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Hello everyone and welcome to episode 50 where today we consider three reasons for why relationships are worth the work they take to grow and maintain.

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Back now to the topic for today\u2019s show. Do you ever wonder if relationship are worth it? Even in the best of circumstances, they can be a lot of work. Misunderstandings. Unmet expectations. Communication breakdowns. Hurts, etc. Are relationships worth the work they take?

In last week\u2019s episode, "Sacrifice in Relationships," We saw in Romans 12 of the New Testament the apostle Paul speaking of how relationships require sacrifice for them to work. To sacrifice means we have to give up something. And it has to be something important. It\u2019s not like a veagn or vegetarian giving up pork chops for Lent. That\u2019s not a sacrifice at all.

To sacrifice in our relationships means saying no to our natural inclinations.
In the 21 verses of Romans 12, 8 of them are directives to \u201cdo not.\u201d All 8 of them are what we naturally gravitate toward in our relationships. Is it worth the effort to counter these proclivities of ours?

Listen in today where we look at 3 reasons why relationships are worth the the effort to make them the best they can be.

I start with the premise that we are all made for relationships. We were made for this. Given this fact, relationships are worth the hard work they require because first of all,

We were made to have a personal relationship with God so we can reflect his image and character.

There\u2019s a wonderful relationship with the Trinity. Father, son, and Holy Spirit. We have the distinct privilege of reflecting the image of God, which is steeped in relationship. Relationships reflect the character of God.

God wants a personal relationship with us. This is the very first thing I learned about God when, as a 19-year-old college freshman, Carol our executive producer told me about him. I talk about this in episode 21, \u201cThe Most Important Relationship of All.\u201d I also mention it in chapter 7 of my book, THEM. If God values relationships with human beings this much, maybe I would be wise to do the same.

Among other things, we learn in our relationship with God that he is all about truth. He\u2019s all about forgiveness, grace, and justice. He\u2019s all about love, kindness and compassion, and so many other qualities. We have the privilege of reflecting these and other characteristics of God to people.

When we give people a picture of who God is by how we relate to them, it certainly pleases God, just as Romans 12:1 states.

Secondly, We were made for our relationships to impact the world for good

Relationships are how we leave our mark on the world. Go to most funerals and what\u2019s talked about concerning the deceased is the mark they left on their relationships with people.

Carol\u2019s 97 year-old mother, Emma, died recently and the funeral took place yesterday, the day before this recording.

Gray harried 80-something\u2019s of the ladies guild sang a song in tribute to Emma. The tone of voice of the lady who introduced the song spoke volumes of the depth of the relationship.

Emily, one of the granddaughters, spoke of her love for her grandmother, and how she taught her how to knit a wash cloth.

Pastor described her as \u201cmy friend Emma.\u201d He always knew where he stood with her.

If I were still teaching, I would take kids on a field trip to funerals. I\u2019d have them listen to the relationship stories shared. Then we\u2019d talk about them, back in the classroom. What did those stories tell you about that person? What qualities of the deceased were admired? What was not said? What about the funerals where little or nothing was said about the relationships of the deceased?

What do you want said about YOU at your funeral? What are you doing now as a 7 or 17-year old to build relationships with people? What are you doing to impact the world for good through your relationships?

Thirdly, We were made for our relationships to grow us human beings created in God\u2019s image

Our relationships is an important tool God uses to complete the good work he started within us, as mentioned in Philippians 1:6 (he who began a good work in you will complete it\u2026)

Our relationships bring out the best in us, especially when we bring out the best in others.

We learn about ourselves through our relationships. We learn about our self-centerdness in relationships. We learn how to be more loving and compassionate in our relationships. We learn how to both extend, and receive, grace through our relationships.

EXAMPLE:

A staff member took a candid photo of Janet\u2019s mom at the memory care facility where she lives.

It shows Elda feeding her table mate, though she can barely feed herself

There is something deep down in her character that caused her to help someone. Alzheimer\u2019s has robbed her of much, but not this relational quality.

Here\u2019s what I learned today. Here\u2019s what struck me

Life-giving, fulfilling relationships don\u2019t happen by accident. They take work, it takes changing our natural inclination in how we relate to live counter - intuitively. It takes doing the opposite of all the 8 don\u2019t\u2019s Paul talks about in Romans 12.

And they take time. Lots of time\u2026. But it\u2019s worth the work. And it the work that only God can do through us. We need his strength and power to make our relationships the best they can be.

If you forget everything else, here\u2019s the one thought, the one idea, I hope you remember from today\u2019s episode. Our show in a sentence.

In spite of their difficulty at times, relationships are worth the effort, because we were made for this. It\u2019s who we are. Without relationships we live a narrow, self-centered life, where we never grow as a person. With them, we have the potential to impact the world for good, one relationship at a time.

Here\u2019s what you can do in response to today\u2019s show.

Think about one relationship in your life that needs some improvement. Ask God to show you how you could make that relationship just 1% better today. Ask him for the power to do, so it reflect more on him that you.

Closing

I hope your thinking was stimulated by today\u2019s show, to both reflect and to act. So that you will find the joy God intends for you through your various relationships. Because after all, You Were Made for This.

Now for Our Relationship Quote of the Week

To have a few amazing friends on this side of eternity, this sometimes grotesque amusement park is the greatest joy. We cannot depend solely on our spouses to dump on, to share our intimate thoughts with or reveal our deepest truths to. Trust me, they have been through enough with us. Our yokes are heavy.

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That\u2019s all for today. See you next week. Bye for now.