Ep 199: Healing from Choosing Bad Relationships: Coming Back Home to Yourself

Published: June 6, 2023, 4:09 a.m.

b'This is about codependency and how it can make it hard to choose right. This is aimed at changing the goal you have in your search for love.\\nThis is for anyone who has a habit of choosing bad relationships and therefore they feel like they cannot be happy. Maybe you have a pattern of super meh relationships and you don\\u2019t really know if you like the other person, or maybe you have a pattern of really legit terrible relationships where you are chosen by that other person and they adore you, but you find again and again they are a mess and your job is to clean them up and beg for tiny crumbs of getting your needs met.\\n\\xa0\\nA lot of the time when we grow up with dysfunction and chaos, we find that we are unable to judge the other people we meet because we don\\u2019t have a connection to our inner compass. And we are struggling to feel safe, so we constantly focus on the others around us. As we get older we are still in this state of reacting to everything around ourselves. And as a way to get relief from our anxiety, we help and soothe others. We build them up, fix them and make them our project.\\xa0When someone sees beauty and greatness in us and we share a connection, the pain goes away and we fall deeply in love. But this is a love that depletes us \\u2013 we are constantly trying to come back to that feeling of intoxication: the moment when we were seen, loved unconditionally, and the other person made all the pain go away. But instead, we find that we are still working and working for crumbs.\\n\\xa0\\nIf this sounds like you \\u2013 and perhaps you are aware of it, and sick of it, and thinking you cannot ever find love, know that that thinking is not helpful or functional. \\xa0And it\\u2019s not true. It\\u2019s just where you are right now, but that can change. You have to actively want to change that \\u2013 to see the issue at the root and work on it from there.\\nThis one\\u2019s for Aubrey.\\n\\xa0\\nTo support this week\\u2019s sponsors head to Life MD !\\n\\xa0\\nLifeMD.com/HelpMeBeMe\\nLifeMD is the simplest way to get the healthcare you need, where and when you need it. Become a LifeMD member today for on-demand video visits with a doctor, unlimited messaging with your LifeMD care team, and so much more. Membership plans start at a little more than a dollar a day, so don\\u2019t wait.\\nVisit lifemd.com/HelpMeBeMe to get started, and experience the difference of virtual healthcare.\\n\\xa0\\nTo make a donation, head to YayWithMe.com xo!\\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices'