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b'IN THIS EPISODE:\\nHow To Handle Post Election Tensions: Tips For The Holidays And Beyond\\nYou know the feeling you get when you find out that someone you know and like voted for the \\u201cwrong person\\u201d this past election? Ann Kelley, Patty Olwell and Sue Marriott discuss post-election tensions as they relate to family, neighbors and co-workers, and give tips on going home for the holidays.\\nIf you are losing your mind\\nApplying concepts from IPNB (interpersonal neurobiology), hosts discuss getting a deeper understanding of the very big feelings that have emerged with the surprise election results. While we are all sick of talking and reading about the latest antics of the politicians, we cannot help but keep consuming and trying to process what is happening. We don\\u2019t discuss the election itself, but the fallout interpersonally.\\nThreat response is the big news here; the body and brain/mind perceives danger from the opposite aisle. Understanding the nuance of what you are feeling and why is a key to emotional regulation. We are not advocating for you to just move on, and tamp down your feelings, but instead make suggestions for you to respond more effectively and deliberately.\\nRather than strangling someone\\u2026\\nEmpathy is easy for some when it\\u2019s the \\u201cright\\u201d group to empathize with but pretty hard when that group is the source of a perceived threat. Threat and the feeling of lack of safety are two tenants that are driving many voters \\u2013 on both sides of the aisle. Naming it to tame it is a key concept for IPNB self-regulation, so getting more conscious and aware of the range of what is going on inside you will help you begin to direct it as constructively as possible so you can respond rather than simply react.\\nWhether it\\u2019s being able to better understand yourself so you can more effectively and deliberately respond to a call for action, or to stop acting and denigrating one another so as to begin healing the divide, decoding and being conscious of automatic thoughts, righteous indignation, rage and hopelessness are key.\\nIn addition we talk about how to better manage someone else who may be in their own caveman black/white neural response circuit.\\xa0\\xa0 We try to avoid clich\\xe9s of all getting along, and address the very real and sharp differences and how to even begin to find common ground (and why some people HATE hearing about a call for common ground).\\nWe hope the discussion will be useful no matter your political orientation to handle post election tensions in your relationships.\\n\\xa0\\nRESOURCES:\\nAdditional resources for this episode:\\n\\n* \\nJefferey M. Schwartz, M.D. & Rebecca Gladding, M.D.- You are Not Your Brain \\u2013 The 4-Step Solution for Changing Bad Habits, Ending Unhealthy Thinking and Taking Control of Your Life.\\n\\n* \\nAnn M. Graybiel & Kyle S. Smith (2014).- How the Brain Makes and Breaks Habits\\n\\n* \\nJudith Wright -The Soft Addiction Solution: Break Free of the Seemingly Harmless Habits That Keep You From The Life You Want.\\n\\n* \\nCharles Duhigg (2012)\\xa0-The Neuroscience of Habits: How They From and How to Change Them\\n\\n* \\nThese and other resources have been collected for you on our Resources page!\\n\\n\\n\\xa0\\n\\nTweet'