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Mature Human Being

An adult may not necessarily be a mature human being. When we speak of maturity we are referring, first, to someone who treats others with respect- all others.\\xa0

A tool that may be useful here is to consider is that you are the sole ambassador of your world. No one else knows what kind of universe you represent. The vast amount of personal experiences, relationships, observations and adaptations are unknowable to all but you. What a rich and varied tapestry of life that only you have access to. Your globe is filled with wishes and regrets, joys and sorrows; the variety of places you\\u2019ve seen both within yourself and where you have visited physically. You are your family, tribe, loves and losses, successes and failures. What a vast complexity of emotions and journeys you are!

And yet\\u2026 we each are the representative of our world. Hidden from view we are brimming with a vast treasure of life we want to share (well, at least some of it).\\xa0

An ambassador\\u2019s job is build trust within a moral framework; to represent their world politely and appropriately. Ambassadors carry a certain kind of immunity; one where small mistakes are overlooked, and the benefit of the doubt easily provided. Trust is the key to all their intentions. They certainly want to maintain peace between all the worlds, and will work especially hard to avoid misinterpretation.\\xa0

The key to avoiding mis-communicating is to learn the languages of the various diplomats. The biggest problem is assuming that just because we speak the same language our thoughts and ideas will mesh. The truth is, their words will never mean the same thing as yours, unless there are long discussions and trading of ideas through mutual respect. Each envoy may speak English, but the words will always point to different symbols, subtexts and hidden meanings of which you have no knowledge. Assuming you understand will result in endless debates and arguments.\\xa0

So, the first objective is to wrap your head around the REFERENCE POINT of your delegate. Are they a mechanic, a lawyer, an artist, a student or glass blower? Each one will see life in a very specific format, with a distinct vocabulary and perspective. So the first step you might consider is asking what they do for work, for pleasure, their hobbies, their favorite books, podcasts and movies. This will not only improve their trust in you because you are showing genuine interest in their solar system, you are also gathering information about how to talk with them.\\xa0

This next step is difficult because we all wish to be heard because we have so much to say and we are so knowlegeable and important. That step is to LISTEN. For our discussion here, imagine that the information contained in the words equals about ten percent of the data. The rest of the 90 percent, requires you to observe and track the messenger\\u2019s context. This requires you to shut your trap and open your mind, and take in not just the words, but also the pitch, the feeling behind the words, the vocabulary they are using, and their body language, rate of breath and eye movement.

This is one way to show respect. By setting aside your personal world, and allowing another attache to inform you about theirs. In this way, you will begin to learn

Salaam Alaykum, murids, seekers, curious and interested listeners,

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