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Go to radicalconfidence.com to get your copy of my book Radical Confidence! When you do, you’ll be getting a toolkit of 10 No-BS lessons on becoming the hero of your own life - and you’ll learn how to set better boundaries, live a life that lights you up, and give you the ability to boldly stare down ANY frikin’ thing that gets between you and the things you want from life! Meeting someone new that gives you all the right feels is tough. Once you’ve met that someone and that new relationship energy has you drunk in love and intoxicated with hormones, you blink and a year or two have passed and now you’re sobering up… uh oh! How do you make relationships work when all you know and can relate is what and how you feel, what you want, and what’s best for you to be happier here? Licensed therapist, Spirit breaks down why compatibility is more important than chemistry, ways to get pass the representative when you’re dating, and how to start coming to agreements once you’re in the relationship. Your relationship is different from you and your partner. Spirit reveals how your relationship is its own entity that both partners are committed and invested in caring for. Understanding how to respect and govern yourselves as two individuals while finding your way to the middle out of love and desire to be together, is tricky, it’s not easy, but there is a science to it that can be applied. It will change everything for you, but only if you put any ONE of these strategies into practice. Spirit’s reminder about the love you want in you relationship: Acknowledge there’s a problem Be honest with your partner Reinvigorate the relationship SHOW NOTES: 0:00 | Introduction to Spirit 0:15 | Stop Looking for Chemistry 6:53 | Avoid Relationship Splinters 14:00 | Set Proper Boundaries 23:57 | Grow From Forgiveness 32:19 | How to Make Love last 41:54 | Feelings, Thoughts, and Behaviors QUOTES: “People are afraid as chemistry changes. They’re afraid and they mistake the chemistry changing for them falling out of love.” [2:39] “We need to see them in different environments and then compare do they actually appear to be who they say that they are over time.” [9:21] “If you really want to know who somebody is divorce them, or break up with them. Many people learn way more about a person at the end of a relationship than they did in the entire relationship.” [11:37] “I can forgive you and accept that has happened to me and move on for my own healing and still put up appropriate boundaries or barriers that says, I choose to no longer engage you.’” [15:29] “People want immediate forgiveness, they don't want forgiveness that is part of a process to healing.”[16:53] “The key is not to forget but to pay attention to how it makes us feel, and if we’re still holding on to negative energy about a thing then that means that we need to heal it.” [24:21] Every relationship has scars. Scars are okay because scars are the testimony to what you survived. [...] Open wounds though over time will fester, will become toxic, and that will kill a relationship.” [24:35] “A compromise is where everybody comes to the table and everybody gets up winning or getting something that they wanted, but no one person is 100% happy. Because if I win and you lose, then our relationship loses.” [27:23] “The relationship is its own living breathing entity, and it’s up to the two of you to constantly work together in partnership to resolve the problems in your relationship.” [33:26] “You are not the problem and your partner is not the problem. The problems are not the problem, and it’s up to the two of you to work together as a team to solve the problems.” [33:38] “Everything starts with us as the individual and then radiates...