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b'IN THIS EPISODE:\\nThe Blended Family: How to Create Strong and Lasting \\xa0Step-Family Relationships\\nShow Notes\\n\\n\\nThis episode breaks it down by debunking the most popular myths and\\xa0giving specific do\\u2019s and don\\u2019ts to help you create secure long-lasting families no\\xa0matter their origin.\\nBlended Family Myths\\nWicked stepmothers and red-headed step children\\xa0\\u2013\\xa0our psyche with the help of\\xa0Disney often portrays step-families through a suspicious lens. However, only 23%\\xa0of families are made up of two heterosexual biological parents in their first\\xa0marriage. So called \\u201cweird\\u201d families such as blended, same-sex parents, adoption\\xa0and foster, grandparents parenting, polyamorous and so on are the new normal.\\xa0Adults living with biologically unrelated children have unique challenges,\\xa0and in this\\xa0episode we focus specifically on blended families.\\xa0Dr. Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott discuss common myths as well as tips toward\\xa0achieving a healthy blended family bond. We unpack the tensions that often\\xa0emerge as two cultures come together and deliver practical solutions for how to\\xa0avoid pitfalls and build a foundation that helps the process of reconstituting a new\\xa0gaggle go smoother. Also, gender and developmental differences are\\xa0discussed \\u2013\\nyou may be surprised that sons and daughters respond differently. Finally same-sex\\xa0headed families are also discussed, the unique strethgs and challenges within these\\xa0families.\\xa0Hey glbtq \\u2013 headed parents out there\\xa0\\u2013\\xa0don\\u2019t worry we totally have your back. We\\nare all about it and are working on an entire episode on the beautiful and unique\\xa0gifts of glbtq families coming to your podcast player soon.\\nTimeline\\n0:50 \\u2013 Intro\\n2:27\\u2013Blended family\\n3:52\\u2013Myth 1 of Blended Families: Stepfamilies are not as healthy as \\u201creal\\u201d\\xa0families.\\n5:50\\u2013Why children struggle more than those in first-marriage, intact families andhow to prevent it\\n7:26\\u2013Effect of divorce on children\\u2013socio-economic drop and severe change of\\nroutine should be prevented\\n8:34\\u2013Whatever you do, don\\u2019t mess with the mind of the child in how they see theother parent (ie.alter the child\\u2019s internalized image of the other parent).\\n9:50\\u2013Myth 2 of Blended Families: Stepfamilies break up more often and that is a\\xa0bad thing\\n13:36\\u2013Myth 3 of Blended Families: Children who come from divorced and thenblended families will likely struggle in life. (All families have problems\\u2013step\\xa0families are just more exposed and therefore vulnerable)\\n14:45\\u2013Difference between boys & girls\\xa0transitions becoming stepchildren\\n17:00\\u2013Time helps everyone\\u2013How can we expedite the process of feeling like afamily and speed up the process?\\n\\xa017:50\\u2013When parent\\u2019s sense of fantasy and pressure to get it right and rushing the\\xa0process leads to combustible outcomes.\\n\\n\\n\\n\\n18:50\\u2013Being around parents that are overtly affectionately in love\\xa0can be difficult\\xa0for children and may increase the tension within the child or between the child andparent/stepparent. Many times children haven\\u2019t seen parents fall in love\\n21:25\\u2013Idealized fantasy of second marriage & pressure to get it right the 2nd\\xa0time\\xa0around\\n22:23\\u2013Blending families = blending two cultures (Don\\u2019t try to create one united\\xa0front)\\n27:50\\u2013Differences in administering discipline is a frequent source of conflict in\\nblended families (Permissive parents vs. boundary-setting parents)\\n28:50\\u2013Don\\u2019t step into direct-disciplinary role for the first year as a step-parent.\\xa0Working towards a non-polarized, firm, loving place where child still has\\xa0boundaries\\n33:05\\u2013The more stuck a child gets in an outside position, more potentially\\xa0damaging (Bio parent & step parent need to have empathy for child who might be\\xa0shifted into an outside position)'