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b'Welcome to Gang Bang The Mailbag TRIPLE X (plus 1)!\\xa0 We\'re recording tonight with a live (and muted) studio audience! As always, questions have been edited for content and clarity. As usual, answers have not been edited for content or clarity! If you have a question for a future listener mailbag, please give us a call at 573-557-9464 and leave us a message, or email us at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. Tonight, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Cooper and Dylan gang bang the mailbag!
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\\nTonight we answer the following written questions:
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\\nMy road into non-monogamy has been a twisted and challenging path. My 13-year marriage ended last year partly because of an incompatibility around the potential for opening our marriage.
\\nWhen I started dating I tried to be very open with women about my desire for non-monogamy and live a polyamourous life that includes swinging and sometimes a little kink and BDSM. Through dating apps like Tinder I have met many wonderful women and had some great relationships develop. I have tremendously transparent conversations with these women. Most run for the hills after to non-monogamy talk, some are intrigued and go along with it for a while, but in the end these relationships mostly follow the same pattern. The woman is okay with other partners in the beginning, but as time passes she always has a difficult time with the non-monogamy and it ends or goes to the friend zone. Otherwise the woman wants a \\u201cdon\\u2019t ask don\\u2019t tell\\u201d or \\u201cfriends with benefits\\u201d approach, which to me is just single dating rather than ethical non monogamy. It is impossible to have intimacy without transparency.
\\nWhere does one go to find women who are already there in the poly/swinger community who are looking for other poly/swing single partners? Are there any better strategies for finding women more directly who already share these values?
\\nAaron from Canada
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\\nMy brief backstory: 50ish male, married for twenty-something years. I have always struggled with attraction, crushes, and even feelings for, and from, others. Monogamy isn\'t actually what I want, and, in the spirit of a good mid-life crisis, I\'m not getting any younger.
\\nBeing aware of the trauma that this might cause my wife, I have introduced the topic gently and slowly. She has reacted… well, it\'s hard to say. There has been no screaming and crying, which I guess is a good sign. The best description of her reaction is “ninja-level avoidant”, as she deflects my every attempt to explore this in depth.
\\nAn example: after a recent talk she said “you\'ve given me a lot to think about”.
\\nI realise what I want most is to have the relationship communication skills that are necessary to be non-monogamous in the first place. To have the openness that I hear others describe in their relationships. It\'s not even principally about the swinging anymore. I have communication envy!
\\nSo how do I learn to communicate like a non-monogamous person? And how do I teach someone else to do this? Is it possible?
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\\nMy husband I have been in the swing lifestyle since we first started dating 6 years ago. Along the way,'