GamerDude's TED Talk on Dating

Published: Oct. 20, 2021, 7 p.m.

b'GamerDude has noticed that "dating" these days is not like it used to be. After seeing, reading and hearing about the horror stories of dating in today\'s world, GamerDude wanted to talk about what dating used to be like, what the purpose of dating used to be, and why getting back to old-fashioned dating would be a good thing.\\n\\nGamerDude has noticed that, for a lot of people these days, the primary purpose of going on a date is to wind up having sex with someone, and often on the first date. While the idea of having sex was always a part of the equation when dating, it wasn\'t the focal point, or the singular goal, of dating when he was growing up.\\xa0 Dating was supposed to be a "getting to know you" process. People dated to get to know each other so that they could find out if they liked each other enough to spend more time together.\\xa0 Sex wasn\'t the goal; it was a highlight of a relationship that had many aspects, including common likes and dislikes, and a variety of activities, from dinners to movies to shopping. The dating process was how people found a partner, or a prospective spouse, by going places, doing things, and talking to each other, and GamerDude talks about the importance and the value of going through this process so that you could actually get to know someone. GamerDude talks about how to behave on dates, and how to try to get to know someone, so that you had a chance of achieving what should be the actual goal of dating - a long term relationship.'