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Published: Jan. 17, 2020, 6 a.m.

Today we\u2019re talking about the difference between narcissism and healthy narcissism. There are big differences and since the word "narcissistic" is being thrown around so much these days, I thought I\u2019d do my part to keep things clear. I\u2019m quoting three experts -- Dr. Dale Archer, Bob Taibbi, and Dr. Craig Malkin \u2013 all who have fascinating takes on the subject. I'd definitely recommend giving the links below a click to read more. You can also listen to three SelfWork episodes on narcissism and how I see it played out: \xa0Episode\xa0019\xa0on how to cope with it in a relationship, Episode 122\xa0on its relationship with love addiction, and Episode 127,\xa0dealing with two of the main manipulative techniques used -- gaslighting and stonewalling.

The listener email is from a mom who\u2019s overshared with her oldest daughter about her father\u2019s financial issues and now regrets her actions. This kind of what's termed "enmeshment" in families happens often, when one parent or even both pull a child into a pseudo-adult role in relationship with them, without realizing the damage.

Important Links:

Diagnostic criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Dr. Dale Archer's full article on Jody Arias and his book\xa0Better Than Normal: How What Makes You Different Can Make You Exceptional

Bob Taibbi's article on healthy narcissism in \xa0Psychology Today\xa0and his book\u2013 Brief Therapy with Couples in Crisis

Dr. Craig Malkin's article \xa0in Psychology Today\xa0on the more subtle signs of narcissism and his book Rethinking Narcissism

A helpful link on asexuality:\xa0

You can hear more about narcissism and many other topics by listening to my podcast,\xa0SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford.\xa0Subscribe\xa0to my website and receive one weekly newsletter including my weekly blog post and podcast! If you\u2019d like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome!

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