Broadcasts.com - "Transitions" (Life is Work)

Camnecdote
- Transitions can be tricky and also great learning experiences - be curious about them!
  - Tricky transition (no support, left me wondering if /I/ did something wrong when the issue wasn’t with me at all)
    - Had to learn it wasn’t about me AND try not to bring that baggage with me into my new job

Protein - Main Event - Topic d’jour

Transitions
- Often we speed through transitions to get to the new thing.
- Transitions are important times
  - Think of “nesting” when welcoming kids to home
  - Saw recently in the enneagram world that 3’s (me) often need a change of environment for inspiration - I have a long history of re-arranging my childhood bedroom/dorm room
- New thing
  - Want to start as fresh as possible
    - Energy
    - Feelings
      - Don’t want to bring baggage
  - Clarify boundaries & needs
    - NVC
    - Dan - in a new transition, I often have a need for inclusion, competency, clarity, safety, connection
    - Before I really starting working on my boundaries, my strategies for meeting these needs were often to never say “no,” - accept all new projects and outperform as much as possible to meet these needs and prove my worth
    - Now my strategy looks closer to asking clarifying questions and noting how I feel about a task/environment (E(NF)J to help me determine if I am serving my own needs and boundaries by supporting groups/assignments
- Old thing
  - Grief
    - Mourn the loss, even if positive
  - Stress
    - Stressor vs stress
      - Complete the stress process
- Examples
  - New job
  - Buyout/company changes
    - New boss
    - New owners
    - New teammates
  - Layoffs
  - Returning from vacation
  - **Empathic listening is really important here. Find people with whom you can be heard yourself, and do the same for your teammates
- Common challenges
  - Others are involved
  - Calendar isn’t always in your control
  - For job, may need payment sooner
- Setting ourselves up for success
  - What amount of time do we ideally need?
    - What constraints are on this, or out of our control?
  - What do we wish we can change about our current situation
    - How can we communicate those needs/wants to new situation
  - What boundaries do we want to set for ourselves?
    - NVC again!
- Not just work stuff! Relationships, living spaces/locations, new hobbies, pay raises, etc

Mel’s Mindful Minute: 37:25

Paying Attention from Real Love, by Sharon Salzberg

We Are Always Students

Burnout by Amelia Nagoski and Emily Nagoski
The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

Sharing is Self-Caring

Self-care
- How can you create space for yourself during a transition? Or can you plan for an upcoming transition?
Community-care
- How can I support those around me during transitions?
Systems-care
- How have the systems around you shifted over time? How did those transitions effect those involved?

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