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Published: Feb. 17, 2023, 6 a.m.

Today we\u2019re focusing on what mental or emotional issues are connected with being drawn into relationship with someone with narcissistic traits, missing the warning signs that others might sense or see. We\u2019ll briefly cover the different types of narcissism; you can find lists that include anything from four to seven subtypes but we\u2019ll keep it simple. And then, we\u2019ll venture into the \u201cwhy\u201d \u2013 why might you not recognize such a manipulative and potentially emotionally abusive pattern? Here\u2019s a huge hint. What you live as a child becomes your normal, even if it\u2019s far from healthy or even truly normal. It\u2019s what you experience \u2013 so that\u2019s your normal. And you can bring that definition into your adulthood as you seek out relationships.

The listener email is from a married woman who explains that her husband demands that they remain in a non-sexually-intimate relationship \u2013 or a dating relationship -\xa0 so that he can fall back in love with her. But this has lasted twenty years! is it emotionally manipulative or could she married to someone who is more comfortable with a sexless marriage \u2013 and that could be driving this dynamic? I\u2019ll offer my ideas..

Six Factors That Could Blind You to Narcissistic Manipulation

• You don't label abuse... as abuse.
• You're accustomed to rigid rules or control in your family or culture.
• You don't claim your own worth because you were not loved well.
• You take LOTS of responsibility; in fact, too much.
• You're not street smart or you're na\u012bve.
• You chose to ignore your gut and instead, denied or discounted a clue that there was a problem and now, you feel stuck.

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VeryWell Health article on subtypes of narcissism.

New book by Katherine Schafler\xa0The Perfectionist\u2019s Guide to Losing Control

Article on loving a narcissist by Dr. Margaret

You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast,\xa0SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford.\xa0Subscribe\xa0to my website and receive my weekly newsletter including a blog post and podcast! If you\u2019d like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome!

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