146 SelfWork (Second Time Around): Your Questions About Perfectly Hidden Depression and My Answers

Published: Nov. 1, 2020, 2:09 p.m.

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Today is the first anniversary of Perfectly Hidden Depression\'s \\xa0publication and I\'m honored to tell you that it\'s being translated into seven more languages, including Korean, Hungarian, and Russian. So in this episode, sponsored by BetterHelp, and when we\'re on a bit of vacation, I\'m reposting your questions and my answers about PHD.

The first is from a writer who is losing her battle between\\xa0creativity and perfectionism; the second from a wife and mother who is busy all day, but feels \\u201cblah\\u201d at night. A young woman used the SpeakPipe feature of the podcast (see below..) and \\xa0asks about how to move from what she terms \\u201cself-hatred\\u201d to \\u201cself-love." And the last is from a man who\\u2019s tried therapist after therapist, but now realizes that he tried to be the perfect patient and never revealed parts of himself that might show him in a vulnerable light. How can he begin to be real?

Thank you for all these questions! If you\'re interested, I\'ve also shared the first published excerpt from my book, Perfectly Hidden Depression, on my website -- just click here!\\xa0

Important links:

BetterHelp, the #1 online therapy provider, has a special offer for you now!

The Questionnaire for perfectly hidden depression

The National Suicide Hotline

You can hear more about coping with depression and many other topics by listening to my podcast,\\xa0SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford.\\xa0Subscribe\\xa0to my website and receive one weekly newsletter including my weekly blog post and podcast! If you\\u2019d like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome!

My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression\\xa0has arrived and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

And there\\u2019s a new way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You\\u2019ll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you\\u2019re giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I\\u2019ll look forward to hearing from you!

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