BROADCASTS.com

In today's episode I answer a question from Carl about how to deal with feelings that surround your ex moving on and dating again.
I Feel Your Pain
I've been there.  The thought of your ex giving their heart and body to another person can be almost more than you can take especially if you were caught off guard and didn't want the divorce.
You Still Love Your Ex
It's normal to still love your ex even though they've done and said things to hurt you deeply.  It takes time to untangle the web of emotions that a divorce brings.  I think Scripture says it best in Gen 2:24 "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."  When a marriage ends, the husband and wife are not separated by a precision cut, but rather they are torn apart.  Each spouse carries a little of the other one with them for a long time after the divorce.
You May Feel You Still Have Rights
You may still feel like you have a right to know what's happening in your ex's life. You don't. Period.  Unless it involves your kids and even then you have a limited right.  Your marriage has been reduced to a business partnership.  You have no more right to know what your ex is doing than you would a co-worker.
What Can You Do?

Find new things to do to take you mind off your ex.
Change up your routine to avoid seeing him/her.
Find a local support group such as DivorceCare.
Give it time.
Get Professional Help.

Wrap-up
You can support the podcast by starting a free trial with Audible.com here

Please consider leaving a review in iTunes if you enjoy the podcast. It will help keep it visible for others to find it.

If you'd like to discuss this topic you can leave a comment below and I'll gladly join you.

And finally, if you have a question you would like me to address you can leave a message on Listener Feedback Line at 347-433-7664 or email me at feedback@survivingdivorcepodcast.com