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Published: Sept. 2, 2022, 5 a.m.

I\u2019ve had many people tell me over the years that they feel free to tell me things because they know I cannot tell anyone else. That\u2019s true of course- unless I believe that there's imminent danger of some kind to them or someone else. But I don\u2019t think of my role as that of secret-keeper. Instead I think of a therapist as offering safety rather than secrecy. Part of the safety is the secrecy \u2013 but of course, in abusive or manipulative relationships, secrecy is often used with malintent. So today, we\u2019re going to talk about secrets.

Here are the questions we'll answer!

• What are the most common secrets?
• Why can some people not keep a secret or why are they a tattletale or a gossip?
• What\u2019s the difference between secrecy and privacy? Or secrecy and confidentiality?
• Is it true that when something is kept secret from you, it has no impact on you?
• What\u2019s the difference between Secrecy and manipulation? And secrecy and abuse?

The SpeakPipe voicemail for today is from a woman who revealed childhood sexual abuse to her sister; her abuser was a brother, 8 years older than she. Sadly, the sister has withdrawn from her \u2013 and now she\u2019s asking me what she should do. What would you say?

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