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Hey there! In this week\u2019s episode, after my usual tea talk, life update, and faves, I dive into how we depend so much on control. To begin, I discuss daily situations where we seek power, emphasise that control will not satisfy that deep desire we have, and make an important distinction regarding OCD. Next, I focus on letting go of that desire, and explain that I know this deep down, illustrate my relationship with going with the flow, spontaneity and backup plans. Then, I shift toward how control is an illusion: no matter how hard you work or how much you plan, things can still take an unexpected twist! You must understand that people are unpredictable and accept it. Having covered all of that, I then explain a few ways you can stop worrying about control so much, for instance, avoiding to plan, practicing flexibility, knowing that your life is not a scrapbook, and lowering your expectations. I conclude by reiterating a few important points and sharing motivational encouragement, and, finally, read a review!\n\nTo get directly to the content, skip to 20:13\n\nFOLLOW THE PODCAST\u2019S INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/theasteapodcast?igshid=r04b2760fkdl\nCONTACT ME THROUGH: theasteapodcast@gmail.com (for business inquiries, sponsorships or to tell me what you think about this podcast!)\nSEND ME A VOICE MESSAGE: https://anchor.fm/th351a-beaury/message\n\nCheck out the things I mentioned in this episode (in order of appearance):\n\nListen to Anything Goes by Emma Chamberlain on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5VzFvh1JlEhBMS6ZHZ8CNO?si=YJO55t1ATzCUP9eUf-vJog\n\nWatch Unjaded Jade\u2019s YouTube video about where she\u2019s studying: https://youtu.be/Qhn7NTc8BqA\n\nListen to Declan McKenna on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/2D4FOOOtWycb3Aw9nY5n3c?si=t6eyDTMWQ7CxEBRJdJDfJQ\n\nListen to Daniel, You\u2019re Still a Child by Declan McKenna on YouTube: https://youtu.be/12pLdx2ITws\n\nListen to Beautiful Faces by Declan McKenna on YouTube: https://youtu.be/B0CoBwKNhIo\n\nListen to The Key on Life on Earth by Declan McKenna on YouTube: https://youtu.be/rxdpozZtJkc\n\nListen to Brew by Declan McKenna on YouTube: https://youtu.be/20DJOhHrcas\n\nListen to Why do You Feel so Down by Declan McKenna on YouTube: https://youtu.be/1OHLTyTMvck\n\nCheck out my episode with my mum where we talk about not expecting anything from anyone (on Spotify): https://open.spotify.com/episode/4aTOfTDZvdevJ9lijO7rKB?si=rNpcRH7cSEG3wkiaMD2x_Q \n\nHere are some quotes I liked from this week\u2019s episode:\n\n21:24: \u201cIt\u2019s not our job to always craft everything into the way we want to, you know? It\u2019s life! It was designed for us NOT to do that\u201d\n22:40: \u201cIf you can dominate yourself, then that can mean that whatever the world chooses to throw at you, whatever that is, you\u2019ll be able to react in a positive way\u201d\n23:18: \u201cWe\u2019re after control for a reason that isn\u2019t sustainable\u201d\n25:33: \u201cIt\u2019s not my job to fix or control other people or my life\u201d\n27:50 \u201cWhen I saw that life would throw me hurdles when I least expected it, I was very quick in realising that I needed to adapt to that\u201d\n28:58: \u201cBut sometimes being spontaneous is taking the risk, even when everything is not in control\u201d\n29:45 \u201cWhen I saw that things wouldn\u2019t always work out the way I wanted, I found a different way to control things which I could control\u201d\n30:31: \u201cBreathe, and let things come, and think about how you\u2019re gonna\u2019 deal with them when they come\u201d\n30:58: \u201cThinking of all these constant backup plans because I\u2019ve been so scarred by things not working out in the past\u201d31:46: \u201cI fooled myself into thinking that I was letting go, when in reality I was making these super calculated decisions ahead of time\u201d\n32:43: \u201cI think it\u2019s a good balance of planning ahead for these unexpected things, but also not feeding off always having everything in control\u201d\n32:55: \u201cYou can control things to a certain extent, but, from that point onward, you can\u2019t, and that\u2019s okay, you did what you could\u201dThanks for tuning in, have a beautiful week!