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Jan 17, 2022
Rhonda starts today\\u2019s podcast by reading two wonderful recent endorsements from listeners. A therapist from San Jose, Ca was moved and inspired by the two podcasts (Episodes 268 & 269, published 11-15-2021 and 11-22-2021) with Dr. Carly on the tragic loss of her baby via ectopic pregnancy, and another listener described TEAM-CBT as \\u201crevolutionary\\u201d due to the emphasis on reducing resistance. She compared the approach to the indirect hypnotic approach developed by the late Milton Erikson.\\xa0
Dr. Cai Chen recently completed his psychiatric residency in Texas, and then moved to California to join the TEAM-CBT community and unite with the love of his life, who happens to be a member of our Tuesday group.\\xa0
Cai attributes much of his dating success to one of the techniques he read about in my book, Intimate Connections, called \\u201cRejection Practice,\\u201d because he practiced that technique to successfully defeat his negative thoughts about all the awful things that might happen if he tried to talk or flirt with an attractive woman.\\xa0
He would tell himself things like:
He described what happened when he forced himself to get 20 rejections in a mall in order to overcome his fears. His stories about what happened are both funny and inspiring.\\xa0
Cai also describes his initial intense resistance to using this technique, giving himself messages like, \\u201cI shouldn\\u2019t have to learn to flirt because it\\u2019s beneath me!\\u201d I heard excuses like that all the time when I was in clinical practice, working with shy, lonely men!\\xa0
Rejection Practice is a powerful and potentially super-effective technique you might want to try if you\\u2019re also struggling with social anxiety or if you treat patients with this problem.\\xa0
We also illustrated the hilarious Feared Fantasy Technique on the podcast, where Cai enters an Alice-in-Wonderland Nightmare World, and meets the \\u201cwoman from hell\\u201d who represents all of his worst fears, and verbalizes things like this to him:
In addition, he meets the \\u201cobserver from hell\\u201d who verbalizes things like this to Cai:\\xa0
Cai was surprised to discover that the monster has no teeth and experienced some enlightenment and freedom from his fears. Rhonda, Cai, and I had a lot of fun with these techniques, and hope you enjoy them, too. Again, if you\\u2019re a therapist, you might consider including these techniques if you work with shy individuals.\\xa0
We also discuss the idea of \\u201cPhysician, heal thyself,\\u201d a quotation from the New Testament (Luke 4:23). We are all convinced that doing your own personal work can vastly increase your skills and depth as a clinician, because you can tell your patients, \\u201cI know what you\\u2019re going through, because I\\u2019ve been there myself. And what a joy it\\u2019s going to be to show you how to overcome your shyness and develop greater confidence, and more loving relationships with others.\\u201d
And that\\u2019s exactly what happened to Cai. He found the love of his life. You\\u2019ll hear all about it if you listen to this heart-warming podcast!\\xa0
Dr. Cai is just starting his TEAM-CBT practice at the Feeling Good Institute in Mountain View, California. However, since he is a trained physician and psychiatrist, he can also prescribe medications if patients need them in addition to the therapy.
Dr. Cai Chen is a warm and brilliant young psychiatrist. If you would like to contact him, you can contact him at Cai@FeelingGoodInstitute.com, or call him directly at 1-916-877-4749.
Thanks for joining us today! If you like what we\\u2019re doing, tell your friends about the podcasts. Your word of mouth is our main and only source of marketing, since I have refused to monetize the podcasts. So our budget is meager at best.\\xa0
Still, this year, we\\u2019ll see the five millionth download of our podcasts. Thanks so much for your support and for making it all happen!\\xa0
Warmly,
Rhonda, Cai and David
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