233: Whatever Leads to More Life

Published: March 27, 2022, 1:12 p.m.

In the words of Marie Howe’s beautiful poem that is our source this week, “whatever leads to joy, to more life, to less worry”. Can we learn to live this way in the midst of it all - attending to joy in its deepest sense, in the way it brings us into contact with what is most real? And is there a way to not pile worry on top of everything that it already matters for us to take care of?

This week's Turning Towards Life is a conversation about the faithfulness it takes to lean into our lives, and to face their realness in doing so. It's hosted as always by Lizzie Winn and Justin Wise of Thirdspace.


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Here's our source for this week:

My Dead Friends

I have begun, 
when I’m weary and can’t decide an answer to a bewildering question

to ask my dead friends for their opinion 
and the answer is often immediate and clear.

Should I take the job? Move to the city? Should I try to conceive a child 
in my middle age?

They stand in unison shaking their heads and smiling—whatever leads 
to joy, they always answer,

to more life and less worry. I look into the vase where Billy’s ashes were — it’s 
green in there, a green vase,

and I ask Billy if I should return the difficult phone call, and he says, yes. 
Billy’s already gone through the frightening door,

whatever he says I’ll do.

Marie Howe