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Published: Jan. 28, 2022, 6 a.m.

Today we're going to talk about the fairly sticky subject of the difference between expectations, demand, and setting boundaries.\xa0\xa0What do you do when you feel disappointed by others? Do you isolate or judge? \xa0Do you get mad or sulk? Could it be that your very expectations are the problem? Is it different to voice your expectations than it is to secretly have them? \xa0Or is that playing a game that the other person doesn\u2019t know you\u2019re playing? And how do boundaries fit in here? We'll ask lots of questions and hopefully reach some answers today on SelfWork.

The listener email for today is from a young 21 year-old who feels tremendous loyalty to her family and feels \u201cneeded\u201d by them. But she also feels very stuck and admits she can hold onto a victim mentality. She\u2019s dealing with enmeshment it sounds like.. and She\u2019s asking how she can take baby steps to start living more independently\u2026 Wonderful question and I\u2019ll do my best to give her some ideas. What would you say?

So, in this episode sponsored by the fantastic Athletic Greens, please, sit back and relax\u2026 let\u2019s focus on expectations, demands, and boundaries.

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