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b'IN THIS EPISODE:\\nBuilding Grit Through Self Compassion with Dr Kristin Neff\\nShow Notes\\nCo-host Dr. Ann Kelley interviews Dr. Kristen Neff, an Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin and a foremost author and expert in Self Compassion.\\nSelf compassion is fierce accountability that is core to psychological health\\u2026 who knew?\\xa0\\xa0 Most of us think of it as being soft on yourself, but our guest will reveal the surprising power and science of self-compassion in this episode.\\nSelf Esteem vs Self Compassion\\nThis is not feel-good, la-la, therapy-talk, it\\u2019s real science.\\xa0Learn the important distinction between these two concepts and how one can lead to\\xa0psychological instability, self-criticism, stress, competition and difficulty within ourselves, our relationships and our culture. You really want to get this right and may be surprised!\\xa0Treating yourself as your own best friend.\\nMisperceptions of Self Compassion\\n\\n* It\\u2019s NOT a free pass, or being easy on yourself.\\n* It can be \\u201cfierce\\u201d and \\u201cprotective\\u201d and \\u201cmotivating.\\u201d\\n\\nScience shows that the warmth and support of self-compassion promotes health and increases the chances of success in accomplishing goals, whereas negative self talk and kicking one\\u2019s own butt doesn\\u2019t work because it creates a system of threat and self-sabotage.\\nSteps to Self Compassion\\n\\xa0Dr. Neff outlines the three elements of self-compassion:\\n\\n* Mindfulness vs. Over identification:The first step is to be mindfully aware of ourselves and our emotions, but from a place of non-judgement.\\n* Common Humanity vs Isolation:\\xa0The second step is to recognize the common humanity in our feelings and behaviors rather than seeing ourselves as the \\u201cbest\\u201d or the \\u201cworst.\\u201d Recognizing that pain is a normal part of human existence, as is suffering and personal inadequacy.\\n* Self-kindness vs. Self-Judgment:\\xa0Being kind to oneself rather than self-condemning, is at the core\\n\\nSelf Compassion as an antidote to shame, the underpinning of narcissism\\nDr. Neff discusses research which highlights the increase in narcissism in our current culture. She highlights our culture\\u2019s tendency to be competitive and to place individual value as contingent on how we compare to those around us. This leaves us extremely vulnerability to the development of narcissism and other psychological difficulties. We discuss the importance of teaching self-compassion to our children and to maintaining an active, loving presence with oneself in order to build self-value without a need to downgrade or succeed over others.\\nSelf Compassion in our political climate\\nDr. Neff speaks frankly about her perceptions of the current political climate. She sees self and other compassion as essential to help our country deal with the discord and disharmony around us.\\n\\xa0\\nRESOURCES:\\nAdditional resources for this episode:\\n\\n* Kristen Neff:\\xa0Self Compassion Step by Step, The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself (Audio CD)\\n* Brene Brown:\\xa0The Gifts of Imperfection\\n* Karen Bluth, forward by Kristin Neff:\\xa0The Self-Compassion Workbook for Teens\\n* Jean M Twenge and W. Keith Campbell:\\xa0The Narcissism Epidemic Living in the Age of Entitlement\\n* Kristen Neff:\\xa0\\xa0(visit this it has tons of great resources including free mp3\\u2019s)\\n* Self Compassion Test\\xa0\\n* Brene Brown\\xa0\\u201ccourageously present\\u201d r...'