Problem Area | Specific Complaint\\u2014S/he |
Complaints about the other person\\u2019s lack of E = Empathy | - Won\\u2019t listen
- Does not understand me
- Always has to be right
- \\xa0Always criticizes me
- Constantly complains and ignores my advice
- Constantly brags and talks about himself / herself
- Doesn\\u2019t value my thinking or ideas.
- Is defensive and argumentative Doesn\\u2019t care about my feelings.
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Complaints about the other person\\u2019s lack of A = Assertiveness | - Cannot (or will not) express his or her feelings
- Cannot deal with negative feelings
- Expects me to read his or her mind
- Clams up and refuses to talk to me
- Won\\u2019t be honest with me
- pouts and slams doors, insisting s/he isn\\u2019t mad!
- won\\u2019t tell me how she / he is feeling.
- isn\\u2019t honest with me.
- suddenly explodes for no reason, out of the blue.
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Complaints about the other person\\u2019s lack of R = Respect | - Always has to get his or her way
- Is stubborn
- Is controlling
- Does all the taking, while I do all the giving
- Uses me
- Puts me down
- Is judgmental
- Does not care about me or respect me
- Only cares about is himself / herself
- Constantly complains and ignores my advice.
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