Science of Social Bonding in Family, Friendship & Romantic Love

Published: Dec. 20, 2021, 9 a.m.

b'This episode I discuss the science of social bonding- the process by which we form attachments. I explain the neural and hormonal basis for "social homeostasis" (our drive for a given amount of socializing) which reveals why we get lonely, why we seek out connection with others and how power dynamics (hierarchies) shape those connections. I also discuss the neurochemical basis of introversion and extroversion, of trust and how shared experiences that promote similar physiological states in two or more individuals, leads to more rapid bonding. I also discuss how food and oxytocin play key roles in social bonding. This episode covers quality peer-reviewed science and practical tools for anyone seeking to find, build or end relationships.\\nFor the full show notes, visit hubermanlab.com.\\nThank you to our sponsors\\nAG1 (Athletic Greens): https://athleticgreens.com/huberman\\nLMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman\\nSupplements from Momentous\\nhttps://www.livemomentous.com/huberman\\nTimestamps\\n(00:00:00) Social Bonding: Child-Parent, Romantic, Friendship, Breakups\\n(00:03:10) Sponsors: AG1, LMNT\\n(00:07:08) Social Bonding as a Biological Process\\n(00:10:03) Social Isolation\\n(00:13:32) Social Homeostasis & Neural Circuits for Social Drive\\xa0\\n(00:18:55) Brain Areas & (Neuro)Chemistry of Social Drive\\xa0\\n(00:22:48) What is Social Homeostasis & Dopamine\\n(00:27:00) When We Lack Social Interactions: Short- Versus Long-Term\\n(00:28:10) Introverts & Extroverts\\n(00:31:00) \\u201cGood\\u201d Versus \\u201cBad\\u201d Social Interactions & Hierarchies\\n(00:33:54) Loneliness & Dorsal Raphe Nucleus & Social Hunger\\xa0\\n(00:37:33) Tools\\n(00:38:05) Socializing & Food Appetite: Crossover Craving\\n(00:42:45) Falling in Love\\n(00:45:05) Tools for Social Bonds: Merging Physiologies; Story\\n(00:53:54) Childhood Attachment Patterns in Adulthood\\n(01:03:45) Attachment Styles: Autonomic Versus Intellectual Attachment\\n(01:06:10) Emotional Empathy & Cognitive Empathy, Arguing\\n(01:09:45) Allan N. Schore & \\u201cRight Brain Psychotherapy\\u201d\\n(01:10:40) Oxytocin & Trust, In Males Versus Females, Hormonal Glue\\n(01:16:10) Repairing Broken Bonds to Self & Others\\n(01:18:56) Social (Media) Butterflies: Biological Basis\\n(01:24:08) Key Points for Bonding & Understanding Social Bonds\\n(01:27:07) Breaking Up\\n(01:28:36) Synthesis\\xa0\\n(01:31:17) Zero-Cost Support, Sponsors, Supplements, Instagram, Twitter\\nTitle Card Photo Credit: Mike Blabac\\nDisclaimer'