250 SelfWork: Where Does Willpower Come From?

Published: Sept. 17, 2021, 5 a.m.

This is the 250th episode of SelfWork. And frankly, I'm amazed. So, that made me wonder... where does willpower come from?\xa0Can you learn to have more willpower? What makes something worth sacrificing for? What can cause you to forego immediate gratification for something where you\u2019ll obtain or earn or enjoy something in the future? Is it your \u201cfault\u201d if you struggle with willpower? If you\u2019ve listened before to SelfWork, you can probably guess that I don\u2019t believe that.. nor has that been my experience as a therapist. Yet I know there are many who walk around shaming themselves for not having \u201cenough\u201d willpower.

So, in this episode sponsored once again by Athletic Greens, we'll talk about what the most recent research says about willpower, and how it debunks some old ideas about where it comes from. And perhaps the most important message? A struggle with willpower is not a moral failing.

The listener email is from a woman who found herself within the traits of perfectly hidden depression and wanted to let me know what that had helped her see \u2013 and asked about conquering the anxiety of opening up.

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The APA article on the research about willpower

The controversy about willpower research and what studies show about people with self-control.

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My book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression\xa0is available! And you can orderhere! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

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