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Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” ~ Proverbs 4: 23 _________________________________________________ AN INVITATION TO YOU: To follow this blog via Facebook, click here. If you are not on Facebook or would prefer to subscribe via a different venue, please check the sidebar to the right for subscription options. Thank you! __________________________________________________ Do you hate confrontation? Are you one of those people who gets uptight when there is the slightest indication of anger, upset, or instability in the status quo? If so, you are not alone! But while you may not be alone, you may be in trouble! Why? Because confrontation is essential to growth. Without it, we will remain imprisoned in unhealthful relationship patterns. We will not experience the abundant life Jesus died to give us. In fact, we will not fulfill our God-given destiny. Consider the caterpillar. Without confrontation--i.e., confronting the cocoon--the caterpillar would never turn into a butterfly. Consider also the chick in the egg. Without confrontation--i.e., pushing against the eggshell to escape its confines--the chick would never emerge to live out its destiny as a chicken. And consider the human being. Without confrontation--i.e., pushing through the obstacles that hinder healthful relationships and God's plan for our lives--we would never grow into the truthful and loving people God created us to be. No, it's not confrontation that is the problem. It is the manner in which we handle confrontation. "It's not confrontation that is the problem. It's the manner  in which we handle confrontation." ~ Dr. MaryAnn Diorio Most people are afraid of confrontation because they have seen it mishandled. Many have been deeply hurt by confrontation, whether emotionally, physically, or both. Perhaps, like me, you are one of them. For example, shouting, throwing things, or inflicting physical or emotional pain is not the proper way to handle confrontation. This kind of behavior is what has given confrontation its bad name. But, on the other side of the coin, the failure to confront--especially on the part of a leader--has resulted in the destruction of families, organizations, and churches. When a leader fails to confront sin, he is tacitly allowing it to continue. There is no middle ground.  Also, when a leader fails to confront sin, he is giving in to the fear of man. Whenever we fear man more than we fear God, we are in big trouble! So, what is the proper way to handle confrontation? First, let's consider what confrontation really is. Confrontation is "speaking the truth in love." This concept comes directly from the Bible. Let's take a look at Ephesians 4: 15: "Instead, we will speak the truth in love, growing in every way more and more like Christ . . . ." What do you notice about this verse? Let's dissect it together: 1--We are instructed to speak the truth. 2--We are instructed to speak the truth in love; i.e., with a desire to help the person we are confronting. 3--When we speak the truth in love, we will grow more and more like Christ. Speaking the truth in love--aka "confrontation"-- causes growth, both in the speaker and in the listener. When David sinned with Bathsheba, he brought much suffering and harm to his family. God commissioned the prophet Nathan to confront David about his sin. Nathan obeyed the Lord, resulting in David's repentance. Do you think Nathan felt like confronting King David? I doubt it. Nor do we always feel like confronting sin in the lives of those we love or those whom God has placed under our authority. But confront we must if we truly love them. Truth without love will result in alienation. Love without truth will result in damnation. This is what is happening in many of our churches today. Pastors are preaching a love message without combining it with a truth messa...