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Published: Oct. 28, 2022, 5 a.m.

I began this episode thinking I\u2019d talk about ten things I\u2019d learned from being a therapist. But I realized that almost every one of them could be their own podcast episode. Today we\u2019ll focus on the first \u2013 not in importance, but the first that came to mind \u2013 perhaps connected with the zeitgeist of our time. The need to be right or living being certain that you are. We\u2019ll discuss these questions: Is having the need to be right a bad or a good thing, helpful or hurtful? Is it connected with a mental or emotional condition such as depression or anxiety? How can that belief affect your relationships with others? I\u2019ve done my research and we\u2019ll look at it from various angles \u2013 and then, per usual, I\u2019ll add in my two cents.

Five Major Takeaways!

• Being right and needing to be right are two completely different things. You can be right but also be humble.
• Being wrong is a means of learning. Coming to a conclusion that proves to be wrong or misguided is a means through which you figure out things that will be helpful to you. \u201cI was wrong about that.\u201d
• Your perspective is unique and thus has value. But it\u2019s also limiting \u2013 meaning there are other perspectives that are valuable as well..
• A change of perspective creates growth; When you think about some of the most meaningful movies or books you\u2019ve ever seen or read, it probably involves watching someone\u2019s perspective change. The Star Wars series is an embodiment of this \u2013 when we watch someone cross from the \u201cdark\u201d side into the \u201clight.\u201d Or vice versa. The battle of what\u2019s their truth \u2013 what\u2019s their belief \u2013 and how perspectives can change for good and bad.
• Living with uncertainty is a skill.

The voicemail message for today is from a listener who\u2019s been on disability for years and is struggling with self-worth and finding a sense of purpose, especially because her son is graduating, she\u2019s getting a divorce so she\u2019s facing being alone. That\u2019s a lot to have on your plate. What would you say to her?

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The Forbes article on being right or being effective.

Cleveland Clinic article describing the traits of sociopathy

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SelfWork episode: Depression Is Not Simply A Chemical Imbalance: Part 2

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