Breaking Free from Generational Chains: Insights from Kaluwa
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Kaluwa is an Intuitive Healer, Transformation & Empowerment Guide, and Executive Consultant. She has become a queen of transformation. After years of believing that a joyful, abundant life is for other people and falling into depletion from people-pleasing, she began a journey of self-discovery, upgraded worthiness, mindset shifts, and a connection to the divine feminine. She empowered herself to create a life she loves, make the money she desires, and receive unconditional joy. Stepping further and further into her power, she is bringing others with her that feel there\\u2019s more to life than suffering in toxic relationships or environments and living on auto-pilot.
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Find out more over at https://imperfectlyamazing.com/
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Summary:
In this discussion, Kaluwa provides valuable insights for spiritual aspirants. She talks about the journey of discovering one\'s self-worth and spiritual connection, trusting intuition, and breaking free from negative generational patterns.
Kaluwa shares her personal experience of homeschooling her daughter and how it has allowed her to live a more vibrant and energetic life.
The discussion also covers the importance of investing in oneself and finding joy in the journey, as well as the healing process using EFT tapping.
Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of embracing one\'s differences and finding gratitude in all aspects of life, while encouraging spiritual aspirants to prioritize their own growth and make themselves a priority.
Brandon Handley 0:00
Hey there spiritual dope. I\'m on here today with Kaluwa did I say that right?
Kaluwa 0:07
Mostly Kaluwa Ruit Ghalikar
Brandon Handley 0:08
Damn it. Well, I know it\'s gonna mess it up and you know that there you go. But I did but one of the things I always felt not always I often fail to do was try to clear up the name before I messed it up. So this time I cleared it up and messed it up. But all good clue has become a queen of transformation after years of believing that a joyful abundant life is for other people and falling into depletion from people pleasing she began a journey of self discovery, upgraded worthiness mindset shift and a spiritual connection to the divine feminine. She empowered yourself to create a life she loves make money, she desires and receive unconditional joy, which is her birthright. Being the change maker she is she\'s inspiring others to step into their desires to kalua. So funny. You and I were talking at the beginning of this clue and I have at least exchanged email for the better part of five years. I\'d have to check Google for that.
Kaluwa 1:05
Probably more,
Brandon Handley 1:06
I think. Yeah. closer to six. Yeah. And, you know, through through a variety of different ways. And then, as we went along, you were on a good friend of mines podcast. Jeremy. She\'s blanking right now. As pas Jeremy talks,
Kaluwa 1:24
podcast. Yeah,
Brandon Handley 1:25
as Assad pauses. And Jeremy was my very first guest on my very first podcast and what a shit show clue up by the way. Oh my god,
Kaluwa 1:35
entertaining though, knowing the two of you that had to steal have been a good show, no matter how bad it was.
Brandon Handley 1:41
It wasn\'t so bad as the conversation. It was like, how do we do this? Like, you know, we were like, literally like it was it was it was like, to technology that you and I experienced like doing this today? Yeah, it was like 100% improvement. And so so the thing is the clue and I we never really talked. And it wasn\'t until like I heard the podcast where you were on with Jeremy as well. And turns out clue is in the spiritual space, my sis bass, positive affirmations face abundance face like and pretty much the same space without being in my place. Space. Space. So, so glad that you\'re on today.
Kaluwa 2:27
Thank you so much. I\'m so thrilled to be here with you.
Brandon Handley 2:30
Yeah. So I usually say this question for the very end. So let\'s do let\'s we\'re gonna flip we\'re gonna flip something around today. You know, I look at this podcast. It\'s kind of like a spiritual speed dating podcast, right? You know, so I\'ve got actually had to pull this off right now wasn\'t ready to do at the very beginning. But so I have like this list of top 20 questions. Plus top 20 questions, spiritual questions, right. I don\'t think they\'re amazing. But they you know, they\'re the top it says the 20 questions for every spiritual seeker, right. So I want to pick one or two out of there. And, and then, you know, maybe there\'s somebody that\'s listening today, that\'s going to be like, she\'s my spiritual Bachelorette. So, I\'m spiritual. Bachelorette number one, since you\'re talking about abundance or anything like that today? Why is there poverty and suffering in the world?
Kaluwa 3:22
Hmm. You know, I feel like the same poverty and suffering is relative. I think a lot of times we create a definition of it, we look at a third world country and say, Oh, that\'s poverty that\'s suffering. And yes, of course, there is, you know, people not getting enough food, you know. But then there\'s also a lot of community, there\'s a lot of togetherness, there\'s a lot of tradition and culture. And so maybe sometimes we trade for, I don\'t think that any one is completely impoverished. As long as we\'re always finding gratitude.
Brandon Handley 4:08
Yeah, no, listen, I like that answer. You know, there\'s always no, to talk about finding indigenous tribes that have never seen, you know, television or radio or even,
Kaluwa 4:19
they\'re not missing it. And they\'re happy. Yeah,
Brandon Handley 4:22
they\'re laughing. They\'re smiling. They\'re healthy.
Kaluwa 4:25
Yeah. Okay. And I will never, you know, minimize anybody\'s pain or struggles. But at the same time, I think that most everybody knows that everything is happening for you, not to you, and we can always find something that makes us abundant.
Brandon Handley 4:43
Yeah, I mean, it Well, I think that you found that for yourself. At a certain point in time, there would have been, you know, an inflection point. Right. That\'s certainly something we want to talk to about today. And we\'ll spiritual Bachelorette. Let\'s get one more in here. Right now. Um, let\'s see. We\'ll make it an easy one. Describe god.
Kaluwa 5:13
Okay, nice and easy. I mean, as much as I know, right, because, you know, so here\'s my take on the whole spiritual realm, right, we have the higher self of us. And it\'s like this inverted pyramid. So here we are at the tip of that upside down pyramid. Okay. And so we just know that little bit, and then we have our higher self, that knows maybe all of the lifetimes of experience, or all of you know, the, the, what\'s happening in the spiritual realm, and all of this information that maybe we can\'t handle all at once, so we get it as needed. So then there\'s that, but then there\'s also the whole realm of, you know, love and lights, and all of that. I mean, I guess it\'s just infinite, as far as I\'m concerned, and it\'s all connected and, and this realm and that irrelevant. It\'s, I don\'t think neat or clean. I just think it\'s like one big lump of love, I guess.
Brandon Handley 6:22
So God has one big lump of love. big lump
Kaluwa 6:24
of law. Fair enough. Fair enough. We\'re all part of that.
Brandon Handley 6:27
Sure. Sure. Sure. No, I appreciate that, as well. You know, trying to be we are not separate from anything out there. And God is a part of that. And so we are part of it. And if it is one big lump of love, and that\'s what we\'re all working with today.
Kaluwa 6:47
I mean, you know, as far as animals and the planet, and you know, the atmosphere, the you know, all of it the solar system, right, all of it. It\'s just, there\'s all connections. Yeah. Yeah.
Brandon Handley 7:01
Love it. Okay, well, cool. We, we pyramid, the podcast right now. And a couple of different ways there. And then so the other way, I usually like to start this as well, is that, you know, we\'re also conduits for just love that you\'re talking about universal energy, and that there\'s always somebody tuning in listening to the podcast is gonna get a totally different conversation than the one you and I are having you and I are talking, we\'re like, talking talking. They\'re gonna come at it from their own level of understanding and perception. And wherever they are today. They\'re gonna hear something different, to help them that can only be delivered through you today through universal energy, what is it? What do they need to hear?
Kaluwa 7:50
believe in you. What we mean by that, is that no matter where you are, in your life in your journey, but no matter what your experiences have been, no matter if you think differently than the masses, no matter if you know, your desires are different, if anything about you is different. If your experiences have been different, trust yourself, and know that there\'s a reason for your differences. And those are your gifts.
Brandon Handley 8:28
All right, trust yourself. And you\'re here, you\'re you\'re exploring the spiritual space. But I mean, that wasn\'t always like your background. If I recall, and doing a little bit of research, like you were going to like medical school for a little bit, right. Like,
Kaluwa 8:45
I had an interest in med. Yeah, I had a pre med major than I ever had. Yeah. And it was funny, originally, I was going for physical therapy. And I remember, you know, volunteering as you should. And the people coming down in the hospital to the physical therapy room and asking, asking us to let them die. And I was just like, Yeah, I don\'t know if this is my jam or not. And I found myself moving into, honestly, human services for a long time just through again, there are no accidents, right? So I got a job outside of school, working in a group home for people with developmental disabilities, and loved it. And so then when I graduated, I moved into more management positions, and I just continued to work through that field. And so working with people supporting people to their highest level has always been a passion of mine. Sure. And yeah, so I think that was where, where things really began and then after so long in Human Services, I found myself craving to be more in a spot of proactive help than me Active?
Brandon Handley 10:02
Yeah. Well, what\'s that look like for you now? Because I feel like that\'s kind of where you are right now with the with the coaching that you deliver, you\'ve got holistic coaching, you\'ve got products you\'ve got, you know, this way of looking at it.
Kaluwa 10:13
It\'s funny. Yeah, it has been, you know, and that\'s the other thing, like, just trust yourself trust the journey, because I feel like, oh, my gosh, is this confusing for people because really, you know, I had this long history of dance, I was a dancer, I, you know, was on the dance team in school. And when I got to a certain point, I started teaching holistic movement, right, it was kind of like dancy movements and very mind body spirit. And then that led into health coaching, and then that led into more of the mindset and lifestyle coaching, and then that started to lead to where the spiritual coaching has continued to snowball. And again, just like that, that whole idea of everything is connected. I don\'t like to leave any of it out. Because it\'s all connected where, you know, we don\'t compartmentalize, truly.
Brandon Handley 11:08
No, I think that I think that, that if we do, I think you talked a little bit about your father and the illness that he had. And when when you go to kind of take, you know, the acute problem and make that like the whole body\'s problem. It\'s, I always think about it like a wheel, when you put the balance on the wheel, right? Like you put the balance on one side, and the whole thing\'s off. Right? You gotta keep you got that next thing. You know, you\'re putting balances all over the wheel. And you\'re never really kind of addressing like, maybe it\'s a bedroom.
Kaluwa 11:43
Yeah, right. Yeah, exactly. But you\'re
Brandon Handley 11:47
never really kind of, by that. I mean, you\'re not addressing the whole you\'re adjusting like these kind of like, Oh, you got a toothache let\'s you know, take out your tooth. And like,
Kaluwa 11:55
yeah, you\'re hitting the symptoms instead of the root. Yeah. Right.
Brandon Handley 11:59
So. So, you know, to your point, right, you\'re, that\'s not separate, like, they all kind of play roll with each other. So you know, look, you\'re on you\'re on this, like crazy, I wouldn\'t say crazy. You\'re you\'re on this journey,
Kaluwa 12:14
sometimes.
Brandon Handley 12:18
And you will know the reason that kind of re pull that back. Because like, we don\'t want to call like, wherever you are crazy. We don\'t want to close wherever you are. If we believe if we trust the process is exactly where you\'re supposed to be. So that you receive whatever it is you need. So you can move forward. That\'s right. So when when we started talking today to let\'s talk about, like, you know, some of your first YouTube videos and the journey that you\'ve
Kaluwa 12:51
thanks for going back and looking at those.
Brandon Handley 12:54
It\'s perfect, because because it\'s that whole iceberg thing. Right? So the whole iceberg, people see the tip. Yeah. But like, there\'s a whole lot that went into it, right? Like, I didn\'t know, you\'d been doing this stuff, like pretty well in depth for well over five years. Right. Okay. And so let\'s talk about like, what made you finally say, Hey, I got to put the camera on, I got to put myself out there, and I gotta move this thing forward.
Kaluwa 13:26
You know, I think that\'s probably the reason I did is probably the energy difference you feel between those and what I do now. Those were, that\'s what I should be doing. And I just had this sense of, Well, this is what I should be doing to get myself out there. And okay, let me do it. And yeah, I wasn\'t super confident about it. But you know, I was like, well, I\'ll just, you know, show up, and I\'m going to do it, and at least I did it. Hey, that\'s perfect, right? That is that is all anybody can do. especially starting out and, and not putting expectations on themselves. So, you know, sometimes I just jump and see where I land.
Brandon Handley 14:08
For sure. Sure. And I and what I love about that is that, you know, our stories are so parallel, right? When I first started it was like, This is what you\'re supposed to do, go do this, go do that go to this. I\'m like, I\'m doing this. I\'m doing that I\'m doing this. But I think that one of the key differences and I love that you hit on that is the expectations. I had expectations. Right. I was like this is gotta have this is how it\'s supposed to have this is what the manual says. The copy says that this will happen. Yes.
Kaluwa 14:41
Five simple yes. And it\'s funny. I just did this whole thing last week about you know, you need to being a trigger for me. Everybody tells you what you need to do to be successful to lose weight to get a mate. Whatever it is you need to write, don\'t tell people what they need to do. because only they know it\'s within them. Right? It\'s inside of them.
Brandon Handley 15:05
Yeah. So you\'re doing all the things that you\'re supposed to do, right? You should be doing. You\'re creating programs, you\'re putting yourself on YouTube. You know, where do you where do you and you\'re? Are you feeling hollow at that point? Are you feeling like you\'re just going through the motions? Do you feel like there\'s a passion in it where, you know, let\'s talk about it. Because again, I think this, it\'s a real good journey.
Kaluwa 15:33
Yeah, it\'s a good question. For sure. The passion always right. The passion is always there. Because again, that\'s what I, I love. I love to help people move along. But yeah, there\'s maybe a disappointment, I think, because I would have this expectation, oh, if I do this, and I\'m consistent, then it\'s gonna lead to and then it does. And I\'m like, What the heck, man?
Brandon Handley 16:00
You\'re like, where are my million followers, bro? Yeah,
Kaluwa 16:03
thank you. Come on now.
Brandon Handley 16:08
I paid $200 for this. I\'m pissed. Exactly. So you\'re, you know, again, and I don\'t think it\'s wrong. As a matter of fact, that kind of love. I love that there was like this bubble of that. And there\'s this kind of rush into that space, right? Because I think it was needed. Yeah, I really, I really do think that it was needed. Now the question is, is so much that you it\'s not like, it\'s not like you have to be consistent for three months, or six years or any of this, you just have to be consistent. There\'s a Bob Proctor has this. One, he talks about certain indigenous tribe, and he goes, You know what? They do a rain dance. And he\'d ask them, How long do they dance for? Did they dance for a couple of days or whatever? And they go, No, we dance until it rains. Right? So
Kaluwa 17:07
it\'s been a big lesson for me lately, too, is that Divine Feminine timing into something that
Brandon Handley 17:14
sounds sounds like, you know, maybe what you were you had jumped into. And again, you know, you jumped into it with the right intentions. But the work that you were doing just wasn\'t aligned with who you were in that moment. And it just wasn\'t a good fit at the moment. And you continue to work through it.
Kaluwa 17:35
I was doing more of the here\'s what you should be laying out for people. This really helps people this helped me right. So I\'m still doing it. Yeah, for those right reasons. But I still wasn\'t fully in my alignment. And just this now I find myself when I\'m connecting with people, when I\'m guiding people, it\'s more of a Here\'s what\'s coming up like this is the more aligned right, it doesn\'t have to be this fancy thing. This, you know, Tony Robbins thing that everybody\'s doing? It just gets to be like, Wait, this is what is best. Now, how does this fit is simple? Yeah.
Brandon Handley 18:22
Where do you feel like somebody inflection points where
Kaluwa 18:31
the alignment and the the allowing, I would say more. So allowing the guidance to flow, allowing it to come through allowing it to just be in alignment.
Brandon Handley 18:54
So for somebody that\'s not in alignment, what\'s that kind of feel like?
Kaluwa 18:59
Well, usually it\'s tension, it\'s stress, you\'ll feel it in the body, and I\'m a big, big person on the body. Like we\'re spiritual beings in the human body. Because we chose to be here to have a human experience. That is how we learn this is how we grow this is how we experience and so first of all, no beating yourself up for being human because that\'s why you\'re here. But secondly, embracing being in this body like this is like the foundation level is being in this body and we\'re so taught to disconnect from it or ignore the you know, the little cues until they become major problems for me, you know what happens if you ignore the clicking in the car $5,000 Later. Same thing with your body listening to it, connecting to it and when you\'re out of alignment. For me specifically, I noticed that it tends to be in my chest it can feel like tight like just because sprinting, it\'s constricting. But then when you\'re in alignment, like everything just feels like it opens up. And you might have like the butterflies in the belly. Right? And when the, like little bit of nerves, that\'s excitement, that\'s okay. But when it feels like clench or or or those are very scientific terms, by the way.
Brandon Handley 20:23
Yes, no doubt. Well, when did you know? So? When do you feel like you felt this alignment? Start clicking for you? When do you? When do you? When did you go from, you know, teaching abundance to actually feeling it and embodying it.
Kaluwa 20:43
So what\'s interesting is, I have always had a really good sense of intuition. I\'ve always been really good about that. But then I also always made myself wrong for it. You know, like, we do live in a patriarchal society. And so we value masculine properties, logic reason, why would you make that decision based on your gut? That makes no sense, right? I would make myself wrong for it. And I remember being on the phone with my aunt one day, she had made this comment about like, yeah, you know, you had a really crazy childhood, but somehow, like you ended up like, so on your feet. And it\'s like, you\'ve just always had this really good inner guidance. And unlike Yes, I have. It was hearing somebody else say it. Maybe own it a little bit like, yeah, yeah. Bad thing. Are you kidding me? That\'s like, gotten me here.
Brandon Handley 21:45
Sure. Yeah. And if you\'ve made it like this far, with all your lands, and most your teas and those things, and, you know, I think you\'re doing all right. And to your point, it\'s not that you need the validation. But when you get it, it\'s kind of like, I\'m not the only one that feels good about how I feel, or the things that I feel right, having that good inner guidance. You know, the person that, that we met through a lease, you know, such a great coach, even, I say back in the day, because it\'s been like a while now, right? I know, I know. And that keeps getting better. And it for me, it was like that support and encouragement. It\'s not like I got my wife, I got it home. But I was like this third party, you know, encouragement to just, I still remember when I told her I want to do the fatherhood for the rest of this podcast. And I was in her sales coaching. I fully expected her to be like, well, that\'s,
Kaluwa 22:46
yeah, you need to focus your efforts on Yeah,
Brandon Handley 22:50
you shouldn\'t be this is what you should be doing right. Yeah. She goes, How can I help? And I was like, Yeah, something like, lifted like, I mean, it was like, all the way it was gone. I
Kaluwa 23:00
was like, is it like, just hearing you say that? I felt that expansion. Yeah. Right. I
Brandon Handley 23:04
was like, I was like, we could do this. Yeah. Yeah. And so where was that? That\'s what I\'m looking forward for you like Where was that? Like, everything lifted? And you\'re like, you\'re like kicking in doors break into walls? Like you\'re the Kool Aid guy. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah.
Kaluwa 23:23
We just dated ourselves.
Brandon Handley 23:28
That\'s my demographic. People go through shit.
Kaluwa 23:35
Yes. And I have to say, I feel like it\'s actually been fairly recently. So you know, because it\'s been continuous. And especially last year, I decided, like I had gotten to this point, I was like, I\'d gotten my financials where I wanted them. I love my home. Like, I just loved life. I love life. But at the same time, I wasn\'t really reaching people with what I was doing. And I knew it was because I was hiding. And so then I went on a whole journey. And I collaborated with Elise right, so I took my turn with a lease and yeah, and I started to do all this Well, I tell you what it kick started this whole healing process that I went through, it was like generational stuff, and, and all of these things, and I remember getting something in the mail. It was actually so an uncle of mine passed a few years ago. And when my aunt moved, she found this paperwork that he had gotten of my father\'s from when my father passed, and it was a file of stuff from when I was a kid. And she was like, Oh, I was gonna send that to you. So she mails it to me and I received it and I and it\'s funny because again, like I\'m always saying trust, right, so all these messages and the day the more Learning or like, early, early morning, my cat knocked a music box off my shelf. And she never like she\'s never broken anything ever. And it was this particular music box that was given to me by the parent. And on that day that mail arrived. And what was funny is I just had this really weird sense that I didn\'t want to open it at all. And I didn\'t open it for a good couple days. And when I finally did, I found like this old report card, that was like the most traumatic report card I had ever had in my entire life like I, I mean, I\'ll just be real, because, you know, we come from back in the day where parents were a little more hands on. So I got the beating of my life. Like, today. And I\'m looking at this report card, and unlike, you know, WTF, I\'m passing all the subjects, right, as a first grade, let\'s put that first grade. I\'m passing all the subjects the teacher didn\'t much care for me. And that\'s okay. I may be an acquired taste for some and that\'s okay.
Brandon Handley 26:14
There\'s two of you first grade bitch.
Kaluwa 26:18
This is the woman she would call my home every night at dinner, to complain about me to my parents. Right. So I mean, that\'s like a little bit excessive. All I did was talk too much in glass. Sure. So
Brandon Handley 26:32
you\'re a kid.
Kaluwa 26:34
And I was born out of my mind, like that transition from kindergarten to first grade was hell, like we could play in kindergarten, first grade, it was sit down, shut up, don\'t move. And I was like, I\'m dying. Yeah, and so I taught, I talked and I\'d get sent to the hall and I talked to the people walk by in the hall and and I get centered or civil. And the only thing that was bad on the report card said, Well, if she continues this show, she\'ll be held back, which is a plus teaching, I would have to say, considering I was passing everything. But I didn\'t know what that report card said until like this 40 some odd years later. I had no idea. And I remember saying like, what does it say? What does it say? It doesn\'t matter what it says you\'re not doing what you\'re supposed to be doing? Wow. And I had created in my head. This story about the things I do are wrong. Yeah. And environment
Brandon Handley 27:36
didn\'t sound super supportive.
Kaluwa 27:38
No. And so you know, everything I do is wrong. And so I think differently than a lot of people in that must be wrong. And I believe things differently. And that must be wrong. And I desire things differently. I have different desires than people. And that must be wrong. Like I always made myself wrong. And there didn\'t have to be reason, because I didn\'t know, I didn\'t know the reason. And this receiving that and seeing that and being like, Are you kidding me? I wasn\'t wrong.
Brandon Handley 28:10
Yeah, you
Kaluwa 28:13
don\'t really believe in right or wrong so much anymore? Sure. If I was
Brandon Handley 28:18
that was wrong. Just put it out there. It\'s really interesting to think where we are you and I, you know, how old are your kids?
Kaluwa 28:29
I\'ve got a gap. I\'ve got one who\'s just turned 18 and one who\'s 918.
Brandon Handley 28:34
So Gelson gonna go out on a limb like you\'ve raised your children a little bit differently. Yeah. Right. And that, when they? I wouldn\'t say that probably, you thought differently. I think most kids seem to have like this innate, like gift of like, a you\'re energetic because you\'re a kid. And if you don\'t, if you don\'t have energy, and you do sit in your seat all day long, I\'m gonna start to question that, right? And then, like, flick this innate curiosity and just kind of like be alive and light and bright. Mm hmm. Should we value right? So? Yeah, you know, my guess is that you encourage your children to be, you know, bright and vibrant versus Sure. Right.
Kaluwa 29:27
You know, my daughter was such a natural learner, and she loves school. But she, for her it was second grade that the teacher was my first grade teacher and she would come home. And it was such an interesting thing because she was so exhausted, but wired at the same time. Sure, because she wasn\'t getting the physical activity and she was just like, having to just sit there and listen and you know, and she was anxious like it was almost like at the age of seven she was becoming anxious At the end of that year, I pulled her out and we started homeschooling. Wow. And I mean, again, she was brilliant. She ended up graduating a year early and headed off to school and yeah, so she did great. And then my son came along. It\'s just a ball of fire. And I was like, There\'s no way I\'m even trying to stay at home with me.
Brandon Handley 30:21
Good for you. Good for you. Right? Because, because, again, like, we were going through something super similar. First of all me too, right? In terms of like, hey, you\'ve got to lighten you. Let\'s squish it somehow. I remember my first grade teacher my handwriting. I was like, Well, it hasn\'t improved. Thank you, Mrs. Ankle. Yeah, it\'s your fault. Like, there\'s like the end and like, look at adults and people now, right? Like you if you don\'t go exercise today, or tomorrow, within a couple of days, you\'re gonna your tightly wound, right? If you don\'t let this energy out. Kids are nothing but energy. Yeah, right to reason back behind there. So let\'s go back here. Sorry. We took we went on a tangent.
Kaluwa 31:08
Yeah, that\'s those are always mess though.
Brandon Handley 31:10
But so you\'re able to, you know, somewhat rewrite this story right of yours and do some of this healing. You\'re like, you know what you\'re like, what, like,
Kaluwa 31:19
you know, it\'s funny. So like, the stuff like that, where I was, like, I knew within me that this was the best decision for my child. And so I did it. And I acted on it. And I was confident, but at the same time, I would hide, like, Let\'s be quiet, let\'s not rattle a lot of windows, like, let\'s not make a lot of noise, right? And let\'s just stay under the radar. So we don\'t alert all the people, all the haters like everybody.
Brandon Handley 31:49
Let\'s look at how you were brought up to like, you made noise. And I mean, I don\'t know what it was. I didn\'t I didn\'t have that type of childhood. Right. But I know that if I know that if I bring home a bad report card, I\'m gonna get my ass kicked. Damn right. I\'m not gonna I\'m not I\'m not trying to be seen.
Kaluwa 32:05
Like, that was my main job was good report cards. Yeah. And yeah, that\'s it. That was.
Brandon Handley 32:13
But so So you go through this process. And it\'s interesting. You say, though, this past year, right. Because, again, I went through and and checked out the clue catalog. And, and the podcasts again, like when you started that, you\'re fired off. There\'s a different intensity about you. There\'s a whole different like, I think he talked about like your chakra a lot. But like, that was an earlier one. But there\'s a there\'s a whole new core that I hear in you going back a year from the five years before. So where\'s the healing clicked? Do you have any like specific guidance? Again, you and I were talking before we got this started to is like your journey has been such a cool one such as again, it\'s been, it\'s been captured. Right? Yeah, we can go back and see, you\'re basically talking to somebody it\'s in where you were five years ago, what is something you can do that you would share with them and exercise to help them accelerate their journey?
Kaluwa 33:17
Well, for me, specifically, it was about recognizing patterns that I didn\'t like, and in my particular case, I found myself in a toxic relationship. And, you know, I don\'t like to speak ill of the person because it\'s not a bad person. But yet somehow we ended up in this toxic situation. But then when I looked back at the person before, totally different person, but boy, the relationship seemed really similar. And then the one before Yeah. Oh, and I\'m like, okay, yeah, a common denominator is me. Yeah. Which is a bit of a bitter pill. Sure, but that\'s how you make a change. And so, I mean, I really feel like I just, like, stripped down, just raw, that\'s at the heart of you know, working on my worthiness, which is probably not surprising considering report cards.
Brandon Handley 34:17
So yeah, talk about that too. Like I mean, you know, in especially when you\'re working to sell these programs, right and working on acquiring clients, there\'s got to be you have to know that you\'re worthy. Yeah, to a certain degree and if you\'ve got this thing that\'s kind of like you\'ve got this weight and really and and you\'re telling people they\'re worthy, but like you\'ve got the shackle like wow, I don\'t even know if I\'m worthy, right like so. Yeah. Yeah. Talk about breaking the chain
Kaluwa 34:54
I gotta tell you for sure. The, the biggest kickstart for me with that was EFT tapping, I love that you\'re familiar. I\'m familiar. Yep. Yeah. Okay, um, I just found that that was a really simple way to kickstart it, you know, to catch yourself out of fight or flight even thinking about, right and, and just upgrading it and, and you know, it just becomes this this step by step by step by step it doesn\'t have to be all at once we don\'t have to know everything. We don\'t have to fix everything now. Because truly you won\'t, you know, you\'re going to hit the next level and probably do it all over again, on a different dimension. Yes,
Brandon Handley 35:38
it\'s a it\'s like owning a mansion. And there\'s a dirty room on every floor. Exactly.
Kaluwa 35:43
Exactly. I\'m gonna start all over. It\'s like I thought I just kind of is or like having the kids come into the room that you just clean new, like, if you start again.
Brandon Handley 35:54
So I am familiar with the app t talk to me, like, what does it stand for? Where you know, we\'re using it? What does it look like at home versus maybe? And in front of my supervisor setting?
Kaluwa 36:09
Yeah, well, it\'s emotional freedom technique. And essentially, it\'s essentially like acupuncture or acupressure meets psychology, I guess, in a way, it\'s, you know, you tap on meridians and, and you just like, you know, tap real gentle, easy. And yeah, tap on the face. Now, there\'s a few spots are along, right. So the face the by the clavicle of the side of the ribs, and the top of the head. And as you go through, you usually start with the negative statements, which is something I really appreciate about that. And I think that\'s really powerful, is owning the negative. So often we want, like, what\'s that? Yeah, what\'s
Brandon Handley 36:53
up? Yeah,
Kaluwa 36:54
um, you know, just starting, you know, you might say, I\'m not feeling very worthy, but I love and forgive myself, right. And you just, I\'m not feeling worthy today. And then you just go through the thing, and you just say all the things about like, maybe I don\'t feel worthy, maybe these things have happened that have shown me I\'m not worthy. But then on the other hands, you know, I\'m this child of God. And of course, just being here makes me want it right, and you just start to then move into the positive. And then I don\'t even need proof. It\'s just me being here. And then when you get done, it\'s like, well, and you can even do it where like, in your mind, you rate your level of worthiness on a scale of one to 10. And maybe it was a three to begin with. And then it\'s a 10 at the end, or the opposite if you\'re trying to reduce a feeling. But sure, yeah. And so I really, really resonate with that. And then of course, I mean, there were so many other things I did meditation, learning how to protect my energy as an empath, you know,
Brandon Handley 38:01
clue one question on the EFT, right? If I\'m if let\'s say I\'m with my, you know, my boss, my leader, team, leader, whatever, I\'m starting to feel panic. He\'s talking. She\'s talking, I started doing this. Well, you can just
Kaluwa 38:15
tap on the side of your hands. Okay. Yeah, that\'s a really good. As a matter of fact, I used to do a yoga class for preschoolers. And there was this one little boy who had horrible behavior problems through sweet kid, but, you know, there was just something going on. And, and he, you know, you could see him starting to go down like that, Oh, my God, it\'s about to be a meltdown. Just grab him, sit him down and just start tapping on his hand. And he felt like butter.
Brandon Handley 38:45
Yeah, I think it works to just kind of distract the executive. Mind. Right? Yeah. Like, you\'ve got all these balls shoved down. But if you can, if you can start to focus on this thing, what\'s it feel like? What am I doing? opposed shit, I\'ve got control of at least these two pieces of everything that I might have control of more than just that.
Kaluwa 39:05
It really takes you out of fight or flight is the great part of it. So whether it be like a panic thing happening, a stress thing happening, you know, block that you\'re working through, as soon as you think about it, like the heart starts to raise, you know, like you, you even if it\'s just a small reaction, you go into that fight or flight. And so you come that and then you\'re calming it while you\'re saying those negative statements. So it\'s like, you\'re sort of relieving it, and then you add in the positive ones. And now your body gets to believe it.
Brandon Handley 39:38
Nice. Now, you\'re reassociate in the emotional energy from the negative to the positive.
Kaluwa 39:45
Yeah, it\'s just a recalibration basically. Yeah.
Brandon Handley 39:48
I like it. I like it. Yeah. So tell us a little bit about what\'s going on over at imperfectly amazing right now. This is you and what\'s going on?
Kaluwa 40:00
I\'m fixing amazing. So I have a few different things I have
Brandon Handley 40:04
a website you gave me damn, yes, yes.
Kaluwa 40:08
Like, I have a few things within there, I have a group where it\'s, you know, really just, you know, I come on live once a week I, here\'s the energy of the week I\'m gonna let\'s do this healing, sometimes I tap sometimes I\'ll do energy healing, sometimes I\'ll do a guided visualization. And you know, whatever is suited for the moment, and and
Brandon Handley 40:31
you ask the group kind of like what\'s going on with them? Hey, where\'s everybody at today? What could you use type of thing? What\'s that look like?
Kaluwa 40:37
I don\'t I tap into the energy before I get there. And I say, Okay, here\'s what\'s going on. This might be what you\'re feeling this is, you know, this is a great way and I do guide around it before I even get into the healing stuff. Yeah. Yeah, awesome. Yeah. And then I have a course, that is called 30 Day feminine power. And so that one is helping people step more into their feminine power. So again, like I said, we are really well versed in the masculine, because it\'s what has been taught. Sure. But the masculine alone, like I talked about, you know, if you\'re just on the masculine, that\'s like saying, I want to see the country and jumping in a bullet train, like you\'re not gonna see it, it\'s like, take action go. Whereas, but if you\'re just in the feminine, you\'d probably just go in circles and not get anywhere. So we want to marry and blend those. And so, yes, so that, that course is about helping you tap into that feminine, a little bit more. And then so that you can and really, that idea of stepping into your power, so that you know, five years down the line, your podcast sound better.
Brandon Handley 41:49
It\'s a journey, it is a process. And what\'s important in that illustration, right, the five years ago it\'s like, you know, the whole, you know, Zig Ziglar line, you don\'t gotta You don\'t got to be great to start, but you got to start to be great. Yeah, you got to start, you got it. You got to put one foot out there, you got to start along, and not quit on yourself, because you haven\'t quit on yourself, which is fantastic, right? Like you\'re like, Alright, maybe not this in this way in this space. Here\'s the twist. Here\'s the pivot. Here\'s his new thing I\'ve learned. I\'m bringing this with me, I believe in that. And I\'m making the adjustments as you move forward as you continue to serve. And your audience and as I think you resonate with the truth of who you are, as you\'re doing now, like I said, I believe when I picked up Listen, again, to the difference, like the core of who you are right now is like, Oh, I forgot to do this too. Right? It\'s, it\'s a solid tone resonance versus a kind of soft. You know, you said you were hiding, right? It sounded like you were hiding. Yeah, right. And now you\'re like, Here I am, which is on the Kool Aid guy.
Kaluwa 43:10
That\'s gonna be my new thing. The Kool Aid guy. Right. Oh, yeah. And then is the the last part to even for me, what the coming out of hiding was owning the spiritual a lot more. Yeah. And so I hid from that, because, you know, of course, I came from people who would be like, that\'s, that\'s blue. That\'s kooky. What kind of flighty flag Are you? And so owning that, you know, especially coming from that science background, where, you know, everything was research driven, I had to prove there. And in the beginning, I would even say, Well, you know, there is now technology that is seeing the chakra energy. There is some proof. Yeah, like, move it,
Brandon Handley 43:51
it gives it gives me Listen, it does give the person who needs some type of authority to believe it, right? Yeah, yes, you know, and that\'s okay. Right, like, not everybody\'s gonna not everybody\'s gonna be like, shockers.
Kaluwa 44:11
But at the same time, I\'m now at a point where I\'m like, you don\'t have to believe me and that\'s okay. That is okay. Yeah, awesome. But and that\'s where you know, now going into So, you know, my, my big program, this is where I\'d like basically scoop everyone up and like, hold them to my bosom. This is my program, the desire Academy and that\'s just all about I talk about healing the gap because there\'s where you are now and there\'s where you want to be, right you\'re where you desire to be. And then in the center is that gap and we want to rush through it again that bullet train. And but once we get to where we desire, well, then new desires come and we create a new gap. So and this really came from my time in human services. I remember doing vocational evaluations and people just grinding and pushing themselves. I\'ll be happy when I retire. And then you don\'t make it to retirement because you\'ve destroyed yourself. Your mental, your physical. You didn\'t even make it. Was it worth it? Yeah, no, it wasn\'t. And so we have to love the gap, we have to have that joy in the gap. And so that\'s a big part of it. And it\'s also a heal to heal programs. So it\'s one of those things where you\'re learning to heal yourself. But when you leave it, you will be a healer as well. You\'ll be a Reiki person, you\'ll be you know, you\'ll know the energetics of the seasons, you\'ll know for all of the good stuff
Brandon Handley 45:40
we\'re coming up on winter was the energetic of the season.
Kaluwa 45:44
So winter is water, and big time for reflection. So those bitter pills, this is why I believe so many people get down in the winter. I believe that people don\'t like the winter because it is a time of inward reflection. And we don\'t like to do that. But I tell you what, it\'s so important when you do that that spring. Sure you get those sprouts.
Brandon Handley 46:12
That\'s right. That\'s right. Well, that\'s awesome. Thanks for sharing that. Right. And I know that we can probably we get on so many different avenues. It sounds like you know, we\'ve got a lot of intersections. But again, I love the fact again, that we emailed back and forth, and yours. Right and, and kind of gone along a real similar journey, no one and talking some of the similar people. And what I also like about this, too, is like, you know, this is it really fits you and I and just about everybody else out there, the hero\'s journey, right? This is I mean, the storyline is pretty much the same. Yeah. Fortunately, and unfortunately, right, like, Oh, you\'re gonna have to go through some shit. Well, I don\'t want to go through shit. You\'re going through it anyways. It\'s part of what\'s gonna happen. Yeah. navigate it, here\'s your ship, paddle and your ship.
Kaluwa 47:09
We\'ll help you put the joy in the ship.
Brandon Handley 47:13
But like, you know, having people that have gone through it, navigated it and come out the other side, like, know, better for it, right? Like you have
Kaluwa 47:25
just something about having someone to just hold your hand and see you as you go through it. Because that was really helpful for me, like, yeah, I remember last year, and it was in the winter during that deep reflection, and I really was dealing with some, like I said, some generational things. And I mean, it was like, my heart hurt. Yeah. And it took a while to heal him. It was so helpful to have the people I could talk to, to just be there and to hold that space for me.
Brandon Handley 47:58
I love that, right? It\'s certainly as necessary, kind of unconditional. Anything doesn\'t have to be unconditional love, but just kind of like, acceptance for who you are, what you\'re going through, you don\'t have to be better than you are. You don\'t have to be worse than you are. You are who you are right now in this moment. And that\'s fine. Right? One other question for you, too. You know, you\'ve invested in yourself. Right? And to me, that\'s kind of like, an indicator of worthiness, right? Like you\'re not investing in yourself to you because you have options. You can spend your money on chocolate or yourself. Right. And, or anything really,
Kaluwa 48:36
okay, well, maybe I do the chocolate too, because I\'m wearing a chocolate.
Brandon Handley 48:39
Right, right, right. Bad example. But you know, you can spend your money on a lot of things, right? It takes a while, for some of us took a while for me to invest in myself to say, You know what, like, who I am worth it, right? It took me a podcast, I ended up listening to where, you know, how was that for you to start investing in yourself? And what would you say some of the return has been?
Kaluwa 49:10
Well, you know, having worked most half my life in the Human Services arena. Finances was not the biggest thing. And so I really wanted to make a positive impact on my my abundance, my financial abundance. And I definitely had some money baggage from my parents even though like, really, when I think about it, it\'s like, they never had it that but they would stress and they would have the you know, the reactions that were taught to have to money. Yeah, and I remember it was like a course, you know, and it was like $900 That was really big deal for me. Yeah. And my daughter was pretty young still. And I was just like, You know what? I\'m doing this because I\'m not going to pay son my money crap to her.
Brandon Handley 50:02
Nice. Yeah. Good for you. Good for you. And I think that\'s super important right to to be able to say to make that transition from I can\'t afford it This isn\'t for me to I\'m worth it. This is an investment. Right? How can I afford it? Right? What, what what needs to happen so that this can happen? Right? So thanks for sharing if you desire it, it\'s meant for you. Yeah, listen, listen, go for it right? You only get one shot at this. And you don\'t want to be the person you listen to, you know, the top, whatever XYZ Regrets of the Dying, right? There\'s the everybody\'s like, I wish I would have done more with my life. Nobody ever says I wish I would have spent more time in the office. Nobody ever says I wish I would have spent less time with my family. Yeah, there\'s always like, there\'s all these regrets. And there\'s all these things that people are like, well, I did this for so long. So you got to put yourself first a little bit, right? You got to at least make yourself important to yourself, because you\'re the first thing you spend the most time with.
Kaluwa 51:12
Well, that\'s it when you\'re doing for everyone and not doing for you. You\'re running on E. So you\'re not doing for you. And then truly you\'re not doing for them either. Because you\'re on depletion.
Brandon Handley 51:21
Yeah, for sure. For sure. Clue was so glad we were able to connect them. Where should we send people to find out more about you?
Kaluwa 51:31
How about imperfectly amazing.com. Okay, yeah, all of this stuff is there and yeah, yeah. And of course, you can always find me on social media, Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn.
Brandon Handley 51:42
Awesome. Cool. Thank you so much. Thank you.
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