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Brandon Handley 0:00
What is going on spiritual dope, hope you\'re doing all right. Sure you are. Wanted to connect on a couple different things from this, this past week was one of the things one of the things pretty excited about as we as you know, doing the Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and think it\'s been probably about a year since I\'ve been back after COVID and have one stripe on the blue belt, finally got my second stripe, pretty exciting stuff there. We all know really, that it\'s supposed to be about the journey every once in a while, though, you still get caught up in and, you know, the ego trap, right? Like, when when is this going to happen? You know, when am I going to reach this destination? And I found myself feeling that way. I did I you know, I think that it\'s easy enough. Just like anybody, like we\'re driven by, you know, some of these some of these milestones, sometimes were driven by a lot of external factors. And, hey, look, I\'m human. And I\'m part of, you know, this western society and to say that I\'m not driven ever, by external factors, that be bullshit. And to that point, there was a meg had posted, I\'m actually going to look for this thing right now, she posted a thing on Facebook, she posted a picture of my office face, right. And if you saw the picture, it is it\'s the garage stuff was shit. You know, all the stuff that we haven\'t gotten rid of, and is not necessarily organized. And it\'s got a green screen, like kind of hanging around and some other stuff, right. And she posted the picture of garbage cans, or in a picture, you know, all this stuff. And I\'m like, Oh, my God, how I felt so embarrassed. She goes, welcome to the space where big tech deals are sealed. Some days, all you need is good lighting and a green screen like Mr. Handley. She goes, this is what happens when you try to fit a 4400 square foot home and 900 square foot. And, you know, I was I was a little embarrassed. I was a little I was a little. I was like, wow, I and then I realized, I realized that I was kind of let like, let my ego get to me, right? Because I didn\'t want people to see, you know, the place where the work was happening, the place where I come and I do and I give the breathwork sessions, you know, put on the green screen and put on a background didn\'t want didn\'t, you know, this is where the look I do all right, at work, you know, make a decent living and I didn\'t want you know, people to know, like, Hey, this is this is where I\'m working out of. And I let it go. Took me a little bit. And, you know, it was real, just kind of being real honest with you. Took me a little bit because I realized again, that in this scenario, I will let my fucking ego kind of take over and drive. Alright, the ego is like, yeah, man, you don\'t want people to see that shit. You don\'t want people to see where you put the time and effort in? And yeah, so I mean, I even talked to Mike about it. We talked a little bit I said, Yeah, you know, I almost asked you to take that picture down. And she goes, why? And I just, you know, I gave her what he said just so what I just said right now is I felt a little embarrassed by right I felt like, you know, I should have my shit should at least look like it\'s more together than that. Right at the same time. She goes well, I you know, I thought it was really cool. You know? So here\'s so just just so we understand there\'s this juxtaposition here. I know that I was a little embarrassed. She goes I thought it was really cool. Because you can do anything anywhere you\'re like, you know, you\'re able to go and just kind of set up a making create a space and create and provide for a family, you know, kind of just anywhere. And she\'s like I thought that that was pretty cool. And I was like you know, personally I didn\'t really kind of take that perspective but she\'s right right like

we changed our spaces we changed our office and homes all this other stuff. And and yeah, I come out here into your right here right now the garage and you know, put up some soundproofing and all this other stuff and I created a space where I could come out, be creative, I come out here, I can work. I can allow for the children to play without me being like, hey, you know, especially especially when I\'m creating a podcast, like even right now like Fenn could be playing on the other side of the wall. You wouldn\'t hear it and I wouldn\'t. He wouldn\'t hear us right there\'s soundproofing on the wall, and he plays video games he talks to his friends. Whereas if I kept my office space inside of the house, then everything buddy\'s got to tiptoe around and like all this other shit. So I picked up and like created a space in the garage. And, you know, we always, I guess, want to appear to have our shit together. And we always want to kind of just show something better than, than what\'s really there. And so I kind of left it left the picture up there, because that\'s the truth of it. Right. And I told her, I said, this was this, I really felt vulnerable, leaving that up there. But I also felt like, you know, it was it was an honest representation. And I didn\'t feel like I should be allowing, like my ego, to kind of take that over my ego to drive that. I mean, if we think about a whole lot of anything. I\'m not saying I\'m like some monk in the Himalayas, the sits in a cave, but there are monks, you know, and the devil is going out there and just sitting in caves. And I\'m nowhere near that level. But that\'s this is, this is my private space, this is where I get to come and, again, relax. So I just, I just share all that, because sometimes when we see, we see what we think we see, and I think that that\'s oftentimes driven, driven by the ego. And sometimes, you know, if we can just let that go, or even, or even have those honest conversations with the other person about it, you know, I didn\'t ask her to take it down. Definitely considered it, but we sat down had a conversation about it, which also made me feel vulnerable, because then I had to share kind of how it made me feel right. So you expose yourself in some of those conversations. And to be honest with you, I think that\'s you know, that\'s a big part of strengthening a relationship is to have those open vulnerable conversations. And as long as the other person doesn\'t take advantage of that vulnerability, then I think it\'s a great opportunity to to strengthen, right? I think a lot of people a lot of times, they never reached that point of just being able to open up and share the truth and their truth and have an open dialogue about it. Instead, you know, a lot of people kind of run away from that and to me, a relationship is built in, in that vulnerable in that vulnerability. And I think letting go of ego especially in a relationship as most relationships that you have there\'s a there\'s an ego involved do you want to be seen as the guru you want to be seen as a specialist? Not sure that I shared it and maybe I already did, I think I did share like how somebody reached out to me asking a question and I just said I\'m not the specialist but maybe here\'s a couple tools that can help you to get the answers you know, just come at it as an equal and be honest and I think that you\'ll find a lot of truth in that space anyways, that\'s really I wanted to touch base on that one I\'ve been meaning to get to this one now which she posted this on the 31st of March it is days later but I\'ve been meaning to get around to it finally got around to it this mo things I mean to get around to knock them out one thing at a time. Hope you\'re doing well it\'s really been just a quick hit of spiritual dopamine. Where do you find your center? Where can you let go of some of your ego working find where you\'re vulnerable? Where can you find that your ego is still like leading you and to fuck it. There\'s really nothing wrong with it. Just recognize and be aware. And I think that that\'s, that\'s it

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