311 SelfWork: When Families Are Fractured: Estrangement and Parental Alienation

Published: Nov. 18, 2022, 6 a.m.

The term \u201ccancel culture\u201d came to be around 2016 and according to the dictionary, it\u2019s the practice or tendency of engaging in mass canceling as a way of expressing disapproval and exerting social pressure. Yet, in families, estrangement has been around quite a long time. Parents can distance themselves from children. Adult children can stop \u201ccoming around\u201d as the term goes. Friendships can end. The root of the word in Latin is extraneare, "treat as a stranger." It can be chosen by you or it can be chosen for you, meaning that someone can estrange themselves from you. It can be a painful part of any relationship where there has formerly been affection or trust or mutual respect. How is it connected to a dynamic called parental alienation? And of course, how do the stereotypes of \u201cfamily\u201d and \u201cthe holidays\u201d make the pain of estrangement even worse?

We'll talk about these questions and I'll be looking into the work of Dr. Karl Pillemer to give us great direction. He's the author of the recent book, Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them.

The listener email today is from a mom who\u2019s been a listener to SW for quite some time \u2013 but a tragedy has occurred in her family, and she\u2019s asking for some advice. There\u2019s a trigger warning here \u2013 her daughter has been sexually abused \u2013 so please listen with care.

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Psychology Today article on "Estrangement: The Silent Epidemic"

New York Times article on Fractured Families

Forbes article on parental alienation

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