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Often when you grow up with caregivers or relationships with people who are inconsistent, unstable, deceptive and unreliable, as a natural result you end up completing the other half of the Yin-Yang and it becomes inherent to your make-up as a person. You grow opposite and complimentary strengths \u2013 and those strengths actually reward you in lots of ways, not to mention, it feels good to be able to take care of others and make it happen. However \u2013 here\u2019s the kicker \u2013 as a result, in the rest of your life, you unconsciously seek out others you can compliment in the exact same way, which means you often end up with partners and friends who are just as incapable or flawed. It\u2019s not your fault, it\u2019s just the dynamic you\u2019re comfortable with. It\u2019s also because that\u2019s who is drawn to you: they crave what you can give and once they see you giving it, they cling to you. You also have a very specific form of trauma in that you expect and anticipate disappointing behavior from everyone in your life. Why wouldn't you? Based on your life experience, to trust is to place yourself in harm's way. Not to fear! This is not a damning situation in the least. You have the building blocks for something much greater than if you hadn\u2019t had this upbringing at all. You can build the muscle to trust others and you can also build the muscle that will allow you to find trustworthy people. Your solution will take conscious and consistent work, but it\u2019ll be simple and somewhat automatic, so don\u2019t stress. It will unfold on its own, and it can start right now with 3 very conscious, deliberate steps. I\u2019m going to introduce you to those steps right now. For more about me and to read more of my writing, check out TeaspoonOfHappy.com If you likee please review me on iTunes! 'Twould help me a lot. xo Sarah May B.\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices