How to be Happy and Single on Valentines Day

Published: Feb. 14, 2019, 5:42 p.m.

 Valentine's day is estimated to generate 18.3 billion dollars in sales this year, leaving an average of around 130 dollars per person. It is clear that this is a huge time for the people purchasing gifts and obviously those who are rolling in those profits. If you are upset, lonely, single and Valentine's day makes it sting that much more, if you think you need a relationship to feel complete and happy ask yourself this "do I actually care? or did someone plant this idea in my mind?" 


Movies, television, Instagram, your best friends, and advertisements. There are so many ways this culture tells us "you are not complete without a relationship." At this time of year specifically, it is right in our face. Don't get me wrong, treating your partner is wonderful, but this is for those who feel a void within needs to be filled with a partner (figuratively speaking!). 


It took me a very long time to finally find true happiness and love within. I would spend so much time with couples, my favorite show was "How I Met Your Mother" all about finding "the one". I was immersed in this stuff. But I realized a few things:


First of all, I believe we are all born with every bit of love and happiness we will ever need throughout our lives. Just as in the physical world we have been absolutely taken care of (food, shelter, digestions, organs, water, oxygen, sunlight, for your ENTIRE LIFE), I believe if we just follow our inner guiding compass, (follow your heart) we will find that emotionally, we have everything we need to be happy and at peace. When you feel upset, you are straying away from your authentic self, from your purpose and why you came here. When you feel good, you are aligning with who you really are and your highest purpose here on Earth. So in other words, my feeling lonely and depressed while single, is me disagreeing with my higher self. I hope this makes sense to you.


Secondly, self-love is one the greatest gifts you can give to yourself. You have probably been through a lot, as we all have, and you develop insecurities, sadness, fears, and worries. Don't beat yourself up for feeling this way, this is absolutely natural. In fact, it is crucial to love this part of you, to avoid judging it, to appreciate it and know that everything will be alright. When loneliness used to come up for me, I would actually speak out loud and say "I love you, you are so loved, everything will be alright, there is nothing to fear". As if I'm speaking to a child, which I kind of am, the inner child who has gone through hard times and now carries these feelings and beliefs. Do this for long enough and you will heal this part of you, and find real happiness and bliss within.'


Finally, live your passion. Passion feels wonderful because it is in absolute alignment with your highest self, with your true self. This is why you came here, that's why it is so exciting for you. As I write this, I actually feel like I'm floating, like these words are flowing through me and I am just letting it all happen. This is the most exciting part of each day for me. That is how I am extremely happy and pumped as a single guy, on Valentine's Day.


 

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