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This week on the Cis Are Getting Out of Hand, we review this article.
https://postnuclearera.wordpress.com/2017/04/21/progressive-cisgender-parents-are-failing-our-kids/
For both kids and adults, how should cis people walk the line between \u201cthey\u2019re cis but don\u2019t conform to gender roles\u201d and \u201cthey\u2019re trans\u201d?
Kids: Insisting that your daughter is a \u201ctomboy\u201d could quash budding realization of transmasculinity (Ari\u2019s personal experience)... OR, it could be true that they are just a tomboyish girl, and that is also valid. How do we navigate this, especially for young children who may not be able to fully verbalize their thoughts and feelings?
\u201cBut situating straight and cisgender as a \u201cfine\u201d way for a child to be and queer and transgender as somehow dangerous is homophobic and transphobic. And if the kid turns out to be any kind of LGBTQIA, those subtle messages could make a child feel less safe and less able to come out.\u201d
\u201cWe need to stop setting up being cisgender as \u201cfine\u201d and being transgender as some kind of failure that we\u2019ll deal with and \u201clove them no matter what.\u201d We need to start out by supporting our kids no matter how they identify, and by keeping our nervous feelings about that to ourselves\u2026 If what really makes us nervous is that other people might make our kids\u2019 lives harder if they aren\u2019t cis, then we need to stop giving those \u201cother people\u201d a head start by doing it for them.\u201d
\u201cInstead of positioning themselves as their kid\u2019s biggest supporter, they are the first gender gatekeepers, the first people telling their child \u201cit will be very hard to be what you want to be.\u201d\u201d
Adults: I\u2019ve heard from many people who are questioning whether they are NB or just an atypical member of their assigned gender.
Also, what are our thoughts when we see a stranger in public who looks gender nonconforming? Do we assume they\u2019re trans? How might those assumptions differ between cis and trans people?

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