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016: Ask David How can I cope with a complainer? How can I help a loved one who is depressed?

Published: Dec. 26, 2016, 6 a.m.

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How can you help a depressed friend or family member? You may be surprised to discover that the attempt to \\u201chelp\\u201d is rarely effective, and may even make the problem worse. In contrast, the refusal to help is nearly always helpful. But to understand that paradox, you\\u2019ll have to give a listen to this fascinating edition of "Ask David!"

David and Fabrice also address a related problem nearly all of us confront from time to time: How do you deal with a friend who is a relentless whiner and complainer? When you try to help them or suggest a solution to the problem, they just say, \\u201cThat won\\u2019t work\\u201d and keep complaining. You end up feeling frustrated and annoyed, because the other person just won\\u2019t listen! David and Fabrice illustrate a shockingly easy and incredibly effective solution to this problem.

Finally, David discusses some disturbing recent research indicating that the ability of therapists\\u2014as well as friends or family members\\u2014to know how suicidal someone is, is extremely poor. David and Fabrice explain how to assess how suicidal someone actually is, and what to do if you discover that he or she really is at risk of a suicide attempt.

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