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Welcome to episode #163! This week, Matt and Braden talk about having sex versus making love. Is it the same thing? Is it not? Tune in to see what the guys have to say!

There can be a difference between simply having sex and making love the way God designed.\\xa0

Sex as a broader cultural term is just a physical act or point of contact with another. It\\u2019s self-focused, about my pleasure and using another to get your \\u201cneed\\u201d met. Whereas making love is a fuller picture of what God designed for us to have in marriage with our spouses -\\xa0 there is vulnerability that leads to a greater intimacy as you know this one person and are fully known by them over a lifetime. There is commitment and security, and it is about focusing on another, not myself.\\xa0

There are different motives behind each act.\\xa0

The motive behind making love is connection - a deep connection with our spouse. There are emotional and spiritual connections; to love is to lay our lives down for the sake of another. Our motive for sex is to get pleasure, focused on our own desire for orgasm. When we are focused on our own pleasure, we can be ignorant to the pain we might cause our spouse by ignoring what they want.

Making love is about mutuality.\\xa0

One person\'s pleasure does not supersede another\'s pain. Women are told it is their duty to fulfill their husbands\\u2019 needs regardless of their feelings or if they\\u2019re not being treated well. This leads to guilt and shame and they think they are not good wives. When in reality, there needs to be mutuality - you both need to enjoy it. There needs to be vulnerability, safety, security and love. Love does not demand, it serves. It goes beyond the act and the orgasm. Make sure you are being kind to each other, loving and serving each other. Making love is about learning to connect with each other and becoming one with each other.\\xa0

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BRADEN HAFNER

Braden is the Regional Director in Alberta for FamilyLife Canada. He has been married for 14 years to his wife Kristen, and they live in Edmonton, Alberta. He is passionate about seeing marriages grow and thrive, and helping couples move to a deeper oneness with one another and with God. FamilyLife Canada has a variety of resources and events to help you and your spouse take your marriage to the next level. See what would benefit you at www.familylifecanada.com

MATT CLINE

Matt and his wife Louise raise their little guys, David and Oliver, in Edmonton, Alberta. He is honoured to do what he can to tackle the epidemic of pornography and sexual perversion in every way possible. Seeing lives and marriages get free and experience the love of God in profound ways is what drives him every day. He leads Restored Ministries, is a certified speaker and coach for the John Maxwell Team, and formerly played hockey in the WHL and for Hockey Canada. You can visit www.restoredministries.ca.