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We\\u2019ve all got parts of our personality or our past that we\\u2019re ashamed of. We might refer to these parts of ourselves as our demons, our baggage, or our secrets; no one is immune.

So, how do you want to deal with this situation? Stay coiled in shame and denial? That only makes the demons stronger. An alternative, per my guest Koshin Paley Ellison, is to approach your stuff with \\u201chealthy embarrassment.\\u201d That allows you to work more skillfully with your baggage so that it doesn\\u2019t own you. And once you\\u2019re cooler with yourself, that can improve your relationships with other people, which is probably the most important variable for your happiness. And healthy embarrassment is just one of many extremely useful things we are going to talk about today.

Koshin Paley Ellison is an author, Zen teacher, Jungian psychotherapist, and Certified Chaplaincy Educator. He is the co-founder of the New York Zen Center for Contemplative Care, an amazing place which, among other things, trains people to be volunteers in hospice centers. Koshin is the author of a new book called Untangled: Walking the Eightfold Path to Clarity, Courage, and Compassion, which centers on a classic Buddhist list called The Eightfold Path, the Buddha\\u2019s recipe for enlightenment or, as Koshin puts it, \\u201cthe most awesome combo platter.\\u201d

In this episode we talk about:

• What is The Eightfold Path and how it fits into another Buddhist list, The Four Noble Truths
• How to use the list to do life better
• The danger of perfectionism in putting the list to use in your life
• How to bridge the gap between what we say we care about and what we\\u2019re actually doing with our lives
• How sitting with your pain can lead to freedom
• The utility and pitfalls of gossip
• How we can look at the idea of \\u201ckilling\\u201d in many different ways, including how one can \\u201ckill a moment\\u201d or \\u201cthe energy in a room\\u201d
• How the concept of \\u201cright effort\\u201d can help us find the balance between not doing enough and overworking ourselves
• How being uncomfortable is a sign of real engagement with our practice
• And Koshin\\u2019s addition of the concept of \\u201cmystery\\u201d as another aspect of the eightfold path

Full Shownotes: www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/koshin-paley-ellison-528

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