BROADCASTS.com

b'How To\\xa0 Stop Blaming Others\\nThis week on Pretty Spiritual Podcast, we\\u2019re looking at all the reasons we play the blame game.\\xa0\\nSome of us are really quick to place the blame on others (do the words\\xa0it\\u2019s all your fault\\xa0mean anything to you?). For others, it can feel natural to pick up the blame that others are putting down. Don\\u2019t worry, though. We\\u2019ve got\\xa0plenty of experience\\xa0to go around!\\nSo how do you usually play the blame game? Are you someone who habitually makes life problems about someone else? Or maybe you do place a lot of blame, but not on others. Some of us like to\\xa0place all the blame on ourselves. You might be someone who blames \\u201cgod\\u201d or Fate or some other entity for all the unfortunate things that happen in life.\\nNo matter where you land on this spectrum, we welcome you to the conversation. We\\u2019ll look at all the different ways we find fault and assign responsibility. But we won\\u2019t stop there.\\nWe\\u2019ll look at all these natural tendencies so that we can identify our habits and look toward spiritual tools for growth. It turns out that blaming others is a pretty natural, human strategy. So why do we do this blame shifting?\\nBlame Makes Sense\\nAccording to psychologists, there are a few reasons we blame\\xa0when stressed. Like we said, it\\u2019s a great defense mechanism. If it\\u2019s not my fault, then I don\\u2019t have to change anything about my behavior or attitudes! Duh, makes so much sense. We also pick up blame when we\\u2019re on the defensive and in attack mode.\\xa0\\nBlame also helps us feel like we are making sense of a world we don\\u2019t often understand. It turns out we can\\u2019t always explain or make sense of the way we act or the way others act. Imputing motive and assigning responsibility is one way we try to manage a world that is outside our control.\\xa0\\nAlso, it turns out that people lie when faced with admitting failure and taking self responsibility. Why not just make something up that relieves us of any personal fault or responsibility. Yup, it makes sense. And finally, it\\u2019s easier to blame someone else than to take responsibility for your actions. Okay, we get it. Blame makes sense and we all do it.\\nTools For Self Responsibility\\nWondering how to be an adult and stop making life\\u2019s misfortune someone else\\u2019s fault? That\\u2019s where the tools come in! We\\u2019ll look at how to stop playing the blame game and start taking personal responsibility for ourselves and our lives. It turns out that the stance of self responsibility actually feels better to us.\\xa0Spiritual tools\\xa0can feel so counterintuitive in that way!\\nWe\\u2019ll talk about what it means to take full responsibility for the things that belong to us, as well as what it can look like to\\xa0set boundaries\\xa0when people blame us for stuff that actually isn\\u2019t ours. Join in the fun now to hear more about the ways we\\u2019re\\xa0shifting our attitudes\\xa0so that we don\\u2019t have to feel so victimized. That\\u2019s right, there\\u2019s only one thing we do get to take control of: our own attitudes and behaviors. Here\\u2019s to owning what\\u2019s ours with a sense of humor!\\nWhat\\u2019s blame like in your life? Please share your experiences and tools with us.\\xa0Find us on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Insight Timer, Google Play, Spotify, Soundcloud, Podbean, and Stitcher (or our Contact page) and share your feelings, thoughts, and anything else.'