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Oh shit. This is bad. I\u2019m not wrong, they\u2019re wrong. Ouch this hurts. I wish this wasn\u2019t this way. Why does everyone hate me? I hate everyone. I am dreading going to this place. I wish I never dated that person. They\u2019re probably talking shit about me. I should be doing better by my age. I haven\u2019t done anything with my life. No one loves me. I look like shit. These are the voices of worry, shame, fear, regret, pain of various forms \u2013 the loops that play out and push us to solve for x or act according to x. This is when you can\u2019t find your way out of a situation and instead your life just gets smogged over by the situation: when you know that something is wrong and because of it, you feel terrible inside. Life suddenly loses its highlights. You ask for advice, you work on plans to overcome it, you wish on it, pray on it, lament it, replay it, try to aggressively work on alleviating it, or you hide from it and numb it. And it thickens. It\u2019s the one thing that really catalyzes a whole lot of other beliefs \u2013 and you can\u2019t seem to figure out a workaround. When an emotion sticks inside us it CONTROLS US and often pushes us to act on its behalf \u2013 like a little demon with a joystick inside your brain. So if this sounds vaguely familiar, this is an episode for you. There are three parts \u2013 the what, the why, and the how - the tools! Before I go on I wanted to let everyone know about my second podcast called \u201cLove is Like a Plant\u201d with Ellen Huerta of Mend. She\u2019s building an app to get you through a breakup. Check us out \u2013 it\u2019s all about relationships and dating. Anyhoo. The what! If you like what you hear and you want to support this show visit me on Patreon or head to HelpMeBeMe.com and click donate! xox\nLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices