038: No Longer The Invisible Wife with Jane Binns

Published: Nov. 16, 2018, 10 a.m.

“Don’t be too afraid to let it all go for something else to be created,” is both a warning and anthem from author Jane Binns. Speaking candidly about her divorce and doing what her mother couldn’t do, Jane brings her newly released memoir Broken Whole to life. With searing honesty, she talks about her yearning to feel visible in her marriage, the severe and everlasting impression her mother’s tolerance and her father’s stoicism had on her, the particular grief that follows the death of not only an ex-husband but your son’s father, and the relief of no longer having to live for her dad's attention. At 9:30, Jane joins Chelsea to discuss this and so much more. Gems to look out for:+ the relief of being seen+ modeling your parents marriage+ doing in your marriage what your mother couldn’t do in hers+ how you can forgive more when you aren’t that committed+ divorcing for your child+ the risk of putting yourself out there+ being a safe, stable and good man is not enough+ the setbacks of the eternal optimist aka the fixer+ grieving the death of your ex-husband+ the severe impression your parent’s dynamic can make+ the isolating experience of not being able to have a conversation within your marriage+ performance and doing well to garner your father’s attention+ the challenges of living what you saw and loving as your parents did+ what it looks like to take the promise of “this is going to last” to extremes+ wearing the cloak of failure after initiating a divorce+ divorcing for your child+ the influence of your parents marriage+ feeling lighter after a parent’s passing+ divorce doesn’t mean you stop loving someone, it just means the marriage didn’t work—To connect with Jane, visit:Her website: https://janebinnswrites.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/JBBrokenWhole/Twitter: https://twitter.com/BrokenWhole_JBHer memoir, Broken Whole: https://www.amazon.com/Broken-Whole-Memoir-Jane-Binns/dp/163152433X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1542346618&sr=1-1—Work with Chelsea at: www.breakupward.com/shopFind Chelsea’s website at: www.breakupward.comSign up for Chelsea’s newsletter at: bit.ly/tyhbletterConnect and send in your questions and/or letters on Instagram.com/thankyouheartbreak or by email Chelsea@breakupward.com