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When you go through a devastating experience like being left by someone you thought was \u201cyours for life\u201d it can be unearthing of everything in your world. Shaking what you want, how you feel about yourself and the future, what you feel safe with \u2013 who you feel safe with. Aside the expected affects, the pain, the mourning, this kind of experience can have some very strange effects \u2013 because when you\u2019re taken by surprise by something like a relationship, it\u2019s traumatic. You have been shocked. So I will hopefully tackle some of the common ones \u2013 so you can see that you\u2019re not crazy, it\u2019s all quite natural, as well as hopefully offer you a timeline for how you might feel. One you can follow along with \u2013 so that you can best care for yourself and allow yourself to heal and grow. If this was a long-term relationship \u2013 or even a short one but one you relied on in immense ways, the loss can make you feel you have nothing to stand on. In short, it can level you and remove all safety from your life. You might be going through worry over what will come of your life \u2013 will you remarry? Will you ever love again, trust again? Are you loveable? Am I too old, am I stupid to have trusted this person? Was I the only one who didn\u2019t know \u2013 how didn\u2019t I know? What\u2019s wrong with me that I didn\u2019t see this coming? How do I even move on with love? Woah. Yeah, that\u2019s a lot. So slow down. It\u2019s going to be okay. It\u2019s time to put that aside. Now is not the time you should be thinking about the future. You should simply focus on loving and caring for yourself right now. Truly, how could you tackle planning anything other than addressing your immediate needs \u2013 you just experienced a traumatic event in your life and you are in a recovery/healing mode \u2013 that\u2019s what you need to be aware of most. All you need to do right now is make yourself feel soothed and healthy and balanced. If you\u2019re going through a total limbo of character and it\u2019s freaking you out, I will go through a couple of common reactions that happen when one is put through a trauma such as yours. And yes, it\u2019s a \u201ctrauma\u201d which means your person is likely having a hard time integrating this new information back into your brain alongside the rest of your experiences. So in short, a big shift is happening. Don\u2019t worry! It\u2019s all for the good. I hope I can help you stay balanced throughout it \u2013 hang in there, friend - because I know an event like this can rock you to your core. If you want to read more of my writing on a variety of other topics \u2013 and to see the blog version of this podcast, visit: http://www.TeaspoonOfHappy.com Smile y\u2019all! Sending you my love\u2026 Sarah-May B. This is for Linda, I hope you like and hang in there girl!\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices