338: What the Living Do

Published: March 31, 2024, 9:19 a.m.

\nOn the ways comparison can steal the actual living of life from us, and on finding ways to appreciate and live in the midst of the ordinary everydayness of things.
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\nHosted, as always, by Lizzie Winn and Justin Wise of Thirdspace.
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\nHere's our source for this week:
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\nWhat the Living Do
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\nJohnny, the kitchen sink has been clogged for days, some utensil probably fell down there.
\nAnd the Drano won\u2019t work but smells dangerous, and the crusty dishes have piled up
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\nwaiting for the plumber I still haven\u2019t called. This is the everyday we spoke of.
\nIt\u2019s winter again: the sky\u2019s a deep, headstrong blue, and the sunlight pours through
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\nthe open living-room windows because the heat\u2019s on too high in here and I can\u2019t turn it off.
\nFor weeks now, driving, or dropping a bag of groceries in the street, the bag breaking,
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\nI\u2019ve been thinking: This is what the living do. And yesterday, hurrying along those
\nwobbly bricks in the Cambridge sidewalk, spilling my coffee down my wrist and sleeve,
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\nI thought it again, and again later, when buying a hairbrush: This is it.
\nParking. Slamming the car door shut in the cold. What you called that yearning.
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\nWhat you finally gave up. We want the spring to come and the winter to pass. We want
\nwhoever to call or not call, a letter, a kiss\u2014we want more and more and then more of it.
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\nBut there are moments, walking, when I catch a glimpse of myself in the window glass,
\nsay, the window of the corner video store, and I'm gripped by a cherishing so deep
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\nfor my own blowing hair, chapped face, and unbuttoned coat that I\u2019m speechless:
\nI am living. I remember you.
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\nMarie Howe
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