Therapist Reveals How to Stop Others From Manipulating You | Nedra Glover Tawwab on Women of Impact

Published: Jan. 27, 2021, 1:30 p.m.

Check out our Sponsors Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription. Do you struggle to say no when others demand or expect something from you? Do you fold under pressure, constantly apologize, and have a fear of disappointing others? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu is joined by therapist, content creator, and author Nedra Glover Tawwab to discuss such matters and more as they explore ways you can begin to set powerful and clear boundaries in your life while still maintaining healthy, loving relationships. They discuss how to acknowledge the boundaries you need to set, how to shift the language you use to put you in control of situations, how to handle conflicting boundaries within your relationships, why you need to take ownership over your choices, how to handle disrespect, the power of being clear, why you need to stop apologizing, how to maintain boundaries after setting them, and much more.  Pre-Order Nedra’s book, ‘Set Boundaries, Find Peace’: amazon.com/dp/0593192095/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_6LXdGbMN7FMVF  SHOW NOTES: Intro | Lisa opens today’s episode and welcomes today’s guest, Nedra Glover Tawwab. [1:46] Acknowledge | Nedra reveals how to acknowledge the boundaries you need in your life. [3:22] Recognize | Nedra reveals why you need to recognize when you’re being manipulated. [5:51] Language | Nedra reveals why you need to develop the language you use. [8:23] Boundaries | Nedra reveals how to deal with conflicting boundaries in your relationships. [9:13] Fine Line | Nedra discusses why you need to set boundaries with others within yourself. [11:57] Choices | Nedra reveals how you can take ownership over the relationships in your life. [14:06] Do This | Nedra reveals what to do if someone isn’t respecting your boundaries. [17:18] Empower | Nedra discusses the empowerment within recognizing you have the choice. [21:26] Lifestyle | Nedra reveals how you can build your lifestyle around empowering yourself. [23:42] Being Clear | Nedra reveals how to be clear with others about your boundaries. [26:50] Fear | Nedra reveals why you need to get over the fear of disappointing others. [30:03] Don’t Apologize | Nedra reveals how to avoid apologizing when you shouldn’t be. [33:20] All Around You | Nedra reveals how boundaries are constantly all around you. [34:56] Restate | Nedra shares how to keep boundaries in tact with your relationships. [38:20] Co-Dependency | Nedra shares how boundaries are healthy in your relationship. [41:26] What’s Key | Nedra shares the one key thing you can start immediately. [44:51] Connect | Nedra discusses her book and how you can stay connected with her. [46:52]  QUOTES:  “The more you increase your language around what’s happening in the situation, the better you will be at recognizing when someone is trying to set boundaries over your boundaries. They’re really trying to say, “Hey, I don’t want you to talk to me about this thing and this is how I’m going to get you to stop.”” [8:00]  “You can’t make a person respect your boundary, you can only make a request. So you can say, “This is what I need, I would really like,” but you can’t change another person’s behavior…” [13:03]  “The person that I have to please the most is me. It doesn’t mean that what I need or what I want is more important than anyone else, but I certainly believe in self-care first because I cannot care for anyone or anything before I care for myself.” [31:20]  FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW  FOLLOW NEDRA: Website: nedratawwab.com Instagram: instagram.com/nedratawwab Facebook: facebook.com/nedratawwab/