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Denmark\\u2019s doing a big recruitment campaign now, trying to get young professionals to bring their skills to Denmark, and a lot of them are single when they arrive.

If they want to meet someone and don\\u2019t meet someone, and if they want a serious relationship and a family but can\\u2019t get started, they often go home again.

So, in the name of economic development, here are my tips on romance in Denmark.

Bringing your own dating culture

I talk a lot in my speeches about how people bring their own work culture with them when they come to work in Denmark, but they also bring their own dating culture.

The way you expect to meet a potential partner, to flirt, to show you\\u2019re serious, to take the relationship to the next level, these are expectations you bring with you to Denmark from your home culture.

When you get here, you will meet Danes who have very different expectations.

#metoo hit Denmark hard

Dating apps like Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble are one of the main ways people meet each other in Denmark these days \\u2013 the other being friend circles, which as an international can take a while to get into.

People used to meet at work, but #metoo has made a big imprint in Denmark. It\\u2019s taken down both male and female business leaders and political leaders who couldn\\u2019t keep their hands to themselves at work, or at parties after work.

So, people are a lot more cautious around their colleagues these days.

Lots of skin

On dating apps, generally you\\u2019re there to show your best side \\u2013 but unlike some other dating cultures, in Denmark people don\\u2019t show off their wealth, their car, their watch, or their powerful job.

They try to show that they\\u2019re funny and down-to-Earth, that they can laugh at themselves.

I'm on the apps myself, and I do see a lot of the Danish version of status-seeking, which is time off to travel to exotic locations and engage in extreme sports \\u2013 lots of windsurfing and scuba-diving photos.

I also see a lot of skin, which, since I\\u2019m dating in the over-40 category, isn\\u2019t always something I want to see.

The line between sex and romance is ill-defined

But this is the tricky part about dating here, because the line between sex and romance in Denmark isn\\u2019t very well defined.

Some daters want to have sex right away and then decide if they\\u2019re interested in getting to know each other emotionally.

There\\u2019s no stigma to this the way there can be in some cultures \\u2013 but it can be rough on you if you\\u2019re a sensitive person who\\u2019s really just looking for love.

\\u201cK\\xe6reste\\u201d is a flexible term

One thing I find interesting about the Danish language is the flexibility of the word\\xa0k\\xe6reste, the Danish version of \\u201cboyfriend\\u201d or \\u201cgirlfriend\\u201d which translates directly to \\u201cmost dear one.\\u201d

Your\\xa0k\\xe6reste\\xa0can be same-sex or opposite-sex. You can have known each other for three weeks or thirty years.

But if someone is your\\xa0k\\xe6reste, it means you\\u2019re not dating anyone else. You\\u2019ll often hear Danes talk about the time they\\xa0became k\\xe6reste, which is the time they committed to each other monogomously.

You could go on and get married at some point if you like. Many people in Denmark do.

You can certainly buy a home and have kids without being married \\u2013 the Danish government will even pay for your fertility treatment. The Danes don\\u2019t see a big difference between having a committed\\xa0k\\xe6reste\\xa0and having had a wedding ceremony.

Read more at howtoliveindenmark.com.