like the next day and really thought about it, that's the person I admire, you know the person with a question. Okay, well, yeah, I'll talk to you tomorrow.

Jeremy Snowden 57:16
Yeah. Nice.

Brandon Handley 57:18
Right and and then and then we usually within that time, you kind of figure out some answers for yourself. And to me anyways, whenever you ask a question, you're like, Look, not for nothing. You've got it. You've got a pre loaded answer already. You know what I mean? You're like, even in even for yourself, right? Like, you know, the whole idea of what you seek is seeking you, right? It's just like, you're just, you know, you're sending out to the university. Like, this is what I'm looking for. It'll the universe is like, Alright, well, here it is. You're like, Ah, yeah. where, you know, you know, you know not I don't know where you you, you only had eyes for that.

Jeremy Snowden 57:54
Right? Right. How about this, just throw a little bit of spice in Coggins did that. How many of us are self sabotaging at the 10th and goal all day,

Brandon Handley 58:07
every day?

Jeremy Snowden 58:08
Because we, I mean, we can see it through the membrane. And we're afraid what that means.

Brandon Handley 58:14
There's a really good book on that. Let me see if I've got it here. Notice there is I can do anything. I do anything, only if I knew what it was how to discover how to discover what you really want and how to get it. And this is, the concept is about scanners. Right? And scanners are like, you know, I forget what it is, but like, you know, some of us we've got this story, that we're not going to go do this thing, because we feel like why can't go do this because if I did that, I'd leave my family behind. Right or or like, you know, something would happen, my family, they would get upset with me and so we tell ourselves, all these stories They're just that write stories. And so we stop ourselves at the 10 yard line. Because internally, we've got, like some story that we told ourselves that we heard, you know, 30 years ago.

Unknown Speaker 59:11
That's so digged. In it's it's entrenched. Yeah. Right.

Brandon Handley 59:16
And and whether or not we like to admit it, we know that that's still in there, right? We're like, we're like, now I got rid of that. Like, yo, bro, you don't get rid of words. Right? They keep coming. They keep coming back. And that's just like those stories that we keep telling ourselves and then we say, yeah, we think we got it fixed. And we am still there.

Jeremy Snowden 59:35
Right? Yeah. Incredible. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 59:38
Yeah, I mean,

Jeremy Snowden 59:39
that's a that's sorry. That's like, a choice, right?

Brandon Handley 59:44
Yeah, that's a space right. That's a space in between, right. That's a space that's a that's the that's the opportunity to recognize the story that you've told yourself over and over and over and over again, and and that's your opportunity to say Not today.

Unknown Speaker 1:00:01
Right? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 1:00:03
I talked way too much on this one, Jeremy, thanks for letting me talk. I mean, I can see why, you know, you're you're the guy that that, you know, thanks for this is how you hold space. I appreciate it. You know where, you know, you've got this coming up, where can people go join this group with you?

Jeremy Snowden 1:00:18
Absolutely. Thanks. And first off, I wanted to say, you know, I mean, like, you're rocking it to, like, as far as like living your ultimate path. I can, I really can see from my side of the screen. Here's somebody that's going after it, you know, I'm saying you still have obligations, you still have things you have to do. And so this is extra right

Brandon Handley 1:00:40
side, hustle, whatever. It's not. here's, here's, here's the thing, and I appreciate that, right. It's not the side hustle. This is I mean, you'll listen to a lot of other people. If you make this the thing you have to do. There's resistance in that and there's worrying there's concern and so you will think back, right you hold things back that are true. Do you because you're concerned what other people may think. Right? And so if you just do it, because it's true to you without expectation, I mean, we talk about Buddhism, right? And we talk about suffering is due to desires but suffering to me is due to our expectations suffering, his desires, our expectations, not being realized the way that we thought that they were going to come out right. So if we do this with the intention, if I do this with the intention that this has to work, all pressures on this all pressures on me that I lose my freedom with that, yeah, beautiful my freedom with that, so but I do appreciate the truth of the matter is this is true to me. 100% right now, getting to lead with spirituality instead of hiding behind your father for the rest of us was awesome. You know, doing that five group was great. They brought me To exactly where I am today it was necessary. I did you know I did prosperity practice and and dabbled in LA. But that also brought me here to ultimately spirituality. I'm like, you know what, I'm just gonna I'm just gonna leave with spirituality. Like we talked in the in this is like, that's who I feel like I need to be I need to be the greeter I need to be the person that greets like you just like you right? Like, just like it is 100% you know, so we're walking the same we're walking a similar path, right? And and we're just there to help people out man and the whole deal with this podcast is we're out there doing it successfully and living our path and having a more fulfilled life through this version of ourselves.

Unknown Speaker 1:02:48
And there are plenty of people doing it. And my total intent is to show you that you can do it too.

Brandon Handley 1:02:58
I love that right. There's some There's something else. There's something in Jeremy's story that you're going to hear today that resonates with you that says, I gotta, I gotta follow my path. I gotta, I gotta I gotta open up my own heart. I feel like I feel like I could you know, benefit from hanging out with Jeremy and learning about, um, you know, the hero's journey, I've never heard about it. So go ahead, spend some time there. Understand it's like to give people space and follow your path, man.

Jeremy Snowden 1:03:25
Absolutely. So we have a

Facebook group, of course, hero's journey, which immense discussion discussion circle, which means you know, you're in, you're in if you want in your in piping, just we follow a DBA D Don't be a, you know, whatever. Don't Don't just don't troll in there just for the sake of trolling. Yeah, but it's a great place to be able to connect, you know, it's a safe spot. Some people what I've noticed, too, is there more. They're more reserved, you know, they they they want to watch for While and that's fine. And but it's a great place to connect. And of course, you can message me, of course, Jeremy Snowden, feel free to add me if you're a guy that's into growth mindset, if you're trying to find your way or if you just need some pointers or some feedback, always willing to schedule a call with you.

Brandon Handley 1:04:17
Yeah, I think that's awesome that you're holding that space for these people. And, you know, you're accepting them and you're helping them. You're helping them find themselves man. And that's super important. So thank you for joining. So that's Jeremy Sloane on Facebook. And I know you're on Instagram to where should they find you on Instagram?

Jeremy Snowden 1:04:39
Instagram is bald headed Movado. It's a project that's a tongue in cheek, I'm biracial. And so I kind of take potshots at you know, the the notion that you know, what are you supposed to be then? So it's more of a tongue in cheek thanks, but I enjoy it. I love I love I'd love to connect there to all thank

Unknown Speaker 1:04:59
you Thank you so much for joining us today. Cool. Thanks, brother.

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Do you even express yourself?

Published: Aug. 3, 2020, 7:48 a.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 14 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:01
321 A their spiritual dose, it's time for another dose of that time for another hit of that spiritual dope. Hey there guys. It's Brandon Handley. And I'm here today with an episode that is about self expression. And we're gonna dig deep into what that means for you. And we're going to take a look at, you know, we're going to take a look at this, because I think that a lot of people think about self expression as

Unknown Speaker 0:33
that thing

Brandon Handley 0:34
that everybody else sees, right? You know, when we, if we remember Madonna's Express jewels of Hey Nana, what we don't what, what we and what even what she was saying was, you know, let people see kind of what's outside of you the I think this is like the armor that most people put on to keep themselves safe versus the vulnerability as it were a being yourself and letting that come out. And that's really what we're going to get into, right? Because how do

Unknown Speaker 1:09
you approach

Brandon Handley 1:11
self expression? Right? And how can you express the approaches and maybe another way and everything that we've talked about here and the up to this point these six different pieces actually is a six seven I don't know the look of the number but uh, you know, we everything culminates into the final piece which is self expression. And that is what is within you right inside of you, the self

Unknown Speaker 1:46
coming out,

Brandon Handley 1:48
coming out of you all the way out and into being and, and so I think one of the first places I actually realized this was In

Unknown Speaker 2:01
Maslow's hierarchy

Brandon Handley 2:02
of needs of all places, you'd seen it like a million times, seen it so many times in marketing materials, mostly marketing materials, you definitely see it in psychology. And what do you think it means then? totally changes, right. And I think that this goes to the fact of when we're talking

Unknown Speaker 2:24
about reading

Brandon Handley 2:26
a book when we're talking about reading certain materials. When we're talking about rereading these things. It's not the materials that's changed. It's not the

Unknown Speaker 2:36
book that has changed. It's you.

Brandon Handley 2:40
You something about you is different. Now something about you has changed. So let's just for giggles let's go through Maslow's hierarchy of needs, right. The first one's going to be your physiological right your needs for warmth and shelter.

Unknown Speaker 3:01
First sex

Unknown Speaker 3:02
sleep, we're going to need to go through all of these

Brandon Handley 3:05
as we, you know, if you're thinking about all those things, then you really don't make it anywhere else. Right? So fundamentally, the foundation is physiological.

Unknown Speaker 3:17
The second one is safety.

Brandon Handley 3:20
You know, if you're not feeling safe, if you're not, if you're if you're in a bad space, then then you're not going anywhere, right? And I think that Examples include social stability. Next on the list is, you know, feeling loved or belonging, right, maybe you're in a certain scenario, and if you don't feel like you belong, then you're looking for

Unknown Speaker 3:43
a way to get out.

Brandon Handley 3:44
Right? You're looking for a place that was somewhere else that you can go where people understand who you are, and what it is

Unknown Speaker 3:50
that you bring to the situation,

Brandon Handley 3:52
value you. And that really brings us up to the next one is how do you feel valued, right? What is your worth? How do you feel valued? And and, you know, this comes from inside and outside. And this is I think this is this one teeters in between this is number four and this teeters in between number five, right? Because you finally get into number five and number five is is that self actualization, right? That's self actualization. And now, now that you're familiar with all these I want, I want to share something else with you that I certainly never been aware of, until kind of experiencing these things and until really just exploring Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Because when you first see this, it's very, they're very fundamental, right? very fundamental. And you just like, you're just like, Well, here are these five things. And you know, everybody needs these things. And once I know, you know, where am I marketing to, right? And once you get out of how you're applying this to everyone else out there, and you start taking on how you're applying it to you, it takes on a whole different meaning.

Unknown Speaker 5:00
Because

Brandon Handley 5:03
he talks about talks about each of these, each of these four, right, the first four physiological safety, love esteem. And, you know, these these are what they call deficiency. deficiency needs, right? So what that means is, if you don't already have these, then you're going to go get them and you're going to go you're going to go look for him. You've there's like kind of a scarcity approach to this once you and then once you go get these though, you don't seek any more of them, right? So once once you've acquired some of

Unknown Speaker 5:39
these certain spaces, to take your

Brandon Handley 5:41
housing for example, you go get a house. How many more? Do you need to make sure that you're sheltered and you're safe and you're warm and you've got a place to shower? Take sex for example, right? Once you've already had some sex for the day, at least or whatever, you know, how many more times do you need to have it? How many more times you look in the habit that day or even In a period of time

Unknown Speaker 6:03
and so

Unknown Speaker 6:04
once you've acquired

Brandon Handley 6:06
some of those things that the motivation factor you know, drastically drops what food once you've eaten once you've already had your meal for the day or the day or even lunch or snack right it's your mind is preoccupied with this is where you know self actualization is actually a little bit different, it puts us in the category of a being need and you know being need is a you know also in the grow in the growth space right. So, and the thing is is once you find this self actualization space and and you can um, you begin to grow, the desire for that increases, so, that, you know, this this is like the continuous growth continuing to, to want more of kind of That and for me, it's this is kind of my term, right this is you want another spiritual dope, you've hit a certain space, and you've gone to a certain place, you've extended beyond what you thought was possible for yourself, or you've gotten a taste of what is possible for yourself,

Unknown Speaker 7:15
if you show up and if you decide to put the effort in.

Brandon Handley 7:20
And you want more of that, right? This can happen with an athlete, this can happen with just being a badass parent. This can happen with work, this can happen with finance, you know, so this shows up in a number of different places, not just the spiritual realm. But it does it is something that once you kind of take it all in and internalized it, you begin to actualize it, and that actualization really means that you're pushing out from within what is inside of you. You're

Unknown Speaker 7:56
excuse me, it's

Brandon Handley 7:58
It is literally I mean, that's what actually realization means and you're letting that come from within and out. And I think that another word that really captures this is

Unknown Speaker 8:09
where did I get here?

Brandon Handley 8:11
I jotted down some notes here for this but enthusiasm is another one that's really big for this idea and thoughts based you know, that comment, you know, you put it together with self actualization, which is to make what is within you real on the outside, right? I mean, that's the culmination guys here. That's, that's the thoughts into things people that is that is connecting with your higher self and, you know, what, with

Unknown Speaker 8:39
within those deficiency needs,

Brandon Handley 8:41
right? Initially, it was thought that you had to have all those met, and you don't, okay, you don't have to wait until somebody else on the outside shows you that you're valued. You don't have to wait until all these other needs are met. What you want to do What if you're capable of capturing just a moment, within your mind, all that all that is possible for you. And even if it's a small thing that you think is possible for you start taking the steps towards that one thing. This is the momentum. This is that taste of growth. And once you find that for yourself, it's really hard to stop going after. It's really hard stop going after it. And so the challenge is finding it within yourself and you will 100% you will find this within yourself, you're already finding pieces of it and it's just a matter of, do you have the faith? Do you have the, the confidence in yourself to go ahead and kind of manifest that? do are you and you don't have to, you don't have to? You don't have to see it through the not see it through the DM but you don't. It's if you can see it can happen, right. This is just kind of the vision but again, so

Unknown Speaker 10:00
Taking what's within, you know,

Brandon Handley 10:03
realizing that you've got some of these other needs and just kind of understand the hierarchy of all these things and realize that there's a place that you're going to get to, if you're not already there, and if you've already tasted it, understand where it where it kind of fits and understand what some of those motivators are, and and see how it all fits. And and again, I'm gonna go back to this is this is also the springboard of enthusiasm This is also where spirituality comes into it This is also where you where I come into it and how I feel about it and my personal approach but enthusiasm, right and and Greek meaning Theo's the God, meaning God and then in Theo's possessed by God inspired right. And to let this out of you this is the expression of your actualization you know, making what is within coming To the real and I know that I've hit on it a couple times and I just want you to I just want you to see this for yourself and realize that this isn't just mindless prattle This is if any space that you look at in psychology and religion and and just kind of athletes, right? Even as athletically inclined people, this is what drives and motivates them, right once they realize that, that they can accomplish these certain things with these physical feats. And while certainly a little bit more physically visible and socially acceptable, it also works from the inside out, right? And you're gonna need to for me, I think for yourself, you need to you need to make a decision for yourself to make this leap right from and like I said, from, from humanity to divinity, right, you begin to look for evidence that this is real for you. You're able to see something inside and have it show up on the outside, right. And once you make this decision, you will find that all of the fragments of this truth for yourself up until this point will finally relate to the whole. And this is this is where I kind of want to get you to. This is where we are all working towards this is the the pinnacle, right? I mean, this is not the pinnacle of the hierarchy of needs, that once we get to this space, it becomes become so unreal, that it can't be anything but real. And, again, let's work together. If you've made it through here, I'll

Unknown Speaker 12:45
figure out some way to

Brandon Handley 12:47
help you out right if you made it all the way through all these different bits and pieces of the Divine framework, and you're still kind of curious, you know, reach out to me, pay me and we'll see if we can't create something else. In order for you to reset your filters in order for you to go ahead and make the leap from humanity to the vedi Thanks for checking it out, guys.

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Dan Reeves | Spiritual Underground | The power to save your life

Published: Aug. 2, 2020, 11:34 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 6 minutes 52 seconds

I had the great opportunity to hang out with Dan Reeves as we discuss accepting a higher power in your life and what that looks like.

Dan has quite a bit to offer you in this episode and a number of tools along with practical application of these tools so that you can live a life fully tapped into your own spiritual being.

Be sure to reach out to Dan & let him know you heard this episode here today!

Places you can connect with Dan:

http://spiritualunderground.org/index.html

https://www.instagram.com/spiritualunderground/

https://www.facebook.com/SpiritualUnderground/

The 12 step book that Dan references in the podcast:

Brandon Handley 0:00
54321 Hey there spiritual dope spiritual is that that my podcast is so you listen after you go through like a few of them you forget like who you're even announcing and like you have to get used to your new one and just how's that gonna come out? Um, but hey guys I'm on with Moloch Dan is okay say last name de cerca. Certainly, Sadam ri is a spiritual underground. Dan, I connected just kind of just on the general idea of our podcasts and what we have to share. And it's a similar journey. But just different tales, right. So pretty. And that's the thing, right? So everybody's kind of going through something. They just, you know, there's a guy that listen to a book, Jed McKenna, and he's kind of like this salty, spiritual guy, right? And what I like about him is that he says, He goes, listen, I don't know how you're going to get there. But I can tell you what to expect after you've gotten there, which I think is kind of interesting. So Dan, Thanks for hopping on today we are we're tackling Sunday in this way. And and one of the things I, I like to ask people is, before we even get started, right, well, you and I talked, you interviewed me recently, people, we are kind of conduits for the universe to talk to, right. We're conduits, our story that we're sharing here. And what we're sharing here today is meant probably for somebody else more so than it's meant even for us. So for that person who's listening today, just to receive the message that's being delivered, what do you think, you know, what, what is something that somebody needs to hear that,

Dan Reeves 1:38
you know, the dopamine boost brought me to my knees, my, my, my bottom, so to speak. But the thing what I'm finding out as I keep on traveling this journey is that we all have some kind of room for more in our lives. That's the question I ask people whenever I'm talking outside of the 12 steps, circles about you know, if they want to change their lives Do you have any room for more and I think most people the answer to that is yes. I have actually had one person tell me no i don't really believe them. But you know there always is room for more problem as it seems like we get stuck and and hopefully with these things what I hope to be as a catalyst to unstuck people you know, no matter what direction you're coming from, is that there is a way to get unstuck and I don't know what that really is for you. I know what it was for me. But what I can promise you is that there is getting out of that hole is available to you might take some effort it's gonna take some action for sure. But But you know, there's there's a hopeless feeling when a lot of people's hearts that they're like stuck in this spot, and they're just gonna have to resign themselves to being this.

Brandon Handley 2:52
And this is all there is right? There's nothing else right? Yeah, because it gets

Dan Reeves 2:56
Yeah, that my sponsor my mentor has so rewritten this 12 steps in a way not dot rewritten but reformatted it into some modern language and in the beginning of his book he puts a statement here this is not the way my life is supposed to be this is not the way my life is supposed to be now if you don't fall under that category great but fact is I think a lot of people are you know I see this underlying you see it in the stores I think you're you know spoke to you before and and I know your spirit you see this like almost a zombie like dissatisfaction underlying most people's day to day you know, it's everything looks to be like being done in a little bit of a pain spot. Like oh, man, I have to go to the grocery store. And, and, and, you know, operate on it playing today, man, I'm peeking around the next corner seeing what's coming up next. Sure. And and And, you know, there just is you don't have to stay in that spot. But get this one, you know, and some people would subscribe to more kind of wonder about that myself about how many trips around this blue, Big Blue Marble I get or wherever else I'm not really sure about that concept, but it has landed with me. But I know this trip is the one I got now. Sure, knowing what I don't want to be doing is laying an old age wishing I would have,

Brandon Handley 4:24
huh, gosh, you know this, this is so great. You said that right? That was one of the one of the things I saved today. You know, a lot of people give Facebook a lot of shit, right? Yeah. But quite honestly, like I'm pulling up the picture right now because that was that was one of the things there's actually two things that he said that they're kind of resonating with me. But the first one is directly in line to that right says I hope your life is full of I can't believe I did this, then I should have done it. Right. Yeah, that's powerful stuff. And then and then the other line I had somebody a post today was kind of along the lines. What you're saying there, right? You know, we're peeking around this corner, or we're waiting, and we're sitting here suffering. And and the way I kind of pictured it is like, you know, there's there's always a wave coming, right? There's always a wave coming and, you know, it's your opportunity to stand there and get crushed by the wave. Or you have the opportunity to ride that wave. Right. So, but I did, I did, I did caveat it as like, if you go so you know, just as in terms of surfing, you know, it's always a good idea to go with somebody who's done that before. Right? Because you can learn on your own.

Dan Reeves 5:37
You know, why take that hard path? You know, I mean, and I'll tell you why. Because, for me, I have trouble asking for help.

Brandon Handley 5:47
Yep, yep. Yep. You know,

Dan Reeves 5:48
the crucial words in the 12 step rooms, you know, help me I don't know what to do. When somebody heard those words. I know then I didn't have somebody I can work with. The flip side of that is, I know, I know. I know. Well, look,

Brandon Handley 6:05
I mean, we I think he said the beginning, we all know what to do. Right? We all know what we're supposed to be doing. And this works in every realm, right? This is why this is why health coaching is so big, right? And nutrition coaching is like, we all know we're supposed to get to the gym, we all know we're supposed to eat better. We all know that we're supposed to floss all these things, right? But until you get like the dentist reminding you like Hey, listen, if you don't keep if you don't floss, you're gonna lose teeth. Right? If you if you don't work out, you're gonna you know, maybe live to be 70 instead of like a healthy 85 right and all these things. I need help man. That's definitely powerful stuff though. So let's give a little let's give a little background right on kind of your podcast and what your spiritual dope is right? Because as you're saying here, and I think what people may be hearing already is like you can't you come from a place where it was no street dope. Yep,

Dan Reeves 7:00
yeah, you know i and i don't fit the mold of that necessarily either what most people think about when they you know, when you see me and hear my story that I heard you say you know the video and the audio did not really line up because I came from an upper middle class back home with two parents who stayed intact. My mom passed away and 16 if they'd made it one more year to been 50 years of marriage. I had it you know, a little cliche saying I had everything I needed most of what I wanted sure, but yet still there was that thing that empty feeling me someplace and I know a lot more of that because I will talk from hindsight, right. You know, I didn't know any of this when it was going on. But I still had that little thing where, you know, I just had trouble fitting in and I you know, I allowed myself to, you know, I hung out with some people who bullied me, because the companionship was worth the pain of the bullying. I put myself in situations where I was cultivated this programming inside of me have less than that, you know, everybody else had the playbook of how to do this thing called life and I must have missed that day in school and and and what I did was watch what you did and and at one point you know I ran into the you know somebody asked me what really my very first drugs for cigarettes but I ran into something that changed the way I feel because that was really what it was doing that's why you know I needed I wasn't okay with the way I felt when I ran into these substances to change the way I felt. I thought I'd found the magic key and you know, for a long time it was and you know, early on I started running into consequences getting caught with Oh, by the you know, in in 3d as in my lifetime and various other things that would have happened that that caused some consequences but none of them would make me change. One of the things was is I came from a relatively young my dad I my hometown God dad knows everybody with a little money in a lawyer in some know somebody You get out of trouble when you're a kid. I look back at that. And I'm like, man, if I'd maybe had some secret, you know, I don't know, again, what do you do wonder I look at that now, you know, when I run into somebody, some consequences are really a good thing, because that will change your trajectory, you know, otherwise, I just keep on going that direction. I'll go on until some consequences happen.

Brandon Handley 9:18
Right now, like, and the other thing you heard I heard in your store, too. So I mean, you were at the same job for about 28 years. I haven't gotten the specifics of the job. But this was a job that was sending you all around the world. You tell us a little bit about that.

Dan Reeves 9:31
Yeah, you know, well, I got a job right out of high school. Actually, I was still in high school and I started drafting I'm mechanically inclined, I just love that kind of stuff. I was doing mechanical drafting. I was doing architectural drafting. And I got a job and held it for like three years. And the fact is, is I couldn't get to work it in the morning, the night before and I got a chance and chance again, to correct my behavior and I couldn't do it and they let me go and you know, look at that as a blessing too, because that caused some changes. You know, that was some consequences, right? And lo and behold, you know, the universe just keeps on providing and I got a job just not too long after that it's this place and it's there's a story around it, but I don't think and I didn't know where I was going and still a placement agency and didn't know where I was going. And I still remember that really uncomfortable feeling, man, I'm walking in and trying to tell somebody that they should hire me. I just could not believe it myself. But they did. And they hired me is kind of funny story. I'd come from some minimum wage job and, and I told him what I needed to start and this is like in 1991, and I think I told him I needed $6 an hour to start. This was my was my offer. And the guy here steal that. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 10:43
doesn't really matter what I was $6 an hour.

Dan Reeves 10:46
I was 20 years old, you know and, and in the God did not I don't think he I think he was on a script because I don't think he heard a word. I said, you know, he he looked at me he goes well, I'm sorry. So we started by at $8 and 90 cents an hour. Well, that Work and I'm like Did he just and so I got this job and and I traveled up you know I made I made work a real important thing and it's not a bad thing right at all but I did I worked my way up and a few years they called me an engineer I don't I check the some college box that's another thing that doesn't go it did for me it didn't go out drinking and drug and did not go fit a college schedule.

Brandon Handley 11:27
We could not do that. Well you already kind of like we already habitual user at this point in

Dan Reeves 11:32
time. Yeah, but this time, you know, by the time I was in high school, I was smoking pot every day. I was drinking on the weekends is a little harder to drink in a day for me on the weekdays, you know that I could smoke pot and function. I spent my entire senior year

on cocaine.

You know, so I was already using pretty heavy stuff by that time. You know, I was I was taking acid when I before I had my driver's license. We were reading breeze and I remember that so well is because we would be riding our bicycles.

I know it was before driving. Okay, yeah, by this

Brandon Handley 12:08
time I don't think I said something I don't think I've ever tried riding a bike while you're on so that was really fun.

Dan Reeves 12:13
It really was. I can remember coming home at daybreak you know, listening to the birds singing and writing my 10 speed with no hands you know, because I could ride it thing no handed and just cruising up the road head known crawling my bedroom window it before mom and dad knew I was gone for the night. That's about this time I was doing it, you know, and there was really nothing I wouldn't do. If somebody had it. I did it, you know, went through phases, but you know, somehow are still able to keep my feet under me. You know, I got that second DUI when I was 19 years old and and the solution was not to stop drinking and driving. The solution was to do it smarter and better. I noticed that the 2d has I had one of them was because I was speeding and the other one I got pulled over because I had a taillight out. So that meant you'd need to do an airline pilot walk down around your car before went out, you know, it wasn't a drink it was make sure that all in our lives working and do it smarter, and I didn't get my third DUI until I was 38. So two years, wow, doing that, you know, but I did the formula, I got married, had a couple kids bought a home had this job that I thought I was gonna have forever because I kept on advancing up to the ranks and making more money every year. And, and, frankly, those years it's a little you know, I don't want to glorify the use, but it was fine. Yeah, you know, and it was fine. Until wasn't any more.

Brandon Handley 13:37
Yeah, like I said, I mean, what point is it not fun anymore? And you know, throughout this whole thing, right? Are you still you're still working your job and you're still advancing? I'm still I'm functional.

Dan Reeves 13:47
Yeah, I am actually a superstar at work, because I'll pull the rabbit out of the hat. It's another kind of now look back at it is, it was more of that, you know, it was less of a drive and more of a to prove They're more the kind of thing to prove that I'm good, you know, I have a little Superman thing you know that I need to be the superstar So, you know, looking back and stuff I you know, I'll drag my feet on a project and not let them know it so that I can come in and get called in at the last minute to make the three point shot. You know, and I could always make the shot, you know, and and that would give me praise, right because Dan could pull these things off. But you know, through 12 step markers stuff I realized I wouldn't pull that stuff off really, I was I was I was dragging my heels I was saying begun to not do anything until the last minute. But yeah, everything ever I was completely functional and I really stayed that way

until the end,

and sometime around 2005 My mom had a back surgery and and a drink and wasn't working for me, but I couldn't stop. Stop drinking every day. I'm stopping to beer joint across the street from New York. And if I didn't already have kobir in a cooler in the car, I was stopping and getting some. And and I was coming home and I was playing chameleon. My wife had no idea I was drinking as many as I was, you know, look like maybe I was having to out the grill after work. But you know, effect was that, you know, I was guzzling down and I didn't you know, I didn't go to bed. I was sleeping in a recliner in my own room. You know, I'm in the main cave. I just totally disassociated myself from my family. I got these two young kids that that are that need a dad and he's absent most of the time. I mean, he's present physically, right, but I'm not there. Right. And the alcohol quit working and what I started to get my headaches every time you know that I drank it and it will just make me feel like crap. And I tried different you know, maybe, maybe I should drink some bourbon. Sure. Yeah. And you know, try to figure out the magic recipe gotta you gotta you gotta you got to up the ante. Yep. And and I come home. My mom had had this back surgery and she'd been she. Mom's health was always bad. All our lives that matter. She pulled off as many years as she did, but I saw this bottle sitting in her bedroom and picked it up and looked at it in his prescription bottles. And it said for pain. Hmm, well, you know, I had some pain. Sure, yeah. And I shook out to about two pills of each one bottle each bottle to um, there's two big pills and two little pills. I didn't read the labels any further than that and put them in my pocket. But Matter of fact, what I did is I took the two small ones right now. And I put the two big ones in my pocket. And in about 45 minutes later, no pain. The world was okay. I actually have photographs of that night. At this time. My wife is working night shift. She's a nurse working weekends, only night shifts, so she could make full time pay working just nights. And then she could be home with the kids all week and I'd be home with them in the weekend. Well, there's a picture of the party that night with the kids and I had, you know, bandanas tied around their heads and do rags answer and what I found out later is that was too oxy cotton 40 something I'd taken

Brandon Handley 17:03
40 milligrams is that Yeah, that was just saying,

Dan Reeves 17:05
Yeah. Is that little or a lot? I don't know. It was a lot for me. And they would do just one would do just about anybody. Sure.

But I didn't know that then. And, you know, in the world righted itself and grabbed a couple, you know, the next night, Saturday night I took the other take. And although they weren't what last night was they did just fine, sir. And, you know, there was a time when my drinking wasn't every day, and I would just drink on the weekends. And what I say is that that collapsed on me. I started whereas, you know, it just the disease progressed, and I was drinking every day before long and the same thing with the pills.

Brandon Handley 17:45
I like how you kind of phrased it last time when you and I were talking right? You know, just dis ease, right? Yeah. I think it's really I think it's really important to kind of state it like that, right? Because if we and if we Look at disease in of itself. That's something that kind of never goes away. And this is just me, right? Like, I'm not part of a program or anything like that. But if we if we take it and break it apart like that, right, we disaggregate that word and we say dis ease. We know that we are in a place of discomfort, right? Is that what you're saying? I mean, yeah,

Dan Reeves 18:22
I am on but also believe that this thing is a

Brandon Handley 18:26
pervasive?

Dan Reeves 18:27
Yes, I do believe this is a lifelong thing for a guy like me. I don't think that's the case for everybody. But But for me, and you know, and I'll throw something else out there, man, I'll sell you this solution in any manner, you're willing to buy it in, you know what I mean? So, sometimes that disease works for somebody and sometimes it doesn't. And if you reject that premise, well, then I'm okay with that. Right. So I have a tools that will help you get better. Yeah, they just will. It isn't really making a difference, whether it's going to be better if you believe that this works for you, but it's not Not necessarily a requirement but I do like that. You know it is it's a dis ease. I am not okay with it myself. Right, right. I'm not at ease. I'm not sure that does bring it down to fundamental stuff. But I just like not comfortable my own skin, right? I don't feel like I fit in with you. Alright. So I got three girls. My daughter and two girls stayed the night last night and they distract me over there to my right. So it did it did throw me off a little bit. Sure. But my my using stuff started collapsing. I mean, the same thing happened with the pills, so and so next weekend, I grabbed a couple more. It was just a weekend thing for a while. And they collapsed on me to where I needed these things every day. So I started getting with my doctor, I started doing other kind of things in order to get them. And if I came to your house and you had some you didn't have anyone I left. So you go through all the relatives and you go Through all that, and when that ran out on I started going in people's houses I didn't know that is called burger Lee.

Brandon Handley 20:09
I mean, this whole thing advances while and you're still working,

Dan Reeves 20:12
you're still fully functional. Again the video the video did not match. Yeah, no, I'm just I was doing your right I just want to track

Brandon Handley 20:19
it right he's tracking it right because I mean you're you're you're going to work you're a guy that's getting sent internationally to get things done. Yep. And and you know that's that's that's what everybody's seen

Dan Reeves 20:31
yeah send me to Singapore to Korea we had offices in Thailand we you know I've been all over the globe with that company trusted to go do my job. Meanwhile, under the surface is this other dude it's like almost you know it's like two distinct personalities going on.

Brandon Handley 20:48
I'm just curious kind of like did you ever kind of decide what the underlying like primary pain was that that kept it going?

Dan Reeves 20:58
I do call it the disease of alcohol. That's just what we say in our deals. It's it would be like, and it's just for simplifying terms. I'm not sure that it's really right. Okay, but I do know that there are some kind of mental instability in me that unless I am doing something to treat that actively, I'm just not okay.

Brandon Handley 21:20
Okay. Yeah, yeah, look, so let's move on to that. Right. Like I mean, so look, I think I think the story is like, you got in deep, right the story is you got in deep you were in the grip You know, you're raising a family. You're doing all the you know, theoretical exterior, right things your interiors getting leggy. But like, you know, there comes there comes a spot where like, I think I talked about like, hitting rock bottom right, like, I don't think you always have to to get better. But you had a rock bottom moment.

Dan Reeves 21:53
Yeah, I did. You know, and I actually had two of them that I'll speak quickly. One of them was in 2011 when this thing finally Ended up being enough and my marriage was getting Rocky and and that was a catalyst kind of event that this this dis ease in my marriage was becoming an issue and and I went to I called a doctor told me I couldn't claim with my wife and told her what was going on and and sought help for the first time in 2011 and then not and I went to a detox center and got some help and dove into a and and what I say now is that was basically that week that event was basically off of a bad weekend. Because all it was was just a bad weekend. No big deal. I said I had a year of sobriety and I sat down on my tools thinking I was okay that I could move forward without this. Yeah. I didn't really think it but I still

Unknown Speaker 22:51
have a lot of beer again.

Dan Reeves 22:53
Well, I stayed sober during that time and then slowly after I put down my tools, I remember my my My wife at that time was into herbal medicines and stuff and she had like these cheap vodka and brandy and stuff that she would soak like herbs and stuff into making tinctures. That's right. Yeah. And I looked over there one day when I was getting ready to pay the bills and and I look over there because I know that cabinet right there was the one that they were sitting on and there was a bottle of vodka and bottle of brandy there and I went and got a Dixie cup of all things and thought I would just have a drink. well lit up this thing that we call the phenomenon of craving, which is once I put some in me, I'm not really going to be able to stop and a lot of people think that means tonight well I had a Dixie cup or two that night not stopped. But you know, a couple nights later look like a good, you know, and in the ball started rolling again. I ended up having that Marriott lost that marriage ended up in divorce. And my whole world just started crumbling. You know, after that, to that point to where and by now I'm breaking it out of steel and pills and I got caught a couple times by friends

associated people that knew me a little bit. Mm hmm.

And of doing the deal where I would take them out of your house, and those people let me off the hook on my promise that I would go seek help. I never did, right. But then finally I ended up getting into a house and I'll tell this story as fast as I can, you know, sit here one night with a new girlfriend after coming back from Thailand. Now the thing you know, my sobriety dates didn't really I had an international sobriety date and domestic sobriety date, you know, when, when the cat's away, he's gonna play soccer pretending to be sober during this time. You know, I'm sitting here with a new girlfriend. My kids are here in the house. her kids in house, they're all in bed. I tell this girl I'm going to I'll be right back. I walk out the back door, go around the corner. It's dark. I go across the house because the old man across the street always had medicine that I like to have. And, and, and over time, they were on to me. Matter of fact, I've been continent house. Before, six months earlier, and I went over there and opened up the door, walk in their house while it's occupied their home, go back in his bedroom, where he is sleeping, reach in a dresser drawer, get to the medicine, shake out a handful. And when I turned around this time, there was a shadow standing there with a baseball bat and pepper spray. And he put this pepper spray four inches from my face and blasted it and lit into me with a ball bat, man. I got away. Wow. I wrestled by him and got out. He spent that night run in the streets not knowing what to do. I took off or in a different direction from my home. He knew who it was obviously. I come back to my house at around two o'clock in the morning and to see all the lights on in my house. I went around the side house looked over there. My parents car was in the driveway and so was that girl's car. I didn't expect that girl's car to be there. There was I lost all consideration for what was going on there during that time, you know, I was gone. What I found out was that that guy come over to my house and he had raked out two satellites and my windows and my door, he busted the window out in the door, he come in the house, he busted up everything that he could with the baseball bat. As he left in, my dad was over there, cleaning up the house. I sat down behind the pantry in my backyard and sitting there and I remember echoing over and over again, this, what am I going to do? What am I going to do? And I heard the back door open and close. And I looked up and there was my dad and he had two five gallon buckets and I didn't know what he had at the moment. And he kept walking down the pathway that leads to where we set out the garbage. And I was trying to make myself as small as I possibly could so that he wouldn't see me and, and I heard his voice say Damn. And I looked up and I said yeah, and he said, words that I will never forget. He said, Are you okay? Are you hurt? That is not what I was expecting to hear. Now, for my dad that actually is but because of what I was thinking of what I had done, those were not the words expected here. Next thing I know, I felt a hand on my knee and he sat down beside me and said, Come on, let's go inside. Take a shower, hit the sack, and we'll deal with this tomorrow.

Brandon Handley 27:15
That's powerful, man.

Dan Reeves 27:16
That's powerful. I tried to do that. And I came in and did that in the next morning. So let me finish this last little piece on this part. I come in the house. I went to bed I looked in teary eyes. My mother or my girlfriend. My kids did not wake up. The cops have been searching my house that night looking for me. My kids were spared that memory. They did not wake up as the cops for shining flashlights in our closets and under their beds. I woke up the next morning, I put that, that that girlfriend, my kids and her in my car and had them drive up the street so that if they got stopped, it wouldn't be me and gotten her car. But before I did that, I got up, took a shower went back in the backyard, got under the rock where I'd left the handful of pills that I've got Before the night before, and took a half dozen of them and put the rest of them in my pocket and moved on with my day and that's comes to show this there's a blind in the book it says we couldn't remember the the humiliation and the suffering of a week or a month ago, when we decided to drink again or decide to use again. And you know, I couldn't remember the humiliation or the suffering of last night, right. The only thing I could think to do was put more pills in my body. Alright, so watch out for my arrest and that was well went down in a whole nother angle. Just cut to the chase on that I was looking at six to 20 years in prison. The scared to death I spent the next six months going TO to see the judge every month or every couple of weeks doing these pre trial things and seeing my lawyer my lawyer and the prosecutor in jail had me convinced I was going to prison for at least six years. And I met up with some dudes on a Tuesday night and and something shifted for me that night. And that was when I met my home group is this Underground, and that's what the name of the podcast is after. Okay, walked into there and and and started doing one particular gentleman told me to do who is still my sponsor today. And I ended up getting sentenced to a year of home incarceration, a year probation and another year set on the side, set on the shelf, as we say, pending successful completion of those two. So what went from a six year to six to 20 year prison sentence, I ended up spending nine months on home incarceration and had time to do this work on myself and, and my trajectory changed forever.

Brandon Handley 29:36
For sure. For sure. I mean, you know, this is just super powerful. I love how your dad just kind of accepted you right in that situation.

Dan Reeves 29:43
He thought that my back always

Brandon Handley 29:45
Yeah, and I mean, that's super powerful. Has somebody like that there for you,

Dan Reeves 29:50
you know, and he still lives with me, you know, he may walk by here.

Brandon Handley 29:53
For sure. You know, looking you know, you lost some relationships and if I recall correctly, you know, at that job that you thought you're gonna have forever, that ends up kind of getting dissolved as well. Yeah. You know, but you know, you found yourself right? You found yourself amongst like some friends or at least some associates in the spiritual underground,

Dan Reeves 30:14
the alikom brothers, so okay really are they really are we I'm a tap on my phone away from Heaven help at my door if I need it. And, and I'm a tap away from providing help if somebody else needs it, I got

Brandon Handley 30:28
this, you know, so let's talk a little bit about like kind of living this transform transform transformative life, right? Like I mean, cuz, you know, now you're stepping into a new space, right? Like I made the joke about you know, 12 step program however, I really only know about two steps to that program. The first step is uh, you know, you kind of let go and and accept that there's a higher power

Dan Reeves 30:55
right? First step is really, I have a problem.

Brandon Handley 30:58
Okay, first steps. You got a problem. Know the one stuff you got it you know you say hey there's there's a higher power is not just me and then like one of the one of the end steps is like spiritual awakening I'm like why skip the whole bunch of steps but yeah, you know let's talk about like kind of what that journey is like I talked about maybe even some of the work that you did to get to where you are and how long you so if you don't mind me asking Dan over

Dan Reeves 31:21
five and a half years so January was my five year

Brandon Handley 31:24
modulations man thank you that that's a it's a lot right and it's a whole different life. Let's talk about like kind of the the journey though to, to, to me it's I feel like it's liberation and freedom when you no longer have to observe like that the whole that those things have not necessarily observed. But like break those addictions right? Well once you once you have something else to do then to keep running back to those things that have a hold on your grip on you. You're free to go live a whole Another life, right? Yep.

Dan Reeves 32:02
Yeah, you know,

I like to say, you know, do this say it enough a lot came into the rooms of recovery, the 12 step recovery to try to they told me I was spiritually sick. I thought that meant that they I thought they were dogging on me because I wasn't going to church I had no religion to the process and an awesome sponsor and have a great bunch of me and I came to understand that my actual spirit my essence my very being had been sick and and morehow got sick and was from living this thing called life and not in my case and not a real healthy way. You know, you don't you don't pick up good tools on the path I was on.

Brandon Handley 32:42
Definitely mentioned tools several times to what are some of the tools right,

Dan Reeves 32:46
yeah, so that's what this 12 step program gave me was some tools to work in. And I'll also say that, you know, we're now in the Louisville Kentucky area in replace, we're offering this to people who are not necessarily addicts or alcoholics if they want some concrete tools. To do so, you know that you know, and there's a lot of people a lot, there's quite a few people Brasil brands, one of them is taking the 12 steps and kind of molded in his way, but it's just really the same thing. You know, instead, I got a problem to solve, right? So I got a problem, there's nothing before gone, right? I mean, unless I have something to work on, you know, if I don't have something, then once there is a fix, you know, don't break, you don't fix something that ain't broken. So I got to come to some understanding that this is actually a problem. Number two, that step two says, basically, you know, it says some, you know, there's some pretty flowery 30 language and that's one of the things that's kind of blocks people but just coming to believe that a power greater than yourself can restore you to sanity. So there's some funny language in that that says, you know, this power grid are so everybody defaults on God, right. So, what I like to say is that, you know, when I use the word God, I am saying it, just like Kleenex, you know, if you asked me for a tissue, and I hand you a box, and there's tissue sticking out of it, you're not looking on the bottom to see if they came from Meyers Kroger's target or whatever. You know it. Kleenex it's like saying Coca Cola. It's like saying, you know, any other name brand thing. It's just an easy word to use whatever that means to you, man, that should be your inner spirit as power greater self can come from inside it can be a more of a universal thing you might be nature could be music, it could be who knows what So, you know, I always like to get over the block. Yeah, I'm not doing this because you're talking about God to me.

Brandon Handley 34:24
Yeah. Well, you know, anytime some business God like 99% of people, you know, especially in the Western Hemisphere, think that you're, you're saying you're saying, the Christian God, right, the Christian God, Jesus God, God, the God that molest all these people, right, you know, and that's a shame, right? Because now you're holding yourself back from the possibility of accepting that higher power simply over your own beliefs of what that is, right.

Dan Reeves 34:51
So, you know, it says, Do you believe there's a power that can help you to believe there is a way that power for my new sponsee is made

Unknown Speaker 35:00
You know, sure that hey,

Dan Reeves 35:02
do you think I can help you? Sure. You know, here's where I was, here's where I am. Do you think that it can happen for you? So it's just coming to believe that you can get some help, is believing that you can get help necessary. Probably not required, but it does help if you're, if you're a willing participant. Then step three is saying, okay, man, I'm willing to have some help. That's to help me step. You know, again, everybody gets hung up in this turn your will over will in life over the care of God. That's at 30 languages that that bill Wilson, the author of that stuff, you know, let's just get over the language. It's just words and stuff. Yeah, we grant these noises in column words, right? When we accept the meanings of them. If you're blocked up by the words, I will use different things like that or disease earlier in disease, right? You know, I'm not gonna let this human language be the block to how I can help you for sure. So help me that's three. So then we get into some concrete work, man and I do an inventory of my life and I sit down and write down things of everything we call resentments, but I'll write down the stuff that's happened to me and what's made me who I am. Where we've been you talked about before about being programmed, right? That we get programmed by our life experiences. Well, then this inventory, we go look at that. And in order to get deprogrammed, I got to look at the programming. And I said, my, my life experiences, it's happened to me, and what made me who I am. So we got some concrete tools on how in a real simple to this four step tool is pretty easy of going through and looking at that stuff, right? We look at three things. We look at resentments. We look at fears, we look at the things because most people run about unfair, we're scared of this. We're scared of that for sure. And and what we've done in our sex lives in our sex inventory, how we think about that, just because it's such a huge basis on what we are as a being a human being, you know, yeah. So we look at those three things. And then we do a fifth step, which is I tell somebody about everything. When I sit down and talk to my sponsor and told him all my dirty secrets, a weight lifts off.

Brandon Handley 36:55
Yeah, I mean, there's I think there's some vulnerability there too, right?

Dan Reeves 37:00
concept of it

Brandon Handley 37:00
yourself in a say you're putting yourself in a place where, you know, this person could easily come down on you for all the stuff that you've ever done how you've been condemning yourself for each and every one of those things like 1000 lashings for each and every one of those things for years now, probably. And when you come clean to somebody, like your sponsor, and then they say, what else cheese? You're like, why didn't I give you enough?

Dan Reeves 37:26
Yeah, there's some big I mean, one of the big tools in that fifth step exercises. You know, I did that take me to man, you're not alone. Yeah, we think we're hiding down in the closet with all our own dirty secrets. Ultimately, you know, to some extent, we've all done similar kind of things, and it wouldn't make any difference. I don't think you could take the attic and alcoholic aspects out of it. We still got stuff that we're you know, not particularly happy about that? We did. Sure. So we do that and we have a couple more tools or we asked this power that's greater ourselves to help us get over it help us to help take this stuff away. We call them character defects and stuff though, basically you know and I don't like that term too much either because I am not defective. Let's take the stuff that the what the way I'm operating that I don't like the things that I'm doing and the way I'm operating and I'm not okay with the things that no longer serve me. There it is. Universe please help me get rid of this stuff right help me start operating on a new plane sir now just Just let me run through it real quick. Well my my head's on to is that and then we go out and the people that we have hurt the people that we've done stuff to the people I stole pills from the people that are treated, you know, in a poor way. I go back out and I face those freakin people, man and I and I do a man's with him. And we have a very powerful recipe for doing that. We have some prep work and some different things so that we can do that in a powerful manner. And we have a thing called the ninth step promises that that are a very powerful bunch of statements of things like a fear of economic insecurity to leave you

Brandon Handley 38:55
scared scarcity mindset,

Dan Reeves 38:56
right. That's just one of them. Yeah, fear. People will leave you if you don't, yeah, you'll start being able to do things you never thought were possible. And it all comes up from going out there and clean up the past because now I'm not walking this earth, worrying about seeing you. Mm hmm. Right? Now if I'm gonna walk around and surfing right now, I'm afraid if I'm a bump into you at Kroger's, and I had that looking over my shoulder thing all the time, I'm looking over my shoulder you I can't look at where I've been. I gotta look where I'm going. Yeah, that's a nice step allows me to clean up that path where I don't have to look over my shoulder anymore. For sure. In repairs relationships, too.

Brandon Handley 39:32
Yeah. Yeah, I mean, look, it's at least kind of gets it off your mind. Right? Even if I mean that relationship. You know, you have the opportunity to go out there and you've got the opportunity. This is a kind of an exercise of courage, the right exercise of facing your fears and extra action. Right and and Jerry,

Dan Reeves 39:54
you're not necessarily asking for forgiveness from them. So much as Kind of forgiving yourself for the actions you've taken. There's, there's a lot of that there's a big piece of it is not really, you know, it looks like it's between me and that person. Really not. It's between me and my inner self, or I got it cleaned up on my end. And to be honest, if that person rejects this event and tells it go to hell and wish you drink yourself to death, for sure to have executed the action and gratitude as a successful thing. Yeah. The reaction to it doesn't matter.

Brandon Handley 40:27
I love that. Yeah, I mean, look, we all adopt

Dan Reeves 40:29
what happens though.

Brandon Handley 40:31
So but but there is that idea that you know, that that that that can still happen and and an understanding that their non acceptance of that from you shouldn't reflect on your genuine intent.

Dan Reeves 40:50
And it is so rare that that ends up happening with this formula. When you go to somebody with your heart and your hand and you own the stuff you did. And that's really what people want, right? You want that person to own that they did that. Really that's what I don't even do apologies to people anymore I do amends with people I use that same formula no matter what. Even if it's a total story not long ago I was not quite the person I wanted to be with a clerk at the convenience store that a couple of months ago I went sat in my car was getting ready to leave and I was like, man, I don't like leaving that bad juju behind and so I was like, so I get up in there and just go Hey, I'm not the guy to cut saw a man ago. I don't want to operate like that guy anymore. And I harmed you by by being a jackass here today was real bad. It wasn't like I but and I owned it. I asked her if there's anything she needs to say to me. Yeah, that a few words and got some things off of her chest. So she had a chance to verbalize her stuff. And and then I asked her for anything I can do to make it up you know, and she's standing over there jaw open because she's never had any my do that. And we fixed this little rift June 1 real quick and I mess around with that the rest of day either, right?

Brandon Handley 42:03
Yeah, that's great, man. I mean, it's kind of like a vibratory cleansing we'll call it right like yeah, I would you leave that behind, right? I love the Rift, right? same ideas a rift, right? Like a Tear Tear and like the the universal fabric,

Dan Reeves 42:17
right? You know, and that's another one of the things that I can leave behind me, you know. So part of this 1011 or 12 is starting to practice these principles in my life and doing these and using these tools that I just spoke of, and that 12 says having had a spiritual awakening as a result of doing that work doing those step work and going and cleaning out the cleaning out my past. Then I now to carry that and give these tools to other people. And I use these and Matter of fact, I did a fifth step with my sponsor, we actually did a back and forth two way fifth step yesterday over some issues that have been going on some stuff about how we feel about this whole COVID thing and the pandemic and some stuff about the where we were at personally with the the social equality issues going on in the world right now. And, and then we also had a little rift in the universe amongst our home group of guys. And so we had this little wad of undone business. So we applied these tools in inventory and wrote it out and then spoke to each other about it and we'll walk those tools out in order to get that piece of our thing you know, so that's the one that's the area that I see with this 12 step tools that I don't I haven't found personally anyplace else is that I have some concrete active tools that are not like I have to go to South America and take some wasco or Yeah, I don't have to I don't have to like go to these big huge lengths I can do this work from my bedroom and if I need to, I can do this fist up over the telephone with somebody you know, so I can I can put these principles and these tools into effect in their head they're just concrete. And and

I've never seen anybody do this work that said, I wish I didn't do it.

I will make a broad statement to Say that it that I can guarantee you that it will bring some improvement to your being it'll it'll improve, it will bring some more to your life as a guarantee.

Brandon Handley 44:12
Let's hit that what was the fifth step again?

Dan Reeves 44:14
This step is that where you speak to somebody about this stuff. I said that the step actually says submitted to myself to God and another human being the exact nature of my wrongs. That's what the step says. Basically, it looks a little like a confessional, but it's really not because you get feedback on it. And so that's, that's, that's sitting down and talking to somebody about it. And you know, that's where, you know, you would do that in the lifestyle if you have a coach, right, but not a problem. You got something going on? Well, you would sit down with this coach, and he would talk to him about it. So right, yeah,

Brandon Handley 44:46
yeah. I mean, it's the same ideas like you know, just kind of there's a blockage, right, you throw or even like, you know, hey, I there's, I feel like there's some bad juju back there, right, or, we're up ahead or whatever. And you got to ask yourself, not only does it not Serve me anymore as like, how else can I see this? How else can this be seen? Because your perception, Dan, Camp ception may not be the group's perception, you talk to your group. And so when you bring this out of the group, what's the use you, as a group see things exactly the way you do? Or is it most oftentimes, kind of different right now like, crazy, that's not feeling or thinking that sits in your head?

Dan Reeves 45:22
Right? That is exactly part of that step, Tim, where it says that we talked to somebody about it. And so you want to think I say, I can't see me very well, I really can't. I'd like to think I can see that I really can't. So like when I got something going on like that, I bump it off, either my sponsor or my support group members, my brothers in this brotherhood and say, Hey, man, here's what's going on. You know, what, what, what's your What do you see in this? So I'll get another set of eyes to see me and then the flip side of that is, you know, they don't see themselves. I always say this. I don't see me very well. I actually don't run my life very well at all. Got a guy who does right I got a guy that does a pretty good damn job of running my life. Nevertheless, that's stretching it. He's not running my life but he does a really good job of guiding me now that guy he don't do so good with his life either. But he's got

Unknown Speaker 46:13
a guy

Brandon Handley 46:16
is great. And we build

Dan Reeves 46:17
that, you know, so you know, his guys my guy also right? So I got that guy and I got this, you know, there's a thing into the back of the into the toaster and back into the there's 164 pages is the sacred text of the hugs and arms and 12 steps in the back of it. It says he will in speaking of this power power, but it's using that old, masculine Christian odd language. He will help you create the fellowship you crave.

Unknown Speaker 46:43
Hmm, yeah, I

Dan Reeves 46:45
never knew, you know, I didn't know because at some base level, when you talk about what it was that was missing, hmm. It was that connection with my people that was missing throughout that whole thing and by party didn't drink and I could get that temporary measure. than temporary connection with these people so it was it was filling that in a point came where I got to where I couldn't do that with people anymore you know either mountain being you know nobody else was doing it I gotten so bad that I was embarrassed to show my use at that level for sure now here I have this fellowship with these guys around me that I've said I've got this connection to a community now and it's broader than just you know it's a big it's the ripple in a pond thing right I got my I got my sponsor and real tight in that circle sure by the where the pebble landed in the water right and outside that next ring is my support group I really close guys that out that I work with and talk to you on a day to day and that we meet up once a week and see each other if not more times and that the guys that come to the retreats the guys that we go out to eat with

Brandon Handley 47:43
and you're running these retreats right there

Dan Reeves 47:46
yeah you know it's never one of these miracles that happen yeah. And I was one year sober and I was not one year so right ankle brace it on in my group was going to a local florist to have a little day trip retreat they were going to do and they went and I couldn't go because it's out there. by the county so the ankle bracelet that goes on like a BP Yeah. Now they would let me go do my recovery stuff. They let me go to work, they let me do the things. Let me take my kids to scouts and my daughter might send the scouts my daughters to dance and they let me do that, but this was outside where I could go and they wouldn't let me. And so the following the one of the things was is they had people run into them, and they kind of complained about that they weren't in a private location. Well, 20 years ago, my dad my brother and I built a log cabin on 54 acres outside of town here about an hour drive away. And they were talking about having that retreat and how lack of privacy and you know, you get that nudge from above, and I'm like, Hey, I got a place right and and I had in 2016 I held my first men's retreat. There you go. Yeah, this year was my seventh. So yeah, and and, and, and I say over and over, I don't know how this happens. You know, it never was orchestrated. It wasn't like I said, Hey, I'm gonna do this Sunday. No different than the spiritual underground podcast. I never did set site on saying Sunday. I'm going to be doing this podcast or I've got I've got a woodshop in the backyard that was manifested out of this recovery movement. Sure. It was manifested it like almost no dollars to me. Right? And how that happens, you know, I, but now I have this after losing that 28 year career. A year before I lost that job. We built this switch up. I got all these tools out there. I'm starting to make stuff for people outfit and doing little projects on the side for money. And that and lo and behold, you know, I say when when God built that cabin in 1999, I had no idea what he was doing. Now is where I take people to do fifth steps. Bring my guys down there we have these retreats, church Dan, and then they had no

jack that

we call it we call it the Fargo hug club. There's a little town in Indiana called Fargo and I read write nothing more than to gravel roads crossing. Right. Greenside. They're in a train they're on every corner, but we call it Fargo Hunt Club all my buddies have become that think of it as a sacred place It really is. No it did. It was built on dope and booze I stood up on that log wall driving spikes down through the walls with the beer cans sitting on the log behind me more concerned with knocking the beer over then I was driving the spike if I wouldn't Yeah, and now now it's a completely different energy down there right oh pletely different energy you know and I got this switch shot back here where now I have this gig that allows me to put my you know, I went to mankind project you know, and they have you talked about a mission you know, and my mission is to create a world of healing recovery through guiding people to find their true true purpose with the 12 steps

Brandon Handley 50:43
Yeah, yeah look and and you're doing it right now. Right so and one of the things that I hit on before I know you work on are your guys created 12 step book. Sounds like you're heavily promoting it might be something you guys are doing and kind of Cahoots. But you you also did. You became a yoga instructor. So I get that correct. I mean, so

Dan Reeves 51:02
yeah, that's another one of the things you know, my miracle list is is deep enough that if I don't, when I was brand new, my sponsor said these things were happening to me that were of great nature. And he said, you should start writing that stuff down. Right? Because you're going to forget it. Yep. And I started doing it nowadays. We'll do a little thing you'll go add that to the list. And yeah, so I became a yoga instructor. I was that list. What do you is that I called my miracle. I call it my miracle list. I just always have you know, could be also you know, there's a tool out there called a gratitude list where when you're feeling down, you write down all the stuff that's good, all your gratitude, you know, it's kind of long term gratitude lists where I can go back and look at these things that have, frankly, the universe has brought me to where I'm at right now. Mm hmm.

Brandon Handley 51:45
Yeah, you must have something valuable left.

Dan Reeves 51:47
Why in the world what I believe is gonna drop me off here, right. So I begin to doubt it. The next thing I'm not going to be supported with, right? I go, you know, that can't be, you know, I can't do that. That's beyond my abilities. Well, I'll quick look at this guy. To list this miracle list, so tell me I look at what's happened to date. What do you think it's gonna stop? Yeah. So that, that that yoga teacher training thing was another thing some girl, you know, you know, that's been our character defects is a essence I've been, since my marriage ended, certainly got no room for giving relationship advice, but a guy come into my life and she snuck me into a yoga class and She tricked me into going because she knew me I would make any reason not to do that, because that's not masculine. I can't do it. You know, I'm not flexible enough. I'm not you know, all the different reasons about why I couldn't do that. And I fell in love with yoga and it became a part of my recovery. And that's another thing that's going on in the world is a combined 12 step recovery. Yoga thing that's now combines the benefits of yoga with the benefits of 12 step philosophy and and gives you a little power punch through using those two tools. And now I coach people I'm working with to get into it because that exercise does something to me that I don't Get from riding a bike or swimming or going to the gym. You can Oh, good

Brandon Handley 53:05
spirit. Right, right. Yeah, I mean look, I'm that that that's all part of it right? I love it right? I love I love how you you know, you're, you're transitioning into this, this other being this authentic you right without without hiding underneath the pills without you know if you do have some self doubt you're facing it with you know the stories that you're telling yourself and reviewing the stories and looking at them in a different way instead of saying I'll shoot ain't gonna happen today I'm gonna have to have a beer All right, like they have today this year. And you know, you start to develop like these quote unquote, like healthier mechanisms of dealing,

Dan Reeves 53:46
right. Yeah, and it gives you that positive outlook to man I mean, it just means all the world to have these people around me we encourage one another my sponsor, they spend the biggest coach for me and encourage her from the beginning about you know, go for it day. Yeah.

Listen for it when you can do it, what can I do to help you do it?

Brandon Handley 54:03
That's, that's so important to right. So when you get that encouragement to go Be yourself. Alright? And when you get that encouragement that says, How can I help you? Right? You're like, not only are you saying that I can and should go pursue this, but you're willing to offer like assistance for that. Yeah, that's powerful. Yeah. Now, tell me a little bit about the book you guys are using to apply to daily, like, you don't have to be an alcoholic to use these tools.

Dan Reeves 54:35
Yeah. You know, kind of goes into you know, do you have to, you know, do you have to be from India to benefit from yoga, right, you know, I, we, one of the other premises and 12 step philosophy is, I gotta be able to, I gotta be willing to let go my own ideas. You know, we hang on to these camps and shoulds and it's only this way and only those kind of people can do this, and we gotta let go of that stuff. So my sponsor was sober. He just said Alberta made 36 years at the 18 year mark, he had that feeling of, there's got to be more. And he the universe provided and bumped him into some teachers. And his life changed with that many years sober from being this just not drinking dude to this plane that that I today get to benefit from. And so he had these teachers and he got this happen to him and he got to feeling like you know, you go around and this can cause a little bit of a rift but I'm comfortable speaking my truth today in this in this. A lot of recovery rooms is so so stuff going on in there. It's not the level that we can get to. It's a lot of there's a lot of less than it could be recovery going on. And if you fall into those rooms, they're just not very attractive when people are just struggling just to stay sober today. That becomes something you know that you know, we think Thank you and I you know if I'm like having a fight that hard at something, then somes not going, right. So he had all these tools and and it wasn't documented. He wasn't seeing it. And it's not in that book that that book that bill Wilson wrote and released in 1935. Plus a lot of people rejected it 1935 language, right with that God hard hand, and other kind of thousand these and things like this that would cause a guy to inherently reject this stuff. So he put these tools down on paper and started writing this book about six years ago, modernizing the language and bringing forward obviously expanding the concepts of how to have what we call squeeze more juice out of this work, for sure. Yeah. And so he did that and he wrote a book and it's called 12 step spiritual recovery. You can find it on Amazon author's James Christopher Cohn. It is the 12 steps for anybody. He goes into showing how this you know without Coxon acts we pretty clear about this booze and dope, bringing us to our knees. You know Are you rejecting that premise? You're not ready for help yet. But the normal person, what is it? You know, they needed to find what is that problem sometimes, you know, and that spiritual sickness thing is, is that, you know, frankly, our spirits get stepped on by doing this thing called life and it happens to our peer groups through our education through our parenting Archimedes this time do you find like, the kinds of ways

Brandon Handley 57:22
do you do find like the spirit really hasn't been addressed? Right? Like, I mean, it's good. Well, here's the deal, though. Like, you know, do you remember any spiritual school like any spiritual class on spirituality from like, K through 12? Right, like, I don't recall any No, I had some spiritual teachers walk through my life that

Dan Reeves 57:40
I couldn't you know, what even said right, like so yeah, but even right, yeah, no, it's a lack of exposure.

Brandon Handley 57:46
Right. And, and, and I think that even with the current western style church, is is that there's, it's very, here's what you do. Here's how They did it. But the application to the spirit doesn't seem to be readily visible.

Dan Reeves 58:08
And it's based on a lot of hope, you know, you got to just turn here, you know, just just hopeless, it's going to work for you, you know, or this 12 step stuff actually gives you some tools and the action behind it. And I'm not so sure that's the total effectiveness of the tools, although I know the tools are affecting the effectiveness may just be in that you're doing something.

Brandon Handley 58:25
Sure. I mean, look,

Dan Reeves 58:27
you know, that you got off your ass and you're doing something.

Brandon Handley 58:29
It doesn't matter, though, right? Like, as long as you do get up and you get going, right, as long as you have just like you said, take some action and start leaning into it. I think that's, that's not too different than general coaching. It sounds like a lot of the tools are, you know, here's what I'm finding more and more there's overlap with the tools, right? It's just how you apply them where you apply them when you apply them and all those things. So that's what I say about the higher power thing and the tools and all that seems like a you know, everybody wants to be able to receive that gift but you need yours tablet to blue. Robin and Bill needs his with a green one and I need a wrap on on mine. It's really all the same gift inside a box, you know, but it's just got a little bit different colored ribbon on it and because it's blue,

Dan Reeves 59:13
Brandon can accept it.

Unknown Speaker 59:14
Yeah, whatever reason,

Dan Reeves 59:16
cares why

Unknown Speaker 59:17
it's the only color I see is blue.

Dan Reeves 59:18
Yeah. Because the further down the path I get, the more you do you start getting into alignment where you see you know, the Buddhist principles and stuff out of the Bhagavad Gita and, you know, and then even beyond, but for me, it's big time growth when I start beyond actually peek into that Bible and seeing that those principles are there to you know, have to bridge that is also I actually what I get to do and that's one of the things is that I always got this message and I'm not sure if it's, I'm not sure if I took the message or if it was actually given to me. But I got this message that it was their way of highway kind of thing when any religion I would get into. I don't know that I won't say That's true, but that's the way I looked at it. We I can find a day man I get to pick and choose, I'd say through this trusted program. I get to go to Walmart Buy a brand new ball of playdough. And I get to come home and I get to form that thing up into what works for me and I get to build my own spirituality from scratch. And, and

and i think it works.

Brandon Handley 1:00:19
If it's working for you, right, I think I think that it's okay. One of the things that I kind of guess that I took away from a lot of these spiritual books and everything like that, is that if you just it's just like anything else in life. If you just follow one, you'll be cool. You probably just follow one. It'd be cool. If you just focus on kind of like one thing, no matter how small it is in life, you'll be cool,

Dan Reeves 1:00:45
right? Yep, I didn't start wrapping all these other ones and swinging them in until a little further down my path because the other thing that tells us tells me is to continue to seek. Yeah, continue to improve my conscious contact with whatever power it is that I'm getting hooked up with here. And in order to do that, I do that through yoga and I do that the man kind of do that for you in other books and I do that because when you mentioned a couple books to me on the podcast The other day I write the names of the books down because I didn't think I got that message by accident.

Unknown Speaker 1:01:13
Hmm.

Dan Reeves 1:01:14
I'll be open to looking and exploring this other stuff.

Brandon Handley 1:01:18
So you know, you've got the podcast going, you've got you know, somewhat of a movement going right you're hosting events and

Dan Reeves 1:01:26
the 12 tips spiritual record, we call it TSS, or there's a there's a, there's 12 steps spiritual recovery, calm, and there's a Facebook page called 12 steps spiritual recovery. We're hosting meetings here and lowered. They look a lot like 12 step meetings where anyone is welcome to come and try the 12 step tools.

Brandon Handley 1:01:42
Right, right. So is it t SSR? Calm?

Dan Reeves 1:01:46
Now it's got that big old long thing. Okay. Make sure recovery.

Brandon Handley 1:01:50
Yeah, wanna make sure somebody finds it right. 12 steps spiritual recovery.com

podcast is a spiritual underground.org

Dan Reeves 1:01:58
Yep. They're trying podcasts if you're the website spiritual underground.org haven't done as good a job keeping that up lately because I've got the little hit counter on it and just Matt in YouTube is two places where I've kind of invested some energy and decided that my energy hasn't been really um actually think about redoing the website just put a link to the podcast you know put other put the Google Play and apple and the links on it and just let it be like that rather than put content but yeah, spiritual underground podcast is you know all all the major platforms that are out there Google Play, Spotify, Pandora, Apple anchor anchors the host

Brandon Handley 1:02:39
Yeah, no, I love it. I love it. And you know you're putting out great content man. You're helping people you got people reaching out to you from all over the world to thank you for kind of putting yourself out there and what you're doing I thank you for you know, reaching out except in the conversations. You've mentioned some books I mean, what is what is what is like one or two books outside of of 12 step program obviously that have really impacted your journey. Hmm

Dan Reeves 1:03:07
one book is a journey into power is the Baron Baptist. He's the

Unknown Speaker 1:03:13
he he is the

Dan Reeves 1:03:16
guru of the yoga style that I do is a power vinyasa Baptist style power. vinyasa is called journey into journey into power is what it's called. And it goes through a lot of lifestyle stuff. It's not just a yoga book it's about what your diet is, you know you are what you eat to some extent you can't go put crappy fuel in your body and expect it to run good. I can't put crappy gas in my car expected to run good. He talks about meditation and and different things. So that was a that was definitely a big one. And you know, something that really turned my corner on the way I look at spirituality was there's Oh, oh preacher called him at Fox and his sermon on the mount, which you know, no I want to reject that book because of its western. For me for Dan, want to reject that because it was based on Jesus words in the New Testament and the Sermon on the Mount and most people heard about that. But he shed a new light on what those things could mean for somebody rather than the meaning I had absorbed. So out of two books that probably shift my foundation. Those two things, that girl that snuck me into yoga bought me that journey and the power book before I ever two years before I ever thought about taking yoga teacher training. And I sat down and read that book, and I still am amazed a diver sat down and read that book. There was no reason I wasn't really interested in yoga. Hmm. But I wonder like, you get a better read this my girlfriend gave it to me. I don't know. But it did it. It changed me.

Brandon Handley 1:04:52
Hmm. I love it. I love it. You know Is there anything else that you know again, you know, we get through tail end here. That if you feel like anybody should hear out there, right? So if somebody made it to the end of this podcast, what else did they hear for today?

Dan Reeves 1:05:10
Let me tack that on this sort of little bit about the podcast. Where did the podcast explore how people come to find themselves? We call it recovery. To me recovery is to reclaim or reclaim that which was lost or stolen. That's a definition I had found. And that's in the process spiritual recovery stuff. So to in I heard your guests today, listen to your podcast. You know, I think this common theme is is that we're trying to get closer to what our true selves are right. And there's a bunch of avenues to do that. My roots come from 12 step recovery. I do believe that it will work for you regardless if you're addict or alcoholic or just want some new tools in your life. What I do the podcast is have people come on and talk about their journey to how they found themselves or are moving. Yeah, I hesitate to say that max like found myself, but I'm closer than I used to be. And I'm on a journey of finding myself. Majority of it is that I think the big thing is, is that when you hear that other people have done it, especially in this podcast type of environment where you actually just hear these people's voices and you hear the passion and in them about what, what has happened for him. That translates into hope for you that it can happen for you too. Beautiful, I love those voices. So that's what I try to bring out what the podcast is that you said. It's not really for me, it's, if we can only touch one person with this podcast, and that person decides, hey, I want to be a better version of me. Then, then we then our mission is completed today.

Brandon Handley 1:06:46
And thank you so much for popping on. They really appreciate it, brother.

Dan Reeves 1:06:49
Thank you, man.

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Carl Jung | Rudolf Otto | Numinous | Single Hit

Published: July 28, 2020, 10:39 a.m.
Duration: 16 minutes 31 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:02
What is up? What is spiritual dope? Today, we are going to talk about, we're going to talk about this word numinous. We're gonna talk about this word numinous. And we're gonna start off just like this, we're gonna jump right into it, and we're going to take your entire life experience can most likely be summed up in a couple of words, you probably have just a few words that you would use to convey the entirety of it. And at most, you refer to specific moments in time, seasons, segments of the whole, what we fill those moments with? Is it possible for you to fill them up with a story of how they were, or the stories flat draw without any true depth, like a pothole versus a lake? Right. Oftentimes, you feel slightly detached and sometimes you may feel powerless or overwhelmed. You feel as though the universe is swallow you whole, without even taking a moment to savor the delight dish you feel like this oblivious to any onlooker yet do you have a desire

Unknown Speaker 1:08
you have a knowing

Brandon Handley 1:10
there are moments in your seasons that that's the sometimes they just don't make the cover no so your story there are moments in life where you're completely in tune with who you are seemingly in sync with all of the universe. I'd like to think that maybe it's a moment we sing along with your favorite song and your heart pulses in a different frequency. a surge of what it feels like in love emotes from from your entire body. Maybe you were dancing last night was pure magic. Can you dance through the entire evening and, and each move was a release of pure energy that moves your body in line with the cosmos. It could be as simple as revelation, like a moment I like in jujitsu. It's it's a tiny inhale that expands your chest. It's so cool. able to finish up the choke. moments like this have certainly been. They've been considered being in flow, a term that was coined by psychologists my highly Jakob his last name, cissna, Nima, Holly, whatever. Look, if you look up flow, you'll find this guy maoli and describes optimal experience. He says during flow, people typically experience deep enjoyment, creativity and a total involvement with life. Now, I'm going to use the word numinous. I'm in kind of like tandem with flow. And that feeling of a numinous means according to Merriam Webster, it's it's supernatural, filled with the sense of the presence of divinity or holy or appealing to the higher emotions and to the aesthetics. sense spiritual. And the words arrived from the Latin word Newman, meaning Divine Will or not, it's just a figurative nodding of or the ascent or of command of the Divine head. This is a state of being that can be mimicked by drug use, or drinking or just you know, pure intoxication.

Unknown Speaker 3:25
mimicked

Brandon Handley 3:26
right, in short, going out of your mind, so that you know you're able to experience yourself and I like to, I like to segment those two words yourself because they in this context is two different two different pieces. And look, you know, intoxication is not sustainable. And it's certainly fraught with its own sets of dangers and in an untruth, asked me how I know, you know, truly pales in comparison to know this true experience of Numinous But it is a version of it right? I will say that. But imagine being able to access the space within you this this feeling of Numinous that will a connectedness that is indeed supernatural by comparison to your natural being your everyday default position and then we that we discussed towards the beginning of this one right we just we just being and it's kind of flat as draw and just living kind of Jesus to existing it's all default. Now this this word numinous is a very word that Carl Jung used to describe his own experience with the divine. And he lifted the word from professor of theology, Rudolf Otto. He felt that there was a need for a specialized word to describe the concept of holy without, without moral without the morality factor without moral factor.

I think that's kind of interesting, right? Because most people feel like there's got to be, you're not allowed to feel that space, unless you've been morally correct your entire life. So, and I love how young defines it as a dynamic agency or effect not caused by an arbitrary act of will, the humanism, whatever its cause maybe is an experience of the subject independent of their will. The humanism is either a quality belonging to a visible object or the influence of an invisible presence that causes a peculiar alteration of consciousness. And, you know, it was Young's thinking that this is either a quality inherent to an object or an experience that comes over person, often inadvertently. So what's happening here, so, let's know some kernels of truth. Yeah, yeah, there's there are many of these moments. feelings and newness, newness. They Come unbidden or john calls out inadvertently. In physical nature, this is what you may call to me he has What? You one reference point is kind of like when you're hitting your stride again, going back to flow. This is a it's a similar feeling. But not 100% the same. And let me see, I can't remember if I get to that or not. So, and this is again, I'm saying that so that you understand that that's kind of the sensation or somewhat of a state of ecstasy. Right. So, but not you imagine this feeling coming over you Only you haven't been running. You haven't been dancing. It is a feeling as Jung says all of his work with his patients, as though as he as he watched their complexities and confronted their unconscious that feeds the hunger of the soul and provides feelings of liberation. relief. It's like this just weight, this weight comes off of you. And you're relieved and and Okay, and liberty is just as he said. And it obviously obviously you can hear the struggle in my voice as I tried to describe it for you. But what I want to do is couch it for you so that should you ever find yourself feeling these things or in a certain way that you're not losing your shit, right that you're you're you're in a known space. And it's so well known that, you know, this is a feeling that it goes hand in hand with Joseph Campbell's work and emphasizes the call of the hero. And as young states it's a feeling that while ineffable it's also and I love this word called it any any loose, right, it cannot be resisted. It can be be ignored. And just like when the called the heroes resisted this, there's the refusal. The call, refusing the call can can certainly have grave consequences for both the hero and the wider world. I always I would always say, you know, if you don't step into your greatness if you don't share what so what's calling to be shared through you? Do your there's somebody out there waiting for you, right? There's somebody out there that need you to step into your greatness, whatever that means for you, right? That's the call of the hero. Then somebody else is being impacted because you are not acting. Right. You can see heroes who have who certainly refuse to call stories like Sodom and Gomorrah were lots more Wife is turned to a pillar assault looking back the burning cities after God told her not to or of the medieval legend, the wandering Jew who was cursed to walk the earth until Christ returned as penance for having taunted mankind's Redeemer on his way to crucification. And don't be wrong guys. I'm looking for stories to relate this I don't know these stories myself, but if they're speaking to you, and I hope that they do you know, that that's those are some of the a couple of the stories. Right. And, but understand,

Unknown Speaker 9:32
also,

Brandon Handley 9:34
that the refusal is generally human nature and it's not final. The call will continue. It doesn't stop just once you try to suppress it for the first time. And you see this illustrated in a Star Wars which, you know, for those who don't know, already, is really when Joseph Campbell's work kind of came to light in the call the hero because That's the hero's journey. And we see Luke refers refused the call first, right? He says, I can't get involved. I've got work to do, right. And he leaves and his refusal to the call takes him back home. And he realizes that the destruction of his home, which he may have never even seen, we're seeing

Unknown Speaker 10:21
in the first place had he accepted the call at first.

Brandon Handley 10:26
Now, the refusal also seems to indicate like a humble nature

Unknown Speaker 10:31
of fear of the unknown for your human

Brandon Handley 10:33
right. Sometimes if you don't heed that call, or have to overcome that fear that that initial fear, then some people may see you as arrogant or, you know, maybe oblivious or maybe even dumb, I don't know, right. But again, I'm gonna use pieces of my own story. My first podcast, it was scary. First time we're going to release to reach out to one Talk to people. It was terrifying. terrifying. You know, I had no idea

Unknown Speaker 11:09
what would even come out,

Brandon Handley 11:11
and I had no idea whose lives I could or would touch were impacted, let alone my own. So

Unknown Speaker 11:19
if you do continue to refuse,

Brandon Handley 11:22
there's the regret that you always hear people talking about on their deathbed that they regret that they didn't do X, Y or Z or they'd never tried to do more, they live more, spend more time with their family, go to that baseball game, kissed that girl. Do whatever,

Unknown Speaker 11:40
right you have this life of regret

Brandon Handley 11:44
because you're not giving in to this impelling force within you. That is life. But we'll get back to young here. He noticed that when he was talking to those who ignored this call, things started to go badly eventually leading physical symptoms as the self do this, the internal self tries continues to try to get the individual's attention. The sensation of flow, as I stated at first is very similar to unbidden. But there are many ways to find yourself in this state of flow. Now, if you can recognize the state of flow and the way that is entered your life, you now have this just what I'd like to call a keyhole that you can look through and see what this feeling is like. Now, the next aspect of this numinous feeling it's a it's a challenge to time it right? You don't know exactly when it's come because like it comes in advertently, right? You don't know when it's gonna come. However, I want you to be able to recognize it. Like I keep saying, for what it is when it shows up, or again, if it has already shown up and maybe you've done your damnedest to this dismiss it, know that it will not disperse without you're attempting to shut it down through unnatural ways, through drugs through drinking through through whatever, you know, suppression, escapism all these things. To me that's also many will call in awakening, a rebirth or resurrection. And I love how psychoanalyst coffered Graf Durkheim states it just because right? He states like this, let us not forget that an experience of awakening does not create an awakened person. The doors open towards the mystery within, you are on the path of initiation, but it is a beginning,

Unknown Speaker 13:45
not

Brandon Handley 13:46
an end. And should you finally decide to accept you will with time, gradually integrate matter in spirit and you will integrate matter in spirit Otherwise, you know, the disconnected human sight. And you'll be able to with practice, you know, meditation, chanting, reading, martial arts, you'll be able to sit in this numinous space. You heard through this podcast of flow, right, which is quite similar to the numinous state, and you also heard the call of the hero. If you've experienced flow states, you're on the precipice, right? And if you can recognize what puts you into flow states, you're not too far off in my in my opinion, and from my own experience of the numinous. Right? And would you say that maybe, I would say that you can experience them at will. I mean, these are Yogi's, I'm not saying that this is not. I can't say at this point in my life that you know, that Satori, or you know, Nirvana. You know, Nirvana means something Blow out your head right blood blowing your mind is one of the one of the states so

Unknown Speaker 15:06
I think that that's possible.

Unknown Speaker 15:09
Have you found

Brandon Handley 15:09
yourself in a numinous state? Have you had a hero's call and awakening?

Unknown Speaker 15:17
a rebirth?

Brandon Handley 15:20
And again, I share all this because if you have felt the touches the tengiz of any of this and you feel like you might be gone easy. You feel like you might be losing your shit. You feel like this is a midlife crisis. You feel like you're in a Crux or situation. I disagree. College disagrees. Joseph Campbell disagrees. There's many many many, many others out there who would disagree. This is this is your state of being this kind of being awoken your your life force within you looking to expand beyond the constraints, right? So I want to hear if you've had a hero's call, I want to hear if you've had an awakening, and you know, shoot me, shoot me an email at Brandon, at Oh, where do I exist? Brandon at spiritual dope.co I hope you've enjoyed. I hope you've enjoyed this word numinous as much as I have

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Marissa Nash | Rediscovering Yourself | WellCo

Published: July 26, 2020, 11:36 a.m.
Duration: 47 minutes 51 seconds

I was lucky enough to catch up with Marissa Nash and chat about how she is leading with spirituality in her thriving coaching business.

Her career in wellness started at lululemon, and since she has worked in the wellness industry for over 9 years. She has been a Certified Professional Life Coach for 5+ years, a 1,000+ hour Yoga Instructor for 9+ years and she specialize in teaching self-care, meditation & mindfulness techniques.

Marissa is a certified Executive Coach and Corporate Wellness Consultant. She is also certified in The Science of Wellbeing from Yale University and Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction from Thomas Jefferson, developed by Meditation Teacher Jon Kabat-Zinn.

She developed The Well Method out of a gap that she witnessed in the wellness industry as well as the practices, techniques, and holistic modalities that she has used to heal and transform her own mind, body, and soul.

She has coached over 300 women and have worked with clients across the U.S. and abroad, including California, Pennsylvania, New Zealand, North Carolina, Texas, South Carolina, Michigan, and New York!

She graduated from Penn State University in 2011 with a B.A. in Corporate Communications and completed my Master's Degree in Organizational Leadership and Executive Coaching at Concordia University with Dr. John Townsend.

She is also a dog-mom to my mini-goldendoode, Finn (check her out on my instagram!)

Connect with Marissa here:

https://www.thewellco.org/

https://instagram.com/marissarosenash

https://www.facebook.com/thewellcobymarissarose

Brandon Handley 0:00
54321 Hey there podcast listener and welcome to spiritual dope today I've got Marissa Nash joining me and she is a woman's life wellness coach, executive coach, meditation teacher, yoga instructor, corporate wellness consultant, you know, she embodies all these things and, but she pulls it together in a holistic manner. So she has a holistic life coach. And her mission is to teach you how to tap into the wisdom of your mind, body and soul. And learn to trust your intuition and step into your personal power both personally and professionally. As a certified life coach for over five years, a over 1000 hours of yoga instructor for nine years, specializes in self care, meditation and mindfulness techniques. And she's also a certified coach and a corporate wellness consultant. There's There's quite a bit more so you know, you've got you've got it all gone down. But as it kind of relates to this, you believe in Many holistic modalities that you use with your clients such as Lifestyle coaching, yoga, mindfulness, visualization, and Reiki. And I'll leave it for anyone who wants to find out more about all that you're doing to head over to your website after they kind of check it out. But welcome, and thanks for joining us.

Marissa Nash 1:19
Thanks, Brandon. I'm really excited to be here.

Brandon Handley 1:22
You have no idea what you're in for do you're like, I have no idea what's happening.

Unknown Speaker 1:27
But like the energy of it.

Brandon Handley 1:30
I love it. I love it. Um, so you and I were connected by a good friend of mine, Jeremy Todd, who we started our podcast adventure years ago with each other. He was quite literally my first interview. And and YouTube connected and he said, you know, you got to talk to Brandon, you're, you're right down the street from me. You're over in Philadelphia, you're from the area as well. And let's kick it off. I mean, what what what, that's what I want to start with cards at the every card. Nearby your tarot cards because this is how you start your this so So, you know Marissa starts her podcast with a, you know, a kind of a card reading. I don't, but I love the idea so I figured I'd spring that on you let's find one do you want to pull a card and tell us what we're up for?

Marissa Nash 2:15
I love it. Yes, I would love to do that I do on my podcast and in sessions with all my clients, I pull cards. I find that it's really important just to connect spiritually with you know, you and I are humans on this earth doing the best we can but you know, what, what is the divine guidance that we need to be tuned into and also for your listeners. So I use Oracle cards. I'm a big fan of Gabby Bernstein. So I'm using her super attractor deck.

Brandon Handley 2:41
She, you know, I wasn't aware of like she's a spiritual junkie. Right? Is that right? Yeah. I love it. Right like it plays in line with spiritual dope, right. Come on now.

Unknown Speaker 2:51
Yes, I love it. Yes. Okay, so this is a cool one. So I'll read this over. So it says the more I attune my energy with appreciation, the more the universe will deliver.

Brandon Handley 3:03
Hmm, love it. What's that mean for us today?

Unknown Speaker 3:07
Yeah, I think it's really interesting. I, you know, I, I don't know where this conversation will go. But a big belief that I have is around manifestation and in order to manifest, you really have to appreciate what you have and you have to be in energy and in alignment with appreciation and gratitude. It's a big part of my story. And what I help clients with is really focusing on living a life in alignment with gratitude and appreciation and a state of abundance. So I imagine that will come up today.

Brandon Handley 3:35
Absolutely, I mean, look, so that's all the line is the line is, uh, you know, appreciate what you have, right? Just Just in general. You know, just be grateful for the things that you do have. It doesn't matter if you've got a lot, but at least want what you have, right? Because if you've got a lot and you don't want it, that's not serving you. Right. Right. So for you For your for your information. So I grew up with a hippie mom. Right? Well, and, and yeah, we'll see there you go and and it was like, you know, she was caught like these these lifestyle trappings, right like you know, these are all the trappings, like if you've got all these things and you're kind of trapped with those things right because you have to, you're trapped with those things you're maintaining them. Right. So let's let's I mean let's jump into, you know your journey a little bit I want to share a little bit of your backstory. realizing you're from the Philadelphia area, you're a Penn Stater Penn State, right. So Penn State, my wife went to Penn State as well she, she still talks about it, she still loves it seems like it must have been a good time there. But you also you've traveled around a little bit. And most recently if I if I'm following the story, now you're back here from Texas. Right? Is that right? Okay. So, walk us in the journey from you know, Penn State to where you are today? Any synopsis any way you want to?

Unknown Speaker 5:03
Yeah, I would love to because my journey actually in wellness did start nine years ago at Penn State, which is a little surprising because you think Penn State party school, I was in a sorority, and I had this moment, my junior year of college, where I just knew that I was seeking more. I felt like you know, did the college thing. There's something more for me, but I didn't know what it was. And I remember my best friend Becca, I came back from summer break. And she just looked different. She looked radiant. She looked, you know what I would call really well. And I just asked him like, Becca, what have you been doing? It's yoga. And I'm like, yoga. What, what's yoga all about? Let me try it. And so we would do a 90 minute hot yoga class at this little apartment in State College on campus at Penn State. This guy named Doug owned it and he was just plugged heaters into the wall of this apartment studio that he rented. And we would do hot yoga for 90 minutes and then it would end with a yoga nidra. a pretty long 30 minute I feel like sometimes even 40 minute Yoga nidra practice which is so good. It's a deep meditative practice. So you're going deep into your subconscious through guided meditation. So I was introduced to meditation, spirituality and yoga, you know, one of its deepest levels at a very young age. And I don't think I knew how powerful that really was, but it worked for me it calmed a lot of my anxiety. I have been a dancer when I was in middle school, I quit around High School. And I think that creative element was really missing from my life. So I felt like I had found my place I did one yoga class and call my dad the next day as a college student. I said, Dad, I'm going to get certified to be a yoga teacher.

Unknown Speaker 6:53
I have two or three grand

Unknown Speaker 6:57
Are you back and I did it. I honestly took one yoga class. Sign up for teacher training the next day with the philosophy that, you know if I pay for the teacher training I get for yoga classes and I get paid as a teacher. So it made sense to me. And from there my journey took off actually worked really well lemon for a while and two different stores in Philadelphia and in Charleston, South Carolina. And Lulu lemon was a great setup for me at a young age. They were really big on goal setting, there was a lot of transformational leadership that was happening within the organization, and just a lot of ways to really connect with the wellness community as well. So I really do a credit a lot of my early career to what I learned at lemon. And that that ended me up in Charleston, I ended up moving to Charleston before Charleston was, you know, the place that it is today. This was, gosh, six years ago, and stayed in Charleston for a little while. Where to Lou lemon didn't teach much yoga there. But then I really started teaching yoga when I moved to Southern California

Brandon Handley 7:57
because there's a there's a Bill Murray story in Charleston. Yeah, let's highlight that just for a second. Because you know, listen, when my wife and I were in North Carolina for a little bit you and I had talked a little bit about this before. And we're like, the only reason we would go to Charleston would be to catch up with Bill Murray. What happened between you and Bill Murray?

Unknown Speaker 8:16
I don't know very. I've never met him. But

Unknown Speaker 8:20
no, no.

Brandon Handley 8:22
Yeah, no. Did we have this conversation? He became me. That's not you. Ah, are you sure?

Unknown Speaker 8:30
I never met him. I mean, he lives there. But yeah,

Brandon Handley 8:33
that was told me the story then.

Unknown Speaker 8:36
I don't know.

Unknown Speaker 8:38
I've been talking to Okay, keep moving then.

Unknown Speaker 8:40
Oh, no, the girl said. Um, yeah. Now he has a restaurant though. Apparently. That's really good. I

Brandon Handley 8:45
was I wasn't so I was in this conversation. Mm hmm. Man. All right. Yeah, she's pretty good with this, but go ahead.

Unknown Speaker 8:52
Um, yeah, so then I actually ended up moving to Southern California. I got a job teaching stand up paddleboard yoga in Laguna Beach. and manage this little paddle, paddle board shop and Laguna on the ocean. And it was awesome. You know, living in Southern California being in my early 20s I really got to live out a lot of the dreams that I had. And I then got connected with core power yoga. So I taught full time yoga in Southern California. I also managed the core power yoga studio for a little while. Another amazing organization to be a part of great, great leadership, great leadership development inside of the organization. And then I honestly moved back to Charleston and did some nonprofit work for a little while. And all along have been a life coach. So I've been a life coach for five years, I've always specifically focused on women, helping them to transform their lives, whatever that looks like for them, whatever their end goal is. In the recent couple of years, my my primary focus has been on holistic wellness, and really helping women to map out what their wellness plan looks like. I found For me when I really got in touch with Okay, my wellness is a priority took me a little while to figure out it was almost difficult it was it was hard like this undercover topic of like, I would walk in like a crystal shop and be like, Do you know anyone that practices I already know or let you know, like, do you know when doing energy healing and it's like, why was this so hard to find? And

Unknown Speaker 10:23
so yeah,

Unknown Speaker 10:24
yeah, exactly but what I knew worked for me um, and so that's really led me to design you know, the welco which is my wellness coaching firm, as well as my corporate wellness programs. And you know, as of late, the well method, which really guides women through a one year program, where they actually get to meet with me as their transformational leadership coach, but then also get access to for other holistic healers that they get to do private sessions with within the year because that's what I've found works for me is being able to work with a lot of different modes. realities and a lot of different healers to make sure that I'm well in all different areas of my life.

Unknown Speaker 11:06
Now, I love it. I love it.

Brandon Handley 11:08
And I love Look, I mean, it's initially right even back in college when you're doing kind of the body movement, right with the yoga and then you go right into, you know that Yogananda right, like going into the deep meditative state. And, you know, the things that that's, it's a lot of people know, to move their bodies, right and work their bodies, and that's really important, but what they don't do after that is take some time to kind of go with it.

Unknown Speaker 11:35
Yes, I,

Brandon Handley 11:37
um, I want to know more about your hippie mom. Yeah. Yes. I mean, you know, so, you know, Was it easy for you then to for, for me to kind of jump into this space mentally. It was kind of an easy transition for myself, because of a hippie mom. Right. So I'm just curious if that was similar for you. Yeah, so

Unknown Speaker 11:57
my parents are both deadheads, so Grateful Dead all day long in our house still. And yeah, I think my mom, so my dad I would describe is like, yeah, deadhead, he still goes to like cover shows and Yeah, super into it just um, my dad was always so supportive of me and my dreams. He's also an entrepreneur. So I think that helped me. So I've never been limited in that. And my mom is very spiritual. She's very open minded. I love that about her. I remember she would buy me books of, you know, different world religions, and she always just encouraged me to explore and to really honor people and faith in their spirituality, their race. I mean, you know, what, what they believed and I'm, I'm really grateful for that. It's something that you know, as you get older, you realize that not everybody is raised that way. And I really raised to be empowered to make my own decisions in my faith and spirituality career. And it's helped me a lot, I think, be a leader in this space.

Brandon Handley 12:56
Now, I love it and it seems like you know, you're totally aligned with Kind of your purpose? Um, and what would you say purposes because, you know, bring in, I think as a coach, right, coming from the coaching space as well as a coach, you know, it's our job to help others bring out the best and others. Right? Bring. And I had another guy I had a coach and look, I have a, I'm not a Christian, I don't come from a Christian background, but you know, my coaches like my job is to bring people to Christ. I was like, Okay, tell me what that means to you. Right? Because I mean, that could mean anything to anybody. Right? And when he explained it, to me, it was, you know, to kind of bring you to your Divine Self Help you step into your power, that's a good thing. So what does that? What does coaching mean to you? What's your end game? Like when you're coaching somebody? What's that transformation? really mean to you?

Unknown Speaker 13:46
Yeah, that's a great question. So for me, I would say since I work specifically with women, it's to help them to live a life that feels in alignment. So I do a lot of limiting beliefs work. I also really do believe in meditation because I think that We can get covered in beliefs about ourselves, or we have the world works that aren't true. And for me, it's been most healing, to clarify, but what beliefs do I choose? And then from that place, I can then make empowered decisions about my life. And, you know, it's difficult. And that's why I think coaching is so valuable, because, you know, it's difficult making decisions for my life that don't fit the mold for what everybody else is doing. And I know I've always kind of been that way. But through coaching and having my own coach, you know, you're you're validated, you're affirmed, you're reminded that that's okay. I'm also really big on community. So I do have a community called the well and that's really designed so that women can come together and explore who they are and still be loved along the way. So that that's really important to me, the way that I do that I can talk about later, but it's really about making empowered decisions for your life, based on you learning how to live a life that's in alignment for you, not based on what anybody else wants for you.

Brandon Handley 14:57
No, absolutely right. I mean, there's the public process of kind of going to unlearn everything you've been taught. Right? But but in the sense and and and try not to do it too dramatically, right? Like you always think about a good buddy of mine. And we always talk about, you know, the matrix, and nobody makes their first jump, right? And just trying to like, yeah, look, you're gonna make that first jump. And if you you know, quote, unquote, fail, or if you fall down, I hit your face. I mean, that's all in your mind. Right? Like, you just get back up and you keep at it, right? How do you know, how do you help these women to expand and understand their limiting beliefs?

Unknown Speaker 15:35
Yeah, definitely. I like what you said about you know, I don't think it's a hard and fast process. I think that can actually be more disruptive and counterproductive. So you know, I actually did a limiting belief session with a client yesterday, but that was her sixth time working with me. So we've been working together for three months. You know, it's something that I think the relationship with Coach and client is really important. I'm definitely the type of coach where you know, it's not a one off session. I don't even offer one off sessions like it's it's a year long program at this point because you have to feel really safe, you know, you have to feel really safe and secure with the people that you're working with to really transform on a deep level. So the limiting beliefs work, I actually was inspired to create that. From john Maxwell. It was literally like a four sentence line in one of his books that I read. And I was like, that's it. That's exactly what I need and what I feel like my clients have needed. I used to run my coaching practice, in that I would help my clients to visualize where they want to be. I would help them to set the goals to get there, and then I would hold them accountable. But I noticed they weren't actually achieving and accomplishing their goals because they were running up against these limits in these blocks. So that's how now I tackle the blocks and I let them know that it's normal to have blocks, right. Like I said, like the unlearning process isn't unique to anyone. We all meet that. So yeah, it's really, I would say like guiding them and holding their hand through it but also empowering them. Don't give them words or language, I might give them examples. But ultimately they end up with an affirmation that is going to then rewire their brain to push them to where they want to be in a loving and kind way.

Brandon Handley 17:10
Hello, hello. And john Maxwell is really awesome, right? I wasn't a fan of his until his latest book, right? And I don't even know what the name of it is, but somebody shared it with me when the leader shift, right, why the leadership, audible was like, so good. And like, literally mowing my lawn listening to it. I was like, I was like, that's it this great, I'm like, you know, and then I was like, get Fine. I'll go read some more of his stuff. You know, because, you know, some, you know, coming from that subculture background and you can't Yeah, that's more it's a little too square square hole for me, right. Um, so, you know, I finally accepted them into my life. It's my john Maxwell story. But it's like that, right? You you. You have and this is, this is My process right sounds kind of similar, where you've got the idea in your mind. And it's not until like you stumble across something else that explains it for you like, Oh my god, that four lines right there explains what I've been trying to convey, but I haven't been able to do it. And there it is. And it's just like a burst right there kind of like a starburst, right? So I love that. Let's talk a second about like, you know, spirituality and Divinity. Right, what I mean? I think, yeah, I think I heard you say divinity. Talk a little bit about that, you know, on one of your podcasts, and then what's that mean to you? Like, kind of taking divine grace and spirituality, right, like

Unknown Speaker 18:46
fill me in like, what's what's up?

Unknown Speaker 18:48
For me my spirituality is a constant exploration. I remember when, you know, I I was a Christian at a point and then I you know, I wasn't and I was raised Christian. So I kind of went in and out and you know, I am no longer a Christian. And I remember asking myself like, well, who do I pray to that, you know? And for me it was it was kind of helpful and fun to just explore, you know, ask other people like, Well, how do you pray? And what does that look like? And I would work with different healers and just kind of, you know, kind of absorb and try on and then figure out what works for me. So, currently, my spiritual practice my spirituality looks like a lot of meditation, a lot of self reflection, a lot of letting go of being told what to do and how to do it and and challenging and questioning and digging in. But a big spiritual practice for me is just reciting some affirmations and prayers that I have. One that I specifically love that I'm working with right now is I love myself unconditionally. I feel myself unconditionally. I feel myself loving myself unconditionally. I feel myself forgiving myself unconditionally. We thank you. We thank you. We thank you. So the past the present in the future, and I love that prayer. So that's just mean that brings me back to a place of centering and grounding and then just helps me move on with my day. So yeah, for me, it's really being connected to the divine throughout the day. So cards helped me with that meditation. Prayer yoga. breathwork is a big practice of mine. I think there are a lot of different ways to spirituality. And if you're someone that's looking to explore spirituality, I highly recommend white hot truth by Danielle Laporte. She kind of tackles all these different spiritual practices and religions and beliefs in a really loving, hilarious way. And it really freed me up to be like, this doesn't need to be so serious, you know, like I can just floor and try on and see what works for Marissa,

Brandon Handley 20:47
for sure, for sure. I love that. I love that right? It doesn't have to be so serious. It doesn't have to be. Don't have to like, just kind of make fun of the door. There's always like a headband. Like listen if you go to a dead concert everybody looks like they go to what that concert right? And sometimes you get the same type of thing with spirituality you go to like you're like, Oh, you know what these it looks like this looks like it could be a pretty cool spiritual group you show up and everybody's wearing like the same kind of tie dye skirt like beads around their neck and you know, there's definitely some crystals going on. Right? But it doesn't have to be. You don't have to look the part to be spiritual, right? You don't have to be do it that way. And it doesn't sound like you're doing it that way. Sounds like you're doing you know what's, what's houses look for? maresa. Right. connected to the divine, then let's take another layer deeper. What's the divine mean to you?

Unknown Speaker 21:43
Yes, I really believe I kind of CO relate. Mm hmm. So deep question. So I do pray for divine guidance. I have found that instead of you know, praying to God, I pray for divine guidance. So that's one way that I connect with the divine I also view the divine as our higher self. So sometimes I will visualize either my higher self or my higher self showing up as golden light and invite that into my body and clear and release any beliefs within me that are not in alignment with my higher self, who I believe is the divine version of me.

Brandon Handley 22:19
Okay, is the Divine Self. And just, you know, kind of checking it out, right, I love First of all, I love the imagery. You know, is it the Divine Self a part? A part? Is it within you, a part of you are separate from you, like, I'm just, you know, where we are.

Unknown Speaker 22:36
I see it as something I can always connect with. I think, you know, I'm not personally actually someone that believes, you know, and like, I'm not trying to achieve enlightenment on this earth. You know, but I think that I think I'm a human, you know, a soul and a human body. You know, I am very human and very much of this world. Every day, you know, it's like, um, you know, I don't believe in like wearing all white And being spiritually light ending all day. And I love being a human and love being in this body so that I can bring divine guidance to this earth. So yeah, I think for me, it's something that I can always access and also is within me, but because I live in the world, you know, that can be clouded. Sure, no, no, I get it. I get it. And first of all, I'll throw out like I made a coffee cup. It says a first coffee than awakening. Right? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 23:27
Right. Because we are like totally human. And like, you know, some days which is like, you know, if you if you if you catch me before this cup of coffee might not be best idea, right. So, so here's the here's why I'm digging into that, right? Because I think I think the lion came from like Joe dispenza. Right? We only rise to our level of thinking, right? If we only rise our level of thinking and then if we think that and there's nothing about being human right if we just think that if we think We're just seeing a man and we just think that we're these these shells. And we just think that we're these, you know, flesh bags and there's nothing again, nothing wrong with that. But once you kind of introduce your higher self, once you introduce this connection to divinity, once you access the divinity, your Divine Self, and you've got that ability to access that, what does that do to your level of thinking? Right? And to me, like that just means that you access a different, you know, level or phase of thinking. So with your divine with your divine divinity and divine grace, you're able to take on more than you could if you were just human, right? And again, I'm not saying just humans are bad we all have everybody has the ability. And the other part of this too is like if we go all the way back, you know, what beliefs do you choose? Right? You can choose, you know, if we use Albert Einstein, you know, either everything's a miracle or nothing's a miracle, right? If we use the Vedanta Right, I'm not, if you listen to Swami is Safari on a panda, right, I totally butchered that last name, but I got all the syllables. If, if you ever check him out, like I mean, there's 44 hours like where he's gotten into the introduction of data, but like, part of it is either your all of it or none of it right? You're either all of the universe or you're not a bit you're connected 100% or not at all. So but that's a choice that you make. And once you make those choices, right, it starts to open up and it sounds like you do some la right like, I mean, you know, law of attraction stuff, it all kind of plays in and that's why you know, I'm kind of digging in on the Divinity part, just kind of seeing where you are with that. So once you accept your divine access, how do you feel like that transformed you?

Unknown Speaker 25:46
Yes, interesting, because actually, I'm gonna relate this to the the work. The way that I help people to access their most Divine Self for sure is through meditation visualization. I take them through, you know, deep guided journeys, but I also because of the human experience I really helped them to focus on what their core desired feelings are, and how do they want to feel in this life because I believe that when you can access that, then you can actually live out your most divine and most empowered self. So for me, once I connected with, you know, who am I and what are my wants and my needs and desires, which is typically more difficult for women than it is for men. I was really able to make decisions for my life that bettered my life that made me feel more in alignment that started to attract more of what I wanted, and you kind of alluded to it, but I think that perspective is key. And that's why in the beginning, when we pulled this card, you know, tuning your energy to appreciation is huge. Because if you can attune yourself to appreciation or you know, to an affirmation of gratitude to what's already amazing in front of you, you're going to start to Yes, I believe attract more of it, but also have eyes for seeing more of it. So I'm a big believer in that As well

Brandon Handley 27:01
100% I call that like kind of setting your filters, right? Like, pretend like we're all walking Google's right. If I go and I say, you know, show me beautiful things in Google, it returns beautiful things. It never ever does it return, like a whole bunch of crap. Right? And, you know, so if we wake up every day, you're like, Oh, this sucks. That sucks. This sucks. That sucks. You know, you're setting your filter to this sucks. This sucks. And that's all you're gonna see. Right? So I wanna, I want to, I'm gonna pick on a little bit here on the, you know, the women, you know, women and and kind of determining what they want, you know, versus men. Right? As a challenge, right? What makes you say that like, yeah,

Unknown Speaker 27:44
yeah, but while the masculine energy, like the Divine Masculine is much more rooted in what they want, what they need, getting those needs met, it's much more stable and consistent. Just eat You know, we could go deep, like our hormone cycles are different, you know. So men are men are very static from day to day. So they wake up, they want, it's pretty much the same every day. Women are more in a 28 day hormone cycle. So we change and we add and we flow in the Divine Feminine is it's more creative, it's a more more open, it's more sensitive. So for us, it actually can change a lot. You know, this goes for both women and men, but a lot of women that I work with are also empaths. So they can take on a lot of other people's energies, and men can do that, too. Absolutely. But yeah, I think that, you know, women are naturally a little bit more curious and sensitive and willing to go with the flow versus be like, this is what I want this I need day in day out.

Brandon Handley 28:45
Sure. Enough, fair enough. Fair enough. Um, and here's the only the only the only thing I'll say about that is that I think that's just our Western conditioning. Right? And, and I hit on this all the time with, you know, kind of anybody I talked to especially young guys when we like, when we're growing up, right as men. It's like It's like, and women too, I'm sure it's like, Alright, well, don't give into your emotions, right? Don't react to your emotions. And you know, you can't let your emotions control you. And what that translates into, for me as a child, right is, oh, I'm feeling something, I need to shut that off and never address it again. All right. And I think that i think that that's kind of where the that's what we see. Right? The the men's non ability or haven't traditionally been trained to address their emotions, right, even identify him. Right. And I think that that's the big challenge. It's like, hey, do you even know what you're feeling right now? Because if you don't know what you're feeling, how can you address it? Right? It's just the whole awareness thing we like if it doesn't have a label, you can't you can't do anything with it. Right? So that's the one thing that the author out there because I don't I feel like men kind of get a bum rap and we don't allow. I don't know what the hell I want, right? You know what I mean? It's like, yeah, I'm just doing I'm just doing what the guy had me just did or over there. I'm like, I don't shit works. We'll try that. What do you just do? I'm gonna do that, right. Just like you got to varies. I'll get two burgers. I don't whatever. Right. Yeah. So it's kind of like our social training. Right? Yeah, just saying give men a chance, you know? Yeah, it's, it's the, it's the idea of like, have be had that open dialogue, right? And that's a challenge too. For men. It's like, you know, they feel like you know, I'm going to go just on my own here. So if we kind of open up and share a feeling of it, first of all, we're like, we don't even know we're like, it feels kind of like this amorphous blob over here. Let's let's you know, let's let's whittle it down until we can figure it out. And nobody wants to be caught in that situation. Like I'm feeling these things and I don't even know what they already want to talk about that because that could that could get rejected. Right.

Unknown Speaker 31:01
Yes, no, that's a really great point. I definitely do agree, I think all of us can benefit from being more self aware. So the first piece is the awareness piece of how Yeah, how do I want to feel and not just go? Oh, yeah, like, the, like you said, This is what the person ahead of me did. So this is how I have to do it. One affirmation that I've been telling myself lately, as I, you know, like bring some new programs into existence for the welco is just I can be the first to do it. Because I want to overcome that belief of Well, I have to do it a certain way, because that's how society has done it. It's like, I'm an Aquarius, and I'm here to innovate and honestly, there's to

Unknown Speaker 31:40
me, there's no way so winter Bertha, January 27 25th. So um, you know, it's funny.

Brandon Handley 31:51
The the idea though, so, you know, how do you want to feel in this life, right, how so let's say you're working with us women that aren't over connected with their emotions, how do you get them connected to those emotions? And, you know, to get them to even explore that idea?

Unknown Speaker 32:08
Yeah, so it is a process. So I use the nine areas of wellness. And with each of those areas, we go through an entire map of how they're feeling on a scale of one to 10 in that area, then we talk about what's currently happening. So that's the awareness piece in that area. And then I have them just rewrite and journal about how they want to feel or what they want in that area. So it could be like, you know, I want to buy a house or I want a different career, whatever it is, and then we we go back and I really have them focus on the feelings behind what they desire. And then I have them narrow those down. And then we start to set action steps and goals around those feelings because it's honestly the hardest work is figuring out what you want to feel. emotional process, even just doing that that usually causes some shift and the person but then once you start to get those needs on small levels, it feels good. You know, I always hear that we are so primal, you know, we are primal beings, we want to feel good, we want what we want. So when you get clued in to what you want, you're going to go and get it as long as you can start small, and then you're going to want more of that and more of that. I always say, you know, it's like, you know, if you're a runner, I'm a runner, but after I go for a run, I can be having a pretty shitty day, and I'll go for a run and then I'm like, I feel great. Everything's okay, I want to drink a green juice. I'm gonna wake up early tomorrow and do yoga. You know, I'm like, I feel good. I did something good for myself. So the more small good things you can do for yourself. I think the more you can tap into that transformation a little bit quick, quicker.

Brandon Handley 33:40
And I think he talked about that in the beginning too. Like how do I start doing wellness just for myself? Right. And and how do you do that how you start some of your clients off right small bits and pieces and you know, what's the, what's some of the reactions that they get, like, what's what are like? What are some timelines that you look Got a with the scenes, some transformations and people.

Unknown Speaker 34:05
Oh man, it's so cool. So I really do focus my practice on women who who work in corporate, they certainly don't have to. But a lot of my clients do work in corporate. So it's really amazing to see that the work that we do in their personal life actually translates into their corporate space, they are much more confident. And this is within a couple of months. So that they noticed that they're much more confident they're making healthier decisions for their life. They're trying a lot of different wellness modalities that feel like they finally fit. Because that's the type of coach that will be like, cool, we're gonna have you do yoga, but how are you feeling? What do you need? Okay, so you're anxious. So let's not have you do power yoga, let's have you do some yoga. So it's very holistic in that way, really looking at the client as a unique individual. their relationships begin to change very quickly. And yeah, they're just overall happier and they get feedback really quickly from other people. A lot of my clients are like, people are telling you that I seem happier. And I'm like, Yeah.

Brandon Handley 35:04
Awesome. That's awesome. I love it. I love you know, look, I mean, everybody, I think needs it right? to kind of go through the process. If we at least have somebody out there encouraging them and seeing them for who they are, right, we like you know, I see you for who you are. And we're gonna help you to see the same for yourself. Yeah. Um, do you want to talk a little bit more about the wall method? Like kind of what you got going on there?

Unknown Speaker 35:31
Yeah, sure. I'd love to. So how a man the well method was really I would say that burst into existence just from a gap that I experienced in the wellness industry. And this obviously is, you know, my personal methodology and what works for me. So there are plenty of ways to do wellness. But what I noticed when I really wanted to start my wellness journey, and I was like, I'm ready. This is important to me. I'm ready to invest in it. Like I mentioned earlier, it was to like, it felt like I was piecemealing everything together and it honestly started to add up. You know, I'm like working with one healer there and I'm driving 30 minutes and then I found this other I related coach and I have to go 45 minutes into the city and I'm like driving all over and scheduling all these appointments and it was a little overwhelming. Yes, it absolutely worked. And I've connected with so many incredible wellness leaders. So what I've done with the well method is I've developed a one year program so my clients actually work with me as their holistic life coach and then they also quarterly get a session with a wellness expert. So I'll have somebody that you know, teaches them I Aveda in a private one on one session and that really helps them to understand more about their own body and seasonal wellness. I have a girl that will be doing body acceptance and self love working with an astrologer and then a womb wisdom guide and healer. So it's an amazing womb wisdom guide and healer

Unknown Speaker 36:58
wisdom

Unknown Speaker 37:00
Yes, this might be new. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 37:03
That's interesting. That's actually I've never heard I've never I've never heard and it's just fun to say actually waited.

Unknown Speaker 37:08
Yeah, it's a really cool creative title, but she's a cycle track and how to actually use their cycle to their advantage, which is really important and women's wellness.

Brandon Handley 37:18
Sure, man, it's like, you know, the tides of the ocean no doubt, right? Yeah. And I'm sure that there's like some emotional ebbing and flowing right. When are you going to use that? high tide of energy? You got it.

Unknown Speaker 37:32
I can tell you have a wife who understands

Brandon Handley 37:38
so listen again. I grew up in your my hippie mom. Oh, yeah. single mom is just kind of like, you know, it's just it's kind of already there. Right. So all that stuff there. So advantage disadvantage, I don't know. Um, and and so you're rolling this out? This is going to come out like around July so we're going to be live in July?

Unknown Speaker 37:58
Yes, yes, we will be live In July, so I've actually already been doing I would say, half of this program, or you know, years now. So it's really just an accumulation of everything that has worked and then really making it personalized. It will be a personalized bonus plan so that you don't have to go find all the healers and ask weird questions and go into crystal shops and feel like you're like, knowing that Unicode

Brandon Handley 38:22
gamma system there bro.

Unknown Speaker 38:25
Paying the table, you know, it's, it's all designed specifically for you. And actually, it's based on seasonal wellness. So we'll go through different wellness topics that I have found to be transformative in my life based on the seasons and the nature of each season and what you know, I believe that we should be holistically looking at in this season.

Brandon Handley 38:44
I love it. I love it on your page. Where do I find you at wellness podcast, you've got your wellness podcast, you offer a free virtual chain training on your site. You've got some meditations on there. You've got books Love I'm gonna go ahead and just say you know playing big by Tara Moore You are a badass by Jensen zero desire map. Which one did you mentioned at the beginning? Right? White Hot

Unknown Speaker 39:12
yes white hot truth by Danielle Laporte and she also wrote the desire map and all my clients get the desire map is I guess when they started incredible book,

Brandon Handley 39:21
right and I saw you had in your picture untethered soul. So you're Michael singer fan right? Um Have you thought Have you read the surrender experiment?

Unknown Speaker 39:31
I haven't,

Brandon Handley 39:32
should I? It's interesting. It's actually changed me and just like his his whole concept of it right? is you know, and I actually interviewed this guy named Greg Bernstein. He's like a shaman, you know, God doing vortex tours in Hawaii, and he's much one that I'm not doing any justice. But uh, you know, he, he talks about it too. We talk about la right and we also kind of talk about the constant Have you already have limiting beliefs? Even your most unlimited thought of what you want is pretty limited, right? We think the box is huge, right? But really, we're playing like and like this, this kind of a pixel of it, as it were. So who am I? To go tell the universe what's best for me? Right? And so, Michael singer kind of does it in this way where he says, I'm pretty sure the universe wants what's best for me, but like, even more than I could ever imagine, so I'm just gonna surrender to what the universe has offer. Right? And I was like, I was like, it's pretty potent bro. That's pretty it's pretty, it's pretty big. Right? And then like, his whole story is is pretty interesting. But just like that, that that kind of idea was like, All right. So I wasn't I wasn't sure if you would, you'd read that one what um, you know, so you're doing the cards. What is something that else is kind of like just radically changed your whole life, you know, spiritual journey. or anything that you're doing? What is a book a movie? A song, poem? Whatever.

Unknown Speaker 41:06
Yeah, well I'm gonna have that book to my list because I really enjoy that and think I would really really love that so you know what I'm gonna throw this one in there this is probably not what you're expecting doesn't probably didn't sound spiritual it is but just joy and having fun like having so much fun I think spirituality can get so serious you know I'm some meditation is so important getting on my mind doing my yoga practices, but sometimes you just need to go like have a drink with a friend or you know, go do something fun for yourself. So for me, I bought a surfboard recently I used to surf in California. And you know, my commitment is just to make sure that I'm at the beach and then I'm surfing and just really honestly like living a life that I want to live so I'm going to throw in there just fun.

Brandon Handley 41:48
No, I love it. I love it And listen, it's actually in the word enlightenment right light, be light, right like just kind of doesn't say and heavy man doesn't say like, you know, and German and like, carry all this heavy shit around with you and be stoic. And so it gets a bad rap too. But I love it though. So no joy. And I like that you use joy over, you know, happiness. I think joy is more sustained. And you know, more recently I heard the definition of happiness is completely external is literally based on happenstance. So the things that are your around and your circumstances, right, I think that joy is something more innate that you can control. So I'll take it. I'll take it. What? Yeah, what would you say? What would you say that we haven't kind of hit on something that you would share?

Unknown Speaker 42:40
Yeah, I mean, I don't think we talked too much about how transformational meditation is, I know that you meditate. I think what's really interesting, you know, I'm, I'm a pretty, you know, woowoo spiritual person. But I do also think that research is important and there's so much research behind mindfulness meditation, the practice of meditation that I always And follow is mindfulness meditation. I completed Jon Kabat Zinn's Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction course, through Thomas Jefferson University and it was life changing. You know, bringing mindfulness into your day can be so helpful to help you to access what's really going on. And you know, we both talked about the importance of awareness, right. So getting aware of what's going on through mindfulness is very helpful.

Brandon Handley 43:26
You on your podcast, you have a really nice way of kind of putting, like mindfulness and meditation you feel free to share that here, right? Like, it's not necessarily that your mind won't be distracted it instead it will, is to bring it back. So share a little bit of that.

Unknown Speaker 43:42
Yeah, I see mindfulness and meditation as a training ground. So it's literally like me going into training and I schedule it in and I'm like, Alright, this is where I train my mind because what happens in that space lasts. Like I said, there's a lot of research around it, but the benefits of meditation last. So for me, I see it as a training. Round. And just like anything that you're training and it takes practice, and it's never going to be to a point where your mind is silent again, bring you back to we're human. But it's about the relationship that you have with your thoughts. So you'll you know, be meditating, your thoughts come up, what is your relationship to them? And what are they showing you and maybe need to go off of the anchor of your breath, if that's what it is, if your anchors your inhale and your exhale, and your body speaking to you and it's like pain or uncomfortability or have this thought, you know, listen to me, then it's kind of working with that and being like, yeah, body Yes, mind. Yes, divine guidance. What are you trying to show me? And that's really where I explore myself and and then also ask for spiritual guidance to

Brandon Handley 44:42
follow that. Yeah, you're right. We didn't want to talk about too much. Meditation. The one thing that I learned through meditation, and he talked about unconditional love, right, which to me is kind of synonymous with don't judge like non judgement, right? You're paying attention to your body, but you're not judging it, right? It's like, hey, there's it's acknowledgment. But it's not giving it a good or a bad week, right? Is that what you're saying?

Unknown Speaker 45:10
Yeah, absolutely. I think through mindfulness comes it actually research has proven that empathy for others and empathy for yourself, which is the loving kindness and the self compassion,

Brandon Handley 45:21
the metta metta meditation, right? And here's what I love about the metta meditation. We spend a lot of time thinking about ourselves. Yeah, right. And this is like an opportunity even like, I'll pull out midday and do like a five minute metta meditation, so I can think of some other people and not think about my own shit. Right? And but but because that's what we do, right? We think about all the stuff that we've got going on for ourselves. So if we can take just five minutes, give ourselves one minute in there, like all right, well, this this, if you're not familiar with meditation, you know, explain the metta meditation real quick for somebody who's never done it.

Unknown Speaker 45:56
Sure. So yeah, metta meditation is also known as loving kindness meditation. very accessible, you know, on apps or on YouTube, if you'd like I also have on on my website, it will guide you through a very incredible meditation where you are seeing others in front of you and sending them loving and kind words you also go typically back and forth between sending others loving and kind words, and then you're self loving and kind words. And through that the state of the brain actually changes. And you can see benefits from that very quickly.

Brandon Handley 46:27
Yeah, no, it's awesome. And I still remember my first rounds of meditation. I did it headspace. And then I didn't do it for like two weeks. And then I was irritable as hell. And I tracked back I was like, What's different? What's what, what what, you know what I mean? Because I hadn't done it. I was able to track it back to meditation. And I, I'm sure I missed the day here, there, but it's part of my daily life. So if you're an irritable Raji son of a bitch, want to try is meditate Where can we send people to go find you on all the things that you're doing right now?

Unknown Speaker 47:11
I am a connector is I would love to connect to the guys chat more about this stuff. I definitely someone that is on Instagram a lot. You can find me at Marissa rose Nash, and my website is the well code.org. I'm also on Facebook at Marissa rose Nash or the welco by Marie rose, so feel free to reach out I do also offer a free 30 minute solo sessions where we explore limiting belief in one of the nine areas of wellness to help you get unstuck and find a little bit of freedom there.

Brandon Handley 47:43
Awesome. Well, hey, thanks a lot for stopping by today. Glad you took a chance

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Creating a vision for your life

Published: July 20, 2020, 6:32 a.m.
Duration: 15 minutes 14 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
Hey, hey, hey, what is going on? Happy whatever day this is hope that you're doing well, it's Brandon Handley here, the voice of a generation hit you with some more spiritual dope. I don't have an intro. So I'm just gonna go ahead and roll with that one. You know, finally got done messing around with clean cleanup as my chickens here. And I've been waiting to do this podcast for a while this is one that, that that means that that means a lot to me. And it took a while for it to mean a lot for me. And we'll kind of discuss that as as we move forward here. So, what I want to share with you today is vision, right the the word vision and kind of what it means to have a vision and, and that kind of thing. And it's super powerful. And I think that we really neglected quite a bit. And I'm not sure what your familiarity is with the word visit. And how it plays out into your life. But I love these two quotes that come to mind. And the first one is by Helen Keller. And it says the only thing worse than being blind is having sight. But no vision. And that's just well, powerful right? And to be honest with you when I first heard it, you know, it took a while for it to you know, ricochet my mind and finally smash something and then make connection as it were kind of like a BB inside the mind. And then this other one is a Japanese proverb, vision without action is Daydream. action without vision is nightmare. Oh, so true. Right, so true. So true. And let's let's just kind of talk about let's talk to these two quotes. And and see, you know, what it is that Do you think about vision? How do you think about vision? Do you think about vision? And as I was putting this one together, you had to look some definitions up. And we're going to talk through those definitions. And we're going to see how they sit with you how they sit with you. So the simplest definition is the ability to think about or plan for the future with imagination, or wisdom. I love imagination being in there. It's inventiveness, creativity, innovation. And to me, this begs the sub question

Unknown Speaker 2:36
how

Brandon Handley 2:37
do you think about your future? Do you think about your future based on known events of the past as though on a trajectory into the future? as though the past is the groundswell that's carrying you to your future? And then of course, I've got to say, do you see wisdom in that Right, do you see wisdom in that that is the soundness of action or decision with regard to the application of experience knowledge and good judgment, I would say yeah, you could see some wisdom in living that way. Because you're gonna, you're gonna translate some of your experiences in there. So there's definitely some wisdom if you do it in that way. But I also ask, Is there creativity? Is there innovation? Is there inventiveness and that because really, if you're if you're basing everything kind of on your past that how will you know what your future is? Right? So you, you, you've got to think more about kind of what you want to have happen to you. Because vision basically is something that is never happened, right? Is the vision something that you would like to see happen and you know, less than I guess, you could have Have a vision that isn't something great that you want to have happen. But typically, a vision is is something good, right? fanciful? Or, you know, you've never, it's never happened in your life before. And so, when you look at some of the visionaries throughout time, you know, did they perpetuate the past? Or, and I love I love I think I heard this idea once the first time from neville goddard. Did they call forth a vision, right? And yet we get to another we get to another definition of vision Now, that's a vivid mental image underlying vivid mental image, you know, especially a fanciful one of the future a dream, a conceptualization. Clearly, this is something that does not exist in the world today. But were you to have a vision.

Unknown Speaker 4:53
You'd be able to see

Brandon Handley 4:56
a mental image of it clearly, and I want to take that a step. Further, and call it a full rendering within your mind a full setting where you'd have such a vision and you would summon all of your sensory elements you would be able to touch, there would be a texture,

Unknown Speaker 5:14
a smell, a full depth

Brandon Handley 5:16
of experience, there would be emotion. I believe, to me that vision is propelled by emotion. Businesses are granted. I feel like visions are granted some would say by God, the universe or something, something that you access to this greater than you have led yourself to believe. That's where visions come from. So where have you seen visionaries in your past and in all time, and I had a couple of examples pulled out for you today. If you're if you're thinking of, you know, the past couple hundred years, you would think of the Wright brothers. And these were bicycle mechanics. Do they have a degree in aeronautics With a Avi Could you be you can't be an aviator before aviation even exists you know would they even mechanics and and i would say no they were granted a vision and they persisted with that vision they persisted with as if that was something that was guaranteed to them and I think of the story from Napoleon hills thinking grow rich and the story about Henry Ford the eight cylinder engine v you know that was actually the eight cylinder you know the V eight to V eight and he had a vision to create something that was that was cheap and good a V eight that was cheaper but there were some that existed already but they were expensive and they were really you know, kind of monstrosities.

Unknown Speaker 6:54
So, at some point, oh, wait, hold on. There's

Brandon Handley 6:57
so during that time, you know, the cheap cheap and good did not exist, right. And he'd been surrounded by experts and engineers that were saying that it could not be done. And I love this line because he says, at some point, it becomes necessary to disperse with the services of experts. And these are people who have found limitations in their field most likely. And when you find people that that hit limitations, they're no longer thinking beyond what they believe to be true, right? If you find somebody that's been in a field for so long and has been doing what it is they do, for so long, they no longer see what is possible beyond what it is that they've seen. So he assembled a team of engineers, far from those naysayers far from those experts. And as they got to work the first six months It was nothing. You get frustrated engineer's claiming impossible, and he would say go ahead. And he was he would say stay on The job until you succeed, no matter how much time is required, right, no matter how much time is required, keep at it persist. And you know that this happened for yet another year and with Ford saying, I want it, and I will have it. And finally, again, this comes out of thinking Grow Rich Napoleon hills as if by a stroke of magic. The Secret was discovered his determination and his faith in Division in that image that he held in his mind, right, if we go if we if we, if we think back to the beginning here, the mental image being held clearly of what was possible. So you call forth the impossible in service to the masses, and why is that important? Why is it important to be in service to the masses, feel like you're really not going to have a vision grant To unless what you're trying to do is of service to something greater than your immediate self. And that's, you know, again, these are, this is just my perception of vision and kind of how you can take a look at it. So, you know, another thing to note here is that you don't need to be the person in possession of the know how you don't need to, you don't need to know how something will happen in order for it to happen, just like just like, hey, this was this was Henry Ford and he was he tasked

his engineers with and his team was something that he you know, he felt

Unknown Speaker 9:41
could happen.

Brandon Handley 9:43
And then I'd like you to consider for a moment right Do you know how your how to grow your hair? Right, but it happens. Do you know how to create the white blood cells in your body to fight illness yet? You're creating it. Do you really even know No. Do you even know how it is that you are alive? And when you stop for a moment and think about all the things that you don't know how specifically are happening, but are happening for you every day, then is it possible for something to happen for you that you hold it a vision without knowing how it will happen? Is it possible and if there's that possibility, then you have to consider Hey, then, then it is possible that something could happen for me without knowing how it's going to happen. So then vision your vision, doesn't require greatness. I don't I don't think without outside of you. I believe that it requires and comes from the greatness within you. And I think that this is what you live for. This is what calls to you in the hero's journey. This

Vision is the call of the hero. And I think that you'll have many visions. Right? And this is it the vision without action is a daydream. That's the Japanese proverb. And then when you answer that, you take action on it, right? You take action. And when you answer that you accept what's already been granted the strength and the grace. That to carry out your vision, and you've already got this within you, it's just how do you want to apply it in your life? How do you want to how do you want to apply it and you know, we think of other stories that have been out there, other great visionaries. You know, Tesla and his love electricity needs to say to him about him, he would have a vision without even going like all to to without gone through so many gyrations he would see it once and create it and it would work just as he'd seen it so clearly in his mind. And then you had Steve Jobs.

Unknown Speaker 12:01
With the iPhone

Unknown Speaker 12:03
You know, he he would he just

Brandon Handley 12:05
kept at it and he believed that it could happen. And then you've kind of listen you've got Ilan musk doing whatever it is that he's doing, but there's something

Unknown Speaker 12:12
different

Brandon Handley 12:14
about his approach, there's something different with how he's going after these things. And, you know, I think that it could just as easily be you now that you kind of understand fully, you know, how vision could be applied and, and I think that once you have a vision, you're calling forth the future. And that is something that you can do every day. And that is something that when you wake up, that is something that pulls you and calls you and you're taking action and it's just such a emotional void filler, I would say and it's not it's not a overarching ambition for great wealth. Just to have this great wealth, there's something in there. That to me is so powerful and then even on the back end of this action without vision is nightmare to do all that you do

Unknown Speaker 13:17
without a vision to me seems hollow.

Unknown Speaker 13:21
Right? Without a vision, hollow action,

Brandon Handley 13:24
what is it? What is what is your action for? Why are you doing what it is that you do? And when you're called forth in the vision, then I think that you're super powerful way. So hey, listen, you know, rolled over in your own mind, see how you see how you feel about it. consider creating a vision for yourself and seeing what that feels like. versus a plan versus a dream versus any of these other words there versus a goal and see if it doesn't Make you quite literally resonate at a different vibration and if it does, that's cool if it doesn't, that's cool to you know Call, call it what you want this is what it does for me and that's that's really what I'm here to share with you this is this is that is my spiritual dope, right? That's my hit. And when I think of when I think of a vision, I feel like that that is granted and I feel like there's divinity and I feel like there's strength and I feel like there's hope and I feel like there's all those just powerful, innately gifted things within it right? To me, I think that's powerful. That's something that I wake up for every day. And I think that hey, listen, if you're digging what you're hearing here today, I would just appreciate hearing from you and say, Hey, you know, Brandon as spiritual dope, co appreciate what you're putting out there and I would love it. If you head on over to iTunes and leave a five or five star rating if you love it a one star rating if you hate it, don't leave anything in between. I don't you know, I don't want to live for mediocrity. And let's let's keep it rolling. Thanks for tuning in and I will talk to you

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Paresh Shah | Lifter | Homo Luminous Part 2 of 2

Published: July 19, 2020, 10:47 a.m.
Duration: 48 minutes 37 seconds

Paresh Shah is a human being - 100% genuine article. check out part 1 for an in-depth introduction to Paresh.

We pick up where we left off on https://spiritualdope.co/paresh-shah/ - we dig on some integrity and some great ways to keep on going on if you are feeling down.

Places to connect with Paresh:

https://www.glimpulse.com/

https://www.liftersrising.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/pareshshah1



paresh shah 0:00
Like what are some of you are yes and Brandon you have so many hi I read the deadly

Brandon Handley 0:05
bring everything I bring all of everything that I've ever done with me right you get to bring all of all of you know, diversity isn't just in the workplace for the people that you interact with. It's all of your personal experiences. Right? So it's it's, it's you know, I worked with horses I've muck stalls you know I've bartended I've been able to serve in many many different capacities and and I can bring a different aspect and I can reapply anything to this specific situation I can bring my specific experience my specific set of eyes exactly is and how you

paresh shah 0:43
show up right how you show up is what makes the difference compared to someone else.

Brandon Handley 0:49
And and, and I'm just as excited to get precious input right like I want to I want to see what what is it the press brings out you know, look, I love How I think I can't I cannot tell a lie. I love how I think and I enjoy my own thoughts. But I also enjoy somebody else's and I want to find I want to celebrate the differences right? I don't want to celebrate our same if if we're all the same stop me now. Right But I want one

paresh shah 1:20
of us is one of us is redundant.

Brandon Handley 1:23
One of you can go home now. Um, so I celebrate I celebrate our differences and what we can create because of our differences.

paresh shah 1:32
That's exactly what the centerpiece is about. It's called show up ride your yes and and what we teach is that you take these differences and I'll show you this little picture over here that actually alluded to earlier where remember that movie man? Whoa, I lose you know, so here we go. Okay. Remember that movie man on the wire about the guy who The Wire across the world trade center and he be across the high wire. Have you seen that movie? No, I didn't say so. Oh, it's an absolute 100% hundred 50%. You must watch it. All right. He basically he had to be within the dentist office. He saw a National Geographic cover. And this gets back to what you were talking about in terms of the tension and how do we really attuned the tension you were talking about earlier, right? He was in the dentist offer office and he saw National Geographic that was announcing this idea of the World Trade Center and it had a graphic artist rendition of these new tallest buildings in the world that were going to be built. And he was so fascinated with the whole idea of there being these two, you know, magnificent monster buildings that we're going to be built, right and so while in the dentist office and he used to be a judge. He was a juggler and that kind of thing. He drew a cable across the two. And he said I want to walk a tight wire across the world trade center. And he's practiced. And he put a team together around it that they broke in, which has made it even fun. It was a heist today, they broke into both buildings to get the cable across, right? And he put a team together that helped him take his vision and go Alright, we have to get this cable there. How are we gonna get this, you know, 2000 pound cable to the top floor and it's just amazing. And he actually ended up not just walking. He ended up dancing or laying down On that high wire as people in New York looked up going inside a man and he was dancing on his high wire. And one of the things we teach around this, the honoring differences, as you spoke about is when you tighten the lines, you tighten the tension

in differences, right? creative differences, you know, older people and younger people, you know, people with different points of view, then and you would tune it, you can create a resonant frequency that then basically makes that possibility, a total reality. And, you know, he was just dancing up there. He was not afraid, at all. So, show up is that third one, it's essential. serve up is foundational. You have to realize the world has changed. It's foundational rights that from transacting to service. Listen up is essential. You got to listen To your inner self, to your body and to others to go, okay, what's going on here? And how do you speak into the listening of other people so that you have that connection and you get each other, right? And in the middle is show up with your yes and go, you know what, you're different than me. And let's take those differences. And like, let's put like a guitar chord between us, and let's tune those. So we can create this resonance in this harmony that can then propel you to a higher solution that you may not have even seen existed, right? Have you compromised so we don't advocate compromising? Because that's no one satisfied when you compromise or tolerate differences. A lot of you know, teaching is let's tolerate our differences, that that dulls that connection. But if you really take that connection, and the differences and you reach across the gap, and go Okay, let's let's put a little knot here. Let's let's really tune it, and what do we want to collectively create together? And create this thing so you can just like slingshot it up and create that new possibility. That's what he was able to do. That's what we teach in that show up, use your differences not to tolerate each other and have to compromise. But, or even honor honors pretty good compliment. It's a compliment activated. Exactly. Absolutely. Yeah. That's what we call the activate our differences activate diversity. So that's the third one so it serve up Listen up, show up with all of your yes ads I miss and I'm missing on this. But uh, and then the last one is act up. It's about taking action and be purposeful and have you take a big vision of what you want to create and take that next step. And how do you use your what we call this? You fake it till you make it? Okay? You make it and so to be a ke what what do you want to create? And what does that look like? What's the visual? What's it feel like to be there now? Right? What does it sound like? To have that, you know, you know, to be dancing on that wire, you know in the wind in New York, or kinesthetically, what's it feel like to be in that moment in the ever present? Present Moment? And what's that expression and experience be like the VA ke and so, you create that you fake it till you make it and then that feeling that vibration pulses out collectively, when you have all these people eliminating you, you emanate your evany Exactly. And that guitar, that what we say is the the bow that was the hunter bow, you turn it sideways, from serve up, and it becomes an instrument with you pluck it and it becomes music, for sure. And then it becomes a catapult and it becomes like a trampoline, where everyone's holding this trampoline. And you can propel you know change at the community level, at the individual level at the company level. So it serve up Listen up, show up and act up. are the four mind shifts in this lifter leadership model and part of why we are connected why we have connected and you've connected me with amazing people is you are a lifter and lifters resonate with one another.

Brandon Handley 8:13
Yeah man No, no, it's awesome right it's awesome that you know, I think what's beautiful is that you know we talk a little bit about the spiritual side and maybe the woowoo right we go we go I but that's a little woowoo this vibrational this this heart centric stuff.

paresh shah 8:31
Hold on let me check with the little the little spirit behind me. It's too woowoo Ah, little further. Oh for sure. For sure. Thank you. St Germain.

Brandon Handley 8:42
Okay, sure. Right. Like we're nowhere nowhere even really close, I think to as a really Whoo. But the

Unknown Speaker 8:49
thing is, is that

Brandon Handley 8:51
I think there's the people on the woowoo side, right that that are doing things in the business world or afraid to kind of put their feat in the business world because they can't speak the business language even though that that's what they're doing like wow you know maybe a goal and a plan and a grand vision right in business because it's something that that's desirable right like so if you've got a you know coach or somebody a celestial person human being out there right and it's just like this is you know, all woowoo like, what's your vision and what's it feel like you know, if they can change that language just a little bit to to make themselves a little bit more marketable, right. that's acceptable because you're not you're not losing who you are. Right? You still get to do your yes and

paresh shah 9:41
yes, and yes, Brandon and the business desirability that you spoke to earlier, like the Language of Business, right? Um, I've got a guy who works with me, his name is Phil and no Was you the bullshit generator? Yeah, okay so I'm not saying I love the business speak the book like you pointed me to that website the bullshit generator and and part of this gets back to like that honest resume. So like that was kind of what you were reading in our earlier take of this to some extent had some bullshit generator type of stuff for Rashad internationally renowned, blah blah blah his mom is very proud that he got a degree from blah blah blah his his dad you know made great sacrifices so he could then get the award for our oh my god it's so funny. But anyway, there's so you know, the bullshit generated let's magnetize our, you know, scalable, strategic, transparent web readiness and reinvent our disruptive synergistic AI guys kind of done with that you get it gets,

Unknown Speaker 10:58
it gets to a certain point where it is too much, but you know, okay,

paresh shah 11:03
but you got to speak the language, you got to speak some of the language and you don't throw the baby out with it's not even the baby with the bathwater. It is part of how it works. We have to kind of look at the words and go. Does hunters Make sense? We know what what we what our intention is? Or what we're calling ourselves, right? Or do the words actually shape how we come into how we see the world and that's and you you see how it's a both way circuit? In other words effect and how what we do affects our words. And so

Brandon Handley 11:40
we write like how we describe it, I think that you know, it's it's, it's what we want when we show up, what are we showing up as and we make that determination with our words we show up. This is a home job job, it sucks, yada yada yada. I'm sitting around a bunch of people, it's a bunch of postage and being generated. You know, all right. Well, you know, everyone a while, and sometimes you, I'll fake it for myself and I'll be like, we know what I'm really doing today is XYZ. I'm making sure that the when I show up today, I don't know somebody were able to connect today because the job that I have and and do exactly. So, you know, what's beyond like, kind of this what's right in front of here? What you know, we are more than what we see. Right and and i think that's another part of the spirituality bit, right we, we limit ourselves to this, this finite vision that we see and what is right here around us with our five senses, right when we could really be everywhere all the time and beyond. Beyond here, right? We could say, I guess yeah, yeah. What I'm doing today, what you and I are doing today is echoing an eternity.

paresh shah 12:43
Yes, actually. Yeah. What there's a he wouldn't call himself a teacher. He calls himself a pointer. And Mooji Have you heard of Luigi? Yes.

Unknown Speaker 12:56
I just he's not like he's not my jam. He's not my jam. He's not you

paresh shah 12:59
You're a fan. You're a fan you love. I do love them and so I love the way that you say he's not my jam right? So it so we are all notes and his notes strike a chord with me that help me kind of be a help point me to the reminders of the truth that I am and and so you said that my gym but you don't other hand you know and like certain things might speak to you differently around that. So he would call it you know, don't be distracted and he and I love his Caribbean accent it's just so like, you know, don't be distracted by the shape of your body. It's just the shape. It's a shape of your it's an idea. It's a concept and you're more than that. You are You are the witness of that. Do you is that that's your dynamic aspect. That just that just just for now for now just be empty of that you can go back to it anytime you want. Just for now, and it's it's so reassuring around the the modernists

Brandon Handley 14:07
I like you as Mooji

I like you as Mooji

paresh shah 14:17
well, you know what's funny as moochie would probably say I've not met him. He would probably say a messiah and that's what we are we are the I am We are the is we are the isness then so, so why why are we surprised? Let that idea go You have a great imagination. Your imagination is very good but you don't need a man You don't need to create anything you already are. You are you are you are and it's made your Mooji fair just

Brandon Handley 14:50
you know it's it's let's I get myself hung up on that from time to time. Sometimes it's it's the deliver Earth You know, that's, that's why so many of us have to kind of go out there and not just uplifters right like lifters for sure, right? recognize their own divinity within and then try and light others up right? And we got to go out we have to teach from our own heart how, you know, how can I help you to get this spiritual dope, right? You get the spiritual high for yourself right? Like how can how can I get you connected to source to whatever it is, and how can I get you to recognize you're so much more than Yes, yes,

Unknown Speaker 15:38
yes and and and

Brandon Handley 15:39
you know, we all you're going to speak to a different audience and they're going to hear you as Mooji. Right. And, and and

paresh shah 15:51
it's just the shape, it's just an idea,

Brandon Handley 15:54
but if it's Mooji I'm like, just like Satguru like I'm okay but like I'd rather listen to like all listen You know, it's just like your favorite rock band right like the like the who that wasn't for me right but uh you know I like you know some other bands right like like what like what I mean look I mean for if we're talking classic rock I mean I was you know look Zeppelin Zeppelin is easy right but I was later I was later in my music life she's a Harley remember like a buddy I still remember actually listening to heart and like you know bear that Magic Man album right on like cassette like, oh, like

paresh shah 16:29
that's a great right like I mean a great album. I just saw heart before the COVID thing they were playing here yeah at the US at the forum and an NC Wilson are so gifted there boy it's it's they've been doing this for so long. Their songs Magic Man. Yeah, even at Barracuda. Great on these dreams. like that song these streams is. I'm gonna pull it up. on my YouTube, I'm gonna have them play the stream. I don't know if you're allowed legally to play this on your podcast. But listen,

Brandon Handley 17:07
listen, if I if, if I'm garnering a la la attraction,

Unknown Speaker 17:13
right, then I'm in.

Brandon Handley 17:16
Go ahead.

paresh shah 17:27
But look at Nancy.

Dude, you gotta love the ad.

Every moment I'm awake, right? And what were you talking about earlier?

Brandon Handley 17:47
of the the awakening, right? The the the, you know the second chance, right the second chance to to really recognize and capture the essence of like, all that you're still capable of right what's the Know what's what's it's, it's realizing how much more life has to give. Right? And that's that's kind of what I found and stepping into that right. You talked earlier about stepping into your greatness, right? When you when you when you realize, you know, you've accomplished something that's impossible for you when you realize that the impossible was actually a really, really fucking low bar. Yeah and you're like wow, that was a really low bar that I've set for myself.

Unknown Speaker 18:29
Exactly.

Brandon Handley 18:32
And he you know, then then that you're just really opened up to how much more is left and it's always it's funny because you always get the question well, what would uh, what would you tell your 20 year old self right? What advice would you give just the same advice I'm giving to myself now and I hope I take more action on it right like, this is the advice I should be taking action on. Because I have I have more than 20 awesome years to give and it looked earlier. It point earlier is like everything I accomplished up to this point. You know, I've been loath to say it myself, but I agree it's been kind of easy, right?

paresh shah 19:09
You're, you're graded you can get, you can get really good. You're a fast learner, Brandon. And you can get really good at most things that you put your mind to, sure or not your mind necessarily like your your your, you know, heart and mind. But there's something about that next level. Hmm. That you, you, you you get, you know,

Brandon Handley 19:31
that but that's what that's where that's where, you know, that's where you found yourself, right? That's where you found yourself. When you push your body there, you push your body there, and you're like, there's this next level to me that I didn't even I didn't even I wasn't even paying attention to. Right. I didn't even know that this existed

paresh shah 19:46
within me. I did not I did not exactly, exactly. And that's what's cool. And you talk about that second chance. I like that reference. Because actually, every moment we have that second chance, it's actually every moment and instead of waiting This what we talked about, like in that serve up, there's an awareness aspect or Mooji again would say you out the witness, you know, what is the awareness that sees pressures getting upset. The shape of Paresh is getting upset, who is the awareness? And when you have that awareness, then it helps you. Because I have shit days like don't get me wrong people like oh, Brad, you're so positive. I have crap days, shit days. And it's really a question of, you know, you get you give yourself a second life in the moment to go right now I could react right now to what the situation or I could be response abled. And every moment is that moment to go. I could go this way and be a YouTube for I think, honestly, I think there's five or six hours random. That'll happen. I have not done that. It's, it's gross, but you know, it

Brandon Handley 20:54
did listen, it's gross being human. Sometimes it's just disgusted.

paresh shah 20:59
But there were some there were some funny cat videos that our mortal there. So it's every moment you have that and so there's an attunement. That's really cool. And so, today has been a really great day. It is Friday. I'm speaking with my friend Brandon with Jimmy though, bro. Don't tell me it's not Friday still my god it's Thursday. Somebody told me it was Friday. You accepted that? I agree.

Brandon Handley 21:31
Who knows? Like listen some of my my supervisor last week goes man just weeks gone by pretty fast. I was like, not for nothing. But I haven't been able to tell time for like the past three months, man like, it's

paresh shah 21:42
my it's my daughter. My a second. Sorry, my my two youngest kids. It's their last day of school. So to me it's a Friday because it's your last day of school for like all this COVID and all that stuff. So I'm gonna give her a call. Let's do let's go get ice cream or some shirts. We'll do after this. So anyway, what I wanted to point out, I want to come back to something that you said earlier and share a story a little bit. You talked about being at your low, earlier, and what did you still recall?

Brandon Handley 22:13
I just don't feel like you have to get to a specific low in order to rebound to find your high, right. Like, you hear people say, Oh, you got to you got to hit rock bottom before you can bounce back up again. Well, I think you can just make a determination for yourself that there's something more to this life and what is that and chase that to that?

paresh shah 22:32
So I'm not going to comment on that specifically, because I believed that the same and then I kind of got to a low and it took that for me in that case in the traditional kind of Joseph Campbell journey. Yeah. So I can't say because I was like, no, not for me. I got it covered. I can ascend this situation he made

Brandon Handley 22:56
me hate maybe my maybe my falls on the way

paresh shah 22:59
nobody No, but what and I want to agree with you and I want to agree with you, okay. And I do want to agree with you. So I don't feel it's necessary. And in fact, I had a friend of mine who's very attuned to kind of, you know, galactic happenings. And you know, she could talk about all kinds of realms and things. She shared something really beautiful with me that I did like a real doubletake around when we were talking about the shift that civilization is going that we're in the midst of. A friend described what what we're in the midst of in terms of these lifters being you know, people recognizing the lifter within them is we've gone from Homo erectus to we're evolving as humans, from Homo erectus to Homo sapiens. To Are you ready for this next one? What we're in the midst of Give it to me? Stop mine. My friend gave it to me. homo luminous Hello. Yeah. I love it. Hold on. luminous or another word she used is homo University Talas unity consciousness. So we're becoming like beings, we're becoming lighter. And we're really kind of moving from that materialist, that kind of the 3d realm into this more esoteric higher frequency, higher dimensional kind of perspective on, uh, you know, what we experience. And so yesterday I was walking my dog. And this gets back to like hitting low and I wanted to just kind of explore it with you in a certain sanctity, so I was walking my dog and I was feeling I was really in the zone, as we talked about, like, I just feel like things are working and I'm able to, I feel good, I feel good about what's happening, despite the ups and downs, etc. And I was listening to kind of inner guidance with Julia Cameron would guide you to kind of listen to that inner voice and I'm always down walking by Dog and there are a lot of surfers out because people things are opening up here. And I saw some familiar friends who were going surfing. And what came to me was, I wonder if my other friend who I won't mention happens to be here because we tend to collide in those accidental, you know, like there's, we just happen to like collide into each other when we're not expected to in the normal kind of way. And so I called him and he's a really tough dude like he's way tougher than you know. Me super tough. He's big guy. very knowledgeable, really introspective. Just just a real kind of salt of the earth guy who grew up here. I just love him. So like, dude, how's it going? I'm having a great day. I'm here with my dog and he would always feed my dog little doggy biscuits you would get at Costco so my dog loves loves this guy. He's like,

Unknown Speaker 26:03
And,

paresh shah 26:06
and what he shared with me was really an interesting perspective. Because he was actually contemplating suicide. Mm hmm. And I'm like, Oh, come on, dude. And then I realized he was actually like, in that space.

Unknown Speaker 26:30
And

paresh shah 26:33
he's a super tough guy, and he's super self aware. And what he said was, was moved to me. He said, when you're at your all time low, like a rock bottom type of low, you don't even have enough energy, to motivate yourself to do something about it. And it's all about You're way up in certain ways of see things that you might do something like that. And I was like, why? And it struck me as coming from a place of pain and knowing and wisdom. And it was very, like, wow, I haven't thought of it that way and his perspective for what it's worth.

Unknown Speaker 27:34
Because

paresh shah 27:38
he was in a really strange place and I wasn't expecting that. And his perspective was interesting, and it was hopeful to me, which was he goes, so what I'm doing is I postponed it three days at a time. What would I do between now with that because he's kind of He's kind of planned it, which is a decent way to describe what he's planned. And so, and he goes, Well, what can I do in the next three days, that might make a difference? And then as a way of helping himself trying to move out of this feeling, which is so present to him, and I'm doing my best like Left, left left, and you know, come on. And there's a lot of pain in the world. So I I bring that up, too. He's one of the most positive people I know. Right? Yeah, cheer and you know, even when it comes with the job where my dog's tail starts wagging when she sees him, not just because of just Costco doggy treats that he always has in his his car. And so it's really getting back to that choice, right second life that you talked about earlier in each moment. Which way, you know, can we encourage ourselves to go and let's use our heart, let's use our friends, let's use our community to encourage going, you know, in one direction versus the other in every moment so we can have that second life and that next moment I'll be going to go light or dark or we're going to go, you know, anger, forgiveness, or we can go you know, self shame, versus, you know, kind of honoring. You know, how magnificent we are. And these are things that we forget very easy to me. Mindfulness is really, I don't like the word mindfulness for what we speak about in terms of if you call it spiritual Joe, it is really not about your mind being full. It's really about an emptiness of sorts of kind of being in the stillness of you're listening

Brandon Handley 29:51
to Lopa, I think Toluca that says, you know, you know, have a mind that's open to everything and attached to nothing.

paresh shah 29:59
Oh, I love That I will find this open to everything in a test nothing. Yes, I love that. And it's kind of, to me it's like, it's not mindful that it's remindful this we have to remind ourselves remind ourselves you know that there is that the second chance or that Second Life is an adventure that you may not know what your resume is gonna look like, right? Take it that adventure in the choice of this moment to go this way versus that right because lifters are not it's not that you are or are not a lifter because that would cause division and separation from the unity that we really are in how do you show up on purpose in the moment, right, you show up with that lifter attitude to lift in that moment, even for yourself

Unknown Speaker 30:46
or alone, even for even for your friend right? Like you're you're you're

Brandon Handley 30:51
lifting and positivity isn't as necessary as as you being there for him. Right? And that's how you lifted him by just being there for him.

paresh shah 31:01
Exactly. And my tendency would be to give advice. And I really resisted that. Because I really was in the space of like listening to myself, but you know, I feel like I want to call this person and I was inspired to kind of, oh, that was like an inner listening. Right? And hey, let me call him and see maybe he's, you know, gonna tap me on the shoulder and go telepathy. I was right behind you all the time. Or, you know, because that's the type of connection we often have. Right? And, uh, and it was really and here's the beauty of it. It was healing for me too.

Brandon Handley 31:38
Like, it was like he was looking for things to live for right every every third day like what are some things to live for? And so even even while he was kind of down and out, he was like, this is this is this is what I'm alive for. This is what I'm living for tomorrow. I'm gonna do this or, you know, these are reasons to live, you know? Yeah. Is I love that though. I do. I mean,

paresh shah 31:57
isn't that beautiful? It is. It is If someone's ever like, if anyone knows anyone who is in that space, that type of desperation and what he shared with me, which I feel is safe to share, because I'm not sure who it is, is there was a pervasive shame that was a that was the emotion he was experiencing. And as you and I have talked about the Harkin scale of consciousness, which is, you know, the different emotions that humans go through from low frequency to higher frequency, shame is the lowest frequency a human can have. It's like a 20 on an exponential scale. Then it moves up to like, you know, grief, anger, pride, accepted joy, unconditional love, peace. And he was so low on that scale. And it was a beautiful mechanism that he had his self awareness. His Higher Self is all the more go to dip the novel, you know, his, you know, here's your p&l x, right? Push it off three days, push it off three days and like probably like a sobriety perspective. You know, I'm not gonna have that today, one day at a time. And so I would recommend that recommend I implore anyone, because that was genius to be I've not heard that as a strategy to then hopefully you can pop out of that low vibe, and then get that perspective to go, okay, you know, that was me at a really low frequency permissioned way, it's part of the experience. I'm not gonna feel bad about that. And now I'm in a different place and a different perspective from which I can make that choice in a different different way. So it's a great strategy. I feel I'm not an expert in these matters, but I felt that it provided me some some tool he was a tool that I certainly feel is a great thing about a toolkit if you're feeling down about something before you react and make kiddie choices you know, give yourself three days to

Brandon Handley 34:08
just keep pushing it off. I love it. I love it. Well, brother Hey, look at this. It's always awesome. I feel like you know you and I could obviously we could we could probably talk for a lifetime. Unfortunately, I don't know how many people are gonna want to listen to us talk for a lifetime

Unknown Speaker 34:25
let's um, hit me with hit me with

Brandon Handley 34:31
what's like the, you know, you talk about the Four Agreements what's like the most radical you know, spiritual book that's like hits you in between the eyes.

Unknown Speaker 34:47
Radical

Brandon Handley 34:52
doesn't have to be a spiritual book like what's the one that hits in between the eyes because goodness gracious like I've been reading like business books that are like making me feel spiritual out. Right.

paresh shah 35:01
It's really like it comes from everywhere. The I was reading Psalm 23 in the Bible the other day, and it was this, like, you know, it's you between the eyes. You know, we mentioned earlier the Four Agreements, there's such a simplicity to it around what are we agreeing with? What voices are we agreeing with? Which voices are we not agreeing with? What situations are we agreeing with or not? And I think that integrity piece, and that was the one that you remember that stands out to me as well branded as, like a super tool. You know, don't take things personally, I find that the most difficult one, especially in a family situation where you know that so I find that most difficult, you know, do your best. I think we I do my best and you know, we're very hard on ourselves. And that's It's important to kind of remember those victories of Hey, we got this done this week and Today's been an epic nod Friday, it feels like Friday because we got so many things done. Right. That integrity piece, I think is the most powerful thing if I tell I tell folks that in the field of kind of, you know, metaphysics or eudaimonia human flourishing which is what really what it's about it's you die you die, Moti Alec, how do we flourish? How do we saturate ourselves with living our to our fullest and the integrity piece is very, very powerful. And I tell some of the folks that I mentor that I wish someone had taught me about the integrity of word way earlier in my life and the schema that works For me around that really helped me understand how integrity of word could co create. You want to take a minute kind of take a quick journey around a way of seeing integrity that blew my mind when when? Yeah. Okay, all mines. Let's do it. Okay, so I wish someone had taught me this when I was, you know talking to your 20 year old self for 22 years. So I wish someone had said, Hey Pradesh, this is how it works. save yourself a lot of gray hair and occurring of pain and suffering as you learn. There are three types of integrity draw here on the board just so you can visually follow along. And I get this until I got it. And then when I got it, I got it. And now it's question of practicing and remember The first type of integrity is what I teach to my coaching or my students, it kind of kind of came together is there's moral integrity, which is, you know, don't be a bad boy don't steal because if you steal from someone, they're gonna steal from you and pretty soon all hell breaks loose and it's, it's, you know, be in the field of morality, don't be a bad person or a bad boy. So that's moral integrity. And that's often what we are really habituated and trained to operate in by our parents, like don't do that, you know, that's not good. And so then shame often comes from that realm, but that's a different conversation. So that's, you know, good bad moral integrity. The second type of integrity is integrity of relationships. Which is, you know, honoring someone respecting someone, etc.

There's a third one, which is the integrity of word, which is what you spoke to your word, right? And in the realm of spiritual dope, if you'll allow me to use that word, this third one is the dope. This third one is the dope, these two are important. And the way I see things, they don't really apply as much, unless it's like in the karmic realm and things like that, as this integrity of words. So let me give you an example that will illustrate for me what kind of clicked for me. And I was like, wow, I wish I had known that way of seeing things before. So let's say that you and I have a plan to be on the podcast at four o'clock today on Thursday on Friday. And so I was like, yeah, I'll be there. So I think told you I will be there at four o'clock. And let's say that I arrived at 4:02am I violated moral integrity. Have I been a bad boy in that realm? No, no. Okay. Have I violated a relationship integrity like keeping you waiting for two hours at a restaurant or something like that? Right? So in those two realms of there hasn't been any kind of, you know, deep violation of integrity in the way that I was, like, raised to kind of think about integrity and you know, being good and respecting etc. And if I said I'll be here at seven o'clock, and I arrive at seven o to have I been in integrity with my word, no man, you're slightly you're slightly off the mark. off the mark, very great observation and you know the word sin means off the mark. Right? It's just off the mark from archery. And so the moral stuff makes us feel you're a sinner. You're a bad boy. I know church lady, Dana Carvey, you know, would be prudent at this moment to be like, Mr. Shah, we're gonna tell your mother Oh, buddy, what did you do? Again? You can jump on with the church. Maybe? No, it's Dana Carvey doing church lady. Wow. So, that day I had a David Dana Carvey medium came through. So, what's cool is this word is all domain in and of itself. So, what I've learned and learned and I apply as much as I can, when I remind myself in my mindfulness is when the universe the the the substance that we are swimming in like fissure in water, source Spirit God as we Speak our word. If it goes, Hey, Brandon, I will send you a copy of my PowerPoint tonight. And I do it. I'll be there at four o'clock. I'll do it. I you know, tell my daughter I'm going to let's go to Baskin Robbins and celebrate. you're graduating from seventh grade. Tonight. Oh, nice. Yay. Pink bubblegum is the best flavor with those little Chiclets of bubblegum a veal always guys, always. So what happens is the universe gets a reliable signal to go press said he was gonna send Brandon the PowerPoint tonight. Did he do it?

Yes or no. And it's not a judging universe. It's just a calculator. It's just an accountant. And it goes presh said it. You do it? Yep. Did he show up at four o'clock? Because that 402 is not his word. 359 or Yes, he did. It. So he said it, it happened. He said it happened, did he take his daughter for Baskin Robbins. I give you my word after this call, I'm going to take my daughter to Baskin Robbins. So yes. And so what I was taught, which I think is the most powerful thing, and it relates to the book, The Four Agreements is, when you create a pattern of reliability with the universe to say, I spoke it, it happened, I spoke it, it happened, I spoke it it happened, versus I get it to you tomorrow. Or you know what, I'm going to do that p90x tomorrow for sure. And you don't do it. What happens is you get checks that x is in a mishmash, so the signal isn't strong to go, Well, what what do we do with this, that the universe is sort of the computer kind of responding? And we and our word is our mouse and our keyboard? It's like, Well, I know like what the deal is, however, if you start, like, slicing reality in and interacting With it to go. I said this, it happened. I said this, it happened. I said this, it happened. Then when you have integrity of word, you can speak it and go. I know my friend is like, hey, meet me at the restaurant, there's gonna be horrible parking and got to go around the blog. I'm like, No, I don't agree with that. There's going to be a parking space right in front of the restaurant that's going to open up and the universe goes, he says it it happens. He says it it happens. He says it happens. And you demonstrate that then it can work backwards, which is you say it and the universe goes. It's a pattern. You say it happens. And that is this realm of integrity of word. It's your magic wand is your word. Your word is your Why have you read that book? I haven't. Mind blowing, right?

Brandon Handley 44:51
Yeah, that's awesome. I love it. I love it. Right.

paresh shah 44:53
So that to me is the ultimate like it's one of the greatest breakthroughs of thinking to go Wow. And sometimes, like, if I have a meeting at, you know, three o'clock, you'll see me running down the street or up the stairs, right? Because, like, I want to be an integrity on my word. And there's a way to reconcile it if you get there later, whatever, but it's really, because then you you're putting that impression into the universe. So, you know, I said it, it happened, I said it, it happened. And then that becomes a reliable pattern for the universe to respond. And it has nothing to do with moral integrity or relationship integrity, necessarily. And that I think is is so profound. I wish someone had taught me that, uh, you know, 20 years ago, or even sooner, and I wish every young person listening to this can just get that and go, you know, you're just creating a pattern by being in integrity with your your, your, your spoken word of your written word.

Brandon Handley 45:55
Now, I love it. I love it. definitely definitely powerful. I love I love how you got there, right? And you're right like your word is your one right? So dude, thanks for sharing that one right like who nobody saw that comment. Nobody saw that one comments so press saw everybody thank you so much man for taking the time today for for reconnecting Yeah. Where Where am I? Yeah Look, I mean, where am I gonna send people find fresh today?

paresh shah 46:20
Ah, well we are all one according to Mooji and so good to be here and there you are there I am there there there it is. If you go to our website lifters rising calm the team as you know put some things out there as resources. If you feel you're a lifter, which you know I'm imagine your your audience gets attracted into your your messaging, then come to lifters rising calm, maybe share your story. Connect with us if we can be of help to you. That's one way of getting in touch with us. We We're also creating an app. This company, that's basically an app for lifters is the way to describe blip pulse. And so we're going to be getting we're putting this app out into the world it's all about love and being lifters and and you know, creating a messaging and kind of social media experience that's around love and happiness and joy and basically spreading the spiritual dope I guess is how we might your hope dealer I mean, I oh my goodness. But as I told you do not do the sex, drugs and rock and roll of this, this situation here so so yeah, we're so we're going to be launching a beta on that app. And so connect with me however you like through LinkedIn or lifters rising and we're going to be having certain people be beta users. To help us really flesh out this experience that helps us share love and compassion and caring and giving Loving impulse, which is what glint pulse is really oriented around. So that would be glint pulse, calm, GL impulse, calm, the giving, loving impulse, cheering, that giving loving impulse. So we've got lifters rising calm and good pulse calm and if we can be of any service to you, your audience in any way. Absolutely, we're here. We're here to serve up and we want to listen up to you so we can show up in our best way to act up and make a difference. Namaste, Brandon, thank you so much. Brandon Handley.

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Paresh Shah | Lifter | Homo Luminous Part 1 of 2

Published: July 12, 2020, 11:27 a.m.
Duration: 46 minutes 22 seconds

Paresh Shah is a human being - 100% genuine article. Please read the transcript for his introduction.

We talk about what it is to be a Lifter, about manifesting, about being a homo luminous, transcending the mundane and living a life that may have at one moment seemed impossible...

Places to connect with Paresh:

https://www.glimpulse.com/

https://www.liftersrising.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/pareshshah1

paresh shah 0:00
Okay, so I would love to give the honest resume instead of like the the accolades that my mom and dad, we're very proud but issues first is engineering class. I want to be like that to me. We're starting to get boring even for me. Awesome. And so let's revisit that and kind of come on air. Here we go. Real and just go. I love it. I love it. Man. So 54321 Hey there podcast. This is Brandon Handley on with Paresh Shah. We're slinging some spiritual dope today and press. I love press for this because I started to read his, you know, online resume bio, which reads awesome, like in any corridor, right? But he's like, Hey,

we're doing spiritual dopes a we're leading with spirituality. We are leading with authenticity. I want to share my real resume my life resume, so fresh eyes.

Brandon Handley 0:59
I don't have that in front of me. I'd love to hear it though.

paresh shah 1:04
Thanks, Brandon. Thanks for having me on. I love this spiritual dope

concept, it's more than a concept you're actually

creating the energy around conversation through conversations that uplift you know, everyone who's listening here and beyond because you don't even need to be a listener because it's a buy. It's a buy. It's it's the, the the vibe of what you're creating. So I must say you and yeah, it was kind of weird. Because part of you know, you talked about the journeys that you have been on Brandon and we've talked earlier about your your journey and the various journeys that we go on. And they're a dear friend and you speak to me in a way that where you get me and we get each other and we we have telepathy in many ways, because we're thinking the same thing at the same time. And there's even evidence of it where we have written something down and say, Hey, you know what, you just said that I work so hard to that won't even say I worked hard. Frankly, it came easy for me for most things to get that laundry list of whatever you would call his accomplishments. On that bio, I was like, and as you were reading it, this I was going oh my god, this is so boring. Can we like move on? And it was it's so funny because I was like, I work so hard. My parents are proud. I actually have didn't work hard in certain ways. Things just kind of snowball. Often, you know, it's kind of like, you know, when the kid like, you're good at stuff, and then people like, throw more stuff at you. And I was like, This is so boring. And this isn't what this is about. And it felt kind of gross with my friends. So I wanted to thank you for kind of rewinding, rewinding, and that's not what it's about, primarily, and I think this whole sphere we're in right now, as a world, one of the beauties that's come out amidst the struggles and the suffering and you know, what's really, you know, happening is it's forced us, some of us to kind of go inside and go, what really matters here? What really matters here? And how do I want to show up, which is our third lifter mind shift that you're familiar with. In the lifter leadership world we have serve up, listen up, show up with all of your yes and qualities that make you unique, and then act up. And I was talking with my brother yesterday, and I was like, why don't we just have like an honest resume? And so I went out and I bought on his resume.com because the best way to remember an idea is spend 999 on GoDaddy and park the domain so you never forget the idea and feel you didn't do anything about it. So honest resume. And so I started thinking and we were jamming on it. You know what would our honest resume be? And my brother

Brandon Handley 4:05
I really want to interject right like cuz teacher telepathy right earlier today I was listening to you know one of your other podcasts and you were talking about the time that you took off for a year to go travel with your wife and hike and do all the things you like houses one year absence can look on my resume and I wrote down is like, what happens if you take that thought away? You know, take that would build your life resume right like and you know, what does it look like to say? It doesn't say there's nothing wrong like it's great go create a business, get people jobs, get them into a certain space and and and all these things. But what happens if your goal is to live an amazing life period? And you know, there's not a fear of, well shit, I can't I can't take a year off and go explore life and what am I What am I

paresh shah 4:58
going to say about me? Myself, even my mind, right? We're like, what are you going to do about the gap in your resume? I'm going to backpacking for one year and and there was truly that there was an aspect of that a little bit, but it was very much drowned out or over or I wouldn't say overshadowed over lit by the possibility of how cool would it be to go backpacking for a year, we went to India and Nepal, we hiked the end of foreigners, my wife and I, she had just finished her PhD and so it was a great, like, you know, let's just kind of see what's going on. And I there was a little bit of that. What am I gonna have to say for myself? Because you don't just like take off. Um,

and, um,

it was kind of funny because when I came back and was in the job market, I got a call from GE, from a headhunter and they had this cup The management program that you get to be, like, part of like, they're like they're your your starting leaders if you get to be part of this program, and they put you in different business units, so you can really kind of learn the ropes. And you know, kind of it's like the leadership group. So I got a had a headhunter call me about that. And I was like, Yeah, see, I'm marketable. This is great. I'm getting ahead under call from GE, and one of my teachers, Professor, Joe Bauer, who's still a great professor at Harvard Business School, we had this class called management is about management leadership, and he had a total crush on jack welch. Like every case, we had, like 50 I don't know it was a semester course. And it was like a study how great jack welch is and how GE because the GE thing was like the gold standard of how do you you know, run a great enterprise based on how things were defined then. And so I had this conversation with the with the the client, the headhunters, client G, And I was excited go, I nailed it. Right. And they're like, when you told them that you went backpacking for a year, they're like, we don't want somebody who's gonna just like take off and do something like that. That's not our way. And I was devastated. I was devastated. But then later on, I was liberated to go. Yeah, you know what, that's not really my path. And so I've, you know, been an entrepreneur since then. So, yeah, the journey takes you to amazing places where new frontiers get open. And on that trip, one of the pivotal things we did was, we took Julia Cameron's course called the artists way. It's a it's a book a workbook that you do. It's a self guided workbook, and it's called the artists way. And I had felt that I had gotten to left brain from my engineering and from my business work, and then I was in consulting as great, great left brain stuff like super cool projects. We were on And, you know, the musician from high school and other things we used to play with, sort of didn't get enough voice. And so the artists way was a way of kind of recapping into the creative side. And so we started doing this, this course called the artists way by Julia Cameron. And I recommend it to anybody, anybody. And through the process that Julia took us through in this workbook. We started seeing the world in a whole different way and started experiencing some of the first

miracles non obvious

you know, coincidences, telepathy, and all kinds of extraordinary ways of experiencing the world. And she really opened opened my aperture around. You know how to see the miraculous, even in in in the darkness, and am I 100%? there all the time? No. But I didn't even realize that was like a doorway. Before.

You know, this part of the journey.

Brandon Handley 9:09
I love it. I mean, because you were you were on you were on the managerial track you were you were on the fast track you were, you were bits, ones and ones and zeros, right? And you got to be productive, get in line and stay in line. And if you get out of line for a year, you can't come back.

paresh shah 9:25
Okay. It was a fear of that. There was there was a fear of that. There really was,

Brandon Handley 9:28
I wanna, you know, I love that you're bringing that up artists way. I'm gonna share this with you. I'm actually doing what is the right brain artists or whatever, right? I'm teaching myself and you can't really see. Well that can

paresh shah 9:40
see that's beautiful.

Brandon Handley 9:42
Right. But I mean, that's, that's, you know, they're teaching you how to draw like, I'm doing that right now. I'm trying to engage my right brain, right, like and going through that process.

paresh shah 9:51
It's so great. And you know what, in many ways, this whole right, not the right brain left brain characterization is it over simplification doesn't really work that way. But we kind of we kind of use that as a vernacular. It's really tapping into this, that creative, that intuitive and bringing it all together. My wife, Eliza, she studied with a Nobel Prize winning biologist Walter Gilbert. He won the Nobel Prize for biology. And he was off the chart genius like, you know, DNA sequencing. And I think he was in the company of the one who did the pea pod experiment in biology. Right, right. Yeah, that guy? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 10:40
Sorry. Like, I forget that. What's the guy's name? Michael Mendel

paresh shah 10:42
was it? Yeah, Joseph Mendel. So he was kind of in that league of like, super extraordinary minds. Off The Charts genius. Walter Gilbert and he, like he, when he was a lecture, like listening to some other Speaker a professor at Harvard, my wife pointed out that he'd have his little sketchbook and he would be sketching the person or the scene or the hand upside down. And, and I think he may have now I may be extended, but he may have even been using his opposite hand. And in doing so, it's like, wait, why would you sketch someone upside down because that whole other perspective would lead to a very different outcome. And that was, you know, a kind of a glimpse of his genius of how he saw things very differently. And cultivated both aspects of his his genius. Then he became an artist and a photographer, and he sells scarves with his art on it. And so he's, he's been this polymath anyways. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 11:54
I love it. I think that um, you know, that talks to, I'm gonna I'm gonna weave in some real quick Guys if you're joining in oppression I have had conversations before which you may or may not be picking up on and and the thing is we're talking about spiritual dope and spiritual dope is is got its target line set up on you know we're looking at what does it look like to lead with spirituality What does it look like to be a spiritual person but integrate or you know Professor heard you talked about it earlier and some of some things I was listening to it's like interweave right be all of who you are not and don't separate your spiritual self from your business self from this you know this other software you know be one self right but also recognize right the Divinity within is precious you know, you know gosh you had an expression of divinity right surfaces you had a great line on the Nobel Peace Peace. Peace one right we're like, you know, let that divinity come out right. And, and when you do, I think you you You said you were having one of those buzz kind of days right? Give me what I would say today you've had a hit of spiritual dope right like you've hit a spiritual high Tell us about that. But again guys, we're trying to align like people who have had success by leading or integrating their spirituality into their their overall lives and how you can do that for yourself and if you've been thinking that it can't be done or if you've been concerned about what that might look like for you then come take a look at what's happening here and spiritual though connect with a Paresh connect with anybody else connect with me. The people that bring it on? Yeah, is like let's, let's, let's help you shine your light, right.

paresh shah 13:42
Ha, it's, um, we had we had a team call today with our with some of our teams and we have hired 13 summer interns because I wanted to have as many of these young people because a lot of the internships have been canceled and it's a total bummer. One of the ones that we just hired yesterday, he moved to San Francisco. And he was on his resume. He was one of 12 out of something like 4000 applicants to get like that internship. It reminds me of like that, you know that that movie, where the where, who is it goes to Google to be the interns.

Not Tom Hanks.

The guy from Night at the Museum anyway, the two older, older, older guys trying to come to me. So anyway, so and then he moved to San Francisco to start this job, and it just got canceled last week. And we're like, oh, and you can feel it. These young folks are just like, dang. And so part of what we're doing is trying to create as many opportunities for internship where people can have meaningful work, you know, make a contribution collaborate. And so we have actually more than a handful now, of interns and We had a team call today where people were just at the stage now where we're giving each of these interns like, this is your project bread. And now, and this is your project, and we're giving them like, real projects that are a bit bold for interns, and they are so amazing. And we're getting so many things done that, you know, you talk about the day I've had, it's Friday afternoon, and I was on with my team and we were just like celebrating the victories and it feels good to win we celebrate victories. It helps us not forget, we actually got a lot of things quote done, because sometimes you can get a lot of things done and then the next day go, Oh, I haven't done crap. What a loser I am. You ever have that feeling? Oh, yeah, yeah. And so we were like, wow, we just and these young folks are taking on their like, My responsibility is I'm creating it's it's so energizing because as it pertains to spiritual dope, these young kids, they get it. They get it disproportionately. And we talk about being a lifter we talk about, you know, being open hearted and serving others and really seeing a vision of what you want to create that's good for the world, and how you can attract that in even when you're feeling in a crappy mood, or in a low period, which, you know, while today, it's been one of those great days. It's quite the roller coaster for all of us. And there's all kinds of things happening. And there's like this flow that's going between the turbulence of people having like realizations about this is what I really love doing and I'm really a moved by it like your friend the medium. And these young folks. I call them kids but they're they they're getting this that we can't keep up with them. They go Yeah, and when you talk about applying your yes and qualities, and really creating What you want, the way we see it is you could really, you know, you know, change the world and manifest this whole new way of being and, and they're pushing the thinking and they're really embracing it. They're just soaking it up. And that to me is is one of the greatest things of today because we haven't talked to them about two weeks. And I used to have weekly meetings and then we didn't have to, we had two weeks and I, I told the team, I need a pep talk just to be in their energy, right? This gets things going it gets that flywheel going, when you move to a higher frequency of joy and celebration and gratitude. It's from there that you can you know, get that Vantage on what you want to create, you know for for the world or it or in service and it helps you pop out of what gets you angry. And I was just telling my my sister Yes, yesterday that I had a day where I was on Facebook at the end of the day. I looked at myself and I tell him my kids, like, you know what I did? all day. I pretty much was on Facebook most of this day. What have I done and it was, I was like on Facebook for like five or six hours, and I was totally like, I couldn't even get out of the sofa. And I was like, there's got to be something good. Oh, that's good. But they give me more, give me more. And I was so I got my vibration was like, Whoa, hmm. And I got into the car and my 77 Nova, and, you know, took off listening to some music very loudly and called a friend, like you were saying earlier today, like you feel the impulse to call someone and within within three or four minutes, we were back to you know, feeling good about the world and what's happening. You can't feel good about everything that's happening, but you can hold a higher vibration that supports everybody. You know,

Brandon Handley 18:52
I say I think they I mean, you know, in terms of like the higher vibration and have have an elevated conversation is really kind of what we're seeking. Like that, well, you're having we're looking for an elevated conversation. It's not that these things aren't important. It's not that they aren't happening. It's not that you need to ignore them. But how can you elevate the conversation, bring it somewhere else and take it somewhere else entirely. And that's the higher vibration that you're talking about. Right? You You also, you'd mentioned like, you know, you don't want to come from a scarcity power driven mentality, right modality. If you come from there, if you're coming from a place of restriction, or fear of losing your place in line, right? That's good things don't come out of bad places.

paresh shah 19:40
Ultimately, they do when you look back at them sometimes I guess, but it doesn't seem apparent. Right. Right. Well tie Right. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 19:46
And I'll make it again, like, you know, coming from places of fear coming from places of scarcity, things can come out of there, like I was talking with somebody else, and they were saying, you know, ultimately, you need to hit rock bottom before you can, you know, bounce back up again and that has not you know i don't care whose story is what story that has not been my story it's very frustrating in to like for me to hear that line all the time because you can find yourself just wanting a different life right just realizing I think that you did with your pX 90 self right and with with with

Unknown Speaker 20:22
Tony Horton, Tony Horton but we love you

Brandon Handley 20:25
so, so fresh tell the story about what happened. You know so you're you're in you're in. You're in Paris and you're you're you know,

paresh shah 20:34
let's call it being in a flat spin like goose goose and Tom Cruise. We're in Top Gun where you're just like something's not working.

Brandon Handley 20:45
Yeah, I can take that. Yeah, yeah,

paresh shah 20:48
yeah, that's kind of but not in the family side. family has always been wonderful supportive. Just kind of more in you know, kind of whatever you'd call it. I wouldn't call it a midlife crisis unless I was in that mood it was it was a blender, a blender, but we don't need to get into it. Part of the honest resume, by the way as a parent identical is, um, I prefer not to repeat the stories. And it would be cool if you could just like write down, by the way and here's my journey. I thought I was all this. I thought it was all that I was really good at this and then this happened. And I realized I wasn't this I realized this and that's my story once and for all. So that we don't live in our stories.

Anyway, this is apparently identical.

So p90x came in so I did not. I wasn't, I didn't feel attuned to direction let's just say around what is the next step I thought that my thinking logical mind was the primary mechanism or dashboard in which to discern what the next action would be, etc and The The funny thing is you might call it well you know it's Spirit spoke to me mediums books to be God spoke to me or somehow you listen to your true nature your higher self in yoga we call it own animal guru dev Namo your you call on your highest self to help you do your best. I didn't really talk any of this I thought it was a bunch of hogwash, but I'm speaking to right now. Okay in the pendulum bride, and I got a message because I was in the flat spin and I'm like,

Unknown Speaker 22:34
you know,

paresh shah 22:37
what are they gonna do? What are they gonna do?

And then the message was you got to do something impossible press to get out of this situation. And I'm like, impossible. Who am I talking to? I don't really believe in anything up there. Impossible, and I really wasn't. You know, Constantly attuned to kind of listening to that spirit source. And I was like, Okay, sounds like I need to do something impossible. What is it? Do I need to like climb Mount Everest Do I need to like what's impossible? And it came from so many places it was just like, like five or six conversations in a row around the inquiry of what's impossible What do I need to do to get out of this spot spin? And I thought it would be like this. You know, big you know, go meditate for 500 days you know in it. I really need a K for this. Give me a cave give me a cave. Yeah, but make sure it is great espresso in the cave. You know, that's the the spiritual dope. So what came before I really would even speak of things coming in the in the listening was You want to get out of this situation per rash? Like, yeah, it really doesn't feel good and it sucks. And I feel kind of low right now. And it doesn't make me a great dad either sometimes. And the answer was great. I got it for you. I'm like, Great. I'll do it. I climb Kilimanjaro with my buddy Dave. I can do it. p90x. I'm like, What? You need to do p90x. I'm like you mean the. I'm Tony Horton, you up 90 days get the best shape of your life. And, and it was a joke. It was kind of like what? Right and I realized later that I had never pushed myself that hard. without someone kicking my butt to do it, ever actually in anything because, like academics and things came naturally I played tennis. Since Swimming, but it wasn't really like, you got to show up yourself to do something really demanding where it hurts. And you got to get that extra pull up up. And so I started doing it, which was weird that I followed through on it, but it was kind of like the let's call it a voice but it wasn't a voice. It was a knowing, um

was Yeah, like to you that's kind of impossible

to be like ripped and, you know, and be that, like so fierce, right I had I had not been fierce. Physically, I'd never played like football or anything.

And

so I started doing it and my little living room in a village in France where the kids went to school and we'd occasionally go to a dance garden, and I got into my body in a way I'd never seen gotten into my body and the message I got was like, Yeah, you're going to do this. And if you don't, this time, then shut the Bleep up about ever getting in shape. And if you end up being on the sidelines, you know, when your grandkids are playing football, just remember this and not in a loving way not in a in a you know, shame bill way or anything like that. Just like a dude, this is your moment, like step up is it and so I did it in not 90 days, it took me longer. But I really did it. Like I'd come home at one in the morning from work. And I'd put that disc in and I had never really put the disc in like that before in my life, put that disc in and go I'm gonna do this. And I actually did complete it. I felt really good about myself and showing up my kids like wow, Dad's going crazy. Doing this stuff. And then and then Tony Horton and his whole gang of people all become like our friends in our house and you know, my kids come home to dad you hanging out with friends. Wherever today because Dre has like Tony sidekick. And then there's Greg over here. And so they became personalities in the house. And I found the physicality and the pushing myself. And the message was, you know, and I was like, I did it, I did the impossible. I did something I didn't feel I could do. And then the learning from that, or the lesson was, once you do one thing, it's impossible. Nothing's impossible. And so my flat spin started coming out. And so I kind of came out of my flat spin. And I was like, wow, okay, this feels good. I'm starting to really get some traction around other aspects of my business in my life and what I wanted to create, and then and I felt really good. Like I did the impossible, Tony, exit up. And what happened was then my wife decided to do it because she had seen, you know,

Brandon Handley 27:51
the results or whatever we call it.

Unknown Speaker 27:54
And don't be shy.

Unknown Speaker 27:56
That's all right. Yeah, it worked for you. I'm not so rip,

paresh shah 27:58
as but anyway.

So she's like, I'm gonna do this. And so she started doing it and then guess who showed up in the spiritual domain? In my little on the shoulder here going, Hey, Paresh Guess who showed up?

Brandon Handley 28:14
Under the answer, so I don't want to give it away.

paresh shah 28:17
Doubting Thomas.

Doubting Thomas was like a press. Yeah.

What if it was a fluke that you did that impossible thing?

I'm like, No man, I sweat. I I went from rubber bands.

To massive man.

Unknown Speaker 28:38
Massive man, you know me.

paresh shah 28:42
Oh, man.

Unknown Speaker 28:45
All the time.

paresh shah 28:49
I like the mini massive. I get mad. I went, I went for a minivan.

So I went and I was like, No, no, I'm not going to accept that. I I've read the Four Agreements

I've gotten. So I got into all the spirituality, and I found it like this amazing new world. And I was like, No, I'm not agreeing with that. It's what you agreed to is what you experience is what you create. It's what you out project. Like, I'm not gonna agree to that. It's like, dude, dude, it was a fluke. It was a fluke. I'm like, No, so I started going online. And looking up. Can you do like, what if you do p90x multiple times, and there's some guys who've done it like five times, they're really freaky.

Unknown Speaker 29:39
There's so

Brandon Handley 29:41
many pack.

paresh shah 29:43
So I said, you know, I'm gonna do it again. I'm gonna do this again. Shut up, shut up. And so I started doing it again. And again. I wasn't so strong. Um, I've gotten I'm pretty much like a weakling. But my barbells and dumbbells were getting more heavy. And I my wrists, I didn't like exercise my wrists and my wrists got injured. doing that, and I finally got it into my physicality. And I'm starting to really, you know, feel like what it feels like to push hard. Push yourself beyond, and I said, you know, this physicality of like, really being in the moment of something is really a powerful experience. And, and I'm feeling really powerful. I'm getting my fearlessness back, let's go do something else and and the ideas are flowing. And so then I said, Well, let me do some yoga or something. So I can, you know, rest my wrist and just do some other and meditation. Thus, I got into the yoga and meditation, which is, you know, so part of,

Brandon Handley 30:53
you know, who you are and what you do, right. Right. I love Now, here's the here's my big Take away from that story, right is is the the whole idea. And the reason I asked you to share is because once you do the impossible once, right,

Unknown Speaker 31:09
and then you begin to see that other things

Brandon Handley 31:12
are fine. What else have I been holding yourself back for you today?

paresh shah 31:15
Exactly. Right, exactly.

Brandon Handley 31:18
Right. And it's so funny because the way you tell your story about the tailspin, you know, I totally relate right and and, you know, you could you know, plenty and I think you and I had this conversation, plenty people could call it a midlife crisis. I like the idea of awakening, but a second chance at life. I'd like you like you would mention there's like,

paresh shah 31:38
a second chance at life. That's pretty good, right? Because even awakening is kind of like, well, what's that really mean? I mean, he says, it's kind of a chance, a second chance of living. Yeah, like that.

Brandon Handley 31:48
But the thing is, is that, um, you, you made a conscious real superconscious decision and recognize that there were two paths you could go down right? You I could I could get on a path where I sit down on my ass and watch my grandkids play and it's great. But if I have the opportunity to participate, I choose that opportunity. So I really view that the whole you know, second second chance, right? you get you get presented, right, you get pretty bad. It's a presentation. It's a present

paresh shah 32:24
to like that. Yeah, it's,

Brandon Handley 32:26
it's a gift it is it's a gift. Because because here you go. And it says, All right. You have, you know, you're smart enough, you know, the outcomes if you continue this way for the rest of your life. Make a choice, right. And once you make that choice, it's put up or shut up.

paresh shah 32:46
Right, in every in every moment of your life

Brandon Handley 32:48
for the rest of your life, actually, because

paresh shah 32:50
there's a lot you caught you constantly have. Right, right. It's way but it's also good. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 32:55
it's also not until you recognize how powerful That moment is where you make that choice. Yeah. Right. Just like your point, you know, so, you know, if you're listening, you know, press has got like a V, they're like, you know, there's an intersection there. And this is this is the power of choice. Yeah. Which which not for nothing, it took me 40 years. All right, I'm not I'm not the I'm not the fastest one of the bunch, right to recognize that when the power of choice and exactly what that's gonna mean, first of all, you got to choose to own your life. This is your life that everything that happens is it's a choice, right? You, you made that choice to lose that job at GE because you went on that hike, right? You know, you made it maybe not

paresh shah 33:47
consciously, right, maybe not consciously, right.

Brandon Handley 33:49
And you showed up there when you showed up there.

paresh shah 33:51
Right.

Brandon Handley 33:52
You accepted that right? You own it. You said all right. Well, all right. Well, that was a choice I made right and here we are. This is my life now. And these are the The choices that I'm making. And that's the look and again, I think this is stuff that you're teaching with lifter leadership to with the opportunity let's let's talk about, you know, bringing all of who you are to work right like, let's because listen I want I want people to understand that you are leading a spiritually LED, you know, art center of all of who you are your Divine Self. Yes, but you're doing it with a purpose and a passion that is leading others in that direction so that they can know give give me give you give that you give the story because it's yours itself.

paresh shah 34:33
Yeah, so our team is this lifters thing is really

resonating. It's resonating with a within our team within these young folks who like yeah, that's how we would like to be led, you know, give us responsibilities. let us apply our yes and skill set and show up in different ways. And so When I will describe to you I'm going to draw it but I'll guide in space as well for the audio listeners is like the Four Agreements.

Pop quiz asshole. What are the Four Agreements Brandon come on you can nail

Brandon Handley 35:15
me I don't I just you know be impeccable with your words like the

paresh shah 35:19
right okay? The snipers taking the laser beam off your head. Look, I mean that's a shame. That's I'm going down I'm gonna be impeccable with my word.

Brandon Handley 35:30
picking one.

paresh shah 35:32
And you know what that might be. All you need to do is be impeccable with your word, put your word out there and then receive and accept and let it go. I think that's pretty much the simple truth that my the teachers who I most respect convey and one of these days I'll get it. Um, but yeah, that was a speed reference would I believe was filmed here in LA so I'd love to see that. Now that I'm in LA and see that school bus with galleries that dun dun dun dun dun Cuz Now I know what the five is. I know what the 405 is, and I think it ends at La. So that's an action movie. But anyway, um, the four agreements are very powerful, be impeccable with your word, always do your best.

Don't make assumptions. And what's the other one? There's one more. Okay, listeners, you know it, you know, the back of what

Brandon Handley 36:29
you call it.

paresh shah 36:30
Don't take anything personal. Okay, that's very, very great one. So

those are the poor. And so, and it's all about making agreements with yourself and with what you're willing to accept, in, you know, your your world. Now, there is a collective consciousness where you can't begin to say, Well, you know, I'm agreeing with the violence that's going on or I'm agreeing with the division or the other ring and the brutality and you know, actually And around that is important and essential. So I don't want to, you know, convey that, you know, it's just that simple bippity boppity boo, you know, I'm not agreeing with this, and therefore it doesn't exist and put your head in the sand. So in a similar way to the Four Agreements, lifter leadership has, for what we call mind shifts. We need to shift our minds to adapt and evolve into a new way of being as humans and as humanity. And what's happening is people are aligning up with these ways of being and what we have found from the business perspective. And from the innovation, team motivation, customer loyalty. Sustainability perspective is that this model works for organizations to be able to do their jobs and, and thrive very effectively in today's time, so we have four mind shifts. And it's not a mindset. We don't want anything to be set in stone, everything is always moving always evolve the clue that we are notes in a sacred song. That's just a symphony of energy moving through what appears as the universe to us, which is a song all around us and we are each a unique divine expression and unique divine frequency pulsating in no other way down to where I believe every hair is an antenna, a different little antenna 20% that creates a unique note, and we're all notes in a sacred song. And we could just fly in the song and let it be it just you know, respond to what comes and take the next right action or we can fight and be discarded and attitude. cetera. So we have for mind shift and lifter leadership. The first mind ship, we call serve up, serve up game on is that you game in town serve up and this game is a shift from scarcity to abundance from me, too We from that command control dominating way of being to cooperation and co creation, right and so the just observe up is to recognize that the hunt is over, it's no longer about hunting. Okay lifters don't need to hunt lifters can attract cuz they saw a whole different game.

Brandon Handley 39:45
I got to tell I got to tell you, right so i'm gonna i'm in a new I'm in a newer job role right right now and I saw that they were bringing on what they called hunters. Right? And so I had, we had to give a presentation on you know what we're doing or whatever And I, the girl that I'm working with, I was like, Can we change this? kind of want to be a hunter? I was like, Can we change this and we win and we call ourselves rainmakers. Right? I love it and, and they accepted that too because I mean, the art art or title or job was like rain or was hunters right and everybody's accepted our rebranding and I'm just like love

paresh shah 40:21
that isn't that feel great?

Brandon Handley 40:23
Oh my god cuz I like I don't make me feel like a hunter like I'm running out there like you talking about like with and I just remembered our conversations right I'm like, I don't want to be this photosphere out there trying to catch my catch my next meal, you know and and,

paresh shah 40:39
and divvy it up because it's all about market share not very, you know, the mind shift is the market share scarcity, competition, right sharing. That's the new economy. That's the new way of being

Brandon Handley 40:50
so to to just create something together. What exactly what can we come together here to co co create, right there's something here and if you and I can can you know If we can be impeccable with our words, right? We can if we can come together in those ways and and and identify each other as humans, trying to, you know, bring better things to the world, right and improvement somehow, then we can co create this thing, right? And yes, I don't need to hunt you, we're going to attract each other.

paresh shah 41:20
Exactly. I don't want to be a piece of meat. I don't want to be a piece of meat. So anyway, what the, the first mic is, is about serve up service instead of transaction. Right? And it's serve up. It's a new game. It's a new game. And the game is a very different game with different rules. And when we shift into this lifter way of being, then everything works a lot better or most things work a lot better. So that's serve up the first mind shift that we just talked about. The second mindset is Listen up. Listen up, and we teach four types of listening because listening is The new way is the new language, essentially. And we teach four ways of listening. One way is listening to your embodied dashboard. So what is your intuition telling you what your gut telling you? And let's consider that part of your brain in addition to that logical and rational, you know, kind of more mathematical or analytical way of being which also has its place, but let's really tune in to our embodied listening and go you know, does this feel like it's an integrity does this does this is feel right, what's the right thing to do on the front lines in this situation with this customer and tuning in to that feeling and we call it you know, having more than a feeling it's like really like, it's more than the feeling that gets us into that. It's the spiritual dope, like when you really tap into that vibration of of

Basically that that embodied knowingness as an additional way of responding. Then we listen then we have listening to others. And then we have listening to that inner self, which is the whole mindfulness piece. So lifters have a mindfulness aspect. So that is listen Ops, we have server. First one, listen up. The third one is show up. And that's like the centerpiece of this. And there we say it's about writing your yes and breathing. So you've

Brandon Handley 43:28
got thanks for tuning in today, guys. This is gonna be a split file. But I want to make sure that the ending where you can connect with Paresh is available to you. So I'm keeping that on the end of both tracks. So this is week one, at the end of week one, you're just going to be able to hear where you can connect with them. Don't be surprised when you hear the same ending on week two. Shaw, everybody. Thank you so much, man for taking the time today for for reconnecting. Where? Where might you look? I mean, where am I going to some people find press today?

paresh shah 44:05
Ah, well, we are all one according to Mooji. And so get them here and there you are there I am there there. There it is.

If you go to our website lifters rising calm the tea team, as you know put some things out there as resources. If you feel you're a lifter, which you know I'm imagine your your audience gets attracted into your your messaging, then come to lifters rising calm, maybe share your story. Connect with us if we can be of help to you. That's one way of getting in touch with us. We are also creating an app. This company, that's basically an app for lifters is the way to describe blip pulse. And so we're going to be getting, we're putting this app out into the world. That's all about Love big lifters and and you know creating a messaging and kind of social media experience that's around love and happiness and joy and basically spreading the spiritual dope, I guess is how we might your hope dealer I mean, oh my goodness. But as I told you know not due to sex, drugs and rock and roll of this, this situation here so so yeah we're so we're going to be launching a beta on that app and so connect with me however you like through LinkedIn or lifters rising and we're going to be having certain people be beta users to help us really flesh out this experience that helps us share love and compassion and caring and giving loving impulse which is what glint pulse is really oriented around so that'll be glim pulse, calm GL impulse calm, the giving, loving, impulse, cheery, that giving loving impulse so we've got lifters rising calm and good Paul dot com. And if we can be of any service to you, your audience in any way. Absolutely, we're here. We're here to serve up and we want to listen up to you so we can show up in our best way to act up and make a difference. All around noms day.

Wednesday Brandon, thank you so much Brandon Handley.

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How To Initiate A Genuine Life Starting Today

Published: July 8, 2020, 7:35 a.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 51 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on? spiritual dope? How are you? You're not a spiritual dope, you're about to get some spiritual dope. Hey so just checking things out seeing how you are today and I figured I'd share a little bit on the initiate it and kind of the initiation process and what that looks like so you know, where I sit, there's a number of people that I've spoken with over over the years. And it seems that for them, life seems to peak out around 30 Hold on, quote unquote, fun is gone for these people, and they are no more parties, no more going out getting wasted and just galavan saying with no worries, and and, you know, they believe they found themselves now in their 30s in a place that they feel like they're, they're stuck for life. This is where they kind of land when they're 30. It's kind of where they're routed. Right? This is where they stay for ever. And this reminds me about the baby elephant at a circus. If you've ever seen an elephant at a circus, you'll see that there's a stake in the ground. And there's a tiny rope that's attached to this elephant's foot. The thing is, is that elephant could very easily just lift his leg breakaway and walk off on his own. But he doesn't. Do you know why. The reason that the elephant doesn't just lift up his leg and doesn't just break away is simply because that's how he grew up. The elephant grows up when they're tiny, they stick them to the stake and they stick this string this rope on their leg and they can't when they're young age, they cannot, they are not able to move their leg off of that steak no matter how hard they try. The thing is, is that after a certain period of time, they stop trying, they stop trying to move their their leg, they stopped trying to escape because they tried so many times before. They just know it's not possible for them. And now I know that I recognize this in my own life. I was able, I wasn't able to identify it right away. Now. I mean, look, it took me a long time to actually identify this, I was about 38. And there was a certain panic. In my life, the panic was this feeling of knowing that there was something more to life, but I was tethered, just like this elephant to a stake. And, and since uh, since I'm human, I realized that I realized that I had been tethered and I was Unlike the panic was I'm stuck, I'm stuck. Oh my gosh, I gotta get out of this right away. All right. And I was looking for a quick way out of this. And meds, right. I was like I was looking for I was looking for a fix to one solution and a feeling maybe. Right. And I thought that that that my problem, my primary problem that if I just fix this one problem, I'd be able to do whatever I want, right, that was the silver bullet. And you know, at that time, I thought my It was my inability to focus. So, you know, the magic bullet. I took it, and it gave me a new issue for right. Instead of instead of correcting the issue that I had, it created a new issue, which was to hyper focus on all the trivial things in my life and complain about them. I was really Weird and it just it and, and going through the site is critical of mag, my wife critical of my children, I was focusing on things that just didn't matter. And it almost cost me everything almost cost me my marriage time with my children. And even if even if Meg had accepted me because you know, she's the one who's really taught me throughout my life, how to accept people as they are and love them unconditionally. You know, I feel like that that may have happened. It would be miserable for everybody. If you misery for everyone involved. This had to stop. I had to change. I had to change my plan. They was how I was going to do this. I'd recognize that I hadn't ever really participated in my own life.

I'd never gotten clear. I need to look back over my life. And it had been it had been a good life. And by some standards, some people might even say that it It had been a great life. As a matter of fact, I still recall somebody asked me, he says, says, Brandon, you know why? Why are you looking for more? You've got, you know, all these things. And I said, I said, I said, Man, look, let's do this. I've gotten this far. And everything that I've gotten today, I haven't even tried, right, I'm sure I've put in some effort, but wasn't being clear. Was I being intentional? Was I driven by a purpose? Or was I just acting from a state of survival? And, you know, that's, that's how I'd recognized let's see what happens if I initiate the change myself. What happens if I've looked for find and implement clarity within my own life, what would be possible then, what would be possible then? And listen, initially, once you once you recognize this, once you recognize it That, that these are some of the drivers that you if you put these into your life that there's so much force behind them, you'll find yourself going after that non stop. And that's what I did I initiated absolutely Initially, I initiated I put the time in I began to read ravenously I hadn't read for years and I picked up these these self development books, personal growth books, parenting books, I mean, look, I was doing a podcast on parenting and I had the feel Oh, so what can I share? What can I learn, implement and share? Alright, so I took classes online I'd taken you know, finance, I'd taken so many coaching classes. I've participated in coaching programs the I began to work out eat better change my habits took on one coach opened up which and that opened I opened up to my dreams, right. I took on a second coach that Coach, you know, as you kind of go on, you're taking this coaching. What was funny, that coach literally, it was kind of an accent but so at the bottom of, of our agreement that I would double my income within a year, just about so every day a little bit of work every day putting pressure on myself, like a, like it was some kind of sprint. And I realized that I need to slow down or burnout right? I had to realize that this was a long game. And I paused for a second. And literally, I did I took some deep breaths. I took some more time for myself. And focus time right meditation and just just reading timeless, universal truths, you know, stoicism eaching, which is really the biggest two but you know, it's been a lot of time reading those. And and within this space. Within this practice was something that I had not expected to happen. This was the exact process of initiation right at forged a new key as it were, if you've ever heard the saying that old keys don't open new doors, I forged a new key and a new door become exposed at the time and it showed me you know, expose possibilities of who I was. And Unlimited, creative, caring, loving child of the universe, right? And and this was something that I was already aware. It's once you it's like you rediscover who you are recognized that I have to go through this process right I recognized that. I was already merged with source I've recognized the line now of you're a spiritual being having a physical experience that opened up to the universe and ever since then, I've recognized the source flowing through me right lifeforce, whatever you want to call it God, Jesus Buddha, well, you know, whatever it is divinity, Grace, the strengthening of the Divine strength. And I began to recognize myself as a conduit for the divine for the divine energy that creates worlds that flows through me.

And now, you know, I'm openly sharing some of this stuff, because even now even more is flowing through me. Because, you know, that first flow to recognize when you recognize it, right, it's a trickle. And it's almost scary. You're like, what is this and should I share this as you kind of have no choice but to share it in a way that you're sharing it all the time anyways, is it's when you recognize it. And then you're giving it away even more than them even more is gonna flow through you. If that makes sense. I mean, it's kind of like the end. It's, it's it is love, right? It's unconditional and you can never Never give too much and you'll always be filled back up with it. But I've been hiding it right I've been, you know, I didn't feel comfortable talking about it because I didn't understand what it was. I didn't understand what I was going through. But through all, you know, studies and listening, I mean, I can't tell you the number of hours of audio listening to the dance of listening to other spiritual leaders, you know, and just some type of Christian charities. I've got the Skype bill, bill donohue, you know, hundreds of hours Vedanta Society of New York, hundreds of hours and really exploring, reading hundreds of I mean, just nonstop kind of really seeking and reading so that I could understand what it was that I had within me that I was trying to get at Right. So how do I how do I return this right return, literally return this and turn it out. And, and I did that through fatherhood for the rest of us podcasts. I did that through partially through the prosperity practice, and but it was still veiled. And it wasn't until recently when I came across a couple of people that were already doing it, who were already leading from a place of spirituality. And I realized there was no sense that I wasn't able to do this, right. There was no sense that I wasn't going to be able to come out here and stop kind of shade my own life, right. And I was going to be able to interview these people sign a light on what they're doing, how they're how they found their spirituality and how they're leading with their spiritual self. And it's also that you so that can teach you and show you to do the same thing for yourself, right? The story is to help you reflect who you really are. Right. And the question that I've got for you at the end of this here is, are you ready to initiate life for yourself? Are you ready to cross that threshold of humanity? And are you looking for a sign? Are you looking for a sign? Are you waiting for a signal right to accept your own divinity? Well, I think this is it. If you stayed on to the end here, this is the call. Step into your greatness accepted. You are the Savior. In this instance, you're your own Savior, no one, no one else can initiate this for you. You've got to be the one who initiates it. And then, you know, begin the process if you're looking for help. If you're you know, if you're looking for the next phase in that, reach out to me, Brandon at spiritual dope, CO, or find me over on Facebook or Instagram at spiritual dope, and let's have the conversation right? I mean, if you just know looking to get your story out there You're just looking to understand what some of the next steps are for you, or even just for me fuel for the fire out, I texted someone the other day the fuel for the fire for some of this is just being able to share how you feel and be accepted for who you are because you are an amazing person. You've got an amazing story, you've got something incredibly creative within you that's quite literally dying to get out. And it's my hope to help you live to get that out right. Live by getting that out. So that's it guys. Hope you've enjoyed this one. This one is really, really about the you know, initiating, right taking taking the initiation and being initiated. I know it's a kind of a play on words, but I want I really want you to take that to heart

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Steven Mills

Published: July 5, 2020, 11:22 a.m.
Duration: 58 minutes 22 seconds

Join me as I catch up with my coaching friend Steven Mills.

Steven & I spent quite a bit of time together a couple of years back as I was beginning to coach and he was a coaches coach...

After catching up with him, I felt I could detect a bit of a Heroes Journey... a spiritual tale as it were within him and invited him to share on this podcast.

I am a loving father to my daughter Evanna; I was born in
Dunfermline, Fife, Scotland and live in Glasgow, Scotland today.Ok a
little bit about me then, at the young age of 16 I joined the British
Army in 1998 and served for six years with two operational tours of
Iraq and Kosovo. I left in 2004 to begin my transition back into civilian
life.
This transition was challenging for me, and in the years that followed, I
resorted to alcoholism and anti-depressants, Living from a place of stress and Anxiety, Failed relationships, jumping from job to job, never really settling down or finding peace. I suppressed a lot of childhood trauma that would bite me in the bum later in life that stemmed from emotional neglect, physical and verbal abuse.
This was one of the main reasons I joined the forces to run away from this,
this wasn’t the answer as I found out the hard way later in life. The transition was a real rollercoaster ride for me, without the support I was used to in the army, life had its challenges, with uncertainty and no purpose to where my life was heading.
I got lost in a trail of destruction which impacted my health, finances,
relationships with friends and family and I had no hope and a feeling of
emptiness and hurt. Eight years of going round in circles, frustration, feeling useless, no peace and continuously busy, destroying a lot of relationships, emotional and spiritual health issues, and much more I decided to enough was enough, it was time for a change.
Through this process, I have gained so many transformational insights into
destructive patterns of not only my behaviors, habits, attitudes, and beliefs
but of others around me too. This has been an ongoing journey.
Moving beyond this season of life influenced me to evaluate my future, and take this vision for my life today, to facilitate and coach as many people who
were in my position as I am physically possible to overcome the common fears, blockages, limitations in order to heal and have a transformation in your life as I have, if I can do it, so can you.

Brandon Handley 0:02
4321 Hey there. This is Brandon Handley. I am on with Steven Mills, who's a coach and mentor, men's life coach, trauma recovery coach, online trainer, who's currently just recently founded. Core coaching business Academy is also the founder of social enterprise core connections, coaching and training. He's a experienced men's coach. And he's got over seven years experience in the coaching a personal development industry. He's a loving father. He's from Scotland, I don't even know how to pronounce where you're from. So I didn't even try except for Glasgow, which, you know, that's where you are right now. joined the military at the young age of 16. And you serve for six years there, two operational tours of Iraq and Kosovo. And this is when you left in 2004 To begin a transaction, transit efficient back into civilian life, and you were kind of that was kind of a challenge, from what I understand he resorted to alcoholism and depressants, living in a place of stress and anxiety. Not really being able to settle down and kind of seems like that stemmed from emotional, black, physical and verbal abuse. And and, you know, throughout all this, you know, you started to find your own path, right, you start to find your own path and you hooked on to coaching and others you've over the years, you know, I know you're passionate about coaching, that's how you and I met you, you helped build the coaching community, you've been a mentor and a trainer to that and more recently, as you and I reconnected, you told me that you know, you've gone through and I hope this is okay to share, because I know I didn't ask, but you know, you've had some more therapy over the past year. Seems like you may have had some kind of struggles in, in getting past this kind of like invisible barrier threshold, right that you felt like something was holding you back. And you spent some time work more time work on yourself. And a Pac Man, it seems with a fierceness as it were, as I like to say, right. So, you know, welcome. Thanks, Steven, for coming on today. And thanks for reaching out to me just to say, Hey, I'm sure you probably didn't have a podcast in mind when you said hey, Brandon, what's going on? But after hearing your story, I felt like it was something that fit with what we're doing here. Well, what I love to do is I love to start these off with like, you know, one or two things right? What is something that I can help you celebrate today? Or you know, what is is like spiritual dope, right? Like is the name of the podcast so what's like, your most recent spiritual high if you could qualify?

Steven Mills 3:00
And then probably place off NRP. So what's took about our journey, it took a lot of years to find that went around in circles and, you know, kept living and old patterns and dealing with childhood trauma, which was overpowered, and on me it's like a dark cloud over my head. And there was a lot of toxic shame in there that I used to live by. And I call them sub hub and a lot of self pity parties. So from going through that journey of healing from trauma, over a 12 month period, and really get into the trenches and do and be able to look the past and a deeper level than I have ever done before. And I was able to find that place off and a piece. So I guess that in our piece, you know, call it spirituality, call it whatever faith in that place at peace. I think we all want to find that in life. We all want to find that inner peace Inner Peace Center brings so much Joy brings so much, you know, you feel that sense of you're okay, you're settled yet there's no you don't have to worry about the future. You don't have to think about the back of the past too much, but actually just loving more and know if you like and I know that's probably a cliche to say loving on the note but actually, it's achievable. And it takes a lot of work by took me a lot of work to get there. But knowing the work of dead you know, I would always encourage anyone out there that's maybe going through things from the past as to really engage with that and be able to look at because you have a choice right or look at or we look away, we can look away and I for years, I looked away I denied I suppressed I didn't really address it properly. And then it came out like a volcano feel like it was like a volcano effect that just blew up. And just like fireworks go all over the place with Emma was my favorite Whole body. So finding that inner peace has been a big revelation for me. And it's allowed me to slow down. And everything I do know, because I believe slowing down as the best slowing down solves most problems. If we're able to find a place and a peace and slow down in life, we're able to see things from a different perspective. And we become more patient and much more welcomed set of choices. And that's been a big revelation for me a big breakthrough moment. I feel like a big aha moment. It's really changed my my life and many ways. And this allowed me just to follow my intuition, follow my gut and follow what's what I'm truly passionate about and, and find my purpose if that's what you want to call it. Your mission in life, your vision, all these things. So yeah.

Brandon Handley 5:53
man you got you got a lot in there, right. One of the things a few of the things that that you've gotten, there is The acceptance of you know what I think a lot of people call the shadow self, right? Or the darkness in themselves, or whatever you want to call it. But you know, by facing that pain instead of and welcoming it and seeing what it had to teach you, in your life sounds like one of the things that you've done there. And it also sounds like you know, the whole being the now thing. While it may sound cliche, it's very much so when the student is ready, the master will appear right? And that's when all of a sudden, it sounds like you're finding all these cliches have some place in reality, and you're like, man, I really did I just did I just say being the now did I just say find inner peace and everything will be okay. Yeah, I did. And the other part in there too is when you find here, those you Hear that chirping in the background? I've got chickens in my bathroom. Who knew that?

Unknown Speaker 7:09
little chicks in there? Yeah.

Brandon Handley 7:11
I always make fun of myself to those five chicks in my bathroom, but not what you're thinking. Um, and then, and then when, you know, you find that inner peace and this is a line that I heard from Bob Proctor finally, finally made some sense. It was like, I don't need to slow down.

Unknown Speaker 7:30
I need to calm down.

Brandon Handley 7:32
Right? I don't need to be excited because when something's excited that that's an indicator of your molech Moloch. You know, molecular level, bouncing around too fast. This excited. There's lots of energy there, but it's not focused energy. Right. And it's not calm and to your point, thoughtful energy, you know when you can pause in that intercom if you're not worried or thinking about yesterday and if you're not concerned, worried about tomorrow, you can focus on today and what's right

Unknown Speaker 8:04
in front of you.

Brandon Handley 8:08
In a sense of calm, right, like you said, Take a breath, think about what's right in this situation, think about what you should do right here and now versus this kind of react. And like I said, this excited motion, this excited motion says what? Oh, that's there. We got to go do this. This is what I know to do. We're gonna hop right to it.

Unknown Speaker 8:29
Right, that's not it.

Brandon Handley 8:31
And that's what you found. So I love it, man. That's, that's something to celebrate, for sure. And I think that that's also where we've, I'm sure heard it all throughout time while you're growing up, you know, you're the sum of all the choices that you make. Right? And, and you see now the power of choice. The power of choice is in that call moment that you're talking about. Got that all kind of sum it up all right for you my caption.

Steven Mills 9:04
Choice is quite a big thing. I mean, we all have, we all have choice choices every day. And certainly we make and how we live our lives and what we do as a career, what we do in relationships, we all have a choice to respond in a way that's, you know, whatever way you want to respond and respond from a place of fear or we can respond from a place of love. We can respond from a place of, you know, calmness, whereas more well considered, or we can respond emotionally and a reaction. And it's just, you know, having that knowing that we've got that free will to choose how we live is very important. And it's only through my experience of healing, that I found a place to choose more effectively. The biggest thing I learned through healing from trauma was you to feel as real before you suppress all the feelings of denial, but if you can set with these feelings as hard as they may be It's, it's the best way to heal as I lower it just to be and to release because emotions, emotions need to move. They're not they're not they're just temporary they have to move. You know, if you think of emotions come from a Latin word emotive, you know, as moving as a movement, emotions need to move. And a lot of us struggle with dealing with the hard emotions, the the tension, the shoulders, the butterflies, the stomach, the anxiety that may come through pain. And there's one of the biggest things I had to learn it was just stuff set, still allow it to come and go, allow it just to be and release it through different ways like breathing. I used to write about a lot. So I journal I write a lot about my domain recovery. I would write a lot of it and release it through writing, how I was feeling because a lot of us don't really engage with our definite emotions, a lot of us tend to only know a few, a handful of emotions, but actually, if you look at not the definitely, I have all the different emotions, that is, it's probably 50 4050 emotions, that we can all go through another and it's been aware of all them. And it's allowing them to come into your life and leave your life and we're, you know, we can react emotionally or we could just set with them. And his biggest thing out loud was just, I like the phrase to feel as real, to feel as real and life to just set with the feelings, no matter how hard to make beat do that. And that took a lot of practice for me. It took a lot of practice. And as I was going through my healing journey, because when you start delving into this, the dark shadow as you may call it, Brandon and we start looking into, you know, what's really going on deep down and and maybe some past, you know, trauma that really has hard it can be definitely To face up to them and that's where trauma can drive that addictions it can drive you know, relationship behaviors, it can, you know, just behaviors that maybe not, you know, healthy in a relationship it can drive all sorts of different behavior or patterns. And and unless we're in a weird on, we're never able to address them fully and actually be mindful of how we have been for our last domain for some of their patterns or habits and we have come from because these patterns and habits and sometimes creep up on us and be unhealthy but it could come from past traumas and and this is why I'm really passionate about trauma awareness and helping people with trauma and relationships because, you know, economically be that partner that's where someone with trauma doesn't see what the you know, the where these behaviors are coming from. They just actually react to the behavior and start Should I that's not good. I'm you. You've just been angry to me for Reason, but the anger could be coming from past arch. You know, the anger comes from past hearts really, I mean, behind anger, there's always pain.

Brandon Handley 13:10
So I believe 100% 100%. So again, you know, a lot a lot in there. Right. And I think that to hit it off with what you've discovered is something that I would assert is that Western civilization, you know, European civilization has been taught very poorly about their emotions, which is something that sounds like you found, right? You said you knew of like, maybe four or five, and it's like, all right, well, you've come across another 30 or 50. Right, and you're journaling and you're dealing with them and you're sitting with them and you're learning about your emotions. What are something you know, what are some other tools that you know, how did you how did you learn? You know, what would you tell me if I wanted to learn What these other 25 to 45 emotions are that I may not be aware about right. And then what are some other tools? You talked about journaling, right? As one of your big ones, what are some other tools that I can use to identify and deal with my emotions? And again, learn what some of these other ones are? Because I know anger. I mean, right? Like, How old's your daughter? Six, six. So you've probably watched it the Disney one right? Inside Out, have you watched it? All right. So I mean, those are like those, like the five emotions we know. We know like, anger, joy, happy, you know, sadness. And then like, you know, the the the other guy, right? So yeah, walk us through a little bit of that, right? We're learning

Steven Mills 14:46
about having the art of, I call it the art of curiosity. So it's been it's always it's always been curious of what's going on. Not you know, not just mentally but physically. How is the emotions of affect us physically as well as mentally? Because a lot of us focus on that just a reaction more than I'm gonna interrupt just one sec.

Brandon Handley 15:08
I'm going to as what would you because I see I see a pathway going down right now how about what if I asked you this question What about how are you teaching your daughter to identify emotions and deal with them when she said she went, which when she grows up she's able to to do what your it took you 30 some odd years to do. Right? How would you teach her to

Steven Mills 15:31
teach her the moment as I am? Get off to draw how she's feeling? I get to draw and expressions of how do you feel a foreigner? How do you feel right now? Can you draw me an emoji? Or can you draw me a sample emojis and can be okay, can you also draw me a picture of how you're feeling right now? And also teacher to it's okay to cry. It's okay to let your emotions out and the best wishes Sometimes it's okay to cry. Daddy sometimes cries. And it's okay. I mean, a lot of us don't like to admit, we cry, especially men, we don't like to admit that we have, we would like to see it be seen that we've got all together. But actually, if we allow it just the floor, sometimes the best release of emotions is through trial through 11. The tears to flow aluminum f meet hard not to change suppress them, but just allow them to flow. It's like a rubber bashes canal here, right? I fit in a river, the lava flows, right. Yeah. So So

Brandon Handley 16:32
yeah, a big part of it, though, is again going back to kind of like that Western civilization part is that, you know, we've been taught to control our emotions. Right. And as especially as men control your emotions, you know, don't let your emotions run you. Yeah, which is true, right, which is where we get to this point in kind of your stories set with your emotions, understand your emotions. make a conscious choice off of your emotions, don't react. Tear emotions, which is very hard to deliver to a young child because again we hear Don't let your emotions control you which translates to a child is an adult so your emotion so it sounds to me like you're you're you're you're helping her to identify them. You're helping her to allow her to express them. You know, tears is one way art is another right How can you translate, translate those emotions, identify them and share them. Awesome. I love that. Yeah, a little bit more. Go ahead. Sorry.

Unknown Speaker 17:35
Yeah, interrupt.

Steven Mills 17:36
No, no, it's cool as cool as you know, emotions are right and society we're not taught how to express them. We you know, and a lot of time has grown men don't try comes to me and I you know, man up and get yourself together. We you know, all these phases talk to young men and you know, don't you can't we you know, you can't be seen to cry because that's, you'd actually be shown a weakness but See it. The opposite is that's the strength as a strength to show your weaknesses. It's a strength to show your vulnerability at times. And it's a sense of speech was meant to be a vulnerable, and sometimes to show that we have pain and allow the tears to flow, because it's much more powerful and showing the vulnerabilities. Now, teaching children that as I feel is really important for white parents. I'll say stop crying, don't cry, just get on with it. Come on, yeah, you'll be fine. You, but sometimes it's about being patient. And, you know, 11 the children just to, to kick off and allow them to be angry. Because if you try and stop lying God, you're gonna, you're gonna just flare even more. Whereas if you just allow it to, I, you know, and it's about, I see that you're angry. I see that you're frustrated, and that's okay. Because in life, sometimes we get frustrated and we get angry and I'm not going to hold against you. Allow it to just release it, allow it to come out. Because of you, there's another statement I grew up with, and that was, children should, you know, shouldn't be heard, should be seen but not heard. And something's allowing children to be held by allowing them to release that anger, or at least start excitement, release of tears. And it's about just helping them become aware of that. as we as we go. because more people, more children become aware of their emotions, the better they're going to be equipped going in the adulthood. When disappointments come when things come that show up in life that causes on pain. After then aware of what's called going on, then there's no better place to respond, and then to deal with it. And this helps with self care. And it helps with managing expectations as the drawn toddlerhood so for me, not at score, export and just explore your emotions be widdle Take a look at you know, the stuff that works as I've said, there's frustration, there's anger, I'm happy and fulfilled. I, you know, I'm agitated. I, there's definitely words and there's different ways we can describe how our emotions put the quotes gone and our physical body what's going on with their emotions mentally, what's going on, Anders, the more we can slow. This is our lambda the last 18 months and it's the more we can just be patient and show yourself that bat grace and self compassion, compassion as an important ingredients when it comes to and keeping up you know, being being okay with ourselves and being okay with our own skin. And part of my healing journey was shown that compassion because as I see a lot of machine, and when shames around us like a dark cloud over here, but if you start being compassionate to the max, and that's the antidote for shame and compassion, as something again, we're not really shown too much when we're growing up. We're not sure how to be that sure sure that self compassion, you know, love yourself became to yourself that self kindness because a lot of think all of us Eagle, no it's not about Eagle it's about more about forget about the eagle. It's about fetal kidney on skin being your ability to love yourself and show yourself that kindness and forgiveness even when you make a mistake. But some kids grew up trying to be perfect because their kids the parents have these expectations on them. That's just jackal with expectations check with the mom to be perfect it's about allowing them to show that it's okay to make mistakes. So kill them and show that self coke self compassion is something that I know I love to help out with when I'm coaching and when I'm helping them find that place to show themselves that back crease and just come on. Tricia flat little bit several passionate because the more we can learn that Assaf compassion, because as an art, and it's something we need to practice, because we're a lot of people are showing this growing up to short self compassion. So it's almost like unlearning what was learned as grown up?

Brandon Handley 22:14
And you know, that's 100% 100%

Steven Mills 22:17
the

Unknown Speaker 22:19
year it looked

Brandon Handley 22:19
at the idea of that self compassion. The idea of learning that again for yourself, like you just said there at the end to having to unlearn everything that you you learned while you're growing up is something that you know, Alan Watts talks to quite a bit not sure if you ever listen to him, just kind of a beatnik type, you know, back in the day talking about different comparative religions, right. But he talks about it in the sense of like salted meat, right, you know, you salt it to cure it, but like before you can eat it, you have to put it in the water and desalinate it, right. You have to, you have to, you have to make it so that it can be Music but uh, you know, that's what I think of, you know, when you say that line, right? Just because that was kind of the first time I'd ever really understood or heard it. You also talk about, like, you know, look, the grace, right? To me, that's a super powerful word. Because again, we talked before we got started here, the kind of the gist of this is, you know, kind of the, you know, the spirituality, inner sense of self right. And when you look up the word grace, that's the, I think called, like, divine power. Right? And, and really, divinity is again, talks about the inside of you what's inside of you, right? That's divine, who you are, is divine. And when you accept like divine, when you accept grace, who you're accepting of power that, you know, it's just like, allows you to be in that place that you've been talking about that, that gets part of what gives you that

Steven Mills 23:59
sense of calm.

Brandon Handley 24:00
The sense of inner peace that's grace when you when you discover that for yourself that's man you can you can't I mean, I haven't tried but you could walk on water, that kind of thing, right i mean that's the kind of thing we're talking about. And and it really seems to me like you found it right seems to me like you found this space and you're really leaning into it.

Unknown Speaker 24:22
And, and you're using it

Brandon Handley 24:25
to fuel your life and your success and your career right now with your next coaching place, right and I've got it right here in front of me too, is like, you aim to help people discover their peace, so they can find their passion and purpose so they can fulfill their life goals and dreams. Right now, I would go so far as to say what you're trying to do. You know, this is and this is again, my perspective kind of coming from the coaching space as well is you're trying to Find people how to become aware of their own emotions, how they can find that grace within themselves. So they can, you know, accept themselves as who they are. And you talk about, you know, teaching kids how to accept themselves at an early age, as you and I are doing as fathers. I know that my son, and I think that, you know, they look at numbers like he'll come home and he'll say, I only got five wrong. I'm like, Well, how many did you get? Right? Tell me how many you got? Right, right. Let's celebrate your wins, man. It's okay to celebrate. You know, you got 15 right? That's awesome, dude. It's awesome. I always break down like, I'll break down a baseball batting average form, right? I'm not sure how big you are and American baseball over there. But if you if your batting average is 25%

Unknown Speaker 25:46
you're actually not bad.

Brandon Handley 25:48
That's pretty good. You get to 35% journalist, a hero, okay. And so it's really it's not about those numbers. It's about how you feel about what you've done. Did you bring it? Did you bring your best game? Did you did you prepare yourself for for this particular situation? And I'll even loop in jujitsu with him too because he's in Jiu Jitsu and I'll say, all right, well, you know, you learn more from your losses than you do from your wins because you know, your wins this mean that like you, you may train a little bit more than the other guy. But if you lose, you can see where your deficiencies are, you can see what you need to work on. Right But, but come out of there being strong, like you're saying, show yourself compassion, and learn, learn about all of that, that you can. And I think that sounds to me, too, like you're teaching your daughter to these things, right? You're teaching them as you're learning them to do Am I getting? Am I getting this all right for you? Or am I missing anything?

Steven Mills 26:51
Yeah, yeah, that's it. I mean, Greece as powerful graces really, you know, when you've got grace that takes away any guilt Grace is the antidote to guilt here. If you say

Brandon Handley 27:03
that's right, you said the antidote, the antidote, the antidote, hey, I will not interrupt the antidote to shame, right was compassion, right? I love that line man, the antidote. I love that line. So I mean, that's gonna be, that's gonna be a tweet, you just wait for that one.

Steven Mills 27:18
Cool, that's fine. You're getting a ticket ticket that said this was before. And, and grace is added to it to go. Because when you've got grace, there's no room for guilt, when you're able to just show yourself that that forgiveness for grace. Grace for me means that you're forgiven towards yourself, and Jana placed off, not being hard on yourself. You have been better on your shelf and grace just once famously, is a great ingredients that works well with compassion. And then if you've got grace and compassion, then it's only going to bring patience. You're able to show much more patience with others, you're able to show much, much more grace with a lot of because you've given it to yourself. And when you're in that place of patience, and you've noticed fixations, then you have not attached to the outcomes, all the results in your life tell you not to their results, and when you're not attached to the outcomes and results, and not bring space. Again, spiritual. No,

Brandon Handley 28:14
absolutely. I mean, I mean, that's, that's the whole gist of it, right? Like, it's and you know, that talks to Buddhism, right? To me it talks to Buddhism. See, it's the, the attachment to the desired outcomes. Right? That's right, that brings suffering, right, because you get to the point of, well, it's got to turn out this way. And if it doesn't turn out this way, I'm gonna be pissed and what was me life's Right. Yeah. What you're saying though, is let go of those outcomes. Have some faith in it? Yeah, absolutely. 100%. Man, there's a little bit of there's a little bit of there's a little bit of spirituality in that. Let's talk about, let's talk about, you know, this past. It says you said about 18 months about therapy. I want to talk a little bit a bit about The difference between especially you being a coach a little bit of difference between what therapy is and and what coaching is right and and and, you know, kind of when to use both.

Steven Mills 29:16
So therapy for me, I was definitely journey altogether and I learned a lot along the process and for me, it was a longer process than I would normally find coaching. So for me therapy as delving a lot into, you know, a lot of that deeper work. So, you know, not seeing the course and capable deep part but for therapy depends on what kind of therapy you go down. There's different tapes and different modalities, but for me therapy is about really jumping into the trench and delving into some of the past traumas that maybe affect who we are today. And and if you're not aware of this, it could really check out Cochin another hand a lot of it as progress. It's about setting goals and moving forward in your life coaching, you may not even get past this much. But if you can find a hybrid of coaching and therapy together, then you're finding the sweet spot. So a lot of the work I'm doing with trauma recovery coaching, as a hybrid between coaching and therapy. So as as given, it's been therapeutic, and it's so low in space and given silence and less than, but at the same time asking the right questions that allows the individual to explore. So for me therapy was, it was an eye opener I learned so much about myself, I said, I learned so much about my behaviors, about habits and patterns turned up in my life today. And I learned more about toxic shame hoshin was overshadowing everything I've done in my life and allow around our wars for others. And how are we keep everyone that that's obviously good at keeping people at arm's length And not allowing them and to affect my emotions are not alone. They're meant to. So I was very, I struggled to show up and vulnerable at times. And it was me learning how to be vulnerable and actually be completely honest, on a heart level, rather than my head level, just trying to tell people where they want to hear or so I showed up more vulnerable than I've ever done in my life. No therapy. At that age, the route I went was CRM, which is like compare comprehensive resource model. And it's about it's almost like there's about Shimano humanism and now, and it's about it's about shamanism and not therapy. It's very much similar. And there's also a hypnosis so it's about a hybrid between CRM a new model, now not like people will know about it was developed by an American woman, and Lisa Swann. And she, she developed this model, comprehensive resource model, and it's very especially specialist especially in trauma. It's a very very effective and modality for clearing trauma and it is quite safe it's a safe way of doing it and it's it's more prolonged it's more of a preparation and get into that place where you're mindful and you know allowing yourself to go back into some of the memories not really experienced none but remembering them. So you're unable to distill at least them so you know, living these memories to come off maybe abuse or these memories of you know, past things that happened and what that were that stuff actually to deal is just given that space, silly some and I've done a lot of work in that. It was fair therapy every week for 14 months and tall and saw caution. If you look at coaching, how is that different? coaching you might not be sometimes not, not not you may not go quality coaching for that length of time. You may only be coaching for some time. Six weeks or 12 weeks or three months or six months, but euro, and there's nothing to have, like a hybrid between coaching and therapy, and actually bring both together. So what I've done know, is what I'm doing from an acoustic portion as well as my men's coaching. I bring a therapeutic approach and based on where my journey, I've learned from the caution aspect of also having the counseling and the therapeutic. So when I put it all together a pitchman good stead to help us deal with some of the past hearts that may be affecting them. And it's so this is where I look to help people find peace because, you know, we can help people find a set of goals for their dreams going forward. But sometimes you need to have that that deeper and to really deal with the deep rooted stuff. So you're talking about limiting beliefs, but you're also talking about the trauma.

Unknown Speaker 33:53
Well, yeah, like, you know,

Brandon Handley 33:55
I think for you, right, you found In therapy, you went deeper. You found some things that were holding you back and I say I'd like to think of it as a plane right? Like, you don't think I'm thinking of like you know the actually thinking of like, God what is it just to say where those movies where they got too much like I'm thinking of like the cocaine transporters right like that they're always trying to smuggle but you know that it got to drop you got they got to drop off that stuff so they can make it over certain ridges right like and it sounds to me like you had some pain that was dragging you down. You had to address it. You had to identify you said is this still serving me? Does this serve me? Should they stay on the plane? Or should this be jettisoned?

Steven Mills 34:43
Yeah, and this is what I would use the three years and this is where we need to, first of all, acknowledge that we've got that pain there. Acknowledge. Then we look at accepted and coming fame Going to a place of acceptance that is going on. And then we address so acknowledge, accept and address, as we are looking at when it comes to trauma when it comes to any pain from your past, as we need to be look really explored on the seas and it's also about awareness, there's a 44th in the awareness and for not acknowledged and unaware of that, how it's playing out in our lives, that we're not going to be willing to accept an address. And that's what therapy did for me, it helped me do all these 40 years. And it also gave me a bit of give me more tools to, to throw in when it came to court, Jen, and it helps me my job when I'm coaching is to help people slow down and find a place of peace spot, because that's the don't do that fast, then they're going to struggle to follow that intuition. When it comes to the passion and purpose. They're going to struggle to tell themselves to listen to what's going on and say rather than and so my job As to get them from the head to their heart as soon as we can. Because when we get them to the heart is more authentic, the be the shop, maybe more more fundable. And it's true that that's when the magic happens is when when, when we get when we get more honest and authentic from a place of that heart and allows more flow. So this is my, my role when I'm coaching and also brings like, like, I see a hybrid with with therapy at the same time.

Brandon Handley 36:30
I love it. I love I love the four A's to write, acknowledge, accept, address and bring that awareness without being able to acknowledge except or and or dress and identify, right, give these things kind of a label. You can't be aware of them. You can't. You can't make a choice on something that you're unaware of. Mm hmm. So I love that. I love that I love I love the head to heart right now. Bringing them from The head to the heart. And, you know, to me, there's definitely a huge connection there. And, and I chased that one down to a few years ago, myself. And there's a booze lie. It's just, it's called the heart, the heart mind, right, connecting the two. And once you meet, once you make that connection to the two of them, and maybe you're feeling from your heart, and then your mind is able to as you kind of go back to right, what am I feeling in my heart right now? That's the acknowledgement, right? And then you have the opportunity to accept it, of whether or not that's true for you, in your mind, right after you've acknowledged it, and then you can address whether or not that's true for you. Right, is that my follow on kind of like, how I how I would use this?

Steven Mills 37:53
Yeah, yeah. Yeah, pretty much you getting down at your heart levels and as For me key and this is where you find your true answers in your life not in your mind, not what you you know you think people should be and the best way to get from head to heart is asking really powerful questions and allowing them giving them that space

Brandon Handley 38:17
have an example of a powerful question Stephen most

Steven Mills 38:21
powerful question would be

what's what's your biggest blockage? what's what's holding you back right now? Honestly, forget about external refer no forget about what's going on around you forget what's new mate. What's really holding you back?

Unknown Speaker 38:39
Well, what's, what's the blockers? Damn, like, I would answer that too. I'd be like I was like, Yeah, man that you know, for me.

Brandon Handley 38:49
It's it's what I'm doing right now. Right and it's fear. There's like tremendous fear and going ahead and and continuing to step into what I'm doing right now. Spiritual dope, right leading with spirituality. I mean, who does that? Right? Plenty of people do but it's the first time I've ever done it. So I'm terrified because I've never done this before. Is this the right thing for me to do? I don't know. So I'm blocking myself with a number of things invisible blockages, because I've looked all around and I see that society says, Well, you don't talk about religion and you shouldn't do this. And most people don't do it like that. And that's not the way it's been done in the past. And so man, for me, some of my biggest blockages are what we talked about earlier. These are all the things that I've learned. And I need to unlearn them, right. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 39:41
Now I need to face them and walk into

Steven Mills 39:44
a set and another good question is what you seek what you seek in within. What are you seeking right now? The what's missing as something that you're seeking on a heart level.

Brandon Handley 39:56
Great one brother. That is a that's a great one. I'm not gonna lie, because so what I'll do in the mornings, is, I have a, you know, mini practice as it were, right, a reflection period. And I go and I write these questions, I search out questions just like you're saying, What's missing? What am I seeking? And I don't you know, I would use the word God the universe, right, that connection to it. Right? And, and that's exactly what it is. I'm doing right now, with this conversation you and I are having I'm, I'm looking to kind of validate what I already know to be true. Mm hmm. Right. And and where can i Where else can I find this in life?

And that's exactly you know, so I believe. I've already established a connection with God divine divinity within right. I've kind of harnessed with it, come together with it, but every day. I feel like I'm still questioning that right. I'm still looking. looking looking for that. I'm still looking and that's the spirit dope right there, brother.

Steven Mills 41:02
Yeah, that's uh that's that's certain. It's a nice powerful questions. That's the more the more quality of questions, the better the more quality answers we'll get. And the more the more willing we are to search and like, go back to our on our curiosity and feel just curious in life. And when it comes to others, just asking questions, the best coaches, the best therapists are the ones that asked good questions and sharp after they ask the question, and just alone space lesson. Yeah. And then you pick it up on what's really going on. And you've given the most powerful thing here as allowing someone space to get everything out to release everything. It's maybe in the main so we can get down to that space. Most nuggets and coaching are found when once they've replied, You don't answer straight away. You give me back so silence is actually silence is golden, right? And silence in space that helps people explore much more when it comes to emotions explore much more what's on the heart, and it's about our curiosity. Another question I love to ask is, what do you need to do that you don't want to do?

Brandon Handley 42:15
Now you asked me that one a couple of years back, man, that sucked.

Unknown Speaker 42:19
I was like, Man,

Brandon Handley 42:20
you always know what you need to do. And it's just like you just do it, you know? Because that's um that shows your level of commitment to what it is you say you want to do to me, right? What you know, so if you know what it is that you need to do, because inherently you do right and you're not doing it, are you indeed committed to what it is that you say you want to do?

Steven Mills 42:51
So, again, it comes back to the choice love versus fear. are you choosing love in your life or are you choosing fear yellow in the future? To overcome you already moving beyond and choosing love, because when you're choosing love, you're much more you're following your true heart. You're trying to find your passion, you've got a love for others around you, your family and people. And love versus fear comes in every choice we make, I believe in when it comes to career when it comes to, you know, responsibilities in life, not just a family but our friendships. Love versus fear as the choice that we all have to make. Love comes from our heart fear comes from what's going on our mains, or what's what we are going to block our shelves.

Brandon Handley 43:36
So for me, the question ends up being you know, is that part of kind of what drove you? I use the word drive you into therapy? Is that part of what made you seek out therapy was it you didn't find yourself choosing love enough? And you were choosing fear more often?

Steven Mills 43:55
I choose fear much more often. Yeah, I load shame to crap on me. I upload shame to really orange Company allowed not to hold me back. So I was choosing fear for years, not through potential any fault at all. But it was my own fault was not actually addressing the traumas and not addressing the past that maybe has shown up in my life. So you talking about trauma reenactment here, I would gravitate to certain relationships in my life, because of my childhood. And they weren't serving me. And I didn't, I was vulnerable. So I know boundaries. And fear really troubled me for years. And it was only when I went to that journey healing, that I was able to then start fame than, you know, love and self. Also more love for people around me. And another only due to any trauma or addiction as healthy relationship. A healthy relationship, a loving relationship, someone that's there for you, unconditionally, on giving you that acceptance, as even when you're angry. Even When you're throwing a lot out there, and that's one thing that gave me hope and help me through much omnious as through the, my partner who was was just solid rock, and she, she was there constant. So relationships and love as another 92 you know, addictions, trauma?

Brandon Handley 45:21
Well, I'll tell you, I'll tell you, you know, it's so funny, like just kind of how similar, you know, parts of our journey are right? I can tell you that when I was vulnerable to my wife, Meg, years ago, when I was going through, you know, kind of my space, my journey, actually what even maybe even years before that, the whole the whole gist of of me packing everything up and driving 3000 miles across country in a vehicle that might not have made it was due to her ability to love me as I was on conditionally and then years later, when I was able to be vulnerable and she said, She says, I don't understand, you know, kind of what's going through what it is that you're doing, but I'm here for you. Right. And even even more recently, I think, you know, I just had a, you know, a minor just like blow up, but you know, you talk about that volcano and the eruptions just like, everything had gotten to me at a certain point. I was like, Listen, yeah, I've rarely Yeah, really express my anger, right. Which is probably not healthy. But, you know, I had expressed it and not in a violent way. I just like erupted. You know, I apologized, and I just said Listen, I you know, I really sorry, and just, nobody deserves to have to hear my shit just because I'm feeling this way. And she goes, listen, I get it. You know, everybody, just kind of everybody. We're all gone through some things. And you know, when you have somebody like that in your life, right when you have somebody that's accepting you as you are. That's powerful. And I think that that's also where do the things at home first, right The having a solid This is the importance of a good home life a strong relationship at home a strong relationship with your family because you can be who you need to be and be loved unconditionally for who you are every day at home. It makes it much easier to pass the threshold of your own doorway and into the world and accept that maybe somebody else is going to accept you as you are as you're being accepted at home.

Steven Mills 47:30
Yeah. Because no matter what we look at, we all look for validation, right? Everyone in life looks for validation. You know, Michelle or Oprah Winfrey used to talk about this everybody acumen I'm sure. You know, we'd see him sad cuz they're not for you. Even like Obama and all these different people would say at the end, was that good enough for you because we're looking for validation. So what we all want validation from others and our ways and that police acceptance is powerful, and it's powerful and it allows us It gives us more Peace knowing that we can be who we are with people around us and and that helps bring peace and come back to grace, about self compassion, if we're showing compassion does help us on our journey to find more self compassion. And no, it's not an easy journey finding peace. It's not an easy journey, finding a healing through recovery from trauma from from from past hearts, but as a oneness, what's going on. So then, you know, you can then enable yourself to love them, and a better place going forward, and you then allow joy in your life yellow, loving relationships, you allowed yourself to find your passion and your purpose. And one of the things no, as, you know, one of the biggest things I've learned is not to care what people think. And if you can come to a place where you don't care what people think it's quite, it's quite cool, because you can just do your thing, be yourself. And, you know, for me, I'll just keep somebody Thing simplistic, you know, coaching, there's so many different modalities. There's so many different things about coaching. But coaching for me is just simply allowing people that space to explore with that. And a good coach is someone that lessons effectively. And that's good questions. I said, and I, you know, I saw as a coach, all I can the best gift I can give someone is my time and space to explore where they are and really get down to delve into the heart and go that little bit deeper to then help them find the the AHA most breakthroughs I get some that sense of peace. So bear with

Brandon Handley 49:40
it. I think I think once you get to do right is you get to give people permission to find themselves to be themselves right and beyond hindered, and to allow them to share their dreams with you while you support them and helping them facilitate Let's state that right by giving them permission to be in that space with themselves as they are. And then I think the other part that I would throw in here for you is that you know, your whole journey as and where you are right now, I just want to highlight this is that you change the world outside of you by working on what's inside of you. Is that fair?

Steven Mills 50:26
Yes, definitely. Because the more you you more you work on yourself, the more you get a crack to help others and a much more effective way, and you can make an impact make a big difference. And, you know, for me, it's just one passionate team. I don't need to have a big audience. I don't need to have you know, thousands of people follow me as one passion. I tell you, if you can change the world to one passion, then I'm happy. I'm a happy man. I'm fulfilled on my journey. If I can change the life of one person per day, I'm living a life of purpose. Making a difference and the lives of others. One passion to another, just like,

Brandon Handley 51:07
just like Jim Rohn said, focus on the few. Yes, it's on the few brother. You know so Look, man, you're using the game that just to this whole thing, right is people who are kind of following their intuition, their inner selves and living a life that's true to who they are. And I can't think of anybody else that I know that fits that more than more than you are right now. So I appreciate you, again, reaching out sharing your story. What is what is uh, I always like to try and give some other tidbits to the audience to like, what is a book or some type of resource that has had tremendous impact. It's like, earth shattering for you. change everything about what it is and how you do it.

Steven Mills 51:54
And one of the books I read was recently in the library last year was the The mindful path to self compassion. And I think it's Dr. Christopher kalmar. Another book that I liked was the body nose score.

Brandon Handley 52:10
And I've actually had that one in my garage right now from a friend of mine. But uh, yeah. So tell me a little bit about that. What What does that What about?

Steven Mills 52:18
It talks a lot about, you know, traumas, it talks about past hearts, it talks about how our physical ailments and physical body can tell us what's going on in our lives. And it's been it's been able to then explore and be aware of what's going on in our bodies. And because more often than not, it does know the score at times. It shows up in our life when we feel that tension or we can feel something like a sore sore throat or it's a really good book to explore emotions, and know how to express them and how to be aware of them. And it just delves into a lot of different types of traumas and stuff. It's a really good book. I can't remember the same fun. I can't remember the guys name. It's a Dutch guy and phone number A couple other books there. And that's the only good bit and the book I'm reading at the moment is called Layton call and by Dr. Hawkins, and this is a very powerful because well and that's it's quite it's a path to surrender. So it's really about letting go over fears, letting go of, you know, it's very thing you know understanding acceptance, grief. So again, it's a very powerful book and letting go and all the different kinds of fears that we have in our lives and how they're showing up and it's about just as I love that word, surrender, and people see so the end of the war, belt, surrender to your shelf, surrender to your fears, surrender to, you know, the attachments you have in life, you know, surrender to, and the outcomes. So end up to say having faith and just, you know, finding that space, to just be and surrender to all our own. Everything is our own. Us, I surrender to expectations. So it's surrenders and really big what I discovered recently and really tried to understand much more. And so let go is a good book, and many other different books I've read so many over the years, I was a personal development junkie. I've not read as much I don't read as much as they used to. But I still doubt you will delve into books though. And again, but certainly These are some I would say recently that I've had a big impact. Also, the complex PTSD book by Pete Walker was another one and from thrive and survive from surviving to thriving. That was a really powerful book and understanding my my trauma, and yeah,

okay, so I recommend that

Brandon Handley 54:43
last one there, mostly for somebody who is seeking to understand more about their trauma.

Steven Mills 54:49
Yeah, or the complex PTSD or as well not so that's striving to survive is by Pete Walker, who writes a really really simple so really good book, I would say it was like the best have complex trauma. And yeah,

Brandon Handley 55:04
I love those. I love that all sounds great. So thank you for sharing those thanks for sharing kind of your story, your thought processes, you know, the dealing with emotions. Here's a couple of anecdotes, right. And I've just really enjoyed our conversation here. And I love seeing that you are out there, you know, still serving these coaching communities still giving all of this wisdom and all of who you are to your clients and helping them to build out their own communities and their own coaching practices. as it were, we didn't talk too much about exactly what it is that you're doing. But you know, I want I want people to who, for anybody who's been piqued and interested by you know what Stephen is talking about today and would like to find more About Steven Mills, where should we go to find out more and connect with you

Steven Mills 56:05
and you could check my coaching page on Facebook, Steven Mills coaching, I'm just revamping the website in the moment. And you would find me in the core coaching business Academy, and but the Facebook community that you're a part of Brandon. So you do a Facebook Live stuff in there and we give away a lot of resources and offer free, free events weekly. So we help development with we've got a pro program launching very soon. And for coaches that want to really make an impact and they're and they're, you know, practices and also help them thrive as a coach because 80% of coaches in the world and, and under $20,000 a year and we want to help people actually, you know, move beyond that and help them build a thriving coaching practice and overcome the fears of selling and overcome those fears of maybe associate them with what they're doing. So I my passion lies with helping coaches and find that passion and really start living by the purpose and start serving and making a bigger difference than they may be already doing. And

Brandon Handley 57:13
you're trying to teach them how to stop playing small, right? It's a

Steven Mills 57:15
it's a program that myself and my business partner Kevin Petri have developed. It's a 12 week program that will be launched very, very soon in July. So we are working hard on it, you know, we've got a curriculum ready and we're just going to be putting it out there. And that will be a part of my work over the next and years to come, I'm sure. As well as I still have my private practice. So you know, Stephens called Chen. And I've also got core connections coaching chain, which is the social enterprise, which we still do a lot about working there as well with some of the teams that have there. So a lot going on, and you're more than welcome to join me there. My email address you've got there and but you probably better Find me on

Brandon Handley 58:01
Facebook and you know Steven was caught Shen are the court coach and Business Academy. Hello, brother. Well, hey, thanks again for hanging out with us today sharing your story, like I said, and you know, just being being out there being honest with us and being sincere. Thank you so much.

Steven Mills 58:18
Thanks for having me, Brandon. It's been a it's been a pleasure.

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Making a Decision | Get your hit 001

Published: July 1, 2020, 1:21 a.m.
Duration: 13 minutes 23 seconds

What are you communicating to the universe?The Universe Conspires

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on. Here we go. What's going on doing this one through otter AI just to see if it transcribes while I talk, and just wanted to see how that turned out so what are we doing here today. Welcome to the podcast so glad you could join us here on spiritual dope. Today we're gonna, I guess we're just gonna try and go for a hit right you know spiritual get your head get those have kind of a spiritual uplifting as it were maybe it's a download thing who knows how you're gonna handle it but what I want to do today was say hey, it was decision time, right, you've done everything right. You play all the reindeer games. You went to the right schools. You listened to and followed all the rules that you still can't seem to break through right you're in the same place working your ass off for 40 to 60 hours a week, maybe you've been doing it for the past 1520 years. You work harder. Okay, sure, you were told to work harder you work smarter, okay I'm not really sure what smarter looks like but you're still working. 40 to 60 hours a week and if you're still working 40 to 60 hours a week. You're still pretty much to me. Just working harder. Right. And then you're like shit I'm still in the same place with the same people, somehow, even my problems are all the same, right. Well, here's what I learned while I was reading the book, are you ready to succeed. I've read it several times, I recommend it to everybody I speak to. And one of the first things that, st, st Kumar hits on his mental

Unknown Speaker 1:52
models. Right.

Brandon Handley 1:55
We talked kind of like about your mental models that you had created for your entire life. You just, that's how you end up with the same problems right the same way of thinking that got you here isn't going to be the same type of thinking that gets you there, right, some of the some of the mental models I had were were stuff like. Be a man and you know take take it all and be a superhero and put it all on your own shoulders you never need hope suck it up right suck it up Buttercup, that kind of thing. And you know even, even as I was older, you know, working in some pretty, pretty cool awesome jobs actually surrounded by super smart people and this is I mean look you hear coming out my voice still like well I was like what was I doing surrounded by all these super smart people, you know, people with MBAs and great education is I was always terrified and stuff that they would figure. I said, What if they find out that I'm a high school dropout well they even listen to me then. And, you know, so how is this model serving me How is this way of thinking, serving me, how is this beneficial. Right. Does it feel like that for you. Sometimes I gotta ask, you know, does it feel like, you know, the models that you've been using for yourself. Have you standing in the same place using the hamster wheel stuck in the mud. You know, up against the same wall, day after day after day and nothing ever changes right. So, in this books. sukumar brings up the idea that he was taught by his own Indian mother, that this is a benevolent universe. And this universe is looking out for, for you. Right. It was looking out for him. And he disregarded her for years he would make fun of her he'd say stuff like, Well, why doesn't a melon just pop up here for me you know and appear from the universe it's benevolent universe and, you know, I think any, any good parent does you, you don't really charge your child you just you just realize when someone your child's not ready to accept that yet right they're not they're not ready to regard that idea, as, as true you know eventually though he had a shift in his own mind. And when he did and he applied this model to model of the universe being benevolent his own world began to change. And it's kind of like at this point where it's very similar to Alcoholics Anonymous right he recognized that he had a problem. He recognized that he had a poor mental model that was not empowering him. Right. And then he went ahead and he accepted that there was a power greater than himself. That was the universe that not only could it help. But, it, it also wanted his greatness, to come through as well right it was it was vulnerable, it was on his side. It was on his side. And I read this book it took me so long to get around to even reading it, but when I, when I read this. I began to apply it to my own life and I did it very very kind of lightly. You know, just kind of like happenstance is listening because once this stuff gets into your head and you accept any of it. And you just apply it right it's not just it's not just sounds like you can't not apply it. Once you've read it. Right, so it's almost like you've got a new. I would say that the, your mind is like Google, and whenever you read a book, or listen to a story. It goes into the subconscious that somehow right it goes into the recesses of your mind and it's always going to be available so this idea to be was available to me. It was new, and it was a, you know, I had a mental model that I was now rebuilding. I was building this new mental model. And it was pretty neat right because now I'm seeing the universe in an entirely different manner. As a matter of fact, it was like I had a brand new friend. Everything I did, it was no longer just me. Who's mean to you hear my, my best friend, the universe. Right. And I'd be gone too, as Alan Watts suggested to trust

Unknown Speaker 6:31
the universe

Brandon Handley 6:32
as another. And what happens when you trust the universe is not only just another. But the idea that it's a benevolent universe and that the universe wants these good things to happen for you.

Unknown Speaker 6:46
So I

Brandon Handley 6:48
opened it up to the very simple possibility that it may actually be true, you know, just a super, it's a possibility. Right. And I was able to face the universe and honestly a whole new way.

Unknown Speaker 7:07
I felt

Brandon Handley 7:08
in some ways that if you know sometimes like things don't work out and you're going through this process your new mental model right and and how do you look at it so now instead of saying, oh man this is shitty that didn't turn out for me and that guy was an asshole and man he just didn't get where I was coming from man. You know what I mean like instead of putting it, kind of out there in that way. I would I would really kind of address it and not even like an odd, you know we talked about being positive on this and positive on that. Well, I began to address it in such a way that I was like well maybe the universe knows something in that scenario that maybe my life would have turned out like shit if I think this way, you know full full on out, and I'm able to dismiss it, or, or I can just simply say hey maybe this didn't turn out for XYZ, and instead of getting bummed out about it, look at it as an opportunity to improve myself so that the next time that shows up, you know look go back, take notes reflect here's what went wrong. Here's what went right capture that. And, you know, give myself the opportunity to to redress it should that particular situation ever show up again.

Unknown Speaker 8:17
And sometimes, you know,

Brandon Handley 8:19
stuff on the surface didn't seem awesome again. On the surface, they don't seem awesome. But in my mind as they will say we know what that's, I'm so glad that this happened. You know the example I'm thinking of right now was you know I'd lost an amazing job or on the surface again looked like a great job. It wasn't a bad job. But when that job was no longer there. So many other possibilities became open to me that I hadn't been pursuing

Unknown Speaker 8:56
because I had the job.

Brandon Handley 8:58
Right, I had this kind of invisible tangible stuck to my leg, keeping me with with it within like a six square foot radius of, of all the things. Is it a square foot when it's a circle,

Unknown Speaker 9:11
I don't know,

Brandon Handley 9:14
but I wasn't I wasn't aware of these opportunities. Because I because

Unknown Speaker 9:19
I was stuck in

Brandon Handley 9:21
this other mental model of doing these other things I'm doing this job and, you know, I wasn't aware of these other opportunities because I was stuck. But by seeing the universe as another, I see the universe as being benevolent and on my side, I was able to free my mind up right from these constructs these constant constructs of a fear. Overall worry. And honestly, you know, for me, it's been very liberating and freeing, and, you know, do I stop and say okay universe has dropped all the things in my hands no I still show up and I still go to work, but I'm able to approach it in a different manner, right I'm able to approach it with the universe, rather than me against the world or the universe against me. Now we're kind of in tandem. Right. So, you know, it's a model that I'm using. And the real challenge is for you to make a decision, a decision the current, you know, to, to, to continue with your current model. Right, or to begin to do in my mind, what you were personally born to do you were born

Unknown Speaker 10:42
to create.

Brandon Handley 10:45
And right now you have an opportunity to create a new model, one where you and the universe are in partnership. A partnership that has clear communication.

Unknown Speaker 10:59
Feel free to speak to the universe, let it know

Unknown Speaker 11:04
some of your wants some of your wishes.

Brandon Handley 11:07
Right. Let's say stay up, have some fun with it to be light hearted about it, you know. And, and just say hey universe What's up, this is what I'm looking for. These are a few of the things. And, and trust it right High Five the universe. Because here's what's gonna happen if you so choose to decide to go this route right and you begin to look for evidence that the universe is listening. And trust me when I tell you that. Once you begin to see the evidence that this model is working for you. The universe with you. It may not be possible for you to ever go back, right. I'll post a link on the podcast, and at the website, spiritual dope co to the book if you're interested,

Unknown Speaker 12:02
the

Brandon Handley 12:04
otter will be having the transcription to this too if you want to read through it. And my only real big ask on top of all this stuff so really the call to action is for you to create a new mental model for yourself. Okay. And try to put it into practice universe, God,

Mitch, whoever, you know, call call it what you want but understand. If you accept that there's a power greater than you that is willing to work with you, then you begin to see this whole thing in a different way. So, try it out. If it doesn't work for you, you know, if you don't find evidence that the universe is listening then shut it down what's it gonna cost you, right. You don't have to tell anybody about it. All you got to do is have someone to thoughts and think and see and look and and you know it's put a model into place. Worst case scenario. You're still where you are today, tomorrow. Right. And so, look, if you like what you're hearing. I'd love to hear from you. be sure to reach out, shoot me a message

Unknown Speaker 13:15
at Brandon at spiritual dope.co. Take it easy.

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Greg "Magick" Bernstein

Published: June 28, 2020, 12:24 p.m.
Duration: 59 minutes 58 seconds

Join me as I speak with Greg "Magick" Bernstein today.

For nearly twenty-five years Magick has been "creating a Shamanic Container" which catalyzes healing and awakening. While still
an attorney turned successful and lauded entrepreneur, he began his decades of study with master teachers, Elders, Kahuna, Shaman
and Mystics. Stepping fully into his role as spiritual teacher, shamanic life coach, mystic retreat leader, and master storyteller, at 37
he sold his last advertising company and moved to the Sacred Site of Hawaii.

On Maui, he established Sacred Voyages, through which he facilitates Sacred Site retreats and personal shamanic guidance.

His unique approach is to create & transmit a
powerful field of love and truth in which awakening, healing, the mystical, and connection to higher self is exponentially amplified. He does
this in part through his shamanic storytelling style in which he transmits teachings and their deep wisdom on an energetic level which penetrates
deep into listeners, helping them dissolve illusion and awaken to the truth of who they are so they can live their full authentic selves. This happens in
coaching sessions, group teachings, podcasts and broadcasts of any kind. He calls this essence of his work a Shamanic Transmission.

Connect with Magick ere:

https://sacredvoyages.com/

 877-SACRED8

https://www.instagram.com/sacredvoyagesmagick/

https://www.facebook.com/ShamanicHunaRetreat/

Brandon Handley 0:02
321 Hey there This is Brandon Handley and I am on today with Greg magic Bernstein of sacred voyages. Greg, is he you know, it goes by magic actually. So as you have been doing 25 years of creating a semantic container which catalyzes healing and awakening, while still an attorney, he turns, who's very successful attorney, he turned entrepreneur he began decades of study with master teachers, elders, Kahuna shaman and mystics stepping fully into his role as a spiritual teachers demonic life coach, mystic, retreat leader and master storyteller at 37. He sold his last advertising company and moved to the sacred site of Hawaii. on Maui he established sacred voyages through which he facilitates sacred site retreats and personal semantic guidance has you unique approach is to create and transmit a powerful field of love and truth in which awakening, healing, the mystical and connection to a higher self is exponentially amplified. He does this in part through his semantic storytelling style in which he transmits teaching and their deep wisdom on an energetic level which penetrates deep into listeners, helping them dissolve illusion and awaken to the truth of who they are, so they can live their full authentic selves. This happens in coaching sessions, group teachings, podcasts and broadcasts of any kinds. He calls this essence of his work, a semantic, semantic, semantic transmission. How would I say that but

Magick 1:44
different people say it differently, you know, I say demonic.

Brandon Handley 1:47
Got it. Got it. I still remember my mom busting my balls over or saying like Celtic before I learned that was Celtic, you know, way back in the day, right? I'm like, come on, um, but welcome and thanks for being In here very excited to have you on on with me. What is what is something we? You know, I'm actually that's just my typical question that I like to think of let's just like you said that this is kind of like a transmission of energy sermonic wise. And that can only come through and be facilitated I think a lot of times through a conversation and organic diatribe as it were. And to that end, what is something you think that somebody you know, who's gonna needs to hear today?

Magick 2:35
What's coming through? Yeah, so before I answer that, I just want to clarify one thing in your intro, thank you for that wonderful intro. And just, I just like to be really, really clear about things. So I did go to law school and become an attorney. But I did not never practice law. So I would never characterize myself as a successful attorney because I actually never practice law. Maybe that is successful. Like I didn't want to do it. So I succeeded. By getting out of it for sure, but yeah, so just to clarify that so now for your question like so what what what would I want people to hear right now,

Brandon Handley 3:10
somebody needs to hear this right like so, this podcast is going out somebody needs to hear this

Magick 3:18
yeah so, that question can only come through in the moment for who I tune into and what I tuned into who might be listening in this moment and what started to come through when you said that is to tell the listener that you are love and that you you know, I lead retreats in sacred sites that's that's something that I do I take people out to to vortexes or places on the earth, where there are certain sites where the earth energy is is more active and alive and it amplifies catalyzes and accelerates change, evolution awakening of consciousness. These sites are are sprinkled all over the world and I prefer the ones in Hawaii and Mount Shasta and so don't because they have to ticular qualities they have very specific qualities. And even though that's one of the things that I do for work, my ultimate message is that you are actually the sacred site. You are the mystical experience you've been looking for. You are the love that you've been looking for. And looking outside of yourself for that just keeps you stuck in a circle or on a hamster wheel that actually has you continuously working something that you can towards something that you can actually never achieve. You may have noticed that anything that we get in life in the material third dimensional reality is temporary. It's impermanence. By law, by nature, nothing lasts forever. Everything ends every relationship that you're ever in dies, everything that you ever touch, every new iPhone that you get is going to break it's going to eventually disintegrate. And so we look for the material world to bring As the deep lasting inner peace that we desire to bring us the love that brings that. And by definition, because it's all impermanent, it can't do that, you know, you can never get enough of what you don't really need. So to turn your attention to the love that you already are, but you have lost sight of you become unconscious of and you've forgotten about, that can actually begin to cultivate a more lasting deep inner peace to really turn your attention to where it belongs. Instead of giving that up and going for basically what I would call the compensation package or the second prize. Well, I can have the shiny new car, I can have this great relationship or I can have sex or a drug or whatever, all of that like second prize, because usually we've given up and we don't even realize that we could have the truth of who we really are.

Brandon Handley 5:54
At I mean, at the cost of opportunity, right? I love it by the way. So that's that's just awesome. You You will Love, right? So somebody needs to hear this today. Right? So somebody if you're listening,

Unknown Speaker 6:06
you're welcome.

Brandon Handley 6:09
You're welcome. Right, the and so let's talk a little bit about your history. How did you, you know, end up where you are today? I know we talked a little bit about it, you know, you studied law you didn't, as you say, practice, but you did have a successful advertising business. But now you're, you know, you're this retreat guy, right. Did you see that coming? Right?

Magick 6:31
No, I

mean, it was just totally like it was a one thing led to another kind of thing. I mean, I definitely had some experiences when I was very young that were abnormal. You know, I had the experience of karma in first grade and I knew what karma was, and nobody told me about it. I was noticing that I had a telepathic relationship with my brother in sixth seventh grade. So had some experiences like that, but I never had I never really thought much about them, you know, and I just thought, Oh, that's really interesting. And then when I got to college, I started practicing, I started reading spiritual, esoteric books. And I was practicing like, astral projection and leaving the body and things like that, because I had a friend who was also spiritually inclined and interested. But it was just sort of an exploration of life to me and what what life is and what its limits are. I had every intention of being an attorney, or a businessman, and just diving deeply into that world. It wasn't until in 1996 I met my first teacher, because I was I had been on a transformational track of like, how do I improve my life? How do I become a better person? How do I get more of what I want have more peace since I was 14 when my parents asked me if I wanted to go into therapy, and I did. And so uh, In 1996, I went to a transformational center where I was living in Dallas. And that's where I met my first teacher and she was, you know, a shaman, sorcerer, whatever you want to call it in disguise. You know, as her disguise was, Hey, I got this transformational center and I'm teaching these like modern, advanced psychological techniques like hypnosis and Jose Silva's work and NLP and meditation, but when you got in there, you started to get into where she was teaching you psychic skills, psychometry, telepathy, you know, or reading and eventually deep mystical shamanism. And so she became my first teacher I fell in love immediately and started developing my own course like before I even finished her advanced course I was developing my own course and I was teaching in health club and I took private clients on but it was all like just the movement of the truth inside of me. I had a business at A time I wasn't intending to change businesses. I wasn't intending to be a spiritual teacher. I wasn't intending to do anything other than this is just what's alive in me. And this is what's moving. I love teaching. I love working with people. She eventually asked me to start teaching at her center. She took me under her wing and started developing me and and apprenticing me to kind of take over. And she led shamanic retreats in Hawaii, which is where the deep shamanic, you know, cultivation started to occur. But all that was like I was also still I had, you know, I'd started an industry that didn't exist before. GE Capital offered to buy that from me by the time I was just under 30. And, and then I built an international ad agency, and I was doing that all the time. I was spending almost every weekend teaching all weekend and several nights a week teaching in a mystery meditation school and had her center and but it was all as a hobby. It was all just like, I love it. And it's I love that I'm growing. I love that I'm helping other people. It was wasn't until I sold my business in two in 2005. I moved to Hawaii. And my teacher said, Well, why don't you start leading retreats there? And I was like, Huh, okay. And that began sort of as a career more, which I don't really think of it as that. But, you know, the the material world and spiritual world completely merged and became one at that point.

Brandon Handley 10:23
Now, I love that, you know, that kind of opens up the question here where you're doing this, we'll just call it your, I'm sure it was more than nine to five. I'm sure you're working, you know, whatever the hours were, but how you work in the corporate gig. And at the same time, you're doing that the mystery school and the mysticism on the weekends?

Unknown Speaker 10:45
How are you able to integrate the two?

Magick 10:48
Great question that that was my whole journey during that time, because I for a good chunk of that time, I felt like I had two paths, like I was on two parallel paths and they felt Separate. And yet I kept going inside and checking with my higher self and my inner guidance, and I kept getting No, you're on the right path. This is the path like it's one path, even though it's two. So I would say the primary way that they got integrated was inner guidance. So a big part of what I was developing during this time period, was my connection to my higher self. And cultivating that connection so that I could make every decision in my life from something greater than what my mind might decide from something greater than my logical brain. From what I would call my omnipotent self or my god self or something, you know, this this part of me this inner guidance or higher self, the way I see it is, it's like, it is everything that ever has existed or ever will exist in quantum physics. Now they talk about there being an infinite number of parallel universes that are all coexisting at the same time, there's no time space, there's no past or present or future, it's all happening now. And so within that my higher self has already been and and will be everything. And so it has access to way more than the narrow range of my left brain, you know, thinking logical sequential cutting reality into small little bits and pieces mind. So I started cultivating, tuning into that and when I tune into that it gives me information and it tells me what to do. So I can be in divine right action. I can be in the right place at the right time doing the right thing. And when I say right, I don't mean right or wrong. I mean, like the highest choice, the place for the most grace synchronicities manifestations, and that's the best for all concerned. So I implemented that into my business life. For example, I had a potential client that my advertising agency specialized in outdoor advertising like billboards. So me and my sales lady went to see this client and he wanted to buy like two $300,000 worth of billboards from us. And he was a, you know, triple A rated client who spent a million dollars a year on television been around forever, you know, seemed like a great deal. But he said, Go back to your office and write up a contract. Well, on the way back to the office, I got a clear No, do not do business with this man. Now I'm on a need to know basis with my inner guidance. So it doesn't have to give me the reasons it just gives me the yeses and noes and do this or do that. So I said to my sales lady, I said, You know, I, you may not understand or get this and I know that this is going to cost you a big commission, but I'm really getting that we should not do business with that man. She's like, What are you talking about? He's awesome. And he's gonna, he's a great company and blah, blah, blah. And I said, I just have the sense it's just an intuitive deep sense. That it's a no. And we've worked together enough. And she'd seen this enough that she trusted it and didn't put up much of a fight even though she was going to lose a big commission.

Well, we didn't take the business he did put the words up with one of the local vendors who I talked to six months later. And the guy said that the guy didn't pay his bills and stuck them with a couple hundred thousand dollars. That would have put me out of business, for sure. Another way that it manifested and I was able to practice it is I used to drive around the city with a notepad and I'd write down the names on all the billboards, and then I'd go back to the office and I'd spend a week calling those hundred people and saying, hey, do you need an advertising agency that specializes in billboards? Here's why I'm better than you could do it or anybody else. And you know, I have a normal closing rate, maybe, you know, 10 15% or whatever, that I would make sales. But one day, I was driving around and I noticed that some of the billboards they just said There was just a different feeling I had about them. And it was my guidance. And my guidance was saying, These people are right. And it's a perfect Win Win, call them. And at first I ignored it. Because that's kind of what happens. And we usually ignore this still quiet voice or that soft feeling that we have. That's our inner guidance. And so I often tell people, I learned more about my inner guidance from times when I don't listen to it, then times when I do, because often when I don't listen to it, I mean, when I do listen to it, I don't always see a result. Like if I'm guided to go a different way home one day, and I go that different way home, and I didn't get in a car accident. I don't really know. I didn't get no car accident. But when I didn't listen to these voices about the boat wards, six months later, the guy who had one billboard in town all of a sudden had 20. And I'm like, Whoa, they could have used me. That's the kind of perfect clients when they're growing like that, that Use me. And I remember that voice in my head. Because I know my voice. It's like, I teach people how to find their god voice. You know, mine's three inches, four inches behind my head just below the occiput Ridge, it kind of points upward. It's a male voice of tuck soft and quiet and a certain tone and pitch. So I can spot it and distinguish it from any other thought or feeling inside of myself. That's very valuable. So anyway, fast forward, I started listening to that voice that was telling me which billboards to call on and now I would drive around and I'd write down one or two instead of 100 names. And I would have like an 80% closing rate, I call them up and I'd say, Hey, this is what I do. And this is why I can benefit you and they'd say, Oh, my God, you're a godsend. Thank you so much for calling when you do, and it was just beautiful, how it would unfold. So throughout my business career, which I found that transformational center just after I entered in The business so throughout my business career, I was implementing following my inner guidance my inner guidance and being on a spiritual path the entire time and it was of great benefit in fact it it it almost cost me my business not following it once and I got back on track and got everything I wanted out of that business because I did fall away it was it was intense the lessons for sure, but powerful so that's one of the ways I integrated it.

Brandon Handley 17:31
Now I love it right because I mean you you know like you said you discovered your God voice and that reminded me of you know, I'm sure you've probably covered Course of Miracles yourself at one point. Have you ever done a Course of Miracles or gone through it checked it out?

Magick 17:48
I've never done the Course in Miracles but I'm familiar with it. But there's

Brandon Handley 17:51
there's one section in there. I forget the exact lesson right but real similar what you're saying is and when you when you understand or you hear your God voice and I'm not sure like I've got mine honed down just as well as you have, but when when you realize that that's coming from within you, you're like, Whoa, right? That's, that's a powerful, that's a powerful thing. And and you don't really forget that moment when you recognize that that's, that's what that is. And then, you know, you got so many, you know, lots of awesome pieces in here. One of the things that I think that we don't see caught out too much is the idea of cultivation, cultivation, self cultivation, right? You want to talk to that a little bit for me, because you called it out, right? Like you cultivated yourself. Your connection to your higher self is, what does it mean to cultivate yourself?

Magick 18:47
Yeah, well, I mean for me, as I started the call out. Today, you know, I am the sacred sites. I am God, everything God, God is infinite. So there isn't anything that isn't God. I am inner guidance, I am unconditional love. If you talk to any therapist and you say what's at the heart of people's confusion, their depression, their sadness, their, you know feelings of despair, their anger, their fears, you know, at the heart of all of that is self esteem, self worth, which is about self love. And so, to me cultivating is it's like a garden. You know, if you have a garden outside and you don't ever water it, you don't ever weed it. You don't ever give it love. You don't never tend to it in any way. It's probably not going to grow, you know, it's going to wither away and it's just going to be kind of a barren, empty garden. So to me, it's like going inside and finding the love that I am and then putting my attention on that putting my consciousness in And being with it, that's a cultivation of it, that's actually bringing it to life bringing it to consciousness. Same thing with my inner guidance. If I put my attention on it, if I find it and distinguish it from anything else, I'm building a relationship with my deeper wisdom, and the deepest love and Divinity that I am. It's a relationship, as long as we're in duality, that we are in relationship with everything. And so when you build that relationship and you cultivate an intimacy with yourself and intimacy with your God, self and intimacy with the love that you are, then you become more of that and you become you manifest and actualize more of that until eventually, you become one with it. And you are it which is the true reality that was already there in the first place. You were just in the illusion of separation.

Brandon Handley 20:58
I love it. I love it. You know, absolutely right, you got to cultivate, you have some nurture. You have to allow for it to unfold. And that's word use a little bit earlier too. Because you can't really force that, right, you can't force that to happen. And if you do try to force it to happen, I, I liken it to, you know, like tissue paper or something, right? Like you, you can, you can kind of walk it open gently or something like that. But if you try to force tissue paper, if you're just going to shred it, right, so, I mean, you really can't, you can't force this thing to happen. You can cultivate and nurture You know, this love of self this enter God, the recognition that you are God. And when you say that it's it's not exclusionary to, like you said, the rest of anything. It's because everything is God. Right. Right.

Magick 21:54
Yeah. Like when most people would hear you know, whenever I say that, I'm very aware of the misinterpretation that can occur. When I when I especially when I say I am God, because you know, there is a very egoic way that somebody could say that I'm special. I'm different. I'm better, you know, and that's not what I'm talking about. When I'm talking about is I'm actually the same as you, right? Like we're both god, there's there's nothing better or different about me or you were the same thing. Actually everything that we see that distinguishes us as different is actually illusion. Anything that I could say that is better or worse about you or me is all the illusion of this material reality. When you awaken to your true nature, you one realizes that I am you. You are me, there is no difference.

Brandon Handley 22:50
There's no separation,

Magick 22:51
right? There's no separation and we're both God.

Brandon Handley 22:55
Right. I mean, that was like you're saying it's when you awaken to the The true sense of who you are your God self, it's to recognize that you are as well as everybody else right to recognize the Divinity in everything.

Magick 23:12
Is that fair? Yeah, for sure. Okay. And what find? What I like to help people get back to cultivation and nurturing right, is that people are typically looking for that outside themselves. How do I realize this by going to this religion or chanting this boss, john or going to Kyrgyzstan or, you know, whatever practice it is, which some of those things can definitely be helpful. I'm not saying they're not. Two of the things that I find to be the most potent are going to sacred sites, sacred sites catalyze and amplify and accelerate. If you have the keys to unlock the mystical aspects of those sites and the power of those sites, you know how to do that, and those sites can actually touch us into what we what's beyond our perceived limitations and take us into a greater experience of reality, a more mystical experience, kind of like Iosco without the Iosco. And the second thing is meditation. You know, it's everything is inside of you, the entire universe is inside of you, all the love that's ever exists is inside of you. God is inside of you, the infant is inside of you, divinity is inside of you. So if you want to actually cultivate and nurture a relationship with those things and realize those things, then you've got to go not outside where you can have some externalized version of it or some intellectual version of it or conceptual version, but inside where you can experience it. Everything that truly transforms us is experiential, and that happens on the inside. Most of us are very disassociated from our bodies, which is our vehicle for the spiritual Being having a human experience. And so we're in our heads we're thinking, and that keeps us from being in the body. And that's where the experience of the as above and so below meets divinity in humanity meet in the body, that's where it's happening. But most of us are walking around just outside our body just outside our body this way or this way, or that way. We're in the future. We're in the past. We're not actually here.

Brandon Handley 25:25
I mean, so one of the things that you're talking about there, too, that I'm hearing is it's you know, while you know, our bodies are kind of the container you know, would you would you also make sure that you know, the vessel the vehicle, but we're so much more than like me, because I see, you know, you're, you know, in the video, you're pointing to yourself in this body here and around, but like, we're everywhere at all times. And I think that you also talk a little bit earlier about, like, you know, these kind of parallel universes being available at all time. There's not, you know, this kind of Time space continuum is there like an ability to shift knowingly in between these?

Magick 26:05
there absolutely is and what I want to like further distinguish when I'm talking about going in and you're talking about, hey, but we're outside to like wherever you were like I'm this computer that I'm looking into right? Um, my experience and all I can do is speak from my experience is that if I want to discover the mystical if I want to discover the love that I am, if I want to discover the the infinite, instead of going out because I am out there, right but instead of going out which is less palpable, you know, it's it's harder for me to discover it that way. It's to go in and then in here is everything out there. It's the doorway in and when I go in here, and I drop out of thought which has us in sequential time. Right. It has a stuck in 30 dimensional reality. So I dropped out of the mind, which is a narrow realm of existence that holds us in all those laws and science and, you know, the laws of science and all of that are from the rational mind. Like they don't occur when you're dreaming, right? Because you're not in that rational mind state, you're in office state. You know, you're in, you're in a slower brainwave frequency when you're dreaming. And that's why you can walk through walls and you can fly. So to actually drop us into that lower brainwave frequency during waking reality, through a meditative practice or going into a site that alters us into our more normal actually natural selves, which is lower frequency, then in that slower frequency. Now the permeability between all these parallel universes is much thinner. Our ability to step from one timeline to the other. Well, of course, I can just step from one to the other, which is why when people come on retreats with me, I mean, sometimes people come with terminal disease and they leave and it's gone. Like a lot. I mean, physical healing is one of the number one things that are, I would say, easy to shift when people come on a retreat, you know, they come with a cancer, one lady came last Shasta retreat with a cancer on her chest and she left and it was gone. It just boom, you just step from one reality to another. But the key is you have to get out of the mind and into the body.

Brandon Handley 28:28
Of that, hello, that I mean, you know, I don't I don't understand exactly what you mean by you know, out of the mind and the body but, you know, I feel I feel it right. Like it's kind of, yeah. which is which is, which is an interesting thing too. And you know that that's a big part of this whole kind of journey. You know, and when you talk about recognizing your God, so when we talk about being divine, it's not to the exclusion of anybody else. This is the name experience and you've feel it and this is where to me You know I love I love the the sights gets you beyond like you know what some of these other religions get you beyond but it's been so far my experience and I'm I'm on a newer journey right that I'm able to at least refer to some texts like religious texts or something else to know that this isn't new. This isn't new. This isn't the first time this has happened. It's not because because to me, especially when I went through it I went through a kind of alone right? I went through you know, kind of this you know, piercing the veil or whatever breaking through that that doorway right? And you know, literally you can almost look back at your life and see like there was this doorway that was always there that you always had the option to kind of walk through and see, right. But there's, that's what is in these religious texts and, you know, this goes back to you know, I'm not a kulak look, never a churchgoer. But like, you don't cast your pearls before swine, and it that that line has meaning now, right? Like you can't, you know, have these conversations with just anybody unless they're open to them, right and have had that experience to recognize, because you and I have this conversation and on the back of my head, I'm like this kind of stuff. Right. Um, and, but that only comes because I've had some experience in it. Right.

Magick 30:28
Totally. And, and, you know, I'm not the first person to say anything that I say, you know, that, like you said, there's been people throughout time that have said, what I'm saying in different ways, you know, and so that's, that's comforting to look back and go, Oh, yeah. Because on the way like you said, you you can't really, like you heard what I said, but you don't fully grok it. You can feel it in the body. And that's why I share with people like it's exciting. Initial, you can get it conceptually, maybe. But when you're talking about some of the things we're talking about here, you can't really deeply get it until you just experience it and you can't force yourself into that experience. All you can do is put yourself in situations where you're more likely to have the experience and learn so that you know where you're headed and what you're, you know what may happen, which opens up the doorway to it. So, meditation, going to sacred sites, maybe doing some chanting, whatever, putting you in a place where the most of us are thinking all the time, and we've been thinking all the time our entire lives. So we think that that's who and what we are, and that's what we need to navigate reality. Now, when you awaken out of that to some degree, and you're just in the body, I have the experience of no thoughts or thoughts happening, but I'm not a identified with them. So I'm not one with them. So I know they're not real. They're just thoughts. And they're just like clouds passing, and I'm centered in the silence. I'm centered in the emptiness and the nothingness. That is everything that is me. That is all it is. And there isn't any need for a commentator, someone to tell me a story about what's going on or about somebody else, or to judge something or to compare and contrast or any of the stuff that the egoic mind does. I'm disidentify with that, and that's who and what I really am. That's what's permanent, versus what's temporary is the thoughts they come and they go so they can't be really what you really are. They come and go. So when we get in the body and we have an experience like that, that can wake us up. But then there's usually a journey of trusting like can you trust Can you turn the reins over to your to your life to God, meaning you're not going to think your decisions any More you're just gonna let God live you let life live me that's a big trust that's the big let go and

Brandon Handley 33:07
let God right let go and let God and Zack Listen man, you know, it's it's yeah you want to write you want to in such a such a such a terribly hard way but you know it's just the programming right it's hard to it's really hard to jilt that and especially you know, I'm just gonna come at it from my own perspective being you know being a family man right like this is this you know for me to for me to walk downstairs and be like hey listen we're just going to go ahead and let go and let God now from here on out you know you remember that T shirt you got that was funny that said you know Jesus take the wheel and I'm gonna say Jesus take the wheel and it's not funny anymore is it? But, but I you know, um, you know, I kind of came across that and I really felt that when I was I was reading a lot of Florence scovel Shinn, right? The idea of just really casting all your worries to God and men. I have not ever felt so light my shoulders like I mean, I was just relaxed at that moment and understood for just a moment what that felt like. And I was like, this is the thing. No wonder why it's in a book. That's pretty old. It's been passed out for a while.

Magick 34:20
Right? Right. Throw out a practical way into this. Yeah, absolutely. Please do intuitive for most. Yeah. So you want to, you know, let go and like God, and so whenever we set an intention, I want to let go and let God or I want a new Mercedes. It doesn't matter what it is. When we set a new intention, the way humans are built and constructed where we're like manifesting machines. So we we create things we materialize things into reality if our vessel is clear, and there isn't any conditioning woundedness baggage, for sure. versus the case with anybody. But if it's totally clear like that, then we just think something. And if it's in soul alignment, it just materializes. So, if you decide I want to let go and let God and you state that intention, then all you have to do next is be what will happen if there's something in the way of that is it will immediately show up. So if I'm like, Oh, you know, I'm thinking about whether I should quit this job. I just want to let go and like God, Mm hmm. You set that intention. And if you sit and meditate, or you just walk around, go for a walk in nature, what's going to happen immediately is everything in the way of it your fears, your doubts, your worries, the consequences of what could happen, all of that is going to arise. Most people confuse that with a problem. Oh, no, you know, all my worry is here. Now, that didn't work. You know, I thought I was you know, I was letting go and letting God and what I got instead was fear and doubt That's actually part of the actualization of your intention is that if there's something in the way, the unconscious sends it up to the conscious so that you can actually metabolize it, process it, empty it out of your system. And then when you're empty, you are letting go and letting God so the key is to be processing our emotions and our wounds and our trauma. And what most of us do is we avoid our wounds and our emotions and our trauma. The emotional body does not work. If you don't feel it. It's like you will get it's like your digestive track does not work. If you don't have saliva and digestive fluids. You will get constipated, you will get stopped up. It will stop your entire body from running it will eventually break down all your other systems. Same with your emotional body. If you're not feeling your emotions, they don't get to resolve. They're all temporary as long as they get to resolve and they get to do that. Their full completion cycle, when you don't feel them, they don't get to do that. And then they get stuck inside of you. And then they're they're, they're running you from your unconscious. You ever wonder why you have behaviors and thoughts and feelings that are not in alignment with your intentions? You know, you're trying to be really loving and kind to your partner or your daughter or whoever. And something passive aggressive comes out, or you know, a way that's like, something that your father would do that you definitely don't want to do. And you're like, why would I do that I don't want to do that is because there's unprocessed wounds and emotions in your in you and they want resolution. And so they will attract and magnetize situations into your life so that you can touch in with those old wounds and heal and resolve them. So if I want to let go, I'm like God, all I have to do. And I say that, you know,

Brandon Handley 37:53
like, I just face my shit.

Unknown Speaker 37:54
Exactly.

Brandon Handley 37:58
So, so here, here I think is a Crux on this one. Right. And, you know, just just see what your your thoughts are on this is that, you know, I think that as Western Western civilization, we grow up and we're told, you know, to not let our emotions run us and and what we do is is, you know, or analyze like, you, you can't you got to be in control of your emotions, right. And we don't we don't know what that means, right? As especially in our youth, right, in our youth, we process this as, Oh, I better shut that down, because I'm starting to feel something right. Yeah. And and I think that also what you're talking about two, would you know, would this be what is kind of characterized as the Shadow Work? Right, you know, is that, is that fair?

Magick 38:42
Yeah, I mean, that Shadow Work is an aspect of it. I mean, ultimately, what I teach people is how to love everything equally, without distinction without a version to one thing repulsion with not trying to pull one thing or in or push anything out. I'm going to unconditionally And that's an important distinction. We're not talking about conditional love here, we're talking about unconditional love and we can, I can tell you what that means in a minute. But to unconditionally love everything equally that's happening inside of me. Whatever emotion is going on, to unconditionally welcome it, accept it, feel it and be with it. When we do that one, we stop suffering, because my definition of suffering is the resistance to what is so when we're resisting fear or doubt or pain, we suffer because we now have decided something's wrong with it. We've given it a label, it's bad or it's good. And now we don't want it and so it hurts when we don't have the mind involved separating things. It just is. Fear just is in you know, my definition of joy is being in reality exactly the way reality is. So I'm just fully I am my fear. It doesn't matter anymore. It's not something I'm separate from, and that's running me it just is and then it actually can heal and release. And so yes, when you're doing this work, it will both take you into your divinity, because you're loving what is so when what is is empty and peaceful, you're going to be in like this incredibly infinite space of all that is, and that will take you into your shadow, which is your unresolved trauma and wounds of your humanity, of what it means to be a separate individuated being on this earth. That's a painful wound. And whatever form it's been showing up in you, wherever you were, you did not receive unconditional love. That's a wound and it needs your love. Like we're here to learn to love ourselves in the ways that we weren't loved by the external. One of my friends studied near death experience where he was with someone studying near death experiences. And, you know, lots of those people said, you know, they, they saw light at the end of the tunnel and they saw whatever their God was and all of that, but he actually found that the number one thing people said, was that what before they came back, they were told the purpose of life is to love

Brandon Handley 41:08
that Well, I mean, and then a big part of that too. And what you're saying is, you know, love all of who you are unconditionally. Right. I mean, that's like the, the gist of it. So, you know, before we before we dial it down too far, you know, the, one of the big parts about this podcast is, you know, to really, you know, share a little bit more about what it's like to follow your path with each you did. You're going to say, you know, kind of, you know, Joseph Campbell line, follow your bliss, right and into a career into a life kind of worth living with intention and, and all these other things. I mean, tell us a little bit about what that looks like to run a business like that.

Unknown Speaker 41:48
Like to hear about that.

Magick 41:50
Well, there's two aspects of that for me. One, there's like when I had my advertising agency, I wasn't Exactly following my bliss so that Joseph Campbell quote, like I get, and also, it's, it could be a trap, because following your bliss, if you're following pleasure, then that means that you might not be following the truth.

Brandon Handley 42:17
Mm hmm. That's right. I mean, you gotta you got to make that distinction of, you know, you're not just, you're not just following pleasure or following I guess what makes your heart sing right? When you said earlier being true to yourself, right. And, and, and I think that's the definition I would use for bliss, right.

Magick 42:34
Yeah, I'm even that definition. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, right. I'm just saying, There's there there's, there's, it's hard to put these things into like one single phrase. I mean, I think that's a really good one. However, sometimes my my higher self or my inner guidance might take me into something that isn't so blissful. That doesn't feel so good temporarily, but it is the best choice for me and everyone else. Sure. Now that in itself is blissful. So it's tricky. We're using language here. Right? Right.

Brandon Handley 43:05
Right, right. So

Magick 43:06
for me that bliss if you want to use Joseph Campbell's phrase includes my inner guidance, it includes my my higher self. And when I do that, it doesn't really matter what's happening, I am blessed. You know, I am experiencing joy as long as I'm, as I mentioned earlier, you know, really being with what is no matter what is. So I feel like that that other quote, that I don't know who said it, but they said, you know, if you do what you love, you never work a day in your life. Right, right. Yeah. And that's where I feel like I'm at now. Okay. is in the work that I do. It's what I love. It's, it's, it's it wouldn't matter if I was getting paid not getting paid. I mean, for many years, I wasn't getting paid.

Brandon Handley 43:50
Let me talk about that. What was that part like, right? I mean, so because here's, here's, here's what I think a lot of people you know, it's just like that iceberg thing, right? A lot of people see the tip of the iceberg but they don't see you know, Everything else that went into getting to where you are today. Right?

Magick 44:04
Right. Yeah, I mean, it was a long, difficult, arduous journey for me, I came from there. I mean, the reason why my parents wanted me to go get into therapy when I was 14 is because I was a hellion, you know, rebellious, angry hellion that had been in a dysfunctional family and was was incredibly hurting. And so, years and years and years and years, I like Actually, my whole life. From that point. I've had some kind of mentor, some kind of therapist and I'm constantly working with shamans and Guna, sorcerers and just always being mentored and I have dedicated my life to my path. So you know, the one thing I noticed I used to teach classes and I'd have 3040 people in class and I would say now if you'll just do it This exercise I just taught you, between now and next week just to at once, if you're really into doing every day, and I guarantee you, you're going to change your life. And then if I come back next week, and I'd say how many people did it and nobody, you know, one person, two people, nobody consistently would raise their hands. I always was the guy that did it every day. You know, I'd be like doing the exercises every day, meditating every day. If you my, my experience is that if people really want to realize their divinity, or have peace, or have you know, even at the lowest level of the hierarchy, like just get what you want in life. That requires a lot of work. And for me, I always had two things going one, there was just something inside of me. There's just something inside of me that just is evolving, and there's nothing I can do about it. I'm on a train.

Brandon Handley 46:01
Yeah, I mean that unfolding is gonna happen whether or not life is going to happen, right and unfold. Whether or not you're, you're asking it to, right there's

Magick 46:12
my pursuit of doing transformational work that was just happening like, like some people don't do it, I couldn't help it. I'm just doing it. Right. And then there was a second piece where I had pointed in dedicated my life that I want to evolve and I want to do this work and I want to change and grow. And, and that part of me saw it as an investment. Like every moment that I meditate, the quality of my life is going to improve in the next moment, every moment that I do some exercise that I've learned that some transformational class, the quality of my life is going to improve. Every retreat that I go on, the quality of my life is going to improve and and I chose retreats and teachers and exercises and meditations that if I didn't see like you results like, I tell people when I work with them in private sessions with me on the phone, if you don't change in one session dramatically, I'm probably not the right teacher for you or, or helper. Like, let's do a maximum of three sessions and we evaluate, right? I mean, I've sat with schizophrenia before for two hours and then they're not schizo. phrenic, I've sat with someone that had a debilitating brain tumor that was causing them complete malfunctions and one of their, the language centers of their brain so they couldn't speak or understand language. 30 minutes later, they're speaking and understanding perfect English, like you're not working with someone that's facilitating those kinds of results. You may want to find somebody else and that's what I that's what I that's what I dedicate my life to. That's how I have five six different sorcerer shamans that have taken me under their wing and that I had this like, lifetime Carlos customer data book kind of experience with six of them.

Brandon Handley 47:56
Wow. I love that. I love that. I mean, I love the fact that you know It's like hey, maybe there's there's plenty of people out there that I think take advantage of people's willingness to to find him better themselves. But yours isn't just defined and better yourself. It's to radically alters somebody's life. Is that right? I mean, is that fair? I mean, I can't listen. Yeah, that's a that's an awesome, you know, kind of kind of way to go about it. And you know, that That, to me sounds like that's, you know, that's your intention when you wake up every day and your intention is to radically alter somebody else's life in a way that such that you know, if they come back to you and say, I don't feel radically altered, like Well, I guess this wasn't meant to be right. It's not you It's me. I don't know right. But

Magick 48:47
yeah, matter why, you know, it's the right fit for each other. Sure. Yeah. Pass but yeah, that's that's my measuring stick. You know, whether I'm on doing a retreat or I'm working with people in person or whatever. If they're not, like, after they do a retreat with me, if I don't check if I check back with them a year or two or 10 years, 10 years later, and they don't tell me it was a defining moment of their life, and they are like, you know, I'm totally different now. And here's why. And here's what happened differently, then I feel like, you know, I didn't do my job. Wow. And I love that. I love that too.

Brandon Handley 49:23
So, so much, so much good stuff. So, you know, look, I mean, here's this, you're just another awesome story. And I'll say just another awesome story. But there's, for people who are tuning into this podcast, what I want them to know is that, you know, they can, you know, follow their intuition. They can listen to that God voice and, and, and trust it, you know, how do you how would you go about telling somebody to begin to trust that right, like to trust their intuition? Mm hmm.

Magick 49:54
Well, I think that the it's a difficult question to answer because I work with people individually rather than generalizing. And that's how I get the results I get. So whenever I try to generalize it, it's challenging. However, having said that, the I think the first step is to find the time that you were intuitively guided about something new for me the first time that I tried to answer the question that you just asked, I asked myself, Well, when is the time in my life when I was guided? So I can go back and study it and figure out how is that guided? Like most people are, like, if I say, Well, how do you know when you're guided? They go, I don't know. I just know. Well, that's a lazy answer. And often an ignorant answer. And I don't mean that derogatorily I just mean, like, they don't know what they don't know.

Brandon Handley 50:52
Does that is that that's the lack of cultivation.

Magick 50:54
All right. Yeah, exactly. They don't realize that they could go back, slow down there. memory of a time when they had an inner guided experience and study it and notice, did I see something? Did I hear something? Did I feel something? Was it inside me? Was it outside me? How did this piece of wisdom drop into my consciousness or arrive here? Because there is a way that each person uniquely receives and perceives inner guidance. That's the most important first step is to start trying to find how do I receive and receive guidance? Because if you don't know that, how are you supposed to improve upon it and start you know, being more guided by it? You don't even know what it is. It's just like a random thing if you don't know that. So that's the first step is to just start studying it. And, you know, also, I think, a practice and intention and a practice. It's like, Okay, I'm going to intend today on Tuesday. David, I'm going to follow my inner guidance today. And I'm going to do it see most people start trying with big decisions and have big consequences. Like how am I going to get a divorce? Am I going to move? You know, like big things? It's like, no bad idea. There's because not only do I teach like how to get in touch with you and your guns, but there's a whole laundry list. I spent a whole day in my inner guidance weekend class, teaching people what can get in the way of it. And when it's a big decision, there's a lot more that comes up that's in the way. So start out with little perfunctory, ordinary mundane decisions. What are you going to eat for lunch today? What are you going to wear, you know, who am I going to call today? foods a really great one. And I have a great experience with it. You know, I was at a 10 day workshop. And they were feeding us at the workshop and they were feeding us a lot of, you know, raw food solids and I was a carnivore at the time. And you know, I was by the time that workshop ended, I was like ready for some meat. So my buddy and I were like, let's find the best cheeseburger in town. So we found this place that had a great cheeseburger. We went there. He didn't even he opened the menu, sell cheeseburger, closed it, I opened the menu, and I was like, Well, I'm gonna use my inner guidance today. Even though I desperately wanted a cheeseburger, so I cruised the menu, and I got a hard note on the cheeseburger, which was very disappointing. But I had cultivated a pretty strong relationship with my guidance at that point. And that's what it takes. It takes doing things like this and building trust from experiences like the one I'm telling you, because I didn't order a cheeseburger. I ordered like some sauteed fish and vegetables, which wasn't what I really wanted. Your wants is one of the things that can get in the way of your guidance. Now what I wanted, but what do I want more to follow my inner guidance which is taking all of my wants, and all of my souls purpose and everything into consideration, or some tiny little egoic wants in the moment, right? That's a distinction most people don't have. So I wanted the big wants, I want guidance. So I ordered the fish. My friend had the burger arrive, he took three bites, he felt sick, didn't finish it got food poisoning. My fish was fantastic. Right now that experience is one of those moments that like, crystallized and and deepened my experience with my guidance so that my faith in it was even stronger after that. So, practice, practice, practice in non threatening inconsequential contexts, and then pay attention. How did I get that? How did I know that? Get a journal, where you can keep notes about this stuff and reflect on it. And this is the cultivation of it. It's paying close attention to it your attention is the most valuable asset that you have that you can direct that and where you direct that is where things will grow and things will begin to build where attention goes energy flows.

Brandon Handley 55:15
I love it. I love it, you know absolutely right you know stick to the small stuff right? And and and don't try to manifest or expect miracles on your on your first go round. Right? And you know just and and accept it and and i think that we're talking about is is there certain qualities these are qualitative, you know experiences that you feel right? They have textures they have moments that you know, that you can you can go back at and you can recreate those within yourself right to feel whether or not you you say oh, this is intuition again, right this right and and you can go back and begin to see that I love it. I mean, you've definitely given us lots of like, you know, The things that we can, you know, look at and try to implement in our daily lives. And, you know, it's plain to see again that this is a huge benefit in the services that you provide. So super glad that we had the opportunity to connect and share this with a larger community. Where, where would I send somebody who who's looking for a little magic today?

Magick 56:25
Well, you can find me at my website sacred voyages.com. And you can find me on social media at Sacred voyages magic. And if somebody wanted to email, they could email the addresses awaken at Sacred voyages calm. And I'm just realizing I don't have my 800 number memorized. So I'm gonna tell you that in one moment here, it's eight, seven Seven sacred eight. It's funny, I didn't have that memorized 877 sacred aids it's pretty easy. And you know, I offer virtual retreats where somebody can be in their home anywhere in the world. And we can have a retreat in which I teach them how to create a sacred sites out of any nature where you're at, and how to have the kinds of experiences that we have in vortexes, like in Sedona, or Mount Shasta or Hawaii, in Chicago or in Florida or wherever you are, and there's interactions with people and their demonic transmission and teachings. You know, on this podcast I'm, I tried to convey and transmit as much of this information as possible. But it is less conducive with the interactivity than when I'm just on my own and I just drop in like later today, and I do this once a month and you can find out more at circle forge comm I do my own podcasts, which is on Facebook Live and it's also recorded. And I think it's sacred forges comm forward slash magic with a K on the N dash talks. And and that's a powerful way to connect more with me it's free. I pick a topic each month and I just transmit that topic. And people get affected and transformed by it. And so there's virtual retreats, there's retreats that are in sacred sites, which right now we're in times of COVID. So that's happening less or not at all at the moment, you know, I do custom retreats and I do group retreats and then I do a limited number of private one on one sessions on the phone because I only have so much time. So those are the primary ways that somebody could reach me and find out more and, and many of the topics that we talked about today, you know, I could teach you about for a weekend, you know, how to love yourself, how to cultivate guidance, you know, discovering the Divinity inside embodiments, you're being with your emotions, which is really, I think the Number one secret to our humanity. The number one secret, we don't get a manual. When we come down onto the earth. Nobody says, Hey, here's the manual, here's how you run this thing. We're all trying to figure it out. And if I if there was one thing that I could teach a human being, to help them actually have this vessel run properly, it would be how to actually be with your emotions, how to and I have a whole method I teach called the Oneness method of how to actually embody and be with them that you know, one session changes people's lives. So lots of different ways to connect. Love to hear from anybody and everybody.

Brandon Handley 59:38
Awesome, guys. Well reach on out to magic. Let him know you heard him here. And thanks again for being here.

Magick 59:44
Yeah, thanks, Brandon. I appreciate it. It was great being here with you great, insightful questions and I appreciate your consciousness and good to connect and to be with your audience. Thank you.

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Mona Loring |Shamanic Energy | Spirit Shifting

Published: June 21, 2020, 12:43 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 3 minutes 2 seconds

Can you awaken yourself while playing with a Ouija board?

Stranger things have happened!

Join me today as I explore the role that spirituality has played in the life of Mona Loring.

Founder of the following:

Mona founded MLC PR, a boutique public relations firm specializing in tailored publicity services. MLC PR maintains a  broad spectrum of clientele ranging from award-winning TV, film and  Broadway actors; musicians and record labels and more.

Mona launched Conscious Living simply due to my own personal passion for the mind, body and spirit connection. There was a hole in the market that was able to connect these areas with mainstream press and manage the brands and individuals within them properly. 

In addition Mona has her own holistic life coaching practice integrated with shamanic healing.

Where to connect with Mona:

https://www.conscioushealingco.com/

https://www.instagram.com/healingbymona/

http://www.consciouslivingpr.com/

http://www.instagram.com/consciouslivingpr

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  • user avatarbrandon handley00:00:01Hey there. I've never done an intro for spiritual dope. But this is it. This is the intro for spiritual dope and today I have with me, Mona Loring who is a she's a PR
  • 00:00:14Well, you're a founder right you own the business right you on a couple of PR businesses MLC pr, which is a boutique public relations firm specializing and tailored publicity services and, you know, one of the lines in this as I was checking it out. I loved it was a you're talking about
  • 00:00:33The is the line because I loved it.
  • 00:00:37I know there it was with ability vigor and charisma. I just loved how you run your business and I thought that was an I love that.
  • 00:00:45And you also have conscious living pr, which is due to your own personal passion for the mind, body, and spirit connection you felt like there was a hole in the market that was able to connect these areas with mainstream press to manage the brands and individuals.
  • 00:01:01Within them properly. Right. Let's chat a little bit about that one, and then
  • 00:01:06As if you didn't have anything else to do with being a mother, first and foremost on top of all this, right, you've got this demonic energy work which you've got over here on conscious healing co where you do life coaching spiritual coaching energy work and all the things you
  • 00:01:25Think why don't you know somebody, somebody like where do you find the time
  • 00:01:29And I think, you know, at least it is for me when when some of these things, you're so passionate about. That's what lights you up. That's what gives you the energy to do it, you're like, Oh, I get to go do that.
  • 00:01:40And you always you always hear people say, well, you got to change the I got to to I get to but you gotta change. Yeah, go to school, I get to so
  • 00:01:49Thanks for joining me today. This is like a power punch. What
  • 00:01:52Is something. What is something like we can celebrate for you. What's a spiritual high. Let's start off on a spiritual high. What's this recently.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:02:01Spiritual high that I've had recently. That's an interesting question. A spiritual I
  • 00:02:08I mean I feel like so many things are spiritual high I think anything going right as a spiritual. Hi, I'm the first thing that came to my mind. So I'm going to honor that was a client referring me to another client because they love what I've done for them.
  • 00:02:25That's a spiritual high because it was for my my healing work. So it's specifically that way to
  • 00:02:30I'm nothing feels better than someone thinking that you know you've helped them so much they want to have somebody else.
  • 00:02:39Be able to benefit from the work you do. Because, you know, again, we'll get into, and I'm sure but
  • 00:02:43The reason I do the healing work is simply because I want to see other people heal because I know how rough life can be, you know, and so when someone saying, hey, can I give your information to a friend because you've helped me out so much like
  • 00:02:58That's like the best time so I'm gonna go with that one.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:03:01Yeah, no, I love that. Right. I mean, I think that kind of validates the work that you do too. Right. You're like, you're like, Oh my gosh, I really am helping people up to the point where like they've got to tell their friends about me. Right.
  • 00:03:11Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:03:14I'll celebrate those a spiritual high for sure. So here's the premise. Right. The show's premise podcast premise, whatever you want to call it.
  • 00:03:23Is, you know, finding people such as yourself that have out within unlike this calling to do so much more and giving some disregard to the the norm normal constraints right of, hey, this is how you do it. These are aligned you stay within these lines.
  • 00:03:39And to be okay.
  • 00:03:40You're going to make through you're going to make it through the end of life. You may not like knock it out, but you're going to get there, fairly safe now what you've done is you said you know what, that's not how I feel. This is a feel right.
  • 00:03:53I feel like I got to do this thing that's within me, and it is outside alarms.
  • 00:03:58Now, number one, let's talk about like you're you're deciding to honor that. And I think, on top of that in the role that you've got right like you you manage high profile people right and and then you got to be like, but my heart says this, let's talk about
  • user avatarMona Loring00:04:16Well, I, there were so many different things. You said that was spawning different thoughts in my mind. But I mean, let's start with just the fact that you started saying
  • 00:04:26You know, following your heart and and working outside of the norm and not having to necessarily stay within coloring within the lines, you know,
  • 00:04:34Um, that's been an interesting experience for me, quite honestly, if I if I really look back my whole career in PR, at least, because
  • 00:04:44I started out teaching myself publicity and that's at least back then, it was really unheard of, usually you would go get a job at a big PR firm, you'd intern for a while, and you'd be an assistant for years and then you'd move up.
  • 00:04:57And with me, I realized now. It was my calling. Because I just
  • 00:05:02Fell into it. You know, I had someone who said, hey, is the work you're doing PR because I really need a publicist, and I said, No, I'm actually a journalist. That's the opposite of PR and she said, that's all right. Don't worry about it. You're smart. You'll figure it out and
  • 00:05:13Keeping the job. And that's how I actually started publicity. So it started from day one out of the norm. And when I track it back. I can literally just like look at the lines.
  • 00:05:24That just like you follow the lines. And it's like, dot, dot, dot, put it all together. And it's been Spirit just guiding me. You know what I mean, like those I'm looking at those like number of
  • 00:05:32Things that turn into a picture after a while, but you have no idea where you're going at the beginning. Feels like that.
  • 00:05:36Yeah. And so really from the start. I never followed any rules and I really did. Just follow my instinct. I remember really early on.
  • 00:05:46Meeting with this one client and
  • 00:05:49He felt like I was BS in him because he was like, how do you know the answer to how you would do this when you're telling me honestly that you've only done PR for six months and you're painting your publicist, but you're and I'm like,
  • 00:06:02I go with my gut and he was like that just feels like BS. And I was like, that's the furthest thing from me, you know. I just know what I should be doing for you, you know, um, I think that I've just always followed what feels good.
  • 00:06:16And if something felt really wrong. I looked at it, you know, was it my own fear was it wrong because it really isn't right for me, whatever that may be. And
  • 00:06:27If I felt like it's just really not right for me and I let it go.
  • 00:06:31And that's kind of been the progression with my talent agency of just letting things go that we're feeling forced or not right for me.
  • 00:06:38I don't care how big of an A Lister you are. I don't care what you've done. If you're not a good person. If you don't light me up if I don't get excited working on you.
  • 00:06:47Know amount of money, no amount of cloud means anything to me, and people are starting to become more and more like that. I definitely have colleagues that think like that, that I was in my world. I felt like I was the only one at the beginning when
  • 00:07:00You know, I shifted everything over. And I started conscious living and I caught my talentless down and people thought it was nuts. They were like, okay, the scrolls cracking up she's
  • 00:07:08Letting go of these people that she's worked on for so long and they're finally at this level and
  • 00:07:12She's starting some hippy dippy PR
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:07:15Firm, you know peace man hope everyone
  • user avatarMona Loring00:07:18But it's what I knew would light me up. I did feel like I had a hole in my heart. I felt like, you know, I'm doing all of this work right now and I didn't feel
  • 00:07:30It's weird because I didn't feel appreciated. But it wasn't appreciation. I was looking for. It was like that fulfillment. I didn't feel fulfilled right and
  • 00:07:39So when I started conscious living it definitely had a hiccups. It wasn't just like smooth sailing took a while to really get that running
  • 00:07:48But at the end of the day, it just feels so right that I have both because I feel like I
  • 00:07:55Am really great at doing the talent PR. It just, I get it, I can do it in my sleep. I know what people want. And I've learned over the years that being intuitive doesn't hurt NPR, you know, you really can be one step ahead of things.
  • 00:08:08Um, but it's I just feel like anytime you feel like you need to stay within the confines of what you're expected to do. I'm trying to go back to your, to your original question, you know.
  • 00:08:23you limit yourself and I just feel like this week. I feel like we've had this conversation before were truly humans are pretty unlimited, you know, at the end of the day, like we really don't have any limits, other than what we set ourselves energy is limitless, you know,
  • 00:08:39We're all energy then we're technically. All right.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:08:42Yeah yeah yeah like I mean when you when you kind of when you when you boil it down even even like your whole body is
  • 00:08:51Some type of energy, right, like, and so the end of the day, like when you when you like I'll catch myself. Anyways, I say this myself like well I feel a little tired feel around. I'm like, wait a second. I am literally energy and I just like I boost myself right
  • user avatarMona Loring00:09:07A really good way to tell myself that makes me feel
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:09:10Right, like and and
  • 00:09:12Yeah, truly limitless. But, I mean, I think I, I love, I love how you kind of view.
  • 00:09:18You took a conscious living stand right you said and you let go of some people you broke out of a scarcity mindset, right.
  • 00:09:27Was that an intentional thought then or is that something where you look back now. We're like, you know what, and I also think about this other one from Jim Rome, like you focused on the few that were meaningful right and they
  • 00:09:39Are the ones that kind of lowers the most they're the ones that fulfilled you they're the ones that
  • 00:09:44Were honor your time and appreciate your time and, you know, kind of like a pretty flower garden or something, man. You know what I mean, just like that.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:09:53That's
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:09:53Kind of how it worked out.
  • 00:09:54Right, yeah, once you let go over, like all the shade throwers
  • user avatarMona Loring00:10:00Another yeah yeah
  • 00:10:02And you know, I don't wanna, I don't wanna. I don't want to. What's the I don't WANT to hate on I hate. I don't like that term, but I'm gonna use it again think of something else right now.
  • 00:10:10Right. But I don't WANT to hate on anybody that I had let go. In the past, but I would. It would be so sad for them to look back on this and feel rejected by me or
  • 00:10:18Feel like I'm more than I think I'm better than them or anything.
  • 00:10:21Sometimes it's not even that you're bad people. I saw this post the other day and it was so true.
  • 00:10:26Sometimes it's not that you know the relationship you broke up with that person's a bad person, or, you know, if you let go of an employee that they're a bad employee. Sometimes you just
  • 00:10:36Don't have that chemistry, you're not right for each other. You're not supposed to be on the past with each other, you know, and it goes into that other saying you're either a blessing, our lesson.
  • 00:10:45And if you either. Wait. First of all, something turns out
  • 00:10:48Back. It could be a blessing or less than either way. Right.
  • 00:10:51And it doesn't mean that these people that I have let go, you know, when I'm hearing this, in my mind, I'm like, no, it's not that they were all. Some of them are
  • 00:11:00All bad right it
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:11:01Should
  • user avatarMona Loring00:11:02Feel right they were the ones where I was like, you know, I feel like you have somebody else that needs to be in charge of your PR career. It's
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:11:09not you, it's me. Yeah, there's a reason why it's the same people who are totally nervous about confronting people
  • user avatarMona Loring00:11:17But that's not me know genuinely though. You know what I mean, like,
  • 00:11:21I look back and I there's people that I let go of or you know that I've been let go from that.
  • 00:11:29I root for them still to this day I'm fans of theirs. They're wonderful people they're brilliant actors, but
  • 00:11:34They weren't for me.
  • 00:11:35They're not supposed to be on my path, you know,
  • 00:11:37And letting that go
  • 00:11:39And having that open up the space that's something I try to teach my clients and my energy clients. I'll specify which
  • 00:11:48You know, you have got to let
  • 00:11:51Negativity and energy that's draining you that's not positive in your system. Go and allow room for more so, so many people are like, why can I manifest this, why can I have this. I've been working so far for
  • 00:12:04X y AMP z and I can't get it and it's like, well, what do you, what do you need to let go of first room here.
  • 00:12:11So you know if its energy than things fill up right and I seen on people's energy bodies and a lot of times when people are looking to manifest. I will see places where they need to let go of something and certain chakra, for example.
  • 00:12:27And we let that go and put light in. And that light can then be the energy to magnetically pull. What you want to you.
  • 00:12:35But if you're if you're holding in that that dark that you think that it would magnetically pull anything you know if anything is going to pull you think opposites attract, it doesn't work that way.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:12:48Well, you know, a
  • 00:12:52The whole letting go thing, right, because people are afraid to let go of of this in so many different like the energy they built up everything.
  • 00:13:02everything they've done to get to this point to Scott them so tense. They want to hold on to that, like, Oh, I gotta keep all of this, whereas like Manny. I'm going to just need to let go. Some of this shit and once like it's like breathing out right like when you take a deep breath.
  • 00:13:17It's actually when you breathe out that you actually feel better, not everything you take in. It's like
  • 00:13:21I'm like over like super tense and we let it out like wow I just relax when I let it out.
  • 00:13:27So, so I mean I liken it to that. Right. So you're just saying
  • 00:13:33What so. All right, so you you jump over into, like, you know, this conscious living aspect and you know was there fear in doing that or did you do it gradually
  • 00:13:45It was a. Was it a full immersion and talk to us a little bit about like kind of transitioning or adding it into your life and what that was like.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:13:53So, it
  • 00:13:55Very few things in my life were a slow transition. It's just not how I work. I'm can't say that that's necessarily right for everybody, but it's just how I am so
  • 00:14:06I had, in a way, felt it coming in, you know, over the past six months before I started conscious living that
  • 00:14:13Something was missing. I didn't feel fulfilled, of course, those feelings were there, but I didn't know
  • 00:14:17What I needed to do from that because I knew at the end of the day, I still love talent PR, but I don't always love it. What's going on, and it was just that I needed another element right
  • 00:14:25And so when I decided to do it. I was just literally it was Labor Day weekend and I was meditating on a beach on the Central Coast and I was just like,
  • 00:14:35What do I need to know what do I need to do. Why do I feel like this. Why do I feel lost
  • 00:14:40Everything like, you know, they always say, you know, if you if you just look back at what you had always wanted. And you realize that you have it now, you would have been so happy, you know, and
  • 00:14:49I realized that I was like, I literally have the clients of my dreams I have money I have employees. I have, you know, I want for nothing. Technically, but that's material. Sure.
  • 00:14:59And what does that really right. So I got the download like started another company don't have to let anything go, you just want more start a company and I didn't get the name, but it was along the lines of, I knew it was like conscious or something about life and
  • 00:15:15I knew that I needed to start something with mind body spirit work. I knew I wanted to be involved with people who had that same mindset. And I also knew that there was a shift happening.
  • 00:15:27That would create a space where those people needed to be promoted, you know, so when I decided to do it. I kid you not, I built that website all on my home one weekend and I hired an employee to come work with me. Within a week and we have clients within I'm gonna say two weeks.
  • 00:15:47And like I said it wasn't completely smooth sailing. If you know things happen.
  • 00:15:51But I got it up pretty quickly. So it was definitely not really a transition period.
  • 00:15:57And I you know I wrote an email to all my existing clients and
  • 00:16:01You know, I just, I thank them for being amazing I told them, you might start hearing things about me because I'm dropping other clients. And people might think I've cracked up but
  • 00:16:10You know, I'm still me. I'm still who I am. If anything, I'm just, I feel like I understand things more clear. And I'm more clarity and of course the right people I embrace it with open arms and they were gracious and said, you know, thanks for believing in me back and
  • 00:16:25It was awesome. So I just felt completely right, as it all developed
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:16:29I love it, I love it. Would you would you be able to say like any specific kind of like awakening moment, would you consider that the awakening moment or would you consider something else.
  • 00:16:42Kind of an epiphany moment where you said, Hey, I'm tapped into spirituality like super strong.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:16:50You know, I wondered about awakening moments because I see other people's mine was really hardcore and out of nowhere and at a pretty young age.
  • 00:17:03So it's hard to compare it to other things later in life that have sort of reawakens me. But if I had to kind of track my costs, it would be. I always laugh because I can't believe this is what did it, but it was literally a leaderboard. I'm like,
  • 00:17:22Oh my god, really. But, um, I got the leaderboard, I think it was for my 13th birthday. It was like eighth grade or something and played it with some friends, you know, and you start to think like, oh, just pushing it. Laughing You know which boy like to. And, you know, all those things.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:17:40Right.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:17:41And then it started to I would have the board away and I haven't tucked away and then I started to
  • 00:17:47Hear things and feel things and and that was like it hit me like a ton of bricks. It was very strange and
  • 00:17:54I realized that I could see energy and I was aware of things. And I could feel I'm very attuned to vibration
  • 00:18:02And so I could feel the energy of like a bed or a table and kind of buzzing, and it was very strange and it scared me a lot.
  • 00:18:11And you know, when you're a kid, especially when you haven't been educated and there's nothing online. There's no such thing as the Internet really at that age. I don't think it was around even maybe just a while was just starting
  • 00:18:25And
  • 00:18:27Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:18:28Yeah, I didn't know how to look into any of it. You got mail. I didn't want to look into any of it. And so I just
  • user avatarMona Loring00:18:36Looking back, it's kind of cool because I had to just experience everything on my own and everything that Spirit told me
  • 00:18:43That I had told my friends, I have some friends that knew me then that still know me now. And they're like, How did you know that. How did you know it's trippy stuff.
  • 00:18:51Um, but of course I do wish at times like I could go to my mom, who was really spiritual or something. And she'd be like, he's like, my son, he's very spiritual and I'll ask me things. And I'm like, Oh, I got you. This is why or whatever, you know,
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:19:03So, your mom is pretty spiritual into that space as well.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:19:06Mom is is very spiritual, but she was not she was a little bit more, a little bit more religious and spiritual. She had a Muslim faith and now she's
  • 00:19:16A lot more spiritual and not really religious but no she she would tell me things like, I see God is a light and it's not a person and like she would give me, things like that. Um, but
  • 00:19:29No, I had no idea this was going on. I actually came up to my parents late about how my spiritual work you know came around, like I just told them this past year I had friends that you, you know, definitely.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:19:42There's like
  • user avatarMona Loring00:19:43terrified about like
  • 00:19:45judging me and wondering like,
  • 00:19:47Sure. My daughter is crazy, but the but it was hilarious. When I finally told them, they're like, read me it was like hilarious. It was
  • 00:19:55Awesome.
  • 00:19:57That's great. Um,
  • 00:19:58But the problem I had during my spiritual awakening was that
  • 00:20:06I didn't know the difference between dark and light. And I didn't. I also didn't know what I know now, have you need dark for life and it's all about the balance and that's okay.
  • 00:20:18And it's not only if you're only going to light and you only deal with the light
  • 00:20:22You're leaving some shadows and work that you really need to face behind to life is about balance, you know,
  • 00:20:28And so when I was younger. It scared me because all I knew were things that you hear in books or see in movies, right, and you
  • 00:20:37I was like, Are these ghosts. Are these, like, is this demons and I was thinking that that. And so I was just bringing over more darkness and it was freaking me out, you know,
  • 00:20:46So I put it aside after high school because it was really so consuming. You know, I remember look back and I will remember being in like Spanish class.
  • 00:20:56And automatic writing you know just literally just having spirit go through me and just automatic writing. I can't remember. I wish I'd kept those things.
  • 00:21:06You know, just writing what Spirit wants me to know and telling me things about my friends and their souls and their soul growth and it was very big on souls and soul growth and
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:21:17Do you feel like you'd be able to tap into that like anytime now.
  • 00:21:21Yeah.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:21:24I, for some reason, and of course it's come up with a lot of the medium ship work I've done and then the courses. I've taken and I'm you know I have friends. You and I have one in common.
  • 00:21:36That can let spirit kind of
  • 00:21:39Come really close or within and kind of speaker, but I think because of the past that I had and the lack of control and when I know now that this is all energy and it's all about control and I just want a positive light. And I want it the way I want, I don't want to go there.
  • 00:21:55Um, but I know for a fact that I could
  • 00:21:59Probably channel things pretty easily. I just, it's not what I'm doing what I do.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:22:04Sure. No, I get it. I always I like and I like in this kind of what you're talking about there. The energy kind of flowing through you uncontrolled on unbidden, as it were, right, because you don't, you're not you're not kind of expecting it. But then it shows up the way that it did for you.
  • 00:22:21I liken it to like anime right like because there's always some like crazy guy that's got like all this energy coming through his eyes like
  • 00:22:29Blowing everything up and it's not until he finds this mastery find somebody you can talk to is like hey, you gotta figure
  • user avatarMona Loring00:22:35Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:22:36You gotta figure this out. And then it becomes like this ultra powerful dude that's got like a few special power moves right like your intuition and like you know like your sham and and like some of this other stuff.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:22:48It's I'm laughing as you say that because I was just telling my son, he was begging me to play the new Star Wars game with them.
  • 00:22:56And he's like, Mom, I just think you like it. They speak your language and
  • 00:22:59I have to meditate and recharge and and I as I started playing it with him and I started to see Star Wars in a different light which I've seen it this way, way sooner but it's it's so amazing to me how Sci Fi is based on so much truth and based on how things really work.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:23:17You know,
  • 00:23:18Behind the Star Wars. Right.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:23:20Which
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:00:06Hey,
  • user avatarMona Loring00:00:07Hey,
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:00:08How are you
  • user avatarMona Loring00:00:09I'm good, how are you
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:00:10I'm doing well well enough for
  • 00:00:13mid May covert mid May right
  • 00:00:17How you doing today.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:00:18Oh babe in May.
  • 00:00:21I've been just working slowly but surely today and all going well. So, can't complain.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:00:28Nice.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:00:29I hear so many people that are just out of work. So it's like to even have work to do. I'm like,
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:00:34Right, right. Like, I mean, I can't
  • 00:00:38I don't know. I can't imagine like trying to think about being out of work and trying to find work during all this stuff right
  • 00:00:47It was it was
  • user avatarMona Loring00:00:48Rough yeah
  • 00:00:49Yeah, nobody knows what they're gonna do next. And I think that's all part of this, though. We just have to lean into it.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:00:56And he's got a lot of cool stuffs gonna happen. Right. I mean, a lot of cool stuffs gonna happen just a, you know, kind of, gotta just like you said, lean into it and
  • 00:01:05Do it right. Well, what else, what else, what else can you do right just
  • 00:01:09And look, there's the there's going to be moments of pain and whatever. But that's all theoretical growth if that's what you're into.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:01:20A true
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:01:21Right, right. Well, so look I'm super excited. Do this. Thank you. Thanks for hopping on
  • 00:01:27You know, there's so much we can chat about and and we will so
  • 00:01:35I'm gonna, you know, kind of do an intro on you and
  • 00:01:39I'm going to kind of bounce around your three or three different things, right.
  • 00:01:43There enough
  • 00:01:44Because I could forget something else in mind.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:01:46I'm gonna go with your flow. I'm good.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:01:50All right, well, you asked for.
  • 00:02:00Hey there. I've never done an intro for spiritual dope. But this is it. This is the intro for spiritual dope and today I have with me, Mona Loring who is a she's a PR
  • 00:02:13Well, you're a founder right you own the business right you on a couple of PR businesses MLC pr, which is a boutique public relations firm specializing and tailored publicity services and, you know, one of the lines in this as I was checking it out. I loved it was a you're talking about
  • 00:02:32The is the line because I loved it.
  • 00:02:36I know there it was with ability vigor and charisma. I just loved how you run your business and I thought that was an I love that.
  • 00:02:44And you also have conscious living pr, which is due to your own personal passion for the mind, body, and spirit connection you felt like there was a hole in the market that was able to connect these areas with mainstream press to manage the brands and individuals.
  • 00:03:00Within them properly. Right. Let's chat a little bit about that one, and then
  • 00:03:05As if you didn't have anything else to do with being a mother, first and foremost on top of all this, right, you've got this demonic energy work which you've got over here on conscious healing co where you do life coaching spiritual coaching energy work and all the things you
  • 00:03:24Think why don't you know somebody, somebody like where do you find the time
  • 00:03:28And I think, you know, at least it is for me when when some of these things, you're so passionate about. That's what lights you up. That's what gives you the energy to do it, you're like, Oh, I get to go do that.
  • 00:03:48Thanks for joining me today. This is like a power punch. What
  • 00:03:51Is something. What is something like we can celebrate for you. What's a spiritual high. Let's start off on a spiritual high. What's this recently.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:04:00Spiritual high that I've had recently. That's an interesting question. A spiritual I
  • 00:04:07I mean I feel like so many things are spiritual high I think anything going right as a spiritual. Hi, I'm the first thing that came to my mind. So I'm going to honor that was a client referring me to another client because they love what I've done for them.
  • 00:04:24That's a spiritual high because it was for my my healing work. So it's specifically that way to
  • 00:04:29I'm nothing feels better than someone thinking that you know you've helped them so much they want to have somebody else.
  • 00:04:38Be able to benefit from the work you do. Because, you know, again, we'll get into, and I'm sure but
  • 00:04:42The reason I do the healing work is simply because I want to see other people heal because I know how rough life can be, you know, and so when someone saying, hey, can I give your information to a friend because you've helped me out so much like
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:05:00Yeah, no, I love that. Right. I mean, I think that kind of validates the work that you do too. Right. You're like, you're like, Oh my gosh, I really am helping people up to the point where like they've got to tell their friends about me. Right.
  • 00:05:10Yeah.
  • 00:05:22Is, you know, finding people such as yourself that have out within unlike this calling to do so much more and giving some disregard to the the norm normal constraints right of, hey, this is how you do it. These are aligned you stay within these lines.
  • 00:05:38And to be okay.
  • 00:05:39You're going to make through you're going to make it through the end of life. You may not like knock it out, but you're going to get there, fairly safe now what you've done is you said you know what, that's not how I feel. This is a feel right.
  • 00:05:52I feel like I got to do this thing that's within me, and it is outside alarms.
  • 00:05:57Now, number one, let's talk about like you're you're deciding to honor that. And I think, on top of that in the role that you've got right like you you manage high profile people right and and then you got to be like, but my heart says this, let's talk about
  • user avatarMona Loring00:06:15Well, I, there were so many different things. You said that was spawning different thoughts in my mind. But I mean, let's start with just the fact that you started saying
  • 00:06:25You know, following your heart and and working outside of the norm and not having to necessarily stay within coloring within the lines, you know,
  • 00:06:33Um, that's been an interesting experience for me, quite honestly, if I if I really look back my whole career in PR, at least, because
  • 00:06:43I started out teaching myself publicity and that's at least back then, it was really unheard of, usually you would go get a job at a big PR firm, you'd intern for a while, and you'd be an assistant for years and then you'd move up.
  • 00:06:56And with me, I realized now. It was my calling. Because I just
  • 00:07:01Fell into it. You know, I had someone who said, hey, is the work you're doing PR because I really need a publicist, and I said, No, I'm actually a journalist. That's the opposite of PR and she said, that's all right. Don't worry about it. You're smart. You'll figure it out and
  • 00:07:23That just like you follow the lines. And it's like, dot, dot, dot, put it all together. And it's been Spirit just guiding me. You know what I mean, like those I'm looking at those like number of
  • 00:07:31Things that turn into a picture after a while, but you have no idea where you're going at the beginning. Feels like that.
  • 00:07:35Yeah. And so really from the start. I never followed any rules and I really did. Just follow my instinct. I remember really early on.
  • 00:07:45Meeting with this one client and
  • 00:08:01I go with my gut and he was like that just feels like BS. And I was like, that's the furthest thing from me, you know. I just know what I should be doing for you, you know, um, I think that I've just always followed what feels good.
  • 00:08:15And if something felt really wrong. I looked at it, you know, was it my own fear was it wrong because it really isn't right for me, whatever that may be. And
  • 00:08:26If I felt like it's just really not right for me and I let it go.
  • 00:08:30And that's kind of been the progression with my talent agency of just letting things go that we're feeling forced or not right for me.
  • 00:08:37I don't care how big of an A Lister you are. I don't care what you've done. If you're not a good person. If you don't light me up if I don't get excited working on you.
  • 00:08:46Know amount of money, no amount of cloud means anything to me, and people are starting to become more and more like that. I definitely have colleagues that think like that, that I was in my world. I felt like I was the only one at the beginning when
  • 00:08:59You know, I shifted everything over. And I started conscious living and I caught my talentless down and people thought it was nuts. They were like, okay, the scrolls cracking up she's
  • 00:09:11She's starting some hippy dippy PR
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:09:14Firm, you know peace man hope everyone
  • user avatarMona Loring00:09:17But it's what I knew would light me up. I did feel like I had a hole in my heart. I felt like, you know, I'm doing all of this work right now and I didn't feel
  • 00:09:29It's weird because I didn't feel appreciated. But it wasn't appreciation. I was looking for. It was like that fulfillment. I didn't feel fulfilled right and
  • 00:09:38So when I started conscious living it definitely had a hiccups. It wasn't just like smooth sailing took a while to really get that running
  • 00:09:47But at the end of the day, it just feels so right that I have both because I feel like I
  • 00:10:07Um, but it's I just feel like anytime you feel like you need to stay within the confines of what you're expected to do. I'm trying to go back to your, to your original question, you know.
  • 00:10:22you limit yourself and I just feel like this week. I feel like we've had this conversation before were truly humans are pretty unlimited, you know, at the end of the day, like we really don't have any limits, other than what we set ourselves energy is limitless, you know,
  • 00:10:38We're all energy then we're technically. All right.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:10:41Yeah yeah yeah like I mean when you when you kind of when you when you boil it down even even like your whole body is
  • 00:10:50Some type of energy, right, like, and so the end of the day, like when you when you like I'll catch myself. Anyways, I say this myself like well I feel a little tired feel around. I'm like, wait a second. I am literally energy and I just like I boost myself right
  • user avatarMona Loring00:11:06A really good way to tell myself that makes me feel
  • 00:11:11Yeah, truly limitless. But, I mean, I think I, I love, I love how you kind of view.
  • 00:11:26Was that an intentional thought then or is that something where you look back now. We're like, you know what, and I also think about this other one from Jim Rome, like you focused on the few that were meaningful right and they
  • 00:11:38Are the ones that kind of lowers the most they're the ones that fulfilled you they're the ones that
  • 00:11:43Were honor your time and appreciate your time and, you know, kind of like a pretty flower garden or something, man. You know what I mean, just like that.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:11:52That's
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:11:52Kind of how it worked out.
  • 00:11:53Right, yeah, once you let go over, like all the shade throwers
  • user avatarMona Loring00:11:59Another yeah yeah
  • 00:12:01And you know, I don't wanna, I don't wanna. I don't want to. What's the I don't WANT to hate on I hate. I don't like that term, but I'm gonna use it again think of something else right now.
  • 00:12:09Right. But I don't WANT to hate on anybody that I had let go. In the past, but I would. It would be so sad for them to look back on this and feel rejected by me or
  • 00:12:17Feel like I'm more than I think I'm better than them or anything.
  • 00:12:20Sometimes it's not even that you're bad people. I saw this post the other day and it was so true.
  • 00:12:25Sometimes it's not that you know the relationship you broke up with that person's a bad person, or, you know, if you let go of an employee that they're a bad employee. Sometimes you just
  • 00:12:44And if you either. Wait. First of all, something turns out
  • 00:12:47Back. It could be a blessing or less than either way. Right.
  • 00:12:50And it doesn't mean that these people that I have let go, you know, when I'm hearing this, in my mind, I'm like, no, it's not that they were all. Some of them are
  • 00:12:59All bad right it
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:13:00Should
  • user avatarMona Loring00:13:01Feel right they were the ones where I was like, you know, I feel like you have somebody else that needs to be in charge of your PR career. It's
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:13:08not you, it's me. Yeah, there's a reason why it's the same people who are totally nervous about confronting people
  • user avatarMona Loring00:13:16But that's not me know genuinely though. You know what I mean, like,
  • 00:13:20I look back and I there's people that I let go of or you know that I've been let go from that.
  • 00:13:28I root for them still to this day I'm fans of theirs. They're wonderful people they're brilliant actors, but
  • 00:13:34They're not supposed to be on my path, you know,
  • 00:13:36And letting that go
  • 00:13:38And having that open up the space that's something I try to teach my clients and my energy clients. I'll specify which
  • 00:13:47You know, you have got to let
  • 00:13:50Negativity and energy that's draining you that's not positive in your system. Go and allow room for more so, so many people are like, why can I manifest this, why can I have this. I've been working so far for
  • 00:14:03X y AMP z and I can't get it and it's like, well, what do you, what do you need to let go of first room here.
  • 00:14:10So you know if its energy than things fill up right and I seen on people's energy bodies and a lot of times when people are looking to manifest. I will see places where they need to let go of something and certain chakra, for example.
  • 00:14:26And we let that go and put light in. And that light can then be the energy to magnetically pull. What you want to you.
  • 00:14:34But if you're if you're holding in that that dark that you think that it would magnetically pull anything you know if anything is going to pull you think opposites attract, it doesn't work that way.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:14:47Well, you know, a
  • 00:14:51The whole letting go thing, right, because people are afraid to let go of of this in so many different like the energy they built up everything.
  • 00:15:01everything they've done to get to this point to Scott them so tense. They want to hold on to that, like, Oh, I gotta keep all of this, whereas like Manny. I'm going to just need to let go. Some of this shit and once like it's like breathing out right like when you take a deep breath.
  • 00:15:16It's actually when you breathe out that you actually feel better, not everything you take in. It's like
  • 00:15:20I'm like over like super tense and we let it out like wow I just relax when I let it out.
  • 00:15:26So, so I mean I liken it to that. Right. So you're just saying
  • 00:15:32What so. All right, so you you jump over into, like, you know, this conscious living aspect and you know was there fear in doing that or did you do it gradually
  • 00:15:44It was a. Was it a full immersion and talk to us a little bit about like kind of transitioning or adding it into your life and what that was like.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:15:52So, it
  • 00:15:54Very few things in my life were a slow transition. It's just not how I work. I'm can't say that that's necessarily right for everybody, but it's just how I am so
  • 00:16:05I had, in a way, felt it coming in, you know, over the past six months before I started conscious living that
  • 00:16:12Something was missing. I didn't feel fulfilled, of course, those feelings were there, but I didn't know
  • 00:16:16What I needed to do from that because I knew at the end of the day, I still love talent PR, but I don't always love it. What's going on, and it was just that I needed another element right
  • 00:16:24And so when I decided to do it. I was just literally it was Labor Day weekend and I was meditating on a beach on the Central Coast and I was just like,
  • 00:16:34What do I need to know what do I need to do. Why do I feel like this. Why do I feel lost
  • 00:16:39Everything like, you know, they always say, you know, if you if you just look back at what you had always wanted. And you realize that you have it now, you would have been so happy, you know, and
  • 00:16:48I realized that I was like, I literally have the clients of my dreams I have money I have employees. I have, you know, I want for nothing. Technically, but that's material. Sure.
  • 00:16:58And what does that really right. So I got the download like started another company don't have to let anything go, you just want more start a company and I didn't get the name, but it was along the lines of, I knew it was like conscious or something about life and
  • 00:17:14I knew that I needed to start something with mind body spirit work. I knew I wanted to be involved with people who had that same mindset. And I also knew that there was a shift happening.
  • 00:17:26That would create a space where those people needed to be promoted, you know, so when I decided to do it. I kid you not, I built that website all on my home one weekend and I hired an employee to come work with me. Within a week and we have clients within I'm gonna say two weeks.
  • 00:17:46And like I said it wasn't completely smooth sailing. If you know things happen.
  • 00:17:50But I got it up pretty quickly. So it was definitely not really a transition period.
  • 00:17:56And I you know I wrote an email to all my existing clients and
  • 00:18:00You know, I just, I thank them for being amazing I told them, you might start hearing things about me because I'm dropping other clients. And people might think I've cracked up but
  • 00:18:09You know, I'm still me. I'm still who I am. If anything, I'm just, I feel like I understand things more clear. And I'm more clarity and of course the right people I embrace it with open arms and they were gracious and said, you know, thanks for believing in me back and
  • 00:18:24It was awesome. So I just felt completely right, as it all developed
  • 00:18:41Kind of an epiphany moment where you said, Hey, I'm tapped into spirituality like super strong.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:18:49You know, I wondered about awakening moments because I see other people's mine was really hardcore and out of nowhere and at a pretty young age.
  • 00:19:02So it's hard to compare it to other things later in life that have sort of reawakens me. But if I had to kind of track my costs, it would be. I always laugh because I can't believe this is what did it, but it was literally a leaderboard. I'm like,
  • 00:19:21Oh my god, really. But, um, I got the leaderboard, I think it was for my 13th birthday. It was like eighth grade or something and played it with some friends, you know, and you start to think like, oh, just pushing it. Laughing You know which boy like to. And, you know, all those things.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:19:39Right.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:19:40And then it started to I would have the board away and I haven't tucked away and then I started to
  • 00:19:46Hear things and feel things and and that was like it hit me like a ton of bricks. It was very strange and
  • 00:19:53I realized that I could see energy and I was aware of things. And I could feel I'm very attuned to vibration
  • 00:20:01And so I could feel the energy of like a bed or a table and kind of buzzing, and it was very strange and it scared me a lot.
  • 00:20:10And you know, when you're a kid, especially when you haven't been educated and there's nothing online. There's no such thing as the Internet really at that age. I don't think it was around even maybe just a while was just starting
  • 00:20:24And
  • 00:20:26Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:20:27Yeah, I didn't know how to look into any of it. You got mail. I didn't want to look into any of it. And so I just
  • user avatarMona Loring00:20:35Looking back, it's kind of cool because I had to just experience everything on my own and everything that Spirit told me
  • 00:20:42That I had told my friends, I have some friends that knew me then that still know me now. And they're like, How did you know that. How did you know it's trippy stuff.
  • 00:20:50Um, but of course I do wish at times like I could go to my mom, who was really spiritual or something. And she'd be like, he's like, my son, he's very spiritual and I'll ask me things. And I'm like, Oh, I got you. This is why or whatever, you know,
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:21:02So, your mom is pretty spiritual into that space as well.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:21:05Mom is is very spiritual, but she was not she was a little bit more, a little bit more religious and spiritual. She had a Muslim faith and now she's
  • 00:21:15A lot more spiritual and not really religious but no she she would tell me things like, I see God is a light and it's not a person and like she would give me, things like that. Um, but
  • 00:21:28No, I had no idea this was going on. I actually came up to my parents late about how my spiritual work you know came around, like I just told them this past year I had friends that you, you know, definitely.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:21:41There's like
  • user avatarMona Loring00:21:42terrified about like
  • 00:21:44judging me and wondering like,
  • 00:21:46Sure. My daughter is crazy, but the but it was hilarious. When I finally told them, they're like, read me it was like hilarious. It was
  • 00:21:54Awesome.
  • 00:21:56That's great. Um,
  • 00:21:57But the problem I had during my spiritual awakening was that
  • 00:22:05I didn't know the difference between dark and light. And I didn't. I also didn't know what I know now, have you need dark for life and it's all about the balance and that's okay.
  • 00:22:17And it's not only if you're only going to light and you only deal with the light
  • 00:22:27And so when I was younger. It scared me because all I knew were things that you hear in books or see in movies, right, and you
  • 00:22:45So I put it aside after high school because it was really so consuming. You know, I remember look back and I will remember being in like Spanish class.
  • 00:22:55And automatic writing you know just literally just having spirit go through me and just automatic writing. I can't remember. I wish I'd kept those things.
  • 00:23:05You know, just writing what Spirit wants me to know and telling me things about my friends and their souls and their soul growth and it was very big on souls and soul growth and
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:23:16Do you feel like you'd be able to tap into that like anytime now.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:23:23I, for some reason, and of course it's come up with a lot of the medium ship work I've done and then the courses. I've taken and I'm you know I have friends. You and I have one in common.
  • 00:23:35That can let spirit kind of
  • 00:23:38Come really close or within and kind of speaker, but I think because of the past that I had and the lack of control and when I know now that this is all energy and it's all about control and I just want a positive light. And I want it the way I want, I don't want to go there.
  • 00:23:54Um, but I know for a fact that I could
  • 00:23:58Probably channel things pretty easily. I just, it's not what I'm doing what I do.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:24:03Sure. No, I get it. I always I like and I like in this kind of what you're talking about there. The energy kind of flowing through you uncontrolled on unbidden, as it were, right, because you don't, you're not you're not kind of expecting it. But then it shows up the way that it did for you.
  • 00:24:20I liken it to like anime right like because there's always some like crazy guy that's got like all this energy coming through his eyes like
  • 00:24:28Blowing everything up and it's not until he finds this mastery find somebody you can talk to is like hey, you gotta figure
  • user avatarMona Loring00:24:34Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:24:35You gotta figure this out. And then it becomes like this ultra powerful dude that's got like a few special power moves right like your intuition and like you know like your sham and and like some of this other stuff.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:24:47It's I'm laughing as you say that because I was just telling my son, he was begging me to play the new Star Wars game with them.
  • 00:24:55And he's like, Mom, I just think you like it. They speak your language and
  • 00:24:58I have to meditate and recharge and and I as I started playing it with him and I started to see Star Wars in a different light which I've seen it this way, way sooner but it's it's so amazing to me how Sci Fi is based on so much truth and based on how things really work.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:25:16You know,
  • 00:25:17Behind the Star Wars. Right.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:25:19Which
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:25:19Were you Joseph Campbell, right, like the whole his
  • user avatarMona Loring00:25:23So just, okay, yes, yes, yes, yes.
  • 00:25:25But I look
  • 00:25:26What was he did he, what do you mean, kind of, in what way.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:25:29Well, so
  • 00:25:31There is no George Lucas based pretty much the whole premise.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:25:34I was wondering if somehow either involvement. Okay.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:25:37Yeah, so I know that for a very long time, actually the hero's journey like
  • user avatarMona Loring00:25:42I know
  • 00:25:43Now the the connection to Star Wars and not until I don't even know last year. Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:25:49Well, so, so I you know probably vaguely heard about it not heard about like the hero's journey, a couple of times. And it wasn't until I watched that, you know, PBS special that they have on Netflix with with him and like
  • 00:26:02He's so awesome. I'm like, like, you know, there's so many great people that hit dead. I'm like, so pissed. Like, you know,
  • 00:26:09Going back like Wayne Dyer Alan Watts and and like you know just so can we like what
  • 00:26:15You guys could you couldn't wait like 10 more minutes.
  • 00:26:18Right. You know what I mean. Um, but yeah. So yeah, it's, it's
  • 00:26:21When you can see it through the lens that you're talking about, you're seeing it to like this other lens and
  • 00:26:27It's very, it's very much that cliche. Well, when you know when the student is ready, the master will appear.
  • 00:26:33Like you're like, yo,
  • 00:26:35Yo, you were so on top of things.
  • 00:26:40That's great. Um, yeah. So I wanted to want to ask you just kind of like, so I got this this weird book.
  • 00:26:47It's called weird because I'd never heard of it before and then I picked it up and it's like, is this really based off of like orthodox like Christianity and this guy also Carl, whereas the Carl call free graph Durkheim, he spent some time spent about 10 years with
  • 00:27:03Zen Buddhist in Japan, like like 30s and 40s, RIGHT. SO HE WAS KIND OF
  • 00:27:08Hanging he was probably hanging out with watts. I'm guessing at some point. Right. But there's a couple of lines in here that, like, you know, really, really struck me and I'm just gonna, I'm just curious if they kind of resonate with you. Right.
  • 00:27:19We talked about the limitations. Right. The once you realize there's no limitations or you're limitless as a human being. Right. I mean, so before him now are open stages of maturity on a path with no boundaries. Right. Like, I mean,
  • 00:27:32How does somebody know this stuff right like
  • 00:27:36Before him now are now open stages of maturity on a path with no boundaries, right, like, and that talks limitless.
  • 00:27:44Right. Um, let's find the other one because. So, this you know you talk about, like, you know, kind of getting wrapped up and it was all too much like at a certain point and this is the, the whole thing my awakening.
  • 00:27:58Aspect didn't happen prior to like about three or four years ago right and
  • 00:28:03You know, it was like a punch in the gut. And I was like, What is going on now. I had the benefit of having a hippie mom, I was born in San Francisco. Like I had like all the like I was like oh shit this is everything that I'd heard about then laugh that
  • 00:28:18Right.
  • 00:28:20But, you know, so, but this is this is the line right life no longer turns around, man. But around divine being and its manifestation. Right. Like, I mean, so that's
  • 00:28:29Right, like where you realize there's there's a something's missing. It's like the divine aspect and like once you know that kind of did you get right i mean you're wrapped up around it. Now, right, like that's what gives you life my inner out. What do you think
  • user avatarMona Loring00:28:45In what way, what do I think about which far
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:28:47I mean, you know, so I mean you're no longer kind of wrapped around like the the
  • user avatarMona Loring00:28:51Attachments and man.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:28:53Just demand stuff right like it's like it's like really what's driving life is like the divine light in you or you know something along those lines, right, like that's the greater driving force.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:29:05I mean my again my head goes in so many directions with that, um,
  • 00:29:11YOU KNOW, IT'S FOR ME. IT THE POWERFUL PART OF THAT was the manifestation hub and you know I'm going so many places because of what I just recently read to
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:29:23What do you recently read
  • user avatarMona Loring00:29:24Well, I was reading about a little bit more about the fifth dimension.
  • 00:29:29And I was reading about parallel lives.
  • 00:29:31Hmm. And so I'm like, I'm like, you're like oh no you're taking me somewhere else, right now, but
  • 00:29:35To do it.
  • 00:29:36Um,
  • user avatarMona Loring00:29:38It just made me think of how you know we we think for so much of our lives, because we're conditioned. We think that what we are is just what our body is right, and the man, the
  • 00:29:49See, and what we actually see
  • 00:29:51Which is so funny to me because when you stop and think about it so much of what we don't see we take as reality, too. But then when spirit comes into it for like
  • 00:30:01You know,
  • 00:30:03And I just recently did read about how people don't question dreams.
  • 00:30:08And then dreams are real and you have a dream, but yet, how does that, how do you know it's real, it's the same thing as someone just telling you that they have
  • 00:30:16But yeah everybody accepts that right. Um, so this was just leading me down the rabbit hole of thought of, you know, Parallel Lives and just how
  • 00:30:29It's not the body, it's, it's this the soul, and how many lives each soul has and spawns and there's so many different than
  • 00:30:37The old different markets, but, um, you know, also, I'm thinking about how
  • 00:30:45Oh, man. It's so funny when you get me started. It's hilarious. I'm like, I need to. I need to really think about where I want to go and what I want to tell you because I wanted to so many different things, but you know just what you think becomes right
  • 00:30:58And so I think this is another part and what that quote was saying is, you know,
  • 00:31:04You manifest what your life is. I mean, I tell my clients all the time what you think you become and earlier you had kind of said something along the lines of
  • 00:31:14Something about scarcity with my business. And, you know, was I afraid and, you know, for some reason, one of the most I'm so grateful for this gift and personality trait, but I've never been afraid of luck.
  • 00:31:26I've never been afraid of scarcity. I've always just been like, well, if I think I can do it. I can do it.
  • 00:31:32That's nice. And it is nice and I'm very grateful for that. Because I know that it's difficult. If you can't, and there's been times where that stumped me more recently than not, which has been really interesting, but I'm
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:31:44Gonna be a curious.
  • 00:31:45Point to when when you when you're stumped. You like well, like you said that that doesn't make any sense. This isn't, this isn't so there's something in that right like what what is there, like, you know,
  • user avatarMona Loring00:31:57locking it
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:31:57Yeah.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:31:59You know, so
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:31:59I mean, so, as you know, I think that's an interesting question two is like as a as a sham. And as a light worker somebody that's intuitive medium, who do you go to when you need up
  • user avatarMona Loring00:32:13Man, I have some amazing people that I guess you know
  • 00:32:15And I want to, I want to correct one thing I don't call myself a Sean I'm I'm semantically trained. I feel like the identity of a shaman is something different. And you know, it's, I believe in certain ways, it's indigenous and I
  • 00:32:33Don't want to take that on for myself.
  • 00:32:36Here also, because
  • 00:32:37With the training that I've had. I have kind of turned it into my own thing.
  • 00:32:42And through these beautiful you know I'm Nancy right now. Who do I go to
  • 00:32:46Their my teachers and who I go to they've taught me so many different pieces of what spirit is because there's no one right way to work with spirit, there's no one right way to work with energy, you know,
  • 00:32:58It's literally like going into get a massage and you're like, You want sweetest we're trying to monetize this is all
  • 00:33:03Right. But there's different ways that people do it. And it's the same thing with spirit. I'm, I'm going to give a major shout out to one of my mentors and friends, Andre
  • 00:33:12Um, you can find them that fine Andre on Instagram and He's incredible and he's all about energy frequency healing and it's been interesting with him, be one of my teachers because he's, he's like a Mr. Miyagi in the sense of how he did not answer.
  • 00:33:32I want to see me. I want to make sure and accurate and saying any any of my questions. Never. I would ask the question, what do you think
  • 00:33:41Oh, gosh. To me in six months. It was so frustrating.
  • 00:33:45Um, and I get it now. And I get his. It's his way of working with people. And I just, I feel I always think, like, Man, if I did that to people they like, get out of here. I'm never going to talk to you again. But he's
  • 00:33:55He's so good at it and you know he's so incredible with what he does with energy, um, he can do some incredible healing for people with just a very light touch. I mean, you can't walk straight just barely touching and there are, it's incredible look him up.
  • 00:34:11You know, I listened to it. I thought I checked out your podcast with them you know that you to talk
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:34:16Is really nice and you know it was nice because you can tell you guys had, you know, a nice bond, a nice connection.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:34:22Right, yeah. He's, he's like a big brother is really amazing person. And he has really given me the the confidence to go into healing. When I was like, you know, limiting myself a publicist supposed to do, why would I do healing to and people will take me seriously as a publicist it
  • 00:34:42Took me
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:34:43Like how does it
  • 00:34:44wasn't him, it was, it was a hit me so you know cuz. Look, I remember. Um, when I when I was first my first kind of foray into the space, right.
  • 00:34:52Very similar feelings. Right.
  • 00:34:54Moms with coaching father's right and I was like, who why what gives me the audacity right
  • 00:35:00Why to say like, you know, I should be a coach day right
  • 00:35:03Right, good coach, whatever.
  • 00:35:06As you can tell, awesome at it, um,
  • 00:35:11But it was like and and the coach that has like will you do, you know, just, you've got to give yourself the permission to be great. You know who else is going to do it for you. If you're not
  • 00:35:20Yeah, you're if you're expecting somebody else to give you permission to be great. Like, you're always going to be waiting
  • 00:35:26Yeah.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:35:29That's exactly it. And I don't want to interrupt you. What, what was
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:35:32So, I mean, how, how did you blow past it. Right.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:35:36Yeah and you know
  • 00:35:40I initially started doing this. I mean, first of all, I've been doing it again since I was 13 on and off with friends.
  • 00:35:47Um, you know, there were times where I i've always been studying. I've always been exploring it, but when I took the dive into actually doing it as a profession I was only last year.
  • 00:35:58And it was after working with friends, you know, on the DL working with family and just being like okay, can you just like
  • 00:36:06One more time, just make sure you tell me I'm not bullshit. You know, am I, can I really do this and I just really like predict this because I don't want to tell somebody on the psychic if I'm just
  • 00:36:14You know, like you, if the self doubt is so real. And for me, there was so much self doubt at the beginning because I take it so seriously, I take what people
  • 00:36:24Believe in the spirit world so seriously and I never ever want to mix myself up or seem like I'm a charlatan and
  • 00:36:32When anybody who's like that because people are always after money for the quick buck saying something about energy. Your Spirit and God I run into them all the time. And that was where I just needed to make sure that I was legit.
  • 00:36:44And I realized the best way to be legit is to be pure of heart.
  • 00:36:48You know, like if you just genuinely care for that person's well be right.
  • 00:36:53Here it will not let you steer you the wrong way. I mean, there's been days where I spirit was like let me take the wheel and literally like, I'm just holding that space. And I'm like, watching one of my spirit guides work on this person. It's incredible.
  • 00:37:07Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:37:08You know, reminds me of, well, first of all, know you and I talked before before today a little bit. And we talked about stepping into the space and how it just kind of opens up for you once you
  • 00:37:20open yourself up to it, right, kind of thing. I know that sounds like you know some other mythical line.
  • 00:37:27But
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:37:28I was reading the you know the Michael singer.
  • 00:37:32Surrender experiment right where he talks about, you know,
  • 00:37:37Maybe he recognized when he let go, that
  • 00:37:41Like Mother Nature whatever was going to give them so much more than he'd ever dreamed possible by by kind of settings, his own standards, right. Have you found that kind of yourself to be something true
  • user avatarMona Loring00:37:54Absolutely. And I think the most common theme for me is just trust the universe and spirit and
  • 00:38:02That's within my own life and what I'm doing. And let me tell you all day long. We can have a whole podcast episode about how I've been doing it with Ovid, right. Um, but yeah i just i think that
  • 00:38:15You really do need to. I think that's why people say surrender to spirit surrender to God or whatever. And it sounds so intense, and it sounds so scary. And it's like, Okay, are you joining a call. Like, what does this mean right
  • 00:38:26Right, it's different. It's not surrendering and letting something lead you. You still have free will. You can think for yourself doesn't feel right. Don't do it, but it's just that trust. I think it just means trust, you know, and
  • 00:38:40I think that just for me. I have to just sometimes I'm
  • 00:38:47Being a publicist and being a healer is really weird because you have to completely
  • 00:38:52Different personalities. You know, when I'm in PR and I mean obviously I'm not one of those really gentle ethical fairy areas healers and you can tell like I'm a little bit more on the
  • 00:39:02Side. So at least the public is still there. And that way, but I mean my voice changes when I'm going to healing.
  • 00:39:08session with people. I'm softer I'm slower.
  • 00:39:12And as a publicist you're intense and it's cocoa and how you get it done and you know
  • 00:39:16And so when I switched to being a healer, I have to just surrender to spirit. Just what do you need me to do. What are you showing me
  • 00:39:24You know, where do I see this energy that's hurting someone were to what, like, what is it, just show me.
  • 00:39:29I'm not doing any of them myself. First of all, so if you want to heal yourself or be a healer or get into anything that's spiritual. You have to trust spirit because
  • 00:39:39If you're going to be one of those people, which I have them in my family and they've come a long way because of, you know, seeing me. And luckily, trusting to work with spirit more but you know if you're if you're gonna sit here with your arms crossed, like, oh, show me.
  • 00:39:53Show me. Yeah, you're not going to see anything.
  • 00:39:55We're really are. And then when you let go and you trust, and this is why it's great for some people. I'm not advocating for everyone but plant medicine is really great for some people, because
  • 00:40:05It takes away all those inhibitions and you're not sitting there in your thought brain and you're you're stuck in your ego mind and, you know, thinking, well, logically, this and that, you know, you're just letting go and you're feeling and you're seeing
  • 00:40:17And if you do that, you do not need plant medicine for any of that. But if you do that spirit will show you, you know, but you have to first take the first step forward and trust.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:40:28You gotta be, you know, what's the awful of all the lines, right, you know, open, open, open everything and attached to nothing. Right.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:40:36Yes.
  • 00:40:37All right. Ah.
  • 00:40:39And
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:40:40You know,
  • 00:40:41We also talked a little bit about like now. So it opens up for you. Once you accept it. But, you know, then you got the people that are trying to manifest
  • 00:40:49With with such great intensity like you were talking about earlier to when somebody like
  • 00:40:54I just keep trying and some people that can't let go, but it's also when they're trying so hard to force it. They're trying to force it themselves. They're trying to use their own personal energy right and versus, you know,
  • 00:41:06Alan Watts on you know Trust the universe is another right you know just trust the universe is another and and or, you know, the whole let go and let God
  • user avatarMona Loring00:41:17Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:41:18Yeah, you know, you know, you're like, you're like, Did that really just come out of your mouth and yeah just came out of my mouth like, let go, let God, why would you say it because it works.
  • 00:41:27Yeah, um, and with lol thing, right.
  • 00:41:31A LAW of ATTRACTION bit right
  • 00:41:35Look for evidence of it like you were talking about before, right, you got somebody like
  • user avatarMona Loring00:41:40Not yeah
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:41:41Not on my watch.
  • 00:41:42Right, so you know like you talk a little bit about looking for evidence of it, right, like if you're if you're trying to be in that space. Tell us a little bit about that. What's that look like
  • user avatarMona Loring00:41:54So this is so funny. Everything asked me, am I, man. I need a whole podcast episode or just this. But all right, bite size pieces so I love
  • 00:42:05Law of Attraction and manifestation. And I think that's truly why a anything exists and I'm for better for worse, why good exists and why that exists, you know, and I think that
  • 00:42:22What people don't realize is, they only do a few steps of like the whole list of what you need to do to manifest
  • 00:42:29Um, and it's it's hard. I mean, I'm sitting here preaching to the choir and I'll tell clients, what they need to do.
  • 00:42:35But there's times where I'm lying and I'm lost in my own self limiting beliefs. Again, or my energy in a certain way and I'm locking myself from manifesting too.
  • 00:42:44Because we're human, and we get in our own way. That is the number one thing humans do best, get in their own way, but
  • 00:42:50I think that really what's so important is just being in that vibration
  • 00:42:55And you know, I even with my psychic work. You know, it's all about kind of the tuning to that radio station is how I explain it, you know, and just getting into this vibration
  • 00:43:04And Law of Attraction is one of the easier vibrations to be in. Because at the end of the day, if you are in gratitude and if you are in love.
  • 00:43:13There's no wrong way. If you are as as often as you can. And it's kind of the tipping scale.
  • 00:43:19Where it's like if you're more love than anything else, you're still going to tip it over and it's going to help you out and you're going to be on that vibration. So you don't even have to be perfect. That's why it's so easy. You know, I'm
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:43:30Lucky. Yes.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:43:32It's for me. One thing I do to just stay in it as often as I can.
  • 00:43:37Obviously, it helps. Now that I'm doing so much more healing work because that's keeping my vibration up and just helping people in the love I feel for people and
  • 00:43:45You know, meditation and all of that. But that aside. Let's say I wasn't doing that for me before I really got into a day to day
  • 00:43:52I would go on Instagram and just follow really high vibe people and highlight things and follow you know places. I want to go on vacation that I love and follow you know just nature pictures and that all increases your vibration listening to music that you love.
  • 00:44:11You know outside. It sounds like you're focusing on things that you wanted in your life.
  • 00:44:17Things that you, this is the thing. So with I think the first step is just things that you like that make you feel good.
  • 00:44:24That's the very first step of just
  • 00:44:26Getting to a better place because some people, they're going to you know there's practice alleyway. And they're in a dark place. And they're like, well, how do I attract this when I'm just so far from the bowl.
  • 00:44:37So that's kind of what I'm getting into it sort of like that first step of what you need to do to just almost effortlessly raise your vibration
  • 00:44:45Then of course there's the other list of things that you need to do, which is like very specifically, think about what you want, but it's tricky because while you can't be too specific, because if you're too specific. You're limiting what
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:44:57Right. Well, I mean that's that's a kind of speaking in generalities. Right. This also goes back to
  • 00:45:03You know too much focus on your own intention and trying to do it yourself. Because if you're because in that aspect. Then you're limited to what you think is possible versus what is truly possible
  • user avatarMona Loring00:45:15Yeah, well,
  • 00:45:17Exactly.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:45:19So much fun.
  • 00:45:21I'm so you know spiritual dope spiritual dope. I like the idea of, you know, just kind of
  • 00:45:31When you feel
  • 00:45:33Connected to like demanding and getting that high. Right. That's, that's, again, the premise of kind of spiritual dope. Right.
  • 00:45:41Let's talk about another spiritual dope experience, like, you know, what do you do to get your daily does your daily hit your gratitude practice your meditation.
  • 00:45:52Senior kid thrive right you have, how many children, one or two.
  • 00:45:55You too. How old are the
  • user avatarMona Loring00:45:5815 and 11 boy and a girl.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:46:00Oh man 1511 Nice, nice. And so seeing them thrive and like getting to be their mom, you know, I think that that's also
  • 00:46:09That's another one of those lines to, like, you know, was it. Children are a blessing you
  • 00:46:15Know you're like wow what a blessing. They are right. You know, I don't know. Give me something that when I haven't hit on that you would consider like a spiritual high spiritual head spiritual. Nope. Hit me with it.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:46:30I'm
  • 00:46:33Hmm. I mean, there's so many things. It's like
  • 00:46:38Such an interesting question is easy. It's so easy, but then it's complicated.
  • 00:46:43Like anything, anything that makes you really happy a spiritual dough like
  • 00:46:49You know what I mean.
  • 00:46:51Um, so then I'm like, Okay, well, let me give you something like a little bit more serious or intent, like, you know, we're talking about like gratitude and meditation and
  • 00:47:01You know,
  • 00:47:02Like I'm looking outside right now as we talk. I tend to look outside this window a lot when I do my sessions and, you know, this is your here and I look outside
  • 00:47:10It kind of gives me that zero and kind of not really being in a space and letting myself flow and I'm looking outside. I'm seeing sunlight. Sunlight spiritual though.
  • 00:47:18Yeah, well you that right now.
  • 00:47:20Or sure
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:47:22There's a line that's like a, you know, the talks about God, like you know the difference between like kind of being human with divinity is
  • 00:47:31In relation to God is like, you know, being warmed by the sun but not being the sun, right. Like, I mean, to me, that's pretty powerful. So it says right so the Son.
  • 00:47:42Who is like you know some of your all time favorites. If you're on a, you know, was I'm a big fan of high fidelity of the movie. I'm not sure if you're a john Cusack fan and
  • 00:47:53I love him so you know island all time, you know, top five. You're gonna be stuck listening to them talking to them spiritual people who are they who are they
  • user avatarMona Loring00:48:05Oh man, I thought I was questioning off and I was like,
  • 00:48:11Okay.
  • 00:48:13I'm going to go up because he he
  • 00:48:17He really broke me into truly spiritual literature and he was really kind of my first Wayne Dyer. I'm definitely him.
  • 00:48:26And he and anyone who hasn't experienced them. I would say listen to him because his voice is so soothing that that's just half of it right there. I changed my life so much more to actually start to listen to what he has to say.
  • 00:48:41Over just read what he has to say. But his power of intention was the first book I read and of his books and I thought it was brilliant. Um, who else. Okay, hold on my face. Oh, I'm literally looking at all my books around here and cheating so hard. I'm
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:49:02Going to you.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:49:04I, I really like Joe dispenser right now.
  • 00:49:07And kind of is. So it's like, oh, all time is rough, but like
  • 00:49:10I'm pretty hot on him right now, just because, um,
  • 00:49:14He, he's a tough one for some people to grasp, because in certain ways, he doesn't answer all your questions, like I was introducing my husband and my husband was like
  • 00:49:25But he doesn't explain a lot and he doesn't explain how like it's a little bit. And if you really want to like need all that detail there is a little bit of vagueness to what you say. Um, you have to. That's what spirit experience a little bit
  • 00:49:39And, you know, it is like we don't know everything, you know,
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:49:43What makes it a challenge is like how you're going to describe to somebody that's never had the experience what being filled by spirits like
  • 00:49:51Yeah, right, or or
  • 00:49:54Existing or feeling on that level, and that's where the differentials come from, from so many different spaces because you can't put that shit into words.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:50:05You can, and it's hard and you know there's there's a meditation that he he has that
  • 00:50:12I've tried to do. And I've succeeded once really well and it was mind blowing. Um, but I find what he has to say really interesting and I'm a huge believer and he breaks down into people like Gregg Gregg Braden, and
  • 00:50:26There is there so interesting.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:50:28So Greg's, the one that finally so I know I've got, like, if you remember the movie high fidelity for he's got his albums line to like chronological order, right.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:50:39Remember them. It's been a minute.
  • 00:50:41Hey man, you know,
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:50:42If you get super down on anything should go watch it because it's always
  • 00:50:45Entertaining
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:50:48But he's got the he's got his albums, like in chronological order right here. I can tell you how I got to, you know, this album to that.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:50:56Number that
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:50:57Right, so that's like that's like me. I'm like, why can tell you how I got to Alan Watts and I got to
  • 00:51:03And then I got over here into Gregg Braden. And so, Alan Watts is always talking about in Buddhism, they talk about the heart, mind connection right and man I went off on a search. I was like, I gotta find out more about this heart, mind can hardly
  • 00:51:18Google um
  • 00:51:21And and Gregg Braden did it in one of his sessions on the last gospels of Thomas
  • 00:51:28And you know, you know, you've just got to connect the two and a resonant manner and like when you've connected the two you'll know it and that's like that heart, mind connection. And that's when people like that's when
  • 00:51:41You're in full gratitude and you express a wish. I mean, that's when you're going to be like most resonant because now you've got your mind and your heart like into and and that's part of the whole heart math bit right like is
  • 00:51:51That
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:51:53Right. I mean, what else you don't need, like, I love, I love the amplification process of movies media.
  • 00:52:00Podcast. And to me, it's just like one big soapbox for me. I'm like, Well, you know, this is how I'm going to amplify my message right but you can just, you don't need all this, you can just do it with that heart, mind connection and and so Gregg Braden
  • 00:52:16So my guy.
  • 00:52:17It's like when you when you have those when you trip over those things, I think, you know, so you're talking about. I'm looking for
  • user avatarMona Loring00:52:24Cheating again with the bookcase.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:52:26You're good. So the meditation that just you did. I mean, I've been. I've been working on that one. Um, that sounds like. So is it the one that's the beginning of becoming supernatural because I've got the audio, I need the book right
  • user avatarMona Loring00:52:39I don't know if it's at the beginning of becoming supernatural. I haven't, I haven't found it in a minute. Um, but
  • 00:52:45I believe he only if I'm not mistaken, I believe he only has one true like it's always the same. He has one main meditation. That's his theory and it goes. Um, I remember how it goes like, you know, imagine the space between your temples in space.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:53:01And like
  • user avatarMona Loring00:53:02The way he says that some people are like, wait, what, like, what are you saying to me, you
  • 00:53:05Know, but if you just give yourself permission to let go and whatever that's defined us for you will work.
  • 00:53:11You know, it's a pretty interesting meditation. It's all about shooting your energy from from like your tailbone up your body. It's really interesting.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:53:18Well, I mean, so, so
  • 00:53:20Have you so he talks about like how to do that right by like I'm making this making the, you know, stomach muscles strong and like all that stuff.
  • 00:53:28Sounds like to me like Kundalini like a Kundalini practice, but also again due to my friend over here, Carl free this guy from Germany who spent the time over in Japan.
  • 00:53:43It's the same thing. It says, then is it flipped or backwards on the side. I don't know.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:53:47That's perfect.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:53:49Right. So it's the same exercise.
  • 00:53:52Which is to me. I love that because it's, you know, you're like, wow, these things. It's the same. It's the same stomach exercise like we do the meditation and get the energy know pumped up to the back of your head and giving yourself the TMT shot.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:54:06Yeah, right. Yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:54:07So I'm working on that one.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:54:11Not natural the empty.
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:54:12Right, right, guys.
  • 00:54:17That would be one I would chase for a while. Sure.
  • 00:54:19Yes, like, no, just just
  • 00:54:23Yes, but I mean you know but i wanted i want to do it will like where I don't get in trouble for having a handful of it, um,
  • 00:54:32But I love the fact that our bodies are. I mean, that's the whole you know the whole alchemy.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:54:36Aspect right i mean our
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:54:38Bodies, you know, generate all the things that we really need if if we give into it. Or if we know how to make it happen, such as
  • 00:54:50The
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:54:51Meditation that you're talking about, like, one more of your, of your top fives.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:55:00Hmm. These are some books on us. It's top five. Let's see who else
  • 00:55:06I love so many people. I'm excited that I said Wayne Dyer that goes to show he really just opened me up to the world. I love that. Um,
  • 00:55:18Who else would I say
  • 00:55:23I love that you're just watching me on this podcast looking around my office. I'm
  • 00:55:31Oh, you know what
  • 00:55:33I haven't finished yet.
  • 00:55:35I didn't finish I have so many books. I wish I could just take my computer around a show you it's everywhere.
  • 00:55:40Um, I haven't finished this book, which is crazy that I'm going to recommend it but it's because I'm a Gemini and I started a book and then I
  • 00:55:47Read half of it and I jumped to the next thing. And I'll go back to it and I have, I probably am reading about five books at one given time. I'm Autobiography of a Yogi.
  • 00:55:58Hmm.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:56:00I suggest anyone who wants to know a little bit of something about something.
  • 00:56:05So I bought that at his actual
  • 00:56:09Spiritual center down in Encinitas San Diego and it's an awesome place, but anyone who's in social definitely does it if they can, at some point, um, and it's such an interesting book because I want to grab it. I'm
  • 00:56:29Parma Hansa your yoga Nanda, I was like,
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:56:33Nada. That's why.
  • user avatarMona Loring00:56:36This guy, um, it's just so interesting because I've even gone on YouTube before and done some of the meditation.
  • 00:56:46They have available and they're pretty great.
  • 00:56:49And it's all just, you know, the meditation. They did. They were all just based on love. Um, but it's it's really this is named one of the hundred Best virtual books of the 20th century. So right here.
  • 00:57:03The self realization of of just anything that you're doing in meditation and in spirit.
  • 00:57:10I think I would even though I haven't finished it. So I feel like I'm a little bit of a cheat saying this, but from what I have right of it. And again, you know, diving into what
  • 00:57:19It's about and you know this is a little bit, you know, tells you about his life and stuff too. But, you know, the theory behind self realization is beautiful to me. And I think that
  • 00:57:32The number one thing that I've learned that I believe my mentors were always trying to reach me and I want everybody else to really believe is that you really have all the answers you need it.
  • 00:57:44You really don't need to look without to to know anything you really i mean it's it's part of the whole Akashic records. You know, it's like the informations already in a certain field.
  • 00:57:58Just dive into it and you dial into the frequency and you can get any information you know you want to know because
  • 00:58:05It's there for you. And of course that's easier said than done. And I know that if you're not in a certain mindset or in a certain space, you can certainly do that. But, um,
  • 00:58:14That's why I feel like meditation so important you know because you you will have so much information. I mean, how was I a 13 year old girl telling people about household households work. And then, you know, five years ago, I was reading this book.
  • 00:58:32I can't remember the book, Robert Schwartz, he wrote it. Not that I totally believe everything that he said, not that I think he's a liar, either. I just don't know. But the things that were in this book where things I was telling
  • 00:58:42Our team. It was very bizarre and um you know how if you if it's not about dialing within yourself and tapping into the energy field around you, how would how would I have even known to tell these people, these things that I have never stopped to think about
  • user avatarbrandon handley00:58:56Love it. I love, I love, I love that because you know
  • 00:59:01The way I think about it is kind of like even, even in coaching, any, any kind of like creative nature forces.
  • 00:59:09Are through you. For the benefit almost more for somebody else. Right. So it's like you don't know you just got to open yourself up to it and you know you're there for the benefit of somebody else right
  • 00:59:21Yeah, it's kind of one of the ways I see it. So,
  • 00:59:25Just being a vehicle of that energy right being a vehicle that you know information is energy right
  • 00:59:32So I love that. What would you say ended up here real quick for us but um you know when you're
  • 00:59:39Kind of first coming into it. Right. You did it at like 13 there was no Google, there's no Facebook group there was like, you know,
  • 00:59:49Finding these books right and kind of getting that validation there. Or let's say somebody
  • 00:59:56Is coming into it right now. Right.
  • 00:59:58What would you send them like, you know, somebody says, like, Oh my God, I feel like elements.
  • 01:00:02Touching god like and I must be crazy. What would you tell them
  • user avatarMona Loring01:00:08That's such a tough one because I think there's no right answer for everybody.
  • 01:00:13And I know that might seem like a cop out but it's true. Um, I would ask someone, you know, what do you, what do you feel like you want to know more about, you know, what are you
  • 01:00:22You're touching God. What does that look like to you.
  • 01:00:25Do you need something that's going to help you go within more do you need something that's going to be a little bit more of a play by play so you can expand a little further.
  • 01:00:33You know what I mean, everybody's so different and that's why I think I was just so stumped with my top five books because I look around. I'm like,
  • 01:00:40Well depending on this person color therapy is really great. But you know what I mean, because it's just it depends on what someone wants, but I would say that anything that you choose to expand your mind with whether it ends up being right for you or not. It's still opening you up.
  • 01:00:58To a certain space and it's just going to lead you down.
  • 01:01:01In a good way, a beautiful rabbit hole of more, you know, um, and my clients definitely asked me, you know what book do you want, do you recommend I read and Michael singer has definitely been one of them. Michael singer untethered soul that's a
  • user avatarbrandon handley01:01:15Great book. Yeah.
  • user avatarMona Loring01:01:19It was funny. I didn't see that anywhere here, I think.
  • 01:01:23It's out on live
  • 01:01:24But, um, you know, I think that it's just about, you know, I know some people that have really opened up because they read the secret as as hokey as people think. The secret is, I think it's brilliant because it helps people got
  • 01:01:39The mainstream open up
  • 01:01:42You know, and I think that the Abraham books are
  • 01:01:45Amazing. Oh my gosh, I forgot.
  • 01:01:48My favorite book. I cannot believe it. Jane Roberts, the South books.
  • 01:01:52are incredible. They are incredible. And they're not easy reads because it's just
  • 01:01:59The things that so basically set is an entity, a spiritual entity that comes out of this woman Jane Roberts that writes these books with her husband dictating basically writing what she's been saying and
  • 01:02:11The things that he talks about are just so incredible and
  • 01:02:15I remember so early on being like, Well, you know, What would, what would be the answer to this.
  • 01:02:20You know, spiritual question that, like, you know, things that you would never How can someone project energy over to another, like how does tell us telepathic. You know, telepathy. Telepathy. Thank you. It's healthy work.
  • 01:02:33Say that 10 times fast. Hello ethic telepathy and you know it's it's check the book out. I recommend it to a lot of people. Um, I really liked it on audible because you can kind of just soak it in and listen to it.
  • 01:02:49But I would have to say that's probably the coolest book that
  • 01:02:54Was a tough one because you saw me struggling trying to cheat by looking around my office finally came out finally came. Yeah, yeah.
  • user avatarbrandon handley01:03:01I love it, I love it. You know, we talked about Wayne Dyer to his movie that I listened to him one. I watched the shift is kind of one of the one of the ones where
  • 01:03:15It helped me to make so much sense of things for myself right to understand that, again, like I wasn't crazy like there was like, you know, like many people have walked on this path before me. Right.
  • 01:03:29Type of thing and and and and when you understand that you're like,
  • 01:03:34Cool. Now let's roll with it. Let's like we know, we know that some things are possible with this and they're going to lead to
  • 01:03:42Who knows what but you just kind of you chase it. You follow it. You have fun with it. I love it. I love it all. So let's um let's cap it let's Catholic because obviously we can do this forever.
  • user avatarMona Loring01:03:55Every question you asked, you're like, Oh man, I need a whole episode.
  • user avatarbrandon handley01:03:59I believe at 100%
  • 01:04:00There. So there's so much down each each spot right he's
  • 01:04:05Mad. For me, it's like an awesome English muffins of different
  • 01:04:10Where you know I think was the people that you're meeting this would check out your, your conscious living and your conscious PR, right, so where, you know, where should we send people to come, come find you.
  • user avatarMona Loring01:04:23Um, you can find me on conscious living PR and Instagram. You can find us at MLC PR. I doubt anyone listening to this cares about. And we'll see if you are but I'm also PRS and my talent firm.
  • 01:04:35My personal profiles private just for people I know, but I do have a healing one that I believe it's called I don't usually tell people what it is. So, um, I believe it's healing with Mona.
  • 01:04:45It's conscious healing co on Instagram to
  • 01:04:47And you could go on and conscious healing co.com if you want to read a little bit more about my background.
  • user avatarbrandon handley01:04:53Awesome. Awesome, great site. Very well done.
  • 01:04:56Hey, thank you.
  • user avatarMona Loring01:04:58Thank you.

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You Get What You Give

Published: June 19, 2020, 9:28 p.m.
Duration: 9 minutes 29 seconds

Podcast inspired by recent activity from friend Jeremy Todd.

Check out his podcast over at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/positive-side-podcast-motivation-positive-inspiration/id1200318814

Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on spiritual dope. Brandon Handley here I will be your host. As I said before, always and forever. And I wanted to share a quick story with you today about something that happened recently to me, but I want to I want to just kind of we're gonna take a run out like this, right? You always hear that, uh, you have to have before you can give, right? What do you have to have? Before you can give? And you always hear something like, Hey, you hear that the universe gives what is receiving like Dude, I'm flat broke and busted like a Janis Joplin song. But the deal is, you know, there are things that you can, you can give, right? And so, so you don't catch yourself paralyzed right? By not not knowing what to do. I want you to know that. There are certainly things that you can do, that you can give, you can give your support. And that's just kind of one of the things that I'm I'm gonna I'm going to share here, I was just doing this exercise the other day about you know, having an impact in the world. And, and the exercise was go out and give give somebody a positive review. And so you know, it's been a little bit since I found somebody, I could give a positive review too. And it's not that I can't I just, I just haven't done one for a while. And I thought of my friend Jeremy Todd, who has a great podcast, you should go check it out. It's called the positive side. He's got nearly a million downloads already and man, we started our journey together a while ago a while ago and I'm just happy for him but you know, he's a coach and so I went to LinkedIn. And I said, Hey, you know, Jeremy Todd is an amazing coach. You know, he helps you break your ruts. He helps you. You know, get your mind right. He helps get you straight and helps get you some clarity helps you to take action on your life. And if you're if you're thinking about getting a coach for sales or your business And all that, all that stuff. I said, you know, reach out to Jeremy Todd, he's your guy. The exact same instant he was doing that. I was doing that he was leaving me a podcast review, all spiritual dope, leave me a five star rating, you know, he's saying, hey, look, this is the podcast we need in our lives. And I've been looking for something like this and five star review from Jeremy Todd. And as soon as he press send, he was getting an email that said that, you know, I'd let them this LinkedIn review. And the thing is, that that wasn't planned, right? That wasn't planned. This was a thing. It was 930 at night. And I was like, You know what, I still got that thing that I need to do, which was, you know, go out and have an impact in the world and that was to leave that that review giving to the universe, right. So I was sending something out and I was, I wasn't looking for anything in return. It's one to go out and do something without expecting anything in return because how often we go do something we do it to get something instead of to simply go and give something give of yourself you're certainly able to do that so that's what I did you know and and I left them that I left that review and he picked up the phone called me we had a good laugh about it and you know I just want you guys to know that this is this is a spat This podcast is about aligning to your source right to your whatever it is you need to talk to align your consciousness the universe connect with God and divine self you know I came here through way right like you know when we go through any journey we pass through certain places destinations you know, if trying to think of who God was like as a Tony Robbins still love a woodpecker right, you stopped by different destinations yet another one called our roadside attractions. Love those books. You stop by different places and something happens there and I came here by way of a first podcast called fatherhood for the rest of us that was part of my journey that was part of my stop right? Pass through there I loved it and I still loved the connections I made through that. And then and then while I was on that journey while I was on my way through father for the rest of his land, I went through law of attraction land right I stopped by you think about it like different states of being if you if you if you choose and I was there for a while and that's you know all my way through there I connected through to source right kind of this like divine sense of self as it were. However you want to look at it right connecting to your to your source. And I just I just do a share all that with you because when we give out there right like so when you give to the universe

is going to return to you You can't you don't get to decide how it returns to you though, right? So, or exactly what it looks like. But if you're but if you're paying attention, then you will see that it comes back to almost exactly the way that you sent it out if not even magnified, right? A lot of people call The Universe verse a force multiplier. So, my thing to you is if if you're thinking of what can you give, you can give of yourself, you can go out there, you can leave a nice review for somebody, you can go leave a positive comment on social media, you can call somebody that you love. And chances are, chances are as men it's not going to be maybe not as instantaneous as that was what Jeremy and I, but the universe is going to return that to you. Right, the question is, you've got to look for evidence of it. Mm hmm. You got it. You've got to see little pieces. pieces of it starting to come through and develop that muscle develop, develop that vision, develop the ability to even see it for what it is. I'm always talking about Albert Einstein. And his line is, everything's a miracle either everything's a miracle or nothing is a miracle. This is a choice on how you set your filters and how you set what it is that you see out there. But again, you know, I've already been believing in this way for a while. I just, you know, it's no longer strictly through a law of attraction filter for me. Now, it's just this kind of connection to the universe filter that I've got. So how did you set your filter however you want, you call it whatever you want, and that and that's fine. You know, you've got to just kind of keep with your belief, though, and allow it to adjust that will. However, I just encourage you to look for evidence of it, right? If you if you type into Google, you want this thing to show up? Then you get that thing? Rarely do you get something completely way off unless you got a typo, then you're then you're scrambling to cover, cover what that search pulled up. So, go ahead and I just I just want you to give them a chance, right? send out a request for yourself right? Or go out there to the universe and maybe go give something and and that that will probably return to you. So I just encourage you somehow send some good out the universe have no specific expectations, because that will that narrows the request, right? If you say, Hey, I needed to come back in this specific way. And that's the only way you're going to catch the evidence of it. It's going to make it a little bit more challenging. Right? So if you send out some good, no expectations, have it kind of go out that way. And, you know, I only ask that you kind of you know, you you reach out to me or you let me know how This has gone for you. And here's the deal, you can either continue down the same path you've always gone, right? Or you can choose a road this less traveled. The same road that you've been going down, is gonna get you to the same place you've always gotten to, right? Am I right? You're going to get the same outcomes you've always gotten. But if you want something different to happen, if you want to change the direction of your mind, the way that you feel and things that you see, you're gonna have to do something different. You're gonna need to make a new choice and pursue what it is that you want out of there. Right, you need to take a look at the universe and see what's coming back to you. You need to put what you want out in the universe. It's like seed money, right? It's seed stock seed period, you've got to plant the seed in order for you to have the harvest that you're looking for. That's it. Take it easy, and a shout out again to Jeremy Todd, always been an amazing supporter, appreciate your brother and, you know, go check out his podcast which is it is the positive side and he shares everything that's coming through him. You know, unfiltered, unfiltered, it's filtered through him. Right. He shares his experience as he is coming through and to be it's a beautiful, beautiful podcast. Beautiful man. And there you go. Take it easy.

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Regina A. Lawrence | Spiritual Grit & Your Business

Published: June 14, 2020, 1:47 a.m.
Duration: 52 minutes 35 seconds

Join me as I speak with Regina A. Lawrwence who is a soulful business coach & strategist,helping you monetize your mission through a profitable, online coaching business.

Part of the fun with this is speaking with someone who is not only spiritually inclined, but who has maintained her city grit.

Find out how a high powered lawyer finds herself after crumbling to the floor in tears.

All things Regina: https://reginalawrence.com/

https://www.instagram.com/reginaalawrence/

Brandon Handley 0:00
three to one. Brandon Handley here and today I'm joined by Regina a Lawrence. Regina is a soulful business strategist. And she is a former trial attorney and law school Professor turns soulful business and life strategist. She's found that many entrepreneurs have brilliant ideas and dreams but don't know how to take that dream and create a system or structure to make that dream and idea profitable. That's where she jumps in. And she was able to bring consistency system structure for you and really take your soul driven idea and convert that into an awesome business and I love it right. I'm super excited because that's that's right up. That's right up this and not only that, right, Regina, also called trum. Kinda like my hometown area and you're down. You're down in Arizona right now, but you're from the northeast and you've got like this little bit of a grit a little bit of a punch that you've really We only find like kind of up in the northeast. How you doin tody?

Regina Lawrence 1:03
I'm good. How are you?

Brandon Handley 1:04
I'm doing great Tell me. Hey, tell me something we can help you celebrate today.

Unknown Speaker 1:10
Oh man, I just had a news client Sign up today. Very excited to help her with her business and to help her create the program she wants to. So that's what I'm celebrating right now.

Brandon Handley 1:21
Awesome. I love it and tell me something man. This uh, you know, we're we're smack dab in the middle of pandemic, whether or not you believe the hype or not, but, you know, everybody's on different sides of the fence. Is this a hoax? Is it whatever, nobody really cares, but you know, for what it's worth, we are shut down in the United States of America. How's your business been during that? This whole thing?

Unknown Speaker 1:43
You know, my so I have two businesses. I have a social media agency and I have a coaching practice and my coaching practice has slowed a little bit, just with people who want to wait to start until their brick and mortar opens.

Unknown Speaker 1:57
But my social media

Unknown Speaker 1:59
you See has really been picking up during this time. Okay, so it's a mixed bag for me. Sure.

Brandon Handley 2:06
Yeah. I mean, look, everybody needs a digital strategy, especially now, right? Otherwise, how they go. And, you know, we always talk about like that post COVID plan. Is that something you talked about with some of your people?

Unknown Speaker 2:19
For sure. I think this has shown us that one, it has shown us the ways that we can stretch and the ways we can do business in a way that we didn't think about before. It's also for me really put into place like how do I create business? And how do I create even greater automation and evergreening in my business, so that way, if something like this ever happens again, and by the way, it will because the government knows they can shut us down and lock us down? How do I get out of dodge and go to Costa Rica and live on the beach for a couple months instead of in the chaos?

Brandon Handley 2:55
Right, right, right. Yeah, it does sound nice. I love the idea, though. Trying to keep that content evergreen. So, you know, we started off on a tangent and that's just kind of how I how I go. Let's just do a little bit of a backstory though. So, Regina, I love your backstory. Why don't you go ahead and share it with this audience a little bit, just kind of, you know, jumping in from pre crying on the floor, and then right after that.

Unknown Speaker 3:23
So my background is I was a federal trial attorney for the city of Philadelphia. And then I moved into a white collar fraud litigator and investigator role. prior to going to law school, I, I always had this mindset that like I had to be an achiever, and I had to be successful and I had to just pursue things that my family and society saw as good. So get a good job, get a good education, find a good partner, and you live a good life and you'll be happy. And so I realized that I'd spent the first 2526 years of my life pursuing this happiness. And this piece through accomplishments and through external realities. And I really hit a pivotal moment when I realized I was in my office and I was working on a case for a really big client. I think I was 2027 at this point. And I started to have a panic attack. And I was no stranger of panic and anxiety. It fueled me It got me through everything in my life. And this was different. And I remember closing my office door laying down on my office floor and I'm, you know, dressed in a pencil skirt. I have a pair of blue baton high heels on, and I just laid there and cried. And I remember thinking, like, I don't know how I'm going to do it, but life doesn't have to be this hard. And it doesn't have to be this stressful and I'm going to figure out a way to not live the rest of my life like this. And so that experience of being like, okay, like You did everything you were supposed to do, and you're still very unfulfilled and very unhappy. What now? And so that launched me into this whole new world of mindset and spirituality.

Brandon Handley 5:15
I love it. You know, there's actually a little bit before that I caught listening to to one of one of the podcasts on there. Nine brothers and sisters, how many

Unknown Speaker 5:27
brothers and sisters? Yeah, I have four brothers and I have four sisters.

Brandon Handley 5:31
That's, you know, that's got to be hectic. And not only not only like, kind of kind of like just being caught up in that size of a family, right? Because I'm imagining like, that's always a whirlwind and that's if everything's going well. And memory serves me correctly. Like things were not always going well in that household. Yes or no.

Unknown Speaker 5:51
So I grew up my I'm from a family where there's a lineage of a lot of addiction and I grew up surrounded with a lot of our Hard drug addiction and codependent and the codependency issues that go along with that. And the just the all the things that go along with growing up around addiction but we were like, the thing about my family is like we look like this normal, you know middle class family like loving, seemingly loving parents who got divorced when I was 13 to our shock. We grew up in a in a neighborhood with a big, big house and, you know, we were this family that looked like this nice Catholic Italian family. But really on the inside, there was a lot of trauma and a lot of hurt and a lot of addiction.

Brandon Handley 6:43
Yeah, no, that's that's that's a tough place to be right. It's a tough place, I think to establish your identity. Because the inside does not look like the outside, right, which I think kind of, you know, kind of plays into where you want to Anyways, right, um, you know, had this interesting thought of. I listened to the for a minute you were an anxiety coach. Yes. Yeah. Is that

Unknown Speaker 7:10
right? Yeah, I was and I, I still do what I did as an anxiety coach, I still bring into my coaching now. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 7:16
but I love it right? Because it's all about kind of evolution and who you are as a person what it is that you bring, right. You know, for a second there, I thought to myself, I was like, do you think that and you may have liked it this way? like anxiety attacks? Is that like a sign that you're just not living your life's purpose?

Unknown Speaker 7:36
I can't I think it can be. I think that, you know, a lot of people have different thoughts and schools of thought about stress and how we respond to stress with anxiety. I think majority of anxiety is a habited pattern of behavior. I grew up in a household where my mother was always anxious. It was her phrase, I'm so anxious, I have so much anxiety and so even As a small kid, like I have Arjuna You're giving me agita, like giving me anxiety, you know, and you're not

Brandon Handley 8:06
gonna hear that anywhere else but the Northeast. Oh, yeah, I know. You give me the agita.

Unknown Speaker 8:11
Exactly. And so like I grew up with that identity as a kid where, you know, anxiety is just a way of being it's a way it was almost synonymous for me, like with productivity. And what I realized was that, like, a lot of anxiety is actually born out of a desire to control and control is an illusion. We have control over nothing. We have control over our thoughts. We have control over our reactions and our responses. We have some control over our body but we can lose that with illness and so yeah, so I think that some some anxiety is a sign of like, like shit needs to change. And but i think it's it's a sign of so many things.

Brandon Handley 8:59
Sure, sure. And I love that you kind of hit on that too, so far as like, you know, mindset goes a lot of assist these learn tendencies, that that's what you grew up around, right? Even with my own kids, I'll stand like they'll plop down, like, I'm so tired. And I'm kind of on the mindset. I'm like, you are quite literally made of energy, right? Like, you're not tired. You know? I mean, you know, I mean like that, because when it's like five o'clock in the evening, or like midday or something, I'm like, No, no, you're not. That's just something you've heard one of us say. Right. So So yeah, I totally I totally get that. Let's talk about what it's like then to, you know, kind of spin this business. You remember kind of the journey to even saying, Hey, I'm a soulful business owner. This is what I do in that area. Like because religion or even just talking about being spiritual can go down so many roads, right. So let's talk About your foray into that, because it sounds like again, you started college as an, you know, anxiety coach, but that kind of led to more, you know, yeah, opened up for you. And I'm curious what that look like.

Unknown Speaker 10:11
So from a really young age, I have had some spiritual gifts that through society and conditioning, I've suppressed but I've had a lot of different spiritual gifts where I would dream things I would know things before they happen. I always had a knowing about things. I can't describe it more than a knowing and and I would see things as a child and I knew from a very young age that my little brother was the same way and we couldn't tell people and so just like any muscle, your spiritual muscles, if you suppress them, you you don't, you're not able to lift like you used to. And as I started to go through my own mindset waking up, I really started to get into meditation and allowing the white, the whitespace and the silence and I started to feel these gifts. Come back online again. And you know for me I'm this rational lawyer who gives show me the reason show me the proof like that's how I'm educated and that's how my brain works I'm super analytical but I'm also have these spiritual gifts that I can't always explain them but if I know something's going to happen, it happens. Like if I get guidance on something I am got like, it's, it's the two were happening at the same time. And so initially, I was like, okay, like, I'm gonna, after I started the mindset coaching business, and the stress and anxiety business, people were asking me, how are you building your brand? You're doing such a good job building your brand online, how are you doing it? How are you building your business? And I realized that in starting my coaching business, I became an expert in a lot of things, social media, branding, marketing, you know, doing I'm a I'm a lawyer. So if I want to learn how to do something, I learned the whole process like I really am a sponge for things. So I realized I could kind of take that stress and anxiety coaching, and pivot it to business coaching. But what I was realizing was the business coaching wasn't fulfilling, and it wasn't fulfilling what I'm here to do. Because, for me, you know, with with business people ask entrepreneurs, what's your Why? Why are you doing the thing you're doing? Right? And that's great. But like, if a mom says to me, I'm building this business, because I have kids. Well, great, but what about those kids? Why is it your kids that make you want to do this? What do you want to do with your kids, right? And so the same thing with a spiritual entrepreneur, like, we have desires on our hearts of things we want to do and there's a really deep soul reason why we're on this earth in this moment in time doing the things that we want to do. And so I really had to work through the fact that I was worried that people would think I was crazy because I am a spiritual and rational woman. And then I decided to just say fuck it, this is who I am. This is how I show up in the world. I'm very intelligent, and I'm very spiritual, and I marry the two. And if people don't like it, they're not my people. And I just decided one day that I was gonna bring the two together and launch a whole coaching business just around this.

Brandon Handley 13:24
Yeah, no, I love it. I love it too. You know, is there's so much and I know that, um, you know, sounded to me too, like when you first got when you first started going off and running you you were doing like long form blog writing and kind of researching the copywriting thing, right? learning that marketing bit, right. And that's, you know, kudos to you because that's not easy. You know, that's a, it's a challenge to be able to, to, you know, figure out how to do that type of writing, figure out what your market is. And then this part where you just kind to burst through and you're like, Listen, I'm just gonna go with it. Like I can't, you know, I can't keep hiding behind purely executive coaching, when that's not where my heart is. Right? Um, so let's talk a little bit about that, where it's like the integration of your spiritual self in the material world, right? Like, this is one that like, I think a lot and for me, it's a challenge. And I see it as a challenge for a lot of other spiritual people, right? integrating the spiritual with the quote unquote real. And then, like the money aspect of like, well, I don't want to deal with money like I mean, this is tough for them. So how have you been able to kind of navigate that area?

Unknown Speaker 14:43
So for me, there is no separation between who I am. As Regina, the human business coach and Regina, the spiritual woman. It's the same thing and something that I teach a lot and this is part of my brand and in my book, thing is that you can be all of the things. We live in a society where oftentimes people say, if you are x profession you need to look like a BMC if you're a spiritual woman, you need to be pure. You need to be on a yoga mat and you need to be like meditating all the time will fuck that because like that, right? We're

Brandon Handley 15:22
who listen that gets its is tired. That is that is quite literally tired. Right? And, and

Unknown Speaker 15:32
it sucks. It's like, it sucks. Well,

Unknown Speaker 15:36
it's like society gives us boxes and that's what we're supposed to be. And if you don't fit into that, that box and it makes you less legitimate. And one of my first spiritual friends and teachers this girl in Philly, her name's Reagan. She's a tarot card reader and she does energy stuff.

Unknown Speaker 15:53
Tilton

Unknown Speaker 15:56
she's amazing, and she was my first year. real spiritual friend in Philadelphia and she is almost six feet tall. She's like tall, thin, Giant Boobs always half naked. And she's like the spiritual powerhouse. And I remember meeting her and I was like, that is a woman who she is who she is, and she doesn't care what anybody thinks. And that's, that's what I realized. So like, we still are stigmatized in society. Like if you're a female attorney, you're supposed to look, talk and act a certain way. If you're, you can't be too pretty can't be too gay. You can't be to this, you can't be to that. And so I realized that I'm not going to live my life like that, like I am, who I am. And it's, there's a lot of polarities and who I am. It's very confusing to people, and I don't care because that's how we all are. We are all like that. But we try to fit ourselves in boxes so that people can understand us and comprehend us. And so that's how I was with the spiritual in the business. Like I am very spiritual. And I'm very smart, and I'm very fucking inappropriate. And I could tell you a dick joke in one minute. And I could talk to you about channeling angels in the next right like, and that doesn't,

Unknown Speaker 17:11
that's relevant

Unknown Speaker 17:12
and right. And that doesn't make one less more or less legitimate than the other. Right? And so that's how I approach everything. And that's like my mission, especially in working with women like you can be all the things and doesn't matter what anybody thinks about you. The thing you asked about money, and this is something I see a lot with spiritual entrepreneurs, where there's almost like this guilt about charging for services or, you know, we have to rewind back and we have to think about what what is money like we A lot of us have these preconditioned notions about money that come from childhood conditioning, and come from these old sayings like money is the root of all evil and like a Seuss associating some sort of like, like low vibration with me. When actually money is energy, money is abundant, like money gives us the ability to serve at such a high level when you the more money you have, I think the more good you can do in the world, so why wouldn't I want all the money?

Brandon Handley 18:16
Absolutely right. There's, there's more people you can serve with it. And I love it and it's funny that you bring it up. I just got like this random packet of incense. And it's one of them's money, right? Yeah. And, and, and why why why bring that up is because I've definitely had conversations as I know, they're my journeys and people like, you know, money's no different than like the air that you breathe, right? Like, if you take a breath and you stop breathing, which Do you want more? Do you want money or do you want that next breath so which one's more important to and you know, as anyways, as you know, burning two cents on this is like, oh, wow, look, there I am. I'm literally breathing in money. Yeah. Like I was like, I love it. So, anyways, uh, you know, for me, that was a challenge for me too, I'll have to admit like, you know, kind of grew up just as like, kind of money being like this this thing, right, this thing and in the way of whatever. And I think that age just like you said this the approach of it, but v was reading the book of the science of getting rich by Wallace D. Wattles. Well, yeah, I was like, I was like, This makes all the sense, right. Like, and I finally like, I mean, things click then. And I was like, I was always so I'm absolutely. And I think that even if somebody can just look at it as an even exchange for energy, right, like, hey, look, it's just an energy exchange, you're there, you're doing a service to provide, you know, if, if I go to a restaurant and they provide me a service, I leave a tip, right? You, you're providing a service. So I love it.

Unknown Speaker 19:55
And I think we also have to think about like, I had a call with a girl today and she does like spiritual work where she works with women, and helps them to like feel like women who are transitioning and pivoting in life and in business, where she helps them get to their highest energetic frequencies so that they can perform. They can pivot, like she essentially helps them change their life and their perspective. And she charges nothing for it. And I said, you literally offer a service where you are helping to change somebody's entire life. That's invaluable. Like, why are you charging more for it? Right?

Brandon Handley 20:33
Yeah. Well, I was listening to, you know, you may know this name. Dan Kennedy is a copywriter. Yeah. Yeah. So he's got this one session where he's talking about, like, you know, exchanging people's money. If you don't take their money, they're gonna give it to somebody else. It may as well be you. Yeah. Right. I mean, and not and again, that was another thing that just kind of like resonated I was like, you're right, like that person, even if they don't have much money. And they have bad spending habits and all these other things. I'd rather they invest in what I had to give them, then maybe they're gonna go buy, you know, two cases of beer, whatever, right? So something like that, right?

Unknown Speaker 21:12
Anybody who is struggling with charging their value, something that I have done and I teach people to do is if you have a service that you offer, sit down and make a list of all of the value that you provide people for what you charge them, like see it, like really map it out. And when you look at it, look at the value exchange between what you're offering and what they're paying. And then ask yourself like, is this a fair value exchange? Because maybe you'll look at it and you'll say, No, I should add a few more things to this, like I should beef this up for what I'm what I'm charging, or you might look at what you're charging and say, Oh, I don't charge enough for what I'm doing for this person. But I think like the analytical mind needs that it needs that comparison for me with my coaching. I need to know Know what I'm offering? And I need to be very clear on the value that I bring to the table for my clients. If I wasn't clear on that I couldn't charge what I charge.

Brandon Handley 22:10
Sure, do you? I mean, do you do like an ROI sheet for your people? Like, how does that look for you like that conversation?

Unknown Speaker 22:18
I like to just have that conversation with them and have them journal it out for me, and show me and talk to me about it. And I have other ways, like when we figure out rates, like, obviously, I look at what the market is charging, and I look at, you know, what type of business they have and all that. But I also like there is a part of it that intuitively, you need to, you know, you could have a product or service that you offer somebody and the market value is $3,000 for it. But if you don't feel in alignment with that value, even if its market value, if it feels like too much, you're never going to get $3,000 for it because you're not in alignment with that price. Right, right, right. Yeah.

Brandon Handley 22:56
Yeah, no, no, definitely. You know, I've definitely had that conversation. I've definitely had that in myself, right? So instead of, maybe somebody's not feeling that they're worth that value, what do you do? Do you help step them up into that value place? as you're working with them? What do you do with them?

Unknown Speaker 23:13
I think you start, I think we need to start with people where they're comfortable or stretch them a little bit. And then we can slowly incrementally because there it'll be different things for people to know that they're worth the value that they want to charge. So if you're working with somebody, and they're a coach, and you think that for three months of one on one coaching, they should be charging about three grand, but they're not comfortable with more than charging 1500. I'm not going to start them at three grand, I'm going to start them lower. They're going to start coaching people, and then they're going to get testimonials of how they've changed people's lives. And they're going to really start to see like, wow, I'm really good at these certain things and being a coach and then you incrementally increase the price. That way. They're in alignment with what they're charging.

Brandon Handley 24:00
I love it. I love it. I read one guy, Vince Pugliese, who what he'd done was, he chose, like, the golden day on his calendar, right. And he had all the kinds of bookings and what he would do like on that golden day, he would charge like, maybe double or just like once he would love to be paid that day, right? Be like maybe if maybe I'm worth more, and I'm not charging enough. He said, All right. This is the golden day. And he would float that out there. And as somebody said, Yes, he knew he was worth that much and he needed to raise the rest of his numbers. If he didn't get that number. He didn't wallow in it. He just went out that day and did something fun, like with his family. Yeah. Yeah. I love that. I love it. So let's just try to meander here. Again, one of the things I want to try to share here with like this audience is that you can do the soulful business. You do a good job. I think of pivoting people Taking them from their corporate life and kind of into this business. Right. So let's talk to show. Tell me a little bit about that.

Unknown Speaker 25:07
So I think the pivot from corporate to owning your own business and having a business, it's more soul aligned. I like for people to do it with a plan. So, I like for people to start to develop the concept and start to if I'm coaching someone who wants to be a coach, they have started to build the business and they start to bring in some clients, and we start to get really clear on what they're doing and why they're doing it for the pivot. That's what I did before I left practice. I started my coaching business before I left, I left faster than I would probably recommend for my clients too, but I'm also a gritty girl from Philadelphia, and I'll, I'll do whatever it takes, you know what I mean? Like, but I but it was hard for me. It was hard. It was really hard when I did it. And I really like for people to take Third time and to like create a plan of action.

Brandon Handley 26:03
What about like right about now? Right? What if somebody kind of because of where we are right now transitioned or they're furloughed? They're, you know they're laid off. They're they're just literally not able to go do the work that they've been able to do. Have you been able to work with anybody like that during this time?

Unknown Speaker 26:24
Yeah, my recommendation for people who are in that particular situation is quick, dirty and simple, like quick action, like get really clear on what you want to do, why you want to do it, the mechanism that you're going to use to serve and do it quickly. Like there are ways that you can build a business online for free. Essentially, you can build a free website, you can build a free email list. You can build an opt in for your email list. You can do everything. I actually wrote a post on this on my Instagram, about like the five apps applications you need to use to start a business for free today and whatever. So the first one is you can build a free website on Wix or on there was one other one I can't remember but I know Wix for sure. Oh on GoDaddy, Wix and GoDaddy, you can build a website for free. You can build an email list initially for free on MailChimp. You can also build I believe you can build your lead magnet like the the landing page, you can build it on

Unknown Speaker 27:34
what's called

Unknown Speaker 27:34
MailChimp and you can build it on Google Drive. And that's it and then you can build an opt in for free on a free version of Canva oh you can go into Canva you can make a free logo, you can pick free brand colors, and you can literally have a branded free website often lead magnet all of it. Like you could literally if you really wanted to do it. You could do it tonight in like four hours.

Brandon Handley 27:59
Absolutely hundred percent. I love it. Absolutely. I'll throw one more on there in there for some people that are trying to monetize their mail list. There's a song like and it's like a free plugins called can't can't campaign z. It's like a front end that'll add somebody to the mailing list and you can charge a subscription fee or a one time thing for that. So it's pretty interesting. Yeah, you can spin it all up. And that that quick, for zero dollars. It's just a matter of kind of putting yourself out there. Let's talk about that for a second. Like putting yourself out there. Right. Like, I mean, do you recall, I think writing your first blog is definitely one where you're just kind of putting yourself out there. That's one, but then like, maybe your first podcast, your first video, the interviews, right, those firsts. How were they you know, what was that like to put yourself out there like that, huh?

Unknown Speaker 28:53
You know, there's a reason why entrepreneurs are obsessed with self development and mindset. We're Because everything that we do, especially when we start our business is really, really stretches us because we're doing things we've never done before. And it's not like I would say for me, I started with videos, I started wanting to know I started with writing long formed captions and posts. And I decided as I was building my brand that I was going to I love to tell story. I'm a storyteller. I love to write. And so I decided I was going to use that as my first way to connect. So I started just speaking my truth and telling my stories and sharing about my life. That wasn't hard for me because I like to do it. I then I started to do videos, I would go live on Facebook all the time. And the first few times, it's hard, like, you're like nobody's here. Nobody's watching. But I mean, nobody's watching. Nobody knows who you are yet. Like you got to start somewhere. And then Instagram Stories like Instagram story. Stories are just the best tool for people to get to know you, and to get to know your everyday life. And again, it's hard and it's weird. You're like filming your life in a way you've never had before. Now, I love it. I film everything. My friends are like, oh, we're a Z list celebrities on Regina story, like, you know, so you just get used to it. None of it like, Oh, it's not intuitive to being a human like a lot of these things like, filming yourself recording yourself talking like, but you just have to, like, do it.

Brandon Handley 30:30
Right. Right. I agree. I still remember. I still remember all my notes. kind of remember my first time like, my first podcast, right? I'm sitting in a corner just kind of like recording like really soft toys and just kind of like, in this is what's happening. soft voice right? Yeah, kind of tucked away. I'm like hope nobody hears me but I'm about the suddenness of the rest of the world. As soon as you press that button and send it out. You're like, Oh shit, am I gonna blow up my gonna catch on fire? No, nothing happens and that's okay. And my first face With live I had a USB headset plugged into the computer. And so the mic was trying to pick it up on the US I did like seven or eight minutes and people thought I can't hear it was like what, let me get closer, and like seven minutes have not even been able to deliver all feeling like super embarrassed. I think my kid definitely like one of my kids like jumping around on me and that's okay. Like it was a podcast or fatherhood. That was that was what I was doing that. And then I realized like, everything was no good. I unplugged it and I did it again. Like, immediately I was like, You know what? I was like, You got it. I can't put any space in between. Can't put any space in between that I gotta go again. And, and with the and just with, you know, doing videos. It's just it becomes natural, right. I think like, I think you know, walking wasn't easy, right? But we figured it out.

Unknown Speaker 31:55
Yeah. And I think like we see people like when we get started we see people who have been doing doing it. And we think like, oh, like, that's so good. Like, how did you do that? Like, how are you like that, like, I'll never be like that. I got so good with doing videos because before I started my business as a coach, I, when I was working full time, I was a network marketer. So I did network marketing for a little bit. And the best thing about that was, it taught me how to sell it taught me how to go live, it taught me how to do really uncomfortable things that like were not intuitive to me. So now it's like second, like somebody could say to me, hey, go live on my Facebook right now. I'd be like, okay, and I just go live and talk about whatever they want me to talk about. Right? I wasn't always like that.

Brandon Handley 32:38
Like, I think I think that you bring up something really, uh, you know, kind of poignant there right? We're talking about creating a business and if you've never been in sales and you're doing the spiritual coaching thing, closing the sale. Oh, yeah. Asking for the money right and and you talk to what do you what do you tell what do you teach her? What do you teach her? about that.

Unknown Speaker 33:01
I mean, the first thing is the the thing that we talked about earlier, it's feeling like you're worth what you're asking for. I have no hesitation asking for what I charge as a coach, and I don't negotiate it, like I might give you, I might give people like a monthly plan, smaller payments, but I charge what I charge, and I offer what I offer. But I'm also very much in alignment with what I offer in the value. So that's the first thing you have to feel aligned. Like you have to have a soul alignment with what you're doing to be able to ask for the sale. The second thing about asking for the sale is like you don't really I don't even feel like I'm asking for the sale. The way that I coach. And the way that I run sales calls is I get on and I talk to them about them. It's not about me, what's your problem? What's your issue? What do you need a solution to? And I really pay attention to what their pain points are. And I think about it, do I solve these pain points? Can I make their life easier with the services and the skills that I have? have, like today I had a sales call I two sales calls today. And both of the girls, I can solve their problems in their businesses hands down. And so I made that very clear. This is what I do. This is how I work. This is how I solve your problems. This is what we do together. And this is what it looks like. And by the end of the call, both of the girls were like, I need you, how much do you charge? And that's the thing. It's like, I don't even think of it as like selling. It's like how do I What's your problem? And do I have a solution? And and then explaining to them the solution that I have and why I can serve them. And then the price is just, it just is what it is. Right?

Brandon Handley 34:38
Right. I love that. So I mean you're you're just you're simply looking to serve and that's what it is is more of a service call.

Unknown Speaker 34:45
Totally everything and I coach like this is the thing too. If anybody's listening, that's a coach. People don't if people have never coached with a coach before. They don't quite know what a coaching experience is like. So give them an experience when you get on a sales call. with them, how do I serve you today? And what do you need help with in your business? Like for me, people that I'm getting on calls with have been watching me for a long time. And they know people who know me, so they've been referred to me. So I have a lot of credibility that's been built up that people know that I'm a successful coach. If you're beginning that's okay. If you don't have that yet, but get on. So, okay, so yeah, totally get on the call with them and offer them a solution to a problem that they're having now coach them and give them that experience. And then by the end of the call, they're like, wow, you gave me so much value. How do I work with you?

Brandon Handley 35:37
Right, right. We met through so you and I, we met through Lisa Archer rose deli, and she was she was my first coach. And what was so awesome for me in that coaching experience was having somebody that was on my side, right, having somebody who was like, I still remember when I told her I want to do podcasting instead of There's all this other stuff that wasn't like, What are you thinking? we work so hard for this? She was like, I help you do that. What are you trying to do? I was like, Why aren't you saying no? Right? So it's like the, you know, giving given them me the freedom to chase my dreams. And I and so when you've got somebody like that when you're able to do that for somebody else that's, that's fire. Mm hmm. Right? I mean, tell somebody that Yeah, they should go live their dreams, right? And then showing them how they can do it. I mean, you we talked about earlier, it's like that's invaluable like when you're changing that and really so she was a sales coach then and and and we have lots of fun talking about like, you know, this stuff applies like everywhere, like you talked about earlier, right. You can apply this in business you can apply this in family but like you're choosing right now to kind of do this sole purpose. And there's a you know, there's one of the phrases use quite a bit. And I was just curious on the language, he probably got it somewhere about soul contract. Talk to us about what a soul contract is.

Unknown Speaker 37:08
So I believe that every person before we come to this earth in this lifetime, our soul comes for a purpose. And that's a soul contract, we have a contract with our soul. Our soul has contracts with other souls that we make before we come to Earth. So that we can we can have certain lessons lived out in this lifetime. And so I believe that our businesses are either a fulfillment can be a fulfillment of that soul contract, I think that mine is, or our business should be in alignment with that, like maybe, maybe a woman soul contract is that she's supposed to come to this lifetime and have get married and have a baby and that baby for a certain reason to fulfill the contract. So maybe creating the business is to assist her so that she can be a mother and live that life and do Those things right? So I don't think we don't haphazardly come to earth when we're born like, I don't think happen, like happens like that. We come for a distinct purpose. And I'm all about helping people figure out how their business is, can fulfill that or assist that.

Unknown Speaker 38:17
Okay, I like that like that a lot. Um,

Brandon Handley 38:21
I think I think that that's one of the things too that uh, you know, for me, like kind of awakening to any sole purpose, or any, any type of awakening was kind of later in my life seems like it hit you a little bit earlier. Do you feel like you know that that awakening kind of happens when it's meant to happen? So you're like, oh, man, I got a I've got a contract to fulfill. Mm hmm.

Unknown Speaker 38:40
Yeah, I do. I think we have to be open to it and like, there's little knocks and like pings through our life and we often ignore them. And for most of us, we have to end up like, on the floor of our office or you know,

Brandon Handley 38:54
so that's that's one thing that kills me right like, you always see like people like all you got to hit rock bottom before. bounce back up. And that wasn't it for me, right? Like I definitely was not rock bottom. And nobody wants to hear like, God, you know what, it wasn't that much for me. Like, I just decided to make this shift and it was decided nobody fucking wants to hear that, like, we need like when I quit drinking, for example, right like, what did you hit your wife? I was like, why do I need to hit my wife to stop drinking? And that doesn't like I just it just wasn't serving me anymore.

Unknown Speaker 39:22
Exactly.

Brandon Handley 39:25
And so I love it. I love it though. So that's what I was gonna say. There's like that feeling that you get right when you're laying there and or like those knocks at the door. And I think that what you're referring to, to me when I think about it, I'm going to like Joseph Campbell's hero of 1000 faces, right? The hero's call, right? So there there's a I think there's a penalty if you don't answer that feeling, right like and do you talk to that at all like if somebody comes up to him like I'm feeling this Burke spiritual way. I'm feeling this inside, but I don't think I should answer it. You do you talk to him through that? What do you what do you do with that?

Unknown Speaker 40:07
Yeah, I mean, I think the penalty is like living a life where you're feeling unfulfilled, the dislike the desires of our hearts and like the desires that we have to do things like they're there for a reason. But we have them because there's something in us that wants to fulfill that in one way shape or form and it might not look the way we think it Look, it may not end up looking the way we think it's going to look. But the punishment quote unquote, is just that. We're going to feel were you your punishment could be spending a lifetime wishing for me it would have been spending a legal career wishing I was doing something that was more meaningful, or where I had more time freedom and life freedom.

Brandon Handley 40:47
Would you say like me that's that's to me, that would be the definition of hell. Yeah, like, the purest definition of hell would be not to live out your soul contract.

Unknown Speaker 40:55
Yeah, and most people live in that

Brandon Handley 41:00
You know, I got I got plenty of theories on that one, too. But I mean, like, you know, when when you're taking medication or something like that you're really just trying to silence silence that,

Unknown Speaker 41:09
yeah, right?

Brandon Handley 41:11
You go messing with the mind like that you're gonna, you're gonna go to now something you're missing out. So you've got a book you're working on. Tell us a bit about that.

Unknown Speaker 41:24
So the book I'm working on is, it's, it's gonna sound funny because it's a little bit different than what I do as a spiritual business coach, but I spend a lot of time talking to women and working with women. And I have also spent a lot of my life dating and dating and dating. And I realized that there's no there's no books out there that speak to me the way that I would like to be spoken to in dating. And I I wanted to create a book that kind of highlights the humorous things that happen have happened in my dating life. And the lessons that have come from all of those relationships states, one night stands, all the things. And so I've been writing this book now, where each chapter is a different lesson and a different person. And a different every person has like a funny nickname, like because my friends and I, everybody I date we give them like nicknames. And so it's like, what's the lesson? And what can I teach you from that lesson? Like, for example, I sit with women all the time, and they're like, I just can't meet somebody who I want to be with. And I just keep ending up with these losers. And I say to them, Well, what do you want? What do you want to be with? And my one girlfriend was like I was I wrote about this in the book. She was like, I want someone who's nice to me, and who has a job and I said, Honey, that's like asking for air. Like, given that he's nice to you and he has a job, what are like the core value pillars that you want in a Man, like the future father of your children and a husband, and let's get very clear about it. And so like that whole chapter is about, like, if we don't know what we want, and we don't get very clear on it, we're calling everyone in energetically. So how do we get clear? So it's all about that. So it's funny. It's a little bit vulgar, but it's also soulful, kind of like meat, vulgar, funny and soulful.

Brandon Handley 43:24
I love it. I love it. I think I think it's entertaining but I think you also hit right there to look that's a that's a lesson that applies everywhere right? You know until you until you get clear on what you want. It's not how are you going to know when it shows up? Exactly right. And you keep throwing back and like yeah, you go back also with like, what do you want was first question right first because they're always like, this is what I don't want. I don't want this I don't want that. I don't want this. I don't want that. And He better not smoke.

Unknown Speaker 43:54
Yeah.

Brandon Handley 43:56
Right. And then like a ninja like well That's great. And those are the things that keeps showing up. What What do you actually want though? Because that's that's what you're putting out there. Right energy. I

Unknown Speaker 44:07
think that applies in all areas of life like we are. So I don't know about you, but like growing up, I kind of had a fear of saying what I really wanted because it was like, Don't jinx it. Like, you don't want to jinx that. Right, right, right. No. And so, I've gotten very clear about No, this is what I want. This is what I'm calling in. Like, even in dating. We were joking recently with my friends. Like a few months ago, I was like, I wouldn't meet a guy and I went on this litany like, so specific. I was like, I want someone like this I want someone like this. Like I want Richard Gere and pretty woman like I was saying like it was just we're having this conversation. And then like two weeks later, I meet this guy who is everything I very clearly and intentionally have stated that I want it and that applies in business that applies in relationships like we should have such clarity around what we are calling into our lives and what we're seeking. And then just like when you say like, I want this particular type of car, like you start to see that car everywhere. It's the same thing with our business, our relationships, our friendships, like all of that.

Brandon Handley 45:14
I mean, talk to that though, a little bit, right? Like the, the idea of being okay with stating what you desire, right? but also being okay with not knowing how it's going to show up, right? Because I think that that's where a big part where people kind of get get busted, right. It's like, well, it has to happen like this. Here's how I see it happening. Right? Do you coach people to say, listen, stop worrying so much about the how and just get clear on what it is you actually want to show up?

Unknown Speaker 45:45
Yeah, and also have flexibility with the way it's going to be like, we don't always know how things are going to turn out. And maybe you have something like you want something but the only reason you want it is because that one and that desire. And the actions you take to get there are actually going to teach you something and open your eyes up to something else that you want. So like, life never life often doesn't look like what we imagine with our narrow rational animal brain. Like, yeah,

Unknown Speaker 46:18
yeah. Um,

Brandon Handley 46:21
when, when is that, you know, you're kind of going into this space how much actually opened up right? Like, you know, you've and just like what you're saying here like you probably saw like a few small pieces of what was possible. How much has it actually opened up for you

Unknown Speaker 46:36
so much. But I also like, when I decided to do something, I decided to do it. And so when I started my business, I moved from Philadelphia to Phoenix, Arizona, and I knew no one here and I decided that I was going to go balls to the wall and meet everybody in this community and I every day of the week For a three month period of time, said, you have to connect with a new person. You either have to have coffee with them, have a zoom with them, do a podcast with them for three months straight Monday through Friday, I met a new human being and intentionally put effort into that. And it's been the greatest blessing and benefits in my business.

Brandon Handley 47:22
That's awesome. No, that's, that's a great approach to write. And I don't think that you have to move across the country to do it either. Right. Like I think, I think that a lot of people are hesitant to kind of go jump into a new space again, because it's it's new, right and put themselves out there. But the funny thing is, is when you go to a new place, or go to like new meetings and meet up with new people, a they don't know who you are, they've never met you before. So you can be whoever you want, right? Like in that space. Right? You can bring the best of who you think you are in that moment. They're totally Yeah. I love it. What is anything you think we should have covered by now that you throw out there?

Unknown Speaker 48:05
No, I mean, that I feel like we we talked about so many different things. write

Brandon Handley 48:14
books that altered like your whole perception

Unknown Speaker 48:18
of the first book. There's a few.

Unknown Speaker 48:23
Dr. Joe dispenza says, breaking the habit of being yourself was probably one of the greatest tools of my life. It's a little science heavy at the beginning, but once you get into it, it really taught me that I can really change who I am and how my brain works. Louise Hay. She really showed me the power of mantras and affirmations and the metaphysical world. David Hawkins, he was a power versus force and my favorite book of his is called letting go it's All about letting go of the control that we think we have. That's an illusion. A big one for me was Gabby Bernstein, spirit junkie. It's all about all the love. The biggest thing about Gabby and what she teaches is that especially early writings of hers, all the love that we need in the world is inside of us. And so stop seeking what we're seeking from the outside world. Those I would say those books in the beginning, like,

Unknown Speaker 49:27
were the biggest, biggest things from biggest teachers for me. And then I

Unknown Speaker 49:32
also like I invest in coaches, I always have a coach. I'm always in a mastermind. I always have a I just mean, a couple of my girlfriends were coaches, we just started a weekly accountability group to kick each other's asses. So I always am working with somebody and always having somebody accountable. So

Brandon Handley 49:52
are you inspired by like Jim Rohn on that one would like to know surround yourself with like the five people that you surround yourself by, you know, whereas we're What kind of drives you to do want to do that? Or is that just innate?

Unknown Speaker 50:04
That's innate? I have always, I'm a communal person. So if I'm going to do something great, I want to do great things with great people. And it's been like that when I was in law school, I had a group of girlfriends and we studied for every single exam together, we studied for the bar exam together, like your success is my success. And that's how I've always lived my life. And then when I got into business and into the world that I'm in, I joined a mastermind in LA, which was just the best best experience. I loved that group so much. And from there, I gained these beautiful entrepreneur friends and we are each other's biggest cheerleaders. We refer each other clients like so. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 50:49
Who's your ideal client?

Unknown Speaker 50:51
My ideal client is somebody I will work with men or women. I tend to work more with women. I want somebody who has As a desire on their heart that they are not fulfilling right now. And they want to figure out the structure and the system and the mechanism through which they can put it out into the world. I want to work with people and I work with people who they've already decided, I don't want somebody who is like, I don't know, maybe I want to do this thing. Now. I want people who are like, on their journey, they have decided it's time to make a change. They are just at that point where they're like, I need somebody to coach me and teach me how to do these things.

Brandon Handley 51:35
Right now. Amen. Right. Amen. Like it, they're not ready to. They're not ready to take the leap. Right? Like, you can't push them. Right? That makes sense, right? I mean, they gotta be ready. You just, I mean, you're really just trying to pick up the pieces,

Unknown Speaker 51:48
right? And also I got to teach the concepts and provide information and to to encourage, but

Unknown Speaker 51:56
the power is in the person who is taking the Action,

Brandon Handley 52:00
for sure. I love it. I love it. Where should everybody reach out to you like Where should we go find you.

Unknown Speaker 52:08
So I probably spend most of my time on Instagram at Regina a Lawrence la w. e MC. And then my website is Regina Lawrence calm and that has some good freebies on it and different ways that people can work with me.

Brandon Handley 52:23
Awesome way. Thanks for hanging out today. And, you know, joining me and sharing your story with everybody.

Unknown Speaker 52:29
Thanks for having me. Good.

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Spiritual Dope Introduction

Published: May 31, 2020, 8:40 p.m.
Duration: 7 minutes 43 seconds

Hello, and welcome to the Spiritual Dope podcast.

This is Brandon Handley voice of a generation and I will be your host for this podcast.

Let's talk a little bit about what this podcast is going to address so that you know what you're getting into.

First of all, this podcast is going to have interviews weekly with people who have found like their spiritual outie, who have found some type of awakening moment, and they're going to figure out how to integrate that with their business and thrive in that business.

We're going to be sharing that as well as I'm going to be sharing individual podcasts where I do solo work, and I'm simply sharing insights as they come along to me.

So who can you expect to be on the podcast again, entrepreneurs, people who have done well in business or continue to do well in business who have again, they are They've had an awakening moment. They are very spiritually aligned. They've got purpose, they've gotten intention, they've got vision. And we're really gonna just see what it's like. And really, they're also doing this. outside of the normal constraints.

I really want to highlight those factors, these people aren't doing what is considered the norm.

They've kind of gone off the track. And they're following their own path and they're blazing their own path and they're their own light and they're sharing that with you.

And, you know, really what I want you to be able to see is, if this is for you, if you're a seeker if you've been trying to figure out your purpose, your passion, your whole reason for being or you've had an awakening moment, or you're on the cusp of an awakening moment, and just, maybe you're freaking out, man.

Maybe you're freaking out and you're Just looking for someplace to tell you that it's okay. It's okay. That's actually kind of awesome.

This is a place where you can flourish.

This is someplace where you are welcome is someplace that you know, Amazing Grace, you may have been lost, but now you are indeed found. So, you know, what else can you expect here?

When can you expect these releases? We're going to do you know, when I say we, I plan on having weekly Sunday releases of the interview, plan on having those released, so maybe you're just kind of hanging out on Sunday, you can catch the interviews.

Hopefully, they're an inspiration for you during the week.

And you can take a look as somebody who is a psychic, right, I've got psychics lined up, I've got mediums lined up. I've already interviewed people, some coaches who just really found a tipping point who've taken the leap. have transformed their lives into something just so much more than ever could have been imagined. Since they've aligned themselves with their spirituality and who they are.

I say spirituality but to put values purpose and just who you are, in being authentic in your life and having an amazing life in that way.

So and then there's gonna be some individual podcasts where I'm simply sharing insights.

One of the main purposes of this for me to share with you is, I've had my own awakening moments I've struggled with aligning that spirituality or that awakening with the material world if you will, and how do you merge the two, so that they are indeed one.

Even the third you know, mind, body, and spirit. How do you merge it all so that it's all really useful and relevant to you and your life?

Because that can be a challenge, especially if you if you've gone through it and you'll hear me probably say often, just like Buddha talked about the before enlightenment, chop wood carry water after enlightenment is chop wood, carry water. And the same thing you know, I think enlightenment, awakening can be interchanged.

So, you know, those are going to be the kind of the people so if you're a seeker again if you're going through something on your own, and you're looking to find out some other people who have had similar experiences, and how they've managed to integrate that for themselves and have an amazing life, then stay tuned.

So how can you engage, feel free to email me You can email me at Brandon at spiritual dope.co you can go to Facebook spiritual dope, and Instagram spiritual dope, double check that one for you should just be spiritual dope though. And, and you know, head to the website, you know, check out that's where you can get the podcast and engage there, there's a couple of items up there if you're if you feel like, feel like being a patron right to this type of endeavor.

There's plans to release downloadable content so you can implement some of this stuff for yourself. And then there's, you know, engaging courses, you know, we'll see, we'll see if we'll get it launched, and we'll see how it goes.

The plan is to get some of that stuff out there so you can have something that you can apply in your daily life as you seek, and as you find and as always, you know, feel free to share in any insights that you're getting anything that you might have a question on.

I'm going to tell you one last part, here are the influences for me are many right?

We go from Alan Watts we go from the Vedanta we go from the Patangili we go to Jesus we go to Buddha, we just take it from wherever we can get it wherever I can get a lesson and learn something shamanism intuition, friends that are mediums, anything that speaks to, to me.

Stay tuned for and that's where it kind of all the influences are coming from. We've got you know, geez, Wayne Dyer, Bob Proctor. Wallace D. Wattles is, I mean, huge for me.

I've got some content I can share for you on that one.

Just so many others, one of the primary ones that really got me to kind of lean into this also is Sri Kumar Rao. You know, this book, Are you Ready to Succeed, is one that I've given now many times and is one that has had a tremendous impact on me as well.

So, look, so many I can't name them all right now, but those are a couple of the influences that if you're curious, you know, this is for you. And if any of those influences Abraham Hicks, right as another one that's just kind of top of mind, all these people and so many more, whoever's kind of popping up and whoever I'm listening to, then this might be for you. So, that's the introduction. If you like it, great. If it's not for you, that's cool, too. You know, thanks for stopping by and checking it out. The next. Next one should be an interview, talk to you later.

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David Gieselman | Taking the Leap | Spiritual Dope

Published: May 31, 2020, 1:36 a.m.
Duration: 1 hour 4 minutes 27 seconds

Brandon Handley 0:03
Do you like that? Ah, yeah. Did you know about that? Hey guys, this is Brandon Handley I am on today with Dave. Gisela Dave is gonna be my very, very first guest and a podcast that hasn't even been introduced or released anywhere yet. We're calling it spiritual dope. I've kind of subtext lines. Let me know how that gets your hit, right get your hit, get your dose or get your hit. I'm still kind of up in the air with

Dave Gieselman 0:28
a hit. I like

calling it dope and you get treated. If we're calling a medicine, you might want to bolus or a dose

Brandon Handley 0:38
not an analysis because like I've already I've got I've got artwork being done. I'm just all about this, this thing. So

Dave Gieselman 0:46
as a doe as an ex dope head, if it's dope, I'm gonna get my head right so I'm gonna get my fix. Well,

Brandon Handley 0:54
yeah, now fixes a little too bright past the border. I'm gonna stick with get your hit right like I think that That's my demographic. Those are my people. That's who I'm talking to. I don't think I can talk to the people that get their fix. Those are beyond my health, right? I mean, honestly, right? Like, I mean, I'm just gonna call it the way I see it. So yeah man and and the premise is like, you know, people you know, there's going to be like the spiritual hit conversations like the, you know, my one on ones or my, my one offs were like, I'm just speaking from the dome sharing my you know, I won't call it wisdom, but I'll say, Share, share, whatever it is, is coming through me to you. Right. And then, and then have some conversations with some with some really awesome entrepreneurs. Or even like, you know, professionals who have, you know, figured out how to live spiritually in alignment with themselves and be successful in the world. And I think that Dave, you know, you you you fit that mold, right and you also fit you fit the eye, you know, this this kind of ideal piece where I don't know, you know, what would you call it when you were? Let's just tell us what you're about where you're from what you're doing.

Dave Gieselman 2:09
Let's see, let's let's start it. Let's start easy. You know, my name is Dave giesemann. I am from, from Los Angeles, California still live here I am, I'm a unicorn, I'm actually from LA. And I am the coach and the founder of become limitless. It is it is my coaching organization. And I work with I work with mostly women, but I work with with men and women who who are looking to uplevel. Right, who, who want who want more and for the most part I work with I work with leaders, I work with professionals and work with CEOs who people who are have achieved achieved level of success and are ready to go to the next one and they're running In the upper limit problems, they're running into, I, I, I don't know how to take the next step for myself, I don't know what it looks like, and, and I don't know, if I have the capacity for it, I know I'm being pulled in that direction. But I got some stuff that I need to get sorted out in order to get there. And, and so this is where because our in our businesses light, right, our shit always shows up in our business, you know, your, your business is a is a is a very, very clear indicator of your life. The problems in your business are a very clear indicator of the problems that are probably in your personal life. Because it's all it's all it all shows up in the same way.

Brandon Handley 3:49
Look, I mean, there's there's no separation between business and your life, right? I mean, they're both your life. I mean, right? You can't I mean, you really can't separate it and, you know, as we're, you know today Today, we're going to be talking about Spiritual stuff or as I like, you know, that's what you call life. I mean, if you took away the life that's within within you, you you drop to the ground right like I mean, I got no other name yet so whatever you know you could call it Jimmy right whatever whatever's whatever's got your whatever's got your boat humming but whatever is inside of you it's gonna show up outside of you one way or another right? So if you don't have your shit together, if you're a hot mess at home, you're a hot mess at work, right? You're a hot mess and even if you don't look like it, you are

Dave Gieselman 4:35
right. If If, if you lack communication skills in your home, if you lack the ability to empathize if you lack the ability to connect with with your family, with your with the people around you, that is going to seep into your business and you will lack the ability to to connect with clients, colleagues, employees You're potentially your employer. And yeah, whatever is on the inside is, is inevitably going to show up on the outside. Yeah,

Brandon Handley 5:09
yeah. So your story, I think is one that, you know, I can't share enough of right because I just love the journey. I love kind of where you've come from where you and I were talking a little bit about this before we've known each other for about three years now, three years ago, right? I still remember catching God driving down the highway, you're given a motivation talk. And just, you know, it was talking to me like almost directly, right. And then a little bit later you you you gave a talk just talking about like the the dog whistle, right? Like there's certain people they're going to hear your message because they're at that point, right. And then, you know, you also talk quite a bit about like, you know, the universe unfolding just kind of like the next step that you're asking for, like whatever it is that you're asking for. Yes, right. Universe is gonna stamp approved, right? If, and and it's true if that's how you decide to live, right? And I think that that's, you know, when people talk about the power of choice, that's where it gets to. Right. It's a choice. It's a life choice to live that way. Right. So, let's talk. I mean, I don't know the pre Dave's story so well, so what? What led you to start believing in that? Right? What led you into that?

Dave Gieselman 6:31
You know, the just because I want to talk about what what's current and relevant but just to give you guys the Cliff's notes on it. Yeah, like I said, I grew up here in Los Angeles. And while all the other little boys and girls on the playground, were developing healthy, healthy coping mechanisms, I was developing numbing mechanisms. And it went from it went from food, to caffeine to cigarettes to masturbation to sex to, to, to, to alcohol to drugs. By by 22 years old, I was completely homeless drug addict and alcoholic on the streets of of, of LA I was in Pasadena and and at 24 I got sober 24 years old I got I got sober and and my journey kind of began there I was, I was I was homeless, I was a mess, I was completely feral. And, and kind of had this starting from scratch place where, you know, like, I had no clue who I was. And, you know, I had no clue about anything. And what I basically had was the opportunity if I could build it anyway, I wanted to build it. How did I want to build it? How did I want to build this man? How did I want to build who I was how did I want to build a life And so I just I began making conscious very conscious decisions about how I wanted to treat myself how I wanted to treat others, how I wanted to engage with with the world around me and, and I made some, in those first few years I made some very, very strong decisions, I made some decisions about, you know, the way that I would I would interact with with my fellow men like never again, would I engage in that sort of bullshit like chop fight or or you know, you know, you know, they call you know, cutting, you know, in in in some areas, you know that that running verbal battle between men where we sit there and tear each other down, for fun and for sport. And I decided that I was never I was never going to participate in that again, like, like my brothers have a have enough. We have enough coming at us. Just just in this room like I don't need to tear my brothers down. I will build my brother every single time. Guaranteed, I don't care what the world thinks to me, I'm the very first person that I'm gonna I'm gonna tell one of my brothers that he's, he's handsome, He's good looking. He's, you know, he's, he's smart, he's articulate and has something to offer the world. I'm going to be the first person to tell one of my brothers that, that, that he has absolutely everything he needs inside of him to be an amazing husband and amazing father, an amazing employer, a good moneymaker. If If those are the things that he decides to incorporate in his day to day behaviors, rather than the fearful, selfish, self centered son of a bitch, then we all kind of are on the inside. You know?

Brandon Handley 9:50
Yeah, look, man, I think we all had the propensity for that. And I think that that's really I think that's the environment that most Most of us end up growing up and right, like we've got to get what's ours, we've got to make sure that if somebody's better than us, we need to make or you know, if somebody is showing talent or skill or in some way, superior to you got to cut them down, bring them down to size, you're not being humble. Where's your pride? You know, you're way too prideful. Right, and that and that type of thing. So, you know, was it right after, you know, you kind of you sober up that that's when you make that decision that you decided that that was where you're going to be or, you know, did you kind of, was it it? Was it a pass into that

Dave Gieselman 10:40
the path into that was, you know, first off I you know, like, like I said, I was I was homeless when I when I first started, and about a year and some change into my, you know, into sobriety, you know, I met I met a girl, and you know, she thought I was cute and I was not in a position to argue with her. And, and so, my, my first experience there was, you know, this this person really liked me and, and, and I wouldn't what I what what I, I wanted was I didn't want her to find out that I was just feral as I was, but, you know, and, and so I began making decisions lately What? What is the guy that she deserves act like? What is the guy that she deserves? What does that guy behave like how does he show up in the world? How does he know how does he act? What does he do? How does he act around the house? And, and you know, and she bought it you know and and and I did, I did the actual I behaved right in a way that that I wanted to be like I and like I like I coach now, you know, if you want to be something else, you got to behave in a different way. And you know, it's just like making your bed in the morning, right? Somebody told me You know, early on, make your bed every day and I'm gonna go we're gonna have to do a sobriety because nothing, just do what I told you to do. And so I consciously made my bed every day. And at some points, I stopped consciously making my bed every day and I shifted, I transformed into a guy who just made his bed every day without without thinking about and I would no more, you know, leave the house, I'm making my bed and I'd leave the house, brushing my teeth, or anything else for sure. Right. Right. And, and so I began behaving in the way and the way we the way we behave in the way we speak, will alter our brains, right? And so I began thinking like the guy, like a guy who acted the way I was acting. And I began using language in the manner of the guy that I wanted to be. And so I literally started acting like the man I wanted to become, and I don't know when it happened, but at some point I transformed into the man that I wanted to be Rather than acting like the man I wanted to be.

Brandon Handley 13:03
Now I love the 100% because your audio is got a massive video, right? And it doesn't even happen on purpose. It doesn't happen on purpose because you're acting in such a manner for so long. Right? That it just that's who you become. Right you right? You, you, you spoke it into existence, as they say,

Dave Gieselman 13:26
right, right. Right. You, you you act it into existence, you speak it into existence, you know, like, Look, whether you are whether you're doing it consciously, but if you are, if you are acting, if you are in all of the behaviors of a guy who takes care of his body, who goes to work every day, who shows up on time, who pays his bills, if you are in all of those behaviors are you not are you not that person, right? And whether you whether you need to remind yourself to be in those behaviors or not. You know, at some point, it just becomes, it becomes your habit, your routine, your subconscious, that that's running that program. But regardless of whether, you know, you're, you know, deep down, you're, you're this just just frightened, selfish, self centered, you know, piece of work. But what I want to do is is, is I want to be something greater than that, right, your, your behaviors will always dictate, you know who you are. And so, when you become this thing when you begin acting this way, it's, you know, it becomes a yard and so and so we can, you can literally act your way into into a better life a better, a better, you know, a better life better health better, whatever, like, because, because you're actually taking the actions of the person who does those things.

Brandon Handley 14:59
No I totally agree, man. And And the funny thing is, is I think that a lot of us we've been told that before, right, that's not new, you've gotta you've got to be before you can do before you know you can have or something like that, right? I forget that I forget the line hundred percent. Okay, so, you know you're going through that journey, you get married, you're a chef,

Dave Gieselman 15:20
get married, had a kid, right? I got married, had a kid and it was the same way. Right? Like, what is the best father that I can be? What does that guy behave like? What is what are the actions of that man? Right? And I'm just gonna be in those actions. Yeah, yeah, at the time. I'm a chef. I'm working in an eye on hotels and restaurants in Los Angeles. And, you know, and I'm working with a lot of drug addicts and alcoholics because, you know, of I was just I was giving back what was so freely given to me. It was things I was sponsoring, I was in 12 step 12 step recovery and, and that's kind of the deal with 12 step. Recovery is like the minute you get back on your feet, your feet back underneath you, not when you get your shit back in your life back, you start making money again, and you're kind of established and have some free time. Now, the second you have your feet back under you, you turn around and you reach back into the hole and you start pulling other people out like that. That is the deal. And that was that is what was impressed upon me is that the only way that I'm ever going to get better is to help other people get better. And, and that was a such a fundamental piece and continues to be such a fundamental piece of who I am now and working as a working as a chef. Like I always wanted the people around me to get better. I always wanted to them and so I got into mentor I got into a lot of personal development. I got into a lot of mentoring. I got into a lot of stuff. And what I found was that I actually enjoyed helping people develop into better versions of themselves. I actually enjoyed that more than I enjoyed, you know the kitchen life. For sure, and in. And so I've been and so I've been coaching now for coaching for about 17 years in one capacity or another. And in 2017, I retired from professional kitchens. I opened my I opened my coaching business as a business about a year before. And in 2017. I retired from professional kitchens to coach speaking right full time.

Brandon Handley 17:29
I love that, you know, wasn't just sitting there, I was like, you know, we want people to be better versions of themselves not I don't wonder if, you know, it's the same thing. It's the same thing just said differently. It's like, help them uncover who they truly are right like that. You know, your, your best version of you has been, you know, put in jail. Right. Your best version of you has been locked up, right. Your best version of you has been Um, Miss fucking lead.

Dave Gieselman 18:04
Yeah, and the and the best version of me is informed by all of these things is informed by a violent that is informed by finding yourself on the on the wrong end of a firearm or a, you know cops billy club or you know, like, like any number of things, you know the the best version of me is in the best version of me is also informed by but teaching my son how to ride a bike and and learning what we're learning what like what true like, like patience and, and persistence like from persistence, consistency and patience looked like and which I didn't know until you know until my son was sick and and you know we can't shake a toddler for not feeling well nurtured them you know he and and just the same way You know you, you can't, you cannot be raped another man into being a better version of himself, you nurture them, you know, and the best version of you is always inside you. And that's why I say the best version of you because who you are the very best version of you the very very best know that if you want to if you want to get spiritual with it, the The, the, you know, everything that God ever wanted you to be without all the dumb cheap, lame, bullshit aftermarket shit that you stuck on with like duct tape and

bio, you bought right

about the big dumb spoiler on the back of the Corolla?

Brandon Handley 19:43
Right? You got three badass rims?

Dave Gieselman 19:46
Yeah, you know, and, you know, like it was it's all bunch of cheap, dumb bullshit aftermarket stuff. And the best version of you doesn't need any of that, you know, like, and so we asked the question, right. If you woke Tomorrow as at 100% of God's potential for you, what would that guy be like

Brandon Handley 20:07
talking on real, right? It's unreal. Because I'll tell you, I'm reading. I'm reading way too much. I'm filling my head way too much stuff. And I love it all though like I am. There's actually a person called spiritual junkie, I'll have to talk to her.

But uh,

it's, it's unfathomable. Right, your potential, right. It's on fathomable limitless is indeed it so I want to go to that place where you found that for yourself and talk about that for me

Dave Gieselman 20:43
you know it a lot of it came from you know, it came from my journey with with with my own with my own body right so you know, in in sobriety, I first of all, I got I got sober I got off the streets. I never thought I could Do that, you know, then I found I found love and I never thought I could do that. Right. Then then along comes my son. I never thought I could do that. And, and, you know, I never thought that I could I could like show up and be responsible, you know, a responsible human being for age someone just want to be with me be someone want to make a baby with me, you know and and

Brandon Handley 21:24
the BMA like maybe nobody wanted to, but then they did and then they decided you could stick around and still be the dad.

Dave Gieselman 21:30
Right? You know, like, like, yeah, that was like best case scenario. Right? And, you know, and so and so all of these things, I kind of came to this place where you know, I I began to question every single limitation I believe I had, you know, and and my son was about four and we got it we can I got into Brazilian Jiu Jitsu together. And I you know, and through this process through this art, you know, I've been voted for for 12 years I you know, I, I start training I watch my body change, I watch my belief in myself change I watch my son grow up without any fear of other human beings. I watch I watch it transformed him into into the young man that I need them to be today. I started competing and finding out that I had strength and capability beyond whatever I thought, what what else I thought was possible. I got into Spartan races and tough motors and began going okay, so if, if I can do this, what else can I do? Right? And I'm going to start I'm gonna start beating up the body as hard as I can. And just finding finding limits and and I I didn't find any I and so and so then I start opening up to the is there is there something more for me? Is there something greater for me and that's where become limitless came from is is I at one point I ceased to believe not only in my limitations, but in the limitations of others. Like I just I simply stopped believing in them. And you know, and I was leading a group of women last night, and I told me the exact same thing I go, I don't believe in your limitations, I don't believe in them. And I am going to stretch you beyond everything that you believe you're capable of. Because if there's one thing that human beings have shown, is that they are piss poor at understanding their own limitations. Right? Every time we think we understand the limits of human potential, somebody else throws a rocket, you know, into the, into, into outside the solar system. You know, we thought we could never fly until we flew. We thought we could never. We thought we could never, you know, go into space until we went into space without we could never explore other planets until we explored other planets. You No, we thought we could never live underwater until we lived underwater. And every single time. We think we have a limitation. There's always some dude just like me or just like you send the back one.

You want bet?

Brandon Handley 24:14
For sure. For sure. I mean, I'll throw this out at you. I mean, do they say that, like, 85% of our DNA is junk DNA? And I got to ask myself the question, you know, to, you know, the god universe, anybody give me something that I can't use? Right, right. I ain't got no junk DNA. I just don't know how to use that other 85%. Right. Yeah, right. Right. Like, I haven't had that yet. And it's like, what, what's it gonna take for me? To figure out how to turn that on. What's it gonna take for me, you know, to make the decision of Yeah, I can do that. I just got to go try it.

Dave Gieselman 24:49
Right. Right. And so when I decided to do this, I leapt into it. I leaped into a brand new career I'd spent 30 years in professional kitchens, I leaped into a brand new career you know and I made the leap and and you know just like the matrix nobody nobody makes me

Brandon Handley 25:09
well listen I mean here's the other part right like I'm reading I just finished this book called The path of the initiator initiates path one of the two right? And you know, one of the one of the things in in that and you read it in like almost all the other religions are like all the other like you know coming of age enlightenment things is like

Unknown Speaker 25:30
you have to get rid of everything

Brandon Handley 25:35
that you had in order to become who you are right in order to accept this new path for yourself in order to you know, you you went all the way in for it and you the price that you paid, was was giving up everything to become who you are today, right? The semi fair like I mean look

nearly every you your whole life. Since you and I have met

Dave Gieselman 26:03
radically different, oh,

yeah, no. So when I

Brandon Handley 26:06
said sorry, and that's just in three years,

Dave Gieselman 26:08
right when I when I leapt into that new career late cost my marriage, you know, it cost me every dime I had it cost my retirement. It literally cost you know everything and I ended up you know, getting divorced liquidating my retirement, you know, you know, doing doing 1000 other things. And you know, they say that, you know, your new life is waiting for you. It is going to cost your old life though. You know, and that is true. And but, you know, for everybody who's like, you know, right now just kind of sweating bullets, right. Let me save it. There is absolutely nothing. I have had to let go of that I lament losing there is absolutely nothing. That my life right now cost me Do I regret letting go of

Brandon Handley 27:03
it? That was all I mean, look, I mean, I was thinking about it like if you know if you're kind of run like I think of anime for some reason, I think like, you know, you know somebody is always running there's like 100 hooks coming at you right those hooks that are hooking on to you, that's all the shit that you just can't let go of, right? That's all the shit that's keeping you from moving forward. Maybe not, you know, maybe not 100% keeping you from moving forward but each one of those hooks that gets released from you allows you to move that much freer.

Dave Gieselman 27:31
Right, you know, and I'd like to give everybody who's listening to this permission right now. The your life The your life today does not need to look anything like your life three years from now, or that your life today doesn't need to look anything like your life a year from now. Look, you are welcome to change anything at any moment. And, and completely reinvent yourself. Yes, right. And so You know, the what happens is a lot of people in it, and here's the limitation, right? Well, what if I, what if I do this and it's the wrong decision? What if I do this and it's the wrong move? And the question I asked every single person is how will you know? I will you know, if it's the wrong decision, I made the decision. It literally cost my marriage and every Sunday and every cent to my name. And and now less than, less than three years later, right, less than three years later, I'm living in a beautiful house with with an amazing woman who is absolutely the love of my life. Who who had you know, I you know, I got my, my, my, my, my little blue house with a white picket fence, you know, in, in, you know, here in northeast Los Angeles, with a woman who, who, who I love more and more every single day. My life is exciting. Ordinary and I will tell you that it cost every single bit of my old life. The one thing it did not cost me was my relationship with my son right now as the one thing that it did not cost me. And as a matter of fact, my son respects me now more than he did then, because he saw that it was time for that for that situation. And he understood it. And what he saw was his father make a conscious decision to do something he wanted to do. It he saw what it costs. He saw the way I suffered for what I believed, and now he has seen me build a life that is that is incredible.

Brandon Handley 29:48
Yeah, no, it's it's super powerful. That's why I love the story, man. That's why I super love the story. And, and let's keep talking about the types of things that like That the universe provides right like, because here's, here's one of the things that happened to me recently was, uh, you know, I was always kind of worried about the job that I had, right one of the jobs I have because I got paid really well. And I was spending all my money because that's what I do as an American, I just spend all my money and then some So, so, you know, got to the point and then and then I was down in Louisiana. And, you know, this, you know, Puerto Rican guy picked me up from an Uber ride and we got to chat and he's like, yeah, make like $2,000 a week driving Uber. I was like, so my worst case scenario is I drive Uber Okay, I'm good. So whatever happens happens like i think you know, Tim Ferriss calls it fear setting now I'm not gonna sit there and focus on the biggest worst possible thing that could ever happen my life because needs to spend their time thinking about that. But I mean, yeah, you did. You you you ended up you living at home, time to list and I'm sure there are some people that were like what the fuck do you think you're doing days?

Dave Gieselman 31:06
Oh, I'll tell you right now, there's still people. There are still people who've known me for years and years and years who believe that I'm experiencing maintenance experiencing a midlife crisis. There are still people, like, members of my own family are still a little bit curious about what I'm going to go back to my job and my wife, like, like they they are still curious. And I'm like, I, I made. I made more in the first quarter of this year than in my best year of any kitchen ever. You know, if I made more in the first quarter of this year than I made in a year, in any kitchen I've ever been in. My life is richer and fuller than it has ever been in my life. Ever. My life, my life is better. And you know, there will always be the BBC when we Worry, right? What what we're doing is we are we are literally putting energy into, we are imagining scenarios that we don't want. Right? That's what we do when we worry. And one of the things that I had to do, and I would encourage anybody who's listening to do this was looking at at taking a lever or making a shift, like I had to, I had to change my relationship with failure. Like, you know, what, what would failure look like for me? You know, and for me, right for me,

you know, failure like

going back to kitchens, literally, you know, you talk about your goes bad. I started driving, I start driving Uber and yeah, and I drove lift for a minute. All right. What what was new kitchens. So true abject catastrophic failure for me looks like a six figure job. Right? Like, for sure going, you know, right, going, going back to hotels and, and high end restaurants. That's what but

Brandon Handley 33:21
so that's a scenario though, right? Where you're working for money versus working for something that you believe in, right? Am I right or wrong in that?

Dave Gieselman 33:30
Absolutely. You know, yeah, I was working for money and I was making and I was making decent money, and I hated it. I was hiding behind what at what will I do? Will my family do without the money? Right? And the truth is, is that the money, the money went anyway, it didn't matter. I made it because I made it work.

Brandon Handley 33:49
Sure. Well, you know, I think that there's a so I mean, I don't know you listen, I'm not trying to get too far out there. But like, you know, the same source is taken care of Mi is taking care of everybody else.

Dave Gieselman 34:02
Absolutely.

And when we connect with it and whether you call that God Allah Buddha, Yoda, the the universe spirits source, Mitch like what what, like whatever it is you call that is irrelevant. Right the fact the matter is is that that there is a there is a universal intelligence to to energy. Right, you know, and energy has an intelligence of its own. And it's an intelligence and energy has an intelligence that can be harnessed it can be, it can be directed. And, you know, and it's and it's funny because, you know, people, people struggle with believing it until they have to until they have to. And once they and once they're there, they're in a position where they have to use them. They're like, Oh, that's how it works.

Brandon Handley 34:54
Well, we were talking a little bit about this in the beginning here, right. It's the choice to believe in it. Right once you once first of all once once you have that conversation with somebody it rattles around in your brain for a long time. Like he breathed this motherfucker said he said universe Mitch he said Mitch had my back and you know what I encourage people to do is look for evidence of it right don't you don't need hey don't don't start big you know you don't have to make that leap you don't have to make that leap so much that you're gonna fall and hit your face and you know potentially die take a couple of years was crawl walk around man you know crawl walk run

Dave Gieselman 35:39
right well, the first the first step to achieving an impossible goal is to set one sure right. Yeah. You know, set an impossible goal and and stretch or stretch yourself this much Mike. Like my my introduction to Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Was was this look, I took myself Son this little community Jiu Jitsu program because he was foreign it's time to like get in doing something on on a Saturday morning and and whether it was you know chasing with chasing a soccer ball with a bunch of other four year olds or or throwing you know throwing a baseball or or figuring out how to how to how to catch or whatever run now we checked out this this this Jiu Jitsu program and because a buddy of mine was in it and and he recommended it and and so I'm like watching the kids out on the mat do their thing. And, and one of the parents came up to me and said, so you're gonna do adult classes right after this. You can do the adult class. And I looked at this one I'm like, like, I'm a 265 pound chain smoking chef. No, no, I'm not. I'm not taking the adult class, right? I'm not I'm not doing that. And she's like, that's cool. So when you're saying Son, you know, is a 15 year old black belt and, and you think he should clean his room and he thinks you should go piss up a rope? Like, what exactly do you intend to do about that? I'm like, Okay, well, maybe one class, you know, for sure, you know, you know, and maybe maybe I'll just take one, you know, and I and I took this class and i and i and i did this thing, and I got on the mat, and these guys tied me into 100 million knots. Like it was. It was a completely hopeless situation I couldn't when I had a little hundred 50 pound girl who could throw me off her and choke me unconscious at will, right like and there was nothing I could do to, to like to like stop that from happening. And, you know, at the end of the class, I was I was breathing heavy. I wanted to throw up, I wanted to die. I'd been humiliated about 150 times, you know, in the last 30 minutes. And, and, you know, three or four of the guys in the class came up to me. And like, by the way, that's what everybody's first day looks like, right? I'm back. Right I you know did did you enjoy it and I and I did. I like being physical I like, you know that that that thing I enjoy that and they're like that's what everybody's for. It's what your first aid you do.

Brandon Handley 38:24
Thank you for that. Yeah Dave, you're the one who got me into that and, man, it's not happening right now. And, you know, we talked about like, you know, that is part of my spiritual practice, right that that's like those are like kind of my moments of flow. When I go in. I'm participate in jujitsu, but you're dead, right, man. I think I broke my rib. On my very first day, couldn't sleep for a month and my girl is 115 pounds. She's purple belt and just like, what made it even worse was she was the girlfriend of the badass jujitsu instructor. And she's like, you know, he's like, all right. Go Russell, my girlfriend's like, What the fuck is this? weird girl brother? Yeah, right, right. It was weird. That made it weird, but like, you know, she kicked my ass for like the next six months. And it wasn't until like, she didn't put me into you know, she didn't. She didn't choke me. Like, in one round that I felt like I'd accomplished something. But, you know, to your point, like I mean, we go in there and we start at the bottom and we stretch ourselves just a little bit more every day right and i think that kind of that's the takeaway for anybody who who maybe they don't believe that they can accomplish this big dream you you you as a coach, what do you what do you help them do with these big dreams?

Dave Gieselman 39:42
You know what look I

start saying yes shit. It doesn't matter what it is start saying yes to shit your you know, your your super and

Brandon Handley 39:54
I don't even know what to do. I don't even know how to say no, I'm terrible.

Dave Gieselman 39:58
Right? But just start seeing Is your super athletic homeboy? He goes hey do you want to you know do you want to go you'll run a thing with me and instead of going like no that sounds horrible just say things sure you know your your you know your girlfriend who wants to to introduce you to some you know type of music like see yet just are saying yes but they say yes to stuff and I understand that there are people who say yes to too much right and and so they get overwhelmed because they're people pleasers or whatever I'm not talking about people pleasing right i mean stretch beyond your

Brandon Handley 40:38
say say yes to new say yes to new experience, say

Dave Gieselman 40:42
yes to new experiences, and like and say yes to new experiences like the same new experience, like three times before you make a decision on it. Oh, yeah. Like just start saying yes to stuff right you know, and and and, you know, This is gonna bring up a whole conversation about, about boundaries and whatever. And that's not what I'm talking about. Sure, you know, you know that's not that's not

Brandon Handley 41:09
to say say yes to stretching yourself in in a meaningful kind of intentional what else is out there for me in my life kind of way that's that's right what you're saying

Dave Gieselman 41:18
what would happen if you know what's the worst that could happen if I if I if I said yes to this thing that sounds like inconvenient and I don't want to and will

Brandon Handley 41:28
take me you said just to get up on stage we'll call C's right like I mean, that was a big thing for you. Wasn't it like being up on stage with him?

Dave Gieselman 41:35
Yeah, I see that. See, that wasn't the plan. I you know, I you know, he asked for he asked for like input on something. And I didn't know he was going to put me on stage. But what I but what I did was like not, not go run in front of him like Okay, so, so we're going to do this and so that's, that's kind of the big thing is go like move in the door. directions the energy in your life is moving. Sure. I'm gonna do this. Okay, so here, here we go, you know, he asked, he asked who like, like who, you know, we did an exercise because all right, who just had a profound experience? Like I did he goes, we watch come tell me about it. So I started shouting and he's like, no, no come up, come up on stage. So now I'm on stage with Kyle sees in front of 1500 people 16 1600 people, and and I get to have, you know, I get to a get introduced to the world as a coach on fallacies of stage and have a profound experience about myself, where I realized that I could literally write my own. write my own story. And it was funny because if you go if we go back to that, to that thing, and it's, you know, it's been all over the internet and wherever we go back to that moment, like at literally everything that I was afraid of happening when I made my leap happened. Sure. I literally every thing that I described as, as the thing that I was afraid of like actually happened. And when all those things happened, and I and I actually called Kyle I, I, you know, I had his cell phone number at somebody and I'm and I literally called him and I'm like, I'm like, Okay, so here's I need to tell you this. So literally everything that I told you I was afraid of actually happened. Right everything I was afraid of happening happened. I did. I did what I said I was gonna do everything I was said I was afraid of happened. And so I am now literally standing at the bottom of the pit of my own worst nightmares having come true, the thing that the things that I was absolutely afraid of most, they are all alive and well in my life in this moment, right. And I have never felt so purposeful, so alive, so energized and so absolutely certain that I was doing the right thing for sure. Right. And so the All of the metrics that I had given myself for what catastrophic fail would look like, like yeah, I mean, I literally ticked every single box, right, of what catastrophic failure would look like. I gathered all of those things into my life at the exact same moment. And when this is the best I've ever felt, I've never felt more useful, more energized, and are more connected with the why, with with the reason I've been placed on this planet than I do right now. Yeah. And, once again, my idea of my own limitations. You know, my, my concept of what, what failure would look like what my own limitations were, once again, just like the rest of humans, like like, complete, like garbage, like complete nonsence my idea of what my limitations were, was absolutely laughable.

Brandon Handley 45:06
We look I mean, that that's, that's the very thing, right? We put ourselves in the tiniest box, right we put ourselves into the tie is like we think that we think that like our boundaries are so far out there and when we hit and we're like, that was exhausting. But that's like really this tiny little box right? I mean, be gone to explore the entire fucking universe, right? Like, I mean, it's, it's, it is limitless, there are no limits. Let's talk just talk to me a little bit about though. Again, I want to I want to just you're you're serving, right, you're doing this in service of others. And to me, I think that that is kind of the ultimate driver of like, you know, spiritual, you know, you're driven spiritually so that you serve others like that. That which is inside of you, keeps coming through more and more powerfully, because you were giving it to others, you have to be that that fully charged.

Dave Gieselman 46:11
Absolutely. And, you know, and I am I am what I described as I'm a prime, I am a prime nurturer. Right. And, and I did it with food for a long time. Like I fed people like that's what it was, what it was what fed me was, was feeding people making food. So, like, at the, at the bottom, like the base level food is is nurture. Right? The first thing your mother does is feed you like that's like the, you know, the first thing that that that you know, the way that you identify, you know, the people in your families is because they feed you you know, when So, you know and, and, and so, and I am a I am a prime nurturer. My first instinct is to nurture and And is absolutely the reason that I am here is absolutely and, and what I, what I discovered was I found a way that felt more that felt even more authentic and and was actually more efficient than food. And it's literally by crawling into somebody's psyche with them. And, and like, and like, you know, so they're showing me around they go Yeah, this is this is what I built and this is what I believe and and here are my limitations and I'm like, wait, and I tear it down like a backdrop. I'm like, yeah, it's bullshit, right? Yeah. It's that bullshit. Story. That's the story story. That's the narrative, right? That's, that's the thing that you have told yourself so that you can give yourself permission to stay small. Right?

Brandon Handley 47:52
Well, and you know, that's, that's the whole point of, you know, getting a coach as a coach. You as a coach. You don't give a shit about their backstory.

Dave Gieselman 48:00
Okay, not only not only do I not give a shit about your backstory, right Wait,

Brandon Handley 48:05
you're not gonna get permission like I love the line that too like you're not there to give somebody you know, you're like you're not there to argue for their limitations. No,

Dave Gieselman 48:16
no, no no. Like Not only do I not care about your backstory, I don't care about your fears like I don't care about your i don't i don't care about the the the the narrative that you've told I don't care about the meaning that you have placed on you know this that the other, I am here. expressively to I'm going to find out what it is that you want. Right You tell me what you want, which by the way is going to come from the deepest place in you what I wanted this right what I what I want is to serve the world at a at a very high level. What I want is to create a company that enables people to teach children everywhere what I you know, what I wanted to, you know, is you know, Whatever it is, whatever it is, your thing is, and by the way i don't i don't work with low level people. I don't you know, I don't work with people whose whose like, like, like deep and personal dream is to own a Wendy's. Like, that's not you know what's wrong with that? Um, I get what you're saying is it's just not what work was it

Brandon Handley 49:18
was it's not it's, you know, we'll talk about it's not who you are it's not who you are so that's not who you attract to you right? Like you can law of attraction you can call whatever you want that's just how the shit works. Right, right. Like I mean, you have knobs and whatever and, you know, you twist and turn and you tune into like, you know who you are people are attracted to who you are, you know, today, and, you know, most of the times the people that you're helping is people that have been where you were at one point

Dave Gieselman 49:54
well, there are people who literally have all of my shit and and you know, this you, you know, you spend some time and Personal Development and you know, you, you work with people and the truth is, is that absolutely every single one of my clients, like has a has a deficiency of mine and me working with them is really me healing myself and and and that's that's the bottom line I love that too, you know, like I you know I'm not some I'm not a you know some guru I don't I don't have any sort of special wisdom what I what I have is the our absolute willingness to be like vulnerable and in breakdown at the public level like I am absolutely willing to to learn with you as as we grow right you know, and and you know, Lisa Sasa has called it lift as you climb, right? So as I'm climbing, on lifting, you know, and and so I am absolutely willing to To learn as I, as I, you know, as I grow and continue to believe that the people are placed in my life to teach me something for sure.

Brandon Handley 51:11
Every man is a lesson, every person's lesson. I got asked this, this comes kind of from Joseph Campbell, you know, hero's journey. Right? You know, there there was that point where you made that decision to become a coach like full time, right? That was a call. Right. That was that was a call and there was a little bit of hesitancy, I'm guessing, to heed that call, right. Oh, yeah. Yeah. So, you know, if you didn't heed that call, like, if you don't, I would, I would call that the heroes call. Right and and if you don't accept that, what happens if you if you disregard that heroes Call

Dave Gieselman 52:02
what happens is if you get it you get called again. And and you get called again and the and here's the problem as you get called again and again, the universal use more and more persuasive language every single time, which means saying no disregarding it, pushing it aside, will get more painful every time you do it.

Brandon Handley 52:31
Amen. So, and and I liken it to I liken it to, you know, you're gonna grow whether or not you want to right and i think about it like as a seashell right like I mean you're you know, you're you're the seed inside this shell and like you're gonna pierce through like you got it that little that little sprout that like I could go by, you know, has enough energy and life force within it to crack a hard shell. I mean, that's what's happening. I think humans are you know, you're There's a seat right and you're unfurling and there's no you can resist as much as you want.

Dave Gieselman 53:08
Right? Well, here's the here's the fact of it that absolutely every single organism on earth understands its purpose and and knows that it is supposed to fully grow and fully expressed before and before passing on, you know, and to use your example you know, like, like, all the information for that for the, you know, hundred foot oak tree in that acorn, you know, and the acorn hits the ground and the moment that acorn hits the ground, it knows what it's supposed to do, okay. It knows the roots go down, trunk goes up, branches go out, leaves are green, it knows this. And it has all the energy all the information all and all the the will it needs to do the tree and it knows that it's supposed to fully tree right and Everything, everything fully expresses flowers fully, fully open, you know, you know, plants, you know, they fully express, you know, dogs fully that never in the history of dogs has a dog ever half assed being a dog dogs fully dog, right? Like humans are the only organisms on earth that doubt or debate whether they are supposed to fully express what is inside them before they pass on. Right some of them Yeah, but know who you know what why am I that special? Why is the OIC that special that it gets to take up that much space, right why you are take up your take your space, take your space in the universe, take your space, you know, there's plenty of room

Brandon Handley 55:01
And you got to think about like this too, like there's never any more or less mass in the universe. So there's also that I'm just saying I'm putting out there right? Like, what you decide to do. Yes is going to have an impact but it's not going to have a don't limit yourself there's you're not gonna you're not gonna you're not gonna damage I think the world because you decided to believe in yourself.

Dave Gieselman 55:25
Right? Right. And that's and that's, that's the whole thing is is that that thing that's inside you that thing that won't shut up the thing that won't let you sleep? Think like that is your purpose. Like, make no mistake, that thing was put there by something because you are supposed to follow it. So like just again,

Brandon Handley 55:47
right? Like I mean, like all right, so so is like, well, that's fucking great day. But what's my purpose? Right? Well, go start to explore it right? What's your answer? What's your answer? Like? I mean,

Dave Gieselman 55:59
what are your passion? It's okay your interests are a breadcrumb trail to your passions. your passions are a breadcrumb trail to your purpose. Right What? What do you fucking love? Like what do you love I'm not telling you right now. I love serving humans. You've known me long enough that you know this to be true. The thing that will get me out of bed every single day is Hey, you want to go be a service to somebody you want to you want to you want to go shift somebody's life. You want to shift somebody's perspective. You want to you want to go stand next to somebody well, while they watch their you know, while they watch, you know, a parent die, you know, do you want to do you want to go like, be somewhere you want to stand up? Do you want to go show up for another human? Yes, yes, I absolutely do every day, every day, my life in my dream in every way I can. Yes. What I want to do is to show up for other human beings.

Brandon Handley 57:01
That's your spiritual dope. Right? You know, that's your that's like that's your spiritual life Hi. Like, I know that like, a couple years ago, somebody's been like, you know, dude, I just get half alive. I feel like you can go fuck yourself. But now like, you know, let's let's talk about that spiritual life Hi, right like living a life that is complete and being excited to keep waking up and I hate on asleep because I don't want my day to end like I love I love you know, learning more about what it is like give right and what else can I you know, you know

Dave Gieselman 57:37
how all the

Brandon Handley 57:40
information I'm taking in I know is going to be in service for others, not just myself, but you know, there's going to be someone that comes along tomorrow that needs the information that I just put my head yesterday.

Dave Gieselman 57:53
Right. Right. And, and, and showing up showing up powerfully so you know, yeah, I What I don't know my purposes bullshit you know just like you talked about the DNA percent of his crap DNA and there's there's no reason it wouldn't be there if it didn't serve you take that thing that you love that thing that you're obsessed with that thing that you know everything about the thing that you can't let go by the way that's your thing that's like that that thing that you've been thinking about since since you were a child Yeah, that is your thing don't

Brandon Handley 58:25
try mascot like I'll tell you man that's what you know i think you know so for those of you that are joining this first interview on spiritual Do you know I got done doing about a year series on you know, prosperity practice where I had this all this same feeling but like I was trying to mask it with something else right? Like I was like, let's let's see if we can mask it some way again, like it was like, Hey, you come in enjoy the prosperity practice. I want you to come check out this thing because what actually wants you to see is over here, right? Like, come check out this prosperity thing. But what I really want to do is, you know, connect you with all who you truly are. Right? Right. I think that that's what you do, right? Like you help someone to see all of who they truly are. Because you been in touch with that for yourself.

Dave Gieselman 59:13
Right? You know and and to, to live at full volume right to not right not like stifle like any piece of me and not, you know to not drown out or mask or or you know or anything of any single piece of me to to live life exuberantly right and and and so you know you know we've talked about this we've had this conversation like like I'm not putting anything pretty in a box man like when i when i at the end of my row, dude, I want to go skidding in sideways. No rubber left on the tires.

Brandon Handley 59:54
Yeah, look, man, look, I want it all used up. I don't want nothing left. You

Dave Gieselman 1:00:00
Yeah, I don't want I don't want any like, I don't want I don't want to leave. Like, I want to leave a thing on the table, right? I don't want to I don't want anything left. Like, I don't want another mile left on that machine. Like, I'm not putting anything. And, and and that's just that's just the way it

Brandon Handley 1:00:20
is. But that's truth. Right like I mean and I think that that's true and and you know, talks about like the dog whistle thing but like when you hear somebody speaking their truth you know it like it is it is it is it is resonant. I hate resonance, but it is resonant. Right like it there is a true vibration in the room a true sensation that you receive when you are around someone who's speaking their truth. Right. Right. And, and that to me, you know, that is life coursing through somebody else that is That is allowing that to happen, right like it is. It's not forced. You can tell when somebody's trying to force that shit.

Dave Gieselman 1:01:06
Right. Right. But yeah, it sounds funny. It sounds like they don't believe it. It sounds like they're saying it. But once again, the audio has to match visual audio

Brandon Handley 1:01:16
video has to listen and it will. That's the thing. So with that, that's a, you know, coaching, I think is awesome for that. podcasting, I think is awesome for that anything that you do that you begin to express who you believe you are in any way, shape or form. You don't have a choice but to become who you keep calling.

Unknown Speaker 1:01:39
Right. Right. It's great. Yeah, that was good.

Dave Gieselman 1:01:42
Look at that. Look at the people that you continue to attract into your life. Right, right. Yeah. By the way, that's, that's how you're showing up just so you know. People you you call in your life that has a better stop.

Brandon Handley 1:01:55
No, it's so true. It's so true. It's on level every time why Listen man always love you man what you know what is what's like a parting blow man like you know what's been your you know? I don't know I have a segment yet that says like what's been your like most spiritual hi do you chase a spiritual high do you does it tell them to you like yeah what's your What is your spiritual Hi Dave

Dave Gieselman 1:02:21
you know what the

the spiritual part of this deal right is like the water part of the ocean right is like it's the god part of of life is like the god part of it is like the water part of the ocean like it's all God part it's all spiritual part of it right like all of that there's no part that isn't there all or nothing

Brandon Handley 1:02:47
all or nothing

Dave Gieselman 1:02:48
You know, there's no part that isn't spiritual part even the stuff that that you don't think is is a lesson in everything that you're pushing with That's nonsense. It's full That's not for me. That's what that's that's lessons. That's lessons and and it may be a lesson in setting boundaries and maybe a lesson and tolerance and maybe a lesson and empathy and maybe like, I don't know what the lesson is, but I am absolutely certain that everything in my life is here for me. Okay, if nothing happens to me, everything happens for me for sure my and my job is to is to live is to live this life as as an expression of the universe just just through me.

Brandon Handley 1:03:34
Yes, Can I get an amen? Amen brother Can I get a what what awesome brother. Where should I send everybody to go find Dave easily?

Dave Gieselman 1:03:45
You know you get I am easiest to find Dave use on my personal profile on Facebook or become dash limitless comm www dot become dash limitless calm but I am most easily Found Dave giesemann go to my bush roaming profile you know, shoot me a private message. Dave you summon

you know and and and find me there everything I do. Eventually everything I do.

Facebook is kind of the portal for that so

Brandon Handley 1:04:23
I know awesome

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