016 – SDP – Dealing With Depression

Published: Nov. 6, 2012, 2:43 a.m.

In this episode I continue the discussion of the stages of the grieving process.
Dealing With Depression After Divorce
Depression is a normal part of the grieving process.  It typically comes after the bargaining phase when we are starting to come to grips with the fact that the marriage is truly over.  It's a phase that most people go through before finally reaching acceptance and moving on.
Signs Of Depression
Some common signs of depression include sleep disruptions, appetite changes, fatigue and general lack of energy, loneliness, feelings of isolation and emptiness.  Most grief induced depressions are temporary and will pass; however, if you have several of these symptoms that last for days or weeks without end you may be facing clinical depression.  If that's the case, or if you ever have suicidal thoughts, contact a health care professional who is trained to deal with depression immediately.
How Depression Shows Up
Depression after divorce may show its ugly head in several ways:

Letting the house go

Dishes may pile up for days or weeks
Laundry may go unwashed


Losing interest in favorite activities

hobbies
exercise
volunteering


Lack of focus at work
Wanting to sleep all the time
Lack of interest in personal appearance
Distancing yourself from friends and family
Over or under eating

Combating Depression
You really need to find something to take your mind off of your current situation.  Reading a good book where you can escape into the story may help.  Volunteering at your church or favorite charity can put your focus on others rather than yourself.  Re-engaging with friends or changing up your routine can also help.
How Do You Know You're Making Progress
Progress can be measured in small steps.  You get the dishes done every couple of days.  Laundry may actually get washed (even if it doesn't get folded).  Your appetite returns to normal.  You are able to focus better on you tasks at work and home.
Wrap-up
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