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This episode has serious Adult Content
\\nEpisode 75: The Sexual Miseducation of Religious Adolescents
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Spurred by Dr. Shloimie Zimmerman\\u2019s recent book titled
\\u201cFrom Boys to Men,\\u201d Rabbi Kivelevitz chairs this panel
\\ndiscussion with Pro. Juni and Rabbi Shmuel Skaist who is a
\\nnoted educator, mentor, and psychotherapist specializing in
\\nsexual addictions. Dr. Zimmerman\\u2019s underlying premise, which
\\nthe panelists fully endorse, is that adolescents will persist in
\\nsome sexual behaviors (especially masturbation) regardless of
\\nany educational efforts. R. Kivelevitz applauds the book as a
\\nvaliant effort to deal with the \\u201cguilt spirals\\u201d which youngsters
\\nexperience around masturbation, especially as the book could
\\npotentially result in a backlash from the organized religious
\\neducational establishment. Prof. Juni notes that such reactions
\\nhave been commonplace toward researchers who broached
\\nsexual taboos even in academia (e.g., the Kinsey Reports).
\\nJuni\\u2019s main critique of the book highlights its narrowness of
\\nfocus. His specific points are: 1) Masturbation should not be
\\nstressed to the exclusion of other challenges of adolescent
\\nsexuality (e.g., pornography); 2) The book should not be
\\nlimited to boys while excluding girls; 3) The issue of
\\nhomosexuality cannot be ignored; 4) The book should not have
\\nbeen addressed to parents / educators; rather it would best be
\\naddressed to adolescents; 5) Since the intent is to minimize
\\ntension and maladjustment of adolescents, the main focus
\\nshould be on sexual development issues rather than Halachic
\\nchallenges. Expanding on the latter point, Juni notes the
\\nemotional difficulties around sexual development among
\\nreligious youth does NOT revolve around the violation of
\\nreligious percepts. Rather, they are driven by erroneous
\\nassumptions by the young person that s/he is different from
\\nhis/her peers and that there is something wrong with her/him
\\n\\u2013 which is often verbalized as \\u201cI must be crazy.\\u201d These issues
\\nare identical to those of irreligious youth. Thus, claims Juni, all
\\nthat is needed here is a very precise message which stresses
\\nstatistical normality rather than Halachic percepts. That
\\nmessage \\u2013 The behaviors you engage in related to sexual
\\ncuriosity -- including masturbation, sexual exploration with
\\nothers, and porn watching -- are behaviors which ALL of your
\\npeers (including your religious peers) engage in very
\\nfrequently. That message would dispel the erroneous
\\nassumptions which drive the guilt spiral and emotional
\\npathology among youngsters, even when they are taught that
\\nthese behaviors violate Halacha.
\\nR. Skaist argues forcefully that what is needed to deal with the
\\ndecompensatory results of miseducation is a concerted effort
\\nto teach what is normal, rather than being limited to teaching
\\nwhat behaviors are not desirable. Adolescents need to know
\\nthat sexuality should be part of a general emotionally positive
\\nrelationship with another individual which includes much more
\\nthan physical interaction. R. Skaist also deplores the
\\ndifferential tracks in sex education of boys vs. girls, which then
\\npotentially portends relationship problem in marital couples.
\\nJuni amplifies this position by noting that members of each
\\ngender often end up with a negative perception of their
\\nspouses as they conflate their negative views of sexuality with
\\ntheir partners.
\\nR. Kivelevitz explores the Halachic stance toward masturbation
\\nwith Dr. Juni and R. Skaist. Apparently, some authorities view
\\nthe ban on masturbation as applying solely to cases where it is
\\nused as a method of birth prevention by a married couple.
\\nKnowing that some authorities are not categorically opposed
\\nto masturbation may suffice to minimize the overwhelming
\\nguilt which some religious adolescents experience.
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R. Kivelevitz raises the issue of pornography viewing. R. Skaist
dispels some erroneous ideas of how explicit sexual material
\\nmight be used in psychotherapy. He argues that the real
\\ndanger of pornography is that it leaves viewers with false ideas
\\nand unrealistic perceptions of what sexuality entails, with the
\\nchief deficit being that it eschews the crucial interpersonal
\\ncomponent in an emotional relationship. Taking this a step
\\nfurther, Prof. Juni argues that the accurate depiction of
\\nsexuality does NOT constitute pornography unless it enhances
\\nsexual depersonalization, one-sidedness, or abuse.
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Since both of the panel\\u2019s experts agree that misinformation is
behind sexual maladjustment which occurs during
\\nadolescence, R. Kivelevitz raises the argument used by some
\\nthat co-education minimizes distortions about the other
\\ngender and enhances cross-gender relationship capacity at this
\\ncrucial developmental stage. While the panelists agreed that
\\nyoungsters raised in co-ed environments have a better sense
\\nof the other gender at an earlier age, these youngsters are still
\\ndescribed as subject to the vagaries of misinformation. As R.
\\nSkaist puts it, \\u201cthey still have problems, although the problems
\\nmay be different ones.\\u201d
\\nR. Kivelevitz concludes from Dr. Zimmerman\\u2019s approach that it
\\nwould make sense for Yeshivos to offer greater variety in
\\nactivities, sports, and leisure to distract youngsters from sexual
\\npreoccupation. While agreeing that such a variety would be
\\nbeneficial to all, the panelists argue that \\u201cdistractions\\u201d from
\\nsexuality are not psychologically effective or feasible, and
\\ncertainly would not address the problem at hand. Rather,
\\nproper education \\u2013 especially one that counters
\\nmisconceptions and harmful notions \\u2013 is the key to proper
\\nadjustment.
\\nProf. Juni is one of the foremost research psychologists in the world today. He has published ground-breaking original research in seventy different peer reviewed journals and is cited continuously with respect by colleagues and experts in the field who have built on his theories and observations.
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He studied in Yeshivas Chaim Berlin under Rav Yitzchak Hutner, and in Yeshiva University as a Talmid of Rav Joseph Dov Soloveitchik. Dr. Juni is a board member of the Association of Orthodox Jewish Scientists and has regularly presented addresses to captivated audiences. Associated with NYU since 1979, Juni has served as Director of PhD programs, all the while heading teams engaged in cutting-edge research. Professor Juni's scholarship on aberrant behavior across the cultural, ethnic, and religious spectrum is founded on psychometric methodology and based on a psychodynamic psychopathology perspective. He is arguably the preeminent expert in Differential Diagnostics, with each of his myriad studies entailing parallel efforts in theory construction and empirical data collection from normative and clinical populations.
Professor Juni created and directed the NYU Graduate Program in Tel Aviv titled Cross-Cultural Group Dynamics in Stressful Environments. Based in Yerushalayim, he collaborates with Israeli academic and mental health specialists in the study of dissonant factors and tensions in the Arab-Israeli conflict and those within the Orthodox Jewish community, while exploring personality challenges of second-generation Holocaust survivors.
Below is a partial list of the professional journals where Professor Juni has published 120 theoretical articles and his research findings (many are available online):
Journal of Forensic Psychology; Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment, and Trauma; International Review of Victimology; The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease; International Forum of Psychoanalysis; Journal of Personality Assessment; Journal of Abnormal Psychology; Journal of Psychoanalytic Anthropology; Psychophysiology; Psychology and Human Development; Journal of Sex Research; Journal of Psychology and Judaism; Contemporary Family Therapy; American Journal on Addictions; Journal of Criminal Psychology; Mental Health, Religion, and Culture.
\\nAs Rosh Beis Medrash, Rabbi Avraham Kivelevitz serves as Rav and Posek for the morning minyan at IDT. Hundreds of listeners around the globe look forward to his weekly Shiurim in Tshuvos and Poskim and Gaonic Literature.
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Rav Kivelevitz is a Maggid Shiur for Dirshu International in Talmud and Halacha as well as a Dayan with the Beth Din of America.