Not sure who said it first but the lesson from John Kitchens has come up several times these last couple days
Quite simple really if you aren’t willing to ask for what you desire there’s an extremely high probability you won’t get them
Why didn’t you get the raise? Probably didn’t ask for it
Why didn’t you go on the date with the girl? Probably didn’t ask her out
Why are you stuck on the same problem? Probably didn’t ask for help