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Published: Jan. 11, 2022, 6 a.m.

Here's our last Second Time Around until we're back in the saddle in a few days! And we're so looking forward to what's ahead in 2022!

What's a trauma bond? How does it form? Why is it important for that dynamic to have its own label or name? Trauma bonding happens when trust is highly manipulated; when commitment and trying to make a relationship work is used against someone as a way to keep them in denial or disbelief that a relationship is harmful to them. I\u2019ve been there. I still have never revealed all that happened in that relationship; so much of it is now such clear abuse, I\u2019m flabbergasted I didn\u2019t see it for what it was. But I didn\u2019t. Until I did.

Our listener email for today is from someone who wants some answers about enmeshment and what she terms \u201ccovert narcissism\u201d \u2013 It sounds like she\u2019s the daughter and feels enmeshed or has been told perhaps she\u2019s enmeshed with him. It\u2019s very much like our topic so I thought it meshed well with the topic.

So please get comfortable and listen in to what may be a triggering episode for some of you - so listen carefully and protectively. And my gratitude to our sponsor today - BetterHelp!

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John Kim, aka The Angry Therapist provides an article on trauma bonding

A BBC article\xa0on Stockholm syndrome

An \xa0article in VeryWellMind.discusses features of covert narcissism

Wikipedia article on trauma bonds

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