Your Competence is Killing You

Published: Jan. 14, 2015, 5 p.m.

If you missed our show last week, we talked about the importance of giving yourself room to breathe as you lean into the feminine grace of what wants to be birthed through you this year. We also tended to the energetics of completing what has been in order to be fully present for what you desire now.

I’ve been taking my own advice and allowing lots and lots of breathing room for myself to be with what is up for me next. Here on the heels of my first multiple hundred thousand dollar launch, with oodles of time on my hands and the prospect of seemingly unlimited opportunities before me… I have found myself strangely unmotivated. I can feel something new and completely foreign calling to me, but it is so out of my frame of reference I haven’t been sure what to do with it or how to even explore it.

I’ve been so identified with my competence. My ability to see, and heal, and fix. To accomplish and plan and implement.

Those gifts have created magic in my life - for my clients, my family, my staff, and for me. They have comforted me and been the strength on which I’ve always stood.

And yet… unexplored parts of me Beckon - the pull to move beyond the safety of my genius and into the fullness of my Essence.

In some ways, this is the scariest leap I’ve ever contemplated. My ego doesn’t want me to mess with the “success” I’ve created over all these years of honing my skills and building my business. It feels like leaping into the abyss to try on something new when what I’ve been doing is “working” so well.

This issue of uber competence is running rampant through our Sisterhood right now. Many of my clients are lamenting about the problem of not being “met” by their partners, not being supported by the masculine, not being loved the way they want to be loved. It is one of the symptoms of the Rise of the Feminine. As we step into our power and take our place of leadership in the Mid-Wifing of the new age, we find ourselves alone and on overdrive. Unsure how to marry the ideas of vulnerability and softness with competence and creation.

I have been exploring these realms deeply in these days of pause and uncertainty. I’ve been leaning in and excavating the truth of this conundrum and I have MUCH to share with you about my discoveries.

On the show yesterday, I opened a deep discussion about the gifts of our shadow, competence as an asset AND a prison… and how to free ourselves into more freedom and wholeness.

This is a fresh and still tender place of inquiry for me. I look forward to hearing your reflections about the awarenesses it invokes within you as we explore the fragile emergence of truth together.

Here are a few Highlights:

6:34 Structuring my Freedom - Confessions of a Control Addict

14:31 Is there something beyond Zone of Excellence and Zone of Genius?

16:43 The trickiness of shadow: Competently handling my Incompetence

22:25 You can't outrun your disowned parts - Where and how they show up in your life

43:05 Getting to Know your Shadow

53:53 Courting Surprise and Delight

57:58 The Rise of the Feminine: An Invitation from your Soul

Come, Evolutionary One. There is more truth and wholeness calling us Home.