Joining Chelsea 13 1/2 minutes in, comedian and writer Jessica Sager talks about how female comics—and people, in general—can have less of a chance to be in the right place at the right time if they're avoiding certain places because there’s a creep there. Reflecting on her own attempted assault on the night of her sophomore homecoming dance, Jessica talks about the giant rush of adrenaline that helped her flee the scene (aka jump out of a moving car) and yet how the shame of being in the wrong place at the wrong time kept her from telling her parents or any other adults.
Together they discuss the strange dynamics of older men dating younger girls: is it creepy or is there room for compassion? If men are not where they want to be in life—or where their fathers were at their age—does it make sense that men might date someone who may, on the outside, look naive and vulnerable but, on a deeper level, represent their arrested development and not make them feel like they aren’t far enough along yet?
Also unpacked is, the need to not have tunnel vision or be defined by any one thing (be it a relationship or a career), what love-bombing looks and feels like, the clue to dating is meeting people amongst your interests (for Jessica, it was comedy; for her friend, it was hockey and beer at Buffalo Wild Wings), and if he's not a pig or a jerk, why he deserves a second date.
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ohheyjesssager
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