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The Parenting Map to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship With Dr. Shefali

Published: April 17, 2023, 9 a.m.

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Episode Highlights With Dr. Shefali

  • Why she wrote this parenting book and how this one is the how-to for parents
  • How we can move away from control and into connection with our kids
  • The chaos and nonsense we can create as parents without realizing it
  • How parents accidentally create the cycle of dysfunction in families
  • No human being likes to be controlled and how this control backfires with children
  • How to depersonalize interactions with our kids to calm the situation
  • Anytime you perceive it as a loss of control, you are going to lose control
  • Why kids aren\\u2019t trying to be disrespectful and when we fail to understand what is going on under the behavior, we create more of their behavior
  • Looking for Signs: Something inside gone negative
  • The three reasons children misbehave: lack of skill, lack of life experience, lack of worth and how to help each of these
  • What a savior complex is and how it harms our relationship with our children
  • How showing up as the savior disempowers them and makes things tougher in the long run
  • Ways to teach our children to carry to oars of their own saving
  • Developmentally appropriate ways to nurture this in our children
  • Why she claims that our children don\\u2019t owe us respect (and I agree)
  • How punishment and learning are opposed and how to actually help them learn
  • Why not to have outcome focused parenting (trying to raise happy, successful children) and how this can keep them from being in touch with their feelings
  • Teach your children to be authentic instead of teaching them to be happy
  • Creating successful children is an unhealthy goal, and what to do instead
  • How to navigate this method of parenting when parents disagree on method of parenting
  • What to do when kids are angry, disrespectful, unmotivated, or lie and how to build better connection in these instances
  • It\\u2019s about being more conscious not perfect

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