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Today\\u2019s Ask David questions.

1. Do depression and anxiety result from medical illnesses, like thyroid problems?
2. Do we REALLY create our own interpersonal reality? What if you\\u2019re being raped? Are you saying that\\u2019s your fault? How can that be?
3. I struggle with anxiety. Why is it a mistake to try to \\u201ccalm down?\\u201d
4. How do you deal with entitlement? I think my patients should do what I tell them to do! After all, I\\u2019m a highly trained professional!
5. How do you deal with racism, sexism, and other societal barriers? What if the injustice is real and it isn\\u2019t \\u201call in your head?\\u201d

And here are the longer versions. Fabrice and I hope you enjoy these thoughtful questions submitted by listeners like you!

1. Barbara asks: 1) How are hypothyroidism, depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder related, and (2) how are heart disease, depression, and anxiety related?

2. Mark asks: I'm one of your most avid listeners to your podcasts. I've listened to most of Feeling Good Podcasts as well as the recordings of your Facebook live broadcasts with Jill. I absolutely love your content and extremely grateful for your insights and the material you put out for free. I've heard you say numerous times how in interpersonal relationship problems we create the poor behavior we see in the other.

At what point though, is a threshold crossed and you acknowledge the other in the relationship is creating problems? For example, if your client is being raped by their partner and is being threatened with violence if they dare leave, you wouldn't say to your client you're creating that kind of treatment from your partner.

Obviously the above is a very extreme example, but what if its scaled back in terms of severity of abuse, stopping short of physical attacks and threats? Where does a line in the sand get drawn where you acknowledge the client is not creating the problems themselves? I'd deeply appreciate your reply!

3. Angela asks: I was intrigued by your comment in your podcast #88 on Role-Playing Techniques that \\u201ctrying to calm down is a big mistake. . . then your emotions become your enemies,\\u201d but then you said, \\u201cthat\\u2019s a good topic for another podcast.\\u201d I hope you do a podcast on that topic!!! I\\u2019m eagerly waiting to hear more about that!

4. Julio asks: I\\u2019d like to share my experience. I am a therapist and I suffered from, and am still working on, feeling inadequate. I frequently questioned \\u201cam I good enough to be a therapist?\\u201d \\u201cHow can I help others if I have issues of my own?\\u201d

After reading Feeling Good I realized I frequently jump to conclusions, engage in mind reading, and labeling whenever there is some uncertainty with my clients. At times I might even have blamed them when things didn\\u2019t go the way I thought they should go.

I believe I do that to protect my ego, and I might have developed some cognitive distortions related to entitlement such as

• \\u201cI\\u2019m a therapist, people are supposed to do what I say\\u201d
• \\u201cI worked too hard and too long and potential employers better give me what I deserve\\u201d
• \\u201cBecause I practice evidence-based therapy, I\\u2019m better than 99% of all therapists.\\u201d

These entitled thoughts led me to become irate whenever someone didn\\u2019t act according to my expectations. I would vacillate between feeling angry and feeling depressed.

I guess when I initially emailed Fabrice I was confused as to how my entitlement develops, but now I\\u2019m realizing that it comes from the same distortions that can cause depression. I didn\\u2019t know that distortions could produce depression and entitlement.

I\\u2019m curious what you and Fabrice think about this. I thoroughly what you and Fabrice think about this. I thoroughly enjoy your podcast and often find myself re-listening to earlier episodes.

5. Holly asks: \\u201c Burns: I have found tremendous value in your books and podcast. I have noticed that you discuss some emails/letters/etc. on your podcast and I have one I'd like to hear you discuss. What are your thoughts on dealing with racism, sexism, and other societal barriers?

For example, it is not uncommon for people with dominant identities (white, male, physically able) to tell women, people of color, or those with physical challenges that their issues are all in their minds and that if they thought differently, then they would have different outcomes.

I am an African-American woman and I don't believe this (the statistics on access to education, employment, and justice all suggest otherwise). What are you saying (if anything) in your writing, practice about thoughts related to injustice?

Best, Holly

So there you have it! Great questions, and keep them coming!

Thanks, David and Fabrice