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b'Add pleasure back in to the conversation about healthy sex and the whole conversation changes!\\nIn this very sexy conversation (earphones around little kids are good idea for this one!), we talk about the balance between pleasure and safety as a way to think of sexual health.\\xa0\\xa0\\xa0\\u201cSexual debut\\u201d vs losing our virginity\\u2026 wow, how fun is that shift in thinking, for example?\\nThis is the first half of an extended conversation with Doug Braun-Harvey, co-author of Treating Out of Control Sexual Behavior, Rethinking Sex Addiction, where Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss two of the six principles of sexual health as defined by Braun-Harvey. The following episode, Part 2, will cover the other 4!\\n0:00 \\u2013 Intro\\n2:10 \\u2013 Conception and construction of sexual health. How has sexual health been traditionally viewed and why has it typically been linked with fear/harm rather than pleasure?\\n3:45 \\u2013 Move towards more balance of pleasure and safety when talking about sexual health\\n4:25 \\u2013 Conversations about masturbation and pleasure with teenagers.\\n6:00 \\u2013 Construction of pleasure as self-absorption vs. getting in tune with your own desires and setting natural boundaries.\\n7:10 \\u2013 Sex therapy as discovering internal regulators so pleasure can be had. Most everyone has naturally occurring boundaries, they may have just not tapped into them yet when controlling their desire for pleasure.\\n8:36 \\u2013 Outdated construction of sexual health prior to mid-1970s which focused primarily on no unplanned/unwanted pregnancy and no STIs.\\n9:26 \\u2013 World Health Organization\\u2019s new definition of sexual health: Not just about having a disease, more about tension between parameters of sex around safety, respect and basic human conduct.\\n11:40 \\u2013 Sexual Rights: 16 sexual rights added by the WHO\\n12:12 \\u2013 Six Principles of Sexual Health: 1) Consent, 2) Non-Exploitation, 3) Protection from STIs and Unwanted Pregnancy, 4) Honesty, 5) Shared Value and 6) Pleasure.\\n15:15 \\u2013 1st Principle of Sexual Health: Consent\\n16:23 \\u2013 Age of Consent\\n17:40 \\u2013 Legal Definitions of Age of Consent\\n19:47 \\u2013 Sex Drug-Linked Behavior\\n20:20 \\u2013 Link between alcohol and sex\\n21:00 \\u2013 Language of \\u201cmaking a sexual debut\\u201d versus \\u201closing virginity\\u201d\\n22:20 \\u2013 Most debated sexual value: when and how a person can make their sexual debut\\n24:30 \\u2013 Difficulty in parents communicating with their children about making their sexual debut\\n25:44 \\u2013 Introducing language and idea of consent at an early age\\n29:30 \\u2013 Second Principle of Sexual Health: Non-Exploitation\\n30:52 \\u2013 Exploitation in Adolescents, in\\xa0 relationship, in infidelity, power imbalance\\n36:00 \\u2013 Language of \\u201cSexual Images\\u201d rather than \\u201cPornography\\u201d and cultural bias/norms associations with that\\n37:09 \\u2013 What\\u2019s embedded in \\u201cinfidelity\\u201d?\\n37:49 \\u2013 Idea of a Sexual Agreement\\n39:02 \\u2013 Withholding erotic turn-ons from partner vs. sharing them with partner\\n41:42 \\u2013 Anecdote that relates eroticism to falling in love again\\n42:53 \\u2013 Pain of losing love due to misunderstood sexual interests\\n43:43 \\u2013 Consent and Exploitation in the home\\n45:31 \\u2013 Non-Exploitation through make up sex\\n46:04 \\u2013 Desire Discrepancy\\nWant more podcasts like this or a way to discuss this episode? Dive right in and join our private online community of \\u201cneuronerds\\u201d on FB by joining or email list here.\\nPlease go straight to Part 2 of this interview here.\\nAlso hear a later, related podcast that refers to this one, an interview with Esther Perel on Infidelity, Love and Desire here.\\nAs if that\\u2019s not already enough\\u2026'